Confident Sober Women

Episode Highlights: Paula Kengg, 67, shares her powerful transformation from a "take it or leave it" drinker to alcohol addiction in her mid-50s, and her ultimate freedom through faith-based recovery. After battling chronic insomnia for 8.5 years and following doctors' advice to drink wine as a sleep aid, Paula found herself addicted to alcohol—keeping a wine bottle by her bedside instead of sleeping pills.Key Topics Discussed:How chronic insomnia led to alcohol dependencyWhy AA and traditional recovery programs didn't work for PaulaThe role of trauma in addiction (Paula's father was murdered when she was 14)Combining neuroscience with biblical principles for lasting sobrietyThe Heart of Addiction Bible study by Mark ShawOvercoming shame around addiction in Christian communitiesEMDR therapy and trauma healingNeuroplasticity and brain recovery in sobrietyDaily spiritual practices for maintaining sobrietyPaula's Sobriety Tools:Daily Bible study, prayer, and meditationJournaling (she's kept journals since age 14)Exercise and proper nutritionSelf-compassion and reparenting workServing others in recovery communityNear-Death Experience: Paula shares her harrowing story of nearly bleeding to death after mixing Jack Daniels with Ambien, emphasizing how addiction progressed despite life-threatening consequences.Resources Mentioned:Spirit-Led Sobriety book by Paula KingThis Naked Mind by Annie GraceAndrew Huberman Podcast Episode 86Heart of Addiction Bible studyEMDR therapyCognitive Behavioral TherapyConnect with Paula:Newsletter: spiritledsobriety.comInstagram: @spiritledsobriety2Facebook: Spirit-Led Sobriety (private group)Email: spiritledsobriety@gmail.comEpisode Takeaways: Recovery isn't one-size-fits-all. Paula's journey shows that combining scientific understanding of addiction with spiritual transformation can create lasting change. Her story demonstrates the importance of not giving up on yourself, even after years of failed attempts.Support the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my remote Neurofeedback Therapy program is up and running. Learn more here! If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerable so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

Feeling Drained Even in Sobriety? Here's Why (And What to Do About It)You got sober. You did the hard work. So why do you still feel completely emotionally exhausted?In this powerful episode of Confident Sober Women, host Shelby John dives deep into the silent struggle many sober women face—emotional dysregulation and nervous system burnout. If you're walking through life in a fog of overwhelm or feeling like you're doing everything “right” but still running on empty, this one's for you.Sobriety gets you out of the chaos, but it doesn't automatically heal trauma or reset your nervous system. That's the work of emotional sobriety—and it's what this episode is all about.

In this transformative episode of the Confident Sober Women podcast, Dr. Ginny Trierweiler unveils a deeply personal and scientifically-backed journey of health transformation that will challenge everything you thought you knew about dieting, nutrition, and wellness.Dr. Trierweiler shares her powerful personal story of hitting rock bottom at 55 - struggling with chronic pain, pre-diabetes, and feeling trapped in a body that was rapidly deteriorating. Her pivotal moment came while working in nursing homes, witnessing individuals in their 60s and 70s losing their independence.Breaking the Dieting CycleWhy traditional calorie-cutting approaches are actually making metabolic health WORSEHow 70% of food in our environment is processed and destructive to our healthThe critical difference between calories and nutrientsWhy intuitive eating can be dangerous for those struggling with health challengesEmotional and Physical TransformationDr. Trierweiler candidly discusses:Overcoming alcohol dependencyDealing with chronic pain through nutritionReconnecting with her body's true needsThe emotional journey of healing beyond just physical symptomsRevolutionary Nutrition PrinciplesDr. Trierweiler breaks down her evidence-based approach to nutrition, revealing:Abundant Nutritious Eating: Contrary to restrictive diets, she advocates eating MORE of the right foodsNutrient Density Over Calorie Counting: Understanding how what you eat matters more than how muchHolistic Healing: Addressing gut health, hormones, and cellular nutritionSustainable Lifestyle Changes: Creating a approach that feels liberating, not restrictiveMindset Shifts for Lasting ChangeBreaking free from food and alcohol addictionUnderstanding the dopamine vs. serotonin response to foodCreating positive emotions around healthy habitsTreating nutrition as self-care, not punishmentConnect:Book Waitlist: Slender for Good Book WaitlistWebsite: Slender for GoodFacebook: Ginny TrierweilerLinkedIn: Ginny TrierweilerInstagram: @drginnytrierweilerSupport the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my remote Neurofeedback Therapy program is up and running. Learn more here! If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerable so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

In this powerful episode of Confident Sober Women, host Shelby welcomes Julie Bloom, a recovery coach and mental health trainer who shares her inspiring 7-year sobriety journey that began with an unexpected "gift of illness."Episode Highlights:Julie reveals how severe burnout, PTSD, and vertigo became catalysts for her sobriety journey after 20 years as a college Spanish teacher. As a former "well-caffeinated and chardonnay working mom," Julie describes how her alcohol dependence developed while balancing career demands with raising a young daughter.The conversation explores how serious health challenges—including debilitating vertigo—forced Julie to stop drinking and began her recovery, initially through audiobooks and podcasts like The Bubble Hour while isolated "in the corner of her sectional."Key Insights on Recovery:Identity Transformation: Julie discusses how sobriety required creating a new identity after leaving her tenured teaching position, leading to certification as both a professional and recovery coach.Emotional Regulation: Learn practical techniques for managing emotions, including mindfulness, journaling, and "adaptive thinking"—giving the appropriate amount of time, space, and energy to situations.Creativity in Recovery: Discover how breaking free from addiction cycles unleashes creative potential, providing the "clarity, bandwidth, and energy" needed to envision and build a fulfilling life.Midlife Challenges: The episode addresses how perimenopause, career dissatisfaction, and relationship issues often intersect with recovery journeys, creating what Julie calls a "shitty planet alignment."Julie shares her journey of professional reinvention, becoming a mental health trainer and speaker who helps others develop resilience and adaptability. She emphasizes the importance of community and altruism in recovery, including her work with SheRecovers.Shelby and Julie discuss how ADHD symptoms can intensify during perimenopause due to decreasing estrogen levels, highlighting the need for neurological approaches to healing beyond traditional talk therapy.This episode provides valuable insights for women seeking sobriety and emotional well-being, particularly during significant life transitions. For more information, follow Julie at juliebloomworld on Instagram, Facebook, and LinkedIn, or email julie@juliebloomworld.com.Support the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my remote Neurofeedback Therapy program is up and running. Learn more here! If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerable so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

Why You're Always Anxious (And How To Regulate Your Nervous System) Welcome back to The Confident Sober Women Podcast! I'm your host, Shelby John, sober therapist, EMDR therapist, and fellow woman in recovery. In today's solo episode, we're diving into a topic that comes up constantly with my clients, friends, and even in my own life: nervous system regulation.You might say, “Why am I always anxious?” or “Why do I feel overwhelmed when nothing's even wrong?” If that sounds familiar, this episode is for you. We'll explore why your anxiety often seems to appear out of nowhere, what's really happening in your body, and the powerful science-backed tools you can use to feel calm, clear, and in control—especially in sobriety.Here's what you'll learn: ✔️ What your nervous system actually does (think of it like your body's operating system) ✔️ How trauma, stress, and addiction keep your system in fight-or-flight—even when you're safe ✔️ Why nervous system regulation is crucial to sustainable sobriety ✔️ Three simple tools to use TODAY to reduce anxiety and regain calm:The Physiological Sigh (a proven breath technique straight from neuroscience)Orienting to Safety (a quick somatic practice to ground your body)Name It to Tame It (a powerful brain hack to reduce emotional reactivity by 50%)Plus, I share how EMDR therapy and remote neurofeedback go beyond talk therapy to retrain your brain and heal anxiety and trauma at the root. These tools are especially helpful for women who've been sober a year or more and are craving deeper healing and emotional freedom.If you're ready to stop white-knuckling your day and finally feel peace in your body—this episode will show you exactly how to start.

In this insightful conversation, Shelby welcomes Amanda Kuda, author of "Unbottled Potential," to discuss different pathways to sobriety and the importance of finding what resonates with you personally.Amanda shares her journey to sobriety, which began when she realized her weekend drinking habits were counteracting her weekday personal development work. Despite not hitting "rock bottom" or fitting traditional addiction narratives, she recognized alcohol was preventing her from becoming her most authentic self.Key Takeaways:Amanda's approach to sobriety came from a spiritual angle, studying influencers like Wayne Dyer, Marianne Williamson, and Gabby BernsteinBoth women discuss how there are multiple valid paths to recovery beyond the 12-step modelThe skills of emotional regulation and sitting with discomfort are essential for long-term sobrietyJournaling prompt: "Wait, what am I thinking?" can help process emotions that might trigger drinkingLearning to name your emotions and accept all feelings as valid helps reduce emotional volatilityAmanda emphasizes that you don't need to have a "drinking problem" for alcohol to be a problem in your life. If it's preventing you from being your most authentic self, that's reason enough to question your relationship with it.Shelby highlights how recent research, including the 2025 Surgeon General's report, confirms that no amount of alcohol is safe for consumption, supporting the decision to live alcohol-free regardless of where you fall on the spectrum of use.This conversation powerfully illustrates that recovery doesn't always fit into prescribed models - what matters most is finding an approach that resonates with you and leads to a better life.Connect with Amanda Kuda:Website: amandakuda.comInstagram: @amandakudaTikTok: @amanda.kudaFacebook: amandakudaLinkedIn: amandakudaBook - Unbottled Potential: AmazonAre you ready to explore your relationship with alcohol from a fresh perspective? This episode offers compassionate insights for anyone questioning their drinking habits, regardless of where you are on your journey.Support the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my remote Neurofeedback Therapy program is up and running. Learn more here! If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerable so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

