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Het lag is a humorous term for the exhaustion and disorientation queer people experience after prolonged exposure to exclusively straight environments. While the term is lighthearted, it speaks to the very real psychological toll of minority stress—the mental and emotional burden of navigating predominantly heterosexual spaces, code-switching, and enduring heterosexism.In this episode, we're diving into the concept of minority stress, exploring its impact on our well-being, and discussing how building community can help alleviate its physical and emotional effects.Related Episodes:Listen to Episode 08. Finding Your CommunityListen to Episode 11. Overcoming Internalized HomophobiaListen to Episode 26. Gay & AnxiousListen to Episode 53. Stop Comparing Yourself to Other GaysListen to Episode 86. Turn Off Your Code-SwitchingListen to Episode 118. Heterosexism: Take Off the Straight JacketListen to Episode 135. Don't Be A Mean GayAdditional Resources:Finding Your Community: Navigating LGBTQ+ Friendships Beyond the Party SceneUnpacking Internalized Homophobia: A Deeper Look at Self-Directed NegativityAnxiety in Gay Men: Understanding Unique Challenges and Effective Coping StrategiesHet-Lag (Reddit)Het Lag (Twitter)Minority StressTrauma, Minority Stress, and Disproportionate Health Burden Among LGBTQ+ PeopleMinority Stress Theory: Application, Critique, and Continued RelevanceMinority Stress and LGBTQ+ Patients' Mental HealthLGBTQ+ Mental Health and the Role of Minority StressSocial Isolation and Connectedness as Determinants of Well-Being: Global Evidence Mapping Focused on LGBTQ YouthThe Epidemic of Gay LonelinessSupport the showGet Your Merch
SILENCE YOUR INNER CRITICHow much of your life are you holding back from because you don't trust yourself? In this episode, Keara talks about the struggle with self-doubt, the constant second guessing, and that inner voice that always seems to have something negative to say. No one else can give you the confidence you're looking for - it has to come from you.↓ STAY CONNECTED↓♡ Personal Instagram♡ For Better Days Instagram♡ YouTube Channel♡ TikTokRELATED EPISODES:♡ From Self Doubt to Self Confidence♡ How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others♡ You NEED to Start Trusting Yourself♡ Living With Intention and Designing a Life You LoveSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
In this energizing episode, Mandy explores the idea that life is like a video game—and shares her top “cheat codes” for “winning.” From simple daily practices like getting outside and moving your body, to bigger-picture mindset shifts such as focusing on solutions and investing in personal growth, Mandy provides practical steps to level up in health, happiness, and overall fulfillment. She emphasizes kindness, collaboration over comparison, and the power of being a creator instead of a consumer. Each “cheat code” is designed to help you preserve your peace, elevate your potential, and show up in the world as your best self.To book coaching:https://theleap.co/creator/mandyjross/Timestamps & Episode Breakdown00:00 – Introduction & Sponsor Shout-OutMandy welcomes listeners to The Wholeness Podcast, produced by Newtomedia (new sponsors contact)Thanks sponsor PositiviTeasfor its medicinal herbal blends and highlights how they've positively impacted her health.Announces the theme: “Life as a Video Game.”04:20 – Cheat Code #1: Get Outside Every DayThe importance of daily “hot girl walks” (or any outdoor stroll) for physical and mental well-being.Encourages meeting new people, brainstorming ideas, and using outdoor walks to solve problems.Stresses the negative impact of loneliness and the need for community.07:10 – Cheat Code #2: Move Your Body DailyExplains how movement releases endorphins, reducing stress and boosting happiness.Staying physically active keeps you younger in mind and body.Recommends pairing outdoor walks with more focused workouts.10:05 – Cheat Code #3: Invest More Than You Earn (In Yourself)Advocates spending on personal development (courses, coaches, workshops).Emphasizes tangible ROI: a better, more skilled version of you.Warns against knowledge hoarding without real application.13:00 – Cheat Code #4: Don't Take Yourself Too SeriouslyHighlights how laughter and lightheartedness add joy and longevity.Warns that constant seriousness can rob you of micro-moments of happiness.Encourages balance between ambition and fun.15:30 – Cheat Code #5: Be a Creator, Not Just a ConsumerUrges listeners to channel energy into producing—whether it's content, art, or projects.Tapping into your unique talents brings fulfillment and impacts others positively.18:20 – Cheat Code #6: Stop Comparing Yourself to OthersDiscusses the pitfalls of comparison and how it drains peace of mind.Promotes collaboration and celebrating each other's successes.20:45 – Cheat Code #7: Use Successful People as InspirationShifting envy into admiration and modeling.Identifying traits you can adopt in your journey toward success.22:50 – Cheat Code #8: Start Before You're Ready“Follow the plan, not your mood.”Emphasizes discipline, consistent action, and overcoming procrastination.25:30 – Cheat Code #9: Recognize & Resolve Problems“What you resist persists”—don't avoid or ignore issues.Identifying self-sabotaging patterns and addressing them head-on.27:55 – Cheat Code #10: Be the First to Say HelloSimple yet powerful way to open doors.The positive ripple effect of making yourself approachable and friendly.30:20 – Cheat Code #11: Compliment, Don't ComplainHow frequent complaining fosters a victim mentality.Genuine compliments shift energy toward gratitude and positivity32:45 – Cheat Code #12: Be ReliableKeeping promises builds trust (with yourself and others).Reliability as a cornerstone for personal and professional relationships.35:00 – Cheat Code #13: Be Solution-OrientedFocus on positives and possibilities, not problems.“You create your reality”—optimism attracts better outcomes.37:40 – Bonus Cheat Code: KindnessBeing kind to yourself and others ensures a peaceful, fulfilling life.Compassion is the bedrock of genuine connections and meaningful work.40:00 – Closing Remarks & AnnouncementsFollow Mandy: @MandyJRoss @wholenesspodcast
What’s one habit you think is draining your energy daily? Do you ever feel exhausted after certain conversations? Today, Jay will break down the hidden habits that are silently draining your energy and preventing you from living your best life in 2025. If you feel like you're constantly exhausted, unmotivated, or stuck in negative cycles, this episode is a wake-up call. Jay reveals three powerful habits that will help you reclaim your time, mental clarity, and emotional well-being. He challenges the everyday energy leaks we often overlook—like engaging in gossip, absorbing unsolicited opinions, and surrounding ourselves with people who only talk about themselves. By cutting these out, you’ll unlock 52 minutes of your day to reinvest in your dreams, passions, and meaningful connections. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Avoid Unsolicited Advice and Protect Your Peace How to Break Free from Toxic Conversations How to Stay Focused on Your Own Growth How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others How to Make 2025 the Year You Protect Your Energy Your energy is one of the most valuable things you have, don’t waste it on negativity, distractions, or people who drain your power. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:06 Why Do We Miss Out on Our Goals? 04:55 #1: Stop Talking About Other People 10:31 People with Superiority Complex Often Comes as Arrogant 12:28 You Can’t Empathize If You Haven’t Experienced It 16:47 Hidden Deep-Seated Feelings of Inadequacy 21:38 #2: Stop Giving Unsolicited Views, Opinions, and Feedback 26:16 #3: Stop Talking Just About YourselfSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
While playful putdowns and throwing shade have long been a celebrated form of humor and bonding among gay men, they can sometimes perpetuate cliques, exclusion, and toxic behaviors within the community. Not only does this behavior reinforces harmful stereotypes like the "bitchy queen" or "mean gay," but it also deepens divisions in an already marginalized community, reflecting the way we are often treated by the larger world.In this episode, we're exploring why mean gay behavior manifests, the impact it has on our community, and ways we can foster kindness and support among one another.Related Episodes:Listen to Episode 34. GBF: Gay Best FriendListen to Episode 38. Learning to Accept KindnessListen to Episode 53. Stop Comparing Yourself to Other GaysAdditional Resources:The Top 10 Reasons the Gay Community Is So Competitive10 Reasons Gay Men Are Hyper CompetitiveOp-ed: Are Gay Men A Gay Man's Worst Enemy?Ask a Homo: Bitchy QueensWhen Does a Bitchy Queen Become Too Much?Gays Behaving BadlyCulture Slut: Dissecting the 'Mean Gays' TropeMatthew J. Dempsey on How Gay Men "Compare & Despair"Support the showGet Your Merch
"Plateaus aren't permanent—they're just part of the process. Trust the journey and don't be afraid to ask for help."Discipline vs. Self-Compassion:Determine whether you need to push harder with discipline or show yourself grace through self-compassion.Stop Comparing Yourself to Others:Focus on your personal progress and journey instead of measuring yourself against others.Trust Yourself and Build Self-Belief:Develop unshakable confidence in your ability to grow, even through challenges.Find a Strategy and Get Feedback:Stick to a proven plan and seek advice from experienced mentors to stay on track.Cut Out Negative Influences:Limit energy-draining opinions from unhealthy friends and family, and surround yourself with positivity. And don't forget to follow and subscribe to my social media accounts.TikTokInstagramFacebookIf you need 1 on 1 coaching, DM “Transform” on IG
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Having personal experience in this area, it’s easy for Christians, especially singles, to fall into the trap of constant worrying. This concern can pertain to aspects of daily life, relationships, future plans, and even spiritual growth. However, the Bible provides profound wisdom and practical advice on how to release these anxieties and find peace in God's promises. Understanding Worry Through a Christian Lens Worry is often a reaction to the uncertainties and potential problems that we might face. But as […] The post How to Stop Worrying About Everything: A Christian Single’s Guide appeared first on Christian Singles Advice | Christian Dating Advice Tips. Related posts: Dealing with a Friend’s Betrayal: A Christian Single's Guide How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others as a Christian Single How to Stop Jealousy in a Christian Dating Relationship How to Stop Masturbating: A Christian Singles Perspective How to Stop Porn Addiction in Christian Singles
Ditch the Suits - Financial, Investment, & Retirement Planning
In this episode of the Ditch the Suits podcast, Steve Campbell and Travis Maus discuss the question of whether you really need a million dollars to retire. They explore the concept of financial freedom and how it is not just about money but also about living a fulfilling life. They challenge the idea of setting arbitrary financial goals and emphasize the importance of understanding one's own unique needs and circumstances. The conversation highlights the societal pressure to compare oneself to others and the need to have a better conversation around what truly matters. The four main takeaways from the episode are: stop comparing yourself to others on the internet, understand your resources and how they can work for you, focus on cash flow and liabilities, and prioritize financial planning over investment decisions.__________________________________________________________Join our Skool Community at https://www.skool.com/ditch-the-suits-9234. You can interact with us, ask questions and get additional resources.Thanks to our sponsor, S.E.E.D. Planning Group! S.E.E.D. is a fee-only financial planning firm with a fiduciary obligation to put your best interest first. Schedule your free discovery meeting at www.seedpg.comYou can watch all episodes, as well as other great content produced by NQR Media through their YouTube channel at https://youtube.com/@NQRMedia
Feeling like a fraud despite your accomplishments? You're not alone—and it's time to break free from the grip of imposter syndrome.In this empowering episode, I'm sharing 5 simple, actionable steps to help you stop doubting yourself, embrace your authentic self, and align with your highest potential.Imposter syndrome feeds on self-doubt, comparison, and the false narratives we tell ourselves. But here's the truth: you are worthy, you are capable, and you deserve your seat at the table. This video is your guide to self-empowerment—helping you shift your mindset, silence your inner critic, and reclaim your self-worth.✨ In this video, you'll learn how to:Challenge negative thought patterns and inner narrativesStop comparing yourself and embrace your own pathShift out of perfectionism and into authenticityRecognize your value and validate your accomplishmentsStep into your confidence and claim your spaceWhether you're struggling to own your achievements, stuck in self-doubt, or constantly battling perfectionism—these tools will support your growth and remind you of your brilliance.
