Podcasts about ralphie jacobs

How about some stats to make you sad? Kids are on screens an average of 7 hours a day…and we spend 85% of our parenting energy on what our kids are doing wrong.Aw, man!It stinks to start with the negative.In fact, that will train our brains to see more negative things, which is why I did it.Do you feel more down after reading that? More worried? More hopeless about our kids' generation?The GOOD news is that there's another way.I'm beyond honored to host Ralphie Jacobs of Simply on Purpose today to remind us that not only CAN we look for the positive, but we must - because it works, and it's actually easier than yelling angrily at our kids!You'll come away from this interview feeling so encouraged and ready to parent differently, with 85% of your energy (or more!) focused on the positive!Get ready to learn:how to create positive momentum in your child's daywhy asking a kid or teen, “Why did you do that?” becomes a parenting trap (that you DON'T want to fall into!)what comes first in parenting - the words or the feelingsa much better way to say, “If you don't clean your room, you don't get to come to the movie,” that's actually EASIER to enforce!why fear-based behavior is bad for everyone in the long runan incredibly powerful way to guard your connection with your child - and raise kids who, like Ralphie's, want to call home and come home to be with parents

You're listening to Voices of Your Village, and today I get to bring a special guest to you, someone I have followed online for a long time, and it was lovely to get to chat with. We get to hang out with Ralphie Jacobs from Simply on Purpose. Ralphie lives in Austin, Texas with her husband and their four daughters. As an early childhood education expert, Ralphie quickly learned that the best way to impact a child's life for good is to teach parents. She founded Simply on Purpose where she's built a community of over 650 ,000 families and writes about parenting, family culture, and living with purpose. She and I got to chat about how to gain cooperation without resorting to threats, something that can come so quickly, right, where we're like, oh, if you don't do this right now, then you're not going to be able to watch TV or you're not going to be able to have dessert. I think for so many of us, we grew up with that and so it's so ingrained and being able to pivot away from that can feel really challenging. I'm so glad I got to dive in with Ralphie and I'm super jazzed to share this episode with you. If you are finding value in this podcast, if it's helping you, if it's serving you, please take a moment to rate and review it. It helps other folks find our podcast so they can have access to free support on this journey as well. You're the bomb. All right, folks, let's dive in.  Connect with Ralphie: Instagram: @simplyonpurpose Website: https://simplyonpurpose.org/ Kids Lessons Subscription: Teach Me How Connect with us: Instagram: @seed.and.sew  Podcast page: Voices of Your Village Seed and Sew's Regulation Quiz: Take the Quiz Order Tiny Humans, Big Emotions now!  Website: seedandsew.org Music by: Ruby Adams and Bensound Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Back in 2019 I sat down with positive parenting expert and educator Ralphie Jacobs to record and produce her (now bestselling) audio courses. At the end of a couple days of recording I pressed record to ask her a few candid questions about parenting on purpose, and this is what she said! Follow Ralphie for parenting tips and ideas at @simplyonpurpose Buy the audio courses here Find full show notes at livefreecreative.co/podcast Follow Miranda on Instagram @livefreemiranda and the show at @practically.happy.podcast Get one-on-one coaching with Miranda RIGHT HERE Pick up a copy of MY BOOK Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

250. The Summertime Parental Struggle Is Real! Positive Parenting Tips With Ralphie Jacobs (Part 2) | Routines, Schedules, Time Blocking, Home, Summer Systems, Kids, Moms, Mom Life, Families, Family, Summer Routines, Summer Survival Guide, Summer Fun, Surviving Summer, Children, Motherhood, Parenting, Positive Parenting, Simply On Purpose, Ralphie Jacobs . . Struggling with Kids at Home this Summer? Join our THRIVE TRIBE SUMMER SUMMIT MASTERCLASS! Click below for more details! ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://highfivemotherhood.com/courses⁠⁠⁠⁠ . . Hey Mama! The Summertime parental struggle is real! Summer is a time of transition and it can be hard to keep your cool when the kiddos are bouncing off the walls with cabin fever, fighting their siblings, or having tantrums and meltdowns over the smallest things. In today's episode we address how to stay calm and carry on when parenting feels hard. Ralphie is a positive parenting expert and teaches us how to use simple parenting techniques to help kiddos learn how to navigate through big emotions in a positive way. Get excited to add some of her positive parenting tools to your Motherhood Toolbox this Summer! Grab a pen and paper to take some notes, pop those ear buds in and let's dive right in! Happy Listening! XO, Kim . . YOUR NEXT STEPS: 1. Grab your FREE Weekly Planning Checklist by clicking this link below…⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://highfivemotherhood.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠   This is one of my top productivity secrets as a busy Mom of littles! . . 2. Struggling with Kids at Home this Summer? Join our THRIVE TRIBE SUMMER SUMMIT MASTERCLASS! Click below for more details! ⁠⁠⁠https://highfivemotherhood.com/courses⁠⁠⁠ . . 3. Missed the Spring Summit? Check out our SUMMIT REPLAY! THRIVING HOMEMAKERS ACADEMY - Click on the link below for more! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/highfivemotherhood?utm_source=linktree_profile_share<sid=4ab650b3-67d0-4ca5-84cb-f2c8b7dfd2f1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . . 4. Subscribe to the Podcast so you don't miss a single episode, not to mention all the juicy details of our upcoming BIG NEWS too! . . 5. Screenshot this very podcast and share it with 3 other Mamas who would love to start THRIVING in Motherhood! It's time to have an incredible impact on other Mamas, Let's do this Friend! Instagram: @simplyonpurpose Website: www.simplyonpurpose.org - Teach Me How Subscription - check out website - Stay Safe Series - FREE - check out her website --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kimberly-montgomery/message

249. The Summertime Parental Struggle Is Real! Positive Parenting Tips With Ralphie Jacobs (Part 1) | Routines, Schedules, Time Blocking, Organization, Home, Summer Systems, Kids, Moms, Mom Life, Families, Family, Home Organization, Summer Fun, Motherhood, Summer Survival Guide, Surviving Summer . . Struggling with Kids at Home this Summer? Join our THRIVE TRIBE SUMMER SUMMIT MASTERCLASS! Click below for more details! ⁠⁠⁠https://highfivemotherhood.com/courses⁠⁠⁠ . . Hey Mama! The Summertime parental struggle is real! Summer is a time of transition and it can be hard to keep your cool when the kiddos are bouncing off the walls with cabin fever, fighting their siblings, or having tantrums and meltdowns over the smallest things. In today's episode we address how to stay calm and carry on when parenting feels hard. Ralphie is a positive parenting expert and teaches us how to use simple parenting techniques to help kiddos learn how to navigate through big emotions in a positive way. Get excited to add some of her positive parenting tools to your Motherhood Toolbox this Summer! Grab a pen and paper to take some notes, pop those ear buds in and let's dive right in! Happy Listening! XO, Kim . . YOUR NEXT STEPS: 1. Grab your FREE Weekly Planning Checklist by clicking this link below…⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://highfivemotherhood.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠   This is one of my top productivity secrets as a busy Mom of littles! . . 2. Struggling with Kids at Home this Summer? Join our THRIVE TRIBE SUMMER SUMMIT MASTERCLASS! Click below for more details! ⁠⁠https://highfivemotherhood.com/courses⁠⁠ . . 3. Missed the Spring Summit? Check out our SUMMIT REPLAY! THRIVING HOMEMAKERS ACADEMY - Click on the link below for more! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/highfivemotherhood?utm_source=linktree_profile_share<sid=4ab650b3-67d0-4ca5-84cb-f2c8b7dfd2f1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . . 4. Subscribe to the Podcast so you don't miss a single episode, not to mention all the juicy details of our upcoming BIG NEWS too! . . 5. Screenshot this very podcast and share it with 3 other Mamas who would love to start THRIVING in Motherhood! It's time to have an incredible impact on other Mamas, Let's do this Friend! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kimberly-montgomery/message

Ralphie Jacobs is the founder of Simply on Purpose, a platform focused on positive parenting. She brings her expertise to this conversation, emphasizing the importance of connecting with children in today's fast-paced digital age, offering tips for parents to ensure strong bonds with their kids, and encouraging parents to strike a balance between freedom and boundaries.Episode ResourcesVisit: Simply on PurposeArticle: Teens Who Have Good Relationships with Their Parents Tend to Avoid Porn and Sext LessPodcast: Consider Before Consuming Ep. 99: Kristy McVee

As we head into Mother's Day this year I want to share some wise words from some of the women who have joined me over the years on The MomForce Podcast. Through 5 seasons we've talked about everything from infertility, to adjusting to life with a newborn, to how to get your teenagers to talk to you. I hope you can take this super-cut episode as my little Mother's Day gift to you!   Time codes:  2:00 Sharon McMahon 5:40 Myriam Sandler 8:03 Jennifer Borget 11:25 Ralphie Jacobs  15:22 Myriam Sandler Get Mom a Mother's Day gift from Chatbooks *LP UTM Use code: MOMFORCE for 20% off your first Chatbooks order!  Follow Vanessa Follow Chatbooks Try out HeyFam our new family chat app  

Is your home a place of peace or one of anger and frustration? Do you feel exhausted from the arguing and bickering between kids? Does the bedtime struggle make most evenings end in overwhelm?  Ralphie Jacobs is here to help us understand the science and tactics behind Positive Parenting. She started her career in early childhood education and soon realized through her own parenting struggles that there was a lack of resources for behavior change through Positive Parenting. She teaches parents how to change their own behaviors to change home environments and the practical steps to get there.  Shifting the atmosphere of our home can feel like turning the Titanic, but Ralphie gives us hope that we can walk a path of gratitude instead of a path of scarcity.  Connect with Ralphie Jacobs:  Website:  Simply On Purpose - Home Instagram:  Ralphie• Positive Parenting (@simplyonpurpose) Links Mentioned:   Calm in the Chaos Webinar (watch the replay)  50+ ideas for spending one-on-one time with your kid Related Episodes: Choosing Connection Over Critique :: Rachel Macy Stafford [Ep 280] How to Stop Yelling, Lecturing and Power Struggles :: Kirk Martin {Ep 62} The Window of Tolerance :: Charissa Fry [Ep 260]  Featured Sponsors:  Honeylove–Get 20% OFF @honeylove by going to honeylove.com/DMA  Thrive Causemetics–Right now, you can get an exclusive 20% off your first order at thrivecausemetics.com/DMA Find links to this week's sponsors and unique promo codes at dontmomalone.com/sponsors. 

If you have ever felt touched out, this episode is for you! Get inspired to find ways to connect in meaningful ways despite sometimes feeling touched out from your kids.    

"Behavior is shaped by consequences, and as a child behaves a certain way and we give it a reward, then that behavior is stronger. So, if we pay attention to our children while they're rivaling, while they're arguing with each other, We're making that behavior stronger, we're strengthening it, and we're actually adding to the list of things that they'll argue about in the future.  And so, what we want to send a message to our kids is what we will engage in, what we will intervene in, and what we will not intervene in. So we have to kind of create a boundary there, but once we've created that boundary, we can actually parent with more compassion because we're choosing when to engage."   Ready to get some job training for the most important role you'll ever have?   Welcome to Mom University.   If you ever feel like you're living the same day over and over…   If mom life feels like an exhausting whirlwind of laundry, dinner, driving and frustration on repeat…  You're not alone.   For every other thing we do in life there's training, but for the most important job, we're just figuring it out as we go.    Mom University is here to change that. It will give you the skills and education to break free of old patterns and be a leader in your home.  Join us for our in person event April 2024: universityformoms.com Instagram @universityformoms What questions do you have in mom life? Email me and let me know: hello@universityformoms.com

Parenting on a sex podcast? You bet! When it comes to our satisfaction in sexual relationships, there can be so many things that affect how we show up. Parenting is one of them. In this episode, Ralphie Jacobs, exceptional parenting educator and passionate advocate for strong families, teaches about setting boundaries with our children. You'll learn how to manage guilt when setting boundaries, stay firm when children push back and why setting these boundaries can enrich your marriage.   

