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The New Cutesy Term Is "Productivity Theater."With remote work, a confusing economy, and the rise of productivity-tracking software, this age-old practice has taken on a new level of complexity. As tech has enabled employers to track work down to the level of a mouse click, employees have responded by prioritizing visible work over important tasks or even deploying their own tech to fool the system. It's a zero-sum game that nobody wins. Here's why productivity theater is growing and what to do about it.Youngins' Let Us Know When We Are OldSorry to break it to you, but you're officially “old” when you hit 49, according to a new survey of children.As if that's not bad enough, 20% of the youngsters think people stop having fun at age 30.The kids think the worst parts about getting old are the aches and pains (56%), wrinkles (52%) and grey hair (49%).⠀A Listener Asks For Help Because Someone Is Stealing Her Lunch At WorkCarla in San Jose writes:  I've been noticing that the meals I bring from home keep disappearing from the office fridge. I spend hours cooking big batches of food so I can pack healthy lunches for the week, and more than once, my labeled container has just vanished. I'm pretty sure I know who's doing it, but I don't want to stir up office drama or make things weird with our small team. Still, this is happening over and over, and I'm sick of it. Do I confront the person directly, leave a note, or bring it up with my boss? Second Date UpdateMark said he met Vanessa online and their coffee date felt relaxed and easy. They sipped lattes, talked about work, and even walked the pier. He thought it was the start of something. She ghosted, and he wanted to know why.

How Americans Really Feel About Their NeighborsA new survey reveals that having good neighbors is so important to some homebuyers, 19% would pay $10-thousand or more above the price of a comparable home to avoid having bad neighbors.According to the research, 82% of Americans say having good neighbors is just as important as price or location when buying a home.Respondents say a good neighbor is someone they can trust (65%), someone who's quiet (51%), who maintains their home and yard (47%), and keeps to themself (42%).Just watch 'Fear Thy Neighbor' on the ID Network. You will never talk to a neighbor again. Draw the blinds and hit the floor.Bay Area Parents Are Paying $30k For Pro Baby Naming HelpSome desperate parents are shelling out tens of thousands of dollars on a “professional baby namer” to help them decide what to call their little bundle of joy. Taylor A. Humphrey, who calls herself a “name nerd,” has turned her obsession for baby names into a booming enterprise, with moms and dad paying as much as $30-thousand for her services. But they can get an email with some personalized name recommendations, including each one's meaning, popularity history and “vibes” for the bargain price of $200.⠀Just tell your kid you used ChatGPT to pick a name.Corey Was In Her FeelingsBreast Cancer Awareness Month hits home for me. I lost my mother to breast cancer when she was only 57. It breaks my heart she never met my husband. But I have to believe she had a hand in getting us together. We are not doing our annual fundraiser because of unforeseen circumstances, and I can't help but feel like a failure. I am not drinking due to a very attractive fatty liver. I wanted to do a little self-comforting. I found my solution. My sister actually said she did this when she stopped drinking. I brough two bags of Halloween candy home and it was the best afternoon ever. Second Date UpdateTodd is on to figure out what went wrong with Alexis, a girl he met on Hinge and went out twice with. Technically, this is a third date update. He tells us the dates were fun. Both times, she was down to go back to his place which is always a good sign. Why isn't she answering his calls or texts now?

No Shoes At Work Is The New TrendA trend of workers going barefoot in the office has spread across Silicon Valley startups, sparking a debate as to whether shoeless workplaces could drive creativity or create conflict. Cursor, an AI coding company valued at nearly $10billion, as one of several firms adopting shoeless policies.  Some commenters saw it as aspirational, one calling it a “bucket list” workplace. Others mocked the idea with sneezing emojis or worried about hygiene. We put up a poll, I clocked the "barf" emoji.Cozy Cardio Trend                                                                                                                        Imagine swapping sweaty gym vibes for fuzzy socks, candles, and your favorite show while strolling on a walking pad — that's cozy cardio, the revived TikTok-born fitness trend that blends light exercise with maximum comfort.Here's how to get started:                                                                                                                                Gather cozy basics like candles, soft lighting, and a favorite beverage                                                Choose a simple cardio option: stationary bike, treadmill, or elliptical                                       Set the mood with a movie, TV show, book, or music you enjoy                                                            Go at your own pace at a time of day that feels rightCorey's Neck UpdateI've been dealing with crazy pain since I tripped over my German Shepherd's dog hammock. It was dark and the hammock was put together with metal bars. My neck landed on the metal bar. I have been seeing a chiropractor, but the pain just got worse and worse. I had an MRI and it showed stenosis, However, that wasn't the culprit. The nerves were already somewhat arthritic, but the fall exacerbated the situation and my nerves are in the seventh circle of hell. This is where "ablation" comes in. It's basically burning the nerve endings...which could keep pain at bay for up to 16 months. They do grow back but that is better than all of the pain killers I am taking. Thank god I am not pregnant; I'm keeping Tylenol in business. #autismSecond Date UpdateAlex said he met Marissa online and their rooftop dinner felt magical. He booked a table with a view, ordered a bottle of champagne, and said their conversation flowed all night. He figured they were lining up a second date for sure. She ghosted, and he wanted to know why.

Corey Is A ToolCorey gets her Botox from a fabulous plastic surgeon who reached out to the show. Dr. Ortlip listens every day. Corey and her husband started going to him after meeting him. He's a great guy. Corey called yesterday and the gal on the phone was saying he doesn't do Friday afternoons for Botox. Corey can't do mornings and Friday is a day that her husband can do. Corey did the unthinkable and said: 'This is Corey from Star.' She only did it hoping if Dr. Ortlip knew it was her, he would squeeze them in. The woman on the phone replied, "I know who you are." Corey was mortified, so embarrassed. She got the appointment, though. Please share your d-bag moment on the talkback.Over A Third Of Americans Use PTO To Sleep, Not Travel   New research from Amerisleep uncovers that some Americans are so sleep-              deprived, they're using paid time off at work just to rest. But they're not actually        taking vacations to refresh, according to the survey of 12-hundred adults, 37%          have used PTO days in the past year just to catch up on sleep.Nearly half (47%) would be willing to pay extra for a sleep retreat and 38% are interested in a vacation designed to improve sleep.Best Way To Get Over A BreakupFeel your feelingsDon't seek closureBlock your exRefuse to stalk your ex's social mediaMake a list of things that went wrongMove things around – literally rearrange your house/apartmentGet off the couch and do thingsSpend time with loved onesPlan something funTip-toe back into datingGet some helpSecond Date UpdateLeah is trying to figure out why she's being ghosted by Alex, a guy she met on Bumble. She really liked Alex and has been waiting for him to reach out but he still hasn't. She says she texted him to thank him for the date, but his reply was really short and when she texted him again, he didn't answer. What happened? 

Things We Love About FallSwitching to your cozy wardrobeSnuggling under a blanket after a long dayCrunchy leaves underfootThe sound of rain while you're insideClosing the curtains early and settling in for the nightThe golden hour light hitting the treesDrinking hot chocolate with whipped creamGoing for a walk that ends at a cafeLighting seasonal candlesGetting into bed early “just because it's dark”The Common '90s Behaviors That Seem Inappropriate Today"Showing up at someone's house unannounced. As a kid, I would just knock on my friend's door and ask them to come play — no warning. If someone showed up at my door unannounced now, I would take it as a sign of deep disrespect, because why would you not call first? I could be busy.""I started babysitting other people's kids at age 10. All babies through toddlers. No one thought anything of it. I couldn't imagine hiring a 10-year-old to babysit my baby and toddler while I went out to dinner and a movie. Seems wild.""If we were just getting a couple of things from a store, my mom would send me in by myself or let me stay in the car alone. I was 8 or 9 when she first let me. An 8-year-old shopping by themselves would raise a lot of suspicion nowadays.""How about when shows cranked out 20+ episode-long seasons every 6 months, rather than 8–10 episodes every 2–3 years?""Toilet papering your friend's house was a typical tween slumber party. Now, it's a felony.""Getting a ride from someone who knew your parents, but you didn't know the person.""Speed-dial and status assigned by which button your name was on. It was such a massive convenience to be able to just hit one button and call someone."Unintentional InsultsOver the weekend, someone complimented my hair color. I mentioned I was transitioning from red to blonde. She immediately responded, "You don't have the skin tone for blonde." Hmmm, well, I have been blonde before and I am not really worried what she thinks. This happened to Marcus. He has cerebral palsy. His grandmother once said, "You've done quite well, despite your affliction." What was your unintentional insult moment?Second Date UpdateCarter says his beach picnic with Jenna in San Gregorio (south of Half Moon Bay) is romantic and effortless. He packs a blanket, fresh sandwiches, and a bottle of rosé. They walk the sand at sunset, and he swears it feels like something real. She ghosts, and he wants to know why.

Purchases That Made You Feel Like An AdultA couch you didn't assemble yourselfA mattress and bedding that actually lets you recoverCookware that helps you cook a real mealTravel you paid for upfront (and didn't cram into a long weekend)Outsourced help for one recurring chore you despiseHealth moves you used to postpone like therapy, dental work, and preventative careA table you can host around and the ritual that goes with itCorey Was So Distraught About Something She LostA necklace Jeff gave her for Mother's Day fell apart on her. It had a heart charm and the names of their three dogs, one they just helped over the Rainbow Bridge. She found two charms, but two were missing. She thought she would never see them again, until she felt something weird in her bra. BOTH charms were in there. She was so happy. Have you ever stored or found something odd in your treasure chest?Corey Chickened Out At The MallShe was so excited to stumble on a food court circa 1989. It was busy, there was so much to choose from. She really wanted to try the Mongolian BBQ or the Japanese Build Your Own Bowl...but she was intimidated. Everyone knew what to get. How to make their sauce, what meat paired best with what veggies....she was overwhelmed and got a very plain salad. Have you ever succumbed to insecurity at a food court or somewhere else harmless?Second Date UpdateCody is calling to see if he can get in touch with Whitney, a girl he met on Hinge and went on one date with. He thought she was hot and fun. He felt like there was chemistry just through their message. He asked her out for drinks and it was a blast. She was everything she appeared when they met in person. They had such a good time and he was pleasantly surprised when she invited him back to her place afterwards. All good stuff. So why the heck is she ghosting? 

