Podcasts about people pleasers

If people pleasing sometimes leaves you feeling like you've lost parts of yourself, in today's episode I share a firm reminder and some gentle invitations.⚡️ The Rebel Rousers Shop is now open!

In this episode of The Principal's Handbook, we explore the challenges of being a people-pleasing principal and how the need for approval can impact leadership decisions. You'll learn how people-pleasing shows up through avoiding difficult conversations, watering down feedback, delaying decisions, and taking responsibility for other people's emotions. Through the TEA Cycle, we examine how thoughts about disappointing others create anxiety and lead to actions that weaken leadership effectiveness. The episode offers practical strategies for leading with clarity, confidence, and values instead of seeking approval. If you've ever worried about upsetting staff, parents, or teachers, this episode will help you lead with greater courage and authenticity.Get free resources at PrincipalFreebies.com. We're thrilled to be sponsored by IXL. IXL's comprehensive teaching and learning platform for math, language arts, science, and social studies is accelerating achievement in 95 of the top 100 U.S. school districts. Loved by teachers and backed by independent research from Johns Hopkins University, IXL can help you do the following and more:Simplify and streamline technologySave teachers' timeReliably meet Tier 1 standardsImprove student performance on state assessments

People pleasing is not kindness. It is fear dressed up as generosity. In this episode of the Via Stoica Podcast, we look honestly at what it means to stop living for other people's approval and start showing up as yourself.Welcome to the Via Stoica Podcast, the podcast on Stoicism. This episode builds directly on the previous conversation about the scripts we inherit. People pleasing is what happens when we keep performing that script out of fear rather than choice.Most of us learned early that being agreeable was rewarded and that causing discomfort came at a price. That lesson becomes a habit, the habit becomes a pattern, and the pattern quietly erodes the person underneath it. You say yes when you mean no. You manage the emotions of others at the expense of your own. You lose track of where their needs end and yours begin. Epictetus was clear: what others think of you is entirely outside your control. Handing your life over to opinions you cannot control is not kindness. It is fear with a generous face.This episode of the Via Stoica Podcast asks the question most people pleasers never stop to consider: am I doing this because it is right, or because I am afraid of what happens if I do not? The in-between is yours.Support the showviastoica.comYouTube: @viastoicaProduced by: Badmic.com

"Stell dich nicht so an." "Das war doch gar nicht so schlimm." "Andere haben es viel schwerer gehabt." Diese Sätze haben viele von uns gehört. Vielleicht sogar geglaubt. Aber was, wenn genau diese Sätze das Problem sind? In dieser Folge spreche ich mit Dr. Aylin Thiel – Diplompsychologin, Psychotherapeutin und Traumaexpertin, über das Thema, über das wir viel zu selten reden: Entwicklungstrauma. Nicht das große, einmalige Ereignis. Sondern die kleinen, wiederholten Momente, die sich ins Nervensystem eingebrannt haben. Das "Lauf mir nicht zwischen die Füße." Das "Du bist so undankbar." Das Schweigen, wo Worte gebraucht worden wären. Kinder hören nie auf, ihre Eltern zu lieben. Sie hören auf, sich selbst zu lieben. Und das ist der Kern von allem. Aylin erklärt, warum Entwicklungstrauma so schwer zu erkennen ist und warum so viele Menschen erst mit 30, 40 oder 50 Jahren verstehen, warum sie sich ihr Leben lang klein gefühlt haben. Warum äußerer Erfolg innerlich nie ankommt. Warum wir People-Pleaser werden, uns zurückziehen oder sofort in den Angriff gehen und dass all das kein Charakterfehler ist, sondern ein Schutzschild. Du wirst in dieser Folge verstehen, was dein Körper dir schon lange sagen will. Und warum das Mutigste, was du tun kannst, ist: dir selbst zuzuhören. Denn du warst nie das Problem. Der Link zu meinem neuen Buch: https://amzn.eu/d/0darvMTo

Have you ever found yourself giving endlessly in relationships, hoping for change that never comes? Do you wonder why it's so hard to let go of someone who's not fully available or why you keep waiting for love to show up the way you deserve?  In Episode 448 of The Charisma Quotient, "Why People-Pleasers Stay Too Long in Unavailable Relationships:  Coaching with Kimmy" Kimmy does a heartfelt coaching session with Mischael, who shares her journey of navigating a two-year-long distance "situationship" as a people pleaser. In this episode, Kimmy unpacks the intersection between people pleasing, emotional attachment, and scarcity thinking, especially for those who see the best in others and find themselves waiting for someone else to change. Kimmy and Mischael explore how habits from childhood, past relationship experiences, and the lack of sexy confidence keep empathetic people stuck—and how to finally break free. You'll hear: The four main reasons "nice people" stay too long in unfulfilling relationships How people pleasing and confusing potential with reality keep you stuck Mischael's powerful story of a two-year "relationship" that never moved from fantasy to reality How childhood family roles and past marriages shape your beliefs about loyalty and sacrifice The emotional addiction to breadcrumbs of attention and intermittent reinforcement If this conversation resonated with you and you've been feeling disconnected from your confidence, your femininity, or the woman you see in the mirror, Kimmy has her signature Spark Your Sexy Retreat coming up in September.  This isn't just another wellness retreat where you sit around talking about confidence. It's an immersive experience where you actually practice becoming her. You'll receive a professional makeover, learn how to dress for the body you have today, participate in a professional photoshoot, and even step into your own runway energy as we work on movement, presence, body language, and the art of owning a room.  To register go to https://evolveretreats.co/spark-your-sexy/ or askkimmy.com to book a call to learn more. Hurry spots are going fast! Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com  

Morning Mantra: "Make someone smile every day. But never forget you are someone too.”  It's easy to get caught up in people pleasing.  I used to be really bad at saying "Yes" when I really wanted to say "No".I used to put other people's needs ahead of my own.I used to do things out of obligation not desire.I used to do anything so people would like me.THEN. I. STOPPED.I realized that the cost to my soul was too high.I realized that the wrong people were draining me so I didn't have enough left for the right people.I realized that I had no power over my life, that everyone else was running it.I realized that I was trying to validate myself through other people's opinion of me. I realized that people pleasing didn't allow me to receive because I was always giving.Now I practice self-care.I take some time to really think about my answer before I say Yes.I am aware of my tendency to want to help at my own expense.I no longer change myself to get approval.I understand that giving of myself and my time should be reciprocated.I still do a lot for others. But I extend that kindness to myself as well.#BeWillingToStopPeoplePleasing  #BeHappy #BeHorsey #BeHippie #HorseHippie #MorningMantra #InspirationalQuotes

Galatians 1:10 Scott Julian teaching. This message explores the profound tension between seeking human approval and living for God's eternal verdict.  Discover how the craving for validation can hinder faith and compromise truth, drawing parallels to idolatry. Learn how true freedom is found in belonging wholly to Christ, liberated from the need for fleeting human acceptance.

