The Relationship Maze

Send us a textWelcome to The Relationship Maze, the podcast dedicated to helping you navigate the complexities of love and relationships. Today we dive deep into the age-old question: Is it really love? In today's episode, we explore the distinctions between love, lust, and projection, examining how love evolves and matures over time. We discuss the importance of nurturing love as an active, ongoing process, challenging the Hollywood myth of effortless, always-intense romance. We'll share insights on how to recognize real love, the role of curiosity and commitment, and the necessity of embracing both joy and pain in a relationship. So if you're ready to deepen your understanding of love and build fulfilling connections, stay tuned for an engaging and enlightening conversation. Don't forget to visit our website, therelationshipmaze.com, for more resources and our comprehensive online course. Let's get started!00:00 Loving is active; being in love is static.06:11 When does desire mature into genuine love?09:36 Love grows from curiosity about differences.11:58 Embrace love's full emotional range, expect effort.15:01 Perceived love stems from unresolved past issues.19:07 Unconditional love needs trust and balance.23:31 Is it really love? Assess mutual expressions.26:06 Commit to love; openness overcomes relationship differences.27:47 Podcast break; explore past episodes and resources.Contact us for information about individual counselling/psychotherapy, couples therapy, clinical supervision or CPD training.Tom's websiteAngela's websiteStruggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course.Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

Send us a textWelcome back to The Relationship Maze! In today's episode, "Differentiation," Tom and Angela dive into a crucial phase in relationship development known as differentiation. Have you ever felt that your partner is not the same as they were during the honeymoon period? Or struggled with being yourself in the relationship? You're not alone. Differentiation, a concept originally developed by Margaret Mahler, is all about recognizing and navigating the differences between you and your partner. We'll explore why it's natural for relationships to evolve, why noticing differences can be a good thing, and how this stage can ultimately lead to a more fulfilling and deeper connection. Tune in to learn how to navigate this challenging yet essential phase and transform your relationship into something even more rewarding. Don't forget to subscribe and visit therelationshipmaze.com for more resources to help you on your journey!00:00 Mahler's theory: infants learn self differentiation stages.04:59 Difficulty arises when relationship moves past symbiotic stage.08:00 Partner's differentiation feels like an abandonment threat.11:13 Recognize and respect partner's individuality and differences.13:34 Arguments arise from unmet relationship expectations.17:55 Couples therapy and resources help navigate conflicts.19:59 Learning to communicate safely and empathetically is crucial.24:48 Empowering stages, therapy options, podcast, course info.Contact us for information about individual counselling/psychotherapy, couples therapy, clinical supervision or CPD training.Tom's websiteAngela's websiteStruggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course.Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

Send us a Text Message.Welcome to The Relationship Maze, where we explore the intricate dynamics of human connections. In today's episode, Tom and Angela delve into a critical yet often misunderstood aspect of relationships: empathy. Are you finding that your partner doesn't truly hear you, or that they're more inclined to fix your problems than genuinely listen? This episode is for you. Join us as we unpack what real empathy entails, the difference between empathy and sympathy, and practical steps to foster deeper emotional connections. We'll also discuss the common pitfalls and challenges in being empathic, particularly when facing conflicts or emotional distress. Tune in and discover how enhancing your empathy skills can lead to more fulfilling and harmonious relationships. Don't forget to subscribe and visit therelationshipmaze.com for more resources and our comprehensive online course.00:00 Empathy is complex, requires attuning to others.03:34 Empathy involves leaving assumptions, being inquisitive.08:07 Empathy doesn't mean carrying your partner's burden.12:25 Partners struggle with empathy during difficult conversations.15:31 Open-minded approach to empathetically respond positively.19:36 Couples therapy available in person and online.20:47 Support and empathy are crucial in relationships.23:31 Visit relationshipmaze.com for relationship help and resources.Contact us for information about individual counselling/psychotherapy, couples therapy, clinical supervision or CPD training.Tom's websiteAngela's websiteStruggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course.Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

Send us a Text Message.Welcome to The Relationship Maze! In today's episode, Angela and Tom delve into the fascinating world of transitional objects—those cherished items or objects, like a childhood teddy bear or a keepsake, that provide comfort during challenging times. The notion of transitional objects was developed by pediatrician and psychotherapist Donald Winnicott; they serve as a bridge between our internal emotions and the external world. But what role do they play in our adult lives, and can our reliance on them sometimes indicate deeper, problematic issues that need addressing? From phones as modern-day comfort objects to the role of transitional objects in relationships, we explore both the benefits and potential pitfalls of these psychological safety nets. Stick around to uncover how understanding transitional objects can help you improve your relationships and personal well-being. Don't forget to head over to therelationshipmaze.com for more resources and take our free argument style quiz to discover your conflict style in relationships. Let's get started!00:00 Psychotherapy term stems from child-mother separation.05:22 Comfort objects provide a sense of security.07:09 Transitional objects provide comfort and reassurance.09:45 Negative emotions labeled bad, need to change.15:35 Reflect on the impact of digital disconnection.17:03 Using Niles' presence and hair for winning.21:05 Questioning projection and expectations in relationships.24:43 Therapy is important for personal development.Contact us for information about individual counselling/psychotherapy, couples therapy, clinical supervision or CPD training.Tom's websiteAngela's websiteStruggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course.Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

Send us a Text Message.Welcome to another episode of The Relationship Maze. Today, we're diving into the intriguing concept of liminality. Have you ever felt stuck in a transitional space, like when you're between jobs or navigating a significant change in your relationship? That disorienting, ambiguous phase is what we explore in this episode. Originating from anthropology, liminality describes the period between pre-ritual status and the completion of a rite of passage. We'll discuss how these transitional spaces can be both unsettling and transformative, impacting areas like adolescence, career changes, and relationship shifts. We'll also touch on how understanding and navigating liminality can lead to personal growth and creativity. So if you're in a period of flux and looking for ways to find balance and direction, stay tuned. And don't forget to check out our online course and free resources at therelationshipmaze.com to help you along your journey. Subscribe now, and let's dive into today's episode on liminality.00:00 Exploring the concept of liminality in life.03:42 Transitioning through life stages can be disorienting.09:18 Recognizing and tolerating uncertainty in liminal spaces.11:23 Struggles in reaching goals lead to challenges.13:28 Trusting leads to new levels of thought.16:30 Break down overwhelming feelings, find distance, surf.21:57 Frustrating tip-of-the-tongue experience; mind finds solutions.23:03 Acknowledging liminal space, acknowledging time for change.Contact us for information about individual counselling/psychotherapy, couples therapy, clinical supervision or CPD training.Tom's websiteAngela's websiteStruggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course.Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

Send us a Text Message.Welcome to another episode of The Relationship Maze! In today's episode, "Relationship Mistakes," hosts Tom and Angela dive into some of the most common pitfalls that couples face and provide insights on how to avoid them to create happier, more fulfilling relationships. Drawing from their extensive experience with couples therapy, they explore issues like blaming your partner, the importance of honesty, and the critical role of active listening. Whether you're looking to improve your current relationship or establish a solid foundation in a new one, this episode is packed with valuable advice. Don't forget to visit therelationshipmaze.com for more resources and subscribe to stay updated. Let's begin!00:00 In relationships, take ownership and avoid blaming.06:37 Past experiences influence interpretation of current events.08:29 Blaming and protective identification in psychotherapy discussed.11:23 Honesty in relationships is crucial for harmony.14:50 Trust and communication build stronger relationships.20:30 Active listening: engaging, curious, understanding partner's perspective.22:01 Listening for intention, not just gathering information.24:28 Active listening and empathy are crucial components.