I wanted to bring back a very special episode from our archives that we feel captures this heart of this season: family, togetherness, and faith. Today we are excited to re-air an episode that was recorded with Ralphie Jacobs, the founder of the positive parenting movement Simply on Purpose, and her father, Bob Peters.  For full show notes, including the three takeaways, go to https://3in30podcast.com/332-ralphie-jacobs Announcement: There will be no podcast episode next week.  Enjoy the time with your family!!  Episode sponsors: Vionic Shoes: Go to vionicshoes.com and use code 3IN30 for 15% off your order. TN Dickinson's: T.N. Dickinson's witch hazel products are the only all natural, clinical grade witch hazel on the market, that cleanses, soothes, and treats just about anything, and is gentle enough to use daily PrepDish: Visit prepdish.com/3in30 for a FREE two-week trial! *** Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Each day I will be share one takeaway from a throw-back episode that helped me to learn how to love. You can expect these bonus episodes to air daily starting tomorrow at 8:30 a.m. MST, and I will also include one way that you can share the podcast that day, to be entered to win $500 at the end of the week. To listen to the full episode with Ralphie Jacobs, go to https://3in30podcast.com/180-ralphie-jacobs/ Today's Challenge:  Spread the word about the show AND enter to win the $500 giveaway! Subscribe to the podcast and submit a 5 star rating and review. You can do this on most podcast listening apps and even on Facebook, and the more reviews we have, the more likely moms are to find us! Go to 3in30podcast.com/5  and fill out the form to be entered in the giveaway. We would love to see a screenshot of what you shared!

Ralphie Jacobs is a positive parenting expert and shares “life changing parenting truths” through her courses over at Simply on Purpose and through her wildly popular instagram. She is the mother of four and has a big passion for arming parents with powerful parenting skills that will change your home. In this episode we talk about being a ... more »

Since recording this episode for Season 1 of The MomForce Podcast, Ralphie Jacobs of Simply on Purpose has grown her following to more than 400k on Instagram and continues to teach live workshops and courses for parents. In today's episode, Ralphie and Vanessa tackle tough parenting questions about disciplining toddlers (and teenagers) and how modeling good behavior for our children helps them better understand expectations. Ralphie reminds us that it's never too late to make positive changes and that sleep can do wonders for toddlers and teenagers alike! 

Today's parenting pep talk is all about finding joy in the small things. We love both the sayings "Water what you want to grow" (Alan's mom) and "Look for the good and soon it's all you'll see" (Ralphie Jacobs). As you look for the good around you and in your children, then you'll not only find more joy in your surroundings, but you'll also find the positive behaviors in your kids that they'll want to repeat as you point them out. Look for the good in your kids today!

Today is an episode that quite possible can and will single handedly change the rest of your life. Focussing on your ability to be a parent in a positive way isn't just a fun Pinterest search term, it's a practical, science based, effective approach to parenting. If you have struggled with getting your family in sync, spend too much time arguing and entering into power struggles with your children you have to tune in. You also are going to walk away from today's episode knowing how you can take your already intentional parenting to the next level. Pop them earbuds ladies, today I am listening right along with you.    xoxo, Chelsi Jo  . . . . Learn more about Ralphie and her resources here. https://simplyonpurpose.org  Ralphie founded @simplyonpurpose in 2017 to share life-changing parenting truths with as many as will listen. Since it's birth this journey has become her biggest dream come true.  She is now speaking to hundreds of parents each time she travels for a workshop. Social media is allowing her to be a part of over 200,000 homes. Most of all, Ralphie loves getting to watch from a bird's eye view as the world changes, one child at a time because of her work.  Ralphie believes that "Positive Parenting is just like it sounds. Through behavioral and brain science we've learned that the best way to get rid of misbehavior in a home is to look for things that your children are doing well and make those behaviors stronger through positive reinforcement. It's building on a child's strengths and believing in the potential within. Because when a child feels well, they behave well." 

On the Fresh Start Family Show this week Wendy has a conversation with Ralphie Jacobs who has transformed thousands of homes through her positive parenting centered organization, Simply on Purpose. Wendy and Ralphie share the transformative power of positive parenting they have witnessed in each of their lives and the families they work with.  Walk away from this episode learning: How we can show respect for our children  Recognizing the importance of body language in our parenting The MOST powerful non-verbal message we can give our children For more information on this episode go to: www.freshstartfamilyonline.com/103

You asked, and we answered! We have had several requests for some episodes all about parenting, so here's the first one. This week we're talking about what we feel our roles as parents are, what discipline means (hint: it has less to do with the child than you might think), and who we look to for advice and encouragement. We're revealing some of lowest moments of parenting (and in our true nature, tears are shed), and also our proudest moments that remind us it's all going to be okay. So much of being human is a reminder that anything worth doing is going to be hard sometimes, and raising little ones is no exception. But, we hope to offer some cheerleading to those of you in the thick of it with us. Resources from this episode:Table Topics for Families - a deck of cards with questions to spark conversation at the dinner table. Michelle uses this to talk with her kids about silly and serious topics. Simply on Purpose - an Instagram account by Ralphie Jacobs, who shares lots of insight into positive parenting with tenets such as "look for the good" and "remain the adult."Simon Synek and Angela Duckworth discuss our desires for control in this podcast episode. 3 in 30 is another podcast we've referenced many times. The host, Rachel Nielson, is quoted by Jessica as saying, "Only I can give my children a happy and healthy mother."

It's the mom movement taking over Instagram! Have you heard of the “no-yell challenge?” Parenting coach Ralphie Jacobs explains how to use this challenge to be a more positive parent. Listen and learn how her favorite quote “water the flowers, not the weeds” can be the parenting game changer your family needs...

This week we welcome Ralphie Jacobs from @simplyonpurpose to talk with us about the effects of screen time on a child's developing brain. Studies show that 77% of parents are saying that raising their kids is harder nowadays because of technology; and kids wish their parents would get off their phones.  Psychology Today says that, parents using their phones in front of their children causes more distress and reduces resilience in children. We model behavior for our children. We send messages and social cues to our children. So whether that's establishing boundaries for yourself or your children, this is a great conversation.  Ralphie lives in Austin Texas with her husband and their 4 daughters.  As an Early Childhood Education expert Ralphie quickly learned that the best way to impact a child's life for good is to teach parents.  She founded @simplyonpurpose where she writes about parenting, family culture, and living with purpose.  Her audio course changed thousands of homes.  She also travels across the country speaking at workshops on positive parenting. Check out some of her free resources on her website. https://simplyonpurpose.org/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fromthemouthsofbabes/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/fromthemouthsofbabes/support

I can't tell you how excited I am… Ralphie Jacobs is my guest on the Heart Centered Entrepreneur this week! I was able to attend one of Ralphie's workshops in 2019 and it has completely changed my perspective on parenting. I knew I needed to get her on the podcast so I could pick her brain. We talk about business, motherhood, parenting, and I may have shed some happy tears along the way. Let's dive in! Visit today's blog post >> heartcenteredentrepreneur.com/podcast/how-to-be-a-positive-parent-with-ralphie-jacobs

Ralphie Jacobs is the founder of Simply on Purpose, a positive parenting educational company where the heart of the work is focusing on the good, so the good gets better. Ralphie teaches hundreds of thousands of parents around the world through her Instagram, workshops and audio courses -- about looking for the good in their kids, so the good can get better.  You’re going to get a taste of the principles taught in Ralphie Jacobs’ audio course today, and if you decide it’s something like you’d like to learn more about, I truly can’t recommend her audio courses highly enough.  For parents who are ready to invest in creating a more positive home environment for their children, her courses are on sale this week only! *** -Ralphie Jacobs’ 3 Takeaways for Helping your Kids Behave Well-  Use positive reinforcement to strengthen desirable behaviors. In other words, water the flowers, not the weeds! Instead of focusing your energy on the negative behaviors, focus on creating positive associations with behaving well.  Try redirection to teach children what they can do to get their needs met (instead of focusing on what you don’t want them to do). As you do this, you give them tools and skills for the future as well. Create positive behavioral momentum within your home through playfulness and connection. If we can get the momentum going in a positive direction with our kids, they will most likely continue going that way.    >>>Will you try any of these tips from Ralphie Jacobs? What would you add to her takeaways? Tell us in the comments below! ***   -Sponsors- BetterHelp BetterHelp, the world’s largest provider of therapy, done 100% online. If you feel you might need counseling but are hesitant, nervous, or embarassed to invest in yourself this way, let me assure you that going to counseling will be a gift to your entire family. As you get stronger, so will your family.  BetterHelp is so convenient for busy moms, and you can get 10% off your first month, by going to http://betterhelp.com/3in30 (betterhelp.com/3in30).  Jane.com I am so excited to introduce you to Jane.Com, our https://3in30podcast.com/jane/ (newest sponsor) of the podcast. Have you ever heard of Jane? It’s a highly-curated, online boutique marketplace featuring the latest in women's fashion trends, accessories, home decor, children's clothing, and more called Jane.Com.  If you are interested in checking out what Jane.com has to offer, they actually helped me create a curated shop page especially for 3 in 30 listeners with some of my favorite items displayed. Go to http://jane.com/3in30 (jane.com/3in30). ***   -Get in touch with Ralphie Jacobs!- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/simplyonpurpose/ (@simplyonpurpose) Website: https://simplyonpurpose.org/ (simplyonpurpose.org) *** -Links Mentioned in Today’s Show- Simply on Purpose https://simplyonpurpose.org/all-courses/ (Audio Courses)  Get Ralphie Jacobs’ wooden sign https://www.jaxnblvd.com/products/when-you-focus-on-the-good-the-good-gets-better-wood-sign (here): “When you focus on the good, the good gets better.”  -Related Episodes you might be interested in if you like this episode from Ralphie Jacobs-   https://3in30podcast.com/captivate-podcast/yelling/ (004: HOW TO STOP YELLING AT YOUR KIDS // RALPHIE JACOBS OF SIMPLY ON PURPOSE)https://3in30podcast.com/captivate-podcast/praise/ (026: HOW TO PRAISE YOUR CHILD WHEN IT FEELS LIKE THERE IS NOTHING TO PRAISE // TONY OVERBAY, LICENSED MARRIAGE & FAMILY THERAPIST)https://3in30podcast.com/captivate-podcast/work/ (037: TEACHING CHILDREN TO WORK WITHOUT BEING A DRILL SERGEANT // DANIELLE PORTER)***   -Additional Resources from 3 in 30 Podcast- Order your copy of the https://3-in-30-podcast.myshopify.com/ (Flecks of Gold Journal), a three-year journal to help you gather the golden moments within your motherhood!  Join our community of...

An interview with Ralphie Jacobs from Simply on Purpose.

