Keep Them Coming with Open the Doors Coaching

In this episode, host Kristen Thomas interviews Pamela Merritt, the Executive Director of Medical Students for Choice, discussing the critical role of reproductive health education and access in the current political landscape. Pamela explains the organization's efforts to provide comprehensive reproductive healthcare education and training for medical students, the impact of recent legal and political shifts on abortion access, and the broader implications for healthcare and social justice. Pamela shares insights into the challenges faced by reproductive health providers and delves into the interconnectedness of reproductive rights and workers' rights. They wrap up the conversation by highlighting ways individuals can take action and support efforts to safeguard reproductive healthcare access and the need for awareness regarding digital privacy.     00:00 Introduction to Keep Them Coming 01:33 Meet Today's Guest: Pamela Merritt 03:28 Medical Students for Choice: Mission and Impact 06:20 The Political Landscape of Reproductive Healthcare 13:12 Challenges and Realities in Missouri 27:54 Reproductive Rights as Workers' Rights 29:55 Debunking Nostalgia: The Myth of Women's Roles in History 31:21 The Fight for Women's Rights and Economic Participation 32:49 The State's Role in Reproductive Rights and White Nationalism 36:19 The Reality of Abortion Access and Healthcare Policies 38:34 Plan C and Digital Privacy for Reproductive Health 42:03 Legal Risks and Protective Measures for Reproductive Rights 54:47 Supporting Medical Students for Choice and Future Access 56:38 Conclusion and Call to Action     Medical Students For Choice website: https://msfc.org/donate IG: https://www.instagram.com/msfchoice  Twitter: https://twitter.com/MSFC  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MSFChoice/  Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/msfchoice.bsky.social   Mentioned in the episode: Search the internet AFTER you've secured your search history: https://activistchecklist.org/  Euki period planner app: https://eukiapp.org/  Plan C Pills: https://www.plancpills.org/  Palema's Substack post after the Dobbs decision: https://pamelamerrittsharkfu.substack.com/p/postmortem?r=1ih6l8&triedRedirect=true     Thanks for listening! XOXO Kristen ______________________________ Support my work by becoming a Patron on Patreon: patreon.com/coach_kristen      Check out all the affiliates and discounts I have with quality sexual health companies like Intimate Rose and Bathmate: https://www.openthedoorscoaching.com/affiliates   Learn more about my coaching services : openthedoorscoaching.com Book an information session: https://rebrand.ly/TalkToKristen Dirty Bird e-newsletter: https://zc.vg/sf/vfMdv SFW e-newsletter: https://zc.vg/081sd Be on Keep Them Coming: https://forms.gle/g8CB2z61Vep9h3XQ8 Want your question answered?  https://forms.gle/xNBLKCcUy75h97nZ8 Hire me to speak at your event: https://rebrand.ly/Hire_Coach_Kristen   Read my column in The Pitch Magazine: https://www.thepitchkc.com/tag/keep-them-coming/     TikTok  https://www.tiktok.com/@coachkristen YouTube https://youtube.com/@openthedoorscoaching Bluesky https://bsky.app/profile/coachkristen.bsky.social LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/coach-kristen-thomas/

How can kissing save your relationship? Addressing both cultural and biological aspects, Coach Kristen explains how kissing releases bonding hormones affects the body, enhances mood, and reduces stress. She also discusses how kissing can be a tool for assessing long-term compatibility.    00:00 Introduction: The Power of Kissing 00:56 The Science Behind Kissing 01:49 Kissing in Modern Dating 02:38 Kissing in Long-Term Relationships 03:57 Tips to Become a Better Kisser 05:27 Personal Stories   Thanks for listening! XOXO Kristen   February Pitch column: Pucker Up, Buttercup   Support my work by becoming a Patron on Patreon: patreon.com/coach_kristen      Check out all the affiliates and discounts I have with quality sexual health companies like Intimate Rose and Bathmate: https://www.openthedoorscoaching.com/affiliates   You can use my code “BVCA5OTDC” at checkout to get 20% off your entire purchase at b-Vibe! Use it on: www.bvibe.com/, www.bvibe.com/ or www.lewandmassager.com/   Learn more about my coaching services : openthedoorscoaching.com Book an information session: https://rebrand.ly/TalkToKristen Dirty Bird e-newsletter: https://zc.vg/sf/vfMdv SFW e-newsletter: https://zc.vg/081sd Be on Keep Them Coming: https://forms.gle/g8CB2z61Vep9h3XQ8 Want your question answered?  https://forms.gle/xNBLKCcUy75h97nZ8 Hire me to speak at your event: https://rebrand.ly/Hire_Coach_Kristen   Read my column in The Pitch Magazine: https://www.thepitchkc.com/tag/keep-them-coming/     TikTok  https://www.tiktok.com/@coachkristen YouTube https://youtube.com/@openthedoorscoaching Bluesky https://bsky.app/profile/coachkristen.bsky.social Discord: https://discord.gg/uskVndTM LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/coach-kristen-thomas/      

