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In this episode, Tracie Braylock joins Gem Fadling to explore how we can release the stress we were never meant to carry. Stress isn’t just a nuisance—it can quietly erode our peace, health, and capacity to enjoy life. Tracie brings a holistic approach to well-being, weaving together mind, body, spirit, and biblical wisdom to help us relax more intentionally and live more freely. We discuss: Why understanding that you are fearfully and wonderfully made is a foundation for healing How to identify and address the root causes of stress What the “relaxation response” is and how to activate it The 9 Rs of Radical Relaxation and how they apply to power, mind, body, spirit, and relationships Why rest is not laziness, but an essential practice How to realign your spirit and deepen your connection with God This is a gentle but powerful conversation filled with wisdom and grace. If you’ve been feeling the weight of stress in your life, may this episode be a breath of fresh air and an invitation to slow down and reclaim your peace. ✨ Listen in and let go of what was never yours to carry. ✨
What if your self-doubt, overreactions, or stuck-ness aren’t the real you? What if freedom is simply a matter of coming home to yourself? Welcome to the Unhurried Living Podcast with Gem Fadling—where we help you rest deeper, live fuller, and lead better. In this episode, Gem is joined by Michelle Chalfant, therapist, coach, and creator of The Adult Chair model, a framework that blends psychology and spirituality to help you understand your inner world and live from your truest self. Together, they unpack: The three "chairs" that represent emotional development Why your ego may still be using outdated maps from childhood How to recognize and work with your inner critic and emotional triggers Why boundaries are deeply connected to your self-worth What it looks like to live confidently and securely from The Adult Chair If you've ever felt trapped by old patterns, longed for emotional peace, or struggled to change despite your best efforts, this conversation will encourage you—and equip you with tools to grow.
Have you ever found yourself grasping for a quick fix—work, food, social media, or endless productivity—to ease the discomfort of life? What if true healing and freedom don't come from trying harder, but from surrendering more deeply? In this episode of the Unhurried Living Podcast, host Gem Fadling sits down with Ian Morgan Cron—bestselling author, psychotherapist, Enneagram teacher, and Episcopal priest—to talk about his new book, The Fix. This fresh and deeply personal exploration of the Twelve Steps goes far beyond addiction recovery. It's an invitation for all of us to embrace a more honest, grace-filled, and spiritually awake life. Whether you’re feeling stuck, tired of surface-level fixes, or longing for true transformation, this conversation will meet you right where you are—and gently invite you to something deeper.
In this episode, Gem visits with Dr. Alison Cook, a renowned expert at the intersection of faith and psychology, to discuss her groundbreaking 3-step process for finding the freedom we crave. Many of us struggle with complex emotions and feelings that seem impossible to untangle. Instead of addressing these emotions with care, we often fall into the trap of guilt-tripping or gaslighting ourselves. Dr. Cook shares a powerful approach to breaking this cycle—offering practical tools and insight for embracing your emotions and moving toward healing. Together, we explore the importance of self-awareness, how to stop dismissing your feelings, and the transformative process of naming, framing, and braving your emotions. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to Stop Gaslighting Yourself – Learn why so many of us dismiss our own feelings and how to move past the cycle of self-doubt. The Power of the 3-Step Process: Naming, Framing, Braving – Discover Dr. Cook’s transformative approach to understanding and healing complex emotions. Creating Space for Healing – Understand the importance of slowing down, reflecting, and embracing both/and thinking to move forward with clarity and courage. Guest Bio: Dr. Alison Cook is a trusted psychologist, author, and speaker known for her expertise in integrating faith and psychology. Her latest book, I Shouldn’t Feel This Way, offers a compassionate and practical framework for navigating complex emotions. With years of experience helping individuals discover emotional freedom, Dr. Cook is a sought-after guide for those looking to understand and heal from within. ______________________________________________________ Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living website and her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads Learn about PACE: Certificate in Leadership and Soul Care Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
Do you have someone in your life who helps you discern the GOs and STOPs along your journey? In this episode, Gem reflects on the powerful role of wise guides—whether a spiritual director, life coach, or mentor—and how they can offer a wider perspective and discernment that’s hard to achieve on our own. She explores the benefits of verbalizing struggles and desires, helping bring healing and wholeness. Gem also dives into the importance of having trusted relationships, like a spiritual friend, to hold space for you in a non-judgmental way and how this can foster growth and clarity. Reflection Points: Reflect on one of the six powerful questions mentioned in the episode. Choose one to ponder, pray, and journal. Notice what emerges. Of the six types of wise guides Gem listed, which one do you most feel the need for? How might you connect with the support you need? Spend some time with God in prayer, letting Him know of your desire for a trusted, wise guide. Tune in for an episode that invites you to consider who might be guiding you through the complexities of life and how you can find the support you need. ______________________________________________________ Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living website and her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads Learn about PACE: Certificate in Leadership and Soul Care Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
What do you really need? And what would it look like to engage life with a deeper sense of agency and self-compassion? Today on Unhurried Living Podcast, Gem is joined by professional counselor and best-selling author Aundi Kolber, whose new book, Take What You Need: Soft Words for Hard Days, invites us to embrace the transformative power of kindness toward ourselves. We’ll explore how early experiences shape the way we suppress our needs, why it’s so hard to name and honor what we truly feel, and how practicing softness can actually make us stronger. In this conversation, you’ll learn: ✨ How our past experiences shape the way we engage with our needs and emotions ✨ Why self-compassion is a powerful (and often overlooked) tool for transformation ✨ A simple prayer or body practice you can use in moments of stress Join us as we dive deep into what it means to cultivate resilience, trust, and a deeper friendship with God—even in the hard places. ________________________________ Aundi Kolber is a licensed professional counselor (LPC), trauma-informed therapist, and best-selling author of Try Softer and Strong Like Water. With a compassionate and holistic approach, Aundi integrates psychology, faith, and neuroscience to help individuals experience emotional healing and resilience. She is passionate about empowering people to move toward wholeness by learning to honor their needs, trust their inner wisdom, and cultivate a life of deep compassion. Through her writing, speaking, and therapeutic work, Aundi offers a refreshing invitation to wholeness—one that prioritizes gentleness, self-compassion, and deep connection with God. ______________________________________________________ Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living website and her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads Learn about PACE: Certificate in Leadership and Soul Care Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
In this episode, Gem reflects on a powerful moment from a difficult season in her life when she found hope in a simple yet profound image: a long, dark tunnel with a pinhole of light in the distance. This light became a symbol of God's presence, reminding her that even in the darkest moments, His light is enough to guide us forward. She explores the invitation from Psalm 27:4 to dwell, gaze, and seek God, unpacking each of these spiritual practices and how they bring us closer to Him. Through reflection and personal insights, this episode encourages you to embrace God's presence in the everyday moments—dwelling in His love, gazing upon His beauty, and seeking His guidance with a childlike heart. Tune in and discover how these simple practices can deepen your connection with God and His sacred presence in your life. In this episode, you'll reflect on: How can we find hope and God's presence even in dark or uncertain seasons of life? What are some practical ways to engage with the spiritual practices of dwelling, gazing, and seeking God? How can cultivating a childlike wonder and expectancy transform our spiritual journey? Resources and Links: Psalm 27:4 Psalm 139:7-10 Marina Abramović’s The Artist is Present ______________________________________________________ Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living website and her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads Learn about PACE: Certificate in Leadership and Soul Care Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
