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visit www.survivalhardwarellc.com use  discount code SDP at checkout.  MANTRA:  OLD KEYS WONT OPEN NEW DOORS Starting over again.                  STORY ABOUT THE TRANSITION. (buying the house)  Not too much detail.                1.         Starting over is scary' Fear is an edge but it is also a limiting factor if you let it take control.                2.        Happiness is a choice.  You can choose to be happy or choose something else but everything is a choice.                 3.         Support will not be thereMore often the people that we are trusting to lend support are not selfless in their action.                4.         No one will notice the work you are doing                 No one is paying attention.                 5.         You have to leave old shit behind.  Change your thought and change your world.                 Take stock in what serves you and what doesn't,                 6.         Put the end before the beginning.               Just like the planning process, start with the final result desired…              What is your commanders' intent?               7.         Stay flexible and keep a broad focus.               Don't lose sight of the goal but dont get blindsided either.                8.         Your excuse is invalid                Everything is a result of your decisions,                 Own that shit and do better next time.                9.         Growth never happens in a comfort zone.  Seek discomfort.                 No one ever remembers the time that it was easy.                  Answers come in action not in thought, but all choices have consequences 10.      There is always something to be grateful for no matter how bad things get.                  The only thing that you have control over is how you feel.  Ill leave with this.  If you are not happy, go be the change.                 You are the only one that can make that happen.                  There is no support, only resistance.                   There are no resources, only lack of.                   There are no opportunities, only failures, and lessons.                   There is no standing still, only forward or back 

SDP 024 Operate at a higher frequencySpecial thanks to "Unveil the Strength" for use of the song "Hells Never Over", Welcome to the socially disabled veterans podcast Episode #024 On this show I discuss self-care strategies that will get you operating at a higher frequencyIf this is your first time here consider subscribing to this RSS feed or YouTube channel or wherever you are consuming this information. – Norman Vincent Peale , Wrote the “the power of positive thinking” Change your thoughts and you change your world here is your Mantra for the week. DO BETTERHousekeeping Go subscribe to the YouTube channel. Check out my side hustle Survival Hardware LLC My other channel "Makers Movement" E Mail SociallyDisabled03XX@gmail.com · Negativity bias is a survival mechanism. · Winners don’t cause losers. Winners create more winners· One man is rich another is poor, neither is to blame for the other Havamal 75· The world is immeasurable abundance. Scarcity of resources is just a BS narrative.· Change your personal narrative · Turn off the damn news · Don’t stress what is beyond your control · Emotion is the death of reason, mindfulness is the antidote· Mindfulness breeds curiosity· Let the environment be, be aware of it and let it go. · Observe, Orient, Decide, Act, OODA loop· Shots downrange, let them go and take another shot · Stop and re focus on the next event · 47% of our waking ours we are not paying attention and attention to the moment increases our well being· Neuroplasticity (brain changes through growth and reorganization) the more we do or think the better we become at it. The more you worry the better you get at it. · Acknowledge the world events, re focus and let them go, focus on making your next steps better. · Challenge yourself by learning something new. · Learning new skills actually combats anxiety and depression. · All anxiety is anticipatory and while you are focusing on learning something new you cant anticipate the same way that do in other environments. · Think about the labels that you put on yourself and re write themLIVE LOVE LAUGH AND SUCCEED

#sociallydisabled #effort #goalsEPI 023 COUNSEL YOURSELF, the only way to fix your shit. Here is your MANTRA for the week: No one can make you feel inferior without your consent – Elenore Roosevelt. Special thanks to "Unveil the Strength" for use of the song "Hells Never Over", Also check out my side hustle here: Survival Hardware LLCVisit and subscribe to my YouTube Channel here "Makers Movement"Check Out Buzzsprout and start your own podcast. In the Marine Corps we received Pro and Con marks as young marines and as we advanced in rank these became a more detailed fitness report. They cover every thing from physical fitness to military education, accomplishments, awards, disciplinary action and an overall evaluation of your job performance. In most circumstances these reports are accompanied by a formal counseling so you can actually hold a conversation about your strengths and weaknesses. So it only seems prudent to counsel yourself on our life goals and your efforts toward reaching them. Why would you counsel yourself? To gain perspective on your efforts To gain impartial insight into a situation and your response To identify behaviors and habits that are contrary to your goals To evaluate and adjust your goals and expectationsHow often should you counsel yourself?On regular intervalsWhen needed to establish new goalsAs needed for perspectiveOn the spot to correct a behaviorWhere do you start? With your current situation With the current event With your needs and goals With your behavior and reactionsTopics for counseling (effort) Effort put into work Intent put behind the effort Steps toward goals Your resources and efforts toward building them (financial, material, emotional, supporting) Goal timelines (realistic or not)(conduct) Emotional triggers Fears and anticipations Emotional maturity Reactions to stimulating events Overall attitude(proficiency) Strengths Weaknesses Obstacles Self Improvement Mentors and menteesHow do you keep track of the key points? Journaling Taking note of setbacks Audio recordings Immediate analyzation Wet board or chalk boardAt the end of the day take stock in what you have accomplished toward your goals. In the morning plan one to three tasks that move the needle.Develop a routine that gets you going in the morning.Celebrate the victories and show gratitudeReward yourself for moving forward.Take joy in your accomplishments even if they are not as fruitful as you had hoped. Be honest, lying to yourself is the only game you can play where there is no winner but you always lose.

