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Welcome, writers and book lovers. The Bleeders is a podcast about book writing and publishing. Make sure you subscribe to the companion Substack: https://thebleeders.substack.com/welcomeToday's guest is Zachary Zane, author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto. Follow Zachary on Instagram @zacharyzane_ and Twitter @ZacharyZane_.>>> Watch the full interview with Zach on YouTube: https://youtu.be/7_qeIcK1N7g?si=j7EN2zy3y6dnxCxa The Bleeders is hosted by Courtney Kocak. Follow her on Twitter and Instagram @courtneykocak. For more, check out her website courtneykocak.com.Courtney is teaching some upcoming workshops you might be interested in:New Year's Newsletter & Pitch Party Extravaganza: https://www.courtneykocak.com/teaching (Use code BLEEDERS for $100 off)Start a Newsletter to Supercharge Your Platform, Network & Business: https://writingworkshops.com/products/start-a-newsletter-to-supercharge-your-platform-network-business-zoom-seminar60-Day Writer's Platform Coaching: https://writingworkshops.com/products/60-day-writers-platform-coaching-with-courtney-kocakLand Big Bylines by Writing for Columns: https://writingworkshops.com/products/land-big-bylines-by-writing-for-columns-zoom-seminarPodcasting for Writers: How to Start, Sustain & Grow Your Podcast: https://writingworkshops.com/products/podcasting-for-writers-how-to-start-sustain-grow-your-podcast-4-week-zoom-workshopHow to Build a “Platform” for Writers Who Shudder at the Thought: https://writingworkshops.com/products/how-to-build-a-platform-for-writers-who-shudder-at-the-thought-zoom-seminar

Send us a textGet ready for an eye-opening and no-holds-barred conversation on this episode of The Pineapple Express Podcast! We're joined by Zachary Zane—an acclaimed writer, and the brilliant mind behind Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto. We talk all things evolutionary, including the evolution of male bisexuality in the world of swinging and non-monogamy.Zachary shares personal stories and insights on what it's like to navigate bisexual identity as a man, breaking down outdated stigmas and discussing how the swinging community is becoming more inclusive. We talk openly about the challenges and triumphs of being a bi man in non-monogamous relationships, how sexual fluidity is being embraced, and why representation matters.This episode is packed with real talk, laughs, and some seriously empowering moments. If you're curious about male bisexuality in the swinging lifestyle or want to learn how non-monogamy is evolving, you won't want to miss this raw and engaging chat. Tune in and join us for an unfiltered look at sex, sexuality, and everything in between!Follow my favorite ‘BoySlut' on social media Instagram https://www.zacharyzane.com/Get a copy of Boy Slut

The Boyslut, Zachary Zane, dishes on diving into the deep end with non-monogamy,  how he's scaled back romance responsibly and why he loves the label of bisexual slut.   "I Could Never..." is a Chill Polyamory podcast. For more info and episode transcripts: https://www.chillpolyamory.com/icouldnever Chill Polyamory on IG - @chillpolyamory   Chill Polyamory on TikTok - @chillpolyamory   Chill Polyamory on YouTube - @chillpolyamory   Zachary Zane on IG - @zacharyzane_ Zachary Zane's Website - zacharyzane.com Cover Artwork by Anni Jyn - @annijyn   All music is sourced from the Free Music Archive, under a Creative Commons 4.0 Attribution License (CC BY 4.0) Intro/Outro: Ruffling Feathers by Jesse Spillane, Transitions: City Line by Beat Mekanik, Ad Read: Lope and Shimmer by Podington Bear

Columnist, author, tall bisexual. Zachary Zane from Men's Health Magazine has got it all. And he's here to talk about his new book, "Boyslut" to recount all of the shenanigans and trouble that slutdom has led him to. Tim gets hot under the collar. Boy is flustered in the presence of sexiness.Website______________________________________________________________________________Use code SEXEDWITHTIM for awesome discounts!Get 15% all regular-priced items off when you shop at Love ShopKink closet need a glow-up? Head to dalekuda.com for 25% off your entire purchase plus free shipping.Friends of the pod:Honey Play BoxFleshjackInya RoseLe WandLovehoneyHot OctopussWet For HerAdam & EveBabeland______________________________________________________________________________Email: timlagman@sexedwithtim.comInstagram: @sexedwithtimFacebook: Sex Ed With TimTwitter: and @sexedwithtimVoicemail: SpeakpipeVisit my website Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Send us a Text Message.In this lively interview with bisexual mega influencer and Men's Health columnist Zachary Zane, he discusses Boyslut, his recent book, now in paperback, that chronicles his sexual journey, as well as how to live a more shame-free, sex-positive life. [Rebroadcast]Get tix to our Chicago Pride Show on Friday, June 28, 8pm!Help us continue to spread the message of sex-positivity! Leave a tip for our work or join our monthly Patreon members' club!In this episode:Zachary Zane - author and sex columnist Boyslut, the book. Get it at Bookshop, our affiliate partner!Are you looking for…?A Wild & Sublime giftEpisodes on specific topicsBooks on sex and relationshipsBuzzsprout bonus! Thinking of starting your own podcast? Buzzsprout can help you create, host and promote it! Plus lots of useful tools and resources to streamline the process! Use our affiliate link for $20 off!Want to rev up your relationship? Host Karen Yates, a somatic intimacy coach, gives you easy tools to put into practice right away with her free guide: Say It Better in Bed! 3 Proven Ways to Improve Intimate Communication. Download today!Want to be Wild & Sublime out in the world?  Check out our tees and accessories. Peep our Limited Collection to make a sexy statement.GET TICKETS to our Friday June 28 8pm Pride Show at Hungry Brain Chicago. Sponsored by Rowan Tree Counseling.Support the Show.Follow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook!

Original Air Date: May 22, 2023Kayla is joined by sex activist, columnist, and author Zachary Zane to discuss his personal journey in healing from sexual shame and living with OCD as a bisexual man. If you're ready to get out of your comfort zone and also have some laughs along the way, listen in to expand not just your mind but vocabulary to unpack social stigmas surrounding sexual desire. Follow ZachZach's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/zacharyzane_/?hl=enCheck out “Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto”: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/boyslut-zachary-zane/1141910850 Follow Us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/directionallychallenged__/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Vee and Elle go deep with Zachary Zane on everything from coming out as bisexual to overcoming shame, the importance of community and the nerdiness of polyamorous people. Being “closeted” as a sex positive swinger. (3:42)Pansexual vs bisexual. (7:12)From sexually confused to "The Bisexual Mega Influencer." (13:13)Bisexual visibility/audibility. (18:46)Untangling anal stigmas - can you be seen as masculine AND enjoy anal play? (23:44)Common myths or misrepresentations of bisexuals. (27:28)Overcoming sexual shame and coming out as bi. (34:05)How to come into your own and overcome shame: finding your people, and identifying who or what is trying to shame you. (38:54)Polyamory. (45:05)The challenges of being biexual. (46:55)Trans party Inferno. (49:43)Sexy threesome story, MMF vs MFM, and having sex with people who are on the same page as you. (51:24)How to channel your inner Boyslut! (1:01:54)Links:ZacharyZane.comZachary Zane on InstagramSupport the showInstagram: @girlsgonedeeppod Contact: girlsgonedeep@gmail.comWhoreible Life: Get 10% off your pack with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.comWoo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop!

Unshaming and celebrating our sexuality is an essential step toward self-acceptance. In this deeply personal episode, I share my story of sexual liberation while also exploring the societal pressures that often repress sexual expression and how overcoming these can lead to personal growth and fulfillment. We dive into 3 books that helped me shift my limited perspectives and own my true desires — "Sex Outside the Lines" by Chris Donaghue, "Boyslut" by Zachary Zane, and "Pleasure Activism" by Adrienne Maree Brown.