Send us a Text Message.Welcome to another episode of The Relationship Maze! Today, hosts Angela and Tom delve deep into the complex and often challenging emotion of anger, particularly within the context of relationships.  They explore what anger is, when it can be healthy to express it, and strategies for managing it effectively. Anger is frequently a secondary emotion in response to a primary one, such as sadness or hopelessness.  In this episode your hosts discuss anger from the perspective of someone who as is angry as well as the perspective of the partner who is at the receiving end of anger.Tom and Angela look at the underlying emotions that drive anger and at ways that enable you to  communicate more effectively during heated moments. Plus, they discuss the impact of past experiences on how we express and perceive anger. The way you relate to anger is very much informed by your past. Tune in as we navigate this fiery emotion and learn how to transform it for healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Don't forget to visit therelationshipmaze.com for more resources and subscribe to our podcast to stay updated on our latest episodes!00:00 Understanding and managing anger in relationships.03:34 Blaming and anger often stem from underlying emotions.07:04 Seeking help to manage perceived threats.10:42 Learned behavior from parental influence shapes responses.13:35 Factors affecting relationship success and personal reflection.17:20 Reflect on anger, seek therapy for understanding.18:56 Effect of being in a relationship with anger.23:44 Therapy can help address and understand anger.26:11 Learn to manage anger and develop relationships.Contact us for information about individual counselling/psychotherapy, couples therapy, clinical supervision or CPD training.Tom's websiteAngela's websiteStruggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course.Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

Send us a Text Message.Welcome to today's episode of The Relationship Maze! In this episode, hosts Angela and Tom dive deep into the complex topic of self-esteem. They explore the origins of self-esteem, including how early relational experiences shape our perception of ourselves. Angela and Tom discuss the impact of low self-esteem on different areas of life, from relationships to work, and delve into the challenges of changing ingrained beliefs about ourselves. Together, they provide insights on how to challenge and shift these beliefs to cultivate a healthier sense of self-worth. Join us on this insightful journey of self-discovery and personal growth on The Relationship Maze.00:00 Exploring the importance and building of self-esteem.03:36 Self-esteem affects life choices and outcomes.08:44 Possible genetic influence on differences in interpretation.11:07 Changing self-perception can lead to happiness.14:55 Situations can impact self-esteem; not always bad parenting.18:03 Reevaluate beliefs, fears, and feelings for self-esteem.21:14 Exploring beliefs and limitations to improve life.22:46 Self-care and self-respect improve relationships and happiness.

Send us a Text Message.Do you sometimes find yourself feeling lonely or know someone who regularly experiences that deep, isolating feeling? Loneliness is a complex and challenging emotion that touches many of us at different points in life. Welcome back to The Relationship Maze, where we're here to untangle the intricate emotions in your relationships and guide you towards connection and understanding. In today's episode, we're diving deep into the profound impact of loneliness. We'll explore why some people feel this disconnection more intensely than others and discuss the intricate dance of human connection that begins from infancy. Together, we'll uncover the underlying factors contributing to loneliness and share practical strategies to overcome it, including the importance of therapy and building meaningful relationships. If you're looking to improve your connection with yourself and others, this episode is for you. Don't forget to visit therelationshipmaze.com for more resources and hit subscribe to stay updated!00:00 Feeling lonely despite being with groups.06:02 Close mother-baby bond crucial for child development.07:47 Building secure bond between child and parents.11:31 Beliefs about being unlovable affect relationships deeply.14:02 Beliefs impact connection and behavior in relationships.19:42 Relearning connections, building self-acceptance, seeking new experiences.21:57 Connecting with people, coping with loneliness, therapy.23:55 Encouragement to listen, subscribe, and visit website.Living Purposed We want to gather with a purposeful intention to explore the world around us. ...Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify

Welcome to another engaging episode of "The Relationship Maze" podcast. In today's discussion, Angela and Tom dive into the intriguing world of Transactional Analysis, particularly focusing on the Parent-Adult-Child model introduced by Eric Berne. This model helps us understand the dynamics of our communications and interactions in relationships—be they personal, professional, or casual. By examining how we often revert to childlike or parental behaviours during conversations, our hosts explore how these roles impact our relationships and how becoming more aware of these dynamics can lead to healthier and more satisfying interactions. Get ready to uncover which ego state you might be operating from and learn strategies to foster more adult-to-adult dialogues. Join us as we navigate the complexities of communication in relationships, aiming for more fulfilling connections.00:00 Improving communication with transactional analysis and resources.06:27 Rebelling against being told what to do.07:47 Adult ego state reacts logically to situations.12:24 Partner reactions triggered by past experiences quickly.15:33 Partners need to communicate like adults.18:29 Reflect on reactions and behaviors in conflicts.22:00 Balancing playful and responsible parenting dynamics.23:02 Temporary usefulness of rebellious child state.

Welcome to The Relationship Maze podcast. In this episode, we delve into the complexities of experiential avoidance, a common psychological phenomenon where individuals steer clear of situations that evoke negative emotions. Hosts Tom and Angela explore the underlying fears that drive this behaviour, such as the worry that addressing certain topics might negatively impact their relationships. They discuss how these fears are often rooted in past experiences and societal conditioning which teach us to suppress so-called negative emotions. Join us as we uncover the significance of facing these uncomfortable situations to foster deeper intimacy and stronger connections in relationships. We'll also provide practical guidance on how to recognize and manage the physical sensations and thoughts associated with these challenging emotions, ultimately helping you lead a more fulfilling life. Stay tuned to learn how to navigate the emotional landscapes of your relationships more effectively.00:00 Overcome avoidance for better, fulfilling relationships.04:39 Avoiding conflict in relationships due to fear.07:16 Shortsighted way of interacting, withholding truth from partner.12:18 Clients' childhood emotional experiences impact current behavior.16:11 Avoidance driven by unknown uncomfortable feelings, disconnection.17:10 Identify feelings, tune into the body.21:13 Open communication fosters intimacy and connection.24:30 Encouraging openness and curiosity in a relationship.

