Podcasts about my grandmother's hands

Marty Solomon and Brent Billings are joined by Lea Schrumpf, Director of Pastoral Care at Purdue Christian Campus House, to discuss how we are shaped by harm, but how we are created for delight and honor, and how we can enter our stories with compassion and kindness.BEMA 242: Spiritual Abuse — Commodities and VariablesThe Allender CenterAnatomy of the Soul by Curt ThompsonBeing Known PodcastAdam Young CounselingThe Place We Find Ourselves podcastThe Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der KolkMy Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa MenakemThe Reconnect InstituteReconnect Marriage PodcastPurdue Christian Campus HouseSnack-Stadium by Ordi Stefan Hossu — FacebookAdditional audio production by Gus Simpson Special Guest: Lea Schrumpf.

What does it mean to foster intersectionality in traditions that honor the Sacred Feminine? How do we make space for the differences we find in each other in spiritual community, and also within ourselves? This rich inquiry was the subject of a panel discussion presented at the Parliament of the World's Religions in August 2023, and on today's episode, all five panelists reconvene to provide an overview of our presentation and our experiences at the Parliament.This episode includes a conversation between Home to Her podcast host Liz Childs Kelly; pagan priestess Gina Martin; Creatrix of the Goddess Ministry Lettie Sullivan; Divine Feminine App Founder Caryn MacGrandle; and Mambo and Iyanifa Marie Nazon.This episode includes:An overview of each our backgrounds in terms of race, ethnicity, class and spirituality/religion, and how they've shaped each of usDiscussion of what intersectionality means to each of us, and our experiences exploring this at the ParliamentOur process of working together, and its relevance to holding space for intersectionality overall - and how that process has also continued to shape our relationships and how we show up in the worldThe importance of nervous systems regulation in intersectional work, exploring the differences between edges and boundaries, and much morePLUS a special closing song offered by Gina Martin Show Notes If you'd like to know whose ancestral tribal lands you currently reside on, you can look up your address here: https://native-land.ca/You can also visit the Coalition of Natives and Allies for more helpful educational resources about Indigenous rights and history.Please – if you love this podcast and/or have read my book, please consider leaving me a review, and thank you for supporting my work!You can watch this and other podcast episodes at the Home to Her YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@hometoherHere's how to learn more about each of my guests today: Marie Nazon: www.marienazon.com. Gina Martin: www.ginamartinauthor.com.  Also check out Gina's new young adult book: Kiyia, Daughter of the Horse Lettie Sullivan: www.lettiesullivan.comCaryn MacGrandle and the Divine Feminine App: https://thedfapp.com/And here are a couple of resources that were mentioned:ALisa Starkweather and Daughters of the Earth: https://new.alisastarkweather.com/about/My Grandmother's Hands, by Resmaa Menakem:  https://www.resmaa.com/ For more Sacred Feminine goodness and to stay up to date on all episodes, please follow me on Instagram: @hometoher.To dive into conversation about the Sacred Feminine, join the Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hometoher To go deeper in your Sacred Feminine explorations, check out the course offerings via Home to Her Academy: www.hometoheracademy.com And to read about the Sacred Feminine, check out my award-winning book Home to Her: Walking the Transformative Path of the Sacred Feminine (Womancraft Publishing), available wherever you buy your books!. If you've read it, your reviews on Goodreads and Amazon are greatly appreciated!

  I am delighted to be back with you, my friends, after our summer break!  Our brief hiatus during the summer months was time well spent, as I devoted my energies to nurturing the Women of Wonder community.  Today's episode holds a special place in my heart! It stems from a question I posed on Instagram a few months ago about career guidance. Even though my post was intended for general advice, the very first query I received was related to mental health. Given my expertise in that area I decided to tackle this topic personally. I did some extra research to deepen my understanding and extend my knowledge beyond my home state for a broader perspective. For those on the path or considering a career in mental health, I am thrilled to engage in this discussion with you and share a glimpse into my personal journey with its twists and turns in the hope of inspiring you to believe that it is never too late to pursue your dream career. I provide practical guidance, especially for those interested in private practice, and discuss the steps to reach that stage. Beyond the specifics, I also explore the broader aspects of choosing a career in mental health.  If mental health is not your career interest, this episode may not be for you, but please share it with those who might benefit. What Do You Want to Do After Graduation?  Before pursuing a career in mental health, it's crucial to ask yourself what you envision doing once you complete your education. Your career goals will significantly influence the path you choose. Whether you aim to work in private practice, schools, social programs, or community centers, your desired outcome will guide your decisions. What Do You Want to Learn in Your Program?  The second vital consideration is the content of your educational program. The courses and curriculum should align with your interests and career goals. For example, if you are interested in clinical work, you will want a program focusing on psychology, counseling, and developing essential therapeutic skills. Ensure the program you choose matches what you want to learn. What License Do You Need?  Licensing requirements can vary widely depending on your location and career aspirations. To work independently in a clinical setting or private practice, you will typically need a Master's degree in counseling or social work. The type of license you pursue- whether it is in counseling, social work, marriage and family therapy, or another related field- must align with your career goals. Understanding the specific licensing process for your chosen field is crucial. The process often includes passing exams, completing supervised hours, and obtaining provisional licenses before achieving full licensure. 3 Key Factors Before embarking on a career in mental health, consider your ultimate career goals, the content of your educational program, and the specific licensing requirements for your chosen field. These three key factors will help you make informed decisions and navigate your path to a fulfilling career in mental health. Education and Early Career Steps  Upon completing a Master's degree in a mental health-related field, the next step is to pursue licensure. This journey often begins with entry-level positions. I worked at a domestic violence agency and served as an advocate in court for survivors of sexual and domestic violence to get social work experience. Engaging in one-on-one counseling with supervision can also be instrumental in building your expertise. Some positions may offer supervision as part of the compensation, which can be advantageous. Accumulating Supervised Hours  Gaining clinical experience and supervised hours is essential for licensure. I worked simultaneously at a domestic violence agency and a group practice to accumulate hours. My goal was to maximize clinical hours and work toward licensure efficiently. Seeking employment with supervision included can be financially advantageous and help you achieve licensure sooner. Pursuing Doctoral Education  While pursuing licensure, some individuals opt for doctoral education. I initially enrolled in a Ph.D. program focused on human behavior but switched to a Psy.D. program focusing on clinical courses over research and statistics. Doctoral programs offer specialized knowledge, and choosing one aligned with your career goals is crucial. Licensure Path Choices  After completing a doctoral degree, you may have the option to pursue additional supervised clinical work to obtain a psychology license. However, this route may be time-consuming and require working for free or paying for supervision. Choosing to pursue licensure should align with your career goals and financial considerations. Some mental health professionals decide not to pursue licensure and their degrees are still valuable in their practices. Transitioning to Private Practice  Many mental health professionals aspire to open a private practice. However, graduate programs often lack comprehensive business training. Therefore, you may need additional education or mentorship in entrepreneurship and business management to establish and manage a successful private practice. Self-Assessment and Decision-Making  Throughout your career journey, it is essential to reflect continually on your goals and desires. Ask yourself what you want to achieve, what you want to learn, and which license or credentials align with your career aspirations. Researching state licensure requirements and staying informed about evolving regulations is essential. Resources and Reading Recommendations  For those pursuing careers in mental health or anyone interested in gaining insights into the field, several books provide valuable knowledge and perspectives: The Gift of Therapy by Irvin Yalom: Essays offering insights into the therapist's experience and boosting confidence. Letters to a Young Therapist by Mary Pipher: A must-read for therapists, offering guidance and reassurance. Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: Explores human resilience and the search for meaning in life. An Unquiet Mind: A Memoir of Moods and Madness by Kay Redfield Jamison: A personal story of living with mental illness and pursuing a career in mental health. Emotional Inheritance: A Therapist, Her Patients, and the Legacy of Trauma by Galit Atlas: Explores trauma and its intergenerational impact. The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog by Dr. Bruce Perry: Chronicles stories of resilience and survival in the face of unimaginable trauma. My Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa Menakem: Explores trauma, racial trauma, and resilience. The Deepest Well: Healing the Long-Term Effects of Childhood Adversity by Nadine Burke Harris: Discusses childhood adversity and its lifelong impact on health. These books offer valuable insights, whether you are pursuing a career in mental health or simply interested in human behavior and resilience. A Dynamic Process The journey from education to practice in the mental health field is a dynamic process that requires ongoing self-assessment, reflection, and alignment with personal and professional goals. It is a rewarding path that offers opportunities for growth and the chance to have a meaningful impact on the lives of others.   Quotes:

Welcome to the Mind-Blowing Happiness® Podcast with inspiring and empowering guests to help you slay self-doubt and limiting beliefs so you can juice up your life's journey and find Mind-Blowing Happiness®!In this episode, Trish talks to 2023 Ghana Soul-Healing Retreat participant and vegan entrepreneur, Chloe Colbert. 1:30 – Chloe shares her journey to veganism and raw food3:20 – Chloe tells how she found out about the Ghana Soul-Healing Retreat6:00 – Chloe shares her retreat experiences9:00 – Trish shares her retreat experiences 11:00 – Trish remembers how she learned about slavery in school12:20 – Chloe shares her school experiences with diversity14:00 – Trish talks about more retreat experiences 16:20 - Trish talks about why retreats are self-love17:00 - Chloe talks about getting away from all the distractions23:30 – Chloe talks about how her perspective changed and why she wants to go back to Ghana25:10 - Chloe talks about breaking routine and her aha! moment in Ghana28:30 – Trish talks about her aha! moment in Ghana30:50 – Chloe talks about her experience in the dungeons32:30 - Trish shares a Native American comment about heartlessness and Resma Menakem's book, "My Grandmother's Hands"35:40 - Trish talks about perspectives36:20 - Chloe talks about her conversation with a local Ghanaian and his perspectives on adopting African children42:00 - Trish talks about Black Joy in Ghana45:30 – Chloe shares an experience from the plane ride home48:00 - Why retreats are a great place to make friends48:40 - Trish shares why African retreats are special50:00 - Chloe talks about uncovering the lies she was told54:10 - Trish speaks about her commitment to bring more Black people to Africa56:30 - Trish and Chloe talk about moving back to the MotherlandLearn more about Trish Ahjel Roberts' work and schedule a Discovery Call at https://TrishAhjelRoberts.com to learn about the 2024 Ghana Soul-Healing Retreat, Mind-Blowing Happiness Private Coaching, Finding Freedom Book Coaching, and more!Learn about the Ghana Soul-Healing Retreat at https://MindBlowingHappinessPrograms.com/GhanaLearn more about Chloe Colbert's meal prep and catering business in Atlanta, GA.https://www.facebook.com/queendaisyvegandelightsep50/s3/ep6

Darling listener, This week's episode is very special to me. [BIPOC listeners please see note at the bottom.*] This episode includes two topics that are very close to my heart, but may not on the surface seem connected: race literacy and menstrual cycle attunement. But I promise they are! Their overlap: radical body awareness. I'm a thoughtwork gal through and through- but even I know we can't intellectualize everything. The more I coach and get coached, the more I see the power of noticing the physical sensations that come with emotions. I'm convinced that folks who can be with their feelings, those who can allow all the sensations (no matter how uncomfortable), are best equipped to create exactly what they want in their lives. Why? Because they don't allow a feeling --especially shame, guilt, imposter syndrome, fear of disappointment, etc.-- to prevent them from doing something. When you're willing to feel negative emotions, you're more likely to... ... ask for the raise. ... say no to your Ex's request. ... ask someone out. ... change careers. ... post about your business on Facebook. ... see value in negative feedback. ... remove yourself from a situation that doesn't feel supportive. ... speak up in public about issues that are important to you. Join me and guest Alyssa Johnson for a freakin' fabulous discussion on healing trauma, building resilience and capacity, and tuning into what's really true. Here's Alyssa's bio: Alyssa Johnson is a formerly practicing attorney who now works with lawyers and legal organizations on topics related to lawyer well-being. This includes emotional intelligence, syncing our legal practices with our menstrual cycles, work-life balance, and experiencing more pleasure in Life. Alyssa is also passionate about dismantling White supremacy within the legal profession. She facilitates race literacy conversations with White attorneys to help us heal our race-based trauma and take anti-racist actions within our legal practices. You can follow her at www.alyssajohnson.love and on Instagram. She highly recommends the following resources: Cycle Syncing: 1. Cycle Powered - an online course with Jamie Kagianaris 2. Period Repair by Laura Bride 3. Hormonal by Martie Haselton Race Literacy: 1. My Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa Menakem 2. Caste by Isabel Wilkerson 3. Antagonists, Advocates & Allies: The Wake Up Call Guide for White Women Who Want to Become Allies with Black Women by Catrice M. Jackson 4. Any course or book by Milagros Phillips Can't wait to hear what you think about this episode! Feel free to reply to this email and let me know. [* For my BIPOC listeners, the first half of the episode focuses on white women healing their race trauma and examples of white women's fragility around race issues. If it doesn't feel nourishing to you to listen in to that, feel free to skip to minute 31:15 to hear about tuning into our menstrual cycle.] // To learn more about Meg's 1-1 private coaching practice for moms after divorce visit: https://linktr.ee/meggluckmancoaching --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/welcometotheotherside/message

It's Black History Month, so we are celebrating 4 Black Authors who are changing history by sharing their solutions. Resmaa Menakem is a fellow social worker who wrote My Grandmother's Hands and I discuss how this book has impacted me, my work and offered incredibly useful tools for HEALING within families and our greater culture. You can find Resmaa's work here https://www.resmaa.com/about and My Grandmother's Hands here https://amzn.to/3DCnaGo Stay tuned for our next episode where we explore bell hooks All About Love. Wanna work with me? Leave me feedback? You can find my social media, tools and podcast here https://linktr.ee/cloudedcompass

EMDR or Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing is a form of psychotherapy that helps people manage past traumas. Join Jaja Chen as they explore the basics of EMDR: what it is, how it works and how it can help with mental health issues. Find out more about the process, how to apply it to your life and how it can help you become a better version of yourself. Time Stamps 0:00 Intro 0:30 What is EMDR? 08:10 Dysregulated Nervous System 14:15 Listening to our Body - What it means 28:21 Non-Linear Healing 36:22 Jaja's Book Recommendations Follow Yellow Chair Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yellowchaircollective Website: https://yellowchaircollective.com/ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@yellowchaircollective Jaja's Book Recommendations 1. My Grandmother's Hands: https://www.amazon.com/My-Grandmothers-Hands-Racialized-Pathway/dp/1942094477 2. Restorative Yoga by Dr. Gale Parker: https://www.amazon.com/Restorative-Ethnic-Race-Based-Stress-Trauma/dp/1787751856 3. Trauma Sensitive Yoga: https://www.amazon.com/Trauma-Sensitive-Yoga-Therapy-Bringing-Treatment/dp/0393709507/ref=sr_1_3?crid=37KTP0F1NY8O1&keywords=trauma+sensitive+yoga&qid=1674074516&s=books&sprefix=trauma+sensitive+yoga%2Cstripbooks%2C137&sr=1-3 Follow Jaja Jaja's Website: https://jajachen.com/Jaja's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jajachenlcsw/?hl=enJaja's Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaja-chen-lcsw-s-cdwf-07b09a59/

Resmaa Menakem's powerful book My Grandmother's Hands discusses how racism lands in our bodies, regardless of our race. How can our bodies undo the consequences of that racism? This service will include gentle movement suitable for all bodies. Music: Lydia Clark and Lowell Burton

Interview with professor, author, and former pastor Drick Boyd. Jonny interviews Drick on his book “Disrupting Whiteness: Talking With White People About Racism.” Drick shares the story of how he came to write this book, along with some stories from his personal journey of anti-racism, mistakes he's made, and how he has learned to talk to other white folks about internalized, interpersonal, institutional, and systemic racism. Also in this episode, the pastors share their favorite Christmas songs and what's been nourishing their souls: Advent, The Poet X by Elizabeth Acevedo, and a handmade gift. //Notes// -Interview with Drick Boyd- Disrupting Whiteness: https://www.amazon.com/Disrupting-Whiteness-Talking-People-Racism/dp/1938798384/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=disrupting+whiteness&qid=1613428665&s=books&sr=1-1 Drick's Website: https://drickboyd.org/blog/ My Grandmother's Hands: https://www.amazon.com/My-Grandmothers-Hands-Racialized-Pathway/dp/1942094477 -Spiritual Show and Tell- Comfort Comfort Ye My People https://youtu.be/4Mw9AGvr_xk?list The Poet X by Elizabeth Acevedo: https://www.harpercollins.com/products/the-poet-x-elizabeth-acevedo Our Spotify Wrapped: https://www.instagram.com/p/ClohPZlp46S/ //About this Podcast// Resist and Restore is a podcast by Circle of Hope. We're extending the table of our dialogue! Tune in bi-weekly as the Circle of Hope pastors—Rachel, Julie, and Jonny—sit down to dialogue about faith, God, Jesus, the spiritual life, and everything in between. Available on Spotify, iTunes/Apple Music, Google Podcasts, Stitcher, and more. //Contact Us// Website: https://circleofhope.church Email: ResistandRestorePodcast@circleofhope.net IG/TW: @circleofhopenet YouTube: https://youtube.com/circleofhope FB: https://fb.me/CircleofHopePhillyRegion Help keep the show running! Contribute at: https://circleofhope.church/share

