Yellow Brick Therapy

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, I'm answering the following questions:"How do I convince my loved ones to go to therapy?""How do I convince my parents to take me to therapy/that I need therapy?"-----Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon & Wed at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others.Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment below or on an Instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. Appreciate my vlogs? Return the flavor by reviewing my therapy biz on Google (this helps a lot!): https://g.page/somatherapy/review?rc3. More info about my therapy practice: https://www.somawichita.com**DISCLAIMER: YouTube is NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice.**

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, I'm answering the following questions about starting therapy:-How do I start therapy?-How do I find a good therapist?-What should I ask during the first session?-What if I can't afford therapy or have a limited budget?-What if I live overseas and not in the US where therapists are readily available? -What is this process like? -----Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon & Wed at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others.Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment below or on an Instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. Appreciate my vlogs? Return the flavor by reviewing my therapy biz on Google (this helps a lot!): https://g.page/somatherapy/review?rc3. More info about my therapy practice: https://www.somawichita.com**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice.**

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, I'm answering the following questions:- If a trauma has caused a lack of emotional and physical intimacy in your relationship, what can be expected in your relationship?- What can you do as their partner to be supportive and also ensure that your needs are also being considered?- Are there practices for reintroducing healthy physical intimacy and at what point is it appropriate?- What, if any, are realistic expectations as outcomes of trauma therapy? Ie. Will this aspect of our relationship ever be fulfilling?- When and how to discover that the trauma might not be the cause of lack of intimacy?--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon & Wed at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others.Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment below or on an Instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. Appreciate my vlogs? Return the flavor by reviewing my therapy biz on Google (this helps a lot!): https://g.page/somatherapy/review?rc3. More info about my therapy practice: https://www.somawichita.com**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice.**

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, I describe some of the more commonly known forms of "childhood adverse events" by going through the ACE study questions and resilience factors. Next episode we will delve into the lesser known or less obvious childhood traumas to help you connect the dots if you are struggling with symptoms of trauma.Most of us have some of these, and even if your ACE score is high there is A LOT we can do to reverse it (me and many of my clients are walking proof). Hugs & support to y'all! --Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon & Wed at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others.Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment below or on an Instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. Appreciate my vlogs? Return the flavor by reviewing my therapy biz on Google (this helps a lot!): https://g.page/somatherapy/review?rc3. More info about my therapy practice: https://www.somawichita.com**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice.**

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, I explain specific examples of toxic family beliefs and rules. This will help you understand some of the beliefs that you may have yet to heal or subtle ways our family's intergenerational trauma leaked into our family system. Most families have at least one or two of these (and that's okay!) what's best is if we are able to get curious about them and heal it for the next generation. Feel free to add some additional ones to the comments to help expand this definition for others. :)--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others.Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an Instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice.**

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, I explain different tips and strategies for navigating toxic parenting or family relationships in ways that support connection in a safe way.Navigating and healing from these types of relationships is hard, and I highly recommend working with a trained and licensed therapist if you are struggling with toxic parenting or family relationships.--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others.Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an Instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice.**

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, I explain what internalized gaslighting is and the different affirmations we can use to challenge it.If you struggle with really absorbing the affirmations I describe, I'd highly recommend working on this with a therapist or trained professional. --Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others.Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an Instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice.**

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, I explain the signs and ways we may engage in our romantic relationships if we were raised by toxic parenting behaviors (or if we have a parent who struggles with narcissism).Link to brief imago work-up I referenced: https://www.brainwellnessprogram.com/userfiles/150649/file/Brief_Imago_Workup_-_Brief_Updated_Includes_synthesis.pdf **Pro tip: Don't read ahead -- fill out as you go**Link to Toxic Relationships Workshop THIS Saturday 10 am -12 pm CT, live virtual options available: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/freedom-from-toxic-relationships-recover-rediscover-yourself-tickets-113474972698?utm_source=eventbrite&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=post_old_publish&utm_content=fullLinkOldEmail&fbclid=IwAR1ZZNaVK_h6B0GSmwJfKH-uwvz5ZGcDoTs-YPOMr2tDVEiwD54GBpo5LuA

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, I'll be describing (with examples) the signs and ways we may engage in the world if we were raised by toxic parenting behaviors (or if we had a parent who struggled with narcissism).Do any of these resonate?--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others.Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an Instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice.**

