Podcasts about certified family law specialist

In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, I sit down with certified family law specialist, parenting coordinator, and podcast host Jaime Davis—aka the woman rewriting the rules on how to divorce without destroying your life (or each other). With over 20 years in the legal trenches, Jaime shares the five key steps to navigate divorce in a way that preserves your sanity, your bank account, and—most importantly—your kids' wellbeing.From gathering documents before emotions detonate, to choosing your “divorce dream team,” to letting go of that wedding china (yes, really), Jaime's wisdom is a must-listen for anyone in the thick of it. We talk about co-parenting dynamics, emotional landmines, and why fighting over a Dyson vacuum isn't worth the therapy bills. Whether you're just starting to ask “is this the end?” or you're deep in the paperwork, Jaime offers a practical, compassionate roadmap forward.This episode is your permission slip to protect your peace and start building your next chapter—without burning everything down first.

Welcome to Founder's Club! Our guest is Roxana Taghavi, a Certified Family Law Specialist recognized by the State Bar of California. Roxana is known for her dynamic approach in both settlement negotiations and courtroom litigation, specializing in high-asset divorce cases, complex custody matters, and international jurisdiction disputes. She co-founded Valencia-Taghavi LLP, where she partners with Benjamin Valencia to provide exceptional, client-centered legal services. Join us as Roxana shares her expertise, insights, and passion for making a difference in the field of family law.Learn more at https://vtfamlaw.com/

Today's guest is Benjamin Valencia II, a top-rated family law attorney and Certified Family Law Specialist based in Los Angeles. Benjamin is known for his expertise in complex divorce and custody cases and his unique, multilingual approach, which supports clients from diverse cultural backgrounds. As co-founder of Valencia-Taghavi LLP, Benjamin combines big-firm strategy with boutique client service. We're excited to hear his insights on family law and his commitment to advocating for his clients.Learn more at https://vtfamlaw.com/

Ann Haralambie is an award-winning author and a trial and appellate attorney (a Certified Family Law Specialist and a Certified Child Welfare Law Specialist). She has a BA in Creative Writing, an MA in English Literature, and a JD in law. Her first book was a poetry chapbook published in 1976 by Desert First Works while she was in law school. Her three-volume Thomson Reuters legal treatise, "Handling Child Custody, Abuse and Adoption Cases 3d" is supplemented annually. Her three other major law books are written primarily for a legal and multi-disciplinary professional audience.Ann is an adoptee who searched for her birth family for 35 years. Her award-winning book, "Not Nicholson: The Story of a First Daughter," (2023) is an adoption search and reunion memoir. It has been called "a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the enduring quest for self-understanding. . . a deeply moving read, one that resonates long after the final page is turned" (The Reading Bud), "universally inspiring, exemplifying an unwavering resolve that continues even in the face of numerous obstacles. . . an invaluable companion for those navigating the intricate paths of understanding and acceptance in the realms of adoption" (Literary Titan), and "a compelling read that balances personal narrative with broader social issues. . . . a book that will appeal to a wide range of readers, . . . a powerful reminder of the enduring human spirit and the profound impact of uncovering one's past." (Jeyran Main, Editor-in-chief, Review Tales Magazine).Spending her time equally between Arizona and New Hampshire, in her spare time Ann loves singing all kinds of music from classical choral music to traditional Irish/Scottish songs to worship music, playing various fretted string instruments and the Irish bodhrán (a framed goatskin drum), Irish and ballroom dancing, and serving as the Loon Preservation Committee field volunteer for Silver Lake, NH.The Girls Who Went Away by Ann FesslerExciting News! We will read and discuss: You Should Be Grateful: Stories of Race, Identify, and Transracial Adoption by Angela Tucker in Season 9.Magic Mind Adoptee 20 LinkUSE THE CODE AND LINK TO RECEIVE 20% OFF YOUR SUBSCRIPTIONmagicmind.com/adoptee20RESOURCES for AdopteesS12F Helping AdopteesGregory Luce and Adoptees Rights LawFireside Adoptees Facebook GroupReckoning with the Primal Wound DocumentaryDr. Liz Debetta: Migrating Toward Wholeness MovementUnraveling Adoption with Beth SyversonAdoptees Connect with Pamela KaranovaJoin at the $10 level and be part of our monthly ADOPTEE CAFE community. This is an adoptee-only space. The next meeting is NSupport the showTo support the show - Patreon.

In Our New World of ADULT BULLIES: How to Spot The, How to Stop Them, author Bill Eddy - lawyer, therapist, educator, and Co-Counder of High Conflict Institute - writes with authority that comes from 40+ years of working with bullies and other high conflict personality individuals. Bullies may always have been a feature of human society. Eddy suggests that between 5 and 10% of people have personalities that do not allow them to put the reins on the abusive behaviors of bullies. Rich with examples the Eddy tells us how to spot bullying behavior/s as well as techniques to contain, channel and stop the abuse that bullies visit on their victims.     Eddy's work - in his book and his conversation - avoids a simplistic understanding: bullies are bad. Rather he speaks about how bullying behavior can, when channeled, can push us to be better, push society into new frontiers that may not otherwise be accessible. Bill Eddy is a lawyer, therapist, mediator and the Co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer of the High Conflict Institute. He is the author of over 20 books and manuals about managing relationships and situations with high conflict people and bullies. He trains lawyers, judges, mediators, and therapists worldwide in managing high conflict situations. Now he is writing books for everyone including his latest: Our New World of Adult Bullies: How to Spot Them - How to Stop Them.Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. is the co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer. While pioneering High Conflict Personality Theory (HCP), he was the National Conflict Resolution Center's Senior Family Mediator for 15 years, a Certified Family Law Specialist for 15 years, and a licensed clinical social worker therapist for over 12 years.Bill serves on the faculty of the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine University School of Law and is a Conjoint Associate Professor with the University of Newcastle Law School in Australia. He has been a speaker and trainer in over 35 U.S. states and 13 countries.The author or co-author of over 20 books, manuals, and workbooks, he also has a popular blog on the Psychology Today website with millions of views. He co-hosts the podcast, It's All Your Fault! with HCI co-founder, Megan Hunterhttps://highconflictinstitute.com/

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When you think bullies, you may think about school aged children, but what happens when you are an adult dealing with adult bullies? This week Michelle Dempsey-Multack welcomes back Bill Eddy to discuss managing bullies as an adult. Bill Eddy is an expert in dealing with high-conflict individuals and is sure to leave you feeling empowered after this episode. Together Michelle and Bill will cover: Learning to talk about how you are feeling when being bullied Leading with empathy to understand the other person's behavior Reminding yourself that many bullies are unaware of what they are doing Setting limits and imposing consequences AND MUCH MORE Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. is High Conflict Institute's co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer. He pioneered the High Conflict Personality Theory (HCP) and has become an expert on managing disputes involving people with high conflict personalities. He was the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center for 15 years, a Certified Family Law Specialist lawyer representing clients in family court for 15 years, and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker therapist with twelve years' experience. He serves on the faculty of the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine University School of Law in California and is a Conjoint Associate Professor with the University of Newcastle Law School in Australia. He has been a keynote speaker and trainer in over 30 U.S. states and 10 countries. In addition to authoring over twenty books, he writes a popular blog on PsychologyToday.com with over five million views. Check out his amazing books, here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Susan welcomes back the world's leading expert on managing high-conflict behaviors, Bill Eddy!  Bill shares insights from his newest book, Our New World of Adult Bullies: How to Spot Them ― How to Stop Them. In this episode, Susan and Bill explore the different forms of bullying, the underlying causes, practical strategies for dealing with bullies, and the role of empathy and communication in resolving these challenging situations. Bullying is happening in almost every area of our lives - whether you have a friend or family member experiencing bullying or have witnessed it in the workplace, this conversation (and Bill's new book) is essential in helping you shut down these troubling behaviors. Featured topics and Golden Nuggets: Why is adult bullying so prevalent today? Some of the characteristics of bullying behavior Bill answers, “Are there different types of bullies?” “When you see polarization, look for a bully.”  Strategies to manage and protect yourself from adult bullies The real-world consequences of being an adult bull **************************************** About this week's special guest: Bill Eddy Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. is the co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer. While pioneering High Conflict Personality Theory (HCP), he was the National Conflict Resolution Center's Senior Family Mediator for 15 years, a Certified Family Law Specialist for 15 years, and a licensed clinical social worker therapist for over 12 years. Bill serves on the faculty of the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine University School of Law and is a Conjoint Associate Professor with the University of Newcastle Law School in Australia. He has been a speaker and trainer in over 35 U.S. states and 13 countries.  The author or co-author of over 20 books, manuals, and workbooks, he also has a popular blog on the Psychology Today website with over 6 million views. Our New World of Adult Bullies: How to Spot Them ― How to Stop Them The High Conflict Institute  It's All Your Fault! Podcast **************************************** THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS:  HEADSPACE Hello, Divorce & Beyond family! We've teamed up with Headspace to guide you towards better mental health. With Headspace's meditation, mindfulness tools, and mental health support, you're set for a happier, healthier you. Sign up through our exclusive link for free two weeks of Headspace membership. Don't miss out on this opportunity to embrace well-being. ========================= HELLO DIVORCE Over one million people get divorced in the United States every year. However, divorce can be a complex and expensive process, especially if you have to hire a lawyer. 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Bill Eddy is an attorney, therapist, mediator, and the Chief Innovation Officer of the High Conflict Institute based in San Diego, California. He develops methods to help resolve high conflict family, workplace, and legal disputes, including EAR Statements™, BIFF Response® emails, New Ways for Families® skills training methods for potentially high conflict parents in divorce and New Ways for Work™ coaching for potentially high conflict employees. He has trained lawyers, judges, mediators, and therapists in 38 states and 13 countries in managing high conflict personalities. He is the author of over 20 books and manuals for managing high conflict disputes. As a mediator, he was the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center based in San Diego for 15 years. Previously, as a lawyer, he was a Certified Family Law Specialist in California for 15 years representing clients in family court. Prior to that, he provided psychotherapy for 12 years to children, adults, couples and families in psychiatric hospitals and outpatient clinics as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. His Psychology Today blog has received over 6 million views. Adult bullies seem to be everywhere in today's world — in families, businesses, communities, online, and even in politics and between nations. It's easy to dismiss bullies as jerks, hateful or evil, but only by understanding how their personalities work can people effectively intervene with adult bullying behavior. In Our New World of Adult Bullies: How to Spot Them, How to Stop Them, Bill Eddy — therapist, lawyer, mediator and personality expert — explains how bullies manipulate others beneath their conscious awareness by using primitive emotional powers to immobilize victims with blame and shame or mobilize victims against the bully's other targets. 

Our guest is none other than Bill Eddy, a leading expert in managing high-conflict personalities. As the pioneer in understanding and navigating the tumultuous waters of relationships with individuals exhibiting narcissistic or borderline traits, Bill brings a wealth of knowledge and practical wisdom.In this episode, we'll unravel the intricacies of his acclaimed book, "SPLITTING: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Narcissistic or Borderline Personality Disorder". If you're facing a high-conflict divorce, this conversation is an essential guide to maintaining your sanity and safety in the face of adversity.Bill Eddy, co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer of the High Conflict Institute, is a renowned figure in managing high-conflict personalities. He developed the influential High Conflict Personality Theory and has a rich background as both a Certified Family Law Specialist and a licensed clinical social worker.Bill's work extends beyond the courtroom and therapy sessions to the academic realm, serving as faculty at the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at Pepperdine University and a Conjoint Associate Professor at the University of Newcastle Law School.As an author of over 20 books and co-host of the podcast "It's All Your Fault," Bill's expertise is sought after worldwide, having lectured in over 35 U.S. states and 13 countries worldwide. His popular Psychology Today blog has garnered over 6 million views, making him a leading voice in understanding and navigating complex interpersonal conflicts.More ways to connect with Bill:Website: https://highconflictinstitute.com/solutions-for-individualsSplitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality DisorderJourney Beyond Divorce Resources mentioned in this episode:Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com  Reclaim Your Mind: Evict Your Spouse from Your Mental Space: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/reclaimyourmindDivorce 101: The Roadmap Your Need  to Prepare for Your High Conflict Divorce: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/divorce101

Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. developed the high conflict personality theory to explain the driving forces behind people who present the most challenging behaviors. He is an expert on managing disputes involving high-conflict situations and 5 high conflict personality types, including a subset of those with narcissistic, borderline, antisocial, histrionic, and paranoid personality disorders. He has trained over 200,000 professionals in 10 countries on understanding and managing high-conflict disputes, including lawyers, judges, mediators, managers, human resource professionals, businesspersons, healthcare administrators, college administrators, law enforcement, therapists, and others. As an attorney, Bill was a Certified Family Law Specialist in California and the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center in San Diego. Before becoming an attorney in 1992, he was a Licensed Clinical Social worker with twelve years of experience providing therapy to children, adults, couples, and families in psychiatric hospitals and outpatient clinics. He serves on the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution faculty at the Pepperdine University School of Law. He is an Associate Professor at the University of Newcastle Law School in Australia. In 2021, Bill received a Lifetime Achievement Award from the Academy of Professional Family Mediators.Bill has a popular blog on the Psychology Today website with over 3.5 million views and is the author and co-author of twenty books on high-conflict personalities, including two award winners (see all books here):A Quote From this Episode"About 10% of people have these extreme behaviors, and they don't stop themselves and they are dysfunctional."Resources Mentioned in This EpisodeBook: Calming Upset People with EARBook: 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your LifeBook: It's All YOUR Fault! 12 Tips for Managing People Who Blame Others for EverythingBook: The Sociopath Next Door by StoutSeries - The StaircaseAbout The International Leadership Association (ILA)The ILA was created in 1999 to bring together professionals interested in studying, practicing, and teaching leadership. Plan for ILA's 25th Global Conference in Vancouver, British Columbia, October 12-15, 2023.About The Boler College of Business at John Carroll UniversityBoler offers four MBA programs – 1 Year Flexible, Hybrid, Online, and Professional. Each MBA track offers flexible timelines and various class structure options (online, in-person, hybrid, asynchronous). Boler's tech core and international study tour opportunities set these MBA programs apart. Rankings highlighted in the intro are taken from CEO Magazine.About  Scott J. AllenWebsiteMy Approach to HostingThe views of my guests do not constitute "truth." Nor do they reflect my personal views in some instances. However, they are views to consider, and I hope they help you clarify your perspective. Nothing can replace your reflection, research, and exploration of the topic.

