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2 episodes with imago dialogue
2 episodes with imago dialogue
2 episodes with imago dialogue
2 episodes with imago dialogue
3 episodes with imago dialogue
2 episodes with imago dialogue
2 episodes with imago dialogue
Our attachment styles shape the way we love, communicate, and connect. In this live session, we'll explore insights from the book Attached by Amir Levine, along with real-life experiences I recently had, to uncover how understanding attachment can help heal past wounds and create more secure, fulfilling relationships. Join us to deepen self-awareness and cultivate healthier connections.---------Learn about Imago Dialogue here => https://classes.kwprofessionalorganizers.com/courses/healing-through-connection-mastering-the-art-of-imago-dialogueBook a free discovery call with me to learn how I can support you and your partner in your healing journey. Click here: https://kwprofessionalorganizers.com/1-on-1-with-emilio/
Join us for a live session on the healing power of the Wheel/Circle of Consent and how it is transforming my relationship with my partner. Through personal stories and real-life applications, we'll explore how this framework fosters deeper connection, safety, clear communication, and mutual respect. Whether you're seeking more fulfilling relationships or a better understanding of consent, this session offers practical insights for personal and relational healing.---------Learn about Imago Dialogue here => https://classes.kwprofessionalorganizers.com/courses/healing-through-connection-mastering-the-art-of-imago-dialogueThe Wheel of Consent was created by Dr. Betty Martin. You can find free information about the Wheel of Consent here: https://bettymartin.org/videos/Book a free discovery call with me to learn how I can support you and your partner in your healing journey. Click here: https://kwprofessionalorganizers.com/1-on-1-with-emilio/
Effective communication is the foundation of every strong relationship, yet so many of us struggle to truly be heard and understood. Renowned relationship experts and authors Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt return to share their groundbreaking insights on how dialogue can transform the way we connect. Drawing from their latest book, How to Talk with Anyone about Anything: The Practice of Safe Conversations, they break down the power of Imago Dialogue, the role of safety in communication, and why curiosity is the key to bridging differences. From deepening intimacy in romantic relationships to fostering understanding in a divided world, this conversation is packed with powerful tools to help you listen, connect, and create lasting change in the way you relate to others. Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D. are co-creators of Imago Relationship Therapy and a social movement called Safe Conversations. Internationally respected as couple's therapists, educators, speakers, activists, and New York Times bestselling authors, their 10 books, including the timeless classic, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, have sold more than 4 million copies. Harville appeared on the Oprah Winfrey television program 17 times! Helen was installed in the Women's Hall of Fame and the Smithsonian Institute. They have six children and eight grandchildren. —Harville & Helen's Previous Episode: https://markgroves.com/episode/the-couple-who-changed-how-i-relate-lessons-from-the-godparents-of-love/ —Harville & Helen's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/harvilleandhelen/ —Harville & Helen's Website: https://harvilleandhelen.com/ —Harville & Helen's Website | Safe Conversations: https://quantumconnections.com —Harville & Helen's Website | Imago Relationship: https://imagorelationships.org/ —Harville & Helen's Book: How to Talk with Anyone about Anything: https://harvilleandhelen.com/books/how-to-talk-with-anyone-about-anything/ Resources: — Deepen your connections and spark meaningful conversations with the Create The Love card deck — designed to inspire self-reflection, vulnerability, and deeper intimacy in your relationships. https://createthelove.com/getcards —Ready to transform your relationships? Download The Relationship Toolkit for free and learn the 5 essential skills to thrive in love and life! https://go.markgroves.com/relationship-toolkit-podcast —Ready to stop chasing emotionally unavailable people? Download your free guide to break the cycle and call in the relationship you crave: https://go.markgroves.com/unavailable-people-opt-in-podcast —Learn the connection between Attachment Styles, how it affects the Nervous System, AND how you can heal it: .https://go.markgroves.com/nervous-system-opt-in-podcast If you want to dive deeper into Mark's content, search through every episode, find specific topics we've covered, and ask him questions, go to his Dexa page: https://ask.markgroves.com This episode is sponsored by: —Cozy Earth: Use code MARK for 40% off sitewide at http://www.cozyearth.com —IIN: Use code MARKGROVES20 for 20% off ALL courses from IIN & Chopra at http://bit.ly/MARKIIN —Mighty Networks: Go to http://www.markgroves.com/mightynetworks to learn how you can create your own community! Contact us at podcast@markgroves.com for sponsor product support, questions, comments, or just to say hello! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
What if the way you communicate could transform your relationships?In this special episode, my partner Samantha and I are giving you a free preview of our immersive course on Imago Dialogue—a powerful tool for deeper connection, empathy, and mutual understanding. You'll discover how to move beyond conflict, break reactive patterns, and create a space for truly being heard. If this resonates, the full course offers live demonstrations, practical exercises, and real-time practice. Tune in now and take the first step toward conscious and connected communication!"------If you want to book a private coaching call to help you and your partner get started please contact us => info@kwprofessionalorganizers.com
Nick and Alissa pull back the curtain on their own relationship, sharing the bumps, bruises, and beautiful moments they've experienced along the way. They delve into their rapid journey from moving in together to facing and overcoming personal and shared traumas, and how they navigate the often rocky road of partnership with grace and determination.They cover important lessons about the power of personal growth, the art of effective communication, and the value of maintaining a shared vision in a relationship. From dealing with past traumas, managing conflict, to the importance of play and joy, this episode offers honest insights and practical advice for couples everywhere.Key Themes Discussed:- Strategies for managing and overcoming past traumas in relationships- The significance of maintaining a shared vision and purpose- Practical techniques for effective communication and resolving conflicts- The importance of integrating play and joy into your relationshipTimestamps:04:22 Discussing Relationship Challenges19:21 Alissa Shares Her Growth Through Somatic Therapy40:31 The Importance of Relationship Vision and How It Guides Couples55:40 Balancing Work in Relationship with Play and FunWant to transform your relationship and take it to the next level?Join my online course here.My Socials:Nick Solaczek on InstagramNick Solaczek on YouTubeNick Solaczek on Facebook
Conflict happens. Especially when differentiation and individuation are parts of your personal and relational journeys. And that's a good thing! Enter Imago Dialogue, a communication tool created by Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt. Not only can it transform your communication, using Imago Dialogue can transform conflict into more connection. Whether you're practicing Imago Dialogue with a romantic partner, family member, or friend, the core idea behind it is something a lot of us have talked about before: I want to feel understood. I want you to understand me! We walk through the steps of Imago Dialogue, but we also go deeper and talk about how you can set yourself up for success. We talk about practical tools, like emotional regulation techniques, to use before and after your conversation, and we walk through an entire real-life, real-time example of using Imago Dialogue. Learn more about Dr. Harville Hendrix's and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt's work here: www.HarvilleAndHelen.com JOIN The Year of Opening community for a full year of learning & support. Registration is open now at www.TheYearOfOpening.com Learn the 5 secrets to open your relationship the smart way Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.com Get the answers you want to create the open relationship of your dreams! Sign up for an Ask Me Anything here Music: Dance of Felt by Blue Dot Sessions
Chapter 1:Summary of Getting the Love You Want"Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples" by Harville Hendrix is a self-help book focused on improving romantic relationships. The book presents the idea that many conflicts in relationships stem from unmet childhood needs and patterns that influence adult behavior. Key Concepts:1. Imago Relationship Theory: Hendrix introduces the concept of "imago," which refers to the unconscious image we carry of our ideal partner based on our early childhood experiences. This image often leads us to select partners who reflect our caregivers' traits—both positive and negative.2. Conflict in Relationships: Conflict arises when partners act out unresolved issues from their past. These patterns can lead to misunderstandings and dissatisfaction in relationships.3. Healing Through Communication: The book emphasizes the importance of conscious communication. Hendrix introduces tools like the "Imago Dialogue" process, which helps couples communicate effectively and empathetically, allowing for deeper understanding and connection.4. The Power of Empathy: By fostering empathy, couples can bridge emotional gaps and support each other's healing processes. The book guides readers in developing this crucial skill.5. Revisiting Childhood Wounds: Hendrix encourages couples to explore their childhood experiences and how they impact their current relationship dynamics, promoting healing and growth.6. Learning to Appreciate Differences: The book highlights the value of recognizing and appreciating differences in partners, encouraging a mindset that views challenges as opportunities for growth rather than threats. Practical Tools:- Imago Dialogue: A structured communication technique that involves listening and reflecting back what the partner has said to ensure understanding.- Exercises and Worksheets: The book includes various exercises designed to help couples apply the concepts and improve their emotional connection.Overall, "Getting the Love You Want" serves as a practical and insightful guide for couples seeking to deepen their understanding of each other, enhance their communication, and foster lasting intimacy.Chapter 2:The Theme of Getting the Love You Want"Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples" is a self-help book by Harville Hendrix, designed to help couples understand and improve their relationships through a variety of techniques and insights. While it is not a narrative work with a traditional plot, it presents key ideas about relationship dynamics, personal growth, and emotional healing. Here are some key points regarding its content: Key Plot Points (Conceptual Framework)1. Understanding Your Childhood Influence: Hendrix explores how early relationships with caregivers shape our expectations and behaviors in adult romantic relationships. Couples are encouraged to identify their childhood wounds and how these affect their current partnerships.2. The “Imago” Concept: Central to the book is the idea of the "imago," which refers to the unconscious template we develop based on our early relationships. This template influences whom we are attracted to and how we behave in romantic relationships.3. The Stages of Relationships: Hendrix outlines the various stages couples go through:- Romantic Love: Initial infatuation that evolves into deeper connection.- Power Struggle: When differences emerge and conflicts arise.- True Love: Reaching a mature connection where understanding and acceptance flourish.4. Communication Techniques: The book teaches specific communication tools, such as the "Imago Dialogue," to enhance understanding and empathy between partners. This structured communication aims to reduce conflict and promote emotional safety.5. The Role of Intentionality:...
