The Soul's Work Podcast

Join Gloria Eid (writer, poet, leadership coach, and grief movement guide) and host Janice Ho for a conversation on grieving – whether it's the grief we feel when losing a loved one, doing our trauma-healing work, or being impacted by the collective suffering we see in the world. They discuss how they've each created an intimate relationship with grief, and different types of grief practices/supports that can help carry us through hard times. They also share how learning to be with grief can transform us in positive ways, including increasing our resilience and sustaining activism work. Gloria also gifts us with reading a few poems from her new book Waves: poems on grief. This episode covers:4:57 Introducing Gloria Eid8:12 Poem reading and reflection: Hoping12:13 What sparked Gloria's writings on grief (her book Waves)15:32 When grief engulfs us vs being in partnership with grief20:05 Why processing grief is important + the many supports we can access for our grief work27:22 Why the wellness industry doesn't promote grief practices more33:16 Poem reading and reflection: The Greatest TaskAllowing for happiness and joy in times of grief40:27 Finding support from nature (something bigger than us)42:00 Poem reading and reflection: Breath And On protesting and collective action54:11 Returning to “the same” grief – why can't we just move on?1:00:46 Grief in trauma-healing work1:03:41 Alchemizing grief: the other side1:06:07 Poem reading: Letter From Grief1:07:37 Grieving collective suffering + finding support1:19:20 Poem reading: For You1:20:28 How to connect with GloriaSubscribe on YouTube: @thesoulsworkpodcastRate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with Gloria Eid:Buy Waves: poems on grief on AmazonInstagram: @gloria.unlimitedWebsite: www.gloriaeid.comConnect with Janice:Instagram: @janicehoimages | @janicehocounsellingFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.com----- Janice is a therapist-in-training and not licensed to work with clients.DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for working with a professional mental health or healing practitioner.

Fellow therapist-in-training Janna Estrada shares about her journey uncovering her authentic self, from not being able to speak up for herself and being overwhelmed by big emotions to doing therapy and finding the right relationships that align with her values. Janice and Janna also chat about the transformational work they've done reparenting their inner child and working compassionately with their protective adaptations to trauma.This episode covers:Janna's life before her healing journeyThe break-up that changed Janna's pathIsolation, navigating big emotions, and feeling unsupportedReflection: Who really shows up for me?What finally pushed Janna into therapy despite the stigmaJanna's and Janice's first experiences trying therapyReparenting our child self/partsWhat supports have helped Janna to heal and growHow not being with the right people impact our self-worthIdentifying our most important values Aligning our values with our relationshipsWhere the fear of speaking up for ourselves came from (hint: childhood)Doing the internal work to make setting boundaries effectiveFinding support for our defense mechanismsSubscribe on YouTube and get episodes 1 day early!: @thesoulsworkpodcastRate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with Janna Estrada:Instagram: @jannabakesTikTok: @jannabakesConnect with Janice:Instagram: @janicehoimages | @janicehocounsellingFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.com----- Janice is a therapist-in-training and not licensed to work with clients.DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for working with a professional mental health or healing practitioner.

Tim and Janice talk about how to keep the spark going in our romantic relationships, including what to do when our love languages aren't aligned, continuing to learn new things about our partners, and doing dates! They also discuss the importance of doing the individual work to bring our best selves into our relationships, navigating anxious and avoidant attachment dynamics, and learning to communicate transparently to deepen intimacy.Bio: Tim Johnson is the CEO and Cofounder of Couply, the app for Couples. Couply helps 300,000 couples build an incredible relationship that lasts forever, through relationship questions, couples quizzes and custom date ideas and relationship advice all based on your partner's personality.This episode covers:How the Couply app helps couples deepen their relationshipWhat to do when your love languages aren't alignedLove maps: Continuing to learn about our partners over timeDate ideas to keep the spark aliveThe ups and downs of long-term relationshipsShifting from being right and winning to being in a partnershipCommunicating transparently with each other for deeper intimacyCommunicating with your partner about your communication stylesShifting from an anxious to secure attachment styleLeaving room for messiness in relationshipsLearning to read the red flags early onSubscribe on YouTube and get episodes 1 day early!: @thesoulsworkpodcastRate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with Tim Johnson:https://www.couply.io/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/couplyappTikTok: @couplyConnect with Janice:Instagram: @janicehoimages | @janicehocounsellingFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.com----- Janice is a therapist-in-training and not licensed to work with clients.DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for working with a professional mental health or healing practitioner.

Sydney and Janice chat about how sex work can be healing and a path to reclaiming one's sensuality. They also dive into unlearning codependency and practicing polyamory, plus exploring kink and disowned parts through dom/sub play.Bio: Sydney is a chef, pleasure curator, and sex worker based in what is colonially known as Philadelphia. Sydney is a proud third generation Chinese-American non-binary human.They graduated from Emerson College in 2019 with a degree in Media Arts Production, but found their passion for food and sensuality. After many career changes, they decided to pursue culinary arts following in their grandparents' footsteps. This episode covers:Sydney's journey with being monogamish, non-monogamy + polyamoryBecoming a sex workerReclaiming sensuality through sex workPracticing boundaries in sexual relationships (and life in general!)Communicating boundaries before and during sexSex work as healing workHow sex workers can learn from polyamoryUnlearning monogamous culture + codependencyBeing a sex worker + AsianExploring ourselves through kink + dom/sub playNavigating group play + potential triggersBeing polyamorous + AsianResources mentioned:Mistress Mei: https://www.instagram.com/multiverseofmei/ Jayda: https://www.instagram.com/jayda_kissed/Michelle Hy: https://www.instagram.com/polyamorouswhileasian/Leanna Yau: https://www.instagram.com/polyphiliablog/ Subscribe on YouTube and get episodes 1 day early!: @thesoulsworkpodcastRate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with Sydney:https://sexysoupdumplings.com/https://www.eatwithlydialim.com/https://www.instagram.com/sexysoupdumplings/Connect with Janice:Instagram: @janicehoimages | @janicehocounsellingFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.com----- Janice is a therapist-in-training and not licensed to work with clients.DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for working with a professional mental health or healing practitioner.

Janice shares her process of how she made it to 3 years alcohol free after struggling with alcohol dependency for many years. She and her guest host Janna Estrada discuss the top 5 things that supported Janice in her alcohol-free journey.This episode covers:Drinking culture and talking openly about drinking5 things that helped Janice go alcohol free:1. Learning the neuroscience of addiction2. Unlearning beliefs about the benefits of alcohol3. Removing triggers to drinking4. Turning to community for support5. Doing the trauma-healing workGetting to 1 year alcohol freeWill Janice ever drink again?Resources mentioned:This Naked Mind (Annie Grace): https://thisnakedmind.com/ (Please note that the course This Naked Mind Intensive mentioned in the episode is no longer available. The Path program by This Naked Mind may be the closest alternative.)The Soul's Work Podcast episodes mentioned:My Drinking Story: https://www.thesoulsworkpodcast.com/s1-ep11-my-drinking-story/ Season 2 Introduction: https://www.thesoulsworkpodcast.com/s2-ep1-season-2-introduction/ Why It's So Hard to Stop Drinking: https://www.thesoulsworkpodcast.com/s2-e3-why-its-so-hard-to-stop-drinking/ Subscribe on YouTube and get episodes 1 day early!: @thesoulsworkpodcastRate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with Janice:Instagram: @janicehoimages | @janicehocounsellingFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastConnect with Janna:Instagram: @jannabakesListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.com----- Janice is a therapist-in-training and not licensed to work with clients.DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for working with a professional mental health or healing practitioner.

