Podcasts about make love work

De liefde. Zo'n onderwerp waar je nooit over uitgepraat raakt en waar altijd meer over te leren valt. Jorn gaat in de nieuwste aflevering van The Trueman Show in gesprek met Dwight Gefferie en Mariëtte Ruggenberg, oprichters van het populaire platform en de gelijknamige podcast Make Love Work. Dwight Gefferie is content creator en co-host van de podcast Make Love Work. Mariëtte Ruggenberg is oprichter van De Upstarter, een academy voor coaches en healers, en Make love work. Naar eigen zeggen leert ze volwassenen met beide bedrijven wat ze altijd al wilden leren op school. Met Make Love Work bieden Dwight en Mariëtte een podcast, events, relatiecoaching en een retreat waar je leert over volwassen liefde, relaties en erotiek. In de podcast verkent het duo hoe je liefde en leven volledig kunt ervaren op een manier die bij jou past, met gesprekken die bijdragen aan de groei naar volwassen liefde. Dwight en Mariëtte delen hun persoonlijke ervaringen en inzichten, maar gaan ook in gesprek met experts om luisteraars te helpen navigeren door de complexiteit van moderne relaties. Jorn, Dwight en Mariëtte bespreken de veelbesproken hype trad wives, de grootste lessen in de liefde, de kinderwens (‘Neem juist een kind als je de wereld zo kut vindt', aldus Dwight) en in hoeverre het echt waar is dat tegenpolen elkaar aantrekken. Dwight deelt zijn visie op de stelling dat een man altijd zou moeten kunnen providen voor de vrouw. ‘Ik vind niks sexier als een vrouw ervoor kiest om zich over te geven aan jou. Maar wel vanuit overgave, niet vanuit afhankelijkheid. Ik wil ook niet dat mijn vriendin onvoorwaardelijk van me houdt. Je mag wat van me eisen. Onvoorwaardelijke liefde maakt me corrupt.' Mariëtte vult aan dat het mooi is als een vrouw vanuit onafhankelijkheid kiest voor afhankelijkheid van de man. ‘We hebben eerst een hele masculiene maatschappij gebouwd, die een beetje is doorgeslagen. Toen kwam de feministische beweging en die slaat nu ook weer een beetje door. Maar ik geloof dat dit nodig is om uiteindelijk weer in balans te komen. Zodat man en vrouw weer een team kunnen vormen.'   Wil jij het boek van Mariëtte graag lezen?? Het boek Liefde als Medicijn is te bestellen via: https://https-www-makelovework-nl.myshopify.com/products/liefde-als-medicijn?sca_ref=5840592.ZQSGM2PGph Ga ‘m luisteren! Deze aflevering is ook te zien op het That's The Spirit videoplatform. Laat ons vooral weten wat je van de aflevering vond!   STEUN The Trueman Show   ABONNEER op onze nieuwsbrief   WORD MEMBER van ons platform That's The Spirit   VOLG ons op Instagram Facebook Telegram

If you're in a relationship right now that's challenging, hurtful, complicated or feels more like you're surviving than thriving, then this episode is all about how to make love work.In short how do we make love work at any stage of our lives?So I got really curious about us and realised if we can come through these moments when we're in the thick of it, when we're at our most stressed or stretched or challenged, then we can come through anything, right?So I turned to this fantastic book Make Love Work by Nick Beets who is a clinical psychologist and a family therapist, who has specialized in relationship and sex therapy for over three decades.It's a self help book for people in long term relationships where Nick is really attempting to unravel some of the very complicated things that make sustaining relationships difficult.And he suggests ways that we can work on ourselves to get the kind of love that we really want.So in this episode you'll learn:The 5 Stages of a RelationshipHow to know where you're at in these stagesWhy most of the work needs to be done by youThe most important key to a loving relationshipHow Josh and I are using this book to have breakthroughsThe full episode and transcript is at https://lifepilot.co/18 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Wat zou er in je leven veranderen als je jouw meest vurige verlangens en oerkracht zou toelaten? Wat nu als je de wildeman of wildevrouw weer in je leven verwelkomt?We bespreken in deze aflevering wat het Make Love Work festival met ons heeft gedaan. Hoe onze wildeman en wildevrouw daar vrij mochten bewegen. En waarom deze kant van ons in het verdomhoekje wordt gestopt, terwijl ze de drijvende kracht is voor groei. We verklappen wat er is gebeurd in de tantrische tempel, en waarom dit tot een pittig gesprek tussen ons heeft geleid. En Dwight deelt grote nieuws...

Happy, healthy relationships are scientifically proven to be good for us, but they take a bit of work. Relationships can be wonderful, but they take effort to maintain, especially with the everyday stressors of life thrown into the mix. Clinical psychologist and family therapist Nic Beets has released Make Love Work: A Practical Guide to Relationship Success, a book designed to navigate these problem areas and help relationships thrive. Nic Beets says hard work is the best method to keeping relationships alive and flourishing, a technique that has helped him stay with his long term partner since he was 17. "I am frustrated by a lot of what is still being told to people about love and about relationships, about sex and about how it all works. I still feel like there's a lot of unhelpful information being touted as normal." LISTEN ABOVESee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Stel dat er een politiek incorrecte dag zou zijn... wat voor uitspraken zou je dan doen over mannelijkheid en vrouwelijkheid? We zijn tegenwoordig heel voorzichtig geworden als het aankomt op praten over onze sekse. Ons taalgebruik en handelingen moeten gender-neutraal zijn. Want stel je voor dat je iemand in een hokje duwt. We zijn mensen.. geen mannen en vrouwen. Waardoor we onbewust vast zijn komen te zitten in het hokje neutraal. Daar stappen wij vandaag uit. Want neutraal is prima, maar niet de plek waar je voor eeuwig wil logeren. Daarom nodigen we je uit om een plekje verder te reizen en de polariteit weer op te zoeken. Om je kracht als man of vrouw te voelen. In deze podcast maar ook op het Make Love Work festival. Tickets koop je via: https://guts.events/gpr47e/v1tj6f

Mariëtte Ruggenberg is oprichter van De Upstarter en Make Love Work en heeft net een gigantisch huis gekocht in Amsterdam-Noord. Ze is pas 35 jaar maar heeft al veel dromen waargemaakt; een vrouw met een gigantische manifestatiekracht dus. Alleen haar grootste droom, het hebben van een gezin, is nog geen werkelijkheid geworden. Hoe gaat ze daar mee om? Andries en Thijs bespreken het met Mariëtte in dit open, kwetsbare gesprek. Manifesteren in de liefde, hoe gaat dat in z'n werk? En is het mogelijk om je droomman/vrouw/koning/koningin te manifesteren?

