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Welcome to the Marriage Talk Podcast - Ep 177 - How to Build a Thriving Marriage as You Care for Children with Disabilities Building a vibrant and joyful marriage is always a challenge. When you add the stresses inherent in parenting children with disabilities, it becomes both more difficult and more critical. Once on the brink of divorce, Kristin and Todd Evans uncovered the unique set of skills crucial for growing a fulfilling relationship amid the extraordinary challenges of caring for their two children with special needs. Weaving together insights from Scripture, research, and clinical and personal experience, they show you how to · identify your unique needs · assess your strengths and weaknesses · set your priorities · develop healthy stress management skills · deepen your communication and connection · tackle problems as a team · find ways to rest and recharge · nurture sexual intimacy · build a strong support network · and so much more   CLICK HERE TO BUY THE BOOK "Filled with hope when you need it most--and many practical action and relational steps you can take right now--this new book gives couples the perfect roadmap for thriving in the midst of troubled times."--Matt Jacobson, founder of FaithfulMan.com, and Lisa Jacobson, founder of Club31Women.com "For any couple whose relationship is crumbling under the grief and stress of parenting children with disabilities, these pages offer priceless hope and help. It's not too late to make a new way forward, together, and this book shows the way."--Rob and Joanna Teigen, founders of Growing Home Together and bestselling authors About the Author Kristin Faith Evans, MA, MS, LMSW, and Todd Evans, PhD, MA, are award-winning authors, speakers, and disability parents. They earned their MA in Christian educational ministries at Wheaton College in Illinois and have served together in full-time ministry in church, camping, and retreat settings. Todd received his PhD from Vanderbilt University's School of Engineering and currently manages his own business. Kristin earned her MSW from the University of Tennessee and is a Licensed Master Social Worker experienced in couples, child and family, substance abuse, and crisis counseling.  

Welcome back to The Round 12 MOTIVATIONAL MASTERY Podcast Show! Episode #113 "LIFE BEGINS AT 30!" This week's LIVESTREAM episode moves the Round 12 Podcast to an expanded version of itself. We now have the feature of livestream with a live audience and live guests from anywhere remotely. If I know you, and you have an interesting story, don't be surprised if I invite you to sit in and talk about it for the good of our audience. Admittedly though, in my effort to handle my mother's affairs after her intense illness, I am remote in Washington, DC today and admit to having some technical difficulties for this broadcast; but I committed to get it done, and I am super proud to have my dear son Omar on the show as Co-Host and Guest to talk a lil' bit about life. Sponsored by NEVERQUIT BRAND, LLC this is a fun and dope step forward for our humble yet experienced life expression. IF YOU THINK YOU HAVE ALL THE TIME IN THE WORLD, YOU DON'T… DO IT NOW!! (FIT FOR LIFE!!) BE SURE TO CLICK THE ATTACHED LINK TO SEE OUR DETAILED INFORMATIONAL EMAIL OR TO SUBSCRIBE: https://conta.cc/3W8v1Fx Intro & Outro Music Provided by... Soul II Soul, Song: "Keep on Movin'!" Musical Guest WAR and musical clip of their song “City Country City (One of my favorite songs EVER!) Thanks, and recognition to Club31Women for their article: "21 Questions your son really needs you to ask him.”     

If you could ask God to do anything for your family, what would it be? This is the question our guest today, Jodie Berndt, surveyed families on before publishing her first book in 2001. Jodie took the top 20 topics, went to the Word to see what God had to say about them, and shaped the table of contents for her book, Praying the Scriptures for Your Children. When Jodie started praying God's Word back to Him, she began seeing amazing answers.  Praying scripture for and with children - it fills them with the truth that they have value and worth in God's eyes. He loves them for who they are! When the bigger questions come along, they can have that anchor and rootedness to know WHO they are and WHOSE they are in Christ. This will be their greatest defense against the conforming patterns of this world. Ready to hear examples of praying scripture boldly over the children in your life? Let's go!   JODIE BERNDT is the author of the Praying the Scriptures book series, including the bestselling Praying the Scriptures for Your Children. A speaker and Bible teacher, Jodie is a repeat guest on programs like Focus on the Family, the 700 Club, and a variety of popular podcasts, and she has been a contributing writer for Fox News, Club31Women, Ann Voskamp's daily devotional, and Proverbs 31 Ministries.   Jodie writes about prayer and other family topics in her email newsletter and on Instagram. To download the collection of free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars), visit JodieBerndt.com. Jodie and her husband, Robbie, have four adult children and live in Virginia Beach, Virginia.   Resources For You: Jodie's Website Jodie's Instagram Jodie's Facebook Jodie's Twitter Mom's In Prayer Website John 15:7 Proverbs 27:17 Prayer Cards Psalm 56:3 Philippians 4:6 1 Peter 2:9 Ephesians 2:10 Jeremiah 1:5 Mom Set Free by Jeannie Cunnion Jodie's Blog Ephesians 3:17-19    Next Steps: Tell us what tips you're putting into practice at our website: Bible2School Bring Bible2School to Your Community! Share this podcast with a friend Subscribe to You CAN Tell the Children Leave a review on Apple Podcasts

If you could ask God to do anything for your family, what would it be? Jodie Berndt, our guest today, surveyed families on this very question before publishing her first book in 2001. Jodie took the top 20 topics, went to the Word to see what God had to say about them, and shaped the table of contents for Praying the Scriptures for Your Children.   When Jodie started praying God's Word back to Him, she began seeing amazing answers...    Speaking scriptures into and over our kids - it fills them with that sense of value and worth in God's site. He loves them for who they are! When the bigger questions come along, they can have that anchor and rootedness to know who they are and whose they are. This will be their greatest defense against the patterns of this world.   Ready to hear examples of praying scripture boldly over the children in your life? Let's go!   JODIE BERNDT is the author of the Praying the Scriptures book series, including the bestselling Praying the Scriptures for Your Children. A speaker and Bible teacher, Jodie is a repeat guest on programs like Focus on the Family, the 700 Club, and a variety of popular podcasts, and she has been a contributing writer for Fox News, Club31Women, Ann Voskamp's daily devotional, and Proverbs 31 Ministries.   Jodie writes about prayer and other family topics in her email newsletter and on Instagram. To download the collection of free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars), visit JodieBerndt.com. Jodie and her husband, Robbie, have four adult children and live in Virginia Beach, Virginia.   Resources For You: Jodie's Website Instagram Facebook Twitter Mom's In Prayer John 15:7 Proverbs 27:17 Prayer Cards Psalm 56:3 Philippians 4:6 1 Peter 2:9 Ephesians 2:10 Jeremiah 1:5 Mom Set Free by Jeannie Cunnion Jodie's Blog Ephesians 3:17-19   Next Steps: Tell us what tips you're putting into practice at our website Bring Bible2School to Your Community! Share this podcast with a friend Subscribe to You CAN Tell the Children Leave a review on Apple Podcasts

Lisa Jacobson is an author, a speaker, and the founder of Club31Women.com. Her best-selling books on marriage include 100 Ways to Love Your Husband and her new book, The Flirtation Experiment, have inspired countless couples to strengthen their marriage and teach men and women how to love one another better. The Flirtation Experiment, is co-authored with Phylicia Masonheimer, and is perfect for the person who wants romance, passion, and the closeness that only comes from a deep heart connection. And the insights found within The Flirtation Experiment help put magic, mystery, and spark into your everyday marriage! Her parenting books - 100 Ways to Love Your Son, and 100 Ways to Love Your Daughter - offer a simple but powerful path to a close and lasting relationship with your kids, no matter their age! Lisa and her husband, Matt, are also co-hosts of the popular FAITHFUL LIFE podcast. They live in the beautiful Pacific Northwest, where they have raised their eight children. You can follow Lisa on Instagram at @club31women, and at learn more at www.Club31Women.com.

This interview with author, Lisa Jacobson, will bring a new awareness to the importance of praying for your spouse and give you some inspiration for what to pray for and how to get started. We also get a glimpse into Lisa's personal prayer life, hearing about her personal routine and how she's seen God at work as she prays. Listen to the end for bonus encouragement on modeling prayer for our children.Lisa Jacobson is an author, a podcaster, and the founder of Club31Women.com, an online community of Christian women authors who write on marriage, home, family, and faith--a powerful voice for biblical womanhood. She is the author of the bestselling 100 Ways to Love Your Husband and co-author of the new release, The Flirtation Experiment. Lisa and her husband, Matt, are also cohosts of the popular FAITHFUL LIFE podcast. They live in the beautiful Pacific Northwest where they have enjoyed raising their eight children.Lisa's Website | Lisa's InstagramHighlights from today's episode:[2:20] Lisa's current prayer routine[6:00] How Lisa prays for her husband[7:50] How do you pray God's will, not your own?[10:00] A small way to get started praying for your spouse[12:45] How Lisa has seen God at work in her husband's life[14:09] When your spouse isn't a believer[16:11] A biggest “no” Lisa has received in prayer[20:30] How prayer was modeled for Lisa + modeling for others[30:00] How Lisa longs to keep growing her prayer lifeThings mentioned in today's episode:Praying when you can't sleepPrayer Journal by Val Marie PaperThe Flirtation Experiment by Lisa JacobsonWant a journal designed to help you focus in prayer? Try our monthly format designed to be filled out once at the beginning of the month really intentionally. Then you can pick up daily to pray over several things on your list! Check out our brand new linen journals in the shop now! Val's new book on prayer is now available! Go to valmariepaper.com/pray to order Pray Confidently and Consistently, get our no-fail leader's guide and more! 

Have you ever thought about praying Scripture over your life? I mean actually taking Bible Verses and using them as your prayer. You could pray for yourself, your kids, your family, or your loved ones.  I think this is such a great idea which is why I love the book by Jodie Berndt, *Praying the Scriptures for Your Life: 31 Days of Abiding in the Presence, Provision, and Power of God. I am so excited to have Jodie on the podcast this week as we talk about abiding, Bible memorization, and practical ways to transform our prayer life. Not only does Jodie show us how to turn Bible Verses into prayers, but she also has such great wisdom for moms. I love the truth and advice she offers. I learned so much for her and I cannot wait for you to learn from her too! Also, I am so excited for someone to win a copy of Jodie's book: *Praying the Scriptures for Your Life. All the details of the book giveaway are on my website at jodirosser.com or you can click this direct link: https://jodirosser.com/giveaways/praying-the-scriptures-for-your-life-book-giveaway/ Jodie shared about a resource on her website. Here is a link to the Prayer Calendars that she created. Book Recommendations: *Pray Confidently & Consistently by Valerie Woerner *How to Pray by Pete Greig To join my new Depth Podcast Community Group, click on https://www.facebook.com/groups/depthpodcast JODIE BERNDT is the author of the bestselling Praying the Scriptures book series. A speaker and Bible teacher, Jodie is a repeat guest on programs like Focus on the Family, the 700 Club, and a variety of popular podcasts, and she has been a contributing writer for Fox News, Club31Women, Ann Voskamp's daily devotional, and Proverbs 31 Ministries. Jodie writes about prayer and other family topics in her email newsletter and on Instagram. To download the collection of free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars),  please visit JodieBerndt.com. Jodie and her husband, Robbie, have four adult children and live in Virginia Beach, Virginia. *Note: If you are interested in purchasing this book or the books recommended, I would love for you to use the Amazon Affiliate link above to help support the podcast. Thank you!

TODAY'S TOPICToday were discussed being purposeful and connected in true fellowship with your spouse as you transition into a new season. When we're not in sync, simple decisions and plans can become sources of tension and worse. Where are you at with your spouse, today? Right now? Are you walking in unity or have the pace and the demands of two over-busy lives got you just surviving? God's way is so much better than just getting by. God always has a positive path forward . . . and it's closer than you may think!________IMPORTANT LINKS:Freedom-Course.com (Matt's new course, just released!)Learn the biblical path and discover God's power to get free and find real, lasting victory from porn and all sexual sin. Club31Women.com - Lisa's site for women who have a passion for faith, husband, home, and family. A contributor site where you'll find articles and encouragement each week from some of your favorite authors. FaithfulMan.com - Matt's site where he offers teaching, admonition, and encouragement on marriage, parenting, and biblical teachingBiblicalMarriageCoaching.comMatt works directly with couples seeking renewal for the marriage journey and/or biblical guidance for repair of damaged relationships. Contact Matt and explore if biblical marriage coaching is right for your marriage._________SOCIAL MEDIAClub 31 Women on Instagram: @Club31WomenClub 31 Women is also on Facebook Faithful Man on Instagram @FaithfulManFaithful Man is also on Facebook: FaithfulManMinistries

Jodie Berndt is the author of several books, including the bestselling Praying the Scriptures series for Children, Teens, and Adult Children. A speaker and Bible teacher, Jodie has been featured on programs like Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and a host of popular podcasts, and she has written for media outlets such as Fox News, Club31Women, and the Proverbs 31 Daily Devotional. Learn more about us at http://christconnection.cc/ 

Join Alisa is a beautiful conversation with her friend Jodie Berndt about her new book, "Praying the Scriptures for Your Life".  JODIE BERNDT is the author of the bestselling Praying the Scriptures book series. A speaker and Bible teacher, Jodie has appeared on programs like Focus on the Family, the 700 Club, and a host of popular podcasts, and she has been a contributing writer for Fox News, Club31Women, Ann Voskamp’s daily devotional, and Proverbs 31 Ministries. Jodie writes about prayer and other family topics in her email newsletter and on Instagram. To download the collection of free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars),  please visit JodieBerndt.com.  Sign up for Songs of Ascent: 21 Days of Walking Prayer  

Join Alisa is a beautiful conversation with her friend Jodie Berndt about her new book, "Praying the Scriptures for Your Life".  JODIE BERNDT is the author of the bestselling Praying the Scriptures book series. A speaker and Bible teacher, Jodie has appeared on programs like Focus on the Family, the 700 Club, and a host of popular podcasts, and she has been a contributing writer for Fox News, Club31Women, Ann Voskamp's daily devotional, and Proverbs 31 Ministries. Jodie writes about prayer and other family topics in her email newsletter and on Instagram. To download the collection of free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars),  please visit JodieBerndt.com.  Sign up for Songs of Ascent: 21 Days of Walking Prayer  