The life you've been looking for—more energy, more love, less stress, less frustration, more fulfillment, and more feeling like yourself—is waiting for you on the other side of people pleasing. When your attention, energy, and love finally come home to you, you stop existing as a resource for everyone else and start experiencing your own life more deeply. Relationships become more authentic, your generosity becomes sustainable, and you discover the freedom of letting other people care for you too. You can still be kind, caring, and supportive—you're just finally included in the care. Free Class Sign Up: Embracing the People Pleaser in You at www.rympodcast.com

If you've ever said "I don't know why I keep doing this to myself," this one is for you. Most ambitious, self-aware women aren't actually stuck — they're loyal. Loyal to a version of themselves that used to keep them safe, but no longer fits where they're trying to go. In this episode, I unpack the four identities I see women silently loyal to (you'll recognize at least two), share a personal story about a loyalty that cost me more than I want to admit, and give you the one question that changes how you move from here forward.What You'll HearWhy "I don't know why I keep doing this to myself" is the wrong sentence — and what to say insteadStuck vs. loyal — the reframe that gives you your agency back, and why your nervous system picks familiar over free every single timeThe four loyalties — meet the Over-Functioner, the People-Pleaser, the Hyper-Independent Woman, and the Second-Guesser. See which one is sitting in the room with you right now.The loyalty that almost cost me everything — the personal story I've been scared to tell, the retreat that almost didn't happen, and the cost of staying loyal to who I used to beThe question that changes everything — swap "Why am I stuck?" for one better question and watch what shifts in real timeAwareness → Embodiment → Practice — why insight isn't the work, and what actually makes a new identity stickGo withdraw a loyalty — what to do this weekOne Line to Sit With"You're not stuck. You're loyal. And loyalty can be withdrawn."Your Invitation This WeekFor the next seven days, when you catch yourself mid-pattern — over-functioning, people-pleasing, refusing help, second-guessing — pause and ask one question instead of judging yourself: What pattern am I still loyal to? You don't have to fix it. Just name it. That's where the work starts.Clip-Worthy Moments"Most women aren't stuck. They're loyal.""Familiarity feels safer than expansion. Even when familiarity is killing you.""Hyper-independence isn't strength. It's a trauma response with a glow-up.""You weren't being fake. You were being strategic. But strategy has a shelf life.""Awareness without practice is just expensive insight.""Stop being loyal to a woman whose conditions no longer exist."Want to Go Deeper?DM me the word UNBLOCKED on Instagram and I'll send you more on how we do this work inside The Unblocked Method™.Mentioned in This EpisodeThe Unblocked Method™Upcoming Park City retreat details to come soon!If This Hit You in the ChestSave it. Send it to the woman in your life who needs to hear it. And hit subscribe so you don't miss what's coming next.ConnectInstagram: @its.amysandersWebsite: www.amysanders.coEmail the show: support@amysanders.co 

Why do driven, high-functioning people sometimes find themselves trapped in codependency  — bound to others in ways that feel obsessive, compulsive, and impossible to escape? In this episode, psychotherapist and Jungian analyst Gary Trosclair explores the hidden connection between compulsive personality types and codependent relationship patterns. Drawing on  attachment theory and Jungian psychology, Gary breaks down how the four compulsive types — the Mentor-Boss, the People-Pleaser, the Workaholic, and the Overthinker — each fall into codependent relationships  in their own distinct ways. You'll learn how popular culture romanticizes dependency, how your attachment style shapes your relationship habits, and why interdependence  — not codependence — is the healthier model for lasting love.

In this podcast, Greg Voisen sits down with Rosie Ward, Ph.D., author of Future-Proofing Leadership: Navigating Change and Disruption to Thrive in an Uncertain World. Together, they expose the hidden "stuckness zone"—the widening gap between an increasingly chaotic world and the ancient, self-protective biological hardwiring that causes leaders to freeze, panic, or micromanage when disruption hits. Dr. Ward peels back the corporate mask to share a deeply personal look into her own journey, proving that no one is entirely immune to the subtle internal biases that quietly sabotage our best strategic intentions. If you have ever felt completely overwhelmed by rapid organizational shifts or wondered why your team defaults to a state of defensive paralysis when under pressure, this eye-opening conversation is your ultimate invitation to upgrade your inner operating system. By exploring the core human challenges beneath corporate strategies, this episode maps out a practical blueprint for stepping away from fear-based habits and moving confidently into authentic, resilient execution. Listen to Greg and Rosie's previous interview: https://insidepersonalgrowth.com/posts/podcast-909-rehumanizing-the-workplace-with-dr-rosie-ward

A confrontation between Peter and Paul occurs during a pivotal moment in the early Christian community. This episode highlights the tension between Jewish and Gentile believers while underscoring the challenges of unity in the early church.Village Green Community Church is located in London, Canada. Our mission is to “Love God, Love Others, and Change the World”.Get to know us better! Come visit our website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://villagegreenchurch.com/follow-us/⁠

In this episode of Ask and Answered by Soul, Jennifer Urezzio sits down with Jozanne Elizabeth Joseph, alignment partner and former corporate leader, to explore the hidden costs of people-pleasing and the journey back to authentic personal power. Jozanne shares how years of achievement, over-functioning, and seeking external validation left her exhausted and disconnected from herself. Through her own awakening, she discovered a powerful truth: your worth is not earned through achievement; it is expressed through presence. Together, Jennifer and Jozanne discuss the signs of unconscious people-pleasing, why so many high-achieving women struggle with boundaries, and how perfectionism often disguises itself as responsibility and service. They explore practical ways to reconnect with yourself, pause before saying yes, and learn the difference between supporting others and sacrificing yourself. Listeners will walk away with tangible tools to build awareness, set boundaries without guilt, trust their intuition, and create a life that is aligned rather than performative. You can learn more about Jozanne here: https://www.jozanne-elizabeth.com/ About Jozanne As a Success & Alignment Partner, Jozanne helps accomplished women close the gap between “looking like they have it all” and actually feeling fulfilled. She works with high-achievers who are ready to release perfectionism, people-pleasing, and the endless need to prove themselves. Her mission is simple: help brilliant women trade burnout for balance, pressure for presence, and external validation for authentic personal power. Through her transformative process, clients learn to set boundaries without guilt, embrace all of who they are, and lead with grounded confidence. The compounding effect is powerful, impacting not just careers, but families, businesses, and communities. Jozanne believes every woman deserves to feel seen, heard, and deeply loved. And she knows true transformation begins with radical self-acceptance. The Asked and Answered by Soul podcast is dedicated to helping you understand that your Soul is the answer. To learn more about your soul's answers and purpose, access your free guide at www.themythsofpurpose.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

