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Barry finishes up his discussion of what we are doing and what we should be doing instead. This episode focuses on replacing the Enlightenment's devotion to comprehend and control the universe with a devotion to understand and live out our purpose within it. Once we know (as we can from scripture) what God expects; all […]

Barry begins the celebration of his upcoming birthday by using your time and mind to focus on a conundrum that has fascinated him since high school: the Tower of Babel. What is the difference between what humans are capable of and what they are responsible for? Let's help him with his birthday wish.     […]

Wherein the guys plot to overthrow HR after talking about hip thrustage.

I am worried that when people carve on trees to display love.. why are they bringing a knife on a date

The Samurai Pros are back!!! The Boys start the pod discussing our parents asking if we had McDonald's money. They discuss the Drake & Jay-Z bubbling rivalry, the internet's reaction to our Jaguar Wright take, Jaguar Wright & Orlando Brown creating content together, Dame Dash speaks on the Diddy allegations. They close out the pod discussing the rumor that Stefon Diggs allegedly slept with Cardi B while she was pregnant, and much more. Let's Chop It Up! Rate, Comment, and Subscribe. It helps the podcast to grow. Intro 1 | Pound Cake - Drake ft. Jay-Z Vibes of the Week Frank | Talk To Me Nice - Larussell Marvin | Owe To You (A COLORS SHOW) - Khalid  Vibes of the Week Playlist:  https://music.apple.com/us/playlist/samurai-professionals-vibes-of-the-week/pl.u-oZylld9FR8Be5G  Please visit us at TheSamuraiPros.com Leave us a voice note. We'll play it on then show.  Follow the hosts on social all social platforms: Instagram | @TheSamuraiPros  Twitter | @TheSamuraiPros  Marvin | @MarvinxAdams  Frank | @iCanOnlyBeFrank Don't forget to tag #TheSamuraiPros or @ us to let us know what you think of this week's episode!

This morning Patrick Borders shares a homily with The Parish, and he invites our community to reimagine the creation story and the shalom God intended for us. Patrick will also be teaching a class this fall called "Shalom, Jesus, & Politics," and you can learn more/register at parish.community/shalom

This morning Patrick Borders shares a homily with The Parish, and he invites our community to reimagine the creation story and the shalom God intended for us. Patrick will also be teaching a class this fall called "Shalom, Jesus, & Politics," and you can learn more/register at parish.community/shalom

S4 Ep 39: Barking Up The Wrong Tree Just Gaymin Podcast Hosted By: Brandon, Will, Trigger Recorded On: 09/22/2024 In this episode, the hosts dive into: Cinema Poo (Trigger's Segment): The hosts discuss and review "Never Let Go" Download Queue (Will's Segment): Will reads a mysterious video game synopsis, and the hosts determine if it's a Queue-ty or Boo-ty. Just The Playlist (Brandon's Segment): The hosts share their bops of the week. Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://uppbeat.io/t/danijel-zambo/game-over⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠License code: HH5MFI4XTMEGFFMX

Eits, tunggu! Firstory bukan hosting biasa. Ini senjata rahasia para podcaster sukses. Masih gapercaya? Coba sekarang! Gratis! Klik dan daftar langsung disini https://fstry.pse.is/6fs5dy —— Firstory DAI —— Pernah gak kamu merasa bahwa sukses itu harus selalu mengikuti aturan? Kali ini, saya akan bahas buku Barking Up the Wrong Tree karya Eric Barker, yang mengungkap beberapa mitos sukses yang sering kita percaya tapi ternyata bisa bikin kita nyesel. Kadang kita berpikir kalau nilai bagus di sekolah adalah kunci orang sukses, padahal kenyataannya nggak selalu begitu. Saya juga bakal share kenapa berpikir kreatif dan out of the box itu penting kalau kamu ingin sukses. Yuk, kita bongkar kesalahpahaman tentang kesuksesan dan cari tahu cara seimbangin aturan dan kebebasan berpikir. Siap ubah cara pandang kamu tentang mitos kesuksesan? Leave a comment and share your thoughts: https://open.firstory.me/user/clhb6d0v60kms01w226gw80p4/comments Powered by Firstory Hosting

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In this eye-opening episode of "Tear it Down with Travis and Jesse," our dynamic duo dives into the bizarre world of modern protests. Travis and Jesse highlight some of the most absurd tactics people are using to express dissent — from incoherent screaming to literally barking at those they disagree with. They discuss why these methods not only fail to foster meaningful change but also undermine the credibility of important causes. Join the conversation as they explore more effective ways to make an impact and be taken seriously in the fight for real, lasting change. Please Check out: https://www.thealphainitiative.com/  Check out Tear it Down Apparel at: https://www.tearitdownapparel.com Check out all things Amazon at: https://www.TravisCrutcher.com/amazon Follow the show on Facebook at: https://www.facebook.com/AAPwithTravisCrutcher Check out all things POPL at: TravisCrutcher.com/popl (Use Promo Code AboveAveragePodcast to save 20%) Check out Red Aspen at: https://www.teamhopelifters.com/beauty To schedule a complimentary coaching session please visit: TravisCrutcher.com To get your fitness on with Jess visit: Teamhopelifters.com #TearItDownPodcast #EffectiveProtest #MeaningfulChange #ProtestWithPurpose #RealChange #AbsurdProtests #TravisAndJesse #CredibleActivism #ProtestSmart #ListenAndAct #PodcastHumor --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/tearitdown/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/tearitdown/support