Waking up one day and wondering if you're upholding Christian Nationalism is not an easy position to find oneself.  April Ajoy shares her transformative journey from a fundamentalist Christian upbringing to questioning how her faith could include embracing a more inclusive worldview. They discuss the intersections of faith, politics, and sexuality, particularly in the context of Christian nationalism and purity culture. April reflects on her journey from away right wing extremism via the impact of a a deep personal loss, a few loved one's coming out stories, and the challenges of navigating relationships and sexuality as an adult. Their conversation highlights the importance of self-discovery, the dangers of religion seeking power, and the need for open discussions about sexuality and consent, especially for practicing Christians. TW: brief discussion of sexual assault - see the chapters for the timing.  April Ajoy's information: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aprilajoy/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/aprilajoy Get a copy of Star-Spangled Jesus https://tr.ee/KOqRtqhQEc    Chapters 00:00 Introduction to April Ajoy and Her Journey 06:50 Leaving Christian Nationalism Behind 09:50 The Impact of Personal Loss on Faith 10:42 Political Awakening and the Trump Era 15:39 Understanding Christian Nationalism 19:43 The Intersection of Faith and LGBTQ+ Issues 24:41 Coming out close to home 27:13 The Role of Consent in Purity Culture 32:14 TW: Mention of SA 34:42 Reclaiming Autonomy and Sexuality 42:35 Unlearning that "sex is bad" isn't like flipping a light switch 46:06 The Intersection of Purity Culture and Christian Nationalism 52:58 The Dangers of Christian Nationalism today 55:00 Ask Coach Kristen Anything - Do you think DT and Melania still have sex?    Thanks for listening! XOXO Kristen   Support my work by becoming a Patron on Patreon: patreon.com/coach_kristen      Check out all the affiliates and discounts I have with quality sexual health companies: https://www.openthedoorscoaching.com/affiliates   Learn more about my coaching services : openthedoorscoaching.com Book an information session: https://rebrand.ly/TalkToKristen Dirty Bird e-newsletter: https://zc.vg/sf/vfMdv SFW e-newsletter: https://zc.vg/081sd Be on Keep Them Coming: https://forms.gle/g8CB2z61Vep9h3XQ8 Want your question answered?  https://forms.gle/xNBLKCcUy75h97nZ8 Hire me to speak at your event: https://rebrand.ly/Hire_Coach_Kristen   Read my column in The Pitch Magazine: https://www.thepitchkc.com/tag/keep-them-coming/   TikTok  https://www.tiktok.com/@coachkristen YouTube https://youtube.com/@openthedoorscoaching Bluesky https://bsky.app/profile/coachkristen.bsky.social Discord: https://discord.gg/uskVndTM LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/coach-kristen-thomas/    

Having trouble navigating the gray abyss of a mediocre relationship? Worried you've fallen into a tolerable level of permanent unhappiness? In this episode of 'Keep Them Coming', Kristen shares and analyzes Reddit posts about long-term relationships stuck in mediocrity, offering strategies and advice on how to navigate tough decisions. Kristen introduces the 'three doors' option for dealing with relationship dissatisfaction. Through reflective examples and practical tips, she emphasizes the importance of direct communication, setting boundaries, and prioritizing personal growth post-breakup. The episode wraps up with actionable advice on moving forward and finding happiness after a split. 00:00 Introduction to Keep Them Coming 01:21 Navigating Mediocre Relationships 03:56 The Three Doors Decision-Making Tool 06:26 Reddit Relationship Dilemmas 11:43 Breaking Up with Respect and Clarity 14:51 Moving On and Personal Growth 17:54 Conclusion and Support   Thanks for listening! XOXO Kristen   Become a Patron on Patreon! This helps me produce high quality educational content like this podcast.   patreon.com/coach_kristen  Check out all the affiliates and discounts I have with quality sexual health companies like Intimate Rose and Bathmate: https://www.openthedoorscoaching.com/affiliates   Learn more about my coaching services : openthedoorscoaching.com Book an information session: https://rebrand.ly/TalkToKristen Dirty Bird e-newsletter: https://zc.vg/sf/vfMdv SFW e-newsletter: https://zc.vg/081sd Be on Keep Them Coming: https://forms.gle/g8CB2z61Vep9h3XQ8 Want your question answered?  https://forms.gle/xNBLKCcUy75h97nZ8 Hire me to speak at your event: https://rebrand.ly/Hire_Coach_Kristen   TikTok  https://www.tiktok.com/@coachkristen YouTube https://youtube.com/@openthedoorscoaching Bluesky https://bsky.app/profile/coachkristen.bsky.social LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/coach-kristen-thomas/

In this episode of Keep Them Coming, host Kristen Thomas discusses the film Babygirl with The Pitch Magazine's Film Editor Abby Olcese. *SPOILERS AHEAD!* Kristen and Abby discussed the themes of sexuality, relationships, and the complexities of female desire, particularly in the context of a woman's awakening to her needs and wants. It explores the portrayal of dom-sub relationships and the generational differences in expectations and standards for men and women in power.    Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Keep Them Coming 01:22 Exploring the Film Babygirl 09:22 Character Dynamics and Themes 12:03 Sexual Awakening and Relationships 20:49 Generational Perspectives on Sexuality 27:22 Communication and Desire in Relationships 31:12 Cinematic Representation of Female Desire 35:42 Soft Launch of Relationships 36:30 Discretion and Awareness in Relationships 37:25 Portrayal of Dom-Sub Dynamics 38:52 Exploring Boundaries and Safety 39:50 Character Development and Submissive Energy 41:41 Wealth and Class Dynamics 44:32 Chemistry and Age Gap Dynamics 45:57 Power Dynamics 47:50 Agency and Sexual Compatibility 49:39 Communication in Relationships 52:46 Changing Desires and Growth 55:02 Standards for Women vs. Men 56:59 Generational Differences in Power Dynamics 01:00:18 Cultural Commentary on Sexuality 01:02:08 Final Reflections on Relationships 01:04:21 Ask Coach Kristen Anything   Find Abby on Bluesky https://bsky.app/profile/abbyolcese.bsky.social  or Letterbox IndieAbby   Kristen's Links Website: openthedoorscoaching.com  TikTok  https://www.tiktok.com/@coachkristen YouTube https://youtube.com/@openthedoorscoaching Bluesky https://bsky.app/profile/coachkristen.bsky.social Discord: https://discord.gg/uskVndTM   Support my Patreon to help me produce high quality, educational content across platforms: patreon.com/coach_kristen

