Sexploration with Monika

Sexploration With Monika Interviews, "Shameless" Heather Atlas about Somatica, Non-Violent Communication (NVC), your inner family, and how to go from trauma to healing with modalities like core erotic themes and feeling states. NVC is a powerful communication framework. It's designed to foster empathy, understanding, and connection—especially in emotionally charged situations.    

- Drag Queen Joan Jett Blakk (Terreance Smith) campaigns for Mayor and President of the United States. - Pioneered efforts in human and women's rights. - Rocky Horror Picture Show'esque campaign chants - Activism-inspired play starring Tarell Alvin McCraney at Steppenwolf's award-winning theater production.   Recorded at Edge Studios online in San Francisco

Sexploration with Monika, guest Neo-Tantric Sex Educator Amara Karuna, with Token Straight Guy: Dylan who is a professional nurse at Kaiser. We talk about pleasure, orgasm , female ejaculation & cervical orgasm. Many People Don't Know About The Diffrent Kinds Of Orgasms & In Addtion To The Clitoral Orgasm You Can Have An Ejaculitive Or Gushing G-Spot Orgam & Even A Cervical Orgasm! The Taoists Call The Cervical Orgasm The Shower Of Stars. We Learn About How The Unconscious Patterns  We May Have Picked Up In Childhood Like Not Breathing, Being Quiet & Not Moving Can Interfere Not Only With Your Sexual Pleasure But Even With The Small Joys That We Experience Every Day, Like Eating, Listening To Music Or Watching A Sunset. How We Can Be More Present In Each Moment & How To Find The Pleasure Of Being, Even When It Is A Small Daily Task. We Talk About Different Reward Chemicals Like Dopamine, Serotonin, Oxytocin & Other Neurotransmitters & Endorphins. 

Did you know that it was illegal to even dance in the Middle East? Perhaps you have heard that people in the Middle East are not allowed to wear Western clothing but did you know it was illegal for them to dance? You'll find a discussion of the joys & challenges of middle eastern feminisists. There are #dancelifefreedom #womenlifefreedom and because it is illegal for anyone to dance or celebrate life we will have to do it for them on our social media platforms like Instagram, Twitch, etc., so feel free to upload a video of yourself and your family dancing for the women and men and children in the Middle East who cannot! Shiva J has enjoyed the freedom of moving to the United States and is now an artist celebrating sensuality, beauty, and erotic play for couples and others. You can learn more at her website: Home - Art by Shiva shiiiiva (@shiva.jafarzadeh) • Instagram photos and videos Profile – Shiva Jafarzadeh – IRANIAN AMERICAN WOMEN FOUNDATION (iawfoundation.org)

You can learn more about the first lady of the world Elenor Roosevelt and her intimate stolen moments on the campaign trail and in the White House. Playright Terry Baum introduces us to Lorena Hickock, the highest paid female journalist of her day, who coresponded with Elenor in hundreds of secret love letters. Find out where you can explore the romance and love that lasted for many years.

Sexploration With Monika invites San Francisco Mime Troupes Marie Cartier to Edge Studios in Downtown San Francisco. Token Straight Guy Paul Brumbaugh joins in on the fun. Recorded Live 7-21-2023 Mime's speak for justice in San Francisco's Delores Park and many other Bay area parks and you can find out more with Sexploration with Monika's interview with Marie Cartier!

Are you feeling the chill of winter? As the rains give way to the flowers of May and/or March let's enjoy the present moment and hear what Scrumbly Koldewyn, DJ Dan Karkoska, and the rest of the Cockettes have in store for you! It may just raise your freak flag! Sex educator and musical theater geek Monika Thomas and Paul Brumbaugh from the Edge of Insanity enjoy a live performance where Scrumbly Koldewyn searches for the perfect banana for you and me and everybody else. "As the chilly winter gives way to spring, there is a feeling in the air, a need for rebirth and everything it takes to get there–fauna blooming, bunnies and chickies being born and giant phallic objects rising into the air needing to be worshiped. The legendary Cockettes give the Rites of Spring their own unique twist as original Cockette Scrumbly Koldewyn brings you Res-Erection, a colorful musical revue featuring new songs and classic Cockettes numbers inspired by the changing season, bunnies, love and lust. Prepare for a night of Cockettes musical mayhem featuring Aaren Smith, Birdie Bob Watt, Bonni Suval, Carl Linkhart, Christian Heppinstall, Kitten on the Keys, Matt Bratko, Noah Haydon, Steven Satyricon, Jordan “Sunshine” Bontrager and more. Cockettes Res-Erection will be such an amazing Spring Awakening, it may even raise the dead!"

 Nude Noir a sexy party coming up October 14th and 15th at at a gorgeous venue the Speakeasy in North Beach ofSan Francisco Sexploration with Monika talks with Britt about .female sexual empowerment, desire, sensuality, personal exploration, the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system, tantra, BDSM, and The libertine history of San we discuss the safe and consensual exploration of darkness, shibari rope bondage, and finding your authentic thrills.

stay tuned to sexploratio with Monika for the explicit details about #NudeNoir coming from London to #SanFrandFreakshow at #thespeakeasy October 14th and 15th is the next episode. Did you know you could have an orgasm In Your Feet? You can learn how to have an  orgasmin in a shocking number of erogenous zones! Learn how to enjoy  #Footgasms and even #armpitgasms  with professional #dominatrix and #sexeducator Eve Minax who will also, discuss how to employ your sexuality and the sympathetic nervous system to heal trauma.    We'll learn how Eve"gets the kinks out" of her ever-so-willing "patients" in medical play scene. Plus the connection between the spiritual side of sexuality and BDSM and kinky sex #sexploratiowithMoika #kinky #footplay @eveminax @Paul Brumbaugh at edgestudios in #SanFrancisco

  He thought he would just dress up as a woman for Halloween, but she keeps having so much fun, what were all the reasons s/he should stop again? Maria Konner's tell-all-the-sordid-details book "Girl Shock!" Self-discovery. Sexuality. Trans. LGBTQ. Gender Fluidity. Drag. Kinky Sex. Love. Lust. Rock & Roll. Even Comics. This book has it all, and it is all true. Girl Shock! I Dressed as a Girl for Halloween but Then She Took Over My Life. This post-pandemic teaser-interview is just to wet your... whistle as you wait for my Zoom laptop harddrive to be fixed.  Join Maria Konner as she launches her racy new memoir "Girl Shock: I Dressed As a Girl For Halloween But Then She Took Over My Life" at The Cinch Saloon on Polk Street in SF Saturday, 6/19 5-7p. Meet Maria, get her to autograph your book! The Cinch has a new piano, so Maria promises some tunes and boozy, sing-along fun!