This week on Maximum Mom, your host Elise Buie is joined by Flora Garcia-Sepulveda. Flora Garcia-Sepulveda, a founding partner of Woodman & Garcia-Sepulveda and a Certified Family Law Specialist, is an experienced trial lawyer who practices family law exclusively, focusing on diverse financial issues including business valuation, property division and child and spousal support. Flora is fluent in Spanish. Flora also represents clients in difficult custody disputes and move-away cases. Before she opened her practice, she worked at Bay Area Legal Aid a non-profit Agency representing victims of domestic violence in their restraining orders, divorce and immigration matters. Flora began to practice family law exclusively in 2005, and has focused in this area of law since that time. Flora previous work at the San Mateo Court and her domestic violence litigation background results in the smooth management of her family law cases as they progress to trial. Her attention to detail and knowledge of the intricacies of family law procedure enable her to strategically plan her cases and prepare for settlement or trial in a way that ensures that clients are receiving the best and most comprehensive representation available. Since 2012 Flora expanded her practice to include probate matters such as wills, trusts, guardianships, conservatorships and step-parent adoptions.05:34 The importance of education in building resilience07:53 Teaching her daughters to be self-sufficient 11:00 Discussion on the need to educate people about the long-term ramifications of staying at home 19:08 The value of teaching children self-sufficiency and the importance of not doing everything for them30:58 The need to let go of bitterness and victim mentality 34:14 The importance of educating and empowering women37:30 The benefits of remote work and flexibility, particularly for working mothers, and how it can lead to increased productivity and work-life balanceConnect with Flora Garcia-Sepulveda: Website Avvo  LinkedIn Twitter  Facebook Resources: Join the Guild Membership Subscribe to the Maximum Lawyer Youtube Channel Follow us on Instagram Join the Facebook Group Follow the Facebook Page Follow us on LinkedIn

Certified Family Law Specialist, CPA and Real Estate Broker Matt Skarin is busier than ever. He breaks down what makes a good attorney and shares the craziest divorce stories. He could write a book! @divorcepartypodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

lovethylawyer.comA transcript of this podcast is available at lovethylawyer.com.Renee Rosshttps://www.rossfamilylaw.com/attorneys/Renée Ross is a Fellow in the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers and International Academy of Family Lawyers. She is also a Certified Family Law Specialist. Renee has been recognized as a “Super Lawyer” every year since 2014 and has received annual recognition as one of the Top 50 Women Lawyers in Northern California. Renee has practiced family law exclusively since 2005, including in Alameda, Contra Costa, San Francisco, Santa Clara, Napa, and Marin counties. She is experienced in all types of family law, including divorce, custody, spousal and child support, paternity, domestic partnership dissolution, and high-asset, complex property division.   . Please subscribe and listen. Then tell us who you want to hear and what areas of interest you'd like us to cover. Louis Goodman www.louisgoodman.comhttps://www.lovethylawyer.com/510.582.9090Music: Joel Katz, Seaside Recording, MauiTech: Bryan Matheson, Skyline Studios, OaklandAudiograms: Paul Roberts louis@lovethylawyer.com

Cast: Dr. Tara Egan, hostBill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. - guest expertCommunicating in high conflict situations can be extremely challenging, especially during divorce. This week Tara is so excited to welcome Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. Tara has admired Bill for some time for all the great work he has done, and she is a major fan of his books (he is the author or co-author of over 20 books, manuals, and workbooks.)Bill Eddy is also the co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer of the High Conflict Institute in San Diego, California. He pioneered the High Conflict Personality Theory (HCP) and has become an expert on managing disputes involving people with high conflict personalities. He was the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center for 15 years, a Certified Family Law Specialist lawyer representing clients in family court for 15 years, and a licensed clinical social worker therapist with over 12 years of experience.He is here today to discuss communicating during high conflict situations, specifically divorce.Tune in to learn:- What is considered "high conflict”?- What are the defining characteristics of a high conflict divorce?- Examples of how to communicate with a high conflict person- The BIFF Method- BIFF for CoParent Communication: Your Guide to Difficult Texts, Emails, and Social Media Posts- And So Much More (including some great tips)Learn more about Bill Eddy, the High Conflict Institute and Conflict Playbook https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/abouthttps://www.conflictplaybook.com/Website - To learn more about Dr. Tara Egan's child & adolescent therapy services books, webinars, public speaking opportunities, and coaching/consultation services, Go HERE.Facebook - learn more HERE.YouTube - learn more HERE.Instagram - learn more HERE.Podcast edited by Christian Fox

In this episode of Legally Blissed Conversations, we are joined by Heather Moulder, a former BigLaw partner turned lawyer leadership and business coach; Lauren Fair, an attorney, Certified Family Law Specialist, and divorce coach; and Amanda Stark, former compliance attorney turned Human Design Expert and certified life coach.Listen in as this experienced group of coaches share their thoughts on various coaching processes and practices and how these show up in our female attorney communities. Whether you have a big or small problem to solve, we all agree that coaching is an efficient way to uplevel whatever it is that you need to move through. Having a trusted coach to hold space for you as you move through your life and career can be the key to finding your way with ease.Join the Legally Blissed Community: https://LegallyBlissed.comHeather Moulder: https://www.coursecorrectioncoaching.com/Lauren Fair: https://www.laurenfaircoaching.com/Amanda Stark: https://www.glitterandgravitas.com/

Today on The Divorce & Beyond podcast, host Susan Guthrie, Esq. welcomes leading attorney Monica Mazzei! Together they explore how pre-nuptial agreements can help partners prepare for their marriage and beyond.  In this episode, Susan Guthrie and her guest, Monica Mazzei focus not on divorce, but instead on marriage and partnerships. They encourage you to think about how a pre-martial agreement can be a collaboration and bring you together, rather than used as a plan for what happens if you part.  Monica Mazzei is a Certified Family Law Specialist representing clients in the Bay Area, with a concentration in San Francisco and Silicon Valley, as well as Los Angeles. She represents high-net-worth clients throughout the litigation process and in mediation. Topics and Golden Nuggets include:  Conscious coupling is very different from conscious uncoupling Why the stigma around having a pre-marital agreement is waning  Monica shares insights on the ideal time to start the conversation about a prenup What happens during pre-marital agreement planning  “Nobody wants to talk about money, divorce, or death. But these are the things you need to talk about.” Prenups should be a collaborative and transparent process, and agreements should be balanced and fair In the event of a divorce, prenups lead to less cost, less time, and less stress because you already worked through these issues “This is your opportunity to ask for what you want while you still like each other. Try doing this ten years from now when you can't stand each other, it's a lot harder.” About this week's special guest: Monica Mazzei Monica Mazzei is a Certified Family Law Specialist representing clients in the Bay Area, with a concentration in San Francisco and Silicon Valley, as well as Los Angeles. She represents high-net-worth clients throughout the litigation process and in mediation. Monica has been named a California Super Lawyer from 2015-2019 and has been recognized in the international Chambers High Net Worth 2017-2019 guide for Family/Matrimonial Law. Monica specializes in dissolution actions involving complicated valuation and financial matters, complex community property and support issues, including international issues, and dissolutions involving hedge funds, private equity, venture capital, and privately held businesses. Monica drafts and negotiates cohabitation agreements, and pre-marital and post-marital agreements for her clients. Monica also mediates pre-marital agreements. As a mediator, Monica helps to identify the thoughts and concerns of both parties in a non-confrontational setting. Mediation helps clients discuss difficult topics which allow Monica to create a financial structure that works for both parties. Monica takes a modern approach to the practice of family law – addressing various needs for her clients related and unrelated to their family law cases. Monica has relationships with top professionals in the Bay Area such as forensic accountants, mental health professionals, real estate agents, financial advisors, and business valuation experts. She also works closely with estate planning attorneys to come up with creative solutions for her clients and ensure their agreements reflect their current objectives. Monica is a frequent lecturer and speaker on family law matters and a staunch advocate against domestic abuse in her pro bono work. Monica Mazzei - Sideman Bancroft, LLP: https://www.sideman.com/professionals/monica-mazzei/ Monica on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/monica-mazzei-5029432/ Email Monica: mmazzei@sideman.com Mentioned in this episode: Audible: Did you know that you can now listen to The Divorce & Beyond podcast on your favorite audiobook platform, Audible?  If you are like me and love your audiobooks along with your podcasts, this is a great time to check out Audible memberships – they have two levels:  Audible Plus and Audible Premium Plus  You can get a free trial of Audible Plus and if you decide to subscribe to Audible Premium Plus you will also get up to two free audiobooks!    Check it out today and it makes a great gift too: Audible Gift Memberships  THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSOR:  SOBERLINK Soberlink has teamed up with divorce and family law experts to bring you the information you didn't know that can provide peace of mind during the holidays. For those of you who still haven't heard about Soberlink, it is the solution for you if you are going through a divorce and custody case involving alcohol. Whether you are falsely accused of alcohol use or are concerned about your child's safety because of your other parents' alcohol use, Soberlink can help. Soberlink works hard to keep children safe. Offering a remote alcohol monitoring system that is the gold standard because of its technology. It includes a high-tech breathalyzer device with facial recognition that allows you to receive real-time updates from monitored co-parents anytime, anywhere allowing for swift intervention for improved child safety.  They have helped hundreds of thousands of people document proof of sobriety in real-time for peace of mind in child custody cases.  Don't miss out on Soberlink's Free Guide for the upcoming Holiday Season. 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In this episode of Money Tales, our guest is Monica Mazzei. When she was a teenager enrolled at a private high school, Monica's parents told her that she'd have to be financially self-sufficient after graduation. This meant Monica was on her own to pay for the formal education needed to achieve her dream of becoming an attorney. Monica tells us that financing college with loans makes you look at your education a little bit differently. She knew she was making investment in herself and realized that she couldn't afford for it to be a bad investment. Monica Mazzei is a Certified Family Law Specialist representing clients in the Bay Area, with a concentration in San Francisco and Silicon Valley, as well as Los Angeles. She represents high net worth clients throughout the divorce process and in mediation. Monica has been named a California Super Lawyer from 2015-2019 and has been recognized in the international Chambers High Net Worth 2017-2019 guide for Family/Matrimonial Law. Monica specializes in dissolution actions involving complicated valuation and financial matters, and complex community property and support issues, including international issues, dissolutions involving hedge funds, private equity, venture capital and privately held businesses. Monica drafts and negotiates cohabitation agreements, pre-marital and post-marital agreements for her clients. Monica also mediates pre-marital agreements. As a mediator, Monica helps to identify the thoughts and concerns of both parties in a non-confrontational setting. Mediation helps clients discuss difficult topics which allows Monica to create a financial structure that works for both parties. Monica takes a modern approach to the practice of family law – addressing various needs for her clients related and unrelated to their family law case. Monica has relationships with top professionals in the Bay Area such as forensic accountants, mental health professionals, real estate agents, financial advisors and business valuation experts.  She also works closely with estate planning attorneys to come up with creative solutions for her clients and ensure their agreements reflects their current objectives. Monica is a frequent lecturer and speaker on family law matters and a staunch advocate against domestic abuse in her pro bono work. See all episodes >

In this episode of Money Tales, our guest is Monica Mazzei. When she was a teenager enrolled at a private high school, Monica's parents told her that she'd have to be financially self-sufficient after graduation. This meant Monica was on her own to pay for the formal education needed to achieve her dream of becoming an attorney. Monica tells us that financing college with loans makes you look at your education a little bit differently. She knew she was making investment in herself and realized that she couldn't afford for it to be a bad investment.Monica Mazzei is a Certified Family Law Specialist representing clients in the Bay Area, with a concentration in San Francisco and Silicon Valley, as well as Los Angeles. She represents high net worth clients throughout the divorce process and in mediation. Monica has been named a California Super Lawyer from 2015-2019 and has been recognized in the international Chambers High Net Worth 2017-2019 guide for Family/Matrimonial Law.Monica specializes in dissolution actions involving complicated valuation and financial matters, and complex community property and support issues, including international issues, dissolutions involving hedge funds, private equity, venture capital and privately held businesses.Monica drafts and negotiates cohabitation agreements, pre-marital and post-marital agreements for her clients.Monica also mediates pre-marital agreements. As a mediator, Monica helps to identify the thoughts and concerns of both parties in a non-confrontational setting. Mediation helps clients discuss difficult topics which allows Monica to create a financial structure that works for both parties.Monica takes a modern approach to the practice of family law – addressing various needs for her clients related and unrelated to their family law case. Monica has relationships with top professionals in the Bay Area such as forensic accountants, mental health professionals, real estate agents, financial advisors and business valuation experts.  She also works closely with estate planning attorneys to come up with creative solutions for her clients and ensure their agreements reflects their current objectives.Monica is a frequent lecturer and speaker on family law matters and a staunch advocate against domestic abuse in her pro bono work.Learn more about Money Tale$ > Subscribe to the podcast Recent episodes See all episodes > Form CRS Form ADV Terms of Use Privacy Rights and Policies

In this episode of Legally Blissed Conversations, we are joined by Lauren Fair, an attorney and Certified Family Law Specialist with more than 15 years of experience in family law litigation. Combining her personal and professional experience with the emotional challenges and unique transition process that accompany divorce, Lauren currently coaches and consults for clients involved in complex family law matters.  In addition to her long career in family law, today, Lauren is a Certified Life Coach with a focus on helping executive women divorce confidently, efficiently, and civilly while saving on attorney's fees. Follow Lauren: https://www.instagram.com/laurenfaircoaching/ (laurenfaircoaching)