Summary In this episode, Kristen Thomas explores the phenomenon of 'divorce season' in January, discussing the reasons behind the spike in divorce filings during this month. She delves into the emotional and societal factors contributing to this trend, including the impact of the political climate on relationships. Kristen also addresses common myths surrounding divorce, such as the misconception that it comes as a surprise to those involved. Finally, she offers practical advice for those considering divorce, emphasizing the importance of emotional support and legal guidance.   Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Keep Them Coming 01:22 Understanding Divorce Season 04:04 The Impact of Politics on Relationships 07:27 Debunking Myths About Divorce 10:10 Navigating the Divorce Process 13:29 Closing   Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/@openthedoorscoaching Website: openthedoorscoaching.com  TikTok  https://www.tiktok.com/@coachkristen Bluesky https://bsky.app/profile/coachkristen.bsky.social Discord: https://discord.gg/uskVndTM Flowpage: https://flow.page/coachkristen  

Would you believe that most people are not wearing the right bra for them? Coach Kristen interviews Emily Elizabeth, the owner of Circadian Intimates, a lingerie shop in KC. They discuss Emily's journey into the lingerie industry, the importance of proper bra fitting, and the impact of well-fitted lingerie on confidence. Emily shares insights on the evolving lingerie industry, including size and fit inclusivity, and offers practical shopping tips for partners.   RSVP for their Holiday Fashion Show: https://circadianintimates.com/blogs/about-circadian-intimates/youre-invited-circadian-intimates-holiday-lingerie-fashion-show   Topics include: Emily's Journey into the lingerie industry The importance of proper bra fitting Inclusivity in the industry Exploring kinks and fetishes through lingerie And advice for partners shopping for the holidays or special occasions   Chapters 00:00 Introduction to my guest, info on upcoming events 06:07 Emily's Journey into the Lingerie Industry 11:50 Proper Bra Fitting 18:30 Bra Donation Program  21:40 Evolving Lingerie Industry Size Inclusivity 26:29 Comfort in Lingerie Shopping 32:11 Holiday Lingerie Shopping 35:54 Exploring Confidence and Self-Expression  38:19 Approaching Strangers 49:54 Diverse Options for Every Budget and Style in Lingerie   Book a session https://rebrand.ly/TalkToKristen Want to be a guest? https://forms.gle/g8CB2z61Vep9h3XQ8

Do you wish you had more confidence when it comes to role play? Worry that you're not creative enough to have an exciting and easy experience? Coaches Julia and Kristen are going to set your mind at ease.    Topics include: Role play preparedness Key elements of negotiation Use media or tools like Faithful Fling to help you Read "Familiar Stranger", this month's Keep Them Coming column via The Pitch.    Julia Satterlee is a Clinical Sexologist dedicated to kicking shame out of the bedroom and sparking joyful intimacy. Since 2019, she has been coaching couples, men, and women, championing pleasure and connection as essential, not optional. Julia's work revolves around exploring and expressing needs, desires, and boundaries in a judgment-free environment. Her approach combines self-love strategies, effective communication techniques, and myth-busting insights into sex and intimacy—all with a dose of fun.   Find her here: https://pleasure-wise.com/ tinyurl.com/pleasurepractice @pleasure.wise Instagram @sexistentialcoach Facebook   Email me at kristen@openthedoorscoaching.com for questions, topic suggestions for future episodes, or to book your first session. 

Amanda Vee is the creator of Sex Talks With Amanda and Embodied Sexual Power. She brings over a decade of experience and expertise as an accredited fitness professional and Behavioral Change Specialist. She's a Certified Sex Coach and Clinical Sexologist, Certified Life Coach, and faculty at Sex Coach U. After leaving a twenty-year relationship and moving across the country during the pandemic, Amanda pivoted her career to fully embrace her passion for helping people create the sex lives that they really want.  She identifies as polyamorous and heteroflexible and she discussed what apps she's had success with while dating as a nonmonogamous person. Amanda lived a fantastic slut era but also spent time with celibacy to understand more about herself.    Topics discussed: Sexual health month and positive relationships  Sexual and romantic spectrums in honor of National Bisexuality Day. Exploration and labels The relationship escalator Dating as a couple and unicorn hunting When and where to be open - small towns vs cities, safety and stigma considerations The Ask Coach Kristen Anything got pretty spicy

Have you ever wanted to get more sex education but have no interest in talking to a coach directly?  Did you have a belief that your sex life should be amazing always, only to find that it's a really difficult expectation to live up to? This episode is dedicated to everyone who would like more sex education but could not imagine themselves reaching out to work with a coach personally. I get it... It's awkward! Maybe it's just not for you, maybe there's an acessability issue.   That is why you'll enjoy this conversation with my guest Mariah Freya. She is the founder of Beducated. She's making a global impact by making sex education accessible.  In this episode: What should your kids know from you about sexual health? You are their first teacher! What is the sexual lifeline? Our thoughts on people who try to discourage sexual health education.   Listen until the end for a discount code on a Beducated subscription! Also - Happy Sexual Health Month! XOXO Kristen  