Jason and Brett talk to sexpert Zachary Zane (Boyslut) about bisexuality, kinks, overcoming  shame, and the importance of talking openly and honestly about sexual expression in its many forms. In case the title of the episode doesn't make it clear: sex comes up a lot in this episode. Zachary Zane is a Brooklyn-based columnist, sex expert, and activist whose work focuses on sexuality, culture, and the LGBTQ+ community. He is the author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto. He's also the coauthor of Men's Health: Best. Sex. Ever.  He has two columns: “Sexplain It” the sex and relationship advice column at Men's Health and “Navigating Non-Monogamy” at Cosmo, where he shares all the mistakes he's made in his polyamory journey, so you don't have to.  He is also the founder and editor in chief of Boyslut zine, which publishes real sex stories from kinksters worldwide. His work on sexuality and relationships has been published in the New York Times, Rolling Stone, the Washington Post, GQ, OUT, and many others.**BOOKS!** Check out the list of books discussed on each episode on our Bookshop page:https://bookshop.org/shop/gaysreading | By purchasing books through this Bookshop link, you can support both Gays Reading and an independent bookstore of your choice!Join our Patreon for exclusive bonus content! Purchase your Gays Reading podcast Merch! Follow us on Instagram @gaysreading | @bretts.book.stack | @jasonblitmanWhat are you reading? Send us an email or a voice memo at gaysreading@gmail.com

PARENTAL ADVISORY:  Join Jonny and his panel of Queer Readers (Ian Kelly, Andrew Mark Carlos and Dave Walton) as they discuss their experiences reading the book BoySlut by Zachary Zane.  There is far too much to discuss in one episode, but tune in and BUY THE BOOK!  

This week we're putting our sluttiest foot forward and pussing ourselves OUT THERE by learning how to be hot sluts. Lucky for us, Zachary Zane aka The Boyslut, is here to teach us how. Zach is a sex expert, advice columnist, and author who is here to help you embrace your inner slut. We cover: What it means to be a slut (it's empowering af) Finding your slutty confidence Zachary's journey to becoming a slut Slutty mantras to live by What if you want to be a slut but you also catch feelings? How to embrace your slutiness and feel into it ALL DAY LONG Connect with Zach: Buy his book "Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto" HERE! Visit his website HERE  Watch This Episode On YouTube Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this playful and deliciously provocative episode brilliant writer, sex expert and activist Zachary Zane joins us to discuss all things bisexuality. We dive into everything from the differences between bisexuality to other orientations to Zachary's own journey in uncovering and embodying his ultimate bi (and often empowered slutty) self. About our guest: Zachary Zane is a Brooklyn-based columnist, sex expert, and activist whose work focuses on sexuality, culture, and the LGBTQ community. He is the author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto and co-author of Men's Health: Best. Sex. Ever. He writes “Sexplain It,” the sex and relationship advice column at Men's Health, and “Navigating Non-Monogamy,” the polyamorous relationship column at Cosmopolitan. He is editor-in-chief of the BOYSLUT Zine, which publishes nonfiction erotica from kinksters across the globe. His work has been featured in New York Times, Rolling Stone, Washington Post, Playboy, and more. To learn more go to zacharyzane.com Pre-order our book now! Go to shamelesssex.com and get free access to our online workshop How to Pamper Your Partner for every book preorder (offer/workshop is exclusive to preorders). Other links: Get 20% off The Personal Massager by Butter Wellness when you go to butterwellness.com and use the code “SHAMELESS” at checkout Get 50% off some of our new favorite THC and CBD products with code SHAMELESS at dietsmoke.com Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS10 on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at  OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com

Apply for a no-pressure "Ignite Your Intimacy" breakthrough call with Heather to get her top 3 recommendations to enhance your sex life - https://heathershannon.co/video-page/ You'll also learn about her "Intimacy Infusion" transformational coaching program.~In this episode, join Certified Sex Therapist and Certified Gottman Therapist, Dr. Heidi A. Sauder, and I for a fun primer on incorporating more adventure into your sex life . . . and even on talking to your kids about sex!Heidi has written a practical and fun workbook called Adventures In Sex (endorsed by Dr John Gottman from the Gottman Institute) that will help you become your own sexpert. We'll discuss the importance of open conversations about sex, the impact of communication and education on relationships, and the various transitions that occur in our sex lives.IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN:- How to start conversations around sex and sexuality- The importance of incorporating novelty in your sex life, especially in a long-term relationship- How to explore new ways to enhance self-pleasure.- Using this workbook to educate your teens about sexuality and their bodies.LET'S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:Heather's Website & Free Gifts - https://HeatherShannon.co/FreebiesHeather's Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapistHeather's YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHeUNWJIkOPSK6-Bwvf0EOwCONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:Learn more about Dr. Heidi Sauder's group practice - https://enrichcenter.org/staff/heidi-a-sauder-ph-dGrab your copy of Adventures in Sex: Journaling to Create Desire, Passion, Romance...and a Fun Sex Life - https://amzn.to/3Rye1q0SIMILAR EPISODES:039 - Male Bisexuality and Being a Boyslut with Zachary Zane https://pod.fo/e/1e36be043 Exploring Findom Kinks with Dr Kate Balestrieri - https://pod.fo/e/1ecfaaRATE & REVIEW US!Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here. https://podfollow.com/AskASexTherapistThis podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis:Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacyPodtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrpThis podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacyPodtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

Zach has a great sex life—it's sex positive and sexy and slutty and bisexual and kinky, there are glory holes, gay clubs, daisy chains and nipple play, he's hosted bukkakes and gang bangs and cum dumps, he has tons of casual sex (catch him when he's horny!), deeply intimate sex and novel and hardcore sex, prostate play makes him shoot “like a fucking geyser,” and people tell him things like, “I want you to fuck my gay husband.” If we can get his book Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto on The NY Times top 100 we might get him to do some porn-y stuff on onlyfans, but for now he's busy writing—for Men's Health and Cosmo and his extremely raunchy Boyslut Zine, and he joins Wyoh to talk about how he went from a 10 to a 1 on the shame-o-meter (for details, read Boyslut), what it's like to live in a sex-positive world where friend hangs turn into orgies, going from thinking he was going to die a virgin to celebrating his bisexuality and frolicking on Sniffies, how hot owning his desires and creating a space for partners to do the same has been, what it's like to travel to different sex resorts and write about it for work—which leads to stories like getting beckoned over by a cougar. Zach's risk tolerance includes a schedule of regular testing and a fair amount of barrier-free fucking, and he reflects on learning about sex via the media coverage of Bill Clinton and Monica Lewinsky, and shares stories of early anxiety, judgement and shame spirals that affected his boners until he learned to say, “hey, I might not get hard.” He talks about first exclusively topping, a bad first experience bottoming that led to anal fissures, how it took a woman to get him to enjoy anal, the five years he spent getting drunk and hooking up with guys until his therapist asked him a pointed question about his “bi confusion.” Zach talks about getting paid to perform live sex acts at clubs, hooking up with and paying sex workers, how he decides what to share with whom and when in terms of his sex-related work, his messy intro to poly and his observations around the generational and locational differences in various non-monogamous communities, and how he went from getting his PhD in clinical psychology and working in smoking cessation to writing from a bi perspective for a bi perspective. He wants everyone to know that they are normal and there's nothing to be ashamed of. He leaves Wyoh with a tease of what's next (bisexual RomCom YES PLEASE) and a giant sexy jacuzzi fantasy.

That's right, you've been waiting and finally, it is here.  Listen in as Jonny sits down with the author and sex columnist, Zachary Zane, to talk about his amazingly candid book BoySlut.  Let's start deconstructing the shame narrative around our bodies and sex, may Zachary lead us into a better future :)  Buy the book NOW :) 

In Episode 54, we are joined by author and bisexual icon, Zachary Zane, of the book Boyslut. We talk about bisexual men, biphobia, and bisexual audibility. We discuss sexual shame, sexual risk, and the complexities of consent. An unabashedly pro-sex, pro-desire writer, Zachary shines light on what men-who-fuck-men communities can teach the rest of us. This is three thirsty bisexuals talking shit. Absolutely iconic.  SHOW NOTES Boyslut, the book Boyslut, the zine Zachary Zane's instagram   Follow Fucking Cancelled on Patreon & Instagram. Find merch on our BigCartel. Also check out Clementine's website and Jay's website. Theme song by ST x LIAM. Mixing and editing by Charlotte Dora. Free transcripts are added on Patreon as they become available.

