Podcast appearances and mentions of michelle chalfant

Did you know that 80% of people don't know how to identify their feelings? In this episode, I sit down with Michelle Chalfant, licensed therapist, holistic coach, and creator of The Adult Chair model. She talks about the real root of your triggers, why most people don't know how to set boundaries, and how your subconscious programming shapes everything from your romantic relationships to your leadership style. We dive into a powerful inner child process LIVE on this episode to break down how unhealed wounds show up in everyday life and tangible ways to rewire them. Get ready to feel seen, heard, and validated into the MOST emotionally FREE version of YOU. Remember, your emotions are not a weakness—they're YOUR superpower. In This Episode, You Will Learn 00:00 Why were most of us never taught how to set healthy boundaries? 07:00 How childhood modeling impacts your adult emotional patterns. 12:15 What your emotional triggers are actually trying to show you. 17:00 The unconscious belief systems formed before age 6. 24:30 How to reconnect with your inner child to heal abandonment. 29:00 LIVE demonstration of healing the “fear of being left”. 35:00 Why are romantic relationships the biggest mirror for your emotional wounds? 38:45 How reparenting your inner child transforms your confidence and relationships. 44:45 What to do when someone resists your new boundaries. Resources + Links Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/monahan Download the CFO's Guide to AI and Machine Learning at NetSuite.com/MONAHAN. Want to do more and spend less like Uber, 8x8, and Databricks Mosaic? Take a free test drive of OCI at oracle.com/MONAHAN. Get 10% off your first Mitopure order at timeline.com/CONFIDENCE. Get 15% off your first order when you use code CONFIDENCE15 at checkout at jennikayne.com. Call my digital clone at 201-897-2553!  Visit heathermonahan.com Sign up for my mailing list: heathermonahan.com/mailing-list/  Overcome Your Villains is Available NOW! Order here: https://overcomeyourvillains.com  If you haven't yet, get my first book Confidence Creator Follow Heather on Instagram & LinkedIn Michelle on Instagram & LinkedIn

Your boxed up emotions are keeping you sick. You. already know that chronic stress is a leading cause of death and disease, but did you know that the stressors you just boxed up are causing just as much of a problem? Today's guest is Michelle Chalfant and she's going to show you where your boxed up emotions are making you sick (especially the ones you think you don't feel anymore), and how you can rewire your nervous system to feel fast and heal even faster. Because your body stores emotions, healing these hidden traumas and emotions is the only way to finish healing physically.   TOPICS DISCUSSED IN THIS EPISODE: The Adult Chair method and exposing your past, present and future Healing and repairing your nervous system Changing the way you act and react under stress How to feel emotions quickly and to move on in a healthny way How your body doesn't know the difference between past and present emotions Rewriting your past to give you a healthier and happier future   More from Michelle Chalfant: Instagram: @TheMichelleChalfant Facebook: @TheMichelleChalfant Youtube: @MichelleChalfant Website: theadultchair.com Get her book: theadultchair.com/the-adult-chair-book     Leave us a Review: https://www.reversablepod.com/review   Need help with your gut? Visit my website gutsolution.ca to join a program: Get help now   Contact us: reversablepod.com/tips    FIND ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Instagram  Facebook  YouTube        

What if your self-doubt, overreactions, or stuck-ness aren’t the real you? What if freedom is simply a matter of coming home to yourself? Welcome to the Unhurried Living Podcast with Gem Fadling—where we help you rest deeper, live fuller, and lead better. In this episode, Gem is joined by Michelle Chalfant, therapist, coach, and creator of The Adult Chair model, a framework that blends psychology and spirituality to help you understand your inner world and live from your truest self. Together, they unpack: The three "chairs" that represent emotional development Why your ego may still be using outdated maps from childhood How to recognize and work with your inner critic and emotional triggers Why boundaries are deeply connected to your self-worth What it looks like to live confidently and securely from The Adult Chair If you've ever felt trapped by old patterns, longed for emotional peace, or struggled to change despite your best efforts, this conversation will encourage you—and equip you with tools to grow.

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I'm so happy to have my pal Michelle Chalfant on the show to celebrate her new book, The Adult Chair: Get Unstuck, Claim Your Power, and Transform Your Life! Michelle has been a therapist and life coach for the last 25 years and this book is the culmination of her work and experience with both her clients and herself. The Adult Chair model is an amazing way to cultivate self-knowledge throughout all phases of development and become more authentically you and who you want to be.  We talked about why self-worth needs to be in place to set healthy boundaries, why triggers are a gift and what we can learn from them, how to shift into empowerment and so much more. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/715

The Adult Chair: Get Unstuck, Claim Your Power, and Transform Your Life by Michelle Chalfant Amazon.com Theadultchair.com It's time to find your power, learn how to love yourself, and break free of the limiting patterns and beliefs that are keeping you stuck—from the therapist behind the popular podcast The Michelle Chalfant Show. “An excellent ‘how to act like an adult' manual that would assist anyone looking to shelve self-doubt, handle triggers, relinquish grudges, and learn self-compassion.”—Library Journal (starred review) Many of us were never shown what it truly means to be an adult. Instead, we learned unhealthy patterns from parents who, themselves, had never been taught. It is no surprise that we often find ourselves filled with self-doubt, stuck in feelings of overwhelm, and trapped in unfulfilling or dead-end relationships. But there is a way out. After decades of working with clients, therapist, coach, and podcast host Michelle Chalfant passionately believes in the potential for every person to awaken to their true selves and create a life filled with purpose and joy. Her Adult Chair model fuses spirituality and psychology, making complex concepts accessible and practical. The Adult Chair explores the three key stages of human development using a framework of three chairs: “The Child Chair,” “The Adolescent Chair,” and “The Adult Chair.” By understanding and working through each stage, you'll identify how your early life experiences shaped your thoughts, behaviors, and self-worth. This insight alone is powerful, but Chalfant's five pillars of healthy adult living also provide simple, practical tools to help you permanently release the negative beliefs and behaviors holding you back. This is the manual we all needed while growing up, and it's not too late to learn from it now—a way to grow into adults who feel worthy, empowered, lovable, and confident. No matter what you want help with, The Adult Chair is your path to self-discovery, healing, and personal transformation.

Michelle Chalfant joins us to share how we can move beyond self-doubt, people-pleasing, and the inner critic to reconnect with our true selves. From learning to ground into the body and the power of group work to understanding how emotions need to be fully felt to release, Michelle offers powerful tools to help you break old patterns and build self-worth.Mentioned in this episode:Click link to try WeShape free!weshape.com/free Have WeShape build you a better workout

Does showing up online ever feel like wearing a mask? You're doing all the “right” things—polished posts, perfect hashtags—but it's not landing. Or worse, it feels nothing like you. In this empowering episode, Elyse Archer sits down with therapist and authenticity expert Michelle Chalfant, alongside elite stylist Jessica Papineau, to shatter the myth that personal branding is just about image. Together, they reveal how building a brand from the inside out—one rooted in your values, voice, and vision—becomes your greatest sales superpower.If you've ever felt afraid to fully be seen or worried that showing up as your true self could cost you sales, this episode will shift everything. You'll learn how to harness the energy of authenticity to attract high-level clients, elevate your income, and build unshakable trust—all while staying true to who you are.What You'll Learn:- Why authenticity beats the algorithm every time (and how to tap into it)- How your image and style can amplify—not overshadow—your personal brand- The mindset shift that turns vulnerability into your biggest asset in sales-  Practical steps to align your brand with the real you—and watch your business soarLet's Connect:-Follow Elyse on Instagram-Send Elyse a DM on LinkedIn-Join Elyse on YouTube-Follow Michelle Chalfant on LinkedIn-Follow Jessica Papineau on LinkedIn

Are you doing all the right things in sales but still struggling with confidence and self-doubt? In this powerful episode, Elyse Archer sits down with Michelle Chalfant to uncover how childhood beliefs might be secretly sabotaging your success. They dive deep into how the fears and limitations wired into your brain at a young age are still running the show—and how to break free.If fear of rejection, imposter syndrome, or hesitation to ask for what you're worth are holding you back, this episode is for you. Learn how to reconnect with your inner child, release limiting beliefs, and sell with unshakable confidence.What you'll learn:- The hidden childhood programming keeping you stuck- Why sales fear isn't about sales at all-A simple mindset shift to unlock your full potentialPlus, Michelle leads a short guided meditation to help you reconnect with your inner child and step into your most powerful, confident self.Let's Connect:Follow Elyse on InstagramSend Elyse a DM on LinkedIn Join Elyse on YouTube 

“I'm such a horrible person.” “I can't believe I did that…I'm so stupid.” “I'm not good enough.” Do these types of thoughts sound familiar? If so, you're not alone. As humans, we can be so mean to ourselves. We make a mistake and beat ourselves up for hours. We look in the mirror and are met with a barrage of negative self-talk. Sometimes these thoughts come at us relentlessly, like a flood. But these thoughts are not the truth about who we are. They come from an inner part or voice inside of us that is actually trying to keep us safe.  And when we have the tools to work with these parts of self, we can stop these critical and ruminating thoughts in their tracks – and transform so many of the struggles that come with them, like depression, low self-worth and overwhelm. In this episode, I'm sharing the story of a friend who came to me for help with critical thoughts that she couldn't shake. I walk you step-by-step through the parts work method I used with her and the process she went through that stopped those thoughts almost instantly.  Then, I explain why parts work is so powerful, how it works in our unconscious mind and exactly how you can use it to work with your own critical parts – or any other part of yourself for that matter!  Listen to discover: How to stop ruminating and negative self-talk in its tracks The process I used with a friend to help her quiet her critical, ruminating thoughts My own experience using parts work to transform a ruminating thought I was having How to use parts work to transform any part of yourself A step-by-step parts work process you can use anytime, anywhere The amazing thing about parts work is that you don't have to spend years working with a part or even be in a coaching or therapy session to do this work. My friend's transformation happened during a casual conversation we had after work. And as I share in this episode, I use parts work when I'm out for a walk or in the middle of the day. This is an empowering tool we ALL need in our toolbox!  At the heart of parts work is giving ourselves what we needed but didn't get when we were young. As a healthy adult, you now get to be that strong, caring adult for your younger self – and when you do, you will be amazed at the deep inner healing that takes place.   “I started doing parts work when I was 30 years old, and I changed my life.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Not everybody's visual, so please don't think there's something wrong if you [don't visualize a part].” - Michelle Chalfant   “I always thank these parts because they are doing such a good job at keeping me safe.” - Michelle Chalfant   “This is what I love about the unconscious mind…they pull things out of left field.” - Michelle Chalfant   “When you are hearing these voices in your head, the ruminating thoughts, the beating up on self…start asking yourself this question: ‘Who is saying that?'” - Michelle Chalfant   “I really think you are going to be amazed at the different parts of yourself that you will start to discover.” - Michelle Chalfant   “This is how we really experience more of who we are, and this is the journey we are on in order to rediscover and live from our true self.” - Michelle Chalfant   Resources from this Episode michellechalfant.com/52weeks for the 52 Week Journal   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      Membership: The Academy of Awakening theacademyofawakening.com $1 for a month promo code - NEWYEAR1   Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

You're here today, doing the work, living from your Adult Chair, becoming who you want to become.  It feels really good. But as we live and grow and transform, it can sometimes bring up negative feelings about our past. Whether we made mistakes, missed opportunities, were hurt by someone or experienced a life-altering loss, every one of us has something about our past we wish we could change. Regret can cut deep – into our very souls – and bring a lot of pain, shame and blame with it.  But whenever we live in regret, it causes us to miss another opportunity: the chance to make the most of the moment we have right now.  In this show, I'm giving you three common reasons we get stuck in the past and six ways to make peace with your past and start living in the present moment.  You will gain a new perspective on your past and learn to reframe it so you can rewire your brain to live without regret. Listen to discover: 3 reasons we get stuck in the past (and what to do about them) Why living in present reality is so much better than past reality How to reframe how you think about your past 6 ways to make peace with your past Remember, today will soon become your past. Will you look back and wish you hadn't spent it stuck in regret? Or will you make the most of the moment and use the power you have right now to be who you want to be today? The present moment is such a powerful reality to live in. It's here that we find peace and joy. It's here that we have the ability to make this moment one we won't regret.   “The decision that we made in that moment, I don't care how old you were…the person that we were in that moment, we were showing up the very, very best that we could.” - Michelle Chalfant   “97% of the time, our assumptions are incorrect.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Things that happened in our past, no matter if it's a death or someone has done something to us or we made mistakes, it can be difficult to move on, but it's possible.” - Michelle Chalfant   “When we live in the moment, it's a much different reality. It's almost as if the world opens up.” - Michelle Chalfant    “Living in the past is like having an anchor tied around our waist trying to move forward.” - Michelle Chalfant    “What I'm giving you today are ways to move you forward into the moment.” - Michelle Chalfant    “When we don't feel our emotions around something, guess what? It keeps us stuck.” - Michelle Chalfant    “When we block our emotions, we're blocking ourselves.” - Michelle Chalfant    “Forgiveness releases the hold that the past has on you.” - Michelle Chalfant    “When we get in the habit of going back and beating up on ourselves or being mad about someone else…what we do is we form these neural pathways, and they are not healthy. It's like we set the roadmap in our brains to go back and beat up on self.” - Michelle Chalfant  Resources from this Episode   michellechalfant.com/52weeks for the 52 Week Online Journal.    MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      Membership: The Academy of Awakening theacademyofawakening.com $1 for a month promo code - NEWYEAR1   Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

What a whopper of an episode. This conversation between two healers, Leah Guy and Michelle Chalfant, touches on some of the most important topics of healing and spirituality. From the inner child, the difference between spirit and consciousness, ego death, aging and self-worth, it's all here.Both Leah and Michelle share vulnerably where they still struggle in their lives, the difficulties of emotional processing and moving beyond the ego, the inner (and sometimes outer) critic and some tools they use to get themselves through. Grace included.To find more about Michelle's work, please visit her website. To contact Leah, visit her site, or follow on social media @leahthemodernsage. Thanks for listening! Follow leah on IG, FB & TK @leahthemodernsage for more!

