Podcast appearances and mentions of David Mandel

Send us a textReligious teachings wield profound influence over family dynamics and human behaviors, sometimes enabling abuse under the guise of spiritual teachings and guidance. This raw and revealing conversation confronts the troubling legacy of religious parenting methodologies that promote violence, rights removal, and coercive control rather than nurturing safe, consensual connection.Ruth shares her personal experience growing up under the influence of James Dobson's parenting teachings, exposing how these "Christian" parenting strategies actually originated from eugenicist theories of the 1930s. David and Ruth dissect how these methodologies create detailed systems for child abuse by advocating for escalating physical punishment, demeaning, demanding affection after violence, and treating children as inherently manipulative or "demonic." Most disturbing is how these approaches specifically target vulnerable children, with neurodivergent and LGBTQ+ youth suffering disproportionately under these regimes of violence and control.The conversation explores how religious justifications for violence extend beyond parenting into marital relationships, where men are positioned as divinely appointed authorities with the right to abuse and control women. This creates intergenerational patterns where violence becomes the primary coping tool for men and women for managing anxiety, fear, and situations where one feels out of control. David and Ruth challenge these distortions of faith, emphasizing that "coerced faith is not faith" and that true spirituality requires free will and personal dignity.For professionals working with families, this episode highlights the importance of going beyond trauma-informed approaches to understand how religious values shape family dynamics and entitlement for coercion and abuse. For those currently practicing these methods because they believe them spiritually necessary, there's an invitation to question whether these approaches truly reflect deeper values and support healthy, long-term connections to partner, parent, and pastor or simply perpetuate trauma and harm.Join this eye-opening discussion on how we can recognize, resist, and heal from religiously justified abuse while creating healthier spiritual environments for ourselves and future generations. Visit safeandtogetherinstitute.com to learn more about domestic abuse–informed approaches that create safety and dignity for all family members. Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator's Pattern: A Practitioner's Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model's critical concepts and principles to their current case load in realCheck out David Mandel's new book Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to Transform the Way We Keep Children Safe from Domestic Violence. Visit the Safe & Together Institute website.Start taking Safe & Together Institute courses. Check out Safe & Together Institute upcoming events.

Send us a textWhen a perpetrator targets a family pet, they're sending a clear message about what they're capable of—and revealing a dangerous pattern that threatens everyone in the home. This eye-opening conversation with Maya Badham, founder of the Centre for Animal Inclusive Safeguarding, explores the deeply troubling intersection of animal abuse and coercive control.The weaponization of animals extends far beyond physical violence. Perpetrators systematically use pets as tools for economic abuse, stalking, isolation, and emotional manipulation. Maya shares striking examples of how abusers mirror their tactics across all family members (e.g., if non-fatal strangulation is used against human victims, similar methods often appear in their treatment of animals). This pattern recognition is crucial for effective risk assessment and intervention.Most troubling is how our systems force survivors into impossible choices. "I can't leave you home alone with my dog," Maya explains, highlighting how perpetrators create entrapment through a victim's attachment to their pet. With limited animal-inclusive refuge options, many survivors delay leaving or return to abusive situations because they have nowhere to go with their beloved animals.The conversation reveals a critical intervention opportunity: Survivors frequently disclose concerns about their pets before discussing their own abuse. By asking about animals in the home and showing genuine concern for their welfare, professionals can build trust and gather vital information about risk factors that might otherwise remain hidden. Yet these opportunities are often missed because domestic violence and animal welfare professionals operate in separate silos.Maya's Animal Inclusive Safeguarding Practice Blueprint aims to bridge these gaps by integrating animal welfare considerations into existing domestic violence responses. This approach recognizes the human-animal bond as a crucial protective factor—especially against domestic abuse–related suicide—and works toward solutions that keep both humans and animals safe from harm.Ready to improve your practice? Subscribe to our podcast for more insights on creating truly trauma-informed, domestic abuse–informed, whole-family approaches to domestic violence intervention that protect all family members—including those with paws, claws, fins, feathers, scales, and tails.  Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator's Pattern: A Practitioner's Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model's critical concepts and principles to their current case load in realCheck out David Mandel's new book Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to Transform the Way We Keep Children Safe from Domestic Violence. Visit the Safe & Together Institute website.Start taking Safe & Together Institute courses. Check out Safe & Together Institute upcoming events.

Send us a textWhen churches call clergy sexual abuse “moral failings” or “affairs,” they obscure the truth: predatory pastors groom adult congregants using tactics that mirror coercive control and intimate partner violence.Counselor and researcher Jaime Simpson joins us to dismantle myths about consent in faith settings, drawing from her study Broken, Shattered and Spiritually Battered: Groom Pastors Who Prey on Adult Congregation Members. Focusing on evangelical and Pentecostal communities in Australia, her findings reveal systemic grooming—romantic, therapeutic, and spiritual deception—layered with isolation, boundary violations, and theology-based coercion and systematic collusion with perpetrators to hide their criminal behaviours and shield them from accountability with the use of spiritually based forgiveness rituals. Simpson shows how purity culture, male authority, and loyalty to leadership prime congregations for collusion, silence and exploitation, while institutions minimize sexual violence but act swiftly on financial crimes. Her message to survivors: “You weren't complicit. What happened to you was not your fault.” Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator's Pattern: A Practitioner's Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model's critical concepts and principles to their current case load in realCheck out David Mandel's new book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence." Visit the Safe & Together Institute websiteStart taking Safe & Together Institute courses Check out Safe & Together Institute upcoming events

Send us a textSurviving trauma isn't evidence of brokenness—it's proof of extraordinary strength. Yet traditional therapy approaches often miss this crucial reality, focusing instead on deficits and pathology while forcing survivors to relive painful experiences without first creating safety.In this powerful conversation, therapist and trauma survivor Oli Doyle joins David and Ruth to challenge conventional therapeutic wisdom that keeps trauma survivors stuck in cycles of shame and self-blame. Together, they explore how true healing begins with recognizing the remarkable resilience that allowed survivors to endure seemingly impossible circumstances.“How the hell are you sitting in front of me still alive, still breathing? How have you done that?” Oli asks his clients, shifting focus away from pathologizing trauma responses toward honoring the ingenuity that enabled survival. This perspective represents a radical departure from approaches that ask, "What's wrong with you?" instead of, “What happened to you and how did you survive it?”The discussion delves into how trauma lives in our bodies, requiring more than verbal processing for healing. Ruth explains, “You can't talk your way out of a body response. You have to use body-based strategies to help the body get through that moment.” This embodied understanding of trauma recognizes that memories live in our tissues, manifesting as behaviors that once served protective functions but may now cause suffering.Beyond individual healing, the conversation challenges the cultural narrative that personal choices determine outcomes regardless of context. As Oli notes, “What we've been taught in colonial cultures is that contexts and structural factors don't matter. If you just make the right choices, you'll have a good life.” This individualistic perspective serves systems of power while obscuring how structural inequities shape trauma and limit options.For mental health professionals, this episode offers a powerful invitation to examine implicit biases and deficit-focused approaches. For survivors, it provides validation that survival itself represents an extraordinary achievement worthy of recognition and respect. And for everyone, it illuminates how honouring survivor strengths rather than focusing on brokenness creates pathways to genuine healing and post-traumatic growth. Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator's Pattern: A Practitioner's Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model's critical concepts and principles to their current case load in realCheck out David Mandel's new book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence." Visit the Safe & Together Institute websiteStart taking Safe & Together Institute courses Check out Safe & Together Institute upcoming events