#SociallyDisabled #friendship #veteranSDP 022 FRIENDSHIP | A paradigm shift and a new perspectiveMantra for the week. No friendship is an accident. - O. Henry (William Sydney Porter) Today we are going to put Friendship into perspective. There seems to be a lot of misinformation about what actually constitutes a friend. Of course, this is just my opinion and this criterion will change for everyone but I think that there are definitely some constants that remain across the board. Special thanks to "Unveil the Strength" for use of the song "Hells Never Over", Also check out my side hustle here: Survival Hardware LLCVisit and subscribe to my YouTube Channel here "Makers Movement"Check Out Buzzsprout and start your own podcast. This is likely to be a paradigm shift for you concerning what is a friend. We have been conditioned to think that a friend is someone that is always there for you when you need them and especially when you are at your lowest. What is friendship and how do you build and maintain one? I don’t think that a friend is some unconditional supporter that is there for you in your dark times. All the MEMES say something to that effect. About you know who your true friends are when you are at your worst etc. I think that is one sided BS. To me that is such a selfish statement that if that is the requirement very few people would live up to that litmus test. Here are some points to consider:1 You are only the centre of your universe, not everyone else’s. 2 No one is plotting against you and you are not the topic of every conversation. 3 Friendship is a give and take that cannot exist one sided. 4 Sometimes the best thing a friend can do is give you space to figure your own shit out. 5 Friends listen they don’t lecture; with free advice you get what you pay for. 6 Friends are not at your beckon call, do expect them to drop everything because you need them.7 Sometimes true friends don’t actually talk to each other for a very long time. 8 Friends communicate open and honest. Sugar is poison. 9 Friends are grateful and reciprocal but not indebted to each other. 10 Above all, A real friend will not put you in a position that makes you uncomfortable. Here are five things to do with a false friend or toxic relationship: 1 Create distance2 Limit entanglements3 Don’t create a tit for tat situation, let it go when you are one up. 4 Don’t share your problems with people you don’t fully trust.5 Avoid any conversation that has the potential to instigate strong emotional reactions. BONUS TIP: The enemy of my friend is not my enemy. If I lived by that rule I would have no friends at all. Besides what happens when you snub someone because they had a falling out with one of your friends. Then those two make up and now neither of them wants to talk to you? This has happened to me more than I care to remember. If two friends are falling out then I suggest you just step back let them solve the issue on their own, remain friends with both but keep your distance so as not to appear to have taken a side. And most important, don’t be a double agent. You will be tried and found guilty as a traitor by both sides.

#SociallyDisabled #sacrifice #veteranSDP 021 SACRIFICE Hacking the universe for growth and prosperityMantra for the week is: “Sacrifice, is the engine that keeps energy in motion” –NorsemanSpecial thanks to "Unveil the Strength" for use of the song "Hells Never Over", Also check out my side hustle here: Survival Hardware LLCVisit and subscribe to my YouTube Channel here "Makers Movement"Check Out Buzzsprout and start your own podcast. What does sacrifice mean to you?One day it occurred to me that every transfer of energy from one body to the next is sacrifice It occurred to me that we actually sacrifice many times in a day without even realizing it. It is how energy and abundance flow throughout the universe.All matter is made up of energy and energy changes places constantlyThe more you give the more you get.It doesn’t have to be painful to be fruitful.It doesn’t have to hurt in order to count. Havamal 52 There is no need to give to lavish of gifts Often, the smallest things are best appreciated With only half a loaf and a half empty cup I have often won loyal friendsHere are some Daily sacrifices that make life better and turn goals into reality. Sacrifice your bad habits Stop overeating to lose weight Stop frivolous spending to pay off debt and increase wealth Give up free time to work on goals Do the work, when it needs to get done, stop procrastinating Sacrifice time and energy to learn new skills Practice what you have learned Teach what you know Give to those less fortunate Help those in need, Be nice to people that you don’t know even when they are not nice. Sing a song of gratitude daily (speak what you are grateful for) sound is energy Read everything you can, written experiences are a gift that is waiting to be shared with you. Journal daily and meditate on where your (energy) has been spent

#SociallyDisabled #stoicism #veteranSDP 020 Stoicism and a letter to my sonsSpecial thanks to "Unveil the Strength" for use of the song "Hells Never Over", Also check out my side hustle here: Survival Hardware LLCVisit and subscribe to my YouTube Channel here "Makers Movement"Check Out Buzzsprout and start your own podcast. Mantra for the week: “You have power over your mind — not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.” – Marcus Aurelius I am going to answer 6 questions about stoicism but not directly, the answers are contained in this episode but it is up to you to find them and draw them out. I think if I was to give you a simple list of questions and answers then it would hold no value and soon be replaced with the trapping of the day. Instead I want to stimulate an internal conversation, a dialog that you can continue long after this episode has ended. If by the end you cannot answer these six fundamental questions then listen to this episode until you can, or just hold that internal conversation on all day until you can find the answers yourself. They will hold more value because you worked for them, they were not given out like a free sample at the supermarket. The questions you should answer for yourself are: 1. Who can benefit from the Stoic Philosophies?2. What are the basic ideas of stoicism?3. When should these principals be applied?4. Where should I begin my journey into stoicism?5. Why should I study Stoicism?6. How will this make my life better?I hope that you either write down these questions or commit them to memory. I have chosen to list them as 5W’s to make them easier to recall at least for veterans who should already have that model permanently imprinted on their brains. OK time to define it. Stoicism is an ancient Greek school of philosophy founded at Athens by Zeno of Citium around 301 BC. Zeno taught this philosophy in an open forum at the Stoa Poikile (Po eek a lay) think of an open discussion on the steps of the Lincoln monument. It was something like that. Stoicism may have started with Zeno but it has gone through three phases since the beginning. The Early Stoa, Middle stoa, and Late Stoa. The Late stoa is where we have the actual written accounts so that is where we will focus. This period began with Seneca and continued through Marcus Aurelius. Marcus Aurelius was the last of the five good emperors and if that interests you then I encourage you to do more research because it is beyond the scope of this episode. This weekend was the 19th anniversary of the death of my father. He died of cancer as I was rushing home from a deployment to see him before that happened. He died the day before the 9-11 disaster and I was traveling to his funeral when that event took place. We never had the chance to sit and talk about the things that fathers tell sons when they become men. He was only 4 years older that I am right now. So this event has inspired me to write a letter to my sons, and share this with you, because it may also be to your benefit, and I can’t take it with me.