When life threatens to beat you down, don't lose sight of each other. That's the advice of authors Matt and Lisa Jacobson. The Jacobsons reflect on a particularly difficult time in their marriage-the birth of their fifth child, who was born with brain damage after suffering a stroke in utero. The long days in the hospital's ICU, along with starting a new company and caring for four other children at home, put a strain on their marriage. Matt explains what it means to "act like a man," and love and protect your wife and children in difficult times. Show Notes and Resources FaithfulMan.com with Matt Jacobson.  https://faithfulman.com/ Club31Women.com with Lisa Jacobson.  https://club31women.com/ Find resources from this podcast at https://shop.familylife.com/Products.aspx?categoryid=95. Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network.  https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/ Have the FamilyLife Today® podcast and resources helped you?  Consider becoming a Legacy Partner, a monthly supporter of FamilyLife. https://www.familylife.com/legacy

What does it mean to love your wife like Christ loves the church? Authors Matt and Lisa Jacobson tell how simple, daily gestures of love and kindness can make a big difference in a marriage. Hear them share practical tips for loving your wife in a way that honors her and the Lord. Show Notes and Resources FaithfulMan.com with Matt Jacobson.  https://faithfulman.com/ Club31Women.com with Lisa Jacobson.  https://club31women.com/ Find resources from this podcast at https://shop.familylife.com/Products.aspx?categoryid=95. Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network.  https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/ Have the FamilyLife Today® podcast and resources helped you?  Consider becoming a Legacy Partner, a monthly supporter of FamilyLife. https://www.familylife.com/legacy

One of the biggest challenges in parenting is often the differences in parenting styles. There's bound to be conflict when you're both right! How can you and your spouse work together and walk in unity and peace when comes to the kids? Join us for an encouraging conversation about the biblical approach to parenting.STRUGGLING WITH PORN/SEXUAL SIN? ENROLL IN MATT'S FREEDOM COURSE - Teaching men how to find true and lasting freedom from porn and all sexual sin. Go to freedom.faithfulman.com (Matt teaches 4 sessions - LIVE! - 4 Weeks - Interact directly with Matt as you learn how to find true, biblical freedom and NEVER look back! Enroll today!GET MATT & LISA'S BOOKS HERE:100 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE BOOKS(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/2MCdMbJ 100 WORDS OF AFFIRMATION YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE NEED TO HEAR:(Big Discount!) https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.comMARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HIM - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587MARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HER - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587CONNECT WITH MATT & LISA:FOLLOW LISA on Instagram & Facebook @Club31Women and Club31Women.comFOLLOW MATT on Instagram @FaithfulMan & Facebook @FaithfulManMinistries, and at FaithfulMan.comAnd Don't Forget! 1) Please Leave A Podcast Review!! 2) Take a screenshot of the podcast and share it on social media!!Do you like Matt & Lisa's content and positive, honest, from-the-heart approach? Would you like to support this ministry? DONATE HERE: https://faithfulman.com/donate/

Do you struggle to maintain a regular, consistent devotional life? We have good intentions but somehow, all those obligations and great opportunities manage to edge out meeting with God. Today, we explore those things that keep us from pursuing God and meditating on His Word, why this happens so often to so many Christians, and what can be done to change. A close, consistent devotional life with God is the last thing your Enemy wants. Are you ready to go deep with God, every day? Begin pursuing the devotional life you desire and that God desires for you. STRUGGLING WITH PORN/SEXUAL SIN? ENROLL IN MATT'S FREEDOM COURSE - Teaching men how to find true and lasting freedom from porn and all sexual sin. Go to freedom.faithfulman.com (Matt teaches 4 sessions - LIVE! - 4 Weeks - Interact directly with Matt as you learn how to find true, biblical freedom and NEVER look back! Enroll today!GET MATT & LISA'S BOOKS HERE:100 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE BOOKS(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/2MCdMbJ 100 WORDS OF AFFIRMATION YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE NEED TO HEAR:(Big Discount!) https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.comMARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HIM - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587MARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HER - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587CONNECT WITH MATT & LISA:FOLLOW LISA on Instagram & Facebook @Club31Women and Club31Women.comFOLLOW MATT on Instagram @FaithfulMan & Facebook @FaithfulManMinistries, and at FaithfulMan.comAnd Don't Forget! 1) Please Leave A Podcast Review!! 2) Take a screenshot of the podcast and share it on social media!!Do you like Matt & Lisa's content and positive, honest, from-the-heart approach? Would you like to support this ministry? DONATE HERE: https://faithfulman.com/donate/

Single men and women in the Church face powerful challenges. Do you know a single 20 something? Are you single? Special Guest, 22-year-old Cambria Jacobson (our daughter!) talks with me (Matt) about the challenges she faces as a committed Christian woman striving to live a godly, single life, and about the powerful impact married couples in the Church can have. It's a warm, inviting, interesting conversation between Dad and Daughter. STRUGGLING WITH PORN/SEXUAL SIN? ENROLL IN MATT'S FREEDOM COURSE - Teaching men how to find true and lasting freedom from porn and all sexual sin. Go to freedom.faithfulman.com (Matt teaches 4 sessions - LIVE! - 4 Weeks - Interact directly with Matt as you learn how to find true, biblical freedom and NEVER look back! Enroll today!GET MATT & LISA'S BOOKS HERE:100 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE BOOKS(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/2MCdMbJ 100 WORDS OF AFFIRMATION YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE NEED TO HEAR:(Big Discount!) https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.comMARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HIM - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587MARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HER - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587CONNECT WITH MATT & LISA:FOLLOW LISA on Instagram & Facebook @Club31Women and Club31Women.comFOLLOW MATT on Instagram @FaithfulMan & Facebook @FaithfulManMinistries, and at FaithfulMan.comAnd Don't Forget! 1) Please Leave A Podcast Review!! 2) Take a screenshot of the podcast and share it on social media!!Do you like Matt & Lisa's content and positive, honest, from-the-heart approach? Would you like to support this ministry? DONATE HERE: https://faithfulman.com/donate/

Couples often have very different needs when it comes to sex and if we're not careful, those differences can lead to feelings of neglect, on the one hand, or just being used, on the other. What should you do when your spouse's sex drive is far different than yours? Matt and Lisa talk about practical ways you can approach the beautiful gift God has given to married couples. STRUGGLING WITH PORN/SEXUAL SIN? ENROLL IN MATT'S FREEDOM COURSE - Teaching men how to find true and lasting freedom from porn and all sexual sin. Go to freedom.faithfulman.com (Matt teaches 4 sessions - LIVE! - 4 Weeks - Interact directly with Matt as you learn how to find true, biblical freedom and NEVER look back! Enroll today!GET MATT & LISA'S BOOKS HERE:100 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE BOOKS(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/2MCdMbJ 100 WORDS OF AFFIRMATION YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE NEED TO HEAR:(Big Discount!) https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.comMARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HIM - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587MARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HER - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587CONNECT WITH MATT & LISA:FOLLOW LISA on Instagram & Facebook @Club31Women and Club31Women.comFOLLOW MATT on Instagram @FaithfulMan & Facebook @FaithfulManMinistries, and at FaithfulMan.comAnd Don't Forget! 1) Please Leave A Podcast Review!! 2) Take a screenshot of the podcast and share it on social media!!Do you like Matt & Lisa's content and positive, honest, from-the-heart approach? Would you like to support this ministry? DONATE HERE: https://faithfulman.com/donate/

Matt & Lisa talk about how to avoid drifting apart as life gets busy and we get distracted from what really matters. Are you as close and connected with your husband/wife as you want to be?ENROLL IN MATT'S FREEDOM COURSE - Teaching men how to get free from porn and all sexual sin. Go to freedom.faithfulman.com (Matt teaches 4 sessions - LIVE! - 4 Weeks - Interact directly with Matt as you learn how to find true, biblical freedom from porn, and all sexual sin and NEVER look back! Enroll today!GET MATT & LISA'S BOOKS HERE:100 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE BOOKS(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/2MCdMbJ 100 WORDS OF AFFIRMATION YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE NEED TO HEAR:(Big Discount!) https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.comMARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HIM - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587MARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HER - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587CONNECT WITH MATT & LISA:FOLLOW LISA on Instagram & Facebook @Club31Women and Club31Women.comFOLLOW MATT on Instagram @FaithfulMan & Facebook @FaithfulManMinistries, and at FaithfulMan.comAnd Don't Forget! 1) Please Leave A Podcast Review!! 2) Take a screenshot of the podcast and share it on social media!!Do you like Matt & Lisa's content and positive, honest, from-the-heart approach? Would you like to support this ministry? DONATE HERE: https://faithfulman.com/donate/

Motherhood is beautiful . . . but, it's also the hardest job on the planet and many moms come to the end of their energy long before they come to the end of the work. At some point, every mom feels worn out - spent - and yet needs to carry on. What can she do to deal with the exhaustion? And is this all on her, or do Husbands have a vital role in helping their wives persevere and find the rest they need to be their best? GET MATT & LISA'S BOOKS HERE:100 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE BOOKS(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/2MCdMbJ 100 WORDS OF AFFIRMATION YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE NEED TO HEAR:(Big Discount!) https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.comMARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HIM - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587MARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HER - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587CONNECT WITH MATT & LISA:FOLLOW LISA on Instagram & Facebook @Club31Women and Club31Women.comFOLLOW MATT on Instagram @FaithfulMan & Facebook @FaithfulManMinistries, and at FaithfulMan.comMATT'S FREEDOM COURSE - Teaching men how to get free from porn and all sexual sin. Go to freedom.faithfulman.com (Matt teaches 5 sessions - LIVE! - 5 Weeks - Interact directly with Matt as you learn how to find true, biblical freedom from porn, and all sexual sin and NEVER look back! Enroll today!And Don't Forget! 1) Please Leave A Podcast Review!! 2) Take a screenshot of the podcast and share it on social media!!Do you like Matt & Lisa's content and positive, honest, from-the-heart approach? Would you like to support this ministry? DONATE HERE: https://faithfulman.com/donate/

Matt & Lisa discuss how to rediscover the heart of your marriage after life takes you through difficult times. Very encouraging!GET MATT & LISA'S BOOKS HERE:100 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE BOOKS(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/2MCdMbJ 100 WORDS OF AFFIRMATION YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE NEED TO HEAR:(Big Discount!) https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.comMARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HIM - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587MARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HER - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587CONNECT WITH MATT & LISA:FOLLOW LISA on Instagram & Facebook @Club31Women and Club31Women.comFOLLOW MATT on Instagram @FaithfulMan & Facebook @FaithfulManMinistries, and at FaithfulMan.comMATT'S FREEDOM CORSE - freedom.faithfulman.com (Matt teaches 5 sessions - LIVE! - 5 Weeks - Interact directly with Matt as you learn how to find true, biblical freedom from porn, and all sexual sin and NEVER look back!And Don't Forget! 1) Please Leave A Podcast Review!! 2) Take a screenshot of the podcast and share it on social media!!Do you like Matt & Lisa's content and positive, honest, from-the-heart approach? Would you like to support this ministry? DONATE HERE: https://faithfulman.com/donate/

Matt & Lisa share some of their best tips and creative ideas to make your next family vacation meaningful and memorable - building memories and a yearly tradition the older kids will never want to miss, even years after leaving the home!FREE CAMPING CHECKLIST: https://club31women.com/what-you-need-to-know-and-bring-if-youre-camping-with-kids-free-printable-checklist/GET MATT & LISA'S BOOKS HERE:100 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE BOOKS(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/2MCdMbJ 100 WORDS OF AFFIRMATION YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE NEED TO HEAR:(Big Discount!) https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.comMARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HIM - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587MARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HER - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587CONNECT WITH MATT & LISA:FOLLOW LISA on Instagram & Facebook @Club31Women and Club31Women.comFOLLOW MATT on Instagram @FaithfulMan & Facebook @FaithfulManMinistries, and at FaithfulMan.comAnd Don't Forget! 1) Please Leave A Podcast Review!! 2) Take a screenshot of the podcast and share it on social media!!Do you like Matt & Lisa's content and positive, honest from-the-heart approach? Would you like to support this ministry? DONATE HERE: https://faithfulman.com/donate/

Join Matt & Lisa as they discuss how to prevent bitterness - or to overcome bitterness - in marriage, relationships, and life. They offer both biblical and practical help to anyone who might struggle with a growing root of bitterness. GET MATT & LISA'S BOOKS HERE:100 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE BOOKS(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/2MCdMbJ 100 WORDS OF AFFIRMATION YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE NEED TO HEAR:(Big Discount!) https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.comMARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HIM - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587MARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HER - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587CONNECT WITH MATT & LISA:FOLLOW LISA on Instagram & Facebook @Club31Women and Club31Women.comFOLLOW MATT on Instagram @FaithfulMan & Facebook @FaithfulManMinistries, and at FaithfulMan.comAnd Don't Forget! 1) Please Leave A Podcast Review!! 2) Take a screenshot of the podcast and share it on social media!!Do you like Matt & Lisa's content and positive, honest from-the-heart approach? Would you like to support this ministry? DONATE HERE: https://faithfulman.com/donate/

When life threatens to beat you down, don't lose sight of each other. That's the advice of authors Matt and Lisa Jacobson. The Jacobsons reflect on a particularly difficult time in their marriage-the birth of their fifth child, who was born with brain damage after suffering a stroke in utero. The long days in the hospital's ICU, along with starting a new company and caring for four other children at home, put a strain on their marriage. Matt explains what it means to "act like a man," and love and protect your wife and children in difficult times. Show Notes and Resources FaithfulMan.com with Matt Jacobson.  https://faithfulman.com/ Club31Women.com with Lisa Jacobson.  https://club31women.com/ Find resources from this podcast at https://shop.familylife.com/Products.aspx?categoryid=95. Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network.  https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/ Have the FamilyLife Today® podcast and resources helped you?  Consider becoming a Legacy Partner, a monthly supporter of FamilyLife. https://www.familylife.com/legacy

What does it mean to love your wife like Christ loves the church? Authors Matt and Lisa Jacobson tell how simple, daily gestures of love and kindness can make a big difference in a marriage. Hear them share practical tips for loving your wife in a way that honors her and the Lord. Show Notes and Resources FaithfulMan.com with Matt Jacobson.  https://faithfulman.com/ Club31Women.com with Lisa Jacobson.  https://club31women.com/ Find resources from this podcast at https://shop.familylife.com/Products.aspx?categoryid=95. Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network.  https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/ Have the FamilyLife Today® podcast and resources helped you?  Consider becoming a Legacy Partner, a monthly supporter of FamilyLife. https://www.familylife.com/legacy

Did you know when it comes to being tempted, God made you a winner? Matt teaches what the Bible says about having victory over temptation, every time, and what God did to make it possible for you to stand strong, no matter how intense the battle. **Do you know about FREEDOM Course? The next FREEDOM course starts soon! Sign Up for Next Month's Course (for Men!) Learn to SAY "NO!" TO PORNOGRAPHY, become a Faithful Man, Walk in Victory over sexual sin and temptation and never look back! ENROLL IN THIS 5 WEEK, LIVE, CLASS TODAY! ** Go to Freedom.FaithfulMan.comMatt teaches 5 sessions over the course of a month - Live Teaching! Go to FaithfulMan.com/freedomGET MATT & LISA'S BOOKS HERE:100 Ways to Love your Son: at this Link: https://amzn.to/2SzFVm8100 Ways to Love Your Daughter:at this link: https://amzn.to/3fnKKZy100 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE BOOKS(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/2MCdMbJ 100 WORDS OF AFFIRMATION YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE NEED TO HEAR:(Big Discount!) https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.comMARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HIM - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587MARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HER - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587CONNECT WITH MATT & LISA:Follow Lisa on Instagram & Facebook @Club31Women and Club31Women.comFollow Matt on Instagram @FaithfulMan & Facebook @FaithfulManMinistries, and FaithfulMan.comAnd Don't Forget! 1) Leave A Podcast Review!! 2) Take a screenshot of the podcast and share it on social media!!Get the book mentioned in this episode: GOOD MAN by Nathan Clarkson, here: https://amzn.to/2Wlok3IWould you like to support this ministry? DONATE HERE: https://faithfulman.com/donate/.

