Podcast appearances and mentions of david emerald

Send us a textFor much of my life, I've known that one of my most hated human characteristics is arrogance. So, imagine my surprise when I learned in recovery that I was arrogant. Recovery also helped me understand that I hated it because it was something in me that I didn't like. And you know what we say in recovery: you spot it, you got it, and often, if you're spotting something regularly in other people, it's because you have it and probably don't like it. This week's episode 312 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about the humbling truth behind my need to rescue and how I got out of it. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Recovery helped me realize that my desire to help others stemmed from the need for control and superiority. Pointing out the different types of arrogance: intellectual, moral, spiritual, and social. Strategies for overcoming the need to rescue or fix others (including some language to use when doing so). I encourage you to reflect on your own "helping" behaviors. Are you truly supporting others or subtly trying to control outcomes? Challenge yourself to approach relationships with genuine curiosity and respect for others' capabilities.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries*Know how to communicate directly with people*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful*Come closer to realizing your authentic identitySign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-callLINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Ep 176 What Is the Dreaded Drama Triangle and How to Get Out of ItDonna Zajonc and David Emerald can be found at the Center for the Empowerment DynamicCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaGet a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery 

Send us a textFor much of my life, I've known that one of my most hated human characteristics is arrogance. So, imagine my surprise when I learned in recovery that I was arrogant. Recovery also helped me understand that I hated it because it was something in me that I didn't like. And you know what we say in recovery: you spot it, you got it, and often, if you're spotting something regularly in other people, it's because you have it and probably don't like it. This week's episode 312 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about the humbling truth behind my need to rescue and how I got out of it. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Recovery helped me realize that my desire to help others stemmed from the need for control and superiority. Pointing out the different types of arrogance: intellectual, moral, spiritual, and social. Strategies for overcoming the need to rescue or fix others (including some language to use when doing so). I encourage you to reflect on your own "helping" behaviors. Are you truly supporting others or subtly trying to control outcomes? Challenge yourself to approach relationships with genuine curiosity and respect for others' capabilities.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries*Know how to communicate directly with people*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful*Come closer to realizing your authentic identitySign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-callLINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Ep 176 What Is the Dreaded Drama Triangle and How to Get Out of ItDonna Zajonc and David Emerald can be found at the Center for the Empowerment DynamicCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaGet a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery 

In Episode 10 of our special series, Quiet Enough to Ride, host Doug Simcox dives into The Empowerment Dynamic (TED)—a powerful mindset framework created by David Emerald that teaches us that there are 2 orientations to life that we can take: victim or creator.Doug shares a personal story about his friend and mentor David G., whose lessons in leadership, resilience, and self-awareness shaped Doug's approach to rodeo, business, and life. This episode unpacks how TED can help athletes, leaders, and competitors stay focused, adapt to challenges, and take control of their success.

Are you seeking a more creative and personalized learning experience for your child? If so, join Jim and Jamie as they dive deep into their journey of homeschooling their son, Alden. Discover how they've nurtured his curiosity, fostered his unique talents, and equipped him for life beyond the classroom. From personal development to financial literacy and strong relationships, learn the invaluable lessons they've gained along the way.      Key takeaways to listen for Benefits of tailoring education through homeschooling, road schooling, and specialized events Why it's vital to allow children to explore and dive deep into their interests How instilling financial literacy and fostering healthy relationships integral to your kid's success The value of real-world learning through mentorship and apprenticeships Powerful way to build your kid's character, responsibility, and a deeper appreciation for family values     Resources The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho | Paperback, Hardcover, and Kindle  Outwitting the Devil by Napoleon Hill | Paperback, Hardcover, and Kindle  Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki | Paperback and Kindle  The Richest Man in Babylon by George S. Clason | Paperback, Hardcover, and Kindle  The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens by Sean Covey | Paperback, Hardcover, and Kindle  The Power of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic) by David Emerald and Robert Lanphear | Paperback and Kindle  The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari by Robin Sharma | Paperback, Hardcover, and Kindle      Connect with Us To learn more about us, visit our website at www.18summers.com or email us at info@18summers.com. To get a copy of our book “The Family Board Meeting”, click here.   Subscribe to 18 Summers Podcast and leave a rating and written review!     Social Media Channels Facebook Group: 18 Summers LinkedIn: Jimmy Sheils Instagram: @18summerstribe

Have you ever been in a conflict with someone and came out feeling like a victim? Or do you find yourself in dysfunctional relationships where communication between each other is difficult? Whether at work or at home, you might find yourself trapped in the dreaded Karpman drama triangle. In psychology, it is used to describe a cycle where we can find ourselves in one of these 3 common roles the "victim," "persecutor" or "rescuer." In this episode, our guest David Emerald Womeldorff will dive into how you can learn to escape the Drama Triangle and feel more empowered in your communication and relationships. David's biography: Drawing on over 30 years of experience in in leadership development, leading through change, self-leadership, and employee engagement, David is the author of 2 best-selling books, The Power of TED (The Empowerment Dynamic), as well as 3 Vital Questions: Transforming Workplace Drama. Both of his books draw on his extensive experience in the field, and David also served for 20 years as a senior consultant for The Leadership Circle and as an Executive Coach at the University of Notre Dame's Executive Leadership Program. He shares his frameworks to inspires individuals and organisations to reach new levels of collaboration through empowering relationships and work from an outcome-focused and passion-powered orientation. In this episode, we dive deep into answering the following thorny questions:0:00 - Intro2:25 - How did David get started? 5:35 - What is the difference between victimization and victimhood? 8:00 - What is the karpman drama triangle? 9:55 - How can you break free of the drama triangle (The Empowerment Dynamic)? 13:00 - Why focusing on outcomes instead of which version of current reality is correct is key. 15:40 - What are the 3 vital questions to end workplace conflict? 18:45 - How can you shift from a reactive response to problems to a more empowering response instead? 24:35- What are the common causes of workplace drama? 26:00 - What are the 3 reactive strategies to challenges that are unhelpful? 29:20 - How can you stop yourself from being reactive to problems? 31:30 - How to create more positive relationship dynamics 34:07 - How do you develop leaders in the workplace 38:35 - What are the characteristics of high performing leaders? 42:50 - How to give constructive feedback from a growth mindset? 45:15 - What happens if the person receiving the feedback is being defensive 48:40 - How can individual employees create psychological safety in their workplace culture 52:10 - When is conflict at work unhealthy 55:00 - Are there generational differences to consider in workplace drama 56:55 - How can you effectively lead those who are neurodiverse 59:00 - What is David's one wellbeing practice?Learn more about David:https://www.linkedin.com/in/david-emerald-womeldorff-bab4494/Helpful resource:https://theempowermentdynamic.com/about/

Are you stuck in repetitive, unhelpful and even codependent patterns in your relationships? Well, you're not alone; this episode is about breaking that cycle. I'm diving into the intriguing world of the Drama Triangle, introduced by Stephen Karpman. This concept has been a game-changer for me, and I think it could be for you too!In this episode, we're exploring those all-too-familiar roles of Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer, and how they might be secretly running the show in your relationships. But here's the cool part: I'm also introducing you to the Empowerment Dynamic, a fantastic approach by David Emerald that flips the script and transforms these roles into something positive and, well, empowering!I'll share my own journey (spoiler alert: it's been quite a ride!) and give you some real, tangible ways to shift from feeling stuck to feeling in control. We'll talk about becoming a Creator in your life, embracing challenges, and coaching others (and yourself!) to find solutions that work. This video is not just theoretical; it's packed with actionable steps and reflection exercises to help you make meaningful changes in how you relate to others.Whether you're dealing with recurring conflicts or seeking to enhance your relationships, this video is a must-watch. You'll learn how to shift from being a passive participant in drama to an active creator of healthy, fulfilling relationships. Join me on this journey of self-discovery and relationship transformation.

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In today's episode, host Tyler Chisholm is joined by Jenn Lofgren, Managing Partner and Executive Leadership Coach at Incito Executive & Leadership Development. She is an expert at navigating the challenges of leadership in today's uncertain world. From overcoming distractions and fostering strong executive teams to the importance of making decisive decisions, this conversation is a goldmine for any aspiring leader. Join us as we explore the keys to long-term success and strategic leadership. Jenn suggests reading The Power of TED* by David Emerald to understand how to move from victim to creator in your life.This episode is sponsored by clearmotive marketing. When it comes to marketing that truly matters to your business, clearmotive is your go-to partner. With a proven track record of 15 years, they understand what makes your business tick. Learn more at https://www.clearmotive.ca and discover how clearmotive can help your marketing thrive.We're on social media! Follow us for episodes you might have missed and key insights on Western Canada directly on your feeds.Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/collisionsyycLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/collisions-yycWebsite: https://www.collisionsyyc.comThank you for tuning into Collisions YYC!Remember to subscribe and follow us on Spotify and Apple Podcasts so you never miss an episode.If you loved the episode, please leave us a 5-star review and share the show with your friends!We sincerely appreciate your support of our local podcast.Host links:Tyler's website: https://www.tylerchisholm.caTyler's Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/tylerchisholmTyler's LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tylerchisholmGuest links:Jenn Lofgren's LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.ca/in/jennlofgrenJenn Lofgren's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jenn.lofgrenJenn Lofgren's Twitter: https://twitter.com/jenn_lofgrenIncito's Website: https://www.incito.caIncito's LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/incitoleadershipCollisions YYC is a Tyler Chisholm original production // Brought to you by clearmotive marketing

Donna Zajonc has been a Master Certified Coach since 2013 and is the Director of Coaching for the Center for The Empowerment Dynamic. She is the author of, Who Do You Want To Be on the Way to What You Want: Coaching with The Empowerment Dynamic, which was published in March 2022.    Donna collaborated with David Emerald for 15 years to bring The Empowerment Dynamic to the global community, working together to create unique trainings and programs that have changed the lives of thousands. Each week Donna writes with David their TED* Works!®—their free Friday blog—sharing tips on how to shift from drama to empowerment. Over 500 coaches have completed the TED* for Coaches webinars Donna first launched in 2012. In 2017, Donna was honored by the Washington State International Coach Federation of the Year for the advancement of coaching excellence.  Connect with Donna Zajonc Website: https://theempowermentdynamic.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/donnazajonc/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/donna-zajonc-mcc-612455/ Books: https://www.amazon.com/Books-Donna-Zajonc/   Follow the BriteVibe podcast Instagram: @britevibesonly Facebook: @BriteVibe TikTok: @britevibe YouTube: @BriteVibe   00:11:39 - Personal Impact of Understanding the Drama Triangle 00:13:28 - Internal Dynamics of Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer Roles 00:15:33 - Positive Psychology and the Empowerment Dynamic 00:26:49 - The Inner Work and Roles Operating Inside Us 00:34:03 - The Importance of Self-Compassion 00:38:26 - The Opportunity to Shift and the Great Resignation 00:42:57 - Normalizing the Inner Critic and Self-Compassion    

In this episode, we talk with our special guest David Emerald about his powerful frameworks, self-leadership, and transforming organizations. David Emerald is a co-founder of the Bainbridge Leadership Center (Bainbridge Island, WA). He is the author of The Power of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic), a teaching story about Self Leadership, and has recently published his second book called 3 Vital Questions: Transforming Workplace Drama, a teaching story about workplace drama and its heavy costs to organizations. David shares the different elements of the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT)™, including the three roles—Victim, Rescuer, and Persecutor and The Empowerment Dynamic (TED), which provides an antidote to the toxic roles of the DDT. We also talk about the 3 Vital Questions that have helped countless individuals and teams engage in productive and powerful interaction to achieve desired outcomes. For full show notes and links, visit: https://www.missinglogic.com/new-podcast If you found value in this episode, please subscribe and leave us a review on Apple Podcasts! SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS: https://www.linkedin.com/company/missinglogic-llc https://www.facebook.com/missinglogicLLC https://twitter.com/MissingLogicLLC https://www.instagram.com/missinglogic_llc/

Episode #181 This week, Daisy shares a newsletter from Donna Zajonc and David Emerald at TED (The Empowerment Dynamic). Short and sweet, this is one of the newsletters that she reads every week and almost always finds something to relate to in that reading. She also has some exciting news about a new… you've guessed it…dog! https://theempowermentdynamic.com/faces-of-persecutor/ Please consider helping us make more episodes by supporting Daisy on Patreon. https://bit.ly/MondayMindsetPatreon If you have enjoyed listening to this episode, please leave us a review on iTunes or whichever platform you listen on. It really helps new people hear about the podcast. Connect with and follow us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube: https://bit.ly/MondayMindsetFB https://bit.ly/MondayMindsetIG https://bit.ly/MondayMindsetYT

 Today I wanted to offer some more reflections about trauma recovery. In my own life I used to persecute myself a lot. As Pete Walker in his book Complex PTSD says, we can often have a very strong inner critic. This was me. Today I share some of the teachings of David Emerald from his book, The Power of TED, The Empowerment Dynamic. A few months ago I recorded the first part about Victim to Creator: https://youtu.be/9b75WXHtyLs Today I share the second part. What is the persecutor? What is the challenger and how do we move from persecutor to challenger?I also talk about the work of Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette in King, Warrior, Magician, Lover. What is the Tyrant? I also spoke about the conference which will be happening this weekend in London with Joy Schaverien and Nick Duffell: https://www.bss-support.org.uk/final-call-for-conference-2023-registration/ Any questions please do let me know. Best regards, Piers #codependency #trauma #persecutor #tyrant #challenger #powerofted --- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