On this episode of Keep Them Coming, I'm thrilled to talk to Zach Watson, aka The Recovering Manchild. Zach's relatable approach to addressing mental load, invisible labor, and the challenges of modern relationships has really struck a chord with me, and I know it will with you too. Today, we're diving deep into how he uses humor and vulnerability to foster conversations about personal development, communication, and navigating partnerships. So get ready for an engaging discussion on everything from household responsibilities to the small yet significant ways we can better support each other in relationships.  Watson, and Invisible Labor Coach, was also quoted in my August column Love and Loads: Why not doing your fair share is killing your sex life. Available online August 16th.  His TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recoveringmanchild His IG: https://www.instagram.com/realzachthinkshare/   RSVP for Kristen's workshop Tap Into Pleasure on September 4th: https://www.openthedoorscoaching.com/event-details/tap-into-pleasure

This episode is dedicated to those of you who celebrated the Week of Visibility for Non-monogamy last week (July 15th-21st). What do you do to work through jealousy in relationships (especially ENM)? And is it something that you can even prevent?  Have you ever said "I'm too jealous to be in a nonmonogamous relationship"? Ever heard of "creative monogamy"? My guest today, Dr. Joli Hamilton is the relationship coach for couples who color outside the lines. She is a research psychologist, TEDx speaker bestselling author - we talked about her book Project Relationship - and she's also an AASECT certified sex educator. She co-hosts the Project Relationship podcast with her  anchor partner, Ken, and she's been featured in the New York times. Vogue. NPR and the Atlantic.  Find her at jolihamilton.com and her quiz at joliquiz.com Read my July 2024 Keep Them Coming column via ThePitch.com

Did you know oral sex leads to orgasm 3 times more than intercourse? Did you also know that studies are beginning to prove that STIs are spread more now by oral sex than by other forms of sexual contact?   On this episode, I was joined by Melanie Cristol, the founder and CEO of Lorals. Lorals is an FDA-approved product whose mission is to empower people to experience intimacy freely and fully and to connect with our partners in a variety of ways. They see Lorals as reinventing oral sex - helping everyone have uninhibited maximum oral pleasure every single time. Thanks for listening! XOXO Kristen   Lorals website: mylorals.com   Check out all the affiliates and discounts I have with quality sexual health companies like Intimate Rose and Bathmate: https://www.openthedoorscoaching.com/affiliates    Learn more about my coaching services: openthedoorscoaching.com Book an information session: https://rebrand.ly/TalkToKristen Dirty Bird e-newsletter: https://zc.vg/sf/vfMdv SFW e-newsletter: https://zc.vg/081sd  Be on Keep Them Coming: https://forms.gle/g8CB2z61Vep9h3XQ8 Want your question answered?  https://forms.gle/xNBLKCcUy75h97nZ8 Hire me to speak at your event: https://rebrand.ly/Hire_Coach_Kristen    TikTok  https://www.tiktok.com/@coachkristen Facebook https://www.facebook.com/openthedoorscoaching  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/openthedoorskc/  YouTube https://youtube.com/@openthedoorscoaching788

Welcome to Keep Them Coming. I'm your host, Kristen Thomas, a certified sex coach and clinical sexologist. This episode marks the exciting kickoff of season three, and I promise it's going to be hotter and more educational than ever before. In this episode, I am joined by fellow sexologist Savannah Rose of Savannah Rose Coaching. We dive deep into the world of solo pleasure in celebration of International Masturbation Month. Discover why we prefer alternative terms to 'masturbation,' and explore fascinating statistics about solo pleasure time, including why many women prefer it over intercourse. Savannah shares her expertise on closing the orgasm gap, healing from abuse, and living authentically. We discuss the role of pleasure in people's lives, and how to make partnered playtime more connected and hotter. This conversation is filled with profound lessons, practical advice, and plenty of fun. Don't forget to check out my monthly column in The Pitch and stay tuned for more exciting content this season. Enjoy the episode!   Mentioned in the episode: Becoming Cliterate by Dr Laurie Mintz Come As You Are by Dr Emily Nagowski Sex Coach U and Dr Patti Britton VITA and Layla Martin Sex For One by Betty Dodson

It's International Masturbation Month!! My guest is Kya Blackstone.   Kya is a pleasure activist who believes that pleasure is a key component of living a wholehearted life. After noticing a gap in the market for intimate wellness products that focused on self-pleasure and catered to BIPOC women, Kya founded so(l)o.   so(l)o creates all-natural, sustainable intimate wellness products that are specifically created for self-pleasure. Kya was so passionate about so(l)o that she quit her corporate gig and moved to Berlin....after a great deal of strategy and thought, of course. You can follow Kya's life in Berlin on @brooklyntoberlin and follow so(l)o @mysoloislove on Instagram.   Grab a bottle of Glow Intimacy Oil Formula No. 1 and use discount code Open15

This episode features Dr Chelsia Potts, an educator and content creator. Dr Potts and host Kristen Thomas discussed sex and neurodivergency.   Have you found that when you're dating, it's easy to be all hot and heavy when you're still in the new relationship energy but then you suddenly feel disconnected? Are you overwhelmed once you have to merge the emotional and physical in a relationship? Worry that your autism or ADHD will prevent you from finding a caring and understanding partner? This episode is for you.   Topics include: Aging, shifting, and unmasking - how we mourn removing our mask Dating with autism or ADHD Recognizing red flags Learning to build connections Overcoming shame   Find Dr Potts TikTok @heavyonthedr Become a member of The Pitch and get a copy mailed got your house every month. 

