Grown Woman Stuff with Julee Jonez

Hey, sis! I know it's been a minute and I told you I wasn't too sure what I'd be doing on here for 2024. Well, chile what started off as a radio interview on intimacy took a turn into a short podcast on intimacy, just in time for Valentine's Day.  Let me rewind to how we even got to the radio interview. Now, many of you know I have not been delivered from reality television. I try but it's a weakness! But this past season on OWN's Love & Marriage Huntsville, the issue of sex, intimacy and even “faking it” was a recurring theme. We know Kimmie's cancer treatment killed her libido and she admitted to faking it, simply to take one for the team. Her husband Maurice kept saying “it was a mind thing” and felt some type of way. I had to side-eye the brother because she survived cancer! Dude. Be glad she was even willing to even try and have sexual relations with you!  Then we have Melody and Martell.  If you watch the show, you know his infidelity and fathering a child outside their marriage led to their demise. Honey, Melody let it be known she never had an orgasm during their marriage, thus faking it, too.  But we're not done. Carlos King - being a tad messy- asked Tisha if she ever faked it during the reunion and she admitted she has as well. However, none of this is unusual about women and “The Big O”. Here are a few statistics from Pleasurebetter.com: 81.6% of women don't orgasm from intercourse alone.  Only 18.4% of women report that intercourse alone is sufficient to orgasm.  Only 65% of women orgasm during partnered sexual activity. 5-10% of women have never orgasmed, though many of these women will later in life. 59% of women have faked an orgasm.  So none of the women on #LAMH are alone. But should you fake it? Is your pleasure up to you or your partner?  Is sex only about reaching the mountaintop? How important is intimacy beyond the bedroom? Could other issues such as a lack of communication lead to lackluster lovemaking? These are some questions I had to call in a professional to address. We're talking to a regular of the podcast, Aleisha Olatunde. She is both a Christian therapist (Whole You Therapy) and sex coach (Whole Intimacy, LLC). So lean in as we chop it up about the barriers to true intimacy, changes in both men and women that can impact their libido, how do you resolve sexual challenges and more. 

Hey, sis! Long time, no talk. I took a summer sabbatical, which wasn't intended to go beyond September. But I'm back today with a special pop-up episode. As we go into another year, let's not just examine our financial, physical or career goals. Albeit those are important, we also need to look at other areas of our lives.  Mental health.  Prioritizing our time.  Making rest a necessity.  Implementing self-care. And assessing the health of our relationships. Yes, we need #RelationshipGoals. Not the ones celebrated on IG or celeb couples folks long to emulate. I'm talking about making the decision to evaluate the quality of relationships with those around us. Whether it's romantically, among friends, in the workplace, within a membership organization, unhealthy relationships can exist in various spaces. A recent buzzword regarding these types of interactions is “toxic”. One definition from Merriam-Webster describes toxic as “extremely harsh, malicious, or harmful.”  And toxic behavior is harmful to one's well-being; it can be a form of emotional abuse.  While there may not be bruises on the body, there is hurt beyond the surface. Whether if it's derogatory language, stonewalling or gas lighting, these actions within the confinement of a relationship is damaging  to the person on the receiving end. In this episode, we chop it up with Licensed Marriage Family Therapist, Nadirah Habeebullah. She is the owner of Healing Our Trauma, which specializes in trauma and attachment therapy services. We discuss the signs of toxic relationships, how to identify harmful patterns, the impact of emotional trauma and more.  So lean in for “Sis, it's Toxic: Identifying Unhealthy and Abusive Relationships.” 

Hey sis! Welcome to this week's episode of Grown Woman Stuff with Julee Jonez. Today's chat is not for the pearl-clutchers. Again, we discuss marriage and sex, but with some added spice. Let me lay the groundwork. Growing up in the church when it came to sex, all I heard was wait until marriage. When I got grown and married, it was addressed as a task for wives to be sexually submissive spouse pleasers. The onus of a happy sex life was on the wife, with no pleasure responsibility put on the husband. Yes, verses like 1 Corinthians 7:4 seemed to equal things out, saying each other's body belongs to their spouse. Yet, presenters of the message didn't paint a romantic picture! It was conveyed as duty versus delight. But there were other missing components. The discussion of couples abstaining from sex only to pray and fast; not taking into account the wife may be going through some things, such as postpartum, perimenopause or stress. Or maybe conflict was the culprit affecting a spouse's libido. The conversations weren't nuanced and very checklist-like. If you present sex for a woman to check off on her “Good Wife Duty List” that takes the sexy out of it! But finding resources and a circle of like-minded married Christian women who know their sexual agency is both powerful and helpful. Women who are transparent - and trustworthy - having intimate conversations with their sisters can be safe places for fellow wives. They can also mentor those who desire to be married, preparing them for what's ahead. Another bonus? Wives who discuss the struggles and obstacles when it comes to sex lets others realize they aren't alone. This is why we're having a conversation that I wish I would've heard during my younger years. Enter in Kimberly Stutson, a Certified Sexuality Coach. Kimberly, who got her start as a Bedroom Kandi consultant, now coaches couples and individuals, plus leads marriage retreats in various churches. Yes, you read that right. In the church. Listen in as Kimberly discusses misconceptions about marital aids/products, the biggest obstacles to women not achieving orgasm, the importance of communication about sex with your spouse and much more. This conversation is filled with laughter but also real concerns women – and even men – face when it comes to their sex life with their spouse. Kimberly addresses what I call some “for real, for real” sex stuff. If you are faint at heart or a super saint who shuns a little naughtiness – even with your spouse- you may want to sit this one out. I say this in love. If not, lean in and glean in #MarriedAF (And Faithful) Part 2: Sexology & the Saints, with Kimberly Stutson. **Mature/adult content advisory. No profanity or anything but definitely rated M.**

Hey sis! As we dive into today's topic, I must share the inspiration. A few weeks ago, I finally caught the Hillsong documentary. Whew, girl. It was a lot. From the structure of power, to coverups of sexual misconduct and abuse, to volunteers being overworked and more. When I say there was so much going on behind the scenes, it was. (I won't even get into Brian Houston, the founder and his daddy, sis. Not today.) But a big focal point of the piece was former pastor, Carl Lantz. With his dynamic speaking, charismatic personality, an appearance that is more relatable to “the culture” than what you may see in a traditional church, I can see why many were drawn to him. Lantz was dubbed a “celebrity pastor”, who baptized Justin Bieber and Kevin Durant. Other celebs, from actors, to musicians, to athletes and reality stars often frequented his church.  However, beyond his youth and superstar appeal, there was even more to Lantz.  Including the well-documented affair that led to his ousting.  There was also an “inappropriate” relationship with his nanny, where his wife caught them in a compromising situation. Although she has decided to stay by her husband's side, I am quite sure sis has some days where she low-key cursed him out in her head. Albeit he appears repentant and they are working through reconciliation, I know it has got to be tough. As I watched the story unfold, it made me think about how do we protect our relationships from infidelity? Is it possible to cheat-proof your marriage? If a breach of trust is broken, how do you rebuild that trust? Should you even attempt to reconcile? When intimacy is lacking, what are ways to restore it? How does conflict affect sexual connection? As I viewed the documentary, I noted something else: women being held responsible for the sexual satisfaction of their husbands. Now, the Bible says the woman's body belongs to the husband and vice versa; so why was the onus put on the women? I hope the men got together and spoke about why foreplay starts before you enter the bedroom. If not, consider this a suggestion to pass along. Did they ever chop it up about how intimacy is beyond hot, sweaty sex?  Did they emphasize the importance of safe-guarding themselves from falling prey to sexual temptation outside their marriage? Bottom, line? On the outside looking in, it seemed like the power dynamics of the patriarchy wanted women to carry the bedroom burdens! I had moments when I was like, “Now, Jesus, what's goin' on up in this place?” I had questions. A lot of them.  So I reached out to Aleisha Olatunde, who is a Mental Health Counselor who also works in sex therapy and coaching. Previously, she and I discussed the saints and sex, including the focus on purity culture that is so prevalent in many of our faith spaces. But what about when the issue is keeping the marriage bed pure and undefiled (Hebrews 13:4)? Aleisha and I discuss ways for couples to increase the chance of having a faithful union. She is also candid on the contributing factors as to why a partner may step out - whether it's the husband or wife. What about recovering from an affair; is it possible? Well, sis we get into that and more. So whether you're married, divorced, engaged, dating or single, this is a conversation that is necessary when it comes to being #MarriedAF. Married and faithful.  

Hey sis! Although it's been a minute since we've chatted, I thought I'd take a break to reset, recharge and rest. After all, I made big plans to carry out for 2023! Yet, here we are at the mid-year point. And I haven't nearly completed what is on my list. While my vision board from last year did not come to fruition, I know why. I was simply wore out; emotionally drained. My mental health was suffering. A loved one was facing challenges that were pressing. A door I thought was opening that would enhance my career got slammed in my face. I began to feel off-kilter more often than not. Bottom line?  I did not have the capacity.  That's on periodt. So vision board 2022 - with some minor adjustments - became my goals for 2023. I was ready to start the year off with a bang. By February, I'd publish my devotional. By March, I'd have my group fitness certification. In April, I'd stop eating refined sugar for 60 days. Then life started lifin' and again.  I didn't have it in me to do anything for these first six months of the year. Managing to go to work, therapy, exercise and hit up church were the biggest accomplishments I could manage. I gave myself an extra “star” when I could make dinner more than twice a week. As the vision still is in my heart - and on my board - I know I need to make a decision. So as June has arrived, I am not only readjusting my timeline but also reassessing my goals. Because maybe it's time to get a new vision if what's on my board isn't from God. Whew. That will preach to somebody. But let's not beat ourselves up if we haven't done what we thought we would once the clock hit midnight on January 1. Instead, let's really take the time to determine what our next steps should be. Which is why I am excited to speak with today's guest, life coach Stacey Jennings. Stacey weighs in with faith-fueled inspiration on getting unstuck, dealing with distractions, how to determine if our goals align with our God-given purpose and more. So lean in, sis for this mid-year check in. And be determined to go forward, despite any detours.