Rebuilding What Addiction Broke: A Conversation with Janice Johnson DowdIn this powerful episode of the Confident Sober Women podcast, we're joined by Janice Johnson Dowd, author of "Rebuilding Relationships in Recovery." As a retired social worker with 12 years of sobriety and a mother of four, Janice shares her journey from functioning alcoholic to recovery advocate with remarkable candor.Episode Highlights:Janice's background working in addiction treatment centers before her own alcoholism developed in her 40sThe complex dynamics of balancing motherhood, career, and self-care that contributed to her drinkingHer experience with inpatient treatment and how focusing exclusively on recovery actually damaged family relationshipsThe challenging path of repairing relationships with her four children (ages 13-21 at the time of her treatment)Why validation, accountability, and persistent communication are crucial for family healingThe importance of finding balance between recovery work and family reconnectionHow to effectively listen to and validate different family members' experiencesWhy staying sober is the foundation for rebuilding trust, but isn't enough on its ownPractical Takeaways:Take accountability for your actions and validate others' perspectives, even when they differ from yoursPractice deep listening without immediate reactions, especially with adolescents and young adultsPersist in healing efforts even when family therapy or initial conversations feel uncomfortable or unsuccessfulRecognize developmental differences in how children process a parent's addiction and recoveryFind balance between recovery work and family engagementTake advantage of small moments for connection and organic healing conversationsGet support from sponsors, therapists, and recovery peers when navigating challenging family situationsJanice emphasizes that repair is possible even after significant damage to relationships. Her story offers hope to those struggling with similar challenges and provides practical guidance for rebuilding what aThe Living in Clarity Podcast, with Fish & Coach Do you want to live an awesome life and to also inspire others? Fish is a world...Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my remote Neurofeedback Therapy program is up and running. Learn more here! If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerable so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

Maura Casey opens a window into her 39-year sobriety journey with raw honesty and gentle wisdom. As a journalist who worked for prestigious publications like The New York Times and Hartford Courant, Maura's story reveals how professional success intertwined with her recovery from growing up in what she calls a "tumultuous" Irish family where "alcohol was the seventh member."The conversation takes us through Maura's childhood, where drinking at age 13 was normalized within her family culture. We witness her awakening moment at 28 when she realized her drinking was following her father's destructive pattern, prompting her sobriety journey. What follows is a masterclass in emotional sobriety—the deeper work beyond simply putting down the drink.Shelby and Maura explore the transformative power of establishing healthy boundaries after years of people-pleasing tendencies. Their discussion illuminates the crucial distinction between guilt ("I did something bad") and shame ("I am bad"), offering listeners practical insights into healing these emotional wounds. The conversation weaves through making amends, changing behaviors, and finding pride in breaking generational patterns of alcoholism.Perhaps most powerful is Maura's reflection on writing her memoir, "Saving Ellen," which chronicles her family's journey through addiction, illness, and recovery. She shares how her sister Ellen followed her into sobriety, demonstrating the ripple effect our personal healing creates. Whether you're newly sober or decades into recovery, this episode reminds us that showing up authentically each day is a miracle worth celebrating. Subscribe now and join our community of confident, sober women discovering their true potential.Find Maura's memoir "Saving Ellen" available April 1st from Skyhorse Publishing. Connect with her at CaseyInk.com or email AuthorMKCasey@gmail.com. The Living in Clarity Podcast, with Fish & Coach Do you want to live an awesome life and to also inspire others? Fish is a world...Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my remote Neurofeedback Therapy program is up and running. Learn more here! If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerable so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

What happens when we finally stop hiding and embrace our authentic selves? For Margie Schaller, living with secret sobriety for 18.5 years came at a significant personal cost—until one transformative moment changed everything. Margie's journey begins with childhood curiosity about her mother's ever-present glass of scotch and water, evolves through becoming the "chug champ" of her sorority, and reaches a critical turning point after a horrific car accident. Despite having a rod surgically placed in her leg following the crash, Margie returned to drinking as soon as physically possible. It wasn't until a family intervention months later that her recovery journey truly began.But getting sober was just the first step. As a professional whose job literally required "wining and dining" potential speakers, Margie found herself white-knuckling through business dinners, passing the wine list to others, and crafting excuses for why she wasn't drinking. When she briefly mentioned her sobriety during a professional talk ten years into her recovery, influential colleagues warned her not to "talk about that sober thing"—reinforcing her decision to keep this essential part of herself hidden.The conversation takes a powerful turn when Margie describes the moment everything changed. At a women's conference 18.5 years into her sobriety, when asked how many didn't drink "for whatever reason," Margie slowly raised her hand alongside 15% of the room—women she knew professionally but had never realized shared this experience. This revelation led to co-founding Sober Life Rocks, creating spaces for professionals navigating alcohol-centric business environments while sober.Shelby and Margie explore the evolution of recovery culture, the blessings of discomfort as a reminder of who we truly are, and the profound transformation that comes with authenticity. As Margie beautifully describes the sensation of finally living her truth: "I literally feel like my cells have rearranged themselves."Ready to explore what authentic living might mean for you? Connect with Margie through the Sober Life Rocks community on LinkedIn or learn about the upcoming Amplify Sober Voices conference for those leading the sober movement.Support the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my remote Neurofeedback Therapy program is up and running. Learn more here! If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerable so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

In this powerful episode of the Confident Sober Women Podcast, Shelby welcomes Gail Taylor, a recovery advocate, keynote speaker, and musician who shares her inspiring journey from childhood addiction to successful reinvention.Episode Highlights:Gail's early struggles: How losing her father at age 12 led to substance abuse and dropping out of school at 16The path to recovery: Gail's "high bottom" recovery journey and how she recognized her addiction through her son's similar strugglesFrom finance to music: How Gail reinvented herself at age 61 by learning piano and pursuing music full-timeThe power of internal dialogue: Why changing your thoughts is the first step to reinventing yourselfRecovery as reinvention: How sobriety is our first opportunity to transform our livesCreating community: The importance of building relationships both in and outside of recovery circlesMessage for loved ones: Tools for maintaining your own happiness while supporting someone with addictionKey Takeaways:Control your internal dialogue: Challenge negative thinking patterns with the mantra "garbage in, garbage out" and practice reframing negative thoughtsReinvention is possible at any age: Gail went from addiction to managing $130 million in finance to becoming a musician and speakerYour past doesn't define your future: "The fact that we missed a beat in life doesn't matter. It's about today and the future."Recovery is just the beginning: Continue to layer on new interests, communities, and growth opportunitiesSelf-care isn't selfish: Maintaining your own wellbeing is essential, especially if you're supporting someone with addictionMemorable Quotes:"I come from a place of healed scars and not open wounds." - Gail Taylor"Every person going into recovery has to reinvent themselves, because that's the whole nature of what recovery is - the starting point of you reinventing yourself." - Gail Taylor"Self-care is not selfish, it's important." - Gail TaylorConnect with Gail Taylor:Website: gailtaylormusic.comBook: "Curveballs: Unlocking Your Potential Through Personal Growth and Inspirational Music" (Available on Amazon and Barnes & Noble)Recovery Resources:For support with addiction recoveryTools for managing negative thinking patternsResources for building community in recoveryHave you experienced reinvention in your recovery journey? ShareSupport the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my remote Neurofeedback Therapy program is up and running. Learn more here! If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerable so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

 In this powerful episode of the Confident Sober Women podcast, host Shelby John welcomes Louise Atthey, sobriety coach and team member at The Luckiest Club. With nearly 16 years of sobriety, Louise shares her journey from rock bottom to spiritual awakening and how surrendering to a higher power transformed her recovery.What You'll Learn:Louise's pivotal moment driving into a ditch in 2009 that led her to AAHow accepting spirituality despite initial resistance became her salvationThe three pillars that saved Louise's life: sobriety, female connection, and prayerWhy intellectual approaches to recovery often fail without spiritual surrenderPractical ways to develop your own spiritual practice, even as a former atheistKey Takeaways:The "spectrum" approach to addiction problems versus black-and-white thinkingWhy community support is essential for successful sobrietyFinding hope through others' stories and experiencesHow spirituality provides relief from the burden of self-relianceWays to overcome spiritual trauma or resistance to higher power conceptsLouise candidly discusses her transformation from "devout atheist" to someone who found peace through prayer, describing the moment she got on her knees and reluctantly asked for help. She explains how creating a concept of a loving, compassionate higher power allowed her to surrender control and find true freedom in recovery.Both Shelby and Louise reflect on why they consider themselves "the luckiest" - gaining personal responsibility, humility, and spiritual connection that many others never experience.Connect with Louise Atthey:Instagram: @louise_attheyWebsite: https://www.louiseatthey.com/Check out her newsletter and upcoming courseResources Mentioned:The Luckiest ClubFree Neurofeedback Guide: www.shelbyjohn.comSupport the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my remote Neurofeedback Therapy program is up and running. Learn more here! If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerable so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

Christine Soja's recovery journey began not in a treatment center but at her kitchen table with a sketch pad and pen. As a stay-at-home mom of two young boys, she found herself drowning in an identity crisis, using alcohol as "self-care" while silently wondering, "Who am I? How did I get here?"When Christine discovered a 100-day drawing challenge on Instagram just as she decided to quit drinking, something unexpected happened. What started as a simple commitment to draw daily for 100 consecutive days became the cornerstone of her sobriety. By establishing a creative practice with clear parameters—one notebook, one set of pens, just 10 minutes daily—Christine accidentally created a powerful recovery tool that filled the time and space previously occupied by alcohol.The neurological impact was profound. Her daily creative practice delivered small, sustainable dopamine hits that helped rewire her brain away from substance dependence patterns. More importantly, the consistency built something she'd been missing: trust in herself. "I was shocked at the end that I actually did it," she shares, revealing how each completed drawing reinforced her ability to keep promises to herself—a fundamental skill in recovery.Beyond the neurological benefits, Christine's creative journey connected her with a community that offered new ways to relate without alcohol. She discovered parts of herself long buried under motherhood's demands and society's expectations. "I started to see myself—proof of my own life right there on paper," she explains, capturing the existential healing that creative expression offers.Now a SheRecovers coach and counselor at a Seattle-based recovery center, Christine facilitates women's intensive outpatient programs incorporating art for emotional and spiritual growth. Her 7-day creative challenges and 100-day sobriety programs help others discover what she learned firsthand—that creativity isn't about becoming a professional artist but about expressing yourself authentically, quieting your inner critic, and building confidence that extends far beyond art into every area of recovery.Connect With Christine at www.alchemy-recovery.net to learn how small, consistent creative practices can become the foundation for lasting change.Support the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my remote Neurofeedback Therapy program is up and running. Learn more here! If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerable so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

