The Divorced Woman's Guide Podcast

Ever feel like you're stuck in a whirlwind of your own making like you're holding a constantly swirling snow globe?  It might be time to shift your lens. This episode delves into what it truly means to shift your perspective, gain clarity, and walk with purpose. Tune in to this episode on Shifting Your Lens to Find Clarity and Purpose with Joree Rose   Key points covered in this episode:   ✔️ Expectations vs. Reality: Life rarely unfolds the way we imagine. Discover the pitfalls of staying in the comfort zone and the freedom to break out.  ✔️  Continuous Growth: The journey of mindfulness is a constant one. Recognize the significance of practicing every day, being aware of the present, and the strength in shifting your lens on life.   ✔️ A Universal Message: Recognize that anyone can overcome self-doubt. The obstacles you face are not the end but merely challenges to overcome.   ✔️ Compassion Over Judgement: Shift your perspective as you understand that compassion can counteract judgments. Know that being kind to oneself can be the remedy for the harsh critiques we often subject ourselves to.  ✔️ Values & Boundaries: Connect the dots between your core values and the boundaries you set. Recognize how these elements provide a foundation for transformation and self-growth.  ✔️ Law of Attraction: Learn how being clear on what you desire from the universe can dictate what you receive. Challenge the notion of "seeing is believing" and realize the importance of belief before evidence.   A Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Joree Rose holds a Master's in Counseling Psychology and is channeling her profound dedication to mindfulness. As the founder and proud owner of the Bay Area Mindfulness and Therapy Center in Danville, CA, she aspires to establish it as the foremost hub for mindfulness-based therapy and an array of meditation classes and workshops.  Joree's mission is to disseminate her deep-rooted passion and knowledge about cultivating a mindful practice, aiding others in breaking free from detrimental habits to architect and live their ideal life.   Links: Website: https://joreerose.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joreerose/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/joreerose33/  Twitter: https://twitter.com/joreerose33?lang=en  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joree-rose-17766399/    ______________________________________________________________   Get a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I'm Divorced” on Amazon!

Divorce can be a chaotic time. And while you're rebuilding your life, you catch yourself being pulled at every side – friends asking for the exclusive scoop, seeing your ex get into a new relationship, or sulking in pity that you're never going to be in love again. Divorced Girl Smiling creator Jackie Pilossoph wants you to regain your focus and take control of what truly matters… without being so hard on yourself.  Isn't it amazing that you get to create something new? Now's the time to give yourself grace and make the most of your clean slate. Tune in to this episode on Staying Empowered and Focused In Your Divorce with Jackie Pilossoph Key points covered in this episode:   ✔️ Schedule time to feel your emotions. The most upsetting news could break out while you're in front of your loved ones. And while hiding your feelings is helpful. Not sparing time to express it at all can be detrimental. If crying at a later time is difficult, journaling is a discreet way to release.  ✔️ Make room for goodness to crowd out the negativity. Instead of allowing your worries to take up your time and energy, take a deep breath and recalibrate your focus. Get busy and fill your mind with gratitude.  ✔️ You have power over how you feel. Even without a significant other, you can be secure in yourself by doing the work on your self-worth and confidence and creating the life you want.  ✔️ Fix yourself to be in the best position to meet new partners. It's not the people or your location. It's your mindset and how you show up on dates. Have you aligned yourself to your highest, most authentic self? This will help you to attract the right people.  ✔️ Start small and do what makes you happy! Be open to new experiences, revisit old hobbies you've once enjoyed, and take baby steps. The universe will notice your hard work and your little actions will build into something bigger. Jackie Pilossoph is the creator and Editor-in-chief of DIVORCED GIRL SMILING, a media company comprised of a website, podcast, mobile app, and professional resources. Divorced Girl Smiling (DGS) is a well-known marketing platform, brand, and global community. DGS has a mission to empower, connect, and inspire men and women before, during, and after divorce. Pilossoph, who holds a Master's degree in Broadcast Journalism, is a former television news reporter and features reporter and writer for the Chicago Tribune.  Her syndicated weekly column, LOVE ESSENTIALLY, was published in The Pioneer Press, The Chicago Tribune, and all Tribune Publishing editions for 6 1/2 years. Pilossoph was also a Huffington Post divorce blogger for five years. Website: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DivorcedGirlSmiling/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorced_girl_smiling/ Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/divorcedgirlJP LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jackie-pilossoph-0851814/ Email: jpilossoph@gmail.com   Free Gift: Free Ebook "Divorce: Day One to the rest of your happy, authentic life" https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/free-e-books-about-divorce-and-dating/   Get a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I'm Divorced” on Amazon!

It's been over seven years since my divorce. And what an exciting ride it has been, discovering it as a gift that enabled me to fully live my higher, authentic self. You've been here with me, giving my energies into this podcast, to share my knowledge and experiences in navigating your own divorce. However, I've felt that the universe is now leading me into a new path. In this final episode, expect practical pieces of advice about leaning into your intuition and what this new chapter of my life will look like – a whole new podcast that you can enjoy and be inspired by. Tune in to this episode on The Power of Your Intuition Key points covered in this episode:   ✔️ Your intuition is the quiet voice – amplify it. While your ego is the loud, obnoxious one that's trying to keep you safe, ultimately it's keeping you stuck. Paying attention to my intuition has gifted me with the knowledge I have now.  ✔️ The more you lean into your intuition, the more abundant your life can become. Fighting it only gave me lack and constriction – which is what I'm feeling now about where my divine purpose is headed.  ✔️ Start designing your life based on your intuition. Tune in to my future podcast, The Power in the Pause, to open the doors of prosperity and your highest potential. When you listen and tune in, you'll be led to where you're meant to be.  ✔️ The ultimate rebirth comes from the lens of forgiveness. Moving forward and no longer identifying from my divorce is my next journey. Self-forgiveness allows us to illuminate our pure heart light and to fully lean into our intuition.  ✔️ Your intuition isn't a tool kit. It's something you already have. What you need is the space to feel and trust it so you can start living a life that's amazing. Get a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I'm Divorced” on Amazon!

If you could do anything right now, what would it be? You may have been putting off that career change, that first date, or even that dream vacation because you're too concerned about other people's opinions and expectations. Stacey Lauren is here to help you pursue what you really want to do. She introduces her antidote to inaction and the playful challenges she has been sharing on her podcast which got thousands of people moving and going after their vision for themselves. Tune in to this episode on How To Let Go and Just Do The Thing You've Always Wanted with Stacey Lauren Key points covered in this episode:   ✔️ Practice the “I'm Game” formula. This acronym provides the steps so you can finally take action! Identify the why Mindset Goals Accountability My people Educate yourself and others  ✔️ Get rid of mental clutter with this trick! Use your phone as a voice journal. Releasing it makes it easier to let go. And listening back to your recording, you'll find some thoughts you're holding aren't really serving you.  ✔️ You get to change that voice in your head. It's okay to feel your emotions. Remember that the negative chatter isn't you! Shift what it's saying into something that benefits you.  ✔️ Trust the process. Quit striving for perfection – there's nothing wrong with messy action. Turn up the volume on your intuition. When you do something uncomfortable, there's always growth on the other side.  ✔️ Start with the little things. You don't have to do something crazy! Whatever that new move is for you, do it. Try one thing you haven't done before instead of choosing to sit down and stay in your comfort zone. A true serial entrepreneur, Stacey Lauren has many titles, including CEO, founder, owner, podcaster, investor, and author. And she wears them all while embracing human-to-human connections.  While in college, an unlikely start selling books door-to-door instilled a solid work ethic and resilience skills in Stacey. These skills launched her on an upward trajectory to become a leader in sales, HR, customer service, and management.  She co-founded and scaled a successful staffing agency, building high-touch relationships to resolve the disconnect between employers and job seekers.  Her current labor of love is interviewing high-achieving, inspirational people for her Do The Thing podcast. Each awe-inspiring story reveals a formula that encourages listeners to go after what they want in life, set goals, and do the thing. Links: Website: https://dothethingpodcast.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/dothethingformula Facebook: https://facebook.com/dothethingformula YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dothethingformula Facebook Groups: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dothethingchallenge/ https://www.facebook.com/groups/1389213811610337/ Get a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I'm Divorced” on Amazon!

Settling a divorce isn't the end of dealing with your ex-partner, especially when you have kids. Certified Life + Conscious Parenting Coach Mikki Gardner guides parents like you to navigate the drama of co-parenting by being aligned with your values, setting boundaries, and focusing on what you can control. Remember, you get to be the captain of your ship. You have the power to figure out what your co-parenting relationship looks like. Tune in to this episode on How To Co-Parent With A New Partner In The Picture with Mikki Gardner Key points covered in this episode:  ✔️ Guide your kids through the co-parenting relationship. They quickly learn what they see, so be an example of integrity to them. It's going to be hard, but they'll benefit from you living a joy-filled, stress-free life. ✔️ Move from a place of self-awareness and “response-ability”. You have full control over outcomes by being mindful of your responses. Stay clear on your values, and only partake in conversations that align with them. ✔️ Allow everyone to have their own feelings and experiences. You don't need to fix everything. Understand your place, and respect the rules of your co-parent's household.  ✔️ Be open to your ex's new partner. Fighting against it will only hurt you. What matters is that they genuinely love and care for your ex and your kids. You are on the same team. ✔️ The person you divorced isn't the same person today. People grow, learn, and change. Learn how to compartmentalize and focus on your life. They need to see you save yourself. ✔️ Show up the way you want to be treated. It's easy to be passive-aggressive. But taking initiative is the best way to set the tone of what you want the co-parenting relationship to look like. Mikki Gardner is a Certified Life + Conscious Parenting Coach, the host of Co-Parenting With Confidence Podcast, and a mom of 3 (her son and 2 bonus son)!  After learning how to navigate life post-divorce & using it as a catalyst for her own transformation, Mikki now helps moms move past the divorce drama to become calm, confident co-parents, even without their ex's participation.  Mikki is on a mission to help women navigate the emotional and practical difficulties of divorce and co-parenting while creating an intentional, joy + ease-filled life after divorce. Free Gift: Sign Up for Free Conscious Co-Parenting Masterclass: https://mikkigardner.com/masterclass/  Links: Website: https://mikkigardner.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mikkigardner/  Mikki's Podcast “Co-Parenting With Confidence”: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/co-parenting-with-confidence/id1591303883 Get a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I'm Divorced” on Amazon!