Ralphie Jacobs is a positive parenting expert and shares “life changing parenting truths” through her courses over at Simply on Purpose and through her wildly popular instagram. She is the mother of four and has a big passion for arming parents with powerful parenting skills that will change your home. In this episode we talk ... Read moreEpisode 19: Ralphie Jacobs – Look for the Good. You have the Power to Change your Behavior as the Parent.

Morning schedules, taking the family camping, and parenting different personalities are among the few hot topics Vanessa and her co-hosts and sisters talked about in this first season of The MomForce Podcast. Vanessa is revisiting ten of the stand out tips and tricks in this season finale episode. 1. Hire a “warm body” to babysit when the kids are all in bed.  All Things Babysitters - Part I 2. When should you let your girls start shaving their legs??  Keeping the Kids Clean(ish) - Shower, Rinse, Brush, Repeat. 3. Why printed pictures can strengthen your family relationships Strengthening Families through the Printed Photo Dr. Trisha Weeks 4. How you can comfort a grieving friend - What advice would you give them How to Help a Grieving Friend 5. Making service a priority in your family - Getting kids involved Creating a Culture of Service in Your Family with Kristin Andrus 6. Helping your kids feel seen, safe, soothed and secure The Power of Showing Up with Dr. Tina Bryson 7. Getting on the same with your partner about the family budget Tackling the Family Budget with Jordan Page 8. Knowing the difference between discipline and punishment Positive Discipline with Ralphie Jacobs of Simply On Purpose 9. When the best time to go to sleep is - and how to actually fall asleep Rules for Bed with Sleep and Sex Therapist Christine Lawler of @the.peaceful.sleeper 10. Healthy ways to cope with anxiety, for parents and kids. How to Cope with How How to Cope with Stress and Anxiety with Dr. Lisa Damour As we prepare for our next season, we would love to hear from you. What do you want to learn about? What experts would you like to hear from? Email us at podcast@chatbooks.com. Parenting is hard and we don’t have to do it alone! The MomForce is here to help you. And don’t forget to join our Facebook group, where thousands of like minded women from all over the world are helping each other out as we all learn and grow in our own womanhood/motherhood. Til next season, gals!