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about the traits of toxic parenting. My hope is that you will learn from this what may have impacted you as a child (the subtle and not so subtle things) and learn/grow to not engage in these behaviors in your own parenting (or in reaction behaviors).--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others.Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an Instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice.**

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about how to set boundaries with difficult people. Difficult people include: those you have to set boundaries with multiple times because they "forget" and those who respond with passive-aggressiveness, distance, anxiety, hostility, or anger. *If someone is physically or emotionally abusive in response to your boundaries -- no amount of tips or tricks will help this. It's important you seek/find safety and do safety planning around this.*--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others.Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an Instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice.**

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about specific examples of healthy boundaries we may set with our family members.We will cover:1. Boundaries around communication, travel, and spending time together2. Boundaries around non-triangulation and keeping secrets secret3. Boundaries around listening well and setting up times to connect/communicate4. Boundaries around toxic conversations, judgment/criticism, and uncomfortable topics4. Grief and loss when family members aren't emotionally safe and don't respect our boundaries**Remember, it's important to have an equitable consequence for each boundary that we set. Without a consequence, a boundary is just a threat.**What boundaries have been helpful for you and your family members?--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others.Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an Instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice.**

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about specific examples of healthy boundaries we may set with our in-laws or loved ones of our significant other.We will cover:1. Boundaries around how to discuss differences in opinion / giving advice2. Boundaries around privacy / communicating when they come over3. Boundaries about travel and parenting**Remember, it's important to have an equitable consequence for each boundary that we set. Without a consequence, a boundary is just a threat.**What boundaries have been helpful for you and your in-laws?--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others.Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an Instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice.**

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about specific examples of healthy boundaries we may set with our significant other or romantic partner.We will cover:1. Boundaries around having hard conversations / arguments2. Boundaries around privacy/what we share with others3. Boundaries about communicating our needs & wants**Remember, it's important to have a consequence (an equitable consequence) for each boundary we set. Without a consequence, a boundary is just a threat.**What romantic relationship boundaries have been helpful for you and your SO? --Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others.Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an Instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice.**

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are delving into my tips and advice for setting healthy boundaries. We will cover:1. How to generally approach them (keeping things short and respectful)2. What to expect in other's reactions to our boundaries3. How to be consistent with our boundaries4. What healthy boundary setting will look like in the long run--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others.Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an Instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice.**

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, I'm delving into how to know "when" to set boundaries and a brief overview of general human/relationship rights. I also go into a side-tangent about shame-resilience and negative feedback. ;)This video generally overviews:1. What indicators tell us we may need to set boundaries2. How boundaries can be small, subtle and not always a "bigger conversation" but more of how we address things in the moment.3. What general rights we have in healthy relationships--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others.Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an Instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice.**

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking all about the differences between healthy and unhealthy boundaries AND the biggest barriers people have to setting boundaries.We will cover:1. Biggest obstacles people have shared/have to setting healthy boundaries2. What characterizes healthy boundaries 3. What characterizes unhealthy boundaries / "leaky" boundariesIf you have any specific questions about boundaries, I'd love your feedback -- Happy Wednesday!--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others.Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an Instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice.**

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about all things boundaries. Specifically what they are and how we will be covering different boundary topics over the next couple of weeks. If you have a specific boundary question -- please post a comment or DM me.--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others.Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an Instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice.**

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, I am doing something different. I am asking YOU what would be a mental health question you are interested in learning more about. So far via TikTok the top categories are:1. Boundaries (in all the ways)2. Narcissistic / Toxic Parents3. Trauma & ADHD connectionThis weekend I'll be doing an inventory and creating some series based on the answers I get from you since this is created to help. The more specific, the better. It has been such a blast to connect and engage with y'all. Keep the feedback coming!--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others.Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an Instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice.**

In today's #coffeewithatherapist we are talking about one of the big signs you are making progress in therapy (or healing your mental health concerns).Specifically, I talk about anxiety & depression -- but this often applies to the other complex emotions and disorders people have as well. The path is not linear, and so it is to be expected that we will "relapse" in certain ways and it's important to understand what is healthy emotion and something for us to pay attention to.Tune in to learn more!--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others.Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an Instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice.**

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about the fear of abandonment.1. Where it typically stems from 2. How it shows up in relationships3. What core things we must work on / develop to heal our fear of abandonment--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others.Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an Instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice.**