This episode is sponsored by Soberlink Soberlink's alcohol monitoring system is the most convenient, reliable, and reasonable way for a parent to provide evidence that they are not drinking during parenting time.  The system's real-time alerts, facial recognition, and tamper detection ensure the integrity of each test, so you can be confident your kids are with a sober parent.  With Soberlink, judges rest assured that your child is safe, attorneys get court-admissible evidence of sobriety, and your kids are able to maintain healthy relationships with BOTH parents. To sign up and get $50 off your device, visit www.soberlink.com/wendy --- It's funny how life sends us on paths we don't intend. But where it takes us is always so amazing! While my divorce and mom's passing shook me to my core, it also pivoted me in directions I never thought I'd travel. It became a time of deeper self-discovery and developing my intuition. Recently, I've also discovered my life's purpose goes beyond divorce recovery. And today, I'll share my thought process and how you too can apply this in thriving through your life transitions. Believe me – this wasn't easy. But it definitely is doable. Tune in to this episode on Life Transitions Are Stepping Stones Key points covered in this episode:   ✔️ Pivotal moments are uncomfortable for a reason. Like a caterpillar waiting in a cocoon to become a butterfly, life transitions are painful but true growth is waiting for us on the other side.  ✔️ Reframe your perspective. Your divorce isn't a sign of a failed marriage. It's the universe telling you that you're meant for so much more. This is your time to learn and become the best, most authentic version of yourself.  ✔️ Reflect on what this transition means for you. What is it awakening you to? What is it preparing you for? Instead of feeling regret for the decisions you've made at that point, consider where this is taking you. If you're holding resistance from confronting this transition, ask yourself where is this stemming from. Because what I know to be true is that you're on the path to a new you that you'll fall in love with. Get a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I'm Divorced” on Amazon!

When challenges arise, it's so easy to default into doing what's comfortable. But this autopilot setting keeps you stuck in the monotony of life. What I know to be true is that this way of thinking isn't serving you. You need to get off that hamster wheel to live to your full potential. But what it takes is having the courage to make uncomfortable decisions. It's indeed scary diving into the unknown. But you get to make that choice. Tune in to this episode on Choosing Courage Over Discomfort Key points covered in this episode:    ✔️ Having courage changes your life trajectory. When you take the challenge of standing up for yourself, thinking differently, making new choices, and letting go of people's opinions, your reality will align with what you want.   ✔️ The universe opens up when we surrender. August was my self-care month – and the moment I set that intention, I have reaped more rewards than any other time in my life. It starts when you resist the urge to fall into the old mindset of scarcity.   ✔️ Courageous steps don't have to be huge. It can be as simple as making a friend, seeking help from your community, or getting a mentor to help you unpack your resistance.  ✔️ Change happens once you let go of what doesn't serve you. The longer you hold on to limiting beliefs, the more you're blocking yourself from what the universe is trying to bring to you. I invite you to commit to choosing discomfort. Be present with everything that comes your way so you can make the most out of it. Get a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I'm Divorced” on Amazon!

As parents, we often have gut feelings when something just isn't right.  This can be especially true in co-parenting arrangements where one parent is struggling with addiction.  If you're co-parenting with an ex-spouse who abuses alcohol, Soberlink can help.  Soberlink's alcohol monitoring system is the most convenient, reliable, and reasonable way for a parent to provide evidence that they are not drinking during parenting time.  The system's real-time alerts, facial recognition, and tamper detection ensure the integrity of each test, so you can be confident your kids are with a sober parent.  With Soberlink, judges rest assured that your child is safe, attorneys get court-admissible evidence of sobriety, and your kids are able to maintain healthy relationships with BOTH parents. To sign up and get $50 off your device, visit www.soberlink.com/wendy --------------------- Tune in to the full episode on Spiritual Awakening After Trauma: Key points covered in this episode:   ✔️ Surrender and trust in the universe. My children were worried about losing their important stuff for school. I assured them and released my worries to my spirit guides. And amazingly, my hopes were answered!  ✔️ Transitioning through loss is hard. Give yourself time to feel the waves of emotions while making use of the tools to ground yourself in the moment. Anchor yourself in gratitude, and don't forget to thank the universe for where you are.  ✔️ Focus on the important things in life. After that traumatic event, I realized what outfits you bring or getting that perfect vacation picture doesn't really matter. Being with my family, alive and well, is my priority.  ✔️ Be the source of light in the chaos. This was mostly my role as the natural disaster unfolded. All it took was for me to pause, breathe, and be that positive energy that fuels my kids and everyone around me to move forward.      

Make Money Your Thing: Ditch the Shame and Design your Dream Life One of the biggest problems divorced women face is handling their finances. After so many life-changing decisions post-divorce, how can you take charge and no longer run away from your money situation? Financial advisor Kalee Boisvert is an amazing example and resource for women who wish to gain back control of their finances. She wants you to make money your thing and actually enjoy making it work for you! Tune in to this episode on How To Take Control of Your Finances with Kalee Boisvert Key points covered in this episode:   ✔️ Shift into an empowering money mindset. Write down all your limiting beliefs about money and read them out loud. They sound ridiculous, right? Now, you get to pivot and rewrite your attitude toward finances. ✔️ Detach money from your identity. Your worth isn't based on how much money you have. And you don't have to be “perfect” to attract prosperity. Welcome the energy and keep a positive outlook on what's out there for you.  ✔️ Know exactly where you are. How much are your monthly and yearly earnings? How about your monthly spending? What are your assets and liabilities? List them all so you know where you can start in your saving goals. ✔️ Make your money work for you. Dip your toes into investments and let your money grow. Don't let it just collect dust in your bank account. You want your wealth to increase passively – even when you're asleep! ✔️ Be clear on your goals. Want to go on that overseas vacation? Or eyeing a new car? Now that you know your starting point, you can determine how much you need to save in a certain period of time. It's important to remember that money is a tool! It can help us get to where we want to be if we use it wisely. Let go of the shame around your finances, and see abundance come your way. Get a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I'm Divorced” on Amazon!

One day, I had a moment where I was just so exhausted. So I was venting to my coach from a place of victimhood. What I realized was that I was feeling this way because I hadn't been taking care of myself. I've neglected my needs. I haven't been nurturing myself to receive love and care. If you are on a low-vibrational day, chances are that all you need is some self-care – to slow down and prioritize yourself. Doing this will open you up to the abundant life that you deserve. Tune in to this episode on How Self-Care Creates Abundance After Divorce Key points covered in this episode:   ✔️ You have the power to shift your energy anytime. You can allow yourself to lean into what you've been ignoring. Faking it will only waste more energy and attract things that you don't want.  ✔️ This month is dedicated to your self-care. Set the intention that you'll be loving and caring for yourself. Every decision you make should serve you and fill your cup.  ✔️ Allow yourself to feel the icky stuff. When you acknowledge these feelings, you will have to get to the other side eventually. Listen to these emotions and thoughts and consider where could they be coming from.  ✔️ Carve out time for self-care. Nobody else will do it for you. It doesn't matter if it's an hour or 15 minutes. You get to make yourself a priority and do activities that nourish you. Get a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I'm Divorced” on Amazon!

Your divorce may be the end of a chapter, but it's also the start of a new one. And I'm here to tell you that NOW is the best time to rebuild your life – a life that is for you, that aligns with your values, and that brings you joy. You no longer have to be consumed by responsibilities and obligations. Instead, you get to balance your life by making yourself a priority. What is important is that each and every one of you lives life authentically and embraces the moment with an open heart. Tune in to this episode on Building a Life for YOU After Divorce Key points covered in this episode:  ✔️ Release the past. It no longer defines you. It's time to start living in the now. Don't allow your past and fears of the future to make decisions. Let go of the stress and anxiety that come with them. ✔️ Practice mindfulness. Being in the now enables you to fully express joy and create a stronger foundation for yourself as you move forward in life. Stop multitasking and put away all distractions. ✔️ Putting yourself first doesn't make you selfish. Set boundaries and learn to say no. When you take care of yourself, you are a better version of yourself to everyone in your life. ✔️ Self-care is about nourishing your mind, body, and soul. Pick up the hobbies you've forgotten after your marriage. Learn as much as you can. Finding a wholesome activity is like gifting yourself with additional therapy. ✔️ Surround yourself with positive influences. How are the people around you impacting your well-being? Keep the ones that inspire and uplift you. You don't deserve to be stuck in negativity because of others. ✔️ Have grace with yourself. Being aware of your thoughts and habits that don't serve you without judgment will improve your overall well-being and build resilience. Get a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I'm Divorced” on Amazon!

“I want a divorce.” I had no idea about the impact of these four words until I actually went through it.  Now that I've successfully gotten to the other side, building a life for myself and my kids, I'm here to be your voice of hindsight.  There are so many things that we don't know that happens once we ask for a divorce. And I want you to be able to navigate this process by having a clear picture of its implications and what you can do to get through it stronger and better.  Tune in to this episode on What I Wish I Knew Before Asking For A Divorce  Key points covered in this episode:   ✔️ Stop carelessly throwing the word “divorce” around! The moment you say it could be the start of the dissolution of your marriage and impact you financially. Don't use it as a threat. Consult an expert or a support group if you're planning it – some couples actually go back together when the situation is handled properly.  ✔️ Know what your finances look like. Have a financial planner to help you. Get hold of your tax returns and ensure you have a clear view of credit cards, individual and joint accounts, and other assets. ✔️ Create the vision of the life you want after divorce. A coach can guide you in visualizing that future so you can make decisions from an objective lens. With this, you'll clearly know what you're willing to fight for and compromise. ✔️ Divorce isn't just between you and your ex. It affects your kids too! Consider them in every choice of this journey. You want to set up a future where you can be a good parent and nurture them in this challenging process. ✔️ Speak kinder to yourself. Quiet the negative self-talk. Constant self-judgment keeps you emotional and steers you away from your vision. This is why a coach is so important to help you correct your language. If you're somebody who's in the middle of a divorce, don't give up. Don't be afraid to ask for help. You need to have somebody who's been on this path to guide you in moving through the waves much more quickly. Get a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I'm Divorced” on Amazon!

