The Relationship Breakthrough Show with Matt & Rebeca

Have you ever wondered why your relationship is hard work… like WAY harder than it should really be. Are relationships intrinsically just difficult, or are we missing some important points that could open things up RIGHT NOW? Sharon Strimling is a transformational coach and consultant who brings over three decades of experience to the fields of psychological, physical, and relational transformation. And today we're going to be having the benefit of her experience and wisdom. We are going to be looking at: - How we may not have had the best role models or instruction in terms of understanding how to have great relationships, and the impact this has - How our perception is affected by our conditioning and experience and how this shapes how we relate to the world around us, and why we might consider holding those perceptions lightly - How we can regulate our emotions when they are ‘shaken up', and how lots of what we've learnt may not help - How to make sense of our moods and those of our partner, ensuring that we have the space to manage our state - How we can live from a place of deeper connection when we are not getting in the way, giving us access to far great resources and possibilities You can find out more about Sharon's work here: https://sharonstrimling.com/

Alcohol is embedded in our culture… not just the high spirits in your town centre on a Friday night, but virtually any social or work event that you can attend. So if everyone is doing it, what could possibly go wrong, right? And how about in your relationship? Have you ever done anything while drinking that you regretted, even something that harmed your relationship? Where is the line between a bit of harmless fun, and a habit that could lead to real issues for you and in your relationship? Is there a healthy level of alcohol which could be beneficial for us? Sammie Clarke is an alcohol detox coach who has worked in addiction for 25 years, having worked with literally thousands of people on the journey to freedom! We are going to be looking at: - How does alcohol consumption affect relationships, especially when there are challenges - What exactly is Alcohol Use Disorder, and how do people get affected by alcohol differently even with the same consumption - How alcohol can impact on our freedom, even if we're not actively drinking and what does true liberation mean? - How social attitudes are changing, in the same way that the harm of smoking is better understood now that it was in the past - What is a safe or healthy level of alcohol and what does the research show us? You can find out more about Sammie's work at: https://www.sammiessoberheroes.com/

Everyone processes information in different ways, but could differences be playing out in your relationship causing misunderstandings and disagreements. Terms like autism, ADHD, dyslexia, and dyspraxia get banded about but what do they mean and how would you know if you or your partner are affected. And what to do to navigate this? Today we're joined by Jay Williams, also known as That Dyslexic Guy, a thought leader in neurodiversity advocacy, entrepreneurship, and inclusive innovation. His mission is to help people understand the strengths of Neurodivergence while driving real change in workplaces. We're going to be looking at: -Why these differences are not problems to be fixed, but rather unique qualities and strengths that we can harness for good! - How our negative thoughts can lead to a range of other negative factors and issues - How misunderstandings over small things can get blown out of proportion unnecessarily into frustration or anger - How understanding neurodivergence can help us recognise why explosive reactions may happen, but that it's not a justification for a negative reactions - The role of emotional drain or burnout, “masking” behaviours and having the self-awareness needed to understand our needs - The importance of open communication in understanding our different processing patterns and how we may be able to support each other You can find out more about Jay at: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thatdyslexicguy/

It's sometimes said that ‘you are what you eat', so we probably know that our diet is important in ensuring our wellbeing. But how does our diet affect our relationship, and what opportunities could lie hidden in this area for those of us who really value our relationships? Vanessa Sturman is a Transformational Health Coach and Award-Winning Speaker… Featured regularly on Sky News, BBC Radio, LBC, and others, Vanessa is a leading voice in performance, health, weight management and sustainable nutrition. Today we are going to be looking at: * How can food issues such as binge eating impact on our wellbeing and how we could move beyond them to create a life that we love? * How can we enjoy the things we love (like food) without suffering the negative impacts of excess * How food issues can show up in our relationship such as sluggishness What are the most common food related arguments that can crop up in relationships * How increasing plant based food can contribute to balanced, positive outcomes for our wellbeing through increased vitality and energy * How a healthy diet can support our sexual relationship through factors such as improved circulation! * How adding more “plant forward” food can free up land for the natural environment to create a legacy for future generations! ENJOY, and you can keep in touch with Vanessa through her website and social media: https://www.instagram.com/energiseandthriveplantbased/?hl=en

Join Emma Gardner and Rebeca Perea for an honest and inspiring conversation about the complexities of addiction and the journey to recovery. Emma shares her personal experiences with alcohol addiction, highlighting the emotional challenges of letting go of coping mechanisms, the impact of childhood trauma, and the importance of self-awareness in healing. Together, Emma and Rebeca explore the role of Alcoholics Anonymous, healthy coping strategies, and the steps to rebuild trust in relationships affected by addiction. The episode also touches on relapse as a learning experience, goal-setting for a purpose-driven recovery, and practical strategies to embrace self-love and acceptance. In a candid wrap-up, Emma and Rebeca discuss their creative processes, from video editing to content creation, and share exciting plans for future collaborations. Whether you're on a recovery journey, supporting a loved one, or seeking insights into overcoming life's challenges, this episode offers heartfelt wisdom and actionable advice.