In today's episode of The Relationship Maze, we explore the concept of projection and its impact on relationships. Join Tom and Angela as they delve into the fascinating topic of projection, shedding light on how our past experiences shape our perceptions of others. They discuss how projection can influence our attraction to certain people and how it impacts our behavior in relationships. Through insightful examples and discussions, they highlight the importance of self-awareness and how understanding our projections can lead to healthier, more fulfilling connections. Stay tuned as they offer practical tips and tools for navigating the intricate web of projection in relationships. Don't forget to visit the relationshipmaze.com for additional resources and information. This thought-provoking episode will deepen your understanding of projection and its role in relationships.00:00 Early experiences shape our understanding of the world05:32 Raising voice can signal fear or danger.10:06 Exploring the shadow side and projection onto others.13:23 Understanding personal emotions and projections in relationships.15:50 Couples therapy theories: Familiarity in partner attraction.17:50 Understanding projection gives control over subconscious behaviors.22:07 Reflect on experiences, emotions through daily journaling.

Welcome to a new episode of "The Relationship Maze" where we dive into the complexities of your critical, inner voice and the impact it has on our relationships. In this episode, Tom and Angela explore the role of the inner critic, discussing why it might have developed, its effects on your life and ways to manage it for a more positive experience in your relationships. They delve into the impact of early experiences, schooling, and social media on developing and reinforcing the inner critic, offering insights and practical techniques to challenge and detach from negative self-talk. Join us as we navigate through the maze of our inner thoughts and learn to cultivate a more compassionate relationship with ourselves.00:00 Negative emotions can impact performance and relationships.04:57 Developing soothing inner voice is important.07:17 Insecure childhood attachments affect self-worth and relationships.11:48 Agreement leads to public scrutiny and feedback.15:46 Create character names to represent inner critic.18:33 Negative self-talk hinders performance and meaning.19:54 Adapting to criticism requires time and practice.23:21 Writing down self-talk helps identify patterns.

In this episode of "The Relationship Maze," Tom and Angela dive into the different developmental stages of relationships, exploring the model developed by Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson from the Couples Institute. Drawing parallels with early childhood development, they discuss the stages of adult relationships:  symbiosis, differentiation, practicing, rapprochement, and mutual interdependence. Each of these stages serves a specific function in the development of the relationship and each of these stages requires particular developmental tasks of each individual as well as the couple as a team.Tom and Angela unpack the challenges and dynamics couples face at each stage, from the initial euphoria of the honeymoon phase to the struggles of couples who don't move beyond this initial stage. These often present in couples therapy and face the challenges of enmeshment or hostile dependency.  Tom and Angela also touch on the complexities of partners being at different stages in relationships and provide insights into navigating these relationship stages towards a healthier and fulfilling connection. If you're looking to understand and improve your relationships, join Tom and Angela as they guide you through this enlightening exploration.00:00 Couples Institute's relationship model based on developmental stages.05:52 Stages of couple relationships: symbiosis and differentiation.06:59 Seeing people in a different light is natural.11:49 Practicing stage focuses on individual autonomy and self-esteem.15:26 Stage of relationship development towards mutual interdependence.18:16 Mutual interdependence creates a secure, mature relationship.19:59 Rare to have partners at different stages.25:12 Couple therapy: partners' different developmental phases challenge.26:57 Visit relationshipmaze.com for improving your relationships.

Welcome to another insightful episode of The Relationship Maze. In today's episode  Tom and Angela dive into the challenges of online dating, particularly the phenomenon of ghosting. They discuss the impact of being ghosted, potential reasons for ghosting, and offer valuable insights into maintaining a positive attitude and healthy mindset when navigating the complexities of modern dating. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of how to approach early stages of dating and learn strategies for building fulfilling relationships in the digital age.00:00 Challenges of online dating addressed in podcast.03:54 Traditional dating relied on personal connections, trust.09:42 Overwhelmed with choice due to restaurant abundance.11:10 Early dating involves projecting rather than knowing.13:36 Early red flags signal potential relationship issues.18:45 Building connections takes time for genuine attraction.22:17 Online dating takes time and patience.24:27 Take time, attraction can develop, respect yourself.

In today's episode of The Relationship Maze, Tom and Angela delve into the world of warning signs in relationships, focusing on both early and later indicators of potential problems. They discuss the yellow flags that may indicate areas of concern in a relationship, such as inconsistent attention, pretentious behavior, lack of communication, issues with ex-partners, differing life stages, mental health challenges, and deceptive dating profiles. Join them as they navigate through the complexities of relationship warning signs and offer valuable insights on how to identify and address potential red flags. Tune in to gain valuable insights that may help you navigate the maze of relationships with confidence and clarity.00:00 Recognizing red and yellow relationship warning signs.03:17 Yellow flag: partner's ambiguity about relationship.08:52 Cultural influences on emotional expression in men.11:44 Watch for warning signs of negative behavior.15:14 Friend disapproval could be a red flag.18:41 Past experiences can affect relationships, self-esteem.21:05 Excessive reassurance can become coercive control.24:55 Deception and mistrust in relationships over concealment.27:26 Age prejudice complicates the need for honesty.

Welcome to today's episode of "The Relationship Maze." In this episode hosts Tom and Angela delve into the early warning indicators of potentially problematic relationships. They discuss warning signs such as physical and emotional abuse, gaslighting, love bombing, excessive jealousy, boundary violations, and substance abuse. With insights into each warning sign, they provide valuable advice on what to look out for in relationships and how to navigate these challenges. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of these warning signs and learn how to address them effectively. So, join us on this enlightening exploration of the intricate dynamics of relationships.00:00 Early warning signs in a new relationship.05:28 Abusive relationships and coercive control explained briefly.07:25 Gaslighting overlaps with abusive relationships, affecting mental health.10:11 Expressions of strong emotions in relationships are critical.15:15 Podcast discusses narcissism and love bombing tactics.17:40 Evaluating partner behavior, signs of unhealthy relationship.21:17 Supportive help needed for partner with addiction.23:51 Recognize and address relationship boundary violations.