Sheena Yap Chan and Janice discuss why Asian representation and healing intergenerational trauma are important in building self-confidence. They also talk about racism in Canada and how they gave up parts of themselves to assimilate to Western culture. They share ways we can reconnect with our Asian culture and tap into community to nourish our authenticity and need for support.Bio: Sheena Yap Chan is a keynote speaker, podcaster, consultant, and author on building self-confidence. She currently inspires women through her award-winning podcast called The Tao of Self-Confidence where she interviews Asian women about their inner journey to self-confidence. Her mission is to help Asian Women boost their confidence to live their authentic selves, help Asian Women create a voice in the world, and create a stronger representation for Asian women. Sheena has been featured on MindValley, slice.ca, Marketing in Asia, Manila Times and more. She is also the TOP 100 Filipinos to follow on LinkedIn for inspiration and learning in 2020. She is also the co-author of the International bestselling book Asian Women Who Boss Up. Sheena will be releasing a book with Wiley called The Tao of Self-Confidence: A Guide to Moving Beyond Trauma and Awakening the Leader Within in May 2023.This episode covers:Sheena's journey to self-confidenceWhy Asian representation mattersQuestioning cultural standardsHealing intergenerational + historical traumaRacism in CanadaGiving up parts of ourselves to assimilate to Western cultureReconnecting with Asian cultureGetting support from communityResources mentioned:The Tao of Self-Confidence: A Guide to Moving Beyond Trauma and Awakening the Leader Within (Sheena Yap Chan) https://sheenayapchan.com/thetaoofselfconfidence Noona's Noonchi: https://noonasnoonchi.com/ Subscribe on YouTube and get episodes 1 day early!: @thesoulsworkpodcastRate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with Sheena Yap Chan:https://taplink.cc/sheena.yap.chan https://taplink.cc/thetaoofselfconfidence https://sheenayapchan.com/thetaoofselfconfidence Connect with Janice:Instagram: @janicehoimages | @janicehocounsellingFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.com----- Janice is a therapist-in-training and not licensed to work with clients.DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for working with a professional mental health or healing practitioner.

In this age of insta-everything, it can be tempting to chase the next quick healing fix and spiritual high. But Janice and her guest denise chang discuss a more sustainable approach to healing trauma that involves working with the body; reconnecting with our erotic power; resourcing our ancestors, nature, and animals; and working with our child parts.They also share how practicing solo polyamory and relationship anarchy has helped them both move away from codependent relationships and build secure attachment with themselves and others.Bio: denise is a somatic trauma resolution practitioner, erotic movement arts facilitator, and intuitive energy healer. their work focuses on the cultivation of erotic power and the healing of intergenerational trauma through the body ecology modality. as an immigrant of taoist malaysian chinese descent and solo-polyamorist, denise brings together their wisdom of nervous system attunement and animist perspectives to offer deep healing and collective liberation. CW: Mention of experiencing sexual harmThis episode covers:Working with the body to heal trauma Experiencing shame before embodimentSelf-compassion + resourcing “something bigger”Spirituality + limitations of Western healingErotic power + sexualityErotic power danceSolo polyamory: building secure attachmentUnlearning codependency through relationship anarchyUnlearning mononormativity + “the relationship escalator”The commercialization of healing workAccessing joyResources mentioned:Rachel MaddoxDr. Rocío Rosales MezaAudre Lorde's essay “Uses of the Erotic”Amber McZeal (Ancestral Lineage Healing)Rooted Global VillageSubscribe on YouTube and get episodes 1 day early!: @thesoulsworkpodcastRate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with denise chang:Instagram: @denisehuimingWebsite: www.denisehuiming.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimages | @janicehocounsellingFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.com----- Janice is a therapist-in-training and not licensed to work with clients.DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for working with a professional mental health or healing practitioner.

Janice kicks off Season 4 of The Soul's Work Podcast by introducing herself to new listeners, reflecting on the podcast's journey, and sharing what we'll be getting deep and vulnerable about this season.We cover:Who is Janice? (Her social identities)Why she started the podcastWhat is the light work? The shadow work?About Season 1About Season 2About Season 3What topics we're discussing in Season 4Connect with JaniceSubscribe on YouTube and get episodes 1 day early!: @thesoulsworkpodcastRate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimages | @janicehocounsellingFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.com

Janice and her guest Trang Pham continue their conversation about integrating the self-development and therapy work into the messiness of real life and relationships—when it's the hardest to access our tools, practices, and grounding! They discuss important aspects of this integration work, including: initiating hard conversationsbeing transparent about our processnavigating our (and others') uncomfortable feelings when shifting to new patternsintegrating the "light work" without spiritually bypassingbeing in our protective mechanisms when neededallowing ourselves to be in joy, rest, and "doing nothing"grievingreaching outJanice and Trang close out the episode with their intentions and goals for 2023.Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimages | @janicehocounsellingFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comConnect with Trang:Instagram: @mindfulwonderlust

Janice and her guest Trang Pham get on the mic for a special episode about integrating the self-development and therapy work into the messiness of real life and relationships—when it's the hardest to access our tools, practices, and grounding! They discuss five big aspects of this integration work: being aware that we've just gotten activated, self-regulating, understanding which wounded parts of us have been triggered and caring for them while taking responsibility for how our protective responses might create disconnection or harm in our relationships, accessing compassion, and setting boundaries. Before the conversation, Janice recaps some of her notable moments of 2022.Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimages | @janicehocounsellingFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comConnect with Trang:Instagram: @mindfulwonderlust

Janice and her guest Arys Déjan (host of The Who and How Club Podcast) close out Season 3 with a deep conversation on love and relationships, including how they've upped their standards for letting someone into their life since working on themselves, and contending with the aloneness that can come along with raising the bar. They also share their experiences doing therapy and taking a break from doing the self-work to integrate the skills and lessons learned into real life. Before the conversation, Janice reflects on Season 3 and shares her vision for what's coming up in Season 4.Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimages | @janicehocounsellingFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comConnect with Arys:Website: www.whohowclub.comFacebook: @whohowclubInstagram: @whohowclub | @only1arys

