Dads And Daddies

Judson visits a childhood friend's new home in upstate New York and exchanges feedback about their lives with one another.  Brian hosts an event at his home to get fellow parents in his community thinking about how to talk about sex with their kids. Together, they enjoy a particularly daring Hookup of the Week submitted by a listener. They are then joined by multiple Tony Award-winning Broadway producer of Rent, Hamilton and more--and now the author of the new memoir Theater Kid--Jeffrey Seller. The three discuss the relatability of Jeffrey's book, the significance of Jeffrey in Brian's life, Jeffrey's influence on making theatre accessible to all, some of the heartbreak he left out of his book, the importance of Hamilton at this particular moment, and Jeffrey's three most essential qualities of a relationship.  Jeffrey also joins Brian and Judson in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener concerned about his age becoming an issue as he starts a new chapter as a later-in-life undergrad. Read Theater Kid: A Broadway Memoir by Jeffrey Seller - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Theater-Kid/Jeffrey-Seller/9781668064184 Find Jeffrey on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/jseller Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social

Judson spends a glorious Memorial Day Weekend on his second annual trip to Naked Yoga Camp in Austin, this time with his husband. Brian is redeemed for the hookup gone wrong almost 18 months ago, which led to the birth of this podcast. He also explains the concept of semen to his nine-year-old daughter and receives a perfect review on TheBlowers. Judson and Brian then enjoy a listener-submitted Hookup of the Week before launching into a conversation about Playing in Public.  Judson and Brian share their favorite open-air spots and experiences, some of the opportunities gay vacation destinations provide for public sex, and the pros and cons of sex outdoors versus sex at parties. They close the episode by responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who isn't happy when his boyfriend implies he may have his own hookup with someone they're both attracted to. Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social

It's Dads and Daddies' first anniversary! Judson and Brian reflect on the ups and downs of the past year, and reveal some of the ways they plan to evolve the podcast in what is now Season Two, including the introduction of the new “Hookup of the Week” episode premiering this episode! The two then enter into a conversation about code-switching as gay men, and how each balances the various personas they bring to their home lives, work lives, creative lives, sex lives, friendships, and time alone with their thoughts. They close with a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who wants to know how to get out of a hookup when the person doesn't meet expectations without hurting that person's feelings.    Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social

Judson reports back on the insanity taking place at work and on trying a new experience during a hookup.  Brian reflects on the passing of his family's pet. GayVN award-winning porn actor and adult model Joel Someone then joins them in Brian's basement. Together, the three talk about Joel's career and how it was born from his need to get out of his native New Mexico, his path from escort to porn star, losing his virginity to a woman on camera, his parents' discovery of his line of work, and his relationships with his “porn son” (and former Dads and Daddies guest) Jonah Wheeler and his boyfriend King Dwarf. Joel sticks around to help Judson and Brian respond to a “Go Ask Your Dad” question from a listener in his early 30s who has never felt affection from a man and is on the verge of giving up on the gay community and finding love.   Find Joel Someone on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/joel_someone/   Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social

Comparing their week on the apps, Judson laments an aborted mission, and Brian comes up against ageism. Brian shares a glowing review for the Broadway play, “John Proctor is the Villain.” The two then welcome to the podcast Nathan H. Lents, author of The Sexual Evolution: How 500 million years of sex, gender, and mating shape modern relationships. Together, they discuss the difference between sexual and social monogamy, the egalitarian and sex-positive lifestyle of the lesser studied bonobo chimpanzees, how humans look to the animal kingdom to claim justifications (that aren't there) for their conservative beliefs, how the recent diversity in gender expression is a natural part of evolution, and so much more. Nathan then joins Judson and Brian in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who wants to show more affection to his boyfriend, but doesn't know how, having been raised in a household where very little affection was shown.   Find Nathan online at linktr.ee/nathanlents   Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social