#SociallyDisabled #personalcomparison #veteranSDP 018 Imposter Syndrome and the warrior cultureSpecial thanks to "Unveil the Strength" for use of the song "Hells Never Over", Also check out my side hustle here: Survival Hardware LLCVisit and subscribe to my YouTube Channel here "Makers Movement"Check Out Buzzsprout and start your own podcast. . Today’s Mantra for the week is…. Comparison is the thief of joy, -Theodore “Teddy” RooseveltSo why in the hell is comparison the thief of joy? Face the fact, everyone’s lives are equally fucked up. Someone was born into what you think is the perfect life.Why did you start making comparisons in the first place?Forrest Gump example…Too stupid to compare himself to others…too dense to want what he doesn’t have…Not smart enough to be deceptive…. not aware enough to know that he looked like an ass…. He just lived his life and did what made him happy, along the way he had a great impact on the world and the people around him. Levels of comparisonDestructive- (shame, guilt), (envy, jealousy), (self-pity, embarrassment)Neutral- (wonder, amazement,) (curiosity, confusion,) (apathy, indifference)Creative- (joy, delight,) (happiness, pleasure,) (gratitude, acknowledgement,)Mix or a combination.Create your dream life incrementally over timeDon’t let your happiness become a moving target. One thing for sure is that you will never get bored, because you will always find something that someone else has that you wish you had. I want what they have, but will I take the struggle and the pain along with it? Havamal Stanza 75The fool does not understand How wealth and success corrupt the mindOne man is rich, one man is poorNeither is to blame for the otherWhen is comparison a good thing and a benefit? When comparing your now to your yesterday.Turn your anger and envy into action by deciding what it is that you want and taking the steps to get there. Here is another set of quotes from the HavamalStanza 69 Not all men are wholly wretched Even at the brink of deathSome are blessed with sons Others with kin or good wealthStill others with the honor of their deedsThe Author doesn’t distinguish which is better only that they are all blessings.Stanza 71The lame can still master a horseThe handless can manage the herdThe deaf may be a valiant fighterAnd to be blind is still betterThan burning on the funeral pyreWhat good can a dead man do?I hope that you enjoyed that and that it brings a little more perspective that helps you overcome the challenges that you are bound to face this week. I will see you again next Monday so, share this with your brothers and sisters that might need a little mental tune up.

#SociallyDisabled #impostersyndrome #veteranSDP 018 Imposter Syndrome and the warrior cultureSpecial thanks to "Unveil the Strength" for use of the song "Hells Never Over", Also check out my side hustle here: Survival Hardware LLCVisit and subscribe to my YouTube Channel here "Makers Movement"Check Out Buzzsprout and start your own podcast. Mantra for the week: Doubt has killed more dreams than failure ever will. -Suzy KassemWhat imposter syndrome is and what it aint? It is a fraudulent feeling centered in self-doubt. It is when you doubt your own accomplishment and have a hidden fear of being exposed as a fraud. Contributing your own hard work and accomplishments as luck and fear that you will eventually be exposed. This is most profound in high achievers like special operations and those receiving high awards for action. I recently watched a talk on this subject of (IS) and the speaker tried to make the whole phenomenon about race or gender as if only women and people of color can experience this because the “privileged among us” have always been lifted up when others have be dragged down. Nothing could be further from the truth. The numbers say that upward of 70% of people worldwide suffer from this to some degree. I would venture a guess that the other 30% have either already quit trying or never tried to achieve anything. Think of the stolen valor asshat at the bar wearing an airborne shirt and telling stores that he made up to get free drinks. Bet he is not suffering from (IS), even as the biggest imposter in the room. This often leads to withdrawing and or sabotaging your own success. This happens often when vets get out of service and begin a civilian career. The belief that your experience and skills are not marketable in the civilian workplace. The inner critic says you don’t belong here, you are out of your element and these people are gonna expose me as a fraud.

SDP 017 Emotional confusion, the Con of the century. #congame #roadrage #bigscamSpecial thanks to "Unveil the Strength" for use of the song "Hells Never Over", Also check out my side hustle here: Survival Hardware LLCVisit and subscribe to my YouTube Channel here "Makers Movement"IMantra for the week: There are no facts, only interpretations. - Friedrich NietzscheWhat is emotional confusion? And why is it the con of the century?It is when the information coming in does not match what you already know and you don’t quite know how to process it. Example; Changes in what you have become accustomed to IE: restaurant storyA second definition is when you go through emotions in rapid succession and it leaves you vulnerable to influence beyond what you would normally allow. IE: A crowd being whipped up into a riotous frenzy. This is the one that I want to focus on although they are both very closely related. Experts, (which I am not one of) generally agree that there are 10 basic human emotions. 10 emotions Enjoyable: Happiness, Trust, Situational: Anticipation, Surprise, Not Enjoyable: Sadness, Anger, Loneliness, Jealousy, Fear, Disgust, I’m gonna tell a little story about how my bunkmate and myself got scammed out of all of our money while in SOI. See if you can spot the various emotions that we went through as the story unfolds. There is no greater con than to deliberately put someone on an emotional trip in order to manipulate them. And if by chance you discover that you are on an emotion trip, take a mental pause, you are about to be scammed. If you think I’m wrong, turn on the TV and watch the news for 15 minutes and see how you feel after that. Better yet watch the DNC or the RNC. Botha re running a national scam. In a matter of 3 minutes you will be pulled in all directions, angered, relieved, filled with pride, only to be disguised, and then here is a sob story and another moment of pride. It is a scam as old as religion, politics and trade. But they will never teach it to you in any organized educational system because to understand it is to take the power back, or at least keep your power where it belongs.