A dynamic world requires dynamic leaders. In this episode, Benj Miller chats with David Emerald Womeldorff about: 1. Updating Our Human Operating System 2. Making Decisions with a Seven-Generation Mindset 3. Finding More Time to Play Pickle Ball This episode is sponsored by The 261. Start your day with clarity! As leaders, we have countless things on our mind: things we need to do, things we're not doing, problems we need to solve, new exciting ideas––all jotted down in that worn out mental notebook we keep in our heads. But, sometimes leaders and entrepreneurs simply need to step away from the mental clutter––sometimes we don't need the notebook, we just need a sticky note––a simple reminder along the way to help us gain clarity and control of our business. That's why we created a new FREE resource called The 261. As you may know, there are 261 work days in the calendar year. So, we have mapped out the entire year with daily micro thoughts and micro actions––sticky notes––to help keep the ball moving forward in your personal life as a leader and for the sake of your business. If you want to start your day with clarity and receive a short, helpful thought to jumpstart your leadership, please go to The261.com and sign up! References: TheEmpowermentDynamic.com The Power of TED Three Vital Questions

Join Rev. DeeAnn as we launch our Spring Book Study, The Empowerment Dynamic by David Emerald and explore the Drama Triangle and how it impacts all of our relationships. "The Empowerment Dynamic" With Rev. DeeAnn Morency April 16th, 2023   Learn more about Unity In Marin at: https://unityinmarin.org/ Watch Unity In Marin content: https://www.youtube.com/c/UnityinMarinOfficial

If you're going through a divorce, you've likely fallen into what David Emerald Womeldorff calls the Dreaded Drama Triangle or DDT. But this framework keeps you and your ex focused on your problems rather than the outcomes you want. So, what is the antidote to the toxicity of DDT? How do you shift out of fear and reactivity into creativity and empowerment? David is the Creator-in-Chief of The Empowerment Dynamic and Cofounder of the Bainbridge Leadership Center. He is also the bestselling author many books, including The Power of TED: The Empowerment Dynamic. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, David joins Katherine to explain the concept of the Dreaded Drama Triangle, exploring how the traditional approach to divorce perpetuates the DDT. David describes why we fall into the roles of victim, persecutor or rescuer in divorce and challenges us to leverage The Empowerment Dynamic as an antidote to DDT. Listen in for David's insight on applying TED to the circumstances of divorce and learn how to disrupt the pattern of DDT with or without your ex's cooperation! Topics Covered The concept of the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) and how it works What differentiates victimhood from victimization How the traditional approach to divorce perpetuates the DDT Why we fall into our roles as victim, persecutor or rescuer in divorce How The Empowerment Dynamic (TED) serves as an antidote to the DDT The TED roles of creator, challenger and coach Why it's challenging to shift our focus from problems to outcomes David's insight on applying TED to the circumstances of divorce Disrupting the patten of DDT with or without your ex's cooperation Connect with David Emerald Womeldorff Center for the Empowerment Dynamic: https://theempowermentdynamic.com/#updates The Empowerment Dynamic on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theempowermentdynamic David on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/david-emerald-womeldorff-bab4494/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources The Power of TED: The Empowerment Dynamic by David Emerald: https://www.amazon.com/POWER-TED-EMPOWERMENT-DYNAMIC-Anniversary/dp/0996871802 The Karpman Drama Triangle: https://karpmandramatriangle.com/ Karen Horney's Interpersonal Theory of Adjustment: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34748442/ Oprah Interview with Adele: https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=432173685235996

Are you a leader who wants to cultivate an outcome mindset in your team?Shifting from a victim mentality to a creator mentality can be a turning point for you and your organization. By adopting an outcome-oriented mindset, individuals and companies can become more proactive, solution-focused, and resilient in the face of challenges.The Three Vital Questions framework offers a practical and powerful tool for cultivating this perspective, by encouraging individuals to focus on solutions, choose empowering beliefs, and take ownership of their actions and results.We've invited the mastermind of this approach, author David Emerald, to help you overcome drama and accelerate your potential. David is an experienced consultant, coach, speaker, and author of “The Power of TED*“. He has more than 30 years of experience in business consulting, facilitation, and training and has worked with The Leadership Circle and the Full Circle Group.Listen to this episode of Conversations at The Edge with David Emerald to discover the keys to developing an outcome-oriented mindset!

In this episode of The Optimistic American, Dr. Emily Bashah and Paul Johnson discuss ways employees can improve the quality of life at work and get their needs met.  They break down topics like ways to ask for a raise or a promotion, the rise of the victimhood mentality, and the 5 keys to becoming a superstar employee. Emily and Paul start the conversation by describing the difference between a public and a private-sector employer. Paul shares why professional services like doctors struggle with great product delivery. Emily and Paul talk about negative beliefs employees have and the problems they cause at the workplace. Do we actually have control over our own destiny? Paul believes we do, but most people leave it to their environment. For Emily, mentors and coaches are the most important people when launching careers or starting a business. Paul goes through the 3 main avenues for finding meaning in life. Paul and Emily agree that although we cannot control all situations in life, we can control how we think and, therefore, how we feel when tragedy strikes. According to Paul, we are all leaders - but high-quality leadership is learned and earned. To be an outstanding leader, Paul believes you must be a great follower first. Emily highlights the benefits of being a nice boss and a nice employee - and ways to prevent yourself from being too nice. What is the victim triangle, and how does the victim mindset impact a person's destiny? Paul and Emily discuss the worrying rise of the victimhood culture and why it's time we consider it a worldwide epidemic. Paul feels the best way to navigate problems is to first take responsibility and admit it's your fault - only then will you be able to fix it. Paul and Emily go through the 5 keys to becoming a superstar: Learn to listen - This is a hard skill to master because to listen, you have to ask questions. Know the vision - Know the vision of the company you work for and what they're trying to achieve. Know your value - Be very clear on your strengths, limitations, talents, and what you bring to the table. Know and deliver on your timelines - If you consistently deliver projects on time, you will be seen as a superstar. Expand your education - This is a key part to getting promotions and succeeding at work. According to Emily, the best way to treat your customers is the exact way you would treat your mother. When it comes to income disparities, Paul feels the question to ask yourself is whether it's better to bring down the people at the top and get rid of inequality or raise everybody up but increase the disparity.     Mentioned in This Episode: optamerican.com Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl POWER OF TED (THE EMPOWERMENT DYNAMIC) by David Emerald

Episode #132 This week, Daisy is back with the TED newsletter from Donna Zajonc and David Emerald. Two of them caught her eye for different reasons, but both could prove useful during the holiday season so tune in to find out more. You can sign up for the newsletter on the TED website: https://www.theempowermentdynamic.com/about/ You can find the previous episode about the Dreaded Drama Triangle here: https://youtu.be/ai0dFefdyps Please consider helping us make more episodes by supporting Daisy on Patreon. https://bit.ly/MondayMindsetPatreon If you have enjoyed listening to this episode, please leave us a review on iTunes or whichever platform you listen on. It really helps new people hear about the podcast. Connect with and follow us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube: https://bit.ly/MondayMindsetFB https://bit.ly/MondayMindsetIG https://bit.ly/MondayMindsetYT

In this episode, we focus on how to master your consciousness to create growth in your life. Switching from victim consciousness to master consciousness takes time, patience, and intentional energy and effort. If you're spending much of your life people-pleasing and now, deeply desire to connect back to yourself and honor yourself, this episode is for you. WHAT WE TALKED ABOUT The hierarchical structure of doing for someone else, whether in the corporate or academic space, can create victim consciousness. In Dr. Stephen Karpman's Drama Triangle, there's the victim, the villain, and the hero. All three characters represent victim consciousness. We, women, were taught to be nurturers, to be giving, to put ourselves last, and be the hero. What are we left with? No energy, no time for ourselves, and no opportunity to be in our full divinity and goddess energy. The villain is the one blaming other people and making someone's life hell because they, themselves, are in a hell state. The victim feels like a round peg in a square hole and unworthy. Victim consciousness is a collective issue of blaming other people and no one is taking responsibility for themselves. The Empowerment Triangle by David Emerald, on the other hand, shifts us from being a victim to a creator, a villain to an encourager, and a hero to a coach. Master consciousness or Christ consciousness is figuring out how you can transmute the bad energy to good energy and lift your energetic vibration. If we attract something that's unpleasant, we can make a choice to roll with this vibration or lift our vibration and shift the energy. We need to feel our emotions and what we're going through but we don't have to react. Tai Chi teaches us to come back to our zero point and figure out how we can encourage instead of blame. “Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.” Going from hero to coach means you don't just encourage but you also want to teach. As we teach, we grow; as we grow, others grow; and as others grow, we grow. When you evolve backward, you move away from God. Evolution is about getting closer and closer to God. Embodying master consciousness is getting closer to God. Money is not evil. It's a tool for exchange and communication. It's a language. What makes money evil is people's misuse and control of it. We are the new earth leaders who are able to utilize the technologies, tools, insights, and knowledge for good, for co-creating heaven on earth, and for co-creating opportunities for everyone to experience wealth. As we master our consciousness, we can connect deeper into realities. And, as we connect to these realities, we understand deeply who we are. Be a master of your consciousness and understand the trajectory of your life path. This connects us directly to Source and makes us experience abundance, wealth, and prosperity that we can share with our ancestors and starseeds. Let me know what your takeaway is on this episode by sending me an email at erin@erinpatten.com or DM me on Instagram or LinkedIn. Check out all The MetaBusiness Millennial episodes on iTunes, Overcast, Stitcher, Spotify, or my website at themetabusiness.world! Appreciate you subscribing, leaving a review, and sharing it with your friends. Much love and light, Erin "Master EL" Patten WANT MORE? Stay connected with simple solutions to level up your life + business. Receive your weekly Sol Full inspiration with MetaBusiness Letter. Which MetaBusiness Avatar Are You? Take this free 15-question quiz to find out now. Running around looking for answers only to get more confused and waste more time and money? In this masterclass, I'll be providing you with actionable information you can use to help get back into alignment and live your best life. Podcast Disclaimer: By accessing this Podcast, I acknowledge that the entire contents and design of this Podcast, are the property of The MetaBusiness World, or used by The MetaBusiness World with permission, and are protected under U.S. and international copyright and trademark laws. Except as otherwise provided herein, users of this Podcast may save and use information contained in the Podcast only for personal or other non-commercial, educational purposes. No other use, including, without limitation, reproduction, retransmission or editing, of this Podcast may be made without the prior written permission of The MetaBusiness World, which may be requested by contacting admin@themetabusiness.world. This podcast is for educational purposes only. The host and guests claims no responsibility to any person or entity for any liability, loss, or damage caused or alleged to be caused directly or indirectly as a result of the use, application, or interpretation of the information presented herein.

Episode #127 This week, Daisy is back with another newsletter from Donna Zajonc and David Emerald, creators of The Empowerment Dynamic. This week the title, The Rescuer's Dilemma, caught her eye as she is well aware that this is a tendency of hers she needs to work on!  Find out if this is a role you play out and some tips about how to become more of an empowered coach instead.  There's a quick refresh of the Dreaded Drama Triangle and The Empowerment Dynamic. You can read more about both of these, and sign up for the newsletter, on the website: https://www.theempowermentdynamic.com/about/ You can find the previous episode from just a few weeks ago here: https://youtu.be/ai0dFefdyps Please consider helping us make more episodes by supporting Daisy on Patreon. https://bit.ly/MondayMindsetPatreon If you have enjoyed listening to this episode, please leave us a review on iTunes or whichever platform you listen on. It really helps new people hear about the podcast. Connect with and follow us on Facebook, Instagram and YouTube: https://bit.ly/MondayMindsetFB https://bit.ly/MondayMindsetIG https://bit.ly/MondayMindsetYT

Let's be honest, drama in the workplace can sometimes be fun - who hasn't had a bit of a whinge about how hard done by they are, or jumped in to the rescue (cue blasting trumpets!) or even, perhaps, created a bit of drama themselves?!  Kate & Max discuss the roles played out in the drama triangle, how they can rotate and when drama might be a distraction to avoid the real issues that are too hard to address head on.  How do you notice the drama if you're in it?  And what can you choose to do about it - whether it's your drama or not?  Find out if it's you or them - or something else that's going on - and how to get out of the pattern in order for effective work to happen.Find out more about how to deal with the drama triangle  at theaccidentalmanager .  That's where you'll find the 5-minute noodles Drama Triangle, Conflict types and Boundaries - all of which help you to notice and disrupt unhelpful patterns in working relationships.  The book we mention in this episode are Eric Berne - Games People Play, and the models are the Drama Triangle by Stephen Karpman and the Empowerment Dynamic by David Emerald and Donna Zajonc.Join the chat at noodle.space and follow us for daily snippets to boost your day on Instagram @noodle_space.