In this episode, Janice and her guest Kyria Marie (holistic nutritional consultant & health coach) discuss the connection between trauma/mental health issues and chronic health problems. Kyria shares about the transformative work she does with clients, taking both a science-based and "ancient wisdom" approach to healing. Janice and Kyria also discuss the potential impacts of intergenerational trauma on health and the agency we have in influencing our genes, as well as the importance of grieving. Before the conversation, Janice shares some of the research connecting trauma to physical illnesses, as well as the need to look beyond individual factors in what makes us "healthy" and "well."Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimages | @janicehocounsellingFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comConnect with Kyrie Marie:Website: www.kyriahealth.comFacebook: @kyriahealthInstagram: @kyriahealthEmail: info@kyriahealth.com

Janice shares what has been the most transformative approach for her in healing trauma and changing lifelong patterns. In Part 2 of this episode, she discusses: Why we may need our body's participation in healing traumaReconnecting to our body's internal experience to unlearn patternsIncreasing our capacity for self-regulation through co-regulationGetting curious about our protective adaptations to traumaTending to our core wounds and reconnecting with split-off emotions and parts of ourselvesSomatic Internal Family Systems Therapy: healing the anxious-attachment woundThe role of relationship in healingOther pros of body-mind-relational therapiesWhy focusing only on the body may not be enough to healTransformative outcomes of doing the healing work CW: Experiences and impacts of trauma. Please take care as you listen.Rate & review the podcast on: Apple Podcasts | Podchasers | Spotify | WebsiteConnect with me:IG: @janicehoimages | @janicehocounsellingFB: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all TSWP episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comResources mentioned:Healing Developmental Trauma (Laurence Heller & Aline LaPierre)The Practical Guide for Healing Developmental Trauma (Laurence Heller & Brad Kammer)Somatic Internal Family Systems Therapy (Susan McConnell)"[Ep. 23] Co-Regulation | Luis Mojica & Guests" (Holistic Life Navigation Podcast) "[Ep. 105] Building Capacity For Healing w/ Eileen Knott" (Holistic Life Navigation Podcast)"Healing Trauma (Pt 1): What is Trauma + How My Healing Journey Started” (TSWP)  “Healing Trauma (Pt 3): Getting Triggered (Why Can't We Just Leave the Past in the Past?)” (TSWP) “Healing Trauma (Pt 4): Doing Therapy” (TSWP)"Letting Anger Come Out of the Corner" (The Soul's Work Blog)"Healing Through Breathwork and Somatic Internal Family Systems Therapy" (The Soul's Work Blog)Also see:"The Missing Piece: Healing Trauma through Somatic and Mind-Body Therapies" (The Soul's Work Blog)The Heart of Trauma (Bonnie Badenoch)

Janice shares what has been the most transformative approach for her in healing trauma and changing lifelong patterns. In Part 1 of this episode, she discusses: 5 core needs that, when not met, can result in developmental trauma (+ Janice's personal experiences with early trauma)The distress cycle of trauma: top-down + bottom-up processesHow trauma impacts the mind and bodyThe big missing link in healing: integrating both the mind + body (+ relationship)How our mind can help in healing traumaThought-based approaches in the wellness world that may not be helpful Seeing our trauma patterns as protective vs dysfunctionalWhy focusing only on the mind may not be enough to healCW: Experiences and impacts of trauma (esp. developmental trauma). Please take care as you listen.Rate & review the podcast on: Apple Podcasts | Podchasers | Spotify | www.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:IG: @janicehoimagesFB: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all TSWP episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comResources mentioned:Healing Developmental Trauma (Laurence Heller & Aline LaPierre)“From the Abandonment Wound to Connection (Pt 1) (w/Steve LeBlanc)” (TSWP) “From the Abandonment Wound to Connection (Pt 2) (w/Steve LeBlanc)” (TSWP) "Dr. Laurence Heller in Conversation with Dr. Gabor Maté on Complex Trauma and the Future of Trauma-Informed Care" (Transforming Trauma Podcast)"Healing Trauma (Pt 1): What is Trauma + How My Healing Journey Started” (TSWP)  "Healing Trauma (Pt 2): What Causes Trauma + Why Trauma Isn't Just About Negative Thoughts" (TSWP) “Doing the Work: From Anxious to Secure Attachment in Relationships (w/Melissa Vona)” (TSWP) “Healing Trauma (Pt 3): Getting Triggered (Why Can't We Just Leave the Past in the Past?)” (TSWP) “Healing Trauma (Pt 4): Doing Therapy” (TSWP)"Body and mind with Hakomi Therapy, a way to self discovery" (Engler og Hormoner Podcast)The Heart of Trauma (Bonnie Badenoch)

In this special birthday episode, Janice and her special guest interviewer (her almost 1-year partner, a.k.a. Sugar) sit down to reflect on Janice's life and path ahead as she turns the big 4-0. Janice answers:What makes you happy?Are there such thing as happy coincidences in life? What scares you? And will you meet that fear face to face one day?What's been rewarding and challenging about navigating polyamory?What's one thing you did in your past relationships that you'd change?What role does sex play in your life? What does it do for you, and what do you bring to it?How does Sugar factor into your life? What part does he play?Why did you decide to become a therapist?What would you tell a younger version of yourself based on what you know now?Does turning 40 scare you? How do you approach aging in general? (Including how Janice grapples with beauty standards)What's on your bucket list?If you could see into the future, what's one thing you'd want to see?Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.com

Are you feeling the weight of the seemingly endless and senseless tragedies of today's world? Are you wanting to stay informed and contribute to change but find it hard to not disconnect after hearing about yet another mass shooting? In this episode, Janice shares about the grief, despair, anger, and rage (amidst moments of levity and joy) she's been experiencing these days and what's helped her to cope and cultivate enough resilience to stay engaged without becoming overwhelmed (understanding that it's always a WIP!). She also shares about why issues of social justice matter so deeply to her, including how her past struggles shaped her perspectives on what doing the “self-work” and coming back into wholeness really means.CW: Topics of intergenerational, complex, and structural trauma are discussed in this episode as well as brief mentions of some of the recent tragic happenings in the world. Please take care of yourself as you listen in. Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comResources mentioned in this episode:My Grandmother's Hands, Resmaa MenakemLeesa Renee Hall (Patreon): https://www.patreon.com/innerfieldtrip Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez (Instagram): @AOC | May 25, 2022 IG Live Lama Rod Owens (Instagram): @lamarodofficial | Tending to Our Grief through Love and Prayer IG LiveRooted Global Village: https://www.rootedglobalvillage.com/ The Wild Edge of Sorrow, Francis WellerPodcast editing:Many thanks to Dexter Charles for his great work editing this episode! Please reach out to Dexter for inquiries if you're also needing help with podcast editing: Telegram: +1 758-730-3677Email: samarian16@gmail.com