In this episode of "The Relationship Maze," hosts Tom and Angela dive into the complex question of how to know if you truly love someone. They explore the different stages and dynamics of love in relationships, including the early passionate phase, the role of attraction, the challenges of unconditional love, and the importance of differentiation in couple relationships . They emphasize the need for continuous reflection and communication in relationships to prevent crises and maintain a healthy, loving connection. With practical insights and thought-provoking discussions, this episode provides a comprehensive exploration of the multifaceted nature of love in relationships. Join Tom and Angela as they unravel the intricacies of love and offer valuable guidance for nurturing and sustaining meaningful connections.00:00 Distinguishing between falling in love and loving.03:23 Instant chemistry in relationships is often problematic.08:28 Unconditional love requires meeting agreed needs.11:53 Transition from idealization to realistic perception in relationships.16:40 Evaluate relationship, prioritize well-being over love.19:19 Review love, clarify desires in relationship, understand.24:08 Prioritize communication and understanding in relationships.Contact us for information about individual counselling/psychotherapy, couples therapy, clinical supervision or CPD training. Tom:  https://www.counsellinginenfield.co.uk/Angela: https://angeladierkscounselling.co.uk/OutlandishThe hilarious podcast that explores the funnier side of relationships.Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify

In this episode of "The Relationship Maze" podcast, Tom and Angela delve into the complex topic of arguments and conflict in relationships. They discuss the inevitability of disagreements between partners and emphasize the importance of understanding and effectively managing arguments. The hosts provide valuable insights into the different types of arguments and the underlying issues that may lead to conflicts in relationships. They address the significance of recognizing one's conflict style and offer practical tips for handling arguments in a constructive manner. Additionally, they highlight the potential for deeper connection and personal growth that can arise from navigating conflicts with openness and understanding. Tune in to gain valuable insights into how to navigate arguments and conflicts in relationships and discover strategies for fostering healthier and more fulfilling connections with your partner.00:00 Conflicts in relationships are inevitable due to differences.05:11 Peeling away layers to reveal deeper issues.08:09 Relationship issues stem from childhood learned behaviors.11:31 Recognizing stonewalling to improve relationship patterns.15:31 Identify patterns and intentions in partner behavior.18:34 Consider tone to avoid sounding blaming. Create understanding.20:53 Conflict can deepen connection in relationships.23:39 Openness in discussing change is crucial.

Welcome to The Relationship Maze podcast! Today, we're diving into the 10 most annoying habits that partners have, and exploring what it means for your relationship. Tom and Angela discuss common grievances that can become major frustrations and provide insights on how to address these annoyances and create a more harmonious relationship. Stay tuned to learn how to navigate through these common relationship pitfalls and improve your connection with your partner.00:00 Dealing with annoying partner habits for better relationship.03:36 Engage in active listening for effective communication.08:22 Overcoming challenges in perception, noise, and therapy.12:15 Celebrate small tasks to associate good feelings.13:46 Household task imbalance causes relationship dynamic shift.16:50 Limit phone use in important situations.22:23 Controversial BBC show teaches dog training for husbands.24:30 Visit relationshipmaze.com for relationship improvement tips.

Welcome to The Relationship Maze podcast where we delve into the complexities of human relationships. In today's episode hosts Tom and Angela explore the intriguing characters and family dynamics in the popular series "Succession." They delve into the complexities of the relationships depicted in the show and draw parallels to real-life experiences. From the desperate need for parental love to the impact of childhood attachment styles on adult behavior, the hosts dissect how the characters' personalities and struggles reflect relatable human experiences. Join us as we unravel the intricacies of the characters and their relationships, offering valuable insights into our own relational behaviors. And if you're interested in understanding and improving your own relationships, head over to our website  therelationshipmaze.com for free resources and our online conflict style quiz. Tune in as we navigate the intriguing world of "Succession" and discover how it relates to our own lives.00:00 Estranged family dynamics in media mogul's empire.05:23 Logan Roy gives breadcrumbs of love.08:08 Eldest of three siblings with addiction problems.10:47 Many UK founders quickly form intense relationships.13:18 Clients struggle with abusive relationships due to self-image.17:31 Shiv is manipulative and toxic in marriage.21:31 Covering unhappiness with fantasy, it's engaging.24:24 Explore family dynamics through constellation shifting therapy.

In this episode of The Relationship Maze, Tom and Angela delve into the topic of healing from emotional wounds. They draw parallels between the physiological process of healing a wound and the emotional healing process. They emphasize the importance of awareness and understanding the cause of emotional wounds as the first step in the healing journey. They also discuss different therapeutic perspectives and methods for processing and healing emotional wounds. Throughout the conversation, they stress the significance of seeking help and acknowledge that healing takes time while highlighting the resilience and flexibility of the human mind and body. Tune in to discover valuable insights and practical tips for navigating the path to emotional healing.00:00 Unconscious childhood experiences impact emotions and healing.04:13 Our body has amazing capacity to heal.08:26 Final stage: wound healing, physical and emotional.10:00 Pain brings uniqueness, meaning, and strength over time.13:12 Physical trauma can lead to delayed awareness.17:09 Grieving for childhood losses is an important phase.21:11 Therapeutic techniques involve present perspective and dialogue.24:30 Seeking help is important for healing.25:51 "Improve relationships, mental health, take quiz, subscribe."

In this episode of "The Relationship Maze," hosts Tom and Angela delve into the topic of setbacks. They explore the different types of setbacks, how they affect us emotionally, and the importance of learning from them. By sharing personal experiences and examples, they discuss the impact of setbacks on various aspects of life, including relationships and career pursuits. They also offer valuable insights on handling setbacks, reframing them as opportunities for self-reflection and growth. The hosts emphasize the need to find realistic and achievable goals within our control while dealing with setbacks. Join Tom and Angela as they explore the dynamics of setbacks and provide practical tips for navigating through life's challenges.00:00 Strategies for overcoming setbacks in life discussed.05:37 Allow yourself time to process emotions fully.08:46 Stoicism can help, but analysis is crucial.10:07 Accepting challenges and taking personal responsibility.15:33 Questioning purpose but determined to complete studies.16:25 Recovering from setbacks and nurturing self-care.19:25 Perspective on failure: only feedback, empowering.22:47 Systemic thinking relevant in relationships and setbacks.25:38 Set outcome based on own actions for success.

In this episode of "The Relationship Maze," Tom and Angela delve into the complexities of Christmas celebrations and the strains it can place on our relationships. From managing family dynamics to handling the chaos of parenting during the festive season, they discuss the various stressors that can lead to arguments and disagreements. The hosts share insightful tips on how to navigate these challenges, including setting boundaries, communicating effectively, and finding time for self-care. Join them as they offer practical advice and share personal experiences to help you have a more enjoyable and fulfilling Christmas, free from unnecessary conflict. Stay tuned for an episode filled with valuable insights and strategies for a harmonious holiday season.00:00 How to avoid Christmas arguments and stress.05:24 Childhood magic of Christmas lingers in memories.07:26 Upbringing led to holiday stress and pressure.10:58 Set spending limits to prevent gift disappointments.14:19 Identify triggers, think about stress factors in advance.20:11 Approach teamwork in handling challenging family situations.20:47 Finding positive narratives can help shift perspective.24:26 Parenting stress during holidays with young children.