Healthy Eating Mistakes You Could Be MakingEven if you know what you should be eating, putting that knowledge into action can feel like an Olympic sport. Many “mistakes” aren't deal-breakers…Here are some common pitfalls that might be tripping you up.Skipping those important nutrients: Protein and fiber are MVPs when it comes to staying energized and satisfied—think beans, eggs, whole grains, or veggies. You're stuck in restriction mode:  Instead of obsessing over what you can't eat, focus on creative swaps and additions that feel exciting.You're planning for the short-term, not long-term. You're all-or-nothing about food: Labeling foods as “good” or “bad” can backfire and leave you feeling guilty instead of motivated. You're ignoring frozen veggies. You're eating like your younger self.One Sentence That Changed Your LifeBuzzFeed asked readers to share the one sentence that had a life-changing effect and these are some of their real and relatable responses."A coworker once told me, 'Nobody on their deathbed says, 'I wish I had worked more.'''"My parents used to ask me, 'Will this matter in ten years?' when I was upset. It was annoying at the time, but it always did put things into perspective.""In terms of relationships: 'Stop watering dead and fake plants.'""My best boss said, 'I don't care what you screw up; learn from it and don't do it again.'""My mom says, 'Don't borrow trouble.' I love it so much. Worrying about what MIGHT happen gets us nowhere!""The things that you're not changing, you're choosing."Can you add one of your own on our talkback?Jersey-GateMarcus finally got some clarity on the jersey he got to cheer on his daughter. Do you agree with his decision?Second Date UpdateMarco met Elise online and swears their date downtown is one of a kind. They have oysters with sparkling wine, martinis, a fantastic dinner, and long conversation. He thinks the intimacy is obvious and they're destined for a second date. She ghosts, and he wants to know why.

A Third Of Americans Admit A Partner's Messiness Makes Them Less AttractiveA new survey reveals that 61% say clutter has caused tension with their partner and 37% admit their partner's messiness has made them feel less attracted to them. Some take clutter cleanup into their own hands, including 38% who have secretly purged their partner's things, while 16% have been victims of these purges. Are you and your partner on the same page when it comes to cleanliness? People Are Unethical When It Comes To AIA new study is showing that some people had increasing dishonesty and lied to the chatbot when given the chance to reap a reward. The good news is that in one test 75-percent of people stayed ethical, but the other 25-percent had no problem lying or cheating… or making AI do it for them. Unfortunately, the more money or rewards that was involved the higher the number of subjects cheating with AI rose… at one point it hit 84-percent. We are all doomed. AI is going to realize they are smarter than us and we will all be enslaved by Skynet. My logic is undeniable.Should Marcus Wear A Special Shirt To His Daughter's Game? (Follow-Up)Marcus ordered a jersey that looks like his 11-year old daughter's volleyball jersey. It even has their last name on it. He is on the fence about whether to ask her permission to wear it to her next game or should he surprise her? Is it better to ask forgiveness than ask permission? We put it to the talkback and we discuss the responses.Second Date UpdateSam calls us about Brianna. He says they met on Hinge. He took her to drinks a week or so later, and he had a lot of fun. He thought they were absolutely on the path to a second date because she invited him to come hang back at her place after. They didn't hook-up, but he took it as a good sign that she was cool with having him in her space. He texted her the next day and she didn't answer. 

How To Shut Down Unsolicited AdviceA behavioral researcher and psychology expert recommends these simple, effective phrases to effectively shut down unsolicited advice.“Thanks for sharing. I'll consider it.” - It's polite and keeps the peace.“That's a useful view. I prefer to handle it this way.” - You're listening to their perspective, but protects how to deal with it.“I appreciate your input. I already have a plan for how I'll move forward.” - This gives a clear message you've got things under control and reduces a repeat.“That means a lot. Right now I'd really value support more than solutions.” - This is helpful because it guides them toward what you actually need.“I hear you. If I need more guidance, I'll reach out.” - It validates their effort, but sets a clear boundary and discourages them from giving more unsolicited advice.Basically, STFU.Jobs That Make The Worst SpousesHow about DJ's? More than 2-thousand responses have come in so far on Reddit."Chefs, restaurant/bar manager/owners. They work every day, often 12–15 hours, every holiday and weekend. The term 'restaurant widow' is a real thing.""Surgeons. The personality type a surgeon is often a relentless and sociopathic person with a singular interest on one thing (being a good surgeon)."“Police officer: Very high rates of divorce, alcoholism and it can be a dangerous job.”"Lawyers. Often married to the job, whether it is for the money or a cause.""Flight attendants/Pilots. They work away from home for days or weeks, jetlag messes with the body, and they deal with unruly passengers with a smile. Also, cheating is through the roof.""Investment bankers often make terrible spouses. The job is incredibly demanding — long hours, high stress, and a spillover effect into everyday life."“Architects. High strung, type a, perfectionist, often narcissistic.”“Musicians, flakey, sh*t hours, always broke.”Should Marcus Wear A Special Shirt To His Daughter's Game?Marcus ordered a jersey that looks like his 11-year old daughter's volleyball jersey. It even has their last name on it. He is on the fence about whether to ask her permission to wear it to her next game or should he surprise her? Is it better to ask forgiveness than ask permission? We put it to the talkback.Second Date UpdateDylan thought his rooftop wine bar date with Marissa was classy. He said they sipped, laughed, and leaned in close...he even thought they might kiss before saying goodnight. Dylan couldn't believe she ghosted. He thought it was pretty unforgettable. 

Something Crazy Happened Before Our Food Drive AppearanceMarcus takes me to the nicest places. Before our appearance at Sprouts, we checked out Dino's for lunch, then Marcus wanted to take us to a dive bar. We are decked in 49er gear and it is a Raider bar. The men were mostly hammered, but cool. It didn't get crazy until a wee drunk man started massaging every one at the bar, including yours truly. Let's just say Marcus put the hammer down and some other guys physically removed him after he touched an older female. Good times.Frugal Tips People Swear By On Buzzfeed"Our prepaid cellphone plan saves us $100 a month from what we were paying.""Using the public library. Many now offer free streaming services, audiobooks, and ebooks.""Using actual dish towels instead of paper towels.""Shop from your pantry first, and sales flyers second. Plan the menu around what you have already and what's on sale rather than what you want to eat any given week.""Buying things second-hand from Facebook Marketplace.""Pay yourself first. This is the only way to ensure you will have money at retirement. Take money out of your check, or have your employer do this.""Ordering groceries online. I'm guilty of impulse buys, and simply ordering groceries for pickup saves me $20+ each time."Party Evite "Maybe"Marcus had a duel birthday party this past weekend and we are trying to decipher what is more frustrating: someone responds "yes," but doesn't show up. They reply "no," but show up. Or they click "maybe," and never give a definitive answer. We are thinking they just need to remove the "maybe" option.Second Date UpdateDamon said his dinner with Kendra was the best he'd had in months. They met on Hinge. He bragged that she was beautiful, funny, and didn't seem fazed when he suggested dessert after. He thought that was a good sign. She wasn't in a hurry to leave. Damon told us he couldn't wait to see her again.

Words That Irk YouMarcus was triggered the other day by a particular word. Which led us to discuss what words just get under our skin. Here are a few: Libation is the one that got Marcus. He hates it. We also included a couple of phrases. I hate "I'm just sayin'.'' Saying what? You haven't said anything. You have explained anything, you haven't defended anything...it says nothing. We asked for talkbacks on words that get you. My last word was 'Marcus.Phrases Your Co-Workers Say When They Are About To Quit“I'm really burnt out right now”“I'm not sure how much longer I can do this”“I need a break from this place”“I've been thinking about my future a lot lately”“I think I need a change of environment”“I'm starting to feel like my work isn't valued”“I've been thinking about my work-life balance”“This place makes me frustrated”“I don't feel challenged anymore”“I just don't know if I see myself here long-term”Why Girls Night Is EssentialGirls' nights out are almost always a good time, but according to a new survey, women say they're not just fun, they're necessary. 87% say they need it.Even though life is busy, women say they need one every 22 days to feel balanced, as it's a chance to reconnect with their besties. For 88% of women, wine is the beverage of choice for girls' night, and 85% report that they open a bottle within 16 minutes of the first guest arriving.⠀Second Date UpdateBrandon called about Tessa. They met on Hinge and did tacos in Oakland. He said she was stylish, witty, and they clicked immediately. He thought their banter felt like they'd known each other for years. Brandon told us the sparks were undeniable, so he was shocked when she disappeared afterward.

Things Smart People Have In Their Junk DrawerHere are a few we agree with: tape measure, small sewing kit, tools, super glue, etc.We want to know about the weird stuff in your drawer. Perhaps a phone case that doesn't fit any phone in the house? Gen X is discussing which Gen Z beliefs they think are total nonsense. Here's which beliefs they just don't get."Thinking that their boundaries are other people's responsibility. It's their responsibility to maintain their boundaries and mental health, not everyone else's.""That clout equals value. No! Validation is cheaper than ramen, and it doesn't feed your soul.""That dating apps want you to find someone.""That influencers live the lives they post.""That AI is making their writing better.""Believing tolerance is synonymous with unconditional acceptance.""Thinking that all struggle is bad."What else do you think?Corey's Health UpdateShe had a Zoom call with her hepatology doctor. She was great. They talked about the next steps in treating the high numbers with her cholesterol and triglycerides. Of course, she need to eat better and exercise more, but she also needs to cut out alcohol completely. The doc also wants to do a more thorough ultrasound to look for scar or fat on her liver. Yay

Single Dad Doesn't Like His Daughter's Outfits                                                                                                                                                                                    On Reddit, Clayton writes:                                                                                                                              As a single father of a teenage daughter, I'm having an issue concerning her fashion choices. She's taken to doing clothing exchanges with her friends, and it's a problem for two reasons. First, the clothes I've bought for her weren't exactly cheap, and I have an issue with them just being given away to friends who might now ever give them back. Second, her friends are far more “adventurous” with their wardrobes, and my daughter and have had serious blow outs over it not being appropriate for her show that much of her body off while out and about. I'm tired of fighting about it, and I know that I'm the dad, but I also fully realize that what she wears when she leaves the house could be way different when she goes to someone else's house and changes. How do I deal with this?Lose Weight While SleepingGoing to bed early leads to less snacking - In one study, nighttime eaters consumed around 15% of their daily calories - an average of 690 calories.It helps balance hormones and supports circadian rhythm - not getting enough sleep causes the body to release more of the hunger hormone ghrelin. It supports healthy metabolism - If the body is up late trying to digest food when it should be resting, it leads to being tired the next day and then the body craves carbs. You'll make healthier decisions the next day - Research shows that sleep deprivation leads to consuming more calories the next day.Half Of Gen Z Has Already Dipped Into Their Retirement46% of Gen Zers have withdrawn funds from their retirement accounts. 42% of Gen Z withdrawals went to paying off debt. Gen Z workers were the most likely generation to raid their retirement accounts, but they weren't the only generation that is doing so. About one in three workers across all generations said they plan to withdraw funds from their retirement accounts in the next year. Why? To cover emergencies or everyday expenses.Second Date UpdateAdrian was excited to talk about Brooke. They met through mutual friends (it was a small get-together) and agreed to meet up for Hawaiian food in San Carlos. They laughed all through dinner and just seemed to click. Adrian said the chemistry was undeniable, and he wanted to go all out to impress her. That's why he surprised her with a helicopter ride afterward. In his mind, it was spontaneous, romantic, and unforgettable. He couldn't believe she ghosted after such a magical night.

