Fly To Freedom: Healing from an eating disorder

Q&A from The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle: Exercise Compulsion, Setbacks, Safe Foods and Coping with Diet CultureThis episode of Fly To Freedom is something very special — a real glimpse into the kinds of questions asked inside The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle, my private membership community.These are raw, honest questions from women right in the heart of recovery — navigating fear, confusion, and moments of hope — and the answers come straight from my heart and experience. We cover everything from exercise compulsion and energy deficit, to those nights when you can't stop eating cereal, to the sting of hearing “you look well” when recovery feels terrifying.If you've ever wondered whether full recovery is truly possible, how to cope when everyone around you is dieting, or whether your wobble means you've failed — this conversation will help you see that you are not alone, and that healing is absolutely possible.00:00 – Q1: Is exercise compulsion an addiction to energy deficit – and if so, how is recovery possible if we can't avoid movement forever?Understanding the difference between addiction and compulsion, how the body becomes hooked on energy deficit, and why rest is essential to rewire the brain.08:25 – Q2: You've said recovery isn't linear — does it ever fully settle down, or will I have to work on this forever?How recovery unfolds in layers, why it becomes easier over time, and what life feels like once freedom is your new normal.11:40 – Q3: How do I know if something is a small setback or a full relapse?How to stop catastrophising, understand what your response really means, and learn to meet slip-ups with compassion instead of shame.15:15 – Q4: Why do I latch onto specific safe foods like cereal, especially at night?Exploring why the brain fixates on predictable foods in recovery and how to gently widen food variety without triggering fear or restriction.20:00 – Q5: How do I cope when I'm gaining weight and everyone around me is dieting and being praised?Reframing internal language, stepping away from comparison, and learning to see recovery as an act of courage in a diet-obsessed world.24:20 – Q6: If I've stopped compulsive movement, do everyday activities like walking with my family ‘break' recovery? And what if I feel full and stop eating — is that okay?Understanding intention behind movement, spontaneity versus compulsion, and rebuilding body trust without fear.27:40 – Q7: I restrict all day, then use alcohol in the evening to relax and eat more — but feel shame the next day. How can I break this cycle?Why alcohol can act as false permission to eat, how the restrict-drink-shame loop forms, and how to create safety without needing alcohol to silence the eating disorder voice.33:40 – Q8: People keep saying I ‘look well' and I can see I'm gaining weight — do I still need to keep increasing my intake?Explaining metabolic healing, why early weight gain doesn't mean you're fully nourished, and how continuing to eat more helps you move from survival to freedom.

In this episode of Fly To Freedom, I unpack the fear of weight gain through a compassionate, practical lens. We explore how survival wiring, nervous-system activation and confirmation bias make fear feel indisputable—especially during anorexia recovery and eating disorder recovery. You'll learn why the brain translates messy, vulnerable emotions (rejection, shame, grief, visibility, intimacy) into body-fixing plans—and how to respond differently. I share personal moments from my own recovery, scripts to answer the brain in real time, and a short guided reflection to help you feel safer with feelings so you can keep saying yes to nourishment, healing and freedom.I'm Julia Trehane, a specialist anorexia recovery coach supporting full and lasting recovery—no quasi-recovery, no staying stuck. I believe your worth never lived in your body size, and your brain can be retrained to choose safety in feeling over safety in shrinking.What you'll learnThe Guard Dog Brain: Why the brain prioritises survival over happiness—and why fear is its fastest tool.Coping Strategy, Not Truth: How fear of weight gain arrives to avoid hard emotions and offer an illusion of control.Confirmation Bias: The brain's proof-seeking loop that turns neutral events into “evidence” that shrinking is safer.Underneath the Fear: Rejection, shame, visibility, vulnerability, grief, and “not-enoughness.”Somatic Micro-Skills: A 30–60 second body check-in to increase tolerance for big feelings.Reality-Testing: Questions that disrupt the hijack and open other explanations.Redefining Control: Why real control is presence, nourishment and allowing the body to heal—including oedema.Word-for-Word Scripts: Gentle but firm responses you can use when the brain shouts “don't gain weight.”Try these right away (practical steps)Name the pattern: “This is the coping strategy, not the truth.” Pause before acting.Journal prompt: “If this isn't about weight, what might I be feeling?” Let answers arrive without fixing.Somatic minute: Hand on heart and tummy; locate the feeling (chest/throat/stomach) and breathe into it for 30–60 seconds.Reality check: “What else could be true here? What am I not noticing?”Script it:“Thank you, brain, for trying to protect me. What I'm really feeling is ____. I can feel this and stay safe.”“Buying a bigger size is proof my body is healing, not proof I've failed.”“Oedema is repair. My worth doesn't live in a label.”Reframe control: Choose nourishment, rest and connection—even when fear is loud.Mentioned in this episodeFeelings Navigator — a quick way to find tools for the emotion you're in: https://www.edrecoverycircle.com/how-are-you-feelingThe Eating Disorder Recovery Circle — our community space for support, coaching calls, workshops and on-demand courses (come join us or pop back into the forum to share your reflections): https://www.edrecoverycircle.com/joinKey timestamps (guide)00:00 Guard Dog Brain: survival vs happiness05:00 Fear of weight gain as a coping strategy12:00 How the hijack sounds in real life (relationship/work/friends)20:00 Confirmation bias & why fear feels like “proof”27:00 What's underneath: rejection, shame, visibility, vulnerability, grief33:00 Somatic practice + reality-testing questions39:00 Scripts to answer the brain45:00 Closing reflection: “I can handle feelings; I am safe to feel.”If this episode resonated, come share what came up for you inside The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle—you'll be met by people who truly understand, plus practical tools you can use the moment fear gets loud, all for less than the cost of a single therapy session: https://www.edrecoverycircle.com/join.If you're ready for more personalised support, my 1:1 coaching will hold you through the hard emotions while we retrain the brain toward safety and freedom.

How does anxiety fuel an eating disorder — and why do the usual fixes never seem to work?In this powerful episode of Fly to Freedom, I sit down with Dr Russell Kennedy — physician, neuroscientist, developmental psychology expert, and bestselling author of Anxiety Rx. Known worldwide as The Anxiety MD, Russell brings both deep science and lived experience, having spent decades overcoming his own battle with crippling anxiety.We explore:How anxiety lives in the body as an alarm state, not just in the mind.How childhood trauma and sensitivity shape the coping strategies we turn to.How eating disorders, worry, and other patterns seem to help at first, but only keep the alarm alive underneath.How inner child healing and compassion create lasting recovery, not just temporary relief.How to start finding the alarm in your body and soothing it safely.This is not a surface-level conversation. It's about understanding how anxiety drives the cycle of restriction, control, and fear — and how reconnecting with the body and the younger self underneath the pain is the real key to healing.

Hey lovely, today's episode of Fly to Freedom is not just something to listen to while you multitask — this is one to experience. Together, we'll explore the invisible stories that have been running in the background of your life — the ones that shape how you feel in recovery, how you show up in the world, and even how safe you feel in your own skin.So many of us carry old scripts written by parents, teachers, culture, or the eating disorder itself — stories of not being enough, of not being safe, of not being worthy. And when those stories are left unchallenged, life keeps bending to fit them. But you hold the pen, sweetheart. You always have.In this episode, I'll share:✨ How your brain clings to familiar stories through confirmation bias✨ Why the stories you tell yourself shape your energy, your recovery, and your relationships✨ How to move from scarcity to abundance without faking positivity✨ The role of gratitude and manifestation (when grounded in action) in creating lasting change✨ A guided reflection to help you embody abundance and begin rewriting your story right nowWhether you're early in recovery or navigating the long middle stretch, this conversation will help you start shifting the old narratives that keep you stuck. You'll leave with practical tools, gentle wisdom, and the reminder that you are never alone in this.