Join me for an inspiring episode with Marci Hopkins, that reveals the transformative journeys of women in recovery, showcasing their battles with addiction and the strength they've found to reclaim their lives. We dive deep into the fascinating realm of neurofeedback therapy—a cutting-edge tool that allows individuals to train their brains from the comfort of their homes. This episode features personal stories of triumph over trauma, emphasizing the importance of self-discovery and community support in building confidence.As our guest candidly share their journeys, they illuminate how past experiences shaped their identities and create a roadmap for healing and personal growth. By integrating helpful routines, gratitude practices, and emotional awareness, women can shift their narrative toward one of empowerment and possibility. We also touch upon the physiological changes women face during perimenopause, exploring how these transitions can affect their relationship with alcohol and overall well-being.This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking clarity, hope, and community on their recovery journey. Tune in, get inspired, and remember, you're not alone. Please subscribe and share this episode with someone who might benefit from these conversations!Find Marci at https://wakeupwithmarci.com/Instagram @wake_up_with_marci/Support the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my remote Neurofeedback Therapy program is up and running. Learn more here! If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerable so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

In this powerful episode of the Confident Sober Women podcast, host Shelby John sits down with Linda Parmar, a financial coach specializing in helping women in recovery achieve financial sobriety. With raw honesty, Linda shares her journey from being a financial advisor managing millions while secretly drowning in credit card debt and engaging in "blackout shopping."Key Topics Covered:Understanding financial sobriety and breaking free from spending addictionThe emotional connection between money behaviors and recoveryHow childhood money stories impact our current relationship with financesPractical strategies for creating a sustainable spending plan without restrictionBreaking the shame cycle around financial literacy and money managementTips for avoiding spending triggers and establishing healthy money boundariesNotable Insights:Linda's personal journey of paying off $130,000 in credit card debtThe concept of "financial infidelity" and its impact on relationshipsWhy traditional budgets often fail and how spending plans offer a better alternativeThe importance of addressing emotional triggers and money mindsetPractical solutions like grocery pickup and removing shopping apps to avoid triggersResources Mentioned:Rocket Money app for spending tracking (US)Strategies for building a personalized spending planTips for maintaining financial sobriety while in recoveryConnect with Linda Parmar:Website: lindaparmar.comInstagram: @lyndaparmarmoneycoachPodcast: Financial Sobriety SchoolWhether you're in recovery or simply looking to develop a healthier relationship with money, this episode offers valuable insights into breaking free from financial shame and creating lasting change. Linda's story proves that no matter how deep in debt you may be, recovery is possible with the right support and tools.Share this episode with someone who might be struggling with their relationship with money or anyone interested in learning more about financial sobriety.Support the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my remote Neurofeedback Therapy program is up and running. Learn more here! If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerable so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

What happens when the path to self-discovery is paved with the challenges of addiction? Join us for a compelling conversation with Jen Hirst, the inspiring founder of the Lighthouse Society. Jen candidly shares her journey from battling alcohol addiction, initially as a misguided remedy for anxiety and emotional turmoil, to finding her way to sustainable sobriety. Her story not only shines a light on the hidden struggles many face but offers hope and tangible strategies for those ready to embrace change. Through her experiences, Jen highlights the importance of self-reflection and understanding one's usage history as a crucial step toward recovery.Discover the power of storytelling and gratitude as we discuss the transformative impact of sharing one's journey in recovery. Together, Jen and I explore how small, consistent habits, such as drinking more water and practicing gratitude, can lead to profound personal growth. Drawing inspiration from Rachel Hollis, we emphasize the importance of specificity and reflecting on recent experiences to cultivate a positive outlook. Through personal anecdotes, we highlight the entwined challenges and triumphs of maintaining a positive mindset in sobriety, reinforcing that while recovery is simple, it is by no means easy.In our conversation, we also navigate the complex landscape of establishing boundaries for emotional sobriety and achieving physical wellness. Jen introduces us to Mel Robbins' "Let Them" theory, advocating for inner peace by releasing control over others while clarifying the active need for setting boundaries. We venture into the intersection of sobriety, nutrition, and wellness, offering practical strategies to overcome common hurdles like sugar cravings. By integrating gratitude and community support, we provide a holistic approach to wellness that nurtures both physical and emotional well-being, empowering individuals on their path to sustainable sobriety.You can find Jen on her website www.joinlighthousesobriety.com orInstagram: @jenleehirstOh and by the way if you are ready to learn more about how remote Neurofeedback therapy can help you with ADHD, sleep problems, anxiety or performance issue, grab my free download Is Neurofeedback Therapy Right For you? And let me know what you think. Support the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my remote Neurofeedback Therapy program is up and running. Learn more here! If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerable so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

Journey with Karin E. Clark through her powerful recovery story - from growing up in an alcoholic family to finding sobriety, overcoming fertility challenges, and building a meaningful counseling career. Learn practical tools for healing, personal growth, and breaking generational patterns of addiction.Key Takeaways:Understanding addiction as a symptom of deeper emotional painPractical recovery strategies beyond traditional 12-step programsHealing core beliefs like "I'm not enough"Techniques for emotional regulation and self-awarenessGuest Highlights: Karin E. Clark, MSAddiction Recovery CounselorSpecializes in teen and family system counseling40+ years in recoveryRelocating to Portugal in AprilConnect with Karin:Email: info@karineclark.comWebsite: www.karineclark.comPhone: 608-215-7755Practical Tools Discussed:Pause and breathe before reactingUse "I" statements in communicationAsk "What am I feeling?" during emotional triggersPractice self-compassion and internal focusRecommended Resources:"A Woman's Way Through the 12 Steps" bookEMDR therapyRemote Neurofeedback Therapy-Learn more here.Support the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my remote Neurofeedback Therapy program is up and running. Learn more here! If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerable so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

In this raw and honest 200th episode milestone, host Shelby John opens up about how perfectionism nearly prevented her from celebrating this incredible achievement. Through vulnerable sharing, she explores how the pressure to create the "perfect" celebration led to temporary paralysis - a common challenge many face in recovery and life transitions.Key TakeawaysHow perfectionism can paradoxically prevent us from taking actionWhy non-traditional celebrations can be more authentic and meaningfulThe power of vulnerability in leadership and recoveryNavigating life transitions: empty nesting, perimenopause, and evolving relationshipsThe importance of community in long-term recovery successEpisode Highlights[00:00] - Shelby reveals why there was a brief podcast hiatus [02:15] - The paralysis of perfectionism: when expectations prevent progress [04:30] - Reframing celebrations: why traditional timelines don't matter [07:45] - Reflection on recent mini-episodes and community feedback [10:30] - Vision casting for 2025: personal and professional transitions [13:45] - Introduction to remote neurofeedback opportunities [15:30] - Call for guest suggestions and community involvementFeatured in This EpisodeDiscussion of end-of-year mini-episodesPreview of upcoming guest interviewsIntroduction to remote neurofeedback programVision boarding and future self-workCommunity celebration plans for Episode 200Resources MentionedEmail: wholisticliving@shelbyjohn.comWebsite: www.shelbyjohn.comRemote Neurofeedback Program consultation bookingPrevious mini-episodes (end of 2024)Connect With ShelbyWebsite: www.shelbyjohn.comEmail: wholisticliving@shelbyjohn.comSocial Media: @ShelbyJohnCoachingEpisode Tags#SoberPodcast #Recovery #Perfectionism #MilestoneCelebration #EmotionalSobriety #WomenInRecovery #SoberLife #PersonalGrowth #Authenticity #ConfidentSoberWomenAbout the ShowThe Confident Sober Women podcast helps women thrive in long-term recovery by building lives they don't want to escape from. Host Shelby John combines her expertise as a therapist, recovery coach, and woman with 22 years of sobriety to provide practical strategies and authentic insights for sustainable rSupport the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my remote Neurofeedback Therapy program is up and running. Learn more here! If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerable so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

In this empowering episode, host Shelby John breaks down how to transform your vision board into tangible results. Perfect for sober women ready to make 2025 their breakthrough year!Key Highlights:Morning Vision Practice: Spend 3 minutes connecting with your vision board and choosing one focus areaFuture Self Navigation: Make decisions by asking "What would my future self do?"Weekly Vision Reviews: 15-minute Sunday check-ins for gentle course correctionVision Anchors: Creating physical reminders in your environmentDaily Celebration Practice: Acknowledging small wins for lasting motivationThis episode builds on December's vision board workshop with Jeanette (previous episode). Learn practical steps to implement your vision, regardless of where you are in your recovery journey.Resources Mentioned:Vision Board Workshop Episode with Jeanette (December 2024)Vision Planner Download (link in episode)Connect with Shelby:Instagram: @shelbyjjohnFacebook Group: Confident Sober WomenRemember: Progress over perfection. You can't fail unless you quit, and you can always hit the reset button to realign with your vision.Support the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my remote Neurofeedback Therapy program is up and running. Learn more here! If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerable so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

In this insightful episode of the Confident Sober Women podcast, host Shelby welcomes recovery coach Jeanette Hounjet to discuss creating meaningful visions for the new year instead of traditional resolutions. Jeanette, founder of Now She's Living, shares her personal recovery journey and expert guidance on vision boarding and intentional goal-setting for women in recovery.Key Topics Discussed:Jeanette's unique recovery path, from her first AA meeting at 21 to discovering personalized recovery approaches through She RecoversWhy traditional New Year's resolutions may not serve us and alternative approaches to goal-settingThe importance of examining inherited beliefs and conditioning when creating personal visionsHow addiction can stunt emotional development and value formationPractical steps for creating and implementing an effective vision boardStrategies for remaining open to receiving what you envisionThe role of beliefs, thoughts, and feelings in manifestationWhy keeping your vision private initially can protect your energy and dreamsNotable Quotes: "There is not just one road to recovery." - Jeanette Hanjae "Let your thoughts be your cheerleader, not this downer voice that is keeping you stuck." - Jeanette HanjaePractical Tips:Start with curiosity when creating your vision boardChoose visual representations of 5 key desires for the yearPractice gratitude as if your desires are already manifestingUse "just for today" mindset when working toward goalsBegin with small, consistent actions rather than overwhelming changesResources Mentioned:Now She's Living website (nowshesliving.com)Free 2025 Vision Planner downloadShe Recovers communityConnect with Jeanette Hanjae: Website: nowshesliving.com Instagram: @nowshesliving Pinterest: @nowsheslivingSupport the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my program Sober Freedom Transformation is now open! It is for women who have been sober for a year to many and are ready to discover who they want to be in long term sobreity, develop confidence and improve their relationships.If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerably so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