An affair sends relationships to the emergency room- like a couple involved in a car crash, driver and passenger arrive with injuries. Wounds can mend, but with knowledge the course of healing and ultimate outcome can be improved. Amanda Deverich is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and coach with a private practice in Virginia and Arizona. For over a decade she has been helping couples overcome relationship challenges, including infidelity. In this unmissable episode we cover: - WHY do affairs happen? - HOW to start to re-build and to know whether re-building is even possible - Is it possible to safeguard my relationship so that I know an affair would NEVER happen? - the most common MISUNDERSTANDING around affairs so you never fall for them Find out more about Amanda at: https://amandadeverich.com/

In this emotional and thought-provoking episode of The Relationship Breakthrough Show, therapists Matt and Rebeca dive into Netflix's latest viral documentary, My Wife, My Abuser. This gripping true-crime feature unravels the harrowing story of Richard Spencer, a husband who endured two decades of unimaginable abuse from his wife, Sheree Spencer. Using secret nanny cam footage and chilling personal testimonies, the documentary sheds light on an often-overlooked issue: the abuse of men in domestic settings. With raw honesty, Matt and Rebeca discuss the psychological and relational dynamics at play, exploring the signs, stigmas, and systemic challenges faced by male survivors of coercive control and violence.

Feeling stuck in your relationship? Frustrated that your partner isn't as eager to work on things as you are? In this powerful episode, Matt and Rebeca dive deep into the common struggle of having a reluctant partner and reveal how you can still create positive change, even if you're the only one willing to take action. You'll discover: Why choosing yourself first is the key to transforming your relationship

In this episode, we're diving deep into the unspoken struggles that men face in their relationships. Are you feeling stuck, unsure why things aren't working, or maybe you've lost your way with your partner? Whether you're single and searching or in a relationship that's slipping away, you're not alone. Join Matt and men's coach Faisal Khokur as we uncover the 5 major 'fractures' that could be quietly sabotaging your love life. From fears of failure and rejection to struggles with emotional connection and purpose, these hidden barriers might be holding you back from the healthy, thriving relationship you deserve. Here's what we'll explore: The 1st Fracture: Nervousness that makes you feel unsafe, losing composure, and why "whatever you want" isn't helping. The 2nd Fracture: Ego traps that feed feelings of unworthiness and validation-seeking behavior. The 3rd Fracture: Emotional disconnect and how fear of rejection keeps you from bonding with secure women. The 4th Fracture: Sexual shame and how desperation might be driving intimacy issues. The 5th Fracture: Spiritual disconnection, lack of purpose, and how it affects your masculinity. Tune in to gain actionable insights on healing these fractures and transforming your relationships. Faisal shares real-world strategies for overcoming these challenges so you can show up as your best self in love and life. Don't forget to subscribe for more relationship breakthroughs and follow us for updates. Let's get started!

Join Nikola, the UK's leading Low Carbohydrate and Ketogenic Lifestyle Expert, as she empowers women over 40 to reclaim their vitality and clarity! In this episode, discover the transformative power of the award-winning HOPE Protocol—delicious whole foods and a positive mindset—designed to banish brain fog, boost energy, and tackle perimenopausal challenges. Tune in to unlock your best self and thrive in business and life! Meet Nicola Howard here: The 10 BIG Mistakes people make regarding Diet and Exercise (16 page PDF): https://lowcarbinthe.uk/10bigmistakes https://nikolahoward.uk https://lowcarbinthe.uk / nikola-howard - LI profile / nikola.anne.howard / lowcarbintheuk / nikolahoward.lifecoach / lowcarbintheuk / nikolahoward

Welcome to another episode of the Relationship Breakthrough Show! In this episode, we're diving into the emotional and relational impacts of Vanishing Twin Syndrome and codependency. Our special guest, Richard Buckworth, shares his expertise and personal insights on these often-overlooked dynamics, offering strategies to help individuals and couples heal and thrive.

Welcome to another episode of the Relationship Breakthrough Show! In this episode, we're diving into the emotional and relational impacts of Vanishing Twin Syndrome and codependency. Our special guest, Richard Buckworth, shares his expertise and personal insights on these often-overlooked dynamics, offering strategies to help individuals and couples heal and thrive.

Join Nikola, the UK's leading Low Carbohydrate and Ketogenic Lifestyle Expert, as she empowers women over 40 to reclaim their vitality and clarity! In this episode, discover the transformative power of the award-winning HOPE Protocol—delicious whole foods and a positive mindset—designed to banish brain fog, boost energy, and tackle perimenopausal challenges. Tune in to unlock your best self and thrive in business and life! Meet Nicola Howard here: The 10 BIG Mistakes people make regarding Diet and Exercise (16 page PDF): https://lowcarbinthe.uk/10bigmistakes https://nikolahoward.uk https://lowcarbinthe.uk https://www.linkedin.com/in/nikola-howard/ - LI profile https://www.facebook.com/Nikola.Anne.Howard https://www.facebook.com/lowcarbintheuk/ https://www.facebook.com/NikolaHoward.LifeCoach https://instagram.com/lowcarbintheuk https://www.instagram.com/nikolahoward

Is the “Male menopause” a real thing? What are the changes that men go through… physically and emotionally in mid-life that have some parallel with the better-known changes that women experience? How do these challenges play out in relationships, and in other areas of life? Jonnie Jensen is founder and head coach at the High Value Man Project. A program and community for mid life dads looking to reconnect with who they are and what they want so they can be the man and dad they deserve to be. We are going to be looking at: - What exactly is “male menopause,” and what are the common symptoms and challenges that men face during mid-life? - Are mid-life men really suffering that much today? What's wrong with men today, and how can they recognize they are experiencing these challenges? - Why do couples struggle with communication during these challenging times? What can men do to improve communication with their partners? - For men feeling stuck, where should they start in their journey to reconnect with themselves and improve their lives? - There's a common belief that men don't like to talk about their problems. How does the High Value Man Project create a space for men to open up and connect? You can find out more about our incredible guest Jonnie Jensen at: https://jonniejensen.com/