In this episode, Ryan and Heidi explore the concept of both the victim and creator orientations from David Emerald's book The Power of TED (The Empowerment Dynamic).  Key Points Discussed:  Ryan shares about a time he recognized he was in a victim mindset Learn about the three roles within each of the orientations (Victim or Creator) and how to know where you are on the scale at any given moment  The Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT): Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer The Empowerment Dynamic (TED): Creator, Challenger, and Coach Connect with Us:  Join Our FREE Community! Website & Program: www.ihpcoaching.com/leaders Ryan Instagram: @coachryansawyer Heidi Instagram: @theheidisawyer IHP Instagram: @integrated.human.performance

On this episode of Beauty in Behavior we are going to talk about The Roles we play! Boundaries are how we get our needs met. It isn't about anyone else, it is about ourselves. Often we want people to change, to take care of our needs. When we think about boundaries as restrictions on other people that's why they feel so heavy and powerless. Boundaries are Empowering, we become the leader in our own life, the creator. Traditional model to see the contrast of our conditioning. The Traditional model is modeled on judgement. When the judgment is judged as good or right it is seen as right, when it is judged as not good or bad it is seen as wrong and we blame. We blame others for how we feel. There are not healthy boundaries in the traditional model. Upgrade Conscious - Intentional Model - Based in acceptance. Lean into it. This is what happening in this moment and this is how we move through it. Taking ownership instead of blaming. It leads to Encouragement!! Learning and growing though mistakes! It leads to connection in all parts of ourselves. When we are connected to ourselves we can make meaningful deep connections with others. Healthy boundaries are established an maintained in this model. Certain roles we put on ourselves. Inspired by David Emerald and Dr. Steve Karpman. Notice when you are playing these roles. Drama Roles - Victim, Persecutor, Rescuer Empowerment Roles - Creator, Challenger, Coach We need to practice these models on ourselves before we use them on others. My challenge for you is to when you become aware of the drama roles you are playing and see if you can shift to those empowerment roles. If you want to go deeper, become the leader of your life, book a call with me to talk about the possibilities. Diane Sorensen www.dianesorensen.net Instagram @beauty.in.behavior

Could you be a drama queen without even knowing it? Are you focusing on your problems or the outcomes you want? And how does playing the blame game kill your passion for life? In this encore episode, The Power of TED author David Emerald is here to talk about drama, victimhood, and how you can stop pointing fingers and empower yourself in any situation. In this interview: How knowing the Drama Triangle can change your life The difference between victimization and victimhood The key to creating passion in your life The simple way to create empowerment The small steps to a big vision When being a supportive friend doesn't help One thing you can do today to shift your mentality https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2022/07/david-emerald-power-ted You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://thenewmanpodcast.com Most men will let fear get the best of them. This book is not for most men. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It's a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is now available at DangerousBookstore.com. http://dangerousbookstore.com

Matt inteviews Donna ZaJonc about her new book titled: Who Do You Want To Be On The Way To What You Want?: Coaching With The Empowerment Dynamic. Deepen your creativity and strengthen your influence as a leader and coach. How do I, and my clients, learn from our reactive habits instead of pushing them away? Why do the same habits keep reappearing in the first place? How can my drama patterns show me the way to being the person I want to be? If you're familiar with David Emerald's teaching story, The Power of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic), you will recognize the main character in this audiobook: Sophia, the coach who walks with Ted and David. In this new story, we look in on Sophia many years later, after she has become an experienced professional coach. You will hear Sophia's internal dialogue, her doubts, and worries, as she learns to quiet her mind in service of coaching a head strong client. The coaching dialogue here reveals tools and methods intended to help you coach and empower yourself as well as others. We believe everyone deserves to be happy, but in today's world everywhere you turn there is division and negativity. At BriteVibe we have created a global movement to bring 8 million people together who are inspired to Live Brite, Live Bold and share BriteVibes. Alone it is hard to change, but together we can change the world. https://britevibe.com/

Lauren is the Founder and CEO of Golden Key Partnership, an award-winning and globally recognized boutique business consulting firm. Regarded as “The Business Doctor'' by her clients, Lauren specializes in helping business owners diagnose the root cause of team and operational challenges. She uses her 4D framework to help CEOs reclaim time and avoid burnout as they scale their businesses. Before founding Golden Key Partnership, Lauren served as a clinical research associate at Children's Hospital Colorado. Lauren joins us today to discuss diagnosing businesses and identifying the cause of burnout. She explains why she started her own business after working in the medical field. She differentiates players from worker bees and discusses how hiring more players for your team can help decrease spending and reduce burnout. Lauren also highlights why businesses need to get simpler as they grow and shares her advice on hiring the right team members for maximum impact.   “Think of your business as a body: the operations and teams are the neural network that connects to the spine of your business so all the systems communicate and move together.” - Lauren Goldstein   This week on The Model FA Podcast: Lauren's background, career path, and what led her to become “The Business Doctor” The Diagnostic Deep Dive test and how Lauren works with advisors and businesses A crucial mistake advisors and business owners make when hiring and expanding their team The difference between a player and a worker bee How business owners get burnt out even if they have a team Why businesses shouldn't be fully automated Using the Eisenhower matrix to lessen business burnout   Resources Mentioned: Book: The Power of TED by David Emerald   Our Favorite Quotes: “The amount of insight and advice you can receive from books, conferences, and podcasts is amazing. You can test if they work, then implement them to ultimately get paid.” - David DeCelle “As an entrepreneur, don't just look for staff members; look for entrepreneurial people who have a strategic mindset.” - David DeCelle “Get absolute clarity on who you need on your team to fill the gaps. When you have that clarity of the position and how it fits in, you can spend a lot less and get a whole lot more than you ever could.” - Lauren Goldstein   Connect with Lauren Goldstein: Golden Key Partnership The Biz Doctor Podcast Golden Key Partnership on LinkedIn Golden Key Partnership on Instagram Golden Key Partnership on Facebook Golden Key Partnership on Twitter Lauren Goldstein on LinkedIn Email: lauren@goldenkeypartnership.com   About the Model FA Podcast The Model FA podcast is a show for fiduciary financial advisors. In each episode, our host David DeCelle sits down with industry experts, strategic thinkers, and advisors to explore what it takes  to build a successful practice — and have an abundant life in the process. We believe in continuous learning, tactical advice, and strategies that work — no “gotchas” or BS. Join us to hear stories from successful financial advisors, get actionable ideas from experts, and re-discover your drive to build the practice of your dreams.    Did you like this conversation? Then leave us a rating and a review in whatever podcast player you use. We would love your feedback, and your ratings help us reach more advisors with ideas for growing their practices, attracting great clients, and achieving a better quality of life. While you are there, feel free to share your ideas about future podcast guests or topics you'd love to see covered.    Our Team: President of Model FA, David DeCelle   If you like this podcast, you will love our community! Join the Model FA Community on Facebook to connect with like-minded advisors and share the day-to-day challenges and wins of running a growing financial services firm.

Donna Zajonc, MCC is Director of Coaching and the Center for The Empowerment Dynamic. She applies the TED* work in her coaching, facilitating, and keynote speaking, supporting clients to create empowering relationships and organizations. Deeply curious about the inner workings of the human mind, Donna enthusiastically embraced professional coaching 20 years ago. Her new book, Who Do You Want To Be on the Way to What You Want: Coaching with The Empowerment Dynamic was published in March 2022. You may learn more about her new coaching course that will launch in May 2022. Donna has collaborated with her business partner, David Emerald for 15 years to bring The Empowerment Dynamic to the global community, working together to create unique trainings and programs that have changed the lives of thousands. Each week Donna and David co-author TED* Works! ® —their free Friday blog—sharing tips on how to shift from drama to empowerment. Deepen Your CREATIVITY and Strengthen Your INFLUENCE as a leader and coach. How do I, and my clients, learn from our reactive habits instead of pushing them away? Why do the same habits keep reappearing in the first place? How can my drama patterns show me the way to being the person I want to be? If you're familiar with David Emerald's teaching story, The Power of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic), you will recognize the main character in this book: Sophia, the coach who walks with Ted and David. In this new story, we look in on Sophia many years later, after she has become an experienced professional coach. You will hear Sophia's internal dialogue, her doubts, and worries, as she learns to quiet her mind in service of coaching a headstrong client. The coaching dialogue here reveals tools and methods intended to help you coach and empower yourself as well as others. NOTES: -More gun violence and tragedy in the US, processing the feelings, emotions, and thoughts around it -What we've become numb to through tv and media -Coaching and politics -Heart wisdom and sensing things at the moment -The drama triangle -The empowerment triangle -Being vs Doing -Cultivating compassion and the 3rd space -The global breakdown we are experiencing and how do we handle and process the tension we are all experiencing Business Name: Center for The Empowerment Dynamic Business Website: www.theempowermentdynamic.com Best Phone Number: 206 595 3456 Email Address: donna@powerofted.com LinkedIn Page/Profile: https://www.linkedin.com/in/donna-zajonc-mcc-612455/

Empowerment is one of those words that comes preloaded with all kinds of stereotypes and preconceived notions, yet with everything I share and each person I interview here on the Starting Over Stronger Podcast, I have ONE GOAL in mind – to EMPOWER you to stop believing lies so you can change your life. And the biggest lie any of us have ever believed is that we CAN'T change our lives! Tune in today to hear the simple brain switch you need to change anything and everything that doesn't serve you well in life.Today, I will share with you about a concept that totally changed my life. It's called TED—The Empowerment Dynamic by David Emerald.Support the show

“If we focus on goals alone, without being tethered into this beingness, [it] can activate and trigger us, and we see those goals as our persecutor…‘Was the goal big enough? Did I do it fast enough?' So the goal-setting can actually become a persecutor. And in our own mind, we feel victim to that.” – Donna Zajonc   Are your goals also your persecutor? Working toward a goal or vision is important - but how often do we pay as much attention to the person that we're being while in that pursuit, as the pursuit itself?   It's easy to get caught up in the goal without placing attention on who we are along the way. However, without tending to ourselves we can feel trapped by our own goals and wonder if we're living up to the standards we've set. Distress and reactive behaviors follow.   Donna Zajonc covers this topic in her new book, Who Do You Want to Be on the Way to What You Want.   Alongside her partner, David Emerald, they've developed a framework for recognizing and responding more intentionally when life throws us a curve ball. We learn to move out of the toxicity of the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT), and how to reorient ourselves with the The Empowerment Dynamic (TED).   We'll discuss her new book, along with 3 powerful practices for you to use to look inward, spur creativity and conquer stress.   Tangled up in your emotions? Notice and name [00:28:21] “When we notice and name something, we are now able to see it and hold it in our hand and go, ‘Oh, look at that.' We're not as enmeshed into it, so we're not subject to it. It's really a powerful psychodynamic thing that's going on, that allows us to have it and not be it…when we can do that, our body starts calming down.”   Stuck? Tell 3 stories [00:30:50] “When we're really stuck and attached to a particular point of view, we're constricted in our bodies, our minds are constricted - and we are totally lost to the creativity of any other possibility. So we literally must broaden our perspective. That's really hard to do when we're stuck in one perspective. The practice of the possibility of telling three stories [helps you realize] there's even more going on here than I realized.”   Create space and see what space creates [00:39:24] “[Leaders often feel they] need to be able to tell people more ideas about how to fix this or be that. And it's actually the opposite - to let go of needing to have the answers and to create a safe space for others to step into their genius, their creator, their sense of who do they want to be. … Let's take a timeout let's breathe, let's calm ourselves, and trust that our wisdom is going to rise if we can calm ourselves.”   Resources: Donna Zajonc donna@theempowermentdynamic.com, Who do You Want to Be on the Way to What You Want? https://bookshop.org/a/16835/9781733678100 Center for the Empowerment Dynamic:  https://www.theempowermentdynamic.com/ Link to coach training in May 2022:  https://www.theempowermentdynamic.com/coaching-2/ Episode 51 Focus 2022: From Surviving to Thriving with 3 Vital Questions (Replay from February 2020):  https://rise-leaders.com/podcast/ Rise Leaders YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKZAhRU1iLsXYwpvCECVreg To discuss executive coaching, leadership development program design, and workshop facilitation, please visit: https://rise-leaders.com/contact-info/

Within the span of a few months David Emerald's father passed away, and he was medically diagnosed with infertility leading to his marriage falling apart. He details his journey going from Victim to Creator in his book The Empowerment Dynamic; and how to use those lessons at work in his next book Three Vital Questions: Transforming Workplace Drama. In this episode we cover: David's story and an overview of the drama triangle How the drama triangle transforms into the empowerment triangle Why anxiety prevents people from escaping the drama triangle How to go from Victim to Creator Subscribe to my substack to never miss an episode. You can find more about David's work at https://www.theempowermentdynamic.com/

In this episode, we talk with David Emerald Womeldorff, celebrated creator of The Empowerment Dynamic framework for leaders! Tune in to learn about mindset, the difference between the problem and outcome orientations, and how to deal with anxiety.

Listen as three women who attended our most recent Rise & Shine Workshop for Women weigh in on the impact of learning the concepts of the Drama (victim) Triangle to the Empowerment (creator) Dynamic from David Emerald's book, The Power of TED (*The Empowerment Dynamic). You'll hear what alarms, husbands, cold weather, and dogs have in common, and you'll learn the role of gratitude and the one magic question that will help you move from victim to creator. 

In this episode, we talk with our special guest David Emerald about his powerful frameworks, self-leadership, and transforming organizations.David Emerald is a co-founder of the Bainbridge Leadership Center (Bainbridge Island, WA). He is the author of The Power of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic), a teaching story about Self Leadership, and has recently published his second book called 3 Vital Questions: Transforming Workplace Drama, a teaching story about workplace drama and its heavy costs to organizations.David shares the different elements of the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT)™, including the three roles—Victim, Rescuer, and Persecutor and The Empowerment Dynamic (TED), which provides an antidote to the toxic roles of the DDT.We also talk about the 3 Vital Questions that have helped countless individuals and teams engage in productive and powerful interaction to achieve desired outcomes.For full show notes and links, visit:https://www.missinglogic.com/new-podcastIf you found value in this episode, please subscribe and leave us a review on Apple Podcasts!Enrollment is open to our Self-Study Program, Caring for Others Without Neglecting YOU!This self-study program is specifically designed for healthcare leaders like you, so you can find a way to care for your team without neglecting you.Click Here NOW to learn more and enroll!SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS:https://www.linkedin.com/company/missinglogic-llchttps://www.facebook.com/missinglogicLLChttps://twitter.com/MissingLogicLLChttps://www.instagram.com/missinglogic_llc/

Welcome to the Coaching Studio. In this episode let's get to know Donna Zajonc, MCC. Donna is the Director of Coaching for the Center for the Empowerment Dynamic. Donna also has an upcoming book, Who Do You Want To Be On The Way To What You Want: Coaching with the Empowerment Dynamic. Her work comes out of her partnership with David Emerald and his book The Power of TED. Both books are useful to coaches in exploring the Karpman Drama Triangle. Let's explore our and our client's relationship with the Dreaded Drama Triangle and discover ways to get curious and become trigger intelligent.Discover more about Donna Zajonc.Podcast Website for Transcript, Links, and Guest InformationHost: Lyssa deHart, LICSW, MCCMusic: Frolic by Harrison AmerProduction Editing: Lyssa deHartSocial Media and Communications: Michele Logan

HAPPY NEW YEAR, FAMILY! I'm so excited to be back and unpack, and share knowledge as I learn. In this episode, we discuss shifting from the victim mindset to creator mindset - two dynamics presented in the book, The Power of TED by David Emerald. We go over setting goals, as this book is a perfect guide in doing so and facing life's circumstance. Pull up a seat at my table and let's learn together!! Instagram - @catchinup_chrissyFacebook - @catchinupwchrissy 

David Emerald is co-founder of the Bainbridge Leadership Center (Bainbridge Island, WA). As director of the center's Organizational Leadership and Self Leadership practice areas, David's passion is in supporting individuals, teams, and organizations in leading and working from an outcome-focused and passion-powered orientation. His principals and frameworks are based on his 30 years of study, observation and application of his lessons of collaboration with a wide range of individuals and organizations. Writing under the pen name of David Emerald, he is the author of the best-selling The Power of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic), a teaching story about Self Leadership. His latest book, entitled 3 Vital Questions: Transforming Workplace Drama, is an organizationally-focused teaching story, drawing on his his experience in leadership development, change leadership and employee engagement. David's books are sold worldwide.

