The Surviving Siblings Podcast

In this raw and profoundly moving episode of The Surviving Siblings Podcast, host Maya Roffler sits down with Jen, a bereaved sibling who lost her brother Teddy to suicide in 2017. Jen and Teddy shared an incredibly close bond, growing up as part of a large Sicilian family just outside of Boston. But their story begins even earlier—Teddy was a micro-preemie twin who survived against all odds, unknowingly carrying deep grief for his twin, Joseph, who died shortly after birth. Jen opens up about the fierce sibling connection they shared, their upbringing in a culture that didn't talk about emotions, and the invisible scars Teddy carried after a childhood marked by severe bullying, trauma, and being misunderstood. Despite his vibrant, goofy, and deeply caring personality, Teddy struggled silently with mental health throughout his life. This episode explores the reality of surviving sibling suicide, the hidden pain many carry, and the complex journey of grief, guilt, and healing. Jen shares how she only began to process her loss years later during the pandemic and how therapy has helped her reframe her survivor's guilt and begin to find peace. She also reflects on the final moments, the call that changed everything, and the weight of not getting to say goodbye. If you've ever felt the heartbreak of suicide loss, struggled with survivor's guilt, or longed for healing in a family that doesn't talk about grief—Jen's story will show you that you are not alone, and your voice matters. In This Episode: (00:01:09) – Growing Up Sicilian Jen describes her “free-range childhood” and the powerful, chaotic closeness of growing up in a big Sicilian family, where cousins felt like siblings. (00:02:31) – Teddy's Early Arrival & Twin Loss Teddy was born four months premature in 1975. His twin, Joseph, passed away shortly after birth—a fact Jen discovered years later on her own. (00:06:00) – Protector & Big Sister From defending Teddy against bullies to enduring the silence of their home life, Jen shares what it meant to be the older sister in a family that didn't talk about pain. (00:12:00) – School, Stereotypes & Sibling Comparisons Jen reflects on how academic pressure, comparison, and cultural expectations shaped both her and Teddy in very different ways. (00:15:22) – Therapy & Rewriting the Narrative A family photo once filled with shame becomes a moment of healing thanks to therapy—Jen discusses the power of reframing grief and guilt. (00:19:00) – Discovering Teddy's Twinhood Jen recalls the moment she discovered Teddy was a surviving twin and the emotional weight of finding a note he once wrote to God, asking if his brother was safe in heaven. (00:22:00) – 2017: The Year Everything Changed After losing his beloved grandmother and a close friend, Teddy's grief deepened. Jen shares how she never saw the signs of his declining mental health. (00:26:00) – A Life of Trauma and Suppression From childhood bullying to a near-institutionalization as a teen, Jen uncovers the deep traumas Teddy endured—and how their family culture of silence kept him from healing. (00:30:00) – Teddy's First Suicide Attempt In 2003, Teddy survived a suicide attempt on Boston's Tobin Bridge. Jen recounts the hospital call that changed everything—and how the stigma around mental health silenced the conversation for years. (00:32:00) – Saying Goodbye Was Not Easy Jen discusses the complicated decisions her family made after Teddy's death, the tension surrounding his service, and the 400 people who came to say goodbye. (00:35:00) – The Call That Changed Everything Jen shares the moment she learned of Teddy's death—and how her family's avoidance of grief left her in prolonged shock for nearly three years. (00:42:00) – Grief Bubble & Delayed Healing Without the space to grieve immediately, Jen's own grief journey was stunted. She talks about what it means to be “strong for the family” and the emotional cost of silence. (00:44:00) – The Pandemic Awakening It wasn't until the COVID-19 pandemic that Jen was forced to sit with her thoughts—and finally begin to unpack her trauma and start to heal. This episode is sponsored by The Surviving Siblings.  If you or someone you love is struggling with mental health or suicidal thoughts, help is available. Please reach out to a mental health professional or call your local crisis line. You are never alone. Connect with Jen:  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jen.hoye Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jen.and.pen/ Website: https://www.jenniferhoye.com/miles   Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/survivingsiblingspodcast/ Maya's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mayaroffler/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: https://x.com/survivingsibpod Website: thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/TheSurvivingSiblingsPodcast

In this heartfelt episode of the Surviving Siblings Podcast, host Maya Roffler welcomes Cryssy, a bereaved sibling who lost her younger sister, Danielle, to acute myeloid leukemia in 2012. As the oldest sibling, Cryssy took on the role of protector, caregiver, and advocate—navigating the heartbreak of watching her sister battle a devastating illness. Cryssy shares her deeply personal journey of anticipatory grief, the pain of losing Danielle at just 21 years old, and the complex emotions of grieving while trying to stay strong for her family. She opens up about the regret of not getting to say goodbye the way she wanted, the physical toll grief took on her body, and the creative, meaningful ways she keeps Danielle's memory alive every day. This episode is a powerful conversation about sibling loss, anticipatory grief, and finding purpose after tragedy. Cryssy also shares how honoring her sister through traditions, a beloved stuffed animal, and small daily acts has helped her heal—and how grief can manifest physically in ways we might never expect. If you've ever felt the weight of grieving a sibling while being the “strong one” for others, Cryssy's story will remind you that love endures, even through the pain. In This Episode: (00:01:00) – Danielle: A Birthday Gift Sister Cryssy shares how Danielle was born just two days before her own birthday, how they celebrated together, and how their sibling bond was filled with love, chaos, and laughter. (00:04:00) – Big Sister, Protector, Mama Bear Growing up as the oldest, Cryssy stepped into a protective role, helping raise Danielle and their brother, shielding them, and taking on family responsibilities from a young age. (00:05:00) – The Call That Changed Everything Cryssy recounts the moment she learned Danielle was being rushed to the hospital after a bloody nose turned into a leukemia diagnosis—and how she instantly began grieving. (00:08:00) – Facing Acute Myeloid Leukemia Cryssy explains Danielle's diagnosis, the aggressive treatment process, and how she tried to stay hopeful on the outside while preparing herself internally for the worst. (00:11:00) – Holidays in the Hospital Danielle asked Cryssy to decorate her hospital room for Halloween and Christmas—keeping their family traditions alive despite spending their favorite holidays in a hospital room. (00:14:00) – The Final Christmas Together Cryssy reflects on their last Christmas, staying up all night talking, exchanging meaningful gifts, and creating treasured memories in what would be Danielle's final holiday. (00:19:00) – Saying Goodbye Without Words Cryssy shares the experience of Danielle's “surge” before passing, the bittersweet final days, and the deep regret of not being able to say goodbye the way she had hoped. (00:24:00) – Preparing Danielle's Goodbye Honoring her sister's love of style, Cryssy lovingly prepared Danielle for her viewing—painting her nails, doing her hair, dressing her in jewelry, and ensuring she looked radiant. (00:31:00) – A Dream Visit From Danielle Months after Danielle's passing, Cryssy had a vivid dream of Danielle smiling and telling her, “It's okay to be okay”—a powerful, healing moment that brought her comfort. (00:37:00) – Grief's Physical Impact Cryssy opens up about how her grief manifested in physical illness, leading to hospitalization, sepsis, and a near-death experience that she believes Danielle helped her survive. (00:48:00) – Finding Purpose in Grief Cryssy reflects on how grief has shaped her purpose, giving her strength to help others and reminding her that grief is love in a different form. This episode is sponsored by The Surviving Siblings  Connect with Cryssy:  Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cryssycryssycryssy Email: Crystalmperry@yahoo.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Nimbeedonut Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CryssyPerry/ Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/survivingsiblingspodcast/ Maya's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mayaroffler/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: https://x.com/survivingsibpod Website: thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/TheSurvivingSiblingsPodcast  

Maya is joined by Stephanie Murphy, who bravely shares the heartbreaking story of losing her younger brother, Quentin, to a tragic car accident in 2001 when he was just 18 years old. Stephanie opens up about their sibling bond, the fight that led to their last conversation, and the devastating night she learned her brother was gone. She shares how grief collided with unexpected motherhood, her battle with anxiety and alcohol, and how she found strength to heal—leading to nine years of sobriety and honoring Quentin's memory every step of the way. In This Episode: (00:01:00) – Sibling Dynamics: From Rivalry to Best Friends Stephanie reflects on growing up as the oldest sibling, her playful (and sometimes bossy) relationship with Quentin, and how their bond deepened during their high school years. (00:04:00) – An Ambitious Young Man with Big Dreams She shares how Quentin's drive and charisma made him stand out—working multiple jobs, managing at Chick-fil-A, buying his dream car, and planning for a future in business. (00:07:00) – The Fight That Changed Everything Stephanie recounts the emotional last conversation she had with Quentin after a disagreement over her relationship—and how that moment became their final goodbye. (00:11:00) – Missing His Graduation & Growing Distance Stephanie talks about missing Quentin's graduation due to work, the lingering family tensions, and sending a heartfelt letter in hopes of reconciling. (00:15:00) – “I Just Want to Cry…” The Night Before She describes the overwhelming emotions and strange premonition she felt the night before Quentin's accident—a deep knowing that something was wrong. (00:18:00) – The Knock at 4 AM: News No One Ever Wants Stephanie relives the devastating moment her mother arrived at her door to tell her that Quentin had died in a car accident—and how her world shattered in an instant. (00:23:00) – Finding the Unopened Letter While grieving at her parents' house, Stephanie finds the card and letter she had sent Quentin—still sealed. She opens it at his funeral, turning it into a final tribute. (00:26:00) – What Happened That Night: The Truth About the Accident Stephanie shares what Quentin's friend—who survived the crash—revealed about the events leading up to the accident, including alcohol, missed exits, and heartbreaking what-ifs. (00:33:00) – Grieving While Pregnant & The Anxiety That Followed Stephanie opens up about navigating grief while expecting her first child, the overwhelming anxiety that took hold, and how she struggled to find normalcy after loss. (00:38:00) – Turning to Alcohol: Numbing the Pain She discusses how grief and family history led her down a path of alcohol dependence—and how it became a coping mechanism for years. (00:40:00) – The Day Everything Changed: Choosing Sobriety On the anniversary of Quentin's death in 2015, Stephanie made a life-altering decision. She shares what led to her nine years (and counting) of sobriety. (00:49:00) – Learning to Live Without Fear Stephanie reflects on how grief made her fear every phone call, every tragedy, and how she's worked to regain peace—especially as a mother. (00:57:00) – Signs, Dreams & Spiritual Connection From vivid dreams to her son being born on Quentin's birthday, Stephanie shares the powerful ways her brother continues to show up in her life. (01:03:00) – Acceptance, Growth & Honoring Quentin Stephanie discusses how she's learned to live with grief, why healing doesn't mean forgetting, and how she continues to make her brother proud. (01:08:00) – Advice for Surviving Siblings Stephanie offers heartfelt wisdom for those navigating sibling loss—reminding us that while grief never fully leaves, we can choose growth, joy, and purpose.   This episode was sponsored by The Surviving Siblings.  Connect with Stephanie:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephaniemichellemurphy  Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/survivingsiblingspodcast/ Maya's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mayaroffler/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: https://x.com/survivingsibpod Website: thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/TheSurvivingSiblingsPodcast  

Maya is joined by Dr. Parul Dua Makkar—dentist, grief coach, speaker, and author—who shares the heartbreaking journey of losing her only sibling, Manu, to oral cancer at just 34 years old.  Parul opens up about the moment she knew something wasn't right, the delays in diagnosis, what it was like navigating end-of-life care during the height of COVID-19, and how her grief transformed into a powerful mission. She also shares the legacy Manu left behind—his book Life Interrupted, a powerful collection of essays he wrote during his final months, which Parul helped complete and publish after his passing. In This Episode: (00:01:00) – Sibling Bond, Eight Years Apart Parul shares what it was like being a big sister to Manu—changing his diapers, watching him grow up, and how their love for dentistry helped them stay connected despite distance. (00:04:00) – Global Nomads & Deep Connections Raised across continents, Parul and Manu lived in different countries for most of their lives, but their bond stayed strong through regular visits, daily calls, and shared professional passions. (00:08:00) – “This Might Be Cancer…” Parul recalls the moment she saw the lesion in her brother's mouth. (00:10:00) – The First Surgery & Fighting Back Manu underwent an eight-hour surgery to remove half his tongue, and despite it all, came back stronger—treating patients, traveling, buying a dog (named Maya), and embracing life with a new sense of urgency. (00:14:00) – COVID, Cancer & Compassion Release When the cancer returned in 2020, Parul had to fight to cross the U.S.-Canada border during COVID lockdowns. She shares the emotional story of writing her father a letter, asking for permission to say goodbye. (00:20:00) – “You Can Let Go…” On a video call, Parul tells her brother it's okay to stop fighting. He passes away just hours later. She arrives in Canada to plan his funeral—grieving, and still under COVID restrictions. (00:24:00) – Loss Upon Loss Parul shares how, just three years later, she lost her father unexpectedly to cardiac arrest—just after Thanksgiving. She reflects on how it felt like her dad died of a broken heart. (00:30:00) – Oral Cancer Awareness & Early Detection As a dentist, Parul explains why oral cancer is often caught too late, how misdiagnosis happens, and what signs everyone should look for. She encourages early biopsies and routine checkups. (00:34:00) – Turning Grief into Purpose After Manu's passing, Parul completed and published his book, Life Interrupted, which he had begun writing during treatment. She shares how publishing his words brought her healing and closure. This episode was sponsored by Duagoodjob.  Connect with Parul:   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PDMFamilyDental Website: http://duagoodjob.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-parul-dua-makkar-bsc-dds-facd-375324145/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/duagoodjob Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCv46meC0Q0pwqTg8YD43-TA Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/survivingsiblingspodcast/ Maya's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mayaroffler/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: https://x.com/survivingsibpod Website: thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/TheSurvivingSiblingsPodcast  

