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“Stop and think, why am I having this reaction? And observe instead of being in it.” In this episode, Nick speaks with Lybi Ma about the importance of embracing all emotions, including those that are often deemed negative. They emphasize the need to sit with and process feelings rather than suppressing them, highlighting that experiencing emotions is a natural part of life. What to listen for: It’s important to feel all emotions, not just the positive ones. Emotional acceptance is crucial for mental well-being. Processing emotions can be a daily practice. You don’t have to dwell on feelings forever; it’s about acknowledgment. Sharing feelings with others can foster a deeper connection and greater understanding. “We spend a lot of time negating half of our emotions. We want to feel happy and not depressed or not anxious, or we don’t want to feel anger. Feel these things.” Avoiding “negative” emotions actually gives them more power over us Emotions like anger, sadness, and anxiety are signals, not flaws Trying to feel only happy creates emotional suppression, not healing Feeling emotions fully helps them move through instead of getting stuck Emotional wholeness comes from allowing all feelings, not just the pleasant ones “People stop breathing when they’re tense and in the moment of being reactive to an unhappy situation. And when you stop breathing, cortisol goes up, and you become alert, and you’re looking for the predator. Just breathe and let your body work it out.” Tension often causes shallow or stopped breathing without us realizing it Holding the breath signals danger, triggering a cortisol stress response The body goes into survival mode, scanning for threats that may not exist Slow, intentional breathing helps calm the nervous system naturally Sometimes regulation isn't mental—it's physical: breathe and let the body reset About Lybi Ma Lybi is the executive editor of Psychology Today. In addition to producing the print magazine, she also edits its website and blog platform, which hosts more than nine hundred authors, academic researchers, and journalists. She edited a Psychology Today book series covering topics such as anger, food addiction, and bipolar disorder. She has a blended family of five adult children and lives with her husband in Westchester, New York. 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I’m your host, Nick McGowan. Today on the show we have Libby, how you doing today? Lybi Ma (00:10.338)Good. Thank you for having me. Nick McGowan (00:13.233)Absolutely, I’m excited that you’re here. I told you, I thought you were gonna be really academic and I think you’re gonna be able to tie that in with being an actual human. And I’m excited with all this. So why don’t you get us started? Yes, thank you. Thank you for breathing air with the rest of us. Why don’t you get this started? Tell us what you do for a living and what’s one thing most people don’t know about you that’s maybe a little odd or bizarre? Lybi Ma (00:25.121)breathing. Lybi Ma (00:38.39)I am the executive editor at Psychology Today, and I’ve been there for quite a few decades. Not gonna tell you completely because I don’t want you to know my age. And something that, well, the thing about me is that we take my ex-husband on vacation with us. There you go. Nick McGowan (01:06.644)So I appreciate that you basically just hold the mic there, like about to drop it and like, what do you want to do with this? I feel like there are people that would be like, and here’s some context to it. So I’ve got to ask what, what do you mean? How does that work? Does he physically go with you or is he like in a box? Okay. Lybi Ma (01:22.222)Yeah, he’s, he comes with us. He shows up. We had three weddings in 13 months between my second husband and me. And they’re grown kids. And he came to my stepkids’ weddings and they call him Uncle Carl. Nick McGowan (01:44.628)Cool. That’s really awesome. That is an odd thing that I, unfortunately that I think most people don’t experience. Yeah. Well, this is, this is a good thing to start on too. Cause I’ve actually had this conversation with somebody recently where they’re like, yeah, I’ve got a young kid and the mom and I don’t really, we don’t work, but we work really well together for the kid. Lybi Ma (01:54.211)I gave you one, didn’t I? I gave you one. Nick McGowan (02:10.919)And that was really important. Like I could see him almost like put his foot in the ground. Like this is what we’re doing specifically for a child. That’s not how I grew up. Like my mom and dad, they’re still basically like a town or two apart from each other. They’ll see each other at a bar somewhere and like snarl at each other. Like I am 41 years old, calm down. It’s been a long ass time. However, my dad and his ex-wife are great friends because of the relationship that they had and all that. My dad actually… Lybi Ma (02:29.613)Okay. Nick McGowan (02:40.827)met her husband, shook his hand with a hundred dollar bill and said, thank you. It’s your turn. I’m like, the kahones on that man for that. But that’s an interesting thing that you can actually have that. Now I would imagine, look, you work for psychology today. You’ve probably done a lot of work on yourself and through your relationships and healed through things. But can you give us a little bit of context of like how the heck that works? Lybi Ma (02:48.59)I like that. That’s funny. Lybi Ma (03:07.8)So in the beginning when I first got divorced, I thought, I’m never speaking to this person again. And that lasted for a little while. And I actually worked through his second wife. I needed her to pick up the kids. So as you know, we had a very friendly situation. And I thought, well, this is not really good for the kids. So I think I better. start being more amenable to the whole thing. And I got this job and it helped me. This job, I read a lot of information. Constance Ahrens did research. She did a good book on divorced kids. And basically divorced kids can do well if The parents get along and there’s no conflict in their household. And as long as each parent has a good relationship with the child, they’re probably going to do well. And I will have to say that my children did very well. So yeah, it worked out. And yeah, and it also helps when you have a person like my ex-husband who is very amiable. He wants to be friendly and he has a crazy romance with my husband, a bromance, sorry, not romance, a bromance. They have a thing going on. So there you go. Nick McGowan (04:28.454)awesome. Nick McGowan (04:48.86)Ha Nick McGowan (04:54.473)Which you probably didn’t think like we’re getting a divorce at some point I’ll be married again and he’ll be great friends with my then husband. Like could you have written that you know? Lybi Ma (05:01.13)No, no, I had no idea. No idea. No. Getting along is better. Yeah. Nick McGowan (05:06.097)Yeah. That’s interesting. Yeah. But I, I find it interesting how sometimes we, people can say, there was this period of time and then a period of lapse. And then I realized this thing and then another period and here we are. There was a lot of time in between then and this conversation right now. And even the times where I’m sure you were super frustrated, upset, pissed the whole nine and then maybe I could do things different. And I think sometimes we blow past that because Lybi Ma (05:33.25)Yeah. Nick McGowan (05:39.312)Maybe context isn’t always important in all the situations. However, I want to say it’s pretty much always super important. And that’s really what the purpose of the show is to be able to kind of talk about those tough times. Like you went through a divorce, but you saw it as I’m going to help with the kids. And this is more important for my kids. And now you’re seeing your kids in action from the result of what you guys have done. It’s really hard for people to see the stuff that they need to work on and be open to that, especially when they’re in a really, really difficult time going through it. or post divorce or something like that. Now, how does that tie into the work that you’ve done and worked with for maybe just a couple decades? Don’t need to know your age. But being able to actually go through that stuff on your own and then literally work with psychology today and the psychologists and other people doing important work and you being a researcher yourself. Lybi Ma (06:33.026)Well, I’ll be honest with you. First of all, I’m not a researcher. take the researcher’s information and try to put it in accessible language so that people can relate. So you see all this information coming through and everything makes a whole lot of sense. Nick McGowan (06:53.02)sense. Lybi Ma (07:02.38)And I started to apply it to my own life. And it was very helpful. I became a wiser person because I work at this magazine. Yeah. Nick McGowan (07:15.751)Sure. Were there things that you can kind of look back to? Like kind of hovering around the same topic here, because I know it’s important, divorce kids and families and all that, but for you to be able to look back to and say, you know, if I wasn’t in the job that I am in, I probably would have been in different spot because you learn certain things because of the information you were seeing coming to you. And then just putting it into action. Like, is there anything that really stands out to you? Like, if I didn’t learn this. Lybi Ma (07:23.95)huh. Nick McGowan (07:45.233)I didn’t learn it this way, it would have all been different. Lybi Ma (07:48.259)Well, I think that when I was younger and the kids were little, I was newly divorced. I fought with life quite a bit. And I think that is a main message in my book is fighting with life, it just doesn’t work. We have to plug on and not fight with it. I turn to, also turn to, you know, spiritual thought a little bit like Buddhism. Buddhists accept things. This is how it is. So let’s just take this. You can’t change it. So let’s just try to make it work. Work with what you have. So that’s what I did. I worked with what I had. So I take a little bit of psychology and I mix it. My family. Nick McGowan (08:56.134)Little bit of this, little bit of that. Lybi Ma (08:57.198)Yeah, right. My family comes from the Tibetan, Ching Hai Plateau. And it is, Ching Hai is next door to Tibet. And actually, my grandfather was a trader, he had a donkey, and he put all his tea and shoelaces and whatever, know, spices on his Nick McGowan (09:26.704)Yeah. Lybi Ma (09:27.032)donkey and then he would go back and forth from Tibet to Qinghai. And they are, and these people in that area, there’s Tibetan Buddhists and they’re also Hui. The Hui are Chinese Muslims, which my family are Chinese Muslims. They come from that area and they’re very similar. They have a very similar sort of way of thinking. and acceptance is a big part of it. And that didn’t work out. So we better turn over here and see if this is gonna work out. That’s the way it is. Nick McGowan (10:09.637)You yeah. So let’s, let’s talk about that for a bit. Cause that does tie into even just being miserable or not miserable, let alone less miserable. So if we think of like, it’s funny cause I struggle with that at times. I, I curse like a fucking cartoon at different times. Like this thing doesn’t work. I’m like, just making noises and shit. And my partner on the other hand will go completely calm, silent almost and just methodical. Lybi Ma (10:22.67)Yeah, right. Nick McGowan (10:42.717)And it’s a thing that’s, I believe is actually part of her design, how she is. And I can get up at E and Nancy and all that. But then there are also layers to this where there’s trauma involved. There are different experiences, even things back to how our parents related to things. Like my parents would throw their arms up in the air about things. And I learned, I guess I do that. Like I get upset and pissed and like throw my arms up and flail. And my body still reacts at times that way where it’s like, yo, calm down. It’s totally fine. Being able to accept a thing. Lybi Ma (10:57.44)Nick McGowan (11:13.172)in the split second and then start to move in a different direction can be harder for people because of the things that they’ve gone through and even the way that they are. But how have you found to be able to work within the way that you best operate to say, all right, well, I can find acceptance and I can move on from here. Because I think that’s really where, that’s where the change happens is those macro moments where we actually do something. Cause it’s easy for you and I to shoot the shit and talk about this stuff. Lybi Ma (11:22.881)yeah, certainly. Nick McGowan (11:42.073)But it’s in that moment where you’re like, and how you don’t do that. You know what I mean? Lybi Ma (11:42.126)Yeah. Lybi Ma (11:48.493)You know, I never had a moment of epiphany. It just sort of moved along in the right direction. So I’m not going to say, wow, I had this aha that I had to accept things in life. No, was in my mind, I was hanging this guy up by his toes for a long time. So, and I don’t think there’s wrong, there’s anything wrong with doing that. if you have to feel it, then feel it. We spend a lot of time negating half our emotions. And that is something quite important and well studied. We want to feel happy and not depressed or not anxious or Nick McGowan (12:19.897)Yeah. Nick McGowan (12:36.866)Yeah. Lybi Ma (12:46.362)We don’t want to feel anger or I don’t know. Well, you feel these things and okay, feel them. It doesn’t mean that you’re going to lash out and burn a car. No, you’re just going to feel them. Sit there and feel it and watch it. Watch it. Nick McGowan (12:57.507)Yeah. Lybi Ma (13:05.102)with you and then okay well I gotta get up and cook dinner for the family so I gotta get moving here so I’m not gonna sit here and dwell about it. Maybe I’ll make an appointment and that’s another therapy tool. Make an appointment. If you need to feel crummy then okay I felt crummy at 4 30 to 5. I’m gonna do the same thing tomorrow 4 30 to 5 and I’m gonna Nick McGowan (13:13.365)Yeah. Yeah. Lybi Ma (13:33.772)sit with my feelings and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. Nick McGowan (13:36.109)Yeah. Nick McGowan (13:40.544)I’m right there with you. I think it’s important for us to feel that stuff where if you think about where we’re at right now, almost 2026 with technology and the amount of information, like we see all these things like social media, for example, you hop on, you see somebody doing this big thing, but you don’t have the context of all the other things that have happened before that or even 20 minutes before that when they’re screaming at somebody to get out of their way in the grocery store or whatever. And it’s like, This is what I said to you, I appreciate you being human because that moment where you’re like, this really hurts. I still got to make dinner for these people. We all got to eat tonight. Let me do that. And let me not also then just drag that out. And I find having the amount of conversations I have with people on the podcast and outside of that with clients, just random people that I come into contact with, it’s always interesting to me how somebody will, we want to always put up a better face than what’s really going on. Lybi Ma (14:17.102)Yeah Nick McGowan (14:38.499)And you also don’t want to just be completely shitty and just the world is on fire and totally. people have seemed to have a hard time finding equanimity within themselves to then be able to have a conversation outside of that. And it sounds to me like what you’ve experienced that a lot of us have, where it’s like over the course of time, the rock just gets smoother because the water was going over it. You finally go, okay, it’s been six months. I’ve been upset about this for so long, but some people still. Lybi Ma (15:05.486)Exactly. Nick McGowan (15:07.296)they still just keep going with that hatred for it, which I guess is kind of a different topic. But your book with being less miserable. Lybi Ma (15:15.404)No, think hatred is, no, hatred is important. I mean, if you’re gonna wallow in it, that’s probably not good, but sometimes anger, good anger used constructively will make you do things that are important in life. But hating people outright, I don’t know. I’m not too sure about that. Nick McGowan (15:25.954)Yeah. Nick McGowan (15:35.394)Yeah. Nick McGowan (15:43.811)Yeah, there are enough of those people that are sitting in an office. The rest of the government shut down right now. yeah, it’s interesting because I think that’s where I was headed with the wallowing in it. Like any of this, you don’t want to wallow in it, but you do need to sit in it. Like I’ve had conversations with people that they have a really hard time. It’s like the stove is too hot to even get close to touch it. And then there are other people that like they can put their entire body on it. Lybi Ma (15:50.894)my goodness. Nick McGowan (16:13.142)They can roll around on it like a bed of needles almost, you know, and just sit there. I find that that’s an interesting thing because that’s part of maybe their design, but also they’ve gotten to a point, some of them, where they go, look, I can’t do anything outside of the stuff that’s happening. So I can only do something with what I have here. So why waste my time anymore? Like they’ve wallowed enough or they’ve gone through enough of it. Lybi Ma (16:36.031)Right, right, right, right. Yeah. Nick McGowan (16:40.054)But how does this tie back into the stuff that you talk about specifically with miserable? Like that was part of the reason why I wanted to have you on here. was like, the word miserable is one of those things where there’s not really anything pleasant to it. It’s just fucking miserable. Like here we are. Lybi Ma (16:54.638)It’s the truth. Because we put the Western society puts a lot of weight on happiness. Happiness has to be a goal. And everybody runs around with their bucket lists and they have to do this and that to be happy. Well, no. Sure, you’re gonna go and see the Northern Lights. That’s nice. And you’re gonna be happy. But then you come down to your set level of mood that is well studied. We go up, we come down. grumpy people are in a certain spot. More upbeat people are up here and they move higher, but they always move down to their set level. And that is a hedonic adaptation. We just come back down to where. where we are in life. So the word happiness is not on my book cover because, you know, it’s, we should feel okay about not being happy all the time. That’s all there is to it. We’re not going to reach that crazy happiness all the time. It’s just not, I don’t think that’s realistic. I would rather be. Nick McGowan (18:22.177)Great. Lybi Ma (18:23.02)I want to be practical. And the other part is when we judge how we feel, I’m not happy, I must be a loser. any time you judge this feeling that you’re having, well, guess what? People have studied that and you kind of feel worse. You feel worse because you’re judging it. Nick McGowan (18:25.141)Yeah. Lybi Ma (18:50.766)It’s a funny thing. Yeah, I think it was came from UC Berkeley, researchers there. Yeah, you’re gonna sit there and say things about yourself that are not true. You’re making them up really. You’re gonna feel worse. So I don’t think we should try to be happy all the time. We can just. Nick McGowan (18:51.403)Yeah. Lybi Ma (19:18.604)be practical and just own up to all these things that we feel and not judge them. Nick McGowan (19:26.305)Obviously easier said than done for a good chunk of people. But that is, it’s such a critical piece where it’s like, if we, if we spend that time, like I know I’ve done this personally, where being angry or upset about something, you feel like you’re being active in it, but you’re just being animated in it. And you just keep going deeper and deeper down. I would spiral in that many, many years ago. And then learning from it, you go, Yeah, you can reach a point where you go, I’m just kind of bored with this. And this doesn’t make any sense to do this anymore. So why would I do that? But we do see stuff where people are talking about all the success that they had and the 15 year overnight success sort of situations where it’s like, if this person’s happy constantly, cause that’s all they post or whatever. And stepping outside of that, actually being within ourselves. I’d love that you’d said that you’re more in the country than you are with everybody else and being by yourself and being away from people, I would imagine you then have more time to actually be able to say, how do I feel right now? And do what you want with it instead of saying, well, I’m told I need to do something different, you know? Lybi Ma (20:39.95)Right, right. Well, who’s telling you to do it, first of all? Which one? I don’t know. I don’t know. I don’t know. Nick McGowan (20:44.794)Yeah, well, sometimes it’s, Yeah. One of the voices, one of the many up there. So what actually led you to start the process to write the book? Did you just get so frustrated within yourself of like, have to put this out there? Did this kind of come up organically? Lybi Ma (20:55.69)Yeah, I don’t know. Lybi Ma (21:07.944)No, well, you know, I got over my… Lybi Ma (21:17.366)negative feelings about divorce and all that. And I moved on and plugged