"We do Kingdom things in Empire ways. What might it mean to do Kingdom things in Kingdom ways?" Mandy Smith poses this powerful question, inviting us to reimagine Christian leadership—not as coercion or burnout, but as a life deeply rooted in the ways of Jesus. In this episode, we explore why so many Christian leaders are exhausted, losing faith, or misusing power, and how confessing our limitations might be the key to rediscovering the true heart of ministry. Mandy, a pastor and author, doesn’t offer quick-fix strategies. Instead, she calls us back to the simplicity of followership, integrity, and sharing our lives with God in ways that bless the world. Together, we unpack the pressures of modern church culture, the hidden desires that overwhelm leaders, and how we can make space for God amid ministry demands. In this episode, you’ll learn: How cultural tendencies like efficiency and control are shaping (and distorting) church leadership. Why embracing our limits can lead to deeper faith, healthier leadership, and renewed joy. Practical ways to make space for God and soul care in the midst of ministry demands. Join us for a conversation that will renew your vision, refresh your soul, and remind you of the invitation at the center of it all. ________________________ Mandy Smith is a pastor, author and speaker who, after living and ministering in the US and UK, now ministers in her homeland of Australia. She is a cohort co-leader for the Eugene Peterson Center for Christian Imagination and regular contributor to Missio Alliance. Her books include: The Vulnerable Pastor: How Human Limitations Empower Our Ministry (IVP) Unfettered: Imagining a Childlike Faith Beyond the Baggage of Western Culture Confessions of an Amateur Saint: The Christian Leader’s Journey from Self-Sufficiency to Reliance on God. Mandy and her husband, a New Testament professor, live in the parsonage at St Lucia Uniting Church where the teapot is always warm. ______________________________________________________ Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living website and her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads Learn about PACE: Certificate in Leadership and Soul Care Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
Have you ever found yourself in a dark, overwhelming season, wondering if God could hear you? We explore the healing power of lament as a way to express grief, open to God’s presence, and find rest for your soul. Lament isn't about having all the answers; it’s about allowing space for God to meet you where you are. What to Expect as you Listen: How lament can deepen your connection with God during times of grief. Practical steps to process loss through honesty, community, and restorative practices. Reflection questions to help you engage with lament in your own life and leadership. Recommended Resources: Psalm 116 Scripture Reference Resources from Unhurried Living - Explore more resources on spiritual practices and personal growth at Unhurried Living: Unhurried Living Resources Prophetic Lament by Soong Chan Rah ______________________________________________________ Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living website and her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads Learn about PACE: Certificate in Leadership and Soul Care Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
What if the key to spiritual growth isn’t rushing to answers but learning to ask deeper, slower, and more transformational questions? In this episode, we explore how formational questions can shape your journey with God. You’ll hear examples of questions that unlock insight, guidance on crafting your own soulful questions, and encouragement to hold these questions as prayers in your heart. Be patient. Live the questions now. And trust that, in time, the answers will come. Join Gem and Brenda as they reflect on the creativity, patience, and grace required to live the questions God places in our hearts. Resources Mentioned: “Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.” Rainer Maria Rilke ______________________________________________________ Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living website and her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads Learn about PACE: Certificate in Leadership and Soul Care Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
Crafting a rhythm of life isn't just about adding more to your schedule—it's about making intentional choices that shape who you're becoming. Inspired by Ruth Haley Barton's question, “How do I want to live so I can be who I want to be?” this episode explores the beauty of setting limits as a doorway to creativity, discernment, and rest. We'll discuss how a rhythm of life can act like a trellis, supporting your growth and flourishing. With insights from spiritual writers like Margaret Guenther and Evelyn Underhill, we'll uncover practical ways to create daily, weekly, and seasonal practices that feel life-giving and sustainable. Join me as we take one small, simple, and gracious step toward cultivating a life that aligns with God's invitations and your deepest desires.
In this episode, Gem sits down with author Whitney Lowe to discuss her book, Set Your Eyes Higher. Whitney offers a 40-day reset designed to help you let go of what's not serving you, honor your limitations, and turn your gaze toward a God who loves you. She dives into the cultural pressures that skew our focus, and how to find peace and rest when life feels out of control. Whitney shares wisdom on how to navigate the dynamics of insecurity, anxiety, burnout, and scarcity—issues that many of us face today—and offers practical advice for finding long-lasting contentment. We talk about how to cultivate spiritual rhythms, set healthy boundaries, and move from scarcity to abundance in a world filled with comparison and distractions. Join us for a rich conversation about reclaiming peace and clarity, and discovering the hope and light that comes from a deeper connection with God. Episode Links: Sets Your Sights Higher Devotional by Whitney Lowe Whitney Lowe website ____________________________________________ Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living website and her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads Learn about PACE: Certificate in Leadership and Soul Care Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
In this episode, we reflect on the idea of "vibe"—the way our presence leaves an impression on others. A recent discovery in Petra, Jordan, along with memories of joyful Bedouins and the hospitality of Father Albert Haase, inspired us to consider how our interactions reflect who we are at our core. Whether bubbly or reserved, introverted or extroverted, each of us exudes something that others feel when they encounter us. What if, at our best, that "vibe" could mirror the Fruit of the Spirit—love, joy, peace, and kindness? Through communion with God, we can allow the Spirit to transform our way of being, shaping the essence we carry into the world. Jesus modeled this beautifully: fully present, compassionate, and deeply connected to the Father. His “vibe” drew people in and brought healing and hope. How might we create space for the Holy Spirit to move in and through us, allowing the fullness of God's love to flow naturally in our daily lives? Join us as we explore how to embody this life-giving presence in a world longing for peace, joy, and love. _______________________________________________________ Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living website and her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads Learn about PACE: Certificate in Leadership and Soul Care Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
In today's episode, Gem sits down with author, speaker, and podcaster Carlos Whitaker to discuss his new book Reconnected. After realizing the toll technology had taken on his connection with God, his community, and even himself, Carlos took radical steps to disconnect in order to reconnect. He spent nearly two months living screen-free at a monastery, an Amish farm, and his own home, experiencing profound transformation along the way. Carlos shares the powerful lessons from his time in solitude, offering us a much-needed perspective on how technology and the fast pace of modern life are affecting our souls. He dives into the challenges and surprises of his digital detox, from grappling with the fear of his own thoughts to discovering the importance of intentionality, presence, and community. If you're feeling disconnected in a tech-saturated world, this conversation will inspire you to hit reset and consider the practices that can restore balance and meaningful connection in your life. Whether you're seeking wisdom on solitude, slowing down, or learning from community, Carlos offers insights that are as engaging as they are transformative. Tune in for a conversation full of heart, wisdom, and practical tips for reclaiming your life in a digital age. Episode Links: Carlos Whittaker Reconnected by Carlos Whittaker _______________________________________________________ Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living website and her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads Learn about PACE: Certificate in Leadership and Soul Care Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