The conversation you are about to listen to between my guest D Rashaan Gilmore and I is...Maybe not going to make some of you very happy. Sorry, not sorry. I don't really care. We live in Missouri and we no longer have the time to mince words. Our conversation covered topics like houselessness, classism, voter apathy, and allyship.   D Rashaan is a serial entrepreneur, community connector, organizer,  collaborator, and an Emmy Award winner. He is particularly passionate about making a difference and has found a home for his voice in service of marginalized and stigmatized communities.  He is the founder and CEO of BlaqOut, a grassroots movement organization that seeks to organize and mobilize the black LGBTQ community in Kansas City. Consider becoming a member of The Pitch for as little as $5 a month, you could get The Pitch delivered directly to your house no matter where you live.    

I know I say this a lot, but I'm constantly excited about the guests that I have on the show. I'm extra excited about today's guest, Alicia Sinclair. She's also a Certified Sex Coach. We went through the same program at Sex Coach U. Sinclair is the CEO and founder of Children of the Revolution, which holds the brand's b vibe, Le Wand, and The Cowgirl. She'd already been in the sex toy industry for a long time before becoming a Sexologist, and when she saw that there were some holes to fill in that industry (wink, wink), specifically about pleasure education, she got her certification and started her own companies, and a pleasure revolution while she's at it.  She believes heavily that education and pleasure go hand in hand. If you don't feel like you have learned enough about anal from me and my podcast, then you need to check out their Anal Academy.  Also since it's Women's History Month, I asked her about women in history that she looks up to. We also discussed overcoming vibrator objections, favorite positions for integrating vibes with a partner, and what's next in sex tech.  If you are not local to the Kansas City area, or just have not had a chance to pick up your copy of The Pitch on newsstands, read my March column Still Got It: Aging doesn't have to slow you down in the bedroom.  

When my guest today came over to my office to hang out and chill Monday a couple of weeks ago. I was intrigued with her because it was kind of refreshing that we had had some pretty similar experiences, but this also seemed like someone I could learn some lessons from. Ellie Berland is a sacred life and business coach, and she is a big believer in pretty much everything can be seen as divine - that even includes your kinky side.  Her pendulum has swung from purity culture into the poly lifestyle, and then into swinging, and now, into a celibate lifestyle as she learns more about herself. We talked about a lot of things in this episode; BDSM and finding a Dom, connecting to your body, and learning to captain her own ship.    Find Ellie on Instagram or her BioPage.  Learn more about afterglow and use code XOKRISTEN to get a 7-day free trial. 

Curator of the soon-to-be-unveiled KC Rainbow Tour Joel Barrett joined me on this episode of Keep Them Coming. Joel shared stories of this city's queer past, including the influential 1966 meeting of the North American Conference of Homophile Organizations or NACHO, pronounced NAY-KOE, which was the ember of activism that helped spark the Gay Rights Movement; stories of an open lesbian Bunny at the Playboy Club named Lea Hopkins; the Jazz District; the Gay and Lesbian Archives of Mid-America; and Womantown. We also discussed showing respect via pronouns, finding long-lost gay family, and Anita Bryant.   Find the KC Rainbow Tour on: Instagram JoelSpeaksOut.com Happy Singles Appreciation Day! Enjoy this playlist Single and Vibin' on Spotify. 

Friend of the show Lucy Rowett, CSC primarily focuses on helping women and non-binary femmes with embodying pleasure. In this episode, Lucy and I are talking all about the variety of documentaries discussing sex cults and sex scandals, including NXIVM, Jerry Falwell Jr, Teal Swan, One Taste, among others. We covered some feel-good shows that are about sex, too, like How To Build A Sex Room and Goop Lab, as well as Sex, Love, and Goop.  You can find Lucy at LucyRowett.com or Instagram.

Some of you are fresh out of Dry January and are wondering if you could be dating differently moving forward. Others of you have been sober for years and struggle with being bored on dates. Whether you're a sober dater or simply want fresh and creative date ideas, you'll love this episode of Keep Them Coming.   Melissa and Kristen discussed tips for talking to your date about not drinking, where to find people besides a bar, and what Melissa finds sexy in a man. She went on 66 first dates, so she's got some opinions!   Melissa Saubers is a Quantum Manifestation Teacher, Healer, Facilitator, and Coach, who has developed a holistic manifestation and healing approach rooted in science, psychology, and spirituality. She has a fascination for the subconscious mind, the quantum field, manifestation, and expanding consciousness and helps clients on their healing, expansion, and manifestation journeys with a variety of healing modalities including breathwork, quantum hypnosis, hypnotherapy, cacao, and energy healing.   Melissa hosts many events around the Kansas City area including the weekly love-donation-based Sunset Breathwork event every Tuesday night at 7pm. Melissa can be found online at HealandExpand.com and on Instagram @MelissaSaubers   Try afterglow for 7 days FREE with the code XOKRISTEN: https://afterglow.ubpages.com/xokristen/  

Ever wonder why men seem to be Mr. Wonderful at first but really start to show their asses after a few months? It's as if they couldn't keep up the act once they thought they had you hooked. You may have found a selfish short-term thinker rather than a generous long-term thinker.  Chantal Heide - AKA Canada's Dating Coach - is a dating and relationship coach and expert. She's the author of 10 books (plus two workbooks), and it's her book, No More Assholes, that caught Kristen's attention on TikTok. Chantal is so good at dissecting situations and behavior. She mixes the nerdy science-y stuff with romantic actions to help people change their relationship trajectories.  Topics include: how to stop fighting with your spouse, why no kissing for 90 days may be the bold dating move to change your life, dating after divorce, addressing mismatched libido, and much more.   Find Chantal Heide on TikTok  or Instagram, or grab her books on Amazon.  Read my January 2023 column from The Pitch - Please Cancel My Monthly Subscription 