on. So that was good. I just, every time I read a new piece of research, I would squirrel it away. And I thought, yeah, that goes with the feelings that I had back then of being miserable. So I would squirrel it away. And then when COVID happened, I watched people. and they were interesting to watch. Some people did very well. Some people did very poorly. And I don’t want to get into a conversation about the introvert and the extrovert, whatever. I’m just talking about emotions and sitting with them generally, because even introverts need people. We’re all social. So that’s not really part of what I’m talking about. I just watched all of it and I thought, you know what, I think I have enough information here to write a book. So COVID sort of pushed me a little bit. Nick McGowan (22:31.231)Thanks, COVID. Yeah. Lybi Ma (22:32.398)I guess so. I don’t know. I don’t know. I don’t know about that. Yeah, people were, I watched people and they had a lot of, you know, negative reaction to a negative thing that was happening. They were told to stay at home and then, and then get into a loop of bad feelings. It just went on and on and on. And I found that the thoughts that they had were quite irrational. And that is something also well studied. The brain is not very logical. It also has a very negative bias. are evolved into thinking negatively. Yeah, ancient man needed to be worried about predators and being eaten. They needed to be alert. is that a bad thing around the corner that’s going to eat me? Well, we the human brain has not changed that much. And we still do it. did that person insult me? And we got Nick McGowan (23:56.958)Yeah. Lybi Ma (23:57.535)And then you start doing this thing and it’s very, very not rational. It’s not positive. It’s pretty negative. And you just keep going in this distorted fashion. these negative things have a lasting impression and positive things are less important. And there was an interesting study where researchers Nick McGowan (24:03.496)Yeah. Lybi Ma (24:27.102)showed study subjects photographs. people on a roller coaster maybe or something neutral like a hairdryer and a gun pointed at you and people remember the gun. So negative things have a lasting impression. And this bias that we have, it makes sure that we hold on to our insults and grievances. We do a lot of things in our head that are irrational. Jump to conclusions, my date hated me, a fortune teller. Why would they even call me back anyway? Mind read. Nick McGowan (25:09.854)Yeah. Lybi Ma (25:22.39)I know that you’re thinking about me and it’s bad, all or nothing. I will not be happy until the end of time. Those sort of things. We do these things over and over and over to ourselves. really it doesn’t seem to be helping. Nick McGowan (25:44.625)No, but we all, I think, are somewhat addicted to it. And we don’t think that other people go through it. It’s almost like when we say, well, this person’s looking at me or what are they thinking about me? They’re probably not. And if they did, they noticed something and then they’re thinking about themselves. Like, I had that same jacket. Do I look like an asshole in that jacket? Is that me? And they’re off thinking about themselves. Meanwhile, both of them are like, my God, what are they thinking? Lybi Ma (25:49.761)Yeah, yeah. Lybi Ma (25:59.139)That you’re right. Lybi Ma (26:09.368)They’re so right. You are so right. They’re too busy thinking about themselves like we are too busy thinking about ourselves. It’s just we’re worried about how we look, how we appear. Did I say that? was it stupid? Did I sound stupid? whatever. Nick McGowan (26:19.911)Yeah. Nick McGowan (26:27.71)I think there’s a bit of a caveat though, because there are also times where we can grow from that stuff, because we can say, the situation in this whatever office or this call or whatever didn’t go the way that I wanted to, what could I have done differently? Like sort of watching game tape in a sense on yourself, but not beating yourself up with it and not in every single situation. Lybi Ma (26:51.278)Yeah, that part. Nick McGowan (26:54.235)Yeah, and being like, all right, well, what can I learn from this? What can I do a little differently? There’s a power within that, but then also removing the nonsensical shit. I’ve gotten to the point where I probably talk to myself more so than I did before and be like, easy there, asshole, calm down. Because like, random noises will come from other rooms, it seems, in the back of my head. Like, you can’t do that. You look like an asshole, that jacket. I’m like, shut up. Like, let me just kind of go. But being able to understand that there’s a balance to learning and growing and being able to review things and say, could I do a little differently? And beating yourself up can be a razor’s edge. But what kind of advice do you give for people that are trying to figure that stuff out? And they obviously don’t want to be miserable, but they’re also sort of addicted to that feeling of it because they’re so used to it, you know? Lybi Ma (27:50.062)One of the main things that I’ve read We have to be more aware that we’re doing it. and speak to ourselves. maybe in the third person. Libby’s doing that again. She’s disappointed and it’s turning into this thing. And now that distorted thinking is taken off. Okay, Libby, stop that. We have to be aware and point it out. So great research from University of Michigan. Nick McGowan (28:12.177)Yep. Lybi Ma (28:35.15)you observe. And that’s Buddhist to me. You observe this thought and meditation is a little like that. there’s a thought, watch it go by. That’s nice. Whatever. It’s a thought. It’s not real. And a lot of times our thoughts lie to us. So don’t do it. at least if you if you keep doing it, know that you’re doing and then in addition to that, you label it. So if it’s a feeling, well, Libby is angry at not right now because XYZ happened and she’s going to hold on to this grievance and nurse that grievance until whenever. Okay, that’s nice. You know, you’re doing that again. So We label how we feel. I’m feeling sad right now. That’s good. I’m feeling angry right now. And talk to yourself a little bit, but not in a, you say, beat yourself up mode. And then you turn to self-sabotage. So you want to numb yourself. It goes into this cycle of… Nick McGowan (30:02.747)Yeah, vicious cycle. Lybi Ma (30:04.502)Yeah, yeah, turns into a cycle. You beat yourself up and it leads leads to this negativity and you’re not very nice to yourself. So that’s another thing. Self-compassion is very important. Water research on that. You want to count right. You want to be compassionate to your to ourselves and breathe while you’re being compassionate. Nick McGowan (30:21.915)Yeah, grace with ourselves even. Lybi Ma (30:34.626)People stop breathing and when they’re tense and in the moment of being reactive to an unhappy situation and when you stop breathing, well, cortisol goes up and you become alert and you’re looking for the predator. No, you know what? Just breathe and let your body work it out. It’s not bad. Nick McGowan (30:36.815)Yeah. Nick McGowan (30:52.165)Yeah. Nick McGowan (31:03.226)I love this sort of stuff. I love that we’re able to get into this because I know there are other, I don’t want to talk bad about any podcasts or other people’s interviews or anything like that. But there are conversations out there that are very surfacey where it can talk about, yeah, you want to be aware and you want to look at these things and then do some with it. You want to show grace to yourself. And we also need to talk about when it’s really difficult to do that because even in like the moment you just said where you stopped breathing. scientifically, that takes oxygen away from your blood. Your blood is no longer moving oxygen through the rest of your fucking body. And your brain is a part of that. So it’s like science-wise, that makes sense. I think there’s also a balance of not just saying, I’m aware of this thing and if I’m shitty again, then so be it. I’m aware of it. It’s doing something with it, not beating yourself up and still being able to understand that I can’t bypass this. Lybi Ma (31:37.538)Right. Nick McGowan (32:02.521)Because I think that’s where the happiness stuff comes in. If you’re feeling bad, just go be happy. cool, great. Fuck the trauma and all the other nonsense that I absolutely need to process out of my body. Let me just go be happy. And then you go be happy and you do a thing and you go, like you said earlier, right back to your own little status quo and you go, shit, I am still a miserable bastard. What do I do from here? Let me look for another happy thing. And you’re like, off to do it again. Just bypassing the bullshit, you know? Lybi Ma (32:10.574)I Lybi Ma (32:28.846)Right. doesn’t really, you always go back to where you were. Nick McGowan (32:37.294)Yeah, awareness is such a big thing that my logical and smart-ass mind thinks, well, that makes total sense to me. Because if you’re not aware, how the fuck are you aware? Like if you don’t know a thing’s there, you can’t do anything about it. But that’s really when the work begins. Like you’re aware and you go, I’m aware of this feeling. And I’m glad that you brought up the next part of that being naming it. That is really difficult for a lot of people to name. Lybi Ma (32:41.046)Yeah. Nick McGowan (33:05.24)what their emotion is. They go, I’m just angry. Really, maybe you’re grieving or maybe you’re really upset that’s not just anger, but it’s a betrayal that happened or something like that. And actually being able to call what it is instead of just going, just a sticker almost. You’re like, and I’m shitty right now and push it off to the next thing and just move along instead of actually doing that work. But that, I don’t know. I feel like I can go. Lybi Ma (33:29.944)Right. Nick McGowan (33:32.557)deep with it because that’s where systems come into play that tell us, don’t do this, just keep working, just keep hustling, keep grinding, keep blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. It makes me almost just wanna fucking throw up in my mouth every time I even think about it. Cause it’s like, we are hurting ourselves, we’re hurting each other and we’re perpetuating it because none of us are just going, time out. Give me a fucking second. What is this? What am I feeling? So talk to us about how the book relates to that. Lybi Ma (34:02.349)Lybi Ma (34:06.018)Sitting with our emotions, you mean? Nick McGowan (34:08.677)And understanding like if you’re feeling miserable and being less miserable is still taking away that but it’s not bypassing it. It’s not letting you bypass it. Lybi Ma (34:17.386)No, no, you have to feel what you feel. Otherwise, it’s not true. You have this feeling and it’s a true feeling and you should feel it. once you do that, you let yourself do that, you will probably break through a bit more to get beyond and be less miserable. You know, you will probably thank yourself. I do. I do. You know, it’s an interesting thing. My husband and I don’t fight very often, but we’ve been through tense, you know, when you move and all that stuff. And yeah, it’s not easy. And I can catch myself. Oh, wait, I’m being reactive at this moment. And I’ll just stop and think, wow, that’s interesting. I’m doing it. I’m doing it at this very moment. And I start talking out loud. all right, hang with me for a minute here while I think about why I’m having this reaction. Why am I having this reaction? What is bringing this up? Nick McGowan (35:39.383)Yeah. Lybi Ma (35:46.219)I think we need to stop because you start spinning in that in a certain direction of negativity and you might as well just stop it and just ask yourself, what’s what is this and observe and instead of being in it, just step outside and and look at it. Yeah. Nick McGowan (35:54.274)Yeah. Nick McGowan (36:07.256)and look at it. Yeah. Huh. And that’s, that’s a simple, like incredible thing though, to say live in the moment, like, hold on, give me a second. I’m feeling something. Let me work through this and come back to you. it’s almost like having a conversation, a heated conversation and saying, I need a second and stepping away. That could be really, really difficult for a lot of people in that moment because you’re so in it, but If you think about any time you’ve ever said that, even to yourself or to your husband or anybody else. Lybi Ma (36:40.942)Mm-hmm. Nick McGowan (36:45.816)Probably most every single time they’ve respected it. Lybi Ma (36:49.686)Yes. Yes, you’re not, you’re not trying to run from the situation. You’re just trying to understand what’s going on inside yourself. And a lot of times when you’re in a fight with a partner or someone, usually it’s person closest to you, because they’re the ones who are gonna forgive you. But usually it’s just sort of, you know, not, it isn’t about that moment. It’s about something else. Something else is going on. Yeah, it brings up some, yeah, go ahead. Nick McGowan (37:33.815)And it’s not… Yeah. It’s not just those people. We often will take it out on the people we love because they’re the closest and they know us the most. And yes, you said they will forgive us, but that doesn’t give us a license to abuse the shit out of them because you’re angry that somebody took the last fucking piece of bread at whatever grocery store or whatever happened earlier. And you’re like, God damn the person closest to me. It’s like, but what do they do? what? Yeah. Lybi Ma (37:51.246)to do that. Lybi Ma (38:00.303)Yeah. Lybi Ma (38:04.682)nothing. They’re just standing there. They’re standing there. I don’t know. They’re just standing there. Yeah. I think one another way to, since you’re looking for ways to counter it, I mean, you know, there’s many things to do, you start being more mindful. So I try to call out my reactivity with being mindful, breathe, I write things down. Nick McGowan (38:10.327)Yeah. Lybi Ma (38:34.67)And I try to be grateful in the moment. You’re having a fight and I try to be grateful to the person I’m fighting with. If you show them grace and your self grace and you’ll get through the dumb fight, whatever it was that you’re, and just go with the flow of things. I don’t mean lay down and just die. What I mean is, Nick McGowan (38:44.47)Sure. Yeah. Nick McGowan (38:54.548)Yeah. Lybi Ma (39:04.301)You. get into the flow of life. And there’s been quite a lot of work on the topic of flow for decades. we move with what is happening. Flow is more complicated than that. mean, it has to do with… Nick McGowan (39:13.056)Yeah. Nick McGowan (39:26.208)Yeah. Lybi Ma (39:33.132)being very, very engaged in what you’re doing. So a writer would feel flow when they’re writing or the piano player is really into the music or even listening to music, you running, you get in the flow, but you can apply the flow theory into life, everyday life. Just go with it. I think that’s important. Nick McGowan (39:58.038)That’s really important. And I appreciate that you point out these things that in some ways, and as I said earlier, there are other conversations that get real surfacey and they go, yeah, go with the flow. Cool. Let’s stop there. Just go with the flow. Being able to be mindful, to talk about these things, even with the gratitude. Like I’ve heard for years and years, people are like, just be grateful and gratitude this and gratitude that and have a gratitude journal, blah, blah, blah. It’s like all those things can be good and helpful if they are good and helpful. If you’re just being Lybi Ma (40:24.192)Right. Nick McGowan (40:25.065)grateful and you’re like, I fucking had this and God, I’m grateful for it. But even in that moment of being grateful that you have a partner to be able to argue with and, and yeah. And then that’ll automatically just disarm you a little bit. Like even as you’re saying that I’m picturing it and picturing, you know, me with my partner arguing about whatever. And to think of that, I just want to hug her because I love her. I love that I have the partner to be able to Lybi Ma (40:29.518)All right. Lybi Ma (40:35.778)Right? A lot of people don’t. Lybi Ma (40:42.755)Yeah. Nick McGowan (40:53.737)bitch can complain about things with or whatever. And it’s like, if we can be aware of that and actually show the grace and do the thing in the moment, instead of just saying, just be grateful and gratitude this and gratitude that. It’s like, fuck your gratitude unless you’re actually gonna do something with it. Because then it’s the moment, that moment right there where you do something with it instead of just saying, well, I’m just gonna go back to my old ways and just be kind of shitty about it. So for the people that are trying to be less miserable. Lybi Ma (41:09.23)Ha Nick McGowan (41:23.375)or trying to just wrap their head around how they can give themselves grace and kind of work through life at their pace instead of just what the rest of the world tells us we should do. What’s your advice for somebody that’s on their path towards self mastery? Lybi Ma (41:40.275)Give yourself a break, please. Good Lord. I don’t know why we have to be so hard on ourselves. And we run around looking for solutions to everything. Well, sometimes, you know, life does work out. It does work out. And I think we don’t have to make it harder. Nick McGowan (41:42.793)Nice. Lybi Ma (42:09.774)We make it harder, we fight with life, and I think we can watch it a little. Doesn’t mean that we should not be proactive and move forward and reach our goals, but we can calm down a bit about how we treat ourselves, and you will be less miserable. Nick McGowan (42:35.093)I love that, especially like the come down. Like that’s the vibe I got like right off the bat. Chill out, give yourself a break. Just relax. It’s not the end of the world. And yeah, just chill out. Lybi Ma (42:39.95)Yeah. It isn’t. It is not the end of the world. Bad things do happen and it feels like it’s going to be the end of the world, but actually things do work out. Yeah. Yeah. Right. Right. Nick McGowan (42:55.379)Yeah, divorces. You know, the people that have gone through it, you understand that. I had different people when I got a divorce, they were like, man, I was in bad shape for years. And I was like, well, that sucks. I don’t want to go through that. And I’m like, well, I didn’t get a, I didn’t get married to get a divorce, but I didn’t get a divorce to die. So, and I’m thankful it happened. I mean, I wish her the best, but I wouldn’t have my partner now. I wouldn’t have my business and all the other things that have come from it. Lybi Ma (43:06.296)Right, right. Lybi Ma (43:14.927)Right. Nick McGowan (43:24.777)But I want to touch on something you pointed out where it’s like, give yourself a break, the things will work out and things happen. I was actually sort of joking, but sort of like, this is just a mind fuck of a thing with my coach recently, where I understand that the right things happen at the right times. Always. It’s actually an affirmation of mine. It’s the anxiety before and the anxiety after that exact one moment. Because that one moment is where like, these things happen at the right time. Like, look. Lybi Ma (43:50.828)Okay. Nick McGowan (43:54.45)And I’ve seen it happen. Like it lines up where it’s like, I couldn’t have scripted this. God was like, this is how this thing’s going to work. And it’s like, that’s incredible. But there’s anxiety for the 98 % before and all the other stuff after it, where it’s like that one moment. But that one moment happens and happens more often than not, know? So it’s just a weird little situation that we can get lost in all the other minutia of it. Lybi Ma (44:17.825)Right, right. Nick McGowan (44:23.912)So I appreciate you being as real as you are. I’m like, just calm down, chill out. It’ll be okay. Lybi Ma (44:24.152)Right. It’s gonna be okay. I wish I told my, knew that when I was younger. It’s gonna be okay. It will be. Nick McGowan (44:36.616)Yeah. Hmm. Yeah. And just like, if you could go back and talk to your 18 year old self, what would you say? And I think most people probably say it with a fist and then shake them a little bit with whatever, like whatever you’re going to do, don’t. but that’s what this podcast is for. Like, let’s talk about these things because we’re all going through it. Like, let’s not shy away from that. We all go through this stuff. So, Libby, I really appreciate you being on today. I appreciate the work that you’re doing. Lybi Ma (44:51.224)Hahaha Lybi Ma (45:03.894)All right. Nick McGowan (45:05.208)and you’re putting out the books that you are and just that you’re able to work with that information that’s coming to you and help spread that out and being as real as you are. So thank you for being here. Of course, and before I let you go, where can people find you and where can they connect with you? And of course, where can they get the book? Lybi Ma (45:14.882)Thank you. Lybi Ma (45:22.478)Well, of course, I’m on Psychology Today. You’ll find me there on the website. And you’ll find my book on the, you know, any major source like Amazon or Barnes & Noble, that sort of thing. Nick McGowan (45:44.541)Perfect. And I’ll have some of those links in the show notes too. So again, thank you so much for being with us today. Appreciate it. Lybi Ma (45:50.933)Thank you.