Elle talks about recent elections in the United States, the politics of being transgender, and therefore the ways in which our bodies are politicized in a hierarchical gender binary whether we choose it or not. She explores the benefits and drawbacks of being invisible to society, including a brief description of Resmaa Menakem's work on bodily trauma in My GrandMother's Hands. She also references Alok V. Menon's work, and the power of nonbinary experience. Find the intersectionality diagram to map your own oppression, privilege, and domination here: https://www.awis.org/wp-content/uploads/AWIS_FactSheet_Intersectionalityv4.pdf  Chat with her at TWATpodcasting@gmail.com

On Saturday I sat in the backseat of a car with a moon roof. I stared up at the sky and noticed a rainbow hidden in the clouds. I lowered my sunglasses because usually, that helps me see colors better but, in this case, I was surprised. Leaving my sunglasses on helped me more clearly see the rainbow. It blew my mind a little, to be honest. More in this week's post. And if you're interested in the author I mention later, his name is Resmaa Menakem and his book is My Grandmother's Hands. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/another-world-is-probable/support

In a predominantly white city, one Black woman leverages her unique perspective and experience to become a state representative and fight for the inclusion of all. Cherie Buckner-Webb learned early on that she would have to work hard to be true to herself and to be respected in her community. She has dedicated her career to helping others, including young women and minorities. She is a strong advocate for collective action and has a passion for history and for leaving a legacy. Today, Cherie will be talking about navigating being the "only one in the room" throughout her career and the importance of legacy and community.   Cherie Buckner-Webb is the founder and principal of Sojourner Coaching. She served in the Idaho State Legislature, serving in the Idaho House of Representatives in 2010 and the Idaho State Senate in 2012, 2014, 2016, and 2018. Cherie's credo, “leave a legacy,” underscores her work in every area of activity and to that end, she donates countless hours to a variety of community organizations. She currently serves on the boards of the Andrus Center for Public Policy, the Northwest Area Foundation, Women and Children's Alliance, College of Western Idaho, and the Blue Cross of Idaho Care Plus Board.   I invite you to join our conversation as we discuss: Pay Equity Growth Mindset Idaho Legislature Authentic Self Heather C. McGhee Collective Action Legacy Erma Hayman House Resilience Suppression Hobo Dominant Culture Diversity Equity Inclusion Maya Angelo Rosa Parks Organizational Development Dr. Jill Gill (Boise State University Professor) Redlining   Honorable Mentions Equal Pay Eliminating the Black-White Wealth Gap Trailblazing Women of Idaho Women and Children's Alliance Sojourner Coaching and Consulting Job's Daughters International The Sum of Us by Heather C. McGhee Boise State University Erma Hayman House  My Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa Menaken Cherie Buckner-Webb discuss The Cross Burning Incident A Timeline of Black History in Idaho   Excited to hear more of what Cherie Buckner-Webb has to say? Join her in these spaces: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cheriebucknerwebb/ Twitter - https://twitter.com/BucknerWebb  

Melissa Febos is one of our most accomplished memoirists and essayists, a passionate and fiercely honest writer who, across several of her works, has often discussed her own path through addiction and into recovery. (Among her many, many accolades, she is the recipient of a 2022 Guggenheim Foundation Fellowship and a National Book Critics Circle Award.) I was thrilled to talk with her on this latest episode of Flourishing After Addiction and learn more about this harrowing and inspiring part of her life.There are so many gems in this episode. We talk about Melissa's experience of addiction and how she works her recovery program today . We discuss how her creative practice is part of that recovery; how evaluation, performance, and internal and external criticism was problematic for her; and how writing helped her in recovery. How her definition of recovery expanded over time. How she had to write to survive, and then to thrive. Whether you're interested in the craft of writing, or just how to craft a life, you shouldn't miss this one.Melissa Febos is the bestselling author of four books, most recently, Girlhood, winner of the National Book Critics Circle Award, and Body Work: The Radical Power of Personal Narrative. She is the recipient of awards and fellowships from The Guggenheim Foundation, the National Endowment for the Arts, MacDowell, LAMBDA Literary, The British Library, and others. Her work has appeared in publications including The Paris Review, Granta, The Believer, The New York Times Magazine, The Guardian, and many more.She is an associate professor at the University of Iowa. You can find her on Twitter, Instagram, her faculty page and her author website. In this episode: - her books:      Whip Smart     Abandon Me     Girlhood     Body Work Some of her recent longform: - "The Kindest Cut" in the New York Times Magazine- “Jeanette Winterson, My Therapist, and Me” in the New York Review of Books-  Girlhood excerpt in the New York Times-  “Do You Want to Be Known For Your Writing, or For Your Swift Email Responses?” in CatapultAlso mentioned:  Resmaa Menakem, author of My Grandmother's Hands and The Quaking of AmericaSign up for my newsletter and immediately receive my own free guide to the many pathways to recovery, as well as regular updates on new interviews, material, and other writings.

Resmaa Menakem (he/him), author of NYT best seller My Grandmother's Hands, joins me in conversation experiencing the overturning of Roe v wade and its effect on Black bodies. We discuss how anti-democratic elements in America are inciting widespread chaos and a collective trauma response in tens of millions of bodies in America. We also talk about our body's response to trauma and go through exercises of somatic practices to mobilize our healing towards the fight for justice. This is part 1 of a 2 part episode. Support Resmaa: His new book The Quaking of America is out now Support the show: Buy audiobooks from Libro.fm using code ASITSHOULDBE at checkout to get 2 books for the price of 1.

Parenting coach Julietta Skoog tells us all about her very pregnant stripper encounter on the Ellen Show! Julietta is loving: Katelyn Page Fitness Her Moon Journal The book Caste by Isabel Wilkerson The book My Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa Menakem Joanne is loving: The book Surviving Religion 101 by Michael Kruger Julietta Skoog is a Parent Coach and Certified Positive Discipline Advanced Trainer with an Ed.S Degree in School Psychology and a Masters Degree in School Counseling from Seattle University. With over 20 years of experience helping families, she co-founded Sproutable, science-backed online parenting insights for pregnancy to preschool, helping multitasking and sleep-deprived parents everywhere. Her popular keynote speeches, classes, Sproutable videos and workshops have been described as rejuvenating, motivating, and inspiring. She has learned the most from her own three children. Find Julietta: On Sproutable On Instagram @besproutable On Facebook@besproutable On YouTube Oh! And also: Get your cozy clothes at ShelfieShoppe! Use code FANCYFREE for free shipping. Check out our new cardigans here! Join Fancy Free's private Facebook Group! It's so much fun!  Click the Follow button so you don't miss a single episode! Leave a rating and written review! I will be forever grateful!!! If you have your own not-so-fancy story to tell, email me at notfancy@fancyfreepodcast.com! Do it. It'll be fun! The best way to help Fancy Free reach more listeners is to tell a friend about it. Share the laughter! Thanks so much for listening, have a great week, and remember NO ONE is as fancy as they look! ~Joanne

Are you feeling the weight of the seemingly endless and senseless tragedies of today's world? Are you wanting to stay informed and contribute to change but find it hard to not disconnect after hearing about yet another mass shooting? In this episode, Janice shares about the grief, despair, anger, and rage (amidst moments of levity and joy) she's been experiencing these days and what's helped her to cope and cultivate enough resilience to stay engaged without becoming overwhelmed (understanding that it's always a WIP!). She also shares about why issues of social justice matter so deeply to her, including how her past struggles shaped her perspectives on what doing the “self-work” and coming back into wholeness really means.CW: Topics of intergenerational, complex, and structural trauma are discussed in this episode as well as brief mentions of some of the recent tragic happenings in the world. Please take care of yourself as you listen in. Rate & review the podcast on:Apple PodcastsPodchasersSpotifywww.TheSoulsWorkPodcast.comConnect with me:Instagram: @janicehoimagesFacebook: @thesoulsworkpodcastEmail: thesoulsworkpodcast@gmail.comListen to all The Soul's Work Podcast episodes: www.thesoulsworkpodcast.comResources mentioned in this episode:My Grandmother's Hands, Resmaa MenakemLeesa Renee Hall (Patreon): https://www.patreon.com/innerfieldtrip Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez (Instagram): @AOC | May 25, 2022 IG Live Lama Rod Owens (Instagram): @lamarodofficial | Tending to Our Grief through Love and Prayer IG LiveRooted Global Village: https://www.rootedglobalvillage.com/ The Wild Edge of Sorrow, Francis WellerPodcast editing:Many thanks to Dexter Charles for his great work editing this episode! Please reach out to Dexter for inquiries if you're also needing help with podcast editing: Telegram: +1 758-730-3677Email: samarian16@gmail.com

In our fifth episode of the Brain Blown Podcast, we introduce you to our most requested topic of the season: the neuroscience of racism. From the kitchen table to the senate floor, racism is being talked about constantly. So where does racism come from? And why do these racist acts of violence happen - and continue to happen - so frequently? In this episode we'll review questions like: What is racism? What is racism from a neurological level? What's going on in our brains that causes us to feel and act differently around people of a different race? And what can we do to change that? Laine shares the facts from scientists like Robert Sapolsky, Bruce Perry, Manie Bosman, JT Kobuta, Elizabeth Phelps, and Andreas Ollson from NYU who've done extensive research, as well as findings from implicit bias tests and futsal form recognition tests. (See our resource list below for direct links.) **At the end of the episode, we've added a special interview with friend Kiara Lewis who discusses more from the book My Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa Menakem. Time Stamps: 1:25 - Intro 9:25 - Why are we talking about this? 10:55 - What is it: what does racism look like in our brains? 14:39 - Conditioned vs. ideological racism and the implicit bias test 22:34 - What is our fusiform and how is it involved? (Or not involved?) 26:51 - How these held racial tendencies in our brains have deadly consequences 30:05 - Why it happens; the importance of P-200 and N-200 waveforms and making rational decisions 33:44 - Our brain on shortcuts 36:19 - Why should we care? What do we all have in common, and how is it impacting all of us? 45:15 - What do we do about it? 50:51 - Awareness matters - your beliefs and values don't always drive your behavior 53:23 - How "us vs. them" changes constantly 56:25 - Interview with Kiara Resources Books: My Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa Menakem Behave by Robert Sapolsky What Happened To You by Bruce Perry and Oprah Winfrey Articles: JT Kobuta: “The Neuroscience of Race” N Kanwisher, G Yove: “The fusiform face area” AJ Golby, JDE Gabrieli: “Differential responses in the fusiform region to same-race and other-race faces“ K Shutts, KD Kinzler: “An Ambiguous-Race Illusion in Children's Face Memory” A Avenantie: “racial bias reduces empathic sensorimotor resonance with other-race pain” J Correll: “Event-related potentials and the decision to shoot” J Eberhartd: “Seeing Black”

hi guys! in this week's podcast, i talk about how being "too nice" is actually just bad communication, the books My Grandmother's Hands + Date-onomics, the Kardashians & whether or not being a good influencer equates to being a good person or mother, and the taurus new moon eclipse on april 30th. enjoy & dont forget to tweet/ig story me a screenshot of you listening! listen on spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2DMbeh7EqiqgROIjvW0sI9 listen on apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-stella-rae-podcast/id1255618182 listen on youtube: https://youtu.be/RKc83CWb40E FOLLOW ME ON TIKTOK: http://tiktok.com/@stellaraeherself join my discord server! https://discord.gg/9D8M7QXynM MERCH: http://bit.ly/stellaraemerch follow me on IG http://instagram.com/stella.rae follow me on twitter http://twitter.com/stellarae support the podcast! http://anchor.fm/stella-rae/support support the podcast! use this amazon link when making purchases http://amzn.to/2u0WGeR my fav books/products/health: www.amazon.com/shop/stellarae listen on spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2DMbeh7EqiqgROIjvW0sI9 listen on apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-stella-rae-podcast/id1255618182 #StellaRaePodcast Bad communicator tiktok reference: https://www.tiktok.com/@5hahem/video/7085772269770837291?_r=1&_t=8RRFDLFUFBe&social_sharing=v3 My Grandmother's Hands book: https://amzn.to/3EQBV7K Date-Onomics book: https://amzn.to/3kgK3oz Kardashian tiktok reference: https://www.tiktok.com/@celebritymemoirbookclub/video/7087577461801635118?_t=8RZWFGT04Ed&_r=1 TIMESTAMPS 00:00 - 06:25 Intro 06:25 - 15:35 Realizing You're A Bad Communicator 15:35 - 31:55 My Grandmother's Hands 31:55 - 35:45 Date-Onomics 35:45 - 43: 20 Good Influencer = Good Person? 43:20 - 44:12 Taurus Season --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/stella-rae/message

Grieving is a normal emotion that everyone will experience during their life. However, the complexities of society and the misconceptions around grief compound the problem, leaving people feeling helpless. Please note that this episode carries a trigger warning for those who are grieving. Tune in to hear us discuss the intersection of grief and intimate partner violence, offering a definition for grief, and considering how the traditional view of grief limits our understanding and in-turn our ability to overcome it. We discuss the intersection of race and gender with regards to grief and why this needs to be acknowledged, before providing listeners with some examples of grief and how it can result in risky behaviors. We talk about the importance of grief mitigation for abusers and for those who use violence and provide listeners with some helpful resources to navigate grief and provide support for others who are grieving. Tune in today to hear about an incredibly important subject as we go Down the Rabbit Hole! Here are the resources mentioned in today's episode along with a few others: The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief by Frances Weller Grieving While Black: An Antiracist Take on Oppression and Sorrow by Breeshia Wade It's Ok That You're Not Ok by Megan Devine Grief Belongs in Social Movements. Can We Embrace It? by Malkia Devich-Cyril This chapter in in Holding Change: The Way of Emergent Strategy Facilitation and Meditation by adrienne maree brown: "To Give Your Hands to Freedom, First Give Them to Grief" by Malkia Devich-Cyril. My Grandmother's Hands by Resma Manakem As always if you have any questions about this episode, please email us at prevention@tcfv.org.

Join us as we talk to wellness architect and Leadership Coach, Martha Cuffy. Her curiosity about how we walk with aliveness and how the body facilitates this has been a source of lifelong fascination. It's taken her to live in an ashram university for 2 years where she studied for an MA in Yoga Psychology, to other wellness experiences like wild swimming in Wales and designing primal spa experiences in a rainforest garden in Dominica. Perhaps all an antidote to her previous life of MBA studies, working in tech and corporate finance. Working as a certified TRE provider gives her the honour of guiding people into deeper relationship with their own body. To not fear what lies within, but to meet it with vulnerability and sometimes play. Martha's passion is supporting Black leaders - in various settings from Windsor Castle to online forums to help them gain board positions. She was born and raised in East London, Newham, and has lived in France, Germany, India and Dominica.   Mentions: Connect with Martha: marthacuffy.co.uk - book a 30 min consultation IG: @marthajcuffy  Twitter: @marthacuffy LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marthajcuffy/. YouTube relaxation videos: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mo5B-npdwyw&t=77s   My Grandmother's Hands: https://amzn.to/3uZNI0y Karine Bell: https://www.karinebell.com/ Amber McZeal: https://decolonizingthepsyche.com/ Resmaa Menakem: https://www.resmaa.com/ Iyengar Yoga Institute: https://iyengaryoga.org.uk/ The Heroines Journey: https://amzn.to/3LzLxa0 Bihar School of Yoga: https://www.biharyoga.net/ Asana, Pranayama, Mudra Bandha: https://amzn.to/3uSbgET Chi Nae Tsang: https://www.chineitsang.com/what-is-chi-nei-tsang   Titration means that we slow things down. Slowing down looks like working with only small bits of difficult experiences at a time. Titration is a way to limit potential side effects by taking time to see how your body will react.   Connect with us: Ama Rouge Website: www.wearewildwithin.com IG: @powerup.podcast @ama.rouge @wearewildwithin @readwithrougebookclub @rougedoesfood LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/ama-rouge-870b60138 FB: AmaRougemoves   Ella Mesma Website: www.ellamesma.co.uk, www.mayagandaia.com, www.businessyoga.co.uk LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ella-mesma-b6071320/ IG: @powerup.podcast @Ellamesma @BusinessYoga @Maya_Gandaia FB:@EllaMesma @MayaGandaia @BusinessYogaUK   Music by Tomo Carter IG: @tomocarter   Everything else brought to you by us, the PowerUp! power team

hi guys! in today's episode, i talk about the difference between rest + play, dealing with PMS, what i learned from a TedTalk about anxiety i watched, the book My Grandmother's Hands, Abraham Hicks manifestation, + more. enjoy & dont forget to tweet/ig story me a screenshot of you listening! 00:00 - 01:06 Intro 01:07 - 12:44 Rest vs Play 13:10 - 25:00 PMS Talk, Tips & Tricks 26:08 - 33:46 Understanding Anxiety & TedTalk 35:52 - 40:36 Book Talk: "My Grandmother's Hands" 41:43 - 47:03 Abraham Hicks & Manifestation 50:37 - 51:32 Outro LISTEN ON SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/2DMbeh7EqiqgROIjvW0sI9 LISTEN ON APPLE MUSIC: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-stella-rae-podcast/id1255618182 LISTEN ON ANCHOR: https://anchor.fm/stella-rae FOLLOW ME ON TIKTOK: http://tiktok.com/@stellaraeherself join my discord server! https://discord.gg/9D8M7QXynM MERCH: http://bit.ly/stellaraemerch follow me on IG http://instagram.com/stella.rae follow me on twitter http://twitter.com/stellarae support the podcast! http://anchor.fm/stella-rae/support support the podcast! use this amazon link when making purchases http://amzn.to/2u0WGeR my fav books/products/health: www.amazon.com/shop/stellarae listen on spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2DMbeh7EqiqgROIjvW0sI9 listen on apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-stella-rae-podcast/id1255618182 #StellaRaePodcast LINKS: Zoella video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Ck_w-qnbkk how to stop feeling anxious about being anxious ted talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZidGozDhOjg My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies book: https://amzn.to/3uCUHMo Channel I watch Abraham Hicks videos on: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxl847Lx10jCdq1wkLPp3vghttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxl847Lx10jCdq1wkLPp3vg --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/stella-rae/message