In this episode, we're tackling the problem of restless dissatisfaction and how the pursuit of contentment can offer a way forward. For many of us, there's an underlying sense that something in life—who we are, what we have, or where we're headed—should be different. The constant pull of “what if” and “if only” can leave us feeling ungrounded and yearning for a sense of fulfillment that always seems just out of reach. As I looked back on my journal entries this year, I noticed contentment as a recurring theme in my conversations with God and with my spiritual director, reminding me of the peace and satisfaction that comes with learning to be present in the here and now. Drawing from my own journey and insights from Brian Zahnd's The Wood Between the Worlds, I'll share practical reflections on how shifting our mindset toward contentment can bring new clarity and peace. This isn't just about settling—it's about recognizing how an inner posture of contentment can transform our experience, even when circumstances remain the same. Whether you're a “Frustrated Idealist” in the Enneagram triad (Types One, Four, and Seven) or simply someone who finds themselves often seeking more, join me as we explore the ways contentment can anchor us in purpose, grace, and genuine satisfaction. Links: The Wood Between the Worlds by Brian Zahnd The Journey Toward Wholeness by Suzanne Stabile The Benefits of Looking Back podcast episode _______________________________________________________ Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living website and her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads Learn about PACE: Certificate in Leadership and Soul Care Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
Adoption is often framed by happy narratives, but the reality is that many adoptees struggle with unaddressed trauma and issues of identity and belonging. Adoptees often spend the majority of their youth without the language to explore the grief related to adoption or the permission to legitimize their conflicting emotions. Today, Gem is speaking with counselor and author Cameron Lee Small about his new book, The Adoptee's Journey. You might be wondering what adoption has to do with spiritual leadership. Well, here at UL, we care very much about people and their stories. And this story is very personal to me in that I am an adoptee. Gem is also sharing her own journey as an adoptee and giving you real time insight into my current personal process. She shares things that she's never spoken in a public setting. Learn more about adoption and Cameron's story:Adoptee Consciousness ModelHarlow's Monkey // JaeRan KimGrace Newton // Trauma and Healing of ConsciousnessAdoptive Parenting Consultation Group hosted by CamSchedule Cam to speak and train at your next eventCam's main websiteConnect with Cameron on Social media:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/camleesmall/Instagram: @therapyredeemedFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/therapyredeemed_______________________________________________________________Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living website and her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our HeadsLearn about PACE: Certificate in Leadership and Soul Care
“Your identity is a gift to be received, not a paycheck to be earned.” I love this profound insight that echoes throughout Alan's writings. They resonate with a truth we often overlook. They capture the essence of grace—a grace that defines our existence not by what we achieve, but by who we are as God's beloved. Our lives are gifts and yet how often do we find ourselves caught in the trap of earning mode? We measure our worth by what we do, by how much we accomplish, and by the approval we receive from others. This striving can become exhausting, leaving us empty and disconnected from the truth that our identity is not something to be earned but something to be received and embraced. Gem offers a 3 ideas to help you embrace your belovedness as you learn that your productivity is NOT tied to your worth._________________________________________________________________Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living website and her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our HeadsLearn about PACE: Certificate in Leadership and Soul Care
Here's a sobering idea: It is impossible to know and understand 100% of a situation. Now, I know that may sound a bit jarring for some of us. Personally, I like to believe I always have a handle on exactly what's going on. I'm a master mind-reader, and an excellent future-predictor—or at least I'd like to think so! Of course, I'm speaking tongue-in-cheek here. In truth, I don't know the future and no one has complete knowledge of any situation. Once I settle into that reality, something beautiful begins to happen: curiosity emerges. And curiosity leads me to ask better questions, which broadens my perspective and deepens my understanding. The small phrase "I Wonder..." is the core of what we're talking about today. _________________________________________________________________Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living website and her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
Jodi Grubbs fell headlong into the endless rush and exhaustion of hustle culture. After leaving her childhood home on the island of Bonaire in the Caribbean, she had assumed the rapid pace and stress of city living in the States. Soon she realized God was bidding her to a return to the "island time" of her past. In time Jodi found sanctuary and ways to care for her soul by making space for God, others, and herself. Evoking the contentment she once had in the gentle rhythms of Bonaire, she learned of another path: a path away from burnout and toward restoration. And she invites you, too, to grasp a sustainable approach to life anchored by the forced pauses of spiritual practices and an openhandedness before God. Begin to rest and let go of the need to keep up, as you learn to live slowly. Jodi Grubbs is the podcast host of Our Island in the City and a slow-living advocate. She is the author of Live Slowly: A Gentle Invitation to Exhale, a children's book, The Island Adventures of Lili and Oliver, and coauthor of a Bible study called The Friendship Café. Jodi her daughter, Lili, live outside Raleigh, North Carolina. __________________________________________Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living website and her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
Long gone are the days when I have the energy to put on any pretense when I talk with God. This has been a welcome and freeing change in my prayer life. At this point in my journey, it is much more life-giving to simply declare the way things are, rather than trying to tidy up my mess and present it in a nice, neat package. If I'm mad, sad, joyous or frustrated, God already knows, and so I am free to express what is…and meet God right in the middle of it. Unhurried Living Prayer Resoures:INVISO Prayer Reflection CardsUnhurried Time with God resource guideThe Practice of Unhurried Prayer__________________________________________Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living website and the Replenish Community.Learn about her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
Over the summer, we are offering some episodes of our podcast we're calling “Unhurried Favorites.” Today I'm sharing my interview with Suzanne Stabile. When we aired it last time, it was only a snippet of our conversation. Well, today, you can listen to it in it's entirety. Most of us have no idea how others see or process their experiences. And that can make relationships difficult. Understanding the motivations and dynamics of our different personality types can be the key that unlocks sometimes mystifying behavior in others―and in ourselves. Suzanne Stabile's book, The Path Between Us looks at the nine Enneagram types and how they behave and experience relationships. We all desire healthier relationships and Suzanne can help point the way. Suzanne Stabile's book, The Path Between Us looks at the nine Enneagram types and how they behave and experience relationships. __________________________________________Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living website and the Replenish Community.Learn about her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
Our thoughts influence how we feel and act, and some of the thoughts in our heads can keep us from fully embracing God's life and love for us. Allowing all of these narratives to remain unchecked can hinder our growth, but there is hope for us to quiet the noise and discern the voice of our Lord.Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Kristi and Gem Fadling discuss Gem's newest book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads. As they share some of the important questions you can ask of the thoughts in your head, you'll learn to agree with God's grace, become aware of the work of the enemy, and embrace a new pattern of noticing, discerning, and responding so you can be a vessel who overflows God's love to others.Resources for this Episode:Hold That Thought: Sorting Through The Voices In Our HeadsSoul Shepherding Sr. Spiritual DirectorsSoul Shepherding Sr. Coaches
At times we can feel overwhelmed by the events of our daily lives, even if they are good things. A state of overwhelm can cause a racing heartbeat, clenched fists, a lack of peace, and overthinking. Gem Fadling wants to help people overcome the hurry in their lives that causes rapid thoughts and an overall state of unhealthiness. Join Gem on this episode of God Hears Her, as she talks with hosts Elisa Morgan and Eryn Eddy about her own practices that lead to a healthier thought life. About Our Guest: Gem Fadling, CLC, is a founding partner of Unhurried Living, Inc., a non-profit that trains people to rest deeper, live fuller, and lead better. She is a certified life coach and a trained spiritual director who coaches women at the intersection of spiritual leadership and soul care. Gem is the host of the I Can Do That! Podcast as well as the co-author of What Does Your Soul Love? Eight Questions That Reveal God's Work in You, and author of Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads. Notes and Quotes: “Busy is one thing. . . but hurried is the soul. Is it possible to be busy but unhurried?” —Gem Fadling “There is peace in unhurried living.” —Elisa Morgan “I wondered if worry and hurry was my thorn in my flesh?” —Gem Fadling “I think a lot of times in life we think we have to produce the fruit. . . but He will make the fruit happen!” —Gem Fadling “Our brains are busy, our hearts are fluttering. . . but God's grace will meet us where we're at.” —Gem Fadling “You are not your thoughts, you are more than your thoughts.” —Gem Fadling “Notice, discern, and respond.” —Gem Fadling Verses: John 15:5 Romans 12:2 2 Peter 1:3 Philippians 1:6 Links: Unhurried Living Inc website: https://www.unhurriedliving.com/ Unhurried Living blog: https://www.unhurriedliving.com/blog ‘Hold That Thought' book by Gem Fadling: https://www.amazon.com/Hold-That-Thought-Sorting-Through/dp/083083169X God Hears Her website: https://www.godhearsher.org/ God Hears Her newsletter sign-up: https://www.godhearsher.org/signup Subscribe on iTunes! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/god-hears-her-podcast/id1511046507?utm_source=applemusic&utm_medium=godhearsher&utm_campaign=podcast Elisa's Instagram: elisa morgan author Eryn's Instagram: eryneddy MB01GNPZWKDEPHY