Janice and her guest (also dating partner) Steve LeBlanc get vulnerable chatting about how early abandonment trauma has impacted their later relationships and capacity for connection. In part 2 of their conversation, they dive into:Integrating the inner work into relationshipsHealing from infidelitySteve's greater self-awareness of his triggers in present-day situationsExperiencing secure attachment and freedom in a consensually non-monogamous relationshipDeveloping a safe container to be present (and just be) in the relationshipHealing sexual trauma and unlearning patterns in relationshipHow Steve's earlier sexual experiences led to repressing his needs and being performative in later relationshipsThe differences Steve has experienced between having sex with men versus womenA spontaneous, real-time moment of processing between Steve and Janice about Steve's internalized belief that women don't want him sexuallyA mutually healing sexual experience between Janice and SteveThe need for both clear communication and an understanding of the nuanced power dynamics in heterosexual relationshipsSteve's understanding of his privileges and some ways he's developed empathyWhat Steve hopes for going forward with connection and loveRate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comConnect with Steve LeBlanc:Instagram: @steve_leblanc

Janice and her guest (also dating partner) Steve LeBlanc get vulnerable chatting about how early abandonment trauma has impacted their later relationships and capacity for connection. In part 1 of their conversation, they dive into:The research on how impaired connection in early childhood can lead to the abandonment woundThe impacts of Steve's early relationships with his parents on his self-identity and later relationshipsExperiencing co-dependency, anxious attachment, and low self-esteemHow the stories Steve told himself didn't reflect realityBecoming a “chameleon” to fit in and be likedTaking on (and perpetuating) the “lone wolf” identity to protect against the fear of rejection and abandonment Doing the work to shift from abandonment trauma to connectionBecoming conscious of the stories and self-beliefs of unbelonging and abandonmentBecoming the good parent/guide for ourselves that we always neededRate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comConnect with Steve LeBlanc:Instagram: @steve_leblanc

Janice and her guest Hari Alexandra, a coach who helps women heal trauma, share about how their experiences of childhood trauma have impacted their adult relationships, their 4-year healing journeys, and the process of integrating the inner work into relationships in everyday life. The conversation dives into:Hari's and Janice's childhood relationships with their fathers and anger Hari's experience with energy healing (how it helped and why it was limited)How Hari's and Janice's experiences of childhood trauma led to people pleasing and anxious/avoidant tendencies in their adult relationships The spiritual experience in Thailand that started Hari on her 4-year trauma-healing path and led to Hari holding space for others to heal What are the third eye, chakras, and channeling?Hari's coaching work helping women heal trauma and improve their romantic relationshipsHari's and Janice's personal work healing their feminine wounds and cultivating deeper friendships with other womenHealing their relationship to the masculine, including with sexLearning how to work through conflict and be held in relationships Integrating the inner work into the messiness of real-life relationships Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comConnect with Hari Alexandra:Website: www.sacredflute.orgInstagram: @sacred_flute

In this episode, Janice and her guest Youhjung Son, an art therapist and business coach, demystify what art psychotherapy (or "art therapy" for short) is, and how it helps people tap into their inner world in powerful ways that talk therapy can sometimes miss. Youhjung also talks about her coaching work helping budding art therapists make a career out of this practice, and Janice shares about her experience getting a "taste" of art therapy through Youhjung's online exercises.Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comConnect with Youhjung Son:Website: www.thirstyforart.comYouTube: @thirstyforartInstagram: @thirstyforartofficialPodcast: Thirsty For Art - Art Therapist Podcast Resources mentioned in this episode:"Art for Anxiety | Self Art Therapy Activity Session" (Thirsty For Art, YouTube)

In this episode, Janice shares about some of her personal experiences exploring polyamory (solo polyamory, more specifically) over the past few months. She defines what consensual non-monogamy, polyamory, and solo polyamory are to get us on the same playing field, then answers the most common questions and/or misperceptions she gets when telling others about her new way of doing relationships, including:Why did you decide to explore polyamory?Solo polyamory sounds like dating with no commitment.How many people would you be seeing at one time?What if you want more (from your already married partner)? Don't you ever get jealous?Maybe you just haven't found the right one yet.You must have gotten really hurt in relationships to be doing this.Wow, it sounds complicated.Is polyamory easier or harder than monogamy?Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comResources mentioned in this episode:Polysecure (Jessica Fern)Off the Relationship Escalator: Uncommon Love and Life website (Amy Gahran)  Solo Polyamory Facebook Group“10 Common (But Annoying) Questions About Solo Polyamory” (Roselyn Thomas, Loving Solo) Also check out:@polyamorouswhileasian (Instagram) @polyphiliablog (Instagram)  Happy Polydays PodcastThere are so many more resources I could list here, but just do a search and go down the rabbit hole of education – there's so much out there!

In this episode, Janice and her guest Gwendolyn Dolske (philosophy professor and host of the Good Is In The Details Podcast) discuss the current "intimacy recession" among young people that is not only keeping individuals from experiencing pleasureful sex, but also placing them in risky situations. They share about their own experiences of learning how to bring more intimacy into their relationships and discovering what turns them on, from erotic novels to BDSM. And they talk about the harmful impacts of denying our young people nuanced sex education and open, honest conversations about sex and intimacy.  Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comConnect with Gwendolyn Dolske:Instagram: @goodisinthedetailspod  Instagram: @profdolske Podcast: Good Is In The Details Podcast  What we talk about on this episode:What is philosophy and how does it shape our lives?Gwendolyn's philosophy course on sex and love The current sex and intimacy “recession” among young peopleWhat's missing: knowing our own bodies and pleasure firstThe taboo of masturbation for girlsGwendolyn's personal path to discovering intimacy and pleasureful sexThe disconnect between how young men behave vs. how they really feel about intimacyThe phenomenon of young women giving sexual favors just to end a dateHow men are also harmed living in a heterosexual, mysognistic cultureHow BDSM can give people the space to explore different sides of their sexuality, including submissiveness for menHow consent and open conversations actually enhance your sex lifeWhat Gwendolyn has learned from her studentsResources mentioned in this episode:The Second Sex, Simone de BeauvoirThe Symposium, Plato“WHY ARE YOUNG PEOPLE HAVING SO LITTLE SEX?” (Kate Julian, The Atlantic) "How To Be A FemDom" (Good Is In The Details Podcast)Overthink Podcast“What young women believe about their own sexual pleasure” (Peggy Ornstein, TEDWomen 2016)  For Brown Girls with Sharp Edges and Tender Hearts: A Love Letter to Women of Color (Prisca Dorcas Mojica Rodriguez)  