This week we continue our conversation with Resmaa Menakem, NY Times bestselling author of My Grandmother's Hands, on the impact of generational trauma and other Black things. Resmaa's latest book, The Quaking of America is available now wherever books are sold. IG @resmaamenakem ~ For more content, subscribe to our Patreon (patreon.com/smartfunnyandblack)! ~ Design like a pro with Canva Pro! Right now, you can get a FREE 45-day extended trial when you use my promo code! Just go to Canva.me/DOSES to get your FREE 45-day extended trial. For simple, smart savings on your prescriptions, check GoodRx at GoodRX.com/doses. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we talk to Resmaa Menakem, NY Times bestselling author of My Grandmother's Hands, on the impact of generational trauma and other Black things. Resmaa's latest book, The Quaking of America is available now wherever books are sold. Make sure to come back for part 2 of our conversation next week. IG @resmaamenakem ~ For more content, subscribe to our Patreon (patreon.com/smartfunnyandblack)! ~ Continue your credit journey with Chime. Sign up takes only two minutes and doesn't affect your credit score. Get started at chime.com/doses. Comparing loan offers on Credit Karma is 100% free, won't affect your credit scores and could save you money. Ready to apply? Head to creditkarma.com/loanoffers to see personalized offers. Credit Karma. Apply with more confidence today. Download the FREE GetUpside App and use promo code DOSES to get $5 or more cash back on your first purchase of $10 or more. Stop overpaying for shipping with Stamps.com. Sign up with promo code DOSES for a special offer that includes a 4-week trial, free postage, and a digital scale. No long-term commitments or contracts. Just go to Stamps dot com, click the microphone at the top of the page, and enter code DOSES. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you haven't seen Encanto, pause the show now and go watch it... then press play! This movie touched Shae and I so deeply, we both cried the entire second half. How does pixar have a way of hitting you in the heart strings?Today we explore the film:- No Identified Villain- “Myth of The Identified Patient”- How Much Responsibility is MINE to Take - Codependency as a Teacher - Unrealistic Family Expectations - Projection, Shadow Work, & Defense Mechanisms - Why Therapists Love Rupture - My Grandmother's Hands - Building From Rupture & Support SystemsWhich movie should we dive into next? Shoot us a message and let us know! Xo!Connect with LindseyLinds x LMNT

This module shares a somatic practice on safety. This practice was originally shared by somatic practitioner Resmaa Menakem in his book, My Grandmother's Hands.---DTMT ESSENTIALSDOWNLOAD the digital toolkit: dismantlingthemasterstools.comFOLLOW along on Instagram @dismantlingthemasterstoolsGET IN TOUCH at hello@dismantlingthemasterstools.com See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

This module shares a somatic practice on connecting to ancestry. This practice was originally shared by somatic practitioner Resmaa Menakem in his book, My Grandmother's Hands.---DTMT ESSENTIALSDOWNLOAD the digital toolkit: dismantlingthemasterstools.comFOLLOW along on Instagram @dismantlingthemasterstoolsGET IN TOUCH at hello@dismantlingthemasterstools.com See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

This module shares a somatic practice on discerning boundaries. This practice was originally shared by somatic practitioner Resmaa Menakem in his book, My Grandmother's Hands.---DTMT ESSENTIALSDOWNLOAD the digital toolkit: dismantlingthemasterstools.comFOLLOW along on Instagram @dismantlingthemasterstoolsGET IN TOUCH at hello@dismantlingthemasterstools.com See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

This module shares a somatic practice that listeners are invited to practice as a way of grounding before each instance of engaging with this toolkit. This practice was originally shared by somatic practitioner Resmaa Menakem in his book, My Grandmother's Hands.---DTMT ESSENTIALSDOWNLOAD the digital toolkit: dismantlingthemasterstools.comFOLLOW along on Instagram @dismantlingthemasterstoolsGET IN TOUCH at hello@dismantlingthemasterstools.com See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In this episode we explore triggers and how we can become empowered to use them as a catalyst for growth. We discuss what triggers are, the difference between triggers and catalysts, and how they can be one and the same. We share our personal stories about how triggers have helped us connect back to ourselves, how individual our responses are to triggers, and our perspectives on being triggered by social media. We explore the ideas of avoidance, self- compassion, and staying curious in our bodies to help guide us from being triggered into activated and from discomfort into self-connection. This episode is for anyone who is curious about how using outside triggers from people and experiences that bring up undesired emotions can be an activator and catalyst for growth from within. Resources mentioned in this podcast: The book My Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa Menakem https://www.resmaa.com/The book Quit Like a Woman by Holly Whitaker https://www.quitlikeawoman.com/To connect, follow, and explore with us: Paula www.paulajeffrey.com On Instagram @healingwithapaula Kellie www.kelliemox.com On Instagram @kelliemox.homeopath Krista wwww.kristarivet.com On Instagram @kristarivethomeopathy 

What would a more connected, supportive world look like? We dive into the idea of connections, networks, and re-imagining communities with Kathryn Evans, an architect of a more inclusive future and the president of Rooted Strategy, a Kansas City-based consultancy she founded to provide support to organizations that improve the lives of people. This conversation with Kathryn covers clarity, resiliency, network ecology, systems change, trauma responses, and of course, trust. If you're looking to learn how to create change in the world, this is a must-listen episode of In Trust. Show Notes: Kathryn Evans on LinkedIn Rootedstrategy.com My Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa Menakem LISTEN NOW! In Trust is produced by: Spotlight Trust. Learn more about building, earning, extending, and repairing trust and download all our free resources at spotlighttrust.com. You can also pick up our new book, The Future is Trust, at thefutureistrust.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/in-trust/message

We are so excited to be sharing this special episode with you, based on conversations we've had as we try to understand what it feels like to process, feel, define, and heal from trauma, what it means to find balance when you might be afraid of failure, and the strength we gain from family and community–making any adventures pawsible. As many parents and carers of kids know, the daily practice of guiding young people through life ranges from challenging to silly, and back again, and it can take us to deep places on a dime. This episode goes deep. We talk about how trauma can pass from body to body, how interconnected we are, and why it's a gift in life to experience failure. We use tools like deep belly breathing, rhyming jokes, EMDR to unpack distressing memories, affirmations of love, speaking our stories, and asking for help to lean into strength. And, we also share more about Mom Slice's past as a champion swordfighter! Also, one of the sweetest things Hank has ever shared about Dogland is information about the planet's “Great Great Tree” and the slogan, “We are all connected at our roots and rooted in our connection.” Some further resources for grown people are: On trauma and somatic healing: My Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa Menakem On everything from failure to shame to healing to living a wholehearted life, Brené Brown. And, for people of all ages, we recommend listening to fellow Kids Listen member show, Best Day Yet Podcast, a show serving affirmations, adventures, and mindfulness tools for calmer, kinder, more confident kids. Special thanks to Jason Roark who records, edits, and designs this show. He also provides original music including our theme song, which is sung by him and the wonderful, talented Jen Bernard. Jason was not able to edit this episode, but he set Phoebe & Hank up for success and a fun learning opportunity, which they enjoyed wholeheartedly. They had a blast using the free and fantastic resources at freeSFX dot com and Orange Free Sounds. Colin Laurel illustrated our cover art, which was directed by Jen Wick. Our song that plays at the very end of this episode is a song we wrote along with Hank's Granny & Gramps, aka Murphy & Marckx. It's called “Power Dog, He Won't Give Up!” This podcast was made possible, in part, by a grant from The Regional Arts & Culture Council in Portland, OR. It was made more possible by listeners like you! Thank you for your support! Support the show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/powerdog https://www.patreon.com/powerdogadventures The Adventures of Power Dog in Dogland is created in the ancestral lands of the Multnomah, Wasco, Kathlamet, Clackamas, Cowlitz, bands of Chinook, Tualatin Kalapuya, Molalla, and many other Tribes of the first people who made their homes along the rivers. You can find out more & send us dog jokes at www.powerdogadventures.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/powerdogadventures/support

An update from Weston, followed by reflections and projections based on the 2021 and 2022 Beacon Cards. www.rootlocktarot.com Books mentioned in this episode: My Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa Menakem https://www.indiebound.org/book/9781942094470 Sister Outsider by Audre Lorde https://www.indiebound.org/book/9781580911863 Music provided by: Shenandoah Davis www.shenandoahdavis.com Jeré www.soundcloud.com/jerejerejere Buy the Root Lock Radio Season 1 Companion Guide or the Root Lock Tarot Book of Spreads: www.rootlocktarot.com/tarot-books Take the self-guided Root Lock Tarot virtual course: www.rootlocktarot.com/courses Sign up for the Root Lock Tarot email list: www.rootlocktarot.com/contact Follow Root Lock Tarot on Instagram: www.instagram.com/rootlocktarot I hope you find the links between tarot and psychotherapy concepts useful. However, Root Lock Radio is not a substitute for therapy with a licensed mental health professional.

Lifelong social justice educators Shirley Strong and Simone Torrey share about Beloved Community, an inclusive interrelated space based on love, responsibility, compassion, shared power, and a deep respect that transforms. They also talk with Stuart about a new community engagement platform. It's not social media. It's not e-learning. It's a versatile hub of like-minded interactivity. This conversation started with Civil Rights in the 1960s, and is now evolving on a global nexus called Hive.  Ten Ingredients for Building Beloved Community and Creating Belonging (on HIVE)Burning Man Project's Radical Inclusion, Diversity, & Equity (R.I.D.E.) Anti-Racism PledgeRadical Inclusion, Diversity, & Equity at Burning ManLIVE@BURNINGMAN.ORGLIVE.BURNINGMAN.ORG

In this episode, we interview Randa Lamb and hear her story of experiencing trauma at the hands of a church's leadership. We discuss the damage that can happen when trust is broken in a spiritual community. Randa describes what healing & connection have looked like for her since this happened, including her struggle to trust church & the question of where God is in it all. Our hope is that Randa's story helps those who've experienced church-related trauma. (See below for several resources that may help in processing trauma.) Please contact Kevin and Paul with questions, comments or topic requests for the podcast: cforconnection@gmail.com. If you have a story of isolation and connection with God or church, we'd love to hear it. This episode is sponsored by WellSpring Process Groups. If you'd like space to journey with a supportive group who will help you process whatever you're facing in life, sign up today for a process group with WellSpring. Paul and his associates facilitate these 12-week, online support groups that are based on biblical principles & the research of Christian psychologist, John Townsend. Use the link below to contact WellSpring today. WellSpring Interest Form WellSpring: Process Groups | Facebook   Podcast Music written and produced by Cheyenne Medders: Cheyenne Medders Official   Mentions & Resources Resources On Trauma & Church Trauma (note: we have not read all of these resources): My Grandmother's Hands: a book about recovering from racial trauma. Sacred Wounds: A Path to Healing from Spiritual Trauma: includes healing exercises. Redeeming Power: Understanding Authority and Abuse in the Church The Body Keeps the Score: how trauma impacts the mind and body. Escaping the Maze of Spiritual Abuse: Creating Healthy Christian Cultures: for Christian leaders to consider. - If you've experienced church trauma, consider seeking out a trauma-informed counselor or spiritual director.  RIP Professor Quirrell: Yoga: - Trauma-sensitive Yoga? - The benefits of Hot Yoga - Frozen Yoga or Snowga For Counseling Needs & Training: - Dr. Shelby's counseling: Renew Christian Counseling (renewmystory.com) - Harding University Professional Counseling Program: https://www.harding.edu/academics/colleges-departments/education/graduate-programs/mental-health-wellness-programs/clinical-mental-health-counseling# - The Townsend Institute: Townsend Institute - Dr. John Townsend (drtownsend.com) To find community in whatever you're struggling with: - Celebrate Recovery (find a group): Celebrate Recovery Locator Map (crgroups.info) To explore Christian faith or to learn how you or your church can better share faith: - Alpha Course

In this week's episode Quinn (he/him) talks with Amy Ruff (she/they) to dive deeper into what trauma is, how it can show up in our lives, and ways in which folks might come to transform their experiences. Link to access transcript: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1dDaWk5mJuu8tjxnQXpq0nqbCQQLtL-9A-4he_I4KDqs/edit For those interested in diving deeper into the topic of trauma here is a list of resources of books & websites available: My Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa Menakem, LCSW Dr. Dan Siegal - https://drdansiegel.com Dr. Stephen Porges - https://www.stephenporges.com Deb Dana's Rhythm of Regulation - https://www.rhythmofregulation.com Kai Cheng Thom - https://kaichengthom.com Vo Vo - http://vovovovo.weebly.com Trauma Informed Oregon - https://traumainformedoregon.org Healing Trauma by Peter A. Levine, Phd Getting Past Your Past (take control of your life with self-help techniques from EMDR therapy) by Francine Shapiro, Phd Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker, LMFT The works of Dr. Michael Yellow Bird -------------------------------------------- Resources: Have any questions or feedback? Fill out our Google Form, shoot us an email, or slide into our DMs on Instagram! Google Form for questions: https://forms.gle/obDVnDMGWPKUtJVm6 For SHAC Counseling Services, please call 503-725-2800 or visit the website: https://www.pdx.edu/health-counseling/counseling -------------------------------------------- Email: what@pdx.edu Instagram @psu_what (www.instagram.com/psu_what) WHAT Website: https://www.pdx.edu/health-counseling/what Virtual Mind Spa: https://www.pdx.edu/health-counseling/virtual-mind-spa

The Podcast for Nerdy Christians, where faith meets fandom. This episode, we're talking WandaVision, keying in on Wanda's grief and how it manifests. We'll also tackle some chapters of Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows. Head to facebook.com/nerdychristians to ask us a question about faith or fandom on the show. Please leave us a rating or review on your podcast platform. And check out Adam's fantasy novels on his website adamthomas.net. Join hosts and Episcopal priests Carrie Combs and Adam Thomas for this podcast for progressive Christians who love Hogwarts, Hobbits, Jedi, and Jesus. Book referenced in this episode: My Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa Menakem (click here for more info)

Today I wander into the Festival of Samhain and share some traditions or rituals that may inspire you. This includes a conversation and experiential practice to contemplate the lives of our ancestors based off of the book, My Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa Menakem. P.S. the show officially starts around minute 11, but I thought the superstition conversation with my colleagues was thematically appropriate to include!Here are the YouTubers who provided some of the information and rituals shared -> Rebekka of the Witches' Cookery, and Alwyn Oak.Here's the Spotify playlist of the songs we listened to throughout the show. Feel free to use them as you feel called for the contemplation practices I offer in today's show, or just pause the recording and sit in silence, journal or listen to your own music.Plus, here's the info on the Ringing the Bells for Climate Change event I mentioned.Today's show was engineered by Ian Seda of Radio Kingston.Our show music is from Shana Falana !!!Feel free to email me, say hello: she@iwantwhatshehas.org** Please: SUBSCRIBE to the pod and leave a REVIEW wherever you are listening, it helps other users FIND IThttp://iwantwhatshehas.org/podcastITUNES | SPOTIFY | STITCHERITUNES: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/i-want-what-she-has/id1451648361?mt=2SPOTIFY:https://open.spotify.com/show/77pmJwS2q9vTywz7Uhiyff?si=G2eYCjLjT3KltgdfA6XXCASTITCHER: https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/she-wants/i-want-what-she-has?refid=stpr'Follow:INSTAGRAM * https://www.instagram.com/iwantwhatshehaspodcast/FACEBOOK * https://www.facebook.com/iwantwhatshehaspodcastTWITTER * https://twitter.com/wantwhatshehas