It's Dads and Daddies' 50th Episode! To celebrate, Judson and Brian dedicate this week's episode to the listeners by responding to FIVE Go Ask Your Dad questions! Ranging from a listener struggling with a toxic friends-with-benefits situation to one who wants help being verbal in bed, to another who wants to ensure his partner's first hookup outside of their relationship goes off without a hitch, to one who's having trouble balancing the difference between his sense of adventure versus his husband's, to a listener looking for guidance on making a hookup happen by cruising IRL, this episode's questions open up all kinds of conversations about the lives and times of adult gay men in the here and now! But first, Judson tells Brian about his experience recording an episode of Sniffies' podcast, Cruising Confessions, and Brian talks about his challenges understanding the expectations of a hookup where he is nothing more than the recipient of oral sex.   Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social

Judson shares a moment of pride felt as a Daddy for a Son. Brian reflects on four weeks without sex outside of his marriage. The two discuss feedback from a listener who feels that they prescribe open relationships as being right for everyone and doesn't agree. They then begin preparations for summer by going deep into the anxiety brought on by vacationing in gay destinations. They explore the reasons we choose to vacation in gay destinations and how those reasons can be at odds, why they feel the pros outweigh the cons, and how they each deal with issues of body image, self-esteem, drug and alcohol prevalence, FOMO and peer pressure. To close, Judson and Brian respond to a series of questions from a listener who is moving to New York and is curious about the dating scene for someone in his 40s, building community and navigating the city sober.   Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social

Judson tells Brian about his first week back at work, which wasn't without its shocking moments. The two then recount their double date at the new Broadway musical they both loved, Just In Time, starring Jonathan Groff as Bobby Darin and co-authored by previous Dads and Daddies guest Isaac Oliver. Judson and Brian then welcome Sex & Intimacy Coach, Surrogate Partner, and Sacred Intimate Court Vox to the podcast. Court shares how he helps people develop and grow their comfort around touch, eroticism and sexuality and provides his unique insights on body autonomy, the limitations of the apps, the similarities between parents and doms, and so much more.  He then helps Judson and Brian respond to a question from a listener who wants to give his younger partner the freedom to explore sex with others but fears it could mean losing him.   Find Court at TheBodyVox.com, on Instagram at @thebodyvox, or check out his Linktree for all other ways to connect at linktr.ee/CourtVox   Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social

Judson comes to the end of his sabbatical and reflects on everything it has brought him, including a significant amount of sex over the past week. Brian recounts the night he took his family to Kylie Minogue's first-ever concert at Madison Square Garden. The two are then joined by Carson McCalley and Jack Dodge, hosts of the YouTube series and podcast “Dweeb Wars,” and contestants on the currently-airing 37th Season of “The Amazing Race.” Carson and Jack go deep into their friendship that goes back over a decade, sharing its origins, how they nurture and protect it, how they view each other as ‘platonic soulmates,' how they balance it with their long-term romantic relationships, and how they came to building an online community together through their show, “Dweeb Wars.” They also reveal secrets of competing in “The Amazing Race” - including their ingenious preparation tactic - and answer questions from two special guest interviewers, Brian's 9 and 6-year-old daughters. Carson and Jack stick around to help Judson and Brian respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener struggling with how much he compares himself to his friends and what he sees on social media.   Check out Carson and Jack on Season 37 of The Amazing Race on CBS and Paramount+, and on their own series, Dweeb Wars, at https://www.youtube.com/@DweebWars.   Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social

Judson and Brian return to The Cockpit downstairs at Daniel Nardicio's Redeye NY for their second live show! Having just reunited with Judson after three weeks apart, Brian regales him with stories he's been waiting to share about his daughter hearing him and his husband having sex, his struggles using AI to help navigate a Grindr conversation, and having “the talk” with his kids. Judson responds by sharing the memory of finding his parents' sex tape as a child. The two then welcome Leo Wyatt and Jordan Holland of JXXL to the podcast. Leo and Jordan talk about how they encourage exploration, practice, and play through the private and public parties they throw, what sets their parties apart, how they define openness for themselves, their use of condoms, and what their Daddy Issues are. They then help Judson and Brian answer a series of Go Ask Your Dad questions submitted by the live audience, ranging from what kind of lube all four recommend to how to become more comfortable as a bottom. With a special appearance by returning guest Guy Woof!   JXXL online: JXXL.live/events JXXL on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/jxxlcommunity JXXL on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/jxxlcommunity.bsky.social   Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social