Today, we dive into the essential practice of mastering listening and speaking. In this episode, I'll reveal insights from my clinical practice, sharing transformative techniques that can elevate the quality of your conversations and foster deeper connections with your partner. We'll unravel the art of the dialogue method, laying out simple yet profound steps to ensure both partners feel heard and understood. We'll explore how to stay present, avoid reactivity, and foster a genuine curiosity about each other's perspectives. We'll also touch on the power of attunement and setting the stage for meaningful exchanges.Join me as we examine how to enhance your listening skills and communicate more effectively, turning potential misunderstandings into opportunities for connection. Whether you're looking to improve your relationship or seeking ways to handle challenging conversations, this episode is packed with practical advice that you can implement right away. Let's learn how to create a safe and supportive space for each other, ensuring that your relationship flourishes.Key Topics Discussed:- The dialogue method for effective communication.- Strategies for staying present and avoiding reactivity.- The importance of attunement and validation in listening.- Techniques for setting up a positive and focused communication environment.Timestamps:02:11 Introduction to the dialogue technique and role assignments10:06 Non-reactive listening and creating a safe space for dialogue18:21 Avoiding blame and shameWant to transform your relationship and take it to the next level?Join my online course here.My Socials:Nick Solaczek on InstagramNick Solaczek on YouTubeNick Solaczek on Facebook
This episode is about betrayal. I know, super fun subject, but don't click away!! Betrayal can touch on some of our deepest insecurities. But in my experience, the fear of betrayal can be more painful and damaging than betrayal itself. That's one of the reasons why it's important to face betrayal head-on, and to be honest with yourself about how your history with betrayal may be impacting your current relationships with your partner(s) and yourself. This can be a confusing subject, especially for those of us who are still unpacking that default ‘mono-mindset' (aren't we all?). When we transition from monogamy to non-monogamy our paradigms of safety, trust, and betrayal totally change. This can leave people feeling really lost. But that's what this episode is for ;) In this episode, we walk you through: — The idea of exclusivity in romantic, emotional, and sexual attention as a safeguard against betrayal — Cultural expectations and norms around monogamy and how they influence our perceptions of betrayal — Why making the shift from monogamy to non-monogamy is so challenging when it comes to betrayal — How you can reconceptualize betrayal in the context of non-monogamy — How personal experiences of betrayal shape people's views and approaches to relationships (often without them realizing it) — The impact of betrayal witnessed in childhood, such as watching parents betray each other — How the fear of betrayal can make people close themselves off, and why those emotional walls can hinder the development of deep and meaningful connections — The profound effects of self-betrayal and the importance of self-trust — The importance of clear communication and well-defined boundaries — How to build repair plans into your relationship agreements, and why they're so important — Strategies for managing emotions and relationships after trust has been violated Resources mentioned in this episode: — Listen to examples of the Imago Dialogue conversation technique here Join the global Week of Visibility for Non-monogamy – July 15-21. Visit www.weekofvisibility.com to learn more and get involved! Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.com Get the answers you want to create the open relationship of your dreams! Sign up for an Ask Me Anything here Music: Dance of Felt by Blue Dot Sessions
Want to transform your relationship and take it to the next level? Join my online course.On today's episode of Highly Successful Couples, join host Nick Solaczek as we uncover the pitfalls of text-based conflict and explore the significant impact of eye contact in communication. Learn why texting should be reserved for logistics, and how tone, body language, and the silent power of gazes shape our interactions. Through insightful analysis of how tech can affect our relationships, Nick guides couples on a journey to deeper understanding, stronger connections, and the strategic use of appreciation in daily life. Transform your relationship with key takeaways from Nick and tune in now for a conversation that could revolutionize your love life.Key Topics Discussed:How to avoid fights while texting.The role and perception of eye contact.The importance of vocal tone in conversation.Understanding subtle reactions in relationships.The best methods for positive communication.Timestamps:07:09 Consider your partner's behaviour using compassion and understanding.10:24 Emotional responses are rooted in childhood experiences.14:12 Discovering the best ways to communicate and connect deeper.17:57 Handle relationships with care, communicate and empathize.Our Socials: Nick Solaczek | InstagramNick Solaczek | LinkedInNick Solaczek | FacebookNick Solaczek | YouTube
Processing grief and the Imago Dialogue
Learn how to offer and how to receive help. There are specific steps for healthy and successful communication that need to happen to be able to feel comfortable and safe to receive that help. In this live session recording, you will learn amazing communication tools like the imago dialogue, and the non-violent communication process. You will also learn of the specific steps that can help you give and receive help. If you are planning to give help, you need to make sure that the person is ready. I will share the different kinds of help that I have seen work really well to make positive and healing lifestyle changes. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/emiliojosegarcia/message
Conflict happens. Especially when differentiation and individuation are parts of your personal and relational journeys. And that's a good thing! Enter Imago Dialogue, a communication tool created by Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt. Not only can it transform your communication, using Imago Dialogue can transform conflict into more connection. Whether you're practicing Imago Dialogue with a romantic partner, family member, or friend, the core idea behind it is something a lot of us have talked about before: I want to feel understood. I want you to understand me! We walk through the steps of Imago Dialogue, but we also go deeper and talk about how you can set yourself up for success. We talk about practical tools, like emotional regulation techniques, to use before and after your conversation, and we walk through an entire real-life, real-time example of using Imago Dialogue. Learn more about Dr. Harville Hendrix's and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt's work here: www.HarvilleAndHelen.com JOIN The Year of Opening community for a full year of learning & support. The waitlist is open now at www.theyearofopening.com Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.com Interested in working with Joli directly? Click here to apply for individual coaching.
Today, we'll uncover the complexities of relationships, love, and everything in between. And we've got one impressive expert in the house today! Meet Christina Morelli, and she's not just any guest; she's a relationship coach extraordinaire and a virtuoso in the art of love. She's also a woman on a mission to help others navigate the intricate world of connection. Christina will be our compass this week, shedding light on her passion for preparing others for a committed partnership. And she'll share how to have those crucial conversations before jumping headfirst into something new. And most importantly, what to say when deciding or sliding into a relationship. Christina Morelli is a relationship and personal coach working with individuals and people in partnership to create healthy, rewarding, and fulfilling relationships. Her practice fosters self-awareness and provides the relationship education and skills we were never taught. The mission is to educate the world on increasing relational and emotional intelligence, happiness, and personal healing.Kerry Brett and Christina Morelli discuss their journeys and both of their passions for understanding social psychology and interpersonal relationships. Topics include;· The Lack of Relationship Education: Christina discusses how most people are never formally taught how to have relationships. · The Search for a Better WayChristina emphasizes the desire to find a better way to navigate relationships without experiencing repeated failures. Communication plays key role in building successful relationships.· Valuing Intuition and Non-NegotiablesChristina talks about the importance of valuing intuition in relationships.· The realization of non-negotiables in relationships and avoiding settling for less.· The shift from trying to fit someone into a mold to finding compatible partners.Misconceptions About Communication: Christina discusses the misconception that communication and compromise are the keys to successful relationships.· The importance of self-awareness in communication and compromise.· Comparing relational intelligence to financial or technical intelligence.Dating Yourself and Self-Value: Christina shares the concept of "dating yourself" and why it's important.· How treating yourself well establishes deep and unshakeable self-value.It's the difference between liking someone for who they are and how they make you feel.Being a Partner and Not Just Finding One: Christina emphasizes the need for personal growth and self-awareness before seeking a partner.· The importance of asking, "What kind of partner am I going to be?" rather than just seeking qualities in a partner.· How relationships require two autonomous individuals coming together with agency.The Stages of Relationships: Christina explores the different stages of relationships based on neuroscience.· Biological responses drive the initial lust stage.· The attachment stage with norepinephrine and dopamine.· Transitioning into the oxytocin stage, characterized by deep intimacy and trust.The Blueprint for Successful Relationships: Christina highlights the value of creating a blueprint for a relationship.Why is it important to understand who you want to be as a partner, what you want your partnership to look like, and what you want in a partner?· The flexibility to adapt as priorities and needs change over time.Imago Dialogue for Effective Communication: Christina introduces the Imago dialogue as a structured framework for communication.· The roles of the sender and receiver in resolving conflicts.· How Imago dialogue minimizes emotional conflicts and fosters productive conversations.To find out more about Christina Morelli, go to www.christinamorellicoaching.com.