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You've heard of the comparison trap, or comparing and despairing, where you relentlessly pit yourself against others, only to end up feeling envious, resentful, anxious, and maybe even ashamed. It can feel like comparison is the thief of joy. But the truth is, comparison is a normal part of our human nature. We believe comparison doesn't need to be a problem, and it can actually be incredibly useful. Tune in this week to discover how to break out of the comparison trap. We discuss why the answer here isn't to stop comparing yourself to others or give up on up-leveling. Instead, we show you how to work through your comparison tendency, so you can start responding to it in an empowering way. For full transcript and show notes, please visit: https://www.ambitious-ish.com/24
Welcome to another episode of the ConquerMe podcast! Today, we're diving into the 15 things we should STOP doing to live a more purposeful and fulfilling life. These insights are designed to help you break free from negative habits and mindsets that hold you back from achieving your full potential. Episode Highlights Stop Doubting Yourself Believe in your abilities. Self-doubt undermines your confidence and potential. Stop Watching the News Constant exposure to negative news can drain your energy and create unnecessary anxiety. Stop Believing Everything You Hear or Read on Social Media Not everything you see is true. Be discerning and critical of the information you consume. Stop Complaining Complaining doesn't solve problems. Focus on solutions and positive action instead. Stop Looking at Your Phone Immediately After Waking Start your day with intention. Avoid the digital world and set a positive tone for the day. Stop Wasting Time Use your time wisely. Prioritize activities that align with your goals and values. Stop Working During Family Time Create boundaries between work and personal life. Quality time with family is irreplaceable. Stop Watching Porn It can negatively affect your mental health and relationships. Seek healthier alternatives. Stop Making Empty Promises Keep your word. Reliability builds trust and respect. Stop Taking Advice from People Who Aren't Where You Want to Be Seek guidance from those who have achieved what you aspire to. Be selective about your mentors. Stop Letting Your Emotions Get the Best of You Manage your emotions. Reacting impulsively can lead to regretful decisions. Stop Worrying About the Future Focus on the present. Worrying about the future can paralyze your actions today. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others Comparison is the thief of joy. Focus on your journey and progress, not someone else's highlight reel. Stop Gossiping Gossiping damages relationships and creates a negative environment. Speak positively or remain silent. Stop Caring What Others Think or Say About You Live according to your values and goals, not others' opinions. Your life is yours to live.
Be a man that strives after the dreams and mission God has put on your heart, but enjoy the process along the way and live with gratitude and joy each day. Here are 4 ways to help you enjoy the present while still pursuing big dreams: 1. Develop a Lifestyle of Reflection When we don't take time to stop, reflect on our lives, ask ourselves good questions, acknowledge the wins, identity things we are grateful for, we are not allowing ourselves to grow to the full. 2. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others Comparison can be the thief of joy. Oftentimes, comparing yourself to people who are ahead (or seem to be) of you causes us to lose sight of our mission. If you are going to compare, compare your current self to your former self. Acknowledge the progress you are making and celebrate the wins in the process. 3. Change Your Perspective on Failure and Discomfort Here is the shift in mindset that you must make…experiencing some failures and making mistakes is not a sign of weakness, it is actually a sign that you are growing, progressing, and pursuing something that is worth pursuing. Failure and discomfort are positives because it means that you are learning and growing. They are positives because it means you are on the right path. 4. Celebrate Your Wins with Others Have some guys (or one other guy) that you meet with consistently to celebrate your wins. This forces you to think about the things that are going well, and it teaches you to learn how to celebrate the wins of others instead of comparing yourself to others.
From early chatrooms of the 90s to geolocation apps in the 2010s, gay men have been considered to be early adopters of online dating. While today's gay dating apps offer unprecedented convenience for gay men to connect within their community, their widespread use has brought about some negative impacts, including issues related to sexual racism, body image, and the changing dynamics of social spaces for gay men.In this episode, we're exploring the historical trajectory from gay dating sites to the emergence of today's gay dating apps, the potentially harmful effects they can have on mental health, and how we can adopt healthier habits to navigate gay dating in the digital age.Related Episodes:Listen to Episode 24. Gay Villages: Won't You Be My Gaybor?Listen to Episode 53. Stop Comparing Yourself to Other GaysListen to Bonus 07. Ranking Gay Dating AppsAdditional Resources:Online Dating in the U.S.The History of Online DatingThe History of Online Dating: A Timeline From Paper Ads to WebsitesGay History Month: The Evolution of LGBTQ+ Online DatingWhat is Gaydar?How Grindr Took Over the Gay Scene and Changed Dating for EveryoneGrindr - Statistics & FactsThe Founders of This Gay Dating App Won't Stop You Searching by RaceWhat is Jack'd?What is Hornet?GROWLr Sold for $11.8 Million to Straight Social App CompanyWhy Dating Apps Are Racist AF — With or Without Ethnicity FiltersThe Influence of Grindr: An Exploratory StudyOrthorexia Nervosa in Gay MenGrindr Was the First Big Dating App for Gay Men. Now It's Falling Out of Favor.Grindr Security Flaw Exposes Users' Location DataSupport the showGet Your Merch
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Wondering how to stop masturbating? In a world where the conversation around sexual purity and personal habits is often challenging to navigate, single Christians seeking to honor their faith while grappling with the natural tendencies of human sexuality can find themselves at a crossroads. Masturbation, a subject shrouded in taboo and often guilt, becomes a pivotal point of internal conflict. This article aims to shed light on how single Christians can approach the topic of masturbation with grace, understanding, and […] The post How to Stop Masturbating: A Christian Singles Perspective appeared first on Christian Dating Service | Singles Advice. Related posts: Great Sex Tips from a Christian Single's Perspective How to Stop Being a People Pleaser as a Christian Single How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others as a Christian Single How to Stop Jealousy in a Christian Dating Relationship How to Stop Porn Addiction in Christian Singles
Hi Dancers! I hope this episode on '3 Tips to Stop Comparing Yourself to Other Dancers' really helps and encourages you if this is something you've been struggling with. - Kirsten WATCH THIS ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/u6EXrtHTZO8 To learn more about my mindset coaching and speaking services, visit www.theconfidentdancer.com To stay up to date on the latest announcements and blog posts at The Confident Dancer, sign up to be a part of my email newsletter community here: http://eepurl.com/gDmjtz To follow along for daily tips and behind-the-scenes looks at what I'm up to, follow me on Instagram at @kirsten_theconfidentdancer TIMESTAMPS: 0:00 - Intro 4:11 - 1. Identify how you think you will feel if you get what that other person has, and then identify a healthy way to give yourself that feeling 10:07 - 2. Identify the false assumptions you're making about other people's lives 14:13 - 3. We only start comparing ourselves to others because we are unhappy ________________________________________________________________________ WORK WITH ME 1:1! THE CONFIDENT DANCER COACHING PROGRAM: A 1:1 Coaching Program to help you do the inner work to step into a new level of confidence, well-being, and preparedness to accomplish your career goals. Perfect for pre-professional to early professional dancers wanting to master the mental side of optimum performance, so you can overcome the mental blocks that have been holding you back and be the confident dancer you've always wanted to be! Learn more and apply here: https://kirstenkemp.com/confident-dancer-coaching-program#confident-dancer ________________________________________________________________________ SPEAKING & WORKSHOPS: I offer mindset seminars to equip dancers with the inspiration and practical tools to thrive in their well-being and ability to perform their personal best. These 60-90 minute seminars can be a valuable addition to the holistic support and education of your dancers at your next intensive, year-round program, or professional development opportunity for your company dancers. Learn more and inquire here: https://kirstenkemp.com/speaking-and-workshops#speaking-and-workshops ________________________________________________________________________ ONLINE COURSES: My online course offerings are a wonderful way to learn the practical steps to retraining your mind so you can thrive and excel in your dancing, all at your own pace and for a more affordable price than individual coaching. Whether your goal is to break through fear and nervousness so you can show up confidently in your auditions or you want to release the self-criticism or self-doubt that's been draining all the joy out of dancing lately, The Confident Dancer Course and rotating mini-courses available are designed to help you do just that. Learn more and enroll here: https://kirstenkemp.com/online-course-offerings ________________________________________________________________________ DOWNLOAD MY FREE PDF GUIDE on "How To Find Your Unique Strengths as a Dancer": https://mailchi.mp/7e51450a0a3e/findyourstrengths DOWNLOAD MY FREE PDF GUIDE on "How to Break Through the Feeling of Not Being Good Enough": https://tinyurl.com/redefining-good-enough
Do you feel anxious when it comes to building your author platform? Are you comparing yourself to fellow authors? Robyn Graham, Christian Business Coach, and author of "You, Me, and Anxiety" is my guest today to share:How she defines a personal brand and why it's important for authorsTips to overcome anxiety over growing your personal brand and platformHer experience publishing with Highlander Press, andHow podcasting helps her (and you) build your audienceConnect with Robyn:WebsiteYou, Me, and Anxiety book (aff)Learn about Podmatch (aff):https://kimstewartmarketing.com/podmatchRelated Episodes:How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Other Authors (#16)Tapping Into Reader's Needs as a Relatable Brand (#106)Connect with Kim:WebsiteInstagramLinkedinAffiliate links may be included. I only share products and services I know you will love!
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Are you content in the single life? Do you compare yourself to others? Our podcast for the day just on this subject. Contentment in singleness is a real gift. So how much contentment do you have living this Christian single life? The post Contentment in Singleness: Why You Should Avoid Comparing Yourself to Others appeared first on Christian Dating Service | Singles Advice. Related posts: Christian Advice for Singles: Navigating Life and Relationships with Faith Conversation Starters to Avoid Using With Your Christian Date Fear of Being Alone Forever as Single Christians How to Be Happy with Yourself as a Christian Single Person How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others as a Christian Single
Stop comparing yourself to other people! It's time to weigh in on yourself. The era of relying on the scale, on someone else's body, or on society's judgment is over. What's in is relying on yourself. Your intuitive feelings about your body are the most important thing in the world when it comes to how you look and what you weigh. In this episode, I'm talking about self-judgment and the only number that matters. Key Takeaways When we throw away the number on the scale and focus on how we feel in our body, that becomes the most important thing. On a scale of 1-10, how do you feel in your physical body? That's the only number that matters. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others I want you to stop comparing yourself to others. Your body isn't the same as theirs, so it doesn't make sense to! I also want you to become aware of your self-judgemental thoughts, as they can actually be beneficial. We all have moments when we judge ourselves without thinking. That's how we're wired as humans, and that's okay. The real issue arises when we let these judgemental thoughts shape how we see ourselves. That's where the problem lies. We can understand, show kindness, and make room for the fact that we'll sometimes criticize ourselves. It's up to you to choose: do you want to criticize yourself in a way that brings you down? Or should you do it in a way that makes you feel stronger and more confident? Focus On How You Feel In Your Body The type of judgment I want you to focus on is how you currently feel in your physical body. Dismiss all the numbers that the in-body scan or scale tells you, how much you lifted in your recent workout or what you ate. Sit with yourself for a minute and truly feel into your body. How do you feel? On a scale of 1-10, how do you feel in your physical body? When you throw away the other numbers and just focus on the one number that truly matters, your relationship with your body changes. We all have a natural ability to understand what we truly need by listening to our gut feelings. This skill can get buried when we think too much, feel extremely stressed, or don't get enough sleep. When these factors come together, we lose touch with what we really know about ourselves. I really encourage you to find a connection to your natural intuition and trust those feelings when it comes to your body. How do you feel in your physical body? I really want to know. If you don't know, sit with yourself in silence and really feel into it. Tell me in the comments on the episode page where you feel in your physical body on a scale of 1-10. In This Episode How self-judgment is useful [2:00] The only number that matters right now [5:30] What happens when you throw the other numbers away [8:30] How to use what you know to be true [17:00] Quotes “Yes, there is some degree of awareness, and we have to be prepared for the automatic judgemental thoughts that are going to start to come in. Here's what I want to offer you: As humans, we will have judgemental thoughts. It's part of the cards we were dealt. Fine, that's not a problem. The problem is if we choose to allow these judgemental thoughts to create our reality. That's the problem.” [3:09] “We can support, sympathize, and hold space for the idea that we will all judge ourselves from time to time. And that is our choice. We get to decide do we want to judge ourselves in a way that's going to defeat us, or should we judge ourselves in a way that's going to be ever-so empowering.” [4:00] “We have to use the intuitive side of ourselves to know what we need. We all have that gift. The issue is that we lose our intuitive skills when we are overthinking things, when we're under tremendous stress, when we are sleep deprived, when all of these things are lined up beautifully, and we no longer have access to what we know to be true about ourselves.” [15:17] Resources Mentioned Fit Women Collective Transform Transform Energy Check out the full episode page here Find Life Coaching for Women Physicians Online Follow Dr. Ali Novitsky on Facebook | Instagram | YouTube Subscribe to Life Coaching for Women Physicians on Apple Podcasts Podcast production by the team at Counterweight Creative Related Episodes Episode 95: Choosing Health Not Diet Culture Episode 180: Energetic Health Episode 177: Tracking Body Composition Changes
Have you experienced comparison? Comparison comes in several forms: comparing yourself to others, others comparing themselves to you, or others comparing you to others. You don't have control over what other people do, but you can stop comparing yourself with others. Comparing yourself to others is a dangerous way to determine your success. It is a distraction from the focus God has called you for and it will take you to a place of negative, disparaging thoughts. Since we know that our thoughts influence our emotions and feelings and our emotions and feelings influence our choices and behaviors which determine our results, it's imperative to avoid any activity that may trigger negative thoughts. Here's what Scripture has to say about comparison Galatians 6:4 Romans 12:6-8 1 Corinthians 12:22-25 2 Corinthians 10:12-13 Read the full show notes for scripture verses and links to additional resources. The Success Without Social Mastermind Business Growth Program is Open for Application If you are overwhelmed, feel like you're spinning in circles, are stuck overthinking, struggle with how to differentiate yourself as an expert in your niche, find yourself in a place of comparison and doubt, or have invested in coaches, programs, or courses with minimal results, apply today. The Success Without Social Mastermind Business Growth Program is the only proven one-stop business growth coaching program for small business owners and entrepreneurs who want to grow a successful service-based business with no emphasis on social media. It's a great place to start if you want to stop comparing yourself. Apply for your place in the mastermind today.