This episode features your co-hosts as the guests! Adenike and Natasha take time to reflect on what drew them to creating and producing this podcast, and they share ideas for the vision of Black Creative Healing in general. They talk about their values, their work, lives and loves, and take a moment to discuss the importance of addressing grief and community from the center of their most precious relationships. The arts-based collaboration is one that you'll become quite familiar with, as it is a rewrite of the theme song! This episode invites listeners to join Natasha and Adenike in honoring and reflecting on the past two seasons as well as welcoming the possibilities that can manifest for season three. We hope you enjoy this collab as much as we did! Link to a transcript for this episode: https://share.descript.com/view/uwivJly8qgm Resources referenced: My Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa Menakem You can also visit our new Season 3 Study Room for links to all the resources we may mention this season! Right now the Menakem is listed there, as well as a link back to the Season 2 Study Room! All these links can be found by visiting https://linktr.ee/BCHpod --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/black-creative-healing/support

Phil Allen Jr is author of Open Wounds, a filmmaker, theologian, poet and PhD Candidate. He is founder of Racial Solidarity Project, an organization committed to justice through solidarity, community building and healing. You can connect with Phil work at: www.philallenjr.comTwitter @philallenjrInstagram: www.instagram.com/philallenjrig/  facebook www.facebook.com/philallenjrGet his new book is Open Wounds: A Story of Racial Tragedy, Trauma and RedemptionCheck out his podcast "Intersections with Phil Allen Jr." wherever you get your podcasts. Support his organization Racial Solidarity Project committed to justice through solidarity, community building and healing. We start our conversation by checking in with Phil on how his life has been impacted by COVID. Danielle asks him to share how he's doing during the pandemic and where he is located. Phil is located in Pasadena, CA. He is perpetually quarantined. He reads and goes out running, when out he wears a mask and is vaccinated. He's been good through the pandemic. He's highly introverted, learning this about himself about 7 years ago. The pandemic hasn't affected him emotionally or mentally but in fact has allowed him to be very productive—he's has nowhere to go, nowhere to be. He said since it hasn't been too bad for him there, he's more concerned with others.His new book Open Wounds came out this year in February; Danielle asks how the process was to write the book. Phil got the idea write book while taking a class at Fuller Seminary called Theology and Ethics of Martin Luther King. They were watching the series Eyes of the Prize about the Civil Rights Movements and he saw a picture of Emmett Till. Right then and there he made the connection to his grandfather's murder (which happened in 1953)—he imagined that's how his grandfather would have looked. He was in the river several days before his grandfather's body floated up and they found him. “I can't see Emmett Till without seeing my grandfather.”The response of his classmates really surprised him – he didn't think it would matter to them but they were in tears. It was then that he realized he needed to tell this story. But he didn't start writing right away. He went to Sundance [Institute] for a filmmaking class on directed reading, which turned out to be the most impactful class he has taken in his PhD studies because it's produced the most work, and he did the same thing: He told the story of his grandfather and people were blown away. He says he had made the content of film they were studying at Sundance real for his classmates. It became personal now because he had shared his family's story. They encouraged him to make a film. He didn't know he was going to make a film when he took that class. He didn't start writing the book until after that. He outlined everything, wrote four chapters but had no prospects and thought maybe he would self-publish. A professor of Phil's advocated for him with Fortress Press (publisher) and sent what he had over, they loved it. Phil said he has a tendency to start something and not finish it. With half the book written and having a full class load, he didn't want to keep working on the book unless it was going to be published (not self-published). Once he signed the contract with Fortress Press, he wrote the rest of the book in three months. It was at the start of the pandemic, went through four rounds of edits, and got it done for release in February 2021. Phil did not expect the process to be so emotional or taxing. He said the editing process was triggering—He said, after you've written it you have to be out of your emotions and back in analytic mode. He described incidents that would happen after he would be writing for two or three hours. He would go out and encounter someone, say at a grocery store, and it would be an older white guy who would do something or say something that would trigger him. One time he was almost hit (with a car) in a parking lot, the guy never slowed or stopped but came within 12 inches of him and Phil had to maneuver his body to jump out of the way. This led to an altercation with him. After writing for three hours, Phil said he was already at an “8” or “10” and then had this encounter happen. He realized then how much the writing was affecting him. He added accountability and ways to check in with trusted people so as not to be an outflow of the intensity of writing the book because it wouldn't be healthy. Maggie named that what happened was a blurring of past and present. Phil had been deep in his story and how his past has shaped him when in the present he encountered this altercation/incident. She said that is what is so profound about his book—it is a way to look at the past and how it is shaping us in the present. One the things in his book that impacted Maggie was how he described the layers of racism involved in his grandfather's murder: structural racism, passive and active racism. Often times we want racism to be inside a tiny little box, but through the sharing of his family's story Phil illustrates how much bigger and how layered racism is. Phil says when he was writing that section of the book, he wanted to make sure people could understand the layers, dynamics and iterations of racism. He said racism goes beyond bigotry—that is active racism—the racists acts that you can see; these are the ones we would put in the tiny little box and label racism. “If it's in that box you can say ‘oh I don't do that thing' or ‘I don't know anyone who says those things' … so ‘racism is not that big of a deal.'” The point he is illustrating is that his grandfather's story is a microcosm of what plays out in our country. Racism, he believes, is not like just any other sin or injustice. He believes racism is so destructive because it permeates all aspects of society. “Our society was organized along race, class and gender. But even among class and gender, when you overlay race you will see the distinction between the experiences” like between a white woman and a Black women, for instance. Between the two, the Black woman still comes out on the bottom. “There is still that hierarchy based on race.” He says a poor white guy still has the potential to “have it better” than a middle class or even wealthy Black guy because of race. The bigotry or active racism in his family's story was the person who shot his grandfather, or the guys who held him down. “Those are in the [racism] box. We can see that. That's wrong.” But what people don't often see is the passive racism of the witness who saw something but said nothing. Or the men who held his grandfather down; maybe they didn't think he was going to get killed but just scared… but “their conscience wasn't pricked enough to say anything.” They were complicit and chose not to report it. Silence and doing nothing is a form of passive racism. Another example of passive racism is the lack of investigation by law enforcement—they are complicit because they were unwilling to look any further even though there was a bullet hole in his grandfather's head. Then there was the medical examiner who signs off on the death certificate that it was “accidental drowning.” There was a whole network operating cohesively coherently together—that is the picture of racism that he wanted to convey in the telling of his grandfather's death. Racism is not just one thing, it's a network that our whole society is organized around. To talk only about bigotry keeps the conversation narrow. And to ignore that would be to dismiss people's experiences so we must talk about both—we need to view individual acts of racism like bigotry in the context of the institutional, structural or systemic racism. It is the latter than keeps perpetuating racism and allowing it continue generation after generation. Phil describes a conversation he had with a pastor he knows who can't understand why we keep talking about the past. The Pastor wanted solutions for moving forward and Phil challenged him by asking “how can you get solutions to move forward when you don't even know how we got here. You're just compound the issue or potentially cause more trauma, more problems because you don't know how the past shapes us today. The legacy of the past is living out today and you want to skip past that…That's not part of the solution…. That is the solution, that's the first step! To know how we got to this place so that we can start to undo and get to the root causes of the issue in our society when it comes to race.” Phil said that the Pastor didn't want to hear that and it's been the battle. The pastor told him he didn't like all of Phil's post on social media that were focused on the past. And Phil responded, “Then stop preaching the gospel! Stop quoting scripture because the entire Bible is a story about the past.” “So why can't we do the same when we talk about the past?”Maggie said Phil did this really well in his book—weave the past and the present—especially with his theological reflections which were at the end of each chapter. In his book, Maggie liked how he returned a number of times to the story of the Good Samaritan, a story so many are very familiar with and in fact has made its way into our collective conscious. There were two things that Phil pointed that were new thinking for her: the winding road as an active part of the story / an active participant in what happens to the man, which translates to structural and systemic racism today, and (what you won't hear in white evangelical spaces) is the fact that Jesus intentionally and purposefully identities the ethnicities all the characters. For their ethnicities to have not been included the story, the story would have a far different meaning.Phil said the Good Samaritan story is so rich you could write an entire book on just that story alone. He said the first time he heard about the analogy of the winding road was from Dr. King in one of his speeches and also in his book Strength to Love: He (MLK Jr.) talked about having to fix the winding road so the next person traveling doesn't have the same experience. No one really wants to change the winding road; the winding road has always been this way. And only certain people are experiencing problems on this road but it's not that big of deal, and that's how we look at injustice. The question really is, Phil asks, “who really benefits from the road staying the way it is?” The powers that be don't want to answer this question; who benefits from the status quo?Danielle says we live in a democracy that was created for white men; they were the ones with the right to vote and they created a system for themselves. This was not a system who was created for everyone. The Indigenous peoples of this land were not even seen as human and they were not included in the concept of “democracy” or “rights.” She says, “When we look at the Declaration of Independence, it is not a declaration for anybody other than white male men and then therefore benefits their spouses and families.” She believes it's important to name that. There's a difference between she says, looking at our history and feeling so shamed by it that we become paralyzed and can't move, versus than looking at our systems and saying we actually want to create a move equal system. She believes we are up against powers, structures and principalities and that manifests in the real terrorism against Phil's grandfather. Phil says that the reason change is so slow is because those who dominate power, those who are in control, have to give something up. He believes that the problem is not just about policies, it's about personnel. “Who's sitting at the table making decisions? Who's representing who?” This is where a lot of the fight is. The foundation of this country is built for white men. Phil's spiritual dad told him; “You cannot build on another man's foundation. If that foundation is compromised, why do we continue to build on it? Why do we think we can just tweak it and all will be okay? Why do we think we can use cosmetics—tokenism and things like that—to make it look better. The system is still compromised.” He says until we get a change in personnel, the people who are sitting at the table making decisions for everybody, we're going to be having this same conversation a generation from now. Saying that the country was built for white men upsets many white men, but it's the truth. Until we reckon with that, Phil wonders what are we doing?Danielle says there's the idea that “the truth will set you free” but she believes it also makes you miserable if you have to face it. There's a bind there for white men—the concept of freedom and yet it's been taken from all these other people and assumed rights, therefore you're miserable. Phil adds it's these very people that are trying to claim the very thing they have a right to – freedom. Danielle said this leads her mind to Phil's discussion in his book about the difference between reconciliation and solidarity. Phil used to say “racial reconciliation” all the time until a professor, Dr. Love Sechrest, would cringe when because it has been so diluted and watered down and weakened. This usually happens, he adds, when the masses get ahold of a term. Her argument was that reconciliation deals with the interpersonal relationships. Phil uses the three of us an example—We can be good and have a reconciled relationship and not be in solidarity. “In other words, we will be friends but if there another entity, outside of our community, that's affecting me but not you, and you do nothing about it; you step aside and you allow me to keep experiencing this thing but you're not willing to stand in with me against that outside entity, then the question is are we really reconciled?” Solidarity says I stand with you against entity that is affecting you, even when it's not impacting me. There's risk involved. We can't get to reconciliation without solidarity. In 2 Corinthians 5 it says we've been given the ministry of reconciliation; we are reconciled to God. But Phil asks, what allows us that to happen? He says it is the solidaric act of God. It is because God took on flesh – that's solidarity! God could have remained in the mystery and invisibility of God's self and still be God. But God chose to take on human flesh (John 1:14) and dwell among us—that's solidarity. For Him [Jesus], that solidarity led to fatigue, temptation, suffering and ultimately going to the cross to die on behalf of humanity and creation. That is solidarity. And Phil says it is solidarity that gets us to the conversation of reconciliation. Reconciliation, he says, asks us to forget so that we can be good, united and get along. If we keep remembering the offenses it's going to be hard to be reconciliation. Solidarity requires us to remember, that's the very thing that brings us together and inspires us. Danielle asks, “Is our faith big enough?” She says, “We don't to have to believe. We don't even have to have faith as big as a mustard seed to reconcile because we don't have to remember. We don't have engage our faith. Faith is about remembering. Faith is not just about the present. When we talk about a mutual faith, we're talking about a mutual remembering. We do not share faith unless we remember. And faith cannot be engaged without justice and mercy.” Danielle goes on to say we have to remember what happened to Phil's grandfather if we are to have a shared faith. Amen amen amen, Phil says, that's it. Maggie recalls from Phil's book when he talked about solidarity being required for the kind of communal trauma that we've all experienced, he wrote that trauma disorients and solidarity reorients. Phil says with trauma we've become so good at compartmentalizing and fragmenting that we don't appreciate how much of a shared trauma we have. When he thinks about to his home town people might say, “what happened to your grandfather,” but what he wants to say “no, what happened to us.” The community was wounded, Black and white folks alike, but they don't recognize it. He said it made him look at his community differently because they don't even realize that collectively they were traumatized. Even the white folks don't realize that it's affecting them too. Phil believes this is where the sickness remains: we are unwilling to diagnoses or be diagnosed with what the trauma has caused. “I present this as ‘this is our story'” he says, “and not just my hometown but even beyond.” Phil recalls a white guy coming up to him in tears after he was speaking and the guy told Phil about the pictures of his grandfather standing in front of lynched bodies. The pictures were all around the house and what is a little kid, 7, 8 or 9 years old supposed to do with that? That's not normal, it may be normalized but it isn't normal. This white man has been carrying that around inside him for decades, he's carrying trauma. His mind was forcing his soul, his being, to accept that as okay until he heard a young man (Phil) preach on it and now he's forced to remember and he's in tears and he doesn't know what do with that but his body is responding. Maggie says Phil invites all people (in his book) to listen to their bodies. Trauma fragments and disconnects us from our bodies, both white people and people of color. These are the coping mechanisms that we have used to get through collective trauma, shared trauma. Phil said this is something he just recently learned for himself: to listen to his body. He said, “we have submitted to the sovereignty of reason. This is the way we know things. And the reality is that our bodies know things too. Things that our minds may have suppressed.” He says this is where the healing happens if we are brave enough to step into what our bodies remember. “What was my grandmother's body saying to her when I asked her the question about my grandfather's death? She didn't know. She didn't have the language for it.” And Phil says he didn't know at the time either but he knows now that her body did not want to remember or revisit—her alarm system was now on and she didn't know what to do about it. Phil thinks if she had the resources, someone could have walk her through it. Danielle asked him, how do you see, through your studies and through embodying healing for his family, the resilience of your ancestors and the resilience he is creating to make new paths forward? He clarifies her question, how am I understanding the redemptive part?Yes, she says, how do you see the ways of your ancestors for building resilience in the face of collective trauma and how do you see your own resilience? What old ways of resilience does he notice and what new ways of resilience is he building?Phil replies, “I think telling the story, narrating my story, it's empowering. Even if it's painful, it's empowering. Once I began to tell my story it was like I was unleashed. It empowered me and strengthened me.” The fact that he could go through the process and make the film, write his book are evidence of resiliency. Phil said it really began the second time he asked his grandmother the question (about his grandfather's death), and she was able to answer. It was a very difference response 5-10 years later. He said it was as if this time (when he asked her) she was prepared. He sees the resiliency of his dad and his sibling to have the conversation about how their father died. By Phil asking questions of them, it gave permission for them to tell the story and to talk about the thing they hadn't allowed themselves to talk about. It opened up new pathways of healing. Telling that story fired up the juices of resiliency for both he and his dad. Phil says it is the same as going to therapy—being asked a lot of questions helps to you start telling your story. It's painful but if you can get passed that initial pain and realize you're okay, then you're more likely be able to continue telling the rest of your story. “Someone is listening. And I think that empowers people or stirs up this resiliency in people.”Maggie was struck by what Phil said about his grandmother—she was more able to engage the second time he asked her about his grandfather; she had had the space and freedom to be thinking about it after Phil had initially asked her. “It's not that we just tell our stories one time. It's that through the telling and the re-telling, that's where the resiliency is built. That's where we hand down the wisdom...” like when Phil was talking to his father about his father, it's in that space of storytelling that we are given the room to grown and stretch. This reminds Maggie about when Resmaa Menakem (In his book My Grandmother's Hands) talks about clean pain vs. dirty pain—clean pain is pain that leads to growth and healing. Dirty pain is the pain of avoiding and denial that ultimately leads to more pain. Storytelling is the clean pain that leads towards healing, resilience and invites the community to do it as well. “And towards solidarity,” Phil adds. He said when you add creativity to storytelling, things like filmmaking, sketching poetry, you tell the story creatively that adds to the healing and building resiliency.Danielle says there is such beauty in that and yet there is also a cost—a cost to his body and to his grandmother's body to do this kind of storytelling. She feels the weight of that, that there even has to be resiliency there.Phil says he has felt the cost to his body as he was going through his PhD program with his research: The intersection of race, racism, theology, justice. He was reading, writing, researching and reflecting all the time. For him, he runs. He says he tries to match the weight of what he is doing (with work, with the history he his remembering, with the future he is envisioning) with practices of wellness. And not in a reactionary way but a proactive one. For his 48th birthday ran a marathon. As he was saying this, he recalled that his grandmother went on walks everyday for 2 or 3 miles—she too knew her body needed movement and she had practices like working in her yard, going for walks, that were the practices of wellness that sustained her just above survival, helping her to maintain, be strong and accomplish things. Maggie mentioned that in his book Phil remembered her grandmother rocking, her body responding. There was a sweet moment where he pondered if she danced with her husband. Phil said, “That hit me.” He sighs. “Whenever I pictured her rocking she was holding herself, bracing herself.” When he wrote that he asked “Could she have been remembering my grandfather? Imaging him hold her dancing.” When Maggie said that it took Phil back to being a kids and seeing her rock. “I wasn't ready for that one.”Maggie said, this is exactly what we're taking about: where the past meets us in the present. And then feeling it in our bodies. And the question is are we going to listen to that or ignore it? The invitation then is to engage in kindness, the wellness practices as Phil called them, in a proactive way to build the kind of resiliency needed to just live in his skin in this world without becoming disruptive. Phil says “I'm going to be reflecting on that all day: grandma rocking. Was she dancing with my grandfather. And now framing that as a proactive of wellness for her. I just wish she had the language to recognize what she was doing, and that was good.Danielle says that he carries in his body, these practices that are from long ago, before his grandmother, honed and passed down.Phil says we talk about my people we like to dance. And that goes back to before his ancestors got here. Dancing is built into many cultures. That's why we so naturally, the beat comes up, and we're home. Music is a safe space. And this (dancing) is a practice of wellness that is woven into their DNA. Maggie remembers one other piece from the book about a white pastor (Bobby) who was going to meet with some folks to pray about something that had happened in the community and all of a sudden the pastor was life, “is this a Black Lives Matter march?” The wellness practices with your feet, here talking about dancing, and in the book it was taking your feet to the streets. Marching is the rhythm, what our feet sound like together. Our bodies know what to do. Phil says this goes back to reversing our fragmentation through integrating our bodies and appreciating our bodies. Christianity holds a binary where the body is bad and doesn't matter; All that matters is our soul. Seeing our bodies, integrating and moving our bodies in practices of wellness, is an important part of our healing. And Pastor Bobby needed it—he will do more than just remember what he saw, he will now remember what he felt in his body in the march. Phil remembers what he felt in the Summer 2020 at the protest he attended. He remembers who he was standing next to, whether his feet hurting, how the sun was on his skin. This is inviting his body to be a part of the process of remembering.You can connect with Phil work at: www.philallenjr.comTwitter @philallenjrInstagram: www.instagram.com/philallenjrig/  Facebook www.facebook.com/philallenjrGet his new book is Open Wounds: A Story of Racial Tragedy, Trauma and RedemptionCheck out his podcast "Intersections with Phil Allen Jr." wherever you get your podcasts. Support his organization Racial Solidarity Project committed to justice through solidarity, community building and healing. Phil is reading Willie Jennings Phil is listening to 80s and 90s Hip Hop and R&B: “the golden era.” He also listens to worship as he's running. Phil is inspired by the next generation who are seeing what's happening and are stepping in to make an impact. As an example he named Amanda Gorman and the young adults who were organizing protests in the Summer of 2020. 

