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Have you ever felt completely stuck trying to make a decision after betrayal — even when you're doing everything “right”? Stay or go. Try again or walk away. Trust your gut… or question it endlessly. After betrayal, even wise, thoughtful decisions can feel impossible to make. Not because you're broken — but because your nervous system is trying to keep you safe. In this episode of FLAUNT!, Lora Cheadle unpacks why decision-making feels so overwhelming after betrayal, how perfectionism and self-blame sneak in when outcomes don't match expectations, and why freeze is a trauma response — not a personal failure. Using a powerful personal story, relatable examples, and trauma-informed insight, Lora reframes what it really means to “choose wisely” and introduces discernment as the missing language betrayed women were never given. You didn't lose your ability to decide. Your system is responding intelligently to uncertainty. Top 3 Takeaways Decision paralysis after betrayal is a nervous system response, not a flaw When expectations collapse, the brain looks for certainty. Freeze is a survival strategy — not proof you can't trust yourself. New information doesn't turn a wise decision into a mistake A decision made with care and discernment deserves respect, even if the outcome changes later. Self-trust isn't about being right — it's about staying with yourself Real self-trust means knowing you won't abandon yourself when things evolve, unravel, or feel uncertain. Favorite Quotes “You didn't choose wrong. You exercised discernment — and the story kept unfolding.” “Self-trust isn't about being right. It's about knowing you won't abandon yourself when things change.” “New information doesn't retroactively make you wrong.” “Blaming yourself isn't truth. It's an attempt to feel powerful again after uncertainty.” About Lora Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a former attorney turned betrayal recovery coach, hypnotherapist, and author who helps women rebuild their identity and reclaim their power after infidelity and profound emotional betrayal. Using her signature Life Choreography® approach, she integrates legal insight, nervous system regulation, somatic practices, and deep spiritual support to help clients move from shattered to sovereign. Resources & Links Download the free Betrayal Recovery Guide: https://betrayalrecoveryguide.com Book your $97 Intro Session: https://introductorysession.com Learn more about Rise & Reign: https://loracheadle.com/rise-and-reign Follow on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook @loracheadle LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Download your FREE Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit and take back your power with clarity, confidence, and support that meets you where you are. ✅ Calm the chaos ✅ Rebuild self-trust ✅ Stop the spiral of second-guessing ✅ Reclaim your worth and your future
Today we're answering a question I get all the time:“Can I count collagen toward my daily protein?”Because if you've ever tried to hit something like 1 gram of protein per pound of desired body weight, you know this:It feels hard at firstIt's unfamiliarAnd people look for shortcutsSo collagen comes up a lot.It's marketed as protein. It's easy to drink. It feels “healthy.”But here's the honest answer:Collagen is not a muscle-building protein. But it is a useful tool—when used correctly.Today we're doing a full collagen masterclass:What collagen is (and isn't)Whether it counts toward protein goalsWhat it's actually good forHow to use it properlyCommon mistakes and misuseAnd how to combine it with a smart protein strategyLet's break it down.Resources:Brain.fm App(First month Free, then 20% off subscription)Discount Code: coachdamiensdCaldera Lab Skin Carewww.calderalab.comDiscount Code: CoachDLinks:IG:@coachdamien_sd@damienrayevans@livinthedream_podcast YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCS6VuPgtVsdBpDj5oN3YQTgFB:https://www.facebook.com/coachdamienSD/
Attachment theory is everywhere right now — anxious, avoidant, fearful, secure — but after infidelity, simply understanding your attachment style doesn't stop the emotional whiplash. In this powerful episode, Lora Cheadle is joined by Bryan Power, a Certified Integrated Attachment Theory Coach, for an honest, grounded conversation about how attachment wounds actually show up after betrayal — and what it really takes to heal them. Together, they break down the four attachment styles, explore why betrayal hits attachment at its core, and walk through the six pillars of Integrated Attachment Theory — practical tools that move you from survival and confusion into clarity, safety, and secure connection. This episode goes beyond theory. You'll learn why insight alone doesn't regulate the nervous system, how subconscious wounds drive behavior, and what helps betrayed partners stop feeling “crazy” when triggers hit — without excusing betrayal or bypassing accountability. If you've ever thought, “I know what's happening — so why does it still hurt this much?” — this episode is for you. Top 3 Takeaways Knowing your attachment style doesn't equal healing You can name your pattern perfectly and still panic when your partner withdraws. Healing happens through felt safety, not logic alone. Betrayal exposes unhealed attachment wounds — in both partners Infidelity doesn't come from nowhere. It often reveals deep subconscious beliefs around safety, abandonment, worth, and betrayal that were never healed. Secure attachment is built — not born Through the six pillars of Integrated Attachment Theory — core wounds, needs, emotions, boundaries, communication, and behavior — couples can move toward safety, clarity, and conscious connection. Favorite Quote “Attachment wounds don't heal through understanding. They heal through safety — again and again — in real time.” About Bryan In 2024 Bryan Power and his wife would go from having a pretty good relationship to a complete relationship failure. That failure culminated with a restraining order his wife would put against him for her emotional safety. During that breakup time, Bryan would discover the Integrated Attachment Theory Program that would ultimately provide him with the insights and tools necessary to put their relationship back together. Now Bryan uses his inspirational story, personal insights and the integrated attachment theory program to teach others how to use their breakup the get the breakthroughs they have been looking for. Resources & Links https://www.myrelationshipfail.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/bryanwpower/ https://www.youtube.com/@myrelationshipfail https://www.instagram.com/myrelationshipfail/ About Lora Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a former attorney turned betrayal recovery coach, hypnotherapist, and author who helps women rebuild their identity and reclaim their power after infidelity and profound emotional betrayal. Using her signature Life Choreography® approach, she integrates legal insight, nervous system regulation, somatic practices, and deep spiritual support to help clients move from shattered to sovereign. Resources & Links Download the free Betrayal Recovery Guide: https://betrayalrecoveryguide.com Book your $97 Intro Session: https://introductorysession.com Learn more about Rise & Reign: https://loracheadle.com/rise-and-reign Follow on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook @loracheadle LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Download your FREE Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit and take back your power with clarity, confidence, and support that meets you where you are. ✅ Calm the chaos ✅ Rebuild self-trust ✅ Stop the spiral of second-guessing ✅ Reclaim your worth and your future
The Real Reason Betrayal Feels Like an Emotional Roller Coaster (What to Do About It) One minute you're steady. Clear. Even hopeful. And the next minute you hear their name… see a movie scene… hit an anniversary… and you're right back on the floor wondering, What is wrong with me? Nothing is wrong with you. In this episode, I break down the real reason betrayal feels like an emotional rollercoaster—and why those swings don't mean you're failing. You'll learn the difference between knowledge (understanding what happened) and integration (your nervous system actually living from safety again), why relief can feel like healing (even when it isn't), and what it truly takes to calm the spirals for good—so you can stop questioning your progress and start rebuilding steady self-trust. Top 3 Takeaways Feeling better isn't the same as being healed. Insight can bring real relief—but relief can masquerade as completion. That “aha” moment is knowledge… not integration. Triggers don't mean you're back at square one. Hearing the affair partner's name, seeing a text, watching a movie scene—those reactions aren't proof you're broken. They're proof your body is still learning safety. Integration is where healing actually happens. Healing lives in your moment-to-moment responses: how you regulate, what you say, what you choose, and how you show up when your system is activated. Who This Episode Is For Women who feel steady one day and wrecked the next, and don't understand why Listeners who've read the books, binged the podcasts, gone to therapy… and still feel “better only sometimes” Anyone who keeps thinking, “Why am I still triggered?” and wants a grounded explanation that doesn't pathologize them Favorite Quote “Calm is not the same as change. Knowledge lives in the mind—integration lives in the body.” LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Get your free downloadable guide on the “The Top Three Ways You Betray Yourself Every Day, and How to Stop” at www.burnoutorbetrayal.com. https://workplace-burnout.com/the-top-3-ways-you-betray-yourself-every-day-and-how-to-stop/ If you're ready to Rise Up & Reign as the creator and queen of your life, let's talk. I will walk by your side and give you the perspective, permission, and wisdom needed to turn your betrayal experience into something constructive, empowering, and transformative in all the right ways. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, TEDx speaker, and author of FLAUNT! and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal. After uncovering her husband's 15-year affair, she turned her own pain into purpose—helping high-achieving women reclaim their identity, power, and joy. A trauma-aware coach, somatic therapist, and former attorney, Lora blends legal insight with emotional and spiritual healing for full-spectrum recovery. She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT READY TO START A BETTER CHAPTER? Step into the future you've always dreamed of with the power of transformative rituals with the Mindful Subscription Box. Get a monthly box full of crystals, aromatherapy, and other spiritual tools worth $120. You deserve high-quality gems, crystals, oils, and mindfulness tools for self-care that truly work. It's a monthly dose of self-love delivered right to your door! Go to www.Mindfulsouls.com and use Discount Code LORA25 for 25% off your order!
One minute you're steady. Clear. Even hopeful. And the next minute you hear their name… see a movie scene… hit an anniversary… and you're right back on the floor wondering, What is wrong with me? Nothing is wrong with you. In this episode, I break down the real reason betrayal feels like an emotional rollercoaster—and why those swings don't mean you're failing. You'll learn the difference between knowledge (understanding what happened) and integration (your nervous system actually living from safety again), why relief can feel like healing (even when it isn't), and what it truly takes to calm the spirals for good—so you can stop questioning your progress and start rebuilding steady self-trust. Top 3 Takeaways Feeling better isn't the same as being healed. Insight can bring real relief—but relief can masquerade as completion. That “aha” moment is knowledge… not integration. Triggers don't mean you're back at square one. Hearing the affair partner's name, seeing a text, watching a movie scene—those reactions aren't proof you're broken. They're proof your body is still learning safety. Integration is where healing actually happens. Healing lives in your moment-to-moment responses: how you regulate, what you say, what you choose, and how you show up when your system is activated. Who This Episode Is For Women who feel steady one day and wrecked the next, and don't understand why Listeners who've read the books, binged the podcasts, gone to therapy… and still feel “better only sometimes” Anyone who keeps thinking, “Why am I still triggered?” and wants a grounded explanation that doesn't pathologize them Favorite Quote “Calm is not the same as change. Knowledge lives in the mind—integration lives in the body.” About Lora Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a former attorney turned betrayal recovery coach, hypnotherapist, and author who helps women rebuild their identity and reclaim their power after infidelity and profound emotional betrayal. Using her signature Life Choreography® approach, she integrates legal insight, nervous system regulation, somatic practices, and deep spiritual support to help clients move from shattered to sovereign. Resources & Links Download the free Betrayal Recovery Guide: https://betrayalrecoveryguide.com Book your $97 Intro Session: https://introductorysession.com Learn more about Rise & Reign: https://loracheadle.com/rise-and-reign Follow on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook @loracheadle LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Download your FREE Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit and take back your power with clarity, confidence, and support that meets you where you are. ✅ Calm the chaos ✅ Rebuild self-trust ✅ Stop the spiral of second-guessing ✅ Reclaim your worth and your future
Here's a little-known truth about nutrition: some foods aren't just healthy — they become even more powerful when combined with the right teammate.Think of it like the Avengers. Iron Man is great. Captain America is strong. But when they come together? Whole different level.Today, we're diving into synergistic food pairings — combos that work together to amplify health benefits, boost absorption, and unlock nutrients your body can't get alone.We're also talking about combo mistakes that might be stealing those gains.This is not about making things complicated. This is about working smarter, not harder — in the kitchen and in your body.Resources:Brain.fm App(First month Free, then 20% off subscription)Discount Code: coachdamiensdCaldera Lab Skin Carewww.calderalab.comDiscount Code: CoachDLinks:IG:@coachdamien_sd@damienrayevans@livinthedream_podcast YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCS6VuPgtVsdBpDj5oN3YQTgFB:https://www.facebook.com/coachdamienSD/
The Moment Everything Breaks: Why Betrayal Isn't the End of Your Story The moment you find out—the text, the confession, the lie collapsing in real time—can feel like the defining moment of your life. The shattering. The before and after. But what if that moment isn't your identity… and it's not your story? What if it's a threshold—where illusion collapses so you can finally choose truth, agency, and who you become next? In this episode, Lora Cheadle reframes discovery day (D-Day) as a threshold moment—not the event that defines you, but the doorway that returns you to truth. Betrayal is destabilizing, painful, and deeply disorienting, yet it also reveals what you could not previously see: where you've been living inside an illusion, what's real now, and what you're no longer willing to tolerate. Through personal storytelling and grounded reflection, Lora shares how healing isn't a single breakthrough—it's the life you rebuild through truth, boundaries, discernment, and conscious choice. This episode will help you stabilize after the shattering, re-anchor in your body, and begin seeing what's possible beyond survival. Top 3 Takeaways The shattering isn't the story—it's the doorway. Discovery day is the moment you can no longer live inside an illusion. It hurts deeply—but it's also the moment truth becomes available and choice becomes possible. You can choose again—at any point. Your first response doesn't have to be your forever identity. Healing happens through repeated, conscious choices as your agency returns step by step. Real safety comes from truth, not hope. Betrayal collapses illusions about who your partner is, what they're capable of, and what you've been carrying. Discernment begins when you clearly see reality and decide what you are—and are not—willing to live with. Favorite Quote “It's not the moment that breaks that matters. It's what you do after the shattering—again and again—that becomes your story.” LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Get your free downloadable guide on the “The Top Three Ways You Betray Yourself Every Day, and How to Stop” at www.burnoutorbetrayal.com. https://workplace-burnout.com/the-top-3-ways-you-betray-yourself-every-day-and-how-to-stop/ If you're ready to Rise Up & Reign as the creator and queen of your life, let's talk. I will walk by your side and give you the perspective, permission, and wisdom needed to turn your betrayal experience into something constructive, empowering, and transformative in all the right ways. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, TEDx speaker, and author of FLAUNT! and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal. After uncovering her husband's 15-year affair, she turned her own pain into purpose—helping high-achieving women reclaim their identity, power, and joy. A trauma-aware coach, somatic therapist, and former attorney, Lora blends legal insight with emotional and spiritual healing for full-spectrum recovery. She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT READY TO START A BETTER CHAPTER? Step into the future you've always dreamed of with the power of transformative rituals with the Mindful Subscription Box. Get a monthly box full of crystals, aromatherapy, and other spiritual tools worth $120. You deserve high-quality gems, crystals, oils, and mindfulness tools for self-care that truly work. It's a monthly dose of self-love delivered right to your door! Go to www.Mindfulsouls.com and use Discount Code LORA25 for 25% off your order!