It's the greatest productivity debate of our time: how do we achieve work-life balance? Or maybe the real debate should be: is work-life balance even possible? Eric Barker, the author of Barking Up the Wrong Tree and now Plays Well With Others, doesn't think work-life balance is truly achievable. At least, not if you want the best possible results in a given field. The problem, he says, is that most of live an unbalanced life by accident. Because of the internet and the rapidly increasing pace of everything from the news cycle to the way we socialise, we're all doing too much of something, and not enough of something else. It's overwhelming, and we're constantly playing catchup. Eric's solution is to abandon balance, but to do it on purpose. Decide what you want to be really, really good at it, and accept that you won't be world-class in your other pursuits. Eric also shares why he sets a five-hour timer at the start of every work day, how he deals with contradictions in his own writing, and how he developed his sense of humour. Connect with Eric on Twitter or Linkedin Pick up a copy of Plays Well With Others *** My new book The Health Habit is out now. You can order a copy here: https://www.amantha.com/the-health-habit/ Connect with me on the socials: Linkedin (https://www.linkedin.com/in/amanthaimber) Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/amanthai) If you are looking for more tips to improve the way you work and live, I write a weekly newsletter where I share practical and simple to apply tips to improve your life. You can sign up for that at https://amantha.substack.com/ Visit https://www.amantha.com/podcast for full show notes from all episodes. Get in touch at amantha@inventium.com.au Credits:Host: Amantha Imberound Engineer: Martin ImberEpisode Producer: Liam RiordanSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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An encounter this morning prompted me to start contemplating why I've been barking up the wrong tree all along. Listen in as I try to make sense out of my dilemma. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/heni-kovcs/message

Earl starts the hour discussing misguided criticism targeted at Taylor Swift by right wing commentators. He ends the hour chatting with callers about the disconnect with the Republican party and the importance of the vaccines many people have started to take for granted. The Earl Ingram Show is a part of the Civic Media radio network and airs Monday through Friday from 8-10 am across the state. Subscribe to the podcast to be sure not to miss out on a single episode! To learn more about the show and all of the programming across the Civic Media network, head over to https://civicmedia.us/shows to see the entire broadcast line up. Follow the show on Facebook and X to keep up with Earl and the show!

Message for 1/07/2024 "Don't Eat From the Wrong Tree" by Justin McTeer. *All verses are NLT unless otherwise noted* Genesis 2:8-9 - Then the Lord God planted a garden in Eden in the east, and there he placed the man he had made. 9 The Lord God made all sorts of trees grow up from the ground—trees that were beautiful and that produced delicious fruit. In the middle of the garden he placed the tree of life and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. Genesis 2:15-17 - The Lord God placed the man in the Garden of Eden to tend and watch over it. 16 But the Lord God warned him, “You may freely eat the fruit of every tree in the garden— 17 except the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. If you eat its fruit, you are sure to die.” Genesis 3:1-13 - The serpent was the shrewdest of all the wild animals the Lord God had made. One day he asked the woman, “Did God really say you must not eat the fruit from any of the trees in the garden?” 2 “Of course we may eat fruit from the trees in the garden,” the woman replied. 3 “It's only the fruit from the tree in the middle of the garden that we are not allowed to eat. God said, ‘You must not eat it or even touch it; if you do, you will die.'” 4 “You won't die!” the serpent replied to the woman. 5 “God knows that your eyes will be opened as soon as you eat it, and you will be like God, knowing both good and evil.” 6 The woman was convinced. She saw that the tree was beautiful and its fruit looked delicious, and she wanted the wisdom it would give her. So she took some of the fruit and ate it. Then she gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it, too. 7 At that moment their eyes were opened, and they suddenly felt shame at their nakedness. So they sewed fig leaves together to cover themselves. 8 When the cool evening breezes were blowing, the man and his wife heard the Lord God walking about in the garden. So they hid from the Lord God among the trees. 9 Then the Lord God called to the man, “Where are you?” 10 He replied, “I heard you walking in the garden, so I hid. I was afraid because I was naked.” 11 “Who told you that you were naked?” the Lord God asked. “Have you eaten from the tree whose fruit I commanded you not to eat?” 12 The man replied, “It was the woman you gave me who gave me the fruit, and I ate it.” 13 Then the Lord God asked the woman, “What have you done?” John 8:4-11 - “Teacher,” they said to Jesus, “this woman was caught in the act of adultery. 5 The law of Moses says to stone her. What do you say?” 6 They were trying to trap him into saying something they could use against him, but Jesus stooped down and wrote in the dust with his finger. 7 They kept demanding an answer, so he stood up again and said, “All right, but let the one who has never sinned throw the first stone!”8 Then he stooped down again and wrote in the dust. 9 When the accusers heard this, they slipped away one by one, beginning with the oldest, until only Jesus was left in the middle of the crowd with the woman. 10 Then Jesus stood up again and said to the woman, “Where are your accusers? Didn't even one of them condemn you?” 11 “No, Lord,” she said. And Jesus said, “Neither do I. Go and sin no more.” Luke 19:1-8 - Jesus entered Jericho and made his way through the town. 2 There was a man there named Zacchaeus. He was the chief tax collector in the region, and he had become very rich. 3 He tried to get a look at Jesus, but he was too short to see over the crowd. 4 So he ran ahead and climbed a sycamore-fig tree beside the road, for Jesus was going to pass that way. 5 When Jesus came by, he looked up at Zacchaeus and called him by name. “Zacchaeus!” he said. “Quick, come down! I must be a guest in your home today.” 6 Zacchaeus quickly climbed down and took Jesus to his house in great excitement and joy. 7 But the people were displeased. “He has gone to be the guest of a notorious sinner,” they grumbled. 8 Meanwhile, Zacchaeus stood before the Lord and said, “I will give half my wealth to the poor, Lord, and if I have cheated people on their taxes, I will give them back four times as much!” Luke 18:9-14 - Then Jesus told this story to some who had great confidence in their own righteousness and scorned everyone else: 10 “Two men went to the Temple to pray. One was a Pharisee, and the other was a despised tax collector. 11 The Pharisee stood by himself and prayed this prayer: ‘I thank you, God, that I am not like other people—cheaters, sinners, adulterers. I'm certainly not like that tax collector! 12 I fast twice a week, and I give you a tenth of my income.' 13 “But the tax collector stood at a distance and dared not even lift his eyes to heaven as he prayed. Instead, he beat his chest in sorrow, saying, ‘O God, be merciful to me, for I am a sinner.' 14 I tell you, this sinner, not the Pharisee, returned home justified before God. For those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.” Matthew 16:5-12 - Later, after they crossed to the other side of the lake, the disciples discovered they had forgotten to bring any bread. 6 “Watch out!” Jesus warned them. “Beware of the yeast of the Pharisees and Sadducees.” 7 At this they began to argue with each other because they hadn't brought any bread. 8 Jesus knew what they were saying, so he said, “You have so little faith! Why are you arguing with each other about having no bread? 9 Don't you understand even yet? Don't you remember the 5,000 I fed with five loaves, and the baskets of leftovers you picked up? 10 Or the 4,000 I fed with seven loaves, and the large baskets of leftovers you picked up? 11 Why can't you understand that I'm not talking about bread? So again I say, ‘Beware of the yeast of the Pharisees and Sadducees.'” 12 Then at last they understood that he wasn't speaking about the yeast in bread, but about the deceptive teaching of the Pharisees and Sadducees. Galatians 6:9 - So let's not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don't give up. Ephesians 5:10-11 - Carefully determine what pleases the Lord. 11 Take no part in the worthless deeds of evil and darkness; instead, expose them.