For the first episode of this two part presentation, we'll be taking you to a conversation between Jordan Anderson and Pax Natura board member and former Director of Indian Affairs for the State of Utah, Forrest Cuch. Forrest is a member of the Ute Tribe of Northeastern Utah and a dedicated conservationist.In this episode, he gives us some insight into a broad range of issues that affect indigenous communities in the US today and the still-present effects and unfinished business of the first meeting between Christopher Columbus and the Tanos People. Forrest also shares some of his thoughts on how we can build a more just, equitable, and healthy world for us all.Discussion also includes insights from the books My Grandmother's Hands by Resma Menakem, and The Book of Destiny by Carlos Barios.We hope you enjoy.

Through the ruptures of the past year and more, we've been given so much to learn, and callings to live differently. But how to do that, and where to begin? Resmaa Menakem's book, My Grandmother's Hands, and his original insights into racialized trauma in all kinds of bodies, have offered new ways forward for us all. So we said yes when Resmaa proposed that he join On Being together with Robin DiAngelo. She has been a foremost white voice in our civilizational grappling with whiteness. This conversation is not comfortable, but it is electric and it opens possibility. Resmaa Menakem (MSW, LICSW, SEP) teaches workshops on Cultural Somatics for audiences of African Americans, European Americans, and police officers. He is also a therapist in private practice, and a senior fellow at The Meadows. His New York Times best-selling book is My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies.Robin DiAngelo has been a consultant, educator, and facilitator for over 20 years and is an Affiliate Associate Professor of Education at the University of Washington in Seattle. She's the author of the influential book White Fragility: Why It's So Hard For White People To Talk About Racism. Her new book is Nice Racism: How Progressive White People Perpetuate Racial Harm.This interview is edited and produced with music and other features in the On Being episode "Robin DiAngelo and Resmaa Menakem — Towards a Framework for Repair." Find the transcript for that show at onbeing.org. And listen to Resmaa's first conversation with Krista, ‘Notice the Rage; Notice the Silence.'

Through the ruptures of the past year and more, we've been given so much to learn, and callings to live differently. But how to do that, and where to begin? Resmaa Menakem's book, My Grandmother's Hands, and his original insights into racialized trauma in all kinds of bodies, have offered new ways forward for us all. So we said yes when Resmaa proposed that he join On Being together with Robin DiAngelo. She has been a foremost white voice in our civilizational grappling with whiteness. This conversation is not comfortable, but it is electric and it opens possibility. Resmaa Menakem (MSW, LICSW, SEP) teaches workshops on Cultural Somatics for audiences of African Americans, European Americans, and police officers. He is also a therapist in private practice, and a senior fellow at The Meadows. His New York Times best-selling book is My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies.Robin DiAngelo has been a consultant, educator, and facilitator for over 20 years and is an Affiliate Associate Professor of Education at the University of Washington in Seattle. She's the author of the influential book White Fragility: Why It's So Hard For White People To Talk About Racism. Her new book is Nice Racism: How Progressive White People Perpetuate Racial Harm.Find the transcript for this show at onbeing.org. And listen to Resmaa's first conversation with Krista, 'Notice the Rage; Notice the Silence.'This show originally aired in July, 2020.

In this episode I have the pleasure of talking to the incredible Resmaa Menakem, a Healer, best-selling author, and trauma specialist.    Resmaa helps people, communities, and organisations find strength in healing historical and racialised trauma – carried in the body and the soul – that is holistic and resilient. He is a cultural trauma navigator and helps people rise through the suffering's edge. He is a communal provocateur and coach, a Senior Fellow with The Meadows Institute and considers it his job in this moment to make the invisible visible.   I have the pleasure of hearing more about Resmaa's journey from social work to healing historical and racialised trauma. We talk about the beautiful inspiration behind the name of his book, My Grandmother's Hands. We also talk about the concept of 'white body supremacy'. The immaturity of white body supremacy and the barrier it creates anti-racism and healing. We talk about healing from racialised trauma, Black women and creation, and Resmaa's best-selling book, My Grandmother's Hands.    Referenced in the episode: -Resmaa's free Racialized Trauma Course: https://courses.culturalsomaticsinstitute.com/courses/cultural-somatics-free-5-session-ecourse - My Grandmother's Hands: https://www.penguin.co.uk/books/443/443125/my-grandmother-s-hands/9780141996479.html - Podcast Ep 3 BLM One Year On, Toxic Masculinity, Healing and Honouring Women with Daniel Edmund https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/blm-one-year-on-toxic-masculinity-healing-honouring/id1506584414?i=1000523257338   You can connect with Resmaa on his Instagram @resmaamenakem and Linktree page to download a free radicalised trauma course   You can connect with me over at @novareidofficial (https://www.instagram.com/novareidofficial/) and at www.novareid.com   If you are ready to do the inner work and learn to be actively anti-racist please visit my website for further details about my online academy: Becoming Anti-racist with Nova Reid  https://novareid.com/services/anti-racism-course/    Don't forget if you learn something and these add value you can join my brand new podcast community over on Patreon to support this work and get access to exclusive content: https://www.patreon.com/novareid.   If this podcast resonates with you, please leave a review.

In this episode, we have a special guest, Katie, joining us. Katie is actually the patient from Episode 19: Putting It All Together: A Case Study of Conscious Clinical Practice. This is a unique opportunity for a former patient and provider to reflect upon their experience working together. Be sure to listen to Episode 19 first for context!  Katie shares his first reaction to E:19. In his words “It was fascinating to hear the two of you talk together and to learn what does it sound like when practitioners are talking to each other and what are some of the common thoughts or assumptions or experiences, especially working with someone who has chronic pain.”  We dive deeper into his corrections for E:19, the power of focusing on what's important to the patient about their pain, how providers' responses can build and break rapport with patients, how our time in PT was different than his prior experiences, and share how we were both affected by working together. This is not one to miss!  -- Katie is a Director of Finance for a small nonprofit. His journey with chronic pain led him to change career paths six years ago, going back to school for an MBA, having previously worked in outdoor education – running rock climbing, ropes course, and canoeing programs with kids. Katie is queer and transgender, and a writer and activist on gender justice, who recognizes that chronic pain and other chronic health conditions are much more prevalent in marginalized groups who often experience chronic trauma and stress. These days, Katie enjoys playing fetch and going for walks with his goofy pitbull, Loki, but he is looking forward to rock climbing again someday. Highlights from our conversation in Episode 20 (0:34) Introducing Katie  (2:01) His first reaction to Episode 19 (5:44) Katie's E:19 correction - the link between stress & pain  (9:28) The pivotal moment of discovering neural tension  (11:22) How providers are (unintentionally) gaslighting  (15:00) Katie's side of the initial evaluation  (18:10) What's important to patients vs providers about pain (22:05) A trauma-informed perspective  (25:17) Providers are specialized but patients are specific  (28:23) What patient's DO want from healthcare providers (32:43) Generalists, specialists, and connecting the dots (37:04) Pain rating scale and management (40:15) On asking patients what they want  (45:26) Nocebic quotes from Katie's healthcare providers (51:02) “You're not fragile”  (54:48) Lightning Round Thank you for listening to The Conscious Clinician. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and write a review for the podcast to grow our community. Keep the conversation going by following The Conscious Clinician on Instagram and Facebook.  Resources from Episode 20 (0:43) Episode 19: Putting It All Together: A Case Study of Conscious Clinical Practice (55:24) My Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa Menaken (58:03) Radically Listening to Transgender Children Let's Connect! Find us on Facebook Connect over Instagram @TheConsciousClinician Connect professionally over LinkedIn with Sammy & Monika

This week we're asking a pretty fundamental question that parents might get from their kids: where does racism come from? In this deep and lively conversation host Dianne Haulcy speaks with Resmaa Menakem - therapist, coach and best selling author of My Grandmother's Hands. He breaks down how racism is connected to generational trauma and he describes practices that can heal the trauma and strengthen anti-racist thinking and action.  Episode Resources: https://www.resmaa.com/movement https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/somatic-abolitionism https://onbeing.org/programs/resmaa-menakem-notice-the-rage-notice-the-silence/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/compassion-matters/202006/the-trauma-racism

This week we talked to Marvin Toliver of Melanated Social Work and we continued Mental Health Awareness Month with a conversation about Marvin's work, what radical therapy looks like and we get into our crying in therapy bag a little bit near the end, inspired by an instagram post from Marvin. Tap in and let us know what you think.   Join the LTB Book Club as we discuss My Grandmother's Hands on 5/19: http://bit.ly/LTBBookClub   This year our theme is, "Divesting from Patriarchy" so here's how you can get involved and have your opinion heard on the show:       1. Record a 30 second message of what divesting from patriarchy means to you       2. Send your message to letstalkbruh@gmail.com OR call 708-320-3126 to leave a voicemail OR send us a voice text via Instagram DM       3. Tune in to hear your clip on the show.       Let's Talk Bruh is hiring! We're looking for a Business Development Strategist. Apply here.     Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram   Join our Men's Facebook Group here: Let's Talk Bruh Facebook Group   Subscribe to the Let's Talk Bruh YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsa2wXlKMWlpAER8v16zXZw

This week we connected with Yolo Akili, the founder of BEAM (Black Emotional and Mental Health Collective).  As May is Mental Health Awareness Month we talked to Yolo about all things mental health, but it didn't stop there.  We dug into the radical framework, Social Justice Informed Mental Health Literacy, BEAM uses in their work and why this framework is important to the work they do in our communities.  We also talk about Yolo, his story, and how he tries to live in alignment. Press play, tune in, and take out your notepad for this one. You don't wanna miss the gems Yolo was dropping.  Lastly, big thanks to Demarco for sharing with us how he divests from patriarchy.    Join the LTB Book Club as we discuss My Grandmother's Hands on 5/19: http://bit.ly/LTBBookClub   This year our theme is, "Divesting from Patriarchy" so here's how you can get involved and have your opinion heard on the show:       1. Record a 30 second message of what divesting from patriarchy means to you       2. Send your message to letstalkbruh@gmail.com OR call 708-320-3126 to leave a voicemail OR send us a voice text via Instagram DM       3. Tune in to hear your clip on the show.       Let's Talk Bruh is hiring! We're looking for a Business Development Strategist. Apply here.     Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram   Join our Men's Facebook Group here: Let's Talk Bruh Facebook Group   Subscribe to the Let's Talk Bruh YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsa2wXlKMWlpAER8v16zXZw

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Resmaa Menakem    The week of April 19, 2021 was brutal. People around the world, but especially here in the U.S., were waiting on a verdict in the Derek Chauvin trial. But then there were other killings that same week of Black bodies by police. It was almost too much to process. But this conversation with healer, therapist, and NYT best selling author Resmaa Menakem gave me a deeper perspective.  Resmaa and I spoke a few hours before the verdict in the  trial came down. We talked about George Floyd, we talked about other Black bodies murdered by police. We also spoke about trauma, Black trauma, white trauma, and the trauma that is held in the bodies of those in blue. We spoke about white body supremacy and what we all need to do to heal that for the sake of all people. We spoke about the role of community in the healing process and how we all need people who not only care for us but hold us to account. In the context of the trial of the murderer of George Floyd hanging over us, this conversation was especially powerful. After speaking with Resmaa I had a more comprehensive direction for future action and I believe you will too. For a written transcript of this conversation click here. Resmaa, Menakem, MSW, LICSW, SEP, is a healer, therapist and NYTimes bestselling author of My Grandmother's Hands. Resmaa Menakem is a visionary Justice Leadership coach, organizational strategist and master trainer. To help Justice leaders really realize their potential in the areas of Equity & Race, Resmaa created cultural somatics, which utilizes the Body & Resilience as mechanisms for growth. Resources mentioned in this episode: My Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa Menakem, available wherever you buy your books Resmaa's Wyser App  Connect with Resmaa: Website Credits: Harmonica music courtesy of a friend

This episode has the groundedly, fierce Avery Kalapa (yoga practitioner, community weaver, and wellness organizer). This conversation was recorded days after Adam Toledo and Daunte Wright's murders and among harmful transphobic information & legislation continue to endanger those we love. Self-discernment (or viveka which is the Sanskrit for discernment) is a running theme as we talked about the dynamics of white supremacy, disrupting habits & systems of harm, sustaining action within activism, permission for our mystic selves to express our art.    Hear Avery explore how developing spiritual and/or movement practice(s) can support our discernment especially while navigating social locations. We talk about Resma Menakem's book, My Grandmother's Hands and Resma's discernment invitation relating the fight, flight, freeze and annihilate responses within our nervous systems, which could also be acting from our samskaras. Bonus, Dorothy (Nameh's neighbor donkey) makes her presence known during the conversation too.  ___ Avery is a community weaver, wellness organizer, and a Certified Iyengar Yoga Teacher, eRYT500, YACEP, BFA, with 20 years experience in yoga. Avery's approach is rooted in anti oppression: yoga for inner healing towards collective liberation. They love creating healing spaces that that don't require assimilation for queer & trans folks, outsiders and changmekers to often left out of mainstream yoga. Celebrated for their enthusiasm, accessibility, and depth of technique, their teaching reflects a deep gratitude for the Iyengar Lineage.     Avery is involved in various yoga equity projects, such as ABQ Queer Trans Community Yoga. They're also a gardener, and parent. Avery is a white, queer, nonbinary settler grateful to live on unceded Tiwa land, in Albuquerque NM.   Show Resources:  Avery's contacts - website newsletter instagram facebook  recent IGTV live hosted @susannabarkataki with Susanna Barkataki + many trans yoga enthusiasts Honor Native Land Tax  Albuquerque SURJ  White Supremacy Culture by Tema Okun My Grandmother's Hands by Resma Menakem  White Fragility by Robin DiAngelo  Ursula Le Guin, author quoted Lilla Watson, visual artist quoted  Details of the 80+ Anti-Trans bills  Audio by AGSoundtrax, Don't Look Back