Is there a particular behaviour by your partner that you find intensely and frequently  irritating, frustrating, dismissive or irksome? Do you know how to effectively let your partner how you feel and what change you want to see?  In today's episode we talk about an effective way of  communicating that can enable a behaviour change in your partner. We discuss the  4 step Feedback Wheel structure as suggested by Terrence Real in his book 'The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work'.1.  Describe (as neutrally as a recording video camera) what you saw or heard2. Describe what you made up about this situation (your interpretation of events)3. Let your partner know how you feel about this situation 4. Make a request for a change: what you would like to see happen (your request has to be viable and measurable)If you enjoy our podcast, please leave us a review. For Apple Podcast this is most easily done via your iPhone. If you have an android phone, please leave a review on Amazon, Spotify, iTunes or any  other platform that you are using.Suggestions for a podcast? We'd love to hear from you. Please email us at info@therelationshipmaze.comThe Relationship Maze courses:What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course:  https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2.Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

Make Love Work is de podcast die Dwight en Mariëtte samen maken. Te beluisteren via o.a. https://www.makelovework.nl/podcast

August 7, 2022 | Make Love Work | Chris & Megan Rea by Shepherd's Gate Church

It's amazing how couples can function as two distinct individuals in a relationship. Maintaining your own identity while encouraging your partner's interests and personal goals is gold. On the other hand, individual independence can be toxic too. It can make you feel like you're competing with your spouse, getting into a power struggle, and everything else that comes from these two individual perspectives. In this episode, Terry Real encourages us to consider the consequences of approaching a relationship from a toxic individualism perspective and how critical it is to shift to a relational mindset as he shares some actionable steps from his new book, Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. Terry Real is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, and author. He founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents, along with a professional training program for clinicians to learn his Relational Life Therapy methodology. He is the bestselling author of I Don't Want to Talk About It, How Can I Get Through to You?, and The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 9:18 The inspiration behind the book, Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. 12:42 What is toxic individualism and how does it affect relationships? 20:14 How to make the transition from automatic response to conscious communication? 23:52 How to empower your relationship. 46:00 Key takeaways. Mentioned Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) How Can I Get Through to You? Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Terry Real Websites: terryreal.com — relationallife.com Facebook: facebook.com/TerryRealRLI YouTube: youtube.com/user/TerryRealRLI/feed Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

I will never forget the day I was in my therapist's office sharing about how my anxiety was through the roof.  I was grieving the death of my father, saddened by my mother's cancer diagnosis, and fearful that my husband's business would have to close its doors.  I was the epitome of “down and out” in my life and marriage.My therapist had the ability to show deep compassion but also called me out on my denial when necessary.  She said, “Molly, you need help and I think you should begin with the book Fierce Intimacy by Terry Real."Terry's “say it like it is” attitude, transparency around his own marriage, and tips and tools, have literally saved my marriage and my soul.  After listening to today's episode I believe your relationships will also benefit from his ability to teach about communicating, not from the adaptive child but the wise adult.I'm so grateful that Terry not only said yes to being a guest on the podcast but said yes during a very busy time in his life with his new book, US: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, releasing on June 7th. It was this “yes” that brought forth an interview where we talked about how to be a present life partner and a loving parent.  He opened up about how his abusive childhood could turn into anger and grandiosity, but with deep internal work, it is now intense love and compassion for himself and others. And that he wrote his latest book to help us all remember how we can transform when there is unity and connection in relationships versus separation and disconnection. Terry is an internationally recognized Family Therapist, Speaker, and Author. Terry founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents with a professional training program for clinicians wanting to learn his RLT (Relational Life Therapy). Terry is the best-selling author of I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work, Fierce Intimacy: Standing Up to One Another with Love, and his latest book US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship.His ideas on men's issues and couple's therapy have been celebrated in venues that include Good Morning America, The Today Show, 20/20,  Oprah, and The New York Times. When I look back 10 years ago, sitting in my therapist's office really struggling in my life, I know for sure that today I am a better wife, a less anxious human, and a more compassionate mom thanks to Terry Real. Learn more about Terry RealTerry's booksFind Terry on FacebookLearn more about Molly CarrollGet your free Body Emotion MapFind Molly on Instagram and Facebook 

'Ik weet niet meer welke man ik ben of wil zijn'. Een eerlijke en rauwe aftrap van de podcast door Dwight. 'Zijn de verhalen die ik over mijzelf vertel nog waar of is het een evangelie geworden waarin ik eigenlijk niet meer zou moeten geloven?'. We voelen alle twee welk potentieel er in ons schuilgaat. Maar hoe worden we die volwassen man en vrouw wanneer we geen voorbeeld hebben gehad? En als de gesprekken met vrienden meer vragen opleveren dan antwoorden?  We weten dat in ons onderbewuste de antwoorden liggen. Maar hoe krijgen we toegang tot dit landschap? Tot dit vergeten weten. Volgens Mariëtte kan dit via het gebruik van plant-medicijnen én het werken met vier Jungiaanse Archetypes: de magiër, koning(in), strijder en lover. Je leert wat archetypes zijn. En hoe het herkennen van deze patronen je als een gouden draad leidt naar een krachtbon in jezelf, die je vervolgens bewust kan toelaten of begrenzen. Wil jij op het Make Love Work festival (17, 18 en 19 juni) in deze thema's duiken? Door je in te schrijven via onderstaande link kun je een kaartje winnen. Je hoort binnen 7 dagen of je in de prijzen bent gevallen.https://www.makelovework.nl/inschrijven-tribemail