Relationship conflict is something we often try to avoid or construe as a sign that there is something ‘wrong'. But what if conflict could instead be an invitation & an opportunity for deeper connection, healing and mutual growth? I spent the last 5 days in Strasbourg, France participating in a couples retreat using the “Imago Relationship” method and in this episode I share with you the memorable & useful lessons that will help you to get, build, and keep the love you want. PS: The lessons are applicable if you are single or in a couple!Here's a breakdown of what I share: What is Imago Therapy and an Imago Dialogue? How to use conflict as an opportunity for healing The 3-step formula for a structured conversation (can't believe I'm saying that…) SPOILER ALERT: Here are the 5 lessons shared #1 All we all really want is to be truly seen, heard, understood, and accepted#2 FYI: You're not REALLY listening! (But you need to)#3 It is not the RUPTURE that is important, but the REPAIR#4 Your past will show up in your present until you heal#5 Make time to have FUN!Are we friends on socials yet? If not, come and say hello through the links below! InstagramTikTokYouTubeWebsiteMusic by: Flood (Instrumental) by RYYZN https://soundcloud.com/ryyznCreative Commons — Attribution 3.0 Unported — CC BY 3.0
In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane bring you part 2 of their conversation with Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt.Harville and Helen talk about the history of IMAGO dialogue (now called Safe Conversations) and share their social vision of moving from an individualistic civilization to a relational civilization as the next stage of human social evolution. They explain how they have devoted themselves to taking a therapeutic intervention (IMAGO dialogue) that was historically taught only in a therapeutic setting and bringing it into the culture to teach all human beings how to talk. We do a deep dive into the neuroscience behind the dialogue's efficacy, the 4 tenets of the dialogue and how the structure and safety create the necessary conditions for safe conversations. Want to learn more about our couples workshop?https://helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/
In part one of this special episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane talk with relationship experts Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt about their relationship history, the struggles that almost led to divorce, and how these experiences gave birth to the co-creation of Imago Relationship Therapy and more specifically the Imago Dialogue that they now refer to as Safe Conversations. Driven by a fierce commitment to promoting the transformation of couples, Harville and Helen created a safe and structured way to help couples overcome challenges and learn to communicate and, ultimately, heal.
Is Imago Relationship Theory the best strategy for working with couples? It certainly is transformative! Nelly Venturini is our guest this week, a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and skilled practitioner of the Imago Dialogue, Nelly shares some amazing success stories from using this strategy and many other tricks to help people repair their marriages! Ryan and Julee bring it all together with their thoughts at the very end and sneak in another round of family trivia.Hosted by: Ryan & Julee BarkauskasProduced by: Larisa Southerland----Follow Ryan on Social Media!IG: @Ryanbarkauskas----Follow Therapy with my Mom!IG: @TherapywithmymomFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/therapywithmymomTwitter: @TherapywithmymomEmail us with topic suggestions or stories we can share on the show!Therapywithmymom@gmail.com----Track: November by HydroferricWatch: https://youtu.be/t6Z04fhQcHsFree Download/Stream: https://www.toneden.io/freetousemusic...
I'm sharing more about The Imago Dialogue and sharing an example from my own life where I used this process recently. Learn why this is an incredibly helpful communication mechanism, and how to use this process as you go through your life whenever you feel upset at another person. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.jenriday.com/330
Let's talk about Libido... in particular, how do we overcome libido discrepancy? (i.e.: when one partner wants more sex than the other.) While we are at it, let's take it a step further and throw parenting, life, and a little kink into the mix! In this episode, I'm going to address an insightful question from a follower concerning how to talk to their partner about the tough subject of getting more sex when one partner isn't feeling it. I also take you on a deep dive into a conflict resolution technique called "The Imago Dialogue" (and how it can be used as check-in method for D/s dynamics), how this fits in with creating more responsive desire, as well as teach you how to find what your inner self actually needs from sex. I'll also give actionable steps to reframe what pleasure is, and build a container of safety that will help partners connect on a deeper level, even when sex isn't on the menu! Let's get going! Links for this episode: Video Podcast Version Dr. K's Imago-Inspired D/s Relationship Dialogue Script will be available on Patreon and her Online Center for Sexuality & Kink Education Book: Come as You Are by Dr. Emily Nagowski Book: The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel Van Der Kolk Book: Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships by Stella Harris Book: Becoming Cliterate by Laurie Mintz Book: Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples by Helen LaKelly Hunt (Great info on the Imago Dialogue) Site: The Imago Relationship Official Site Additional Resources: Site: TASHRA (The Alternative Sexualities Health Research Alliance) Site: TASHRA's Research Site: The Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality Dr. K's Official Goodreads page – For the Book Lover Dr. K's Official Website _____________________ Peep my Instagram Twitch with me! LIVE Digital Magazine - Intellectual Intoxication - Dr. K's Gallery Musings & Gallery Dr. K's Kink-Affirming Holistic Coaching Practice Additional Resources: Consent Counts Resources from the NCSF (National Council for Sexual Freedom) About SESTA/FOSTA: Information relating to how the changes in the law have to affect TOS across social media and inadvertently create issues for those in the field of sexual and reproductive health. Reid's Safer Sex Elevator Speech Dr. K's Official Goodreads page – For the Book Lover Psss…. Don't forget to check out The Submissive Next Door Podcast on Apple Podcast/iTunes– subscribe and give us a rating, pretty please! If you like what you hear and see, please consider becoming a Patreon. Patreon members get podcast episodes, exclusive bonus videos, and my personal sex-positive Zine, Intellectual Intoxication. The Zine showcases my provocative photography projects along with topics such as erotica writing, holistic sexuality, liberating art, embodiment, rituals with a witchy-vibe starting at $3 a month. It's you all that keep the podcast going! Thank you! _________________________________________________ Affiliate Links – Feel like shopping? Use these links to get a discount and help support the podcast too! 1st Phorm - Elite Fitness Products for High-Performance Training and Health The Stockroom – BDSM and D/s luxury toys, tools, and gear Le Wand - Luxury Sex Toys with an empowerment mindset! The CowGirl - The Award-Winning Riding Sex Toy Lovense – Luxury High Tech Sex Toys for Love at a Distance SheVibe – Sex Positive Sex Toys for the Adventurous! Social Links Exclusive Content – Discord – Social Links
Why is my inner world so deeply impacted by my partner's words and actions? Why am I so deeply affected? In this episode we explore two very important concepts: Enmeshment vs. Self-Differentiation. When we are enmeshed, we are not able to draw healthy boundaries between ourselves and others. When we are self-differentiated, we are able to maintain sense of self and self-integrity, despite the issues that might be presented by our partners. I also share a few Imago Dialogue techniques for a couple to practice identifying how they show up to their relationships, namely as enmeshed or differentiated selves.