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, I am going to delve into talking about what I consider the "hardest" or worst part of therapy and the growth process. It may not be what you think, and is something that I often warn my clients about. Even though this part is difficult, it is 100% worth it in the long run.--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others.Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice.**

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, I was inspired by my own struggles and others inquiring about how we might navigate COVID-19 mandates of wearing a mask & other changes with our mental health in tact. And how we can be kind to ourselves and those who are enforcing it. I'll be addressing the following:1. My own psychological struggles with mask-wearing and how I've navigated them2. Gaining big picture perspective 3. Owning our power in how we respond4. Doing what's the least stressful for ourselves, others, and our financial, emotional, and physical wellbeing5. Celebrating the little things and rebelling in ways that are positive "i.e. wearing sassy, colored masks"I'd love to hear your thoughts and questions on this one. I started with a not-so-great perspective and shifted as I was able to gain perspective and realize that my ego was often navigating my frustration. I am not a medical expert or political expert, my only hopes in this video is to discuss the psychology around our responses to mandates and change during COVID-19.--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others.Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice.**

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about the ways we can identify or connect the dots when it comes to our behaviors that indicate that we've had trauma.FIRST - I'd recommend working with a professional that specializes in trauma, as these things can be complex, and often our brain can shield us/encodes trauma memories different than other memories (and there's a good reason for that).Some reasons we may struggle to connect the dots:1. Trauma memories are encoded differently2. Often childhood trauma is invalidated and normalized "every kid gets bullied"3. Intergenerational trauma (trauma that happened to the generations before us) can often be passed down in subtle waysTune in to learn more!--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others.Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice.**

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about the different free/low cost and accessible options for healing trauma and mental health problems if you don't have access to good, affordable mental healthcare.First, I want to say that I will always advocate seeing a therapist/a professional (if it's possible) as the best option. However, I also realize that this is not accessible to all and so I wanted to answer questions on my TikTok from people in varying situations and living in various places -- how can we heal ourselves / work to heal trauma if we can't see a therapist?In this video I label the 4 ways, including bibliotherapy -- here are some of my personal recommendations that come to mind easily as transformative books/authors:1. The Dance of Anger - Harriet Lerner (and many of her books)2. Loving Him without Losing You - Beverly Engel (and many of her books)3. Mindsight by Dr. Dan Siegel (and many of his other books)4. The Body Keeps the Score by Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk5. For relationship trauma/problems, books by Dr. John Gottman6. For perfectionists, Type As, and givers -- The 10 Gifts of Imperfection by Brene BrownOther authors: Peter Levine, Dr. Gabor Mate (for addiction help), Dr. Anita Johnston for Eating Disorders and Body Image.I'd love to hear your feedback and any recommendations you might add as well as things we can do or books that helped you on your healing journey.--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others.Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice.

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking all about what differentiates trauma from a traumatic event and covering questions like:1. Why can two people experience the same trauma and only one have PTSD?2. What is secondary trauma?3. What determines if a traumatic event will become trauma or ptsd?4. What are resources that buffer or create resilience with traumatic events?--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others. Bc, self confidence is sexy ;)Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice.***

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about the various ways trauma shows up in our romantic relationship (inspired by an awesome Q on my TikTok (@jennyannhelms)Here are some of the ways that I will go into detail about:1. Difficulty with trust or affection2. Clingy, needy behaviors3. Overly independent or avoidant behaviors4. Oscillating between the two extremes of needy behaviors and avoidant behaviors5. Negative view of self or being overly critical of partners6. Fear of losing independence / commitment7. Fear of abandonment--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others. Bc, self confidence is sexy ;)Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice.

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about how unresolved trauma shows up in the workplace including these ways:1. Being the office doormat2. Not speaking up for ourselves or setting boundaries3. Taking feedback as harsh criticism and as reasons we fail at the job / part of our self worth4. Being overly hard on ourselves for mistakes or errors5. Not putting ourselves out there by voicing our ideas, applying for jobs, or pursuing self employment--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others. Bc, self confidence is sexy ;)Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice.If you are in need of therapy or counseling services, you can learn more about referrals and resources through my biz page: https://www.somawichita.com/

