OCF Crosspoint Podcast

Crosspoint Highlights: Big ideas, short episodes … for your busy schedule Guests: Joshua and Lindsey Bowen From Episode 54: “The importance of small group fellowship.” Listen to the full episode here.    Highlight Summary: In this Crosspoint Highlight, Joshua and Lindsey Bowen reflect on the lasting impact of biblical community, mentorship, and servant leadership during their time in the military. They share how their early experiences in a diverse OCF small group at Fort Carson shaped their spiritual maturity and inspired them to pour into cadets at West Point years later. From late-night Bible studies to one-on-one mentoring moments, Josh and Lindsey offer a deeply personal look at how fellowship across generations can transform lives and prepare future military leaders for both spiritual and professional challenges. Find an OCF group near you Find out more about Christian mentoring   Key Takeaways: Intergenerational fellowship fosters growth: Being surrounded by older couples in their Fort Carson group helped Josh and Lindsey mature spiritually and understand what Christlike leadership looks like in marriage, military life, and beyond. Mentorship happens in everyday moments: Watching how mentors cared for their spouses, shared struggles, and modeled vulnerability left a deep and lasting impression on the Bowens—one they now strive to replicate. Leading means serving: As small group leaders at West Point, Josh and Lindsey invest time, energy, and emotional bandwidth into cadets—not just during Bible study, but through desserts, coffee chats, and showing up when it matters most. Spiritual black holes are real: Without proactive preparation, cadets can find themselves spiritually adrift after graduation. Josh shares candidly how his own post-academy faith stagnated, and how he now helps cadets plan ahead to avoid the same pitfall. God equips those He calls: Lindsey never saw herself in women's ministry or spiritual mentorship—until someone invited her. Now she thrives in that space, walking alongside young women facing challenges she never imagined when she was in their shoes.

OCF MINISTRY NEWS  Sign up for summer programs at the Conference Centers: Visit ocfusa.org/CCexperience to find the right program and week for you at Spring Canyon (Buena Vista, Colo.) or White Sulphur Springs (Manns Choice, Pa.). https://www.ocfusa.org/CCexperience/   Free Bible studies for OCFers and groups: Visit ocfusa.org/library to download, dive in, and leave a rating to help others discover one of these 18 impactful resources. https://www.ocfusa.org/library/   Help us keep the OCF community connected: If you or someone in your OCF circle has celebrated a birth, wedding, or experienced a loss since 1 March, please send updates to Courtney Burdick (courtney.burdick@ocfusa.org) for the next issue of our print newsletter.  Introducing Crosspoint Highlights: Don't miss our new episode format, designed to share just a portion of a previously posted podcast for an encouraging listen even when you're short on time. Find Crosspoint Highlights wherever you get your podcasts.    GUEST SPOTLIGHT  Today's guest spotlight features COL Kurt & Donna Schosek, USA (Ret.), who share their stories of hope through grief as they each lost a spouse before meeting and marrying one another. They talk about what surprised them most in the midst of their respective loss, GriefShare, the importance of community, what hurts, what helps, and more. https://www.griefshare.org/   They both have a heart to walk alongside those who have lost their spouses in any season of life, and the Schoseks will do just that later this year when they serve as speakers during the Summer R&R #6 program at White Sulphur Springs. https://www.whitesulphursprings.org/event/summer-rnr-6/  If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic we should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org.   POINTS TO PONDER  As you listen to this conversation with Kurt and Donna, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor:  If you've lost a loved one before, what helped you in the midst of your grief?  How would you describe what it means to grieve well?  What are your takeaways from the Schoseks about how you can care for others as they grieve?  What Bible passages comfort you most during loss? 

Welcome to Crosspoint Highlights: Big ideas. Short episodes. For your busy schedule. Guest: Col Chet Arnold, USMC (Ret.) From Episode 46: “May a Christian Serve in the Military?” Listen to the full episode here. Highlight Summary: Can a Christian serve in the military and still follow Jesus' command to love their enemies? In this Crosspoint Highlight, Col Chet Arnold, USMC (Ret.), tackles the difficult topic of killing in combat from a Biblical perspective. Drawing from both the Old and New Testaments, Chet explains why understanding the sanctity of life and the God-given authority of government is essential for military believers. He also challenges listeners to avoid dehumanizing their enemies and to grieve the loss of life—even in war—through the lens of being made in God's image. Be sure to check out our article by the same name, "May A Christian Serve in the Military?" Key Takeaways: The sanctity of life is foundational: All people are made in God's image—even those considered enemies. God delegates authority to governments: Genesis 9 establishes the basis for protection and justice, even when that includes the use of force. Jesus' command to turn the other cheek applies to personal offense, not to military or governmental responsibility (Matthew 5:39). Dehumanizing the enemy leads to spiritual and emotional damage: Christians are called to mourn every life lost, even in war. Grieving rightly matters: Proper understanding of life's value can reduce the impact of trauma and moral injury after combat. Mentioned Bible Verses: Genesis 1 – Humans are created in the image of God. Genesis 9 – God delegates to human government the authority to take life in matters of justice. Matthew 5:39 – “Do not resist the one who is evil… turn to him the other [cheek] also.”

Quick links: Summer R&R 1 at White Sulphur Springs All Summer R&R sessions at WSS All Summer Celebrations at Spring Canyon The Starting Point Project website   Episode summary: In this bonus episode, Jay Seegert, managing director of the Starting Point Project, shares his journey from a Christian upbringing to becoming a prominent speaker on defending the Christian worldview. He discusses the importance of understanding the differences between a biblical and a Christian worldview, emphasizing the need for clarity in definitions to engage in meaningful discussions. Jay also highlights the challenges of defending faith in a secular environment and the significance of grounding beliefs in Scripture rather than external influences. In this conversation, Jay and Crosspoint host Josh Jackson explore the relationship between science and the Christian worldview, addressing skepticism, the purpose of defending faith, and the importance of gentleness in apologetics. They emphasize that understanding Scripture does not require extensive scientific knowledge and that foundational questions about God's existence and the Bible's inspiration are crucial for Christians. The discussion highlights the need for respectful dialogue and the power of God's Word in addressing doubts and skepticism. There's also discussion on the intersection of science, faith, and the interpretation of Biblical texts regarding the age of the Earth, the concept of death, and the existence of dinosaurs. Jay emphasizes the importance of understanding one's beliefs and the implications of those beliefs on one's worldview. Listeners also will hear more about the Starting Point Project, which aims to help individuals explore their foundational beliefs and engage in meaningful conversations about faith and science.

OCF MINISTRY NEWS  Staff changes across the OCF team: Visit ocfusa.org/job-openings to learn more about vacant positions as a result of OCF's ongoing job moves. https://www.ocfusa.org/job-openings/   Sign up for summer programs at the Conference Centers: Visit ocfusa.org/CCexperience to find the right program and week for you at Spring Canyon (Buena Vista, Colo.) or White Sulphur Springs (Manns Choice, Pa.). https://www.ocfusa.org/CCexperience/   Take the next step in growing as a Local Leader: Visit springcanyon.org/3b to learn more about the upcoming OCF LEAD! Local Ministry Leadership Track at Spring Canyon this June.   ASK OCF  Landon Spaulding, who now serves as OCF's Online Training Development Coordinator, shares his experience as a SkillBridge intern with OCF.   To learn more about SkillBridge opportunities, read our latest article or visit ocfusa.org/skillbridge. https://www.ocfusa.org/2025/03/serving-beyond-the-uniform-ocfs-skillbridge-internships/ https://www.ocfusa.org/skillbridge/   GUEST SPOTLIGHT  Today's guest spotlight features an excerpt of a conversation with Jay Seegert about defending the Christian worldview. Author, international speaker, and managing director of The Starting Point Project, Jay holds degrees in both Physics and Engineering Technology and has been lecturing on the authority of Scripture for the last 40 years. https://www.thestartingpointproject.com/   He explains what it means to defend the Christian worldview, the significance of addressing the existential questions, and how the Bible ought to be our key source for these conversations. Jay also shares what our motive should be when engaging in discussions with those who hold other worldviews.  Interested in hearing more from Jay about similar topics discussed in today's episode? Stay tuned for the full, bonus episode coming this month, and consider attending the first week (6-13 June) of White Sulphur Springs' Summer R&R program as Jay will lead speaker sessions related to his topic: “Defending the Christian Worldview.” https://www.whitesulphursprings.org/event/summer-rnr-1/   If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic we should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org. https://www.ocfusa.org/podcastguest/  POINTS TO PONDER  As you listen to this conversation with Jay, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor:  In your own words, why is it important to be able to defend your Christian worldview?  When speaking with individuals of other worldviews, how do you ensure you care more about the individual with a need for the gospel than you do about winning the argument?  What topics have you been faced with during worldview-oriented conversations that you'd like to study further?  Jay mentioned 1 Peter 3:15. What other relevant verses come to mind when thinking about how to discuss worldviews? 

This month's special episode enables you to listen to the Global Town Hall, which OCF hosted on 8 February at its Home Office in Colorado Springs, Colo., and over Zoom for members around the world.   You'll hear from OCF Council President Dale Holland, OCF CEO/Executive Director Scott Fisher, Director of Field Operations Colin Wooten, Local Leaders Josh and Lindsey Bowen, USMA OCF Field Staff Bob Phillips, and OCF Conference Center Directors Paul Robyn and Kim Hawthorne. After the ministry updates from these individuals, attending members asked a variety of questions of the staff present.  If you'd prefer to watch the video of GTH 2025 and/or provide follow-up questions, comments, or feedback, visit ocfusa.org/gth2025.  Here are the links for some of the resources mentioned in this episode:   Local fellowships https://www.ocfusa.org/directory/  OCF Conference Centers https://www.ocfusa.org/experience/  ROTC ministry https://www.ocfusa.org/rotc/  OCF LEAD! Local Ministry Leadership Track (during Spring Canyon's Summer Celebration #3) https://www.springcanyon.org/event/summer-celebration-3b/  Fellowship of Christian Military Ministries Annual Conference (21-24 March) https://militarybeliever.com/fcmm-conference/  OCF Handbook https://www.ocfusa.org/handbook/  Mentoring opportunities https://www.ocfusa.org/mentoring/  OCF's Annual Priorities: What you need to know and how you can get involved https://www.ocfusa.org/2023/03/ocfs-annual-priorities-what-you-need-to-know-and-how-you-can-get-involved/  Interested in sharing your own story on a future Crosspoint episode? Complete the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic we should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org. https://www.ocfusa.org/podcastguest/  POINTS TO PONDER  As you listen to these ministry updates and Q&A session, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor:  How have you seen God work through OCF in your own life?  What can OCF do to serve you better? (And visit ocfusa.org/gth2025 to let us know!)  What obstacles—whether personal, logistical, or financial—have kept you from engaging more deeply with Christian community and discipleship opportunities?   As you listen to this recording, what might the Lord be putting on your heart to do to engage with military ministry in a new way?

    OCF MINISTRY NEWS  Watch the latest OCF Global Town Hall: Visit ocfusa.org/gth2025 to watch the Town Hall. https://www.ocfusa.org/gth2025/  Serve and adventure at an OCF Conference Center this spring: Make this March a meaningful mix of service, growth, and adventure through one of these two opportunities.  Spring Break Service Project Week, 10-16 March, White Sulphur Springs (Manns Choice, Pa.) https://www.whitesulphursprings.org/event/sbsp-week/   Spring Break Service and Adventure Week, 21-30 March, Spring Canyon (Buena Vista, Colo.) https://www.springcanyon.org/event/spring-break-service-and-adventure-week-2/   Support OCF during your trips to the grocery store: Visit our Ways to Give page and scroll to the bottom to see if a store near you is eligible for the Community Rewards Program. https://www.ocfusa.org/donate/   ASK OCF  Col Houstoun Waring, USAF (Ret.), who serves as OCF's Central Regional Coordinator, answered this frequently asked question from another OCFer: Why did OCF develop a Handbook? Who should use it? How should people use it?  To learn more about this impactful resource for military ministry, read the article about the Handbook's background. https://www.ocfusa.org/2022/09/introducing-the-newest-tool-for-military-ministry-the-ocf-handbook/  Visit our website to access the online version of the OCF Handbook. https://www.ocfusa.org/handbook/   If you have a question that you want us to consider for a future “Ask OCF” segment, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org.  GUEST SPOTLIGHT  This month's episode features not one but two guests: Lt Col Scott and Lisa Bedrosian, USAF (Ret.). The Bedrosians have been longtime supporters of White Sulphur Springs, OCF's eastern Conference Center located in Manns Choice, Pa. Having had roles there as guests, staff, and volunteers over the years, Scott and Lisa recount some of their cherished memories made at WSS and share how God has used this special home away from home in their lives.  https://www.whitesulphursprings.org/   The Bedrosians describe how WSS helped them navigate the challenges of military life through mentorship, Biblical teachings, and a sense of belonging. They share influential anecdotes, like being reminded of their identity as missionaries in uniform, keeping symbolic “rocks” with spiritual truths, and renaming chores “blessings” because of a simple spatula on a dining room table at WSS. Knowing the conference center's spiritually rich and personally challenging programs might be intimidating to some, they also answer the frequently asked question: “But will I have fun?”  Interested in having your own impactful experience at a Conference Center? Visit ocfusa.org/experience to learn more about White Sulphur Springs and its sister center Spring Canyon, located in Buena Vista, Colo. https://www.ocfusa.org/experience/   If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic we should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org. https://www.ocfusa.org/podcastguest/  POINTS TO PONDER  As you listen to this conversation with Scott and Lisa, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor:  When was a time you were able to truly step away from your daily rhythms to rest and spend time with the Lord?   How did that experience affect your day-to-day life?  The Bedrosians share a few examples of life-changing advice through connections made at WSS. What impactful advice have you received, and have you shared it with others?  Scott calls a stay at WSS an “investment in your family and in your ministry.” What might be the difference that makes your average vacation that kind of investment instead? 