Adjusting to a blended family can get complicated. But what I know to be true is that love can be fostered and resilience can be created within the family unit.  Let's dive into the intricacies of blended families, the hurdles and rewards of this new dynamic, and my practical advice on how you can navigate your path. And I assure you, it is possible for every blended family to thrive and be harmonious with effective co-parenting and creating new traditions.  Tune in to this episode on  Challenges & Rewards of Blended Families After Divorce  Key points covered in this episode:   ✔️ Foster communication among both adults and kids. Creating extra space for new family members and recognizing each other's roles can get challenging. But talking it out always helps. ✔️ Balance respect and openness. Teach your kids to treat their step-parent as any authority figure, and vice versa. Practice compassion in listening and understanding their emotions during this transition period. Assure them their feelings matter and nobody gets replaced. ✔️ Love gets to expand. Assure your kids that there's nothing wrong with loving their step-parents and step-siblings. It may be hard to accept this at first, but it's important for your kids to have positive relationships. ✔️ Blended families create new connections and lessons. Now you and your kids have a bigger support network as you build your resiliency and empathy. This also means more memories and shared experiences with more people. ✔️ Blended families provide endless resources for your kids. There's always more to give your kids! Having more people with knowledge and experience that surrounds them encourages them to try more things. ✔️ Blended families strengthen bonds. It isn't easy to get in the swing of things, but the idea that you'll get to do so many things together is exciting! This dynamic requires so much patience and willingness to adapt. But once you get past the challenges, the rewards will start to outweigh them – making the whole journey completely worth it. Get a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I'm Divorced” on Amazon!

Your divorce is serious business. Sounds overwhelming, but it's exactly why taking the lead to ensure the best outcomes should be your priority. Divorce and Decision Coach Karen Covy guides and empowers women to be the CEO of their divorces, helping them make better decisions aligned with the future they want to prevent bigger messes in relationships and finances. It's not about being in competition with your ex. It's finally owning the situation, putting your hands on the wheel, and steering the journey toward what matters most to you. Tune in to this episode on Why You Need to be the CEO of Your Divorce with Karen Covy Key points covered in this episode:   ✔️ Stop telling yourself you can't! Take a breath, and do what you gotta do to deal with your emotions to avoid making rash choices.  ✔️ Get support. And it doesn't have to be friends and family. Coaches, therapists, and groups provide different kinds of encouragement and helpful insight that you can use to keep pushing through. ✔️ Know what you want and negotiate. You can't focus on a vision if you don't have one. What do you want your future to look like, in terms of your kids, finances, and relationship with yourself? Discuss this with your spouse and set firm boundaries. ✔️ You know your spouse better than your attorney. Listen to their advice, but in the end, every major move you make in this journey should be based on the wishes you've clearly stated. ✔️ Do the necessary inner work. This applies most especially if you're dealing with a high-conflict, narcissistic ex-spouse. Give yourself the space and tools to think things through and avoid creating long-term messes. You deserve a thriving future and the peace of mind of a new life. Karen Covy is a Divorce and Decision Coach, lawyer, mediator, speaker, and author. She coaches busy professionals and business owners who want to make clear, confident decisions during highly charged emotional situations. Karen also helps her clients become the CEO of their own divorce so they can navigate through their divorce with less conflict, less expense, and less damage to themselves and their children. Karen is the author of “When Happily Ever AfterEnds: How to Survive Your Divorce Emotionally, Financially and Legally”. She is also the creator of the online divorce program, The Divorce Roadmap 2.0, and the host of the podcast Off the Fence.

One of the most significant challenges I faced after the divorce was living with uncertainty.  Having been with my ex-husband for 23 years, our family structure and daily routines were so predictable. Then, here I was, suddenly trying to pave a new road.  For sure, most of you have felt the same way. But what I know to be true is that you're more resilient than you give yourself credit for.  Here are some of my empowering strategies to help you embrace the unknown and welcome your new life with grace and courage.  Tune in to this episode on How To Face Uncertainty in Divorce  Key points covered in this episode:   ✔️ Embrace the present moment. The only time that truly exists is now. Have a mindfulness practice like breathwork and meditation. Shifting your focus to the now brings clarity and peace because you're grasping something certain. ✔️ Cultivate self-compassion. Extend yourself the same kindness you give others. Acknowledge the emotions coming up for you and name these feelings without judgment. Treat yourself like you're your own best friend! ✔️ See your divorce as an opportunity for self-growth. Now's the time to invest in your personal development! Rekindle the parts of yourself that you've sacrificed to accommodate your marriage. Give yourself the chance to step out of your comfort zone. ✔️ Adopt a neutral mindset. Life changes all the time. Stop categorizing what happens to you as “good” or “bad”. This allows you to easily adapt to any situation and slowly shed the controller mindset. The unexpected can happen in the best possible way. ✔️ Have a community of people to support you. Not friends, not family – but others who have experienced similar journeys. You must have a safe space where you can gain insights and feel encouraged.  Living with uncertainty after divorce requires patience. If you implement any of these strategies, I know that you'll be able to navigate your life with a sense of confidence, stability, assurance, and faith.   Get a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I'm Divorced” on Amazon!

The biggest move you could ever make after your divorce (or even in the middle of it!) is aligning with your heart.  This ultimately means getting out of your head and not listening to your ego. The negative inner voice is what's keeping you stuck in resentment and blocking you from a brighter, more abundant future.  What I want for you is to get out of that unhealthy place and incorporate these new habits so you can finally step into your heart center and live a life of love and light.  Tune in to this episode on Top Moves To Make After Divorce  Key points covered in this episode:  ✔️ Do a spiritual practice consistently. Whether it's meditating, journaling, reading scripture, or walking in nature, it has to be done regularly. Transformation is a 24/7 choice. But this doesn't come automatically. As humans, we must choose to show up every day and do what we need to do.  ✔️ Fight ego with discomfort. Doing something new requires the strength to intentionally do things differently. Go against auto-pilot mode because whenever you're stretching yourself, that's where you'll find growth on the other side.  ✔️ Push through the resistance. Do it even if you don't want to! It's so much easier to wallow in resentment, but combating the easy way out aligns us with our hearts. Check back in with yourself and ensure you're within integrity as you go work your way through this divorce. I invite you to challenge your ego daily and ask yourself if you're speaking in your authentic voice. Have the courage and faith to overcome the challenges of your divorce by listening to your inner truth. This will catapult you into the life you desire. Get a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I'm Divorced” on Amazon!

A life-changing event like a divorce can bring anger and resentment within us. But sometimes, we don't know what to do with these feelings. You might sweep them under the rug or find yourself expressing them in unhealthy ways. Verbally saying “I've let it go” isn't exactly true if these 10 signs are still happening to you. The good news, though: When you choose to move forward, you CAN get through this! Tune in to this episode on 10 Signs You're Still Stuck In Anger Key points covered in this episode:   ✔️ Do you still have lingering resentment? Check-in with yourself if you're carrying this heaviness inside you.   ✔️ Stop playing the blame game. I always say that pointing fingers at the other is like drinking poison and expecting the other to die.  ✔️ Are you putting off your healing journey? The shortcut to getting to the other side is deeply feeling the emotions.  ✔️ Struggling to let go keeps you stuck. Focusing on the bad times is only evidence of why your marriage fell apart. Shift and put your energy on the positive.  ✔️ Getting triggered easily is also a sign. Our families and friends sometimes are the recipient of our outbursts. Do your best to be better.  ✔️ Disengage with negative self-talk. Low self-confidence and self-esteem will only worsen your deep-seated anger. ✔️  Do you still have trust issues? Ensure that you're healed and have a clean slate before getting into a new relationship. ✔️  Only you can push yourself forward. Wallowing in your sadness is therapeutic. But don't stay there forever. No one will save you but YOU! ✔️  You no longer need to withdraw emotionally. You might still be afraid of people's pestering questions about your divorce. Process your feelings first before getting out there. ✔️  Anger breeds stagnancy. Putting your energy into this negative emotion hinders you from pursuing the things that bring you joy. Are you looking to find more strategies and tips for moving through your anger? Join my free online event, Rising Through The Ashes, on June 12!

Most of us throughout our lives have believed confidence is external. We thought that once we get that high-paying job, lose 10 pounds, or get into that romantic relationship, that's when we become confident. But that couldn't be farther from the truth.  Top speaker and best-selling author Nicole Kalil is here to uncover the truth about confidence, what it is, and how you can source and build it sustainably.  Tune in to this episode on The Role of Confidence In Divorce with Nicole Kalil Key points covered in this episode:   ✔️ Confidence is internal. Research has proven that women's confidence fluctuates through the years, dropping in their teenage years and peaking in their fifties and sixties. Shift your mindset from “Why am I not confident?” to “Am I connected to my confidence?” It's all in there living inside of you – you just have to uncover it yourself!  ✔️ Quiet the head trash! We have a LOT of voices in our minds. The noisiest, self-deprecating one is your head trash, while the compassionate one is your inner knowing. Silence the former, and turn up the volume of the latter.  ✔️ Rewrite your internal story. Build your confidence muscle by answering these questions. What are the facts? What am I making up about the facts? Is there a more productive, empowered way to see it? Where do I go from here?  ✔️ Action builds confidence. The little steps DO count! If you want to be healthier, drinking more water could be the first way to go. And give yourself the grace to rest and trust yourself during the hard times.   ✔️ Confidence is a choice you get to make. Other practical ways to strengthen your self-belief are to keep your commitments, set boundaries, and speak your truth. Get a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I'm Divorced” on Amazon!

Do you want to know what your deepest divorce Super Power is? Of course you do! Take my brand new quiz and discover more about yourself and the super power you possess that will take you through divorce into your dream life. https://thedivorcerehab.com/quiz-start-site-podcast Order a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: The 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I'm Divorced” https://www.amazon.com/Divorce-Sucks-Now-What-Yourself/dp/B0BVCWTFTR It's hard to create an abundant life when your thoughts are in scarcity mode. I'm here to tell you that financial empowerment is all about mindset. When you make the conscious effort to shift your beliefs and thoughts into abundance, your entire life changes. Now is the time to become a vessel of your desires and align yourself to the high vibration of wealth. Tune in to this episode on 3 Ways To Create Financial Empowerment and Abundance After Divorce. Key points covered in this episode:   ✔ ️ Flip into the abundance script. Create new thoughts and feelings when making decisions. For example, that investment isn't a waste of money but a chance to become a better version of yourself. Immerse your mind with how that feels. When you focus your consciousness in abundance, you bring it into your life. ✔️ Shift your view on how you value yourself. When you see your value, the world becomes your oyster. Stepping into the land of high vibration is your choice. Your value has nothing to do with your achievements. Instead, it's how you show up in the world. Realize that you're a co-creator and that your desires are already yours. ✔️ Be clear about your desires, and pay attention. Time is a man-made construct! What you want is already on its way to you, and it'll show up at the right time and in the way you want it to be. Become a channel of abundance by opening yourself to the universe's signs.  ______________________________________________________________ Connect with Wendy Sterling: Website: https://wendysterling.net/ Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy Twitter: @thedivorcerehab Facebook: @wendytsterling  Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: http://www.contactwendy.com.