At times we can feel overwhelmed by the events of our daily lives, even if they are good things. A state of overwhelm can cause a racing heartbeat, clenched fists, a lack of peace, and overthinking. Gem Fadling wants to help people overcome the hurry in their lives that causes rapid thoughts and an overall state of unhealthiness. Join Gem on this episode of God Hears Her, as she talks with hosts Elisa Morgan and Eryn Eddy about her own practices that lead to a healthier thought life. About Our Guest: Gem Fadling, CLC, is a founding partner of Unhurried Living, Inc., a non-profit that trains people to rest deeper, live fuller, and lead better. She is a certified life coach and a trained spiritual director who coaches women at the intersection of spiritual leadership and soul care. Gem is the host of the I Can Do That! Podcast as well as the co-author of What Does Your Soul Love? Eight Questions That Reveal God's Work in You, and author of Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads. Notes and Quotes: “Busy is one thing. . . but hurried is the soul. Is it possible to be busy but unhurried?” —Gem Fadling “There is peace in unhurried living.” —Elisa Morgan “I wondered if worry and hurry was my thorn in my flesh?” —Gem Fadling “I think a lot of times in life we think we have to produce the fruit. . . but He will make the fruit happen!” —Gem Fadling “Our brains are busy, our hearts are fluttering. . . but God's grace will meet us where we're at.” —Gem Fadling “You are not your thoughts, you are more than your thoughts.” —Gem Fadling “Notice, discern, and respond.” —Gem Fadling Verses: John 15:5 Romans 12:2 2 Peter 1:3 Philippians 1:6 Links: Unhurried Living Inc website: https://www.unhurriedliving.com/ Unhurried Living blog: https://www.unhurriedliving.com/blog ‘Hold That Thought' book by Gem Fadling: https://www.amazon.com/Hold-That-Thought-Sorting-Through/dp/083083169X God Hears Her website: https://www.godhearsher.org/ God Hears Her newsletter sign-up: https://www.godhearsher.org/signup Subscribe on iTunes! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/god-hears-her-podcast/id1511046507?utm_source=applemusic&utm_medium=godhearsher&utm_campaign=podcast Elisa's Instagram: elisa morgan author Eryn's Instagram: eryneddy MB01GNPZWKDEPHY
Most of us have no idea how others see or process their experiences. And that can make relationships difficult. Understanding the motivations and dynamics of our different personality types can be the key that unlocks sometimes mystifying behavior in others―and in ourselves. Suzanne Stabile's book, The Path Between Us looks at the nine Enneagram types and how they behave and experience relationships. Today I'm sharing a portion of my Replenish conversation with Suzanne. We all desire healthier relationships and Suzanne can help point the way. The question I asked Suzanne for this I Can Do That! Podcast episode is this: What is a unique challenge for each Enneagram type in relationships? Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living website and the Replenish Community.Learn about her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
Most of us have no idea how others see or process their experiences. And that can make relationships difficult. Understanding the motivations and dynamics of our different personality types can be the key that unlocks sometimes mystifying behavior in others―and in ourselves. Suzanne Stabile's book, The Path Between Us looks at the nine Enneagram types and how they behave and experience relationships. Today I'm sharing a portion of my Replenish conversation with Suzanne. We all desire healthier relationships and Suzanne can help point the way. The question I asked Suzanne for this I Can Do That! Podcast episode is this: What is a unique challenge for each Enneagram type in relationships? Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living website and the Replenish Community.Learn about her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
As was typical of a season long ago, there was a pile of little boys in the back of my red minivan. We were driving down the street toward our home when I noticed some unusual dark grey storm clouds in the sky. Behind the clouds was a glowing blue sky, with splashes of pink and gold.It was the beginning of sunset, and, evidently, my then 4-year-old son had never seen a sky exactly like that before.“I never saw today!” he exclaimed as he peered out the van window, reacting to the sky.The wonder in his voice floored me. The only way he could think of to describe this amazing sky which he had never seen before was, “I never saw today!”What did his exclamation do for my mama's heart? We'll that's where we're headed.I'm Gem Fadling and it's time for ICDT. Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living website and the Replenish Community.Learn about her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
As was typical of a season long ago, there was a pile of little boys in the back of my red minivan. We were driving down the street toward our home when I noticed some unusual dark grey storm clouds in the sky. Behind the clouds was a glowing blue sky, with splashes of pink and gold.It was the beginning of sunset, and, evidently, my then 4-year-old son had never seen a sky exactly like that before.“I never saw today!” he exclaimed as he peered out the van window, reacting to the sky.The wonder in his voice floored me. The only way he could think of to describe this amazing sky which he had never seen before was, “I never saw today!”What did his exclamation do for my mama's heart? We'll that's where we're headed.I'm Gem Fadling and it's time for ICDT. Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living website and the Replenish Community.Learn about her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
As a part of my living room décor, I have two bowls of rocks. Of course this is lovelier than it sounds. The bowls are glass antiques from my Aunt Ruth's collection and the rocks are all polished and colorful.But these aren't just rocks. They represent a bowlful of treasured memories created with my dad. Markers of time spent together.I'm Gem Fadling and it's time for ICDT. Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living website and the Replenish Community.Learn about her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
As a part of my living room décor, I have two bowls of rocks. Of course this is lovelier than it sounds. The bowls are glass antiques from my Aunt Ruth's collection and the rocks are all polished and colorful.But these aren't just rocks. They represent a bowlful of treasured memories created with my dad. Markers of time spent together.I'm Gem Fadling and it's time for ICDT. Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living website and the Replenish Community.Learn about her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
In our book, What Does Your Soul Love?, I shared a few nuggets of wisdom from one of my mentors, Abbot David Geraets. But there's one nugget I didn't put into the book, and I'd like to offer it to you today. A nugget about silence. Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
In our book, What Does Your Soul Love?, I shared a few nuggets of wisdom from one of my mentors, Abbot David Geraets. But there's one nugget I didn't put into the book, and I'd like to offer it to you today. A nugget about silence. Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
In this episode I have the privilege of introducing you to Gem Fadling. Gem Fadling, CLC, is a founding partner of Unhurried Living, a non-profit that trains people to rest deeper, live fuller and lead better. She is a Certified Life Coach and a trained Spiritual Director who coaches women at the intersection of spiritual leadership and soul care. Gem is the host of the I Can Do That! Podcast as well as the co-author of What Does Your Soul Love? Eight Questions That Reveal God's Work in You, and author of Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads.
Today I'm talking with my sweetheart and husband of 37 years, Alan Fadling, and we'll be discussing unhurried spiritual leadership. This is Alan's expertise and I want you to learn from the best.Alan's message has been forming over decades. And I'm sure you'll hear echoes of things I've shared with you before. That's because we've taken this journey together, and I count this as a great grace. Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living website and the Replenish Community.Learn about her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
Today I'm talking with my sweetheart and husband of 37 years, Alan Fadling, and we'll be discussing unhurried spiritual leadership. This is Alan's expertise and I want you to learn from the best.Alan's message has been forming over decades. And I'm sure you'll hear echoes of things I've shared with you before. That's because we've taken this journey together, and I count this as a great grace. Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living website and the Replenish Community.Learn about her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads Connect with Alan and his latest book, A Year of Slowing Down.