In episode of the Confident Sober Women podcast, host Shelby welcomes Julie, to discuss navigating boundaries and saying "no" during the holiday season. Julie shares her journey from a social drinker to finding herself in isolated drinking patterns after having children and moving to the suburbs, ultimately leading to her decision to quit alcohol.The conversation delves into the evolution from early sobriety to emotional sobriety, highlighting how recovery transforms relationships and personal growth. Julie and Shelby discuss the importance of developing a strong "A-Team" of supportive relationships and how priorities shift with age and sobriety, emphasizing quality connections over quantity.Key takeaways include:The challenge of saying "no" stems from fear of disappointing othersPractical strategies for setting boundaries, including the DEAR MAN technique (Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, Mindful, Negotiate)How to start small with boundary-setting and build confidenceWays to compromise while maintaining personal limitsThe importance of allowing others to have their feelings about your boundariesTips for holiday-specific situations like family gatherings and work partiesThe hosts emphasize that boundary-setting is a skill that requires practice, starting with small decisions like dinner choices before tackling bigger challenges like holiday commitments. They share practical examples of how to communicate boundaries effectively, including using "yes, and" statements instead of "but" to create win-win situations.Julie explains how validating others' feelings while maintaining personal boundaries can lead to better outcomes, and both hosts discuss the value of taking time to reflect before responding to requests. They share personal examples from parenting and professional situations, demonstrating how these principles apply across different life areas.Connect with Julie through Instagram, Facebook, or her website Julie Derashynski Coaching, or email her at Julie@JWDcoaching.com.Support the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my program Sober Freedom Transformation is now open! It is for women who have been sober for a year to many and are ready to discover who they want to be in long term sobreity, develop confidence and improve their relationships.If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerably so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

The holiday season can be a psychological minefield for women in recovery, filled with emotional triggers that can challenge even the most resilient individuals. In this powerful episode, host Shelby John provides practical strategies to help you move through the holidays with grace, self-compassion, and emotional stability.Why Holidays Are Emotionally ChallengingNeurological triggers that activate past memoriesSensory experiences that transport you back to unprocessed emotionsSocietal pressure of performative happinessAmplified grief and lossComplex family dynamicsRecovery-specific challenges3 Powerful Tools for Emotional Processing1. Emotional Check-In PracticeCreate a consistent daily routineEstablish a sacred space for reflectionPractice non-judgmental observation of your emotionsIdentify the root of your feelingsDevelop self-understanding and compassion2. Expanding Your Boundary ToolkitMaster verbal boundaries using "I" statementsImplement physical boundaries (time limits, exit strategies)Create scripts for managing sensitive conversationsProtect your emotional energyPrepare responses in advance3. Grounding TechniquesUse physical methods like weighted blanketsPractice progressive body relaxationEngage all five senses to stay presentImplement breathing techniquesDevelop personal meditation strategiesBonus Resources

In this powerful and vulnerable episode of the Confident Sober Women Podcast, host Shelby and guest Christy dive deep into the complex emotional landscape of grief, loss, and loneliness—especially during the holiday season. Drawing from personal experiences of recovery, grief, and healing, they offer compassionate strategies for managing difficult emotions and creating meaningful experiences.Key TakeawaysUnderstanding Grief: Grief isn't linear and doesn't have an expiration date. It's normal and healthy to experience emotions at your own pace.Creative Healing: Creativity can be a powerful tool for processing emotions, from painting and journaling to cooking and gardening.Building Support: Creating a supportive "A-team" of understanding individuals who can sit with you in your emotions is crucial.Redefining Expectations: You have the power to define what holidays and personal experiences mean to you.Healing Strategies Discussed1. Emotional AcknowledgmentNormalize your feelings of sadness, loneliness, and griefAvoid rushing to "fix" or suppress emotionsRecognize that not everyone will understand your emotional process2. Creative ExpressionUse creativity as a healing mechanismExperiment with various forms of creative expression: 3. Physical MovementEngage in movement to process and release emotionsSimple activities like walking, sitting outside, or feeling sunshine can be healingUse physical activities to connect with your body and senses4. Ritual CreationDevelop personal rituals to honor loss and memoriesExamples include: Lighting candlesCreating memory journalsEstablishing new family traditionsParticipating in memorial eventsConnect with the HostWebsite: purpledogsober.com  Instagram: @purpledogsoberThe Dark Horse Entrepreneur | Helping Parents Make Money OnlineFor hardworking parents seeking side hustles & yearning for the freedom & fulfillment...Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my program Sober Freedom Transformation is now open! It is for women who have been sober for a year to many and are ready to discover who they want to be in long term sobreity, develop confidence and improve their relationships.If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerably so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

Financial stress isn't just about dollars and cents—it's a critical component of recovery that can make or break your sobriety journey. In this powerful episode, I break down the deep connection between money and emotional healing.Why Financial Wellness Matters in Sobriety:Money represents more than just currencyCan be a profound source of anxietyPotential trigger for old coping mechanismsReflection of self-worthCritical to sustainable recovery5 Game-Changing Strategies:Honest Financial Inventory Take a compassionate, judgment-free look at your current financial situation. List income sources, document expenses, review spending patterns, and identify emotional spending triggers.Realistic Holiday BudgetingSet total spending limitsAllocate funds for gifts, events, self-careUse cash envelopesCreate separate holiday savings accountTrack spending with budgeting appsReimagine Gift-GivingSet clear spending limitsConsider group exchangesCreate meaningful, low-cost giftsOffer experiences over material itemsMake charitable donationsEmotional vs. Financial Currency Reframe your money mindset:"I need to buy something to be loved" → "I am worthy of love exactly as I am"Focus on connection, not price tagsInvest in quality time and genuine experiencesBuild Financial ResilienceDevelop emergency fundCreate debt reduction planRepair creditSeek financial counselingBonus: Spiritual Money ManagementPractice daily gratitudeRecognize abundanceRelease scarcity mindsetBe kind to yourselfPro Tip: Your worth is NOT determined by your bank account. Recovery is a journey of continuous growth.Want to supercharge your healing? Explore remote neurofeedback therapy for trauma recovery. Schedule a free 15-minute consultation at www.shelbyjohn.com.Ready to transform your relationship with money and sobriety? Listen now and share with a friend who needs this message!Support the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my program Sober Freedom Transformation is now open! It is for women who have been sober for a year to many and are ready to discover who they want to be in long term sobreity, develop confidence and improve their relationships.If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerably so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

Are you dreading family gatherings during the holiday season? Wondering how to maintain your sobriety and emotional balance when family dynamics threaten to overwhelm you? In this episode of the Confident Sober Women podcast, host Shelby John provides a comprehensive roadmap for navigating family interactions with grace, strength, and self-preservation.Key Insights in This Episode:Understanding Family DynamicsUncover the deep-rooted interaction patterns that can trigger emotional responses and potentially jeopardize your recovery. Shelby breaks down common family roles:The Hero: Perfectionism personifiedThe Scapegoat: Bearing unwarranted blameThe Lost Child: Often overlooked and silentThe Mascot: Using humor as a defense mechanismLearn to recognize your typical family role and how it impacts your emotional well-being.Masterful Communication StrategiesDiscover the art of communication in recovery with game-changing techniques:Implement powerful "I" statementsMaintain a calm, measured tonePractice active listeningEstablish clear, compassionate boundariesCreating Meaningful Sober TraditionsRedefine family time with innovative, alcohol-free activities that promote connection and wellness:Morning group walksHealthy cooking togetherEngaging board game nightsCollaborative volunteer experiencesCreative craft projectsEssential Self-Care ToolkitBuild your personal stress-management arsenal with:4-7-8 breathing techniqueQuick meditation strategiesJournaling practicesStrategic exit plans for overwhelming situationsBonus ResourceExplore remote Neurofeedback therapy as an innovative approach to healing trauma, managing anxiety, and supporting your recovery journey.

Navigating Social Gatherings: A Sober Woman's Guide to Confidence and Joy During the HolidaysAre you dreading holiday social events and worried about maintaining your sobriety? You're not alone. In this powerful episode of the Confident Sober Women podcast, we dive deep into practical strategies that will transform your approach to social gatherings, helping you not just survive, but truly thrive during the holiday season.Key Highlights:Understanding Your Personal TriggersSetting Healthy BoundariesChoosing Supportive Social EnvironmentsCreating Fun Sober AlternativesWhether you're newly sober or have been on your recovery journey for years, this episode provides actionable insights to help you:Identify and manage social triggersCommunicate your needs confidentlyCreate enjoyable social experiences without alcoholProtect your emotional well-being during challenging social situationsInside this episode, you'll learn:Specific communication scripts for declining drinksEmotional regulation techniques for high-stress social momentsHow to evaluate social invitations through the lens of your recoveryCreative ideas for sober socializing that are actually funFor women in recovery, the holidays can feel like navigating a minefield. But with the right tools and mindset, you can approach social gatherings with confidence, grace, and genuine joy. This episode is your comprehensive guide to maintaining your sobriety while creating meaningful connections.Additional Resources:Free Sober Social Survival Guide (link in show notes)Community support group informationRecommended sobriety apps and online resourcesIf you found this useful please share with a friend so we can grow our community!About the Host: Shelby John is a passionate advocate for women in recovery, dedicated to creating empowering conversations that support personal transformation. As the host of the Confident Sober Women podcast, she provides practical, compassionate guidance for women building lives they love. Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice. Always consult with a healthcare professional about your specific recovery journey. Support the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my program Sober Freedom Transformation is now open! It is for women who have been sober for a year to many and are ready to discover who they want to be in long term sobreity, develop confidence and improve their relationships.If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerably so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

