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In this recap, Lesley Logan and Brad Crowell unpack the deeper implications of Adrian Starks' conversation on purpose, grief, and the resistance that comes from fighting your own path. They explore how purpose isn't something you find, but something you actively build, and why the attempt to force alignment often backfires. The episode tackles the unglamorous realities of change, self-reflection, and what happens when perfection gets in the way of progress. Whether you're struggling with imposter syndrome or questioning your direction, this conversation invites you to reclaim agency over your own story. If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/. 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Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/#follow-subscribe-free.In this episode you will learn about:How supporting LGBTQ+ communities strengthens your own alignment and values.The importance of taking control of your purpose before it gets defined for you.Why the more effort you put into controlling something, the more it slips through your fingers.How self-reflection reveals when you're outgrowing something or being called into something newImposter syndrome shows up when you're going against the grain of your purpose.Episode References/Links:OPC for 40 days for $40 - opc.me/40eLevate 2028 Waitlist - lesleylogan.co/elevateOPC Flashcards - opc.me/flashcardsSummer Tour (Powered by Balanced Body) - opc.me/tourPrism Foundation - arprismfoundation.orgAdrian Starks Website - https://adrianstarks.comEp 191. with Adrian Starks - https://beitpod.com/ep191100 Acts of Love by Kim Hamer - https://a.co/d/0dugkBGkEp 244 with Kim Hamer - https://beitpod.com/ep244Ep 235 with Krista St-Germain - https://beitpod.com/ep235Ep. 688 Outgrowing Series 1 - https://beitpod.com/ep688 Ep. 689 Outgrowing Series 2 - https://beitpod.com/ep689Submit your wins or questions - https://beitpod.com/questions If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox. https://lovethepodcast.com/BITYSIDEALS! 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Instead, what clearly seems actionable is purpose is something that we are out there doing, and whether or not we chose to do it, we're still out there doing it.Lesley Logan 0:21  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started. Lesley Logan 1:04  Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It interview recap, where my co-host in life, Brad, and I are going to dig into the purposeful convo I had with Adrian Starks in our last episode. You know what, I think that's what we said the first time he was on, because his podcast is all about being purposeful, so if you haven't yet listened to that interview, you can pause this and go listen to that one.Brad Crowell 1:23  What is he like? 190-something?Lesley Logan 1:26  It was like 151. Brad's gonna look it up and... and you can then come back and listen to this one, or you can listen to this one, because we chat about a bunch of stuff, and then our favorite things. And then you can go listen to the amazing one, because you have all the choice in this world. You get to do what you want to do, and we got to meet a bunch of you amazing podcast listeners when we were in Arizona the other day.Brad Crowell 1:46  It was 191.Lesley Logan 1:47  191Brad Crowell 1:48  Yes, I can't believe.Lesley Logan 1:50  Wow, nailed it.Brad Crowell 1:51  I did.Lesley Logan 1:52  I don't even know. You must have cheated. You must have seen it.Brad Crowell 1:55  I heard it in the episode.Lesley Logan 1:56  You heard it in the episode.Brad Crowell 1:59  Because I went back and listened to it. Lesley Logan 2:00  I was like I love you, but there's no way you came up with that on your own. Anyways, we met a bunch of listeners at the POT Arizona last month.Brad Crowell 2:10  We sure did.Lesley Logan 2:11  I love that you love the pod, and also I heard that people are loving the solo episodes. If that's the case, please leave a review and tell me what you want me to talk about. Also, another way you can support this show is to become an OPC member, because when you're an OPC member, that money also supports this podcast. Just be honest, so the best thing you can do is to go be a member of OPC. One, you actually get extra stuff out of it. If you like these little pep talks that I do on the podcast that are solo, at the end of every one of my classes, I give you a little pep talk. It's not a mantra, but it's something close. So you can go to opc.me/40, and then you can join OPC for 40 days for $40, and then you can see how great we are. Okay, today is June 25, 2026. It's Bourdain Day.Brad Crowell 3:00  It's Bourdain Day, and this is.Lesley Logan 3:02  A quote from Mr. Anthony Bourdain: "If I'm an advocate for anything, it's to move as far as you can, as much as you can, across the ocean or simply across the river, walk in someone else's shoes, or at least eat their food. It's a plus for everybody." Anthony Bourdain backed up his words with action, all the while urging us to do a lot more than simply try new foods in exotic places with fascinating strangers. He desperately wanted us to break out of our comfort zones and see the world in person through the eyes of people we would never otherwise meet. Watching his TV shows, first No Reservations, and then Parts Unknown, enabled us to spend time with the real-life explorer who trotted around the world in search of, well, the things that make us all human: food, yes, but also love, spirit, and passion. Bourdain, who suffered from depression, took his own life in 2018 at the age of 61. "Anthony was my best friend," tweeted French chef and close friend Eric Ripert at the time. "Exceptional human being, so inspired and generous." Ripert, along with another longtime friend, José Andrés, who does some amazing work in this world, declared June 25, Bourdain's birthday, Bourdain Day in 2019. So, if you are thinking of suicide, or worried about a friend, or in need of emotional support, the Lifeline Network is available 24/7 across the US. Call 800-273-8255. I think there's also a short number, I feel like there's a short number that you can call, but we had a dear friend.Brad Crowell 4:20  You can call 988 in the United States.Lesley Logan 4:22  Thank you. Yeah, yeah, who worked with a suicide prevention network in Nevada. And life's really hard right now. It's harder than people think. You look at people and they seem to have it all together, and they don't. A lot of people are tired, a lot of people have a lot going on. So reach out to a friend you haven't heard from or talked to in a while. You just never know. You might help them out, but also make sure you have these numbers, because there are people who are experts who can also support.Brad Crowell 4:49  Yeah.Lesley Logan 4:50  Upcoming travel, Brad, predict this, because what, go ahead, Brad.Brad Crowell 4:54  Yeah, Anthony Bourdain was very inspirational for me. He was living the travel bug that I always had, and when I was in college, my friend and I used to watch his show every single week, No Reservations. I just loved that he was so angry at his producers in that show, and he would get so pissed about cursing and smoking cigarettes on TV. I guess it wasn't live, but on TV, and then.Lesley Logan 5:23  They could just edit it out.Brad Crowell 5:24  hey could have edited it out, but they didn't. Yeah, it just was really inspirational for me. And then he did some amazing stuff too. He was in Beirut when that.Lesley Logan 5:36  Yes! And then also, don't forget his wonderful documentary about food waste.Brad Crowell 5:40  Yeah, food waste.Lesley Logan 5:41  If you haven't seen it, you must see it.Brad Crowell 5:43  It's called Wasted!Lesley Logan 5:44  I think it's called Wasted!Brad Crowell 5:45  Yeah.Lesley Logan 5:45  We actually watched it, and the next day he died by suicide.Brad Crowell 5:48  Yeah.Lesley Logan 5:49  That was really tragic, and that documentary stuck with me. So it's really, really important, because we all need to be aware. In certain countries, they're doing a much better job about food waste than we are. Go Japan! You were commenting from the documentary, so yeah, for me.Brad Crowell 6:03  It was amazing because I never was a chef, but he worked in the food industry, I worked in the food industry, and I got his book Kitchen Confidential when I was in my early 20s. I just thought he was amazing. So, yep, in honor of Anthony Bourdain, and as Lesley was mentioning, if you or anyone you know is suffering with suicidal thoughts, there is support out there for you.Lesley Logan 6:28  Yeah.Brad Crowell 6:29  Yeah.Lesley Logan 6:29  In other news, there are no spots left in Elevate. Every single week in the last few weeks that you've heard that there are spots was a lie.Brad Crowell 6:37  They are sold out.Lesley Logan 6:40  For 2027 anyways. We are already taking applications for 2028. We'll be able to let you snag your spot and reserve it, and all that stuff. But we're going to have a wonderful Q&A call this summer on July 9, I believe it's at 1 PM Pacific time. You can go to lesleylogan.co/elevate to get on the waitlist. We'll have that call information, and you can register for the call. Oh, I should do ll.co/waitlist. Actually, sorry, my producer is doing this in real time, everyone. Anyways, what I want you to do is get on that waitlist, because I do update you monthly on when we have dates and when we're accepting applications, and when you can deposit. I know that 2028 will fill up as soon as we open up those applications, but that means you have a whole year-plus to protect those dates like your life once I figure out what they are. Lesley Logan 7:31  summer tour is coming, but the tickets are available. They've been available for a few weeks, actually a month to be precise, and many cities are sold out. You're like, "Lesley, now that I know you record this in the past-future, how do you know?" Because I do! When we were in Arizona, we actually met many people who were like, "Oh, I'm going to Tucson," and I was like, "Okay, we're probably out of spots in Tucson." So I know that some of these slots are sold out. You want to go to opc.me/tour. Our tours are sponsored by the wonderful Balanced Body and Contrology company. Balanced Body is celebrating 50 years, so it's a really big year for them. It's kind of amazing what they're doing, and it's really special. So I want you to make sure that you join us, because Balanced Body allows our tours to go to more than six places and to do it with a lot of fun. We're bringing Contrology products into the studio so you can try them out. And if you're new here...Brad Crowell 8:25  Welcome.Lesley Logan 8:25  Hi! We also have Pilates flashcards. Did you know that we do? You don't have to be a Pilates instructor to love them. They're actually really wonderful for helping you have access to great Pilates where you are. They're so great, in fact, that people steal my images all the fucking time to put them in their shitty books, but you can get the real thing with the best information that has been edited many times and has quality videos at opc.me/flashcards. Sorry, I'm a little pissed off over here about something, but I am. If you follow me on Instagram, you know how long this has been going on, and just as we were about to hit record, I found out another fucking person is stealing my images from my flashcards.Brad Crowell 9:08  Three more people.Lesley Logan 9:09  Three more people.Brad Crowell 9:10  Yeah, so it's a thing. That's crazy. Anyway, you should know what's crazy.Lesley Logan 9:16  Is that they thought someone wouldn't find out? You know what I mean?Brad Crowell 9:21  I mean, maybe they just don't care.Lesley Logan 9:22  Maybe they don't care, or they're like, "Oh, she only has like 30,000 followers, so no one will know." But my followers know me, and even people who don't follow me are telling me, because I am recognizable at any rate. But you can get my flashcards, the real deal, and support a small business who is going to take on some of these big-ass companies, because there is a company that is a big name that we're about to take down anyways. I'm excited about it. Lesley Logan 9:49  Before we get into... we used to do audience questions here. If you're new, you don't know that, so this is not a new thing for you. But if you're old and you're like, "Oh, I just popped in here on this one," we don't do that anymore. We answer questions on YouTube at 9 AM Pacific Time Live, and that is where I answer them. If you're a member, I answer questions wherever you are a member, so as long as it's part of your membership, right? If you're an agency member, you can ask business questions there. If you are an OPC member, I answer personal Pilates questions there—I answer all those. Plus, there's YouTube, and YouTube is free. People don't know that, but it is. It's free. You have to watch, according to one comment, a diabolical amount of commercials, but it's free. Yes, "diabolical" was the word that was used. However, what we decided to change this to is many of you want to help out people in your life, but often don't know how to help, and there are so many different shitstorms in the world, like, which firestorm do you help with? The reality is that you can help either by just sharing with a friend who needs to hear that this charity exists for them, or you can share your time, or you can share it on your platform, or you can give them money, even $2. Lesley Logan 10:55  So, because June is Pride Month, we are going to wrap up the month's theme with another wonderful LGBTQ+ charity. This is the Prism Foundation, and it was founded in 2021. The Prism Foundation was started to organize and execute initiatives for the LGBTQ+ community in the state of Arkansas, using a multifaceted approach to achieve the following outcomes: increase access to affirming and comprehensive healthcare, align resources that address barriers to care and health disparities among the community, and create safe spaces for both virtual and physical activities and services that serve LGBTQ+ Arkansas.Brad Crowell 11:32  Correct me if we're wrong here, but I think it's Arkansans.Lesley Logan 11:35  What is also exciting, because I was doing some research on them, they are also really aware of what is happening in the states that are surrounding them that are affecting trans people. Part of their vision is: "We are increasing access to healthcare as top of our priorities. We're also focused on creating pathways to fulfill our basic needs, including overcoming barriers to legal aid services and developing supportive community spaces physically and virtually." Lesley Logan 11:59  I think this is really important because unfortunately, and at the time of this recording, there have been some awful things that have been said about trans people from the government that we are under in this country. I won't even repeat his words, because they are too horrible to repeat, that he said this week. But we need to be protecting our people who are different than us, because the fucking people who are taking from you are billionaires. So support the LGBTQ+ people in your area, because one, they are beautiful human beings, and two, they are always there supporting.Brad Crowell 12:39  That's true, there's very much of an activism mentality in that community.Lesley Logan 12:45  Yeah.Brad Crowell 12:45  Really like.Lesley Logan 12:46  And also, my goodness, they have to be tired. I'm sure they are. Anyways, I really like what that Prism organization is doing. I think it has to be hard to do what they do in the areas that they're doing it, so if you want to support, there you go.Brad Crowell 13:05  You can go to their website at arprismfoundation.org to read more about what they are doing and how you could support them.Lesley Logan 13:14  And if that is not your area, because you're like, "I'm not Arkansan," or "I'm not in the Midwest," then look up ones in your area that are doing something locally for you, because there is always a local outlet of something, like we've talked about before on this podcast. We love supporting a restaurant because Bronze Cafe—everyone who's local to Las Vegas who listens to this show, when you buy meals from them, they support the LGBTQ mental health community center here.Brad Crowell 13:38  If you have an organization that is doing good things that we should find out about, and you want to be featured on the pod, call us and leave us a voicemail.Lesley Logan 13:49  I love that. Then it's your favorite charity.Brad Crowell 13:52  At 310-905-5534 and tell us why they're amazing. You can also submit wins, by the way, at beitpod.com/questions so that we can get you in on the Friday episode.Lesley Logan 14:09  Times now, Brad, I have had people tell me that they heard their win months after they submitted it, and it really made their day because they were having a rough day. So I tell people this. Also, just so you know, we've changed the Friday FYF. I bitch about something, and then you were gonna come, but we haven't had a chance for you to bitch about something.Brad Crowell 14:30  Oh, yes.Lesley Logan 14:31  Which is what we do at our other communities, and then I celebrate a win, and then I share their wins. That's cool, and I do a mantra, so we had a change to it because it's quite nice. Maybe my new "need a moment" is that all these people use my fucking image.Brad Crowell 14:46  Well, we'll save that for Friday's episode. Stick around, we'll be right back. Brad Crowell 14:51  All right, now let's talk about Mr. Adrian Starks. Adrian is a professional speaker, voice narrator, and host of the Your Purposeful Life podcast, who openly embraces his authentic, unpolished self, including his fun side as a comic card and superhero fanatic. Having shed the rigid suit-and-tie expectations of his early career, Adrian is deeply protective of the energy he puts into the world, intentionally choosing to step away from the microphone rather than record an episode if he's having a bad day. So, good vibes, right? As a fellow human seeking purpose, he helps his audience navigate what he identifies as the three continuous cycles of purposeful living, and encourages people to make a mess, figure out what works, and ultimately have fun with their journey.Lesley Logan 15:36  Well, we love mess over here. We love messy action, and we're so big on that. Yeah, I also love... I mean, we had a great conversation about evolution, but one of the things we talked about is he said when we try to make things perfect when they're not meant to be—well, nothing's supposed to be—there's going to be major resistance because everything has to flow a certain way. He used the metaphor of salmon noting their journey upstream against the flow of the river is what ultimately exhausts them, and I think that's so true. I think we try to get things to be so perfect, just like, you know, we make it too precious, and you kind of hold on to it too tight. Then you aren't able to hear amazing things or be curious to go a different direction, you know what I mean?Brad Crowell 16:19  I was just talking about the idea of, like, the more effort you put into controlling something, the more it slips through your fingers. And yeah, I mean, I totally get that. Here's how I equate this. This is going to be an amazing parallel for all you ultimate frisbee players out there, of which I know I'm speaking to the right audience. Obviously.Lesley Logan 16:40  I'm sure we have a good two.Brad Crowell 16:42  Clearly, clearly the right audience. I grew up playing very, very competitively, playing ultimate frisbee, and whenever you were gonna throw the frisbee all the way down the field—the disc, as it were, if you put all of your might into that throw, that huck, as it were, is what we would call it, inevitably, you would mess it up. It would curve to the right, or go out of bounds, or whatever. But if you took a half a second before that huge throw, and you just eased and paused when you threw, you paused, and then just let it happen—it would go where you wanted it to every time. It took a long time, and I could always tell as soon as I released the disc, like, "Oh man, I did not do that right." I feel like life is like that too. When you are forcing it, things do not go the way that you want them to, but when you go with the flow, you know, while you're directing it, then things seem to happen a lot more organically, usually. All the things, right?Lesley