I've enjoyed the treat of having many mentor-like people in my life who were ahead of me on the journey. They knew more than me and readily shared their knowledge and wisdom. They believed in me and my potential, and were willing to help draw me into the next season. Maya Angelou once said, “I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” It is certainly true that my mentors taught and trained me, but just as Ms. Angelou stated, what I remember the most is how they made me feel. Although there have been many who poured into me throughout my life, today I'm sharing with you three important people who touched and changed my life:Perla WarrenHal ClarkEllyn Cowie Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
I've enjoyed the treat of having many mentor-like people in my life who were ahead of me on the journey. They knew more than me and readily shared their knowledge and wisdom. They believed in me and my potential, and were willing to help draw me into the next season. Maya Angelou once said, “I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” It is certainly true that my mentors taught and trained me, but just as Ms. Angelou stated, what I remember the most is how they made me feel. Although there have been many who poured into me throughout my life, today I'm sharing with you three important people who touched and changed my life:Perla WarrenHal ClarkEllyn Cowie Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
Doug has a great conversation with Gen Fadling about her new book Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads. Gem is a gifted coach and spiritual director, she brings such a great perspective to the scripts that pastors and leaders tell themselves. We hope you enjoy this and share it with friends Gem's new book: https://www.amazon.com/Hold-That-Thought-Sorting-Through/dp/083083169XGem's site: https://www.unhurriedliving.com/Gem's podcast: https://www.unhurriedliving.com/blog?tag=i+can+do+thatInformation for coaching and spiritual direction can be found atwww.kairospartnerships.org We'd love to hear from you. Drop us a line. Doug – doug@kairospartnerships.orgBob – bob@kairospartnerships.org If you haven't signed up for J.R.'s every other week FREE newsletter 5 Things in 5 Minutes (yes the entire thing can be read in less than 5 minutes or less), here's the link: www.kairospartnerships.org/5t5m**Monday Morning Pastor is produced by the incredibly gifted Joel Limbauan. Check out his great video and podcast work at On a Limb Productions www.onalimbproductions.com If this podcast adds value to you, your team, or your organization, consider (1) subscribing (2) leaving a review and (3) sharing it with others
Here in the states, it's Thanksgiving week. And it's easy to become stressed or overwhelmed during the holidays. Every year we tell ourselves that we won't get caught up in the scurry of the season, but difficult relationships and over-extended schedules press in. Then we find ourselves enduring the season rather than enjoying it.Wrapped up inside all this is another lovely dynamic: decision fatigue. Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
Here in the states, it's Thanksgiving week. And it's easy to become stressed or overwhelmed during the holidays. Every year we tell ourselves that we won't get caught up in the scurry of the season, but difficult relationships and over-extended schedules press in. Then we find ourselves enduring the season rather than enjoying it.Wrapped up inside all this is another lovely dynamic: decision fatigue. Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
What do we do with all these voices that twirl and swirl in our minds? In Part 2, Gem Fadling, author of "Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads," offers us remarkable wisdom and practical action steps for sorting through those oft-debilitating negative voices. Her message of Trinitarian Love is profound and life-changing. She shares, "Love mixed with pain will change you." Links + Resources from this Episode: So excited that the podcast has been voted in the Top 100 Mental Health Podcasts on Feedspot: https://blog.feedspot.com/mental_health_podcasts/ Learn more about Gem's writings and work: GEM Learn more about Gem's REFLECTION CARDS and order yourself a set. I love mine! Download Gem's Examen Prayer, EXAMEN PRAYER: Isaiah 61 Listen to more great podcasts: ACCESS MORE Subscribe to Janell’s podcast and newsletter: SUBSCRIBE Download your FREE GUIDE FOR SEASON 1: How Am I Doing in My Everyday Life? Follow Janell on Instagram: @janellrardon Please, leave a REVIEW of the PODCAST.
Today I'm talking with Dr. Alison Cook and we'll be discussing how to discover the BEST OF YOU (also the title of her latest book).Dr. Alison delivers life-changing strategies for helping women develop their voices, forge healthy relationships, and embrace the holy, sacred work of becoming their true selves in God. I'm sharing with you a portion of the conversation I had with Alison for our Replenish Community. She shares about the difference between selfishness and selfhood, which leads into a conversation about following the example of Jesus in the area of boundaries. Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
Today I'm talking with Dr. Alison Cook and we'll be discussing how to discover the BEST OF YOU (also the title of her latest book).Dr. Alison delivers life-changing strategies for helping women develop their voices, forge healthy relationships, and embrace the holy, sacred work of becoming their true selves in God. I'm sharing with you a portion of the conversation I had with Alison for our Replenish Community. She shares about the difference between selfishness and selfhood, which leads into a conversation about following the example of Jesus in the area of boundaries. Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
Maybe you recognize some of these voices that try to drain our everyday life of meaning and vitality: the Stressed Achiever, the Positive Thinker, the Complaining Victim, the Passive Spectator, the Anxious Controller, the Unsettled Heart, or the Inner Critic. Author and Spiritual Director, Gem Fadling, brings the wisdom of her new book, "Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads," to this week's conversation. Links + Resources from this Episode: So excited that the podcast has been voted in the Top 100 Mental Health Podcasts on Feedspot: https://blog.feedspot.com/mental_health_podcasts/ Learn more about Gem's writings and work: GEM Learn more about Gem's REFLECTION CARDS and order yourself a set. I love mine! Download Gem's Examen Prayer, EXAMEN PRAYER: Isaiah 61 Listen to more great podcasts: ACCESS MORE Subscribe to Janell’s podcast and newsletter: SUBSCRIBE Download your FREE GUIDE FOR SEASON 1: How Am I Doing in My Everyday Life? Follow Janell on Instagram: @janellrardon Please, leave a REVIEW of the PODCAST.
