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Is It Okay to Stay in a Relationship If You're No Longer in Love?

Welcome to Not Your Average Counsellor 2025! I'm back with bold, thought-provoking conversations on relationships, mental health, and personal growth. This season, we're shaking things up with big questions like:

Have you ever wondered if you're in a toxic relationship but just can't quite put your finger on what feels off? Maybe you're questioning if it's you or them. Toxic relationships aren't limited to romantic partners. These unhealthy dynamics can show up with friends, family, and even colleagues. You might not even realise how much they're affecting your mental and emotional well-being until you know what to look for. In this episode, we continue the conversation from Part 1, where I shared Jane's story to show you firsthand how toxic relationships can play out. In this episode, we dive further into the behaviours that make these relationships so damaging—things like manipulation, control, and emotional abuse. If you've ever felt drained or confused, this episode is packed with insights to help you spot the red flags and take back control. If you haven't listened to Part 1 yet, I highly recommend starting there so you can fully understand how these dynamics unfold. Take a moment for yourself today and tune in. It might just be the clarity you've been looking for. If after listening, you feel you need extra support, my team and I are always here to help you navigate these challenges. Feel free to book in a ​FREE 15 minute chat​ to discuss how we can support you. Additional Support Services Support for Victims of Financial Abuse Hotlines and Helplines 1800RESPECT White Ribbon Australia Banking Support Most banks have dedicated services to assist victims of financial abuse. Contact your bank directly or visit their website for detailed information and support numbers. Domestic Violence Shelters Many shelters provide financial counselling and resources to help victims regain independence. (See resources below.) Support for Victims of Physical Abuse Domestic Violence Shelters: Family and Domestic Violence Women's Refuges Hotlines and Helplines: 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732 or text 0458 737 732 Non-Profit Organizations: Centre for Women's Safety & Wellbeing, White Ribbon Australia Legal Assistance: Legal Aid Western Australia

Jane's story is one I can't keep to myself—it's too important. Jane walked into my office with a smile that hid the pain she had carried for years. On the surface, she seemed to have it all—young, intelligent, beautiful, and financially independent. But beneath that, she was grappling with a toxic relationship that drained her energy, poisoned her self-worth, and left her questioning her reality. And Jane isn't alone. I've seen more and more women, just like her, endure these same struggles. But let me be clear—this story isn't just for women. Toxic relationships affect people of all genders—the pain, confusion, and damage that come with being in these kinds of toxic dynamics. In this episode, I unpack what it means to be in a toxic relationship, how to recognise the signs, and most importantly, how to navigate your way through it. You'll hear Jane's story (shared with permission), shining a light on a new kind of toxicity that often hides in plain sight—relationships that might not involve physical violence but still take an immense toll. Here's what you'll learn: What defines a toxic relationship and how they can show up in romantic, family, or even friendship dynamics. Why you might feel like you're constantly walking on eggshells or doubting your feelings. The subtle but powerful ways toxicity erodes your sense of self. Jane's name has been changed—not because she's hiding, but because she's been silenced by the legal system. This story is her voice, and mine, speaking out for those who feel they've lost theirs. If you've ever felt like you're navigating a relationship that's tearing you apart instead of building you up, this episode is for you. If after listening, you feel you need extra support, my team and I are always here to help you navigate these challenges. Feel free to book in a ​FREE 15 minute chat​ to discuss how we can support you. Additional Support Services Support for Victims of Financial Abuse Hotlines and Helplines 1800RESPECT White Ribbon Australia Banking Support Most banks have dedicated services to assist victims of financial abuse. Contact your bank directly or visit their website for detailed information and support numbers. Domestic Violence Shelters Many shelters provide financial counselling and resources to help victims regain independence. (See resources below.) Support for Victims of Physical Abuse Domestic Violence Shelters: Family and Domestic Violence Women's Refuges Hotlines and Helplines: 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732 or text 0458 737 732 Non-Profit Organizations: Centre for Women's Safety & Wellbeing, White Ribbon Australia Legal Assistance: Legal Aid Western Australia    

Are you in the position where you're not just a son or daughter anymore, but also a caregiver to your parents? This is something I'm going through myself right now, and I know how overwhelming it can feel. In this episode I explore what this generational role reversal really means and why it happens. I also share my own experience navigating this journey, which, to be honest, I'm still figuring out. Listen to discover: Understanding why our roles change with our parents as they age. How to manage the emotional rollercoaster that comes with caregiving. The impact on family dynamics and relationships, especially with siblings. Practical tips for managing your own well-being, and finding support. Whether you're already in this role or seeing it on the horizon, this episode offers insights and advice to help you navigate this space with empathy, patience, and strength. If after listening, you feel you need extra support, my team and I are always here to help you navigate these challenges. Feel free to book in a FREE 15 minute chat to discuss how we can support you. I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist If you aren't following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. And finally check out my counselling practice and services offered here.