WESTCHESTER AND THE AMERICANIZATION OF JUDAISM Colleague Josh Hammer. Growing up in a secular Jewish environment, dropping out of Hebrew school, and the later discovery of conservatism and Edmund Burke leading to religious observance. NUMBER 21936 RAMALLAH

IWP Ep98 Kevin Ferguson and Mark Golodetz - Gemello Winery and the Judgement of Paris Anniversaries. My guests today are Kevin Ferguson, a writer who grew up in the hills of Mountain View, near where his grandfather Mario ran the Gemello Winery for nearly 50 years.  Today we're discussing the Judgement of Paris and especially the 25th and the 50th anniversary tastings.  A 1970 Gemello nearly swept a 25th anniversary tasting.  Kevin is writing a forthcoming book about his family and you can follow along on his substack at gemello.substack.com.  I also had a phone conversation with Mark Golodetz, a former European Correspondent for the Wine Enthusiast and the organizer of the 25th and 50th anniversary tastings.  The 50th taking palace on Feb 1st in Westchester. Check out Kevins substack, the Centanarrian playback at gemello.substack or follow him at gemellowinery on instagram and stay tuned for the results of the 50th anniversary tasting.Follow the podcast ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.instagram.com/indiewinepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or email indiewinepodcast@gmail.com with questions, comments or feedback. Please rate or subscribe or if you are able consider making a donation to help me keep telling wine stories ad free and available for everyone. -⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.patreon.com/IndieWinePodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/indie-wine-podcast/id1673557547⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/06FsKGiM9mYhhCHEFDOwjb⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/indiewinepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