We have the fabulous Michelle Galoob joining us to unravel the mystique of intuition and the spiritual realm. This episode is a goldmine for anyone curious about distinguishing between the whispers of intuition and the shouts of ego.  Michelle shares her personal tale of shifting from a logic-driven life to embracing the universe's guidance. It's a wild ride that kicks off with a chance encounter with a healer from Argentina, flipping her world upside down and unveiling her hidden intuitive gifts. We chat about the dance between skepticism and belief and how those unexpected twists can lead to a more fulfilling path. And for those wondering how to tap into your higher self, we've got you covered. Michelle offers practical tips on tuning into your inner guidance and spotting signs from the universe. Plus, she treats us to a live mini-reading with Michelle Chalfant, giving us a sneak peek into her intuitive sessions. We wrap things up by encouraging you to trust your inner healer and embrace your unique spiritual connection.  In this episode, you will hear: Exploring the distinction between intuition and ego and how to communicate with spirit guides and angels. The power of intuitive gifts and the tension between skepticism and belief. Practical advice on connecting with higher selves and celestial guides to alleviate anxiety. Understanding and trusting different intuitive senses and signals from the universe. Embracing one's role as a healer and tapping into the universe's offerings for fulfillment. Insights into the Akashic records and how they can be used to uncover personal blockages and empower transformation. Resources from this Episode Learn more about Michelle Galoob: https://www.michellegaloob.com/  Receive a 1-hour reading at an introductory rate of $250 for a first-time reading (instead of the normal $320 rate). Book here: https://calendly.com/michellegaloob-aoy/1sttimereading Get 20% off at Aquatru.com with promo code: ADULTCHAIR   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      Membership: The Academy of Awakening theacademyofawakening.com   Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

Free Guide - 3 Things You Need to Know About Cancer:  https://www.katiedeming.com/cancer-101/Do you ever struggle to set boundaries, feel overwhelmed by your emotions, or find yourself repeating unhealthy patterns in relationships?Dr. Katie sits down with Michelle Chalfant, a licensed therapist, holistic life coach, and host of the wildly popular Adult Chair podcast. Michelle shares her groundbreaking approach to emotional healing and personal growth, offering practical tools that can transform your life.Chapters:11:23 - Managing your triggers and set boundaries14:09 - Why parents are adolescents in adult suits21:06 - Feeling and allowing emotions29:31 - Setting boundaries with medical professionals 32:13 - Tactics for better emotional awarenessDiscover the innovative Adult Chair model, which breaks down our emotional development into three distinct phases. Learn how understanding these phases can help you identify patterns in your behavior and emotions, giving you the power to make lasting changes. Michelle's warm, practical approach makes complex emotional concepts accessible to everyone. She provides actionable advice on setting boundaries, dealing with triggers, and practicing self-compassionListen, learn, and gain new tools to help you feel more grounded, empowered, and in tune with your authentic self.Access The Academy of Awakening membership for $1. Coupon Code 'HEAL'  Send us a textHelp us spread the word about holistic healingPlease leave a review for Born to Heal: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/born-to-heal-holistic-healing-for-optimal-health/id1585725298 Take a screenshot, share it on your Instagram Stories, and tag @the.conscious.oncologist Don't Face Cancer Alone"The 6 Pillars of Healing Cancer" workshop series provides you valuable insights and strategies to support your healing journey - Click Here to Enroll MORE FROM KATIE DEMING M.D. Free Guide - 3 Things You Need to Know About Cancer: https://www.katiedeming.com/cancer-101/6 Pillars of Healing Cancer Workshop Series - Click Here to EnrollWork with Dr. Katie: www.katiedeming.comFollow Dr. Katie Deming on Instagram: The.Conscious.Oncologist Take a Deeper Dive into Your Healing Journey: Dr. Katie Deming's Linkedin Here Please Support the Show Share this episode with a friend or family member Give a Review on Spotify Give a Review on Apple Podcast DISCLAIMER:The Born to Heal Podcast is intended for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for seeking professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Individual medical histories are unique; therefore, this episode should not be used to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease without consulting your healthcare provider.

Are you a people pleaser from way back? Do you often find yourself prioritizing others' needs at the expense of your own? You could have codependent tendencies.In this moment, licensed therapist and author Michelle Chalfant walks us through the hallmarks of codependency and how to free yourself from its grip.Press play to learn: why codependency is so draining, the power of ‘waiting for the ask', the red flags of a codependent relationship, the insidious ways it can creep up on us, and how to break the cycle.Listen to the full episode: Apple - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/444-where-do-emotions-come-from-the-power-of-inner/id1196106699?i=1000554119314 Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/episode/0jBiKlQxvD1ZFrBOQXanmB?si=0d190317ef204601 Hey, do you follow the show? It's the simplest, easiest way to show your support and for us to keep getting more epic humans on the show for you. If you feel called, please hit the follow button and leave a review. I would be so grateful.Get full show notes and links to all resources here: www.melissaambrosini.com/444Want mentoring from Melissa? Join SheLaunch: www.shelaunch.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"What I've found, after 25 years of seeing clients is that, we're adolescents living in grown-up clothes"Today I have a very special guest on the show. She's Michelle Chalfant, MC, LPC, CHC, MHt, a licensed therapist, master life coach, author, podcaster and motivationalspeaker. We had a deep and profound talk about relationships, its communications' issues, how to work with your inner child and figuring out how to live a healthy grown-up life.Her work has helped people all over the globe get unstuck, find their true self,grow their self-worth and improve their relationships, creating a life of true freedom and empowerment!Blending simple psychology and grounded spirituality, her work gives people the practical tools and techniques they can use to access their personal power and  transform their lives.With more than 25 years of experience as a therapist and coach and extensive training in diverse self-healing methods, Michelle's mission is to bring healing to this world through online courses and her coaching certification program, where she trains others in her signature coaching model that is designed to bring fast transformation through experiential work.To learn more about Michelle and her incredible work, visit theadultchair.com and listen to her podcast  The Adult Chair®You can get your Free Inner Child Resource hereAnd the Free Guide: 5 Healthy Relationship “Myths” Keeping You Disconnected From Your Partner here  TODAY'S HIGHLIGHTS (00:00) Intro (01:30) In today's episode… (03:05) The High Frequency Mastermind starts this month. Discover your zone of genius (08:22) A little bit of Michelle's story (10:36) The 3 phases of The Adult Chair model (13:37) The most important lens to look at relationship through (17:11) Communication: why is it a common problem in relationships? (21:56) Traditional talk therapy, IFS, and Parts Work (27:06) Working with your inner child (39:23) Relationship work vs Ending your relationship. Cleaning your personal slate (43:17) Navigating through projections. The co-dependency realization (53:09) How do I not pass my past traumas to my kids? (58:36) Freebies **WAYS TO ENTER MY WORLD**  When you leave a review of the podcast, send us a screenshot and we'll send you a $250 credit, you can apply to anything else in my world.  YOU are the only one who knows the best way for you to :  10x your incomeStructure your businessDecide which growth strategies to implementAND you can access your ability to channel all of it through your BREATH. Sign up for The High Frequency Mastermind to receive individualized guidance on how to apply it to grow your business. CONTACT ALYSEJoin my Facebook group: Financial Freedom for Spiritual EntrepreneursFollow and DM me on Instagram @alyse_breathesVisit https://www.alysebreathes.com/Or contact me at info@alysebreathes.com

Lately, there's been something stirring in my soul.   I don't know exactly what it is yet, but I feel like it's going to be BIG – like something new is coming, and I need to go inward and listen for what it is.    Have you ever felt this way? When this happens, I believe it's our soul tugging at us, trying to tell us something about our mission and purpose on the planet.   And I have made it my intention to always listen when the soul calls.   It's something I like to call “soul alignment” — a practice of going within and listening to the soul to get clarity on who we are and our illuminated path.   In this episode, I'm teaching you how to tune into the voice of your soul (the part of you that is seated squarely in the Adult Chair), why this is so important and how to clear the blocks that stand between us and our souls.   The five simple practices I share in today's podcast will help you hear your soul's whispers and nudges, know and feel the next steps on your path and take aligned action — not from the Adolescent Chair but from the Adult Chair.   Listen to discover: The power of “soul alignment” The importance of “deep listening” How the ego gets in the way of listening 5 steps to listen to your soul How to unlock greater passion, purpose and peace The ego is rooted in fear, lives in the past and future and often screams at us in a loud voice. The soul lives in the present moment and speaks to us in a whisper, which is why we have to get still to hear it.    This episode will help you get out of your mind and into your heart, go inward and listen deeply to find your true purpose and guidance from within.   “When we align with our soul, we are guided.” - Michelle Chalfant   "When you're aligned with your soul, even the things that feel – to the ego – bad, what we find is that these things are the most beautiful gifts that we could have ever received." - Michelle Chalfant   “What your soul has in store for you is unlike anyone else on the entire planet.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Meditation is simply a practice that brings you into the present moment.” - Michelle Chalfant   “You're going to feel nudges or feel pulled or moved to do things. That's your soul. Pay attention.” - Michelle Chalfant    “Your soul's not going to talk to you from your head. Your soul's going to talk to you through your heart.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Ego lives in past and future only. Soul lives in present moment only.” - Michelle Chalfant    MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

What if the secret to better sleep, less inflammation and reduced pain was as simple as walking barefoot in the grass?   Both the earth and our bodies have an electrical charge, and “grounding” (or “earthing”) refers to the practice of connecting our bodies to the earth – keeping the body's charge at an optimal balance and unlocking tremendous health benefits.   If you think this sounds like something made up by a crunchy tree hugger, think again: the father of grounding, Clint Ober, is actually a cable guy.   Clint had a strong connection with nature from growing up on a ranch out West and great knowledge about how electrical currents work from his career in the cable industry.    One day, he saw a group of tourists all wearing thick rubber-soled shoes (a non-conductive material), and it hit him:   Could our modern lifestyle be keeping us from grounding into the earth?   This has led to a new frontier of health research, with very promising findings about the impact of grounding on inflammation, stress, autoimmune disease and more. It's the real deal!    I had the chance to talk to the man himself, Clint Ober, about how grounding works in the body, why our society is so ungrounded, the many, many health benefits of grounding and how anyone can start grounding – for FREE and today.   Listen to discover: What earthing and grounding is Why our bodies need to be connected to the earth's electrical charge How grounding works in our immune system The positive effect grounding can have on pain and chronic disease  How you can start grounding today Grounding is so simple – it literally just requires going outside with bare feet (or conductive shoes).   And unlike so many health hacks or miracle cures on the market, this isn't something to be added to your health…instead, it's a return.    A return to nature, our design and the natural harmony that occurs when we're connected to our bodies and the earth.    "The earth is basically electrical." - Clint Ober   "We can heal these illnesses we're walking around with by grounding." - Michelle Chalfant    "We've totally insulated ourselves from the earth when we're wearing shoes." - Clint Ober    "You can't have inflammation in a grounded object." - Clint Ober   "As soon as you get grounded, then you have the earth's energy all around your body, and it pushes away all of this environmental stuff." - Clint Ober   "If you want to take 10 years off your [age], just go outdoors and stick your bare feet on the grass." - Clint Ober   "The body is always striving to heal itself. Always. We are in the way." - Michelle Chalfant   LINKS & RESOURCES    Clint Ober Earthing and Grounding Products https://www.earthing.com/   Earthing Studies https://earthinginstitute.net/    Earthing Movie https://www.earthingmovie.com/   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

Michelle and I talk about her tremendous contributions to the codependency and trauma healing fields.  As usual, we have a grand ole time talking about your similar and different views on codependency/self-love deficit disorder and how to facilitate healing for those suffering from it. Michelle is responsible for numerous breakthrough treatment techniques, but her Adult Chair model stands out among them. It represents a person's highest self: living in the present moment, dealing with facts and truth over stories and assumptions and being able to set boundaries from a place of patience and compassion. While seated in the Adult Chair, we can deeply connect with our inner child's needs and feelings and objectively observe our adolescent's behaviors. It is here, and only here, that we can become aware of—and overcome—the emotional triggers and negative patterns that hold us back.More about Michelle: Theadultchair.comSupport the show