Just as relationships are a key part of our lives… So is WORK! Whether we have our own business or a job we need to navigate this in a way that is supportive to other aspects like our relationship. So what are the key challenges to managing that interface and what do we need to do to maintain proper boundaries? We are going to be sharing the TOP 5 Keys to maintaining healthy work-relationship boundaries. Don't miss this one! Andy Nisevic is a workplace performance specialist who helps leaders and managers raise personal and team performance without stress, overwhelm, & burnout. He spent 23-yrs in the RAF responsible for the morale, discipline, output, and standards of the people in his units. His final tour was teaching the RAF's world class leadership and management courses; it was here he found his passion - and geekiness - in the psychology of leadership and human behaviour. Andy knows first hand the difficulties of balancing a successful career while trying to build and maintain a happy relationship. He's also seen how easy it is for difficulties in either professional or personal lives, to infect and adversely impact the other. Andy's book Leadership 101 will give you an even deeper dive into his knowledge and expertise! His website is www.onedegree.uk

We're going to delve into the transformative world of tantra and its healing impact on relationships. We're going to explore how Dominique D'Vita blends science with spirituality to help you understand your body, respect yourself and deepen your connections with your partners. Are you ready to unlock the secrets to deeper intimacy, connection, and fulfillment? Join us as we journey through the realms of tantra, uncovering practical tools, insights, and practices to revolutionize your relationships and awaken the power within you. Get ready to embark on a journey of love, authenticity, and profound transformation. You can contact Dominique in these channels: https://yestantra.com/ https://www.youtube.com/@YesTantrahtt ps://www.pinterest.com/yestantra/ https://instagram.com/yesdvita?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y= And don't forget your freebies! FREE Day of my Tantric Self-Love ebook “Awaken Your Inner Lover with Tantra in 12-Days” https://yestantra.com/blog/free-day-of-tantric-self-love FREE Transform Your Life with Tantra Masterclass Replay. Use code TANTRA to access this for FREE: https://learn.yestantra.com/offers/NPWSekuM/checkout

Did you know that the dynamics of our family of origin determines the quality of our relationships? But did you also know that it also determines our level of success and finances that we will have in our lives? I often talk about the hidden dynamics that are underpinning the challenges that we have in our lives as the most critical things to address rather than focussing on addressing the symptom as that only scratches the surface! For me this is the most powerful podcast that I have done so far, you can't miss it! You can find out more about Nelleke Nederveen here: www.nellekenederveen.com

Published through Ingram and available through Amazon and all major booksellers, the book is written for anyone looking to re-evaluate or improve their intimate relationship and it's full of practical wisdom and concepts gleaned from the many years of work that Matt has undertaken alongside his wife Rebeca supporting couples and individuals to have relationships that really serve them. “The book is partly autobiographical in that it reveals some of the challenges that I went through in making sense of the toxic relationship that I found myself in. It took time to make sense of that and the support, mentoring and coaching that I had through that process was truly life changing.” Matt explains. Matt is joined today by Rhys Thomas who is a keynote speaker and mental health advocate and who is going to be joining the launch event for the book. You can find out more about his work at: https://realrhysthomas.com/ You can access the book at: https://pages.alignedwithlove.net/sisosig_launch_event-2628

When Hollie Gazzard went into the hair salon in Gloucester where she worked on 18 February 2014, she had little idea of the tragic events that were about to unfold. Although after months of obsessive behaviour, jealousy, and harassment from her partner… and having finally ENDED the relationship days earlier she may have had some trepidation. Following her horrific murder, the family, Nick, Amanda and Chloe, wanted something positive to come out of the loss and set up the Hollie Gazzard Trust not only to help other victims but to raise funds to support young people. Hollie had suffered from domestic abuse, violence and stalking in the time leading up to her death and tackling these issues is at the forefront of the work they do. The charity has made it a key aim to develop programmes and tools to help those experiencing domestic abuse and to promote healthy relationships, particularly providing education in schools and colleges. Today we're joined by Hollie's dad Nick who has pioneered work in his daughter's name to help countless others avoid experiencing the same challenges that his own family has gone through. We are going to be looking at: - How to spot the early signs of abusive and manipulative behaviour - What are the danger signs of things escalating out of control, and how we can take action early to avoid this - The range of abusive or toxic behaviour from the milder to more extreme end of the scale - What you can do if you suspect that you are in a toxic or controlling relationship Find out more about the Hollie Gazzard Trust at: https://holliegazzard.org/ You can see how you can get involved, access workshops and programmes and get involved through volunteering and fundraising.