What Your Hugging Style Says About YouRomantic partners hugged much longer than platonic friends, with lovebirds hugging for an average of 7.02-seconds, compared to 2.88-seconds for pals.Surprisingly, the way people positioned their feet, knees or hips didn't seem to matter.But personality factors play a part in hugging tightness. People who show high neuroticism (those prone to anxiety and self-doubt) tended to leave more distance in a hug, while tighter hugs were given by conscientious types (who tend to be responsible and careful).Should You Comment On Your Teen's Social Media?Ron on Reddit writes: I thought I was being funny when I would (very) occasionally comment on my teenage son's social media posts, but yesterday he came to me with a serious look on his face to tell me that I'm being “cringe” and begged me not to comment anymore. I've always seen myself as the fun and goofy dad, making puns, posting dad jokes, and yes, sometimes replying to his memes. I think his friends like me and they always laugh at my jokes, but now he says I'm ruining his image and embarrassing him in front of them. I feel like I can't win; I'm either “absent” if I stay out of his life or “cringe” for trying to interact. Is this just teenage stuff or am I actually the problem? Did Your Friend Squad Change After Someone Had A Baby?Things change when you have a baby; not just for you, but for your girl squad, too! Women without kids are getting real about how their girl squad changed after their friends started having kids. Second Date UpdateTrevor called us about Alicia after they grabbed sushi in San Mateo. He said she was gorgeous, sharp, and they vibed right away over sake bombs. By the end of the night, Alicia even kissed him in the parking lot, and Trevor took that as proof things were headed somewhere. He told us he thought she was amazing and couldn't understand why she ghosted.

The True Cost Of The American DreamAccording to new research, the price of the American Dream is now more than $5-million.The study reveals that the price has skyrocketed $600-thousand from last year's total of $4.4-million and it's nearly 50% higher than it was just two years ago.Investopedia added in the estimated cost of healthcare over a lifetime - $414,208 - which wasn't included in previous years. It combines everything from the cost of a wedding and college tuition for your kids.The Top 10 Tried-and-True Ways to Boost HappinessKeep your mind and body activeBe nice to othersSpend your money on loved onesCheck on your health statusJoin a clubEngage in physical activityBelong to a faith and practice itGo out in natureBuild connections with colleagues outside of workGive back and be generousWays to Declutter Without Procrastinating: With everything going on in our lives it's tough to manage household clutter. Procrastination is the biggest stumbling block , but luckily expert therapist Meredith Beardmore is offering some advice on how to overcome the hurdles. There are three steps to focus on:Categorize! Make three piles: items that belong elsewhere, items for trash, and items you are not ready to decide aboutRemember Your “Why.” Keeping the reason why you are decluttering in the forefront of your mindMove On Without Regret. Don't feel guilty about tossing something you spent money onSecond Date UpdateSofia called us about Leo. They matched on Hinge and met for cocktails in Walnut Creek. Sofia said the drinks were great, the conversation flowed, and Leo even walked her to her car. She thought he was into it. But he ghosted.

Rules Americans Ditch On VacationHalf (49%) of respondents intentionally avoid reading work emails when traveling and 59% skip normal to-dos, like working out and tidying up.Two-thirds say they eat out for every single meal and 23% have dessert with every meal on a trip.54% admit they rarely stick to a budget on a getaway, and 48% confess to using credit cards more than usual. Nearly two-thirds (63%) believe that returning texts or calls is completely optional in non-emergency situations and 33% admit they ignore texts and emails altogether.A big part of the vacation mindset is saying “yes” more often, as 82% say traveling is a time to embrace the extras, from dessert to new adventures.“Treat yourself” is the top vacation motto for 41% who say it describes their approach to time off, while others relate to “Try everything once,” (18%) and “No alarms, no plans” (12%).Favorite parts of traveling include sleeping in (42%), forgetting what day of the week it is (36%) and wearing comfy clothes 24/7 (30%).And the best part? Nearly three-quarters (72%) say they don't feel guilty at all about overindulging on vacation.Gen Z RegretsThese are the trends that make the over 35 crowd yell “What are you guys thinking?!”"Dubai chocolate. It is $$$, and maybe it's just me, but it does not look appealing to me at all.""Giant pants. People are wearing jeans that could fit a family of three in each leg hole...why? They also often wear them with a t-shirt that's two sizes too small. It's so goofy looking!""In the past few years, I've noticed there is no shame anymore. It's 'cool' and 'funny' to make a fool of yourself for views. Stop pranking employees who are just trying to work, stop making a mess at Walmart to be funny, stop singing and dancing in public while filming yourself, etc. I refuse to watch any creator that pulls that sh*t.""Labubus. They're just Beanie Babies.""Mullets. Like, I get the irony standpoint, but no, they're genuinely fashionable and attractive right now, and that confounds the hell out of me."These Sleep Hacks Sound A Bit Wild, But People Swear They WorkRedditors are here to help share their best sleep hacks. Some may sound weird, but they supposedly work!"Relax your toes, relax your ankles, follow all body parts...By the time you reach your forehead you're asleep.""Reading something boring. The minute I start, I fall asleep. Also having a cold room.""World building! I like to just imagine the same fantasy world of my own every night. I go over every little detail until I fall asleep! It works wonders — you just keep making new rules or places!""I listen to something boring! On Spotify, there is a podcast called ‘I Can't Sleep'. It's a guy who reads Wikipedia pages on various topics. His voice is quite relaxing and puts me out every time. 10/10 Highly recommend!""I use a red color filter on my phone screen (if I do scroll before bed).""Do a pose called legs up the wall. It's exactly how it sounds, but Google it if you're not familiar. Try 5-10 minutes. It'll reset your nervous system and help make ya sleepy.""Straw breathing works wonderfully for me. 10 breaths with a very slow exhale is good. Yoga nidra works as well.""I take a piece of paper and write the word sleep over and over, usually about a half page. If you wanna try it, just take your time, and if it turns into other writings, just let it flow...and hopefully it's calming to your mind."Second Date UpdateRosa called us about Miguel. They matched on Hinge and went out for dinner in Walnut Creek.  Rosa said they split calamari, ordered pasta, and lingered over dessert because the conversation was going so well. She thought Miguel was funny and attentive, and she couldn't figure out why he ghosted.

People's Biggest RegretsI can't believe I admitted what I admitted...but we pull the curtain all the way back. Here are some examples.Caring too much about what people thinkNot saving enough money earlier in lifeNot exercising or taking care of their health betterStaying in a relationship too longNot telling someone how they really feltMissing out on travel opportunitiesSpending too much on things they didn't needTrusting the wrong personLetting friendships fade instead of fighting for themNot pursuing a different career pathThings You Should Keep To YourselfThese are the eight thoughts that psychologists say are best kept to yourself.“They/you gained weight..”“My ex was way better at this than you”“That baby isn't cute at all”“They probably can't afford this place”“Your parents drive me crazy”“I make way more money than you”“I don't like your partner. You could do better.”“You'll never guess what I heard/what so and so told me…”Uh, duh.Second Date UpdateMonica called us about Julian. They matched on Bumble and went to dinner in Burlingame. Monica said they ordered a bottle of wine, split an appetizer, and even lingered over dessert because the conversation was flowing so well. She thought he was engaged, asking about her job and her family, and she left the date thinking Julian was genuinely interested in seeing her again. But she never heard back.

The 7 "A's" of Super-AgingThese seven A's are the key to making your golden years the best ones of your life:Attitude - Having a positive outlook and a concrete vision of the future is essential. Awareness - Staying aware can be tough in the 24/7 news cycle, but  keeping up with the latest treatments, products and services that can help health challenges, and knowing which sources you can really trust.Activity - Exercising the body and the mind is crucial .Autonomy - Maintain your physical independence, like staying in your home and being in charge of your finances for as long as possible.Accomplishment - Achievements don't have to stop just because you're getting older. Having goals and working to reach them is important at any age.Attachment - Loneliness and social isolation negatively impact health and lifespan, so maintaining relationships and forming new ones is essential.Avoidance - Knowing how to minimize risks from fraud, scams, and ageism in the marketplace is a skill superagers have perfected.⠀Daydreaming Is Good For YouSometimes your mind just wanders into a daydream state… let it. Daydreaming uses your best core memories and helps make space for new ones in the process, according to experts. They agree that at its best daydreaming is healthy for body and mind. Therapist Saba Lurie says there are two types of daydreaming:The productive kind that reduces stress, boosts creativity, and helps you problem solveUnproductive daydreaming builds stress and anxiety, and makes you think negatively because you're focusing on past mistakesLurie suggests that you daydream to your heart's content but keep it positive.Mistakes We Make At Warehouse ClubsBuying too many perishables: That massive bag of avocados or 10-pound tub of strawberries might seem like a great deal, but if you can't eat them before they spoil, it's money wasted. Assuming all your shopping should be done there: Warehouse clubs don't always have the lowest price Price-comparison apps are your best friend here.Letting the giant carts trick you: Those carts are huge for a reason: they practically beg you to fill them. Getting lured by hot dogs and free samples: Sure, a $1.50 hot dog or a round of tasty samples feels like harmless fun. But once you're inside, you're more likely to justify other purchases you didn't plan on making. Ignoring warehouse club apps: Each warehouse club has its own app, and they often feature exclusive discounts, flash sales, or hidden deals not advertised in-store. Skipping the gift card section: Clubs often sell discounted gift cards for restaurants, movies, or retailers. That's basically free money if you're going to spend it anyway. Snagging a $100 card for $80 is an effortless win.Forgetting about extra perks:  Clubs often offer cheaper gas, prescription savings, insurance discounts, travel deals, and even theme park tickets. Not taking advantage of the return policy: Warehouse clubs have some of the most generous return policies around. Sometimes they even refund memberships if you're unhappy. Second Date UpdateMonica called us about Julian. They matched on Bumble and went to dinner in Burlingame. Monica said they ordered a bottle of wine, split an appetizer, and even lingered over dessert because the conversation was flowing so well. She thought he was engaged, asking about her job and her family, and she left the date thinking Julian was genuinely interested in seeing her again. But she never heard back.