Long before the viral Coldplay concert, there was another — and even wilder — affair caught on camera. Two pitchers for the Yankees agreed to the wildest trade in sports history: They switched wives. And children. And furniture. And pets. David Mandel laments his big-screen adaptation that never was... even though the ultimate passion project could have starred Matt Damon and Ben Affleck. (This episode originally aired April 30, 2024.) • Subscribe to Pablo's Substack for exclusive access, documents and invites https://pablo.show/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Long before the viral Coldplay concert, there was another — and even wilder — affair caught on camera. Two pitchers for the Yankees agreed to the wildest trade in sports history: They switched wives. And children. And furniture. And pets. David Mandel laments his big-screen adaptation that never was... even though the ultimate passion project could have starred Matt Damon and Ben Affleck.(This episode originally aired April 30, 2024.)• Subscribe to Pablo's Substack for exclusive access, documents and inviteshttps://pablo.show/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Long before the viral Coldplay concert, there was another — and even wilder — affair caught on camera. Two pitchers for the Yankees agreed to the wildest trade in sports history: They switched wives. And children. And furniture. And pets. David Mandel laments his big-screen adaptation that never was... even though the ultimate passion project could have starred Matt Damon and Ben Affleck. (This episode originally aired April 30, 2024.) • Subscribe to Pablo's Substack for exclusive access, documents and invites https://pablo.show/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Send us a textWhat does it take to transform domestic violence practice in an organization? In this illuminating conversation with Systems Change Champion Kyra Feetham from The Center For Women & Co in Brisbane Australia, we explore the power of language, values alignment, and relationship-building in creating sustainable change.Kyra shares her journey of embedding the Safe & Together Model at the Centre for Women, where a remarkable shift occurred through both top-down leadership support and bottom-up practitioner enthusiasm. One pivotal change happened at the documentation level - transforming intake questions from generic inquiries about children to specific examinations of "how the perpetrator's behavior impacts family functioning." This simple but profound shift refocuses attention on perpetrator patterns rather than survivor actions.The conversation delves into the complexities of working with historically marginalized communities, particularly Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples. Kyra reflects on the importance of self-awareness when navigating systems that have caused intergenerational harm: "Anti-oppressive practice starts with you as an individual... understanding that as a white woman working in largely government-based systems, that equals danger for many communities."As coordinator for the Logan High-Risk Team, Kyra offers invaluable insights into how the Safe and Together framework helps practitioners critically examine prior system decisions and identify opportunities to repair relationships with survivors. She emphasizes how meaningful conversations with people using violence - "What kind of father do you want to be?" - create pathways to accountability that generic risk assessments cannot achieve.For practitioners aspiring to become change agents themselves, Kyra's advice resonates with wisdom: build relationships throughout your community, understand what others have tried, and connect with values-aligned individuals who are ready for a better approach. Her message to survivors rings clear: "I see you, I hear you, I believe you" - there are passionate practitioners working to improve safety and accountability, even if you're not currently seeking services. Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator's Pattern: A Practitioner's Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model's critical concepts and principles to their current case load in realCheck out David Mandel's new book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence." Visit the Safe & Together Institute websiteStart taking Safe & Together Institute courses Check out Safe & Together Institute upcoming events

Cecilie ender igen og igen i relationer, som ikke rigtig vil noget. Hun længes efter noget mere end løsrevne forbindelser. Men en udfordring er begyndt at melde sig. Hun ved, hvor den kommer fra, men hun spørger alligevel: Hvad gør man, når man er i tvivl om, om man fortjener kærligheden? David har svært ved at give plads til sine frustrationer, før de fylder for meget. Men det er jo sådan nogle små ting, der irriterer ham? Som at hans kone glemmer at lukke en låge eller at folk er idioter i trafikken. Sådan noget skal man vel bare æde. Eller hvad, Jytte?! Derudover taler vi om øjeblikke, fordi der er noget (surprise) jeg ikke helt har forstået. Heldigt man liiiiige har muligheden for at komme med opfølgende spørgsmål ugen efter hihi. Medvirkende: Cecilie Rubini & David Mandel. Ekspert: Jytte Vikkelsøe. Vært: Sebastian Lynggaard. Producer: Cæcilie Helena Denman-Gretoft Musik: "Hold up" Beyonce Redaktør: Christina Høier

In this episode, Colin Rule interviews David Mandel, MA, LPC, the creator of the Safe & Together Model, a transformational approach to changing how systems and practitioners respond to domestic abuse when children are involved. With more than 35 years of experience in the domestic violence and child welfare fields, he has identified how a perpetrator pattern–based approach can improve the ability to partner with survivors, intervene with perpetrators as parents, and improve outcomes for children. David is also the founder of the Safe & Together Institute, which works with governments and NGOs across the globe, including North America, Australia, New Zealand, Singapore, Japan, the United Kingdom, and Europe. Through their live training, organizational consulting, online learning, and trainer certification, the Safe & Together Institute provides organizations and systems with a wide range of practice change tools. The Model has proven its relevance to multiple sectors, including family court, substance use, law enforcement, mental health, multi-agency efforts, and other disciplines. David has written or co-written numerous journal articles, book chapters, and position papers, including his most recent one on the alignment of the Safe & Together Model with the children's best interest framework. The Institute's work is regularly the subject of research studies, including a current project examining the relevance of the Model in a First Nation context in Australia. He has just published his first book, Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to Transform the Way We Keep Children Safe from Domestic Violence, which is available online through Amazon.com. Learn more: Safe & Together Institute: www.safeandtogetherinstitute.com Safe & Together Institute Online Learning Portal:  academy.safeandtogetherinstitute.com Partnered with A Survivor Podcast: https://safeandtogetherinstitute.com/partnered-with-a-survivor-podcast David's book: Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence:  https://mybook.to/mK39V

Send us a textWhen Kelly Daley, Community Connection Practitioner at Upper Murray Family Care, stood to accept her Champion Award for case practice in the Asia Pacific region, she was not just celebrating professional achievement—she was honoring a deeply personal journey of healing and transformation. Working across three agencies to implement the Safe & Together Model framework with children and young people affected by violence, Kelly has pioneered practice that shifts focus from managing children's behaviors to holding perpetrators as parents accountable for the trauma they've caused.”It healed broken bits of me that I had no idea were broken,” Kelly shares about her own experience with the Safe & Together Model, revealing how recognizing her strength as a survivor now drives her passion for partnering with others. This personal connection infuses her work with authenticity and purpose as she helps both survivors and practitioners navigate complex family violence situations.What makes Kelly's approach revolutionary is her emphasis on documentation and collaborative practice. She demonstrates how properly documenting strengths, protective factors, and patterns of behavior transforms not just paperwork but actual outcomes for families. When child protection services can see a mother's protective efforts clearly recorded, they're more likely to hold perpetrators accountable rather than placing the burden on victims. This shift represents the Model's principles in action: partnering with survivors while keeping perpetrators in view.Kelly's implementation work addresses practitioner fears head-on through toolbox sessions, phased learning approaches, and supportive supervision. She recognizes that many professionals haven't been trained to engage with fathers at all—let alone those who use violence—creating a significant gap in family-centered services. By building practitioner confidence gradually, she ensures the model becomes embedded in everyday practice rather than dependent on her presence.Whether you're a practitioner seeking to improve your approach to family violence or a survivor looking for hope, Kelly's journey illuminates what's possible when we truly partner with survivors while keeping perpetrators in view. Join us for this powerful conversation about transforming systems from the inside out, one family at a time.Upper Murray Family Care (UMFC) is a not-for-profit, authentically place-based community service organisation that operates across multiple jurisdictions and regulatory environments. UMFC provides support and capacity-building programs and services for children, young people, individuals, families, stakeholders, and communities throu Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator's Pattern: A Practitioner's Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model's critical concepts and principles to their current case load in realCheck out David Mandel's new book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence." Visit the Safe & Together Institute websiteStart taking Safe & Together Institute courses Check out Safe & Together Institute upcoming events