Today, I've got a special episode, where I'm talking about how to find success during coronavirus. Yes, it is possible if you know how to pivot your business. These are scary times, especially as online business owners, bloggers, and entrepreneurs. We've watched our Catch My Party traffic fall by half in one week! But if we can solve problems for our audiences, we will be okay. I believe that in my heart. And our businesses will be stronger for it. My advice: Be the light for your readers because we all need more light right now. My hope is that this episode gives you a roadmap for how to look beyond the paralysis, fear, and panic that we're all feeling, and shift your focus back onto your audience so you can become a resource, guide, and helper. And your audience will reward you for it! How to Find Success During Coronavirus Host 0:04 Welcome to The Blogger Genius Podcast brought to you by MiloTree. Here's your host, Jillian Leslie. Jillian Leslie 0:11 Hello, everyone. Welcome back to the show. Wow, what a time we are living in. The word that just keeps popping up for me is "unease". I just feel like everything is off balance. But that is why I'm going live with this interview early because I want to give you more balance, especially in your online business. I'm interviewing Matt Molen from Personalized Paths. He is my email marketing guru. What we are talking about is how to move your business in the right direction during this uncertain time, how to be there for your audience, and still build your business. MiloTree BlogStart to Start Your WordPress Blog Also, for those of you who have not yet started your entrepreneurial journey, David and I have started a service called MiloTree BlogStart, where we will set up and optimize your WordPress blog for you. Setting up a WordPress blog can be tricky. There's a lot of tech, there are a lot of settings or a lot of features, and we know how to do it. We know how to set you up and get you started on the right foot and be there for you with any technical help you need. So, it's MiloTree.com/blogstart. If you're ready to take your fate in your own hands, definitely let us help you. Okay. This interview, I think you are going to really get a lot out of it. What I love about Matt is he gives actionable, practical real tips and ideas. For those of you who need to feel inspired, this is the interview for you. I got off this call, and I just felt lightness and excitement, and a way to really be there for my audience. So without further delay, here is my interview with Matt Molen. Matt, welcome back to the show. I am so excited to talk to you right now. Matt Molen 2:29 Well, Jillian, thanks for having me. I know that there's a lot on people's minds right now. And, you know, you and I have been chatting a little bit. I think there are some things that people could be doing in my area of expertise that they're not doing, and I just want to have a chance to talk about it a little bit. Jillian Leslie 2:45 And first of all, I have to say you reached out to me yesterday and you said, "Hey, do you want to talk about how people can respond to this very uneasy time?" And I will tell you that you gave me a feeling of solace because of the normal seat like, "Of course, I want to talk to you." Because when I talk to you things are normal, and we're talking about business. Even just when we got on this call, hearing your voice, I said that to you. I said, "Oh, it just feels comforting." Mostly because I'm doing what I normally do. And by talking to you, I'm not checking the news. I am not thinking about my family and all the worries of the world. So, I want to thank you for reaching out and for just giving me let's say, 45 minutes of normalcy. Matt Molen 3:36 Well, thanks. I love that you think of it that way because that's how I've been thinking about it is that most people right now, myself included, are feeling very uneasy, very uncertain. Not just about blogging, but about life in general. And, I'm getting all these emails. You are too. In fact, I got one in my inbox. It kind of made me laugh. It was so ridiculous. It was from a life insurance company that I don't even have a policy with. And the message was, "Hey, this life insurance company is open." Thanks so much, guys. What a help that was. And so, I think that we're getting so much news. It's distracting. It's hard to concentrate. And if you're a blogger in this in this environment, you're worried about your ad revenue. You're worried about your site traffic? Just the general feeling of where is this going? Jillian Leslie 4:34 Yes. How long is this going to last? Matt Molen 4:38 On top of that, our routines are disrupted. So that's weird. It's hard to focus. And then, I think that I've seen this other thing and I feel it too. Is this desire to reach out and help somebody somehow. Jillian Leslie 4:50 Yes. Yes. Matt Molen 4:52 All of that usually is leading up towards paralysis or a lack of strategy going forward. Now my area of expertise, of course, is with email marketing specifically for bloggers. I have the benefit of talking with content creators every single day about their email. On top of that, I'm looking at email campaigns that are coming across. And I'm just going, "Man, you guys are blowing this." Because this is a situation unlike any other. And what I thought that I would do, I know I've been on the podcast before and I shared kind of my system. Many people may actually, or not many, but some people may actually be familiar with the way that I think about things and my system. Jillian Leslie 5:29 Yeah, and we will of course link to your previous episodes. So, definitely. Matt Molen 5:35 Awesome. But this situation is so different that I wanted to come and share perhaps an email strategy that your listeners could think about employing for the next few weeks or months if that's how far this thing goes on. Hopefully not. But that's what I want to talk about today. Jillian Leslie 5:56 I'd love it. Love it. How to Think Differently About Your Business During Coronavirus Matt Molen 5:57 Okay. So, what I want to tell everybody, first of all, is that I want them to lace up their running shoes. All right? I want them to think that they're getting ready right now mentally to get out and work. Okay? Because so much of this is preparing your mind to take action. These are unprecedented times and it's going to require… I'm not saying unprecedented levels of work, but it's going to require a different way of thinking and a little bit of hustle to really optimize and be of the most service that we can be. I recently did a talk on this. I was telling some of the people that were on my list that I was doing it. I got an email back from a lady that runs a Disneyland website. Her website is 100% about Disneyland. Her message to me was, "Email saved me so far." And what I'm going to talk about today, and I'll come back to her. Her name is Jessica. I'll come back to Jessica's story at the end about what she did. But email saved her. Think about what it must be like with her site. Disneyland closes. She's got nothing to talk about. Nobody's doing any searching. Her ad revenue has got to be tanking. They're not buying her products. For her, she is probably staring down the barrel of an uncomfortable gun, if you will. What I want to start with though, is that I want to start with an overarching principle. This principle always works. This is the principle that I live by for marketing in general. And that is solve your reader's problem. Solve Your Readers' Problems Now Jillian Leslie 7:37 Love it. Matt Molen 7:38 Solve your reader's problems. If you keep coming back to that over and over again, it's going to change the way you think about your opportunity here. So, let's talk about email in general, and what to send to your subscribers right now. I have seen… You've probably seen this too. And I don't fault people for sending this. They're sending emails that say, "How can I help?" Now, the spirit behind that is I want to help you. I want to know what you're going through. Here's the problem with that, though. Everybody is uncertain because this is new to all of us. Your readers, they don't know what they need. Jillian Leslie 8:19 Exactly. You're putting the onus on somebody to tell you what they need. Matt Molen 8:27 Exactly. And they don't know what you can do. They don't know what they need, but you as the subject matter expert, you do know to a degree, what they need within your sphere of knowledge and influence. So the question I have for anybody listening is, "What problem can you solve in the right now? How would you provide value in this environment right now?" I got some examples of some really positive examples that I got from some emails from people. Just today I got one from the best ideas for kids. It was a hundred plus indoor activities. There's a lot of moms with kids at home. That solves a problem. I received one eight days ago, which I thought was almost prophetic. But it was, "Don't panic. Be prepared. Free 14-day meal plan and shopping list." That was from Favorite Family Recipes. One of the sub-headers in there is, "A little panic planning can bring great peace of mind." And so I thought that was good. I got another one that was an activity binder for teens. So, some people are understanding the value that they can provide to their readers. But let's talk for just a second. There are some blog categories that are really hard hit. We've got travel. We've got fitness. We've got finance. Or just "lifestyle" in general. Who's thinking about even Easter activities right now? Jillian Leslie 9:59 Absolutely. I think in terms of fashion, for example, the last thing I want to do is buy clothes right now. I'm in my pajamas. Matt Molen 10:10 So, the brainstorming activity that I would do if we had people in the room here together is I would say, "Look, let's think about it for a second. Fashion blogger, travel blogger, finance, blogger, fitness, blogger, what problem can you solve for your readers right now?" If I'm a travel blogger, and I actually do have a travel blog on the side, we need to be thinking about what's going through our readers' minds right now. Well, they're sitting on vacation plans. Maybe not right now but down the road. They don't know should they keep them. What are refund policies like? What are cancellations like? Is now a time to actually book cheap flights in the future? Do I go look for hotel values right now? As an aside, we have some trips planned out late in 2020. Those hotel rates have dropped. So, do you advise them on how to go change those? You see what I'm saying? There are ways that they can solve a reader's problem that is unique to this situation. Jillian Leslie 11:11 Absolutely. I have my assistant for Catch My Party and I will tell you that our traffic has died because if you were planning that mermaid party for your daughter next month, you're not planning it now. We have a content schedule where we have our blog posts blocked out for a couple of months, and we literally said, "Oh my God, we seem tone-deaf." If we are posting about a fun summer party, even summer, because who knows? And what we did was we step back and we said, "People are home." Our users are typically… Our visitors or moms. How can we bring some festivity or some lightheartedness, or just something to moms? And what we thought about was… Well, a couple of things. How to Plan A Virtual Party During Shelter at Home One, how do you plan a virtual party? What platforms can you use to do that? What kind of games can you play online with a group of people? What if it's a group of, you know, five-year-olds versus what if it's a group of 15-year-olds? We're right now building out a bunch of content about how would you do that. Or we give printables away for things like… We have like game night printables. Well, guess what? You know what? Maybe for your family you could print out a couple printables and put out some games and have a game night just to break up the monotony or just have a little bit more play in this stressful time. So it's amazing how quickly we said, "Oh, my God. Our normal content doesn't work anymore." We understand because my assistant and I are both stressed out. Like, what would we want? And that's kind of the direction that we're heading in. Matt Molen 13:10 I love that. And you know what that tells me? This is the type of people like you who get into this business, for this reason, is to innovate. It is to create. And quite often we get into a rut, we get into our routines, and we stay in our lane. What this is forcing you to do is look at your expertise, and twist it a little bit. Turn it on its head, and come up with the solutions to the problems using your expertise. You know how to party. Jillian Leslie 13:40 Right. Matt Molen 13:40 And being able to convert that into today's dynamic, wow! I could see NBC News interviewing you just because that type of content is going to be so readily available, or so readily adopted. People are going to want that. They want to have some fun for all the reasons we've been talking about. So, that's the power though. When you figure that out, that's the power of having a robust email list. Because the traffic isn't necessarily coming to the site now. Now, we need to use our list and drive people to the site so that they can absorb it, so that they can then share it with their friends. Why Email is More Powerful Than Ever Jillian Leslie 14:21 Absolutely. Because for example, I don't have the time right now to be hanging on social media to be like, "Let's go to Pinterest and just kind of browse around." But if something comes into my inbox, I probably will open it. Matt Molen 14:36 Exactly. So, if you and your team and everybody within the sound of my voice, if they write down three to five problems that they can solve for their readers in this current situation, and maybe different problems than they ever otherwise would have been. The good news is that in most cases, you probably can leverage your existing content. You just have to twist it a little bit. Sometimes you got to make new content. That's why I was talking about we got to lace up our running shoes, it's time to hustle. The next question that I want to address is how often should you now email these people? One of the most common rebuttals, I guess, from people that have not adopted email is, "I don't want to annoy people." Well, yeah. You know what's annoying? It's that email from that life insurance company. You didn't ask for it. Jillian Leslie 15:12 Good question. I call them the tone-deaf emails. Like, how many of you have I gotten in the last week? Matt Molen 15:39 They're not solving my problems, therefore, those are annoying. However, it's not spam if you're providing value. If you are solving your readers' problems, especially right now, they are all yours. So, let me give you a little analogy. I used to work in the daily deals industry. In that space, as you can imagine, ecommerce Q4 was huge but especially Black Friday weekend. There are deals left and right. We sent so many emails and people absorb the emails. They wanted the emails because they're deal seekers and they wanted to know what was hot then. Would that activity have been appropriate in a different time? No. That would not have been appropriate. But for you Jillian with Catch My Party, and the example that you just talked about, this might be your Black Friday. You can probably serve more than you currently are. And I say that to everybody who's listening. This might be your Black Friday. People need to hear your solutions. So, what does that mean for you? How many emails do you send per week? That's going to be up to you. But here's a couple of things for your consideration. I have four things. Number one, do your automated emails make sense? If you've adopted the Matt Molen system, you know that I love automated emails. My Forever Series, for instance, is a big part of what I do. But, like right now with my Disney Cruise Forever Series going, where it tells people what to expect on the private island? Does that really make a lot of sense? Time to Pause Your Email Series When I could take that slot, I could pause the Forever Series, pause that automation, and I could take that slot and send something that helps them right now. That's number one. Do your automated emails make sense? Number two is to recognize that you can serve more. What I mean by serve more is you can send them more emails. More emails than you think. Heck, you could have done it before. You just didn't believe me before. But now for sure, you can serve more than you think. What does that mean for you? It might mean an email every third day. It might mean if you're doing one email a week, it might mean two. For some of you who have a ton of great content, it might be an email every other day. I don't know. And you might want to test and experiment with it. But if you have the spirit of service, and you're solving your readers' problems, you can do more. Number three, we're sitting here. So much has changed at the date of this recording. So much has changed just in the last few days. It feels like it's been weeks. Things have progressed in a crazy fashion. Plan Out Your New Emails But I think we've settled into what the normal probably looks like, at least for the next few weeks. So, plan it out. I have a resource for you. If you want it, we'll drop it in the show notes. Jillian, if you're willing to do it. Jillian Leslie 18:42 Of course. Matt Molen 18:43 And all it is is a very simple calendar that shows the dates, the day of the week. And it asks you what problem can you solve for your reader? What is your reader thinking about? So basically, you just go through that and you say, "Well, okay. If I'm at Catch My Party, I know that they're wanting to do a virtual party with friends." Well, that would be fun because the kids get stir crazy. Okay, that would be one thing. Number two, mom wants to just make the quarantine shut up in the house. I want to make that more fun. Okay, we could do our scavenger hunts. Or, you know, we're going to have a dress-up day. And so, we're going to take the elements from our princess parties, and we're going to add those together into, you know, 10 ideas of how you can have dress-up time at home. There are three emails right there, and I don't even know your content. So, if you did that with your team, and plan that out, would your audience be receptive to that? Absolutely. If you find out they aren't, well, then you just don't send them. But you've started the planning process. You've thought it through on how you can serve them. That's number three is to plan it now. Don't wait and sit here and just go in, "Boy, I'm going to hit CNN one more time." Number four, the last one is write the emails. You can write them advance. Write them in advance, and then you can just not send them if this thing miraculously goes away and the world changes again. I don't think it's going to miraculously go away. I think that we've got two months of this. That's my guess. But I could be wrong and I hope I am. But what if I'm not? You could have that stuff done. So, do your automated emails make sense? Number two, decide to send more and serve more. Number three, plan those out now with a calendar. Number four, write those. Jillian Leslie 20:34 Imagine growing your Instagram followers with no work. Highly engaged followers. Now, imagine it with Pinterest, Facebook, YouTube. How about new email subscribers? Seriously, no work. This is all possible if you install the MiloTree pop-up on your blog. David, my husband, and I, started our blog Catch My Party in 2009. We've since grown it into the largest party idea site on the web with millions of pageviews per month. We did it with hard work, and our secret weapon, our MiloTree pop-up which David built for us. We've grown our Pinterest followers to over 1.3 million, and our Instagram followers to over 164,000. And right now 8000 other bloggers just like you are using MiloTree to grow their businesses. With MiloTree you can focus on growing one platform or switch between several. But here is the important thing. If you aren't converting your visitors into followers, subscribers, and customers, you're honestly wasting your own traffic. Make this asset, your visitors, work for you. Since we're bloggers, we get bloggers. So we've optimized MiloTree like crazy. It's a snap to install, it won't slow your site down, it's Google-friendly on mobile, and it's so darn cute. You can even add animated sparkles to your pop-up if you like. Sign up now and get your first 30 days for free. Please pause this episode and head to MiloTree.com to sign up. I know you will thank me. As a bonus, once you sign up, I'm going to send you weekly actionable business tips to help you grow your business. I've been at this a long time, and I have a lot to share. Remember, your scarcest resource is not money, it's time. So let MiloTree free up time for you so you can focus on the other important parts of your business. So what are you waiting for? Hit pause. Head to MiloTree and sign up today. I think that if you can reach people where they are… This is something I've been thinking a lot about, which is I want to touch you, Matt, where you are. Like, let's say I'm freaking out in my brain. I don't want to touch you with that. I want to touch you with me in my highest self when I've had a moment to kind of calm down. And even if I'm going to freak out in another minute, I want to be one half a step ahead of you. But I don't want to be five steps ahead of you. I want to be able to touch you where you are, and point you in the direction to give you solace or to solve that problem. Does that make sense? People Want to Be Lead Matt Molen 23:27 Absolutely. People want to be led. They want to be helped. Jillian Leslie 23:30 But I don't want to be the authority. Meaning, I don't want to be like, "Guys, look, you don't have to worry about this. This is going to be over in two months." No. I want to say I'm vulnerable. I'm feeling this way. And I have a solution for you that has that worked for me. So, I'm like half a step ahead of you. Because I'm like holding my arm. I'm like holding my hand out. Kind of like I'm a couple of steps like higher up on the stairway and I'm just going to put my hand out and gently lead you up to steps so that you can have a little bit more calm or peace or whatever. But I'm not four flights up. Matt Molen 24:14 You don't have to solve the virus thing for them. All you have to do is help them with one little aspect of their life during that time and you achieve hero status. Jillian Leslie 24:24 Absolutely. Absolutely. You know, it's funny. It's like I want it. I just sent an email to my list because I was feeling just so much unease and so much confusion, but I had a moment of clarity. What I did was I took my to-do list that has been there, that's written on like a scribbled piece of paper of all the things I hope to get to. Right? And all I did was I took that piece of paper, and I took a new clean, fresh piece of paper. I took my to-do list and I just organized it on a new piece of paper. That's it. I can't tell you the peace of mind that gave me. I wrote an email. I said, "Here's something that worked for me." This is really a very… I have all these feelings, and I feel really vulnerable. I'm sure you do too. And, I believe in doing small things. Like laundry and cleaning out your kitchen junk drawer. And I said, "Here's what I recommend for work. This is what I did. This worked for me and I recommend you find those small tasks that push you forward, but aren't so taxing that they're intimidating or they're overwhelming. Go do something small." Matt Molen 25:48 Absolutely. Jillian Leslie 25:51 And I got the feedback of saying, "You know what? I needed this. Thank you." Matt Molen 25:58 That's fantastic. I think that's the spirit that I want to convey here is you can do more of that than you are doing. You can do way more of that than you're doing. And what I'm seeing… I saw it from a blogger that I greatly respect. I got an email from her today. It says, "I want to help. Fill out this survey. I really want to help." And I'm sitting there thinking, "You know what? How you can help me is you give me some ideas. You can give me some suggestions on how to occupy my mind, or how to make more of this." That to me is the opportunity. I know it's in your all's heads. It's just a matter of sending it to your people and sharing that with them. Don't be selfish about it and keep it to yourself. Jillian Leslie 26:40 Yes. It's Time to Server Your Audience During Coronavirus Matt Molen 26:41 With this dynamic comes an opportunity for you to serve more people by getting more people onto your list. I know that is counterintuitive. And maybe what I mean by that is to capture more people and convert out of the traffic that you're currently getting. Even travel sites that are way down. Even Catch My Party if the traffic is down. The traditional way we do that is through an