Logan 17:49  Yeah, it's like a tough balance, right, because.Brad Crowell 17:52  Still have to direct it.Lesley Logan 17:53  Well, because you don't want to just be blowing with the wind, but you also need to feel the flow, right? Like, there are some obstacles that tell us, like, "Not that door," right? That doesn't mean it's a stop sign, it's just like a doorway, like, "Nope, not that door." And I think it's like really understanding, you know, why are you doing this? Why are you doing any of this? Because if you can keep your "why" in mind, it can keep the perfection from taking over, because perfection will honestly end up making something so clean and perfect, no one wants to touch it and do it, or they don't really know what it is, and it's exhausting. It's exhausting to be perfect. Lesley Logan 18:30  Oh my god, there's just certain people in my life, whenever I see them, I'm like, "How long does it take them to get out the door?" Because we just saw someone this past weekend at an event, and every time I see her, I'm like, she's so perfectly coiffed, it must take forever to get out the door, because there's not a hair amiss. The outfit is... the nails match the shoes match the... I mean, like all of it. I'm like, I know how long it takes to get my nails done, so they're just gonna be what they are for four weeks. So, I don't know, I'm just saying this is... if you want to be my friend, don't be perfect, okay?Lesley Logan 19:06  The last thing I'll say is he explained that when we go against the grain of what our purposes are, it creates major resistance that makes us feel like we're not worthy. So, hello, my people who feel imposter syndrome, it's because you're going against the grain of your purpose. If we're truly good at where we are, while we always can improve, we don't need to be perfect. There is this thing... "improve" is the wrong word. We are always... this is something that happens with Pilates instructors that I meet. You always are going to be learning. There's never a point that you're not learning, but there's a difference between chasing down every single person to go through their version of a program with, and also just learning from the body in front of you today. You know what I mean? Every time I teach a new person, a new client, I learn a new way of explaining something. Today we were doing OPC spring training, and this wonderful person asked a great question. I was like, "You know what, I've explained this before, but never to a person with that brand of equipment, with that years of experience, with that understanding of the exercise." So even I am learning something I already know in a different way so I can explain it. It's just... there's ways to learn and improve yourself without having to constantly feel like you've gotta sign up for this next thing, you know? So, anyways.Brad Crowell 20:21  Stay tuned, because how do we know what our purpose is, you know? How do we even know if we're going against the grain? Stick around, because we're going to talk about that in the Be It action items. Brad Crowell 20:32  But what I really wanted to talk about myself was grief, which is interesting because it was an interesting topic that y'all skipped over. You were talking about grieving, not just like a person who might no longer be with us, or obviously a pet or any of that, but even an experience that was supposed to happen, but it didn't, you know? And you were very excited about it, or you had a lot of effort and planning into it. I mean, we know we've been talking about opening a studio for a really long time, and we spent a lot of money, we spent a lot of time at the beginning of this year and last year—beginning of this year like really thinking, planning. I mean, I can't even tell you how many phone calls I made to the city, and I spent hours putting together a plan, a business plan for this. And then three months in, we decided to pause the whole thing because we realized that we were pretty much forcing it, you know, because there was one key thing that was holding us up that was like, "Wait a minute, how are we going to solve this problem?" It was kind of like one of those, "Well, we're gonna... we could... we'll make it work. We'll figure it out. It's gonna..." you know. All of a sudden I was like, "Why do we need to do that? We don't even need to do the studio. It's just gonna cause a lot of stress. And what we could be doing right now is opening a major problem for ourselves." So what we decided to do instead was solve the problem that we would be opening for ourselves first, but that's going to take time.Lesley Logan 22:01  Yeah.Brad Crowell 22:02  Right. So even though we spent this time putting this whole plan together and decided to hit pause, it's interesting because, okay, there's actually another path that is going to set us up for success in the future when we do bring that studio back around. However, it doesn't mean that you don't feel bummed about it. I drive by the location that we picked out, that I've talked with the landlord.Lesley Logan 22:26  I know.Brad Crowell 22:27  And the neighbors, and the city about, and a contractor about.Lesley Logan 22:30  And I envisioned the sign.Brad Crowell 22:32  100 times.Lesley Logan 22:33  I still don't think it's not going to be in that center. I just think it's not that unit. It's just that unit needed way too much money. Yeah, not the rent, but the build-out was like jaw-dropping. It honestly made the grief a little bit easier, I'm not gonna lie, because it was such a "fuck no," you know what I mean? Like, it was just like no fucking way. And so, I do understand there's grief because that's not happening today, and so we still drive by it every single time, but I also think this is where good reflection comes from, too. It's like, in reflecting, it's all out of our control—the parts that are the obstacles, yeah. So I go to bed knowing we did the best we could with what we had in the moment, and had we not had this other stupid bill come through that we're like, "That's a fuck no," we probably would have forced the salmon up the stream a little bit. I think so, because we definitely.Brad Crowell 23:34  Would have.Lesley Logan 23:34  Anyway, would have made it work, but it would have been a hard stress.Brad Crowell 23:38  More complicated than it needed to be. Yeah, but.Lesley Logan 23:40  I do think there is a way you have to grieve changes. We have Elevate members who are like, "I'm grieving the teacher I used to be," because they used to just narrate a Pilates class, for lack of a simple thing. And it's like, "Well, no, now you get to watch it, and you get to see what it is." Part of you is excited because you know better now and you have these more potential possibilities now, but also there was a time that it felt easier, right? And you're a different person when you're in this unknown space. So, like, I'm excited when we open that studio. I'm past the grief thing, but also sometimes I look back at that studio, it would have been really great if it was a Pilates on it already.Brad Crowell 24:19  Yeah, well, that's the thing. You know, you were talking about how grief doesn't really go away because you had built a mental pattern around a person or a thing or an experience that was supposed to happen. You had built that into your thinking, and what ends up happening over time is we think that way a little bit less. It doesn't mean we don't think about the thing, but the expectations that we had alter, they shift, right? And so, you know, what Adrian was talking about was someone, I think he was talking about someone who died, if I recall, and he said sometimes he just needs to embrace when that emotion comes up. He embraces it, he leans into it. He's like, "It's okay for me to feel this right now," and he encourages letting that emotion flow for multiple reasons. It's a testament to how someone or something impacted you, but also it's really important to feel those emotions. So.Lesley Logan 25:16  Yeah, it's hard. I don't know, it's like there's certain... you know, it's really interesting, like there's certain people, places, or things that you grieve in different ways. Our LA studio, I don't ever look back and have tears, like I'm sad with that studio, because it was the right thing to do to make the change, but I do miss having that cute little space.Brad Crowell 25:37  Yeah.Lesley Logan 25:37  You know, I miss it. Yeah, I think back of it fondly, not tears, like, "Oh, I don't have that place anymore," but like, "What a fun two years I had in that space." It was such a... like a treehouse, you know. So, grief doesn't always have to be devastating either, but you have to feel it. We have some great grief podcasts, by the way. Haven't had any recently, but the two that we had were so good: Kim Hamer and another woman... I want to say Kara, but I don't think that's what it was. She's like Coach Something, and they're both on grief. Kim Hamer has a wonderful book on 100 Acts of Love, and her episode about her husband and that grief was so interesting, and what she has done. She was so raw and wonderful and thoughtful. And then there was a woman before her in the episodes, and I'm just talking like as if it's going to come back to me, she actually, unfortunately, watched her husband die, and then she went through all this grief and she was like, "How come this is happening, and why am I not over it?" She literally became a grief coach.Brad Crowell 26:42  Yeah.Lesley Logan 26:42  I want to say it's Kara, but it's not.Brad Crowell 26:44  I have no idea.Lesley Logan 26:46  Anyways, our wonderful producers will figure it out, I'm sure. But you can just go into our catalog; it's definitely in the first 200 episodes. Good luck! Well, here's the thing: if you can find Kim Hamer, it's within two months of Kim Hamer that I remember. So, okay, we're gonna get into our Be It action items, and I can see Brad is going to Google that.Brad Crowell 27:05  Yeah, one was Krista St-Germain.Lesley Logan 27:08  That's the one.Brad Crowell 27:09  And the other was.Lesley Logan 27:12  Kim Hamer. Kim Hamer! So sorry, replace Hamer everywhere I said Scott. There you go.Brad Crowell 27:23  All right, stick around. We'll be right back. We're gonna dig into those Be It action items. Brad Crowell 27:29  All right. Well, welcome back. Let's talk about those Be It action items that we got from Adrian Starks. What bold, executable, intrinsic, or targeted action items can we take away from your combo, Adrian? It's weird to call him Starks. Starks, it sounds like he's like... like.Lesley Logan 27:48  Tony.Brad Crowell 27:49  Yeah, but I was thinking like a football player, like the way that you.Lesley Logan 27:52  I just want to go "Adrian," that's all.Brad Crowell 27:54  Starks redefines the word goal, and I've really loved this, y'all. He's so full of these quippy things that are so applicable, and this one really blew my mind. He said, "I love a goal, but I redefined it with the acronym of Get Out and Live, Get Out and Live." And I was like, "Wow, that's really great." I love that he views goals not as rigid markers but as triggers to move outside of one's comfort zone, scare yourself a little bit, and then break a rut. He suggests regularly asking yourself, what is actually going on here? What am I not happy about? What do I actually want? Specifically focusing on immediate desires rather than five-year plans, he recommends detoxing from social media for several days at a time to avoid the world of comparisons that definitely leads to self-doubt and imposter syndrome.Brad Crowell 28:51  Imposter syndrome, yeah, exactly.Lesley Logan 28:53  Comparison is the thief of joy.Brad Crowell 28:54  Comparison is the thief of joy. What about you?Lesley Logan 28:58  Well, he said your purpose in life is not something you find, it's something that you do, and it's going to change. It's going to evolve with time, and I couldn't agree more. It's so funny. Recently, I posted pictures of myself as a brand new Pilates instructor. I actually wrote a whole series called Outgrowing Yourself, and it's either already come out or it's coming up. No idea. I think it already came out, outgrowing your old version of yourself. And it's so funny, because I don't look back at her going, "Oh my god." I mean, when I said, "Oh my god, I look so young..."Brad Crowell 29:27  You look like a child.Lesley Logan 29:28  I look like a child. I was 25, but I think about what her goals as a new teacher were to where I am right now, and I can say looking back I never have thought, "Oh my god, I'm no longer living my purpose," because my purpose has evolved as a teacher. Because I've evolved in the more that I know, and the people that I teach, and the things that I'm drawn to. There's things that people like, "Don't you want to do this?" and it's like, "No, that's a no, I don't." And even right now people like, "Oh, what about next year?" I'm like, "I think I'm staying home a lot, actually a significant amount of time. I'm staying home." And they're like, "Oh, really?" And it's like, "Yeah, because if you do take the time to get to know yourself, and you do stay aligned with what you want, and you do stay aligned with your purpose, your life has to evolve." And then, because that evolves, and your purpose evolves, I'm like, "My life has to reflect what I'm doing, and then what I'm doing then takes me to my next thing, which means my life has to reflect what I'm doing, and so..."Brad Crowell 30:26  I agree with you on this, but also let's go back to his statement, because I think I remember trying to figure out, like, what am I going to do with my life, or what's my purpose? And we all know that it's important to have purpose in our lives, but I also think a testament to this is the conversations that I've had recently with my parents, who just retired.Lesley Logan 30:51  Yeah.Brad Crowell 30:51  Right. And then the interview that we had with the retirement coach, whose name I'm not recalling, but it was in the last 100 episodes. Lesley Logan 31:01  Definitely. It was definitely, was it this year?Brad Crowell 31:04  But the point is that we think purpose is just going to find us, and we're gonna be like, "Oh my god, that's what I'm here for, that's the thing," right? Instead, what clearly seems actionable is purpose is something that we are out there doing, and whether or not we chose to do it, we're still out there doing it. I mean, I think about my parents with their job, and the thing that was keeping my dad focused on the job was the job. Ultimately, if you step back and look at that, it's not necessarily like whatever... I don't even know what the projects were that he was working on.Lesley Logan 31:45  Ever.Brad Crowell 31:46  Yeah, but the point... I mean, I wasn't intimately involved in the company they work for, so I don't actually understand all the nuance of the things, but he built that purpose over a career of 42 or 43 years, and then now all of a sudden he's thinking about ending it. It doesn't matter how mundane the job is, he's, "Oh, what am I going to do with myself after this? I'm not sure, I don't know," you know. And so that's where we find ourselves unwilling to make a change as well, but then you have... that's like.Lesley Logan 32:16  No, I want to argue with you a little bit, and I'm glad your dad doesn't listen to this podcast. I feel like he did what a lot of people his age did, which is like, "This is my job," and that job became the purpose. Yeah.Brad Crowell 32:31  But that's the point of what Adrian said.Lesley Logan 32:33  But I don't think so, because I think it goes to that saying: if you don't have goals, someone will make their goals your goal, and so I feel like.Brad Crowell 32:43  Your purpose can be inadvertent. Yeah, if you don't take control of what you do, then your purpose will be defined for you, or it can accidentally become your purpose. Yes.Lesley Logan 32:53  And if you don't like it, then you're the person going, "Why is my purpose just to do this project for this many years?" Where I think it's important is this is where self-reflection is so important, because when you self-reflect, you are aware of when you are outgrowing something, or you are being called into something. I don't know if we had a conversation with Adrian, but I definitely had a conversation, and I wrote a newsletter on it, is that a lot of people in the Pilates industry, like, "I need to figure out what my space is in this industry," and it's like, never do that, don't do that. Because no one that you admire ever sat and goes, "What is my little circle in this industry?" No, they went out and carved their path, they created their thing. There'll be an episode coming out that hasn't already with me on Balanced Body's podcast, where they're like, "You carved out this thing." I'm like, I had to, I had to create the thing that I needed. Some of you are already living your purpose, but you actually are looking at other people and going, "I need to look like them," and you haven't taken the time to reflect back, going, "Actually, the thing that I'm doing is the thing that's my purpose, and it's helping these people. And so now that I'm aware of that, I amplify that." Because you're out there amplifying and doing it, it will evolve, because you will continue to hone in and understand and be curious, and change things. So either it inadvertently finds you, and you're doing someone else's purpose, and they'll be grateful, or you discover what it is. But if you look inside.Brad Crowell 34:20  But that's... yeah, it goes... you were both talking about self-reflection, but it goes back to, you know, your purpose in life is not something you find, it's something that you do.Lesley Logan 34:29  Yes.Brad Crowell 34:30  And it is also... it's a change and evolve over time.Lesley Logan 34:33  It's kind of like those movies where the person goes out in seek of what their purpose is, but really their purpose was there all the time, but they weren't taking the time to see that it was there. Go self-reflect anyways. Anything else, Brad?Brad Crowell 34:47  Yeah. He said with purpose you can navigate and make adjustments, right? And he talked about figuring out what actions match the frequency and energy of where you're at right now.Lesley Logan 34:57  Yeah, that's true. That's great.Brad Crowell 34:59  Yeah, I mean, we'll just leave it... we'll just leave that there. Go back and listen, because...Lesley Logan 35:04  Adrian is great.Brad Crowell 35:05  Yeah, he's great.Lesley Logan 35:05  And I, by the way.Brad Crowell 35:06  He does voice acting. How cool.Lesley Logan 35:08  Well, let's listen to his voice.Brad Crowell 35:09  Yeah, it's amazing.Lesley Logan 35:10  Honestly, like, he should really write sleepy stories, like those sleep stories. I would listen every day.Brad Crowell 35:16  Yeah.Lesley Logan 35:17  I also would even listen to him share bad news with that voice, because it's just like, you know, like the BBC type, where it's just matter-of-fact, you know what I mean? Like, I think I could be like, "Okay, well, we're not all gonna die, so there we go." Adrian, thanks for being you. Thanks for being back. You guys, I'm Lesley Logan.Brad Crowell 35:34  And I'm Brad Crowell.Lesley Logan 35:35  Share our episodes with a friend who needs to figure out what their purpose is, and then leave a review. 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What is grief, really? And how do we actually work with it? In this conversation, Krista St-Germain offers a clear and humane definition: Grief is the natural human response to a perceived loss. From there, we explore how the goal isn't to “get to the end” of grief; the goal is to integrate the loss into your life. We talk about the “dual process model” of grief, and how healing isn't linear, but rather an oscillation between engaging with loss and stepping away from it. Another powerful part of healing is allowing the brain to update what is true now, instead of continually predicting from the past. And in a grief-illiterate culture, it's important to say this clearly and Krista emphasizes this point: you cannot do grief wrong.For more information on Best Life Best Death please visit our website at ⁠⁠www.bestlifebestdeath.com⁠⁠Follow us on our social channels to receive pertinent and helpful resources on death, grieving, and more at:Facebook: ⁠⁠www.facebook.com/bestlifebestdeath⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠www.instagram.com/bestlifebestdeath⁠⁠