Hey sis! Welcome to the final day of Women's History Month and the chat with our last guest in the Everyday HERstory series. In a society where women have made major contributions, we're still fighting for many things. Issues such as equal pay, sexism, toxic patriarchal ideology and ageism still exist. We find ourselves saving our communities, families and even the nation; yet can face misogynoir. Our capabilities are questioned. We're held to higher levels of judgement. We are often mislabeled. (You know, like when men are called “assertive” and we're deemed aggressive. Insert eye roll.) Or maybe like me, you've at one time or another were called the “b” word – and the “b” was not for “brave”. Needless to say, being a woman isn't easy. And being a Black woman in particular adds to the complexities we face on a daily basis.  For the last few years, there's been more perspective given to the Black and female experience. In fact, since the 2020 protests, we've witnessed added attention to particular subjects that impact Black women. Bias.  Diversity. Equity. Equality. Representation. While I am glad these topics are being brought to the forefront, there is still much more work to do. As Black women navigate through the mix, it's important that we utilize the power of our voices to call out wrongs in order to enact change and accountability. Even where we collect our checks.  The racial dynamics including socialization, conflict and representation without voice is real in many work spaces. What do we do in those situations? Some feel empowered to speak without fear of retaliation or loss. But others, may not believe they have that capacity. Either way, it's tough to navigate. While many companies tout representation, they don't equally welcome the authentic voice of Black and brown women. But for former local anchor Lisa Benson, the choice to use her voice both cost and rewarded her.  In 2016, she sued her employer and its' parent company for race discrimination, alleging she was denied promotions and other job opportunities because of her race. Although Lisa did have a legal victory, choosing to litigate wasn't an easy decision. And not everyone was ready to stand by her side. After the tumultuous experience with racism and retaliation in her former workplace, she became the Founder/CEO of Winning Truths International, LLC. Her company works in the areas of of diversity, equity, inclusion and the eradication of racial ignorance. Lisa authored "Anchored in Bias, Fired Over White Tears”, chronicling her personal experience. While we discuss what she went through before and during her lawsuit, the conversation goes much deeper. She candidly shares how growing up around people who didn't look like her impacted her identity and other topics: what ally ship should look like, why we need to embrace each other's humanity regardless of skin color, race in faith spaces and more. Of course, we also talk about her stepping out as a media/DEI entrepreneur, and her advice to create an exit strategy for anyone in a toxic work environment.  This is the perfect conversation to wrap up our month and hopefully, encourage you in your own HERstory. The road isn't easy but as Lisa shows us, there is purpose on the other side. 

The celebration of Women's History Month continues, sis! While we may recognize the “big” names of women who have made their mark, everyday women are making history in the spaces they occupy. With some, it's familial history - the reversing of generational patterns or building new bridges between loved ones. For others, it's the contributions in their workplaces or in their own business. The HERstories are vast and although we may not know each one, all of them matter. Our stories emerge as we go through life's ups and downs. We have both victories and challenges. We experience the mountaintops and the valleys. But it's often in the down times where we discover our resilience and are transformed. The painful seasons help us grow; pain is part of the process, my friend. We don't look for it. We don't welcome it. Yet, it's a contributing factor to our story. If you think back to when you were in those puberty years, you likely experienced some type of growing pains. Now, I didn't ever reach a magnificent growth spurt. (I topped out at five feet by middle school.) But I recall the various pains in my body as I developed into a young woman. And as adults, pain is a part of our life and continued growth process. We can't avoid it, but we can thrive in spite of it. We can also use the pain we face as fuel to fulfill our God-given purpose. Today's guest is the prime example. Jessica McCallop-McClellan is the founder and President of Giving Hope & Help, Incorporated. Giving Hope & Help is a 501c3 nonprofit organization that supports domestic violence survivors, provides essential resources to end period poverty, offers scholarship opportunities for college bound and non-traditional students and helps cancer patients. But it was Jessica's personal experiences with sexual assault, domestic violence, academic goals and heavy menstrual cycles that led her to create Giving Hope & Help. This conversation is inspiring as Jessica shares her testimony from her past abuse, her exact “a-ha” moment, how a spiral notebook in her closet birthed her vision and more. So listen in to this Everyday HERstory and get ready to be encouraged to turn your pain into purpose, sis.

March is Women's History Month, a time to acknowledge and celebrate all the contributions women are making in our culture, history, and society. This year's theme is "Celebrating Women Who Tell Our Stories." And sis, we all have a story. Our stories create our personal history. That history has the power to impact others around us, whether it's a few or the masses. Someone needs the story that you have. So it's important to speak about our experiences. The obstacles and the blessings. The love and the heartbreak. The times of celebration and the seasons of grief. The regret and the relief. That's why we're doing a short series this month, titled “Everyday HERstory," the personal stories of a few women who have courageously sat down with me for vulnerable conversations about their journey. Women who have overcome so much and are transparent; discussing their healing processes while encouraging others along the way. They have turned their pain into purpose, letting their HERstory fuel their service to those around them. The first guest is cosmetologist and fitness professional Rashouna Harris, owner of Champion Made Fitness. The sista is bad! She's been beautifying women for over two decades and has been a bodybuilding figure competitor for fifteen years. But fitness is more than being a certain size or obtaining a particular look. For Rashouna, it's a matter of wellness — mind, body and soul. Rashouna reveals how fitness has contributed to her mental health and helps her as she navigates grief. Rashouna lost her late boyfriend/son's father in a senseless act of violence. She's kept his own legacy of fitness at the helm but is candid about the struggle of losing someone you love. I appreciate her openness and ability to share from her place of heartbreak, while displaying perseverance. Rashouna also dives into overcoming a previous abusive marriage, dealing with her mother's breast cancer and much more. Sis, I'm gonna keep it real. I low-key needed some Kleenex. This is a conversation that will tug at your heart strings but will inspire you to step out in faith to achieve your dreams. And of course, Rashouna gives helpful insight for those who want to make fitness a priority, debunking myths about women lifting weights, the problem with comparison and her latest endeavor to bring women together with KC Cuties. As you lean in to hear Rashouna's HERstory, remember to embrace and value your own.

Hey sis! We're in week three of 2023 and can I be real with you? I'm already tired. The excitement of possibilities for the year has been overridden by the hurried ending of 2022. A lack of rest. Too many distractions. Not being in the best headspace. Albeit I'm a little frustrated, I realize I have to give myself grace. While I'd love to race out the gate, making major strides on my goal list, I know timing, planning and patience are necessary. So I will breathe. Pace myself. Celebrate the small steps. But most importantly, I am taking inventory of my life. What are habits I need to change? Are there any previous goals that perhaps I need to turn aside from? As we think of goal-setting as doing “something”, what if we made a goal to let go? We can get to a crossroad in our life where we realize everything that we thought was good may no longer serve us well. It is in that moment we must make a choice. Do we keep pursuing something that has run its' course? Or do we make the tough choice to walk away? Are we able to release what we're emotionally attached to? Can we truly let go of that we've invested in with our time, talent, finances or mental energy? In the final episode of this three-part series, #Goals2023, the topic is just that - the goal of letting go with Licensed Professional Counselor, Jessica Horne. Jessica is the owner of From A Strong Place Telehealth. She has experience in treating depression, anxiety, grief, difficult life transitions and other emotional difficulties, using various therapy styles. Jessica and I dig into what it means to let go of a hope, desire, relationship or even a dream. And how that decision can impact our life for the better. It sounds counterintuitive but sometimes we have loosen our grasp on what we've long held on to in order to receive a new assignment. To walk into the next phase of our life. For the chance to gain a better opportunity. As expected when making a life change, that can cause an upheaval of emotions - including grief. Jessica speaks on the grief involved in the process, as well as explaining when letting go is the best choice, why it isn't simply giving up and more. Pull alongside us sis, for a discussion that could truly impact the decisions you make in this new year.

Hey sis! I pray all is well for you, as we enter in to the second week of 2023. Are you experiencing the high of a new year? Many of us are eager as we think about the possibilities a different year can bring. Often we use the new year as a chance to reset our vision and create the goals for what we hope to accomplish. As we discussed last week, we tend to make goals that we can measure with a tangible result. Weight loss. Drinking more water. Cutting refined sugar. (I struggle with that one!) Taking a class. Saving more money. The list goes on. All of those desires are great and can contribute to our success. However, if our mental health is suffering, even if we accomplish everything on our vision board, our overall life is affected. We are on episode number two of this three-part series, #Goals2023. In episode one, we focused on setting soul goals to nourish our innermost self. Soul care is not measurable by a particular number like weight on a scale or an event, such as a job promotion. But when our soul is well, other areas of our life become better because we are caring for the part of ourselves that is beyond the external. It is the same with our mental health. If our mental well-being is neglected, we suffer. Depression sets in. We wrestle with anxiety. Our sleep is disrupted. We may not even attempt our goals because we lose motivation since we're not in a good headspace. Just as we set body and money goals, we can also choose to create mental health goals. I'm not talking about setting the goal to not be depressed or anxious this year, but planning how to address those issues and more. The intention is leaning in and actively assess what action(s) are needed to ensure our mental health is thriving. You could start by seeking the input of a doctor or psychiatrist. Another mental health goal could be to attend therapy. You may add the objective of learning coping mechanisms to help you better deal with anxiety and stress, including meditation. Setting mental health goals could include a number of things. But at least take the first step by committing to do what is necessary to improve your mental health. Today, we chop it up with Licensed Professional Counselor JaMeshia Sykes. She's also a registered Yoga teacher and Anxiety Specialist. Lean in as we discuss managing our mental health, misconceptions about anxiety and other mental health disorders in the Black community, the role yoga can play in mental wellness and more.