The Key To Confidence Is DIYA new survey finds those who've finished DIY projects around the house say it boosts their confidence, happiness and satisfaction. For 86%, completing a home-related DIY task makes them feel accomplished and that feeling sticks around for six weeks afterward.Seeing a friend succeed with a tricky household job gives 63% of those polled the guts to give a harder project a try.But people know their limits and are afraid to take on intimidating DIY projects like installing flooring or carpeting (41%), caulking or sealing a tub (41%), repairing drywall (38%) or projects done by interior design pros (28%).That doesn't stop the average person from hoping to finish three DIY projects by the end of the year, and an ambitious 20% hope to complete at least five.Simple Skills That Make You Seem Much Smarter Than You AreA post on AskReddit asks, “What skill makes people instantly assume you're way smarter than you actually are?”Thousands chimed in with the things that impress enough to make someone think you're practically a genius, including “Learning a few words in a few different languages.”“Knowing keyboard shortcuts and basic computer tricks,” and “Grammar” also help make you seem brilliant.⠀These Six Hobbies Will Make You Happier And SmarterWhen you were growing up, you probably had some hobbies you loved to do. Now as an adult, likely working full-time, it may feel impossible to have a hobby. But let us tell you - it's just as important now as an adult to have hobbies as it was when you were younger.Painting or drawingLearning to play an instrumentGardeningImprov theaterCreative writingCookingSecond Date UpdateEric called us about Paloma. They met on Match. They both have and love dogs. They agreed to meet at a dog park in San Mateo. Eric said it was playful, fun, and Paloma's dog seemed to love him. But after that, she ghosted.

The Dinkiest Saturday Of All TimeJeff and I are DINKs, duel income no kids...and we proved it this weekend. We went to to the San Francisco Symphony to see and hear the marvel Studios Infinity Saga. It was 23 clips from Marvel movies with this amazing symphony playing along, It was so wonderful I cried. Then we strolled over to Morton's for martinis and steaks. #DinkLifeThings Your Party Guests Are Judging You OnRelying on store-bought desserts Not communicating key details - Make sure guests feel prepared and comfortable. Waiting for guests to ask for refills - They may not want to “bother” the host, so they'll wait with an empty wine or water glass, and that can be frustrating. Avoiding the topic of dietary restrictions - Ask your guests about dietary restrictions so your menu includes options everyone can enjoy.Overserving light bites - Appetizers should help tide guests over, but they're not a replacement for the main course.Turning dinner into a cooking show - Don't wait until your guests arrive to start cooking. Get as much done ahead of time .Requesting shoes off without offering alternatives - It's fine to ask guests to take their shoes off, but don't leave them barefoot, which can make them feel awkward. Follow Martha Stewart's lead and have a basket of washable slippers or cozy socks .Forgetting the farewell - People don't always know when it's time to go, so you can announce a “last call” or try Martha's method. To kick guests out, she explains, “I just say, ‘I'm going to bed, I'll see you.'”Are You Burnt Out Or Just Bored?Burnout's typically associated with feelings of overwhelmingness and exhaustion. Boredom is when you feel unfulfilled and restless. You're not tired, but you're drainedYou're procrastinating more oftenYou're daydreaming a lotYou've lost interest in socializingYour productivity has plateauedYou feel like you're just going through the motionsYou find yourself repeatedly checking the clockYou feel restless and unsettledYou're more interested in future plans than the presentYou feel detached from your workSecond Date UpdateVanessa contacted us about Omar. They matched on Tinder and met for happy hour in Lafayette. Vanessa said they shared small plates, talked about music, and ended up staying longer than expected because the conversation was good. She told us Omar even walked her to her car and gave her a hug, so she thought a second date was basically guaranteed. But Omar never replied to her messages.

Binge Watching Shows Might Be Good For YouThis sums me up. according to new research from the University of Georgia. It suggests there may be some mental health benefits to binge-watching shows and movies you love. The new study finds that watching episode after episode or having movie marathons or binge-reading books can make it harder for a story to get out of your head. And that's not necessarily a bad thing. It makes us more likely to remember stories, keep engaging them through daydreams and fantasies, and helps us get a bigger picture of the story. Dr. Joshua Baldwin, lead study author and media psychology researcher, says binge-watching helps us build “mental worlds” where stories continue long after the credits roll, which can help us cope in stressful times.Aging With PowerDr. Vonda Wright is hoping to change that. The orthopedic surgeon and longevity specialist wants to level the playing field and bring women into the focus because men and women aren't aging the same way. She wants women to “age with power” and encourages them to build strength and work on disease prevention during their early midlife years, from 35 to 45 years old, which she calls the “critical decade.” To do that, she recommends:Reframe dietary changes that support longevity - Instead of trying to lose weight, focus on maximizing lean muscle and minimizing body fat. The goal isn't to be skinny, but to be lean. Eat one gram of protein per ideal pound a day to support the muscle you're trying to build and cutting back on sugar, which leads to inflammation and can contribute to multiple diseases.When it comes to exercise, she uses the acronym “FACE” your future:F for Flexibility - And joint range of motion. Yoga, pilates, tai chi, and dynamic stretching are great options.A for Aerobic - Getting your heart rate up is good for the ticker, but Wright advises doing lower heart rate exercise, like walking, 80% of the time, and higher intensity workouts 20% of the time.C for Carry a load - Strength and power are the goal, so lifting heavy is the way to go. That means fewer reps with heavier weights.E is for Equilibrium - Being strong and flexible is important as you age, but so is balance so you don't fall and break something. Wright warns that if you trip and end up with what's known as a “fatal fall,” 50% of the time, it lands you in a nursing home.Bad Money Habits To BreakAutopilot Expenses: Automatic renewals sound convenient, but they're also a sneaky way to lose track of your money. That streaming service you haven't watched in months? Still billing you. Using The Same Passwords: Reusing the same password across sites makes it way too easy for scammers to break in and wreak havoc on your finances. A password manager (and a little thing called multifactor authentication) can be your new best friend to keep your money safe.Paying Way Too Much Attention To Your Investments: Not only is it stressful, but it can also lead you to make impulsive, money-losing decisions like selling low when the market dips. A better approach is to zoom out, stay calm, and trust the long-term plan rather than panicking at short-term bumps.Not Looking At Your Investments Is Also Not Great: Markets change, and your mix of stocks and bonds can drift in ways that no longer match your comfort level with risk. A quarterly check-in (or using a financial adviser or app) can make sure your money is working in line with your goals without letting it simmer unattended for years.Chasing Credit Card Promotions: You might end up overspending just to hit the minimum requirement, or dinging your credit score with too many hard inquiries. Unless you're a pro at managing multiple cards, chasing these deals can do more harm than good.Super Penny Pinching: If you're skipping necessary home repairs or living off ramen just to see your savings account grow, you're missing the point. A healthy money mindset means balancing saving with spending on things that truly matter to you.Second Date UpdateCarlos called us about Heather. They met on Hinge and grabbed dinner in Mountain View. Carlos thought it was fun. They had a lot in common. She had a great sense of humor. He can't stand boring. He swore Heather seemed like she was enjoying herself. But after that, she cut him off.

MRI UpdateI finally got my results back yesterday. I haven't had my doc go over them yet. Since te medical jargon was too much for my peabrain, my husband suggested we put the diagnosis into GPT. Think swelling, arthritis, degeneration....basically, I'm "corpsifying" and the fall exacerbated it. I am hoping for a steroid shot and physical therapy.The 3-3-3 MethodTired of writing the same to-do list out every day? The “3-3-3 method” can help you stay organized, focused and productive, without feeling overwhelmed.The first three is for three hours of deep work on an important project. The method encourages users to kick start the day with three whole hours devoted to one big thing, whether that's an assignment you need to finish for work, a project with a looming deadline or another essential task.  After the three hours are up, take a much-needed break. Then you'll be ready to tackle three time-sensitive tasks. These are things that you keep putting off. This is when you make the phone call, send the scary email or go to the meeting you're dreading. And finally, it's time for three routine tasks that you need to do to keep your life running smoothly. This is stuff you tend to put on the back burner, like grocery shopping, laundry, cleaning up around the house, or even making your to-do list for tomorrow. We Second-Guess 41% Of Daily DecisionsThe average American second-guesses 41% of the decisions they make in a day, a new survey finds.But for some overthinkers, it's even more often, as one in eight admit they contemplate almost all their choices.That can make grocery shopping overwhelming, as the average person spends four minutes deciding on each item they consider adding to their cart.Second Date UpdateSean got in touch about Rachel. They met on Hinge and went to a late-night diner in Oakland. Sean said they clicked right away, were laughing over milkshakes and fries, and he left thinking the chemistry was strong. But Rachel ghosted him afterward, so he called us for help.

Do You Think A Four-Day Work Would Actually Work?Seven in 10 workers feel they could be just as productive in a four-day work week, according to new research. Things That Make Insomnia WorseStaying in bed longer - Experts advise a sleep routine of getting up at the same time every morning and only getting into bed when you're truly tired.Cutting out screens completely - Lying in bed without something to focus on can lead to overthinking, which is terrible for sleep. That's when having something to distract your thoughts can be helpful, but stick with something calm, like a nature documentary or soothing podcast.Swearing off caffeine forever - Caffeine blocks adenosine, which makes you sleepy, so if an afternoon cup of tea keeps you awake at night, skip it. Trying too hard to sleep “right” - Trackers, gadgets and products to enhance sleep make it easy to obsess over snoozing, but that can backfire and give you anxiety. Your body knows how to rest and micromanaging it can add pressure, instead of helping.Expecting consistency - Thanks to things like age, stress, hormones and even the weather, some nights sleep will be easier than others, and that's normal. You won't get a solid eight hours every night, so don't expect it or beat yourself up if the popular advice isn't helping you.⠀House Noises You Shouldn't IgnoreRushing water noises - Do a quick check for pooling water in areas that are prone to leaking, like your sink or bathroom, and checking the water meter is also a good idea. Buzzing from lights - If you hear any sounds coming from your outlets or switches, call a licensed electrician.Whistling or hissing noises near gas-based appliances - This could be a “really serious indicator of a potential danger in your home that could lead to a house fire,” Dripping faucet sounds - It's less of an immediate emergency, but it can cost you more the longer you ignore it.Gurgling toilets - If it gurgles after you flush, that would be indication that you either have a backup and the water can pass but it's struggling. Second Date UpdateAmanda called us about Gabe. They matched on Bumble and met for coffee in Redwood City. Amanda said the conversation was fun, she was smiling the whole time, and she really thought there was chemistry. But Gabe never reached out again.

MRI UpdateI went in for a neck MRI after I tripped over a dog bed in the dark. It has been a minute and I've been living on a steady diet of Advil and Tylenol. My chiropractor suggested the MRI. I haven't gotten my results yet, but as far as MRI's going, it wasn't terrible (the Xanax helped). But the staff was kind and they prepped my really well. I asked the technician if he thought MRI's would ever be silent. He said...."no." Bummer.5 4 3 2 1 MethodGrocery shopping is much more stressful than it should be. But don't worry – there's a hack for that! If you've been on TikTok, you've probably seen that there's the 5-4-3-2-1 method. It's a grocery shopping hack that'll cut your grocery shopping down - both time-wise and cost-wise. So, what is it? It's the numbers for you to keep in mind when you go shopping. Your goal should be to buy five vegetables, four fruits, three proteins, two starches, and one item for fun. It takes the guesswork out of grocery shopping and will keep you from getting overwhelmed or overbuying.Boat Cruise RecapIt was a blast and sadly, there is video of me doing the "Roger Rabbit."Second Date UpdateSamantha called us about Luis. They met on Tinder and agreed to hit a karaoke bar in San Mateo. Samantha said she thought the date went great — they were laughing, drinking, and she really believed Luis was into her. But after that night, she never heard from him again.