Join Matt & Lisa as they talk about how to reach a child's heart with what he/she needs most. Are you giving this to your child? The Jacobson's talk candidly about their triumphs and failures as parents, as well as offer help and encouragement on how to fill the heart of your child. **FREEDOM course starts soon! Sign Up for Next Month's Freedom Course (for Men!) Learn to SAY "NO!" TO PORNOGRAPHY, become a Faithful Man, Walk in Victory and never look back! ENROLL IN THIS 5 WEEK, LIVE, CLASS TODAY! ** Go to Freedom.FaithfulMan.comMatt teaches 5 sessions over the course of a month - Live Teaching! Go to FaithfulMan.com/freedomGET MATT & LISA'S BOOKS HERE:100 Ways to Love your Son: at this Link: https://amzn.to/2SzFVm8100 Ways to Love Your Daughter:at this link: https://amzn.to/3fnKKZy100 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE BOOKS(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/2MCdMbJ 100 WORDS OF AFFIRMATION YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE NEED TO HEAR:(Big Discount!) https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.comMARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HIM - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587MARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HER - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587CONNECT WITH MATT & LISA:Follow Lisa on Instagram & Facebook @Club31Women and Club31Women.comFollow Matt on Instagram @FaithfulMan & Facebook @FaithfulManMinistries, and FaithfulMan.comAnd Don't Forget! 1) Leave A Podcast Review!! 2) Take a screenshot of the podcast and share it on social media!!Would you like to support this ministry? DONATE HERE: https://faithfulman.com/donate/

Matt's Dad is passing into the Arms of His Loving Heavenly Father, this week. He shares about it openly and honestly in the introduction and then, a very popular episode from long ago is rebroadcast . . .(we hope you understand!) Are you using the power of positive affirmation in the life of your spouse & kids? This episode teaches you how to do it every day! We sometimes forget that we are establishing then culture in our home by how we speak to each other . . . Don't you want a positive, loving, life-filled marriage and family? This episode will challenge you and teach you how!**FREEDOM course starts soon! Sign Up for Next Month's Freedom Course (for Men!) Learn to SAY "NO!" TO PORNOGRAPHY, become a Faithful Man, Walk in Victory and never look back! ENROLL IN THIS 5 WEEK, LIVE, CLASS TODAY! ** Go to Faithfulman.com/freedomMatt teaches 5 sessions over the course of a month - Live Teaching! Go to FaithfulMan.com/freedomGET MATT & LISA'S BOOKS HERE:100 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE BOOKS(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/2MCdMbJ 100 WORDS OF AFFIRMATION YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE NEED TO HEAR:(Big Discount!) https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.comMARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HIM - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587MARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HER - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587CONNECT WITH MATT & LISA:Follow Lisa on Instagram & Facebook @Club31Women and Club31Women.comFollow Matt on Instagram @FaithfulMan & Facebook @FaithfulManMinistries, and FaithfulMan.comAnd Don't Forget! 1) Leave A Podcast Review!! 2) Take a screenshot of the podcast and share it on social media!!Would you like to support this ministry? DONATE HERE: https://faithfulman.com/donate/

“Close knit family bonds don’t just happen.” Today’s guest, Susan Alexander Yates sits down with Lee to talk about the importance of using our creativity to write our families spiritual legacy.  Family relationships aren’t always easy, so Susan and Lee also cover overcoming tension and family strain to create lasting memories.  This episode is filled with hope, creativity and fun.  About our Guest: Susan Yates has written 16 books and speaks both nationally and internationally on the subjects of marriage, parenting, and women's issues. Her books include And Then I Had Kids: Encouragement for Mothers of Young Children; And Then I Had Teenagers: Encouragement for Parents of Teens and Preteens; Barbara and Susan's Guide to the Empty Nest (with friend Barbara Rainey) and Raising Kids with Character That Lasts (With her husband John), She has also written Risky Faith, The One Devotional, and her latest, Cousin Camp.Susan blogs regularly at susanalexanderyates.com and also contributes to Club31Women.com. For 11 years she was the Parent Child Columnist for Today's Christian Woman Magazine. She has also written for other publications including, "Thriving Family," a magazine published by Focus on the Family. She's the mother of five children (including a set of twins) all married and the grandmother of 21 (including a set of quadruplets!). Susan and her husband John have been married 50 years. They live in Falls Church, Virginia.   Show Sponsor: Compassion International, https://www.compassion.com/momsinprayer   Book: Cousin Camp by Susan Alexander Yates Website- https://www.susanalexanderyates.com/ Moms in Prayer International- www.MomsInPrayer.org

Matt and Lisa answer your questions about parenting, marriage like: What happens when you disagree over a major decision? How do you love a challenging child? What's the best approach for adding a second baby to the family? What is the one thing you wish you knew when you were single? What should you do if you catch your husband looking at porn?**FREEDOM course starts soon! Sign Up for Next Month's Freedom Course (for Men!) Learn to SAY "NO!" TO PORNOGRAPHY, become a Faithful Man, Walk in Victory and never look back! ENROLL IN THIS 5 WEEK, LIVE, CLASS TODAY! ** Go to Faithfulman.com/freedomMatt teaches 5 sessions over the course of a month - Live Teaching! Go to FaithfulMan.com/freedomGET MATT & LISA'S BOOKS HERE:100 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE BOOKS(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/2MCdMbJ 100 WORDS OF AFFIRMATION YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE NEED TO HEAR:(Big Discount!) https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.comMARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HIM - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587MARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HER - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587NEW BOOK ADVERTISED ON THIS EPISODE - Becoming The Next Great Generation by Jonathan Catherman - Provides teens with tools and information for becoming confident and capable adults in the 21st Century. CONNECT WITH MATT & LISA:Follow Lisa on Instagram & Facebook @Club31Women and Club31Women.comFollow Matt on Instagram @FaithfulMan & Facebook @FaithfulManMinistries, and FaithfulMan.comAnd Don't Forget! 1) Leave A Podcast Review!! 2) Take a screenshot of the podcast and share it on social media!!Would you like to support this ministry? DONATE HERE: https://faithfulman.com/donate/

Are you walking in fear or living by faith? Is it possible to have confidence and find peace in the middle of a storm? Jesus thinks so! How, exactly, do you find rest for your soul when then world is falling apart? **FREEDOM course starts soon! Sign Up for Next Month's Freedom Course (for Men!) Learn to SAY "NO!" TO PORNOGRAPHY, become a Faithful Man, Walk in Victory and never look back! ENROLL IN THIS 5 WEEK, LIVE, CLASS TODAY! ** Go to Faithfulman.com/freedomMatt teaches 5 sessions over the course of a month - Live Teaching! Go to FaithfulMan.com/freedomGET MATT & LISA'S BOOKS HERE:100 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE BOOKS(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/2MCdMbJ 100 WORDS OF AFFIRMATION YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE NEED TO HEAR:(Big Discount!) https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.comMARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HIM - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587MARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HER - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587NEW BOOK ADVERTISED ON THIS EPISODE - Cousin's Camp by Susan Alexander Yates - Get a copy here: https://amzn.to/3bvKWn0CONNECT WITH MATT & LISA:Follow Lisa on Instagram & Facebook @Club31Women and Club31Women.comFollow Matt on Instagram @FaithfulMan & Facebook @FaithfulManMinistries, and FaithfulMan.comAnd Don't Forget! 1) Leave A Podcast Review!! 2) Take a screenshot of the podcast and share it on social media!!Would you like to support this ministry? DONATE HERE: https://faithfulman.com/donate/

Your marriage CAN thrive in the face of uncertain times! A World Pandemic with mandatory shelter-in-place and enforced Social Distancing has brought much stress, pressure, and yes, fear to the hearts of many Christians and friction to many marriages. Practical discussion on what to focus on, who your real enemy is, and the positive steps you can take for loving each other inspite of a world gone mad.DON'T FORGET TO LEAVE A REVIEW! . . . HIGHLY IMPORTANT! . . . HIGHLY IMPACTFUL!**FREEDOM course starts soon! Sign Up for Next Month's Freedom Course (for Men!) Learn to say "No" to pornography, become a Faithful Man, Walk in Victory and never look back! How ** Go to Faithfulman.com/freedomMatt teaches 5 sessions over the course of a month - Live Teaching! Go to FaithfulMan.com/freedomGET MATT & LISA'S BOOKS HERE:100 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE BOOKS(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/2MCdMbJ 100 WORDS OF AFFIRMATION YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE NEED TO HEAR:(Big Discount!) https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.comMARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HIM - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587MARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HER - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587NEW BOOK ADVERTISED ON THIS EPISODE - Cousin's Camp by Susan Alexander Yates - Get a copy here: https://amzn.to/3bvKWn0CONNECT WITH MATT & LISA:Follow Lisa on Instagram & Facebook @Club31Women and Club31Women.comFollow Matt on Instagram @FaithfulMan & Facebook @FaithfulManMinistries, and FaithfulMan.comAnd Don't Forget! 1) Leave A Podcast Review!! 2) Take a screenshot of the podcast and share it on social media!!Would you like to support this ministry? DONATE HERE: https://faithfulman.com/donate/

When should you start a family? And, how many children should you have? Does God have an opinion or does He leave the question entirely in your hands, without input? What is the Bible's perspective on kids? Join Matt and Lisa for an interesting, wide-ranging discussion . . . and learn about the journey Lisa went on regarding kids and how many she wanted!DON'T FORGET TO LEAVE A REVIEW! . . . HIGHLY IMPORTANT! . . . HIGHLY IMPACTFUL!**Sign Up for Next Month's Freedom Course (for Men!) Learn to say "No" to sexual sin, become a Faithful Man, Walk in Victory and never look back! How ** Go to Faithfulman.com/freedomMatt teaches 5 sessions over the course of a month - Live Teaching! Go to FaithfulMan.com/freedomGET MATT & LISA'S BOOKS HERE:100 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE BOOKS(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/2MCdMbJ 100 WORDS OF AFFIRMATION YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE NEED TO HEAR:(Big Discount!) https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.comMARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HIM - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587MARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HER - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587NEW BOOK ADVERTISED ON THIS EPISODE - Words of Courage for Women . . . Look Here: https://amzn.to/39d5u1ZCONNECT WITH MATT & LISA:Follow Lisa on Instagram & Facebook @Club31Women and Club31Women.comFollow Matt on Instagram @FaithfulMan & Facebook @FaithfulManMinistries, and FaithfulMan.comAnd Don't Forget! 1) Leave A Podcast Review!! 2) Take a screenshot of the podcast and share it on social media!!Would you like to support this ministry? DONATE HERE: https://faithfulman.com/donate/

Fierce Marriage podcast hosts, Ryan and Selena Fredrick answer Matt's questions honestly and deeply about their ministry, marriage, and why every Christian couple should strive to have a "See-Through Marriage". How transparent are you with your husband ... wife? Should you tell everything - even past sins? What impact does being fully known have on your life, marriage, and the ministry God has prepared for you to do? GET MATT & LISA'S BOOKS HERE:100 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE BOOKS(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/2MCdMbJ 100 WORDS OF AFFIRMATION YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE NEED TO HEAR:(Big Discount!) https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.comMARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HIM - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587MARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HER - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587NEW BOOK ADVERTISED ON THIS EPISODE - https://amzn.to/2IRptsfCONNECT WITH MATT & LISAFollow Lisa on Instagram & Facebook @Club31Women and Club31Women.comFollow Matt on Instagram @FaithfulMan & Facebook @FaithfulManMinistries, and FaithfulMan.comAnd Don't Forget! 1) Leave A Podcast Review!! 2) Take a screenshot of the podcast and share it on social media!!Would you like to support this ministry? DONATE HERE: https://faithfulman.com/donate/

Are you discouraged, defeated, and demoralized by your spouse's persistent use of porn? Are you one of those men (or women, increasingly) that keep going back for more only to feel gross and tell yourself how much you hate it, after the fact? Wasn't sex with your spouse supposed to fix all that? But, it didn't . . . and doesn't. Reality: Sex isn't a cure for sin. So, what's the answer? Matt and Lisa discuss this issue and the Biblical Solution. And, Matt makes a BIG ANNOUNCEMENT . . . About a new course he's teaching on how to have real and lasting victory over lust and sexual impurity. Sign up to GET the DETAILS Here: faithfulman.com/freedomGET MATT & LISA'S BOOKS HERE:100 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE BOOKS(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/2MCdMbJ 100 WORDS OF AFFIRMATION YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE NEED TO HEAR:(Big Discount!) https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.comMARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HIM - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587MARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HER - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587NEW BOOK ADVERTISED ON THIS EPISODE - 100 Words of Affirmation You Wife Needs to Hear & 100 Words of Affirmation Your Husband Needs to Hear https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/affirmation-simple-loving-encourage-uplift-spouse/lisa-jacobson/9780800737627/pd/736605X?event=Home-Pages|1013587CONNECT WITH MATT & LISAFollow Lisa on Instagram & Facebook @Club31Women and Club31Women.comFollow Matt on Instagram @FaithfulMan & Facebook @FaithfulManMinistries, and FaithfulMan.comAnd Don't Forget - Please... 1) Leave A Podcast Review!! 2) Take a screenshot of the podcast and share it on social media!!Would you like to support this ministry? DONATE HERE: https://faithfulman.com/donate/