The Business Council of Westchester kicked off the year in style with its BCW New Year Blast, held on Wednesday, January 7th at the Greentree Country Club in New Rochelle. This signature seasonal networking event brought members together for an energetic evening filled with great music, delicious food, and refreshing beverages, all set against a warm and welcoming atmosphere. It was a wonderful way to launch 2026, offering the perfect opportunity to celebrate with fellow members, spark new business connections, and strengthen existing relationships. The New Year Blast once again highlighted the power of community, collaboration, and connection that defines BCW.Westchester Talk Radio was on hand to capture the energy of the evening, highlighting the connections, conversations, and sense of community that define BCW events. Host Bob Marrone spoke with Brian Primes, Director of Sales for Brophy Bros. Fruits & Vegetables, about Brophy Bros. Fruits & Vegetables and the company's longstanding commitment to quality and service. Brian highlighted the importance of strong supplier relationships and fresh, reliable products.

The Business Council of Westchester kicked off the year in style with its BCW New Year Blast, held on Wednesday, January 7th at the Greentree Country Club in New Rochelle. This signature seasonal networking event brought members together for an energetic evening filled with great music, delicious food, and refreshing beverages, all set against a warm and welcoming atmosphere. It was a wonderful way to launch 2026, offering the perfect opportunity to celebrate with fellow members, spark new business connections, and strengthen existing relationships. The New Year Blast once again highlighted the power of community, collaboration, and connection that defines BCW.Westchester Talk Radio was on hand to capture the energy of the evening, highlighting the connections, conversations, and sense of community that define BCW events. Host Bob Marrone spoke with Chereese Jervis-Hill, Founder and CEO of Events To Remember, who discussed the passion behind Events To Remember and her approach to creating memorable, meaningful experiences. She spoke about the importance of creativity, detail, and collaboration in event planning. 

The Business Council of Westchester kicked off the year in style with its BCW New Year Blast, held on Wednesday, January 7th at the Greentree Country Club in New Rochelle. This signature seasonal networking event brought members together for an energetic evening filled with great music, delicious food, and refreshing beverages, all set against a warm and welcoming atmosphere. It was a wonderful way to launch 2026, offering the perfect opportunity to celebrate with fellow members, spark new business connections, and strengthen existing relationships. The New Year Blast once again highlighted the power of community, collaboration, and connection that defines BCW.Westchester Talk Radio was on hand to capture the energy of the evening, highlighting the connections, conversations, and sense of community that define BCW events. Host Bob Marrone sat down with Faith Ann Butcher, CEO at Latino U College Access, to discuss Latino U College Access and its mission to expand educational opportunities for Latino students. She highlighted the organization's impactful programs, community partnerships, and dedication to college readiness and success. 

The Business Council of Westchester kicked off the year in style with its BCW New Year Blast, held on Wednesday, January 7th at the Greentree Country Club in New Rochelle. This signature seasonal networking event brought members together for an energetic evening filled with great music, delicious food, and refreshing beverages, all set against a warm and welcoming atmosphere. It was a wonderful way to launch 2026, offering the perfect opportunity to celebrate with fellow members, spark new business connections, and strengthen existing relationships. The New Year Blast once again highlighted the power of community, collaboration, and connection that defines BCW.Westchester Talk Radio was on hand to capture the energy of the evening, highlighting the connections, conversations, and sense of community that define BCW events. Host Bob Marrone spoke with Gina Cappelli, Managing Partner at Femm Parlour, about the vision behind Femm Parlour and its commitment to empowering women through wellness, beauty, and community. She shared insights on the importance of creating intentional spaces where clients feel supported, confident, and inspired.

The Business Council of Westchester kicked off the year in style with its BCW New Year Blast, held on Wednesday, January 7th at the Greentree Country Club in New Rochelle. This signature seasonal networking event brought members together for an energetic evening filled with great music, delicious food, and refreshing beverages, all set against a warm and welcoming atmosphere. It was a wonderful way to launch 2026, offering the perfect opportunity to celebrate with fellow members, spark new business connections, and strengthen existing relationships. The New Year Blast once again highlighted the power of community, collaboration, and connection that defines BCW.Westchester Talk Radio was on hand to capture the energy of the evening, highlighting the connections, conversations, and sense of community that define BCW events. Host Bob Marrone caught up with Jennifer Flowers, Founder and CEO of Accreditation Guru, to talk about Accreditation Guru and its role in helping organizations navigate complex accreditation processes. She shared how her team supports healthcare and education organizations in achieving compliance and excellence.