Let's talk about male bisexuality, biphobia, role-modeling mental health and have a raunchy, fun time with Zachary Zane. He's an advice writer and the author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto.1:00 a book about bisexuality and shame3:00 having OCD as a child and now6:00 mental health and spirituality10:00 bisexuality and stigma13:00 not enjoying sex due to stress16:00 a darn good therapist session20:00 how do you role model healthy male sexuality?25:00 tips on coming out to family members 28:00 more discussion on this ^31:00 how to address my gf's biphobia34:00 Bi-Men, By Women book38:00 if they aren't 100% enthusiastic, maybe avoid them42:00 real non-fiction erotica stories46:00 theragun in the butt story49:00 Boyslut things and projects52:00 cancel culture vs call-ins 55:00 any sex tips for our audience?Find our guest on ZacharyZane.comListen on Podurama!Write to Elle about the show theytalksex@protonmail.comDon't sleep in the wet spot! Use code ELLE for 10% off GETTHELAYER.COMSponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-openingSee my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Welcome to Season 6 of Two Bi Guys! Our premiere episode features Zachary Zane, back for his second Two Bi Guys interview, and we discussed his awesome new "memoir and manifesto", BOYSLUT.We chatted about sexual shame, the relationship between porn and queerness, kinks, fetishes, dom/sub dynamics, Zach's book tour and the surprising "controversies" that have popped up, the joys of anal stimulation -- when done correctly (and how to do that), why it can be beneficial to come out if you're married and monogamous, unlearning what society teaching us about sex, rejection, therapy, lube, and much more!Can't get enough? There are 20 extra minutes of bonus content with Zach on my new Patreon (found here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=48796855 -- or find the link in our social media bio). There, we talked about Zach's pornstar boyfriend, our thoughts on starting our own OnlyFans (and possible collaboration...), sexual queerness v. cultural queerness, non-monogamy and polyamory, and the play parties Zach has been hosting in NYC, Boyslut and Bislut. Thanks for listening!

Calling all bi babes! Join us for an amazing conversation with Zachary Zane, author of "Boy Slut." DB and Zach discuss her bisexual awakening, the challenges and privileges that come with being bisexual, and the power of vulnerability in sharing personal stories. Zachary generously shares his journey of understanding his sexuality and the impact of his public persona on his decision to be open about it. The conversation extends to the intricacies of bisexuality and pansexuality, the nuances of non-monogamous relationships, and the importance of community and queer spaces. Don't miss this one! —— (0:14:13) - Sexual Identity and Vulnerability (0:19:30) - Claiming Bisexuality (0:23:37) - Bisexual Versus Pansexual (0:42:43) - Importance of Finding Community Find more from Zachary Zane: https://www.zacharyzane.com/ Zachary Zane is a Brooklyn-based columnist, author, and sex expert whose work focuses on sexuality, lifestyle, and culture. He's ecstatic to share that my book Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto is out now! Through the lens of his bisexuality and self-described sluttiness, he breaks down exactly how sexual shame negatively impacts our lives, and how we can unlearn the harmful, entrenched messages that society imparts to us.  —— Follow Sex Ed with DB on: Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdb YouTube: Sex Ed with DB Twitter: @sexedwithdb Facebook: @edwithdb Want to get in touch with Sex Ed with DB? Email us at sexedwithdb@gmail.com. —— Sex Ed with DB, Season 8 is Sponsored by: Lion's Den, Uberlube, Magic Wand, and Future Method. Get discounts on all of DB's favorite things here! ——  About Sex Ed with DB: Sex Ed with DB is a feminist podcast bringing you all the sex ed you never got through unique and entertaining storytelling, centering LGBTQ+ and BIPOC experts. We discuss topics such as birth control, pleasure, LGBTQ+ health and rights, abortion, consent, BDSM, sex and disability, HIV, sex in the media, and more. —— Sex Ed with DB, Season 8 Team: Creator, Host, Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) Producer and Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen Associate Producer: Sadie Lidji Marketing Coordinator: Kate Fiala

On a new TAGS LIVE aka Talk About Gay Podcast the live edition, Host Steve V. and Co-host Kodi Maurice Doggette are back with all new hot topics, gay sex topics plus they welcome their Special Guest, Zachary Zane to talk new book, BOYSLUT, bisexuality and more!Follow up on Troye Sivan's sexy video for 'Rush' and the lack of body diversity that some are calling out...Follow up on being spontaneous and being spontaneous in the bedroom...Bachelorette alumni Josh Seiter on being 75% straight and 25% into men plus his Only Fans and upcoming adult content...Zachary Zane joins the show to talk new book, BOYSLUT, bisexuality, and more! Thirst Trap! Visit ZacharyZane.comGet BOYSLUT on AmazonFollow Zachary Zane on IG: @zacharyzaneFollow Steve V. on IG: @iam_stevevFollow Kodi's Life Coaching on IG: @kmdcoachingFollow Kodi on IG: @mistahmauriceTAGSPODCAST is Sponsored by Better Help. Get 10% Off your first month. Visit: BetterHelp.com/tagsJOYMODE is your pre-workout for sex! Spice things up in the bedroom and do it safely. Try JOYMODE and get 20% Off your first order with us. Go to usejoymode.com/TAGSWanna drop a weekly or one time tip to TAGSPODCAST - Show your love for the show and support TAGS!Visit our website: tagspodcast.comNeeds some advice for a sex or relationship conundrum? Ask TAGS! DM US ON IG or https://www.talkaboutgaysex.com/contactSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/talk-about-gay-sex-tagspodcast/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Summer school is officially in session, Bleeders! Today's instructor is Zachary Zane, author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto. Follow Zachary on Instagram @zacharyzane_ and Twitter @ZacharyZane_.SUBSCRIBE TO THE NEW BLEEDERS YOUTUBE CHANNEL FOR FULL-LENGTH INTERVIEWS. https://www.youtube.com/@bleederspodcastWelcome, writers and book lovers. The Bleeders is a new podcast about book writing and publishing. Make sure you subscribe to the companion Substack: https://thebleeders.substack.com/welcomeThe Bleeders is hosted by Courtney Kocak. Follow her on Twitter and Instagram @courtneykocak. For more, check out her website courtneykocak.com.Check out Courtney's new podcast, Podcast Bestie, based on her popular Substack: https://pod.link/1670457783Subscribe to the newsletter: https://podcastbestie.substack.com/welcomeSign up for Courtney's July 22nd workshop with Chill Subs and Write of Die Magazine, How to Build a “Platform” for Writers Who Shudder at the Thought: https://www.chillsubs.com/writeordie/workshops/how-to-build-platform-for

Zachary Zane has written a memoir and manifesto about his life living out and proud as a Bi-Sexual man. His honest telling of his life story is straightforward and unapologetic, just as it should be. BOYSLUT is a delicious read and Zach is a great guest.

Zachary Zane has written a memoir and manifesto about his life living out and proud as a Bi-Sexual man. His honest telling of his life story is straightforward and unapologetic, just as it should be. BOYSLUT is a delicious read and Zach is a great guest.

This week, sex and relationship columnist Zachary Zane discusses his new essay collection Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto, named a Most Anticipated LGBTQ+ Book of the Year by Buzzfeed. This conversation originally took place June 6, 2023 and was recorded live at the American Writers Museum. Content Warning: this conversation contains explicit language related to sexual themes. Listener discretion is advised. AWM PODCAST NETWORK HOME About Boyslut: A sex and relationship columnist bares it all in a series of essays—part memoir, part manifesto—that explore the author's coming-of-age and coming out as a bisexual man and move toward embracing and celebrating sex unencumbered by shame. As a boy, Zachary Zane sensed that all was not right when images of his therapist naked popped into his head. Without an explanation as to why, a deep sense of shame pervaded these thoughts. Though his therapist assured him a little imagination was nothing to be ashamed of, over the years, society told him otherwise. Boyslut is a series of personal and tantalizing essays that articulate how our society still shames people for the sex that they have and the sexualities that they inhabit. Through the lens of his bisexuality and much self-described sluttiness, Zane breaks down exactly how this sexual shame negatively impacts the sex and relationships in our lives, and through personal experience, shares how we can unlearn the harmful, entrenched messages that society imparts to us. From stories of drug-fueled threesomes and risqué Grindr hookups to insights on dealing with rejection and living with his boyfriend and his wife, Boyslut is reassuring and often painfully funny—but is most potently a testimony that we can all learn to live healthier lives unburdened by stigma.