On this episode of The Hennessy Report podcast, Dave speaks with Robin DiAngelo, author of "White Fragility: Why It's So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism." Michael Eric Dyson wrote the forward to Robin's latest book, stating it was a "vital, necessary, and beautiful book." Robin has been a tenured professor at Westfield State University, received her PhD in Multicultural Education from University of Washington where she is an associate professor today. During the podcast, Robin recommends the following authors and thinkers, along with their works, that have influenced and inspired her on this subject: Layla F. Saad - "Me and White Supremacy" Charles W. Mills - "The Racial Contract" Eddie Moore Jr - 21-Day Racial Equity Habit Building Challenge Reni Eddo-Lodge - "Why I'm No Longer Talking to White People About Race" Carol Anderson - ex. "White Rage" Michael Eric Dyson - "Tears We Cannot Stop" Ijeoma Oluo - "So You Want to Talk About Race" Resmaa Menakem- "My Grandmother's Hands" Next up on the podcast is Yolanda Butler Stephens, Chief of People and Culture at Chicago's Museum of Science and Industry, Chicago

The podcast gets its very first guest, Hassan Rogers, who helps the hosts navigate a conversation on white privilege and racism in modern America.  The deep-dive analysis uses candor, challenging questions, levity and some activities from the book My Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa Menakem.  Including the musical stylings of Bobby Dragon.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

with Bryn Bamber. Full show notes available at www.valerielavignelife.com/107 [00:25] Valerie LaVigne: You're listening to the women's empowerment podcast today. I'm very excited to welcome Bryn to the show. Brian is a mental health professional helping heart centered creative healers help more people and more make more money by healing childhood, shit. I love that it is such a great elevator pitch. So join me in welcoming Bryn to the show. Welcome.   Bryn Bamber: Thank you so much for having me. I'm excited to chat.    VL: Yeah, I'm excited to chat with you too. It's been a little while since we've since we've connected so can you tell us a little bit about how you got to be this mental health professional and how you like to be helping people like you do.   [1:16] BB: So I come to mental health, from my own mental health struggles. I'm one of those. Um, I suffered from pretty severe anxiety, and I wasn't even aware but when I was younger, I just thought I was stressed and everyone was stressed, and I had kind of normalized my reality which is a coping mechanism. And so I just didn't, I didn't realize how high my anxiety was at the time. But I started to get some clues when I was 21, years old, and I burnt out of my first job ever so I graduated from university, I got a job I got business cards. I bought a blazer. And in a lot of ways that job was my dream job and I was really excited about it. And what happened was, I made a couple of medium sized mistakes, which happen in any job, but I was really beating myself up about them and I wasn't able to recover. So I went kind of like, pretty deep into perfectionism. I would like editing one email for a whole week, like editing re editing, and eventually got to a point where, I couldn't really do the work, so I burnt out I quit.   And I knew I couldn't return to that like I couldn't just go to a job board and look for another job because I would just look for the exact same job but I really liked the work that I was doing. But I, um, yeah I knew I needed to kind of switch things up so I ended up moving to an ashram yoga retreat and study center. I initially went for a month I extended extended extended ended up living there for two years studying yoga and meditation for two years. Me yoga teacher and then was able to return to the workforce with new tools. The second kind of pivotal moment in my journey was when I was 29, I had started this Mental Health Training Program in core energetics. And as in a class on early childhood trauma.   And I, in that class realized I had all the symptoms. All the symptoms of someone who has suppressed childhood trauma and kind of started to realize that like this was me. So my anxiety started to make a little bit more sense of where it was coming from. And also that awareness allowed me to start to heal it, because before that I didn't really know that I had it. So, um, I finished that training program, and it was pretty life changing for me core energetics was pretty life changing for me at reducing my anxiety, so I'm super passionate about it. Super excited to talk to all your listeners and start to get them the support they need. If they struggle with anxiety.   [4:39] VL: Thank you so much for sharing that story, I didn't realize you're at the ashram for two years, you must have come away with lots of incredible tools. I know I've spent my fair share of time not that much time in yoga institutes and different health care facilities so that's really, really incredible. The, there's so many questions I have.   And I guess I want to tie it all back since we're heading into the holiday season to anxiety around the holidays if we could focus on that a little bit today. What are some of the surface signs, what are some of the signs of feeling anxious or maybe the signs, leading up to burn out during this time of year. BB: Yeah so everyone's a little bit different and it's important to start to notice yourself and notice what's coming up for you. But anxiety is basically a vibration in the body. So for some people it's like their tasks, some people their neck and shoulders get really sore they're like TMJ flares up when they have anxiety, but basically you don't feel good and for me it's kind of like a high frequency. Um, jittery, kind of feeling in terms of burnout.   I think signs are, you know, not wanting to get out of bed in the morning feeling like a sense of dread about what you have planned for the day. Just feeling tired and sometimes it's.   You're tired and even though it's like things that you would like to do you feel kind of like tired. Another big example is the five of your emotional reactions. So one of the things to talk about in mental health is having a right sized reaction. So, I mean, you obviously see this when someone gets cut off in traffic and they like lose their shit.   When it's like, okay, someone cut you off in traffic. Yes, that's rude, but you don't need to like scream and holler at them. So, if, um, you know, you come home from work, and someone took your parking space, and you burst into tears, or, you know, you're just having a higher, like it's like, of course, if a member of your family passes away and you burst into tears, or you're devastated that's the right size but the big events, but when it's something smaller like, you know, you get into your car and the engine won't start, and you start to panic. It's like, that's a little bit of a too big of a reaction for what's happening so that's definitely a key sign in burnout.   [7:46] VL: I can definitely relate to both of those feelings that generate an anxious, kind of anxiety piece, but also the burnout piece and how they are closely related but they are very different.   I don't think that I'm trying to think about my own experiences right now and how that anxiety kind of shows up for me, and I would agree with the jitters on my side. So, let's, let's focus a little bit more on the anxiety piece. Tell us, when you start to feel this way when we started to notice the signs in our own body, we're not feeling great. Were getting the jitters or feeling that vibrational frequency in our bodies, what can we do?   BB: So, when you're feeling anxiety you're starting to go into fight or flight right your nervous system is kind of ramping up and either flight, it's great. If there is a bear. And that bears chasing you. It's great in these situations that are like high risk and you actually do need to run away, or you need to fight.   Because the blood all goes through your lens and your heartbeat goes faster. And you stop digesting and you stop. If you have any like wounds or illnesses that all you stop healing, because all the energy is going to fight. Tiger or run away.   If there's not a tiger in the room. It's really not helpful, because you get like you're very single pointed focus right you're just like, get away from the tiger. You aren't in your creative brain you are. Problem Solving blank brain. And again, you're not digesting so sometimes if you have digestive issues, it can be related to like being in the fight or flight mode too often. You're not healing if you have a cold your immune system is going to be at top performance which I mean, even more important than ever this year that you try to keep our immune systems, going. So, what you want to do is, the thing is your brain thinks there's a tiger. The reason that you're having this nervous system response is because, you know, for me, sometimes it's an email right like I get an email and it has a certain tone.   And I go into fight or flight, I'm like, Oh, did I do something wrong is this person mad at me, blah blah blah. Um, so what you want to do is you want to bring your nervous system, back to the present moment where there is no tiger.   So some of the things you can do, are just look around, look like, Listen, say, oh, there's a lamp. So there's a window, there's a guitar hanging on my wall in my room here. So you're looking around and what you're doing is you're bringing yourself back to the present moment and you're basically check if there's a tiger.    Look around. And as you start to look around, you can start to listen what sounds Do you hear are they dangerous sounds you can touch different materials, you know like, I'm touching my sweater here.   You can touch your desk whatever is around you but you're, what you're doing is you're bringing your nervous system back into the present moment. Where, where there is no tiger, if there is a tiger, you want to invite. But that's kind of some of the first steps.   [11:47] VL: Yeah, it's important to have that fight or flight mode when something's life threatening. And we actually chatted about this in a previous episode about finding where you are and becoming more present. And right away realizing that hey there isn't a tiger in the room there isn't a bear in the room, and taking that breath and bringing yourself back to the moment. So, let's say that we catch ourselves in this fight or flight mode feeling with this anxious vibration. They say okay, there's no tiger. There's no Tiger I'm okay. But what if this keeps happening to us what if we keep experiencing this anxiety, how do we go from being that anxious person to being a little bit more calm, on a day to day basis.   BB: So I wouldn't say there's kind of two here. Sometimes, or I guess probably always. Um, if you're a nervous system is a type of nervous system that sends a lot of time in fight or flight there's probably a reason. There's probably some challenging experience that you went through that kind of had a big impact. And so sometimes what's happening when we're going to fight or flight is we're going back our nervous system is going back to that incident. It was challenging for us.   So, it's important to explore the kind of the root cause. Um, I know for me, one of the root causes of anxiety was actually suppressed anger. So, I grew up in a household where anger wasn't allowed passive aggressiveness was allowed like direct anger was not good, so I just put my anger away. And so, a lot of my anxiety, ended up being me being angry, but holding in it.   So, one of, honestly, I think. I don't know if I'm gonna say it's the biggest healing thing that happened to me around my anxiety, but it might be is getting back in touch with my anger and starting to express that starting to send set half healthy boundaries. And so, if you are someone who is a people pleaser and conflict avoidant. This might be you. And part of your healing might be starting to set healthier boundaries because sometimes that anxiety is because, you know, guess there is no Tiger but something is going wrong someone's taking advantage of you, or you're doing something that's training you and, as you start to set those healthy boundaries, it can really help. The other part of it is getting out of fight or flight is like building a muscle. It takes practice, it takes reps. It's like going to the gym. The gym of coming back into a grounded space. And, you know, I gave you some examples of things that can help. And as you practice, you might find other things that you can help that can help you. For me, one of my big triggers is being late.   And so I would often end up on the subway or on a bus, and I, I went to sleep, and my nervous system is at a 100, which is not the right size reaction.   Um, but one of the things that I found just through trying to figure it out, was, if I could find someone, and this is like, I'm slightly embarrassed to say this but it was helpful for me so I'm gonna be embarrassed.   If I could find someone on the bus or the subway, that I was attracted to it would help me come into the present moment, because I would be with that person I'd be like, wow, they're super good looking. and it would bring me out of wherever my brain was, and it would bring me back into them here and now. No one ever taught me that it was just literally, out of, you know, part desperation part, trying to heal that I started to, you know, I guess one thing I want to say is like, even if your listeners start to recognize when your anxiety is peaking like that's a win because awareness is huge. And then once you get aware, then you can start to try these different techniques of looking around that kind of thing.    Another technique that I find super helpful is exercise, get, like, gets me back into my body back into the present moment. Do I want to exercise when I'm anxious, hell no. Like hard to convince my brain. When I'm in the anxiety, it's hard for me to do anything other than be worried about being late. In that example. But, if I can just like put on a song and dance, or to a wall, sit at the at the wall, like all of these things are going to help. So, it is a commitment, it is a practice. It's not like you do this once, and it's gone and I wish I had a magic pill for all your listeners, but the way that I got through it was like hot hard fought it was like blood sweat and tears to be more grounded. But it's so worth it. Like, I think my anxiety. I think I used to be anxious about 90% of the time and now I'm anxious about 30% of the time. So I have so much of my life back. I have so many hours, where I get to be relaxed or joyful or playful. And so, yes, it is hard work, but to me it's totally worth it.   [18:30] VL: Absolutely. I know exactly how that feels when you're just caught up in your anxiety and a lot of the examples you shared in a lot of the tools you just shared were life on the common the common similarity between them all was that they're all very physical. So whether you're looking for something or you're trying to touch something or you're going to do a physical activity and exercise. It's that earth energy that like grounding you down.    Yeah, that heaviness of life again bringing myself back here where that jittery anxious feeling is very like whoa like way up, you feel like you're floating or running or doing you're running from the tiger, whereas everything else is a little bit more grounding. And I like when you use the word digest, so it's like you can't digest things we think this is a really interesting part about with, with my anxiety journey anyway that I've been really listening to how other people describe how they're feeling I listened to how people describe their anxiety. And so when they say things like, I feel frozen or, I'm having trouble, like, like because physically you can't look you can't heal you can't digest food but it's interesting to hear what people come up with, because those are huge signs, about what your body is actually going through. So when you're getting an overload of information you say like like oh my gosh this is too much, I can't adjust it also look at what your, your digestive system is going through. Are you backed up in your digestive system. Do you have too much on your plate. Are you, you know what I mean like those every, everyone thinks that they're just like, oh they're phrases, but they're more than that they're information from your body. So, it's, yeah, it's just those little things I've been kind of picking up as you as you were describing them.    I do want to circle back to healthy boundaries, though, because this is so important, especially around this time of year, with getting more invitations to parties and, you know, thinking that we have to have a gift for every single person that we know. So let's talk a little bit more about healthy boundaries around the holidays, what are some of your, your key tips and and teachings. [20:24] BB: Yeah, so I think the first step is, look at why don't you set, healthy boundaries. If you're a people pleaser. Are you worried about what your friends are gonna think some of my clients will say something like, oh, but I love everything I do, but I'm just like, totally dead at the end of the day, but everything I'm doing I love, and it's like too much of a good thing kind of like too much on your plate. Like you were just saying is, isn't healthy. And so, it's important to start to look at what stopped, what has historically stopped you from setting healthy boundaries because you can go in with like the rah rah I'm going to set healthy boundaries, but if you're still telling yourself these stories.   And since this is the women's empowerment podcast. I think it's important to say like women are conditioned, not to set healthy boundaries. For me, the word bitch is a woman who has boundaries. A woman who says no. It's like a good thing, but we're socialized to think that we shouldn't have boundaries we shouldn't take care of everyone we should be giving we should be compassionate, and all of these things and one of my favorite quotes ever is you can be a good person, with a kind heart, and still say no.   And the quote is unknown I've googled I've tried to find who who it's attributed to if anyone knows like seriously DM me on Instagram I want to know who wrote, who wrote that quote. But, um, yeah, it's, it's starting to realize like all of the unpaid labor that women often end up doing. So just thinking about the holidays like party planning, who's cooking. It was buying the gifts.   Um, if you're in a heterosexual relationship is it balanced, or are you doing more of the work. And so I think that's kind of the first part of almost the education piece around, like, why don't we, why don't women historically saying no as much why don't we have, as healthy boundaries. Typically, and starting to unpack that.   The next part, I would say, is to, again, like it's the same principle as the anxiety, in the sense that you're building a new muscle.   Or maybe you've been building it for a while. I'm sure some of your listeners have been working on their boundaries. But there's still room for improvement.   So again, taking baby steps taking a two pound weight, if that's where you're at just sending a mini like a mini boundary like. For me, I started setting healthy boundaries.   One of my healthy boundaries was like calling into work sick when I was actually sick. I would like feel guilty about calling in sick. When I was sick. And so, like that, maybe doesn't even seem like a boundary but for me at that stage it was so that's where I had to start. Um, you can do them orally, you can do them over text. I think sometimes people are like, I didn't do it in the moment. I didn't say it in the moment I lost my chance, and it's like, Yes, I think the goal for all of us is to like have perfectly beautiful boundaries in the moment we say exactly what we need and exactly what we're not okay with, but that doesn't.   You know, we make mistakes, we're not perfect. And so you can, you know, say yes to something, and then the next day. Text Your friend and say you know what I thought about it and I am not going to be able to make the pie, or I'm not going to be able to make it at all or, you know what, why don't we just schedule some one on one time with you guys and in January whatever kind of situation is going to be helpful for you. And the other thing like, I want to say is, you're going to make mistake. Sometimes you're going to set a boundary that's too big, it's gigantic. Sometimes you're going to set a boundary that's too small. And that's okay. That's part of building these healthy boundary muscles it's like the same with going to the gym if you have a workout that's not that great, it doesn't mean you just like give up working out completely. And you can actually learn from it, you're like, oh, that was too big of a boundary. And then you can start to find your boundary, sweet spot with different people in different situations. So those are some of the first steps might be like I could talk for hours about.   [25:41] VL: This is so helpful and when I was kind of learning about my own personal boundaries, and what made sense to me. I didn't even realize how much of a people pleaser I was how much of a yes person I was saying yes to everything. And then finding myself at this position where I had just way too much going on. And so, the first place that I started was, I do not work on Sundays. And that was my boundary I do not work on, on Sundays. And it shifted a little bit to. Okay now I don't do split shifts, so I'm either working all morning, or I'm working all night, but I'm not doing both. and it was a it was a really interesting kind of like, I guess evolution of how that the schedule boundary kind of worked for me. And then the other boundary that happened was I was working out in the mornings really early in huntable morning routine. I had just changed a lot recently.    But my other boundary was okay and I don't start work until 8am I do not work any earlier than 8am. I teach bloodies and do code health coaching so the hours are a little bit funny sometimes. However, it was not going to be any time between before 8am, because my morning routine was solid and I needed that Meantime, and as long as I had that morning workout and I have like this coffee ritual and journaling ritual. I was able to show up as a better person, and when I realized that I'm saying no, because I'm being a better service, when I do these things for myself.    And that was a really big shift that I had to make in my mind and in myself to say it's okay to say, No, I also read a book I can't remember which book this was, but it was one of a personal development book. And if I remember I'll put it in the show notes. But the book was saying, start by saying no to everything. Before you start saying yes to anything and I was like, are you kidding me What if I can do it. And so, I tried it because I was trying everything at the time I'm like, you know what, let's do an experiment, that's what I kept thinking. And I would say no to every single thing, or I would say, let me think about it as my cousin wanted to reply immediately but I said let me have a think about this, or let me check my schedule before I commit to this. And then I could go back and say, Thanks for your patience. I went on my schedule and you know what, this works great for I thank you for your patience, like to my schedule, and this has not worked for me. And I didn't feel that and most of the time, because not that we're not important human beings like humans are important and it's great but we all live in our own realities, and we think that the world revolves around us sometimes.   I'm just gonna say it. And I was so I was one of those people who believe that I was so nervous that people were not going to like me anymore that I was going to get fired that people weren't going to be my friend if I didn't go to all these parties or girly things.   And what ended up happening. The responses were. Thanks so much for your quick reply. Or, thank you so much for your honesty, or, thank you so much for recognizing and honoring your boundaries, you've just helped me give myself permission to do the same. How empowering, is it to say, I'm showing up for myself. This is my boundary, and I'm honoring it. That just gave someone else, the permission are the sign or the reminder that they can do that to you. Rather than saying yes to everything and then coming at it with a bad attitude right.   [29:15] BB: Yeah, no, I love that. I actually recently wrote on Instagram, about a dance event I went to so I started learning about shadow which is a partner dance kind of similar to salsa. And, um, so I would go to these socials, and whenever anyone asked me to dance, I would say yes because it was new, and I was like, I don't know what I'm doing, how do I, I can't say no I should just, I need to practice of that so I kind of socialized myself to say yes yes yeah. And I remember one night, where I was just like, not having a good time. I was dancing with people I didn't want to dance with, like I wasn't feeling a connection. And so I just flipped the script, and I did exactly what that book recommends, I was like, I'm just gonna say no, because I was like should I go home.    I was like, I'm not having a good time. And so that, wanting to go home, gave myself permission to just say no and so I just, yeah, again, so I was like no or not right now or, I'm taking a break whatever when anyone asked me, and then I'm one of the Tata dance instructors asked me to dance. And they hold on he was like, Yes, I want to dance with an instructor who like totally can teach me all the things. And I ended up having a great dance. And I guess like the lesson for me from that was, if I had said no to the guy that had asked me like literally 30 seconds before the instructor asked me I wouldn't have had, like, I wouldn't that opportunity probably would have come and gone and I wouldn't have had this amazing experience that really helped me as a dancer and was just fun. And so that's one of the kind of insights I had about how when you say no, even if there's nothing good at that moment. You never know what's coming. VL: Yeah, it reminded me of a quote that something along the lines of, if it's not a hell yes, it's a hell no. Or, because these are like fun little reminders right like what feels good for you and if it doesn't feel good when you say no to something that doesn't really feel great, or you're not in alignment with you're making room for something that does. And I think it's important to have that permission, especially for women who feel the need to be perfectionist or to be people pleasers and obviously to get out of that mindset is powerful, but to have these reminders like it's okay if you say no to this it's okay if you don't want to do this today, but you wanted to do it yesterday or you want to do it tomorrow. Being able to stand in your truth and be empowered enough to say this is what I want.   That's huge.   [32:12] BB:  Yeah. And the other thing that I think women really struggle with is like changing their mind. I can't tell you how many clients have said, but I already said yes. and it's like, and then you thought about it and you changed your mind.   We all have the right. And of course, like yeah you don't want to be flaky you don't want to be the person that's like canceling 20 minutes before it's possible I mean sometimes that does happen we get sick all of a sudden or something comes up and you do have to cancel at the last minute, but I know for me like my intention is to to honor my word. But that doesn't mean like, I'm married to my word, and I'm going to just do whatever the other person wants me to just because I said, So, last week which was not a busy week and then this week I'm feeling overwhelmed.   Like, you have the right to change your mind.   [32:32] VL: So it's interesting that you said that, because we had a. We had a meeting scheduled for Monday this week and now it's Thursday, and I got called into the studio on Monday, and through my head I was thinking, I have 1,000,010 things to do, and most of them were kind of like at home I could kind of do them wherever, whenever, but one of them. one of the things that was really important to me was this this conversation, and I was like I'm just feeling his guilt, but I was like oh my god I'm gonna have to cancel him out to cancel, and I looked at my schedule, I thought, you know what I have a break between my classes where I could fit in this conversation. But when I thought about it, I said to myself, I'm like, you know what, this is not how I want to go into this conversation. I don't want to go into it feeling like my whole schedule just got turned upside down. I'm feeling anxious I have to teach a lot of cold classes I have to be somewhere where I don't like recording the podcast because it's noisy. The space is too big and there's construction outside the studio so I could have technically kept our appointment. However, I know that. It just wouldn't have been the same energetically and so, you know, I, at first I was like, Oh, I feel so bad about this but then when I reached out to you and you were so understanding thank you so much again for rescheduling with me. I felt so much better and there's just this relief because I knew that I wasn't in the place to be holding space for someone else. So, yeah, and I hate doing that so much, and mostly because, like I appreciate I would rather someone say no to me than say yes and then keep canceling or rescheduling or not showing up. I would just rather you say hey you know what, I can't do this anymore, then toss me around right. Um, but it happened it came up and it happened so I had to do. I had to make a change.    BB: Yeah. And, you know, this is an example, this doesn't always work out this way. But this is an example where, you know, I have my whole week calendar and I just switch whatever is supposed to do then, with Thursday, I just switched my Monday for Thursday at this time. And to me it's like, no difference and sometimes it is an inconvenience for the other person. Other thing I want to say to all the women is, that's okay. They can have an inconvenient sometime world's not gonna fall apart.   VL:  Yes. That's a very good reminder I think it's hard to hear sometimes but we definitely need to hear it. Well, honestly, I think this was a very helpful conversation that we're having especially around this time of year. And like I said, whether we want to hear it or not, we need to we need to hear the truth. So, before we move into our last part of the show or our last segment, let us know where we can find you where we can follow you and how we can support your business.   [36:15] BB: Yeah, so, um, my name is Brynn Bamber I'm sure you'll spell this all out in the show notes, but I'm on Instagram I'm at Brynn underscore Bamber on LinkedIn I think I'm e Bryn Bamber, um, secret factors my first name is actually Erica but I go by brand. And I'm Facebook I'm brand member. So those are all the places. Um, I'd love to hear from your listeners so if something resonated, or if you have any questions about what we were talking about, feel free to DM me on Instagram or, like, send me a message on Facebook or LinkedIn wherever you are. I'd love to hear like what you loved about the show or what you were confused fine. I can hopefully help. Try to clarify. Um, and the other thing I wanted to offer to your listeners is my anxiety mini training so it's a 10 minute training. And it's a training for when you are anxious. This is something you do. in the moment, when you're feeling anxious. Um, you'll get a video version and an audio version so you can even like save it to your phones and literally like run into the bathroom and put your earbuds in and listen to it if you're like, at a holiday party and you're losing your ship. Um, but it's basically breathing feeling your body, a whole exercise that my experience, it doesn't always make my anxiety disappear. And this is what my clients say too, but it usually will reduce your anxiety by 50%, or more. So, gives you a little bit of breathing room from that anxiety. If you have to make a decision because sometimes like when we're anxious just because something happened. The aunt showed up at the party that everyone said wasn't going to or. She had COVID four days ago and didn't get tested or whatever the scenario is and like you got to deal with it. This is something that can just reduce your anxiety enough that you can get out of that tunnel vision where it's very hard to make strategic decisions, good decisions, get into a little bit more relaxed place where you can like feel into yourself feel into your intuition and know what you need to do. So you can find it a tiny url.com slash anxiety training and I'm sure we'll put it in the notes as well.    VL: Absolutely. So it's really easy to find you because it's your name. Okay, rapid fire round, are you ready.   BB: No… I'm ready    VL: we'll take your breath Okay, inhale. So good. Don't worry, it's not that much pressure. It's just about your favorite things.   [39:42] Question number one. What are you currently reading or what is your favorite book.   BB: I am reading right now My Grandmother's Hands, which is a book about.   It's, it's about the US really but it's about anti black racism, but through the lens of a body psychotherapist. So I'm, I'm a somatic I'm not a psycho therapist, but I'm a mental health practitioner that uses Sati and the author of the book. Also, in that world and so it's a really interesting part of it is like history and statistics and stuff, but a lot of it is about how racism has impacted our nervous systems, how racism has impacted the book is kind of specific it's like talking about white people's nervous systems, black people's nervous systems and police officers nervous system. So it's really interesting i mean he does. There is some criticism of it that he leaves out certain groups, other people of color. But, um, as a starting point, it's really an interesting lens into the world we're living in right now.    VL: It does sound very interesting. I'm gonna link to that book in the show notes as well. And, question number two is, what do you love most about being a woman?   BB: multiple orgasms.   VL: Okay, I have to be honest, every single I do this with every single guest, and every single answer is completely different and I'm surprised every time and I love it so good.    BB: You're gonna say every woman says the same.    VL: I'm sure that we'll start saying, Okay, question number three What does empowerment mean to you.   So I think empowerment is someone who's willing to keep looking at themselves and doing the work and listening to podcasts like this and working on themselves. And so they keep having breakthroughs and with these break through I think you get more power, more access to your, your power that was always yours but that we get confused about sometimes.   BB: For me, it has an association for having some sort of breakthrough. Like, I think the thing that I feel the most alive. All my jobs all the things I've done in my career is like when someone has a breakthrough. And just like, Ah, this is like what I live for.   VL: Question number three: what are you currently working toward?   BB: Man, I guess I'm super passionate about core energetics because it's been so life changing for me. So it really want more people to have access to it so I'm doing a lot of guest interviews on podcast and trying to spread the word writing a memoir about my personal story and struggle with it. And so, I feel like my mission right now is getting this powerful tool into the hands of more people looking at the Godfrey,    VL: we're gonna have to have you on again for a core energetics demo for sure. However, before you go I do want to say thank you so much again for being part of the show, and for sharing all of this information I know that it's going to be very helpful it's been helpful for me and my attorney in my experience, I know that'll be helpful for the listeners who are tuning in today. And I also want you to know that you are very appreciated, your voice is appreciated, your journey is appreciated. You know a lot of us come, a lot of us healers come from that wounded healer background and it's hard to show up to the parents, and so for you to be doing that for you to be stepping into this, this space and this leadership role and this teacher role, I think is is so empowering to see you, to see you move through these spaces, and you're very much appreciated by, by the people who are watching and following so so keep doing what you're doing, keep shining.   BB: Thanks so much for having me.