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about teaching and setting boundaries with kids, what's developmentally appropriate for their brains, and what are some effective ways to still validate their feelings while setting boundaries and structure for them since they don't always know the best ways to set boundaries for themselves. Some resources discussed include: Dan Siegel's work with kids, "The Whole Brain Child" and Henry Cloud & John Townsend's, "Boundaries with Kids"--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others. Bc, self confidence is sexy ;)Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice.If you are in need of therapy or counseling services, you can learn more about referrals and resources through my biz page: https://www.somawichita.com/

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking all about the 3 ways I've seen happiness be a bad, scary, or avoided emotion in my clients and even my own life. I'll also discuss the ways we can heal this and work towards being more comfortable with an emotion many of us claim to want or be seeking.1. Happiness feels scary because we are waiting for the other shoe to drop2. Happiness feels bad because we have guilt about those who are struggling3. Happiness feels uncomfortable because we are used to always being on the go and achieving the next "big goal" or life event (i.e. marriage, kids, job promotion, retirement, etc.)--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others. Bc, self confidence is sexy ;)Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice.

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, I'll be answering the q: "I'm struggling to write my 4th step in my 12 step program. Any suggestions?"I'll discuss ways that we can identify and make peace with our resentments/exhiles and identify some of the parts that often contribute to "acting out" behaviors whether it's with addiction, eating disorders, or some other mental health concern. We all have these parts and it's so important we are able to know what they are, when they show up, and how we can learn what they need to not interject into our lives when we are struggling.Feel free to provide feedback or thoughts! I'm no AA expert, but this is just my take on how we identify and make peace with our parts (and hopefully apply this grace to others who have hurt us in our life when we are ready).--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others. Bc, self confidence is sexy ;)Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice.If you are in need of therapy or counseling services, you can learn more about referrals and resources through my biz page: https://www.somawichita.com/

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, I'll be giving a concrete example of how to create "a goal with soul". You'll learn about how to tie your goals to who you are at your core versus tying your goals to fear, shame, or "shoulds". This is part of the crucial work I do with clients in therapy, and I've seen/experienced this method being an effective, long-term way of setting goals (and finding our sense of direction) for every area of our life.#goals #motivation #selfhelp #therapist--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others. Bc, self confidence is sexy ;)Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice.If you are in need of therapy or counseling services, you can learn more about referrals and resources through my biz page: https://www.somawichita.com/

This is probably one of my favorite #coffeewithatherapist videos because it's such an important topic and has helped many of my clients have "aha" moments. In this video, I will talk about all the subtle (and not so subtle) ways people can exhibit unresolved childhood or relationship trauma. There are a lot of mindsets and red flags that impact the way people see the world and ultimately their quality of life. Tune in to see if you have any of those red flags -- as it may be worth considering if you have some unresolved trauma in your life and the hidden ways it's impacting your day-to-day.#trauma #redflags #unresolved #signs #mentalhealth--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others. Bc, self confidence is sexy ;)Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice.If you are in need of therapy or counseling services, you can learn more about referrals and resources through my biz page: https://www.somawichita.com/

In today's #coffeewithatherpist, we are talking all about anxiety (duh duh duh, queue ominous theme music). I'll be answering the following questions:1. What is normal anxiety vs. an anxiety disorder?2. How do we know if we struggle with chronic anxiety?3. When should we seek help or take it more seriously?4. What does anxiety often get mislabled as?5. What are the hidden signs of an anxiety disorder if we don't realize we are experiencing chronic anxiety? Excited to talk about this very important topic and even share my own quirky anxiety trigger with y'all.#anxiety #anxietydisorders #ptsd #stress--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others. Bc, self confidence is sexy ;)Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice.If you are in need of therapy or counseling services, you can learn more about referrals and resources through my biz page: https://www.somawichita.com/**

Today's #coffeewithatherapist was inspired by the question, "Can I heal my own trauma?" and variations of that question via my TikTok. So happy and glad to share more about this. The short answer? Yes. Tune in to find out more how we heal trauma and what healing trauma means. --Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others. Bc, self confidence is sexy ;)Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: YouTube is NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice. If you are in need of therapy or counseling services, you can learn more about referrals and resources through my biz page: https://www.somawichita.com/**

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about intergenerational trauma. We used to believe that when family members died, that their trauma and mental health died with them. We now understand not just in family systems theory, but also science how trauma that doesn't get resolved gets passed down.The good news? We can heal this trauma and be "gatekeepers" for the generations to come. AND we can have more grace and perspective for our family members that are struggling with their emotional and mental health. I would love your comments or feedback. Happy Tuesday!--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others. Bc, self confidence is sexy ;)Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice. If you are in need of therapy or counseling services, you can learn more about referrals and resources through my biz page: https://www.somawichita.com **