It's time for some sex positivity! This week we've invited sex and relationship columnist Zachary Zane to read to you from his painfully funny memoir, Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto. The New York based author bares all in this memoir-manifesto, exploring how, even today, we live in a world that shames people for the sex they have and the sexualities they inhabit. Through the lens of his bisexuality and self-described sluttiness, Zachary breaks down how this sexual shame impacts our lives, and how we can unlearn the harmful, entrenched messages society imparts to us. We recently featured a very popular interview with Zachary on our Instagram Live, in which he opened up about his sexual experiences, exploring polyamory, orgies, anonymous encounters and his thoughts on how to lead a fulfilling sex life in a long-term relationship, not to mention bi-visibility and dismantling toxic masculinity. Do head on over to that after you've enjoyed this special podcast episode with a brilliant reading from Boyslut! ‘Reading about Zane's own sexual adventures is like getting invited to Sunday brunch by your wittiest, sluttiest, funniest friend and getting to listen to him recount his crazy weekend.' - Dan Savage Boyslut, perfect for readers of Unprotected by Billy Porter or Here for It by R. Eric Thomas, is published by Abrams Image, an imprint of Abrams & Chronicle Books. We recommend buying a copy from your local indie bookshop or you can visit our shop on Bookshop.org. Podcast produced and edited by Megan Bay Dorman Programmed by Matt Casbourne            Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kaya is joined by sex activist, columnist, and author Zachary Zane to discuss his personal journey in healing from sexual shame and living with OCD as a bisexual man. If you're ready to get out of your comfort zone and also have some laughs along the way, listen in to expand not just your mind but vocabulary to unpack social stigmas surrounding sexual desire. Follow ZachZach's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/zacharyzane_/?hl=enCheck out “Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto”: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/boyslut-zachary-zane/1141910850 Follow Us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/directionallychallenged__/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Watch this and all episodes ad free by joining the ITBR Cafe for only $5 a month! patreon.com/ivorytowerboilerroom Zachary Zane, author of “Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto,” joins Andrew in the ITBR for a spicy episode. He writes an advice column for Men's Health called “Sexplain It” where he answers a plethora of questions pertaining to masculinity, ethics & non monogamy, sexual insecurities, and the LGBTQ+ community. Zachary has been featured in The New York Times, Rolling Stone, The Washington Post, GQ, The Advocate, Nightline, and the Tamron Hall Show. He resides in Brooklyn, NY.  Dive into the virtual bedroom of Zachary, the self-proclaimed “Boyslut” that embraces his sexuality to the fullest. He shares his authentic story starting as a psychology and neuroscience academic, and finding his way into the world of freelance writing.  Zachary reveals how being a “greedy bisexual” isn't a bad thing, as long as you are communicative with your partners. He encourages us to embrace our sexual desires and overcome the sex-negative society we are in.  Give Zachary's book “Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto” a read! https://bookshop.org/p/books/boyslut-a-memoir-and-manifesto-zachary-zane/18699333?gclid=CjwKCAiA3pugBhAwEiwAWFzwdSI_S_sTNhuo5LadUWb03PblMQTX4BWlO-MrPuOCjSzQoaGUhgUbohoCKUQQAvD_BwE Visit Zachary's website! https://www.zacharyzane.com/  Follow Zachary on Instagram @zacharyzane_ and Twitter @ZacharyZane_ Head to Broadview Press, an independent academic publisher, for all your humanities related books. Use code ivorytower for 20% off your broadviewpress.com order. To subscribe to The Gay and Lesbian Review visit glreview.org. Click Subscribe, and enter promo code ITBR to receive a free copy with any print or digital subscription. Order from @mandeemadeit, mention ITBR, and with your first order you'll receive a free personalized gift! Follow That Ol' Gay Classic Cinema on Instagram, @thatolgayclassiccinema. Follow ITBR on IG, @ivorytowerboilerroom, TikTok, @ivorytowerboilerroom, and Twitter, @IvoryBoilerRoom! Thanks to the ITBR team! Andrew Rimby (Executive Director), Mary DiPipi (Chief Contributor), and our Spring 23 Interns (Andrea, Kaitlyn, Rosie, Sara, and Sheila) --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivorytowerboilerroom/support

You slutty scholars deserve more stuttiness! This episode welcomes back columnist, sex expert, and activist Zachary Zane. We talk about how to handle rejection from both sides, face sitting, and Zachary teases us with an excerpt from his newly released book Boyslut! Don't miss his book tour and order your copy today!   https://www.zacharyzane.com/     FOLLOW US  Twitter Instagram Facebook Send questions, comments, stories, rants to: SlutsAndScholars@gmail.com Sluts And Scholars is a production of sluts and scholars media.   Loving disclaimer:  Sluts and Scholars is a podcast produced by Sluts & Scholars Media, LLC. It is a shame free educational podcast made for your entertainment and informational desires only. The podcast, any opinions we share, and any resources including social media and emails from us are not therapy, medical care or professional advice and do not create a patient-client relationship. None of the information, opinions, suggestions, resources or exercises mentioned in this podcast should be used without clearance from your health care provider. All opinions, information and ideas expressed by the guests are solely their own. If you need emergency mental health or medical help, please call 911 or 988 or go to your nearest emergency center. We hope you enjoy the show. 

Bi-sexual and slutty? So what! This week, we're getting dirty with sex columnist Zachary Zane! In this Episode: Where to find Sex Parties, Orgies, Healthy Polyamory, Unpacking Bi-phobia, pegging, and more! The Naked Truth about Zachary Zane: Zachary Zane is a sex expert and activist. He currently has a sex advice column at Men's Health titled "Sexplain It" and a relationship column at Queer Majority titled "Zach and the City." His work has been published in The New York Times, Rolling Stone, The Washington Post, and many others. He is the founder and editor-in-chief of BOYSLUT Zine, which publishes nonfiction sex stories from kinksters across the globe. He also co-authors the sex advice book Men's Health: Best. Sex. Ever. His memoir manifesto, BOYSLUT, is out NOW!Deep-Throating Questions: 1: Is Zach different sexually when with men vs. women? 2: Tips for people who identify as bisexual dealing with internal homophobia?3: First orgy story?Oh! And, of course, we ended with a rapid round of "5 Quickies with Dr. Tara" Listen and learn, my luvs…oh, and have an orgasmic day!For more sex and relationship realness, follow me on social media @luvbites.co and subscribe to my JUICY newsletter at www.Luvbites.coListen to The Luvbits by Dr. Tara Podcast: https://www.luvbites.co/podcastLinks:Follow Zachary Zanehttps://www.instagram.com/zacharyzane_/?hl=enhttps://linktr.ee/zacharyzaneQuinn - Audio Storieshttps://apple.co/3x5WzOsMy E-Book “30 Days to My Best Sexy Self: A Sexual Mindfulness Journal”https://luvbitesbydrtara.gumroad.com/l/bestsexyselfTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@luvbites.coInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/luvbites.coFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/drtaraconsultApple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/luvbites-by-dr-tara/id1587042783Web: https://www.luvbites.co/+Bi-sexual Visibility + Sex Parties in NYC and LA+Poly Relationships+ Bi-slut + Queer Sex parties vs. Straight Sex Parties

On the perks of being a bisexual boyslut!! New York columnist, author, and sex expert Zachary Zane is in the studio with hosts Anna and Gregor to talk about his bisexual journey and how the community has got stronger over the last ten years. They talk ethical non-monogamy, struggling to exist in both queer and straight culture, and why being slutty is the best way.Timestamps: 00:00:00 Intro00:04:44 Bisexuals need acceptance and support.00:09:09 Men need sex positivity too.00:10:41 Create inclusive sexual communities.00:16:18 Bi people are valid and accepted.00:21:27 Embrace and love each other.00:29:10 Straight people welcome in queer spaces.00:33:53 Kink community is tolerant.00:35:00 Rejecting people is tough.00:40:38 Explore your kinks freely.Check out Zachary's website here. His new book is called Boyslut and you can buy it wherever books are sold. Follow us and send a DM on Instagram and Twitter. Sign up to Fetish.com and meet other kinky people like you! Email us with feedback and show suggestions to spankunext@playamedia.com. 

