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JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP HERE and join us this Saturday, June 14th at 10am PST/ 12pm Central / 1pm EST and make progress with your decluttering! In this powerful and heart-centered episode, Amber is joined by grief coach and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast, Krista St-Germain. Together, they explore the emotional weight of clutter, the power of post-traumatic growth, and the hidden role of grief and disappointment in our relationship with our homes and ourselves. Krista shares her personal journey from aviation project manager to grief coach after the tragic loss of her husband, and how that experience reshaped her understanding of emotional healing. Hope this helps you!  Do not hesitate to reach out if you have questions: amber@declutteryourchaos.com  XO, Amber   Please join us in the free facebook group: Join the free Declutter Your Chaos Community here

JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP HERE and join us this Saturday, June 14th at 10am PST/ 12pm Central / 1pm EST and make progress with your decluttering! In this powerful and heart-centered episode, Amber is joined by grief coach and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast, Krista St-Germain. Together, they explore the emotional weight of clutter, the power of post-traumatic growth, and the hidden role of grief and disappointment in our relationship with our homes and ourselves. Krista shares her personal journey from aviation project manager to grief coach after the tragic loss of her husband, and how that experience reshaped her understanding of emotional healing. Hope this helps you!  Do not hesitate to reach out if you have questions: amber@declutteryourchaos.com  XO, Amber   Please join us in the free facebook group: Join the free Declutter Your Chaos Community here

  In today's episode, I'm talking with Krista St-Germain, a grief coach who coaches Widowed Moms.   After the sudden loss of her husband, she tried to escape her emotions with food and other emotional escapes. She also felt confused about what her process of grieving looked like and what she thought it was supposed to look like. Like with most of us, she was only familiar with the 5 Stages of Grief and that just wasn't something that resonated with her.   So now, she's teaching her clients a different way. She's helping them find their own, personal ways through grief and teaching them better ways to cope with emotions besides eating food and other escapes.   And today, she's going to be sharing that with you.   I'm so excited to have her on the podcast, sharing her wisdom and knowledge. I've worked with many people who have experienced grief for various reasons and learning how to go through it without binge eating is extremely valuable.   So, I hope you enjoy listening to this conversation with Krista!     Interested in working with me? Go to http://www.coachkir.com/group to get all the information you need!   Find show notes and more information at https://coachkir.com/356         FEATURED IN THIS EPISODE   Awesome Free Stuff The Widowed Mom Podcast FREE DOWNLOAD: Memories That Matter

How can we embrace grief without comparison? How can you, as a therapist, compassionately embrace discomfort to support your grieving clients effectively? Why is having a community in healing so important? In this podcast episode, Joe Sanok speaks with Krista St-Germain, a certified grief counselor, whose husband was killed by a drunk driver.  Podcast Sponsor: […] The post Krista St-Germain's Husband was Killed by a Drunk Driver | POP 1202 appeared first on How to Start, Grow, and Scale a Private Practice | Practice of the Practice.

Krista St. Germain is a Post-Traumatic Growth and grief expert and host of the popular Widowed Moms Podcast, Krista has been able to take from her own experience and help thousands of widows navigate their lives after loss and not only survive, but thrive. Today, we chat about how grief is not linear, that the 5 stages are a myth, and how your brain is rewired through tragedy.Follow me on Instagram:Kathryn @kathryn_benkoHeart + Sole @heartandsolepodcastSole Fitness @sole_fitnessFollow Krista on Instagram: @lifecoachkristaCheck out her website HERE!Listen to her podcast HERE!Subscribe to our new YouTube Channel and WATCH all episodes!

In this deeply moving episode of Invisible Scars, Jessalynn sits down with grief expert and widowed mom coach, Krista St-Germain, to unravel the complex and often misunderstood experience of grief. From the sudden, tragic loss of her husband to building a powerful coaching practice that helps others navigate their own pain, Krista shares how grief is not just about death—it's about any loss that disrupts our sense of self and safety.Together, Jessalynn and Krista discuss why the five stages of grief don't apply to most people, how trauma and grief live in our bodies, and why healing is not about "getting over it"—but learning to live alongside the pain. This conversation will speak to anyone who has felt stuck in their grief, questioned their healing, or struggled with feeling like their pain wasn't "big enough" to matter.You'll learn about tools like tapping, the importance of nervous system regulation, and how connection and community can play a transformative role in the healing process. Whether you're grieving a person, a past, or a part of yourself—you are not alone, and this episode will leave you feeling seen, supported, and hopeful.Connect with Krista St-Germain:Website: www.coachingwithkrista.comInstagram: @lifecoachkristaPodcast: The Widowed Mom Podcast — Listen on Apple Podcasts | Listen on Spotify✨ Thank you for tuning in to this episode of Invisible Scars! ✨ If you enjoyed this conversation, make sure to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast—it helps us reach more people who need these stories.

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Grief isn't just about five stages—it's messy, personal, and ever-evolving. If you've ever felt like you weren't “grieving the right way” or struggled to make sense of your emotions after loss, this episode is for you. Krista St-Germain joins us to break down the myths about grief and explore what truly helps us heal. From the Dual Process Model to Continuing Bonds, we're diving deep into the realities of loss, why “moving on” is a harmful misconception, and how we can integrate grief into our lives in meaningful ways. Tune in for a powerful conversation that will change the way you think about grief—and, more importantly, how you support yourself and others through it. Resources Mentioned In This Episode Read the full show notes here Use the promo code "GORDON" to get 2 months of Therapy Notes free Website Design Packages from Inflow Start Consulting with Gordon The PsychCraft Network The Practice of Therapy Community Google Ads for Therapists Mental Health Wear TN Meet Krista St-Germain Krista St-Germain is a Master Certified Life Coach, grief expert, widow, mom and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista's life was completely and unexpectedly flipped upside down. After therapy helped her unfurl from the fetal position, Krista discovered Life Coaching, Post Traumatic Growth and learned the tools she needed to move forward and create a future she could get excited about. Now she coaches and teaches other widows so they can love life again, too. Krista's Resources Krista's Website Get your FREE download of Memories that Matter today! The Widowed Mom Podcast

Krista St-Germain, widow, mom, and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast, debunks the most common myth about grief, as well as shares what practices seem to be most effective for grieving —including what's helped her navigate the loss of her then-husband.Full episode with Krista St-Germain: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/2fc9f314/rethinking-the-5-stages-of-grief-with-krista-st-germainYou can support the podcast here (plus, vote on topics, submit questions for guests, and more!): https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Send us a textNone of us get through this life without experiencing grief and loss. The question is, how do we work through that loss and come to believe that we can actually love our lives again? My special guest today is Krista St-Germain, who knows firsthand what it means to face unimaginable loss since tragically and unexpectedly losing her spouse in 2016, leaving her with a title she never thought she'd have: widow. Now a Post-Traumatic Growth and grief expert, life coach, and host of the Widowed Moms Podcast, Krista has been able to take from her own experience and help hundreds of widows navigate their lives after loss and not only survive but thrive and love their lives. In this episode, we're going to dive deep into grief and loss - How do we navigate all the feelings?What the biggest myths about grief are.What post-traumatic growth is, and how this can make a huge difference in our healing process.How we can support our kids through grief and loss.And how we can come to not just survive but thrive.Where to find Krista and Resource Shared:Website: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachkrista/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coachingwithkrista/Free Download: Support the showCheck out our Moms of Tweens and Teens website HERESign up for our Moms of Tweens and Teens newsletter HERE Find more encouragement, wisdom, and resources: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/momsoftweensandteens/ Join our Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Momsoftweensandteens Find awesome resources on MOTTs University: https://www.mottsuniversity.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/momsoftweensandteens/ Sheryl also has an Inner Circle weekly Parenting Program with a community of like-minded moms, personal coaching, and tons of resources to equip and support you to love well, navigate the challenges and meet your tween and teen's unique needs during these pivotal years. Get on the waitlist to get all the details and to be the first to know when it opens! https://momsoftweensandteens.lpages.co/waiting-list-for-membe...