People pleasing isn't nice... It's FAKE! This will teach you how to cure the disease to please. More @ https://julien-himself.com Connect with Julien: Watch the episodes on YouTube Go deeper with Julien's online courses Follow Julien on Instagram Julien's TikTok Work with Julien directly

If you've ever felt anxious around someone because you're constantly trying to keep the peace, this episode is for you.Maybe you're choosing your words carefully. Replaying conversations afterward. Walking on eggshells because you're worried they'll take something the wrong way. The harder you try to keep the peace, the more anxious you become.In this episode, friendship coach Zoe Asher shares the mindset shift that helped her break free from years of people-pleasing, peacekeeping, and relational anxiety. Through a powerful story, biblical wisdom from Romans 12:18 and 1 Peter 3:16, and practical insights on integrity, boundaries, and self-control, you'll learn the difference between keeping the peace and living at peace.Get your "12 Questions to Ask Before You End the Friendship" Guide for FREE here!Support the showWant to work with Zoe 1-on-1 for personalized friendship coaching for that extra push and source of accountability? Zoe has limited slots available on a rolling basis, so please email contact@accidentallyintentional.com (subject line: COACH ME) and the team will be in touch with next steps!Subscribe to the Leveled Up Friendships YouTube channel!

Last week, we started a conversation about people pleasing, overgiving, and what happens when helping everyone else starts hurting you. This week, we're going deeper. Because the real issue isn't helping people. The real question is: Who are you if nobody needs you?Many of us learned that being useful was the safest way to receive love, approval, connection, or a sense of worth. We became the helper, the fixer, the caretaker, the strong one. We learned to anticipate other people's needs while often ignoring our own. But eventually, that way of living catches up with us. The exhaustion. The resentment. The feeling of being unseen. The disappointment when the people we've given so much to don't show up for us in the same way. In this episode of Cacao Conversations, we're exploring the deeper wounds beneath people pleasing and the hidden cost of building your identity around being needed. We talk about: -why helping others can feel so good -the difference between love and validation -overgiving, burnout, and resentment -why so many helpers struggle to receive support -healthy community versus rescuing -what happens when your worth becomes tied to your usefulness -how to begin reconnecting with your value beyond what you do for others Because being needed is not the same as being loved. And your worth was never meant to depend on how much of yourself you give away. New episodes of Cacao Conversations drop weekly. Sip. Connect. Awaken. Hey! Thanks for listening! If you liked this episode, please send us a message. We'd love to hear from you!Your cup is full, your journey awaits. Let's sip, chat, and transform together. Find out more at https://www.bodyandsoulevents.love/ Julietta Wenzel Founder of Body & Soul Ministries, Julietta is a healer, guide, and visionary dedicated to helping others remember their true selves and step into their authentic power. With a background as a physical therapist turned spiritual practitioner, she combines individual healing sessions, sacred ceremonies, and transformative retreats to guide her community toward joy, fulfillment, and alignment. https://bodyandsoulministries.love/ Instagram: @bodyandsoulministries Dorice Ross Elder of Body & Soul Ministries, Dorice is a healer, educator, and guide devoted to supporting others in remembering their divinity and lived experience of Oneness. With a background in physical therapy and university-level teaching, her path has always bridged the body, mind, and spirit. Rooted in both psychology and energy healing, and inspired by diverse spiritual traditions, Dorice creates safe, compassionate spaces where healing unfolds naturally. Her work is guided by love, deep listening, and trust in the wisdom of Source.  Instagram: @rossdoriceShine bright and have a magical day!Julietta & Dorice

One of Joe's fiance's pet peeves is that he is a big people pleaser... and he did it again. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

People pleasing is often fueled by some of the most beautiful qualities within us: loyalty, kindness, generosity, and a genuine desire to care for others. The problem isn't those traits—it's what happens when fear, guilt, and the need for approval start driving them. When that happens, strengths that once felt life-giving can leave us exhausted, resentful, and disconnected from ourselves. Free Class Sign Up: Embracing the People Pleaser in You at www.rympodcast.com

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 One of the biggest reasons people struggle to identify their own people pleasing is because it looks so much like kindness from the outside. And from the inside too. In today's episode, Celeste draws a clear line between genuine kindness — which comes from a place of abundance and choice — and people pleasing — which comes from a place of fear and obligation. Understanding the difference doesn't make you less kind. It makes your kindness real. If you've been using kindness as a cover story for people pleasing, this one is going to be an honest mirror. Today's shift: The next time you do something for someone, pause and ask yourself — am I doing this because I want to, or because I'm afraid of what happens if I don't? Events Store Follow Celeste podcast page on tick tock , facebook and instagram Follow STWYT Wellness center on tick tock , facebook and instagram

 Nobody comes into the world afraid of disappointing people. That fear gets learned. It gets taught — sometimes directly, sometimes subtly — by the environments we grew up in, the relationships that shaped us, and the messages we absorbed about what made us lovable and safe. In today's episode, Celeste traces people pleasing back to its roots — and explains why understanding where it came from is the first step to changing it. If you've ever wondered why you are the way you are, this one is going to give you some answers — and a lot of compassion for yourself. Today's shift: Identify one message you received growing up — directly or indirectly — that taught you your needs mattered less than keeping others comfortable. Events Store Follow Celeste podcast page on tick tock , facebook and instagram Follow STWYT Wellness center on tick tock , facebook and instagram

What if you didn't have to please everyone? Good news is... you don't.  High achieving moms often fall into the people pleaser trap, but carrying the mental load of everyone else's expectations creates a "gross energy" of resentment that actually repels abundance. So we are diving into the power of mindful boundaries and how to transition from depletion to reciprocal energy.  Push play to learn how to speak your truth and create the grounded, solid energy that money loves to be around!   PS. Ready to see the "forest in the trees" and create a bigger vision for your life? BOOK YOUR CALL

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⁠Abounding Grace⁠ is an outreach ministry of ⁠Calvary Church⁠ in Aurora, Colorado.Pastor Ed Taylor is the Senior Pastor of Calvary Church –you can find more about him at ⁠edtaylor.org⁠.Books by Pastor Ed along with other curated discipleshipresources from his home church bookstore are available at ⁠calvaryco.store⁠If you like what you hear on Abounding Grace – don't forget to follow us, and share it with your friends and family!