Krista St-Germain knows the experience of grief, deeply. As a widow and coach, she is an expert at discussing this complex feeling. In this episode, we have a conversation about her life, her husband's death, what it means to feel feelings, and the spiral of post-traumatic growth. She notes,“Every return to familiar emotions is an opportunity to meet them from a new level of capacity.” What does this invite you to consider in your own life? And how might it change the way you accompany friends and family through their toughest seasons?For more information on Best Life Best Death please visit our website at ⁠⁠www.bestlifebestdeath.com⁠⁠Follow us on our social channels to receive pertinent and helpful resources on death, grieving, and more at:Facebook: ⁠⁠www.facebook.com/bestlifebestdeath⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠www.instagram.com/bestlifebestdeath⁠⁠

Learn about grief support for widows who are also raising children as they navigate loss and bereavement. My guest Krista St-Germain is a life coach, post-traumatic growth and grief expert, widowed mom, and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. She coaches and teaches other widows to love life again and shares with us in this… Continue reading Ep. 537 Grief and the Widowed Mom with Krista St-Germain

Julia Manning is the Chief of Staff of Communications at the Concussion and CTE Foundation, where she directs all storytelling and media content. She is a four-time Emmy Award-winning television producer and the host of Invisible Impact, a podcast dedicated to sharing authentic, unfiltered stories of life after concussion.Julia's own concussion story began in 2017 with what seemed like a minor accident—she stood up too fast after tying her shoes and slammed the back of her head into a kitchen countertop. What she assumed would be a few days of rest turned into nearly a decade of post-concussion syndrome (PCS), forcing her to leave the high-stakes, high-stimulation world of TV news production that she had worked her entire career to build.After years of pushing through symptoms, navigating fragmented healthcare, and grieving the loss of her identity, Julia found her way to the Concussion and CTE Foundation. There, she transformed her pain into purpose—helping others feel seen, heard, and supported through their own recovery journeys.In this conversation, Julia brings warmth, honesty, and hard-won wisdom to the table. Summary of the EpisodeIn this deeply honest and hopeful episode, Bethany Lewis sits down with Julia Manning to unpack the messy, nonlinear reality of post-concussion syndrome. Julia shares how a concussion unraveled her Emmy-winning career in TV news and sent her into a years-long battle with debilitating symptoms—including extreme light sensitivity, cognitive fog, and migraines so severe she feared they would never end.But this isn't just a story about what was lost. It's a story about what was found.Julia walks us through the moments where her recovery shifted: when she stopped chasing her "old self," the therapy she initially resisted that ended up being a game-changer, and the mindset reframe that helped her see the power of gratitude.She also pulls back the curtain on her work at the Concussion and CTE Foundation, explaining the critical difference between concussion and CTE, and sharing details about their free helpline—a resource that connects sufferers with trusted providers, peer support, and educational materials.Whether you are five days or five years into your recovery, this episode offers a powerful reminder: You are not broken. You are not alone. And your story isn't over.Key TakeawaysWhy Julia's "mild" concussion turned into a decade of symptoms—and what she wishes she had done differentlyHow to know when pushing through is actually pushing you backwardThe grief of losing a career and identity—and how to build a new oneConcussion vs. CTE: A clear, simple explanationHow loved ones can support someone with PCS without adding pressureThe power of living "day by day" and finding gratitude in small winsResources Mentioned: Concussion and CTE FoundationA nonprofit organization dedicated to solving the concussion crisis, accelerating research, and supporting those affected by concussion and CTE.Main Website: concussionandcte.orgHelpline (Free Resource): concussionandcte.org/helplineFill out a form to be connected with a case coordinator who can provide trusted provider referrals, peer support, educational materials, and more.Invisible Impact Podcast (Hosted by Julia Manning):https://concussionandcte.org/pcs-resources/invisible-impact-podcast/A podcast featuring real, raw conversations with individuals navigating life after concussion.Instagram (Foundation): @concussionandcteInstagram (Personal): @juliamanning2The previous Concussion Coach Podcast episodes that were mentioned:Grief and Concussions: An Interview with Krista St-Germain & Becky BarnettCTE: UofU Lineman Greg Newman's Story: Interview with Laura DyerConcussion Recovery Art: An Interview with Allison Moir-SmithSupport for Concussed Moms: An Interview with Allison Moir-Smith