Send us a textImagine a world where our most vulnerable babies are protected without automatically severing their connection to their family. That's the vision Lauren Seager-Smith brings as Chief Executive of the For Baby's Sake Trust, where they're revolutionizing responses to domestic abuse during pregnancy and early childhood.The numbers are staggering: approximately 50,000 babies under two are referred to social care in England each year due to domestic abuse, with 2,000 entering out-of-home care. Each placement costs taxpayers £281,000 annually—but that's just the economic cost. The human toll is immeasurable.Lauren shares how their innovative program works therapeutically with both parents from pregnancy through the baby's second birthday. Unlike traditional approaches that focus exclusively on mothers or default to family separation, they engage fathers who use abusive behaviors while simultaneously supporting mothers and protecting children. What makes this approach particularly effective is its recognition that pregnancy represents a critical intervention point where many parents are highly motivated to change.The program reveals profound insights about intergenerational trauma. Among participating parents, 73% of fathers and 74% of mothers have experienced six or more adverse childhood experiences themselves. "For many of our fathers, they want a different story for their baby," Lauren explains. This motivation becomes the foundation for intensive work around emotional regulation, trauma processing, and building attunement with their infant.Perhaps most striking is the economic case for prevention. At approximately £9,000 per year per family—versus £281,000 for a child in care—programs like For Baby's Sake offer a fiscally responsible alternative to our current crisis-response systems. Yet despite this clear math, governments continue prioritizing expensive reactive measures over prevention.This conversation challenges us to think differently about protecting children. Can we create systems that hold those who use violence accountable while supporting their capacity to change? Can we recognize the profound connection between maternal and child welfare without placing impossible burdens on mothers? Most importantly, can we find the courage to invest in prevention, even when immediate crises demand our attention?Join us for this thought-provoking discussion that reimagines what's possible when we truly commit to breaking cycles of harm and supporting healthy family connections from the very beginning of life.Learn more at: https://forbabyssake.org.uk/ Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator's Pattern: A Practitioner's Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model's critical concepts and principles to their current case load in realCheck out David Mandel's new book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence." Visit the Safe & Together Institute websiteStart taking Safe & Together Institute courses Check out Safe & Together Institute upcoming events

Send us a textWhat if ending violence against women isn't just about asking men to stop bad behavior, but inviting them to embrace a more meaningful definition of strength and leadership? This question forms the heart of our powerful conversation with Jackson Katz, Ph.D., one of the world's foremost male voices in the movement to prevent gender-based violence.Katz joins us to discuss his groundbreaking new book "Every Man: Why Violence Against Women is a Men's Issue"—the first book published by a major publisher addressing men's violence with men as a primary target audience. With decades of experience pioneering bystander intervention training and educating on these issues, Katz offers profound insights into why this particular moment demands men's full engagement with ending violence against women.Together, we explore how masculinity is "policed" through social mechanisms that keep thoughtful men silent. The modern lexicon of shame—terms like "simp," "cuck," and "beta male"—serves to isolate men who might otherwise speak out against misogyny or violence. Yet Katz argues persuasively that true strength isn't demonstrated through domination but through moral courage, resilience, and standing against injustice.We delve into how traditional mental health approaches often fail to address violence, how some of the most prominent voices speaking to men today actively undermine healthy masculinity, and why institutional accountability must accompany individual leadership. Particularly riveting is Katz's argument that prevention work must be framed as a leadership expectation, not merely an optional hope.This conversation doesn't shy away from uncomfortable truths—including how patriarchal systems harm men themselves through what Katz calls "the triad of men's violence": violence against women, violence against other men, and violence against themselves. Yet it ends with an affirming vision of how men and women, with their fundamentally similar emotional makeups, can find connection instead of conflict.Whether you're a survivor, a male ally, or someone seeking to understand these issues more deeply, this episode offers invaluable perspectives on creating a world where all people can live without violence or threat.Read more about Jackson's work here: https://www.jacksonkatz.com/ Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator's Pattern: A Practitioner's Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model's critical concepts and principles to their current case load in realCheck out David Mandel's new book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence." Visit the Safe & Together Institute websiteStart taking Safe & Together Institute courses Check out Safe & Together Institute upcoming events

Send us a textWhen Bruce Bieber's phone rang at 2:50 AM, his world shattered. Three deputies stood at his door with news that his daughter Abby, a dedicated police officer known for her compassion and professionalism, had been murdered by her boyfriend – a fellow officer with a documented history of domestic violence that had been systematically minimized by their department.This powerful conversation exposes the deadly consequences of law enforcement's failure to address domestic violence within their ranks. Bruce shares how his daughter's killer had previously threatened another girlfriend at gunpoint, yet received only a token reprimand to "stop dating her" rather than facing criminal charges or meaningful discipline. This pattern of protection enabled him to continue serving while posing a lethal threat to those closest to him.The discussion delves into what experts call the "data desert" surrounding officer-involved domestic violence (OIDV) – the deliberate lack of tracking and transparency that shields departments from accountability. With estimates suggesting 40-60% of officers may perpetrate domestic abuse, this creates a horrifying reality where victims call 911 only to have their cases potentially handled by officers who are abusers themselves.We examine how well-intentioned policies like zero-tolerance rules and firearms restrictions for domestic abusers can backfire, sometimes discouraging reporting rather than promoting safety. Bruce advocates for pattern-based approaches that allow departments to address concerning behaviors before they escalate to violence, potentially saving lives like his daughter's.For survivors trapped in relationships with law enforcement officers, Bruce offers hard-earned wisdom: recognize the warning signs, understand that leaving is the most dangerous time, and connect with experts who can help create a comprehensive safety plan. His message resonates with the urgency of someone who's lost everything and is determined that no other family should experience this preventable tragedy.If you're concerned about domestic violence in your community or workplace, join us in demanding accountability, transparency, and change. Together, we can ensure that those who wear the badge truly protect and serve all members of society – including their own families.Other OIDV Related EpisodesEpisode 27: “How much crime are you willing to let your police commit?”Episode 26: Listening to the voices of survivors of officer-involved dom Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator's Pattern: A Practitioner's Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model's critical concepts and principles to their current case load in realCheck out David Mandel's new book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence." Visit the Safe & Together Institute websiteStart taking Safe & Together Institute courses Check out Safe & Together Institute upcoming events