In this lively interview with bisexual mega influencer and Men's Health columnist Zachary Zane, he discusses Boyslut, his new book chronicling his sexual journey, as well as how to live a more shame-free, sex-positive life.Help us continue to spread the message of sex-positivity! Leave a tip for our work or join our monthly Patreon members' club!In this episode:Zachary Zane - author and sex columnist Boyslut, the book. Get it at Bookshop, our affiliate partner!Are you looking for…?A Wild & Sublime giftEpisodes on specific topicsBooks on sex and relationshipsBuzzsprout bonus! Thinking of starting your own podcast? Buzzsprout can help you create, host and promote it! Plus lots of useful tools and resources to streamline the process! Use our affiliate link for $20 off!Want to rev up your relationship? Host Karen Yates, a somatic intimacy coach, gives you easy tools to put into practice right away with her free guide: Say It Better in Bed! 3 Proven Ways to Improve Intimate Communication. Download today!Want to be Wild & Sublime out in the world?  Check out our tees and accessories. Peep our Limited Collection to make a sexy statement.Support the showFollow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook!

Ever wondered if there's more to your sexuality than you ever realized? Or relationship models that challenge everything you're used to? Men's Health and Cosmo sex columnist Zachary Zane has been there. As a self-proclaimed “boyslut,” he's radically open about his journey as a bisexual, polyamorous man and tells all in his forthcoming book: BOYSLUT: A Memoir and Manifesto. He shares how he came to understand his attraction to all genders, his experience living in a polycule, why it's healthy for all of us to get used to rejection, and how bisexuality for men is gaining more visibility. He also helps me answer your questions on exploring bisexuality while in a long-term relationship, how to respond if you're in a hetero relationship and your partner tells you they're bisexual, and how to find casual, no strings attached sex.Show Notes:Ask Emily: What is a Penis Ring and Why Should I Use It?The Sexiest Morning Routine EverPRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your PleasureSMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide)Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout)Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto: Bookshop | AmazonMore Zachary Zane: Website | Instagram | Twitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, bisexual sex expert Zachary Zane shares how to release sexual shame and fully embrace our sexuality. Specifically, in the episode we talk about the reasons people slut shame, how sexual shame negatively impacts our sex and relationships, the reason many people can't get their heads around bisexuality, ways of dealing with rejection coming from friends and family, and tips and resources on finding a sex-positive therapist.      About Me    I'm George Lizos, spiritual teacher, psychic healer, and #1 bestselling author. Growing up in a small Christian community, I was judged and rejected for being gay and different. After a futile two-year attempt to change who I was born to be, I called myself a human abomination and almost took my own life. Fortunately, in my darkest moment, I saw the light and ventured on a healing journey of love, forgiveness, and spiritual awakening.    Yet, my gay dating life since hasn't always been all roses and rainbows, and my past dramas and traumas have definitely kept things spicy. Fast forward past many awkward dates and disappointing sex, I Created Can't Host to challenge toxic gay stereotypes, explore the complex dynamics of gay sex and relationships, and create opportunities for healing and growth. https://georgelizos.com/     About Zachary Zane    Zachary Zane is a Brooklyn-based columnist, sex expert, and activist whose work focuses on sexuality, culture, and the LGBTQ community. He is the author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto, coming out on May 9th. He's also the co-author of Men's Health: Best. Sex. Ever.   He currently has two columns: “Sexplain It” the sex and relationship advice column at Men's Health and “Navigating Non-Monogamy” at Cosmo, where he shares all the mistakes he's made in his polyamory journey, so you don't have to.   He is also the founder and editor-in-chief of Boyslut zine, which publishes real sex stories from kinksters worldwide. His work has been published in The New York Times, Rolling Stone, The Washington Post, GQ, Playboy, Slate, Cosmo, Bustle, VICE, NBC, Dazed, The Daily Beast, and many others.    Zachary's website: https://www.zacharyzane.com/ Zachary's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/zacharyzane_/ Zachary's book BOYSLUT: amazon.com/Boyslut-Memoir-Manifesto-Zachary-Zane/dp/1419764713/   Connect With Me    Instagram: https://instagram.com/georgelizos/   Website: https://georgelizos.com/   TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamgeorgelizos   Facebook Group: http://www.yourspiritualtoolkit.com/    My Books    Be The Guru: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TtCj   Lightworkers Gotta Work: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmKf   Protect Your Light: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmJd  

Allison's dead grandma is emailing her. A listener writes in to ask if they can still use weed for their mental health even though their therapist doesn't approve. Gabe reveals the reasons they got a new therapist who specializes in autism. Then author Zachary Zane joins the pod to talk about his book Boyslut, his life as a bisexual polyamorous man, and his OCD. He is basically Gabe and Allison's son. And finally, all the sexy secrets and friendship fun from Allison's Bachelorette weekend! This has been a Forever Dog production  Produced by Melisa D. Monts Post-Production by Coco Llorens Executive produced by Brett Boham, Joe Cilio, and Alex Ramsey. To listen to this podcast ad-free  Sign up for Forever Dog Plus at foreverdogpodcasts.com/plus And make sure to follow us on Twitter, instagram and Facebook at ForeverDogTeam to keep up with all of the latest Forever Dog News Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Allison's dead grandma is emailing her. A listener writes in to ask if they can still use weed for their mental health even though their therapist doesn't approve. Gabe reveals the reasons they got a new therapist who specializes in autism. Then author Zachary Zane joins the pod to talk about his book Boyslut, his life as a bisexual polyamorous man, and his OCD. He is basically Gabe and Allison's son. And finally, all the sexy secrets and friendship fun from Allison's Bachelorette weekend! This has been a Forever Dog production  Produced by Melisa D. Monts Post-Production by Coco Llorens Executive produced by Brett Boham, Joe Cilio, and Alex Ramsey. To listen to this podcast ad-free  Sign up for Forever Dog Plus at foreverdogpodcasts.com/plus And make sure to follow us on Twitter, instagram and Facebook at ForeverDogTeam to keep up with all of the latest Forever Dog News

Allison's dead grandma is emailing her. A listener writes in to ask if they can still use weed for their mental health even though their therapist doesn't approve. Gabe reveals the reasons they got a new therapist who specializes in autism. Then author Zachary Zane joins the pod to talk about his book Boyslut, his life as a bisexual polyamorous man, and his OCD. He is basically Gabe and Allison's son. And finally, all the sexy secrets and friendship fun from Allison's Bachelorette weekend! This has been a Forever Dog production  Produced by Melisa D. Monts Post-Production by Coco Llorens Executive produced by Brett Boham, Joe Cilio, and Alex Ramsey. To listen to this podcast ad-free  Sign up for Forever Dog Plus at foreverdogpodcasts.com/plus And make sure to follow us on Twitter, instagram and Facebook at ForeverDogTeam to keep up with all of the latest Forever Dog NewsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/just-between-us/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