Are you a selfless lover? Matt & Lisa Explore 1 Corinthians 13:5 - Love doesn't seek "it's own", is not easily provoked, thinks no evil. Are you giving yourself a "pass" on these imperative of selfless love? The truth is that happily ever after is about making a lot of everyday choices that say, "I love You" rather than choices that say, "I love me" and that's what v. 5 is all about - selfless love . . . does that describe you? GET MATT & LISA'S BOOKS HERE:100 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE BOOKS(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/2MCdMbJ 100 WORDS OF AFFIRMATION YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE NEED TO HEAR:(Big Discount!) https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.comMARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HIM - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587MARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HER - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587NEW BOOK ADVERTISED ON THIS EPISODE - MANAGE YOUR WORRY AND ANXIETY https://amzn.to/386itlFCONNECT WITH MATT & LISAFollow Lisa on Instagram & Facebook @Club31Women and Club31Women.comFollow Matt on Instagram @FaithfulMan & Facebook @FaithfulManMinistries, and FaithfulMan.comAnd Don't Forget - Please... 1) Leave A Podcast Review!! 2) Take a screenshot of the podcast and share it on social media!!Support this ministry and get your FREE Faithful Man & Faithful Woman wristbands (as our small token of thanks!) when you make a monthly donation of any size! February & March 2020 only! DONATE HERE: https://faithfulman.com/donate/

Do you desire a deeper, richer, closer marriage? Matt and Lisa openly discuss their own marriage and what "The Love Chapter" says a loving marriage DOESN'T have and challenge you to make an honest assessment of your own marriage. GET MATT & LISA'S BOOKS HERE:100 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE BOOKS(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/2MCdMbJ 100 WORDS OF AFFIRMATION YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE NEED TO HEAR:(Big Discount!) https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.comMARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HIM - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587MARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HER - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587NEW BOOK ADVERTISED ON THIS EPISODE - MANAGE YOUR WORRY AND ANXIETY https://amzn.to/386itlFCONNECT WITH MATT & LISAFollow Lisa on Instagram & Facebook @Club31Women and Club31Women.comFollow Matt on Instagram @FaithfulMan & Facebook @FaithfulManMinistries, and FaithfulMan.comAnd Don't Forget - Please... 1) Leave A Podcast Review!! 2) Take a screenshot of the podcast and share it on social media!!Support this ministry and get your FREE Faithful Man & Faithful Woman wristbands (as our small token of thanks!) when you make a monthly donation of any size! February & March 2020 only! DONATE HERE: https://faithfulman.com/donate/

Does your husband (or wife) think of you as patient and kind? How about your kids? 1 Corinthians 13:4 says Love is patient and kind. What does it mean if these qualities are missing or in short supply in your marriage? And how can you have a marriage that has more of both? GET MATT & LISA'S BOOKS HERE:100 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE BOOKS(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/2MCdMbJ 100 WORDS OF AFFIRMATION YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE NEED TO HEAR:(Big Discount!) https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.comMARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HIM - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587MARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HER - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587ADVERTISED BOOK ON THIS EPISODE, Praying Women by Sheila Walsh - get a copy here: https://amzn.to/31nBttVCONNECT WITH MATT & LISAFollow Lisa on Instagram & Facebook @Club31Women and Club31Women.comFollow Matt on Instagram @FaithfulMan & Facebook @FaithfulManMinistries, and FaithfulMan.comAnd Don't Forget - Please... 1) Leave A Podcast Review!! 2) Take a screenshot of the podcast and share it on social media!!Support this ministry and get your FREE Faithful Man & Faithful Woman wristbands (as our small token of thanks!) when you make a monthly donation of any size! February & March 2020 only! DONATE HERE: https://faithfulman.com/donate/

Matt & Lisa have a lot of fun talking about the Bible's surprisingly candid comments about romantic love (at least Matt does . . . Lisa blushes a lot and tries to change the subject!) Are you intentionally pursuing each other or is life just happening and your marriage is along for the ride? What priority does God place on romance in marriage? Many are surprised to learn, the Bible has a lot to say about it! And, it's not just the "big romantic gesture" that says it all. Matt & Lisa talk about all this and offer 5 Surprisingly Romantic, yet affordable, date ideas for every couple. 5 Inexpensive, Romantic Date Ideas:1)Home Date:a.Earlier in the day get a couple of desserts from a bakery or store near youb.Put the Kids to bedc.Light a candle (ChosenCandle.com)d.Put on some soft musice.Make drinks you both will enjoyf.Sit together ask each other questions . . . expandi.Favorite memory togetherii.Favorite place you visited together . . . or would like to visit!iii.Express appreciation for the three things you love most about each other.g.Run a bath for two or shower together2)Walking/Hiking Datea.Get to a trail, walk along a river, even a golf courseb.Reach out and touch each other – hold hands, slip your arms around each other when you stop.c.Stop back at a cafe for coffee/tea/whatever you liked.Express something you love about each othere.Talk about the coming season ahead of you. 3)Winter Zone Datea.Tubing, sledding, snowshoeing (often done for kids but a lot of fun for just a couple, too!)b.Bring a warm blanket & Hot Chocolate in a thermos and a snackc.Sit close and share the blanket.4)Inner City Walking Datea.Walk, holding hands and poking into various shops.b.Find a food cart and have lunch/early dinner (our story)c.Walk through a museum together5)Ice/Roller Skatea.A lot of fun even if you’re not good!b.Gives you a good reason to hold onto each other!c.Hold handsd.Go out for coffee afterGET MATT & LISA'S BOOKS HERE:100 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE BOOKS(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/2MCdMbJ 100 WORDS OF AFFIRMATION YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE NEED TO HEAR:(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/31knPpQMARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HIM - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587MARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HER - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587ADVERTISED BOOK ON THIS EPISODE, Praying Women by Sheila Walsh - get a copy here: https://amzn.to/31nBttVCONNECT WITH MATT & LISAFollow Lisa on Instagram & Facebook @Club31Women and Club31Women.comFollow Matt on Instagram @FaithfulMan & Facebook @FaithfulManMinistries, and FaithfulMan.comAnd Don't Forget: 1) Leave A Podcast Review!! 2) Take a screenshot of the podcast and share it on social media!!

My friends Matt and Lisa Jacobson are joining me on the podcast today. We are going to talk about what it looks like to walk this marriage thing out as the one-flesh relationship that God intended it to be. Transcribed version of podcast is below. Today’s Scripture Writing Challenge Verse * Psalm 40:9-11 Resources Mentioned in Podcast * Faith That Speaks * Faithful Life Podcast * Club 31 Women * Faithful Man All Things Heidi * See all events here * MomStrong International * Sample Bible Study Week and Cursive Copywork.  * To see the Manuscript of the Copywork and the Scripture Writing schedule, sign up at MomStrong International  for a FREE account to gain access! * Bible Study kicks off the first Monday of each month. * Scripture Writing kicks off the first day of every month. * Speaking Requests * Submit your questions to MailBox Monday * Essential Oils * Shop my Amazon Store * My Books: Becoming MomStrong | MomStrong Bible Study | Prayers for the Battlefield | Bible Promises for Moms | Becoming MomStrong Journal Join us at MomStrong International for our newest Bible Study and Scripture Writing! Submit your questions to MailBox Monday. Matt is the founder of FaithfulMan.com and Lisa started Club31Women.com. Together they cohost FAITHFUL LIFE podcast. They’re the authors of 100 Ways to Love Your Husband/Wife and 100 Words of Affirmation Every Husband/Wife Needs to Hear. Connect with Matt: Facebook | Instagram | Website Connect with Lisa: Facebook | Instagram | Website Don’t Miss These! TRANSCRIPTION: Hey everybody, this is Heidi St. John. Welcome to the Heidi St. John Podcast. Today is Friday, February 7th, you guys, Valentine’s Day is coming up. This is episode number 882 and I’ve got a special treat for you today. My friends Matt and Lisa Jacobson are on the show with me today, and we’re going to talk about what it looks like, to walk this marriage thing out as, the one flesh relationship that God intended it to be. Stick around, --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/heidistjohn/support

Defiant, Disrespectful kids are tough to be around, aren't they? And yet, in Christian homes, this behavior is too often tolerated. (Maybe you don't have kids but, you will some day . . . this is for you, too - Christian Single, young married without kids!) How can parents correct this behavior and get their children and the culture of your home on the right track? All parenting is discipleship and there is no more important job a parent has than to disciple the heart of their child to the right path. (PLEASE share this podcast with someone you know!)GET MATT & LISA'S BOOKS HERE:100 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE BOOKS(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/2MCdMbJ 100 WORDS OF AFFIRMATION YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE NEED TO HEAR:(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/31knPpQMARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HIM - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587MARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HER - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587ADVERTISED BOOK ON THIS EPISODE, Praying Women by Sheila Walsh - get a copy here: https://amzn.to/31nBttVCONNECT WITH MATT & LISAFollow Lisa on Instagram & Facebook @Club31Women and Club31Women.comFollow Matt on Instagram & Facebook @FaithfulManMinistries and FaithfulMan.comAnd Don't Forget: 1) Leave A Podcast Review!! 2) Take a screenshot of the podcast and share it on social media!!

Uncontained viruses, wars & rumors of wars, worry about a child's future, how to pay next months bills . . . Does fear play a huge role in your life as it does in so many? As a believer, does God want you to constantly struggle with debilitating fear? Here's how to find real and lasting freedom from the power of fear.GET MATT & LISA'S BOOKS HERE:100 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE BOOKS(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/2MCdMbJ 100 WORDS OF AFFIRMATION YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE NEED TO HEAR:(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/31knPpQMARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HIM - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587MARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HER - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587ADVERTISED BOOK ON THIS EPISODE, Raising the Challenging Child - get a copy here: https://amzn.to/37AQXxgCONNECT WITH MATT & LISAFollow Lisa on Instagram & Facebook @Club31Women and Club31Women.comFollow Matt on Instagram & Facebook @FaithfulMan and FaithfulMan.comAnd Don't Forget: 1) Leave A Podcast Review!! 2) Take a screenshot of the podcast and share it on social media!!

Intimacy, Feeling Appreciated as a Wife, Dealing with Arguments in Marriage, How do you help your Husband feel Successful? Matt & Lisa provide biblical answers on a variety of listener questions. GET MATT & LISA'S BOOKS HERE:100 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE BOOKS(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/2MCdMbJ 100 WORDS OF AFFIRMATION YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE NEED TO HEAR:(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/31knPpQMARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HIM - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587MARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HER - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587ADVERTISED BOOK ON THIS EPISODE: GOD'S HOSTAGE by Andrew Brunson -- Review book Here: https://amzn.to/2tEy11DCONNECT WITH MATT & LISAFollow Lisa on Instagram & Facebook @Club31Women and Club31Women.comFollow Matt on Instagram & Facebook @FaithfulMan and FaithfulMan.comAnd, Please Don't Forget To Leave A Podcast Review!!

Reflecting on the past, Focusing on the future God has for you in your marriage and your relationship with Him. Where was your marriage and relationship with God in 2019? Where are you, today? What will your relationship with God and your spouse be like in 2020? Setting Goals and taking action for your marriage and your spiritual growth in 2020. Take the 100 Day Love Challenge! Get the books (Hardcover Gift Editions) here! On Sale Right Now! - https://amzn.to/2QTHmu1Reviews from Readers100 Ways to Love Your Husband & 100 Ways to Love Your Wife★★★★★ “Love Covers a Multitude of Sins” by K.S.I want to love my husband well! 100 Ways to Love Your Husband gave me the practical ways to do just that. This book showed me new ways to love him, as well as reminded me of ways I had forgotten. This book is an easy read and is written in such a way that I can read one way a day or several a day.My husband is not much of a reader but has enjoyed 100 Ways to Love Your Wife. I can tell he has taken to heart each way to Love me better. Marriage is tough, but we are called to love each other deeply. These books are a great way to start!******★★★★★ “Go buy it now and transform your marriage one page at a time!!! by Amazon CustomerThe 100 Way to Love Your Husband/Wife books by Matt and Lisa Jacobson are an excellent and easy read. We have been married 22 years, and I would say we have a great marriage! But even so, we are always looking for ways to make it even better and grow it even deeper!These books teach us so many different ways to speak love to each other, ways that we may not even have realized WAS speaking love. I have bought a 2nd set now to give as a wedding gift! As with any books, the principles need to be read and “applied” for you to experience the difference in your own marriages! So go buy these books and happy reading!!******5-Star Review by a Husband★★★★★ “Something here to enrich any marriage out there” by ALBLThis book can be very helpful if you apply it the way the author intended. Now, not everything in here will apply in every marriage or to every woman. That being said, there is something here to enrich any marriage out there. I have found myself doing some of these actions before I read the book, but now I have an actual purpose in doing these things.As a man working to repair a marriage, I read this book from front to back, applying a few of these ways to show love and affection every day. It has helped a lot this week alone. This is not a long drawn out book either, and it doesn’t take a lot of time away from you to start applying. I plan on reading this book again and highlighting key points that I want to apply more.Connect with Matt & Lisa!Follow Lisa on Instagram & Facebook @Club31Women and Club31Women.comFollow Matt on Instagram & Facebook @FaithfulMan and FaithfulMan.comAnd, Don't Forget To Leave A Podcast Review!!

Matt & Lisa get real about lessons they've learned in their marriage - some good laughs, too! (Matt likes embarrassing Lisa!) . . . along with a few tears for a hard place in the journey.GET MATT & LISA'S BOOKS HERE - Great for EVERY marriage!:100 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE BOOKS(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/2MCdMbJ 100 WORDS OF AFFIRMATION YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE NEED TO HEAR:(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/31knPpQMARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HIM - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587MARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HER - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587Follow Lisa on Instagram & Facebook @Club31Women and Club31Women.comFollow Matt on Instagram & Facebook @FaithfulMan and FaithfulMan.comAnd, Don't Forget To Leave A Podcast Review!!

Do you understand how your wife thinks? . . , your wife's way of processing and assimilating information? What happens when your wife feels heard and understood?GET MATT & LISA'S BOOKS HERE - Great for EVERY marriage!:100 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE BOOKS(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/2MCdMbJ 100 WORDS OF AFFIRMATION YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE NEED TO HEAR:(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/31knPpQMARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HIM - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587MARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HER - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587Follow Lisa on Instagram & Facebook @Club31Women and Club31Women.comFollow Matt on Instagram & Facebook @FaithfulMan and FaithfulMan.comAnd, Don't Forget To Leave A Podcast Review!!