Do you ever find yourself overcome by strong emotions, even where they might be too much and you struggle to function day-to-day? Do you ever feel stuck with emotions where we're trying to reconcile an overpowering experience of what's happening and then before long we're feeling quite different about the situation? In this episode Matt shares some insights into how we can stay in touch with our emotions without being overtaken by them: - How we choose different meanings, which lead to us creating our emotional experience - How different people adopt completely different understandings of the same events, leading them into a very different experience - How we manage our energy day-to-day our body “budget” by estimating the energy needed for given activities, and what happens when we are unable to plan in that way - Do animals experience emotions, or something else? - Where does stress come from, and how can we better regulate our stress? - How meditation teaches us to be present in the moment, noticing sensations and releasing them. Find out more about what we do on our website: https://alignedwithlove.net/

In this first session in the 4 part series Matt looks at what we mean by MINDSET and why it's such an important building block of the work we are doing. - what happens if we are stuck thinking that we are helpless to improve our situation - what we can learn from the field of sports and training when it comes to conditioning ourself - why we might want to consider our mindset while we still have time to work on it - using the power of team and modelling other people and characters that have skills and qualities that we admire There was also a meditation delivered in the live session that is NOT in the podcast (as we know many people listen while driving). Clients can obtain that from the team. https://alignedwithlove.net/

In this podcast Nutritional expert Tara Clist is going to illuminate the journey of menopause with insights, stories, and strategies for glowing through this transformative phase of life. Join us as we navigate the ups and downs, debunk myths, and empower women to embrace their vitality and radiance during menopause and beyond. Discover how to prevent and manage the challenging symptoms of menopause while embracing the full potential of this new chapter. You can find out more about Tara Clist here: Instagram: tara_clist Linkedin: tara_clist Facebook: The Glow Regime https://theglowregime.com/

When we're struggling in our relationship one of the ways we might experience it is that things are outside of our control. And while we might be really affected by a sense that things are not in our control, we've got to navigate the journey with this other person who has their own ideas, values and priorities. Today we're joined by anxiety expert Daniel Farmer who is an avid student and practitioner of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). Having had such success using these skills in supporting his own journey he now helps others dealing with anxiety and negative thought patterns. We're going to be looking at: - How to ensure that we don't create the thing that we fear the most through our focus on thoughts that are potentially neither helpful nor true - What is ‘negativity bias' and how could it be affecting our behaviour without us even knowing it? - The circular relationship between thoughts, emotions and behaviours and how we can get ‘more of the same stuff' in a vicious cycle if we are not able to intervene - Looking at whether ‘achieving control' could become part of the problem, rather than a kind of solution - How we can identify our disempowering thoughts and choosing not to engage with them, so that we avoid damaging safety-seeking reactions You can find out more about Daniel's work at www.anxious-to-zen.com or follow his work on his YouTube channel www.youtube.com/@AnxiousToZenIsh

Welcome to "The Magic of Surrender," the podcast that invites you on a transformative journey into the realms of intuition, vulnerability, faith, courage, and the enchanting embrace of feminine energy. This podcast is a sanctuary for those who believe in the magic of faith, whether it be in ourselves, the universe, or the divine that inspire us to face our fears, step into the unknown, and emerge stronger on the other side. Get ready to unravel the threads of intuition, discovering the untapped power that lies within our own inner knowing. Together, we are embarking on a quest to understand the beauty and strength found in vulnerability, recognizing it as a gateway to connection, authenticity, and self-discovery. This is an invitation to embrace the extraordinary within the ordinary and discover the profound beauty that awaits us when we surrender to the journey. Embracing our feminine energy is a central theme, and we'll delve into the wisdom that arises when we honor receptivity, empathy, and the cyclical nature of life. You can find out more about Kute Blackson here: https://linktr.ee/kuteblackson

Welcome to "The Biggest Relationship Sabotaging Patterns" podcast interview with Veronica Amaya and Rebeca Perea, where we unravel the intricacies of interpersonal dynamics and explore the common pitfalls that can hinder the growth of meaningful connections. Join us as we delve into the fascinating world of human behavior, discussing the patterns that often sabotage relationships and hinder personal growth. Our guests, experts in psychology and relationships, share valuable insights and practical tips to help you navigate the complexities of love, communication, and self-discovery. Get ready to uncover the secrets to building healthier, more fulfilling connections in this eye-opening podcast episode. Download Veronica's Free E-book: “The Secret Guide To Satisfying Relationships” - https://veronika-amaya.thrivecart.com/free-ebook Find out more about Veronica Amaya in: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChKokIcEzxUwjglFps6CT3w https://linktr.ee/Veronika_Amaya

A hot sex life, romance after years of passing ships in the night, dating knowing you're the hottest commodity on the market, wearing clothes you thought you had to leave behind in your 20s and knowing exactly how to get your needs met so you never pour from an empty cup again. where we're about to unleash some red-hot dating wisdom! In this episode, we're diving deep into the art of dating like you're the hottest commodity on the market. Get ready to boost your confidence, charm your way to better connections, and approach dating with a sizzling attitude that sets you apart. Whether you're single, in a relationship, or just curious about what it takes to be the top catch, this episode is your guide to turning up the heat in your dating life. Let's make your love life sizzle! You can find out more about Amanda Hanson here: https://www.amandahanson.com/

When we're going through a major difficulty like a breakup, or maybe we've been struggling for a while with a big problem that we can't overcome… It's easy to give up and feel that the weight of the world is on our shoulders. While we might be looking for a way around our problems, sometimes, as we always say in our Relationship Breakthrough Programme, “the only way out is THROUGH!” We need to go all the path through! We're going to be exploring the keys to turning our breakdown into a BREAKTHROUGH, and uncovering what you can put into practice today to move towards your own breakthrough. Today I'm delighted to be joined by Donna Laitinen who has an incredible story to tell and she is on a mission to awaken compassion in the world! She's been on her own journey of self-discovery that has been transformational for her and the people around her. Find out more about Donna Laitinen here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/donnalaitinen/