email hook. Printables, downloadables, checklists. If you listen to my previous discussion on this podcast… The last time I was here we talked about the Quickstart Guide. That's still my favorite. So, I'm going to push you to do that. The question is, does your email hook solve the current problem? Jillian Leslie 27:26 Right. Does it make sense? Matt Molen 27:27 I have a client food blogger. And before all this was going down, we were on the normal schedule. We put together an Easter quickstart guide with an Easter pop-up and the whole thing. Guess what? Nobody's thinking about Easter right now. So, it launched and it went. You know, we're not getting subscribers from that. Let me give you a couple of examples of things that have worked. If you go to a favorite family recipes. They have one that is killer copycat recipes. That's their pop-up. It's the most popular, like restaurant copycat recipes that you can try at home. We're not going to restaurants right now guys. If you still want to make the outback cheese fries or whatever, here's how you do it. And you can have some fun with that. That's blowing up for them. There's another one, Sally's Baking Addiction. She put out a post with a whole bunch of home baking projects. These are things you could do with your kids to teach them to love baking. It went crazy. She's like, "You know what? People love this." She converted that into her opt-in. So, the question I have for people is what is your current opt-in? Take a look at it and put together an email hook that you can launch right now that is more appropriate for the here and now. You're going to capture more subscribers and therefore grow your list and serve more people. Jillian Leslie 29:00 Let's say you do like a quick start guide, right? And let's say you've got four emails in your quick start guide. Guess what? You can launch it with one email, and just then quickly write the other ones. Meaning, you don't have to sit back and go, "Oh, it's going to take me four weeks to write these four emails, or however long." Go launch it! Matt Molen 29:25 Yeah, very true. You sound like me right now. And the other thing that I would even say normally, "I love to have something that's three to five emails long in a quickstart guide." Heck, I'd be happy with a one page PDF. If it's more relevant, put that out there. So again, I'm adapting to what's happening right now. I firmly believe in my other program, you know, the Quickstart Guide and the Forever Series and all these things. I'm adapting to the current situation. Jillian Leslie 29:57 I have this philosophy that I have been preaching called B- work, which is I recommend all of my students, everybody that I talked to from my podcast to do B- work. I'm going to say now, maybe C+ work. And what I mean by that is done is better than perfect. And because I want to reorient everybody that if… Let's say I can be of service and helpful, but my emails are not going to look pretty and I'm not going to have a great beautiful graphic or whatever. It might have some typos. But if I can get it out there and calm people or help people or touch people, it's much better if that is B-. So, be thinking about how can I get it out there? How can I move quickly? Meet people where they are. Matt Molen 30:52 Go fast. Break stuff. Jillian Leslie 30:54 There you go. There you go. Matt Molen 30:56 I like the perfect is the enemy of done. I like that. Jillian Leslie 30:59 Yes. Matt Molen 31:01 So, let's talk about a technique or two that people could go try right now. I want people to understand, these are just ideas. They are not going to work perfect for everybody. They may not be right for your situation. Take the idea and see if there's a plausible way to apply it to your current business. The first one that I'm going to share with you is called "swipe up to sign up". I just got done reading an article about how much people are on social media right now. They're obviously at home. They have a little bit more time to do that. Plus, when you're kind of in a daze that's where you default. It's a source of news. It's a source of comfort. It's a source of commiseration. Well, go to your Instagram stories. Use the Swipe Up Feature on Instagram to Grow Followers If you've got 10,000 people or more followers on Instagram, then you're qualified for the swipe up feature of Instagram stories. I want to tell you an example. I did this last year with Ralphie Jacobs. Her Instagram handle is @simplyonpurpose. She is a parenting expert. She doesn't even have a blog. We created a quickstart guide that was four emails deep. It's called "Why we yell, why it doesn't work, and what to do instead?" She started with zero subscribers. She launched a little simple landing page,.Very simple. All it was was the title of the thing and a name and address. Yes, I want it feel. That's all it was. After two weeks, she had 20,000 subscribers. Remember, did she had 20,000 followers to begin with. So I don't do well at math. But that's approximately five billion percent, right? Conversion. That's pretty awesome. So, she was able to take and get 20,000 subscribers in two weeks by sharing this resource. Let's go all the way back. What problem do you solve for your readers? I asked you to identify what problems were. Then I asked you to think about what your opt-in might be. Create that opt-in and then share it. And any other opt-ins that you have. Maybe you've got printables on your site. This is a great time to share those. Trade that printable. Trade that course. Trade that quickstart guide for an email address. So that's one. Oh, gosh, I've got another example. You guys have seen this one in action. I hope by the time that you hear this recording that you get it because Janssen at Everyday Reading is doing this right now. So, to understand this, Everyday Reading is a website for moms who want their kids to develop a love for reading. So, everything she does is in that vein. She created a list of her favorite online educational programs. I think she made a PDF of it. That was it. She went on to her social. This was last Friday. So, this is one week ago. And in a week's time on her Instagram stories, and through a post on Instagram, she said, "I'll email it to you right now. Just swipe up to sign up to get this list of online educational resources." She has a base of 40,000 Instagram followers. In the first five days, she had 1100 new subscribers. And in the two days since, she's averaged 75 new subscribers per day. Not only that. She gained 1600 new Instagram followers while she was doing that. That was a curated list of online educational resources that she put together and then shared with them. She made life easy for them. She identified the problem that she was solving and she's having tremendous success with it. And serving while she's doing it, while she's growing her list. So, here's a very practical piece of advice for anybody that has a large social following. Create your opt-ins or make a list of them. Get out your calendar and say, "Okay. On the 25th, I'm going to share this. On the 28th, I'm going to share this. On the first, I'm going to share that." And just make a calendar so you don't forget your days in checking out Fox News or whatever it is. You'll have a plan to go promote your opt-in. So my question for everybody, what email hook can you share on social media right now? Do Small, Doable Tasks Now Jillian Leslie 35:33 What I like about what you're saying is I love the idea of having your calendar and filling it with doable things that are small enough so that you can do them and get out of your own way, and get out of the news, and get out of your own anxieties and fears because you know, you have this one task? Matt Molen 36:01 Yeah. Even if your days, right, you know, you're feeling it yourself. Yeah, like, are you gonna do that thing, Jillian Leslie 36:07 You know, I always recommend I use the Pomodoro Technique, which is this, I go to tomato-timer.com. And it's a timer for 25 minutes. And I get my work done by saying I can do this for 25 minutes. And I find it to be incredibly powerful. And I use it when I have tasks to do that I don't want to do. And I feel like what you're saying is here, create these concrete tasks that you probably could do in about 25 minutes. And go do that because not only will it by the way, not only will this serve your audience, it will serve yourself. Yeah. Matt Molen 36:48 You'll be moving your business forward, you will feel a sense of accomplishment when you check that off the list. Absolutely. It takes you out of the malaise that we're all kind of stuck in. Unknown Speaker 36:57 Yes, that paralysis Matt Molen 37:01 I, I have another idea for people that they can actually go see, this one's a little bit more of if you've got like, let's say, your this blog, this might make sense for you. And that is to create a challenge. Create a Challenge For Your Readers The idea behind a challenge, it's kind of, but it's an email chain is about what a reader needs to do. And so you can create an email challenge where you have, you know, say three to five emails in a row, which might include a welcome email, it might include a daily email for three to five days and each email includes a principal, teach them how to do something or why they need to do something, and then assign a task and explain how to accomplish it and then ask them to report back. There's a really good example of this. That is, she's always doing it. I wish I knew this woman. I wish I could say I had anything to do with it. It's the simple green smoothies channel. Yes. Calm Yes, she right now has on her website, the 10-day smoothie challenge. Now I when I saw that I've seen this 50 times, but I'm sitting here at home and I am I'm eating all the comfort food, aka junk food just because I'm stressing or something I don't know. And then she shares this thing that says 10-day smoothie challenge boosts your immune system with tasty smoothie recipes. And she's got dates on there. Like, Oh, you do it during these days. Oh, okay. I mean, right. It's a sense of community. It's a sense of, I'm taking action taking control of my life. So anyway, I don't need to spend a ton of time creating a challenge because a lot of people won't ever do that. But if that's appropriate for you, that can be an interesting way to grow your list as well and to gain community while you're doing it. Jillian Leslie 38:39 I love that. I think that that is really, I think that especially something that is doable. Something health-related is terrific. Something that is self-care, especially for moms who are stressed out. You could even put it to put together like a Kindness to Yourself Challenge like what One day bath, you know, the next day do a Korean face mask. I mean, whatever it is just to, you know, find a way to touch your audience and help them through this, you know, difficult time. Matt Molen 39:16 Totally. Now, the last thing I think people are struggling with, and I'll kind of wrap up with some, this will be a rapid-fire series of ideas. These are income boosters. Some people have been really hammered with, you know, low RPMs from ads from pageviews. Or just, you know, whatever, it might have no sponsorships, what have you. So here are just some ideas. So take these ideas if one of these hits you, then awesome. So the first one I'm going to talk about is if you make money off of ads, that means you need more pageviews and you need higher RPMs. So one tactic is Jillian Leslie 39:53 RPM is revenue per page. Matt Molen 39:55 Exactly. So that's how people are calculating revenue per dollar. Jillian Leslie 40:00 In eyeballs. Matt Molen 40:02 So the first thing would be to increase your page views is increase your email schedule, we already talked about that. But if you're solving more problems, now might be the time to bring more people back to your site, even though a visitor does not pay out as much, you can kind of solve a little bit of your issue by getting more people to the website through your email. Okay, so you can recoup some of that. Increase the Number of Emails You Send So by increasing your email schedule, the other thing that you could do is if you're, if your ad network tells you what your highest earning pages are, like, for instance, a Disney Cruise, usually, content about Disney Cruise usually pays more than, say, a Disney coloring page. So if I if you sent more readers to those higher RPM pages, you're going to make more so you could deliberately plan out your content around what is going to be more valuable right now. Yes, now it's a little bit of a guessing game with what because brands are in their own unique funk right now too, but you get my point. Yeah. Another way to make money is through affiliate sales, affiliate sales. Some people do it great. Some people don't do it at all. But if you're going to get into this, make a list of brands that you love. This is where authenticity comes into place. You just start there. One thing you can do once you have that list is you could create a roundup of your favorite resources. If you're a food blogger By the way, people love the behind the scenes of what's in your pantry. What's in your kitchen. Yeah, what knife set Do you use and all of that and especially Jillian Leslie 41:35 How about this, you know, if people because everybody now is cooking at home, what are the top five tools you use to make homemade meals fast? Matt Molen 41:50 Absolutely. And then take it to the next step. This is what I really like to do. This is where you can go beyond just a what feels like a little bit of a money grab within a field. The thing I think some people don't like that is create a how to series. So, a how-to series is ... I mean, you know, Cricket has got an amazing affiliate program, they are gonna they're gonna probably their business is probably going to not die during this time because maybe we're teaching our kids how to do crafts or we're because we're not going out we use that time for crafting. What if you did a how-to series on how to make x how to make y how to how to use your machine for this? Yeah, you probably can make more by doing that. And by the way, the reason I'm sharing all these things is you're using email to push people there to these point to these to these opportunities Jillian leslie 42:44 And again solving their problem Matt Molen 42:46 sSolving their problem. Oh, I just thought of one that I forgot. So if you go back to food blogging for a second, but it applies everywhere. If you're a food blogger, and you do well with Instant Pot. Instant Pot has so many accessories that most people don't know how To use, but I bet you do. You know, accessories are fantastic. And they're probably not sold out. So that's, that's a way that you can keep your business going. Last but not least on affiliate is why not just in your outgoing emails, just add some relevant skills and steals to the bottom of your email. I'm actually borrowing that from that phrase from Corey who runs Hey, Let's Make Stuff, because I was just looking her email earlier today. I have to give her full credit. It feels authentic, it feels natural, but it's just deals and steals. And she's mentioning some of her favorite brands and the sales that they have going on. And it's kind of a, it's kind of a footnote. But hey, any of that that flows through is going to help her out. Jillian Leslie 43:52 And by the way, I of course I'm getting a ton of emails from businesses, you know, like West Elm, and there's struggling. So guess what, I can get 30% or 20% off right now. So just you know, know that these businesses want sales and they are offering discounts. So letting people know, of the sales is beneficial Matt Molen 44:17 in the days of the the 2008 financial crisis that we had. So many daily deal sites cropped up out of that. The reason I bring that up is that some people are going to say, that feels weird trying to push a product right now. what I'm telling you is that people are saving their pennies. Yes, they still want to shop, they still want to get a good deal there's gonna be people are going to take advantage of the situation for the good and get a good deal. So if you provide that and look at it from that lens. And if you believe in these tools as well. Then you tell your friends about a one, two, absolutely. So to get over that, I guess is what I'm getting at now. This one's a little bit out there. How to Work With Brands During the Coronavirus So we'll see if this one's useful to people. But for those of you who are doing sponsorships, I realized that those may have dried up. So there's a couple of things that you could possibly do. Number one, you go to some of your favorite existing sponsors, and you offer to sell email as an add on. Now, this requires you to have a list. But if you have a list of any sort, you can say, hey, look, in addition to our current contract for another 10%, I will send out x number of emails or you could go to old sponsorships that have expired and off and refresh it and not just offer an email thing but you could say, hey, let's reengage this what do you say it's tough you know, it's a this would be a good fit for the current environment. Now of course it needs to be you but then you can offer to send that to your email list as well. And lastly on that, if it is a brand that is cash strapped, but still, they still you know, you have got a marketing manager over there. That still needs to hit some goals and his boy, they'd look like a hero. If they did, you could this is this is, you know, thinking outside the box, you could defer payment for that brand in exchange for a better deal in the fourth quarter with them, or just pay me later, kind of deal. Now, I know everybody's situations are a little bit different. I'm just saying that there are ways to think about this a little bit differently. And of course, if you can make up a product man, do it. You know, there's a ton of graphic designers out there that can make digital resources for you. So if you can think of an affordable digital resource that's perfect for your audience. You could bang one of those out and use your email list to share that. And if you're an e-commerce company, you should be manufacturing reasons for people to buy from you right now. I'm getting emails from restaurants, for example, that say, yeah, we're open. But I'm like, yeah, I'm not going anywhere. Here's the difference though. I got an email from a local restaurant. I went to the Italian restaurant and they said $35 family plan deal. And this is like, like a little bit higher-end restaurant. And it's Wednesday and Thursday only. And it's takeout only. And it includes all these amazing things. And they show pictures of it. And I'm like, Huh, I wasn't thinking about going there. But they gave me they manufactured a reason for me to buy from them right now. Jillian Leslie 47:22 I think that's great. I think that is so great. Again, put your brand in front of people with solutions and you will break the kind of stupor that people are in right now. And in fact, I might argue that if you do it in a way that is helpful, that is heartfelt, that is humorous, whatever it is, if you can break that stupor, break that haze that we're all walking around in, you will have tremendous success because we're all in uncharted territory. And we're all uncomfortable. And if you can find a way to give people something positive, I think it would actually be even more valuable than in the normal hubbub when we're all just kind of caught up in our lives. Matt Molen 48:19 So, I want to come back to Jessica, I'm going to close it all out with remember, Jessica is the main blogger. So Jessica, hustled, she thought this through. Again, I don't take any credit for any of this. This is all Jessica. She inspired me. She anticipated here's what she did how email remember she said, email saved me so far. She anticipated that Disneyland was going to close and so she wrote a blog post about it. And she wrote an email back before it even happened. The minute they announced the closure, she was the first to send it out. So she's got all those people going oh my gosh, what? So she beat the news outlets to the punch by using her list. So she benefitted from that traffic, people coming and the brand building. So she prepared her email content. She prepared her web content ahead of time. Second, she changed her opt-in to something that was more appropriate updates about Disneyland closures. So if you go there right now, the happiest blog on earth calm in the midst of this crisis, that's what you'll see. And so she's actually growing her list in the midst of nobody going to Disneyland. But the people who are searching and kind of landing there, she's getting she's capturing more of them. She turned off her automated welcome series that was, you know, that pitches, you know, more information about making the most of your time at the parks because it's not relevant at this moment. And she increased her frequency of her sense. All of almost all of the things that we talked about here that she did, she is living. Jillian Leslie 49:55 Right and it seems counterintuitive because it's kind of like when you normally zig, you gotta zag. Right? And, if you catch people when they are vulnerable and you can comfort them or you can provide information or make them feel safe, they will be that much more loyal. Matt Molen 50:19 I think that we have so much this audience, this group has a lot more to give. I think number one, we've got to pull ourselves out, we got to put our running shoes on, number two, we got to think about how we can serve our readers. Number three, we need to change a few things that we're currently doing and be prepared to change back. Yes, it's not an all-time forever strategy I'm talking about for the right here right now. And we need but we can take action and we can, we can help many more people including ourselves in the process. Now there's a couple just to finish things off. Mainly my intention in talking with you today. Jillian, is not to sell anything. I have a free resource for people. If they want To check it out and learn more about the quickstart guide, if they want to learn about how I write emails, and if they want to learn about this thing called the forever series, they can go to emailjumpstart.com, it's free. There's three videos there. each one's about 10 minutes. It's, it's like I'm giving away a lot of a lot of stuff there. But it's awesome. And you can go put it in play right now, if you want. I, Jillian Leslie 51:19 I just I was going to sing your praises. And I will say that you are my email guru. I learned so much from you, and you are the real deal. Matt Molen 51:32 Well, I appreciate you saying so it's been it's a pleasure to work with you. Look, here's the thing. I do have a course, if, it's not out of place, I will put a 50% discount code on that. I don't think I've ever gotten that low before because given the circumstances, I'll give it to your readers. If any, if it happens to be the time you've got time you want to invest in email, maybe that course would be helpful to somebody out there. I'll give the code to you, Jillian. Good luck everybody. Jillian Leslie 52:04 Okay Matt. How can people reach out to you if they have questions or want to learn more that kind of thing? Matt Molen 52:13 Personalizedpaths.com is my website. My email course is called Email on autopilot. Discount code is: BLOGGERGENIUS to get 50% 0ff. And yeah, hit me up. Anybody has a question, I'd love to hear what people do. I'd love to hear what changes do they make? Is there something that they put into play? This is a time to be creative. And I'm just throwing out ideas that popped into my head. I'm sure that there are, you know, some seriously creative folks out there that can turn this situation into a much more positive. Jillian Leslie 52:47 Well, Matt, I have to say you I have so enjoyed this conversation. Thank you for getting me out of my stupor. You've gotten my wheels turning. You've made me excited. To figure out ways that I can serve my audience, and be proactive. Matt Molen 53:09 I'm so glad it was helpful. Join the MiloTree Mastermind Facebook Group Now! Jillian Leslie 53:11 I hope this interview with Matt gave you the inspiration you need to move forward in your business and to see it in a whole new light. If you are looking for more community and want to especially in this uncertain time, be with other like-minded entrepreneurs and join me please join my Facebook group called the MiloTree Mastermind Group. I'm in there all the time. And it's such a supportive community of like-minded bloggers and entrepreneurs, people just like you. And I feel like this is a time when we are alone isolated in our own homes, where we need to find ways to connect To feel like we are part of something bigger. So please again, head to Facebook, go Google, or Google search for the MiloTree Mastermind Group and please come join me. I would love to meet you. And I will see you here again next week. Please stay safe.