Brittny King celebrates her 36th trip around the sun with a meaningful reflection on life lessons. This special birthday episode doesn't just look back but also sets the stage for what's to come in the new year. In Brittny's world, birthdays are like New Years—a time to review, recalibrate, and set intentions for the year ahead. She believes in the concept of life as an ongoing experiment aimed at building self-awareness and fostering well-being. Key Takeaways: 1. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others Brittny emphasizes the psychological toll of comparing ourselves to others, especially on social media. She advises setting boundaries and creating before consuming to maintain your creative energy and self-esteem. 2. Self-Care is Non-Negotiable Birth of her daughter, Ellie, in 2022 underscored the importance of self-care. From sleep to hydration and essential supplements like Magnesium and Vitamin D, self-care has become a non-negotiable aspect of her life. 3. Trust Your Intuition Sharing personal experiences, such as navigating a miscarriage and thyroid condition, Brittny urges listeners to trust their intuition when it comes to their health and well-being. Don't hesitate to seek second, third, or even fourth opinions until you feel confident about your health choices. 4. Embrace Curiosity Brittny reveals that her journey through somatic therapy has helped her heal emotional trauma from childhood and overcome limiting beliefs around curiosity and asking questions. She discusses how her podcast has even been therapeutic for her, allowing her to reclaim her voice. 5. Feeling is Healing Shifting from an 'action gal' to someone who feels her emotions, Brittny talks about the transformational power of simply letting yourself feel, both for emotional and physical well-being. 6. Importance of Nervous System Health Brittny distinguishes between processing emotions and regulating the nervous system. While both are crucial, they serve different roles in our overall well-being. 7. The Power of Thoughts Your thoughts shape your reality, a fact that Brittny has seen play out time and again in her life and the lives of others. 8. Sobriety Can Be Fun Brittny dismantles the notion that you need alcohol to have fun. She shares how the birth of her daughter catalyzed a change in her perception, leading her to enjoy events like weddings without a drop of alcohol. Tune in to listen to this amazing episode! Make sure to connect with me: Website: www.brittnyking.comInstagram: @brittnyking_ & for any inquiries email me at: hello@brittnyking.com
Edge God In Podcast 216: 3 Reasons to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others EdgeGodIn.com | Host: Lauren E Miller Championing Human Potential in Christ Download Bible Study Template Learning Objective: Comparison leads to metal suffering, self-doubt and scarcity thinking. Learn 3 good reasons to stop comparing yourself to others. Scriptures: Genesis 4:1-16 | Matthew 20:1-16 | Ephesians 2:10 | Jeremiah 29:11 | Hebrews 13:5 Dear Lord, too often we look outside of ourselves for validation of who we are along with our sense of worth and value. The ramification comes in the form of comparing ourselves with other people. The Holy Scriptures speak against that knowing the suffering it produces within our minds. Set us free Lord and replace all comparison in our lives with gratitude for the gifts and talents you have given us to do your mighty works in this world. Support Resources: Stop Letting The World Be The Boss of You: 25 Solutions to Refresh Your Identity in Christ Emotional Intelligence in Christ Project: Book & Course Now Launched Emotional Intelligence in Christ 6-Week Study Guide: Launched Support Resources: Hearing His Whisper, with Every Storm Jesus Comes Too https://amzn.to/3nNxdya Stress Relief Video Techniques: Click Here https://laurenemiller.com/stress-relief-coaching-expert/
Hello there! In this business-focused edition, I'll be delving into the idea of success and how it varies for each one of us. Success isn't just about financial achievements; it encompasses a harmonious blend of the nonphysical and physical aspects of our lives. We'll explore the significance of ethical and heart-centered business models, as well as the practicality of moneymaking endeavors that contribute positively to our lives and those around us. Throughout my 23-year journey in this field, my definition of success has evolved. At first, it revolved around meeting financial obligations and supporting my family. But over time, I realized that true success comes from pursuing what we genuinely love and aligning with our soul's purpose. It's about finding joy in our experiences and connections. Defining success on your own terms is vital, as it guides you on the path that resonates with your values and aspirations. This approach rejects the notion of comparing yourself to others and embracing your unique journey instead. Remember, success can manifest in various forms, and it's essential to stay true to your own vision. Remember, this is your journey, and defining success is your prerogative. Take a moment to connect with your values and aspirations, and let that serve as your compass towards a fulfilling and joyful life. Let's embrace the journey together! P.S. If you'd like a transcript of the podcast, head over to Youtube for video format
In today's episode, we're diving headfirst into the awkward and cringe-worthy moments we face as grown ups, and then getting into some tangible tips you can put into action if you deal with social anxiety.From drink-options to an under-utilized tool when if you get nervous in small talk conversations, today's show's got you covered. Here are some of the things we're covering today:why you CAN actually have a food hangover, and the reason your brain feels foggy when you dothe things we don't talk about as grown upsawkward grown up moments at a partywhy I got called out by 2 gay men at a buffetdrinks of choice to drink before a partysocial anxiety tips you can put into practice todayThe key moments in this episode are:00:00:00 - Introduction, 00:02:24 - Food Hangover, 00:03:42 - Embracing Awkwardness, 00:06:16 - Awkward Moments, 00:08:08 - Meeting New People, 00:09:36 - Vulnerability in Job Talk, 00:14:12 - The Art of Grown-Up Small Talk, 00:18:21 - Awkward Interactions in Group Chats, 00:20:31 - Tips to Dampen Social Anxiety at Parties, 00:24:58 - Stop Comparing Yourself to Others, 00:26:52 - Embracing the Ups and Downs of Grown-Uphood,
Welcome to "The Art of Reinventing Yourself in Midlife," where I share my tips for finding new paths and embracing change. In today's episode, I delve into five key strategies to help you navigate the journey of reinventing yourself in midlife. On my quest for reinvention, I discovered that self-reflection is the cornerstone. Embrace those deep thoughts and ask yourself, "What brings me joy? What skills do I want to develop?" It's time to embark on a journey aligned with your authentic self. Maybe writing is your newfound passion—imagine a career as a freelance writer or a blog where your expertise shines! As I continued my exploration, I uncovered the importance of seeking opportunities for learning and growth. No matter your age, learning keeps the fire within burning bright! Enroll in online courses, attend workshops, or find mentors who fuel your hunger for knowledge. Picture yourself capturing the world through a camera lens, thanks to a photography course or a local photography club. The possibilities for reinvention are endless! My adventure wouldn't be complete without cultivating a supportive network. Surround yourself with like-minded souls who cheer you on and believe in your dreams. Join networking groups, attend conferences, and connect with mentors who inspire and guide you. Picture the incredible insights and collaboration opportunities that await you in mastermind groups or vibrant online forums. Together, we're unstoppable! As I trekked onward, I discovered the secret sauce: embracing flexibility and adaptability. Change can be intimidating, but it's where the magic happens. Embrace it with open arms, turning setbacks into stepping stones. If you stumble along your new career path, don't fret! Stay nimble, adjust your approach, and explore alternative routes. With resilience and perseverance, you'll conquer any challenge. And last but not least: taking action and setting goals! Dreams are fantastic, but concrete steps and goals make them come to life. Identify those achievable milestones and break them down into actionable steps. Each small victory brings you closer to your reinvention. From completing a business plan to launching your product or service, every milestone is worth celebrating! In conclusion, I embarked on an exhilarating journey of self-discovery and transformation. These strategies provided the compass to navigate the path of reinvention. Embrace self-reflection, seek opportunities for growth, cultivate a supportive network, adapt to change, and take action by setting goals. Your reinvention story is unfolding, one exciting step at a time! The Therapy Show with Lisa Mustard is sponsored by TherapyNotes! Why not find out what more than 100,000 mental health professionals already know, and try TherapyNotes for 2 months, absolutely free. Click here: www.lisamustard.com/therapynotes or enter promo code “Lisa” at www.TherapyNotes.com. Hey Therapists! Come join my Facebook Group to learn about creating continuing education and additional streams of income! Ready to start your podcast? Connect with Chelsea Weaver Podcasting. Transforming Your Relationship With Anxiety Course - Click HERE to get a FREE course on transforming your relationship with anxiety from Mindfulness.com (affiliate link) Need continuing education contact hours? If so, then be sure to check out my Podcourses. Podcast Episodes of similar topic: How to Find a Therapist or Counselor How To Cope with Anxiety Part 1 How to Cope with Anxiety Part 2 Is it Time for a Change? How to Start Something New in 2023 How To Handle Failure Finding Balance: Tips for Managing Social Media and Mental Wellness How To Heal A Broken Heart Life-Changing Lessons: My Favorite Self-Help Books and Why They Matter The Emotional and Physical Signs of Burnout and Strategies to Overcome Mindfulness Made Easy: Tips and Techniques for Beginners Navigating a Midlife Crisis: Tips and Ideas for Emerging Stronger How to Live Your Best Life How To Change Your Relationship with Anxiety Midlife Women's Emotional Health: Common Struggles and How to Cope How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others: Tips for Women in Midlife The Secret to Finding Work-Life Balance for Moms
I know first hand how difficult it can be to stay motivated! But over the years, I've figured out how to keep my motivation flowing. It can be a challenge at times, but there are several keys to help maintain your motivation. In this episode I cover 10 strategies or tips you can use. Listen to the episode to hear me explain each tip as well as share examples from my own life as well as others. Set clear goals. Break it down. Find your why. Visualize success. Surround yourself with support. Celebrate progress. Stay organized. Take care of yourself. Embrace failure as learning. Stay inspired. Remember, motivation can absolutely fluctuate, so it's essential to be patient with yourself and persevere through challenging times. By implementing these strategies and finding what works best for you, you can maintain a higher level of motivation and achieve your goals. Transforming Your Relationship With Anxiety Course - Click HERE to get a FREE course on transforming your relationship with anxiety from Mindfulness.com (affiliate link) Learn about the Psychcraft Network. Find a therapist: Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us Mental Health Resources and Support: 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support via phone or chat for people in distress, resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals. Includes information on finding your local crisis center. Phone: 988 Website: http://suicidepreventionlifeline.org SAMHSA's National Helpline is a free, confidential, 24/7, 365-day-a-year treatment referral and information service (in English and Spanish) for individuals and families facing mental and/or substance use disorders.SAMHSA's National Helpline | SAMHSA It's important to stress that these episodes are not meant to take the place of any work you're doing with your therapist or doctor. In fact, please run these ideas by your counselor or doctor before you act on them to make sure you are ready for them or even fit for the suggestions. I can't stress this enough, each person is unique and their situation is unique so please talk to your dr before starting anything new I may be suggesting. The Therapy Show with Lisa Mustard, and the information provided by Lisa Mustard, is solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and is not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Lisa Mustard is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. Other Put It Into Practice episodes: How to Find a Therapist or Counselor How To Cope with Anxiety Part 1 How to Cope with Anxiety Part 2 Is it Time for a Change? How to Start Something New in 2023 How To Handle Failure The Impact of Social Media on Mental Health: What to Know and What to Do Finding Balance: Tips for Managing Social Media and Mental Wellness Pornography Addiction - A Closer Look How To Heal A Broken Heart Life-Changing Lessons: My Favorite Self-Help Books and Why They Matter The Emotional and Physical Signs of Burnout and Strategies to Overcome Mindfulness Made Easy: Tips and Techniques for Beginners Breaking Down the Four Attachment Styles: Part 1 Breaking Down the Four Attachment Styles: Part 2 Navigating a Midlife Crisis: Tips and Ideas for Emerging Stronger What Parents Need to Know: Addressing the Rising Trend of Teen Mental Health Issues How to Live Your Best Life How To Change Your Relationship with Anxiety Midlife Women's Emotional Health: Common Struggles and How to Cope How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others: Tips for Women in Midlife The Secret to Finding Work-Life Balance for Moms 8 Essential Tips for Parents Establishing Healthy Screen Time and Smartphone Habits for Kids and Teens