Childhood trauma can impact a person's emotional and physical health and personal relationships even when they're an adult, causing issues like addiction and co-dependency. Recently we sat down for an interview with Andrea Ashley on the Adult Child podcast, and today for our very special 200th episode; we're sharing that interview with you right here! We're going deep and sharing the back story from our troubled teen years to what happened that flipped the switch to bring forth our childhood traumas and how that has impacted our marriage. On this episode of Destined to Be, we walk you through the moment that almost shattered our relationship, the work we've done to overcome co-dependency in our marriage, and what we are doing to break the cycle of intergenerational trauma with our own children. Listen in for insight into EMDR therapy, Imago Dialogue, and using breath, sound, and movement to release untreated shadows. Plus, we share some great resources that examine the cause and effect of childhood trauma on adults. Key Takeaways How Jeremiah's childhood trauma led to a pattern of addictive behaviors and a 'never enough' mentality How Mallory's childhood trauma led to her abandonment issues The break with Mallory's family that flipped the switch to shine the light on our individual childhood traumas What happened in June 2021 that almost broke us as a couple The shift that created a perfect storm and a runway for realness in our marriage How childhood traumas express themselves in adulthood How adult child work can help you return to who you were meant to be How to use Imago Dialogue to help each partner feel seen, heard, and validated How to use breath, sound, and movement to release untreated shadows How to break the childhood trauma cycle Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast Destined to Be on Instagram Jeremiah on Instagram Mallory on Instagram Level Up Entourage Facebook Group Text LEVEL UP to 586-600-8492 Resources Adult Child Podcast Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself The Laundry List: The ACoA Experience Adult Children of Alcoholics/Dysfunctional Families Register for Mallory's Fall Level Up Wait List
Ready to learn how to dialogue with more intention with your partner? My wife Samantha and I will be doing this live session together. You will learn the steps to follow and you will watch us do an intentional dialogue live. We will allow time for questions at the end. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/emiliojosegarcia/message
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide
In this episode, we'll discuss an often overlooked skill that is so simple yet has a significant impact on how we negotiate relationships. We'll also talk about some tools and practices that can help us turn our disagreements into meaningful connections with our partners. Dr. Harville Hendricks and Dr. Helen Hunt are co-creators of Imago Relationship Therapy, and a social movement called Safe Conversations. Internationally respected as couple's therapist, educators, speakers, activist, and New York Times bestselling authors. Their 10 books, including the timeless classic Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, have sold more than 4 million copies. Harville appeared on the Oprah Winfrey Show 17 times! Helen has been installed in the Women's Hall of Fame and the Smithsonian Institute. The list goes on and on. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 3:56 What safe conversation is and why it's important in building a healthy relationship. 12:58 How these safe conversations in the Imago Dialogue process help the relational culture. 28:19 Simple practices to remind us to value our partners, that they matter, and that we adore them. 39:13 The structure of the Imago Dialogue process: mirroring, validating, and empathizing. 42:54 What the on-duty, off-duty days are and how Helen and Harville use this method to make sure that they are connected when they go to bed. Mentioned Imago Relationship Therapy Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples Helen LaKelly Hunt - National Women's Hall of Fame Meet a Philanthropist - A Conversation With Helen LaKelly Hunt | National Museum of American History The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-regulation (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology) Still Face Experiment: Dr. Edward Tronick Doing Imago Relationship Therapy in the Space-Between: A Clinician's Guide Connect with Harville and Helen Websites: Harville and Helen and Safe Conversations Facebook: facebook.com/harvilleandhelen Twitter: twitter.com/HarvilleHelen YouTube: Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt Instagram: instagram.com/harvilleandhelen/ Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
Today we have an AASECT certified sex therapist on the show! Diana Sadat is the founder and clinical director at Allura Sex Therapy Centre, a group practice in Vancouver that specializes and exclusively works with sexuality and couples issues. Diana shares her journey to becoming a sex therapist and owning a group practice.She is here to talk about sexual desire and how she addresses it in her practice. Diana is throwing away the DSM terms and sharing with us basic steps to the sex life we deserve. She is sharing practical tips and communication tools to help us understand the relational component to tackle desire discrepancies.The Podcast tool kithttp://imagoworks.com/the-imago-dialogue/receiver-flowchart/https://mojoupgrade.com/https://www.aasect.org/ Guest info-Diana SadatEmail: diana@dianasadat.comInstagram: @dianasadattherapy Website: https://dianasadat.com/Group practice Website: https://alluracentre.com/sex-therapy Podcast Host info-Janice LeonardEmail: hersexualspace@gmail.comInstagram: @hersexualspacepodcastWebsite: www.hersexualspace.com Her Sexual Space is an independent podcast created and hosted by Janice Leonard. Produced by Vibez Productionz.
In honor of Valentine's Day, I wanted to share a special episode with you where I get real about the hardest lessons I've learned when it comes to romance, kids and working through challenging changes like a global pandemic. I discuss things like setting and maintaining BOUNDARIES, how to stop being OVERLY CRITICAL, neutralizing your EXPECTATIONS and balancing your FEMININE and MASCULINE energy. I believe it's possible to find space for romance with little kids even in the middle of a major event like COVID-19. However, I can't promise it will be easy or that there is ONE quick fix. If there is anything I've learned after being with my partner for almost 9 years, it all boils down to being open to giving and receiving UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. To some this might sound cheesy, yet hear me out. I am not saying that there won't be moments where you feel everything but unconditional love for your partner. What I'm talking about is the INTENTION you have for your relationship. The intention stems from your MINDSET and it shapes your BELIEFS, VALUES, BEHAVIORS and ultimately what you SEE show up in your relationship. In short, I have learned to take 100% ACCOUNTABILITY for what I experience in my relationship. This is the REAL work. It is easier to blame the other person or highlight all their shortcomings, it is another thing to recognize your part. When both people are committed to unconditional love, it becomes a journey of finding a way to appropriately express and ask for what you desire (in the right tone and time) which requires a healthy balance of giving and receiving. Tune in to hear more about my intentions when it comes to my relationship (including my fave mantra) and how my husband and I have been growing through this wonderful (and challenging) journey of parenting as partners. I hope this offers you new perspective as it pertains to your own relationships as well as ideas on steps you can take to create more romance despite any of the chaos going on around you. Resources you may find supportive on your relationship journey: Imago Dialogue by Dr. Harville and Helen Hendrix - read 3 Keys to Getting the Love You Want on my blog Goddess Ishtar - Goddess of boundaries "Love yourself enough to say no to others' demands on your time and energy." Brené Brown with Drs. John and Julie Gottman on What Makes Love Last Good Boundaries Free You - Ted X Talk by Sarri Gilman The SARAH curve / change model ****Disclaimer:This is not advice that will fit everyone's situation. If you are experiencing an abusive relationship, please seek professional help. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/laura-kyttanen/support
Good communication is the key to a healthy relationship. Another big predictor of a good relationship is how couples fight. In this episode, Adee and Michael are talking about the Imago Dialogue, a powerful communication tool designed to help any two people move out of conflict and back to a place of mutual acceptance. What you’ll learn:05:30 - The Imago process16:00 - How to use the Imago Dialogue Books mentioned:Getting The Love You Want - H. Hendrix We would love to hear from you! If you have a question you want us to answer on the podcast, let us know by leaving a voicemail at workingagainstgravity.com/podcast. And don’t forget to follow @workingagainstgravity on Instagram. Want to be the first to know when new episodes are released? Click here to subscribe in iTunes! (https://apple.co/2Y4Qn7h) Spotify (https://spoti.fi/3gU2Tz4) Stitcher (https://bit.ly/3eQR0Ir) Also, podcast reviews are pretty darn important to iTunes (and other platforms). The more reviews we receive, the more likely we’ll be to get this podcast and message in front of more people (something about iTunes algorithms?). We’d be extremely grateful if you left a review letting us know your favorite part of this episode!
Kaitlyn & Heather continue the discussion with sharing their top relationship tips along with a communication tool for couples called, Imago Dialogue. Verse: Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things and endures all things. -1 Corinthians 13:4-7 Check it Out: https://peermag.org/articles/not-going-to-throw-away-my-shot-a-review-of-hamilton/
THE INTERVIEW Lacy Phillips is a pioneer. She’s someone who K + L have grown with over the years, and who has undergone a lot of growth herself. She’s always so excited about what she’s working on next within herself, and as a teacher, it’s so refreshing to see someone who is also doing the work. We go deep into things like shadow work, lack mentality, subconscious reprogramming with yourself and in relationships, building your trust muscle, and her business, To Be Magnetic. We also talk about: Running from uncomfortable emotions Attachment styles Flower essences Examples of how to use the Imago Dialogue technique When your partner is resistant to reprogramming work Recurring dreams Christian science Find more to love at almost30.com! Resources: tobemagnetic.com Instagram: @tobemagnetic Listen: Expanded with Lacy Phillips “Getting the Love You Want” Imago Technique Dr. Joe Dispenza: “Becoming Supernatural” Almost 30 Podcast Accelerator Check out our new merch collection at shopalmost30.com Check out the upcoming workshops in our New Paradigm digital series at almost30.com/new-paradigm Sponsors: Laird Superfoods | Use code ALMOST30 at lairdsuperfood.com to score 15% off BetterHelp | Visit betterhelp.com/almost30 for 15% off your first month. As a BetterHelp affiliate, we may receive compensation from BetterHelp if you purchase products or services through the links provided. Public Goods | Get $15 off your first order by visiting publicgoods.com/almost30 Lola | For 30% off your first month’s subscription, visit mylola.com and enter ALMOST2020 when you subscribe! Almost 30 is edited by Crate Media
This week I have Dr. Bob Beare on the podcast to help listeners understand how to build a healthy relationship with their partner. Dr. Beare was our couples coach when Max and I lived back in Austin, and helped us build a strong relationship through by a specific model, the Imago Dialogue. Listen to this episode to learn some new tools to help heal your relationship.