Are you struggling with anxiety in recovery? This episode is your lifeline to understanding and managing anxiety like never before. Today, I share five transformative strategies that have been absolute game-changers for women in recovery.Key Episode Highlights:The science behind the powerful 4-7-8 breathing techniqueNeurofeedback therapy: Your brain's ultimate reset buttonMindfulness practices that actually work for busy womenHow movement becomes medicine for your mental healthThe neurological power of gratitudeWhat You'll Learn:Understand the neurological roots of anxietyDiscover proven techniques to manage stress and emotional triggersLearn about neurofeedback therapy and its incredible benefits for women in recoveryPractical, science-backed strategies you can implement immediatelyFREE Download: "Is Neurofeedback Therapy Right for You?" Grab your comprehensive guide to understanding how we can literally rewire our brains for emotional wellness.For Women Seeking:Anxiety reliefSobriety supportMental health strategiesNeurological healingEmotional transformationExpert Insights Include:Detailed breakdown of breath work scienceMind-body connection explanationsNeurofeedback therapy deep diveMindfulness techniques for real lifeGratitude practices that rewire your brainResources Mentioned:4-7-8 Breathing TechniqueNeurofeedback TherapyMindfulness PracticesGratitude JournalingConnect and Learn More:Free ConsultationDownload Free GuideJoin Our CommunityTimestamps: 00:00 - Episode Introduction 05:00 - Breathing Technique Deep Dive 10:00 - Neurofeedback Explained 15:00 - Movement and Anxiety 20:00 - Mindfulness Practices 25:00 - Gratitude and Brain Health 30:00 - Closing Thoughts and ResourcesKeywords: anxiety, neurofeedback, sober women, mental health, brain healing, recovery strategies, emotional wellness, mindfulness, breathwork, gratitudeCall to Action: Download your FREE guide now! Schedule your consultation to start your journey to emotional freedom. Share this episode with a woman who needs to hear this message.Support the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my program Sober Freedom Transformation is now open! It is for women who have been sober for a year to many and are ready to discover who they want to be in long term sobreity, develop confidence and improve their relationships.If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerably so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

Join me for an empowering deep dive into maintaining sobriety, emotional wellness, and personal boundaries during the most challenging time of the year. In this must-listen episode, we break down five transformative strategies to help sober women not just survive the holidays, but truly thrive. Whether you're in early recovery or years into your journey, these practical tips will give you the confidence and tools to enjoy the season on your own terms.Key Takeaways:Proven strategies for setting boundaries with familyComprehensive self-care techniques for emotional resiliencePractical methods to manage holiday triggersTechniques for redefining joy in sobrietyEmpowerment tools to protect your recovery journeyTimestamps:00:00 - Episode Introduction05:00 - Proactive Planning and Boundary Setting15:30 - Self-Care as a Non-Negotiable Priority25:45 - Reframing Expectations and Embracing Authenticity35:20 - Developing Emotional Resilience Strategies45:10 - Celebrating Your Strength and Redefining Holiday Joy55:00 - Closing Thoughts and Actionable TakeawaysResources Mentioned:EMDR therapy - www.shelbyjohn.comRecommended Support GroupsSuggested Reading List for Sober WomenSelf-Care Toolkit RecommendationsTranscript Snippet:"Recovery during the holidays isn't about restriction – it's about creating a powerful, authentic experience that celebrates your strength and growth."Call to Action:Subscribe to the Confident Sober Women PodcastJoin our private community www.facebook.com/groups/confidnetsoberwomenShare this episode with a friend who needs supportLeave a review to help other women find this resourcesSupport the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my program Sober Freedom Transformation is now open! It is for women who have been sober for a year to many and are ready to discover who they want to be in long term sobreity, develop confidence and improve their relationships.If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerably so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

In this transformative episode of Confident Sober Women, functional nutrition expert Dr. Lahana Vigliano, founder of Nuvitru Wellness, reveals groundbreaking insights about holistic health transformation. Her revolutionary approach to women's wellness combines ancient wisdom with modern functional medicine, offering hope for those seeking genuine healing. Key Highlights: Dr. Lahana's Journey: From aspiring MD to holistic healing pioneer, discover why she chose to revolutionize traditional healthcare through functional nutrition.The Gut-Health Revolution: Learn why your gut is the master key to hormone balance, weight management, and overall wellness, creating a powerful "domino effect" of healing.Revolutionary Patient Care: Understand why exploring your health timeline "from your mother's womb to now" is crucial for true healing and sets apart genuine root-cause practitioners.Breaking Stress Cycles: Uncover why stress—not just diet—might be blocking your wellness journey and how creating joy becomes medicine.Practical Natural Healing: Discover simple yet powerful steps using real food, nutrient diversity, and consistent small changes for lasting transformation.Essential for Sober Women: This episode offers critical insights for women navigating sobriety, revealing how physical healing supports emotional sobriety. Whether newly sober or years into your journey, learn how integrating these practices can strengthen your path to wellness. Connect with Dr. Lahana Vigliano: Website: nuvitruwellness.comInstagram: @nuvitruwellnessPodcasts: Functional Nutrition Radio and Power Women WellnessReady to transform your sober journey through better health? This episode provides the roadmap you've been searching for. Join Our Community: Subscribe, review, and share with women ready to revolutionize their health journey. Together, we're building stronger, healthier, more empowered lives. Support the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my program Sober Freedom Transformation is now open! It is for women who have been sober for a year to many and are ready to discover who they want to be in long term sobreity, develop confidence and improve their relationships.If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerably so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

In this powerful episode of Confident Sober Women, host Shelby interviews Patti Clark, author of Recovery Road Trip and a woman whose journey to sobriety and emotional healing has inspired countless others. Patti's story takes us through her early years in a dysfunctional family, struggling with addiction, and ultimately finding the path to recovery. With honesty and wisdom, Patti reveals how she overcame trauma, addiction, and the challenges of sustaining long-term sobriety.Highlights:Early Life Struggles: Patti shares the impact of growing up in an alcoholic family, which led to her own battle with addiction at a young age.Life-Changing Choices: From working in Alaska's high-stakes environment to a transformative moment of clarity, Patti chose a new path.Connection as the Key to Recovery: Patti emphasizes the power of connection over isolation in achieving and sustaining sobriety. This episode highlights the importance of finding community and choosing the right support system, whether through 12-step groups, alternatives like She Recovers, or other modern recovery groups.Emotional Sobriety & Self-Love: Patti speaks about the deeper work that follows initial sobriety, addressing emotional regulation and the need for self-love—crucial for long-term success in recovery.Preventing Relapse: Hear insights from Patti's research on why women relapse and the essential practices that help sustain sobriety. She shares her experience of stepping away from her program, the dangers of complacency, and the importance of maintaining a support network.Top Takeaways:Embrace Connection: Sobriety thrives in community. Whether through 12-step, therapy, or other recovery groups, staying connected to others is vital for long-term recovery.Do the Deeper Work: Healing doesn't stop at sobriety. Engage in practices like journaling, creative expression, and neurofeedback for trauma to deepen your recovery.Micro-Changes Lead to Transformation: Small, consistent actions—routine, emotional awareness, and self-care—build a fulfilling, sober life.Tune in to this episode and be sure to share with a friend and leave a review in your platform if you are liking what you hear in the show. Whether you're in early recovery or years along, Patti's wisdom and insights are sure to inspire you to strengthen your own journey. Visit Patti's website www.patticlark.orSupport the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my program Sober Freedom Transformation is now open! It is for women who have been sober for a year to many and are ready to discover who they want to be in long term sobreity, develop confidence and improve their relationships.If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerably so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

In this powerful episode of Confident Sober Women, I sit down with Michelle Risser, LISW-S, a therapist, coach, and consultant with 24 years of sobriety. Michelle shares her journey from early recovery to becoming a certified EMDR therapist, while navigating life's challenges including trauma, a car accident, and breast cancer. Learn practical strategies for emotional regulation, nervous system healing, and building a thriving life in long-term recovery.Episode Highlights:Michelle's journey to sobriety at age 26 and breaking the family cycle of addictionTransforming trauma into purpose: Becoming an EMDR therapist after a life-changing car accidentPractical tools for managing emotions and regulating the nervous system in recoveryThe power of routine and self-trust in maintaining long-term sobrietyInnovative approaches to changing negative thought patterns, including "ridiculously over-the-top self-talk"Navigating life's challenges while maintaining professional responsibilities and sobrietyThe importance of body awareness and somatic healing in recoveryKey Takeaways:Recovery is a layered approach combining different healing modalitiesThe importance of addressing trauma for sustainable recoveryPractical strategies for managing emotions without substancesHow to build self-trust through consistent daily routinesThe role of humor and perspective in emotional regulationResources Mentioned:EMDR TherapyMeditation practices for recoverySomatic healing techniquesNervous system regulation strategiesGuest Bio:Michelle Risser, LCSW-S, is a therapist, coach, and consultant with 24 years of sobriety. She specializes in helping professionals increase their impact while decreasing burnout. As a certified EMDR therapist and consultant, she brings both personal and professional expertise to trauma healing and recovery work.Connect with Michelle:Website: www.mrisser.comInstagram: @michelle_risserRecovery Tools Discussed:Body scan techniquesBreathwork practicesMeditationIce pack for nervous system regulationPositive self-talk strategiesWorst-case scenario exercisesLaughter as a healing toolSupport the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my program Sober Freedom Transformation is now open! It is for women who have been sober for a year to many and are ready to discover who they want to be in long term sobreity, develop confidence and improve their relationships.If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerably so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

In this powerful episode of Confident Sober Women, with Kelley Kitley, a Chicago-based psychotherapist and author, to explore the nuanced journey of women in sobriety.Kelley shares her compelling story of growing up above her parents' bar and her path to recovery, offering insights that will resonate with many sober women. The conversation touches on:The evolution of recovery resources, from traditional 12-step programs to modern approaches like neurofeedback therapy for anxietyThe importance of developing consistent routines and self-care practices in early sobrietyHow EMDR therapy can be a powerful tool for addressing underlying trauma in addictionThe concept of emotional sobriety and its crucial role in long-term recoveryStrategies for avoiding cross-addiction and maintaining balance in recoveryThe value of sharing personal stories to break stigmas around addiction and mental healthKelley and Shelby discuss the complexities of parenting in sobriety, navigating relationships, and the ongoing work of self-discovery. They emphasize the importance of community and connection in sustaining a fulfilling sober lifestyle.Listeners will gain practical insights on:Building a strong foundation in early recoveryDeveloping emotional resilience and self-awarenessBalancing self-care with family and professional responsibilitiesUtilizing various therapeutic modalities, including neurofeedback for anxietyThe power of vulnerability and authenticity in recoveryWhether you're new to sobriety or have years of recovery, this episode offers valuable perspectives on the journey of women in sobriety. Kelley's expertise as a therapist, combined with her personal experience, provides a unique and inspiring look at transforming addiction into a life of purpose and empowerment.Don't miss Kelley's recommendations for resources on and connect with her at www.kelleykitley.com, where you can learn more about her practice and her book, "MY self." Also, find her on Instagram @kelleykitley. Let's celebrate sober womenSupport the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my program Sober Freedom Transformation is now open! It is for women who have been sober for a year to many and are ready to discover who they want to be in long term sobreity, develop confidence and improve their relationships.If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerably so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