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While the holidays are often a season of joy and celebration, they can also bring a certain heaviness. Grief around the holidays can show up unexpectedly and in many different ways—sadness for the people who are no longer with us, or a sense of loss around relationships that have changed or things we wish were different. That's why I'm bringing you this special rebroadcast episode about grief: to offer understanding for what you may be feeling and tools to help you navigate grief during the holiday season.In this episode, I'm joined by Krista St-Germain, Mikki Gardner, and Sharon Wirant—three incredible women who each guide their clients through grief in different contexts. Grief is not limited to death alone, but also includes the loss of marriages, health, identity, expectations, and imagined futures. We explore how grief often shows up indirectly in coaching conversations, and why the ability to recognize and work with it is such a vital skill for any coach.You'll hear why grief may be present beneath the surface of your clients' goals, resistance, or stuck patterns, and how the holistic approach of a master coach allows you to meet those moments with skill and care. This conversation is also an invitation to those of you here for your own personal growth to honor the grief you carry, to make space for it without fear, and to remember that grief does not need to hold you back or define what's possible.When we know how to support ourselves and others through every emotion and every season—including grief around the holidays—we create real transformation. I can't wait for you to hear this incredible episode.What you'll learn:Why grief around the holidays often includes losses that haven't happened yetHow divorce grief shows up as mourning the death of a future you expected to haveWhy mindset work alone can unintentionally work against clients experiencing griefHow grief and suppressed emotion can directly impact the body and energy levelsWhat a holistic master coach does differently when grief shows up as resistanceYou can read the full show notes here.About Krista St-GermainKrista St-Germain is a Master Certified Life Coach, grief expert, widow, mom and host of The Widowed Mom podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista's life was completely and unexpectedly flipped upside down. After therapy helped her unfurl from the fetal position, Krista discovered Life Coaching, Post Traumatic Growth and learned the tools she needed to move forward and create a future she could get excited about. Now she coaches and teaches other widows so they can love life again, too.Website: www.coachingwithkrista.com Podcast: www.coachingwithkrista.com/podcast Instagram: www.instagram.com/lifecoachkristaFacebook: www.facebook.com/coachingwithkristaAbout Sharon Wirant,...

Hi Parents! Today I sit down with Krista St-Germain to explore the tender, complex reality of supporting a teen through the loss of a parent while also navigating your own grief. Krista is a Master Certified Life Coach, widow, and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast, and her work has helped thousands of women rebuild their lives with compassion, self-trust, and hope after profound loss. Krista and I dig into where the familiar “five stages of grief” came from and why they were never intended to describe how real people move through loss. We talk about what grief often looks like behind closed doors, how widowhood can reshape your identity, and why learning to trust your emotional process is such an essential part of healing. We also talk about how teens grieve differently, how to recognize grief beneath certain behaviours, and how to support them without trying to fix the pain. Krista shares guidance on navigating birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays in ways that honour the parent who died while giving everyone space to feel what they feel. More about Krista: Krista is a grief and post-traumatic growth expert who rebuilt her life after losing her husband to a drunk driver in 2016. Through therapy, mindset work, and coaching tools, she found a path forward, and now helps widows do the same. Her work has been featured in Psychology Today, Medium, Parents Magazine, and more. If you're supporting a grieving teen or grieving yourself, I hope this conversation brings you comfort, clarity, and permission to move at the pace that feels right for you. It's a conversation I know will support so many. Big hugs, Monica Crnogorac Next Steps Book a Free Discovery Call Visit My Website for More Information on My 8-Week Program Connect With Me on Instagram

When someone you love is grieving, you want to show up well—but what do you say? What should you not say? And how do you support someone months or even years after their loss?Grief coach Krista St-Germain returns to the Secrets of Supermom Show to share practical, compassionate guidance for supporting friends and family through grief—especially during the holidays. We talk about what actually helps, why “fixing” isn't the goal, how to hold space when you're scared to say the wrong thing, and simple ways to show up with love long after the initial loss.If you've ever worried about saying the wrong thing or wished you knew how to better support someone who is hurting, this episode is full of clarity, comfort, and powerful perspective.Text us your feedback or questions!Stay connected! Join us in The Supermom Society! Get all the details at thesupermomsociety.com! Get all our show notes, buy the book Secrets of Supermom, and more at our website: www.secretsofsupermom.com Secrets of Supermom on Facebook Secrets of Supermom on Instagram

Many of us know that grief isn't linear, yet so much of what we're taught still has us trying to get it “right.” In this conversation, I'm joined by Krista St-Germain, life coach, grief guide for widows, and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. Krista shares how she helps women navigate grief with self-compassion, gentleness, and kindness, and stop making themselves wrong for what they feel. This episode isn't just for those who've lost a spouse, but for anyone navigating loss and learning not to “fix” their feelings, but to create more capacity to hold them. Here's what we cover:Why grief can't be defined by the familiar “stages” and why it doesn't end with acceptanceHow healing comes from increasing your capacity to support yourself, not from trying to change what you feelWhat secondary losses look like and how they reveal the ongoing nature of griefHow to stop making yourself wrong for what you feel and practice meeting your emotions with compassion insteadWhy we sometimes feel uncomfortable around grief and how to show up for others in a way that is truly helpfulThe importance of normalizing sadness and modeling healthy grief, especially for childrenFind Krista here:https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/happier-holidays-for-widowed-moms/ https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/podcast/https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachkrista/ Find Sara here:https://sarafisk.coachhttps://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversationshttps://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoachhttps://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!Book a Free Consult

Grief changes everything - from how you feel in your body, to how you relate to food, to how you move through the world.In this powerful conversation, I'm joined by Krista St-Germain, grief expert, master coach, and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. After losing her husband suddenly in a tragic accident, Krista found herself navigating a kind of grief that no one had prepared her for - and realized the traditional “stages of grief” weren't cutting it.Now, she helps others move through loss with more self-compassion, clarity, and emotional resilience.In this episode, we talk about:What grief really looks like How grief impacts your body, brain, hormones, and emotional regulation Why food becomes a common coping mechanism - and what to do instead The dual process model of grief (loss-oriented and life-oriented healing) How to tell if a coping tool is numbing or actually nurturing you What “post-traumatic growth” really means - and how to access itWhether you're grieving a person, a relationship, a version of yourself—or even just feeling like you're emotionally surviving one day at a time - this episode will help you feel seen, supported, and more grounded in your own healing journey.Because food might be part of how you're surviving - but it doesn't have to be the only way. And healing doesn't mean "moving on." It means moving with love, gentleness, and intention.Connect with Krista:Free course: ​​https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/freecourse/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coachingwithkrista/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachkrista/Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/158621428181414 ✨ Watch my FREE workshop: How To Stop Feeling Obsessed With Food to start healing today

Send us a textMy guest on the podcast today is the fabulous Krista St-Germain, a Master Certified Life Coach, single mum, grief expert, widow, and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista's life was completely flipped upside down. And while it would have been easy to believe her best days were behind her, thankfully Krista discovered Life Coaching and Post Traumatic Growth and was able to move forward and create a future she could get excited about. Now she coaches and teaches other widows so they can love life again, too. Now although Krista works primarily with widowed mums, she is an expert in grief in general, and this conversation is no doubt interesting for anyone who has experienced grief, or is currently experiencing it, not to mention that we will all experience it at some point. Krista and I talk about the loss of her husband, Hugo, how she ended up getting into life coaching and subsequently grief coaching; we talk all about grief and how it is anything but linear, we also talk about post traumatic growth and how it is possible to take your experience of grief and use it to intentionally build a better life for yourself. You guys will all find something of value in this conversation.03:23 Krista's Journey Through Grief07:58 Understanding Grief: Beyond the Five Stages11:31 The Dual Process Model of Grief15:08 Grief in Childlessness and Secondary Losses21:16 Redefining Happiness and Self-Love29:58 Navigating Early Stages of Grief30:44 Societal Reactions to Grief32:32 The Loneliness of Grief36:31 Understanding Post-Traumatic Growth40:43 Personal Reflections on Grief and Healing43:49 Current Relationship Status and Reflections50:19 Final Thoughts and Advice for the GrievingCheck out Krista's website: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/Listen to The Widowed Mom Podcast: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/podcast/ Support the showOrder my book, SHINY HAPPY SINGLES (UK) / THRIVE SOLO (US & Canada) at: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/book Download my FREE PDF 'The Top 10 Answers To The Most Irritating Questions That Single People Get Asked On The Regular...& How To (Devilishly) Respond'? Go to: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/questions Join the waitlist for my membership, Thrive Solo: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/thrivesolo Check out my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thrivesolowithlucymeggeson Interested in my 1-1 Coaching? Work with me HERE: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/workwithme Join my private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1870817913309222/?ref=share Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thrivesolowithlucymeggeson/ Email me: lucy@lucymeggeson.com And thank you so much for listening!

In this episode of The Secrets of Supermom Show, Lori Oberbroeckling sits down with Krista St-Germain, master certified life coach and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast, for an honest conversation about something we don't often talk about: grief.As moms, we're balancing big goals, busy schedules, and family life—but when loss happens, everything changes. Whether it's the death of someone you love, a divorce, a career shift, or even the loss of the future you imagined, grief shows up in all of our lives.Krista shares what most of us get wrong about grief, the myths that keep us stuck, and how we can move through loss in a way that's real, compassionate, and life-giving. This conversation will leave you feeling seen, supported, and a little less alone.Text us your feedback or questions!Stay connected! Join us in The Supermom Society! Get all the details at thesupermomsociety.com! Get all our show notes, buy the book Secrets of Supermom, and more at our website: www.secretsofsupermom.com Secrets of Supermom on Facebook Secrets of Supermom on Instagram

Send a Text Message. Please include your name and email so we can answer you! Please note, this does not subscribe you to our email list, it's just to answer if you have a questions for us. When we think of grief, we often think of death. But grief can take many forms, whether it's the end of a relationship, a change in health, or simply realizing life doesn't look the way we hoped. Yet most of us were never taught how to navigate it.Instead, we're left feeling overwhelmed, broken, and pressured to “move on.” The truth is, grief is part of being human. It touches our minds, bodies, and spirits, and it doesn't follow tidy stages or timelines. Without understanding this, we risk judging ourselves and suffering more than we need to.In this episode, master certified life coach Krista St. Germain shares how the sudden loss of her husband transformed her understanding of grief. Together, we explore why grief isn't one-size-fits-all and the practical tools that can help you ride the waves when it feels unbearable. You'll walk away with permission to grieve in your own way, strategies to support yourself and others, and a reminder that even in loss, healing and growth are possible.Connect with KristaThe Widowed Mom PodcastWebsiteWork with KristaInstagramGet Your FREE 3-Day Hunger Hormone Reset Mini Video SeriesAudio Stamps01:18 - Today's guest, Krista St. Germain, shares how losing her husband in a tragic roadside accident led her to become a master certified grief coach.04:55 - Why grief affects your entire body—hormones, sleep, heart health—not just emotions.09:10 - What grieving people truly need versus the well-meaning but unhelpful comments we typically make.11:22 - Simple ways to support physical health during grief without adding guilt.13:44 - The dual process model: healthy oscillation between grieving and restoration activities.15:54 - Why the five stages of grief model creates harmful expectations about linear healing.20:04 - Practical techniques for intense grief moments: breathing, tapping, and nervous system regulation.25:37 - How grief extends beyond death to any major life change or unmet expectation.27:08 - Krista's top three tips: return to basics, process emotions supportively, stop grieving "correctly."All of the information on this podcast is for general informational purposes only. Please talk to your physician and medical team about what is right for you. No medical advice is being on this podcast. If you live in Indiana or Illinois and want to work with doctor Matthea Rentea, you can find out more on www.RenteaClinic.com ✨ Season 2 of Behind the Curtain is officially live! ✨ You can join the season on its own or take it a step further by opting into the live 21-Day Challenge with Dr. Rentea, running December 1–21—the perfect way to finish the year strong and head into the holidays with momentum.