Finding your calling and bringing it to life. The universe is organized in a way that it will deliver to us exactly what we ask for and we will attract whatever our attention is most focused on. This is an amazing fact of life that is so overlooked and under discussed that it is almost criminal. visit my web page Survival Hardware for some amazing handmade gear. What are your interestsPay attention to your dreams (start a dream journal)If the whole world read your eulogy, what would you want to be known for?Inspiration comes in short spirts, give it a tryWho do you know in that industry or service?If it doesn’t exist then where can I gain the necessary skills and experienceSet your azimuth and get to work.Swallow your pride and ego (fuck the Jones’s)Do the work firstTake care of your needs modestlyElon Musk example PayPal, tesla, SpaceX, etc. All work and no play makes Elon Musk a successful boy. Avoid distractionsWhen things are going good, Look for a problem to solveWhen things are not good, get inspired by small victoriesDon’t compromise your valuesBe wiling to adjust the plan based on the circumstancesJournal your progress and keep track of changes, what works and what doesn’t work.Pay close attention to the accomplishments that feel good and fulfilling. Even if they are trivial.Pay attention to what keeps coming backSpend time before you spend moneyAbove all, be patient and try a new approach.

Procrastination is probably the single most destructive force in out pursuit for a better life. All the best advice and tips in the world mean nothing without action. Without actually taking action everything is just lip service so stop procrastinating and get to work. Here are some tips to get through the hard times and get back on task. It is easy to rationalize procrastination by convincing yourself that you will get to it later. Learn how to recognize when you are entering a procrastination cycle and kill it before it takes hold. Special thanks to "Unveil the Strength" for use of the song "Hells Never Over", https://unveilthestrength.us/homeAlso check out my side hustle here: https://www.survivalhardwarellc.comVisit and subscribe to my YouTube Channel herehttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeVgkope-SZ-yi8vrnI8GaQ?Sub_confirmation=1

In this episode we are talking about some strategies to reset your brain and get back to being a high functioning individual. Every once in a while we need a reset. It is important to clear out the cobwebs and discard all the useless chatter that's banging around in our heads. This is my process and how I defeat the gloom and doom that comes with mental stagnation. Left unchecked it can manifest as anger, depression and all manner of undesirable conditions. I have to go through these reset cycles every so often or I simply cease to function at anything better than a basic life sustaining level. We are better than just eating sleeping and breathing. We need to be creative and sometimes that requires a reset. Enjoy this episode which is also a reset on the podcast. There is no video version on the YouTube. I am transitioning this podcast out of the bunker and taking it to wherever I go and that means audio only. Thanks for tuning in. Norseman

#metime #selfcare #personalfulfillmentMe Time: Sometimes you just gotta say fuck the world and take care of yourself. MANTRA: All I’m asking for is a little of my own time. Special thanks to "Unveil the Strength" for use of the song "Hells Never over", https://unveilthestrength.us/homeAlso check out my side hustle here: https://www.survivalhardwarellc.comVisit and subscribe to my other YouTube Channel here https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeVgkope-SZ-yi8vrnI8GaQ?Sub_confirmation=1If you are the guy or gal that other people rely on to meet their needs then you are a providerThe curse of the provider is that they very rarely actually take care of themselves. Leading to overwhelming stress anxiety and depression with no apparent cause. NO APPARENT CAUSE!o That is a key marker that it is time to check out for a while.o If there is no apparent problem to fix then it’s very hard to fix it. o Recognize that this is a steam valve and it just needs to let off a little pressure not completely reorganize and change a system that has been working. We rarely have the ability to just take off and get some self-care. Because if we do the world seems to fall apart and we are left to pick up the pieces. o Most people feel this way most of the timeo Even those with very little responsibilityo We are surrounded by our lives every second of every day so we tend to overemphasize our importance in other people’s stories.o If you died tomorrow they would all adjust to not having you.o Certainly you can take a few minutes, hours, or days to stay in top condition. What kind of person are you, you have to know this first.o Simple people, balance their work and hobbies very efficientlyo Complex people, have no balance, work and hobbies are the same but need to be structured so one relieves the other. What the hell is a self-care routine or habit?o It is simply the steps that you take on regular intervals to ensure that you are in to working condition for whatever it is that you do. o You have to take stock in where your attention goes when you don’t feel well.o You brain is trying to tell you what you need. Some self care routines must be gratifying first and foremost:o Physical exercise, biking, xc skiingo Outdoor hobbies like fishing and hunting o Indoor hobbies and craftso Reading, writing and journalingo Meditation, yoga, and breathing exerciseso Gardening and landscapingo Photography and videographyo OK you get the pointFunny how a lot of those actually look like hobbies. But the main catch is this, you need to get some level of gratification out of it for it to be considered self care. Even if it is good for you. If you hate running but you do it to stay in shape then it is a good habit but not self care. The Naturalist John Muir said that “In every walk in with nature one receives far more than he seeks.”o And of course one of my favorite ways to unwind is to spend time in nature. While I prefer the company of one or two others, none ever seem to have time, so often I go alone.o It is probably the one thing that I cannot get enough of and never seem to have time for. o It is where my mind goes when I get overwhelmed. o While I could film my trips for my other YouTube channel I rarely do. Seems like work and that is not the point of the trips. o The priority for me is always to experiment, relax, experience, observe and simply enjoy.

