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Coercive control doesn't end with separation—and when children are involved, the stakes are even higher. In this compelling episode of the Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, host Karen McMahon sits down with Dr. Christine Cocchiola, a leading expert and passionate advocate in the field of coercive control, to explore how this invisible form of abuse continues to impact families long after the relationship ends. Together, they unpack how emotional abuse often flies under the radar, the lasting harm it causes to both parents and children, and how protective parents can navigate the ongoing manipulation with clarity, strength, and love. If you've felt trapped in a battle where your integrity and your child's well-being are constantly under attack, this conversation offers validation—and a way forward. Dr. Cocchiola shares powerful insights on how to stay emotionally grounded, respond without reactivity, and support your child's healing without gaslighting yourself or them. She explores the role trauma plays in behavioral issues and emphasizes the importance of becoming a consistent source of safety and truth in your child's life. This episode introduces a strategy to help you lead with intention: Predict what your children may have heard, Prepare your grounded response, and Protect both yourself and your child. It's not just about recognizing the harm—it's about rising to meet it. Your steady, loving presence may be the most powerful tool your child has—and the clearest reflection of your own healing and hope. Connect with Dr. Christine: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DrCocchiola/videos Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.cocchiola_coercivecontrol Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/perfect-prey-podcast/id1704962170 Resources Mentioned in this episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Join the High Conflict Divorce Support Group: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/hcdsg A word from our sponsor: Let's talk about sleep... especially during those hot summer nights. If you've ever tossed and turned, sweating through your sheets, you're not alone. That's why I'm so excited to share Cozy Earth with you. I personally use their bamboo sheets, and they've completely transformed how I sleep—cooler, more comfortably, and without waking up in a sweat. The fabric is naturally temperature-regulating and moisture-wicking, which means better rest for you. Their All Day Tee is a favorite in my house—soft, breathable, and perfect for staying cool during busy days. And don't even get me started on the Studio Pant Collection—comfort and style in one perfect piece. Even better? You can try it all risk-free. With a 100-night sleep trial and a 10-year warranty on bedding, you have nothing to lose—and so much sleep to gain. ✨ Upgrade your summer. Go to cozyearth.com and use code JBD for 40% off their best-selling temperature-regulating sheets, apparel, and more. You'll feel the difference from night one.
In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon talks with Eagle about escaping her abusive relationship. At first, Eagle was smitten by her future husband, but that quickly changed, as Eagle soon found herself walking on eggshells around him. The most confusing part for Eagle was the good times vs. the bad times, as there were good times. It created a cognitive dissonance, making it much more difficult for Eagle to leave. It's a story of rage, grandiosity, stonewalling, putdowns, plausible deniability, grandiosity, isolation, walking on eggshells, ptsd, support, emotional manipulation, gaslighting, relationship dynamics, self-esteem, disordered eating, financial control, physical abuse, mental health, therapy, coping mechanisms, personal growth, escape plans, depression, anxiety, intimidation, and the healing process. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses physical abuse and suicidal ideation. *** If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click Here The Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click Here Something Was Wrong | Click Here When Dating Hurts Podcast | Click Here If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.). To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
What if the system meant to protect women and children during divorce is actually empowering their abusers?In this eye-opening episode, Heather Quick is joined by Dr. Christine Cocchiola and Amy Polacko to unpack the devastating realities of coercive control, toxic co-parenting, and the family court system's shocking failure to protect survivors. If you've ever felt unheard or powerless during a custody battle, this conversation will resonate deeply—and offer real-world guidance.Learn how coercive control operates behind the scenes in courtrooms—and why it's so hard to prove.Discover why many women are financially, emotionally, and legally trapped post-divorce.Get empowering tools and insights from two survivors who are turning their pain into purpose and advocacy.Hit play now to hear real stories, actionable advice, and the truth every woman needs to know before stepping into family court.Join us on our podcast as we navigate the complexities of marriage, divorce, separation, and all related legal and emotional aspects, including adultery, alimony, child support, spousal support, timesharing, custody battles, and the financial impact of dissolution of marriage.Interested in working with us? Fill out this form here to get started. Not quite ready? Interact with us on socials! Linktree: https://linktr.ee/FloridaWomensLawGroup Florida Women's Law Group Website: https://www.floridawomenslawgroup.com/Dr. Christine Cocchiola's Links:Official website: https://beentheregotout.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/been_there_got_out/?hl=enFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/BeenThereGotOut/Amy Polacko's Links:Official website: https://www.freedomwarrior.info/https://narcfreepress.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/freedomwarriortribe/?hl=enLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amypolackoDisclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not an advertisement for legal services. The information provided on this podcast is not intended to be legal advice. You should not rely on what you hear on this podcast as legal advice. If you have a legal issue, please contact a lawyer. The views and opinions expressed by the hosts and guests are solely those of the individuals and do not represent the views or opinions of the firms or organizations with which they are affiliated or the views or opinions of this podcast's advertisers. This podcast is available for private, non-commercial use only. Any editing, reproduction, or redistribution of this podcast
Dr. Christine Cocchiola explores the heartbreaking and complex issue of family estrangement and coercive control. Why are so many adult children turning against the parent who protected them? Could it be the result of slow, covert indoctrination by an abuser?Dr. Cocchiola dives deep into the psychology behind estrangement, the power dynamics within abusive family systems, and how protective parents can begin to make sense of this painful reversal. She also speaks directly to estranged young adults, asking important, reflective questions to help them see the bigger picture.
Subscribe in a reader Join me as Christine Cocchiola unpacks the Role of Narcissistic Partners in coercive control, estrangement, and emotional abuse. Learn how manipulation tactics impact victims and their families. Many people believe abuse begins with physical violence, but the reality is far more subtle. It starts with gaslighting, manipulation, financial abuse, and isolation—tactics […] The post The Role of Coercive Control in Estrangement | Christine Cocchiola appeared first on Narcissist Abuse Support.
Have you ever felt trapped in a relationship where control, not love, dictated your every move?Coercive control is the foundation of all forms of abuse, and its grip often tightens during and after separation. Understanding how psychological, financial, and legal manipulation work is crucial to breaking free and protecting yourself—especially when the legal system fails to recognize the dangers.Learn to identify coercive control tactics and how they escalate post-separation.Understand the legal challenges protective parents face and how to navigate the family court system.Discover actionable strategies to regain your independence and safeguard your future.Knowledge is power—listen now to hear Dr. Christine Cocchiola's expert insights on recognizing, escaping, and overcoming coercive control.Join us on our podcast as we navigate the complexities of marriage, divorce, separation, and all related legal and emotional aspects, including adultery, alimony, child support, spousal support, timesharing, custody battles, and the financial impact of dissolution of marriage.Interested in working with us? Fill out this form here to get started. Not quite ready? Interact with us on socials! Linktree: https://linktr.ee/FloridaWomensLawGroup Florida Women's Law Group Website: https://www.floridawomenslawgroup.com/Dr. Christine Cocchiola's Links:Official website: https://beentheregotout.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/been_there_got_out/?hl=enFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/BeenThereGotOut/Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not an advertisement for legal services. The information provided on this podcast is not intended to be legal advice. You should not rely on what you hear on this podcast as legal advice. If you have a legal issue, please contact a lawyer. The views and opinions expressed by the hosts and guests are solely those of the individuals and do not represent the views or opinions of the firms or organizations with which they are affiliated or the views or opinions of this podcast's advertisers. This podcast is available for private, non-commercial use only. Any editing, reproduction, or redistribution of this podcast for commercial use or monetary gain without the expressed, written consent of the podcast's creator is prohibited.Thank you for listening, please leave us a review and share the podcast with your friends and colleagues. Send your questions, comments, and feedback to marketing@4womenlaw.com.
Dr. Christine Cocchiola interviews Jules Thompson, a mother of five, lifelong domestic abuse survivor, and advocate for marginalized communities. Jules shares her journey through coercive control, from growing up in a strict religious home where individuality was suppressed to enduring two abusive marriages that left her questioning everything she thought she knew about love, faith, and identity.About Jules: Jules Thompson is a mother of five, a lifelong domestic violence survivor, and a 25-year veteran of the family court system. An advocate for marginalized communities, she is deeply knowledgeable in trauma recovery, the mind-body connection, and religious deconstruction. Known as a fierce social justice warrior, she channels her experiences into empowering others, using her story to inspire hope and change. Based in Colorado with her youngest daughter, she enjoys live music, the outdoors, and meaningful connections. She founded the Facebook group She is Me and is currently writing a solo book exposing covert abuses within family, religious, and court systems.---
Long-time listeners might remember Dr. Christine Cocchiola (aka Dr. C) from Season 5, where she shared how she and her kids survived her ex-husband's coercive control and psychological abuse. This week, she's back to dig deeper into the ways coercive control operates like a cult—through gaslighting, mind games, and manipulation—and how it impacts families, especially children. Dr. C is a social justice advocate, clinical social worker, and educator specializing in coercive control. In this episode, she unpacks how abusers use coercive tactics to maintain power in relationships and how the family court system often enables them. She also discusses her new book, Framed: Women in the Family Court Underworld, and the systemic failures that put survivors at risk. Trigger warning: This episode includes discussions of domestic abuse. Find Dr. C at:
Dr. Christine Cocchiola is joined by Dr. Lisa Fontes, a leading expert on coercive control. Dr. Fontes serves as an expert witness in legal cases involving coercive control and is the author of Invisible Chains, the second book ever written on the topic. In this powerful conversation, she sheds light on the insidious tactics abusers use to manipulate and dominate their victims—often without ever resorting to physical violence. Learn More from Dr. Lisa Fontes: Lisa A. Fontes, PhD is an expert on coercive control, child abuse, and intimate partner violence. A researcher, professor, and expert witness, she has authored Invisible Chains, Interviewing Clients Across Cultures, and Child Abuse and Culture. A Senior Lecturer at UMass Amherst, she has over 30 years of experience in research, psychotherapy, and education. Her work is widely published, with millions of readers on Psychology Today and Domesticshelters.org. She has served as an expert witness in 17 states on trauma, abuse, and child development.
Sara Sharif's killers, Urfan Sharif and Beinash Batool, were sentenced to life in prison on Tuesday 17 December 2024. It was a Family Court Judge who delivered Sara into the hands of her torturers and killers, despite Sharif's extensive history of abuse against three women and two children. Sara's case is not an anomaly. Nearly every six days in the USA a child is killed amid a custody dispute or catastrophic family court decision. Join Laura, Dr Christine Cocchiola and Amy Polacko as they expose catastrophic failures in Family Courts where children are placed further at risk and protective mothers are framed as the problem. This is an urgent call to action. For more in-depth conversations, extra episodes and videos and to be a part a fast growing, dynamic, empowering and supportive community join the Crime Analyst Squad: www.patreon.com/CrimeAnalyst #SaraSharif #ChildAbuse #ChildProtection #FamilyCourt #DomesticAbuseAwareness #CoerciveControl #DrChristineCocchiola #AmyPolacko #MenendezMurders #CoreyMicciolo #KaydensLaw #PiquisLaw #CrimeAnalyst #TrueCrime #Podcast #TrueCrimePodcast #BeinashBatool #UrfanSharif Clips https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jJfkDXeJQIc Sources https://www.amazon.com/Framed-Women-Family-Court-Underworld/dp/B0DB6MNR2W/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_product_top?ie=UTF8 https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-66531409 https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/09649069.2024.2382501 https://www.nationalsafeparents.org/kaydens-law.html https://msmagazine.com/2024/05/28/catherine-kassenoff-family-court-divorce-custody/ https://msmagazine.com/2023/06/20/catherine-kassenoff-family-court-divorce-bandy-lee/ https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2023/07/17/child-deaths-during-custody-battles/70383774007/ https://ktla.com/news/local-news/lawmakers-pass-piquis-law-to-protect-children-from-abusive-parents/ https://www.law.georgetown.edu/georgetown-law-journal/in-print/volume-110/6016-2/denial-of-family-violence-in-court-an-empirical-analysis-and-path-forward-for-family-law/ https://www.womensaid.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2016/01/Child-First-Nineteen-Child-Homicides-Report.pdf https://www.womensaid.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2016/01/Child-First-Nineteen-Child-Homicides-Report.pdf https://www.theguardian.com/society/2024/oct/01/paul-and-jack-were-murdered-by-their-abusive-father-why-had-the-family-courts-granted-him-contact https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/c047zq01z0ko https://www.ucl.ac.uk/news/2024/nov/unregulated-experts-can-cause-harm-children-family-courts REGISTER For Laura's 2025 Masterclasses: laurarichardspa@gmail.com More Training Info: www.dashriskchecklist.com www.thelaurarichards.com YouTube, Socials and Website YouTube @crimeanalyst Facebook Crime Analyst Podcast Instagram @crimeanalyst @laurarichards999 Threads @crimeanalyst X @thecrimeanalyst @laurarichards999 TikTok @crimeanalystpod Website www.crime-analyst.com Leave a Review https://www.crime-analyst.com/reviews/new/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
By the time 10-year-old Sara Sharif died, she had suffered more than 25 broken bones - 100 separate internal and external injuries - including a traumatic brain injury. Sara was failed by everyone. The risks were undoubtedly known to the senior judge who presided over all three family court cases and when Sara's abusive father applied for her to live with him, the judge ultimately sanctioned the order which delivered her into the hands of her killers. How did this happen? Listen to Laura's urgent and timely episode which is an exposé of Family Courts with Dr Christine Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW, an expert on the experiences of adult and child victims of coercive control and Amy Polacko, an investigative reporter and survivor turned divorce coach – and you will find out. Both are survivors of domestic abuse who work with family court victims. Together, they wrote the book, Framed, which shines a light on the dangerous and risky decisions made every day in Family Courts which put children more at risk and frame protective mothers as the problem. This is a call to action. For more in-depth conversations, extra episodes and videos and to be a part a fast growing, dynamic, empowering and supportive community join the Crime Analyst Squad: www.patreon.com/CrimeAnalyst #SaraSharif #ChildAbuse #ChildProtection #FamilyCourt #CrimeAnalyst #TrueCrime #Podcast #DomesticAbuseAwareness #CoerciveControl #TrueCrimePodcast #AmyPolacko #ChristineCocchiola Clips https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GZgKqkPhYHo https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lvC5Sq2lcdE https://www.tiktok.com/@itvnews/video/7447232360564690209 Sources https://www.amazon.com/Framed-Women-Family-Court-Underworld/product-reviews/B0DB6MNR2W/ref=cm_cr_dp_d_show_all_btm?ie=UTF8&reviewerType=all_reviews https://www.tortoisemedia.com/2024/12/11/sara-sharifs-father-and-stepmother-guilty-of-her-murder/ https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2024/12/11/court-told-sara-sharifs-father-abused-but-gave-custody/ Thank You to Crime Analyst Sponsors Who Make the Show Possible. Support The Show Thorough the Sponsors: Sign up for your trial today at Noom.com REGISTER For Laura's 2025 Masterclasses: laurarichardspa@gmail.com More Training Info: www.dashriskchecklist.com www.thelaurarichards.com YouTube, Socials and Website YouTube @crimeanalyst Facebook Crime Analyst Podcast Instagram @crimeanalyst @laurarichards999 Threads @crimeanalyst X @thecrimeanalyst @laurarichards999 TikTok @crimeanalystpod Website www.crime-analyst.com Leave a Review https://www.crime-analyst.com/reviews/new/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Subscribe in a reader Today we have a powerful and crucial discussion about coercive control and the family court underworld. My guests are the incredible Christine Cocchiola and Amy Polacko, both survivors of domestic abuse who work daily with victims navigating the often harrowing family court process. In this video, we’ll cover: 1. What coercive […] The post The Family Court Underworld: Coercive Control & Survival Stories | Christine Cocchiola & Amy Polacko appeared first on Narcissist Abuse Support.