In this deeply emotional episode of The Surviving Siblings Podcast, host Maya Roffler welcomes Kayla, a bereaved sibling who lost her baby sister, Ashley, in a tragic and unexpected medical event in 2006. At just eleven years old, Kayla's world changed forever when her one-and-a-half-year-old sister suddenly stopped breathing—an event that would later be revealed as a preventable tragedy. Kayla opens up about the deep bond she shared with Ashley, the impact of her sister's passing on their entire family, and how grief shaped her childhood, teenage years, and adulthood. She shares the devastating realization that Ashley's death was caused by a misdiagnosed medical condition and how the hospital's oversight led to a prolonged struggle for answers and justice. This episode explores the complexities of grieving at a young age, how Kayla's family navigated immense loss, and the lifelong journey of healing. Kayla also discusses the anxiety and trauma that followed, the lasting effects of sibling loss, and how she has found strength in sharing her story for the first time. If you've ever experienced loss at a young age or struggled to process grief over the years, Kayla's story will remind you that healing is possible, and you are not alone. In This Episode: (00:01:09) – The Role of a Big Sister Kayla reflects on growing up as the oldest sibling and the deep love she had for her younger sisters, Mia and Ashley. (00:02:41) – When Ashley Got Sick Kayla recalls the months leading up to Ashley's passing, the concerning symptoms, and the repeated hospital visits where doctors misdiagnosed her condition. (00:06:20) – The Day That Changed Everything Kayla describes the morning she learned about Ashley's passing and the shock of hearing the news from her father and stepmother. (00:12:00) – Attending School the Next Day Despite the tragedy, Kayla insisted on going to school, determined to maintain her perfect attendance and a sense of normalcy in the chaos of grief. (00:15:22) – Ashley's Funeral Kayla shares the surreal experience of attending her sister's funeral, seeing Ashley one last time, and the heartbreaking traditions her family developed to honor her memory. (00:18:00) – The Truth Behind Ashley's Passing Weeks later, the autopsy revealed that Ashley had been choking on a peanut for months—something doctors had missed in her chest x-ray.  (00:22:30) – The Aftermath: Lawsuits & Family Divides Kayla details how the misdiagnosis led to legal action against the hospital, the ripple effects it had on her family, and how relationships were fractured as blame and guilt took over. (00:35:00) – The Long-Term Impact of Grief Kayla discusses how losing Ashley at such a young age led to severe anxiety, control issues, and the fear of losing loved ones, as well as how therapy and medication have helped her manage these struggles. (00:47:00) – Healing & Moving Forward Years later, Kayla's family has slowly started to mend. She shares how her father overcame addiction, her stepmother found ways to honor Ashley, and how she has learned to navigate life after loss. (00:56:00) – Advice for Young Bereaved Siblings Kayla reflects on what she would tell her younger self and encourages others to allow themselves to grieve, seek support, and embrace the healing process. This episode is sponsored by The Surviving Siblings  Connect with Kayla:  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kayla.updike?mibextid=ZbWKwL Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kaylaupdike?igsh=MTBuNHdtcjNvMzhlMw== Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/survivingsiblingspodcast/ Maya's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mayaroffler/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: https://x.com/survivingsibpod Website: thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/TheSurvivingSiblingsPodcast  

In this heartfelt episode of the Surviving Siblings Podcast, host Maya Roffler welcomes Elliet, a bereaved sibling who lost their younger brother, Dylan, in a tragic four-wheeling accident in 2003. At just eight years old, Elliet's world was turned upside down when their best friend and only sibling was suddenly gone. Elliet shares their deeply personal journey of navigating grief as a child, how their parents' loss impacted the entire family dynamic, and the emotional weight of growing up as a surviving sibling. They open up about the lasting effects of guilt, the struggle of answering the dreaded "Do you have any siblings?" question, and how they've finally found peace and healing—20+ years later. This episode is a powerful conversation about sibling loss, the lifelong journey of grief, and the importance of self-discovery, therapy, and community support. Elliet also shares their experience of coming out as transgender and how it intersected with their grief journey, adding another layer of resilience to their incredible story. If you've ever felt like you had to carry the weight of grief alone, Elliet's story will remind you that you're not alone.  In This Episode: (00:01:09) – Dylan: A Best Friend & Sidekick Elliet reflects on their childhood, growing up extremely close with Dylan, and the unique bond they shared as only siblings. (00:02:31) – The Day That Changed Everything Elliet recounts the last time they saw Dylan before the tragic accident and the gut feeling they couldn't shake. (00:12:30) – The Moment of Realization Elliet describes the instant their world shattered and how they found out their brother was gone. (00:16:10) – Grieving as a Child Navigating grief at eight years old, dealing with unanswered questions, and feeling the weight of loss in an unexplainable way. (00:32:00) – Becoming the "Perfect" Child Elliet shares how they tried to make life easier for their parents, suppressing their own grief to avoid adding to their pain. (00:42:39) – Finding Therapy & Self-Discovery After years of struggling, Elliet opens up about how therapy, personal growth, and embracing their identity have led them toward healing. (00:50:54) – The 20-Year Milestone & Coming Out Elliet shares how the 20-year anniversary of Dylan's passing coincided with their decision to come out as transgender, and how it deeply affected their relationship with family. (01:01:06) – The Truth About Grief Why grief never disappears—but instead, we grow around it. This episode is sponsored by The Surviving Siblings  Connect with Elliet:  Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@littlemouseling18 Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/survivingsiblingspodcast/ Maya's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mayaroffler/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: https://x.com/survivingsibpod Website: thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/TheSurvivingSiblingsPodcast  

In this deeply emotional episode of the Surviving Siblings Podcast, host Maya Roffler welcomes Jessica Kueck, a bereaved sibling who courageously shares the heartbreaking story of losing her younger brother, Aaron, at just three years old in a tragic drowning accident. Jessica was only 11 when her world was turned upside down, and she reflects on how this loss shaped her childhood, mental health, and journey into adulthood. Jessica opens up about the intense grief her family endured, particularly the profound impact it had on her mother and father. She shares how growing up in a home marked by sorrow and trauma affected her perspective on life, anxiety, and relationships. Now a mother herself, Jessica talks about how she navigates parenting while consciously working to break the cycle of generational trauma and honor Aaron's memory in a way that fosters healing and growth. In This Episode: (0:01:18) - Growing Up as the Oldest Sibling Jessica describes her family dynamic, being the oldest of three siblings, and the deep love and admiration her family had for Aaron, their miracle baby. (0:02:13) - A Tragic Day in Arizona Jessica recalls the road trip with her mother, siblings, and family friends that led to the devastating moment when Aaron drowned at their condo's community pool. (0:06:22) - The Immediate Aftermath Jessica shares the harrowing moments of calling her father, witnessing the chaos at the pool, and the tragic realization at the hospital that Aaron was gone. (0:15:38) - The Funeral and Shiva Jessica reflects on the Jewish traditions of mourning, including Shiva, and how the week of support gave temporary solace to her grieving mother. (0:21:50) - Anxiety and Hypervigilance After Loss Jessica discusses how losing Aaron as a child shaped her anxiety, causing her to catastrophize everyday situations and always anticipate the worst. (0:40:12) - Motherhood and Breaking the Cycle Jessica shares how becoming a mother forced her to confront her childhood trauma, and how she actively works to ensure her daughter doesn't inherit the same fears and anxieties. (0:46:21) - Finding Healing and Hope Jessica talks about her journey with therapy, medication, and mindfulness practices that have helped her manage her anxiety and live a more present and peaceful life. (1:02:00) - Advice for Those Who Lost a Sibling Young Jessica offers heartfelt advice for siblings who lost their brother or sister as children, discussing how to navigate grief, honor their sibling, and create a life that fosters healing. This episode is a poignant reminder that grief is a lifelong journey, but healing and transformation are possible. Jessica's story is one of strength, awareness, and breaking cycles to build a healthier future for herself and her family. This episode is sponsored by The Surviving Siblings.  Connect with Jessica:  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jessica.kueck86/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessicakueck/ Email: jessica.r.kueck@gmail.com   Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/survivingsiblingspodcast/ Maya's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mayaroffler/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: https://x.com/survivingsibpod Website: thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/TheSurvivingSiblingsPodcast  

In this deeply moving episode of the Surviving Siblings Podcast, host Maya Roffler welcomes Michelle Tobin, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, therapist, and author, who shares her emotional journey of losing her brother Patrick in a devastating plane crash. Michelle reflects on the lasting impact of this loss, how it shaped her career in mental health, and the unexpected ways grief has woven itself into her life's work. She opens up about trauma, healing, and the importance of finding outlets for grief, including writing, physical movement, and faith. Michelle's story is one of resilience, personal transformation, and hope as she discusses how she carried her brother's memory with her for 50 years, culminating in the release of her novel, Home for the Bewildered. This powerful episode offers insight and comfort for anyone navigating sibling loss and seeking ways to move forward while keeping their loved ones close. In This Episode: (0:01:18) - Growing Up in a Large Family Michelle paints a picture of her family dynamics, growing up as one of twelve children, and the deep admiration she had for her older brother Patrick. (0:04:36) - The Night of the Tragedy Michelle recounts the eerie feeling she and her sister had the night before Thanksgiving, followed by the heartbreaking moment they learned of Patrick's passing. (0:06:28) - Processing Grief as a Teenager Michelle reflects on the immediate aftermath of Patrick's passing, the difficulties of not having closure due to a closed casket, and how grief was handled in her family during the 1970s. (0:14:53) - The Five-Year Mark and a Divine Intervention Michelle shares the moment she experienced a divine intervention, a turning point in her healing journey, and how she found solace through swimming and faith. (0:21:12) - The Importance of Physical Outlets for Grief Maya and Michelle discuss how physical activity, whether it be swimming, running, or walking, can serve as a powerful release for trauma and emotional pain. (0:27:17) - Giving Yourself Grace in the Grieving Process Michelle emphasizes the importance of allowing yourself to grieve in your own way, shutting out societal pressures, and leaning into people who offer true support. (0:46:21) - Writing Home for the Bewildered 50 Years Later Michelle discusses how her novel was inspired by her brother's death and the themes of grief, trauma, and healing embedded in her writing. She also explains the significance of setting the novel in 1974, the year Patrick passed away. (0:50:56) - Where to Find Michelle's Book Michelle shares how listeners can purchase Home for the Bewildered directly from Vine Leaves Press and connect with her through her website and social media. This episode is a heartfelt exploration of loss, resilience, and finding light after tragedy. Michelle's story is a testament to the power of healing, self-discovery, and embracing hope, no matter how many years have passed. This episode is sponsored by Home for the Bewildered written by Michelle Tobin.  Connect with Michelle:  Website: https://www.michelle-tobin.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle57writes Tik Tok: @michelletobin7 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100088688944743 Purchase Her Book Here: https://vineleavespress.myshopify.com/products/home-for-the-bewildered Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/survivingsiblingspodcast/ Maya's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mayaroffler/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: https://x.com/survivingsibpod Website: thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/TheSurvivingSiblingsPodcast  