Judson and Brian are reunited after Judson returns from three weeks of globetrotting with his husband. He recounts highlights of his restorative trip to Sri Lanka, plus a sexy 36-hour layover in Istanbul. Brian happily reports on his recent stress reduction, having survived a dreaded business trip and having come to the annual end of his seasonal blues. They share some listener feedback about inaccurate medical information discussed in an episode from a few weeks prior.  The two then welcome to the podcast Adam MacLean, founder of PostShame.org, host of the podcast “Find Your Light,” and trained sacred intimate.  Adam takes Judson and Brian through his consulting work, helping people reclaim online content others may try to use against them, and his sacred intimate work assisting people to find comfort in their bodies. All three address this week's Go Ask Your Dad question, which comes from a listener who's concerned his libido does not match those of his friends and feels pressure to be having more sex than he is.   Show notes: Find Adam MacLean at PostShame.org and listen to his podcast, Find Your Light Judson recommends Rachel Kushner's novel, Creation Lake   Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social

Recorded last September, Judson and Brian share some unusual propositions they've each received on the apps before delving into a discussion of the lost art of cruising. They delineate the steps to proper cruising, reminisce about cruising successes and fails they've experienced over the years, and make a case for bringing cruising back in the current landscape of hookup apps. They end with a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener struggling with feelings of jealousy of his friends who he believes are more attractive than he is and are having sex with each other.   Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social

Recorded last May, Judson and Brian share the details of their travel over Memorial Day Weekend ‘24 - Judson to Austin for a weekend of naked yoga, where he performed a stand-up set and met his spirit animal, and Brian to London for a celebration of his tenth wedding anniversary, where he and his husband saw a number of shows and enjoyed a playdate together with a ‘certified werewolf.' Judson then interviews Brian about his path to fatherhood, from the origins of Brian's desires to be a father, to his search for the right person to start a family with, to the before, during and after of the surrogacy journeys that brought them their two daughters. Staying on theme, they end with a Go Ask Your Dad question from a divorced dad whose 8 year-old daughter is not reacting well to any affection he's shown by his new boyfriend. Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social

Judson shares learnings from time spent with his 95 year-old father-in-law, and checks in on Brian's stress-induced vision impairment to ensure he's addressing it with the proper amount of self-care. The two then enter into a discussion about affection–what constitutes affection, how important it is to each, and how it manifests in their relationships with their husbands, their families, their friends, their coworkers and even with strangers. This week's Go Ask Your Dad question comes from a listener who wants help responding to persistent online suitors who won't take the hint that he's not interested in meeting up..   Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social

Judson helps Brian turn his frown upside down by making him reframe how he looks back on the past week, and challenges Brian to think about managing his stress with lessons about the mind-body connection Judson has taken from the works of Gabor Mate. The two then welcome the brilliant and hysterical actor and comedian Jeff Hiller, co-star of HBO's “Somebody Somewhere” and author of the forthcoming memoir, “Actress of a Certain Age: My Twenty Year Trail to Overnight Success,” to the podcast. Jeff takes Judson and Brian through the laugh-out-loud highlights of his life and career, from his days as an STI and HIV pre- and post-test counselor in the Denver Public Health Department to his entry into the world of improv to the meeting of his husband to his breakout TV role. He shares sneak peeks into some of the stories included in his upcoming book, and lets them in on others that ended up on the cutting room floor. Jeff then joins Judson and Brian in responding to a listener's Go Ask Your Dad question seeking advice about how to engage his husband in a conversation about kickstarting their sex life that has fizzled over the years.   Preorder a signed copy of Jeff's book, Actress of a Certain Age: My Twenty Year Trail to Overnight Success at https://www.strandbooks.com/actress-of-a-certain-age-my-twenty-year-trail-to-overnight-success-9781668031858.html   Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social

