TELL The Everyday Life Lesson

Annica Author of Paperthin - dealing with parental betrayal - Part 1  In this compelling episode of "The Empowering Story," host Jean Dorff sits down with the courageous Annica Vidales, author of "Paper Thin," to delve deep into her harrowing yet inspiring journey of overcoming childhood sexual abuse. From the tender age of five, Annica faced unimaginable trauma at the hands of her father and uncle. Yet her story is not just one of victimhood but of resilience, strength, and ultimate empowerment. Key Highlights: - The Power of Listening: Jean emphasizes the critical role parents play in listening to their children and the devastating effects neglect can have, leading to feelings of shame and guilt.    - Brave Disclosure: At just five years old, Annica attempted to tell her father about her abuse. Explore how a different, supportive response could have shaped her childhood differently. - Coping with Trauma: Discover how Annica repressed memories, both good and bad, as a survival mechanism and how flashbacks and physical triggers unexpectedly surfaced during her teenage years, particularly during a game of "truth or dare." - Understanding Trauma Responses: Jean explains the fight, flight and freeze responses to trauma and how physical and sensory triggers can manifest unpredictably. - Boundary Setting and Relationships: Annica's journey highlights the challenges survivors face in setting boundaries and maintaining healthy relationships as a result of their past experiences. - A Path to Healing: Despite significant challenges, Annica began to cope by journaling, and later by writing her book "Paper Thin," a testament to her journey from trauma to empowerment. - Cultural Insights: Jean and Annica discuss cultural norms around family sauna usage and the implications these norms had on Annica's understanding of her abuse. - Community and Support: This podcast aims to create a platform where survivors can find solace, share their stories, and support each other in healing. Tune In: Join Jean and Annica for an emotionally powerful conversation that illuminates the complexities of surviving and thriving after abuse. Experience Annica's raw and unfiltered story and learn how she transformed her pain into strength, offering hope and guidance to others on a similar path. Engage with Us: - Book: "Paper Thin" by Annica Vidales https://library.theempoweringstory.com/paper-thin - Podcast Platforms: Available on Apple, Spotify, YouTube, and more. - Community: Join our Facebook group, "The Empowering Story," a safe space for women seeking healing through storytelling. - Website: Visit jeandorf.com and thempoweringstory.com for more resources. - Interact: Send us your questions and comments; your voice matters. This is not just a podcast; it's a movement. Join us on "The Empowering Story" as we learn, heal, and empower each other through the transformative power of storytelling. Click play to start your journey towards understanding and healing today.

Welcome to another powerful episode of The Empowering Story. I'm your host, Jean Dorff, and today; we delve deeply into the compelling and resilient journey of our guest, Elisabeth Henderson. In this third episode of our new format, Elisabeth opens up about a traumatic experience she initially tried to bury, the internal chaos and health issues that followed, and how her courageous path to healing has empowered herself and countless others. Elisabeth bravely shares her story of facing an attempted sexual assault by a trusted figure and the aftermath of suppressing the trauma, leading to severe mental and physical health struggles. We discuss her battle with an eating disorder, the importance of addressing suppressed emotions, and the transformative role of therapy in her healing process. Elizabeth's reflections underscore the complex interplay between outward success and internal turmoil, ultimately finding solace and strength through structured treatment and embracing her emotions without judgment. She also discusses the profound influence of music in her healing journey, particularly her passion for playing the harp. We explore her foray into classical music, her challenges in this competitive field, and how these experiences shaped her personal and professional life. Elisabeth's insights are entwined with her broader mission to support and empower others, a mission immortalized in her book, "The Courage to Own My Own Truth," available now on Amazon. Join us as we uncover the layers of Elisabeth's story, her dedication to sharing her truth, and the lessons we can all learn about resilience, community support, and the transformative power of owning one's narrative. This episode promises a poignant reminder that our trials can turn into powerful tales of triumph. Tune in for a heartfelt conversation meant to inspire and uplift.   Get Elisabeth's book The Courage To Own My Own Truth at: https://library.theempoweringstory.com/thecouragetoownmyowntruth   09:13 Elisabeth's depression addressed with dance and coaching. 10:02 Volunteered in music, then hired for coordination. 13:08 Dedicated musicians from top institutions living music. 17:04 Read the book; story's unique in writing. 21:17 Elisabeth helped classical music celebrity with luggage. 24:22 Elisabeth's size makes self-defense difficult, no shame. 28:13 Attempted rape, bravery, catharsis, sharing personal story. 32:19 Empower individuals to control life, learn, grow. 36:18 I wonder who else they've victimized. 36:49 Mentally and physically exhausted, disconnected from behaviors. 41:47 Trauma's lasting impact: confusion, fear, questioning societal issues. 45:56 Elisabeth's story: Positivity, performance art, classical music competitions. 48:27 How your experience led to publishing insights. 51:15 Healing from abuse takes patience and support. 53:22 Follow Jean's empowering story podcast and community.