The Business Council of Westchester kicked off the year in style with its BCW New Year Blast, held on Wednesday, January 7th at the Greentree Country Club in New Rochelle. This signature seasonal networking event brought members together for an energetic evening filled with great music, delicious food, and refreshing beverages, all set against a warm and welcoming atmosphere. It was a wonderful way to launch 2026, offering the perfect opportunity to celebrate with fellow members, spark new business connections, and strengthen existing relationships. The New Year Blast once again highlighted the power of community, collaboration, and connection that defines BCW.Westchester Talk Radio was on hand to capture the energy of the evening, highlighting the connections, conversations, and sense of community that define BCW events. Host Bob Marrone spoke with Joe Russo, Founder and CEO of B-25 Security Advisors, about B-25 Security Advisors and the firm's focus on proactive, customized security solutions. Joe discussed the importance of preparedness, risk assessment, and leadership in today's complex security environment.

The Business Council of Westchester kicked off the year in style with its BCW New Year Blast, held on Wednesday, January 7th at the Greentree Country Club in New Rochelle. This signature seasonal networking event brought members together for an energetic evening filled with great music, delicious food, and refreshing beverages, all set against a warm and welcoming atmosphere. It was a wonderful way to launch 2026, offering the perfect opportunity to celebrate with fellow members, spark new business connections, and strengthen existing relationships. The New Year Blast once again highlighted the power of community, collaboration, and connection that defines BCW.Westchester Talk Radio was on hand to capture the energy of the evening, highlighting the connections, conversations, and sense of community that define BCW events. Host Bob Marrone spoke with Robert Cioffi, CEO of Progressive Computing, who shared how Progressive Computing helps organizations stay secure, efficient, and future-ready through innovative IT solutions. He spoke about the evolving technology landscape and the importance of trusted partnerships. 

Maria in Westchester calls Curtis to ask if Zohran Mamdani will be taking the oath of office with his hand on the Constitution. Tony in White Plains, NY, calls in to share that he used to think up funny names to call people before Curtis did, back at Curtis's predecessor radio station.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Maria in Westchester calls Curtis to ask if Zohran Mamdani will be taking the oath of office with his hand on the Constitution. Tony in White Plains, NY, calls in to share that he used to think up funny names to call people before Curtis did, back at Curtis's predecessor radio station.

Pastor Linda Warren delivers our Christmas Eve message from Isaiah 9:1-6. Drama Evangelist Rich Swingle opens with a dramatic reading of the passage.  Click the arrow below, or if you're reading this in an email you can click this link, to play the service: This service is available for download free on iTunes, where you can also subscribe to our podcast. Search for "Westchester Chapel" on the iTunes Store. If you want to know more about starting a relationship with Jesus Christ visit www.WestchesterChapel.org/salvation.

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Glynda McConville, an orthodontist from North Carolina who's built not just a well-balanced clinical life, but also a purposeful second business. We talk about her journey from New York to North Carolina, building a lifestyle-focused ortho practice across two locations, and how her love for CrossFit turned into a thriving side hustle that fuels her energy and sense of purpose.This is a down-to-earth, real-world conversation about how to design a practice around the life you want—and not the other way around. Glynda shares how she manages 70+ patients a day across three days a week, runs a team that travels between offices, and coaches at her own gym. We even get into the lessons she's learning about community, growth, and maybe… opening a pickleball facility next.Quotes:“I didn't set out to be a big business—I just saw an opportunity and said, ‘If I don't do this, someone else will.'”— Dr. Glynda McConville“CrossFit's been my reset. I needed something different that kept me grounded—and now it's become part of my future.”— Dr. Glynda McConvilleKey TakeawaysIntro (00:00)From Glinda the Good Witch to ortho school: Glynda's early journey (00:31)Culture shock: from Westchester to Chapel Hill to NYC (02:00)Building a 2-location, lifestyle-friendly ortho practice (06:58)Managing a 3-day workweek and 70 patients/day (07:22)Working Fridays to stand out—and what she'd do differently (08:34)“Who Moved My Cheese?” and the psychology of patient routines (10:00)Why she opened a satellite near Fort Bragg (11:38)Sharing staff, equipment, and lessons from managing two offices (14:08)Her entrepreneurial leap: opening a CrossFit gym (15:38)Comparing ortho and gym startups: which is harder? (19:54)Finding and keeping the right team in both businesses (22:09)Member acquisition lessons from social media and referrals (24:04)What's next? Retirement planning, indoor pickleball, and life design (25:17)Additional ResourcesIf you've ever dreamed of launching a second business, scaling your practice without burning out, or building a schedule that works for you—this episode is your blueprint. Glynda proves you don't need to do it all at once… you just need to start smart, stay lean, and know your “why.”

Today on the show, Terry Ryan is joined by Neil Clark! Neil is a retired professional ice hockey player who primarily played left wing in various minor and European leagues between 2006 and 2012. Originally from Burnaby, British Columbia, Canada, Clark was an undrafted left wing who played for several teams in different leagues. He played college hockey for Iona College and Manhattanville and made his professional debut with the Laredo Bucks (CHL) in the 2006-07 season. Neil also played for the Grand Rapids Griffins and Rochester Americans in the AHL. He finished his career playing for the Sheffield Steelers in the Elite Ice Hockey League (EIHL) from 2010 to 2012, retiring in June 2012. Since retiring, Clark has been an owner/operator of Pro Player Camp, a youth hockey camp in the Westchester, NY area, and has worked as a business manager for musician Taylor Momsen. Terry Recieves a CRAZY CALL mid show. TR also talks music and his recent travels You can now watch episodes of Tales with TR on YouTube! Head over to https://www.youtube.com/@THPN to watch the latest episode Check out TerryRyan.ca Welcome to Tales with TR: A Hockey Podcast presented by The Hockey Podcast Network. Join former Montreal Canadiens' first-round draft pick & Shoresy star Terry Ryan, as he talks about the sport of Hockey, brings on various guests, and shares tales of his life and professional hockey career. Why Rememberance Day is EXTRA Important for Terry Ryan Host: Terry Ryan @terryryan20 Network: @hockeypodnet Editor: Isha Jahromi - "The City Life Project" on Youtube Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Pastor Randy Solomon continues our series in Hebrews, The Supremacy of Jesus, teaching from Hebrews 4:6-11. Click the arrow below, or if you're reading this in an email you can click this link, to play the service:  This service is available for download free on iTunes, where you can also subscribe to our podcast. Search for "Westchester Chapel" on the iTunes Store. If you want to know more about starting a relationship with Jesus Christ visit www.WestchesterChapel.org/salvation.

On this episode, Steve Richards interviews book publicity veteran Brian Feinblum, founder of Book Marketing Buzz Blog. and one of the most respected voices in book marketing. They discuss today's publishing landscape, how authors can get published, and what promotional strategies still deliver results.Brian Feinblum, the creator and author of BookMarketingBuzzBlog, was the chief marketing officer for the nation's largest book promotions firm, Media Connect, and has been involved in book publicity and marketing since 1989. He has served several book publishing companies as a publicist, book editor, and acquisitions editor. Brian, who earned a BA in English from Brooklyn College, became a published author in 1995 when he penned The Florida Homeowner, Condo and Co-Op Handbook. He resides in Westchester, New York with his wife, two children, and an 80-pound American Bulldog.#bookmarketing #bookmarketingbuzzblog #podcast #speakingofwriterspodcast

In this episode of Parenting Is a Joke, comedian Emily Walsh talks to Ophira Eisenberg about becoming a parent later in life and being labeled “advanced maternal age” by New York doctors while taking “nightly little baby aspirin” she was told “sometimes works” for reasons no one could explain. She describes meeting her tiny five-pound newborn who arrived a month early with “newborn fuzz” on her ears and back and a full head of hair that proved her pregnancy heartburn was accurate karma for marrying a very “hairy man.” Parenting for the first time at 40 means learning everything on the fly — sometimes quoting TikToks as if they were books — while hoarding three different “booger-sucking robots,” including a hospital-grade model she gleefully uses every morning. She shares postpartum rage (“Don't kill your husband” turned out to be wise advice), frustration with breastfeeding (“barbaric,” she says), and the absurdity of pumping in Times Square between comedy sets because the manager can't comprehend her need to schedule pumping. A broken ankle took away her baby-calming outdoor walks, she hasn't made a “mom friend” yet, and her social circle is still figuring out she's “not dead,” even as she continues podcasting, stand-up, and raising a baby who dressed as Jeff Goldblum from Jurassic Park with her bassinet converted into the Jeep and her husband in an inflatable T-Rex suit.

This episode brings together the science, the medicine, and the lived experience behind BRCA mutations.  Emily Goldberg, JScreen's Director of Genetic Counseling Services, breaks down what these mutations are, how they're inherited, and what the actual cancer risks look like. Dr. Melissa Frey, a GYN oncologist at Cornell who works closely with high-risk families, walks us through what happens after someone tests positive — from screening to risk-reducing surgeries to the big conversations around fertility and timing. We also hear from Heather Boussi, who shares her powerful story of living with both BRCA1 and BRCA2 mutations. She talks about diagnosis, surveillance, surgeries, and how this all shaped her family-building decisions. Lastly, we look at what BRCA means for men, how that journey differs, and why PGT can still be an option. If you or someone you love is navigating this, we close with places to turn for support: JScreen, Sharsheret, I Was Supposed To Have A Baby, and Stardust (links below). It's a mix of expertise, honesty, and heart — the kind of conversation so many people wish they had heard earlier, especially when faced with such difficult decisions.  Note: This episode is the 4th of a series of 5 that we are collaborating on with Jscreen in 2025.  Take a look at our previous three episodes here : Episode 157: Introduction to Genetics and Infertility Episode 166: Fragile X Syndrome: A Silent Factor in Infertility Episode 185: It's Not Just Her: Male Factor Fertility and Genetics Uncovered Resources: Genetics and Personalized Cancer Prevention Program Facing Our Risk Empowered (FORCE) Jewish Fertility Foundation Stardust Foundation Sharsheret JScreen More about Emily Goldberg: Emily Goldberg serves as the Director of Genetic Counseling Services at jscreen, where she is dedicated to helping individuals understand and manage their genetic health. With dual bachelor's degrees in biology and psychology from Brandeis University and a master's degree in Human Genetics from Sarah Lawrence College, Ms. Goldberg has been a certified genetic counselor since 2011. Prior to joining jscreen, she worked at Montefiore Medical Center in the Bronx, specializing in prenatal and cancer genetics. In addition to her role at jscreen, Ms. Goldberg is committed to education, serving as an Instructor at the Albert Einstein College of Medicine and adjunct faculty at Sarah Lawrence College, where she teaches and mentors future genetic counselors. Her expertise and dedication make her a key member of the jscreen team. Connect with JScreen: - visit their website here - check out their Instagram   More about Melissa Frey, MD: Dr. Melissa Frey is an Associate Professor of Obstetrics and Gynecology in the division of Gynecologic Oncology and the Director of the Genetics and Personalized Cancer Prevention Program at Weill Cornell Medicine / NewYork Presbyterian Hospital. Dr. Frey's clinical care and research focus on the management of individuals with hereditary cancer syndromes (e.g. BRCA1, BRCA2, Lynch syndrome) and strong family history of breast and gynecologic cancers. She performs gynecologic cancer risk-reducing surgeries and is the principal investigator on several large trials aimed at cancer prevention among high-risk individuals. Dr. Frey has presented her research at national and international meetings and has more than 130 publications in peer-reviewed scientific journals. Connect with Dr. Melissa Frey: - check out her Instagram - view the Genetics and Personalized Cancer Prevention Program website   More about Heather Boussi :  Heather grew up in Westchester, NY and now lives in Englewood, NJ with her husband and three children. Her personal experience with hereditary cancer risk and genetic testing has made her a passionate advocate for awareness, education, and empowerment in women's health. Grounded in faith and family, Heather shares her story to help others approach life's challenges with strength, perspective, and gratitude. Connect with Heather: - check out Heather's Instagram   Connect with us: -Check out our Website -Follow us on Instagram and send us a message -Watch our TikToks -Follow us on Facebook -Watch us on YouTube -Connect with us on LinkedIn