Heyyy sis! Welcome into 2023. It's been a minute since we've chopped it up. I took a sabbatical, thinking I'd get some things on my to-do list done. The result? I didn't. Part of me just didn't want to, if I'm honest. While the other side of me is simply worn out - mentally and emotionally. 2022 really challenged me in the area of mental health, rest and soul care. As we enter a new year and for me a new decade - which has a sista clutching her pearls - I want to accomplish the goals I've desired but they haven't come to pass. Some of it is out of my realm of control but what I can do is honestly assess why I am stuck in certain areas of my life. As I am assessing my vision board, I'm finding certain things aren't a vision for me anymore - or at least, not right now. To let go, is an act of faith, as I embrace what is my God-ordained assignment for the next season. This means being intentional about what I do - and just as clear on my “why”. In the past, I haven't done that. I had thoughts of what I “should” do or listened to voices other than my own. Which is why my resolutions last a week and my vision boards simply collect dust. Yes, I have a few solid goals I'd love to accomplish this year. But I also have three specific areas of focus that have nothing to do with career, fitness, diet or any of the other popular resolutions people make decrying, “New year, new me!” And yes, the new year brings the opportunity to become a “new us”. However, I think it's important that we have some non-tangible goals that impact all other aspects of our life. That's why I wanted to drop in to do this three-part series, “#Goals 2023”. The first? Setting soul goals. No, I don't mean adding more church to our life. Soul goals don't necessarily consist of extra religiosity or even good “church works”. Rather, having the set intention to care better for our souls. When I think of this topic, I'm reminded of the lyrics to the hymn, “It Is Well”. When peace like a river attendeth my way When sorrows like sea billows roll Whatever my lot, Thou hast taught me to say It is well, it is well with my soul It is well (it is well) With my soul (with my soul) It is well, it is well with my soul We can continue on through the next set of lyrics but the question is, is it truly well with our soul? Our soul is unwell when we leave it unattended. When we don't pour into ourselves. Maybe due to busyness. Perhaps we're wrestling with mental health issues. Could our soul be neglected because we're harboring resentment towards our circumstances? Shoot, everyday life is enough to weigh on our soul, sis! But what exactly does our soul consist of and what type of soul goals shall we make? To give some insight on the topic is minister Stephanie Shane. She is the First Lady at Three Trails Community Church, right here in Kansas City. Stepanie is transparent about her backstory, coming from the beauty industry to the ministry - and not too happy about it at first. Listen in as she shares about the components to making sure our soul is well. From therapy to theology; meditation to mingling with positive people; discovering self-awareness to discovery of the historical context of scripture - and more.

Well, the summer season finale is here. Thank you, sis for hanging with me during the "Summer Reset Series". We've discussed resetting our careers, pursuits, fitness, mental health and more. But as we work to get our lives into a better space, we can't forget one aspect that affects everything else. Our relationship with ourselves. As for me, my relationship with myself starts with my faith. As a believer, I know that when God and I are off, it spills into other areas of my life, especially with how I see myself. During those times, I become fearful, hypercritical, wrestle with ingratitude and the ugly things I sometimes don't want to admit. When my faith walk isn't properly aligned, life becomes extra messy, including my interactions with those around me. (And my response to stressors.) Whew, sis. The struggle is real. Relationships matter. That's why today we're digging into the topic of resetting our relationships. I had to pull in a pastor who digs deep into the topic of faith. But she keeps it a hundred when we're talking about issues we have with ourselves and others, including God's... let's say His "special" kids. I'm excited to welcome back Jessica Stephenson, aka “Lady J”! She is a co-pastor at City of Truth Church, in Kansas City. What I love about chopping it up with Lady J is that she brings the real-real when it comes to life situations we wrestle with. However, don't get it twisted. She may be a minister but she keeps it funky, not “churchy” in her delivery. She's down-to-earth, energetic, relatable and transparent. Lady J and I delve into the issues of faith, such as our misconception of God and how to respond to “church hurt”. However, the conversation doesn't end there. Lady J also touches on dealing with marital and dating relationships, how to enjoy the single life, creating sisterhood and the issue of forgiveness versus reconciliation. That segment alone made me want to do a whole church dance! Look, I'm not saying stay home from church this week but this does count as a sermon. Yet, talking to Lady J is like speaking with a close girlfriend who gets you. So as we wrap up summer, let's go into the next season with relationship resets where necessary – starting with ourselves – and God.

Hey, sis! It's been a minute since we've chatted. Although last time we were together I said I was taking a bit of a summer break, I had some unexpected instances that kept me away longer than intended. One thing that threw me off was catching COVID, which took so much out of me. During my isolation, I realized I still hadn't tuned in to some areas of my life to do the work for a much needed reset. Sure, I managed to get some movement by exercising on my deck. I binged watched "The Upshaws" on Netflix. Read some books. Talked on the phone. Yet, I never sat down to address those places where I need a shift - or just a fresh start altogether. Especially in this midlife season. It's not about having a midlife crisis but an inspection of where I am and what needs to change. As I'm less than six months away from hitting that half a century milestone, I realize I've lived more days than what's ahead. While that may seem like gloom and doom, it's not. It's simply evaluating my life. Assessing what's next. Creating balance. Taking care of my body, mind and soul. Staying encouraged in this chapter, not anxious or deterred by age. Sometimes we mistakenly believe our best days are behind us but in reality, our latter days can be greater than our former ones - if we do the work to enjoy our lives from a place of wellness. That's why I'm glad to speak to someone who helps women do that on a daily basis. Twoana Clark-Sheppard is a mental health professional, counselor, minister, life coach and founder of Abundant Living Legacy Life Care. While her titles and services are many, her primary goal is empowering women to live their best lives at any age or stage. Twoana offers life-enhancing holistic counseling and coaching in the five areas we're discussing today: emotional/behavioral, professional, relational, and spiritual. She digs into why these five areas are crucial to our well-being, especially for women over 40. Twoana is transparent with her own story of going into her business later in life, proving that it's never too late to get a new dream and achieve it! Twoana and I also chop it up about aging positively, the importance of mental health and more. So whether you're approaching midlife or already in the midst of it, this is a conversation you don't want to miss.

Hey sis! Welcome to this week's episode of Grown Woman Stuff with Julee Jonez. I'm excited for the third in our summer reset series. Today's topic is one that can be challenging, exhilarating and downright frightening - all at once! But when it's time to fully listen to your heart and fulfill your purpose, you have to make choices you've never made before. You may be stretched in your faith and capacity. You could be starting over from scratch or expanding into a larger role with much more to learn. No matter the situation, there's one word - an action - that is at the precipice of a new beginning. Pivot. There is power in resetting with a pivot, sis. Pivot, described by Merriam-Webster as,“to adapt or improve by adjusting or modifying something”. Also defined as “a person, thing, or factor having a major or central role, function, or effect.” Both are an adequate description of today's guest who made her life-changing pivot in 2020. Today I get the honor of chopping it up with my soror, Kristen Harris, Vice President of Diversity and Inclusion for Hallmark. Kristen was on a career track in operations at Hallmark when the events of the summer of 2020 changed her trajectory. The murder of George Floyd and rally cries for justice. The calls for racial equality. Then there was the capstone of that time: the COVID-19 pandemic. All that, combined with the stress of homeschooling while working from home led Kristen to re-examine her life and more specifically, her career path. She concluded she wanted to do more purposeful work and decided to hand in her resignation. But that resignation didn't lead to her leaving the company. Instead, it led to the creation of her new role. Kristen was courageous in both her decision to step away from the familial and declare her desires. In her current role, she is able to do that work she was longing for - and created to do. Sis, her story is ours. When we lean fully into what we know we're called to do, doors can open. While you may not be able to leave your job tomorrow, there are steps you can take to begin the reinvention of your next chapter. Kristen shares some great gems how your passion can be fueled into meaningful work. She speaks on overcoming fear, avoiding “Imposter Syndrome”, navigating being the first in certain spaces and much more. So if you're ready to reset with a pivot, let this conversation inspire you to take the first step.

Hey sis! Welcome to the second episode in this “Summer Reset Series”. Today's topic is one that I am in the midst of battling and perhaps, you are as well. I'm talking about the “b” word. Burnout. Albeit it's not officially a medical condition, burnout is real. We literally feel like we can't do anything. Sometimes simply running errands can overwhelm me - and I'm literally grabbing a few items from the store! I've come to terms that after years of busyness - which doesn't always equate to productivity - it's all come to a head for me. In fact, for the past year, I've been completely depleted. Yes, we've been in a pandemic, which has taken a toll on so many of us. But if I am completely honest, sis, “the Rona” is not the culprit for why my motivation is low. Or the reason my temperament can be sketchy. Nor an excuse for why my goals sometime fall flat. Girl, I just looked at my vision board the other day and was overwhelmed! I have good intentions to take an online class or two. Publish my devotional. Pursue a fitness certification. Get back on a clean(er) eating plan. All those things look great on my board and in my mind. Birthing it all has been a whole other issue. Of course we shouldn't be ruled by how we feel, even when exhausted. But overcoming burnout takes effort and the right tools. That's why I am excited and relieved to speak with a returning guest, Shantai McCray. Shantai is a Licensed Professional Counselor and owner of Life's Work Counseling and Consulting, L.L.C. Shantai gives great insight into the real impact burnout has on us, both physically and mentally. Shantai also shares how wearing too many hats, the “strong Black woman” mantra, false guilt, insecurity and other factors contribute to burnout. Thankfully, Shantai provides us with some practical tools to help us reset and recover from burnout. So lean in, sis and let's begin to do this together.