Everyone seems to have an opinion about psychedelics these days.   Doctors and therapists see them as potential treatments for things like anxiety, depression and PTSD. Spiritual communities believe they open us up to the divine. Politicians debate whether they should be legal or illegal.    I have to admit that when I first heard people talking about them, I was scared.   I'm not a big fan of substance use of any kind, and the idea of a “drug” becoming mainstream concerned me.   But when some respected psychologists and colleagues of mine started talking about the healing power of psychedelics — people who were far from the 1960s “Summer of Love” stereotype — I knew the topic at least deserved my honest research.   As I dug deeper into the science behind psychedelics and understood how they worked in the mind, I began to realize they weren't about escaping but about going deeper into oneself by quieting the ego and opening the door to new parts of our consciousness.    But, I wanted to make sure my opinion was backed up by accurate, science-based, factual research. And there are few people who I've found better informed on this topic than Matt Zemon.   Matt was once a fellow skeptic like me who also became convinced through research and experience that psychedelics can play a positive role in therapeutic and medical settings.   He is one of the most grounded, scientific voices I've heard on this topic — perfect for anyone who simply wants to learn more and see what you think for yourself — and I am thrilled to have him share his wealth of knowledge in this episode.   Listen to discover: Matt's story of opening his mind to psychedelics – and how they changed his life Safety considerations for psychedelic use  Whether or not psychedelics are addictive (and how they can help treat addiction) The different types of psychedelics and how they work in the mind How and why psychedelics can help us change our thought patterns The importance of therapeutic integration after a psychedelic experience Resources for doing your own research and safe psychedelic use The choice to have a psychedelic experience is very personal, and I would never tell someone they should or should not try a powerful substance like these.    But I do think we should all do our due diligence to research new breakthroughs in healing with an open mind — which I hope this episode helps you do.    Because whether you get there through a psychedelic or not, allowing yourself to see new perspectives and change your mind is how you grow as a human…and that's always a path worth pursuing.   "In that first six- or seven-hour [psychedelic] journey, the entire way I look and interact with the world shifted." - Matt Zemon   "Physically, these substances are relatively safe." - Matt Zemon   "Not all psychedelics are the same, and you don't want to be on certain medications and taking a psychedelic." - Matt Zemon   "The psychedelic process can help us remember a way that we used to think, maybe before we had adopted those behaviors...and from that rememberance, we can then start to take the steps to change our life." - Matt Zemon   "It's not so much that [psychedelics are] a cure...they're really catalysts for change." - Matt Zemon   "It's not a magic pill. None of them are a magic pill." - Michelle Chalfant   "I felt like I was sitting with God each and every time. It was the most beautiful thing I've ever done." - Michelle Chalfant   "The most important thing was the integration. What do you do after you've had this experience and then how do you integrate that into your life?" - Michelle Chalfant   "In the psychedelic experience, a few things are going to happen. Your default mode network...is going to quiet down...Neurons fire together that haven't fired together in a long time...In this process, it's common that you will then feel connected to all things and all people. You'll feel loved. You'll feel enough. And that is, in my opinion, the reclaiming of your true self." - Matt Zemon   "When you know you're enough and you know you're loved, you're starting to take away the masks you've put on and have been put on you." - Matt Zemon   LINKS & RESOURCES   Join the 30-Day Journaling Challenge  https://theadultchair.com/30days    Tanasi  https://tanasi.com/  Use code ADULT to get 25% off your first order   Matt Zemon Website https://mattzemon.com/   "Psychedelics for Everyone" (Matt Zemon Book) https://www.amazon.com/Psychedelics-Everyone-Beginners-Depression-Consciousness/dp/B0BCS7NM9H    Matt Zemon Instagram https://www.instagram.com/matt.zemon/    "How to Change Your Mind" Book https://www.amazon.com/Change-Your-Mind-Consciousness-Transcendence/dp/0735224153    Spirit Pharmacist Psychedelic Consultations/Education https://www.spiritpharmacist.com/    "A Really Good Day" Book https://www.amazon.com/Really-Good-Day-Microdosing-Difference-ebook/dp/B01FPH0IUO/    Safe Drug Testing https://drugsdata.org/  https://dancesafe.org/    MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist!  https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

For millennia, cultures around the globe have known that there's more to us than meets the eye and that our family trees really are a map to ourselves — an energetic portrait of our lives.   Today, epigenetics has proven that what our ancestors experienced can imprint on our genes and impact our lives today in unexpected ways.    That depression, anxiety, stress or limiting belief? It might be from long ago.   And the field of psychology is finally catching up with this.    A new methodology I just discovered (and got the chance to try as a client) is called Family Constellation work.    In this method, we find unconscious experiences and beliefs that we're carrying from our ancestors — including those who we never knew — and work to transform them through awareness and compassion.   On the podcast this week, I talked with my Family Constellation practitioner, Emily Blefeld, about what Family Constellation work is, how our family history affects our lives today and how we can clear blocks and dismantle generational cycles by being bold and brave enough to look at what happened before we were even here.   It's not that different from what we do with parts work in The Adult Chair®, except instead of working with parts of ourselves we're working with parts of our family tree! It's SO freaking cool!   Listen to discover: How our family history impacts our present reality The way our ancestors' patterns create patterns for us today What Family Constellation work is and how it works How to heal trauma and clear blocks through Family Constellation work Using Family Constellation work for business, non-biological relatives and more The cool thing about epigenetics is that it describes a tendency, not a fate. These experiences don't change our DNA; they change the way our genes express themselves.   That means we get a choice in how these generational traumas will manifest in our lives.   We don't have to agree with the beliefs and experiences of our ancestors. We can look them in the face and decide they stop with us.    And there's no transformation more powerful than that – for ourselves and generations to come.   “We are victim to our lineage.” - Michelle Chalfant    “What's unconscious will continue to permeate our lives until it's made conscious.” - Emily Blefeld   “We actually carry the victims and the perpetrators in our inherited lineage.” - Emily Blefeld   “[Family Constellation work] is predominantly a therapy that looks at the system that we walk around with.” - Emily Blefeld   “Constellation work is less interested in what is causing the symptom, and they're more interested in who is the symptom.” - Emily Blefeld   "I like to think of it as a family soul on some level." - Emily Blefeld   "There's so much more to us than meets the eye." - Michelle Chalfant   "There are so many different ways to clear our blocks. There's so many different ways to relieve anxiety, depression, feeling not good enough, our inner fraud, all of those things." - Michelle Chalfant   "You'll feel the generations behind heal and the generations following." - Emily Blefeld   "What an awesome thing to hear as a parent, your child thanking you for doing your work. Because it can stop with you." - Emily Blefeld   LINKS & RESOURCES   Emily Blefeld Website https://seeingwithyourheart.com/    FREE MASTERCLASS: How To Heal Your Relationship To Get the Love You Want https://theadultchair.com/healing     MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Events  https://theadultchair.com/events/    The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist!  https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

You're here today, doing the work, living from your Adult Chair, becoming who you want to become.    It feels really good. But as we live and grow and transform, it can sometimes bring up negative feelings about our past.   Whether we made mistakes, missed opportunities, were hurt by someone or experienced a life-altering loss, every one of us has something about our past we wish we could change.   Regret can cut deep – into our very souls – and bring a lot of pain, shame and blame with it.    But whenever we live in regret, it causes us to miss another opportunity: the chance to make the most of the moment we have right now.  In this show, I'm giving you three common reasons we get stuck in the past and six ways to make peace with your past and start living in the present moment.  You will gain a new perspective on your past and learn to reframe it so you can rewire your brain to live without regret. Listen to discover: 3 reasons we get stuck in the past (and what to do about them) Why living in present reality is so much better than past reality How to reframe how you think about your past 6 ways to make peace with your past Remember, today will soon become your past. Will you look back and wish you hadn't spent it stuck in regret? Or will you make the most of the moment and use the power you have right now to be who you want to be today?   The present moment is such a powerful reality to live in.   It's here that we find peace and joy. It's here that we have the ability to make this moment one we won't regret.   “The decision that we made in that moment, I don't care how old you were…the person that we were in that moment, we were showing up the very, very best that we could.” - Michelle Chalfant   “97% of the time, our assumptions are incorrect.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Things that happened in our past, no matter if it's a death or someone has done something to us or we made mistakes, it can be difficult to move on, but it's possible.” - Michelle Chalfant   “When we live in the moment, it's a much different reality. It's almost as if the world opens up.” - Michelle Chalfant    “Living in the past is like having an anchor tied around our waist trying to move forward.” - Michelle Chalfant    “What I'm giving you today are ways to move you forward into the moment.” - Michelle Chalfant    “When we don't feel our emotions around something, guess what? It keeps us stuck.” - Michelle Chalfant    “When we block our emotions, we're blocking ourselves.” - Michelle Chalfant    “Forgiveness releases the hold that the past has on you.” - Michelle Chalfant    “When we get in the habit of going back and beating up on ourselves or being mad about someone else…what we do is we form these neural pathways, and they are not healthy. It's like we set the roadmap in our brains to go back and beat up on self.” - Michelle Chalfant    LINKS & RESOURCES   Podcast #381: Summer Series: How To Get Rid of Negative Emotions https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/381/    A Guided Meditation for Cleansing Relationships and Cutting Cords https://theadultchair.com/portfolio_page/a-guided-meditation-for-cleansing-relationships-and-cutting-cords/   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Events  https://theadultchair.com/events/    The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist!  https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

Our society today is facing an epidemic of anxiety. Despite technology that promises to make our lives faster and easier, it seems that we're more anxious than ever. In 2020, Google searches for “anxiety” reached an all-time high.   We have to look beyond the diagnosis of anxiety and seek to find the root cause of why so many people are living with such high stress and dysregulation that are creating anxiety. There is something bigger going on here.   And since we're whole humans, we need to look at the whole picture – mind, body and spirit – when thinking about how we heal and manage anxiety.   My guest on this show, Dr. Ellen Vora, is a psychiatrist who takes a functional medicine approach to anxiety, looking at mental health factors and physical health factors, such as sleep, digestion and blood sugar, that can add up to throw us out of balance and contribute to feelings of anxiety.   She also helps us to distinguish between feelings of anxiety that come from a physical imbalance vs. true anxiety, which comes from our inner compass telling us something truly isn't ok.   Listen to discover: What's causing our current epidemic of anxiety The connection between sleep and anxiety   Why blood sugar imbalances can cause "false anxiety" The difference between true anxiety and false anxiety  The many reasons for cell phone-induced anxiety  Spirituality and anxiety management  A psychiatrist's honest opinion about psychedelics, medications and anxiety  We need to start taking a “layered” approach to treating and managing anxiety by looking at the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual elements of our lives and how they work together to create stress or health. This hopeful approach to anxiety empowers us all to make choices that support our well-being, even in the face of real personal and mental health challenges.    "I was sort of taking the temperature of our society, and the temperature right now is anxiety." - Dr. Ellen Vora   "False anxiety is anxiety that is not our true essence." - Dr. Ellen Vora   "It's not just one thing that we have to look at." - Michelle Chalfant   "Genes plays a role, but that keeps a lot of us feeling stuck and feeling destined to be anxious....it's more dynamic than we appreciate." - Dr. Ellen Vora   "Our problems, our stressors are still valid. It's just that if we had a snack and our blood sugar was more stable in that moment, we would be more resilient in the face of our stressors." - Dr. Ellen Vora   "Our mind is the consummate meaning maker." - Dr. Ellen Vora   “It's not like we have to dramatically change everything that we do, but we just want to make informed choices.” - Dr. Ellen Vora   “We don't get to gluten free or decaf coffee our way out of our true anxiety.” - Dr. Ellen Vora   “I would have my clients sit in their bodies and feel what was going on, and their physical symptoms would start to change.” - Michelle Chalfant   “[Anxiety] is the physical manifestation of unfelt emotions.” - Michelle Chalfant    “It's our body that's able to listen and really dial in and tap into a deeper knowing.” - Dr. Ellen Vora   “It's turning toward the anxiety instead of turning away from.” - Michelle Chalfant    “We reach outside of ourselves to ‘fix us'…and it doesn't end it. We've gotta get to the root.” - Michelle Chalfant   “We need to change our narrative of what is materially possible.” - Dr. Ellen Vora    “We're never stuck. We are never broken.” - Dr. Ellen Vora   LINKS & RESOURCES    Dr. Ellen Vora Website https://ellenvora.com/   Dr. Ellen Vora Instagram https://www.instagram.com/ellenvoramd/    "The Anatomy of Anxiety" (Dr. Ellen Vora book) https://www.amazon.com/Anatomy-Anxiety-Understanding-Overcoming-Response/dp/0063075091    The Self-Worth Meditation Bundle https://theadultchair.com/worthy    MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Events  https://theadultchair.com/events/    The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist!  https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

www.arastasia.com/bloomwww.arastasia.com/blogwww.instagram.com/arastasiaIn this episode, I share personal insights on how to nurture your well-being affordably. With my own journey of anxiety and childhood trauma, I know therapy isn't always feasible. So, I've discovered four powerful techniques to manage anxiety, creative blocks, and foster self-discovery.I dive into the therapeutic power of podcasts like "The Adult Chair with Michelle Chalfant" for comfort, "Mindset Mentor" for motivation, and "Self Love Fix" for balanced perspective.I emphasize the magic of journaling, guided by books such as "My Pocket Meditations for Self Compassion" and "Healing Through Words" by Rupi Kaur.We explore therapeutic apps, including "7 Cups" for support, "Happify" for meditation and challenges, and "I AM" for tailored affirmations.Lastly, I celebrate the creative journey as a healing path. From painting clouds to doodling, I reveal how creativity anchors my well-being.For a comprehensive guide, download my free "Blooming Creativity" kit. It's packed with resources, journaling prompts, exercises, and scheduling tools. Join me on this journey of self-care and creative growth!Tune in to the full episode and let "Your Artsy Friend" inspire your well-being journey!