Send us a textDavid Mandel and Ruth Reymundo Mandel share highlights from the 2025 Safe & Together Asia Pacific Coercive Control and Children's Conference in Melbourne, Australia. Listen in as they reflect on key moments and the impact of bringing together over 400 practitioners from across the region. Here are some of the highlights: • Commitment to equity through a hybrid format that allowed participation from remote locations despite the technical and financial challenges• First-ever family law track showcasing four years of work with the Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia• Launch of e-learning resources for independent Children's Lawyers that will reach over 1,200 practitioners• Focus on decolonizing practice and centering indigenous perspectives through keynote speakers like Aboriginal lawyer Amanda Morgan• Workshop on ethically including survivor expertise in organizations without exploitation or tokenism Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator's Pattern: A Practitioner's Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model's critical concepts and principles to their current case load in realCheck out David Mandel's new book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence." Visit the Safe & Together Institute websiteStart taking Safe & Together Institute courses Check out Safe & Together Institute upcoming events

Send us a textIn this episode, David and Ruth speak with Dr. Annie Donaldson about her groundbreaking research examining domestic abuse in Scotland's rural, remote and island communities. Dr. Donaldson, an honorary research fellow at the University of Strathclyde and longtime expert in gender-based violence, shares insights from interviews with survivors and professionals about the unique dynamics of domestic abuse in small, interconnected communities.Key topics include:The "paradox of proximity" - how physical isolation combines with close social connections to create unique challenges for survivors in rural areasHow community connections can be both supportive and entrapping for survivors experiencing domestic abuseHow perpetrators exploit small community dynamics and relationships to maintain controlThe incredible protective efforts of survivors, including maintaining children's routines and wellbeing despite multiple forced movesThe impact of the Safe & Together Model in helping professionals challenge victim-blaming attitudes and better support survivorsDr. Donaldson discusses how traditional social work approaches focused solely on "problem-solving" often miss the emotional realities and strengths of survivors including: Validating and building on survivors' existing protective effortsRecognizing how historical distrust of authorities impacts help-seekingUsing technology and remote options to increase accessibilityThis episode provides vital insights for any professional working with survivors in rural, remote or close-knit communities while highlighting the universal dynamics of entrapment that transcend geography.Resources:Safe & Together Family & Friends Ally GuideDr. Annie Donaldson's research blog on rural domestic abuseThe story of Glasgow's Magdalene Institution by Dr. Anni DonaldsonJoin us in-person or online 18-20 March 2025 for the Safe & Together Institute Coercive Control and Children Conference. The event includes a family law track featuring judicial leadership, survivors and lawyers. Whether in Australia or across the globe, you will gain 12 month access to recordings of every session. Register now! Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator's Pattern: A Practitioner's Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model's critical concepts and principles to their current case load in realCheck out David Mandel's new book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence." Visit the Safe & Together Institute websiteStart taking Safe & Together Institute courses Check out Safe & Together Institute upcoming events

Send us a text"Single mothers are essentially the unofficial reserve army of prevention agents in this country and around the world." - Jess HillIn this episode, David and Ruth speak with Australian experts Jess Hill and Professor Michael Salter about their groundbreaking paper challenging current approaches to preventing gender-based violence. With Australia's commitment to end gender-based violence within a generation, yet concerning increases in sexual violence and domestic homicides, this timely discussion explores why traditional prevention strategies focused on changing social norms and attitudes have fallen short.Key points discussed include:The limitations of measuring prevention success through attitude surveys rather than actual reductions in violenceWhy structural interventions and accountability are essential alongside education effortsThe need to focus resources on high-risk scenarios and populations, particularly traumatized youthHow systems often fail to provide practical help when survivors, especially young people, disclose abuseThe importance of shifting from "calling out" to "calling in" approaches when addressing harmful behaviorsWhy prevention efforts must acknowledge the reality that most people have been impacted by violence rather than assuming a "clean slate"Related episodes:Season 2 Episode 12: How Coercive Control Harms Child Safety & Wellbeing: An Interview With Jess HillAdditional Resources:See What You Made Me Do: Power, Control and Domestic Abuse by Jess HillChildlight Research Centre - University of New South WalesJoin us in-person or online 18-20 March 2025 for the Safe & Together Institute Coercive Control and Children Conference. The event includes a family law track featuring judicial leadership, survivors and lawyers. Whether in Australia or across the globe, you will gain 12 month access to recordings of every session. Register now! Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator's Pattern: A Practitioner's Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model's critical concepts and principles to their current case load in realCheck out David Mandel's new book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence." Visit the Safe & Together Institute websiteStart taking Safe & Together Institute courses Check out Safe & Together Institute upcoming events

Nachum interviews Ohel CEO David Mandel and he presents great Jewish music, the latest news from Israel and Morning Chizuk with Rabbi Dovid Goldwasser.

Send us a textIn this episode, David and Ruth explore why coercive control must be at the center of how we understand the impact of domestic abuse on children. Moving beyond just focusing on physical violence or whether children "witnessed" abuse, they discuss how perpetrators' patterns of behavior can devastate children's wellbeing in multiple ways.David and Ruth examine how coercive control by perpetrators can rob children of vital resources including economic stability, healthcare, education, family connections, and safety. They discuss how these patterns intersect with systemic oppression and vulnerabilities, creating additional layers of harm that perpetrators exploit.The conversation highlights how a coercive control framework helps professionals better assess perpetrators' harmful parenting choices, understand survivors' protective efforts, and make more informed decisions about child safety. The hosts emphasize the importance of documenting specific harms to children and challenging perpetrators who use culture or religion to justify control.They emphasize that the costs of not addressing these issues - in terms of children's wellbeing and broader societal impact - are too high to ignore.Related EpisodesSeason 2 Episode 12: How Coercive Control Harms Child Safety & Wellbeing: An Interview With Researcher Dr. Emma KatzSeason 2 Episode 10: Trauma-Informed Is Not The Same As Domestic Violence-Informed: A Conversation About The Intersection Of Domestic Violence Perpetration, Mental Health & AddictionSeason 1 Episode 1: Coercive Control And ConsentJoin us in-person or online 18-20 March 2025 for the Safe & Together Institute Coercive Control and Children Conference. The event includes a family law track featuring judicial leadership, survivors and lawyers. Whether in Australia or across the globe, you will gain 12 month access to recordings of every session. Register now! Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator's Pattern: A Practitioner's Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model's critical concepts and principles to their current case load in realCheck out David Mandel's new book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence." Visit the Safe & Together Institute websiteStart taking Safe & Together Institute courses Check out Safe & Together Institute upcoming events