When Krista St-Germain's husband was killed on the side of the road, her life shattered in an instant. Left to navigate unimaginable grief, she quickly realized something shocking—most of what we believe about grief is completely wrong. Now, as a Certified Life Coach, Post-Traumatic Growth and grief expert, widow, mom, and podcaster, Krista has made it her mission to help others process loss in a way that actually helps, rather than harms. In this episode, Krista shares three powerful ways to support a grieving friend or loved one—including why simply witnessing their grief is far more meaningful than trying to "fix" it. She also debunks one of the biggest myths about grief: the five stages of grief were never actually about losing a loved one! Originally developed for terminally ill patients coming to terms with their own mortality, this outdated framework often does more harm than good. If you've ever struggled with what to say—or not say—to someone going through loss, this episode is for you. It's raw, eye-opening, and will change the way you show up for the people you love. Resources We Shared: Learn more about Krista HERE Dougy.org- Grief resources for children Get on the email list for the 2025 virtual Happy Mom Summit happening March 3rd-7th to get more strategies on finding your mom-life balance.  Get our Stop Doing Checklist absolutely FREE, so you can start taking tasks off your plate today! Join our FREE No Guilt Mom Podcast group Visit No Guilt Mom Check out our No Guilt Mom Amazon Shop with recommended books and books from podcast guests HERE! Rate & Review the No Guilt Mom Podcast on Apple here. We'd love to hear your thoughts on the podcast! Listen on Spotify? You can rate us there too! Check out our favorite deals and discounts from our amazing sponsors here! Interested in podcast sponsorship? Contact Adalysit Media. #parentingpodcast, #parentingtips, #selfcare, #mentalload, #kids, #teenager, #toddler, #preschooler, #baby, #grief, #griefsupport, #loss, #coping, #posttraumaticgrowth, #copingstrategies, #trauma Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if trauma didn't just break us but could also shape us in powerful ways? In this thought-provoking episode, Krista St-Germain and Gabe Howard dive into the complex world of post-traumatic growth — exploring how some people emerge from life's darkest moments with deeper purpose, stronger connections, and realigned values. This concept, however, isn't about being “grateful” for suffering. It's about rejecting toxic positivity, confronting internal conflicts, and embracing intentional choices. Discover how curiosity, authenticity, and self-reflection can guide you from surviving to thriving — without minimizing pain. If you've ever wondered whether growth after trauma is possible (or how it really works), this episode will change the way you think about resilience. “My husband died when I was 40. He was killed by a drunk driver. And that was the most awful thing I ever experienced, right? Bar none. I didn't want it to happen. I'm not grateful that it happened. I used to think that in order to experience post-traumatic growth, when I first learned about it, that would mean I would have to be happy that it happened, 100%, no! Right? No, not at all.” ~Krista St-Germain To learn more -- or read the transcript -- please visit the official episode page. Our guest, Krista St-Germain, is a Master Certified Life Coach, Post-Traumatic Growth and grief expert, widow, mom and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista's life was completely and unexpectedly flipped upside down. After therapy helped her uncurl from the fetal position, Krista discovered Life Coaching, Post-Traumatic Growth and learned the tools she needed to move forward and create a future she could get excited about. Now she coaches and teaches other widows so they can love life again, too. Krista has been featured online and in print in Psychology Today, Medium, Thrive Global, Bustle, Psych Central, and Parents Magazine and on select podcasts such as The SelfWork Podcast, Seek The Joy, Life Check Yourself, and You Need A Budget to name a few. Our host, Gabe Howard, is an award-winning writer and speaker who lives with bipolar disorder. He is the author of the popular book, "Mental Illness is an Asshole and other Observations," available from Amazon; signed copies are also available directly from the author. Gabe makes his home in the suburbs of Columbus, Ohio. He lives with his supportive wife, Kendall, and a Miniature Schnauzer dog that he never wanted, but now can't imagine life without. To book Gabe for your next event or learn more about him, please visit gabehoward.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lesley Logan and Brad Crowell revisit powerful moments on relationships from the Be It Till You See It archives. Featuring insights on divorce, grief, narcissism, and harmony, this curated episode offers actionable advice to foster deeper bonds and inspire transformation. Whether you're discovering new episodes or revisiting old favorites, this compilation will empower you to Be It Till You See It in your relationships.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:Renee Bauer shares how embracing her divorce story led to empowerment and connection.Krista St-Germain explains how Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) helps process grief and calm the nervous system.Rebecca Zung reframes narcissistic relationships, focusing on recognizing your value.Kelli Adame highlights the importance of setting boundaries and understanding your feelings for healthier relationships.Episode References/Links:Ep. 217 with Renee Bauer - https://beitpod.com/ep217Ep. 235 with Krista St-Germain - https://beitpod.com/ep235Ep. 268 with Rebecca Zung - https://beitpod.com/ep268Ep. 280 Kelli Adame Williams - https://beitpod.com/ep280Renee Bauer Website and Podcast https://msreneebauer.com/Krita St-Germain Website https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/Rebecca Zung's Website – https://www.rebeccazung.com/Kelli Adame Website - https://kelliadame.com/meet-kelli/Kelli Adame Website - https://www.lovebravelyacademy.com/ If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox. DEALS! DEALS! DEALS! DEALS!Check out all our Preferred Vendors & Special Deals from Clair Sparrow, Sensate, Lyfefuel BeeKeeper's Naturals, Sauna Space, HigherDose, AG1 and ToeSox Be in the know with all the workshops at OPCBe It Till You See It Podcast SurveyBe a part of Lesley's Pilates MentorshipFREE Ditching Busy Webinar Resources:Watch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable Pilates Follow Us on Social Media:InstagramThe Be It Till You See It Podcast YouTube channelFacebookLinkedInThe OPC YouTube Channel Episode Transcript:Lesley Logan 0:00  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started. Lesley Logan 0:42  Hi, Be It babe. Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It interview, not recap, but episodes, recaps. Brad Crowell 0:48  What? Lesley Logan 0:49  What? What are we doing here? Well. Brad Crowell 0:50  We're changing it up. Lesley Logan 0:51  We're changing it up for December, and we're figuring it out as we go along. But actually, the team has prepared really epic episodes for you for all month long, and today's episode is some of our favorite relationship episodes. So we're actually going to have four different clips for you from some of our favorite guests who have something to say about relationships. Brad Crowell 1:09  Yeah, yeah. So we're going to dig in. Lesley Logan 1:11  So whether you're single or not, there's actually probably a clip in here for you. And we know that we just, I mentioned this is episode 457, which means there's a couple 100 episodes of interviews, and if you just are joining us now, you might not have listened to all of those. So what our hope is this month is that by clipping some of our favorite parts of different topics, that it might take you to a direct episode that's going to really work with what you need and where you're at. So today's episode is on relationship, but we'll have grief, we'll have divorce, we'll have masculine and feminine energy guests. We actually have one about narcissism. So you know, relationships is a broad topic. So you can be single or in a relationship, and you could be super happy and still have some clip in here that might resonate with you. So here we go.Lesley Logan 1:59  All right. Loves our first clip we have for you is from our guest Renee Bauer, back in Episode 217. The topic is on divorce, and one of the parts I really loved, and I want you to hear is about just owning it.Brad Crowell 2:11  Yeah and the second part that we really liked in this episode was about finding your tribe. So here we go. Renee Bauer 2:23  I had gone on a friend's podcast and she started, she said, I'm gonna interview you. I'll bring sushi over. We'll have a couple martinis. It'll be all good. So she did that. I'm like, ooh, sushi, okay. I'm in. We poured the martini. She clipped on the mic and she started asking me about my divorce and maybe I was a little buzzed, but I actually started answering really honestly. And when that episode came out, people had reached out to me to say like, hey, that was my story too. Thank you for speaking so vulnerably about it. And that's when I realized I need to talk about this and not be ashamed about it. And so now, now it's like, it's second nature to just, to be like, yeah, I'm divorced twice, so what? You know? And so it was, it was sharing it, and I think so often, People don't wanna share that. And they're almost like, apologize. It's like, you know, the whisper like, oh, I'm divorced, or I'm twice divorced. And it's like, just own it. Be like, you know what? I was in two relationships that didn't work out and I made the brave decision to leave that because I wanted more from our family, for us, for our kids. And you know, that's okay. Find your tribe. Find a support system that may not include friends and family. So those people who are around you now, they're really well intentioned, but they may not be the best person to go to. So find a community of people, and there's so many of them out there in this world, and like, I have a private Facebook group for divorced women, but find a really positive tribe of people who get what you're going through so you don't feel so alone in it.Lesley Logan 4:00  All right, so now we're going to talk about the topic of grief. And Krista St-Germain from Episode 235, one of the most beautiful episodes we have. Honestly, I actually think about this episode a lot, because we happen to lose people in our lives all the time, but this particular one was about how she lost her spouse, and she talks about the Emotional Freedom Technique. And I think this is a really cool technique that we can all use no matter where we are in our lives. So. Brad Crowell 4:25  Yeah, that's EFT, if you're not familiar. Lesley Logan 4:27  Yeah, tap away.Krista St-Germain 4:34  This was hard for me because I have lots of ideas, and so I'm just going to go with one. So I'm a big fan of tapping, Emotional Freedom Technique. So thankfully, I had tapping in my pocket before my husband died. I already knew how to do it, and I knew how, and I had used it with my children when they were very little, and they were 12 and nine when Hugo died, so they had to use it for a number of years. But I love tapping because it creates calm in the nervous system and it allows us to let feelings flow through. It's great for grief grenades, right? Any sort of triggering situation where our nervous system is responding as though we are unsafe. So for me, the sound of metal crashing, CPR scenes, sirens, right, things like that. Tapping helped me in the moment when my nervous system was just tripping out. And then it also helped me to work with someone who could help me go back and neutralize those triggers so that when I remembered them or encountered them in my environment, my nervous system stopped thinking I was in danger, right? So I am a big proponent of that. You can just go to YouTube and learn all about tapping, right? You don't have to pay anyone to teach it to you.Brad Crowell 5:48  All right, y'all, I hope you found that super helpful and calming. EFT, the tapping technique to be able to pull out that tool and use that when you need it. All right. Next up, we got Episode 268, with Rebecca Zung, we are going to SLAY Your Way Out of a Narcissist. Okay? Lesley Logan 6:08  Yeah, I was so, this is like, when I, when Rebecca agreed to be on the pod, I was like, this is amazing. This is what all of our listeners need. And something that I think is, if you love this clip, I really hope you go back and listen to the full episode, because it will give you a lot of empowerment. If you were someone who's like, I always find, narcissists always find me. You will hear why they find you.Brad Crowell 6:29  Yeah, and I think there's a key in this, and it's value. And I, this hit home for me in a very real way. So this is a very powerful clip, and the episode is amazing. So here we go.Rebecca Zung 6:50  And I always remind people, they don't attach themselves to you because you have so little value. They attach themselves to you because you have so much value, even though they're devaluing you right away. They look for someone who's going to be a great source of supply for them, whether it's making them look good or giving them, you know, their ego looks good, because either with you or they are, you're going to be a great business partner for them because you're going to feed them a lot of things, or you're going to be a great romantic partner because you're either going to give them lots of adulation, or you look good on their arm, or you have lots of money, or whatever it's going to be, right? So they look for someone who's going to feed something within them, because they're so empty inside.Lesley Logan 7:51  All right. So that was Episode 268. Definitely go back and listen to that if you find narcissists have been finding you. Our last clip that we want to put in this relationship special is Episode 280, Create More Harmony in Your Relationship, with Kelli Adame Williams. We love Kelli Adame. We had so many people tell us how epic, she had two episodes on the podcast, actually, and I really, really enjoyed it. But the first one was really about kind of giving us permission to understand what we need and who we are, and also what we're saying yes to. So here is Episode 280 with Kelli Adame.Kelli Adame 8:41  So I tell women like, this is a good practice, like, don't do something, ask yourself, does this feel good to me? And if it doesn't, the answer is no, thank you. We're also so conditioned to say yes and to just do it. But then we can be resentful about that, then we can be passive aggressive about that. Then we can feel like, well, you owe me because I did this. No, you weren't, you weren't clear with you first. Does that make sense? Lesley Logan 9:06  Oh, yeah. Kelli Adame 9:07  That's the whole thing. To be in a healthy relationship, you have to be able to take personal responsibility for your behavior, your actions, your words, but you also have to know what you're feeling. Lesley Logan 9:16  Well, I hope this is really fun for you. I know that this is a very different way of the Be It Pod going, but our goal here is to, one, help you figure out which episodes in the past catalog might be helpful for you, but also just highlight some of our favorite takeaways, especially as the end of the year is here, there's so much chaos. You know, sometimes we need reminders of what we learned so we can take that information and take the next steps in our life to be it till we see it.Brad Crowell 9:41  Yeah. If you enjoyed this, let us know. We actually need to know. If you dug the change up today. Lesley Logan 9:46  Yeah, if you hated it, you can send us a message. If you loved it, you can leave a review. That's your Christmas present to us. Or, or, I heard a podcast say, still give us five stars, but then you can tell us you didn't like it in the review. That's fine, but the five stars is important.Brad Crowell 10:05  Well, thanks for listening, y'all and stick around. We've got a couple more fun episodes for you this month that are in a similar vein. Is this right? Lesley Logan 10:12  Yeah, we're gonna do our favorite health episodes, and we're gonna do, I think, our business tip ones. Brad Crowell 10:12  We got favorite tips, bold moments. Lesley Logan 10:22  Bold moments. Brad Crowell 10:23  Favorite biz Tips. Lesley Logan 10:24  You know what? You're just gonna really enjoy.Brad Crowell 10:26  Cool advice.Lesley Logan 10:26  This whole month. Brad Crowell 10:27  It's gonna be good. Lesley Logan 10:28  It's a potpourri.Brad Crowell 10:29  Oh, and then we have a special one on the 31st. Lesley Logan 10:32  Oh. Brad Crowell 10:33  Yeah. Lesley Logan 10:34  Okay, can I tell them? Brad Crowell 10:35  I think you might as well hint at it at least. Lesley Logan 10:37  I already, because I just interviewed them. We're gonna get your astrology reading for 2025 from the Mom & Me Astrologers, Kate and Mary Swick. So do not, don't skip ahead. You can't because it won't go to the 31st, but also, don't wait till it comes out. You gotta listen to all these little round ups we've got for you. I'm Lesley Logan. Brad Crowell 10:46  And I'm Brad Crowell. Lesley Logan 10:59  Thank you so much for listening. And until next time, you know what to do, Be It Till You See It. Brad Crowell 11:03  Bye for now. Lesley Logan 11:05  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review and follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcast. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the Be It Pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others Be It Till You See It. Have an awesome day. Be It Till You See It is a production of The Bloom Podcast Network. If you want to leave us a message or a question that we might read on another episode, you can text us at +1-310-905-5534 or send a DM on Instagram @BeItPod.Brad Crowell 11:48  It's written, filmed, and recorded by your host, Lesley Logan, and me, Brad Crowell.Lesley Logan 11:52  It is transcribed, produced and edited by the epic team at Disenyo.co.Brad Crowell 11:57  Our theme music is by Ali at Apex Production Music and our branding by designer and artist, Gianfranco Cioffi.Lesley Logan 12:04  Special thanks to Melissa Solomon for creating our visuals.Brad Crowell 12:07  Also to Angelina Herico for adding all of our content to our website. And finally to Meridith Root for keeping us all on point and on time.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/be-it-till-you-see-it/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Please leave me feedback. I cannot respond so if you'd like me to respond, please leave your emailGrief. It can be big and it can be small, yet many of us yearn for a roadmap to help us navigate through it.Society often provides us with steps, timelines, and catchy phrases like "time heals all wounds." However, if you have experienced grief, you know it is much more complex than that.In this episode, I have a conversation with Krista St-Germain, a grief expert, life coach, and fellow podcaster, to discuss the journey of grief—something we all face at various points in our lives. Whether you've experienced a loss of a loved one, experienced the end of a relationship, or are navigating difficult life transitions like children leaving home or a job change, grief is an inevitable part of life, and most of us feel unprepared to handle it.Today you'll learn:  Why the 5 stages of grief may not be the best framework to guide you through.How grief encompasses more than just loss; it involves how you choose to respond to it.The distinction between primary and secondary grief and why it's important to know the difference?How to adjust your holiday traditions to better manage your current state.What “post-traumatic growth” is and how you can leverage your grief to move forward and create a more meaningful, purpose-driven life. How to allow yourself to experience all of your feelings without guilt or judgment.  Krista's personal story will resonate with you and provide guidance for taking your next steps forward. So pop in those earbuds so you can learn how to navigate your grief with grace this holiday season.With warmth,LaurieThese guides will help you take the next step in life. Click here to learn about my December's “Somatic Healing” class - RECOVERClick here for my FREE “Somatic Healing for Beginners Guide”Click here for my FREE Core Values ExerciseClick here to purchase my book: Sandwiched: A Memoir of Holding On and Letting GoSign up for my newsletter here to stay current on my upcoming offerings and podcast interviews!WebsiteClick here if you interested in learning more about Julie Reisler's Life Designer Coaching AcademyAbout Krista:Krista St-Germain is a Master Certified Life Coach, Post-Traumatic Growth and grief expert, widow, mom and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista's life was completely and unexpectedly flipped upside down. After therapy helped her uncurl from the fetal position, Krista discovered Life Coaching, Post Traumatic Growth and learned the tools she ne***************************************************************************************DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL, MEDICAL OR PROFESSIONAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT A LICENSED THERAPIST IF YOU ARE EXPERIENCING SUICIDAL THOUGHTS. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN LEGAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT A LICENSED MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL WITH RESPECT TO ANY MEDICAL ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Delanie Fischer is joined by Erika Martin, who shares about her dad's diagnosis with Lewy Body Dementia — how it's impacting her family, resources and logistics for immediate and long-term care, and how she's grieving and coping. If someone you love has been diagnosed with a terminal illness, this episode has so much to offer, and is part of our series, "Subscriber Stories."Plus:+ Finding The Right Support Group For You + Erika's Favorite Quote For Tough Days + 3 Things Helping Erika In Her Day-To-DayMore episodes related to this topic:When A Family Member Has Dementia with Kelsey Cook: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/24621f0a/when-a-family-member-has-dementia-with-kelsey-cookRethinking the 5 Stages of Grief with Krista St-Germain: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/2fc9f314/rethinking-the-5-stages-of-grief-with-krista-st-germainCaregiver Burnout: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/246fddd8/caregiver-burnoutCompounded Grief: Coping With Multiple Losses At Once with Stephanie Edwards: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/250aef7a/compounded-grief-coping-with-multiple-losses-at-once-with-stephanie-edwardsYou can join our Patreon community here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Why do we shy away from discussing the very thing that connects us all—loss? Krista St-Germain, certified grief coach and the host of The Widowed Mom podcast joins Sarah this week to talk about exactly that. Through her own journey of healing, she has become passionate about helping others reclaim joy and purpose after loss. Krista now specializes in working with widowed moms and anyone struggling with grief, guiding them to move forward in a healthy and empowered way.Listen to more podcasts like this: https://wavepodcastnetwork.com/This Changes Everything Voicemail: Send in your question by calling or texting ‪(313) 338-8828‬Listen to The Widowed Mom PodcastFollow Krista on Instagram: @lifecoachkristaFor more from Krista: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/Cancel your unwanted subscriptions by going to https://rocketmoney.com/TCESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

How do you navigate grief in the workplace in an empathic and supportive way? We all experience loss, and we might default to assuming the only place for grief is in the home. The truth is that a loss permeates every aspect of our lives, sometimes for years or even decades, and it certainly crosses into the workplace. Krista St-Germain experienced a devastating loss in 2016 when her husband was killed by an impaired driver. That trauma propelled her into grief, then therapy, then research. Today, she is the founder of the Mom Goes On group coaching program and the host of the Widowed Mom podcast. She shares her hard-won wisdom on what we need to know about grief and how to navigate it in the workplace, both for ourselves and in support of others.Question your assumptions about grief and learn to better support yourself or others who are navigating it, including:How we've come to misunderstand the grieving process;The role time plays when we are healing from a loss;How to navigate interactions with grieving coworkers;The possibilities of life beyond grieving and post-traumatic growth.Related Links:Learn more about Krista's work - https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/Follow Krista on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachkrista/Connect with Krista on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/coachingwithkristaThe Widowed Mom Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-widowed-mom-podcast/id1468127632The Grieving Brain by Mary-Frances O'Connor - https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-grieving-brain-the-surprising-science-of-how-we-learn-from-love-and-loss-mary-frances-o-connor/16976128?ean=9780062946249Report from the Death Studies Journal on the Dual Process Model - https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/10848151/Brené Brown - Silver Linings Clip - https://brenebrown.com/videos/rsa-short-empathy/On Death & Dying: What the Dying Have to Teach Doctors, Nurses, Clergy & Their Own Families by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross - https://bookshop.org/p/books/on-death-dying-what-the-dying-have-to-teach-doctors-nurses-clergy-their-own-families-elisabeth-kubler-ross/9165298?ean=9781476775548On Grief & Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross - https://bookshop.org/p/books/on-grief-grieving-finding-the-meaning-of-grief-through-the-five-stages-of-loss-david-kessler/6699869?ean=9781476775555Episode 468: Disrupting Elder Care: We Need To Talk More About Working Daughters - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode468LEVEL UP: a Leadership Accelerator for Women on the Rise - https://www.bossedup.org/levelupBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/emiliearies

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Krista St-Germain is a Master Certified Life Coach, grief expert, widow, mom and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista's life was completely and unexpectedly flipped upside down. After therapy helped her unfurl from the fetal position, Krista discovered Life Coaching, Post Traumatic Growth and learned the tools she needed to move forward and create a future she could get excited about. Now, she coaches and teaches other widows so they can love life again, too.In this episode, we cover:-5 stages of grief and why Krista thinks there's another way-dual process model-Dougy Center for Grieving Families-death of a parent/coparent-How to handle emotions you see in kids-Post traumatic growthTo connect with Krista:www.coachingwithkrista.comInstagramFacebookResources mentioned:Dougy Center for Grieving Families Grief Outloud PodcastWant a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

Many of us can think of grief as a heavy or tricky topic - which is why I am delighted for you to hear this conversation with Krista St-Germain, who works as a life coach for widowed moms. Krista shares her story of becoming a widowed mom at age 40, and how her personal journey has lead to a career addressing the myths and outdated ideas of grief. Her description of what post-traumatic growth can look like, including the ways to move beyond feeling "stuck" are relevant for you whether you have also lost a loved one, or are experiencing grief in the myriad of other ways it can show up in our lives.Connect with Krista:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachkrista/The Widowed Mom Podcast: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/podcast/Website: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/One of the concepts that comes up in this conversation is the idea of "right-sizing" a relationship that is currently not serving you. Creating Space is my new coaching program that is really about finding your unique way to "right-size" your relationship to your work in healthcare, so that the rest of your humanity has room to breathe and grow! Book a call with me to explore if this program is a good for you: joanchanmd.com/space

Navigating Stepfamily Life After Tragedy Strikes Today we are taking on a tough, but important, topic: picking yourself (and your stepfamily) back up after your worst nightmare comes to life. I'm talking to stepmom and grief expert Krista St-Germain, who moved through unthinkable tragedy to learn how to thrive again. She's got an inspiring outlook and some amazing insights for stepfamilies who may be dealing with grief. About Krista: Krista St-Germain is a Master Certified Life Coach, Post-Traumatic Growth and grief expert, widow, mom and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista's life was completely and unexpectedly flipped upside down. After therapy helped her uncurl from the fetal position, Krista discovered Life Coaching, Post Traumatic Growth and learned the tools she needed to move forward and create a future she could get excited about. Now she coaches and teaches other widows so they can love life again, too. Krista has been featured online and in print in Psychology Today, Medium, Thrive Global, Bustle, Psych Central, and Parents Magazine and on select podcasts such as The SelfWork Podcast, Seek The Joy, Life Check Yourself, and You Need A Budget to name a few. You Can Find Krista: On Instagram: @lifecoachkrista On her website, coachingwithkrista.com/ Links Mentioned In Today's Episode Krista is generously offering a course on navigating grief to our listeners for FREE - You can access it right HERE.   Got a question for me or something you're struggling with in your stepfamily life? Submit a question to be answered on a future podcast episode HERE Want to go deeper into coparenting, dealing with your partner's ex, finding your own peace, and other blended family challenges? Join the Stepfamily Circle HERE Are you enjoying The Stepmom Diaries? If so, please consider rating and reviewing the show. It will help me reach more stepmoms just like you so they can get MORE out of stepmom life! It's super easy – all you have to do is click HERE and scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “write a review.” Then just let me know what you like best! And the best part about leaving a review? If you send me a screenshot of your review, I'll send YOU my 20-minute Stepmom Self-Care Blueprint. For FREE. It's normally $49 and it's a great tool to quickly set up a self-care plan you'll actually use. Just head HERE to send me your screenshot and grab your blueprint!