In the wake of the devastating flooding in the Texas Hill Country, so many families and communities have been impacted by loss and grief. Whether you've experienced personal loss or you've joined in the collective heartbreak of watching the community suffer, we are all touched by grief. In this episode, I'm joined by Krista St-Germain, Master Certified Life Coach and expert in grief and post-traumatic growth. Krista shares what it really looks like to navigate loss, not just in the early days, but in the months and years that follow. She'll share ways to recognize when you're stuck in a “grief plateau,” along with a simple framework to start healing.  

JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP HERE and join us this Saturday, June 14th at 10am PST/ 12pm Central / 1pm EST and make progress with your decluttering! In this powerful and heart-centered episode, Amber is joined by grief coach and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast, Krista St-Germain. Together, they explore the emotional weight of clutter, the power of post-traumatic growth, and the hidden role of grief and disappointment in our relationship with our homes and ourselves. Krista shares her personal journey from aviation project manager to grief coach after the tragic loss of her husband, and how that experience reshaped her understanding of emotional healing. Hope this helps you!  Do not hesitate to reach out if you have questions: amber@declutteryourchaos.com  XO, Amber   Please join us in the free facebook group: Join the free Declutter Your Chaos Community here

JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP HERE and join us this Saturday, June 14th at 10am PST/ 12pm Central / 1pm EST and make progress with your decluttering! In this powerful and heart-centered episode, Amber is joined by grief coach and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast, Krista St-Germain. Together, they explore the emotional weight of clutter, the power of post-traumatic growth, and the hidden role of grief and disappointment in our relationship with our homes and ourselves. Krista shares her personal journey from aviation project manager to grief coach after the tragic loss of her husband, and how that experience reshaped her understanding of emotional healing. Hope this helps you!  Do not hesitate to reach out if you have questions: amber@declutteryourchaos.com  XO, Amber   Please join us in the free facebook group: Join the free Declutter Your Chaos Community here

  In today's episode, I'm talking with Krista St-Germain, a grief coach who coaches Widowed Moms.   After the sudden loss of her husband, she tried to escape her emotions with food and other emotional escapes. She also felt confused about what her process of grieving looked like and what she thought it was supposed to look like. Like with most of us, she was only familiar with the 5 Stages of Grief and that just wasn't something that resonated with her.   So now, she's teaching her clients a different way. She's helping them find their own, personal ways through grief and teaching them better ways to cope with emotions besides eating food and other escapes.   And today, she's going to be sharing that with you.   I'm so excited to have her on the podcast, sharing her wisdom and knowledge. I've worked with many people who have experienced grief for various reasons and learning how to go through it without binge eating is extremely valuable.   So, I hope you enjoy listening to this conversation with Krista!     Interested in working with me? Go to http://www.coachkir.com/group to get all the information you need!   Find show notes and more information at https://coachkir.com/356         FEATURED IN THIS EPISODE   Awesome Free Stuff The Widowed Mom Podcast FREE DOWNLOAD: Memories That Matter

How can we embrace grief without comparison? How can you, as a therapist, compassionately embrace discomfort to support your grieving clients effectively? Why is having a community in healing so important? In this podcast episode, Joe Sanok speaks with Krista St-Germain, a certified grief counselor, whose husband was killed by a drunk driver.  Podcast Sponsor: […] The post Krista St-Germain's Husband was Killed by a Drunk Driver | POP 1202 appeared first on How to Start, Grow, and Scale a Private Practice | Practice of the Practice.

Krista St. Germain is a Post-Traumatic Growth and grief expert and host of the popular Widowed Moms Podcast, Krista has been able to take from her own experience and help thousands of widows navigate their lives after loss and not only survive, but thrive. Today, we chat about how grief is not linear, that the 5 stages are a myth, and how your brain is rewired through tragedy.Follow me on Instagram:Kathryn @kathryn_benkoHeart + Sole @heartandsolepodcastSole Fitness @sole_fitnessFollow Krista on Instagram: @lifecoachkristaCheck out her website HERE!Listen to her podcast HERE!Subscribe to our new YouTube Channel and WATCH all episodes!

In this deeply moving episode of Invisible Scars, Jessalynn sits down with grief expert and widowed mom coach, Krista St-Germain, to unravel the complex and often misunderstood experience of grief. From the sudden, tragic loss of her husband to building a powerful coaching practice that helps others navigate their own pain, Krista shares how grief is not just about death—it's about any loss that disrupts our sense of self and safety.Together, Jessalynn and Krista discuss why the five stages of grief don't apply to most people, how trauma and grief live in our bodies, and why healing is not about "getting over it"—but learning to live alongside the pain. This conversation will speak to anyone who has felt stuck in their grief, questioned their healing, or struggled with feeling like their pain wasn't "big enough" to matter.You'll learn about tools like tapping, the importance of nervous system regulation, and how connection and community can play a transformative role in the healing process. Whether you're grieving a person, a past, or a part of yourself—you are not alone, and this episode will leave you feeling seen, supported, and hopeful.Connect with Krista St-Germain:Website: www.coachingwithkrista.comInstagram: @lifecoachkristaPodcast: The Widowed Mom Podcast — Listen on Apple Podcasts | Listen on Spotify✨ Thank you for tuning in to this episode of Invisible Scars! ✨ If you enjoyed this conversation, make sure to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast—it helps us reach more people who need these stories.

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Grief isn't just about five stages—it's messy, personal, and ever-evolving. If you've ever felt like you weren't “grieving the right way” or struggled to make sense of your emotions after loss, this episode is for you. Krista St-Germain joins us to break down the myths about grief and explore what truly helps us heal. From the Dual Process Model to Continuing Bonds, we're diving deep into the realities of loss, why “moving on” is a harmful misconception, and how we can integrate grief into our lives in meaningful ways. Tune in for a powerful conversation that will change the way you think about grief—and, more importantly, how you support yourself and others through it. Resources Mentioned In This Episode Read the full show notes here Use the promo code "GORDON" to get 2 months of Therapy Notes free Website Design Packages from Inflow Start Consulting with Gordon The PsychCraft Network The Practice of Therapy Community Google Ads for Therapists Mental Health Wear TN Meet Krista St-Germain Krista St-Germain is a Master Certified Life Coach, grief expert, widow, mom and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista's life was completely and unexpectedly flipped upside down. After therapy helped her unfurl from the fetal position, Krista discovered Life Coaching, Post Traumatic Growth and learned the tools she needed to move forward and create a future she could get excited about. Now she coaches and teaches other widows so they can love life again, too. Krista's Resources Krista's Website Get your FREE download of Memories that Matter today! The Widowed Mom Podcast

Krista St-Germain, widow, mom, and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast, debunks the most common myth about grief, as well as shares what practices seem to be most effective for grieving —including what's helped her navigate the loss of her then-husband.Full episode with Krista St-Germain: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/2fc9f314/rethinking-the-5-stages-of-grief-with-krista-st-germainYou can support the podcast here (plus, vote on topics, submit questions for guests, and more!): https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Send us a textNone of us get through this life without experiencing grief and loss. The question is, how do we work through that loss and come to believe that we can actually love our lives again? My special guest today is Krista St-Germain, who knows firsthand what it means to face unimaginable loss since tragically and unexpectedly losing her spouse in 2016, leaving her with a title she never thought she'd have: widow. Now a Post-Traumatic Growth and grief expert, life coach, and host of the Widowed Moms Podcast, Krista has been able to take from her own experience and help hundreds of widows navigate their lives after loss and not only survive but thrive and love their lives. In this episode, we're going to dive deep into grief and loss - How do we navigate all the feelings?What the biggest myths about grief are.What post-traumatic growth is, and how this can make a huge difference in our healing process.How we can support our kids through grief and loss.And how we can come to not just survive but thrive.Where to find Krista and Resource Shared:Website: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachkrista/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coachingwithkrista/Free Download: Support the showCheck out our Moms of Tweens and Teens website HERESign up for our Moms of Tweens and Teens newsletter HERE Find more encouragement, wisdom, and resources: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/momsoftweensandteens/ Join our Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Momsoftweensandteens Find awesome resources on MOTTs University: https://www.mottsuniversity.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/momsoftweensandteens/ Sheryl also has an Inner Circle weekly Parenting Program with a community of like-minded moms, personal coaching, and tons of resources to equip and support you to love well, navigate the challenges and meet your tween and teen's unique needs during these pivotal years. Get on the waitlist to get all the details and to be the first to know when it opens! https://momsoftweensandteens.lpages.co/waiting-list-for-membe...