This week I wanted to do a solo-some sharing some of my top parenting hacks. Other than marriage, being a parent has probably been one of the most challenging things I've had to embark on in terms of personal development. You can be the Dalai Lama or Ghandi and tell people how they should act, and what peace means, but when a six year old tells you “No,” and disrespects you multiple times, it can be quite difficult to feel Zen at that very moment.Last year I attended an amazing workshop hosted by Ralphie Jacobs, the creator of Simply on Purpose. Ralphie can also be found on Instagram @simplyonpurpose. Ralphie is an amazing educator when it comes to parenting and after the workshop, I looked thru all my notes, and noticed that I had written down 27 points that I felt were the most useful. I felt like it might be a bit much to share all 27 with you, so I distilled the top five points and in this week's episode, I lay them out for you:1.What do you pay attention to?2. Be in CONTROL — Be the Model for Change3. Misbehavior is derived from two things: 1. They haven't been taught it yet 2. The environment is reinforcing the behavior4. Family Meetings5. 8:1 (Positive Reinforcement)Listen to the episode for more where I go into way more detail about these topics.

Ralphie is our parenting mentor, we're so grateful for her knowledge and how much she's helped our family FOR REALS. Follower her on instagram: instagram.com/simplyonpurpose simplyonpurpose.org Thank you to our show sponsors! Get 10% off your first month of BetterHelp at betterhelp.com/dashleys Trust and Will: Visit Trustandwill.com/BIGLITTLE to automatically receive 10% off your purchase of a guardianship, will or trust . Follow the Dashleys for more! https://thedashleysvlog.com https://facebook.com/thedashleysvlog https://instagram.com/thedashleys https://youtube.com/thedashleys hellodashleys@gmail.com Check out our relationship Q&A Podcast! http://anchor.fm/takingsides --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/biglittlelife/support

For years, Ralphie Jacobs of @simplyonpurpose has been teaching parents to find the good in their children! And today, she is answering a few of the most common questions we see in our MomForce Facebook group.  Question 1: How do you discipline a child when they do NOT listen? Ralphi tells us to first think about what we are expecting our child to do and then to remmebr that there are 2 steps to compliance: starting to comply and then full compliance. So if you want your child to turn off the TV and come to dinner, tell them they have 20 seconds to get ready to come to dinner. Then follow up with “Now it’s time to come to dinner” Children want to please their parents but they need to know what their expectations are - and remember - they model what they see.  Question 2: How do you stop children from teasing/fighting? Did you know that 90% of sibling conflict is inconsequential - meaning it does not require your attention. As soon as you insert yourself into the conflict, it prolongs the problem and it turns into sibling rivalry - who gets mom on their side!? Ralphie reminds us that when she overhears her children argue, instead of getting upset, she reminds herself that they are safe. They feel secure enough to talk about their problems in a home that is full of love, knowing they will be supported when they make mistakes. Children learn valuable lessons on how to properly resolve conflicts when they are given the chance to do so. Remeber. You are the parent and you get to decide how far you will let the conflict go and when to step in. SImple, direct statements, said in love and compassion will help diffuse a situation that may have gotten out of hand. They are kids, after all. Question 3: How do you discipline a two and a half year old? I need something that I can do consistently and everywhere. Our favorite quote from the episode came when Ralphie was answering this question. She said that to discipline is to teach! She also says that most of our children’s misbehavior is actually stress behavior. Ask yourself - Is my child tired? Hungry? Anxious?  The same goes for teenagers. Instead of a tantrum, they act tough and “intimidate” But are they tired? Overworked? Stressed? A good night’s sleep does wonder for toddlers and teenagers alike! Ralphie leaves our listeners with her last words of encouragement which are “It’s never too late to make positive changes” Kids are inherently good. And we are the exact best parents our kids need. And like Ralphie likes to say - “When a child feels well, they behave well!” 