Send us a textUncover the latest trends and transformations within the whiskey world as we promise to immerse you in the vibrant scene of Whiskey Thief Distilling Company and beyond. The excitement is palpable as we recount a festive gathering where the Scotchy Bourbon Boys named their Bourbon of the Year, and dive into the industry's promising future. With new distilleries gearing up for 2025, led by notable figures such as Denny Potter, Jane, and David Mandel, the whiskey landscape is poised for a dynamic evolution, despite the occasional industry naysayers.Our podcast episode unravels the complex tapestry of the bourbon industry, balancing the allure of high-end collectibles with the mass appeal of household names like Jack Daniels and Jim Beam. The growing craft distillery scene in the U.S. is maturing into a force to be reckoned with, as rectifiers and blenders skillfully brand barrels from larger distilleries. Even amidst economic shifts, the fervor for special releases persists, prompting big names like Buffalo Trace and Heaven Hill to step up in response to the rising competition and the discerning tastes of bourbon collectors.Explore the heartwarming legacy of family-owned bourbon with Amin and Beth Caroud, founders of Old Louisville Whiskey Company. Their commitment to quality and tradition is palpable as we recount our visit to their facility and a memorable tasting of their maple cask finish whiskey. Amin's recognition at the New Orleans Bourbon Festival is a testament to the passion and camaraderie that define the bourbon community. Celebrate this shared joy for whiskey, rich in flavor and history, as we toast to the remarkable journeys and friendships forged over a glass of bourbon. ad for Rosewood bourbonSupport the showhttps://www.scotchybourbonboys.com

Send us a textIn this thought-provoking first episode of 2025, David and Ruth explore how displacement-based responses to domestic violence reflect and reinforce gender double standards while often creating additional vulnerabilities for survivors and their children. Recording from the Azores, they examine how the expectation that victims must leave their homes to find safety places unfair burdens on survivors while failing to hold perpetrators accountable.Key discussion points include:How displacement-based responses arose historically when women had limited legal and economic rightsWhy forcing survivors to leave their homes, financial assets, and support networks creates new vulnerabilitiesHow displacement can enable post-separation coercive control and increase risks to childrenThe limitations of defining "safety" only in terms of immediate physical danger or lethalityWhy systems need to expand their definition of safety to include stability, wellbeing, and survivor autonomyHow child protection and other systems can inadvertently punish survivors who don't leave while failing to hold perpetrators accountable for creating unsafe conditionsDavid and Ruth discuss concrete ways to move beyond displacement-based practices, including:Centering survivor choice, autonomy and definitions of safety/wellbeingHolding perpetrators accountable for how their behavior disrupts family stabilityCreating a fuller range of intervention options beyond emergency shelterReframing "failure to protect" to focus on perpetrators' choices that endanger childrenCheck out these related episodesSeason 5 Episode 12: Challenging the Gospel of Sacrifice: Faith, Domestic Abuse, and Institutional TransformationSeason 5 Episode 9: Partnering vs. Practicing: The Hidden Bias in Professional Crisis WorkSeason 5 Episode 8: The Myth of the Domestic Violence Incident Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator's Pattern: A Practitioner's Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model's critical concepts and principles to their current case load in realCheck out David Mandel's new book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence." Visit the Safe & Together Institute websiteStart taking Safe & Together Institute courses Check out Safe & Together Institute upcoming events

Send us a textWhat if the institutions we turn to for solace are also be the ones trapping us in cycles of harm? That's the challenging reality we confront in our latest episode featuring Reverend Geneece Goertzen, affectionately known as Rev. Gen. A survivor of domestic violence herself, Rev. Gen brings a deeply personal perspective to the table, sharing insights from her book "Taking it Seriously: A Faith Leader's Guide to Domestic Violence." Her story is not just one of survival but also of transformation, as she navigates the complex role of religious institutions in both supporting and, at times, failing their communities.The episode takes a hard look at the concept of institutional betrayal within faith communities. Often, religious institutions prioritize their preservation over the well-being of individuals, inadvertently perpetuating abuse. We explore the cultural dynamics that contribute to this betrayal and the severe impact it has on survivors' mental health and faith. By addressing these systemic issues, we aim to uncover how these institutions can evolve to offer genuine support and protection to those in need, rather than acting as barriers to justice and healing.Finally, Ruth, David and Rev. Gen discuss how to challenge traditional gender roles and societal norms that can exacerbate domestic violence. Together we explore what a new reality might look like: What if these same institutions could shift their focus to how a domestic abuse perpetrators' behaviors threaten their own spiritual health, the spiritual health of the family, and their religious community? Rev. Gen provides practical advice for faith leaders on how they can be allies to victims, highlighting the importance of comprehensive education and the integration of licensed therapists into faith communities. Through this episode, we envision a path toward transformation, where love, acceptance, and support genuinely resonate within religious frameworks.Check out these resources from Rev. Gen Read her book "Taking it Seriously: A Faith Leader's Guide to Domestic Violence." Vist Rev. Gen's websiteCheck out these related resourcesThe Safe & Together Institute Friends and Family Ally Guide  Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator's Pattern: A Practitioner's Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model's critical concepts and principles to their current case load in realCheck out David Mandel's new book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence." Listen to prior episodes about language, professionals, victim blaming, acts of resistance & power dynamics: https://safeandtogetherinstitute.com/episode-2-partnered-with-a-survivor-podcast/https://safeandtogetherinstitute.com/season-3-episode-7-understanding-and-validating-survivors-acts-of-resistance/https://safeandtogetherinstitute.com/season-5-episode-2-womens-use-of-force-in-intimate-relationships/https://safeandtogetherinstitute.com/season-3-episode-3-minisode-on-worker-safety-well-being-when-workers-have-their-own-histories-of-abuse/https://safeandtogetherinstitute.com/episode-6-partnered-with-a-survivor-podcast/

Send us a textWhat if understanding power dynamics could transform the way we approach domestic abuse and trauma? Join us for this special live recording of the "Partner with a Survivor" podcast, where we invite you to explore the delicate intricacies of relationships alongside hosts David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo from the Safe and Together Institute. Ruth, known for her "Cranky Survivor" persona, opens up about how this unique character serves as both a personal expression and a strategic  response to the challenges faced by victim survivors when dealing with institutional behaviors & professional biases. Together, we navigate the critical importance of embracing survivor feedback—anger and all—while we unravel the deeply ingrained social and gender biases within professional practices.Dive into the heart of coercive control and break down the complex layers of what is called "mutualized" violence, which we call 'acts of resistance' to a perpetrator's coercion & harm. Our conversation challenges the status quo by examining who truly holds power and control in relationships, especially in contexts riddled with bias against marginalized women. We don't shy away from the difficult but necessary task of confronting systemic issues and weaponized responses to survivor anger, urging professionals to recognize anger as a healthy and natural response to boundary violations. In this episode, we champion the importance of safe environments for survivors to express their emotions and set boundaries, particularly in the face of systemic challenges.As we wrap up, we shift our focus to the evolving language within the Safe and Together framework. By moving away from North American-centric jargon, we aim to align with global conversations and maintain core principles through adaptable language. The episode concludes with a discussion on fostering healthy professional relationships, emphasizing collaboration across genders to ensure child and community safety. Reflect with us on how these insights can be applied in your own life, and help us continue our mission by sharing your feedback and suggestions for future topics.Listen to prior episodes about professionals, victim blaming, acts of resistance & power dynamics: https://safeandtogetherinstitute.com/episode-2-partnered-with-a-survivor-podcast/https://safeandtogetherinstitute.com/season-3-episode-7-understanding-and-validating-survivors Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator's Pattern: A Practitioner's Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model's critical concepts and principles to their current case load in realCheck out David Mandel's new book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence." Listen to prior episodes about language, professionals, victim blaming, acts of resistance & power dynamics: https://safeandtogetherinstitute.com/episode-2-partnered-with-a-survivor-podcast/https://safeandtogetherinstitute.com/season-3-episode-7-understanding-and-validating-survivors-acts-of-resistance/https://safeandtogetherinstitute.com/season-5-episode-2-womens-use-of-force-in-intimate-relationships/https://safeandtogetherinstitute.com/season-3-episode-3-minisode-on-worker-safety-well-being-when-workers-have-their-own-histories-of-abuse/https://safeandtogetherinstitute.com/episode-6-partnered-with-a-survivor-podcast/