In this eposide, Janice explains why is the body so important in healing trauma. She also shares some body-based (somatic) practices that can help us build a foundation for addressing trauma and coming back to our "whole selves" by:expanding our capacity to be aware of and stay with our body's internal physical sensations and emotions – however uncomfortable; reducing hypervigilance; staying curious and open to our environment and the people around us; andnoticing more easily when we move out of alignment with our grounded, authentic selves.Over time, we can build the capacity to handle more of the emotional charge when diving deeper into healing trauma, walk away from harmful situations earlier, be more present in the moment, and feel more alive in our bodies.Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comEarlier episodes in the Healing Trauma series:Pt 1: What is Trauma + How My Journey Started (S2, EP6)Pt 2: What Causes Trauma + Why Trauma Isn't Just About Negative Thoughts (S2, EP7)Pt 3: Getting Triggered (Why Can't We Just Leave the Past in the Past?) (S2, EP8)Pt 4: Doing Therapy (S2, EP9)Resources mentioned in this episode:“The Missing Piece: Healing Trauma through Somatic and Mind-Body Therapies” (The Soul's Work Blog)  Yoga Nidra (Insight Timer App)Somatic Internal Family Systems Therapy (Susan McConnell)Coming to Our Senses (Jon Kabat-Zinn)My Grandmother's Hands (Resmaa Menakem)Awaken to the World Alive! mindfulness course (Rooted Global Village)"Orienting as a resource" Drop-In Class with Irene, February 20, 2021 (Irene Lyon)Grounded dancing (Joy-Marie Thompson)Tending the Roots Festival, April 6–9, 2022 (Rooted Global Village)"Liberate Your Soul's Voice Through Song" workshop (Thorald & Isaac Koren, The Shift Network)"Singing is For Everyone: Technologies of Liberation" (Eli Conley, Rooted Global Village)

In this episode, Janice and her guest Erica Wiederlight (sexual empowerment and dating coach) discuss practices for exploring our own pleasure (it's probably not what you think), how to be more in tune with our bodies and less in our heads, and being with the confronting bits that often come up in our exploration of pleasure. Erica also shares about the transformative coaching work she does to help clients navigate the often unfamiliar (sometimes scary) journey of getting in touch with what pleasure means to them. This is not a surface-level conversation about pleasure and embodiment. The nuance in this rich convo is sure to make you think about exploring pleasure in new ways! Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comConnect with Erica Wiederlight:Website: www.wethelight.orgInstagram: @wethelight_llcPodcast: Welcome to the WiederlifeBook your complimentary session with Erica here: https://wethelightschedule.as.me/schedule.php

We're kicking off Season 3 of the podcast by reconnecting with our souls! Janice and her guest Allyn Reid (founder of WooManity, a soul leadership development hub) discuss Allyn's work helping business leaders who have “tried everything” but hit a wall to shift toward running their business (and life) from a soul-led place. And Allyn shares how we all can begin the slow but transformative work of tuning into our soul so we can get out of autopilot mode and live with greater purpose and authenticity.Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comConnect with Allyn Reid:Website: https://www.woomanity.com/ Instagram: @woomanity | @thewomanbeingFacebook: @TheWooManity  Or just google “Allyn Reid”Shownotes:00:00: Kicking off Season 3 of the podcast!01:28: What's in store for Season 302:14: Support the podcast by reviewing and rating the podcast here: https://www.thesoulsworkpodcast.com/reviews/new/02:40: How to connect with me03:10: Allyn Reid's bio05:23: Introducing Allyn Reid06:13: What is the soul?07:39: Allyn's soul-awakening (a near-death experience)10:44: What it looks like when people aren't living life from a soul-led place15:04: Listening to the body to reconnect with the soul18:12: When it gets challenging to be still and tune into our soul22:25: Why business leaders work with Allyn in doing their own soul's work25:10: Phase 1 of the work: Resolving the ongoing patterns that aren't working29:34: Phase 2 of the work: Tapping into your own “medicine” and talents31:03: Phase 3 of the work: Honing your “gateway drug” (your original gift)35:11: How the pandemic has interrupted people running on autopilot38:21: Why our greatest potential is not in our mind and “science”43:33: Practice reconnecting with your soul: “Show me yes. Show me no.”49:46: Allyn's final words of wisdom50:40: How to connect with Allyn

In this episode, Janice wraps up Season 2 of The Soul's Work Podcast with six of her biggest lessons learned from doing the soul's work over the past four years. Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.com

In this episode, Janice closes out 2021 with a few of her big reflections on this big year – from reassessing and letting go of relationships, to exploring polyamory, to doing the vulnerable work of cultivating connection and community with others. We dive into practicing boundaries, exploring the unconventional path, doing the self-work, and of course tapping into our authentic selves. Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comResources mentioned in this episode:Thais Sky: https://www.thaissky.com/

In this episode, Janice gives a brief overview of attachment theory and the 4 attachment styles. Then she and her guest Melissa Vona share about their personal stories doing the work to move from anxiously attached tendencies to more secure attachment in relationships – including the heartbreaks, trauma-healing, deep inner reflection, and moments of self-empowerment along the journey. Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comConnect with Melissa Vona:Instagram: @forestfairyapiary Resources mentioned in this episode:@silvykhoucasian (Instagram) Diane Poole Heller (Website)Power of Attachment (Diane Poole Heller)Healing Anxious Attachment Online Course (Heirloom Counseling) Understanding Avoidant Attachment Online Course (Heirloom Counseling) Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find–and Keep–Love (Amir Levine & Rachel Heller) Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy (Jessica Fern)  "What Is Your Attachment Style? Attachment Theory, Explained" (mindbodygreen.com) 

In this episode, Janice shares her personal experiences navigating  boundaries – the good, the confusing, and the uncomfortable. First, she offers some personal examples to define what boundaries are and why they're so important. Then, she shares three big lessons from her not-always-easy journey of navigating boundaries, including: Tips for identifying our boundaries; Learning how to sit in the discomfort of setting boundaries; and Working on the deeper, underlying obstacles (e.g., repressed anger, low sense of self-worth) to practicing boundaries. CONTENT WARNING: This episode includes some mention of childhood trauma. Please see the show notes for where in the episode a more detailed description of how trauma can develop in early childhood is shared.Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comResources mentioned in this episode:Set Boundaries, Find Peace (Nedra Glover Tawwab)  @nedratawwab (Instagram) The Boundaries Program (Silvy Khoucasian & Bryan Reeves) "Sitting with Hard Feelings" (S2, EP2 | The Soul's Work Podcast) "What Are Your Core Values?" (S1, EP5 | The Soul's Work Podcast)  Prentis Hemphill @silvykhoucasian (Instagram) “Letting Anger Come Out of the Corner” (The Souls's Work Blog)  Healing Developmental Trauma (Laurence Heller & Aline LaPierre)Somatic Internal Family Systems Therapy (Susan McConnell)Get the show notes at: https://www.thesoulsworkpodcast.com/s2-ep14-navigating-boundaries-the-good-the-confusing-and-the-uncomfortable/