Claire Thompson's journey is one of resilience, loss, and healing after the devastating loss of her brother Rob. From their tight-knit sibling bond growing up in Scotland to the tragedy that would redefine Claire's life, this episode explores the profound grief and transformation that comes with sibling loss. Rob, a charismatic and creative soul with a love for video editing, music, and fine whiskey, was tragically taken in 2014 due to an unprovoked assault in Glasgow, Scotland. Claire shares the heart-wrenching details of that day, the waiting period that followed, and the challenging processes that came after. She delves into the immense toll of those three days in the hospital, leading to the painful decision to say goodbye to Rob. Claire's story is not only about loss but also about survival and finding purpose. A psychologist in training, Claire discusses how Rob's death shaped her life and led her to focus her career on sibling loss and bereavement. Through sled dog racing in Alaska, connecting with nature, and deep empathy, Claire found ways to heal and honor her brother's legacy. Now completing her doctorate, she is conducting a groundbreaking study on young adult sibling loss to advocate for greater awareness and support for surviving siblings. In this episode: (00:00:55) – Introduction to Claire's Background and Family Dynamics (00:10:09) – The Day of Rob's Assault and the Aftermath (00:18:34) – Navigating Hospital Decisions and Legal Processes (00:27:00) – Finding Strength Through Nature and Connection (00:36:42) – The Healing Power of Empathy and Advocacy (00:46:39) – Claire's Current Work and Doctoral Research on Sibling Loss Claire's story is a powerful testament to the enduring bonds of sibling love and the transformative power of channeling grief into purpose. Connect with Claire: Email: cthomson@alaskapacific.edu  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/claire.thomson.7758  This Episode is Sponsored by The Surviving Siblings.  Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/survivingsiblingspodcast/ Maya's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mayaroffler TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: https://x.com/survivingsibpod Website: https://www.thesurvivingsiblings.com/ Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings PodcastYouTube: The Surviving Siblings PodcastPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/TheSurvivingSiblingsPodcast

In this emotional episode of the Surviving Siblings podcast, host Maya Roffler welcomes Heather, who shares the devastating story of losing her brother Casey to gun violence. Heather takes listeners on a journey through their close sibling bond, the tragic circumstances of Casey's death, and the lifelong impact of his loss. She opens up about navigating grief, seeking answers, and finding healing over the 30 years since Casey's passing. Heather's story is one of heartbreak, resilience, and hope, as she reflects on her journey to honor Casey's memory and find strength amid unanswered questions. In This Episode: (0:00:10) - Introducing Heather and Casey's Story Maya introduces Heather, who shares her journey as a surviving sibling and tells the story of her brother Casey, whom she lost to gun violence at 18 years old. (0:01:33) - Heather's Family Dynamics Heather reflects on her family growing up, her father's military background, and her close sibling bond with Casey, the middle child in their family of three siblings. (0:02:54) - Casey's Protective Nature Heather recalls her relationship with Casey, his protective personality, and the deep connection they shared as siblings. (0:06:18) - Casey's Teen Years and Struggles Heather shares how family challenges, including her father's alcoholism, influenced Casey's teenage years, leading him to the wrong crowd and struggles with substance use. (0:12:14) - The Night of the Tragedy Heather recounts the heartbreaking night Casey was shot and how he was brought home alive by his friends, leading to a chaotic and tragic turn of events. (0:18:37) - The Aftermath at the Hospital Heather describes the shocking moments in the hospital, Casey's brief responsiveness, and the devastating decision to donate his organs. (1:03:00) - Heather's Transformational Dream Heather describes a vivid dream of Casey shortly after his death, which brought her comfort and a sense of peace, affirming his continued presence in her life. This episode is a testament to the strength it takes to survive the loss of a sibling, especially under tragic circumstances. Heather's story is both heart-wrenching and inspiring, offering hope and solidarity to those on a similar journey. This episode is sponsored by The Surviving Siblings   Connect with Heather:  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@heatherleigh1977   Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/survivingsiblingspodcast/ Maya's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mayaroffler/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: https://x.com/survivingsibpod Website: thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/TheSurvivingSiblingsPodcast  

In this heartfelt episode, host Maya Roffler speaks with Diana Hunter, who opens up about the loss of her brother Tyler. Diana shares her story of growing up with her three younger brothers, the unique sibling bond she shared with Tyler, and the challenges he faced with asthma and addiction. Diana reflects on her family's complicated dynamics, her role as a "second mom" to her younger siblings, and how Tyler's passing deeply impacted her and her family. Throughout this conversation, Diana and Maya connect on the experience of being the eldest sibling, processing sudden loss, and finding light amidst grief.   In this episode: (0:00:45) - Diana's Background and Family Dynamics (0:02:00) - Tyler's Health Challenges and Asthma Diagnosis (0:07:28) - Navigating Family Tensions (0:08:57) - Tyler's Adult Life and Struggles with Addiction (0:21:00) - The Day of Tyler's Passing (0:26:37) - Family Reconciliation (0:33:18) - Talking to Jack About Tyler's Passing (0:46:34) - Processing Complicated Grief Connect with Diana: TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@diana_lynn18?_t=8oiPyQiph4J&_r=1 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/diana_hunter6559   Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/survivingsiblingspodcast/ Maya's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mayaroffler/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: https://x.com/survivingsibpod Website: thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/TheSurvivingSiblingsPodcast  

In this heartfelt and deeply moving episode of The Surviving Siblings Podcast, host Maya Roffler sits down with Janine DeTore, the youngest of seven siblings, to share an intimate look into her life, her incredible bond with her sister Angela, and the profound grief she endured after losing Angela to cancer. In this episode: [00:00:57] Family Dynamics – Janine discusses her role as the youngest of seven siblings and her relationship with Angela. [00:02:52] Childhood Memories – Stories of Angela caring for Janine and their shared childhood experiences. [00:06:20] Role Reversal – How Janine stepped up as a caregiver after their mother's death. [00:15:00] The Other Half – Janine talks about Angela being her other half and how their connection was spiritual and deep. [00:27:00] Coping with Loss – Janine shares how she dealt with grief, including feelings of anger and bargaining with God. [00:36:49] Angela's Battle – Details on Angela's diagnosis, treatments, and the emotional toll of caregiving. [00:47:08] Honoring Angela – How Janine continues to honor Angela's memory through personal projects like writing a book.   This episode is sponsored by The Surviving Siblings Connect with Janine:  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100057735922448 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/JanineDeTore Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/survivingsiblingspodcast/ Maya's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mayaroffler/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: https://x.com/survivingsibpod Website: thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/TheSurvivingSiblingsPodcast

In this deeply personal and emotional episode, Sidney Savoie shares the story of his sister Dottie, who tragically passed away from a drug overdose in August 2020. Sidney opens up about their childhood, growing up as siblings with contrasting personalities, and the powerful bond they shared despite their differences. Dottie was adopted into Sidney's family before he was born, and Sidney reflects on how much he owes his existence to her. Growing up with a passionate and vibrant sister, Sidney recalls their sibling rivalry and their eventual maturing relationship in adulthood. He paints a vivid picture of Dottie's larger-than-life personality, her struggles with mental health, and the addiction that ultimately claimed her life. Sidney discusses the complexities of Dottie's struggles with depression, bipolar disorder, and addiction. He speaks candidly about her battle with drugs, and how despite periods of sobriety, Dottie eventually succumbed to her addiction. The episode delves into the layers of grief Sidney has faced, from mourning his sister to navigating life without her. Sidney also shares the challenges of losing a sibling, describing how it feels like losing a part of himself. He reflects on the unique pain of sibling loss and the secondary grief of missing out on future milestones, like his sister not meeting his wife or being there for family moments. In this episode: [00:01:00] – Introduction to Sidney and Dottie [00:03:09] – Growing Up with Dottie: Sibling Rivalry and Bonding [00:06:25] – Dottie's Struggles with Mental Health and Addiction [00:19:10] – Navigating Grief and the Complexity of Addiction [00:29:07] – Dottie's Overdose and the Impact of Her Passing [00:46:00] – Sidney's Reflections on Marriage and Loss [00:55:00] – Sidney's Relationship with His Nieces Post-Dottie [01:00:00] – The Grief Journey: Finding Meaning and Healing This episode is sponsored by The Surviving Siblings Connect with Sidney: Facebook: www.facebook.com/sidsavoie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sidney1kidney?_t=8qaZrPkwv2E&_r=1 Email: sidneysavoie@gmail.com   Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/survivingsiblingspodcast/ Maya's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mayaroffler/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: https://x.com/survivingsibpod Website: thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/TheSurvivingSiblingsPodcast

From being born into a family with Kristi already navigating the challenges of Rett syndrome, Kourtney's story is one of dedication, loss, and profound love. Kristi was born in 1965 with a rare neurological disorder that affects primarily girls, which led her to lose many of her early developmental skills between 6 and 18 months old. The disorder wasn't formally diagnosed in the United States until 1986, so for the first 21 years of Kristi's life, the family had no name for what she was living with. Kourtney, the youngest of five, was seven years behind her siblings and grew up with Kristi already in a group home. Kourtney's relationship with Kristi went beyond that of a typical sibling dynamic. She served as her sister, caregiver, and advocate, navigating the complexities of Kristi's condition and her family's evolving needs. Despite the challenges, Kourtney's memories are filled with light moments and profound connections, like when Kristi laughed at a joke no one thought she would understand, signaling that “she's in there,” a realization that challenged every assumption they'd been told about her mental capabilities. The family finally received a formal diagnosis of Rett syndrome when Kristi was 21, after a neurologist encountered a presentation by Dr. Andreas Rett, the doctor who discovered the syndrome. This brought a mixture of relief and frustration, as it came too late to change the course of Kristi's treatment, but finally gave the family a name for what they had been living with for so many years. Kourtney became heavily involved in the Rett community, both as an advocate and later as a professional, dedicating her life to helping other families and teaching children with Rett syndrome how to communicate through eye gaze technology. In this episode, Kourtney shares her journey through anticipatory grief, the lifelong process of caring for a sibling with Rett syndrome, and the unique pain of losing not just a sister, but the person who shaped her identity. She reflects on how her life and career have been deeply intertwined with Kristi's presence, leading her to work in the Rett community as an advocate and teacher. Kourtney's story is a testament to the enduring bonds of sibling love, the complexities of grief, and the resilience it takes to rebuild a life after such a significant loss. In this episode: (00:00:55) – Introduction to Kourtney's Family Dynamic and Kristi's Early Years (00:10:09) – Understanding Rett Syndrome and the Impact on the Family (00:18:34) – The Evolution of Kourtney's Role from Sister to Caregiver (00:36:42) – Kristi's Communication Breakthrough with Eye Gaze Technology (00:46:39) – The Final Years: Health Declines and the Emotional Toll (00:51:41) – Grieving Kristi's Passing and Finding Purpose in Advocacy This Episode is Sponsored by The Surviving Siblings.  Connect with Kourtney: TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kbjourney75 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kourtney0715/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kourtney.barnum   Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: @survivingsiblingpodcast Maya's Instagram: @mayaroffler TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: @survivingsibpod Website: Thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/TheSurvivingSiblingsPodcast

From childhood memories of Mike singing and dancing to his career as an award-winning blues musician, Ginger's story is one of love, loss, and the challenges of navigating life after such a tragedy. She delves into the complexities of coping with Mike's epilepsy, which played a significant role in his passing, and how their family dynamic shaped her grief process. His unexpected passing in 2019, due to complications from epilepsy, left a profound mark on Ginger's life, as well as on the countless others who were touched by Mike's vibrant presence and musical talents. This episode explores the deep bond between siblings, the layers of grief, and the resilience needed to move forward when the music stops. Ginger paints a vivid picture of her close relationship with Mike, who was nine years younger and someone she not only viewed as a brother but also cared for with maternal instincts. Ginger opens up about the difficulty of dealing with regret, the loss of her family's former dynamic, and the struggle to accept that her parents will never be the same after Mike's death. Yet, through it all, she emphasizes the importance of faith in her healing journey, finding solace and strength in her relationship with God as she navigates life without her brother. Ginger offers an intimate look at how grief evolves over time, how she grappled with the second year of loss, and how the love and memories of Mike continue to inspire her. Her story is a powerful reminder that while we may never truly "move on" from losing a sibling, we can find ways to grow through the pain and cherish the memories that live on. In this episode: (00:03:00) - Ginger's Relationship with Mike (00:20:29) - Coping with Epilepsy and Seizures (00:28:55) - Mike's Music Career and Legacy (00:36:42) - Dealing with the Unexpected Loss (00:51:41) - Support, Faith, and Family Dynamics This Episode is Sponsored by The Surviving Siblings.  Connect with Ginger: TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@gingerdaviesburro Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/butterflyme3 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/gjburroughs   Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: @survivingsiblingpodcast Maya's Instagram: @mayarofflerTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: @survivingsibpod Website: Thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings PodcastYouTube: The Surviving Siblings PodcastPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/TheSurvivingSiblingsPodcast  