When Krista St-Germain's husband was killed on the side of the road, her life shattered in an instant. Left to navigate unimaginable grief, she quickly realized something shocking—most of what we believe about grief is completely wrong. Now, as a Certified Life Coach, Post-Traumatic Growth and grief expert, widow, mom, and podcaster, Krista has made it her mission to help others process loss in a way that actually helps, rather than harms. In this episode, Krista shares three powerful ways to support a grieving friend or loved one—including why simply witnessing their grief is far more meaningful than trying to "fix" it. She also debunks one of the biggest myths about grief: the five stages of grief were never actually about losing a loved one! Originally developed for terminally ill patients coming to terms with their own mortality, this outdated framework often does more harm than good. If you've ever struggled with what to say—or not say—to someone going through loss, this episode is for you. It's raw, eye-opening, and will change the way you show up for the people you love. Resources We Shared: Learn more about Krista HERE Dougy.org- Grief resources for children Get on the email list for the 2025 virtual Happy Mom Summit happening March 3rd-7th to get more strategies on finding your mom-life balance.  Get our Stop Doing Checklist absolutely FREE, so you can start taking tasks off your plate today! Join our FREE No Guilt Mom Podcast group Visit No Guilt Mom Check out our No Guilt Mom Amazon Shop with recommended books and books from podcast guests HERE! Rate & Review the No Guilt Mom Podcast on Apple here. We'd love to hear your thoughts on the podcast! Listen on Spotify? You can rate us there too! Check out our favorite deals and discounts from our amazing sponsors here! Interested in podcast sponsorship? Contact Adalysit Media. #parentingpodcast, #parentingtips, #selfcare, #mentalload, #kids, #teenager, #toddler, #preschooler, #baby, #grief, #griefsupport, #loss, #coping, #posttraumaticgrowth, #copingstrategies, #trauma Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if trauma didn't just break us but could also shape us in powerful ways? In this thought-provoking episode, Krista St-Germain and Gabe Howard dive into the complex world of post-traumatic growth — exploring how some people emerge from life's darkest moments with deeper purpose, stronger connections, and realigned values. This concept, however, isn't about being “grateful” for suffering. It's about rejecting toxic positivity, confronting internal conflicts, and embracing intentional choices. Discover how curiosity, authenticity, and self-reflection can guide you from surviving to thriving — without minimizing pain. If you've ever wondered whether growth after trauma is possible (or how it really works), this episode will change the way you think about resilience. “My husband died when I was 40. He was killed by a drunk driver. And that was the most awful thing I ever experienced, right? Bar none. I didn't want it to happen. I'm not grateful that it happened. I used to think that in order to experience post-traumatic growth, when I first learned about it, that would mean I would have to be happy that it happened, 100%, no! Right? No, not at all.” ~Krista St-Germain To learn more -- or read the transcript -- please visit the official episode page. Our guest, Krista St-Germain, is a Master Certified Life Coach, Post-Traumatic Growth and grief expert, widow, mom and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista's life was completely and unexpectedly flipped upside down. After therapy helped her uncurl from the fetal position, Krista discovered Life Coaching, Post-Traumatic Growth and learned the tools she needed to move forward and create a future she could get excited about. Now she coaches and teaches other widows so they can love life again, too. Krista has been featured online and in print in Psychology Today, Medium, Thrive Global, Bustle, Psych Central, and Parents Magazine and on select podcasts such as The SelfWork Podcast, Seek The Joy, Life Check Yourself, and You Need A Budget to name a few. Our host, Gabe Howard, is an award-winning writer and speaker who lives with bipolar disorder. He is the author of the popular book, "Mental Illness is an Asshole and other Observations," available from Amazon; signed copies are also available directly from the author. Gabe makes his home in the suburbs of Columbus, Ohio. He lives with his supportive wife, Kendall, and a Miniature Schnauzer dog that he never wanted, but now can't imagine life without. To book Gabe for your next event or learn more about him, please visit gabehoward.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lesley Logan and Brad Crowell revisit powerful moments on relationships from the Be It Till You See It archives. Featuring insights on divorce, grief, narcissism, and harmony, this curated episode offers actionable advice to foster deeper bonds and inspire transformation. Whether you're discovering new episodes or revisiting old favorites, this compilation will empower you to Be It Till You See It in your relationships.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:Renee Bauer shares how embracing her divorce story led to empowerment and connection.Krista St-Germain explains how Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) helps process grief and calm the nervous system.Rebecca Zung reframes narcissistic relationships, focusing on recognizing your value.Kelli Adame highlights the importance of setting boundaries and understanding your feelings for healthier relationships.Episode References/Links:Ep. 217 with Renee Bauer - https://beitpod.com/ep217Ep. 235 with Krista St-Germain - https://beitpod.com/ep235Ep. 268 with Rebecca Zung - https://beitpod.com/ep268Ep. 280 Kelli Adame Williams - https://beitpod.com/ep280Renee Bauer Website and Podcast https://msreneebauer.com/Krita St-Germain Website https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/Rebecca Zung's Website – https://www.rebeccazung.com/Kelli Adame Website - https://kelliadame.com/meet-kelli/Kelli Adame Website - https://www.lovebravelyacademy.com/ If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox. DEALS! DEALS! DEALS! DEALS!Check out all our Preferred Vendors & Special Deals from Clair Sparrow, Sensate, Lyfefuel BeeKeeper's Naturals, Sauna Space, HigherDose, AG1 and ToeSox Be in the know with all the workshops at OPCBe It Till You See It Podcast SurveyBe a part of Lesley's Pilates MentorshipFREE Ditching Busy Webinar Resources:Watch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable Pilates Follow Us on Social Media:InstagramThe Be It Till You See It Podcast YouTube channelFacebookLinkedInThe OPC YouTube Channel Episode Transcript:Lesley Logan 0:00  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started. Lesley Logan 0:42  Hi, Be It babe. Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It interview, not recap, but episodes, recaps. Brad Crowell 0:48  What? Lesley Logan 0:49  What? What are we doing here? Well. Brad Crowell 0:50  We're changing it up. Lesley Logan 0:51  We're changing it up for December, and we're figuring it out as we go along. But actually, the team has prepared really epic episodes for you for all month long, and today's episode is some of our favorite relationship episodes. So we're actually going to have four different clips for you from some of our favorite guests who have something to say about relationships. Brad Crowell 1:09  Yeah, yeah. So we're going to dig in. Lesley Logan 1:11  So whether you're single or not, there's actually probably a clip in here for you. And we know that we just, I mentioned this is episode 457, which means there's a couple 100 episodes of interviews, and if you just are joining us now, you might not have listened to all of those. So what our hope is this month is that by clipping some of our favorite parts of different topics, that it might take you to a direct episode that's going to really work with what you need and where you're at. So today's episode is on relationship, but we'll have grief, we'll have divorce, we'll have masculine and feminine energy guests. We actually have one about narcissism. So you know, relationships is a broad topic. So you can be single or in a relationship, and you could be super happy and still have some clip in here that might resonate with you. So here we go.Lesley Logan 1:59  All right. Loves our first clip we have for you is from our guest Renee Bauer, back in Episode 217. The topic is on divorce, and one of the parts I really loved, and I want you to hear is about just owning it.Brad Crowell 2:11  Yeah and the second part that we really liked in this episode was about finding your tribe. So here we go. Renee Bauer 2:23  I had gone on a friend's podcast and she started, she said, I'm gonna interview you. I'll bring sushi over. We'll have a couple martinis. It'll be all good. So she did that. I'm like, ooh, sushi, okay. I'm in. We poured the martini. She clipped on the mic and she started asking me about my divorce and maybe I was a little buzzed, but I actually started answering really honestly. And when that episode came out, people had reached out to me to say like, hey, that was my story too. Thank you for speaking so vulnerably about it. And that's when I realized I need to talk about this and not be ashamed about it. And so now, now it's like, it's second nature to just, to be like, yeah, I'm divorced twice, so what? You know? And so it was, it was sharing it, and I think so often, People don't wanna share that. And they're almost like, apologize. It's like, you know, the whisper like, oh, I'm divorced, or I'm twice divorced. And it's like, just own it. Be like, you know what? I was in two relationships that didn't work out and I made the brave decision to leave that because I wanted more from our family, for us, for our kids. And you know, that's okay. Find your tribe. Find a support system that may not include friends and family. So those people who are around you now, they're really well intentioned, but they may not be the best person to go to. So find a community of people, and there's so many of them out there in this world, and like, I have a private Facebook group for divorced women, but find a really positive tribe of people who get what you're going through so you don't feel so alone in it.Lesley Logan 4:00  All right, so now we're going to talk about the topic of grief. And Krista St-Germain from Episode 235, one of the most beautiful episodes we have. Honestly, I actually think about this episode a lot, because we happen to lose people in our lives all the time, but this particular one was about how she lost her spouse, and she talks about the Emotional Freedom Technique. And I think this is a really cool technique that we can all use no matter where we are in our lives. So. Brad Crowell 4:25  Yeah, that's EFT, if you're not familiar. Lesley Logan 4:27  Yeah, tap away.Krista St-Germain 4:34  This was hard for me because I have lots of ideas, and so I'm just going to go with one. So I'm a big fan of tapping, Emotional Freedom Technique. So thankfully, I had tapping in my pocket before my husband died. I already knew how to do it, and I knew how, and I had used it with my children when they were very little, and they were 12 and nine when Hugo died, so they had to use it for a number of years. But I love tapping because it creates calm in the nervous system and it allows us to let feelings flow through. It's great for grief grenades, right? Any sort of triggering situation where our nervous system is responding as though we are unsafe. So for me, the sound of metal crashing, CPR scenes, sirens, right, things like that. Tapping helped me in the moment when my nervous system was just tripping out. And then it also helped me to work with someone who could help me go back and neutralize those triggers so that when I remembered them or encountered them in my environment, my nervous system stopped thinking I was in danger, right? So I am a big proponent of that. You can just go to YouTube and learn all about tapping, right? You don't have to pay anyone to teach it to you.Brad Crowell 5:48  All right, y'all, I hope you found that super helpful and calming. EFT, the tapping technique to be able to pull out that tool and use that when you need it. All right. Next up, we got Episode 268, with Rebecca Zung, we are going to SLAY Your Way Out of a Narcissist. Okay? Lesley Logan 6:08  Yeah, I was so, this is like, when I, when Rebecca agreed to be on the pod, I was like, this is amazing. This is what all of our listeners need. And something that I think is, if you love this clip, I really hope you go back and listen to the full episode, because it will give you a lot of empowerment. If you were someone who's like, I always find, narcissists always find me. You will hear why they find you.Brad Crowell 6:29  Yeah, and I think there's a key in this, and it's value. And I, this hit home for me in a very real way. So this is a very powerful clip, and the episode is amazing. So here we go.Rebecca Zung 6:50  And I always remind people, they don't attach themselves to you because you have so little value. They attach themselves to you because you have so much value, even though they're devaluing you right away. They look for someone who's going to be a great source of supply for them, whether it's making them look good or giving them, you know, their ego looks good, because either with you or they are, you're going to be a great business partner for them because you're going to feed them a lot of things, or you're going to be a great romantic partner because you're either going to give them lots of adulation, or you look good on their arm, or you have lots of money, or whatever it's going to be, right? So they look for someone who's going to feed something within them, because they're so empty inside.Lesley Logan 7:51  All right. So that was Episode 268. Definitely go back and listen to that if you find narcissists have been finding you. Our last clip that we want to put in this relationship special is Episode 280, Create More Harmony in Your Relationship, with Kelli Adame Williams. We love Kelli Adame. We had so many people tell us how epic, she had two episodes on the podcast, actually, and I really, really enjoyed it. But the first one was really about kind of giving us permission to understand what we need and who we are, and also what we're saying yes to. So here is Episode 280 with Kelli Adame.Kelli Adame 8:41  So I tell women like, this is a good practice, like, don't do something, ask yourself, does this feel good to me? And if it doesn't, the answer is no, thank you. We're also so conditioned to say yes and to just do it. But then we can be resentful about that, then we can be passive aggressive about that. Then we can feel like, well, you owe me because I did this. No, you weren't, you weren't clear with you first. Does that make sense? Lesley Logan 9:06  Oh, yeah. Kelli Adame 9:07  That's the whole thing. To be in a healthy relationship, you have to be able to take personal responsibility for your behavior, your actions, your words, but you also have to know what you're feeling. Lesley Logan 9:16  Well, I hope this is really fun for you. I know that this is a very different way of the Be It Pod going, but our goal here is to, one, help you figure out which episodes in the past catalog might be helpful for you, but also just highlight some of our favorite takeaways, especially as the end of the year is here, there's so much chaos. You know, sometimes we need reminders of what we learned so we can take that information and take the next steps in our life to be it till we see it.Brad Crowell 9:41  Yeah. If you enjoyed this, let us know. We actually need to know. If you dug the change up today. Lesley Logan 9:46  Yeah, if you hated it, you can send us a message. If you loved it, you can leave a review. That's your Christmas present to us. Or, or, I heard a podcast say, still give us five stars, but then you can tell us you didn't like it in the review. That's fine, but the five stars is important.Brad Crowell 10:05  Well, thanks for listening, y'all and stick around. We've got a couple more fun episodes for you this month that are in a similar vein. Is this right? Lesley Logan 10:12  Yeah, we're gonna do our favorite health episodes, and we're gonna do, I think, our business tip ones. Brad Crowell 10:12  We got favorite tips, bold moments. Lesley Logan 10:22  Bold moments. Brad Crowell 10:23  Favorite biz Tips. Lesley Logan 10:24  You know what? You're just gonna really enjoy.Brad Crowell 10:26  Cool advice.Lesley Logan 10:26  This whole month. Brad Crowell 10:27  It's gonna be good. Lesley Logan 10:28  It's a potpourri.Brad Crowell 10:29  Oh, and then we have a special one on the 31st. Lesley Logan 10:32  Oh. Brad Crowell 10:33  Yeah. Lesley Logan 10:34  Okay, can I tell them? Brad Crowell 10:35  I think you might as well hint at it at least. Lesley Logan 10:37  I already, because I just interviewed them. We're gonna get your astrology reading for 2025 from the Mom & Me Astrologers, Kate and Mary Swick. So do not, don't skip ahead. You can't because it won't go to the 31st, but also, don't wait till it comes out. You gotta listen to all these little round ups we've got for you. I'm Lesley Logan. Brad Crowell 10:46  And I'm Brad Crowell. Lesley Logan 10:59  Thank you so much for listening. And until next time, you know what to do, Be It Till You See It. Brad Crowell 11:03  Bye for now. Lesley Logan 11:05  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review and follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcast. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the Be It Pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others Be It Till You See It. Have an awesome day. Be It Till You See It is a production of The Bloom Podcast Network. 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Please leave me feedback. I cannot respond so if you'd like me to respond, please leave your emailGrief. It can be big and it can be small, yet many of us yearn for a roadmap to help us navigate through it.Society often provides us with steps, timelines, and catchy phrases like "time heals all wounds." However, if you have experienced grief, you know it is much more complex than that.In this episode, I have a conversation with Krista St-Germain, a grief expert, life coach, and fellow podcaster, to discuss the journey of grief—something we all face at various points in our lives. Whether you've experienced a loss of a loved one, experienced the end of a relationship, or are navigating difficult life transitions like children leaving home or a job change, grief is an inevitable part of life, and most of us feel unprepared to handle it.Today you'll learn:  Why the 5 stages of grief may not be the best framework to guide you through.How grief encompasses more than just loss; it involves how you choose to respond to it.The distinction between primary and secondary grief and why it's important to know the difference?How to adjust your holiday traditions to better manage your current state.What “post-traumatic growth” is and how you can leverage your grief to move forward and create a more meaningful, purpose-driven life. How to allow yourself to experience all of your feelings without guilt or judgment.  Krista's personal story will resonate with you and provide guidance for taking your next steps forward. So pop in those earbuds so you can learn how to navigate your grief with grace this holiday season.With warmth,LaurieThese guides will help you take the next step in life. Click here to learn about my December's “Somatic Healing” class - RECOVERClick here for my FREE “Somatic Healing for Beginners Guide”Click here for my FREE Core Values ExerciseClick here to purchase my book: Sandwiched: A Memoir of Holding On and Letting GoSign up for my newsletter here to stay current on my upcoming offerings and podcast interviews!WebsiteClick here if you interested in learning more about Julie Reisler's Life Designer Coaching AcademyAbout Krista:Krista St-Germain is a Master Certified Life Coach, Post-Traumatic Growth and grief expert, widow, mom and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista's life was completely and unexpectedly flipped upside down. After therapy helped her uncurl from the fetal position, Krista discovered Life Coaching, Post Traumatic Growth and learned the tools she ne***************************************************************************************DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL, MEDICAL OR PROFESSIONAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT A LICENSED THERAPIST IF YOU ARE EXPERIENCING SUICIDAL THOUGHTS. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN LEGAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT A LICENSED MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL WITH RESPECT TO ANY MEDICAL ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Delanie Fischer is joined by Erika Martin, who shares about her dad's diagnosis with Lewy Body Dementia — how it's impacting her family, resources and logistics for immediate and long-term care, and how she's grieving and coping. If someone you love has been diagnosed with a terminal illness, this episode has so much to offer, and is part of our series, "Subscriber Stories."Plus:+ Finding The Right Support Group For You + Erika's Favorite Quote For Tough Days + 3 Things Helping Erika In Her Day-To-DayMore episodes related to this topic:When A Family Member Has Dementia with Kelsey Cook: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/24621f0a/when-a-family-member-has-dementia-with-kelsey-cookRethinking the 5 Stages of Grief with Krista St-Germain: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/2fc9f314/rethinking-the-5-stages-of-grief-with-krista-st-germainCaregiver Burnout: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/246fddd8/caregiver-burnoutCompounded Grief: Coping With Multiple Losses At Once with Stephanie Edwards: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/250aef7a/compounded-grief-coping-with-multiple-losses-at-once-with-stephanie-edwardsYou can join our Patreon community here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Why do we shy away from discussing the very thing that connects us all—loss? Krista St-Germain, certified grief coach and the host of The Widowed Mom podcast joins Sarah this week to talk about exactly that. Through her own journey of healing, she has become passionate about helping others reclaim joy and purpose after loss. Krista now specializes in working with widowed moms and anyone struggling with grief, guiding them to move forward in a healthy and empowered way.Listen to more podcasts like this: https://wavepodcastnetwork.com/This Changes Everything Voicemail: Send in your question by calling or texting ‪(313) 338-8828‬Listen to The Widowed Mom PodcastFollow Krista on Instagram: @lifecoachkristaFor more from Krista: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/Cancel your unwanted subscriptions by going to https://rocketmoney.com/TCESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