Send us a textUnlock the secrets to supporting children affected by domestic abuse with insights from Dr. Asha Patel, CEO of Innovating Minds. In this episode, we explore innovative approaches like the Healing Together program, which integrates trauma-informed principles, neuroscience, and attachment models to help children manage their emotions. Dr. Patel shares her journey from working with high-profile offenders to founding Innovating Minds, with a mission to provide early support for children often mislabeled as "naughty" and excluded from education. Discover how digital access is pivotal for equitable scalability and the importance of training frontline practitioners to extend the program's reach.We'll shed light on the complex challenges of providing timely support to children exposed to domestic abuse and the critical role of supportive relationships in their healing process. Misconceptions about waiting for the perfect moment to offer help are debunked, and the necessity of multiple pathways to access programs, beyond court orders, is underscored. The conversation also delves into the hurdles marginalized communities face with official systems and highlights the importance of trauma-informed and domestic abuse-informed approaches within mental health services.Explore the profound impact of early intervention and prevention models across the UK, focusing on the integration of the Healing Together program in schools and children's homes. We examine the unique trauma children face when in contact with abusive parents and the potential for misdiagnoses. Understand the importance of recognizing trauma in the context of coercive control, beyond just physical abuse. Finally, we emphasize the power of fostering healing through mindful practices and how resilience and recovery can be significantly enhanced for both child survivors and their caregivers.Learn more about Innovating Minds and the Healing Together programme Related EpisodesSeason 5 Episode 7: Childhood Domestic Violence Exposure is “Pivotal”: An Interview with Professor HigginsSeason 5 Episode 4: Unveiling the Impact of Domestic Violence on Children: Beyond the Myth of the Child WitnessSeason 4 Episode 10: Ensuring the Voice of the Child is Heard, and Child's Best Interests are Considered in Domestic Abuse Cases Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator's Pattern: A Practitioner's Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model's critical concepts and principles to their current case load in realCheck out David Mandel's new book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence."

In August of 1973, Jan-Erik Olsson walked into the lobby of a bank in central Stockholm. He fired his submachine gun at the ceiling and yelled “The party starts now!” Then he started taking hostages. For the next six days, Swedish police and international media would tie themselves in knots trying to understand what seemed to them a sordid attachment between captor and captives. And this fixation, later pathologized as “Stockholm Syndrome,” would soon spread across the globe, becoming an easy, often flippant explanation for why people—especially women—in crisis behave in ways outsiders can't understand. But what if we got the origin story wrong?Today on Radiolab, we reexamine that week in 1973 and the earworm heard ‘round the world. Is “Stockholm Syndrome” just pop psychology built on a pile of lies? Or does it hold some kernel of truth that could help all of us better understand inexplicable trauma?Special thanks to David Mandel, Ruth Reymundo Mandel, Frank Ochberg, Terrence Mickey, Cara Pellegrini, Kathy Yuen, Mimi Wilcox and Jani Pellikka."We have some exciting news! In the “Zoozve” episode, Radiolab named its first-ever quasi-moon, and now it's your turn! Radiolab teamed up with The International Astronomical Union to launch a global naming contest for one of Earth's quasi-moons. Now is you chance to make your mark on the heavens. You can now vote on your favorites, here: https://radiolab.org/moon"EPISODE CREDITS: Reported by - Sarah Qariwith help from - Alice Edwards (also contributed research and translation)Produced by - Sarah Qariwith help from - Rebecca LaksOriginal music and sound design contributed by - Jeremy BloomAdditional Field Recording by - Albert Murillo (CC-BY)with mixing help from - Jeremy BloomFact-checking by - Natalie Middletonand Edited by  - Alex NeasonEPISODE CITATIONS:Please put any supporting materials you think our audience would find interesting or useful below in the appropriate broad categories.Videos/Documentaries: Bad Hostage by Mimi WilcoxStolen Youth: Inside The Cult at Sarah LawrencePodcasts:The Memory Motel Episode #13: The Ideal Hostage, hosted by Terrence MickeyWhy She Stayed, hosted by Grace StuartTalk to Me, The True Story of The World's First Hostage Negotiation Team, hosted by Edward ConlonSocial Media:Grace Stuart on TiktokBooks: Six Days in August: The Story of Stockholm Syndrome by David KingSee What You Made Me Do: Power, Control, and Domestic Abuse by Jess HillSlonim Woods 9, a memoir by Daniel Barban LevinOur newsletter comes out every Wednesday. It includes short essays, recommendations, and details about other ways to interact with the show. Sign up (https://radiolab.org/newsletter)!Radiolab is supported by listeners like you. Support Radiolab by becoming a member of The Lab (https://members.radiolab.org/) today.Follow our show on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook @radiolab, and share your thoughts with us by emailing radiolab@wnyc.org.Leadership support for Radiolab's science programming is provided by the Gordon and Betty Moore Foundation, Science Sandbox, a Simons Foundation Initiative, and the John Templeton Foundation. Foundational support for Radiolab was provided by the Alfred P. Sloan Foundation.

Nachum Segal presents Ohel's David Mandel & Melanie Vesely, Chevra G'mach's Naftali Solomon & Zvi Bokow, great Jewish music, the latest news from Israel and Morning Chizuk with Rabbi Dovid Goldwasser.

Ignite your lightsabers, because cohosts Ryan Condal (House of the Dragon) and David Mandel (Veep, Curb Your Enthusiasm) of 'The Stuff Dreams Are Made Of' are here to share their insights on the art of collecting. Then, Ryan, David, Jo, and Mal each share their most coveted props from genre shows and films, including their top picks for wearables, weapons, MacGuffins, and more! Hosts: Mallory Rubin and Joanna Robinson Guests: Ryan Condal and David Mandel Senior Producer: Steve Ahlman Video Editor: Steve Ahlman Additional Production: Arjuna Ramgopal, John Richter Social: Jomi Adeniran Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Nachum Segal previews the upcoming Ohel Gala with David Mandel and Jay Kestenbaum and previews the upcoming Bris Avrohom Dinner and Gala Wedding with Rabbi Mordechai Kanelsky. Plus, he presents great Jewish music, the latest news from Israel and Morning Chizuk with Rabbi Dovid Goldwasser.