It's hard to accept that grief is simply a part of every blended family's journey.  But that's your reality because everyone in your family has experienced some kind of loss along the way.If you aren't able to acknowledge grief and create a safe space to process through it, you'll miss out on valuable opportunities that lead to healing.In this episode, you'll discover a few truths about grief that you probably haven't considered before — plus the positive impact of allowing yourself and your kids to embrace your unique grief journey. Our special guest, Krista St-Germain, shares her personal experience of unexpected loss and critical realities that she's discovered about grief.  Krista's traumatic circumstances eventually led her on a journey of hope and healing.   As a life coach, she now devotes herself to equipping others with powerful tools to manage grief and love life again — and to help their kids do the same. Understanding the impact of loss and grief and creating opportunities to heal together is essential for blended families.  That's why we're excited to welcome Krista to the show!You'll Discover:How to normalize what's normal about loss and grief The reality of grief being a natural human response to a perceived lossHow to help your kids acknowledge and process griefWhat is trauma and post-traumatic growthResources from this Episode:Click this link to Connect with Krista St-GermainEpisode 168. Actionable Steps for Helping Kids Navigate Through Difficult Emotions and Problem Solve Episode  132.  How Does Loss and Grief Impact Blended Family Integration?Ready for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

In this episode, Lori, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, speaks with Krista St-Germain about navigating grief as a stepparent. As a widow, stepkid, and stepparent, Krista shares her journey and wisdom. Her stepdad stayed in his lane and her stepmom was a little more authoritative.  In this episode, we discuss the following: Supporting a partner when you have different parenting views Secondary losses Five stages of grief  Time in relation to grief Respecting previous relationships Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: “I can't believe how much better our lives are because of Nacho Parenting!” ~ E.V.  

Understanding Grief with Krista St. Germain Hosts: Amanda Dinsmore, Laura Cazier, Kendra Morrison Guest: Krista St. Germain - Widow, Master Certified Life Coach, Post-Traumatic Growth and Grief Expert, Host of the Widowed Moms Podcast Introduction:In this episode, Amanda, Laura, and Kendra welcome Krista St. Germain to the show. Physicians often encounter patients on their worst days, yet they find themselves unprepared to handle grief, whether it's their patients', their families', or even their own. Krista, a grief expert, shares her personal journey and professional insights on understanding and dealing with grief. Key Topics Discussed: 1. Krista's Personal Story: - Krista shares her experience of losing her husband in a tragic accident and how it led her to become a grief coach. - The importance of having accurate information about grief to reduce suffering. 2. The Myth of the Five Stages of Grief: - Origins of the five stages of grief by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross and how it was intended for those facing terminal diagnoses. - Misconceptions and misapplications of the five stages model in modern grief understanding. 3. Broader Definition of Grief: - Expanding the understanding of grief beyond bereavement to any perceived loss. - Recognizing that grief is a natural response and not something to be "solved." 4. Supporting Patients in Grief: - The importance of being present and validating the grieving person's feelings rather than trying to fix or minimize their pain. - Extending grace to oneself and others when discussing grief. 5. Physicians Handling Their Own Grief: - The challenges doctors face in dealing with their grief due to the nature of their work. - Tips for doctors to start processing their feelings, including small steps and finding a balance between feeling emotions and taking breaks. 6. Post-Traumatic Growth: - Introduction to the concept of post-traumatic growth and how it differs from post-traumatic stress. - How traumatic experiences can lead to positive psychological changes and personal growth. 7. Dual Process Model of Grief: - Explanation of the dual process model which involves oscillation between loss-oriented and restoration-oriented activities. - The importance of allowing oneself both to grieve and to take breaks from grieving. Resources:- Krista St. Germain's Podcast: The Widowed Mom Podcast- Krista St. Germain's Website: Coaching with Krista for more information on grief coaching and resources.- The Whole Physician's Wellness 911 Program: www.thewholephysician.com for information on the Wellness 911 program to help demoralized doctors go from fried to fantastic. Closing Thoughts:The hosts thank Krista for her valuable insights and for helping to normalize conversations about grief. They emphasize the importance of talking about grief to improve the experience for those who are going through it. Call to Action:For more information about Wellness 911, visit The Whole Physician. Remember, you are whole, you are a gift to medicine, and the work you do matters. Disclaimer: The content of this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition.

Grief is a topic that can be hard to discuss and hard to understand. It is so personal, and yet almost everyone will experience some degree of grief in their lifetime. Those suffering from concussions and post concussion symptoms are no exception. The loss they experience can be profound. This discussion addresses how grief can present itself, what strategies can be helpful in processing it, how loved ones can support someone in grief, and what post-traumatic growth is. My guests are experts in grief, through study and personal experience. Krista St-Germain is a master certified life coach whose experience losing her husband set her on a path that has led to her creating a program that helps widowed moms love their life again. Becky Barnett is a widowed mom (who is in Krista's program and loves it and recommends it highly) who has 3 daughters who have concussions and has experience with grief in the loss of her husband and in the experience of her daughters' concussions. If you would like to hear more from Krista or work with her in her Mom Goes On program, you can find her at www.coachingwithkrista.com. She also has a podcast called "The Widowed Mom Podcast" https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/category/podcast/ If you would like to sign up for a free concussion coaching consultation with me to learn how you can understand & manage your symptoms, speed up your recovery, and get your life back following a concussion, go to my website, www.theconcussioncoach.com, or click on this link: https://theconcussioncoach.com/contact

Krista St-Germain shares her journey with grief following the death of her husband by a drunken driver. She explains how the commonly referenced five stages of grief are inadequate – if not outright inaccurate – for many people's experiences. She discusses alternative grief theories, such as the dual process model, and introduces the concepts of “grief plateau” and “grief fog,” highlighting the complexity and uniqueness of each person's experience of grief. In her work as a grief expert, Krista advocates for a more individualized approach to grief, emphasizing the process of integration and post-traumatic growth rather than just “moving on” or reaching acceptance. She is a master certified life coach, a post-traumatic growth and grief expert, widow, mom, and the host of “The Widowed Mom Podcast.” To learn more -- or read the transcript -- please visit the episode page. Our guest, Krista St-Germain, is a Master Certified Life Coach, Post-Traumatic Growth and grief expert, widow, mom and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista's life was completely and unexpectedly flipped upside down. After therapy helped her uncurl from the fetal position, Krista discovered Life Coaching, Post Traumatic Growth and learned the tools she needed to move forward and create a future she could get excited about. Now she coaches and teaches other widows so they can love life again, too. Krista has been featured online and in print in Psychology Today, Medium, Thrive Global, Bustle, Psych Central, and Parents Magazine and on select podcasts such as The SelfWork Podcast, Seek The Joy, Life Check Yourself, and You Need A Budget to name a few.  Our host, Gabe Howard, is an award-winning writer and speaker who lives with bipolar disorder. He is the author of the popular book, "Mental Illness is an Asshole and other Observations," available from Amazon; signed copies are also available directly from the author. Gabe makes his home in the suburbs of Columbus, Ohio. He lives with his supportive wife, Kendall, and a Miniature Schnauzer dog that he never wanted, but now can't imagine life without. To book Gabe for your next event or learn more about him, please visit gabehoward.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's common that our kid's teen years intersect with loss. The passing of our parents (their grandparents), their peers, pets, and even loss that isn't death- loss of friendships, anticipated futures (like making the team or getting the part) and other hoped for expectations that never become realized. Grief is a hard time for us and our kids. It can feel awkward and we may not know how to approach it or help them, so we often do nothing. There is a better way to help our kids and ourselves through inevitable  dark times. Tune in as I talk with grief expert, @lifecoachkrista about grief myths, what is helpful, what isn't, and what is normal for grief as a family.  To learm more about parenting your teen and ordering my best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen, please visit me at Heatherfrazier.com About my guest: Krista St-Germain is a Master Certified Life Coach, grief expert, widow, mom and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista's life was completely and unexpectedly flipped upside down. After therapy helped her unfurl from the fetal position, Krista discovered Life Coaching, Post Traumatic Growth and learned the tools she needed to move forward and create a future she could get excited about. Now she coaches and teaches other widows so they can love life again, too. Krista's website: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com  The Widowed Mom Podcast:  https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/podcast/  Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/coachingwithkrista  Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachkrista/ 

Has someone you love passed away and are you struggling to work out how to deal with their belongings? In this podcast we talk with grief expert Krista St-Germain. Krista is here to talk amongst other things about showing yourself grace while making the right choices for you when you have lost someone. Trigger warning - in this podcast we talk about grief and the death of a loved one. Guest links Krista on Facebook Krista on Instagram Krista Website Mentioned in this episode: Episode 96 – Decluttering after someone has died Episode 249 – Clearing the home of someone who has passed away Episode 58 – Making space to grieve with guest Julia Kirby About the Declutter Hub Podcast We're Ingrid and Lesley and are super excited you're here! If you're sick to the back teeth of clutter dictating your home life then we are here to help you get control back and spend your valuable time doing the things you want and not shuffling piles of stuff around 24/7. We have been decluttering and organising homes face to face and online for over 24 years together and have helped thousands of members and clients to regain the home of their dreams.  We have a passion for people, practicality, and piles of paper and love nothing better than to carve out solutions for anyone overwhelmed with clutter. If that's you, you're in the right place. Our podcast is packed with actionable tips, inspiration and motivation to get your decluttering done. We believe decluttering is all about emotions first, stuff second. Tune in, subscribe and enjoy! New episodes every Friday. Get in touch We'd love to hear from you. We have so many ways that you can reach out to us to say hello. Our Free Facebook Group - The Declutter Hub Community - emotions based decluttering Instagram - @declutterhub Website - Declutterhub.com Our Membership - members.declutterhub.com Email - support@declutterhub.com Donate & Support the Podcast We have set ourselves up on Buy Me A Coffee, meaning that if you enjoy the podcast and our episodes you can give us a one-off donation to support us. We are totally committed to our free weekly content but if you would like to show us some love, that would be most appreciated. Buy Me A Coffee Can you spare 5 minutes of your day to leave us a review? Your reviews mean the podcast can be found more easily which in turn will mean more people can get the benefit of our decluttering advice. You can share a review on your chosen podcast player. Don't forget to hit follow or subscribe too. The Declutter Hub 2024   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today we are approaching a hard topic: Grief. While it's hard to talk about, it is important. Many of us don't even want to think about what my guest, Krista, experienced through losing her husband, but for many others, it is a reality. Krista now helps other women struggling through loss, and today she shares about her story, post traumatic growth, and how stuff, clutter, and decluttering plays a role in the grieving process. Links: Minimal-ish Collective/ Minimal-ish + Coffee Podcast Krista on Instagram Krista's Website The Widowed Mom Podcast Grief Plateau Quiz Desirae on Instagram Minimalish Podcast Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join Ned Buskirk in conversation with Krista St-Germain, Master Certified Life Coach, Post-Traumatic Growth and grief expert, widow, and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast, while they talk about her husband's death in 2016, how her life was flipped upside down, and how therapy helped her uncurl from the fetal position and move on to discover Life Coaching, Post Traumatic Growth, and the tools she needed to create a meaningful life after loss.krista st-germain's website: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/Produced by Nick JainaSoundscaping by Nick Jaina”YG2D Podcast Theme Song” by Nick JainaTHIS PODCAST IS MADE POSSIBLE WITH SUPPORT FROM LISTENERS LIKE YOU.Become a podcast patron now at https://www.patreon.com/YG2D.

Welcome to "Shit Talking Shrinks," I'm your host Paulie Siegel, a Licensed therapist, Certified Addiction Counselor and master-level trained mindfulness practitioner with a passion for psychology, humor, and insightful journeys through the realm of mental wellness. Join me as we explore the depths of the human mind, unraveling complexities while keeping it lighthearted.In this episode, I'm thrilled to be joined by Krista St-Germain, a Master Certified Life Coach, grief expert, widow, and mom. Krista has also created a powerful group coaching program for widows called "Mom Goes On," and in this episode, we talk all about the profound topic of grief. We explore the nuances of perceived loss, examining how grief manifests for individuals and discussing meaningful ways to offer support to those navigating this challenging journey. Additionally, our conversation extends to the themes of death and bereavement, shedding light on these crucial aspects of the human experience. Join me on a poignant, yet lighthearted exploration of the human mind and the resilience that emerges in the face of grief.Learn more about Krista's work here.Follow Krista on Instagram: @lifecoachkristaConnect with Krista on Facebook: @coachingwithkristaIf you want to work with me therapeutically and live in CO or ILhttps://www.courageouspathscounseling.comNeed quality therapy ASAP?! Receive 10% off your first month by clicking this link

Today, I'm speaking with Krista St-Germain. Krista is a Master Certified Life Coach, grief expert, and host of the Widowed Mom Podcast, where she specializes in helping widows move forward and love their life again. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver just 3 ½ months after their wedding, her life was flipped upside down. As she worked through her loss, she realized that she can leverage her loss to make her life better and has helped others do the same. Her Moms Go On program has given hundreds of widowed moms the tools they need to create futures they can get excited about. In today's conversation, we dig into the biggest reasons people avoid talking about grief, the magic that can be found in post-traumatic growth and how grief doesn't always work in the 5 stages that we've always heard about.  GET A FREE ACCESS TO KRISTA'S ONLINE WIDOW GRIEF COURSE Here's all you have to do... Step 1.) Subscribe to the podcast and leave an honest rating & review over on iTunes. Step 2.) Text the word GRIEF to 866-482-9559 and we'll make sure you get signed up for free. It's that simple! In this podcast interview, you'll learn: Why grief is so much more than just the feeling of bereavement.  How traumatic loss gives us the power to redefine our lives, find new meaning, and live more authentically. Why Krista believes that the five stages of grief (DABDA) has become outdated, and what it means to truly and authentically navigate grief and the ways it affects our lives. What Krista would've done differently to prepare for traumatic loss. How to rethink our relationship to money as we navigate grief.  What–and what not–to say to people who have lost loved ones.  Show Notes: RetireWithPurpose.com/413 Rate & Review the Podcast: RetireWithPurpose.com/review Sign Up to Casey's Weekend Reading Email! Sifting through the copious amount of conflicting financial advice and retirement information can be daunting - but it doesn't have to be! Each week, Casey makes it super easy. He hand-picks 4 of the most important articles you need to read, that are beneficial to you whether you're at, near, or in retirement! If you want them sent straight to your inbox, sign up by visiting RetireWithPurpose.com/weekend-reading

Grief is an emotion that most of us feel in a mixed faith relationship. Today I am joined by my friend Krista who is a grief expert. This conversation has so many great nuggets that you won't want to miss. Krista St-Germain is a Master Certified Life Coach, grief expert, widow, mom and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista's life was completely flipped upside down. And while it would have been easy to believe her best days were behind her, thankfully Krista discovered Life Coaching and Post Traumatic Growth and was able to move forward and create a future she could get excited about. Now she coaches and teaches other widows so they can love life again, too.