Onze grootste angst is dat de liefde op een dag schraal aanvoelt. Liefde hoort te stromen. Rijkelijk. Maar dat lijkt niet altijd vanzelfsprekend te gaan. We onderzoeken in deze aflevering de uitdaging in de liefde waar onze generatie voor staat. We bespreken de verschillende fases van intimiteit. Voor welke uitdagingen hedendaagse mannen en vrouwen staan. Wat veel gehoorde 'klachten' zijn en hoe we het vertrouwen in elkaar kunnen herstellen. Hoe we elkaar weer kunnen liefhebben als koning en koningin.En we geven in deze aflevering ook  cadeautjes weg voor het Make Love Work festival op 17, 18 en 19 juni! Make Love Work bestaat namelijk 2 jaar! Schrijf je in via onderstaande link, dan hoor je binnen 14 dagen of je iets hebt gewonnen. https://www.makelovework.nl/inschrijven-tribemail

Terry Real is an internationally recognized Family Therapist, Speaker, and Author. Terry founded the Relational Life Institute (RLI), offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents around the country along with a professional training program for clinicians wanting to learn his RLT (Relational Life Therapy) methodology. A family therapist and teacher for more than twenty-five years, Terry is the best-selling author of I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women (Scribner, 2002), The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work, and his latest book, Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship.terryreal.com/“Women are unhappy in their marriages because they want men to be more related than most men know how to be. And men are unhappy in their marriages because their women seem so unhappy with them.” ~Terry RealMichael Stone is a spiritual author, mentor, shamanic practitioner, radio host, producer, and trauma integration facilitator who co-creates individual and group environments and experiences that support people in transcending the myth of separation, and experiencing deep and profound interconnection with others and all of life. He has been teaching and leading experiential events, classes, teleseminars and workshops on Organizational Development, Embodied Shamanism, Moving Meditation, Mysticism, Personal Growth, and Spiritual Fulfillment for over 40 years.For more information on the Well of Light Global Community, Programs, Radio shows and Services go to www.welloflight.comTo access other great interviews and offerings: www.patreon.com/welloflightYour donations are gratefully received and make it all possible!

Two years into marriage, my friends, Chris and Megan Rea, were done. They went from being high school sweethearts where they said, "We can't keep our hands off each other" to "We're just roommates." This week, we're talking with Chris and Megan all about how to keep your marriage flourishing and out of "roommate mode." If you enjoy this episode with Ken, I'm sure you'll also enjoy: 238: The Top Relationship Mistakes We Make that We Don't Know We're Making (feat. Dave and Ann Wilson) 247: How to Predict Happiness in Marriage and Why Attraction, Chemistry, and Compatibility Aren't Enough (feat. Gary Thomas) Episode Links: Chris and Megan's Website | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe to #WinTodayShow on YouTube. Join the conversation wherever hashtags are welcome using #WinTodayShow.

Terry Real is a nationally recognized family therapist, author, and teacher. He is particularly known for his groundbreaking work on men and male psychology as well as his work on gender and couples; he has been in private practice for over thirty years. Terry has appeared often as the relationship expert for Good Morning America and ABC News. His work has been featured in numerous academic articles as well as media venues such as Oprah, 20/20, The Today Show, CNN, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Psychology Today and many others. In 1997 he published the national bestseller: I Don't Want To Talk About It, the first book ever written on the topic of male depression. That was followed by How Can I Get Through To You? an exploration of the role of patriarchy in relationships and most recently, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work, a practical guide for couples and couples therapists. Terry founded The Relational Life Institute, in Arlington, Massachusetts, dedicated to working with the general population to help women reclaim their voices and men open their hearts. The Institute offers a training program for therapists as well as workshops and trainings throughout the US and Canada.

Terry Real is a family therapist, author, and founder of the Relational Life Institute, which hosts workshops on family and relationships throughout the country. He has written several books, including The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work. With Sounds True, he is the creator of Fierce Intimacy, an audio training in essential communication skills for couples. In this episode of Insights at the Edge, Tami Simon talks to Terry about the inherent challenges of being in relationship and the many approaches to addressing those challenges in couples therapy. Terry discusses how men and women relate to one another in different ways, as well as the steps necessary when couples are badly out of sync. Finally, Terry and Tami speak on the Relational Life approach to therapy and the skills we need to develop in order to take our interpersonal relationships up to “full throttle.”

Dylan James Levitt is an author, a relationship coach and facilitator who is passionate about bridging the gap between the sexes to make love work in the modern world. He's also passionate about transforming the way we do education and one day plans to found his own university combining formal education, and self-education into one integrated curriculum.    Find Dylan! Instagram: http://www.instagram.com@coachdylanjames.com   Find Dr. Tari online: http://www.drtarimack.com Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/drtarimack.  

In this episode, Michael talks with bestselling relationship author, Terry Real about looking at relationships as a practice for “living relationally”. They cover a wide range of topics like the ancestral impact on relationships, setting boundaries, how to develop healthy self-esteem, the impact of trauma on being related, and how to set healthy boundaries. terryreal.com/

Last week Jamie and Guy discussed the 5 Losing Communication Strategies in relationships and today they're talking about the 5 Winning Communication Strategies.  These strategies are taught and referenced from Terry Real's book, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work.  Jamie and Guy explain how the 5 Winning Strategies work to facilitate communication instead of hindering it.  For example, instead of trying to be right or arguing about who is right, it is better to listen with compassion to better understand your partner's feelings or point of view. Another way to improve communication is to request what you need instead of complaining about what you're not getting:( Also, Guy accidentally starts singing a Madonna song and then quickly apologizes