Judson puts a label on his relationship with Brian and reports on his experience Daddying a third alongside his husband. Brian recounts a magical night attending Jinkx Monsoon's Carnegie Hall debut and shares the highlights of his family's trip to Puerto Rico over the midwinter break. The two then examine how vanity manifests for so much of the gay male community, and what it will take to answer the question Judson poses: “When will you look in the mirror and feel great?” Judson and Brian close the episode by responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from two dads who find it challenging to transition from the stress of parenting by day to being sexual partners at night.

Judson and Brian compare Valentine's Day plans and reflect on their first Valentine's Day dinners with their now-husbands. They then share the news about their second live show and first Dads and Daddies party on Friday, March 28, at the Cockpit in Hell's Kitchen, New York City. Judson recounts an emotional week at work, having survived a significant round of layoffs, and Brian describes his week of multiple misfires on the apps. The two then tell each other their stories of the biggest breakups they've experienced, the closest they've ever come to breaking up with their husbands, what it would take for them to get divorced, and discuss getting out of relationships at the right time. This week's Go Ask Your Dad question comes from a couple new to playing with thirds who are wondering if there is an issue with kicking off their interactions with a drink and a chat.

Judson and Brian compare how they are attempting to find balance and peace in unsteady times and provide updates about how they were each happily surprised this week by some unexpected playtime. Brian talks about time spent with his kids before getting on his soapbox about the unrealistic expectations for parents set by the cartoon show "Bluey." The two then explore the concept of "friends with benefits"—how they define it, whether any of their current friendships fall into that category, how friends with benefits work in open relationships, and whether they have friendships now they'd like to turn into friends with benefits. On the theme of friends, Judson and Brian end by taking a "Go Ask Your Dad" question about how to navigate the end of queer friendships, particularly when they exist within a larger circle of friends.

Brian and Judson compare notes: first, on masturbation–how frequently they do it, why they do it, and when–and, second, on how frustrating the logistics of hookups can be, particularly if they take place in New Jersey. Brian then looks to Judson for guidance on making hookups happen that include his husband, and what ‘playing together' looks like in Judson's marriage. They end with a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener whose bisexual husband wants permission to have sex with a female friend, knowing they would have to keep it secret from her husband.

Judson recounts a perplexing dream, and Brian shares news of his renewed sexual activity. They gush over the return of "Severance" before welcoming "Big Brother" icon Will Wikle, whose diverse career spans mainstream entertainment, sex work, and now psychiatry, having opened his own practice, Peace Park Psychiatry. Will regales them with a series of incredible stories, including a lucrative escorting experience, how self-love is handled on "Big Brother,” and the support he received from Julie Chen after his eviction. He also seeks their advice on navigating Daddy/Son dynamics and sex parties. Finally, Will joins Judson and Brian in answering a listener's "Go Ask Your Dad" question about pursuing a sexual relationship within a friend group while respecting each couple's open relationship boundaries.

Brian recounts his first week of recovery from his lower eyelid surgery and hears Judson's perspective on their trip to Sephora with Brian's kids. Judson shares a lovely Daddy/Son experience and talks about how he navigates some of the challenges of a corporate job. The two then talk kissing–from their first kisses to practicing on their pillows to what makes a good kisser to how much more there is than lip-kissing. They end with Judson reaching into his own experience to address a listener's question about how to rebuild trust in his relationship after learning his partner has begun experimenting with crystal meth

Brian's nine year-old asks the big question. Judson spreads the word about the Instagram purchase that has changed his life. The two chat about some of the latest TV they're obsessing over. Judson and Brian then dive deep into an exploration of intimacy–with their husbands, with their friends and with their hookups.This week's episode ends with a Go Ask Your Dad question that asks our Dad and Daddy to provide a more thorough explanation for the term “sex positive.”