Have you ever experienced people in your retrospective talking past—or over—each other? In this episode we’ll tackle that with Karen Gimnick. http://thisisretrospectivefacilitation.com/e20
It’s therapy month on the Divorce Survival Guide podcast! ICYMI: I’ve decided to organize podcast episodes into monthly themes, and right now, we’re in the middle of Therapy Month! Joining me to discuss all things Imago Therapy for couples is Dr. Sarah Schewitz. Dr. Sarah Schewitz is a licensed psychologist specializing in love and relationships and is the founder of the successful online psychology practice, Couples Learn. Imago therapy is a specific style of relationship therapy designed to help conflict within relationships become opportunities for healing and growth. My ex-husband and I were in Imago therapy before our divorce, and well, it didn’t save our marriage. But what it did do was provide us with a way to communicate compassionately and lovingly during our divorce. Imago therapy opens compassion wells, and it allows for a deeper level of communication. Sarah is an expert on the subject. In addition to discussing Imago, we also chat about why therapy (individual or couples) is so vital for your healing. Sarah puts it perfectly when she says, “Most of us are just unconsciously reacting to circumstances that are triggering our past childhood wounds without realizing it. If you can gain that awareness, you can then choose, ‘Do I want to react this way or not?’ And that’s healing.” Show Highlights How remote couples therapy works (4:28) Misconceptions around childhood trauma and how they impact current relationships (6:59) The definition of trauma and conflict trauma (9:11) How Sarah addresses the panic-stricken husband who didn’t realize things were ‘that bad’ (14:15) Imago therapy and Imago dialogue: what it is and how couples can use it for a more profound level communication (16:58) More on the Imago dialogue and why the respect for your partner’s availability is so important (22:00) Sarah shares how she approaches therapy with someone who has been in an abusive relationship after abusive relationship (25:12) How to elicit a conversation about childhood wounds using Imago Dialogue, with a real-world example (51:26) “Whether the relationship stays together or not, investing in yourself is never a loss.” Dr. Sarah Schewitz Learn More About Dr. Sarah Schewitz: Dr. Sarah Schewitz (pronounced Shevitz like Manischewitz wine) is a licensed psychologist specializing in love & relationships and is the founder of the successful online psychology practice, Couples Learn. She has been working with couples and individuals to improve their love lives for over 10 years now. In 2019, Sarah was named one of Datezie’s most influential dating experts and one of the top 3 marriage counselors in Los Angeles. Sarah has been featured in articles for outlets such as Readers Digest, Playboy, Bravo TV, AskMen, Self, and more. Dr. Sarah’s private practice is relatively unique in that she is one of the only doctoral-level couples therapists whose practice is 100% online. Resources & Links: Dr. Sarah’s website Dr. Sarah on Instagram Dr. Sarah on Facebook Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, Harville Hendrix Ph.D Getting the Love You Want Workshops The Ultimate Divorce Survival Guide Should I Stay or Should I Go Facebook Group
Cathy and Todd discuss Imago Dialogue as introduced by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt's book titled Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples and why it could help your relationships.
Cathy and Todd discuss Imago Dialogue as introduced by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt's book titled Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples and why it could help your relationships.
Cathy and Todd discuss Imago Dialogue as introduced by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt's book titled Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples and why it could help your relationships.
Chronic Illness and Sex My guest is here to talk about chronic illness and how it relates to sex. Originally, there wasn't a lot of information or resources on the subject, so to fulfill this pressing need, Dr. Lee Phillips made it a point to devote his time towards researching and alleviating some of the sexuality stressors of chronic illness. Lee has worked for more than 12 years as a psychotherapist; he is a licensed social worker, an educator, a sex therapist, and a prolific researcher in the sexuality realm. He brings a lot of experience and wisdom to this episode. Check it out! The Inspiration for his Book on Chronic Pain Lee says that he started a chronic pain management group through his work as a geriatric psychotherapist in Williamsburg, Virginia. This would lead to the inspiration for his subsequent work in understanding and mitigating the detrimental sexual effects of chronic illness. Shortly after, he was approached by a colleague and persuaded to get into sex therapy because of the impacts of chronic pain on sex and relationships. He knew he could do some good work in that facet of therapy. He also says that he was inspired to take his own research further because there wasn't a lot of information out there on the topic of chronic illness and pain, and how it relates to sexuality. The Various Emotions That Can Accompany Chronic Illness in a Relationship Lee says that some couples go through ‘crisis mode' whenever a partner is diagnosed, but overall the emotions and dynamics vary from person to person. He says that it's typically a dynamic consisting of one ‘ill' partner and the other healthy. Occasionally relationships can “open up” as the ill partner doesn't feel adequate enough to pleasure their partner. But even more frequently, the healthy partner teams up and doesn't act adversarial towards the illness, but instead looks for a way to manage it together. And sometimes there's actually relief after diagnosis because it brings context to an otherwise mysterious ailment that hadn't been understood. The Mental Aspects of Chronic Illness Lee says that the physical symptoms can be extreme for chronic illness, but they can also lead to severe mental health difficulties that should not be overlooked. A big part of his job is to try and alleviate the mental turmoil that can arise in dealing with an illness. When considering getting back into as healthy of a sex life as possible, he likes to take into account their sexual history and see what can be done about getting back to the same level of frequency and intimacy. This can be a good boost for overall mental health in a patient. Imago Dialogue for More Reconnection Between Partners He says he uses Imago dialogue therapy for his couples. One of the core principles of Imago is that we unconsciously pick partners based on the qualities of our caretakers through life. So, if there's a lot of isolation, anger, fighting, or depression within a chronic illness relationship dynamic, he will use the Imago model as exercises to break through some of those issues. He says there is a sender and there is a receiver within this model. The basis of the practice is to have couples actively listen and repeat what is sent from the sender back to them. This builds the necessary rapport and reassures both partners that what they're saying is being internalized and understood. The Importance of Seeing a Sex Therapist Lee encourages couples to see a sex therapist and make active strides for sexual reconnection. In addition, a sex therapist can help a couple figure out alternatives to the traditional way they've had sex. Because, after all, sex is so much more than just penetrative sex. There's a whole spectrum, and a sex therapist can help illuminate this crucial aspect of sexuality to those suffering from chronic pain. Key Links for Dr. Lee Dr. Lee's Website: https://www.drleephillips.com/ His blog: https://www.drleephillips.com/drleephillips Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drleephillips/ Facebook profile: https://www.facebook.com/drleephillips Affiliate link for The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability More info: Link to the free guide – Talking About Sex: http://bettersexpodcast.com/talk Join my email list here: http://bettersexpodcast.com/list Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.com Web – https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/ Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/ If you're enjoying the podcast and want to be a part of making sure it continues in the future, consider being a patron. With a small monthly pledge, you can support the costs of putting this show together. For as little as $2 per month, you can get advance access to each episode. For just a bit more, you will receive an advance copy of a chapter of my new book. And for $10 per month, you get all that plus an invitation to an online Q&A chat with me once a quarter. Learn more at https://www.patreon.com/bettersexpodcast Better Sex with Jessa Zimmerman https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/More info and resources: How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: How to make sex easy and fun for both of you: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast
Chronic Illness and Sex My guest is here to talk about chronic illness and how it relates to sex. Originally, there wasn’t a lot of information or resources on the subject, so to fulfill this pressing need, Dr. Lee Phillips made it a point to devote his time towards researching and alleviating some of the sexuality stressors of chronic illness. Lee has worked for more than 12 years as a psychotherapist; he is a licensed social worker, an educator, a sex therapist, and a prolific researcher in the sexuality realm. He brings a lot of experience and wisdom to this episode. Check it out! The Inspiration for his Book on Chronic Pain Lee says that he started a chronic pain management group through his work as a geriatric psychotherapist in Williamsburg, Virginia. This would lead to the inspiration for his subsequent work in understanding and mitigating the detrimental sexual effects of chronic illness. Shortly after, he was approached by a colleague and persuaded to get into sex therapy because of the impacts of chronic pain on sex and relationships. He knew he could do some good work in that facet of therapy. He also says that he was inspired to take his own research further because there wasn’t a lot of information out there on the topic of chronic illness and pain, and how it relates to sexuality. The Various Emotions That Can Accompany Chronic Illness in a Relationship Lee says that some couples go through ‘crisis mode’ whenever a partner is diagnosed, but overall the emotions and dynamics vary from person to person. He says that it’s typically a dynamic consisting of one ‘ill’ partner and the other healthy. Occasionally relationships can “open up” as the ill partner doesn’t feel adequate enough to pleasure their partner. But even more frequently, the healthy partner teams up and doesn’t act adversarial towards the illness, but instead looks for a way to manage it together. And sometimes there’s actually relief after diagnosis because it brings context to an otherwise mysterious ailment that hadn’t been understood. The Mental Aspects of Chronic Illness Lee says that the physical symptoms can be extreme for chronic illness, but they can also lead to severe mental health difficulties that should not be overlooked. A big part of his job is to try and alleviate the mental turmoil that can arise in dealing with an illness. When considering getting back into as healthy of a sex life as possible, he likes to take into account their sexual history and see what can be done about getting back to the same level of frequency and intimacy. This can be a good boost for overall mental health in a patient. Imago Dialogue for More Reconnection Between Partners He says he uses Imago dialogue therapy for his couples. One of the core principles of Imago is that we unconsciously pick partners based on the qualities of our caretakers through life. So, if there’s a lot of isolation, anger, fighting, or depression within a chronic illness relationship dynamic, he will use the Imago model as exercises to break through some of those issues. He says there is a sender and there is a receiver within this model. The basis of the practice is to have couples actively listen and repeat what is sent from the sender back to them. This builds the necessary rapport and reassures both partners that what they’re saying is being internalized and understood. The Importance of Seeing a Sex Therapist Lee encourages couples to see a sex therapist and make active strides for sexual reconnection. In addition, a sex therapist can help a couple figure out alternatives to the traditional way they’ve had sex. Because, after all, sex is so much more than just penetrative sex. There’s a whole spectrum, and a sex therapist can help illuminate this crucial aspect of sexuality to those suffering from chronic pain. Key Links for Dr. Lee Dr. Lee’s Website: https://www.drleephillips.com/ His blog: https://www.drleephillips.com/drleephillips Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drleephillips/ Facebook profile: https://www.facebook.com/drleephillips Affiliate link for The Ultimate Guide to Sex and DisabilityMore info:Link to the free guide – Talking About Sex: http://bettersexpodcast.com/talkJoin my email list here: http://bettersexpodcast.com/listBook and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comWeb – https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/If you’re enjoying the podcast and want to be a part of making sure it continues in the future, consider being a patron. With a small monthly pledge, you can support the costs of putting this show together. For as little as $2 per month, you can get advance access to each episode. For just a bit more, you will receive an advance copy of a chapter of my new book. And for $10 per month, you get all that plus an invitation to an online Q&A chat with me once a quarter. Learn more at https://www.patreon.com/bettersexpodcastBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/
Chronic Illness and Sex My guest is here to talk about chronic illness and how it relates to sex. Originally, there wasn’t a lot of information or resources on the subject, so to fulfill this pressing need, Dr. Lee Phillips made it a point to devote his time towards researching and alleviating some of the sexuality stressors of chronic illness. Lee has worked for more than 12 years as a psychotherapist; he is a licensed social worker, an educator, a sex therapist, and a prolific researcher in the sexuality realm. He brings a lot of experience and wisdom to this episode. Check it out! The Inspiration for his Book on Chronic Pain Lee says that he started a chronic pain management group through his work as a geriatric psychotherapist in Williamsburg, Virginia. This would lead to the inspiration for his subsequent work in understanding and mitigating the detrimental sexual effects of chronic illness. Shortly after, he was approached by a colleague and persuaded to get into sex therapy because of the impacts of chronic pain on sex and relationships. He knew he could do some good work in that facet of therapy. He also says that he was inspired to take his own research further because there wasn’t a lot of information out there on the topic of chronic illness and pain, and how it relates to sexuality. The Various Emotions That Can Accompany Chronic Illness in a Relationship Lee says that some couples go through ‘crisis mode’ whenever a partner is diagnosed, but overall the emotions and dynamics vary from person to person. He says that it’s typically a dynamic consisting of one ‘ill’ partner and the other healthy. Occasionally relationships can “open up” as the ill partner doesn’t feel adequate enough to pleasure their partner. But even more frequently, the healthy partner teams up and doesn’t act adversarial towards the illness, but instead looks for a way to manage it together. And sometimes there’s actually relief after diagnosis because it brings context to an otherwise mysterious ailment that hadn’t been understood. The Mental Aspects of Chronic Illness Lee says that the physical symptoms can be extreme for chronic illness, but they can also lead to severe mental health difficulties that should not be overlooked. A big part of his job is to try and alleviate the mental turmoil that can arise in dealing with an illness. When considering getting back into as healthy of a sex life as possible, he likes to take into account their sexual history and see what can be done about getting back to the same level of frequency and intimacy. This can be a good boost for overall mental health in a patient. Imago Dialogue for More Reconnection Between Partners He says he uses Imago dialogue therapy for his couples. One of the core principles of Imago is that we unconsciously pick partners based on the qualities of our caretakers through life. So, if there’s a lot of isolation, anger, fighting, or depression within a chronic illness relationship dynamic, he will use the Imago model as exercises to break through some of those issues. He says there is a sender and there is a receiver within this model. The basis of the practice is to have couples actively listen and repeat what is sent from the sender back to them. This builds the necessary rapport and reassures both partners that what they’re saying is being internalized and understood. The Importance of Seeing a Sex Therapist Lee encourages couples to see a sex therapist and make active strides for sexual reconnection. In addition, a sex therapist can help a couple figure out alternatives to the traditional way they’ve had sex. Because, after all, sex is so much more than just penetrative sex. There’s a whole spectrum, and a sex therapist can help illuminate this crucial aspect of sexuality to those suffering from chronic pain. Key Links for Dr. Lee Dr. Lee’s Website: https://www.drleephillips.com/ His blog: https://www.drleephillips.com/drleephillips Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drleephillips/ Facebook profile: https://www.facebook.com/drleephillips Affiliate link for The Ultimate Guide to Sex and DisabilityMore info:Link to the free guide – Talking About Sex: http://bettersexpodcast.com/talkJoin my email list here: http://bettersexpodcast.com/listBook and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comWeb – https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/If you’re enjoying the podcast and want to be a part of making sure it continues in the future, consider being a patron. With a small monthly pledge, you can support the costs of putting this show together. For as little as $2 per month, you can get advance access to each episode. For just a bit more, you will receive an advance copy of a chapter of my new book. And for $10 per month, you get all that plus an invitation to an online Q&A chat with me once a quarter. Learn more at https://www.patreon.com/bettersexpodcastBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/
Chronic Illness and Sex My guest is here to talk about chronic illness and how it relates to sex. Originally, there wasn’t a lot of information or resources on the subject, so to fulfill this pressing need, Dr. Lee Phillips made it a point to devote his time towards researching and alleviating some of the sexuality stressors of chronic illness. Lee has worked for more than 12 years as a psychotherapist; he is a licensed social worker, an educator, a sex therapist, and a prolific researcher in the sexuality realm. He brings a lot of experience and wisdom to this episode. Check it out! The Inspiration for his Book on Chronic Pain Lee says that he started a chronic pain management group through his work as a geriatric psychotherapist in Williamsburg, Virginia. This would lead to the inspiration for his subsequent work in understanding and mitigating the detrimental sexual effects of chronic illness. Shortly after, he was approached by a colleague and persuaded to get into sex therapy because of the impacts of chronic pain on sex and relationships. He knew he could do some good work in that facet of therapy. He also says that he was inspired to take his own research further because there wasn’t a lot of information out there on the topic of chronic illness and pain, and how it relates to sexuality. The Various Emotions That Can Accompany Chronic Illness in a Relationship Lee says that some couples go through ‘crisis mode’ whenever a partner is diagnosed, but overall the emotions and dynamics vary from person to person. He says that it’s typically a dynamic consisting of one ‘ill’ partner and the other healthy. Occasionally relationships can “open up” as the ill partner doesn’t feel adequate enough to pleasure their partner. But even more frequently, the healthy partner teams up and doesn’t act adversarial towards the illness, but instead looks for a way to manage it together. And sometimes there’s actually relief after diagnosis because it brings context to an otherwise mysterious ailment that hadn’t been understood. The Mental Aspects of Chronic Illness Lee says that the physical symptoms can be extreme for chronic illness, but they can also lead to severe mental health difficulties that should not be overlooked. A big part of his job is to try and alleviate the mental turmoil that can arise in dealing with an