Do you want to know what your deepest divorce Super Power is? Of course you do! Take my brand new quiz and discover more about yourself and the super power you possess that will take you through divorce into your dream life. https://thedivorcerehab.com/quiz-start-site-podcast Order a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: The 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I'm Divorced” https://www.amazon.com/Divorce-Sucks-Now-What-Yourself/dp/B0BVCWTFTR Seeing your divorce through the lens of joy and forgiveness will take you to that abundant life you deserve. I'm always working on giving you the most valuable information you need. And my past summits were intended to give you unique perspectives to get through this challenging part of your life. And with all the knowledge I've picked up, I realize that I want my program and this show to be calibrated to a frequency of forgiveness. I hope that this episode gets you to a place of true healing rooted in your genuine heart. Tune in to this episode on Moving On From Divorce Key points covered in this episode:  ✔️ Focus on the light. You must dive head-first to get to the other side. But this doesn't mean dwelling in the darkness. Go through it while concentrating on the positives – the lessons and the brand-new life you'll get to have. ✔️ Surrender to the power of the universe. Everything happens for a reason. And you don't even notice that you're in the midst of receiving a spiritual gift. ✔️ Heal your heart through the lens of love. Let go of polarities. Be neutral as you reflect on the past and feel your heart expand. ✔️ Forgiveness is spiritual awakening. It's what catapulted me to true healing. We're in this world to be open to change and be transformed. Your divorce is your ticket to up-leveling yourself. Get a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I'm Divorced” on Amazon!

Divorce isn't a punishment. It's an opportunity for your rebirth. I say this because of my own experience that has allowed me to start relearning everything. It sounds scary, but wallowing in a pity party won't help you get there. It's about making a conscious choice on what you truly want to do in your life. The slate has been wiped clean. Now's your chance to fill it with the things that bring you joy! Tune in to this episode - Divorce is a Rebirth & Awakening Key points covered in this episode:  ✔️ Look for the light amidst the darkness. Yes, you made mistakes. But you can now forgive yourself and open your eyes to the light. That's where the lessons are. That's where love and gratitude are waiting for you. ✔️ Learn how to ask for help. Our negative inner voice can be loud – so have a trusted friend who is louder! They should be saturating your mind with encouragement and empowering you to believe in yourself. You don't have to do it alone. ✔️ You're stronger than you think. You can pick yourself off the floor and try again. You give yourself permission to live life on your terms. Listen to your intuition, and do what you feel like doing! ✔️ This is your chance at a spiritual awakening. You get to gift yourself a new life that you desire. No more feeling stuck about where your ex has left you with. Get a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I'm Divorced” on Amazon!

Comedian Andrea Rappaport knows what it's like going through life's biggest jokes — a love story turned toxic relationship and signing divorce plans that went wrong.  In this episode, the How Not to Suck at Divorce podcast host shares her journey going through the process with her two young boys making many painful mistakes and shedding light on how you can avoid them. ▶️ What To Do And Not To Do After Divorce with Andrea Rappaport ✔️ One of the biggest mistakes people make post-divorce is to stop going to therapy because they think it's over.  Andrea pleads those going through a rough patch never stop getting professional support pre and post-divorce. "One of the biggest things I recommend is keeping your butt in a therapist's chair. Keep talking. I have a personal therapist. I have a therapist who helps me with my children, who helps me navigate my kids' needs based on what they went through and all that stuff. And I have a therapist for my current relationship because I want to make sure that I'm not repeating behavior and traits that I picked up in past relationships." ✔️ A parenting agreement is a tough document to change.  Never miss out on having a professional help you through that step. Andrea says, "It's easy to make mistakes, especially if you are in a high-conflict divorce or where there's abuse of different types going on. There's a myriad of reasons why these mistakes get made in a parenting agreement. What are your child's needs at that point, and what is the best scenario for your kid? It is not an agreement for the parents. It's an agreement for the child, and I can't stress that enough." ✔️ Taking advice from friends and family can keep us stuck.  They try to take you out of your emotion because they're uncomfortable being in it with you. If you choose to do things independently, you will waste more time, even if you feel you are strong enough. Experts come in to guide you through the process and provide actionable steps that will get you back on your feet faster. ✔️ We will do things in our divorce that will hurt the kids and ourselves. Yet, we must do it to make peace and end the chronic conflict. We teach our kids to make similar choices by not settling for less and support them well to become more empathetic and resilient adults. --------------- Andrea Rappaport is a humorist and image consultant. Funny people are usually a result of something very unfunny, and Andrea is no exception. Known for her candor on her Instagram platform @theandrearappaport, Andrea shares the journey of her traumatic divorce and single mommy life with two young boys. She mixes plenty of humor, because laughter is her favorite form of cardio. Professionally, Andrea provides goal-based consulting to individuals and businesses. She blends her 20+ years in the beauty and fashion industry with her expert communication skills from her 20+ years of acting training and 40+ years of therapy. Andrea's clients learn to speak effectively to their audience while showing themselves in the most authentic way. Her clients range from small businesses looking to rebrand to post-divorce individuals looking to get back on the dating scene. A graduate of Chicago's Second City Conservatory, Andrea's wit has been featured on TODAY Parents, The Jam, The Tamron Hall Show, Windy City LIVE, and Great Day SA. Her story has been shared in Uploader Magazine and Voyage Chicago. Her hobbies include: keeping her boys alive, watching her own insta stories, and bragging about her VIP status at Marshall's/TJ Maxx/HomeGoods. Check out Andrea's FREE GIFTS up on her website: www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com.  And contact her on Instagram @theandrearappaport @hownottosuckatdivorce --------------- Connect with Wendy Sterling: Website: https://wendysterling.net/ Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy Twitter: @thedivorcerehab Facebook: @wendytsterling Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: www.contactwendy.com

My journey of self-discovery was a process where I was able to truly understand who I was based on my experiences. This meant letting go of comparison, intentionally living a meaningful and happier life, and choosing self-forgiveness. These three things sealed my success in healing and ultimately, opened up my life to new possibilities. Only when I made that empowered choice to go through the journey that things started to change for me. Tune in to this episode on My Journey of Self-Discovery After Divorce Key points covered in this episode:  ✔️ Mistakes aren't a bad thing. It's part of being human. But owning your mistakes and doing things differently moving forward is what matters. ✔️ Stop self-loathing. Don't feed the guilt. It's important to be able to face your flaws and admit them. This creates less resistance and more ease into flowing into that healed state that you want to be in. ✔️ Make amends with yourself, and take small steps to change. You did what was best for you during those difficult moments. Now, it's time to take action. Have someone who can help you develop new coping mechanisms to avoid falling into old habits. ✔️ Forgiveness is the most freeing thing you can give to yourself. As you work on not doing the same mistakes again, empower yourself to make choices that feel good to YOU. That's when abundance will start flowing into your life. Get a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I'm Divorced” on Amazon!

Do you want to know what your deepest divorce Super Power is? Of course you do! Take my brand new quiz and discover more about yourself and the super power you possess that will take you through divorce into your dream life. https://thedivorcerehab.com/quiz-start-site-podcast Order a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: The 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I'm Divorced” https://www.amazon.com/Divorce-Sucks-Now-What-Yourself/dp/B0BVCWTFTR ------- The missing piece to achieving healing after your divorce is a spiritual awakening. And you have the power to uncover it yourself. It may feel like nothing's working out. But once you start paying attention to the universe and being receptive to what's handed to you at the moment, your key to a more purposeful, abundant life could be waiting for you in the corner. Tune in to this episode on Uncovering the Spiritual Gift of Divorce Key points covered in this episode:   ✔️ The divorce recovery process happens in three stages. Being in the thick of it. Fully committing to rehabilitation. Finding your life purpose.  ✔️ Focus on healing. You'll get there. The universe will put on your path the tools and resources you need to clear your mind. Be receptive to what is around you. You could still be in the process of receiving your spiritual gift.  ✔️ Opening your heart can transform your life. Going through Theta Healing allowed me to receive, forgive, and unlock the door to abundance. ✔️ Your divorce has led you to your spiritual growth. You'll notice that everything will start to come together when you find out that every problem always has a spiritual solution. ✔️ In spiritual growth, problems become detours. Everything that happens for you is a chance to realign with your heart. As you're operating at a higher vibration, you can now thrive in any circumstance that comes your way. Get a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I'm Divorced” on Amazon!

Abundance isn't just about money – it can also be applied to time. I'm inviting you to surrender all your limiting beliefs and remember: What you think, you create. Step out of your comfort zone and embrace your power. You have the ability to shape the life you so badly desire once you apply these actionable tips to shift your mindset. Tune in to this episode on Mindset Tips about Time to Create Abundance Key points covered in this episode:  ✔️ When creating abundance, time doesn't exist.  It has to do more with who you are being and what you're thinking. These factors are what will transform your reality. ✔️ What is meant to be will come.  Co-creating with the universe means our desires manifest in ways we don't expect. Let go of control. Stop thinking of immediate results. Allow the universe to deal with the “How”. Pay close attention to the signs. ✔️ Set your intentions.  As you go about your day, have a purpose for everything you're doing. For example, I intend to inspire and motivate you with my work. And it has reflected in the abundant life I have today. ✔️ Regularly check in with your higher power.  Ensure that you're aligned with the life you wish to create. Make use of the tools and resources to get you back in that aligned state when you feel like you've fallen out. --------------- Get a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I'm Divorced” on Amazon!