Sometimes your spouse doesn't want to have sex with you - even in a good marriage. Is withholding sex from a spouse who doesn't deserve it okay? Is it ever okay to say "no"? What does the Bible have to say to a couple who isn't having regular sex?GET MATT & LISA'S BOOKS HERE - Great for EVERY marriage!:100 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE BOOKS(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/2MCdMbJ 100 WORDS OF AFFIRMATION YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE NEED TO HEAR:(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/31knPpQMARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HIM - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587MARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HER - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587Follow Lisa on Instagram & Facebook @Club31Women and Club31Women.comFollow Matt on Instagram & Facebook @FaithfulMan and FaithfulMan.comAnd, Don't Forget To Leave A Podcast Review!!

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What does the Bible say about giving thanks? How do you develop a thankful heart? If life’s a mess, is giving thanks even realistic? Is it reasonable? HERE'S THE LINK TO THE AWESOME JONATHAN PARK AUDIO ADVENTURE SERIES:https://www.jonathanpark.com/pages/entire-collection NOW AT 50% OFF BUT, REMEMBER THE ADDITIONAL 20% OFF CODE AT CHECKOUT: FaithfulLife (hurry, ends today!)GET MATT & LISA'S BOOKS HERE:100 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE BOOKS(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/2MCdMbJ 100 WORDS OF AFFIRMATION YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE NEED TO HEAR:(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/31knPpQMARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HIM - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587MARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HER - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587Follow Lisa on Instagram & Facebook @Club31Women and Club31Women.comFollow Matt on Instagram & Facebook @FaithfulMan and FaithfulMan.comAnd, Don't Forget To Leave A Podcast Review!!

Does the Bible have anything to say about angry outbursts (or silent outbursts of anger)? This doesn't happen in your marriage, does it? The real affect of anger in marriage and why happy, wise couples banish it for good!HERE'S THE LINK TO THE AWESOME JONATHAN PARK AUDIO ADVENTURE SERIES:https://www.jonathanpark.com/pages/entire-collection NOW AT 50% OFF BUT, REMEMBER THE ADDITIONAL 20% OFF CODE AT CHECKOUT: FaithfulLife (ends in a few days so use it today!)GET MATT & LISA'S BOOKS HERE:100 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE BOOKS(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/2MCdMbJ 100 WORDS OF AFFIRMATION YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE NEED TO HEAR:(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/31knPpQMARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HIM - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587MARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HER - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587Follow Lisa on Instagram & Facebook @Club31Women and Club31Women.comFollow Matt on Instagram & Facebook @FaithfulMan and FaithfulMan.comAnd, Don't Forget To Leave A Podcast Review!!

Biblical servanthood is about laying down your life for others. Is serving on your own terms really serving, at all? Selfless giving or selfish giving . . . Which one occurs in your marriage and home?GET MATT & LISA'S BOOKS HERE:100 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE BOOKS(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/2MCdMbJ 100 WORDS OF AFFIRMATION YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE NEED TO HEAR:(Big Discount!) https://amzn.to/31knPpQMARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HIM - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587MARRIAGE WISDOM FOR HER - https://shopfaithfulman.christianbook.com/marriage-wisdom-for-her-him-pack/matthew-jacobson/pd/444925?event=Home-Pages|1013587Follow Lisa on Instagram & Facebook @Club31Women and Club31Women.comFollow Matt on Instagram & Facebook @FaithfulMan and FaithfulMan.com

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Of course, you're not a controlling wife . . . you're just being helpful, right? Are you sure you're not getting in the way of your husband's God-given responsibility to lead? Every marriage will look different. Should you step into lead if your husband is passive?.

Your wife is pouring out all the time. Doing what she loves and does so well - helping, nurturing, listening, giving of her time, heart and soul - drains her. She is being depleted . . . who is pouring into her? This is your job, husband. Do you understand it? Are you taking the time to fill up your wife's heart on a regular basis? What does that even look like? Follow Lisa on Instagram and Facebook @Club31Women and online at www.Club31Women.comFollow Matt on Instagram and Facebook @FaithfulMan and online at www.FaithfulMan.comMatt & Lisa's New Books: 100 Words of Affirmation Your Wife Needs to Hear100 Words of Affirmation Your Husband Needs to Hear100 Ways to Love Your Wife100 Ways to Love Your Husband

The marriage you have today is the one you built yesterday. The marriage you will have tomorrow is the one you are building today. The tongue contains great power. How are you using this power to build your marriage? Are your words a source of healing and encouragement in the heart of your spouse? Are you making the effort to regularly speak words of Affirmation to your Husband or wife?Get Matt & Lisa's New Books 100 Words of Affirmation Your Wife Needs to Hear & 100 Words of Affirmation Your Husband Needs to Hear (buy both and get 25% off!) Use this link: https://amzn.to/2msRzm6Subscribe to the podcast today! Follow Matt on Instagram and Facebook @FaithfulMan and at www.FaithfulMan.comFollow Lisa on Instagram and Facebook @Club31Women and at www.Club31Women.com

Have you ever had to compete with your kids for time with your husband/wife? Do you ever feel neglected because all of your husband's/wife's time and attention is on your kids, not you? It's a common experience in marriage and one that will take you on a journey to a dry, lonely place. Here's how to prevent this from happening in your marriage! Follow Matt on Instagram @FaithfulMan . . . and on FB @FaithfulManMatt's website is www.FaithfulMan.comFollow Lisa on Instagram @Club31women . . . and on FB @Club31WomenLisa's website is www.Club31Women.comGet their new books here: https://amzn.to/2n10bjP

You don't have to get lucky to have a great marriage. But, there is something you have to do. The simple, powerful path to a loving marriage takes every willing couple on the same journey. do you know how to pursue a marriage that just keeps getting better and better over time? That's what happens when you read and apply 100 Ways to Love Your Wife & 100 Ways to Love Your Husband. These new books are available now! . . . and are the topic of our discussion in this episode. You can pre-order your copy right here: https://amzn.to/2mHL6n3Do you value this podcast? Do you want to support FAITHFUL LIFE podcast? Please consider a $10 monthly donation at FaithfulMan.com/donateFollow Matt on Instagram at @FaithfulMan and on line at FaithfulMan.comFollow Lisa on Instagram @Club31Women and on line at Club31Women.com

Feeling grateful may be meaningful to you but it won't do your spouse any good . . . unless you find a way to express those feelings. The only gratitude that matters is gratitude that is expressed. Many marriages go on days/weeks/months, even years, without spoken gratitude for one another. Don't let that happen to your relationship. Pre-Order Man & Lisa's NEW BOOKS, 100 Words of Affirmation Your Husband Needs to Hear & 100 Words of Affirmation Your Wife Needs To Hear . . . here's the link: https://amzn.to/30gwJcA Follow Matt on Instagram - @FaithfulManFollow Lisa on Instagram - @Club31Womenwww.FaithfulMan.comwww.Club31Women.com

For the man claiming to be a biblical Christian husband, having a cherished wife isn't an option - it's what the Bible requires of every husband. A wife who is cherished by her husband is the natural result of a husband walking according to the Word. Is your wife cherished by you? There's only one way to find out! What does being a cherished wife look like? And how can a husband better cherish his wife?

Aaron and Jennifer Smith of Marriage After God Interview Matt and Lisa about the power your marriage has to impact the world around you. What is the message your marriage is communicating to everyone who knows and interacts with you (starting with your kids!)?

Matt and Lisa are the founders of Club31women and Faithful man. They are in full time ministry as Pastors and bloggers/podcasters. Yet they also have 8 kids!!Today we are going to talk about being intentional within the busyness of life. When you have kids all of the available time will be taken up. Wether you have two or eight kids they are time consuming.As married couples we must establish our priorities. Often times couples become child focused over marriage focused. This can be unhealthy for our kids and damaging to our marriage. This won’t always show up right away but it will have a snow ball effect in our marriage if we don’t make it a priority.Everything is on fire for a toddler. If we give them all the time they will take it all. If we want to raise up healthy children then we need to take our marriage seriously and make it the top priority.Our kids don’t need our attention 100% of the time. We want to model to our kids that as a family mom and dad prioritize their marriage. Invest in your marriage and get away and go on dates. It is healthier for everyone in the long haul.Decide you priorities. As a christian couple your priority should be to love each other well and to pursue each other. This will then lead to healthy parenting. Your kids won’t be missing out. They will receive the blessings of your healthy marriage.Practically the Jacobsons have created and carved out a time every morning where they have coffee together as a couple. Their kids were invited to be there but they knew that it was their time as a couple and that they could be a part of it but not take away from it.“This brought peace to our home because our kids knew that we were stable and in love. This helped them feel very secure.” -JacobsonsParents are often the victim of their children’s urgency. But we need to decide who is going to establish the culture in our homes. As parents we should establish the culture and then invite our kids into this. Kids who set the culture will not have a good set of boundaries. They will feel more secure and well rounded if they are invited into our culture that we set as parents.Fight for your date nights! Share with your kids why your going out. Let them see what it looks like to fight for marriage and help them to understand the health behind pursuing each other after marriage. We are our kids greatest role models.If we aren’t intentional then we will lose valuable time to less important things. We need to make sure our priorities are straight and that are time matches what we say are our priorities.Go check out their podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/faithful-life/id1455150061Follow them on social at: @club31women & @Faithfulman

We are so excited to have Matt + Lisa Jacobson on the podcast today! They have been married for 27 years, have 8 children, and run side by side in life, work, and ministry. They are powerhouse marriage mentors and coaches, hosts of Faithful Life Podcast, and founders of Club31Women and FaithFulMan. The wisdom they share around the importance of marriage mentorship is GOLD! And they are going to help you navigate how to find your own mentor/coach. Single, dating, engaged, or married - mentorship is so valuable! We know this episode is for all of you! Club31women.com Faithfulman.com Faithful Life Podcast

Have you ever had an argument with your husband or wife that you wish never took place? It happens too often in too many marriages and the destruction can take months, even years, to heal. There is a better way - a more biblical way - that can take what would have been ugly and hurtful and produce a positive outcome, avoiding all the relationship trauma that sin produces. Join the discussion as Matt and Lisa share the right, biblical way to handle conflict in your marriage.Matt is a biblical marriage coach. You can find Matt online at www.FaithfulMan.com and on Instagram @FaithfulMan - Lisa is at www.Club31Women.com online and @Club31Women on Instagram

Are God's arms crossed as he glares down at you from heaven? Is he impossible to please? Do you spend most of your life disappointing him? Constant condemnation - that's how many people feel on a daily basis but, is this the message God wants Christians to believe about him and his thoughts toward them? What does the Bible have to say about what God really thinks of you?