In this episode, Ophira talks with comic and new mom and comedian Emily Walsh, who shares how she spent her twenties and thirties convinced she didn't want kids, only to find herself writing an Edinburgh show about that exact ambivalence and then trying to conceive between gigs in Atlantic City. Emily describes entering stand-up at 30 after years painting sets for Blue Bloods—so many beige walls she started an Instagram called “Beige Bloods”—and navigating a scene of young men who only acknowledged her existence after she did well onstage. She and her husband weighed whether comedy's unpredictable grind should dictate their future, eventually trying minor-science fertility help because their work schedules kept missing the 18-hour ovulation window. Emily recounts giving birth a month early with the flu, spending twelve hours in a triage room where nurses kept losing the baby's heart rate, avoiding a balloon induction only because she was already three centimeters dilated, and delivering after an emergency episiotomy followed by the infamous “puppet moment” when a surgeon had to reach in by hand to remove her placenta—much to her husband's horror when he asked if she'd please double-check with an ultrasound.

In this Episode, Kelly is joined by CEO of American Christmas: Dan Casterella! He has been the leader of the company since 2017 which is responsible for all of the incredible Christmas decorations around midtown that we know and love.  Kelly starts the episode off by asking Dan about how he started working with the company. Dan talks about how he loved decorating houses for Christmas since he was a kid and how he would even cut class in high school in order to decorate houses! Dan talks about his journey through the company; starting as an installer and working his way up to becoming CEO! He talks about how he runs the company, and what it means to be in a seasonal buisness. Dan talks about how he and his employees deal with the stress of Christmas and what it means for them and their families.  Kelly asks Dan about The Headquarters in Mount Vernon, Westchester. Kelly talks about his visit to the facilities and all of the different iconic fixtures of Christmas in NYC that he got to see. Dan talks about how they let visitors tour the facilities and on the weekends kids take pictures with Santa Clauese. Dan donates all of the proceeds from santa clause to local organizations that help local youth. Kelly asks Dan about instalations. How long they take, what the planning process is like and where they go around the City. Dan talks about some of the world famous fixtures that they do, such as the one at Saks 5th Ave, Radio City Musica Hall and all over 5th and 6th ave in midtown.  Dan talks a bit about the other work that they do all over the country. He tells us which state has the biggest market for christmas in the country, and what the second biggest city that they decorate is.  Jae asks about some more details regarding the creation process, and Dan talks about the two different ways that they work on projects: Clients come to them with the idea that they have to execute, or their prefered way which is doing all of the creating and designing themselves. He talks about what that process is like too. Finally, Kelly asks him what his favorite christmas decoration is in New York and Dan surprises us and says that it's one that he doesn't do!  But above all else; Dan Casterella is a New Yorker.  Kelly Kopp's Social Media:@NewYorkCityKopp American Christmas on Social Media: @AmericanChristmas Jae's Social Media: Studiojae170@gmail.com Chapters (00:00:00) - The New Yorkers: Dan Castorella(00:02:10) - American Christmas: Celebrating the Holidays(00:05:24) - How to Win at Your Job(00:09:21) - How to Create a Holiday Installation in New York(00:14:30) - Santa Claus and the Mount Vernon Christmas(00:15:57) - Christmas decorations on display in New York(00:17:33) - Tree Lighting in New York(00:19:57) - American Christmas Expands(00:21:28) - Christmas in America: Dan Lowe(00:25:08) - How To Put Up a Christmas Tree!(00:28:24) - What is the biggest project that you do?(00:29:41) - Favorite Decorations in New York(00:31:53) - Do You Design Christmas Decorations?(00:34:07) - An Installation With a Proposal(00:36:21) - Saks Fifth Avenue Holiday Display(00:40:34) - The New York City Holiday Decorations(00:42:19) - Favorite Subway Line in New York(00:44:17) - Christmas in New York

Pastor Randy Solomon preaches from Philippians 2 for our Advent series This Is Holy. Click the arrow below, or if you're reading this in an email you can click this link, to play the service: This service is available for download free on iTunes, where you can also subscribe to our podcast. Search for "Westchester Chapel" on the iTunes Store. If you want to know more about starting a relationship with Jesus Christ visit www.WestchesterChapel.org/salvation.

Kimberly in Westchester called Ken to tell him that she is laughing at the caffeine story he mentioned about looking at an article that states caffeine may or may not be the best for you each morning. David in Queens, NY, hit Ken up to let him know that the inflation check NY Governor Hochul sent out is probably to win back votes when she runs in the 2026 gubernatorial election. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Kimberly in Westchester called Ken to tell him that she is laughing at the caffeine story he mentioned about looking at an article that states caffeine may or may not be the best for you each morning. David in Queens, NY, hit Ken up to let him know that the inflation check NY Governor Hochul sent out is probably to win back votes when she runs in the 2026 gubernatorial election.

Learn more about Michael Wenderoth, Executive Coach: www.changwenderoth.comWhen it comes to taking the next big step in your career, some urge you to follow your passions – while others back a more bare-knuckled approach. But there's a third way, says Mary Olson-Menzel, author of the bestseller “What Lights You Up.” In this episode of 97% Effective, host Michael Wenderoth and Mary talk about the key factors that lead to a fulfilling and successful career, and Mary's 10-step pivot process that has helped thousands of her clients at MVP Executive Development. They debate passion, authenticity, networking – and discuss how to create opportunity during turbulent times. If you're struggling with taking the next big step in your career, this episode is for you.SHOW NOTES:Michael was deeply skeptical about Mary and her message, so why he invited her on the showMary's 10-step pivot program and what led her to write her book“The light is not woo-woo… it is all about what's driving you”Mary address the critique that “following your passion is terrible advice” (Newport, Galloway, Wenderoth)The ven diagram of Ikigai that puts passion in its proper placeCore elemants that drove Mary's career successThe role of curiosity when it comes to pivoting with purposeHow to make opportunities “fall into your lap”How to take advantage – and thrive – in chaotic timesIdentifying gaps: a practical and underused way to be helpful to others - and yourselfHow to overcome fear and stay in the driver's seat of your careerCan sharing your passion at work lead to you being exploited (offered lower pay)?How a “personal board of directors” can help you stay on track – and not get taken advantage ofNo one has a crystal ball, which is why you need to shake the bushes: Great questions to ask, before you join a companyDealing with setbacks: Having champions, mentors – and always a Plan BMary's take on authenticity: What it is, what it is notMary's take on why we still get so many terrible leadersQuiet confidence: How to make sure you and your accomplishments are heard and visible, without seeming like a bombastic, self-promoting jerk?Mary and Michael discuss “threading the line”: how to embrace things that are effective, but may initially feel uncomfortableTop tips on building connection in a remote, distributed worldMary's “Networking Power Hour”For younger professionals: Tips for networking with people 2-3 levels above youNetworking tips beyond the time consuming 1-1Success is personal and changes: How do you define it, and what lights you up? BIO AND LINKS: Mary Olsen-Menzel is the Founder and CEO of MVP Executive Development, and the author of the USA Today National Bestseller “What Lights You Up? Illuminate Your Path and Take the Next Big Step in Your Career.” She is a renowned expert in career and workplace success, with more than 30 years of leadership experience with global organizations across media, tech, healthcare, and sports. Mary earned her MBA from Northwestern University's Kellogg School of Business and a Bachelor's degree in Communications and Public Relations from Illinois State University. Mary lives in West Chester, New York, with her husband and family. She is part of Marshall Goldsmith 100 Coaches, and a regular Guest Lecturer on career development, internships, and workplace success at the NYU School of Professional Studies.Mary on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-olson-menzel-mvpexec/“What Lights You Up?” Mary's bestselling book, and free workbook: www.maryolsonmenzel.comMVP Executive Development: www.mvpexec.comCal Newport's book, So Good They Can't Ignore You: https://calnewport.com/writing/Ikigai: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/IkigaiResearch at Duke: How attribution of passion may legitimize the poor treatment of workers: http://dx.doi.org/10.1037/pspi0000190Michael's Award-Winning book, Get Promoted: What Your Really Missing at Work That's Holding You Back https://tinyurl.com/453txk74Watch this episode on video, the 97% Effective Youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@97PercentEffectiveAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this Snack episode, Ophira catches up with author and storyteller Katy Strange, who talks about the very specific chaos of raising two tweens while publishing her debut novel The Manly Man of God. Katy explains how her book's bold, saint-like cover—complete with a mysteriously floating eggplant—has sparked confusion among some readers, including a man at her book launch who sincerely asked if the story involved a farmers' market subplot. She and Ophira dig into the megachurch culture that inspired the book, including the time a stranger on a Vancouver bus tried to flirt with Katy only to pivot into trying to convert her, not realizing she understood church history well enough to corner him with questions about communal living. Katy also shares how writing the novel began during nap-time marathons, how a women's business incubator with drop-in childcare became her creative lifeline, and how her family's “Yes Day” tradition has evolved from toddlers eating crackers on the couch to tweens burning through budgets on Shake Shack, fancy haircuts, and sneaker hunts. And at the end, Katy describes how her 13-year-old now treats Warhammer figurines as a non-negotiable expense, as well as expensive haircuts from the mall salon that is covered in ring lights.