OCF MINISTRY NEWS  OCF Global Town Hall: Visit ocfusa.org/gth2025 to learn more about and register for the next iteration of this annual, virtual event, scheduled for 8 February.  Regional ROTC retreats: Visit ocfusa.org/rotc to find the next regional ROTC retreat near you.   Annual impact report: To hear more about Freddy's OCF experience and other stories of impact from our conference centers, field locations, and more, download our Annual Impact Report by visiting ocfusa.org/air2024.     Mentoring opportunities: If you're interested in mentoring or being trained in mentoring and want to learn more, visit ocfusa.org/mentoring or contact Bill Rue via bill.rue@ocfusa.org.      ASK OCF  LT Will Parker, USN, who serves as the OCF Submarine Community Coordinator, answered this frequently asked question from another OCFer: How do you balance/integrate OCF involvement with commitment to the local church?  To learn more about church-OCF dynamics and ways you can integrate your involvement in both, visit ocfusa.org/handbook/chapter-22.   If you have a question that you want us to consider for a future “Ask OCF” segment, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org.    GUEST SPOTLIGHT  This month's episode puts the guest spotlight on CAPT Terry Wichert, USN (Ret.). Having served in the U.S. Navy for 30+ years, he now serves as the executive director for Association for Christian Conferences, Teaching and Services (ACCTS), a sister ministry of OCF.    Through personal experiences and some of the 650+ recorded prayers in the Bible, such as those in the books of Nehemiah and Daniel, Terry unpacks the power of persevering prayer. He explains what prayer is and what it isn't, gives some ideas for developing a prayer life, and viewing prayer as a way to have a relationship with our Lord and align our hearts with His.  If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic we should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org.     POINTS TO PONDER  As you listen to this conversation with Terry, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor:  Terry reminds us that God “loves for us to pray” and “hears our prayer.” How do these reminders affect your view of prayer?  To pose the question Terry says he often asks other believers: Are you satisfied with your prayer life? Why or why not?  Terry mentions a monthly habit of spending an entire day in prayer before the Lord. What habits might benefit you in your prayer life?  When was a time you prayed often about a certain topic but ultimately the Lord orchestrated circumstances that differed from your prayers? How did you respond? How did that experience grow you in your faith in Him? 

Show Notes  In this bonus episode, Josh, Beth, and Corrie explore the challenges of bitterness and resentment in military marriages, highlighting the influence of faith, perspective shifts, and community support. They discuss the importance of diverse friendships, flexibility in family life, and seeking counseling. Emphasizing teamwork, Beth and Corrie share strategies for balancing responsibilities and overcoming feelings of isolation and resentment.   Beth introduces insights from her new book for military spouses called “Another Move, God?: 30 Encouragements to Embrace Your Life as a Military Wife,” while Corrie shares about her dynamic Instagram platform, @ajoyfulmilspouse, that celebrates military life. Together, they stress that community and shared experiences can strengthen relationships amid military life's unique challenges.  In the course of this conversation, we also reference Beth's list of 10 ways to overcome bitterness and resentment, which you can view here.   If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic we should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org. https://www.ocfusa.org/podcastguest/  Takeaways  The person most affected by bitterness is often the one holding onto it.  Military spouses often feel bitterness due to the challenges of military life.  Community support is crucial for military spouses to overcome feelings of isolation.  Engaging in activities outside of the marriage can help alleviate pressure on the spouse.  Maintaining connections with friends, even if they are far away, is important.  Perspective shifts can help in dealing with feelings of loss and resentment.  Faith and reliance on God can transform bitterness into growth.  Assuming the best in your spouse fosters a healthier relationship.  God has a purpose for every assignment in life.  Points to Ponder   As you listen to this conversation with Beth and Corrie, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor:  How does unresolved bitterness affect not only the individual experiencing it but also their relationships with family, friends, and community members? How can someone recognize when bitterness is taking a toll on their life and relationships?  In what ways can military spouses balance the demands of military life with self-care and maintaining friendships, even with distance involved? How might maintaining these connections positively impact their mental health and family life?  How can a change in perspective help military spouses navigate feelings of loss, resentment, or inequality in responsibilities? What strategies can help shift perspective from bitterness to personal growth?  Why is community support so crucial for military families, and what are some effective ways to build a support network? How can this support network contribute to overcoming isolation and fostering resilience? 

    OCF MINISTRY NEWS  New Bible study available: Visit ocfusa.org/suffering to access this newest study, A Faithful Approach to Hardship and Suffering, on our website.  GivingTuesday fundraiser: Give the gift of Christlike leadership this GivingTuesday (3 Dec.) by visiting ocfusa.org/givingtuesday and donating now.  Job opening at WSS: If you would like more information and/or an application for this ministry opportunity, contact the WSS Center Director Paul Robyn (wssdirector@ocfusa.org) or the WSS Director of Hospitality Susanne Pappal (wssoffice@ocfusa.org), or call the main office via 814-623-5583. Visit ocfusa.org/job-openings to learn more about or to apply for the new facilities director position at White Sulphur Springs in Pennsylvania.  Winter Retreats at OCF Conference Centers: Visit whitesulphursprings.org/winter-retreat to register for one of White Sulphur Springs' Winter Retreat sessions, or visit springcanyon.org/winter-retreat to register for one of Spring Canyon's Winter Retreat sessions.  Ministry update from MMI OCF: Visit ocfusa.org/directory to learn more about and connect with local fellowships like the one at MMI in Alabama.  ASK OCF  Lt Col Larry Sherbondy, USAF (Ret.), who serves as the OCF Director of ROTC Ministry, answered this question from another OCFer: How much time might be involved in participating in or starting an ROTC OCF group?  Many resources and opportunities await those interested in plugging into ROTC ministry. Visit ocfusa.org/rotc to get in touch with Larry, check out upcoming ROTC events, and more.  If you have a question that you want us to consider for a future “Ask OCF” segment, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org.  GUEST SPOTLIGHT  Today's guest spotlight features two military spouses: Beth Runkle and Corrie Reeter. Beth and her husband currently serve with Cru Military, and she recently published a book called “Another Move, God?: 30 Encouragements to Embrace Your Life as a Military Wife.” Corrie is a blogger with a dynamic following on Instagram as @ajoyfulmilspouse, where she and her followers celebrate the uniqueness, blessings, and adventures of military marriage and family life.  Speaking from their experiences as military spouses, Beth and Corrie discuss the bitterness that may arise for some military spouses as they experience deployments, moves, and more. In the course of this conversation, we reference Beth's list of 10 ways to overcome bitterness and resentment, which you can view here.   If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic we should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org.  POINTS TO PONDER  As you listen to this conversation with Beth and Corrie, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor:  When was a time you personally experienced bitterness in your life as a military service member and/or spouse?   How did you overcome that bitterness?  In what ways is the military life a sanctifying one?  What is the value of counting your blessings, entrusting everything to the Lord, and maintaining an eternal perspective? 

Show Notes OCF MINISTRY NEWS  Job opening at the U.S. Coast Guard Academy: Contact PK Carlton (pk.carlton@ocfusa.org) or Marci Morris (marci.morris@ocfusa.org) for more info, or visit ocfusa.org/job-openings to learn more about and apply for the opening at USCGA. Applications are open until 31 Oct.   In His Service Retreat for women in uniform: Visit events.navigators.org/women-in-uniform-in-his-service-retreat-2024 for more details about this retreat coming up in Jefferson, Texas.  OCF Mid-Atlantic & Northeast Fall Retreat: Visit whitesulphursprings.org/events to learn more and register, and email any questions to the Chiaravallottis at midatlantic@ocfusa.org.     Winter Retreats at OCF Conference Centers: Visit whitesulphursprings.org/winter-retreat to register for one of White Sulphur Springs' Winter Retreat sessions, or visit springcanyon.org/winter-retreat to register for one of Spring Canyon's Winter Retreat sessions.  ASK OCF  LTC Ryan Wainwright, USA (Ret.), who serves as the Assistant Director of Field Operations, answered this question from another OCFer: Is our membership expanding or contracting?  OCF isn't just for military officers—anyone sincerely able to sign the Statement of Faith and Participation and agree with the OCF Biblical Guidelines for Member Conduct can become a member of OCF. To become a member, first acknowledge your agreement with the Statement of Faith, then visit ocfusa.org/join to fill out the form.   If you have a question that you want us to consider for a future “Ask OCF” segment, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org.  GUEST SPOTLIGHT  Today's guest spotlight features Col PK Carlton, USAF (Ret.), who currently serves as OCF's Director of Field Staff. In this role, he focuses on the care and engagement for our Field Staff at the four Service Academies and our Gateway ministries at Leavenworth and Maxwell.   PK and his wife Lindsey have served as Local Leaders across their Air Force career, later serving as Ministry Team at USAFA that led to them leading the USAFA ministry for two years. They love having cadets over and mentoring young officers and have a heart for the Field Staff and their families that serve our key ministries.  Earlier this year, PK led a retreat session for USAFA cadets at Spring Canyon (springcanyon.org) to unpack this frequently asked question in OCF circles: “How do I evangelize in uniform?” PK joined us on Crosspoint to share some of the encouragement he gave those cadets and to share his own testimony as well.  If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic we should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org.  POINTS TO PONDER  As you listen to this conversation with PK, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor:  How do you feel about evangelism, and what experiences have shaped your impression?   Why is it important to keep Matthew 5:16 and Romans 10:14 in mind when thinking about sharing your faith?  Who might be able to mentor you in evangelism?  What techniques have you found work well for sharing your own testimony? 

In this episode, COL Andy MacLean, USA (Ret.), the coordinator for Latin America at the Association for Christian Conferences, Teaching and Services (ACCTS (https://accts.org/)), discusses the mission of ACCTS and its work in developing Christian leaders in the armed forces worldwide.   He shares his experiences working with military communities in Latin America and the challenges and opportunities he encounters. Andy also highlights the upcoming AMCF World Conference and the need for financial support and prayer for the conference's success.  Andy then shares his testimony and the five fingerprints of God in his life. He discusses his journey from being a missionary kid to a military officer and the unexpected opportunities and doors that God opened for him. He emphasizes the importance of being a good steward of what God has entrusted to us and thinking strategically about where God has placed us.   He encourages Christians in the military to use their credentials and experiences to make an impact for the kingdom of God and to be mindful of the bigger picture in their actions and decisions.  Andy mentions a few resources in this interview: OCF small groups (https://www.ocfusa.org/directory/), Rocky Mountain High (https://www.springcanyon.org/rocky-mountain-high/), and the AMCF World Conference (https://www.worldconferenceamcf.com/en).     Takeaways   ACCTS' mission is to assist in the development of Christian leaders in the armed forces worldwide and establish military Christian fellowships.  Andy works as the coordinator for Latin America, supporting military Christian fellowships in 20 countries.  The AMCF World Conference aims to encourage and equip military Christians from around the world and provide a vision for their mission.  Financial support and prayer are needed for the success of the conference and the ongoing work of ACCTS.  There is a need for more people to get involved in ACCTS and support military Christian communities globally.  Be a good steward of what God has entrusted to you.  Think strategically about where God has placed you.  Use your credentials and experiences to make an impact for the kingdom of God.  Be mindful of the bigger picture in your actions and decisions.     Points to Ponder  Andy talks about the Lord using his military career to prepare him for his role with ACCTS. How have you seen God use an experience in your life for another?  When have you seen hardship bear fruit?  Andy shares about connections and networking being a way to further the gospel elsewhere. What do his anecdotes remind us of when it comes to the Lord and His church?  Thinking of the theme for this year's AMCF World Conference, what does it mean to you to “arise and shine” (Isaiah 60:1)?  How are you stewarding what God has given you? 

    OCF MINISTRY NEWS  Fort Knox OCF update: Continue praying for the ROTC cadets as they've returned to their campuses and begun new semesters. To learn more about and/or get involved with OCF's ROTC ministry, visit ocfusa.org/rotc  Connected print newsletters: If you don't receive this biannual piece in your mailbox this fall, be sure to update your info via ocfusa.org/update so that we don't miss you next spring. This fall's newsletter will also be available online at ocfusa.org/connected  Ted & Beverly Kaiser: Contact this newest couple on the OCF team by emailing europe@ocfusa.org  OCF Mid-Atlantic & Northeast Fall Retreat: Visit whitesulphursprings.org/events to learn more and register, and email any questions to the Chiaravallottis at midatlantic@ocfusa.org.     The Bowens' Fort Carson OCF group: Visit ocfusa.org/directory to connect with groups like the Bowens', and visit ocfusa.org/list-me to start your own group wherever you are.  ASK OCF  COL Steve & Miriam Shambach, USA (Ret.), who serve as the OCF Mountain Central Regional Coordinator couple, answered this question from another OCFer: Retired, I don't live near a military base, no local OCF folks near me...what opportunity is there for fellowship/training through Zoom?  In case you missed the Shambachs' article in the spring 2024 issue of Connected print newsletter, you can find it here: From Service to Support: How Veterans Can Stay Engaged in OCF.  If you have a question that you want us to consider for a future “Ask OCF” segment, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org.  GUEST SPOTLIGHT  COL Andy MacLean, USA (Ret.), graduated from the U.S. Military Academy in 1995 and later returned there to be a professor. After retiring in 2019, he joined the Association for Christian Conferences, Teaching, and Services (ACCTS), a sister ministry of OCF. He currently serves as the ACCTS coordinator for Latin America.  Whether discussing the origin story of ACCTS, the countries he works with as an ACCTS staffer, or his own life, Andy's passion for sharing how God works in the details is clear. He talks about the upcoming AMCF World Conference, approaching this October in Brazil, which you can support by attending, praying for the gathering, and/or contributing to a scholarship for other guests.  If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic we should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org.  POINTS TO PONDER  As you listen to this conversation with Andy, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor:  How can you engage in the international ministry ACCTS does?  When have you seen God work through hard situations, whether in your own life or in events across the world?  Why is it important to discuss how God is working in other nation's military communities? 