In this interview with therapist Dr. Christine Cocchiola and investigative journalist Amy Polacko we discuss gender bias in family court. Both women have experienced domestic violence and in their book Framed, they shared the stories of women whose abusers weaponized the legal system against them in divorce and custody fights. Cocchiola and Polacko give pointers on what to look for before you get involved with these characters and how you can protect yourself.
Coercive control is an invisible form of abuse that traps victims in a web of psychological manipulation and domination. In this episode, Dr. Christine—a survivor, protective parent, and advocate—unpacks the strategies abusers use to exert power without physical violence. From understanding the parallels between coercion and tactics used in totalitarian regimes to exploring the cultural and societal roots of abuse, this episode provides a comprehensive look at how coercive control impacts individuals.Dr. Christine shares her journey and offers practical tools for identifying coercive control, presenting evidence effectively in family courts, and navigating the legal system.You can learn more about Dr. C here:https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/Support the showWebsite: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner
We kick off Family Court Awareness Month with Dr. Christine Cocchiola and Amy Polacko as we talk about their new book, Framed: Women in the Family Court Underworld. This collection of 22 women's stories raises awareness about the systemic issues plaguing family courts, aiming to ignite awareness about the family court crisis by sharing the voices of those directly impacted. In this episode, Dr. Cocchiola and Polacko highlight the deep-seated misogyny and financial exploitation within family courts, emphasizing that this isn't just a U.S. issue—it's a global crisis that affects women of all races, demographics, and socioeconomic backgrounds. This episode is a call for awareness and action. Together, we can advocate for systemic change to better protect victims and their children. Featured topics: The family court crisis and how the assumption of justice often falls short, leaving victims unsupported (3:56) How disclosure of abuse can lead to devastating consequences, including loss of custody (4:35) Deeply rooted biases allow a system to profit from the suffering of women and children (5:41) The danger and harm of reunification therapy and camps (18:19) Kayden's Law, enforcing legislation, and how everyone can join the fight for family court reform (22:51) Learn more about Dr. Christine Cocchiola and Amy Polacko: Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW, is a Coercive Control Educator, Researcher, and survivor. She is a tenured college professor teaching social work for the last 20 years. She has been a social justice advocate since 19, volunteering for a local domestic violence/sexual assault agency. Her expertise is in coercive control and the traumatic experiences of adult and child victims, researching and developing training on these topics nationally and internationally. Amy Polacko is a Freedom Warrior - and is committed to helping women live life on their own terms during/after a toxic relationship or divorce. As a divorced single mom, she is passionate about coaching women one-on-one and founded the empowerment group Strong Savvy Women to provide support, inspiration, and guidance to single women. Amy is also an award-winning journalist who sheds light on women's issues including divorce, domestic abuse, coercive control, and singlehood. Resources & Links: Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Framed: Women In the Family Court Underworld for more information and workshops! Dr. Cocchiola's website Amy's website Thanks to our sponsor: Future Fans =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-298-framed-women-in-the-family-court-underworld-with-dr-christine-cocchiola-and-amy-polacko-family-court-awareness-month
We kick off Family Court Awareness Month with Dr. Christine Cocchiola and Amy Polacko as we talk about their new book, Framed: Women in the Family Court Underworld. This collection of 22 women's stories raises awareness about the systemic issues plaguing family courts, aiming to ignite awareness about the family court crisis by sharing the voices of those directly impacted. In this episode, Dr. Cocchiola and Polacko highlight the deep-seated misogyny and financial exploitation within family courts, emphasizing that this isn't just a U.S. issue—it's a global crisis that affects women of all races, demographics, and socioeconomic backgrounds. This episode is a call for awareness and action. Together, we can advocate for systemic change to better protect victims and their children. Featured topics: The family court crisis and how the assumption of justice often falls short, leaving victims unsupported (3:56) How disclosure of abuse can lead to devastating consequences, including loss of custody (4:35) Deeply rooted biases allow a system to profit from the suffering of women and children (5:41) The danger and harm of reunification therapy and camps (18:19) Kayden's Law, enforcing legislation, and how everyone can join the fight for family court reform (22:51) Learn more about Dr. Christine Cocchiola and Amy Polacko: Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW, is a Coercive Control Educator, Researcher, and survivor. She is a tenured college professor teaching social work for the last 20 years. She has been a social justice advocate since 19, volunteering for a local domestic violence/sexual assault agency. Her expertise is in coercive control and the traumatic experiences of adult and child victims, researching and developing training on these topics nationally and internationally. Amy Polacko is a Freedom Warrior - and is committed to helping women live life on their own terms during/after a toxic relationship or divorce. As a divorced single mom, she is passionate about coaching women one-on-one and founded the empowerment group Strong Savvy Women to provide support, inspiration, and guidance to single women. Amy is also an award-winning journalist who sheds light on women's issues including divorce, domestic abuse, coercive control, and singlehood. Resources & Links: Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Framed: Women In the Family Court Underworld for more information and workshops! Dr. Cocchiola's website Amy's website =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-298-framed-women-in-the-family-court-underworld-with-dr-christine-cocchiola-and-amy-polacko-family-court-awareness-month
Irina speaks with dispute resolution specialist Steven Wolhandler, who uses his dual background in law and psychology to help people handle emotional predators. The author of "Protecting Yourself from Emotional Predators: Neutralize the Users, Abusers, and Manipulators Hidden Among Us," Steven dispenses practical advice on how to recognize, avoid, and if need be defuse personality-disordered individuals at work and in the private sphere. Whether you have to raise a child with an emotional predator or are trying not to date such individuals in the first place, this episode will guide you through recognizing destructive pathologies and throwing off predators so they can no longer rule your life. You are not going to want to miss the info in this episode!SOTI ep. 63 "Fighting Coercive Controllers with Dr. Christine Cocchiola and Amy Polacko"SOTI ep. 67 "Recovering from Narcissists with Justena Kavanagh"Steven Wolhandler's websiteSteven's book Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Join host Julina Ogilvie as she interviews Dr. Christine Cocchiola and Amy Polacko, authors of Framed: Women in the Family Court Underworld. They discuss the inspiration behind their book, exploring the struggles women face in the family court system, the impact of Jennifer's Law, and the lack of court training. The conversation covers financial burdens, finding the right attorney, and the stigma around domestic abuse. A must-listen for anyone looking to understand the challenges women face in their pursuit of justice. Show Highlights:The impetus to the book, Framed (2:54)What is Jennifers' Law? (4:24)Who the book is for and stories from some of the women (5:46)The lack of training in the family court system (13:13)The stigma of supporting domestic abuse (18:33)Evaluation of states (20:54)How to find the right attorney (22:01)The financial impact (23:31)Connect with Julina Ogilvie:WebsiteYouTubeLinkedInEmail- jogilvie@principlewealthpartners.comTo Learn More About FramedPerfect Prey PodcastThe information provided is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute investment advice and it should not be relied on as such. The statements and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the author. PWP cannot guarantee the accuracy or completeness of any statements or data. For current PWP information, please visit the Investment Adviser Public Disclosure website at www.adviserinfo.sec.gov by searching with PWP's CRD #290180
In this episode, our host Manya Wakefield sits down with Dr. Christine Cocchiola and Amy Polacko, co-authors of the newly released book “FRAMED: Women In The Family Court Underworld”. Dr. Cocchiola and Amy Polacko bring a wealth of experience and insight into the challenges women face in family court, especially when dealing with coercive control and domestic abuse. Dr. Cocchiola, a trauma-trained therapist and educator, and Amy Polacko, an award-winning journalist and divorce coach, discuss their groundbreaking work and the critical need for systemic reform. Together, they offer practical strategies for women navigating the legal system and reclaiming their power. RESOURCES - Purchase “FRAMED: Women In The Family Court Underworld” https://amzn.to/3zOm6QT - Visit Dr. Christine Cocchiola's website: https://bit.ly/3XHz4rI - Visit Amy Polacko's website: https://bit.ly/3Y4aVwT - Visit NarcFree Press: https://bit.ly/4epjOHa - Tina Swithin, One Mom's Battle NARCISSISTIC ABUSE REHAB COACHING Plus, don't miss out on our coaching services, designed to provide you with the guidance and empowerment you need during difficult times. Throughout Domestic Violence Awareness Month 2024 new clients can redeem a 30% discount when they purchase a coaching package! Use the code DVAM24 when you book a free consultation. - Learn more about Narcissistic Abuse Rehab coaching services https://www.narcissisticabuserehab.com/narcissistic-abuse-recovery-coaching/ FOLLOW NARCISSISTIC ABUSE REHAB TWITTER: https://twitter.com/NarcAbuseRehab INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/narcabuserehab MEDIUM: https://bit.ly/2P3QWeT PINTEREST: https://bit.ly/2IWT58i DISCLAIMER The content of this video expresses the content creator's own thoughts and opinions. It is provided for general information only. It is not intended to and is not meant to be advice which you should rely on. Please get the relevant professional or specialist advice before taking or refraining from any action based on the information in this video. If you have medical questions, please consult your doctor or other professional healthcare providers without delay.
Can the family court system really be trusted to protect victims of abuse? Join us for a powerful and eye-opening episode as we welcome Dr. Christine Cocchiola and Amy Polacko, authors of the groundbreaking book "Framed: Women in the Family Court Underworld." Together, we tackle the systemic issues that plague family courts, often framing women as perpetrators rather than victims. Through their personal and professional experiences, Dr. Cocchiola and Amy Polacko reveal how patriarchal social conditioning and ingrained misogyny perpetuate these injustices, emphasizing the urgent need for greater awareness and education among legal and mental health professionals.We share harrowing stories from "Framed," featuring 22 women from across the US, UK, Canada, and Australia who have faced abuse and manipulation within the family court system. This episode highlights the shocking tactics used by abusive partners and the profound emotional, physical, and financial toll on the victims. As we explore these heart-wrenching narratives, the urgent need for systemic change becomes glaringly apparent. We dive deep into the concept of coercive control, illustrating how it serves as a gateway to more overt forms of abuse and how it is often overlooked by the courts.In our final segment, we focus on the crucial reforms needed to protect victims of abuse within the family court system. We discuss the inspiring efforts of advocates like Tina Swithin and the significance of grassroots movements in driving systemic change. The conversation underscores the importance of legislative action, collaboration among advocacy groups, and the necessity of believing and supporting victims. By spreading awareness through resources like "Framed," we hope to encourage societal involvement and push for changes that prioritize the safety and well-being of children and protective parents. Listen in as we advocate for better support and understanding within legal and social frameworks.
Can the family court system be a perpetuator of misogyny? Join us as we uncover the profound influence of patriarchal social conditioning on this vital institution. We welcome Dr. Christine Cocchiola and Amy Polacko, authors of "Framed: Women in the Family Court Underworld," who share their compelling expertise and personal experiences. They reveal how women are often unfairly painted as problematic parents in cases involving coercive control and domestic abuse, and we underscore the pressing need for systemic change to protect victims and their children.Through gripping narratives from survivors like Michelle, Lucy, and Charlotte, we highlight the systemic failures of family courts and the dire consequences faced by women striving to protect their children from abuse. We detail the complicated nature of the family court system, the lack of constitutional protections, and judicial immunity that often leaves victims vulnerable. Our discussion emphasizes the critical need for educating and empowering women, drawing on insights from journalism, coaching, and social work backgrounds.Finally, we explore the urgent call for a grassroots movement to reform the family court system. Contributions from experts like Dr. Ramani Durvasula and Tina Swithin stress the importance of public accountability, support for victims, and a unified effort among advocacy groups. We also celebrate community resources like Genesis Women's Shelter & Support, which offer crucial pathways for women to escape abusive situations. This episode serves as a powerful call to action for equity and justice in family courts.