Brian celebrates his first rave review on The Blowers, and Judson details his experience of the “Solid Gold” exhibit at the Brooklyn Museum. The two then welcome to the podcast the inimitable JIMBO the Drag Clown, winner of RuPaul's Drag Race All-Stars Season 8 and current star of Drag the Musical off-Broadway. JIMBO talks about his journey from behind-the-scenes artisan to realizing his dream of starring in a musical, his family life with his partner and two stepkids, his education as a clown and how it brought him to drag, the support of his mom, and how a sex-themed office party he attended as a child inspired his looks today. JIMBO also expresses the shock of his first time being called ‘Daddy,' his feelings around competing with Pamela Anderson for Madonna's attention, and recounts the story of how he came to be in possession of his prized Madonna memento. He then helps Judson and Brian respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who feels lost about how he fits into the gay dating ecosystem.

Happy Birthday to Judson! After a mini birthday party for everyone's favorite Daddy, Judson and Brian also celebrate the 13th anniversary of Brian's first date with his now-husband and the first anniversary of the text exchange between Judson and Brian that resulted in this podcast. The two compare notes on their New Year's Day polar plunge experiences and share their personal growth goals that the Earth's most recent rotation around the Sun has inspired them to think about. Judson then chronicles some of his hookups from the holiday break before the two respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a demisexual listener asking for help setting boundaries with hookups to avoid them catching feelings for him.

Judson laments having missed an opportunity to have a chance encounter with Luigi Mangione. Brian reflects on the past year and how it has changed him and his relationship. The two are then joined by adult content creator Guy Woof. Guy talks to Judson and Brian about his crush on John Oliver, his transition from locksmith to porn performer, the business behind having sex on camera, and finding success on OnlyFans.  Guy also details attempts to make actual dates on the dating apps and compares notes with Judson and Brian on how they each experience the need for validation. Guy then joins them in addressing a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who wonders why Judson and Brian so often describe the sex they have with their husbands as hooking up.

Judson tells Brian about the night he invited a hookup to stay for dinner, and how it evolved into a beautiful sharing of grief. Brian shares a story about a hookup that went against most of his own rules, in what he views as a culmination of a year of learnings from Judson. They are then joined by award-winning porn actor and social media star Jonah Wheeler. Jonah talks about the “enthusiastic and joyful” vibe of the content he creates, his dominant-yet-caring Daddy persona, the origin of the Jonah Wheeler character, and the on-set challenges that make him love his job. Jonah also explains how his identity evolves across various social media platforms, how tough it can be to feel inspired in the current political environment, and what it's like to court negative discourse as a public figure. Jonah then helps Judson and Brian address a Go Ask Your Dad question from a couple who are having trouble making penetrative sex happen after trying every possible solution.

Recorded on December 13, it's Brian's birthday! Brian describes his plans to celebrate, which exhausts Judson just by hearing them listed out. Judson shares a glowing review for Ricardo Tavares' bathhouse-based “Morning Glory” sex party, which led to one of Judson's top 3 hookups of 2024. The two compare stories of “setting traps” on the apps. They then welcome comedian Sam Morrison to the podcast and cover the target age demographic for his comedy, discrimination by sex party promoters, the struggles we each face with our bodies, Sam's theory about Daddy Bears, and the challenges he's facing being in a monogamous long-distance relationship. This week's Go Ask Your Dad question comes from a listener feeling envious of his partner when he realizes that their newly opened relationship is proving to be uneven in terms of the opportunity they each have for hooking up.

Judson and Brian commiserate over sudden end-of-year demands at work and compare notes on the time they will spend with family over the holidays, including how they each set (or try to set) the necessary boundaries. Judson then educates Brian on the concept of “fraysexuality” before welcoming writer, performer, curator and creator/host of the podcast “Giants in the Sky,” Ben Rimalower, to the show.  Ben gets personal about his first-time boyfriend, balancing his desire for a relationship versus the autonomy of his single days, his struggles over the years with body image, his evolution into Daddyhood, and staying inspired in the face of a political regime he's fought against for years. He then joins Judson and Brian in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who identifies as a top in a relationship with another top who wants to approach opening their relationship so they can both get their sexual needs met, but is coming up against his partner's view of open relationships as unethical.