#survivorsguilt #tamaticdeath #mentalhealthMantra for the week “I AM A SURVIVOR, I WILL NOT BE A STATISTIC” Email me at : sociallydisabled03xx@gmail.comSpecial thanks to "Unveil the Strength" for use of the song "Hells Never over", https://unveilthestrength.us/homeAlso check out my side hustle here: https://www.survivalhardwarellc.comVisit and subscribe to my other YouTube Channel here https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeVgkope-SZ-yi8vrnI8GaQ?Sub_confirmation=1 o Have you ever survived an event when others didn’t? o How did this affect you moving on and recovering from the event?o Did you ever get through it, or are you still just trying to cope with it? Although not everyone experiences survivors guilt a study in the UK determined that up to 90 percent of people that experience death as the result of a traumatic event also experience some level of survivor’s guilt even if it is only for a short time. When people survive an event where others died, feeling of guilt fall into three categories.o Why were they allowed to live when others died? Why was I spared…?o What actions did they take during the event? What did I do…?o What actions should they have taken during the event? o What did I not do? o What should I have done? People with survivors’ guilt can also show many of the other symptoms that are traditionally associated with PTSD like; o Flashbacks of the evento Nightmares and exaggerated dreamso Depression and anxietyo Suicide or suicide attemptso Hyper vigilance o Irritability and changes in attitudeo Trust issues with event related people, places, and thingso Self-medication and substance abuseCausesSurvivors guilt occurs in people that have experienced traumatic events but not everyone who experiences these events with suffer from this condition. There are a variety of factors that make one person more susceptible than another. These existing conditions also affect:o How sever the feeling of guilt iso How long that guilt persistsSome of the things that increase a person’s risk of experiencing guilt after surviving a traumatic event are:o A history of trauma, such as childhood abuse or really any abuseo Having other mental health issues, such as anxiety or depressiono A family history of psychiatric problems (possibly a chemical imbalance)o Lack of a healthy support network of friends and family or groupso Alcohol or drug use and abuseOther research suggests that survivors can hold false beliefs about their role in an event, which can lead to feelings of guilt. These beliefs can include exaggerated or distorted ideas and memories about the event and circumstances leading up to the event.o Your ability to predict or prevent an outcome “I should have known…”o Your role in causing negative outcomes “I should have done…”o Wrongdoing or incompetence on your part “I am toxic”, “It’s all my fault”These are amplified by the feeling of unfinished business with the causality before the event. o I should have said or done…o We were planning on doing…So if you are suffering from Survivors’ guilt how the fuck do you deal with it? WELL!o Recognize that it is a natural response to this type of traumao Accept and allow the feelings to happen and talk about themo Connect with others, join a support groupo Understand that it is OK to be happy againo Moving on is NOT being disloyal to their memoryo Live your best life to honor their memoryo Use mindfulness techniques SDP 006o Practice self-careo Get enough sleepo Eat a proper dieto Exercise regularly

#zerofucks #mybestlife #confidenceEmail me at : sociallydisabled03xx@gmail.comSpecial thanks to "Unveil the Strength" for use of the song "Hells Never over", https://unveilthestrength.us/homeAlso check out my side hustle here: https://www.survivalhardwarellc.comVisit and subscribe to my other YouTube Channel here https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeVgkope-SZ-yi8vrnI8GaQ?Sub_confirmation=1Be polite, Be professional, but have a plan to not give a fuck.The root cause of this ridicule is always the same. Weak ass bitches with low self esteemo So why do you give a fuck what they think?Define your fucks, and give them up sparinglyFucks = TIME, ENERGY, AND MONEY, AKA your RESOURCESGiving a fuck about everything is emotionally equal to consumer credit card debt. How do you get out of debt? Quit spending money you don’t have on shit you don’t need. How do you get out of fuck debt? Quit giving fucks you don’t have about shit that don’t matter to you. Find what actually matters to you and focus your fucks there. o What are your goalso What are your valueso What are your passionso What are your obligationso We often feel that we are obligated to do things based on a circumstanceo We feel obligated based on guiltYou DO NOT have to be a dick to not give a fuck. Be polite, be compassionate and have a plan to not give a fuck. No thank you, I don’t have time, I don’t have the money, I don’t want to. o Quit being sorry, it makes you a sorry ass fucker, o By default we get roped into doing what other people want or expect from us. o We put our needs and want on the back burner to please others and that can never truly make us happy or fulfilled. There is an undeniable freedom to living life on your own terms and telling the rest of the world to go get fucked. o You don’t have to be a dick to tell some one no. Just be polite. But be thinking (fuck off I have more important shit to do. o No one is trying to get you to commit to their shit, to improve YOUR life. EVERYONE ELSE SUCKS AT LIVING YOUR LIFE, SO DON’T ASK THEM TO.THEIR EXPERIENCE + THEIR VALUES + THEIR INSECURITIES + THEIR FEARS (– YOU) = THEIR OPINIONo Free will scares people. They don’t know how to process it. o Jump in mud puddleso Don’t change your opinion unless you actually change your mindo Not to meet others opiniono Not to disagree with others opiniono When new facts present themselveso When your perspective changeso Don’t engage in one up behavioro Completion should be saved for competitionso Not everything is a competition unless you are insecure as fuckDo what you know that you need to do. Fuck their judgement. o Stop asking for permissiono Stop seeking validationo Trust yourself to make decisionso Stop judging other people What kind of coffin will you be buried in? o Everybody WILL die, it could be today or 90 years from now.o What will people see at your funeral? o A 50.000-dollar silk lined casket or a Folgers can….? Do you really give a fuck about what they are thinking of you at your funeral? THREE THINGS THAT YOU CAN DO TO NOT GIVE A FUCKLearn to talk with confidence. o Don’t speak in questionso Speak in statementsUse that new skill to talk to peopleo If you see something interesting go talk to themPut yourself in uncomfortable situationso Prepare to be embarrassed, then get over it