In this episode of Fly To Freedom, Vic and I are back answering your real questions from the community. We're going deep into the messy, uncomfortable but transformative parts of eating disorder recovery — things like acting in line with your values when fear keeps getting in the way, making peace with fullness when it feels “dirty,” and breaking the hold of external validation.We also chat about how language shapes your recovery, why you're not “helpless,” and some powerful ways to work with fear, anxiety and guilt after eating.Here's what you'll hear inside:How to move from “I can't” to “I won't” and reclaim your power.Why fullness feels so scary and how to practise being uncomfortable until it becomes safe.Why fruit and veg aren't always your friend in early re-nourishment — and what to focus on instead.Tools for nervous-system safety when even tiny steps trigger panic.How to stop waiting for your mother's (or anyone's) approval and start validating yourself.Why guilt often hits after eating and how to pre-empt it so it loses its grip.This is an honest, compassionate episode with lots of practical ideas you can start using straight away.

Welcome back to Fly to Freedom.Set point weight is one of the most misunderstood and emotionally charged topics in eating disorder recovery. In this episode, I'm breaking down what it really means, why it matters so much, and how to stop fighting your body so you can finally feel safe in it.We'll explore:What set point weight is (and what it isn't)Why your body defends this natural range so fiercelyThe emotional and biological impact of trying to stay below itWhy overshoot happens and why it's not failure but part of healingWhy some people live in larger bodies and what's really going on thereHow to cope if your weight has stabilised but you still don't feel at home in your bodyThis is about more than numbers or appearance. It's about understanding your body as a partner, not a problem. When you stop resisting your set point weight, your body can move out of survival mode, your mind can quieten, and your life can finally expand beyond control.Whether you're at the beginning of recovery, in the messy middle, or wondering if your body has settled, this conversation will help you make sense of the chaos, release shame, and begin to trust that your body has always been on your side.

Welcome back to Fly to Freedom. In this episode, I sit down with Angela, a woman who has just completed coaching with me and has transformed her life in ways she once thought were impossible.Angela opens her heart and shares what recovery really feels like from the inside—the messy middle, the fear of letting go of control, the grief of facing old wounds, and ultimately the joy of discovering her true self.She talks about the shift from quasi-recovery into full recovery, moving beyond the food piece into the deeper emotional healing that brings lasting freedom. From learning to use “kinder eyes” with herself, to shedding the armour of perfectionism, makeup, and control, Angela's story is one of courage, vulnerability, and hope.You'll hear:The difference between simply eating more and truly healing at the root.How black-and-white thinking gave way to curiosity, compassion, and growth.What it feels like to let go of the eating disorder's armour and show up as her authentic self.How recovery changed her marriage, her creativity, and her confidence.Why investing in herself was the turning point that made freedom possible.Angela's journey is a powerful reminder that recovery is not only possible—it's worth everything. If you're feeling stuck in quasi-recovery, constantly fighting your thoughts, or fearing who you'll be without the eating disorder, this episode will show you what's waiting on the other side.

So many of us in recovery know the words “I feel fat” all too well. They can hit like a tidal wave after eating, while looking in the mirror, or when shame and panic rise out of nowhere. But fat isn't actually a feeling.In this episode of Fly to Freedom, I'm unpacking what's really happening when those words surface. Together, we'll explore:Why “I feel fat” is often a shorthand for emotions we were never taught how to name.The deeper feelings that hide beneath body shame — fear, sadness, grief, vulnerability, or loneliness.Why restriction became a coping mechanism, and how recovery brings emotions rushing back.A simple 5-step practice you can use when the “I feel fat” thoughts feel overwhelming.These thoughts aren't evidence of failure — they're signals from your nervous system asking to be heard. And when you begin to meet them with compassion instead of punishment, real healing starts to unfold.

In this episode of Fly to Freedom, I'm joined by the brilliant Tabitha Farrar — recovery coach, speaker, and author of Rehabilitate, Rewire, Recover and Fried Eggs and Thunder Thighs.Tabitha shares her journey of living with anorexia for over a decade, how a seemingly innocent decision triggered the illness, and the pivotal moment she finally chose recovery. Known for her blunt, science-based, no-nonsense approach, Tabitha talks openly about:Why she believes recovery doesn't have to be complicated.The crucial role of facing fears — especially around exercise and weight gain.How negative body image is learned, and how to actually unlearn it.Why acting “as if” you like your body can rewire the brain faster than waiting for the feelings to change.The recovery myths that keep people stuck, including the idea that bingeing in recovery is something to fear.

So many people in recovery quietly wonder: Do I have to face the trauma to truly heal?Maybe you've whispered that question to yourself too – in the middle of a meal, in a therapy room, or in the quiet of the night when you're just so tired of hurting. Maybe you long for recovery but dread opening the door to the past.In this episode of Fly to Freedom, I'm speaking to that exact fear. Together we'll explore:What trauma really is (hint: it's not just what happened, but what you carried forward).Why recovery can absolutely begin without digging into the past straight away.How nourishment, rest and nervous system safety lay the groundwork for deeper healing.Why avoidance isn't failure – it's often a survival response that kept you safe.How real trauma healing often begins in small, quiet acts of safety, presence and self-compassion.Recovery is not just about food. It's about reclaiming the parts of you that had to hide – the ones who deserve love, safety, and freedom.

Welcome back to Fly to Freedom. In this month's Julia & Vics Q&A, we answer your powerful recovery questions — from fears about quasi-recovery to coping with brain chemistry changes, rebuilding family trust, and navigating oedema, weight gain, and family comments.You'll hear raw, compassionate answers rooted in lived experience — the messy parts, the scary parts, and the hopeful parts. Whether you're at the start or further along, these conversations show you that recovery is possible for everyone.[03:15] Quasi vs. Full Recovery – Can coaches tell who will fully recover? Why commitment and openness matter more than prediction.[08:40] Brain Chemistry – Why suicidal thoughts, depression, and appetite loss can hit when you start eating more, and how to move through it.[17:55] Food Perfectionism – Fear of making the “wrong” choice, and how to let food be messy, not perfect.[23:10] Family Trust – How to rebuild relationships and feel proud of yourself again after painful years.[32:05] Planning Challenges – Should challenges be scheduled or spontaneous? Why the answer is both.[37:45] Oedema – Julia's lived experience of extreme water retention, why it happens, and how to cope.[46:20] Weight Gain Blame – Reframing “healthy” and “unhealthy” foods, and trusting your body.[55:30] BMI Fears – Why BMI is irrelevant, why food thoughts count as hunger, and how to keep going.[01:05:15] Family Comments – Coping when loved ones make thin-obsessed remarks, and why inner child work matters.[01:15:10] Blood Tests – Why results may look “normal” despite restriction, and why that doesn't mean you're okay.[01:25:40] Restricting to “Check” Metabolism – Why this cycle fuels mistrust, and how to break it.[01:32:50] Fear or Excitement – How fear can transform into courage, and why borrowing belief helps.[01:40:05] Making Recovery Easier – Would we do it differently? Why going all in was the fastest way through.[01:47:15] HSPs – Why many with eating disorders are highly sensitive people, and how to see it as a strength.