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms - to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way.”  - Viktor Frankl Unlocking our freedom from within When we think of independence, we often think of it as an external event, like Juneteenth or the Fourth of July. But freedom and independence, including personal freedom, is actually a process and practice that requires ongoing effort. Internal freedom is our ability and willingness to live into our own creative potential. It's a mindset and comes from within. To achieve internal freedom, spend time reflecting on your values, motivations and authentic desires. Double-check that the dreams you're chasing are yours and not someone else's. We unlock greater personal power when we recognize self-limiting beliefs and behaviors that inhibit our internal freedom. The benefits are great: when we gain internal freedom, we live from a creative and empowered mindset.   What Internal Freedom looks like: [07:46]“It looks like creating visions for our own life and then taking steps toward those visions. We're honest and clear about what we want, not what someone else wants of us, or what we feel obligated to do.” “Using discretion and intention for where we place our focus and attention…Know where you want to spend your time and attention and create boundaries and practices so that you find that sweet spot.” How we hold ourselves captive: [12:35] “Complying, staying small, and not rocking the boat. Staying quiet in meetings and agreeing.” [14:47]“Not recognizing and valuing our own worth, expertise, contribution, impact - a feeling of not belonging.” For example, “'Everyone at my company has specific expertise…I run customer support so don't have much to contribute.'”  One way this belief impacts someone is in feeling unable to say no in an attempt to prove one's worth. Burnout and resentment follow. For further exploration: Journal Prompts for Freedom pdf https://mailchi.mp/rise-leaders/journal-prompts-for-freedom Rise Leaders Radio Episode #13 with David Emerald: Three Vital Questions for Transformative Results and #33 with Jerry Magar: Putting Your Values Into Action (www.rise-leaders.com/podcast) CliftonStrengths assessment Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl   Books by David Emerald:  The Power of TED* The Empowerment Dynamic + Three Vital Questions:Transforming Workplace Drama   Mastering Leadership by Robert J. Anderson and William A. Adams (socialized/self-authoring, creative/reactive)   Reboot:  Leadership and the Art of Growing Up by Jerry Colonna Cassandra Speaks: When Women are the Storytellers, the Human Story Changes by Elizabeth Lesser Owning Your Own Shadow by Robert A. Johnson Loving What Is by Byron Katie To discuss executive coaching, leadership development program design, and workshop facilitation, please visit: https://rise-leaders.com/contact-info/

Vær kreativ og skab dig selv. I denne episode taler vi om David Emerald's 'Empowerment Dynamic'. Denne model er en videreudvikling - eller måske mere et modstykke til Karpmans dramatrekant, fordi empowermentdynamikken giver en mere styrkende verdensopfattelse, fordi man bliver gjort til  skaber i eget liv. I episoden refererer vi til dramatrekanten som vi omtalte i episode 8 .Referencer: David Emerald: The Power of TED

In this episode, we explore David Emerald's The Power of Ted (affiliate link)*possible affiliate links below*Key points:Don't be a Victim, be a Creatorperfect reframing of our lives.To live  Above the LineWant to leave a review? Click here and if we earned a five star review from you **high fives and knuckles bumps**, we appreciate it greatly, thank you so much!powered by https://www.teammojoacademy.comBe sure to check out our very affordable Academy Review membership program at http:www.teammojoacademy.com/support

In last week's podcast, Chad and I (Brian) talked about the Empowerment Triangle, created by David Emerald. This framework had just been on Chad's mind lately, and it was a great topic for the two of us to talk through. Very helpful. To my surprise, as I looked at the podcast for this week, we set aside fifth Thursdays to feature interviews by Michael Cheuk for Christian Coaching Magazine. I honestly had no idea, but guess who Michael had recently interviewed? David Emerald, creator of the Empowerment Triangle. I think this counts as a "God thing". Also, as a note, if you're interested in subscribing to Christian Coaching Magazine, you can do so by going to christiancoachingmag.com and paying $15 per year, which not only gives you access to amazing articles on coaching but also helps to support Michael in bringing added value such as this interview.

Brian and Chad discuss Dr. David Emerald's work around the Empowerment Triangle. The victim can become the creator, the persecutor can become the challenger, and the rescuer can become the coach. This can be helpful model for clients.

It began with a personal epiphany that David had about 30 years ago. David experienced three life changing events that seemed to invite a bitter and frightening existence. He also experienced a miracle along the way. Encouraged by Donna, and a helpful group of trusted friends and colleagues, David put his experience to paper and published his first book titled The Power of TED*.  At the time, David and Donna had no idea how much this little book would make such a big impact in the lives of so many—at home; at work; and in many of their most important relationships.   IN THIS WEEK’S EPISODE you’ll meet David Emerald and Donna Zajonc, both of whom are dear friends that have provided a tremendous level of impact and influence in my life. David is a gifted author and educator. Donna is a master coach and skilled facilitator. Together, as co-creators, they are committed to making the world a better place, not just in their immediate circles, but for generations to come . Through their joint work, and a network of likeminded individuals, they are pledging their time and talents to help people see for themselves the possibilities found in EMPOWERMENT.   If the level of drama in your life is a bit out of control, and you find yourself seeking a new level of clarity and contribution, you’ll want to join us for a truly remarkable episode!   Join us!

Why Your Team Doesn’t Care: The 4 Ways You’re Crushing Your Culture Are your team members highly accountable? Do they have a “Thank God It’s Monday” attitude? Do they take tons of initiative? If not, you’ve likely got Crushed Culture. It’s a disease. And it’s going to become an epidemic if we don’t do something about it. Evidence: three companies I used to love now have Crushed Culture: Lenscrafters, Hilton hotels, and even at times (gasp) JetBlue. It’s spreading. According to the recent Gallup poll on employee engagement: “Seventy-one percent of American workers are ‘not engaged’ or ‘actively disengaged’ in their work, meaning they are emotionally disconnected from their workplaces and are less likely to be productive. This trend remained relatively stable throughout 2011.” What? This trend has remained relatively stable. Wow. Does this concern you? A lot? And don’t think Crushed Culture symptoms are in the rank and file alone. “Our team is full of order takers.” “Why do we have so little accountability around here?” “We’re going through a lot of change. Why don’t our people embrace it?” These are but a few of the most common complaints and concerns I often hear from the C Suite. And I’ve been listening for a long time—almost 30 years. Employee disengagement, or Crushed Culture, has spread to the C Suite too. Four Steps to Cure Crushed Culture: Step 1: Emotional Equity is greater than Financial Equity. We all know what financial equity is—money—stock, comp packages, golden handcuffs. All the things we think will make people loyal to a company and keep them engaged. But this no longer works, as Gallup proves, and especially with Millennials. Nope, they, like the rest of us, want to feel like we’re part of something bigger, like we’re on a glorious mission, like our work matters, like we’ll leave the world just a little better than we found it, and we want to achieve that (in part) during our work hours. Here’s the formula: Put energy into someone by explaining why your company is doing what it is doing, what your mission, vision, and values really mean, mentor them, talk challenges out with them, pay attention to them and you’ll start to build emotional equity. That equity will now give you access to their heart, mind, Rolodex, idle thought cycles. Now they’re thinking about how to help the company innovate better, solve a specific problem, etc. as they shower and commute and whatever. That access to a person’s additional resources will enable you to influence outcomes more effectively. Now you have a shared cause, you’re on the same team, you’re safe and you belong together. It’s emotional. Step 2: Stop The Whining. The C suite, management, staff, everyone needs to get off what I call the Tension Triangle. This is where people bounce from victim to rescuer to persecutor. Stephen Karpman, MD, first created this as the Dreaded Drama Triangle or DDT. The DDT is comprised of three roles: Victim (the role where someone is “doing” something to them), Rescuer (who tries to remove the Victim’s suffering, often without being asked), and Persecutor (which the Victim blames for their suffering, yet the Persecutor is often feeling victimized too). David Emerald has extended this triangle, and I have extended it further. The net-net is Victims are complaining because they want something—so we help them shift to be an Outcome Creator. The Rescuer is just trying to end the suffering, so we help them become an Insight Creator by asking the right questions so the Victim can get what they need by themselves. The Persecutor is usually frustrated by trying to make things happen, so we help them become an Action Creator. Once everyone is trained in shifting their most prevalent role to a healthy alternative, the whining ends. Now that’s empowerment. Victim becomes Outcome Creator Rescuer becomes Insight Creator Persecutor becomes Action Creator Step 3: Invest ONLY for ROI. Training your team is expensive. So only do what matters. Every person in your company needs to be trained in Problem to Outcome (to stop the Whining), Leadership Effectiveness (so they become leaders in their own right), Influencing Outcomes and Others, Accountability, Communication, and Execution. All these be neuroscience-based to get far more bang for your buck. This training will cost you about $750-1,000 per person. If your people aren’t worth that amount, then embrace Crushed Culture. Because that’s the risk we’re talking about. Step 4: Career Path—or Exit Strategy. Dave Peacock, President of Anheuser-Busch recently shared their refreshing approach to team member reviews. Each team member knows exactly where they stand based on the number plus letter they receive through their on-going review process. If you’re a 4A, you are such a corporate asset that your boss is obligated to promote you in a year. 4Bs must be promoted within 2 years. 3As need to be tested in a different role before they’re moved up. 3B means you’re in the right job at the right time. 2s are new in a position—it’s too early to judge. 1As are put on a recovery plan, 1Bs need to exit the company. We recommend to our clients that a team member should know their next 2 potential promotions, and what exactly they need to do to earn them. Are they loyal and engaged? Oh yes. So the harsh reality is that we, the leaders, created Crushed Culture. Now we need to fix it. Here is what I’ll do to help: Number 1) I’ll lay out the neuroscience processes you need to do to help cure your Crushed Culture in record time. Keep listening to this podcast so you don’t miss any. Number 2) I’ll give a 30-minute strategy session (gratis, of course) to 3 of you. We’ll work on curing your Crushed Culture. Go to my website, www.smarttribesinstitute.com to request a session. Together we'll cure Crushed Culture... one company at a time. Show Notes DDT (Dreaded Drama Triangle): http://www.karpmandramatriangle.com/pdf/thenewdramatriangles.pdf Tension to Empowerment chart SmartTribes Institute Strategy Session Request Form: https://smarttribesinstitute.com/strategy-session/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Optimize: https://optimize.me/ (← Get Free Stuff + Free 2-Week Trial!) Optimize Coach: https://optimize.me/coach (← Join 2,000+ Optimizers from 70+ Countries!) In this PN TV episode on David Emerald's "The Power of *TED," we'll explore DDT vs. The Empowerment Dynamic, Living from a Victim vs. a Creator Orientation, and the power of baby steps to handle the dynamic tension between our ideals and our current reality. Fun! :)

Optimize: https://optimize.me/ (← Get Free Stuff + Free 2-Week Trial!) Optimize Coach: https://optimize.me/coach (← Join 2,000+ Optimizers from 70+ Countries!) In this PN TV episode on David Emerald's "The Power of *TED," we'll explore DDT vs. The Empowerment Dynamic, Living from a Victim vs. a Creator Orientation, and the power of baby steps to handle the dynamic tension between our ideals and our current reality. Fun! :)

Hi there! This is my own personal book review/summary of David Emerald's book, “The Power of TED* The Empowerment Dynamic.” This book helps you make The Shift from The Dreaded Drama Triangle of Victim/Persecutor/Rescuer to Creator/Challenger/Coach. Enjoy!

In this episode, we take a deep dive into a truly wonderful and enlightening book by David Emerald - The Power of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic) - which explores a key shift in mindset.  This shift, from a "victim orientation" to a "creator orientation," is one of empowerment, confidence, and focus.  It lays out key steps and components to shifting our mindset away from "Everything is happening to me" to "I am in control of my destiny" - a key shift which DOES help us get to where we want to go in life!  Join us as we discuss these keys, as well as, real-world experience to apply this mindset shift to what's happening right now!