I am joined today by my friend, Mieke Stapleberg. We met through Sex Coach U at a SAR, and that stands for Sexual Attitude Reassessment. What better time to make a friend, than when you're being your most vulnerable and exposing yourself to new things? In addition to talking about her some of her brands - including Mind Sex and Karma Mind - we talked about mental health, bias, stigma, and self-reflection. And we did talk about the recent Andrew Tate scandal, of course. We also discussed ethical porn and porn addiction, and supporting sex workers. So there's a little bit of something in here for everyone! Find Mieke on Instagram @karmamind_  

Back on Keep Them Coming for another episode - it's my friend, colleague, and co-host Kristine D'Angelo. She's a Portland based Certified Sex Coach and we are hosting a couples intimacy retreat in Puerto Vallarta, MX in a few months. We discussed who our retreat is for and some of the topics we will cover. If you and your spouse or partner really love each other, buuut - come to the retreat and we will help you over come that "but". Also included - responsive desire, being an interesting partner, extreme unity vs extreme autonomy, empty nesters and divorce, and moving beyond talking about it to fixing it!Visit rejuvenateintimacy.com for more information or to complete the interest form. You can get more of Kristine by going to doyoursexlifeafavor.com

Mariah Grant is the Director of Research and Advocacy for the Sex Worker Project at the Urban Justice Center. The midterms are coming, and if the blue wave succeeds, the conversations around decriminalizing sex work could result in action. In the meantime, we discussed ways that everyday people can reduce harm for sex workers. We also covered topics like the Safe Sex Worker Study Act, how to speak to legislators to drive change at the state level, and how cops aren't the answer in solving the current issues. Also, pay attention to where you spend your dollar. Lots of big corporations and banks discriminate against SWs. Find your way over to the Urban Justice Center's website and give them a donation!Visit rejuvenateintimacy.com for more information about my couples intimacy retreat in Puerto Vallarta, MX April of 2023.

CSC Kaci Mial joined KTC to discuss all things sex and pregnancy! We talked about the unique challenges that trying to conceive (TTC) couples face. She shared ways to relieve the pressure, to make sex less mechanical, and she provided some great resources for listeners. If you've ever been scared to have sex while pregnant, you need this episode! New moms, dad, and parents alike need support to adjust to their new role as parent and partner. Kaci also talk about what she thought, as a new Mom, was sexiest about her husband after she had their first child. Website : sexcoachkaci.comEmail : sexcoachkaci@gmail.comInstagram : @SexCoachKaci ResourcesWhy Did No One Tell Me This? The Doula's Honest Guide For Expectant Parents, Natalia Hailes and Ash Spivak (Pgs.185-186)And Baby Makes Three: The Six Step Plan for Preserving Marital Intimacy and Rekindling Romance After Baby Arrives, John Gottman PhD and Julie Scwartz PhdCounseling Couples Before, During, and After Pregnancy, Stephanie Buehler PhdPlanned Parenthood Reproductive Justice Timelinehttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AkvGmGNKvSU&ab_channel=PPGNYAction

AJ Cheyfitz is both a sex therapist, as well as a kink and BDSM educator in the DC area. AJ taught me all about a The Violet Wand, including great information about care, such as cleaning, safety protocols, and more. If you have been a BDSM or kink practitioner for a while, and you've been playing with different things that, give you those stringy or those thuddy sensations, and you're looking for something a little bit more interesting, electricity play could be something for you to try.

My new friend, Anna Koehler, joined me. She and I are co-hosting a workshop coming up called Ask Me Out: How to approach them for a date. If you feel like the pandemic has made you start holding back, something has made you feel like you're having a harder time putting yourself out there, or maybe you became single for the first time in a long time in the last couple of years. You're not alone. And we have solutions for you in this workshop!Ana also discussed her one woman show called Cold Showers. We threw in some of our ideas about how to get the second date. I also gave my opinion on who should pay for the check on the date.Found out that I got nominated for The Pitch's Best Of For 2022. I got nominated for two awards - Best TikTok and Best Local Personality. I'd appreciate your vote.

Dr. Amanda Olson is a Pelvic Floor Therapist and she treats a host issue. Her company Intimate Rose makes FDA approved medical devices to treat pelvic floor disorders. And Dr. Olson helped explain what the process is like when you first go and what the treatment journey can look like.On top of discussing the benefits of some of her devices, which I do have one on my office shelf, we also discussed some of the shifts that we have seen that have enabled growth in her industry. Gen Z is not putting up with not having answers and solutions to their pain, that's for sure! Mentioned in the episode intro: Workshop September 18th, 2022 Ask Me Out: How to approach them for a date

Friend and fellow Clinical Sexologist Erin Wallis has her hands full with 3 queer teens, including 2 that are transgender. In fact, no one in the house is straight! Her experiences in Cumming, Georgia are like something out of a novel. Have you ever had a pastor call your house to harass you? Erin was frank about the conversations and considerations about safety, playing sports, and having an exit plan. No parent should have to worry about their child's safety in the ways she does, but we are watching in real time as people are being emboldened by radical Christofacists. We both feel our fathers were radicalized by Fox News. I was very appreciative of her sharing her and her family's story (and everyone in the house gave her the green light to discuss their lives). Even if you don't have a household like the Wallis', you're sure to learn something from today's episode.

Breaking up is never fun nor easy, no matter how long you've been together. But, sometimes it's simply necessary. You should definitely consider some things before you make a final decision. Today's episode covers when is it time to break up with someone? How do you break up with someone effectively? And what should you do to get past a breakup?