Heyyy sis! It's been a minute since we've chopped it up but I am back to do a short series on having summer resets in various areas of our lives. That's what I meant to do while I was away but can I be honest? It didn't happen. While I intended to have quiet time to hear God, I found myself distracted. Rushing through my to-do list. Being too exhausted to plan anything but still unwilling to settle down to do a self-assessment. Have you been there? We can get so busy doing life that we never take the time to reset. We simply keep going. But sis, there's nothing wrong with opting out for a moment to reassess and ultimately, reset various areas of our lives. It's okay to reset career or educational endeavors. It's necessary to reset emotionally after years of busyness and burn out. It's crucial to reset from past pain and unresolved trauma. It's essential to reset our faith when we're weary or wrestling with unanswered prayers. It's also important to reset our health and wellness goals, so let's start there. (Sidebar: I'm still trying to curb my sugar habit. I got work to do!) Today, we'll hear from Deborah Perkins, the founder of the Facebook group, “Sistas Sweatin Melanin.” Deborah created Sistas Sweatin Melanin for Black women to have community; a safe space in their health journey. Each member can show up authentically in their truth, without judgement or competition. But Deborah's focus goes beyond the scale or simply getting a summer vacation body. She wants women to focus on exercise and nutrition to help improve and prolong their lives - literally. In fact, Sistas Sweatin Melanin came into fruition after the death of her father from diabetes complications. In the aftermath, Deborah began to implement lifestyle changes to decrease her risk of chronic disease. Listen in as we discuss Sistas Sweatin' Melanin, setting realistic goals, changing our generational habits with food and more.

Hey, sis! Happy Spring. It's the season of longer days, warmer weather and a time of new beginnings. In fact, most of us participate in what's known as “spring cleaning” every year. For me, that means digging into all the papers I've tossed aside. Old bills. Magazines. Random sticky notes. Flyers for events. Newspaper clippings. (Yes, I still get old school papers.) My closet is a whole other task. Trying to decide what dresses I may wear again – although they've been sitting in there for years! I try not to let nostalgia get to me when it comes to getting rid of my beloved t-shirts and hoodies. And after I purge my closet, it's time to spruce up the rest of the house. Spring cleaning is exhausting but necessary. In order to make room for the new, it's essential to get rid of the old. Remove cobwebs and dust from the corners. Create a space that is free from clutter, establishing a crisp, clean renewed atmosphere. If only we did that with our mental and emotional mess. We allow the snares of shame and regret linger. Instead of old clothing, old mindsets remain. The dust of fear lingers in our soul. We need to deeply cleanse from the toxicity of unhealthy relationships. We should also rid ourselves of unforgiveness, self-criticism and haunting anger. So while we're cleaning up our living areas, it's time to clean spring our lives, sis. Let's clear the mental and emotional clutter that holds us back. That's why we're talking to Life Coach Stacey Jennings. Coach Stacey is very candid about her own backstory: a pregnancy and marriage at seventeen. She later carried self-inflicted shame over two divorces. Building up walls, she didn't let anyone in, wanting her mistakes and regrets to be her own secret. But Coach Stacey learned that it's when we let go of those things - and open up - we can begin to heal from past hurts and move forward. Her life went on a different, unexpected trajectory as she became a life coach to help other women. Her desire is to coach them through their mistakes, lack of confidence, fears, and other obstacles to become the women God created them to be. Listen in as talk as we discuss spring cleaning our lives by getting unstuck, the importance of acknowledging our truths, learning to appreciate our story and more.

As suicide is a leading cause of death in the United States, we can create ideas of who is - and isn't -at risk. While the topic of suicide and Black Americans is beginning to come to the forefront, we still need to fuel the conversation on this serious issue. We must gain understanding on how suicidal ideation can lead to completion of suicide, as well as the role that mental illness and trauma play in contributing to suicidal thoughts or attempts. And we must get it out of our heads that successful, Black women cannot become a victim of this tragic act. The shocking and heartbreaking recent suicide of Cheslie Kryst proves that a woman who appears to have it all can also be at risk. Her suicide shook many Black women, including myself, to their core. This beautiful and vivacious Queen who was a former lawyer, entertainment reporter, and Miss USA 2019. What pushed her to the point of completing suicide? While we unfortunately may never know, her mental illness could have been a factor. Her mother said she had been living with “high-functioning depression.” Although it's not an official medical diagnosis, it's not uncommon for many who deal with depression to function as normal. They wear masks, their accolades disguising the internal turmoil they face. They get through their days, accomplishing the tasks at hand. They may be high achievers, who appear to be climbing on the right ladder of success. They can radiate joy and happiness; snapping the perfect smiling selfies. But on the inside, they are struggling to hold it all together. We can wrongly assume that suicide primarily affects white, outwardly depressed middle-aged men. In fact, only recently are we seeing more studies being directed towards the subject of how suicide impacts Black people. But we need to have the discussions about suicidal risk and prevention, mental illness, stressors unique to Black women, and the importance of therapy. We'll talk about all that today with Nadirah Habebullah, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who operates Healing Her Trauma. Listen in as we also discuss the topic of high functional depression, when suicidal ideation becomes a danger, intervening for our loved ones and more.

Hey sis! As Women's History Month continues, I think of all the women making a difference in the lives of their family, workplace, community and wherever they show up. In fact, Saturday I was a partaker in an event that celebrated women from all walks of life. It would be easy for someone to be impressed with everyone else and think of how they don't measure up - which is why how we see ourselves matters. If our self-perception isn't right, we'll feed our minds the wrong information. With that information, we develop our beliefs. Those beliefs turn into actions and actions determine our destiny. So it is crucial we see ourselves correctly through the right lens. Because sis, we can be our worst critics. In a defeatist headspace, we can't build ourselves up. We identify more with our areas of weakness than our strengths. We focus more on our failures than the victories. Our self-talk is negative; yet, we'd never speak to a friend like we talk to ourselves! We cheer for everybody else, never celebrating what we've accomplished. As a result, we lack confidence in who we are and our abilities. I've been there and if that's you sis, please stop.Accepting who we are is necessary to fulfill our life's assignment. In other words, we must see ourselves to be ourselves. Author, motivational speaker and publisher Michelle Gines is here to remind us of all that and then some. Michelle Gines is the co-owner of Purpose Publishing. She is one of the leading experts in self-publishing, helping many achieve their dream of telling their stories. But her work goes beyond publishing. As a Christian-based company, Michelle motivates people to utilize their faith to overcome their fears, self-doubt and any obstacle that keeps them stuck. In fact, through the end of this month, Michelle has launched the “See Yourself to Be Yourself Brain Fuel Devotional.” You can join Michelle daily for a simple devotion of only seven minutes, to encourage you to see yourself the way God sees you. Michelle says, “It's time to change your brain.” Listen in as Michelle talks about her book “Seeing Yourself to Be Yourself”, the importance of your story, tools to help you bring an idea to fruition, and more.

Heyyy sis! Happy Women's History Month! This month we focus on celebrating all the contributions women have made in every realm: community, culture, politics, business, and anywhere we show up. Women continue to be change agents. We still face barriers such as sexism, misogynoir, pay inequality and more. Nevertheless, we pursue, persist, and provoke good trouble. As women, we have the agency to reflect on our experiences and use them as fuel to light the fire to move us into our purpose. We have the purview to see what is needed in our families, workplaces, neighborhoods and the world as a whole. It is in our struggles and triumphs where our personal stories are cultivated. From these stories, we can become initiators of that which is good, necessary, and serves our fellow (wo)man. LaShawn Walker, the founder, President and CEO of Suburban Balance, is one woman who is doing just that. She founded the non-profit organization in 2013. Suburban Balance provides educational and cultural opportunities to suburban students of color to help ensure they experience a well-balanced lifestyle, as they grow up in neighborhoods or attend schools that lack diversity. Since its' inception, 400 families have joined the group as it continues to grow. LaShawn is also the driving force behind the LIFT HER UP movement. LIFT HER UP was launched out of LaShawn's desire to galvanize sisterhood among women and encourage us to support, elevate, and celebrate one another in all facets of life. Listen in as LaShawn shares her story of how recognizing a need turned into more than an idea, but a venture that continues to change and impact lives. LaShawn's conversation is inspiring and transparent, as she reveals her own personal battles of infertility, reconciliation with her father, and more.

Heyyy sis! Thank you for joining me for today's chat. While highlighting the stories of various women during Black History Month, today's #HERStory goes deep, as a heart-tugging cautionary tale that ends in triumph. Meet Aleisha Frazier, Social Work Case Manager at Heartland Center for Behavioral Change and founder of Fellow Women for Change. Aleisha helps women who have wrestled with various issues make a fresh start in their life. Whether they struggle with substance abuse or are adapting to life after prison, Aleisha's desire to serve them is personal. Her past mistakes have are her ministry. Aleisha grew into an intelligent young woman who was attractive, personable and vivacious. She was also street savvy with a bent towards hustling. That trait along with unhealthy relationships and poor decisions led Aleisha into being incarcerated. By the time she was in her early twenties, she had served two prison stints. Behind bars, Aleisha ‘s faith became stronger, making her determined to never return. On her second release, Aleisha made good on that. She shares how her choices led to her downfall but Aleisha is a testimony that a fall isn't final. She is now a working mother who credits her own mother's love and support for helping her turn her life around. Aleisha keeps it real about navigating life post prison and finding her way. We also discuss the importance of self-forgiveness and not living in the shadow of shame because of our past missteps. Listen in as Aleisha talks about her journey and how to support her outreach efforts.

Heyyy sis! Still celebrating Black #HERStory month as today I chop it up with author, Media Coach and Video Strategist Monique Shurray. The topic is being fierce, female and a faithtrepreneuer — a phrase for one's faith fueling a sista's move into entrepreneurship. Monique gives the backstory of growing up in Harlem's hustle culture, which motivated her to grind at an early age. After moving to Kansas City, Monique met her father, a well-known radio vet. He fueled her love for radio broadcasting, where Monique made an imprint and also became a Christian entertainment host. And that was quite an adventure for my girl. “Christian” and “entertainment” is touchy for some in the church. You know there's the saints who don't think it's “holy” to be in the entertainment industry, apparently not wanting folks to let their light shine in all professions. (Whew. That wears me out.) Monique discusses that critique, as well as those who don't believe Christian women can be fly, appealing to the eye and fine! You can be saved and still rock your cute outfit with your lashes on point. But Monique has a humble yet humorous perspective on this topic. Monique discusses the impact of church culture in her business aspirations and relationship goals. In fact, Monique points out how being in church changed her view of marriage. Despite Monique living her best single life, she wasn't looking to be anybody's wife. Yet, it happened and how it did is a great testimony on how divine coincidence can lead us to places we never imagined. Monique shares her journey from wanting to be a news anchor until she got a prick in her spirit to pivot, which led her to where she is today. Monique and I chat about the importance of women being confident to use their voice and how our stories matter whether we're reaching the masses or an assigned few. Monique also reveals her blueprint for helping women develop video strategies for their businesses and the keys to stepping out in faith to promote their vision. Today's convo is energetic, encouraging, and embodies keeping it real. Grab a latte or some green teas and listen in!