Click HERE to donate and support the work of the Arise Podcast. Connect with us by emailing us: thearisepodcast@gmail.comIn this episode, Maggie and Danielle connect over having a new imagination for what it's like to live in these COVID days. Having once thought, “perhaps this will all blow over,” we are now knee deep in changing family dynamics, changing what it looks like for kids to “go to school” with distance learning, and adults shifting to a more long-term working from home situation. Normal is being redefined. Even still, nearly six months in to COVID-19, things feel raw and exposed.With the end of summer and the beginning of the school year, there is a sense that “I'm not ready.” Maggie named that she is feeling ill-equipped to teach children and also help to them deal with social isolation… Simply put: We are not able to meet all the needs for all the kids.Danielle names there is a hard balance: how do we manage screen time and engage with our kids and work (from home)? We are having to trust our kids lot more and these family dynamics are continuing to develop as we find ways to deal with losses and managing emotions.In the midst of  a continued need for social distancing, how do re-form, or form from for the first time, community? Just how well were we connected before COVID?As we enter into the political season it feels more divided than ever across our nation—people seem to be  lining up to pick sides!We can ask ourselves: How much capacity do I have in this season, in a global pandemic, being maxed out with personal and/or work life, do I have to engage people who aren't like me… or who disagree with me, when I still want to connect and be seen and heard?Danielle says the reality is we just don't want to  know people who are like us and yet we do just want people to know people like us. We want to agree because it feels good. And when we disagree, we aren't just having disagreements [about politics], people believe that these things are connected to the core of who they are.Danielle challenges us as we engage in debate and discourse this political seasons to ask ourselves: Am I in my body? Am I present with what I'm thinking? When you're in your body you have a harder time accusing and dehumanizing another person. Honor humanity by being a human: be in your body.What if I am in my body and my neighbor isn't in their body? Start by asking questions, “You don't seem to be with me right now, where are you?” Start with curiosity. Acknowledge what you see them, it disarms them.If we can have a conversation with someone without being seen and heard, what was the point of the conversation?If someone hears what you said, they're going to remember what you say. They remember it in their bodies, for good or bad.Danielle's tips for engaging with others in this political season who may disagree with you:Practice hospitality to the other person.Offer yourself kindness. — If you're not ready to engage or in a place to engage, then don't.Have self-awareness—what am I feeling? And where am I feeling it in my body?Stay with it: Danielle believes that our culture wants to disconnect from the conversation around race, racism and white supremacy because there is a sense of SHAME. But we need stay with it: take breaks, do work on your own, but then reengage in this important conversation.Don't engage over social media because you remove the human part of being human—our bodies. Our bodies regulate with other bodies. When one person's body is dis-regulated it disrupts other bodies present. Therefore engaging over social media takes away our ability to regulate our bodies.Anger can be arousing and exciting over social media. And yet anger can cause damage that will require repair that you may not be able to over social media.When we enter into a place that requires repair there can be this sense of despair, hopelessness, "this isn't going to get better.”  We need sit in that for moment and mourn. We need to feel the weight of our grief for there can be no movement out of grief without engagement. We must allow space for our anger to transform into grief so that our grief turns to lament and morning which leads to repair and reconciliation and healing.There's been much debate around Abortion / Pro-Life this political cycle and it is not as black and white  as much as we'd like it to be, it's so much more nuanced. There is this sense that if we are supporting the dismantling of systemic racism and white supremacy that somehow we're also supporting abortion. Danielle asks why do you think these two are linked?We can not do “the work” for others. If we give someone the completed work or “the answer,” without the scaffolding, framework and structure, it has no place to land.Maggie talks about story work engagement and how others may be able to “see” clearly what's happening but the person who is sharing does not. To just name or tell them what's happening without building the framework to support that idea, it won't hold and stick for the person.  Danielle says this is why math teachers tell you to “show your work” and not just give the answer. You have to know the steps involved in how and why you got there. When you compare your answer with another person on how you got to a conclusion, you can look and see where things are the same and where they aren't the same and use that as a basis for repair, if needed.We simply need community. We need someone else's eyes and ears, to guide and walk with you. And we can still do that even in COVID. We can still make phone calls, send text messages, have FaceTime/zoom meetings… We still have the ability to connect and reach out. Some ground rules for difficult conversations around politics:Honesty — Honesty requires truth-tellingHonoring Boundaries - honoring the agreed upon time frame or topic of discussionOpenness — Are you willing to really hear another person's point of view?Maggie shared about “My Mouth is a Volcano” children's book she read to her kids about interrupting and honoring other people's important words. We must be wiling to listen. Danielle says we need to watch out for Name Calling, it's a red flag! If you go to name-calling, you have gone off the rails in your conversations/discussion. When you feel yourself slipping into name calling, it's important to reflect on what you're defending. What is hurting that you feel like you want to hurt someone else?You may need to take a break "a grown-up timeout" and reevaluate how to reengage and if repair is needed. Perhaps a therapist is needed. There's no shame in asking for help!We learn and grow experientially. And we do so together. We would love to hear from our listeners! What has been helpful? What did we miss that you'd like us to talk about? Who was your favorite guests? thearisepodcast@gmail.com  Send us your questions.You belong here.— -- - Danielle is reading: Jesus and John Wayne: How White Evangelicals Corrupted a Faith and Fractured a Nation by Kristin Kobes du MezMaggie is reading: Untamed by Glennon Doyle and My Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa Menekem.Danielle is listening to: “Last Shot” from the Hamilton Soundtrack.Maggie is listening to: In the van: Phineas and Ferb music. The Bema Discipleship with Marty SolomonDanielle is inspired by: her kids!Maggie is inspired by: the beauty and glory of the Pacific Northwest!

Rev. Mike and Malayna go deeper into the Sunday topic, "None Are Free Until All Are Free" and discuss how to get there, when it seems that people can't even talk to each other. Using information from Resmaa Menakem's book My Grandmother's Hands, they discuss healing the trauma that triggers us so we can lean into uncomfortable conversations and find common ground to move forward together. There's a lot coming up in our country for healing and change, so they look at history for answers.