Judson and Brian catch up on the Thanksgiving preparations in Brian's home, compare family rules to keep Sondheim out of Sundays and show tunes away from the dinner table, and recap their experiences recording their first live show.  They then discuss the various iterations of family in their lives - the biological families they grew up with, their nuclear families now, and their chosen, or logical, families. For this week's Go Ask Your Dad, a listener who identifies as an active member of the leather/kink/bear community asks for advice on how to respond to people who approach him online with desires which he feels exposes the fact that they may be putting themselves in unsafe situations.

It's Judson and Brian's first live show! Recorded at The Cockpit downstairs at Daniel Nardicio's Redeye NY, a towel-clad Judson and Brian chat about Judson's 7th anniversary off crystal meth, Brian's elder daughter's 9th birthday party, and reviews of Anora, Wicked, and the Broadway musical version of Death Becomes Her before welcoming one of the most influential forces in queer culture, David Lauterstein, to the podcast.  Co-founder and CEO of the iconic fashion brand Nasty Pig and author of the newly-released memoir Sodomy Gods, David joins Judson and Brian to talk about 30 years of championing sex positivity, the potential for sharing queer generational knowledge, concerns about the LGBTQ+ community fragmenting, and demystifying the blockers keeping one from pursuing their dreams. David then helps Judson and Brian answer a series of Go Ask Your Dad questions submitted by people in the audience, including one about introducing Daddy/Son roleplay into a relationship where both members feel more like a Daddy than a Son.

Judson and Brian alternately celebrate and lament the actual arrival of fall as Brian prepares for the coming season of birthdays and holidays in his household, including a fashion show-themed slumber party for his 9-year-old, and Judson prepares for his father's celebration of life. They then dive deep into an exploration of the ins, outs, highs, and lows of hooking up with men who are not their husbands, from the challenges of making a hookup happen to the importance (or not) of face pics to the inevitable flaking and ghosting, to how they share their hookup experiences with their husbands. They end by addressing a listener's question about whether one can be a Daddy from any position other than top.

Judson and Brian recap their initial reactions to the election results, including Brian's escape to the new Broadway musical Maybe Happy Ending and the new movie A Real Pain. Judson shares the music, TV show, and book getting him through the week. They then move into a deeper exploration of Self-Care. They discuss what Self-Care means and looks like for each of them, from finding pursuits that fulfill their needs to be of service, to feel valuable, and to be creative to Judson's daily practice of “The Palm” – the five categories of activity he needs to accomplish each day to feel whole. They end with a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who considers himself monogamous but has fallen for someone who does not practice monogamy.

Recorded this past March (don't worry, Judson is back on the apps by now), Judson and Brian chat about taking fashion cues from younger generations, making sex efficient, parents' influence over their kids' tastes, and go deep into the myth that gay men with money are entirely self made. They explore how each approaches financial responsibilities as married gay men, the relationship between gay identity and consumerism, and respond to a listener question about when to bring up the desire to have kids during the early stages of dating.

Judson shares some very personal news before moving into a recap of his recent trip to Las Vegas. Judson and Brian are then joined by award-winning playwright, author and performer Isaac Oliver. Isaac gives the two a sneak peek into his exciting projects–the upcoming Broadway musical ‘Just In Time' starring Jonathan Groff, for which he's co-writing the book, and the upcoming TV series, ‘Etoile,' Amy Sherman-Palladino's follow-up to ‘The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel,' which he describes as a workplace comedy set in the world of Ballet, and on which he is a writer. The three then discuss the virtues of sex workers, the difference between sensual and erotic massage, and Judson and Brian's recent discovery of the oral sex-forward hookup app, TheBlowers.  They then move into a Halloween-inspired sharing of Hookup Horror Stories–their own, and some submitted by listeners. They end by providing very different but complementary answers to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener looking for tips to improve their oral sex techniques.