Michelle is a licensed therapist, integrated life coach, author and speaker.  She is also the host of the Podcast The Adult Chair Podcast where she helps people to become emotionally healthy adults.  The Adult Chair model is an integrated approach that will help you recognize how all of your life experiences have shaped you — and then use that awareness to regain control, discover your most authentic self and transform your life!    By looking at all of the parts that make up who we are today, we are able to gain greater awareness of why we do what we do, identify conscious and unconscious wounds that hold us back and transform the way these wounds Enjoyed this episode? Please rate, review and subscribe.  Here are some of the things we talked about in today's show:    The importance of inner child work  Why we numb out with food, exercise, shopping, porn etc.  Not letting your ‘adolescent self' run your relationships or career choices Why our triggers are a gift Making friends with that negative or mean inner voice  The false self-overlay and how it stops you connecting to your true self The barriers to developing self-love and how you need to learn the lessons about how to actually do it  And much more   (LINKS) (WEBSITE) https://theadultchair.com/ (FACEBOOK) https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant (LINKEDIN) https://www.linkedin.com/in/michelle-chalfant-103a9b27/?original_referer= (PINTEREST) https://www.pinterest.co.uk/themichellechalfant/ (INSTAGRAM) https://www.instagram.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ (YOUTUBE) https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZ2buoRyaYIjuBugJqwKzDw (PODCAST) https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/ (COURSES) https://courses.theadultchair.com/ https://michellechalfant.com/coaching-certification-program/ https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/367/ (TWITTER) https://twitter.com/michchalfant

On this episode, I talk with the incredible Michelle Chalfant (2/4 Emotional Generator) all about her journey to creating "The Adult Chair Method". We talk about personal power, creating better relationships, parenting, manifesting your reality, and how to heal your inner child to get into the adult chair to make more grounded decisions.The Adult Chair model is an integrated approach that will help you recognize how all of your life experiences have shaped you — and then use that awareness to regain control, discover your most authentic self and transform your life!   By looking at all of the parts that make up who we are today, we are able to gain greater awareness of why we do what we do, identify conscious and unconscious wounds that hold us back and transform the way these wounds impact our lives.Michelle Chalfant is a licensed therapist, master life coach, author, podcaster and motivational speaker. Her work has helped people all over the globe get unstuck, find their true self, grow their self-worth and improve their relationships, creating a life of true freedom and empowerment!Michelle's podcast, The Adult Chair®, has over 8 million downloads and is ranked in the top 3% globally. Blending simple psychology and grounded spirituality, her work gives people the practical tools and techniques they can use to access their personal power and transform their lives.Big Love, MxxMICHELLE'S DETAILSWeb: https://theadultchair.com/Free Gift: theadultchair.com/innerchild IG: @themichellechalfantOTHER RESOURCESWant more on Human Design? Explore the ways to get involved below with courses, memberships, programs and more.Get Your Free Human Design Chart: https://www.emmadunwoody.com/get-your-chartExplore all Human Design Courses: https://www.emmadunwoody.com/storeThe Human Design Experience Membership: https://www.emmadunwoody.com/membershipSupport The Human Design Podcast and your continued learning: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/emmadunwoodyWant to sponsor the podcast? Apply here for the "Millions of Millionaires" project: https://forms.gle/Hs2MGFSuyRrVKJ116Instagram @the_human_design_coachHuman Design FB Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/285696835929546/Music: Spark Of Inspiration by Shane Ivers - https://www.silvermansound.comSupport the show

Cheers. Salud. Skol.    Wherever you are in the world, it seems like alcohol punctuates every celebration.    But have we stopped to ask if alcohol is really good for us? Or have we paused to get curious about why we drink – and when it moves from genuine enjoyment to unhealthy numbing out?   Recently, I've noticed more people having conversations about sobriety, from giving up drinking entirely to swapping a few cocktails for mocktails, and I thought it was time we talked about alcohol through the lens of The Adult Chair®.   In this episode, I'm chatting with Laura McKowen, who has written extensively about getting sober and runs a global sobriety support community. She openly and vulnerably shares her story of using alcohol to numb her emotions, why and how she got sober and what her life looks like now.   We talked about how our culture normalizes excessive drinking, all the emotions that come up when getting sober and ways to tell if you might have an unhealthy relationship with alcohol. If you're at all “sober curious,” you're going to love hearing her perspective!  Listen to discover: Laura's story of getting sober and why she chose to stop drinking How drinking culture normalizes excessive drinking Busting health myths about alcohol The connection between alcohol and anxiety How Laura's life got better when she got sober The way we use alcohol to numb our emotions How to develop a healthier relationship with alcohol, whether you choose to cut it out completely or enjoy it in moderation Like everything in The Adult Chair, we aren't talking in terms of “do” or “don't” or “good” or “bad,” but about bringing consciousness into the decisions we make.   My goal for this show is not to tell you to stop drinking, but to encourage you to take a closer look at when you drink, why you drink and how you drink so you can truly live life to the fullest: present, awake and alive!   "I knew I liked to drink a little too much. I loved it a little too much." - Laura McKowen   [When offered a drink after a bad day] "I don't want a glass of wine. I would like to come talk to you about my emotions though." - Michelle Chalfant   "We end up recreating our life in a way that decenters alcohol...my life is still my life." - Laura McKowen   "When you are drinking even a little more than you want to, it keeps you from facing the truth." - Laura McKowen   "Alcohol provides a really great shield to just sort of skim across the top of life." - Laura McKowen   "I was in a lot of emotional pain. I know that's exactly why I reached for alcohol." - Michelle Chalfant   "We don't get away with not feeling things. It goes somewhere." - Laura McKowen   "Shame disconnects us from our humanity and the humanity in other people." - Laura McKowen   "The not drinking wasn't the cure....it was actually connecting with other people in a meaningful way and healing in relationship with people that allowed me to heal." - Laura McKowen   LINKS & RESOURCES    Laura McKowen Website https://www.lauramckowen.com/    Laura McKowen Instagram https://www.instagram.com/laura_mckowen/   "Push Off From Here" (Laura McKowen Book) https://www.lauramckowen.com/books    The Self-Worth Meditation Bundle https://theadultchair.com/worthy     MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com     The Adult Chair® Events  https://theadultchair.com/events/   The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification   STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

You see their name pop up on your phone, and you immediately notice yourself feeling stressed. It's that friend who always seems to be in crisis, who always calls to gossip or vent. We all know that person…many of us ARE that person.  It's called drama addiction, and there's a part in all of us that is drawn towards chaos and stress. Sometimes this shows up in big, dramatic ways, and other times, it's subtler, like our need to always be busy, doom scroll through the news or argue with someone on social media. My brilliant guest today, Dr. Scott Lyons, is a trauma expert who has studied what is really going on in the brain and body when we're addicted to drama. He breaks down what trauma does in our body, why addiction forms in response and what exactly is happening in our nervous system when we seek out stress, busyness and drama.  Dr. Lyons also helps us navigate situations where others are pulling us into their drama (including news and social media), explaining why we do this, how it affects our nervous systems and the boundaries we can put in place to protect ourselves. This episode is full of major “aha” moments that will help you better understand trauma and how stress affects you, whether you are addicted to drama or know someone who is. Listen to discover: What exactly “drama” is The connection between addiction and trauma Why drama addiction forms and its relationship with the nervous system How social media and 24-hour news has changed our brains and made us more prone to drama addiction How drama addiction affects those around us — and how others' drama affects our nervous system Steps you can take today to minimize addiction to drama We all unconsciously do the things that make us feel safe, accepted, loved and alive. If we grew up in a chaotic or dysregulating environment, drama feels safe to us, and that's why we seek it out.  Understanding your nervous system and how your experiences have shaped it is so empowering and will greatly increase your compassion for yourself and others. This show is a must listen!  “We all know someone addicted to drama.” - Dr. Scott Lyons  “The first part of a stress response is a release of endorphins, is a release of pain relief…So, we become attached, dependent on wanting hits of things that give us essentially that constant stream of pain relief.” - Dr. Scott Lyons “In our nervous systems, our exaggerated responses are justified if we're addicted to drama.” - Dr. Scott Lyons “Self-regulation is the ability to know how much energy, attention and emotion to utilize in our system to properly adapt to a stimulus.” - Dr. Scott Lyons “An addiction to drama looks different on the outside than what it feels like on the inside.” - Dr. Scott Lyons “I've noticed with people in my life that are chronically busy, when there's a space of downtime, boom, it's filled right away.” - Michelle Chalfant “That tornado of chaos that we all know so well, that we've either created ourselves or been pulled into, that is a sad cry for a sense of connection.” - Dr. Scott Lyons “I would think as soon as the internet was created that [drama addiction] became a bigger addiction for most people.” - Michelle Chalfant  “The ways in which media, and social media specifically, operate have replicated the conditions of an addiction to drama, but on an endemic scale.” - Dr. Scott Lyons “We live in a stress economy.” - Dr. Scott Lyons “Negative information — fear, anger, sadness — will be more capturing of our attention than positive news…We are more likely in watching the news to believe bad things will happen to us.” - Dr. Scott Lyons “The most contagious state is a stress state.” - Dr. Scott Lyons “We want the drama.” - Michelle Chalfant “I did so much nervous system work with myself for so many years, and I'm finally in this place of much more balance…now I protect myself from drama.” - Michelle Chalfant “That is the curative to an addiction, and it is belonging. And when we belong to ourselves, we can start to lower the drawbridge and feel intimacy, the safety for intimacy and belonging to other people.” - Dr. Scott Lyons LINKS & RESOURCES  Dr. Scott Lyons Website https://www.drscottlyons.com/ Dr. Scott Lyons Instagram https://www.instagram.com/drscottlyons/ "The Gently Used Human" (Dr. Scott Lyons Podcast) https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-gently-used-human-with-dr-scott-lyons/id1685789759 "Addicted to Drama" (Dr. Scott Lyons Book) https://www.amazon.com/Addicted-Drama-Healing-Dependency-Yourself/dp/0306925834 The Adult Chair® Private Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair Events https://theadultchair.com/events/  The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification     STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/  The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

There's someone in your life you love, but the relationship just isn't working.    Despite your best efforts to communicate and try to work things out, nothing is changing. This person seems totally uninterested in listening to you or working on the relationship.   You've hit a wall, and the relationship feels stuck.   This can be so maddening, frustrating, disappointing and painful! You wouldn't be trying to make it work if you didn't care for this person, but you can't make them change…and you're hurting in the meantime.    I hear from listeners all the time who find themselves in this situation, with a romantic partner, a friend, a family member or a colleague. They want to know: How do you approach this with an Adult Chair perspective…not just for the relationship, but for yourself?   In this episode, I'm giving you five steps to take when you feel stuck or at an impasse with someone in your life. These are all things YOU have the power to do, no matter the other person's response, and they will help you find new clarity, perspective and ideas for navigating this situation.    Listen to discover: A higher perspective on why relationships come and go Five steps to working through a relationship dead end or stalemate The power of acceptance and letting go How to control what you can and release what you can't How to take care of yourself no matter what happens in the relationship  Relationships can be beautiful, hard and everything in between.    It's ok – and even expected – that certain people will come and go throughout our lives. Perhaps you've learned what you're meant to learn and it's time to let go, or perhaps there's something for your soul to learn by working through this difficult process together.   Whether you want to keep fighting for a relationship or you know it's time to end it, the steps in this episode will help you stay in your Adult Chair, control what you can, let go of what you can't and take care of YOU, so you can live with peace and hope no matter what happens with the relationship.   “Have you considered that the reason that you're with this person…is because you needed to learn, grow, transform or find something about yourself?” - Michelle Chalfant   “Acceptance and liking are two very different things.” - Michelle Chalfant   “When you're able to accept somebody for who they are, there's almost like a release that happens. There's a detachment that happens.” - Michelle Chalfant   “People are not going to change until they're ready and willing to change.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Just because the relationship needs to be shifted, it doesn't mean it has to end.” - Michelle Chalfant   “We cannot go around our pain. We go through our pain, and we are stronger on the other side.” - Michelle Chalfant    “Emotions are meant to be experienced, felt and processed, or metabolized, through the body and the energy field. And if we don't build a story around what we're feeling…those emotions move through us.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Boundaries are not confrontational.” - Michelle Chalfant   “To let go is to truly detach from [the] outcome, and we let go of our expectations as well.” - Michelle Chalfant   “It's beautiful when we are able to look at our lives and ask, ‘What do I need?'” - Michelle Chalfant   “Relationships can be beautiful, but they can also be really hard…and they can also be somewhere in the middle.” - Michelle Chalfant   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com        The Adult Chair Events https://theadultchair.com/events/    The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification       STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