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Welcome to another episode of Soul Care for Therapists! In this episode, Dawn Gabriel is joined by Jane Carter, a renowned business coach and psychotherapist. Jane is known for her expertise in helping people achieve their goals and create a meaningful life. She brings a holistic approach to her work, blending spirituality and business principles. Dawn and Jane dive deep into the concept of treating your business like the slow food movement, emphasizing the importance of mindful growth and avoiding the pitfalls of comparison and rapid scaling. About Jane Carter As both a business coach and a psychotherapist, Jane loves helping people navigate the path to achieving their goals for a meaningful life. She applies these principles in her own life in the mountains of Asheville, NC, where she's an outdoorswoman, world-traveler, dog-mama, and coffee-shop connoisseur. Jane offers individual coaching as well as her 9-month Mighty Mastermind to help solopreneurs create a business (and life) they love. Embracing the Spiritual Side of a Therapy Practice Dawn introduces Jane Carter, an esteemed guest who has a well-rounded view of business and spirituality. Jane believes that our businesses are here to grow us, and they can be arenas where we experience spiritual growth. She quotes Teihard de Chardin, saying, "We're not human beings having a spiritual experience. We're spiritual beings having a human experience." Jane emphasizes the idea that everything we do can be considered spiritual, including our work and business endeavors. She encourages us to bring our full selves into everything we do, including our businesses. The Slow Food Movement of Growing a Private Practice Jane compares her coaching style to the slow food movement, which originated in Italy as a pushback against the fast-paced culture surrounding food. The slow food movement emphasizes savoring the food, appreciating where it comes from, and enjoying the process of its creation. Similarly, Jane encourages her clients to adopt a slow and deliberate approach to business. She addresses the pressure to scale and grow rapidly, which often leads to burnout and a loss of self. Jane suggests embracing the process and savoring each step along the way, allowing for personal growth and alignment with one's values. The Dangers of Comparison and Social Media Dawn and Jane discuss the harmful effects of comparison, particularly in the age of social media. Jane acknowledges that social media can make us feel bad about ourselves, especially when we compare our behind-the-scenes reality with others' polished highlight reels. She urges caution when consuming social media content and emphasizes the need to recognize the curated nature of what is being presented. Jane shares that she hires someone to manage her social media presence to avoid getting sucked into the comparison game. Practical Tips for Mindful Business Growth Dawn asks Jane for practical advice for her coaching clients who are looking for alternatives to rapid growth. Jane advises against comparing oneself to others and suggests getting clear on what you truly want. She emphasizes the importance of aligning your business goals with your values and creating a business that feels right for you. Jane shares her personal journey of realizing that a small boutique coaching practice was what she truly desired, rather than a large-scale operation. She encourages listeners to consider not just the financial aspects but also the overall feel and experience they want their business to embody. The Importance of Red Flags and Warning Signs Identifying Red Flags is key to being mindful. Jane emphasizes the significance of recognizing red flags that indicate a lack of balance and self-neglect. She advises paying attention to warning signs such as feeling burnt out, neglecting friendships, or neglecting personal well-being. "I'm feeling really burnt out. I'm feeling kind of crispy around the edges." Prioritizing Personal Connections to avoid burnout. You do not want to get to the point where you are exhausted and you hate your life. Dawn shares her experience of prioritizing personal connections over her to-do list. She emphasizes the importance of structuring business activities to align with personal values and goals. "This is the life I wanna live, so I am gonna let go of my to-do list." Recognizing Subtle Signs of Imbalance Listening to your body helps you recognize burnout. Jane points out the significance of paying attention to subtle signs of imbalance, such as increased irritability or discomfort. These signs serve as reminders to slow down and evaluate priorities. "If I'm cussing more than usual, that's a sign. I'm really irritable and that means I haven't tended to my soul." Remember to check in with yourself. Dawn highlights the importance of self-awareness and the need to slow down to recognize the nuances of discomfort or unease. She encourages individuals to evaluate the source of their anxiety or hesitation. "You have to slow down to know if it's fear-based or if it's not resonating with your soul." Action Steps: Identify Red Flags: Take time to identify personal red flags or warning signs that indicate a lack of balance and self-care. Pay attention to feelings of burnout or neglecting personal relationships. Listen to Your Body: Slow down and listen to your body's subtle signals. Notice signs of increased irritability or discomfort, as they may indicate the need for self-care and introspection. Evaluate Business Alignment: Regularly assess your business activities and marketing efforts. Notice if they align with your values and authentic self. Trust your gut instincts and make adjustments if something feels misaligned. Build a Supportive Community: Seek out a mastermind group or community of like-minded individuals who can provide honest feedback and support. Surround yourself with people who encourage personal and professional growth. Practice Self-Compassion: Celebrate your wins and achievements, no matter how small. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others: Break free from the comparison trap and stop measuring our worth based on others' highlight reels. Constantly comparing ourselves to others on social media can foster discontentment and hinder our ability to appreciate and embrace our own unique journey and accomplishments. Resources and Links Jane Carter Coaching Show notes and Audio production by James Marland
In this episode, I challenge the notion of work-life balance for mothers and suggest that it's more about values and priorities than striving for a perfect balance every day. By gaining clarity on our values, decision-making becomes easier, time management improves, self-care becomes a natural practice, and relationships become stronger. Listen to the episode to hear practical strategies for finding balance, including prioritizing self-care, setting realistic expectations, establishing boundaries, delegating responsibilities, scheduling and organizing, practicing time management, seeking support and building a network, and incorporating mindfulness and gratitude into daily life. Remember that finding balance is an ongoing process, unique to each individual, and that flexibility, self-compassion, and adaptability are crucial. Hey mama! Are you ready to live your best (mid)life? We cover body, mind and spirit for mamas dealing with midlife issues! If you're a mom, 35+, with a focus on your family, who desires more joy, happier relationships, better health and community as you navigate midlife, come on in! Find a therapist options: Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us Mental Health Resources and Support: 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support via phone or chat for people in distress, resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals. Includes information on finding your local crisis center. Phone: 988 Website: http://suicidepreventionlifeline.org SAMHSA's National Helpline is a free, confidential, 24/7, 365-day-a-year treatment referral and information service (in English and Spanish) for individuals and families facing mental and/or substance use disorders.SAMHSA's National Helpline | SAMHSA It's important to stress that these episodes are not meant to take the place of any work you're doing with your therapist or doctor. In fact, please run these ideas by your counselor or doctor before you act on them to make sure you are ready for them or even fit for the suggestions. I can't stress this enough, each person is unique and their situation is unique so please talk to your dr before starting anything new I may be suggesting. The Therapy Show with Lisa Mustard, and the information provided by Lisa Mustard, is solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and is not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Lisa Mustard is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. Other Put It Into Practice episodes: How to Find a Therapist or Counselor How To Cope with Anxiety Part 1 How to Cope with Anxiety Part 2 Is it Time for a Change? How to Start Something New in 2023 How To Handle Failure The Impact of Social Media on Mental Health: What to Know and What to Do Finding Balance: Tips for Managing Social Media and Mental Wellness Pornography Addiction - A Closer Look How To Heal A Broken Heart Life-Changing Lessons: My Favorite Self-Help Books and Why They Matter The Emotional and Physical Signs of Burnout and Strategies to Overcome Mindfulness Made Easy: Tips and Techniques for Beginners Breaking Down the Four Attachment Styles: Part 1 Breaking Down the Four Attachment Styles: Part 2 Navigating a Midlife Crisis: Tips and Ideas for Emerging Stronger What Parents Need to Know: Addressing the Rising Trend of Teen Mental Health Issues How to Live Your Best Life How To Change Your Relationship with Anxiety Midlife Women's Emotional Health: Common Struggles and How to Cope How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others: Tips for Women in Midlife
We all deal with self-doubt. We question our abilities and ultimately our potential to make things happen. We say things like, ‘I am not good enough! Did I make the right decision? What if I cannot handle this?' these are all examples of self-doubt. Most of the time, we have doubts about ourselves and our capabilities when we are lacking one of two things: confidence or competence. Past experience and comparing ourselves to others also leads to self-doubt. We also experience self-doubt when we do something new and challenging or something out of our comfort zone. But when it comes to something that we never did before having doubts is normal. To some extent, self-doubt is actually useful because it helps you see what skills you need to acquire or improve to perform a certain task better But if self-doubt becomes the norm it's time for you to change that. Which brings me to a great quote…"When you doubt your power, you give power to your doubt"– Honore de Balzac. So, Let's talk about Recognizing the signs of self-doubt. Being stuck with self-doubt can prevent you from living the life you desire. Self-doubt prevents you from starting the business you would love to, pursuing your passion, not applying for the amazing job promotion you think you deserve. You get the idea. So, self-doubt basically holds you back in life and ultimately from success. It leads to procrastination. It keeps you from taking action towards your goals and ultimately achieving them. When you have doubts you don't seize the opportunities that might be present in your life. Self-doubt can have a negative effect on your life and confidence. So, how can you deal with self-doubt and move forward…The Key is in Identifying and overcome Self Doubt. Start by Recognizing the effects of self-doubt on your growth mindset: Excessive self-doubt can lead to negative thinking patterns and limit your ability to achieve success. It can also lead to anxiety and depression, as well as interfering with interpersonal relationships. Self-doubt can impact work performance and productivity. The truth is that self-doubt doesn't go away. We simply learn how to deal with it better so we can achieve our goals and live our best life. Learn to Embrace Your Self-Doubt It may sound weird, but the first step to deal with your self-doubt is to embrace it. In other words, when you have self-doubt simply acknowledge it. Don't beat yourself for having doubts about yourself and your abilities. Having self-doubts is normal – we all have them. It's what makes us real and what makes us humans. So, accept that sometimes you will doubt yourself. Instead of being reactive and trying to run away from it by distracting yourself – embrace it. In so doing, you will not waste your time, energy and motivation trying to avoid it. Embracing your self-doubt allows you to refocus your energy and fully concentrate on your goals. A Key is to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others. "The only person you should try to be better than is who you were yesterday"– Unknown. I understand that it is easier to compare yourself to others but doing so is one of the reasons why we struggle with insecurities. Comparing yourself to others leads to self-doubt…it causes it. So, an effective way to deal with self-doubt is to compare yourself only to YOU. In other words, compare yourself to who you were yesterday to see how far you have