Welcome to The Relationship Maze, where we navigate the complexities of human connection. In today's episode, titled "Being honest in relationship," hosts Tom and Angela delve into the vital role of honesty and open communication in fostering healthy and authentic relationships. They discuss the implications of setting clear boundaries, the potential consequences of withholding information, and the importance of expressing true feelings and experiences to a partner. Tune in as they provide valuable insights on navigating the delicate balance of honesty in different stages of a relationship, and the impact it has on self-awareness and understanding. Join us as we explore the intricacies of being honest in relationships and gain valuable perspectives to navigate the relationship maze.00:00 Importance of honesty in relationships and resources.05:26 Interviewers seek to turn weaknesses into strengths.08:17 Reevaluate feelings, consider expressing, or change mindset.10:56 Negotiating expressions of feelings within a relationship.13:40 Anxious partners need to manage their insecurity.16:43 Promote honesty and openness in relationships.20:56 Early relationship dynamics can lead to deception.24:05 Share relevant things with your partner effectively.27:33 Clear boundaries are crucial for healthy relationships.

Welcome to The Relationship Maze, the podcast that helps you navigate the twists and turns of love and connection. In today's episode, "Expressing Emotions," hosts Tom and Angela delve into the intricacies of communicating feelings in relationships. Do you frequently express anger but struggle with letting your partner know that you love them? Or do you struggle to let your partner know that you are frustrated for fear of losing them?We discuss the challenges of managing emotions in the heat of the moment, the importance of understanding and reflecting on strong emotional reactions, and the need for safe expression. From the impact of childhood experiences to societal messages on relationship expectations, we explore the complexities of emotional expression in relationships. Join us as we unpack the nuances of love, anger, and the powerful impact of verbalizing emotions in adult relationships. Whether you're navigating the joy of love or the turbulence of negative emotions, this episode will provide insights and strategies for safe, effective emotional expression. So sit back, relax, and let's navigate the maze of expressing emotions in relationships.00:00 Exploring ways to express emotions in relationships.06:02 Adult relationships require verbal clarifications and reciprocity.08:08 Fear of expression and societal expectations discussed.09:51 Suppressing anger leads to emotional suppression in adulthood.14:36 Unaware replication of hurtful family behaviors continues.18:51 Learning to identify and understand nuanced feelings.21:42 Healthy love needs balance and understanding.25:35 Reflect on emotions, repair, and understand triggers.27:13 Expressing emotions can strengthen a relationship.

Welcome to today's episode of The Relationship Maze, where we delve into the intriguing concept of the shadow. Join Tom and Angela as they explore how our hidden, repressed aspects known as the shadow can impact our relationships. Drawing from the teachings of Carl Jung, they discuss how the persona we present to the world hides our shadow, which holds guilt, feelings of inferiority, and even dark desires. Discover how the shadow can manifest in your own relationship dynamics and learn techniques to uncover and integrate these hidden parts of yourself. Tune in and navigate the complexities of the shadow in today's episode.01:26 Persona hides shadow; both define us.03:51 Suppression of natural instincts can cause anger.08:52 Personal shadow, shame, repressed qualities, push down.11:14 Perception is projection, noticing our own projections.15:44 Unwanted qualities in partner reveal inner fears.18:39 "Shadow's connection to the concept of evil."20:45 Exploring shadow aspects, finding useful qualities. Compassion.23:23 Oversimplification of good and evil in media.Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course:  https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2.Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.Welcome to another episode of The Relationship Maze! In today's episode Tom and Angela discuss the ever-popular world of dating apps and how attitudes towards them have evolved over the years. They delve into the reasons why dating apps can be both a blessing and a source of stress, as well as explore alternative ways to find fulfilling relationships. Whether you are a dating app enthusiast or feel overwhelmed by the online dating scene, this episode has insights and advice for everyone. So grab a cup of coffee, sit back, and join us in navigating the maze that is modern dating. Don't forget to visit the relationshipmaze.com for free resources and check out their online course, The Relationship Maze. Enjoy the episode!Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course:  https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2.Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.Welcome to The Relationship Maze podcast. In this episode, Tom and Angela explore the importance of acknowledging different perspectives in relationships. We discuss the challenges of taking on someone else's viewpoint and the significance of being able to listen and understand your partner even if there view of the world might be entirely different to yours. In this episode we share exercises and insights from our experience in couples therapy to help you gain a deeper understanding of your partner's perspectives. Tune in for practical tips on improving communication and creating stronger connections with your significant other.00:57 Couples therapy focuses on understanding partner's perspective.05:43 Acknowledging different perspectives fosters personal growth.08:27 Recognizing others' struggles can lead to insight.09:53 Understanding communication and introspection in relationships.13:17 Couples therapy involves exercises to promote listening.19:02 Be mindful of others' reactions and triggers.20:33 Past wounds can create distrust in relationships.22:51 Emphasize empathy to improve communication dynamics.Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course:  https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2.Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

Welcome to another episode of The Relationship Maze! In today's exploration, we delve into the  concept of interoception and its impact on our lives. Hosted by Tom and Angela, this episode explores our experiences of the world through our internal (biological) sensations and how these can affect us profoundly psychologically, often without conscious awareness. We perceive signals from our bodies that tell us something about our feeling states, our moods, our dispositions or our levels of stress. Interoception refers to our brain's perception of our bodily state: our ability to sense and interpret what is happening internally, including our hunger levels, emotions, and bodily sensations. Why does interoception matter? Studies have shown that sensitivity to interoceptive signals in our body can determine our capacity to regulate our emotions. If we can regulate emotions better,  we struggle less with mental  health problems such as anxiety and depression.Join us as we discuss the importance of improving our interoception and how higher levels of awareness can contribute to more balance in our life and ultimately to creating more fulfilling relationships. Plus, be sure to visit our website, therelationshipmaze.com, where you will find an abundance of free resources and our online course, The Relationship Maze. Take our free argument style quiz and discover your unique approach to conflict in relationships. So, sit back, listen, and press that subscribe button to embark on another journey into the intricacies of human relationships. Let's get started![00:00:02] The importance of understanding interoception's impact.[00:05:15] Interoception: distorted awareness, usefulness, and problems.[00:09:46] Distinguishing thoughts and bodily sensations is important.[00:11:57] Interoception aids in understanding internal experiences.[00:13:52] Reacting to threats, triggers from past conditioning.[00:17:12] Awareness of sensations helps step back from emotion.[00:21:01] Unconscious tension builds throughout the day, but noticing can release it.[00:23:22] Stress management courses show mind-body connection.Smells Like HumansLike listening to funny friends discuss curious human behavior.Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify

What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.Welcome to a new episode of The Relationship Maze, where we delve into the complexities of human relationships. In this episode, we tackle the intriguing concept of limerence. We explore the intense and obsessive feelings of extreme infatuation that can arise for some people when feelings are not reciprocated by the other person. Limerence is the feeling of having a crush on someone multiplied by 10.Limerence, a term coined by psychologist Dr. Dorothy Tennov in the 1970s, describes the phenomenon of falling head over heels for someone in an obsessive and potentially unhealthy way.  Tenov discovered that there are two types of people when it comes to falling in love: those who do so passionately and uncontrollably, the limerents, and those who are less emotionally engaged, the remilents. Characteristics of limerence include for example intrusive thinking about the object of desire,  a constant preoccupation with the desired person, an inability to focus on anybody else as a potential love interest, an over sensibility and over interpretation as to the intentions of the desired person which  affects one's mood, seeking proximity to the object of desire while simultaneously feeling shy and experiencing an intense fear of rejection or  having intense and soothing fantasies about reciprocal love. Join us as we look at the underlying attachment issues that manifest in the form of limerence. If you've ever experienced unrequited love, infatuation, or obsessive desires, this episode is for you.Welcome to The Relationship Maze: Limerence.[00:00:04] Limerence: Strong, one-sided infatuation [00:05:06] Chemical flooding creates obsessional thoughts of love.[00:09:04] Love and limerence: caring or obsessing?[00:12:24] Interesting perspective on seeking validation and relationships.[00:16:06] Early attachment experiences impact key patterns.[00:17:43] Magical experiences and connections that stay with us.[00:21:00] Awareness of learned self-perception, love, and acceptance.[00:23:35] Inner reflection, relationships, and positive self-perception.Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course:  https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2.Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.Life's 3 Things - Author Manny Garcia's Podcast5-minute happiness advice, translated from history's greatest books and wisest sages.Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify

Welcome to The Relationship Maze, the podcast where we navigate the complexities of relationships. In today's episode, titled "Anxiety and Communication," our hosts, Tom and Angela, delve into the impact of anxiety on effective communication and the potential barriers it can create in building meaningful connections. We discuss the fears and insecurities that often prevent us from expressing our actual thoughts and emotions, exploring how the need for acceptance and the fear of rejection can hinder open and honest communication. Join us as we explore the importance of owning our own reactions and insecurities, and how this can lead to more positive and understanding interactions with others. If you're looking to build fulfilling relationships or enhance your current ones, head over to therelationshipmaze.com, where we offer an array of free resources and our online course, The Relationship Maze. Also, don't forget to take our free online conflict style quiz and discover your argument style in relationships. Get ready to untangle the complexities of anxiety and communication in relationships with Tom and Angela in this episode of The Relationship Maze.[00:00:01] Anxiety hinders communication, affecting relationships. Visit relationshipmaze.com for help.[00:03:20] Struggling with asserting myself in relationships.[00:09:14] Expressing feelings builds relationships, fosters understanding.[00:11:45] Relationship fears may affect expression and safety.[00:13:14] Sorting out our material in relationships.[00:19:12] Anxiety and hurt from perceived rejection explained.[00:22:02] Different ways of thinking about anxiety.[00:22:49] Knowing anxiety is normal, express yourself freely.

Welcome to The Relationship Maze, the podcast that explores the intricacies of navigating relationships. In today's episode your  hosts Tom and Angela discuss the appeal of the popular TV show Couples Therapy. We discuss some of the possible reasons why this show has become a global success and why it has captured the interest of younger generations. We explore the impact of personal development and social media on the popularity of watching relationships unfold on screen. Join us  as we look at the dynamics of couples therapy and how the TV show of the same name can be both informative and entertaining to watch. [00:02:36] Increased interest in personal development and therapy.[00:05:20] Well-edited highlights of therapy sessions with drama.[00:08:13] Interesting program offers general principles for couples.[00:10:22] Couples therapy normalized, important for relationships.[00:15:02] Challenging couples struggle, therapy can bring grief.[00:16:44] Hopelessness and helplessness in failing relationships.[00:20:50] Intensity of emotions can damage relationships dynamics.[00:23:28] Individual therapy alongside couples therapy has benefits.

In this episode of The Relationship Maze, hosts Tom and Angela delve into the topic of parenting styles. They discuss the consequences and effects of overly permissive or rigid parenting, drawing from their own experiences and the challenges faced by couples in therapy. Tom and Angela explore the importance of finding a balance and how our own childhood experiences shape our parenting approaches. They touch on the different parenting styles identified by developmental psychologist Diana Baumrind and explain the potential pitfalls of being overly permissive. Tune in to gain insights into effective parenting and the impact it has on relationships. Plus, don't forget to visit the relationshipmaze.com for a free online conflict style quiz and expert advice on improving your relationships. Welcome to The Relationship Maze podcast![00:02:49] Strict parenting shapes adult and child experiences.[00:03:44] Parenting styles: historical, authoritarian vs. permissive and loving[00:08:12] Boundaries create confidence and security in life.[00:09:45] Interacting with others has rules, uncertainties breed anxiety.[00:15:39] Motivated by love, but blinded by self-interest.[00:17:29] Excessive rules limit growth, hinder decision-making.[00:20:35] Uninvolved parenting resulting from trauma and neglect.[00:24:54] Understanding consequences, teaching healthy social skills.[00:27:07] Improve relationships, take quiz, subscribe next week.Smells Like HumansLike listening to funny friends discuss curious human behavior.Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify

What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.Welcome to today's episode of The Relationship Maze, where Tom and Angela dive deep into the concept of trust. In this episode, they discuss the challenges of establishing trust in the early stages of a relationship, especially in the age of online dating. From questions about commitment to the fear of being abandoned, Tom and Angela explore the insecurities and self-doubts that often arise. They also shed light on the different attachment styles that can influence one's level of trust and the need for reassurance. Additionally, they explore the different types of trust, including blind trust and the importance of being cautious in trusting others. Join us as we navigate the intricate path of trust in relationships on this episode of The Relationship Maze.00:00:51 Insecurity in early relationships revolves around trust.00:05:58 Lack of trust related to internal insecurities.00:09:19 Separating anxieties, insecurities in relationships, trust.00:12:24 Questions on honesty, consistency, and trust in friendships; overcoming past pain and anxiety in relationships.00:14:21 New relationships are risky but rewarding.00:17:54 Unclear self-doubt and distrust in relationships.00:23:21 Trust issues emerge in relationships causing conflict.00:24:42 Helping people explore and understand their relationships.00:00:51 In new relationships, trust is often questioned. Can I rely on them? Can they fulfill my expectations? Trust is key.00:05:58 The lack of trust is often related to internal factors and attachment styles, leading to insecurity and seeking reassurance or exhibiting avoidant behavior.00:09:19 Separating personal insecurities from partner's intentions is crucial. Assess behavior objectively to determine trustworthiness and commitment.00:12:24 It's important to know if someone treats their friends well and if they are consistent. Trust can be challenging after past hurts and betrayals, but being open to relationships means accepting the possibility of pain.00:14:21 Starting a new relationship is risky due to the vulnerability and potential for hurt, but not pursuing relationships has its own drawbacks.00:17:54 The text discusses self-doubt, distrust, and the struggle to find resolution in relationships.00:23:21 Lack of trust affects relationships, even in the long term. Couples therapy is often sought out for this issue.00:24:42 The course explores self-exploration and understanding partners in relationships.Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course:  https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2.Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.Welcome to another episode of The Relationship Maze. In today's episode,  Tom and Angela delve into the topic of emotional and psychological health. They explore what it means to be emotionally and psychologically healthy, beyond the traditional focus on physical well-being. Drawing on the work of renowned Gestalt therapist Joseph Zinker, they discuss the importance of embracing the full range of emotions and avoiding the trap of toxic positivity. Tom and Angela also examine Zinker's list of the characteristics of a healthy person, with a special emphasis on self-awareness and the ability to set boundaries. Tune in as they delve deeper into these concepts and provide practical tips for developing emotional and psychological health. Don't forget to visit The Relationship Maze website for additional resources and to take their free online conflict style quiz. Press play now and embark on this journey to enhance your relationships and personal well-being.00:01:45 Importance of experiencing full range of emotions.00:05:20 Importance of awareness in healthy relationships.00:08:52 Developing neural connections in weightlifting promotes self-awareness.00:10:43 Taking ownership of your responses and actions.00:14:11 Embrace all sensations, judgment-free. Find true value.00:19:14 Awareness of relationship dynamics and toxic situations.00:21:55 Healthy person takes responsibility for actions, impact on others.00:24:05 Actions have impact; inaction can be damaging.Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course:  https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2.Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.Smells Like HumansLike listening to funny friends discuss curious human behavior.Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify

What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.Welcome to another episode of The Relationship Maze with your hosts, Tom and Angela! We're excited to bring you insights and helpful tips on navigating the complex world of relationships.In this episode, we discuss what you can possibly do to unintentionally undermine successful communication in your relationship.  Partners in relationships often sabotage their efforts to let their partner know what they think and feel. We delve into the ways that our communication patterns can hinder connection and create rifts in our relationships.  Effective communication requires conscious effort. 00:01:30 Communication is key in all relationships.00:05:27 "Beware of excessive self-expression in relationships."00:09:01 Develop awareness of your inner thoughts. Express them honestly to avoid frustration and dissatisfaction.00:11:57 Losing focus and communication hinders relationship progress.00:14:57 Impact of words and actions varies for everyone.00:18:42 Listening is key in effective communication.00:23:57 Verbal abuse: frustration, protests, not effective.00:25:35 Finding the right time for conversation matters.Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course:  https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2.Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.In today's episode we discuss the indicators that show you that you are in a relationship with a partner who you can build a mature and healthy relationship with. Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course:  https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2.Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.Welcome to the Relationship Maze podcast, where we explore the complexities of modern relationships. In today's episode, we'll be discussing the challenges you might be presented with if you experience your partner's parents as being too present in your relationship. Conversely you may be frustrated by your partner's complaints about your own close relationship with your parents. It's not uncommon for parents to be involved in their adult child's life, but what happens when their involvement becomes intrusive or overbearing or if there is disagreement in your relationship about the appropriate amount of time that should be set aside for contact with the parents. We'll explore the reasons why some parents may be overly involved in their child's relationship, and the impact that this can have on the couple. We'll also discuss strategies for setting boundaries and managing the situation in a way that supports the health and well-being of all parties involved. Join us as we delve into the complexities of navigating a relationship when your partner's parents are too present, and gain a deeper understanding of how to cultivate healthy boundaries and autonomy in your connection with your partner. Whether you're struggling with this issue in your own relationship or simply interested in learning more about this common challenge, this episode is packed with valuable insights and practical tips for navigating the ups and downs of modern love.What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course:  https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2.Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.Today we are speaking with psychotherapist and author Julia Bueno. We will be discussing the important and challenging area of dealing with your inner critic.Julia Bueno is a qualified, experienced, and UKCP registered Integrative Psychotherapist and Counsellor, working in Stoke Newington N16. She is author of 'Everyone's a critic' - https://www.amazon.co.uk/Everyones-Critic-Stories-learning-enough/dp/0349014590You can follow her on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/julia_bueno_therapist/?hl=enWhat is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course:  https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2.Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.Welcome to the Relationship Maze podcast, where we explore the complexities of modern relationships. In today's episode, we'll be discussing the topic of getting attracted to the wrong people. Have you ever found yourself drawn to someone who is clearly not a good match for you? Do you find yourself repeating the same patterns in your relationships, despite knowing that they don't serve you well? If so, you're not alone.We'll explore the reasons why we often find ourselves attracted to the wrong people, from childhood experiences to unconscious patterns of behavior. We'll also discuss strategies for breaking free from these patterns and cultivating healthy relationships that support our growth and well-being. Join us as we delve into the complexities of getting attracted to the wrong people, and gain a deeper understanding of how to cultivate healthy relationships that serve us well. Whether you're struggling with this issue in your own relationships or simply interested in learning more about this common challenge, this episode is packed with valuable insights and practical tips for navigating the ups and downs of modern love.What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course:  https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2.Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.Welcome to the Relationship Maze podcast, where we explore the complexities of modern relationships. In today's episode, we'll be discussing the important topic of dividing chores in your relationship. Sharing household responsibilities is a common challenge for many couples, and can cause tension and conflict if not handled effectively. Join us as we delve into the complexities of dividing chores in your relationship, and gain a deeper understanding of how to cultivate a fair and equitable partnership that supports both partners. Whether you're struggling with dividing chores in your own relationship or simply interested in learning more about this common issue, this episode is packed with valuable insights and practical tips for navigating the challenges of modern relationships.What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course:  https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2.Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

In this episode of the Relationship Maze podcast, we'll be exploring the topic of enmeshment in relationships. Enmeshment is a common dynamic in relationships where individuals become overly involved in each other's lives, to the point where they lose their individual identities and personal boundaries. This can lead to a range of problematic presentations, including co-dependency, emotional manipulation, and a loss of personal autonomy. Enmeshment can also be present in one partner only, who struggles with separation anxiety in the relationship. While closeness in a relationship is of course important, enmeshment is the unhealthy extreme of emotional intimacy.We'll explore the causes and consequences of enmeshment, as well as strategies for identifying and addressing this dynamic in our own relationships. Join us as we delve into the complexities of enmeshment in relationships, and gain a deeper understanding of how to cultivate healthy boundaries and autonomy in our connection with your partner. Whether you're struggling with enmeshment in your own relationship or simply interested in learning more about this common dynamic, this episode is packed with valuable insights and practical tips for navigating the challenges of modern relationships.Listen Now: AntiFragile EntrepreneurshipGet insider access to mastermind-level conversations from top entrepreneurs about failure.Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify

Find out about our comprehensive course to help you create fulfilling relationships on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.Welcome to the Relationship Maze podcast, where we explore the complexities of modern relationships. In today's episode, we are talking with Dr Steven C. Hayes, the originator of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT).Frequently we get caught up in the trap of our own minds. The struggle with trying to manage our thoughts and feelings can stop us from fully engaging with our lives and our relationships. ACT presents a ground breaking approach to help you discover a different way to relate to your thoughts and feelings so that you can find more peace and fulfilment in your life and relationships.Dr. Steven C. Hayes is an Emeritus Professor of Psychology at the University of Nevada, Reno and President of the Institute for Better Health, a 45-year old charitable organization dedicated to better mental and behavioral health.His work has been focused on developing a new behavioral science approach called Contextual Behavioral Science. He originated its underlying philosophical of science (Functional Contextualism), its basic science of human higher cognition (Relational Frame Theory or "RFT"), its application to individual psychological change (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy or Training, "ACT" in either case), and co-developed its application to the development of more cooperative groups (Prosocial). He has helped develop a model of human suffering and human prosperity (the Psychological Flexibility Model), a new method of analyzing processes of change (idionomic analysis), a new vision of what evidence-based intervention should be (Process-Based Therapy), and he has extended multidimensional and multilevel evolutionary thinking to human problems of all kinds. His work has been celebrated with several awards, such as the Lifetime Achievement Award from the Association for Behavioural and Cognitive Therapies and the Impact of Science on Application Award from the Society for the Advancement of Behaviour Analysis.With 47 books and nearly 700 scientific articles published, Dr. Hayes is one of the most cited psychologists in the world as he continues to innovate in the field of psychology.In this fascinating interview, we'll be exploring many areas regarding ourselves and our relationships and how increasing our psychological flexibility can be so important in our lives.What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course:  https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2.Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

Welcome to the Relationship Maze podcast, where we explore the complexities of the human experience.In today's episode we talk about the advantages and disadvantages of having a mental health diagnosis. In daily language many people refer to themselves or others as having a personality disorder - often very serious presentations are bandied about quite flippantly. Presentations can also be weaponised by one partner over the other, i.e. 'The only problem here is your Borderline Personality Disorder'. Personality Disorders as described in the DSM-5 are wide ranging and include Generalised Anxiety Disorder or Depression, for example. The DSM-5 is the standard classification manual for all mental health disorders for adults and children in the US. The other manual that health care professionals refer to, in particular in Europe, is the ICD-10.It can be very helpful to finally find out that the challenges that you face fall within cluster of presentations that are recognised as creating difficulties in your life; by the same token a diagnosis can also mean that you feel stuck  - and often helpless - in a particular identity.We discuss -who can diagnose a personality disorder or schizophrenia -what an assessment might look like -the challenges with diagnosing a mental health condition -the advantages of getting a diagnosis -the disadvantages of getting a diagnosis -the DSM V vs other models such as The Power Threat Meaning Framework -What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course:  https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2.Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

Welcome to the Relationship Maze podcast, where we explore the complexities of the human experience. In today's episode, we'll be discussing the topic of loneliness, a universal human experience that affects millions of people around the world. Loneliness is one of the hardest experiences one can have; as human beings we are hard wired to connect with others. At the extreme end, not experiencing any connection at all, is therefore a dehumanising experience for people who are profoundly lonely. Loneliness is not just about being alone, but rather a feeling of disconnection and isolation, even when surrounded by others. It can have a profound impact on our mental and physical health, and can lead to a range of negative outcomes, from depression and anxiety to increased risk of illness and  earlier mortality rates. But what causes loneliness, and how can we combat it?Join us as we explore the root causes of loneliness and isolation.  Learn strategies for building deeper connections and combating loneliness in our own lives.The Working Genius Identify their natural gifts and find joy and fulfillment in their work and life.

Find out about our comprehensive course to help you create fulfilling relationships on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.Welcome to the Relationship Maze podcast, where we explore the complexities of modern relationships. In today's episode, we'll be discussing seven signs that your relationship is working. Relationships can be challenging, but when things are going well, they can be a source of joy, support, and fulfilment. By paying attention to certain indicators, we can identify when our relationship is on the right track. From feeling secure and supported to having a shared vision for the future, we'll be exploring the common signs that indicate a relationship is healthy and fulfilling. Join us as we discuss these seven signs in depth, and offer insights for cultivating a happy and successful relationship. Whether you're in a long-term partnership or just starting out, this episode is packed with valuable insights for navigating the ups and downs of modern love.What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course:  https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2.Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.Smells Like HumansLike listening to funny friends discuss curious human behavior.Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify

Welcome to the Relationship Maze podcast, where we navigate the twists and turns of modern relationships. In today's episode, we'll be discussing seven signs that your relationship may be in difficulty. Relationships are at times complex and challenging, and it's not always easy to notice when troublesome patterns set in and become a persistent problem over the years. By the time partners know that there are issues that need addressing, the relationship might be in deep water already. By paying attention to certain warning signs, we can identify potential problems early on and take steps to address them. From loss of connection to communication breakdowns or loss of intimacy, we'll be exploring the common signs that indicate a relationship may be in trouble. Not paying attention to these red flags can jeopardise your relationship in the long run.Join us as we discuss these warning signs in depth, and offer strategies for addressing them and strengthening your relationship. Whether you're in a long-term partnership or just starting out, this episode is packed with valuable insights for navigating the ups and downs of modern love.

Find out about our comprehensive course to help you create fulfilling relationships on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.Welcome to the Relationship Maze podcast, where we explore the many facets of human emotion. In today's episode, we'll be exploring the elusive concept of happiness. Everyone wants it but what does it mean to be happy?In this episode we discuss what happiness might look like and how we can achieve this state of being. Is happiness a fleeting emotion or can it be sustained over time? Is happiness something outside of ourselves (e.g. an object or a goal) or is it something that we generate internally?We'll be briefly delving into some of the thinking about happiness, as well as exploring how the continued search can sometimes get in the way of having the experience of being happy.What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course:  https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2.Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.Welcome to the Relationship Maze podcast, where we delve into the complexities of the human experience. In today's episode, we'll be exploring the topic of social anxiety, a condition that affects millions of people around the world. Social anxiety is characterized by an intense fear of social situations and interactions, often leading to avoidance or distress. It can manifest in a variety of ways, from difficulty speaking in public to avoiding social events altogether. But what causes social anxiety, and how does it impact those who experience it? Join us as we dive deep into the world of social anxiety, and gain a greater understanding of this common yet often misunderstood condition.What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course:  https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2.Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.Welcome to the Relationship Maze podcast, where we explore the complexities of human relationships. In today's episode, we'll be diving into the topic of jealousy and how it affects relationships. Jealousy is a common emotion that can arise in any type of relationship, whether it's romantic, platonic, or professional. Jealousy is usually a fear of loosing someone you care for to someone else.  It can stem from a variety of sources, such as self-esteem, past experiences, or even a lack of trust. But how does jealousy impact relationships? Jealousy can present on a spectrum ranging from normal (reactive) jealousy to more troublesome presentations where a partner becomes increasingly controlling because their fear of loss becomes unbearable. At the extreme end, jealousy can lead to stalking or violence. Pathological forms of jealousy are often more related to forms of narcissism and self love rather than to loving a partner. Join us as we explore these questions and more, and gain a deeper understanding of how jealousy can shape our connections with others.What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course:  https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2.Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.