"Nothing is more important in our lives than our relationships", Terry Real, internationally recognized Family Therapist, teaches in his Relational Life Therapy courses. In today's episode Jamie and Guy discuss his 5 Losing Communication Strategies that we are all probably guilty of using at some point in our lives. Control, retaliation, and withdrawal oh my! Join us as Jamie walks us through each of the 5 behaviors as Guy realizes tyranny is never the answer.  We're all guilty, you're not alone. Have a seat on The Davenport and let's reconnect. And be sure to  tune in next week when we continue with our relationship topic and discuss the 5 Winning Communication Strategies :) It's a good one! For more information on Terry Real's book The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work, click here: https://terryreal.com/product-category/books/We hope you enjoyed today's episode - if you did please take a minute to subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts:) Thanks so much!Join us on  Facebook :https://www.facebook.com/thedavenportpodcast/ Follow  us on Instagram:@thedavenportpodcastAbout  Jamie and Guy:Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyattGuy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguySupport the show

In Today's Episode, Jeff and Andre talk about where the Podcast is headed. It's full of some funny phrases around marriage (from "happy wife, happy life, to "that's what she said") followed by a quick check-in (because it's been a while), and some news!Make Love Work: Gift it to someone you love!Order the Love or Work Book!Welcome to the Love or Work Podcast, hosted by Andre Shinabarger (Physician Assistant, Grady Hospital) and Jeff Shinabarger (Social Entrepreneur and Founder of Plywood People). They are asking the question: Is it possible to change the world, stay in love, and raise a healthy family? 100 interviews where Jeff and Andre learn from other working families in the journey of marriage, purpose, and parenting.Website: www.loveorwork.comHomeInstagram: www.instagram.com/loveorworkLove or Work is a project of Plywood People.Plywood is a non-profit in Atlanta leading a community of start-ups doing good. www.plywoodpeople.com

Anna Sterk, LMFT will be the featured interviewee discussing her training and clinical work doing Relational Life Therapy (RLT), which was developed by Terry Real. Terry Real is a therapist, author, and founder of the Relational Life Institute. His book The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work. It has been released again in audio book format Fierce Intimacy: Standing Up to One Another with Love. RLT teaches us how to have healthy relationships with ourselves, our partners, and others. It challenges the patricidal culture that is not relational. Couples learn how their adaptive yet relationally dysfunctional behavior will have to change if they want more intimacy. Concepts such as the Adaptive Child, Wise Adult, Critical Negative Image, and Feedback Wheel. https://annasterk.com/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/xan0/message

Wil jij weten hoe je goed voor jezelf kunt zorgen? Dan heb je de juiste podcast te pakken. Mijn naam is Anouk Schaap en het is mijn missie om jou te informeren, inspireren en activeren om jezelf op nummer 1 te zetten door goed voor jezelf te zorgen. Dat doen we bij jouw op kantoor, via een coachingstraject en het online magazine. In de podcast spreek ik met inspirerende levenskunstenaars hoe zij voor zichzelf zorgen en wat jij daarvan kunt leren. In deze aflevering ga ik in gesprek met Dwight Gefferie. Dwight is content creator bij de Upstarter en is co-host van de Make Love Work podcast. Normaalgesproken stelt hij de vragen, deze keer waren de rollen omgedraaid en mocht Anouk de vragen stellen. Dwight zijn rustgevende energie is aanstekelijk, zijn openheid en kwetsbaarheid maakten het gesprek compleet. Ga lekker zitten en duik mee in de wereld van Dwight. Wil je op de hoogte blijven van Take Care of Your Selfie? Volg ons op Instagram.

Aan het eind van deze podcastaflevering zitten Dwight en Mariëtte beiden met tranen in hun ogen. Tot hun eigen verbazing. Mariëtte interviewt Dwight Gefferie (Content Creator bij De Upstarter en co-host van de Make Love Work podcast). En vraagt wat er door hem heen gaat, sinds hij vorige week op de Dam heeft geprotesteerd, met 5000 anderen, voor 'Black Lives Matter'. Dwight neemt je mee zijn wereld in. En vertelt vanuit een non-polair standpunt hoe hij de blinde vlek voor racisme ervaart. Hij praat niet over goed of fout, over daders of slachtoffers. Hij praat vanuit zijn hart. Zijn verhaal raakt iedereen die zich vrij wil voelen om zichzelf te zijn. Zonder zich te schamen voor je gedachten, gevoelens, voorkeuren of uiterlijk. Ieder die weet hoe het voelt om niet gezien of begrepen te worden. Zijn verhaal begint als jongetje van 10 jaar die zich voor het eerst afvraagt wat het betekent om een donkere man te zijn. Die vraag ontketent een zoektocht naar slavernij, en zijn werkelijke roots. Hij legt uit waarom hij zijn achternaam wil veranderen. En waarom het voor hem voelt alsof hij zijn gehele leven is klaargestoomd voor dit moment.

Achter elke sterke man staat een sterke vrouw zeggen ze, maar geldt dat ook andersom? In deze aflevering spreekt Dwight met Mariëtte Ruggenberg (founder van Make Love Work en De Upstarter) en haar partner Dion Nicolai. Dion en Mariëtte vertellen openhartig over hun relatie. Vanuit de vraag of het huidige monogame relatiemodel nog wel werkt, besloten ze te experimenteren met alternatieve liefdesvormen. Ze bespreken hoe je ermee omgaat als je (een) extra geliefde(n) uitnodigt in je relatie. Welke voor- en nadelen de verschillende modellen in hun ervaring hebben. En welke vorm uiteindelijk het best voor hen blijkt te werken. Ook vertelt Mariëtte in de eerste helft van de podcast wat je doet als je voor je gevoel niet in het traditionele plaatje past. Ze neemt je mee in haar eerste jaren als ondernemer, ze deelt haar fuck-ups en legt uit hoe ze zichzelf financieel, emotioneel en spiritueel vrij heeft gemaakt. En nu de trotse eigenaresse is van twee bedrijven die haar heel gelukkig maken. 