Have you ever experienced a moment when scripture came to life? More than just words on a page or a passage that you memorized, I'm talking about a time when reality-wisdom bowled you over. Well, today I'm sharing a time when scripture leapt off the page and overwhelmed me with the felt reality of its truth.This week on I Can Do That! Podcast, I share how a reading in church changed how I view and receive scripture.Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
Have you ever experienced a moment when scripture came to life? More than just words on a page or a passage that you memorized, I'm talking about a time when reality-wisdom bowled you over. Well, today I'm sharing a time when scripture leapt off the page and overwhelmed me with the felt reality of its truth.This week on I Can Do That! Podcast, I share how a reading in church changed how I view and receive scripture.Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
So Much More: Creating Space for God (Lectio Divina and Scripture Meditation)
Gem is a founding partner of Unhurried Living, which is a non-profit that trains people to rest deeper, live fuller and lead better. She's also a Certified Life Coach and a trained Spiritual Director. Gem hosts the podcast called I Can Do That! And she's also the co-author of What Does Your Soul Love? Eight Questions That Reveal God's Work in You. And she recently released her new book: Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Head **** NOTE: you can get 30% off and free shipping on Hold That Thought by clicking the link and using the code MUCHMORE Code valid until 11/16/22 **** Take a few minutes to meditate on Romans 12:1-2. And then listen in to this conversation where we talk through the practicalities of paying attention to our thoughts, discerning what is helpful and unhelpful, and choosing to think differently. Some highlights from our conversation: Gem identifies 7 voices that we tend to go to in our minds, like the Stressed Achiever or the Anxious Controller. We talk through what these voices sound like and why they all point to helpful things – even when the voices themselves aren't helpful. Gem gives us a very practical tool: Notice, Discern and Respond. And walks us through how we can use this tool to navigate our thinking. We talk about how our thinking can transform us… just like Paul says it will in Romans 12:1-2: Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. You can follow Gem on Instagram @gemfadling On Facebook: GemFadling And find out more about Unhurried Living at unhurriedliving.com
So Much More: Creating Space for God (Lectio Divina and Scripture Meditation)
New format starts this week. Meditations will be posted on Monday. A perfect way to start you week. #mondaymeditation Conversations will post on Wednesday. Note: Meditation starts at 2:20 Lectio Divina is the divine or sacred reading of Scripture. Create some sacred space for God and spend a few quiet moments engaging with his Word. As you allow the Spirit to lead, you may be surprised by where he leads you. Once you've listened to this Scripture Experience podcast, then head over to the next episode to listen to my conversation with Gem Fadling, Spiritual Director, coach and author of Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Head. You can find Jodie at Jodieniznik.com Instagram @creatingspaceforgod Facebook @jodieniznik Download your free Lectio Divina Guided journal here. The exact verses read in this podcast are printed here for your use. Romans 12:1-2 Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. 2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
Mindy Belz of Globe Trot talks about why Putin is moving to more drastic measures and the very real life and death situation Haitians are facing right now. Gem Fadling, author of "Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads," shares the need for us to give God His rightful place and take every thought captive to Christ. Click here for today's show notes
In today's episode, Saddleback Spiritual Growth Pastor Jason Wieland talks with author Gem Fadling about her latest book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads. They discuss why it can be difficult to filter our thoughts, the power of hope and identity in thought formation, and practical ways to look to God's voice. Gem is a founding partner of Unhurried Living, certified life coach and trained spiritual director. She is the host of the I Can Do That! podcast and coauthor with Alan Fadling of What Does Your Soul Love? Eight Questions That Reveal God's Work in You. For complete show notes, click HERE
A few years ago I was reading a book by Mary Pipher, entitled, Women Rowing North. In it, a notable epiphany is had by a woman named Sylvia, whose life took some unexpected turns. Pipher writes, “Sylvia in Austin has learned that she is in control not of life, but of the story about her life.“ The same time I was reading this book, I ran into some very unexpected and unwelcome travel issues. And I had to chance to try on this new insight. I have my own story to tell today, one about crafting renewed narratives. Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
A few years ago I was reading a book by Mary Pipher, entitled, Women Rowing North. In it, a notable epiphany is had by a woman named Sylvia, whose life took some unexpected turns. Pipher writes, “Sylvia in Austin has learned that she is in control not of life, but of the story about her life.“ The same time I was reading this book, I ran into some very unexpected and unwelcome travel issues. And I had to chance to try on this new insight. I have my own story to tell today, one about crafting renewed narratives. Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
The voice of the inner critic is another voice from my new book Hold That Thought. The inner critic has an opinion about everything and she will be sure to tell you. The inner chatter produced by this voice leads to thoughts that can feel judgmental and can even lead to resentment. Here are a few of her choice thoughts: Why can't you get this right? Couldn't you have done better than that? Why do you always keep me waiting? Things could be so much better than this. You don't look-sound-smell right. Fix it! Do better. Be more. And it had better be perfect! Today, I'm talking with my friend, Marla Christian. She has a long history with the voice of the inner critic and I'm so glad she's here to share with us today. We can glean a lot from her story. Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
The voice of the inner critic is another voice from my new book Hold That Thought. The inner critic has an opinion about everything and she will be sure to tell you. The inner chatter produced by this voice leads to thoughts that can feel judgmental and can even lead to resentment. Here are a few of her choice thoughts: Why can't you get this right? Couldn't you have done better than that? Why do you always keep me waiting? Things could be so much better than this. You don't look-sound-smell right. Fix it! Do better. Be more. And it had better be perfect! Today, I'm talking with my friend, Marla Christian. She has a long history with the voice of the inner critic and I'm so glad she's here to share with us today. We can glean a lot from her story. Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
“God is not elsewhere.” - Gem FadlingOn this edition, Michael welcomes Gem Fadling to the podcast to discuss her latest book, “Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads.” Gem is a founding partner of Unhurried Living, a non-profit that trains people to rest deeper, live fuller, and lead better. She is a Certified Life Coach and a trained Spiritual Director who coaches women at the intersection of spiritual leadership and soul care.Today, Michael and Gem discuss the book's genesis and the critical role our thoughts play in our spiritual formation. We hope you will see that when we are able to settle down and pursue things like curiosity and hope, our anxiety can lessen, and our true purposes can come into view.HELPFUL RESOURCES:I Can Do That podcastContact Restoring the Soul:- Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.comThanks for listening!
The voice of the stressed achiever has much to do. She likes to focus on accomplishments and she cares about the opinions of others. Never allowing a break, the stressed achiever keeps you driving forward. She'll have nothing to do with laziness. But what hums underneath is a fear that she doesn't exist apart from her accomplishments. These are her mantras: Staying busy proves my worth. The more I produce, the more I am. Someone must push this thing up the hill. Let's get going! Today, I'm talking with Morgan Northway. She has a before and after story of dealing with her inner stressed achiever and it is truly inspiring. Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
The voice of the stressed achiever has much to do. She likes to focus on accomplishments and she cares about the opinions of others. Never allowing a break, the stressed achiever keeps you driving forward. She'll have nothing to do with laziness. But what hums underneath is a fear that she doesn't exist apart from her accomplishments. These are her mantras: Staying busy proves my worth. The more I produce, the more I am. Someone must push this thing up the hill. Let's get going! Today, I'm talking with Morgan Northway. She has a before and after story of dealing with her inner stressed achiever and it is truly inspiring. Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
Do you ever have thoughts like these? You're not good enough. You need to try harder. Everything is fine. I think we can all attest to moments when our thoughts are negative, unhelpful, and—worst of all—not true. But how do we even begin to turn things around? Today, I'd like to introduce you to life coach and spiritual director Gem Fadling. Gem is one of the founding partners of an organization called Unhurried Living, where they train people to rest deeper, live fuller, and lead better. Gem just released a book entitled Hold That Thought, and it's all about sorting through the thoughts and voices inside our heads and letting God transform our minds. This conversation seriously flew by, and I know it will be such a blessing to you. Be sure to check the show notes for a coupon code to save 30% on Gem's book and to connect with her on Instagram. Without further ado, here is my chat with Gem. Kari MEET GEM: Gem Fadling, CLC, is a founding partner of Unhurried Living, a non-profit that trains people to rest deeper, live fuller and lead better. She is a Certified Life Coach and a trained Spiritual Director who coaches women at the intersection of spiritual leadership and soul care. Gem is the host of the I Can Do That! Podcast as well as the co-author of What Does Your Soul Love? Eight Questions That Reveal God's Work in You, and author of Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads. CONNECT WITH GEM: Website: Unhurried Living Instagram Save 30% and get free shipping through ivpress.com by using coupon code LDT22 within the next four weeks ______ >> Journal Gently: An 8-week program designed to help you process grief and trauma with God http://lovedoesthat.org/journalgently >> Written Spiritual Direction: Recognize God's presence in your pain http://lovedoesthat.org/spiritualdirection
Have you ever had a thought in your head and it took over? It started to change the way you think about yourself. Maybe you started to be extra hard on yourself, both critical and negative. Or maybe it was a thought about someone else and it just changed how you acted. Our thoughts are definitely powerful, so I am excited to talk with Gem Fadling. I have her back on the podcast and we are talking about her new book, *Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Head. This is such an important topic because we all have these thoughts that run rampant in our head. We just need to learn how to discern which thoughts are helpful and which ones are unhelpful as well as how to respond to them. This podcast episode has so much practical wisdom, but one of my favorite parts is at the very end when she talks about the table analogy. I think you are going to love it. Also, I am so excited for someone to win a copy of Gem's new book: *Hold That Thought. All the details of the book giveaway are on my website at jodirosser.com or you can click this direct link: https://kingsumo.com/g/3tn7y6/hold-that-thought-book-giveaway It is fun to have Gem back on the Podcast! If you missed my first conversation with Gem about her book, *What Does Your Soul Love?, please check out Episode 117 on the Depth podcast. I love what she shares about transformation. Gem Fadling, CLC, is a founding partner of Unhurried Living, Inc., a non-profit that trains people to overcome hurry and lead better. She is a Certified Life Coach and a trained Spiritual Director who coaches women at the intersection of spiritual leadership and soul care. Gem is the host of the I Can Do That! Podcast as well as the co-author of *What Does Your Soul Love? Eight Questions That Reveal God's Work In You, and author of *Hold That Thought. *Note: If you are interested in purchasing these books, I would love for you to use the Amazon Affiliate link above to help support the podcast. Thank you!