In this heartfelt episode, Jackson shares the profound journey of losing his younger sister, Lauren, when he was just 10 years old. Jackson reflects on the unique bond they had, with Lauren's vibrant and fearless personality, and how her sudden death in a tragic bus accident forever changed his family. Jackson opens up about the complex emotions of being the oldest, becoming an only child, and later a big brother again. He also discusses how his family coped with grief and the unique challenges of sibling loss at a young age. Throughout the episode, Jackson shares the evolution of his grief, from the initial stages to his adulthood, and how he continues to navigate it with grace and gentleness. He provides insights into the impact of grief on family dynamics, the complexity of forgiveness, and the importance of creating a community of support. Jackson also touches on his involvement in his family's organization, GrieveWell, which focuses on peer-to-peer support for those navigating loss.   In This Episode: (0:00:24) - A Brother's Reflection on Sibling Loss: Jackson recalls his relationship with his younger sister, Lauren, and the impact her fearless nature had on his life. (0:08:58) - The Day Everything Changed: Jackson recounts the tragic day Lauren passed away in a bus accident and the shock that followed. (0:16:12) - Grief and Growth: Jackson reflects on how he and his family dealt with grief in the years following Lauren's death and the dynamic shift when his younger brother was born. (0:24:57) - Evolving Through Grief: The conversation dives into the lifelong process of grief and how Jackson has experienced it through different life milestones, including preparing for his upcoming wedding.  (0:40:00) - GrieveWell: A Community of Support: Jackson shares about GrieveWell, the nonprofit organization his family created to provide peer-to-peer grief support and its impact on those navigating loss.   To join GrieveWell's community of hope and healing, visit them at: Website: https://www.grievewell.com/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/grievewell/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/grievewell_a2/  Twitter: https://x.com/grievewell?mx=2 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/grievewellannarbor  Connect with Jackson: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/j_stots/ Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/survivingsiblingspodcast/ Maya's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mayaroffler/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@survivingsiblingspodcast  Twitter: https://x.com/survivingsibpod?lang=en Website: https://www.thesurvivingsiblings.com/ Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: https://youtube.com/@thesurvivingsiblingspodcast  Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/TheSurvivingSiblingsPodcast  

In this episode of the Surviving Siblings podcast, host Maya Roffler welcomes sisters Corrie and Brittany Fentress, who bravely share the heart-wrenching story of losing their two sisters, Ashley and Emily, to addiction and suicide. Corrie and Brittany discuss their close-knit family dynamics, the deep bonds they shared as siblings, and the devastating impact of losing not one, but two sisters. They also explore their individual grief journeys, how they have processed these profound losses, and the paths they've taken to honor their sisters' memories.   In This Episode: - (0:01:00) - Corrie and Brittany's Family Background   Corrie and Brittany introduce their family, discussing the dynamic between the four sisters and their childhood memories.   - (0:02:36) - Ashley's Struggles and Turning Point   The sisters talk about Ashley's battle with drugs and mental health following their parents' divorce, including her struggles with heroin addiction and suicide attempts.   - (0:09:57) - The Day of Ashley's Death   Brittany and Corrie recount the tragic day they learned of Ashley's passing, sharing their perspectives and the impact it had on their family.   - (0:18:25) - Processing Ashley's Loss   Brittany reflects on her journey as a twin after losing Ashley, discussing the unique grief associated with twin loss and her struggle to find herself again.   - (0:36:23) - Emily's Battle with Addiction   The conversation shifts to Emily's story, detailing her struggles with addiction, mental health, and the significant losses that influenced her life.   - (0:45:35) - Emily's Final Days   Corrie and Brittany describe Emily's final months, her move to Virginia for treatment, and the tragic day they learned of her death.   - (0:52:18) - Finding Purpose Through Loss   Corrie and Brittany share how their sisters' deaths influenced their careers in mental health and therapy, and how they find meaning in helping others navigate similar challenges.   - (0:55:50) - Supporting Others and Honoring Their Sisters   The sisters discuss the importance of community, support, and taking time to heal, as well as their commitment to honoring Ashley and Emily's memories through their work.   This episode is sponsored by The Surviving Siblings.   Connect with Corrie and Brittany Fentress:   Corrie's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/corriecares/profilecard/?igsh=MXV0dDd5dmlsdWZhYw==   https://www.instagram.com/corriefen?igsh=MW5qc2lweHVoYmk5aA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr   Brittany's Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/QyzcNAXsRmfVcYUw/?mibextid=LQQJ4d   Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: @survivingsiblingpodcast Maya's Instagram: @mayaroffler TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: @survivingsibpod Website: thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/TheSurvivingSiblingsPodcast   Make sure to tune in for this powerful episode and join the conversation about sibling loss, grief, and healing.

In this episode of the Surviving Siblings podcast, host Maya Roffler welcomes Anne Pinkerton, who shares the profound story of her brother David, who tragically passed away after a fall while hiking in Colorado. Anne delves into their unique sibling bond, her grief journey, and the process of writing her book to honor David's adventurous spirit. Tune in to hear about the emotional complexities of sudden loss and the path to healing and remembrance. In This Episode: (0:01:00) - Anne's Family Dynamics Anne discusses her unique family structure and the close relationship she had with her brother David. (0:04:24) - David's Adventurous Spirit Stories of David's love for nature and adventure, including his passion for triathlons and his travels around the globe. (0:09:11) - The Call Anne recounts the harrowing moment she received the call about David being missing and the subsequent days of uncertainty. (0:16:25) - Discovering What Happened Details of how David's body was found and the investigation into his fatal fall while hiking the Colorado 14ers. (0:25:20) - Grieving and Seeking Answers Anne talks about her journey to understand the circumstances of David's death and how she coped with the obsessive need for answers. (0:35:14) - Writing the Book The process and challenges Anne faced in writing her memoir, the significance of sharing David's story, and her decision to pursue an MFA. (0:45:50) - Evolution of Grief Discussion on the different stages of grief and the importance of taking time to heal, including the concept of taking breaks and not rushing the process. (0:57:08) - Finding Community and Support The crucial role of finding community and support in the grieving process, and Anne's involvement in bereavement groups and writing workshops. This episode is sponsored by The Surviving Siblings. Connect with Anne Pinkerton: Website: annepinkertonwriter.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AnnePinkertonWriter Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/annepinkertonwriter/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@annepinkertonwriter Make sure to check out Anne's book HERE: https://a.co/d/7PEK2wn   Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: @survivingsiblingpodcast Maya's Instagram: @mayaroffler TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: @survivingsibpod Website: thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/TheSurvivingSiblingsPodcast

As we draw the curtain on the fifth season of Surviving Siblings, I'm overwhelmed with a mix of emotions, reminiscent of the day I faced my own sibling loss. Sharing this journey with you has magnified the courage it takes to traverse the winding road of grief, and it's clear we've all been walking it together. This finale episode is a heartfelt recap of the season's most impactful stories, from Katie's tribute to her heroic firefighter brother to Stacey's poignant confrontation with domestic violence. I bare my soul, too, as discuss my own personal trials of the past year, including my emotional reunion with my father in Mozambique and my grief experience through a miscarriage. Our conversations throughout the season haven't shied away from the pain—instead, we've embraced it, giving voice to the often-muted experiences of sibling loss. Special guests brought their truths to the table, shedding light on the unique complexities of their grief. From grappling with multiple losses and suicide to the raw authenticity of our discussions, we've started to chip away at the taboo surrounding these conversations. The shared wisdom and hope have been life rafts in the tumultuous sea of bereavement, and I'm honored to have had these guests join us in bringing the stories of the ‘forgotten mourners' into the light. As we close this chapter and look toward the future, the inaugural Surviving Sibling Summit stands as a beacon of our dedication to healing and unity. The overwhelming response and the promise of a sixth season of our podcast are testament to the power and necessity of our shared narratives. I'm more convinced than ever that together, as surviving siblings, we're crafting a legacy of support and remembrance. So, as we part ways for now, remember the resources and open arms awaiting you at thesurvivingsiblings.com, and the unmistakable truth that you are never alone on this path. This Episode is sponsored by The Surviving Siblings Guide. ✨Get The Surviving Siblings Guide HERE: https://www.thesurvivingsiblings.com/store/   In this Episode:  (0:4:40) - Surviving Siblings Season Recap & Highlights (0:31:42) - Grief Timelines and Loss Experiences (0:43:11) - Surviving Sibling Summit (0:51:19) - Personal and Familial Healing Journey (1:05:00) - Healing Conversations With Dad   Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: @survivingsiblingpodcast Maya's Instagram: @mayaroffler TikTok: @survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: @survivingsibpod Website: Thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: The Surviving Siblings Podcast  

How do families navigate the loss and addiction? Join us as Julia, a woman whose life has been intimately shaped by such an ordeal, shares her story with honesty and vulnerability. We traverse through her childhood marred by divorce and alcoholism. The narrative takes a particularly tender turn when reflecting on her younger sister, Rihanna, whose vibrant personality and later struggles with substance abuse paint a bittersweet picture of familial love and the often-hidden battles against addiction. Listen in as we unravel the difficult transitions Rihanna faced, from her high school days marked by self-esteem battles to her college years, where her choice to study social work is revealed to be potentially influenced by her sisters. This candid discussion sheds light on the darker aspects of the party culture at VCU and how it may have contributed to her challenges. The conversation doesn't shy away from the raw emotions that surface when discussing the impact of drug use, Rihanna's untimely termination from her practicum, and the ultimate tragic loss that left an indelible mark on her family.  In this episode: (0:07:51) - Rihanna's College and Lifestyle Journey (0:27:43) - Struggle With Addiction and Family Conflict (0:41:56) - Tragic Death and Family Grief (0:51:15) - Julia's Journey and Narcan Awareness (1:02:25) - Navigating Loss Together   This Episode is sponsored by The Surviving Siblings Guide. ✨Get The Surviving Siblings Guide HERE.   Connect with Julia: Tik Tok | @juliafill Instagram | @itsjuliafill   Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: @survivingsiblingpodcast Maya's Instagram: @mayaroffler TikTok: @survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: @survivingsibpod Website: Thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: The Surviving Siblings Podcast      

Moments of tragedy often bring silent solidarity alongside the pain, and this episode is a testament to that duality. Chelsea recounts the day that altered her reality forever, the instinctive need to protect her family, and the unexpected kindness that can emerge from strangers in our darkest hours. As we traverse through her story, the resounding theme of diverse grief responses within a family unfolds, underscoring the importance of honoring each person's unique path to healing. Navigating the aftermath of a tragedy, such as the vehicular homicide that took her sister Brittany's life, often means confronting anger, seeking justice, and dealing with the invasive eye of the public. Chelsea bravely opens up about these challenges, from grappling with raw emotions to the cathartic release of victim impact statements. Lastly, Chelsea reflects on the delicate balance of supporting each other in relationships while dealing with loss, emphasizing the power of having someone by your side who understands the importance of both the grand and seemingly trivial aspects of mourning. Chelsea's story is a powerful reminder of the resilience that can emerge from shared heartache and the profound unity that can be found even in the depths of loss.   In this episode: (0:03:00) - Brittney's Story (0:20:29) - Diverse Responses to Grief (0:28:55) - Dealing With Vehicular Homicide Impact (0:36:42) - Navigating Justice After Tragedy (0:51:41) - Support and Grief in Relationships   This Episode is sponsored by The Surviving Siblings Guide. ✨Get The Surviving Siblings Guide HERE!   Connect with Chelsea: Facebook | chelsea.mcgrath.564 Instagram | @mcmorg877   Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: @survivingsiblingpodcast Maya's Instagram: @mayaroffler TikTok: @survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: @survivingsibpod Website: Thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: The Surviving Siblings Podcast  

This episode features a poignant conversation with Samantha, exploring her emotional journey through anticipatory grief and healing after losing her brother Chris to cancer. Samantha delves into the complexities of her relationship with Chris, revealing he was her half-brother shortly before his passing, and the impact of his death on her family dynamics and personal grief journey. She shares the evolution of her coping mechanisms over the first and second years post-loss, including journaling, grief support groups, and embracing joy. Samantha reflects on her growth since the loss, challenging the notion that time heals all wounds, but rather, it helps individuals grow with their grief. The conversation highlights how Samantha found a balance between honoring her grief and rediscovering happiness, offering hope and advice to others navigating a similar path. Samantha's story is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit in the face of loss, emphasizing the importance of open communication and support networks, including social media and online groups, for those experiencing anticipatory grief. In this Episode: (06:47) - Chris's Battle with Cancer (08:13) - The Emotional Rollercoaster of Anticipatory Grief (26:29) Navigating the Final Days (37:00) Finding Meaning in Pain (40:35) The Aftermath: Family Dynamics and Secondary Losses   This Episode is sponsored by The Surviving Siblings Guide. ✨Get The Surviving Siblings Guide HERE   Connect with Samantha:  Facebook | samantha.pinca.3 Instagram | @sam_antha80   Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: @survivingsiblingpodcast Maya's Instagram: @mayaroffler TikTok: @survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: @survivingsibpod Website: Thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: The Surviving Siblings Podcast