Show Notes  In this bonus episode of OCF Crosspoint, podcast host Josh Jackson continues his discussion with CH(CPT) Michael Will, USA (Ret.), focusing on the theme of hardship and suffering.  The conversation delves into defining suffering, recognizing its various sources—such as persecution, sin, and the actions of others—and understanding its impact. They address the dangers of comparison, which can undermine endurance, and emphasize the importance of acknowledging our lack of control as a starting point for discovering God's purpose in suffering.  The episode offers practical advice for navigating hardship, including perseverance and concentrating on what we can control. It also explores the purpose behind suffering, such as being shaped into the image of Christ and learning obedience. The conversation touches on the challenging yet transformative concept of rejoicing in suffering and finding hope amidst adversity. Silence and listening to God are highlighted as crucial practices in these times, along with the importance of seeking God's will through prayer.  Additionally, the discussion covers the role of discipline and training in preparing for suffering, encouraging believers to embrace it with a mindset of rejoicing. By viewing suffering as something appointed by God rather than accidental, believers can appreciate the transformative work God accomplishes through these hardships.    Points to Ponder  As you listen to this conversation with CH Will, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor:   What personal experiences have shaped your definition of suffering? How have you seen God use suffering in your own life and in the lives of others? What Bible verses encourage you in the midst of hardship? Michael talks about prayer as “the most effective tool” in his toolkit. What additional tools can you use when facing hard times?

Show Notes  OCF MINISTRY NEWS  New hires; jobs still available on OCF team: While couples have stepped forward to fill open positions at USMA and USCGA on an interim basis, the application window at both West Point and the Coast Guard Academy is now extended to 31 October with an expected start date in the summer of 2025. To learn more and apply, visit our job openings page.   Fall programs await at Spring Canyon and White Sulphur Springs:   Caleb Challenge Career Transition Strategies Workshop, 13-15 September, at WSS: Jump-start your career transition with a weekend of interactive work, group discussions, and personal exercises, all facilitated by retired military leaders with over 200 years of combined leadership and life-coaching experience.   Climb Together, September 2024, at SC: This three-day wilderness experience, complete with outdoor activities, campfires, spectacular mountain vistas and events, is tailored to meet the needs of busy families who yearn to “Reconnect in the Rockies.” Parent-Youth Adventure Weekends, October-November 2024, at WSS: Designed for one parent and one child, these weekends are an opportunity to build memories that will last a lifetime.   ASK OCF  TSgt Ryan Padgett, USAF (Ret.), answered the FAQ: Is OCF only for officers? Ryan shares about his own experience with joining OCF and encourages other enlisted service members to get involved, too.  Interested in getting involved in OCF? Fill out our membership form and/or find an OCF study near you.  If you have a question that you want us to consider for a future “Ask OCF” segment, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org.    GUEST SPOTLIGHT  CH(CAPT) Michael Will, USA (Ret.), spoke on this month's episode about hardship and suffering, topics which also served as his focus while he was the speaker for a week of Summer R&R at White Sulphur Springs last month.   Having enlisted in 1992 and later commissioned as a chaplain, Michael has also pastored churches in Ohio and Canada. He currently serves as the associate pastor for discipleship at Grace Evangelical Congregational Church in Knox, Pa.   If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic we should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org.    POINTS TO PONDER  As you listen to this conversation with Michael, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor:  What personal experiences have shaped your definition of suffering?  How have you seen God use suffering in your own life and in the lives of others?  What Bible verses encourage you in the midst of hardship?  Michael talks about prayer as “the most effective tool” in his toolkit. What additional tools can you use when facing hard times?

Show Notes OCF MINISTRY NEWS  OCF purchased a new staff home at Spring Canyon: To contribute to OCF's purchase of this house, make an online donation to the Refreshing the Canyon Fund.   OCF is expanding efforts in ROTC ministry with a new job opening at The Citadel: To learn more about the Council's approval of this opportunity and/or find the link to apply, click here.  July marks the halfway point of OCF's conference center ministry: Visit our conference center webpage to learn more about programs and opportunities available later this summer and fall.   The AMCF World Conference 2024 in Brazil is coming up: This transformative opportunity to connect with other military communities around the world is scheduled for 16-20 October. Click here to learn more and register. Can't attend? Donate to this fund that will provide financial scholarships to other attendees.  OCF small group spotlight: OCF Field Staffer Paul Homan shared one of several questions posed during the OCF at USAFA spring retreat and spiritual commissioning. What's your small group studying? What questions are you wrestling with? Let Courtney know by emailing her at courtney.taylor@ocfusa.org.  ASK OCF  CH(COL) Douglas H. Ball, USA answered the FAQ: What are the challenges that our Christian Military Chaplains are facing? His three-part answer mentions busy schedules, role expansion, and cultural change.  Interested in learning more about resources for chaplains and ways to support your chaplains? Check out Chapter 17 of the OCF Handbook.   If you have a question that you want us to consider for a future “Ask OCF” segment, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org.  GUEST SPOTLIGHT  This month, Josh sat down with Brig Gen Jeff H. Hurlbert, USAF (Ret.), who retired from the Air Force in 2023 after 32 years of service. He's currently the chief security officer for Applied Materials, a global leader in the semiconductor, display, and solar panel industries.   Jeff is also a longtime OCF member and current member of the OCF Council. This month, Jeff is speaking at Spring Canyon during the sixth week of Summer Celebration on the topic of humility, and he discusses that same topic here in today's episode of Crosspoint.   Inspired by an OCF Bible study he participated in 15 years ago in Germany and having seen the impact of humility in his own life and career, Jeff addresses several questions such as why humility matters to the military leader, what it is and what it isn't, and more.  If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic we should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org.  POINTS TO PONDER  As you listen to this conversation with Jeff, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor:  How would you define humility?  What's a personal example of humility making a difference, whether you were the one displaying humility or observing someone observing humility?  How does Christ's example encourage you to lead and live humbly?  What gifts has God given you that you can use to serve others for His glory? 

Crosspoint Show Notes, June 2024:  Today's episode introduces a new format for the OCF Crosspoint podcast. Moving forward, each monthly episode will consist of three segments: OCF ministry news, an “Ask OCF” segment, and an interview with a guest about a particular topic or personal story.  Read on for links and details from each of these three segments for June 2024.  OCF MINISTRY NEWS  Volunteers needed for Fort Knox CST ministry: If interested in leading small groups for cadets during summer training at Fort Knox, particularly in July, reach out to Bob Deckard via rwdeckard@gmail.com or to Larry Sherbondy via ROTC@ocfusa.org.     Conference Center summer programs begin: Visit ocfusa.org/experience to watch our newest video about opportunities at OCF's two Conference Centers—White Sulphur Springs in Manns Choice, Pa., and Spring Canyon in Buena Vista, Colo. From there, check out each Conference Center's website to learn more about summer programs and discounts available to first-time guests, active-duty military, and OCF Local Leaders.   SkillBridge opportunities now available at OCF: Visit ocfusa.org/skillbridge to check out OCF's newest webpage about our new opportunities available through SkillBridge.   OCF small group spotlight: Maj Nathan Flack, USAF, serves as the Local Leader for Barksdale AFB OCF and shared what question his group wrestled with recently. What's your small group studying? What questions are you wrestling with? Let Courtney know by emailing her at courtney.taylor@ocfusa.org.  ASK OCF  OCF Council President Col Dale Holland, USAF (Ret.), answered some FAQs about Local Leaders and mentioned resources available online. Visit ocfusa.org/toolkit to access these resources. If you'd like to become a Local Leader or if you've not yet listed yourself on our online directory, visit ocfusa.org/list-me to do so.   If you have a question that you want us to consider for a future “Ask OCF” segment, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org.  GUEST SPOTLIGHT  Have you thought about what that next season of life might look like after military service?  What does it look like to have a Biblical approach when it comes to a career transition? And what does your identity have to do with this?  This month, Josh sat down with Maj Gen Pete Peterson, USAF (Ret.) to discuss these questions. Pete is a co-founder of Caleb Challenge, an organization that uses Biblical principles to help men and women transition from military service to the next season that God has planned for them.   Having experienced a career transition himself after 34 years of service in the Air Force, Pete shares his own lessons learned, Biblical principles for a career change, and details about Caleb Challenge. Caleb Challenge is hosting its next workshop at OCF's White Sulphur Springs in Manns Choice, Pa., later this fall. Visit WSS' website to learn more and register for this valuable 13-15 September workshop.   If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic we should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org.  POINTS TO PONDER  As you listen to this conversation with Pete, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor:  Consider Pete's big question for those who will eventually transition out of a military career: What's your real focus?  How can you start preparing for your own career transition now?  What does it mean to you to “include God in the process”?  Why is our identity in Christ important to consider when going through a big life change like a career transition?   

In this special episode of OCF Crosspoint, you're going to hear audio from the inaugural OCF Global Town Hall, which was broadcasted live on 10 February from the new Home Office in Colorado Springs, Colo. The first voice that you're going to hear is OCF Council President Col Dale Holland, USAF (Ret.). He and OCF's CEO / Executive Director, Col Scott Fisher, USAF (Ret.), started by discussing the impactful journey and future visions for OCF. After their opening remarks, the remaining hour or so was used as a Q&A time. During the Q&A portion, you'll also hear the voice of LTC Colin Wooten, USA (Ret.), who helped moderate and also posed a mix of both real-time questions from the event and questions submitted ahead of time. The questions covered in this episode centered on these 12 topics: Local Leader training and information. Balancing OCF involvement with commitment to the local church. Starting an OCF ROTC group at a university that does not have one. Opportunities for retired ex-military to get involved with OCF. Creating more awareness about OCF. Challenges that our Christian military chaplains are facing. OCF funding shortfalls. Focusing on the National Guard and Reserves. Reaching out beyond U.S. membership. Pursuing GRACE relations amid a divisive and dismissive culture. Regional training conferences. Two to three things that both Dale and Scott are excited about in the upcoming year. If you'd rather watch a video of the Global Town Hall, visit ocfusa.org/townhall. On that page, there's also a form you can fill out if you have questions, comments, or feedback, or send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org. We'll make sure your message is sent to the appropriate person.

Today, you'll hear audio from the conclusion of a speaking session by CH(MAJ) Jake Snodgrass, USA, this past fall at Spring Canyon's Aspentime Retreat. If you're new to OCF and you've never heard of Spring Canyon, it's OCF's western conference and retreat center located near Buena Vista, Colorado. And if you've never heard of Aspentime, it's a weekend getaway at Spring Canyon for Christian military members and families, and it features teaching and small group sessions led by a speaker like CH Snodgrass. Participants at the weekend retreat explored the profound concept of spiritual formation through the lens of renowned authors such as John Mark Comer, Dallas Willard, John Ortberg, and Donald Whitney, and they uncovered principles and practices that challenge contemporary ideals, emphasizing the necessity of community in the pursuit of spiritual growth. There were also interactive discussions, activities, and real-life applications in which leaders discovered how to build and sustain a vibrant military ministry while fostering personal renewal in an increasingly secular world and military.   About CH(MAJ) Jake Snodgrass, USA Chaplain Jacob Snodgrass is a native of Ames, OK, and graduated from the University of Oklahoma and Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary. He is currently pursuing a PhD in Applied Theology at Midwestern Baptist Theological Seminary in Kansas City. He was commissioned from ROTC in 2002, and has served as a Chaplain since 2009, endorsed by the Southern Baptist Convention. He currently serves as the 10th Special Forces Group Chaplain and as the lead pastor of Agape Carson, Fort Carson, CO. Chaplain Snodgrass has served numerous assignments as a chaplain, pastor, and church planter, including Camp Humphreys, Korea; Fort Lewis, WA; and Kandahar, Afghanistan. He was named U.S. Army Chaplain of the Year in 2019. Chaplain Snodgrass has been married for 18 years to the former Heather Dostal of Leakenheath, UK, and they have six kids: Manuel 24, Karmen 22, Gage 15, Boyce 14, Jovie 11, and Bennett 8.

Today, you'll hear audio from Part 2 of a speaking session by CH(MAJ) Jake Snodgrass, USA, this past fall at Spring Canyon's Aspentime Retreat. If you're new to OCF and you've never heard of Spring Canyon, it's OCF's western conference and retreat center located near Buena Vista, Colorado. And if you've never heard of Aspentime, it's a weekend getaway at Spring Canyon for Christian military members and families, and it features teaching and small group sessions led by a speaker like CH Snodgrass. Participants at the weekend retreat explored the profound concept of spiritual formation through the lens of renowned authors such as John Mark Comer, Dallas Willard, John Ortberg, and Donald Whitney, and they uncovered principles and practices that challenge contemporary ideals, emphasizing the necessity of community in the pursuit of spiritual growth. There were also interactive discussions, activities, and real-life applications in which leaders discovered how to build and sustain a vibrant military ministry while fostering personal renewal in an increasingly secular world and military.   About CH(MAJ) Jake Snodgrass, USA Chaplain Jacob Snodgrass is a native of Ames, OK, and graduated from the University of Oklahoma and Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary. He is currently pursuing a PhD in Applied Theology at Midwestern Baptist Theological Seminary in Kansas City. He was commissioned from ROTC in 2002, and has served as a Chaplain since 2009, endorsed by the Southern Baptist Convention. He currently serves as the 10th Special Forces Group Chaplain and as the lead pastor of Agape Carson, Fort Carson, CO. Chaplain Snodgrass has served numerous assignments as a chaplain, pastor, and church planter, including Camp Humphreys, Korea; Fort Lewis, WA; and Kandahar, Afghanistan. He was named U.S. Army Chaplain of the Year in 2019. Chaplain Snodgrass has been married for 18 years to the former Heather Dostal of Leakenheath, UK, and they have six kids: Manuel 24, Karmen 22, Gage 15, Boyce 14, Jovie 11, and Bennett 8.