Before we dive into this week's show, I wanted to share that my group coaching experience, Grit & Grace, is open! If you are ready to create profound shifts to own your worth, your strength, and your power - Grit & Grace is for you. To learn more about the program or to sign up for a consultation visit KateAnthony.com/Coaching. Certified Family Law Specialist Monica Mazzei joins me to talk about why everyone should have a pre-marital agreement -  yes, a prenup!  Monica is passionate about what she does and has made it her mission to educate others about everything family law—including this topic.  During our conversation, we discuss the benefits of having a pre-marital agreement, why prenups are not just for high-net-worth individuals, and what happens if a spouse tries to fight the prenup during a divorce. If you don't have assets or think you don't need a prenup, but think you might get married again in the future, this episode is a must-listen. Show Highlights The family law system is outdated especially in the area of pre-marital agreements (6:53) Conversations about pre-marital agreements offer transparency and may lead to greater intimacy (10:00) Monica explains what information and details go into a prenup - it should be a clear roadmap of what is going to happen if you get divorced (11:51) How to start the conversation with a partner about creating a pre-marital agreement (22:08) Co-habitation and Nesting agreements: what are they and what should go into them (26:04) Why a pre-martial agreement is the most impactful one you can have, where you choose your own rules and destiny as a couple if things don't work out (34:35) Learn more about Monica:Monica Mazzei is a Certified Family Law Specialist representing clients in the Bay Area, with a concentration in San Francisco and Silicon Valley, as well as Los Angeles. She represents high-net-worth clients throughout the divorce process and in mediation. Monica has been named a California Super Lawyer from 2015-2019 and has been recognized in the international Chambers High Net Worth 2017-2019 guide for Family/Matrimonial Law. Monica specializes in dissolution actions involving complicated valuation and financial matters, and complex community property and support issues, including international issues, and dissolutions involving hedge funds, private equity, venture capital, and privately held businesses. Monica takes a modern approach to the practice of family law – addressing various needs of her clients related and unrelated to their family law case. Monica has relationships with top professionals in the Bay Area such as forensic accountants, mental health professionals, real estate agents, financial advisors, and business valuation experts.  She also works closely with estate planning attorneys to come up with creative solutions for her clients and ensure their agreements reflect their current objectives. Monica is a frequent lecturer and speaker on family law matters and has been interviewed by Forbes, The Wall Street Journal, and Bloomberg.  Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at:  https://kateanthony.com/podcast/why-everyone-should-have-a-pre-marital-agreement-with-monica-mazzei/ Grit and Grace Group Coaching is Open - Join us! Monica's website Monica on LinkedIn TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: SOBERLINK Proof. Protection. Peace of Mind. The Soberlink remote alcohol monitoring system consists of a portable breathalyzer with wireless technology for real-time results. With proven use as the leading choice in child custody cases since 2011, we are the only system that combines: Court admissibility in all 50 states Facial recognition Tamper detection Easy-to-read Advanced Reporting™ Trust the Experts in Remote Alcohol Monitoring Technology™ to support the best interests of the child in your Family Law cases. JOIN THE SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO FACEBOOK GROUP

Bill Eddy joins Nikki Parkinson in this episode to talk high conflict divorces. As an attorney, Bill was a Certified Family Law Specialist in California and the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Centre in San Diego. Prior to becoming an attorney in 1992, he was a Licensed Clinical Social worker with twelve years' experience providing therapy to children, adults, couples and families in psychiatric hospitals and outpatient clinics.  Bill has a popular blog on the Psychology Today website with over 3.5 million views, and is the author and co-author of twenty books on high conflict personalities, including two award winners, including, ‘BIFF: Quick Responses to High Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email and Social Media Meltdowns' and ‘SPLITTING: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder'. Bill Eddy is very well versed on the topic of high conflict divorces. Nikki and Bill discuss - What is the definition of a ‘High Conflict' person?  The 'Fugetaboutit' approach. EAR Statements. BIFF Methods. Bill answers your questions -  How do you deal with a narcissistic person, when using the family court system as a weapon? and How do you deal with parental alienation? This episode is full of so many great tips when you are dealing with a high conflict person or going through a high conflict divorce. This episode is sponsored by The Separation Summit. If you are looking to separate in a better way, a healthier way, a smarter way, then The Separation Summit has been specifically designed for you. The Separation Summit is Australia's first digital event that showcases the ways, days and stages to a kind separation. This 1-day summit invites global experts, legal advisors, and divorce survivors, to offer an informed, heart-felt and collaborative event. Taking the mess out of messy. Buy your ticket here. Connect with Billy Eddy at The High Conflict Institute. Join our community of like-minded people @thedivorcehub on Instagram and Facebook and LinkedIn.  Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her website and on Instagram @tiff__richmond.  

Monica Mazzei is a Certified Family Law Specialist representing clients in the Bay Area, with a concentration in San Francisco and Silicon Valley, as well as Los Angeles. She represents high-net-worth clients throughout the divorce process and in mediation. Monica has been named a California Super Lawyer from 2015-2019 and has been recognized in the international Chambers High Net Worth 2017-2019 guide for Family/Matrimonial Law. Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/monica-mazzei-5029432/ Sideman & Bancroft: https://www.sideman.com/ Learn more about EmotionTrac and our AI-driven Emotional Intelligence Platform: https://emotiontrac.com/calendly/ https://legal.emotiontrac.com/

Monica Mazzei is a Certified Family Law Specialist representing clients in the Bay Area, with a concentration in San Francisco and Silicon Valley, as well as Los Angeles. She represents high-net-worth clients throughout the divorce process and in mediation. Monica has been named a California Super Lawyer from 2015-2019 and has been recognized in the international Chambers High Net Worth 2017-2019 guide for Family/Matrimonial Law. Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/monica-mazzei-5029432/ Sideman & Bancroft: https://www.sideman.com/ Learn more about EmotionTrac and our AI-driven Emotional Intelligence Platform: https://emotiontrac.com/calendly/ https://legal.emotiontrac.com/

In recent celebrity news, we're watching a high-conflict co-parenting relationship play out before our eyes through Kim Kardashian and Kanye West, making co-parents around the world shudder over knowing how difficult it can be to co-parent with someone who is constantly looking for a battle. We also know that one reasonable co-parent can make a positive difference in the lives of the children who are being co-parented by one high-conflict parent, but that doesn't make dealing with it any easier. High-conflict co-parenting can make life incredibly stressful and full of unnecessary tension, which in-turn, rubs off on the kids. "The key is realizing we have to take a different approach. The secret to managing a high-conflict personality is managing your own anxiety," Bill Eddy says on this episode of Moms Moving On, and on this third visit to our show, Bill shares the secrets and strategies for how to effectively co-parenting with a high-conflict ex, and shares the "4 forget about its," that you definitely need to hear! "As early as possible you want to learn how to separate dealing with your ex or ex-to-be from getting your needs met emotionally. Don't keep trying to get it from the person who can't give it to you." Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. is High Conflict Institute's co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer. He pioneered the High Conflict Personality Theory (HCP) and has become an expert on managing disputes involving people with high conflict personalities. He was the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center for 15 years, a Certified Family Law Specialist lawyer representing clients in family court for 15 years, and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker therapist with twelve years' experience. He serves on the faculty of the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine University School of Law in California and is a Conjoint Associate Professor with the University of Newcastle Law School in Australia. He has been a keynote speaker and trainer in over 30 U.S. states and 10 countries. In addition to authoring over twenty books, he writes a popular blog on PsychologyToday.com with over five million views. For a list of of Bill's books, click here. We highly suggest The High-Conflict Co-Parenting Survival Guide, Splitting, Calming Upset People with EAR, and The 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Christian family law attorney Kelly Chang Rickert exclusively handles family law cases and prenuptial agreements, and has been practicing law for 22+ years. Kelly is a Certified Family Law Specialist, certified by the California Board of Legal Specialization. She is the author of several divorce articles published by Forbes, The Wall Street Journal and Money Magazine. Her first book, “Protecting Yourself From False Accusations” was an Amazon #1 Best-Seller. During COVID-19, Kelly founded Quarantine Publications and began self-publishing children's books about divorce. Her first children's book, “Two Adventures With Mom and Dad”, was released to help parents explain the concepts of separation and divorce to young children. "Two Adventures With Mom and Dad" was incredibly well-received, and was an Amazon #1 best-seller in Children's Marriage and Divorce books. Her second book, "Hope's Broken Snow Globe" was just released on November 1, 2021, and tackles the topic of holidays and divorce for young children. Kelly routinely appears as an expert on television/radio to comment on family law issues in celebrity divorce and custody cases. Kelly is a member of ACFLS, AFCC, LACBA, LACFLA, and volunteers as a Daily Settlement Officer and Judge Pro Tem in family law courts. Kelly discourages “scorched‑earth” tactics in family law and encourages mediation and collaborative solutions whenever possible. In her spare time, Kelly enjoys nagging her husband of 15+ years, embarrassing her two daughters (typical Taiwanese mother), solitary hikes in Griffith Park, and singing loud praises to God. She is a prayer warrior. Kelly was born in Taiwan, and immigrated with her family to the beautiful USA when she was 6 years old. She is fluent in Mandarin Chinese, Taiwanese and French. Find Kelly: Kelly writes a blog on her website, updated weekly. Follow her (@lawyerkelly) on Instagram, Twitter, LinkedIn, TikTok, and Medium.

It's safe to say that divorce is not easy, cheap, or fast, but what if you could make the process less stressful and more affordable? The key may be mediation. In today's episode, Founder and Host, Kimberlee Hoertz talks with Certified Family Law Specialist (state of California), Leann Kaufman about how mediation can provide a cost-friendly alternative solution for couples who are seeking to end their marriage. How Leann's experience in litigation nudged her toward becoming a mediator (02:15) Why you'd choose mediation over going to court (3:50) How long it takes to go the mediation route and what the process looks like(06:45) What payment arrangement(s) are generally made for mediation (14:05) Leann's pieces of advice include assembling your support system of friends, professionals, and family members. You need people in your life who can listen well, share resources, and lend a shoulder - some paid and some free. Another way to relieve some stress of divorce is to not be afraid to ask for help. Let the laundry pile up just one more day or bow out of carpool duty this week - It's okay. Find Leann Kaufman and a host of other vetted, trusted professionals so you can assemble your divorce support system easily at www.thegracefulexit.com Join Our Community: Instagram @The.Graceful.Exit Facebook @TheGracefulExit Pinterest @TheGracefulExitOfficial

Bill Eddy is returning to the Stay Young America Show today! He's the High Conflict Institute's co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer. He pioneered the High Conflict Personality Theory (HCP) and has become an expert on managing disputes involving people with high conflict personalities. He was the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center for 15 years, a Certified Family Law Specialist lawyer representing clients in family court for 15 years, and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker therapist with twelve years' experience. He serves on the faculty of the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine University School of Law in California and is a Conjoint Associate Professor with the University of Newcastle Law School in Australia. He has been a keynote speaker and trainer in over 30 U.S. states and 10 countries. In addition to authoring over twenty books, he writes a popular blog on PsychologyToday.com with over five million views. Today we're talking about his book The 5 Types of People that will Ruin Your Life. 2:09 What inspired you to write the book The 5 Types of People that will Ruin Your Life? 4:12 Division in the country 5:10 What's the difference between high conflict (HC) and personality disorders? The I'm Superior, You're Nothing Type The Love You, Hate You Type The Cruel, Con Artist Type The Highly Suspicious Type The Dramatic, Accusatory Type https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/ Check out The 5 Types of People that will Ruin Your Life here. “Executive Medicine Moment” At Executive Medicine of Texas we understand that true health can only be found when you treat the patient as a whole. That's why our Executive Physical Exams are second to none in the amount of testing and information we gather prior to making a wellness plan for our patients. Learn more about how you can take charge of your health at http://www.EMTexas.com Website: www.StayYoungAmerica.com Twitter: @StayYoungPod Facebook: @Stay Young America! Join us next time as we always bring you information you can use.