Le MorningNote Show : Épisode n°448 - Une solution au triangle de Karpman (Coulisses du lundi)Télécharger en un clic toutes mes MorningNotes et s'abonner à mes mails privés : http://bit.ly/Contacts-privesCet épisode est une vidéo où je filme mes notes, tu peux voir la vidéo sur youtube en cliquant ici : https://youtu.be/6WEw_zGMWh4Plusieurs points dans ce freestyle du lundi. On parle de régularité, de semaine de l'apprentissage, du triangle de Karman avec une solution associée (The Empowerment Dynamic de David Emerald), et on finit avec une belle inspiration de Mark Twain :)

This week I’m thrilled to speak with a woman whose work I’ve followed for years.Martha Beck, PhD, is a New York Times bestselling author, life coach, speaker, and holds three degrees from Harvard University. Oprah calls her “one of the smartest women I know.” Martha walked away from the religious Mormon community she was raised in, exposed her father, and wrote about the dark secrets and hypocrisy of the Mormon church in her book Leaving the Saints. She received backlash from the church, but in the process, found her true, whole self.In this episode, Martha and I discuss why the intellect is important, but a deeper connection to nature and with our own souls is what the world truly needs. You’ll learn how breaking away from cultural rules brings us into alignment with our true selves, and we become whole, healthy, connected individuals full of integrity. This is a beautiful conversation heroine, one of the top interviews in all my years of doing the show. Show Notes- Martha on being raised as Mormon royalty due to his father’s “scholarly” work.- Discovering the hypocrisy surrounding certain religious people, including her father.- The intense experience of leaving the church and, with that, her family, friends, and culture.- How she got the courage to confront the deep religious conditioning she grew up in.- The crossroads experience of her pregnancy with her Down’s syndrome boy, Adam.- Hear why Martha felt like she needed to unlearn everything that she was taught at Harvard.- Why caring for a fragile life is the most-needed skill in the world right now.- The restrictive good girl archetype as a socially constructed self for many women.- Distinguishing between the essential self that is natural and the social self that is cultural.- The split that happens when people believe things that are contrary to their essential self.- Understanding that finding and claiming your true nature does not come without opposition.- Withstanding backlash, the role of shame, and grieving the loss of cultural connection.- Why, for Martha, life coaching is such a powerful, necessary tool for society.- What the flip side of the Drama Triangle means for persecutors, victims, and rescuers.- How wayfinding can help us discover our deeper purpose and navigate through the chaos.- Find out how existing in alignment with your true nature brings you closer to the supernatural. - The magic of the written word when we write from a powerful connection to truth.ReferencesMartha Beck - https://marthabeck.com/Martha Beck on Twitter - https://twitter.com/marthabeck/Diana, Herself: An Allegory of Awakening - https://www.amazon.com/Diana-Herself-Awakening-Bewilderment-Chronicles/dp/1944264000Leaving the Saints: How I Lost the Mormons and Found My Faith USA Today - https://www.amazon.com/Leaving-Saints-Mormons-Found-Faith/dp/0307335992NPR - https://www.npr.org/Oprah - http://www.oprah.com/index.htmlEsther Perel - https://www.estherperel.com/David Emerald - https://powerofted.com/about-david/Stanford University - https://www.stanford.edu/Harvard University - https://www.harvard.edu/J.K. Rowling - https://www.jkrowling.com/

This week I’m thrilled to speak with a woman whose work I’ve followed for years.Martha Beck, PhD, is a New York Times bestselling author, life coach, speaker, and holds three degrees from Harvard University. Oprah calls her “one of the smartest women I know.” Martha walked away from the religious Mormon community she was raised in, exposed her father, and wrote about the dark secrets and hypocrisy of the Mormon church in her book Leaving the Saints. She received backlash from the church, but in the process, found her true, whole self.In this episode, Martha and I discuss why the intellect is important, but a deeper connection to nature and with our own souls is what the world truly needs. You’ll learn how breaking away from cultural rules brings us into alignment with our true selves, and we become whole, healthy, connected individuals full of integrity. This is a beautiful conversation heroine, one of the top interviews in all my years of doing the show. Show Notes- Martha on being raised as Mormon royalty due to his father’s “scholarly” work.- Discovering the hypocrisy surrounding certain religious people, including her father.- The intense experience of leaving the church and, with that, her family, friends, and culture.- How she got the courage to confront the deep religious conditioning she grew up in.- The crossroads experience of her pregnancy with her Down’s syndrome boy, Adam.- Hear why Martha felt like she needed to unlearn everything that she was taught at Harvard.- Why caring for a fragile life is the most-needed skill in the world right now.- The restrictive good girl archetype as a socially constructed self for many women.- Distinguishing between the essential self that is natural and the social self that is cultural.- The split that happens when people believe things that are contrary to their essential self.- Understanding that finding and claiming your true nature does not come without opposition.- Withstanding backlash, the role of shame, and grieving the loss of cultural connection.- Why, for Martha, life coaching is such a powerful, necessary tool for society.- What the flip side of the Drama Triangle means for persecutors, victims, and rescuers.- How wayfinding can help us discover our deeper purpose and navigate through the chaos.- Find out how existing in alignment with your true nature brings you closer to the supernatural. - The magic of the written word when we write from a powerful connection to truth.ReferencesMartha Beck - https://marthabeck.com/Martha Beck on Twitter - https://twitter.com/marthabeck/Diana, Herself: An Allegory of Awakening - https://www.amazon.com/Diana-Herself-Awakening-Bewilderment-Chronicles/dp/1944264000Leaving the Saints: How I Lost the Mormons and Found My Faith USA Today - https://www.amazon.com/Leaving-Saints-Mormons-Found-Faith/dp/0307335992NPR - https://www.npr.org/Oprah - http://www.oprah.com/index.htmlEsther Perel - https://www.estherperel.com/David Emerald - https://powerofted.com/about-david/Stanford University - https://www.stanford.edu/Harvard University - https://www.harvard.edu/J.K. Rowling - https://www.jkrowling.com/

This is the first episode of my podcast, Self-Defined Human. Let's see where we go from here.Stop being a Victim. Be a Creator instead. Learn about the Drama Triangle vs. the Empowerment Dynamic. Two radically different paradigms for viewing your role in the world.The Drama Triangle comes from Stephen Karpman.The Empowerment Dynamic is from David Emerald.TranscriptThe first episode is about the Drama Triangle and the Empowerment Dynamic. The drama triangle is invented by the psychologist Stephen Karpman, and the Empowerment Dynamic comes from David Emerald.Most of us look at life in terms of the drama triangle. every interaction you have with other people, you put yourself and other people into one of three roles.You're either the Victim, the Persecutor or the Rescuer. You could think of this like you’re either a Victim, a Villain, or Hero.We’re taught to do this. This is the way the culture is, this is the way we are. All the time. We take it for granted. We don’t even notice that we’re doing this. It’s a specific way of thinking about things. A specific way of structuring our reality. And we take it for granted.It’s not a good thing or bad thing. It’s just a thing. It’s just how we do it. the whole structure of our society is based on this concept. You have a Victim and yellow Persecutor, and the Persecutor is doing something bad to the Victim , and The Rescuer has to save the Victim from the Persecutor. We take it for granted.Everything we do. You go to school and this is how it is. All these Notions about fairness, about Justice, all these ideas are based on this concept that there are good guys and there are bad guys. There are Victims and there are Villains. And, either we are a Victim, or we are a Villain, or we need to rescue the Victims from the Villains.You may say, “well, obviously.” it seems so obvious that this is just how it has to be. Because, if someone is suffering, then it means that someone else has caused it. And, and if you can see that someone is causing it… what is the conclusion that you draw from this, when you see that somebody is suffering as a result of something that someone else did?The way that you link these two events together, it’s up to you. It’s not obvious. It’s not just a foregone conclusion that this is just how it’s going to be. It’s not.You think it is, right?Why do you do that? You have to ask yourself this. You have to take yourself to task here. Don’t just take this for granted. That’s a big mistake, come on. Huge mistake. Don’t take these things for granted.You know, you’re the one who’s responsible for this, You’re the one who’s telling the story.Nobody wants to be a Victim. Nobody wants to be called a Victim. If I call you a Victim, what happens? I become a Persecutor. Immediately. If I tell you that you’re letting someone else take advantage of you, if I tell you that you are the one who’s responsible, that you are the one who is responsible for your own suffering, you see me as a Persecutor.Why is that? Why don’t you want to hear that?I mean, I don’t like hearing that either. I don’t like hearing it. Nobody seems to like hearing this.Sometimes I’ll say something, and somebody else will think I’m saying that. Because, we know that it’s not good to be a Victim. We know that.But, why is that the story you’re telling? Why is the drama triangle the story that you’re telling? Why do you put everything into that framework, into that little triangle? Why? Why is that the way it has to be?You know, the way that you interpret events is that you take the things that happen, the things that you could observe objectively, and you string them together. You connect the dots and you make a story out of it. You find some interpretation on it.Your mind does this automatically. You don’t even know that you’re doing it. Most people don’t even think about this kind of thing. It just happens.This is how you’ve been conditioned. this is how you heard people talk around you. These are the stories you’ve heard, this is what you’ve seen on TV, this is the behavior that’s been modeled for you. Since you were a little kid, this is what has happened. These are the roles that people play, and these are the rules that people follow, that they have to follow. And, when something happens, these are the consequences that must follow.We blame people for things, when something bad happens. We say that it’s somebody’s fault. we say, they deserve something.I didn’t invent these words. I didn’t. Not me. You’re the one who invented these words. I didn’t. You. Not me.It has nothing to do with me, because I don’t speak that language. That’s my choice. But, you do, right?Why? Because you want to be a Rescuer? you obviously don’t want to be a Victim, but sometimes you’re forced to. If somebody does something to you. somebody says something to you that you don’t like.“Oh, no no no, Michael. It’s not that I don’t like it, it’s an offensive thing. It’s inherently offensive.”Yep. Uh huh.Inherently offensive.No, the problem is that you don’t like it. You. Why? Because it’s your preference. You would prefer that those things weren’t said to you.Yeah, okay. That’s not even true. You prefer that these things are said to you. That’s why you get so excited when somebody says it. When somebody offends you.You love that.Why? Because now you get to be The Rescuer, and now you get to save the world from that person, from that evildoer. you get to jump to the rescue. you want me to offend you. You’re just waiting for it. You’re just itching for it.That’s great.So, you want to be a Victim, and you want to be a Rescuer. But, you don’t want anybody to call you that. You don’t want to be called a Victim. Do you want to be called a Rescuer? I don’t know. You tell me. What about a Persecutor? Do you want to be called that? Do you want to be a Persecutor? of course not. Nobody wants to be a Persecutor. You see that as an evil thing. Right? When you’re a Persecutor, that means that you are bad. That means that you deserve punishment. You did something wrong,  because you made somebody else suffer. Think of all the ways that you spend all your day, that you spent all your time and energy, trying to avoid being the Persecutor. How much time do you spend on that?And when you do something accidentally that causes suffering, what happens? You beat yourself up about that, you feel guilty about that, you feel ashamed about that, you try to fix it. You’re spending all your time doing this, because you don’t want to be a Persecutor. That’s a bad thing too.Is this fun for you, to live your life that way? In that drama triangle?I doubt it very much.There’s an alternative. The alternative is the empowerment dynamic. This is invented by David emerald. You should check out this book he’s got, The Power of TED*.In the empowerment Dynamic, we’ve got three roles as well. We’ve got the Creator, the Challenger, and the Coach. Instead of the Victim, we’ve got the Creator. Instead of the Persecutor, we’ve got the Challenger. And instead of The Rescuer, we have the Coach. These are three roles which are much more productive.Because, you see, you are a creator. You are the creator of the universe. The whole universe. Everything. You may as well accept it, may as well own it, may as well claim it. “I am the Creator.  I am God “Does that offend you? of course it offends you. you don’t want to be a Creator.Why is that? Because creators have a lot of responsibility.Calling you a Creator, if you’re stuck in the drama triangle, is equivalent to calling you a Victim. now, I’m calling you to task and I’m asking you, “hey, why haven’t you been created? Why have you been spending all your time running away from Persecutors? Why has that been occupying all of your time? “when I call you a Creator, you’re forced to confront that. you’re forced to ask yourself, “hey, why haven’t I been  making the universe that I want to make? Why haven’t I been making the world into the world that I want to live in?”And because you’re stuck in the drama triangle, this is a horrible thing. It’s a horrible thing to be called out like that.See, I don’t see it that way. You know, sometimes I’m a Victim. You can call me a Victim, that’s okay. You can ask me, “hey Michael, why haven’t you been creating? “ yeah, I don’t know. Sometimes I’m lazy, sometimes I’m tired, sometimes I’m scared of something, sometimes I’m hungry.That’s fine. That’s fine for me, because when I notice that I’m in the drama triangle, I step outside of it. I don’t see myself as a Victim, I don’t see other people as Persecutors , and I don’t believe that anybody needs to be rescued. I don’t. The whole thing’s a game. I always think about Marshall Rosenberg, the founder of Nonviolent Communication, who says, “don’t do anything that isn’t play.”See, it’s not that serious. But, you want it to be so serious.Remember, when you were a kid, you created a lot. Kids are very creative. All day long, creating things. That’s how I was. I don’t need to give you examples, you know it’s true.But then, we become adults, and what happens?It’s not even when we’re adults.This happens, maybe 9 years old or so? We get fearful. We get really scared, and we see that the purpose of life is to follow rules and not break the rules. And not be in the wrong. To not be the ones who are to blame for anything, because we want to be right.So, we invent these religions where we learn how to be saved, Because we have this compulsive need to be in the right. We have to be the ones where the teacher can’t look at us And say, “You’re the one. You’re the one who broke the rule. You’re the one who needs to stay after class.  You’re the one who needs to clean up this mess, because you did it. you caused it. You’re responsible for all this pain and suffering.  And if you don’t fix it, there’s going to be consequences later on. There’s going to be consequences after you're dead.  you’re going to be stuck in eternal damnation, forever. That’s how bad it’s going to get.”That’s how future-fixated you are. you imagine this infinite future where you’re going to be suffering the whole time. That’s what it’s like for you, because you’re so obsessed with this idea that you need to follow the rules. That’s your thing, Because you don’t see it as a game. You see it as something that has dire consequences.See,  in a game, when the game’s over, game over. Put it away, go do something else, and come back to it when you want to play again. You know it’s just a game. that’s fine. No problem.But, when you make things serious, you can’t do that. You’re attached to it. You have to stay in it. You have to stay in the game, even after it’s over. When you die in the game, you’re dead in real life, so you better not let that happen. That’s how you look at it. Big mistake.So, you can be a Creator. Just be a Creator. You’re the one who gets to decide what happened.See, this changes everything. This changes how you look at everything else. A Victim doesn’t look at it that way. A Victim doesn’t have choices about what the Victim is going to create. A Victim is only responding to what happens. As a Victim, I need to keep everyone else at bay.The Victim is only concerned with maintaining stability. That’s it. The whole story the Victim tells is, “I was just trying to go about my business, just trying to do my own thing, just trying to relax, just trying to have a good time, and then you came along and messed everything up for me.”That’s the story the Victim tells. ” I was just doing nothing, and then you messed it up. “What’s so great about nothing? Why is that the story? Like, that’s the ideal state: “I’m just doing nothing I’m just minding my own business.”You’re going to be spending a lot of time after you’re dead doing nothing. See, this is the chance you have right here to do something. These few years, where you could potentially do something. But no, you’re just complaining about how no one’s letting you do nothing. I mean, come on, that’s ridiculous.You can do whatever you want.But now, you have some responsibility, because if you’re the Creator, you can’t look at other people as Persecutors. Or, as Rescuers. You can’t, because that doesn’t have any importance anymore. When you look at somebody as a Persecutor, that’s what they’re doing. They’re messing you up. But, you’re the one who’s deciding what happens, because you are the Creator. So, the Persecutor becomes the Challenger.The Persecutor becomes the task. That’s what you’re doing.You are confronting Challengers.See, there’s no Adventure otherwise. think of any great adventure story. Just imagine there were no obstacles on the path. What is that? It’s nothing. The only reason that the story means anything is because of the obstacles. if you just stay at home, you have nothing. There’s no story. You don’t grow, you don’t change, you don’t learn anything. The Challengers are good things. They’re good guys. They’re not bad guys. The Victim is the bad guy. The Victim is the one who says no, we’re not going to go on an adventure, we’re not going to learn, we’re not going to grow, we’re not going to change.And, it’s good to be a Challenger. You don’t want to be a Persecutor, because you don’t want to hurt other people. But, the Challenger doesn’t mind hurting other people, because the Challenger knows that by hurting other people that you’re helping them grow.They might not see it that way, because if they’re stuck in the drama triangle, they’re not going to appreciate that, but so what?You are a Creator. They are a Creator. When you’re in the empowerment Dynamic, you just see it that way.If they don’t want to be a creator, you don’t even hear it. You treat them as creators whether they know it or not. Whether they admit to it or not. You can’t have Rescuers either. No one needs to be rescued. See, the Challenger is a good guy. When the Creator is hurt by the Challenger, that’s a good thing. So, The Rescuer becomes the Coach.The Coach’s job is to help the Creator create. it’s not to save the Creator from anything. The creator doesn’t need to be saved. The Creator is God.You don’t need to save God from anything. You need to help God do God’s work. This is a public episode. 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Ask these 3 Powerful Questions... when facing change, feeling stuck or dealing with workplace drama.  They'll help you level up the results you get.Where are you placing your focus?How are you relating?What actions are you taking? Read extended show notes on Rise Leaders Radio websiteDavid has followed up his wildly popular and super sticky book, TED: The Empowerment Dynamic with 3 Vital Questions: Transforming Workplace Drama.  When we answer these questions and upshift our perspective, we become more resilient and more likely to create the results we desire. This just in:  David has won the Independent Press Award's Distinguished Favorites of 2020 for 3 Vital Questions!Energy Follows AttentionWe're built for survival.  Our default mode is to scan for danger and then react.  If we want to create a wonderful life and build great places to work, then we have to move past problem-solving.  We have to build habits that support designing futures rather than reacting to problems.  David Emerald's 3 Vital Questions takes our focus from a problem to an outcome orientation.Highlights from the InterviewThese excerpts have been edited for context.[07:10]  ...The first vital question is, Where are you putting your focus? The subtext to that is, are you focusing on problems, or are you focusing on outcomes? What informs that question is an organizing framework that I call FISBE. FISBE is an acronym that stands for Focus, Inner State and BEhavior. The idea is that what we focus on engages some emotional response. That inner state that then drives our behavior. [17:16] ...Vital Question Two is, How are you relating? How are you relating to others? How are you relating to your experience? And how are you relating to yourself? Are you relating in ways that produce, or perpetuate drama? Or are you relating in ways that empower others and yourself to be more resourceful, resilient and innovative?If our orientation is problem-focused, fear-based and reactive in nature, that creates the environment and the conditions for the Dreaded Drama Triangle, or DDT, which I'll explain in more detail in just a moment. I also want to say that if we can consciously choose to operate as much as possible out of that Outcome Orientation, where we're focused on what we care about, that our inner state is more passion-based and we're taking creative action, that creates the conditions for a different set of relationship roles and dynamics that we call TED or The Empowerment Dynamic.[31:29]: What actions are you taking? Are you merely reacting to the problems of the moment, or are you taking creative and generative action, including the solving of problems in service to outcomes? Dynamic tension informs the Third Vital Question.[32:42]: The three basic steps of dynamic tension are first and foremost,  focus on the outcome and to be as clear as we can on the outcome, that the outcome can sometimes be clear and concrete, other times it may be more vague and directional.Then the second step is to step back and tell the truth about, what's my current reality in relation to the outcome? That engages a tension between what we want and what we're currently experiencing.The third piece of dynamic tension is to then determine and take baby steps that move from our current reality toward our envisioned outcome. Baby steps to me are things that as an individual, or team, we can choose to do that tend to be short-term and in organizational terms. LeeAnn, it could be as simple as, ‘I need to have a conversation’, or ‘we need to go gather this information’. It's just whenever the next little step is, that’s going to help us move toward and/or get clearer about the outcome.More Links from this EpisodeDownload the Transcript 3 Vital Questions websiteThe Power of TED: The Empowerment Dynamic3 Vital Questions:Transforming Workplace DramaDavid EmeraldDonna ZajoncStephen Karpman's Drama TriangleBob AndersonThe Leadership Circle ProfileRobert Fritz:  Structural TensionStagenAfter listening to the interview and reading the notes, I wonder what your takeaway is?Thanks for tuning in!LeeAnn Your ratings and reviews on Apple Podcasts are greatly appreciated!  It only takes a minute!  