In this powerful episode of Confident Sober Women, host Shelby interviews Britney, a mother of three who transformed her life through sobriety. Britney shares her journey from growing up in a family affected by addiction to finding freedom in long-term recovery.Key topics include:Breaking generational cycles of addictionParenting strategies in sobrietyCreating healthy boundaries with childrenEmotional growth in long-term recoveryBuilding sober community through eventsBritney opens up about how childhood trauma led to early alcohol use as a coping mechanism. She describes her transition to sober parenting and the profound impact it's had on her family.The conversation explores how sobriety has allowed Britney to be more present and patient as a mother. She shares insights on setting healthy boundaries, having difficult conversations with kids, and modeling positive behaviors.Shelby and Britney discuss the challenges of navigating social situations and friendships in sobriety. Britney reveals how she's built a supportive sober community through her event planning business, Sober Sisters Events.This episode offers hope and practical advice for women in recovery, especially those balancing motherhood and sobriety. Britney's story demonstrates how breaking free from addiction can transform not just one life, but generations to come.Listeners will gain valuable perspectives on:Using self-care and mindfulness in recoveryCommunicating effectively with children about alcoholFinding sober support systemsEmbracing sobriety as a positive lifestyle choiceWhether you're a mother in recovery, considering sobriety, or simply interested in breaking generational patterns, this episode provides inspiration and actionable insights for living your best sober life.Connect with Britney: Instagram: @Sober.sisters.events Website: sobersisters.events.comIf you enjoyed this episode, please rate, review, and share! Your support helps us reach more women on their journey to confident, fulfilling sobriety.Support the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my program Sober Freedom Transformation is now open! It is for women who have been sober for a year to many and are ready to discover who they want to be in long term sobreity, develop confidence and improve their relationships.If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerably so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

In this inspiring episode of Confident Sober Women, host Shelby welcomes Tricia Lewis, creator of the Recovery Happy Hour podcast. Tricia shares her journey through addiction and into long-term recovery, offering valuable insights for women seeking sobriety and personal growth.Key Highlights:Tricia's path to sobriety, starting in November 2016The challenges of being an overachiever in recoveryBalancing work, life, and recovery in the restaurant industryTransitioning from workaholic tendencies to a more balanced lifestyleThe importance of self-awareness and addressing self-centeredness in recoveryStrategies for managing anxiety and ADHD in sobrietyThe power of gratitude and mindfulness in maintaining long-term recoveryPractical tips for setting boundaries and honoring personal needsTricia emphasizes the value of slowing down and listening to your body, a crucial skill for women in recovery. She discusses how her journey led her to focus on service work, including art therapy with foster children, highlighting the importance of giving back in sobriety.The conversation touches on the challenges of identity shifts in recovery, especially when facing unexpected life changes. Tricia and Shelby explore how long-term sobriety provides tools for resilience and adaptability, essential for navigating life's ups and downs.For women struggling with anxiety or considering therapies like neurofeedback or EMDR, this episode offers hope and practical advice. Tricia's experience with managing ADHD in sobriety provides valuable insights for those dealing with co-occurring disorders.This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking inspiration and practical strategies for maintaining long-term recovery, managing mental health, and finding purpose in sobriety.Connect with Tricia: Website: www.recoveryhappyhour.com Instagram/Facebook: @recoveryhappyhourSupport the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my program Sober Freedom Transformation is now open! It is for women who have been sober for a year to many and are ready to discover who they want to be in long term sobreity, develop confidence and improve their relationships.If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerably so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

Today on the Confident Sober Women podcast I speak with Caroline Beidler, MSW, author and recovery advocate. Caroline shares her transformative journey from addiction to long-term recovery, offering hope and practical insights for women seeking a life free from substance use.Key topics include:- The power of recovering out loud and normalizing an alcohol-free lifestyle- How recovery communities provide grace and forgiveness- The role of therapy in addressing substance use and trauma- Implementing healthy boundaries for internal peace and joyful living- Neurofeedback therapy as a treatment for anxiety and addictionCaroline, founder of Circle of Chairs and author of "Downstairs Church" and "You Are Not Your Trauma," brings her expertise as a mental health provider and addiction recovery specialist to this engaging conversation. Learn how to stop worrying and start living confidently in sobriety.Discover practical tools for:- Building resilience in long-term recovery- Healing family patterns and generational trauma- Thriving in sobriety and embracing a new lifeWhether you're a woman in recovery, seeking help for addiction, or looking to support loved ones, this episode offers valuable insights and strategies for a fulfilling, alcohol-free life.Connect with Caroline:- Website: https://www.carolinebeidler.com- Instagram: @carolinebeidler_official- Book: "You Are Not Your Trauma: Uproot Unhealthy Patterns, Heal the Family Tree" (Available on Amazon)Join us as we explore the grit and grace of addiction recovery, and learn how to live boldly and confidently in long-term sobriety. Your journey to a transformed life starts here.If you have 30 seconds can you please leave a rating and review wherever you get your podcasts so other women can find us as we continue to build our community of women who want to THRIVE in long-term recovery. If you are interested in learning more about at-home neurofeedback I would love to share the program with you. It is an evidence-based form of therapy for anxiety, ADHD, insomnia, performance, and addiction recovery. I can share more here. Support the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my program Sober Freedom Transformation is now open! It is for women who have been sober for a year to many and are ready to discover who they want to be in long term sobreity, develop confidence and improve their relationships.If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerably so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

Today I talk with Susan Packard about her transformative long-term recovery journey from a high-level executive struggling with alcohol to a beacon of sober leadership and authorship.Once a successful executive at HGTV who couldn't control her drinking, Susan entered recovery embarking on a path that would not only transform her life but also inspire countless others.Key Highlights:Susan's transition from struggling with alcohol to embracing long-term sobrietyHow recovery fueled her successful writing career and leadership approachBreaking the stigma around mental health and substance abuse in professional settingsThe concept of emotional fitness and its application in the workplaceBalancing body, brain, and heart for holistic leadershipInspiring stories of young people in recovery showing remarkable resilienceSusan emphasizes that recovery is a continual process of growth and learning that can unlock discipline, joy, and creativity. We delve into Susan's books, including "Fully Human," which courageously addresses emotional fitness in the context of recovery and its relevance to the professional world."To be a great leader, it is body, brain, heart. We need to take care of all three parts of us if we want to maximize the full promise of ourselves," Susan shares, underlining the connection between personal mastery and accountability. We explore practical self-care strategies essential for showing up authentically in both personal and professional spheres.Susan's work with college students in recovery communities offers a fresh perspective on young leadership, showcasing inspiring stories of bravery and resilience among young people navigating sobriety in challenging environments.This episode is perfect for:Professionals balancing career and recoveryLeaders interested in creating mental health-friendly work environmentsYoung adults in recovery seeking inspirationWomen exploring paths of sobriety and personal growthWhether you're in recovery, considering sobriety, or interested in personal growth and leadership, this episode offers valuable lessons for everyone. Susan's story reminds us that our challenges can become our greatest strengths, transforming not just our own lives but the lives of those around us.Subscribe now and join our community of strong, sober women redefining success and leadership.You can learn more at www.susanpackard.comSupport the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my program Sober Freedom Transformation is now open! It is for women who have been sober for a year to many and are ready to discover who they want to be in long term sobreity, develop confidence and improve their relationships.If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerably so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

In this groundbreaking episode, we explore the crucial role of nutrition in addiction recovery and mental health with Christina Veselak, MS, LMFT, CN. Discover how proper nutrition can be the key to long-term sobriety and emotional well-being for those struggling with substance use disorders.Key Topics Covered- The impact of nutrition on addiction recovery and mental health- Protein's role in managing cravings and preventing relapse- The connection between blood sugar, willpower, and addiction- Nutrition as a complementary approach to traditional addiction treatment- How nutrition affects the efficacy of psychiatric medicationsChristina Veselak, MS, LMFT, CN, is a clinical therapist with extensive experience in trauma and addiction treatment. She has integrated nutrition into her practice, focusing on helping individuals achieve lasting recovery from substance use disorders.Highlights for Sober Women and Those in Long-Term Recovery1. Personal journey: Christina's struggle with anxiety, depression, and food allergies2. The "third leg of the stool" in addiction recovery: Nutrition3. Addressing chronic relapse through targeted nutritional interventions4. The link between protein intake and mental health stability5. How proper nutrition can enhance the effectiveness of addiction treatmentKey Insights for Addiction Recovery- The importance of regular protein intake to manage cravings and prevent relapse- Understanding the biochemistry of addiction and how nutrition plays a vital role- Practical tips for maintaining stable blood sugar levels during recovery- The potential of nutritional interventions to reduce overdose deaths- Alternatives to medication for the complex biochemistry of addiction and mood disorders## Action Steps for Sustainable Sobriety1. Incorporate regular protein intake into your daily routine2. Be mindful of blood sugar drops and their impact on willpower3. Consider nutritional approaches a traditional addiction treatment methods4. Explore the connection between your diet and mental health symptoms5. Consult with a nutritionist experienced in addiction recovery for personalized guidanceVisit Christina Veselak's websites for valuable information and resources:- [Amino Acid Therapy](http://www.aminoacidtherapy.com)- [Eating Protein Saves Lives](http://www.eatingproteinsaveslives.org)Support the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my program Sober Freedom Transformation is now open! It is for women who have been sober for a year to many and are ready to discover who they want to be in long term sobreity, develop confidence and improve their relationships.If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerably so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