This is the episode I've never fully shared before – not the neat, summarised version of my story, but the raw, unfiltered truth of my eating disorder recovery.I take you with me from the very darkest place I have ever been – when I truly believed my family would be better off without me – through the messy, painful, beautiful journey that led me to full and lasting freedom.You'll hear about the moments that broke me open, the boundaries I had to set, the inner child work that changed everything, the terrifying physical symptoms, the cravings, the shame, and the unexpected rediscovery of connection, pleasure, and love for life itself.This isn't a “five tips to recover” kind of episode. It's my lived experience – the truth of anorexia recovery and eating disorder recovery as I walked it – with all the fear, hope, setbacks, and breakthroughs along the way.If you're in the middle of it right now, or standing at the edge wondering if recovery is even possible for you, I hope my story shows you that no matter how far gone you feel, you are never beyond hope. Freedom is possible, and it's worth every tear, every bite, every beginning again.

In this episode of Fly to Freedom, I'm joined by Sydney, a former client whose journey through anorexia recovery is nothing short of inspiring. When we first met, Sydney was lost in the eating disorder – afraid of food, disconnected from her friends and family, and trapped in a cycle of rules, restriction, and fear.Through coaching, Sydney learned to challenge those thoughts, reconnect with herself, and rebuild her relationship with food, her body, and her life. She shares the hardest parts of recovery, the breakthroughs that made the biggest difference, and the moments where she surprised herself with what she could achieve – from enjoying dessert again to embracing movement for joy rather than punishment.Sydney also opens up about the contrast between traditional treatment and coaching, how the Eating Disorder Recovery Circle supports her daily, and why freedom is about so much more than weight restoration. Her story is a powerful reminder that full recovery is possible – and that life beyond the eating disorder can be filled with connection, confidence, and joy.

In this episode of Fly to Freedom, I'm sharing the kind of self-love we don't often talk about — the kind that doesn't feel soft or sweet at first, but changes everything.This isn't about face masks or bubble baths. This is about choosing freedom over comfort. It's about acting like you matter, even when every voice in your head is telling you that you don't.We explore what it means to practice self-love as a behaviour — not a mood, not a vibe, and definitely not something you wait to feel. We'll talk about what rewiring the brain really looks like, why things feel fake before they feel real, and how your inner dialogue either builds or breaks down your self-belief.If you've ever thought:

This is a special joint Q&A episode with my brilliant friend Victoria from The Body Love Binge, where we answer real recovery questions from our communities. We're covering so much in this conversation — from getting your period back, to setting boundaries with family, understanding set point theory, challenging intuitive eating rules, and what recovery fatigue really means.If you've ever wondered whether you're doing recovery “right”, feared that eating without hunger will mean endless weight gain, or just needed to hear two people who've been through it talk honestly — this one's for you.⏱️ Listener Questions & Timestamps:[03:01] “What can I do to get my period back?”Georgia asked about restoring her period after 10 years. I share why rest, nervous system regulation and patience are key, and how you don't need to force-feed yourself — your body already knows how to heal.[10:30] “How do I deal with body comments or judgments from my elderly parents?”We talk about the emotional impact of family comments, how to set boundaries with consequences, and why healing the inner child matters so much in these moments.[19:34] “Is intuitive eating secretly diet culture? Why does it feel so contradictory?”We unpack the truth about intuitive eating — how it can become another rulebook, and why real food freedom means trusting yourself, not following guidelines.[28:46] “Will I keep gaining weight if I eat when I'm not hungry?”I share my own experience with set point theory, why trying to stay at the low end of your ‘range' backfires, and how eating freely will always stabilise when you're truly at peace with food.[37:10] “Why are some people in very large bodies? Doesn't that mean they eat too much?”This one gets to the heart of weight stigma. We talk about trauma, shame, emotional coping, bingeing vs restriction, and why body size isn't a simple equation of input and output.[46:30] “Why am I so exhausted now that I'm finally eating?”I've lived this one — the deep, bone-tired fatigue that hits when the eating disorder lets go. I explain why it's part of recovery, what's happening in the body, and why it's not something to fight against.[51:15] “Can binge eating become a bad habit after recovery?”Victoria answers beautifully here — the difference between bingeing and emotional eating, how habits aren't bad unless shame is involved, and why full permission is what leads to true choice.[59:01] “What challenges do you still face in life after recovery?”We both open up about the things we're navigating now — from motherhood and visibility to self-expression and the ongoing journey of growth beyond recovery.If you're looking for real support from people who've been there and truly get it, The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle is here for you. It's a unique community of people at all stages of recovery, supporting each other through the mess, the milestones, and everything in between.Inside, you'll find:Monthly coaching calls with opportunities for 1:1 supportThe Feelings Navigator to guide you through tough emotionsLive workshops and expert-led coursesDozens of how-to recovery guides (like how to eat at a buffet or go to a restaurant without fear)On-demand recovery resources, including Overcoming the Fear of Weight Gain

In this powerful and tender episode of Fly to Freedom, I'm opening up about something that so many people in eating disorder recovery experience but rarely speak about: intimacy.When your body is changing and you're learning to feel again, sex and closeness can stir up shame, fear, and deep vulnerability. You might question your worth, wonder how to be seen in your new body, or feel overwhelmed by returning desire. You might even feel numb, disconnected, or unsure how to let someone close when you're still trying to come home to yourself.This conversation was inspired by a beautiful message I received from someone in recovery—and from my own experience. If you're struggling with intimacy, please know: you are not broken, and you are not alone.In this episode, we explore:Why intimacy often felt performative or disconnected during the eating disorderHow disconnection, people-pleasing and body shame show up in sexWhat it means when your sex drive disappears… and when it comes rushing backThe nervous system truth behind sudden desire (and why it can feel like extreme hunger)How to stop performing and start feeling again—on your own termsRebuilding safety in your body through small, gentle stepsCommunicating with your partner when you feel too exposed, too emotional, or not enoughLetting intimacy evolve into something real, raw, and deeply healingThis episode is a love letter to anyone who feels confused or overwhelmed by intimacy in recovery. It's not about getting it perfect—it's about allowing yourself to be present, vulnerable, and loved just as you are.If you're feeling messy, unsure or alone in this part of recovery, this is for you.Resources & Support