In this episode, Janice and her guest Chris Lam (therapist at Ride the Waves Counselling Service) talk about how therapy can help clients heal in relationships, both with the therapist and in their other relationships. They also discuss some common reasons people go to therapy, how therapy can benefit clients, and both the luck and work involved matching with the “right” therapist.Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comConnect with Chris Lam:Website: www.ridethewavescs.com Email: clam@ridethewavescs.comPhone: (647) 456-7751Show notes:00:01:34: How you can support the pod (rate + review!) and connect with me00:02:24: Who is Chris Lam?00:05:00: Chris' analogy of “riding the waves” with how we navigate both “positive and negative” emotions00:10:20: Chris' path to becoming a therapist 00:17:45: How developing a relationship vs “fixing” his clients helped Chris connect with youth in therapy00:20:02: Chris' experience working with adults in therapy + common reasons why people do therapy00:23:17: What are some benefits of counselling?00:26:18: How talking to a therapist can be different from sharing your “problems” with friends or family00:32:26: How gaining knowledge of trauma psychoeducation can help with shame + our healing process00:33:35: Differences and similarities working with youth vs adults in therapy00:37:14: Chris' experience working with “hard-to-serve” youth in the justice system00:39:49: Some ways Chris has worked toward being a more trauma-informed therapist and doing “the least harm” with clients00:44:21: How Chris navigates therapy conversations about healing childhood trauma and issues with parents00:49:55: How youth can/usually access therapy + legislation on youth and therapy (at least in Toronto)00:53:00: What can be involved in finding the right match with a therapist00:56:52: Some red flags that Janice would consider for herself in finding the right therapist00:58:53: Doing virtual therapy: yay or nay?01:02:32: How you can connect with Chris

"Life is short, so live it to the fullest." This well-known mantra can push us to want to do things bigger, better, and more of. But what if "living to the fullest" feels more like undue pressure than inspiration? What if going slow and being cautious is sometimes actually the most authentic decision for you to make?Janice gives personal examples, ranging from travel dreams to new relationships, of where the "Life is short" mantra can show up. She discusses how a lack of privilege or challenging life periods, balancing two authentic but conflicting needs, and being stuck in old patterns can bring a lot more nuance and complexity to our life decisions than simply following a sometimes inspirational but one-size-fits-all quote.Rate & review the podcast:Apple Podcasts: TSWP on Apple PodcastsPodchasers: TSWP on PodchasersTSWP Website: https://www.thesoulsworkpodcast.com/reviews/new/Connect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comResources mentioned in this episode:"Ep. 160 Life Is Short, So Forgive Often Right? Wrong." (Thais Sky, RECLAIM Podcast)Shownotes:00:00: Quick life updates + doing the shadow work02:15: The “life is short” approach (and what it means)03:27: Please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!04:53: How I live life like it's both short and long AF07:02: Two recent events that made me pause and reflect on why the “life is short” mantra isn't enough08:34: My big upcoming travel plans to Italy09:22: Why long-term solo traveling has been a life-long dream of mine11:51: Why I experienced a post-decision hangover after booking my flight13:57: What does it actually mean to execute this abstract idea of “life is short”? When lack of privilege or challenging periods in life keeps us from thriving.17:38: When we're wrestling between two conflicting feelings that both come from an authentic place. (Some context: My days of financial struggle and spending money I didn't have.)20:49: How the way I approach my finances now has been part of my trauma-healing24:15: Another great take – Thais Sky's RECLAIM Podcast episode: “Ep. 160 Life Is Short, So Forgive Often Right? Wrong”25:55: A dating example: my authentic self when experiencing an emotional attachment to someone26:58: How my desire to express and be in connection can sometimes come from an unconscious trauma response30:42: How being “cautious” doesn't necessarily equate to not living life fully31:14: An eye-opening conversation with my therapist around not feeling ready for a committed relationship33:30: When ongoing old patterns and fears keep us stuck from living our life fully36:10: How working through the root causes of those patterns can help us to more naturally choose the authentic decision  38:50: Some of my biggest “self-development” lessons: holding complexity and nuance + tapping into my intuition as a guide39:50: Living life like it's short: doing + being (being present)42:42: How to connect with me

In this episode, Janice and her dear friend Lucy Duong chat about the trauma-healing journey Lucy took after her sister completed suicide. Lucy shares about how hypnosis helped to get rid of her triggers – and how she was so inspired that she learned how to do hypnosis (as well as neuro-linguistic programming, NLP) herself!Janice and Lucy discuss why it's so important to be more aware and intentional about what's actually driving us (subconsciously) to live life in the ways we do. This convo is full of golden-nugget insights, hope, and laughs. Enjoy! Content Warning: The topic of suicide is discussed in this episode. Please take care while you listen.Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comResources mentioned in this episode:Lucy's Facebook Group: 'Organic Love' in Memory of Vivian Duong

In this episode, Janice opens up about her experiences online dating during the pandemic and shares about a recent, shitty sexual experience she had that left her feeling disgusted, ashamed, and devalued. Janice discuss how she worked through those difficult feelings (using Somatic Internal Family Systems Therapy) and the lessons she's learned since then about how she wants to authentically show up for herself in sexual relationships moving forward.Note: The term “heteronormative” was used when at least sometimes “heterosexual” was meant – hopefully you get the gist!Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comGet the show notes at: https://www.thesoulsworkpodcast.com/s2-ep10-navigating-online-dating-and-sex-after-lockdown/Resources mentioned in this episode:My blog post about Somatic Internal Family Systems Therapy: Letting Anger Come Out of the CornerDateable PodcastGirls Gotta Eat PodcastEsther PerelAlso check out:Shan Boodram"SILENT SEX QUEEN: Why aren't we talking about sex more?" (We Can Do Hard Things Podcast with Glennon Doyle)“Sexy Qs, Farewell to Faking It & Vouching for Vibrators” (We Can Do Hard Things Podcast with Glennon Doyle)

In this episode, Janice shares about her experiences doing therapy: 1) What compelled her to do therapy in the first place; 2) what it's been like to work with the different therapists she's had, including the differences doing cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) versus trauma therapy with a mind-body approach; 3) what about certain therapists turned her off or made for a not-good fit; and 4) what has been helpful in therapy and even really critical in her healing journey. Throughout the episode, Janice shares some thoughts on both the stigma and privilege around doing therapy, and acknowledges how uncomfortable it can be to start talking to a therapist! She also shares some general things to consider when exploring therapy, including her thoughts on different types of talk therapy, a therapist's effectiveness being impacted by their own personal therapy work, and building trust with a new therapist.This episode is part 4 of an ongoing series on healing trauma.*Please note that Janice is not a trauma expert or therapist, and that this series shares about her one personal experience of learning about and healing trauma.Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comGet the show notes here: https://www.thesoulsworkpodcast.com/s2-ep9-healing-trauma-part-4-doing-therapy/Resources mentioned in this episode:@traumawarecare (Instagram) Somatic Internal Family Systems Therapy (Susan McConnell)The Body Keeps the Score (Bessel van der Kolk)Ep. 150 Talk Therapy: How To Get The Help You Need Part 1 {lay of the land} (RECLAIM Podcast)Ep. 151 Talk Therapy: How To Get The Help You Need Part 2 {history + types of therapy} (RECLAIM Podcast)Ep. 152 Talk Therapy: How To Get The Help You Need Part 3 {dsm + diagnosis} (RECLAIM Podcast)Ep. 153 Talk Therapy: How To Get The Help You Need Part 4 {how to start therapy} (RECLAIM Podcast)Ep. 154 Talk Therapy: How To Get The Help You Need Part 5 {becoming a therapist} (RECLAIM Podcast) **This one is more for those who are thinking of becoming a therapist, but just wanted to include all the parts of this series!