Let's face it—every relationship has its share of arguments. Whether it's over something small like leaving the toothpaste cap off or bigger issues like money, disagreements are totally normal. But here's the thing: conflict doesn't have to be a bad thing. When handled right, it can actually bring you closer! In this episode I talk about why these arguments happen and, more importantly, how to get through them without losing your cool. Here's a bit of what we cover: Why conflicts happen: Understanding the root cause is key. What emotions drive your reactions: Recognising these can make a huge difference. Simple strategies to handle arguments better: A few easy changes can turn things around. If you've ever felt stuck in the same old arguments or just want to handle conflict better, this one is for you! I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist If you're interested in couples therapy? Check out my Creating Intimacy counselling program that has helped more than 100 couples regain connection, passion, respect, understanding and trust. If you aren't following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. And finally check out my counselling practice and services offered here.

This one is for couples who have embarked or are about to embark on the exhilarating roller-coaster ride of parenthood – the ups, the downs, and everything in between. Join me and Chelsea Morgan, (Counsellor, Teacher, Rapid Transformational Therapist, and Mum) as we share practical tips, tools, and insights to help you navigate the unpredictable waters of parenthood with resilience and unity. We discuss: How you and your partner can remain a team in the transition to and throughout parenthood The value of surrender The effects of sleep deprivation and juggling caregiving responsibilities, and how to handle these challenges Navigating identity shifts and keeping romance alive amidst the chaos (spoiler alert: it can be done, it just looks different) Practical frameworks and conversation prompts to minimise reactivity and defensiveness Ways to divvy up parenting responsibilities fairly How to make time for self-care without feeling like you're neglecting your family The importance of leaning on support networks when the going gets tough and so much more! No matter where you are in your parenthood journey, if you're keen to build a stronger bond with your partner and create a supportive, stable and enjoyable environment for your family, this episode is perfect for you. I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist If you're interested in couples therapy? Check out my Creating Intimacy counselling program that has helped more than 100 couples regain connection, passion, respect, understanding and trust. Additionally, if you would like to know more about Counsellor, Chelsea Morgan and the support she offers check out our website and reach out to book in a session. If you aren't following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. And finally check out my counselling practice and services offered here.

When you hear the word intimacy, what comes to mind? If your thoughts go straight to the bedroom, you're not alone. But intimacy is so much more than what happens between the sheets. In my latest podcast episode I sit down with Sexologist Erika Shaw for an open and honest conversation about the true essence of intimacy. We'll chat about: The real deal on intimacy: It's not just about the physical stuff. Creating intimacy: What you really need to build a strong connection. Red flags: How to know if true intimacy is missing in your relationship. Self-love: Why your relationship with yourself is the key to intimacy with your partner. Emotional connection: Tips that actually work to strengthen your bond. Communication: How to talk to each other to boost intimacy. Reigniting the spark: Finding desire in what you already have instead of looking for something new. So, if you're curious about deepening your relationship or just want to understand intimacy better, this episode is perfect for you. Tune in and learn how to connect more deeply with yourself and your partner through our juicy conversation. I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist If you're interested in couples therapy? Check out my Creating Intimacy counselling program that has helped more than 100 couples regain connection, passion, respect, understanding and trust. Additionally, if you would like to know more about Sexologist, Erika Shaw and the support she offers check out our website and reach out to book in a session. If you aren't following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. And finally check out my counselling practice and services offered here.

You know that feeling when everything in your relationship feels just right? But then, suddenly, things start to shift, and you're left wondering why? Well, it often comes down to evolving priorities. In this podcast episode, I explore why our priorities shift and how this impacts our relationships, because relationships aren't static, they grow and change just like we do. Understanding these changes can help you navigate your relationship more smoothly and keep it thriving. I'll also: discuss the different stages of a relationship and how our priorities shift through each phase – from the early Honeymoon Period, when everything feels new and exciting, to navigating significant life events that can test even the strongest of bonds; share real-life stories and practical tips to help you manage these stages and life transitions. For example, I'll talk about how a couple might handle a career change, the arrival of a new baby, health challenges, or pursuing a new passion; and chat about so much more! Listen now to learn more about how to keep your relationship strong amidst all the evolving priorities and changes life throws your way. I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist If you're interested in couples therapy? Check out my Creating Intimacy counselling program that has helped more than 100 couples regain connection, passion, respect, understanding and trust. If you aren't following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. And finally check out my counselling practice and services offered here.