After losing her husband to a drunk driver in 2016, Krista St-Germain's life was forever altered. More than 5 years later, Krista now serves a network of over 18K widows while being a mom, grief expert, and host of the Widowed Moms Podcast. In this interview, Krista St-Germain shares her personal journey as a widowed mom and how she helps others navigate grief. She discusses the process of going through possessions and belongings after the loss of a loved one and offers advice on making decisions without regret. Krista emphasizes the importance of allowing all emotions and finding happiness again. She also highlights the benefits of coaching and the power of community support.TAKEAWAYSGrief is a complex process that involves a range of emotions, and it is important to allow oneself to experience and process these emotions.When going through the belongings of a loved one who has passed away, it is helpful to start with less emotionally charged items and take it at a pace that feels manageable.There is no right or wrong way to grieve or make decisions about possessions. It is important to be kind to oneself and not worry about what others may think.Supporting someone who is grieving involves being present, listening without judgment, and offering practical help and acts of service.It is important to have conversations about difficult topics and provide support for those going through grief.------------------------------Links Discussed in This EpisodeOrder a Copy of Minimalist Moms: Living and Parenting with SimplicitySubstack: Minimalist Moms PodcastBook: Smoke Gets In Your Eyes by Caitlin DoughertyConnect with Krista:WebsiteInstagramPodcast: The Widowed Mom PodcastEnjoy this Podcast?Post a review and share it! If you enjoyed tuning into this podcast, then do not hesitate to write a review. You can also share this with your fellow mothers so that they can be inspired to think more and do with less. Order (or review) my book, Minimalist Moms: Living & Parenting With SimplicityQuestions? You can contact me through my website, find me on Instagram, or like The Minimalist Moms Page on Facebook.Thanks for listening! For more updates and episodes, visit the website. You may also tune in on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, or Stitcher.Checkout the Minimalist Moms Podcast storefront for recommendations from Diane.If you enjoyed today's episode of the Minimalist Moms Podcast, then hit subscribe and share it with your friends!Episode Sponsors |The Minimalist Moms Podcast would not be possible without the support of weekly sponsors. Choosing brands that I believe in is important to me. I only want to recommend brands that I believe may help you in your daily life. As always, never feel pressured into buying anything. Remember: if you don't need it, it's not a good deal!Factor | Head to FactorMeals.com/momminimalist50 and use code MOMMINIMALIST50 to get 50% off.Storyworth |Our Sponsors:* Check out Greenlight and use my code minimalist for a great deal: https://greenlight.com/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/minimalist-moms-podcast2093/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We are joined by Krista St-Germain, Master Certified Life Coach, Post-Traumatic Growth and grief expert, widow, mom, and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. Krista opens up about the loss of her husband, the range of grief she's experienced since, and the simple shifts that can help us process and heal. She also shares why we need to rethink the 5 stages of grief, what she dislikes about some mainstream concepts about the grieving process, and how to let go of guilt around experiencing joy after loss. For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com Kelsey's Tour Dates: https://www.kelseycook.com Sales and distribution by Lemonada Media.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When it comes to grief in coaching, it can crop up unexpectedly and in various ways. And grief is not limited to only loss through death. People grieve varying types of loss so being prepared to help your clients recognize and work through this painful and sensitive reality is a very valuable skill set. To be ready for your clients and grief, I've invited Krista St-Germain, Sharon Wirant, and Mikki Gardner to work and talk with you. Each of them joined me for not only this episode of The Masterful Coach but Master Coach Training 2024 as well. Just as I have, I know you'll gain powerful knowledge from them both individually and collectively.  “I'm on the couch. I'm doing the bare minimum. And it was hard… It felt like a lot of grief and loss. And I don't think I realized at the time that that's what I was experiencing.” – Molly Claire What You'll Learn Unexpected sources of grief Secondary losses Recurring grief Working through resistance Complexity of holistic healing Boosting confidence equals boosting business Ripple effect of helping Contact Info and Recommended Resources Master Coach Training 2024 REGISTRATION is OPEN! This all-in-one training includes numerous holistic approaches, relationship coaching, coaching ethics, and much, much more. Molly is personally enrolling people, so set up a call with her to discuss the training and get registered before registration is full: mollyclaire.mykajabi.com/master-coach-training. Everything kicks off January 10, 2024. Previous episode mentioned: Holistic Approach to Coaching: An Interview with Leah Davidson, Lindsay Poelman and Melanie Fay Connect with Krista St-Germain Krista St-Germain is a Master Certified Life Coach, grief expert, widow, mom and host of The Widowed Mom podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista's life was completely and unexpectedly flipped upside down. After therapy helped her unfurl from the fetal position, Krista discovered Life Coaching, Post Traumatic Growth and learned the tools she needed to move forward and create a future she could get excited about. Now she coaches and teaches other widows so they can love life again, too. CoachingwithKrista.com Instagram | @lifecoachkrista  |  Facebook | @coachingwithkrista Connect with Sharon Wirant, MA Sharon Wirant, MA is a chronic fatigue coach, entrepreneur, best-selling author of the book, Tired Yet Wired: Breaking Your Chronic Fatigue Cycle, and a coach within Molly Claire's Masterful Coach Community. No stranger herself to living with chronic fatigue and illness induced by burnout, Sharon loves to empower women to reclaim their energy to thrive in life, business, and play. By applying tools supported by brain science and neuroplasticity research, she helps others unleash their potential to heal just like she did. SharonWirant.com Instagram | @sharonwirantcoaching  |  Facebook | @sharonwirantcoaching swirant@gmail.com  |  Get her freebie: sharonwirant.com/quiz Connect with Mikki Gardner Mikki Gardner is a certified life coach through the Life Coach School, is trained in the Conscious Parenting Method as well as Applied Positive Psychology, and is the host of the Co-Parenting with Confidence podcast. Mikki helps women sort out the overwhelm, confusion, fear, and self-doubt they feel after divorce to become strong, effective, loving parents. She has 1 son, 2 bonus sons, a dog / furry soulmate and is part of a team of parents who include herself, her life partner, his ex-wife, her ex-husband, and his wife. MikkiGardner.com  Instagram | @mikkigardner | Facebook | @mikkigardnercoaching Connect with Molly Claire Create A Killer Program For Your Clients: Registration fills fast so get on the January 2024 waitlist! This interactive workshop-style Masterclass teaches you: How the right program can fuel your marketing and sales efforts 3 key ingredients to effective coaching programs How to build a program that will set you apart as an expert Masterful Coach Foundations + The 10K Accelerator Method: Designed for mission-centered Life Coaches who are ready to build a profitable and purposeful business? mollyclaire.com/foundations. Have a question or thoughts about the podcast? Don't hesitate to contact Molly at:  Instagram | Molly Claire Coaching IG  molly@mollyclaire.com Facebook Molly's book: The Happy Mom Mindset: mollyclaire.com/book  Please help Molly reach even more like-minded individuals! Simply post a review of the podcast on your favorite platform (or two). It is so appreciated. Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify | iHeart Radio | Amazon Music | RSS

Stay in touch and sign up for Paco's weekly email newsletter, The Nerdletter.  In this episode of Weird Finance, Paco talks to Krista St. Germain about becoming a grief expert and coach, the misconceptions about grief, the importance of integrating grief into one's life, the concept of wealth purgatory, normalizing discussions around grief and money,  the challenge of receiving a large sum of money in the aftermath of loss, and the practical and emotional aspects of managing finances, including healing and challenging belief systems around money. Krista St-Germain (@lifecoachkrista) is a Master Certified Life Coach, grief expert, widow, mom, and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista's life was completely flipped upside down. And while it would have been easy to believe her best days were behind her, thankfully, Krista discovered Life Coaching and Post Traumatic Growth and was able to move forward and create a future she could get excited about. Now, she coaches and teaches other widows so they can love life again, too. This episode also features a segment called Slow and Steady with Leo by Leo Aquino (@queerandtranswealth), an award-winning author, poet, and anti-capitalist personal finance expert.  A special thanks to the talented and generous Ramsey Yount for producing, editing, and sound designing this episode.  Thank you to Ramsey Yount and Andrew Howard for lending your voice for our special PSA.  The theme music was written and performed by Andrew Parker, Jenna Parker, and Paco de Leon. If you'd like to contact us about the show or ask Paco a question about finances, call our hotline at 1-833-ASK-PACO, email us at weirdfinancepod (at) gmail.com or submit your questions here. We'd also love your listener feedback about the show; here's a short survey.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

#237: With transitions come grief, and whether it relates to death or non-death losses, it's a topic we don't talk about enough.   Tune in today to hear three brilliant experts on grief, Briana Simmons, Charlene Lam, and Krista St-Germain, share their expertise on why we suck at grief, and how we can begin grieving in a nervous-system-based and somatically-embodied way. You'll hear what we need to increase our capacity to grieve, why this process will be unique to each and every person, and how we can support ourselves through grief spirals.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/237

My guest this week is Krista St-Germain, a grief expert and coach for widowed moms. She teaches other widows how to love life again after a tragic change in circumstances, which makes Krista the perfect guest to discuss agency and living with intention, even in the face of things that we cannot control.   Discover the power of your narrative about your feelings and the life-changing concepts that helped Krista through grief. Krista shares her valuable perspective on grief and loss, her experience in therapy versus getting coached, and the tools she uses with her clients who are in the thick of grief and big feelings.   Get the full show notes and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/80

*Trigger Warning - talk of death* Does it really just take time to recover from loss? Is the best grief strategy to keep ourselves busy? In this episode I'm joined by Grief Expert, Krista, who shares some powerful strategies and ideas around grief. The idea for this episode was born out of Krista supporting me recently, and me wanting to gift you with her unique and powerful ideas that can massively impact how you experience grief and loss. Take what you want from this episode, it's a powerful one. The resources we discussed on the podcast, and to stay connected with Krista: Grief Plateau quiz: www.coachingwithkrista.com/griefplateauquiz Podcast link: www.coachingwithkrista.com/podcast/ Instagram: instagram.com/joyfull.mama/  Krista St-Germain is a Master Certified Life Coach, grief expert, widow, mom and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista's life was completely flipped upside down. And while it would have been easy to believe her best days were behind her, thankfully Krista discovered Life Coaching and Post Traumatic Growth and was able to move forward and create a future she could get excited about. Now she coaches and teaches other widows so they can love life again, too.