Welcome to the ninetieth episode of Talk Spirit To Me.This week, Jess welcomes the incredible Lora Cheadle for a conversation that dives deep into betrayal & healing.Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt, is a former attorney turned author and betrayal recovery expert who explores the intersection of law, psychology, and consciousness. Following a personal reckoning after uncovering her husband's long-term infidelity, she began channeling The Librarians - a collective of non-physical guides who reveal the soul curriculum behind human suffering, healing, and evolution. Through private sessions, somatic dance, hypnosis, and energetic transmissions, she helps clients reclaim agency, integrate trauma, and reconnect with their multidimensional selves. Her published works include FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, and Spiritual Self and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive.If you would like to connect with Lora you can follow her on IG @loracheadleIf you like this sh*t, come hang with us on Instagram:@jessicalynnemediumship & @talkspirittomepodcastWant a Psychic Medium Reading?Book one HERE.**Please note: we do not own the rights to this music; Fall - ASHUTOSH @RFM_NCM
Welcome back to Tinfoil Tales! On this episode I am joined by my guest Lora, a former lawyer who is now working in a different field, as she comminucates with what she calls the Librarians and the Akashic Records.www.CoffeeWithTheLibrarians.com for a free monthly energy updated from The Librarians. You can also book your session with Lora from this page. Together we can connect with the wisdom of The Librarians to help you with whatever you are dealing with. Whether it's trauma, fear, cutting cords, establishing boundaries, or developing your psychic development, let me help. Learn more about my infidelity and betrayal work at www.LoraCheadle.com. YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/loracheadlelifechoreographerInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/loracheadleLora Cheadle, Life ChoreographerFB: https://www.facebook.com/LifeChoreographer/Facebook Lora: https://www.facebook.com/lora.cheadlePodcast: https://loracheadle.com/flaunt-podcast/ Books:FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self: https://www.amazon.com/FLAUNT-Cover-Reveal-Smart-Spiritual/dp/1608686213It's Not Burnout It's Betrayal: 5Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive: https://www.amazon.com/Its-Not-Burnout-Betrayal-Thrive/dp/B0DSTSTRN1Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/tinfoil-tales--6147818/support. Want to be a Guest? If you have a paranormal encounter, conspiracy theory, or unexplained story to share, we'd love to hear from you! Reach out to us at tinfoiltalespodcast@gmail.com or use the contact button on our website. http://www.tinfoiltales.com Let's schedule you for a future episode and dive into the mysteries together! Got Weird Stuff?Have some strange physical evidence you want to share? Mail it to:Tinfoil TalesP.O. Box 302Peru, IN 46970
The moment you find out—the text, the confession, the lie collapsing in real time—can feel like the defining moment of your life. The shattering. The before and after. But what if that moment isn't your identity… and it's not your story? What if it's a threshold—where illusion collapses so you can finally choose truth, agency, and who you become next? In this episode, Lora Cheadle reframes discovery day (D-Day) as a threshold moment—not the event that defines you, but the doorway that returns you to truth. Betrayal is destabilizing, painful, and deeply disorienting, yet it also reveals what you could not previously see: where you've been living inside an illusion, what's real now, and what you're no longer willing to tolerate. Through personal storytelling and grounded reflection, Lora shares how healing isn't a single breakthrough—it's the life you rebuild through truth, boundaries, discernment, and conscious choice. This episode will help you stabilize after the shattering, re-anchor in your body, and begin seeing what's possible beyond survival. Top 3 Takeaways The shattering isn't the story—it's the doorway. Discovery day is the moment you can no longer live inside an illusion. It hurts deeply—but it's also the moment truth becomes available and choice becomes possible. You can choose again—at any point. Your first response doesn't have to be your forever identity. Healing happens through repeated, conscious choices as your agency returns step by step. Real safety comes from truth, not hope. Betrayal collapses illusions about who your partner is, what they're capable of, and what you've been carrying. Discernment begins when you clearly see reality and decide what you are—and are not—willing to live with. Favorite Quote “It's not the moment that breaks that matters. It's what you do after the shattering—again and again—that becomes your story.” About Lora Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a former attorney turned betrayal recovery coach, hypnotherapist, and author who helps women rebuild their identity and reclaim their power after infidelity and profound emotional betrayal. Using her signature Life Choreography® approach, she integrates legal insight, nervous system regulation, somatic practices, and deep spiritual support to help clients move from shattered to sovereign. Resources & Links Download the free Betrayal Recovery Guide: https://betrayalrecoveryguide.com Book your $97 Intro Session: https://introductorysession.com Learn more about Rise & Reign: https://loracheadle.com/rise-and-reign Follow on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook @loracheadle LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Download your FREE Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit and take back your power with clarity, confidence, and support that meets you where you are. ✅ Calm the chaos ✅ Rebuild self-trust ✅ Stop the spiral of second-guessing ✅ Reclaim your worth and your future
Can Astrology Help You Heal After Infidelity? Birth Charts, Moon Signs & Soul Lessons (with Vanya Banks) When betrayal shatters your reality, your brain wants answers: Why did this happen? Why me? What am I supposed to do now? This episode offers a grounded, empowering lens—astrology as an energetic language—to help you understand patterns, rebuild self-trust, and move forward without giving your power away. Lora sits down with professional astrologer Vanya Banks (AstroBloom) for a refreshingly real conversation about what astrology actually is (and what it's not). Together they explore how birth charts can illuminate subconscious patterns, attachment dynamics, nervous system needs, and “soul lessons”—especially in the wake of infidelity or betrayal. You'll hear practical ways to use astrology for self-awareness, healing, ritual, and relationship insight, plus a grounded take on Mercury retrograde that replaces fear with clarity. Top 3 Takeaways Astrology isn't fate—it's insight. It reveals influences, patterns, and possibilities so you can make conscious choices (not excuses). Your Moon sign is a powerful healing tool. It can show how you seek safety, what soothes your nervous system, and where boundaries and self-nurturing matter most—especially after betrayal. Retrogrades are review seasons, not doom seasons. Mercury retrograde is an invitation to reassess communication and alignment—without handing your power over to “pop astrology.” Favorite Quote “Astrology brings the unconscious to the surface—so you can choose consciously instead of calling it fate.” About Vanja Banks Vanja Banks is an Astrologer, Soul Alchemist, and Embodiment Guide who supports women in awakening their soul remembrance, body wisdom, and cosmic magic through the portals of astrology, Tantra, and alchemy. After walking through profound personal losses - including the ending of a 14-year marriage and the dissolution of a life she'd built - Vanja was initiated by grief. What began as heartbreak became a sacred descent into self-remembering. Through astrology's archetypal language and the somatic rituals of Tantra - the sacred art of presence & embodiment - she found a roadmap back to wholeness, learning that grief is not something to “get over,” but a living current that reshapes us into more awake, tender, and embodied versions of ourselves. Today, she guides others through this same alchemy - transforming grief into growth, loss into liberation, and emotion into embodied wisdom. Website: Astrology Readings | Ritual Tools | Astrobloom Instagram: @astrobloom.ca Astrobloom Podcast: Youtube | Other Platforms Join her newsletter LORA15 for 15% off all readings LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Get your free downloadable guide on the “The Top Three Ways You Betray Yourself Every Day, and How to Stop” at www.burnoutorbetrayal.com. https://workplace-burnout.com/the-top-3-ways-you-betray-yourself-every-day-and-how-to-stop/ If you're ready to Rise Up & Reign as the creator and queen of your life, let's talk. I will walk by your side and give you the perspective, permission, and wisdom needed to turn your betrayal experience into something constructive, empowering, and transformative in all the right ways. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, TEDx speaker, and author of FLAUNT! and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal. After uncovering her husband's 15-year affair, she turned her own pain into purpose—helping high-achieving women reclaim their identity, power, and joy. A trauma-aware coach, somatic therapist, and former attorney, Lora blends legal insight with emotional and spiritual healing for full-spectrum recovery. She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT READY TO START A BETTER CHAPTER? Step into the future you've always dreamed of with the power of transformative rituals with the Mindful Subscription Box. Get a monthly box full of crystals, aromatherapy, and other spiritual tools worth $120. You deserve high-quality gems, crystals, oils, and mindfulness tools for self-care that truly work. It's a monthly dose of self-love delivered right to your door! Go to www.Mindfulsouls.com and use Discount Code LORA25 for 25% off your order!
Longing After Betrayal: Grieving the Future You Thought You'd Have There's a very specific ache that shows up after betrayal—especially during the holidays. It's not just missing a person. It's grieving the future you thought you were building…and the version of you who once believed in it. In this episode, we talk about longing—not as a problem to fix, but as a signal of healing, a doorway back to self-trust, and a gentle bridge into what's next. Longing after betrayal can feel confusing and even scary—because wanting, hoping, and believing once led to pain. But longing isn't weakness, and it doesn't mean you're stuck or that you “made a mistake.” In this episode, Lora Cheadle explores why the holidays amplify longing (hello, Hallmark movies), why longing is often grief and love intertwined, and how longing can become a powerful compass back to self-trust. You'll learn how to honor the future you lost without rushing into a new one, and you'll be guided through a presencing practice and intentional silence to help regulate your nervous system and listen inward. Plus, Lora invites you into her $26 Vision Board Workshop on January 10—a gentle, guided container to help you reconnect with what still matters and shape what comes next without pressure. Top 3 Takeaways Longing doesn't mean you want your old life back—it means something meaningful mattered. You're not “doing it wrong” if you ache; you're human, and you're grieving a future you imagined. After betrayal, many women don't stop trusting others—they stop trusting themselves to want again. Avoiding longing isn't failure; it's protection that hasn't been updated yet. Longing can become a compass when you stop trying to resolve it. Instead of asking “What do I want next?” try asking, “What does my longing still care about?”—and let that guide you gently forward. Favorite Quote “Longing isn't asking you to go backwards—it's asking you to acknowledge how far you've come.” LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Get your free downloadable guide on the “The Top Three Ways You Betray Yourself Every Day, and How to Stop” at www.burnoutorbetrayal.com. https://workplace-burnout.com/the-top-3-ways-you-betray-yourself-every-day-and-how-to-stop/ If you're ready to Rise Up & Reign as the creator and queen of your life, let's talk. I will walk by your side and give you the perspective, permission, and wisdom needed to turn your betrayal experience into something constructive, empowering, and transformative in all the right ways. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, TEDx speaker, and author of FLAUNT! and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal. After uncovering her husband's 15-year affair, she turned her own pain into purpose—helping high-achieving women reclaim their identity, power, and joy. A trauma-aware coach, somatic therapist, and former attorney, Lora blends legal insight with emotional and spiritual healing for full-spectrum recovery. She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT READY TO START A BETTER CHAPTER? Step into the future you've always dreamed of with the power of transformative rituals with the Mindful Subscription Box. Get a monthly box full of crystals, aromatherapy, and other spiritual tools worth $120. You deserve high-quality gems, crystals, oils, and mindfulness tools for self-care that truly work. It's a monthly dose of self-love delivered right to your door! Go to www.Mindfulsouls.com and use Discount Code LORA25 for 25% off your order!