This episode of The Empowering Story explores the profound impact of publishing survivor stories and why it is a crucial step in the healing process. We discuss how writing can help survivors process their trauma, reclaim their voices, and validate their experiences. Additionally, we highlight the empowering effects of sharing these stories publicly, both for the authors and the community. The episode also celebrates newly published books by brave women who have shared their journeys of survival and resilience. Join us as we uncover the transformative power of bringing these powerful narratives into the light.   The Courage To Own My Own Truth - From Hidden Pain To Healing Light - By Elisabeth G. Henderson https://library.theempoweringstory.com/thecouragetoownmyowntruth   Breaking the Chains of Silence - A Story Of Surviving Sexual Abuse - By J.D. Grace https://library.theempoweringstory.com/breakingthechains    

In this deeply personal episode of The Empowering Story, we explore the challenging journey of healing from sexual abuse. Our host, a survivor and coach, shares her experiences of pain, fear, and shame and the power of reclaiming her story. We delve into the importance of acknowledging our experiences and the transformative power of sharing our stories. We discuss the need for support and the realization that we are not alone. The episode highlights the potential to transform pain into purpose and trauma into strength. Our host shares her transformation and invites listeners to share their experiences. The episode aims to guide listeners on their healing journey, emphasizing that their stories matter and that they can reclaim their power. Despite the difficult path, the host assures listeners that finding strength in their story is worth it. The episode concludes with an invitation to walk this path together, share stories, find strength, and heal together. Tune in for an empowering discussion on finding strength in your story of sexual abuse.     Broken Silence By Jean Dorff: https://library.theempoweringstory.com/brokensilence    

Elian Haan is an author, TV show host of “Elian's Joy” and international motivational speaker and presenter. Born in the Netherlands, she moved in her thirties to the USA, trained in dance, theater, and fitness. She has spent most of her professional life in the fitness and wellness industry and is a certified life coach with a yoga studio and private practice in Texas. We'll talk about life coaching and empowering people.  Elian's new book is available on Amazon.com 60 Miles Away From Neiman's Her website www.elianhaan.com info@jeandorffcoaching.com  

Manifestation, Mental Energy  You want personal growth, Then call BS on big breakthroughs first! People expect that things will change quickly, dramatically and in a big amazing way. They however seldomly do. The idea of 'big breakthroughs' is wonderful, however, long-lasting personal growth requires small steps being taken every day that lead to measurable results. This misconception of how things really change often prevent people from really trying hard to become better. Gurus take advantage of the fact that people wanting to get results quickly and easily, by offering them courses, books, programs that promise them big breakthroughs. In this episode of TELL: Big Breakthrough BS support@jeandorffcoaching.com

Eps 224 - Manifestation and Mental Energy What does it cost us when we avoid doing what needs to be done? It is not that we are unaware of what needs to be done; we are quite conscious of what really needs to be done, then how come that we often don't do it anyhow? If it comes to doing things that are uncomfortable, difficult or challenging then it is actually quite natural that we try to avoid doing these. The point is how far are we willing to go to avoid doing what needs to be done?Often these are things that are confrontational, eg. confronting our lack of stamina when we need to exercises, confronting our partner when we want to express our true feelings or even confronting ourselves to deal with things from the past. In this Episode of TELL: What does it cost us when we avoid doing what needs to be done? support@jeandorffcoaching.com

We all want to know it...Do I have a Purpose in life? We all want to find meaning in our lives and feel that we have a purpose. Humans are born with the need for a purpose, we long for it and we could say purpose is a fundamental component of having a happy and healthy life. Now we can say that is great, but how do we know that what we are doing is aligned with our purpose and if we have a purpose, why is it then so difficult to know what our purpose is? In this Episode of TELL: We all want to know it...Do I have a Purpose in life? support@jeandorffcoaching.com