Sexual empowerment can be a powerful catalyst to reignite all your relationships, and in this podcast, we explore how. By embracing and nurturing your own sexual confidence, you can experience a renewed sense of self-worth and connection, leading to deeper and more fulfilling connections with your partner(s) and an overall boost in your interpersonal relationships. Join us as we delve into the transformative potential of sexual empowerment for a more vibrant and satisfying love life. Find out more about Erica Wiederlight here: https://www.wethelight.org/podcast

Today we have a very special guest who has created a new field of study that shows how SHAME and GUILT are the root cause of emotional disorders. With this new information, we can now claim our self-esteem, individual power, vibrant health, and divine greatness. You can find out more about Lois Hollis here: https://loishollis.com

We all have challenges that we need to overcome and today's guest has overcome one of the biggest challenges which was the death of her long term partner. Today we are going to be exploring how we can make sense of, pick ourselves up and move on in the most positive way after a major life event. Michelle is a two-time international best-selling author on love, personal, and professional relationships. Having re-built her life… Michelle Hoffmann helps people uplevel their relationships to attract, keep and enjoy the right people in their personal and professional life. Whether it is the relationship with their inner voice, intimate partner, family, community, career, colleagues or customers, her clients know how to attract, keep and enjoy the right relationships in their lives. Find more about Michelle Hoffmann here: https://www.relationshipping101.com/

We can sometimes have the idea that once other parts of the relationships start to work better, like around our mindset, values and communication skills, that the intimacy will then necessarily fall into place. That the fact that we are getting on better will then lead to enhancing the spark and passion… but is that true? Today I'm excited to be joined by Paloma De La Hoz who is a psychologist and coach focussing on the area of intimacy and sex and specifically around developing a spiritual dimension to connect at a deeper level! Today we're going to be covering: - Why so many couples lose the spark, especially in longer term relationships - How losing intimate connection can affect other aspects of the relationship - The most common patterns in relationship that lead to problems with intimacy - The most commonly reported issues for women when struggling with their intimate connection - 3 things that you can implement TODAY to cultivate better intimacy and attraction Find more about Paloma here: https://www.instagram.com/awaremoma/

In this eye-opening podcast episode, we delve deep into the fascinating concept of the Drama Triangle. Join us as we explore the roles of the Victim, Rescuer, and Persecutor, and how they create toxic dynamics in our relationships and lives. Discover practical strategies to escape this cycle and cultivate healthier, more empowered interactions. Whether you're a therapist, a relationship enthusiast, or simply curious about human behavior, this episode will shed light on the Drama Triangle and offer insights for personal growth and transformation. Today we have our welcome guest Tena Cacic who defines herself as a Vibrational communicator and who is going to bring clarity to all these and many more challenges that we can all encounter in our relationship with our intimate partner. Find out more about Tena Cacic here: https://tenacacic.com/

Have you ever looked back at photos from when you were younger and wondered how you'd let yourself go? “Yeah but I'm busy now, with work and kids,” you might say. But does this letting yourself go have any impact on our wellbeing, and also on our relationship? Ben Coomber is a multi-award-winning Coach, Speaker, and the bestselling Author of “How to live an Awesome Life” where he shares his unique 11 step system. Day to day Ben is a high performance coach to a handful of clients, and is the Founder and CEO of Awesome Supplements - a 16x award winning supplement company. We are going to be exploring: - How poor sleep patterns can play out and create a cycle of pain where everything - including our relationships - are impacted negatively - The benefit of having a plan that works for us through having positive self-knowledge - Looking for ways to deal with stress that support our recover and avoid us creating a negative cycle - How progress and success can create a positive feedback loop whether it's in the area of fitness, mindset and relationships - The importance of showing up as our true self if we are going to be really lovable by the people around us, and that our relationships will work in the long term - What happens when you feel confident and how people see you differently Keep in touch with Bens through his website: https://www.bencoomber.com/ , and on all social media platforms @bencoomber.

Why is it that so many relationships struggle with intimacy after the initial rush of sexual excitement has died down and what can we do to put the magic back in? We are joined by Dr. Patti Britton who was the featured sex coach by Oprah! in 2022, who is a renowned Clinical Sexologist and Sexuality Educator. Not only is she a prolific author and academic, but she is also a sought-after speaker and trainer, who has created over 40 couples' sexual enhancement DVDs. She is frequently featured in media outlets like Cosmopolitan, Men's Health and Women's Health. We are going to be looking at: - How do we deal with the lifestyle-related challenges meaning that by the end of the day we feel that we have little or nothing to give? - How important is orgasm, and is goal-oriented sex the best sex? - The differences that we need to understand between men and women and how we find safety and connection in different ways - How do we find the balance between supporting our partner to meet their needs versus meeting our own needs - Why is the focus on consent so important and having the ability to say yes or no, in order to be fully empowered - What is means when sex becomes a sacred experience, and how we can access that - Specific take-aways that will help immediately to reignite your sex life You can find out more about Dr Patti's work at: https://drpattibritton.com/