On the newest episode of We Chat Divorce we're joined by Erin Levine, Esq. to discuss DIY Divorce. Levine is a Certified Family Law Specialist, owner of Levine Family Law Group and Founder/CEO of Hello Divorce. Her innovative, disruptive approach to how Americans interact with the law makes her both a loved and feared force in the legal world. With her groundbreaking divorce navigator platform, she's revolutionizing the broken divorce process, making it affordable and available to everyone. Erin's access to justice work has been recognized by the legal industry and beyond, with awards and recognition from the likes of Women Founders Network, Forbes, Vice, and the American Bar Association.    Learn More >> https://hellodivorce.com/about/erin-levine/   Connect with Erin Levine, Esq. on LinkedIn >> @ErinLevine   The We Chat Divorce podcast (hereinafter referred to as the “WCD”) represents the opinions of Shanahan, Chellew, and their guests to the show. WCD should not be considered professional or legal advice. The content here is for informational purposes only. Views and opinions expressed on WCD are our own and do not represent that of our places of work.    WCD should not be used in any legal capacity whatsoever.  Listeners should contact their attorney to obtain advice with respect to any particular legal matter. No listener should act or refrain from acting on the basis of information on WCD without first seeking legal advice from counsel in the relevant jurisdiction. No guarantee is given regarding the accuracy of any statements or opinions made on WCD.    Unless specifically stated otherwise, Shanahan and Chellew do not endorse, approve, recommend, or certify any information, product, process, service, or organization presented or mentioned on WCD, and information from this podcast should not be referenced in any way to imply such approval or endorsement. The third-party materials or content of any third-party site referenced on WCD do not necessarily reflect the opinions, standards or policies of Shanahan or Karen Chellew.    WCD, SHANAHAN, AND CHELLEW EXPRESSLY DISCLAIM ANY AND ALL LIABILITY OR RESPONSIBILITY FOR ANY DIRECT, INDIRECT, INCIDENTAL, SPECIAL, CONSEQUENTIAL, OR OTHER DAMAGES ARISING OUT OF ANY INDIVIDUAL'S USE OF, REFERENCE TO, RELIANCE ON, OR INABILITY TO USE, THIS PODCAST OR THE INFORMATION PRESENTED IN THIS PODCAST.    Karen: Welcome to We Chat Divorce. Catherine and I are so happy today to welcome attorney and founder, Erin Levine to our podcast. Welcome Erin. Erin Levine: Thank you for having me. I always love talking and with both of you, I think it's going to be a great conversation today. Karen: I'm so excited. Thank you. Same for us. So in this episode, we're going to discuss insider tips on DIY Divorce. But first I'm going to take a couple minutes and introduce Erin. Erin Levine is a certified family law specialist. She's the owner of Levine Family Law Group and Founder, CEO of Hello Divorce. Erin's innovative, disruptive approach, I love that, to how Americans interact with the law makes her both a love and feared force in the legal world. With her groundbreaking divorce navigator platform, she's revolutionizing the broken divorce process, making it affordable and available to everyone.   Erin's access to justice work has been recognized by the legal industry and beyond with awards and recognition from the likes of Women's Founder Network, Forbes, Vice, and the American Bar Association. I also want to add Erin, congratulations on all the work you and your team have accomplished at Hello Divorce. It's a lot of hard work. We often see your name front and center in legal justice conversations. It's not a secret that the court system of handling divorces in America is in a word broken, and we applaud you for all that you're doing. Erin Levine: Thank you. Thank you. That was a beautiful introduction. I appreciate it. Karen: Well deserved. We can end the podcast now. That was awesome. So Erin… Catherine: Not to cut you off, but all anyone wants to hear is divorce, affordable, fast through your process. Awesome. Erin Levine: I hope, yes. I hope that we are really making efforts all of us collectively to make the process friendlier and simple and cheaper and being able to help people figure out when they should be spending money and when they should be saving it and all that good stuff. So, yeah, let's get to it. Let's talk about these tips and I'm really excited. Karen: Okay, let's go. So before we dive into the tips, can you tell our listeners a little bit about your story and journey that created the passion for the work you do and how the divorce. Erin Levine: Yes, absolutely. The vast majority of people divorce without a lawyer and whether you divorce with a lawyer or without, once you file that initial paperwork, you learn just how broken and impossible the system is to navigate. It is wildly inefficient. And the worst part about it is it sets people up to fight. You are filing a lawsuit. It says in many states, X versus Y. You are instructed to resolve conflict by going in front of a judge and throwing your spouse under the bus. Erin Levine: And so that style or that way that we divorce in this country always bothered me and always frustrated me and caused me great concerns for my clients, because the goal of divorce should always be to reorganize your life and your family in a way that makes the most sense for you, where you are setting yourself up for a best next chapter, not destroying everything that ever existed, not focusing on revenge or everything that went wrong in your marriage because your marriage wasn't a failure until you got to that point. For many years, it was a success and a lot of wonderful things came out of it. Erin Levine: And so with that, I became a family law attorney because of the concern I had around the system being broken and my own experience navigating the system as a late teen. And I built a law firm, I scaled it, at one time, had 10, 12 attorneys. And we were really doing a lot of great work litigating and negotiating and mediating contested divorces. But what kept on coming back to me is that piece of every time we won, that means somebody lost and that can be so devastating for a family. And I just kept coming back to the point that divorce doesn't have to be a zero sum game. There has to be a better way. So that's when I scaled way back my law firm and started to think through what a new company could look like.   And I founded Hello Divorce to create a platform that transforms the divorce experience into a friendlier, simpler, and cheaper alternative to battling it out in court. What we are primarily focused on right now is legal because everyone who has to get a divorce or everyone who's getting a divorce, excuse me, has to go through the legal process. So we want to make sure that we are helping with that first and foremost, but where we are ultimately going is to help people with many other things that come up throughout divorce, because it's not an event, it is a process and there's issues and all sorts of things that people help with before, during, and after divorce. So we're just starting to explore how we can help in other ways. And that started with our divorce support series that we launched last week. Yeah. So super exciting. Karen: Yeah. Awesome. Catherine: It's really exciting. As you know, Karen and I have seen the same struggles with the system. Why is it being done this way? And why are families being put through this process? And hearing back that it's the process, it's the system, it's just not good enough for us anymore. And I think the people going through divorce are getting smarter and wiser. It doesn't have to be that way and you hit it head on when you said when an attorney has to file for divorce, the other person is getting sued. I'm suing you for, or I want full custody. Some of that language I understand attorneys have no way around because that's the language, but if you can avoid going that route first, that's the best way to avoid that language. Erin Levine: Yes, absolutely. There are a million really well-intentioned lovely lawyers, but once you get yourself into that system, it is really hard to get out and lawyers when they are representing a client, have to follow all the rules. And like you said, sometimes that means using language like you're being sued or we're taking you to court. So to the extent that you can opt out of the system or at the very least set some ground rules with your spouse, or if you guys are represented with the lawyers to try to focus on resolution first, it doesn't mean there won't be conflict because there will always be conflict. That's just the nature of divorce. You've been married for a very long time. You can't unravel that overnight, but to the extent that it is possible to opt out the system, set ground rules or negotiate outside of the court system, that's what we're here for. Karen: I love that because I feel a lot of people, maybe most people are either looking for emotional justice or a divorce decree, or they think the moment they hire an attorney is the moment they can hands-off somehow you're going to deliver to me everything I want. And so all three of those are missed. I was just speaking with someone last week and she was just so passionate, just need a divorce, my husband is sending money overseas and he's created all this debt. I just need a divorce. And I said to her you know if you get a divorce and you haven't covered all that territory, you're worse off than you are today. And I don't think she realized that. I think she was just so focused on that divorce decree, that she doesn't even understand that there is a process and it doesn't necessarily have to include the litigation piece of it, but she had to take some steps to help herself. Erin Levine: Yes. And no wonder why she's confused. We have been told over and over and over again that there's two ways to do divorce either with the lawyer full representation, balls to the wall, we're going to litigate the heck out of this case or DIY you're on your own good luck. And what we have now learned is that there are so many other options and getting a divorce and feeling successful and feeling that you have that peace of mind that, hey, this wasn't perfect, but I made it through and I'm ready to really embark on my next best chapter doesn't necessarily include legal help. It can include financial health if that's what you need most, it can mean wellness support. There's so many different things. So we want people to take a step back and think about what do I need most, what am I most concerned about? And then take a look and see what those options are. It might be legal. It might not be. Karen: I love that. So on that note, Hello Divorce is recognized for disrupting the divorce industry. So can you tell the listeners a little bit about what Hello Divorce is doing? What is it that Hello Divorce is doing to set itself apart in the divorce industry to make a difference? Erin Levine: Absolutely. So we created a platform that helps people navigate the legal aspects of divorce. So what that means is in every state, you have lots and lots and lots of procedures, lots of forms that have to get prepared, filed, delivered to the court at appropriate intervals, served on your spouse, just to be able to get divorced. So even if you have a full agreement, you have to follow this path. And so what we've done is make it really easy to be able to do that. So you can use our software to not only prepare the forms that need to be filed with the court, but then also you can level up to obtain any of the services that you feel like you need or want to help you through. So our most popular product/service is DIY Pro. What that is, is you complete all of these questionnaires at your own time. Erin Levine: Yeah. Basically on your own time. And when you are done and you've completed each step, there are three steps, a divorce manager jumps in to give you some encouragement, to make sure all the forms are complete, to file them with the court, to coordinate with your spouse and to give you instructions on what comes next. And ultimately that divorce manager is going to ensure that everything gets done timely and properly. And so you are divorced on the schedule that you want it to be. Erin Levine: But we also understand that in a lot of cases, people need additional help. So we offer other services that include access to a lawyer for legal advice in increments of 30 minutes or more, or our cooperative divorce program, which includes both spouses and an awesome mediator. So you use our software to travel through, disclose your finances, prepare your legal forms, but you have a mediator who jumps in and helps you resolve any of the issues that might come up that you're stuck on. So that might be some child support. It might be dividing property, but whatever it is, he or she is there to really help you guys come to an agreement so we can get it down on paper and filed with the court. Karen: Well, excellent. Yeah. So on that note and because Hello Divorce seems to be doing it really well, currently explain why does divorce costs so much in America? What's going on? Erin Levine: So the average cost of divorce in the United States, according to USA Today ranges from between 18 and $25,000 per person if you have children. You would think it would be exponentially less if you don't have kids, but it's still well over the $10-$12,000 mark. So divorce is insanely expensive. And it's a combination of a few things. I think the minute that you lawyer up in that traditional sense, you are sending your spouse a message, even if it's just to protect your own interests, that message, that cultural message is you are in it to win it. And so I always tell our customers that if their spouse has hired a lawyer, it doesn't necessarily mean that. It's okay. And it's healthy for you emotionally, legally, financially to have a lawyer help you through a divorce. But one reason why divorce is really expensive is because A, people lawyer up, and there's that immediate fear and fear has us do really irrational things like sometimes respond by lawyering up with the most aggressive lawyer in town. Erin Levine: The other reason is just the complete inefficiency of the legal system and how dated it is. So as an example, there are many courts across the country, even in big cities, that to file a document, you have to have a fax machine, or even if you have a full agreement, you have to do 20-30 forms, especially with the pandemic. Even with online hearings, we see that courts are backed up if there's not an emergency or what they believe is an emergency, it could take you 3, 4, 5, 6 months, even a year before you get into court to resolve something as simple as a temporary order for child support. And then of course, lawyers are taught for the most part to win, and that's what they're paid for. And that's what you expect when you put a lot of money in and any time that it becomes a win/lose situation, we're going to spend thousands and thousands of dollars in court. So those are some of the really big reasons why divorce is incredibly expensive in this country. Catherine: And what's so frustrating about that is because that win is defined by what? So if you're the one going through divorce, your attorney may think they won, but did you really win in the end? And that's the [crosstalk 00:16:11] a lot of times we find that individuals do not understand the components of their marital estate and are not able to interpret that. So when it comes to making compromises and knowing what their options are, they can't do that. And so a win to them is not a win if they don't understand what they have and what they're going to do with it. So they're spending all this money on the system and then this process that isn't really working to their benefit, which is why people are so bitter after divorce, which is sad to me. Erin Levine: That's right. Unless there's an emergency, there's no reason why a lawyer should be jumping in and filing motions right off the gate. You cannot understand how to dissolve your marital contract, which really is a financial contract until you understand what you have. So the very first thing we should be doing preferably even before the divorce starts, but definitely early on is gathering data. Sometimes one spouse has far more access to that financial data than you do. And it doesn't necessarily mean that that spouse is bad. It could've just been the dynamics in your relationship, but one way or another, you have to have all that in front of you before you can make good decisions on what you're going to compromise on versus what is an absolute necessity for you. Erin Levine: And so that has to be the number one goal. What do we have, understanding what those assets are, understanding the ramifications around dividing them or transferring them or equalizing them. And then ultimately making a decision that comes from a place that is educated and informed. That's what I love about what you ladies are doing. It's just absolutely key. And I see a lot of spouses that are trying to rush their spouse to get things done. And ultimately that's just setting everyone up for failure. Catherine: Absolutely. If you take that pause and you're able to get that information, it's a matter of then just deciding where everything goes, instead of fighting over what everything is, then you can then hook into your system. And if you need that one-on-one with an attorney or if you need that mediation help, it's there for you. But then if you have all this data that you can make that decision, then you just need the paperwork to do it.   You don't need to sit in front of a judge. I can recall a client who came in, her husband was the judge. And so in finding out all the information and how he ran his financial household, I thought, hell if he was my judge and I was going through a divorce, I'd be mortified. He didn't know how to run his own household, let alone tell me what to do with my household. So there's a lot of that out there that you don't understand. So you're better off standing in your own estate here and figuring that out first. Erin Levine: Yeah, no, absolutely. And I think that that point it's going to resonate with a lot of people. And so I just want to expand on a little bit more. Earlier this week, we posted a quote from Adele that we found on E Entertainment news and it said something about how oftentimes when we see a woman get divorced, we picture them as spinning out of control. And she said, but I've never felt so peaceful in my life. And that is so powerful because I think we do that a lot, especially when women are divorcing in their 40's, 50's, or 60's. We as a culture look to them, oh, they're having a midlife crisis or oh something snapped, maybe it's menopause, but it's not okay. But really these women, because we're meeting them by the hundreds are more powerful and more clear than they've ever been in their life.   And they are choosing a path and it's so brave. And so for these women, I just want to remind you that wanting this information, wanting to be clear about what the finances are, wanting to make educated decisions is not being crazy. It's not being unreasonable. It's not being unfair. It's not being litigious. It's really making healthy, positive decisions for you and your family. And I say it because I've seen it a lot. I've done a lot of the mediation in our cooperative divorces. And I've seen it on both sides where one spouse is like, can't we just be done? What's the big deal? I told you how much is in that account. I told you what vested versus unvested means and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, putting a tremendous amount of pressure on the spouse who's new to the financial picture. And it's not unreasonable to want to be clear. In fact, not being clear could mean destroying your financial wellbeing. Catherine: If you say being clear. Being clear is powerful. That's probably the most power that you can give yourself in divorce. If you're clear about a decision that needs to be made, you're making a really smart decision. I say it all the time. Attorneys get their backs against the wall if their clients ask them a lot of questions. If you have an aggressive spouse that handled the finances and you ask a lot of questions, they feel like you're questioning them and they become very defensive.   So I always say, ask as many questions as you want. It's your right. Asking a question doesn't mean you're questioning somebody else. It's your right to have that power. And it'll never go regretfully that you have it to your next chapter as you say. Erin Levine: Yes, absolutely. Karen: I agree with that. Shifting the power out of other people's hands into your own is so powerful so that when your spouse is saying, I told you all this, you get to decide if you have enough information to verify that, and when your attorney or your mediator or some other professional, it doesn't even matter who says with all this money, do you know how many people would want to be in your shoes?   Well, that's for you to decide. That's not for anybody to decide for you. And so to your point, it's not coming from a place of revenge or a litigiousness or whatever it may be. It comes from a place of knowing. And when you can stand in that truth, you can make super good decisions for yourself and all of that emotion that you may have attached to different assets or whatever it may be just dissipates. Karen: And then if you do have to go into litigation, or if you're with a mediator or however you're choosing to move ahead, they have the best information and they have a clear client that they can best help you. And so that's why I love this approach to divorce, because it really does empower people to know the truth and make decisions based on it. Doesn't mean that you have to fight for every last dollar. It just means that you know what it is, and you get to decide what the compromise is. Erin Levine: Right. Absolutely. And that's the thing, you get to decide what a win is. And it might not be to fight for that extra $20 or $30 a month in child support that might not be worth it for your peace of mind. It just might not. Catherine: What I like about your process also is I always say, yeah, we need attorneys or mediators to help us in the process. Very few cases that you don't need some kind of touch point, but when you go through your process, it's when we need them and for how much time do we need them? And I like that you're able to streamline that process. I know that when we send somebody through our process and they have that financial clarity, yes, now they can go through your process and just connect with the other professionals as needed and then to a completion, in a doable way. Erin Levine: I don't want the lawyer to be the center of your case ever. They have a huge caseload. They have so many things that are going on in their lives. Only you know, what's best for you. You should have a lawyer there. Now my caveat of course is if you were in active litigation, having a lawyer on retainer in a full representation capacity is key if you can afford it and make it happen. But for 90% plus of the rest of the world, having a lawyer there when you need one is great, but they cannot be the center of your case. You need to be the center of your case. And so that's why as part of whether you're using our DIY, do it with you, or even do it for you packages that I really want people to start by thinking of their strategy, which might change and putting some really good ground rules in place, if possible. Can I expand a little bit on that? Erin Levine: So, I think the conversation around ground rules is really, really tough, especially if one of you have been thinking about divorce forever, and then finally said, I want a divorce. And the other spouse, it's really new to you, like you're just learning about the divorce. It kind of already starts feeling really unfair. And so having that ground rules conversation is really tricky. And sometimes it might not happen right on day one. But if you can at some point sit down, whether it's talking to your spouse directly, talking to your spouse with a third party, like a therapist or a religious leader, or maybe even texts or email if that feels more appropriate, but being able to say, hey, look, I know this is not ideal. I know neither one of us are happy that we are leaving this marriage, but ultimately this is what is going to happen. Erin Levine: And so let's talk about what we want this divorce to look like. Do we agree that we will do whatever it takes to stay out of court? Do we agree that we are going to put our kids first? Do we agree that we together will talk to our kids about the divorce? Do we agree that we are going to be open and transparent about sharing finances and coming up with an agreement that works for us versus what the judge tells us is in our best interests? The best thing that happens is you come out of that conversation with some real ground rules that you can always go back to. You could always remind your spouse. Look, I know you hate me right now, I know you're mad at me, but remember, we both believe that the best thing to do is to keep the money with us as opposed to lawyers. Erin Levine: But if that conversation doesn't go that well, then at least you've learned more about what your divorce might look like. If your spouse says, you know what, screw you, I'm taking you to court, you're going down, which is the most extreme, but let's just say that happens because I'm sure it happens quite a bit, then you know, okay, I needed to get my ducks in a row. This is not going to be easy. Maybe using the DIY at Hello Divorce is not going to meet my needs. Maybe I need to talk to a lawyer. And at that point we have tons of resources on Hello Divorce that can help you choose the best legal help for you, the best financial help for you as well. So when you're thinking about DIY or you're thinking about how am I going to do this divorce? I always think it's a great idea to start with that initial conversation. Catherine: Well, those ground rules and those questions you ask, whether it comes out to be a good conversation or not, it's a realistic conversation. And what I see it as doing, bringing to the forefront of what some possible problems could be. So you're starting off with not a filing of I'm suing you, you're suing me. You're starting off with listen, we're going to agree to put the kids first. And even though you might be saying, shit, he's not going to put the kids first, he never put the kids first, but at least you're putting it out there. You're both saying we're going to agree to that. So you can have all those negative feelings going on in your mind, but you're actually agreeing to at least acknowledge that these issues are coming up. We see a lot in our platform and we provide that unbiased space to share financial data. Catherine: A lot of stuff happens in there. They're saying, I'm not giving you that data because he's not letting me have my kids for the weekend. So I'm not giving that data. You see a lot of this playing with the information, but at least I always feel like it's healthy because we give them that time to kind of blow off that steam rather than going to an attorney to start and say, I want to get them for everything that they have, I'm going after everything, when you don't even really know what everything is. So then they can go and do a DYI because they have all of this information and they blew off some of that steam and they're aware of that. So yeah, I think it's a great option and a much healthier option. Erin Levine: Yeah, absolutely. And not all the ground rules have to be really stressful and big questions. It could be as simple as one of us is going to have to carry this forward and do a lot of the paperwork or the heavy lifting, which one of us is better at doing that, which one's more committed to following through on things like that? And so it could be simple and other things like how are we going to communicate? When are we going to communicate about divorce-related issues? Because I don't know about you, but I don't want this divorce to take over my life. It's already a really big deal. So can we say that when we're with the kids and we're having dinner or whatever situation it is that we're not going to chat about divorce. We're going to leave that for X time or X day. But that can be really helpful too. Karen: Yeah. I love that. Love that so much. So last tip here, processing a divorce online. Am I frozen? Catherine: You're back. Karen: Okay. Erin, processing a divorce online can seem daunting to some individuals. How does Hello Divorce help their clients feel safe, secure and well-represented? Erin Levine: Well, part of what we do is really provide clarity, transparency into the process and a clear roadmap from how to get from point A to point B. So instead of using the legal terms or showing you the legal forms, we are explaining to you along the way, we are giving you questionnaires that ask questions in plain English that you can understand so that you're actually not even seeing the forms until they've already been populated. And you have gone through the analysis. So that's a little bit confusing and that it sounds like it's a long time between filling out the questionnaire and getting the forms. You actually get them instantaneously as soon as you're done, but not until you've already gone through the questionnaire and the process. The other thing that we really do is make ourselves available. We understand that software is super helpful. Erin Levine: Technology is incredibly amazing and we lack that big time in the legal profession. And so to have that available to consumers, people love that, but divorce is major. Major on a emotional, financial, and legal level. And so we make ourselves available to help, whether that's asking questions on our chat bot, if you're a DIY pro member above, you always have a divorce manager that you know you can go to and ask questions and connect with. And then also having lawyers and mediators available when necessary or when you think it will be helpful. We have loads of resources breaking down really big concepts into smaller, more digestible downloads. Everything from a list of all the settlement terms that you should consider negotiating to templates for co-parenting plans and a divorce worksheet to get yourself organized and make sure you're not missing anything when you ultimately go to negotiate that final agreement. Erin Levine: The other thing that we do is break divorce down into three steps. So the court might say there's a hundred steps or your lawyer might not have even organized the divorce into steps. But what we've done is we've broken it into three steps designed to help not just get through the legal process as quickly and easily as possible, but also to help with your morale and to help you feel like you're making progress. So step one and step two, really have to do with filing the divorce paperwork, especially if you're in a state with a waiting period, because we want you to get that waiting period going and getting your financials out. If you've been able to do those two things, then you're two-thirds done. You can look at your spouse and say, hey, we're getting close to the finish line. Erin Levine: And you have been able to cooperate to do what many believe is the hardest part. The last step is coming to an agreement and getting that agreement down in paper to file it with the court. And by the time people get to step three, it doesn't feel quite as emotional or scary. They've been able to get the resources that they need from the site. They've been able to use our software and get comfortable with it. So they're really set up to get through that final step and on with their life. So we're always changing, iterating on our product based on the data that we get from thousands and thousands of users, which is exciting too because we can then take that data and use it to our advantage to create an even better product for our consumer, our clients. Karen: That's fantastic. Catherine: Awesome. Karen: I'm inspired to say the least. So Erin, how can our listeners and viewers find you at Hello Divorce? I think it's fairly obvious, but it's good to just put it out there just in case it's not. Erin Levine: Yeah. So we're at hellodivorce.com. Our handle is @HelloDivorce. I would encourage anyone who's feeling like they need some extra motivation, community or tips to follow us on Instagram @HelloDivorce. You can find me on LinkedIn and Twitter. My name is Erin Levine, L-E-V-I-N-E. Karen: This concludes our conversation with Erin Levine on DIY Divorce. We really valued our conversation with Erin and look forward to more conversations in the future. If you enjoyed this episode be sure to subscribe and leave a review. We love to hear your feedback!