Maybe SMART Goals Are Not All That SMART? Most people are very interested in setting goals and how to reach them. Just type 'goal setting 'in a search engine such as Amazon or Google, and thousands of books and articles will appear. As a life coach, I like to set goals. My clients and I work together to develop strategies and tactics that help them to achieve their goals in life. Makes you wonder, If setting goals is so good, how could it possibly be bad? As with all things in life … it is not all bad, but it is certainly not all good either and it might be worse than you think...   In this episode of TELL : Maybe SMART Goals Are Not All That SMART?   support@jeandorffcoaching.com    

Are We Losing The Art Of Riding The Waves Of Life? For this week's episode I was inspired by something what one of my business coaches said. He said: "People always try to flatten out the waves of life" … I immediately thought that is so true … it fits what I always try to say too: you can't dictate how the waves go, but you can learn how to ride them. In other words you cannot always dictate the circumstances but you can choose how to react to them. Why is it that people, in vain, try to 'flatten the waves of life' instead of riding them? In this episode of TELL: Are we Losing The Art Of Riding The Waves Of Life? support@jeandorffcoaching.com

Is there a formula how to live life to the fullest? Life can be difficult enough, but we may manage it better if we, beside activities that challenge us, also include activities that make us feel comfortable and relaxed. Although happiness is not everything, an overall feeling of happiness is OK; in the long run, it will make us healthier. "To enjoy life is the best way to honor it." - unknown While happiness seems to be a very personal feeling and different for each individual, there might also be a general formula that can be applied by all of us to live life more to the fullest. In this episode of TELL: Is there a formula how to live life to the fullest?   support@jeandorffcoaching.com

Calling Bull***t on Your Beliefs We never directly experience reality, therefore our thoughts, feelings, actions, and reactions are always in response to the world as we see it Anais Nin said it perfectly "We do not see things as they are; we see them as we are". With this she described exactly the role our beliefs play in shaping how we perceive the world. You might wonder why is this importante to me? Well, we limit our personal growth and create unneeded suffering for ourselves when we are convinced that our perspective is the only possible one. In this episode of TELL: Calling Bull***t on Your Beliefs. support@jeandorffcoaching.com

The Hidden Pain Of The Lack of Imagination! Albert Einstein said, “Imagination is more important than knowledge. For knowledge is limited to all we now know and understand, while imagination embraces the entire world, and all there ever will be to know and understand.” Through imagination, people can explore ideas of things that are not physically present... But it goes further than that, more people than not are suffering from the lack of imagination. Many people feel that they have no or very limited creative ability, but very seldom do they know that the lack of creativity creates suffering in their life and the life of the people around them. In Episode 218 of TELL:  The Hidden Pain Of The Lack Of Imagination!   support@jeandorffcoaching.com

Meena McCullough is a Doctor of Physical therapy, practicing for over 10 years, Guest lecturer and Lab instructor at the University of North Texas Health Science Center, Orthopedic Outpatient PT, Founder of 'Body Spring' , Ballroom Dancer- and Lifelong Investigator of human movement, performance and pain. https://www.bodyspring.fit support@jeandorffcoaching.com

Wait what, there are not only 5 Love Languages, but also 5 Anger Languages? The book “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman has sold over 11 million copies and is frequently referred to by couples who are seeking “the secret to a love that lasts.” When so many people buy into a concept and relationship counselors use it in their practice then it must be true.... but is it really? Is there actual proof that the 5 Love Languages actually help us to improve our relationships? This in itself is already an interesting question to me, but it also raises the question: if there are Love Languages are there then also Fight or Anger Languages? Well indeed, according to some there are also 5 Anger Languages. Let's find out if these 'Languages' really help us in our relationships when we love and when we fight.   In this Episode of TELL: Wait what, there are not only 5 Love Languages, but also 5 Anger Languages?   

Learning styles do not really exist. Yet, 90 percent of teachers in any field continue to believe in them It is generally accepted that people learn better when they are taught in a method that suits their unique "learning style"—whether it be auditory, kinesthetic, visual, or a combination of the three. However  according to several studies, learners don't really benefit from their preferred learning style. Despite this data, a significant fraction of people continue to hold onto the myth, including members of the general public, educators, and even those with a training in neuroscience. In this Episode of TELL: Learning styles are a myth. Yet, 90 percent of teachers continue to believe in them   

Crap Stinks, But It Is Also Warm? The Myths About Our Comfort Zone... Our “comfort zone” isn't about comfort. It's actually about minimizing uncertainty, scarcity, and vulnerability. Even when we know intellectually there's so much more out there for us, our current situation feels more comfortable because it's what we know. As human beings we adapt remarkable well and quick to often extreme situations. We accept a 'new normal' and move on as if nothing happened and find a 'new comfort zone' in what before looked like an unsurmountable situation. That begs the question: how come that we don't use this adaptability more proactive to reach our goals and dreams? This Episode of TELL: The Truth About Our Comfort Zone Is, That It Isn't That Comfortable At All...