How do you navigate grief in the workplace in an empathic and supportive way? We all experience loss, and we might default to assuming the only place for grief is in the home. The truth is that a loss permeates every aspect of our lives, sometimes for years or even decades, and it certainly crosses into the workplace. Krista St-Germain experienced a devastating loss in 2016 when her husband was killed by an impaired driver. That trauma propelled her into grief, then therapy, then research. Today, she is the founder of the Mom Goes On group coaching program and the host of the Widowed Mom podcast. She shares her hard-won wisdom on what we need to know about grief and how to navigate it in the workplace, both for ourselves and in support of others.Question your assumptions about grief and learn to better support yourself or others who are navigating it, including:How we've come to misunderstand the grieving process;The role time plays when we are healing from a loss;How to navigate interactions with grieving coworkers;The possibilities of life beyond grieving and post-traumatic growth.Related Links:Learn more about Krista's work - https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/Follow Krista on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachkrista/Connect with Krista on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/coachingwithkristaThe Widowed Mom Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-widowed-mom-podcast/id1468127632The Grieving Brain by Mary-Frances O'Connor - https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-grieving-brain-the-surprising-science-of-how-we-learn-from-love-and-loss-mary-frances-o-connor/16976128?ean=9780062946249Report from the Death Studies Journal on the Dual Process Model - https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/10848151/Brené Brown - Silver Linings Clip - https://brenebrown.com/videos/rsa-short-empathy/On Death & Dying: What the Dying Have to Teach Doctors, Nurses, Clergy & Their Own Families by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross - https://bookshop.org/p/books/on-death-dying-what-the-dying-have-to-teach-doctors-nurses-clergy-their-own-families-elisabeth-kubler-ross/9165298?ean=9781476775548On Grief & Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross - https://bookshop.org/p/books/on-grief-grieving-finding-the-meaning-of-grief-through-the-five-stages-of-loss-david-kessler/6699869?ean=9781476775555Episode 468: Disrupting Elder Care: We Need To Talk More About Working Daughters - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode468LEVEL UP: a Leadership Accelerator for Women on the Rise - https://www.bossedup.org/levelupBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/emiliearies

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Krista St-Germain is a Master Certified Life Coach, grief expert, widow, mom and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista's life was completely and unexpectedly flipped upside down. After therapy helped her unfurl from the fetal position, Krista discovered Life Coaching, Post Traumatic Growth and learned the tools she needed to move forward and create a future she could get excited about. Now, she coaches and teaches other widows so they can love life again, too.In this episode, we cover:-5 stages of grief and why Krista thinks there's another way-dual process model-Dougy Center for Grieving Families-death of a parent/coparent-How to handle emotions you see in kids-Post traumatic growthTo connect with Krista:www.coachingwithkrista.comInstagramFacebookResources mentioned:Dougy Center for Grieving Families Grief Outloud PodcastWant a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

Many of us can think of grief as a heavy or tricky topic - which is why I am delighted for you to hear this conversation with Krista St-Germain, who works as a life coach for widowed moms. Krista shares her story of becoming a widowed mom at age 40, and how her personal journey has lead to a career addressing the myths and outdated ideas of grief. Her description of what post-traumatic growth can look like, including the ways to move beyond feeling "stuck" are relevant for you whether you have also lost a loved one, or are experiencing grief in the myriad of other ways it can show up in our lives.Connect with Krista:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachkrista/The Widowed Mom Podcast: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/podcast/Website: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/One of the concepts that comes up in this conversation is the idea of "right-sizing" a relationship that is currently not serving you. Creating Space is my new coaching program that is really about finding your unique way to "right-size" your relationship to your work in healthcare, so that the rest of your humanity has room to breathe and grow! Book a call with me to explore if this program is a good for you: joanchanmd.com/space

Navigating Stepfamily Life After Tragedy Strikes Today we are taking on a tough, but important, topic: picking yourself (and your stepfamily) back up after your worst nightmare comes to life. I'm talking to stepmom and grief expert Krista St-Germain, who moved through unthinkable tragedy to learn how to thrive again. She's got an inspiring outlook and some amazing insights for stepfamilies who may be dealing with grief. About Krista: Krista St-Germain is a Master Certified Life Coach, Post-Traumatic Growth and grief expert, widow, mom and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista's life was completely and unexpectedly flipped upside down. After therapy helped her uncurl from the fetal position, Krista discovered Life Coaching, Post Traumatic Growth and learned the tools she needed to move forward and create a future she could get excited about. Now she coaches and teaches other widows so they can love life again, too. Krista has been featured online and in print in Psychology Today, Medium, Thrive Global, Bustle, Psych Central, and Parents Magazine and on select podcasts such as The SelfWork Podcast, Seek The Joy, Life Check Yourself, and You Need A Budget to name a few. You Can Find Krista: On Instagram: @lifecoachkrista On her website, coachingwithkrista.com/ Links Mentioned In Today's Episode Krista is generously offering a course on navigating grief to our listeners for FREE - You can access it right HERE.   Got a question for me or something you're struggling with in your stepfamily life? Submit a question to be answered on a future podcast episode HERE Want to go deeper into coparenting, dealing with your partner's ex, finding your own peace, and other blended family challenges? Join the Stepfamily Circle HERE Are you enjoying The Stepmom Diaries? If so, please consider rating and reviewing the show. It will help me reach more stepmoms just like you so they can get MORE out of stepmom life! It's super easy – all you have to do is click HERE and scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “write a review.” Then just let me know what you like best! And the best part about leaving a review? If you send me a screenshot of your review, I'll send YOU my 20-minute Stepmom Self-Care Blueprint. For FREE. It's normally $49 and it's a great tool to quickly set up a self-care plan you'll actually use. Just head HERE to send me your screenshot and grab your blueprint!

It's hard to accept that grief is simply a part of every blended family's journey.  But that's your reality because everyone in your family has experienced some kind of loss along the way.If you aren't able to acknowledge grief and create a safe space to process through it, you'll miss out on valuable opportunities that lead to healing.In this episode, you'll discover a few truths about grief that you probably haven't considered before — plus the positive impact of allowing yourself and your kids to embrace your unique grief journey. Our special guest, Krista St-Germain, shares her personal experience of unexpected loss and critical realities that she's discovered about grief.  Krista's traumatic circumstances eventually led her on a journey of hope and healing.   As a life coach, she now devotes herself to equipping others with powerful tools to manage grief and love life again — and to help their kids do the same. Understanding the impact of loss and grief and creating opportunities to heal together is essential for blended families.  That's why we're excited to welcome Krista to the show!You'll Discover:How to normalize what's normal about loss and grief The reality of grief being a natural human response to a perceived lossHow to help your kids acknowledge and process griefWhat is trauma and post-traumatic growthResources from this Episode:Click this link to Connect with Krista St-GermainEpisode 168. Actionable Steps for Helping Kids Navigate Through Difficult Emotions and Problem Solve Episode  132.  How Does Loss and Grief Impact Blended Family Integration?Ready for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

In this episode, Lori, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, speaks with Krista St-Germain about navigating grief as a stepparent. As a widow, stepkid, and stepparent, Krista shares her journey and wisdom. Her stepdad stayed in his lane and her stepmom was a little more authoritative.  In this episode, we discuss the following: Supporting a partner when you have different parenting views Secondary losses Five stages of grief  Time in relation to grief Respecting previous relationships Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: “I can't believe how much better our lives are because of Nacho Parenting!” ~ E.V.  

Understanding Grief with Krista St. Germain Hosts: Amanda Dinsmore, Laura Cazier, Kendra Morrison Guest: Krista St. Germain - Widow, Master Certified Life Coach, Post-Traumatic Growth and Grief Expert, Host of the Widowed Moms Podcast Introduction:In this episode, Amanda, Laura, and Kendra welcome Krista St. Germain to the show. Physicians often encounter patients on their worst days, yet they find themselves unprepared to handle grief, whether it's their patients', their families', or even their own. Krista, a grief expert, shares her personal journey and professional insights on understanding and dealing with grief. Key Topics Discussed: 1. Krista's Personal Story: - Krista shares her experience of losing her husband in a tragic accident and how it led her to become a grief coach. - The importance of having accurate information about grief to reduce suffering. 2. The Myth of the Five Stages of Grief: - Origins of the five stages of grief by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross and how it was intended for those facing terminal diagnoses. - Misconceptions and misapplications of the five stages model in modern grief understanding. 3. Broader Definition of Grief: - Expanding the understanding of grief beyond bereavement to any perceived loss. - Recognizing that grief is a natural response and not something to be "solved." 4. Supporting Patients in Grief: - The importance of being present and validating the grieving person's feelings rather than trying to fix or minimize their pain. - Extending grace to oneself and others when discussing grief. 5. Physicians Handling Their Own Grief: - The challenges doctors face in dealing with their grief due to the nature of their work. - Tips for doctors to start processing their feelings, including small steps and finding a balance between feeling emotions and taking breaks. 6. Post-Traumatic Growth: - Introduction to the concept of post-traumatic growth and how it differs from post-traumatic stress. - How traumatic experiences can lead to positive psychological changes and personal growth. 7. Dual Process Model of Grief: - Explanation of the dual process model which involves oscillation between loss-oriented and restoration-oriented activities. - The importance of allowing oneself both to grieve and to take breaks from grieving. Resources:- Krista St. Germain's Podcast: The Widowed Mom Podcast- Krista St. Germain's Website: Coaching with Krista for more information on grief coaching and resources.- The Whole Physician's Wellness 911 Program: www.thewholephysician.com for information on the Wellness 911 program to help demoralized doctors go from fried to fantastic. Closing Thoughts:The hosts thank Krista for her valuable insights and for helping to normalize conversations about grief. They emphasize the importance of talking about grief to improve the experience for those who are going through it. Call to Action:For more information about Wellness 911, visit The Whole Physician. Remember, you are whole, you are a gift to medicine, and the work you do matters. Disclaimer: The content of this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition.