CONTENT WARNING: Please note that this episode contains depictions and stories of siblings lost by suicide, homicide and/or domestic violence. We understand that some people may find these triggering, activating and/or disturbing. Today's episode features a heartrending discussion with Taylor Taylor, who opens up about the cherished bond with her brother Blake, their shared childhood, and how mental health struggles and external pressures can send life spiraling in unforeseen directions. From her brother Blake's promising start to an abrupt turn into hardship following a run-in with the law, Taylor invites us into the raw emotions of watching a loved one fall into the grips of bipolar disorder. The conversation reveals the stark reality of how external influences and internal turmoil can derail a seemingly promising future, leading us through the nuances of a sibling bond strained by distance, different life paths, and the shadow of mental illness. Taylor courageously recounts Blake's resistance to seeking help, the role stigma played in his battle, and the devastating consequences that unfolded, culminating in his untimely death. The stark reality of such experiences paints a vivid picture of the urgency with which we need to approach mental health issues with openness, care, and an unwavering commitment to understanding. This discussion isn't just a story of despair; it's a beacon for those seeking to understand the nuanced realities of loving someone through their darkest hours.   In this episode: (0:12:43) - Mental Health Struggles (0:23:10) - Unraveling the Downward Spiral (0:27:57) - Navigating Substance Abuse and Mental Health  (0:32:22) - Navigating Mental Health Crisis With Family (1:05:18) - Navigating Grief and Therapy Success   This Episode is sponsored by The Surviving Siblings Guide. ✨Get The Surviving Siblings Guide HERE!   Connect with Taylor: Facebook: Taylor's Facebook   Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: @survivingsiblingpodcast Maya's Instagram: @mayaroffler TikTok: @survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: @survivingsibpod Website: Thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: The Surviving Siblings Podcast

Join us as we welcome Angie to our heartfelt conversation, where she unveils the complex tapestry of her family's experiences with loss, resilience, and the enduring love between siblings. Tragedy strikes in an instant- Angie opens up about the terrifying moment her brother Seth's laughter was replaced by the grip of a grand mal seizure, unveiling an underlying brain tumor. The path of a medical crisis is fraught with challenges, and through Angie's narrative, we delve into the often-overlooked aspects of navigating such a journey—the immediate response, the critical decisions, and the overwhelming financial implications. This episode not only serves as a guide for those facing similar trials but also as an homage to the communal strength we unearth when rallying around a loved one in need.   Angie's story doesn't shy away from the raw, unfiltered sorrow that comes with loss. The passing of her son Garrett, the valiant struggle of her brother against the shadows of cancer, and the final farewell to her husband Jack are recounted with an honesty that resonates with anyone who has faced the abyss of grief. Yet, within the threads of her narrative, a resilience emerges, as Angie chooses hope and perseverance for her daughter Gracie.   In This Episode: (0:11:10) - Seizures and Brain Tumors (0:22:47) - Surviving Multiple Family Tragedies (0:29:21) - Surviving Loss and Choosing Hope (0:34:07) - Family Bonds Through Tragedy   This Episode is sponsored by The Surviving Siblings Guide. ✨Get The Surviving Siblings Guide HERE.    Connect with Angie: Instagram | @butterfliesandhalos Facebook | butterfliesandhalos Website | www.butterfliesandhalos.com   Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: @survivingsiblingpodcast Maya's Instagram: @mayaroffler TikTok: @survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: @survivingsibpod Website: Thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: The Surviving Siblings Podcast

CONTENT WARNING: Please note that this episode contains depictions and stories of siblings lost by suicide, homicide and/or domestic violence. We understand that some people may find these triggering, activating and/or disturbing. When Linda's world was shattered not once, but twice, by the loss of her brothers Micheal and Jeff, she embarked on a quest for healing that not only mended her own spirit but reached out to help others in similar pain. Linda's tale is an echo of the shared human experience, where the sting of overdose and suicide's stigma and the struggle to reconnect with faith intertwine with the raw emotions of grief. As she opens up about the personal battles that followed the loss of her brothers Jeff and Michael, and the family losses and divides that followed. Turning profound sorrow into a mission to support others, Linda's activism in the world of suicide prevention illuminates the podcast episode with hope. Her work creating resources like "Mending Piece by Piece After A Suicide Loss" and her contributions to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention exemplify the transformative power of storytelling and shared experience. As we wrap up our heartfelt dialogue, we recognize that healing is not a solitary endeavor but a road traveled together, with the strength of community to guide us through the ebb and flow of mourning and onward into the light of new beginnings.   In This Episode:  (0:05:06) - Growing up with Micheal and Jeff (0:16:36) - Loss, Intuition, and Grief Recovery (0:30:14) - Handling Suicide Loss (0:38:34) - Navigating Grief and Spiritual Faith (0:51:18) - Family Grief and Loss Discussion   This Episode is sponsored by Linda Falasco. Find out more about Linda Here. You can find her book "Mending Piece by Piece After a Suicide Loss: Guided Grief Workbook & Journal to Heal the Survivor's Heart" HERE.   Connect with Linda: Tik Tok: @mendingpiecebypiece Instagram: @lindafalascolcsw Mending Piece by Piece Podcast: Podcast Streaming Links Book "Mending Piece by Piece After A Suicide Loss":  Amazon  Book "Mending Piece by Piece: A Workbook & Journal for Navigating Grief with Hope": Amazon     Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: @survivingsiblingpodcast Maya's Instagram: @mayaroffler TikTok: @survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: @survivingsibpod Website: Thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: The Surviving Siblings Podcast

CONTENT WARNING: Please note that this episode contains depictions and stories of siblings lost by suicide, homicide and/or domestic violence. We understand that some people may find these triggering, activating and/or disturbing. Join us as we welcome Sarah to share the poignant story of her relationship with her late sister, Jenni, whose life was tragically cut short. Sarah opens up about their upbringing as adopted siblings in Southern California, the unique bond they formed despite not being biologically related, and the deep love that defined their connection. As Sarah reflects on their childhood and the complexities of their adoptive experiences, we're given a glimpse into the affectionate nicknames, Jenni's vivacious spirit, and the underlying struggles that eventually led to her battles with addiction and a heartbreaking loss. In the aftermath of Jenni's passing, Sarah shares the transformative journey of healing, underscored by the challenges and revelations that come with grief. We discuss the power of therapies like EMDR and the unspoken language of companionship offered by pets in times of sorrow. The ripple effects of the opioid crisis are not just statistics here; they are felt in the raw recounting of the investigation into Jenni's final days and the struggle to find closure. Through Sarah's poignant story, we're reminded of our own capacity for resilience in the face of sorrow and the unexpected places where hope can take root. In This Episode: (0:12:07) - Exploring Family Dynamics and Adoption (0:23:52) - Family Intervention and Addiction Recovery  (0:33:14) - Tragic Events Leading to JennyIs Death (0:48:35) - Exploring Grief and Empathy Journeys (0:56:18) - Tragic Fentanyl Overdose Investigation (1:02:25) - The Devastating Impact of Fentanyl    This Episode is sponsored by The Surviving Siblings Guide. ✨Get The Surviving Siblings Guide HERE: https://www.thesurvivingsiblings.com/store/   Connect with Sarah: Instagram: @broadminded TikTok: @KryBaby Facebook: Sarah Fornia    Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: @survivingsiblingpodcast Maya's Instagram: @mayaroffler TikTok: @survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: @survivingsibpod Website: Thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: The Surviving Siblings Podcast    

In this episode, we welcome Laing as she recounts the cherished moments with her sister Ginna and confronts the irony that lay in her professional expertise in medical devices, contrasting sharply with Ginna's untimely death with sleep apnea.  We discuss the transformative power of rituals and creative expression in the face of mourning. Our conversation takes a turn towards finding solace amidst the turmoil of the COVID-19 pandemic, Laing shares her inspiration into nature poetry with "Morning Leaves: Reflections on Loss, Grief, and Connection," and the emotional relief it provided. The talk serves as a gentle reminder of the varied avenues through which we seek comfort, whether through counseling, the arts, or the company of others who have walked similar paths of sorrow and healing. As we conclude the episode, the discussion sheds light on the contrasting experiences of anticipatory grief and sudden loss, emphasizing the unique paths we walk through the wilderness of sorrow.   In This Episode: (0:09:46) - Impact of Sleep Apnea (0:25:27) - Navigating Different Types of Loss (0:35:21) - Creative Outlets for Grief (0:47:10) - Morning Leaves (0:57:06) - Coping Strategies for Stressful Situations    This episode is sponsored by The Surviving Siblings Guide. Find out more here.   Connect with Laing: Instagram: @morning_leaves_and_poet  LinkedIn: Laing Rikkers Facebook: Author Laing Rikkers   Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: @survivingsiblingpodcast Maya's Instagram: @mayaroffler TikTok: @survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: @survivingsibpod Website: Thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: The Surviving Siblings Podcast

CONTENT WARNING: Please note that this episode contains depictions and stories of siblings lost by suicide, homicide and/or domestic violence. We understand that some people may find these triggering, activating and/or disturbing.  Our guest Stacy shares her personal journey with her sister Katie Jo, painting a vivid picture of the nurturing role she assumed in her sister's life and the distance that time and circumstances can create. Stacy's personal reflections lead us through the transformation and tragic ending of her sister's life, underscoring the importance of paying attention to changes in our loved ones' behaviors. We're taken on a heart-rending path, from noticing Katie Jo's growing paranoia to confronting the reality of her untimely death due to domestic violence. Stacy's insights into the significance of victim impact statements, coping with unexpected loss, and the strength found in communities serve as a powerful reminder of the collective journey through sibling loss grief. As we connect over our own stories, we shed light on the importance of advocacy for domestic violence victims and the crucial role of organizations like The Peace Initiative in supporting those in need. Whether it's the cathartic process of writing a eulogy or the collective journey of navigating sibling loss grief together, we reaffirm the value of storytelling and the power of community in the healing process. In This Episode: (0:11:36) - Raising a Sister (0:19:49) - Uncovering Secrets of a Relationship (0:36:26) - Navigating Grief and Domestic Violence (0:55:58) - Discussing Justice for Victims (1:01:54) - Victim's Advocate Statement Importance This Episode is sponsored by P.E.A.C.E Initiative ✨ Find out more Here.    Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: @survivingsiblingpodcast Maya's Instagram: @mayaroffler TikTok: @survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: @survivingsibpod Website: Thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: The Surviving Siblings Podcast

This season begins with a heartfelt tribute by my guest, Katie, to her late brother Patrick, whose dream of firefighting was both his passion and his legacy. As Katie recounts their childhood memories and Patrick's unwavering determination to join the fire service, listeners will be moved by the depth of their sibling bond and the sense of pride and inspiration that Patrick left behind. Katie shares the emotional weight of having a loved one working in a high-risk profession. The raw emotions and powerful stories shared in this conversation highlight the unique and enduring connections that surviving siblings hold, offering solace and understanding to those who have faced similar losses. The episode culminates with a focus on the rites of remembrance and the power of channeling grief into action, exploring the ways in which physical activity, like boxing, can serve as an outlet for the emotional storm within. Join us for a deeply moving journey that not only celebrates the lives of those we've lost but also embraces the therapeutic power of connection through our collective narratives, reminding us that even in the darkest times, we are never alone.  In this Episode: (0:13:40) - Loss of Loved One in Duty (0:19:55) - The Tragic Rescue of Patrick (0:42:38) - Autopsy Results and Fire Incident Discussion  (0:50:30) - Gloves for Grief  This Episode is sponsored by Gloves for Grief ✨ Find out more information about Gloves for Grief: Website | Glovesforgrief.org Youtube | GlovesforGrief Instagram | @glovesforgrief   Connect With Katie: Instagram | @its_katiesue85   Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: @survivingsiblingpodcast Maya's Instagram: @mayaroffler TikTok: @survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: @survivingsibpod Website: Thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: The Surviving Siblings Podcast