It's easy to think everyone processes the world the same way we do. After all, we're all born with a mind that is here to help us make sense of our human experience. But what if there is actually a huge range of ways we each make sense of reality – and superpowers to be found in our ways of processing the world?   Empaths are people whose nervous systems are wired with the ability to mirror others around them; in other words, they can actually feel the experiences of others in their own bodies. This is a beautiful gift to offer the world – and it can also present its challenges for empaths who might find themselves exhausted or disconnected from self because of the environment around them.   In this episode, the ever-wise Sarah Weiss breaks down what an empath is, signs you might be an empath and steps you can take to find grounding and peace as an empath. We also explore why our culture needs to do a better job nurturing these types of abilities in people and the clues that reality is bigger than just the physical world we can see – from fascinating stories about near-death experiences to the path of a soul's spiritual growth.   Listen to discover: What an empath is The difference between an empath and a highly sensitive person Why being an empath is a superpower Signs a child might an empath Why we should be cultivating these types of abilities in people How to find more peace if you're an empath The story of Sarah's near-death experience What near-death experiences, dark nights of the soul and plant medicines can teach us As we learn more about consciousness and the complexity of the mind, it's an invitation into the sacred. Mind-expanding experiences, whether a near-death experience or the way your empathetic brain is naturally wired, give us the opportunity to ask bigger questions about God, soul, the universe and our purpose. The fact that we have the consciousness to ask these questions is a gift – a gift that points to a reality bigger than ourselves.   Let this episode expand your mind and take you on an adventure of asking big questions to understand yourself and the world better!   "You're usually born an empath, and then from the very beginning, you don't understand that you are processing the world in a completely different way than most other people are." - Sarah Weiss   "An empath is someone whose nervous system and brain have a certain physiological configuration...that makes us able to mirror how someone else feels physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually." - Sarah Weiss   "I really believe that empaths are a preview of the future human...it's actually an advanced spiritual quality." - Sarah Weiss   "You do have to learn how to ground yourself and find the definition of your being so you actually have a clear understanding of who you are." - Sarah Weiss   "I just don't see how people can really develop their boundaries without learning about energy." - Sarah Weiss   "There is a wounded child inside most empaths." - Sarah Weiss   "It's not a matter of...'I didn't protect myself enough. I was too overly empathetic.'...Is it just that we just need that alone time to recharge?" - Michelle Chalfant   "I really think that we are severely lacking in the understanding around birth and death and...how important it is to understand, to frame this lifetime, to put it in context." - Sarah Weiss   "There's documented research on [near-death experiences] that's out there." - Michelle Chalfant   "As we develop as human beings, we go through natural initiations...If we were living in a culture that honored and recognized these, then we would derive tremendous meaning from them." - Sarah Weiss   "[The dark night of the soul] is there for a reason, and there are lessons to learn and always something to gain. It's hard though, when you're in the middle of it." - Michelle Chalfant   "I have seen profound healing [through plant medicine]. I've witnessed it... But what's so important is that you do it with a skilled practitioner…The integration is where the greatest healing happens." - Michelle Chalfant   "I think being an empath takes you into the sacred. I think the deep meaning of life gets felt by an empath." - Sarah Weiss   LINKS & RESOURCES   Sarah Weiss Website https://www.spirithealonline.com/   Episode #21: Grounding and the Energy of the Earth with Sarah Weiss https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/21-grounding-and-the-energy-of-the-earth-with-sarah-weiss/   Episode #135: The Enlightened Empath with Sarah Weiss https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/135-the-enlightened-empath-with-sarah-weiss/   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair Events https://theadultchair.com/events/   The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification      STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/   The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

After our incredible conversation with therapist and entrepreneur, Michelle Chalfant, we wanted to take a closer look at imposter syndrome and how it affects our lives. To start, we define what imposter syndrome is, how you can find out if you have it, where it comes from, and how it disrupts our lives. Then, we tackle some solutions for overcoming limiting beliefs including slowing down and taking control of your emotional health, adopting positive affirmations, and moving through life with desire and intention. If you feel like you are living as a fraud, then please tune in, this one is for you!  

It is very easy to tell ourselves that we are not good enough, that we are not worthy, and that we don't deserve to have it all. And in business, self-doubt sticks out like a sore thumb and can deter would-be business partners from working with you. To help us rediscover our worth and to show us that we are indeed valuable, is therapist and entrepreneur, Michelle Chalfant. In our conversation, we get a sense of Michelle's professional background and how she became ingrained in multiple industries. Michelle explains what The Adult Chair podcast is all about, why she launched her coaching certification program, and what her timeline of success looks like. We also discuss the need for hard work, dedication, and persistence, what you can do to navigate low seasons, and how to foster self-worth and beat imposter syndrome. As we explore the recent explosion of the coaching industry, we encourage you to invest in yourself by taking part in Michelle's free Self-Worth Bundle course! We end this informative conversation with examples of how to find your why, how to always put your best foot forward, how to outsource correctly, and Michelle's five tenets for how to be an emotionally healthy adult. Enjoy!  

Join us on the Think Unbroken Podcast for a special compilation episode featuring three incredible experts in the fields of psychotherapy and coaching. First, we sit down with psychotherapist and author Beverly Engel to explore the power of self-compassion and taking control of your life after trauma and sexual abuse. Next, we dive into the transformative work of licensed therapist and holistic life coach Michelle Chalfant, who shares practical tools and techniques for accessing personal power and improving relationships. Lastly, we hear from relationship coach Gloria Zhang, who shares her personal journey and professional insights on healing from complex post-traumatic stress disorder and inner child trauma. Whether you're looking to build resilience, improve relationships, or cultivate self-love and authenticity, this podcast offers valuable insights and strategies to support your healing journey. Tune in now and discover how to unleash your personal power and transform your life. ************* LINKS & RESOURCES ************* Learn how to heal and overcome childhood trauma, narcissistic abuse, ptsd, cptsd, higher ACE scores, anxiety, depression, and mental health issues and illness. Learn tools that therapists, trauma coaches, mindset leaders, neuroscientists, and researchers use to help people heal and recover from mental health problems. Discover real and practical advice and guidance for how to understand and overcome childhood trauma, abuse, and narc abuse mental trauma. Heal your body and mind, stop limiting beliefs, end self-sabotage, and become the HERO of your own story.  Join our FREE COMMUNITY as a member of the Unbroken Nation: https://www.thinkunbrokenacademy.com/share/AEGok414shubQSzq?utm_source=manual   Download the first three chapters of the Award-Winning Book Think Unbroken: Understanding and Overcoming Childhood Trauma: https://book.thinkunbroken.com/   Join the Think Unbroken Trauma Transformation Course: https://coaching.thinkunbroken.com/  @Michael Unbroken: https://www.instagram.com/michaelunbroken/  Follow us on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@michaelunbroken  Learn more at https://www.thinkunbrokenpodcast.com  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When it comes to standing up for ourselves and setting boundaries, there are few places where this is tougher than with our family of origin. Family brings a whole different dynamic to the table: our foundational attachments, our childhood programming, group expectations and our natural loyalty to our parents. The most successful and strongest people I know can still fall into old patterns or feel like younger versions of themselves around their parents and family. In this episode, I'm talking to my friend, Rebecca, whose family would often criticize her when she would set boundaries. Despite being a successful adult and parent herself, Rebecca often felt small and at the whim of her parents' emotions. After a conflict around this issue, Rebecca was invited to a holiday gathering with her mom and dad, and she decided it was time to take empowered steps to change her family dynamics. She turned inward and got clear about what her boundaries were and her plan in case her boundaries were crossed – and she had an entirely different experience at that get together! She connected to a deep sense of self-worth, power and her ability to take care of herself that still radiates from her today. In this show, she's sharing how she did it using The Adult Chair® model and how you can do it too! Listen to discover: ●       How Rebecca learned to stand up for herself and change her family dynamics ●       The inner work Rebecca did to get clear on her boundaries ●       What an embodied boundary feels like ●       Why taking care of ourselves and setting boundaries can lead to healthier relationships What I love about Rebecca's approach is she didn't just ask herself what her boundaries were; she asked herself how she wanted to feel. This helped her stay connected to herself, and it gave her an embodied sense of strength and power.  You can feel her grounded energy just listening to this conversation, and she has so many amazing takeaways to share with us – this one is a must listen! “I didn't know what a true boundary was before all of this.” - Rebecca “My parents never respected me as an adult.” - Rebecca “If they were happy, I was happy.” - Rebecca “I don't like labels, but it does help us to understand why people show up the way they do.” - Michelle Chalfant  “I need to take care of myself because no one will take care of me.” - Rebecca  “We can't set effective, strong, clear boundaries if we don't know what we value inside and who we are on the inside.” - Michelle Chalfant "No one is going to make me feel any other way than how I want to feel. And if they do, it's not selfish to not want to be here." - Rebecca "I hear someone that is choosing their reality versus allowing others to dictate their reality." - Michelle Chalfant "I have the power to change this. I just have to work. That's the thing – you have to work." - Rebecca "Words are powerful...I want my children to understand your words can take you places and can move mountains and can make you feel amazing, if you know how you want to feel." - Rebecca "Unless you have the energy within, then you can't set a firm boundary." - Michelle Chalfant "What's ok for you doesn't have to be ok for anybody else." - Rebecca LINKS & RESOURCES  The Self-Worth Meditation Bundle https://theadultchair.com/worthy  MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com  The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/  The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Resistance. Like gravity, it's such a common part of the human experience that few of us stop to acknowledge it, but it's a force that exists in all of our lives. It's in the fear that pops up when we go to move forward in life. It's in the inner critic, the imposter syndrome and the voice telling us we can't. It's in the writer's block, the snooze button, the procrastination and the distraction. It's the force that pushes against our creativity and our efforts – especially the big dreams that are part of our soul's mission – and none of us is immune to it (nope, not even the greats in their fields). The people who accomplish great things aren't people who don't experience resistance; they're the ones who can recognize it and choose to act anyway. I was so honored to have one of my favorite authors, Steven Pressfield, on the show to talk about the dynamics of resistance in our lives. As a writer, Steven understands this force intimately, and some of his most famous work, like “The War of Art,” has focused on the topic of resistance: what it is, where it comes from and how we can stare it in the face and move forward anyway. In this episode, he shares his own 27-year journey of working with his ego to publish his first book, what he's learned along the way and how he continues to dance with resistance to pursue his soul's calling. Listen to discover: What resistance is and where resistance comes from How to take action even with resistance (and why we shouldn't expect resistance to just "go away") The many different forms resistance can take How to work with resistant voices like the inner critic The mindset of an amateur vs. a pro (and how you can start thinking like a pro from the start) How to handle rejection and failure and get back up again The danger in resistance is failing to recognize it. It's so easy to listen to that negative inner voice and truly believe that something is too hard and we shouldn't do it. By naming resistance and even listening to what it's trying to tell us, we can begin to separate our calling from our egoic fears and make the conscious choice to act anyway. When we do, we might realize it's not nearly as hard as we thought it would be. "When I would hear those voices trying to distract me or those voices telling me I'm unworthy, I would say to myself, 'Well, that's not me talking. Those aren't my thoughts. That's resistance.'" - Steven Pressfield "I'm convinced that resistance is a force of nature." - Steven Pressfield "No matter what your passion is, resistance is going to pop up." - Michelle Chalfant "When you feel massive resistance to something, you know that's the thing you gotta do." - Steven Pressfield "The more resistance you have, the more in line with your soul's mission that you are." - Michelle Chalfant "The bigger the dream, the bigger the resistance." - Steven Pressfield "We will think, 'Well, let me wait until the fear goes away and then I'll do it.' But the reality is that the fear never goes away." - Steven Pressfield "Once you take action, resistance will recede." - Steven Pressfield "Resistance has no strength of its own." - Steven Pressfield "Resistance takes the form of a voice in your head. And the mistake we make...is we think it's our voice." - Steven Pressfield "You certainly cannot argue with resistance. The only way is to dismiss it." - Steven Pressfield "The ego, it's based in fear. It's trying to protect us on some level." - Michelle Chalfant "When we build something big and we're here to help others, resistance is gonna pop up and rejection and failure. It's gonna happen. You keep going anyway." - Michelle Chalfant   LINKS & RESOURCES Steven Pressfield Website https://stevenpressfield.com/ Steven Pressfield Instagram https://www.instagram.com/steven_pressfield/ "The War of Art" (Steven Pressfield book) https://www.amazon.com/War-Art-Through-Creative-Battles/dp/1936891026  "Govt Cheese" (Preorder: new Steven Pressfield book) https://store.stevenpressfield.com/product/govt-cheese-signed-copy/  2023 Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Doors Close December 16, 2022! https://theadultchair.com/certification Free 2023 Journaling Challenge - Starts in January! https://michellechalfant.com/journal/ MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com  The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