Heyyyy sis! I hope your new year is off to a great start. I took some time to reset and didn't actually accomplish my goal. (But that's a whole other story. ) As it's Black History Month, I thought I'd feature a spotlight on women openly sharing their stories and finding their purpose. I call this series #HERStory. We all have a one right? But we're not always ready to share it. Sometimes it's the fear of how others will respond. For others, it's shame. Then some of us are still living in the space of “What happens in this house, stays in this house!” We inadvertently become accidental secret holders, as we keep our struggles to ourselves. But sis, someone needs to hear your story. In telling what you're going through or where you've been can help free and encourage someone else. Today's guest is a testimony of what happens when we bring our stories into the light. I got to chop it up with a lil' sis of mine, April Dion. She's a communications consultant with her own company, April Dion Communicates. April is an experienced model, fashion industry professional along with her Driven to Inspire U website and You Tube channel. Her resume and skill set is impressive. But HERStory is just as inspiring. April reveals how she was diagnosed CCA Scarring Alopecia Hair Loss in college. While the news was devastating, it didn't stop April from moving forward. But later, the diagnosis of another chronic illness would put her faith to the test. Yet, she persisted. As April began to be transparent about her struggles, more doors opened for her to use her influence to hearten other women who also wrestle with hair loss and chronic illness. In addition, April shares the importance of Black women advocating for their health; listening to their bodies while insisting on being heard and not dismissed. April is also a voice for mental health, physical wellness and self-care. Listen in as she shares her journey and what is next.

I cannot believe we are at the end of 2021. As we embark upon a new year, that means it's a chance to reset. Set new goals or complete the ones we missed over the last twelve months. It's the ideal time to write your vision, literally putting it on paper. Or on a poster board. Yes, I'm talking about your vision board for 2022! Perhaps you are a vision board person. Each year, you have your glue, words of affirmation, magazine cut outs, glitter and the like to make your vision board for the pending year. You put it up where you can see it each day as you move closer to achieving what you've envisioned. While I applaud you, can I keep it a band? I am an epic vision board failure. I was always excited looking at the finished product, only for the vision board to be put away months later. I got discouraged looking at something that seemed like it wasn't a possibility. Or absolutely nothing was happening remotely close to what was on my board. Sometimes I felt guilty, because nothing in my life aligned with the pics or phrases I had glued on my poster board! However, one year I heard this woman give a powerful presentation on unleashing your vision (hint: today's guest) and thought, “Okay, I can do it this time!” A few months later, that last vision board was in my little bench with all my past prayer journals, bible study notes and random pictures. I thought maybe this whole vision board thing wasn't for me - or perhaps I was doing it wrong. I now believe it was the latter. You may ask, “How can you do a vision board wrong?” Great question. That is why we are talking to author, motivational speaker and entrepreneur Catriese Johnson - aka CatrieseInspires! Catriese has a powerful backstory she shares on going from foster care, longing for her biological parents to show up, to stepping out on her own and finding her purpose. Her testimony is inspiring; letting all of us know no matter our past tribulation, heartbreak and disappointment, we can begin again. And it starts with unleashing our vision. One of Catriese's specialties is helping women find clarity to create their vision boards and giving them strategies on how to successfully follow through. So if you're ready to unleash your vision for 2022, this is a conversation you don't want to miss. Catriese speaks on why your dream(s) should be big, how it's never too late to pursue your desires, the three major steps you need when creating your vision board and more.

Sis, I cannot believe that the end of 2021 is near. I don't know about you, but it feels like this year went by so fast! And we know once November hits, it's the kick off to the holiday season and a new year - which means two things. Folks are spending money and setting goals. Today we're going to discuss both. This sista knows about managing coins, creating alternatives for costly gift giving and setting monetary boundaries. But she's also what I call a “Master Goal Setter”. She keeps it real discussing how to overcome personal obstacles to achieve what she envisions and desires. She holds a humble confidence and is an empowerment coach to others, as well. I'm talking about my Soror, author, motivational speaker and the President of Five Star Tax & Business Solutions - Marquita Miller-Joshua! Since 'tis the season where people spend money - or put it on the plastic - Marquita spills the tea on how to curb unnecessary holiday spending, make financial goals for the year ahead and investing in yourself this holiday instead. So of course we talk about the “B” word - budget - but the conversation goes even deeper. Marquita shares her backstory of becoming an entrepreneur and business owner. Although she's made an imprint both locally and on the national stage, she's went through her own tragedy and is still on her healing journey. After suddenly becoming a young widow, Marquita realized she would have to move forward, in both her personal life and business. Her path was transformed as she began to minister to other women who suffered loss. While she navigated through the new assignment, she also found love again. It's no surprise as Marquita is not deterred by uncertainty, setbacks or challenges. In fact, Marquita lives by the mantra “No more excuses; only results!” She also hosts a conference by the same name where she encourages people to not make excuses but instead make moves to fulfill their purpose. Listen in for more - and let's commit to not make excuses but move forward with more success in 2022!

‘Tis the season to be jolly, right? But it's hard to enjoy festivities when your mind is cluttered with anxious thoughts. You're struggling with additional pressures. Emotionally drained. Or you may be dealing with SAD - Seasonal Affective Disorder. It's more than the winter blues; SAD is an actual depression where the onset occurs during the fall or winter months. While dealing with the holidays can be a chore itself, wrestling with seasonal depression can add a whole other layer to our stress. Sis, we got to reclaim our mind this holiday and as we head into the New Year. That's why today we're talking to Licensed Professional Counselor Shantai L. McCray of Life's Work Counseling and Consulting, right here in Raytown. Shantai shares her path into this field of service, having a passion to help others. Shantai and I delve into how making the choice to see a therapist can be difficult but is a decision that can change the course of our life for the better. Shantai's goal is to help clients discover the patterns that leave them feeling stuck or overwhelmed. Her work leads people to uncover the tools they already possess to get on track, which allows us to heal. And that's a win. While we focus on seasonal depression, the convo goes even further. Shantai speaks on the role of trauma and how therapy helps us recognize it. We also get into something a lot of us battle - ANTS (Automatic Negative Thoughts). Another gem? Shantai weighs in on the importance of being still; sharing how simple rest helps us have a better outlook and gain clarity. (That's a bonus because with 2022 around the corner, having an uncluttered mind for a clear vision onward is necessary work.) So let's gear up to reclaim our mind this holiday season and in the year to come.

Thursday it's official. When Thanksgiving arrives, we can say the holiday season has started for real! The aura of the day is one we revel in. The smell of a good pound cake or sweet potato pie baking. Feeling that tryptophan high after the turkey meal. A game of Spades with the family. Christmas lighting ceremonies. Yes, the season to be jolly is only days away. Although for some, the holidays aren't so jolly. Grief over the loss of a loved one may pierce your heart. Whether the loss is fresh or new, your life has changed and there's a missing piece. Heartbreak over a relationship that has ended could block your holiday cheer. Or maybe it's the loss of a job. A health crisis. It could simply be unresolved stress from what we've been dealing with over the past year and a half. Then there's the issue of family drama. You already dread Thanksgiving over at Big Momma's because you know somebody will act a fool. You anticipate drama because every year there is some! The same old arguments. One of the uncle's gets to drinking and talking too much. A family member you fell out with and you aren't trying to be in their presence. The potential fist fight over a trivial issue - or past unresolved problems. The ex that keeps showing up because they're still cool with your family but you wish they'd latch on to their own. The list could go on and look like a Tyler Perry production. But we can be equipped to handle whatever is stressing or weighing us down this holiday season. Let's hear from Licensed Professional Counselor, Life Coach and Gateway of Hope Executive Director, Dacia Moore. Dacia shares practical ways to deal with grief, heartbreak and family drama this holiday season. She has a heart for women, coaching them to live a better life. Dacia helps her clients create strategies to successfully navigate tough seasons in life and make positive lasting change. So whether you struggle with the holiday blues - or don't want to be in the middle of your auntie's fist fight this Thanksgiving - glean from these nuggets Dacia shares to bring some happy into your holiday.

Before I take a break to reset for 2022, I'm going to do a few episodes on this season of lights, comfort food, gatherings, gift giving and more. It's the Holidaze Series of Grown Woman Stuff with Julee Jonez! With Thanksgiving next week, it is officially the season of good grub. From cornbread dressing, to mac-n-cheese, to scrumptious desserts, it's easy to please your palate a little too much. Overindulgence is a temptation and easy to give in to. Whether it's too many wasted calories from libations, rolls with real butter (that speaks to my whole soul) or going back for thirds and fourths, the struggle is real. Then there's the propensity to put off our work outs. Between the busyness of the season, cold weather, shorter days and simply post-carb slumps, our fitness routines may come to a screeching halt. Being consistent while creating balance in our life can be tough. We need good time management, commitment and make our health a priority. Yet, we can't obsess with the scale or getting snatched overnight without changing our habits long-term. And no, we don't need to practice self-deprivation during this delicious time of the year. But despite all these factors, another aspect is crucial to our health and realistically staying on track. Our souls. It's a faith walk to maintain total wellness -- from the inside out. Today's guest puts that into practice. She walks, runs, squats and meal plans by faith! Reanna Tenae' Nicholson is a Certified Personal Trainer, also known as "Fit Ree." She knows how to help women reach their fitness goals, transform their bodies and create new lifestyle changes. And for Ree, that all starts with God. Because balance, consistency and goal setting are a faith walk. Listen in as Fit Ree discusses faith, food and fitness during the holidays. She also emphasizes the need to enjoy yourself but how to set realistic expectations for this season and beyond.