Divorce is painful. And unknowingly, this pain we feel stirs up anger inside of us that is so difficult to let go of. I'm here to tell you that holding on to this resentment won't change your circumstances nor will it make you feel any better. Let me share with you three ways you can finally release these emotions and open yourself up to a new life of joy. Tune in to this episode: How to Stop Resenting Your Ex Key points covered in this episode:  ✔️ Acknowledge your emotions.  Step out of the victim mindset, own what happened and how you feel, and name that feeling. Being aware of its existence helps you move forward in dealing with it. ✔️ Express your anger.  You can do it in a healthy way, such as writing a letter or talking aloud in the car – as long as nobody hears you. What's most important is releasing it. ✔️ Heal yourself.  Recovering from emotional hurt is no different from a physical injury. Nurture yourself, give yourself compassion, and pick up the lessons you need to move forward. Get a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I'm Divorced” on Amazon!

Do you want to know what your deepest divorce Super Power is? Of course you do! Take my brand new quiz and discover more about yourself and the super power you possess that will take you through divorce into your dream life. https://thedivorcerehab.com/quiz-start-site-podcast For a woman from a household with two incomes or a wife relying on their former spouse as the breadwinner — going through a divorce can be downright horrifying. What happens when you think you are left with "nothing"?  Join me in this powerful episode with Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, Lisa Zeiderman, who shares valuable nuggets to help you address your finances with less stress.  ▶️ How to Navigate Complex Financial Issues and Find Empowerment Through Your Finances with Lisa Zeiderman. ✔️ As a matrimonial attorney, CFL, and a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, Lisa Zeiderman shares her inspiring origin story of helping women and families go through a divorce. After getting into the fashion business at 18, she survived a divorce and custody case. "What most people find frustrating is a lack of responsiveness. I experienced the same with my attorneys. The client needs to feel we have their back. I decided then that I could be helpful to people. And so that's why I ended up going to law school." ✔️ There's so much emotion tied to divorce when divorce is a business transaction, yet we bring that emotional piece into it, especially regarding our finances. Lisa shares that women need to be reassured that they can go through the process less stressed. In consultations, two main issues must be addressed: custody of the children and finances.  ✔️ Achieving a less complicated divorce process and a rewarding future requires setting reasonable expectations as early as possible. Divorce is hard, but you must be kinder to yourself and allow others to come in and give you the strong support you need.  ✔️ No matter what the situation, divorce disputes are resolvable. People have to realize that it is a marathon and not a sprint. Lisa establishes that the lack of understanding makes divorce scary and way more stressful for many women. Her essential piece of advice: don't let that fear control YOU. Resources and services are available to help you start separating the emotion from the financial element of divorce. ✔️ Do not do divorce by yourself. You want reliable and credible people in your corner, explaining the law, the finances, and the psychological aspects of the divorce process. It would be best if you had a passionate and empathetic team who has your best intentions in their mind. Are you clamming up pursuing your legal separation, or are you ready to open the door for better resolution and positive outcomes?  Let us come to your rescue and make this divorce your life's most significant gift.  ______________________________________________________________ Lisa Zeiderman is Managing Partner at Miller Zeiderman LLP, based in New York. A matrimonial attorney, CFL and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, she regularly handles complex financial and custody divorce matters, as well as pre- and post-nuptial agreements. Named to the Crain's New York list of Notable Woman Attorneys for 2022, as well as a Crain's New York Notable Diverse Lawyer for 2022, a Hudson Valley Best Lawyer in 2022, a 2021 Best Family Law Attorney for Client Satisfaction by the American Institute of Family Law Attorneys, among many other awards, Lisa is a founding member of the American Academy of Certified Financial Litigators and a member of the panel for Attorneys for Children. Lisa is also a member of the Forbes Business Council. In addition to authoring a well-read blog on Psychology Today, “Legal Matters: Understanding Mental Health Issues as They Apply to Divorce and Child Custody,” Ms. Zeiderman is regularly published in Financial Advisor Magazine, the New York Law Journal, and by the Forbes Business Council. She is also interviewed on issues ranging from financial empowerment to tax issues to child custody in a host of media. Ms. Zeiderman, a Fordham University of Law graduate, also serves as the Vice President of the Board of Savvy Ladies, Inc., and on the board of LIFT, Legal Information for Families Today. Website links:  https://lisazeiderman.com/ https://www.savvyladies.org/ IG: @lisazeiderman FB: @lisazeiderman ______________________________________________________________ Connect with Wendy Sterling: Website: https://wendysterling.net/ Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy Twitter: @thedivorcerehab Facebook: @wendytsterling  Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: https://calendly.com/wendysterling/support-call-with-wendy?month=2022-11 Order a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: The 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I'm Divorced” https://www.amazon.com/Divorce-Sucks-Now-What-Yourself/dp/B0BVCWTFTR

Do you want to know what your deepest divorce Super Power is? Of course you do! Take my brand new quiz and discover more about yourself and the super power you possess that will take you through divorce into your dream life. https://thedivorcerehab.com/quiz-start-site-podcast Do you feel constantly stuck in lack, like everything could be taken away from you at any second? If so, you may suffer from a scarcity mindset. This harmful narrative leads you to believe that there are not enough resources available for you and that anything could vanish without warning.  Tune in to the ᴅɪᴠᴏʀᴄᴇᴅ ᴡᴏᴍᴀɴ'ꜱ ɢᴜɪᴅᴇ show — Shifting Your Mindset Out of Scarcity After Divorce. Key points covered in this episode:  ✔️ Embracing an abundant mindset comes in many forms.  It's not solely financial but knowing that prosperity and overflow are possible in all areas of life. Having an abundance mindset means having faith that there is more than enough out there and knowing you have all the resources available to you. ✔️ You are not your failed marriage or your past.  Your history, whether a failed relationship or divorce, does not define you. Stop allowing it to damper what you are meant to be. You are nothing less than light, love, and pure joy! ✔️ Let me remind you today that YOU ARE ENOUGH.  Every time wounds of the past become fresh with memories of abandonment, betrayal, and deep sadness, remember that you have released yourself from the people who did not bring out the best in you. It may be hard to come to terms with what and who you have lost, but all that has come to be is to create a more meaningful and beautiful future.  #divorceadvice #divorcecoach #divorcehelp -------------------- Connect with Wendy Sterling: Website: https://wendysterling.net/ Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy Twitter: @thedivorcerehab Facebook: @wendytsterling  Order a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: The 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I'm Divorced” https://www.amazon.com/Divorce-Sucks-Now-What-Yourself/dp/B0BVCWTFTR Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: https://calendly.com/wendysterling/support-call-with-wendy?month=2021-07

Do you want to know what your deepest divorce Super Power is? Of course you do! Take my brand new quiz and discover more about yourself and the super power you possess that will take you through divorce into your dream life. https://thedivorcerehab.com/quiz-start-site-podcast Positive thinking has the power to transform your life, no matter what your current circumstances are. Quantum physics tells us that we are all made up of energy. And energy carries a certain frequency or vibration. The more positive frequency we give off, the more we attract it. This means that you have the power to control what happens in your life. You get to manifest positivity into your reality, even if you're going through a divorce. Tune in to this episode on Power of Positivity in Creating Abundance after Divorce. Key points covered in this episode:  ✔️ Apply positive thinking in your life. You can do this through visualization and gratitude. Be mindful of your thoughts and spin negative ones into ideas that serve you. ✔️ Positive thinking impacts your health and well-being. It encourages us to take care of ourselves more, cope with stress better, and prevent ourselves from falling into a state of depression. ✔️ Drink from the half-full glass. Instead of dwelling on the things frustrating you, focus on the good things you have now and what you can change. ✔️ Positive thinking builds resilience. You know bad things just happen. And it's not the universe that's out to get you. You're able to make the most of what's happening in the present. ✔️ You can always start over. Positivity allows you to wipe the slate clean, learn from your mistakes, and create something new. -------------------- Connect with Wendy Sterling: Website: https://wendysterling.net/ Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy Twitter: @thedivorcerehab Facebook: @wendytsterling  Order a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: The 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I'm Divorced” https://www.amazon.com/Divorce-Sucks-Now-What-Yourself/dp/B0BVCWTFTR Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: https://calendly.com/wendysterling/support-call-with-wendy?month=2021-07

Do you want to know what your deepest divorce Super Power is? Of course you do! Take my brand new quiz and discover more about yourself and the super power you possess that will take you through divorce into your dream life. https://thedivorcerehab.com/quiz-start-site-podcast I struggled with forgiveness so much. In fact, it was the hardest part of my recovery process after my divorce. And I know you are going through the same things, too. So today, I'll be breaking down these struggles we experience as we get ourselves on the path to forgiveness. I'll also be sharing why it's so important for you to forgive yourself so you can finally move forward into the new life you deserve. Tune in to this episode: Why Forgiving Yourself is Crucial For Moving On Key points covered in this episode:  ✔️ Carrying guilt hinders us from forgiving ourselves. You may feel you're half-responsible. But guilt just gets in the way of you seeing your true worth. ✔️ Self-blame only fosters more shame. My kids heard me kick their dad out. It was difficult to process that it wasn't my fault. Trust me, you'll get to the other side. ✔️ Break the cycle of negative self-talk. No wonder our self-esteem is in the toilet. You're powerful enough to silence this pesky voice in your head. ✔️ Who cares what others think? You know yourself best. Being able to move on emotionally doesn't make you the villain. Say no to self-judgment. ✔️ Release the pain. Resentment is drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Don't allow yourself to rot. Choose to step into that world of forgiveness. ✔️ Move into your new life by practicing these: Self-love. Gratitude Self-compassion ✔️ You deserve to forgive yourself. Nobody's perfect. We all make mistakes. What matters is what you choose to do moving forward. -------------------- Connect with Wendy Sterling: Website: https://wendysterling.net/ Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy Twitter: @thedivorcerehab Facebook: @wendytsterling  Order a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: The 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I'm Divorced” https://www.amazon.com/Divorce-Sucks-Now-What-Yourself/dp/B0BVCWTFTR Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: https://calendly.com/wendysterling/support-call-with-wendy?month=2021-07