Most of the women I connect with have an interesting connection with their bodies. And that's putting it mildly. It seems we either love her, hate her or ignore her. (Notice I didn't call my body an it, but rather her). I know I'm playing around with semantics, but personalizing my body helps me not keep her at arms distance…like an object. Our bodies are God-created and given. Many of us have suffered various forms of trauma over the course of our lives. And our bodies store the memory of these traumas inside. This is why we don't want to ignore her messages. Today I'm talking with Sarah Jackson and we'll be discussing the idea of attuning to our bodies with awareness, understanding and care. The connection between our minds and our bodies is undeniable. And even though the scientific world confirms this, practically speaking, we don't always know how to make the most of this God-designed connection. Sarah is quite skilled at helping us make that connection. Connect with Sarah on Instagram. Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
Most of the women I connect with have an interesting connection with their bodies. And that's putting it mildly. It seems we either love her, hate her or ignore her. (Notice I didn't call my body an it, but rather her). I know I'm playing around with semantics, but personalizing my body helps me not keep her at arms distance…like an object. Our bodies are God-created and given. Many of us have suffered various forms of trauma over the course of our lives. And our bodies store the memory of these traumas inside. This is why we don't want to ignore her messages. Today I'm talking with Sarah Jackson and we'll be discussing the idea of attuning to our bodies with awareness, understanding and care. The connection between our minds and our bodies is undeniable. And even though the scientific world confirms this, practically speaking, we don't always know how to make the most of this God-designed connection. Sarah is quite skilled at helping us make that connection. Connect with Sarah on Instagram. Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
Today I'm sharing with you a very special story. It's actually an excerpt from my new book, Hold That Thought. It's my description of a pivotal scene from the movie Wonder Woman. I know…what can you learn from a superhero movie, right? Well, it turns out you can learn a lot. When you are open, aware and willing, there is no telling from where your next life lesson might emerge. Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about and pre-order her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
Today I'm sharing with you a very special story. It's actually an excerpt from my new book, Hold That Thought. It's my description of a pivotal scene from the movie Wonder Woman. I know…what can you learn from a superhero movie, right? Well, it turns out you can learn a lot. When you are open, aware and willing, there is no telling from where your next life lesson might emerge. Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about and pre-order her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
On today's podcast episode I'm sharing a little bit about each of the seven unhelpful voices that sometimes take the steering while of our lives.At its core, each voice does not believe it already has what it needs. So, it finds a way to whisper (or yell) in your ear to get your attention. When they feel backed into a corner these voices may lash out. Here's an example from each voice. See if you recognize any of these:Stressed Achiever - You haven't achieved enough yet. You haven't proved yourself. Get on it!Positive Thinker - You can't possibly have everything yet. But I know how to get it. Let's go!Inner Critic - It's not perfect yet. We are going to get this right if it's the last thing we do.Anxious Controller - You don't have enough control. What if things go awry? What will happen then, huh?!Complaining Victim - That other person is keeping you from being happy. If they would just change, then you'd have what you need. Until then you are stuck.Passive Spectator - And you don't know how to get it. You only have so much energy and we've got more important things to do like hide, be scared, and remain unfulfilled. That way you never have to be disappointed.Unsatisfied Heart - How could you possibly fill that giant void in your heart? There is no way to fill up this space, and even if you try there's no way it will happen any time soon.Seeing the voices this starkly can make us either laugh or cry. But when these unhelpful thoughts circle around in our brain, they seem very real—and they feel like the truth.But remember what we said before, you are not your thoughts. These voices come from any number of places inside of us. Past traumas, unhealthy relationships and more cause us to self-protect. And these voices are really trying their best to keep us safe. Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about and pre-order her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
On today's podcast episode I'm sharing a little bit about each of the seven unhelpful voices that sometimes take the steering while of our lives.At its core, each voice does not believe it already has what it needs. So, it finds a way to whisper (or yell) in your ear to get your attention. When they feel backed into a corner these voices may lash out. Here's an example from each voice. See if you recognize any of these:Stressed Achiever - You haven't achieved enough yet. You haven't proved yourself. Get on it!Positive Thinker - You can't possibly have everything yet. But I know how to get it. Let's go!Inner Critic - It's not perfect yet. We are going to get this right if it's the last thing we do.Anxious Controller - You don't have enough control. What if things go awry? What will happen then, huh?!Complaining Victim - That other person is keeping you from being happy. If they would just change, then you'd have what you need. Until then you are stuck.Passive Spectator - And you don't know how to get it. You only have so much energy and we've got more important things to do like hide, be scared, and remain unfulfilled. That way you never have to be disappointed.Unsatisfied Heart - How could you possibly fill that giant void in your heart? There is no way to fill up this space, and even if you try there's no way it will happen any time soon.Seeing the voices this starkly can make us either laugh or cry. But when these unhelpful thoughts circle around in our brain, they seem very real—and they feel like the truth.But remember what we said before, you are not your thoughts. These voices come from any number of places inside of us. Past traumas, unhealthy relationships and more cause us to self-protect. And these voices are really trying their best to keep us safe. Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about and pre-order her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
Today, my guest is Jennifer Dukes Lee. Jennifer's most recent book is entitled, Growing Slow. I placed her here right up front on purpose. Her message is one I deeply believe in. How could I not? We are Unhurried Living after all.The excerpt I chose for you this month is about wintering. If you think about the seasons of the year, most people don't appreciate the view of a leafless tree, standing alone in the frozen tundra. But as you hear Jennifer describe what happens to farmland in winter, I hope you will feel encouraged deep down inside your soul. Even when you think nothing is happening…so much is actually taking place deep within. Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about and pre-order her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
We are continuing our series on Alan's book, What Does Your Soul Love? . Today we are talking about the chapter on "Joy.” In other words, the question, “What does your soul love?” is a question of where do we find deep joy? In the book of Nehemiah, we hear him telling the people that “the joy of the Lord is their strength.” It is God's joy over us and in us that empowers and energizes us. It is our finding joy in God that sustains us and enables us to flourish. Connect with Alan at UnhurriedLiving.comConnect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about and pre-order her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
Today, my guest is Jennifer Dukes Lee. Jennifer's most recent book is entitled, Growing Slow. I placed her here right up front on purpose. Her message is one I deeply believe in. How could I not? We are Unhurried Living after all.The excerpt I chose for you this month is about wintering. If you think about the seasons of the year, most people don't appreciate the view of a leafless tree, standing alone in the frozen tundra. But as you hear Jennifer describe what happens to farmland in winter, I hope you will feel encouraged deep down inside your soul. Even when you think nothing is happening…so much is actually taking place deep within. Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about and pre-order her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
Welcome to a Girls Talking Life Extra. It's not a full show, just a short chat with a past guest to let you know what she's up to now. I'm talking with Gem Fadling. Gem joined me on episode 43 and we talked about what your soul loves – questions to ask that reveal God's work in you. If you haven't heard that conversation, be sure to go back and listen. Today we are talking about her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads. It releases next week, on September 20th. Listen in for all the details! Gem is a founding partner of Unhurried Living, Inc., a non-profit that trains people to rest deeper, live fuller and lead better. She is a Certified Life Coach and a trained Spiritual Director who coaches women at the intersection of spiritual leadership and soul care. Connect with Gem, find her newest book and the details for her membership community Replenish at unhurriedliving.com.