Join the Marriage After God movement and grab a copy of our new book today. https://marriageaftergod.com In this episode, we interview Matt & Lisa Jacobson From http://FaithfulMan.com and http://Club31Women.com & Faithful Family podcast. Here is a quote from our book Marriage After God “Your marriage is the message you are preaching to others. The way you and your spouse interact with each other reveals the gospel you believe.” Dear Lord, Thank you for creating marriage with such a significant purpose of revealing to the world your divine love. Please help us to make choices that reflect your love in the way we love one another. May we choose to walk in obedience. Thank you for your word which instructs us and shows us how we should walk in obedience. Please continue to give us wisdom and strength as we choose to walk in the Spirit and not our flesh. We pray we would make our marriage a priority. We pray we would gain a deeper understanding of how our marriage is our first ministry and the impact we have in each other’s lives and in this world, just by remaining faithful to your word. If our priorities are ever out of order or if we are not unified please help us to change course. Constantly direct our hearts to align with yours. May our marriage always be in a place where you can use us as a symbol to point others to you and may you be glorified. In Jesus’ name, amen! READ: [Aaron] Hey, we're Aaron and Jennifer Smith of Marriage after God. [Lisa] Helping you cultivate an extraordinary marriage. [Aaron] And today we're in part five of the Marriage after God series, and we're gonna be talking with Matt and Lisa Jacobsen about marriage being your first ministry. [Aaron] Welcome to the Marriage after God podcast, where we believe that marriage was meant for more than just happily ever after. [Jennifer] I'm Jennifer, also known as Unveiled Wife. [Aaron] And I'm Aaron, also known as Husband Revolution. [Jennifer] We have been married for over a decade. [Aaron] And so far, we have four young children. [Jennifer] We have been doing marriage ministry online for over seven years through blogging and social media. [Aaron] With the desire to inspire couples to keep God at the center of their marriage, encouraging them to walk in faith every day. [Jennifer] We believe that Christian marriage should be an extraordinary one, full of life, [Aaron] Love. [Jennifer] And power [Aaron] That can only be found by chasing after God. [Jennifer] Together. [Aaron] Thank you for joining us on this journey as we chase boldly after God's will for our life together. [Jennifer] This is marriage after God. [Aaron] Hey, thanks for joining us on week five of this series that we're doing. I hope you're enjoying it. You're definitely going to enjoy today's guests. But before we move on, as always, we want to invite you to leave a review. Those reviews help the podcast get seen by new audiences. So, if you've been enjoying the content, we'd love a star rating, which is the easiest way to do it, all you gotta do is tap a star in the app. And if you really, really want to and have time, leaving us a text review would be awesome. We read every single one of 'em, and we love them, so thank you for that. [Jennifer] Another way you can support this podcast-- [Aaron] So today on this episode, we're gonna be talking about content from chapter five of our book, Marriage after God. And the chapter's titled, "Your First Ministry." and we thought, what better way to talk about this chapter than to talk with our pastors and ask them who inspired us and showed us what it looked like to recognize our marriage as ministry. And now we actually reference them and talk about them in this chapter, and so today we have Matt and Lisa Jacobson with us, welcome. [Lisa] Hey, nice to be here. [Matt] Awesome to be here, you bet. [Aaron] Yeah, and we're in our garage, sitting on our couches. And today we're gonna be talking about this topic. But before we talk about that, why don't you introduce to the audience, just in case they don't know you guys, who you are, children, marriage, all that. [Matt] Okay, well, Matt Jacobsen, and this is my lovely woman. [Lisa] Hey, hello. [Matt] Lisa, and so we've been married for 26 years. We have eight kids between the ages of 12 and about 25. [Lisa] Yup. [Matt] Right, and there are four of them are out of the house and moved on. And so, what keeps us busy when we're not just hanging out and kissing in a dark corner somewhere. [Lisa] That's right. We also, we do homeschool and we do a lot of work with our kids. Our kids help us out with what we do at home and also in our ministry. [Matt] And so, speaking of ministries. So, my website is Faithfulman.com. [Lisa] And I'm Lisa with Club31women.com. [Matt] And so that is a writing ministry that speaks to marriage, parenting, church, and culture. Biblical perspective on those things. And so, that comprises a lot of what takes up our time in a given week. And then, of course, we're the pastors of a small local fellowship as well. [Aaron] Yeah, it's our fellowship. [Matt] That's right. [Aaron] You're our pastors. And we love you guys. And by the way, if everyone listening didn't hear what those were, that's faithfulman.com and club31women.com. You guys should definitely check them out. And why don't you tell them about your newest podcast that you guys just launched? [Matt] Awesome, okay. Well, the name of that podcast is Faithful Life. And it's essentially a podcast that is pursuing the and exploring the topic of what does it mean to live as a biblical Christian. There are a lot of people in the world, lot of Christians, people who identify as Christians, who are living a life that is really separate or tangential to the Bible. And really, if you're going to be a biblical Christian, you've gotta know what the Bible says about these various aspects of life: marriage, parenting, how we're to live within church community and then how we're to interact with the culture. And so, that's the focus of the podcast, faithful-- [Lisa] With a lot of emphasis on practical ways to do that, sometimes we kinda know in our heads what the right thing to do is, or what we believe the Bible says, but then how does that look in our day-to-day life, and that's something that matt and I really have a passion for is just connecting those two things. [Matt] And a little bit of experience. It's only been, what, 26 years you've been married and walking with the Lord and learning through all of the eight children. [Aaron] So we just want everyone to check out their podcast; it's called Faithful Life. And you're gonna love it. Just search for it wherever you listen to podcasts. So, let's get into the icebreaker question. And this is how we start all the episodes. It's just a fun question. How does your spouse like their coffee and what does that say about them? [Lisa] Okay, I get to go first on this one. Because everybody that knows Matt Jacobson well knows that he likes his coffee black, but, even more importantly, he likes it burning hot so that it burns a hole in your tongue, so he, if-- [Matt] And you better not put it in a cold cup. [Lisa] Right, the best way to show love to Matt Jacobson is to heat up the cup first and then pour his coffee into it. [Matt] Wow, that's one of the ways over the years you've shown love to me. But right, so anyway-- [Lisa] In the coffee-- [Matt] No, that's right in the coffee, in the realm of coffee. And Lisa takes her coffee with a teaspoon of sugar and cream and-- [Lisa] That's right, I like it a little sweet. [Matt] She likes it a little sweet, that's right. [Aaron] And it's just like her character too. Little sweet. [Matt] And I love making coffee for her; I do. In the morning, I love making coffee. I love bringing her a cup of coffee in the morning. [Jennifer] And you guys do coffee as a family a lot, so can you just share a little bit about that 'cause I just love that. [Matt] Okay, so, why don't you tell how we've corrupted our young children? [Lisa] Well, we started off in our marriage. We started each day with having coffee. Matt would make a coffee tray for him and I, and we would sit and have coffee together. And then as each child came along, we then slowly incorporated them into this special time until it became something our whole family just loves and so even our older kids when they come home for the holidays or different vacations, they'll come and that's the thing they look forward to most is having our time together over a pot of coffee. And we just talk about what we're thinking about, what's going on in our world, and it's just a really close family time. [Matt] And you know, oh, sorry. That whole process of incorporating the kids into it. It's kind of funny because it's really a metaphor, or an example, if you will, of what happens in your family. Over time, we're very strict with the older kids. I don't even remember when we began allowing them to have coffee. Including them. I don't even remember, do you remember how old they were? [Lisa] No. [Matt] But, as time went on, the younger kids just get to start earlier and earlier. And I think we started, did Hawkin have his first? [Lisa] He was about seven or eight maybe-- [Aaron] It was a bottle right? [Lisa] When he had his first cup of coffee. [Matt] That's right. [Lisa] A very, very tiny cup of coffee, mostly milk. [Jennifer] Mostly milk, yeah. [Matt] Yeah, right, and so now we're going, okay, so. [Lisa] Almost because their dad's kind of soft on the issue. [Matt] I am; I am. [Jennifer] I was just gonna say, I follow Lisa on Instagram, and I love watching your stories because you'll post about it every once in a while of just your guys' family time around that, and it's beautiful and you can just tell, just from that short glimpse that you give the rest of us that it's a really beautiful time that you're cultivating in your family. [Matt] And in some senses, like you see the snapshot, and it is awesome, it really is. But, it's just so normal, a part of life, and a wonderful life is built on a lot of normal moments that you just string together over time. [Jennifer] Mm-hmm, it's true, yeah, it's good. [Matt] And so, yeah. [Aaron] Yeah, there's the big one-offs that are memorable, but then there's the, it's the everyday things that shape who we are, it's all those habits that we have and those routines. I love that. Why don't you share the quote from the chapter? And then we'll just start asking questions. [Jennifer] Okay, so this is from chapter five of Marriage after God. "Your marriage is the message you are preaching to other, "the way you and your spouse interact with each other "reveals the gospel you believe." [Aaron] Matt and Lisa, how would you that that is true in what you guys have experienced, because it's something that you've definitely not only shown us through your own marriage, but also directly have shown us in ours in saying hey, you can't expect to have this ministry over here if your home doesn't match. So could you give me some insight on how this quote plays out in real life? [Matt] Well, one of the things that you just naturally see in life is you see people in ministry and what's the big joke in America, at least it used to be, I don't know if it still is, who are the worst kids in church? The PKs, the preacher's kids, right? And so, that is so antithetical to how we're called to live in the word of God because we are called ambassadors. That means that we are representatives of the kingdom of God on earth. We bear the name of Christ, and we're his representatives. And how is it possible that you have this ministry or you have this public presence, and then it's not true in your own personal life. You wanna tell somebody about the wonderful truths of Scripture. And you wanna tell somebody the gospel and explain to them how they can have a wonderful relationship with the Lord. And then you don't have, you're not living those wonderful relationships in your family. I know that we had seen a lot of this early on. And we were even involved in a particular church, years and years ago, they were lovely people but focused just on evangelism and kinda lost the relationships with their kids over time. We just saw-- [Lisa] And in their marriage. [Matt] This family's disintegrating. And the marriage is. Then we though, you know what, the life that we're called to as believers is much more holistic than that. And the truths of the gospel are supposed to be manifest in our lives. And if I could just say one more thing. I know you've got a lot to say, too. You see in the instructions for church leadership in the book of 1 Timothy, one of the principal requirements of anybody in ministry and this is serving as an elder or a deacon within the church. [Aaron] Yes, specific position. [Matt] One of the principal requirements is that you've demonstrated that your children have yielded hearts to you. You're governing your family well. You're leading your family well. There's a sense of order and peace in your home. So God wants it to be true at home before we go out to represent him to the world. [Aaron] And what does Paul tell Timothy, he says how can you presume to manage the household of God if you can't manage your own home, which is how he, after all that teaching, he says that it doesn't make sense. [Matt] Yeah. [Lisa] And I think that Matt's kind of big picture guy. And I'm more of what does that look like in my day kind of person. And one thing I had noticed that in Scripture, when it talks about how we are to be towards one another, how we're to be, to be loving, patient, kind. And we apply all of those things to out there. So, just an example: I go to the grocery store, and the cashier's taking forever to get me through the line. And she apologizes, but I've read the Bible, so I'm going to be, oh it's fine, I'll wait. I understand you're trying your hardest, and we'll get through here because I'm being patient, and I'm being kind. And then I go home, and I have a different response when it takes Matt forever to come out and help me bring in the groceries in the house. Or, because I'll be snippin' at him-- [Matt] Has that ever happened, like even one time in our marriage? [Lisa] Like I wait for you? Do you really wanna bring that up? [Aaron] Everyone listening was like that was just today. [Lisa] So, but it really struck home to me that all those things that we think apply to out there to strangers or maybe to friends. It somehow, or maybe there's a disconnect, to actually sometimes the hardest person, sometimes, is actually the person your married to. [Jennifer] I was just gonna say, thinking about our own marriage. I used to do this thing where I would always be upbeat and positive and smiley with everyone. And then I'd come home and immediately my countenance would change, and Aaron-- [Aaron] I finally called you out on it, I was like-- [Jennifer] Yeah, 'cause Aaron would be like-- [Aaron] Why do they get the smiles and then I get this? [Jennifer] Yeah. [Aaron] What is this? [Jennifer] And then I remember specifically him saying, I want your best. And I had to figure it out. I had to figure out why I was doing that and check my flesh on it really. [Aaron] Well, I think there's a default position of, well, I have you, therefore you should deal with who I actually wanna be today, and everyone else has to, I want them to see the best part of me. It's almost like it's just totally backwards. And it's actually lying. [Matt] Well, the harsh reality of the circumstance is who you actually are in terms of your personal character is who you are when the doors are shut and you're letting your hair down, so to speak, and you're just being your natural self with the people where the consequences might not be as immediate or severe as they might be if you do this in public. And so, that's the reality of who we are. And so, it's important to take stock on those things. How am I with the people that I'm closest to because those are the people that we tend to take for granted and those are the circumstances that we tend to be a little less guarded. [Aaron] Now that you're saying that, I'm thinking, it's actually probably infinitely less damaging to be that kind of person in public, when people they may be offended for the moment, but they're gonna forget your face in like eight seconds 'cause they don't live with you than the person that we literally spend hours and hours a day and our lifetime with: our children, our spouse. We sacrifice the main thing for the non-main thing. [Matt] Totally, and that's of course humanly speaking, in terms of the cost, over the long-term. [Aaron] Yeah, publicly. [Matt] But relative to the Lord's perspective on these relations, he wants it to be the same everywhere. [Aaron] Yeah. [Matt] He wants us to be loving and in the spirit everywhere with the people, especially close to us, but also with everybody else that we're interacting with. [Aaron] Or repentant if we're not. [Jennifer] Yeah, yeah, there is grace Right? [Aaron] Which changes us. [Matt] Well, you know what, you brought up the R word: repentance. And that is such an important word and such an abused word in our Christian religious world because repentance has a specific meaning. It's a word that has a definition. And we cut ourselves so much slack and we dip back into the same sins over and, how about this, just this sin we're talking about here where we're not being kind to our spouse, but we've got it for everybody else. And, oh, I'm sorry I shouldn't have done that. Please forgive me. And Lord, I was unkind to my wife, please forgive me. I should have been more kind. And then we go on our day, and then I do it again. And then I do it again. Have I repented if I just keep walking in that same sin? [Aaron] No, you've apologized. [Matt] I've apologized, right? [Aaron] You're sorry for being-- [Matt] Because to repent means I used to do that, and now I'm doing this. It means to turn from, that's the definition of the word. And it's such a good word for Christians, all of us, to really wrestle with, and say, you know what, have I really repented and forsaken that sin? Because that's what it means to walk as God would have us as a couple and not to just keep going back, over and over and over again. [Aaron] I think of this quote. I'm not gonna say who said it, but someone in our family used to say, "If you were sorry, you wouldn't have done it." That's kind of the idea; we say sorry over and over and over again. But in reality, our heart hasn't changed. We're just allowing something, whether we're intentionally doing something. We're not intentionally walking in the spirit, so therefore, we're defaulting to walking in the flesh, and we haven't repented of anything. This is something that I had to recognize in my life with certain sin in my life was I was sorry, but usually I was sorry for the shame or the regret or being caught or the remorse I see in your face or the pain I've caused you, Jennifer, but I'd never had been sorry for my sin which is what leads to repentance, and then I change and walk in that. So thanks for bringing that clarity. [Matt] Yeah, absolutely. And so to come full circle on your question, what does it mean to have a marriage that is reflecting the gospel? Well, if you have a marriage that is the kind of marriage that someone else is interested in, then you're not creating this incredible disconnect in the mind of the person that you're sharing the gospel with because what are you inviting them to? If the gospel hasn't affected and hasn't made your marriage beautiful, what are you inviting them to? Here we are married, and we have a bad, bickering, difficult, challenging marriage, and I'm out there telling somebody that Jesus loves them and died for them. It's so critical 'cause as we, and I know you guys have talked about on your podcast and certainly in your book, that your marriage is the gospel you're preaching, that is the gospel you're preaching. And the power of your message will not be one iota stronger or more influential than is the meaning and the love and the strength of your marriage relationship. [Jennifer] That's so good. I hope everyone hits rewind and just listens to that a few times. [Aaron] Yeah, and let's take marriage out of the picture, just in the Christian individual's life. If the gospel's not true in our life, so for me, when I was walking in my addiction to pornography, and I wasn't repentant of it, I thought I was, I was sorry for it; I was sorry for what it did to me, but I wasn't truly repentant of it. I could never tell someone that Christ came to bring freedom, which is what the Bible teaches us, that's the fruit of the gospel. [Matt] There you go. [Aaron] Because I couldn't walk in freedom. Like you said, I'm literally showing them, like, hey, here's God, he's awesome-- [Jennifer] He's powerless. [Aaron] He's powerless. [Jennifer] In my life. [Matt]right. [Aaron] He can't, and this isn't about just all of the sudden everything being healed and perfect and great, but this is definitely the truth of freedom from sin and death, which is what the Bible teaches, which is what Christ came to destroy. He took the power away from it. [Matt] Absolutely. [Aaron] But he doesn't have that in my life. Therefore, you should love God and believe in Jesus, but he can't actually do anything for the core of who you are. He can't change your physical situation or your spiritual situation, but, you know what, he's the thing you should believe in. It just doesn't make any sense. [Matt] No, it doesn't. We just need to remember that even if we're not saying anything, even if we're not on the street corner, preaching the gospel. We're preaching a sermon every time we walk out the door together. We're preaching a sermon. We're literally saying, this is what it means to be a Christian man and a Christian woman. Whether you mean to or not, you're preaching a sermon. The question is, what's the message that you're giving other people? [Jennifer] And how, can you explain, just for those people listening, how are they giving that message to other people? [Matt] It tends to be if you're living in a town and you've got your immediate circle and then you've got your circle of influence, the people you interact with, the people at the bank, the people at the gas station, the people at the grocery store, they know, over the course of time, they know whether you're a Christian or not. It just becomes evident that that is who you are. People probably don't realize it, but as somebody who identifies as a Christian, people watch you a little closer. They tend to want to just scrutinize you a little bit, or when we're at a restaurant. [Lisa] I was gonna say, what I was thinking about was how many times we've been in an airplane, traveling together, in a restaurant together, we have been stopped so many times by people we didn't even realize were watching us, someone who's serving us or the flight attendant, and said, you know, you two are just such a loving couple. And they could just see the way we were just interacting. And so people do notice that. And often times, especially at a restaurant, they'll see that we've prayed, so they also know that we're believers. And we've had a lot of opportunities to share the gospel with those people just even based on their observation of us. [Aaron] Well, it's uncommon. It's uncommon; it's normal to have cold relationships and being on the phones. It's uncommon to see engagement and true infatuation and adoration or-- [Lisa] Yeah, like the last time we were on a flight, we had a flight attendant come to us at the end of the flight, it was a long flight. And she said, "You know, the other flight attendants and I "were all talking about you two." Really? We're not that interesting. [Matt] Well, we were kissing, I mean. We were getting along kissing. [Lisa] That's right; that's right. And they were just observing how we were with each other, and how cute it was and thought we were maybe somewhat newly married. And I'm like, "Oh, no, we've been married 26 years, "and we have eight kids." Like, no way, yeah, really. [Aaron] And you're still in love? [Lisa] Yeah, yeah, it was really astonishing. [Matt] And you mentioned something about praying in a restaurant. And I know a lot of people listening probably do. It's probably less common these days than it has been in the past, but a lot of people still bow their heads and pray in a restaurant. Personally, I love doing that. I love just the witness: I'm a Christian, and I'm gonna give God thanks for this food. So I like doing that. But if you're somebody out there who does that, can I just encourage you to leave a fat, hog tip? Okay, because-- [Lisa] It's like a bonus. [Aaron] It is a bonus. [Matt] Because you've literally hoisted your flag at the table, I'm a Christian, and so, leave a great taste in your waiter's or server's mouth. [Aaron] It's a little sacrifice. [Matt] It's so small, yeah, so small. So small, but it's a good testimony, too. Just to say, you know what, love the Lord, and oh, by the way, God bless you. [Aaron] Going back to the, I think that's a great little bit of advice of how to spread the love of God. Like, hey, we love God and we just wanted to bless you, thank you-- [Matt] And certainly if it's a place that you go back more than once. [Jennifer] Yeah, that's true. [Aaron] Oh yeah! [Matt] You have struck up, well you've created an opportunity to strike up a conversation with the person because they're, well, first of all, they're business people, right? They wanna make money. So they wanna serve you well, and it's just an opportunity, that's all. Just an opportunity, if you're going to pray, then by all means, please don't complain about the food. [Aaron] I was gonna say that actually. There's certain Christiany things that we do, maybe we were raised that way, and we just pray. We're Christians, we love God, we pray. But then, let's say we're bickering at the table, or we are being super rude to the waiters, or our kids are throwing food on the floor and silverware. That is a part of our witness. [Lisa] It is. [Aaron] How we are. And they're like, you did the thing that I thought you were gonna do. They're looking for us to fail. [Jennifer] To fail, right. [Aaron] Doesn't mean we're not gonna fail, but the majority of the time, our hearts should be aware of how we're being, which goes back to that marriage being your ministry. You guys had this awesome, oh, people noticed us, and they stopped us and said thank you. We've had the other side of it. And no one's actually confronted us and saw us fighting, but we've had people message us after the fact. We've mentioned this a few times. And like, "Hey, we saw you in the store. "I didn't stop and say hi, but just wanted to say hi." And they'd message us on Instagram. And then we were like, "Oh my gosh, I think we were, were we fighting?" [Jennifer] This was a long time ago; we've gotten better since then. This was a long time ago. [Aaron] It made us aware, man, like, well, A, we have a social media presence, but it doesn't matter if you do. Like if you're a Christian, there's people that know you. You have friends, you have neighbors, you have, and people that may not know you personally, they're gonna see you regularly in your small town, or big town, I guess, because you frequent the same places. What kind of fragrance as a couple and as Christians do we give in this world where we say one thing and act a different way? That's literally what hypocrisy is. We talk about this, actually, in this chapter. We talk about, we're gonna ask you a question in a second, another question, but it doesn't make any sense if we're trying to minister in other ways, and then in the home, there is no real ministry happening. And so, question for you guys is are marriages being a ministry, and being our first ministry, because it's our first one another, our closest neighbor, we always like to say is our spouse and then our kids and everyone else. Are there marriages that are exempt from this? Well, this husband, he's a minister, and he doesn't actually have time to be focused on his family. Or a wife that's doing this thing over here for God, and she doesn't have time to serve her home and children. Are there marriages that are exempt from this? Why or why not? [Lisa] I don't know that there are exemptions in that sense although Matt might want to address that, but what that's come to mind, I do have many women write me who are in a marriage situation where the spouse is not a believer or at least not walking with God. And I know that that's a greater challenge, and I wouldn't want to put undue burden on that couple, especially the one that's trying to be faithful, and the other is not