In this powerful episode of Fly to Freedom, I'm joined by someone whose story and work I deeply admire—Dr Rachel Evans. Rachel is a chartered psychologist, hypnotherapist, and podcast host with her own lived experience of bulimia recovery. Known for her compassionate and trauma-informed approach, she supports individuals who feel trapped in cycles of food obsession, body hatred, purging, and compulsive exercise.Together, we explore a part of eating disorders that often lives in the shadows—purging behaviours. Whether it's vomiting, laxatives, or over-exercising, these actions often feel impossible to stop. Rachel opens up about her personal journey through restriction, bingeing, and purging, revealing the emotional layers, life pressures, and deep-rooted fears that fed her eating disorder.We discuss:How control, perfectionism, and fear of rejection can fuel purging behavioursWhy purging often becomes a coping mechanism beyond just ‘getting rid of food'The physical and emotional impact of purging on the body and mindThe turning point that made Rachel say “enough” and begin true healingHow to begin understanding your own urges to purge with curiosity, not shameThe role of identity, academic pressure, and self-worth in recoveryWhy awareness and self-compassion are the first steps to lasting changeRachel's story is a testament to what's possible when we stop fighting symptoms and start listening to what they're trying to tell us. Whether you're struggling with purging yourself or supporting someone who is, this episode offers validation, insight, and hope.You can find Rachel on Instagram at @rachel.evans.phd or visit her website at eatingdisordertherapist.co.uk to explore her work and book a free consultation.Julia will also be appearing on Rachel's podcast soon—so stay tuned!Julia Trehane is a specialist anorexia recovery coach who blends lived experience with compassionate, practical tools to help others achieve full freedom from eating disorders. To access workshops, courses, community support and 24/7 recovery tools, join The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle today: www.edrecoverycircle.com/joinKeywords: bulimia recovery, purging behaviours, compulsive exercise, binge purge cycle, eating disorder recovery, emotional healing, trauma-informed, body image, laxative abuse, stop purging, overcome bulimia, eating disorder therapist

This episode of Fly to Freedom is a heartfelt answer to a listener question that echoes what so many people feel in eating disorder recovery: How do I find the willpower to recover when it feels like I love both anorexia and recovery?If you've ever felt torn—like you're standing between two lives, both calling your name—this episode is for you.I'm sitting down with you, heart to heart, to explore the unbearable split that can happen in recovery. When one part of you is desperate for peace and freedom, and another part is still clinging to the eating disorder, it can feel like choosing between two identities, two versions of love, or two paths that both feel vital.But what if it's not willpower that you need?What if it's clarity?In this episode, I share:Why it's not weakness to feel torn between recovery and anorexiaWhat's really going on in your brain, body, and nervous system that keeps you attached to the eating disorderWhy anorexia often feels like love, but is actually a trauma bond disguised as safetyHow to begin choosing recovery even when you don't feel readyA powerful journaling practice and practical steps to take when you feel stuckThe difference between survival mode and fully living—and why you deserve so much more than just survivingWhether you're at the very start of recovery or deep in the messy middle, this episode is a loving invitation to see things more clearly, to stop waiting for courage to arrive, and to begin choosing yourself again and again.You don't need more willpower.You need support. You need truth. You need love.And you're allowed to take the next step—even if your hands are shaking.Resources & Support

This month, Victoria and I sat down for another open-hearted Q&A, where we answered your beautiful, brave, and deeply honest questions about recovery.From the fear of weight gain to exercising in a free body… from feeling lost in free time to wondering whether you've truly reached your set point weight… we covered so much of what recovery really looks and feels like – the messy, the magical, and everything in between.Whether you're in the thick of fear or starting to sense your own strength coming through, I promise you'll find something here that speaks to your heart.In this episode, we explore:

In this episode, I'm speaking to the part of you that's exhausted — the part that's wondering if recovery is really worth it.Maybe you're eating more than you ever thought you could. You feel uncomfortable in your body. Your mind is loud, full of guilt and panic, and you're starting to ask... Why am I even doing this?I asked myself that same question so many times. I lived most of my life stuck in survival mode, functioning but never really living. I thought control was safety. But recovery showed me that true freedom is possible — and that it's worth every hard, terrifying step.In this episode, I'm sharing what recovery really gives you. Not just food freedom — but emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual freedom too. A life that feels full, joyful, and real. And I want you to know: you are not too far gone. You don't have to be “sick enough” to deserve healing. You are allowed to want more.And if you're doing this alone right now, please know — you don't have to.Inside The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle, I've created a place where you can find the support, guidance, and connection you need. You'll get access to expert tools, lived experience coaching, loving community spaces, and courses to help you through every stage of recovery. It's like being wrapped in support — even on your hardest days.The true cost of staying in the eating disorder, even when you're “managing”Why perfection and people pleasing aren't safety — they're a cageThe freedom recovery offers in your body, your emotions, and your relationshipsWhy your healing isn't selfish — it's a ripple that touches every life around youHow recovery reconnects you with your worth, your truth, and your joyIf you've been doubting whether this fight is worth it… let this be your reminder:You were born to be free. Not perfect. Just fully, wonderfully you.

In this episode of Fly to Freedom, I'm joined by Dr Cristina Castagnini, a licensed psychologist and certified eating disorder specialist whose work focuses exclusively on helping women heal their relationship with food and their bodies. Cristina is also the host of the Behind the Bite podcast, where she dismantles harmful eating disorder myths and supports recovery with compassion and clarity.We explore Cristina's personal journey with a long-standing eating disorder, the shocking moment that sparked her full recovery, and the deeply ingrained societal beliefs that keep so many trapped in cycles of disordered eating. From early body shame to SlimFast diets, and the rise of "wellness" trends that mask restriction, this episode is an eye-opening and honest look at what it truly takes to heal.Together, we discuss:Cristina's personal story and what finally pushed her into real recoveryHow diet culture disguises itself as healthThe danger of BMI, especially for children and in clinical settingsThe power of curating your social media to support recoveryWhy commenting on appearance—even with good intentions—can be deeply harmfulAnd why full recovery is not only possible… it is absolutely realIf you've ever felt discouraged by the idea that eating disorders are lifelong, or if you're struggling with fear around body image and food, this episode is here to remind you that full freedom is not just a hope—it's a reality.Connect with Dr Cristina Castagnini

In this episode of Fly to Freedom, I'm exploring a topic that's rarely talked about openly, but is a reality for many in eating disorder recovery: purging.Whether it takes the form of self-induced vomiting, laxative abuse, or compulsive exercise, purging isn't really about food. It's about fear. About shame. About trying to escape from overwhelming emotions and regain a sense of control—often at the cost of your physical and emotional wellbeing.Together, we'll unpack:The emotional and psychological reasons why people purge, even after a normal meal or snackHow trauma, perfectionism, and beliefs about control and worth drive purging behavioursThe dangerous myths behind purging—especially the false idea that it “undoes” eating or prevents weight gainThe physical consequences of purging through vomiting, laxatives, or overexerciseWhat recovery from purging really feels like—and why it's possible even when it feels terrifyingAnd most importantly, I'll guide you through:How to break the purge cycle with practical steps like interrupting the urge, softening your inner critic, and creating safer rituals for emotional releaseHow to stabilise your nourishment and rewire your nervous system to feel safe with food, fullness, and restWhat freedom from purging actually looks like—and why it's worth fighting forIf you're struggling with bulimia, purging anorexia, or compensatory behaviours like overexercise, this episode will help you feel seen, understood, and supported.Because healing doesn't happen through punishment.It begins with compassion.And you are worthy of healing—no matter how long you've been stuck in the cycle.With love always,Julia x