Our guest today is Bill Eddy, he walks us through the different situations you may face when you´re mediating with a narcissist. How do you negotiate with someone in good faith who lives to see you lose? That's what it's like negotiating with a Narcissist. Bill and Rich talk about the qualities of Narcissists and how to win while they win. Bill Eddy is the co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer of the High Conflict Institute in San Diego, California. He pioneered the High Conflict Personality Theory (HCP) and has become an expert on managing disputes involving people with high conflict personalities. He was the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center for 15 years, a Certified Family Law Specialist lawyer representing clients in family court for 15 years, and a licensed clinical social worker therapist with twelve years of experience. He serves on the faculty of the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine University School of Law in California and is a Conjoint Associate Professor with the University of Newcastle Law School in Australia. He has been a speaker and trainer in over 30 U.S. states and 10 countries. He is the author or co-author of twenty books, including two award-winners, and has a popular blog on the Psychology Today website with over 4.0 million views. Read more about relationships on our blog. Follow us on social media: Facebook Instagram Pinterest

No one knows more about how to calm people in a crisis than Bill Eddy.  A psychologist and a lawyer, he has dedicated his life and career to dealing with people in high conflict situations and giving people real tools and easy to remember resources to use to be able to manage disputes in a way that makes their lives easier.  In this episode he talks about how to co-parent with narcissists, how to diffuse conversations in texts, emails, or in person.  Whether this is at work, a personal situation or wherever you're dealing with a high conflict personality, this is a must listen episode.   More About Bill Eddy:  Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. is High Conflict Institute's co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer. He pioneered the High Conflict Personality Theory (HCP) and has become an expert on managing disputes involving people with high conflict personalities. He was the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center for 15 years, a Certified Family Law Specialist lawyer representing clients in family court for 15 years, and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker therapist with twelve years' experience. He serves on the faculty of the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine University School of Law in California and is a Conjoint Associate Professor with the University of Newcastle Law School in Australia. He has been a keynote speaker and trainer in over 30 U.S. states and 10 countries. In addition to authoring over twenty books, he writes a popular blog on PsychologyToday.com with over five million views. Grab Bill's book Calming People with EAR right here:   https://amzn.to/2UHE1nQ Grab Bill's book  BIFF for CoParent Communication: Your Guide to Difficult Texts, Emails and Social Media Posts  https://amzn.to/3D6PaQu  Grab Bill's book The 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life: Identifying an Dealing with Narcissists, Sociopaths and Other High Conflict Personalities  https://amzn.to/3B9WZDm    THIS WEEK'S SPONSOR INFORMATION:   Soberlink is a comprehensive alcohol monitoring system. Combining a breathalyzer with wireless connectivity, Soberlink automatically documents proof of sobriety in real-time, which gives clients a sense of accomplishment while rebuilding trust with others. Features Adaptive Facial Recognition technology Technology to detect physical tampers Real-time text message reminders and Alerts Customizable scheduling Automated reporting options Get an exclusive $50 off your device by emailing info@soberlink.com and mentioning Negotiate Your Best Life Grab your free resource guide RIGHT HERE! ____________________________________________________________________ For more information on REBECCA ZUNG, ESQ. visit her website www.rebeccazung.com and follow her on Instagram: @rebeccazung and YouTube! GRAB YOUR FREE CRUSH MY NEGOTIATION PREP WORKSHEET RIGHT HERE!  SUBSCRIBE TO MY YOUTUBE CHANNEL RIGHT HERE.  Grab a copy of Rebecca's book, Negotiate Like You M.A.T.T.E.R.: The Sure Fire Method to Step Up and Win (foreword written by Robert Shapiro).   It went straight to being a #1 bestseller the first day it was launched!  Find out what everyone is so excited about - get the book RIGHT HERE!  To get your copy of Rebecca's bestselling book, Breaking Free: A Step by Step Guide to Achieving Emotional, Physical and Spiritual Freedom, please visit the Amazon website to order it RIGHT HERE.   

Navigating complex and tense conversations can easily result in emotional grenades being tossed across the room and little to nothing being resolved.  Today we speak to Bill Eddy, well known for his work in the high conflict area  about How to Effectively Communicate When Tensions Run High.   Bill talks to us about his latest book, “Calming Upset People with EAR” an acronym for Empathy, Attention and Respect. Bill's EAR tool is designed to help in HC conversations and with HC personalities.  While at first the thought of showing Empathy, Attention and Respect to someone who has caused you pain seems counterintuitive and perhaps counter productive, as you listen to Bill explain the power and impact of this simple approach to tense conversations, you will be tempted to give it a try!   Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. is High Conflict Institute's co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer. He pioneered the High Conflict Personality Theory (HCP) and has become an expert on managing disputes involving people with high conflict personalities. He was the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center for 15 years, a Certified Family Law Specialist lawyer representing clients in family court for 15 years, and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker therapist with twelve years' experience. He serves on the faculty of the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine University School of Law in California and is a Conjoint Associate Professor with the University of Newcastle Law School in Australia. He has been a keynote speaker and trainer in over 30 U.S. states and 10 countries. In addition to authoring over twenty books, he writes a popular blog on PsychologyToday.com with over five million views.   Request a Free Jump Start Call at https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/jumpstart   For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

Divorcing a narcissist may seem like an impossible, uphill battle, but thanks to high-conflict experts like Bill Eddy, LCSW & Esq., there are ways to to make the impossible much more possible. In this episode of Moms Moving On, we are joined again by Bill Eddy from the High Conflict Institute. We not only discuss how to divorce a narcissist, we also cover how to handle the divorce process with a narcissist, how to co-parent with a narcissist, and how to take your emotional power back, so that you can have a happily ever after without your narcissist ex-spouse meddling in your life. We also discuss his new book, Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder and how much value it can bring to the life of somebody trying to navigate the divorce process with a narcissist. Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. is the co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer of the High Conflict Institute in San Diego, California. He pioneered the High Conflict Personality Theory (HCP) and has become an expert on managing disputes involving people with high conflict personalities. He was the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center for 15 years, a Certified Family Law Specialist lawyer representing clients in family court for 15 years, and a licensed clinical social worker therapist with twelve years' experience. He serves on the faculty of the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine University School of Law in California and is a Conjoint Associate Professor with the University of Newcastle Law School in Australia. He has been a speaker and trainer in over 30 U.S. states and 10 countries. He is the author or co-author of twenty books and has a popular blog on the Psychology Today website with over 4.0 million views. Randi Kreger has brought the concerns of family members who have a loved one with BPD to an international forefront through her website, www.bpdcentral.com, and the Welcome to Oz online support community. Through Eggshells Press, she offers family members a wide variety of more specialized booklets and other materials. She was also instrumental in the formation of the Personality Disorders Awareness Network (PDAN), a not-for-profit organization. Kreger is author of The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook and The Essential Family Member Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder. She speaks and gives workshops about BPD internationall Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

0:56 About Bill: Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. is High Conflict Institute's co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer. He pioneered the High Conflict Personality Theory (HCP) and has become an expert on managing disputes involving people with high conflict personalities. He was the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center for 15 years, a Certified Family Law Specialist lawyer representing clients in family court for 15 years, and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker therapist with twelve years' experience. He serves on the faculty of the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine University School of Law in California and is a Conjoint Associate Professor with the University of Newcastle Law School in Australia. He has been a keynote speaker and trainer in over 30 U.S. states and 10 countries. In addition to authoring over twenty books, he writes a popular blog on PsychologyToday.com with over five million views. 2:37 Who needs this? 2:55 Why this book? What was the inspiration  5:06 How's the EAR technique different from reflective or active listening?  7:02 Can these EAR statements be used on everyone?  8:58 Dr.Anderson have you used these techniques on upset patients? 10:22 The importance of empathy in today's world.  12:03 It needs to be sincere 14:43 Catching other people's emotions 17:00 Can you use humor with the EAR technique? 18:17 How can we calm ourselves using EAR techniques?  21:13 Gifting the book “Executive Medicine Moment” At Executive Medicine of Texas we understand that true health can only be found when you treat the patient as a whole. That's why our Executive Physical Exams are second to none in the amount of testing and information we gather prior to making a wellness plan for our patients. Learn more about how you can take charge of your health at http://www.EMTexas.com  Website: StayYoungAmerica.com  Twitter: @StayYoungPod  Facebook: @Stay Young Media, LLC      

Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. is High Conflict Institute's co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer. He pioneered the High Conflict Personality Theory (HCP) and has become an expert on managing disputes involving people with high conflict personalities. Utilizing a proven method for defusing antagonistic interactions, Eddy will discuss how to address a variety of potentially contentious situations involving angry customers, clients, and patients. Following the success of his previous books, 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life and Why We Elect Narcissists and Sociopaths, Eddy's latest title is sure to resonate with those seeking to manage high-conflict situations. Utilizing a proven method for defusing antagonistic interactions, Eddy shows readers how to address a variety of potentially contentious situations, including family conflicts, workplace disputes, neighbor and stranger confrontations, emotional political discussions, and circumstances involving angry customers, clients, and patients. Bill Eddy was the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center for 15 years, a Certified Family Law Specialist lawyer representing clients in family court for 15 years, and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker therapist with twelve years experience. He serves on the faculty of the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine University School of Law in California and is a Conjoint Associate Professor with the University of Newcastle Law School in Australia. He has been a keynote speaker and trainer in over 30 U.S. states and 10 countries. In addition to authoring over twenty books, he writes a popular blog on PsychologyToday.com, with over five million views. For more on Bill Eddy, visit www.highconflictinstitute.com.

Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. is High Conflict Institute's co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer. He pioneered the High Conflict Personality Theory (HCP) and has become an expert on managing disputes involving people with high conflict personalities. Utilizing a proven method for defusing antagonistic interactions, Eddy will discuss how to address a variety of potentially contentious situations involving angry customers, clients, and patients. Following the success of his previous books, 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life and Why We Elect Narcissists and Sociopaths, Eddy's latest title is sure to resonate with those seeking to manage high-conflict situations. Utilizing a proven method for defusing antagonistic interactions, Eddy shows readers how to address a variety of potentially contentious situations, including family conflicts, workplace disputes, neighbor and stranger confrontations, emotional political discussions, and circumstances involving angry customers, clients, and patients. Bill Eddy was the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center for 15 years, a Certified Family Law Specialist lawyer representing clients in family court for 15 years, and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker therapist with twelve years experience. He serves on the faculty of the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine University School of Law in California and is a Conjoint Associate Professor with the University of Newcastle Law School in Australia. He has been a keynote speaker and trainer in over 30 U.S. states and 10 countries. In addition to authoring over twenty books, he writes a popular blog on PsychologyToday.com, with over five million views. For more on Bill Eddy, visit www.highconflictinstitute.com.

Did you know that there is a proven method for defusing antagonistic interactions - or to put it simply, how to calm upset people? Today's special guest, clinical social worker and veteran mediator Bill Eddy, is here to explain to us what he shares in his upcoming book, Calming Upset People with E.A.R.: How Statements Showing Empathy, Attention, and Respect Can Quickly Diffuse a Conflict; how to address a variety of potentially contentious situations, including family conflicts, workplace disputes, neighbor and stranger confrontations, emotional political discussions, and circumstances involving angrey customers, clients and patients. Bill Eddy is a High Conflict Institute's co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer. He pioneered the High Conflict Personality Theory (HCP) and has become an expert on managing disputes involving people with high conflict personalities. He was the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center for 15 Years, a Certified Family Law Specialist lawyer representing clients in family cour for 15 year, and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker therapist with twelve years experience. Bill has been a keynote speaker and trainer in over 30 U.S. states and 10 countries. In addition to authoring over twenty books, he writes a popular blog on Psychology Today.com with over five million views.

Sometimes with a high-conflict ex-spouse, it feels like you just can't win. Like no matter how hard you try, you'll still be fighting forever. Like you could have just stayed married if you were still going to deal with this much drama. That's where Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. comes in. As the founder of the High Conflict Institute and with years of dealing with high-conflict individuals under his belt, there is no better resource for how to co-parent with your high-conflict ex-spouse. Personality disorders like narcissism and borderline personality disorder are what Bill knows best, so if your ex fits that category, you're in the right hands. Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. is High Conflict Institute's co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer. He pioneered the High Conflict Personality Theory (HCP) and has become an expert on managing disputes involving people with high conflict personalities. He was the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center for 15 years, a Certified Family Law Specialist lawyer representing clients in family court for 15 years, and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker therapist with twelve years' experience. He serves on the faculty of the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine University School of Law in California and is a Conjoint Associate Professor with the University of Newcastle Law School in Australia. He has been a keynote speaker and trainer in over 30 U.S. states and 10 countries. In addition to authoring over twenty books, he writes a popular blog on PsychologyToday.com with over five million views. Check out the amazing books we reference in this episode, here.

Certified Family Law Specialist and the Divorce Authority, Dayn Holstrom, discusses why it is so important to co-parent amicably for the best interest of the child. For more information visit DivorceAuthority.com.

This week we sit down with Family Practice Lawer, entrepreneur and author Craig Candelore.  Craig has a long list of credentials and he's had an incredibly eventful life. We had the opportunity to take a dive into some of the things he does and that he's working on, but we definitely have to have him back to go more in depth with his upcoming projects.Mr. Candelore is the founding attorney at the Men's Legal Center, and he has been providing legal help to clients who have needed assistance in the area of family law for close to 30 years. Mr. Candelore earned his Bachelor's of Science degree from West Point before earning a Master's degree in System Management from the University of Southern California. Mr. Candelore earned his Juris Doctorate degree from the University of San Diego School of Law, where he graduated Cum Laude.Mr. Candelore is a Certified Family Law Specialist and a professional mediator trained by National Conflict Resolution Center, San Diego.Mr. Candelore served in the military, both active and reserves, ultimately earning the rank of Colonel from the United States Army. Mr. Candelore deployed on active duty overseas during Operation Desert Storm and Operation Iraqi Freedom. Some of his duty assignments included working as a Regional Senior Law Enforcement and Anti-Terrorist Officer, stateside during and after 9-11; and Iraqi Police Development Project Officer, in Iraq. Mr. Candelore also has served as a translator at the United Nations and enjoys writing books in his spare time.Thanks For watching this weeks podcast!Thank you to our sponsor Coach Kim Yeater. If you are feeling stuck and want to get unstuck, reach out to Coach Kim for a complimentary strategy session. It's okay to be stuck, but its not okay to stay stuck. Go to:Calendly.com/KimYeater and schedule today!

Certified Family Law Specialist and the Divorce Authority, Dayn Holstrom, breaks down what domestic violence is and what it means for your divorce. For more information visit DivorceAuthority.com.

Stacy D. Phillips This week Ivy Slater, host of Her Success Story, interviews her guest, celebrity divorce attorney and author of: Divorce: It's All About Control (How to Win the Emotional, Psychological and Legal War), Stacy D. Phillips about owning what you do best, leadership, mentorship, and relationships.  In this episode, we discuss: The importance of making a difference in your work The value of doing what you do best Being the master of your own destiny The differences between leadership and mentorship The Women's Leadership Summit How developing relationships in a firm grows and develops a business Advice for up-and-coming leaders for tomorrow Stacy D. Phillips is a Certified Family Law Specialist and one of the country's most well-known and respected family law practitioners, having achieved virtually every honor available to a lawyer for her work. She is also an author (including "Divorce: It's All About Control – How to Win the Emotional, Psychological and Legal Wars", ExecuProv Press), sought-after commentator, speaker and writer, philanthropist, and a tireless advocate for children and families. Throughout her career, she has given back through active involvement as a leader and volunteer in community and nonprofit organizations, as well as multiple professional associations. At Blank Rome, Ms. Phillips represents a wide variety of high-profile and celebrity clients as they undergo the significant and often difficult changes involved in divorce and custody issues. After more than 30 years of practice, she continues to believe in a philosophy she often shares with her clients: “How we treat others, how we conduct ourselves and how we communicate during difficult times, can alter the course of one's life.” Website: https://www.blankrome.com/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/blank-rome-llp/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/blankromellp 

https://thelawcollaborative.com/ https://thelawcollaborative.com/learning-center/family-law-court-forms/ https://thelawcollaborative.com/learning-center/events/ Ronald M. Supancic has practiced Family Law exclusively since 1970. Ron was admitted to the Supreme Court of the United States on October 15, 1975. He has been certified by the California Bar Association Board of Legal Specialization as a Family Law Specialist since the inception of that certification program in 1980. Ron has handled hundreds of contested dissolutions, child custody cases, disputed post-marital proceedings, alimony cases, and prenuptial agreements. He has served as a Mediator and as a Judge Pro Tem with the Los Angeles County Superior Court since 1976. Ron holds an AV rating with the Martindale Hubbell Law Register. The ‘A' signifies the highest level of legal ability, while the ‘V' denotes ‘very high' adherence to the professional standards of conduct, ethics, reliability and diligence. Ron has been voted one of L.A.'s Super Lawyers by a jury of his peers in Los Angeles Magazine every year since 2006. At a special ceremony, Ron was honored by the California State Bar for 30 years of service as a Certified Family Law Specialist. Sponsors: https://InjuryAttorneyLeads.com http://hundredsofcustomers.com/rocket

Laura Landesman is an attorney specializing in Family Law. She is a partner at her firm based in Los Angeles, where she works on prenuptial agreements, postnuptial agreements and divorce agreements, mostly for celebrity clients. She has been a Certified Family Law Specialist for over 20 years and was one of the first of many women to pursue a legal career in the US. Listen in for some female power and wisdom! -- Style Yourself eBook: stylehernowbysamsimon.com/e-book - Learn to be your own Personal Stylist! Instagram: @Style_Her_Now Website: stylehernowbysamsimon.com

This week we are discussing how to communicate with a high-conflict co-parent. Joining me is my guest Bill Eddy. Bill is an attorney, therapist, mediator, author, and the co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer of the High Conflict Institute. He pioneered the High Conflict Personality Theory (HCP) and is a leading expert on managing disputes involving people with high conflict personalities. Bill is also the author of BIFF™: Quick Responses to High-Conflict People, and the just-released, BIFF For Coparent Communication. If you are in any kind of high-conflict situation, you need this book. Seriously.  During our conversation, Bill shares his expertise along with tips and techniques to help maneuver difficult co-parent texts, emails, and social media posts. Whether you are in a high-conflict co-parent situation or simply co-parenting with an ex, this episode is full of valuable information you can put to use immediately. Show Highlights High-conflict personalities and keeping high-conflict divorce out of the courtroom. How Bill developed the method of communication he uses in high-conflict situations. Why it is important to be brief when writing emails or written correspondence with a co-parent.  Why you should avoid labeling a co-parent as a blame speaker, high-conflict person, or as someone who has a personality disorder. Plus, what you can do instead.  Some techniques to help turn a high-conflict situation around or at least defuse one. The art of learning how and when to take a PAUSE. How to get information to a co-parent, in a friendly tone, and then end the conversation.  Learn More About Bill: Bill Eddy is an attorney, therapist, mediator, author, and the co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer of the High Conflict Institute. He pioneered the High Conflict Personality Theory (HCP) and is a leading expert on managing disputes involving people with high conflict personalities. He was the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center for 15 years, a Certified Family Law Specialist lawyer representing clients in family court for 15 years, and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker therapist with twelve years’ experience. He serves on the faculty of the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine University School of Law in California and is a Conjoint Associate Professor with the University of Newcastle Law School in Australia. He has been a speaker and trainer in over 30 U.S. states and 10 countries and is the author or co-author of sixteen books (as of 2020) and has a popular blog on the Psychology Today website with over 4 million views. Resources & Links: High Conflict InstituteBill on Instagram High Conflict Institute on Facebook The Thrive Fund

Most of the time, when divorces go horribly wrong it’s because we’re afraid of the unknown and what’s on the other side. As a result, we lawyer up to protect ourselves, but by doing that we’re only fueling the fire. The truth is, far too many divorces end up messy because we put lawyers at the center of the process, instead of seeing them as just one piece in a complicated puzzle. How can we stop our divorces from becoming more acrimonious than they need to be? If lawyers are only one piece of the puzzle, who else should we be looking to for support? In this episode, Founder and CEO of Hello Divorce, Erin Levine shares how to make divorce an empowering experience.  And to sign up for my FREE Summit, Beyond Divorce: Learn the Secrets to Move Forward Joyfully, Find Forgiveness and Experience Peace airing LIVE February 23rd @ 8:30am PT / 11:30am ET click here: https://www.wendysterling.net/beyonddivorce   Three Things You’ll Love About This Episode    How irrationality leads to messy divorces: When our actions come from a place of fear, it's easy to slip into irrationality. Take a breath and focus on responding, rather than reacting when difficult issues arise. How to get divorced without hiring a lawyer: We tend to think of lawyers as synonymous with divorce, but they don't need to be. If we can mediate through legal assistants or even a social worker, we can start the process from a more amicable, less aggressive foundation. The key thing to remember when going through a difficult divorce: Many times, we’re so anxious to be done with the divorce process that we’re willing to do anything to speed it up. However, we have to resist that urge. Don’t risk losing something important for the sake of short-term relief.    Guest Bio: Erin Levine is a legal innovator, entrepreneur, speaker, and Certified Family Law Specialist. In addition to owning Levine Family Law Group, she is the Founder and CEO of Hello Divorce, an award-winning online platform that makes divorce easier, cheaper, and less stressful. Her mission is to change the conversation around divorce -- making the legal process transparent and the experience empowering, so you are set up for a positive co-parenting relationship and a happier, healthier next chapter. Erin’s legal technology and access to justice work has been recognized by the legal industry and beyond - with recent press features in Above the Law, Brit+Co, Forbes, Mind Body Green, LawSites, and Entrepreneur. Recent accomplishments include the American Bar Association‘s James I Keane Memorial Award for Excellence in E-lawyering and Duke University School of Law’s Legal Tech Accelerator - Grand Prize.   To find out more, go to:www.hellodivorce.com  Social Handles: https://twitter.com/hellodivorce?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor https://www.instagram.com/hellodivorce/?hl=en https://www.facebook.com/pg/hellodivorce/posts/    And for the $50 off Coupon mentioned in this episode, use the code: WENDY

This week on Maximum Mom your host Elise Buie joined Erin Levine, a legal innovator, entrepreneur, speaker and Certified Family Law Specialist. She is the CEO and Founder of Oakland based boutique firm, Levine Family Law Group. In 2018 Erin launched Hello Divorce, an award winning online DIY web platform that helps self represented folks navigate the divorce process on their own or with some legal help along the way. Erin's legal technology and access to justice work has been recognized by the legal industry and beyond - with recent press features in Above the Law, Brit+Co, Forbes, Mind Body Green, LawSites and Entrepreneur. Recent accomplishments include the American Bar Association‘s James I Keane Memorial Award for Excellence in E-lawyering and Duke University School of Law's Legal Tech Accelerator - Grand Prize.Follow Erin:Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, LinkedInWatch the interview here.To keep on maximizing your firm, stay connected!Facebook GroupFacebook PageYouTube channelLinkedInGuild