When we are struggling we tend to look for a way of coping with a situation that we just don't know how to deal with. Over time, these can develop into PATTERNS that recur over time and crop up again and again. Today we are looking at our most common go-to patterns so that we can identify them and start to identify which ones apply to us (and our partners). Today we are joined by Dr. Willow Brown is a Chinese Medicine doctor, Functional Medicine expert & internationally recognized teacher of Taoist Sexology. And by Leah Piper has taught thousands of couples and individuals all over the world through her school More Love Works. She is an intimacy expert with multiple advanced certifications in Tantra Yoga, Positive Psychology, and Somatic Therapies. We are going to be looking at: - How each pattern has a light side, or ‘super-power' that can be a gift and blessing - maybe even something that can be a strength - AND that each pattern has a dark side that could be sabotaging things and giving us problems - When the patterns develop and link to our developmental stages - How we need to adapt the way we relate to people including partners with each of the 6 patterns You can find out more about Dr Willow and Leah's work at: https://drwillowbrown.com/ https://www.moreloveworks.com/

What do we mean by attachment styles and how do they affect our relationships? Could it be that a challenge that we are experiencing (or maybe having experienced several times) are connected to our attachment style or that of our partner. What are the 5 breakthroughs that can lead us to experience success in our relationship, rather than just more frustration? Today we are joined by Sami Reed Cleaver who is a Relationships Coach and Attachment Specialist from Wales based in Thailand. She is the founder of the Relationship Rehab - and she works with individuals to heal insecure attachment patterns that come up when in relationships and becoming more secure in themselves. We are going to be looking at: - What do we mean by attachment styles and where does OUR attachment style come from? - How attachment styles play out in our relationship and how they can give us challenges if we are unaware of them. - The most common coping mechanisms when we are not getting our needs met or feeling under threat and how they can cost us in our relationships - What might be happening when our partner withdraws or looks for space in the relationship and how to deal with that - How to recover and heal from an anxious pattern to developing a more secure style so that we can get what we want in relationship Find out more about Sami's work at: https://www.instagram.com/the.relationship.rehab/ And… https://www.samireedcoaching.com/

We often assume that we're in a relationship, so we're going to have a level of closeness with our partner. But is this always the case? Could we be in a relationship AND still feel really disconnected and lonely? Today we're going to be looking at what happens when our relationship is in fact a LONELY place, and at 5 steps that we can take to re-connect. Reece Stockhausen & Jodie Milton are internationally recognized relationship and intimacy coaches, award-winning bloggers, and co-creators of Practical Intimacy. Since 2014, they've helped hundreds of couples and over 1 million readers with their unique intimacy-focused approach to modern relationships and personal development. We're going to be looking at: - What is emotional intimacy and why is it so important in our relationship? - What are the signs when we are missing emotional intimacy? - Why do couples struggle to create emotional intimacy? - How can couples start to build emotional intimacy? - How emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy are connected - What to do when one partner is more committed to change compared to the other one - The challenges of working together as well as having an intimate relationship too You can find out more about Reece & Jodie's work at: https://www.practicalintimacy.com/

Have you ever found yourself stuck in a pattern that is detrimental to ourselves or the people around us? How could these limiting patterns impact on our relationships and our lives, especially when we find ourselves going around in circles. What do we do when we have the realisation that something needs to change but we don't know WHAT to do? Today I'm joined by mindset coach Adelaid Goodeve who works with clients to show up consistently at their best in their lives both professionally and personally. She's been on a journey of recovery and growth from hitting rock bottom with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and building herself up to create an amazing life. Questions we are going to be looking at include: - What would be the signs that we ourselves might be stuck in one of these loops and how would it be impacting on us - How Adelaide broke free from a challenging life-long medical diagnosis with chronic fatigue syndrome by shifting herself by training her brain to create change - How our negative inner voice can lead our brain into a place of being stuck and prevent us from bouncing back in the way we otherwise could - How do we arrive at the threshold of saying enough is enough where something has to change - 5 incredible BRAIN HACKS that can help us to shift and to get unstuck! You can find out more about Adelaide's work here: https://www.adelaidegoodeve.com/ https://www.instagram.com/adelaidegoodeve/

What are the costs of poor sleep on our relationship and on our life? Do we either take sleep for granted or maybe consider it like the weather - something we can't do anything to influence? How has the science of sleep evolved over recent years and what opportunities do we have to improve it? Riley Jarvis is the Founder & CEO of The Sleep Consultant - an organisation that helps CEOs, entrepreneurs, and high performers transform their sleep to significantly boost their productivity and energy levels. We're going to discover the 5 tips that can revolutionise your sleep! Highlights today include: - Why is sleep so important for our wellbeing? - If sleep isn't working, how could that play out especially in your relationship? - How does REM sleep impact on emotional intelligence - Could a shorter working day be more productive and happier? - What stops us from sleeping well? - 5 tips to revolutionise sleep You can find out more about Riley's work at: www.thesleepconsultant.com

When our relationship isn't working, it can be hard to cut through the negativity… nothing seems to work! So what can we do to shift ourselves from that negative place and back to a more positive one? Today we're going to be looking at the number 1 habit hack that can get us to shift in the quickest possible time! We're joined today by Jimmie Stephens who is a sought after author, speaker, relationship coach and founder of The School of Marriage and Relationship based in Atlanta, Georgia. Jimmie also serves as a senior pastor at The Light International Church and he shares his message on value principles for a life of growth in leadership as well as personal relationships in churches, schools and organisations. Highlights include: The impact on our relationship when we get into a negative emotional state How we can create a shift into a more intentional and rational position where we can resolve things better Recognising when the other person's experience is not our intention and how we can modify our behaviour and to improve our communication to deepen our connection The fit and alignment between our faith journey (in whatever religion we may practice) and working on our relationships The NUMBER ONE habit hack that can shift us into a more positive state where we can experience an incredible relationship Content can be seen on Youtube, FaceBook, Instagram, Pinterest and Twitter. Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@atlantasomar/videos Website: https://schoolofmarriageandrelationship.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jimmie.stephens/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/152614286195672