Let me be clear. I am a church girl. I love the Lord. I'm a believer in Christ. I read my bible. I pray. And yes, I also believe in therapy. It's not that Jesus isn't enough but in an imperfect world, we are not perfectly wired. Sometimes we need assistance to help us become the best version of ourselves and work through our issues. As God gives each of us a purpose, He calls some people to fulfill that role. I'm talking specifically about therapists. It's not a lack of faith to realize you need professional help if you're struggling through a mental health crisis, wrestling with post traumatic stress or anything that hinders your well-being. If you were having pain in your body, you'd treat it. If you became seriously ill, you'd go to the emergency room. If you were diagnosed with a chronic disease, you'd follow protocols to keep it in check. Sis, if our faith wouldn't keep us from pursuing medical assistance in those situations, it shouldn't make us hesitant to receive counseling for our mental and emotional health. You can have Jesus and still need therapy. Today's guest is all about that life. Dr. Raushannah Johnson-Verwayne, aka “Dr. RJ”, an Atlanta psychologist and founder of Standard of Care Psychological Services, believes wellness is a synthesis of mind, body, and spirit. On this chat, Dr. RJ discusses the misnomers about therapy, mental health and the use of medication in the faith community. But she doesn't stop there! Dr. RJ also breaks down the myth of the Black Superwoman, gives us the tea on self-sabotage and much more. I know you'll glean from this mini-counseling session.

As we go through this journey of life, we'll face various seasons. There's the highs we enjoy, such as excitement about a new opportunity. A long-awaited answer to prayer. The emergence of a new relationship. Bringing a child into the world -- or watching the one you raised have their own. Achieving a goal. The list goes on. While we rejoice during these time, we also know life deals us the lows, including loss. As a result, our lives are rocked. Reshaped. We're forced to adapt to an unwelcome -- and often unexpected --change. And loss results in grief. Grief is defined as “a deep sadness caused especially by someone's death”. It's also described as “a cause of deep sadness”. But there's the short, every day version: simply trouble or annoyance. Likely, you have faced all three at some point. We all have grieved someone or something. The issue is not “if” we'll have to deal with grief but rather “when.” We tend to lean into grief as something only experienced in death, which is often the most devastating. Today's guest shares the story of loss, grief and finding life on the other side. We'll hear from bestselling author, life shift coach and motivational speaker Rochinda Pickens. Back in 2007, she survived a deadly car accident but her husband did not. Heartbroken and left with three children, Rochinda had to make a pivot after this unexpected loss. How did she go from being a mother and housewife to a minister, business woman and coaching others? Through faith and perseverance. Her leaning on God, learning to process her pain and being courageous allowed her life to go in a direction she never imagined. Rochinda is transparent; she keeps it real-real, sis! She reminds us we need to feel the pain and mourn the loss, but don't stay stuck. After loss, we must navigate moving forward. You may not be grieving the loss of a life but what about a job? A dream? A friendship? Whatever the source of your grief, Rochinda shares the principles of how to push past it and fulfill your purpose.

When it comes to guns, the discussion can get fiery. While the pun is not intended, it's a fact. Because there are the “God, guns and Bible” people. Gun rights are as revered as their faith. You have others who support gun ownership for both personal safety and recreational use. A portion keep their gun(s) at home. Others prefer conceal and carry; some open carry. We have gun owners who want responsible gun laws. This group supports legislative efforts to enforce or implement gun control. Then there's the opposite, which are the people who think laws equate to taking guns or eradicating the right to bear arms. But don't forget the crowd who doesn't embrace gun ownership at all. I know folks from all of the above, sis. No matter what end of the spectrum you're on, the Second Amendment is real-- and a right. We can't evade such an important topic because of emotional responses and the vast differences of beliefs. Often when the issue of guns comes up, people's minds can shift in particular directions. From fear, to violence in our communities. The issue of school shootings. Gunfire used as revenge, versus conflict resolution. Guns in the hand of a domestic abuser. The list could go on. And yes, all of those issues are grave concerns that deserve our collective attention and intervention. Yet, we shouldn't gloss over the reality that we can own a gun -- and should be responsible gun owners if we choose. However, there is a demographic that is often swept over in the discussion. Women. Especially Black women. That's why I'm chopping it up with today's guest. RaShaun Ja'Nee is the co-founder of Pretty Pistols Posse. Their slogan may be "Girls Just Want to Have Guns”, but the group goes beyond that. They offer learning opportunities such as basic handgun fundamentals, safety, private range lessons and educate women on other protective measures. The posse is also a sisterhood, that focuses on personal empowerment and community engagement. Listen in for more.

There is nothing like a good, sweaty workout. For me, it's not about a number on a scale, but how I feel when I'm done. I unload my stress. Feed my soul as I listen to a podcast. Burn off those snacks – my weakness. Being fit is only a portion of why my gym membership remains. Now, I ain't gonna sit and lie; at five-feet-tall, I try to maintain fitting into my favorite jeggings. Yet, I know appearance isn't everything. Because if you don't have confidence, no matter how much you work out, it's not enough. You'll never be cut enough. Your stomach won't be flat enough. Your booty won't be round enough. The lists of “enough” could go on. While we should try to maintain a healthy lifestyle that includes weight management and nutrition to lessen our risk of certain disease, what's going on in our heads matters, too. Which is why I love today's guest. She just doesn't focus on the body; she promotes our overall well-being, including body confidence. Meet Rita Ballew aka “Bodied By Rita!” Rita is a fitness coach who approaches wellness from a holistic perspective. If you check out her videos, you will literally start sweating! She gets it in but makes it a priority to tackle the mental obstacles that hinder us from making better choices that impact our bodies and health. Rita embraces the idea that if you change your mind, your body will follow. Rita offers one-on-one and group training, boot camp and her free program, “10 Days Rita's Way”. (Yes, sis. It's free. She spills the tea on it during our chat!) She has an apparel line, B. Beautiful and other products that will help you achieve your fitness goals. And look cute while you do it. (Chile, I struggle with cute gym looks. Rita hyping me up to change my ways, though!) Listen in as we discuss her journey, why it's crucial to have support system, learning to love your body, why you need to eat -- one of my favorite things to do -- and more!

I've been an avid reader since first grade, as books were an escape for me in childhood. I'd often immerse myself in reading on a Sunday afternoon. Or I'd try out “acting” out the story of the moment with friends. (Sidebar: My directorial debut of “Shelia the Great” by Judy Blume didn't go so well. My neighborhood cohorts weren't following my blocking instructions at all!) As I've gotten older, reading is still entertainment but also, a source of education, self-care and a personal guide. And this book I was given one birthday, is definitely a go-to. I'm talking about “Boss Women Pray: 31 Prayers to Increase Your Success & Spirit” by author, corporate trainer, serial entrepreneur and motivational speaker, Kachelle Kelly. She's recently released the enhanced edition – and it's a must to add to your collection. Kachelle is the creator of the Boss Women & Men Pray Movement, designed to encourage people to grow personally and spiritually, as they pursuit their goals. She speaks with candor and authenticity, putting her biblical counseling studies to work! It's an easy to follow devotional, with topical prayers that focus on an array of issues: time management, procrastination, gaining clarity and more. Plus, the two-minute drills at the end of each chapter help you create a strategy to follow through with your next action steps. We chop it up about showing up as yourself, dealing with insecurity, overcoming jealousy stepping out on faith, the truth on procrastination -- and have some fun kee-keeing, too! Kachelle's like an old girlfriend – even though we've never met. But her energy is contagious; her words inspiring. Whether you're an entrepreneur, CEO, entry level employee, student, or just a woman who's looking for some encouragement, Boss Women Pray is for you. It's not just a book but a movement that can change your trajectory, sis. Lean in and glean from this chat with Kachelle Kelly.

Dia Wall is one of the realest. Periodt. This sista is what I call part of the “Soul Patrol” on KSHB. As an award-winning journalist, Dia does her duty reporting the news. But she does something else I admire. She knows her agency. Dia shows up in her space unapologetically. She's not just a face at the table but uses her voice and personal perspective, bringing attention to what impacts us – as women, mothers, community members and Black people. Representation without voice is only a checked box; there's no power. We see Dia use her voice on-air but she brings that same passion behind the scenes. She is bold. An advocate. Authentically Dia at all times. That gives her power. That's why I had to sit down with the sista. Dia is more than a professional host, storyteller, writer and speaker. She's also a fervent leader who believes in connecting women through our shared experiences and being real. And sis delivers in her book, “The UnHappiest One.” While it can appear some of us have it all, many still feel empty. If you can relate, this is a convo you don't want to miss. Dia keeps it a band about her life: highs and lows, crazy keyboard thugs, fights with her hubby, dealing with her inner self-critic and more. And although she says she's not a preacher, sis needs an offering because she delivers a real sermon! Lean in as Dia Wall shares lessons learned and more about her "sort of" memoir, The Unhappiest One.

Hey, sis. Have you ever felt like you needed to make a pivot? Get back to doing you? Or as Auntie Maxine Waters so eloquently said in August 2017: “Reclaiming my time.” It became more than a meme but a Black woman anthem. Albeit the procedural phrase was used to disrupt being interrupted, the words felt poignant. It was beyond the aspect of silencing women in society. “Reclaiming my time” became representative of us speaking up --and showing up –in our personal lives. To make decisions that will lead us to pursue our passions and fulfill our dreams. Becoming intentional about our pursuits instead of staying stuck due to fear or comfortability. When we discover that we've lost ourselves in situations that hold us back, it's time to make the pivots to get where we're destined to be. Perhaps you need to make a decision regarding a relationship that no longer serves you well. Or you wrestle with stepping out on faith to leave the familiar to pursue a new path. Maybe you've decided it's time to share your entire story –- and not the edited social media one, either. Today's guest has done all that – and then some! Today we talk to CEO/Founder of Entrepreneur Business Basics, author and motivational speaker Kira Cheree'. Listen in to this heartfelt discussion as she shares her backstory on going from brokenness to becoming whole, making the pivot to become an entrepreneur and much more. The bonus? If you're a Ruth looking for your Boaz, we also chop it up about her book “I Am Ruth: A Personal Study for Women”. (Sidebar: Find out why Bozo may be showing up instead!)