Live By The Ocean & You Will Live LongerWhat scientists found and what they think might explain their findings:Coastal residents live about one year longer than the 79-year national average.Inland urban dwellers often die around age 78, slightly younger than average.Key benefits of coastal living include cleaner air, milder weather, less drought, fewer heatwaves, and more recreation opportunities.Higher incomes and better transportation access in coastal areas may also contribute to longer lifespans.The Top 10 Occupations with the Highest Percentage of Workers Without A Bachelor's Degree Earning Six FiguresChief executives or legislators (63.3%)Architectural and engineering managers (60.9%)Software developers (56.5%)Sales engineers (56.1%)Computer and information systems managers (53.9%)Power plant operators, distributors and dispatchers (52.4%)Elevator installers and repairers (51.9%)Computer network architects (50.7%)Computer hardware engineers (49.5%)First-line supervisors of firefighting and prevention workers (48.7%)Former Students And Professors Are Sharing Their Best Advice For Going Off To College"Speak to locals and leave the university bubble. "It's okay to make friends in the first one or two weeks and never speak to them afterwards. It's all about getting your social skills attuned to a new environment.""If you were a big fish in a small pond in your previous town or secondary school, understand that you might well be a small fish in a big pond now.""Learn to make at least one yummy dish and one amazing desert. ""Go to class. Even if you're tired, hungover, you look like sh*t, you're just gonna zone out – going is always better than not going. You'll absorb SOME information by sheer osmosis.""If you are living on campus, get flip flops for the shower.""Go find the buildings and classrooms where you have your classes before the first day. You'll be able to plan your route and know when you have to hustle to get across campus.""Establish and stick to a routine. It will help keep you on track, keep you fed, keep your budget in check, ensure you're somewhat well rested, and minimize procrastination."Second Date UpdateVictor called us about Camila. They connected on Match and decided to go bowling in Daly City. Victor thought the night was playful and flirty, and he swore Camila was smiling the whole time. But after that night, she completely disappeared on him.

Strangest Things Ever Put On A Wedding RegistryOn Buzzfeed under wedding shaming..."My grandmother was super offended that my distant cousin had lube on hers. Seriously. I just laughed.""I had a coworker who, in genuine earnest, asked for a Volkswagen Beetle. She was like, 'His family is rich, so why not shoot my shot?'""A four-pound bag of Lucky Charms marshmallows. And that's exactly what I gifted them.""My hairstylist and her husband had canned hams and Jif peanut butter. Yeah, they showed as 'purchased,' so somebody bought it for them too!""Nose hair trimmers.""My husband put a lifetime supply of weed whacker wire on ours. Our neighbor bought it.""A friend put down rare fish for her aquarium since it's her passion!""Condoms. So many condoms on registries.""A coffin. Still have no idea if it was a joke or not. "What is the weirdest you have experienced?Use These Somewhat Cheesy Phrases To Make Friends“I love your ____! Where did you get it?”“How do you like ____?”“Do you have any recommendations for _____?”“It was great to meet you. I'd love to stay in touch, if you're open to it. How do you like to stay connected?”“I've enjoyed getting to know you. Let's make plans to hang out more often.”“____ made me think of you. I've been meaning to reach out. How have you been?”'I'm always looking for new friends to [try/do a particular activity]. Would you be interested?'Some of these might work, others sound like you are waiting for then in the alley by your windowless panel van.Marcus Got Into Another Car AccidentMarcus was sideswiped in a parking lot at Home Depot. The offender didn't even realize...so, he had to jump in front of her car. Not my first choice.Second Date UpdateDiego calls us about Marco. They matched on Grindr and decided on tacos in the Mission. Diego thought things got pretty spicy...so to speak. but Marco ghosted.

Quit Cracking"Quiet cracking" is a workplace term for the gradual psychological and emotional deterioration of an employee who remains in their job but becomes increasingly disengaged, unmotivated, and unhappy, often due to factors like lack of career growth, feelings of being undervalued, burnout, and job insecurity from AI or a difficult job market. Unlike "quiet quitting," which is a conscious decision to do the bare minimum, quiet cracking is a subtle, slow decline in motivation and productivity that can lead to disengagement and increased stress. Have you ever been there & how did you get yourself out of it?You Need More SleepThere are obvious signs that a person needs to get more sleep and then there are the sneaky signs the body slips our way. Poor sleep is very common and there are some weird signs that you are a victim of it, according to the Speed Foundation. Hormonal and menstrual changesAches and painsClumsinessWeight gainGetting tongue-tied‘Microsleep' episodesDental issuesNew research reveals that people are getting braver about skipping excessive tips.A new survey of 2-thousand U.S. adults asks about their approaches to tipping and finds that the average person is still “guilt-tipping” nearly $300 a year more than they want to because of social pressure. That's still a lot of money, but it's a lot less than last year's total. According to the poll, the average person reluctantly tips $24 a month more than they think is fair because of guilt or the awkwardness of not tipping.That adds up to $283 over a year, but it's a big drop from 2024's guilt-tipping tally of $453.This year, Americans guilt tip an average of 4.2 times a month, down from last year's 6.3 average of times a month.Overall, 20% of respondents say they always or often tip higher because they feel pressured or guilty, but 29% say they rarely or never do.More than a third (37%) report that the tipping option amounts are higher than they used to be now.In general, 22% say they tip less across the board in 2025, but 32% actually tip more now to specifically support workers.And more than three-quarters (78%) think businesses should pay employees more so they don't have to rely on tips.Second Date UpdateBrynn calls us about Patrick. They met on Hinge. Brynn thought they clicked — but Patrick ghosted. They went for coffee for their first date. Nothing sticks out in her mind that went wrong on the date. They had a lot in common. She was attracted to him. She was sure there would be a second date.

My Husband, The Jeff, Has a New Habit & I am Not Here For itJeff has this habit of saying to "no" to everything without taking a minute to consider the idea. Happy hour? No. Watch this new TV Series? No. And if I question why he says no, he responds..."fine, just do it since I have no say." What?! It is really annoying.Cheap Dopamine HitsPeople Are Sharing Their Best Low-Cost Dopamine- Boosting Activities"Watching the clouds is so underrated.""Building and creating things out of items you already have. Lately, I've been really into mending and making or upcycling used clothes.""Working out.""Hiking, especially to waterfalls. .""I work at a cat rescue and also foster kittens at home when needed.""Woodworking. All you really need are like four tools, and you can make all sorts of cool stuff from sticks.""Propagating plants instead of buying new ones.""Ice bathing in the early morning."“Jump rope, martial arts, skateboarding, riding bikes, learning, yoga, any movement, and music."Money MilestonesThe ages Americans think you should be for these money milestones:Start saving for retirement - Age 27. But retirement planners say if you start any time in your 20s, you're doing great and research shows that younger people are saving early.To land your dream job - Age 29. The thing is, the average American changes jobs a dozen times between the time they're 18 and 56. So most of us haven't found a dream job by 29, or we wouldn't leave it.To buy your first home - Age 30. Home prices have spiked since 2020 and mortgage rates are high as well, so homes are less affordable. To earn six figures - Age 35. A lot of Americans will never make a six-figure income. The average full-time worker in the U.S. made about $12-hundred a week in the second quarter of 2025, or about $62,500 a year, federal data shows.To become debt-free - Age 41. There are different kinds of debt and not all are bad, like a mortgage, which can work like a huge piggy bank that gets more valuable with every payment.To retire - Age 58. Retirement experts agree that's a little early, but if you have millions saved, why not?Second Date UpdateCamila calls us about Jordan. They met on Match and went to brunch in Burlingame. Camila thought the date was smooth. She and Jordan "totally vibed." Plus, there were plenty of brunch cocktails and that really loosened up the conversation. They ended with a hug and he promised to call. But Jordan ghosted.

Corey Got ShamedI had people over on Friday for an impromptu happy hour. At one point I asked my husband to refill one of our guests' glass. The guest stated, "you know women can do things too." He was absolutely right. I immediately got up and got the refill. My husband rode that one all weekend, he was gleeful.Parents Spent Their Kid's College FundKayla on Instagram DMs writes: I just found out that the money my grandparents left me has basically been spent. I got into my dream college and was excited to have that financial cushion, but when I asked about it, my parents showed me an “accounting” of how they used it over the years. Turns out all the things they gave me growing up (cheer camp, my senior trip, extracurricular activities, etc) were paid for with my money. They never once told me that's where the money was coming from and now I only have enough left to cover my first year of school. After that I'll need to get a job and figure it out on my own. I feel like that money was supposed to be for my future, not for them to use to cover stuff they didn't want to pay for. Am I wrong to be mad about this? Isn't it wrong for my parents to have spent money meant for me without asking? Things People Automated That Totally Changed Their Lives“Our dishwasher texts our kids when it's done, then shuts off their wifi if they don't empty it.”“My alarm stops only if I scan a QR code in my bathroom.”“At the same time every year, I tell my bank I lost my credit card so I get issued a new one. All the scammers and subscriptions I signed up to the year prior will automatically get declined, and I only resign up to the ones I actually want.”“I made an Apple shortcut that runs once a day automatically that shows me all the photos I took on that day throughout the years. It allows me to slowly clean up all of my photo albums.”“I hate doing dishes (no dishwasher) and ALL my lights are smart bulbs. So I tell Alexa, ‘Time to do the dishes,' and she dims the kitchen to 50% and plays Celtic music so I can pretend to be a Scottish pub owner cleaning up for the night.”“I'm sure you mean technology, but I bought 12 pairs of the exact same socks so I never have to match them, and if one gets a hole, I just throw that one out. It's a very satisfying system.”“My iPhone tells my ex to stop texting me if I get a message from him”“I hid an Air tag in my car so I never have to remember where I parked. Also helpful if it's stolen”Second Date UpdateCarlos calls us about Jasmine. They matched on Bumble and met up at a coffee shop in Daly City. Carlos really enjoyed how easy the whole thing was. He wasn't nervous or uncomfortable. She was easy to talk to. Now, she has ghosted.