In this insightful episode of the Confident Sober Women podcast, we delve deep into the intricate connection between our nervous systems and how we show up in relationships, especially in the context of long-term recovery. Our guest, Amy, shares her journey as a highly sensitive individual who learned to "read the room" from a young age to avoid being a burden. We explore the concept of neuroception - how our bodies unconsciously sense danger and respond, often without our awareness. Amy reveals how alcohol became a tool for downregulation in her past. We discuss the importance of recognizing these bodily sensations and energy exchanges in our relationships. The conversation touches on the challenges of communicating these feelings effectively and the significance of developing this awareness for healthier interactions. The episode also covers: How childhood wounds manifest in adult relationshipsThe value of speaking up about our feelingsTechniques for asking good questions to foster deeper connectionsAmy's journey of spiritual growth and nervous system "regrooving"Connect with Amy on Instagram @regulatewithamy to continue the conversation.Support the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my program Sober Freedom Transformation is now open! It is for women who have been sober for a year to many and are ready to discover who they want to be in long term sobreity, develop confidence and improve their relationships.If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerably so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

As we transition from summer to fall, join Shelby John for a special episode of the Confident Sober Women podcast. Today, we're diving into Chapter 1 of 'Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety' - a memoir born from the chaos of 2020.In this episode:Explore the journey beyond getting soberDiscover the power of emotional sobriety in long-term recoveryLearn about the four pillars for building confidence and thriving in sobrietyGrab a copy of the 5 Steps To Change Your Negative ThinkingWhile getting sober was Shelby's first major life transformation, this book - and podcast - focus on THRIVING in long-term sobriety. It's about building a life you don't want to escape from.For women in all stages of recovery - from newly sober to years into their journey - this episode offers insights into:Navigating life beyond early recoveryPursuing heart's desires in sobrietyBuilding unshakable confidence as a sober womanGrab your favorite mocktail and tune in to this empowering episode. Subscribe, leave a review, and help other women discover the life-changing joy of long-term sobriety.For more on transforming your life in recovery, visit www.shelbyjohncoaching.com#ConfidentSoberWomen #RecoveryMemoir #SobrietyJourney #EmotionalSobriety #WomenInRecovery"Support the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my program Sober Freedom Transformation is now open! It is for women who have been sober for a year to many and are ready to discover who they want to be in long term sobreity, develop confidence and improve their relationships.If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerably so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

Welcome Back, Sober Ladies!Hello, my beautiful sober ladies! I've missed you all so much! This summer has been a whirlwind, full of both fun and distractions, but I'm thrilled to be back behind the mic.In this special solo episode of the Confident Sober Women podcast, I'm giving you an inside look at what's been happening behind the scenes and sharing my exciting vision for this new season. I've been reflecting on the incredible journey we've been on together, and I'm eager to dive into the topics that have been on my heart—topics that will empower, inspire, and support you on your sober journey.This season, we're aiming higher than ever. My goal? To spread the message of confident, joyful and enlighted sobriety far and wide, making the Confident Sober Women podcast a household name in the world of women's recovery. My mission is to normalize not drinking for every woman in this modern recovery era. But I can't do it without you! Please help me grow this incredible community by sharing the show with your friends, fellow sober or alcohol and drug-free women, and anyone who needs a little extra inspiration on their path to sobriety and thriving alcohol-free.Remember, new episodes drop every Tuesday—so be sure to subscribe, share, and tune in weekly! And leave a review if you like the show, this will our mission to normalize not drinking. Thanks for tuning in. See you next week!XO,ShelbySupport the Show.Support the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my program Sober Freedom Transformation is now open! It is for women who have been sober for a year to many and are ready to discover who they want to be in long term sobreity, develop confidence and improve their relationships.If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerably so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

I am not a writer, and I published a book.  This doesn't make any sense right? I still can't believe I published a memoir but I blame the fog and chaos of the year 2020.Many people over the past few years have asked me how I did it?Today, on the Confident Sober Women podcast, I decided to share more about what possessed me to share the deepest and most personal stories of my life, with the world.Getting and staying sober at the time was the hardest thing I had done in my life and created the first major before and after moment of my life.When I looked around there were so many powerful women, many of which have been guests on the show, writing their stories.But the focus was always on the getting sober part.Of course, my story shares some of this, but the purpose of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Saving Joy of Sobriety was to tell my story about living and THRIVING in long-term sobriety.Sobriety is only the beginning. The work of emotional sobriety is what creates the major transformation to build a life you don't want to escape from.The story is about how I changed my life, the actuality of recovering in recovery.How I uncovered the truth about the lies I believed and the four pillars I created to show other women how they can build confidence and thrive.Today, I share the audio version of the intro for the book and later I will share chapter 1.It is my greatest passion and pleasure to serve other women in the recovery community……and to be a guiding light for those waking up after the initial phases of early recovery and want to pursue all the desires of their heart. So grab a big glass of water or your favorite mocktail and enjoy today's episode of Confident Sober Women wherever you listen to your podcasts.Be sure to subscribe to the show and leave a review so other women can find us, it really helps me out a lot.To learn more about the transformation you can have in long-term recovery visit www.shelbyjohncoaching.com Support the Show.Support the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my program Sober Freedom Transformation is now open! It is for women who have been sober for a year to many and are ready to discover who they want to be in long term sobreity, develop confidence and improve their relationships.If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerably so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

Did you feel isolated when you got sober? Christina shared her feelings of social isolation due to her sobriety and COVID. It was actually helpful that things were shut down in the beginning for her but when the world opened bac up she found she didn't know how to socialize.Through her own lived experience of sobriety and not having a community, she decided to create one. She was a military spouse in a heavy drinking culture and she lost all her friends when she got sober. She wanted to go out and have fun and she did see it. So Christina started planning small events and built it from there. She wanted to show multiple ways to live an alcohol-free life.Christina shared how she struggled with managing her feelings in the first few years of sobriety. She did engage in cross-addictions as well until she learned to soothe herself and cope in a more healthy way. She knew she had to create her own sober social reality. Marriage is generally work no matter what but even more so when issues like substance abuse are part of it. She and her husband both ended up getting sober and worked hard through counseling to rebuild their relationship. We had a great chat about the non-alcoholic drink space and how intentional she was when she started trying them in her sobriety. She shares how NA products kept her sober and allowed her to move past the craving.Christina Kimbrough is a dynamic speaker and the visionary founder of Free Life LLC, an innovative company dedicated to hosting non-alcoholic events and operating a pop-up non-alcoholic bar. Christina is committed to creating inclusive spaces and vibrant experiences for all. http://www.freelifellc.org/Grab a big glass of water or your favorite mocktail and enjoy our conversation. Support the Show.Support the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my program Sober Freedom Transformation is now open! It is for women who have been sober for a year to many and are ready to discover who they want to be in long term sobreity, develop confidence and improve their relationships.If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerably so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

Do you desire MORE now that you have been sober for longer?Alysse got sober before all the “sober luxuries” that are available now just weren't available and she was still very young and her social and professional life revolved around drinks. Thankfully immediately she enjoyed some of the benefits of not drinking however she was still making a lot of the same bad decisions in dating and managing life.  After a few years of not drinking she knew she didn't want to go back to substances but the depression she was experiencing set in deeply. She experienced a sober bottom around four years sober.One day at a time she surrounded herself with people who supported her decision to stay sober. Alysse shares both the fun and the tears that have filled her eighteen years of sobriety. She created The Sober Curator to offer resources for those in long-term recovery and filled it with all the things she needed during her journey.Alysse wants to smash the stigma that living in long-term sobriety is boring. She has had way more fun in sobriety than she did during her active addiction! She loves to look for adventures and try new things. Alysse and I share how we grew in our confidence throughout recovery, and boundaries are a big part of that. She also learned to share openly about her recovery in her professional life which developed her self-confidence even more.Alysse and I talk about the unique position we have to serve people who have already been sober for a little while and are doing the work of emotional sobriety and want to thrive in long-term recovery.Alysse Bryson is a strong woman in recovery, an innovative media maven, a marketing guru, and gal about town. This sober gal has a humorous outlook on life and a fierce determination to succeed.https://www.alyssebryson.com/ https://thesobercurator.com/Support the Show.Support the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my program Sober Freedom Transformation is now open! It is for women who have been sober for a year to many and are ready to discover who they want to be in long term sobreity, develop confidence and improve their relationships.If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerably so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

Have you ever heard of the "power dead-even rule"?Pat Heim of the Heim Group coined this phrase in her book Hardball For Women: Winning At The Game Of Business.She says for a woman to have a healthy realationship with another woman the self-esteem and power of one must be of the same weight as the other in the eyes of each woman.I share more about this on todays episode, and much more!One way to have opportunities for women to support each other is to create events for women that also celebrate women!We are two weeks away from the Soulful Sisters: An Alcohol Free Summer Soiree. Do you have your ticket?Join us for an evening of fun on June 18th at the CoffeeBar Bel Air for amazing food by Alaina's Gourmet Creations and KK Sweets And delicious and sophisticated mocktails by Chilled By Jas.Grab a girlfriend and mark your calendSupport the Show.Support the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my program Sober Freedom Transformation is now open! It is for women who have been sober for a year to many and are ready to discover who they want to be in long term sobreity, develop confidence and improve their relationships.If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerably so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

Chrissy found drinking to be problematic in her 30s. She shared how sometimes things would go ok and that prevented her from understanding her problem with alcohol.Chrissy's mission is to teach people how to understand their intuition and listen to their bodies. She shares how this is critical in understanding not only the thoughts and feelings we have but why are we having them. She didn't use a specific recovery program but did layer on a lot of support and resources related to sobriety after trying to do it all by herself.Our bodies know what we need to do but it's our brains that tell us we don't know. She learned that support is critical to help to highlight the things we are not aware of related to long-term recovery. Chrissy started to work on the myths that she believed sobriety was doing for her. She found out she wasn't satisfied with her life and the limiting beliefs that were preventing her progress.Chrissy and I talk about the trauma response of people pleasing and how it impacts so many women. It wasn't clear to her when she was drinking. Sobriety has given her the clarity to create her future self and understand her value and worth. Towards the end, Chrissy shared some practical ways she believes you can start to get in touch with your own purpose and intuition. You can literally start doing these things today.  The inner work never stops for us, we are all under construction and are always growing and changing. Chrissy Janiga is a wife, mom, author, social worker, and coach who lives in Florida. She's passionate about helping women remove alcohol, step into their purpose, and manifest their deepest desires.www.chrissyjaniga.com@chrissyjaniga on all socialsSupport the Show.Support the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my program Sober Freedom Transformation is now open! It is for women who have been sober for a year to many and are ready to discover who they want to be in long term sobreity, develop confidence and improve their relationships.If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerably so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