“This is for everyone. Everyone needs to learn how to identify the reg flags within the family court system and how to navigate this process, particularly in custody cases when you have very little support behind you,” begins Dr. Z. Joining her this week are Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, known as Dr. C, a coercive control educator and researcher, and Amy Polacko, an award-winning journalist and divorce coach. Both women, having survived domestic abuse, have turned their personal pain into a mission for change. Their newly released book, “Framed: Women in the Family Court Underworld,” shines a spotlight on the damaging impact of coercive control and systemic injustices women face in family court. Dr. C and Amy share their deeply personal stories that emphasize how their experiences—and those of many other women—demand attention, action, and change. They pull back the curtain on a court system that too often fails to protect women, allowing abusers to continue their control and manipulation tactics through legal and financial strategies. Beyond their individual stories, Dr. C and Amy tackle the broader issue of post-separation abuse and the emotional, psychological, and financial weight it carries for survivors. They question how society views romantic relationships, pushing for more awareness around coercive control and promoting healthier relationship dynamics for the future. This episode is both a validation for survivors and a rallying cry—how can we come together to support survivors and demand meaningful changes in the family court system? Quotes “This is the overriding reason we wrote this. Yes, we want to validate and support victims—absolutely. But we want the masses to read this. We want the masses to hear about Rachel Pickrel-Hawkins, and be pissed off, frankly. So, by the time they get to the call to action at the end of our book, they are committed to doing something about it because it's going to take more than just us in this world.” (09:08 | Amy Polacko) “By looking beyond the violent incident model and understanding what people often mix up is the idea that coercive control is invisible abuse. No, it's not. Intimidation is certainly not invisible. Stalking is not invisible. Someone calling you horrible names is not invisible. These are visible, tangible things, and once you're out of it, you realize, ‘Oh, that was abuse.'” (12:25 | Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola) “Women are damned if they do and damned if they don't in many ways. If you stand up for yourself, if you try to protect your children, you are penalized. There's this overwhelming feeling, along with the misogynistic tropes, that they should just go with the flow.” (42:27 | Amy Polacko) Links Framed: Women in the Family Court Underworld Book: https://narcfreepress.com/ https://amzn.to/3Tl95EW Please leave a review here: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/216871358-framed?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=uOOkkfQF8y&rank=1 Connect with Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola: https://www.instagram.com/dr.cocchiola_coercivecontrol/ Connect with Amy Polacko: https://www.instagram.com/freedomwarriortribe/ Mindfully Messy hoodies now available! https://www.drjaimezuckerman.com/store/p/mindfully-messy-hoodie https://www.drjaimezuckerman.com/ https://www.zgrouptherapy.com/ https://www.instagram.com/dr.z_psychologist/ https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.z_psychologist Get my FREE breathing exercise here: http://www.drjaimezuckerman.com/newsletter Register for my virtual workshops here: http://www.drjaimezuckerman.com/workshops Order my workbooks! http://www.drjaimezuckerman.com/books Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm
Have you ever learned from an expert in coercive control? Ever thought about the authoritarianism in a family structure? Maybe you or someone you know were married to a narcissist or knows of children being manipulated by an abusive parent. My latest guest, social worker Christine Cocchiola, is an expert on adult and child victims of coercive control. Dr. Christine Cocchiola has a doctorate in Social Welfare, is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and is a tenured Social Work professor. Dr. Cocchiola also has a brand-new book with co-author Amy Polacko called Framed: Women in the Family Court Underworld. It consists of 22 stories from survivors of coercive control and narcissistic abuse and what it was like for them and their families dealing with the legal system. Dr. Cocchiola's work helps combat what I think is an unrealized epidemic, which is people who are harmful and toxic to others. During our talk, we focused on what I believe is vitally important in understanding authoritarian and coercive control when a parent acts like a cult leader. Join me in this fascinating conversation! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Framed by the Family Court.In their book "Framed - Women in the Family Court Underworld ", Dr. Christine and Amy Polacko expose the disturbing realities within the family court system. In this episode, they discuss their new book FRAMED: Women in the Family Court Underworld which highlights the struggles of mothers facing coercive control and narcissistic abuse. Learn how abusers manipulate the system and why family court often fails to protect victims. Tune in for an eye-opening conversation that aims to inspire change and support those impacted by these injustices. For more episodes like this, hit that subscribe button on your favourite podcast platform. While you're there, please leave us a rating and a review if you enjoyed this episode. Nova xx And don't forget about our current competition!To be in the running to win one of 2 signed copies of my best-selling book 'Fake Love - Understanding and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse', all you have to do is share this podcast on your social media and tag my Instagram. @novas_narcissistabuse_recovery That's it! Closes 22nd September when I will announce the 2 lucky winners! And if you have something you would like me to talk about on the podcast, please email me at nova.pollard123@gmail.com and I will make sure I give you a big hello on that episode. I'm always after ideas! :) And FYI…. Please mention this podcast to receive a 10% discount on your counselling session with me. You can contact me to book an online appointment or book me to speak at your event on my website here You can purchase a copy of my book ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse' here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here Send us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee
Narcissism and Coercive Control In this episode, I speak with Dr. Christine M. Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW. Dr Christine is a Coercive Control Educator, Researcher & Survivor. She is a college professor teaching social work for the last 20 years and a social justice advocate for a local domestic violence agency, since the age of 19. Her expertise is in the areas of coercive control and the traumatic experiences of adult and child victims, diligently supporting these vulnerable populations. Dr. C., a Founding Member of the International Coercive Control Conference and a Board Member of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, has supported codifying coercive control, writing numerous policy briefs supporting these efforts. Dr Christine , together with Amy Polacko, are the Authors of the soon-to-be-released "Framed - Women in the Family Court Underworld". You can contact Dr Christine through her website hereFor more episodes like this, make sure you hit that subscribe button on your favourite podcast platform! While you're there, please leave us a rating and a review if you enjoyed this episode. NovaAnd FYI…. Please mention this podcast to receive a 10% discount on your counselling session with me. You can contact me to book an online session or book me to speak at your event on my website here You can purchase a copy of my book ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse' here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here And don't forget about our current competition!To be in the running to win one of 2 signed copies of my best-selling book 'Fake Love - Understanding and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse', all you have to do is share this podcast on your social media and tag my Instagram. @novas_narcissistabuse_recovery That's it! Closes 22nd September when I will announce the lucky winners!
We'd love your feedback! What resonated for you in this episode? What do you want more of?Our family court system continues to harm families on a daily basis. If you are a survivor of domestic violence, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse and share children with your ex-partner, you are likely experiencing this firsthand.But what can we do about it?We are creating an army of advocates who are passionate about creating massive changes within our larger systems. And today I have the honor of talking with two of the women on the front lines of this fight, Dr. Christine Cocchiola and Amy Polacko.In this episode, you are going to hear how and why their new book, Framed: Women in the Family Court Underworld was created and how it is going to be a necessary tool in this fight. You will get a sneak peek into this book as Dr. C and Amy share excerpts from the stories in the book and it will give you chills.This book is available for pre-order at the time of this release and it is extremely important that folks pre-order so that we can get this book to more of the people who need it. You can pre-order this book here: https://narcfreepress.com/If you want to help spread the word about this book, please take a look at how you can be a part of the book launch team.A few things you can do: Join our FB FRAMED Book Launch Team: FRAMED Facebook Book Launch TeamAdd yourself to our FRAMED email list and check for updatesLike our social media posts and share them. Ask others to follow us on social media.Write a review. Invite friends to our workshop: Know The Abuser's Playbook (datesFor more information and to register, click here.The Journey Back to You: Rewriting Your Story is a Transformative Retreat for Survivors of Relationship Abuse. Join us for a transformative two-day, in-person retreat designed to help you rewrite your story. This retreat is a refuge where you can connect with others who understand your journey and take steps toward reclaiming your narrative. Register for the September, 2024 in-person retreatPlease leave us a review! Reviews help the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest Enjoy some of our freebies! Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Guide to Decrease Your Child'...
Dr. Christine Cocchiola and Amy Polacko are back, and we couldn't be more excited! These two incredible guests are returning to share insights from their brand-new book, Framed: Women in the Family Court Underworld, now available for pre-order. The book sheds light on the systemic issues within the family court system, particularly how it affects women navigating through cases involving coercive control and post-separation abuse. In this episode, Amy and Dr. Christine share harrowing real-life stories (straight from their book), highlighting the deep-rooted misogyny and systemic flaws in the current judicial family court process. Featured topics and Golden Nuggets: The chilling realities of the family court system: where is the system failing? Coercive abuse and narcissistic abusers in family court What is needed to reform the family court system? **************************************** About this week's special guests: Dr. Christine Cocchiola and Amy Polacko Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW, is a Coercive Control Educator, Researcher, and survivor. She is a tenured college professor teaching social work for the last 20 years. She has been a social justice advocate since 19, volunteering for a local domestic violence/sexual assault agency. Her expertise is in coercive control and the traumatic experiences of adult and child victims, researching and developing training on these topics nationally and internationally. Amy Polacko is a Freedom Warrior - and is committed to helping women live life on their own terms during/after a toxic relationship or divorce. As a divorced single mom, she is passionate about coaching women one-on-one and founded the empowerment group Strong Savvy Women to provide support, inspiration, and guidance to single women. Amy is also an award-winning journalist who sheds light on women's issues including divorce, domestic abuse, coercive control, and singlehood. Framed: Women In the Family Court Underworld for more information and workshops! Framed: Women in the Family Court Underworld on Amazon Dr. Cocchiola's website: https://coercivecontrolconsulting.com Dr. Cocchiola's Clinician, Attorney, and Coach Training Amy's website: https://www.freedomwarrior.info/ Episodes mentioned featuring Amy Polacko and Dr. Christine Cocchiola: Divorce Decoded: Become the CEO of Your Divorce with Amy Polacko Busting the Top 5 Myths of Domestic Abuse with Amy Polacko Special Bonus Episode EMPOWERED: How a New Family Court Law is (and isn't) Helping Some Victims of IPV with Amy Polacko Get Wise to the Tricks and Traps of Toxic People: Avoiding Narcissists and Sociopaths in Your Life with Former Investigative Journalist and Divorce Coach, Amy Polacko The Anatomy of a Coercive Controller with Dr. Christine Cocchiola Domestic Abuse Part One: Understanding Coercive Control with Dr. Christine Cocchiola Domestic Abuse Part Two: Turning the Focus to Post-Separation Abuse with Dr. Christine Cocchiola **************************************** THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS: HEADSPACE Hello, Divorce & Beyond family! 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In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse Q&A, Brandon talks with Dr. Christine Cocchiola & Amy Polacko about their new and important book 'Framed: Women In The Family Court Underworld'. Our conversation centers around the struggles of mothers facing abuse in family court, with a focus on validating experiences through the reading of survivor stories and enacting change. Dr. Christine Cocchiola & Amy Polacko also give some personal insights and strategies for navigating family courts, highlighting the importance of advocacy and education to create a more comprehensive approach in the legal system. To purchase Framed: Women In The Family Court Underworld, click here. To leave a review of Framed: Women In The Family Court Underworld on Goodreads, click here. To reach Dr. Christine Cocchiola, click here. To reach Amy Polacko, click here. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com To help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here. PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click Here The Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click Here Something Was Wrong | Click Here When Dating Hurts Podcast | Click Here If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.). To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse Q&A, Brandon talks with Dr. Christine Cocchiola & Amy Polacko about their new and important book 'Framed: Women In The Family Court Underworld'. Our conversation centers around the struggles of mothers facing abuse in family court, with a focus on validating experiences through the reading of survivor stories and enacting change. Dr. Christine Cocchiola & Amy Polacko also give some personal insights and strategies for navigating family courts, highlighting the importance of advocacy and education to create a more comprehensive approach in the legal system. To purchase Framed: Women In The Family Court Underworld, click here. To leave a review of Framed: Women In The Family Court Underworld on Goodreads, click here. To reach Dr. Christine Cocchiola, click here. To reach Amy Polacko, click here. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com To help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here. PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click Here The Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click Here Something Was Wrong | Click Here When Dating Hurts Podcast | Click Here If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.). To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA
On this episode, Irina speaks with clinician Dr. Christine Cocchiola and divorce coach Amy Polacko about their new book "Framed: Women in the Family Court Underworld." These coauthors describe the devastating consequences that many women experience when they try to leave their abusers and to protect their children during and after divorce. The podcast guests explain how courts often let coercive controllers run loose and what victims can do to stand up to physical, emotional, financial, legal, and other forms of abuse. The conversation delves into both the need for education on coercive control and legislative change to address its consequences worldwide. Please join our discussion for your own sake and that of loved ones who are current or potential victims! SOTI ep. 17 “How to Survive Divorce and Break-ups with Amy Polacko”Pre-ordering info for "Framed: Women in the Family Court Underworld" bookFacebook book launch groupDr. Christine Cocchiola's websiteAmy Polacko's websiteJoan S. Meyer (GW Law) & Sean Dickson's study "Mapping Gender: Shedding Empirical Light on Family Courts' Treatment of Cases Involving Abuse and Alienation"Amy Polacko's Newsweek article "My Ex-Husband Won't Let Me Vaccinate Our Son"Amy Polacko's Ms. Magazine article "Lawyers Say Catherine Kassenoff's Case--and Thousands of Others--Violate U.S. Constitutional Right to Due Process" Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Diving back into the archive for a replay of Part Two of our special two-part episode with Dr. Christine Cocchiola, a leading expert in Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) that delves into some of the most insidious forms of abuse: coercive control and post-separation abuse. In part two of this special two-part episode on Domestic Abuse, we delve deeper into a form of intimate partner violence (IPV) that's gaining attention in the media through high-profile cases like those of Kim Kardashian and Kanye West, and Johnny Depp and Amber Heard: Post-Separation Abuse. Dr. Christine Cocchiola, a survivor and advocate, returns to further our understanding of this often covert and insidious form of abuse. While physical abuse is more overt and recognizable, Post-Separation Abuse encompasses tactics of coercive control and emotional manipulation that can continue to affect victims long after a relationship has ended. In part one, Dr. Cocchiola explored coercive control extensively. Now, she educates us on the varied manifestations of Post-Separation Abuse and highlights its dangers, emphasizing the need for awareness and support for those trapped in this destructive cycle. *** One note, as this is an archive episode, some of the links in the episode may have changed or no longer be in use. For more information on Dr. Christine, visit her website at https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/ *** ********** About this week's special guest: Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, a Coercive Control Advocate, Educator, Researcher, & Survivor has been dedicated to the field of intimate partner violence since her late teens, beginning her career at a local umbrella agency where she continues to volunteer. Dr. Cocchiola is a tenured professor at a Connecticut Community College and an adjunct instructor at NYU, teaching in the Social Work field for over 20 years. Her expertise is in the areas of intimate partner violence including child abuse and trauma, developing and presenting workshops on these topics, both nationally and internationally. She is a Founding Member of the International Coercive Control Conference and on the Board of the National Coalition Against Domestic. Dr. Cocchiola has a small private practice serving individuals and families. Additional Resources from Dr. Christine Cocchiola: Ms. Magazine quoted: https://msmagazine.com/2021/10/29/maid-netflix-review-emotional-abuse-coercive-control-domestic-violence/ Co-authored an article on Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/invisible-chains/202201/its-post-separation-legal-abuse-not-high-conflict-divorce Co-authored an article on Domestic Shelters.org: https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/children-and-domestic-violence/post-separation-abuse-harms-children Find our more about Dr. Christine Cocchiola at https://coercivecontrolconsulting.com ********************** THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSOR: dtour.life is an easy to navigate system that finally brings much needed technology to an inefficient system. Spouses and family law professionals can now collect the endless data, manage the piles of documents, explore various settlements, detail budgets and most importantly, collaborate with the entire team with a single click. 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Diving back into the archive for a replay of our special two-part episode with Dr. Christine Cocchiola, a leading expert in Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) that delves into some of the most insidious forms of abuse: coercive control and post-separation abuse. Abuse between intimate partners comes in many forms. All are destructive, but some are so insidious and pervasive that they are incredibly common, yet vastly unknown by the public and often, in fact, by the victims themselves. With physical violence and abuse, it is very easy to identify that behavior is abusive, but when it comes to coercive control and emotional abuse, it is much harder to identify. Dr. Christine Cocchiola, a survivor herself, is dedicated to educating, supporting and advocating for others suffering in this horrible cycle of abuse. In this episode, you will learn the signs to look for when coercive control is an issue, strategies to extricate yourself and what we as a society need to do to protect victims and stop abusers. Return on Thursday for Part Two where Dr. Cocchiola discusses the increasing awareness of another form of IPV, Post-Separation Abuse, which is increasingly in the headlines with the ongoing high profile cases of Kim Kardashion and Kanye West and the Johnny Depp and Amber Heard trial. *** One note, as this is an archive episode, some of the links in the episode may have changed or no longer be in use. For more information on Dr. Christine, visit her website at https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/ *** ********** About this week's special guest: Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, a Coercive Control Advocate, Educator, Researcher, & Survivor has been dedicated to the field of intimate partner violence since her late teens, beginning her career at a local umbrella agency where she continues to volunteer. Dr. Cocchiola is a tenured professor at a Connecticut Community College and an adjunct instructor at NYU, teaching in the Social Work field for over 20 years. Her expertise is in the areas of intimate partner violence including child abuse and trauma, developing and presenting workshops on these topics, both nationally and internationally. She is a Founding Member of the International Coercive Control Conference and on the Board of the National Coalition Against Domestic. Dr. Cocchiola has a small private practice serving individuals and families. Additional Resources from Dr. Christine Cocchiola: Ms. Magazine quoted: https://msmagazine.com/2021/10/29/maid-netflix-review-emotional-abuse-coercive-control-domestic-violence/ Co-authored an article on Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/invisible-chains/202201/its-post-separation-legal-abuse-not-high-conflict-divorce Co-authored an article on Domestic Shelters.org: https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/children-and-domestic-violence/post-separation-abuse-harms-children Find our more about Dr. Christine Cocchiola at https://coercivecontrolconsulting.com ********************** THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSOR: dtour.life is an easy to navigate system that finally brings much needed technology to an inefficient system. Spouses and family law professionals can now collect the endless data, manage the piles of documents, explore various settlements, detail budgets and most importantly, collaborate with the entire team with a single click. 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Brandon. talks with Dr. Christine Cocchiola (LCSW) about who is the perfect prey for a toxic narcissist, post separation abuse, and how an abuser uses coercive control within the court system. Plus they discuss, schema therapy, the enneagram, subjugation, Evan Stark, cognitive dissonance, subjugation, counter parenting, and much more. ***The views and opinions expressed by guests on our podcast, do not necessarily reflect the official policy, views, and opinions of the podcast. Please do no use the podcast as a replacement for therapy.*** Dr. Christine Cocchiola's website can be found at https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/ If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com To help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here. PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click Here The Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click Here Something Was Wrong | Click Here If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.). To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Do you have a story you'd like to share on TWTDNH or are you a subject matter expert who would like to shed light on any of the topics I cover? Shoot me a message! Today we are joined by Dr. Christine Cocchiola, a clinician and coach specializing in the traumatic experiences of adult and child victims of coercive control. With expertise that goes beyond individual cases, Christine focuses on the broader impact of coercive control on children and the importance of education in preventing generational trauma from this insidious form of abuse. Listen in to learn about the characteristics of coercive controllers, how they choose and manipulate their victims, and more.You can find show notes, resources and more: https://tinyurl.com/5n6mjfxu
Dr. Christine Cocchiola, a leading expert on coercive control, joins me again to discuss the tragic abuse coercive controllers exert on their children and how protective parents can navigate this difficult situation. Dr. Cocciola also has fantastic resources for protective parents, coaches, advocates, and attorneys. This is a must-listen episode for many parents who are co-parenting with a coercive controller. Dr. Cocchiola's Website Perfect Prey Podcast Protective Parenting Program Where is Your Line? Love is not Control Coach and Ally Training Dr. Cocchiola Instagram
Living with a manipulative parent who exercises coercive control can be a silent struggle for children. Dr. Christine Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW, a clinician and social work professor, joins Sandra Fava to highlight the profound consequences of parent-on-parent abusive relationships on a family. They detail the often unexpected and counterintuitive responses that can manifest for children as coping mechanisms when a parent is abusive. They also discuss the best ways to support a child who is experiencing this in their family life. With laws already changing in some states, Christine and Sandra speculate on how the court and legal systems could better respond to families and individuals victimized by coercive control abuse.
Dr. C interviews Dr. Christine Cocchiola about her vital work with survivors of coercive control. She discusses how people can unwittingly become trapped in coercive relationships, then discusses a multitude of ways to address it therapeutically. Check out Dr. Cocchiola's resources here: https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/ Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: https://aura.com/DrCarter Sign up for Dr. Carter's NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/subscribe/ Check out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website: https://survivingnarcissism.tv You can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter: @SNarcissism101 Instagram: @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness https://survivingnarcissism.tv/free-to-be-course/ This Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life https://survivingnarcissism.tv/this-is-me Dr. Carter's personal website: http://drlescarter.com/ Dr. Carter's other YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/drlescarter Bookstore: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/books-on-narcissism-surviving-narcissism/ If you are interested in online therapy, Dr. Carter has a sponsor who can assist. As the need is there, please seek the help you deserve: https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast We receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. We only recommend services that we trust.
Join me, your host Brandon Chadwick, as I sit down with the esteemed Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola to unpack the complex issue of coercive control within intimate relationships. By using the unsettling coercive control allegations by Olya Sharypova against tennis star Alexander Zverev as our backdrop, we navigate the crucial shift in terminology from domestic violence to coercive control, offering a more encompassing understanding of these toxic dynamics. Our conversation delves into the pervasive nature of coercive control across all levels of society, from the personal to the systemic. Explore with us the psychological underpinnings of coercive control, including trauma bonding, grooming, and the role of narcissism. Dr. Cocchiola and I dissect the multifaceted aspects of control and manipulation, emphasizing the critical need for education on the signs of unhealthy relationships and the importance of early boundary setting. We also touch upon the challenging landscape victims face within systems like family courts, which can further perpetuate cycles of abuse. *** CONTENT WARNING - Physical Abuse is discussed in this episode. **** Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola's website can be found by clicking here. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com To help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here. PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click Here The Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click Here Something Was Wrong | Click Here SUPPORT US BY SUPPORTING OUR SPONSOR: To receive 35% off Cozy Earth bedding, loungewear, and everything site wide, use the code “NAP” at Cozyearth.com If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.). To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Join me, your host Brandon Chadwick, as I sit down with the esteemed Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola to unpack the complex issue of coercive control within intimate relationships. By using the unsettling coercive control allegations by Olya Sharypova against tennis star Alexander Zverev as our backdrop, we navigate the crucial shift in terminology from domestic violence to coercive control, offering a more encompassing understanding of these toxic dynamics. Our conversation delves into the pervasive nature of coercive control across all levels of society, from the personal to the systemic. Explore with us the psychological underpinnings of coercive control, including trauma bonding, grooming, and the role of narcissism. Dr. Cocchiola and I dissect the multifaceted aspects of control and manipulation, emphasizing the critical need for education on the signs of unhealthy relationships and the importance of early boundary setting. We also touch upon the challenging landscape victims face within systems like family courts, which can further perpetuate cycles of abuse. *** CONTENT WARNING - Physical Abuse is discussed in this episode. **** Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola's website can be found by clicking here. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com To help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here. PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click Here The Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click Here Something Was Wrong | Click Here SUPPORT US BY SUPPORTING OUR SPONSOR: To receive 35% off Cozy Earth bedding, loungewear, and everything site wide, use the code “NAP” at Cozyearth.com If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.). To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA
Subscribe in a reader Learn more about Dr. Christine Cocchiola https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/ Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW is a Coercive Control Educator, Researcher & Survivor. She is a tenured college professor teaching social work for the last 20 years and has been a social justice advocate since the age of 19, volunteering for a local […] The post Coparenting with a narcissist – protecting your children – Dr. Christine Cocchiola and Tracy Malone appeared first on Narcissist Abuse Support.
This week's episode revisits a fan-favorite conversation about coercive control with the incredible Dr. Christine Coccihola. We explore how coercive control serves as the bedrock for a majority of domestic abuse cases, often manifesting in non-physical forms, and discuss the insidious nature of control, including its impact and how to get help if you are a victim. Whether you're revisiting this powerful episode or hearing it for the first time, Dr. Cocchiola's insights are invaluable in navigating the complexities of relationships. Listen to hear (or re-hear) this conversation about coercive control. Featured topics include: What is coercive control? The global impact of high-profile cases that revolve around coercive control DARVO: an acronym used to describe a common strategy of abusers How coercive controllers gain and retain control How to avoid coercive control and other abusive situations Learn more about Dr. Christine Cocchiola: Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW is a Coercive Control Advocate, Educator, Researcher & Survivor. Coercive Control, the foundation of most domestic abuse, is often non-physical with offenders using “power over” to abuse their victims psychologically, legally, financially, and sexually and where children are involved, use of the children as pawns. She is a college professor teaching social work at CT Community College for the last 20 years and also an adjunct instructor at NYU. Her expertise is in the areas of intimate partner violence, trauma, and child abuse, developing and presenting workshops on these topics both nationally and internationally. Christine, a Board Member of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, has supported policy codifying coercive control and has a small private practice, primarily serving victims and survivors of coercive control. She is the creator of the Protective Parenting Program, supporting protective mothers on their journey of healing their children. Resources & Links: Pre-order Kate's book “The D Word” and Grab Your Bonuses! Dr. Cocchiola's websiteDr. Cocchiola on InstagramDr. Cocchiola on FacebookDr. Cocchiola on TwitterDr. Cocchiola on LinkedInInstagram Live with Dr. Christine about Depp v HeardWhat Happens After You Leave Your Abusive Marriage? with Leanne Oaten Episode Link: http://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-244-coercive-control-with-dr-christine-cocchiola/ TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: SOBERLINK Proof. Protection. Peace of Mind. The Soberlink remote alcohol monitoring system comprises a portable breathalyzer with wireless technology for real-time results. With proven use as the leading choice in child custody cases since 2011, we are the only system that combines: Court admissibility in all 50 states Facial recognition Tamper detection Easy-to-read Advanced Reporting™ Trust the Experts in Remote Alcohol Monitoring Technology™ to support the best interests of the child in your Family Law cases. DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.
Dimming The Gaslight: Our Healing Journey From Narcissistic Abuse
Dr. Christine Cocchiola is a trauma and coercive control informed therapist who is here to talk about ways we can help our children with a toxic parent. We talk about common misconceptions a toxic parent uses to gaslight their kids, what our children go through to preserve relationships, and some not so comfortable realizations in regards to how we can help. For all things DTG including content and Merch, check here! Use code DTGMAC for 20% off your order now through 10/30/2023! Enjoy Dr. Cocchiola episode! DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we're talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dimming-the-gaslight/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dimming-the-gaslight/support
Have you left a relationship with a coercive controller?Is your child going between your home and the home of the coercive controller? What can you do about it, and how can you manage it both personally and in the court?Is your child exhibiting fear? Look for the hidden signs manifested in sadness, anger, high-achieving, or dissociating.These are some of the areas we talk about today in the Modern Divorce Podcast featuring Billie Tarascio and Dr. Christine Cocchiola, LCSW, DWS, a coercive control educator and social justice advocate. Dr. Cocchiola offers powerful advice and information about what to look for when it comes to domestic abuse and the harms inflicted onto both adult and child victims.Herself a survivor, she's had a successful career as a professor teaching social work for the last 20 years, she has been a social justice advocate since the age of 19, volunteering for a local domestic violence/sexual assault agency. Her expertise is in the areas of coercive control and the traumatic experiences of both adult and child victims, researching and developing training on these topics both nationally and internationally and supporting clients with her clinical expertise.