They say parenthood doesn't come with a manual, but do you ever feel like if it did you would be better off? In this episode Miranda chats with positive parenting influencer and expert Ralphie Jacobs to learn her top tips for Parenting On Purpose. These simple lessons are empowering and can make all the difference with your children. Find full show notes at livefreecreative.co/podcast Follow Miranda on Instagram @livefreemiranda Buy More Than Enough on Amazon

Welcome back to another episode of Foot Traffic! Today I am excited because I have a special guest joining me on the podcast who I actually discovered on Instagram! Now, I would like to introduce you to Ralphie Jacobs. Ralphie lives in Austin, TX with her husband and 4 daughters and as an early childhood education expert she quickly learned that the best way to impact a child’s life for good is to teach parents, which is what led her to found @simplyonpurpose.  Upon discovering her Instagram account, I was immediately intrigued! Intrigued by her mission and teachings of course...but also intrigued by her thriving business. Her live events were selling out in under an hour and she had no website. Not only that, in about 2 years she has grown to a following of over 180k! I can’t wait for you to hear how she has gone back to the basics and used simple techniques and strategies to skyrocket her business. "I started teaching on Instagram stories and giving content..." At minute 2:47, hear how Ralphie started, her story and how Simply On Purpose came to be. Did she know this was going to turn into a business or did she think it would stay a passion? "One of the big struggles for me is to remind myself that I'm in charge..." At 10:00, hear the moment Ralphie thought this could really be something and realized it was no longer a hobby. Ralphie gives us insight into how many events she is doing and what her model looks like for setting up her events. "People just want to be a part of something that's good..." At minute 16:45, hear one of the greatest pieces of advice she has received. I ask Ralphie if her buyers and people that attend her events are asking for her to create more products...do they want more? "They'll love you for it if you're generous..." At 22:11, Ralphie shares what her business strengths are that have been a key factor in her success. I ask her what her work schedule looks like and how far out she plans her events. PLUS, hear the on things that I've learned from Ralphie that I apply to my own family. If you are looking to connect more with Ralphie, you can find her on Instagram @simplyonpurpose! P.S. Are you ready to go the next level? Here are some ways I can help: Take the Foot Traffic Business Growth Assessment! Figure Out Where You Are, To Plan Where You Can Go. Click here to learn more. Join the FTF Community! Did you know we have TWO free Facebook groups?! Join the local small business group here or the online business group here.

Positive discipline techniques. Learn how to control the behavior in your home. In this episode, Ralphie Jacobs simplifies the tactics on how to get your kids to behave and create a happy home.   The Unspoken When it comes to behavior, it’s not about the children having issues, it’s about the parent having behavioral issues. If you want to change your child’s behavior, the parent must change theirs. What We Discuss with Ralphie Jacobs Why the behavior issues start with us. Learning how to model living with technology. Tips on learning how to reinforce positive behavior.   Learn to become an even more mindful mama without having to go to a yoga class or spend 30 minutes meditating with this free guide at notyourmotherspodcast.us/mindful.   If you have a babe that is 0-5 years old and are wondering if they are on track to hit their milestones, grab our free milestones guide at notyourmotherspodcast.us/milestones.   If you wonder what toys your child should be playing with to promote their best language, motor, cognitive, and social-emotional skills, Monti Kids takes the guesswork out and send them right to your door! Boom! And for our podcast listeners, Monti Kids is giving $50 dollars off your purchase PLUS free shipping. Go to Montikids.com and enter the code MOTHERS   Mom-life wears you out, coffee doesn’t always help and really, it’s not that deeply nourishing. We are obsessed with Four Sigmatic mushroom coffee! It’s so good for your whole being. Check them out at foursigmatic.com/mothers  and make sure to use the code MOTHERS for 10% off!   Your relationship to money and your money managing tools, are skills you pass on to your children. Set yourself up for a life of abundance and confidence by attending this FREE masterclass at notyourmotherspodcast.us/money. As mamas, it’s really hard to get out the door and get to therapy and talk about all the incredible things that are going on in your life like career, mom-life, marriage, identity, all the aspects of being a mom and being a woman and being a human being. Better Help is offering our listeners 10% off their first month! So go to BetterHelp.com/NotYourMothers and enter the code: Not Your Mothers to get that 10% off.   Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Instagram handle so we can thank you personally!   Full show notes and resources can be found here.

Odds are that almost every couple has asked this question: how do we handle different parenting styles? So many factors contribute to the differences we already have as individuals, that combining on the super important matter of raising little individuals can be a challenge. And what’s even harder? Maintaining a healthy partner relationship while parenting together. But it can be done and this episode tells you exactly how. In this episode we’re tackling even the tough questions (it’s true, opposites attract!) with one of our most requested guests, Ralphie Jacobs, and her husband Brian. Having taught many classes on the subject, they share what you can do if you and your partner in parenting have different approaches. Remember, even two good people come from different paths - and that is reflected in our parenting! Ralphie and Brian each have valuable insight into what has worked for them as parents, but also as a couple. Tune in to hear actionable tips (did you know doing nothing counts for something??) and watch out for when they turn the tables on me. The message of this episode, much like they believe parenting should be too, is one of hope and grace for allll of us. About a few other things BIG NEWS: Podcast University is open for enrollment!! Podcasting 201: How to Grow Your Podcast has launched and doors close on November 1st. You can sign up for just the new course, or bundle with Podcasting 101: How to Start Your Podcast. If you want to sample our teaching style check out these free courses. This episode is about parenting...but it's also about couple relationships. So, what does your love story look like? Have you ever written it down? Use Promptly Journals love story journal for this exact purpose and create a family treasure. Use code 'ABOUTPROGRESS' for 20% off this month. If you'd rather use the app, sign up here and get 30% off using code REMEMBER30 (sign up there, then download the app!). SHOW NOTES Ralphie's Instagram, Website BIG NEWS: Podcast University is open for enrollment!! Sign up for a FREE podcast e-course! Get 20% off Promptly Journals with code ‘ABOUTPROGRESS’ 3 Year Anniversary Workshop + Party! Use code ‘PROGRESS’ for discount Get your first month+ FREE with Libsyn using code MONICA FREE Printables, including this month’s Progress Plan Send in a soundbite + be featured on the show HERE Join the free and private FB group Join Monica on Facebook and Instagram Songs Credit: DRIVE by Dj Nicolai Heidlas @nicolai-heidlas Music provided by FREE MUSIC FOR VLOGS AND VIDEOS bit.ly/freemusicforvlogs

Ralphie Jacobs, the positive parenting expert from Simply on Purpose IG @simplyonpurpose and Tony Overbay, LMFT, share their top 5 parenting tips plus, Ralphie sings the Jacobs family song! Visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to learn more about Tony's upcoming book: He's a Porn Addict, Now What? An Expert and a Former Addict Answer Your Questions. The Virtual Couch is sponsored by http://Betterhelp.com/virtualcouch Betterhelp.com is the world's leading provider of online therapy. Their mission is to make professional counseling accessible, affordable, and convenient, so anyone who struggles with life's challenges can get help, anytime, anywhere. Head to http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch for 10% off your first month of services.

Back to school everybody! This week we’re starting out with a fun little Q&A with our two older girls Anabelle and Lyla, and then we dive into one of the most requested topics for our podcast: parenting. We’re sharing some of the most helpful books and resources and ideas we’ve picked up along the way from experts in the field of parenting, what REALLY works for us, and we end with our fail-proof source for parenting help and advice.   Show notes: Book: “Parenting with Love and Logic” by Foster Cline and Jim Fay Book: “Christlike Parenting” by Dr. Glenn I. Latham Simply on Purpose, Ralphie Jacobs (@simplyonpurpose) Instagram

What do you do when you're about to lose your cool as a mom? How do we cope with tantrums and tough moments? How can we love our toddlers better? How can we stay kind and calm in our motherhood? Why and how can we stop yelling at our kids? All of these questions (and more!) will be answered in today's episode- an interview with the expert on positive parenting herself- Ralphie Jacobs! (the creator of Simply on Purpose) This episode had us SO inspired. Ralphie is on a mission to helping kids grow up in better environments, cultivate positive life skills and bond better with their parents. She is also on a mission to help the average mom (who gets overwhelmed!) feel better about her motherhood. This episode will NOT make you feel bad about the way you parent- it will inspire you in ways you don't even know you needed! We hope you love it as much as we do! You can find Ralphie on Instagram at @simplyonpurpose where she links to all of her workshops, programs and more! Please connect with us! Insta: @the.mamahood Email: themamahoodpodcast@gmail.com And if this episode helped you in any way, will you share it with a mama friend who needs it? Thanks so much! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

I’m so thrilled to share with you guys a concept that has literally changed my life as a mom: positive parenting. And I feel so grateful to have the woman who taught me the ways via Instagram stories, on the podcast today, to teach all of you too. Ralphie Jacobs from Simply on Purpose shares with us today her basic principles of positive parenting and how you can bring the JOY back into parenting your children as you implement these simple principles. I’ve been amazed time and time again how her teachings WORK and I cannot wait to share Ralphie’s positive parenting magic with all of you.

If you're like me... you've chased your child. If you're like me, you've yelled, "Stop yelling!" If you're like me, you don't always act like an adult when trying to parent your toddlers! Ralphie Jacobs reminded me of how important it is to set expectations and teach kids proper behavior, and not just expect that they'll know how to behave. This example of chasing my 3 year old is perfect example of how setting expectations, teaching appropriate behavior, and following through in an adult-way is the secret to parenting. haha. Let's all agree to stop chasing our children in libraries, grocery stores... really anywhere with aisles! I'm right here with you!

Ralphie Jacobs studied childhood education and says her true passion is teaching children, but she realized that spending a few hours with a child would impact them for a while, but if she could teach the parents, she would impact their lives. She strives to encourage and strengthen families and create generational change.Ultimate Morning Makeover starts November 1st. Join here.For show notes, visit www.momswhoknowpodcast.comVisit her at www.instagram.com/simplyonpurpose See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Ralphie Jacobs, whose popular Instagram account SimplyOnPurpose has a following (at this posting) of nearly 80,000 followers, joins me to talk about Positive Parenting. Ralphie, a mother of 4 girls, has a background in early childhood education. She moved from teaching children to teaching parents, as she felt a calling to teach people how to use their power as a parent to create a life full of purpose. Ralphie discusses the challenges of trying to stay positive when our kids are doing all that they can to push our buttons, and she answers some difficult parenting questions on the topics of homework, eating, procrastination and more. You can find Ralphie on Instagram at simplyonpurpose or at her Facebook page here on at her website here.

Have you guys ever heard of the Mom Conference?It’s a free conference with amazing presenters. I’ve listened to it for several years now and I love it. It always inspires me to be a better mom. This year I contributed a 3 Week Dinner Plan to the bundle they sell, so I’ve very happy to be part of that. Click this link to get registered for the free classes.Meet Beth, Andrea and Camille!I’m so pleased to have these hilarious ladies from the Family Looking Up Podcast on our show today. Their podcast is my favorite to listen to! I hope you’ll head over and subscribe to them as well. Today we’re talking about the highs and lows in motherhood. They have some great stories and fabulous advice.We talked a little bit about their episode with Melisa Moore about Getting Your Kids to Sleep. And when you sign up for their newsletter you will receive the fun little sleep tickets they talked about on the show.They also mentioned Ralphie Jacobs and her great tips on how to Stay Cool When You Feel Triggered. Such a great one. I really need to work on this!!Check out even more about Beth, Andrea and Camille at their website:http://familylookingup.com/For more family helps, recipes, travel tips and our other podcasts, head over to our website www.helpingofhappiness.com . We’re also all across social media. We’d love to have you interact with us there!