Advice From Parents That Doesn't Hold UpRedditors are spilling the most outdated “money tips” they've gotten from their parents that are no longer helpful."It doesn't matter what your degree is in, just get a degree and there will be plenty of jobs available when you graduate.""'Balance your checkbook.' I don't even have a checkbook. I've come to learn that some companies use pay cards for employees, and all employees' finances are managed through apps. You can see every transaction in real time, get spending alerts, and see what you have left to spend. The idea of writing everything down in a little book is just not how life works anymore.""My grandma told me I should always keep a quarter under the sole of my shoe in case I ever need to make a phone call.""My dad used to tell me to decide where I wanted to work, then buy your house near it. People no longer work for the same company for 50+ years, and often, where you work isn't totally up to you. Sometimes you take what you can get.""'Loyalty pays off in the end,' and 'Don't change workplaces; try to stay at one place for your entire career.' Also, 'Only change positions if it's a vertical move. Don't change positions if it's a lateral move.' None of this is true any longer.""Don't spend more than your annual salary on a house."Things Never To Say At WorkCorporate jargon“I'm too busy”“Ladies” or “gents” in emails“As per my last email”“Contact my colleague” in your out-of-office messageJokey out-of-office messagesNearly Half Of Americans Would Choose Money Over LoveThe Bottom Line:The median U.S. annual salary is just over $62-thousand, but Americans expect their ideal partner to make six figures or close to it, according to a new Tawkify survey.It finds that if forced to choose between love and money, 46% would pick money.One in three admit they'd consider getting back together with an ex if that person got rich.Second Date UpdateAnthony and Marisol met on Tinder. He likes that she rollerblades. They had a great first date, according to Anthony. But now she is ghosting.

The Lengths People Go To Save Their PhonesA new survey says folks would consider doing shocking and disgusting things to make sure they didn't lose or break their device.More than a third (38%) would be willing to skip eating for an entire day if it would keep their phone safe. If they dropped their phone onto subway tracks, one in five (20%) would risk their safety to climb down and pick it up.Another 59% would dive into a pool fully clothed at a wedding and 56% would even dumpster dive to get their phone back.More than half (54%) claim they'd even fish their phone out of a filthy festival toilet.Nope. No thanks, Tom Hanks.End Of Summer CleanoutAugust is the perfect time to give your closet a reset. Experts say you should declutter at least four times a year and this seasonal shift is a natural opportunity to clear out items you haven't been wearing or that don't serve you anymore. Sweat-stained summer clothes that can't be savedBroken beach bags with ripped handles or torn pocketsIll-fitting swimsuits that lost their shape or elasticityWorn-out or unworn sandals that never made it out the doorDuplicate or neglected summer dresses you never reach forUnused accessories like hats, sunglasses, or jewelry that don't fit your current lifestyleTrends For FallSecondhand finds are in-demand, as searches for “thrifted kitchen” have jumped 1,012% and “thrifted decor” searches are up 283%.Statement tiles are having a moment, with searches for “vintage tiles” up more than 1,100%.Art Deco is making a comeback.When it comes to clothing, preppy aesthetics are a hot trend for fall. Pinterest has seen searches for “women's preppy outfits” skyrocket by 47,680% and “preppy chic outfits" are up 2,056%.For beauty, grungey glam makeup will be big, taking inspo from the 90s and 2000s, but with a modern twist. We'll be seeing more pixie cuts, with searches for “chic pixie” up 2,435% and “pixie haircut 90s” surging 724%.Second Date UpdateTrevor and Aly met on Hinge and they both love trivia. They hit up a trivia night for their first date. Has she ghosted after Trevor exhibited "teacher energy?"

RED FLAGS THAT MIGHT MEAN YOUR FRIEND ISN'T HAPPY FOR YOUWhen you have a personal win, you want to share it with your friends. But everyone doesn't always seem as happy for your successes. Here are a few things to watch out for the next time you're excitedly telling your friends about your latest win:They change the subject quicklyThey downplay your accomplishmentIt feels like they're competing with youBackhanded complimentsThey don't celebrate your successesIt seems like they're only there when you're having a bad timeThey're outright negative about your successesThey don't like talking about your achievements in publicFor every win you share, they mirror it with one of their ownWhen you need them most, they're nowhere to be foundThings Younger Generations Will Never GetMany Y2K trends are back, especially when it comes to fashion. But there are some trends from the ‘90s and early ‘00s that would totally blow the minds of those under the age of 25. "Downloading music off Limewire to iTunes, running to Walmart while it downloads, buying blank CDs, and burning them once it's downloaded. Then, thinking of a cool name for your new CD.""Playing literally one video game for the entire summer, no online walkthroughs. If you wanted a hint, you needed to buy a paper guidebook, hope your friend knew the tricks, or call a 900 number for help.""Not just having a landline, but SHARING a landline."“Buying ringtones”"Chain emails: I'd be so embarrassed to do that today...""Having to wait a week for 10 photos to be processed and printed.""If you missed a new episode of a TV show, you just missed it.""Waiting for songs to come on the radio so you could record them on a cassette tape, and getting mad if the DJ talked over the intro. Kids today will never know the struggle of timing it perfectly and still ending up with the DJ's voice at the beginning."“The simple act of being bored while waiting in a doctor's office, traveling, or attending family parties, etc."How To Eat Well On A BudgetSnag a $5 mystery dinner: Apps like Too Good To Go and Flashfood help you score a surprise bag of groceries worth $30 for just a few bucks. The only catch? You'll need to pick it up fast, so be ready to dash out the door when the alert comes in.Take a free cooking classMake friends with your freezer:  Buy items like meat, bread, and even milk in bulk when they're on sale, then freeze what you can't use right away. Pro tip: freeze herbs in olive oil in ice cube trays for instant flavor boosts in soups and pasta.Volunteer your way to free produce: Groups like the Society of St. Andrew organize “gleaning” crews, where volunteers harvest leftover crops from farms. You get to keep some of the bounty while the rest goes to local food banks. Pick up a rotisserie chicken:  It's already cooked, tasty, and versatile enough to stretch into several meals. Soup it up: Soups are budget superheroes because they turn simple, cheap ingredients into hearty, nutritious meals. Toss in beans, grains, and seasonal veggies.Shop at the right time. Grocery stores often mark down bakery items, meats, and produce at specific times of day; sometimes slashing prices by 30-percent or more. Host potluck nights.Second Date Update: Declan calls us about Soraya. They met on Bumble and decided to walk through Golden Gate Park together.  They even grabbed some dumplings afterward at one of his favorite hole-in-the-wall  places. It was simple, but he thought it was romantic. Soraya has disappeared and he needs our help to figure out what happened. 

Over 40 Wants These RequirementsA Reddit user asks the subreddit r/AskWomenOver40, “What's a really weird, UNCONVENTIONAL thing that you absolutely NEED in a partner?”Hundreds of women did not hold back, confessing the strange and surprising qualities they're looking for in a partner.From “Cannot be a spitter” to “Has the skills necessary to do well in a zombie apocalypse," these ladies know exactly what they want.Things Our Parents Were Right AboutWaking up early sets you up for successFamily dinners weren't just about the foodKeeping a tidy space actually makes a differenceSpending time outdoors isn't optionalSaving money instead of spending it allBuilding genuine relationships takes actual effortWorking with your hands grounds youTeachers Predict 2025 Slang Terms“6-7” - Kids say this in a very particular way, but what it means is unclear. A teacher says she's asked a million kids, including her own, and she still hasn't gotten an explanation of the meaning and where it comes from.“On God” - It's like saying “swear to God,” apparently. Students insisting they did their homework, but just don't have it with them, so they say, “On God, Mr. P! On God!”“Lore” - It's basically a way to say “backstory” or “background information,” usually about a person or fictional character and it can be complicated, but helps explain someone on a deep level.“Delulu” - This one is fun to say and means delusional.“Cinema” - It refers to something that's high drama or incredibly messy and is used the way a millennial might have said “epic” back in the day.“Crash out” - This is the new “spiraling” and can be applied to just about anything. “Everything causes a crash out,” a teacher named Marnie explains. “No chocolate milk left in the cafeteria? ‘OMG! I'm crashing out!' “Main character energy” - Someone who has this thinks of themselves as the star of the show and it's used to call them out for taking themselves too seriously.“Big back” - This can be self-depricating, if a kid says they're a “big back” while raiding the pantry for another snack. But it can also be downright mean when used as an insult toward someone else.Second Date UpdateMay calls us about Brent. They both live in Pacifica. They decide to do dinner and a movie for their first date. Now, Brent is ghosting.

Fewer Young Americans Reaching Major Adulting MilestonesSome people never want to grow up and according to new research from the U.S. Census Bureau, fewer young adults are hitting milestones related to adulthood.It turns out, there's been a dramatic shift in how many young people in the country are reaching major life events, like moving out of their parents' house, getting married and having a child.Back in 1975, nearly half of all Americans between the ages of 25 and 34 had done these things, but today, less than a quarter have.⠀The 12-3-20 WorkoutA fitness trend that went viral on social media with more than 14-million views may actually do what it says, new research suggests. The 12-3-30 treadmill workout took off on TikTok. It claims that walking at a 12% incline, at a pace of three miles per hour, for 30 minutes is a fat-burning, low-impact fitness fix. A new study puts it to the test, comparing results to “self-paced” treadmill running.In the study, young adults did two workouts, one round of 12-3-30 and one session of running at a pace they could keep up for 20 to 25 minutes.The workouts were adjusted to burn the same number of calories and running burned calories faster, about 13 calories per minute compared to 10 calories per minute for the 12-3-30.That's because calories are burned faster with a higher intensity workout, like running.What's interesting is that the 12-3-30 workout used more fat as a fuel source - 41% of energy came from fat, while 33% did during running.The Little Kid Things Adults Won't Stop DoingRedditors are spilling the “little kid” things they still do even though they're adults, and you may just want to start doing them, too."Every single time I go to Target, I have to walk down the Lego aisle. I don't even buy them, I just like to look at the big, complicated sets and imagine building them.""Watching cartoons. As an adult living in today's world, I just need a break from reality and want something funny and innocent.""Buying dino nuggets. I'm a legal adult who can cook actual food, but sometimes you just have a bad day and the only cure is dinosaur-shaped chicken.""Rainbow sprinkles on my ice cream. They look so cheerful and I like the crunch. Chocolate sprinkles are not an acceptable substitute. I want every color of food dye or no deal.""Coming home with cool-looking rocks in my pockets.""Driving by farm animals and saying their names out loud. 'Hi, cows!' 'Horses!' 'Have a nice day, goatie goats!'"Second Date UpdateAndre calls about Nicole. They went for Tapas and now she has ghosted. What happened during dinner?