Artist. friend, and Kinsey 6 Corey Green joined me to just kind of tell me the story of his life. I truly savor when I get the opportunity to hear someone tell me not only their coming out story, but also what was it like exploring sex, especially when you grew up where you didn't get much information about it. If you lived that small town teenage life, you will certainly appreciate Corey's tales.So, whether you have been considering how you can understand more about your proclivities for kink, understanding your queerness, and so much more, listening to this conversation can hopefully help you feel a little bit more comfortable with yourself. The answer to "am I normal?" is "yes!"

Thank you for joining me for another episode of keep them coming. Fair warning, the content of this episode is freaking amazing! However, I majorly f*cked up on my setup. I guess I didn't have it recording on my microphone. So...my apologies!Guest Katie M has several intersecting identities and it has made it challenging for them to date. Their identity can give people a lot of opportunities to make inaccurate assumptions.There's so much variety with asexuality. There almost is like no two that are truly alike. It can really just manifest in a variety of ways. So, if you've ever wondered what asexuality is like, Or you have heard of demisexuality, graysexuality, or sapiosexual and have questions, then this episode is absolutely for you. Also discussed in this episode - thoughts on pride, who are some influencers out there who are ACE or non-binary, and what have some asexual or ACE portrayals been like in movies and media. Also, what does queerness really look like and how can it be explored when it's removed from sex?You are absolutely guaranteed to learn something in this episode!

I unfortunately missed going to the Kansas city Burlesque Festival this year, but I am joined by my friend, Kira who was crowned the Queen of KC Burlesque for 2022. And she didn't even tell me until the end of the episode that she has the cutest stage name - Petite Syrah. Kyra helped me learn some new things about burlesque, such as explaining different types of burlesque, she told me a few things about what it takes to get started, and a few of her favorite makers that you should also check out if you are currently a dancer or thinking about getting into it.We also talked about how through some of life's experiences, there's much to be learned about our bodies and body image, how we feel about ourselves, about relationships and our sexualities over time. Being a bisexual in a cishetero relationship doesn't negate one's bisexuality!You can find Kyra on Instagram at @kyralyn, and you can also check Downtown Underground Burlesque for more information about upcoming shows. I have an in-person workshop on Monday, June 27th. It's here in Kansas city. My dear friend of a decade. Rose Heinz and I are going to be hosting "Making Space For Intimate Self Care". So we are going to be doing a combination of things on this next new moon, including some guided meditations, journaling to help you find clarity on what it is you're looking for - either in a future partnership or in your current relationship that takes it to another level. Email me, Kristen@openthedoorscoaching.com if you are interested in tickets or you can Go to MindBody App and search for Yoga Patch (location of the event) Monday, June 27th, from 7:30 to 9 PM.

Some of you in the leather and kink community might be familiar with Leather Masters, which got hit by COVID and closed it manufacturing in Texas in 2020. Entrepreneurs Stan and his husband Clint, owners of Em City in Kansas City, are reviving the brand and relaunching in July 2022.I was very interested in hearing his entrepreneurial journey after a fateful Vegas weekend. I told the story of how we were first introduced - which had nothing to do with leather or kink. It actually had to do with sex toys! Of course as the owner of a adult entertainment store. I would expect him to have a sizable collection of sex toys, and the reason why my both surprise and educate you. We also discussed some best practices for cleaning your toys.And you may recall that I featured Stan and Em City in one of my Pitch articles earlier this year. I highly recommend that you go see them if you are in the area, but you can certainly also shop on their website emcitykc.com.

Fireplaying expert and educator Mark Athens helped me understand more about using fire for both pleasure and pain. He also discussed his journey into the leather community, along with a little history of leather at Pride. We also discussed how to spot a swinger, leather competitions, kink conferences, and much more. Find him on FetLife @SirAthens. Find Consent KC on Facebook or @_consentKC on FetLife.

My friend Kinkaid McMinn joined me again on Keep Them Coming. He's a fellow Certified Sex Coach and Clinical Sexologist who also graduated from Sex Coach U. We are ringing in National Masturbation Month 2022! Topics include male or penis-owning masturbation myths, when you might know there's an issue in your relationship, our thoughts on tantra and semen retention, Kinkaid explained jelqing, and more.

Artist, designer, and activist Tanith K. joined me for a winding convo around gender, art, and journeys of self exploration. We discussed the purpose of labels, and the gatekeeping over what is "trans enough". You can find Tanith on Instagram or their Society 6 shop. Support local artists!

So parents... let's have a frank conversation. I completely understand that once y'all had children, things change in your life. I find that there is a big difference between the couples that make sure that their relationship stays a priority versus those who put the kids first before their relationship.I don't think that you're a bad partner or spouse if you have put your kids before your spouse. It's not about good or bad. It's not about right or wrong. What this is about is recognizing reality - if you are not prioritizing your relationship you're not going to have a relationship.

Professor and author Dr Aditi Paul joined me for a conversation about what's currently going on with college hookup culture. It's been 20 years since I was in college and I was really curious how things compare. Good news - the kids are alright! We discussed their views on safer sex practices, dating apps, finding meaning in hookups, what their thoughts are about commitment, and what induces sexual regret. TW: sexual assault is briefly discussed in the second half of the show. You can find her at draditipaul.com and Twitter @iamaditipaul.

In honor of Transgender Day of Visibility, Dr Laura Meihofer DPT joined me on this episode of Keep Them Coming. She is a pelvic wellness expert who specializes in treating people who are transgender or intersex. She's a doctor, teacher, and advocate all rolled into one! We discussed how treatments can help with all sorts of issues from shy bladder to sexual pleasure. Dr Meihofer helped explain what intersex means. We also discussed some of our favorite gender affirming toy brands like Enby, Smile Makers, Twisted Mountain, and Fun Factory.