In this episode, Janice explores that oh-so-common experience of getting triggered in the present due to past experiences of trauma, and how the activation of our fight-flight-freeze response in these situations can make it super challenging to stay calm and objective.She also discusses that we may have explicit memories of past traumas, but also implicit ones that we aren't aware of consciously. And she shares why it can be useful to learn how to discern between experiences where there is an actual threat to our safety, experiences where there is a valid concern but an additional layer of past wounding, and experiences where safety is there but we are unable to feel safe.This episode is part 3 of an ongoing series on healing trauma.*Please note that Janice is not a trauma expert or therapist, and that this series shares about her one personal experience of learning about and healing traumaRate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comGet the show notes here: https://www.thesoulsworkpodcast.com/s2-ep8-healing-trauma-part-3-getting-triggered-why-cant-we-just-leave-the-past-in-the-past/Resources mentioned in this episode:Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving (Pete Walker)Healing Developmental Trauma (Laurence Heller and Aline LaPierre) (the NARM model)MINDBODY SEMINAR: Introduction to Somatic Psychotherapy and Embodied Communication (Dr. Aline LaPierre)Tribal Theory – Nurturing One's Nature online event (Certified Listener's Society) (Barbara Allyn)Somatic Internal Family Systems Therapy: Awareness, Breath, Resonance, Movement, and Touch in Practice (Susan McConnell)@traumaawarecare on InstagramIrene Lyon

In this episode, Janice breaks down 4 (unofficial) “trauma basics” in sharing more about how trauma develops and is experienced: Different types of trauma (shock, developmental, and complex trauma) and examples of potentially traumatic events; Trauma is not about the event but a person's subjective experience of the event; Some factors that influence how vulnerable or resilient an individual might be to a potentially traumatic event; Trauma is something that is experienced in a person's nervous system + how our fight-flight-freeze response and more primitive parts of our brains are involved in the development of trauma.She also offers some perspectives for how folks might approach learning about trauma and doing the healing work that involve self-compassion, holding multiple truths at the same time, and a holistic approach to our healing practices.This episode is part 2 of an ongoing series on healing trauma.*Please note that Janice is not a trauma expert or therapist, and that this series shares about her one personal experience of learning about and healing traumaRate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comResources mentioned in this episode:Waking the Tiger (Peter Levine)Healing Developmental Trauma (Laurence Heller and Aline LaPierre) (the NARM model)Episode 007: Dr. Laurence Heller in Conversation with Dr. Gabor Maté on Complex Trauma and the Future of Trauma-Informed Care (Transforming Trauma Podcast)The Healing Trauma 3-Part Video Training (Irene Lyon) The Complex PTSD Workbook (Dr. Arielle Schwartz)How Your Brain Works & Changes | Episode 1 (Huberman Lab Podcast) 

In this episode, Janice defines what trauma is and shares about her personal trauma-healing journey. She explains why taking that exploration into addressing the impacts of past traumatic experiences has been so important in changing her life, including the story (i.e., “the big relationship problem”) that compelled her to face her shadows.She also discusses common objections people have to exploring trauma, plus a big lesson she learned about how to approach trauma-healing (and what happened when she did the opposite). This episode is part 1 of an ongoing series on healing trauma.*Please note that Janice is not a trauma expert or therapist, and that this series shares about her one personal experience of learning about and healing traumaRate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comResources mentioned in this episode:Dr. Gabor MateTrauma definitions by Alex Howard and Asha Clinton were from last year's Trauma Mind & Body Super Conference@traumaawarecare 

In this episode, Janice takes a step back from talking about the self-work she's been engaging in to reflect on how she wants to approach doing self-work as a whole in the first place. This is coming after months of what has felt like non-stop self-work (the self-work is always a choice, but the challenging events that precipitate it are not always in one's control) and finding it hard to access moments of joy. If you've also been feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or in shutdown while wanting to navigate the self-work, this episode might resonate with you!(You might also refer to self-work as inner work, soul work, self-development work, spiritual work, light/shadow work, etc.)Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.com

In this episode, Janice shares a bit about her background in understanding the racism that exists both in Toronto/Canada and the self-development/wellness space. She also shares about her own shame, fears, and uncertainties with doing what's really required of us to dismantle our culture of white supremacy, and discusses what has helped her so far in continuing this work despite all of the uncomfortable feelings.Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comBlack educators, activists, authors, and creators mentioned in this episode:Layla Saad (Instagram)Leesa Renee Hall (Instagram)Leesa Renee Hall's PatreonDesiree Adaway (Instagram)Sydnei from @hermodernlife (Instagram)Nasimiyu Murumba (Instagram)Please note that I am NOT an anti-racism educator. The purpose of me sharing about this topic on my podcast is to encourage other non-Black folks to do the work despite the challenging feelings we might be experiencing. Please learn about doing the anti-racism/anti-bias work first and foremost from Black educators.As mentioned in the episode, remember that if you are going to follow Black folks online to learn about how you can do the anti-racism work, also learn how they would like people to respect and engage in their space.

In this episode, Janice explains how a person's brain becomes addicted to alcohol (or other addictive drugs), and how there's actually a rational explanation for the seemingly irrational behavior of people who become dependent on drugs. She also gives an update on her current journey exploring her relationship with alcohol, and the pros and cons of going AF (alcohol free) during the COVID-19 pandemic. Recorded: May 13, 2020Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comResources mentioned in this episode:This Naked Mind Podcast (Annie Grace)Never Enough: The Neuroscience and Experience of Addiction (Judith Grisel)"Never Enough: The Neuroscience and Experience of Addiction" (02/25/19) (Recorded talk by Judith Grisel, Ph.D.)

In this episode, Janice talks about the struggles we often face in sitting with our hard-to-feel feelings – like sadness, anger, grief, and shame – when they come up. And are they ever coming up for her during COVID times and at 1 month in her journey exploring her relationship with alcohol. Janice also discusses how we often unwittingly deny others of their emotional experiences, and shares some suggestions for how we can build our capacity to just be with all the feels.Recorded: May 11, 2020Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comReflection questions:Which hard feelings are coming up for you during this time of COVID-19 and having to shelter in place?In general, which uncomfortable feelings tend to repeatedly come up for you (e.g., anger, shame, sadness, grief, loneliness)? Why do you think that is?How do you usually cope when your hard feelings come up? Is it working for you or would another response/strategy feel more supportive?If you were to share with a loved one that you're feeling the hard feelings, how would you like them to respond?What is your typical response to someone who is sharing their hard feelings with you? Why do you think that is?What is one new thing you'd feel comfortable doing to be able to sit with your hard feelings the next time they come up? 