In this candid episode, Lesley and Brad unpack the power of empathy for those dealing with grief. Drawing on Krista St-Germain's wisdom, they share insights and advice for support in challenging times. It's a deep dive into understanding and navigating the healing journey.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co . And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:In this candid episode, Lesley and Brad unpack the power of empathy for those dealing with grief. Drawing on Krista St-Germain's wisdom, they share insights and advice for support in challenging times. It's a deep dive into understanding and navigating the healing journey.Episode References/Links:OPC Workshops and WorkoutsProfitable Pilates Workshops UKWest Coast Summer TourContrology Pilates Conference (Poland)Cambodia Pilates RetreatJake Kelfer Website  If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox.Get your 15% discount for Toe Sox – use coupon code LESLEY15Be It Till You See It Podcast SurveyBe in the know with all the workshops at OPCBe a part of Lesley's Pilates MentorshipResourcesWatch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable PilatesSocial MediaInstagramFacebookLinkedInEpisode Transcript:Brad Crowell 0:00  I think the natural inclination is to commiserate. But we might not actually be able to understand what they're going through, because we may not have experienced something like that. And then we come up with something that like, I don't know, maybe we heard it at church or whatever. And that's, you know, it sounds like it could be helpful, but actually, it's minimizing what they're going through.Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.Lesley Logan 2:20  Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It interview recap where my co host in life Brad and I are going to dig into the life altering convo I had with Krista St. Germain in our last episode. If you haven't yet listened to that interview, feel free to pause this now. Go back and listen to that one. And then come back and join us, going to be honest, grab your Kleenex called your tissue. It was a shout out to Bel. I did not actually give the team any forewarning on the episode. Brad Crowell 2:46  I know, Bel and Kevin produce our show.Lesley Logan 2:50  I know. It's, I don't want to give too much away. But this is an episode on grief. And yeah. And so, you know, what I'm so grateful of as soon as we did this, as soon as we, I did this interview with Krista. I really made a point to be more conscious of how I handled people who were grieving. And in a way, not that I wasn't making conscious choices before, but I would always be aware of like, how I didn't know what to say, and I didn't want to fuck it up. Brad Crowell 3:20  Well, I mean, the thing you can't see right up to the interviewer and you were like, don't ask, you know, don't say like, anything I can do to help, just tell me, don't just do stuff. And I was like, I don't really understand what we're talking about here.Lesley Logan 3:36  Don't say that anymore. Don't just say I'll do whatever you need. Just let me know if you need anything.Brad Crowell 3:43  Let me know if you need anything. And I was like, Okay.Lesley Logan 3:46  Well what happened was literally the day after I did this interview, one of our Agency members lost their father. And then that set the week before one of our agency members niece had a shocking, like a very not expected passing. And I was like okay, everyone suggested resources Krista St. Germain's entire podcast and catalog. This is not a place where we do grief, this is a business coaching group but clearly when people grieving we're not going to apologize. We're not going to say we're here if you need anything, they need a lot of shit, they don't have time to tell you. All right before we get started today is international rock day? Yeah, it's not about rock music. It's about rocks, like the actual rocks.Brad Crowell 5:06  Actual rocks, so go kiss a rock today.Lesley Logan 5:09  I just want to say like shout out to all my millennial friends who have had a pet rock. And any of you who enjoy like seeing a rock. Brad has a friend who like literally collects rocks from like very famous places...(Brad: He does he collects rocks from around the world) In our living room we have many, many of these random rocks now because of him. I think it was intention to give it to him, there is a rock from Alcatraz in our livingroom.Brad Crowell 5:38  Sorry Michael, never passed that one along. Actually, I think that as funny as the pet rock concept is, I bet y'all out there have your own pet rocks, crystals.Lesley Logan 5:55  That's what I was wondering, are my crystals rocks? And so I'm unsure. It's unclear, Brad's googling as we speak.Brad Crowell 6:02  Okay, so technically, a crystal is just a mineral that is not part of an aggregated solid like a rock, but instead it stands on itself. Okay, so maybe a crystal isn't a rock.Lesley Logan 6:13  It's not international crystal day, we'll figure out when that day is. At any rate. There are some beautiful rocks out there. Some are very smooth, there are very jagged, some of you can climb.Brad Crowell 6:23  And if you like cactuses. There are cactuses that look like rocks...(Lesley: Which ones?) Stone cactus. Lesley Logan 6:30   Oh, well, yes. I think I recall that. Brad Crowell 6:32  It looks so cool. Y'all. Right now. Google stone cactus. Trust me. They're cool looking.Lesley Logan 6:39  I really think he thinks you're all googling...(Brad: they're so colorful) let us know if you do. All right. Okay. Well, wonderful. That's amazing. Thanks, babe. We also just wrapped up our first virtual summer camp. So an OPC. In the past, we've done like, one every other month, or what a quarter where we do a workshop or a workout. And it's just one. And the reality is, is there's actually only 52 weekends a year. And then you add all the holidays from around the world, and you're down to like 10. And the reality is, is like, it's just too complicated track 42 Yeah, so we decided to take all of our amazing teachers, and our contributors, and just like, zoom it up with some amazing workshops and workouts, each of our teachers had their own individual one. And then we did a team one on the teaser, and it was freaking phenomenal. And those who bought it, whether you came or not, your replays are in your dashboard. So happy Pilates in and if you liked it, and there's other topics you want, let us know we will add it to next. The next camp we do. But this was really fun, because everybody got to do one at one big shebang. And now people have access to them all the time.Brad Crowell 7:45  Yeah. And if you want to get on the waitlist for when the next one may be go to opc.me/event.Lesley Logan 7:51  Thanks, babe. And now we are about to leave for the UK. We're headed out there. We can't wait. In fact, I don't even know if there's spots left. But you're welcome to check at opc.me/uk but we are going to be in Leeds. We're leaving my dad in Dundee, Scotland. Fingers crossed. Fingers crossed that he is there when we get there.Brad Crowell 8:11  When we get back. Lesley Logan 8:12  Yeah, I'm sure he will be...(Brad: he's gonna be just fine) He's so excited about it.Brad Crowell 8:16  And he's been talking about it for weeks. He's already busted out his Scottish accent. Lesley Logan 8:23  Oh, yes. And I think he's getting his kilt lined. Oh, yep. So he might be in that. It's unclear. Anyways, he's ready to go. And we're gonna do Scotland with him and leave him there while we go to Leeds and teach some workshops and then pick him back up. And then we'll do some more touristy stuff. We're not going to see Stonehenge speaking of rocks. This is true. It seems to be a little out of the way. Brad Crowell 8:48  Yeah, it's in the middle of nowhere.Lesley Logan 8:49  Yeah. Unclear if it's like necessary to like make the adventure. So we'll do it another time. If it is. You let us know. Next month. We are on the first ever West Coast tour. You guys. At the time of recording this. We literally had announced it 48 hours ago. And holy frickin moly. Yeah, you West Coast, way to like, say, hey, West Coast best Coast like no offense to our winter tour people.Brad Crowell 9:13  But we're making it a contest, y'all.Lesley Logan 9:15  Shit the amount of tickets that already (...) It's okay, we're coming. It's gonna be good. We're coming. It's happening. We're so excited to see you bringing the flashlights and also on this tour. We're doing workshops. So we have lots of workshops. So those of you who do want CCS, or you want to understand the fast or some other things, we're doing some lots of workshops, lots of workshops. Yeah, and we can see my mom shout out to my mom and and a bunch of our favorite people on this planet with eLevate, and Agency, and OPC.Brad Crowell 9:44  So if you're interested in figuring out where we're going to be. We are leaving on August 6, we're gonna be back on the 21st roughly and somewhere in the middle of there. We're going south towards Southern California then central, Northern, and then up through Oregon, Washington.Lesley Logan 10:00  We made sure to pick all of the hot cities we're talking all of them Long Beach, Redlands, Bakersfeld, Hanford...(Brad: Bakers feld?) Yeah, Bakersfeld...(Brad: field, Bakersfield). Yeah. ModestoBrad Crowell 10:19  Fairfeld. Just go to opc.me/tourLesley Logan 10:25  Seattle is probably the one that I think (...)Brad Crowell 10:30  Portland still not sureLesley Logan 10:31  But like but I mean like I just want to shout out to all these other cities because you know what? You guys always travel to the big cities to get someone to see you and we're coming to youBrad Crowell 10:41  Heck yeah. It's gonna be awsome. Looking forward to it. It's gonna be a crazy whirlwind for us. I can't wait. Yeah. All right next we've got September, Poland. Go to pilatescontrology. Forgot to look it up, actually, yeah, we'll get you the link. There'll be a link to that in the show notes...(Lesley: I think it is pilatescontrologyconference.com) I think that's what it is pilatescontrologyconference.com Let's see what happens there. Nope, that's not it.Lesley Logan 11:10  Conference Contrology, that's gonna be in the show notes. Guys do notBrad Crowell 11:16  contrologypilatesconference.com we just flip the, you know?Lesley Logan 11:16  I mean, sometimes I'm word dyslexic. Is that a thing? Anyway!Brad Crowell 11:23  October, Cambodia. Y'all have heard us talk about this 1000 times go to Lesley logan.co/retreat. Join us, there are still tickets. there's still roomLesley Logan 11:32  Just a few. And also we got to talk to a couple of our retreaters last week and I'm like, Oh my God. Yeah, I saw Ainsley like, I've seen you in July and October. Brad Crowell 11:41  Ans there's Jenny, coming from Australia. Yes. We have people coming from all over the world. It's gonna be amazing. Lesley Logan 11:48  Really the best time to buy the flights now anyways, so you haven't, You haven't crossed (...) enough. You can still come.Brad Crowell 11:54  Yeah, it's true. All right, it is true. Lesley Logan 11:56  (...) Audience question, in case you didn't understand what was happening on your Friday downloads of the podcast, the FYF situation is we share wins and I thought it would be fun for you, those of you who may be skipping the FYFs to feel what it's like to be like to be inspired by wins.Brad Crowell 12:15  Because you know who you are...(Lesley: Yeah, you're the people) we know who you are.Lesley Logan 12:18  You know who you are? You're the person on like, oh, what's what's great going on right now. It's just been a really hard day. (...) What's the great thing happening right now? Well, actually, to be honest, like negative assay. So here's the thing. I am sharing a few of our wins. So the first one is from Sonia, this is from eLevate, she's an eLevate round two. And she said even if LL has said it a gazillion times, Pinkie side of the hand on the handle. I'm really seeing it everywhere now. And how it immediately connects people's arms and my own to their backs. Bloody brilliant. I didn't say it with the accent. And it's in so many of the exercises too, but took me a lot of time and exploration to find it, feel it and experienced it myself before I've been able to pass it on really loving this journey. Sonia. I'm loving you on the journey. Olivia, also, in round two said, I pitched the idea of Joe's gym class to some of my clients this week. They really love the idea and we're actually so excited. I finally realized that I didn't need to be so scared to teach it with my in person clients. Just because they're not teacher doesn't mean that they don't have the same client instructor trust that we all have started up in a few weeks (...) Everybody should be doing those gyms. It makes your clients even get more out of a group class. I love that. UK Claire, you guys.Brad Crowell 13:34  We're gonna be seeing her in a couple days. Lesley Logan 13:36  We also gonna see Sonia in Leeds. Oh, perfect. So you clicked Claire said my editor came back a day early with her initial evaluation. My tummy flipped and I thought that that meant it needed a huge overhaul. Okay, what she's talking about, and she's writing a book. Yeah, well, while she's written a book, I was wrong and actually meant that she was really impressed with it. And thanks. I made my point clear. Wow. Now it feels more real. I actually wrote a book and someone read it and liked it. Cool. Sidenote, Jake Kelfer is who (...) the book with so if you listen to his podcast, and you're like, I don't know if I should write a book. She did it and and thanks she did it (...) Two other agency members have signed up to write a book with JakeBrad Crowell 14:18  Yeah, so it's only been like two months, three months or whatever. And now we got books happening. So kicking ass Lesley Logan 14:26  And by the way, Claire started writing this at the beginning of this year and her books gonna be out this year. Like wow, it happens so fast. Her second win is when we are on our way to our dream cottage in Scotland for two weeks and last night I found a one five and 10 year plan I wrote on May 25 2021...(Brad: Okay, two years ago, yep.) First, on the firt on one year list was we have our dream cottage in Scotland. And we had a bump in the road last year we lost a house but that's not the house that was meant for us, this cottage 100% is, I'd written a vision for a traditional cottage in a village with hills and a river and the sea. The house last year had one of those, this cottage has all of them. Y'all fucking write your wins down, write your wants down, and then go for it. So this is, so, every Friday I share several wins from people in the community, I share one of mine. And as you can see, some of these are like really big. Some of these have taken a long time. And some of these are just as simple as like a Ha, ha. And I love sharing these because it's so important to me that we start to see evidence for things that we are actually doing in this planet, in this world, because that is how confidence is built. So thanks for letting me take over the audience question to share some wins. I'll be back tomorrow with a bunch moreBrad Crowell 14:36  Okay, now let's talk about Krista St. Germain. Krista St. Germain is a widow and grief expert who has turned her own devastating loss into a strategy for growth. Krista now helps others navigate through their own grief and trauma as a coach and a podcast host. Yeah, we already kind of mentioned at the top of the show here, y'all. But I was like listening as I was listening, like I'm working and I'm listening and, and like Leslie's like, Hey, cool. So we're gonna dig into grief today. And she's like, Yeah, you know, I'm a grief expert. It's like, okay, great. That's so good. And then, like two sentences into the pod. I was like, I'm sorry, what? I can't even work. I have to listen to the entire thing now. So it definitely it's, uh, you know, grabs your attention. It's a really sad story.Lesley Logan 17:04  It's a really sad story. It does look like it's such a hard story, because I feel like it is so unique to her. But also, every single one of you who have listened know someone who has gone through something, if not yourself. And as she was talking, I was thinking about all the different people I know, in my life at that moment, who were really struggling with grief, and I could see why some of them are struggling more than others, just based on what we tell people. Oh, time heals all wounds. Right. You're never given more than God thinks you can handle. All these things? Like who? Who had that? Like, do you hear that? Do you want to be told that? Anyways, like I said, a really top of the show. I have literally sent her whole podcast out and I'm like, Oh, she's got a quiz. She has a quiz, y'all. If you are unsure what you need, you can take a grief quiz with her. And she'll be like, here's all the episodes that are related to the grief you're in right now, which I think is phenomenal. Because you might not even know what you need, you know. So anyways, one of our friends, little, little one went through a really shocking loss. And I didn't want to pry. And they were just like, hey, does anyone have anything for children going through grief? And I followed up with her today, like this weekend, and I just was like, hey, I want to check on you. And your daughter, like, how are you guys doing? You know, you're like working and everything. And she told me what happened. And it was so great to not have to say I'm so sorry. I could just say that's really hard. Yeah. And I could inquire about bringing her some things, and not overwhelming her on the summer vacation. So it just felt really good to not feel like okay, I'll just say I'm so sorry. That sucks. You know, like it felt good. Now that it's about me, but you don't know what to do about people you love when they're going through this and you're like, I don't, I don't know what to do.Brad Crowell 18:57  Yeah, I mean, you know, she basically, you know, you will fail if you try to make it better with words. And that's kind of what Krista was talking about. Yeah, one of one of the things Lesley Logan 19:11  Well speaking of what I loved, stop try to make it better with words.Brad Crowell 19:15  I felt we were already there. I was like wow, yeah, we transition without realizing.Lesley Logan 19:19  I also just, I'm so good at transitions. I also really, like, she said we need to cut ourselves a break. We won't always say the right thing. And I think that that is really hard for a lot of people listening, hello my perfectionists and overachievers who just want to like, be amazing with the casseroles. Speaking of, there's another episode, don't bring fucking casseroles coming up but like it's, you know, you're gonna you're gonna step on the words you're not going to, you're going to regret some things you said and it's and words don't actually make it better. So she so I don't know that we need to like put these in your head but they're in a better place is not something you say, at least they are no longer suffering, like all that stuff. I understand why we say it and I even have like, heard it in my head when people have gone through it without saying the words. And it's like, why are these like the ear worms that are going on?Brad Crowell 20:16  Well, I think, I think the natural inclination is to commiserate. But we might not actually be able to understand what they're going through, because we may not have experienced something like that. And then we come up with something that like, I don't know, maybe we heard it at church or whatever. And that's, you know, it sounds like it could be helpful, but actually, it's minimizing what they're going through. And we're not trying to minimize but you know, like (...)Lesley Logan 20:43  Well, and speaking of, like she said, it's been, but what also says that what people grieving need is for another person to not feel discomfort with their emotions, like, like, we need to, we need to not commiserate with them, because they actually are going to feel like they have to take care of your emotions. There was this woman that I went to, and she was a therapist, and she was bringing people up on the stage and they were sharing, you know, they're asking a question to get some support from her. And she said, before she brought anyone up, she said, Okay, here's the deal. I'm gonna bring people up, and they're gonna share some things that you're gonna want to like, apologize for, commiserate with them, you're gonna see him in the bathroom and you want to go I'm sorry for what happened to you. And she says, You're not allowed to say that. Because the answer, the response that we are trained when we are children growing up to I'm sorry, is it's okay. Brad Crowell 21:37  Right! And it's not okay. Lesley Logan 21:40  And so she was like, you can say, thank you for sharing your story. But you are not allowed to say I'm so sorry.Brad Crowell 21:47  Well, I love, I mean, she wrapped that whole section up with saying, like, like, the reality is, they just want to be seen. And, but what does that actually mean? Like, I just want to be seen, right? They don't want you to go to (...)Lesley Logan 22:01  I think what happens is we avoid, if we don't know what to say we just stop reaching out. And like, that makes them feel isolated. And, and so being seen is like, I think just showing up and dropping things off. And if it wasn't helpful, okay, like, you know, you don't have to actually like knock on the door and to get answered, you could leave things or, you know, you can try and think of someone else I was talking to, you know, somebody just picked our kids up from school. Just did it, didn't ask, Can I pick your kids up from school? was like, Hey, I'm picking up the kids this week. I'm taking care of yours. Like, No, you're not, you know, like, didn't kidnap them. But like, the scene is like, anticipating people's needs. If you're a mom, and the person who lost someone's a mom, well put yourself in those shoes. What would you go fuck, who's going to do that? Brad Crowell 22:57  I mean, the casserole can be that. But I also think that that's like, I think that the bigger picture here is that dropping off a casserole isn't the end of this, it shouldn't be...(Lesley: you also walk the dog.) You know, there's a million different things that you can do. But I think when you're actually in the moment, and you're speaking with them, the you know, like, sitting there and just being there is really, really powerful. You know, and you don't have to say anything. You just say I love you.Lesley Logan 23:29  I actually think not saying anything and being in that space and saying that and like holding, like just being there holding their hand. All of the things, so, being seen is what they want. And you can see people in different ways and it's not with words. Anyways, what did what did you love? So what did you love about the death?Brad Crowell 23:51  What did you love about grief journey and listening to her story? I felt like the permission that she gave that feelings are okay, is really important. And I know you all have heard me talk about my divorce before, but that was like the biggest sadness, like grief moment in my world, and that I've ever had in my life. And so I always relate back to like, I think back to that moment for me, and it was really interesting to listen to the second half of the interview, where she was talking about the overwhelming feelings. I mean, I was just talking about this with my dad. Not even a month ago, their dog, you know, they had to put their dog down, he was too old and his legs weren't working and he couldn't walk. And so you know, it was that time and you know how much we all get attached to our pets. We love them like they're family. They are family. And for the very first time in my life, I actually had a moment with my dad, where it was like truly emotional. And he said, I asked them, I said, you know, how are you feeling about, you know, the dog not being there? And he said, Well, it's really weird. And I look around the house and I see things that I expect there to be the dog. And he's not there. I mean, they had him for 13 years, you know? And he said, it's caused a lot of like, emotions to well up, that I don't even expect them. And they just happen.Lesley Logan 25:51  I think like, Krista even brought that up...