A miscarriage, a huge Christmas Day fight, and the decision to make a change. Jen Riday was able to pivot and find her happiness as a married woman. Through her experience, she proves to us that if you're feeling stuck, divorce isn't always the answer. Maybe all you need is an intuitive hit and the mindfulness to create time for your self-care. Tune in to this episode on Choosing Your Happiness in Marriage with Jen Riday Key points covered in this episode:  ✔️ All you need is five minutes. Yoga is Jen Riday's choice of grounding activity. If you're scared of starting a new activity, remember that all good things are on the other side of fear. Your brain (and even your partner) will thank you for it. ✔️ Expand time. The more you believe you have time, the more it's true. Cut out activities that don't serve you. For Jen Riday, it's social media and streaming, unless it's with family. ✔️ Accept your partner's differences. They don't always have to enjoy the same things you do. But their presence and energy must transform you and allow you to live unapologetically YOU. Give each other the grace to let them be who they want to be. ✔️ How happy are you willing to let yourself feel? Your happiness is your responsibility, and you get to create it. Think of ways to make today great, and allow yourself to do it! ✔️ Happiness is the greatest gift you can give. If you can do the things that make you feel truly alive, it's not a selfish act – it's everything you need to share your vibrancy with the world. -------------------- Dr. Jen Riday is the founder of the Vibrant Happy Women movement, host of the Vibrant Happy Women Podcast, and mom of 6. She resides outside of Madison, Wisconsin. She helps burned-out moms slow down and start taking care of themselves so they can get their sparkle back. Website: https://www.jenriday.com/about/ Facebook: Jen Riday Instagram: @jenriday LinkedIn: Jen Riday Twitter: @jenriday YouTube: Jen Riday -------------------- Connect with Wendy Sterling: Website: https://wendysterling.net/ Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy Twitter: @thedivorcerehab Facebook: @wendytsterling  Order a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: The 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I'm Divorced” https://www.amazon.com/Divorce-Sucks-Now-What-Yourself/dp/B0BVCWTFTR Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: https://calendly.com/wendysterling/support-call-with-wendy?month=2021-07

This is a sign that it's time to make a change. Stop allowing the struggles and sorrows to steal more of your precious time. Acknowledge, feel, and release those difficult emotions, and you can finally leave them in the past where they belong.  Tune in to the ᴅɪᴠᴏʀᴄᴇᴅ ᴡᴏᴍᴀɴ'ꜱ ɢᴜɪᴅᴇ show — 3 Steps To Manage Your Emotions and Find Healthy Ways To Cope With Difficult Feelings. ✔️ Stop being so hard on yourself.  Here we are, beating ourselves up, often playing the Should Have game. Humans as we are, we never have the power to see how our marriages can fail, or we can end up getting divorced. When you speak like this to yourself, ask if you would ever talk that way to your child, a best friend, a family member, or a colleague. If you can be an encourager to others, why are you blaming when it comes to yourself?  ✔️ Release the pain.  If the pain's still not going away, what you're doing isn't working.

Setting up boundaries is incredibly important for having the co-parenting relationship work. Learning how to communicate with an ex to make decisions for the kids is a lifelong skill you will require to ensure you achieve the life you desire.  Tune in to the ᴅɪᴠᴏʀᴄᴇᴅ ᴡᴏᴍᴀɴ'ꜱ ɢᴜɪᴅᴇ show — Important Co-Parenting Boundaries You Need To Follow. ✔️ Refrain from badmouthing your co-parent.  As hard as it is, spurting negative things against our ex puts our children in the middle of our relationship with our co-parent, and that is not the place that our children want to be. What we need to do is put them in the center. That means keeping comments to yourself and separating your relationship with your co-parent from the ties they have with their dad or mom. ✔️ The communication that happens between our children and our co-parent is truly none of our business. How often have you been tempted to pick up the phone, open a text message or make that call and intervene in the children's relationship with your co-parent, especially if you don't agree with what is happening?  Undermining this could be devastating and put your child in an uncomfortable and potentially damaging situation. Be supportive by listening to your child, creating a safe space, and encouraging a healthy environment.  ✔️ Communicate with your co-parent in a businesslike manner.

The way to unlock abundance in your finances and in every aspect of your life lies in one word: Forgiveness. You may be wondering, “What does that have to do with money?” You'll be surprised to discover that letting go of resentment actually determines your ability to be wealthy, successful, and joyful after your divorce. Tune in to this episode on Take Control Of Your Financial Future and Create Abundance. Key points covered in this episode:  ✔️ Forgiving doesn't mean letting the person off the hook. Holding on to bitterness blocks that flow of abundance because you had set limiting expectations on what you wanted your life to be like with them. ✔️ Forgiveness is all about YOU. It's an empowering move! The frequency of forgiveness is a catalyst for you to fully heal and shift your alignment to what you truly want. It's a decision that's solely yours. ✔️ Forgiveness is an acronym. Letting go is as simple as this: Face it. Own it. Rectify it. Give yourself forgiveness. Ignite it. Vocalize and visualize what will come into your life. Embody your desires. ✔️ Look at what things in your life need forgiveness. Instead of making up stories about how you could've done things differently, why not write the NEW ones of you living your dream life? --------------- Connect with Wendy Sterling: Website: https://wendysterling.net/ Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy Twitter: @thedivorcerehab Facebook: @wendytsterling  Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: https://calendly.com/wendysterling/support-call-with-wendy?month=2021-07

Money can be an overwhelming source of stress or anxiety before, during, and after divorce. While it can be difficult to confront $$$ issues, women going through divorce and debts can start recognizing that it is just a number. Taking that first step towards knowing that is something you should be proud of.  Our friend Britt Baker, the money management expert over at Dow Janes, recommends mindset shifts and a weekly money ritual to help you overcome the dread, take the burden off and make taking care of your finances a light and pleasant experience.  ▶️ Tune in to the ᴅɪᴠᴏʀᴄᴇᴅ ᴡᴏᴍᴀɴ'ꜱ ɢᴜɪᴅᴇ show — How Taking Care of Your Finances Is a Practice in Love for Future You! ✔️ Creating that financial self-care practice is part of the healing process.  Taking care of your financial health should be just as much of a priority as taking care of your physical and mental health. Have the courage to get to grips with your numbers, and don't delay it any longer. Financial wellness is the new self-care.  ✔️ Shine a light on your mental relationship with money.   If you could manifest whatever vision you have, no matter the cost, what would it be? Imagine working on a blank canvas and painting the big picture for your life. See and feel what can bring you true satisfaction in your relationships, career, and finances, and you will find it easier to take concrete steps in making them a reality. Clarity is an essential element of financial well-being. ✔️ What is your own story that you're going to write with money?  Our concept of money comes from the mindset that our families passed down consciously and subconsciously to us. Making better spending and saving habits and becoming a more reasonable financial decision-maker requires altering our attitude toward money.  Britt recommends creating a clear picture of what kind of person we want to be when it comes to money and why we want to possess it. We should strive to write our own narratives rather than blindly accepting ones written for us. ---------------- Britt Williams Baker is a Harvard Business School graduate, an expert investor with 10+ years of experience, and a money mindset coach.  She co-founded Dow Janes, to teach women+ how to take control of their finances with a step-by-step education and community of support. Free Gift: Free Guide to Creating a Weekly Money Ritual: https://try.dowjanes.com/ritual/  Connect with Britt:  Website link: www.dowjanes.com  Email: britt@dowjanes.com  Instagram: @dow.janes  Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/williamsbritt/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thedowjanes/   Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/dowjanesfinance/  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dowjanes  #divorcefinancialhelp #divorcefinancialplanning #financialclarity ---------------- Connect with Wendy Sterling: Website: https://wendysterling.net/ Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy Twitter: @thedivorcerehab Facebook: @wendytsterling  Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: www.contactwendy.com 

Marriage is hard. Deciding on divorce is even harder. We have this internal conflict about whether to make the move because the choice impacts more than just us. Some will choose to cling to the illusion that things can be fixed or will get better. But not all marriages are salvageable. And the best thing to do is to choose what's best for you. Tune in to this episode on Steps to Determine Whether Divorce Is the Right Decision for You. Key points covered in this episode:  ✔️ Your communication is broken. Before the ultimatum, take active steps to resolve the issue. Ask for help from experts if needed. If the other person seems disinterested, that's your answer. ✔️ You feel a little suspicious about random acts of generosity. If your partner suddenly spoils you with over-the-top gifts, granted that they never did this before, this could be overcompensation for something they're hiding. ✔️ Divorce is in your mind during arguments. Intimacy should be created after fights. But if the opposite happens and the other can't allow space for your differences, that's a red flag. ✔️ Past memories bring more joy than the present. If you feel your marriage was better back then, work together to create more memories. Step back and evaluate if your partner refuses to participate. ✔️ You enjoy spending more time apart than together. Your partner should be investing their time and energy with you. See your worth. You don't have to settle for less. Are you enjoying the show so far? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or leave me a comment down below because this greatly helps in spreading my show to those who need it the most. An amazing community of women is waiting for you in The Divorce Rehab™. Join us now!

Where I'm at today is nowhere near close to where I used to be when I first discovered my 20-year marriage was over. I went from having the rug pulled out of my life to creating this amazing present for myself, finding love, and building a six-figure business out of nothing. It won't be easy to get there, but I want you to see me as an example that it is possible for you, too. Tune in to this episode on Rebuilding Your Life after Divorce. Key points covered in this episode:  ✔️ Get out of your own way. Stop trying to learn everything by yourself. This isn't the time to prove anything. Having hands-on experience is where you start to gain real knowledge about where you are. And gather as much support as you can. ✔️ Put out a positive frequency with the Five Ds. Allow yourself to dream and believe they can come true. Declare your vision. Discover your superpower. Have the drive and determination. Have faith in the divine. ✔️ Look outside the box. See the areas where you need support. Find the right tools and strategies to heal your mind, body, and spirit.  ✔️ Believe that you'll get there. If it can happen to me, it can be the same for you too. ------------------------------------- Are you enjoying the show so far? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or leave me a comment down below because this greatly helps in spreading my show to those who need it the most. An amazing community of women is waiting for you in The Divorce Rehab™. Join us now!

I was so terrified of how my children would react to my divorce. I was willing to stay in an unhappy marriage because I didn't want them in a broken home. But then, I realized I had to choose ME first, and I had the power to choose what my relationship with my kids would look like. Tune in to this episode on How to Maintain a Good Relationship with Your Children after Divorce. Key points covered in this episode:  ✔️ No bashing. Kids are receptive when you're badmouthing the other parent. Don't make them feel bad for still loving your ex-spouse.  ✔️ Don't ask your kids digging questions about what your ex did. You may ask them how their time went. Listen intently to their experience and let them have it. ✔️ Connect with your kids while they're with the other parent. For older kids, you can have video calls with them at the end of the day. Make them feel that you want to be a part of their life. ✔️ Don't let your kids relay messages for your ex. They shouldn't feel like they're in the middle of something. ------------------------------------------- An amazing community of women is waiting for you in The Divorce Rehab™. Join us now!