Host Bart Zandbergen was joined in the virtual studio by Courtney Shepard of Burch Shepard Family Law Group. Courtney has earned a reputation as an aggressive and passionate advocate for her clients. She exclusively practices family law and has been declared a Certified Family Law Specialist by the State Bar of California Board of Legal Specialization. She has successfully litigated cases involving issues of child custody, child support, same sex marriages, spousal support, and attorney fees, and recently completed a nationally-recognized Trial Advocacy program which focused extensively on the litigation of child custody, support and complex business matters. In this episode, Bart and Courtney discuss how family law has been impacted by COVID as well as what the common myths about family law are. In this episode learn: - How COVID has impacted Family Law proceedings - How child and spousal support rulings have been impacted by COVID - How COVID has reshaped custody arrangements for many - Common Family Law Myths When asked what her ultimate lesson learned has been in her career, Courtney shares, “Sad, but true – not everyone tells the truth. It's important to trust, but it is critical to verify everything.” To learn more about Courtney Shepard and Burch Shepard Family Law Group, visit: www.ocdivorce.net The Zandbergen Report, where wealth strategies and investment wisdom collide, is led by host Bart Zandbergen, and is LIVE every Tuesday at 2pm on OC Talk Radio. The show is also available on iTunes, iHeartRadio, Spotify and Stitcher. Interested in being a guest on The Zandbergen Report? Email podcast@bartzandbergen.com. Learn more about Bart by visiting www.BartZandbergen.com NO OFFER OR SOLICITATION: The contents of this podcast episode: (i) do not constitute an offer of securities or a solicitation of an offer to buy securities, and (ii) may not be relied upon in making an investment decision related to any investment offering Axxcess Wealth Management, LLC, an SEC Registered Investment Advisor. Axxcess does not warrant the accuracy or completeness of the information contained herein. Opinions are our current opinions and are subject to change without notice. Prices, quotes, rates are subject to change without notice. Generally, investments are NOT FDIC INSURED, NOT BANK GUARANTEED and MAY LOSE VALUE. Brokerage services are offered through Tessera Capital, Member FINRA.  

Host Bart Zandbergen was joined in the virtual studio by Courtney Shepard of Burch Shepard Family Law Group. Courtney has earned a reputation as an aggressive and passionate advocate for her clients. She exclusively practices family law and has been declared a Certified Family Law Specialist by the State Bar of California Board of Legal Specialization. She has successfully litigated cases involving issues of child custody, child support, same sex marriages, spousal support, and attorney fees, and recently completed a nationally-recognized Trial Advocacy program which focused extensively on the litigation of child custody, support and complex business matters. In this episode, Bart and Courtney discuss how family law has been impacted by COVID as well as what the common myths about family law are. In this episode learn: - How COVID has impacted Family Law proceedings - How child and spousal support rulings have been impacted by COVID - How COVID has reshaped custody arrangements for many - Common Family Law Myths

In this episode Susan Guthrie is honored to speak with a pioneer in the field of family and divorce mediation and truly the leading name in the business, Forrest "Woody" Mosten, who shares his experience and expertise to help listeners have a successful mediation process. Divorce mediation continues to grow in popularity as an avenue to work through the issues of a divorce, but there are still questions in many people's minds about how it all works and whether mediation can be a successful process for their case.  This week's guest, Forrest "Woody" Mosten has been mediating family matters since 1979 as one of the pioneers in the field.  He has written all the leading books on mediation, collaborative divorce, unbundled legal services and teaches and trains students around the world in the practice.  He is truly a legend in the field and he brings his decades of experience and expertise to the fore to answer some of the most frequently asked questions about mediation and his tips to help YOU have a successful mediation process! Some Highlights From the Episode   Woody shares: Why even high conflict cases should consider mediation. Why you might want to hire a your mediator BEFORE your attorney. What it means to be "divorced obsessed." What the first three questions you should ask a potential attorney are. What other professionals you might want to consider for your "divorce team." and MUCH, MUCH MORE! This is your opportunity to hear from the best of the best so be sure to download and listen to this episode today! More About This Week's Very Special Guest:  Forrest "Woody" Mosten has been in private mediation practice since 1979. Mr. Mosten is in constant demand as a master trainer for basic courses, advanced courses, individual supervision for practicing mediators, conflict resolution professionals, and training other conflict resolution trainers. He is popular presenter at conferences throughout the world. In addition to his work as a neutral, Mr. Mosten maintains an active practice as a family lawyer representing clients in divorce, pre-marital agreements, and complex issues in property, support, and parenting issues after divorce. The California State Bar has recognized Mr. Mosten as a Certified Family Law Specialist. Mr. Mosten does not accept engagements that involve court appearances. He practices with a collaborative and problem solving model and has trained Collaborative Lawyers throughout the world and serves as a negotiation and mediation consultant for other family litigators. Mr. Mosten has been named Super Lawyer by Los Angeles Lawyer Magazine and as one of the top 25 Family Mediators in California by the Los Angeles Daily Journal. Mr. Mosten has been given two major awards by the American Bar Association: A Lifetime Achievement Award for Innovations in Legal Access by the ABA Section of Delivery of Legal Services; and the Lawyer as Problem Solver Award by the ABA Section on Dispute Resolution. His innovations in mediation and legal access have been reported in the Los Angeles Times, the Wall Street Journal, USA Today, Business Week, The New York Times, the Los Angeles Daily Journal, the Chicago Tribune, the ABA Journal and many other publications throughout the world. You can reach Mr. Mosten through his website at www.mostenmediation.com or by calling him at (858) 999-0009. Mr. Mosten's books can be purchased through his website mostenmediation.com or on Amazon. The two books mentioned in this episode are:      Collaborative Divorce Handbook: Helping Families Without Going to Court      The Complete Guide to Mediation: The Cutting-Edge Approach to Family Law Practice   Susan and Woody's Upcoming Professional Trainings Mentioned in the Episode:      Advanced Mediation Training:  November 12 - 14, 2020      40-Hour Family & Divorce Basic Mediation Training:  January 26 - February 4, 2021 ********************** SUSAN GUTHRIE, ESQ., the creator and host of The Divorce and Beyond Podcast, is nationally recognized as one of the top family law and divorce mediation attorneys in the country.  She is one of the Co-Chair's of the American Bar Association's DR Section Mediation Committee and is the Founder of Divorce in a Better Way which provides a curated selection of resources and information for those facing divorce and other life changes.  Susan has created a website of curated resources for those facing divorce.  Find out more at www.divorceinabetterway.com. ***************************************************************************** THE LEARN TO MEDIATE ONLINE ACADEMY:  www.learntomediateonline.com LEARN TO MEDIATE ONLINE:  THE LEARN TO MEDIATE ONLINE TRAINING PROGRAM IS NOW AVAILABLE AS AN ONLINE COURSE!!  As one of the leading online mediation experts in the country, Susan Guthrie has created a simple and efficient online training program that allows mediation professionals to quickly and easily add an online platform to their practice!  The two hour online program covers the basics of conducting mediations through an online platform like Zoom, and reviews the ethical and practical considerations that arise in this format.  You even receive a copy of, and the right to use, Susan's Online Mediation Guidelines and Ground Rules to make your online mediations even easier for mediator and clients alike!  More than 15,000 professionals have benefited from one of Susan's trainings!  You can find the program at https://learntomediateonline.teachable.com/p/learn-to-mediate-online-training-program or just go to the website www.learntomediateonline.com! 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Are you stuck sheltering in place and now your divorce seems to be stuck too?   Are you looking for ways to move your divorce forward during this global pandemic?   Erin Levine, CEO and creator of Hello Divorce, and founder of the Levine Family Law Group, shares several ways that you can be keeping the momentum flowing even while courts are closed.  The process of divorce can be complicated and there is a lot that can be done even while you are waiting for the world to re-open.   Erin gives real world steps and advice that can help you get unstuck and move forward starting today.   More About Erin "I’ve spent 15 years advising clients, litigating, negotiating and mediating contested and cooperative divorces, and running a respected boutique family law firm in the Bay Area.  And while I have received all the certifications, accolades and awards* that any family lawyer would strive for, I became disillusioned with the system that routes every divorce through court, pitting spouse against spouse. Not being one to shy away from a challenge and being comfortable as the “underdog,” I set out to create an online, ethically compliant, divorce. Hello Divorce has become the convenient, efficient, divorce option for (ex) couples who want to transition out of relationship without the expense and drama ordinarily associated with divorce.  *Certified Family Law Specialist, California State Board of Legal Specialization, 2019 Reisman Award for Legal Innovation (Clio), 2014 -2019 Super Lawyer, 2018 Duke Law & Tech Accel. Grand Prize, 2019 American Bar Association “Women in Tech,” 2019 Women Founders Network “Top Ten”, 2019 “FastCase 50”, 2020 James I Keen Memorial Award for Excellence in eLawyering" _______________________________________________________________________________________________________________ THIS WEEK'S SPONSOR INFORMATION:   For more information, and to sign up for your free account with our Sponsor, visit HELLO DIVORCE.  Find out about their DIY option, which provides you with your own legal document assistant who will take you through the process from start to finish and even their on-call attorneys whose time can be purchased in 30-minute increments!  Hello Divorce has all the options to help you with an affordable, convenient and low-stress divorce!  Visit them at www.hellodivorce.com and be sure to tell them you heard about them on NEGOTIATE YOUR BEST LIFE WITH REBECCA ZUNG! GET $50 OFF ANY HELLO DIVORCE SERVICE WITH THE CODE:   HELLO50 ____________________________________________________________________ For more information on REBECCA ZUNG, ESQ. visit her website www.rebeccazung.com and follow her on Instagram: @rebeccazung and YouTube! GRAB YOUR FREE CRUSH MY NEGOTIATION PREP WORKSHEET RIGHT HERE!  SUBSCRIBE TO MY YOUTUBE CHANNEL RIGHT HERE.  HOT NEWS!  Make sure to grab a copy of Rebecca'a BRAND NEW BOOK, Negotiate Like You M.A.T.T.E.R.: The Sure Fire Method to Step Up and Win (foreword written by Robert Shapiro).   It went straight to being a #1 bestseller the first day it was launched!  Find out what everyone is so excited about - get the book RIGHT HERE!  To get your copy of Rebecca's bestselling book, Breaking Free: A Step by Step Guide to Achieving Emotional, Physical and Spiritual Freedom, please visit the Amazon website to order it RIGHT HERE.      Rebecca also is available for keynote speeches, and speaks around the country on "How to Successfully Negotiate With a High Conflict Personality" and "Win Any Negotiation in Just 6 Steps".   _______________________________________________________________________________________________________________ CONTACT US:  rebecca@rebeccazung.com WEBSITE:   www.negotiateyourbestlifepodcast.com ........................................................................................................................ Remember to follow THE NEGOTIATE YOUR BEST LIFE PODCAST on social media for updates and inside tips and information: Instagram Finally, we'd really appreciate it if you would visit iTunes and give us a 5 Star Rating and tell us what you like about the show - your feedback really matters  DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN LEGAL ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.  

This week Erin Levine, entrepreneur, legal innovator, and Certified Family Law Specialist, joins me on the podcast. She’s here to help close out Legal Month. (Don’t worry, I'll surely be revisiting legal topics in the future!) Erin is the founder of Hello Divorce, a modern breakup service, offering affordable, convenient, and online divorce options. I'm thrilled to have Erin on the show. Most of the world is in some form of lockdown right now. It feels like life is at a standstill for many. As I discussed a few weeks ago, you may be stuck and isolated with the person you have either asked for a divorce or were in the midst of divorce proceedings already.  So, now what? Do all the legal proceedings and preparation stop? Well, no.  In fact, in this episode, Erin shares several divorce planning strategies you can do while in the middle of a global pandemic. You can keep moving forward, even during times of uncertainty. In fact, the actions you take today can help you to feel empowered. Times feel scary and anxious right now, but you can still gain power, grow, and stretch yourself in meaningful, new ways.  Show Highlights Be aware of divorce legal companies' scams or misrepresentations. (7:11) How to know whether you should pause divorce proceedings or continue to move forward during a pandemic.  (9:14) Now is an excellent time to reflect: Sometimes we need to sit back, take a deep breath, look at the facts and decide: was the settlement proposal previously made in my best interest? (11:00) If you don’t have anything hammered out, it’s important to put a temporary order in place, even just to get you through this period. (12:47) Get organized: see what it is you have, what you don't have, and what you need to get in order. (14:00) Get educated: what do you need to do in your state, and what does the entire divorce procedure look like where you’re located? (16:00) Meet with a legal coach or a certified divorce financial analyst. (22:00) How to know when you should slow the process down and take a break. (30:11) Learn More About Erin Levine:Erin Levine is an entrepreneur, legal innovator, and Certified Family Law Specialist. She is the founder and CEO  of Levine Family Law Group and Hello Divorce, a “modern breakup service” offering an affordable, convenient, and online divorce option. Erin is also the co-founder of Love & Real Life, a platform designed to empower women by helping them to craft postnuptial and prenuptial agreements that comport with their values and way of life. Her awarding winning legal technology and access to justice work has been recognized by the legal industry and beyond – with recent features in Above the Law, Forbes, Entrepreneur, Ozy, Brit + Co,  and Mind Body Green.   Resources & Links: Erin’s websiteErin on InstagramErin on Twitter Erin on PinterestErin on FacebookErin on LinkedIn The Ultimate Divorce Survival GuideShould I Stay or Should I Go Facebook Group

Many Millennials are at a point in their lives where they're thinking about having or are already having babies.  The thought of having children while managing a full workload as a lawyer can be stressful because, lets face it, being a parent is a full time job on its own.  So if you're considering starting a family, are currently pregnant, or already have a kiddo, what can you be doing right now to best prepare yourself for parenthood while also running your law practice? I'm joined by Family Law attorney and Certified Family Law Specialist in Redondo Beach, Ca, Lovette Mioni. Lovette runs her own law practice and along with her husband, is raising two young children. She joins me to talk about how having children affected her business and changed her view of how she wanted to practice. She talks to me about what she had to do to prepare her assistant and those she worked with to carry on with office work while she was on leave and what she did to manage her client's expectations while she was unavailable. Contact Information: Mionifamilylaw.com A huge thank you goes to our show sponsor Abby Connect, the live receptionist service loved by small businesses.  Get your 2-week free trial and $95 off your first month at http://abbyconnect.com/genwhy Thanks for Checking Out the Show Notes and for Listening! I really hope you enjoyed this episode. I would really appreciate it if you shared this episode with a friend who could benefit from listening to this particular episode.  A special thanks to our sponsors Abby Connect. If you haven't already, please don't forget to subscribe to the GWL Podcast in Apple Podcasts or in Stitcher Radio. That way, every time I prepare a new episode for you, it'll automatically show up in your phone.