Today, you'll hear audio from a speaking session by CH(MAJ) Jake Snodgrass, USA, this past fall at Spring Canyon's Aspentime Retreat. If you're new to OCF and you've never heard of Spring Canyon, it's OCF's western conference and retreat center located near Buena Vista, Colorado. And if you've never heard of Aspentime, it's a weekend getaway at Spring Canyon for Christian military members and families, and it features teaching and small group sessions led by a speaker like CH Snodgrass. Participants at the weekend retreat explored the profound concept of spiritual formation through the lens of renowned authors such as John Mark Comer, Dallas Willard, John Ortberg, and Donald Whitney, and they uncovered principles and practices that challenge contemporary ideals, emphasizing the necessity of community in the pursuit of spiritual growth. There were also interactive discussions, activities, and real-life applications in which leaders discovered how to build and sustain a vibrant military ministry while fostering personal renewal in an increasingly secular world and military.   About CH(MAJ) Jake Snodgrass, USA Chaplain Jacob Snodgrass is a native of Ames, OK, and graduated from the University of Oklahoma and Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary. He is currently pursuing a PhD in Applied Theology at Midwestern Baptist Theological Seminary in Kansas City. He was commissioned from ROTC in 2002, and has served as a Chaplain since 2009, endorsed by the Southern Baptist Convention. He currently serves as the 10th Special Forces Group Chaplain and as the lead pastor of Agape Carson, Fort Carson, CO. Chaplain Snodgrass has served numerous assignments as a chaplain, pastor, and church planter, including Camp Humphreys, Korea; Fort Lewis, WA; and Kandahar, Afghanistan. He was named U.S. Army Chaplain of the Year in 2019. Chaplain Snodgrass has been married for 18 years to the former Heather Dostal of Leakenheath, UK, and they have six kids: Manuel 24, Karmen 22, Gage 15, Boyce 14, Jovie 11, and Bennett 8.

Got an idea for a guest or topic?   If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org.    Show Notes:   Today's guest is Col Jassen Bluto, USAF, (Ret.), a 32-year veteran who commanded four squadrons, served in combat in Iraq, and oversaw physical security and anti-terrorism policy and training at Air National Guard headquarters. He also gained extensive leadership experience in academia and then in law enforcement, where he served on three separate police agencies before retiring as a detective from an agency in Los Angeles County.  Pulling from decades of experience in enlisted and commissioned roles, Jassen shares three leadership principles–trust, respect, and caring–principles that inspired his short book titled Three Leadership Principles for the Christian in the Military. While the military certainly provides ample leadership training and experience, Jassen shares about the importance of leading from a Christ-centered life, Bible verses that shape his leadership style, and more.  >Check out these resources mentioned in Jassen's interview:  Three Leadership Principles for the Christian in the Military, Jassen's short book that features Biblical examples and methodology  Leadership Essentials Podcast, Jassen's podcast that focuses on practical insights for leaders    >Study questions for this episode As you listen to this conversation with Jassen, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor:  How would you characterize a good leader and a bad leader?  What effect does right relationship with God have on our relationships with others on earth, especially in leadership contexts?  What Bible verses come to mind to shape your leadership practices?  How does humility produce good leadership?  Why is it important to have deeper relationships with those operating under your leadership?  Who in your life is providing you with feedback in order to develop your leadership skills? 

Got an idea for a guest or topic?   If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org.    Show Notes  How do emotional intelligence (known as EQ) and leadership go together? What does EQ have to do with leading in the military? How does EQ line up with scripture? Noble Gibbens, also known as the EQ Gangster, joins me on the podcast to answer these questions. An Oklahoma-born West Point graduate who served in the U.S. Army in the 82nd Airborne Division, Noble combined his entrepreneurial spirit and experience with his passion for emotional intelligence to become a certified emotional intelligence practitioner, corporate speaker & trainer, and executive leadership coach.  After growing up in a home where he “learned absolutely nothing about conflict resolution” and realizing his emotional dysfunction in his own home as an adult, Noble met with a counselor and began his emotional fitness journey. In this episode, he defines emotional intelligence, shares experiences with leadership in and out of the military context, talks about David and other biblical examples of emotional intelligence, and more.  Check out these resources mentioned in Noble's interview:  Emotional Intelligence 2.0 by Dr. Travis Bradberry and Dr. Jean Greaves  EQ-i 2.0, an online self-rating assessment tool  EQ Gangster podcast, Episode #273: Dr. Brooks Gibbs, Emotional Resilience in Teens & Adults, and Creating Unstoppable Humans  Changes That Heal: Four Practical Steps to a Happier, Healthier You by Dr. Henry Cloud  Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life by Dr. Henry Cloud, Dr. John Townsend  Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting Out of the Box by The Arbinger Institute  Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect by Jonice Webb, PhD, with Christine Musello Running on Empty No More: Transform Your Relationships With Your Partner, Your Parents and Your Children by Jonice Webb, PhD   As you listen to this conversation with Noble, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor:  How would you define emotional intelligence?  Think back to your own upbringing. How did your community, family, etc. talk about emotions? How has that impacted your understanding of emotional intelligence now?  To pose Noble's question mentioned in this episode: How often do anxiety and frustrations, motivation, impulses, fear, and distress affect and impact your decision-making?  Having listened to Noble explain the impact emotional intelligence can have on working relationships, what can improve within your own workplace?  We talk about Jesus as the biblical model of being unoffendable, a trait that indicates high emotional intelligence. What can we learn from His example?   

Got an idea for a guest or topic?   If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org.    Show Notes   So many conversations within the OCF community circle back to this question: How ought Christians in the military integrate their faith and profession? One week after graduating from high school, CW4 Rich Smith, USA (Ret.), embarked on 24 years of military service that provided him experiences that answer that very question. Upon retiring from the Army, Rich has developed a passion for encouraging other service members not to camouflage their faith in Christ during their years in the military.   In this episode, we discuss what hinders and helps Christians live out their faith in the military, his personal experiences with Christian fellowship during years on active duty, and more. He also shares about his book, Camouflaged Christian, which provides a deeper dive on the topics he discussed on Crosspoint. Rich now resides in his hometown of Rome, New York, with wife Teri and granddaughters Amerie, Elodie, and Maisy. As you listen to this conversation with Rich, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor:  What motivates you to camouflage your faith while serving in the military context?  How does Ephesians 6:10-20 encourage you to live out your faith in all areas of life?  Rich shares a couple of personal anecdotes about how fellowship with other believers strengthened his walk during his time in the Army. What impact have you seen fellowship or the absence of it have in your own life?  What Scripture can you commit to memory for the seemingly impossible tasks you'll face at work?  Rich talks about the value of turning to the Bible first in all circumstances. What things do you find yourself turning to first for encouragement, comfort, etc.? 

Got an idea for a guest or topic?   If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org.    Show Notes:   After graduating from West Point in 1989, Ricky Preciado served in the Army on active duty for five years then as a reservist for an additional five before shifting into business operations for a variety of manufacturing companies. Since 2017, he's been working for Chick-fil-a, and he currently works for them as an owner-operator in the San Diego area.   Ricky joined USS Somerset OCF for a day to share about one of his favorite topics, servant leadership, with Chick-fil-a in tow, of course, and he joined Assistant Director of Communications Courtney Taylor on the podcast to discuss the very same topic. He breaks down what can often seem to be a “Christianese” term in the church, shares what he's learned about servant leadership via his work with Chick-fil-a, and recaps his visit with USS Somerset OCF.  To find a small group fellowship similar to the USS Somerset OCF group Ricky visited, check out the OCF directory online.  As you listen to this conversation with Ricky, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor:  How would you define servant leadership?  Who are your role models, biblical or personal, for servant leadership? Why?  What personal experiences have humbled you and can be used in developing your own servant leadership?  How does surrendering your responsibilities to God enable better servant leadership?  Ricky talks about taking the focus off yourself as an impactful means to being a servant leader. What are some practical ways you can focus on others? 

Got an idea for a guest or topic?   If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org.    Show Notes What is resilience? Is there a correlation between resilience and the prevalence of suicide in the military? How do you know if you've become resilient? Minutes after leading a session about the topic of resilience during OCF's annual Local Leader Conference held at Spring Canyon earlier this year, Col Tim Hale, USAF (Ret.), sat down with me in the dining hall of Hartley Holmes Lodge to address these questions and others.  Raised in a military community near Scott AFB, Tim began his own career in the Air Force after completing Air Force ROTC at St. Louis University. Throughout his decades of service, Tim's command positions at a variety of levels, bolstered by post-retirement experiences as a cabinet secretary for the New Mexico Department of Veteran Services and as an elder at his church, enabled him to see the importance of resilience firsthand. Tim now resides in Oklahoma, where he serves as OCF's Area Coordinator for Central Oklahoma, Southern Kansas, and Northern Texas.   Check out the various resources mentioned throughout this episode “March or die”: Turning to Christ & community in times of trauma, OCF Crosspoint episode with Jeremy Stalnecker that focuses on topics related to today's episode with Tim Path to Resiliency by Chad Robichaux, Jeremy Stalnecker, and John Mizerak (foreword by MG Bob Dees, USA (Ret.)) Days of Anguish, Days of Hope by Bill Keith The Resilience Trilogy by MG Bob Dees, USA (Ret.) As you listen to this conversation with Tim, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor Tim says the best time to build resilience is before a traumatic event takes place. How can you build resilience now so that you're better prepared if and when potentially traumatic life events occur? Referring to Path to Resiliency, Tim reminds us that God can heal our trauma and enable us to move forward. What examples, biblical or personal, come to mind as you think of God restoring people after a traumatic event? Specifically, what spiritual disciplines can you cultivate now so that those habits are already established if and when traumatic experiences occur? Who do you consider your community to support you through trauma and recovery? Tim shares 2 Corinthians 1:3 as a biblical encouragement that God sustains us through trials. What scripture can you begin clinging to now that will encourage you through the hardships of life?  Tim suggests that a self-examination of behavior in day-to-day life–even when things are good–can help assess personal resilience that will prove necessary in hardships. Reflect now on how you're handling the “small things” during this season of life, and ask yourself if there are spiritual disciplines to pursue as you seek to develop this resilience. 

Got an idea for a guest or topic? If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org Show Notes: Earlier this season, Nicole Breining spoke about her husband's pornography addiction that resulted in betrayal trauma and a serious strain on their relationship. But what impact does pornography addiction have on the rest of the family? Do kids experience a similar type of trauma when they learn parents struggle with a problematic sexual behavior? How should parents respond if and when they discover their children are viewing pornography? In this episode of Crosspoint, Dr. John Thorington addresses these questions. John is a licensed professional counselor and certified sexual recovery therapist, and he has a private practice in Huntsville, Alabama, called Restoring Hearts Counseling. If you haven't already, listen to his first episode with Crosspoint from its first season, titled “The Theological Implications of Addiction.” John talks about how parents might navigate a conversation with kids when a parent is struggling with problematic sexual behaviors, how to set boundaries in recovery, and what resources to use in next steps. We then flip the script to talk about how parents can move forward when they learn their child is the one struggling with problematic sexual behaviors, turning to God's design rather than the world's during ongoing conversations. Check out the various resources mentioned throughout this episode:  Restoring Hearts Counseling, John's practice that offers competent counseling and treats teen pornography addiction and other compulsive online behaviors with a Christian perspective Pure Desire Ministries, which seeks to provide hope, freedom, and healing from sexual brokenness through Jesus Christ Be Broken Ministries, which helps men, women, and families move from sexual brokenness to wholeness in Christ and equips others to do the same Treading Boldly through a Pornographic World: A Field Guide for Parents by Daniel Weiss and Joshua Glaser, written to help parents navigate conversations with their kids about pornography Honest Talk: A New Perspective on Talking to Your Kids About Sex by John Fort, a guide that provides parents a new approach to help children safely navigate today's hypersexual culture The Porn Phenomenon: The Impact of Pornography in the Digital Age, a Barna Report published in partnership with Josh McDowell Ministries Focus on the Family, a global Christian ministry dedicated to helping families thrive Covenant Eyes: Screen Accountability™ Sexpectations: Helping the Next Generation Navigate Healthy Relationships by Barb Winters Pure Teens: Honoring God, Relationships, and Sex by Dr. John Thorington As you listen to this conversation with John, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor:  What is the value of backing up promises with action when navigating recovery from addiction with your family? If you're a parent finding out that your child is viewing pornography, how can you make sure you respond well so that your relationship is not damaged? What can we learn from Jesus' example as He interacts with the woman at the well in John 4:1-26? How can you be proactive in educating your kids about God's design for sex and sexuality in a world where we often see a rebellion against that design? John talks about the potential harm we can do by framing conversations about sex in a negative light. How ought God's design and His positive view of it shape how we talk about sex? 

Got an idea for a guest or topic?  If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org.  Show Notes:  On the heels of several episodes on the topics of pornography and sexuality with CAPT Brent & Nicole Breining, USN (Ret.), Dr. Joy Skarka joins me on the podcast for a similar conversation, except we'll approach this topic from the perspective of single or dating women.   Joy currently serves as the director of discipleship at Authentic Intimacy, a ministry devoted to teaching on God's design for intimacy and sexuality.  Joy discusses the meaning behind and value of a phrase that contains two words we likely wouldn't expect to go together: sexual discipleship. She then shares her own story with pornography addiction and how God turned a source of brokenness, pain, and trauma into a passion through which she helps other women navigate similar struggles. You can connect with Joy by following her on Instagram: @joyskarka.   Check out the various resources mentioned throughout this episode:  Authentic Intimacy, the ministry Joy works for that offers online groups, resources, and more  Java with Juli, Authentic Intimacy's podcast with the ministry's president and co-founder Juli Slattery  Rethinking Sexuality: God's Design and Why It Matters by Dr. Juli Slattery  The Girl Defined Show: Freedom from Porn & Sexual Struggles for Women with Joy Skarka  As you listen to this conversation with Joy, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor:  Quoting Juli Slattery's book Rethinking Sexuality, Joy says, “Every sexual question is ultimately a spiritual one.” Do you agree? Why or why not?  How might a lack of education from the church result in a poor or even harmful understanding of sexuality?  Joy talks about how addiction to pornography can start so subtly. What are some ways we can proactively guard against developing such addictions?  If we truly understand that the point of being a Christian is to be made more like Christ, how does that understanding affect our contentment in Him alone, regardless of relationship status, circumstances, etc.?  Who are the trustworthy mentors in your life with whom you can discuss heavy topics like the ones covered in today's episode? 