Ever feel like money talk in your relationship sets off a ticking time bomb? This podcast episode is all about defusing that tension and finding financial harmony with your partner. In this episode, I'm thrilled to have Breanna May with me. She's an educator, business mentor, mindset magician, CEO, speaker, and the mastermind behind the Money Mindset Program. Together, we dive into our personal money stories and share how we handle financial matters in our own relationships. Plus, we discuss the everyday support we offer to others dealing with similar challenges. Here's a sneak peek at what we cover: Breaking money taboos Why your personal relationship with money is crucial for your financial health as a couple Common reasons couples struggle with money and conversations around it Practical solutions to money issues that start with the basics—not just the numbers, including: Discovering your individual and shared values and narratives about money Having meaningful conversations about money by thinking of it as a person – exploring how you talk about it, how you feel about it, and what you say behind its back, along with insights from your upbringing Pinpointing what's important to you both as individuals and as a couple, then setting financial goals together We also touch on the parallels between shame around money and sex/pleasure, especially for women And so much more! It's a conversation packed with insights and practical advice that will no doubt help you and your partner navigate the financial aspects of your relationship more smoothly. I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist To find out more about Breanna May check out her Instagram, website and sign up to her Money Mindset Waitlist here. If you're interested in couples therapy? Check out my Creating Intimacy counselling program that has helped more than 100 couples regain connection, passion, respect, understanding and trust. If you aren't following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. And finally check out my counselling practice and services offered here.  

You know, we often talk about the magic of weddings – the love, the excitement, the promise of forever. But what about after the confetti settles and reality kicks in? That's exactly what we're exploring in this episode. It's all about delving into the journey from "I do" to the daily grind and the realities of day-to-day married life. In this episode, I tackle common issues like unmet expectations, communication breakdowns, the impact of stress on your relationship, as well as managing household chores and navigating major life transitions. And just like in all my podcasts, this episode provides actionable steps you can take to strengthen your relationship. From setting realistic expectations to prioritising connection, you'll walk away with valuable insights that can transform your marriage. Whether you're a newlywed or have been married for years, there's something in this episode for everyone. I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist If you're interested in couples therapy? Check out my Creating Intimacy counselling program that has helped more than 100 couples regain connection, passion, respect, understanding and trust. If you aren't following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. And finally check out my counselling practice and services offered here.

Get ready to laugh, nod along, and maybe even facepalm as we tackle one of the biggest relationship roadblocks: miscommunication. Yep, we've all been there, expecting our partner to magically read our minds or completely misinterpreting what they're trying to say. It's like a comedy of errors, but in real life! From those confusing text exchanges to the dreaded silent treatment, I've got stories that'll have you saying, "Yep, been there!" But hey, I'm not just here to point out how we get it wrong. Nope, I've got your back with some tried-and-true solutions. Throughout the episode, I'll be dishing out practical tips to help you overcome those communication hurdles and deepen your connection with your partner. From mastering active listening to sprinkling in a little vulnerability in your convos, and even fine-tuning your texting game, my latest episode is your playbook for relationship success. So, what are you waiting for? Dive into my latest episode now and discover the secrets to smoother communication in your relationship. Trust me, your future self will thank you for it! I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist If you're interested in couples therapy? Check out my Creating Intimacy counselling program that has helped more than 100 couples regain connection, passion, respect, understanding and trust. If you aren't following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. And finally check out my counselling practice and services offered here.

You know that feeling when everything just clicks in a relationship? That's trust at work. It's the secret sauce that keeps relationships steady and strong. But here's the kicker—it's often misunderstood. In this episode, I'll dive deep into the essence of trust, revealing its critical role not only in romantic connections, but also in friendships, family dynamics, and work relationships. I'll show you how to cultivate trust, setting the stage for stronger, more meaningful connections in every area of your life. But that's not all. I'll also pull back the curtain on trust and expose what truly undermines it. Spoiler alert: it's not always what you expect. While infidelity and dishonesty certainly erode trust, the real culprit is often the lack of consistency and reliability—the small, everyday things that we often overlook. From keeping promises to remembering the little details, it's these tiny acts of consistency that either build trust up or tear it down. So, whether you're navigating trust issues or just want to improve trust in your relationships, you will want to listen to this one. I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist If you're interested in couples therapy? Check out my Creating Intimacy counselling program that has helped more than 100 couples regain connection, passion, respect, understanding and trust. If you aren't following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. And finally check out my counselling practice and services offered here.