Today, I am going to share a three-step process to help you create an empowered mindset during this time of heightened anxiety and fear. Yes, we're going to talk about the Novel Coronavirus. And, we're going to talk about how we're feeling. This episode speaks to the mental health aspect of dealing with any stressful situation and provides a process that we can follow to move toward a more positive mindset. I want to provide this process, and I hope that you can take it and plug into it whatever is bothering, challenging, or irritating you and help you to find your way forward. We've got challenges, we've got fears, and we've got anxiety. But we also have opportunity and hope. It's all normal. We need to trust ourselves to know that we have what we need inside ourselves.    Show Highlights  The mindset predicts the exact outcome experienced. Being in a decisive and empowered mindset takes us out of being reactionary and into being proactive.  The process of creating a positive mindset and the power of reframing How to get clear on your real stress point(s) Designing steps toward a thoughtful solution   The Power of TED by David Emerald: https://amzn.to/2Jb0rV3   Contact Renee:   renee@reneemanning.com Instagram: @Biggest_small_things  Subscribe: https://mailchi.mp/939b8210f2f2/bst   *** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

David Berg is the President and Co-founder of Redirect Health, a company that uses a unique healthcare strategy to help businesses and associations attract and keep the employees and members they need. He's also my personal mentor for 8 years now and a chiropractor by profession. In this episode, we talked about a myriad of interesting topics from the common traits of successful people that he noticed over the years from mentoring, his experience meeting Tim Ferris and doing a cameo role in a Netflix Documentary, the book he required his employees to read, and how he extracts mastery out of people. Show notes [00:51] - David talks about the common traits of successful people [04:37] - David's method for talking to underperforming employees [13:07] - Redirect Health's core value of obsessing over the customer [16:18] - Many customers do not know what they want [21:10] - The Power Of TED by David Emerald and why he requires everyone on his team to read it [25:60] - David shares his experience meeting Tim Ferris [31:52] - The difference between expertise and mastery and how to extract mastery out of people [40:10] - David's shares a story of being an executive producer on the movie "Game Changer the Dan Sullivan Story" now available on Netflix & Amazon Prime [44:20] - About Redirect Heath Links To Social Media Linkedin Redirect Health Resources Mentioned The Power Of Ted The 4-Hour Chef

Why is that a person can check off every marker of success and remain completely unfulfilled? What is the difference between your zone of excellence and your zone of genius? Tune in to today’s Divine Downloads podcast with The Innate Coach, Traci Philips to find out! You will walk away with tools and a big dose of inspiration on how to begin to take radical responsibility for your life using The Empowerment Dynamic™ taught by the grandfather of leadership, David Emerald. My favorite takeaways from our conversation: Your supports are right under your nose-we tend to look for what we don’t have Supports aren’t always the way you want them to be, but they are what you need them to be The path to fulfillment is to live and lead from your Zone of Genius Every person plays an important role and an effective leader needs to know who they are and how they want to show up Learn more about Traci at www.theinnatecoach.com and follow her on: Facebook: www.facebook.com/TraciPhilipsTheInnateCoach Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/traciphilips LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/traci-philips-1b573429 Email at Traci@theinnatecoach.com Check out David Emerald’s Empowerment Dynamic™ https://powerofted.com/the-empowerment-triangle/ #leadership #consciousceo #mindset #innate #zoneofgenius #zoneofexcellence #manifest #solutionfocused #growthorientation #authenticlife #linguisticprofile #language #fulfillment

David Emerald is the author of The Power of Ted* (*The Empowerment Dynamic) and the co-founder of the Bainbridge Leadership Center. David is the creator of The Power of Ted* frameworks that are used around the world to facilitate teamwork and productivity. David works in close collaboration with his wife and business partner, Donna Zajonc, MCC and together they have developed the 3 Vital Questions™ frameworks and eLearning Course: 3 Vital Questions: Applying The Power of TED* to Life and Work. He is passionate about helping teams learn to shift out of drama and focus on outcomes they are excited about. David uplifts, enlightens and inspires individuals and groups to reach new levels of collaboration through empowering relationships.  In this episode we will explore the ideas of moving from the role of Victim to Creator.

Shannon and Marcia usher in a brand new season by celebrating failure in the best way: by covering the Netflix show, "Nailed It!" The Offertory:Shannon - Brick House in the City for Christmas Tees, Epiphany Gifts - Italy & discountsMarcia - The Power of TED by David Emerald, new planners (yay for 2020!), and Toni’s gold chef hat! (I should already own it as the best baker in my house!)Follow us on Instagram and Twitter: @psbbpodcast and email us: plaidskirtsandbasicblack@gmail.comMarcia's Instagram: @stylishlyciaShannon's Instagram: @teamquarterblackNext week: My Big Fat Greek Wedding

We are all aware of drama in the workplace, and the costs both economically and emotionally are staggering. My guest on this podcast author David Emerald speaks about his new book entitled ” 3-Vital Questions-Transforming Workplace Drama.” Enjoy this great interview!

How to reorientate yourself in a world so that it serves you.  This episode summarizes David Emerald's book: TED, The Empowerment Dynamic.  Welcome to the flip mode of Stephen Karpman’s Drama Triangle into a brand new dynamic. These alternatives are here to help you redefine how you show up in the world.  Instead of stressing about, "How did I land up in all this sh*t?" you'll celebrate with, "Look at all this fertilizer in which to grow the fruits of my labor!"  

In this episode we will explore the work of Dr. Stephen Karpman's work on the Drama Triangle and David Emerald's work on the opposite of that triangle. We explore how this context filter produces the outcomes and results of our life. In the end, we can shift our context and get more of the things we say we want in our lives.

I start off this episode with a few tips for circulating and freshening up the energy of your home. My own home’s energy was feeling stuck and stagnant after having the air conditioning on for several days. Opening windows Burning sage Turning on a fan Drumming Drawing an oracle card - See the Rhino Spirit card here! Next I share a resource for increasing your empowerment as you Purify. The Power of TED* by David Emerald is an amazing book that introduces a simple and powerful remedy for our victim-oriented thinking.  Moving from the victim role to the creator role helps us to shift our focus away from ‘problems’ to ‘visions and outcomes’. Focusing on problems tends to leave us feeling anxious and ineffective. Focusing on visions and outcomes generates passion and empowerment for what we’re creating. Tune in to the episode for more on the powerful ways that these shifts can positively impact your Purification process. Links: The Spirit Animal Oracle card deck by Colette Baron-Reid My Instagram Purification and Decluttering Guidance post on reclaiming your power Access to my webinar: 6 Myths Holding You Back From Finally Decluttering & Releasing the Past (Especially if your soul is calling you forward) Ready to empower your Purification process? Schedule your free 30-minute consultation call to explore how we can work together as you Purify Your Home. Until we connect again, keep on Purifying! P.S. Remember, the podcast will be on pause for the month of August! You can catch up on past episodes while I replenish my creative energy. :)

Guest David Emerald : David Emerald Womeldorff is the Creator-in-Chief of the 3 Vital Questions® leadership frameworks proven to powerfully boost teamwork and productivity. Thousands of people and organizations have achieved breakthroughs by applying his self-leadership techniques and attending his seminars worldwide. David and his wife and business partner Donna Zajonc (sajon) MCC have developed the frameworks that form the basis of the engaging workplace fable, 3 Vital Questions:Transforming Workplace Drama.   (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.)   In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins and David Emerald discuss:   Understanding the Drama Triangle and the three roles involved. The distinction between victimization and victimhood. Learning the Empowerment Dynamic and the three roles. The opposite of a victim position is a creator position. How telling a person that they are acting as a victim will trigger reactivity.   Within the Drama Triangle, we focus on the problem.  Within the Empowerment Dynamic, the focus is on the desired outcome.     Key Takeaways:   The three roles in the Drama Triangle are victim, challenger, and rescuer.   The antidote to the Drama Triangle roles is the Empowerment Dynamic roles, creator, persecutor, and helper. It’s natural to look at a problem and try to solve the problem. When the intention and the focus on the issue, it can spin us into this very hopeless, not empowered, lack of control place. The way we can escape the drama triangle is by shifting our focus to what we want to experience. For example,“What is it that we really want?”     "A problem is rarely ever solved from within the victim orientation." —  David Emerald       If you have a topic you would like me to discuss; please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you!      If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.     Referenced Episodes:    156 What Happens When You Feel Like A Victim In Relationship 157 How to Shift Out of The Victim Position   Links Mentioned: Power of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic): 10th Anniversary Edition (book) 3 Vital Questions (website) Power of Ted (website) Power of Ted Workshop   Connect with David Emerald:   Twitter: @powerofted Facebook: David Emerald The Power of TED Website: powerofted.com & 3vitalquestions.com Pinterest: pinterest.com/powerofted YouTube: The Power of TED LinkedIn: linkedin.com/company   Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins:   Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com  