Her Empowered Divorce Episode 105 COERCIVE CONTROL AND ITS IMPACT ON WOMEN AND CHILDREN.EP 105 HOST: Beverly Price, Divorce & Empowerment Coach GUEST: Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, Coercive Control Advocate, Educator, Researcher, and head of Survivor Coercive Control Consulting, LLC SUMMARY: Coercive control is a form of domestic abuse that exerts power and control over victims, leaving lasting scars, especially on women and children who are the most vulnerable. This insidious pattern of behavior involves manipulation, isolation, intimidation, and surveillance, where abusers seek to dominate every aspect of their victims' lives. For women, this can lead to a profound erosion of self-esteem and independence, trapping them in a cycle of fear and dependency. Children who experience or witness coercive control within their homes can suffer from emotional trauma, which can affect their well-being and development. In this episode of Her Empowered Divorce, your Host, Beverly Price, talks to Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, Coercive Control Advocate, Educator, Researcher, survivor, founder, and CEO of Coercive Control Consulting, LLC. Together, they discuss what Coercive Control is, how it manifests in real life, and its impact on women and children.Divorce doesn't have to be a death sentence. With the right support and guidance, you can move through the process with knowledge, skills, and confidence. If you'd like to schedule a complimentary private consultation, reach out to Beverly at: https://beverly-price.as.me/Consultation. Visit https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/her-empowered-divorce/id1635143315 to access the entire archive of Her Empowered Divorce episodes, and while you're there, please subscribe, rate, and review our show! KEY TAKEAWAYS: What is Coercive Control? Coercive Control is harm inflicted on all humanity; it's all about exalting power over a person, and the most vulnerable are women and children. Coercive Control in a relationship encompasses many things, including psychological abuse, legal abuse, financial abuse, sexual abuse, use of the children, and separation abuse. Are there characteristics of an abuser that we could look out for? Yes, definitely! Alarming love, excess check-in talks and texts, using your vulnerabilities, lack of true authentic relationships, and not liking your friends. Whether you stay or leave an abusive partner, there is no shame in it, but when you stay, you should always keep “a clarity list” with you to remind you of the pattern of behaviors so that whenever you are in doubt, you don't diminish your pain. NOTABLE QUOTES:Just like all of us fall into line very quickly when we think someone has power over us, people in intimate relationships also fall into line and follow what they are expected to do. (Marie) The number one indicator of being in a relationship that is ‘Coercive controlling' is when someone uses your vulnerability against you. (Marie) All domestic abuse is Coercive Control; however, when someone exerts power and control physically, this is the most violent and deadly form because when you leave, the person can see it as abandonment, and they have to get revenge. (Marie)Victims and survivors are the strongest people there are. (Marie)If someone is trying to exert power and control over you, they are not healthy, and if they are doing that to you, they are...
This week's episode is the first of several that will air during October, Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Susan Guthrie welcomes returning guest Dr. Christine Cocchiola! Dr. Cocchiola previously joined Susan on episodes about Coercive Control and Post-Seperation Abuse. In this episode, Dr. Cocchiola shares the dark underpinnings of a coercive controller and how you can work to protect yourself and your children. Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW, is a Coercive Control Educator, Researcher, and survivor. She is a tenured college professor who has been teaching social work for the last 20 years. She has been a social justice advocate since she was 19, volunteering for a local domestic violence/sexual assault agency. Her expertise is in coercive control and the traumatic experiences of adult and child victims, researching and developing training on these topics nationally and internationally. Topics and Golden Nuggets include: Dr. Cocchiola provides a primer on coercive control The cause of characterological traits of a coercive controller Why it is important to understand the cycle of coercive control The role of being the protective parent How character traits of an abuser impact both the judicial process and, most importantly, further harm adult victims and survivors Some Golden Nugget tips for victims and words of wisdom: “You never have to carry shame for your experiences. Do what you need to do to protect yourself.” **************************************** About this week's special guest: Dr. Christine Cocchiola Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW, is a Coercive Control Educator, Researcher, and survivor. She is a tenured college professor who has been teaching social work for the last 20 years. She has been a social justice advocate since she was 19, volunteering for a local domestic violence/sexual assault agency. Her expertise is in coercive control and the traumatic experiences of adult and child victims, researching and developing training on these topics nationally and internationally. Most importantly, Dr. Cocchiola is a protective parent. Through her clinical expertise, research, and personal experiences, she understands the impact of coercive control on children. She coaches victims and survivors as they navigate parenting their harmed children. She has created programming to educate Allies, including protective parents, clinicians, coaches, and court professionals, on the experiences of children victims of the coercive controller. 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Parenting is hard. Parenting a child who is being coercively controlled by their other parent is on a whole different level. The misconception that domestic violence and narcissistic abuse only harms a parent and not the children living in it is putting children in harm every day.If you are a survivor of relationship abuse and coercive control, you will experience your own triggers as your ex-partner weaponizes your children against you and increases their attempts to destroy your agency as a parent and your relationship with your children.In this episode, Dr. Cocchiola and I discuss the larger context of coercive control, from a micro, meso, and macro perspective. We discuss how our children are being negatively affected by witnessing abuse and coercive control within the parental relationship and how they are negatively affected by being coercively controlled themselves. Dr. Cocchiola shares some examples of things you can do as a protective parent to help your child build their resilience and agency including ways to help them rewire their nervous system.Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW is a Coercive Control Educator, Researcher, Survivor, and Protective Parent. A college professor teaching social work for the last 20 years and has been a social justice advocate since the age of 19, volunteering for a local domestic violence/sexual assault agency. Her expertise is in the areas of coercive control and the traumatic experiences of both adult and child victims, researching and developing training on these topics both nationally and internationally.Most importantly, through her own clinical expertise as a trauma-trained therapist, research, and personal experiences, Dr. Cocchiola understands the impact that coercive control has on children. She coaches and supports victims and survivors as they navigate parenting their harmed children. She has created programming to educate protective parents and their allies, such as clinicians, coaches, and court professionals on the experiences of children, victims of the coercive controller.Dr. Cocchiola is a Founding Member of the International Coercive Control Conference and a Board Member of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. She has actively supported codifying coercive control, writing numerous policy briefs supporting these efforts.Where to find Dr. Cocchiola:Come join us, and others like you, for a mini retreat in Golden, Colorado on Thursday, October 5, 2023. The Journey Back to You is an opportunity to begin practicing the skills that will help you get back to you post-separation. Rediscover who you are again. Wake up each morning knowing you can find more joy and meaning each day. Knowing you are showing up and modeling authenticity and integrity for your children each day. We can't wait to see you there.
Dr. Christine Cocchiola, a trained therapist and social worker specializing in abusive relationships and coercive control, reveals it took decades for her to realize she was trapped in a toxic, controlling and abusive marriage for nearly 30 years. Watch and Subscribe to our YouTube Channel @NavigatingNarcissismPod Follow me on social: Instagram - @doctorramani Pod Instagram - @navigatingnarcissismpod Facebook - @doctorramani Twitter - @DoctorRamani YouTube: Dr. Ramani's YT - DoctorRamani I want to hear from you, too. Have a toxic topic you want me to explore? Email me at askdrramani@redtabletalk.com. I just might answer your questions on air. Guest Bio: Dr. Christine M. Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW is a Coercive Control Educator, Researcher & Survivor. She is a college professor teaching social work for the last 20 years and a social justice advocate for a local domestic violence agency, since the age of 19. Her expertise is in the areas of coercive control and the traumatic experiences of adult and child victims, diligently supporting these vulnerable populations. Dr. C., a Founding Member of the International Coercive Control Conference and a Board Member of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, has supported codifying coercive control, writing numerous policy briefs supporting these efforts. Guest Information: Website - https://coercivecontrolconsulting.com/ Instagram - @dr.cocchiola_coercivecontrol Twitter - @coercivecontrol This podcast should not be used as a substitute for medical or mental health advice. Individuals are advised to seek independent medical advice, counseling, and/or therapy from a healthcare professional with respect to any medical condition, mental health issue, or health inquiry, including matters discussed on this podcast. EXECUTIVE PRODUCERS Jada Pinkett Smith, Ellen Rakieten, Dr. Ramani Durvasula, Meghan Hoffman VP PRODUCTION OPERATIONS Martha Chaput CREATIVE DIRECTOR Jason Nguyen LINE PRODUCER Lee Pearce PRODUCER Matthew Jones, Aidan Tanner ASSOCIATE PRODUCER Mara De La Rosa ASSOCIATE CREATIVE PRODUCER Keenon Rush HAIR AND MAKEUP ARTIST Samatha Pack AUDIO ENGINEER Calvin Bailiff EXEC ASST Rachel Miller PRODUCTION OPS ASST Jesse Clayton EDITOR Eugene Gordon Eric Tome POST MEDIA MANAGER Luis E. Ackerman POST PROD ASST Moe Alvarez AUDIO EDITORS & MIXERS Matt Wellentin, Geneva Wellentin, VP, HEAD OF PARTNER STRATEGY Jae Trevits Digital MARKETING DIRECTOR Sophia Hunter VP, POST PRODUCTION Jonathan Goldberg SVP, HEAD OF CONTENT Lukas Kaiser HEAD OF CURRENT Christie Dishner VP, PRODUCTION OPERATIONS Jacob Moncrief EXECUTIVE IN CHARGE OF PRODUCTION Dawn ManningSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Learn about the 3-day, 12-hour training for mental health clinicians and attorneys working to support adult and child victims and survivors of coercive control offered by Dr. Christine Cocchiola, a licensed clinical social worker and intimate partner abuse advocate researching the topic of Coercive Control, including child maltreatment and trauma. Additional training options for coaches and those interested in guardian ad litem opportunities available. CE's pending.
Dr. Christine Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW and expert on coercive control, helps us understand how this type of control fits into the abuse landscape and how it effects its victims, including children of coercive controllers. Dr. Cocchiola explains current legislation and how you can get involved to change the laws that effect our family court systems.
Coercive control underlies most experiences of domestic violence and often manifests as an insidious pattern of manipulation that strips victims of their autonomy. It is also a form of child abuse that likely impacts 100% of children living with an abusive parent. In part 2 of our discussion on this topic, we unpack the impact of this form of psychological abuse upon children in the home where domestic violence occurs. Dr. Christine Cocchiola explains how children are entangled in the web of abusive behaviors through coercive control, the distinction between abuse and maltreatment, and how family court fails children through a lack of understanding and legislation to protect them. We also explore ACES as a means to evaluate childhood experiences of abuse and how women and children can heal from the trauma of domestic violence.Dr. Cocchiola is a Coercive Control Advocate, Researcher, Educator & Professor of Social Work, and a Survivor who has been dedicated to the field of intimate partner violence since the age of 19. Dr. Cocchiola is a tenured professor at a Connecticut Community College and an adjunct instructor at NYU, teaching in the Social Work Studies Program for over 20 years. This 2-part series on coercive control explores the origins of the term coercive control, the impact covert, non-physical forms of abuse have on both adults and children, the legislation related to domestic violence, and the importance of working with service providers who specialize in coercive control in abusive relationships.
Coercive control underlies most experiences of domestic violence and often manifests as an insidious pattern of manipulation that strips victims of their autonomy. Dr. Christine Cocchiola joins the podcast to break down what coercive control is, how to recognize it in abusive relationships, and how to find the support needed to heal the trauma. Dr. Cocchiola is a Coercive Control Advocate, Researcher, Educator & Professor of Social Work, and a Survivor who has been dedicated to the field of intimate partner violence since the age of 19. Dr. Cocchiola is a tenured professor at a Connecticut Community College and an adjunct instructor at NYU, teaching in the Social Work Studies Program for over 20 years. This 2-part series on coercive control explores the origins of the term coercive control, the impact covert, non-physical forms of abuse have on both adults and children, the legislation related to domestic violence, and the importance of working with service providers who specialize in coercive control in abusive relationships.