Overly-controlling and perfectionist parents and discovering her husband's addiction is what led international feminine-intimacy expert, Melisa Keenan to where she is today. Taking a break from her marriage, she saw her relationship with her husband in a new light and unlocked a divine level of intimacy when they reunited. “People need to know that it's not a fairy tale,” she says. She shares her valuable pieces of advice as to how you can also achieve intimacy and access your feminine energy – regardless of your relationship status. Tune in to this episode on The Power of Intimacy with Melisa Keenan. Key points covered in this episode:   ✔️There are three ideas of femininity. Cultural femininity – Notions of femininity depend on one's culture. Masculine and feminine energy - Every person has them and demonstrates them in varied frequencies. Divine feminine - It is all the parts of what it means to be a full woman. ✔️ Intimacy is all about the present. To experience intimacy and closeness, let go of the past and don't be worried about the future. What matters is the now. There are practices that we mistakenly associate with femininity like organization and service, but they are inherently masculine as they demonstrate control.  ✔️ Intimacy isn't just sex. It goes within, and even emotionally and spiritually. The physical act is only a gateway to intimacy. It involves safety, trust, and vulnerability. ✔️ We can't experience intimacy with another more than ourselves. Take a deep breath and notice the feelings in your body. Understand your emotions so you can find out what you truly value and want for the future. Being busy doesn't always mean self-healing. ✔️ Practice self-compassion. It all starts with putting your hand to your heart, telling yourself that it's all going to be okay so you can finally extend your trust bubble and let love in again in your life. ---------------------- Melisa Keenan is an international feminine intimacy coach, visionary, and keynote speaker. She is the trailblazer of a movement of powerful women who pursue the fullest experience of life by embodying intimacy, and leading with their feminine in both business and marriage. Her clients are women who know that “living the dream” is only as fulfilling as their most intimate relationship, and their impact is only as wide as they are willing to go deep, within themselves. Melisa's power lies in her ability to heal and claim joy for both herself and others, through the tremendous life experience she has overcome. She enjoys dancing, singing, working, and praying at her hobby ranch in Northern Nevada where she lives with her husband, CJ, and their four children Elisagrace, Christopher, Daily Abundance, and Evelyn-Joy. ---------------------- Connect with Wendy Sterling: Website: https://wendysterling.net/ Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy Twitter: @thedivorcerehab Facebook: @wendytsterling  Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: https://calendly.com/wendysterling/support-call-with-wendy?month=2021-07

Divorce sucks, but it doesn't have to hurt for the rest of your life. As I juggled the grief of losing my mother and my marriage, I learned valuable lessons and ways of pushing through the pain. I hope that my advice will also empower and guide you in moving forward and seeing your bright future on the other side. Tune in to this episode on How To Navigate the Ups and Downs of Divorce. Key points covered in this episode:  ✔️ Lean into whatever feeling comes up. Let go of self-judgment, so you can acknowledge the roller coaster of emotions. Everyone's experiences can look different. ✔️ Failure is part of picking yourself back up. As you get back in touch with your true self, you'll realize abundance is waiting for you to open the door to your life. ✔️ Tap into your power. My upcoming book isn't the solution but a source of inspiration for you to see your beautiful potential and shift yourself on a path to healing. ______________________________________________________________ Connect with Wendy Sterling: Get VIP access to my upcoming book!

Hello, 2023! Today, I'll be talking about how you can maintain a positive outlook for this year and keep your eyes focused on what your future can look like after divorce. You get to choose your own adventure. And you can do this in three simple steps. Tune in to this episode on Finding Positive and Seeing Hope on The Other Side of Divorce. Key points covered in this episode:  ✔️ Give yourself permission to feel. The shortcut through pain is to allow yourself to be with your emotions. It's okay to take a break when it gets overwhelming. You don't have to be at 100% every day. ✔️ Start planning things for yourself. Schedule eating out with friends. Take a hike. Make yourself your favorite cup of coffee. It's all about re-engaging with the feeling of looking forward to doing something. ✔️ Focus on yourself. Pay attention to what you want and act on it. Initiate hanging out when you feel like you need company. Nobody else will take care of yourself but you. ______________________________________________________________ Connect with Wendy Sterling: Website: https://wendysterling.net/ Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy Twitter: @thedivorcerehab Facebook: @wendytsterling  Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: www.contactwendy.com.

Financial Dignity® Coach Christine Luken's journey to a healthy financial relationship was no easy feat.   Bouncing checks, an ex with terrible money habits, and a poor credit score – she turned to her family for help. She worked her way out with a plan and quit her corporate job to help others with similar struggles.   Now, she's here to pass on her wisdom to you.   Tune in to this episode on How To Heal Your Relationship With Money with Christine Luken.   Key points covered in this episode:     ✔️Treat money as a person. Unlike your ex, you and money are together forever. It deserves your love and attention. Christine also suggests writing a letter to money to clear yourself of your negative feelings surrounding it. You and money should be on the same team.   ✔️Know your money story. It's the learned behaviors and attitudes towards money that you've picked up from others. It created an emotional weight around my divorce as I did asset division and signed papers. Divorce is a business transaction. And that's the reality.    ✔️Give yourself space to calm down. Often our emotions overpower our reasoning. Making sound financial decisions requires both logic and feelings. Your entire being must be holistically in good condition to avoid impulsive money choices.   ✔️Money represents freedom in options. It is a tool that provides, and it doesn't care how it's spent. Money can be used for evil. But it can also be given to someone in need. It's all about the energy that you choose to put around it.   ✔️Have a weekly money date. Spare some time in your calendar to go over your finances and assess your money health. You can even turn it into an enjoyable experience. Just like a real person, you need to date money to cultivate a good relationship.   ✔️You can still have fun with a healthy spending plan. On your path to financial freedom, you don't need to deprive yourself of the little pleasures of a good meal or a nice pair of shoes. Know where your money is going, and avoid too many restrictions.   Ready for money to support your happiness, rather than stress you out? Then you need Christine Luken, Financial Dignity® Coach in your corner!   As the Founder of the Financial Dignity® Movement, Christine has coached hundreds of high-earning professionals, business owners, and divorcing women to pay off staggering amounts of debt and massively increase their net worth. The author of several books, including Money is Emotional and Financial Dignity® After Divorce, Christine blends wise money management with emotional intelligence.   When she's not coaching clients from her home office in Cincinnati, you can find this member of the National Association of Divorce Professionals curled up with a good book, a fluffy cat, and a strong cup of coffee. You can find her at www.ChristineLuken.com   Books on Amazon:   Financial Dignity After Divorce Money is Emotional Manage Money Like a Boss   Free Gift: The Divorcing Woman's Money Checklist   Website: www.ChristineLuken.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christineluken/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/financialdignitycoach/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/FinancialDignityCoach    ______________________________________________________________   Connect with Wendy Sterling:   Website: https://wendysterling.net/ Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy Twitter: @thedivorcerehab Facebook: @wendytsterling  Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: www.contactwendy.com.

Can you believe that it's the end of 2022? In this episode, I'll be reflecting and sharing vulnerably where I'm at, how I choose to be taking care of myself during this very hard time of year for me, and how you can practice self-care as a way to start the new year. Tune in to this episode on Self-Care During Hard Times. Key points covered in this episode:  ✔️ The first year of grief is always the hardest. Navigating my divorce and my mother's passing was a difficult experience, but it also emphasized the importance of self-care. ✔️ Trust yourself and surrender to your feelings. Allow yourself to give what you need at the moment. Let go of judgment, worry, and fear. Letting the emotions flow through you can help you recover quicker. ✔️ Make the necessary shifts to your schedule. I had to move some of my clients because I felt like I needed more time to take care of myself. And you can too. ✔️ Find solace in the simple things. If walking your dog or buying a snack from the store is the only self-care that you can afford right now, it still counts. ______________________________________________________________ Connect with Wendy Sterling: Website: https://wendysterling.net/ Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy Twitter: @thedivorcerehab Facebook: @wendytsterling  Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: https://calendly.com/wendysterling/support-call-with-wendy?month=2021-07

Best-selling author and ‘The Divorce Coach' Sara Davison is no stranger to reinventing herself after a separation. After finding out her then-husband was setting up a new life with another partner, she faced the waves of a turbulent divorce and swore to survive it so she can help other women experiencing the same troubles. Tune in to this episode on  5 Phases of Divorce with Sara Davison. Key points covered in this episode:   ✔️Everything passes. Just because life is bad in the moment doesn't mean it'll stay that way forever. Have faith in the possibility that you can turn your pain into power. ✔️Change how you react. Do you find yourself repeatedly frustrated over certain situations? Notice what you're doing and ask yourself, “What can I do to take back my power and avoid being triggered?” You have full control over your emotions.  ✔️Lower your expectations. If you have an ex that's difficult to deal with, any other good that they do is a bonus. So whenever you're frustrated about a recurring bad habit, like being late, take back control and plan ahead! ✔️Build your self-reliance muscles. Coming out of a toxic relationship, you may have lost the ability to trust your own instinct. Whatever your ex throws at you – from their lawyers or anyone else – let them do what they want. But don't let it break you.  ✔️ Make a breakup bucket list. Write down all the things you CAN do now that you couldn't have done before. Did your ex hate leather trousers? Wear them! Did they stop you from painting the house with pastel shades? Now's the time to do it! ✔️Push yourself outside your comfort zone. You're doing just great the way you are. And all it takes is a little bit of stepping up for change to happen. It's the small choices we make that lead to the biggest leaps forward. Enjoy the process, and test the waters. What can you do differently now? Sara Davison, best known as ‘The Divorce Coach' is an award-winning authority on break-ups, divorce, and life-empowerment.    Following the launch of Sara's Breakup & Divorce Coach Practitioner Accreditation Program in 2018, Sara has now founded The International Divorce Coach Centre Of Excellence which has a coaching community of 250 Divorce Coaches spanning 16 countries and five continents.    Sara is a twice best-selling author, regular media commentator, and host of the #1 podcast Heartbreak to Happiness. Books: The Split: Breakup to Breakthrough in 30 Days or Less Uncoupling: How to survive and thrive after breakup and divorce Free Gift: Breakup Survival Guide: https://www.saradavisonbreakupsurvivalguide.com/guide1  Website link:  www.saradavison.com Instagram and Facebook: @saradavisondivorcecoach  Twitter: SDDivorceCoach LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sara-davison-742b453/  ______________________________________________________________ Connect with Wendy Sterling: Website: https://wendysterling.net/ Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy Twitter: @thedivorcerehab Facebook: @wendytsterling  Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: www.contactwendy.com.   