Why Cancel Culture Is Not Only Harmful For 'Victims', But Harmful For Others Too...?   Social media and the ability to call someone out for their words or behaviour is a powerful thing. However, cancelling or judgement can often be rooted in anger, with both sides shouting at the other, and can often hinder, rather than accelerate, a cause.   Cancellation is more than a teaching moment; it's a harsh punishment and public shaming. It's damaging for the mental health of those who are cancelled, but the harmful effects of cancel culture also extend to the cancelers and the bystanders. Cancel culture isn't just near-sighted; it is fiercely focused on the past without ever considering the future, it's harmful, not fair, and rules out empathy. This Episode of TELL: How Harmful Is Our Cancel Culture?

No matter what you do, your health is temporary!   In an article from Dr Yoo Yung Kim I read: "Even if you were the most health-conscious person in the world–exercising, experiencing zero stress, getting lots of sleep, and eating a balanced diet–health is temporary. No matter what we do, our body and mind will eventually break down and cease to function." This shift in perspective can be the strongest motivation to change our habits and many more things to live longer with a higher quality of life.   This epsiode of TELL: Is our health temporary?   support@jeandorffcoaching.com

Does freedom of choice really exist or are people's choices shaped by powers outside their control? Free will is the idea that humans have the ability to make their own choices and determine their own fates. Is a person's will free, or are people's lives in fact shaped by powers outside of their control? The question of free will has long challenged philosophers and religious thinkers, and scientists have examined the problem from psychological and neuroscientific perspectives as well.   In this episode of TELL: Does freedom of choice really exist?   

Does Failure Really Help Us To Succeed Or Is That A Modern Myth?  "We learn through our failures, therefore fail fast" is a modern coaching's mantra, but does failure actually deliver as promised? Do we learn from failure, more than we learn from success? Does failure offer us important lessons about life and success or is that a modern myth? In this episode of TELL: Do we really learn from failures or is that a modern myth?   support@jeandorffcoaching.com

Don't Let People See Your Storm, Show Them How You Ride It! When strong emotions overcome you like a hurricane, sometimes the only thing we can think about is how to calm these emotions. But trying to will a tornado down is no more possible than trying to will your emotions down. Instead, the best course of action in both circumstances is learning to ride out the storm. This episode at TELL: Don't Let People See Your Storm, Show Them How You Ride It! info@jeandorffcoaching.com

I am not always as I seem! A known saying is "things are not always ast they seem", well if it is true for things then it is most likely also true for people, for us and hence also for me. I personally am very aware of the fact that I am not always as I seem, and perhaps for good reasons. This episode of TELL: I am not always as I seem! info@jeandorffcoaching.com

If you want to be trusted, be trustworthy!   We often say quickly: "you can trust me", but how trustworthy are we? Is being trustworthy a character trade or is it a skill that can be learned? In relationships, in work, let's say life in general it is important that we can trust others, it is important that other people can trust us, but also that we can trust ourselves. Stephen Covey says: "If you want to be trusted, be trustworthy." Before you say, people can trust me, let us delve deeper into this topic. Did you know for instance that performance is measured in the corporate world but trustworthiness almost never? That's remarkable as high performance teams like the US Navy Seals rank trustworthiness higher than performance. "We rather take some one that scores high on trustworthiness and mediocre on performance than the other way around." ~ Seals Leadership Abuse victims have a hard time trusting others and themselves. So this episode of TELL: How can I be trustworthy to others and myself? info@jeandorffcoaching.com

How do you deal with disappointment?   Dealing with or managing disappointment is one of the keys to success in life and love (relationships). Not all disappointments are the same and therefore we cannot deal with every disappointment in the same way. What always makes a difference in managing disappointment is our mindset towards and about the disappointment itself. I'll give you 4 ways how to deal differently with disappointment and we'll go more in depth for those of you who have been through traumatic experiences (like abuse), because for you it is sometimes extra hard to deal with certain kind of disappointments. In this episode: How to deal (successfully) with disappointment! info@jeandorffcoaching.com