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Bears, beavers and birds, oh my! While some of us seldom encounter wild critters, those animals are a part of author Jeff Wilson's daily life. We hear about his 30-year career as a DNR wildlife technician in Wisconsin's Northwoods.

Nicole is in Phoenix and wants Gunner to razz her brother Blake, who has a massive tree in his front yard that he loves because of the amount of shade it provides. Gunner is going to call him as a  tree service worker who accidentally cut down his tree instead of his neighbors... how does he react?

Robert Hassenpepper makes an honest mistake and unfortunately for Luke it affects him! Welcome to your Phone Tap!

"Barking Up the Wrong Tree" (Ecclesiastes 9:1-12)

 The Pear Bears make it to the basement of the Winterfrost Stone Fruitery and things are not going according to plan. Or, perhaps they are, just not THEIR plan. Tune in to find out. #ddfruitpod  Join our Patreon for even more fruity content: patreon.com/dungeonsanddragonfruits www.dungeonsanddragonfruits.com We need your feedback: Should we keep to the no musical soundtrack as this episode has? Or, bring back the music? Tell us through social media and tag it with #ddfruitpod Music/Sound Effects from Pixabay Include: DDFruits Theme: “Epic Magic Dance – Background Music for Videos” by Lesfm 

Hey friend! I know you're juggling a lot. Your work, your relationships, your habits, your home…even the best things in our lives can feel overwhelming at times!  What if you could get some brilliant-yet-doable tips on managing it all, from multiple experts, all in one place? That could be a game-changer, right?  That is exactly the kind of episode I've got for you today! I have taken some of my favorite advice we've heard here on the show and pulled it all together to give you the best of life hacks.   Whether you are looking to maximize your time on a macro level, strengthen your relationships, build good habits, or declutter your home, these tips will meet you where you are and help you take each area of your life to the next level.  This highlight episode features:  How to name what really matters to you and let go of the pressure to do it all with Kendra Adachi Why starting a hard conversation the right way can make all the difference with Eric Barker The power of gratitude and commitment devices with Mark Batterson Where to begin with decluttering and what to do about toys with Allie Casazza Kendra Adachi is a systems expert, creator of The Lazy Genius Podcast, and New York Times Bestselling Author of The Lazy Genius Way. Kendra lives in North Carolina with her husband and their three children. Eric Barker is the bestselling author of Barking Up the Wrong Tree and Plays Well with Others. He is a sought-after speaker and calls Los Angeles home.  Mark Batterson serves as lead pastor of National Community Church and is the author of over 20 books, including his book on habits, Do It for a Day. Mark and his wife, Lora, have three children and live in Washington, D.C. Allie Casazza has built a multimillion-dollar online business with her proven and practical approach to minimalism and is the author of Declutter to Destress. Allie lives in southern California with her husband, Brian, and their four children. Favorite quotes: “We think that starting small doesn't make any difference but if you don't start small you often don't ever start at all.” “Spend more time with your friends consistently and raise issues with your partner diplomatically.” “If you give three minutes and three gratitudes a day, that little domino habit can change your outlook on life and totally change the way that you feel.” “Make it easy for the whole family to contribute.” “Look for the gaps in your home that are not working. It is making your house work with you instead of against you. Create a solution that is cheap and effective and makes things run more smoothly.” Links to great things we discussed:  Kendra Adachi Website Kendra Adachi Episode The Lazy Genius Way The Lazy Genius Kitchen Eric Barker Website Eric Barker Episode Barking Up the Wrong Tree Mark Batterson Website Mark Batterson Episode Do It for a Day: How to Make or Break Any Habit in 30 Days Allie Casazza Website Allie Casazza Episode Declutter Like A Mother Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

This week Shauna and Dan explore the phrase, "Barking Up the Wrong Tree". This episode is full of outlandish stories including an interesting tale by David Crockett, who preferred not to use the childlike moniker, Davy. Also, Shauna calls everyone born in 1980 or earlier "old". Bonus: Locutus of Borg, professional drivers, and the largest bear in all of America. Probably. Copyright 2023 by The Readiness Corner, LLC - All Rights Reserved  

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Wisconsin DNR hunter education administrator Mike Weber offers advice for a safe spring turkey hunt. (dnr.wisconsin.gov/topic/hunt/turkey) Natural Resources Foundation of Wisconsin staffers Soumi Gaddameedi and Cait Williamson invite listeners to participate in the Great Wisconsin Birdathon, April 15-June 15. (charity.pledgeit.org) Retired Wisconsin DNR wildlife technician Jeff Wilson tells a story from his new book, Wrong Tree, about his life and adventures working with wildlife in Wisconsin and around the world. (wrongtreebook.com) In the Madison Outdoors Report, Pat Hasburgh, proprietor of D and S Bait, Tackle and Fly Shop in Madison, reports good crappie action on the Madison chain and announces the lineup of spring seminar speakers at his shop. (dsbait.com)

Retired Wisconsin DNR wildlife technician Jeff Wilson and his wife, Terry Daulton, talk about their new book, Wrong Tree, which tells the story in words and illustrations of their work with wildlife species in Wisconsin and around the world. (wrongtreebook.com) John Klett, chairman of the Milwaukee Lake Michigan Chapter of Fishing Has No Boundaries, invites listeners to volunteer or participate in the FHNB Big Fish event at South Shore Yacht Club on June 3. (fhnbgreatlakesmke.com) In the Madison Outdoors Report, pro angler Duffy Kopf says walk-ins are welcome to attend the 20th annual Capital City Chapter of Muskies Inc. Muskie School, March 25 at Waunakee High School. (capitalcitymuskiesinc.org)

Today on Virgin Mornings, Dames, Blake and Producer Leah discuss the new rule in Dog Parks (6:29) How do you like your coffee (28:10), and the common things you lie about (44:30) Listen to Virgin Mornings every weekday from 5:30am - 10am on 99.9 Virgin Radio Toronto. Catch Ghosted on Tuesdays & Thursdays at 8am!