If we can't show up as ourselves in our relationship, we've got little prospect of making it work sustainably in the long term. Surely if we're hiding aspects of ourselves we're going to cause ourselves a lot of stress and difficulty in keeping those things away from our partner or others around us. Today I'm joined by Stephanie and Jennifer PageWise who are Relationship coaches and Spiritual Revolutionaries working with the LGBTQ+ community. Their mission is to bring more love to the world, one relationship at a time. We've going to be exploring: - How the masks start to show themselves after the initial period of relationship infatuation where we may not even be aware that we have these masks - What it means to hit rock bottom in our relationship and how we can pick ourselves up from the mess we find ourselves in - How attachment wounds from our past can show up to shape our relationship success, creating unhealthy systems from which it can be difficult to find a solution - How we get triggered by different external stimuli to wear our masks for the purpose of safety and self-protection, and what the results are - How a our system reacts to difference in general and heteronormativity in particular and causes us to wear masks to cope with a sense of being an outsider and prevents us exploring our life as a whole including our sexuality You can find out more about Stephanie & Jennifer's work at: www.enchantedawakenings.org www.Facebook.com/groups/enchantedawakenings

When our relationship fails it can be overwhelming. Where do we start? We may want to get on the first dating app we can find and start connecting with people. Are there any benefits of hitting the pause button at this point and taking stock before jumping in? Today we're going to be looking at the steps we need to take to ensure that we don't get caught in a cycle of making the same mistakes, with a similar looking pattern that we've been running for a while? We're joined by John Kenny who is The Relationship Guy. He helps clients to create healthy loving relationships… John Kenny is a Relationship Coach to People Who Want to Attract or Create Healthy Loving Relationships. Author of The P.E.O.P.L.E. Programme, Speaker, Documentary Maker and host of The Relationship Guy Podcast. He has been involved in the field of personal development for over fifteen years and in that time has not only helped thousands of clients, but has also completely changed his own life. We are going to be exploring: - The benefits of not knee-jerking back into a relationship, but taking our time to reassess before jumping back in to assess what was really going on - How we can find relationships to enable us to relive our existing patterns, even when we know that they may not be a good fit - The difference between counselling and coaching, and how they can support us make sense of our relationship journey - The importance of prioritising the things that we ourselves enjoy, even in the midst of our relationship to ensure that we stay in a good emotional place - The importance of acknowledging and processing our feelings rather than pushing them away, and the impact on future relationships when we do no… but without languishing and becoming the victim - The importance of becoming aware of our self-talk and how it could be affecting us negatively - The need to avoid beating ourselves up, but to see how we might have contributed the way things broke down in the past - How to avoid the comparison trap where we judge ourselves against the outcomes that others are experiencing, falling into self-criticism - How to get clear on what our boundaries or red flags might be, so that we're clear next time! - How to ensure boundaries are working and identifying gaslighting, versus situations where we simply have a different point of view You can find out more about John's work at: https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching/ https://twitter.com/johnkennycoach https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/

Sometimes we reach a crossroads where we come to evaluate and challenge the path that we are on and the decisions that we have made. Our guest today, best-selling author and coach Dan Stanley got to that point in his mid-thirties of what is sometimes called a ‘mid life crisis', and it set him on a path to build on the successes and achievements to that point, and also to re-evaluate what he really wanted in life. Having decided to separate from his wife, he re-evaluated and re-build based on some different paradigms - and now he works with men going through similar challenges. We're going to be exploring the top misconceptions that can keep us men stuck and how we can look to re-evaluate them. - How our gender conditioning and cultural expectations can set us up for challenges as we progress into the middle stage of life - How the rat race conditions us for challenges when we realise that another car or house or “trappings” can lead us to being absent in other areas of our life - How adversity introduces us to ourselves as we confront our distractions and challenges in moving to the next level - How we don't tend to talk about masculinity or mens' experiences and the cost we pay for bottling things up - How the challenges of ‘midlife' can culminate in the ultimate failure where we have success without fulfilment - Recognising where seeking professional success can flip into the cause of problems in our life as a whole, rather than being the solution to problems - What can we do to rebuild after our crisis with solid foundations that give us a chance of long term success, getting a proper focus on life as a whole rather than just work - How we get away from any notion of masculinity as something toxic You can find out more about Dan's work and to sign up for Men and Mountains at: https://www.better-men.uk/

Have you ever been really into your relationship and feeling really connected to your partner, even picturing a happy life together but then found a problem… that your partner isn't at the same level of connection or commitment that you are at, and that they are potentially envisaging something quite different? How do you bridge that gap and get onto the same page again? Today we're going to be looking at how we bond together, and specifically how men and women bond differently. - Why our bonding style is so important when figuring out what may not be working in our relationship, and where they come from. - How a lack of commitment and long term goals can be a symptom of underlying attachment issues. - The secrets to recognizing our own attachment style and they types of issues that we might continue to experience in our relationship. - How to tell whether you have attachment issues in your relationship and what to do about it. - How our upbringing can feed into our attachment styles, and impact on relationships much later in life. - The role of oxytocin and vasopressin in our neuro-chemistry and why men and women bond differently! - How to avoid the conflicts that can arise from our different communication styles and solution-focus! - You can find out more about what Adam does through his website: https://adamlanesmith.com/ We'll see you next time!