illness. When considering getting back into as healthy of a sex life as possible, he likes to take into account their sexual history and see what can be done about getting back to the same level of frequency and intimacy. This can be a good boost for overall mental health in a patient. Imago Dialogue for More Reconnection Between Partners He says he uses Imago dialogue therapy for his couples. One of the core principles of Imago is that we unconsciously pick partners based on the qualities of our caretakers through life. So, if there’s a lot of isolation, anger, fighting, or depression within a chronic illness relationship dynamic, he will use the Imago model as exercises to break through some of those issues. He says there is a sender and there is a receiver within this model. The basis of the practice is to have couples actively listen and repeat what is sent from the sender back to them. This builds the necessary rapport and reassures both partners that what they’re saying is being internalized and understood. The Importance of Seeing a Sex Therapist Lee encourages couples to see a sex therapist and make active strides for sexual reconnection. In addition, a sex therapist can help a couple figure out alternatives to the traditional way they’ve had sex. Because, after all, sex is so much more than just penetrative sex. There’s a whole spectrum, and a sex therapist can help illuminate this crucial aspect of sexuality to those suffering from chronic pain. Key Links for Dr. Lee Dr. Lee’s Website: https://www.drleephillips.com/ His blog: https://www.drleephillips.com/drleephillips Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drleephillips/ Facebook profile: https://www.facebook.com/drleephillips Affiliate link for The Ultimate Guide to Sex and DisabilityMore info:Link to the free guide – Talking About Sex: http://bettersexpodcast.com/talkJoin my email list here: http://bettersexpodcast.com/listBook and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comWeb – https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/If you’re enjoying the podcast and want to be a part of making sure it continues in the future, consider being a patron. With a small monthly pledge, you can support the costs of putting this show together. For as little as $2 per month, you can get advance access to each episode. For just a bit more, you will receive an advance copy of a chapter of my new book. And for $10 per month, you get all that plus an invitation to an online Q&A chat with me once a quarter. Learn more at https://www.patreon.com/bettersexpodcastBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/
Most couples don’t have hundreds of arguments, they have the same argument hundreds of times. It’s not always about trying to fix something that’s broken…maybe it’s about starting over and creating something different. –Unknown Good communication is not the cause of a good marriage, it is the result of having a strong emotional connection. When you both care enough to slow down and take the time to go a little deeper to see the heart of the issue, it makes all the difference. We can get through almost anything if we make the decision to fight fair ...even in the face of even the gravest of relationship issues. Imago Dialogue Steps http://www.integralpsychology.org/uploads/1/5/3/0/15300482/the_imago_dialogue_101.pdf (Credit: Integral Psychology) Sender Flow Chart https://www.pinterest.com/pin/27303141464142165 (Credit: Pinterest) Receiver Flow Chart https://www.pinterest.com/pin/27303141464142187 (Credit: Pinterest) If you enjoyed this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and review us on Apple Podcasts (iTunes) or whatever podcast platform you listen on. Thank you for joining us on the THIS MARRIAGE THING journey. Until next time Peace and Love!!!
Dr. Agatha Bis has over 22 years of clinical experience, blending advanced nutrition and supplementation alongside modern dental practices to optimize health outcomes. Over the last 20 years, Dr. Bis has focused on working with complex patients who have responded poorly to conventional medical and dental treatments by seeking the root causes of their illness and guiding them on a path towards healing. Her integrative approach emphasizes the importance of listening to patients, focusing on the root causes and epidemiology of diseases, respecting biochemical individuality, and partnering with patients to make meaningful changes in their health habits. Dr. Agatha shares great advice and information about maintaining optimal oral health. She also explains how to read the signs your gums, mouth, teeth and even your breathing, are giving you about your overall health, since there are many diseases and health conditions that can be early diagnosed through an oral examination. Listen to this episode for a better understanding of the holistic dentistry approach and its advantages over traditional dental interventions. Key Takeaways: [3:44] Dr. Agatha’s journey into dentistry. [5:14] How oral health influences overall body health? [7:44] There are warning signs that can be seen in the mouth before they manifest in other parts of the body. [8:23] Dr. Agatha’s in-clinic unique approach. [9:16] Seven screenings: checks your overall health. [10:20] There is a change in belief for people who tend towards a more holistic approach. [11:34] Proper mercury amalgam removal. [11:55] Supplementation is key to detoxify. [13:00] The SMART method for removing mercury from teeth. [13:47] What are people doing today that is negatively affecting their oral health? [15:55] People are much more healthy now than they were before. [17:05] Children are being recommended stainless steel teeth. [18:20] Stainless steel crowns hold infections and bacteria in them. [20:06] Sleep apnea diagnosis and treatment. [22:57] Nose breathing vs mouth breathing. [25:21] Retrain breathing. [26:11] Mouth taping as a tool for retrain breathing [29:12] Steps to take care of your oral health. [30:59] Water Picks for children are great when they operate them correctly. [32:17] Foods that support oral health. [33:01] How many times you should brush your teeth? [33:30] When are kids ready to brush their own teeth? [35:21] Trying things that are new and scary. [37:40] What makes Dr. Agatha rebellious? [38:29] Rapid fire questions. Continue on your wild journey… Join us on our Facebook community www.poppyclinic.com Imago Dialogue Learn more about Dr. Agatha Bis Get in touch with Dr. Agatha Bis Dr Agatha Bis on Youtube
Dr. Rishma Walji is a naturopathic doctor, acupuncturist and PhD, she is dedicated predominantly to women’s health, mostly fertility. Dr. Risha has been working professionally in the naturopathic medicine field for over 15 years. She has tried most treatment plans on herself and worked personally with all sorts of different health care providers from different fields. She has taught at major universities across Ontario, and has also participated in and published scientific research. During this episode, Dr. Rishma and Michelle are diving deep into relationships, couples, families, and how the challenges in communication and different parenting styles can create distance between partners and even break relationships. Listen to this amazing talk among women who care about relationships, love, and true connection and get many tools and interesting information about real couples trying to overcome the daily challenges and stress to strengthen family bonds. Key Takeaways: [2:03] Dr. Rishma career briefing. [5:41] Relationships. [9:58] What helped Dr. Rishma develop her intuition. [12:28] Relationship trends. [14:25] People tend to avoid the “hard” conversations. [15:38] Teaching people how to communicate with each other. [16:28] Building a shared vision board. [18:40] Can moms get in the way of dads bonding with their kids? [21:44] Most women can function as multitaskers while men are usually more linear. [23:43] Difficulties enjoying sex while having a baby. [24:19] Using mindfulness for the bedroom. [26:10] A lot of men connect physically when women tend to connect emotionally. [27:43] Lack of proper resources to educate women about sex. [28:55] Non verbal communication is important. [29.11] Hugging until you relax. [33:22] Talk to your spouse with the same love that you talk to your kids. [34:03] Imago dialogue to help couples communicate effectively. [36:21] How to connect better on a daily basis. [39:31] “What I heard you said is this...did I get it right?” [40:33] Your partner does not have to be everything for you. [43:02] What is on a family vision board? [49:10] Family meetings. [49:59] Practicing gratitude! [51:04] Be present and trust each other. [54:16] Rapid fire questions. Continue on your wild journey… Join us on our Facebook community www.poppyclinic.com Imago Dialogue Learn more about Dr. Rishma Walji About Rishma
This week Stephanie is talking to therapist and relationship coach, Ashley Watson. We're rethinking what it means to be a "good girl" and how we define our enoughness. We also talk love and Ashley shares how putting yourself in an adult timeout might be the key to a successful relationship. Ashley and Stephanie discuss how to prioritize relationships while also not losing sight of your own identity. We share how we navigate disagreements in our relationships [both successfully and not so successfully] and our favorite communication tools. We also reference the Imago Dialogue technique. Connect with Ashley Watson Website Instagram