(Lesley: Yeah, she did.) Like, even though she knew it was gone, there was just like, certain places, she expected him to be.Brad Crowell 26:02  Yeah, like in bed, or she mentioned the garage door going up and expecting it to be pulling in. Yeah, you know, but what I thought was unbelievably helpful with that, specifically that, is that she said, our brain has expectations, which I find so funny, because it makes so much sense. I believe that all life is managed based on expectations, and the way we communicate our expectations will allow life to be amazing or shitty. But your brain has expectations too, which I thought was like, Oh, I didn't even realize that, when she heard the garage door up open for a long time. I don't know how long they were married. It was almost always probably her husband coming home. Right? So she said, You need to effectively be reprogrammed or be intentionally reprogramming your brain to or, you know, until that reprogramming happens. Yes, you will naturally associate that with the expectation of this thing, whether it's rolling over and your spouse is on the other side of the bed. Or and when you realize that that's not reality. What happens you become emotional, that's just natural. She said your brain, you need to, it will reprogram over time. She said it just simply takes time. I mean, how many times did the garage door open? You know how long will it take for it to open and not be associated with that her husband come home?Lesley Logan 27:30  Yeah, I love this. I know it's in your notes. But she says broken heart syndrome is real. Where the heart actually aches. Brad Crowell 27:37  Yeah. I didn't look that up. Lesley Logan 27:43  So, it's, the broken heart is not reflective of what is wrong with you. It's just grief impacts people differently. So like, I think it's so interesting. Some people feel grief so intensely in the beginning, some people don't even feel at the beginning. But then all of a sudden they felt later, right? And I think that like it's important to know that you are allowed to process the grief however you want and people, don't let people tell you that you aren't or are you are grieving too much. You're grieving too little. You should be taking a break like you do need to.Brad Crowell 28:16  I do want to amend that statement. You're allowed to process the grief anywhere that you want that isn't self destructive. Oh, yeah. If you finding yourself in a self destructive mode, then it's absolutely time to seek help. Right. And I think, you know, it was, for me, this self destruction was drinking. I would come home and drink until I would go to sleep. And you know, fortunately, unfortunately, there came a point where I was having a hard time at work, it was affecting my, you know, me functioning in the rest of my life, and I could no longer hide it. And I also felt like absolute shit. And I realized like, Okay, I have a choice to make here. You know, but it's also you might not realize that you're in self destructive.Lesley Logan 29:05  Well, she said, this is where compassion for ourselves is important. Focusing on the basics of self care, which we should be celebrated. Hi, thanks by celebrations. Did we eat today? Did I shower today? Again, overdo it and perfectionist. Like we have got to understand that like, what I mean, like my girlfriend just had a baby. And that was like, I was like, did you eat today? Did you shower today? Like, I think it's, I think we put these high expectations on ourselves, even in a grief process. Like I should be over this now. Right? Oh, I see. I see different posts like evenShe mentioned the one year mark. People have this expectation that I'll be better.I know. And like I saw this in my mom. She was like putting this pressure like it's been two years. I thought it'd be easier and it's like, what? It's not a race. It's not like a like turn on the time clock and like it's ding timers over. Dinner's ready and you're grief free, like, right? It doesn't work like that. And so I thought, like, I love that she's like focus on the basis of self care because like, we should always be doing that. And especially in that time, and if you can, if you can be compassionate to yourself in grief, what a muscle you can have afterwards.Brad Crowell 30:18  Well, that's what I loved the permission that she gave of feelings are okay, because that, the two year mark where, you know, your mom's dad passed away, and you know, they lived next door to each other. So like, it was like part of her entire life. He's literally there and also mom a couple years before that, right? And so, the two year mark, there's no magic like, thing, right? And so, but if you know that the feelings are okay, it's okay to have feelings. And they're actually normal, and they're natural. And they're part of you, you know, moving through this experience. You know, I thought it was a really, really amazing permission. So, like you said, don't be bummed. Don't beat yourself up if you're like, like, how come I'm not over this already? Or whatever. You know?Lesley Logan 31:14  I think so. Krista, shout out to you and the work that you're doing for so many because my goodness, we weren't taught this in school.Brad Crowell 31:21  No. Although we did learn about the five stages of grief which I promptly forgot. So anyway.Lesley Logan 31:31  People can listen to her tell them and that's fine, because that's why we have the interview. And the recap. Brad Crowell 31:36  No, no, I meant in school when I was growing up. That's all I learned about grief. Like, I just knew there were stages, but I didn't really know what they were, you know?Lesley Logan 31:44  Did she even bring up if those were good or not?Brad Crowell 31:46  She said they don't matter. She did bring them up, or you brought that up.Lesley Logan 31:50  Are you talking about like anger?Brad Crowell 31:51  Yeah, I just know that, you know, time is the natural healer.Lesley Logan 32:00  Except for you don't say that. You don't say that. Brad Crowell 32:05  No, don't say that to someone who's grieving. Lesley Logan 32:08  But you don't say it to someone who's grieving.Brad Crowell 32:10  Yeah, I just, I just know, for me, it was that's my, my personal experience is, you know, with my, I remember thinking about my ex, every single day, whether I wanted to or not, something would happen, where I would think of her. And I was, at first it was really, like, emotional, and it would send me down this path. And then I got frustrated with myself, actually, that I was still thinking about her why I'm, like, ready to move past this, you know, and then, and then I can't even pinpoint the day that just stopped happening. And I was living my life. And then one day, I was like, Oh, shit, I just realized that I haven't had that recurring thought cycle, you know, a month or three months or something like that.Lesley Logan 33:03  It was because of me. I stepped up your life. (...)Brad Crowell 33:08  (...) Just marry Lesley. Lesley Logan 33:14  Just kidding. I just handled grief with humor.Brad Crowell 33:22  My wife, I love you.Lesley Logan 33:25  I love you.Brad Crowell 33:27  And we'll be right back. //Amazing.Lesley Logan 33:32  And on a high note, Jesus sewed down.Brad Crowell 33:35  All right. So we're gonna move on to those Be It action items. One second. All right. Get a drink. Well, I can talk. Yeah, hold on. I gotta clap a second.All right. Now let's talk about those Be It action items, what bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted action items can we take away from your convo with Krista St. Germain?... Actually, I love this because I was so intrigued by this, that I looked it up and I started reading all about it...(Lesley: Did you do it?) I did it. I in fact, I've been doing it and we'll talk about it. So tapping, right? so it's called EFT Emotional Freedom Tapping. And I didn't realize it but I've just was naturally doing it to my own body. In fact, I've probably done it my whole life like if I feel like like you know, sometimes I just tap on my legLesley Logan 35:07  You actually do in EAT everyone can listen to a human talk about it for 17 hours, but it's this like thing at least (..)Brad Crowell 35:12  No but I don't know I don't know the differences between the two but the EFT part I didn't I so I looked it up there are a handful of pressure points that are acupressure points. One is the hand, the bottom of the hands like a karate chop. Right? One is on the side of your head, your eyebrows, underneath your eyes, and then also your chin. And then also I think like right up at the crown of your head or whatever. So what what I wasn't necessarily tapping, but what I have done my whole life is I've pushed, I've just pressed in on my eyebrows for like five seconds until a release happens. Right? And I didn't realize I do this naturally. I do it all the time on my chin. Yeah, I still do all the time. Lesley Logan 35:59  There's reasons why we don't have the same office. But anyways, tapping.Brad Crowell 36:05  Yeah, so she said she's a big proponent of it EFT Emotional Freedom tapping. And it's, what she said about it, which I thought was really cool, was it's twofold for you know, you mentioned first off that grief is released through emotion movement...(Lesley: trauma leaves the body through movement) Sorry, trauma leaves the body through movement. And then she said and while we were doing it with because she's got a daughter and she said she would sit there and she would, you know, like together they would tap and she would say it's okay, it's gonna be okay. It's gonna be okay. And she said when you tapped, when you tap on these, these acupressure points, it actually like literally sends like a release through your system. You're and I've totally experienced that. It's kind of amazing. So if you're struggling with grief, definitely look into EFTLesley Logan 36:59  And she said there's a Tapping Solution app. Yeah, that's my takeaway. So she's not familiar with it, but she loves their work and super great for beginners. You know, I'm already thinking up to send this my friend and you can download it and pay for it. So she actually used to do with nightmares for children when they were young. So they were already like ready to go. So parents you can just start them tapping now in case they need to use as a tool. And like you said, you can fill your whole body relax.Brad Crowell 37:24  Yeah, she said it makes you feel safe. It reduces your cortisol level. You can literally feel your body relax. Lesley Logan 37:30  Yeah, you guys, tap away...(Brad: tap away.) Tap, tap tap. I think there's a sweetie song tap tap tap in, anyways, that's where my brain went. You guys, I'm Lesley Logan.Brad Crowell 37:42  And I'm Brad Crowell.Lesley Logan 37:43  This is not the last time we're talking about grief. If you really enjoyed this conversation, please let us know so we can bring Krista back or bring in more experts on this because, my goodness, how does like how can grief like really truly make it feel like you're not able to Be It Till You See It? That's why I really wanted to bring her on. So let me know. Let us know how this helped you. Let us know what this allowed you to do, what permission it gave you. And if you try this tapping technique, tag the Be It pod, tag Krista and until next time. 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Join Lesley Logan in this powerful episode with Krista St-Germain as they delve into a poignant journey of grief transformation. Discover Krista's profound insights on supporting individuals in mourning and embracing self-care amidst the isolating nature of grief. If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co . And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:Krista's profound journey through grief after losing her husband.How to find solace in cognitive coaching tools.The isolating nature of grief.Discover steps for moving forward and toward healing. How to navigate well-intentioned but unhelpful responses to grief. Episode References/Links:Krista St-Germain WebsiteThe Widowed Mom PodcastBroglieBoxGuest Bio:Krista St-Germain is a Master Certified Life Coach, grief expert, widow, mom and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista's life was completely flipped upside down. And while it would have been easy to believe her best days were behind her, thankfully Krista discovered Life Coaching and Post Traumatic Growth and was able to move forward and create a future she could get excited about. Now she coaches and teaches other widows so they can love life again, too.  If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox.Get your 15% discount for Toe Sox – use coupon code LESLEY15Be It Till You See It Podcast SurveyBe in the know with all the workshops at OPCBe a part of Lesley's Pilates MentorshipResourcesWatch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable PilatesSocial MediaInstagramFacebookLinkedInEpisode Transcript:Krista St-Germain 3:02  So I'm standing there on the side of the road texting my daughter who was 12 at the time to tell her that we would be late. And a car that we later found out the driver had meth and alcohol in his system. It's five 5.30 on a Sunday. It's well lit, hazard lights are on, right? but he did not see us, he did not break. And he just crashed right into the back of Hugo's car and trapped him in between his car and my car. And so it felt like this perfect future and amazing life that I had was just, like, ripped.Lesley Logan 3:17  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started. All right, Be It babes. Okay, so I have been really thinking about different types of guests, I wanted to bring on this show to talk about different topics. We talk a lot about your goals and your health and all about like helping you like, Be It Till You See It. And then there are moments in our life that are unplanned. And some of those moments that are unplanned are not just like, oh, you know, like, my internet went down today, and I couldn't do the work I wanted to do or my kid got sick, and I couldn't do the wreck one issue, some of those things actually involve loss, and grief. And as a recovering perfectionist and overachiever, I can see perfectionists, overachievers struggling with going towards their goals and working with grief. And so when I was, when I found today's guest, her name is Krista St-Germain, I was so excited, which is a weird way to feel about this topic. But I was so excited to bring her on to the podcast because she is the only person that can talk to you about grief in the way that she does. And I am, I really can't wait for you to listen to this episode because those of you who are in some acute kind of grief right now, I really hope this validates you and gives you a lot of permission. Those of you who are around people who are grieving right now, I hope that this helps you see things from a different perspective. We also talked about how you could say. She also mentioned after we were done, that she has a quiz on her website. That way, if you are going through grief, and you're unsure which episodes to listen to on our podcast, you can take a quiz, and it will tell you so our team will have all of those links below. I hope this is an episode that you save, that you keep that you can share the link to other people who are working with this and also her podcast specifically. Because there is, we have a lot of work to do around this topic. I believe in our world, we too often think okay, just give them a couple of weeks, and then they'll be fine and, you know, the people that they lost are in a better place and all these things and it's like we can do better, we can do better and not in a perfectionist way but just in an honest human way. And a lot of the things she talks about are really important in all areas of your life. And you know how we do one thing is how we do everything and so whether you're not going through any part of a grief process right now. I hope you do listen to this because I hope you hear those things that we keep saying when it comes to other parts of your life that will help you here because if you can actually practice those when you're not in a grief, you're not in a grieving stage, or grieving place I should say rather than stage, I think you're gonna have a better muscle for it. So anyways, I'm just gonna let Krista to take it away because she is just wonderful. And here is Krista St-Germain.All right, Be it Babes, I have. I guess I've been really excited to bring on not because the topic is very exciting, but because it's actually like something that we can all guarantee we're going to have to go through. That will go through, and we have to learn. We need to learn how to work with it so that we can continue to be the amazing people we are in this world. Krista St Germain Can you tell everyone who you are and what you're up to these days?  Krista St-Germain 6:03  Absolutely. And I'm always excited when somebody is willing to talk about grief because it's never an exciting topic, but it is so valuable. So yeah, I'm Krista St. Germain. I am a master certified coach. I'm a widow. I'm a mom, I host a podcast called The Widowed Mom Podcast. And when I was 40, my husband died. I didn't come by this work, because it was something I really wanted to do. I just kind of got hurled into it. But it was my second marriage. First one kind of went down in flames. Second one was like the redemption story, write proof that you know you can be treated like you want to be treated and happiness is possible. And so I felt like I was really on a big high at that point in my life. And my husband and I had gone on a trip we driven separately wasn't too far away from where we lived. And we were almost home and I had a flat tire pulled over on the side of the interstate, he pulled up behind me. And even though we had triple A, but he was like that stubborn. I'll just do it. We can get home faster, you know, and so I just I let him but cars really whizzing by. So I'm standing there on the side of the road texting my daughter who was 12 at the time to tell her that we would be late. And a car that we later found out the driver had meth and alcohol in his system. It's five 5.30 on a Sunday. It's well lit, hazard lights are on, right? but he did not see us, he did not break. And he just crashed right into the back of Hugo's car and trapped him in between his car and my car. And so it felt like this perfect future and amazing life that I had was just, like, ripped. ...(Lesley: Oh my god). Yeah, yeah. Yeah. And what I found really quickly was that I didn't know anything about grief. Right? And what I did know wasn't actually that helpful was kind of inaccurate. And so when I got myself back to a place where I was like functioning again, I kind of ran out of resources. You know? Therapy was great in the beginning, but you kind of reach a point where you're back to functioning and people are telling you, Oh, you're so strong. And you you're doing so great. And you're like, I don't really think this is what great feels like like this is not what I want, right? So fast forward, long story, right? I did a bunch of my own research, I found cognitive coaching tools. I learned about post traumatic growth, I learned how to support my nervous system. I just did a whole bunch of work. And when I kind of got to a place where I was feeling good, I decided, all right, I don't want people to go through what I went through and not be able to find what they need because we live in a culture that is just so grief illiterate. So that's why I do what I do.Lesley Logan 8:31  Yeah, oh my goodness. I cannot not imagine losing your loved one, actually in the same place that you are and having no ability to help that. So I'm so sorry you went through that. But also like, I agree, like when we lose someone, everyone's like, Oh, time, time is really good. And time and it's like, is it? And so how interesting. I mean, like, I imagine this took a lot of time to go through all those trainings. Are you going back to school? Were you like reading books? What kind of prompted this?Krista St-Germain 9:12  I read so many grief books. Yeah, I mean, I just started looking for resources, right? for me early in grief, you know? a lot of us have this kind of grief fog experience where your grief affects your whole body. So your hormones are out of whack. You're not sleeping well. Your processing ability is just so limited, right? And so it was really frustrating to me as someone who has always read self help, always. I couldn't read and retain anything like I would just read it and it would just not stay in my brain. So it took me a while for that to subside enough where I actually could start reading and learning but yeah, I just started reading about grief and reading different grief theories. The only grief theory I had heard about was the five stages. I didn't know there were other grief theories, right? Lesley Logan 9:55  I know, I've only heard the five stages and yeah, and I can't repeat them. So I think there's anger in there.Krista St-Germain 10:02  Somewhere I think we deny and then some said, Yeah, we're angry. And some Yeah, we bargain. Yeah. And that's, that's that's been my experience is that most people are exactly where I was, which is, that is the only grief theory they ever heard. And unfortunately, you know, even that work has just been really misused and misunderstood. And so we walk around trying to, you know, put square pegs in round holes and compare ourselves to what we think grief is supposed to be like, when that's actually not what it usually is like, and yeah, so...Lesley Logan 10:33  And also, like, and also you are a mom, you know? So like, there's, like, handling the grief, and also your child is also grieving, because you also, were not the same mother anymore. So I'm sure that that's another compounding layer. I want to know, like, how are you able to start to, first of all integrate into your life and then take on the role of like teaching this to others? Because that is a whole, I mean, I know that once we like learn things, you can learn it more if you teach it, but like, how did you come around, saying, I'm going to share this with others, because it means like, telling your story over and over again. And, and then being there for others.Krista St-Germain 11:14  Yeah, it actually took me a while, I kind of went through, I realized pretty quickly after he died, that what I was doing for a living was not feeding my soul. Like, it was making me a good living. And, but it wasn't a wasn't something I felt passionate about. And so I kind of already decided that I wanted to do something else. And I didn't exactly know what that would be. But my therapist was, she was like, You should become a therapist. You can come and you can work for me. And when I retire, you can buy my practice, and I will help you get into MFT school and all the things, right? She had it like totally planned out.Lesley Logan 11:25  Like, I got your I gotta for you like, oh, look at this. Krista St-Germain 11:53  Yeah, you should just be a therapist. And you know how I mean, I'm sure you're the same way where people who end up in these kinds of professions, we naturally are people that other people come to anyway, right? So it made sense to me. So actually enrolled in a marriage and family therapy program. And simultaneously, I decided to enroll in a life coaching program. And the conclusion that I came to eventually was, I don't want to be a therapist. Coaching feels scarier to me, and it's much less known to me, right? and I don't see the path and people are probably going to think I'm crazy, but it's what's actually helping me. And so I'm not going to be there. So I didn't I enrolled, I was ready, I was waiting, it almost started. And then I pulled the plug on that. And I decided to become a coach. But at that point in time, I still was not planning to do grief work, because I just hadn't done enough of my own. I imagined I would be sad all the time I imagined it would, you know, be just too much too heavy. But as I went through more of my own work, and then certification, and then all the practicum and more coaching at a certain point I went, you know, it just really doesn't make any sense to do anything else. Like, this is where I'm uniquely qualified. To help someone and so... (Yeah, like, Yeah, okay. So yeah)Lesley Logan 13:13  That's such a, like, that's such a, I love that you're like, it was the scariest thing. You're like, oh, my gosh, because we always talk about, like, you know, on this podcast, we're always like, you know, if, like fear, like action is the antidote to fear. And like, really, the things that scare us are really the place that's like, kind of a flashlight of like, where we're supposed to be, where the work is that we've got to do. It's like that thing over there that you're like, ooh, close the door. I don't want to see that.Krista St-Germain 13:38  Yeah, and listen, I live in Kansas. Okay, so we're not super progressive around here in terms of, you know, life coaching, what even is that? And also I was in an engineering job. I mean, I was in a job surrounded by I was a project manager for an engineering department. So everyone in my orbit was logical. Right? And, by the way, my late husband was an engineer who worked at that same company, and I could hear his voice, which was logical, which was, don't do it. Don't walk away from this money. You know, that's too big of a risk. Like, that's not a smart idea. So yeah, there was nobody understood what I wanted to do, or why I wanted to do it. It didn't make sense to anyone. Nobody really, honestly, could imagine me being successful doing that, because they just didn't know what it was. So there was a ton of fear.Lesley Logan 14:25  Yeah, yeah, that's, it's a lot when like our family or people like in our life, who cannot see it the way we are seeing it, and it's not that we need to see it. I don't know that I needed anyone in my family to see what I was doing. It's like, yeah, go get it. I just needed them to like not tell me what they're afraid of (...)Krista St-Germain 14:46  Yeah, yeah. You have to be really careful with who you surround yourself with. I think.Lesley Logan 14:51  Well, is that the same when in the grief process? I mean, I know I know some of the listeners right now. Just because our coaching program I know some of them are in in grief, like recent loss of family members, is even who you surround yourself with a thing you should consider when you're going through a grief process.Krista St-Germain 15:13  Yeah, I mean, there's, you know, there's still probably people you're going to be interacting with that maybe aren't as supportive as you'd like them to be. So I think we need to kind of figure out, how do we still work with those people and maintain them in our lives, assuming that we want them. But also grief can be really, really isolating. And because it's something our culture doesn't talk about a lot. And because we just kind of, I think, all walk around with this assumption that feelings are problems and like, we should deal with them on our own. And, you know, we have a lot of misinformation about grief and time healing and all that stuff, right? So so that it just tends to make us want to isolate more and more and more. So even if you don't have anybody in your immediate environment, who can relate, I guarantee you, you can find somebody on the internet, right? You can find someone who's gone through something that's similar to what you've gone through. So that at least you don't feel like you're the only one at least you have some place you can go to talk or maybe just express what has happened without feeling the need to explain yourself. I love technology for that reason, right? There's grief groups for everything. And you just want to be careful that, you know, at a certain point, something like that can be it's exactly what you need. And then sometimes it can turn into something that holds you back. And you kind of have to know where that