Susan Douglas works with conscientious, caring professionals, who are great at what they do, but who are emotionally exhausted and struggling to focus on what they need to achieve. She is dedicated to empowering sensitive professionals, helping you set yourself up for success, so you can deliver on what is important to you. Today I have the pleasure of introducing her to our podcast and we are going to focus on creating more flow in your work-life and in your relationships.

If either partner is struggling individually, it always tends to affect the relationship… as our coping mechanisms under stress tend to have side-effects. So how do you get yourself into a good place where you don't NEED those coping mechanisms… but instead you feel positive and filled up? Are there any knock-on effects of our lives of relative comfort… and what can we do to mitigate those? Were there any positives from a time before things were so comfortable, that may have given us some advantages, and how could we reconnect with those? Today I'm delighted to be joined by re-wilding expert and founder of Red Phoenix Rewilding Sam Adams, with whom we are going to be exploring this and much more… We are going to be looking at: - Avoiding predictability and boredom in longer term relationship by balancing the predictable with the spontaneous, joyful and fun - What it means to be authentic and how that can change over time - The impact on relationships of bottling up emotions rather than directly expressing them in a healthy way - What it means to be really seen in relationship, through authentic expression - Ways that we can find our courage, to asset our boundaries and make difficult decisions including through difficult relationship decisions - How we can choose to embrace and express our wildness in a healthy way that leaves us feeling positive and connected to our partner - Differences in how men and women experience wildness, and the key issues that we each need to consider - What can we do to reconnect with ourselves through both getting out in the wild, connecting with others, and also getting outside our comfort zone - The relationship between positive self esteem or self-love and how we are perceived by others including our attractiveness to others You can find out more about Sam's work at: https://www.redphoenixrewilding.com/

When we come out of a long term relationship, the idea of getting out and meeting new people again can raise a whole range of emotions… from excitement and anticipation to a feeling of over-whelm and anxiety. What are the key things to bear in mind when we start dating again, and what are the most common pitfalls that most people miss? Today we are going to be looking at how we can navigate this journey successfully, and speaking to Alex Mellor-Brook who is co-founder and MD at Select Personal Introductions, a high-end matchmaking and dating service for professionals, celebrities, entrepreneurs working across the UK and internationally. He has 25 years of experience and expertise in navigating the world of matchmaking, dating and relationships to help clients to establish healthy relationships. As an Accredited International Matchmaker, who has appeared extensively in the media including on ITV, the BBC and talkRADIO as one of the UK's leading dating experts. We are going to be looking at: What are the biggest challenges in the dating world at the moment How to get set up if you've just entered the market after being in a long term relationship How long should you wait, and how do you know that you're ready What are the key red flags to look out for when we meet someone How to navigate the challenges of working together with a partner in our career or business You can find out more about Alex's work at: www.selectservices.co.uk Don't miss it!

Have you ever been stuck with a disagreement where despite your best efforts you can't manage to find a resolution that works for both parties? What could you try to break out of that cycle and to find a more empowering way to resolve your issues. Today we are going to be looking at mediation as a model of identifying your needs and to see how each person can successfully meet their needs either in the relationship, or outside of it. Elizabeth Franz has been a mediator for the past 10 years, guiding clients through their most impactful conversations. Collective action, collaborative decision making, and communication that build relationships are the key ingredients to build the future that meets all our needs. We are going to be exploring: What is mediation? How does it relate to the legal process? What are the situations when mediation can be a valuable approach? … and much more! You can find out more about Elizabeth's work at: humanzmediate.com

When we are lacking self-esteem, it can affect our happiness, our mental health and our relationships. In addition, if we are not in a good place individually, then that will always affect our relationships in some ways. We need to be Aligned with Our Self, before we can be Aligned with our Partner! Today's subject is SUCH an important foundation for having a great relationship! I'm delighted to be joined by self-esteem author and expert Clarissa Burt who is going to be sharing with us THE FOUR PILLARS of self-esteem and how we can ensure that our self-esteem is an enabler to a magic relationship!

When we are going through relationship difficulties, we may reflect that if only we'd acted earlier we could have avoided the worst of the problems that followed. So what happens when we reach the end of the road in the relationship, and we find ourselves potentially in court picking up the pieces of a failed relationship? What would we have liked to have known earlier from people who have already gone down that route, and lived to tell the tale? Are there any lessons that we can reflect on now to set ourselves up for a successful outcome? Today we are going to be exploring some of the common pitfalls of the legal process and what we can learn NOW to at least keep things as amiable as possible, and potentially to avoid us having to go through that process at all. Katie O'Connell is an experienced family lawyer at Watkins & Gunn supporting people going through separation and resolving their financial and family arrangements. Watkins & Gunn is a highly respected law firm and in particular the family department is top ranked in the Legal 500. We are going to be covering: - How to ensure that you take the right path, and that your decision is the right one - The pitfalls of getting the right support, and how to make sure that you know what you are looking for - The challenges of making heat-of-the-moment snap decisions under stress and how these can negatively impact the relationship and the future - How to get reassurance and initial advice without having to start a process that you can then no longer stop You can find out more about Katie's work, and the areas that she can support with at: https://www.watkinsandgunn.co.uk/services/family-matters/