This week on Conflict Managed we welcome Mary Olson-Manzel. Join us as we explore: Mary's new book, What Lights You Up? Illuminate Your Path and Take the Next Big Step Looking for a new job? What now? Reaching out for help Leaning into your natural gifts Healthy conflict Growth mindset: Dealing with roadblocks and difficult bosses Generations at work Conflict Managed is available wherever you get your podcasts and on YouTube @3pconflictrestoration   Mary Olson-Manzel is a renowned expert in career and workplace success. She has over 30 years of leadership experience across various industries, including media, tech, healthcare, and sports, and has worked with many global organizations. She is the Founder and CEO of MVP Executive Development, a national leadership, coaching, and organizational management consultancy with offices in New York, Connecticut, and Illinois. Her clients range from Fortune 500 companies to start-ups with a broad reach of industries, from FinTech to Football (the NFL). As a seasoned executive leadership coach, Mary works with both companies and individuals to unlock their potential, improving business performance and catalyzing growth. Her coaching methods bring a fresh lens to business and a perspective that nurtures teamwork, helping drive results through grace, empathy, and Humane Leadership. Before starting her company in 2012, Mary was a partner at two leading global executive search firms. She also spent a decade at Tribune Company in Chicago, serving as National Managing Director of Talent, where she led a team of recruiting professionals. This is where her understanding and expertise in recruiting and coaching were honed. She worked closely with hundreds of media assets nationwide to attract and retain the best and brightest. Mary currently lives in Westchester, NY, with her husband and family. She is a part of Marshall Goldsmith 100 Coaches, which brings together the world's leading executive coaches, consultants, speakers, authors, iconic leaders, and entrepreneurs. Mary is a regular Guest Lecturer on career development, internships, and workplace success at the NYU School of Professional Studies, Division of Programs in Business. She also volunteers for various local charities. What Lights You Up? Illuminate Your Path and Take the Next Big Step in Your Career is her first book and is a USA Today National Bestseller. For more information, visit www.mvpexec.com and www.maryolsonmenzel.com.   Connect on social media: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-olson-menzel-mvpexec/ https://www.instagram.com/maryolsonmenzel/ https://www.facebook.com/MVPExecutiveCoaching   Conflict Managed is produced by Third Party Workplace Conflict Restoration Services and hosted by Merry Brown.

On November 20th, 2025, 914INC. proudly celebrated 21 remarkable leaders at the 2025 Women in Business Awards Luncheon, held at the elegant VIP Country Club in New Rochelle. This inspiring event honored the women featured in the November/December issue, each representing a wide range of industries and bringing their own stories of exceptional leadership, innovation, and commitment to excellence. Surrounded by colleagues, supporters, and community leaders, the honorees were recognized not only for their achievements, but for the lasting impact they continue to make in their fields and throughout Westchester's business community.Host Joan Franzino sat down with MariaLisa Zywotchenko, Owner and President of Cyrus Contracting, who discussed the challenges and opportunities of leading a successful construction company in today's competitive market. MariaLisa reflected on her journey as a business owner, her dedication to quality craftsmanship, and the teamwork that drives her firm's success.

On November 20th, 2025, 914INC. proudly celebrated 21 remarkable leaders at the 2025 Women in Business Awards Luncheon, held at the elegant VIP Country Club in New Rochelle. This inspiring event honored the women featured in the November/December issue, each representing a wide range of industries and bringing their own stories of exceptional leadership, innovation, and commitment to excellence. Surrounded by colleagues, supporters, and community leaders, the honorees were recognized not only for their achievements, but for the lasting impact they continue to make in their fields and throughout Westchester's business community.Host Joan Franzino sat down with Patty Ferris, Brand Ambassador for Ave Hamilton Green, for a thoughtful conversation about her work and the significance of being part of this year's honoree class. Patty shared insights into the growth of the Hamilton Green project and the importance of representing a brand that's shaping the future of the region.

On November 20th, 2025, 914INC. proudly celebrated 21 remarkable leaders at the 2025 Women in Business Awards Luncheon, held at the elegant VIP Country Club in New Rochelle. This inspiring event honored the women featured in the November/December issue, each representing a wide range of industries and bringing their own stories of exceptional leadership, innovation, and commitment to excellence. Surrounded by colleagues, supporters, and community leaders, the honorees were recognized not only for their achievements, but for the lasting impact they continue to make in their fields and throughout Westchester's business community.Host Joan Franzino sat down with Shirley Viel, Executive Vice President of Publisher Relations for 360 Media Direct. Shirley talked about the rapidly evolving landscape of media distribution and the strategies that have positioned her as a respected leader in the industry. 

On November 20th, 2025, 914INC. proudly celebrated 21 remarkable leaders at the 2025 Women in Business Awards Luncheon, held at the elegant VIP Country Club in New Rochelle. This inspiring event honored the women featured in the November/December issue, each representing a wide range of industries and bringing their own stories of exceptional leadership, innovation, and commitment to excellence. Surrounded by colleagues, supporters, and community leaders, the honorees were recognized not only for their achievements, but for the lasting impact they continue to make in their fields and throughout Westchester's business community.Host Joan Franzino sat down with Stacy Tompkins, Owner of Tompkins Excavation. Stacy explored her experience running a hands-on, fast-paced operation in a field often underrepresented by women. Stacy spoke about resilience, hard work, and the pride she takes in delivering reliable service to her community.

In this episode, Ophira talks with author and storyteller Katy (Katharine) Strange about the tangled realities of raising tweens while untangling a past shaped by evangelical culture. Katy shares how moving 17 times as a kid primed her for reading a room—and for assuming friendships were optional until she realized she wasn't relocating again. She talks about letting her 13-year-old navigate Seattle's public transit with “mixed results,” including surprise solo detours through the city, and about trying to teach her kids religion only to have her son declare he's an existentialist who'd rather stay home and play Halo. Katy also opens up about stepping away from the church, wrestling with belief through therapy, and finding her way back to spiritual curiosity while writing her debut novel Manly Man of God, which pulls from her upbringing in Christian fundamentalism—with zero Cologne-drenched megachurch teenagers harmed in the process. And in the final moments, Ophira asks Katy about her son's readiness for confirmation, prompting Katy to admit that he took one look at her lesson plan and said, “I don't believe in any of this—I'm an atheist,” before returning to his video game.

On episode 531 of The Nurse Keith Show nursing and healthcare career podcast, Keith interviews Danine Bitting, RN, RAC-CT, a Clinical Compliance Specialist with Friends Services Alliance Compliance Collaborative, and Maria Kiwagama, MSN/MHA, CDP, CNDLTC, the Director of Nursing of Barclay Friends' Continuing Care Retirement Community in West Chester, PA. In the course of their conversation, Keith and his guests discuss the Friends Services Alliance Compliance Collaborative's program that supports and mentors Directors of Nursing of skilled nursing and long-term care facilities in order to assure their success as leaders, not to mention the ultimate success of the facilities which they helm. Danine Bitting is a Clinical Compliance Specialist with Friends Services Alliance Compliance Collaborative (FSA), in Blue Bell, Pennsylvania. FSA provides a spectrum of services for the nonprofit senior living industry. Danine has over 25 years of experience in long-term care, with a strong focus on enhancing the quality of life for residents and driving meaningful change in clinical systems. As a former Director of Nursing, Danine led two 5-STAR, non-profit facilities with goals to improve resident life and care via Person Centered Care and developing realistic systems. Danine has worked closely with two hospital networks in the Preferred Provider Network (PPN) to improve resident care following hospitalization and reduce re-hospitalizations.  Maria Kiwagama is a seasoned nursing professional with over a decade of experience in clinical management, quality improvement, and nursing education. She currently serves as the Director of Nursing at Barclay Friends, a not-for-profit Kendal Affiliate that provides compassionate, home-like care for older adults. In her role, Maria oversees nursing operations across Barclay Friends' Continuing Care Retirement Community, which includes two long-term care units, two memory care units, and a Personal Care unit. She is responsible for ensuring high-quality resident care, regulatory compliance, and effective coordination of the nursing staff within the skilled nursing department. Before joining Barclay Friends, Maria spent six years at Waverly Heights, a Life Plan Community in Gladwyne, Pennsylvania, where she held roles as Nurse Manager and RN-Assessment Coordinator. She is a Certified Dementia Practitioner and holds additional certifications in Wound Care and Infection Control and Prevention. Maria recently earned a dual master's degree in Nursing Leadership and Healthcare Administration and is currently completing an Administrator in Training (AIT) program, further strengthening her leadership in long-term care. Connect with Friends Services Alliance and Barclay Friends: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Friends Services Alliance FSA on LinkedIn Barclay Friends Continuing Care Barclay Friends on Facebook Barclay Friends on LinkedIn Barclay Friends on Instagram Contact Nurse Keith about holistic career coaching to elevate your nursing and healthcare career at ⁠⁠⁠⁠NurseKeith.com⁠⁠⁠⁠. Keith also offers services as a motivational and keynote speaker and freelance nurse writer. You can always find Keith on⁠⁠⁠⁠ LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠. Are you looking for a novel way to empower your career and move forward in life? Keith's wife, Shada McKenzie, is a gifted astrologer and reader of the tarot who combines ancient and modern techniques to provide valuable insights into your motivations, aspirations, and life trajectory, and she offers listeners of The Nurse Keith Show a 10% discount on their first consultation. Contact Shada at ⁠⁠⁠⁠TheCircelandtheDot.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠or shada@thecircleandthedot.com.