This episode of Hopp on Calls with Kevin Hopp is the last part of our cold calling session with Kyle Shannon, an Army veteran and currently an Account Executive at ARMS Cyber. Kevin speaks to several prospects today and while he was able to overcome most objections to engage in meaningful conversation, he also reached others who were the wrong target. Kevin displays how to make the most of this situation and instead of putting down the phone, he digs a bit to find out more about the right person to call next time.HIGHLIGHT QUOTESAsk for a referral for the decision-maker on cybersecurity - Kevin: "If you were me and I'm trying to bark up trees here, I'm just a dog looking for a bone and I bark up the wrong tree calling you, Mary, what tree would you bark up? Is there somebody, is there like a Bob, a Stephanie, a somebody specific that you can point me in the direction of that would want to have a conversation about cybersecurity?" Find out more about Kyle Shannon in the link below:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/k-shannon/You can connect with Kevin Hopp at the link below:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/khopp/Hopp on Calls is powered by Kixie.Hone the craft of outbound sales at Cold Calling 101.

What happens when man's best friend meets corpse locater? This week, we talk about cadaver dogs and their role in forensics, along with some true crime stories to explain better how these dogs do their jobs. Episode information: Exhibit A S1 ep3 Cadaver Dogs Follow us on Instagram: @insidethemorguepod Email us show suggestions: insidethemorguepod@gmail.com If you enjoy this podcast, support us! Music used from Pixabay.com: Crime Trap by Muzaproduction & Detective by SergeQuadrado Sources: https://alifeofdogs.com/the-history-of-cadaver-dogs/#:~:text=Hounds%2C%20hunting%20dogs%2C%20and%20sheepherding,to%20train%20a%20cadaver%20dog. https://internationaldogtrainerschool.com/cadaver-dog-training/ https://www.cnn.com/2017/07/13/us/missing-men-bucks-county-cadaver-dogs/index.html https://www.dailypuppy.com/become-search-rescue-dog-handler-1182.html https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/July_2017_Pennsylvania_murders --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/insidethemorgue/support

**BEST OF 2022** It's the greatest productivity debate of our time: how do we achieve work-life balance? Or maybe the real debate should be: is work-life balance even possible?  Eric Barker, the author of Barking Up the Wrong Tree and now Plays Well With Others, doesn't think work-life balance is truly achievable. At least, not if you want the best possible results in a given field. The problem, he says, is that most of live an unbalanced life by accident.  Because of the internet and the rapidly increasing pace of everything from the news cycle to the way we socialise, we're all doing too much of something, and not enough of something else. It's overwhelming, and we're constantly playing catchup.  Eric's solution is to abandon balance, but to do it on purpose. Decide what you want to be really, really good at it, and accept that you won't be world-class in your other pursuits.  Eric also shares why he sets a five-hour timer at the start of every work day, how he deals with contradictions in his own writing, and how he developed his sense of humour. Connect with Eric on Twitter or Linkedin Pick up a copy of Plays Well With Others *** Connect with me on the socials: Linkedin Twitter Instagram    If you're looking for more tips to improve the way you work, I write a fortnightly newsletter that contains three cool things I have discovered that help me work better, which range from interesting research findings through to gadgets I am loving. You can sign up for that at http://howiwork.co Visit https://www.amantha.com/podcast for full show notes from all episodes. Get in touch at amantha@inventium.com.au   CREDITS Produced by Inventium Host: Amantha Imber Production Support from Deadset Studios Episode Producer: Liam Riordan Sound Engineer: Martin ImberSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Kwaku Farkye has been a part of multiple startups, an accelerator program, and even helped a company get acquired by a $20B giant. As CTO, he's got a wealth of technical and business knowledge. He joins me today to talk about Navi, his latest venture that connects startup coaches and mentors with founders. We talk about challenges faced by developers, finding mentors for your business, and serendipity. Give it a listen! ----- Show Notes: (15:45) - Problems faced by early-stage developers (27:30) - What to do when habits get broken due to working harder (01:03:00) - If you're feeling lazy, lean into it ----- Links: * Connect with Kwaku Farkye on LinkedIn * Barking Up the Wrong Tree by Eric Barker * The Startup Help Desk podcast ----- Episode Quotes I Enjoyed “Jumping into things I knew nothing about and make my way around it.” “Everything is a startup analogy.” ---- If you liked the episode, subscribe for more! Let's chat: reach me at armand@playhardpodcast.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/playhardpodcast/support

Don't let secular hermeneutics hold you hostage to a dysfunctional faith.(Galatians 4:21-31)

Eric Barker is the author of The Wall Street Journal bestseller “Barking Up the Wrong Tree,” which has sold over half a million copies and been translated into 19 languages. Eric is also a sought-after speaker, having given talks at MIT, the Aspen Ideas Festival, Google, the United States Military Central Command, and the Olympic Training Center. His new bestseller, “Plays Well with Others,” was released in May of 2022.In this episode you will learn,The importance of having uncomfortable conversations early in your relationships.Three questions to ask yourself before you commit to a relationship.How love and relationships have evolved over generations. The difference between loneliness and solitude. For more, go to lewishowes.com/13283 Ways to Become More Desirable In Relationships [MASTERCLASS] https://link.chtbl.com/1326-pod5 Relationship Mistakes You Must Avoid to Find Deeper Connection w/ Jay Shetty [AWKWARD THERAPY] https://link.chtbl.com/1322-podWhy Emotional Agility Is The Most Important Skill You Need To Know: https://link.chtbl.com/1297-pod