For the 112th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Zachary Zane, sex columnist for Men's Health and Cosmo and author of the upcoming Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto. Speaking of which, Zach is back on the podcast with an exciting announcement: His debut memoir is out in May, and you can preorder it now! On today's podcast, we get into polyamory and kink, assessing your sexual risk and the level you're comfortable with, the difference between bisexuality and pansexuality, the pros and cons of Grindr culture, the impact of OCD on Zach's sexual awakening, and so much more. We also discuss the unfortunate ubiquitousness of sexual shame, regardless of how or where you grew up, and unpack the definitions of freysexual, demisexual, metamour, and polycule. For more from today's guest, Zachary Zane: Order Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto Subscribe to the Boyslut newsletter zacharyzane.substack.com/welcome Check out Zach's website zacharyzane.com Connect with Zach on Instagram @zacharyzane Connect with Zach on Twitter @ZacharyZane_ Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: https://linktr.ee/PrivatePartsUnknownAds If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private  Psst... sign up for our Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.com Let's be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 95th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Zachary Zane, Men's Health Magazine sex advice columnist, Boyslut author (now available for preorder!) & host of the biannual BISLUT sex party for bisexual people and their admirers. Zachary's been dubbed a “Bisexual Mega Influencer” by the NY Daily News. We dive into Zachary's sexual awakening, coming to terms with his bisexuality and coming out, his mission to destigmatize sexuality through his writing, some favorite stories from his erotic newsletter, the best sex party ever, how consent norms differ in different spaces, his favorite type of threesome, getting the Monkeypox vaccine in NYC vs. LA, and more. For more Zachary Zane: Preorder Zachary's book Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto Subscribe to the BOYSLUT newsletter zacharyzane.substack.com/welcome Check out Zachary's website zacharyzane.com Follow Zachary on Twitter @ZacharyZane_ Follow Zachary on Instagram @zacharyzane_ ***BUY A PRO-ABORTION SHIRT TO HELP SUPPORT OUR "ABORTION IN POST-ROE AMERICA" REPORTING TRIP (use code PRIVATE to save 10%): https://www.bonfire.com/store/private-parts-unknown/ Here's a playlist of our previous abortion-related episodes, including the "Men Have Abortions Too" series: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4BFDkcQYzdfq5YEV5buzzO?si=19a1d68b109845dd Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Dipsea is an audio erotica app full of short, sexy stories and guided sessions designed to turn you on. Dipsea is offering a 30-day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/private. Go to RexMD.com/private today to get started with a sample pack prescription of generic Viagra. All orders come with FREE 2-day shipping. Rex MD – the authority in men's telehealth. https://linktr.ee/PrivatePartsUnknownAds If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private  Psst... sign up for our Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.com Let's be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with hosts Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak and Sofiya @thesofiya on Instagram and Twitter.

So many bi and adventurous queer men this week! A 61 year-old gay man has never, ever, ever been near a vagina since he emerged from one 6 decades ago…until now. He is seeing a trans man and finds he is loving pleasing him, but can't quite make penetration work.  And, another gay man had a great time with a trans man. So much so, that he wants to start seeing cis women. Is he ethically obliged to tell them that he has been gay all his life?  On the Magnum, Dan chats with Zachary Zane, aka BOYSLUT about being promiscuous in the age of monkeypox, and how to ask politely if the third in your three-way has gotten tested for STIs.  A bi man has been out there seeking casual sex. Is it appropriate to ask a hook-up partner what she would do if she got pregnant, despite their precautions?  Q@savage.Love. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Doordash. Get breakfast, lunch, dinner and more delivered from your favorite restaurants right to your doorstep with one easy click. To get 50% off your first order of up to $15 value, use promo code SAVAGE at checkout when you spend $12 or more. Terms apply.  This episode is brought to you by Framebridge. Framebridge makes it easier and more affordable than ever to frame your favorite things – without ever leaving the house. Get 15% off your first order at Framebrige.com when you use the code SAVAGE. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.

Ethical non-monogamy, what is it? What's the difference between bisexual and pansexual? Zachary Zane is here to talk all about it! Zach is a Brooklyn based columnist (Men's Health “Sexplain It”), sex expert, and author. He's been published everywhere from the New York Times, Rolling Stones, GQ, Playboy, and many more. Zachary shares his journey in owning his sexuality and some realllllly juicy sex stuff in this episode. We ended with a rapid round of "10 Quickies with Dr. Tara." Listen and learn my luvs...Oh and have an orgasmic day! For more sex and relationship realness, follow me on social media: luvbites.co and subscribe to my juicy newsletter at www.luvbites.co Links: Check out his new book Men's Health Best. Sex. Ever. https://www.zacharyzane.com/about https://twitter.com/zacharyzane_ https://www.zacharyzane.com maude - The Best Massage Candle Link: https://getmaude.com/drtara Use Code: DRTARA for $5 off your order LetsGetChecked - At Home STD Testing Link: https://letsgetchecked.7no9.net/c/3065362/507335/8695 Use Code: DRTARA for 10% discount *All Rights Reserved. Dr Tara International Inc.