Judson and Brian compare their pop diva icons and share their review of the super fun DRAG: The Musical. Judson prepares to be best man at his brother's Las Vegas wedding and Brian may have met his match when it comes to prioritizing kissing.  The two then go deep into the subject of group sex – the logistics of making it happen, how to make sure each person involved receives appropriate attention, the ideal number for a group, the differences between enjoying group activity with their husbands versus others, and whether or not it works to include friends.  They end with a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who asks how and when to tell someone that the roleplay they're entering into may be drifting into territory he's not comfortable with.

Inspired by the change of seasons and the approach of the winter holidays, Judson and Brian chat about Jewish Christmas Envy and Judson's penchant for making matzo balls.  They then celebrate Judson's wedding anniversary and National Coming Out Day by sharing their stories about how they each came out to their parents. They close with a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who asks what to do when a regular hookup tells him that he's living with an STI that he's treating and has under control.

Judson celebrates his patriotism and then elaborates on three curious text messages he sent Brian over the course of the week.  Brian tells Judson about taking his family to Council Bluffs, Iowa, to see Chappell Roan in concert. The two are then joined by the amazing Molly Roden Winter, New York Times bestselling author of More: A Memoir of Open Marriage. Judson, Brian and Molly go deep into discussing the similarities and differences of open relationships for gay and straight couples, and what each can learn from the other. Molly and Judson then help Brian who brings his own Go Ask Your Dad question, and provide their advice on how he should respond to a text from a straight woman who wants to set him up with her friend who is new to open relationships.

Judson counsels Brian on his continuing saga of the hookup that just won't happen. The two are then joined by Dr. Israel Martinez, author of the new book, “Enhancing Pleasure for Gay Men: A Clinical Guide for Healing and Acceptance Through Better Sex.” Israel talks to Judson and Brian about shame and validation, the concept of Responsive Arousal, his own Daddy issue around the pressure to have kids, and what self care looks like for him. Israel also joins the two in helping a listener process how his lack of a father figure growing up impacted his masculinity.

Judson analyzes his recent ambivalence about sex and reveals he's having a “Bottom Autumn.” Brian shares his daughter's follow-up questions on the sex talk and comes clean about why he may have sounded so jealous on the recent Jealousy episode. The two then compare how they each answer the age-old question asked on the apps, “Into?,” and dive into an exploration of kinks.  They end by offering advice to a listener who's having trouble getting the last guest to leave at the sex parties he throws.

Judson receives some unwanted attention.  Brian has “the talk” with his 8 year-old.  Then, Bob Levine, celebrating 69 years as both drag icon Rose Levine and as a denizen of Cherry Grove, sits down with Judson and Brian at the Belvedere Guest House for Men as he prepares for Rose's Green Room 42 debut next month. Subject of the documentary “Roseland: The Ballad of Bob Levine,” Bob lets Judson and Brian in on the secret to his happy life, and recounts seven decades of gay history through the lens of Fire Island. To close, a listener asks what tips for visiting the Island our Dad and Daddy might suggest for a first-timer who finds it intimidating.

Brian shares his review of “Beetlejuice Beetlejuice.” Judson recounts how an Instagram ad for mushrooms led to getting his ears pierced. The two then compare notes on their experiences of jealousy and envy in their open marriages. They close by counseling a listener who confesses that neither he nor his partner are all that comfortable initiating sex.

This week's episode begins with a celebration of Judson's home state of Ohio and a post-mortem on Brian's most recent visit to a sex party.  The two then dive into an exploration of sex while traveling – from the sampling of the sex on offer at various destinations across the globe to how our sexual behaviors, interests and tastes may change while on vacation.  They close with a travel-related Go Ask Your Dad in which a listener wants advice on how to navigate wanting to travel without one's partner.