The Mother of Sex Coaching, Dr Patti Britton, who is also one of Kristen's mentors, was today's special guest. Listening to two people who's life revolves around pleasure activism is quite a treat! Dr Patti shared her perspectives on foreplay, pleasure, sexual wellness, and more. She is retiring from Sex Coach U next year, so she shared what is in store after that change. You can find her books The Art of Sex Coaching, Designing and Leading a Successful SAR, and Idiots Guide to Sensual Massage on her website DrPattiBritton.com.

Awkward Essentials founder Frances Tang joined me for a rousing conversations about cum sponges. Her first product video for DripStick had everyone sending me their video asking "have you seen this one?!" I had and I loved it. I've been a fan of Awkward Essentials since I first saw their product! Frances shared her journey from starting in her parents garage to going viral thanks to a Twinkie. She shared her vision for the future, involving other "behind the bathroom door" products. Find Awkward Essentials on Instagram, TikTok, and their website. Use coachkristen for a discount at checkout.

My guest, Michael Castleman, is a sexual health and wellness journalist who has written books, is a prolific blogger, and he also gives advice at greatsexguidance.com. I use his book, Sizzling Sex For Life for a lot of reasons, mostly because he's just made my life a lot easier by compiling a ton of research! He's also friends with my mentor, Dr. Patti Britton from Sex Coach U, so we gushed about her for a little while. I hope what you take away from this conversation is something that Michael pointed out, which is that everyone is truly sexually unique - therefore everything's basically normal so long as it's sane, safe, and consensual.

I was joined by Jenelle Marie Pierce, who is an STI educator that I have known virtually for a little while. She is the Executive Director of The STI Project, as well as the new Education Manager for Health HIV based in DC. She's also a spokesperson for Positive Singles, which is a dating site for those who have a positive STI status.I found out more about what inspired her to educate people about STIs. We discussed disclosure how you actually ask someone if they have been tested recently gotten that STI test, and how do you disclose that you've got an STI. She gave some of her best tips that she gives folks she works with.Find Jenelle on all socials @TheSTIproject. For discounts on my upcoming workshop, use KTC2 at checkout: https://openthedoorscoaching.com/shop/

My friend Micheala Miller from Strawberry Week joined me on this episode to tell us all about her new nonprofit that has spun off from Barrier Babes. Micheala has been on the podcast before (Ep. 42).As things grew, she realized she really needed to focus exclusively on fighting period poverty, so Strawberry Week was born beginning of 2022. Micheala told me about some of the work that she's doing to make sure people have access to period products.She also recently testified at the Kansas State Legislature about the elimination of sales tax on period products and other goods. Strawberry Week works on both sides of the state line, so if you've got a business or organization that would like to help gather supplies, or you would like to be one of the ones who are helping distribute supplies to people who are in need, you can reach out to micheala@strawberryweek.org

I can add a dildo maker to my collection of interesting friends in this life! Mountain of Twisted Mountain Toys joined me on to tell me the story of how he become a sex toy maker. Necessity breeds invention, and he found a need as a bigger bodied person for a better butt plug. Mountain plans to expand his line of toys, keeping a wide range of bodies, abilities, genders, and queerness in mind. Check out twistedmountaintoys.com or visit his Etsy page. He is entirely word of mouth right now, so let's support this Kansas City maker!

Community advocate Shalese Clay joined me on KTC to share ways she and others are working in the city to help ensure infant and maternal health through Cradle KC and Every Baby To 1. She taught me the ABC's of safe sleep and we discussed the importance of planning a pause between children. In fact, the Community Health Council of Wyandotte County's 'Plan Your Pause' campaign has a goal to educate mothers and families about how good it is for her health and the baby's health to wait around 18 months between pregnancies. It's the start of Black History Month, and we kicked it off by having real talk about the disparities in medical care for black and BIPOC patients. If black women are much more likely to die during pregnancy and post-partum in the US, and black babies are more likely to survive infancy if they had a black doctor, only one thing is responsible for it - racism. Systemic racism, direct racism, doesn't matter. There's no reason beyond racism that can explain away why black and brown mothers and babies are dying disproportionately in this country.

Hello SCU Alum Sarah Martin, The Dignified Hedonist, joined me on Keep Them Coming to help us all understand more about the online Manosphere. She has extensively researched Pick Up Artistry (PUA) and some of the leaders in this subculture. We discussed how dehumanizing to men ideologies like red pill, Men Going Their Own Way (MGTOW), and PUA can be. Her approach to helping men leave behind these thoughts and ways is to teach then to be dignified hedonists - Sarah helps horny people get laid with dignity. It was intriguing to hear all about her deep dive into these subcultures!Mentioned in the episode: Models by Mark Manson. Visit Sarah's website at dignifiedhedonist.com

My interview with Cassie Willnauer is a dash of talking about New Year's resolutions, a bit of talking about how to talk to your kids about sex, and a little bit of purity culture talk as well. I called this episode don't resolve to punish yourself because it's January and a lot of people are setting those New Year's resolutions. I explained why I'm not really a fan of them, often because of the way we're setting our intention for them. It's less about trying to grow and learn, and often times more rooted in punishing ourselves. So we talked about ways to switch your mindset in the new year. We also talked about what sex can look like if there's no penetration, and we touched base on an online phenomenon, some of y'all might have seen, which was jump humping in Mormonism. She's a mom of two littles, so we discuss what are age appropriate ways to educate your kids about sex and bodies Biggest takeaway there was just be cool! Don't freak out when they say or do things. We also discussed if drip sticks!Find Cassie via her website, Instagram, or TikTok. You can also listen to her podcast Sexy At Every Size anywhere you're listening to this show!