Today I welcome back Dr. Christine Cocchiola to discuss the importance of talking and educating about coercive control, domestic violence, and other abuses (legal, financial, and so on) to better understand, identify, and ultimately advocate for yourself, your children, or loved ones in family court. Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW is a Coercive Control Advocate, Educator, Researcher & Survivor. She is a full-time college professor teaching social work for the last 20 years in CT and also an adjunct instructor at NYU. Featured topics include: Coercive control can happen in any relationship or any environment (4:08) Most domestic violence is based on power and control (6:59) The lack of ratification of The Equal Rights Amendment and its effect on women - such as the fact that women cannot sue for violation of their rights (18:23) How to litigate within a family court system that is stacked against you (26:47) Why it is important to think like the abuser as well as be two steps ahead when going into a courtroom (33:44) Divorce attorneys need to understand and be attuned to the difference between victims and perpetrators (40:29) Learn more about Dr. Christine Cocchiola: Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW is a Coercive Control Advocate, Educator, Researcher & Survivor. She is a full-time college professor teaching social work for the last 20 years in CT and also an adjunct instructor at NYU. Her expertise is in the areas of coercive control and the traumatic experiences of both adult and child victims, developing and presenting workshops on these topics both nationally and internationally. Christine, a Board Member of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, has supported policy codifying coercive control and has a small private practice, primarily serving victims and survivors of coercive control. She is the creator of the Protective Parenting Program, supporting protective mothers on their journey toward healing their children. Resources & Links: Information may also be found at http://www.kateanthony.com/podcast/empowering-victims-to-have-a-voice-with-dr-christine-cocchiola Grit & Grace Coaching Program Dr. Cocchiola's website Dr. Cocchiola on Instagram Dr. Cocchiola on Facebook Dr. Cocchiola on Twitter Dr. Cocchiola on LinkedIn Dr. Cocchiola's past episode on Coercive Control ============================ DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: WORTHY The Divorce Survival Guide podcast is sponsored by Worthy. Worthy helps you get the most money possible for your diamond jewelry or luxury watch, fast and risk-free. Their experts do all the work for you, and their competitive auctions get you up to 3X what a local jeweler might offer in as little as 2 weeks. With Worthy, you're in control from start to finish. If your item doesn't sell for the price you want, Worthy sends it back to you at no cost, fully insured. And now for a limited time, you'll get an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for over $1,500. All you have to do is register at https://worthy.com/dsg-podcast. (See website for terms.) JOIN THE SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO FACEBOOK GROUP
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This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. The Latin root for the word “coercive” literally means to surround, encompass, restrain, confine, and so on. So what does “coercive control” look like in real life, you ask? Well, it could involve isolating someone away from friends and family, depriving them of basic human needs (food, water, etc.), humiliating them, managing someone else's finances, and the like. If it's a shitty way of controlling another human, like having an invisible chain wrapped around their ankles, it's coercive control. If you want a pop culture reference, look no further than Britney Spears' “Toxic” family usurping her finances and personal agency for her nearly 14-year conservatorship. But does it still feel abstract? Then you need to listen to today's episode, complete with special guest Dr. Christine Cocchiola, a coercive control advocate, researcher, educator, and survivor, (meaning she's able to speak on the subject from both personal and scholarly levels). During our talk, she breaks down how narcissism, shame, egos, and “perfect preys” play out with everyone from romantic partners to people in power, such as cult leaders. Are you perhaps being controlled by someone without even realizing it? Maybe! Could that be detrimental to your life! Absolutely! So tune in to find out. Also… Hear Ye, Hear Ye: The views and opinions expressed on A Little Bit Culty do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, group, club, organization, business individual, anyone or anything. Nobody's mad at you, just don't be a culty fuckwad. Other Links: Check out our lovely sponsors Join ‘A Little Bit Culty' on Patreon Get poppin' fresh ALBC Swag Support the pod and smash this link Cult awareness and recovery resources CREDITS: Executive Producers: Sarah Edmondson & Anthony Ames Production Partner: Citizens of Sound Producer: Will Retherford Senior Producer: Jess Tardy Writer: Mathias Rosenzweig Theme Song: “Cultivated” by Jon Bryant co-written with Nygel Asselin Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dr Christine Cocchiola talks to FiLiA Trustee Sally Jackson about the impact of coercive control on children and the Mother-Child relationship and how to heal together after abuse.Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW is a Coercive Control Advocate, Educator, Researcher & Survivor. She is a college professor teaching social work in the CT College System for the last 20 years and is also an adjunct instructor at NYU. Her expertise is in the areas of intimate partner violence, trauma, and child abuse, developing and presenting workshops on these topics both nationally and internationally. Christine, a Board Member of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, has supported policy codifying coercive control and has a small private practice, primarily serving victims and survivors of coercive control. She is the creator of the Protective Parenting Program, supporting protective mothers on their journey of healing their children.You can find more about her work on her website or follow her on Instagram.
Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse that includes a pattern of manipulation intended to control and diminish a victim by causing self-doubt, trust issues, decreased self-worth and a host of other trauma-inducing consequences. In this episode, Dr. Christine Cocchiola unpacks the complexities of gaslighting within domestic abuse by examining the character issues of those who gaslight, who they consider perfect prey, the red flags in a relationship, how to set boundaries and when to seek help. Dr. Cocchiola is a regularly featured guest on the show discussing the topic of coercive control. She is a Coercive Control Advocate, Researcher, Educator & Professor of Social Work, and a Survivor who has been dedicated to the field of intimate partner violence since the age of 19. Dr. Cocchiola is a tenured professor at a Connecticut Community College and an adjunct instructor at NYU, teaching in the Social Work Studies Program for over 20 years.
Empath And The Narcissist: Healing Guide from Abuse and PTSD
"...and these abusers, what their goal is, is again, to strip us of our autonomy. So as we keep giving, They keep taking, and so the boundary just keeps getting pushed and pushed and pushed and pushed.So then before you know what your car is being tracked, your computer's hacked. I mean, all of these technology things that happen that people don't even realize, you don't have to have access to someone's computer to hack their computer."What is coercive control? And how does the Narcissist demonstrate it? And How do we protect ourselves personally and systematically through law? Today I share a conversation with Dr. Christine CocchiolaFollow us on Instagram: @coercivecontrolisipvand DM @ravenscottshow to get your FREE How to Draw Powerful Boundaries WorkshopHere are some key moments:[10:07] Even the most astute of us can miss the signsWhat is coercive control? [12:12] We know that most domestic abuse is based on this coercive control and there's a pathology difference in abusers[13:57] Five states codifying, coercive control is a form of domestic violence or domestic abuse. Meaning there does not require physical bruising evidence, validating emotional abuse. We still have a lot of work to do! [14:15] Many victims are perfect prey [18:12] Evan Stark termed the phrase Coercive Control, in a book he wrote How Men Entrap Women[19:05]What is the Goal of the abuser? [21:21] "Abuse is a choice. And many of us have experienced trauma and we don't go on and abuse. "[28:32] What is Victim subjugation? Guest BioChristine is a DSW, LCSW and is a coercive control advocate, educator, researcher, and a survivor. She is a full-time college professor teaching social work for the last 20 years in Connecticut and also an adjunct instructor at NYU. Her expertise is in the areas of intimate partner, violence, trauma, and child abuse, developing. And presenting workshops on these topics, both nationally and internationally. As a board member of the national coalition against domestic violence. And has supported policy codifying, coercive control.And it has a small private practice, primarily serving victims and survivors of coercive control. She is the creator. Of the protective parenting program. Supporting protective mothers on their journey towards healing, their children. www.drcocchiola.comBetter Help : Empath get 10% off your first monthEmpath & The Narcissist Book : Claim How to Leave the Narcissist Workshop & Soul Alignment Masterclass with BONUS 2023 Astrology Horoscope: SHOP Read Blog and Subscribe to receive directly to your inbox. Ravenscott.showGET Unbroken con FREE ticket for Dec 13-17 EventMadhvi - Emotion Code FREE Inquiry CallMusic YouTube Library: Believe by Neffex
Empath And the Narcissist: Spiritual Healing with Human Design from Narcissistic Abuse & PTSD
"...and these abusers, what their goal is, is again, to strip us of our autonomy. So as we keep giving, They keep taking, and so the boundary just keeps getting pushed and pushed and pushed and pushed.So then before you know what your car is being tracked, your computer's hacked. I mean, all of these technology things that happen that people don't even realize, you don't have to have access to someone's computer to hack their computer."What is coercive control? And how does the Narcissist demonstrate it? And How do we protect ourselves personally and systematically through law? Today I share a conversation with Dr. Christine CocchiolaFollow us on Instagram: @coercivecontrolisipvand DM @ravenscottshow to get your FREE How to Draw Powerful Boundaries WorkshopHere are some key moments:[10:07] Even the most astute of us can miss the signsWhat is coercive control? [12:12] We know that most domestic abuse is based on this coercive control and there's a pathology difference in abusers[13:57] Five states codifying, coercive control is a form of domestic violence or domestic abuse. Meaning there does not require physical bruising evidence, validating emotional abuse. We still have a lot of work to do! [14:15] Many victims are perfect prey [18:12] Evan Stark termed the phrase Coercive Control, in a book he wrote How Men Entrap Women[19:05]What is the Goal of the abuser? [21:21] "Abuse is a choice. And many of us have experienced trauma and we don't go on and abuse. "[28:32] What is Victim subjugation? Guest BioChristine is a DSW, LCSW and is a coercive control advocate, educator, researcher, and a survivor. She is a full-time college professor teaching social work for the last 20 years in Connecticut and also an adjunct instructor at NYU. Her expertise is in the areas of intimate partner, violence, trauma, and child abuse, developing. And presenting workshops on these topics, both nationally and internationally. As a board member of the national coalition against domestic violence. And has supported policy codifying, coercive control.And it has a small private practice, primarily serving victims and survivors of coercive control. She is the creator. Of the protective parenting program. Supporting protective mothers on their journey towards healing, their children. www.drcocchiola.comBetter Help : Empath get 10% off your first monthEmpath & The Narcissist Book : Claim How to Leave the Narcissist Workshop & Soul Alignment Masterclass with BONUS 2023 Astrology Horoscope: SHOP Read Blog and Subscribe to receive directly to your inbox. Ravenscott.showGET Unbroken con FREE ticket for Dec 13-17 EventMadhvi - Emotion Code FREE Inquiry CallMusic YouTube Library: Believe by NeffexMentioned in this episode:Offerings
As November is Family Court Awareness Month which closely follows on the heels of Domestic Violence Awareness month in October, Susan Guthrie, Esq. brings you a special Bonus Episode where the two topics are joined. Susan chats again with Investigative Journalist and Coach, Amy Polacko to shine a light on what the laws do and do not do to protect victims of intimate partner violence and coercive control, what has been done and what more needs to be done. Amy Polacko recently wrote a revealing article for Ms. Magazine entitled, "Empowered: Women Tell Family Court Judges of Experiences With Coercive Control Using New Domestic Abuse Law" that received a great deal of attention from women and survivors of domestic abuse. As outlined in the article, one year ago, Connecticut enacted Jennifers' Law, which added coercive control to the definition of domestic violence for those seeking relief, becoming one of only 5 states to pass such protections. Amy's article looks at how the law has impacted domestic violence victims since the passing of the law, highlighting the benefits but also the many shortcomings and difficulties in applying the law in a court of law. In this episode, Amy shares her insights from speaking directly with the women who have been in the legal trenches, those who continue to struggle with litigation abuse and some tips for managing if you find yourself in this dangerous situation. This is incredibly important information for everyone to hear as domestic violence rips About this week's special guest: Amy Polacko Amy Polacko is a Freedom Warrior - and is committed to helping women live life on their own terms during/after a toxic relationship or divorce. As a divorced single mom, she is passionate about coaching women one-on-one and founded the empowerment group Strong Savvy Women to provide support, inspiration, and guidance to single women. Amy is also an award-winning journalist who sheds light on women's issues including divorce, domestic abuse, coercive control, and singlehood. Her recent journalistic work has appeared in The Washington Post, Newsweek, NBC News THINK, and Ms. Magazine. After graduating from Columbia University's Graduate School of Journalism, Amy worked as a newspaper reporter for Newsday and was part of the Pulitzer Prize-winning team covering the TWA Flight 800 crash. She then transitioned to television journalism, working as a writer and producer in New York City. Amy was an award-winning on-air reporter in Fargo, ND, where she traveled to Kosovo for a series on the North Dakota National Guard, and in Philadelphia, where she covered the national D.C. Sniper story. She also headed up an investigative reporting unit in Albany, NY, where she uncovered consumer scams, crime, and government corruption as part of her I-Team Investigations -- one of which exposed a loophole in the state's sex offender registry. Amy has spoken publicly on women's issues, empowerment and entrepreneurship at Yale University, the Women's Forum in Ridgefield, CT, the Women's Center of Greater Danbury, CT, the Hayvn co-working space for women, the Believe Inspire Grow national empowerment organization for women, and many other groups both virtually and in person. Website: www.freedomwarrior.info Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/freedomwarriortribe/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/freedomwarriortribe/ Also mentioned in this episode: Dr. Christine Cocchiola's Episodes: Domestic Abuse Part One: Understanding Coercive Control with Dr. Christine Cocchiola on Divorce & Beyond #237 Domestic Abuse Part Two: Turning the Focus to Post-Separation Abuse with Dr. Christine Cocchiola on Divorce & Beyond #238 Tina Swithin Episodes: How One Mom‘s Battle is Changing the Face of High Conflict Divorce with Tina Swithin on Divorce & Beyond #206 The Incredible Tale of One Mom's Successful 10-Year Battle to Be Free of a Narcissist with Tina Swithin on Divorce & Beyond #257 Get Tina's Book: Divorcing a Narcissist: One Mom's Battle CT Protective Moms: https://www.connecticutprotectivemoms.org/ Tindler Swindler Bad Vegan Maid If you want to see the video version of the podcast episodes they are available on The Divorce & Beyond YouTube Channel! 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Dr. Christine Cocchiola returns to the show to talk about coercive control and its impact on children. Dr. Cocchiola's goal, and the goal of this episode, is to help you create a more secure environment for your child. Divorcing an abuser is hard, but while you are going through this really tumultuous time, you can still show your children a path to freedom. Yes, it's hard work. Perhaps it's the hardest work you will ever do, but you can reignite the attachment you have always had with your child and be their saving grace too. Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW is a Coercive Control Advocate, Educator, Researcher & Survivor. She is a full-time college professor teaching social work for the last 20 years in CT and also an adjunct instructor at NYU. Her expertise is in the areas of coercive control and the traumatic experiences of both adult and child victims, developing and presenting workshops on these topics both nationally and internationally. Show Highlights Coercive control is a pattern of behavior and it can be covert or overt. It is when one person wants to retain power and control over another (4:55) Coercive control is the foundation of most domestic abuse (5:17) If your spouse is abusing you, your child is a victim of abuse too. Children learn how to regulate their behavior to appease an abusive parent. (11:50) You have to be actively working to create a strong foundation so your child clearly knows you are the calm and safe parent (27:21) Abuse is a choice, and there is no excuse for it (41:26) Dr. Cocchiola answers, “Do coercive controllers have the ability to love their children?” (43:44) Learn more about Christine: Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW is a Coercive Control Advocate, Educator, Researcher & Survivor. She is a full-time college professor teaching social work for the last 20 years in CT and also an adjunct instructor at NYU. Her expertise is in the areas of coercive control and the traumatic experiences of both adult and child victims, developing and presenting workshops on these topics both nationally and internationally. Christine, a Board Member of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, has supported policy codifying coercive control and has a small private practice, primarily serving victims and survivors of coercive control. She is the creator of the Protective Parenting Program, supporting protective mothers on their journey toward healing their children. Resources & Links: Information and resources may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/protective-parenting-with-dr-christine-cocchiola Dr. Cocchiola's website Dr. Cocchiola on Instagram Dr. Cocchiola on Facebook Dr. Cocchiola on Twitter Dr. Cocchiola on LinkedIn Dr. Cocchiola's past episode on Coercive ControlThe Protective Parenting ProgramSurviving the Holidays with Michelle Dempsey-MultackCo-parenting During the Holidays, During a Pandemic with Michelle Dempsey-Multack TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: THE REVISED SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO? PROGRAM An online coaching program designed to help you make the right decision about your marriage...once and for all. In this groundbreaking online coaching program, you'll unlock the support, education and deep transformational work you need to finally answer to your most burning question: should I stay or should I go? JOIN THE SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO FACEBOOK GROUP
In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome back Christine Cocchiola (Instagram @coercivecontrolisipv) for an enlightening and emotional interview, starting with a letter from an abusive parent to a child, and getting into how our children are affected by the dynamic in a psychologically abusive home.Christine also talks about specific ways to handle when a child or teenager comes back from visiting the other parent, as well as what to do when kids act abusively towards you, and lots more!Remember, if you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.Recorded January 18th, 2022
Coercive control underlies most experiences of domestic violence and often manifests as an insidious pattern of manipulation that strips victims of their autonomy. It is also a form of child abuse that likely impacts 100% of children living with an abusive parent. In part 2 of our discussion on this topic, we unpack the impact of this form of psychological abuse upon children in the home where domestic violence occurs. Dr. Christine Cocchiola explains how children are entangled in the web of abusive behaviors through coercive control, the distinction between abuse and maltreatment, and how family court fails children through a lack of understanding and legislation to protect them. We also explore ACES as a means to evaluate childhood experiences of abuse and how women and children can heal from the trauma of domestic violence.Dr. Cocchiola is a Coercive Control Advocate, Researcher, Educator & Professor of Social Work, and a Survivor who has been dedicated to the field of intimate partner violence since the age of 19. Dr. Cocchiola is a tenured professor at a Connecticut Community College and an adjunct instructor at NYU, teaching in the Social Work Studies Program for over 20 years. This 2-part series on coercive control explores the origins of the term coercive control, the impact covert, non-physical forms of abuse have on both adults and children, the legislation related to domestic violence, and the importance of working with service providers who specialize in coercive control in abusive relationships.