When betrayal shatters your reality, your brain wants answers: Why did this happen? Why me? What am I supposed to do now? This episode offers a grounded, empowering lens—astrology as an energetic language—to help you understand patterns, rebuild self-trust, and move forward without giving your power away. Lora sits down with professional astrologer Vanya Banks (AstroBloom) for a refreshingly real conversation about what astrology actually is (and what it's not). Together they explore how birth charts can illuminate subconscious patterns, attachment dynamics, nervous system needs, and “soul lessons”—especially in the wake of infidelity or betrayal. You'll hear practical ways to use astrology for self-awareness, healing, ritual, and relationship insight, plus a grounded take on Mercury retrograde that replaces fear with clarity. Top 3 Takeaways Astrology isn't fate—it's insight. It reveals influences, patterns, and possibilities so you can make conscious choices (not excuses). Your Moon sign is a powerful healing tool. It can show how you seek safety, what soothes your nervous system, and where boundaries and self-nurturing matter most—especially after betrayal. Retrogrades are review seasons, not doom seasons. Mercury retrograde is an invitation to reassess communication and alignment—without handing your power over to “pop astrology.” Favorite Quote “Astrology brings the unconscious to the surface—so you can choose consciously instead of calling it fate.” About Vanja Banks Vanja Banks is an Astrologer, Soul Alchemist, and Embodiment Guide who supports women in awakening their soul remembrance, body wisdom, and cosmic magic through the portals of astrology, Tantra, and alchemy. After walking through profound personal losses - including the ending of a 14-year marriage and the dissolution of a life she'd built - Vanja was initiated by grief. What began as heartbreak became a sacred descent into self-remembering. Through astrology's archetypal language and the somatic rituals of Tantra - the sacred art of presence & embodiment - she found a roadmap back to wholeness, learning that grief is not something to “get over,” but a living current that reshapes us into more awake, tender, and embodied versions of ourselves. Today, she guides others through this same alchemy - transforming grief into growth, loss into liberation, and emotion into embodied wisdom. Website: Astrology Readings | Ritual Tools | Astrobloom Instagram: @astrobloom.ca Astrobloom Podcast: Youtube | Other Platforms Join her newsletter Use Code LORA15 for 15% off all readings! About Lora Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a former attorney turned betrayal recovery coach, hypnotherapist, and author who helps women rebuild their identity and reclaim their power after infidelity and profound emotional betrayal. Using her signature Life Choreography® approach, she integrates legal insight, nervous system regulation, somatic practices, and deep spiritual support to help clients move from shattered to sovereign. Resources & Links Download the free Betrayal Recovery Guide: https://betrayalrecoveryguide.com Book your $97 Intro Session: https://introductorysession.com Learn more about Rise & Reign: https://loracheadle.com/rise-and-reign Follow on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook @loracheadle LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Download your FREE Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit and take back your power with clarity, confidence, and support that meets you where you are. ✅ Calm the chaos ✅ Rebuild self-trust ✅ Stop the spiral of second-guessing ✅ Reclaim your worth and your future
Longing After Betrayal: Grieving the Future You Thought You'd Have There's a very specific ache that shows up after betrayal—especially during the holidays. It's not just missing a person. It's grieving the future you thought you were building…and the version of you who once believed in it. In this episode, we talk about longing—not as a problem to fix, but as a signal of healing, a doorway back to self-trust, and a gentle bridge into what's next. Longing after betrayal can feel confusing and even scary—because wanting, hoping, and believing once led to pain. But longing isn't weakness, and it doesn't mean you're stuck or that you “made a mistake.” In this episode, Lora Cheadle explores why the holidays amplify longing (hello, Hallmark movies), why longing is often grief and love intertwined, and how longing can become a powerful compass back to self-trust. You'll learn how to honor the future you lost without rushing into a new one, and you'll be guided through a presencing practice and intentional silence to help regulate your nervous system and listen inward. Plus, Lora invites you into her $26 Vision Board Workshop on January 10—a gentle, guided container to help you reconnect with what still matters and shape what comes next without pressure. Top 3 Takeaways 1. Longing doesn't mean you want your old life back—it means something meaningful mattered. You're not “doing it wrong” if you ache; you're human, and you're grieving a future you imagined. 2. After betrayal, many women don't stop trusting others—they stop trusting themselves to want again. Avoiding longing isn't failure; it's protection that hasn't been updated yet. 3 Longing can become a compass when you stop trying to resolve it. Instead of asking “What do I want next?” try asking, “What does my longing still care about?”—and let that guide you gently forward. Favorite Quote “Longing isn't asking you to go backwards—it's asking you to acknowledge how far you've come.” About Lora Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a former attorney turned betrayal recovery coach, hypnotherapist, and author who helps women rebuild their identity and reclaim their power after infidelity and profound emotional betrayal. Using her signature Life Choreography® approach, she integrates legal insight, nervous system regulation, somatic practices, and deep spiritual support to help clients move from shattered to sovereign. Resources & Links Download your free Betrayal Recovery Guide: it's linked in the show notes (or visit betrayalrecoveryguide.com). Join me for my $26 Vision Board Workshop (Jan 10): a gentle, guided container to sit with your longing, listen inward, and shape what comes next—without pressure. Register at flourishafterinfidelity.com. Want personal support and a path forward that integrates mind, body, and soul? Explore coaching options at https://loracheadle.com/coaching or learn about the Rise & Reign 6-month mentorship at https://loracheadle.com/riseandreign. Follow on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook @loracheadle LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Download your FREE Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit and take back your power with clarity, confidence, and support that meets you where you are. ✅ Calm the chaos ✅ Rebuild self-trust ✅ Stop the spiral of second-guessing ✅ Reclaim your worth and your future
This week Jordan and Mike discuss a corn market at the top of the range fueled by strong demand. We are entering the time of the year to lock in your fuel needs. Listen in on the grain market after Christmas.
Stop Saying “I Just Want to Heal” — Define What Healing Means in 2026 (After Infidelity) If you've been saying, “I just want to heal,” or “I just want to feel like myself again,” this episode is your loving wake-up call: those phrases are too vague to carry you where you want to go. Healing happens faster—and feels safer—when you get specific about what you're actually birthing next. Episode Description In this episode, Lora opens with a powerful 4-minute “next-level you” practice designed to shift your energy from surviving to creating. Then she breaks down why “I just want to heal” often keeps you stuck—and how to replace it with clear, embodied direction. You'll learn how to define what healing means for you (peace of mind, confidence, boundaries, financial stability, emotional safety), how to create the structure that makes success almost inevitable, and how to stay flexible when life pivots. Plus, Lora shares a real-life story about preparing to attend a funeral where her husband's former affair partner may be present—and how conscious planning creates safety, connection, and dignity. Top 3 Takeaways The universe—and your nervous system—respond to specificity. “I want to heal” becomes powerful when you define what healing looks like in real life: fewer obsessive thoughts, better sleep, stronger boundaries, emotional regulation, self-trust. You don't have to control the outcome to direct your life. Some desires need “hard-no” boundaries; others need “surprise party energy” where you stay open to support arriving in unexpected forms. Structure creates success. Goals aren't just wishes—they're supported by plans: the right people, tools, rehearsed responses, and simple tracking that helps you notice progress (and adjust when something isn't working). Favorite Quote “You are not supporting cast in your own life. This is your life—and you are the main character.” LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Get your free downloadable guide on the “The Top Three Ways You Betray Yourself Every Day, and How to Stop” at www.burnoutorbetrayal.com. https://workplace-burnout.com/the-top-3-ways-you-betray-yourself-every-day-and-how-to-stop/ If you're ready to Rise Up & Reign as the creator and queen of your life, let's talk. I will walk by your side and give you the perspective, permission, and wisdom needed to turn your betrayal experience into something constructive, empowering, and transformative in all the right ways. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, TEDx speaker, and author of FLAUNT! and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal. After uncovering her husband's 15-year affair, she turned her own pain into purpose—helping high-achieving women reclaim their identity, power, and joy. A trauma-aware coach, somatic therapist, and former attorney, Lora blends legal insight with emotional and spiritual healing for full-spectrum recovery. She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT READY TO START A BETTER CHAPTER? Step into the future you've always dreamed of with the power of transformative rituals with the Mindful Subscription Box. Get a monthly box full of crystals, aromatherapy, and other spiritual tools worth $120. You deserve high-quality gems, crystals, oils, and mindfulness tools for self-care that truly work. It's a monthly dose of self-love delivered right to your door! Go to www.Mindfulsouls.com and use Discount Code LORA25 for 25% off your order!
Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt, is a betrayal recovery coach, licensed attorney (in Colorado and California), somatic attachment therapist, clinical hypnotherapist, and international speaker who guides women through the soul-shattering impact of infidelity into a life reclaimed. As the creator of Life Choreography® and the FLAUNT!® Framework, she offers the complete path of healing—legal, emotional, somatic, and spiritual—so women rise whole, sovereign, and free. Her books are: FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self, (an International Book Awards finalist and Tattered Cover bestseller) and, It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal, 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. Lora blends the precision of a lawyer, the compassion of a trauma-aware coach, the depth of somatic and spiritual practice, and the channeled wisdom of The Librarian along with the lived experience of surviving infidelity herself. https://loracheadle.com/
Lora Cheadle is a former insurance defense attorney who traded burnout for a career built on wellness, boundaries, and helping high achievers navigate betrayal in both personal and professional life. In this episode, she explains why many lawyers mislabel their exhaustion as burnout when it is actually the rupture of unmet expectations, unmanaged stress, and years of self-neglect. Lora shares how fitness, neuroplasticity, and coaching transformed her life and fuel the work she does today.Lawyer Side HustlesLong before she transitioned out of traditional practice, Lora taught step aerobics as a creative outlet and source of joy. That passion evolved into a broader commitment to wellness, somatic health, and stress reduction. As she explored posture, breathing, and body-based healing, she recognised how deeply physical habits affect emotional and cognitive performance. This curiosity led her to study nutrition and later become a clinical hypnotherapist so she could support the neuroplasticity work her clients needed.“Fitness was my respite. People need to somatically process stress. Good posture makes a difference in the way we can breathe and in our brain functioning,” Lora Cheadle expresses in Episode 224 of You Are a Lawyer.She eventually built Life Choreography Coaching and Advocacy, a business inspired by the idea that life, like dance, requires both choreography and improvisation. Lora also wrote It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal, a book explaining how professionals can use her Fuel Up framework to identify ruptured expectations, process emotional overwhelm, and rebuild their sense of identity after chronic stress.This episode is produced by Skip the Boring Stuff, a podcast strategy company for business owners and creatives.
If you've been saying, “I just want to heal,” or “I just want to feel like myself again,” this episode is your loving wake-up call: those phrases are too vague to carry you where you want to go. Healing happens faster—and feels safer—when you get specific about what you're actually birthing next. In this episode, Lora opens with a powerful 4-minute “next-level you” practice designed to shift your energy from surviving to creating. Then she breaks down why “I just want to heal” often keeps you stuck—and how to replace it with clear, embodied direction. You'll learn how to define what healing means for you (peace of mind, confidence, boundaries, financial stability, emotional safety), how to create the structure that makes success almost inevitable, and how to stay flexible when life pivots. Plus, Lora shares a real-life story about preparing to attend a funeral where her husband's former affair partner may be present—and how conscious planning creates safety, connection, and dignity. Top 3 Takeaways The universe—and your nervous system—respond to specificity. “I want to heal” becomes powerful when you define what healing looks like in real life: fewer obsessive thoughts, better sleep, stronger boundaries, emotional regulation, self-trust. You don't have to control the outcome to direct your life. Some desires need “hard-no” boundaries; others need “surprise party energy” where you stay open to support arriving in unexpected forms. Structure creates success. Goals aren't just wishes—they're supported by plans: the right people, tools, rehearsed responses, and simple tracking that helps you notice progress (and adjust when something isn't working). Favorite Quote “You are not supporting cast in your own life. This is your life—and you are the main character.” About Lora Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a former attorney turned betrayal recovery coach, hypnotherapist, and author who helps women rebuild their identity and reclaim their power after infidelity and profound emotional betrayal. Using her signature Life Choreography® approach, she integrates legal insight, nervous system regulation, somatic practices, and deep spiritual support to help clients move from shattered to sovereign. Resources & Links Download the free Betrayal Recovery Guide: https://betrayalrecoveryguide.com Book your $97 Intro Session: https://introductorysession.com Learn more about Rise & Reign: https://loracheadle.com/rise-and-reign Follow on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook @loracheadle LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Download your FREE Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit and take back your power with clarity, confidence, and support that meets you where you are. ✅ Calm the chaos ✅ Rebuild self-trust ✅ Stop the spiral of second-guessing ✅ Reclaim your worth and your future
Rewriting D-Day After Infidelity: Winter Solstice Ritual to Heal Betrayal Trauma & Stop Obsessive Thoughts What if you could go back and prepare for D-Day? Not to stop the betrayal from happening, but to soften the blow, steady your nervous system, and walk yourself through the darkest night of your soul with reverence, support, and a plan. In this deeply soulful Solstice episode, Lora guides you through a powerful re-imagining of D-Day using the energy of the winter solstice — the longest, darkest night of the year. Instead of bracing against the pain of betrayal, you'll learn how to “pack your bag” for the dark night of the soul: tending your body, nervous system, and subconscious so you can move through the darkness with preparation, not panic. Drawing on childbirth metaphors, subconscious re-patterning, and the natural arc from winter solstice to summer solstice, Lora walks you step-by-step into the memory of D-Day and back out again — this time as the woman you are now: wiser, more resourced, and no longer alone. You'll leave with a six-month roadmap for healing, micro-boundaries to support your body and soul, and a new understanding of why you're not broken… you're just ready for a different map. Top 3 Takeaways Why D-Day still hijacks your body (and how to change it) How betrayal trauma locks into the subconscious mind and nervous system, and why you can't just “decide to stop ruminating” or think your way out of it. The Winter Solstice Betrayal Ritual: Preparing for the Dark Night of the Soul How to “pretend” solstice is your D-Day, pack your metaphoric bag, and consciously walk yourself into the darkness with support, tools, and reverence — so your body learns that you can bear it and you will come out the other side. From Winter Solstice to Summer Solstice: A Six-Month Healing Map How to set micro-boundaries, tiny daily practices, and structures of accountability that quietly rewire your life over six months — so one day you look up and realize, “It's lighter now. I'm actually okay… and I'm not obsessing anymore.” Favorite Quote “The real tragedy of betrayal isn't the betrayal itself. It's failing to rise up afterward and reclaim your heart, your soul, your identity.” Apply or learn more: https://loracheadle.com/rise-and-reign Book your $97 Introductory Session: https://introductorysession.com Your healing is not about managing them. It's about finally choosing you. LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Get your free downloadable guide on the “The Top Three Ways You Betray Yourself Every Day, and How to Stop” at www.burnoutorbetrayal.com. https://workplace-burnout.com/the-top-3-ways-you-betray-yourself-every-day-and-how-to-stop/ If you're ready to Rise Up & Reign as the creator and queen of your life, let's talk. I will walk by your side and give you the perspective, permission, and wisdom needed to turn your betrayal experience into something constructive, empowering, and transformative in all the right ways. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, TEDx speaker, and author of FLAUNT! and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal. After uncovering her husband's 15-year affair, she turned her own pain into purpose—helping high-achieving women reclaim their identity, power, and joy. A trauma-aware coach, somatic therapist, and former attorney, Lora blends legal insight with emotional and spiritual healing for full-spectrum recovery. She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT READY TO START A BETTER CHAPTER? Step into the future you've always dreamed of with the power of transformative rituals with the Mindful Subscription Box. Get a monthly box full of crystals, aromatherapy, and other spiritual tools worth $120. You deserve high-quality gems, crystals, oils, and mindfulness tools for self-care that truly work. It's a monthly dose of self-love delivered right to your door! Go to www.Mindfulsouls.com and use Discount Code LORA25 for 25% off your order!