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In the early 1970s, two pitchers for the New York Yankees agreed to the wildest trade in sports history: They switched wives. And children. And furniture. And pets. But this sex scandal cut way deeper than the tabloid headlines. David Mandel — veteran writer for Seinfeld, Curb Your Enthusiasm, Veep and The Simpsons — laments his big-screen adaptation that never was... even though the ultimate passion project could have starred Matt Damon and Ben Affleck. And we go deep inside a story that's equal parts swinging and missing. This episode previously aired April 30, 2024. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In the early 1970s, two pitchers for the New York Yankees agreed to the wildest trade in sports history: They switched wives. And children. And furniture. And pets. But this sex scandal cut way deeper than the tabloid headlines. David Mandel — veteran writer for Seinfeld, Curb Your Enthusiasm, Veep and The Simpsons — laments his big-screen adaptation that never was... even though the ultimate passion project could have starred Matt Damon and Ben Affleck. And we go deep inside a story that's equal parts swinging and missing. This episode previously aired April 30, 2024. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In the early 1970s, two pitchers for the New York Yankees agreed to the wildest trade in sports history: They switched wives. And children. And furniture. And pets. But this sex scandal cut way deeper than the tabloid headlines. David Mandel — veteran writer for Seinfeld, Curb Your Enthusiasm, Veep and The Simpsons — laments his big-screen adaptation that never was... even though the ultimate passion project could have starred Matt Damon and Ben Affleck. And we go deep inside a story that's equal parts swinging and missing.This episode previously aired April 30, 2024. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Send us a Text Message.In this episode, David & Ruth speak about the Myth of the Domestic Violence Incident chapter  David's recently published book: "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to Transform The Way We Keep Children Safe From Domestic Violence." They discuss how an isolated incident lens:Focuses systems interventions & professional responses on isolated acts of physical violence rather than on patterns of violence & coercive control which blinds professionals and systems to the wider dangers created to adult & child survivors by a perpetrator  Makes  it harder to see the loss of liberty and entrapment generated by the perpetrator's pattern Fails to document & address the danger & harm created by nonphysical acts of abuse & removal of liberty (coercive control) such as:ongoing control directed at the adult partnerwillingness to harm children as a way to pressure and hurt their partnerthe underlying attitudes and beliefs that entitle Perpetrator to control & violencethe manipulations of systems and threats or actual use of systems like family court and child protection to continue fear and control campaigns How the Safe & Together Model helps identify entrapment, loss liberty and impact on child, partner and family functioning to increase the awareness of professionals as to the patterns, trauma & danger created by a perpetrator Related Podcasts: Intro to David Mandel's book “Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers”https://safeandtogetherinstitute.com/podcast-interview-social-world/Want toUnveiling the Impact of Domestic Violence on Children: Beyond the Myth of the Child WitnessSocial World Podcast Interview with David Mandel about his new book “Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers”Want guided book discussions for your staff or community stakeholders? Check out this free book Study guide: https://share.hsforms.com/1D__YbFblQgqz8cTIgwXjvA3a1w1 Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator's Pattern: A Practitioner's Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model's critical concepts and principles to their current case load in realCheck out David Mandel's new book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence."

Send us a Text Message.The recently published groundbreaking, population-based study of child maltreatment in Australia found exposure to domestic violence is the most common form of maltreatment (39.6%). In this interview with Professor Daryl Higgins, one of the studies' chief investigators, David and Ruth discuss the domestic violence specific results including how they intersect with other forms of  maltreatments and other adverse experiences to produce health and other challenges in adults.  Some of the key results discussed include:What was learned about childhood maltreatment, and its connection to health outcomes in adults, in this study of 8500 Australians How domestic violence is present in the 5 most common clusters of overlapping types of maltreatment How men were more likely to report smoking and cannabis use as result of childhood exposure to domestic violenceHow women were more likely to report self harm, suicide attempts and obesity  as a result of childhood exposure of domestic violence  How female and gender diverse children were more likely to experience childhood exposure to domestic violence Read about the study: https://www.acms.auRead more about resources and publications from the  Institute of Child Protection Studies for adopting a public health approach to protecting children: https://www.acu.edu.au/icps/public-healthOther related Partnered with A Survivor episodes  Season 5 Episode 5: A Trauma History is Not An Excuse for Acting AbusivelySeason 5 Episode 4: Unveiling The Impact Of Domestic Violence On Children: Beyond The Myth Of The Child WitnessSeason 4 Episode 10: Ensuring The Voice Of The Child Is Heard, And Child's Best Interests Are Considered In Domestic Abuse Cases Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator's Pattern: A Practitioner's Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model's critical concepts and principles to their current case load in realCheck out David Mandel's new book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence."

In the early 1970s, two pitchers for the New York Yankees agreed to the wildest trade in sports history: They switched wives. And children. And furniture. And pets. But this sex scandal cut way deeper than the tabloid headlines. David Mandel — veteran writer for Seinfeld, Curb Your Enthusiasm, Veep and The Simpsons — laments his big-screen adaptation that never was... even though the ultimate passion project could have starred Matt Damon and Ben Affleck. And we go deep inside a story that's equal parts swinging and missing. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the early 1970s, two pitchers for the New York Yankees agreed to the wildest trade in sports history: They switched wives. And children. And furniture. And pets. But this sex scandal cut way deeper than the tabloid headlines. David Mandel — veteran writer for Seinfeld, Curb Your Enthusiasm, Veep and The Simpsons — laments his big-screen adaptation that never was... even though the ultimate passion project could have starred Matt Damon and Ben Affleck. And we go deep inside a story that's equal parts swinging and missing. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the early 1970s, two pitchers for the New York Yankees agreed to the wildest trade in sports history: They switched wives. And children. And furniture. And pets. But this sex scandal cut way deeper than the tabloid headlines. David Mandel — veteran writer for Seinfeld, Curb Your Enthusiasm, Veep and The Simpsons — laments his big-screen adaptation that never was... even though the ultimate passion project could have starred Matt Damon and Ben Affleck. And we go deep inside a story that's equal parts swinging and missing. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the early 1970s, two pitchers for the New York Yankees agreed to the wildest trade in sports history: They switched wives. And children. And furniture. And pets. But this sex scandal cut way deeper than the tabloid headlines. David Mandel — veteran writer for Seinfeld, Curb Your Enthusiasm, Veep and The Simpsons — laments his big-screen adaptation that never was... even though the ultimate passion project could have starred Matt Damon and Ben Affleck. And we go deep inside a story that's equal parts swinging and missing. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the early 1970s, two pitchers for the New York Yankees agreed to the wildest trade in sports history: They switched wives. And children. And furniture. And pets. But this sex scandal cut way deeper than the tabloid headlines. David Mandel — veteran writer for Seinfeld, Curb Your Enthusiasm, Veep and The Simpsons — laments his big-screen adaptation that never was... even though the ultimate passion project could have starred Matt Damon and Ben Affleck. And we go deep inside a story that's equal parts swinging and missing. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In its second-ever live episode, The Stuff Dreams Are Made Of explored the far corners of Planet Hollywood, uncovering the best pieces from classic Hollywood, the guys' favorite vehicles up for auction, the best studio-scale props, which Mel Gibson pieces Ryan is gifting Dave, the epic weirdness of Mr. Toilet Man, how bad Titanic really is (it's worse than Judge Dredd), and the guys break down their favorite pieces from each session before deciding what they're going to be bidding on. Come hear the replay of all the fun you missed out on live because YOU had to spend time with your FAMILY. SDAMO - Instagram https://www.instagram.com/propspodcast/ SDAMO - Threads https://www.threads.net/@propspodcast SDAMO - Twitter https://twitter.com/propspodcast?lang=en SDAMO - Facebook https://www.facebook.com/propspodcast/ SDAMO - TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@props.podcast David Mandel - Instagram https://www.instagram.com/davidhmandel/