This week's conversation is with Eric Barker, a former Hollywood screen-writer turned author whose dedicated following of over half a million people look to Eric for his (often counter-intuitive) insights and research-backed advice on how to be great at life. In 2017, Eric penned his Wall Street Journal bestseller Barking Up the Wrong Tree, which reveals the extraordinary science behind what actually determines success and most importantly, how anyone can achieve it.However, over the last several years Eric pivoted to taking a deep dive into the science of relationships and recently published his newest bestseller, Plays Well with Others: The Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know About Relationships Is (Mostly) Wrong. And that's why I was so excited to sit down with Eric – if you've been following this podcast, you know I'm a big believer that relationships are foundational to exploring potential and achieving our very best… no one does it alone… through relationships, we become. So, it was a joy to speak with Eric about all things relationships – what we're getting wrong, the antidote to loneliness, how to cultivate deep friendships, love, communities, and so much more. I hope you leave this conversation with a new perspective on what a healthy relationship feels like, and… maybe even inspired to re-examine how you approach them.-----Please support our partners!We're able to keep growing and creating content for YOU because of their support. We believe in their mission and would appreciate you supporting them in return!!To take advantage of deals from our partners, head to http://www.findingmastery.net/partners where you'll find all discount links and codes mentioned in the podcast.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Today we welcome Eric Barker, the author of The Wall Street Journal bestseller Barking Up the Wrong Tree. His book has sold over half a million copies and has been translated into 19 languages. It was even the subject of a question on “Jeopardy!” Eric is also a sought-after speaker, having given talks at MIT, the Aspen Ideas Festival, Google, the United States Military Central Command (CENTCOM), and the Olympic Training Center. His newest book is called Plays Well with Others.In this episode, I talk to Eric Barker about relationships. We tackle the misconceptions on loneliness, marriage, and body language. Eric shares practical tips that we can apply in our own relationships such as how to keep passionate love alive and how to catch liars. We also touch on the topics of communication, vulnerability, community and health. Website: bakadesuyo.comTwitter: @bakadesuyo Topics02:18 Plays Well with Others05:11 Loneliness is perception08:38 Marriage requires crazy love and work 10:57 Gottman's Four Horsemen of Divorce15:26 Keeping passionate love alive 19:02 Emotional endings and love maps 24:28 The Scary Rule 28:14 Dunbar's number30:49 Parasocial relationships 35:32 Body language is overrated39:04 How to catch a liar42:11 Story of connection