What if you could go back and prepare for D-Day? Not to stop the betrayal from happening, but to soften the blow, steady your nervous system, and walk yourself through the darkest night of your soul with reverence, support, and a plan. In this deeply soulful Solstice episode, Lora guides you through a powerful re-imagining of D-Day using the energy of the winter solstice — the longest, darkest night of the year. Instead of bracing against the pain of betrayal, you'll learn how to “pack your bag” for the dark night of the soul: tending your body, nervous system, and subconscious so you can move through the darkness with preparation, not panic. Drawing on childbirth metaphors, subconscious re-patterning, and the natural arc from winter solstice to summer solstice, Lora walks you step-by-step into the memory of D-Day and back out again — this time as the woman you are now: wiser, more resourced, and no longer alone. You'll leave with a six-month roadmap for healing, micro-boundaries to support your body and soul, and a new understanding of why you're not broken… you're just ready for a different map. Top 3 Takeaways Why D-Day still hijacks your body (and how to change it) How betrayal trauma locks into the subconscious mind and nervous system, and why you can't just “decide to stop ruminating” or think your way out of it. The Winter Solstice Betrayal Ritual: Preparing for the Dark Night of the Soul How to “pretend” solstice is your D-Day, pack your metaphoric bag, and consciously walk yourself into the darkness with support, tools, and reverence — so your body learns that you can bear it and you will come out the other side. From Winter Solstice to Summer Solstice: A Six-Month Healing Map How to set micro-boundaries, tiny daily practices, and structures of accountability that quietly rewire your life over six months — so one day you look up and realize, “It's lighter now. I'm actually okay… and I'm not obsessing anymore.” Favorite Quote “The real tragedy of betrayal isn't the betrayal itself. It's failing to rise up afterward and reclaim your heart, your soul, your identity.” About Lora Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a former attorney turned betrayal recovery coach, hypnotherapist, and author who helps women rebuild their identity and reclaim their power after infidelity and profound emotional betrayal. Using her signature Life Choreography® approach, she integrates legal insight, nervous system regulation, somatic practices, and deep spiritual support to help clients move from shattered to sovereign. Resources & Links Download the free Betrayal Recovery Guide: https://betrayalrecoveryguide.com Book your $97 Intro Session: https://introductorysession.com Learn more about Rise & Reign: https://loracheadle.com/rise-and-reign Follow on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook @loracheadle LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Download your FREE Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit and take back your power with clarity, confidence, and support that meets you where you are. ✅ Calm the chaos ✅ Rebuild self-trust ✅ Stop the spiral of second-guessing ✅ Reclaim your worth and your future
Stop Controlling. Start Directing: The Shift That Heals Your Life After Betrayal Most women think they're “taking control,” but what they're actually doing is managing chaos from a nervous system that doesn't feel safe. Control is a trauma response. Direction is a soul response. And learning the difference changes everything about your healing, your power, and your relationships. In this powerful solo episode, Lora breaks down the difference between controlling your life and directing your life—a distinction that is foundational to healing after infidelity or any form of deep emotional betrayal. You'll hear why control feels so intoxicating at first, why it becomes exhausting over time, and how it ultimately keeps you stuck in fear, hypervigilance, and over-functioning. Lora then guides you into the energetics of self-direction—what she calls a “soul response”—where clarity, empowerment, and healthy masculine/feminine balance begin to return. Through personal stories, cultural context, nervous-system wisdom, and practical tools, Lora shows you how to stop managing the chaos and start leading your life again. If you've been stuck in fear, bracing, or trying to “fix” your partner, this episode will feel like a deep exhale. Top 3 Takeaways Control is always rooted in fear. Over-monitoring, over-planning, over-functioning, micromanaging your partner's behavior—all of it is a trauma response from a nervous system that doesn't feel safe. It's not a moral failing; it's biology. Self-direction is grounded clarity and expansion. Instead of reacting, you choose your next right step based on who you want to be. You lead your life with healthy masculine structure and healthy feminine flow, instead of trying to force outcomes. The Control-to-Direction Test Will Change Everything. Ask yourself: Am I trying to control a person or outcome? Am I acting from fear or from clarity? Does this behavior feel braced or grounded? Is this action about who I want to be, or about preventing something from happening? These four questions reveal your truth instantly. Ready to go deeper? It's where women learn to lead their lives again—rebuilding identity, regulating their nervous system, reclaiming their truth, and making empowered decisions without fear. Apply or learn more: https://loracheadle.com/rise-and-reign Book your $97 Introductory Session: https://introductorysession.com Your healing is not about managing them. It's about finally choosing you. Favorite Quote “Whenever you try to control, you're acting from fear. Whenever you direct your life, you're acting from truth.” LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Get your free downloadable guide on the “The Top Three Ways You Betray Yourself Every Day, and How to Stop” at www.burnoutorbetrayal.com. https://workplace-burnout.com/the-top-3-ways-you-betray-yourself-every-day-and-how-to-stop/ If you're ready to Rise Up & Reign as the creator and queen of your life, let's talk. I will walk by your side and give you the perspective, permission, and wisdom needed to turn your betrayal experience into something constructive, empowering, and transformative in all the right ways. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, TEDx speaker, and author of FLAUNT! and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal. After uncovering her husband's 15-year affair, she turned her own pain into purpose—helping high-achieving women reclaim their identity, power, and joy. A trauma-aware coach, somatic therapist, and former attorney, Lora blends legal insight with emotional and spiritual healing for full-spectrum recovery. She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT READY TO START A BETTER CHAPTER? Step into the future you've always dreamed of with the power of transformative rituals with the Mindful Subscription Box. Get a monthly box full of crystals, aromatherapy, and other spiritual tools worth $120. You deserve high-quality gems, crystals, oils, and mindfulness tools for self-care that truly work. It's a monthly dose of self-love delivered right to your door! Go to www.Mindfulsouls.com and use Discount Code LORA25 for 25% off your order!
Most women think they're “taking control,” but what they're actually doing is managing chaos from a nervous system that doesn't feel safe. Control is a trauma response. Direction is a soul response. And learning the difference changes everything about your healing, your power, and your relationships. In this powerful solo episode, Lora breaks down the difference between controlling your life and directing your life—a distinction that is foundational to healing after infidelity or any form of deep emotional betrayal. You'll hear why control feels so intoxicating at first, why it becomes exhausting over time, and how it ultimately keeps you stuck in fear, hypervigilance, and over-functioning. Lora then guides you into the energetics of self-direction—what she calls a “soul response”—where clarity, empowerment, and healthy masculine/feminine balance begin to return. Through personal stories, cultural context, nervous-system wisdom, and practical tools, Lora shows you how to stop managing the chaos and start leading your life again. If you've been stuck in fear, bracing, or trying to “fix” your partner, this episode will feel like a deep exhale. Top 3 Takeaways Control is always rooted in fear. Over-monitoring, over-planning, over-functioning, micromanaging your partner's behavior—all of it is a trauma response from a nervous system that doesn't feel safe. It's not a moral failing; it's biology. Self-direction is grounded clarity and expansion. Instead of reacting, you choose your next right step based on who you want to be. You lead your life with healthy masculine structure and healthy feminine flow, instead of trying to force outcomes. The Control-to-Direction Test Will Change Everything. Ask yourself: Am I trying to control a person or outcome? Am I acting from fear or from clarity? Does this behavior feel braced or grounded? Is this action about who I want to be, or about preventing something from happening? These four questions reveal your truth instantly. Loving this show? Ready to go deeper? If you're tired of controlling everything around you and you're ready to finally feel safe, grounded, clear, and self-directed again, this is exactly what we do inside Rise & Reign, my six-month betrayal recovery mentorship. It's where women learn to lead their lives again—rebuilding identity, regulating their nervous system, reclaiming their truth, and making empowered decisions without fear.
You Cheated. You're Not a Monster. Here's How to Understand Yourself and Become the Man You Meant to Be. You're not a monster because you cheated— you are a hurting human who never learned how to feel, name, and heal what's going on inside. And understanding that and forgiving yourself is the key to rebuilding trust, whether you stay together or not. This episode is a love letter—and a challenge—to the betrayer. Whether you're the one who cheated or you're the partner trying to understand how the person you love could hurt you so deeply, this conversation pulls back the curtain on what's really going on inside the betraying partner. Lora shares honest, vulnerable insights from walking beside her husband through his infidelity, exploring why most men genuinely don't know why they cheated, how shame and unresolved boyhood wounds fuel destructive coping, and what it actually takes to become trustworthy again. You'll learn how to move from “I'm a monster” to “I made a devastating mistake—and I'm willing to change,” so both of you can stop walking on eggshells and start moving toward clarity, accountability, and healing. Top 3 Takeaways Why “I don't know why I did it” is often true—just not the whole truth. Most betrayers genuinely don't know the root cause of their cheating because they were never taught to identify or communicate their emotions. Until they can name what they're feeling—rejection, shame, emasculation, grief—cheating will continue to be a maladaptive coping mechanism, not a “character flaw problem” to shame away. Your actions don't define your core—but your accountability does. There's a profound difference between being a cheater and having cheated. Lora breaks down how to step out of the “cheater” identity and back into integrity through nervous system regulation, consistent follow-through (“do what you say you'll do”), and small, repeated acts of honor that show you're becoming truly trustworthy again. Healing requires feeling it all—without fleeing, fixing, or deflecting. From the sticky note that said “Feel it all” to simple somatic practices like standing in your integrity, brushing off old attachments, and speaking from your gut instead of your head, you'll learn concrete ways to sit with your own shame, regret, and pain and hold space for your partner's rage and grief—without collapsing, defending, or running away. Book Your Private Session for Men, women, or couples HERE: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/men-s-session If this episode spoke to you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs hope on their healing journey. Your voice helps other women (and men) find the support they deserve. Favorite Quotes “This isn't about getting your wife to trust you again. It's about becoming a man who is truly trustworthy—and honoring yourself enough to live that way.” “You're not a monster—you're a human in pain who chose a harmful coping mechanism. Now the question is: who do you want to be from here?” Free FLAUNT! Holiday Reset & Book Club If this episode hit home, your next step is simple: Join Lora on December 1st for a free live FLAUNT! Book Club & Workshop — a Holiday Reset designed to move you from performance to presence in real time. You'll: Work with practices from FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy & Spiritual Self Get tools to break your performance scripts and over-functioning habits Have space to decompress after Thanksgiving and prepare for the rest of the season in a different way Practice embodying presence so you can actually feel the joy you're creating Sign up free: TheFlauntBook.com You don't need to be “caught up” or have read the whole book. Just bring yourself, your copy, and a willingness to show up as you are. LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Get your free downloadable guide on the “The Top Three Ways You Betray Yourself Every Day, and How to Stop” at www.burnoutorbetrayal.com. https://workplace-burnout.com/the-top-3-ways-you-betray-yourself-every-day-and-how-to-stop/ If you're ready to Rise Up & Reign as the creator and queen of your life, let's talk. I will walk by your side and give you the perspective, permission, and wisdom needed to turn your betrayal experience into something constructive, empowering, and transformative in all the right ways. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, TEDx speaker, and author of FLAUNT! and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal. After uncovering her husband's 15-year affair, she turned her own pain into purpose—helping high-achieving women reclaim their identity, power, and joy. A trauma-aware coach, somatic therapist, and former attorney, Lora blends legal insight with emotional and spiritual healing for full-spectrum recovery. She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT READY TO START A BETTER CHAPTER? Step into the future you've always dreamed of with the power of transformative rituals with the Mindful Subscription Box. Get a monthly box full of crystals, aromatherapy, and other spiritual tools worth $120. You deserve high-quality gems, crystals, oils, and mindfulness tools for self-care that truly work. It's a monthly dose of self-love delivered right to your door! Go to www.Mindfulsouls.com and use Discount Code LORA25 for 25% off your order!