Introduction: David Emerald and Donna Zajonc are a husband and wife team and also business partners & founders of the Bainbridge Leadership Center. David is the author of the best selling book The Power of Ted and has recently published his second book called 3 vital questions, transforming workplace drama. Donna is a Master Certified Coach and together they teach, facilitate and speak to the power of TED and the 3 Vital Questions framework to transform workplace drama.  Podcast episode summary: This episode describes what it means to be human and how we succumb to drama.  Stephen Karpman described a social model of human interaction called the drama triangle. As humans in reaction to problems we often jump onto the drama triangle and assume one of three roles, the Victim, Persecutor or Rescuer. The antidote is another triangle, called The Empowerment Dynamic or TED, which speaks to our inherent capacity to be creative. Three roles comprise TED, the Creator, Challenger and Coach. David's next book Three Vital Questions is set in an organisational context and speaks to how we are thinking, relating and acting in our business, often informed by our way of being in our personal lives. TED can be described as a self-Leadership book and the 3 Vital Questions an answer to our Leadership and teamwork choices in work. David and Donna share the auspices of their books, the motivation behind the writing and share what each involves through the course of this episode. Each book is a very digestible fable that perhaps masks the inherent complexity and nuances behind the material. This is not a Pollyanna type answer to drama but a conscious consciousness and call for us to wake up to our patterns and begin to exercise choice.  Donna and David liken themselves to translators condensing complex human conditions into digestible and applicable frameworks David started by sharing our very essence is as creators. We have the capacity to be in choice about the outcomes we want, to think about how we are thinking and to raise our awareness about how we are relating to others and ourselves. We then create by taking baby steps.  The core of what David and Donna teach is shifting from a set of relations/roles and dynamic in the dreaded drama triangle or DDT for short when we are in the dance of Victim, Persecutor and Rescuer to a more empowering set of relations/roles or dynamic called TED.  In order to develop our inherent capacity as creators we can cultivate the antidote roles of Creator, Challenger and Coach called TED.  We have an internal DDT triangle and TED available to us as well as these roles in relation to others.  A good start is to self diagnose how we relate to ourselves and then learn to pause, stop and allow for the whisperer creator to emerge.  Do not be numb or seduced by the inherent simplicity of the models they belie a lot of unconscious unravelling and neurological wiring. The roles are dynamic but the triangles serve to depict a static depiction of dynamic reality. Once we can notice we have the capacity to shift and alter our operational models.  These roles can be enacted by organisations in the culture they create, between sub-groups or functions and of course on teams as well.  Donna shared a story of a team who once they understood the DDT and the choice to pursue TED they were able to first change the language on their website that was predominantly problem focused.  The work moving from DDT to TED is not simplistic or “Pollyannaesque” The work is often beset with problems. The trick is to first outline what outcome/purpose/mission the team wants to achieve and then enumerate the problems to be encountered in service of an outcome Problem-solving is still part of the work but the difference is we are not reacting to problems coming at us.  The important role of Coach on TED. People are very able to tell you what they don't want but less able to articulate what they desire or really want. A Leader or leader as a coach can learn to help people get on the balcony and not be subject to persistent reactivity.  Two different mindsets are explored in TED and 3 Vital Questions. The first is in a continuum of focus on problems. The second is an orientation towards outcomes supported by facilitation and enquiry to get at the creator essence in all of us.  Not an easy step for many Leaders to become leaders as coaches, especially when we have been brought up in organisations were expertise is prised.  3 Vital questions are shared in a fable. 3 questions are supported by a subtext of questions to bring the TED framework to life.  1st Question: Where are you putting your focus? The subtext is whether your focus is on problems that evoke an inner state of anxiety or whether you are tapping into your passion and care that is outcome oriented.  2nd Question: How are you relating, which speaks to David's first book TED. Are you relating from a problem mindset or an outcome mindset and from the archetype roles, which accompany, Victim, Persecutor and Rescuer or Creator, Challenger and Coach.  3rd Question: What actions are you taking with the subtext of in the moment problems or creative and generative actions in service of a bigger purpose.  The work in teams and in organisational life is about awakening our inner observer.  We have to be mindful that regression is part of the work-the question why can't we do this all of the time requires compassion and an understanding that we are fallible human beings.  Our neurology is organised in such a fashion that we are wired, not hard-wired, to keep ourselves safe. This explains why the DDT is live in all of us.  Our work is to upgrade our human operating system It is also worthy to note that the DDT roles are not always bad or unhelpful sometimes they are needed but the idea is not to stay in them.  Conscious consciousness is required along with practice.    Quotable Quotes: “We are always at a point of choice” “Our essence is as Creators” “When we pause, stop and breath, the whisper of Creator, Challenger and Coach can rise” “Value of model of DDT and TED is static depiction of a dynamic reality”  “Get to the balcony and not in subject to persistent reactivity” “Compassion is fuel for upgrading our Neurology”    Resources: the following includes the resources we alluded to over the course of our conversation   The Power of Ted, https://powerofted.com/,  3 Vital Questions, https://3vitalquestions.com Subscribe to Free Friday Newsletter on both websites Books available in Print through Amazon, Audible and as an e-book on Kindle also on Amazon

Los roles que asumimos y le asignamos a los demás, tienen un impacto profundo en nuestras relaciones; debemos elegir entre ser víctimas o creadores. Esta idea sobre Relaciones Remarcables fue destilada de "The Power of TED" de David Emerald. Este libro nos muestra cómo retomar el control de nuestra vida enseñándonos la dinámica de empoderamiento a través de una fábula autobiográfica. Recomendamos todas las ideas de este libro a las personas que deseen dejar de ser la víctima en los dramas de su vida y a líderes con la responsabilidad de cultivar relaciones positivas y enriquecedoras con su equipo. Algo útil para dialogar: Si pudieras elegir ¿qué rol le asignarías a las personas a tu alrededor? ¿qué rol asumirías tú con los demás? ¿Te sirvió esta idea? Propágala para que más personas descubran de dónde vienen las buenas ideas. Suscríbete en ideasinfalibles.com o visita ideasinfalibles.com/premium para conseguir resúmenes completos.

In the last episode, I discussed the destructive nature of the drama triangle. When faced with conflict, we may quickly see the roles of the persecutor, victim, and rescuer emerge. Although the information isn’t specifically directed to a couple, it can help rid of the victim mentality in relationships. If you missed the previous episode, I encourage you to listen to it before listening to this episode. Listen to episode 156. A QUICK RECAP OF THE DRAMA TRIANGLE: Victim: Feels helpless, hopeless, and downtrodden. “Poor me.” (death of a dream) Persecutor: Behaves in domineering ways and attempts to have power over others. Fears loss of control. Usually a former victim. Rescuer: Attempts to help others and tends to take over-responsibility. “Poor you.” I want you to need me, so that I feel more valuable. Today, we are going to explore how to get out of the victim position by helping you identify places where you may be getting stuck and how to get free and empowered. This will help people get out of the victim mentality in relationships. Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear stories, explanations, and examples. This episode was inspired by and references material from The Power of TED, by David Emerald. THE VICTIM ORIENTATION “The victim orientation is the approach that most human beings take toward their experience, by default. You spend a lot of time searching for solutions to problems.” by David Emerald, The Power of TED An orientation is a mental standpoint that determines your focus and direction…direction of thought or inclination. Anticipating victimhood impacts your perspective and beliefs. A victim orientation perpetuates the cycle. Below are some examples of what people feel and believe- when taking on a victim mentality in relationships: He doesn’t care. She never cares about what I want. He never listens. She is constantly on me. I am never good enough. He doesn’t engage. She doesn’t respect me. “You’re always looking outside yourself to the people and circumstances of life, for a sense of safety, security, and sanity.” by David Emerald, The Power of TED Focus – Inner State – Being THE VICTIM CYCLE “The anxiety you feel comes from your way of focusing on the problem.” by David Emerald, The Power of TED Problem – Anxiety – Reaction When we focus on the problem, we are going to have an emotional response (i.e. feeling sad, hurt, angry). Focusing on the problem creates an inner state of anxiety (mild discomfort to terror). Your inner state motivates you to act in a certain way. For example, anxiety, whether mild or intense gives you energy for action and sparks your behavior. Reaction helps reduce anxiety and the problem intensity in the short-term. However, when anxiety goes down, so does the impulse to react. Emerald says the mistaken when in the victim position, as we think the problem causes our reaction. However, if we look at the sequence within the cycle, it is actually the anxiety that causes the reaction. “A problem is rarely if ever solved from within the victim orientation.” by David Emerald, The Power of TED HOW TO SHIFT OUT OF THE VICTIM POSITION “Things get better and you relax and stop reacting to the problem.” by David Emerald, The Power of TED Vision/Outcome – Passion – Baby Steps Focus on solution, vision, goal, or dream. Putting your attention on what you want to create. When you focus on what you are passionate about and what matters to you, you will have an inner sensation of purpose, excitement, hope and possibility. This inner state will help you take positive and constructive action to towards your vision. As you achieve progress in the direction of your goals, you will feel empowered and like a creator. Excerpt from The Big Leap, by Gay Hendricks. “Projection is the source of power struggles that eat up energy and intimacy in relationships. Power struggles are a war between two people tp see whose version of reality will win out. Much of the energy in troubles relationships is drained through power struggles about who’s right, who’s wrong, and who’s the biggest victim. Relationship – healthy ones that is – exist only between equals. When both people are not taking 100 percent responsibility, it is an entanglement, not a relationship. There is only one way to transform an entanglement into a relationship: both people must drop projection and see that they are 100 percent the creators of their reality.” By Gay Hendricks MENTIONED: ERP 156: What Happens When You Feel Like A Victim In Relationship (podcast) POWER OF TED* (*THE EMPOWERMENT DYNAMIC) (book) The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level (book) Photo by Vladislav Babienko on Unsplash TRANSCRIPT: Click on this link to access the transcript for this episode: 157: HOW TO SHIFT OUT OF THE VICTIM POSITION [TRANSCRIPT] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please reach out to me. Here is my contact information. Thank you so much for your interest in ending the victim mentality in relationships. Identifying the symptoms of victim mentality in relationships help couples improve and understand each other to connect rather that neglect the feelings of each other. I would really appreciate your honest rating and review. 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TOPIC: SYMPTOMS OF VICTIM MENTALITY IN RELATIONSHIPS FEELING LIKE A VICTIM IN RELATIONSHIP IS AN AWFUL FEELING In relationship, we want and need to feel safe, loved, and valued. When difficult things happen, it can be extremely painful. Sometimes, it is a condition or circumstance that is challenging (like a health issue, family crisis, natural disaster, etc). But when our partner behaves badly or unskillful, it can be heartbreaking. When awful things happen, it is natural to feel the hardship, pain, and injury, and it is incredible important to attend your experience. RESOURCES If you are experiencing immediate hardship and crisis, it might be helpful to check out some of the previous podcast episodes: How to handle Grief and loss in relationship – Part One How to handle Grief and loss in relationship – Part Two How to Repair a Breach of Trust in Relationship How to Deal with the Effects of Trauma in Relationship with Dr. Janina Fisher How to Get Relational Support When Dealing with Illness & Chronic Pain with Dr. Jackie Black How to Identify Manipulative & Emotionally Abusive Relationships with Paul Colaianni In the podcasts about how we deal with pain, I addressed the fact that the way in which we handle pain contributes to greater levels of suffering (i.e. when we resist pain, anticipate, ruminate, and protest against pain). THE DRAMA TRIANGLE In this episode, I am going to address how we unknowingly get stuck in a destructive dynamic – The Drama Triangle. The drama triangle is a social model of human interaction that can occur between people in conflict, which was developed by Stephen Karpman, M.D. This common relationship dynamic perpetuates pain and suffering, and keeps us stuck in endless cycles of difficulty. The problematic interaction and can occur in any type of relationship, where there is struggle (i.e. spouse, partner, family member, friend, colleague, etc). Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear stories, explanations, and examples. Concepts for today’s episode are referenced from Connected Couple and The Power of Ted, by David Emerald. When exploring The Drama Triangle, you may notice you can occupy all positions at various point. Or you may notice a stronger tendency to take a particular role. THE VICTIM Helpless and hopeless Collapsed and powerless Doesn’t advocate for self Poor me “Victims may be defensive, submissive, over-accommodating to others, passive-aggressive in conflict, dependent on others for self-worth, overly sensitive, even manipulative. They’re often angry, resentful, and envious, feeling unworthy or ashamed about their circumstances.” By David Emerald, The Power of TED “Death of a dream: All victims have experience a loss – a thwarted desire or aspiration – even if they’re not aware of it.” By David Emerald, The Power of TED THE VILLAIN OR PERSECUTOR Often times a person, but sometimes it is a circumstance or condition. Aggressive, domineering, and judgmental. Uses blame, criticism, and or oppression. Persecutors were almost always former victims. “I will never be the victim again.” Fear of loss of control THE HERO OR THE RESCUER Overly helpful and overextends (usually with good intentions) Feels responsible for others Poor you Intrapersonally, we might engage in behaviors that rescue ourselves from painful feelings (i.e. substance use, alcohol, sugar, computer gaming, watching tv, shopping, overeating, etc.) Fear of loss of purpose When couples seek support in the way of coaching or therapy, often times they are looking for the helping professional to validate their experience. However, it is often done through the way of the victim position. “Arguments are caused by two people racing to occupy the victim position (why are you doing this to me?) and then tries to get person B to agree with that assessment. In other words, person B has to agree that he or she is the persecutor. Therein lies the problem. It’s almost impossible to get the other guys to agree that it’s his fault.” By Gay Hendricks in The Big Leap In the next episode, I will discuss how to shift out of The Drama Triangle. MENTIONED: ERP 135: How to handle Grief and loss in relationship – Part One (podcast) ERP 136: How to handle Grief and loss in relationship – Part Two (podcast) ERP 153: How to Repair a Breach of Trust in Relationship (podcast) ERP 148: How to Deal with the Effects of Trauma in Relationship with Dr. Janina Fisher (podcast) ERP 154: How to Get Relational Support When Dealing with Illness & Chronic Pain with Dr. Jackie Black (podcast) ERP 113: How to Identify Manipulative & Emotionally Abusive Relationships with Paul Colaianni (podcast) ERP 140: How Pain and Suffering Increase & What to Do about It (podcast) ERP 141: How To Decrease Relationship Pain and Suffering (podcast) POWER OF TED* (*THE EMPOWERMENT DYNAMIC) (book) The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level (book) Connected Couple (program) Wild Quest (website) Photo by Alex Iby on Unsplash TRANSCRIPT: Click on this link to access the transcript for this episode: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please reach out to me. 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I'm excited to speak with Rebecca Horton, a designer, coach, and long-time colleague and friend. In our conversation, we'll talk about how to coach and lead design teams, some design thinking methods she has found valuable, and how design thinking and coaching converge. Rebecca has always been interested in design, but believed as she grew up that you had to pick a discipline within design (such as being an interior designer, graphic designer, or fashion designer). In her early teenage years, she was fascinated by fashion design, and was captivated by runway shows on TV. She later went to college for political science and public policy because it was practical and pragmatic, and picking a specific design discipline didn't appeal to her. After college, she discovered the design thinking field, which had the language to explain what she had been craving, and doesn't force you to choose between disciplines. She returned to school, started her own practice, and worked in the corporate design world. In our conversation, Rebecca will dig into a specific example of an instance in which things didn't go according to plan, which ended up being exactly the turning point that made her work so successful. She'll also explain how she was able to maneuver and adjust to create this positive outcome from unexpected circumstances, and explore the controversy surrounding customer personas. As you listen, you'll also hear powerful advice that you can apply to your own work and methods. For example, Rebecca advises clients to “welcome the stranger,” meaning that instead of telling someone unexpected to leave, invite them in and use the opportunity to understand why they might be there. Tune in to hear more about all of this, as well as Rebecca's thoughts on blueprints, customer journey maps, and much more. Learn More About Today's Guest Rebecca Horton Rebecca Horton on LinkedIn In This Episode [01:11] — Rebecca digs into how she got into design, what her early training was like, and how she got to where she is now. [03:27] — What have been some of the challenges or “aha!” moments that Rebecca has faced along her path so far? [07:59] — Rebecca talks about what ended up happening in the situation she has been describing, in which things didn't end up going according to plan. [11:22] — What ended up happening as a result of what Rebecca has described is that the process became much more collaborative, she explains. [15:25] — We hear about the experiences that helped Rebecca get to a point where she was able to do the maneuvering, adjusting, and listening she has been describing? [16:48] — In co-creating with a student team or client team, what are some of the things that help them get past the initial hurdles with working with the design process? [18:33] — How would Rebecca describe how she approaches pulling together a set of tools that leads to solutions that stick or results that last in her work? [24:23] — Rebecca talks about some of the adaptations she's had to make to using tools she learned as a student as she brings them into the world. [27:38] — We learn about Rebecca's thoughts on customer personas. [30:58] — How would Rebecca differentiate her in-house experiences in using those tools from the experiences she's had in her own consultancy? [34:21] — Rebecca discusses the resources and suggestions that she gives people who want to learn more about design thinking or how to bring it into their work. [37:40] — What are a couple of books that Rebecca would recommend? Her suggestions include The Design of Business, Moments of Impact, and The Power of TED*. [40:19] — Rebecca talks about how her experiences as a designer influence her as a coach. [42:20] — Where is Rebecca headed on her design journey? [44:58] — Rebecca talks about where people can find her to learn more about her and what she does. Links and Resources Rebecca Horton Rebecca Horton on LinkedIn @southernindie on Twitter rebecca@thetrestles.com (Rebecca Horton) IDEO Service Design Global Conference Trestles The Design of Business by Roger Martin Moments of Impact by Chris Ertel and Lisa Kay Solomon The Power of TED* by David Emerald yes@designthinking101.com (Dawan Stanford)