If there's one thing that most cases of narcissistic abuse have in common, it's that the narcissist has an incredible ability to blindside their victims. Nearly every story starts out with someone meeting a wonderful, charming person until suddenly their dark side comes out.  Sometimes the abuse can be so subtle that the victim doesn't notice it's happening until it's broken them down. The gaslighting can be so intense that even the strongest person can wonder if they're the crazy one and if it's all their fault.   Narcissism is so, so sinister.   This was what happened to Melanie Tonia Evans after she married what seemed like a wonderful man, before she even knew what a narcissist was. His abuse eventually pushed her into a breakdown that became a moment of healing, as it revealed to her the unhealed places in herself. Today, she has developed her own energy healing method to heal trauma at the soul level – beyond the conscious mind – and help others recover from narcissistic abuse.   In the episode, Melanie talks about the keys to recognizing and healing from narcissistic abuse, how her experience with narcissism led her to healing her own self-worth and inner child and how she eventually learned to love who she really was and become whole. Listen to discover: The dynamics of a narcissistic relationship  How Melanie discovered the unhealed places in herself that attracted her to a narcissistic partner Why it's so hard to leave a narcissist How to heal from narcissistic abuse in your inner world Next steps when leaving a relationship with a narcissist The difference between a survivor and thriver The #1 mistake people make when trying to recover from narcissistic abuse I'm so thankful that narcissism is more widely talked about. While the narcissist is cunning, with the tools to recognize narcissism and become our emotionally healthy true selves, I hope more and more of us can see through the narcissist's careful image and stop being blindsided by abuse. "What really scared me the most was how I started tolerating behaviors I never thought in my wildest dreams that I would be tolerating." - Melanie Tonia Evans   "One of the biggest realizations I had in that epiphany moment was that he was treating me identically to how I'd been treating myself." - Melanie Tonia Evans   "I had plenty of understanding from the chin up, but I wasn't standing in who I was." - Melanie Tonia Evans   "When the person leaves, the narcissist does go after the person that leaves, and it's not pretty."  - Michelle Chalfant   "There's got to be a sense of the inner strength and empowerment in order to leave." - Michelle Chalfant   "The narcissist is a black and white individual." - Melanie Tonia Evans   "You're either serving the false self, where you're amazing. And if you want to get away or you're not, well then you are absolute trash." - Melanie Tonia Evans   "The victim often looks like the perpetrator." - Melanie Tonia Evans   "We actually thrive, not despite what happened to us, but literally because of what happened for us." - Melanie Tonia Evans   LINKS & RESOURCES    Melanie Tonia Evans Website https://www.melanietoniaevans.com/     Melanie Tonia Evans Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program https://courses.melanietoniaevans.com/p/narp     Melanie Tonia Evans Masterclass https://www.recoverhealthrive.com/    The Adult Chair Workshop Nashville: November 3-5, 2022 https://theadultchair.com/nashville     MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com  The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/  The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/  The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification  https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/  The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant 

Anne Moss Rogers will never forget the day she got the news that no parent wants to hear: her son had died. And then a second piece of news came like a punch to the gut: he had died by suicide. Anne Moss and her husband knew he had been struggling with alcohol and drugs, but they didn't realize he had been using substances to mask thoughts of suicide. On top of their loss and grief, they were forced to wrestle with the questions that often come in the wake of suicide: Did they miss the signs? Was there more they could have done? How could such a wonderful person like their son feel so hopeless? In this episode, Anne Moss shares her powerful story of surviving and healing after her son's death, how she overcame the questions and guilt that come when someone close dies by suicide and her work as a mental health and suicide prevention speaker, reaching others who are hurting and educating people on the signs of suicide. Anne Moss uses her expertise to pull back the curtain on a tough topic that we often want to sweep under the rug and gives practical advice on how to talk about suicide, how to help someone who might be contemplating suicide and how to process grief following a suicide.   Listen to discover:  Anne Moss's story and how she has processed the grief of her son's death How Anne Moss overcame the guilt and questions surrounding her son's death The increasing rates of suicide among young people and what might be driving it The signs that someone might be contemplating suicide What to say and what not to say to someone contemplating suicide Correct language for describing suicide Tips for parents concerned about their children   Suicide is becoming a rising cause of death, especially among young people, and while it's a tough topic to talk about, it's one that is too important to ignore. In fact, 86% of people who think about suicide let their intentions be known in some way. Anne Moss's advice in this episode helps us know how to approach this topic with empathy and boldness and how to walk alongside a child or friend who might be struggling.   If you are struggling with thoughts of suicide, please call or text 988 or visit https://988lifeline.org/ to talk to someone who will offer you support and understanding with zero judgment. You don't have to walk through this alone.   "Our love isn't what prevents suicides." - Anne Moss Rogers   "They don't leave because they don't love you...they leave because they are in pain or a place of deep despair." - Anne Moss Rogers   "It is really hard for a lot of humans to walk in and sit with someone in their tragedy." - Anne Moss Rogers   "Time removed [grief's] fangs." - Anne Moss Rogers   "You cannot push pain away. You have to go straight into it to heal it." - Michelle Chalfant   "I'd rather somebody be mad at me than dead." - Anne Moss Rogers   "Your job is to listen with empathy...allowing another person to feel heard is the absolute greatest gift you can give to another human." - Anne Moss Rogers   "86% of those who thought about suicide let their intentions be known in some way."  - Anne Moss Rogers     LINKS & RESOURCES Anne Moss Rogers Blog www.emotionallynaked.com   Anne Moss Rogers Website https://annemossrogers.com/   "Diary of a Broken Mind" (Anne Moss Rogers book) https://www.amazon.com/DIARY-BROKEN-MIND-Mothers-Haunting/dp/0998788163   Suicide Prevention Lifeline Call or text 988 https://988lifeline.org/   The Adult Chair Workshop Nashville: November 3-5, 2022 https://theadultchair.com/nashville     MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com    The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/   The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/   The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification     STAY CONNECTED  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/   The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

We've all heard that relationships are hard work…but why are they so hard? And what does healthy hard work look like versus putting up with behavior we shouldn't?   Dr. Stan Tatkin has a unique approach to answering these questions by looking at relationships through the lens of psychobiology. This means understanding how our brain, our body, our nervous system and our survival instincts can contribute to and work against healthy relationships. Yes, it's as fascinating as it sounds!   In this episode, we talk about how our self-preservation instincts can keep us from experiencing deep relationships and sabotage our happiness, how attachment and projection work, why we pick partners that feel familiar to us and how we can work against the brain's tendency to “get used to” our partners and keep the spark alive!   Listen to discover:  How our survival brains sometimes work against us in relationships Why we pick the partners we do Why relationships change after marriage What projection is and how it works The power of a purpose-centered relationship Practical habits for getting out of self-preservation mode and working towards the good of your relationship How to handle conflict in a relationship The biological reason relationships lose their spark and why curiosity is a game changer   Dr. Tatkin talks about how great partnerships are built not just on love and emotions but shared values, principles and goals. When the partnership develops its own identity and vision, it helps us look beyond ourselves and seek the good of the whole instead of just the good of ourselves.   This way of thinking and the habits that go along with it create powerful loyalty, intimacy and love that grows with time. This episode will help you work with your human nature to build stronger, more mutually fulfilling relationships with your love…and who doesn't want that?!   "[Secure functioning relationships] are built on full equality, parity, fairness, justice, sensitivity, collaboration and cooperation. That's a very simple idea that's hard to do." - Dr. Stan Tatkin   "When we are threatened or under-resourced, under stress, we are more likely to act and react automatically."  - Dr. Stan Tatkin   "We have brains that are always aware of what's missing...what we don't have."  - Dr. Stan Tatkin   "We are picking partners that look familiar, feel familiar in some way." - Michelle Chalfant   "It makes sense that we would pick somebody that's familiar enough to get close to but stranger enough to be interested in."  - Dr. Stan Tatkin   "We are in projection all the time." - Michelle Chalfant   "We've never lived outside our heads, and we never will. It's all perception." - Dr. Stan Tatkin   "When being in a relationship, one has to surrender that their perception is correct, that their reality is correct, in favor of the relationship." - Dr. Stan Tatkin   "We're inter-dependent, which means we have the same things to lose and the same things to gain."  - Dr. Stan Tatkin   "[Our partner is] a stranger that we're always trying to get to know." - Dr. Stan Tatkin   "Humans have a hard time with ownership and apologizing." - Michelle Chalfant   "A purpose-based relationship is a commitment to do the right thing when it's the hardest thing to do."  - Dr. Stan Tatkin   "When you become ordinary is when I look for the unique and novel in you. That's my job." - Dr. Stan Tatkin     LINKS & RESOURCES Dr. Stan Tatkin Website https://www.thepactinstitute.com/   Dr. Stan Tatkin Retreats for Couples https://www.thepactinstitute.com/retreats   Adult Chair® Coaches https://theadultchair.com/coaches/   The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification     MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com    The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/   The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/   The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification     STAY CONNECTED  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/   The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

You think you're a good person, you genuinely love your partner and you try to do the right thing …so why are you struggling in your relationship? Why do you and your partner feel unhappy, disconnected and maybe even headed for divorce?   These are the questions Matt Fray asked himself after his marriage ended. He knew he was a decent guy. He knew he had loved his wife, been faithful and done the things he thought he was “supposed” to do in a marriage – yet one day she came to him and asked for a divorce. As he walked through the grief and pain of that experience, he began a journey of self-reflection and blogging to try to understand what went wrong and how people can truly have healthy relationships.   What he uncovered was a series of small habits and dynamics that added up in his relationship and eroded trust and safety over time…and that these dynamics exist in nearly all relationships, including relationships made up of good people who really do love each other. Now, he's on a mission to help good people become good partners by understanding the root of relationship problems and how to fix them.   In this episode, Matt reveals the invisible habits that kill relationships, how we can turn our relationships around and how to build trust, safety and lifelong love.   Listen to discover: Matt's story of his marriage ending and what he did next The habits and blind spots that damage and even destroy our relationships The three ways we invalidate people unintentionally Why defensiveness can be so damaging The importance of empathy and consideration in relationships How to break the cycle of invalidation and build trust and safety Nothing in life is static. Either we're cultivating our relationships and on a trajectory of trust or we're neglecting our relationships and on a trajectory of breakdown. Too often, we can't see this trajectory until it all falls apart. I love Matt's work because he's helping us open our eyes to the invisible ways we're either creating or damaging our relationships, even when things seem “fine,” and giving us one of the most important gifts a person can have: the power of choice to do things differently and change the trajectory we're on. “There's so much power in that ‘I'm not alone' experience.” - Matt Fray   “That's when healing truly began — when I took ownership and responsibility for my lot in life.” - Matt Fray   “When you think you're a good person, it's so easy to not accept responsibility for harm that's being experienced by someone else.”- Matt Fray   “Very good people who really, truly love each other can do this to one another.” - Matt Fray   “Once you associate invalidation with the erosion of trust, then you can make the conscious decision to validate.” - Matt Fray   “When we go through something unusual, it is our job to share, ‘You know, I really need help with this,' and it's our partner's job to show up and say, ‘I've got you.'” - Michelle Chalfant   “It's not about being right – it's being there in it with that person.” - Michelle Chalfant   “The low-hanging fruit…is ‘I'm not going to invalidate.'” - Matt Fray     LINKS & RESOURCES Matt Fray Website https://matthewfray.com/   “This Is How Your Marriage Ends” (Matt Fray book) https://www.amazon.com/This-Your-Marriage-Ends-Relationships/dp/0063072254/   “The Mask You Live In” Documentary https://therepproject.org/films/the-mask-you-live-in/     MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com    The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/   The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/   The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification     STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/   The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