From Shattered to Shining (Holiday Edition) How to Rebuild Hope, Identity & Sparkle After Betrayal There's a moment after betrayal when you look in the mirror and don't recognize yourself anymore. Not because you're weak — but because you've been trying so hard to survive, hold everything together, and make sense of a world that suddenly stopped making sense. If your sparkle feels dulled… If you feel like the woman you once were is gone… This episode will remind you: She's still in there. And hope is still in there too. ---In this powerful episode, Lora takes you deep into what really breaks during betrayal — hope, identity, safety, and the sense of who you are. Last week's show revealed that hope doesn't die; hope hides. This week, you'll learn how to begin revealing yourself again — layer by layer — so your hope can return and your sparkle can rise. Lora shares how the FLAUNT!® framework was “downloaded” years before her own betrayal, how it became the blueprint that saved her life, and how you can use these same steps to move from shattered to shining this holiday season. You'll also hear the full story behind the free December 1st From Shattered to Shining Book Club & Workshop — a guided, experiential celebration of healing, revealing, and reclaiming your joy. This is the episode to listen to if you feel lost, dulled, destabilized, or disconnected — especially heading into the holidays. TOP 3 TAKEAWAYS Your sparkle isn't gone — it's covered. Betrayal doesn't “break” you. It buries you under grief, shock, and roles you never meant to carry. Healing is not fixing — it's revealing. Hope hides beneath layers — but it's never lost. Hope disappears under masks, roles, labels, and survival patterns. When you begin to unmask yourself, hope becomes possible again. FLAUNT!® is a clinically-backed framework for betrayal recovery. Originally built for empowerment, it became the missing map for navigating infidelity: F – Find Your Fetish (joy) L – Laugh Out Loud (regulate your nervous system) A – Accept Unconditionally (what is true) N – Navigate the Negative (integrate, don't avoid) T – Trust in Your Truth (stand in who you are becoming) Rebuild your identity, your hope, and your sparkle with Lora's free two-hour virtual workshop: From Shattered to Shining: A Book Club Experience for Women Who Are Ready to Feel Like Themselves Again December 1, 11 am – 1 pm PST, 12 pm – 2 pm MST, 1 pm – 3 pm CST, 2 pm – 4 pm EST, 7 pm – 9 pm GMT, 8 pm – 10 pm CET, 6 am – 8 am AEDT (next day) Free on Zoom (+ replay) Bring your copy of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy & Spiritual Self Register at www.TheFlauntBook.com If you want clarity, grounding, and joy this holiday season — this workshop is your next step. --- FAVORITE QUOTE “You are not broken. Your sparkle has just been dulled — and together, we're going to bring it back to life.” — Lora Cheadle Free FLAUNT! Holiday Reset & Book Club If this episode hit home, your next step is simple: Join Lora on December 1st for a free live FLAUNT! Book Club & Workshop — a Holiday Reset designed to move you from performance to presence in real time. You'll: Work with practices from FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy & Spiritual Self Get tools to break your performance scripts and over-functioning habits Have space to decompress after Thanksgiving and prepare for the rest of the season in a different way Practice embodying presence so you can actually feel the joy you're creating Sign up free: TheFlauntBook.com You don't need to be “caught up” or have read the whole book. Just bring yourself, your copy, and a willingness to show up as you are. LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Get your free downloadable guide on the “The Top Three Ways You Betray Yourself Every Day, and How to Stop” at www.burnoutorbetrayal.com. https://workplace-burnout.com/the-top-3-ways-you-betray-yourself-every-day-and-how-to-stop/ If you're ready to Rise Up & Reign as the creator and queen of your life, let's talk. I will walk by your side and give you the perspective, permission, and wisdom needed to turn your betrayal experience into something constructive, empowering, and transformative in all the right ways. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, TEDx speaker, and author of FLAUNT! and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal. After uncovering her husband's 15-year affair, she turned her own pain into purpose—helping high-achieving women reclaim their identity, power, and joy. A trauma-aware coach, somatic therapist, and former attorney, Lora blends legal insight with emotional and spiritual healing for full-spectrum recovery. She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT READY TO START A BETTER CHAPTER? Step into the future you've always dreamed of with the power of transformative rituals with the Mindful Subscription Box. Get a monthly box full of crystals, aromatherapy, and other spiritual tools worth $120. You deserve high-quality gems, crystals, oils, and mindfulness tools for self-care that truly work. It's a monthly dose of self-love delivered right to your door! Go to www.Mindfulsouls.com and use Discount Code LORA25 for 25% off your order!
You're not a monster because you cheated— you are a hurting human who never learned how to feel, name, and heal what's going on inside. And understanding that and forgiving yourself is the key to rebuilding trust, whether you stay together or not. This episode is a love letter—and a challenge—to the betrayer. Whether you're the one who cheated or you're the partner trying to understand how the person you love could hurt you so deeply, this conversation pulls back the curtain on what's really going on inside the betraying partner. Lora shares honest, vulnerable insights from walking beside her husband through his infidelity, exploring why most men genuinely don't know why they cheated, how shame and unresolved boyhood wounds fuel destructive coping, and what it actually takes to become trustworthy again. You'll learn how to move from “I'm a monster” to “I made a devastating mistake—and I'm willing to change,” so both of you can stop walking on eggshells and start moving toward clarity, accountability, and healing. Top 3 Takeaways Why “I don't know why I did it” is often true—just not the whole truth. Most betrayers genuinely don't know the root cause of their cheating because they were never taught to identify or communicate their emotions. Until they can name what they're feeling—rejection, shame, emasculation, grief—cheating will continue to be a maladaptive coping mechanism, not a “character flaw problem” to shame away. Your actions don't define your core—but your accountability does. There's a profound difference between being a cheater and having cheated. Lora breaks down how to step out of the “cheater” identity and back into integrity through nervous system regulation, consistent follow-through (“do what you say you'll do”), and small, repeated acts of honor that show you're becoming truly trustworthy again. Healing requires feeling it all—without fleeing, fixing, or deflecting. From the sticky note that said “Feel it all” to simple somatic practices like standing in your integrity, brushing off old attachments, and speaking from your gut instead of your head, you'll learn concrete ways to sit with your own shame, regret, and pain and hold space for your partner's rage and grief—without collapsing, defending, or running away.
From Performance to Presence: The Holiday Shift That Brings Back the Magic (Especially After Betrayal) What would it be like to actually feel the moment you're working so hard to create? In this powerful pre-Thanksgiving episode, Lora gets real about the way so many women — especially those healing after betrayal — kill themselves trying to stage the “perfect” holiday, only to feel numb, resentful, or empty inside. From Hallmark-movie expectations to Norman Rockwell Thanksgivings, Lora unpacks how performance, perfectionism, control, and emotional over-functioning have been culturally trained into women… and how betrayal often ramps those patterns up even more. You'll learn why performance is actually a nervous system survival response (fawn/fix), how it quietly steals your joy, and what it means to shift into deep, grounded presence — so you can finally experience the love, connection, and magic you've been trying to manufacture for everyone else. Just in time for the holidays, this episode is your invitation to stop chasing the moment… and start feeling it. Top 3 Takeaways Performance is how we manage love when we no longer trust it. After betrayal and in dysfunctional family systems, performance becomes protection. We over-do, over-give, and over-function to cover our fear that love, safety, or support won't be there. Performance is a nervous system response — presence is where the healing happens. Beyond fight/flight/freeze, Lora explains the “fourth F”: fawn/fix. That impulse to keep everyone happy, keep everything perfect, and pretend you're fine is actually a trauma response that blocks creativity, intimacy, and joy. Your joy was never stolen by betrayal — it was stolen by the patterns you learned before it. Betrayal doesn't destroy your joy; it uncovers the truth about all the ways you've been stealing it from yourself through scripts, shoulds, and chronic performance. Presence is how you get it back. Favorite Quotes “The harder we try to create the perfect experience, the further we drift from actually feeling it.” “Performance is how we manage love when we no longer trust it.” “Presence is our soul's way of being felt.” “Your joy has not been stolen by betrayal. Betrayal simply uncovers the truth about the behaviors that were stealing your joy long before.” Free FLAUNT! Holiday Reset & Book Club If this episode hit home, your next step is simple: Join Lora on December 1st for a free live FLAUNT! Book Club & Workshop — a Holiday Reset designed to move you from performance to presence in real time. You'll: Work with practices from FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy & Spiritual Self Get tools to break your performance scripts and over-functioning habits Have space to decompress after Thanksgiving and prepare for the rest of the season in a different way Practice embodying presence so you can actually feel the joy you're creating Sign up free: TheFlauntBook.com You don't need to be “caught up” or have read the whole book. Just bring yourself, your copy, and a willingness to show up as you are. Resources & Links Free FLAUNT! Book Club + Workshop (Dec 1): TheFlauntBook.com FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy & Spiritual Self – available wherever books are sold Free Betrayal Recovery Toolkit: BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com Learn more about Lora's coaching & programs: LoraCheadle.com LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Get your free downloadable guide on the “The Top Three Ways You Betray Yourself Every Day, and How to Stop” at www.burnoutorbetrayal.com. https://workplace-burnout.com/the-top-3-ways-you-betray-yourself-every-day-and-how-to-stop/ If you're ready to Rise Up & Reign as the creator and queen of your life, let's talk. I will walk by your side and give you the perspective, permission, and wisdom needed to turn your betrayal experience into something constructive, empowering, and transformative in all the right ways. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, TEDx speaker, and author of FLAUNT! and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal. After uncovering her husband's 15-year affair, she turned her own pain into purpose—helping high-achieving women reclaim their identity, power, and joy. A trauma-aware coach, somatic therapist, and former attorney, Lora blends legal insight with emotional and spiritual healing for full-spectrum recovery. She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT READY TO START A BETTER CHAPTER? Step into the future you've always dreamed of with the power of transformative rituals with the Mindful Subscription Box. Get a monthly box full of crystals, aromatherapy, and other spiritual tools worth $120. You deserve high-quality gems, crystals, oils, and mindfulness tools for self-care that truly work. It's a monthly dose of self-love delivered right to your door! Go to www.Mindfulsouls.com and use Discount Code LORA25 for 25% off your order!
Is It Addiction—or Acting Out? Rebuilding Safety, Empathy & Choice After Betrayal -with Sexologist Cheryl Camarillo After betrayal, you're left asking impossible questions: Was it an addiction? A choice? Can it change? This powerful conversation with sexologist and social worker Cheryl Camarillo brings clarity, compassion, and grounded hope. Together, Lora and Cheryl unpack how to tell the difference between sexual addiction and acting-out behavior, what integrity abuse really means, and why empathy—not shame—is the foundation for healing. You'll learn how to assess whether reconciliation is truly possible, what real accountability looks like, and why safety, trust, and emotional regulation must come before intimacy. Whether you stay or go, this episode will help you understand the path forward so you can heal on every level—mind, body, and soul. Top 3 Takeaways Addiction vs. Acting Out: Understanding the root of your partner's behavior determines the right kind of help and prevents further harm. Integrity Abuse & Entitlement: When promises and empathy break down, healing can't begin until accountability replaces defensiveness. Safety Before Sex: Real intimacy rebuilds through empathy, co-regulation, and emotional safety—not through “hysterical bonding” or performance. Favorite Quote “You don't go back to who you were before betrayal — you become someone wiser, clearer, and more grounded in truth.” Special Offers $97 Introductory Session – “Hope Rebuild Session” One hour, 1:1 on Zoom to locate your stage of healing and map your next right step. Book at https://loracheadle.com/introductory-session/ Free FLAUNT!® Book Club + Workshop (Dec 1) Walk through the five steps of FLAUNT! to move from collapse to expansion—and rekindle hope. Register free: TheFlauntBook.com (buy the book wherever books are sold) Free Betrayal Recovery Guide Your step-by-step companion for healing after infidelity. Download: https://loracheadle.com/betrayal-recovery-guide/ LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Get your free downloadable guide on the “The Top Three Ways You Betray Yourself Every Day, and How to Stop” at www.burnoutorbetrayal.com. https://workplace-burnout.com/the-top-3-ways-you-betray-yourself-every-day-and-how-to-stop/ If you're ready to Rise Up & Reign as the creator and queen of your life, let's talk. I will walk by your side and give you the perspective, permission, and wisdom needed to turn your betrayal experience into something constructive, empowering, and transformative in all the right ways. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, TEDx speaker, and author of FLAUNT! and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal. After uncovering her husband's 15-year affair, she turned her own pain into purpose—helping high-achieving women reclaim their identity, power, and joy. A trauma-aware coach, somatic therapist, and former attorney, Lora blends legal insight with emotional and spiritual healing for full-spectrum recovery. She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT READY TO START A BETTER CHAPTER? Step into the future you've always dreamed of with the power of transformative rituals with the Mindful Subscription Box. Get a monthly box full of crystals, aromatherapy, and other spiritual tools worth $120. You deserve high-quality gems, crystals, oils, and mindfulness tools for self-care that truly work. It's a monthly dose of self-love delivered right to your door! Go to www.Mindfulsouls.com and use Discount Code LORA25 for 25% off your order!
After betrayal, you're left asking impossible questions: Was it an addiction? A choice? Can it change? This powerful conversation with sexologist and social worker Cheryl Camarillo brings clarity, compassion, and grounded hope. Together, Lora and Cheryl unpack how to tell the difference between sexual addiction and acting-out behavior, what integrity abuse really means, and why empathy—not shame—is the foundation for healing. You'll learn how to assess whether reconciliation is truly possible, what real accountability looks like, and why safety, trust, and emotional regulation must come before intimacy. Whether you stay or go, this episode will help you understand the path forward so you can heal on every level—mind, body, and soul. Top 3 Takeaways Addiction vs. Acting Out: Understanding the root of your partner's behavior determines the right kind of help and prevents further harm. Integrity Abuse & Entitlement: When promises and empathy break down, healing can't begin until accountability replaces defensiveness. Safety Before Sex: Real intimacy rebuilds through empathy, co-regulation, and emotional safety—not through “hysterical bonding” or performance. Favorite Quote “You don't go back to who you were before betrayal — you become someone wiser, clearer, and more grounded in truth.” Special Offers $97 Introductory Session – “Hope Rebuild Session” One hour, 1:1 on Zoom to locate your stage of healing and map your next right step. Book at: IntroductorySession.com Free FLAUNT!® Book Club + Workshop (Dec 1) Walk through the five steps of FLAUNT! to move from collapse to expansion—and rekindle hope. Register free: TheFlauntBook.com (buy the book wherever books are sold) Free Betrayal Recovery Guide Your step-by-step companion for healing after infidelity. Download: BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Download your FREE Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit and take back your power with clarity, confidence, and support that meets you where you are. ✅ Calm the chaos ✅ Rebuild self-trust ✅ Stop the spiral of second-guessing ✅ Reclaim your worth and your future
Hope After Betrayal: Rebuilding When Everything You Believed In Falls Apart “We don't always realize it, but one of the hardest parts of betrayal isn't the lies or even the loss of love—it's the shattering of hope.” — Lora Cheadle In this intimate episode, Lora reframes hope as the bridge between devastation and a life rebuilt—not toxic positivity or waiting for someone else to change, but grounded, embodied hope rooted in your choices, compassion, meaning, and connection. You'll hear the four stages of hope after betrayal (from false hope to grounded hope), how to spot the difference between wishful thinking and true hope, and five practical ways to bring hope back online in your body and your life—no matter which path your relationship takes. Top 3 Takeaways Name the real injury: The deepest wound of betrayal isn't just the loss of trust—it's the death of hope. Feeling hopeless is a nervous-system protection, not a personal failure. True hope vs. toxic hope: Toxic hope waits for someone else to change; true hope trusts you to create peace, safety, and joy again—regardless of the outcome. From flicker to foundation: Rebuild hope through Connection, Choice, Compassion, Meaning/Faith, and Embodiment—small, consistent actions that restore agency and let your body feel hopeful again. Favorite Quote “The deepest wound of betrayal isn't just the loss of trust—it's the death of hope.” Special Offers $97 Introductory Session – “Hope Rebuild Session” One hour, 1:1 on Zoom to locate your stage of healing and map your next right step. Book at: IntroductorySession.com Free FLAUNT!® Book Club + Workshop (Dec 1) Walk through the five steps of FLAUNT! to move from collapse to expansion—and rekindle hope. Register free: TheFlauntBook.com (buy the book wherever books are sold) Free Betrayal Recovery Guide Your step-by-step companion for healing after infidelity. Download: https://loracheadle.com/betrayal-recovery-guide/ LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Get your free downloadable guide on the “The Top Three Ways You Betray Yourself Every Day, and How to Stop” at www.burnoutorbetrayal.com. https://workplace-burnout.com/the-top-3-ways-you-betray-yourself-every-day-and-how-to-stop/ If you're ready to Rise Up & Reign as the creator and queen of your life, let's talk. I will walk by your side and give you the perspective, permission, and wisdom needed to turn your betrayal experience into something constructive, empowering, and transformative in all the right ways. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, TEDx speaker, and author of FLAUNT! and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal. After uncovering her husband's 15-year affair, she turned her own pain into purpose—helping high-achieving women reclaim their identity, power, and joy. A trauma-aware coach, somatic therapist, and former attorney, Lora blends legal insight with emotional and spiritual healing for full-spectrum recovery. She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT READY TO START A BETTER CHAPTER? Step into the future you've always dreamed of with the power of transformative rituals with the Mindful Subscription Box. Get a monthly box full of crystals, aromatherapy, and other spiritual tools worth $120. You deserve high-quality gems, crystals, oils, and mindfulness tools for self-care that truly work. It's a monthly dose of self-love delivered right to your door! Go to www.Mindfulsouls.com and use Discount Code LORA25 for 25% off your order!