In this deeply moving episode of Fly to Freedom, I'm joined by fellow eating disorder recovery coach, Sarah Rzemieniak, who shares her powerful personal story of healing from anorexia and finding her way back to herself.Sarah opens up about the roots of her eating disorder, which began at age 12 during a time of emotional insecurity, perfectionism, and disconnection. Her story takes us through years of treatment, early recovery, and a relapse in her 20s that forced her to confront the deeper truths beneath the symptoms. What followed was a profound journey into spirituality, meditation, and inner work that changed everything.In this conversation, Sarah talks about:The early patterns of anxiety, people-pleasing, and emotional loneliness that shaped her eating disorderHow the absence of emotional safety led to attaching to the eating disorder for a sense of controlHer turning point: seeking help at just 12 years old, and how treatment both helped and fell shortThe moment she realised her recovery had been based on external validation—not true healingHow spirituality, solo travel to India, and a meditation practice helped her rebuild her self-worth from withinBecoming a mother and what she now sees through the eyes of her own childrenThe transition from being a dietitian to becoming a recovery coach, and why that shift brought her deeper into her purposeWhat full recovery really means to her todaySarah's story is honest, emotional, and full of wisdom that will speak straight to your heart. Whether you're in the early stages of recovery or years into the process, her insight into self-worth, love, and healing offers profound reassurance that freedom is not only possible—but waiting for you.Guest Bio:Sarah Rzemieniak is a Carolyn Costin Institute Certified Eating Disorder Recovery Coach who has been in private practice since 2018. She provides 1:1 support to individuals around the world and now leads a small team of other CCI-certified coaches. Formerly an eating disorder dietitian, Sarah now works solely in coaching and counselling. She considers herself fully recovered from anorexia nervosa and lives in Vancouver, Canada with her husband and two young sons.Connect with Sarah:Instagram: @sarah.rzemieniak.coachingWebsite: sarahrzemieniak.comListen now and discover:→ Why eating disorders so often start with unmet emotional needs→ The power of spiritual practice in long-term healing→ How to recognise when you're only “functionally recovered”→ What it really takes to reconnect with your worthWith love always,Julia x

The fear of weight gain is one of the most paralysing and misunderstood parts of eating disorder recovery. And in this episode of Fly to Freedom, I'm not sugar-coating it. I'm answering the question I get asked more than any other: Can I actually stop being afraid of gaining weight?The truth is, yes—you can. But not in the way your brain probably hopes. Recovery isn't about waiting for the fear to go before you take action. It's about taking action even while the fear is loud. In this episode, I unpack what's really behind the fear of weight gain—beyond body image—and why so many people stay stuck even after their weight is restored.We'll explore:Why gaining weight doesn't magically remove the fearThe deep childhood beliefs and emotional wiring that feed body shameWhy this fear is part of the eating disorder itself—not a neutral preferenceThe real reason people still struggle after physical recoveryHow to meet the younger part of you who internalised the belief that thinness meant safetyWhat it takes to move through fear with self-compassion instead of perfectionismYou'll walk away with powerful insights and practical mindset shifts to help you stop letting fear make your decisions, and start choosing recovery with your whole heart—even when it's hard.

You're Not Broken – The System Is: A Raw Conversation About Healing with Lucy AphramorThis episode of Fly to Freedom is not just a conversation about recovery. It's a deep reckoning with the systems that have shaped how we think about food, health, and bodies — and how we can begin to reclaim our truth.Julia is joined by Lucy Aphramor (they/them), a radical dietitian, poet, and justice-centred educator whose Well Now approach reimagines nutrition through the lens of compassion, lived experience, and social change. Together, they unpack the myths of weight management, the fallacy of 'healthy eating' guidelines, and the oppressive roots of mainstream public health narratives.Lucy shares powerful insights about:Why public health nutrition is an equity issueHow traditional health education often reinforces oppressionThe myth of evidence-based weight lossWhy eating disorder recovery is inseparable from social justiceWhat it means to centre community, compassion, and care in healingHow body shame is socially shaped, and why self-compassion is essential for unlearningA poetic lens on health, worth, and resistanceThis episode is a must-listen if you've ever felt confused by health advice, struggled with body image, or questioned the deeper systems influencing eating disorders. Whether you're in recovery or supporting someone who is, Lucy's wisdom offers a radical shift in how we can approach healing — not just as individuals, but as a community.

In this tender and transformative episode of Fly to Freedom, specialist anorexia recovery coach Julia Trehane explores one of the most powerful – and often overlooked – elements of lasting healing in eating disorder recovery: the inner child.Whether you've heard the term before or it's completely new, this episode gently guides you through what it really means to connect with the inner child, why it matters so deeply in anorexia recovery, and how so many of the emotions and behaviours we struggle with are rooted in unmet needs from long ago.This is what I share:How the inner child shows up in everyday patterns like shame after eating, body image struggles, and the fear of not being enoughWhy recognising old emotional wounds is essential to full recovery from anorexia and other eating disordersWhat it means to reparent yourself with love, steadiness, and compassionPractical examples of how to respond when old pain or fear arisesWhy reconnecting with joy and play is a vital part of healingA gentle, guided visualisation to help you meet your inner child safelyThis episode is filled with loving truth, practical support, and powerful reframes that will help you soften the self-criticism and build a deeper sense of safety within.Because full recovery isn't just about food or weight — it's about coming home to yourself.Listen now and begin reconnecting with the part of you that has always deserved love, rest, and joy.

In this powerful and often playful episode of Fly to Freedom, specialist anorexia recovery coach Julia Trehane is joined once again by recovery coach Victoria Kleinsman for a short but deeply impactful session—one that's sparked by a listener request to roleplay the eating disorder versus the healthy self.Expect laughter, raw honesty, and moments of deep recognition as Julia and Victoria bring to life the inner war that so many face in eating disorder recovery. From food fears to compulsive exercise thoughts, they expose the language of the eating disorder and model the kind of compassionate self-talk that leads to true healing.They also unpack real listener questions, including:“How do I build a life bigger than bulimia?”“What are the pros and cons of recovery?”“How do I move forward if I'm still terrified of weight gain?”“Will I ever feel free in my body again?”Together, they share personal stories, celebrate recovery wins, and gently dismantle fear-based beliefs. If you're navigating anorexia recovery, bulimia, or simply trying to understand how to separate from the critical voice inside, this episode offers both hope and practical guidance.

Struggling with intense emotions during eating disorder recovery? You're not alone — and this episode of Fly to Freedom is for you.When you stop restricting food and start reconnecting with your body, something unexpected often happens: a flood of feelings. Sadness, anxiety, anger, even joy — all rushing back in. It can feel overwhelming, frightening, and confusing. You might even wonder, “Am I doing recovery wrong?”In this powerful episode, Julia Trehane — specialist anorexia recovery coach and voice behind Fly to Freedom — shares why emotional intensity is a natural and essential part of healing from anorexia and other eating disorders. You'll learn how emotional numbness is a survival mechanism, how restriction affects the brain and nervous system, and what's really happening when feelings resurface in recovery.Why we fear our feelings during recovery (and why that fear is valid)How food restriction blunts emotional processing — and why refeeding reawakens itThe neuroscience behind emotional overwhelm and protectionHow to respond when emotions feel like “too much”Tools to process feelings safely, without shame or judgementA gentle mindset shift: feeling isn't failing — it's healingThis episode is a gentle companion for anyone experiencing emotional chaos while trying to recover. If you've ever thought “I can't cope with these emotions” or “I feel like I'm falling apart,” this conversation will help you understand that nothing is wrong with you — you're waking up, and you are healing.Inside the Eating Disorder Recovery Circle, you'll find the Feelings Navigator — a powerful tool created for this exact moment in recovery. With guided videos, meditations, and strategies for emotions like guilt, sadness, rage and fear, you'll finally have the support you need to understand and move through every feeling with confidence and compassion.Mentioned in this episode:See an example from the Feelings NavigatorJoin the Eating Disorder Recovery CircleYou are not too much. You are healing. You are coming back to life — and you are doing it beautifully.