What if the life that looks perfect on the outside is quietly suffocating you on the inside?In this powerful and refreshingly honest episode, I sit down with speaker, coach, and creator of the Box-Breaking Method, Kathleen Conner, to talk about what happens when we build lives that look successful—but don't actually feel like our own.For 16 years, Kathleen worked hard to create what many would call the “perfect life.” She was dependable, capable, and always there for others. But beneath the surface, she felt depleted, disconnected, and lost in roles like The Good Employee, The Perfect Mother, and The People Pleaser. At age 53, she reached a breaking point that forced her to ask a life-changing question: What am I supposed to learn from this?That question sparked a profound transformation. Kathleen began prioritizing her own well-being, got sober, lost 47 pounds, and reclaimed her identity. Today, she helps women stop performing their lives and start living them—aligning head, heart, and soul so their lives feel as good as they look.One pivotal moment came when an ambulance arrived at her neighbor's home. As the compassionate helper she'd always been, Kathleen ran over to assist—but collapsed on the way because her own health had been neglected. That wake-up call revealed a powerful truth: if we want to truly help others, we must first take care of ourselves. Prioritizing yourself isn't selfish—it's essential.In our conversation, Kathleen introduces the idea of “invisible boxes”—the identities and expectations we place on ourselves or accept from others. Boxes like the people pleaser, the fixer, or the one who always says yes. She explains how these boxes can quietly confine us and keep us living for approval rather than authenticity.We talk about the courage it takes to step outside those boxes and the importance of boundaries. Kathleen shares a simple but transformative pause practice.When someone asks something of you, ask yourself:Is this mine to carry?Does this serve me?If the answer is yes, act with intention. If the answer is no, it may be time to set a boundary. You can say no politely and confidently. You don't need permission to live in alignment with who you truly are—you already have it.This episode is an invitation to stop settling for a life that's merely “fine” and start creating a life that feels deeply satisfying and authentic. With candor, humor, and empathy, Kathleen reminds us that we don't have to earn our worth by overgiving or overperforming. We can step out of the roles that suffocate us and into lives that truly fit.In this episode, we discuss:When success looks perfect but feels empty or overwhelmingHow people-pleasing and over-functioning lead to burnoutThe wake-up call that changed Kathleen's lifeWhy self-care is not selfish—it's foundationalIdentifying the invisible “boxes” we live insideHow to set healthy boundaries without guiltLearning to pause before saying yesGiving yourself permission to live authenticallyMoving from “fine” to truly fulfilledLearn more about Kathleen Conner and her work at:https://chasingpurpose.com/If this episode resonates with you, please share it with someone who may be feeling successful on the outside but suffocated on the inside. You deserve a life that feels as good as it looks.Listen, Share, and SupportIf this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who may need hope today.Be sure to subscribe, leave a rating and review, and help us spread more healing and inspiration to the world.Free Resource for HealingIf you're ready to release stress, calm your mind, and begin healing from within, visit:

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT===People pleasers have the bad habit of trying to seek approval from everyone. Typically, talk on this subject gravitates around how people pleasers attract narcissists, which is a bad thing for sure. But there's an even darker side to this mindset and its associated behavior pattern that almost guarantees perpetual failure with women. Worse, most people pleasers have a massive blind spot. How can you figure out what is actually happening, put a stop to it, and start going about things the right way? Here's a hint: When you do, you'll almost immediately get all the approval that's been somehow eluding you all this time. Get the BRAND NEW report on 5 ways to get better with women RIGHT NOW for FREE at: https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. It's all built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.

Nice Guy Diagnosis https://theinspirationallifestyle.com/nice-guy-social-confidence-quiz/ Apply for a free 1:1 trial coaching session with Dan (spaces strictly limited): https://theinspirationallifestyle.com/lets-talk/ Are nice guys and people pleasers actually being “kind”… or just controlling? In this episode, I break down the hidden narcissism behind people pleasing — the covert contracts, emotional manipulation, resentment, approval-seeking, and need for control that often hide beneath the surface of being “nice.” If you constantly feel exhausted, unappreciated, anxious about how others see you, or frustrated that your kindness isn't rewarded, this episode will challenge the way you see yourself and your relationships. Inside this episode: Why people pleasing is often about control, not generosity The hidden “God complex” behind trying to manage everyone's emotions How covert contracts create resentment and destroy intimacy The overlap between narcissism and nice guy syndrome Why honesty and integrity are the real solution to social anxiety and approval-seeking How to stop manipulating people through guilt, caretaking, and self-sacrifice This is a brutally honest deep dive into people pleasing, codependency, covert narcissism, validation addiction, and authentic confidence. If you're tired of being fake nice, emotionally exhausted, and secretly resentful… this episode is for you.