Hope After Betrayal: Rebuilding When Everything You Believed In Falls Apart “We don't always realize it, but one of the hardest parts of betrayal isn't the lies or even the loss of love—it's the shattering of hope.” — Lora Cheadle In this intimate episode, Lora reframes hope as the bridge between devastation and a life rebuilt—not toxic positivity or waiting for someone else to change, but grounded, embodied hope rooted in your choices, compassion, meaning, and connection. You'll hear the four stages of hope after betrayal (from false hope to grounded hope), how to spot the difference between wishful thinking and true hope, and five practical ways to bring hope back online in your body and your life—no matter which path your relationship takes. Top 3 Takeaways Name the real injury: The deepest wound of betrayal isn't just the loss of trust—it's the death of hope. Feeling hopeless is a nervous-system protection, not a personal failure. True hope vs. toxic hope: Toxic hope waits for someone else to change; true hope trusts you to create peace, safety, and joy again—regardless of the outcome. From flicker to foundation: Rebuild hope through Connection, Choice, Compassion, Meaning/Faith, and Embodiment—small, consistent actions that restore agency and let your body feel hopeful again. Favorite Quote “The deepest wound of betrayal isn't just the loss of trust—it's the death of hope.” Special Offers $97 Introductory Session – “Hope Rebuild Session” One hour, 1:1 on Zoom to locate your stage of healing and map your next right step. Book at: IntroductorySession.com Free FLAUNT!® Book Club + Workshop (Dec 1) Walk through the five steps of FLAUNT! to move from collapse to expansion—and rekindle hope. Register free: TheFlauntBook.com (buy the book wherever books are sold) Free Betrayal Recovery Guide Your step-by-step companion for healing after infidelity. Download: BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Download your FREE Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit and take back your power with clarity, confidence, and support that meets you where you are. ✅ Calm the chaos ✅ Rebuild self-trust ✅ Stop the spiral of second-guessing ✅ Reclaim your worth and your future
How to Feel Like Yourself Again After Betrayal — Without Fixing a Thing “What if feeling like yourself again isn't about fixing anything—but releasing what isn't you anymore?” — Lora Cheadle Healing isn't supposed to be another job. In this soul-stirring solo episode, Lora Cheadle reframes recovery from betrayal, showing why focusing on fixing what's broken only keeps you stuck in the cycle of pain. Instead of “working on” yourself, what if you started creating yourself — not the perfect version, but the real one? Through the Alter Ego Embodiment Exercise from her book FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy & Spiritual Self, Lora invites you to use art, imagination, and movement to rediscover who you are beneath the masks, labels, and expectations. This isn't about performing for others — it's about performing to stop performing. You'll practice being the version of you who already feels peaceful, playful, and free, until it becomes second nature. Whether you're newly betrayed or years past discovery day, this episode will help you exhale, unclench, and reconnect with the woman inside who's ready to feel good again — not someday, but now. You'll Learn Why focusing on “healing” often leads to more healing work (and not more freedom) How to shift from fixing the past to creating your future self The safe, playful power of alter ego embodiment to reclaim confidence and joy How to integrate your shadow and higher self into a Statement of Divine Empowerment Why somatic release through dance and movement (like Yogalesque®) works better than thinking your way through pain Join the Creation and the Conversation: FREE FLAUNT! Book Club — Sunday, December 1st at 12 PM MT (on Zoom) Experience joy, laughter, and embodiment through live exercises and community connection. Get your Zoom link at www.TheFLAUNTBook.com FREE Yogalesque® Class — Second Sunday of every month Somatic dance and sensual movement to release pain and embody your authentic self. Register for your first session free: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dance-your-way-to-forgiveness-freedom-a-somatic-healing-series-tickets-1716708243569?aff=ebdsshcopyurl&utm-campaign=social&utm-content=attendeeshare&utm-medium=discovery&utm-term=listing&utm-source=cp Subscribe, rate, and review FLAUNT! to help others uncover the power of radical self-worth and post-betrayal joy Join Sanctuary of the Soul — Just $47/month Your safe haven for healing after betrayal. Each month, you'll receive: 2-hour live group coaching call on the 13th Channeled message from The Librarians Somatic processing and spiritual rituals Legal insight to protect your peace Sisterhood support from women who truly get it You don't have to walk this road alone. Step into a community that integrates mind, body, spirit, and safety — so you rise whole, sovereign, and free. Join now www.SparkleAllSeason.com LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Get your free downloadable guide on the “The Top Three Ways You Betray Yourself Every Day, and How to Stop” at www.burnoutorbetrayal.com. https://workplace-burnout.com/the-top-3-ways-you-betray-yourself-every-day-and-how-to-stop/ If you're ready to Rise Up & Reign as the creator and queen of your life, let's talk. I will walk by your side and give you the perspective, permission, and wisdom needed to turn your betrayal experience into something constructive, empowering, and transformative in all the right ways. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, TEDx speaker, and author of FLAUNT! and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal. After uncovering her husband's 15-year affair, she turned her own pain into purpose—helping high-achieving women reclaim their identity, power, and joy. A trauma-aware coach, somatic therapist, and former attorney, Lora blends legal insight with emotional and spiritual healing for full-spectrum recovery. She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT READY TO START A BETTER CHAPTER? Step into the future you've always dreamed of with the power of transformative rituals with the Mindful Subscription Box. Get a monthly box full of crystals, aromatherapy, and other spiritual tools worth $120. You deserve high-quality gems, crystals, oils, and mindfulness tools for self-care that truly work. It's a monthly dose of self-love delivered right to your door! Go to www.Mindfulsouls.com and use Discount Code LORA25 for 25% off your order!
Have you ever been betrayed? You're probably thinking, “Of course I have, Jen.” That can be betrayal in a professional relationship with a boss or colleague or as devastating as marriage infidelity. But have you thought of burnout as a form of self-betrayal? When I saw Lora Cheadle, my guest today, refer to burnout that way, I was like “Ouch. That is some tough love right there.” I was intrigued and wanted to learn more about Lora's perspective on betrayal.During the show, Lora and I chatted about:Her personal betrayal storyWhat Lora thinks of burnout as a form of self-betrayalKey tips on how you can rise above betrayal and thrive personally and professionallyHer Flaunt FrameworkWe touch on Lora's books, FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self, and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal, 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. Here is more about Lora:Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt, is a betrayal recovery coach, licensed attorney (CO & CA), somatic attachment therapist, clinical hypnotherapist, and international speaker who guides women through the soul-shattering impact of infidelity into a life reclaimed. As the creator of Life Choreography® and the FLAUNT!® Framework, she offers the complete path of healing—legal, emotional, somatic, and spiritual—so women rise whole, sovereign, and free.Author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self, (an International Book Awards finalist and Tattered Cover bestseller) and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal, 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive, Lora blends the precision of a lawyer, the compassion of a trauma-aware coach, the depth of somatic and spiritual practice, and the channeled wisdom of The Librarians with the lived experience of surviving infidelity herself.
“What if feeling like yourself again isn't about fixing anything—but releasing what isn't you anymore?” — Lora Cheadle Healing isn't supposed to be another job. In this soul-stirring solo episode, Lora Cheadle reframes recovery from betrayal, showing why focusing on fixing what's broken only keeps you stuck in the cycle of pain. Instead of “working on” yourself, what if you started creating yourself — not the perfect version, but the real one? Through the Alter Ego Embodiment Exercise from her book FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy & Spiritual Self, Lora invites you to use art, imagination, and movement to rediscover who you are beneath the masks, labels, and expectations. This isn't about performing for others — it's about performing to stop performing. You'll practice being the version of you who already feels peaceful, playful, and free, until it becomes second nature. Whether you're newly betrayed or years past discovery day, this episode will help you exhale, unclench, and reconnect with the woman inside who's ready to feel good again — not someday, but now. You'll Learn Why focusing on “healing” often leads to more healing work (and not more freedom) How to shift from fixing the past to creating your future self The safe, playful power of alter ego embodiment to reclaim confidence and joy How to integrate your shadow and higher self into a Statement of Divine Empowerment Why somatic release through dance and movement (like Yogalesque®) works better than thinking your way through pain Join the Creation and the Conversation: FREE FLAUNT! Book Club — Sunday, December 1st at 12 PM MT (on Zoom) Experience joy, laughter, and embodiment through live exercises and community connection. Get your Zoom link at www.TheFLAUNTBook.com FREE Yogalesque® Class — Second Sunday of every month Somatic dance and sensual movement to release pain and embody your authentic self. Register for your first session free: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dance-your-way-to-forgiveness-freedom-a-somatic-healing-series-tickets-1716708243569?aff=ebdsshcopyurl&utm-campaign=social&utm-content=attendeeshare&utm-medium=discovery&utm-term=listing&utm-source=cp LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Download your FREE Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit and take back your power with clarity, confidence, and support that meets you where you are. ✅ Calm the chaos ✅ Rebuild self-trust ✅ Stop the spiral of second-guessing ✅ Reclaim your worth and your future
Feeling Like “It's Not Fair” After Betrayal? Let Go of Blame, Choose Peace & Reclaim Your Power –A coaching session with Jane “You can have a grudge or you can have freedom—but you can't have both.” — Lora Cheadle When betrayal detonates your life, “It's not fair” becomes the drumbeat in your head. In this intimate coaching session with “Jane,” we walk the real path from righteous anger and blame to sovereignty: naming what's actually happening (mental/physical exhaustion), discerning what you can control (boundaries, micro-choices), and choosing peace over the power of the grudge. If you've been holding the story together for your kids, your home, and everyone else—while seething at the unequal load—this conversation will meet you exactly where you are and offer a way through. Top 3 Takeaways Grudge vs. Freedom: You can have a grudge or you can have freedom—but not both. The shift begins by noticing when you're in blame and choosing peace on purpose. Name the Real Problem: Trade the story (“This is all his fault”) for the truth in your body (“This is mentally and physically exhausting”). Naming what is puts your power where your feet are. Micro-Choices Restore Agency: One firm “no” a week and one nourishing “yes” a week for six weeks changes your nervous system, your schedule, and your sense of self. Episode Highlights Why anger is sometimes a functional fuel—and how to thank it without letting it drive. The fairness myth: differentiating external unfairness from creating internal justice. “Give him the victim seat.” If someone must occupy it, let it be him—so you can choose the seat of peace. Language swap that changes everything: from “I have to” → “I am choosing to.” A simple boundary: “Please stop texting me.” Why this one sentence matters for your nervous system and your future. Subscribe, rate, and review FLAUNT! to help others uncover the power of radical self-worth and post-betrayal joy Join Sanctuary of the Soul — Just $47/month Your safe haven for healing after betrayal. Each month, you'll receive: 2-hour live group coaching call on the 13th Channeled message from The Librarians Somatic processing and spiritual rituals Legal insight to protect your peace Sisterhood support from women who truly get it You don't have to walk this road alone. Step into a community that integrates mind, body, spirit, and safety — so you rise whole, sovereign, and free. Join now www.SparkleAllSeason.com LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Get your free downloadable guide on the “The Top Three Ways You Betray Yourself Every Day, and How to Stop” at www.burnoutorbetrayal.com. https://workplace-burnout.com/the-top-3-ways-you-betray-yourself-every-day-and-how-to-stop/ If you're ready to Rise Up & Reign as the creator and queen of your life, let's talk. I will walk by your side and give you the perspective, permission, and wisdom needed to turn your betrayal experience into something constructive, empowering, and transformative in all the right ways. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, TEDx speaker, and author of FLAUNT! and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal. After uncovering her husband's 15-year affair, she turned her own pain into purpose—helping high-achieving women reclaim their identity, power, and joy. A trauma-aware coach, somatic therapist, and former attorney, Lora blends legal insight with emotional and spiritual healing for full-spectrum recovery. She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT READY TO START A BETTER CHAPTER? Step into the future you've always dreamed of with the power of transformative rituals with the Mindful Subscription Box. Get a monthly box full of crystals, aromatherapy, and other spiritual tools worth $120. You deserve high-quality gems, crystals, oils, and mindfulness tools for self-care that truly work. It's a monthly dose of self-love delivered right to your door! Go to www.Mindfulsouls.com and use Discount Code LORA25 for 25% off your order!