line is for you.Lesley Logan 16:29  Yeah, I am sure that like it's different for everybody. Do you think that there's like any signs that like, maybe you might be leaning on to that as a crutch too much is like, Are there any things to pay attention to?Krista St-Germain 16:41  I think what it is, for most of the people that I see, it's not so much that they are leaning on to it, it's that they start to realize that it's no longer serving them, and I hate to make rules about this, you know, over generalizations I don't like but for many of us in the early days, it's just so good to be able to talk about what happened and express it without feeling like we're dumping it on someone. Right? And so people who understand we can just tell the story and make peace with the story. And there it is, and they can, can be there in that way. But then at a certain point, most of us reach a place where we're kind of tired of telling the story. Right? Telling the story becomes limiting. And so then that's at the point where a group, if really, it's just a bunch of telling the story might start to not be in service to where we want to go next. Because maybe now we want to start focusing on telling a different story. Right? whenever we want to start focusing on creating the next story, the next chapter. Yeah, you know, not every group is ready for that.Lesley Logan 17:48  Yeah, you know, actually, as you're saying that there's like, kind of, I think that happens in different areas of life, not just in grief. But like, when people know you as a certain person and as a certain job and you're like, you've moved on, I like like, maybe you were vegan, and I'm like, Oh, you're the vegan and not you're not, you're a vegetarian now or something like that. And it's like, you kind of I know that I'm like making a very general, like, what does it mean to food and grief. But I think in life, we can end up with people who can hold us back and try to keep us at an old story that we're trying to move on from and so anytime that's happening, it's a good time to go, Is this is this situation serving me? And like, Where's the group of people that I can be, I can tell the new story with?Krista St-Germain 18:31  Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's great when you can go somewhere and go, Oh, I'm not crazy. It's not me. This is grief, this is normal. Other people are experiencing this too. And then when it becomes Oh, my god, is this all there is like, are we going to be depressed for the rest of our lives? Are we going to be crying every day? Because a lot of these people are still, that's where they are. That's happened to me, right? And I was like, Okay, I'm not going to be one of those, you know, stories were 10 years later, I'm still just pining my time and waiting, you know, to die so that we can be together like, that's not going to be my life.Lesley Logan 19:05  Yeah. So what happens? So okay, what is a, since we have, we all know what the five are, but we don't really know the order anymore. And people just know that it exists. And we will look at it when it's time for us to go through it. But like, what, what have you, what have you found like, if someone's going through some grief right now, aside from finding a group, what is some something that they can do for themselves to keep moving forward?Krista St-Germain 19:29  Yeah. And just a note on what you've just said, typically, I think it's important, like you don't ever have to pay attention to the five stages of grief, honestly, that work was initially about hospice patients. It was about people who are coming to terms with their own mortality, not people who were grieving the loss of someone else. And then that work was applied to grief and grieving but it was originally about death and dying. So, it went from being an anecdotal, useful conversation starter in a time where no nobody was talking about death, right, at that time, to being something that people have tried to force themselves to fit into. So, I just want to say like, you know, you ever have to learn that.Lesley Logan 20:11  You guys can skip ahead on that chapter.Krista St-Germain 20:14  All the feelings are okay, there is no end to grief, right? Grief is a natural human response to a perceived loss. We don't get over it, we don't get to the end of it. Right? We adjust to it, we incorporate it into our lives, we integrate. Right? That's the idea. But I could go, I could go on a soapbox there. So like, what do you do in the beginning? I think you let yourself be a hot mess, and honestly, just have so much compassion, right? Because it really is a full body experience, there really is no part of, if the loss was significant to you, there really is no part of your life that probably isn't being touched. And it's okay, if things feel completely off, right? Your hormones will be off, you might not be sleeping well, you might be totally numb. You might be foggy brained, your heart might actually hurt, right? A broken heart syndrome is a real symptom that people have of grief, where their heart actually aches. And so none of that is reflective of anything that you have done wrong, it doesn't mean anything about the future for you, right? It's just grief impacts people differently. And so the more compassion we can have for ourselves in that experience, and the more we can kind of focus on the basics of self care, like basics, right? Did we eat today? Like, there were days where I could eat nothing more than a smoothie, and I only ate it if my family brought it to me. Right? Did I shower recently? Like some of those basic things are to be celebrated? It is it really truly get back to basics, how much water, can I drink some water, can I get more rest? And I know that's not easy to do, especially when you have kids or you have a job or you have, you know, things that you feel like are demanding and pulling on your time. Also, to, as much as I don't like that the idea of time heals. I used it, I used to be vehemently against it. And every time someone said it to me, I'd be like, no time sits there, time does nothing, right? But what I have learned is that it really is a lot more nuanced than that. We don't want to depend only on time healing, because if we think that time is what heals, then sometimes what we do is we swing way over in the opposite direction, and we just kind of grip tightly to the steering wheel, right, and like, hold on for dear life and wait for time to pass. And we don't acknowledge how we're actually feeling and we don't let ourselves think about the loss. And then for women or women in particular, it seems to be we have this idea of you know, the one year mark, somehow miracles will happen, like the clouds will part and the angels will sing and all the sudden we won't be in grief anymore. And if you've gripped your way through the whole first year, then usually It's so disappointing to get past that first year and realize, oh, actually, just because I got through those first milestones doesn't mean I still don't have some feelings to, you know, be with and some thoughts to look at. But also, time does need to pass in terms of what our brain is doing, as we're grieving, right? And if it was a significant relationship, especially a partner at one, we have to understand that our brain is like a prediction machine. Right? So, it's constantly like when you think about your husband, you you know, when you're going to see him next, you kind of know where he is, right? If you were to wake up in the middle of the night, assuming you sleep in the same bed and you reach over and he's not there. That would be weird. Because your brain has had him there so many times that it expects him to be there. And so when he, when your brain expects and that and reality doesn't match the expectation, that's when we have the longing or the yearning, or that weirdness of like, I know they died, but also it feels like they should be here. You know, I know they died, but also, the garage door just went up and I thought that it would be them. And you kind of feel like you're a little crazy. So the brain has to have enough exposures to their absence to stop predicting that they will be there. And now that part does take time. Yeah, right time does have to pass.Lesley Logan 24:29  It is interesting. It's a combination of like you have to be taking care of yourself. And time has to pass, right? So that and I you said it earlier and I don't want to use it so eloquently, but like, like we don't get over grief. I think people are expecting like it somehow someday I'm just over it. It's just gonna happen. It's just gonna be gone and I just don't. I think that's a terrible expectation to put on.Krista St-Germain 25:00  We use language like grief journey, you know? And of course, when you think there are stages to something, don't you think that then there's an end resolution? Yeah, of course. So of course, we think it's going to be over. But we can't go back and undo the loss, which means we're always going to have thoughts and feelings about it. So really, what we want to do is move from kind of unintentional thoughts and feelings, to integrating it into our lives intentionally. So that we're thinking about that loss in a way that doesn't hold us back from the life that we want. But we might still always choose to be sad about it. Like, we don't have to be grateful that it happened. But we want to go from unintentional to intentional.Lesley Logan 25:39  Yeah, I think. I think all of that just makes me feel like you just take the pressure off. And I feel like the perfectionists and overachievers, what's hard is that they want to be able to handle grief, some perfect way, there must be a way I must do this. And then also, I should be able to show up for my job and for my family and keep everything going, while grieving and I imagined that there is a space where it is possible to show up for life and move the needle forward. At some point, but not in the beginning.Krista St-Germain 26:13  I mean, yeah, it's different for everyone. Some people I am blown away by how they can just like go straight back to work and kind of jump right back in. So I don't ever want to put rules around it. But yeah, it's gonna take what it takes for you. And judging yourself doesn't make it take less time. It doesn't make it any easier, right? Cuz compassion and kindness and self care are really important.Lesley Logan 26:40  Yeah, y'all keep hearing about that self care stuff. We can you talk about it around here. Just so you know.Krista St-Germain 26:46  Almost like it's important.Lesley Logan 26:49  Yeah, so, Krista, you've been doing this for I don't know how long you've been doing this, now. What are you hoping to do next? Like, where are you hoping you take your message and your mission?Krista St-Germain 27:02  If I could just wave a magic wand, then as soon as someone's spouse died or partner died, they would just be given The Widowed Mom podcast, they would like be given the resources that I have. So I realize, you know, there's 11 million widows. So that's probably a big stretch. But honestly, that's what I would like is to be able to reach people earlier in more acute grief. So that they have an easier time and so that they suffer less. And, you know, yeah, that's why that's why I love coming on podcasts like this and talking about it. Oh, it's because now somebody's gonna know. Yeah, somebody's gonna be like, Oh, I know, someone who just, you know, had that experience, or somebody's gonna take something from today. And then later, it's something they're gonna go through grief, and then they're going to be more prepared for it.Lesley Logan 27:45  Yeah. So okay, on the other side of it, not the other side of grief. But the other person, people around someone going in grief are the people who maybe are not like that, that loss of that person is terrible for them. But it's not their partner. It's not their mom. It's not their, but so they but they love their best friend or they love who their coworker. And wow, we don't know what to say to these people. Like, we have no idea. Like, I'll see someone post their dog died. And I'm like, I like tear face. Like, what do I say right now?Krista St-Germain 28:18  I don't think it's the party emoji. I don't think that's the one. Lesley Logan 28:23  You know, and so like, you see, like, sometimes I see people write something like, I guess that's nice, too. But like, what? And obviously everyone is different. But is there like some things we should avoid? Or some things we can consider? Or like, like, maybe like, say that's like, opens the door? Because I feel like you know, I remember as a kid, I heard people say, Oh, bring someone who lost somebody toilet paper, because they need essentials. Like don't bring them food. Everyone's bringing them food. Bring them paper towels. Like, really? I'm gonna show up at the house with like, six rolls of paper towels.Krista St-Germain 29:01  I had somebody, bless her, she just went and bought all my kids school supplies. Because it was the first of August and school was about to start and our kids went to the same school and she just handled it. Oh, she didn't even ask. She just showed up with school supplies. So yeah, I think I think it first of all, we just need to cut ourselves a break. We're not going to say exactly the quote unquote, right thing, we probably will stick our foots in our mouths. Sometimes, you know, we will say something this round. And then I look back at all the cringy things that I said before I had had my own grief experience. And I'm like, oh god, why did I say those things? But you know, we're doing the best we can, we just need to be the kind to ourselves about it. I think what are the things that most people usually end up not receiving well, when they are in grief, are the things that are indicative of the other person's discomfort with emotion. So you know, when somebody's again, we're all socialized to kind of think that feelings are problems, and we don't really have the capacity to allow negative emotion. So of course, it makes sense that then when we're around someone else who has a lot of quote unquote negative emotion, I don't even believe, you know, air quotes, right? Then, of course, we want them to feel better, because we don't know how to feel. We don't know how to feel good unless they feel better. And that's the root of a lot of the minimizing things that we say, Oh, they're in a better place. Oh, at least they're no longer suffering. Oh, I know, I heard you're young, you'll find someone else. Right? Just focus on your blessings. Just be grateful for what you had. It's those kinds of things that people say not because they don't love you, and they don't care. But because they don't know how to deal with your negative emotion. They think it's a problem, and they're trying to make it go away from the best place. So to me, it's like, this sucks. And I love you. I am so sorry. This sucks, right? We don't even try to make it better with words because words don't make it better. We just like, let someone feel how they feel and and witness it. That's what people want is to be seen.Lesley Logan 31:03  Yeah, yeah. Yeah. And that's an all things, isn't it? Like I have a girlfriend who she's about to go back to work by the time this is out she's been back at work after having a baby. And she got to be home for almost six months with them and all the stuff and, and I checked in. I said, Hey, how is like the first day with the nanny, and she's like, this is so hard. And I was like, I'm so sorry this sucks. Sucks. Krista St-Germain 31:28  And somebody else in her life is probably like, don't be sad. It's okay. Yeah, you're gonna be fine.Lesley Logan 31:33  Yeah, yeah. And I was just like, I mean, it's, she's allowed for it to be hard. It's fine. And I think that, like, I thank you for highlighting that. And thank you for sharing, like, you know, we're all gonna put our friend mad, we are going to say the wrong thing because of wherever we are in our life when it's going on. Like, I think we all need to cut ourselves some slack. But I do love that you share that story about someone just buying school supplies, I think like, you know, we can just be thoughtful about something like it can be, oh, they have school supplies. It can be if they have a dog, get the dog food, hire a dog walker, like just for a day like just think about like, what could be helpful and then just do it. If it if it gets, the door gets shut and the dog walkers face like, oh, well, that sucked $25 out the door, but probably not. Yeah, they'll be like, Oh, that's so nice. Oh, guys, I'm gonna walk my dog.Krista St-Germain 32:29  Yeah, I mean, acts of service. And in, you know, it's easy to say, let me know if I can help. Let me know if there's something I can do. But when your whole world just feels like it exploded. You honestly, you don't know what you need. It's very difficult to articulate it sometimes. Because it's like, you're just grappling with this weird nightmare that you're living. You know, so yeah, it's totally okay to make an offer. And maybe it'll land and maybe it won't, but you know, sometimes better to not ask what they need. They might not know.Lesley Logan 32:59  Yeah, yeah. Oh my god, this is so helpful. There is, there's like, I can't I can't think of the name right now. And I don't want to say the wrong one. But I'll put it in the show notes if I remember it. But it was a company that I heard where she creates these boxes, and they're like, they're there when something goes wrong in someone's life. And you can just send this box and it's got like, Beth bubbles and it's got like, a checklist of like, drink three glasses of water and she put it together because her brother had died by suicide. And she had to go through this whole thing and she was like, Well what about other people who are going through this? How can we help them and so she's got these different boxes and you can go on when someone is going through something they didn't go Oh, like they even have on for kids were going to college like that's its own transition. (So it's like here's like to find out what timer.) Yeah, I want to say it's Brody box, or Broglie box. We'll put it up, we'll put in the show notes and I'll send it to because it'd be so cool by the way just for you. There should be there could be a kit for you. Yeah, for people going through grief and you could be your podcasts can be in there. I'm just coming up with ideas to help people because I love what you're saying and I did not, you know, my parents listen to this, so, guys, I love you. But it's not like I grew up in, none of them none of us did, grew up in a life and a household where like when grief happened you just like you talked about it. No, it was like the funeral happen It was super fast everyone like brought all this food and then everyone cleaned up and everyone went home. Yeah, I'm like okay, we are not there anymore. And we don't really like especially in the states we do not really handle it well which is why y'all I'm working on trying to find a death doula to come in here because I think that that work is really interesting. And how they're, how when people know someone's passing, how they're able to allow for people to visit and be with the body before it goes away. So anyways, all this stuff has been very fascinating. Krista, your work is so wonderful. We're gonna take a brief break and find out where people can find you, follow you, listen to your podcast. All right, where do you like to hang out? Where can people get to work with you, connect with you? Listen to your pod?Krista St-Germain 35:15  Yeah, The Widowed Mom podcast probably the best place. You know, if you want to learn more about grief, if post traumatic growth is interesting to you, even if you're not a widowed mom, for sure, take a listen. Also send other people my way. It reminded me too earlier, you were asking about what we say I did record an episode called For Those Who Love Us, which is a great one to listen to if somebody wants to learn more about how to support someone that's going through grief, that's a good episode. And then everything else can be found at coachingwithkrista.com K R I S T A all my social contacts and everything are there.Lesley Logan 35:47  Wonderful. Thank you so much. Okay, before I let you go, you've given us some excellent stuff, though. However, bold, executable, intrinsic, targets steps people can take to be it till they see it. What do you have for us?Krista St-Germain 35:58  This was hard for me because I have lots of ideas. And so I'm just gonna go with one. And so I'm a big fan of tapping, Emotional Freedom Technique. So thankfully, I had tapping in my pocket before my husband died, I already knew how to do it. And I knew how and I had used it with my children when they were very little. And they were 12 and nine when he died. So they had to use it for a number of years. But I love tapping because it creates calm in the nervous system. And it allows us to let feelings flow through. It's great for grief grenades, right, any sort of triggering situation where our nervous system is responding as though we are unsafe. So, for me, the sound of metal crashing, CPR scenes, sirens, right? things like that tapping helped me in the moment when my nervous system was just tripping out. And then it also helped me to work with someone who could help me go back and neutralize those triggers. So that when I remembered them or encountered them in my environment, my nervous system stopped thinking I was in danger, right? So I am a big proponent of that. You can just go to YouTube and learn all about tapping, right? You don't have to pay anyone to teach it to you. Do you? Are you familiar with it?Lesley Logan 37:08  I am. I've heard about it. Like I read a book once but like it is, I don't have like as like I don't have it memorized justKrista St-Germain 37:15  You're tapping on acupressure points, right? So you're just tapping on acupressure points, and you're acknowledging the truth, you always start on the side of the hand. And it's like, even though I feel so sad, it's okay for me to acknowledge the truth of how I feel, right? Even though I feel so sad. It's okay for me to acknowledge the truth of how I feel. And so you start it three times, and then you just tap on the points. Like so sad. I feel so sad. Whatever it is that you're trying to process. The Tapping Solution app is brilliant. I'm not affiliated with them, but I love their work. It's great for beginners, anybody can download that, I pay for it, I pay for my daughter to have it. And I mean, even before grief, it saved many a bedtime nightmare with my children when they were young, right? And they just couldn't calm themselves down. We would just tap with like, let it go. Let it go. Right and then amygdala, well, okay, I'm safe. Cortisol levels drop, you can just you can literally feel your body relax. Lesley Logan 38:13  There's so much I love about tapping because one, like trauma, and emotionally, the body through movement. So you're moving, you're just tapping. So you don't have to actually do a workout at all, you can just tap. But also, you're acknowledging something. And you're saying like and that if you have a hard time, like feeling your feelings or like honoring what those feelings are, I think it's a really good practice. I love that your kids are doing it. And so thank you for that. That's I would love to know if anyone's listening to this. If you use tapping already, or if you end up using it and needing this. Krista, I am so grateful for you and for you sharing your story. I hate that you went through what you went through. But I also am so grateful and I'm sure many people are because the work you're doing is helping all of us get better at understanding our grief and allowing us to live with it instead of trying to like remove it and finish it and shove it in a box. So thank you for being you. Y'all, how are you going to use these tips what she told you in your life? Please tag Krista, tag the Be It pod, go listen to her podcast or share it with a friend especially one who's going through something that might just be the thing that might be the best thing you can say is here's the link and until next time, Be It Till You See It!That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review and follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcast. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the Be It Pod on Instagram.   I would love to know more about you. 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Krista St-Germain is a Master Certified Life Coach, Post-Traumatic Growth and grief expert, widow, and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista's life was completely flipped upside down. After therapy helped her uncurl from the fetal position, Krista discovered Life Coaching, Post Traumatic Growth and learned the tools she needed to move forward. In this episode of Last First Date Radio: Why we have such a hard time with grief How the 5 stages of grief mislead people who have lost a loved one What is post-traumatic growth? Five things to consider to determine if you're ready to date again after loss Free gift: Quiz to discover if you're stuck in a grief plateau https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/griefplateauquiz Website: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coachingwithkrista/; Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachkrista/?hl=en  ►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio  ►If you're feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application  ►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate  ►Get Sandy's books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook  and Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9  ►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching  ►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear  ►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/  ►Website → https://lastfirstdate.com/  ► Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/  ►Get Amazon Music Unlimited FREE for 30 days at getamazonmusic.com/lastfirstdate  --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/sandy-weiner9/message