****UPDATE FOR THIS EPISODE****Right at the end, I give a link to my Recovery Circle community and courses. In my excitement, I gave the wrong link! it should be https://www.edrecoverycircle.com/Oops!In this special monthly catch-up episode of Fly to Freedom, Julia and Victoria come together again to chat, giggle, and offer heartfelt insight into the raw realities of eating disorder recovery. From slippers and sensory issues to deep conversations about mother-daughter recovery, guilt, brain fog, and redefining identity, this episode is packed with warmth, wisdom, and relatable support.Together, they answer real listener questions, including:

So many people in eating disorder recovery believe they have to earn support — by being sicker, quieter, or more perfect. But what if that's the very belief that's been keeping healing out of reach?In this episode of Fly to Freedom, I gently but powerfully unravel the dangerous myth that you have to do recovery alone. I share openly — including from my own lived experience — why support isn't a luxury, but a lifeline. We explore the emotional roots of the belief ‘I don't deserve help,' how emotional neglect shapes our nervous systems, and the neuroscience of connection as medicine.You'll also hear, for the first time in depth, about the Eating Disorder Recovery Circle — the supportive, compassionate membership space I created for those ready to move beyond survival and build true food freedom, body trust, and self-worth. This isn't a sales pitch. It's an invitation.Whether you're just starting recovery or stuck in a quiet kind of suffering, this episode is a hand to hold. You are allowed to be supported. And you never have to do this alone.Inside this episode:The biggest lie eating disorders tell us about supportHow emotional neglect wires your brain to reject helpWhy “I'm fine” often means “I'm surviving, not living”The healing power of being seen, supported and understoodWhat's waiting for you inside the Eating Disorder Recovery Circle✨ If this stirred something in you, you'll find everything you need to join the Circle and begin receiving support in the link below. Your place is already waiting. You are worthy — now.LINKS:Join the Eating Disorder Recovery Circle: https://www.edrecoverycircle.com/join

This episode is nothing short of extraordinary. Today, I sit down with Dr. Robb Kelly, a world-renowned recovery expert who is changing lives through his neuroscience-based approach to addiction, trauma, and mental health.The world's best recovery coaches don't just treat the symptoms of addiction—they focus on the root causes, addressing the deeper issues that keep people stuck. Dr. Robb Kelly is among this elite group, helping people break free from destructive patterns and fully rewire their brains for recovery and success.From homelessness and near-death experiences to becoming a leading authority in addiction recovery, Dr. Kelly shares his raw and powerful personal journey. We dive into the science behind addiction, the role of childhood trauma, and how rewiring the brain makes full recovery possible—not just from substance addiction, but from any self-sabotaging cycle.This conversation is real, deep, and transformational, offering hope, tools, and inspiration for anyone struggling with addiction, eating disorders, or self-destructive habits.

Welcome back to Fly to Freedom. In this second part of our series on common eating disorder recovery symptoms, we're exploring the emotional and neurological shifts that often surface during the healing process.If you haven't listened to Part 1 yet, I encourage you to start there—we covered the physical signs of healing in anorexia recovery, including extreme hunger, bloating, and fatigue. In this episode, we shift focus to the internal healing process—those invisible but powerful changes that can feel overwhelming, confusing, or even frightening at times.Together, we unpack:Hair shedding in recovery – why it happens and why it's a good signTemperature dysregulation – swinging between freezing and overheatingBrain fog and memory issues – how malnutrition affects cognitive functionDizziness and lightheadedness – understanding what's really happeningFrequent urination – how your body is rebalancing its fluid levelsMenstrual cycle changes – what to expect as hormones regulateVivid dreams and emotional swings – the brain's way of processing againTeeth sensitivity and sore gums – oral health during nourishment restorationEvery one of these symptoms is part of your body's deep healing. In this episode, I'll explain why they occur, how long they might last, and what you can do to ease them.Healing doesn't always feel like healing—and that's why this conversation matters so much. These symptoms are not signs that something is going wrong. They are signs that your body is finally feeling safe enough to rebuild.✨ If you've been feeling like your mind is foggy, your emotions are on a rollercoaster, or your body is doing strange things—this episode is for you.You are not broken.You are healing.Resources Mentioned:Join The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle – your place for support, tools, and communityThe Feelings Navigator – explore what you're feeling and get instant support (within the Eating Disorder Recovery Circle)Other helpful episodes:Episode 105 Part 1 – Physical Signs of HealingEpisode 97 – Coping with Extreme Hunger in RecoveryEpisode 81 – How Nutrition Restores Mental ClarityIf this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who needs to know they're not alone. And if you're navigating recovery right now—come say hello on Instagram or send me a message. I'd love to hear from you.With love always,Julia

When you begin nourishing your body again in eating disorder recovery, it doesn't just quietly say thank you — it lets you know it's working. And that can feel overwhelming, scary, and confusing. You might even question whether you're doing recovery wrong.In this episode of Fly To Freedom, I'm breaking down what's really happening behind the physical sensations so many people experience in early recovery — from exhaustion and digestive issues to bloating, edema, joint pain, and more.These are not signs that something's gone wrong. They're signs that your body is healing.We'll explore:Why complete exhaustion is actually a good signWhat's happening with your digestion (and how long it lasts)Why emotional swings hit hard in recoveryWhat causes bloating, heartburn, and water retention (and why they're not permanent)How to support yourself through these physical changesWhat your body is really doing behind the scenes when you feel like it's falling apartThis episode is your reminder that healing is messy — and it's also miraculous.✨ Part 2 will cover the emotional and neurological changes that happen as your brain heals.Mentioned in this episode:If this episode resonates with you, come and join us inside The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle — the all-in-one community for eating disorder recovery. You'll find support, resources, courses, and a place to feel truly understood.Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and not a substitute for medical advice. Everyone's recovery journey is different. If you're concerned about your health, please speak with a qualified professional.

Episode 104 – Q&A with Victoria and Julia: Exercise in Recovery, Body Image, and the Messy MiddleIn this episode of Fly to Freedom, Julia and Victoria are back with another listener Q&A! They answer your most pressing questions about eating disorder recovery, from reintroducing exercise to dealing with body image struggles and overcoming fears around food.

53 minutes of sheer interview joy!Today's episode is an absolute treat as I welcome the marvellous Amy Margolis, LCSW. Amy is a licensed therapist, co-clinical director of Santa Monica Counseling, and an expert in eating disorder recovery. She's also a seasoned voice actor with credits from Nickelodeon, Netflix, and Disney, but more than anything, she's a passionate advocate for healing and self-worth.This episode is extra special because Amy and I recorded an incredible conversation previously… only to find out it never saved! Luckily, Amy graciously agreed to return, and honestly, I think this conversation is even better.We cover everything from the anorexic mindset and societal conditioning to the power of vulnerability, the illusion of happiness, and how starvation impacts mental health. Whether you're in recovery, supporting someone, or just curious about breaking free from deprivation thinking, this episode is packed with insight, wisdom, and practical advice.