Hey, sis! Thank you for joining me today because this tea is hot, Chile. We're talking about being saved and sexually positive. Let me explain. If you grew up in the church, what messages did you hear about sex? I can recall some, like: “Don't do it before marriage.” “You'll go to hell for fornicating.” “If you have sex, you'll get pregnant.” Sound familiar? While those are a few examples, we also must look at what the church didn't say about sex. For instance, I don't recall any conversations on addressing sexual trauma. Or how to deal with sexual desires realistically in the well-intentioned, but restrictive purity culture. I didn't witness any of the church mothers pulling young sistas aside to keep it real about sexual desires; instead shaming those who acted on them. Church, we got to keep it real in these pews. Because the saints are having sex. Even for the married, there are still misconstrued messages about sex in the church. For the single folk, it can be more bothersome. We can miss the mark; not acknowledging singles as sexual beings. As a result, we don't adequately help them navigate the issue of sexuality as a Christian — in a practical way. Look, I am not negating anything God says about sex. But if we don't address sexuality from a holistic perspective, we will continue to send wrong or unrealistic messages about sex. This is why today's guest is pursuing a career to connect sexuality and the church. Meet Aleisha Olatunde, future Christian Sexologist. You read that right. (Don't clutch your pearls, sis.) She's passionate about combining scripture, therapy and sexology to help couples and singles alike. But it's not just happenstance or a random idea. Her own life experiences contributed to her career path and this God-given calling. We dig deep into misnomers about sex in the church -- including sexual trauma, developing sexual positivity and more.

I remember binge watching Girlfriends a while back. There was one episode I apparently missed when it first aired. While I don't recall the entire plot, one line stood out. William and Joan had been intimate and he unveiled something personal about their “relations”. "Joan's an ouch ooch girl." Yes, William said that. In other words, she was skittish when it came to sex due to it hurting. While that may have enlisted a giggle at the moment, there is nothing funny about painful sex. In fact, a vast amount of women don't find sex pleasurable due to pain. There are a host of below-the-belt problems that inhibits women from reaching the mountain top. Instead, they struggle through or restrain from any activity due to discomfort or downright excruciating agony. Whether it's fibroids, cysts, endometriosis, lubrication problems or PID (Pelvic Inflammatory Infection), the issues are plentiful but finding a solution is critical. That's why I had to reach out to our resident OB-GYN, Dr. Nia Thompson Jenkins. Dr. Nia gives spills the tea on contributing factors when it comes to painful sex. She also dives into related topics, including: Having honest dialogue with your partner. How painful conditions affect women by age group. Why women in committed relationships - including marriage - should have screenings for sexually transmitted infections. This conversation is a must for any woman, so let's lean in and glean from Dr. Nia Thompson Jenkins.

In the aftermath of high profile Black female athletes, Naomi Osaka and Simone Biles, taking a step back to focus on their mental health, the conversation of choosing self over the expectations of others is coming to the forefront. And I am here for it. Although many applauded these young women for having the courage to be transparent about their struggle, the critics and haters showed up, too. Per usual, we witnessed the vitriol combined with racism and misogyny on the one place we've come to expect hate to show up. On social media. Can you feel my eye roll? While social media can be a great space for entertainment, to connect, learn and find encouragement, it is also a source of stress for many. Social media doesn't just impact the well-known; the everyday person can find social media is a powerful force that affects their mental health. In fact, various studies show the link between heavy social media usage and the increased risk for depression, anxiety, loneliness and even suicidal thoughts. It's not just negative comments, bullying or a lack of “likes” that can cause harm. For some people, simply viewing the “highlights” of others leads to comparison, creating a sense of inadequacy about their own life — or appearance. Add on top of these issues, the videos of trauma we regularly witness on our feeds; it's too much, sis. So let's talk about how to take care of our mental health when it comes to social media and signs we need to take a break from FB, Twitter or the ‘Gram. Today we chop it up with Nadirah Habeebullah, LMFT, of Healing Her Trauma. She weighs in on how our social media use affects our well-being, why we should create boundaries as we use social media, the false ideas our feeds ‘feed' us and more.

Hey sis! Well, we're on the fourth and final episode of the FIT Series. I've enjoyed these convos on health -- and hope you have as well. I've gleaned from our guests on everything from misconceptions about being fit, to overcoming obstacles such as age and economics when it comes to working out. We've discussed fitness entrepreneurship, making career pivots, one guests' near-fatal battle with COVID, and more. But we're not finished. You may be on your way to getting that body-ody-ody-ody-ody-ody-ody-ody. Or you could have exchanged fast food for green smoothies. Perhaps you've decided to pursue a new career path. All those things deserve to be celebrated. However, we can't forget about another aspect of wellness. Our soul. For me, fitness and faith go hand-in-hand. When I work out, I am motivated with sermons, ministry podcasts or worship music. When setting goals, prayer for my self-discipline is vital. Plus, if our souls are unwell, it doesn't matter if our waist is snatched. We need to be healthy -- and whole -- within so we can fulfill our God-given purpose. That's why we're taking it to what I call “Fitness Church” with TR Renee. She's a cold hairdresser, personal trainer and owner of FIERCE Hair.Mind.Body. This sista has spent years making women look good. While folks sat in her chair getting their hair right, unbeknownst to her, she was ministering to their spirit. Eventually, she answered her call to formal ministry, combining her fitness education and cosmetology skills to establish a holistic wellness business. TR Renee will condition your hair, body and soul! Listen in to this chat on connecting our faith and fitness --and yes, we talk healthy hair, too!

Hey sis! We're three-deep in the Fit Series and I hope you've enjoyed what you've heard so far. Today is a real treat - pun intended – because this guest can throw down in the kitchen. Chef Terri Allen has always been a mover and shaker. (Also runner as a Hickman Mills Cougar track girl!) Terri went from various entrepreneurial pursuits -- including a dry cleaners -- to becoming a fitness guru. As a motivational fitness coach and Zumba instructor, Terri built bodies and a committed clientele. She was also a sought after guest on several television shows, demonstrating her body-blasting moves. But that's not all. Terri began to meal prep, creating healthy and delicious meals for free. Fast forward, this self-taught chef made a major pivot. She decided to pursue the culinary arts. Now, she's a classically trained graduate of Auguste Escoffier School of Culinary Arts. She's been featured nationally as an award-winning chef and has launched her food truck and company, Gourmet Grub. Her story is amazing but not without tribulation. Last year, Terri was hospitalized, suffering from a serious case of COVID-19. Today, she remains a long-hauler. A key part in her story is if Terri wasn't already healthy, there was a great chance we wouldn't be talking to her today. Listen in to this inspiring chat on her faith as she faced her own mortality due to COVID, her decision to carve out a new dream, fitness in your 40's and more.

Hey sis! Glad you're here for the second episode in the Fit Series as I chop it up with Nicki Jones, CEO of NickiFit! Her slogan is, “Commitment. Consistency. Control.” And the sista knows how to help us stay committed, practice consistency and execute control. Nicki's story into her entrepreneurial venture and fitness journey is inspiring. I worked with Nicki in the Chrysler call center back in the day. But when the company began to lay off employees, Nicki's personal goal to be healthier led her to the next chapter of her career. As she took the first steps to help herself, she ended up teaching others. What makes NickiFit stand out is her approach: she aims to have free or very low-cost classes in the community. Our community. As finances and proximity can be a barrier for women wanting to be work out, Nicki has navigated the course on answering this necessary call. Creating community partnerships has opened doors for others to benefit from Nicki's instruction, while allowing her to operate in her gift and passion. Nicki is also transparent about initial doubts, not starting out as a stereotypical ‘prototype' for the fitness industry. But if you ever attend one of her classes, what you'll witness is fitness, fun and movement comes in all shapes and sizes. We discuss her amazing backstory, obstacles for obtaining health goals and turning her passion into profit. And yes, sis shares why it's not too late to start getting in shape – but take care of those joints, girl – and more!

Hey sis! I had to take a moment away, preparing for a busy summer. My son just graduated high school and we're preparing for college so my mood has been up and down. When that happens I do two things outside of praying. Emotionally snack or exercise. So yeah, ya girl has to stay in the gym. And I need to work on this sugar habit. But summer is the time when folk focus on their #HotGirlSummer and vacation bodies. I get it. However, when it comes to health and fitness, it's a lifestyle of adaption, commitment and self-acceptance. So that's why we'll chop it up in this four-episode “Grown Woman Fit Series”. I feature some real convo with four grown women who been through some things. Depression. Dealing with a confidence crisis. Career changes. A call to ministry. Body changes that occur as we get older – not old! What could have been a deadly COVID diagnosis. Not having the initial body “prototype” of fitness. Learning to rid our vocabulary of the word “can't”. All the things everyday women struggle with, these ladies are a testimony that we can move past the obstacles to achieve desired results. And now, these fitness/health entrepreneurs are sharing their stories, inspiring all of us to pursue our own #BodyGoals. This week we're kicking it off with my girl Tonille “Starr” Williams of Starr Luvly Bodies. She's a trainer who had a unique vision – gutting a house in the inner city to create a fitness haven! Ladies not only build their bodies but a bond with Starr and each other. Sis is the real deal when it comes to helping her clients be their own body goal, while promoting softness and strength. Listen in as we discuss how working out impacts our bodies, mental health and ups our sexy quotient! Starr also gives the deets overcoming the mental blocks that keep you from starting a plan – or stuck where you are - and more.