Vous est-il déjà arrivé de ne pas oser dire à votre coiffeur que vous n'aimiez pas votre coupe par peur de le froisser ? Ou d'accepter d'aider votre ami qui vous demande de l'aide pour son déménagement, alors que vous aviez une montagne de travail devant vous ? Si c'est le cas, vous êtes sans doute ce qu'on appelle un people pleaser, c'est-à-dire une personne qui priorise ceux qui l'entourent par rapport à lui-même. Ce comportement peut paraître anodin, pourtant elles sont révélatrices d'un certain mal-être. Heureusement, il existe des astuces pour se déconstruire et enlever cette habitude. Qu'est ce qu'un people pleaser ? Est-ce un trait de personnalité ? Peut-on arrêter d'être un people pleaser ? Écoutez la suite de cet épisode de Maintenant vous savez ! Un podcast Bababam Originals, écrit et réalisé par Lisa Coll. Première diffusion : novembre 2024 À écouter ensuite :  Comment arrêter de vouloir plaire aux autres ? Qu'est-ce que la charge mentale ? Qu'est-ce qu'un man-child, qui augmente la charge mentale des femmes ? Retrouvez tous les épisodes de ⁠"Maintenant vous savez".⁠ Suivez Bababam sur ⁠Instagram⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Forty Colombian farmers sat looking at her, completely unimpressed, when the cartel boss in the back of the room opened a case and a drone flew up out of it. In this episode, I sit down with Attia Qureshi, the negotiation teacher who learned her craft running State Department conflict-resolution work in cartel-controlled coca regions of Colombia, and who now teaches at the University of Michigan after a stint at MIT Sloan. Her new book Never Settle, with a foreword by Sheila Heen and endorsements from Daniel Pink, Robert Cialdini, and Chris Voss, hits shelves next week. The thing I love about her work is that she does not treat negotiation as a boardroom sport. She treats it as a daily relationship skill, the kind you practice with your barista so it is already in your hands when something hard comes up at home. In This Episode The four-step sequence Attia used to reset a room of 40 unimpressed farmers and a cartel boss with a drone, and how the same four steps work in your kitchen tonight Why "take out the trash" is the position and not the actual ask, and the one-sentence reframe that changes how you fight about household chores The fifth-grade bullying story that produced the hard shell most of us are still wearing into adulthood The seven-word test that tells you whether you are influencing someone or manipulating them Why the freeze you feel when you try to speak up is physiology, not personality, and what to do about it in real time How to know when you are giving too much to a taker, and the experiment Attia recommends before you decide to cut losses The literal glass of lemonade that turned a hostile next-door neighbor into a friendly one, and the Cialdini-backed science underneath it Why This Matters This episode is for anyone who knows what they want and goes quiet when it is time to ask. For anyone stuck in a loop with a difficult coworker or in-law that has been the same loop for three years. For anyone who has tried the assertive thing once and the people-pleasing thing once and is exhausted by both, and who wants a path that does not require a personality transplant. Episode Breakdown 0:30 How to Get What You Want: Without Fighting or Folding 2:52 Bethany and the Exoskeleton: Where the People-Pleaser-or-Hardener Split Begins 7:18 Why You Freeze When You Try to Ask for What You Want 14:19 A Drone, a Drug Cartel, and How to Negotiate Without Being Aggressive 28:39 Self-Negotiation: Emotional Regulation Before the Conversation Starts 33:22 Positions vs Interests: What You Are Really Asking For 36:01 The Lemonade Story: Reciprocity, Reset, and the Long Game 46:21 Givers, Takers, Matchers, and the Difference Between Influence and Manipulation Resources Free Communication Training (workbook plus two-part video) Schedule a free consultation with our team Relationship coaching at Growing Self If something in this conversation landed somewhere specific for you, the most generous thing you can do is share it with the friend who came to mind while you were listening. And if you are ready to stop having this same conversation in your head and start having a different one out loud, my free Communication Training is at growingself.com/communication. It is the workbook and video series I built for exactly the kind of conversation Attia and I were just having. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month's sponsors of the podcast Upwork — When you need specialized talent fast, Upwork gives you access to vetted professionals across 125+ categories, from marketing to web development to operations support. No long recruiting cycles. No guesswork. Just the right person, when you need them. Check it out at upwork.com — posting a job is free. Shopify — The all-in-one platform for building and growing your online business. Visit shopify.com/lhs to explore their tools and access exclusive listener discounts. OSEA — Amazing, clean, science-backed skincare made with the power of the sea. Use code LHS at oseamalibu.com for 10% off your first order. Quince — Quality products you'll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at quince.com/lhs. LNutra Prolon — A science-backed, plant-based nutrition program that supports fat loss, metabolism, cellular rejuvenation, and overall longevity. Head to ProlonLife.com/LHS for 15% off your first order + a bonus gift.

You've been so busy achieving that you forgot how to feel — and sis, that's not success, that's survival. In this episode, my guest expert Maisha Khalfani, Sensual Somatic Coach, and I are pulling back the curtain on why women keep sacrificing their pleasure to perform, to produce, and to keep everybody else comfortable. We talk about the real signs your body has been screaming at you that you've been too disconnected to hear. This is a wake-up call. It's time to stop outsourcing your joy and get back in your damn body!To connect with Maisha and learn more about her community, visit: sensualenergyalchemy.comFor more resources to support you in feeling your own power, authority, audacity and alignment like never before and to start using it in your life now, visit: https://stan.store/latoyaz

What if the reason it feels so hard to stop people-pleasing isn't about willpower, but about the role you learned to play a long time ago? In this episode, I walk through the “good girl” pattern so many of us developed in our families and why it can feel almost impossible to change, even when it's exhausting you. We talk about the deeper emotional responsibility behind keeping the peace, how these patterns were formed as a way to feel safe, and what it looks like to begin stepping out of them with compassion, clarity, and a new way forward. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN [00:00] Ep 359 Recap: The Real Reason Why Many of Us Are Exhausted [02:00] The “Good Girl” Role You Learned in Your Family [05:00] Why Pushing Down Emotions Isn't Harmless [07:00] What's Really Driving Your Need to Keep the Peace [10:00] How People-Pleasing Shows Up in Family Dynamics [13:00] Why Being “Nice” Can Actually Keep You Stuck [16:00] What's Happening Inside the Part of You That Feels Overwhelmed [18:00] Why Change Feels So Hard (Even When You Want It) [21:00] The First Step Toward Breaking the Pattern with Compassion  RESOURCES: Tired of the exhaustion of making everyone happy and keeping the peace at all costs?  Grab Alicia's People Pleasing Check-In Workbook: A three-part guided exercise to uncover what's driving your people pleasing and begin moving toward healthier relationships, clearer thinking and greater emotional peace. RELATED EPISODES: Ep 223: People Pleasers, You Don't Need to Apologize for Your Decisions Ep 358 — People Pleasing: Is This the Real Reason You're Exhausted + Overwhelmed? Ep 359 — When Emotions Feel Scary: Practical Tools to Courageously Process What's Inside Send us Fan Mail

What Other People Think About Me Isn't My Business on this episode of Madge Unmuted Podcast! Madge shares when exactly it was (or wasn't) that she stopped caring about... well, most everything. Share in the comments when you stopped caring!Like, Subscribe, Share!00:00 Introduction01:12 When I Didn't Care02:30 When I Started to Care Too Much07:11 When I Started to Not Care Anymore My Website: https://madgeunmuted.com/Audio podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/show/madge-u.Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MadgeUnmuted/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/madgemadigan/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@madgemadiganBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/madge-unmuted--4548342/support.