Kristin followed more of a social curiosity path and doesn't live completely alcohol-free but has taken a hard look at her drinking and made changes. Kristen had a week of a lot of events and drank a lot more than she usually would and noticed how it truly affected her and she didn't like it. This was her aha moment.Kristen realized she didn't really love the alcoholic drinks she was consuming and then asked herself ‘If I don't really love them then why am I drinking? She also read This Naked Mind by Annie Grace and learned so much more about the marketing behind alcohol and the science of how it reacts in our bodies.  We know that alcohol use is linked to heart disease, cancer and so many other health conditions and Kristen felt she didn't want to have that risk to her health. She immediately saw the social implications of her not drinking. People were asking her about it and she could tell it made others uncomfortable. Kristen also began to notice how the corporate space does not support people who don't want to drink alcohol with sophisticated cocktails.Kristen shares more personally on how she didn't love the way she showed up or the person she became when she drank. She could tell she wasn't her normal self and even noticed that she looked different. Kristen is the owner of Typecast Meetings + Events, a boutique corporate event management company based in New England. She helps companies of all sizes find a great hotel for their corporate off-sites, meetings and incentive programs worldwide as well as help with the end-to-end planning.linkedin.com/in/kristenacollinsSupport the Show.Support the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my program Sober Freedom Transformation is now open! It is for women who have been sober for a year to many and are ready to discover who they want to be in long term sobreity, develop confidence and improve their relationships.If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerably so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

Can you feel a big change coming and is it bringing a lot of emotions?Today it's just you and me on the show talking about emotional transitions. This time of year often brings up a lot of change and therefore a lot of feelings. Many of them are good, sometimes not so good but either way, they are there.Thriving in long-term sobriety means learning how to get comfortable with your emotions and believing they will pass eventually. We don't always have control over the feelings that show up but we do over our actions. If you like what you hear please take 30 seconds to leave a rating and review so other women will find us. And share with a friend you think will get something out of it. The Alchemy of Natural HealingTrue, lasting healing is a transformative journey of mind, body and spirit. This...Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the Show.Support the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my program Sober Freedom Transformation is now open! It is for women who have been sober for a year to many and are ready to discover who they want to be in long term sobreity, develop confidence and improve their relationships.If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerably so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

Did you know that healthy boundaries allow you to protect your core values?Beth shared how her drinking took off when she went off to college and escalated into adulthood but since she always held a job and was productive she never viewed it as problematic. Her consequences increased until her last six months of drinking where every day she said ‘I'm not going to drink tonight.  Finally, she reached out to a therapist whose card she had picked up for a friend. Beth shared about her experience getting sober in AA and how the real change happened for her when she started to invest in her own recovery and doing the work. She talks about how she is more focused on self-awareness and mindfulness. Being aware of what is happening in our minds and bodies helps us to make better choices in our lives. We talk about how core values are grounding and they require us to establish healthy boundaries to honor those values. Beth shares how she is struggling with boundaries in her relationship with work and in creating this can empower others and respect her value of serenity. This work never stops and can be enhanced in long-term sobriety. Beth also shares some practical tools she uses in her life to help her to identify what matters to her. Beth Harbinson is the founder of Sobar® and is committed to local efforts focused on reducing the stigma associated with alcoholism, addiction and mental illness and providing greater access to treatment resources. Sobar's mission is to provide and promote innovative beverage options to those who cannot or choose not to drink alcohol.https://www.drinksobar.org/ https://www.facebook.com/drinksobar/ https://www.instagram.com/drinksobar/Support the Show.Support the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my program Sober Freedom Transformation is now open! It is for women who have been sober for a year to many and are ready to discover who they want to be in long term sobreity, develop confidence and improve their relationships.If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerably so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

Do you struggle with bloating, joint pain, digestive issues or knowing what to eat?Samantha is a woman in long-term recovery who has dedicated her life to service work and helping others. She shares how she enjoyed several years of sobriety, was in a toxic marriage, went through infertility treatment, and hadn't done the emotional work on he own past trauma and turned to drugs and alcohol.Samantha's own fitness and health journey informed her path professionally to becoming a functional diagnostic nutritionist. After she did her own functional medicine testing she discovered food sensitivity she didn't know she had as well as a dysfunctional gut. It created a vicious cycle of setting off her dopamine receptors (similar to her addiction) that set off binge eating.  Samantha shares how there are usually a combination of things going on, the underlying symptoms we can't figure out leave us perplexed. They are your body's way of telling you something isn't right.  She uses this knowledge to help others in long-term recovery heal their bodies. Michael Polan says “Eat real food, not to much, mostly plants” and that is a motto I have loved for years. Samantha shares a similar sentiment about those who are in recovery keep it simple. Eat whole foods. Samantha is a functional diagnostic nutritionist, specializing in gut health. Drawing from her own experiences and struggles, Samantha has found purpose in helping others heal their bodies and minds.www.seefitpt.com IG @seefitliving https://www.facebook.com/seefitptThe 'Your Health. Your Story.' PodcastThe future of medicine and the healing stories behind them.Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify Insights Into TeensA father and daughter discussion about the everyday struggles of teens in today's...Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the Show.Support the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my program Sober Freedom Transformation is now open! It is for women who have been sober for a year to many and are ready to discover who they want to be in long term sobreity, develop confidence and improve their relationships.If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerably so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

Do you ever wonder about the "science" behind addiction?Judy shares her history of using drugs and alcohol and even though she was doing exactly what she thought she wanted she was miserable. Today, after decades of sobriety her life is beyond what she could have ever imagined. Her neuroscience journey has been driven by her desire to understand what is different about the brains of people like her before she got started, then as she succumbed to the substances and then in recovery. Judy became curious about what was so compelling about substances for people like her and also the fact that the same obsession and compulsion that drove her to substance use helped her succeed in school and her career. Judy shares her neuroscience research on what happens to the brain when we use drugs. For women, the relief or using drugs to cope is a big mechanism more so than with men because they are more susceptible at the biological level to stress.  She shares how addiction comes about from experiences and how the brain is adapting in addiction. It can also adapt in recovery but that adaptation takes time. Our feelings and thoughts are the most reliable indicator of how things are going. Our actions and decisions about what we are doing etc are more reliable for gauging progress.   Judy's research on the use and abuse of recreational drugs began during adolescence. After hitting bottom and getting clean and sober in her twenties, she went on to earn a doctorate in behavioral neuroscience and is currently a professor at Bucknell University. In 2019 Judy published a bestselling book Never Enough: The Neuroscience and ExperieMomentous ExperienceCatching up with people from

A few years ago Jen started talking about normalizing not drinking. Jen got sober in AA and at the time she kept questioning when she would integrate back into normal social spaces. She wanted to have elevated non-alcoholic options that were on par with her friends and family were drinking and beautifully presented. Jen shared how her introversion and shyness as a young person prevented her from fitting in.  Alcohol helped her to feel the belonging she longed for.  Jen got so tired of being asked “Why aren't you drinking” and began her mission to create social spaces where people can make the choice to just not drink AND feel like they fit in. Jen has seen a dramatic shift in the corporate scene because half of Americans say they want to drink less or not at all. We shared thoughts on modeling for our teens and young adults that non-drinking is an option. Although they may experiment we can share details about the dangers of substances on the developing brain when they see adults having fun and living life without alcohol it creates options for them.Jen shares that we can and should go into all of our spaces and when you see an opportunity share your voice about the non-alcoholic options. We can also encourage our communities and corporations to plan events that are not alcohol centered. You never have to feel pressured to share your own story but simply ask how are we handling having non-alcoholic options. Just add in your thoughts about providing mocktails or whatever NA options feel appropriate.The landscape around not drinking is changing and becoming so much more accepted. Jen Gilhoi is an advocate for and creator of healthy social experiences that decentralize alcohol.  She's an event experience strategist and founder of Sparktrack and cofounder of Zero Proof Collective. Jen is also cofounded Sauna and Sobriety in May 2023 to model safe, adult spaces that foster healing and belonging without substances. Jengilhoi.com Zeroproofcollective.com You can find her on Instagram and Linkedin @jengilhoi, @zeroproofcollective and @Saunaandsobriety TEDx Talk (7.06.23) on YouTube https://youtu.be/Dov0WtIxSNI?si=oIknocfl0mf0Xt_wSupport the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my program Sober Freedom Transformation is now open! It is for women who have been sober for a year to many and are ready to discover who they want to be in long term sobreity, develop confidence and improve their relationships.If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerably so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

Have you ever believed the lies you told yourself? This episode is for you.Marci shared how alcohol originally was something she did for fun but then became her medicine when she was depressed. She used it to numb all the pain she had until she realized she couldn't stop. Marci found a recovery program that aligned with her values and focused on changing her thoughts. She shared how she realized that alcohol was only making her depression worse and keeping her in this terrible cycle so she put on her sneakers and went for a walk. And that was the beginning of her sobriety experience.We talk about how alcohol LIES to us, it tells us all the ways we are not enough. Marci looked past her insecurity and reached out to someone she knew who was a coach who helped her build the confidence she needed to start her business as an alcohol-free woman. She shared how the time she gained back from being sober gave her the much-needed space she needed to learn and grow a business. Marci can identify where her belief that she was not enough and to have value came from her childhood. Now Marci knows that she doesn't need anyone to give her the attention and recognition she can give herself and that is enough. She knows we don't have to believe everything we think.We dive more into some of the cognitive behavioral work on thought changing. Part of this process is knowing that a lot of automatic thoughts will continue to come but the point is whether or not we accept them or not. We leave you with some real practical skills for thriving in long-term recovery.Marci Rossi is a certified success coach who helps women redefine their relationship with alcohol. Once a near-daily drinker, Marci has completely reframed her perspective on alcohol so that she no longer desires it, and now she helps others do the same. To learn more about Marci, visit https://www.marcirossi.com/ or @CoachMarciRossi on social media.Support the showSupport the showOh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my program Sober Freedom Transformation is now open! It is for women who have been sober for a year to many and are ready to discover who they want to be in long term sobreity, develop confidence and improve their relationships.If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerably so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.