We’re all going through a tough transition right now as we adjust to life at home… with kids… and work… and for many us, other caregivers. Our unique childhoods, unconscious beliefs and clashing approaches can increase the conflict, which can create stress for us, tension in our relationships and confusion for our kids. We’re all on the hunt for answers, but are beginning to realize that the questions are paramount to progress! Today we explore 10 ways we’re working to better understand and respectfully communicate with the other caregivers in our lives so that these tough times can keep us close instead of push us apart. The hard stuff is the good stuff. We laugh, we cry, we lean in… join us! Relevant Links + resources that informed this episode: - Upbringing’s Freedoms Model - Upbringing’s RESIST Approach - Esther Perel - John Gottman - Upbringing’s We Know Our Influence episode - Tina Fey in 30 Rock, Dealbreaker - Ross Greene, Collaborative + Proactive Solutions - Terry Real, author & therapist - The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert by John Gottman - Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship by Stan Tatkin - The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work by Terrence Real - Love Is Never Enough: How Couples Can Overcome Misunderstandings, Resolve Conflicts, and Solve Relationship Problems Through Cognitive Therapy by Aaron T. Beck M.D. - Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman - Raising Humans by Ross Greene - De-Escalate by Douglas E. Noll - Amber Okamura, Upbringing’s Artist - Mary Schroeder, Upbringing’s Letterer - Alex Olavarria, our producer, conductor, editor + husband/brother in law Today’s episode is supported by A Kid’s Book About- a collection of beautifully designed books that kickstart challenging and empowering conversations between kids and their grownups. Visit our website, www.upbringing.co to learn more about us and sign up for our newsletter! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you’re doin’, so get in touch -- we’re better together. Email us: info@upbringing.co Follow Upbringing on: Instagram: @up_bringing Facebook: @jointheupbringing Join us to explore topics such as: parenting, motherhood, discipline, resistance, RIE parenting, feminist parenting, toddlers, tantrums, potty training, mindful parenting, conscious parenting, evidence-based parenting, positive parenting, respectful parenting, simplicity parenting and positive discipline.

Are you in a relationship that is "comfortable" but deep down something doesn't feel right? Do you want to leave your spouse but have been terrified to have the "conversation"? Then this episode is for you. In this episode of Uncomfortable, Debbie chats with Dr. Courtney Paré. Courtney, a licensed naturopathic doctor who went through a divorce in 2018. This made her realize how important relationships are to our wellbeing. She then began incorporating relationship coaching into her work. About Courtney After 6 years in private practice as a naturopathic doctor specializing in mental health and trauma work, Courtney witnessed the incredible power our core beliefs have over our health, happiness, and dreams, and that in shifting our beliefs we can shift our world. She began incorporating relationship coaching into the work with her patients after noticing that at the crux of many people’s struggles was the relationship they had with themselves, an intimate partner, or their family of origin. Courtney empowers motivated individuals to own their worth and desires, and deeply connect with themselves and others through living vulnerably and authentically. I hope you enjoy this very empowering conversation but as always, there is some adult language, so make sure to pop your headphones on! If you enjoyed our intimate conversation then feel free to leave a comment at the bottom of this page or rate us highly over on iTunes! You can catch the video of our conversation click here to head over to our YouTube channel!   Resources Find out more about Courtney and her work over on her website and social media: www.naturalhealthresourcesrichmond.com Instagram: @dr_courtney_pare Facebook: @drcourtneypare Other Resources: The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work by Dr. Terri Neil The Influential Women Podcast by Melanie Tonia-Evans

Do you want to make love work in your life so you have a juicy and fulfilling relationship? Joining us today is Mikki Willis and Nadia Salamanca Willis of http://elevatefamily.us/ to discuss how to make love work!

Do you want to make love work in your life so you have a juicy and fulfilling relationship? Joining us today is Mikki Willis and Nadia Salamanca Willis of http://elevatefamily.us/ to discuss how to make love work!

Terry Real is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker and author. Terry founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals and parents around the country along with a professional training program for clinicians wanting to learn his RLT (Relational Life Therapy) methodology. A family therapist and teacher for more than twenty-five years, Terry is the best-selling author of I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight- talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women and most recently The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work. Terry's work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. His ideas on men's issues and on couples therapy have been celebrated in venues from the Good Morning America, The Today Show and 20/20, to Oprah and The New York Times. A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” as described in The New Rules of Marriage, Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.” Terry knows how to lead couples on a step-by- step journey to greater intimacy — and greater personal fulfillment. His website is www.terryreal.com.

Terry Real is a family therapist, author, and founder of the Relational Life Institute, which hosts workshops on family and relationships throughout the country. He has written several books, including The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work. Terry will be a featured presenter during Sounds True’s upcoming online training summit Psychotherapy 2.0, which will take place September 7–13. In this episode of Insights at the Edge, Tami Simon and Terry talk about the inherent challenges of being in relationship and the many approaches to addressing those challenges in couples therapy. Terry discusses how men and women relate to one another in different ways, as well as the steps necessary when couples are badly out of sync. Finally, Terry and Tami speak on the Relational Life approach to therapy and the skills we need to develop in order to take our interpersonal relationships up to “full throttle.” (67 minutes)