Our fourth season has been a profound exploration of grief, particularly focusing on the often overlooked impact it has on siblings and the rebuilding we do throughout our grief journey. Listen in as I, your host, Maya Roffler, share a recap of our heartfelt season four, as well as an update of my personal journey through grief and loss. I share my thoughts on the season and reflect on the profound stories shared by each guest. As we wrap up, I express heartfelt gratitude to you, our supportive listeners, and our guests. Your contributions make the Surviving Siblings podcast more than just a show, but a community.  In this Episode: (0:01:30) - Andreas Story (0:25:47) - Divorce and Loss (0:37:19) - Grief Journey Reflections (0:49:24) - Reflecting on Season 4 For full episode show notes and transcript, click here This Episode is sponsored by The Surviving Siblings Guide. ✨Get The Surviving Siblings Guide HERE. Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: @survivingsiblingpodcast Maya's Instagram: @mayaroffler TikTok: @survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: @survivingsibpod Website: Thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: The Surviving Siblings Podcast  

Dr. Dawn DiRaimondo, a renowned author, Psychologist and surviving sibling, joins us once again to explore the profound journey of healing and connection during the holiday season. Dawn shares the story of her brother Michael's death in combat, their last Christmas conversation, and the subsequent transformation of her family's holiday celebrations. This episode delves into the delicate balance of honoring a lost sibling and managing personal grief. Dawn recounts the unique ways her family commemorated her brother and found solace even amid the holiday cheer. We probe deeper into the often complex dynamics when parents strike a balance between maintaining a semblance of normalcy for their children and managing their grief. Dawn shares her transformative journey as she dedicates life's milestones to her brother's memory, finding unexpected yet meaningful encounters along the way. The episode concludes with a discussion of her book "Surviving Sibling Loss: The Invisible Thread that Connects Us Through Life and Death", a testament to the enduring bonds we share with our loved ones, even in their absence. As we navigate the emotional rollercoaster of sibling loss, grief, and healing during this holiday season, we emanate hope and compassion, gently reminding us that we're not alone.  For full episode show notes and transcript, click here This Episode is sponsored by "Surviving Sibling Loss: The Invisible Thread that Connects Us Through Life and Death" by Dr. Dawn DiRaimondo ✨Get the book HERE In this episode: (0:07:20) - Coping With Grief During the Holidays (0:17:23) - Grief and Honoring Lost Loved Ones (0:36:13) - Empowering Connection and Evolving Grief (0:57:17) - Music and Signs in Grief (1:07:46) - Connecting and Honoring Siblings   Connect with Dawn:  Dawn's Website: drdawndiraimondo.com  Dawn's Book:  "Surviving Sibling Loss: The Invisible Thread that Connects Us Through Life and Death"    Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: @survivingsiblingpodcast Maya's Instagram: @mayaroffler TikTok: @survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: @survivingsibpod Website: Thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: The Surviving Siblings Podcast

Today's episode is a touching tribute to the adventurous spirit of Rocky, Susan Casey's brother who tragically passed away on Valentine's Day 2014. Susan's vivid retelling of Rocky's life and love for exploration, unexpectedly ended at a young age. In the wake of Rocky's death, Susan's life was transformed. She not only found a purpose in her loss but also the courage to live life fully — to honor her beloved brother.  The episode is a profound exploration of the power of grief, the importance of authenticity, and how new relationships can bloom in the aftermath of loss. Following Rocky's death, Susan found a new path, using her personal experiences and her 30-year career in the mental health field to provide precious resources and support for those grappling with the throes of grief. Listen to her valuable insight and get a glimpse of her journey as she unfolded a new chapter in her life. Susan's work is not just a testament to her strength, but a beacon of hope and solace for those navigating the intricate labyrinth of grief and loss. It's about cherishing the lessons and growth that come from pain and finding hope amidst grief.    In this episode we are covering:  (0:00:12) - Rocky's Life and Adventures (0:12:28) - Sibling Grief Support Resources and Support (0:33:10) - Navigating Grief and Honoring Loved Ones (0:46:02) - Finding Support (0:59:11) - Susan's Career   For full episode show notes and transcript, click here This Episode is sponsored by The Surviving Siblings Guide. ✨Get The Surviving Siblings Guide HERE.   Connect with Susan: Susan's Instagram: @Susan.Casey   Susan's Facebook: Susan E Casey  Susan's Podcast: Rock Your Shine  Susan's Website: RockYourShine.com Susan's Book: "Rock On: Mining for Joy in the Deep River of Sibling Grief"    Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: @survivingsiblingpodcast Maya's Instagram: @mayaroffler TikTok: @survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: @survivingsibpod Website: Thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: The Surviving Siblings Podcast    

Every family has its story, and our guest, Laura Weiss, is here to share hers with us. Laura's journey begins with the loss of her brother, Ben, a vibrant individual who was much more to her than just a sibling. Laura opens up about Ben's struggle with Alpha 1 Antitrypsin Deficiency, his addictions, and his life as part of the LGBTQ+ community in a small town. We explore Laura's undulating journey of grief and trauma, her handling of challenging family dynamics, and her experience of setting healthy boundaries while modeling resilience for her children.Discover how she navigated these challenges, never shying away from the reality of her experience, but rather embracing the power of acceptance, forgiveness, and personal growth. In the final segment, Laura brings to light the importance of educating oneself about rare medical conditions like Alpha One. She speaks fondly of how she continues to honor Ben's memory and the unique ways she connects with his spirit. Laura's journey, filled with love and loss, serves as an inspiring testament to the resilience of the human spirit. Let's learn, connect, and grow as we join Laura in recounting her grief journey.   In this episode we are covering: (0:00:06) - Sibling Grief and Shared Memories (0:07:15) - Grief and Trauma in the Journey (0:15:50) - Surviving Siblings and Medical Challenges Guide (0:28:48) - Family Intervention and Losing a Loved One (0:39:51) - Grieving and Educating About Alpha One (0:47:22) - Importance of Therapy in Grief Journey (0:56:42) - Family Dynamics and Setting Boundaries   This Episode is sponsored by The Surviving Siblings Guide. ✨Get The Surviving Siblings Guide HERE. For full episode show notes and transcript, click here   Connect with Laura:  Laura's Email | lweissefa@gmail.com   Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: @survivingsiblingpodcast Maya's Instagram: @mayaroffler TikTok: @survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: @survivingsibpod Website: Thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: The Surviving Siblings Podcast

CONTENT WARNING: Please note that this episode contains depictions and stories of siblings lost by suicide, homicide and/or domestic violence. We understand that some people may find these triggering, activating and/or disturbing. Leigh first took on the role of her sister's caretaker when Beth experienced a tragic car accident at 16. Beth's accident caused a traumatic brain injury and she never recovered to be the same. The accident affected Beth's reasoning and she was eventually thrust back into the teenage world of partying and drugs during her recovery leading to a 25 year battle with addiction. In this episode, we delve deeper into the process of grieving and healing, discussing how Leigh was able to confront and work through the guilt and anger that arose after her sister's death. We also discuss the impact of Beth's life and death on Leigh's children, and how she helped them confront grief. We conclude with an exploration of how such experiences can reshape the dynamics and bonds within a family, underlining the power and resilience of sibling relationships. In this episode we are covering: (0:00:06) - Beth's Story (0:11:51) - Effects of Fentanyl (0:25:42) - Navigating Guilt & Anger (0:42:03) - Sibling Bonds Before and After Death This Episode is sponsored by The Surviving Siblings Guide. ✨Get The Surviving Siblings Guide HERE For full episode show notes and transcript, click here   Connect with Leigh: Leigh's Facebook: Leigh Smith Leigh's Instagram: @leighwsmith5    Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: @survivingsiblingpodcast Maya's Instagram: @mayaroffler TikTok: @survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: @survivingsibpod Website: Thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: The Surviving Siblings Podcast

CONTENT WARNING: Please note that this episode contains depictions and stories of siblings lost by suicide, homicide and/or domestic violence. We understand that some people may find these triggering, activating and/or disturbing. How can you grapple with the devastating pain of losing a sibling to addiction and transform it into a beacon of strength? Emily's older brother Peter was a quintessential jokester with a magnetic personality that knew no bounds. But behind the mask, he waged a war against depression that led him down a spiraling path of opioid addiction. Emily reveals the deeply personal of her family's battle with addiction, the impact of her parents' divorce on Peter, and the crippling belief he held that he was the cause of their separation. The episode further traverses the rocky terrain of coping with loss and grief. Emily shares the confusion she felt at trying to deal with such a loss at only 13 and the need to feel like a normal teenager. This conversation takes an introspective turn as Emily discusses her decision to enlist in the military in honor of Peter's once shared dreams. The therapy, discovery of her ADHD, and the supportive leadership proved to be a transformative experience for her. Emily carries her brother's values and legacy in her life as a testament to his influence. Laced with an exploration of the opioid crisis, Emily's story is a powerful reminder of the complexities of grief, the importance of communication, and the lasting legacy of a loved one. In this episode we are covering: (0:18:27) - Family Struggles With Addiction (0:29:58) - The Impact of a Tragic Loss at 13 (0:36:15) - Funeral Planning and Seeking Normalcy (0:44:54) - Impact and Legacy of a Loved One (0:50:01) - Multiple Losses and Coping With Grief (1:04:39) - Military and Therapy   This Episode is sponsored by The Surviving Siblings Guide. ✨Get The Surviving Siblings Guide HERE  For full episode show notes and transcript, click here   Connect with Emily:  Emily's Facebook: Emily Heim Emily's Linkedin: Emily Heim   Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: @survivingsiblingpodcast Maya's Instagram: @mayaroffler TikTok: @survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: @survivingsibpod Website: Thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: The Surviving Siblings Podcas

CONTENT WARNING: Please note that this episode contains depictions and stories of siblings lost by suicide, homicide and/or domestic violence. We understand that some people may find these triggering, activating and/or disturbing. Meet Jordon Ferber, a surviving sibling who's traversed the labyrinth of loss through a mix of tender reflection, candid conversations, and a dash of humor. Jordon recounts the larger-than-life story of his younger brother Russell - an inspiring young man who managed to charm the New York Knicks at the tender age of 13. Jordon shares the story of Russell's exciting life throughout the celebrity chef world and is burning passion that kept him succeeding.    In this episode, Jordon and I unpack the surreal moments at the morgue, the unexpected triggers that bring memories flooding back, and our unique paths through the darkest times. From scattering ashes in favorite places, to getting tattoos in remembrance, we find solace and sometimes even humor in the rituals of grief. We also confront societal norms around male grief, challenging the damaging stereotype of men 'rubbing dirt in it and getting back out there'. Jordon also shares his experiences with Compassionate Friends, a peer support network that played a crucial role in his grief journey. Join us for this touching, inspiring, and even occasionally humorous exploration of sibling loss.   In the episode we're covering: (0:13:45) - Surviving Siblings Bond and Share Memories (0:25:51) - Coping With Tragic News and Loss (0:29:45) - Grief, Family, and Unexpected Moments (0:38:27) - Grieving and Finding Humor in Mourning (0:55:37) - Compassionate Friends in Grief Journey (1:11:29) - Breaking Societal Stereotypes of Male Grief   This Episode is sponsored by The Surviving Siblings Guide. ✨Get The Surviving Siblings Guide HERE  For full episode show notes and transcript, click here   Connect with Jordon: Jordon's Instagram: @beatniknudnik Facebook: Where's The Grief  Instagram: @wheresthegrief Twitter: @wheresthegrief Facebook: Russell Ferber Foundation Instagram: @RussellFerberFoundation    Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: @survivingsiblingpodcast Maya's Instagram: @mayaroffler TikTok: @survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: @survivingsibpod Website: Thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: The Surviving Siblings Podcast  

CONTENT WARNING: Please note that this episode contains depictions and stories of siblings lost by suicide, homicide and/or domestic violence. We understand that some people may find these triggering, activating and/or disturbing. For years Christine answered multiple ‘goodbye calls' from her brother Pete. Finding him in the midst of attempted suicides. Their family supported him through life changes, diagnosis and therapies but in the end, he was unable to fight the illness.  In this episode, we discuss the emotions that come with being the support person to a loved one with mental health issues during their ups and downs. How Christine faced the “what if” questions that come along with grief after suicide loss. We also have an important discussion on mental health and stigma that surrounds it.  In this episode we are covering: (00:03:50) - Depression throughout Peter's life (00:33:00) - Peter's last days (00:43:42) - Understanding his last moments (00:48:00) - Society's view Mental Health   This Episode is sponsored by The Surviving Siblings Guide. ✨Get The Surviving Siblings Guide HERE  For full episode show notes and transcript, click here   Connect with Christine: Christine's Instagram: @christinebee33 Christine's Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/christine.bartlett3   Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: @survivingsiblingpodcast Maya's Instagram: @mayaroffler TikTok: @survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: @survivingsibpod Website: Thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: The Surviving Siblings Podcast      