come. For instance: suppose you started your Business 4 month ago. Instead of comparing your success to someone who is further ahead of you, compare your success to when you first started. When you assess your progress, don't forget to celebrate your small wins. As Stefan James says, ‘what gets rewarded, gets repeated'. GAP vs GAIN by Dan Sullivan. Build Your Self-Confidence to Overcome Doubt To build confidence you need to remember, it is important to be accepting of your mistakes and failures, as they are part of the learning process. Also try practicing positive self-talk and daily affirmations can also be helpful. You can make lots of simple choices to build your self-confidence. Just as there are many ways to strengthen your body, there are ways you can increase your resolve by setting small goals, making healthier choices, nurturing your spirit, and finding support. Here are just a few: Break free of self-sabotaging thoughts and behavior patterns. Expand your knowledge, skills, and experiences. Become physically, mentally, and spiritually healthier. Deepen interpersonal relationships. Most of our doubts, lack of confidence and even imposture syndrome comes from negative thinking and thoughts patterns we have established over time. Tips for overcoming negative thinking patterns which cause doubt: Learn to Identify Thought Distortions. Our minds have their clever way of convincing us of something that isn't actually true. These faulty thoughts reinforce negative thinking. Counter Negative Thoughts with Positive Affirmations. Positive affirmations can be used in a number of different ways. ... Avoid External Negativity. Take steps to avoid things or people in your life that hurt the way you think and feel. Take a Break. One way to separate yourself from negativity is to allow yourself a specified period (no more or less than 10 minutes) with the negative thought. Practice Feeling Grateful. Research shows that feeling grateful has a positive influence on your levels of happiness. Focus on Your Strength. The more you try to focus on your strengths instead of dwelling on mistakes you've made in the past, the easier it will be to overcome negative thinking. Seek out Professional Support. If you still have a hard time managing your thoughts and find that they are affecting your ability to meet your daily responsibilities or enjoy. Quote: "Believe in yourself, your abilities and your own potential. Never let self-doubt hold you captive. You are worthy of all that you dream of and hope for" – Roy T Bennett. I Believe that Pushing Yourself to Take Action Despite Your Self-Doubt with Help you Overcome Anything Obstacle in Your Life Quote: "If you hear a voice within you say you cannot paint, then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced" – Vincent Willem Van Gogh. Learn to take action despite your self-doubt and your self-doubt will disappear. When you take action, your doubts and insecurities you actually move towards your goals. Think about it – how many times you had doubts, but you did well anyway? By taking action you reclaim your power and you become in charge of your life. On the other hand, if you don't take action, you feel anxious and overwhelmed. So, don't sell yourself short because of your self-doubts. Instead, learn to focus on the present moment, embrace your doubts and ask yourself ‘what small action I can take today to move towards my goals?'. Then, simply take that action. In so doing, you are not engaging in negative self-talk about something, but you are actually doing this thing. And as you act despite your doubts you feel more confident, empowered, motivated and happy. Make sense? Finally, It's Important You Sharpen your Skills & Mastery of Your Trade Often, when you don't know how to achieve something the voice of your self-doubt is louder. In other words, the lack of clarity and competence leads to self-doubt, less confidence and inaction. So, having clarity and competence is vital if you want to deal with self-doubt. When you don't have clarity on what skills you need, simply think of your goal and identify the key steps that you need to take to achieve it. If you struggle to identify what needs to be done research what successful people in that area are doing and follow their steps. Once you know what needs to be done you can make a plan of action to develop your skills. If you need to acquire new skills to achieve your goal, be willing to learn those skills. In other words, have a learning mentality. Read books, watch YouTube videos, listen podcasts and audiobooks, attend seminars or sign up for a course. Whatever it is that you need to learn just take the time to do it. The more you learn, the more competent you become. And with competence comes confidence. When you are confident, you are more likely to take action and make progress regardless of your doubts. Can you see how it all ties together? Look, we all doubt ourselves and that's okay. It's what we do next that makes all the difference. I hope these tips will start helping you to identify and overcome your self-doubt each day. Self-doubt is normal, but it doesn't have to control your life. When you understand that self-doubt is just a negative thought pattern you can take steps to change it.
We all deal with self-doubt. We question our abilities and ultimately our potential to make things happen. We say things like, ‘I am not good enough! Did I make the right decision? What if I cannot handle this?' these are all examples of self-doubt. Most of the time, we have doubts about ourselves and our capabilities when we are lacking one of two things: confidence or competence. Past experience and comparing ourselves to others also leads to self-doubt. We also experience self-doubt when we do something new and challenging or something out of our comfort zone. But when it comes to something that we never did before having doubts is normal. To some extent, self-doubt is actually useful because it helps you see what skills you need to acquire or improve to perform a certain task better But if self-doubt becomes the norm it's time for you to change that. Which brings me to a great quote…"When you doubt your power, you give power to your doubt"– Honore de Balzac. So, Let's talk about Recognizing the signs of self-doubt. Being stuck with self-doubt can prevent you from living the life you desire. Self-doubt prevents you from starting the business you would love to, pursuing your passion, not applying for the amazing job promotion you think you deserve. You get the idea. So, self-doubt basically holds you back in life and ultimately from success. It leads to procrastination. It keeps you from taking action towards your goals and ultimately achieving them. When you have doubts you don't seize the opportunities that might be present in your life. Self-doubt can have a negative effect on your life and confidence. So, how can you deal with self-doubt and move forward…The Key is in Identifying and overcome Self Doubt. Start by Recognizing the effects of self-doubt on your growth mindset: Excessive self-doubt can lead to negative thinking patterns and limit your ability to achieve success. It can also lead to anxiety and depression, as well as interfering with interpersonal relationships. Self-doubt can impact work performance and productivity. The truth is that self-doubt doesn't go away. We simply learn how to deal with it better so we can achieve our goals and live our best life. Learn to Embrace Your Self-Doubt It may sound weird, but the first step to deal with your self-doubt is to embrace it. In other words, when you have self-doubt simply acknowledge it. Don't beat yourself for having doubts about yourself and your abilities. Having self-doubts is normal – we all have them. It's what makes us real and what makes us humans. So, accept that sometimes you will doubt yourself. Instead of being reactive and trying to run away from it by distracting yourself – embrace it. In so doing, you will not waste your time, energy and motivation trying to avoid it. Embracing your self-doubt allows you to refocus your energy and fully concentrate on your goals. A Key is to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others. "The only person you should try to be better than is who you were yesterday"– Unknown. I understand that it is easier to compare yourself to others but doing so is one of the reasons why we struggle with insecurities. Comparing yourself to others leads to self-doubt…it causes it. So, an effective way to deal with self-doubt is to compare yourself only to YOU. In other words, compare yourself to who you were yesterday to see how far you have come. For instance: suppose you started your Business 4 month ago. Instead of comparing your success to someone who is further ahead of you, compare your success to when you first started. When you assess your progress, don't forget to celebrate your small wins. As Stefan James says, ‘what gets rewarded, gets repeated'. GAP vs GAIN by Dan Sullivan. Build Your Self-Confidence to Overcome Doubt To build confidence you need to remember, it is important to be accepting of your mistakes and failures, as they are part of the learning process. Also try practicing positive self-talk and daily affirmations can also be helpful. You can make lots of simple choices to build your self-confidence. Just as there are many ways to strengthen your body, there are ways you can increase your resolve by setting small goals, making healthier choices, nurturing your spirit, and finding support. Here are just a few: Break free of self-sabotaging thoughts and behavior patterns. Expand your knowledge, skills, and experiences. Become physically, mentally, and spiritually healthier. Deepen interpersonal relationships. Most of our doubts, lack of confidence and even imposture syndrome comes from negative thinking and thoughts patterns we have established over time. Tips for overcoming negative thinking patterns which cause doubt: Learn to Identify Thought Distortions. Our minds have their clever way of convincing us of something that isn't actually true. These faulty thoughts reinforce negative thinking. Counter Negative Thoughts with Positive Affirmations. Positive affirmations can be used in a number of different ways. ... Avoid External Negativity. Take steps to avoid things or people in your life that hurt the way you think and feel. Take a Break. One way to separate yourself from negativity is to allow yourself a specified period (no more or less than 10 minutes) with the negative thought. Practice Feeling Grateful. Research shows that feeling grateful has a positive influence on your levels of happiness. Focus on Your Strength. The more you try to focus on your strengths instead of dwelling on mistakes you've made in the past, the easier it will be to overcome negative thinking. Seek out Professional Support. If you still have a hard time managing your thoughts and find that they are affecting your ability to meet your daily responsibilities or enjoy. Quote: "Believe in yourself, your abilities and your own potential. Never let self-doubt hold you captive. You are worthy of all that you dream of and hope for" – Roy T Bennett. I Believe that Pushing Yourself to Take Action Despite Your Self-Doubt with Help you Overcome Anything Obstacle in Your Life Quote: "If you hear a voice within you say you cannot paint, then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced" – Vincent Willem Van Gogh. Learn to take action despite your self-doubt and your self-doubt will disappear. When you take action, your doubts and insecurities you actually move towards your goals. Think about it – how many times you had doubts, but you did well anyway? By taking action you reclaim your power and you become in charge of your life. On the other hand, if you don't take action, you feel anxious and overwhelmed. So, don't sell yourself short because of your self-doubts. Instead, learn to focus on the present moment, embrace your doubts and ask yourself ‘what small action I can take today to move towards my goals?'. Then, simply take that action. In so doing, you are not engaging in negative self-talk about something, but you are actually doing this thing. And as you act despite your doubts you feel more confident, empowered, motivated and happy. Make sense? Finally, It's Important You Sharpen your Skills & Mastery of Your Trade Often, when you don't know how to achieve something the voice of your self-doubt is louder. In other words, the lack of clarity and competence leads to self-doubt, less confidence and inaction. So, having clarity and competence is vital if you want to deal with self-doubt. When you don't have clarity on what skills you need, simply think of your goal and identify the key steps that you need to take to achieve it. If you struggle to identify what needs to be done research what successful people in that area are doing and follow their steps. Once you know what needs to be done you can make a plan of action to develop your skills. If you need to acquire new skills to achieve your goal, be willing to learn those skills. In other words, have a learning mentality. Read books, watch YouTube videos, listen podcasts and audiobooks, attend seminars or sign up for a course. Whatever it is that you need to learn just take the time to do it. The more you learn, the more competent you become. And with competence comes confidence. When you are confident, you are more likely to take action and make progress regardless of your doubts. Can you see how it all ties together? Look, we all doubt ourselves and that's okay. It's what we do next that makes all the difference. I hope these tips will start helping you to identify and overcome your self-doubt each day. Self-doubt is normal, but it doesn't have to control your life. When you understand that self-doubt is just a negative thought pattern you can take steps to change it.