Show Notes:  CAPT Brent & Nicole Breining, USN (Ret.), return to the podcast today to continue our series on pornography and sexuality. If you haven't listened to the first three episodes in this series, I encourage you to check out those episodes first and then return to hear today's episode as we discuss the three parts of the healing process, resources for recovery, and more.  The Breinings break down the three parts of addiction recovery—breaking denial structures, understanding the addictive cycle, and accessing the wound. We then address why we can feel so discouraged by the time and effort required to heal, the value of understanding the nature of addiction regardless of personal experience, and the importance of addressing these sin struggles for the purpose of restoration rather than rejection.  Check out the various resources mentioned throughout this episode:  Pure Desire Ministries, through which Brent and Nicole help men and women heal from unwanted sexual behaviors and their repercussions  Unraveled: Managing Love, Sex, and Relationships, a resource for women  Sexual Integrity 101, an eight-week study for men, women, and churches  Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing, a book that explores the “why” behind self-destructive sexual choices  Covenant Eyes: Screen Accountability™  If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email topodcast@ocfusa.org As you listen to this conversation with Brent and Nicole, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor:  Brent says, “Sexual bondage is not about sex, but medicating the pain in your life.” No matter what addictions you might struggle with, what pain might you trying to be medicate?  Who can you trust and talk to about your traumatic experiences and addictive behaviors? How can you be someone others can talk to about their struggles as well?  How does our quick-fix culture present challenges in recovering from addiction?  In what ways can you help the church adopt a culture of grace when it comes to ministering to broken people in this context?  What tools can you utilize to overcome unwanted sexual behaviors and/or keep in mind to recommend to others struggling with such behaviors?

Show Notes:  CAPT Brent & Nicole Breining, USN (Ret.), return to the podcast today to continue our series on pornography and sexuality. If you haven't listened to the first two episodes in this series, I encourage you to check out those episodes first, get to know Brent and Nicole's story, then return to hear today's episode as we explore the concept of betrayal trauma in the context of marriage and romantic relationships.  In this episode, we discuss how the symptoms and effects of betrayal trauma present uniquely in different individuals, then Brent and Nicole share their personal experiences with betrayal trauma. The Breinings remind us that this betrayal trauma falls under the category of inevitable struggles Jesus promised we'd face in this life, but they remind us of our hope we have in Him.   Check out the various resources mentioned throughout this episode:  Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal by Dr. Barbara Steffens  Struggle Well by Ken Falke and Josh Goldberg   Pure Desire Ministries, through which Brent and Nicole help men and women heal from unwanted sexual behaviors and their repercussions    If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org.  As you listen to this conversation with Brent and Nicole, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor:  Have you experienced hurt that has prompted you to question God's goodness? How did you work through that doubt?  How might a desire for control over your own life be connected to betrayal trauma?  How do traumatic experiences shake your understanding of your core beliefs?  What is the value of processing past traumatic experiences to better understand your reactions to present circumstances that might result in trauma?  Nicole shares several things she found helpful in her recovery from betrayal trauma: finding community she could trust, practicing self-care, educating herself about sexual addiction and betrayal trauma, not rushing into big decisions when working through betrayal trauma, and creating boundaries for safety. What practical ways within those categories might you be able to work through or help a loved one work through betrayal trauma?

Got an idea for a guest or topic? If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org.   Show Notes: CAPT Brent & Nicole Breining, USN (Ret.), return to the podcast today to continue our series on pornography and sexuality. If you haven't listened to the first episode in this series, I encourage you to check out that episode first, get to know Brent and Nicole's story, then return to hear today's episode as we dive into the nature of addiction.  We discuss statistics and real-world case studies regarding the pornography industry that reveal the magnitude of its harmful effects on society and on individuals alike. Brent and Nicole then unpack terms and concepts such as the cyclone of addiction, the shame cycle, and neurochemistry of the brain that all point to God's intricate design for His creation. Check out the various resources mentioned throughout this episode: ·      Restoring the Soul podcast: Part 1 with Tony Anderson, and Part 2 with Tony Anderson ·      Fight the New Drug ·      The Social Dilemma ·      Pure Desire Ministries, through which Brent and Nicole help men and women heal from unwanted sexual behaviors and their repercussions   As you listen to this conversation with Brent and Nicole, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: We refer to the statistic that 49% of rescued sex trafficking victims were forced to participate in the production of pornographic material. How ought that knowledge affect decisions to consume that pornographic material?   How does the pornography industry harm our perceptions of others as individuals made in the image of God? Why might “rigid, disengaged homes,” per Brent's description, often become an environment in which many individuals become sex addicts? What habits can you establish to “live in this world of technology… but do it in a healthy manner,” as Brent says? What sin struggles have prompted you to feel shame and hide from God and from fellow believers?   Loads of Additional Resources on this topic Problematic Sexual Behavior (Men): Books: Laaser, M. (2004). Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction (3rd ed.). Zondervan. Roberts, T. (2008). Pure Desire: How one man's triumph can help others break free from sexual temptation. Regal. Roberts, T. (2021). Seven Pillars of Freedom (5th ed.). Pure Desire Ministries International. Stringer, J. (2018). Unwanted: How sexual brokenness reveals our way to healing. NavPress. Podcasts: https://puredesire.org/podcasts/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, January 19). What If My Betrayed Spouse Doesn't Want Healing? (No. 185) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/what-if-my-betrayed-spouse-doesnt-want-healing/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, March 8). How To Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Sexual Betrayal (No. 244) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/how-to-help-your-spouse-heal-from-your-sexual-betrayal/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, November 22). The Impact of Sexual Addiction w/ Dr. Adrian Hickmon (No. 281) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/the-impact-of-sexual-addiction-w-adrian-hickmon/ Video Series: Kolb, H. [Editor]. (2020). Sexual Integrity 101 [Video series]. Pure Desire Ministries International. Ward, G., Wiles, J., & Wiles, T. [Executive Producers]. (2013). Conqueror Series: The battle plan for purity [Video series]. KingdomWorks Studios.   Problematic Sexual Behavior (Women): Books: Kolb, H. [Editor]. (2019). Unraveled: Managing love, sex, and relationships. Pure Desire Ministries International. Stringer, J. (2018). Unwanted: How sexual brokenness reveals our way to healing. NavPress. Podcasts: https://puredesire.org/podcasts/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2020, October 20). The Female Addict and Unraveled (No. 172) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/the-female-addict-unraveled/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, January 19). What If My Betrayed Spouse Doesn't Want Healing? (No. 185) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/what-if-my-betrayed-spouse-doesnt-want-healing/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, March 8). How To Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Sexual Betrayal (No. 244) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/how-to-help-your-spouse-heal-from-your-sexual-betrayal/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, November 22). The Impact of Sexual Addiction w/ Dr. Adrian Hickmon (No. 281) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/the-impact-of-sexual-addiction-w-adrian-hickmon/ Video Series: Kolb, H. [Editor]. (2020). Sexual Integrity 101 [Video series]. Pure Desire Ministries International.   Betrayal Trauma: Books: Kolb, H., Jameson, A., & Roberts, D. (2022). Betrayal & Beyond: Healing the trauma of sexual betrayal (3rd ed.). Pure Desire Ministries International. Pure Desire Ministries. 7 Keys to Understanding Betrayal Trauma (ebook). https://puredesire.org/free-ebook-7-keys-to-understanding-betrayal-trauma/ Steffens, B. & Means, M. (2021). Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal (2nd ed.). Armin Lear Press Inc. Podcasts: https://puredesire.org/podcasts/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2020, November 3). Boundaries in Recovery (No. 174) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/boundaries-in-recovery/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, May 11). What If My Struggling Spouse Doesn't Want Healing? (No. 201) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/what-if-my-struggling-spouse-doesnt-want-healing/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, July 13). Hope for Betrayed Men (No. 210) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/hope-for-betrayed-men/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, July 27). 7 Keys to Understanding Betrayal Trauma (No. 212) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/7-keys-to-understanding-betrayal-trauma/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, February 1). Women's Takeover #1: Healing From Betrayal w/ Dr. Barbara Steffens (No. 239) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/womens-takeover-1-healing-from-betrayal-w-dr-barbara-steffens/   Healthy Sexuality: Books: Gregoire, S. (2022). The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex (2nd ed.). Zondervan Books. Gregoire, S. & Gregoire, K.  (2022). The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex. Zondervan Books. Roberts, T. & Roberts, D. (2010). Sexy Christians: The Purpose, Power and Passion of Biblical Intimacy. Baker Books. Slattery, J. (2018). Rethinking Sexuality: God's Design and Why It Matters. Multnomah. Podcasts: https://puredesire.org/podcasts/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2019, July 9). Soul Ties (No. 105) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/soul-ties/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2019, July 30). Sexual Discipleship w/ Juli Slattery (No. 108) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/sexual-discipleship-w-juli-slattery/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, April 26). The Good Guide to Great Sex w/ Dr. Keith and Sheila Wray Gregoire (No. 251) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/the-good-guide-to-great-sex-w-dr-keith-sheil-wray-gregoire/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, November 1). The Four Pillars of Sexual Love w/ Dr. Juli Slattery (No. 278) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/the-four-pillars-of-sexual-love-w-dr-juli-slattery/   Young Adults/College Age: Books (Young Men): Bennett, B., Butcher, B., & Roberts, T. (2016). Living Free. Pure Desire Ministries International. Books (Young Women): Bradley R. & Roberts, D. (2012). Behind the Mask: Authentic living for young women. Pure Desire Ministries International. Podcasts: https://puredesire.org/podcasts/  Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2018, January 30). Living Free w/Ben Bennett (No. 30) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcast/living-free/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2019, September 17). Love, Sex, and Dating (No. 115) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/love-sex-and-dating/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2020, March 31). Getting Healthy Before Marriage w/ Drew Boa (No. 143) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/getting-healthy-before-marriage-w-drew-boa/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, January 12). Groups for Young Women (No. 184) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcast/groups-for-young-women/   Parents: Books: Roberts, B. & Kolb, H. (2018). Digital Natives: Raising an Online Generation. Pure Desire Ministries International. Wright, R. & Wright, T. (2020). How to Talk with Your Kids About Sex. Pure Desire Ministries International. Podcasts: https://puredesire.org/podcasts/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2019, August 13). What Parents Need to Know about Porn (No. 110) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/what-parents-need-to-know-about-porn/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, August 3). The Effects of Pornography w/ Josh McDowell (No. 213) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/the-effects-of-pornography-w-josh-mcdowell/   Pastors/Chaplains/Churches: Books: Laaser, M. (2004). Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction (3rd ed.). Zondervan. Roberts, T. (2008). Pure Desire: How one man's triumph can help others break free from sexual temptation. Regal. Stumbo, N. (2017). Safe: Creating a Culture of Grace in a Climate of Shame. Pure Desire Ministries International. Podcasts: https://puredesire.org/podcasts/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, August 3). The Effects of Pornography w/ Josh McDowell (No. 213) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/the-effects-of-pornography-w-josh-mcdowell/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2020, October 27). No Shame Churches (No. 173) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/no-shame-churches/   Singles: Books: Gregoire, S. (2022). The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex (2nd ed.). Zondervan Books. Gregoire, S. & Gregoire, K.  (2022). The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex. Zondervan Books. Slattery, J. (2018). Rethinking Sexuality: God's Design and Why It Matters. Multnomah. Podcasts: https://puredesire.org/podcasts/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2019, September 17). Love, Sex, and Dating (No. 115) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/love-sex-and-dating/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2020, March 31). Getting Healthy Before Marriage w/ Drew Boa (No. 143) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/getting-healthy-before-marriage-w-drew-boa/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, July 26). Unmet Longings & Unhealthy Behaviors w/ Ben Bennett (No. 264) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/unmet-longings-unhealthy-behaviors-w-ben-bennett/   Miscellaneous: Books on Trauma: Falk, K. & Goldberg, J. (2018). Struggle Well: Thriving in the Aftermath of Trauma. Lioncrest. Van Der Kolk, B. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score. Penguin Books.   Websites: Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists: https://www.apsats.org/ Authentic Intimacy: https://www.authenticintimacy.com/ Pure Desire Ministries International: https://puredesire.org.