“เราทำงานเพื่อ ‘ความสำเร็จ' หรือทำงานเพื่อ ‘ซื้อคำชม' จากคนอื่นกันแน่?” . ใครเป็นแบบนี้บ้าง? งานตัวเองก็ล้นมืออยู่แล้ว แต่พอมีคนเดินมาขอให้ช่วย ‘นิดนึงนะ' เรากลับตอบว่า ‘ได้ค่ะ' ออกไปทันที ทั้งที่ใจข้างในอยากจะตะโกนว่าไม่ไหวแล้ว! . การเป็นคนมีน้ำใจเป็นเรื่องดี แต่ถ้า ‘ความใจดี' นั้นมันกำลังกลับมา ‘ทำร้าย' สุขภาพจิตและเวลาชีวิตของเราเอง นั่นอาจเป็นสัญญาณว่าเรากำลังติดกับดักการเป็น People Pleaser หรือคนที่ต้องการทำให้ทุกคนพึงพอใจจนลืมดูแลตัวเอง . ในวัย Time งาน EP.6 นี้ พี่เจ๋จาก Mission To The Moon และพี่น้อยหนึ่งจาก Noyneung Makeup จะมาชวนคุยถึงศิลปะการตั้งขอบเขต (Boundary) ในที่ทำงาน ทำยังไงให้เรายังเป็นคนน่ารักที่ทำงานเก่ง โดยไม่ต้องกลายเป็น ‘ถังขยะทางอารมณ์' ของออฟฟิศ . #PeoplePleaser #WorkLifeBoundary #วัยTimeงาน #missiontothemoon

Kathleen Conner is the woman everyone calls when they need something—ranch hand, stucco guy, chief bottle washer—you name it. Known as the unofficial “mayor” and “Angie's List of People,” she built a life of service as a business owner, wife, mother, volunteer and humanitarian. At 53, she realized she had built a perfect life serving everyone else while becoming nothing to herself. This awakening launched her transformation from depletion to authenticity.Kathleen spent 16 years building the “perfect life” that was perfectly wrong for her. At 53, she hit rock bottom, losing herself to roles like The Good Employee, The Perfect Mother and The People Pleaser. That awakening led to her transformation: losing 47 pounds, getting sober, and reclaiming her identity. Today, Kathleen helps women stop performing their lives and start living them. With a mix of candor, humor, and empathy, she shares raw stories of being successful yet miserable, helpful yet depleted, and needed yet lost, while offering women a way to align head, heart and soul so they can finally live lives that feel as good as they look.Guided by her father's wisdom about givers and takers, Kathleen now teaches women how to give with intention and receive without guilt. Her mission is to help women break free from the boxes they didn't even know they were in—and build lives that feel as good as they look.In this episode, we discuss life transitions and wake-up calls, finding yourself under all the roles you play and more. Kathleen joined us from Colorado.Learn more:https://chasingpurpose.com/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61564208863634https://www.instagram.com/chasingpurpose_lifecoaching***Please like, comment on and share my new TEDx Talk about my DNA test surprise and risks of taking these tests that are marketed as fun holiday gifts yet upend many people's lives! Here is a link: https://youtu.be/LDl3B-TKSgAThank you!

Your calendar fills up fast.A meeting here. A “quick chat” there. Another request you say yes to… just to be helpful.And before you know it.. you're fully booked, mentally drained, and wondering when you'll actually have time to think.Not because you don't know how to manage your time…But because you haven't mastered how to decline it.In this week's BFG episode (Part 2 of the Taking Back Control of Your Calendar series), we're zooming in on one of the most underrated leadership skills: The Clean No.Here's what we unpack:The anatomy of a Clean No—a simple, no-drama way to decline requests (without overexplaining, apologizing, or leaving the door open for negotiation)The subtle habits that are keeping you overcommitted—like soft nos, guilt-driven yeses, and “just this once” decisions that quietly overload your calendarHow clear, direct boundaries instantly elevate how you're perceived—so you're seen as decisive, focused, and operating at a senior levelBecause saying no isn't the problem.It's how you're saying it.If every decline turns into a paragraph…If you find yourself justifying your time…Or if “no” somehow keeps turning into “maybe”…This episode will show you how to communicate boundaries in a way that's clean, confident, and actually respected.Enroll in BFG: Want to eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking so you accelerate in your demanding corporate career without grinding your way to the top? Book a free consult call to find out how you can get started in my Breaking Free from the Grind 1:1 executive coaching program today. Take the free, 3-minute BFG Mindset quiz: Want to know what's keeping you trapped in the grind of your demanding corporate career? Take the BFG Mindset Quiz here to find out if you're an Overachiever, Overthinker, People Pleaser, Impostor, or Perfectionist - and receive customized solutions on how you can break free from overworking patterns and create more sustainable success at work TODAY. About AmeliaAmelia Noel is a Master Certified Coach, podcast host, corporate workshop facilitator, and creator of the Breaking Free from the Grind coaching program. After spending over a decade of her career working on Wall Street at a top investment bank and as a global strategy consultant to Fortune 100 companies, Amelia now helps professionals working demanding corporate careers eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking so they can break free from the grind and create sustainable success in their careers.Connect with Ameliawww.amelianoelcoaching.comIG: @breakingfreefromthegrindLinkedIn: Amelia Noel

Accepting remaining single is not always easy. For many people, especially those who once expected marriage to happen, singleness can feel like an unwanted reality. It can bring disappointment, questions, loneliness, and even grief. Yet learning how to accept remaining single does not mean giving up on life. It means learning how to live with peace, dignity, and purpose in the season you are in. For Christian singles in particular, this can be a deeply emotional issue. Many faithful believers […] The post How to Accept Remaining Single appeared first on Christian Singles Advice | Christian Dating Advice Tips. Related posts: “Why Am I Still Single?”: Insights and Hope for Christian Singles 5 Signs That God Is Preparing You for Marriage Dealing With Guilt as a Single Christian How to Forgive Myself as a Christian Single How to Stop Being a People Pleaser as a Christian Single

When was the last time you told someone exactly how much you earn? Entrepreneur Emma Grede - who co-founded Good American with Khloe Kardashian - says that when women avoid talking about money, money avoids them.In this chat with Fearne, Emma explains why ambition isn't a dirty word, and why she wants every determined woman to know her worth. Fearne and Emma also explore why you can't be a people pleaser and a leader, and why getting comfortable with failure and self-doubt is non-negotiable.As a mum of four, Emma has some big thoughts about mum guilt, and talks about why it's so important that kids see their mums chasing their goals and loving what they do.Plus, why you'll never catch Emma working from home, or cutting her kids' sandwiches into heart shapes...Emma's book, Start With Yourself, is out now.If you liked this episode of Happy Place, you might also like:Ashley JamesChris AppletonCarol Vorderman Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever feel like "yes" comes out before you even have a chance to think? Anna sits down with speaker, author, and boundary expert Sheryl Green to talk about why boundaries are so hard to set — and how to finally change that. Together they unpack why most of us were never taught boundaries in the first place, how to find your invisible lines in your body and your memory, and how to get the word "no" out of your mouth without the guilt spiral that usually follows. Sheryl also shares her powerful "rearview mirror" technique and the game-changing practice of declaring what you're simply unavailable for.  Apply for a free time management coaching session: freetimecall.comFull shownotes: abouttimepodcast.com/321