The Presence Projects presents episode 96 of the "Are You Being Present?" podcast series. Join Paul for a podcast on comparison, how it is a major Presence obstruction and tool of the ego that has been used to create an immense amount of self-inflicted suffering. The title and topic of this episode is “Stop Comparing Yourself, Be Present!". In this podcast Paul focuses on what comparison in, how it's been used as a negative motivator, the effect it has on the Present moment and the need to observe it with objectivity as your ego (or other people's egos) use it against you. Early in life we are indoctrinated with societal programming that is very negative and uses control mechanisms like comparison to manipulate and motivate for a variety of nefarious reasons. In this reality no two people/places/things are equal, nor should they be. The ego (that loud voice in your head) wants you to believe the opposite, the truth is that everything and everyone is unique in their own special way. Knowing this Universal Truth provides a proper understanding that comparison creates unnecessary self-inflicted suffering. Comparing yourself to anyone, including a past or future version of yourself, takes you out of the Present moment leading to a variety of negative emotions, feelings and energetic states of being. As always, it is advisable to listen to earlier podcasts that discuss other Presence topics and Presence Tools that can be implemented to help shift into the Present Moment. Please check out the rest of the "Are You Being Present?" podcasts series on our website, iTunes and YouTube! Remember you have a choice. Choose to be present! https://www.areyoubeingpresent.com
In previous episodes, we talked about how gay men may struggle with perfectionism as a means to validate themselves and overcome their gay shame. As a result, it's easy to compare ourselves to others and compete against other gay men instead of lifting our community up.In this episode, we're talking about some of the reasons why gay men compete with one another, ways to stop comparing ourselves to others, and how we can better support our community instead of tearing each other down.Additional Resources:Social Comparison TheorySizing Up: When We Compete with Other Gay Men in Gay CommunitiesHow to Deal with Comparing Yourself to Another Gay?The Top 10 Reasons the Gay Community is so Competitive32. Gay Men and Body Obsession13. Perfectly Imperfect: Conquer Your Perfectionism10 Reasons Gay Men are Hyper Competitive42. Are You Emotionally Unavailable?Gay Men & Self-Perception Based on Grindr UseCouple CompetitionHow to Stop Comparing Yourself to OthersHow To Stop Comparing Yourself To OthersMatthew J. Dempsey on How Gay Men "Compare & Despair"Support the show
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Episode Introduction: It's time to break the cycle of self-comparison. Tune in to find out how! Episode Summary: In this week's episode of the Rise Station Podcast, we talk about self-comparison and how it can be harmful to us. We also understand the role of self-esteem in this process and conclude the episode by discussing ten tips on how to stop comparing yourself with others. Rise Tribe Takeaways: How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others: Acknowledge that you are engaging in comparison. Own the qualities that make you different and unique. Recognize your struggles through a lens of compassion and work on them. Set goals for yourself and measure your progress. Compete with yourself. Affirm yourself. Limit your time on social media. Surround yourself with people who have a healthy self-concept and are uplifting and supportive. Set boundaries with those who are overly judgmental, negative, and draining. Work with a mental health therapist. Help us grow and reach out to more amazing individuals such as yourself by leaving a positive rating + review on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/rise-station/id1565362467 Connect With Us: Email: media@restorativefamilyservices.com Website: https://restorativefamilyservices.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/restorativefamily/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RestorativeFS
We're finally biting the bullet and doing a Dental A-Team book club! See below the books we'll be reading each month of the year. Don't forget to play catch-up with January and February's books. January: Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin February: Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones by James Clear March: The Psychology of Money: Timeless Lessons on Wealth, Greed, and Happiness by Morgan Housel April: Comparisonitis: How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others and Be Genuinely Happy by Melissa Ambrosini May: Own the Day, Own Your Life: Optimized Practices for Waking, Working, Learning, Eating, Training, Playing, Sleeping, and Sex by Aubrey Marcus June: The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz July: The Happiest Man on Earth: The Beautiful Life of an Auschwitz Survivor by Eddie Jaku August: Profit First: Transform Your Business from a Cash-Eating Monster to a Money-Making Machine by Mike Michalowicz September: The Color Code by Taylor Hartman October: Medical Medium by Anthony William November: The Obstacle Is the Way by Ryan Holiday December: The Go-Giver by Bob Burg and John David Mann Listen to the episode to find out the benefits of a book club, the best way to incorporate this into your practice, when DAT will be reviewing the books, and more. Episode resources: Reach out to Kiera Subscribe to The Dental A-Team podcast Become Dental A-Team Platinum! Review the podcast
Hi all! This is highlight reel of 3 of my favorite solo episodes. Please reach out after listening and tell me what you think! -AmberEpisodes Featured:#39: Stop Comparing Yourself#45: Life Won't Get Better Unless You Get Better#53: Attention ManagementIf you are interested in connecting with Amber, send an email to amber@amberfuhriman.com.Connect with other incredible people looking to break out of the corporate mindset by joining the More Than Corporate Facebook group: http://bit.ly/2MuWn53Schedule a connection call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05If you are interested in connecting with Amber, send an email to amber@amberfuhriman.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
We all compare ourselves. It's human nature! In this episode we learn about the social comparison theory made famous by Leon Festinger in 1954, how to compare ourselves in a less judgmental way, what it means to make temporal comparisons and how we can learn from the comparison tricks people use with money. Instead of trying to stop the comparison tide completely, this episode is about using our natural ability to compare in a way that is more helpful for you and your finances.As always, I love to hear from you! If you like this episode or others, please share with a friend, leave a rating or review, or email me at onelessthingpodcast@gmail.com. Thanks!3 Reasons to Stop Comparing Yourself by Psychology TodayDebt Statistics How to Stop Comparing YourselfWhat is Social Comparison TheorySocial Comparison Theory Defined
124 Entrepreneurship and The Art of Feminine Presence Author and personal development coach, Rachael Jayne Groover, is passionate about women discovering their own feminine power. Her book, “Powerful and Feminine” She writes that The feminine essence is the “E” spot. (“E” is for energetic, ecstatic, empowering and effortless). Listen in on the conversation between Deb and Rachael Jayne as they talk about how the “art of feminine presence” is vital to your business and your life. [00:01 -11:57] Opening Segment Rachael Jayne talks to us about how transitioning from a customer service role to contributing to a personal development guru's organization, led her to the realization that starting her own business was the path to take. The challenges she faced of starting a business, included everything from visa issues to ultimately achieve success in the personal development field in the US. She focused on finding joy in serving others which led her to getting in tune with that emotional connection and helping people realize their potential was her passion. She developed her skills through joining the Toastmasters to overcome her fear of speaking and found that she had a natural talent for it. [11:58 - 29:13] The Influence that Confidence Has on Our Success as Entrepreneurs Personal development practices, such as mindset and communication, can help shift focus to something that feels better. Stabilizing the mind, heart, gut, and body in this infinite dimension leads to an unshakeable confidence, rather than trying to constantly change the mindset. Understanding the physical and energetic component of receptivity through the Art of Feminine Presence work The benefits of being receptive, such as a quiet mind, inner peace, and a relaxed state of being. [29:14 - 33:52] Stop Comparing Yourself to Others Understand your personality structure and how it may influence your tendency to compare yourself to others. (i.e, if you're a type four on the Enneagram, envy and comparison may be a part of your emotional habits). Recognizing this can help you to step back and observe the behavior rather than identifying with it as an intrinsic part of yourself. When you notice yourself comparing yourself to others and feeling negative emotions, focus on relaxing your body and creating an open, relaxed state. Cultivate an attitude of openness and receptivity to the present moment and to yourself. When you're in this state, you're less likely to be caught up in comparisons and negative thoughts. Spirituality, or receptivity, can also help shift your perspective away from comparison. This could be something as simple as becoming more present or mindful. By focusing on receptivity, you can move into a different dimension where comparison is not possible. [33:53 - 37:23] Rachael Jayne Shares a Client's Success Story Jennifer was able to escape corporate and start her own business with the help of Awakened School She learned to write her book and become a great speaker. She also went through the spiritual and personal realm with a meditation retreat and the Art of Feminine presence. Through Rachael Jayne's programs, Jennifer was able to shift her mindset and achieve her first million within two years. She was also able to work through her traumatic childhood experiences by being open to receive work, which helped her to relax her system and avoid triggers. [37:24 - 40:09] Closing Segment Connect with Rachael Jayne through the links below Follow us on social media and leave a review Final words Books by Rachael Jayne Groover Powerful and Feminine: https://302.buzz/PowerfulFeminine Divine Breadcrumbs: https://302.buzz/DivineBreadcrumbs Connect with Rachael Jayne Groover Website: Awaken Your Impact | TheAwakenedSchool.com Website: Unwavering Stillness Mini-Retreat Interest (theawakenedschool.com) Website: https://rachaeljayne.com Facebook: Rachael Jayne Groover | Facebook Instagram: @rachaeljaynegroover Twitter: @RachaelJGroover) / Twitter LInkedIn: Rachael Jayne Groover | LinkedIn Pinterest: www.pinterest.com/rachaeljgroover/ Youtube: Rachael Jayne Groover - YouTube Here are some another episodes you might enjoy as well: For all the following episodes, go to https://lifeaftercorporatepodcast.com/ Ep 56. Do You Have a Deeper Purpose Within You? Ep 80. The CEO Mindset Ep 101. Faith Over Fear Ep110. How to Find Your Purpose Tweetable Quotes: "Zero in on enjoyment over a feeling of service, which is kind of the opposite of how some people do it."... Rachael Jayne Groover "The practices become, how do I then continue to see with those universal, multi-dimensional eyes and stabilize that." … Rachael Jayne Groover SUBSCRIBE & LEAVE A FIVE-STAR REVIEW and share this podcast to other growing entrepreneurs! Get weekly tips on how to create more money and meaning doing work you love and be one of the many growing entrepreneurs in our community. CLICK HERE to join our private Facebook Group! Connect with me on Instagram, LinkedIn, or checkout our website at www.lifeaftercorporatepodcast.com
On today's morning message, the Queen of Pep Talks is giving you the gentle and loving reminder to STOP COMPARING YOURSELF and your DAILY ROUTINES to those you see on social media. You get to create success in a way that looks and feels so good for you, and that *does not* have to look the same as the people who you admire. A reminder that the most sustainable (and therefore successful) routine is the one the feels so good to YOU. XOLinks/Resources:Join the EXCLUSIVE Pep Talks Membership!Get a 5-day Voxer Coaching Pass.Get the Create Joy Products HERE.Sign up for the JJXO Weekly Newsletter.Join the FREE Create Change Community!Read my book "Battle for Growth".Need a Workout Plan? Get mine hereFollow the Inspiration on Instagram.