Got an idea for a guest or topic? If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org.   Show Notes: In January 2023, Pensacola OCF hosted a one-day workshop to discuss sexual brokenness and unwanted sexual behaviors like pornography addiction and to introduce solutions for healing and wholeness. CAPT Brent & Nicole Breining, USN (Ret.), led sessions throughout that one-day workshop, and they join me today on the podcast as we begin a series of episodes focusing on similar topics. Brent and Nicole share their story and the impact that porn had on their marriage in this episode, and their remaining three Crosspoint episodes will cover topics such as the nature of addiction, the shame cycle, and the neurochemistry of the brain. Having reached a breaking point in their marriage in 2012 and recovered since then by God's grace, Brent and Nicole talk about why that addiction placed such a strain on their marriage, how God worked through accountability partners in their healing process, and more. Above all, their desire is for listeners to understand there is hope and that God can restore anyone struggling with problematic sexual behaviors. Brent retired from the Navy in 2017 after a distinguished 27-year career, and he currently serves as a Foursquare Institutional Chaplain with Pure Desire Ministries, through which he helps men walk in sexual purity and break free from unwanted sexual behaviors. Nicole received a Bachelor of Science in biochemistry from the University of Illinois and a Doctor of Pharmacy from the University of Illinois at Chicago, going on to work as a hospital pharmacist for 25 years. Nicole also has been working with Pure Desire Ministries, leading their betrayal and beyond groups for spouses for about three years. Both Brent and Nicole are accredited pastoral professionals. As you listen to this conversation with Brent and Nicole, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: How can the church establish a culture of grace, especially as applies to this topic of addiction? Brent refers to Ephesians 5:25, which says “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” How does this verse shape your view of emotional intimacy in marriage? Brent talks about the iPhone's contribution to an increased accessibility to pornography in recent years. What steps can you take to ensure your own devices aren't contributing to addictive behaviors? How does our freedom in Christ set us free from the shame of our secrets? Nicole talks about realizing her husband's struggles with pornography prompted her to react in sin as well. If you've been hurt by someone else's sin, what's the value of not using their sin as license to sin in response? If you're struggling with addictive behaviors, sexual or otherwise, what positive habits can you establish to replace those behaviors? Why is assessing your heart posture in all things so critical?   Loads of Resources on this topic Problematic Sexual Behavior (Men): Books: Laaser, M. (2004). Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction (3rd ed.). Zondervan. Roberts, T. (2008). Pure Desire: How one man's triumph can help others break free from sexual temptation. Regal. Roberts, T. (2021). Seven Pillars of Freedom (5th ed.). Pure Desire Ministries International. Stringer, J. (2018). Unwanted: How sexual brokenness reveals our way to healing. NavPress. Podcasts: https://puredesire.org/podcasts/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, January 19). What If My Betrayed Spouse Doesn't Want Healing? (No. 185) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/what-if-my-betrayed-spouse-doesnt-want-healing/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, March 8). How To Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Sexual Betrayal (No. 244) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/how-to-help-your-spouse-heal-from-your-sexual-betrayal/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, November 22). The Impact of Sexual Addiction w/ Dr. Adrian Hickmon (No. 281) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/the-impact-of-sexual-addiction-w-adrian-hickmon/ Video Series: Kolb, H. [Editor]. (2020). Sexual Integrity 101 [Video series]. Pure Desire Ministries International. Ward, G., Wiles, J., & Wiles, T. [Executive Producers]. (2013). Conqueror Series: The battle plan for purity [Video series]. KingdomWorks Studios.   Problematic Sexual Behavior (Women): Books: Kolb, H. [Editor]. (2019). Unraveled: Managing love, sex, and relationships. Pure Desire Ministries International. Stringer, J. (2018). Unwanted: How sexual brokenness reveals our way to healing. NavPress. Podcasts: https://puredesire.org/podcasts/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2020, October 20). The Female Addict and Unraveled (No. 172) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/the-female-addict-unraveled/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, January 19). What If My Betrayed Spouse Doesn't Want Healing? (No. 185) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/what-if-my-betrayed-spouse-doesnt-want-healing/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, March 8). How To Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Sexual Betrayal (No. 244) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/how-to-help-your-spouse-heal-from-your-sexual-betrayal/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, November 22). The Impact of Sexual Addiction w/ Dr. Adrian Hickmon (No. 281) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/the-impact-of-sexual-addiction-w-adrian-hickmon/ Video Series: Kolb, H. [Editor]. (2020). Sexual Integrity 101 [Video series]. Pure Desire Ministries International.   Betrayal Trauma: Books: Kolb, H., Jameson, A., & Roberts, D. (2022). Betrayal & Beyond: Healing the trauma of sexual betrayal (3rd ed.). Pure Desire Ministries International. Pure Desire Ministries. 7 Keys to Understanding Betrayal Trauma (ebook). https://puredesire.org/free-ebook-7-keys-to-understanding-betrayal-trauma/ Steffens, B. & Means, M. (2021). Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal (2nd ed.). Armin Lear Press Inc. Podcasts: https://puredesire.org/podcasts/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2020, November 3). Boundaries in Recovery (No. 174) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/boundaries-in-recovery/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, May 11). What If My Struggling Spouse Doesn't Want Healing? (No. 201) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/what-if-my-struggling-spouse-doesnt-want-healing/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, July 13). Hope for Betrayed Men (No. 210) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/hope-for-betrayed-men/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, July 27). 7 Keys to Understanding Betrayal Trauma (No. 212) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/7-keys-to-understanding-betrayal-trauma/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, February 1). Women's Takeover #1: Healing From Betrayal w/ Dr. Barbara Steffens (No. 239) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/womens-takeover-1-healing-from-betrayal-w-dr-barbara-steffens/   Healthy Sexuality: Books: Gregoire, S. (2022). The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex (2nd ed.). Zondervan Books. Gregoire, S. & Gregoire, K.  (2022). The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex. Zondervan Books. Roberts, T. & Roberts, D. (2010). Sexy Christians: The Purpose, Power and Passion of Biblical Intimacy. Baker Books. Slattery, J. (2018). Rethinking Sexuality: God's Design and Why It Matters. Multnomah. Podcasts: https://puredesire.org/podcasts/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2019, July 9). Soul Ties (No. 105) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/soul-ties/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2019, July 30). Sexual Discipleship w/ Juli Slattery (No. 108) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/sexual-discipleship-w-juli-slattery/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, April 26). The Good Guide to Great Sex w/ Dr. Keith and Sheila Wray Gregoire (No. 251) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/the-good-guide-to-great-sex-w-dr-keith-sheil-wray-gregoire/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, November 1). The Four Pillars of Sexual Love w/ Dr. Juli Slattery (No. 278) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/the-four-pillars-of-sexual-love-w-dr-juli-slattery/   Young Adults/College Age: Books (Young Men): Bennett, B., Butcher, B., & Roberts, T. (2016). Living Free. Pure Desire Ministries International. Books (Young Women): Bradley R. & Roberts, D. (2012). Behind the Mask: Authentic living for young women. Pure Desire Ministries International. Podcasts: https://puredesire.org/podcasts/  Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2018, January 30). Living Free w/Ben Bennett (No. 30) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcast/living-free/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2019, September 17). Love, Sex, and Dating (No. 115) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/love-sex-and-dating/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2020, March 31). Getting Healthy Before Marriage w/ Drew Boa (No. 143) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/getting-healthy-before-marriage-w-drew-boa/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, January 12). Groups for Young Women (No. 184) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcast/groups-for-young-women/   Parents: Books: Roberts, B. & Kolb, H. (2018). Digital Natives: Raising an Online Generation. Pure Desire Ministries International. Wright, R. & Wright, T. (2020). How to Talk with Your Kids About Sex. Pure Desire Ministries International. Podcasts: https://puredesire.org/podcasts/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2019, August 13). What Parents Need to Know about Porn (No. 110) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/what-parents-need-to-know-about-porn/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, August 3). The Effects of Pornography w/ Josh McDowell (No. 213) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/the-effects-of-pornography-w-josh-mcdowell/   Pastors/Chaplains/Churches: Books: Laaser, M. (2004). Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction (3rd ed.). Zondervan. Roberts, T. (2008). Pure Desire: How one man's triumph can help others break free from sexual temptation. Regal. Stumbo, N. (2017). Safe: Creating a Culture of Grace in a Climate of Shame. Pure Desire Ministries International. Podcasts: https://puredesire.org/podcasts/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, August 3). The Effects of Pornography w/ Josh McDowell (No. 213) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/the-effects-of-pornography-w-josh-mcdowell/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2020, October 27). No Shame Churches (No. 173) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/no-shame-churches/   Singles: Books: Gregoire, S. (2022). The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex (2nd ed.). Zondervan Books. Gregoire, S. & Gregoire, K.  (2022). The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex. Zondervan Books. Slattery, J. (2018). Rethinking Sexuality: God's Design and Why It Matters. Multnomah. Podcasts: https://puredesire.org/podcasts/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2019, September 17). Love, Sex, and Dating (No. 115) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/love-sex-and-dating/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2020, March 31). Getting Healthy Before Marriage w/ Drew Boa (No. 143) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/getting-healthy-before-marriage-w-drew-boa/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, July 26). Unmet Longings & Unhealthy Behaviors w/ Ben Bennett (No. 264) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/unmet-longings-unhealthy-behaviors-w-ben-bennett/   Miscellaneous: Books on Trauma: Falk, K. & Goldberg, J. (2018). Struggle Well: Thriving in the Aftermath of Trauma. Lioncrest. Van Der Kolk, B. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score. Penguin Books.   Websites: Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists: https://www.apsats.org/ Authentic Intimacy: https://www.authenticintimacy.com/ Pure Desire Ministries International: https://puredesire.org.

Hi friends! We're putting the finishing touches on the next season of the podcast, which should be ready to go by the week of May 8.    For at least the first 6 episodes, we're going to be discussing the topic of pornography, sexual addictions, and problematic sexual behaviors. We'll spend time discussing this topic from the perspective of men, women, married couples, families, and singles (in particular, single women).   Yes—it's a really heavy dose of a really heavy topic. But this is an issue that affects everyone, both inside and outside the church, regardless of relationship status or gender. These sorts of problematic behaviors have also ended up destroying the careers of some very successful military leaders.   Also, this might be an issue affecting you. Right now.   Here are a few questions to challenge you and make you think a little deeper on this topic between now and when we start the next season in a couple of weeks:   ·      Is pornography addiction just a guy's problem? ·      What should the church's role be when discussing sexuality and these sorts of topics? ·      If you're single and have a porn or sexual addiction, OR if you are dating someone and find out they are struggling with this issue, what should you do? Break up? Continue the relationship? ·      If you're a parent, and you find out your child or teen is looking at porn, what should you do?   As always, if you have ideas for guests, topics, or stories you think we should consider on a future episode of the show, you can send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org or fill out our short podcast guest form located online at https://www.ocfusa.org/podcastguest.   Thanks for listening, and we'll be back in a couple of weeks.  

Show Notes: For the finale of our three-part series on leadership, Brig Gen Robert “Gwyn” Armfield, USAF (Ret.), former OCF executive director Lt Gen Bruce Fister, USAF (Ret.), and current OCF executive director Col Scott Fisher, USAF (Ret.) discuss how to navigate matters of conscience–circumstances where your job and your faith seem to be at odds. Gwyn, Bruce, and Scott begin this conversation by referencing scripture to shape the way we approach such circumstances, serving as a “biblical blueprint” of sorts. Speaking from personal experiences and conversations with friends of all ages, they remind us not be surprised by the tensions we see around us today, but rather to look back and learn from past examples regarding matters of conscience. Above all and in all things, these leaders exhort us to keep Christ at the center of the challenging choices that are sure to come. In today's episode, Scott mentions OCF's Pray-Discover-Obey model, which we invite you to use as a means to be still before God and ask Him for wisdom and direction before future actions are planned out. For an additional resource on the topics we covered throughout this three-part series, consider ordering Gwyn and Bruce's recently released book, Lead to Serve and Serve to Lead: Leading Well in Turbulent Times. If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org. As you listen to this conversation with Gwyn, Bruce, and Scott, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: When was a time you found your job to be at odds with your faith, and how did you handle it? Scott quotes John Stonestreet: “Too many believers right now are interested in making a point rather than making an influence.” How might that quote shape how you navigate tensions between your job and your faith? Bruce then refers to Matthew 22:37-38. What practical ways can you weave Jesus' commands into your service in uniform? What other Bible passages come to mind when Gwyn, Bruce, and Scott discuss verses that can shape our framework for navigating tensions like the ones described? What can we learn from Daniel's example of serving in environments where we might be asked to do things that don't align with our faith?

Show Notes: Today's episode is the second in a 3-part series on leadership, featuring guests Brig Gen Robert “Gwyn” Armfield, USAF (Ret.), former OCF executive director Lt Gen Bruce Fister, USAF (Ret.), and current OCF executive director Col Scott Fisher, USAF (Ret.). The topic that'll be discussed is failure and how to deal with it as a leader in the high-stakes military profession. As my guest Bruce Fister points out, “We're all going to fail at one point … But you have to deal with it because otherwise no one is going to learn from it.” Some of the aspects of failure that Bruce, Gwynn, and Scott touch upon include how leaders can create a culture of trust by “being real” about their failures, the importance of setting up those you lead for success—and the space to fail, how smart leaders understand their strengths and weaknesses and rely on others for help, and what can happen when you act too quickly in decision-making without taking it to prayer. If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org. Here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: What keeps us from facing our failures—let alone dealing with and learning from them? How can honesty about failures as a leader create a culture of trust with those you lead? Do you believe that you could never rise up to the level of your leaders because they have never failed, and you have? Examine the lives of King David, the Apostle Peter, and others in the Bible who have failed, but were used by God as leaders. Still true of you? Why? The panelists underscore that young leaders learn how to make good decisions because someone allowed them to make bad decisions and learn from them. Do you do that as a leader? What steps could you take to create space for others to fail and learn from it? The Book of James instructs us to be “quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to wrath” (1:19). Think of a time when those attributes were absent either from another leader or in your own leadership. How would you handle that situation now? How does communicating with God in prayer and developing a biblical eternal perspective and spiritual resilience make it possible to learn from and move on in the military profession when it comes to injury and death? “Listen to God, seek what He would have us do, and obey whatever that is.” Why are those so often regarded as last resort when it comes to decisions in life, and especially so as Christian leaders?

Show Notes: This episode begins a three-part series featuring Brig Gen Robert “Gwyn” Armfield, USAF (Ret.), former OCF executive director Lt Gen Bruce Fister, USAF (Ret.), and current OCF executive director Col Scott Fisher, USAF (Ret.). Speaking from nearly 90 years of combined service in the Air Force, these three leaders share their personal stories as followers of Christ and as military officers. On this first installment, Gwyn, Bruce, and Scott discuss how leaders can approach employing God's Word effectively, integrating the calling to serve in uniform and the calling to serve the Lord, and leading in times of crisis. The cornerstone of being an effective leader who can do these three things well, they assert, is being a leader of character. Gwyn and Bruce's recently released book, Lead to Serve and Serve to Lead: Leading Well in Turbulent Times, inspired today's roundtable conversation and the two to come. Gwyn describes his and Bruce's book as a “discipling guide on how to lead things and get things done in a way that honors Christ with a tactical-level implementation,” written for people of all ages and walks of life. If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org. As you listen to this conversation with Gwyn, Bruce, and Scott, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: Scott described character as the “cornerstone of an effective leader.” What examples, biblical or personal, prove that concept? For biblical principles of effective leadership, Gwyn references Philippians 2:3-4, and Bruce references Proverbs 12. Read those passages for yourself and consider what you can apply to your own leadership roles. Throughout your military career, you'll likely find yourself in conversations about leadership where you can incorporate biblical principles. What verses can you incorporate into those conversations? As a uniformed service member, how can you share your faith in a wise and understanding way? Bruce says people won't remember a crisis, but they'll remember how a leader performed during a crisis. What crisis response comes to mind when you hear Bruce's point, and what can you learn from the leader's or leaders' response to said crisis.