“You can have a grudge or you can have freedom—but you can't have both.” — Lora Cheadle When betrayal detonates your life, “It's not fair” becomes the drumbeat in your head. In this intimate coaching session with “Jane,” we walk the real path from righteous anger and blame to sovereignty: naming what's actually happening (mental/physical exhaustion), discerning what you can control (boundaries, micro-choices), and choosing peace over the power of the grudge. If you've been holding the story together for your kids, your home, and everyone else—while seething at the unequal load—this conversation will meet you exactly where you are and offer a way through. Top 3 Takeaways Grudge vs. Freedom: You can have a grudge or you can have freedom—but not both. The shift begins by noticing when you're in blame and choosing peace on purpose. Name the Real Problem: Trade the story (“This is all his fault”) for the truth in your body (“This is mentally and physically exhausting”). Naming what is puts your power where your feet are. Micro-Choices Restore Agency: One firm “no” a week and one nourishing “yes” a week for six weeks changes your nervous system, your schedule, and your sense of self. Episode Highlights Why anger is sometimes a functional fuel—and how to thank it without letting it drive. The fairness myth: differentiating external unfairness from creating internal justice. “Give him the victim seat.” If someone must occupy it, let it be him—so you can choose the seat of peace. Language swap that changes everything: from “I have to” → “I am choosing to.” A simple boundary: “Please stop texting me.” Why this one sentence matters for your nervous system and your future.
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What Healing Really Is (and Isn't) After Betrayal Humility, Choice, and Community –with Wendi Cohen ““Just because you make the final decision does not mean you were the cause.” — Lora Cheadle “Healing” gets thrown around a lot—but in real life it's messy, non-linear, and humbling. In this intimate conversation, Lora and healer/mentor Wendi (formerly of the Chopra Center; now on the Lee Harris team) unpack what healing actually looks like after infidelity, health crises, and identity rupture—and why your “opening” matters more than any timeline. If you've ever wondered, Why don't I feel better yet? Am I doing this wrong?—this episode is for you. Lora and Wendi reveal the lived truth of recovery: three steps forward, two back; grief cycling; learning to receive; and choosing yourself even when others don't approve. You'll hear how meditation created space beyond the mind, why the body never lies, how community can “hold the frequency” when you can't, and the liberating shift from I am my story to I write my story. Expect practical reframes you can use today—especially if you're a high-achieving woman who's tired of doing it all alone. Top 3 Takeaways Healing is non-linear (and normal). Think Chutes & Ladders, not a straight line. You'll revisit layers like grief, anger, and acceptance—and that doesn't mean you're failing. Humility opens the door. Letting go of the “if I do everything right, bad things won't happen” myth creates room for curiosity, compassion, and real change. You're allowed to choose you. Boundaries, receiving support, and rewriting the narrative are acts of power. Your agency—not other people's opinions—defines your direction. Episode Highlights The “opening”: the moment you realize you can author a different story than the one you were handed. From people-pleasing to permission: upsetting others vs. honoring your inner yes. Mind-Body-Spirit integration: why meditation quiets the narrative so the body's intelligence can be heard. Community as medicine: when you can't hold the frequency, let safe containers hold it for you. Identity shifts: you are not your past roles (spouse, fixer, PTA star, marathoner); you are the one choosing what's next. Resources Mentioned Group meditation & mantra practice (Chopra Center origins) Lee Harris retreats/“Soul Magic” weekends Nature as regulation (beach, trees, grounding) A Course in Miracles prompt: “Am I willing to see this differently?” About Wendi With contagious joy and heart, all that Wendi Cohen offers is with the intention of healthy change. She has been a dynamic and instrumental force helping people from all over the world as an educator and mentor in the field of spirituality and wellness. Highly regarded for her many years at the Chopra Center for Wellbeing, she managed and facilitated their signature program, Perfect Health. Working with Dr. Deepak Chopra and being involved with cutting edge research in meditation and Ayurveda there, Wendi has been up close and personal with the brightest minds in the wellness industry. Now working with Lee Harris Energy, she is the Director of Studio Operations and a producer who uses her creative prowess, intuition and vision to support transformational work. What makes her special in this field, is that she found meditation and mindfulness on her own path to healing after being diagnosed with a rare and chronic illness in 2003. Her insatiable curiosity and ability to think outside of the box led her to looking at integrative approaches. That is when she had profound shifts in her health and also fell in love with meditation. As a result of her journey, Wendi has a deep capacity to understand the many challenges people face when looking at healing and transformation. She is also a board certified Integrative NLP Practitioner and trained in Authentic Communication. Being of service is when Wendi is the happiest - supporting people so they feel more peaceful, clear, and grounded, experiencing more love and inspiration in their lives is what lights her up. Her mantra is "follow the fun" and that is EXACTLY what she hopes to inspire in others. The Humility of Healing... By Wendi Cohen Healing is often a misunderstood journey that reveals lessons in humility and the chance for deep learning, uncovering aspects of ourselves, if and only if, we are willing to look at them. By allowing and receiving, staying open and getting creative, thinking with our hearts while feeling our bodies, there can be some profound shifts in how we experience the challenge - whether it is physical, emotional or heart based. In my case, it was learning to navigate a new 'normal' after a life-changing diagnosis that rocked my world. My path has been messy while stunningly beautiful, scary and empowering - filled with moments I'd never ever want to revisit AND also so many moments of being the recipient of so much love and generosity, from unexpected places. When we have a better understanding that healing isn't necessarily linear - that it can be like a game of chutes and ladders or riding a roller coaster that takes your breath away, heart opening and heart breaking - but with the infusion of creativity, receptivity, a sense of humor and beginning new each day, it can become less jarring. Now twenty years later, to have had the good fortune to learn and then work with some of the most extraordinary visionaries, teachers, healers, and with my clients, I am truly humbled by it all - the good, the challenging and what has yet to come. Favorite Quote “Healing isn't something you do once and finish. It's the willingness to meet yourself again and again—with humility, curiosity, and love.” — Wendi Subscribe, rate, and review FLAUNT! to help others uncover the power of radical self-worth and post-betrayal joy Join Sanctuary of the Soul — Just $47/month Your safe haven for healing after betrayal. Each month, you'll receive: 2-hour live group coaching call on the 13th Channeled message from The Librarians Somatic processing and spiritual rituals Legal insight to protect your peace Sisterhood support from women who truly get it You don't have to walk this road alone. Step into a community that integrates mind, body, spirit, and safety — so you rise whole, sovereign, and free. Join now www.SparkleAllSeason.com LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Get your free downloadable guide on the “The Top Three Ways You Betray Yourself Every Day, and How to Stop” at www.burnoutorbetrayal.com. https://workplace-burnout.com/the-top-3-ways-you-betray-yourself-every-day-and-how-to-stop/ If you're ready to Rise Up & Reign as the creator and queen of your life, let's talk. I will walk by your side and give you the perspective, permission, and wisdom needed to turn your betrayal experience into something constructive, empowering, and transformative in all the right ways. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, TEDx speaker, and author of FLAUNT! and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal. After uncovering her husband's 15-year affair, she turned her own pain into purpose—helping high-achieving women reclaim their identity, power, and joy. A trauma-aware coach, somatic therapist, and former attorney, Lora blends legal insight with emotional and spiritual healing for full-spectrum recovery. She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT READY TO START A BETTER CHAPTER? Step into the future you've always dreamed of with the power of transformative rituals with the Mindful Subscription Box. Get a monthly box full of crystals, aromatherapy, and other spiritual tools worth $120. You deserve high-quality gems, crystals, oils, and mindfulness tools for self-care that truly work. It's a monthly dose of self-love delivered right to your door! Go to www.Mindfulsouls.com and use Discount Code LORA25 for 25% off your order!
“Just because you make the final decision does not mean you were the cause.” — Lora Cheadle “Healing” gets thrown around a lot—but in real life it's messy, non-linear, and humbling. In this intimate conversation, Lora and healer/mentor Wendi (formerly of the Chopra Center; now on the Lee Harris team) unpack what healing actually looks like after infidelity, health crises, and identity rupture—and why your “opening” matters more than any timeline. If you've ever wondered, Why don't I feel better yet? Am I doing this wrong?—this episode is for you. Lora and Wendi reveal the lived truth of recovery: three steps forward, two back; grief cycling; learning to receive; and choosing yourself even when others don't approve. You'll hear how meditation created space beyond the mind, why the body never lies, how community can “hold the frequency” when you can't, and the liberating shift from I am my story to I write my story. Expect practical reframes you can use today—especially if you're a high-achieving woman who's tired of doing it all alone. Top 3 Takeaways Healing is non-linear (and normal). Think Chutes & Ladders, not a straight line. You'll revisit layers like grief, anger, and acceptance—and that doesn't mean you're failing. Humility opens the door. Letting go of the “if I do everything right, bad things won't happen” myth creates room for curiosity, compassion, and real change. You're allowed to choose you. Boundaries, receiving support, and rewriting the narrative are acts of power. Your agency—not other people's opinions—defines your direction. Episode Highlights The “opening”: the moment you realize you can author a different story than the one you were handed. From people-pleasing to permission: upsetting others vs. honoring your inner yes. Mind-Body-Spirit integration: why meditation quiets the narrative so the body's intelligence can be heard. Community as medicine: when you can't hold the frequency, let safe containers hold it for you. Identity shifts: you are not your past roles (spouse, fixer, PTA star, marathoner); you are the one choosing what's next. Resources Mentioned Group meditation & mantra practice (Chopra Center origins) Lee Harris retreats/“Soul Magic” weekends Nature as regulation (beach, trees, grounding) A Course in Miracles prompt: “Am I willing to see this differently?” About Wendi With contagious joy and heart, all that Wendi Cohen offers is with the intention of healthy change. She has been a dynamic and instrumental force helping people from all over the world as an educator and mentor in the field of spirituality and wellness. Highly regarded for her many years at the Chopra Center for Wellbeing, she managed and facilitated their signature program, Perfect Health. Working with Dr. Deepak Chopra and being involved with cutting edge research in meditation and Ayurveda there, Wendi has been up close and personal with the brightest minds in the wellness industry. Now working with Lee Harris Energy, she is the Director of Studio Operations and a producer who uses her creative prowess, intuition and vision to support transformational work. What makes her special in this field, is that she found meditation and mindfulness on her own path to healing after being diagnosed with a rare and chronic illness in 2003. Her insatiable curiosity and ability to think outside of the box led her to looking at integrative approaches. That is when she had profound shifts in her health and also fell in love with meditation. As a result of her journey, Wendi has a deep capacity to understand the many challenges people face when looking at healing and transformation. She is also a board certified Integrative NLP Practitioner and trained in Authentic Communication. Being of service is when Wendi is the happiest - supporting people so they feel more peaceful, clear, and grounded, experiencing more love and inspiration in their lives is what lights her up. Her mantra is "follow the fun" and that is EXACTLY what she hopes to inspire in others. The Humility of Healing..... By Wendi Cohen Healing is often a misunderstood journey that reveals lessons in humility and the chance for deep learning, uncovering aspects of ourselves, if and only if, we are willing to look at them. By allowing and receiving, staying open and getting creative, thinking with our hearts while feeling our bodies, there can be some profound shifts in how we experience the challenge - whether it is physical, emotional or heart based. In my case, it was learning to navigate a new 'normal' after a life-changing diagnosis that rocked my world. My path has been messy while stunningly beautiful, scary and empowering - filled with moments I'd never ever want to revisit AND also so many moments of being the recipient of so much love and generosity, from unexpected places. When we have a better understanding that healing isn't necessarily linear - that it can be like a game of chutes and ladders or riding a roller coaster that takes your breath away, heart opening and heart breaking - but with the infusion of creativity, receptivity, a sense of humor and beginning new each day, it can become less jarring. Now twenty years later, to have had the good fortune to learn and then work with some of the most extraordinary visionaries, teachers, healers, and with my clients, I am truly humbled by it all - the good, the challenging and what has yet to come. Favorite Quote “Healing isn't something you do once and finish. It's the willingness to meet yourself again and again—with humility, curiosity, and love.” — Wendi
Afraid You'll Mess This Up? How to Stop Analysis Paralysis After Infidelity (Regulate First, Decide Second) “Just because you make the final decision does not mean you were the cause.” — Lora Cheadle Terrified you'll make the wrong move and “blow up” your life—even though you didn't cause the betrayal? In this episode, Lora Cheadle breaks down why smart, high-achieving women get stuck in analysis paralysis after infidelity and how to shift from panic to self-trust. Learn to spot fight/flight/freeze/fawn (fix), regulate your nervous system in minutes, and make clear decisions you won't regret. You'll also get a powerful responsibility reframe (final decision ≠ cause) plus Lora's unforgettable “dog-poop on the carpet” analogy to help you choose the right next step—therapy, coaching, or pause—without fear of “messing it up.” Perfect for women ready to reclaim their voice, their worth, and their future. Top 3 Takeaways Regulate before you decide: Identify fight/flight/freeze/fawn and use quick somatic resets to bring your thinking brain back online. Final decision ≠ cause: Choosing divorce—or staying—doesn't mean you “blew it up.” Accountability stays with the betrayer. Your strengths were hijacked, not wrong: You weren't cheated on because you're weak; your high-achiever traits were exploited. Use them now to choose wisely. “You were not cheated on because you're worthless. You were cheated on because you're powerful.” – Lora Cheadle Subscribe, rate, and review FLAUNT! to help others uncover the power of radical self-worth and post-betrayal joy Join Sanctuary of the Soul — Just $47/month Your safe haven for healing after betrayal. Each month, you'll receive: 2-hour live group coaching call on the 13th Channeled message from The Librarians Somatic processing and spiritual rituals Legal insight to protect your peace Sisterhood support from women who truly get it You don't have to walk this road alone. Step into a community that integrates mind, body, spirit, and safety — so you rise whole, sovereign, and free. Join now www.SparkleAllSeason.com LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Get your free downloadable guide on the “The Top Three Ways You Betray Yourself Every Day, and How to Stop” at www.burnoutorbetrayal.com. https://workplace-burnout.com/the-top-3-ways-you-betray-yourself-every-day-and-how-to-stop/ If you're ready to Rise Up & Reign as the creator and queen of your life, let's talk. I will walk by your side and give you the perspective, permission, and wisdom needed to turn your betrayal experience into something constructive, empowering, and transformative in all the right ways. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, TEDx speaker, and author of FLAUNT! and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal. After uncovering her husband's 15-year affair, she turned her own pain into purpose—helping high-achieving women reclaim their identity, power, and joy. A trauma-aware coach, somatic therapist, and former attorney, Lora blends legal insight with emotional and spiritual healing for full-spectrum recovery. She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT READY TO START A BETTER CHAPTER? Step into the future you've always dreamed of with the power of transformative rituals with the Mindful Subscription Box. Get a monthly box full of crystals, aromatherapy, and other spiritual tools worth $120. You deserve high-quality gems, crystals, oils, and mindfulness tools for self-care that truly work. It's a monthly dose of self-love delivered right to your door! Go to www.Mindfulsouls.com and use Discount Code LORA25 for 25% off your order!