Ridiculous Excuses For Missing WorkA new Reddit thread is reminding us that people will say just about anything to get out of work. What is your story?"I was once late to work because I was glued in my apartment. They replaced the carpet in the common hallway overnight, and were too enthusiastic with the glue by my door. I had to wait until maintenance arrived at 8 a.m., so they could body slam the door from the outside.""My grandparents had a medical emergency years ago where one got stuck on the toilet, and when the other tried to help, they fell and knocked themselves unconscious. ""Flushed my car key down the toilet. It was me, and I certainly did.""Got bit on the finger by a squirrel while tossing a coffee cup into a parking garage trashcan.""A guy I worked with in retail 15 years ago called in to say he had a nightmare and didn't think he'd be able to get back to sleep and come in to work five hours later.""I was running a shift and had a girl call in sick, saying she was too distraught to work because Zayn had left One Direction.""I had to call in late once because my stairs were gone. Of course, it was a huge violation by the condo, and we had no way out of our second-story walk-up. Absolutely ridiculous, and fortunately, the photos I sent my boss were enough to excuse my tardiness."Coupes Who Gossip Together Are CloserMost couples gossip, and it turns out, that can be good for their relationship.According to a new study from University of California, Riverside, couples who gossip together are happier and more satisfied in their romance and share a deeper bond.Researchers tracked 76 couples using a portable listening device and found they spent an average of 29 minutes a day gossiping with their partner and those who did more frequently reported higher levels of happiness and better relationship quality.Cleaning Is My Love LanguageForget words of affirmation or physical touch, a new survey finds that 54% of Americans say cleaning is their love language.The research from Seventh Generation also finds that 85% consider cleaning up for someone else an act of love.Nearly two in three respondents admit they've been turned off by someone's messy home and a third have even ended a relationship because of a partner's lack of cleanliness.⠀Second Date UpdateTaylor met Harper met on Tinder. They went to dinner; food was good, the drinks were good. After one follow-up text, she has ghosted.

Habits People Picked Up After Visiting Other CountriesA post in the travel subreddit asks, “What's something you adopted into your lifestyle after visiting another country?”Nearly a thousand Redditors responded with the habits and products they've added to their routine after learning about them while traveling abroad.From a bidet discovered in Japan to individual comforters for each partner after a trip to Denmark, these things are now a part of travelers' lives.Worst Pick-Up Lines For Online Dating“Hey” or “Hi” - Nothing screams generic laziness like typing two or two three letters and nothing else. “You're hot” - Some people may consider this a compliment, but it's objectifying and inappropriate for a first message, and it shows no respect.“What are you doing right now?” - You wouldn't greet a stranger in a bar like this, so don't do it online either.“Why are you on here?” - there's no point in asking this, as it sounds kind of judgy and can make someone defensive.Quiet FiringThere are some clear signs of quiet firing and these are the most common, according to HR and career experts.Being excluded from meetings - If you're suddenly not invited to meetings you were once a key part of, that's a serious red flag they may be passively letting you go.Shifting responsibilities - Sudden changes in your workload, whether they're piling it on with unrealistic goals or sticking you with meaningless projects, that could be a bad sign. If you get vague or no answers, that's a red flag.Support decreases - They may pull back on support, leaving you feeling abandoned or alone, and making it tougher to handle your workload. If you feel like it's unbearable and you just can't do it, then you'll quit and that's the idea.Development stops - If your future at the company used to be discussed, but now you're passed over for promotions or raises for no apparent reason, that's a clear sign of quiet firing. And in some cases, this can drag on for years.Policy-driven quiet firing - Employees being required to return to the office can be a form of quiet firing, as some employers expect some workers to decide to leave the company instead.Second Date UpdateDamon met Bridget online. They both games of any kind from cards to cornhole. They picked a board game cafe to have their first date. Now, she has ghosted.

Corey Has Psychic AnxietyAt least three times in my life, I have had crazy emotions the day before something bad happens. In high school, after a cross country run I started crying for no reason. The next day, my parents announced they were getting a divorce. The day before the guy I thought was the one dumped me, same thing. I had crazy anxiety Monday...my dad had a bad fall Tuesday morning. (He's okay) How do we cash in on this?Sleep MaxingMore Americans are investing in better rest through products, routines and lifestyle changes, reshaping both bedrooms and behaviors along the way.This includes redesigning bedrooms to tracking sleep with wearable devices .The most popular sleepmaxxing tools Americans are using include white noise machines or soundscapes (38%), blackout curtains (36%), melatonin or sleep gummies (34%), and following a strict sleep/wake schedule (24%). Over 40% say they've given up or at least cut back on scrolling, caffeine and late-night drinks.Four C's Of A Strong RelationshipCommunication. Talk things over…even what makes you angry.Cooperation. It extends to everything from chores to the bedroom.Compromise. You don't have to change who you are to compromise on something.Consummation. Intimacy is such a vital part of a happy marriage, but don't ever use intimacy against them.Second Date UpdateDamian and Valerie met online and found that they both really enjoy trying new wines. They pick wine-tasting in Petaluma for their first date. What could cause Damian to ghost?

Things To Get You Going Besides CoffeeSun exposure - getting sunlight it in the morning is actually energizing on a neurological level. Movement - a quick stretch, some yoga poses, or a brisk walk outside can boost energy by improving circulation, increasing dopamine and helping you feel less groggy.Meditation and breathwork - Even five minutes of meditation can help boost energy, quiet mental noise and help with focus.Vocal vibe shift - the practice of just humming, singing or light vocalizing, which stimulates the vagus nerve and regulates the nervous system.Cold water - Splash a little cold water on your face to boost mood, help with alertness, improve focus, and even boost stress tolerance.Hobbies That Make Men More AttractiveReadingLearning a foreign languagePlaying a musical instrumentCookingWoodworkingPaintingWritingGardeningSwimmingPhotographyHandwashing Is More Important In SummerUsing public restrooms and shared toilets - Whether it's at an outdoor festival, a gas station stop during a road trip, or a beach bathroom, these high-traffic areas can be breeding grounds for bacteria like E. coli, salmonella, coronavirus and more. Cooking and eating outside - Barbecues and picnics are a lot of fun, but if food is left out in the sun or meat isn't cooked thoroughly, someone could easily end up with food poisoning. Swimming and water play - Lakes, rivers, swimming pools and oceans can all contain harmful germs and parasites, which can be resistant to chlorine. Beach sand and seawater can even carry fecal bacteria.Camps, playgrounds and festivals - Kids are at higher risk of infection during the summer thanks to group settings like summer camps, playgrounds and soft play centers.But doesn't getting dirty help build kids' immune systems? - Yes, early exposure to natural microbes in soil, from animals or the environment can help support immune development, but this isn't the same as skipping handwashing after using the toilet or preparing food. Second Date UpdateArmie and Melinda met on Hinge and she felt so comfortable, they had their first date at his place. Now she is being ghosted.

Corey Is A Terrible Person...Again. The previous owner of my home wrote me note asking if she and her brother could come visit the house over the weekend.  I never got back to her. I didn't want to give out my number. Am I awful?How To Sneak In More MovementDo some squats or wall sits while your food is heating up Bike or walk to errands Take the stairs Walk while you talk on the phoneGet active while watching your favorite show Use a desk treadmill or walking pad Do calf raises while brushing your teeth Tips For Getting Back On The Fitness TrackI started exercising again. I tried not to overdo it. Until my knee gave out and I was on the floor. Any tips for getting back into the groove? Any embarrassing workout stories?Second Date UpdateCaleb met Roxanne on Tinder. Their first date is cocktails in Berkeley. He can't believe she is ghosting.

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Mic Drop MomentsSometimes, life hands you a standing ovation for opening a stubborn jar, and honestly, that's the kind of energy we need more of. A recent study finds that every day “mic drop moments” are all around us. What is one of yours?Knowing the answer to a quiz showDiscovering when you go to pay for something it's actually discountedMaking someone laugh with a perfectly timed jokeSailing through multiple green traffic lights in a rowTicking off everything on your to-do listCatching something which has been thrown at you quicklyFixing a tech issue for someoneLife Before My Spouse/ My KidsAs much as you love your significant other, what is something you miss from being single:The lack of responsibility and obligations. The rush of 'firsts' — that first date rush/nervous feeling. Holding hands for the first time, first kisses, the first time having sex with someone. Not ever having to be accountable for random stuff I do around my own house. Being able to come home from work and not speak a single word.Deciding on what to have for dinner without a second opinion. Side Hustles That Could Lead To Full Time WorkAccording to a recent Gallup poll, more than 60% of Americans want to be their own boss. While a full-time job pays the bills and has benefits, it doesn't give you the freedom to be in charge, and that's what makes side hustles so appealing to some people.Tour guide - Being passionate about parts of your city and knowing how to show people around is the key and you can use sites like Facebook, Upwork and Viator to market yourself. Some tour guides report making an average of $100 to $300 per tour, sometimes much more.AI Services - Know your way around ChatGPT or similar tools? There's a demand for those skills.Online courses - Whether you've had some business success others can learn from or have hobbies or skills people are interested in, think about putting together an online course to sell on Etsy, Skillshare or Udemy.Medical coding - If you're properly certified and know how to review records for accuracy and help with data entry, this income stream can become a full-time job.Fashion designer - Several clothing and jewelry brands started as side hustles, so why not yours? One success story is Kate Sullivan, founder of Sage Vintage, who started the handmade jewelry company as a side hustle and brought in over $500,000 in revenue last year.Graphic design - Know your way around Canva or Photoshop? Sites like PeoplePerHour and 99designs can help you find your client base and as you build a portfolio and establish a reputation, your business could take off.Second Date UpdateFelicis calls about Nolan. They met on Hinge. They decided to go for burgers in Alameda After the date, Nolan ghosted.

Why We Forget Things...AKA Brain FogMedications - Drugs known to impact memory include (anxiety meds like Xanax and Valium, statins (used to control cholesterol), anti-seizure meds, beta blockers, antidepressants, opioids and a certain class of sleeping pills.Depression or anxiety - When you're depressed, your brain is not working at 100%. It's not paying attention to things as well as it usually does, and the memory areas are not doing what they usually do.Diet - Research links ultraprocessed foods with cognitive decline and an increased risk of dementia.Sleep - Not getting enough sleep can make it harder to concentrate, learn new things and create new memories, according to the National Institutes of Health.Trouble hearing - New research suggests a connection between hearing loss and brain health, but hearing aids can help. The study links hearing aids with a 19% lower risk of long-term cognitive decline.Multitasking - Being distracted affects your ability to focus and remember things, and one study finds that multitaskers often have trouble recalling information. And they were young people.Restuarant Red FlagsIt's dirtyThe place is empty - If it's a Monday night, this isn't concerning, but if the dining room is empty during peak hours on a weekend...There's no management presence - Managers are visible in the dining room, greeting customers, talking to tables and helping servers when needed, but if you can't tell who's in charge, it might be because no one is.It's overloaded with social media influencers - Sure, they can help get people in the door, but they might be getting special treatment and freebies to promote a restaurant. The staff argues with you - Mistakes will be made, but staff members should own it and try to make it up to you when that happens. It doesn't matter how good the food is, if the staff argues with you, it ruins the experience.Servers don't know the menu - It shows poor training and “a lack of pride in the product.”You're being upsold aggressively - When it feels like a script or they're harassing you, it's a sign the restaurant is struggling and doesn't care about hospitality as much as sales.New Cheating EmojisAccording to private investigator Paul Jones from ARF Private Investigators, there are some random, innocent-looking emojis that aren't really so innocent. Jones says that if you find your partner texting the croissant or padlock emojis, they're probably cheating on you. “On the surface, it might look innocent, but there's usually a deeper meaning,” Jones explained. “We've had people using a croissant emoji as a way of saying ‘meet me for breakfast,' or the letter emoji as a subtle ‘text me when you're free.'”Second Date UpdateDean and Ariel met on Hinge, and after a fun back-and-forth over messaging, they decided to meet in person. Their first date was sushi and sake bombs in Fremont. She has pulled a Casper.