Show Notes: Today's episode takes us back to the topic of small groups. If you've listened to some of the more recent episodes of this podcast, you might be asking, “Haven't you guys said enough about small groups already?” In this episode, however, we're going to hit that topic from a slightly different angle as LT Will Parker, USN, and LT Sam Alexander, USN, sit down to talk about their experiences while serving aboard submarines. They discuss the challenges of such a unique environment, the challenges of beginning and maintaining a small group Bible study aboard a submarine, and practical applications for similarly isolated environments. They also get into the importance of seeking out fellowship with others wherever you can, whether that's through an OCF small group, a local church body, or with a few peers at work. If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org. As you listen to this conversation with Will and Sam, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: Will and Sam talk about the unique schedules, or lack thereof, of service aboard a submarine and the challenge such irregularity presents in many aspects of life. How do you make time for investing in relationships with God and with others when you can't control your own schedule? Recall a time when you had an atypical fellowship group. What made those relationships most impactful despite your unique life circumstances? Sam mentions a “grab bag” of pre-structured Bible study resources that helped him lead a small group when he didn't have much time to prepare between gatherings. What resources could you place in your own “grab bag” for future use? How can you use technology as a tool for pouring into others and receiving encouragement even as you're away from in-person fellowship? What practical, realistic goal can you set in your own walk with the Lord? Don't set a goal for the sake of setting a goal and checking something off your to-do list, but let this goal serve as a reminder to factor its objective into your everyday life.

Show Notes: Today we're going to talk about a topic that pops up from time to time on the podcast, and that topic is trauma. In this episode, we're going to consider this overarching question: What's a biblical approach to dealing with or healing from trauma? Here to help me answer that question is Jeremy Stalnecker, who served as an infantry officer in the United States Marine Corps. He currently serves as the executive director of the Mighty Oaks Foundation, a nonprofit organization dedicated to helping America's military warriors and their families suffering from the unseen wounds of combat such as post-traumatic stress. Raised in southern California as a pastor's kid, Jeremy watched his parents serve in the church and was convinced the Lord would ever call him to serve in ministry. Nonetheless, Jeremy's parents taught him the importance of service, prompting him to pursue a future as a Marine. Commissioning in 1999 and serving in Kuwait and Iraq, Jeremy returned to the States, left the Marine Corps, and, despite his earlier assertions he'd never go into ministry, joined a church staff shortly thereafter. His service as a Marine and the years to follow have given Jeremy opportunities to deal with and heal from his own trauma, resulting in a passion for helping others, particularly within the military community, do the same. In our conversation, he unpacks a functional definition of “trauma,” its relationship with identity, the impact of spiritual resilience, and next steps to take when you or a loved one are dealing with trauma. Check out the various resources mentioned throughout this episode: Mighty Oaks Foundation March or Die (book) March or Die (podcast) The Anatomy of Courage: The Classic WWI Study of the Psychological Effects of War by Lord Moran If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org. As you listen to this conversation with Jeremy, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: Jeremy talks about feeling lost and alone when he quickly left the Marine Corps and joined a church staff. Have you ever had a similar experience when the course of your life changed quickly and unexpectedly? How did you feel during that season? When have you had to choose to take a faith-filled step forward? How would you describe the role of identity in trauma or healing from trauma? If you haven't yet, what spiritual disciplines can you cultivate to develop spiritual resilience? Jeremy reminds us that “isolation kills.” Who can you ask for help when dealing with and healing from trauma? How can you help others when they're experiencing trauma? Thinking of Jeremy's earlier statement that trauma pervades the Bible, what scripture comes to mind as you listen to this conversation?

This episode of OCF Crosspoint is a chance to hear from CDR Carl Crabtree, USN (Ret.), who currently serves with his wife, Christy, as the OCF Field Staff Representative at the U.S. Coast Guard Academy. A man on a mission in this episode to share how God has healed him from “PTSD, trauma, moral injury, habitual sin,” Carl shares about his experiences as a foster-to-adopt kid and onward. While the conversation doesn't get overly detailed or specific, please be advised to listen with care or listen to a different episode altogether if you are still healing from your own past trauma. Carl pulls from countless personal experiences as an officer in the Navy, a leader in his local church, a husband to his wife, and others, reflecting on how God worked through hardship in all those circumstances to deepen his relationship with Him. Along the way, the Lord redefined and brought to life some commonly used Christian terms like forgiveness, grace, and trust for Carl. In addition to biblical passages and relationships with friends and family, Carl mentions a few resources that aided his walk with the Lord, linked below: Victory Over the Darkness by Neil T. Anderson of Freedom in Christ Ministries How People Change by Timothy S. Lane and Paul David Tripp The Ragamuffin Gospel: Good News for the Bedraggled, Beat-Up, and Burnt Out by Brennan Manning If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org. As you listen to this conversation with Carl, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: What do you turn to as a means of escape from difficult life circumstances? How would you describe the tone of your conversations with God when He brings hardship your way? Why is it vital to read Ephesians in its entirety rather than focus on one half of the book? Carl talks about approaching his military career and his walk with the Lord with a “performer” mentality. In what area of your own life do you find yourself being a performer? Despite the distractions of the world, how do you stay focused on your own identity in Christ? When have you seen the Lord use your vulnerability to impact others?

Show Notes: LT Jonathan Gentry, CHC, USN, discusses the seemingly simple concept of trusting God, specifically within the context of Jonathan's calling to the ministry and to the military. Since December 2020, Jonathan has been serving as a chaplain at Marine Corps Base Camp Lejeune, but the Navy chaplaincy was not always on his radar. A Georgia native and pastor's kid, Jonathan wrestled with the same questions many high school graduates face: What should I do next? Where should I go? What career should I pursue? Based on his own love for theatre in high school, Jonathan chose to pursue a degree in theatre at the University of Memphis while also growing spiritually through leadership roles with his church and Baptist Collegiate Ministry (BCM). Later in college, Jonathan realized the Lord was pulling him away from theatre studies toward ministry instead, leading him to Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary. The years to follow were ones of trusting God and waiting on Him with decisions about education, vocation, and relationships. He reflects on past experiences where he can now retroactively see God's hand at work and encourages other Christians in the military to trust Him in all things from job assignments to work dynamics to personal relationships. Jonathan answered the call for podcast guests by completing the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage, and you are invited to do the same if you would like to share your own story. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic that should be considered for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org. As you listen to this conversation with Jonathan, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: Describe a time when you wrestled with discerning God's calling for your life. What did you learn about God's character through that experience? Where can you look back retroactively to see the Lord's hand at work in circumstances you didn't understand at the time? Jonathan describes a hard experience with a church that he “wouldn't trade” because he can see how that prepared him for the Navy chaplaincy. What challenging but growing experience would you not trade? What does trusting God look like in a practical sense? What spiritual disciplines help you trust the Lord in all things?

Show Notes: After commissioning through the ROTC program at the University of Missouri, Lt Col JB Kump, USAF (Ret.), spent just over 20 years serving wherever the Air Force sent him. Along the way, he and his wife quickly connected with various OCF and church small groups. The “home-away-from-home” fellowship he and his young family found during an early assignment in Germany provided the prayer and support they needed while stationed overseas, and JB has been an avid advocate for small groups ever since. In this episode of OCF Crosspoint, JB shares what made those small groups so impactful in his own life, practical tips for those currently interested in leading small groups, how his passion for those local fellowships led to his current post-military career, and more. JB now serves as Minister of Small Groups, Retreats, & Visitation at Great Outdoors Community Church in Titusville, Fla. He additionally holds roles on the boards of directors for both the American Evangelical Christian Churches and Berlin U.S. Military Veterans Association. JB answered the call for podcast guests by completing the form on our “Be a Guest” webpage, and we invite you to do the same if you would like to share your own story. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic we should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org. As you listen to this conversation with JB, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: What factors have made a small group impactful in your own life? Do you view small groups primarily as a chance to study the Word or to build relationships with other believers? How do you find the balance in your own group? How can we as members of the military community effectively invest in relationships despite the frequent turnover that comes with the military lifestyle? Have you felt the Lord calling you to lead and/or participate in a small group? What next steps might you take to follow the Lord's calling? In what ways has the Lord grown you through an experience in which you were reluctant to participate? What Scripture comes to mind when you think about what a biblical small group ought to look like? How does Ecclesiastes 4:12 apply to small groups?

Show Notes: CH(COL) Bob Phillips, USA (Ret.), joins us on the podcast today to speak from his 26 years of military service and his ongoing work as the chaplain to the Corps of Cadets at his own alma mater, Virginia Military Institute. Bob shares his stories of coming to faith with his parents, “straddling the fence” in high school and in college, and meeting his wife Tracy, before diving into what his current ministry looks like at VMI. He observes that one of the predominant topics of discussion among cadets and college students across the country today is anxiety. While anxiety can often seem unavoidable and unbeatable, Bob shares how he and Tracy use relationships and group Bible studies to address anxiety and point cadets back to Christ. Bob also serves on the OCF Council, this ministry's governing body, where he provides perspectives and input to shape OCF's strategic goals, ministry-wide decisions, and more.  Interested in learning more about generation-specific ministry? Check out the following resources Bob mentioned throughout this episode: College Ministry 101: A Guide to Working with 18-25 Year Olds by Chuck Bomar Generation iY: Secrets to Connecting With Today's Teens & Young Adults in the Digital Age by Tim Elmore Generation Z Unfiltered: Facing Nine Hidden Challenges of the Most Anxious Population by Tim Elmore Meet Generation Z: Understanding and Reaching the New Post-Christian World by James Emery White If you have an idea for a guest, topic, or story that I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org or visit OCF's new “Be a Guest” webpage. As you listen to this conversation with Bob, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: Bob shares that his family's dining room table is their “greatest resource for evangelism… and discipleship.” How could you similarly use a seemingly everyday item to make an impact for the Kingdom? What topic seems to “come to the surface” often in your own local community, and how can you engage with that topic biblically? How does Christ address the anxiety many face today, such as the VMI cadets Bob serves? How have you seen the power of relationships with other believers impact your own life? Do you have a mentor? If you do, how can you start preparing to mentor others in the future? If you don't, who in your local community could you ask to pour into you spiritually in that capacity?

Show Notes: Jesus follower, wife, mother, military veteran, USAFA '97 graduate, counselor, nutritional healing-foods lover, author. These phrases all describe today's guest, Aurelia Smith. Aurelia served as an active-duty Air Force officer both in the United States and abroad and separated from the military in 2002 as a Captain, and she's been involved with OCF in many capacities since her cadet years. GRACE: God's Reconciliation At Christ's Expense. To say race relations is a complex issue is an understatement, and every facet of this topic cannot be covered in this one episode. Aurelia and I simply sat down to start the conversation, talk through Aurelia's experiences in the military community, and her passion for helping other believers answer the question: How do I minister to the person in front of me who's hurting from an ethnic or cultural incident? Aurelia and I are both members of OCF's R7:9 Project (Revelation 7:9) committee, which examines the critical subject of race relations and explores how believers should engage in this topic in a biblical manner. Throughout this episode, Aurelia mentions a few books and resources linked below: One Race One Blood: The Biblical Answer to Racism by Ken Ham and Charles Ware Weep with Me: How Lament Opens a Door for Racial Reconciliation by Mark Vroegop  Ministering to Military Women: Biblical Help & Hope by Aurelia Smith Truth in Love podcast, episode 358 Truth in Love podcast, episode 369 Programs at Spring Canyon Programs at White Sulphur Springs Caleb Challenge Career Transitions Strategies If you have an idea for a guest, topic, or story that I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org or visit OCF's new “Be a Guest” webpage. As you listen to this conversation with Aurelia, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: What does it look like to engage with race relations in a biblical manner as Christ followers? How should the passages Aurelia read from John chapters 13 and 17 shape our understanding of the love and unity to which we're called? How can you align your heart with God's heart for the nations expressed in Revelation 7:9? In what ways does your local church engage with today's topic? How would you respond to the first situation Aurelia described in which an interracial couple faces backlash within the church body? What Scripture would you share with Adam in the second scenario? What counsel would you give Tanya in the third scenario? How can OCF as a ministry to the military community continue to engage with the topic of GRACE relations? Contact R7:9 Project Coordinator Larry Simpson to continue the conversation: pacificnorthwest@ocfusa.org.

What keeps you from sharing your faith with others? I sat down with Capt Ryan McCary, ANG, to talk about this question and others. Ryan shares his own story of growing up in a missionary family, joining AFROTC at the University of Central Florida, and debating between military service and vocational ministry. He recounts his own failures to share his faith and how the Lord changed Him through those experiences, then he offers practical steps on how to be bold in your faith today. Ryan also hosts his own podcast. Check out his MIL SPEC Believer podcast and follow him on Instagram (@mil_spec_believer) to stay connected with Ryan as he continues the conversation about being a Christian in the military. If you have an idea for a guest, topic, or story that I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org or visit OCF's new “Be a Guest” webpage. As you listen to this conversation with Ryan, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time or with a small group or mentor: How would you define a “testimony”? When was a time you saw the Lord work through someone sharing their testimony, and why was it so impactful? How do you stay “prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have,” as 1 Peter 3:15 exhorts? What's the value of not only reflecting on your story but sharing it as well? Can God use failure both in your individual story and His bigger story? What practical step can you take to be bold for Christ and share the story He's given you?