In the Introduction of The Soul's Work Podcast: Season 2, host Janice Ho welcomes you all back to the show and shares a bit about her almost two-year hiatus off the mic. You'll get a sneak peek of the topics she'll be discussing this season, plus some background on her recent journey exploring her relationship with alcohol.Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.com

In this episode, Janice and her guest Rebecca Lam dive into a raw and open discussion about music, spirituality, mental illness, perfectionism, vulnerability, leadership, and so much more. Don't miss this insightful and honest conversation!Originally published: July 17, 2018Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comConnect with Rebecca Lam:Website: www.thechorusstudio.comInstagram: @thechorusstudioFacebook: @thechorusstudio

In this episode, Janice and her very special guest (and partner in life), Bruno Nunes, get deep into discussing the topic of romantic relationships. Listen in as they talk about four common challenges in relationships – communication and empathy, authenticity, vulnerability, and overcoming social/gendered expectations – and reflect on some ways that partners can nurture a relationship while staying true to themselves.*Please keep in mind that this conversation takes the lens of being in a gender-normative, heterosexual relationship.Originally published: May 15, 2018Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.com

In this episode, Janice reflects on the podcast's journey thus far and reveals what's up and coming for the show. For the episode's featured topic (11:15), Janice discusses the contrast between our spiritual egos and our higher selves. She uses her own personal examples to illustrate how the ego can distract us from living our most authentic life, and how "meeting" and continuously reconnecting with her higher self has resulted in deeper self-love and the empowerment to make more authentic life decisions.Originally published: May 5, 2018Read Janice's 4-years-later take on the episode here: "S1 | EP12: Returning to Our Higher Selves"Rate & review the podcast: Apple Podcasts: TSWP on Apple PodcastsPodchasers: TSWP on PodchasersTSWP Website: https://www.thesoulsworkpodcast.com/reviews/new/Connect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comShow notes:11:24: Today's featured topic: Getting connected with our authentic or higher self13:10: Defining the “spiritual ego” + an example of how my ego has been showing up (with work/career)18:47: What happens when the ego leads our life 20:04: A note about wanting to get rid of our ego

In this episode, Janice shares about her past experiences with alcohol abuse, some of the causes underlying it, and her gradual journey developing a healthier relationship with drinking.Please note that there are details shared about events, feelings, thoughts, and behaviors that happened around those past experiences. If you feel that this episode might be triggering for you, please consider not listening to it until (and only if) you feel ready to.Originally published: April 19, 2018Read Janice's 4-years-later take on the episode here: "S1 | EP11: Getting to Two Years Alcohol Free" Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comShow notes:1:12: CONTENT WARNING: my personal experiences of alcohol abuse2:22: Disclaimer: This is my one unique story about using alcohol3:15: Defining what it means to have a “problem” with alcohol use8:56: Why I'm sharing my story about alcohol dependency10:50: My first memories of drinking11:50: What I was escaping with alcohol17:33: The ugly consequences of drinking and partying too much20:25: Hitting rock bottom: drinking at home alone27:31: Reflecting on the me back then + breaking down the stigma28:49: My 5-month “drinking ban”30:41: Starting a new romantic relationship and a new lifestyle32:52: What helped me to move away from abusing alcohol36:20: Still susceptible to drinking + the deeper healing and inner work that still needed to be done39:02: How I am going forward in this journey41:26: My final words for my dear listeners

In this episode, Janice dives into the topic of spiritual bypassing, and explains why the prevalent "feel good, vibe high" and law of attraction teachings in the spiritual/self-development spaces are not enough in: 1) addressing the complex challenges and social barriers that people face in trying to create the life that they want; and 2) promoting a comprehensive "spiritual toolbox" to equip people with in their spiritual development journeys.Originally published: April 4, 2018Read Janice's 4-years-later take on the episode here: "S1 | EP10: Are You Vibing High or Committing Spiritual Bypassing?"Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comShow notes:0:45: What we discuss in this episode1:32: A personal update on my life5:05: The book that triggered me to speak about spiritual bypassing 7:00: What is spiritual bypassing?8:11: The connection between spiritual bypassing and privilege8:46: My very important disclaimer about positive-thinking strategies10:35: The need for shadow work to experience greater alignment and authenticity11:53: How “feel good, receive good” teachings can be harmful13:03: How my past experiences of struggle have informed my views of the “law of attraction” approach16:09: The other things that people who lack privilege need to gain wealth and a “happy life”20:40: An illustrative journal entry from 10 years ago23:10: Recapping the episode so far26:30: How spiritual bypassing can result in feeling shame and failure30:56: My call to action to “spiritual leaders”33:02: My encouragement to my dear listeners on their self-development journeyResources mentioned in this episode:"9 Reflective Writing Prompts to Explore White Fragility, Spiritual Bypassing or White Privilege" (Leesa Renée Hall)

In this episode, Janice offers listeners a goody bag filled with her top fave podcasts, websites, blogs, books, and videos for spiritual and self-development inspiration!Originally published: March 13, 2018Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.com

In this episode, Janice and Phil Tieu (engineer, doggy daycare owner, musician, photographer, videographer, among other things!) dive into the topic of valuing time and how to prioritize what's really important to us every day. Phil also shares how he's learned to manage the emotional highs and lows of living with bipolar disorder with the practice of Stoicism.Originally published: March 12, 2018Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.com

In this episode, Janice discusses how creating (and doing) a daily spiritual practice can serve as a powerful path toward achieving your spiritual development goals. For her, the daily practice of setting an intention, self-reflection (including checking into her Happiness List), and giving gratitude helps her to get that much closer to living authentically and staying grounded in the present.Originally published: February 26, 2018Read Janice's 4-years-later take on the episode here: "S1 | EP7: Getting Grounded and Authentic with Spiritual Practices" Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comShow notes:0:55: What we're talking about in this episode1:43: Finding your purpose for your spiritual practice2:40: What happens when I don't set an intention3:49: Setting an intention for the day to stay focused, present, and balanced7:09: Listening to music to complement my intention for the day9:14: Writing down or visualizing your intentions10:24: Journaling my self-reflections to release, learn, and move forward13:56: Checking in with my happiness list16:18: Giving gratitude19:44: Using a gratitude jar20:41: Your soul's work: create your own spiritual practice

In this episode, Janice explores the topic of experiencing life embodying the Asian female identity. Whether you identify as an Asian female or not, this discussion on internalizing the identities we inherit from the world – which ultimately shape our deepest self-beliefs – is relevant for anyone who wants to dig past the layers of socially prescribed expectations and uncover their authentic selves.Originally published: February 14, 2018Read Janice's 4-years-later take on the episode here: "S1 | EP6: On Asian Identity, Solidarity, and Fetishization" Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comShow notes:1:06: How our identities shape us4:05: My identities – my parents' background and my relationship with Korean culture5:28: My experiences of “otherness” and racism7:18: Stereotypes and expectations of being an Asian female9:55: Lack of representation of Asian folks in media, work, the outdoors, and the spiritual space11:56: Experiencing internalized oppression as an Asian female 13:44: Not being taken seriously because of our Asian female identity15:23: The importance of seeing more women who look like me in media and podcasting16:43: How internalized oppression has affected my spiritual growth and being my authentic self20:59: Who I am outside of my Asian female identities21:58: Really getting down to our core, authentic selves removed of identity23:16: Why we need to have this conversation before saying “All Lives Matter”