Donald lives in West Chester and works for Milano's Pizza, Subs & Taps. Donald says he's listened to B-105 through 3 different vehicles in his lifetime. Currently? Donald is pretty excited to go a family trip to Hawaii and is even more excited to get in a shark cage! For his induction song, Donald wanted to hear "Two Pina Coladas" by Garth Brooks because he's going to have a few of those on his vacay. Welcome to the B-105 Country Club, Donald!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this raw and heartfelt episode, New York designer, storyteller and former drag performer, John Patrick (JP) for a powerful conversation about growing older, wiser, and freer as gay men. Together, JP and Rick unpack decades of experience — from coming out in different eras to surviving the AIDS crisis, finding confidence through drag and other careers, to redefining what self-acceptance really looks like after 40. It's not nostalgia. It's truth-telling — about how far we've come, what still needs to change, and the beauty of learning to love yourself without apology. 3 Key Takeaways From This Episode: Self-acceptance is a practice, not a destination. You grow into it, daily. Kindness over judgment. Age brings perspective — and the grace to stop proving yourself. Perfection is overrated. Excellence, authenticity, and joy are the new goals About JP John Patrick - JP - is passionate about transforming spaces and lives through interior design. His philosophy is simple yet powerful: “Changing Overwhelmed into Overjoyed.” As the creative force behind John Patrick Designs, he combines color, texture, lighting, and thoughtful furniture placement to craft environments that elevate how people live and work. From luxury residences to commercial spaces, John's approach blends sophistication with comfort, ensuring every design feels both beautiful and deeply personal. A South Carolina native now based in New York City, John has been reimagining spaces since childhood—mentally rearranging every room he entered long before doing so professionally. Today, his portfolio spans projects from $500,000 to $10 million, each handled with the same dedication, creativity, and attention to detail. John's work extends throughout the New York Metro and Tri-State area, including Fairfield, Westchester, Rockland, Bergen, and Hudson counties, as well as national and international relocations. Whether designing a Manhattan penthouse, a suburban family home, or a commercial property, he brings vision, expertise, and heart to every project. John Patrick Designs isn't just about creating stunning interiors—it's about designing joy, comfort, and possibility. Connect With JP Website Instagram Facebook LinkedIn Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you're going to do, but never do? Then it's time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make

In this snack-sized conversation, Ophira Eisenberg talks with author and newly certified parenting coach Kerri Smith-Maher about how years of teaching writing, her daughter's struggles, her own sobriety journey, and a crash course in perimenopause all pushed her toward parent coaching. Kerri explains how a psychologist friend steered her away from graduate school and toward certification at the Jai Institute, where she dove into nervous system science, attachment theory, and the iceberg model of behavior. She shares why Dr. Becky Kennedy's Good Inside is her go-to recommendation, how a family DBT course helped them decode behavior “under the surface,” and why the real breakthrough in her house came when she learned to regulate herself instead of rushing to fix her daughter's reactions. Kerri also describes how Tara Brach's Radical Acceptance finally taught her to “pause” by practicing it during calm moments—helped along by an iPhone alarm labeled “pause” three times a day. The episode ends with Kerri revealing that her best creative work happens only after caffeine, dog-walking, and a strict morning writing window, a habit she built during her daughter's three-morning-a-week nursery school era.

Lou in Wantagh, NY, called Mark to discuss a great way President Trump can lower the prices of products a lot lower. Anderson in Westchester, NY, calls Mark to talk about climate change.

Lou in Wantagh, NY, called Mark to discuss a great way President Trump can lower the prices of products a lot lower. Anderson in Westchester, NY, calls Mark to talk about climate change. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The fall months are for planning in the real estate world, and your kitchen plays a starring role in that preparation. I recently became aware of a maintenance service offered by Bilotta Kitchen & Home, a premier kitchen designer in Westchester, that can help.   In this episode, Jimmy Bilotta joins me to discuss Bilotta's care and maintenance services that restore the beauty of cabinetry through expert cleaning, polishing, touchups, and adjustments - available even if Bilotta didn't design your kitchen. This isn't just about aesthetics; it's about maintaining one of your largest home investments.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://harrietlibovhomes.com/62  

In this episode, Ophira Eisenberg talks with author and parent coach Kerri Maher (aka. Kerri Smith–Maher and also Kerri Majors) about the many names she has published under, the publishing-industry lunch where her team rejected both “Smith” and “Pasqualetti” for SEO reasons, and why she ultimately adopted her grandmother's maiden name as her pen name. Kerri recalls handwriting her first unfinished novel on her dad's yellow legal pads—an early story about a girl and her blind best friend—before sharing how childhood surgeries and months of immobility pushed her toward reading The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe and imagining her way into writing. She and Ophira compare their kids' school experiences, including Kerri's daughter moving to an all-girls high school after a discussion about the “confidence gap,” and they trade notes on raising book-loving but highly specific readers. Kerri also explains how she discovered the Jane Collective through an NPR segment, pitched “the Jane novel” long before Dobbs, and watched the publishing world suddenly accelerate its enthusiasm for a feminist protest story. The conversation wraps with Kerri admitting her daughter refuses to read her novels and Ophira celebrating that Kerri's kid once described Spirit Airlines as an airline that “steals your spirit.”

Comedian Julia Scotti joins Ophira Eisenberg to talk about the long, winding path that brought her back to stand-up after transitioning and a decade away from comedy. Julia reflects on raising three children amid multiple marriages and constant touring, her fear of repeating her own fractured childhood, and the painful 14-year estrangement from her kids after she came out as transgender. She recalls coming out mid-set at a blue-collar Pennsylvania club and later to 13 million people on America's Got Talent, joking that she wanted to be judged “on the act, not the anatomy.” Julia also describes how teaching special education students during that period filled the hole left by her kids' absence—including a harrowing day during 9/11 when she nearly took her own life. The conversation touches on old stand-up footage where she mocked trans people before understanding her identity, her love of Louis Prima singalongs with her son, and the two corny jokes she first told him from his crib. The episode ends on a warm note as Julia admits she “unleashed the Kraken” by raising another comedy lover.

In this episode of Parenting Is a Joke, Andy Richter joins Ophira Eisenberg to talk about raising three kids across two generations—his 23-year-old son, 18-year-old daughter, and a four-year-old he's helping raise with his new wife. Andy reflects on how parenting feels different now that he's happier, newly remarried, and out of a long stretch of depression. He shares how his youngest daughter “runs the household,” including her silent-scream protest when he put her to bed, and how he navigates parenting alongside a Disney-obsessed extended family where his sister-in-law once played Jasmine at Disneyland. Andy contrasts his own self-reliant, latchkey childhood with the more protected upbringing of his older kids and admits he sometimes overcorrected by doing too much for them. He describes the uneasy balance of using personal material in comedy—recalling the “divorced dad” jokes he deleted from Twitter—and the line between honesty and oversharing, both online and in family life. Through it all, his warmth and humor shine, whether he's talking about his son's Uber Eats job, his daughter's bedtime negotiations, or his hope that one day his kids will want to work with him the way Robert Altman's children did—with love strong enough to last sixteen hours on set.

Quaker author and activist Eileen Flanagan joins us to explore the wisdom that she has learned from her decades of experience in organizing around the climate crisis, and how that very crisis is exposing the “illusion of separation” in our times. Eileen helps us move beyond individual conviction to creating effective and diverse coalitions for positive social change."Common Ground: How the Crisis of the Earth is Saving Us from Our Illusion of Separation" by Eileen Flanagan---------------------Westtown School is a Quaker, college preparatory day and boarding school for students in pre-kindergarten through twelfth grade, located in West Chester, Pennsylvania, United States. Guided by the essential Quaker calling to seek out and honor that of God in each of us, Westtown School challenges its students to realize their individual gifts while learning and living together in a diverse community. Their campus sits on 600 acres of land that includes a 14 acre lake, an arboretum and natural forest, and an instructional organic farm. Learn more and schedule a visit at www.westtown.edu. Become a monthly supporter! Sign up for the Daily Quaker Message.

Bruce from West Milford, NJ, tells Mark that some recipients of SNAP possess significant, valuable assets Margaret from Westchester, NY, called Mark to express the view that if people were less envious of one another, the world would be a better place.

Bruce from West Milford, NJ, tells Mark that some recipients of SNAP possess significant, valuable assets Margaret from Westchester, NY, called Mark to express the view that if people were less envious of one another, the world would be a better place. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this Parenting Is a Joke snack episode, Ophira Eisenberg chats again with Kate Auletta, Editor-in-Chief of Scary Mommy and Romper, about her years as a journalist and the surprising turns that led her from travel writing to parenting media. Kate recalls running HuffPost's “How to Raise a Kid” conference in 2017—pulling together experts to talk about money, race, sex, and digital literacy right as the Trump era began—and how it felt like a bright moment of optimism and connection before online discourse hardened. She and Ophira laugh about trolls who argue over sunscreen recipes and how parenting pieces, no matter how harmless, seem to ignite fury. Kate shares that her most viral post, written during the early pandemic, was simply a plea for parents to “give yourself grace,” while health content still draws the fiercest backlash. The conversation shifts to travel—her love for St. Barts (despite how un–kid-friendly it proved), the Costa Rican jungle cot that scarred her for life, and a vomit-filled night at a roadside hotel near the Basketball Hall of Fame. She swears by headphone adapters as her most vital travel gear, while her husband lugs an entire backpack of snacks. The episode ends, fittingly, with her dog Franklin barking in the background, signaling that even editors-in-chief can't escape the soundscape of parenting.

In this episode of Parenting is a Joke, Ophira talks with Kate Auletta, Editor-in-Chief of Scary Mommy and Romper, about raising two sons in the suburbs after growing up as a “true East Side” New Yorker. Kate shares how her mornings start with Picture Day chaos, a barking dog, and kids who quiz her about world politics before breakfast. She describes her nine-year-old as a relentless question machine and her older son as a newly minted golf enthusiast—“a full-on suburb kid.” The conversation covers everything from navigating kids' sports and body image to Kate's viral essay about keeping a “naked house,” which she defends as a way to model body confidence and normalcy. She also recalls how explaining the meaning of “69” abruptly ended her sons' giggle fits and how she recently schooled her tween on SEO after he assumed Google's top search result meant “best.” The two moms bond over C-section scars, endless school breaks, and the unspoken exhaustion of early mornings. The episode ends on Kate's wry admission that she's still clinging to the pool on Labor Day, refusing to surrender summer to Maysember.

Christine Sculti, running for Westchester County Executive, joins the show to talk about her campaign. She highlights her previous experience as a chief advisor under former executive Rob Astorino, emphasizing their success in keeping spending flat and cutting taxes. Sculti criticizes her opponent, Ken Jenkins, for supporting sanctuary city policies, increasing taxes and spending, and not denouncing radical figures. She outlines her plan to repeal the sanctuary county law, fight congestion pricing, and restore fiscal responsibility to Westchester. Sculti calls on listeners to vote, aiming to unite Republicans, independents, and common-sense Democrats for a significant upset. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ros sits down with NBC and Amazon Prime's play-by-play announcer, Michael Grady. Together, they figure out who is the Beyoncé of the Liberty booth. Michael breaks down his first professional play-by-play experience with the New York Liberty while they were still in Westchester. What does it mean to be with the New York Liberty? Next, Michael breaks down how he found his own style and voice in both the NBA and WNBA broadcasts. What does it mean to cover women's hoops? How did the Indiana Fever and Tamika Catchings impact his career? Then, Michael breaks down how he found his voice and style as an announcer. What does it mean to be ‘Cash'? Lastly, Michael shares who he thinks is the face of the WNBA and who is the future of the league. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Toni in Westchester, NY, called Mark to tell him that Presidnet Trump needs to continue to clean up the DOJ. Could Hillary Clinton be targeted next? Shelli in Rockland County, NY, is scared that votes will get taken away from Curtis Sliwa to become mayor in NYC. Tonight's final mayoral debate could determine who will be the next mayor. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.