We are talking about a complex and insidious topic this week: coercive control. Dr. Christine Cocchiola, a Coercive Control Advocate, Educator, Researcher, and Survivor, shares her incredible wisdom with us. She explains how coercive control is the foundation of most domestic abuse and is often non-physical with offenders using “power over” to abuse their victims psychologically, legally, financially, and sexually. Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola is a Board Member of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, has supported policy codifying coercive control, and has a small private practice, primarily serving victims and survivors of coercive control. She is also the creator of the Protective Parenting Program, supporting protective mothers on their journey to healing their children. Show Highlights What is coercive control? Why Depp v Heard is a case study in coercive control (3:50) When coercive controllers begin to lose control, the number one thing they seek is revenge (8:50) The global impact of high-profile cases that revolve around coercive control (13:22) DARVO: an acronym used to describe a common strategy of abusers (24:16) How coercive controllers gain and retain control - what are their patterns? (28:14) The goal of the abuser is to wear away at your autonomy (29:43) How to avoid coercive control and other abusive situations or leave an abusive relationship (44:35) The legislation and criminalization of coercive control (49:45) Learn more about Dr. Cocchiola: Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW is a Coercive Control Advocate, Educator, Researcher & Survivor. Coercive Control, the foundation of most domestic abuse, is often non-physical with offenders using “power over” to abuse their victims psychologically, legally, financially, and sexually and where children are involved, use of the children as pawns. She is a college professor teaching social work at CT Community College for the last 20 years and also an adjunct instructor at NYU. Her expertise is in the areas of intimate partner violence, trauma, and child abuse, developing and presenting workshops on these topics both nationally and internationally. Christine, a Board Member of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, has supported policy codifying coercive control and has a small private practice, primarily serving victims and survivors of coercive control. She is the creator of the Protective Parenting Program, supporting protective mothers on their journey of healing their children. Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/coercive-control-with-dr-christine-cocchiola Dr. Cocchiola's website Dr. Cocchiola on Instagram Dr. Cocchiola on Facebook Dr. Cocchiola on Twitter Dr. Cocchiola on LinkedIn Instagram Live with Dr. Christine about Depp v Heard What Happens After You Leave Your Abusive Marriage? with Leanne Oaten THE M3ND PROJECT The M3ND Project's mission is to bring clarity and validation to victims and survivors and to provide tools and resources for those who are responding to abuse. Annette Oltmans founded The M3ND Project coming out of her own experience as a survivor of emotional abuse and double abuse and after years of researching academic materials and personally interviewing hundreds of abuse survivors, therapists, and faith leaders. M3ND does this by providing various educational resources and training courses. The M3ND Project has three courses available: One for Victims and Survivors, One for Responders and Advocates, and The 3rd for Therapists seeking CEUs. The M3ND Project's Comprehensive Training Curriculum provides deep instruction on psychological abuse, double abuse, complex trauma, how to identify your own trauma and whether you are being abused, and the best protocols for responding to victims and those who cause harm. For course details and to register visit: https://kateanthony.com/mend JOIN THE SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO FACEBOOK GROUP
Coercive control underlies most experiences of domestic violence and often manifests as an insidious pattern of manipulation that strips victims of their autonomy. Dr. Christine Cocchiola joins the podcast to break down what coercive control is, how to recognize it in abusive relationships, and how to find the support needed to heal the trauma. Dr. Cocchiola is a Coercive Control Advocate, Researcher, Educator & Professor of Social Work, and a Survivor who has been dedicated to the field of intimate partner violence since the age of 19. Dr. Cocchiola is a tenured professor at a Connecticut Community College and an adjunct instructor at NYU, teaching in the Social Work Studies Program for over 20 years. This 2-part series on coercive control explores the origins of the term coercive control, the impact covert, non-physical forms of abuse have on both adults and children, the legislation related to domestic violence, and the importance of working with service providers who specialize in coercive control in abusive relationships.
We are back with Domestic Abuse Part Two where Dr. Christine Cocchiola discusses the increasing awareness of another form of IPV, Post-Separation Abuse, which is increasingly in the headlines with the ongoing high profile cases of Kim Kardashion and Kanye West and the Johnny Depp and Amber Heard trial. Abuse between intimate partners comes in many forms. All are destructive, but some are so insidious and pervasive that they are incredibly common, yet vastly unknown by the public and often, in fact, by the victims themselves. With physical violence and abuse, it is very easy to identify that behavior is abusive, but when it comes to coercive control and emotional abuse, it is much harder to identify. Dr. Christine Cocchiola, a survivor herself, is dedicated to educating, supporting and advocating for others suffering in this horrible cycle of abuse. In Part One, Dr. Cocchiola discussed coercive control and she now helps us to understand the many faces of Post-Separation Abuse and the many dangers it presents. About this week's special guest: Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, a Coercive Control Advocate, Educator, Researcher, & Survivor has been dedicated to the field of intimate partner violence since her late teens, beginning her career at a local umbrella agency where she continues to volunteer. Dr. Cocchiola is a tenured professor at a Connecticut Community College and an adjunct instructor at NYU, teaching in the Social Work field for over 20 years. Her expertise is in the areas of intimate partner violence including child abuse and trauma, developing and presenting workshops on these topics, both nationally and internationally. She is a Founding Member of the International Coercive Control Conference and on the Board of the National Coalition Against Domestic. Dr. Cocchiola has a small private practice serving individuals and families. Additional Resources from Dr. Christine Cocchiola: Ms. Magazine quoted: https://msmagazine.com/2021/10/29/maid-netflix-review-emotional-abuse-coercive-control-domestic-violence/ Co-authored an article on Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/invisible-chains/202201/its-post-separation-legal-abuse-not-high-conflict-divorce Co-authored an article on Domestic Shelters.org: https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/children-and-domestic-violence/post-separation-abuse-harms-children Follow Dr. Cocchiola on Social: Linkedin: dr.christinemariecocchiola Twitter: @cmchiola dr.christinemariecocchiola Facebook: coercivecontrolisipv Instagram: coercivecontrolisipv Find our more about Dr. Christine Cocchiola and her Protective Parenting Program: https://www.dr.cocchiola.com and https://www.protectiveparentingprogram.com ********************** THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSOR: dtour.life is an easy to navigate system that finally brings much needed technology to an inefficient system. Spouses and family law professionals can now collect the endless data, manage the piles of documents, explore various settlements, detail budgets and most importantly, collaborate with the entire team with a single click. And we built this from the ground up with industry best practices and the most advanced security and encryption technology available. For more information and a special trial, visit: https://www.dtour.life/mostenguthrie ******************************************************************* MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST: SUSAN GUTHRIE®, ESQ., the creator and host of The Divorce and Beyond® Podcast, is nationally recognized as one of the top family law and divorce mediation attorneys in the country. Susan is a member of the Executive Council of the American Bar Association Section of Dispute Resolution and is the Founder of Divorce in a Better Way® which provides a curated selection of resources and information for those facing divorce and other life changes. Internationally renowned as one of the leading experts in online mediation, Susan created her Learn to Mediate Online® program and has trained more than 18,000 professionals in how to transition their practice online. Susan recently partnered with legal and mediation legend, Forrest "Woody" Mosten to create the Mosten Guthrie Academy which provides gold standard, fully online training for mediation and collaborative professionals at all stages of their career. ***************************************************************************** SPONSORSHIP OPPORTUNITIES AVAILABLE! 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This week our Host, Susan Guthrie is joined by Dr. Christine Cocchiola, and expert in Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) for an important two-part episode that delves into some of the most insidious forms of abuse: coercive control and post-separation abuse. Abuse between intimate partners comes in many forms. All are destructive, but some are so insidious and pervasive that they are incredibly common, yet vastly unknown by the public and often, in fact, by the victims themselves. With physical violence and abuse, it is very easy to identify that behavior is abusive, but when it comes to coercive control and emotional abuse, it is much harder to identify. Dr. Christine Cocchiola, a survivor herself, is dedicated to educating, supporting and advocating for others suffering in this horrible cycle of abuse. In this episode, you will learn the signs to look for when coercive control is an issue, strategies to extricate yourself and what we as a society need to do to protect victims and stop abusers. Return on Thursday for Part Two where Dr. Cocchiola discusses the increasing awareness of another form of IPV, Post-Separation Abuse, which is increasingly in the headlines with the ongoing high profile cases of Kim Kardashion and Kanye West and the Johnny Depp and Amber Heard trial. About this week's special guest: Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, a Coercive Control Advocate, Educator, Researcher, & Survivor has been dedicated to the field of intimate partner violence since her late teens, beginning her career at a local umbrella agency where she continues to volunteer. Dr. Cocchiola is a tenured professor at a Connecticut Community College and an adjunct instructor at NYU, teaching in the Social Work field for over 20 years. Her expertise is in the areas of intimate partner violence including child abuse and trauma, developing and presenting workshops on these topics, both nationally and internationally. She is a Founding Member of the International Coercive Control Conference and on the Board of the National Coalition Against Domestic. Dr. Cocchiola has a small private practice serving individuals and families. Additional Resources from Dr. Christine Cocchiola: Ms. Magazine quoted: https://msmagazine.com/2021/10/29/maid-netflix-review-emotional-abuse-coercive-control-domestic-violence/ Co-authored an article on Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/invisible-chains/202201/its-post-separation-legal-abuse-not-high-conflict-divorce Co-authored an article on Domestic Shelters.org: https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/children-and-domestic-violence/post-separation-abuse-harms-children Follow Dr. Cocchiola on Social: Linkedin: dr.christinemariecocchiola Twitter: @cmchiola dr.christinemariecocchiola Facebook: coercivecontrolisipv Instagram: coercivecontrolisipv Find our more about Dr. Christine Cocchiola and her Protective Parenting Program: https://www.dr.cocchiola.com and https://www.protectiveparentingprogram.com ********************** THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSOR: dtour.life is an easy to navigate system that finally brings much needed technology to an inefficient system. Spouses and family law professionals can now collect the endless data, manage the piles of documents, explore various settlements, detail budgets and most importantly, collaborate with the entire team with a single click. And we built this from the ground up with industry best practices and the most advanced security and encryption technology available. For more information and a special trial, visit: https://www.dtour.life/mostenguthrie ******************************************************************* MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST: SUSAN GUTHRIE®, ESQ., the creator and host of The Divorce and Beyond® Podcast, is nationally recognized as one of the top family law and divorce mediation attorneys in the country. Susan is a member of the Executive Council of the American Bar Association Section of Dispute Resolution and is the Founder of Divorce in a Better Way® which provides a curated selection of resources and information for those facing divorce and other life changes. Internationally renowned as one of the leading experts in online mediation, Susan created her Learn to Mediate Online® program and has trained more than 18,000 professionals in how to transition their practice online. Susan recently partnered with legal and mediation legend, Forrest "Woody" Mosten to create the Mosten Guthrie Academy which provides gold standard, fully online training for mediation and collaborative professionals at all stages of their career. ***************************************************************************** SPONSORSHIP OPPORTUNITIES AVAILABLE! If you would like to sponsor the show please reach out to us at divorceandbeyondpod@gmail.com for pricing and details!!! ********************************************************************* Remember to follow Susan Guthrie and THE DIVORCE AND BEYOND PODCAST on social media for updates and inside tips and information: Susan Guthrie on Facebook @susanguthrieesq Susan on Instagram @susanguthrieesq Susan on Twitter @guthrielaw If you want to see the video version of the podcast episodes they are available on The Divorce & Beyond YouTube Channel! Make sure to LIKE and SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss a single episode! Finally, we'd really appreciate it if you would give us a 5 Star Rating and tell us what you like about the show in a review - your feedback really matters to us! You can get in touch with Susan at divorceandbeyondpod@gmail.com. Don't forget to visit the webpage www.divorceandbeyondpod.com and sign up for the free NEWSLETTER to receive a special welcome video from Susan and more!! ***************************************************************************** DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN LEGAL ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM
Rhonda's guest today is Christine Cocchiola, Coercive Control Advocate, Educator, Researcher, & Survivor. Rhonda and Christine tackle the difficult topic of Coercive Control - what it is, and how it affects you and your children. There are many forms of abuse, including in your finances. Christine offers practical tactics and strategies to keep you safe and supported. About today's guest: Christine Cocchiola is a college educator and clinician in social work. She is an advocate for protective parents leaving an abusive relationship and/or trying to parent children who have grown up in the family dynamics of a coercive controller. Christine is a researcher of post separation abuse experiences of adult and child victims and currently obtaining her PHD at New York University. Ways to connect with Christine and access her resources: Website Instagram Your host is Rhonda Noordyk, CFEI, CDFA®, CEO of The Women's Financial Wellness Center Rhonda has dedicated her career to being an advocate for women and educating them on how financial strategies can impact their personal and professional success. Her work has shown women going through a divorce how to have a voice, be assertive, get results, be driven, and move forward with confidence. For Rhonda and her company, the Women's Financial Wellness Center, helping women isn't just about running the numbers. It's about asking the right questions, demystifying myths and biases around finances, and helping women walk in their power. Rhonda is passionate about helping her clients navigate a broken system and level the playing field so they can achieve success—pre, during, and post-divorce. Click HERE for a 30 minute Discovery Call!