Ever walked into your bedroom after a long day, only to be greeted by your partner's stinky jocks lounging on the floor, just inches away from the laundry basket? Yep, been there, felt that frustration. In this episode, I'm diving into the messy world of household chores, where laundry, leaving the toilet seat up, and dirty dishes become the epicentre of relationship drama. As a therapist, I've had my fair share of ringside seats to the chore wars, and let me tell you, it's quite the spectacle. But here's the thing – it doesn't have to be. That's why I'm shining a light on why these seemingly mundane tasks can explode into stress bombs and, most importantly, how to disarm them. So, if you're tired of the chore war drama, do yourself a favour and tune in for some practical tips to help you tackle chore conflicts effectively. Because let's face it, nobody wins in the chore war game – it's all about finding that sweet spot in the middle. Trust me, this listen is worth every minute. I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist If you're interested in couples therapy? Check out my Creating Intimacy counselling program that has helped more than 100 couples regain connection, passion, respect, understanding and trust. Also in this episode I mentioned the Structured App, an all-in-one day planner combining calendar, to-do list, and habit tracker into a single timeline find out more here. If you aren't following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. And finally check out my counselling practice and services offered here.

When change comes knocking, do you find yourself hesitating to answer? Hey, you're not alone! That's why this episode is all about change – that inevitable part of life that has a knack for leaving us feeling stuck. Listen as I take a deep dive into the psychology of change, unravelling why it can feel like such a head-scratcher. I'll chat about why we resist change, even when it could lead to some serious personal growth and resilience. And let's not forget why we often hold onto the familiar for dear life when the unknown holds so much potential. So, tune in now for some strategies on kicking fear of change to the curb and practical tips for getting prepped, taking action, and sticking to it. But wait, there's more! I'll also share a story about an incredible couple I had the privilege of working with and how through embracing change they found their way back to each other. And speaking of unexpected blessings, I've got a personal story to share too. It's about a tough situation that shook up my family – one that demanded change, action, and acceptance. But you know what? That sh%t stick delivered an unexpected gift that keeps on giving to this day. I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist If you're interested in knowing more about #memyselfandi Mastery Program, hop on the waitlist to be the first access information on the program including an exclusive discount offer. If you aren't following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. Check out my counselling practice and services offered here.

My latest episode features Jo, whose journey to self-advocacy is nothing short of inspiring. Despite being in her 60s and having limited experience with therapy, Jo discovered her voice and courage through participating in my ​#memyselfandi Mastery Program.​ In this episode, you'll hear Jo's personal story of growth and empowerment, where she: Proves that it's never too late to embark on a journey of self-discovery and transformation. Bravely shares her struggles with self-advocacy, people-pleasing tendencies, and the challenges of prioritising self-care. Learns invaluable strategies for saying no, prioritising what she needs, and re-evaluating her beliefs and values. Develops a newfound sense of responsibility for her own wellbeing. Discovers the resilience to navigate life's challenges with grace and confidence. Jo's story is not just about the power of personal development; it's a reminder that personal growth knows no age limit. Whether you're in your 20s or your 60s, Jo's journey serves as a reminder that it's never too late to prioritise your own growth and wellbeing. I have no doubt that you'll walk away feeling inspired and empowered to embark on your own journey of self-discovery. Speaking of… doors close for my ​#memyselfandi Mastery Program​ this Friday, find out more and secure your place ​here​ before 12pm, 1 March 2024 (AWST). If you aren't following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. Check out my counselling practice and services offered here.

Ever feel like life's a constant battle between trying to be in control and dealing with unexpected craziness? Yes! I feel you and that's why in this episode I'm going to unpack the whole idea of mastering control and finding some calm in the chaos. I'll also dive deep into something I like to call the 'Control Conundrum, why absolute control is just an illusion and how to handle the stuff that's really in your hands. And as always, I keep it simple by giving you the tools, practical tips, and insights to help you find that sweet spot between being the boss and letting life do its thing. Doors are NOW OPEN for my #memyselfandi Mastery Program! Access your $1000 discount if you sign up before 12pm, Tuesday 20 February 2024 (AWST). If you aren't following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. Check out my counselling practice and services offered here.