Tsunami WarningAfter the earthquake in Russia, we got tsunami warning. We talked about what you should really worry about and what to stay away from.Things Smart People Ignore In MeetingsThe obvious blame shiftBuzzwords with no substanceRecycled ideas presented as new onesPassive-aggressive digsWhen someone is constantly interrupting othersPeople who talk a lot just to be heardVague promises with no timelineA humble braggerThe unrealistic deadlinesThe endless tangentCredit misdirectionHow Do You Tell Someone They Wear Too Much Perfume At Work?Second Date UpdateLorenzo and Heather went for Italian in Mountain View on Castro St. She thought he was charming and the date was awesome, but he has vanished.

The Right Amount of CyberstalkingExperts say this is how to decide on the right amount of pre-first-date research:Focus on sensible “cyberstaling” - Start with verifying what you already know about them. Confirm they work where they say they do by checking out their LinkedIn and get a feel for their personality by scrolling through their Instagram.When it becomes overkill - Things like running a paid background check or combing their social media profiles to do a deep dive into their past and looking at their ex's tagged photos are definitely too much.Check for red flags - Not having an online footprint is a major one. Even if they don't like social media, most people have a LinkedIn profile, if they don't and you feel like something is off, you may want to reconsider meeting up in person.Don't overprepare - This is a date, not a job interview, so don't spoil the genuine way you get to know someone by researching more than you need to.Feeling Financially ComfortableWe are not talking annual salary, this is total.Americans don't need a million dollars to be financially comfortable, just $839-thousand will do it, according to new research from Charles Schwab.Their survey reveals that figure is much lower than the $2.3-million people consider wealthy.When asked to define what “wealthy” means to them, respondents' top three are happiness (45%), “amount of money I have” (44%) and physical health (37%).Corey's BrainWhen I am trying to sleep, it is like three movie screens are playing. One is playing music from the 'Mary Poppins' soundtrack, another is questioning whatever happened to my college boyfriend...this third is me counting back from a 100, version of counting sheep. Does anyone else have a multiplex churning when they just want to rest?Second Date Update Maya met Eric online. They are both into fitness and health, so take a yoga class for their first date. They even enjoyed smoothies afterwards. Why would he ghost?

What Would You Do For Million Dollars?For the chance to score a seven-figure payday, 43% of Americans would ditch their romantic partner, according to a new survey.More than half (59%) would disappear and start a new life for a million bucks, while 41% would give up sex forever and 27% would marry someone they didn't love.Nearly half (46%) of the 2-thousand respondents would even participate in a real-life “Squid Game” competition for a shot at winning $33-million.⠀Wildest Things Kids Brought To School“A baby opossum — in his backpack that he found at the bus stop that morning.”“Sixth grader brought ‘brownies' and gave them to the ENTIRE grade level. There were students sitting against the walls on both sides of the hallway in the main office waiting to get interviewed by law enforcement.”“A life-sized cardboard cut-out of Ruth Bader Ginsburg. We propped her up in the window of the door overnight and scared extended-care folks and the janitor.”“Fifth grader brought weeks-old Jello shots from Mardi Gras.”“A kitten he found on his walk to school.”“Aztec death whistle.”“An expired Twinkie they had found on the bathroom floor.”“First grader brought his mom's copy of ‘Kama Sutra' and asked me to read it to the class.”“All the rent money from a mom's purse.”“Student ... unzips hoodie to reveal a boa constrictor snuggled around her neck.”“Grandma's wig. The good one. Gave it to me for Christmas.”“Fuzzy handcuffs that she said her mom loves.”Kids Embarrassing Their Parents“I made the mistake of telling my kid that if he didn't eat, he wouldn't grow. He told a person with dwarfism in the checkout line at the store that they needed to eat so they would grow.”“My son at 5 years old dropped a deuce in the toilet display at Lowe's.”“Just paid for an item at Walmart and walked out without it in a bag. My kid said loudly, ‘Are you stealing that?? We have to pay!'”“My daughter would ask every man she saw if they were her dad. Me and her dad were, and still are, together. She saw him daily, she just insisted on asking every man .... she even asked people when her dad was with us.”“When my daughter was 4, we were having breakfast in a restaurant and she asked the elderly lady next to us why she wasn't in heaven yet.”“I told my son he couldn't eat chips until we got home. He responded loudly, ‘But Mom, we don't have a home.' We very much did, and everybody at the store started offering housing resources.”“Walked into Wendy's and my 2 and 1/2 year-old looks at a lady and said in her loud, squeaky voice, ‘That lady is OLD. She's going to die soon.' Every head turned to look at said woman. We did not eat at Wendy's that night.”“My 5-year-old son asked if the gas station guy with the turban was a genie.”“My son loved to fake drown at water parks.”“My son told the pediatrician when he was 7 or 8, ‘My mom doesn't make us wear seatbelt and we duck if we see a cop.' NEVER HAPPENED and I was so speechless, I couldn't even react.”“My daughter asked the .... cashier (who was missing some teeth) if she ever brushed her teeth before.”Second Date UpdateAmanda calls us about Eli. They went out for drinks in Mountain View after meeting online. She thought he was attractive and smart, and they had a few hours of great conversation. Now nothing.

Benefits To Attract Top TalentEmployers are going the extra mile to attract and keep quality workers. Here are a few niche offerings:Free college tuitionAdoption and surrogacy assistanceMortgage rate buyoutsPaid vacations with a stipendMedical benefits for domestic partnershipsCompany retreats to music festivalsWhy Is This Okay For Men, But Not Women?“Being topless in public.”"Not changing their name when they get married. (This varies by location.)""Making their careers their first priority."“Not shaving.”"Saying we don't want to have kids. I don't know why women can't say that without being told it's the reason why they're here on earth. My boyfriend even said that only women who used their wombs would go to Heaven because they fulfilled God's purpose for them.""Be a single parent. 'Oh, he's so amazing for looking after his own children!'""Being introverted and reserved. And not smiling. Women who are quiet are deemed stuck-up, get accused of having an attitude, and get told to smile more. Men don't deal with that particular issue as much."Pasta Makes You HappyAccording to the study, eating pasta is linked to feelings of increased happiness, reduced stress and greater mindfulness, especially when it's enjoyed in a social setting with loved ones.Second Date UpdateJake and Vanessa met online and went to a play at a community theater for their first date. He says they had a great dinner that night as well. Why would she ghost?

Hey there, Happy Friday Eve. Here's some stuff.Corey Got In A Fight With Her HusbandAnd she blames Marcus. Marcus bullies her in the morning, Jeff bullies her in the afternoon. She needs a break.Foods You're Storing IncorrectlyButter: Salted butter can hang out on the counter for a couple of days and still be safe, especially if your kitchen stays below 70 degrees Fahrenheit. Unsalted butter, though, is more delicate and should live in the fridge.Opened Canned Goods: Once you open that can of tuna, soup, or beans, it's time to pop it in the fridge. While some fruits may last a little at room temp, it's best to transfer leftovers into a glass or plastic container to preserve flavor. Eggs: In the U.S., eggs are washed before sale, which removes their protective layer and makes refrigeration essential. Leave them out for too long and bacteria can sneak in through the shell. Keep them in their carton, in the coldest part of your fridge.Flour: White flour is pretty chill in the pantry, but whole wheat flour is a little high-maintenance. It can go rancid faster because of its oils. To make it last, keep it in an airtight container and consider stashing it in the fridge or even the freezer. Bonus: no surprise funky smells when you bake.Hot Sauce: Hot sauce doesn't have to be refrigerated, but doing so helps preserve its punchy flavor for longer. If you're not a frequent hot sauce user, go ahead and pop it in the fridge. The spice level won't fade, and your tacos will thank you. The USDA says you should consume the bottle within six months of putting it in your pantry.Jams and Jellies: Once opened, these sugary spreads belong in the fridge to prevent mold and yeast growth. Low-sugar varieties are especially sensitive and can spoil faster. Keep them cool and they'll stay delicious for up to a year. Ketchup: You can leave ketchup out if stored at room temperature, but it'll stay fresher much longer if you refrigerate it after opening. You can even stash it in the fridge door for easy access because it's less temperature-sensitive than milk or eggs. Maple Syrup: Unopened syrup lasts ages in the pantry, but once it's open, move it to the fridge. According to the USDA, unopened syrup in plastic bottles can last two years in the pantry and up to two years if its refrigerated. If the syrup is sold in glass bottles, it will remain fresh in the pantry for a whopping four years from date of purchase…and indefinitely if you stick it in the refrigerator.Mayonnaise: That creamy jar of mayo is not something to mess around with. After opening, keep it in the fridge door and use it within two months. And don't freeze it or it'll separate and get weird.Peanut Butter: Regular peanut butter is fine in the pantry. It can stay fresh for up to two years unopened, and another three months after its opened. But if you go the natural route, it's best to keep it chilled to prevent the oils from going off.Pickles and Olives: If they're swimming in brine and sealed tight, pickles are generally safe at room temp for short periods. But once opened, keep them in the fridge for max crunch and freshness. The same goes for olives, just make sure they're always submerged in liquid. For best freshness, refrigerated pickles in brine should be eaten within one to three months after they've been opened, but canned olives should be eaten within two weeks.Salad Dressing: If your dressing was sold cold, it should stay cold even before opening. Once that seal is broken, creamy dressings last about a month and vinaigrettes a little longer. Unopened creamy or vinaigrette salad dressing that weren't sold cold can stay ok in the pantry for up to six months, but they should be put in the fridge once you open them.Signs You're Struggling With Bore-OutCommon signs experts say might indicate you're experiencing boreout include:Feeling uninterested in tasks and mentally checked outFaking being busy to look productiveSeeing no opportunity for growth or promotionSpending time on non-work activities like scrolling or taking extra-long breaksMaking careless mistakes, feel sluggish, and question your value at workIsolating from coworkers and experience low mood or apathyTo fix boreout, experts suggest:Acknowledging the problem — Recognizing boreout is the first step toward changeTalking to your manager — Ask for new challenges or more meaningful responsibilitiesAdding variety — Volunteer for different projects or collaborate with new peopleGamifying your tasks — Turn boring work into a competition with yourself or coworkersChanging your environment — If possible, mix up your routine or workspaceReconnecting with others — Build relationships beyond small talk to boost engagementSecond Date UpdateDeclan and Taylor got coffee in Sausalito, then took a drive through the Marin Headlands. What could have caused her to ghost?