Christine M. Cocchiola, LCSW, NYU DSW-c, 2022, is a Coercive Control Advocate, Educator, Researcher & Survivor. Coercive Control, the foundation of most domestic abuse, is often non-physical with offenders using “power over” to abuse their victims psychologically, legally, financially, and sexually and where children are involved, use of the children as pawns. She is a college professor teaching social work, her expertise in the areas of intimate partner violence, trauma, and child abuse, developing and presenting workshops on these topics both regionally and nationally and a guest on podcasts speaking about the experiences of victims in these relationships. Christine also has a private practice where she supports victims of domestic abuse. For more of Christine visit:https://www.instagram.com/coercivecontrolisipv/http://christinecocchiola.com/https://www.instagram.com/psychological_abuse_is_ipv/About Sarah K. RamseyJoin Sarah's FREE Facebook Group “Finding Love & Success After A Toxic Relationship” Before trying Sarah K Ramsey's programs her clients were super embarrassed because on the outside these women appeared to have it all. However, these women had a secret...they still felt mentally chained down by their toxic partner or parent.Most women think talk therapy is the only way to heal! Unfortunately, these women waste years trying to figure out how codependency works or rehashing their past in an office week after week trying to pick apart their childhoods. But, Sarah's clients aren't “most people.” They know overachievers aren't just looking to talk about their problem, they are looking for an action plan to SOLVE their problems!Check out this FREE Presentation where Sarah reveals how she does it! Check out what others have said about SarahContact Sarah
Brandon. talks with Christine Cocchiola (LCSW) about who is the perfect prey for a toxic narcissist, post separation abuse, and how an abuser uses coercive control within the court system. Plus they discuss, schema therapy, the enneagram, subjugation, Evan Stark, cognitive dissonance, subjugation, counter parenting, and much more. ***The views and opinions expressed by guests on our podcast, do not necessarily reflect the official policy, views, and opinions of the podcast. Please do no use the podcast as a replacement for therapy.*** Christine Cocchiola's website can be found at http://christinecocchiola.com/ and her social media accounts can be found by clicking on the platform name - Instagram - Facebook - Twitter Thank you to our sponsor "Operator". Follow “Operator” on Apple Podcasts, Amazon Music, or you can listen early and ad-free by subscribing to Wondery Plus in Apple Podcasts or the Wondery App. Thank you to our sponsor Bloomers Trading Co. Bloomers Trading Co is known worldwide for their like-real, durable holiday and Christmas garlands and if you order before November 20th, our listeners will receive 10% off. Head over to www.bloomerstradingco.com now as these always sell out fast and I don't want you to miss out this holiday season. Thank you to our sponsor BETTERHELP. If you need online counseling from anywhere in the world, please do go to https://www.betterhelp.com/nap Get started today and enjoy 10% off your first month. Thank you to our sponsor Tru Niagen. Tru Niagen is a supplement that's clinically proven to boost N-A-D levels, an essential coenzyme required for cellular energy and repair. Add more vitality to your life today, with Tru Niagen. Right now, new customers can save 10% on their first purchase by going to https://TruNiagen.com/nap and use code nap. If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. A big thanks to Apple Podcasts, to find our show there, click here. To listen to the Toxic Workplace Podcast, click here. To download our poster, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Join our Tiktok at https://www.tiktok.com/@narcissistapocalypse If you want to be a guest on our show, go to https://narcissistapocalypse.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Brandon. talks with Christine Cocchiola (LCSW) about who is the perfect prey for a toxic narcissist, post separation abuse, and how an abuser uses coercive control within the court system.
What is financial abuse, and why do abusers use this tactic? How does this cause mental health issues? Join guest expert Christine Cocchiola, tenured college educator in the field of social work where she explains how financial abuse is often part of a larger, new term known as coercive control. Finally, listen to how to better equip yourself, how to remove it, and prevent this type of control from happening to you or your family.If you enjoy this podcast, please consider leaving a review so others can find this, subscribe to hear more and share this podcast with other amazing women.Connect with Julina Ogilvie:Website- principlewealthpartners.com/teamEmail- jogilvie@principlewealthpartners.comFacebook- https://www.facebook.com/principlewealthpartnersLinkedIn- @julinaogilvieThe information provided is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute investment advice and it should not be relied on as such. The statements and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the author. PWP cannot guarantee the accuracy or completeness of any statements or data. For current PWP information, please visit the Investment Adviser Public Disclosure website at www.adviserinfo.sec.gov by searching with PWP's CRD #290180
Christine Cocchiola, LCSW, a return guest on Slam the Gavel discusses Post Separation Abuse and how the courts and Legislation have Cognitive Dissonance as they don't want to believe Coercive Control exists. Major discussion on Compound Trauma and the article, "Welcome to Holland," written by Emily Pearl Kingsley which can be related to Coercive Control that leads to Post Separation Abuse before and after leaving an abusive relationship. "The power to control," states Christine. is what it comes down to as 50% of all women and children are homeless due to leaving Coercive Controlling relationships while Post Separation Abuse can occur in a relationship before, during and after. Not only does this damage the Target Parent, but especially the children. Christine asks, "how would you treat a child with a physical wound?" Positive coping skills for parents and their children are extremely helpful. We discussed Legislation, Ty's Law in Colorado HB 21-1099, Kyra's Law in New York A05398, Kaden's Law in Pennsylvania SB 868 and Jennifers' Law in Connecticut 1091 SB, proposed by Alex Kasser. To reach Christine Cocchiola: www.christinecocchiola.com dismantlingfamilycourtcorruption.com Music provided by: mictechmusic@yahoo.com https://www.buymeacoffee.com/maryannpetri
Christine Cocchiola, LCSW, a return guest on Slam the Gavel discusses Post Separation Abuse and how the courts and Legislation have Cognitive Dissonance as they don't want to believe Coercive Control exists. Major discussion on Compound Trauma and the article, "Welcome to Holland," written by Emily Pearl Kingsley which can be related to Coercive Control that leads to Post Separation Abuse before and after leaving an abusive relationship. "The power to control," states Christine, is what it comes down to as 50% of all women and children are homeless due to leaving Coercive Controlling relationships while Post Separation Abuse can occur in a relationship before, during and after. Not only does this damage the Target Parent, but especially the children. Christine asks, "how would you treat a child with a physical wound?" Positive coping skills for parents and their children are extremely helpful. We discussed Legislation, Ty's Law in Colorado HB 21-1099, Kyra's Law in New York A05398, Kaden's Law in Pennsylvania SB 868 and Jennifers' Law in Connecticut 1091 SB, proposed by Alex Kasser.To reach Christine Cocchiola: www.christinecocchiola.comdismantlingfamilycourtcorruption.comMusic provided by: mictechmusic@yahoo.com
On this episode of the en(gender)ed podcast, our guest is Christine Cocchiola, a licensed Clinical Social Worker and a tenured professor at a Connecticut community college, teaching in the Pre-Social Work Program for over 18 years. Christine began her career in social work as Certified Domestic Violence Sexual Assault Counselor for Safe Haven of Greater Waterbury at the age of 19 where she remains a volunteer today. She is currently a doctorate candidate in Clinical Social Work at NYU studying coercive control. We speak with Christine today about her research on coercive control, the impact that this abuse has on adult and child victims, and the advocacy and systems reform that she supports in order to generate greater accountability for abuse. During our conversation, Christine and I referenced the following resources: Why Christine prefers the term "domestic abuse" instead of "domestic violence" in order to reduce reliance on the violent-incident model The difference between "coercive control" and "situational violence" The importance of calling "MRA" members, "male supremacists"--the sex/gender equivalent of "white supremacists" and not create a false equivalence between a systemically oppressed and unequal group and one with structural privilege Susan Weitzman's book, Not to People Like Us: Hidden Abuse in Upscale Marriages An example of terroristic misogyny where gunman kills ex-girlfriend for allegedly not getting an invite to birthday party and why gun violence reform needs to address the root cause of sexism and misogyny Christine's testimony in support of "Jennifer's Law" for the Connecticut State Legislature --- Thanks for tuning in to the en(gender)ed podcast! Be sure to check out our en(gender)ed site and follow our blog on Medium. Join our feminist community of survivors, advocates and allies! Consider donating because your support is what makes this work sustainable. Please also connect with us on Twitter, Instagram and Facebook. Don't forget to subscribe to the show!
Christine Cocchiola, LCSW is a tenured professor at a community college teaching in the Human Services/Pre-Social Work Studies Program for over 19 years. Christine began her career in social work by becoming a Certified Domestic Violence Sexual Assault Counselor for Safe Haven of Greater Waterbury at the age of 19 where she remains a volunteer. Her expertise is in the area of intimate partner violence, trauma and child abuse and neglect. she has developed various training on these topics, presenting to agencies statewide, regionally and nationally. Ms. Cocchiola is a 2022 candidate for a Doctorate in Social Welfare, attending New York University (NYU) where she teaches as an adjunct instructor; her Capstone Project and publications are focused on Intimate Partner Violence, specifically on Coercive Control and the impact that this abuse has on adult and child victims. She has been educating on the topic of Coercive Control, Post Separation Abuse, The Trauma Bond and Cognitive Dissonance and is actively involved in supporting Legislation that will codify Coercive Control as part of Domestic Violence, creating a policy brief that may be used by sponsors of such bills. Ms. Cocchiola has a private practice serving adolescents, families and couples and is a divorce mediator. We discussed the Social Justice issues In Connecticut, post separation abuse and legal abuse. Christine suggests to contact legislation for Ty's Law in Colorado HB 21-1099, Kyra's Law in New York A05398, Kaden's Law in Pennsylvania SB868 and especially Jennifers' Law in Connecticut 1091 SB, proposed by Alex Kasser. To Reach Christina:www.christinecocchiola.com dismantlingfamilycourtcorruption.com Music Provided by: mictechmusic@yahoo.com https://www.buymeacoffee.com/maryannpetri
Christine Cocchiola, LCSW is a tenured professor at a community college teaching in the Human Services/Pre-Social Work Studies Program for over 19 years. Christine began her career in social work by becoming a Certified Domestic Violence Sexual Assault Counselor for Safe Haven of Greater Waterbury at the age of 19 where she remains a volunteer. Her expertise is in the area of intimate partner violence, trauma and child abuse and neglect. she has developed various training on these topics, presenting to agencies statewide, regionally and nationally. Ms. Cocchiola is a 2022 candidate for a Doctorate in Social Welfare, attending New York University (NYU) where she teaches as an adjunct instructor; her Capstone Project and publications are focused on Intimate Partner Violence, specifically on Coercive Control and the impact that this abuse has on adult and child victims. She has been educating on the topic of Coercive Control, Post Separation Abuse, The Trauma Bond and Cognitive Dissonance and is actively involved in supporting Legislation that will codify Coercive Control as part of Domestic Violence, creating a policy brief that may be used by sponsors of such bills. Ms. Cocchiola has a private practice serving adolescents, families and couples and is a divorce mediator. We discussed the Social Justice issues In Connecticut, post separation abuse and legal abuse. Christine suggests to contact legislation for Ty's Law in Colorado HB 21-1099,Kyra's Law in New York A05398, Kaden's Law in Pennsylvania SB868 and especially Jennifers' Law in Connecticut 1091 SB, proposed by Alex Kasser.To reach Christine Cocchiola, LCSW: www.christinecocchiola.comdismantlingfamilycourtcorruption.comMusic provided by: mictechmusic@yahoo.com
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