Victoria Regan is a former US Latin Champion, 5X Canadian Ballroom and Latin Champion, N. American 10 Dance Champion and British Latin Finalist. Broadway credits include the Original Cast of "42nd Street"and Broadway and the National Tour of "Grand Hotel." She played"LaFleur"in the musical "Nine" in Naples, Florida. Ms. Regan Appears in the films "A Chorus Line" and "Annie" and has performed in many concerts. Victoria is the Global Ambassador for Arthur Murray, Inc. Victoria is a Guest Artist with the "Broadway Theatre Project" in Tampa originated by Ann Reinking and now Debra McWaters. She has her own series of Ballroom Dance Tapes titled, "You Can Dance". With all the accolades and achievements Victoria has from Dance and Theatre you might think that we will talk about that mostly. For sure that would have made a interesting podcast, but we'll talk more about why it is important to chase your dreams, put your life in service of others and empowering others while you do all this… www.victoriaregan.com info@jeandorffcoaching.com  

TELL The Every Day Life Lesson Podcast is featuring a special guest: Dustin Wiggins Dustin comes from a long line of entertainers. Art and music is in his blood. From the entertainment capital of the world, Dustin was raised in Las Vegas, NV. It was there he developed a desire to fight against abuse and sexual assault. Using his experience in the US military he took principles from the Modern Army Combatives Program, Mastery Resilience Training and additional training as a RAD (Rape Aggression Defense) instructor and blended it into a course called Always Be Strong. He is passionate about serving others and strives to add value to each human soul he interacts with. His current efforts to serve can be found at www.DustinWiggins.com   Get the basic course 'Always Be Strong' from Dustin for Free by sending an email to: jean@jeandorffcoaching.com

The Lies We Tell Ourselves! As we go through life we tell and re-tell our life stories, to others and to ourselves. Do we stick to the facts or do we add things with each time we tell our story? I'm an author of a bestselling book in which I write part of my life story at least the way how I remember it, but maybe more so the way how I want others to hear it or the way how I want to hear it. If one person tells a story to another and the other tells that story to someone else and this person in his turn tells it to another person and-so-forth and-so-forth, we all know that by the 10th person the story has changed quite drastically. This is not so different when we tell and re-tell our own story. The questions to ask here are: Why is that, and is that so bad? info@jeandorffcoaching.com

Should we have been mentally better prepared for the injustice in the world?   Several accounts from holocaust survivors were like this: 'The worst emotional damage of the Holocaust for me and many other victims was an absolute loss of faith in humanity.” How often did I feel this too, not saying that I was in a comparable situation like the holocaust, but as a victim of child abuse, I often doubt the goodness of human beings as well. If I look at today's crisis I wonder: maybe we shouldn't be so surprised that something like Russia invading Ukraine still happens in 2022. Perhaps it is my faith in human beings that is simply too naive?   This week we'll try to give an answer to the question: should we be (mentally) better prepared for unfairness and injustice, instead of having faith in humanity? info@jeandorffcoaching.com

Are you using your (unique) abilities to change today's crisis?   The overwhelming situation of what's going on in the world can make us feel that whatever we are doing is trivial and of no or less meaning. It can make us feel powerless and but a vapor on the tides of world events. But maybe we are more powerful than we think? And maybe we have more influence on changing these situations than we believe or at least be a support in the situation of the people around us. info@jeandorffcoaching.com

Are we selfish if we admit to our own fears during today's crisis? All the people I spoke to this week were in awe and disbelief of what's happening between Russia and Ukraine. They all expressed deep sympathy for the 'common people' who are thrown in times of turmoil and uncertainty.   I also noticed personal fear in the people I spoke to, not only in them, but also in myself... Should we give that fear attention or concentrate our focus on the people who are in direct need? This week we'll try to give an answer to this question.   info@jeandorffcoaching.com

We all say we that we want freedom to make our own choices ... but are we secretly AFRAID of FREEDOM? Afraid of what you might ask, perhaps we are all afraid that we can't handle it or don't know how to deal with true FREEDOM... providing that true freedom is something that really exists. This week at the place we'll look at the current cry for freedom we hear around us, but at the same time where we ask for freedom in one area we might not even know that we don't use the freedom we already have in another. info@jeandorffcoaching.com

It really helps if we learn how to suck at what we do.Well at least if we want to be really good at what we do, no matter what it is. The 3 things that stops us in our tracks to become really good at things: We often expect results too quickly We are ashamed to be a beginner or to suck at what we do We take what others think of what we do too much into account All this goes away if we learn how to suck at what we do... info@jeandorffcoaching.com