CONTENT WARNING: Please note that this episode contains depictions and stories of siblings lost by suicide, homicide and/or domestic violence. We understand that some people may find these triggering, activating and/or disturbing. Lori always saw herself as her brother, Brian's protector and still fills that role after his death, preserving his story and legacy. Lori took on the responsibility of taking a first look a Brian's stolen car, of what she thought at the time was his murder weapon. Next to taking the lead in planning his day of celebration and staying an active part of his subsequent murder investigation.  In this episode, Lori shares her understanding of the legal proceedings, the emotional exhaustion that accompanies them, and the importance of preserving Brian's legacy. Lori shares her journey through therapists and how her now grief coach has helped address her anger. We touch on Lori's plans to give back by becoming a certified court-appointed special advocate for foster children. We also discuss the importance of being self-aware and managing emotions, especially within your family.  This Episode is sponsored by The Surviving Siblings Guide. ✨Get The Surviving Siblings Guide HERE For full episode show notes and transcript, click here   In this episode we are covering: (0:00:00) - Sharing Stories of Sibling Loss (0:14:06) - Uncovering a Murder Investigation (0:26:19) - Navigating Grief and Protecting Sibling's Story (0:51:06) - Finding the Right Therapist (0:56:37) - Legal Process and Victim Impact Statements   Connect with Lori:  Lori's Instagram: @LoriLuna   Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: @survivingsiblingpodcast Maya's Instagram: @mayaroffler TikTok: @survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: @survivingsibpod Website: Thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: The Surviving Siblings Podcast

CONTENT WARNING: Please note that this episode contains depictions and stories of siblings lost by suicide, homicide and/or domestic violence. We understand that some people may find these triggering, activating and/or disturbing. Kayleigh was 15 years old when her 11 year old brother, Vince, passed by what was thought to be suicide. The event not only caused the loss of her best friend and brother but also the relationship with her father as they cast blame on each other. In this episode, Kayleigh takes us through the aftermath of tragic incidents, the search for truth, and the blame that follows. With her mother's unfaltering support, she learns to cope with the loss and most importantly not blame herself. Kayleigh's story serves as a potent reminder of the unique nature of grief, and the importance of healing and self-care.  This Episode is sponsored by The Surviving Siblings Guide. ✨Get The Surviving Siblings Guide HERE: https://www.thesurvivingsiblings.com/store/ For full episode show notes and transcript, click here   Connect with Kayleigh:  Kayleigh's Instagram: @Kayleigh821   Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: @survivingsiblingpodcast Maya's Instagram: @mayaroffler TikTok: @survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: @survivingsibpod Website: Thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: The Surviving Siblings Podcast

Elizabeth opens up about her family's profound struggle when her brother, Ted, was diagnosed with rare blood disorder aplastic anemia. Their innocent childhood turned into a harsh reality as Ted spent eight years in a laminar air flow room at the National Institutes of Health. Elizabeth recounts their childhood inside the hospital, his illness, and the impact his sudden death had on each family member.  In this episode, Elizabeth highlights Ted's positive attitude despite being unable to leave a hospital room or protective suit. Elizabeth also shares her journey to understand the grief she experienced at such a young hand. This discussion brings to light the often-overlooked impact of sibling loss, and the importance of recognizing and processing grief. Through the experiences of 77 siblings Elizabeth interviewed for her book, "The Empty Room: Understanding Sibling Loss”, she uncovers the common themes and understanding within this unique grief experience. We discuss the gradual shift in understanding from the dated idea of 'getting over' loss to the more complex concept of maintaining continuing bonds with the deceased. The conversation concludes with Elizabeth's reflections on her parents' reactions to her writing a book about her experience.    For full episode show notes and transcript, click here   This Episode is sponsored by The Surviving Siblings Guide. ✨Get The Surviving Siblings Guide HERE In the episode I'm covering:   (0:00:01) - Ted's eight years in a hospital (0:11:36) - The Journey of a Rare Disease (0:22:08) - Mediums, Grief, and Writing a Book (0:28:07) - Sibling Loss and Grief Complexity (0:44:12) - Family, Loss, and Identity   Connect with Elizabeth:    Website: FindingTedDevita.com Elizabeth's Email: DevitaRaeburn@gmail.com  - Please put ‘sibling loss' in the subject line. Elizabeth's Facbook: Elizabeth.devitaraeburn Elizabeth's Book: The Empty Room: Understanding Sibling Loss   Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: @survivingsiblingpodcast Maya's Instagram: @mayaroffler TikTok: @survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: @survivingsibpod Website: Thesurvivingsiblings.com  

It's hard to believe that we are wrapping up Season Three, and Maya is back for her recap of the season. Maya will be discussing her personal takeaways from each guest as well as give recommendations for particular episodes depending on your own grief journey. Maya is also sharing where she is in her grief journey six and a half years after losing her brother to a homicide. She is excited to share her epiphanies over the past six months and some key takeaways from her continuing grief journey. Something she feels extremely passionate about is allowing us to feel our emotions, pain, anger, depression and whatever else may come on this journey with you. Maya also thanks her sponsors for the season - SibsForever.org - We could not have done this season without you. Thank you! Maya also thanks her episode sponsors - Janice Jernigan - Author of "Opening Up to Grief" and Nickky Wise Neff, Founder of https://www.saitada.org/ And thank YOU, for continuing to listen and support our show! Season 3 is brought to you by SibsForever.org, a virtual platform to commemorate and honor your sibling relationship. Create your free profile and start building beautiful commemorative web pages that can include photo and video galleries featuring you and your sibling. Connect with Maya: Website | https://www.thesurvivingsiblings.com/ Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/survivingsiblingspodcast/ TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@survivingsiblingspodcast Facebook Group | https://www.facebook.com/groups/1112887292632251 YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@thesurvivingsiblingspodcast Patreon | https://www.patreon.com/TheSurvivingSiblingsPodcast Twitter | https://twitter.com/survivingsibpod ✨Get The Surviving Siblings Guide and Merch HERE✨ https://www.thesurvivingsiblings.com/store/

Preston grew up in the shadow of his older brother, Colin. When Preston was in college, Colin decided to go in the military, in part to escape the lifestyle he was living, but being in the military and going on two tours had taken a toll on Colin, and he ended up passing due to a drug overdose.  Preston got the dreaded call while he was at work. As soon as he made it home, he broke down. All he wanted to do was to be with his wife and kids, but his family also needed him. As part of his grief journey, he wanted to challenge himself in new ways while also honoring Colin, so he decided to paint every day for 365 days and make a documentary about it.  In this week's episode, Preston is sharing his story and Colin's story, how life was for Colin after he came back from two military tours, how it was for Preston after he received the call, why grieving for men is sometimes different for men, and how creating art out of our grief or using art therapy can help surviving siblings. Season 3 is brought to you by SibsForever.org, a virtual platform to commemorate and honor your sibling relationship. Create your free profile and start building beautiful commemorative web pages that can include photo and video galleries featuring you and your sibling. In this episode I'm covering: Intro [00:00:00] Preston and Colin's story [00:02:03] Coming back from tour [00:10:45] Getting The Call [00:22:59] The days after Colin's passing [00:34:49] The Art of Grieving - Honoring Colin [00:42:48] Grieving as a male [00:50:14] Creating out of grief [01:01:38] How art therapy can help surviving siblings [01:09:45] For full episode show notes and transcript, click here Connect with Preston Instagram | @prestonzeller YouTube | Zellerhaus Art Documentary | The Art of Grieving Website | ZellerHaus Art   Connect with Maya  Website | The Surviving Siblings  Instagram | @survivingsiblingspodcast | @mayaroffler  TikTok | @survivingsiblingspodcast Facebook Group | The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube | The Surviving Siblings Podcast  Patreon | The Surviving Siblings Podcast Twitter | @survivingsibpod ✨Get The Surviving Siblings Guide HERE✨

Rachel lost her little brother Aaron in a motorcycle accident in 2002. She was really close to him, as he was the only full brother and her sibling that she shared a childhood with, so receiving the call was a heartbreaking and pivotal moment in her life.  The first few weeks after Aaron passed were a blur for her. Rachel felt a mix of emotions, because everyone expected her to be strong for her parents and to deal with all the funeral arrangements for her brother. Two months after Aaron's death, she felt desperate as she couldn't control the fact that Aaron had died. She was trying to fix her grief, which led her to attend her first group meeting at one of The Compassionate Friends chapters in Atlanta. In this week's episode, Rachel shares about her and Aaron's story, the before and after of receiving the call that changed her life, and how she has been dealing with her grief. Rachel also talks about how she doesn't resonate with the words “acceptance” or “closure”, so she prefers to acknowledge her brother's death. Season 3 is brought to you by SibsForever.org, a virtual platform to commemorate and honor your sibling relationship. Create your free profile and start building beautiful commemorative web pages that can include photo and video galleries featuring you and your sibling. In this episode I'm covering: Intro [00:00:00] Rachel and Aaron's story [00:01:38] The Call [00:03:54] Dealing with grief after Aaron's death [00:07:26] Family dynamics after Aaron passed [00:22:40] The Compassionate Friends [00:33:11] Acknowledging Aaron's passing [00:40:06] Being a facilitator in The Compassionate Friends [00:47:13] Advice for Surviving Siblings [00:54:38] For full episode show notes and transcript, click here Connect with The Compassionate Friends Website | The Compassionate Friends Non-Profit Organization for Grief Find your local chapter of The Compassionate Friends   Connect with Maya  Website | The Surviving Siblings  Instagram | @survivingsiblingspodcast | @mayaroffler  TikTok | @survivingsiblingspodcast Facebook Group | The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube | The Surviving Siblings Podcast  Patreon | The Surviving Siblings Podcast Twitter | @survivingsibpod ✨Get The Surviving Siblings Guide HERE✨

Aletha was only 9 years old when her brother Brett passed. Even though they were 9 years apart, they were very close. Aletha and Brett spent a lot of time on the tracks since Brett started racing at a very young age. Racing was Brett's passion. In 2007, Brett was coming back home from an all-night race when he fell asleep behind the wheel crashing his car. Unfortunately, he died as a result of this accident. The days after her brother passed were very overwhelming for Aletha and she became even closer to her father and even more distant from her mother. In this week's episode, Aletha shares what it was like growing up with her older brother Brett, how it was for her and her family the days after her brother's accident, how she and her father have navigated Brett's loss, and how she has embraced and moved through her emotions. She openly shares with us how she has navigated her grief journey.  Season 3 is brought to you by SibsForever.org, a virtual platform to commemorate and honor your sibling relationship. Create your free profile and start building beautiful commemorative web pages that can include photo and video galleries featuring you and your sibling. In this episode I'm covering: Intro [00:00:00] Aletha and Brett's story [00:01:54] Finding out Brett was gone [00:09:54] The days after Brett's accident [00:15:40] Family dynamics [00:22:48] Aletha and her father navigate the loss [00:30:59] Sharing Brett's story with her fiancee [00:37:50] Remembering her brother [00:43:07] Finding support in her grief journey [00:46:08] Embracing and moving through her emotions [00:52:25] Advice for younger Aletha [00:54:54] For full episode show notes and transcript, click here Connect with Aletha Instagram | @aletha_laughlin Twitter | @almariee16 Facebook | Aletha Laughlin   Connect with Maya  Website | The Surviving Siblings  Instagram | @survivingsiblingspodcast | @mayaroffler  TikTok | @survivingsiblingspodcast Facebook Group | The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube | The Surviving Siblings Podcast  Patreon | The Surviving Siblings Podcast Twitter | @survivingsibpod ✨Get The Surviving Siblings Guide HERE✨

CONTENT WARNING: Please note that this episode contains depictions and stories of siblings lost by suicide, homicide and/or domestic violence. We understand that some people may find these triggering, activating and/or disturbing. Angela is the oldest sibling of five children and she became a surviving sibling 20 years ago when her brother Nicky passed. Nicky's story begins after he was in a severe car accident and developed an addiction from being on strong medications for pain. He was in and out of rehab a few times until one day Angela received “the call”, where a police officer informed her that her brother had passed. Years after losing Nicky, she was coming back from a camping trip and received the second call, where they told her she had suddenly lost her second sibling, Steven, to a heart attack.  Angela's most recent loss is her sister Cindy. Angela lost Cindy due to a fentanyl overdose. Like Nicky, Cindy was in and out of rehab and she was trying to put her life back together again. She was trying to make better choices for herself and her children. Unfortunately, she took fentanyl without knowing and overdosed. In this week's episode, Angela shares how her family was growing up, how her siblings have struggled with drug use, her story with Nicky, Steven, and Cindy, how becoming a surviving sibling has affected her, and the lessons she has learned from such a long grief journey. Season 3 is brought to you by SibsForever.org, a virtual platform to commemorate and honor your sibling relationship. Create your free profile and start building beautiful commemorative web pages that can include photo and video galleries featuring you and your sibling. In this episode I'm covering: Intro [00:00:00] Angela and Nicky's story [00:02:45]  Giving news to her children [00:13:23] Angela's and Steven story [00:16:56]  Angela and Cindy's story [00:26:12]  Getting "The Call" [00:40:41] Family dynamics and more loss [00:51:08]  Cindy's cause of death [00:55:14] Bringing awareness to the fentanyl epidemic [00:57:34] Advice for other surviving siblings [01:03:50] For full episode show notes and transcript, click here Connect with Angela Facebook | Angela Kusch   Connect with Maya  Website | The Surviving Siblings  Instagram | @survivingsiblingspodcast | @mayaroffler  TikTok | @survivingsiblingspodcast Facebook Group | The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube | The Surviving Siblings Podcast  Patreon | The Surviving Siblings Podcast Twitter | @survivingsibpod ✨Get The Surviving Siblings Guide HERE✨