Kara Loewentheil is a Master Certified coach and a powerhouse feminist confidence coach, and we recently had a conversation on grief, patriarchy, and post-traumatic growth over on her podcast.   Hear my insights on the various theories of grief and what I find most helpful, our socialization and the role of the patriarchy in shaping our experience of grief, as well as how post-traumatic growth plays a part in the grieving process.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/208

Send us a textMy former coach, Krista St-Germain, interviewed me for her podcast The Widowed Mom a while ago, and I'm excited to share it on The Ex-Good Girl. During the interview, we discuss people-pleasing: defining it and ways to overcome it. We also explore how our connection with ourselves can vary from person to person. This episode is particularly special to me as Krista has been incredibly helpful in my life. It serves as a reminder of the profound impact a good coach can have. People-pleasing can come at a significant cost: the amount of time and energy we spend on constantly cycling through thoughts about others and what they think of us. Some women can spend up to 3 to 5 hours a day in this cycle. It's about reclaiming our time, brain space, energy, and peace. With the help of the right coach, we can break free from this rumination wheel and take control of our lives.You can find Krista on IG @lifecoachkrista Find Sara here:https://sarafisk.coachhttps://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversationshttps://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoachhttps://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333 What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!Book a Free Consult

Send us a Text Message.My former coach, Krista St-Germain, interviewed me for her podcast The Widowed Mom a while ago, and I'm excited to share it on The Ex-Good Girl. During the interview, we discuss people-pleasing: defining it and ways to overcome it. We also explore how our connection with ourselves can vary from person to person. This episode is particularly special to me as Krista has been incredibly helpful in my life. It serves as a reminder of the profound impact a good coach can have. People-pleasing can come at a significant cost: the amount of time and energy we spend on constantly cycling through thoughts about others and what they think of us. Some women can spend up to 3 to 5 hours a day in this cycle. It's about reclaiming our time, brain space, energy, and peace. With the help of the right coach, we can break free from this rumination wheel and take control of our lives.You can find Krista on IG @lifecoachkrista Find Sara here:https://sarafisk.coachhttps://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/https://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoach What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!Book a Free Consult

We've all experienced loss and grief at some point in our lives. And while we may hear that there's a set number of steps to go through or a timeline to follow, grief doesn't really ever end. But, you do get to decide who you want to be after the loss. I'm joined by Krista St-Germain, Master Certified Coach and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast, this week on the podcast as we discuss how the socialization of women in our society affects the way that we grieve, what post-traumatic growth is (and how not to use it against yourself), and how you can get over the grief plateau and learn to be truly happy again.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/288

Could you use some help processing a loss or supporting someone else through their loss?Those of you who have been around for a while might recognize our guest in this episode, Krista St-Germain, from her earlier episodes on the podcast. Krista is here to talk about how to cope with loss and grief. She's sharing some of the latest research and insights into grief, what the grief plateau is, and the tools you can use to cope with a loss. Krista St-Germain is a Master Certified Life Coach, Post-Traumatic Growth and grief expert, widow, mom, and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista's life was completely and unexpectedly flipped upside down. After therapy helped her uncurl from the fetal position, Krista discovered Life Coaching and Post Traumatic Growth and learned the tools she needed to move forward and create a future she could get excited about. Now she coaches and teaches other widows so they can love life again, too.Whether you're processing a loss right now or not, this episode will set you up with skills to cope with loss in the future or to support other people in your life who are grieving. All show notes are available at  https://katrinaubellmd.com/podcast!!Resources Mentioned:Visit Krista's Website: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/ Follow @lifecoachkrista on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachkrista/Follow Krista on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coachingwithkrista/ Tune In to The Widowed Mom Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-widowed-mom-podcast/id1468127632 Leave a Review of My Book: https://a.co/d/4BwGZ6vkatrinaubellmd.com/info

DEATH. LOSS. GRIEF. Do these words scare you? YOU'RE NOT ALONE! What if this episode was going to make those undeniable chapters of life...seem...a little more....friendly??? to talk about? At 40 years old, Krista's life was immeasurably changed when her husband was killed by a drunk driver. While moving with her own grief, she learned that her life's purpose was to turn this pain into something that could help other people move through theirs. She's on a mission to demystify DEATH and the grieving process, especially for those instances that dont "seem fair" or for those who feel like they might never find happiness again! FOLLOW KRISTA: linktr.ee/lifecoachkristahttps://www.coachingwithkrista.com/https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/podcast/https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachkrista/See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Krista St-Germain is a Master Certified Life Coach, Post-Traumatic Growth and grief expert, widow, mom and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista's life was completely and unexpectedly flipped upside down. After therapy helped her uncurl from the fetal position, Krista discovered Life Coaching, Post Traumatic Growth and learned the tools she needed to move forward and create a future she could get excited about. Now she coaches and teaches other widows so they can love life again, too.