In this podcast, Josh Woodburn, a Certified Family Law Specialist by the Texas Board of Legal Specialization, answers common questions about the divorce process in Texas. Hosted By: Diana Shepherd, Editorial Director, Divorce Magazine and Family Lawyer Magazine Guest Speaker: Josh Woodburn, Certified Family Law Specialist in Amarillo, Texas https://www.amarillofamilylaw.com/ Divorce Magazine's Podcasts are available on iTunes. Click here to subscribe.

For many lawyers with innovative ideas for their practices, those ideas rarely get a chance to blossom because of certain restraints in the ethics rules, unfortunately. If you’re looking to implement new services or develop legal products and are unsure of what the ethics rules allow or disallow, you’ll truly enjoy this conversation. More importantly, you’ll learn how you can work through your fears of violating the ethics rules to cultivate your genius idea.  Joining me today is Erin Levine, a Certified Family Law Specialist and CEO of HelloDivorce, an online platform that empowers individuals contemplating divorce with step-by-step guidance and affordable access to lawyers. What We Discuss in This Episode: Why is it that the ethics rules hinder our progress and innovation in the legal profession? Lawyers might be risk-averse but that’s because we aren’t taught to take risks in law school and aren’t encouraged by the ethics rules to do so either How the lack of outside funding and non-lawyer ownership affected Erin’s business’s ability to grow Has the distinction between companies who offer legal services and those who don’t become meaningless? Should lawyers have to look for loopholes in the ethics rules in order to develop their intended products/services? The impact of the inability to accept investment funds Why you should pay attention to the user experience and customer service as a lawyer What can we learn from the legal systems of other countries when it comes to outside investment in legal companies? Are there any changes to the ethics rules on the horizon that might allow for outside investment funding? Contact Information:  HelloDivorce Erin's law firm website Thank you for listening! Don’t forget to SUBSCRIBE to the show to receive every new episode delivered straight to your podcast player every Tuesday. If you enjoyed this episode, please help me get the word out about this podcast. Rate and Review this show in Apple Podcasts, Stitcher Radio, Google Play, and Tunein and be sure to share this podcast with a friend. Be sure to connect with me and reach out with any questions/concerns: Facebook LinkedIn Website Email me at megan[at]zaviehlaw[dot]com This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not to be construed as legal advice specific to your circumstances. If you need help with any legal matters, be sure to consult with an attorney regarding your specific needs.

If you divorced someone with a high-conflict personality, you may be concerned about repeating the same cycle in your next partnership. What steps can you take to reflect on the dynamics of your relationships and develop radar for people with high-conflict personalities? An international expert on managing disputes involving high-conflict personalities, Bill Eddy is the co-founder and Training Director of the High Conflict Institute. In addition, he is a Certified Family Law Specialist and Senior Family Mediator with the National Conflict Resolution Center in San Diego. Bill has written several books, including Dating Radar: Why Your Brain Says Yes to ‘The One’ Who Will Make Your Life Hell and 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life: Identifying and Dealing with Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other High-Conflict Personalities. Today, Bill joins Katherine to share the four warning signs for people with high-conflict personalities. He explains how high-conflict people can jam your radar with fake compatibility and how to leverage your friends and family for insight. He addresses why you should finish grieving the loss of a previous relationship before committing to new one, describing the danger in using a relationship to feel okay about yourself. Listen in to understand why people commit to relationships with high-conflict personalities despite the red flags, how to identify behaviors exhibited by high-conflict people, and how to manage high-conflict personalities if you can’t avoid them entirely. Topics Covered The four warning signs for people with high-conflict personalities All-or-nothing thinking Unmanaged emotion Extreme behavior Preoccupation with blaming others How high-conflict people can jam your radar with fake compatibility The value in asking friends and family for their insight on your partner Why you must finish grieving a loss before committing to a new relationship Why Bill recommends waiting at least a year before committing to marriage The reasons why people commit to relationships despite red flags The five types of high-conflict people who can ruin your life Narcissists, sociopaths, borderline, histrionic and paranoid The extreme behaviors exhibited by people with high-conflict personalities How to manage high-conflict people if you can’t avoid them altogether Connect with Bill Eddy High Conflict Institute: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/ National Conflict Resolution Center: https://www.ncrconline.com/ Resources Dating Radar: Why Your Brain Says Yes to ‘The One’ Who Will Make Your Life Hell by Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/bookstores/dating-radar 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life: Identifying and Dealing with Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other High-Conflict Personalities by Bill Eddy: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/bookstores/5-types-of-people-who-can-ruin-your-life Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.com Call (914) 738-7765 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller Email katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.com Call (914) 738-7765

Learn how to heal and reclaim your self-worth after a toxic relationship! My guest, Cindy Lee Cannon, Attorney at Law and Certified Family Law Specialist, shares tips on how to become “you” again after an abusive relationship. These relationships can be with spouses, girlfriends, boyfriends, parents, siblings, co-workers or friends. Survivors of these relationships are often left with post-traumatic-stress disorder, and it can be difficult to see a light at the end of the tunnel. But rest assured, you CAN heal from this and you CAN reclaim your self-worth! Show notes are below: [0:45] Episode introduction and disclaimer [4:00] Cindy's background with family law and helping people leave abusive relationships. [8:30] Cindy's experience dealing with a traumatic childhood. Why do these relationships cause PTSD? [11:08] Cindy's steps for recovering your self-worth after a toxic relationship. [18:30]Maintaining limited contact when you share custody of children. [21:07] How to forgive yourself and heal from shame. [24:50] Forgiving your abuser

Bill Eddy is a lawyer, therapist, mediator and the President of High Conflict Institute. He developed the "High Conflict Personality" theory (HCP Theory) and has become an international expert on managing disputes involving high conflict personalities and personality disorders. He provides training on this subject to lawyers, judges, mediators, managers, human resource professionals, businesspersons, healthcare administrators, college administrators, homeowners’ association managers, ombudspersons, law enforcement, therapists and others. He has been a speaker and trainer in over 25 states, several provinces in Canada, Australia, France and Sweden. As an attorney, Bill is a Certified Family Law Specialist in California and the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center in San Diego. Prior to becoming an attorney in 1992, he was a Licensed Clinical Social worker with twelve years’ experience providing therapy to children, adults, couples and families in psychiatric hospitals and outpatient clinics. He has taught Negotiation and Mediation at the University of San Diego School of Law for six years and he is on the part-time faculty of the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine University School of Law and the National Judicial College. He is the author of numerous articles and several books, including: High Conflict People in Legal Disputes, It’s All YOUR Fault! 12 Tips for Managing People Who Blame Others for Everything, SPLITTING: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and BIFF: Quick Responses to High Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email and Social Media Meltdowns. He is also the developer of the “New Ways for Families” method of managing potentially high conflict families in and out of family court. He is currently developing a method for managing potentially high conflict employees titled “New Ways for Work.” Key Takeaways: [1:45] What a high conflict person is, and the 4 key characteristics they have [4:35] If Steve Jobs was a high conflict person, and how he managed it successfully [8:35] The CARS method in a nutshell [13:55] How lawyers can sometimes harm the resolution of cases [18:00] How to communicate with high conflict people (including lawyers) in a way that doesn't raise the ante but is still effective [20:40] The app Jason loves to use because going from written word to voice erases a lot of tension and error [23:50] How the state of the media companies are harming us Website: www.highconflictinstitute.com

Traditionally, alternative dispute resolution methods like mediation and collaborative divorce are seen as a good fit for couples who are civil to each other and simply need a professional to support them in the legal aspects of the process. But Bill Eddy argues that the non-adversarial processes are crucial for high-conflict people navigating divorce. Bill Eddy is a lawyer, therapist, mediator and the co-founder and Training Director of the High Conflict Institute. He has become an international expert on managing disputes involving high-conflict personalities and personality disorders, and he provides training on the subject to professionals all over the world. Bill is a Certified Family Law Specialist and the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center in Sand Diego. He is the author of several books, including High Conflict People in Legal Disputes, Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and BIFF: Quick Responses to High-Conflict People. Today, Bill sits down with Katherine to explain why high-conflict people need a non-adversarial divorce process. He shares the benefits of consulting a lawyer during the mediation process and the significance of going into alternative dispute resolution with a focus on the future. Bill describes what is involved in his pre-mediation coaching as well as his approach to mediation when a restraining order is involved. Listen in for Bill’s insight on communicating with high-conflict people and finding a lawyer who supports mediation and the collaborative divorce process. Topics Covered Why high-conflict people need a non-adversarial divorce process • Court escalates adversarial thinking • Gives rise to false allegations, abuse How high-conflict people are more sensitive to feeling attacked The benefit of consulting a lawyer during the mediation process The value of a divorce financial analyst in alternative dispute resolution How informed consent serves as the key to a non-adversarial process What’s involved in Bill’s pre-mediation coaching How Bill handles mediation when a restraining order is involved How collaborative teaches high-conflict couples communication skills How parenting plans can be structured around limited contact in extreme cases How the self-doubt people feel during divorce is exacerbated by lack of respect The techniques Bill recommends for communicating with high-conflict people • EAR—empathy, attention and respect • BIFF—brief, informative, friendly and firm (i.e.: email, Facebook) Why Bill suggests finding a lawyer who will support mediation/collaborative divorce Connect with Bill Eddy High Conflict Institute: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/ National Conflict Resolution Center: https://www.ncrconline.com/ Resources New Ways for Families: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/new-ways/ BIFF: Quick Responses to High-Conflict People by Bill Eddy: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/bookstores/biff How to Write a BIFF Response DVD: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/bookstores/how-to-write-a-biff-response-dvd Coaching for BIFF Response DVD: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/bookstores/coaching-for-biff-response Our Family Wizard: https://www.ourfamilywizard.com/directory/high-conflict-institute Is Divorce Mediation for You? DVD: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/bookstores/is-divorce-mediation-for-you-dvd High Conflict People in Legal Disputes by Bill Eddy: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/bookstores/high-conflict-people-in-legal-disputes-2nd-edition Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder by Bill Eddy: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/bookstores/splitting-protecting-yourself-while-divorcing

Ronald J. Baker founder of VeraSage Institute, the leading think tank dedicated to educating professionals internationally. As a frequent speaker, writer, and educator, his work takes him around the world. He has been an instructor with the California CPA Education Foundation since 1995 and has authored fifteen courses for them, including: How to Build a Successful Practice with Total Quality Service; The Shift From Hourly Billing to Value Pricing;  He is the author of six books, including: Professional's Guide to Value Pricing; The Firm of the Future: A Guide for Accountants, Lawyers. William D. Bishop Divorce and Family Law Attorney.  Certified Family Law Specialist with the State Bar of Arizona. Selected as one of Arizona's Finest Attorneys.  Managing partner of the law firm Bishop & Martin Law Office. DJ Waldow is an email marketing consultant, writer, blogger, speaker, and co-author of The Rebel's Guide to Email Marketing. He is the founder and CEO of Waldow Social, a company that helps make email marketing go from boring to WOW. DJ has spent nearly 8 years in the email, social, and community-building world, advising clients on how to optimize their email marketing campaigns and--on occasion--break some of the “best practice” rules.  Shannon Liss-Riordan lawyer who represents employees, especially low wage workers, in class action litigation involving wage violations, including overtime, minimum wage, and tip-related violations, and isclassification of employees as independent contractors.  She represents employees throughout the country.     

Heartwarming, dream come true, and a family reunion.  These are but a few words that ring true, and bring tears of sadness and happiness. Family law attorney Ron Supancic shares his touching and personal story of his parents divorce and subsequent remarriage almost 30 years later; and the profound impact it has had on his life.  This is a first for Ron, as he has never publically shared his family story, and we were honored and privileged to have heard it first – and be able to share it with our special listeners.  This episode of The Smart Divorce is not to be missed.  It’s a true Hollywood story with an ending that many children of divorce can only dream of, a parent’s reunion after many years of divorce.  There are so many life lessons that Ron teaches us; how he has become a wounded healer, uses the talking stick, what it means to develop your mission statement for divorce.  There is much to learn – tune in to hear this powerful story of encouragement and hope.  A few highlights from Ron’s story ………•    Parent’s divorced when he was only 9 years old, a time when divorce was a rare event. •    Although abandoned by his biological father, they reunited 10 years later when Ron enlisted and served as a Lieutenant Commander in the U.S. Navy's Judge Advocate General's Corp.•    Ron’s mother’s question…..and how the answer reunited the family.•    How determination and perseverance shaped Ron’s career as family law attorney helping clients see their divorce as a healing opportunity for transformation. Ron Supancic has been voted one of L.A.'s Super Lawyers by a jury of his peers in Los Angeles Magazine every year since 2006. At a special ceremony held last September, Ron was honored by the California State Bar for 30 years of service as a Certified Family Law Specialist.  Ron is a frequent guest on radio and television, where he advocates Collaborative Divorce and Mediation, as well as other innovative approaches to resolve family conflict. Author of three books, When All Else Fails: The Real Cost of Ending a Marriage, Win-Win Custody Solutions, and California Family Law: A Layman's Guide, Ron offers his clients the newest choices in family law. His commitment is to advocate for his client's rights in a climate of integrity, dignity and respect. To contact Ron, visit his website at www.thelawcollaborative.com Don’t forget, LIKE us on our Facebook pages, The Smart Divorce and Divorce Source Radio.  Join the community!

A Massachusetts court orders a man to pay child support for twin girls, born through In-vitro fertilization and with donor sperm and eggs, even though he was estranged from his wife at the time of conception. Is this fair? With the rise in IVF treatments, there are more and more cases across the country with complicated custody matters. Lawyer2Lawyer co-hosts and attorneys, Bob Ambrogi and Craig Williams join Attorney Maureen McBrien from the firm, Todd & Weld LLP and Certified Family Law Specialist and trial attorney Violet P. Woodhouse, to explore the legal issues surrounding in-vitro fertilization, custody rights and family law.