We all deal with self-doubt. We question our abilities and ultimately our potential to make things happen. We say things like, ‘I am not good enough! Did I make the right decision? What if I cannot handle this?' these are all examples of self-doubt. Most of the time, we have doubts about ourselves and our capabilities when we are lacking one of two things: confidence or competence. Past experience and comparing ourselves to others also leads to self-doubt. We also experience self-doubt when we do something new and challenging or something out of our comfort zone. But when it comes to something that we never did before having doubts is normal. To some extent, self-doubt is actually useful because it helps you see what skills you need to acquire or improve to perform a certain task better But if self-doubt becomes the norm it's time for you to change that. Which brings me to a great quote…"When you doubt your power, you give power to your doubt"– Honore de Balzac. So, Let's talk about Recognizing the signs of self-doubt. Being stuck with self-doubt can prevent you from living the life you desire. Self-doubt prevents you from starting the business you would love to, pursuing your passion, not applying for the amazing job promotion you think you deserve. You get the idea. So, self-doubt basically holds you back in life and ultimately from success. It leads to procrastination. It keeps you from taking action towards your goals and ultimately achieving them. When you have doubts you don't seize the opportunities that might be present in your life. Self-doubt can have a negative effect on your life and confidence. So, how can you deal with self-doubt and move forward…The Key is in Identifying and overcome Self Doubt. Start by Recognizing the effects of self-doubt on your growth mindset: Excessive self-doubt can lead to negative thinking patterns and limit your ability to achieve success. It can also lead to anxiety and depression, as well as interfering with interpersonal relationships. Self-doubt can impact work performance and productivity. The truth is that self-doubt doesn't go away. We simply learn how to deal with it better so we can achieve our goals and live our best life. Learn to Embrace Your Self-Doubt It may sound weird, but the first step to deal with your self-doubt is to embrace it. In other words, when you have self-doubt simply acknowledge it. Don't beat yourself for having doubts about yourself and your abilities. Having self-doubts is normal – we all have them. It's what makes us real and what makes us humans. So, accept that sometimes you will doubt yourself. Instead of being reactive and trying to run away from it by distracting yourself – embrace it. In so doing, you will not waste your time, energy and motivation trying to avoid it. Embracing your self-doubt allows you to refocus your energy and fully concentrate on your goals. A Key is to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others. "The only person you should try to be better than is who you were yesterday"– Unknown. I understand that it is easier to compare yourself to others but doing so is one of the reasons why we struggle with insecurities. Comparing yourself to others leads to self-doubt…it causes it. So, an effective way to deal with self-doubt is to compare yourself only to YOU. In other words, compare yourself to who you were yesterday to see how far you have come. For instance: suppose you started your Business 4 month ago. Instead of comparing your success to someone who is further ahead of you, compare your success to when you first started. When you assess your progress, don't forget to celebrate your small wins. As Stefan James says, ‘what gets rewarded, gets repeated'. GAP vs GAIN by Dan Sullivan. Build Your Self-Confidence to Overcome Doubt To build confidence you need to remember, it is important to be accepting of your mistakes and failures, as they are part of the learning process. Also try practicing positive self-talk and daily affirmations can also be helpful. You can make lots of simple choices to build your self-confidence. Just as there are many ways to strengthen your body, there are ways you can increase your resolve by setting small goals, making healthier choices, nurturing your spirit, and finding support. Here are just a few: Break free of self-sabotaging thoughts and behavior patterns. Expand your knowledge, skills, and experiences. Become physically, mentally, and spiritually healthier. Deepen interpersonal relationships. Most of our doubts, lack of confidence and even imposture syndrome comes from negative thinking and thoughts patterns we have established over time. Tips for overcoming negative thinking patterns which cause doubt: Learn to Identify Thought Distortions. Our minds have their clever way of convincing us of something that isn't actually true. These faulty thoughts reinforce negative thinking. Counter Negative Thoughts with Positive Affirmations. Positive affirmations can be used in a number of different ways. ... Avoid External Negativity. Take steps to avoid things or people in your life that hurt the way you think and feel. Take a Break. One way to separate yourself from negativity is to allow yourself a specified period (no more or less than 10 minutes) with the negative thought. Practice Feeling Grateful. Research shows that feeling grateful has a positive influence on your levels of happiness. Focus on Your Strength. The more you try to focus on your strengths instead of dwelling on mistakes you've made in the past, the easier it will be to overcome negative thinking. Seek out Professional Support. If you still have a hard time managing your thoughts and find that they are affecting your ability to meet your daily responsibilities or enjoy. Quote: "Believe in yourself, your abilities and your own potential. Never let self-doubt hold you captive. You are worthy of all that you dream of and hope for" – Roy T Bennett. I Believe that Pushing Yourself to Take Action Despite Your Self-Doubt with Help you Overcome Anything Obstacle in Your Life Quote: "If you hear a voice within you say you cannot paint, then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced" – Vincent Willem Van Gogh. Learn to take action despite your self-doubt and your self-doubt will disappear. When you take action, your doubts and insecurities you actually move towards your goals. Think about it – how many times you had doubts, but you did well anyway? By taking action you reclaim your power and you become in charge of your life. On the other hand, if you don't take action, you feel anxious and overwhelmed. So, don't sell yourself short because of your self-doubts. Instead, learn to focus on the present moment, embrace your doubts and ask yourself ‘what small action I can take today to move towards my goals?'. Then, simply take that action. In so doing, you are not engaging in negative self-talk about something, but you are actually doing this thing. And as you act despite your doubts you feel more confident, empowered, motivated and happy. Make sense? Finally, It's Important You Sharpen your Skills & Mastery of Your Trade Often, when you don't know how to achieve something the voice of your self-doubt is louder. In other words, the lack of clarity and competence leads to self-doubt, less confidence and inaction. So, having clarity and competence is vital if you want to deal with self-doubt. When you don't have clarity on what skills you need, simply think of your goal and identify the key steps that you need to take to achieve it. If you struggle to identify what needs to be done research what successful people in that area are doing and follow their steps. Once you know what needs to be done you can make a plan of action to develop your skills. If you need to acquire new skills to achieve your goal, be willing to learn those skills. In other words, have a learning mentality. Read books, watch YouTube videos, listen podcasts and audiobooks, attend seminars or sign up for a course. Whatever it is that you need to learn just take the time to do it. The more you learn, the more competent you become. And with competence comes confidence. When you are confident, you are more likely to take action and make progress regardless of your doubts. Can you see how it all ties together? Look, we all doubt ourselves and that's okay. It's what we do next that makes all the difference. I hope these tips will start helping you to identify and overcome your self-doubt each day. Self-doubt is normal, but it doesn't have to control your life. When you understand that self-doubt is just a negative thought pattern you can take steps to change it. FREE Mobile App Download APPLE or ANDROID You are a Driven, Passionate Entrepreneur and your Thoughts Create Your Life. You need on-the-go Daily Motivation, Inspiration, and Insights to Fuel your day. That's why you are part of the MASTERMIND and use the Daily Mastermind Mobile App. Apple Download https://apps.apple.com/ca/app/daily-mastermind/id1405808860 Android Download https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.app_imlmastermind.layout&hl=en_IE
We all deal with self-doubt. We question our abilities and ultimately our potential to make things happen. We say things like, ‘I am not good enough! Did I make the right decision? What if I cannot handle this?' these are all examples of self-doubt. Most of the time, we have doubts about ourselves and our capabilities when we are lacking one of two things: confidence or competence. Past experience and comparing ourselves to others also leads to self-doubt. We also experience self-doubt when we do something new and challenging or something out of our comfort zone. But when it comes to something that we never did before having doubts is normal. To some extent, self-doubt is actually useful because it helps you see what skills you need to acquire or improve to perform a certain task better But if self-doubt becomes the norm it's time for you to change that. Which brings me to a great quote…"When you doubt your power, you give power to your doubt"– Honore de Balzac. So, Let's talk about Recognizing the signs of self-doubt. Being stuck with self-doubt can prevent you from living the life you desire. Self-doubt prevents you from starting the business you would love to, pursuing your passion, not applying for the amazing job promotion you think you deserve. You get the idea. So, self-doubt basically holds you back in life and ultimately from success. It leads to procrastination. It keeps you from taking action towards your goals and ultimately achieving them. When you have doubts you don't seize the opportunities that might be present in your life. Self-doubt can have a negative effect on your life and confidence. So, how can you deal with self-doubt and move forward…The Key is in Identifying and overcome Self Doubt. Start by Recognizing the effects of self-doubt on your growth mindset: Excessive self-doubt can lead to negative thinking patterns and limit your ability to achieve success. It can also lead to anxiety and depression, as well as interfering with interpersonal relationships. Self-doubt can impact work performance and productivity. The truth is that self-doubt doesn't go away. We simply learn how to deal with it better so we can achieve our goals and live our best life. Learn to Embrace Your Self-Doubt It may sound weird, but the first step to deal with your self-doubt is to embrace it. In other words, when you have self-doubt simply acknowledge it. Don't beat yourself for having doubts about yourself and your abilities. Having self-doubts is normal – we all have them. It's what makes us real and what makes us humans. So, accept that sometimes you will doubt yourself. Instead of being reactive and trying to run away from it by distracting yourself – embrace it. In so doing, you will not waste your time, energy and motivation trying to avoid it. Embracing your self-doubt allows you to refocus your energy and fully concentrate on your goals. A Key is to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others. "The only person you should try to be better than is who you were yesterday"– Unknown. I understand that it is easier to compare yourself to others but doing so is one of the reasons why we struggle with insecurities. Comparing yourself to others leads to self-doubt…it causes it. So, an effective way to deal with self-doubt is to compare yourself only to YOU. In other words, compare yourself to who you were yesterday to see how far you have come. For instance: suppose you started your Business 4 month ago. Instead of comparing your success to someone who is further ahead of you, compare your success to when you first started. When you assess your progress, don't forget to celebrate your small wins. As Stefan James says, ‘what gets rewarded, gets repeated'. GAP vs GAIN by Dan Sullivan. Build Your Self-Confidence to Overcome Doubt To build confidence you need to remember, it is important to be accepting of your mistakes and failures, as they are part of the learning process. Also try practicing positive self-talk and daily affirmations can also be helpful. You can make lots of simple choices to build your self-confidence. Just as there are many ways to strengthen your body, there are ways you can increase your resolve by setting small goals, making healthier choices, nurturing your spirit, and finding support. Here are just a few: Break free of self-sabotaging thoughts and behavior patterns. Expand your knowledge, skills, and experiences. Become physically, mentally, and spiritually healthier. Deepen interpersonal relationships. Most of our doubts, lack of confidence and even imposture syndrome comes from negative thinking and thoughts patterns we have established over time. Tips for overcoming negative thinking patterns which cause doubt: Learn to Identify Thought Distortions. Our minds have their clever way of convincing us of something that isn't actually true. These faulty thoughts reinforce negative thinking. Counter Negative Thoughts with Positive Affirmations. Positive affirmations can be used in a number of different ways. ... Avoid External Negativity. Take steps to avoid things or people in your life that hurt the way you think and feel. Take a Break. One way to separate yourself from negativity is to allow yourself a specified period (no more or less than 10 minutes) with the negative thought. Practice Feeling Grateful. Research shows that feeling grateful has a positive influence on your levels of happiness. Focus on Your Strength. The more you try to focus on your strengths instead of dwelling on mistakes you've made in the past, the easier it will be to overcome negative thinking. Seek out Professional Support. If you still have a hard time managing your thoughts and find that they are affecting your ability to meet your daily responsibilities or enjoy. Quote: "Believe in yourself, your abilities and your own potential. Never let self-doubt hold you captive. You are worthy of all that you dream of and hope for" – Roy T Bennett. I Believe that Pushing Yourself to Take Action Despite Your Self-Doubt with Help you Overcome Anything Obstacle in Your Life Quote: "If you hear a voice within you say you cannot paint, then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced" – Vincent Willem Van Gogh. Learn to take action despite your self-doubt and your self-doubt will disappear. When you take action, your doubts and insecurities you actually move towards your goals. Think about it – how many times you had doubts, but you did well anyway? By taking action you reclaim your power and you become in charge of your life. On the other hand, if you don't take action, you feel anxious and overwhelmed. So, don't sell yourself short because of your self-doubts. Instead, learn to focus on the present moment, embrace your doubts and ask yourself ‘what small action I can take today to move towards my goals?'. Then, simply take that action. In so doing, you are not engaging in negative self-talk about something, but you are actually doing this thing. And as you act despite your doubts you feel more confident, empowered, motivated and happy. Make sense? Finally, It's Important You Sharpen your Skills & Mastery of Your Trade Often, when you don't know how to achieve something the voice of your self-doubt is louder. In other words, the lack of clarity and competence leads to self-doubt, less confidence and inaction. So, having clarity and competence is vital if you want to deal with self-doubt. When you don't have clarity on what skills you need, simply think of your goal and identify the key steps that you need to take to achieve it. If you struggle to identify what needs to be done research what successful people in that area are doing and follow their steps. Once you know what needs to be done you can make a plan of action to develop your skills. If you need to acquire new skills to achieve your goal, be willing to learn those skills. In other words, have a learning mentality. Read books, watch YouTube videos, listen podcasts and audiobooks, attend seminars or sign up for a course. Whatever it is that you need to learn just take the time to do it. The more you learn, the more competent you become. And with competence comes confidence. When you are confident, you are more likely to take action and make progress regardless of your doubts. Can you see how it all ties together? Look, we all doubt ourselves and that's okay. It's what we do next that makes all the difference. I hope these tips will start helping you to identify and overcome your self-doubt each day. Self-doubt is normal, but it doesn't have to control your life. When you understand that self-doubt is just a negative thought pattern you can take steps to change it. FREE Mobile App Download APPLE or ANDROID You are a Driven, Passionate Entrepreneur and your Thoughts Create Your Life. You need on-the-go Daily Motivation, Inspiration, and Insights to Fuel your day. That's why you are part of the MASTERMIND and use the Daily Mastermind Mobile App. Apple Download https://apps.apple.com/ca/app/daily-mastermind/id1405808860 Android Download https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.app_imlmastermind.layout&hl=en_IE