Are you thinking of going on a soul-searching adventure?

In the "Most Wonderful Time of the Year," many of us can feel incredibly alone. ❄️ Family, togetherness, and love are the highlights of the season that can bring a swell of difficult emotions for the single, separated, and divorced.  Going through these challenging, yearly holiday episodes myself, I invite you to think about this shift. Instead of saying, "Oh, I'm just a single person now," Ask: "What new and amazing experience can I get to create this year?"  ▶️ Feeling Lonely During the Holidays After Divorce ✔️ Don't choose to be lonely this time of year.   A couple of years ago, when I was newly divorced, I always wondered to myself: Who would I ever travel with? My parents are not fond of going around, while all my married friends cannot leave on a whim when they have to take care of the kids. Travelling is my passion, but I dreaded the thought of being by myself.  ✔️ Fulfill your travel dreams post-divorce. The holidays are the perfect time to go on that short trip or grand adventure you've long been postponing. It's time to follow the joy of experiencing new places and reconnect with yourself. When I finally took the courage to travel solo and convince myself to leave the children for a while, I discovered that it was the best decision I had ever made for me. Going alone made me focus on myself, experience new adventures, and find fresh perspectives in another place with other people.  ✔️ You can bring back "happy" in the holidays without your ex.  I just knew that ticking off a bucket list solo travel was something that I wanted to do. I finally made Egypt happen! ✨

Certified High-Performance Coach Jennifer Butler is no stranger to pivoting her life trajectory. After a divorce in 2010, she realized that being a relationship coach wasn't her true calling. Now, she envisions herself helping people live their best life. Jennifer Butler shares her advice on how we can stay focused on our goals, what to do to fuel that momentum, and how to deal with negative thoughts. Tune in to this episode on How to Create Confidence, Joy, & Passion in All Areas of Life with Jennifer Butler Key points covered in this episode:  ✔️ Give attention to that voice. Commit to it and focus on the next step. Let go of thinking about the next steps after that to avoid overwhelm. Just get your foot out the door and lean in the direction you want to take. ✔️ Imagine your higher self. How do you want to show up in this? Do you want to be more confident? Curious? This keeps you open to seeing the next step, and it's all in your control. Own the fact that your energy is yours. ✔️ Failure is part of success. Instead of thinking, “Why did this happen to me?”, ask yourself, “What lesson can I get from this?” Failures move the plot of your success story and are also worth celebrating. Give it the meaning that inspires and transforms you. ✔️ Show courage every day. Choosing to have that tough conversation and setting boundaries hones your “courageous muscle” and allows things in your life to positively shift. It also keeps you focused on your goal. ✔️ You direct your life. We all have 24 hours in a day. It might feel scary to take the plunge at first but start small, such as taking control of how you feel right now. Your efforts add up. Remember - it's a journey. You got this! --------------------------------------------------------------------- Jennifer Butler is a certified High-Performance Coach helping driven professionals design the life they want by activating their confidence, joy, and passion without sacrificing success and purpose. Jennifer combines years of experience, extensive education, and a science-backed holistic framework to empower her clients to reach heightened levels of clarity, energy, courage, productivity, and influence.  The result is long-term success, positive relationships, and improved well-being. Website link:  www.jenniferjoybutler.com --------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with Wendy Sterling: Website: https://wendysterling.net/ Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy Twitter: @thedivorcerehab Facebook: @wendytsterling  Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: https://calendly.com/wendysterling/support-call-with-wendy?month=2021-07

Can you believe 2022 is about to end? The holidays are a struggle not only for divorced parents but also for their children. But it's important to remember that you have control over making this time a memorable one for you and your kids. Tune in to this episode on How to Put Divorced Kids First During the Holidays. Key points covered in this episode:  ✔️ You have the power to ease the tension. It relies on your ability to plan ahead and what level of conflict you are avoiding. Although stressful, the holidays are a time to put grudges in the past and create positive experiences. ✔️ Focus on the time you have with your kids. And make it quality! Start new holiday traditions or adjust what worked for you in the past and make them your own. ✔️ Be mindful of your kids' feelings. Help them regulate their inner conflicts. Let them feel and express their sadness. Don't make them guilty of spending time away from you. Also, watch your words when talking to your ex in front of them. ✔️ Relax and enjoy yourself. Laugh and be joyful with your kids. Make memories with them that can stand the test of time.  ______________________________________________________________ Connect with Wendy Sterling: Website: https://wendysterling.net/ Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy Twitter: @thedivorcerehab Facebook: @wendytsterling  Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: https://calendly.com/wendysterling/support-call-with-wendy?month=2022-11

The RIGHT PERSON may have already come and gone because you've pushed them away many times. Whether it's low self-esteem or childhood traumas — if left unresolved, you sabotage your chance at love.  Stop denying yourself the relationship you deserve. Join me in this powerful episode ▶️ How To Date With Confidence To Magnetize Your Man For A Long-Term And Happy Relationship with Antia Boyd. ✔️ Purpose is where wound and opportunity meet. Expert love coach,   Antia Boyd, shares that her life's work came to be from wounds growing up in an emotionally absent household in communist eastern Germany. Having a mom who was a narcissist contributed to her low self-esteem, which became evident in her relationships. ✔️ A walking contradiction. Antia lived a conflicted life; on the one hand, wanting to have that deeply-connected long-term relationship, and on the other hand, thinking she didn't need a man. "I'm sure many women can relate to that to keep themselves safe. Guess what? We're living in a universe of reflection. So what you send out, that's what you get back. And so I attracted men into my life who were also conflicted inside of that self. They were emotionally unavailable." ✔️ When you learn all the information but still can't figure out the answers. Internal integration is necessary to avoid the self-sabotaging habits that come up in the dating process. ✔️ The first step is to stop hiding. Anything that you're afraid to be found out about, feeling like you're just selfish, too needy, too much, too loud, or too intense. These aspects make you who you are, a vulnerable and imperfect human. Others cannot love you if you do not love everything that you are. ✔️ Men will test you unconsciously, especially those afraid of intimacy. Antia says to "advocate for yourself" in the court of love. "We're always making a case why we can't trust the men and get hurt by them. But why not make a case about all your attributes inside yourself being incredible and highly magnetic, and you can bring in the right man by becoming like a lighthouse so he can find you in the middle of the night?" ✔️ Be willing to be wrong.

The holidays are the hardest time of year for many of us, especially for those who are facing divorce or are already on the other side. You may be worrying about which family to spend it with and where to go. But all you truly want is peace, joy, and freedom. This time of year is your chance to change traditions and create something of your own. Tune in to this episode on How to Survive the Holidays After a Divorce. Key points covered in this episode:  ✔️ Being alone is a choice. If you don't want to feel lonely, call a friend and join in their celebrations. It might feel awkward at first, but there's NO golden rule of who and where you should be spending your holidays. ✔️ Find what excites you about the holidays. Christmas-themed movies? Light shows? Hot chocolate? Do all your favorite things with your kids. Carry a positive energy that you can pass on to them. ✔️ Think about ways to make this time special. If your children don't like turkey and prefer steak instead, cook it! If they're free on other days, so what? What matters is the tradition you create. ✔️ Be gentle with yourself. What will make the holidays memorable for you? Give yourself care and love. Create memories that people will fondly look back on. ______________________________________________________________ Connect with Wendy Sterling: Website: https://wendysterling.net/ Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy Twitter: @thedivorcerehab Facebook: @wendytsterling  Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: https://calendly.com/wendysterling/support-call-with-wendy?month=2022-11

Want to find yourself again after divorce? Go Here: https://thedivorcerehab.com/finding-yourself-after-divorce Going back to the dating scene was terrifying for author Laura Williams. After a sudden divorce from a 27-year marriage, she had two paths: completely retreat for protection OR find something interesting with the risk of rejection. Being unhappy wasn't a choice. She says, “When I hear people are scared to get out there, I think, ‘Isn't it scarier to stay where you are?'” You, too, can make the same decision. Are you ready? Tune in to this episode on Dating In Your Midlife After Divorce with Laura Williams. Key points covered in this episode:   ✔️You need external feedback, not validation. Dating different people can help you know more about your strengths and weaknesses. We are our own worst critics of our bodies. But what we dislike is actually attractive in another's eyes. ✔️Sex is self-expression, not an act of service. You have the choice to partake in the experiences and be involved with the people you want. Take the shame away from enjoying sex without commitment. Reclaim your power.  ✔️Have space for your children's feelings.  Their reactions to your dating escapades may be celebrating with you or having difficulties processing the change. Validate their internal struggles. Get into honest conversations with them. ✔️Being a loyal mother is an asset. Some men find a woman's dedication and loyalty to her children attractive. If he doesn't like it when you drop dates to be with your kids, he's not the one. Men who want to be with you DO exist! ✔️Be honest with what you've lost, and embrace what you've gained. Divorce and dating don't make you less of a mother. It actually makes you more of it! Your kids want more quality time, heart-to-heart talks, and meaningful experiences.   ✔️Be in it to find it. Dating post-divorce is like jumping into cold water. The only way to do it is to actually do it! You CAN have a supportive and loving partner. You CAN have a fulfilling relationship on your own terms. Trust the process. Laura Friedman Williams is a native New Yorker whose writing credits consist of countless PTA newsletters, program notes for talent shows and school auctions, and ghostwritten bar mitzvah speeches for many of her friends. Her wit and wisdom have not yet made it to a larger audience, but her years spent raising children and running events at her children's schools have kept her writing steady and sharp. She credits her degree in English from Washington University and the ten formative years she spent in book publishing – first in Subsidiary Rights at Warner Books (now Grand Central Publishing) and then at Henry Holt & Company, then as a book scout and finally as a literary agent – for giving her a deep love and respect for the written word. She credits the break-up of her marriage for finally giving her the subject matter about which she both needed and wanted to write. She lives in downtown Manhattan with her three children. ______________________________________________________________ Connect with Wendy Sterling: Website: https://wendysterling.net/ Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy Twitter: @thedivorcerehab Facebook: @wendytsterling  Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: https://calendly.com/wendysterling/support-call-with-wendy?month=2021-07