Judging from the emails that I get and the clients that I see, many of you are looking for more information about how to repair a relationship after something big, like infidelity, has happened. How do you repair trust? How do you get your relationship from a place that can feel like total chaos through to the other side - where you have a new sense of possibility and vitality in your connection, and what’s happened is just a distant memory? Today’s guest is Terry Real. You may remember him from episode 4 on Advanced Relationship Jiu-Jitsu - he’s the author of the book The New Rules of Marriage, What You Need to Know to Make Love Work, founder of Relational Life Therapy, and internationally known couples expert and family therapist. Terry Real has also partnered with Esther Perel for trainings on the topic of recovering from Infidelity - which is one reason why I thought he’d be a great guest expert on this topic. So on today’s show, we’re going to revisit the topic of Infidelity (which we also covered in episode 36 with Janis Abrahms Spring), and tackle exactly what steps are involved in how to repair after an affair. A couple housekeeping things I also wanted to mention. For those of you who are listening right when this episode comes out, you should know that Terry and Esther Perel have also teamed up for a new online course, called the Power of Intimacy. The course explores the influence of power dynamics on the passion in a relationship - and how to come back into a healthy, vibrant balance when things are out of whack. The course was designed for primarily for couples therapists, and I know a lot of you listening to the show do with couples and might be interested. I got a sneak peek at the course, and I think there’s a lot of good stuff there for you even if you’re not a therapist and simply interested in advancing your skills in relationship. For more information you can use the link http://www.neilsattin.com/power - and that will take you to their site - and if you do happen to buy their course a portion of the course fee will help support the podcast. If you’re interested in their course and don’t want to necessarily support the podcast, you can just visit http://www.powerofintimacy.com directly. The course enrollment is only open for a few more days (because it includes live calls with Terry and Esther Perel) - so if you’re interested - check it out before they close the doors. One last thing. It’s summer! And I live in Maine - so every year when the temperature soars above 60 it feels like a miracle. I am going to do my best to keep this a weekly show, especially for you loyal listeners - but that might mean getting creative with the content here and there since many of my guests are taking summer breaks - and a little more difficult to track down. However, if I miss a week here and there don’t despair! This podcast isn’t going anywhere. After all, we were recently named one of the top 10 relationship podcasts by Women’s Health Magazine. That couldn’t have happened without you - your help getting the word out and keeping the ideas coming for interesting episodes. And there are definitely some interesting episodes coming! OK - enough from me! I am so excited to have Terry Real back on the show, to share more of his advanced relational wisdom with us. Here’s what we cover: How to define infidelity: Infidelity can be defined as the combination of a transgression or betrayal of some kind, and deceit. No matter whether the transgression is emotional, or physical, it is still occurring in the mind. Infidelity can be everything from a multi year affair, to texting, sexting, recontacting an old flame, or touching hands- and even these relatively mundane actions can become highly charged and erotic. In general, there are three types of affairs: Relational affairs- acting out in reaction to primary relationship issues Personality affairs- acting out of narcism and/or immaturity Existential affairs- primary relationship is healthy and loving, but person feels that life is short and wants to experience more YOU are responsible for what you do on your side of the seesaw. Always remember that you are responsible for the way you choose to act/not act. A difficult or unfulfilling relationship does not justify an affair. Yes, you may be completely right that your relationship needed some shaking up and change, but this does not sanctify hurtful or deceitful behavior. Holding yourself accountable. Boundaries are unique to each couple, and therefore must be defined together (hopefully before a transgression occurs). If you are currently in a relationship, bring this up with your partner with curiosity and compassion, and begin to ask each other about what your implicit and explicit rules about monogamy are: does it include texting? What should be shared and what can remain silent? Etc. One general rule to know if you are engaging in appropriate behavior with others is to imagine that a REASONABLE partner was observing or overhearing you. If they saw or heard what you were doing or saying - would they be upset? If so, treat this as a good wake up call! Distrust and trauma: Being on the receiving end of infidelity is a traumatic experience. The hurt partner’s sense of reality and trust is so deeply assaulted and violated by the actions that they are left feeling as though the ground beneath them is gone. So how does one come back and repair from such a reality shattering experience? The good news is that about 2/3rds of couples survive an infidelity (and the odds are greatly increased if you engage in good therapy). Three phases of repair: Phase 1: The beginning phase is focused on the fresh and raw hurt, and the insecurity that comes after the discovery. It is a time to work on acute issues including grounding and addressing the trauma that the hurt partner may be experiencing. The hurt partner might have acute symptoms such as throwing up, insomnia, nightmares, panic attacks, etc. Seeking support from a therapist to help with stabilizing is a good idea. Phase 2: This second phase is focused on exploring the underlying meaning of the infidelity. The focus shifts away from the specific details of how the infidelity unfolded, and more into an exploratory questioning about motives, lessons, and insights. Phase 3: The final phase occurs once resolution and repair has thoroughly been explored. The couple is now able to begin to re envision their relationship. The goal is not just to have couples survive, but to have the relationship transformed through the crisis.   TRUST is a big word.  Trust is not an on-off switch. Repairing trust and coming to a place of intimacy after a breach of trust is a long process, and unique to each couple. That said, there are some strategies that can help build trust: Reassuring behaviors: Reassuring behaviors are actions that the couple can take together to explicitly address transparency and accountability. This might include going over emails and text messages once a week, or sending photographs of what you are actually doing (are you in that hotel room you said you would be?). These requests must reasonable and moderate, and come from a place of building trust, rather than shaming/blaming or re-punishing the one who breached the trust. Keep some boundaries: partners do not need passwords to each other’s devices - instead, come together to look at your interactions with others and grow from these opportunities to reconnect. Moving towards investigative questions: While a reasonable amount of clarification after an affair/infidelity is appropriate and acceptable, the hurt partner must work to move away from detective questions that only scratch the wound. The growth and repair happens when the couple enters a deeper exploration together. Investigative questions include questions such as “what parts of you got woken up?”, “what did that mean to you?”, etc. Addressing the two aching questions: The hurt partner always has two burning questions: How could you do this to me? How do I know you won’t do it again? These questions begin to be answered in the first phase of repair. In this phase the involved partner must take full responsibility to share and own their actions - to tell the whole truth without ragged disclosures and to make no excuses. They do not necessarily need to have remorse for the affair, but rather for the damage and hurt it has caused their primary partner. Repair then begins when the involved partner is in a place of ownership over what they did and willingness to look deeply inside and ask exploratory questions that will lead to understanding and change. As for question two, it is complicated! You don’t ever really know. Trust is provisional and you may never have that blind trust that you had before, but that does not necessarily mean that you are in a bad or weak relationship, it just means that you are not naive anymore. Trust develops from learning. The bottom line is that there is some risk involved in being in relationship! Love requires vulnerability, and so there is no ultimate protection or promise that can be made to assuage all worries. That said, couples can not only repair from a breach in trust, but gain a whole new dimension of connectedness and commitment. Trust comes from the learning that occurs through difficulty and challenge. You’ll recognize the repair in your gut - that feeling that your partner is not the same one who acted out in the first place. Use the hurt as a catalyst. Without putting a silver lining or a bow around the awful, it is possible to use infidelity as a catalyst for growth, and a chance to look deeply at yourself, your partner, and your relationship! TIP: It is very hard to navigate the rawness and depth of this hurt alone. Get some kind of support! It can be incredibly valuable to have an objective third party help to hold your relationship as it reconfigures itself and to help address all the layers of healing simultaneously so that you, and your partner can not just survive, but thrive. Resources Read Terry’s most recent book The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need To Know To Make Love Work Learn more about Terry’s work and the Relational Life Institute on his website Go to his website to find a couple’s therapist www.neilsattin.com/terry2 Visit to download the show guide, or text “PASSION” to 33444 and follow the instructions to download the show guide to this episode with Terry Real. Our Relationship Alive Community on Facebook Amazing intro/outro music graciously provided courtesy of: The Railsplitters - Check them Out!