Today’s guests are none other than Harville Hendrix and Helen Lakelly Hunt, authors of “Getting the Love You Want” - which offers a step-by-step path for you and your partner to attain a more loving, supportive, and satisfying relationship. In this conversation, you’re going to get to hear exactly how their system of conscious relationship works, and come to a deeper understanding of what’s possible in relationship. You’ll also learn about their “Imago Dialogue” - also known as “safe conversations” - which is a process that you can use in your partnership - or in any dialogue, really - to ensure clear communication that actually GETS you somewhere. An essential part of being in relationship is the path that it offers to you to become more fully who you are meant to be in the world. And to do the healing required - both the inner healing as well as what’s only possible in partnership with another person. On today’s show we’re going to cover some essential skills so that you and your partner can create a solid foundation for this healing journey into conscious relationship together. Harville Hendrix, Helen LaKelly Hunt, and I talk about the following: Imago Match - Combine the best traits and the worst traits of your childhood caretakers, and you come up with a list of the qualities that you are most attracted to as an adult. In particular, your unmet needs are calling out to be met by someone who also matches your childhood caretakers’ negative traits. Wouldn’t it be easy if you could just find someone who will naturally meet those needs? Of course! However, that’s not the way that our unconscious mind works - in order for the healing to actually occur, those needs must be met by someone who shares the same difficulty with actually meeting them! It’s a potential recipe for disaster (and why so many relationships don’t work in the end). And - if you’re aware, also a potential recipe for great healing and transformation through your relationship. Couldn’t you just try to hack your way around it, and find someone to meet those needs directly? Isn’t that what’s at work as we’re looking for the “right” partner? We’re looking for someone who fits an ideal list of traits - and usually when we first decide we’ve found a match - ZING - they’re perfect in every way. Nearly all relationships lead to a time when suddenly you see that along with all of those positive qualities come a host of negative traits that were also there all along. So as much as we think that a hack could be possible, there seems to be no way around actually having to create a container for growth and change in your relationship - to handle the inevitable challenges that come with the easeful moments. Is conflict a sign of trouble in a relationship? No - in fact conflict is usually a sign of a place where you and your partner can actually grow. Your partner actually contains a “blueprint” for your own growth and healing. It’s easy to look to your partner to see where you might want them to change and grow...and yet the first place that you should look is within yourself. Helen LaKelly Hunt offers the example of how she might have really wanted to foster Harville’s latent emotional exuberance, she actually learned a lot and facilitated growth in her relationship by learning how to contain her energy. And this created space in her relationship with Harville for him to learn more about being expressive. Why is this all a good idea? Now you are able to develop parts of yourself that were probably not encouraged within you as you were growing up. Harville and Helen even suggest potentially developing the parts of yourself that you are least attracted to in your partner, as a way of pulling yourself up the growth curve and getting in touch with the parts of you that are within you, waiting for their chance to shine in a healthy way. So if conflict is OK - then how do you know whether or not you’re in the wrong relationship? While Helen says that essentially if the attraction is there then ANY relationship could be the material for a lifelong, growth-oriented partnership (that has the power to overcome some big things, like chemical dependency, or infidelity). That being said - if you’re in a situation where your partner literally cannot take responsibility for ANYTHING - i.e. everything is your fault - then that relationship is unlikely to succeed. A suggestion: If you’re in a relationship that you think is in trouble (or even if you’re in a relationship that’s ok, but you want it to grow even more) - go on a couples retreat for a holiday or birthday. In a retreat-like environment even a partner who’s not inclined to do “growth” work might see unhealthy patterns that they’ve been contributing to, or get excited for a vision of what’s possible. Many couples have shown up to these kinds of workshops thinking they were done, only to get a renewed sense of possibility and love for each other. Instead of trying to find the right partner, focus on BEING the right partner. Instead of trying to change your partner, focusing on growing yourself and your own capacities within the relationship. At the same time, it is helpful to energize and appreciate your partner for the things that they do well - to amplify that energy within your relationship. Otherwise too much change can lead to exits popping open for either partner - and having exits closed is an important part of having a safe container in the relationship. Imago Dialogue: This is a three-step process for effectively communicating. First decide who is the “sender” (the person talking) and who is the “receiver” (the person listening). The job of the person talking is to speak in an “I” statement - and to break what they’re trying to communicate down into small, digestible chunks. Mirroring: The first step as a receiver is to Mirror back what you’re hearing from the sender. Try not to paraphrase - use their exact words. And then ask - did I get it? And if the answer is “no” - then give the sender another shot at expressing what they need to express, and repeat this step. If the answer is “yes” then you can ask “Is there any more?” Validation: As the receiver, can you understand where the sender is coming from? Do their conclusions make sense to you given what they are saying about their experience? If not, you can ask questions to clarify. If so, you should say that it DOES make sense. Note that you do not have to AGREE with their view of the world - the point is simply to GET their view of the world. Empathy: As the receiver, can you imagine what it would feel like to be in the sender’s experience? Can you convey that to the sender as well? IS THERE MORE? Always take the time to give the sender the opportunity to really communicate everything that they need to communicate. Then, take turns. Once the sender’s meaning has been fully mirrored, validated, and understood - it is time for the sender to become the receiver and vice versa. Make a commitment to ZERO negativity. What does it take to simply notice all the times that you’re bringing criticism, blame, or judgment into your relationship? And once you notice that, can you shift yourself into a position of seeing yourself as the source of your experience, and taking responsibility for your part in how things are (or facilitating change) rather than pointing the finger, or expecting the other person to do the work? It’s not that you can’t tell the other person how you feel...but simply that you can learn to always communicate respectfully. It’s not what you say but HOW YOU SAY IT. Are you making time for fun? Don’t just rely on happenstance for fun to happen! Schedule fun into your calendars, so that you are guaranteeing that you’ll have good times and be infusing your relationship with positive, fun energy. Appreciation Practice - You could try giving your partner 3 appreciations every night before you go to sleep. How does that shift the quality of your relationship, when it becomes a regular practice? Resources http://www.harvilleandhelen.com http://www.safeconversations.org Getting the Love You Want - on Amazon www.neilsattin.com/imago Visit to download the show guide, or text “PASSION” to 33444 and follow the instructions to download the show guide. If you download the guide within the first week of this episode's airing, you are automatically qualified for a chance to win a free copy of Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt’s groundbreaking book “Getting the Love You Want”. Our Relationship Alive Community on Facebook Amazing intro/outro music graciously provided courtesy of: The Railsplitters - Check them Out!
Effective communication is the foundation of every strong relationship, yet so many of us struggle to truly be heard and understood. Renowned relationship experts and authors Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt return to share their groundbreaking insights on how dialogue can transform the way we connect. Drawing from their latest book, How to Talk with Anyone about Anything: The Practice of Safe Conversations, they break down the power of Imago Dialogue, the role of safety in communication, and why curiosity is the key to bridging differences. From deepening intimacy in romantic relationships to fostering understanding in a divided world, this conversation is packed with powerful tools to help you listen, connect, and create lasting change in the way you relate to others. Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D. are co-creators of Imago Relationship Therapy and a social movement called Safe Conversations. Internationally respected as couple's therapists, educators, speakers, activists, and New York Times bestselling authors, their 10 books, including the timeless classic, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, have sold more than 4 million copies. Harville appeared on the Oprah Winfrey television program 17 times! Helen was installed in the Women's Hall of Fame and the Smithsonian Institute. They have six children and eight grandchildren. —Harville & Helen's Previous Episode: https://markgroves.com/episode/the-couple-who-changed-how-i-relate-lessons-from-the-godparents-of-love/ —Harville & Helen's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/harvilleandhelen/ —Harville & Helen's Website: https://harvilleandhelen.com/ —Harville & Helen's Website | Safe Conversations: https://quantumconnections.com —Harville & Helen's Website | Imago Relationship: https://imagorelationships.org/ —Harville & Helen's Book: How to Talk with Anyone about Anything: https://harvilleandhelen.com/books/how-to-talk-with-anyone-about-anything/ Resources: — Deepen your connections and spark meaningful conversations with the Create The Love card deck — designed to inspire self-reflection, vulnerability, and deeper intimacy in your relationships. https://createthelove.com/getcards —Ready to transform your relationships? Download The Relationship Toolkit for free and learn the 5 essential skills to thrive in love and life! https://go.markgroves.com/relationship-toolkit-podcast —Ready to stop chasing emotionally unavailable people? Download your free guide to break the cycle and call in the relationship you crave: https://go.markgroves.com/unavailable-people-opt-in-podcast —Learn the connection between Attachment Styles, how it affects the Nervous System, AND how you can heal it: .https://go.markgroves.com/nervous-system-opt-in-podcast If you want to dive deeper into Mark's content, search through every episode, find specific topics we've covered, and ask him questions, go to his Dexa page: https://ask.markgroves.com This episode is sponsored by: —Cozy Earth: Use code MARK for 40% off sitewide at http://www.cozyearth.com —IIN: Use code MARKGROVES20 for 20% off ALL courses from IIN & Chopra at http://bit.ly/MARKIIN —Mighty Networks: Go to http://www.markgroves.com/mightynetworks to learn how you can create your own community! Contact us at podcast@markgroves.com for sponsor product support, questions, comments, or just to say hello!
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