walking that way. There has to be grace for that, and the one person has to, you know, scripture tells us to keep quiet and just keep shining the light of Christ in their home. But I also wouldn't want to feel like, oh, I can't minister to others now because my spouse is not walking in truth right now. [Matt] And the way I would look at that is the Bible teaches us what is normal and how we are to walk as normal Christians in this world. And when it comes to marriage, what's normal is the way Jesus loves the church, his bride. That's how we're supposed to love our bride. That's normal. And that instruction, love your wife as Christ loved the church, that's not a special instruction for somebody who happens to be in the public eye. That is an instruction for absolutely every Christian man, every man who stands up and says, I follow Lord; I have committed my life to Christ. I have repented of my sin, and I'm a Christian. Every man who has said that should have a wife who says, I'm the most cherished woman I know. And no man is exempt from that. And so, here's the thing, if a church lays claim to being full of godly men, then there's one thing you know for sure, it's full of cherished wives. You cannot have one without the other. You cannot be a godly man and not cherish your wife. And so in that sense, I would say nobody's exempt from this, but, of course, we live in a broken world with lots of relationships and circumstances, and people have struggled. And God has grace for those things. But in those circumstances, the person, whatever they are, wherever they fall on the spectrum, difficult and virtually sad and very challenging to not that bad, wherever they are in the spectrum, their job is to draw near to God and walk as closely to God as he wants them, as he desires them to, and to seek them in those circumstances. But I appreciate you bringing that up because there are lot of people, lots of wives, lots of husbands, a husband called us recently. His wife left, he's got, I think they've got five kids. One of the kids has Down's Syndrome, and the wife's just like, "I'm done." And she left, and he didn't want her to leave, he tried to love her right up through, for several years, up to point where she left. He himself has remained faithful and has a ministry even though she's left, so it's true, it's not that you don't have a ministry. It's just that God provides his standards and principles and requirements for Christian men, for Christian wives, and for marriage. And then sin comes in and everything else is an exception to the rule, but the rule is every man is to cherish his wife in the way Jesus Christ loves the church. [Aaron] So, I do appreciate Lisa that you brought that up, too, because I'm sure that we have people that listen, and one of the spouses is not walking, is not a believer, and we get, praise God, he gives provision for this in his word, in 1 Peter, he shows, it's funny because it's to the wife, it's almost like he knew that men were gonna be more prone to this, not being faithful, which is sad, but it's true. But even then I think, you're right, that it doesn't mean they can't have ministry outside of the home because their marriage isn't in order correctly faith wise, but that doesn't mean that their first ministry still isn't their spouse. Like you said, they still have a call, the wife or the husband, to serve and love their spouse the way the Bible has called them to, faithfully, whether they receive it or not, of course. And that's also, I don't wanna say qualifies, I don't know if that's the right word, but, it still prepares them to do ministry outside their home because it's in order. Instead of, I'm not going to love my husband or my wife like this because they're treating me this way, but I am gonna go love over here, that's not gonna produce the kind of fruit that God's looking for. But I did appreciate that. I think it's totally relevant to recognize that there are these non-ideal marriages. [Matt] You know, and one of the things that might be important to mention here is wherever you are on the spectrum: you have a spectacular marriage all the way to it's terrible. We tend to fall into this wrong thought process that goes something like this: you're walking in sin; therefore, I can't help being the way I am. [Lisa] Oh, now, that's a good point. [Matt] And the fact of the matter is is the way you act has nothing to do with my capacity as a believer to walk in holiness. [Lisa] Right, no that's-- [Matt] And we kinda cut ourselves a little slack there, don't we? 'Cause if you're a certain way, well then that gives me license to be another way in response-- [Aaron] Yeah, if you only respected me, I would treat you or love you as Christ loves the church. [Matt] That's right, and every one of us has the capacity according to the word of God to walk in holiness, irrespective of how our spouse is walking. Now we certainly make it easier, right? If we're walking in holiness for the other person. But, we can't blame our distance from God on how someone else has chosen to act. [Aaron] Amen. [Jennifer] Taking a look into your guys' marriage. You know, you've been married quite a while. So go back to the beginning. Was there a learning curve in your guys' relationship on how to love and respect each other and cherish each other in that? [Matt] OH, absolutely. I was the most loving husband in the world. The only problem-- [Aaron] That's a real laugh, by the way. [Matt] The only-- [Lisa] Revisionist history, I think that's what it's-- [Matt] The only problem with it is I was loving Lisa in the way that said love to me. [Lisa] Oh, that's true. [Matt] We'd like to tell the story, in fact, we tell it on our own podcast. We just have this crazy story where I literally am superman husband, okay? I am helping out with everything. [Lisa] It's our first year of marriage. [Matt] First year of marriage. I am helping out with everything. I am helping with, not the laundry, you wouldn't let me touch the laundry 'cause she said, nope, that's mine; I will do the laundry. Everything else, the vacuuming, folding the laundry. [Lisa] Cleaning the bathrooms. [Matt] Cleaning the bathrooms, everything else, the dishes, everything, I'm helping, I'm helping. I'm doing it all, and I'm thinking-- [Lisa] And I'm getting madder and madder and-- [Matt] And she's over in the kitchen. And there's the flames, you know, the ones coming out of her eyes, are visible from across the room, and I-- [Aaron] Although I have never seen Lisa angry before, so I couldn't-- [Lisa] Oh, I'm capable. [Matt] And I thought, what is wrong with this woman? You can't find five guys in the entire state of Oregon that do the things that I do with a willing heart, and I'm trying to bless you, you're just, there's nothing that will make you happy. You can't be blessed; I don't know what your problem is. And so, she just takes the towel, and she almost busts a dish on me as she sets the plate down on the counter. And then she takes the towel and throws it on the counter. [Lisa] Thank you. [Matt] And I'm going, what in the world. She turns to me, and she goes, "I just don't know why you don't love me." [Lisa] True story. [Aaron] What's happening? [Matt] And I'm going, okay, am I losing my mind here? And I'm going, you've gotta be kid, you've literally got to be kidding me. [Lisa] So my thinking is I can vacuum, I can clean the bathrooms, anybody can do that. But there's only one guy in my life that can take me out and spend some time with me and listen to my thoughts. [Aaron] Look in my eyes-- [Lisa] Yes! [Aaron] And talk to me. [Lisa] And so he could just feel my frustration over time. So, the more frustrated he would feel-- [Matt] I would try harder. [Lisa] The more he'd vacuum. [Matt] I'd do more! [Lisa] And I'm just like, put the stupid vacuum down. I just want to spend time with yo. [Matt] So I'm going, wow, that's easy. [Lisa] Yeah. [Matt] Who knew love was that easy? So in our case, it was just me taking the initiative to say, okay, we're gonna go out at such-and-such a day, and it didn't matter what it was. We'd go for a walk; we could go have a cup of coffee. And I mean, at any time you as a husband tell your wife, "Hey, I just wanna spend some time with you." You can turn one cup of coffee into an awesome date. You really can. [Lisa] It doesn't take much. [Matt] It doesn't take much. You talk about learning curve, absolutely we had to learn each other and what was important to you and what was important to me and this is so true in absolutely every area of marriage. For instance, we've given you the for instance in terms of the learning curve, but in terms of discovering what it is your spouse is interested in, what they like, what's important to them. There's a very, very interesting way of finding out. [Aaron] You ask. [Matt] You ask a question! Yeah, yeah, and it's such a great thing to do because you know what happens when I turn to you and I ask you a question about you. [Lisa] Yeah. [Matt] Who doesn't like talking about themselves? Who doesn't like being known and explored and discovered. Who doesn't like someone being interested in them. So that's what we do when we turn to our spouse and say, okay, I wanna ask you a question. I wanna ask you what are three things that I can do that would make you feel loved? So that's just the normal stuff of marriage. But you know what? And you can even take it right into the subject of sex. And you can say, what are things that you enjoy when we come together physically? What are some of those things? Because, you know what, we tend to love the other person with the things that we want. [Lisa] I think that sometimes people boil this down to love languages, which is interesting and helpful. But what we're talking about is so much more than a love language, for one thing, those things change over time. It depends when the season when we had four kids, five and under, the vacuum really helped a lot, and I had a, not that I still didn't want to go out, [Aaron] Right, in that season, that was much more loving. [Lisa] Yeah, it was loving; it did mean a lot. [Matt] And physical touch when we had five kids. What would the age's spread have been with our five kids? [Lisa] Yeah, six and under. [Matt] Five kids six and under. Physical touch was less important to her in those years. [Lisa] Imagine that. [Matt] You know? She's got kids. You got enough of that. [Jennifer] Her tank is full. [Matt] Yeah, I'm touching 24/7, exactly. Right, so it does change over time. [Lisa] So instead of thinking of it as big subjects of love language, think of it as who you are as a person and where are you at today, where are you at in this season, where are you at in your life right now. And that involves that continual seeking and pursuing and asking. [Jennifer] So continual even after 26 years. Like you guys are still asking? [Matt] Absolutely. [Aaron] You have gotten there yet? [Matt] Absolutely. [Aaron] You haven't gotten to the-- [Matt] No, we're seeking each other all the time. And you know what? [Jennifer] And it's fun, right? [Lisa] It is. [Matt] It is fun, absolutely fun. And the thing is, if you love the other person, it's not a burden to do it. You actually want to know where they're at. You wanna know where their heart is at. [Lisa] And I think it can even be in somewhat negative things like say, I notice something triggers Matt into a bad mood or just like a dark, you know. And it used to be, when we were younger, that would just like, oh, fine, if you're gonna be in a bad mood, then I'll just stay away from you. I'm not saying those things, but that was my basic attitude. And I feel like over the years, now, let's say something like that happens, which it does, then I can say, I noticed, like something happened, you know, we had a good start today, and then something kind of went sideways. You wanna tell me about that? Did something happen or did I say something? Not in a defensive way, but just really, we've had some really good conversations about that. He'd go, "You know, I wasn't aware of that." Sometimes even going back to your childhood. As a child, my mom treated me a certain way, so now whenever I hear this phrase, it takes me back to a time when I didn't feel cared for. [Aaron] Yeah. [Lisa] And you're thinking, oh, well, I didn't mean to [Aaron] I know how it feels. [Lisa] communicate that I didn't care for you. But I can see that that would translate to that. And now I know, and I can be more mindful of that. [Aaron] And lovingly. Just the loving hey, is everything okay? Not because you're bothered by it. [Lisa] Yes. [Aaron] But because you're concerned for it. [Lisa] Yes. [Aaron] Which then, I'm sure, Matt, you would experience. There's been times that I don't even know why I'm brooding. It just takes a moment to be checked on it. And then I'm like, oh, I actually don't know why I'm brooding right now; I actually do feel irritated. I don't know why. Which it totally could be a hormonal thing, it could be a something I ate, and maybe there's something spiritual going on that we need to be praying through, but that approach of not taking it personally because we do that. Why are you doing this around me? I was in a great mood, now you just brought me down. But rather, helper, but for each, an actual concern. Hey, is everything alright? That was a really good bit of advice. I think everyone listening is gonna be loving these tips because this is 26 years of you guys learning this. We're only 12 in, what is that? We're not even half. [Matt] It'll go quick; it'll go quick. [Aaron] We are halfway to the kids, though. [Matt] Oh, that's right. [Lisa] Yeah. [Matt] And you got started earlier than we did. [Aaron] We got started earlier, so we might bypass you So you guys'll [Matt] Outpace us, yeah, that's right. But then there's adoption, we can stay ahead of 'em. [Aaron] It's true, that's true. So I'm loving these tips. And it all plays back into this. Right now, you're talking about how you guys minister to each other. Loving each other, cultivating intimacy, the communication, the strong bond which allows us, then, it frees us to be more able to minister outside the home. Not that it can't happen, but when you guys are so connected, so close, there's more freedom, and less internal turmoil. [Matt] I might even say it a little differently. I would say what it does is it authenticates the message. [Aaron] That's perfect. [Matt] And you know, we see this principle, well not just principle, we see this exact teaching in the high priestly prayer that Jesus prays in John 17 where he's saying, their unity, let them be one as we are one, Jesus is praying. Let them, his followers, those who come to Christ, who come to a repentance and become the children of God. Let them be one as we are one that the world might believe that you have sent me. The unity that we have, the oneness that we have is the authentication of the message of Christ that he came from the Father. And so, that's so true in the church as a whole, and it's absolutely true in marriage. When we're walking in love, when we're walking in unity, when we're exuding that, where we go through life, it authenticates the message when we do speak the truth of the gospel to someone. [Lisa] And not just out there, but in our own homes, to our kids. [Matt] Oh, that's just so true. [Lisa] When your kids are little, you can kinda get away with it, or at least you think you are. [Aaron] We think we think we are. [Lisa] Believe me, as they get older, they'll tell the world what it's really like at home. They'll tell their friends. [Matt] They do. [Lisa] I'm just saying because it's reality. And the opposite is true, too, that if you are loving each other, it's a witness to them, it's an encouragement to them. Our kids all want to get married. They want to have that kind of marriage. And that's a huge blessing. One of the things that we recently asked one of our older daughters, who's in her twenties. I think it was a Father's Day thing. What do you like most about your dad? She said that, "He loves Mom so well." And it was such a beautiful testimony that yeah, they're watching, they know whether you have loved each other in those quiet moments. [Aaron] Well, when you think about it, almost everyone probably listening, when they look back and they think about their home and how they were raised, I'm sure a lot of them, being raised in Christian homes or not, maybe heard the Bible, but did they see it? Did they see the Bible; did they see the gospel? They don't remember what they ate. They don't remember all the places they've been. But they definitely remember how Mom and Dad were together. They definitely remember how Mom and Dad treated them. And that's where the ministry in our home comes in. 'Cause I've told Jennifer this. I said, Jennifer, all of these things that we have, Unveiled Wife, Husband Revolution, our podcast. I said all of that means absolutely nothing if my kids don't know the Lord. And so, not just our ministry to each other that we have a healthy marriage and that we're godly, and that we love each other and respect each other and honor each other and cherish each other and serve each other, but that my kids see it. And that they recognize what we're doing and why we're doing it, and that at the end of the day, they look back and they say thank you to us, not because of us alone, but because we were obedient. I want my kids to say that. I want my kids to say, "Mom and Dad loved each other. "I just know it; they loved me, and they showed me "who God was and they lived it every day. "They didn't just use their words." As James says, don't just be hearers only, but doers of the word. Are we just listening and not doing? Are we just telling and doing the opposite? The do what I say, not what I do? [Lisa] Right, right. [Matt] Do what I say, not what I do. It works every time, just not the way the parent thought it was going to work. [Aaron] Exactly and so I just, going back to that, that's what I want everyone listening to understand. The main purpose of this chapter in the book, is, and it's early on in the book, it's chapter five, and it's setting this idea of we could want to do lots of things for God, but God wants us to do what he's told us to do. And if we can't be faithful with the little thing, and the little thing is our children, our spouse, our home, this is a little picture of the world. If I can't minister to my wife and love her as Christ loves the church, I have no right going and loving a stranger like that. I could. [Matt] I think what we do is we tend to think like, I know what you're saying, as this is the little thing, so to do the big thing. I actually think that reality is kind of on its head. [Aaron] Okay. [Matt] I think the big thing we're doing is we're being faithful with our spouses, we're being faithful in discipling our children. And it's a great, big deal, and see-- [Aaron] Man, I heard that, yeah. [Matt] If the church had been teaching and focusing on that these past, what, I dunno, however many years. [Aaron] 60 or 70 years. [Matt] Would the church be in the state that it's in today with disintegrating families and churches filled with unfulfilled marriages and disappointments and divorce and all of those things. It's a great big deal. And if we're faithful here, God can entrust with ministry elsewhere. [Jennifer] In chapter 14 of the book, we talk about how what God sees as extraordinary is so different than what the world deems extraordinary. When we look at our own lives, it is that day-to-day, all those little choices of discipling our children, being faithful to one another, that is extraordinary because that is where God is working. [Aaron] Especially today, it's normal, you brought up the word normal, it's common, that's what it is, it's common in the world for there to be divorce and unfaithfulness and children who are rebellious and hate their parents. It is extraordinary and remarkable now even though it should be normal for a marriage to have love in it. [Matt] Well, that's just it. [Aaron] The gospel. [Matt] It is normal, biblical marriage to have a loving, close, wonderful, fulfilling, enjoyable, beautiful oneness in marriage. That is normal Christianity; that's normal marriage. The problem is, is we see what's common around us in the world, and we get used to what's common, and start thinking that that's normal, but it's not. If you have a biblical perspective, if you walk God's way, and your marriage reflects God's priorities and principles, then you're gonna have an awesome, wonderful, beautiful, loving, enjoyable marriage because that's what a normal Christian marriage really is. [Jennifer] And the power of God's testimony in your life is actually powerful. [Matt] Absolutely, right, exactly. [Aaron] Well, people can't argue with it. I mean, they can argue with anything. We were just talking about this. When you're around people that are walking a certain way, makes it easier to believe that you can too. That goes both ways. So when you see someone, and you're like man they're, like the stewardesses looking at you. They don't your whole story, but they know the story they just saw. You're not faking it when you're sitting in the aisle, whatever row you're in and like, oh we want everyone to see that we're perfect. We have this smile on because you can't fake it. [Matt] Yeah. [Aaron] Everyone fakes it, and no one falls for it. Like, oh-- [Jennifer] Maybe for a short flight, but not long one like you said. [Aaron] Yeah, the short flight's, but yeah. [Matt] That's right. [Aaron] And again, we keep going back to this. God's not interested in just us having a happy marriage and a healthy marriage. [Matt] No. [Aaron] For the sake of happy and healthy marriage. That's not an end game. [Matt] That's exactly right. [Aaron] It's the means to the end, like you said. It's what, what was the word you used? It verifies, no-- [Matt] Authenticates. [Aaron] It authenticates. [Matt] Yeah. [Aaron] What's sad and still is very powerful to realize is when we're not it doesn't make God the liar. It makes us the liar. [Matt] It reminds me or brings to mind that phrase. Having a form of godliness, but denying the power. 'Cause you look at it from a galloping horse at 100 yards, and it looks like Christianity. It looks like something that's related to God and related to the Bible. But then you get close and you see, well, no, actually. It's not real; it's not true, and that's when we see the disintegration in the next generation when the kids are like, I don't want any part of that. Again, you just can't hide that. And especially, you mentioned, Lisa, you said, yeah, you can't hide it, your kids will absolutely tell the story and we know of a family. The snapshot looks amazing, and nobody would know this, but their kids told us recently, oh yeah, our parents yell all the time. And you'd never know it, but the kids know it. And the kids are now talking; they're all older now. And now they're saying, oh, no, no, no, no. Parents yell all the time. So that's why it's gotta be true there because if you're out witnessing, if you're that parents, and it could be yelling or bickering or fighting or cheating on your taxes or any number of things, but if you're that parent, and in the gas stations, you're telling a guy, oh, hey, the Lord Jesus Christ died for you, and God loves you, and he wants you to have a relationship. The kid is sitting there going, "Are you kidding me?" it's so important that for the things that we say to be true about how we live. It's called not being a hypocrite, and your kids can figure it out at a very early age. [Aaron] All of this was so good. I'm encouraged; it makes me think about my marriage even though we're constantly working on it, I just think, man, I wanna-- Makes me think [Jennifer] Of the kids. [Aaron] Yeah, I wanna pursue you more. I want to constantly be doing that for the sake of our outward ministry and for the sake of our home, so thank you for these stories, the openness with us. We're gonna ask you our question that we're asking everyone. What is your definition of a marriage after God? [Lisa] I think that it's that ever growing a deeper love for each other. And it doesn't have to be perfect. I think sometimes we just go, well, it's perfect, so we throw our hands, or it's not perfect, so we throw our hands up. Instead of thinking, no, I'm gonna move forward in this. And I'm gonna grow in these areas. I can even think of things I have struggled with. Believe it or not, I do have a temper. And Matt has the ability, somehow, to press that button better than anybody else I know. [Matt] Well, I mean, just on a boring Saturday. I mean if there's nothing else to do. [Lisa] Press my buttons. So I'll find myself reacting to him, and I will stop myself literally mid-sentence and go, wait, it's like, yep, like okay. [Aaron] That's a good-- [Lisa] What I wanted say was. I didn't quite the first two seconds or minutes, however the situation was, wasn't right. But checking myself and going, okay, but that's not who I wanna be. That's how I was, but that's not who I wanna be anymore, so I wanna try again. And giving each other that grace to grow, but being determined to change and not say, this is not who I wanna be; I do want us to be loving close. [Matt] And for me, I think I would boil it down. I mean, that's a huge subject, right? And there's so many facets to it. But I would boil it down to this. The fundamental understanding that my marriage is what God is doing in the world. It's not what I'm doing in the world. It's not the thing that I have; I have a marriage. My marriage is what God is doing in the world. The Bible says what God has put together let no man put asunder. This is something God is doing, and so if you have that basic, fundamental faith about this relationship, it's a foundation and a starting point for moving forward. [Jennifer] Thank you guys so much for joining us today. This has just been, like Aaron said, incredible and inspiring. If people were inspired today and they want to follow you more, can you just remind them where they can find you? [Lisa] We have a podcast, Faithful Life. And we'd love to have you join us over there. And we also, both of us have a website. Matt has faithfulman.com, and I have club31women.com. [Matt] And then you're also on Instagram, club31women and faithfulman, on Instagram, so you can find us there as well. [Aaron] Everyone listening, definitely go follow them, they are golden. [Jennifer] If you like Marriage after God, and you like what we share, you're definitely gonna like them. [Aaron] We actually just steal all of our content from them and repurpose them. They have been integral in the growth and maturity in our life. And so, we appreciate you guys. [Jennifer] Thank you. [Aaron] And we thank you for not only sharing with our audience now, but for sharing with us over the last five years. [Lisa And Matt] We love you guys. [Aaron] That we've known you guys. So, we're gonna close out with a prayer. Jennifer's gonna pray and then, yeah. [Jennifer] Dear Lord, thank you for creating marriage with such a significant purpose of revealing to the world your divine love. Please help us to make choices that reflect your love in the way we love one another. May we choose to walk in obedience. Thank you for your word which instructs us and shows us how we should walk in obedience. Please continue to give us wisdom and strength as we choose to walk in the spirit and not our flesh. We pray we would make our marriage a priority. We pray we would gain deeper understanding of how our marriage is our first ministry, and the impact we have in each other's lives and in this world just by remaining faithful to your word. If our priorities are ever out of order, or if we are not unified, please help us to change our course. Constantly direct our hearts to align with yours. May our marriage always be in a place where you can use us as a symbol to point other to you, and may you be glorified. In Jesus' name, amen. [Aaron] Amen. [Matt] Amen. [Aaron] So, thank you all for listening today. I hope this blessed you guys. And as always, we want you guys to have a conversation about this. Go on a date, and discuss the things that we talked about today. We have, what is it, 11 more episodes in this series. 11 more interviews to come. They're gonna be awesome; please stay tuned. We look forward to having you next week. Did you enjoy today's show? If you did, it would mean the world to us if you could leave a review on iTunes. Also, if you're interested, you can find many more encouraging stories and resources at marriageafterGod.com, and let us help you cultivate an extraordinary marriage.