#avoideregret #regret #liveboldWe all have regret; it is an unavoidable part of the human condition. Email me at : sociallydisabled03xx@gmail.comSpecial thanks to "Unveil the Strength" for use of the song "Hells Never over", https://unveilthestrength.us/homeAlso check out my side hustle here: https://www.survivalhardwarellc.comVisit and subscribe to my other YouTube Channel here https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeVgkope-SZ-yi8vrnI8GaQ?Sub_confirmation=1Dwelling on our mistakes and bad decisions will only make the problem hang around and torment us. They prevent us from moving forward and learning from our mistakes. Often it leads us into a cycle of self-doubt and even self-loathing, as a result of our bad decisions. If we can’t directly pin that event to a choice that we made then we internalize the blame. And say things like, I am just a bad person, I deserve what happened to me, I don’t deserve to be happy. DEALING WITH REGRETo Regret is a physical and mental response to a unwise or uninformed decisiono Regret makes everything extremely personalo I can’t regret an incidento I can only regret my choices leading to the incidento If there is regret then there was a choiceo Regret is an important emotiono You feel it mentally – self wortho You feel it physically – pit of the stomach feels like anxietyo It exists to help us make better decisions in the futureo Regret leads to better memory AVOIDING REGRET FOR BEHAVIORAL INTERVENTIONo Anticipation of regret leads to better decisions o What are the consequenceso Two types of regreto Things that you did or things you failed to do o Things that you did, weeks to months of regreto Trust your instinctso Things you did not do, up to a lifetime of regreto Be willing to be bold and take a chanceo Ask for what you want, if you don’t ask the answer is always no o Give example of letter to the board for Gunnery SergeantREGRET AS A SALES TECHNIQUEo Fear of missing out o Limited time offero Fear of not even tryingo Don’t be the one who missed outo Insurance salesmano What if…. You will regret not….COPING WITH REGRET o Get through it, not over ito It requires bold choices to get through ito Your only two options are change or living with regreto Regret is automatic and change requires a decisiono Tell the story of Rob leaving the mountaino Both are painful but the pain of change is temporaryo We are not clairvoyant; we act and we deal with those actions in order to growo Hindsight is 2020, but not realistic or valuableo Don’t let regret shift into shameo Know that it is forever over and done witho Am I a bad person…? Not, if you regret what you have doneo What can your regret teach you?o If you can learn from it then it has served its purpose and you can let it go. o Your brain wants you see your mistakes so you can make better decisions moving forwardo So make better decisions moving forward.o Move forward don’t get sucked into the pasto Be better than that ass hole you were yesterday, and make sure that tomorrow you are better than today.o If you can do that, then regret is just another tool that you can use to grow and dominate. GRATITUDE IS THE ANTIDOTE TO REGRETo Be grateful for what you have and what you have done righto Don’t be remorseful for the things that you do not have and the mistakes that you make along the way. o Decide to let it goo Keep the lesson and leave the trauma behind

#toxicpeople #badrelationships #badfriendsI cover the many degrees of toxic people and how to deal with them on an individual level. Email me at : sociallydisabled03xx@gmail.comSpecial thanks to "Unveil the Strength" for use of the song "Hells Never over", https://unveilthestrength.us/homeAlso check out my side hustle here: https://www.survivalhardwarellc.comSO WHAT IS IT THAT QUALIFIES A PERSON IN YOUR LIFE AS “TOXIC”? IN THIS EPISODE LETS BREAK IT DOWN AND FIGURE OUT HOW TO END IT…..RIGHT NOW!DEALING WITH TOXIC PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFEo What are toxic people (people that cause you stress and anxiety)o Degrees of toxicity (from annoying to abusive)o Toxicity robs you of energy and potential because we are a reflection of our environment. Evaluate the circumstances and eliminate toxicity o Work relationships (bosses, coworkers, clients, subordinates, classmates)o Social relationships (friends, casual acquaintances, neighbors, service providers) o Intimate relationships (romantic relationships)o Family relationships (relatives, your own children and step children, in-laws)o Brief relationships (encounters, vendors, random people)Types of toxicityo Self-limiting (victims)o Users (only interested in their wants and needs) o Rigid belief system (religious or political)o Angry or violent people (verbally or physically abusive)o Drama prone people (the world is out to get me, and gossipers)o Criminals (straight up bad guys, crooks)o People with addictions (from heroin to video games)How to deal with toxic peopleo Set boundaries and maintain themo Sometimes just a conversation will change the circumstances if you are specific IE: I don’t like this, please do this instead. o If they value the relationship then they will work on it. So ask them how you can help them achieve this goal. o Ask for permission to remind them that they agreed to work on this. Some people may take offense to the mention of their toxicity. o Dealing with confrontation conflicto Don’t get caught up in the pity partyo Do not engage with an argument o Limit the contact until things settle downo Remove yourself from the situationo Do not provoke just let them unloado Maintain emotional awareness and never get baited into angero Seek help if necessaryIf the situation will not improve CUT THEM OUT it doesn’t matter who it is.o What is the relationshipo Are you dependent or are they dependent and why is that?If you are dependent…o Work on your situationo Limit dependency and develop self sufficiencyo Limit your exposure to those peopleo Think long term in your planningo Slowly distance yourself from themo Add more positive exposure to you daily routine. o Associationso Self helpo Books and seminarso Advanced trainingIf they are dependent…o Set strict boundaries clear consequenceso Make the consequences self-enforcing if possibleo Enforce all violations of those boundarieso Never entertain a POOR ME argumento Refuse to be manipulatedo Help them to develop their independence o Last resort, cut them off, you deserve respect at all times. If is just a casual relationship, work or an old friend. o Sit down and discuss ito Just stop dealing with themo End the relationshipo Relocate if possibleo Negative self-talk is learned, self-imposed, and detrimental to success and happiness.o Confidence doesn’t mean arroganceo Avoid negative self-talk at all timeso Know that you deserve better, and you are the engineer of your circumstances. Take charge and accept nothing less.