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about an expanded definition of what trauma is, both "little T and big T" traumas and how we know if we have worked through or resolved some of it. Understanding what trauma is a BIG first step in making positive changes in our lives and our relationships. Often people don't realize how much some of the "little T" traumas get in the way of their career, life, spiritual, and relationship success. It's one of the reasons that I believe that many people can benefit from therapy (even when they are not in a "desparate" or "bad" place or feeling like they NEED it).I would love your thoughts and feedback. Happy Thursday!--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others. Bc, self confidence is sexy ;)Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice. If you are in need of therapy or counseling services, you can learn more about referrals and resources through my biz page: https://www.somawichita.com **

Kindness matters. Not just because it's a "nice thing to say" or masked as a way to avoid pain and the hard stuff. Kindness matters. In the research on shame, feelings of shame and being overly negative actually don't create change in the long-run, and often keep people stuck. So when we are looking to make change, make hard decisions, or responding to those who are being negative -- kindness matters. There is a lot of hurt out there -- we all have it inside of us, some more so than others, some we've caused to others. However, when we do things from a place of hurt, we often end up creating more hurt and pain. Kindness still means and empowers healthy boundaries, advocacy, and change. Kindness is not weak. For me, boundaried kindness is what happens when my ego and insecurities aren't driving the bus. Kindness is healing (or at least provides that opportunity even if the other person isn't in a place to absorb it). Kindness matters. --Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others. Bc, self confidence is sexy ;)Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice. If you are in need of therapy or counseling services, you can learn more about referrals and resources through my biz page: https://www.somawichita.com **

Today's #coffeewithatherapist is all about finding a healthy, long-term sense of motivation for recovery or healing for our mental health and personal development. I often see my clients using fear or a "running from" approach to try and motivate themselves to heal, and inevitably when life gets stressful they lose their motivation to keep going. Tune in to learn about a tried and true way of motivating yourself long-term and the foundation for long-lasting healing in therapy and personal development. ---Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE!Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice. If you are in need of therapy or counseling services, you can learn more about referrals and resources through my biz page: https://www.somawichita.com **

Today on #coffeewithatherapist and in honor of #PrideMonth, we are talking with psychiatric NP LaVeta Jarrett about the LGBTQ+ community and mental health, pride month, the importance of doing more than just medicine for psychiatric health, and the family and systemic dynamics of LGBTQ+ mental health. We also just wanted to let you know that there are allied therapy practices, professionals willing and able to learn, and you are not alone. ---Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others. Bc, self confidence is sexy ;)Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: YouTube is NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice. If you are in need of therapy or counseling services, you can learn more about referrals and resources through my biz page: https://www.somawichita.com **

Let's be real. 2020 has been challenging, stressful, and eye-opening for us all. With all of the bad stuff, there is opportunity for growth and beautiful things. In the meantime, many of us our still in the thick of "all the feelings" and it's important we are connected to self-grace and resources. Here's an honest recap of compassion fatigue and how to give ourselves some grace during these uncertain and stressful times (although often the growth is necessary, we must be resourced to grow). ---Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others. Bc, self confidence is sexy ;)Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice. If you are in need of therapy or counseling services, you can learn more about referrals and resources through my biz page: https://www.somawichita.com **

In today's #coffewithatherapist, we are talking about 3 commonly misunderstood or demonized emotions that I see time-and-time again in the therapy room.Tune in to learn more about the positives and usefulness of these emotions and why they are so important we don't simply "bury" them or pretend they don't exist.--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others. Bc, self confidence is sexy ;)Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice. If you are in need of therapy or counseling services, you can learn more about referrals and resources through my biz page: https://www.somawichita.com **

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are discussing the boundary of no longer guessing if others are upset, annoyed, angry or disappointed with us. I discuss the importance of this boundary for our own emotional health/energy and the emotional health of the other person who struggles to express their anger in a healthy way.--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others. Bc, self confidence is sexy ;)Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice. If you are in need of therapy or counseling services, you can learn more about referrals and resources through my biz page: https://www.somawichita.com **