James Bryan Smith has a Things Above Conversation with Gem Fadling. In This episode, James and Gem discuss her latest book, “Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads.” Gem Fadling, CLC, is a founding partner of Unhurried Living, Inc., a non-profit that trains people to rest deeper, live fuller and lead better. […] The post Conversation with Gem Fadling appeared first on Apprentice Institute.
Today, I'm sharing with you one of the mentor conversations from the first month of Replenish. You'll get to hear from me, Brenda Renderos and Larissa Marks as we talk about some of the central paradigms of the formational life. This is the kind of content you can expect each month in Replenish. Real life conversations about important and profound matters.Brenda Renderos is a soul care coach, and Larissa is a spiritual director and formation coach. They are both quite wise and gracious and I know you'll hear this shine forth as we move through our conversation. Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about and pre-order her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
Today, I'm sharing with you one of the mentor conversations from the first month of Replenish. You'll get to hear from me, Brenda Renderos and Larissa Marks as we talk about some of the central paradigms of the formational life. This is the kind of content you can expect each month in Replenish. Real life conversations about important and profound matters.Brenda Renderos is a soul care coach, and Larissa is a spiritual director and formation coach. They are both quite wise and gracious and I know you'll hear this shine forth as we move through our conversation. Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about and pre-order her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
I first want to talk to you about the word Replenish and why I love it so much. There are a lot of “R” words that I could have chosen: Rest, receive, recover, refill, or restore.Replenish stands out because within it is the connotation of refilling that which was poured out. It assumes you are giving, serving and working. It is important for us to remember that these dynamics are concurrent. We keep ourselves fresh and replenished as we continue to serve and give.No matter what your age or stage, I know you are engaging lots of output. Friends, family, work responsibilities--there is much to do. But if you've been listening here for long, you know me well enough to know that I believe deeply that you cannot continue to serve from an empty cup.Replenishing is the idea of the pitcher and the cup. Imagine God as a pitcher of cold, refreshing water and he is constantly pouring. We, the cup, remain under that replenishing stream as we live our lives. John 15 would call this abiding.Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about and pre-order her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
I first want to talk to you about the word Replenish and why I love it so much. There are a lot of “R” words that I could have chosen: Rest, receive, recover, refill, or restore.Replenish stands out because within it is the connotation of refilling that which was poured out. It assumes you are giving, serving and working. It is important for us to remember that these dynamics are concurrent. We keep ourselves fresh and replenished as we continue to serve and give.No matter what your age or stage, I know you are engaging lots of output. Friends, family, work responsibilities--there is much to do. But if you've been listening here for long, you know me well enough to know that I believe deeply that you cannot continue to serve from an empty cup.Replenishing is the idea of the pitcher and the cup. Imagine God as a pitcher of cold, refreshing water and he is constantly pouring. We, the cup, remain under that replenishing stream as we live our lives. John 15 would call this abiding.Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about and pre-order her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
Our guest is spiritual director, life coach, and author Gem Fadling, who attends Holy Trinity, a C4SO church in Costa Mesa, CA. We talked about how noticing and working with our thoughts can contribute to our spiritual formation. This is the theme of her forthcoming book Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our [...]
Our guest is spiritual director, life coach, and author Gem Fadling, who attends Holy Trinity, a C4SO church in Costa Mesa, CA. We talked about how noticing and working with our thoughts can contribute to our spiritual formation. This is the theme of her forthcoming book Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our [...]
Notice, discern and respond (NDR). Three simple words. And yet they take time and intention. Today's I Can Do That! episode is like a mini-workshop. I'm not just going to chatter away at you. Instead, you can take action on a thought right now, as we move through this together. This is about telling ourselves the truth. Critical, shaming or numbing thoughts do not help us mature the way we desire. We are simply becoming more aware of our thoughts so that they don't run the show and keep us from engaging life the way we want to. Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about and pre-order her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
Notice, discern and respond (NDR). Three simple words. And yet they take time and intention. Today's I Can Do That! episode is like a mini-workshop. I'm not just going to chatter away at you. Instead, you can take action on a thought right now, as we move through this together. This is about telling ourselves the truth. Critical, shaming or numbing thoughts do not help us mature the way we desire. We are simply becoming more aware of our thoughts so that they don't run the show and keep us from engaging life the way we want to. Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about and pre-order her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
Over the last few years I've been consoled many times by this phrase: you already have what you need. It comes straight from 2 Peter 1:3 and the Spirit reminded me of its power during a particularly stressful season. It's now an ongoing life-paradigm for me.I thought it might be nice if we spent a little time in 2 Peter, lingering over these words slowly. Savoring them like a fine chocolate.By his divine power, God has given us everything we need for living a godly life. We have received all of this by coming to know him, the one who called us to himself by means of his marvelous glory and excellence. (2 Peter 1:3) . Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about and pre-order her new book,Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
Over the last few years I've been consoled many times by this phrase: you already have what you need. It comes straight from 2 Peter 1:3 and the Spirit reminded me of its power during a particularly stressful season. It's now an ongoing life-paradigm for me.I thought it might be nice if we spent a little time in 2 Peter, lingering over these words slowly. Savoring them like a fine chocolate.By his divine power, God has given us everything we need for living a godly life. We have received all of this by coming to know him, the one who called us to himself by means of his marvelous glory and excellence. (2 Peter 1:3) . Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about and pre-order her new book,Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
In the early part of my life I'd like to think that I was a relatively functional and intelligent participant in my own life. And I was. I got married, I held down a job, and we began a family. I enjoyed a large community and a wonderful life. However, under the surface, I didn't really have access to my own, individual voice. There was a kind of holy confidence missing. Self-doubt and anxiety often ruled the day. And I knew little of boundaries.I now enjoy a major shift of focus. I know who I am in God and a holy confidence has emerged. I feel more solid inside because I stand more firmly on who God says I am. My confidence comes from him. This holy confidence feels like being in flow most of the time.Sure, I still struggle just like all of us do in day-to-day ways. However, in a central place inside myself I stand in this holy confidence. And I move forward in flow. There is obviously more to the story here. How did I get from there to here? Well, I unpack all of this more in today's episode. Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about and pre-order her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
In the early part of my life I'd like to think that I was a relatively functional and intelligent participant in my own life. And I was. I got married, I held down a job, and we began a family. I enjoyed a large community and a wonderful life. However, under the surface, I didn't really have access to my own, individual voice. There was a kind of holy confidence missing. Self-doubt and anxiety often ruled the day. And I knew little of boundaries.I now enjoy a major shift of focus. I know who I am in God and a holy confidence has emerged. I feel more solid inside because I stand more firmly on who God says I am. My confidence comes from him. This holy confidence feels like being in flow most of the time.Sure, I still struggle just like all of us do in day-to-day ways. However, in a central place inside myself I stand in this holy confidence. And I move forward in flow. There is obviously more to the story here. How did I get from there to here? Well, I unpack all of this more in today's episode. Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living websiteLearn about and pre-order her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads
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