What if the tiredness you feel isn't about your to-do list but the exhaustion of making everyone happy and “keeping the peace” in the middle of family dysfunction?  Yes, people pleasing—and carrying the emotional weight that was never ours to hold-- is the real culprit behind our mental overwhelm and overthinking.  This is the first of 3 episodes on breaking free from people pleasing. Let's talk about how to reduce your emotional exhaustion from people pleasing and show up with more peace, clarity, and emotional freedom, even when others don't change. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN [00:00] When You Feel Drained (and Slowing Down Doesn't Fix It) [03:00] Do These Classic People Pleasing Patterns Sound Familiar? [06:00] What Are Some Core Emotions Behind People-Pleasing? [15:00] Why Boundaries Feel So Uncomfortable (Even When We Know We Need Them) [18:00] How People-Pleasing Gets Tied to Your Identity [21:00] The Guilt That Keeps the Cycle Going [24:00] What It Looks Like to Start Letting Go of What Isn't Yours RESOURCES: Tired of the exhaustion of making everyone happy and keeping the peace at all costs?  Grab Alicia's People Pleasing Check-In Workbook: A three-part guided exercise to uncover what's driving your people pleasing and begin moving toward healthier relationships, clearer thinking and greater emotional peace. RELATED EPISODES: Ep 223: People Pleasers, You Don't Need to Apologize for Your Decisions Ep 326: A People Pleaser's Guide to Setting Boundaries (When You're Afraid to Offend Others) Ep 350 — Why Is It So Hard to Surrender and “Let Them”? Send us Fan Mail

You said yes again, even though you knew it was a bad idea. Now you're overextended, resentful, and wondering why you keep doing this to yourself. In this episode, Sam and Katy get real about people pleasing in a hospitality-driven industry, why setting boundaries feels so hard, and how to say no without the guilt spiral that usually follows.You'll learn:Why wedding pros are especially prone to codependent people pleasing patternsHow to say yes with conditions instead of just caving completelyThe bigger, better offer strategy that helps you focus on what you gain

Dire « oui » par peur de décevoir, s'adapter en permanence aux désirs des autres jusqu'à s'oublier soi-même… le besoin de plaire, censé nous protéger du rejet, peut parfois finir par nous couper de nos propres émotions. D'où vient cette peur viscérale de déplaire ou de décevoir ? Pourquoi est-il si difficile de poser ses limites, même auprès de ceux qui nous aiment ? Est-ce de la générosité ou une stratégie de survie émotionnelle ?Nahil, Marion et Amélia ont longtemps fait passer les besoins des autres avant les leurs, au point de ne plus savoir qui ils étaient vraiment. Dans cet épisode, la journaliste Marie Misset recueille leurs témoignages pour comprendre comment le mécanisme du « people pleasing » s'installe et comment on peut apprendre à dire non sans culpabiliser. Pour décrypter ce mécanisme, elle tend son micro à Guy Bosmans, chercheur en psychologie clinique à l'université de Louvain, ainsi qu'à la sociologue et psychothérapeute Rebecca Levy-Guillain pour analyser la pression sociale qui nous pousse, malgré nous, à endosser le costume de « l'ami·e idéal·e ».Émotions est un podcast de Louie Media. Marie Misset a tourné et écrit cet épisode. La réalisation sonore est de Guillaume Girault. Clémence Reliat réalisé le générique, à partir d'un extrait d'En Sommeil de Jaune. Elsa Berthault est en charge de la production. Mélissa Bounoua est à la direction de production, Charlotte Pudlowski à la direction éditoriale.Si vous aussi vous voulez nous raconter votre histoire dans Émotions, écrivez-nous en remplissant ce formulaire ou à l'adresse hello@louiemedia.com.Pour avoir des news de Louie, des recos podcasts et culturelles, abonnez-vous à notre newsletter en cliquant ici. Suivez Émotions sur Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Deezer.Suivez Louie Media sur Instagram, Facebook, et YouTube.Vous souhaitez soutenir la création et la diffusion des projets de Louie Media ? Vous pouvez le faire via le Club Louie. Vous pouvez aussi vous abonner à Louie+ sur Apple Podcasts pour écouter les épisodes sans publicités et nos séries en avant-première. Chaque participation est précieuse. Nous vous proposons un soutien sans engagement, annulable à tout moment, soit en une seule fois, soit de manière régulière. Au nom de toute l'équipe de Louie : MERCI !Mots-clé : confiance en soi - honnêteté - rejet - amitié - psychologie Hébergé par Acast. Visitez acast.com/privacy pour plus d'informations.

On episode one hundred and seventy one of Holy Ghost Notes, Matt records while on a moving tour bus and Tim races the clocks. The guys talk about the importance of character and how who you are and how you treat people matters more as a drummer than the skill of drumming itself. They also discuss people pleasing and the distinction of being "nice" versus being "kind" and the boldness behind saying what needs to be said sometimes.

Melanie C has been a household name for the past three decades, since the Spice Girls burst into the charts with Wannabe and went on to become the world's biggest ever girl group. She says her new solo album Sweat is a chance to bring together all the different aspects of herself, from pop star to superstar DJ, teenage raver to being fit in her 50s. She joins Anita Rani to discuss why she's bringing the joy on a quest to get people dancing, and the enduring legacy of the Spice Girls. Concerns are being raised over a lack of safeguards for ‘child influencers' after an investigation found children as young as two demonstrating skincare routines on TikTok. The Guardian's Consumer Affairs Correspondent Sarah Marsh tells Anita about their research which found that from 8,000 skincare-related posts on the social media platform, there were hundreds featuring children believed to be under 13, and at least 90 featuring children under five. Dermatologists have said children do not need multi-step skincare routines, which could damage their skin and increase anxiety about their appearance.Writer and newspaper columnist Bryony Gordon joins Anita to talk about her novel People Pleaser, her first work of fiction after writing seven memoirs about her experiences with addiction and mental health and her attempts to combat those. Maddie Haining, an 18-year-old wheelchair user from Oldham, posted online her experience of being asked to leave a Manchester nightclub for safety reasons. She described feeling embarrassed and infuriated when told that her wheelchair was a safety risk. Maddie joins Anita to explain what happened and we also hear from Dr Shani Dhanda, Disability Inclusion and Accessibility Consultant.Calli Hauger-Thackery was bronze medalist in the women's half marathon at the 2024 European Athletics Championships, and a member of the gold medal-winning team in the 2024 European Half-Marathon Cup, held at the same time. She represented Great Britain at the 2024 Paris Olympics and England at the 2022 Commonwealth Games. She's just returned from the Boston Marathon which took place on Monday, where she completed the marathon whilst 22-weeks pregnant with her first child. She tells Anita about her achievement. Presenter: Anita Rani Producer: Corinna Jones