 Host Anna Borges interviews guest Zachary Zane about platonic intimacy. Follow Mood Ring @moodringshow Follow Anna ​​@annabroges Mood Ring is a production of American Public Media and Pizza Shark. Full Transcript   Anna Borges: The first time I realized I was touch starved during the pandemic is when the world started opening up and one of the first things I did was go and get a wax for the first time. And as my wax tech was like painfully ripping the hair off my body, I thought, "Huh, it's so nice to be touched by another human again."   It's not that I didn't realize that I was lonely or could really stand to have been fucked or cuddled — I live alone and I'm single, so during the height of pandemic lockdown, I was … very, very isolated. But it wasn't until I felt this visceral rush of relief when I typically felt excruciating pain that I realized, Oh, I needed this.   Like, actually needed it. Because when I say I was touch starved, I'm not being cute or  dramatic. Tough starvation is a real thing. It's also known as skin hunger or touch deprivation, but whatever you call it, we know that going for too long without human touch has real psychological effects. Starting with when we bond with our caregivers through touch when we're infants, we're wired to need touch, for our development and for our mental health.   So what do we do when we're not getting any?       Hey, I'm Anna Borges and this is Mood Ring, a practical guide to feelings, even when you're feeling so untouched like a 2007 pop song.   Every episode, we'll explore one new way to cope—with our feelings, with our baggage, with our brains, or with the world around us.   Anna Borges: Today we're talking about cuddling with your friends, which might seem like kind of a leap from a bikini wax. But that's because I didn't know until the last minute that I wanted this episode to be about cuddling your friends. Before that, I knew I wanted to do something on touch starvation, and, you know, ways to scratch that itch. We thought of massages, or loving self-touch and yep, getting waxed, but, you know, none of them really felt right. Because sure, all of that involves getting touched, but none of it is intimacy. And I was missing intimacy as much as I was missing the touch itself.   And then I had this exchange on Twitter.   SOUND OF KEYBOARD TYPING   I was doing what I do—AKA tweeting about whatever thought comes into my head and conveniently forgetting that my family and coworkers follow me—and I was basically like, “Hey, show of hands, who else hasn't had real physical intimacy since the Before Times?"   And lots of people chimed in and long story short, the tweet led to some talk about why platonic intimacy isn't more of a thing. Like, why is so much non-sexual touch still reserved mostly for sexual and romantic partners?   And one of the people who chimed in is actually one of today's guests.   I slid into his DMs like, “Hey, want to platonically cuddle?” and by that I mean, “Do you want to come on my podcast?” And thankfully, he said yes.   Zachary Zane is a writer who mostly focuses on sex and bisexuality in his work. He's behind the erotic nonficiton zine Boyslut and is a columnist for Men's Health. And most importantly, he's someone who, quite frankly, seemed to have a lot of platonic intimacy in his life. So, I wanted us to learn from him together.   Anna Borges: Oh, I'm so excited to chat today! Were you luckier than I was during the pandemic and, like, got plenty of touch? What, what was it like for you?   Zach Zane: Um, I- initially, no, I did not get any touch whatsoever and that was not fun as I, as you can imagine. And then I actually, one of the few people that managed to find love during the pandemic, which I know is probably problematic to say. But uh-   Anna Borges: I hate you. I'm so jealous.   Zach Zane: And, and then, so we kind of cuddled up together. So I had a primary partner who I was able to see and cuddle with, towards the kind of end of it. Cause there was that lull kind of the middle, during the summer where I was like, okay, I feel safe meeting people, and that's when I met them. And then we kind of went back into lockdown and then we were with each other. So I was very lucky.   Anna Borges: Ugh. Oh, and for our listeners who aren't familiar with, like ethical non-monogamy and polyamory, can you just give like a quick one liner on like what you mean when you say primary partner?   Zach Zane: Sure. So primary partner for me, I … it, it just like, I actually practice, like, non-hierarchical poly, but so maybe saying primary is not the correct term. So essentially when you have multiple partners, this is kind of like, for me in the sense was kind of the, the main one that I was kind of hanging out with, the main one who I'm in love with, the one who I call my boyfriend. And then I kind of have more casual partners, which are almost like, honestly, friends with benefits. Although poly people just kind of love putting terms to absolutely everything, unnecessarily. But, so this was more the person who I'd spend my time with more consistently.   Anna Borges: Got it. Got it. And I love, I love that you say friends with benefits because immediately my brain goes, okay, well, this episode is about cuddling your friends. First, I would love to just hear about your experience with platonic intimacy and how, and what that means for you and what it looks like in your life.   Zach Zane: I think I'm very … lucky that I've been able to have it, but I'm able to have it because I am queer. And I recognize that, where cuddling with another man platonically, I feel like it's much more accepted in the gay community, in the queer community, than if I was completely straight. And then I think it would just be more challenging if, you know, if you're straight, you have to be really comfortable with your masculinity to be able to platonically cuddle another straight friend.   Anna Borges: Hmm, absolutely. What kind of experiences have you had in this area?   Zach Zane: Yeah. And I really think in that regard, it's more like relationship anarchy. Again, there are a million terms and I know it's annoying, but kind of relationship anarchy, one of the  key … parts of that is the idea that you don't prioritize kind of romantic relationships over your friendships and your friendships can be equally as important and equally as fulfilling, even though you're not sexual, even if you're not in, in a romantic relationship. And I kinda love that about relationship anarchy.   Anna Borges: But I'm curious how you, if you ever had the expectation that touch and physical intimacy was only for romantic partners and if you had to release the expectation of that and accept that it could be with platonic relationships, or if it's always been that way for you?   Zach Zane: No, I think I definitely had this idea that … you know, touch, whether it's cuddling, or touch that extends beyond sex, was definitely still for romantic relationships or sexual relationships. I think the only exception is when you were, like, sad or crying. Is, if I'm looking back on it, it's when you're crying. That was the only time it was kind of more acceptable to have these elements of platonic touch as a means of comfort. Like why do I have to reach a point of such despair in order to, for it to be socially acceptable for me to have platonic touch. But I really think, the thing that changed was, again, I- was being queer, and just, I was part of this community where people were platonic touching. Being like, Hey, let's cuddle, let's get in a bed or just holding each other or in a way that was just the norm … or definitely more of the norm in a way that wasn't weird or necessarily sexual.   Anna Borges: Absolutely. So it does sound like you have, like, no lack of channels for platonic intimacy.   Zach Zane: No I 100% agree, but I also wanna be like, I'm in the minority and I'm very lucky to have this, and I'm lucky to have my friends and my community and my partners. And again, it's all part of the queer and poly world, and that's why I've been able to get this.   After a break, we'll get some advice for listeners who might be ready to snuggle up with their friends but don't know how to ask, so stay tuned.   MIDROLL   Hey, welcome back to Mood Ring, I'm Anna Borges. Let's get back to my conversation with sex writer and activist Zachary Zane about cuddling our friends.   Anna Borges: So, I'm curious if you would have any advice for listeners who aren't in these communities, but who might wanna take some of this wisdom to apply to their friendship. And they're like, I really want platonic intimacy, but as you called out, unless you're in a space where that's normalized and acceptable, it could be really awkward.   Zach Zane: I'm, I'm always just a fan of asking for what you want and then being, the key about asking for what you want being okay with rejection and not being weird. That's the key to asking for what you want, is being super okay with rejection, not making it weird when they get awkward or uncomfortable. Cause they've never been asked that question before. And they might just say no, because like they're like, no, no. And then they might come back being like, actually that sounds really nice. So just, the key is in how you take their rejection or they might be like, Hey! Actually, yeah, I'm really touched starved, too. And especially now, I think because of the pandemic, it actually creates more of an entry point than potentially what you've had before, because you're like, I had no touch for two years completely and I'm starved for it. Makes it an easier entry point, I think.   Anna Borges: Yeah. And, and that's on, even on the physical side, and on the emotional side, it does involve being vulnerable and admitting like, Hey, I'm seeking something because I lack it. And I'm lonely. Or I, you know, I wonder if, because this is so normalized in your circles, if you still deal with that or if you ever did, or if it's something that's come with practice.   Zach Zane: I, I mean, I think it's scary. I think anytime being vulnerable or intimate or expressing, Hey, I, I miss being touched like, it is a challenging thing for a lot of people to admit. I mean, hopefully you're doing this with friends who you trust, who you feel. That's the point of friendship to be, you're allowed to be vulnerable. You're allowed to be intimate. You're allowed to share your darkest desires. They're here to support you. They're here to help you. So kind of let them do that. And I think it's one of those things that's actually, so everyone wins from this.   Anna Borges: Absolutely. Oh! So before we wrap, because we've had such an emphasis on like the importance of communication and I'm loving all the takeaways, I was wondering if we could walk through, which we've touched on a little bit so far, but a script for listeners to take away, like, hey, they want to make an ask for the first time of one of their friends. What exactly might they say?   Zach Zane: I think it's better to air on the side of being more blunt and direct. And I think, being blunt and direct is almost a learning curve, and then receiving someone being blunt and direct is a learning curve, but it gets easier. When you just kind of express what it is that you want very clearly where there's no ambiguity, and that way they know what they're getting into, they are fully consenting with the knowledge of everything that you've told them and what this is gonna be. So I understand that this sounds on the side of maybe blunter than you would like, and you can always soften it yourself. But I think something along the lines of like, Hey, I have a question for you. I've just been really starved for touch right now, and really all of COVID. And so I was wondering if you'd be open to cuddling a bit. I just miss being held and holding people. And I really trust you, and would love to do this with you. And then if you want, you can literally throw out at the end, I promise no funny business.   Anna Borges: [laughs] The little kicker. Oh, I love that. That doesn't feel too blunt. That feels very vulnerable, compassionate and also complimentary. Complimentary? Complimentary.   Zach Zane: Yeah, no, I think it's that. I think you're, you're expressing your vulnerability and, and desire for intimacy in a way that … again, 99% of us crave the same thing. So this is a universal desire. If you wanted something completely out there, okay, then it's a different conversation. But I think if anyone, you know, they can easily empathize, sympathize or odds are, are craving the same thing. So you're not alone in your desires.   Anna Borges: Absolutely, ugh. And that, I think, is a beautiful note to end on. So thank you so much for this lovely conversation.   Zach Zane: Awesome, thank you so much.   Anna Borges: And where can people find you if they wanna see more of your work?   Zach Zane: So, my website's always greatzacharyzane.com. Or Twitter and Instagram, both as zacharyzane_. So z-a-c-h-a-r-y-z-a-n-e underscore. Just know that I am extremely shadow banned on Instagram, so you have to type in my whole name and handle to be able to find me. But that is because I post hot and sexy photos along with hot and sexy content. So, so, hopefully you guys will enjoy it.   Anna Borges: See, it'll be worth the effort spelling the whole thing out.   Zach Zane: Exaaaaactly. Exactly.   So how many of you listened to Zachary's script and can't imagine being that vulnerable and straightforward? Because I feel you.   But the thing is, Zachary was so right when he said that this need for intimacy is universal, especially right now when so many of us are more disconnected than we've ever been. It might feel exposing to put yourself out there like that, but hey, when I think about getting that message from the other side of things? That kind of request is one I would be so thrilled to receive.   So maybe we can all be a little braver about initiating the intimacy we want to see in the world? Because hey, someone has to be the first one to ask.   CREDITS   Thanks for listening to Mood Ring, a production of APM Studios and Pizza Shark. We're a new show, so it really helps if you rate, review and share this episode with your friends.   You can even tag me if you're really into it. I'm @AnnaBroges on Twitter — that's Anna B-R-O-G-E-S, because Anna Borges was taken. We wanna hear from you! You can get in touch at Moodringshow DOT ORG and click contact us, or you can follow MoodRingShow on Twitter and Instagram. You can also call and leave a message at 833-666-3746.   Mood Ring was developed by Kristina Lopez. Our executive producers are Maria Murriel, Isis Madrid and Beth Pearlman. Our story editor is Erika Janik. Mijoe Sahiouni is our digital producer. This episode was produced by Georgina Hahn. And as you know, I'm Anna Borges and I write, host and produce this show, too. APM Executives in charge are Chandra Kavati, Alex Schaffert and Joanne Griffith. And finally, our music is by Mat Rotenberg.   Thanks again for listening, and I hope to see you next episode!