I’m excited to speak with Rebecca Horton, a designer, coach, and long-time colleague and friend. In our conversation, we’ll talk about how to coach and lead design teams, some design thinking methods she has found valuable, and how design thinking and coaching converge. Rebecca has always been interested in design, but believed as she grew up that you had to pick a discipline within design (such as being an interior designer, graphic designer, or fashion designer). In her early teenage years, she was fascinated by fashion design, and was captivated by runway shows on TV. She later went to college for political science and public policy because it was practical and pragmatic, and picking a specific design discipline didn’t appeal to her. After college, she discovered the design thinking field, which had the language to explain what she had been craving, and doesn’t force you to choose between disciplines. She returned to school, started her own practice, and worked in the corporate design world. In our conversation, Rebecca will dig into a specific example of an instance in which things didn’t go according to plan, which ended up being exactly the turning point that made her work so successful. She’ll also explain how she was able to maneuver and adjust to create this positive outcome from unexpected circumstances, and explore the controversy surrounding customer personas. As you listen, you’ll also hear powerful advice that you can apply to your own work and methods. For example, Rebecca advises clients to “welcome the stranger,” meaning that instead of telling someone unexpected to leave, invite them in and use the opportunity to understand why they might be there. Tune in to hear more about all of this, as well as Rebecca’s thoughts on blueprints, customer journey maps, and much more. Learn More About Today’s Guest Rebecca Horton Rebecca Horton on LinkedIn In This Episode [01:11] — Rebecca digs into how she got into design, what her early training was like, and how she got to where she is now. [03:27] — What have been some of the challenges or “aha!” moments that Rebecca has faced along her path so far? [07:59] — Rebecca talks about what ended up happening in the situation she has been describing, in which things didn’t end up going according to plan. [11:22] — What ended up happening as a result of what Rebecca has described is that the process became much more collaborative, she explains. [15:25] — We hear about the experiences that helped Rebecca get to a point where she was able to do the maneuvering, adjusting, and listening she has been describing? [16:48] — In co-creating with a student team or client team, what are some of the things that help them get past the initial hurdles with working with the design process? [18:33] — How would Rebecca describe how she approaches pulling together a set of tools that leads to solutions that stick or results that last in her work? [24:23] — Rebecca talks about some of the adaptations she’s had to make to using tools she learned as a student as she brings them into the world. [27:38] — We learn about Rebecca’s thoughts on customer personas. [30:58] — How would Rebecca differentiate her in-house experiences in using those tools from the experiences she’s had in her own consultancy? [34:21] — Rebecca discusses the resources and suggestions that she gives people who want to learn more about design thinking or how to bring it into their work. [37:40] — What are a couple of books that Rebecca would recommend? Her suggestions include The Design of Business, Moments of Impact, and The Power of TED*. [40:19] — Rebecca talks about how her experiences as a designer influence her as a coach. [42:20] — Where is Rebecca headed on her design journey? [44:58] — Rebecca talks about where people can find her to learn more about her and what she does. Links and Resources Rebecca Horton Rebecca Horton on LinkedIn @southernindie on Twitter rebecca@thetrestles.com (Rebecca Horton) IDEO Service Design Global Conference Trestles The Design of Business by Roger Martin Moments of Impact by Chris Ertel and Lisa Kay Solomon The Power of TED* by David Emerald yes@designthinking101.com (Dawan Stanford)

Im sog. Drama Dreieck von Stephen Karmpan (KDT - Karpman Drama Triangle) geht es darum, wie wir in zwischenmenschlichen Interaktionen immer wieder eine von drei Rollen einnehmen: Opfer, Täter und Helfer. In dieser Dynamik jedoch zwischen diesen drei Rollen verhärten sich die Fronten immer nur mehr, anstatt dass ein Ausweg in Sicht ist. Im Modell "The Empowerment Dynamic" (TED) von David Emerald wird aber genau dieser Ausweg beschrieben und aufgezeigt, wie wir aus einer Opferrolle und Selbstmitleid wieder in die Handlungsfähigkeit kommen können.   Genau um diese zwischenmenschlichen Dynamiken geht's in der heutigen Episode. Beschreibung des Drama Dreiecks von Karpman Abwärtsspiralen durch Drama-Dynamiken Erklärung des TED-Modells (The Empowerment Dynamic) von David Emerald Hinweise zur Arbeit mit dem TED-Modell für mehr Freiheit & Wachstum im Leben   Ich freu mich sehr darüber, dich auf deiner Reise heim zu deinem wahren Selbst begleiten zu dürfen! Alles Liebe und bis zur nächsten Folge Britta   Wenn dir die Episode gefallen hat, abonnier den Podcast auf deinem Podcast-Player, hinterlass einen Kommentar und trag dich auf meiner Webseite http://www.brittakimpel.com für meinen Newsletter ein. So erfährst du immer als erstes, wenn es etwas Neues aus dem TLUNiversum gibt.   FOLG MIR AUSSERDEM AUF ********************** WEBSEITE: http://www.brittakimpel.com  FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/brittakimpelyoga  INSTAGRAM: http://www.instagram.com/brittakimpel  PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/brittakimpel  YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCw8KYgKm9BXdTN0_ncXTwYg  

How often do you find yourself playing the “victim”? In this episode of The Team Success Podcast, Shannon Waller is joined by David Emerald—author of The Power Of TED. Be part of their powerful discussion about empowerment, ownership, and becoming the creator of your own life. The post Shifting From Victim To Creator with The Power of TED Author David Emerald appeared first on Your Team Success.

Donna Jajonc, MCC returns to today’s episode to discuss applying the concepts around The Power of TED * (*The Empowerment Dynamic), which is a book written by her husband, David Emerald. Donna has spent 15+ years as a professional coach, in addition to her work as a politician, speaker, and author. Donna teaches coaches how…

David Emerald is a consultant, facilitator, executive coach, speaker and author. David helps clients cultivate collaborative capabilities to create sustainable change and growth and to create powerful partnerships. David is celebrating the 10-year anniversary of his popular book, The Power of TED, which offers inspiration and practical tools to improve relationships at work and home. Central message is a transformation in mindset from a Victim Orientation to a Creator Orientation.

David Emerald's wonderfully wise fable rocks. In this Note, we'll take a quick look at one of my favorite books as we explore the importance of stepping out of DDT (the Dreaded Drama Triangle) and stepping into TED (The Empowerment Dynamic) as we learn to more consistently live from a Creator's perspective (rather than a Victim's) and learn how to hold the tension between our ideals and our current realities by taking baby steps.

David Emerald's wonderfully wise fable rocks. In this Note, we'll take a quick look at one of my favorite books as we explore the importance of stepping out of DDT (the Dreaded Drama Triangle) and stepping into TED (The Empowerment Dynamic) as we learn to more consistently live from a Creator's perspective (rather than a Victim's) and learn how to hold the tension between our ideals and our current realities by taking baby steps.

David Emerald's wonderfully wise fable rocks. In this Note, we'll take a quick look at one of my favorite books as we explore the importance of stepping out of DDT (the Dreaded Drama Triangle) and stepping into TED (The Empowerment Dynamic) as we learn to more consistently live from a Creator's perspective (rather than a Victim's) and learn how to hold the tension between our ideals and our current realities by taking baby steps.

David Emerald's wonderfully wise fable rocks. In this Note, we'll take a quick look at one of my favorite books as we explore the importance of stepping out of DDT (the Dreaded Drama Triangle) and stepping into TED (The Empowerment Dynamic) as we learn to more consistently live from a Creator's perspective (rather than a Victim's) and learn how to hold the tension between our ideals and our current realities by taking baby steps.

In this episode, special guest Hannah Braime talks about how to free yourself from a life of drama and move to a life of empowerment. Hannah is a coach, author, and host of Becoming Who You Are. We discuss some powerful concepts from the field of psychology that Hannah uses in her coaching. She explains how easy it is to get stuck playing a series of roles in your life— acting out a script written by someone else. These roles are all too familiar: "the victim", "the persecutor" and "the rescuer". Hannah explains how to empower yourself to leave such roles behind and live life according to your own plans. I really enjoyed the discussion and I think you will find it both interesting and helpful. Show Notes: Becoming Who You Are Videos about The Drama Triangle Joseph Campbell Transactional Analysis Games People Play by Eric Berne Karpman Drama Triangle The Power of TED by David Emerald  

The Power of TED author David Emerald discusses The Drama Triangle, Victimization vs Victimhood, Viktor Frankl, anxiety, creating passion, being a creator, dealing with tension, and the choices you have in any given moment.

David Emerald is the author of TED: The Empowerment Dynamic for Diabetes. David explains the concept of TED: The Empowerment Dynamic which comes out of his work with leadership within various organizations. Three basic questions can answered by TED: What do you put your focus on, problems or outcomes? How do you relate, to others, […] The post Hope, Healing and WellBeing – TED: The Empowerment Dynamic for Diabetes with David Emerald appeared first on WebTalkRadio.net.

Inspirational author and uplifting speaker David Emerald will discuss his new book TED* for Diabetes, the latest in his life-changing TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic) series.  David is an executive coach and master facilitator whose hallmark is his authenticity.  His inspirational and practical teachings are enlightening and empowering people worldwide. Following on the success of The Power of TED* , the new TED* for Diabetes is a story of successful behavior change and how to make the shift from a negative reaction to diabetes (as an enemy) to a positive and empowering way to relate to the disease. This unique and practical approach to wellness not only applies to diabetes, but to any health challenge. Visit David's web site: http://powerofted.com