There's nothing like the “new” thing in your life. A new job. New house. That new opportunity. We get excited like little kids at Christmas as we “unwrap” it. While we love the new, there's also something to be said about the old-endings. When you achieve a long-term goal. Ending a long-term assignment. Celebrating a finished accomplishment. Beginnings and endings are what we embrace. It's living in the middle that can trip us up. That includes when we're approaching - or have arrived - at the middle stage of life. You may not consider yourself old per se, but you have quite a few years behind you. And with every birthday, we have even less days ahead. I am not trying to steal your joy, sis. I am on your team. But as grown women, we expect to have our life together. We judge ourselves for where we are, especially after we reach our mid-30's or so. The middle can be an uncomfortable place if we don't embrace where we are, accept where we've been and be content with progress over perfection. To do this, we must coach ourselves to keep moving forward. And sometimes, we need some outside help to coach us so we can gain momentum — and a new perspective. Enter in Coach Trina Lewis. Trina and I go way back. She knew the 20-something knucklehead, ratchet me. The “I wanna go to FreakNik but gotta catch a flight back in time to make my Sunday midnight radio shift” me. But that's the beauty of it. We all journey from where we were to where are now. Yet, there's more to come; despite when we feel stuck in the middle. Listen to this convo as we discuss embracing every season of life, keys to getting unstuck, dealing with a midlife crisis, the importance of wellness and more.

In church, we've heard the preaching and teaching on being “unequally yoked”, right? While scripture is referring to not creating the covenant of marriage with a non-believer, is it possible to be unequally yoked in other areas of your life? Is your career yoked with your divine purpose? Does your scheduled to-do list align with what brings you meaning, joy or peace? Are your friendships in sync with who you are in this moment? Or is your life out of balance in several areas? If so, I get you, girl. A few years ago, I definitely felt disconnected from who - and where - I was supposed to be. Oh, yes your girl was busy. I was doing a lot getting to nowhere - similar to a dreaded treadmill run. On a treadmill you are moving but yet, you're still stationary. That's all good for some cardio but not in our lives. If you're running but getting nowhere or feel out of whack, it's time to do get ya life in balance and in agreement. If the concept seems muddy, hold on because today's guest is going to help us out. Meet Veronica Fallah, author of “Equally Yoked: Trust In Relationships for Spiritual Wellness.” The business owner, pastor and relationship coach gives a good word on establishing balance by creating agreement with ourselves - who God has called us to be - through our decisions, goals, and relationships. We'll also talk about centered prayer and meditation, as Veronica focuses on spiritual and emotional wellness. She'll even lead us in a grounding exercise to help us through those moments when we need a mental and emotional reset.

I am so hype for today's chat with New York Times best-selling author, Kimberla (Kim) Lawson Roby! I remember when I first got an email to interview her about one of her books in the Reverend Curtis Black series. From the moment I read, “Casting the First Stone” I was hooked. The fictitious philanderer mirrored to some real-life slippin' and tippin' pastors. Whew, chile. All the characters in the series were so real; I envisioned and embraced them in my mind. Yet, I initially had no idea how Kim would inspire me beyond the Curtis Black series. Throughout the years, a kinship developed between Kim and me. She encouraged me in my own writing and professional life. Often her interviews would go beyond the book she was promoting, providing edification for every person listening. She's real. Relatable. Humble. And honest. While her stand-alone titles are phenomenal reads, I did grieve when first told me she was retiring the Reverend Curtis Black Series. (I think a single tear may have fallen from my eye. LOL). That's the thing with Kim, though. She is always able to identify when her season is taking a pivot. From the time she left her previous profession to publish her first book to where she's at now, Kim chronicles her journey and shares some great faith nuggets in her latest work, “The Woman God Created You to Be: Finding Success Through Faith---Spiritually, Personally, and Professionally.” She's transparent about her own path. From the lows of experiencing failure, struggling silently with anxiety, grief, and divorce; to highs like marrying her soulmate of twenty-nine years, she's an open book – literally. Kim has also launched a podcast of the same title! Listen in and be inspired to become the woman God has called you to be, sis. In every area.

Do you ever find yourself stuck? Perhaps you've asked yourself, “Is this all?” Or the question “Did I make the right career choice?” has run through your head. Maybe you're meandering in the midst of insecurity or uncertainty. I've dealt with all those things, sis; you are not alone. But we must believe that where ever we are, it's not too late to make a change. A pivot is possible. Or as today's guest says, it could be time to redirect your hustle. A reset takes sacrifice, a willingness to learn and faith to move forward. It can be scary and take us out of our comfort zone. Yet, if we stay where we are, 5, 10 or 20 years down the line we'll look back and lament, “If only I would have (fill in the blank)”. We don't want to fill in that blank or live a life of regret, right? We rather say, “She did that!” But how do we take steps to reset our hustle? We can plan. Set goals. Do our homework. And yes, seek some professional coaching along the way. Enter in Executive Leadership Coach and legal mediator, Dionne King. Dionne is an award-winning cultural strategist who leads DMK Consults, an executive leadership firm that specializes in diversity, inclusion and mediation, headquartered here in Kansas City. Over the years, Dionne's expertise has been sought out by an impressive list of companies and firms across the nation, so how dope is it she's chopping it up with us today? She shares her story of resetting her hustle, the importance of your personal circle, overcoming obstacles, gaining confidence and more. We even take it to church, discussing the Proverbs 31 woman and what we can glean from her, rather than perfect emulation. (Sidebar: Because King Lemuel's mama got some of us like, “Sis, you doing all that?!”) Lean in and be encouraged to redirect your hustle -- no matter where you are in your journey.

Be your authentic self. We hear the phrase. We see the hashtags. Some of us have bought the t-shirt! But are we really showing up in the totality of who we are in every situation? I'm gonna keep it a buck. I know I haven't always done so. Big facts. Why? Because of the judgement I received being authentically who I am. I've been labeled as “too loud." My passion has been mistaken for being “dramatic”. Speaking my mind was dubbed “too unfiltered” or “coarse.” I've been judged for being a person of faith in a secular arena. The list of assessments - 99.9% wrong - could continue. But I got it wrong myself -- by shying away from who I was for the comfortability or approval of others. The truth is, someone will always have a critique, throw shade or hate, anyways! So we may as well be our full self at all times. Simply put? Be you. Do you, sis. On this episode, we discuss the power of authenticity with leadership development expert, Dr. Nicole Price. She breaks down why your story, mistakes and experiences matter when it comes to showing up as your authentic self. We also chop it up about dealing with the “isms” as women of color, her book, “The Holy, Educated M*******er” and more.

Dear America, You're welcome. Ya'll gonna learn to listen to us. Signed, Black Women I'm being facetious but low-key serious. After the 2020 election, we saw people singing the praises of Black women. Even for those on another political side, they can't deny the impact Black women made this election cycle. It further solidifies what we already know: When Black women show up, we change the game. I call it the Stacey Abrams Effect. While there are a multitude of women who also contributed to the outcome of the election, she has been one of the most prominent names at the helm. Sis got folks amped to work for change in their own city/state; others are shook. (Example? Over 200 bills have been introduced to restrict voter access.) The results from the election are receipts, proving when we harness our power, we can alter the trajectory in any space. In our family. In our community. At our place of employment. And yes, in the political realm. In this episode, we'll chop it up with Michele Watley, the founder of Shirley's Kitchen Cabinet. SKC is nonpartisan, nonprofit organization dedicated to amplifying the voices and power of Black women through education and advocacy. The goal is to help Black women become effective advocates for the issues that personally matter to them. Lean in and be encouraged to tap into both your personal and political power. Because when we do, transformation happens.

Sometimes we make these lofty goals when it comes to fitness and health. We say, “I'm gonna work out 6 days a week!” Within 6 weeks, that 6 days has become 1 or 2. We declare, “I'm going straight vegan!” Then the invite to a barbecue has us partaking of that meat life. We post images of six packs and snatched waists. When ours doesn't come in a month or so, we're like, “This is taking too long. Never mind!” Fitness and health is a lifestyle choice; not an overnight transformation. When making changes to what we eat or how we move, we have to set S.M.A.R.T. goals: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Timely. If you haven't exercised in years, don't go gangsta; you can't go from sitting on the couch to running marathons! Or if you're like me and sugar is your weakness, going cold turkey -- which I've done and failed -- isn't the best strategy. While we must make the initial decision to implement changes that benefits our bodies, if our goals are too lofty we won't attain them at all. So let's get some help. Dawn Rattan, owner of EverFit Gym in Shawnee, gives us the tea on finding your fitness path. She shares with us how to set realistic goals, learning to “like” your workout, incorporating fitness after 40, rewarding our milestones and more. Plus, this bonus: Dawn even advises how to build a booty from scratch – no surgery necessary!

Abandonment. Abuse. Depression. Racism. Rejection. All of these issues can result in personal trauma. Trauma manifests in our lives — and in various ways. From impacting our self-image, to how we parent or show up in romantic relationships, unresolved trauma has a lasting affect on us. But we can find ways to cope — and heal — through therapy. You may be thinking,“I haven't gone through anything life altering.” Make no mistake; we can normalize our trauma. We write it off because it doesn't seem “big” enough. Nah, friend. While some traumatic experiences may seem small in nature compared to what others face, it's still the same. Trauma is trauma. Periodt. So let's talk about it, sis. Enter in Nadirah Habebullah. Nadirah is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who operates Healing Her Trauma. Listen in as we discuss why strong sistas need therapy, the difference between “Big T/Little t” trauma, myths about PTSD, learning to navigate through tough seasons and more.

Many plan more for the wedding versus the actual marriage. No judgement; a mere observation. But after the big day, you may have the honeymoon then reality quickly sets in. Girl, marriage is hard work! But Minister Jessica “Lady J” Stephenson from City of Truth Church is giving a whole sermon on preparing for marriage. From the issue of dealing with conflict, submission and God-appointed good sex, this conversation is everything, sis! Plus, Lady J also has a word on how single women can be content and celebrate their single season. So whether you want to be a wife or have been married for years, grab your notebook and your Bible for this tea. Consider it a holy version of WeTV's Marriage Bootcamp, complete with some reading material afterwards!