It's easy to think of racism as a virus that lives in your head. But my guest today makes a compelling case that it also lives, in very profound and often unseen ways, in your body. Resmaa Menakem is a therapist and trauma specialist based in Minneapolis. He's also the author of an excellent book called My Grandmother's Hands, which people in my life have been recommending to me for years. Resmaa's work is all about healing our bodies -- and, by extension, our nation -- from racialized trauma. And in Resmaa's philosophy, racial trauma lives on in bodies of all colors, including white bodies such as mine. Resmaa gives voice to a new lexicon -- terms like “white body supremacy” and “somatic abolitionism” -- and don't worry, he'll explain it all as the interview progresses. He will also share practices that bring you into your body. And he has very provocative thoughts about how white people can do their part way beyond the current news cycle. Where to find Resmaa Menakem online:  Website: https://www.resmaa.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/ResmaaMenakem Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resmaa  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/resmaamenakem/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/rmenakem Book Mentioned: My Grandmother's Hands: https://www.resmaa.com/store/my-grandmothers-hands-hardcover Check our our new, free collection of meditations called Relating to Race in the Ten Percent Happier app: https://10percenthappier.app.link/RelatingToRace  Other Resources Mentioned: Malcolm X: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Malcolm_X Stamped from the Beginning By Ibram X Kendi: https://www.ibramxkendi.com/stamped-from-the-beginning  Cherry Blossom Experiment: https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20190326-what-is-epigenetics Resmaa's courses: https://www.resmaa.com/courses Additional Resources: Ten Percent Happier Live: https://tenpercent.com/live Coronavirus Sanity Guide: https://www.tenpercent.com/coronavirussanityguide Free App access for Frontline Workers: https://tenpercent.com/care Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/resmaa-menakem-262

Right Intentions, Right Speech, Right Action...right?What is the right next step? How can we explore My Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa Menakem together? Rev. Mike suggests using cans with string, Malayna thinks we should learn sign language. How exactly do we proceed? We need to keep checking in with our inner guidance, and take the next best step. How do we move forward while looking out for each other? Is this a great time for introverts? Quotes about right action from Alexander Pope, and a reference to The Da Vinci Code. Being frozen in inaction, indecision, fear of ridicule or mistakes. Mention of Sky Nelson-Isaacs and his book Living in Flow: The Science of Synchronicity and How Your Choices Shape Your World. Why did Einstein do a better job of thinking from the One Mind? A teaser of the July 5th talk. Looking back at history and identifying how far we need to look for the root of the healing. We are one race, all expressing the results of the violence of being alive throughout time. Being willing to be uncomfortable, make mistakes, take responsibility, say I'm sorry. Remembering indigenous people, LGBT rights, climate change. If it's not a mindful action,sometimes it's an unconscious reaction. How can we shift from outrage to change? We could apply the highest journalistic values and integrity to what we choose to post on social media -- fact check. Confederate statues and the power of the stories we build our identities upon. Is there a George Washington statue in England? (Yes! https://www.tripadvisor.com/Attraction_Review-g186338-d13896178-Reviews-George_Washington_Statue-London_England.html) Is it okay for our leaders to be good at leadership and not faultless people? Do statues glorify hubris? We don't want to erase history, but learn from the mistakes. Air Disasters happen because several failures line up. We need to look at the whole picture to learn forward. Teach and communicate. Statues of Harriet Tubman - there are lots. Can defacing statues be cathartic? Portland has a statue of Joan of Arc. Why? There's a story. We're adjusting our connection to symbols. The black bodies and white bodies imply a soul to soul connection is the way to healing. Statue to the father of gynecology and the ethics of working with slaves. Always more to the story. Lucy, Anarcha and Betsey deserve our thanks, shift the focus to gratitude. May not need to relitigate the past, but we also can't gloss over it. Simon Sinek, Sapiens - Yuval Noah Harari, Ken Wilber,shifting from work to data, information, consciousness and technology. We are more than a machine. Elijah McClain - https://www.thecut.com/2020/06/the-killing-of-elijah-mcclain-everything-we-know.html Conversation Salaam and Malayna participated in from Paley Center for Media - check @malaynadawn on Facebook. We can save the planet, we start with our own healing and loving those around us.

This week on the podcast, Tammi and Sondra have a concentrated conversation on what creative life currently looks like. Tammi talks about feeling a creative surge through painting and her online offerings, while Sondra's creativity looks more like steady making and learning. As they explore their Summer's work, creativity and recovery are emphatically connected. This week Sondra and Tammi share items from their Unruffled Toolboxes: Sondra: (1) Year long guided group study through “My Grandmother's Hands”; (2) Personal research project; and (3) Playing with new branded marketing in Canva. Tammi: (1) Idea Binder Concept; (2) Flashe Vinyl Paint by Lefranc & Bourgeois; and (3) IGTV.

This week on the podcast, Tammi and Sondra talk about anti-racism. They talk about the decision to skip the release of a podcast during the Black Lives Matter protests for the first time in three years to take time to get quiet, listen and learn. They share about their own blind spots and shame around race but they also share what they are doing about it, including resources and actions they are taking. They have more questions than answers but are ready to open up a dialogue.    This week Sondra and Tammi share items from their Unruffled Toolboxes:  Sondra: (1) Anti-racism listening: Resmaa Menakem on On Being, Ibram X. Kendi on Unlocking Us, Austin Channing Brown on The Good Life Project; (2) Anti-racism reading: Stamped from the Beginning and How to Be an Anti-Racist by Ibram X. Kendi, White Fragility by Robin DiAngelo, The Body Is Not an Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor, My Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa Menakem; (3) Anti-racism learning: The Great Unlearn by Rachel Cargle, Roll Call by Austin Channing Brown.
 Tammi: (1) Anti-racism learning: Rachel Rodgers, Esq.; (2) Anti-racism reading: Me and White Supremacy by Layla F. Saad; and (3) Anti-racism watching: Dear White People series on Netflix.

Still social distancing.Kyle and Bobby are Classmates of Danielle's from the Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. All three were in the Counseling program together.Danielle met Bobby and Kyle in a Spirit and Trauma Class and shared a research project together.Checking in with Bobby about how he's doing and how COVID is affecting his life:Bobby says truthfully, “We don't actually know how COVID-19 is effecting us and we probably won't know for a long time.”What he's noticed in his counseling internship is that the gap between the haves and have-nots has is becoming increasingly larger.As a therapist, Bobby find himself entering sessions with a different mindset – “there's a lot more case management” happening rather than actual therapy. It's become more difficult right now to engage past trauma, while living in a current trauma. He finds his sessions are less about trauma and more about just surviving.With 9 people in his household, Bobby is watching how each kid is navigating the lack of community, social support and social interaction. And when you magnify that with the population of people you work with, there is a diverse reaction to what's happening.Bobby says he's not sure he can do anything more than just sit with people and listen to how their day/week/month has been and not really give much input. It allows them space to share what's happening in their daily routine, what is lacking. Danielle noted that the longer COVID goes on, the larger the gap. Bobby had hopes that there would be a hiatus on crime during this season. In the past weeks there's been an uptick in violence. The media is showing there's not just more violence on a whole but also more violence being inflicted by law enforcement. Bobby is trying to work and everyone should also work on taking a collective deep breathe and try to figure out what the next move is. He's had a young person that he's close to that was killed three weeks ago and there is no place for lament or gathering together. The gap is widening from economic and racial. The luxury he is given: the ability to lament and give space to lament. For many people that space is decreasing when it should be increasing. Bobby says, when you don't allow yourself space to lament, it bottles up and manifest in someway other way, shape or form.Maggie acknowledges that the collective tension is so tight. She empathizes with not getting more space and wishes she has space to lament, not just for herself but also for her kids who hate school online and miss their friends. She says in this COVID environment our friends have become threats and that is not the way she wants her kids to live. Bobby says we need to remember that the tension we feel will manifest itself in some way and law enforcement is not immune to that. Kyle mentions a book they read for class [My Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa Menakem] that deals with racialized trauma in our country and addressed police bodies. Kyle watched a recent interaction with an African American man who was intoxicated at a Walgrens. Kyle found himself watching to make sure the man was treated fairly by law enforcement all the while his therapy training running in his head, is he a risk to himself? Is he a risk to others? Then adding to that Menakem's work he began to wonder, “How is the officer working to deescalate this guy? And if the officer is stressed he's not going to have that to give.” Kyle thinks Menakem's work needs to be apart of the conversation on how we take care of the police so that they can practice law. The police is working with new stress, just like the rest of us. Danielle mentions that Shaun King, an Activist, has been showing video clips of African American men getting tazzed and tackled by Police just standing there, not practicing social distancing, brutally arrested and charged with police assault. Contrasted to images of white people in a park in New York, not social distancing, and cops were rolling throw handing out masks. The contrast is so stark. Individual police are responsible for their actions. But who is above them telling them to carry out an agenda and a policy like that?A friend made masks for Danielle's family and the one for her husband didn't fit. Instead he wore a bandana. But it was as they were going on with him wearing the bandana on his face that she thought, “Oh you better not wear that… to other people you are looking really dangerous” as a Mexican man. So he went into the store without a mask and people gave him dirty looks. It's like a bind, “What do you want him to do? Where is he going to fit?” It's like not having the space to exist. Danielle says that communities need more opportunities to lament, space to lament. And white spaces are still crowding that space.Bobby was reminded of something that happened at the Seattle School during a practicum: It was a heated conversation about race shortly after Trump was elected and there were white folks saying there were no race issues, especially in Seattle. The facilitator decided it was needed for the class to take a break. Bobby, who's wife Samoan, finds he's more aware of racial tension situations and he asks himself, “What's my role right now?” Tension comes up in their family dynamic and within the community he and his lives in, but in that moment at the Seattle School he went, for the first time up to the chapel room. Outside the room there is a chalkboard wall where someone had written, “there will be peace in the valley for me.” For a second, he took solace in that. And then he asked himself why he feels that and it is because he is a white heterosexual man. That's why he could feel that there would be peace in the valley, he will be protected and he doesn't live with the racial tension and oppression. He walked away thinking that he doesn't want that peace because of white privilege. He doesn't know how to handle the fact that he could walk away from this situation and have peace for himself but he would still know that others could not have that peace.“What's my role as a white person combating the structures that exist and uphold that feeling of peace for me but creates a feeling of conflict and violence for so many people in my life that I love and care about. “Even though the event at school happened over three years ago, he thinks about it a lot. Kyle wonders what makes it hard for white men to hear this and have conversations around these topics. What are the barriers? Bobby thinks that it is exposing: The conversation around race creates vulnerability, not a threat, but a place for white people to admit that the only reason they have their place or standing is because of white privilege. Not their brain, heart, work ethic… but everything to do with the color or their skin. Bobby says, “It's unnerving.” Bobby recognizes and sees his white privilege more clearly now. Bobby quotes Portland Seminary Professor Randy Woodley, “If there is one person without shalom, then no one has shalom.” This is the work of white people: we must claim peace no only for themselves but for all people. Everyone should experience God's fullness. Danielle notices that there is a fatigue among white leaders right now as they are working a marathon against the virus. The work of deconstructing whiteness and recognizing privilege, can't be solved by just reading Robin DiAngelo's book [White Fragility]. It is a long grueling process, and that's okay! It's okay to battle with it everyday… It's almost a blessing because it won't equal what others have been through and do go through. There needs to be a sense of suffering the ways we have been raised that shaped our mindset that has caused harm to others. We need to battle with ourselves and we need the endurance to do it. Kyle remembers looking at some case studies so school and many were done by white male therapists. It didn't bother him and he almost didn't notice it. He was numb to it. When it was brought up he found himself defensive, like this is the way it is in this field, as if it was an excuse. Kyle was able, with the help of his classmates, do his own work to recognize this micro-aggression that he never has to think about and others do. He said it's a part of his brain he doesn't' have to use because of the privilege he's had his whole life. “It's growing that muscle and having patience with myself as I do. Yeah I can start to see these things and advocate for them.” “It's a mental slog … to do the work to wake up.” Kyle said it's not easy work to look in the mirror after reading Robin DiAngelo's book when the whole system as worked for you for a long time. But the work of acknowledging white privilege is worth our energy and time. White people need to overcome laziness and the unwillingness to put the work in. Bobby says we need to consider what we're tied to: Individualistic White American perspective. We can navigate COVID-19 like any other social issue on our own or we can choose to navigate in community. Movements in racial equity, social issues, oppression, Medicare, etc…. From a communal perspective it takes longer, but that's the way we're supposed to move: Collectively. It's not about individuals at all, it's about doing it together. Bobby was working with young African American men moving things out of a truck and a police came and started questioning them, even to the point of getting violent. But as soon as he [Bobby] came around from the front of the truck to talk to the police officer, that's when he backs down.Bobby things people tend to not believe things until they've seen it with their own eyes. He also saw the post that Shawn King made contrasting police interaction with whites vs. African Americans… He thought, “is it really that bad?” Kyle said it is a programmed first thought to think they aren't really doing that.  It's like a veil of ignorance that we have to shut that part of our brain off: the part that connects with someone else's suffering. We say, “Well it's not real, it's just on instagram” when the reality is “that is actually someone's body being tortured.”Maggie asks, “How do we collectively engage what we are experiencing?” She said she believes the violence against African Americans is happening. Maggie says that the closer the violence is to our actual location, the more we feel it in our bodies physically. Feeling in our bodies moves us to action. When we are not feeling it than it's very easy to detach and remain disengaged. How do we find shalom collectively? Bobby said the veil of ignorance is to seek shalom individually. Movement towards peace is not individual, it's communal. Danielle was writing about greed used 1 Timothy 6:9 in the French going after a debt on Cinco de Mayo. She says, “we've been lulled into sleep…We're plunged into our desire for greed. And greed leads to harm and destruction for us. This is not a free pass.” Shalom for majority culture that does not trickle down to others, is not Shalom at all. How do we engage these idols of greed and power in our society, as dominate culture and do more than talk? It has to have some tangible action. Theoretical process doesn't do anything.Kyle mentions desegregation and drastic action that seemed to help. But we've undone that with redlining and we end up isolating ourselves from each other. Kyle asks what we need is radical policies? Radical actions? Kyle used to be a 4th grade teacher and when he taught about Martin Luther King, Jr. he  started with America being founded on slavery. He wanted to widen the students perceptive because there is this false belief that racial issues were resolved in the 60s with MLK.  He admits he was under that veil. But it doesn't feel like it serves our kids to perpetuate this false reality that racial issues have been resolved—what he believes we really need is to teach a different history. The systems disrupt truth! He wants to know: How do we have real radical action?Bobby compared his own life with a friend of his of the same age but a different race. He friend has been in and out of the system and Bobby said he would really fit in at the Seattle School with the way his mind works and his knowledge and experiences. But his great grandfather wasn't able to get a home loan, and Bobby's great grandfather was. Bobby was able to buy his home by buying against the equity of his great grandfather… His friend was never able to do that. Bobby mentions reparations – The question he asks is where is the gap? It is a knowledge gap? The equity gap can be traced back to the GI bill and redlining. And how do we right those wrongs?Danielle says individuals need to take action. Systems are made up of people. ON our own we're insignificant. But together we can do more. Her friend had a stimulus check and used it to pick up chrome books for Danielle's kids and another family so they could have tablets to work on for school at home. That's someone creating equity in a system!A really practical thing for listeners to do is to donate their stimulus check to someone who doesn't have access to technology or internet. And to not superimpose with restrictions, a gift free and clear.---Kyle is reading: Boys in the Boat by Daniel James BrownKyle is listening to: Hilary McBride's Other People's ProblemsKyle is inspired by: This conversation.  Bobby is reading: Love in a Fearful Land by Henri NouwenBobby is listening to: Randy Woodley, Mark Charles, any people who talking about CommunityBobby is inspired by: Stories of resilience Resource to process whiteness: PLEASE READ IN COMMUNITY My Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa MenakemUnsettling Truths: The Ongoing, Dehumanizing Legacy of the Doctrine of Discovery by Mark Charles and Soong-Chan RahMirror to the Church: Resurrecting Faith After Genocide in Rwanda by Emmanuel Katongole and Jonathan Wilson-Hartgrove

Rev. Ken Beldon concludes our Daily Bread message series by talking about the most important book he's never read (Watchmen, Alan Moore), and how it's continuing story brought the destruction of Black Wall Street into the news once again. He also discusses inter-generational trauma by referencing the book My Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa Menakem, and a quote from Dr. Gabor Maté. He finishes up by sharing a dream he once had about a favorite Valentine's Day candy.

Rev. Ken Beldon concludes our Daily Bread message series by talking about the most important book he's never read (Watchmen, Alan Moore), and how it's continuing story brought the destruction of Black Wall Street into the news once again. He also discusses inter-generational trauma by referencing the book My Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa Menakem, and a quote from Dr. Gabor Maté. He finishes up by sharing a dream he once had about a favorite Valentine's Day candy.

This week on The Living Experiment Pilar interviews a very special guest, clinical therapist and author Resmaa Menakem. We're talking about trauma, the effect it has on us as individuals, and also the impact it has on us in groups and as members of society. Resmaa's most recent book, My Grandmother's Hands, explores themes of ancestral and racialized trauma, topics informed by his personal and familial experiences, as well as his professional clinical expertise. Resmaa's insights are also informed by a broad array of cross-cultural explorations, including two tours in Afghanistan as a military contractor. Resmaa's teachings are relevant to anyone who has experienced trauma, which, as he points out, is all of us. So here, we talk about the lasting impacts trauma leaves on our bodies, hearts and minds, as well as our families, communities and societies. We talk about what it takes to heal trauma's current wounds, as well as its legacies of pain and depression, and we leave you with some experiments to help you better recognize and resolve the sources of trauma in your own life. Get full show notes and resources at http://livingexperiment.com/trauma-1/