#covid19 #pandemic #coronavirus It's the end of the world as we know it and that's not totally a bad thing. This Covid 19 pandemic is everywhere and there is no escaping the constant bombardment on the TV, in the news, online and anywhere that you consume information. We all know that the rules are changing daily and the ways of staying safe seem to be in a constant state of evolution. The country is shut down but soon we will emerge as a new, stronger people in a world that has evolved from the one that we left. Listen in to see how we can take the good and leave the bad as we evolve and move through this crisis together. There is no returning to normal but now is the time to start defining your new normal and developing your habits for when we all come out the other side, stronger, more resilient, and more compassionate than ever before.Email me at : sociallydisabled03xx@gmail.comSpecial thanks to "Unveil the Strength" for use of the song "Hells Never over", https://unveilthestrength.us/homeAlso check out my side hustle here: https://www.survivalhardwarellc.comBOOK RECOMMENDATIONS (Amazon Affiliate links)Think And Grow Rich: https://amzn.to/37PryPEBrain Rules: https://amzn.to/38R19CfHow to win friends and influence people: https://amzn.to/2TncKmf

MANTRA: ENVY IS THE ROOT OF ALL EVIL.o The only useful comparison is myself now to myself yesterday.o Admire but don’t compare, comparison is counterproductive.o If the feed makes you envious then stop following it.o Who do you envy and why?o You don’t know what is going on behind the scenes.o Attention and admiration are both modern currencies.o Give your attention to the pages and things that improve your life not those that rob you of confidence and self-worth.o Give yourself permission to experiment and fail, grow your empire one failure at a time.o Embrace discomfort, growth doesn’t happen in a comfort zone.o Does someone else have to lose if you win? o My goal is help you find your path to happiness and success; however, you define that.In this episode we are going to uncover the root of all evil. The one thing that we do, sometimes daily that is destroying our self-image and our self-worth. This monster is envy and comparison. As long as “man” has maintained possessions there has been someone that has been envious and sought to either achieve the status or to relieve the owner of theirs. Are you an achiever or a reliever? Listen to the podcast figure out there is something you can do to move closer to your happiness and farther from the things that destroy your own self-image. Special thanks to "Unveil the Strength" for use of the song "Hells Never over", https://unveilthestrength.us/home Also check out my side hustle here: https://www.survivalhardwarellc.com BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS (Amazon Affiliate links) Think And Grow Rich: https://amzn.to/37PryPE Brain Rules: https://amzn.to/38R19Cf How to win friends and influence people: https://amzn.to/2TncKmf

#mindfulness #journaling #LawofattractionIn this Podcast we get into the nitty gritty details of practicing mindfulness and being present in the moment. Of course I will talk about goals but but they are in the future and you cannot sacrifice the NOW for the goals. Live, Love and be happy right here and right now and your goals will be here before you know it. Special thanks to "Unveil the Strength" for use of the song "Hells Never over", https://unveilthestrength.us/homeAlso check out my side hustle here: https://www.survivalhardwarellc.comBOOK RECOMMENDATIONS (Amazon Affiliate links)Think And Grow Rich: https://amzn.to/37PryPEBrain Rules: https://amzn.to/38R19CfHow to win friends and influence people: https://amzn.to/2TncKmf

#lawofattraction #goodthings #carma How do you condition your mind to make your dreams come true? Come see the Law of attraction in action. In this episode we discuss the tangible benefits of the law of attraction. Also, the little things that we can and should be doing daily to make all that we desire come to us. Bet that you didn't know everything is already right there, ripe for the picking but it is hiding from you in plain sight. Do you want to know why it hides and how to reveal it? Let's find out.Special thanks to "Unveil the Strength" for use of the song "Hells Never over", https://unveilthestrength.us/homeAlso check out my side hustle here: https://www.survivalhardwarellc.comBOOK RECOMMENDATIONS (Amazon Affiliate links)Think And Grow Rich: https://amzn.to/37PryPEBrain Rules: https://amzn.to/38R19CfHow to win friends and influence people: https://amzn.to/2TncKmf

#ptsd #iamnotbroken #mindgamesHave you been told that you are broken? Here is the truth that no one wants to admit. Today we are discussing the broken vets syndrome that is plaguing not only the US but the entire world. The damage that it is doing not only to the public at large but the veteran community as a whole. Are the symptoms of PTSD a blessing or a curse. Maybe they are just what happens when the human organism has trauma and it has been happening as long as we have lived on this plant. Take a look and make up your own mind. Never let THEM tell you what YOU are. Special thanks to "Unveil the Strength" for use of the song "Hells Never over", https://unveilthestrength.us/homeAlso check out my side hustle here: https://www.survivalhardwarellc.comBOOK RECOMMENDATIONS (Amazon Affiliate links)Think And Grow Rich: https://amzn.to/37PryPEBrain Rules: https://amzn.to/38R19Cf