  Welcome to episode 108 Antony attends his first male only sex party!! So get ready to get your freak on! Make sure that you're clean to play! And join us between the sheets! Contact us via Twitter@our_unicorn or leave us a message at 646-374-8755 Join us on: https://www.altplayground.net User name Marie & Antony www.safsocial.com User name MarieandAntony         http://k97fmradio.com www.modernlifestylers.com www.herpassionparties.com www.mywildlifestyle.com www.safsocial.com User name MarieandAntony Please help keep Marie's holes filled for a mere 16¢ or 12p a day at https://www.patreon.com/unicorndiaries and get a shout out on the show & access to patron only posts and pics! Live Long & Kinky!!! XOXO

Welcome back to season 2 of Snowballing. This week's episode Gareth and Ming receive a snowglober report from Zachary Zane in New York, discussing a bicentric men only gay sex party he hosted They discuss Zach's blog, BoySlut about being bi, they dissect the party he vividly describes and talk about their trips to New York and Brooklyn.Follow Zach on Instagram @zacharyzane_Follow Gareth on Twitter at @gtvlondonFollow Ming on Instagram @heymingaling

Cheers, queers! This is a very spicy and sensual sex and dating episode. Sex clubs! Picnics for dates! Polyamory! First off, Gaby's pronouns are now they/them/theirs. Hooray, gender! Then, Gaby chats with Autostraddle writers Drew Gregory and Christina Tucker, co-hosts of the brand new "Wait, Is This A Date?" podcast. Drew and Christina give advice on how to date while broke, figuring out the power dynamics of who pays, and how to navigate a relationship where one partner makes more money than the other. Then, fellow bisexual icon Zachary Zane, creator of the newsletter Boyslut, joins Gaby to talk about monetizing writing about your sex life, the finances of attending sex parties, and whether or not you should split the cost of Plan B. This episode is rated R. Please take care while listening. Bad With Money socials: Facebook: https://tinyurl.com/badwithmoneyfb Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bwmpod/ Discord: https://discord.gg/JJqYXGkPsU For Drew and Christina's dating podcast, click here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wait-is-this-a-date/id1578808424 For Zach's Boyslut newsletter, click here: https://zacharyzane.substack.com/ Drew's socials: https://twitter.com/draw_gregory https://www.instagram.com/draw_gregory/ https://www.tiktok.com/@draw_gregory Christina's socials: https://twitter.com/C_GraceT https://www.instagram.com/christina_gracet/ Zachary's socials: https://twitter.com/ZacharyZane_ https://www.instagram.com/zacharyzane_/ Transcript: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1aA1JnRiFMCjiwD8FvsdOtruve14-EfiE0IvUH3iaWAU/edit?usp=sharing Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Cheers, queers! This is a very spicy and sensual sex and dating episode. Sex clubs! Picnics for dates! Polyamory! First off, Gaby's pronouns are now they/them/theirs. Hooray, gender! Then, Gaby chats with Autostraddle writers Drew Gregory and Christina Tucker, co-hosts of the brand new "Wait, Is This A Date?" podcast. Drew and Christina give advice on how to date while broke, figuring out the power dynamics of who pays, and how to navigate a relationship where one partner makes more money than the other. Then, fellow bisexual icon Zachary Zane, creator of the newsletter Boyslut, joins Gaby to talk about monetizing writing about your sex life, the finances of attending sex parties, and whether or not you should split the cost of Plan B. This episode is rated R. Please take care while listening. Bad With Money socials: Facebook: https://tinyurl.com/badwithmoneyfb Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bwmpod/ Discord: https://discord.gg/JJqYXGkPsU For Drew and Christina's dating podcast, click here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wait-is-this-a-date/id1578808424 For Zach's Boyslut newsletter, click here: https://zacharyzane.substack.com/ Drew's socials: https://twitter.com/draw_gregory https://www.instagram.com/draw_gregory/ https://www.tiktok.com/@draw_gregory Christina's socials: https://twitter.com/C_GraceT https://www.instagram.com/christina_gracet/ Zachary's socials: https://twitter.com/ZacharyZane_ https://www.instagram.com/zacharyzane_/ Transcript: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1aA1JnRiFMCjiwD8FvsdOtruve14-EfiE0IvUH3iaWAU/edit?usp=sharing Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoicesOur Sponsors:* Check out Arena Club: arenaclub.com/badmoney* Check out Chime: chime.com/BADMONEY* Check out Claritin: www.claritin.com* Check out Indeed: indeed.com/BADWITHMONEY* Check out Monarch Money: monarchmoney.com/BADMONEY* Check out NetSuite: NetSuite.com/BADWITHMONEYAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Bisexuality continues to be one of the most misunderstood and controversial sexualities. Some people don't think it exists at all and that it's just a transitional identity people adopt before coming out as gay. Also, even among those who recognize that bisexuality exists, many believe things about it that aren't true, such as the idea that bisexuality necessarily means equal attraction to men and women, or that bisexuals can only be attracted to partners within the gender binary. It's time to bust some myths about bisexuality. For this episode of the Sex and Psychology Podcast, I interviewed Zachary Zane, a Brooklyn-based columnist, sex expert, and activist whose work focuses on sexuality, lifestyle, culture, and the LGBTQ community. He has a sex advice column at Men's Health titled "Sexplain It" and his work has been published in Rolling Stone, The Washington Post, GQ, Playboy, and more. He also has a weekly newsletter, titled BOYSLUT, where he writes erotic essays. In this episode, we talk all things bisexuality. We also discuss the taboos around sex toys for men and answer sex questions submitted by my Instagram followers. Things you'll learn include: What does it really mean to be bisexual? What's the difference between bisexuality and pansexuality? What are the most common things people (and popular media portrayals) get wrong about bisexuality? How can bisexual people better navigate relationships in the face of bisexual stigma? How are bisexuals viewed within the LGBTQ+ community, and how can we increase bisexual acceptance? How do we break the taboo around sex toys for men? For men who are new to using sex toys, where's a good place to start? Is simultaneous orgasm a realistic goal during sex? How can you tell if someone is flirting versus just being friendly? Why is pegging so popular? To learn more about Zach and his work, check out his website here, where you can subscribe to his newsletter and keep up with his latest writings. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: LEGIT Audio (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos and book covers used with guest permission.

Have you ever heard of the P-spot? Well, if you have a prostate, then you could be sitting on a mind blowing erogenous zone that you didn't even know about! We're exploring the pleasure anatomy of the prostate in this month's The Plug Podcast with Zachary Zane. Listen in and learn about all the internal and stimulations that you might be missing out on and what to expect from prostate pleasure. Zachary Zane is a Brooklyn-based columnist, sex expert, and activist whose work focuses on sexuality, lifestyle, culture, and the LGBTQ community. He currently has a sex advice column at Men's Health titled "Sexplain It" and a relationship column at Queer Majority titled "Zach and the City." His work has been published in Rolling Stone, The Washington Post, GQ, Playboy, Slate, Cosmo, and many others. Last but not least, he has a weekly newsletter, BOYSLUT, where he writes erotic essays detailing his wildest and raunchiest personal sex stories. Find more Zach at www.zacharyzane.com, and check out his erotic writing via BOYSLUT at www.zacharyzane.substack.com, his sex advice at the Sexplain Column in Men's Health, and the Zach and the City Column: Queer Majority. Head over to bvibe.com and use code LUNA to save 30% on b-vibe branded products. Explore prostate pleasure toys and get started with beginner butt bundles!

Jay Jr. will join the show at 8 to unveil the FPCC brackets. Nick Yahl and TJ Webber will be covering the FPCC. Doug is a maybe. Zaner has a newsletter called Boyslut. Boogie Nights discussion. FPCC Regions. Dillion Harper. Is Vince McMahon trying to buy the XFL out of bankruptcy?  

Jay Jr. will join the show at 8 to unveil the FPCC brackets. Nick Yahl and TJ Webber will be covering the FPCC. Doug is a maybe. Zaner has a newsletter called Boyslut. Boogie Nights discussion. FPCC Regions. Dillion Harper. Is Vince McMahon trying to buy the XFL out of bankruptcy?