I interviewed Maj Chris Reardon, USMC, who shares his testimony as well as his experiences with integrating faith and profession. For some people, that can perhaps be an ambiguous topic. What exactly does it mean to integrate faith and profession? Chris unpacks what that looks like for him as a Marine and shares some practical application. In the spirit of the topic, Chris also talks about his nonprofit called Freedom Fitness America, a fusion of fitness and faith, as a means of integrating his faith and profession and helping others do the same. This conversation with Chris kicks off the third season of OCF Crosspoint, and don't miss the episodes to come in the months ahead. If you have an idea for a guest, topic, or story that I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org or visit OCF's new “Be a Guest” webpage. Places to find FFA online: Website: https://freedomfitnessamerica.org Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/freedomfitnessamerica Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fit4thefightlife LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/freedom-fitness-america/ LinkedIn Personal Profile: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chrisreardon7872 YouTube “Shoot, Move, Communicate” Channel:https://www.youtube.com/c/ShootMoveCommunicate Questions to ponder: As you listen to Chris' story, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time or with a small group or mentor: Chris shares that he knew from a young age that he wanted to serve in the military, but his father “was not keen” on Chris' aspirations. How do we as Christians seek to honor our father and mother as we're commanded to while also honoring what the Lord puts on our hearts to do? How did hearing Chris' experiences of integrating faith and profession shape your understanding of intertwining those two facets of life? What does it mean to you to integrate faith and profession? Recall a time in your own life when you submitted to the Lord's calling. How did obeying Him in that circumstance change your relationship with Him? What are your thoughts on Chris' comparison of a Christian in the military to a palm tree? Chris shares that a friend often used tracts to share Christ with strangers while the Lord showed Chris He would use his relationships instead. How are these two approaches to telling others about Christ effective in different ways? How can you come alongside the chaplaincy in your own life to make an impact for the Kingdom together? Consider your own God-given skills, talents, and passions. How could God use these unique interests of yours to glorify Himself?

This episode marks the end of season 2 of OCF Crosspoint. Thank you to each of our listeners, whether you're tuning in for the first time or you're a longtime listener. If you haven't heard each episode this season, be sure to go back to episode 1 and catch up on some amazing stories. Was there an episode that really stood out to you this season? Maybe one that you could relate to on some level or that had some other significance? If so, I'd really like to hear from you. Share your favorite episode with me at podcast@ocfusa.org. Likewise, a big thank-you to all of my guests this season. I appreciate the willingness of each guest to share some deep and personal parts of their life stories. As we head into this break between podcast seasons and start working on interviews for season 3 in April, here are three ways you can help the podcast: First, if you have an idea for a guest, topic, or story that should be considered for the podcast, send an email to me at podcast@ocfusa.org and let me know. At least a couple episodes in season 2 happened as a result of listeners like you reaching with ideas. Next, if you think OCF Crosspoint is a valuable resource, would you consider leaving a review for the show wherever you listen to podcasts, and would you also tell someone else about this podcast? We've found that word-of-mouth advertising is extremely helpful in getting the word out to others about the show. And finally, since this podcast is a resource of Officers' Christian Fellowship, be sure to find out more about OCF if you haven't heard of our ministry. Otherwise, take a look at the website for ways to get involved in OCF, for additional resources to help you integrate your spiritual calling and military calling, and with winter approaching, check out the holiday programs at our two conference centers, Spring Canyon and White Sulphur Springs. My guest this episode is ENS Nelson Chiaravallotti, USN. Here are a few questions to ponder as you listen to his story of military life at the intersection of faith, family, and profession. Nelson's childhood desire to become a Navy officer was sparked by his parents, both Navy commanders, and their friends, who he calls “role models,” for the way they lived out their Christian faith and character in leadership. Of those in your life who influenced you either positively or negatively, what are some of the ways you have built upon the positive examples? What about the negative ones? Nelson emphasizes several times about the quality of perseverance—which he defines as an “enduring and faithful pursuit in the face of affliction,” essential to the Christian walk, and is “built on your why,” which is trust in God. Consider this Scripture: “…we also celebrate in our tribulations, knowing that tribulation brings about perseverance; and perseverance, proven character” (Romans 5:3-4, NKJV). How do all those things help hone Christlike leadership as military leaders? Nelson quotes John 18:8-9 as a backdrop to the importance of taking ownership as a leader of “what you're doing, your job, your role, and your people most of all.” How does ownership of what Christ has entrusted to you as a leader impact how you lead others? Is it true that “their well-being is your well-being”? What are some of the ways you care for those you lead in ways that others leading you don't do?

My guest this episode is MAJ Liliane Delva, USA. Liliane was initially interviewed for an article on Christian Mentoring that appeared in the Spring 2021 issue of COMMAND magazine. In this episode, Liliane talks about the significance of the 9/11 attacks on her Army career, how her parents immigrated from Haiti and made it a point to keep the family away from some of the voodoo practices they saw while living there, and she also talks about how trauma from a molestation as a child had a profound impact on her life, creating much fear and anxiety, before she followed that gentle nudging from God to get help and healing. As a reminder: If you have an idea for a guest, topic, or story that I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org or to josh.jackson@ocfusa.org. As you listen to Liliane's story, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time or with a small group or mentor. Liliane discusses joining the military at a time when a military career was “marketed” as an opportunity for college scholarships and developing skill sets, and how the events of 9/11 caused her to reconsider what her military service really meant. How does her resolve to fulfill her commitment, to “not go back on my word,” align with what Jesus tells us in Matthew 5:37 to “…let your ‘yes' be ‘yes,' and your ‘no' be ‘no'”?  Liliane was born and raised in Haiti where the “blending of different belief systems” including voodoo was common. With a “reverence for God” intact from her Catholic upbringing, as a teen Liliane determined to “find out and establish a relationship with God for myself.” How does establishing a relationship with God differ from merely practicing a religion? “The way we envision the word ‘father,' and the image that we see regarding ‘father' or ‘dad' is very important because it can influence the way we see God.” Liliane says she sees in God the Father the same attributes that she felt from her earthly father in how he loved, cared, and protected her as an authority figure. What is your view of God? How does that impact your life—or the way you treat others, especially if you have kids? Reflect on these statements from Liliane: “God is really in everything we do, and He is really present in every aspect of our lives,” and “There is a greater strength in you than you realize that allows you to overcome, and that's the strength you find in God.” In what ways do these thoughts amaze you, especially in knowing these are from a woman who overcame sexual abuse?

Have you ever been in a situation where it seemed like God was using affliction to draw you to Him? Or maybe you're in that situation now. How do you respond in those circumstances? In the face of a chronic illness that seems to have no end, Karis Meier chooses to respond in this way—give thanks. In this episode, Karis is joined by her husband, LTC Ben Meier, USA, and throughout my conversation with them, you'll hear at least three themes in their story: First, marriage. Both Karis and Ben talk about the difficult aspects of marriage that often come along with the commitment to that marriage. Second, patience in suffering. Karis talks about contentment and endurance as she daily battles a disease and continually asks for healing. And Ben shares how not being able to help Karis with her physical health has taught him to be more compassionate. And third, sustainability. As a couple and as individuals, Karis and Ben talk about practical applications that have helped them on their marriage journey. Click here to visit Karis' blog, Suffering Well.  As you listen to their story of military life at the intersection of faith, family, and profession, here are 4 questions to reflect on: Seasons of change can often be difficult to adjust to. Karis talked about not only the change that comes from being newly married, but also the “new culture” of military that she had to get adjusted to and the start of what has been a mysterious illness. God brought Psalm 121:1 to her mind (“I lift up my eyes to the hills. From where does my help come?” ESV). What verses of Scripture have helped you during difficult seasons of change? Ben said that his 15-deployment to Iraq and Karis's multiple health struggles were “opportunities” God used to grow their marriage, “to force us to learn to communicate in ways that we weren't doing well,” and it was an experience “brought us to our knees and to each other.” Why is it so hard to communicate with others, especially spouses or family? What factors play into the difference between really communicating as opposed to a he-said-she-said dialogue? Read 2 Corinthians 1:8-9. Have you ever experienced a health issue or life challenge that has rendered you feeling burdened beyond strength, even despairing of life itself? Why do you think that even then, the tendency of humans is to rely upon ourselves, to find satisfaction in things other than God? What does that say about us in our walk of faith as Christians? Prayer and worship together, developing a key support system around them, and a 10-minute couch time to connect. Karis and Ben talked about specific and practical ways they've incorporated these disciplines into their marriage and family to help navigate the challenges stemming from Karis' ongoing health issues and Ben's career challenges as an officer in the Army. What are some of the ways that trusting in God makes it possible to confront the problems of life? Or does it? If not, what do you rely on instead?

Some 2,500 years after the time of the prophet Habakkuk, Lt Col Ron Bracy, USAF (Ret.), found himself asking the same question as the Old Testament prophet: “How long, O Lord, will I call and you will not hear me?” I first met Ron back in 2019, and soon after, interviewed him for this podcast. We had a great conversation as Ron unpacked how God used Habakkuk to help him through some very dark days after the death of his son, Todd. However, I recently learned that on August 11, 2021, Lt Col Bracy had died. Ron graduated from the United States Air Force Academy and served 42 years in the Active, Reserve, and Guard components of the United States Air Force. Ron is a veteran of Vietnam with 183 combat reconnaissance missions, recipient of the Distinguished Flying Cross, 15 Air Medals, and other medals for outstanding military service. Ron also was an Air Force chaplain and was deployed throughout the "hotspots of the world" as he called them. His last active-duty assignment was at the Pentagon, where he was on duty the morning of the terror attacks on 9/11. He also earned a Ph.D. in Biblical Studies and Ethics; taught at seminary, college, and secondary schools; was a pastor for 25 years; and is also the author of Walk On, a book that uses Habakkuk to go deeper on topics such as despair, faith, and praise. In this episode, I want to share some of the conversation we had and tell you the story of Ron Bracy, and his journey through the valley of despair, and ultimately, how he reached the mountaintop of praise. This is Ron's story of military life at the intersection of faith, family, and profession. As you listen to his story, here are some questions to ponder. Read Habakkuk 1, where the prophet questions God about the lawlessness, wickedness, and the lack of justice surrounding him, and why God was not setting things right. Why does God allow us to see, even experience, iniquity and trouble in others? Or ourselves? Do those things lead you to God, or away from Him? Ron says that “every person who's ever lived on this earth will deal with the issue of despair in their lives.” The death of his son on a training mission left him—a pastor—struggling for years: “My son was dead, and so was I.” In what ways has faith in Christ helped you cope with the despairs of life? Ponder this observation of Ron's: “‘Be still, and know that I am God.' Honestly, how many of us are ‘still' in our lives? We fill our day with activity, we can't stand the silence. We fill our lives with things, we're never still. How do we expect to hear God?” Is that a true statement for you? What is your remedy? Ron's book, Walk On, is still available at Amazon. To purchase a paper or digital copy, click here.

Hope and healing. If you've ever experienced a trauma, you need both. But how do you know when healing has actually begun? For Capt Amanda Yashack, United States Air Force Reserve, the genesis of the hope and healing that she so desperately needed could have easily gone unnoticed. It began in the back of a church after Sunday services, as a stranger offered Amanda a tissue and sat silently with her as she cried. In the previous episode, Amanda shared the first part of her story, which centered on the trauma she experienced as a result of a sexual assault. If you missed that part of her story, be sure to go back and take a listen. As I mentioned last episode, if you or someone you know has been sexually assaulted, please get help. Consider starting with the National Sexual Assault Hotline. They offer confidential 24/7 support, and their number is 800-656-4673. In this episode, Amanda concludes her story by sharing how God began to radically heal her heart and change her life through a series of events. As you listen to Amanda's story of military life at the intersection of faith, family, and profession, here are a few questions to ponder: The kindness and dignity given her from an unknown lady at church, or the pilot school classmates' “by a different playbook” life of faith that she wanted for herself—those are some of the ways other Christians impacted Amanda during her faith journey to Christ. Have you ever thought about how the way you live your life impacts others, both positively and negatively? Amanda came to believe that “God gives us the free choice to choose Him because real love does not force anybody to do anything.” By first recognizing God's “free and loving choice to forgive me,” Amanda was moved “to understand that I can freely and lovingly forgive the people who assaulted me.” Is it possible to forgive others outside of loving them? What would need to change for forgiveness in love to happen? Amanda participated in RMH, an outdoor leadership program largely for young officers. What do you think this mentor's statement from their Bible study sessions, “We shouldn't live our lives to be better Christians but that we should seek Christ with everything, and the rest will follow”? In this episode, Amanda also mentioned: Episode 47, “Building Community in the Military Sisterhood” (47. Kristin Goodrich: Building community in the military sisterhood - Officers' Christian Fellowship (ocfusa.org)) Rocky Mountain High, OCF's premier leadership development program for cadets, midshipmen, junior officers and Christian leaders (Rocky Mountain High – Spring Canyon Conference Center)

A caution for listeners: This episode deals with a topic that may affect some listeners. Part of my guest's story involves trauma resulting from sexual assault. If you've experienced a similar trauma, if you have children around, or if you might be around someone who has experienced trauma, please consider coming back to this episode later and using caution when listening. If you or someone you know has been sexually assaulted, please get help. If you're unsure about where to get help, consider starting with the National Sexual Assault Hotline. They offer confidential 24/7 support, and their number is 800-656-4673. It's been just over a year since I interviewed Capt Amanda Yashack, United States Air Force Reserve. In fact, at that time, she was still Amanda Blaschko and was just weeks away from getting married. Amanda's story will be divided into two parts. In this episode, Amanda will talk about how her life spiraled out of control when she was in ROTC, largely as a result of the trauma she experienced, and then how that led to burnout, compartmentalizing her pain, and as she calls it…rock bottom. In the next episode, you'll hear her story of hope and healing as God began doing a mighty work in her life. As you listen to Amanda's story of military life at the intersection of faith, family, and profession, here are a few questions to ponder: We often hear from others that we can “be anything we want to be, do anything we set our minds to.” Are those true statements? How do they stack up against Jesus' statement that “I am the vine; you are the branches…apart from me you can do nothing” (John 15:5, ESV). Amanda describes suppressing her sexual assault experiences and instead relying on “all the little victories” in pursuit of her dreams as “building a world on a foundation of sinking sand.” Read Matthew 7:24-25. In what ways do you think building our lives on the rock that is Christ sustains us through the storms of life? Amanda cautions that “if you have anything you haven't dealt with, it's not a matter of if but when it will bubble to the surface.” By not dealing with her sexual assault experiences, Amanda says the “place I was in got even darker.” Is there anything in your life that has you trying to live life as if nothing happened? Does pride, fear, or embarrassment keep you from seeking help? Tune in next episode when Amanda shares the rest of her story.