#gratitude #thankyouforyourservice #formeractionguyWill gratitude actually change your entire life? Today we going to discuss the military award system and how it has affected our expectations for future accolades. Gratitude is not freely given in the military and we are starved of it for the most part. As veterans we can drastically alter our lives by giving and learning to receive gratitude. Listen up to learn how this affects your day to day interactions. More importantly why you should put a little gratitude into your daily routine and how you can learn to accept gratitude when it is offered. I am grateful that you clicked on this link and I hope you get something useful from this podcast.Special thanks to "Unveil the Strength" for use of the song "Hells Never over", https://unveilthestrength.us/homeAlso check out my side hustle here: https://www.survivalhardwarellc.comBOOK RECOMMENDATIONS (Amazon Affiliate links)Think And Grow Rich: https://amzn.to/37PryPEBrain Rules: https://amzn.to/38R19Cf

#murphieslaw #planning #militarydischargeDid you exit the military without a plan? Come get some fat goals. No plan survives the first contact in tact. Did you exit the military without a plan? Come get some fat goals. Here we discuss the issues with leaving the military without a plan and more importantly what to do if you don't have a plan. What you learned on duty is not useless on the outside. you have many skills that just need a minor adjustment to make them work for you in your new life. Enjoy the show. Special thanks to "Unveil the Strength" for use of the song "Hells Never over" https://unveilthestrength.us/homeAlso check out my side hustle here: https://www.survivalhardwarellc.comBOOK RECOMMENDATIONS (Amazon Affiliate links)Think And Grow Rich: https://amzn.to/37PryPEBrain Rules: https://amzn.to/38R19Cf

#humanbehavior #mantra #mentalmeme How do you get past holding a grudge? Here is what I do. Never contribute to malice what can be explained by ignorance or incompetence. In this video I explain some of the very basic coping strategies that I have used to function in civilian society after I posted with DD214 in hand. This is an overview of the things that drive the people you come in contact with on a daily basis. I used to take all of these interactions personally until I realized that these people are just mottling through their pitiful existence with no awareness of me what so ever. So why not dismiss their stupidity as just that, and keep it out of my OODA Loop. Special thanks to "Unveil the Strength" for use of the song "Hells Never over", https://unveilthestrength.us/homeAlso check out my side hustle here: https://www.survivalhardwarellc.comBOOK RECOMMENDATIONS (Amazon Affiliate links)Think And Grow Rich: https://amzn.to/37PryPEBrain Rules: https://amzn.to/38R19Cf

#combatveteran #mentalhealth #transitionassistanceWhat is this psychobabble? Welcome to the Socially Disabled VETERAN Podcast. This is the introductory episode and I just want to introduce myself and a little about what I hope to accomplish with this podcast. Special thanks to "Unveil the Strength" for use of the song "Hells Never over", https://unveilthestrength.us/homeAfter I retired from the United States Marine Corps I had a few years of hard times trying to get on my feet and get back into the groove of being a civilian. Like many returning veterans I had to navigate not only the lifestyle change but the VA system, medical problems and mental health issues. While at the same time trying to make ends meet and keep family life stable and buffered from my internal struggles. I believe that I got lucky with my friends, family and network in general. But luck alone did not ease my transition, hard work, clear goals and an unwillingness to quit and become a statistic were my driving forces. Most of what I have known for my adult life has been military service so I used what I learned on active duty, re-purposed those skills and applied them to my new life. Now I am happier than I have ever been and I want to show you the way that I made it home. I have no real psychological training other than being a Military SERE Instructor. Although the psychological tricks picked up during SERE training go a long way in mastering self control and understanding what motivates people to do, or not to do, what you need or ask of them. Granted there are many deep psychological issues that plague the veteran community and a few coping strategies will not relieve these issue. However, I believe that they are relatively few compared to the veteran community as a whole. The vast majority of veterans that struggle with re-integration are just faced with a set of circumstances that they do not yet have the skills to navigate. Many fall back into the combat habit of solving problems with overwhelming violence because that is how we have been conditioned to react. This leads us to listen to the accepted propaganda that we are all broken. We are not broken, we just need to run a different operating system than the one that has been programmed. Many turn to drugs and alcohol to escape this programming but that only eventually makes the problem worse. So lets switch operating systems. Anytime a person switches from Windows to Mac or Linux and back there is a period of uncertainty and confusion. But at least you have a manual to fall back on and eventually that new platform becomes normal. Stick with me for a while, although the lessons and techniques seem very far from your NORMAL. I will lay them out in small bite sized exercises that you can adopt into your daily routine and before you know it you will be so consumed with enjoying life that you will wonder why they don't teach this at the military transition classes. (not that we would have paid attention anyway)I want to reiterate that I am not a doctor or psychologist. I am one of you, a grunt, I have 4 combat tours ranging from Somalia to Iraq and Afghanistan. I have 7 overseas deployments and over 2 years of career sea time, doing everything from Combat to peacekeeping to drunken liberty in Thailand and boring ass guard duty. We are the same and if I can put these pieces together and succeed in post DD214 life than so can you. Now, Give me a school circle, sit kneel bend every Monday morning. Above all, I ask that you at least try the exercises and see if they work for you. We are not shooting for mastery of all these techniques, just excellence in the basics and fundamentals. 80% compliant will go a long way.