That's right, the first ever live episode of the Stuff Dreams are made of, as Ryan and Dave challenge each other to dig even deeper into this week's Propstore's Treasures from Film and Television Auction. What's the most surprising piece in the Auction? The weirdest? The one Dave wishes Ryan would buy him? The one Ryan will buy Dave as a joke? What piece would their wives hate?  What would they love? And, of course, what is the worst Prometheus prop in the auction? Hint, it's from Prometheus! Plus listen as the boys field questions live from the audience— never have so many people not had anything better to do on a Sunday!  SDAMO - Instagram https://www.instagram.com/propspodcast/ SDAMO - Threads https://www.threads.net/@propspodcast SDAMO - Twitter https://twitter.com/propspodcast?lang=en SDAMO - Facebook https://www.facebook.com/propspodcast/ SDAMO - TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@props.podcast David Mandel - Instagram https://www.instagram.com/davidhmandel/

In a radical shift of gears, the Stuff Dreams Are Made Of is chatting real props -- that is, cracking the catalog for the first of Propstore's three auctions in 2024. We have Alien flightsuits, McFly guitars, Sandworms (the fun kind, not the scary kind), Charlie Chaplin pseudo-Nazi jackets, Indy jackets, Kurgan swords, Krull glaives (just don't watch the movie), Audrey Hepburn dresses, the golden Book of Life, Gimli Axes, Puffy Shirts (Ryan wants to be a pirate), yet another screen-matched C-3P0 helmet, Captain Picard's chair... and Alfred Hitchcock's parking sign. Join the guys for a brand new catalog-day format as they discuss their favorite things in another jam-packed Propstore auction! And then join us on March 10th at 12pm PDT/3 EDT/7pm GMT on our YouTube channel (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTbBdpqrHqo12qfEzTxV48Q) for our very first first live episode covering the Propstore catalog.  Come ask your questions and win fabulous prizes.  OK, maybe not so fabulous. SDAMO - Instagram https://www.instagram.com/propspodcast/ SDAMO - Threads https://www.threads.net/@propspodcast SDAMO - Twitter https://twitter.com/propspodcast?lang=en SDAMO - Facebook https://www.facebook.com/propspodcast/ SDAMO - TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@props.podcast David Mandel - Instagram https://www.instagram.com/davidhmandel/

In this insightful episode, Karen is joined by thought leader and prolific angel investor David Mandel. David, known for his expertise in finance, insurance, advanced mathematics, and computer science, pivots into the world of venture investing after successfully exiting multiple traditional businesses. Since 2014, he has dedicated himself fully to the tech startup ecosystem, investing in over 500 startups and focusing on innovations in insurance-tech and fintech, as well as AI. David and Karen dive deep into the intricacies of late seed stage investments, safe notes, and the market disruptions they're causing. Alongside the excitement, David shares his mixed feelings about the future of AI balancing enthusiasm for technological advancements with concerns over rapid automation and its impact on future job markets. They also explore the incremental yet transformative progress in AI and its various applications across industries like legal tech and autonomous vehicles. Join us as we uncover the challenges and opportunities in venture investing, the impact of AI, and the evolving landscape of technology and startups. This episode is a treasure trove of insights for seasoned and aspiring angel investors alike. Key topics and take-aways:  > David Mandel's Investment Journey - Starting with angel investing as competitive advantage in business and expanding into venture capital:   - Moved from individual investing to pooled funds for credibility. Formed Emerging Ventures fund in 2019. > Investment Philosophy and Strategy - Focus on B2B technology sectors, avoiding consumer and life sciences. - Emphasis on investing in startups with traction. > The Role of AI and Automation - Mandel's interest in AI and its business applications:   - Generative AIs progress and impact on creative fields.   - Legal tech AI applications and implications for billable hours. > Future Outlook and Concerns with the Adoption of AI - Uncertain future and potential utopian vs. dystopian outcomes. - Concerns over education and automation's future impact on job markets. - Attention to critical thinking skills and the generational understanding of technology. > Compassionate Capitalism and Funding Ecosystem - Karen Rands' advocacy for "compassionate capitalism":   - Investing in solving problems with profit.   - Alternative funding options:   - Reg A Plus and direct public offerings as additional funding strategies. - Traditional venture capital portfolio model:   - Probability of startup success and failure within a 10-investment portfolio. > Advice for Startups and Investors - Importance of startup timing and market entry. - Encouraging early-stage investments despite perceived funding scarcity. - The cyclical nature of venture capital and implications for new startups. > Conclusion - Importance of traction and market adoption as key indicators for investments. - Recalibrating investment expectations in an evolving market landscape. - Final notes on the role of good execution in startup success. For more information and to connect with David Mandel, visit https://emerging.vc https://davidmandel.blog/ Karen is the President of Kugarand Capital Holdings where her extended team offers coaching and services to small business owners providing capital strategy and investor acquisition through the Launch Funding Network.  As a thought leader in Angel and Crowdfund Investing, Karen offers investors decision tools, education, screening, due diligence, and syndication services through the National Network of Angel Investors.   More information can be found at http://karenrands.co   And if you register at the contact page you will receive her Compassionate Capitalist mini video tips, her ebook 12 Secrets of Innovation and Wealth and have an opportunity to schedule time to chat with Karen directly. Please help us build the Compassionate Capitalist community by subscribing, liking, and sharing this podcast.    The Compassionate Capitalist Show is also on Youtube @angelinvesting with a library of over 280 episodes. 

Ryan and Dave are back for an all-new, all-spectacular Season 7 of the only movie-prop-collecting podcast hosted by two TV showrunners that should probably be doing something else with their spare time. A pall has been cast over the entire prop-collecting hobby, and it ain't pretty folks. There are fakes everywhere -- fake props, fake helmets, fake COAs... even fake people and fake auctions!  The boys try to bring some humor to this serious subject as they discuss a number of recent and disturbing trends within their beloved hobby.  As the prices go up and up, so do the number of assholes.  So listen and get educated so that you don't become one of the statistics -- or one of the assholes.  Welcome back!   SDAMO - Instagram https://www.instagram.com/propspodcast/ SDAMO - Threads https://www.threads.net/@propspodcast SDAMO - Twitter https://twitter.com/propspodcast?lang=en SDAMO - Facebook https://www.facebook.com/propspodcast/ SDAMO - TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@props.podcast David Mandel - Instagram https://www.instagram.com/davidhmandel/

Mark your calendars, The Stuff Dreams Are Made Of returns Wednesday, February 28th, 2024 with an all new season!  SDAMO - Instagram https://www.instagram.com/propspodcast/ SDAMO - Threads https://www.threads.net/@propspodcast SDAMO - Twitter https://twitter.com/propspodcast?lang=en SDAMO - Facebook https://www.facebook.com/propspodcast/ SDAMO - TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@props.podcast David Mandel - Instagram https://www.instagram.com/davidhmandel/