If you've ever felt stuck, resentful, or powerless in your life… this episode is going to challenge you—in the best way.In this episode of Masks Off: Inner Freedom for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, I'm talking about one of the most misunderstood concepts in personal growth: ownership.And let me be clear—ownership is NOT self-blame.It's not about shaming yourself. It's not about taking responsibility for what others did to you.It's about reclaiming your power.I share how staying in victimhood once kept me stuck—especially in my marriage—and how learning to take ownership of my part changed everything.We'll talk about:The difference between victimhood vs. empowermentWhy blaming others keeps you stuck (even when they are wrong)How your Inner Controller uses blame to protect youA real-life example of how I shifted from reactivity to awarenessThe powerful question that can change everything: “What's mine?”Why self-compassion is essential when taking ownershipThis is the work that leads to true inner freedom.

How do you stop being a people pleaser? Is it wrong to pee in the shower? And how do you end up having a fight with Giles Brandreth? Helping us to answer all these questions is the brilliant Bryony Gordon.Bryony tells us all about her new novel, People Pleaser, which is out on Thursday. Helen reveals how she learned to ask for what she wants, and Ellie explains how it has made their relationship stronger. We talk about the pros and cons of rawdogging your emotions, and whether you can be 80 per cent sober. There's also a bit of chat about shagging, and of course Scummy Mummy Confessions, in which Helen manages to leave Bryony actively disgusted. Follow Bryony on Instagram @bryonygordon. Her latest book is available to pre-order now. Helen's new book is OUT NOW - it's a hopeful, brutally honest and witty guidebook for navigating big hard life things. How to Face Big Change is out now in Hardback, Audiobook and eBook. We are on tour! See you soon Cambridge, Stratford and South Norwood! Then we're visiting all sorts of venues all over the country right up till 2027. Yes, INCLUDING MANCHESTER AND NORWICH! Visit scummymummies.com for dates and tickets. WE HAVE A SHOP! Visit scummymummiesshop.com for our ace t-shirts, mugs, and sweatshirts. FREE UK DELIVERY! We're on X, Instagram, and Facebook @scummymummies. If you like the podcast, please rate, review and subscribe. Thank you for listening! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You've heard of fight or flight, but what about fawn – the idea of appeasing others to stay safe? Author and mental health advocate Bryony Gordon thinks there's a reason so many women feel under pressure to people please.In this chat with Fearne, Bryony explores how she feels people pleasing has fuelled parts of her OCD, alcoholism, and eating disorders over the years.Fearne and Bryony also chat about body image, and both reveal some of the insecurities that have consumed them... that likely no one else has noticed. Bryony reckons feeling ‘too much' and ‘not enough' are two sides of the same coin, and offers advice on how to confidently take up space. (Or, as she puts it: “step into your mother*cking majesty!”)Bryony's novel, People Pleaser, is out now.If you liked this episode of Happy Place, you might also like:Break free from people pleasingPoorna BellWill Poulter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There is a question that changes everything—once you're willing to answer it honestly. For a long time, you may have been focused on the cost of change. What happens if you speak up, choose differently, or stop pretending? But eventually, the question shifts. What is it costing you not to? Because staying the same isn't neutral. It quietly costs your energy, your self-trust, your connection to yourself. And once you really see that, something inside you begins to move. Not because you're ready. But because you're no longer willing to ignore what you know. This is where transformation begins. What we explore: The cost of staying the same Why people-pleasing keeps you stuck The moment change becomes inevitable If you're ready to reconnect with your voice and safely step into your next level of visibility, join me for Reignite Your Spark – a free 5-day experience designed to help you build self-trust and express yourself with clarity and confidence. You can begin at http://nancylevin.com/spark. Connect with me: Newsletternancylevin.comInstagramFacebook  

In this heartfelt episode, I sit down with Maggie Nick to explore why so many "good kids" grow into adults carrying deep shame, people-pleasing patterns, and fear of disappointing others—and how healing begins with compassion and understanding.  

In this enlightening solo episode of Coach Myrna Young takes listeners on a journey to understand the complex interplay between our nervous system and past experiences. She dives deep into how our nervous system learns to survive by recording stories based on past traumas and experiences, often replaying them in ways that sabotage our adult relationships and success. This episode is a profound exploration of how one's childhood experiences can influence adult behaviors, often beyond conscious awareness.Myrna explains that the stories our nervous systems have recorded are not indicative of personal failings but are adaptive measures designed to keep us safe. These stories can lead to self-sabotage in areas like love, success, peace, and personal fulfillment. By becoming aware of these patterns and engaging in practices like breathwork, somatic healing, and nervous system regulation, listeners can begin to rewrite these narratives and foster an internal environment that promotes safety and growth. Myrna emphasizes the importance of understanding and compassionately addressing these survival patterns to transition from merely surviving to truly thriving.Key Takeaways:Childhood experiences significantly influence adult behaviors due to the stories our nervous system adopts for survival.Rewriting these narratives requires awareness and deliberate practices like breathwork and somatic healing to regulate the nervous system.Our survival responses, although brilliant for past challenges, can hinder current success and relationships if not addressed.Reprogramming the nervous system involves teaching it that it's safe to thrive, transitioning from survival mode to a living mode.Taking small, consistent steps toward creating a feeling of safety can gradually update and transform these ingrained stories.Timestamp Summary0:02 Rewriting Your Nervous System's Survival Stories for Freedom4:43 Overcoming Childhood Trauma Through Confrontation and Communication7:10 Healing Trauma Through Somatic Practices and Nervous System Regulation10:11 Strategies for People Pleasers to Politely Decline Requests10:42 Rewiring Your Nervous System for Safety and HealingSee this video on The Transform Your Mind YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/@MyhelpsUs/videosTo see a transcripts of this audio as well as links to all the advertisers on the show page https://myhelps.us/Follow Transform Your Mind on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/myrnamyoung/Follow Transform Your mind on Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100063738390977Please leave a rating and review on iTunes https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/transform-your-mind/id1144973094https://podcast.feedspot.com/personal_development_podcasts/For sponsored Brand interviews and sponsorship inquires please visit Partner With The Transform Your Mind Podcast | Myrna Young Life Coach