This is a replay episode of one of our more popular episodes from January of 2021 when Rachel Cruze came on our show promoting her book that came out that very week. This episode has lots of great financial advice. It also led to my wife and I working on a budget and telling our money where to go. It was a fun conversation. You'll get a lot out of it whether you're rich, poor, or somewhere in between. Original show notes are below ... Rachel Cruze is a two-time #1 national best-selling author, financial expert, and host of The Rachel Cruze Show. Since 2010, Rachel has served at Ramsey Solutions, where she teaches people to avoid debt, save money, budget, and how to win with money at any stage in life. She's authored three best-selling books, including Love Your Life, Not Theirs, and Smart Money Smart Kids, which she co-wrote with her father, Dave Ramsey. Her latest book is Know Yourself, Know Your Money: Discover WHY You Handle Money the Way You Do and WHAT to Do About It. Follow Rachel on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube or online at rachelcruze.com. In today's episode, we discuss: Growing up the daughter of Dave Ramsey How to win with money Why budgeting isn't such a bad word Tips for credit card spending Advice for parents ... and so much more!!! Resources, Books, and Links Website: RachelCruze.com Facebook: Facebook.com/rachelramseycruze Twitter: @RachelCruze Instagram: @RachelCruze YouTube Channel: YouTube.com/user/RachelCruze The Rachel Cruze Show: Rachelcruze.com/show Ramsey Solutions: DaveRamsey.com Financial Peace for Kids: Daveramsey.com/store/juniors-adventures Articles of Interest . . . Money and Marriage: 7 Tips for a Healthy Relationship How to Save Money Each Month Impulse Buying: Why We Do It and How to Stop How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others Two-Time National Best-Selling Author Rachel Cruze Releases New Book to Help Readers Understand the Why Behind Their Money Choices Dave Ramsey's 7 "Baby Steps" to Financial Freedom Past "Success is a Choice" podcast episodes of interest . . . Laura Gassner Otting (Author of "Limitless") - Episode 125 Jon Gordon (author of "The Energy Bus") - Episode 100 Melissa Agnes (Crisis Preparedness Expert) - Episode 091 Bernard Robichaud (Trailer Park Boys) - Episode 086 Emily Chapman Richards (Show Hope) - Episode 075 Ken Coleman (host of the Entre Leadership podcast) - Episode 072 Michael Catt (Pastor & Producer of "Facing the Giants") - Episode 049 Kevin Harrington (original shark on "Shark Tank") - Episode 024 Rachel in Action https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e-PT9poDL3E https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mL-kzZt5wCM https://youtu.be/sa8WhzcWW_A https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tYWLEqjtWys https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fiVDXJlJEsA This episode is sponsored by … The Success is a Choice podcast network is made possible by TheLeadershipPlaybook.com, which helps teach student-athletes in any sport to learn what it means to be a great teammate and positive leader. TheLeadershipPlaybook.com has hundreds of video lessons. Not only is the content relative and beneficial to a student-athlete but they are also only 2 minutes in length. Athletes can easily watch them on their phones or tablets. Great teams have great teammates and that is just what theleadershipplaybook.com teaches today's student-athletes. Right now, individual student-athletes can get 50% off a monthly or yearly subscription by using the coupon code “STUDENT” at checkout when they visit TheLeadershipPlaybook.com. - - - - - Check out the weekly virtual sessions for parents, coaches, students, and administrators at FreeLeadershipWorkshop.com. These sessions are free and cover a variety of topics. - - - - - Chin Up Chest Out is also a proud partner of the Success is a Choice podcast network. ChinUpChestOut.com is more than a great apparel brand, it's a movement. A portion of all sales of their fabulous merchandise and apparel goes to support mental health initiatives. Our listeners can get 10% off and free shipping with promo code PLAYBOOK. With the new NIL (name, image, and likeness) rules, they are looking for college athletes to be brand ambassadors. Rate and Review Please consider rating the podcast with 5 stars and leaving a quick review on iTunes. Ratings and reviews are the lifeblood of a podcast. This helps tremendously in bringing the podcast to the attention of others. Thanks again for listening and remember that “Success is a choice. What choice will you make today?” Jamy Bechler is the author of The Leadership Playbook, host of the Success is a Choice Podcast, professional speaker, and trains organizations on creating championship cultures. Bechler spent 20 years as a college basketball coach and administrator. He has worked with businesses and teams, including the NBA. Follow him on twitter at @CoachBechler. To connect with him via email or find out about his services, please contact speaking@CoachBechler.com. You can also subscribe to his insights on success and leadership by clicking here.
Nami Clarke refined her magic toolkit of copywriting, sales, and content strategy running a photography studio for 10 years in one of Melbourne's fancy postcodes. Today, through her workshops, signature course and 1:1 support - she helps digital course creators worldwide create more profitable launches with less stress. Nami's written work has been published by Mamamia, Elephant Journal, Huntington Post, and more... but nobody likes a bragger. She lives in Bendigo, Australia. Today we will be discussing the book Comparisonitis: How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others and be Genuinely Happy by Melissa Ambrosini. This is your warning that we may share some spoilers. Grab the book here: https://a.co/97N5LCL In this episode we talk about: [3:30] Nami's thoughts on Comparisonitis [4:20] How to use social media appropriately [9:10] Learning the importance of feeling your feelings [14:30] Compare or get inspired [18:40] Attitude of gratitude to diminish comparisonitis [22:02] 10 symptoms to look out for [28:02] Eliminate toxic people from your life [30:17] Let go of the timeline in your head [32:47] What we would want to ask the Author [39:52] Connect with Name Clarke Connect with Nami: Instagram @namiclarke Facebook @namiclarkecopywriter LinkedIn Connect with Sara: Instagram @saramayerconsulting Facebook @saracmayerconsulting LinkedIn @saramayerconsulting
Confused to College Ready Podcast: Unlocking the Secrets to Your College Search
Teddy Roosevelt said ‘comparison is the thief of joy.” Today, I want you (and your student) to stop comparing yourself to others! All too often in my work, I have seen teenagers compare themselves to others. The comparison game is a dangerous one. It impacts mental health, self-image, and how students see themselves. As each semester ends, one of the most common things I hear is “What is my new GPA, and what is my new class rank after grades were finalized?”. Another common topic of discussion is “What was your score on your test–and that's a standardized test – AP, SAT, PSAT, ACT, etc. We're going to dive into ways students compare, why this is something we don't want students to do and how we can encourage students to stop the comparison game. This show is for the confused college applicant and family to learn simple and effective strategies to help you find the BEST college for your student while having positive conversations. This will turn you into the College Ready applicant and family so you can be confident with your next steps and your choice of college! Please subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! Here are a few episodes you might be interested in:Episode 9 Now is the BEST Time to Start Your College SearchEpisode 15 Rules for Email Etiquette: Making the Best First ImpressionEpisode 26 How to Find a Career that is Right for MeEpisode 27 Your Path to College is Not One Size Fits AllYou can also download our free guide on How to Start or Expand Your College Search here. I'm Courtney Kountz and I'm looking forward to serving you and your student!
Stop comparing yourself to someone that could never match the package you present. We are all unique and special in our own outright. We all possess one thing that no one in this entire universe will. And that is what makes us necessary... @ThatGoodolFeelin · Episode #126 - Proven Ways to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others Read more The post Episode #126 – Proven Ways to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others appeared first on That Good ol Feelin.
How to: STOP Comparing Yourself to others!
10. No Need to Compare In episode 6 I talked about imposter syndrome; today's episode is the continuation of the review of all the impostor syndrome types that were discussed in my book The Visibility Factor. This episode going to focus on the third type of impostor syndrome: Image Judger (a.k.a) someone in comparison. In this episode: Everyone compares themselves to others at one time or another. What does someone who is an image judger look and feel like? Discussion of an article by Joshua Becker called: A Helpful Guide to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others. Ask yourself these key questions to build awareness of where you are judging your image against other people. How much time is wasted on comparison? Suggestions to stop focusing on comparison and instead focus on your own successes. Resources: Click here to listen to Episode 6 – "Fear and Impostor Syndrome." Click here to read "A Helpful Guide to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others" by Joshua Becker. Click here to read "How to Stop Comparing Myself to Others on Instagram" by Tish Weinstock. Click here to buy the book Loving What Is by Byron Katie. THE VISIBILITY FACTOR WITH SUSAN M. BARBER Check out my website and the resources for The Visibility Factor book. As always, I encourage you to reach out! You can email me at hello@susanmbarber.com. You can also find me on social media everywhere –Facebook, LinkedIn, and of course on The Visibility Factor Podcast! I look forward to connecting with you! If you liked The Visibility Factor, I would be so grateful if you could subscribe and rate it where you listen to podcasts! It helps the podcast get in front of more people who can learn how to be visible too! Thank you to the team at Sheep Jam Productions for the amazing support of The Visibility Factor Podcast!
Get Lost So You Can Find Your Way Home | The Podcast-Memoir of M.K. Lott
In a heavier episode, M.K. revisits his struggles with depression and mental health and what he does to get out of those ruts. Perceived as a black cloud, M.K. experiences fits of depression, most notably during a friends' Christmas party, and does whatever he can to overcome the negative shift in mood. He uses a variety of techniques, including rephrasing personal beliefs into feelings of gratitude, using a unique kind of Tarot Card deck to heighten his intuition, and the philosophies of Will Smith in his autobiography "Will"; Viktor Frankl in his book "Man's Search for Meaning", and Campbell Walker of the YouTube channel struthless to find his way through the negative thoughts and come out better because he found suffering in the meaning. Here are the resources used in the episode: Inner Compass Cards: https://amzn.to/3w3pEZK Will: https://amzn.to/3yfdAqT Man's Search for Meaning: https://amzn.to/3KM2TyX How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others (The 5 Questions to Ask Yourself): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dxJL6sXLqRw&t=474s How to Silence the Negative Voices in Your Head: An Illustrated Guide: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yfUszzU_Tjc&t=256s --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/getlost-hypnotherapy/support
Today, we welcome Melissa Ambrosini. Melissa is a best-selling author of multiple books including Mastering Your Mean Girl and her latest release, Comparisonitis: How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others and Be Genuinely Happy. She's a TEDx speaker and host of the wildly popular podcast, The Melissa Ambrosini Show. We talk about the burden of feeling guilty for not doing enough for our children, finding within yourself the voice that is focused on your true self, learning how to take control over your inner critic, the difference between healthy and unhealthy comparison and so much more! Thanks to this episode's sponsor: Organifi: Receive 20% off your order by going to www.organifi.com/doug What to Listen For: 00:00 Intro 01:02 Things to learn in the early stages of motherhood 04:17 When you used to not believe in marriage 06:10 Your soulmate eliminates that fear of having a relationship 10:36 Let's talk about parent guilt 18:46 Your true self and your inner critic 22:10 The 4-step process to deal with your inner critic 36:57 The unhealthy comparison 46:59 Once you become healthy and happy again Episode Resources: Melissa Ambrosini | Website, Instagram, YouTube, Facebook, Twitter, Shop The Melissa Ambrosini Show Follow me on Social Media: LinkedIn Instagram Twitter
A new year brings up lots of goal setting and that r word we don't so much like to use around here (hint: it rhymes with shmesolution) Before diving into our true feels about “New year, new you!” (SPOILER ALERT: We think it's BS), we do a vibe check, discuss how we're feeling about this #10yearchallenge and play a quick THEN or NOW?! game. As much as we love a good goal/intention setting moment, we're not fans of the pressure the new year tends to place on us, as a collective. In this episode we dive into the importance and truth in how YOU are you to your core, which is a beautiful thing! You've always been enough, and had the divine knowing of all that's true within yourself (hi intuition, how tf are ya?) over time societal norms like, “becoming a NEW/BETTER YOU in January” has clouded our ability to see our knowing! We hope you're off to a happy and healthy start to 2022 and this episode reminds you of how wonderful you are simply because you're YOU & you're HERE! Credit where credit is due, boo! 3 Reasons to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others, Psychology Today https://www.google.ca/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/bouncing-back/201508/3-reasons-stop-comparing-yourself-others%3famp Happy, Netflix We Can Do Hard Things podcast by Glennon Doyle