““Just because you make the final decision does not mean you were the cause.” — Lora Cheadle Terrified you'll make the wrong move and “blow up” your life—even though you didn't cause the betrayal? In this episode, Lora Cheadle breaks down why smart, high-achieving women get stuck in analysis paralysis after infidelity and how to shift from panic to self-trust. Learn to spot fight/flight/freeze/fawn (fix), regulate your nervous system in minutes, and make clear decisions you won't regret. You'll also get a powerful responsibility reframe (final decision ≠ cause) plus Lora's unforgettable “dog-poop on the carpet” analogy to help you choose the right next step—therapy, coaching, or pause—without fear of “messing it up.” Perfect for women ready to reclaim their voice, their worth, and their future. Top 3 Takeaways Regulate before you decide: Identify fight/flight/freeze/fawn and use quick somatic resets to bring your thinking brain back online. Final decision ≠ cause: Choosing divorce—or staying—doesn't mean you “blew it up.” Accountability stays with the betrayer. Your strengths were hijacked, not wrong: You weren't cheated on because you're weak; your high-achiever traits were exploited. Use them now to choose wisely. “You were not cheated on because you're worthless. You were cheated on because you're powerful.” – Lora Cheadle
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The Truth About Closure: Why We Want It, How to Get It & When to Walk Away “Know who you're dealing with before you seek closure. Can you be okay with every possible reaction? If not, don't set yourself up for more harm.” — Dr. Gary McClain “If I could just get closure…” How many times have you said those words after betrayal, breakup, or loss? In this powerful episode of FLAUNT!, Lora Cheadle sits down with Dr. Gary McClain—psychotherapist, relationship coach, and author of The Power of Closure: Why We Want It, How to Get It, and When to Walk Away. Together, they unravel the myths about closure, why we crave it, and the surprising ways it can either heal or harm us. From ghosting to infidelity, narcissistic partners to unspoken endings, you'll learn how to stop chasing the fairytale ending and start creating compassionate closure—whether or not the other person is willing to participate. This is the episode that will change the way you think about “the end” forever. Top 3 Takeaways Closure isn't always what you think it is. Sometimes it's not about a neat ending—it's about validating yourself, choosing compassion, and walking away whole. Intentions matter. Before seeking closure, ask yourself: Do I want understanding, forgiveness, to be “right,” or to hurt them back? Your intention determines your outcome. You don't always need them to heal. Even if the betrayer refuses contact (or is unavailable), you can find closure by processing your grief, reconnecting with yourself, and embracing life again. “Closure doesn't always come from them—it often comes from choosing yourself.” – Lora Cheadle Subscribe, rate, and review FLAUNT! to help others uncover the power of radical self-worth and post-betrayal joy Join Sanctuary of the Soul — Just $47/month Your safe haven for healing after betrayal. Each month, you'll receive: 2-hour live group coaching call on the 13th Channeled message from The Librarians Somatic processing and spiritual rituals Legal insight to protect your peace Sisterhood support from women who truly get it You don't have to walk this road alone. Step into a community that integrates mind, body, spirit, and safety — so you rise whole, sovereign, and free. Join now www.SparkleAllSeason.com LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Get your free downloadable guide on the “The Top Three Ways You Betray Yourself Every Day, and How to Stop” at www.burnoutorbetrayal.com. https://workplace-burnout.com/the-top-3-ways-you-betray-yourself-every-day-and-how-to-stop/ If you're ready to Rise Up & Reign as the creator and queen of your life, let's talk. I will walk by your side and give you the perspective, permission, and wisdom needed to turn your betrayal experience into something constructive, empowering, and transformative in all the right ways. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, TEDx speaker, and author of FLAUNT! and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal. After uncovering her husband's 15-year affair, she turned her own pain into purpose—helping high-achieving women reclaim their identity, power, and joy. A trauma-aware coach, somatic therapist, and former attorney, Lora blends legal insight with emotional and spiritual healing for full-spectrum recovery. She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT READY TO START A BETTER CHAPTER? Step into the future you've always dreamed of with the power of transformative rituals with the Mindful Subscription Box. Get a monthly box full of crystals, aromatherapy, and other spiritual tools worth $120. You deserve high-quality gems, crystals, oils, and mindfulness tools for self-care that truly work. It's a monthly dose of self-love delivered right to your door! Go to www.Mindfulsouls.com and use Discount Code LORA25 for 25% off your order!
If you've ever felt like burnout remedies just don't work for you, this episode might explain why. I'm joined by Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt—leadership wellness coach, TEDx speaker, and author—who introduces a powerful concept: sometimes what we think is burnout is actually betrayal. We explore how unspoken expectations, self-abandonment, and identity gaps can quietly exhaust us. This conversation is for every high achiever who's felt unappreciated, overextended, or lost in their own ambition. In this episode, you will learn: The key difference between burnout and betrayal How hidden expectations and self-betrayal fuel exhaustion Lora's FUEL UP method for healing and reclaiming energy How to shift from victimhood to empowerment Small daily shifts to protect your energy and honor your values Connect with Lora: It's Not Burnout It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive Book: https://www.amazon.com/Its-Not-Burnout-Betrayal-Thrive/dp/B0DSTSTRN1 Free guide: Burnout Uncovered: https://workplace-burnout.com/the-top-3-ways-you-betray-yourself-every-day-and-how-to-stop/ Lora Cheadle's Website: www.workplace-burnout.com ——————— Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for high achievers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident from within. ———————
Are you a high-achieving woman who struggles with self-doubt and second-guessing? This episode is your guide to finding clarity and confidence by tapping into a form of wisdom you've always had: your body's intelligence! Join host Kate House and special guest Jen Aks, a leadership coach and author, as she shares her journey from debilitating self-doubt to teaching a revolutionary approach to authentic leadership. Jen introduces us to her signature practice, The Power of Gesture®, which helps you connect your mind and body to make aligned decisions. Today you'll learn:
Knowledge & Injury of Betrayal: How Truth Becomes Justice After Infidelity “The knowledge is what hurt me. The knowledge is also what saved me. Justice began when I chose truth and stopped betraying myself.” – Lora Cheadle What exactly was injured by betrayal—the body, the bank account, your heart, or your reality? In this powerful episode, Lora reframes the “injury” of infidelity and reveals why knowledge is both what hurts and what heals. Former attorney and betrayal recovery coach Lora Cheadle guides you through a rare lens on infidelity: damages and justice. Drawing on litigation concepts (compensation, wrongful death, restitution), she asks the unaskable: If you hadn't known, would you have been hurt? From STDs and financial losses to shattered expectations and gaslighting, Lora shows how the knowledge of betrayal creates the sharpest pain—and how that same knowledge becomes your path to truth, agency, and inner justice. You'll leave with precise journaling prompts, somatic supports, and a brave new definition of being “made whole.” Top 3 Takeaways Name the real injury: Beyond physical and financial harm, betrayal injures perception—your story of self, partner, and past. Knowledge is the wound that reveals the truth. Justice starts inside: Courts price damages in dollars; your healing prices them in truth, boundaries, self-respect, and choice. External amends help—but inner justice completes the repair. From martyr to sovereign: Stop abandoning yourself. Make and keep unbroken promises to you—sleep, nourishment, movement, time, money, voice—and take what you need to heal. Subscribe, rate, and review FLAUNT! to help others uncover the power of radical self-worth and post-betrayal joy. Join Sanctuary of the Soul — Just $47/month Your safe haven for healing after betrayal. Each month, you'll receive: · 2-hour live group coaching call on the 13th · Channeled message from The Librarians · Somatic processing and spiritual rituals · Legal insight to protect your peace · Sisterhood support from women who truly get it You don't have to walk this road alone. Step into a community that integrates mind, body, spirit, and safety — so you rise whole, sovereign, and free. Join now www.SparkleAllSeason.com LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Get your free downloadable guide on the “The Top Three Ways You Betray Yourself Every Day, and How to Stop” at www.burnoutorbetrayal.com. https://workplace-burnout.com/the-top-3-ways-you-betray-yourself-every-day-and-how-to-stop/ If you're ready to Rise Up & Reign as the creator and queen of your life, let's talk. I will walk by your side and give you the perspective, permission, and wisdom needed to turn your betrayal experience into something constructive, empowering, and transformative in all the right ways. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, TEDx speaker, and author of FLAUNT! and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal. After uncovering her husband's 15-year affair, she turned her own pain into purpose—helping high-achieving women reclaim their identity, power, and joy. A trauma-aware coach, somatic therapist, and former attorney, Lora blends legal insight with emotional and spiritual healing for full-spectrum recovery. She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT READY TO START A BETTER CHAPTER? Step into the future you've always dreamed of with the power of transformative rituals with the Mindful Subscription Box. Get a monthly box full of crystals, aromatherapy, and other spiritual tools worth $120. You deserve high-quality gems, crystals, oils, and mindfulness tools for self-care that truly work. It's a monthly dose of self-love delivered right to your door! Go to www.Mindfulsouls.com and use Discount Code LORA25 for 25% off your order!
Knowledge & Injury of Betrayal: How Truth Becomes Justice After Infidelity “The knowledge is what hurt me. The knowledge is also what saved me. Justice began when I chose truth and stopped betraying myself.” – Lora Cheadle What exactly was injured by betrayal—the body, the bank account, your heart, or your reality? In this powerful episode, Lora reframes the “injury” of infidelity and reveals why knowledge is both what hurts and what heals. Former attorney and betrayal recovery coach Lora Cheadle guides you through a rare lens on infidelity: damages and justice. Drawing on litigation concepts (compensation, wrongful death, restitution), she asks the unaskable: If you hadn't known, would you have been hurt? From STDs and financial losses to shattered expectations and gaslighting, Lora shows how the knowledge of betrayal creates the sharpest pain—and how that same knowledge becomes your path to truth, agency, and inner justice. You'll leave with precise journaling prompts, somatic supports, and a brave new definition of being “made whole.” Top 3 Takeaways Name the real injury: Beyond physical and financial harm, betrayal injures perception—your story of self, partner, and past. Knowledge is the wound that reveals the truth. Justice starts inside: Courts price damages in dollars; your healing prices them in truth, boundaries, self-respect, and choice. External amends help—but inner justice completes the repair. From martyr to sovereign: Stop abandoning yourself. Make and keep unbroken promises to you—sleep, nourishment, movement, time, money, voice—and take what you need to heal.
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“An anniversary after betrayal doesn't have to be a day of despair — it can become a day of choice, truth, and self-reclamation.” – Lora Wondering what to do with your wedding anniversary after infidelity or betrayal? Whether you're still together, separated, or unsure, anniversaries can feel like emotional landmines. This episode gives you the clarity, options, and healing tools to reclaim the day as yours. In this powerful episode of FLAUNT!, betrayal recovery coach Lora Cheadle unpacks why anniversaries after an affair feel so painful (hint: broken expectations) and shares practical and soulful ways to face the date. From choosing to skip it, reframing it as your milestone, creating rituals of release, to transforming it with your partner, you'll discover how to honor your grief while reclaiming your agency. Lora weaves in real stories—including her own 30th anniversary, healing rituals like bridge crossings, and how she reframed the day with a heart-shaped diamond flamingo ring engraved with FLAUNT—to show you how an anniversary can become a moment of choice, truth, and self-celebration. Top 3 Takeaways: Why anniversaries hurt after betrayal: How ruptured expectations and old coping defaults trigger grief, anger, and overwhelm. Four healthy ways to navigate the day: Skip it, reframe it for yourself, transform it with ritual, or use it as a practical step toward reclaiming your life. Healing tools that work: Boundaries (“I'm not ready to celebrate” is a complete sentence), somatic practices, journaling, and rituals that help you transform despair into empowerment.
“I deserve to be adored. I deserve to be cherished. I also deserve to not have to wonder if something is going on. That's my boundary — and that brings me peace.” – Eve, When betrayal shatters your world, the path forward can feel impossible to find. In this deeply moving episode, I sit down with one of my amazing clients, Eve, who bravely shares her journey through infidelity, devastation, and the long road back to herself. Together, we walk through the raw reality of what it's like to reach out for help, set boundaries, and slowly begin to heal. Whether you're in the thick of betrayal or wondering what's possible for you on the other side, Eve's courage will give you hope, clarity, and the reassurance that you are not alone. Top 3 Takeaways: You're not crazy, you're not alone. Hearing another woman's real story can dissolve shame and remind you that your feelings are normal and valid. Boundaries bring peace. Even when the road is messy, clarity around what you will and won't accept sets you free. Healing is built step by step. Small choices and daily practices of self-trust add up to powerful transformation over time. Favorite Quote: “Anytime I think about making a different decision, I don't feel peace. And I always know to go with my peace.” – Eve
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