Today I’m speaking with a special guest who knows how to lead couples on a step-by-step journey to greater intimacy and greater personal fulfilment. His name is Terry Real and he's an internationally recognized Family Therapist, Speaker, best-selling author and Founder of the Relational Life Institute.  In this interview Terry talks about: how contemporary women have raised the bar in relationships and marriage why men need to rise up instead of women backing down the painful price of compromise  the 5 losing strategies to stop immediately the 5 winning strategies to implement immediately how to break out of the dysfunction patterns with your partner when it's time to go to couples therapy and how to choose the right one 2 reasons why your sex life sucks understanding relationship empowerment and full respect living as the keys to creating an intimate and deeply fulfilling relationship Enjoy!

Attraction and Dating; the quest for the perfect mate. Description: In order to approach dating and marriage with good intentions (from a godly perspective), we have to understand what God intended.

Attraction and Dating; the quest for the perfect mate. Description: In order to approach dating and marriage with good intentions (from a godly perspective), we have to understand what God intended.

My guest today is Terry Real, and we’re going to cover some advanced strategies for thriving in your relationship. Whether it’s how to recover from a grievous wrong, how to keep your relationship healthy, or how an unconventional way to take a relationship from good to great - there’s lots to discover in this conversation! Terry is a nationally recognized family therapist, author, and he has appeared on Good Morning America, Oprah, ABC News, and 20/20. In private practice for over 25 years , his most recent book is The New Rules of Marriage: What you Need to Know to Make Love Work.  He is here to discuss his newest book and tell us practical ways to make our marriages and relationships exceptional. Terry sets the stage by sharing how relationships today are different than they have been historically.  People today have much higher expectations of what their relationship will be in their lives. The problem is that most people haven’t mastered the sophisticated set of skills needed to maintain the kind of relationship that they want. The purpose of his book (and this episode) is to give you the skills that you need. Terry discusses the following details about relationships: The phases of Harmony, Disillusionment, and Acceptance/Repair. What stage are you in now? The cycles are ever-repeating - which should give you hope if you happen to be in a state of disillusionment at the moment. If that’s the case, what would it take to move your relationship towards Repair? Cherishing. While it sounds simple (and is simple in many ways), Terry actually devoted an entire chapter to it in his book. Are you focused on appreciating your partner’s good qualities? How do you let them know? Terry discusses the losing relationship strategies of harshness and self-righteous indignation. “Harshness has no redeeming value of any kind.  There is nothing that harshness accomplishes that loving firmness doesn’t accomplish better.” He refers to his “Winning Strategies,” including shifting from a negative past-focus to a positive future-focus.  He also explains his “Golden Rule.” Terry has a 3-step action plan for a spouse to follow if their partner isn’t ready or willing to change the relationship. Dare to rock the boat. “Listen - this is really important to me!” Once you have their attention, help them WIN. Tell your partner what you need in order to make the situation better. Then, make it worth their while! Give positive feedback. Celebrate steps in the right direction, even if it’s not fully what you want it to be. Put an end to the Cinderella Syndrome! It’s ok to ask for what you want.   We each have a Core Negative Image of our partner - it is how we imagine them to be when they are at their WORST. It is an exaggeration, not even an accurate description of them at their worst - but there are bits of reality in them. Anything that you do that reinforces your partner’s Core Negative Image of you has the potential to create problems in your relationship. Anything you can do that’s the OPPOSITE of that will create enormous growth in your relationship. Because we get together with our “unfinished business” - our relationships have enormous Healing Potential. The gift of our relationships is what we do, how we heal, when we encounter these problems that are echoes of the past and resolve them. If you have a strong relationship, you can use the Dead Stop. In a dead stop, if you see your partner starting to act like your Core Negative Image of them, you let them know (using a keyword, such as “pineapple” is helpful) - and they stop everything, and without being defensive, apologize! Acknowledge what they’re seeing. And use it as an opportunity to release your need to be right, and instead to build connection with your partner. Terry gives advice about recovering from a grievous wrong in a relationship, such as infidelity or other marriage disasters. First, the person who committed the wrong needs to be accountable for their actions. Next, address the hurt partner. Recognize that they are fundamentally disoriented - help them make sense of what happened. Dealing with their trauma. Then, re-establish trust. The past needs needs to be seen as the past. A demarcation ritual acknowledging the new, transformed relationship can be amazing. The crisis has the ability to transform us if we rise to the occasion. It can also be helpful to get outside help in these situations. FYI - Terry teaches live workshops all over the United States for couples and singles. An amazing experience to take your relationship to the next level. Use the relationship grid in order to diagnose where you are in terms of your boundaries and self-esteem - where do you need to improve? “True intimacy is not the absence of tension, but the management of tension and using tension to grow.” Links and Resources: The New Rules of Marriage on Amazon Please visit Terry’s website, www.terryreal.com  for all kinds of free information about his work AND a free intimacy test to see where you are and where you need to grow. The Relationship Alive Community on Facebook  This guide and episode are also available at www.neilsattin.com/terry Text "PASSION" to 33444 to download a pdf of the show guide (and be entered for a free giveaway of a signed copy of Calling in the One within the first week of this show's airing)   AMAZING intro and outtro music graciously provided courtesy of The Railsplitters - Check them out HERE