In this episode, we dive into something special: a conversation with one of my #memyselfandi Mastery Program participants as she shares her journey from feeling unsupported and unappreciated to becoming empowered and deeply connected with everything she needs. Theresa's story is one many women can relate to… Juggling the demands of being a young Mum while trying to balance work, marriage and family life. And the uncomfortable feelings that come up when your priorities become out of sync. Tune in for honest conversation and a treasure trove of insights and lessons learned as we explore how through my #memyselfandi Mastery Program, Theresa gained clarity and support and finally learnt ways to prioritise her needs without guilt. Hear first-hand how some 18 months later Theresa's transformation continues and how: her relationship with her husband has blossomed into a true partnership. she's now a more present and patient mother. professionally, she exudes confidence and competence. now advocating for herself comes naturally, and she's adept at identifying and prioritising her needs. Don't miss out on this inspiring journey of personal growth and empowerment. I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist Doors open for my #memyselfandi Mastery Program NEXT WEEK! Hop on the waitlist to be the first access information on the program including an exclusive discount offer. If you aren't following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. Check out my counselling practice and services offered here.

Negative thought patterns, we all have them, right? It's like a never-ending loop of "worst-case scenarios" running through your head. At the core of negative thoughts is fear and in this week's episode I'll give you the tools to take back control. Join me as we uncover why we tend to let negative thoughts run amok and how to challenge them. We'll also explore common thinking traps and learn how to outsmart them. So, whether you tend to exaggerate problems or see things in black and white, this episode is for you. As promised you can access the Cognitive Distortions list discussed in this podcast here. I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist If you're interested in knowing more about #memyselfandi Mastery Program, hop on the waitlist to be the first access information on the program including an exclusive discount offer. If you aren't following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. Check out my counselling practice and services offered here.

This episode is your ticket to mastering overwhelm. I'm sharing practical tools and tips to help you navigate life when it's in overdrive because, let's face it, overwhelm is just part of the gig. Whether it's work, family, or just the everyday chaos, I've got your back. Tune in for: Personal insights: Understand how overwhelm may hit you. Signs to spot: Learn to identify your unique "Hold Up" signals. Practical coping tips: Get real, actionable strategies to cut through the overwhelm. If you've ever felt the weight of overwhelm, this episode is for you. Hit play now and grab your personal roadmap to finding zen in the madness. I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist If you're interested in knowing more about #memyselfandi Mastery Program, hop on the waitlist to be the first access information on the program including an exclusive discount offer. If you aren't following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. Check out my counselling practice and services offered here.

In this episode I tackle the fascinating and equally frustrating world of assumptions and how they can either make or break the bonds we have those with those around us. Tune in for: Real-life, relatable examples of how assumptions can sneak into your relationships, causing misunderstandings. Practical tips for managing assumptions in your relationships. Insight into the power of empathy in transforming connections with those closest to you. Solutions for improving how you communicate. While this episode focuses on romantic relationships, the insights and tips are universal – applicable to friendships, family ties, and beyond. Your journey to healthier, more meaningful relationships begins now! Hit play to discover the secrets to creating stronger connections today. I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist If you're interested in knowing more about #memyselfandi Mastery Program, hop on the waitlist to be the first access information on the program including an exclusive discount offer. If you aren't following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. Check out my counselling practice and services offered here.

In this episode I spill the tea on preventing burnout and keeping that inner fire ablaze. We'll cover: Exploring the essence of your inner fire. Spotting subtle signs of burnout and how it can sneak up on you. Easy practices to integrate into your life for burnout prevention. Finding that perfect balance between stoking the flames and taking a breather. And here's the extra scoop – I'll be sharing some of my personal experiences with burnout, giving you an inside look at what I did to keep my flames burning bright. I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist Sign up for my FREE Self-Care Challenge and kickstart your journey to a more balanced life. If you're interested in knowing more about #memyselfandi Mastery Program, hop on the waitlist to be the first access information on the program including an exclusive discount offer. If you aren't following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. Check out my counselling practice and services offered here.

Life can be a wild ride, full of unexpected twists that leave us shouting, "WTF!" Yet just like a rollercoaster ride there can be ' breathtaking ‘Aha!' moments too. In my latest podcast, we're tackling the art of making sense of it all – from the confusing 'WTF' to the eye-opening 'Aha!' Join me as we explore: Why the strong urge to make sense of life's curveballs? The secrets to turning head-scratching 'WTF' moments into lightbulb 'Aha!' revelations. The questions you should be asking yourself to shift your perspective and move through the confusion to clarity. I'll also share a personal story that sheds light on how questioning the 'why' can lead to more heartache, demonstrating how our brains work overtime to make sense of tough situations. And that's just the tip of the iceberg! I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist If you're interested in knowing more about #memyselfandi Mastery Program, hop on the waitlist to be the first access information on the program including an exculsive discount offer. If you aren't following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. Check out my counselling practice and services offered here.