The world around us demands so much of us. If we're not careful, it can erode our souls, steal our true selves and get us to believe lies about the source of our worth. We have to become conscious and aware to step into our true power and a whole, awakened life.   I have been a huge fan of Dr. Shefali for years. I got SO much out of her work on conscious parenting when my kids were young, and it's no wonder she's become so well known for her work. But her new book might just be my favorite yet — I truly couldn't put it down (it's SO aligned with The Adult Chair®) — and I'm beyond thrilled to have her on the show to discuss how to have a radical (and beautiful) awakening in life.   In this conversation, we explore the way our ego and our social conditioning covers up the true self and keeps us from living free lives. This can be especially true for those oriented towards giving, nurturing and connecting. Society takes these gifts and trains us to be outward focused, seeking praise, validation and approval instead of turning inward and claiming who we really are.   Dr. Shefali shares her own story of awakening, when she realized that despite her work, she was living in the “matrix” and ignoring her true wants and needs to try to get love from others (what she calls the “beggar” mentality). By going deep into the often difficult work of looking at the ego and the masks we all wear, she was able to strip away the lies and see what was true — and step into the authentic self-love and self-care we all deserve.   Listen to discover: Shefali's own radical awakening The trap women (and men) fall into How to stop suppressing the true self What soul erosion is and how it forms The “triple threat” women face in childhood The role of the ego in our life What keeps us from awakening (especially in our culture) This is a profound conversation that will take the blinders off and change what you think is normal, while inspiring you to strive for what is truly possible for you — and for all of us.   “We, women especially, need to snap out of our chronic civility, helplessness and unworthiness.”  - Dr. Shefali   “We cannot waste our life never discovering our true self.” - Dr. Shefali   “When we're told we can only be given worth when we put others before ourselves, now that giving heart leads to an obliteration of ourselves.” - Dr. Shefali   “We're so disconnected from our true self, we don't know who we are at all.” - Michelle Chalfant   “The way out is in. We have to go in to heal.” - Michelle Chalfant   “I want what's on the other side of that wall, but you got to go through the wall, and the wall is our pain.” - Michelle Chalfant   “We tell ourselves the greatest stories in the world, and we don't know we're telling ourselves stories.” - Dr. Shefali   “The greatest narcissism is to pretend you're not a queen or a king and not own your voice.” - Dr. Shefali   Resources “A Radical Awakening” Book and Course http://aradicalawakening.com/    Dr. Shefali Website https://www.drshefali.com/   Free Inner Child Resource https://theadultchair.com/innerchild   More Adult Chair The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com    The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/   The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/   The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/   Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/   The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Do you know what anxiety really feels like? I'm not talking about the emotions of fear or stress, but what it feels like in your body. So many of us live with anxiety and don't even know it because it's SO physical. It's even easy to mistake it for physical disease, like heart issues or digestive issues. That was the case for Abbe Greenberg and Maggie Sarachek, two soul sisters who are both mental health professionals and the founders of Anxiety Sisters, a supportive community for those living with anxiety. Though they can now see how their anxiety began showing up in early childhood, for years, they bounced from doctor to doctor and even spent time in the hospital before realizing the root cause of their suffering was anxiety. This began their passion to help raise awareness around anxiety and help anxiety sufferers learn how to live full, happy lives – anxiety and all. We had an incredible conversation about all things anxiety and how to heal it, and I resonated with so many parts of their story…these ladies are the real deal! Listen to discover: Our stories of recognizing and healing anxiety How anxiety manifests as physical symptoms The power of acceptance in managing anxiety Why connection is key to healing anxiety How to pack a "spin kit" so you'll be prepared when anxiety strikes The difference between anxiety and a panic attack How to overcome phobias and agoraphobia I know I have a lot of favorite topics, but anxiety is one I really feel we can't talk about enough. Too many people in the world are suffering from anxiety without even knowing it, and we have so many tools – from our support system to our sensory system – to help us find peace and balance in life. It's not about never feeling anxious again, but learning how to find your own brand of happiness and how to take charge so anxiety no longer runs the show. "I still didn't have the vocabulary or the words to make these connections of what I was feeling and how that was connected to anxiety."  - Maggie Sarachek   "Anxiety becomes really debilitating when it's in the driver's seat." - Abbe Greenberg   "I think there is this process of accepting anxiety." - Maggie Sarachek   "Acceptance doesn't mean anything other than, 'This is where I am.'" - Michelle Chalfant   "Our brand of happy is anxious happy." - Abbe Greenberg   "Anxiety can no longer sneak up on you. And when it can't sneak up on you, it takes away two thirds of its power." - Abbe Greenberg   "No two people have the same exact anxiety and panic." - Michelle Chalfant   LINKS & RESOURCES Anxiety Sisters Website https://anxietysisters.com/   Anxiety Sisters Facebook https://www.facebook.com/anxietysisters *Home of a Tuesday night book club + supportive community   The Spin Cycle (Anxiety Sisters Podcast) https://anxietysisters.com/podcasts/   "The Anxiety Sisters' Survival Guide" (Anxiety Sisters Book) https://anxietysisters.com/anxiety-sisters-survival-guide/    The Adult Chair® Private Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/     MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com    The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/   The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/   The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification   STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/   The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

We all have limiting beliefs that hold us back in life. But what if you've experienced significant trauma as well? How do you distinguish between a trauma response and limiting or negative thinking? How do you find the power to heal when things have happened that were out of your control?   My guest today, Michael Unbroken, has an intense and powerful story of overcoming unspeakable trauma, growing up with abuse, addiction and homelessness. At one point, he wanted to end his own life. But he made a decision to live, and in doing so, discovered that the only path forward started within.   In this incredible conversation, Michael shares how he was able to break the cycle of trauma in his life and consciously choose a different path for himself. This is an inspiring and vulnerable conversation that will challenge you to take ownership of your life, treat yourself with grace and kindness and live life fully! Listen to discover: Michael's incredible story of healing from trauma and turning his life around The steps for overcoming limiting beliefs How to get past fear and start living your life How to actually change your life (and why you have to get out of the way first) The power of vulnerability The importance of a mentor Transforming limiting beliefs starts with taking ownership of the way we think about life, no matter what we've been through. What happened to us is not our fault, but it does become our job to take responsibility for it and make a choice to create the healthy, whole life we want to live. We all have the power to do this, and I hope this episode inspires you to find everything that's possible for you.   “It's never going to be one thing that changes your life.” - Michael Unbroken   “What you think becomes what you speak. What you speak becomes your actions, and your actions become your reality.” - Michael Unbroken   “If we're sitting waiting for someone to rescue us, we're in the seat of the victim.” - Michelle Chalfant   “We have to create different. We have to create better. If we want a different life, we have to make different choices.” - Michelle Chalfant   “It will change everything about the fabric of your experience of this life when you're willing to be real.” - Michael Unbroken   LINKS & RESOURCES Michael Unbroken Website https://www.thinkunbroken.com/   Michael Unbroken Podcast https://www.thinkunbrokenpodcast.com/   Michael Unbroken Instagram https://www.instagram.com/michaelunbroken/   Michael Unbroken Facebook https://www.facebook.com/MichaelUnbroken/   MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com    The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/   The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/   The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification     STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/   The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Sometimes, it takes losing everything you know to start over and begin the journey of healing.   Caroline Strawson is an internationally recognized trauma-informed therapist and coach who helps her clients recover from narcissistic abuse and complex PTSD and create thriving lives. Her journey began with her own story of loss when, in a very short period of time, her mother passed away, her narcissistic husband left her and their two young children and she discovered he had gotten them into $100,000 of debt, leading to the loss of her home and the life she had built.   Facing PTSD, anxiety, depression, self-harm, guilt and shame, Caroline turned inward and took a close look at herself, her life and her relationships – and has since become a leader in trauma-informed recovery and healing from abuse.   In this conversation, Caroline shares her story of overcoming narcissistic abuse, how she finally recognized the abuse and how she began the journey of healing. She offers deep insights into how childhood wounding forms, how we develop “protector parts” and how those parts can lead to struggles like codependency and narcissism. She is a wealth of knowledge on trauma, how we get stuck in life, and how to move forward.   Listen to discover: The source of childhood wounding and trauma How our nervous system is designed to protect us Why codependents and narcissists are magnets for each other (and why it's easier for the codependent to change) How we can feel compassion for wounded people without accepting abuse Why people stay in abusive relationships and how to help a friend in an abusive relationship The difference between PTSD and complex PTSD How to begin building self-worth even if you're still in an abusive relationship   Whether you've been in a relationship with a narcissist or not, you will get SO much out of this episode and gain a greater understanding of why you do what you do, what is going on in your brain in relation to trauma, and how to heal your wounding so you can form healthier relationships with self and others.   "Initially I was waiting for that epiphany of him changing to then be ok for me to move forward. And of course, that isn't the case. Because we can't change anybody."  - Caroline Strawson "Trauma isn't a person. It's not an event. It's what I feel and what I'm saying to myself about those events." - Caroline Strawson "Our system all of the time is working to keep us safe, keep us alive, protect us, and move us away from the biggest perceived pain.” - Caroline Strawson "No narcissist is born. They are created from their childhood." - Caroline Strawson  "The codependent is giving, giving, giving trying to soothe their self-worthiness wounds. The narcissist is like, 'Give it to me. I'll take, take, take,' to soothe their self-worthiness wounds." - Caroline Strawson "I think of narcissism on a scale." - Michelle Chalfant "When we're in these relationships, our reality is so distorted. To build self-worth is to then start seeing reality much clearer." - Michelle Chalfant "Grounding and getting all five senses online also helps us with our reality. We stop doubting ourselves." - Michelle Chalfant   LINKS & RESOURCES Caroline Strawson Website https://www.carolinestrawson.com/   Caroline Strawson Facebook https://www.facebook.com/carolinestrawson/   Caroline Strawson Instagram https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/   “Divorce Became My Superpower” (Caroline Strawson Book) https://www.amazon.com/Divorce-Became-Superpower-Caroline-Strawson/dp/1726255549   MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com    The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/   The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/   The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification     STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/   The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

We live in a world that's both more connected and more disconnected than ever. With things like Zoom, FaceTime, and social media, we can get in touch with others with the click of a button. But we also have an epidemic of loneliness. We scroll by each other without really engaging with each other. Even in our most intimate relationships, we can easily find ourselves co-existing without connecting at the heart level. The busyness of our world will naturally cause us to drift apart from each other without intentional effort, so a few years ago, my husband and I started building small “rituals of connection” into our week. These are moments – like our weekend coffee chats – that we've set aside to be fully present with each other and share more vulnerably, authentically, and from the heart. During one of our recent coffee chats, we had a beautiful conversation about how we can create more connection in our relationships with each other and others, and with Graham's permission, I recorded our conversation to share with you all. In this conversation, we talk about the power of intentional connection, how important true connection is for maintaining trust and happiness in relationships, and how you can build moments of connection into a busy schedule. Graham shares one of his favorite tools to take a conversation deeper and how this tool can help people who might feel threatened by intimacy begin to flex their vulnerability muscles and move into a deeper relationship with their partner. Listen to discover: How you can build rituals of connection into your relationship Exercises to get the conversation flowing and create a deeper connection How to build up your ability to share emotions Ways to encourage your partner to share their emotions more Staying centered even when having a tough conversation The power of masterful listening and responding instead of reacting How to create more safety in your relationships It's so easy to work and live alongside others but never really connect. If you've ever found yourself in a relationship or surrounded by people but still feeling lonely, this is why! But with small, intentional steps, we can totally transform the nature of our relationships and find those soul connections we're all looking for. This episode gives an inside look into how two normal, busy people are practicing this together, and I hope it encourages you to start this journey with the ones you love – friends, family, partners, anyone! "Drop inside and...drop below the chin. Get curious about what's going on in the body." - Michelle Chalfant   "If you can't identify [the emotion], just get the sense of what's going on in your body and share that." - Michelle Chalfant   "Expressing that is easy for everybody, and it's a great opening to deeper conversations." - Graham Chalfant   "If we as humans had ideas about the range of emotions that we can feel, we would say more than, 'I'm mad, sad, glad, afraid or ashamed.'"  - Michelle Chalfant   "We have so many emotions we can feel, but we're not brought up to feel more emotions than those typical five."  - Michelle Chalfant   "See if you can't sit down with the person in your life and just touch base with a couple words." - Graham Chalfant   "It would be a huge improvement for most couples and people in relationships to touch base once a day or a couple times a week." - Graham Chalfant   "We're getting in the habit of exchanging energy in this way." - Michelle Chalfant   "You want to always own your experience...that is a much more open way of inviting in that other person to discuss it versus putting that person in defense." - Michelle Chalfant   "Swooping in and fixing when someone feels bad is the worst thing that you can do for a relationship." - Michelle Chalfant   LINKS & RESOURCES Share Your Love: Review The Adult Chair® Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-adult-chair/id941317634?mt=2&ign-mpt=uo%3D4   MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com    The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/   The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/   The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification     STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/   The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

As human beings, we are hardwired to heal. Think about it: if you get a cut or a scrape, your body naturally repairs itself. If you get a cold or flu, your immune system kicks in to fight off the invader and keep you healthy.   Healing is our birthright…so if we're experiencing disease, it's a sign that something is blocking our natural ability to heal.   Dr. Kulreet Chaudhary is a neurologist and Ayurvedic medicine expert who looks at healing through the lens of energy and harmony, bringing the mind, body, and soul into balance so the body can do what it was designed to do: heal itself.   Though the cause of disease can be physical, such as a toxin, or emotional, such as unprocessed trauma, the key isn't to treat symptoms but to go in and remove the blocks in our energy so healing can once again flow through the body.   Dr. Chaudhary calls this “quantum biology,” using energy, sound, and frequency (since we are made of energy after all) to change our bodies at the cellular level.   In this absolutely fascinating episode, Dr. Chaudhary talks about the science of Ayurveda, the emotional connection to chronic disease, why sound and frequency has such power to heal and how we can flip the script on how we think about health and wholeness in today's world.   Listen to discover: The roots of Ayurveda and why it's about living in harmony and balance Why health is our birthright The root of sickness and why the source of sickness can be physical or emotional The choices and changes we can make to live in more harmony and health Understanding the biology of energy and how science is catching up to ancient ideas about energy What "sound medicine" is and the different types of mantras you can use for healing A demo of Dr. Chaudhary's chakra mantra Next steps you can take to put Dr. Chaudhary's approach into practice Because of her neurology background, Dr. Chaudhary has an amazing ability to take these ancient concepts and ground them in science, helping us bring these beautiful ancient practices into our modern world.   This show gives me so much hope for the future and reminds me why the work we're doing in The Adult Chair® is so powerful: because healing our trauma changes us at the cellular level.   “It just woke me up to a way of integrating the view of the body and mind to create health in a much more efficient way.” - Dr. Kulreet Chaudhary   "That's how we're supposed to live: in harmony and balance with everything." - Michelle Chalfant   "This was an approach to living where health was the natural repercussion of living with consciousness about our relationship with the planet and our relationship with each other." - Dr. Kulreet Chaudhary   "When you understand who you really are and when you get to that part of union with nature, the laws of nature change." - Dr. Kulreet Chaudhary   "If we're constantly healing, then what's keeping us sick?" - Dr. Kulreet Chaudhary   "Our normal set point is of excellent health." - Michelle Chalfant   "In my experience, anything that has been chronic over time has a psychological component." - Dr. Kulreet Chaudhary   "The body is a map to the mind." - Dr. Kulreet Chaudhary   "Our cells are singing...and when we become diseased, they change their tune." - Dr. Kulreet Chaudhary   "The chakra system is the highway where all of these energetic systems suddenly collide." - Dr. Kulreet Chaudhary   "The sounds that you yourself make in terms of your thoughts, the words that you speak, are shaping your health." - Dr. Kulreet Chaudhary   LINKS & RESOURCES Dr. Kulreet Chaudhary Website https://drkulreetchaudhary.com/   "Sound Medicine"  (Dr. Kulreet Chaudhary book) https://www.amazon.com/dp/0062867334   Healthy Directions https://www.healthydirections.com/dr-kulreet-chaudhary   Chakra Mantra Demo starts at 53:45 in the episode   The Adult Chair® Membership (June Theme: Grounding) https://theadultchair.com/membership/   MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com    The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/   The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/   The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification     STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/   The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