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are delving into the topic of masculinity with Andrew Jamison, LPC. We discuss how masculinity shows up in therapy, it's historical context in American culture (and the "silent soldier"), and both the strengths and weaknesses of our current cultural views of masculinity. Masculinity is present in and impacts both genders. Femininity has strengths and weaknesses as well. We also talk about WHY it's important that people are in touch with and able to talk about their own emotions.--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others. Bc, self confidence is sexy ;)Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice. If you are in need of therapy or counseling services, you can learn more about referrals and resources through my biz page: https://www.somawichita.com **

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we talk about parentified children and how to heal the ways they are in relationships as a response to their early childhood (if unresolved).You may have been parentified if a parental figure relied on you for their emotional, financial, or physical support. This may also be the case if a caregiver relied on you to take care of other siblings, or if you ended up being the emotional go-to or listener in your family.As a result, in adulthood and romantic relationships you may overly function for others, seek partners who aren't emotionally mature/independent, and feel resentment that others ultimately don't give to you in the ways you give to others.-----Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others. Bc, self confidence is sexy ;)Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: YouTube is NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice. If you are in need of therapy or counseling services, you can learn more about referrals and resources through my biz page: https://www.somawichita.com **

9's can space out and forget to do things -- don't take it too personally. They enjoy slowing things down with their partners and simply "hanging out".The best way to connect with 9's is to approach them with calm and meet them at their level of peace. 9's bring big picture perspective to their partners, are great listeners, and engage them in looking at "the simple things in life". However, it's also important that we listen TO them as well and honor the times they do look into their personal wants, needs, and emotions. Nines are incredibly passionate about fairness. They do their best to avoid "conflict" and are more likely to withdraw or be passive-aggressive when they are angry. If you see this behavior, try to connect with them and let them know that you are there for them. See if you can find something that feels fair for both of you and that their opinion matters. .Nines may have a hard time setting boundaries, and instead build up internal resentment (unintentionally) toward their partners. As their loved one, it helps to set boundaries with them and encourage them to do the same. Nines can also need help with feeling supported and encouraged with getting out of their comfort zone. Those in relationship with a nine, often feel valued and supported by their partner, but can struggle with wanting their partner to speak up for themselves. As peacemakers, they add a lot of calm and grounding to the naturally more amped up types of the enneagram.-----Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others. Bc, self confidence is sexy ;)Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice. If you are in need of therapy or counseling services, you can learn more about referrals and resources through my biz page: https://www.somawichita.com **#enneagramtype9 #enneagram9 #enneagram #type9 #thepeacemaker#relationships #love #personalitytypes

Today on #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about Type 8 of the enneagram in relationships!8's like to be in control and have high energy. They are easily goaded into competitions and a non-competitive partner might be annoying to the strong-willed 8. However, a partner who has enough of an edge to stand up to an 8, but enough agreeability to let the 8 have strong opinions without being offended will be an ideal partner.8's can struggle with not wanting to show or admit any "weaknesses", which can lead to a lot of defensive arguing. 8's arguments can cut like knifes when they aren't acting in self-awareness. If your partner is an 8, it's best to understand their aggressiveness as their means of trying to maintain a sense of control and power vs. as a direct threat to the relationship.When in a healthy space, 8's can be the fun, spicy, opinionated significant other who can also act as a great leader. When 8's have a strong purpose they believe in, they will do what it takes to support that purpose and can use their nature for movement and good in the world. Using their energy and zest for constructive projects and constructive relationship goals make them wonderful partners who provide energy, direction, and life to their relationships and the world around them.-----Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others. Bc, self confidence is sexy ;)Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice. If you are in need of therapy or counseling services, you can learn more about referrals and resources through my biz page: https://www.somawichita.com **#enneagramtype8 #enneagram8 #enneagram #type8 #theleader #thechallenger #relationships #love #personalitytypes