In this episode, I dive into the world of anger and rage – those powerful emotions that can really shake things up in our relationships, wellbeing, and how we see ourselves. I clear up a common misunderstanding about anger – it's not always a bad thing; it's more about not handling it well. Plus, I'll spill some of my own stories about what sets me off, highlighting how understanding your triggers can be a game-changer for personal growth. I also explain how my #memyselfandi Mastery Program helps participants explore where their anger comes from, uncover patterns and triggers, leading to better self-awareness and emotional intelligence. The goal of this podcast is simple: by openly discussing the intensity of anger and sharing tips on how to handle it, I aim to help you feel more in control of your emotions and on the road to better emotional wellbeing. I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist If you're interested in knowing more about #memyselfandi Mastery Program, hop on the waitlist to be the first access information on the program including an exculsive discount offer. If you aren't following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. Check out my counselling practice and services offered here.

After a two-year hiatus I'm back with the goods! In this episode I talk about those people who get too involved in your life. You know the ones that offer advice even when you didn't ask for it. We will cover why these people might be attracted to you, different types of meddling and the importance of setting boundaries to keep these meddlers at bay. I'll share some stories, too, like the time my meddling in a family argument backfired big time. To kick off the release of my first podcast under "Not Your Average Counsellor," one lucky person will win a FREE 1:1 online or in-person session* with me. Want to be in the running? It's easy! Just share my podcast on your socials, make sure to tag me (that gets you one entry), or leave a review, snap a screenshot of the review, and share it on your socials (that's three entries!) before 5pm on Tuesday, 21st of November 2023. Also make sure you pop yourself on the #memyselfandi Mastery Program Waitlist here. I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist If you aren't following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. Check out my counselling practice and services offered here. * valid for a 1:1 individual session only, this prize is not for couples therapy.

YAY! I've finally launched the new iteration of my podcast and I'm so excited to introduce to you: Not Your Average Counsellor with yours truly, Vee Vinci. In this brief introductory episode, I delve into the inspiration behind the podcast title, give you a sneak peek into what lies ahead, and spill the beans on my biggest competition to date. To win a FREE 1:1 online or in-person session* with me. Just listen to episode one and share my podcast on your socials, make sure to tag me (that gets you one entry), or leave a review, snap a screenshot of the review, and share it on your socials (that's three entries!) before 5pm on Tuesday, 21st of November 2023. I really hope you enjoy this new podcast, the name and way moving forward. I'd love to hear your feedback, share your thoughts on stories and tag me @veevincitherapist And if you aren't following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. Enjoy! * valid for a 1:1 individual session only, this prize is not for couples therapy.

Beliefs are powerful and necessary. They govern our societies, our day-to-day lives but also our inner lives, our thoughts, hopes, plans, and relationships. You believe that the plane will leave the runway or that the sun will come up tomorrow. There are even things you can believe despite logic (like winning the lotto). But no matter who you are, how well you are educated or what you have been through no one is immune to irrational or self-limiting beliefs. Listen to this episode to find out how self-limiting beliefs are formed and learn some strategies to manage them. Register for my FREE BUST YOUR BLIND SPOT BOOTCAMP today! My five day online program to get you to reset, refocus and start making positive, effective changes in your life. Join the HQCS Community facebook group it's FREE!   Follow Vee Vinci on: Facebook Instagram

It's easy for human beings to get stuck in patterns. Our brains love routine and habit. The problem is that many of us can get stuck with unhealthy habits and wiring without even knowing it. Patterns drive our subconscious decisions, meaning we are not fully aware of the driver – we just end up at the destination. Nothing highlights this more than relationships. In this episode I'll discuss patterning with a focus on relationships and how these patterns end up dictating the kind of people we have relationships with, how we interact with them and how we let them treat us. Register for my FREE BUST YOUR BLIND SPOT BOOTCAMP today! My five day online program to get you to reset, refocus and start making positive, effective changes in your life. Join the HQCS Community facebook group it's FREE!   Follow Vee Vinci on: Facebook Instagram