Grief is a topic that can be hard to discuss and hard to understand. It is so personal, and yet almost everyone will experience some degree of grief in their lifetime. Those suffering from concussions and post concussion symptoms are no exception. The loss they experience can be profound. This discussion addresses how grief can present itself, what strategies can be helpful in processing it, how loved ones can support someone in grief, and what post-traumatic growth is. My guests are experts in grief, through study and personal experience. Krista St-Germain is a master certified life coach whose experience losing her husband set her on a path that has led to her creating a program that helps widowed moms love their life again. Becky Barnett is a widowed mom (who is in Krista's program and loves it and recommends it highly) who has 3 daughters who have concussions and has experience with grief in the loss of her husband and in the experience of her daughters' concussions. If you would like to hear more from Krista or work with her in her Mom Goes On program, you can find her at www.coachingwithkrista.com. She also has a podcast called "The Widowed Mom Podcast" https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/category/podcast/ If you would like to sign up for a free concussion coaching consultation with me to learn how you can understand & manage your symptoms, speed up your recovery, and get your life back following a concussion, go to my website, www.theconcussioncoach.com, or click on this link: https://theconcussioncoach.com/contact

Krista St-Germain shares her journey with grief following the death of her husband by a drunken driver. She explains how the commonly referenced five stages of grief are inadequate – if not outright inaccurate – for many people's experiences. She discusses alternative grief theories, such as the dual process model, and introduces the concepts of “grief plateau” and “grief fog,” highlighting the complexity and uniqueness of each person's experience of grief. In her work as a grief expert, Krista advocates for a more individualized approach to grief, emphasizing the process of integration and post-traumatic growth rather than just “moving on” or reaching acceptance. She is a master certified life coach, a post-traumatic growth and grief expert, widow, mom, and the host of “The Widowed Mom Podcast.” To learn more -- or read the transcript -- please visit the episode page. Our guest, Krista St-Germain, is a Master Certified Life Coach, Post-Traumatic Growth and grief expert, widow, mom and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista's life was completely and unexpectedly flipped upside down. After therapy helped her uncurl from the fetal position, Krista discovered Life Coaching, Post Traumatic Growth and learned the tools she needed to move forward and create a future she could get excited about. Now she coaches and teaches other widows so they can love life again, too. Krista has been featured online and in print in Psychology Today, Medium, Thrive Global, Bustle, Psych Central, and Parents Magazine and on select podcasts such as The SelfWork Podcast, Seek The Joy, Life Check Yourself, and You Need A Budget to name a few.  Our host, Gabe Howard, is an award-winning writer and speaker who lives with bipolar disorder. He is the author of the popular book, "Mental Illness is an Asshole and other Observations," available from Amazon; signed copies are also available directly from the author. Gabe makes his home in the suburbs of Columbus, Ohio. He lives with his supportive wife, Kendall, and a Miniature Schnauzer dog that he never wanted, but now can't imagine life without. To book Gabe for your next event or learn more about him, please visit gabehoward.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Has someone you love passed away and are you struggling to work out how to deal with their belongings? In this podcast we talk with grief expert Krista St-Germain. Krista is here to talk amongst other things about showing yourself grace while making the right choices for you when you have lost someone. Trigger warning - in this podcast we talk about grief and the death of a loved one. Guest links Krista on Facebook Krista on Instagram Krista Website Mentioned in this episode: Episode 96 – Decluttering after someone has died Episode 249 – Clearing the home of someone who has passed away Episode 58 – Making space to grieve with guest Julia Kirby About the Declutter Hub Podcast We're Ingrid and Lesley and are super excited you're here! If you're sick to the back teeth of clutter dictating your home life then we are here to help you get control back and spend your valuable time doing the things you want and not shuffling piles of stuff around 24/7. We have been decluttering and organising homes face to face and online for over 24 years together and have helped thousands of members and clients to regain the home of their dreams.  We have a passion for people, practicality, and piles of paper and love nothing better than to carve out solutions for anyone overwhelmed with clutter. If that's you, you're in the right place. Our podcast is packed with actionable tips, inspiration and motivation to get your decluttering done. We believe decluttering is all about emotions first, stuff second. Tune in, subscribe and enjoy! New episodes every Friday. Get in touch We'd love to hear from you. We have so many ways that you can reach out to us to say hello. Our Free Facebook Group - The Declutter Hub Community - emotions based decluttering Instagram - @declutterhub Website - Declutterhub.com Our Membership - members.declutterhub.com Email - support@declutterhub.com Donate & Support the Podcast We have set ourselves up on Buy Me A Coffee, meaning that if you enjoy the podcast and our episodes you can give us a one-off donation to support us. We are totally committed to our free weekly content but if you would like to show us some love, that would be most appreciated. Buy Me A Coffee Can you spare 5 minutes of your day to leave us a review? Your reviews mean the podcast can be found more easily which in turn will mean more people can get the benefit of our decluttering advice. You can share a review on your chosen podcast player. Don't forget to hit follow or subscribe too. The Declutter Hub 2024   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today we are approaching a hard topic: Grief. While it's hard to talk about, it is important. Many of us don't even want to think about what my guest, Krista, experienced through losing her husband, but for many others, it is a reality. Krista now helps other women struggling through loss, and today she shares about her story, post traumatic growth, and how stuff, clutter, and decluttering plays a role in the grieving process. Links: Minimal-ish Collective/ Minimal-ish + Coffee Podcast Krista on Instagram Krista's Website The Widowed Mom Podcast Grief Plateau Quiz Desirae on Instagram Minimalish Podcast Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join Ned Buskirk in conversation with Krista St-Germain, Master Certified Life Coach, Post-Traumatic Growth and grief expert, widow, and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast, while they talk about her husband's death in 2016, how her life was flipped upside down, and how therapy helped her uncurl from the fetal position and move on to discover Life Coaching, Post Traumatic Growth, and the tools she needed to create a meaningful life after loss.krista st-germain's website: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/Produced by Nick JainaSoundscaping by Nick Jaina”YG2D Podcast Theme Song” by Nick JainaTHIS PODCAST IS MADE POSSIBLE WITH SUPPORT FROM LISTENERS LIKE YOU.Become a podcast patron now at https://www.patreon.com/YG2D.

Welcome to "Shit Talking Shrinks," I'm your host Paulie Siegel, a Licensed therapist, Certified Addiction Counselor and master-level trained mindfulness practitioner with a passion for psychology, humor, and insightful journeys through the realm of mental wellness. Join me as we explore the depths of the human mind, unraveling complexities while keeping it lighthearted.In this episode, I'm thrilled to be joined by Krista St-Germain, a Master Certified Life Coach, grief expert, widow, and mom. Krista has also created a powerful group coaching program for widows called "Mom Goes On," and in this episode, we talk all about the profound topic of grief. We explore the nuances of perceived loss, examining how grief manifests for individuals and discussing meaningful ways to offer support to those navigating this challenging journey. Additionally, our conversation extends to the themes of death and bereavement, shedding light on these crucial aspects of the human experience. Join me on a poignant, yet lighthearted exploration of the human mind and the resilience that emerges in the face of grief.Learn more about Krista's work here.Follow Krista on Instagram: @lifecoachkristaConnect with Krista on Facebook: @coachingwithkristaIf you want to work with me therapeutically and live in CO or ILhttps://www.courageouspathscounseling.comNeed quality therapy ASAP?! Receive 10% off your first month by clicking this link

Today, I'm speaking with Krista St-Germain. Krista is a Master Certified Life Coach, grief expert, and host of the Widowed Mom Podcast, where she specializes in helping widows move forward and love their life again. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver just 3 ½ months after their wedding, her life was flipped upside down. As she worked through her loss, she realized that she can leverage her loss to make her life better and has helped others do the same. Her Moms Go On program has given hundreds of widowed moms the tools they need to create futures they can get excited about. In today's conversation, we dig into the biggest reasons people avoid talking about grief, the magic that can be found in post-traumatic growth and how grief doesn't always work in the 5 stages that we've always heard about.  GET A FREE ACCESS TO KRISTA'S ONLINE WIDOW GRIEF COURSE Here's all you have to do... Step 1.) Subscribe to the podcast and leave an honest rating & review over on iTunes. Step 2.) Text the word GRIEF to 866-482-9559 and we'll make sure you get signed up for free. It's that simple! In this podcast interview, you'll learn: Why grief is so much more than just the feeling of bereavement.  How traumatic loss gives us the power to redefine our lives, find new meaning, and live more authentically. Why Krista believes that the five stages of grief (DABDA) has become outdated, and what it means to truly and authentically navigate grief and the ways it affects our lives. What Krista would've done differently to prepare for traumatic loss. How to rethink our relationship to money as we navigate grief.  What–and what not–to say to people who have lost loved ones.  Show Notes: RetireWithPurpose.com/413 Rate & Review the Podcast: RetireWithPurpose.com/review Sign Up to Casey's Weekend Reading Email! Sifting through the copious amount of conflicting financial advice and retirement information can be daunting - but it doesn't have to be! Each week, Casey makes it super easy. He hand-picks 4 of the most important articles you need to read, that are beneficial to you whether you're at, near, or in retirement! If you want them sent straight to your inbox, sign up by visiting RetireWithPurpose.com/weekend-reading

After losing her husband to a drunk driver in 2016, Krista St-Germain's life was forever altered. More than 5 years later, Krista now serves a network of over 18K widows while being a mom, grief expert, and host of the Widowed Moms Podcast. In this interview, Krista St-Germain shares her personal journey as a widowed mom and how she helps others navigate grief. She discusses the process of going through possessions and belongings after the loss of a loved one and offers advice on making decisions without regret. Krista emphasizes the importance of allowing all emotions and finding happiness again. She also highlights the benefits of coaching and the power of community support.TAKEAWAYSGrief is a complex process that involves a range of emotions, and it is important to allow oneself to experience and process these emotions.When going through the belongings of a loved one who has passed away, it is helpful to start with less emotionally charged items and take it at a pace that feels manageable.There is no right or wrong way to grieve or make decisions about possessions. It is important to be kind to oneself and not worry about what others may think.Supporting someone who is grieving involves being present, listening without judgment, and offering practical help and acts of service.It is important to have conversations about difficult topics and provide support for those going through grief.------------------------------Links Discussed in This EpisodeOrder a Copy of Minimalist Moms: Living and Parenting with SimplicitySubstack: Minimalist Moms PodcastBook: Smoke Gets In Your Eyes by Caitlin DoughertyConnect with Krista:WebsiteInstagramPodcast: The Widowed Mom PodcastEnjoy this Podcast?Post a review and share it! If you enjoyed tuning into this podcast, then do not hesitate to write a review. You can also share this with your fellow mothers so that they can be inspired to think more and do with less. Order (or review) my book, Minimalist Moms: Living & Parenting With SimplicityQuestions? You can contact me through my website, find me on Instagram, or like The Minimalist Moms Page on Facebook.Thanks for listening! For more updates and episodes, visit the website. You may also tune in on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, or Stitcher.Checkout the Minimalist Moms Podcast storefront for recommendations from Diane.If you enjoyed today's episode of the Minimalist Moms Podcast, then hit subscribe and share it with your friends!Episode Sponsors |The Minimalist Moms Podcast would not be possible without the support of weekly sponsors. Choosing brands that I believe in is important to me. I only want to recommend brands that I believe may help you in your daily life. As always, never feel pressured into buying anything. Remember: if you don't need it, it's not a good deal!Factor | Head to FactorMeals.com/momminimalist50 and use code MOMMINIMALIST50 to get 50% off.Storyworth |Our Sponsors:* Check out Greenlight and use my code minimalist for a great deal: https://greenlight.com/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/minimalist-moms-podcast2093/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We are joined by Krista St-Germain, Master Certified Life Coach, Post-Traumatic Growth and grief expert, widow, mom, and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. Krista opens up about the loss of her husband, the range of grief she's experienced since, and the simple shifts that can help us process and heal. She also shares why we need to rethink the 5 stages of grief, what she dislikes about some mainstream concepts about the grieving process, and how to let go of guilt around experiencing joy after loss. For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com Kelsey's Tour Dates: https://www.kelseycook.com Sales and distribution by Lemonada Media.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We've all experienced loss and grief at some point in our lives. And while we may hear that there's a set number of steps to go through or a timeline to follow, grief doesn't really ever end. But, you do get to decide who you want to be after the loss. I'm joined by Krista St-Germain, Master Certified Coach and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast, this week on the podcast as we discuss how the socialization of women in our society affects the way that we grieve, what post-traumatic growth is (and how not to use it against yourself), and how you can get over the grief plateau and learn to be truly happy again.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/288