Yay for 7's -- I'm totally biased here as a type 7 and I will be vulnerable and state that I can relate to both the good and bad parts of being a 7 (even the embarrassing commitment part). If you want any further clarification, don't hesitate to message me, and I'm happy to share what might be helpful.Type 7's in love: You are high energy, spontaneous, and love to try new things and have experiences. When healthy, they bring positivity, joy, and gratitude to their relationships that permeates even the gloomiest of people. They bring good conversation and positivity to their romantic partners.On the downside, they do not like being tied-down to routines, empty commitments, or rules that don't make sense. This can look like struggling with FOMO about other relationship partners or experiences and struggling with commitment to their partner. They hate to feel as if they are limiting their life in any way, and sometimes this leaks into how they feel about their relationship partners.7's can also struggle with impatience, and wanting their relationship to be more complete and developed than it really is. Learning patience with life and relationships unfolding over time is CRUCIAL for the 7.Lastly, 7's can be a bit impulsive with what they say which can be problematic in the heat of an argument. This can lead to their partner being hurt or not trusting their words if they come back to correct their original version with their more-thought out and often more truthful version.--Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others. Bc, self confidence is sexy ;)Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: YouTube is NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice. If you are in need of therapy or counseling services, you can learn more about referrals and resources through my biz page: https://www.somawichita.com **#enneagramtype7 #enneagram7 #enneagram #type7 #loyalists #relationships #love #personalitytypes

Today on #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about type 6 in relationships! And I share that you can see my funny short videos on the different types on my instagram @jennyannhelms -- check it out if you want something silly in your day. Enneagram type 6 in love:6's desire to feel secure and seek to gain that security through their loyalty in relationships. They are good at working toward building strong, lasting, and stable relationships and value trustworthiness, although they can often struggle to trust others and loved ones at first. 6's when not in a healthy state, may project their own feelings (both positive and negative) onto others. Clear statement of your positionThey identify problem areas -- don't deny them.In relationships they are known for making balanced, thought-out decisions, they are dedicated to working through the hard stuff, and unwavering loyalty. However, they can bother some types romantically because they can take a long time to make decisions and even avoid them (as they go back and forth in their heads), and they have a hard time letting go of unhealthy relationships, They work best with those who show appreciation for them and their loyalty, who remain calm, who are positive focused, not afraid of owning the problems in the relationship, and trustworthy.------Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others. Bc, self confidence is sexy ;)Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice. If you are in need of therapy or counseling services, you can learn more about referrals and resources through my biz page: https://www.somawichita.com **#enneagramtype6 #enneagram6 #enneagram #type6 #loyalists #relationships #love #personalitytypes

In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about type 5's, the observer, in relationships. Type 5 in love: Observers need a partner who won't try to force them to go out to places they hate: crowded parties, loud environments or basically anything requiring a lot of social interaction.You will also prefer someone who is a good listener, as you'll get irritated with having to repeat yourself. It takes a LOT of effort for you to put your thoughts into words in the first place.When you are feeling uncomfortable in social settings, others may perceive you as being "aloof" or as judging them, but really it's your anxiety that keeps you quiet. You need time and space to process your emotions so you'll need a partner who respects that and allows you that time and space. Just make sure to communicate that need to them so they don't see it as rejection.If you don't know what your number is, you can do the Rheti short version via http://www.9types.com/rheti/index.phpor the long version through the Enneagram institute.------Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others. Bc, self confidence is sexy ;)Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice. If you are in need of therapy or counseling services, you can learn more about referrals and resources through my biz page: https://www.somawichita.com **#enneagramtype5 #enneagram5 #enneagram #type5 #enneagramrelationships

Today on this Friday's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking all about type 4's in love.For my type 4's out there: you need a partner who is lighthearted enough to avoid the pitfalls of your depressive moods, since you don't always want to come out of them. You'll benefit by being with someone who doesn't "go there" with you and maintains their own emotional experiences. It's also best you have a partner who lets you do things in your own, creative way without criticism or shame. Highly intuitive, you're best suited with a partner who appreciates your intuition and your ability to read your own and other's emotions. Due to this sensitivity, it's important that your partner also be able to hold space for your emotional experiences and encourage you to process them in a healthy way. Grateful for the incredible gifts and creativity of the 4's, when you flourish you are the innovators and gifted artists that we all envy. You are also in touch with emotions (having a high EQ) without being overwhelmed by them. ------Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at 9:15 am CT or listen to it via the "Yellow Brick Therapy Podcast" (available on most podcasting platforms).Enjoy having coffee with me? SUBSCRIBE to upgrade your relationship with yourself and others. Bc, self confidence is sexy ;)Want me to cover a specific topic or question?1. DM or comment on an instagram post at www.instagram.com/jennyannhelms2. DM me on Facebook or Tik Tok @jennyannhelmsOR3. Watch live and leave a Q in the comments.**DISCLAIMER: Podcasts are NOT therapy or intended to substitute therapy or therapeutic advice. If you are in need of therapy or counseling services, you can learn more about referrals and resources through my biz page: https://www.somawichita.com **