Sorry folks, this episode is audio only, due to a technical fault uploading the video to Spotify. If you really want to see a video version, you can on YouTube at https://youtu.be/TJBNLRnTFcQIn this episode of Fly to Freedom, I'm addressing a topic that is often misunderstood, invalidated, and overlooked—atypical anorexia.If you've ever been told, “You don't look like you have an eating disorder” or felt like you don't deserve help because you don't fit the stereotype of anorexia, this episode is for you.Atypical anorexia is just as severe and life-threatening as anorexia nervosa, yet those who experience it often struggle in silence. I break down the science, misconceptions, and emotional impact of atypical anorexia and share why eating disorders should never be measured by weight alone.You'll learn:

Episode 100: Double Love – Q&A with Julia & Victoria

[[SCROLL DOWN FOR SOMETHING NEW!]]Why is rest so hard? If you've ever felt guilty for slowing down, struggled to stop moving, or found yourself filling every quiet moment with busyness, you're not alone. In this episode, I explore the deep-rooted beliefs that make rest feel impossible—especially in eating disorder recovery.

Could there be a connection between the principles of Human Design and the patterns of eating disorders, particularly anorexia? In this thought-provoking episode of Fly to Freedom, I'm joined by Katharina Hillenberg—also known as Magic Kathi—to explore this idea. Kathi is an Energy Alchemist, Sonic Anatomy Guide, and host of the Systems of Existence podcast. Specializing in Evolutionary Astrology, the Gene Keys, Human Design, and Vibrational Alignment, she helps people reconnect with their authentic selves, breaking free from conditioning and limitations. As someone navigating her own experience with anorexia, Kathi brings a unique perspective to this conversation, sharing insights into how Human Design might help us understand the deeper patterns behind eating disorders. We discuss:

Today's episode is all about hunger—but not just the tummy-rumbling kind! If you've ever felt confused by your hunger cues (or lack of them) during recovery, you're not alone. I know how tricky it can be to navigate hunger when physical signals are absent, unreliable, or even overwhelming.

Welcome to another inspiring episode of Fly to Freedom! Today, I am thrilled to be joined by the incredible Dr Anita Johnston, a true pioneer in the field of eating disorder recovery. Dr Johnston is a depth psychologist, international speaker, and the author of the transformative book Eating in the Light of the Moon, now available in seven languages. For nearly 40 years, Dr Johnston has been helping individuals understand the deeper emotional and psychological layers of their relationship with food. In this episode, we explore her fascinating approach to decoding the hidden messages in food through metaphor, mythology, and storytelling. The Hidden Language of Food: Dr Johnston explains how the foods we crave or struggle with can hold metaphorical meanings, offering insights into our emotional needs and personal challenges. Resources for Recovery: Discover the free tools Dr Johnston has created, including her Food & Metaphor Guide, designed to help you uncover the messages behind your eating patterns. Supportive Communities and Clinics: Learn about the resources available through her Light of the Moon Café, her online community, and her ʻAi Pono Maui Clinic in Hawaii, which provides a compassionate space for healing. A Legacy of Healing: Hear about Dr Johnston's remarkable journey as a pioneer in eating disorder recovery, and how her work continues to transform lives around the globe. Dr Anita Johnston's Website: dranitajohnston.com Online Community: Light of the Moon Café Ai Pono Maui Clinic: aipono.com Free Food & Metaphor Guide: lightofthemooncafe.com/mygift Dr Johnston's insights into the metaphorical language of food will leave you reflecting on your own relationship with eating and inspire you to explore a deeper understanding of yourself.

What does eating disorder recovery truly mean? In this transformative episode of Fly to Freedom, I uncover the deeper meaning of recovery. It's not just about overcoming the fear of eating or stopping destructive behaviours—it's about rediscovering who you are, learning to meet your needs, and creating a life that aligns with your authentic self. Whether you are struggling with anorexia, bulimia, binge eating, orthorexia, or any other eating disorder, FOOD is often a symptom and not the real problem. Recovery is about addressing the deeper layers—emotional, psychological, and physical—that contribute to the eating disorder, helping you build a life of freedom and self-compassion. In this episode, I'll explore: Why recovery is about more than food and weight gain fears. How to reconnect with your emotions and let go of the “shoulds.” Building trust with your body and listening to its signals for hunger, rest, and care. The power of gratitude and how it can transform your journey. Practical tips and reflective questions to help you embrace self-discovery in recovery. Recovery isn't a fixed destination—it's a lifelong journey of growth, learning, and becoming more aligned with your true self. Whether you're in the early stages of anorexia recovery or further along in your eating disorder recovery, this episode will inspire and empower you to move forward with compassion and curiosity. Key Takeaways: Let go of perfection and focus on reconnecting with your messy, beautiful, real self. Embrace the full range of your emotions—they're signals, not enemies. Start trusting your body—it's your ally, not your enemy. Small steps matter: Set boundaries, say no when you mean no, and prioritise your needs. Gratitude shifts your mindset from scarcity to abundance, helping you find joy in the present moment. Reflective Questions to Support Your Recovery: What does recovery mean to you? How often do you prioritise others' needs over your own? What would it feel like to live a life free of the “shoulds”? What's one step you can take today to reconnect with your authentic self?

What Happens When You Put Two Passionate Therapists in a Room? You get nearly an hour of great conversation, so settle in with a cuppa and listen to this wonderful conversation. Please do remember to rate the episode. Show Notes:In this raw, unfiltered, and powerful episode of Fly to Freedom, I sit down with Jennifer Cox, psychotherapist, co-host of the global hit Women Are Mad podcast, and author of the award-winning book Women Are Angry: Why Your Rage is Hiding and How to Let it Out. Jennifer brings her unrelenting passion to the conversation as we dive into the hidden emotional cages women are placed in, the societal pressures to suppress anger, and the real-life consequences of internalised emotions. From sharing her experiences as a therapist to unpacking her personal journey, Jennifer holds nothing back as we tackle tough questions about feelings, boundaries, and the untapped power of rage when it's expressed in healthy, transformative ways.

In this powerful episode, I explore the deep connection between people-pleasing, the "good girl" mindset, and eating disorder recovery. If you've ever felt like your worth is tied to how much you give, how little you need, or how small you can make yourself, this episode is for you. Topics I cover include: How people-pleasing develops – Discover how childhood experiences like parentification and societal expectations create the good girl mindset. The role of guilt in eating disorders – Understand how guilt can fuel restrictive behaviours and prevent you from meeting your own needs. The link to anorexia recovery – Learn how patterns of self-sacrifice and guilt manifest in disordered eating and keep you stuck in cycles of restriction. Steps to break free – Practical tips to set boundaries, say no, and begin prioritising your own needs without guilt. This episode is a compassionate guide to unravelling the good girl mindset and reconnecting with your authentic self. You'll gain insights into how these behaviours impact your body, mind, and relationships and find encouragement to take those first steps toward healing and self-acceptance. Key Takeaways The connection between guilt and restrictive eating – How trying to stay "good" perpetuates disordered behaviours. Small steps to reclaim your needs – Simple strategies to practise saying no and honour your body's signals. Freedom from people-pleasing in anorexia recovery – Why self-worth isn't tied to sacrifice and how to embrace a new, joyful way of living. At the end of the episode, I share a special visualisation exercise to help you imagine your life free from guilt, people-pleasing, and the good girl mindset. ✨ You don't have to sacrifice yourself to be worthy. Freedom from guilt, restriction, and self-sacrifice is possible, and it starts with choosing yourself.