The final part in my Routines and Habits series. “A river cuts through rock, not because of its power, but because of its persistence.” — James N. Watkins  ATTENTION Spotify listeners! If you want to catch up previous episodes (1-44) you can do so via Podbean or Apple Podcasts.   Join the HQCS Community facebook group it's FREE!   Follow Vee Vinci on: Facebook Instagram

What motivates you to ? A) I like doing it B) To earn a reward or avoid punishment Now ask yourself what motivates you to ? Did you pick A or B? Which is better? You might think it's obvious, but it's not so black and white. Listen now for some more tips to help you create strong, successful habits over and over again.   ATTENTION Spotify listeners! If you want to catch up previous episodes (1-44) you can do so via Podbean or Apple Podcasts.   Join the HQCS Community facebook group it's FREE!

This episode continues on from the last, find out how to make new routines and habits stick. I'll also answer the all important “how long will it take?” question. ATTENTION Spotify listeners! If you want to catch up previous episodes (1-44) you can do so via Podbean or Apple Podcasts.   Join the HQCS Community facebook group it's FREE!

Get off the couch and onto the treadmill? Ease off on the UberEats and prepare gourmet dishes yourself? Stop hitting the snooze button and get up 30 minutes earlier? JOIN ME for a gentle kick up the butt and some EXPERT TIPS to get you back on the wagon to START or RE-START those positive ROUTINES and HABITS that you have been thinking about. ATTENTION Spotify listeners! If you want to catch up previous episodes (1-44) you can do so via Podbean or Apple Podcasts.   Join the HQCS Community facebook group it's FREE!

How often do you “say no” because you are afraid of being judged, ridiculed, rejected, or criticised? It might come in the form of not wearing shorts when it's 42 degrease outside because you don't look like Kendell Jenner, avoiding going out because you've had a breakout, not asking that guy or girl out because possible rejection scares the living sh!t out of you or not wearing bunny ears out of fear of looking like d!ckhead.   “Don't let your fear of what could happen make nothing happen.”   Learn some tried and tested ways to build your anti-embarrassment muscle so you can start living your best life right here, right now.   ATTENTION Spotify listeners! If you want to catch up previous episodes (1-44) you can do so via Podbean or Apple Podcasts.   Join the HQCS Community facebook group it's FREE!

Learn how to gain Control and Calm during uncertain times.   As soon as the news of lockdown 3.0 broke I knew I just had to deliver a FREE LIVE MASTER CLASS to help you focus on what YOU CAN CONTROL during these challenging times and how to MANAGE the all consuming and overwhelming FEELINGS that may also come up.   JOIN ME as I share with you one of my favourite tools to help you get a grip on your thoughts, feelings and actions so you can come out the other side of this lockdown more self aware, stronger and in control. There is even a bonus freebie!   To access the FREE handout join the HQCS Community facebook group .   ATTENTION Spotify listeners! If you want to catch up previous episodes (1-44) you can do so via Podbean or Apple Podcasts.    

Do you ever crack the sh!ts because nothing ever changes? Are you frustrated because you're stuck in the same situation and find yourself making the same “justifications” for the lack of action on your part? Well, I can bet my bottom dollar that YOU ARE ENABLING your own behaviour. Yes! You read that right IT'S ON YOU! Find out the HOW you do it, WHY you do it and WHAT to do about it in this episode. ATTENTION Spotify listeners! If you want to catch up previous episodes (1-44) you can do so via Podbean or Apple Podcasts.   Join the HQCS Community facebook group it's FREE!

I'm going to start getting up early, I'm going to drink two litres of water a day, darling I promise I'll be back from the pub by 11pm… When we break a promise, we essentially break trust whether that be with ourselves or others. Why do we do this? Why do we continue to do this in some areas of our lives? And what can we do to stop it? Find out in this episode.   ATTENTION Spotify listeners! If you want to catch up previous episodes (1-44) you can do so via Podbean or Apple Podcasts.   Join the HQCS Community facebook group it's FREE!

So there is this thing you really want to do… maybe apply for a new job, write that book, run a half marathon, learn the guitar, ask that person out. BUT YOU DON'T! You procrastinate, make excuses, say its lack of motivation and then…I bet you berate yourself, especially when you start flicking through Instagram and see others out there having a crack and a seemingly good time while doing so. And although you may have all the justifications (for your inaction) under the sun…. when you really stop and think about it….are you just AFRAID of FAILING? What if I told you there is NO SUCH THING as FAILURE, only LEARNINGS?   Join the HQCS Community facebook group it's FREE!