 Author Susan Bratton experienced watching her sex life fizzle while she and her husband pursued careers. After hitting a crisis point, the couple made a fierce commitment to do whatever it took to keep the family together and revive the passion in their marriage. We may have spent the last 9 months cooped up with our partner (or alone) and be worried there's nothing new left to explore in our orgasm, but Susan has 15 male and female orgasms for anyone male-bodied, female-bodied or somewhere in between. You can find the #UpwardPleasureSpiral​ in your relationship, and your relationship with yourself. If you're longing for new sizzle in your explorations, Susan is chock-full of well-researched techniques and ideas like the "Me Breath" technique she mentions for ejaculatory choice, erection control, or her g-spot guide, G-Spot Joy! You and your partner can even stretch out orgasm in a way that transcending time and space!   Susan Bratton has authored over 30 books and online programs including Relationship Magic, The Passion Patch, and 30 Romance Tricks like Thrust in Time, as well as her International best-seller, Sexual Soulmates: The 6 Essentials for Connected Sex. There are certainly multiple new pathways to peak pleasure for YOU to explore in 2021. Sexploration with Monika host Monika Thomas, was a radio personality in Alaska who quit her morning show to travel the world and start a talk show about sex. Not only is sex talk more interesting than weather and traffic, but sexual openness is transformative: less shame, more sex education! Monika has learned so much as host of Sexploration (like women can ejaculate and men can have multiple orgasms)! Monika is a certified sexual health educator who teaught rape and domestic violence prevention classes, and her spiritual beliefs include, “Sex is proof that God loves us and wants us to have fun!” As host of “Sexploration with Monika,” Monika interviews sexperts on how we can get more of what we want exploring clinical sexology and neuroscience, BDSM and tantra. Recurring themes include trance & brainwave states, presence, safer sex, connection, communication, and play. Ask questions, check out sexy photos and blog articles, find events, and download archived episodes at http://SexplorationwithMonika.com​​. Monika is also a Global Real Estate Advisor based in the SF Bay Area at http://GetRealEstate.us

  Sex Coach, Tantrika, Yogi, & Author Dee Dussault has some moves to get you into your hips, pelvic floor -- and some extra special tools to help you tune into your body, relax, and connect with yourself and a partner this Valentine's day. The pandemic has been hard for couples and singles alike, but she's got some feel-good technigues to help you melt into the infinite present moment away from all your work-from-home and COVID19 worries. Cannabis is optional in Dee's Ganja Yoga classes, but it can be a useful tool to help disconnect from chronic stress into expanded relaxation and positive body consciousness. Similar to restorative yoga, these classes are *very* chill.

  Sexologist Relationship Coach  Veronica Monet was once a high-end escort and knows how to keep consent super sexy. Do you want to try something crazy new with a partner but don't know how to ask? Are you worried your new friend wants to move too quickly? It is a global pandemic, after all, we're all cuddle-starved! Would you like to assert a boundary more gracefully? As a result of your skillful communication tactics you can create more desire, turn-on and possibilities for play in your partnership! Veronica and I dish about sex work, foot fetish, intimite partnerships, staying safe and being intimate in these strange times. Sexologist Relationship Coach  Veronica Monet was once a high-end escort and knows how to keep consent super sexy. Do you want to try something crazy new with a partner but don't know how to ask? Are you worried your new friend wants to move too quickly? It is a global pandemic, after all, we're all cuddle-starved! Would you like to assert a boundary more gracefully? As a result of your skillful communication tactics you can create more desire, turn-on and possibilities for play in your partnership! Veronica and I dish about sex work, foot fetish, intimite partnerships, staying safe and being intimate in these strange times. Trigger Warning: Explicit discussion as sexual assault survivors who have moved fully in owning sexual sovereignty. We talk about consent, sex, consensual sex work, foot fetish & foot worship, arousal, energy, relationships and partner sex with a focus on gratitude, how to make requests. Veronica Monet is an internationally acclaimed Relationship Coach & Sexologist. Her books Sex Secrets of Escorts and Love, Lust and Romance in the Wake of #MeToo, as well as her Exquisite Partnership Formula ™, turn conflict into connection and sex that gets better with each passing year. If you need help as a rape or sexual assault survivor, please contact RAINN: https://www.rainn.org/about-national-... Call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area. If you are expecting a somber discussion about consent and saying no, this is not it. We have invested years in our healing & empowering journeys and are now able to share about our sexual choices with humor, playfulness and joy. We also discuss experiences of Tinder dating in the time of COVID19, foot worship & filming Veronica Monet's Playboy Documentary .

  You might recognize Kamala Devi from Showtime's "Polyamory: Married & Dating." This tantra star and their family is showing everyone in reality that it's possible to have an almost 20-year marriage -- and a girlfriend! Now before you start having lurid, explicit lesbian sex fantasies... let Kamala Devi show you how it's done! Just kidding, you can start having lesbian sex fantasies RIGHT NOW. I know I am.. mmm two ladies kissing... there's even a three-way kiss! Kamala will introduce us to the beatiful Violet, and Ravyn, a dominant and fierce sex-positive feminist. Join us in exploring why fantasy is so important, especially right now during the pandemic, and how tantra, BDSM, and even slut-shaming (with love) can be healing. Kamala teases me with their recent book "Sex Shamans: True Stories of Sacred Sexuality and Awakening," and deeper mind trance states.

  As the Folsom Street Fair has gone all online for COVID-19, Eve Minax of "Getting the Kinks Out: uses medical play, chastity, even erotic enemas to take consenting masochists on healing endorphin journeys while observing that her deep dive into BDSM has healed her early childhood trauma as well. We also discuss what type of relationship you might be drawn to, are you a Dopamine-seeker or Testosterone-seeker, like Monika? Eve also brings up attachment styles (fun 5 min quiz).    Sacred Kink Courtesan Francesca Gentille is also starting a new online sensual sex-education project as well. Since most people are getting their sex-ed from porn, GASM-TV's mission is to excite and educate, bringing healing & transcendence. We also discuss healing from the wounds of culture, as GASM-TV has a vision for healthy, empowered sexuality for everyone worldwide.   Tantrica Evalena Rose will reveal how her "Femifesting" meditations will help you line in and experience your exciting future successes right now in this present moment. You can try one of her Femifesting meditations free on her website. Plus, learn how spark with your own and others' sexual energy sharing oxytocin, the love and bonding hormone, even though we are separated by screens! Evalena's tantric solo erotic dance is just the  thing to add to a self-pleasuring practice when you have been sheltering-in-place too long.  Sexploration with Monika's latest sexy philosophical explorations of tech, tantra, & kinky sex with plenty of giggles & guffaws from comedian Paul Brumbaugh of the Edge of Insanity.

  You can use the power of sexual energy to make things happen! Using meditation techniques and the power of love and gratitude; you can menifest the reality you desire. Tantrikas Evalena Rose & Amara Karuna guide us from sex organs to chakras on how consent and energy, deep brainwaves and intention can connect us to the quantum field so we can manifest, or femifest our heart's desire. OregonTantraFest.com starts May 30th, 2020 - an online passport to connection & exploration with sexy classes, learning about ecstatic states, yoga, healing, and sexuality as a gateway to the divine. Our Token Straight Guy is comedian Paul Brumbaugh from the Edge of Insanity. Especially in these times of quarantine , face masks, & sheltering in place, meditation and connection to others, a big community of skilled sexy educators and people who want to connect on all the levels is good medicine. EVALENA ROSE: Evalena has taught Tantra 23 years and is a skillful coach in intimacy, deepening intuition, spiritual counseling and communication skills. She founded LoveJourney: The Healing Path of Tantra, fostering a compassionate community practicing erotic arts. Evalena is a master at creating safe and sacred spaces in which to reclaim sovereignty over our bodies and our lives. Amara Karuna is a therapist, relationship and sex coach, sex educator and is a co-organizer of the OR Tantra Fest. She developed a form of peer counseling, Holistic Peer Counseling, and has been teaching it for over 30 years. She is the author of the illustrated guide “Sacred Pelvic Healing Massage Practice Manual,” and offers Yoni and Lingam Massage DVDs to students for practicing at home. Amara is the author of “Heartbeat Nurturing Therapy- Healing Our Hearts Together.“ Monika Thomas has been the host and prducer of the sex-positive feminist podcast SexploartionWithMonika.com for the last 14 years. She's a certified sexual health educator and has taught "Healthy Relationship" peer education classes through Project Servive and Rxpect Respect San Francisco. Her mantra for the last 69 days of quarantine has been "Meditate, masturbate, rinse, repeat" and her goal has been funlightenment.

  While we're sheltered in place we may as well find ways to deepen our pleasure and connection with each other - even if we have to do it at a distanceof 6 feet! OrgasmicKitchen.com's Marcie Prohofsky coaches us how to use food for orgasmic energy both literally and figuratively. Food is medicine not only for becoming healthier, but how can you add sizzle to a sensuous dinner? What superfood actually has aphrodisiac qualities? Enjoy Marcie's shockingly sensuous creamy chocolate mousse recipe made  raw keto vegan with avocado! If you want to take food into the bedwoom in this 9 1/2 week shelter-in-place we're all doing, how can you experiment with food and sex in a safe way (that keeps you out of the ER!)? That's more important than ever right now.  In the "Everything Orgasm Book," Dr. Amy Cooper explores the meaning or orsasm, and how to have an orgasm for the 1st time with a partner. We also disciss how to make orgasms more intense and last longer. Clinical Sexologist Dr. Amy Cooper also describes a meditation technique for arousal that doesn't involve touch at all (and it's not phone sex)! However phose sex is a great choice for those socially distant lovers, too. We also unpack some myths about orgasm, and as a clinical sexologist, Amy describes the anatamy of an orgasm from start to finish.  Sexploration with Monika is sheltered in place with you and has a new sponsor for professional at-home laboratory tests for STI's (sexually transmitted infections), hormones, and vitamin checks - so you can make sure you're healthy without leaving the house! TryLGC.com/sexploration will also have an at-home test for Covid-19 soon. Stay, home, stay safe, and practice safer sex - education is the key to freedom. We can get through this together! 

  You'll probably get glitter in your soul listening to these on-location interviews and sparkly pieces of the 50th Anniversary of the Cockettes from the Thrillpeddlers, Sluts-A-Go-Go, The Cockettes documentary, a threesome of sexy gender-queer Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence; Sister Dana Van Iquity, Sister Roma, and Sister Freida Desire, oh my! Plus, Original Cockettes composer Scrumby Koldewyn & Michael from Pearls Over Shanghai, Tahara from the Angels of Light (a non-commercial spin-off of the Cockettes), California Senator Scott Weiner, comedian Paul Brumbaugh, the rainbow-riffically eclectic Verasphere, a stunningly sexy impression of Mick Jagger from a Thrillpeddler in mind-bendingly tight hot pink shiny pants, and various incendiary, luminous psychedelic Drag pleasurevolutionaries and sexual freedom fighters from 1969's Summer of Love in San Francisco and commune protest movement recorded for posterity in the Victoria Theatre in the SF of today at 16th and Mission by yours truly January 4th, 2020.

We celebrate 50 glittery, gender-bending years of The Cockettes,  an avant-garde theatre & dance troupe from San Francisco's psychedelic Summer of Love. The Cockettes introduced their mind-bendingly joy to so many iconic names that shaped pop culture; Filmaker John Waters, Actress Divine, The Rocky Horrow Picture Show, Heklina, & the spin-off theatre group, The Thrill-Peddlers. Let’s explore the scene, the inspiration, the shadow, and take a deep dive into a part of the glamtastic history of San Franfreakshow with “Goldie” star Birdie Bob Watt and Dan Karkoska aka DJ Dank producer of Cockettes Are Golden: A 50th Anniversary Celebration with Comedian Paul Brumbaugh. Birdie Bob Watt graces the Mutiny FM theatre with “Cruising” a Cockettes original song! We’ll also hear “Hot Greeks,” “69 is Fine,” “No Nose Nanook”from Pearls Over Shanghai , “ Blood on Your Face” from Vice Palace, “Endless Masturbation Blues” & “Oriental Nights.” Tinsel Tarts in A Hot Coma is another Cockettes show previously on Sexploration with Monika.  Comedian Patrick Carlin, George Carlin’s little brother, joins us peppering the conversation on his salty left-coast perspective on how to incite a chow hall riot, the value of a good cry, & the importance of finding your very own misfits.

  Janet W. Hardy, author of the Ethical Slut and Radical Ecstasy; S/M Journeys to Transcendence, joins Sacred Courtesan & Tantric BDSM Priestess Francesca Gentille with sex educator Monika and Comedian Paul Brumbaugh for further exploration of funlightenment, meditating on the sensations of erotic exchange. How do you make hooking up at a kinky play party safe & healing? Even if that does not sound like your scene, how would knowing how to make edge play safe improve your sex life? Francesca & Janet take us on a deep dive into the mind states that can be achieved through conscious BDSM play. We discuss how the work of Dr. Joe Dispenza (quantum field healing), and Dr. Peter Levine (trauma & somatic experiences). In retrospect, this mind state beyond time/space and a sense of self reminds Monika of a TED Talk about neurologist Dr Jill Bolte Taylor who had a stroke and as parts of her brain shut down, she describes an experience of a right-brain *only* mind state beyond time/space and "self" or ego.  This Sexploration with Monika episode is warming us up for SexplorationDinner.com "Confession: A 5-Course Sensual Feast - Beauty, Bondage & Transcendence" in a gorgeous stone cathedral in SF's North Beach November 23rd. Let's Make sex sacred again, because sex is proof that God loves us and wants us to have fun!

  Sex Educators "Ethical Slut" Dossie Easton, The Intimacy Dojo's Cathy & Monika with Comedian Paul Brumbaugh discuss the love child of Tantra and BDSM, "Radical Ecstasy: SM Journeys to Transcendence." How do you make kink safe? Why is it important even if you're not kinky? Our juicy conversation is just in time for SexplorationDinner.com "Confession: A 5-Course Sensual Feast - Beauty, Bondage & Transcendence!" The Sexploration Dinner in a gorgeous stone cathedral in SF's North Beach coming up just before Spanksgiving! The event is November 23rd, 2019, but the $69 earlybird tickets end this week. Making sex sacred again, and proving that sex is proof that God loves us and wants us to have fun! Join us as we meditate for transcendental funlightenment.

 A bevy of sex-educators and Comedian Paul Brumbaugh from the Edge of Insanity discuss how to turn your sex life up to an 11 right now and forever. Sex Educator Susan Pizzazz Bratton brings her arsenal of cutting edge technological treatments plus Taoist practices for stamina, health, and pleasure. Monika's star performer Rain DeGrey is also a renowned sex educator having lectured at Harvard and we'll explore how for her extreme sex is like transcendental meditation. From testosterone and tweaking hormones to the latest advances in sexual vitality (stem cells, prp shots, and GAINSwave vaginal rejuvenation, oh my!) Also Monika is creating a dinner party in a restored stone cathedral from 1907 in San Francisco’s North Beach. Under high vaulted stone ceilings and beautiful stained glass windows, you can enjoy a 5-course feast of desire, beauty & passion with dance & art performances that will delight your palette and make your night sizzle. Cocktails & hors d'oeuvres, figure drawing and between dinner courses dancers, sex-positive singers will feed the part of your soul hungry for fun. Don't forget Rain DeGrey's exhibition of live bondage and Lust Design's latex fashion show to bring just a taste of kink to an elegant evening. Learn more about Confession; 5-Course Sensual Feast - Beauty, Bondage & Transcendence 11.23.19 at SexplorationDinner.com. 

 Join Pleasure Educator Lucia Pavone & I on “The Edge of Insanity” an uncensored comedy show with Paul Brumbaugh. As ever, we’ll discuss all the ways you can be more free while staying safe, personally & professionally as a woman who wants it all, including the freedom to express herself honestly & authentically. S-Factor dance instructor Ellice Apostolos will give us a window into her process going from professional dancer who hat did not dare express her sexuality in dance to finding a way to forget about the mirror, dance for herself, and embody her own physical expression of freedom & pleasure for herself as now owner of Steel & Grace, Santa Cruz's Premier Pole Dance Studio. Clean Beauty Expert Isaac the Girl will lead a discussion how we navigate the surprisingly toxic ingredients in many of the “beauty products” in the United States, and how we can get closer to expressing what WE want to look like, rather than what we think “society” tell us we should look. All this in celebration of this weekend’s #TooMuchWomanSF at the Alcazar Theatre & General Assembly Sunday, both in downtown San Francisco June 8th & 9th, 2019.

 Virgie Tovar of #LoseHateNotWeight spoke with me in 2012 as she was editing "Hot & Heavy: Fierce Fat Girls on Life, Love & Fashion." Founder of Babecamp, a course to help you break up with diet culture, Virgie's been named one of the 50 most influential feminists of 2018 by Bitch Magazine and will tell us about "The YAY Scale!" Virgie's manifesto "You Have the Right to Remain Fat" is out now & "FLAWLESS: Radical Body Positivity for Girls of Color" comes out Spring 2020. Virgie's books are on point for"Too Much Woman SF" June 8th & 9th, 2019 (this weekend!) Join Sexploration with Monika, Gina Hatzis, Lucia Pavone and more ambitious womxn who are ready to explore their leadership beyond the ordinary paradigm.

Has anyone ever said you were "too much?" Too intense, too sensitive, too anything? Join the club! Join Lucia Pavone & I on comedian Paul Brumbaugh's uncensored "The Edge of Insanity." We'll discuss controversial pleasure points that even some Dr's aren't 100% sure exist... all the while laughing, exploring, and inviting you to learn more about feeling good. You'll learn how big the clitoris really is, some other names for the G-Spot, how the energy of your sexuality can ignite success even as a businesswoman (keeping all of your clothes ON) and how you can instantly find more pleasure! *EXPLICIT LANGUAGE* "The Edge of Insanity" is an uncensored comedy show on Mutiny Radio in SF's Mission District.   Join Sexploration with Monika and Lucia Pavone June 8th & 9th at Too Much Woman San Francisco with Gina Hatzis of #TooMuchWoman & "Finding Your Spiritual G-Spot", Andrea Barrica, co-founder of "Female & Funded" O.school, Michelle Meow, radio host & LGBTQ-history buff at The Commonwealth Club, and sex-positive singer Gina René aka "The Urban Space Goddess!" June 8th & 9th Too 2019

  You can hear a quickie of the first-ever episode of Sexploration with Monika which debuted in 2007 on Erotic Radio Live. This is an edited 10 min demo version of "The BDSM Tea Party" for the article "Professionally Homeless for Sex Talk." Sexploration with Monika explores how women and men get what they want in the context of sex and relationships, with a heavy emphasis on exploring new ideas, consent, negotiation, safe sex, kink, connection, communication, and play. Sexploration with Monika show topics range from sex-robots, Japanese bondage and other fetishes, metamorphasexuals, polyamory, and tips on having the perfect menage-et-trois. You can enjoy how "golly gee whiz" I am when they clue me about pegging, obviously this was before I was a Certified Sexual Health Educator! LoL Thanks to David Fratto of Media Posse for donating valuable production time for the first few shows in his lovely studios on Haight Street in SF. It was not uneventful (but it was a learning experience), & I'm sure his neighbors have forgotten all the strange noises by now!

  Do YOU think it's OK to wear yoga pants when you are NOT doing yoga? Do you think it's OK to judge people for what they look like in yoga pants? What if they are wearing yoga pants after yoga? While doing a play about yoga? You might think "Yoga Play" is a play about yoga, that's only 1% correct. It's actually about ALL the social justice issues of our time -- and it's funny! Join me at the SF Playhouse for an interview with star & co-producer Susi Damilano and then... is it crudite, is it cruciferous, is it compost? What *IS* that in your veg drawer? It's Broccolini Rhapsody! There's no time sooner than now to eat your veg ;)

  Can you be pretty and manly or do you have to limit yourself to being pretty manly? Do you have to pick a gender? How many are there? What's it like when Grandma is polyamorous? How do you get THREE moms? Koe Creation's family tree is more flowchart or a "polycule" with relationships reaching out every which-way. Which pronoun should you use? What's it like growing up in a family where the entire family actually ACCEPTS your sexuality? I know, it's shocking. Koe Creation, The Nonbinary Millennial Child of a Polyamorous Family, tells all in their coming-of-age autobiography and you'll get a taste of them here, tonight. You can join Koe at the SF Book Launch this Friday 3/22, out on tour or invite them to your village at @KoeCreate! They also discuss the SF swing lifestyle in a way you will never expect!!

  You'll learn techniques for erotic breast massage and a cunning linguist's favorite “sweet spot” pillow position for the “pillow queen” in your life. Plus, explore the hilarious side of sex-positive feminism with playwright Anne Galjour of #GetGandhi: A Radical Feminist Comedy! We'll hear where the Sisterhood of the Travelling Pantsuits is going. Susan Bratton of Revive Her Drive and the new book "The Soulmate Embrace" will be teaching us some tricks that even after 10 years of being a certified sexual health educator, these are NEW. Plus the breast massage technique sounds AMAZING! Also healthy, all that blood flow and sexy energy moving around, plus lymphatic massage, increased circulation -- have I mentioned pleasure is actually *good* for your body? Plus, we sing "My Vagina is 8 Miles Wide" and you can too. Let's talk about how to integrate healthy pleasure into our fast-food culture, starting with what feels GOOD. This episode was resurrected after the back-end was cut off & re-uploaded with live broadcast of the Super Wolf Blood Moon Lunar Eclipse from Monika's backyard. Red moon photo by Donovan Worrell, thanks!   

  BioField Energy Healing, Sexual Energy, & Deep Consent with Mike Sententia, founder of HealingLab.org. What does energy healing mean for the modern understanding of physics? Then join us on a glittery romp through the outback with "Priscilla Queen of the Desert; the Musical!" by Theatre Rhinoceros (the 1st queer theatre in the known universe) with producer Joseph Tally , and political mime troupe star Rotimi Agbabiaka from “Seeing Red: A Time-Traveling Musical” in Dolores Park July 4th on why the color red (and socialism) might be becoming more fashionable these days.

Erotic Fine Artist Nancy Peach flowered from church lady to San Francisco's bold and daring sex-positive oil painter who paints dominatrixes and porn stars bigger than life, with gold leaf, fishnets and flowers. We'll discuss how Nancy flowered from church lady to Erotic Fine Artist under Femina Potens & bondage porn star Madison Young. We also talk about how going from architectural artist to erotic fine artist affected her traditional marriage and two children. You can catch Sexploration with Monika LIVE on Facebook too! You can go to Nancy's gallery opening in Santa Cruz at Pure Pleasure First Fridays tomorrow February 3rd 2017 & March 3rd 2017 and all the sexy oil paintings in between. 

You've listened to her discuss founding the ​S​an F​ransexuals' sparkliest sex party, Kinky Salon... she's known as Polly Glamourous, Polly Superstar, latex designer & purveyor Polly Pandemonium... and author of the memoir "Polly Sex Culture Revolutionary!" Now, Polly Whittaker has her very own podcast! It's called "Kinky Salon Confessions" and I was on it talking about polyamory, relationship anarchy, being a sex-positive prude, and making sex culture revolutionaries and organizations more grounded through real estate. Enjoy!

Have you ever felt that the sexual revolution may have happened 50 years ago but you're still not getting what you want from sex and dating? Sex is such a big part of our culture, as 50-Shades of Grey is plastered high on big billboards, but unless you're empowered to say what you want, you might be feel sex & dating is the grey area. What do you do if you're into someone but they're not matching your level of interest? What if he's pushing for physical intimacy but refuses to offer emotional intimacy? Dr Susan Edelman, psychiatrist and author of "Be Your Own Brand Of Sexy" and I discuss how you can explore what you really want, treat your feelings with tenderness, support others, be honest with yourself, and pursue your own desires while gracefully saying no to what you don't want and yes to what you do. Is 50 Shades of Grey, depicting a healthy dating relationship, consent, and even kink in realistic way or is it a fantasy? Your kind of sexy is real and it's different from everyone else's. Let's talk about how to respect it. 

You can join us at the last Kinky Salon Halloween at Mission Control in SF's gentrifying Mission district. As Kinky Salon gets evicted from Mission Control, they bid a freaky farewell & start to plan ways to keep throwing their colorful, sexy, highly unique parties while homeless. Remember, it's not just one sex party that is getting evicted, there's Velvet, Pink, Club Kiss, Threshold, Touch, the League of Gentlemen, the Speakeasy series, Essence... In this on-location broadcast you'll hear the Kinky Salon Cabaret, the exorcism in one of the many sexploitation film scenes being play acted live for the amusement of the party-goers, and hear about Bix's plans to give MC a very juicy orgasmic send-off with Jiz Lee and Allison Moon. 

You can join me live on location at the epic sf sexy-party Masquerotica with Club Exotica, Bondage-A-Go-Go, Syd Gris, Cabaret de Caliente, Barron Scott Levkoff of Kinky Salon, Dark Garden, Mama Fou, and Clod Hop with Carnival Fantastique, Joegh of Anon Salon and so much mmmore! We'll describe the sights, sounds, eye-popping costumes and sexy goings-on, how to make a sexy corset that's COMFORTABLE, and all the myriad of ways to get consent (so you can make sure the person you are touching actually enjoys it) including the ever-so blackbelt move the "ask without asking." Masquerotica is an annual sexy pre-Halloween costume party that dares to discourage touristing and bad manners by outlawing street clothes, looky-loos, and unwanted advances. It's a "second base" party so consensual hugging, kissing, making out, above-the-waist groping/frotterage/fondling/pleasurable touching are A-OK. You'll hear Wes and I be surprised by some light and very exhibitionist BDSM play "cropping up" just before our eyes.  

Girl Sex 101 is roadtrip sex-ed comic book erotica, where the story "drives home" lessons about pleasure, anatomy, sexy communication skills, consent, and the 1,001 ways to pleasure a woman. Join sex educator & author of the Tales of the Pack (lesbian werewolves) books Allison Moon and I at the Fruitopia loft for a lubricating discussion of what anyone can learn from women having sex. In Girl Sex 101, Jamie and her ex Layla are driving a van from Vancouver to San Diego, and sexy adventures ensue. Allison and porn comic artist kd diamond of Salacious Magazine are creating a feminist, pleasure-positive, and consent-oriented sex education comic-book story to help women of all orientations understand their bodies and their partners. For example, in the first chapter, Layla has a hard time speaking up about what she likes in bed with a hot femme she picks up. Later on, Jamie finds herself in bed with a trans guy and doesn't quite know how to talk with him about his body. Meanwhile, Layla wants to communicate her STI status to a new flame, while Jamie navigates fooling around with an old crush with a disability. Girl Sex 101 also features sex-ed superstars Megan Andelloux, Tristan Taormino, Jiz Lee, Carol Queen, Nina Hartley, Sex Nerd Sandra, Reid Mihalko, Kelly Shibari and YOU! Allison wants to hear from you on Twitter and Tumblr, and you can be a part of the genesis of Girl Sex 101 on Kickstarter -- if they can raise just over $1000 more Girl Sex 201 will happen with more advanced topics like kink, non-monogamy, fisting, oh my!

Are you in love or are you drugged by your own brain chemicals? If you have decided to open your relationship, how can you make sure you're doing it in a healthy way? Francesca Gentille is the founder of the Sacred Courtesan School, the Knights of Eros, and the Temple of Shadows. We discuss new relationships and all the drug-like brain chemicals that come with them...  and when you're a floaty-hot-and-bothered-smitten-kitten, how to tell the difference between true love and pheromones. Plus, what's the difference between polyamory, and unconscious non-monogamy or "cheating?!!" What is high-protocol polyamory and how would you start a polyamorous relationship with the queen (or her paramour)? How can you engage with people in other relationships in the most conscious way - so that things go as smoothly as possible in uncharted waters? Could polyamory be a mechanism for personal or spiritual-growth? Also, you'll learn something ridiculous about the history of "playing footsie" that will either blow your mind, make you LOL, or explain the footwear of elves.

Why is Tantra, the "pleasure path" to spirituality, also seen as dangerous? I'm wandering in, around, and above Union Square with Francesca Gentille, founder of the Sacred Courtesan School, the Knights of Eros, and the Temple of Shadows. We'll explore a number of ideas in, around and on top of consciousness and sexuality. Learn about "Intuitive Safe Sex," whether or not it's actually safe, and how to communicate about STI's and manage your risk. Do you talk to your vulva? You could be able to experience a new level of orgasm by loving & being IN your body. Plus, can the tools and techniques of BDSM & kinky sex be used for sacred sexuality and spiritual connection? In relationships, how can you break the cycle of neediness and fear and come to a place of choice? Does playing "hard to get" work or is it dangerous because it communicates that we're not able to be honest in a yes? How do you deal with mixed messages, while being open, authentic, and creating allure with power & clarity? If your body is a temple, how do you adorn it? Plus, what sexy outfits mean and the connection between sex and spiritual power. What is the mysterious and yet so prevalent connection between shoes, feet, & sex? What happens when we suppress sexual expression and desire?

You may wonder what is a "Tinsel Tart in a Hot Coma?” But this musical isn't about making sense, it's about outrageousness!  It does ~have~ a plot about a Hollywood star (or a "Tinsel Tart") going back to New York, but this musical trades narrative for being outrageously sparkly, queer, and sexually provocative. If you listened to the "Hot Greeks" Sexploration with Monika episode, you'll remember the Cockettes, who have been described as "mindless libertineage," and "beautiful, funny, liberating, psychedelic messengers from the gods." There's a story within a story here that arcs from SF to NYC and goes all the way back to the late 1960's North Beach. Until June 1st 29th, 2013, the Thrillpeddlers are reviving another Cockette's Theatre of The Ridiculous sextravaganza with 3 of the original Cockettes, Scrumbly Koldewyn, “Sweet Pam” Tent, and Rumi Missabu. This troupe of glittery anti-establishment drag queens took "Tinsel Tarts in A Hot Coma" on the road to the Big Apple in 1971. They got a lot of press, and while not all of it was good, they penetrated the culture, inspiring glam rock, glitter rock, 80's glitter-glam fashion, a host of spin off troupes, bands, documentaries, YouTube make-up tutorials and more. The "Tinsel Tarts" you can see now at the Hypnodrome, is no less glittery but restored, rewritten, and rehearsed... from a 1971 outline to Thrillpeddler's full-length version. The Thrillpeddlers are still clearly having a blast onstage... but the set doesn't really look like cardboard anymore. We'll speak with original Cockettes Sweet Pam Tent and Rumi Missabu in this episode of Sexploration with Monika, and the person who may have coined the term "drag king," Leigh Crow, aka Elvis Herselvis. In the previous Sexploration with Monika episode about the Cockettes, we interviewed the other original Cockette - composer Scrumbly Koldewyn, plus Thrillpeddler's artistic director Russell Blackwood. "Tinsel Tarts in a Hot Coma" has just been extended and will run until June 29th!

Have you ever wanted to try a real aphrodisiac? Chances are you have - and I don't mean that you've been dosed - because that's not sexy. There are tons of natural aphrodisiacs, and they could have been masquerading as a tossed salad - not THAT kind of tossed salad, though that could be an arousal amplifier too. Natural aphrodisiacs are just another way that God shows us that nature is pro-sex and when used with intention, you could be in for a lot of fun. Nutritionist Jared of HottChocolates.com will tell us which herbal aphrodisiacs he uses in his truffles. Speaking of a lot of fun, the "My Blissed Out Valentine" haiku for the aquatic & couple's massage from ThaiCouplesMassage.com are here too. It's all for science - awareness, oxytocin, arousal, and exploration on this episode of Sexploration with Monika.

You can join me on-location now at the glittering "All Kinds of Sexy" burlesque scholarship benefit for victims of rape, domestic violence, and eating disorders from Bombshell Betty. Have you ever been to a dance show where all the dancers looked exactly the same? This isn't that show. There's all kinds of different going on tonight, not just body type, but also I've never seen this Sesame Street character strip before! So many surprises. Also, could learning sultry dance moves (and how to take off your clothes in a sexy way) be part of a process of empowerment and connection with the body and sexual power? Can learning to dance the strip tease be healing? What's it like learning to bare it all (to a group of supportive women) not just physically but "baring it all" in other ways too? We'll talk to scholarship beneficiary Candy Pie, and enjoy burlesque-style teases and sparkle from dance instructor Bombshell Betty, Valhalla Voom, Poundcake Dee Light, Rosey Booticelli, and mmmore at the Elbow Room's "All Kinds of Sexy." Thanks to Alex Akamine for this photo of Cleo Torres.

What would it have been like for a lady to fall in love with another woman in 1890? Meet Miss Flora Devine, an African-American lady who owns an inn in a small Southern black township in 1890. She does not realize she could be same-sex attracted until she falls in love with Biddy Higgins, an itinerant butcher. We'll speak with actresses Dawn L. Troupe & Velina Brown, Director John Fisher, and playwright Shirlene Holmes. "A Lady and a Woman" is a production of Theater Rhinoceros, the oldest LGBTQ theatre company in the world, started in 1977 in San Francisco. A long time before it was "ok" to be a lesbian or queer, "A Lady and a Woman" explores the interlocking themes of spirituality and sexuality telling the story of two women who find in each other the courage to begin a new life. We'll discuss other works by Shirlene Holmes including "Daughters" about identity and trans-cultural adoption, and "Strong Arms" about a shelter for battered men, exploring themes of masculinity, power, and ending abuse & domestic violence. This show runs through March 24th, 2013 at the Eureka Theater. 

You might want to stop calling it masturbation because the word masturbation literally means "to disturb with the hand." Devi Ward calls it "the art of self pleasure." What's wrong with touching your own pleasure parts? Absolutely nothing, as long as it's private or consensual, and it's good for you. In fact, not only does pleasure, especially sexual pleasure, have a number of physiological benefits, but it can heal emotional trauma as well! In her book, "Shake Your Soul-Song!: A Woman's Guide To Self-Empowerment Through The Art Of Self-Pleasure" Devi Ward describes how taking time for pleasure every day can transform your life. Also, the amount of time you take is important too, this is not about "getting it over with." She'll describe the difference between climax and orgasm, and why it's essential to more pleasure. Also, we'll talk about the importance of relaxation and the parasympathetic nervous system in health and well-being. (Thanks to Fields of Heather for this photo of Devi.) What about those "guilty pleasures" like ice cream? Is there a way to transform the experience to make it both more pleasurable and not "guilty?" There's a simple key here, and if you want to guess it starts with an "A."Learn how pleasure can be a path to healing and empowerment on this episode of Sexploration with Monika.

Do you want to bliss out with your Valentine? This is a very unique couple's massage that's so very, very sensual (but not sexual) and luxurious, intimate, & deeply relaxing. Massage therapists Brian and Seleece have created a unique massage experience for couples in their bamboo-garden Oakland loft. The experience starts with aquatic massage like Watsu in the huge 98-degree pool in their living room. Then, you two go upstairs into their plush candle-lit loft for a massage where you relax and are literally massaged into each other's arms! Mmmm, the oxytocin. Listen for the Blissed-out Valentine haiku contest! Deadline Feb 16th, 2013. Best haiku wins a 90-minute aquatic & couple's massage in Oakland, California.

Polly Superstar, who co-founded Kinky Salon, is writing her memoirs. Over the last 10-years of throwing San Franfreakshow's most creative sex party she describes her new project KoTango with bestseller "Sex At Dawn" author Christopher Ryan. KoTango is a cross between a social network, sex-positive news platform, and open-relationship dating or meet-up site. Polly and I discuss how if humans were "naturally promiscuous" in prehistoric times, where does that leave us now after 10,000 years of culturally-imposed monogamy? We discuss polyamory, open marriages, and even just admitting that you're attracted to others in a monogamous relationship and creating a safe container for mutual exploration and expression. Also, she tells us about a tantric awakening that she had while trying to manage the Kinky Salon sex party. Thanks to Kinky Salon photographer ToddHartmanPhoto.com for this photo! Plus, the big Valentine's Day Kinky Salon is coming up, the Sweetheart's Ball at their Misson Control headquarters Saturday, February 16th. Mission Control has a unique sex party for every flavor of sexual expression in San Francisco: tantra, all women, polyamorous, queer or gay (mostly) men, pair-bonded couples, swingers, and unicorns (oh my), and a sex party for all of that at the same time. Imagine. 

Has the say-anything 30-something grrl-power brunches of Sex in the City really come so far from the women's consciousness-raising circles that fueled the women's liberation movement of the 60's and 70's? Yes and no, especially Trannyshack's all-drag version at Rebel - with drag queens (some that were even born women), drag kings, and even raunchier more irreverent jokes than the HBO version. Heklina's Carrie Bradshaw is hilarious. Next-level ridiculous and absurd while still eerily recognisable as are the rest of the foursome: Samantha, Miranda, and Charlotte. Trannyshack performs episodes of Sex in the City at Rebel in two shows every Wednesday night. Hilarious, saucy, and irreverent. Join me and my girls at opening night of Trannyshack's Sex in the City for giggles and even empowerminty strip-mining of dominant culture sexual foibles. Glorious fun and a great girl's night out even if you are not (always) a girl.

No matter where you are in your relationship there are simple tricks to make communication, collaboration, and trust easier and more automatic. Many of these ideas tap into scientific research on brain chemistry and the subconscious mind. You can make arguments more mutually helpful if you know how to deal with getting emotionally triggered. There are even body postures and subconscious cues to yourself and your partner that stimulate natural peace-making. What do you need to know about yourself and your partner so you can allow each other to cool off and reconnect? Relationship & sex educator Reid Mihalko, who is developing Relationship 10X, will exchange relationship ninja techniques with me on everything from beverages to body language. You can use these ideas to hack your relationship and facilitate deeper intimacy. With these relationship tools, you can navigate difficult conversations more smoothly and make even an argument productive and positive. 

Dr. Janelle Alex and Rob Alex have found that adding intention, awareness, and a belief in sacredness to their sex life has brought them not only increased intimacy and pleasure, they've experienced real-world benefits as well, opportunities and promotions that come to them like magic after they connect on the physical plane. What can you create with the powerful energy of sexuality? Healing, manifestation, or even if you just want to have fun and add a spark of adventure to your relationship, SexyChallenges.com has an intimate adventure or twelve for you. Rob and Janelle will describe several Sexy Challenges that they've tried, tested and laid out for you, and they'll tell the incredible story of what real magic sex brings to their lives. Not only is sex fun, but it can transcend what most people think is even possible. Dr. Janelle Alex will also tell us about InwardOasis.com, where she help women connect with their sacred selves so that they can fuel the rest of their lives with love and vitality. Rob & Janelle not only help couples spice up their love life, they also work on compassionate communication with The Couple's Spot. They'll tell us the most simple way to diffuse an argument, that most of us habitually destroy. Do you want a more fun, successful, and special relationship? While we've discussed sacred sex ideas like tantra, orgasmic meditation, and even sacred BDSM before, this is a particularly magical and mind-blowing episode of Sexploration with Monika. You won't believe what sex, intention, and awareness can do, perhaps you should experiment with it yourself!

We all have to survive the holiday season whether or not we get awarded a halo. Who sings xmas carols for the outcasts? Crackpot Crones Terry Baum and Carolyn Myers, who have done holiday sketch theater and improv for a combined 108 years. They celebrate feminism, political protest, social justice, and being different with laughter while claiming "crazy" and "crone," because surviving the perpetual witch hunt of patriarchy is nothing to hide. We'll sing along with the 12 Days of Family Insults, and certainly Moishe the Green-Nosed Herring will soon be your kids' favorite. Has anyone ever tried to get you to pretend or look different than you really are for a holiday dinner? "Bubbie and her Butch" tells the story of a lesbian couple, a Hanukkah party, and a ridiculously jangly pair of earrings. You will not believe the story the Virgin Mary (or should I say Version Mary) tells to her beloved acolyte in Russia or 1962, where Mary (and all religion) may be outlawed, but abortion is legal. Pussy Riot's "Punk Prayer" to oust Putin gets Mary's compassionate ear too. When you're in the old folks home would you plan your escape to protest unmanned warfare drones in Pakistan? "Crones for the Holidays" manages to be fun, funny, and a laser-pointer of social justice activism and actually teach you something about the "end" of the Mayan Calendar too.  

How could you be so turned on and sensitive that your clitoris felt like a soccer ball? What are the effects of having a 3-minute orgasm every day? Hint: it's not losing sleep, you only have to wake 5 min earlier. How could menopause be PLEASURABLE? How can masturbation help you experience more pleasure with a partner? How can you get more experiences of sensuality simply by shifting your awareness? How can you fit a commitment to pleasure in your busy day? How would a daily commitment to pleasure expand your sense of relaxation? I'm on the 3-Day Sensuality Retreat with the sensual researchers of the Welcomed Consensus. We'll explore deliberate orgasm or "doing," a practice of focusing on the pleasurable sensations of the clit being stroked. Yvonne Wray of Menopause-Flashes.com will tell us how she transformed her experience of menopause from fear to fun by letting go and being presence in the moment. Daisy Meyer uses the power of friendship and masturbation to transform communication in a relationship in a pleasure-oriented way. Cedric will tell us how the clitoris can feel like a soccer ball in sensation, and use awareness to feel every stitch on the head or glans of the clitoris with his fingertip. Then co-founder Francoise Devresse will tell us about the Observation of Intense Coming and invite you to try a daily 3-minute orgasm (as a founder of the Welcomed Consensus she's had an orgasm every day for 18 years) and tell us how anyone can create more pleasure in their life, in their body.

You can join us now in the leather-scented midst of the Sexploration with Monika bondage dinner at supperclub. We'll speak with educator of adventurous sexuality Midori about her history with performance art, Italian Clowns, donuts with an especially messy surprise, and the Japanese art of flower arranging plus bondage. Then Midori will introduce us to blogger and sex-positive parent Lidia Anain who'll open our eyes about parenting strategies that consider consent and autonomy. How do you parent without "making" your kid do stuff, and how does that relate to creating consent culture? Burlesque dancer Dorian Faust describes pagan god Baphomet, who represents the duality of male and female... and why this deity often ended up looking like Satan. Then erotic piercing performer Lady Samar will tell us why she likes hanging from hooks in her flesh... even on TV in Norway. Thanks to the lovely Julia O Test for the photos from the bondage dinner!