What happens when eating disorder recovery becomes a shared journey—strengthening not just individuals but the relationships that support them? Supporting someone through anorexia recovery can feel overwhelming, especially when you're unsure how to help without triggering setbacks. This episode dives into the powerful journey of a couple navigating recovery together, offering real-life insights and practical advice for anyone supporting a loved one through anorexia recovery. Gain actionable insights into supporting someone with compassion while protecting your own well-being. Discover the ripple effect of recovery and how it can strengthen relationships and inspire positive change. Learn practical tips for celebrating small wins and fostering meaningful communication in recovery. Start building your recovery toolkit today—sign up for our email list for exciting upcoming news and weekly support and mantras. If this episode resonated with you, take the next step toward freedom—I'm here to help you. For my gold standard 1:1 coaching, reach out to me here: https://juliatrehane.com/begin-your-recovery/ I also offer lots of free resources:Sign up to receive my free recovery guide when you join my email community. You can do this here. Follow me on Instagram for lots of helpful tips: @juliatrehane Don't forget to follow this podcast and if you enjoyed it, give it a lovely review, as this helps other people benefit from it too!

A Christmas Meditation for Eating Disorder Recovery This week's episode is something a little different—a Christmas meditation designed to help you ground yourself during the festive season. The holidays can bring challenges, but taking time to centre yourself and find calm can make all the difference. This guided meditation is here to support you through the tricky moments and help you reconnect with peace.

In this episode, we explore one of the most transformative aspects of eating disorder recovery: boundaries. Setting boundaries can feel uncomfortable, especially when it involves family, but they are essential for protecting your recovery journey and prioritising your well-being.

In this festive and heartfelt Christmas special, Julia Trehane and Victoria Kleinsman team up again to address your holiday-related questions around food, family dynamics, and self-compassion. This episode is filled with actionable advice, warmth, and plenty of laughs as they navigate the joys and challenges of the holiday season. Whether you're recovering from an eating disorder, supporting someone in recovery, or simply looking for tips to make this Christmas a little more mindful, this episode has something for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode: How to navigate Christmas with less food-related anxiety. Practical strategies for setting boundaries with loved ones. How to embrace body changes and dress confidently during recovery. Ways to create a more joyful, connection-focused holiday experience. Questions Answered in This Episode: "How can I feel less stressed about all the food around at Christmas?" Tips for managing overwhelm. Strategies for focusing on the festive experience rather than the food. "How do I handle triggering comments about food or bodies from family members?" Setting boundaries with love and compassion. Examples of responses to deflect or address comments. "What can I do when I feel pressure to eat more to prove I'm not restricting?" The importance of honesty and self-trust. Setting boundaries to protect your recovery. "How can I reintroduce fear or binge trigger foods without relapsing?" Addressing scarcity vs. abundance mindsets. Practical steps for reintroducing foods safely and confidently. "What's your favorite Christmas food?" A lighthearted discussion about holiday treats and traditions. "How can I manage the overwhelming amount of food, people, and choices during the holidays?" Tips for grounding yourself when things feel chaotic. Practical ideas for finding calm amidst the festivities. "How do I handle body changes and dressing confidently in recovery?" Embracing the present moment and letting go of comparison. Styling tips and finding joy in dressing authentically. "Does metabolism increase when you eat more? What if I'm already gaining on a low intake?" Understanding how the body heals and regulates itself in recovery. Trusting your set point weight and your body's wisdom. "How do I stop preemptively restricting when I have little control over holiday meals?" Choosing self-compassion over preemptive restriction. Managing expectations and staying grounded in recovery. "How can I allow myself to just eat all the food?" Shifting your mindset to unconditional permission to eat. Letting go of holiday rules and embracing true freedom. Festive Takeaways: Write yourself a loving letter or record a voice note to open on Christmas morning as a gentle reminder to stay grounded in self-compassion. Julia will be recording a special podcast meditation for this too. Make sure you follow Fly To Freedom podcast for that. Start a new holiday tradition that brings joy and connection to your season. Focus on the memories you create, not just the food you eat. Resources Mentioned: Victoria's free support group for direct, compassionate guidance (visit her website for details). Julia's podcast episode with stylist Alice Nichols on dressing for body changes. Stay Connected: Follow Julia and Victoria on social media for more holiday tips and encouragement. Don't forget to share your Christmas stories with us—tag us or send a message to let us know how this episode helped you! Victoria can be contacted here: Website: https://victoriakleinsman.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/victoriakleinsmanofficial/ Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/4iNYvEWvgW9a0wNaj4m9hf?si=9ccb805e23544356 Apart from this podcast, you can find much more information from me here: Website: https://juliatrehane.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/juliatrehane/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090553513117 Wishing you all a Merry Christmas and a mindful holiday season!

Join me in celebrating my incredible client, Laura, a doctor from the UK, who shares her inspiring journey of battling an eating disorder and ultimately recovering not just her physical health, but her mental and emotional well-being too. Have you ever wondered what it truly means to recover from anorexia—not just physically, but emotionally and mentally, too? Many people struggling with anorexia feel stuck in a cycle of quasi-recovery, where life seems functional on the outside but feels far from fulfilling on the inside. This episode dives into Laura's story of moving beyond surface-level recovery to experience true freedom. If you've ever felt that traditional treatments aren't addressing the real root causes, this episode will give you hope and practical insights. Discover why recovery is not just about eating more, but also about addressing the emotional and psychological layers behind an eating disorder. Learn how inner child work and self-compassion can help reframe beliefs and cultivate a sense of self-worth. Gain insight into why personalised recovery coaching that focuses on the whole person—not just their eating habits—can lead to transformational change. If this episode resonated with you, take the next step toward freedom—I'm here to help you too.For my gold standard 1:1 coaching, reach out to me here: https://juliatrehane.com/begin-your-recovery/ I also offer lots of free resources: Sign up to receive daily mantras and my free recovery guide when you join my email community. You can do this here. Follow me on Instagram for lots of helpful tips @juliatrehane. Don't forget to follow this podcast and, if you enjoyed it, give it a lovely review, as this helps other people benefit from it too!

Have you ever felt like a setback in your eating disorder recovery means you've failed? This episode uncovers why relapse doesn't define your journey—and how it can even lead to growth. This episode pairs with my detailed blog on Relapses : Eating Disorder Recovery and How to Manage Them. Relapse is a reality in anorexia recovery that can feel incredibly discouraging.  If you've struggled with the fear that relapse means you're back to square one, this episode sheds light on a compassionate way to understand setbacks and use them to strengthen your recovery. Learn how to approach relapse as an opportunity rather than a roadblock on the path to lasting freedom from disordered eating. Discover why relapse often happens and what it can teach you about your personal triggers and emotional needs. Learn practical, compassionate steps to take after a relapse to reconnect with your recovery journey. Find out how to explore the deeper emotional and psychological patterns beneath the eating disorder to foster long-term healing. Sign up for our email community to receive a daily recovery mantra and my free guide to recovery, designed to keep you motivated and supported every step of the way. If this episode resonated with you, take the next step toward freedom—I'm here to help you.For my gold-standard 1:1 coaching, reach out to me here: https://juliatrehane.com/begin-your-recovery/I also offer lots of free resources: sign up to receive daily mantras and my free recovery guide when you join my email community. You can do this here.Follow me on Instagram for lots of helpful tips @juliatrehaneDon't forget to follow this podcast, and if you enjoyed it, give it a lovely review, as this helps other people benefit from it too!