The secret to achievement......INTERNAL success. Find out the what? and how? in this episode. Register for my FREE BUST YOUR BLIND SPOT BOOTCAMP today! My five day online program to get you to reset, refocus and start making positive, effective changes in your life.   Join the HQCS Community facebook group it's FREE!

Momentum can fuel powerful change. In this episode I'll share why this so, as well as some simple ways to generate momentum in your life on the daily. Register for my FREE BUST YOUR BLIND SPOT BOOTCAMP today! My five day online program to get you to reset, refocus and start making positive, effective changes in your life.   Join the HQCS Community facebook group it's FREE!

So you've got all these goals, yet when you throw in the many thoughts, desires and ideas going through your head on the daily how can you take action without getting overwhelmed? In this episode I'll introduce you to a method which will help you make sense of the inner dialogue so you can achieve what's really important.   Register for my FREE BUST YOUR BLIND SPOT BOOTCAMP today! My five day online program to get you to reset, refocus and start making positive, effective changes in your life.   Join the HQCS Community facebook group it's FREE!

Mindsets are habits of the mind, they shape the lives we lead, the actions we take and the future possibilities of the world we live in. When things aren't working for us we are often told we need to shift our mindset, but where do we start? Find out here. PS. In this episode I refer to two previous LIVEs/Podcasts they are: Growth or Fixed Mindset - Which are you? (Episode 30) FOMO (Episode 20) Register for my FREE BUST YOUR BLIND SPOT BOOTCAMP today! My five day online program to get you to reset, refocus and start making positive, effective changes in your life.   Join the HQCS Community facebook group it's FREE!

In this episode I'll give you the circuit breaker to help you put your big boy/girl pants on and take control of your life. Join the HQCS Community facebook group it's FREE! Register for my FREE BUST YOUR BLIND SPOT BOOTCAMP today! My five day online program to get you to reset, refocus and start making positive, effective changes in your life.

Ever been convinced that life is beyond your control and something or someone is deliberately out to hurt you or let you down? Maybe you don't feel this way but someone you care about does. In this episode find out how to STOP this thinking and why it is important for you to do this NOW.   Join the HQCS Community facebook group it's FREE! Register for my FREE BUST YOUR BLIND SPOT BOOTCAMP today! My five day online program to get you to reset, refocus and start making positive, effective changes in your life.

What should I cook for dinner? Shit the kids need to be picked up 15 minutes, I need to send that email quickly, I must not forget to pick up a gift for my daughter's best friend, f&ccccck there is no fuel in the car!  RELATE? If so, you my friend are OVERWHELMED! In this episode I crack the code on overwhelm and provide you with some practical tips to lighten your mental load so you can manage what life throws at you. Join the HQCS Community facebook group it's FREE! Register for my FREE BUST YOUR BLIND SPOT BOOTCAMP today! My five day online program to get you to reset, refocus and start making positive, effective changes in your life.

So you feel stuck… Something needs to change but you don't know what? Or you just can't decide how to approach it? Well in truth, it's not that complicated you either take a step/action towards the outcome you want or away from it. In this episode I'll share with you the Choice Point model and how you can apply it to create the life you want. Join the HQCS Community facebook group to access the exercise that accompanies this episode. Register for my FREE BUST YOUR BLIND SPOT BOOTCAMP today! My five day online program to get you to reset, refocus and start making positive, effective changes in your life.  

When you invest in yourself the universe rewards you! But what the hell does “Investing in yourself mean?” Why is it important? And how can you do it without it becoming another tedious task on your already overwhelming to do list? Register for my FREE BUST YOUR BLIND SPOT BOOTCAMP today! My five day online program to get you to reset, refocus and start making positive, effective changes in your life.   Join the HQCS Community facebook group, it's free! 

I DON'T BELIEVE in New Year's Resolutions but what I do believe in… is making decisions and changes that will improve our lives. The key with making these decisions is making them stick. In this episode I'll guide you through this process and provide you with an activity that will you help you. To access the list of questions mentioned in this episode join the HQCS Community facebook group, it's free!  Register for my FREE BUST YOUR BLIND SPOT BOOTCAMP today! My five day online program to get you to reset, refocus and start making positive, effective changes in your life.

Yep no sugar coating it, listen to find out why and what you need to know to start 2021 right. You won't regret it!   Register for my FREE BUST YOUR BLIND SPOT BOOTCAMP today! My five day online program to get you to reset, refocus and start making positive, effective changes in your life.   Join the HQCS Community facebook group, it's free!