All surviving siblings have a different story. Chelsey and Clint were inseparable when they were kids, most of the time they were by themselves because their father was in and out of the picture and their mother was a single mom, working two jobs to provide for them. Chelsey was about to graduate and was looking forward to having her brother at her graduation, so when she received “the call”, she couldn't believe her brother had passed in a mountain climbing accident.  In this week's episode, Chelsey shares about her and Clint's story growing up, how she found out that he had been in a mountain climbing accident, her relationship with mom and dad after Clint passed, what she did to look for answers in her brother's death, how she sought and offered support to other surviving siblings and what she has done to honor her brother Clint. Season 3 is brought to you by SibsForever.org, a virtual platform to commemorate and honor your sibling relationship. Create your free profile and start building beautiful commemorative web pages that can include photo and video galleries featuring you and your sibling. In this episode I'm covering: Intro [00:00:00] Chelsey and Clint's story [00:02:13] The knock on the door that changed her life [00:07:16] Family dynamics after Clint's death [00:14:42] Looking for answers [00:20:19] Seeking support for Surviving Siblings [00:28:23] Supporting other surviving siblings [00:36:06] Honoring Clint [00:41:44] Finding a therapist [01:02:54] Advice for Surviving Siblings [01:06:22] For full episode show notes and transcript, click here Connect with Chelsey Instagram | @chelseym07 Facebook | Chelsey McHale Listen to Haunted by Chelsey McHale   Connect with Maya  Website | The Surviving Siblings  Instagram | @survivingsiblingspodcast | @mayaroffler  TikTok | @survivingsiblingspodcast Facebook Group | The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube | The Surviving Siblings Podcast  Patreon | The Surviving Siblings Podcast Twitter | @survivingsibpod ✨Get The Surviving Siblings Guide HERE✨

CONTENT WARNING: Please note that this episode contains depictions and stories of siblings lost by suicide, homicide and/or domestic violence. We understand that some people may find these triggering, activating and/or disturbing. There's a lot to unpack in Nickky's sibling loss journey. First she lost her big brother Glennn who committed suicide, then she lost her older sister Lisa in a car accident, and most recently her brother Alexander to a homicide. The most challenging thing for Nickky has been letting go of the guilt that has come with every loss. She felt so alone in her grief journey, that she decided to found Saitada, an organization that helps with grief and loss support to those that have lost their siblings, or their parents to either cancer, homicide or suicide. In this week's episode, Nickky shares about her family dynamics before her brothers and sister passed, how she has moved forward in her grief journey, what made her found Saitada, what a grief doula is and how she decided to start getting educated to become one, and she also shares some advice to younger surviving siblings. Episode sponsored by Saitada, an organization that provides support to those that have lost their siblings or parents to homicide, suicide and cancer.  Season 3 is brought to you by SibsForever.org, a virtual platform to commemorate and honor your sibling relationship. Create your free profile and start building beautiful commemorative web pages that can include photo and video galleries featuring you and your sibling. In this episode I'm covering: Intro [00:00:00] Family dynamics [00:02:08] Nickky and Glen's story [00:06:58] What happened after “The Call” [00:14:50] Losing Lisa unexpectedly [00:24:58] Losing Alexander to homicide [00:33:44] No one wanted to take care of anything [00:53:18] The story of Saitada [00:58:09] Death doulas [01:05:57} Advice for Younger surviving Siblings[01:09:10] For full episode show notes and transcript, click here Connect with Nickky Facebook | Nickky Neff Facebook | Saitada Instagram | @saitada_grief_loss_support Instagram | @crzredhead Connect with Maya  Website | The Surviving Siblings  Instagram | @survivingsiblingspodcast | @mayaroffler  TikTok | @survivingsiblingspodcast Facebook Group | The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube | The Surviving Siblings Podcast  Patreon | The Surviving Siblings Podcast Twitter | @survivingsibpod ✨Get The Surviving Siblings Guide HERE✨

Judy Lipson is the middle of three sisters. She became a surviving sibling when she lost her younger sister Jane in a car accident. Nine years later, she lost her sister Margie, who had been fighting bulimia and anorexia for over two decades. Judy decided to honor her sisters by starting a fundraiser for Mass General Hospital, where she helped raise over $80,000 in a decade. After that, she decided to put it on paper and wrote her book Celebration of Sisters: It Is Never Too Late to Grieve In this week's episode, Judy and Maya talk about how it was for Judy when she lost Jane and Margie, how she deals with the dreaded question of how many siblings does she have, how she's moving forward in her grief journey, what inspired to write her book, and how she felt when her grandson was born. Season 3 is brought to you by SibsForever.org, a virtual platform to commemorate and honor your sibling relationship. Create your free profile and start building beautiful commemorative web pages that can include photo and video galleries featuring you and your sibling. In this episode I'm covering: Intro [00:00:00] Judy, Jane, and Margie's story [00:01:23] Losing Jane [00:08:46] Losing Margie [00:16:26] Handling the question “how many siblings do you have?” [00:21:39] Judy's grief journey [00:28:10] Honoring Margie and Jane [00:34:57] Celebration of sisters [00:40:31] New life, triggering grief [00:48:25] Advice for younger Judy [00:51:36] For full episode show notes and transcript, click here Connect with Judy Facebook | Judy Lipson Instagram | @celebofsisters Linkedin | Judy Lipson Book | Celebration of Sisters: It Is Never Too Late to Grieve   Connect with Maya  Website | The Surviving Siblings  Instagram | @survivingsiblingspodcast | @mayaroffler  TikTok | @survivingsiblingspodcast Facebook Group | The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube | The Surviving Siblings Podcast  Patreon | The Surviving Siblings Podcast Twitter | @survivingsibpod ✨Get The Surviving Siblings Guide HERE✨

Janice Jernigan lost her sister Julie when she was 3 years old, and this major loss ignited a cascade of secondary losses. Janice lost the opportunity of sharing milestones with her sister, receiving advice from her growing up and even beauty tricks. Janice tried to hold on to her sister Julie through many ways, and it emerged in her relationships, and eventually in her body. These are some of the reasons she decided to write her book Opening Up to Grief: A Surviving Sibling's Journey with Loss and Love. In this week's episode, Janice and Maya talk about how it was growing as an only child, knowing that she had an older sister, what was life for her while she moved through it without opening up to her grief or experiencing her grief journey, and how comparison can be the biggest thief of grief. They also talk about stories from Janice's book in detail. Episode sponsored by Janice Jernigan, author of Opening Up to Grief: A Surviving Sibling's Journey with Loss and Love. Season 3 is brought to you by SibsForever.org, a virtual platform to commemorate and honor your sibling relationship. Create your free profile and start building beautiful commemorative web pages that can include photo and video galleries featuring you and your sibling. In this episode I'm covering: Intro [00:00:00] Growing up with grief [00:02:37] Multiple losses when losing a sibling [00:12:12] Holding onto Julie [00:18:01] Janice's grief manifesting [00:26:07] Life after high school [00:33:00] Releasing your grief [00:35:18] Comparing herself to her “perfect” sister [00:41:34] Grief showing up in her body [00:46:57]  Comparison, the thief of grief [00:59:11] Advice for parents of surviving siblings [01:04:58] Connecting over sunflowers [01:14:43] For full episode show notes and transcript, click here  Connect with Janice Jernigan Instagram | @innertrailblazer | @janicejernigan Janice's Book | Opening Up to Grief: A Surviving Sibling's Journey with Loss and Love   Connect with Maya  Website | The Surviving Siblings  Instagram | @survivingsiblingspodcast | @mayaroffler  TikTok | @survivingsiblingspodcast Facebook Group | The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube | The Surviving Siblings Podcast  Patreon | The Surviving Siblings Podcast Twitter | @survivingsibpod ✨Get The Surviving Siblings Guide HERE✨

CONTENT WARNING: Please note that this episode contains depictions and stories of siblings lost by suicide, homicide and/or domestic violence. We understand that some people may find these triggering, activating and/or disturbing. Maggie Bauer lost her brother Chris by suicide, it has been 10 years and it still hurts that her brother is no longer on this earth. She knows that her grief journey is going to last a lifetime, and recognizes that the most challenging thing of all is advocating for yourself. Maggie decided to become a grief recovery specialist, and this has given her more language and understanding of how to take steps and move through her grief journey, and she has helped people understand the meaning behind grief, feelings and physical experiences. In this week's episode, Maggie will be sharing her and Chris's story, why you should treat therapy as dating and what questions to ask your therapist to ensure that they are going to help you and give you tools to move through your grief journey, the difficulties that she has, how she has honored Chris and the advice she has for surviving siblings and for her younger self Season 3 is brought to you by SibsForever.org, a virtual platform to commemorate and honor your sibling relationship. Create your free profile and start building beautiful commemorative web pages that can include photo and video galleries featuring you and your sibling. In this episode I'm covering: Intro [00:00:00] Maggie and Chris' story [00:01:18] The missing piece of the puzzle [00:08:15] Maggie receives “The Call” [00:14:31] Giving yourself grace and finding the right therapist [00:23:03] Difficulties in Maggie's grief journey [00:33:42] Becoming a certified grief recovery specialist [00:37:52] Honoring Chris [00:44:55] Changing the language around suicide [00:54:49] Advice for younger Maggie and for surviving siblings [01:01:34] For full episode show notes and transcript, click here Connect with Maggie Bauer Email | MBGriefRecovery@outlook.com  Website | www.MBGriefRecovery.info    Connect with Maya  Website | The Surviving Siblings  Instagram | @survivingsiblingspodcast | @mayaroffler  TikTok | @survivingsiblingspodcast Facebook Group | The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube | The Surviving Siblings Podcast  Patreon | The Surviving Siblings Podcast Twitter | @survivingsibpod ✨Get The Surviving Siblings Guide HERE✨

Welcome to season 3 of the Surviving Siblings podcast. We are starting this season with a returning guest and season sponsor, Audree Kropen from SibsForever. Audree's story is an interesting one, make sure you go back to Episode 4 and Episode 5 from Season 2.  In this week's episode, Audree returns to talk about her granddaughter, Brenna, who is also a surviving sibling. Audree shares how she has supported Brenna in her grief journey and becoming a surviving sibling, what well sibling syndrome is and how it shows up in her granddaughter, how therapy has helped with Hayden's death, how Brenna found a way to honor her brother through music, and what's coming next for SibsForever.org Season 3 is brought to you by SibsForever.org, a virtual platform to commemorate and honor your sibling relationship. Create your free profile and start building beautiful commemorative web pages that can include photo and video galleries featuring you and your sibling. In this episode I'm covering: Intro [00:00:00] Audree's story recap [00:02:18] Well sibling syndrome [00:07:26] Brenna's story [00:09:18] How Brenna's story differs from Audree's story [00:16:32] Brenna's experience with therapy [00:19:54] Struggling with Survivor's Guilt [00:24:21] Honoring her brother through music [00:30:26] Brenna's SibsForever.org site [00:33:47] Next steps for SibsForever.org [00:38:43] Exploring different artistic mediums for Brenna [00:45:30] Letter to Robin [00:50:33] For full episode show notes and transcript, click here  Connect with Audree Kropen Website | Sibs Forever COMING SOON | onlineresources.org Facebook | Sibs Forever Instagram | @sibs.forever TikTok | @Sibs.forever Twitter | sibsforever   Connect with Maya  Website | The Surviving Siblings  Instagram | @survivingsiblingspodcast | @mayaroffler  TikTok | @survivingsiblingspodcast Facebook Group | The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube | The Surviving Siblings Podcast  Patreon | The Surviving Siblings Podcast Twitter | @survivingsibpod   ✨Get The Surviving Siblings Guide HERE✨