The question we try to answer today is: should we let others dictate our actions? It seems like there is an obvious answer... but is it really that obvious? or is there more to it?    This Episode of TELL - Should we let others dictate our actions?    ☕️ Found this episode helpful and want to buy me a coffee? https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jean7  

We think we live in our body, but most of us are trained to live in our mind.    In this episode of TELL: We need to relearn how to be in our body.    ☕️ Found this episode helpful and want to buy me a coffee? https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jean7    

ot only a common sayings but often used in coaching as well is: "Let's worry about that when we get there". Surface deep, this sounds like good advice. Well I honestly think that it is most of the time a bit of rubbish. However we might live more by this 'credo' then we are aware of.    This Episode of TELL - If we want to cross a bridge when we get there, we better make sure there is a bridge to cross.     

Only for a minority of U.S. citizens, dining out is a treat that they plan and budget for. But for the majority, eating out or buying a takeaway is the norm almost every night of the week. Is that a trend we only see in the US? Maybe for where it comes to eating out, but considering 'cooking' vs 'ordering in' the trends are not so different.    Is Home Cooking becoming a lost art and what more do we miss because of it. There are perhaps a few obvious benefits of cooking at home but there are quite a few more we don't always think about.    This week at The Place - The Benefits of Home Cooking and the downsides of not cooking at home. 

First of all best wishes for the year 2022.  2022 is this just another number or is there more to it? Are we defined by numbers? Our date of birth, our length, the income we make, the score on a test etc ..    info@jeandorffcoaching.com

In a world full of outside influences, it is sometimes hard to know who we are or what makes us, us. Maybe others can tell us a lot about our motivations and what our core values are by the date that we were born or perhaps by looking in a crystal ball ... In my beliefs The Enneagram (Typology System) helps us in a way more accurate way to explain who we truly are.  In this episode of TELL - What is The Enneagram and why should we care? Info@jeandorffcoaching.com

What if you have the feeling that you don't know who the person is staring back at you when you look into the mirror.  support@jeandorffcoaching.com

A common saying is: "I believe it when I see it", but strangely enough we also see it because we believe it ... and I'm not talking about the religious kind of believing. What if the beliefs we have aren't true? Does that mean that what we see isn't true?  We all have deep-rooted, deeply limiting beliefs about ourselves and the world around us that just aren't true. To make lasting change in our lives, we need to be willing to challenge the beliefs we have.   support@jeandorffcoaching.com

Interview with Stephanie McPherson aka “SteFunny”; She is energetic, passionate, driven to help people, empower them and get them into a purposeful life.  She is also the Creator and Host of the podcast, Empowered Conversations and the Cooking Show, DeFaRekinLicious™. Her passion is to empower and inspire others to be the best version of themselves possible through the commitment to one's self and one's life. She believes in Living life "On Purpose"!

Is there such a thing as pre-destiny and a great master plan, or is everything just a matter of coincidences, chance and luck?  Or is there something more to it and do fate and pre-destiny determine our lives?     This week on TELL The Every Day Life Lesson we'll see if everything is just a matter of coincidences or whether there is more to it.    info@jeandorffcoaching.com

There is much talk about self talk or our inner voice, should we listen to it or not?  In this episode of TELL we'll find out that it is actually quite okay to listen to your inner voice, well that is ... if you know how. info@jeandorffcoaching.com

Visualize your success and you will get it, is what many 'coaching gurus' try to sell you. There is a lot of good merit in using visualization techniques, but it also has serious drawbacks. info@jeandorffcoaching.com 

We live in times where it seems that we always need to look at the bright sight of life, where we always need to be positive. Although this sounds good, trying to be positive all the time can be very toxic and bad for your (mental) health.   

Why do we let other people dim our lights and play it small? We all have on one side a need for community and a need to belong, while on the other side we have a need for significance and self expression ... These can be very conflicting needs but both sides need to be fulfilled.  jean@jeandorffcoaching.com

'Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change" - Brené Brown There is a profound difference between shame and guilt.  Guilt is about feeling bad about something we did. Shame is about feeling bad about ourselves. Simply said shame causes us for nor reaching our goals and live life to the fullest, but it can also cause us for not getting or not knowing how to get the often so needed support  in anything we want achieved. jean@jeandorffcoaching.com

I know Death, not a very popular topic for most people, but certainly an issue we all will have to face at least one time in our life.    jean@jeandorffcoaching.com

The cycles and rhythm of nature, the universe but more specifically about the cycle's and rhythms of you.   support@jeandorffcoaching.com