Ralphie has spent the last several years doing intensive research on positive parenting, and now shares her knowledge with parents thirsty for the information.  My two favorite parts of our conversation were when I asked how we know if our kids are "entitled" and I LOVED her answer. Another part I loved was when she spoke about making the SWITCH to positive parenting when her oldest was 10, which tells me...we don't have to have it all figured out from the beginning! I loved talking about family cultures, and so many other tidbits. After you listen, I hope you'll share in the continued discussion on my Instagram @CapturingJoy.KristenDuke Be sure to also check out Ralphie at @SimplyOnPurpose.  As always the full show notes with links will be at the Beyond Good Intentions homepage on KristenDuke.com Make sure you check out the details at the end of the episode about the content we are running the next week!

I  saw a meme the other day that said “I don’t do the KEEP CALM AND CARRY ON thing.  I do the spontaneously combust and go totally mental thing.   Just FYI…”  It made me laugh and think that most parents INTEND to do the keep calm thing, but END UP doing the spontaneously combust thing instead.  Why?!? Well, today we bring you HOPE and HELP from none other than Ralphie Jacobs of “Simply on Purpose”.  If you’re not familiar with Ralphie’s instagram site where she teaches parents, then you are in for a treat!  In addition to all the great tips we receive from Ralphie, listen in to hear our segment called “What?!? What could that hurt??” to hear more funny stories of parenting fails where we GREATLY underestimated the impact of 1 bad decision!”   Ralphie lives in Austin Texas with her husband and their 4 amazing daughters.  She graduated in Early Childhood Education from Utah State University and has worked as a preschool teacher and creator of children's organizations and curriculum.  Ralphie quickly learned that the best way to impact a child's life for good is to teach parents, so she founded the Instagram feed @simplyonpurose where she writes about parenting, family culture, and living with purpose. She travels the country teaching workshops on positive parenting.   In this week’s episode Ralphie shares how she decided to dedicate herself to helping parents through teaching.     She also spent time laying the foundation of staying calm by teaching us the importance of respect.  Most people think of respect in relation to a parent/child relationship as children needing to respect their parent.  While this is true, it is just as important for a parent to respect the child. It is through modeling respect that children will learn HOW to respect.     “You do not want to teach your children that the way to gain respect is to lash out at people lower than you on the totem pole.”   5 coping strategies to help parents stay calm...even when they’re triggered: Don’t take it personal. “With parenting we have to check our ego at the door.  When we yell, we are taking it personally. It is a personal affront.  What’s actually happening is purely developmental.” Learn how to stay curious. Be consistent (have clear expectations). Walk away...especially if you are the one who’s triggered! Use time to your advantage. Change the don’ts into do’s. Stop the threats. Switch a negative into a positive. Wrap what you are saying carefully.   “The number 1 reinforcer for a child is parental attention.” THE FANTASTIC FOUR QUESTIONS: Favorite parenting book:  All of Dr. Glen Latham’s books.  Here are a few Ralphie mentioned:  “The Power of Positive Parenting”, “Parenting With Love”, “Christlike Parenting”. Favorite fictional book:  “Blackmoore” by Julianne Donaldson. Advice you wish you had been given before you had kids:  Remember that little things really are little things. Don’t sweat the small things.  Sit back and enjoy the chaos. Mom fail:  Listen in for an awesome story about a time Ralphie was distracted in a place and at a moment that turned out to be very unfortunate!   MOM SQUAD CHALLENGE   Look for the good in your child.  Change the ratio of positive to negative interactions with your child to an 8:1 ratio.  (Eight positive interactions for every 1 negative interaction). The most effective way to get rid of the “junk” in your childs behavior is to pay attention to the good.  If you pay attention to the good, statistics say that 80% of the junk will go away.   We want to thank Ralphie for spending time with us and sharing all of these insights!  You can find out more about Ralphie and listen to all of her parenting lessons on instagram @SimplyOnPurpose.

Today, I sit down with Ralphie Jacobs. She is the creator of one of my very favorite Instagram accounts, Simply on Purpose where she writes about positive parenting, family culture and living with purpose. She opens up with me about her thoughts on sibling rivalry, who inspires her, how to set clear boundaries, what she hopes her kids will learn from her and so much more. In our interview, she mentions the book: The Power of Positive Parenting by Glenn Latham. You can find her on Instagram @simplyonpurpose.  www.instagram.com/simplyonpurpose (https://www.instagram.com/simplyonpurpose/)

Today, I sit down with Ralphie Jacobs. She is the creator of one of my very favorite Instagram accounts, Simply on Purpose where she writes about positive parenting, family culture and living with purpose. She opens up with me about her thoughts on sibling rivalry, who inspires her, how to set clear boundaries, what she hopes her kids will learn from her and so much more. In our interview, she mentions the book: The Power of Positive Parenting by Glenn Latham. You can find her on Instagram @simplyonpurpose.  www.instagram.com/simplyonpurpose

How do we stay positive when we face incomprehensible trials? How do we endure well and allow our struggles to soften and strengthen us? And perhaps most importantly, how do we model this kind of resilience for our children? Today on the podcast, Ralphie Jacobs, the respected parenting expert from Simply on Purpose (https://www.instagram.com/simplyonpurpose/?hl=en) , talks about her heroic father who, as a father of nine children, was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis when Ralphie was five years old. He lost the ability to walk by the time Ralphie was ten, and he has endured MS for over 30 years. This interview is especially meaningful because Ralphie's father joins us on the call. Ralphie wanted him to hear her tribute to him and to add his own thoughts to the discussion--and it is a truly tender and touching conversation between a beloved father and "his girl." I felt honored to be apart of this sacred conversation, and I know you will feel the same after you listen. You will come away braver, more determined to stay positive, and completely inspired to invest in your children when they are young--so you can have rich relationships with them that last a lifetime. Show Notes on Ralphie Jacob's Podcast Episode:-Ralphie's Instagram account and teaching platform, Simply on Purpose: https://www.instagram.com/simplyonpurpose/?hl=en (https://www.instagram.com/simplyonpurpose/?hl=en) -Ralphie's interview on the Extraordinary Moms Podcast: https://extraordinarymomspodcast.com/ralphie/ (https://extraordinarymomspodcast.com/ralphie/) -Ralphie's first interview on 3 in 30, "How to Step Yelling at Your Kids": https://3in30podcast.com/yelling/ (https://3in30podcast.com/yelling/)

  If you need a dose of positive parenting, actionable parenting tips, and perspective, Ralphie is your gal. I'm going to her parenting workshop this Saturday, so she's been on my mind and I wanted you to easily find this episode if you haven't already listened. Enjoy! Show Notes: Follow Ralphie on Instagram Connect with Jessica: Instagram//Facebook//Email: jessica@extraordinarymomspodcast.com

If you feel like you face battle after battle with your child, this episode is for you! Lisa Andersen, a mother of four who is passionate about helping moms thrive, teaches us 3 power struggles we can opt out of. I'm not going to tell you ahead of time what the three battles are...so you'll have to listen! ;) Chime in and tell us your opinions and ideas in the comments on this post or on my Instagram account, @ https://www.instagram.com/3in30podcast/   Show Notes -Lisa Andersen's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thrivingmotherhood/ -Thriving Motherhood Conference: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/thriving-mothers-conference-express-session-tickets-44616612489 -Ep. 017 with Jody Moore: https://3in30podcast.com/ep-017-3-keys-happier-marriage-jody-moore-bold-new-mom/ -Ep. 004 with Ralphie Jacobs: https://3in30podcast.com/yelling/ -Ellen Satyr, Expert on Positive and Joyful Eating and Feeding: https://www.ellynsatterinstitute.org/ -Division of Responsibility with Eating: https://www.ellynsatterinstitute.org/how-to-feed/the-division-of-responsibility-in-feeding/ -Amy McCready, Positive Parenting Solutions (When-Then tactic): https://www.positiveparentingsolutions.com/      

“The prerequisite to all other parenting principles is to be in control of yourself as the parent. And this is the major struggle for parents. They feel like they are standing on the sidelines helpless, and their children are running rompus around them and all over them...But this can easily be changed. We should not feel like victims in our own households. We can find joy and delight in working in our own homes."Ralphie Jacobs is a mother to four girls, ages 3-14, and the founder of the popular Instagram account @simplyonpurpose (https://www.instagram.com/simplyonpurpose/) . Her account has experienced incredible growth from when it started just a year ago because so many mothers are thirsting for her wise, compassionate, and positive parenting advice. It was an honor to have her on the show, and in this episode she will teach us how to stop yelling at our kids by being in control of ourselves. But how do we do that, especially in the moment when anger is building? Ralphie explains how we must: Listen to the right story Use time to our advantage Model being happy Listen in as Ralphie and I dive into these principles a little more deeply and give practical advice of how to apply them in your home. As always, I would love to hear from you! Let me know in the comments which strategies stay with you the most and what works with your children. (https://3in30podcast.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/11/Quote-from-Ralphie.jpg) (https://3in30podcast.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/11/Another.jpg)  

Ever since discovering Ralphie of Simply on Purpose on Instagram, my parenting bucket has been so filled! She is an extraordinary mom of 4 little girls and her parenting tools and advice are spot on! She gives great tips and insights into things like sibling rivalry, controling your own emotions, tantrums, and much more. Today we're talking about all that and more and I guarantee you will be able to implement the ONE THING she says you can do today to change your family. Show Notes: Follow Ralphie on Instagram Connect with Jessica: Instagram//Facebook//Email: jessica@extraordinarymomspodcast.com  

"What it means “to grow” is to practice something—one thing really deliberately—and do it over and over again.  And then when you make a mistake, you look back and you close that loop really quickly by recognizing what went well and what didn’t go well, and then you practice it again."   Ralphie Jacobs admits that she was born with an innate love for children and a natural gift of caring for them.  But even she was surprised as a young mom by how her well-informed, highly educated patience could "vanish."     Recognizing this capacity in herself, Ralphie decided to deliberately change how she was parenting, to grow her skill set as a mother just as she would with any other talent, skill, or expertise that requires growth and practice.  Now, Ralphie is a parenting expert who passes on the incredible (and I'd say LIFE-CHANGING) things she has learned over the years about how to grow purposefully within your job as a parent.  And she makes it clear: the answers are actually quite simple.   Ralphie shares how she became a parenting expert, what it looks like to use the growth mindset as a parent, how to increase your knowledge of what's out there BUT also rely on your instinct, how to reinforce good behavior in your children as a way to rid them of the "junk behavior," and what is the number one thing she wants every parent to know. For your use, here are the four main jobs we have as a parent that I took away from my discussion with Ralphie: 1) Teaching 2) Modeling Happiness 3) Being Purposeful Through Reflection and Redirection 4) Looking for the Good in Your Children   Show Notes: Ralphie's Instagram, Facebook, and Resources  Books Recommended: No Drama Discipline, Simplicity Parenting, Boundaries, Parenting with Love and Logic Referenced podcast interview with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife Last week's episode with the founders of BRAVERY MAGAZINE  SURVEY!!!! (It takes less than a minute to fill out--thank you!) Monica's Facebook and Instagram Contact Monica Free Audiobook through Audible! (Affiliate link) More Podcasts from About Progress Song Credit: "Sweet Promise" by Nicolai Heidlas   Ralphie has a special message for you parents who are reallllly in the trenches with parenting, for one reason or another.  You will leave this podcast armed with tools--yes--but, even better, with hope.