After a chat about exchanging X-rated pics and a shared need for privacy screens, treating children like adults in day-to-day life, and treating adults like children at work, Judson and Brian explore safety concerns and self-preservation regarding hookups. Judson recounts a recent experience when he asked a hookup to leave his home, and things turned ugly. The two then discuss hookups' physical and emotional safety as it relates to themselves and their relationships.  They end by responding to a safety-related Go Ask Your Dad question about the best ways to make your whereabouts known when hooking up with a stranger.

Dads and Daddies goes to Fire Island! Broadcasting from the historic Belvedere Guest House for Men in Cherry Grove, Judson and Brian first compare thoughts on their experiences of Fire Island before welcoming legendary gay nightlife impresario Daniel Nardicio to the podcast. Daniel discusses his life producing and promoting some of the community's favorite sex-positive parties, bringing stars ranging from Liza to Gaga to perform on the Island, his thoughts on aging gracefully, the effects of the AIDS epidemic on gay culture, the evolution of Drag as a career and so much more. Daniel also contributes thoughts for this week's Go Ask Your Dad segment, which takes last week's Instagram Stories poll as its inspiration and offers some tips for those who might want to try a sex party for the first time.

Judson reports the exciting news that one of his longest-standing fantasies could be realized very soon. Brian somehow evolves the conversation into discussing his frustration about being left off a text chain with other families planning an outing to the Botanic Garden. The two then enter into an examination of sex parties – how the current state of sex parties came to be, the different categories of sex party and, most importantly, how they feel one should behave when attending one. They end by answering a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who was not happy when a threesome was sprung on him as a surprise.

Judson shares a story about a repeat hookup gone right. Brian shares his fear that there may be a hacker interfering with his hookup prospects. Brian then interviews Judson at his most open and honest about his drug and alcohol addiction, and his ongoing journey through Recovery. This week's Go Ask Your Dad is on theme, as Judson and Brian respond to a question asking how to approach a friend when there is serious concern about their use of substances.

Brian and Judson each talk about how they're back in the saddle after some time away from certain habits.  Brian gives yet another theater review, this time for the Broadway play, “JOB”. Judson then guides Brian through the world of sexual roleplay. They close by discussing how challenging it can be to relax when bottoming during a hookup in response to this week's Go Ask Your Dad question

This week, Judson and Brian recount their night at the opening of “Oh Mary!” on Broadway before welcoming actor, comedian, Vanity Fair culture writer and co-host of Vanity Fair's Still Watching podcast Chris Murphy!  Chris joins our Dad and Daddy to talk about his Daddy Issues around sharing space and managing time after moving in with his boyfriend.  He also helps Judson and Brian address this week's Go Ask Your Dad question about whether or not there should be a limit in how large an age gap can be in a romantic relationship.

Judson shares an incredible story about what began as a spontaneous day trip to Fire Island and ends up as a profound moment of Daddy-ness. Brian presents a series of questions that some of our straight listeners have posed to us after hearing our first several episodes. Together they discuss the broad menu of sexual pleasures available outside of penetration as both have recently reopened their minds to Side activity. To end, this week's Go Ask Your Dad question comes from a cisgender poly queer man, married to a woman with whom he has kids, who wants to overcome the challenges of dating other men as someone who doesn't feel seen as a member of the gay community.

Judson describes his first few days vape-free. Brian gives his review of “Cats: The Jellicle Ball.”  Then, the two examine what makes them feel the most shame, and how they each attempt to manage it.  They end with a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who has discovered that a favorite hookup of his isn't open, he's cheating.

After Judson and Brian compare notes on their childhood concert-going experiences, discuss the right attitude with which to approach a sex party, and share how they each broke (or tried to break) their month-long streaks of not having hookups, the two enter into a breakdown of the top-bottom-vers continuum, and their personal journeys through all sides of it. Finally, this week's Go Ask Your Dad question covers how to navigate having a threesome in a relationship when you feel your partner gets greedy with the third.