Marriages resources played an invaluable role in helping our marriage grow into what it is today. There are a handful of marriage books and websites that transformed the way we saw our marriage, our sex life, our way of communicating and so much more than we thought we would share them with you! Some of these resources helped us in our struggles with sexual intimacy, porn addiction, and parenting. In this episode, we share books, blogs, social media accounts to follow, and some insight into the power of real-life relationships. We also share a look at the some of the marriage resources we have created to inspire and lift up your marriage. It is crucial for the health of your marriage that you invest in your relationship by digging into resources that give you a fresh perspective that will challenge you to grow in the role that God has given you! Here are all the links from the helpful marriage books and resources we talked about in this episode. Books ESV BIBLE Aaron's Bible https://amzn.to/2Ik8a2b Jennifers Bible https://shop.unveiledwife.com/collections/bibles/products/journaling-bible-esv-antique-floral Experiencing God Study https://amzn.to/2NmYqtJ Wired For Intimacy https://shop.unveiledwife.com/products/wired-for-intimacy-how-pornography-hijacks-the-male-brain No More Headaches https://shop.unveiledwife.com/products/no-more-headaches-enjoying-sex-intimacy-in-marriage-by-juli-slattery Sacred Marriage https://shop.unveiledwife.com/products/sacred-marriage-what-if-god-designed-marriage-to-make-us-holy-more-than-to-make-us-happy-by-gary-l-thomas You can get all of our books at https://shop.marriageaftergod.com Sites https://www.familylife.com/ https://www.familylife.com/weekend-to-remember/ https://marriageaftergod.com https://authenticintimacy.com https://fiercemarriage.com http://Faithfulman.com http://Club31women.com http://UltimateMarriage.com http://beating50percent.com