I'm sure we all have an image that comes into our minds when we think about psychedelics – probably something related to hippies, jam bands, and wild colors and shapes. But what if there's something more to these substances? What if they could be powerful tools for healing? I know, I know: when I first heard people ask that question, I was skeptical too. I thought of psychedelics as drugs, and I definitely don't advocate for drug use or numbing out instead of feeling emotions. But when I started researching the history of psychedelics and how they are being used in therapeutic settings, I began to open my mind to their possibilities, and I invite you to approach this episode with an open mind as well. My guest today, Paul Austin, is a young entrepreneur leading the charge on making responsible, therapeutic use of psychedelics more understood and accepted. As Paul explains in the episode, the reason psychedelics have such healing potential is that they make the unconscious mind manifest, so we can see our shadow beliefs and understand the "why" behind some of the patterns in our lives. They can help us process trauma without activating the fear response in the brain and help us see life from a new perspective, which can heal anxiety, depression, PTSD and other issues at the source. Paul does an amazing job breaking down the most common psychedelics, exactly how they work in the brain and what the experience is like with each one. We talk about the importance of intention, environment, and dosage (we are NOT advocating for using these at, say, Bonnaroo) and why it's essential to have a therapist with you in the experience.    Listen to discover: What a psychedelic actually is A breakdown of the common psychedelics  The importance of using these substances in a therapeutic setting for proper dosing, guidance, and integration of the experience  Demystifying the psychedelic experience  How various psychedelics work in the brain and what each one is helpful in treating What microdosing is and how it works Psychedelics are an intriguing topic that I actually get asked about a lot, and I hope you guys enjoy this research-driven episode that just might change your mind about these powerful plant medicines.  "The word 'psychedelic' literally means 'mind manifesting.'" - Paul Austin   "Psychedelics are phenomenal ways that we can heal unknown aspects of self." - Michelle Chalfant   "There's a way to do this appropriately and consciously and in a healthy way." - Michelle Chalfant   "What ketamine does neurologically, or to the brain if you will, is that it does a phenomenal job of dissolving the ego." - Paul Austin   "A lot of these mental health conditions, whether it's anxiety, depression or OCD, are caused by rigidity in the brain." - Paul Austin   "That inner healing intelligence that's so often shut down, psychedelics often help to bring that to the forefront."  - Paul Austin   "We look at things one way. And with a psychedelic, you get to look at it from a higher perspective and from a different perspective." - Michelle Chalfant   "Oftentimes the healing potential from psilocybin is because you're basically facing your trauma head on." - Paul Austin   "Having someone to help you integrate is hugely important. You have to have a therapist or a guide or someone that sits with you." - Michelle Chaflant   LINKS & RESOURCES  The Third Wave (Paul Austin Company) https://thethirdwave.co/    Paul Austin Website https://www.paulaustin.co/   Paul Austin Instagram https://www.instagram.com/paulaustin3w/    Paul Austin Twitter https://twitter.com/PaulAustin3w    Episode #228: Breakthrough Treatments For Anxiety, Depression And Stress with Dr. David Rabin https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/228/    Fantastic Fungi https://fantasticfungi.com/watch/    "A Really Good Day"  https://www.amazon.com/Really-Good-Day-Microdosing-Difference/dp/1664458972   Adult Chair® Coaches https://theadultchair.com/coaches/    MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com     The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/   The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/   The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification  https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfantCo/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

We all experience emotions, but most of us don't really understand what emotions are. These feelings can drastically alter our day, our life and our experience in the world, yet they're intangible and often messy and confusing. It's no wonder many of us try to avoid them altogether.    Well, get ready to have your mind blown and to see emotions in a whole new light in this brilliant episode with Dr. Joan Rosenberg. Dr. Rosenberg began her study of emotions when she was trying to figure out what made some people confident in life, and her finding was surprising: confidence didn't just come from a sense of self-esteem but from our ability to handle uncomfortable emotions.   As she dug deeper into the human emotional experience, she uncovered a world of surprises around our understanding of emotions and how we can better process, experience and master our emotions.    We talked about why emotions are so uncomfortable for us (it's not why you think), what a compliment really is and why it matters so much, what drives fear, anxiety and grief, our fears around emotions and how we get stuck in emotion. Dr. Joan also shares her formula for feeling, experiencing and expressing the eight core emotions in an authentic way that helps them truly move through us.   Listen to discover: The unexpected key to building confidence "The Rosenberg Reset" formula to build confidence The 3 things that cause our uncomfortable feelings to linger (it's not the feelings themselves!) Steps to build more confidence  The true power of a compliment (this one left me speechless) What's actually underneath fear and anxiety   Why we need to both feel AND express our emotions As much as I talk about emotions, I was still left speechless more than once in this episode as Dr. Rosenberg got to the heart of what is really beneath certain emotions and my perspective was shifted in so many ways. This is a truly empowering show that will help you live a more balanced and confident life.   “We need to learn as humans how to feel our emotions.” - Michelle Chalfant    “The ability or the capacity to handle unpleasant feelings really is the foundation of confidence.” - Dr Joan Rosenberg   “I think of confidence as the deep sense that you can handle the emotional outcome of whatever you face or whatever you pursue.” - Dr. Joan Rosenberg   "We're one interconnected whole...The brain is always feeding information to the body, and the body is always feeding information to the brain." Dr. Joan Rosenberg   "It comes down to handling short-lived bodily sensation waves." - Dr. Joan Rosenberg   "100% of the time that sensation morphs and vanishes if they stay with it." - Michelle Chalfant   "We metabolize feeling by feeling it and expressing it." - Dr. Joan Rosenberg   "If you want to stop your ruminating thoughts, you have to feel the emotion that's underneath the rumination." - Michelle Chalfant   "I think of the ability to speak up as the superglue to confidence." - Dr. Joan Rosenberg   "A compliment is a reflection of you back to you." - Dr. Joan Rosenberg   "What looks like arrogance is insecurity." - Dr. Joan Rosenberg   "Disguised grief is the gap between what we wanted, what we needed, what we felt we deserved and what we really got." - Dr. Joan Rosenberg   LINKS & RESOURCES  Dr. Joan Rosenberg https://drjoanrosenberg.com/     “90 Seconds to a Life You Love” (Dr. Joan Rosenberg book) https://www.amazon.com/Seconds-Life-You-Love-Authenticity/dp/1478999764     Dr. Joan Rosenberg TED Talk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKy19WzkPxE     MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com     The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/   The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/   The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification  https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfantCo/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Anyone who knows me knows I LOVE deep conversation, and in this show, I'm letting you in on a beautiful conversation I had with my husband during one of our weekly coffee chats. This was totally unplanned, but as our chat turned into a conversation about the soul, connection and spiritual practice, I felt such important information coming through and hit “record” so all of you could join us in thinking about how to live a more grounded and loving life.   As humans, most of us live from the place of ego. We stay busy to push down our feelings of loneliness and separateness and miss the presence of something bigger that's in front of us at all times. When we connect into this deeper part of self, we find comfort, inspiration, ideas and unconditional love.    So, how do we do this? I believe it's through a “soul practice” of stillness. Stillness is different from meditation, which is quieting the mind to observe our thoughts. Stillness, on the other hand, is stopping all the “doing” and chatter of life and tuning into the deeper parts of our being – our soul.    While this might seem like something reserved for the monks or Zen masters, we can ALL make this a part of life – without quitting our jobs, skirting our responsibilities or even really changing our schedule. In this episode, I share what my soul practice looks like and how I work stillness into my day, one minute at a time.   Listen to discover: Steps to connect with your soul Why even meditation can be driven by the ego How to integrate “micro-moments” of stillness into your day The importance of stopping the constant "doing" and instead just "being" The source of inspiration and comfort How to live a more heart-centered life connected to something bigger True stillness is not ego-driven or another task to cross off our list. It's letting go and just “being” so that something more can come in.  When you get to the end of this episode, I challenge you to sit in stillness for just one minute (and I literally mean 60 seconds!) and make space for your soul. It's the place I'm striving to live from more and more each day. “The soul is never not with us. The human body is a garage for the soul.” - Michelle Chalfant   “The ideas come when I sit in these moments of stillness.” - Michelle Chalfant    “For me at least, and I think many other people, the meditation feels like more doing. So, even though it's quieting the mind, you're doing something.” - Graham Chalfant    “Micro-moments of stillness create relaxation in the nervous system.” - Michelle Chalfant    “One of the fastest ways to slow yourself down is to slow your breath down.” - Michelle Chalfant    “The revolutionary part is that this is the “‘not doing.'” - Graham Chalfant    “When sitting in stillness, we are able to connect with that thing that we all have come from.” - Michelle Chalfant    “If you'd stop doing and stop running so far ahead, the comfort's right here.” - Graham Chalfant   "We're looking for that connection home again, and home is right inside of all of us."  - Michelle Chalfant   LINKS & RESOURCES    The Adult Chair® Membership (May Theme: How to stop negative thinking)  https://theadultchair.com/membership/   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com     The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/   The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/   The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification  https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfantCo/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

If you've been around The Adult Chair® for a minute, you've heard me say that happiness is an inside job. We are so prone to believe that joy comes from our external circumstances, which leads us to strive and strive for what we think will finally make us happy and blame others for our unhappiness. But the reality is that nothing outside of us will be able to make us happy if we don't first cultivate a sense of joy and peace within. My guest today, Monique Rhodes, discovered this truth when she went on her own journey of understanding what makes some people happy in life while others suffer. Though today she works as a happiness strategist and calls herself “annoyingly happy,” this wasn't always the case. After a difficult childhood and a number of tragedies, she ended up in the hospital after attempting to take her own life, which led her to explore a wide range of cultures, philosophies and practices to figure out if happiness was something she could actually create in her life. And it turns out, she could!  In this episode, Monique shares the practical habits she uses every day to cultivate a sense of happiness in her life and why they make such a difference in our mental state. These are all simple, free and fast practices that work by shifting our minds towards the positive and helping us see the good that already exists in our world.    Listen to discover: The strategies that helped her go from depression to daily happiness  Practical tools to increase happiness  What meditation is and what it isn't  The cause of suffering How taking responsibility for our lives changes everything  Building healthy social connections for happiness  How to get out of a funk or take steps toward happiness if you're feeling depressed We've all had that experience where we finally get the job, the house, the relationship, the body or whatever it is we've been wanting only to find that nothing about our lives really changes; we still feel sad, depressed or lonely. This is proof that our mental state is what drives our happiness, not things!  Using the practices in this episode, you can turn up the positive in your life, which will help you find joy no matter your circumstances and help you be more present with the good things that do happen in your life – the icing on the cake of an already happy and peaceful life.   “Where we live is in our mind, and when was the last time that we cleaned out our mind?” - Monique Rhodes   “We believe that happiness and suffering comes from our external circumstances. But it doesn't. It comes from that mind that we just do not take care of.” - Monique Rhodes   “We have emotional reactions that are triggered usually by things that happened in the past.” - Monique Rhodes   “A meditation practice every day is a game changer.” - Monique Rhodes   “With meditation, consistency is way more important than intensity.” - Monique Rhodes   “Commit to something that you're willing to commit to, and if you don't have 10 minutes out of a whole day, you really gotta think about your life.” - Michelle Chalfant   “I think being happy is our birthright.” - Monique Rhodes   “You can find gratitude in anything. You just have to look.” - Michelle Chalfant    LINKS & RESOURCES  Monique Rhodes Website https://moniquerhodes.com/    The Adult Chair® Membership (April Theme: Emotional Regulation) https://theadultchair.com/membership/   The Adult Chair® Private Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com     The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/   The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/   The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification  https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfantCo/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant