Podcasts about That Way

In a world of increasing division, Monica Guzman offers advice for approaching conversation with curiosity. When we attempt to understand those who we disagree with, instead of merely attempting to change their beliefs, we are able to see people more fully and to even learn more about our own beliefs and ideas.  Learn more about Monica and her book, I Never Thought About it That Way at her website. Theme song and credits music by Breakmaster Cylinder. Other music in this episode by Titan Sound, courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc. This episode originally aired on January 26, 2023.

These habits are tanking your metabolism:Not eating enough Waiting too long before eating Sitting too much Not prioritizing strength training Not sleeping enough Always feeling stressedNot getting enough proteinWeird street names: Toad Suck Road in Conway, Arkansas Farfrompoopen Road in Fannie, Arkansas Windy Butte Way in Las Vegas Tootin' Hill Road in West Simsbury, Connecticut Booger Hollow Road Zzyzx [[Zizicks]] Road in Zzyzx, California Haviture Way in Eagle Mountain, UtahPsycho Path in Traverse City, Michigan My Way, Which Way, Right Way, That Way, Straight Way, and Same Way in Houston, Texas Are you a biter, licker or nibbler when it comes to ice cream? A new survey of 2-thousand adults finds that 63% prefer to lick theirs, while 39% bite their scoops. But what does that reveal about them? People who go at it with their teeth and bite their ice cream are more “fearless,” “confident” and “impulsive.” She explains, “Biters are very in-the-moment, they are probably extroverts and like instant gratification.”Those who lick their ice cream tend to be “methodical” and “relaxed,” as they patiently enjoy their scoop. “Lickers prefer delayed gratification,” Hemmings says. “They crave the dopamine hit, the brain's reward, that they get from extending the eating process.”As for those who nibble, they're more likely to be “cautious,” “gentle” and “thoughtful,” but possibly a little controlling at times. “Nibblers are good emotional self-regulators, though they may be prone to anxiety because of their enthusiasm for attention to detail,” the ice cream analyst explains.Second Date Update: Mandy met Steve on Hinge. She thought he was really into her. Now, he's ghosting. She might have turned him off by doing one thing.

Welcome to In Reality, the podcast about Truth, Disinformation and the Media with Eric Schurenberg, a long-time journalist and media exec, now the founder of the Alliance for Trust in Media.  In Reality is dedicated to the proposition that there is such a thing as objective truth and that the pursuit of it is a noble effort, one that over the centuries has increased human well being. Some objectively verifiable claims are the source of division in the US right now: the 2020 Presidential election was, in fact, legitimate. The covid pandemic was real, not a hoax. But that doesn't mean everyone accepts those facts. And if we are going to thrive as a democracy, if we are going to rebuild trust in the institutions crucial to that form of government, including media, we need to be able to get past differences. Not just on facts, but also on the matters of opinion, or faith, or moral judgment that divide us. That's where today's guest comes in.Monica Guzman is the senior fellow for public practice at Braver Angels, an organization devoted to sparking civil conversations across the political divide, also author of a book Eric enjoyed: I Never Thought of it That Way. How to Have Fearless Conversations in Dangerously Divided Times. They talk about the search for commonality even in our most divisive issues and the power of curiosity. Website - free episode transcriptswww.in-reality.fmProduced by Tom Platts at Sound Sapiensoundsapien.comAlliance for Trust in Mediaalliancefortrust.com

Brandon and Francesca discuss the 2021 korean webcomic by Team Aemae. Spoilers ahead! Also known as Exit's That Way. 우리 집에서 나가주세요, Uri Jibeso Nagajuseyo.

Singer AJ McLean says that his boy band fought to keep a line in a song that ended up being their group's biggest hit, I Want it That Way. What is the boy band?

See's Candies are pricey as a pound of an assortment of chocolates costs $30 dollars now. // Bellio's real motive behind her bribing people with See's Candies/ Mammoth Got Snow // Tim donates items at a donation center. // Tim senior learns how to use a computer/ Tim Conway's Book Turned into Film, ‘They Went They Went That Way, That Way'

Our Braver Angels segment for the month of October was about how to prepare for the election no matter who wins. Nita Landis is a registered Independent, Monica Guzmon (Blue), and Chris Hausner (Red) was apart of the discussion today. During the podcast, Monica also discusses her book, "I never Really Thought of it That Way" and speaks about her experience coming to grips with the political differences she had with her family. We also discuss the Family and Politics Workshop in Camp Hill on November 2.Support WITF: https://www.witf.org/support/give-now/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr. Chris Cormier is a distinguished expert in the field of neurology, renowned for his pioneering work in advanced procedures of Quantum Neurology. His primary focus is on addressing and resolving nerve-related issues, a specialty that has allowed him to make significant strides in patient care. Throughout his career, Dr. Cormier has been driven by a commitment to help people as quickly and effectively as possible, a goal he is achieving with greater success than ever. In addition to his clinical expertise, Dr. Cormier is also an accomplished author. He has penned two influential books: "The Hidden Diagnosis: What Doctors Are Missing And Why You Should Know" and "God's Amazing Machine: How Your Body Works and Why God Designed it That Way." These works reflect his deep understanding of the human body and his dedication to educating others on the intricacies of health and wellness

Keeley "Trans-Europe 18" - Beautiful Mysterious www.keeleysound.com The Pinkerton Raid "If A Tree Fell" www.pinkertonraid.com Girl Gordon "Peripheral Heaven" - Corruptor https://girlgordon.bandcamp.com/album/corruptor Stepford Wives "Not Alone"- https://www.facebook.com/stepfordwivesband Save Ferris "Lights Out In The Reptile House" - www.saveferris.com The Jellybricks "That Way" www.thejellybricks.com Slackrr "Over And Over" https://www.facebook.com/Slackrr/ ******************************* Matt Caskitt & The Breaks "One Night Stand" - Meet Me In Memphis mattcaskittandthebreaks.com Henry The Archer "The Garden" - www.henrythearcher.com Nervous Eaters "Girl Next Door" - www.nervouseaters.net Crush The Monster "Death 1" https://www.facebook.com/crushthemonster The Virgin Marys "Northwest Coast" www.thevirginmarys.com The Devil's Sons "Wolf Machine" - Now And At The Hour Of Death https://thedevilssons.ca/ ******************************* Chris Daniels & The Kings with Freddi Gowdy "Everybody's A Millionaire" - Blues With Horns Volume II www.chrisdaniels.com Marc Douglas Berardo "Hearts In Play" - The Beauty of This Now www.marcdouglas.com Lys Guilllorn "Legendary Cowboys" - s/t www.lysguillorn.com Hungrytown "Solid Ground" s/t www.hungrytown.net Allysen Callery "Sea Change" - Ghost Folk www.allysencallery.com Christin Kammerer "Mythical Lamentations Part 2" - Echoes Of North http://ckammerer-music.com/ *******************************8 Larry & Joe "Runnin' From The Weather" www.larryandjoe.com Twisted Pine "Lee Street Tune" - s/t www.twistedpineband.com The Faux Paws "Southport" - s/t www.thefauxpawsmusic.com Beth Wood "One Step At A Time" - Love Is Onto You www.betheoodmusic.com Jud Caswell "That's The Way We Climb" - Live at the Seagull Shop www.jucaswell.com Stephanie Sammons "Billboard Sign" - Time and Evolution https://stephaniesammons.com/ Tiffany Williams & Dalton Mills "Worst Of Both Worlds" - Wasted Luck https://tiffanymwilliams.com/ Muriel Anderson "Rainy Harbor" - Sailing Dreams https://murielanderson.com/ **************************** Closing music: Chicha Libre "Gnossienne No. 1" - Sonido Amazonico Running time: 4 hours 15 minutes --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/radiocblue/support

Another lineup of shows have ended, so the boys took it upon themselves to award the best Spring 2024's anime season had to offer! From best girl, to the coveted "anime of the season", AniPro proudly presents the Spring 2024 anime awards! Also, Mike recommends ecchi to his coworker, Cole fans will rejoice, and more! Support AniPro: Patreon: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/AniProPod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Send us a Mailbag: ⁠⁠⁠https://anipropod.com/mailbag⁠⁠ Use code "ANIPRO" for $5 off your first #TokyoTreat box through our link: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tokyotreat.com/?rfsn=7695251.3317f⁠7⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow AniPro: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/AniProPod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/anipropod⁠ Discord: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://discord.gg/dV5tMCWvM7⁠ Next Reviews: Anime: ⁠⁠⁠Shadows House → Panty & Stocking with Garterbelt → Berserk (2016) Manga: ⁠⁠Act Age⁠ (Chapters 1-25) Tracks: Opening theme: Shibuya Bumper Track: "That Way", Digital Escape Music licensed by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠slip.stream Timestamps 00:00:00 - AniProPod #135 Intro 00:12:04 - Flop 00:21:00 - Anime OP 00:29:33 - Anime ED 00:37:06 - AniSong 00:42:54 - Production (OST, Direction, etc) 00:48:49 - Visuals (Animation, Design, etc) 00:54:33 - Anime Studio 01:10:47 - Best Girl 01:20:05 - Best Boy 01:24:03 - Protecc Energy 01:29:08 - Best Drip 01:37:48 - Duo 01:45:39 - Most Fun 01:51:54 - Underrated 01:58:37 - Best Continuing Anime 02:07:03 - Best New Anime 02:15:01 - Mailbag: Anime Conventions

How does a liberal living in one of the deepest blue counties in the country converse with her conservative, Mexican immigrant parents who voted for Donald Trump twice? We find out today when Monica Guzman joins us on the pod! Monica is the founder of Braver Angels, a “depolarization organization” designed to reduce partisan animosity, and the author of “I Never Thought of it That Way.” Hear her share her family's story and why she's so passionate about people learning to have difficult conversations, even in today's dangerously divided times. But given that it's extremely rare for people to change their minds, particularly on political issues, what should the goal of such conversations be, and how can we know if we've succeeded? Has our culture lost the idea of absolute truth and can we persuade anyone anymore? Plus, she shares some practical tips for having difficult conversations with people whose worldview is different from (or even opposed to) your own. Listen now! Have you benefitted personally from Truth Over Tribe or seen it have a positive effect on someone you know? have you used the podcast, book, or blog as a catalyst for conversation on polarizing topics? We want to hear about it! Share your story at choosetruthovertribe.com/story. Ok, truth time... Did you like this episode? Tell us by leaving a rating or review!

Cole, Mike, and Jay are going on an adventure and need a mage to round out the party. Fifteen applicants have given the boys their resumes, and it's up to them to decide the most worthy applicant the only way they know how: Tournament style! (Tournaments are back, baby!) Also, the boys review the 2000s Ai Yazawa manga: Nana, we do be eating, and more! Use code "ANIPRO" for $5 off your first #TokyoTreat box through our link: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3MUwgmD⁠⁠⁠⁠ Support us on Patreon: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/AniProPod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow AniPro: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter: ⁠⁠https://twitter.com/AniProPod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/anipropod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Next Review: Anime: Golden Boy → Laid Back Camp → Listeners Choice Manga: Nana (Chapters 1-8) Tracks: Opening theme: Shibuya Bumper Track: "That Way", Digital Escape Music licensed by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://slip.stream⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Timestamps 00:00:00 - AniProPod 126 Intro 00:07:06 - Nana: Synopsis & Characters 00:16:03 - Nana: Plot (Spoiler-free) 00:21:22 - Nana: Art & Designs 00:29:23 - Nana: Themes 00:34:10 - Nana: Comparisons 00:38:04 - Nana: Review & Rating 00:46:50 - Mailbag: Same Food 4EVER?! 00:57:49 - TokyoTreat Ad 01:02:02 - Next Manga Review Is... 01:05:02 - AniPro Recruits a Mage! 01:13:31 - Mob vs Elias 01:22:12 - Megumin vs Marcille 01:30:20 - Aqua vs Rudeus 01:37:28 - Elias vs Edward & Rin vs Betty 01:47:46 - Marcille vs Roy / Priestess vs Mashle 01:55:31 - Betty vs Mash / Diana vs Marcille 01:59:10 - Top 6 02:13:10 - AniPro's Party Mage is... --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/anipropod/message

Welcome back, Barely Gamers, you beautiful humans!This week, the boys come together, BOTH wearing leather harnesses to debate the sexiest video game. But not before Jax can go on a rant about the flaws in the Canadian tax system! The debate gets hot and heavy, but not in THAT WAY! Don't be gross.If you'd like to file any complaints about your weekly co-hosts, please listen to the entire episode before doing so. (this is a joke, mostly. it's a callback to the end of the episode. so if you don't understand, you just outed yourself as not listening to the episode. fake fan. just kidding. we love you.)

In the face of rising national polarization amid a turbulent election season, Eboo Patel and Mónica Guzmán discuss the role of curiosity, humility, and civil dialogue in a democratic society. They also discuss Guzmán's new book I Never Thought of it That Way, emphasizing the responsibility we all share to embrace diverse perspectives with an inquisitive spirit and reflect on privilege and exclusivity in elite institutions and the challenges of insularity and assumptions that come with it. 

Shane and Jason are joined by Jason Richardson and Troy Myers to do a Music Draft of songs from 1999. Shane takes his obsession with 1999 to a new level, when he picks seven categories, and asks the guys to attempt putting together the best "Side A Mix Tape" for music that was released in 1999. This leads to a heated debate over The Backstreet Boys' "I Want it That Way".

You probably don't know his face or his voice, but you definitely know his music. In this episode of 'Rolling Stone's 500 Greatest Songs', hosts Brittany Spanos and Rob Sheffield take a deep dive into iconic songs like Britney Spears' “…Baby One More Time” and the enigmatic writer-producer behind them: Max Martin, the Swedish genius responsible for so many hits of the past quarter-century. Martin has always been an elusive figure, remaining behind the scenes. He refuses to become any kind of celebrity, yet he has helped create so many classics, from Taylor Swift's “Blank Space" to the Backstreet Boys' “I Want it That Way” (both featured on Rolling Stone's 500 Greatest Songs list). In this episode Brittany and Rob aim to shed light on the mysteries of Max Martin: How does he do it? What's his secret recipe? How can one mastermind keep creating so many hits, over so many years, without losing his magic touch? How does he have so many famous songs, while remaining out of the spotlight? This week our hosts are also joined by a Rolling Stone legend, Senior Writer Brian Hiatt. The trio go deep into how Spears made “…Baby One More Time” into a classic debut single and how Kelly Clarkson turned "Since U Been Gone" into a classic break-up anthem, all while exploring the long and unique career of pop's ultimate mystery man.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If you're looking for the best recap podcast of the Hallmark series "The Way Home," you've found it with Girls Gone Hallmark! In today's new episode, hosts Megan and Wendy, discuss episode 7 called "Somewhere Only We Know." The writers of this phenomenal series are really moving the needle forward on the major plot points. What did Megan and Wendy think about the sing-off between Alice and Noah? Or the subtle glance between Elliot and Del when Sam arrives? Your hosts have a lot to say about the palpable chemistry between #TomKat and Jacob's gasp that left them on the edge of their couches. What kind of theories do you have about "The Way Home?" Email us at meganandwendy@gmail.com. More Hallmark Talk? Join Our Girls Gone Hallmark Facebook Group Join our Girls Gone Hallmark Facebook Group! Tons of great people - just like you - who love Hallmark movies. We're talking new movies, favorite movies, actors, Hallmark gossip, and so much more. Free to join, so click the link below or search "Girls Gone Hallmark" in Facebook Groups. Don't miss out on: Girls Gone Hallmark - Hallmark Movies Fan Group Catch Up On The Way Home Podcast Episodes from Girls Gone Hallmark "The Space Between" Season 2, Episode 1 "Hanging By a Moment" Season 2, Episode 2 "When You Were Young" Season 2, Episode 3 "Wake Me When September Ends" Season 2, Episode 4 "Long Time Gone" Season 2, Episode 5 "How to Save a Life" Season 2, Episode 6 Jen Pyken Does It Again Jennifer Pyken is an Emmy-Award Winning Music Supervisor for "The Way Home." In each episode of Girls Gone Hallmark, you'll be treated to a behind-the-scenes look at the songs played during the show. Episode 7 featured the song "I Want it That Way" by Backstreet Boys. Where to Watch "The Way Home" Hallmark Channel will premiere new, original episodes on Sunday nights. "The Way Home" will stream the following day on Hallmark Movies Now and Peacock. Wondering Where to Watch Hallmark Movies? Our current favorite way to watch Hallmark Channel movies is via Frndly TV. This app has 40+ channels, both live and on-demand, including all three Hallmark Channels! Our favorite feature is the 72-Hour Look Back which allows you to scroll BACKWARD in the guide to watch or record anything you might have missed over the last three days. You can start a 7-day free trial and see which channels are available here!

This week, hosts Jim DeRogatis and Greg Kot take the show out of the recording studio and into the karaoke bar as they share some of their favorite karaoke tracks. They'll also hear selections from production staff and listeners. Plus, the hosts review new music from Grandaddy and bid farewell to the late rockabilly musician Dexter Romweber.Join our Facebook Group: https://bit.ly/3sivr9TBecome a member on Patreon: https://bit.ly/3slWZvcSign up for our newsletter: https://bit.ly/3eEvRnGMake a donation via PayPal: https://bit.ly/3dmt9lUSend us a Voice Memo: Desktop: bit.ly/2RyD5Ah Mobile: sayhi.chat/soundops Featured Songs:Carly Rae Jepsen, "Call Me Maybe," Kiss, 604, 2012The Beatles, "With A Little Help From My Friends," Sgt. Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club Band, Parlophone, 1967Grandaddy, "Blu Wav," Blu Wav, Dangerbird, 2024Grandaddy, "You're Going to Be Fine and I'm Going to Hell," Blu Wav, Dangerbird, 2024Grandaddy, "Jukebox App," Blu Wav, Dangerbird, 2024Grandaddy, "Ducky, Boris and Dart," Blu Wav, Dangerbird, 2024Johnny Cash and June Carter Cash, "Jackson," Carryin' On with Johnny Cash & June Carter, Columbia, 1967*NSYNC, "It Makes Me Ill," No Strings Attached, Jive, 2000Shania Twain, "Man! I Feel Like a Woman!," Come On Over, Mercury, 1997Donny Osmond & Chorus, "I'll Make a Man Out of You," Mulan: An Original Walt Disney Records Soundtrack, Walt Disney, 1998Art Brut, "Formed a Band," Bang Bang Rock & Roll, Fierce Panda, 2005Joey Scarbury, "Theme from The Greatest American Hero (Believe It or Not)," America's Greatest Hero, Elektra, 1981The 5th Dimension, "Wedding Bell Blues," The Age of Aquarius, Soul City, 1969Kenny Rogers, "Islands In the Stream (duet with Dolly Parton)," Eyes That See in the Dark, RCA Victor, 1983The Rocky Horror Picture Show Original Cast , "Rose Tint My World (feat. Richard O'Brien)," The Rocky Horror Picture Show, Ode, 1975Regulo Caro, "En Estos Días," En Estos Días, Del, 2018Beyoncé, "Single Ladies (Put a Ring on It)," I Am...Sasha Fierce, Columbia, 2008Radiohead, "Creep," Pablo Honey, Parlophone, 1992Backstreet Boys, "I Want it That Way," Millennium, Jive, 1999Prince, "When Doves Cry," Purple Rain, Warner Bros., 1984Flat Duo Jets, "Frog Went a Courtin'," Go Go Harlem Baby, Sky, 1991Flat Duo Jets, "Riot In Cell Block Number Nine," In Stereo, Dolphin, 1985The Roots, "You Got Me (feat. Erykah Badu & Eve)," Things Fall Apart, MCA, 1999See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

On This episode of a Quick Shot of Romance Becky and Amanda review I Want it That Way by Karen Grey.  This is book 3 in the Carolina Classics. 

Let's take you back. It's Summer of 1999. I Want it That Way was the number one music video, Phantom Menace was top of the box office, and Spongebob was just premiering. Join your hosts this episode as they take you back and discuss/rank the top movies of this incredible Summer Box Oiffice (with a very special guest). See ya on the flip! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/tnfentertainment/support

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After Ed Sheerhans last concert in Boston, he went out, hit up a kareoke bar and sang "I Want it That Way" by what group?

Episode #164 Ask HOW not WHY. This week Daisy is back with the final part of the discussion from The Next Big Idea Daily podcast with Mónica Guzmán talking about her book, I Never Thought of it That Way: How to Have Fearlessly Curious Conversations in Dangerously Divided Times. In this episode, Daisy shares insights from Mónica about how to ask the right questions and also the importance of keeping bridges open for potential future conversations. Find out more about Mónica Guzmán's book, I Never Thought of it That Way, in this 5 Key Insights article: https://nextbigideaclub.com/magazine/never-thought-way-fearlessly-curious-conversations-dangerously-divided-times-bookbite/33900/ Please consider helping us make more episodes by supporting Daisy on Patreon. https://bit.ly/MondayMindsetPatreon If you have enjoyed listening to this episode, please leave us a review on iTunes or whichever platform you listen on. It really helps new people hear about the podcast. Connect with and follow us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube: https://bit.ly/MondayMindsetFB https://bit.ly/MondayMindsetIG https://bit.ly/MondayMindsetYT

Episode #162 This week Daisy is back with more from Mónica Guzmán and how to tackle those difficult subjects with people who disagree with us. This week, the focus is on how our lived experience is everything when it comes to our beliefs and opinions and how we need to get to grips with how this is the same for those people who have very different beliefs and opinions from us. Find out more about Mónica Guzmán's book, I Never Thought of it That Way, in this 5 Key Insights article: https://nextbigideaclub.com/magazine/never-thought-way-fearlessly-curious-conversations-dangerously-divided-times-bookbite/33900/ Please consider helping us make more episodes by supporting Daisy on Patreon. https://bit.ly/MondayMindsetPatreon If you have enjoyed listening to this episode, please leave us a review on iTunes or whichever platform you listen on. It really helps new people hear about the podcast. Connect with and follow us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube: https://bit.ly/MondayMindsetFB https://bit.ly/MondayMindsetIG https://bit.ly/MondayMindsetYT

Dr. Randy Davis, Pastor of Zion Word Church USA, brings a powerful message on how we, of That Way or Christians, are no longer sinners.  God's own blood has cleansed us of all unrighteousness therefore we are not sinners saved by grace but Christians born of God and ready to serve the Living God.  To hear more messages by Dr. Randy Davis subscribe to:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@zwmiusaRumble:  https://rumble.com/c/ZionWordMinistriesIntUSAInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/zion_word/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/zionwordministriesint

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Episode #160 This week Daisy is back with more from Mónica Guzmán and how to tackle those difficult subjects with people who disagree with us, or even if we should. Find out more about Mónica Guzmán's book, I Never Thought of it That Way, in this 5 Key Insights article: https://nextbigideaclub.com/magazine/never-thought-way-fearlessly-curious-conversations-dangerously-divided-times-bookbite/33900/ Please consider helping us make more episodes by supporting Daisy on Patreon. https://bit.ly/MondayMindsetPatreon If you have enjoyed listening to this episode, please leave us a review on iTunes or whichever platform you listen on. It really helps new people hear about the podcast. Connect with and follow us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube: https://bit.ly/MondayMindsetFB https://bit.ly/MondayMindsetIG https://bit.ly/MondayMindsetYT

There's an unanswered question lingering in the air amongst all the talk that focuses on dialogue and bridging divides and finding common ground.   And that question is: What happens when we have to move beyond conversation and achieving understanding and we actually have to start producing solutions to problems? What do we do then?   It's an important question because dialogue can only get us so far … or so it seems.   To help me answer this question, I invited Mónica Guzmán back onto the show. Mónica is the Senior Fellow for Public Practice at a political depolarization non-profit called Braver Angels, and she first joined me back in episode 81 shortly after the release of her book, "I Never Thought of it That Way."   As it turns out, this question of "what do we do when we actually have to solve problems?" is at the forefront of Mónica's mind as well, and she recognizes just how difficult it can be when competing values are placed on the table. In these scenarios, it's easy to slip into a zero-sum mentality, where for me and my side and my ideas to win, the other side has to experience total defeat.   Mónica and I discuss just how important language matters in these conversations, and how it might be the key to uncovering entirely new ways of looking at and solving problems.   Learn more about Braver Angels at https://braverangels.org/, and connect with Mónica on Twitter at https://twitter.com/moniguzman.    Listen to Mónica's previous appearance on The Follow-Up Question at https://michaelashford.com/episodes/ep-81-monica-guzman-the-perspective-changing-power-of-asking-what-am-i-missing

Episode #157 In this first of a two-part episode, Daisy opens up the challenging topic of how to have conversations with people we disagree with in this increasingly polarised world we live in. How do we talk about things like politics with people who have very different views than we do? Is it possible to put judgement to one side and see “them” as someone just like us who holds different opinions and beliefs? Quite a challenge! Find out more about Mónica Guzmán's book, I Never Thought of it That Way, in this 5 Key Insights article: https://nextbigideaclub.com/magazine/never-thought-way-fearlessly-curious-conversations-dangerously-divided-times-bookbite/33900/ Please consider helping us make more episodes by supporting Daisy on Patreon. https://bit.ly/MondayMindsetPatreon If you have enjoyed listening to this episode, please leave us a review on iTunes or whichever platform you listen on. It really helps new people hear about the podcast. Connect with and follow us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube: https://bit.ly/MondayMindsetFB https://bit.ly/MondayMindsetIG https://bit.ly/MondayMindsetYT

The guys get out their matching outfits and aerobic dance moves for a discussion on the Backstreet Boys, N'SYNC, and the man that swindled them (and a whole lot of banks, business men and retirees). Support the show on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/rocknrollbedtimestories SHOW NOTES: Songs used in this episode: Steel Panther "I Want it That Way" [...]

This is the first episode in a three-part series about how to have difficult conversations with people who see the world differently, how to have better debates about contentious issues, and how to ethically and scientifically persuade one another about things that matter – in short, this is a three-part series about How Minds Change (which is also the title of my new book).There seems to be a movement afoot, a new wave of nonfiction about how to reduce all this argumentative madness and epistemic chaos. I want to boost everyone's signal on this issue, so I thought it would be nice to collaborate instead of compete, since that's part of what we are all proselytizing with these books.So this episode's guest is Mónica Guzmán, the author of I Never Thought of It That Way – a book with very practical advice on how to have productive conversations in a polarized political environment via authentic curiosity about where people's opinions, attitudes, and values come from. In short, it's about how to reduce polarization and learn from those with whom we disagree by establishing the sort of dynamic in which they will eagerly learn from us as well.- How Minds Change: www.davidmcraney.com/howmindschangehome- Show Notes: www.youarenotsosmart.com- Newsletter: https://davidmcraney.substack.com- David McRaney's Twitter: https://twitter.com/davidmcraney- YANSS Twitter: https://twitter.com/notsmartblog- Mónica Guzmán's Website: https://www.moniguzman.com- Mónica Guzmán's Twitter: https://twitter.com/moniguzman- I Never Thought of it That Way: https://www.moniguzman.com/book- Braver Angels: https://braverangels.org- My Article on Intellectual Humility: https://bigthink.com/the-well/change-your-mind-intellectual-humility/

Secrets of Overcoming Romantic Rejection Part 2 of 2 In last week's podcast we interviewed Dr. Kyle Jones on the topic of how to overcome romantic rejection, and answered five of your questions. Today we publish Part 2 of that interview. Rhonda, Kyle and David will tell you how to stop obsessing about someone who has rejected you, and whether you can "heal completely,"and how you can get your confidence back, and more! 6. Do you have any tips for moving on and realizing that maybe your ex isn't as great as you think they are? David 20 qualities I'm looking for in an ideal mate. Rhonda Time, patience, space away from each other. Make lists of qualities you liked about your ex and qualities you wish were different.  Fill out the form: “20 Qualities in An Ideal Mate” and review how many of these qualities your ex had. 7. Since cheating is something that happens so often in relationships, what would you recommend (techniques wise) for someone who's been cheated on in trying to get their confidence back? David YOU CAN USE THE DAILY MOOD LOG, DOUBLE STANDARD, ETC. OVERCOME FEAR OF BEING ALONE. ETC. Examine the Evidence; Worst, Best, Average. Kyle Cheating can be really devastating if you and your significant other were in a monogamous relationship. What are the negative thoughts you have about yourself after you've been cheated on? Practice talking back to those. 8. How can we boost our confidence back up after a breakup in general even if we haven't been cheated on? David SAME ANSWER. Rhonda Do things you love to do with people who love you:  go dancing, go to the beach, go hear music, read, etc. Daily Mood Log on the thoughts that lead to your lack of confidence. 9. Do you guys believe in the notion that you are capable of “healing completely from your ex (aka completely being over them and all the pain the breakup brought you)” or do you believe that it's not possible. David I MEASURE THINGS. YOU CAN DO WAY BETTER AS YOU GROW. IS THERE A CLAIM THAT THERE IS NOW AN INVISIBLE BARRIER ON YOUR SCORE ON THE BMS. THIS IS SUCH, EXCUSE MY CRUDITY, HOGWASH! HOPEFULLY, YOU'LL NEVER AGAIN FIND SOMEONE JUST LIKE THE PERSON WHO REJECTED YOU! Rhonda You may never be exactly the same, why would you want to be?  Every experience in life gives you the opportunity to grow (as cliche and kind of yucky as that sounds). Maybe you need to acknowledge and examine your role in the breakup, come to a place of humility or maybe even compassion, but definitely understanding. Interpersonal Downward Arrow to look at the Roles and Rules in your past relationships.  Relationship Journal to see how you have contributed to the relationship problems.  Maybe do Reattribution to see what you contributed to the relationship problems and what they did. 10. What are some realistic expectations to have coming out of a breakup, recovery wise, and what are some unrealistic expectations? David I DON'T IMPOSE MY STANDARDS AND AGENDAS ON OTHERS! THAT'S LIKE MISSIONARY WORK, TRYING TO GET SOMEONE TO ADOPT YOUR STANDARDS. I TRY TO LISTEN (EMPATHY) AND THEN SET THE AGENDA WITH THE PATIENT, AND THE NEGOTIATION STEP IS SOMETIMES IMPORTANT. I ALSO USE STORY TELLING TO ILLUSTRATE A RADICALLY DIFFERENT REALITY FROM WHAT THE PATIENT “SEES.” Rhonda I can't add anything to that, except, after examining your role in the relationship, you may see the expectations you want to eliminate and the ones you want to maintain. 11. Do you guys feel that you shouldn't date for a while after getting your heart broken? David THIS CAN BE A GREAT IDEA. I ALWAYS INSIST, AS PART OF NEGOTIATION PHASE OF AGENDA SETTING, THAT THE PERSON OVERCOME THE FEAR OF BEING ALONE BEFORE DATING, WHETHER OR NOT A REJECTION HAPPENED. Rhonda This is a very personal decision.  Have you had time to heal before getting into a new relationship?  Have you had time to examine your role so you can make changes if you choose, so you won't repeat the same mistakes in the next relationship? 12. Do you have to move on from your ex to go back out into the dating world again and to possibly be in a relationship again? Do you guys feel that “jumping” from relationship to relationship can be a bad thing? Why or why not? David THESE THINGS ARE ALWAYS ON AN INDIVIDUAL BASIS. I THINK IT CAN BE HEALTHY TO DATE A VARIETY OF PEOPLE AND NOT GLOM ONTO THE FIRST PERSON WHO EXPRESSES AN INTEREST IN YOU. THAT WAY, YOU CAN COMPARE A VARIETY OF RELATIONSHIPS AND IN ADDITION, YOUR DATING SKILLS WILL IMPROVE. THE “20 THINGS I'M LOOKING FOR IN AN IDEAL MATE” CAN BE VALUABLE. Rhonda “Jumping from relationship to relationship” sounds so judgmental.  Are you finding yourself in relationships where you have similar complaints from your last relationship, repeating patterns that you dislike?  Then I would pause and take time to heal and learn before starting another one. Kyle What does be “moved on” really mean here? Would you have to never have a thought about your ex again before dating? That might be impossible! I don't think there's anything wrong with dating multiple people or starting and stopping relationships with some frequency – especially if you're looking for a good fit and it's not working out with someone. 13. How do you overcome your trust issues when getting into another relationship after your heartbreak? David PATIENT WOULD HAVE TO GIVE ME A SPECIFIC EXAMPLE, AND NOT DEAL WITH THIS OR ANYTHING “ABSTRACTLY.” Rhonda Daily Mood Log work, starting with a specific event that led to the lack of trust. Let us know if you would like a third podcast on how to deal with romantic rejection at some point, since we have a number of remaining questions. Thanks! My book, Intimate Connections, will help you with dating and rejection issues! You can contact Dr. Kyle Jones at kyle@feelinggoodinstitute.com End of Part 2

Episode 5 of “Meet the Verdooners” introduces us to AJ Fawver, who leads Verdunity's Community Consulting Program. In this episode we learn what initially brought AJ into the planning world and what element of community building she is most concerned about. AJ is a firm believer that we serve communities best when we remember that people are at the center of everything we do, and she greatly admires communities that are willing to have difficult conversations in order to effect positive change in their cities. After the episode make sure to check out AJ's book recommendations:The Local Economy Solution by Michael ShumanPlacemaking with Children and Youth by Victoria Derr, Louise Chawla, and Mara MintzerAs well as “We Built it That Way”, a podcast she co-hosts with Jordan Clark.

THIS WAY, THAT WAY, THE OTHER WAYGod's Will: Nothing More, Nothing Less, Nothing Else - Part 2Springcreek Church | Senior Pastor Keith StewartNovember 27, 2022 We want to take the mystery out of discovering & doing the will of God. Learn some of the major misconceptions about the will of God & about the essential markers needed in determining God's leadership & direction for our lives.DISCUSSION QUESTIONS1.) Of the three popular misconceptions concerning the will of God, to which have you been most susceptible in the past;      1.     The will of God always equals smooth sailing      2.     The will of God will leave me with a peaceful feeling       3.     The will of God is to make me successfulExplain why you believed that in the first place. Then take some time to reflect on other times in your life when those misconceptions were proven wrong.2.) “The long defeat” was an apt description when it comes to what is real and right and true. Oftentimes, if we align ourselves with Christ and His kingdom values, we will be at odds with society. As a result, we will suffer the same treatment Jesus endured. But we must never fail to raise our voice in dissent. We must always stand with those in the margins, the poor, the outcast, the very ones with whom Christ associated. How does this thinking impact you? How counter is this to the way most Christians live?3.) If God's purpose – His will – is to see Christ fully formed in us, He will likely take us through some character-building experiences that we might consider losses, adversity, and difficulty. Why is it that winning and success don't always leave us more like Christ? What is it about losing that had the potential to make us more like Christ? 4.) God uses leading lights – navigational lights – that confirm His leadership in multiple ways. God affirms His will with His inner voice, circumstances, and godly friends. Have you ever experienced such an alignment of internal and external witnesses like this in regard to a decision you were trying to make?5.) His inner voice – One of the most important questions we must ask ourselves in regard to what we think God might be saying to us is this, “How will my spiritual life be enriched? Or which choice helps me to love God better?” Sometimes when it involves a career change or promotion, we never ask this question or factor into our decision-making the impact of a choice on our spiritual life. Why is this unwise? Have you ever failed to factor into a decision its impact on your spiritual life and regretted it or factored it in and were really glad you did? 6.) Circumstances are not the primary way God leads us but they are one factor to consider, favorable or unfavorable circumstances, open or closed doors. When everything else seems to line up, circumstances are often the icing on the cake – they confirm that this is in fact an opportunity God is providing for you. Where do you see this in your life? In the Bible? In others?7.) Being in a group is one of the best things anyone can do for their spiritual life, especially in regard to discerning the will of God. It is hard to resist the urge to give advice or problem-solve. We need to have confidence that God is leading every member of the group and that the answer they need is within them. We do them a great service by asking great questions, listening well, and allowing them to process what they're hearing with us. How can you do this better for one another as a group? https://www.springcreekchurch.org/#realspringcreekchurch #GodsWill #WillofGod #GodsWord #GodsPlan #nothingmore #nothingless #nothingelse

First Errands (99% Invisible) This Way and That Way

Helen and Gavin chat about Let the Right One In, Unsolved Mysteries, and Tár,  and it's Week 53 from the list of Rolling Stone's 500 Best Songs Ever, numbers 240 to 236; I Want it That Way by The Backstreet Boys, September Gurls by Big Star, Are You That Somebody by Aaliyah, Your Cheatin' Heart by Hank Williams, and Lean on Me by Bill Withers.

So many situations can come upon us in life to where the situation can sometimes get more attention than getting to, and seeing, our healing. We get stuck in a space of negativity and we may feel that giving up is our only option. We cannot see any other Way except the Way we are in. That Way can be depression, suicidal thoughts, pain, agony, and a mix of other negative emotions and feelings until we cannot see our way to the other side where peace, tranquility, forgivness, and compassion lives. Through the pain, we have to see our future and how we want that future to be. We have to seek God and trust that He has us in His Hands. Latonia has a conversation with her return guest from season 2 episode 14 Carolyn Rice about moving past pain and trusting God in the process by turning the page. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/a-womans-soul-restored/message

I cannot overstate the importance of Cece Bell's EL DEAFO. For both us, as a society, and for the prestige that it brought to graphic novels with the citation of that Newbery Honor, the first graphic novel to earn that shiny silver sticker! Get to know how Cece Bell came to be in her Origin Story!Jarrett: Hello everyone. My name is Jarrett Krosoczka and I wanna say hello to my friend, Cece Bell. Cece: Hi everybody. Hi Jarrett. It's so nice to see you. Jarrett: Oh, it's nice to see you. You're I miss you. I haven't seen you in so long. Even... Before the pandemic, we hadn't run into each other on book tour. Cece: It had been a long time, I guess we probably haven't seen each other for four years. Maybe. Jarrett: It might be. Yeah, it might be. I always see your silly and goofy posts on Instagram. So I really feel like we, we haven't missed a beat because I've been following along, you made a beautiful drawing for your mom on her birthday. Cece: Oh, yes. I did. Yeah. I, yeah, we, I've actually been off of Instagram for a little while because I was finding that it was too much of a pull away from, my productivity. So I'm allowed to look at it every Sunday. Jarrett: Ah! Cece: Nothing for the rest of the week. It's hard. Jarrett: I feel like if I did that, my thumb would always be like, ah, I need to look and scroll and see things. That is some amazing willpower, Cece Bell. So I, we know your story somewhat from your book, El Deafo, and as a person who's also written a graphic memoir, you decide like what you're gonna put on the page, what doesn't make it to the page.And I've said this to you a bunch, and you've heard this a million times, but El Deafo is... Such a powerful book and it's a pillar in graphic novel history because your book was the very first one ever to get a Newberry silver sticker like that really pushed the whole medium of graphic novels forward.And of course, when you sat down to make that book, that was nowhere near in your head. And we'll get to that. But before we do, I'm interested in how Cece Bell became Cece Bell, the graphic novelist, the cartoonist, the author. What are your earliest memories of drawing and making and reading comics tell us a little bit more about what your house was like growing up in regards to like the creative sources you consumed and created.Cece: Okay. Wow. Let's see. I think I always like drawing and mark making and that kind of thing. And let's see. I do remember when I got very sick in 1975 when I was about four and a half which is where the book El Deafo starts, that I did a lot of drawing there in the hospital. And my parents think that I drew probably 100 drawings of the same thing over and over again.It was just a little girl with a green face underneath the rainbow. Her body was shaped like a triangle and I just drew that repeatedly over and over. And that was probably an early experience of drawing being therapy in a way. But I always drew that was basically the only book that I would check out of my school library every Friday, the same Ed Emberly book; Make a World. And I really wasn't interested in reading that much. I could read, I didn't have trouble with it, but I just wasn't interested. I wanted to be making things. so Ed Emberly was a major part of my life.And gosh, my... My home life, I was really lucky. My father was a doctor and my mother was a nurse. And I wasn't limited financially, basically. And it was a very supportive household, but in the book, there's this feeling that that my parents are fairly normal people and my siblings are fairly normal people.And if I had focused on my family instead of on just the story of me coping with my deafness in school and at home it would've been much, much stranger. My family is bonkers weird and they are very funny. Oh, my goodness. They are just so weird. My mom is so weird. My dad is... We're just weird.And so I, I tamped that down a lot because... The focus wasn't on that. It was on deafness and feeling isolated. So anyway, but my family was, yeah, there was my mom. There was a picture of my mom. Nuts, very dramatic and funny. And I think I get a lot of my storytelling abilities from my mom's side of the family and word play and nicknames and all that stuff comes into play.And then my father's side is very really talented with hand skills. My grandmother was an amazing seamstress and my great grandmother was an amazing seamstress, but she was also a sign painter. I always found that really cool. A sign painter. Wow. I think that sort of some of the mix of who I was growing up and a huge focus on weird and probably Ed Eberly and the fact that my father got weekly issues of the New Yorker were major influences the New Yorker cover and then the New Yorker cartoon in the inside.That's a little bit of, a little bit of what was going on around me. Jarrett: Okay. So I want to meet these people who are more cuckoo bananas than Cece Bell, because you are so wonderfully and beautifully... Goofy and fun. And you might be the only person I know who consistently uses the hot dog emoji in text messages, so... Cece: That's the best one ever!Jarrett: I imagine that must have been, yeah, I guess that makes such sense. What - may I ask? What did your siblings grow up to do? Cece: My siblings they struggled more than I did in terms of - this is gonna sound strange, but in a lot of ways, my hearing loss ended up being a real gift and the main way that it did that is I ended up getting attention from our parents.That... More attention from our parents than my older siblings did, which was extremely unfair, but that's just how it happened, how it played out. And so they really struggled. They struggled with that lack of attention and just, they are my sister is five years older and my brother is seven years older and they're growing up was very different from mine, even that slight not generational, but time period was different.And so they, they are probably the funniest, most creative people that I know, but neither one of them has found that lifelong dream career, which is something I struggle with them. That sense of guilt, even though what happened, wasn't my fault. I'm deeply aware of how much it changed things for them.And it's a, it's an interesting thing, but they are so funny. If you think I'm funny, spend time with them and you'll just think that I'm as dull as a brick because those two and when we all three get together, it is just, it's pretty magical. And I'm so grateful that we get along and that we're as close as we are.They're terrific siblings. Yeah. Jarrett: Wow. What that is a, what a beautiful testament of your love for them. And their love for you comes across so clearly in the book, in regards to you, the baby of the family and they're concerned for your health that's, and I connect to that as well, because I too was, the baby of the family, and there was a lot of trauma going on.And with that, I got a lot of attention. And I loved drawing as a form of escape. And I'm so touched to hear that your time in the hospital was spent drawing because that is a testament to the power of creating in the arts to get you through some hard times. Did you ever have an epiphany along the lines where you realized this thing could be a career for you?Like this drawing thing? Cece: That took a while. I was in school, in high school and the first part of college I was really super academic. And some of that was pressure from my own self, but also pressure from my dad. I think my dad wanted me to be a doctor like him, and I've have found that's a theme among a lot of cartoonists and illustrators that there was this parent who pushed, but pushed them to be something that they didn't want to be.And that child like me in my case I think [inaudible] has a similar thing. And the name is leaving me... American born Chinese? Jarrett: Oh, Jean Yang.Cece: Helped me. Yeah. Yeah. Just that, that pressure. And There was that, but in school I was really academic trying to fulfill this thing for myself and for my father and overcompensating for the deafness.I didn't want people to think of me as "that deaf kid". I wanted them to think of me, " that smart kid". And so I worked really hard and I never considered art as a career because it didn't seem like it was even doable. It wasn't doable. So when I got to college, I was an English major and I hated it.I hated it. I don't know what I was doing. Having to write papers and read books and but while I was in college, I met Tom Angelberger, who ended up becoming my husband and he was an art major and I did take some art classes. There he is! There he is. He's so smart. And we started hanging out and I think he recognized that I was pretty good at it.And I think he also recognized that I was unhappy as an English major. And so it was Tom who encouraged me to switch majors and just go for it. And I did, and suddenly I was happy and it was the best move I ever made, but it took a while longer to figure out what I was going to do with it. Jarrett: Wow. You know... I obviously I know that you and Tom really support one, one another artistically, but I didn't realize he was really such an integral part of your origin story of you becoming the Cece Bell that we all know, that we know is the name on the spine of the book, the name on the front cover with all of those shiny stickers. And, yeah. And so you were college sweethearts, and then you both got catapulted out into the real world. And so what happened from there? Did you graduate with an English degree?Cece: We, no, no. I got out of that as quick as I could. I keep saying I don't like reading and I do, but the book has to get me.Or it has to interest me from chapter one. And if it doesn't, I throw it out. So there were a lot of books that didn't interest me in chapter one in the English department, but I was out of there, but no, we I ended up getting a degree in fine arts and Tom did two, and we went to the college of William and Mary, which is in Williamsburg, Virginia, and which isn't really known for art. It's known for like business and physics and science. But we finished school and then we took a trip around the country together in an old Volkswagen van. And then we decided, because we survived that we could get married and survived that too. So we got married and I decided to go to graduate school at in Ohio. And so we got married right before that. And so at this point we were just 22. We were super, super young. And I decided I needed to, I wanted to become an illustrator. That I wouldn't have fit in with the whole fine arts crowd. I had this vision that I would have to go to New York city and drink champagne and talk about art and that just founded atrocious.So I thought; "Illustration!" And so I decided to go to a graduate degree in design and illustration, and Tom went with me and basically... He worked in a factory and juggled on the weekend, and that... And he paid for all of the time I was in graduate school. And then and then I finished and then we moved back to Virginia.He learned a lot from what I was learning. So it was neat. I would share my projects with him and talk about everything with him. And I think he picked it up through osmosis, but he actually, his path was really different. He was working in a factory, but then eventually ended up becoming a newspaper reporter, both in Ohio and then back in Virginia.And he was really good at it. And I think that's how he became a writer, was through newspaper writing. And his first book, which was about a group of kids exploring the local sewage department. That was based on a story that he wrote for the newspaper. Anyway he's a huge - Tom Angelberger is probably the reason I'm talking to you right now is because he put me through school.He was the one that, I think he understood me before. I understood me in a lot of ways. Jarrett: Wow. Wow. Wow. I, that's beautiful. I feel like that story you just told us could be... Like a limited series on a streaming service. That is just such a beautiful, that could be a romantic comedy or something, Cece, that's amazing. Wow. So you landed back in Virginia, you got hitched you got hitched and smart to travel across country together to see if you could survive that your relationship could survive that before marriage that's smart. That should be a requirement. So why, so he was writing for the newspaper.And were you like what were you hoping to do with your illustrations? Did you have books for kids in mind? Did you like what were you thinking? Cece: Gosh, when we moved back to Virginia, I was, we were both 25 and we moved back mostly because Tom was homesick for the mountains. I would've stayed in Ohio.And I actually applied for a job at American Greeting, which was, or I think it's still in Cleveland and did not get that job. What were they thinking? But I didn't get hired by American Greeting. And I was bummed cuz it was in a, that the office space was just beautiful and the employees would get these like every other year sabbaticals and it was beautiful.So I was pretty sad, but Tom wanted to go back to Virginia and I did. And so we did, and when we first came back Tom had trouble finding a newspaper job, but I got a job as an illustrator and designer for a small company. That made exotic pet supplies.So for three years I was making packaging and writing copy and doing all this stuff for this little company in Virginia. And the work was really great because it forced me to learn how to use Photoshop. And at the time it was called Freehand, like illustrator. You may remember Freehand.Jarrett: Yeah.Cece: And it forced me to learn to use the computer. I, my time in graduate school, the computer stuff was just starting. It was more, we were using a Xerox machine and cutting and pasting and using all that old, Ruby list kind of stuff. So the computer was still really new. So that job was good because it forced me to learn those things.But I was working for the devil. Satan himself was my boss and I had to get outta there. And so I don't know if you've ever seen this show, The Prisoner, the it's that British show and the beginning, the introduction has the prisoner is an FBI - not FBI, Secret Service agent. And he he quits his job and he like throws his keys down and storms out.I had visions that, that, that was how I was going to quit. But instead I got up like at 5:30 in the morning and I wrote a note and I put it in an envelope with the key. And I crept into my boss's office and put the envelope on his desk and it basically said I quit and don't contact me ever. And then I snuck out and I was at no two weeks notice.Ugh, I was pretty shabby, but I was so glad to get out in there. And then from that, I started freelancing at this crazy local paper... Paper product place that licensed stuff. Like I got to make folders that featured N-Sync and the, whatever those boys are called, those boy bands. Yes, I Want it That Way.And I got to make all these school supplies for N-Sync and with the Crayola stuff on there, and it was this crazy hodgepodge. It was the best job. And so when I was doing that, it freed me up to start thinking about kids books and my graduate thesis had been this wackadoodle children's book that will never is the light of day, but the illustrations are great.And the story's not so good, but I thought the illustrations were great, but anyway So then I started to think; "Maybe I can do this." And I finally had an idea that I felt like it was good enough to pursue, and I pursued it and I made this really polished dummy that I could that I could send out.And at the time Candlewick Press was accepting ,accepting work without an agent, unsolicited stuff. So I sent it to Candlewick and like three months later there was a message on the answering machine. Which of course I didn't understand because I don't understand that. I don't understand answering machine messages, but Tom was there once again, Tom did a rescue and he is; "Oh my gosh, it's Candlewick Press!".And So I didn't, I, that was it. That was my end. And the rest is history . Jarrett: And what book was that? Cece: That book was "Sock Monkey goes to Hollywood."Jarrett: Oh, yes. I remember the Sock Monkey books and, wow. That's right. Wow. So what and what year was that? Cece: Oh, my gosh, that came out.Oh yeah. So the, that was the year 2000 was when I got the message from Candlewick, but it didn't come out until 2003 because I didn't have an agent. And I had to get a lawyer to help me read the contract as those contracts are... It wasn't until later that I got an agent, and God bless agents because I never wanna read another contract ever again. But it just took a long time because it was my first and I didn't have representation at the time. So that came out in 2003. Jarrett: Yeah. Cece: Yeah. Jarrett: Yeah. And because now I'm connecting all of the dots, because then... It was maybe a few years after that is when I first met you and Tom at, we were in a gallery show together and I had just thought; "That's the famous Cece Bell, she's been around. "These books have been out for years now. And I don't know if I'm allowed to talk to the famous Cece Bell who makes the Sock Monkey books." And there, you were just getting started. Cece: Yeah. Oh, I really was just getting started and I wasn't famous at all. I remember Ashley Bryan was there and Grace Lynn was there.Jarrett: Yeah. Cece: And at the time I was a huge Grace Lynn fan, still am, but I think, I still think of her as this icon. She already felt iconic that all the way back then. And I was so in awe of her and that sensation that I had, then it's still there. Anytime I see her, I just turn a jelly like; "Oh, it's Grace Lynn! Baah!"And so she was there and I remember the book that you were talking about was the the animal punk rock band. Jarrett: Yeah. Cece: Book. Yeah. Jarrett: Yeah. Punk Farm! Cece: And you already had the JJK thing going on. You were like Mr. PR and... Jarrett: No, but I was only a few years in then too, that my first book was 2001 and Punk Farm was 2005, I think.Cece: Punk Farm.Jarrett: Still trying to get my stuff out there, and learning how to be on stage. Cause I used to have incredible stage fright. I hated performing. I hated going on stage. And then that became part of the job that I have. So I'm curious and because I know for me, I had been working on Lunch Lady that whole time.But the world wasn't quite ready for kids graphic novel. So you're plugging away on these picture books. How does El Deafo thread into that? I'm assuming that was something that was knocking around your head for, so for some years, right? Cece: It, in fact it was not knocking around my head at all.And honestly I was purposefully not writing about my experience on purpose and it's much like how I was in school. I don't want anybody to know this thing about me. And I want everybody to think I'm smart. And I had the same feeling about my picture books and early reader books. I just wasn't ready to talk about it in any way, not just in books, but in any and every way.There was an event that happened in which I had this really difficult interaction with a grocery store cashier. And she made me feel like the lowest person on earth. And it was all because I couldn't understand her. And I was so upset by that interaction and the person I was most upset at with myself, because at no point during that interaction, did I ever say; "I'm deaf!" Or; "I have trouble hearing." Or; "Could you please repeat that?"Because I had so much trouble saying those things. I still had not come to grips with a lot of it. And at that point I was 40 years old. 40! And I was so mad... At everything. And I was mad at hearing people for not understanding and just frustrated and mad at me. And so I started a website and the website was called, eldeafo.com.And El Deafo really was the nickname that I called myself, as a kid, but only to myself, nobody else knew about it. And I just started writing about it. And my post were more about more directed at hearing people like; "This is what you should do if you're talking to a lip reader." That kind of thing.But then I wrote a little, my, my origin story. I wrote that up and a friend of mine who was a wonderful writer named Madeline Rosenberg. She was reading it and she said; "Oh my goodness, you have got to turn this into something. Please turn this into something, please turn it into a graphic novel." And so we have Madeline Rosenberg to thank for this.And so it was her encouragement and I had just read Raina Telgemeier's Smile, and that thing's a masterpiece. And I could see, I could tell that Raina's methods would really work for a story like this. And I was really excited about it because from the word go, I knew that they were gonna be rabbits.And I knew that the speech bubbles were going to be... The most important part of telling the story of my experience with deafness. So that's how that all came to me. And I was ready. I was ready. I felt like this book is going to be my calling card. This book is going to tell the world for me that I'm deaf.And then sure enough, after the book came out, I was finally able to talk about it. It was like, it worked. Yay. Jarrett: Yeah. Cece: And it was such relief. Jarrett: And I, and again, I could understand that journey. So earlier when I was talking about I, I was making Lunch Lady I probably should have compared it more to Hey Kiddo in that for me too.When I was first getting published and news reporters would wanna ask, they ask; "Why were you being raised by your grandparents?"" And I thought, I don't want that to be, I don't wanna be labeled as the child of an addict. I wanna be the Jarrett, who's making the books and I wanna be the Punk Farm guy or the Lunch Lady guy.And, but then there's this thing that you've lived and you're processing it and it's trauma and you're an adult, but you're still dealing with it. And then suddenly this thing that you've wanted to put inside a box your whole life, you're gonna put in a graphic memoir, like a hundreds of pages for everyone to see what was the creative process like for you?And I love that you made them rabbits. That's it's so perfect cuz of the ears, but also because you're Cece Bell, it's just so silly. Like they could have been talking hot dogs and it's still would've worked, but could you tell us a little bit about... The creative process and how that intersected with the emotional journey you had.Cece: Wow. I was, when I decided to commit to it, I was really excited about it. And I think because I didn't have any experience with graphic novels. I knew that I had to do a little bit of studying up and probably like a lot of folks who were in this business. I started with Scott McCloud's Understanding Comics, which is, probably the most important book about comics I've ever seen.And I read it three times. I was just amazed by the whole thing. I read it three times. Once I, after the third time I thought to myself, I'm ready. I'm ready to go. And the process was just, I basically did a a notebook dump. I just wrote down everything I could remember, but I limited myself to the moment that I lost my hearing to fifth grade, and I just wrote all my memories down all my experiences and then tightened that up into an outline.And it was the outline and a a chapter. I drew out a chapter and that's what I sent to Susan Van Metre at Abrams Books. She was at Abrams at the time and she was Tom's editor for the Origami Yoda series. And I was really impressed with her. I had met her a couple of times and something told me she was the right person for it.That's what I sent to her, but the process was just a lot of back and forth between doing just these little sketches for each page kind of blocking out what's supposed to happen and then writing out what people are supposed to say, and then just mushing it together. And the process felt very organic compared to picture books, the picture books, I always feel like you've gotta get the text absolutely perfect. And there was a lot less of that for me, with the graphic novel, it was so much looser and more fun, I think. And that's all I can, that's all I can say. It was just, it was a really good experience. Jarrett: That's and that, that book is such a gift. I still have. The advanced reader's copy that they handed out to promote the book.I'll never, that's maybe in 50 years, I'll sell it on eBay to get me through . But I think it's only with the medium of comics, like a prose novel would not have worked to tell this story as effectively, because with your visuals, you are able to play with the word balloons and the size of the text to really help me and hearing people understand your journey and, and that obviously that's a help to us with hearing, but for, the whole generation of kids who are growing up with hearing loss and who are deaf.Have you - that - I can't even imagine what this book has meant to them. And I'm assuming you hear from readers with hearing loss and deafness could you share a few stories like that must get emotionally overwhelming at times? Cece: Sure. There have been, the response was just so positive.The kids that I've heard from who have had experiences like mine, they just get so excited to see their story and to see something that's familiar to them. It's not exactly their story maybe, but they get it. And they're really happy to have something to show their families and their friends. "This is what it's like!"And... Also just a lot of kids have had the experience of hearing their teacher in the bathroom. And it's great to have that validated. "Yeah. I've been there too. Yay." That's probably, everybody's favorite part in the book. That's my favorite part in the book. That was the chapter that I submitted to Susan that yeah. Hearing teacher. Jarrett: That's perfect. Cece: Yeah. So the kids have been great. And, but somehow the more affecting stories for me were the adults who had grown up in a very similar way that I had with the same equipment, even the phonic ear and the microphone and many of them said; "This is the first time I have ever seen anything remotely, like my story in a book."And I ended up making friends with a lot of adults with hearing loss, which wasn't something I had a lot of, I'm very much in the hearing world because my family is all hearing. And I think for so long, I thought of myself as a hearing person. I am, I'm a hearing person when I stick my hearing aids in and I'm a deaf person when they're out, but I'm both of those things all the time I'm in between all the time.And so it was just really cool to get this new group of people who completely understood and just... Those are the ones that get me. But then in terms of the kids, probably my favorite story ever was a little girl who was struggling with having to get hearing aids. And she was very afraid of it all.And so she found my book and read it, and that helped her be less afraid. And she was at the audiologist office. And at that point she was very comfortable and okay with everything she was going through. But there was a little boy at the office who was crying and she happened to have her copy of El Deafo and she gave him her copy. Ugh. And that was just that really got me so...Jarrett: Wow!Cece: It was just neat. It's neat that it's being used in a helpful way. And I never thought that I would ever create a book that would help people, my other books that are just silly and funny and goofy. Sometimes I feel guilty for those books. I'm like; "Sure, maybe they help kids read, but what good are they doing?" So it's really nice to have this one book that I know helps people, Jarrett: Yeah. Yeah. And, that's something that I struggled to... Especially when we're seeing every awful, horrific headline in the news. And there have been times where I've worried; "But what does this silly story matter?"But they do, those silly stories do matter. I under- I understand that inner struggle because you have made something that connects with readers on this whole other level. So I'm curious, I'd like to know a little bit more about this Apple TV+ limited series of El Deafo. It, my kids requested to watch it because they had read the book and what you did with the visuals in El Deafo, the book to help hearing people understand your deaf experience.The sound scape in the TV show helped me understand on a, on an entirely different level. And it, I had to say Cece, it felt like a animated special we've had for decades. It felt like a Charles Schulz, Peanuts, Charlie Brown, Snoopy, special. Like it was that level of just beauty and taking the time to tell the story.How did that come about? Cece: Wow Jarrett. You just said the magic words to me. That was what I wanted. I wanted that peanut feel that Christmas special Peanuts feel. Where it's not exactly perfect, but the imperfections or what make it interesting, there's something really unusual about that Charlie Brown, Christmas special that on paper, it shouldn't work at all. It's a mess. Even some of the story doesn't make sense and yet you stick it all together and yay. It works. But so thank you for that. That means a lot. So that television show came about a he's my friend now, but back then, he wasn't my friend.He was somebody. Greatly admired and still admired, Will McRob who is one of the co-creators of one of my favorite TV shows of all time, the Adventures of Pete and Pete, which was on Nickelodeon in the 90s, he, out of the blue sent me an email and said; "I like your book. Let's turn it into a show!"And so that was how it got started, but it took him a long time to convince me because I felt like the book was I don't know, to me, at least it felt sacred and I didn't wanna mess that up. And I knew that there were a lot of fans of the book who also felt that love for it. And I didn't wanna mess that up, but I started to think, there's not many, if any characters on TV who are like me in that we are deaf people who have chosen or because of our circumstances, we have gotten through life with hearing aids, not without, but with, and you don't see very much of that on TV and in a movie. And in fact, when there are deaf characters in movies, at least, like back in the 70s and 80s, when we grew up not only was the deaf character made fun of, but the equipment was too, the actual hearing aid was somehow part of the... Was being made fun of, and, hearing aids are not perfect and they're greatly flawed little things, but they've really helped me and the phonic ear from the book I'm in... Once again, I would not be here talking to you without that piece of equipment. I don't think maybe I would've, but I don't think so, but anyway I just started to think, this kind of needs to be this could be really good for deaf kids and hearing kids to have a show like this. So that's how it came about.And I signed on once I I was very demanding. I had to put on those big girl pants and be like; "Ra ra ra!" Which is not my usual way. But anyway I said it can't be just a series that, goes on a, goes off on its own. It needs to be based on the book. And I want it to look like the book and it can't be 3D animation.I was like; "Absolutely no 3D, has to be 2D." And my other thing was; "We have to mess with the audio. The audio has to reflect the book in some way." So those were some of my demands. Also the main character had to be played by someone, a kid who also has hearing loss, but is using adaptive equipment to help her.And in that case, we got a lovely young lady, Lexi Finigan who uses cochlear implants a little bit different from what I do. But she was just fantastic. So I was very demanding. Jarrett: I I'm so glad that you were because, so often these animated adaptations of work the author of the underlying material is the last person they wanna work with. And I think that the work suffers from that cuz so it really, you went in there with, a limited amount of things that would really like you're quote-unquote "demands". And I, and I get it cuz you have to be assertive in these situations. To say; "Here's what's really important to me." And understanding like a book is a book and a and a TV show is a TV show. Like you're telling story with anything that's animated or film. You're telling stories with visuals and sounds, and time, which is different than a book. And you all just hit it right out of the park.I, when it comes to the Emmys, I hope you win all of the awards for this piece. It's an instant classic. It's just so perfect. And you narrat I could, I didn't know that. So I put it on and I, and my wife, Gina was in the other room she came and went; "Is that Cece? Cece's voice is coming from the TV?"Cece: Yeah, that was pretty neat. At first the director who is. From Lighthouse Studios in Ireland, a woman named Gilly Fogg, who was absolutely terrific, when she first heard that I wanted to narrate it. Oh, not that I wanted to narrate it, but just the idea of a narrator. She said; "Oh no, we don't want that. That's, no thank you." But Will, and I, when we were writing the script together, we realized that if we were going to mess with the audio, that it was going to be confusing and that we needed there to be a voice ex- kind of just explaining, giving kids a few clues that no, your TV isn't broken because the narrator's voice would come on and it would be clear.And and like I think every now and then the narrator says something like, everything was quiet and I think the audience needs that. Otherwise they're gonna be, hitting their TV. "What's wrong?" She did not like that idea. The director said; "No, no narrator." And so Will said; "What if Cece narrates it?"And then she just lit up and she said; "Aha, yes, that's what we need to do." Because it did need to be my voice. You've probably heard people talking about the deaf accent, where there are certain sounds that I don't hear very well. And so my voice is a little different and that was important.People need to hear what that voice sounds like, which is why one of the reasons why we cast a deaf actress, because we need to have that specific sound. And I used to be very ashamed of that deaf accent, but not anymore. I don't really, that's just how I talk. So that is how that came to be, but I had to take acting classes, Jarrett, I am now... That's the end. And the woman - I know I am acting.And she was fantastic. I think I had about three or four sessions with her and it was almost more like therapy. I don't know she was magical and she's a lovely woman. And just, it actually really helped just, it was more about "here's how to take direction and then use that direction and go with it."And this all happened during COVID. And so I recorded all of my lines in my bedroom. They sent me all this equipment and Tom and I set it up and I was pretty much in my closet. And that it was pretty neat. It was pretty neat getting to do the whole thing from home. Jarrett: You, but, okay. But you do deserve the limo.That's gonna bring you to the studio. So I hope that we get something more so that you can have a personal assistant that you throw your phone to, and if you don't like the food, they prepared, you just throw it against the wall in a fit of rage. I guess you could do that for Tom.I guess you could like Tom, could, he would do that for you. If that's gonna make you happy, like he would totally be game for that Cece: It was frustrating that I didn't get to have some of the experiences, like I was supposed to be able to go to Ireland and hang out with the animation studio for a couple weeks.Wow. So that got canned. And I was supposed to go out to LA to to work with the audio team. That didn't work. But the funny thing is that because we had all of our meetings on zoom, it was actually better because when I'm in a meeting, oh, like around a table in real life, I miss probably 70 or 80% of what's being said, because I lose the thread.If that makes sense. I can't, I can only do, one or two people. And then I'm lost because of their lip reading. But with everybody's face right in front of me, everybody's facing me, look at me, , they're all facing me. That makes me sound like they're looking at me, we have to look at our computers, right?You have to look at our computers when we do them. And so I didn't miss anything. And... That gave me a lot more confidence to help run the show. Oh yeah. So it was actually a benefit in a weird way that we were all stuck at home Jarrett: A as well. You should run the show Cece, wow. That all of your hard work as a team made for a beautiful animated program, and there's, as I said, it so reminded me of the Charlie Brown specials, cause it also took its time. There was moments of silence. There, there were moments where it wasn't just a lot of fast cuts and my five year old son who... Has a very short tension span. Loves video games. Like it, it actually was very calming to him. We'd watch it at the end of the day, as a treat, as a family watch and he would ask for Cece, he wouldn't call it El Deafo, he'd say, could we watch Cece?And so they all connected with you on this whole other level. So we're gonna wrap things up in a bit be before we do in the chat. So what I'll give you one audience question, cuz I don't wanna keep you too much longer. What are you working on Cece? Is there anything you can tell us about? What do we have to look forward to? Cece: Oh so I am working on of all things, an alphabet book. That's crazy, but so I love music and that's something that a lot of hearing folks are surprised by that.Deaf people can love music and my hearing aids are pretty good. And I grew up with my older siblings bringing in all this great music usually from thrift stores. And we had this fantastic turntable, that we used at home. That is mine now. Thank goodness. Great speakers. And so I really love music and I especially love the visuals that went with the music, the album covers.So this is an alphabet book of fake album covers that are animals playing different genres. And and all I'm making memorabilia and writing songs and smushing it all together in this book. So part of it is hopefully it'll be fun, but it's a very personal project because as I've gotten older, I am losing more hearing.And now it's a genetic hearing loss because my father and his grandfather and father, on down the line, they all had pretty significant hearing loss. So I'm starting to lose. My ability to appreciate music, which sucks in a big way. So this is my my outpouring of love visually for music.And it's been so much fun. I'm doing all the hand lettering. I'm doing weird paintings and it's been a lot of fun so far, but a lot of work because it's so personal, I'm taking my time with it. And my editor is Susan Van Metre, the same one who is working, who worked on El Deafo with me.And I just got an extension, Jarrett. Yay! The best thing ever to happen is when you tell your editor, "I need more time" and they give it to you. So that's what I'm...Jarrett: Awesome. Cece: Very personal and I just wanted to do something that didn't have so much of a story, just fun. And there's thought of a story that the story of my own personal relationship with music, but but that's what I've been working on.Jarrett: Oh we will be patient Cece Bell! It has been very challenging, challenging times and concepts lately, cuz of the pandemic deadlines have seemed like wonderful suggestions. I know my editors won't want to hear that, but it's been, to get that art out of you also need to be in a pretty decent enough Headspace.So I'm glad to know that. Yes, you're getting more time and we are gonna get more Cece Bell and the world and we're also, we're lucky to have you in this world. We're lucky that you make art. We're lucky that Tom Angelberger supported you and took you off that track and put you on a different track that you wanted to be on.And what a beautiful thing to have anyone in this world who would love you so much to show you your true self and what an amazing story from the exotic pet packaging to N-Sync. I did not think I would be able to run a thread between Cece Bell and N-Sync in this interview, but wow. Wow.That's very cool. I will think of you whenever I see an N-Sync lunch box at a thrift store or something like that. . Cece: Oh, please. Yeah. If you ever find school supplies like a notebook and folders, I should have sent you pictures. They're they're just I know everything about Justin Timberlake.Let me tell you, I know everything about, the way he looked and his signature, we got to use all this stuff that they sent us. It was great. Jarrett: Ah I'm gonna make...Cece: I would say a lot of the same things about you. Your work has been so important and inspiring and funny and and your support of other authors and illustrators is amazing. I think I'm a little bit more self-centered honestly, you're just like "everybody else is fantastic!" And I really appreciate that. You're really good about doing that. So thank you.Jarrett: I appreciate that your kind words, but in a way, what we all do is self-centered because we're scratching that creative itch we've always had.And, we're lucky enough that we love to make books and we didn't forget who we were as kids and kids find those really funny or entertaining, or they get to see themselves reflected in that true life experience. I...Cece: Yes.Jarrett: ... Cannot pass up a chance to make a really bad pun in this moment.Cece, I'm gonna sign off by saying... Bye bye bye. It was so bad, right? That was so stupid. That was such a bad joke. Ain't no bad joke. Ain't no lie. I say it. It might sound crazy, but it ain't no lie. Cece I appreciate you. And thanks for taking the time to chat with us today. Cece: Absolutely. Thank you, Jarrett.

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Hey hey, Rebels! This week will bring to you another Rebel Buddhist Greatest Hits Episode about how to live with contrasting beliefs… while I go on my long-awaited semi-silent meditation retreat. (I had almost canceled due to COVID, but I'm officially out of the risk window and tested negative! I'll be back with a new episode next week._ We are all complex beings, made up of contrasts. Discipline and wildness. Security and freedom. Worldly and divine.  There are dichotomies everywhere. It's part of nature, and we are all a part of that.  Yet often we are asked to choose only one aspect of ourselves and lose or leave the other. And for many of us, our culture believes it's hypocritical to stand with one foot in each contrasting space.  The place that deep work happens is often when we are recognizing and living in polarity. It's where we change, evolve, and strengthen.  It's like the image of the Taoist tai chi or yin-yang. That dividing line isn't just straight down the middle. It curves so that the two sides are cradling each other, and each side has a small circle of the opposite color embedded within it.  You can't have one without the other. Like light needs darkness, the polarizing parts of you need each other to exist.  We all spend more time in this space than we realize. Maybe we are super healthy, but we can't resist a greasy fast-food meal once every now and then. Or we post all these outdoor journeys on social media, but spend a full weekend binge-watching Netflix in our PJs and don't tell a soul. Many people live in gender fluidity for this reason – acknowledging the limitations of choosing one polarity or another.  So if it's part of nature and part of life, why do we resist living in polarity so much?  Some people may say that we feel hypocritical, or that our integrity is compromised when we want to live between polarities. I challenge that.  Integrity is not about moral perfection. It's about accepting the whole and not trying to divide who we are.  We all have many parts to ourselves, and I want to invite us all to spend more time becoming whole instead of trying to pick which aspects of ourselves are valid or not.   Allow yourself to have polarities, and integrate all the parts, instead of casting away parts of yourself.  There is another image that embodies this: the mandorla. It's used to demonstrate the concept that there is a space of overlap between two seemingly-opposed or contrasting realities, thoughts, or beliefs. It looks similar to a Venn diagram, with two overlapping circles and a small almond-shape in the middle where they overlap.  When we stand in this center, in the mandorla (the term is Italian for “almond”), without seeing two seemingly dissonant concepts as mutually exclusive, we can start to be real. Whole. Authentic. Integrated.  We all feel that tension between poles. It's difficult to live between them instead of just choosing one when our culture or society doesn't support that. So sometimes we can feel like we know who we are, yet we also feel like we must not really know ourselves.   That tension can be so painful, and the reaction may be to escape that by fleeing to one pole or the other, or judging one aspect of ourselves and not accepting it. But if we run from that tension, we can't do the deep work of becoming whole and living in true integrity.  This isn't about a resolution of the tension or a compromise between the opposites. Rather, it's about going full-on into the tension so we can experience the true reality of them existing simultaneously in our being.  So how can we explore this tension and experience that much-needed growth and wholeness? We can complete a mandorla practice, which I learned from one of my own mentors!  The full practice is outlined in the podcast, but below is an outline of the practice: Imagine (or draw) two large overlapping circles. Each circle represents one aspect of your life. Stand in one circle, face the other, and fully embody one pole of the opposing aspects. Make the best arguments for living/being THAT WAY. Step into the other circle and do the same with that opposing side. Keep going back and forth, switching when the tension is exhausting or unbearable. When you feel both sides have expressed themselves fully, sit in the middle (the mandorla) and feel the tension and pull from both sides.  Be mindful of what happens in your mind, in your psyche, and to changes in energy or physical sensations. As Bill Plotkin says, the goal is not to learn something, but to be changed.”  Keep doing the practice over and over. Eventually, you will realize that things are not as black-and-white as you thought.  It's important to note that this practice isn't to help you decide between two incompatible choices or come to a solution. It's to trigger a dissolution of your identity.  So, what seemingly contradictory beliefs, thoughts, or aspects of your being do you have in your life that are difficult to reconcile?  Try out the practice and explore how you can truly embrace all parts of you.  And remember that you are human. Complex. And when we embrace the whole, that is when we are in full integrity.  In this Episode you will learn:// Why we need to avoid putting ourselves into a box and casting out aspects of ourselves that seem contradictory// How living in polarity is not hypocritical – it's completely natural// Why we must live in polarity to be whole and in integrity// Why we feel tension for having opposite aspects within us, and how to overcome that// How the yin-yang and mandorla symbols help us recognize our inner polarity and integrate them// One practice to explore how we can embrace all parts of us  Resources:// If you're ready to learn more about embracing all facets of yourself and your beliefs, head over to AdventureMastermind.com and get on the waitlist for the next cohort – bonus sessions start in July. // If you're new to the squad, grab the Rebel Buddhist Toolkit I created at RebelBuddhist.com. It has all you need to start creating a life of more freedom, adventure, and purpose. You'll also get access to the Rebel Buddhist FB group, and tune in every Wednesday at 11:30am PST as I go live.    // Want to dive into this work on a deeper level? To study it and practice it together? Check out Freedom School – the community for ALL things related to freedom, inside and out.    It's also where you can get individual help applying the concepts to your own life. It's where you can learn new coaching tools not shared on the podcast that will blow your mind even more, and it's where you can connect over all things freedom with other freedom junkies just like you and me. It's my favorite place on earth and it will change your life, I guarantee it. Come join us at JoinFreedomSchool.com. I can't wait to see you there. 

Monica Guzman, author of I Never Thought of it That Way, saying one of the keys to avoiding anger while debating a political issues is embracing a curiosity for the other side's beliefs and asking 'how' instead of  'why' a person believes what they do.

This episode originally aired December 8, 2021. Happy Holidays! As we all prepare for the holidays, today, we're going to talk to Monica Guzman, journalist and author of the upcoming book I Never Thought of it That Way, now available for pre-order. There are clear challenges reconciling our partisanship with Guzman's desire to “be curious” when talking to our political foes, but the advice is wise and applies far beyond politics to business and our personal relationships. This podcast could very well save your holiday gatherings if you must deal with … difficult relatives.

It's not only that Billy continues to be the absolute worst -- which he absolutely does. It's that Amanda keeps coming right up to the edge of shutting him down and then doesn't, because even though he's a pig, he's a pig who's bringing work to the agency. This time, his risky gambit is to take a vodka client he and Alison are pitching to get a true "American" experience at a strip club with mud wrestling, and then try to close the client by letting the guy mud-wrestle Alison. And when he steps to Amanda's own marquee client? ...Well, maybe we can forgive her for not reprimanding him since she's got other things on her mind, which we'll get to. The plans for Alan and Val's wedding cause tension between Alan and Matt, which only rises when Alan's doting parents show up, so relieved that the boy they'd been worrying about is not actually Funny or That Way that they're throwing themselves into the wedding festivities with near-evangelical fervor. Matt's attempt to seek comfort from David, apparently his only friend, only complicates matters. Things have been going so well for Kimberly lately that it's time for her to start experiencing a new mental health issue. When Amanda accepts Alycia's framing of Bobby's legal difficulties, Bobby takes his disappointment out on Amanda's door frame. And Richard reaches rock bottom, but maybe Jane shouldn't gloat too much about how he got there. We bring no mercy to our podcast on "Ruthless People"! JOIN THE AWT CLUB

Today, we're going to talk to Monica Guzman, journalist and author of the upcoming book I Never Thought of it That Way, now available for pre-order. There are clear challenges reconciling our partisanship with Guzman's desire to “be curious” when talking to our political foes, but the advice is wise and applies far beyond politics to business and our personal relationships. This podcast could very well save your holiday gatherings if you must deal with … difficult relatives.

In 1999, alongside Y2K hysteria, an unlikely chart-topper was also sweeping the globe: a five-minute-long spoken-word pop hymn that earnestly dispensed life advice of the "Live, Laugh, Love" ilk. Something about the song's message -- guised as a commencement address delivered by what could have been your crazy, old uncle -- resonated with humanity in a way that no one could have predicted. "Everybody's Free to Wear Sunscreen" charted alongside songs like LEN's "Steal My Sunshine," Backstreet Boys' "I Want it That Way," Vengaboys' "We Like to Party," and Ricky Martin's "Livin' La Vida Loca." But who wrote it? Was it Baz Luhrmann, who the song is credited to? Or was it based off a commencement address given in 1997 by Slaugherhouse-Five author Kurt Vonnegut as the freshly oiled Internet machine would suggest? This week, we've got the full story, as we take an honest look at an unlikely earworm still echoing through the hearts and minds of those who came of age in the new millennium. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/lyricsforlunch/support

Any disintegration of a relationship has its own set of difficulties. It is typical for society to describe the context of a break-up in the realm of romantic relationships, but what about break-ups within our support groups or communities?We can be well-versed in starting the conversation around our own well-being, but a crucial component of wellness is finding the means of balance and encouragement in our social interactions as well. With the occurrence of COVID-19, the crucial conversations of our time, purpose, energy, and impact come into play: What type of relationships do I value most right now?Who cultivates resolute conversation? What is the extent of this interaction?Which boundaries must be set - is it a topic, or is it the actual person?// PODCAST NOTESThe NY Times article, "The Pandemic Shrank Our Circle Circle. Let's Keep it That Way."Adam Grant quoted from his book, "Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success".Please rate and review here or donate a cup of coffee. Your support doesn't go unnoticed! Many, many thanks.

This is a truly surreal episode. We got to sit down with the creator of our favorite TV show "Entourage", the fantastic Doug Ellin. We talk all about the show, his new podcast "VICTORY", the music that made the show so great, and went deep on nerdy Entourage questions. We also go over what the fuck a pre-save is, being hungover at the airport, and we play Foxtrot & the Get Down's new single "Like it That Way" as our pick of the week. Fuck that band. LET'S GO!