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We’re all going through a tough transition right now as we adjust to life at home… with kids… and work… and for many us, other caregivers. Our unique childhoods, unconscious beliefs and clashing approaches can increase the conflict, which can create stress for us, tension in our relationships and confusion for our kids. We’re all on the hunt for answers, but are beginning to realize that the questions are paramount to progress! Today we explore 10 ways we’re working to better understand and respectfully communicate with the other caregivers in our lives so that these tough times can keep us close instead of push us apart. The hard stuff is the good stuff. We laugh, we cry, we lean in… join us! Relevant Links + resources that informed this episode: - Upbringing’s Freedoms Model - Upbringing’s RESIST Approach - Esther Perel - John Gottman - Upbringing’s We Know Our Influence episode - Tina Fey in 30 Rock, Dealbreaker - Ross Greene, Collaborative + Proactive Solutions - Terry Real, author & therapist - The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert by John Gottman - Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship by Stan Tatkin - The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work by Terrence Real - Love Is Never Enough: How Couples Can Overcome Misunderstandings, Resolve Conflicts, and Solve Relationship Problems Through Cognitive Therapy by Aaron T. Beck M.D. - Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman - Raising Humans by Ross Greene - De-Escalate by Douglas E. Noll - Amber Okamura, Upbringing’s Artist - Mary Schroeder, Upbringing’s Letterer - Alex Olavarria, our producer, conductor, editor + husband/brother in law Today’s episode is supported by A Kid’s Book About- a collection of beautifully designed books that kickstart challenging and empowering conversations between kids and their grownups. Visit our website, www.upbringing.co to learn more about us and sign up for our newsletter! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you’re doin’, so get in touch -- we’re better together. Email us: info@upbringing.co Follow Upbringing on: Instagram: @up_bringing Facebook: @jointheupbringing Join us to explore topics such as: parenting, motherhood, discipline, resistance, RIE parenting, feminist parenting, toddlers, tantrums, potty training, mindful parenting, conscious parenting, evidence-based parenting, positive parenting, respectful parenting, simplicity parenting and positive discipline. We’re all going through a tough transition right now as we adjust to life at home… with kids… and work… and for many us, other caregivers. Our unique childhoods, unconscious beliefs and clashing approaches can increase the conflict, which can create stress for us, tension in our relationships and confusion for our kids. We’re all on the hunt for answers, but are beginning to realize that the questions are paramount to progress! Today we explore 10 ways we’re working to better understand and respectfully communicate with the other caregivers in our lives so that these tough times can keep us close instead of push us apart. The hard stuff is the good stuff. We laugh, we cry, we lean in… join us! Relevant Links + resources that informed this episode: - Upbringing’s Freedoms Model - Upbringing’s RESIST Approach - Esther Perel - John Gottman - Upbringing’s We Know Our Influence episode - Tina Fey in 30 Rock, Dealbreaker - Ross Greene, Collaborative + Proactive Solutions - Terry Real, author & therapist - The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert by John Gottman - Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship by Stan Tatkin - The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work by Terrence Real - Love Is Never Enough: How Couples Can Overcome Misunderstandings, Resolve Conflicts, and Solve Relationship Problems Through Cognitive Therapy by Aaron T. Beck M.D. - Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman - Raising Humans by Ross Greene - De-Escalate by Douglas E. Noll - Amber Okamura, Upbringing’s Artist - Mary Schroeder, Upbringing’s Letterer - Alex Olavarria, our producer, conductor, editor + husband/brother in law Today’s episode is supported by A Kid’s Book About- a collection of beautifully designed books that kickstart challenging and empowering conversations between kids and their grownups. Visit our website, www.upbringing.co to learn more about us and sign up for our newsletter! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you’re doin’, so get in touch -- we’re better together. Email us: info@upbringing.co Follow Upbringing on: Instagram: @up_bringing Facebook: @jointheupbringing Join us to explore topics such as: parenting, motherhood, discipline, resistance, RIE parenting, feminist parenting, toddlers, tantrums, potty training, mindful parenting, conscious parenting, evidence-based parenting, positive parenting, respectful parenting, simplicity parenting and positive discipline. We’re all going through a tough transition right now as we adjust to life at home… with kids… and work… and for many us, other caregivers. Our unique childhoods, unconscious beliefs and clashing approaches can increase the conflict, which can create stress for us, tension in our relationships and confusion for our kids. We’re all on the hunt for answers, but are beginning to realize that the questions are paramount to progress! Today we explore 10 ways we’re working to better understand and respectfully communicate with the other caregivers in our lives so that these tough times can keep us close instead of push us apart. The hard stuff is the good stuff. We laugh, we cry, we lean in… join us! Relevant Links + resources that informed this episode: - Upbringing’s Freedoms Model - Upbringing’s RESIST Approach - Esther Perel - John Gottman - Upbringing’s We Know Our Influence episode - Tina Fey in 30 Rock, Dealbreaker - Ross Greene, Collaborative + Proactive Solutions - Terry Real, author & therapist - The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert by John Gottman - Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship by Stan Tatkin - The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work by Terrence Real - Love Is Never Enough: How Couples Can Overcome Misunderstandings, Resolve Conflicts, and Solve Relationship Problems Through Cognitive Therapy by Aaron T. Beck M.D. - Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman - Raising Humans by Ross Greene - De-Escalate by Douglas E. Noll - Amber Okamura, Upbringing’s Artist - Mary Schroeder, Upbringing’s Letterer - Alex Olavarria, our producer, conductor, editor + husband/brother in law Today’s episode is supported by A Kid’s Book About- a collection of beautifully designed books that kickstart challenging and empowering conversations between kids and their grownups. Visit our website, www.upbringing.co to learn more about us and sign up for our newsletter! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you’re doin’, so get in touch -- we’re better together. Email us: info@upbringing.co Follow Upbringing on: Instagram: @up_bringing Facebook: @jointheupbringing Join us to explore topics such as: parenting, motherhood, discipline, resistance, RIE parenting, feminist parenting, toddlers, tantrums, potty training, mindful parenting, conscious parenting, evidence-based parenting, positive parenting, respectful parenting, simplicity parenting and positive discipline.