Instead of letting it sit in the bank, Deepa Akula put her hard-earned money to work through real estate. Now, she is the founder of Vinside Capital and is a GP for over 1000 apartment units and an LP for over 1300 units. She is grateful for the opportunity to be a full-time real investor, which gives her the freedom to travel the world and spend time with family. Today, Deepa joins us to talk about her investing journey, how she created passive cash flow to cover their daily expenses, and how she is using her engineering background to her advantage.   [00:01 - 11:06] From Engineer to Investor Get to know Deepa She talks about the nitty-gritty of being an engineer Earning good money in her job and started to look for investments Being laid off gave her the chance to do real estate full time She learned about real estate by reading books and joining a bootcamp As an engineer, numbers are her thing and she's able to do well in underwriting Do not trust proformas, know your numbers [11:07 - 17:48] Building Meaningful Passive Income Stop hoarding cash and start investing How she transitioned from LP to GP Being a detail-oriented person has helped establish her credibility Deepa's goal in the future: doings deals at her own pace [17:49 - 19:47] Closing Segment Reach out to Deepa!  Links Below Final Words Tweetable Quotes   “ If you underwrite in a vacuum, you really don't know if it's good or bad… if you're just working and not having anybody check it, it's a big no-no.” - Deepa Akula “The number one thing is not to trust proformas when you receive them.” - Deepa Akula -----------------------------------------------------------------------------   Connect with Deepa on the Vinside Capital website and follow her LinkedIn.   Resource Mentioned: Barking Up the Wrong Tree by Eric Barker Connect with me:   I love helping others place money outside of traditional investments that both diversify a strategy and provide solid predictable returns.     Facebook   LinkedIn   Like, subscribe, and leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, or whatever platform you listen on.  Thank you for tuning in!   Email me → sam@brickeninvestmentgroup.com Want to read the full show notes of the episode? Check it out below:   [00:00:00] Deepa Akula: I had learned about inflation, just very reading books. And I thought, you know, it's not a good thing that we are hoarding cash, but we did not know. We didn't want to hurry and invest in something that we didn't understand either. So in, in the time when I was doing the research and trying to get a proof of concept by investing as a limited partner, we had built up some savings. And once it looked like it was going to work, we kind of invested fast.  [00:00:39] Sam Wilson: Deepa Akula is an LP and GP in over a thousand apartment units in Texas, Florida, and Arizona. She's also a former head of engineering turned full-time real estate investor. Deepa, welcome to the show.  [00:00:50] Deepa Akula: Thank you. I'm so honored to be here, Sam.  [00:00:52] Sam Wilson: Absolutely. Hey, the pleasure is mine, especially. I don't normally get guests calling from, I guess, you're halfway around the world. Where are you right now?  [00:01:02] Deepa Akula: I'm in India right now, visiting my parents in Hyderabad. [00:01:05] Sam Wilson: That's awesome. Very, very cool. It's 9: 30 here in Memphis, Tennessee. So that puts you at roughly 8:30 there?  [00:01:12] Deepa Akula: It's 8:06, yeah. It's 8:06 PM.  [00:01:15] Sam Wilson: Well, soon enough, soon enough you can tell me what tomorrow is like. That'll be absolutely great. I'm looking forward to jumping in here today. There are three questions I ask every guest who comes to the show: in 90 seconds or less, can you tell me where did you start? Where are you now? And how did you get there?  [00:01:27] Sam Wilson: Yeah, sure.  [00:01:28] Deepa Akula: So I started as an LP. I'm a mechanical aerospace engineer by training. And I was looking to place my capital and started as an LP. And now I still do engineering on the side, but I'm a GP and an LP. And once I invested, I had proof of concept, and once the worth proof of concept, we started investing more and more. And now we have enough passive income to just cover our daily bills. So we are financially free and it gives me the freedom to travel the world and spend some time with family. And also look for deals at the same time. I'm working. This is not a vacation, but freedom of place too. So, yeah. [00:02:08] Sam Wilson: That is fantastic. I wonder there's so many things there I wanted to dig into. What is a space engineer?  [00:02:17] Deepa Akula: It's mechanical and aerospace engineering. So Boeing paid for my masters and I worked on the materials for the outside, for the skin of the aircraft on friction stir building. So, yeah, Boeing was looking into using different alloys, different element alloys and it was research. So I was one of the research assistants and that's what I did. I'm a mechanical engineer, got a bachelor's in mechanical engineering, master's in mechanical engineer, space engineering. [00:02:46] Sam Wilson: That's awesome. I love it. Even those words, I probably couldn't even spell those words. So, you know, I look at people like you and I'm like, oh my gosh, she is way smarter than I am.  [00:02:55] Deepa Akula: Oh, you're too kind.  [00:02:57] Sam Wilson: No, no, that's really, really cool. I absolutely love it. I love to fly. I'm a pilot as well. And so I'm grateful for all the work for that you guys do. And I oftentimes look at it and I'm like, I have no idea how this thing works.  [00:03:08] Deepa Akula: A lot of work goes into it. Every life's important. So a lot of work goes into it.  [00:03:13] Sam Wilson: A lot of work goes into it, so I'm grateful. Thank you. I think that's absolutely cool. What was your tipping point? What was the thing when you're like, okay, hey, cool. I am a mechanical engineer. I'm an aerospace engineer. I got to do something else. Was there a light bulb moment? Tell me about that.  [00:03:29] Deepa Akula: Yeah, so it was pretty gradual. And me and my husband, we moved to Seattle and were making good money. And so I was starting to think about investments. So I just had to place our capital somewhere and I was looking into different investment vehicles and I'm an avid reader. So I stumbled onto syndications. And I did not know anybody that was doing syndications at that time. And looked into it and through a random connection, found a general partner and invested in her deal. And once I started to see the distributions come in quarterly distributions, then I had proof of concept that, oh, well so this is real. And it can work. And we started to invest more and more, and it was pretty gradual. And the light bulb moment was really, there was not one, but I got laid off during the pandemic. And I was like, okay, this is my chance to not have a W2 and work for myself. And that's when, I was a GP already, but I chose not to get another job in engineering and do real estate full-time.  [00:04:35] Sam Wilson: Wow. That's a big, big jump. I mean, tell me, I guess, so you said, Hey, you, you figured out, you know, okay, I became a GP. What was the timeline between when you first heard about syndications until you put, or excuse me, an LP until you put your first money in a deal?  [00:04:48] Deepa Akula: Oh, when I first put up a single penny, it was about three years. I had analysis paralysis big time. So I actually knew how, how to underwrite a deal before I invested as an LP. So that's the kind of work I did just because I did not know anybody that was doing it at that time, and I did not want to lose $50,000 just by investing because I read in some book. So I took a three-day course, a bootcamp through RE Mentor. And it was just a three-day bootcamp and that was all the education I got in person, but everything else was just reading books. I might have read hundreds of books in those three years and had enough confidence to put my first $50,000 in 2019.  [00:05:35] Sam Wilson: That's wild. So you felt like you had a full understanding of how to underwrite a deal before you ever put your money and how did you practice that?  [00:05:44] Deepa Akula: So just on random deals on CoStar. Just random deals. So, yeah, and I had a loose mentor who was just looking at those numbers because, you know, if you underwrite in a vacuum, you really don't know if it's good or bad, you know. If you really don't know how to estimate taxes or when the taxes are assessed and different states do it differently, so if you're in a vacuum and just working and not having anybody check it, it's a big no-no. So I had a gentleman that was kind enough to kind of guide me and he's a loose mentor. If you'd ask him, Hey, were you Deepa's mentor? He's like, no,. But I really did not pay for mentorship. I loosely have ties with people that I kind of come in contact with and just ping them and learn. And I used to underwrite single-family homes too. That's kind of how I got interested. I really dislike shopping, like any kind of shopping, but real estate. I'm all about it. So, I'm not in shopping about clothes or anything else, but real estate, I would just underwrite the deal of their deal. So that's kind of how I was like, you know, I should really do what I like. to decompress for a living, then I would really not feel like I'm working. And even without knowing, even when I was in school, I would just randomly look at single-family house in the areas. And I was like, oh, it's pretty simple, the math is. So yeah, that's kind of how I started and learned. And there's a little bit more to multifamily. And, you know, just there's so much resources out there. I would just attend multiple webinars to learn and practice.  [00:07:25] Sam Wilson: When you say so many resources out there, I mean, either you're an Excel guru, which wouldn't surprise me, or you borrowed somebody else's model out of the gate because there are a lot of nuances to it. How did you build your first or what did you use as a resource for your first underwriting model?  [00:07:42] Deepa Akula: So the very first one was Michael Lang's model. And I had bought it for fun years ago and I was modeling it. And, you know, I am pretty good at Excel because I was, when I was head of engineering, I was building these templates for my engineers to work in. So they're kind of like sandboxes and to make it foolproof because if something goes wrong, these structures are out there. We are driving under it, their houses under it, so, let me take a step back. I was designing overhead structures there, maybe about 10,000 structures that me or my team designed are in service right now in the US and Canada. So I was designing the spreadsheets in which my engineers would design the structures. So I love tinkering with Excel and I saw Michael's model and then made some additions to it to just make it my own.  [00:08:38] Sam Wilson: You made some additions, you mean you poured gasoline on a fire. It was like, oh, okay. Yeah, this is okay. But I'm an aerospace engineer and I can do a lot better than this. So, you know, if I can push, I'd love to see your model but I'm sure it would make all the rest of us jealous. That's really, really cool. And you said something here that I don't think I've ever heard on this show, which is you said that I did it for fun. Like, underwriting is work for most of us, you realize that, right?  [00:09:06] Deepa Akula: I understand. I understand. But, you know, as engineers numbers is our thing and, you know, you feel like you have more control. You change one number and you have control to like change all the numbers on the sheet. So just playing with different numbers is more fun. And more than that, I used to code in VBA. So coding in VBA was more fun. So I would just code and create buttons and everything and try to make it more fun and easy and I'm trying to hide the code behind it and make it easy. So building it was more fun. And the more formulas I write and debugging is a lot more fun to me. So that's what I, all my formula would, like, have to wrap and then debugging would be like, oh, where, where did it go wrong? Why is it not working? So, yeah. That's what I did to de-stress. [00:09:54] Sam Wilson: That's amazing. Wow. Some of us go to the gym. Some of us do yoga. Some of us have bad habits. You, on the other hand, underwrite multifamily deals. That's a unique skillset. What would you say is the number one thing that you learned when doing that? [00:10:10] Deepa Akula: Number one thing while creating the model or underwriting? [00:10:13] Sam Wilson: Underwriting.  [00:10:14] Deepa Akula: Underwriting, the number one thing is not to trust proformas when you receive them. The seller might have expenses that they're putting on a corporate level that we are not seeing on the property level. So just knowing the numbers and at least having an idea of what it's going to cost per door.  And that just comes from practice. You know, it's catch-22, you just do it, learn it and then keep doing it and get to learn more.  [00:10:42] Sam Wilson: Absolutely. Yeah, at times I wonder why commercial brokers, which, I mean, I have my real estate license. Do I do commercial brokerage? Not necessarily, but why do they even put the proformas out there? Because most of us are just like, I'm not even like paying.  [00:10:58] Deepa Akula: Yeah. We just have to underwrite from scratch.  [00:11:00] Sam Wilson: It really is true. So yeah. That's really, really interesting. Yeah. I like that. Don't trust the proforma. Let's talk a little bit about passive income to cover your bills. I thought that was an interesting statement you had made, it takes a lot of investments. This is my thesis. It takes a lot of investments to create any sort of meaningful, passive income. I think passive income is great, but even if let's suggest, say that we're, you know, we put 50 grand in a deal and it's whatever, a eight cap, I don't know. I'm making up numbers here, but let's say it throws off, you know, 700 bucks every quarter. I mean, that doesn't really put a dent in the income to cover bills category. Now, how did you do that? Like what did it take to get that income stream built up? You know, we've all hit the equity multiple. I believe most of us have hit an equity multiple in a deal we've passively invested at some point, and those are great pay days. But not until the exit do we normally catch enough money to go, okay, this is meaningful.  [00:11:55] Deepa Akula: Right. Right. So me as head of engineering, I'm a licensed professional civil structural engineer. I'm a self-taught civil structural engineer. And as head of engineering, I was making meaningful money. And my husband is in information technology. He's in, it works for wild Disney and pretty simple, like I said, I do not enjoy shopping. So we had good, good savings. And we were hoarding cash. Like I said, as we were starting to earn money through our W2s, it was just sitting in the bank and we didn't spend it anywhere. We're just trying to look for a meaningful vehicle for us to invest in. And by the time I did all my research and started to invest. It was about three years of research went from 2016 to 2019. There was a lot of research and studying and talking to people. And that's when we started investing as an LP. But once we saw the distributions coming in, we kind of really escalated and put in big amounts, big chunks enough to cover our, like, and I'm not even counting the exits. This is just quarterly distributions that I'm talking about. It's enough to cover our expenses.  [00:13:05] Sam Wilson: That's really cool. I love I love that and yeah, it does take some capital upfront, I think, in order to attract that initial, you know, nut where you're like, oh, okay, , this is now doing something that that I appreciate.  [00:13:17] Deepa Akula: Right. And it was out of necessity. I had learned about inflation, just by reading books. And I thought, you know, it's not a good thing that we are hoarding cash, but we did not know. We didn't want to hurry and invest in something that we didn't understand either. So in the time when I was doing the research and trying to get a proof of concept by investing as a limited partner, we had built up some savings, and once it looked like it was going to work, we kind of invested fast. [00:13:46] Sam Wilson: That's awesome. [00:13:47] Deepa Akula: With multiple deals. [00:13:48] Sam Wilson: You've moved into the code GP space. What's that transition been like and how did that happen?  [00:13:54] Deepa Akula: Right. Yeah, no, no. I love it. Thank you for the question. So I was an LP in a couple of deals before I got a call to be a co-GP. And as an LP, I would read the PPM the whole way. Some of them were 80 pages, the other one was 200 pages. And I would read the whole thing a few times and catch some mistakes in it and call the GP and say, Hey, you need to get a better lawyer or the legal person need to like, they're calling a something, two different things in two different places. And I was like, is it the same thing? And they were like, you read the whole thing? I'm like, yeah. And that you know, inadvertently, it told them that I'm a details person. And I would just ask a lot of questions and just from my questions and the fact that they knew I was catching their lawyer's mistakes in the PPM, they were like, okay, so she knows. And when the time came for them, just me and my husband both are engineers. And most of her friends were like, Hey, how are you guys getting this distributions? And we were doing 506B deal. and I wanted to introduce my friends to the GPS, but they couldn't really take their investments because they did not know them. So they were like, okay, Deepa, do you want to raise capital and be on this deal? I was like, really well, I was like when, and they go right now. So it was just out of the blue call saying, Hey, we have a deal on the contract. And I trust this person. I had invested my money with them. So I didn't really have to do any due diligence on the person, on the group. I did some due diligence on the project itself and it looked pretty good. And that's how I got my foot in the door for a co-GP position.  [00:15:41] Sam Wilson: That is really cool. I love the fact that you said you read the documents, you know, end to end. I know in my first limited partner's deals, I did the same thing. If it was a repeat investment with the same sponsor, maybe I wasn't as meticulous, but certainly, read line for line. And it's a laborious process. I think it took me like four hours to get through the 200 pages, 'cause you're just like, I need this to be on like napkin sized, this just need, this is what you're going to do, this is what I'm going to do. And this is how we wrap this up. Okay, except 200 pages later because that's the world we live in. And so yeah, it kind of shocked the sponsor as well. They're like, wow. Like, this is a really detailed question. I have a public confession here to make in that I just recently didn't read through the entire stack of my deal deck or of my documents. And it was probably the most embarrassing thing as a general partner I've ever done in that I got the documents back. I read through them high level. It was a new attorney group for us. And I said, man, everything seems to be in order. And I was the receiving call of the investor like you going, Hey, there's some conflicting pieces of information here. I turned inward like, oh no, like I'm hot now, just like my body temperature goes up thinking about it. I'm like I have done this so many times and I have never had that call from an investor. I wanted to crawl on a hole. [00:17:02] Sam Wilson: So note to self: one, read all the documents if you're an LP, and two, read all the documents if you're a GP. That's the rule I think that Deepa is teaching us here and that's yeah, that's just a, you know, that's a hard lesson learned both ways. So, you know, thank you certainly for sharing that, what does the future look like for you? [00:17:19] Deepa Akula: Thank you for that question because I am actively trying to not build myself another high-stress job. So, it's tough. It's tough to not work as much now that this is my first summer without a job. I am trying to say no to more deals than I say yes to. And I'd like to do at least one deal every quarter, and that would be a good pace for me. And want to do that for the foreseeable future.  [00:17:48] Sam Wilson: That's awesome. Very, very cool. Deepa. I loved your journey here in real estate. I loved how you started off just learning for three years. I think one of the fun facts you gave me was that you read a book. What was it? The barking up the wrong tree or barking up the right tree. I can't remember. You said you read it five times.  [00:18:05] Deepa Akula: Barking Up the Wrong Tree by Eric Barker.  [00:18:08] Sam Wilson: Yeah, you said you read that over and over and over until you finally graphed it in detail. As an engineer, I'm not shocked, knowing that you're an engineer, I'm not shocked that your attention to detail is the way it is, but the really cool story on how you've transitioned from an aerospace engineer into now full-time real estate, clearly taking a measured approach to life and getting what you want out of it, which is why you're out of the country doing this podcast at, you know, late in the evening now the other side of the world with me. So certainly appreciate that. And love your story of coming in as an LP first and doing a lot of deals as an LP, and then joined the general partnership side. So very, very cool. If our listeners want to get in touch with you or learn more about you, what is the best way to do that?  [00:18:49] Deepa Akula: LinkedIn would be the best place to reach out to me. My LinkedIn profile has my full name, so it's Deepa Reddy Akula. And another place is vinsidecapital.com is my website. So those are the two places to get a hold of me. [00:19:05] Sam Wilson: And what, what's the name of the website again?  [00:19:08] Deepa Akula: Vinside, V I N S I D E, vinsidecapital.com.  [00:19:13] Sam Wilson: Got it. We'll absolutely make sure we put that all in the show notes. Deepa, thank you so much for coming on today. I certainly appreciate it.  [00:19:19] Deepa Akula: Thank you so much. It was such a pleasure. Thanks, Sam.  

Eric Barker shares science-based wisdom on how to make your relationships flourish. — YOU'LL LEARN — 1) The two critical elements of trust-building 2) The secret to dealing with difficult people 3) How to navigate difficult conversations Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep786 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT ERIC — Eric Barker is the author of The Wall Street Journal bestseller Barking Up the Wrong Tree, which has sold over half a million copies and been translated into 19 languages. It was even the subject of a question on “Jeopardy!” Over 500,000 people have subscribed to his weekly newsletter. His work has been covered by The New York Times, The Atlantic, The Financial Times, and others. Eric is also a sought-after speaker, having given talks at MIT, Yale, Google, the United States Military Central Command (CENTCOM), and the Olympic Training Center. His new book, Plays Well with Others, will be released by HarperCollins in May of 2022. • Book: Plays Well with Others: The Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know About Relationships Is (Mostly) Wrong • Website: EricBarker.org — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Book: How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie • Book: Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert Cialdini • Book: Pre-Suasion: Channeling Attention for Change by Robert Cialdini • Book: Range: Why Generalists Triumph in a Specialized World by David Epstein • Past episode: 275: How to Manage Your Manager with Mary Abbajay See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Text Hawk to 66866 to become part of "Mindful Monday." Receive a carefully curated email from me each Monday morning to help you start your week off right... Full show notes at www.LearningLeader.com Twitter/IG: @RyanHawk12    https://twitter.com/RyanHawk12 Eric Barker is the author of The Wall Street Journal bestseller “Barking Up the Wrong Tree,” which has sold over half a million copies and been translated into 19 languages. It was even the subject of a question on “Jeopardy!” Over 500,000 people have subscribed to his weekly newsletter. His work has been covered by The New York Times, The Atlantic, The Financial Times, and others. Eric is also a sought-after speaker, having given talks at MIT, Yale, Google, the United States Military Central Command (CENTCOM), and the Olympic Training Center. His latest book is called “Plays Well with Others." Love – Casanova said, “love is three-quarters curiosity.” That curiosity creates deep knowledge… And that helps you build what researcher John Gottman calls, a “love map.” “Everyone asks how you got together; nobody asks how you stayed together. And it's the latter that is often the real achievement to be proud of.” Your WHO: Take your health, for example. The Framingham study showed that drinking, smoking, and obesity are all quite contagious. If someone you consider a friend becomes obese, your likelihood of obesity increases by 53%. And if the friendship is mutual, the number rises to 171%. "Friends are only there because you want them to be." "Friends make us happier than any other relationship." How to build deeper relationships with friends? Time Be vulnerable -- "Relationships move at the speed of vulnerability." How to make your relationship with your partner better? Do exciting things together - Be proactive Leverage emotional contagion - Associate feelings with events Bill Perkins - "Create memory dividends." You need to learn and grow together John Gottman asks couples to tell their stories... The ones that stick together celebrate the difficulties Profiling - “Humans are prone to seeing meaning when there is none.” There's a fundamental reason that astrologers outnumber astronomers. Emotionally we want a feeling of control over the world around us. We desperately need the world to at least seem to make sense. And for that, we need a story, even if it isn't true. Confirmation bias: what is it? And what are the 3 ways to resist it? Feel accountable Distance before decision Consider the opposite Lying — how can you spot a liar?  The average college student lies in about a third of conversations. For adults, it's 1 in 5. In online dating, 81% of profiles deviate from the truth. And we are terrible at detecting lies, averaging a 54% success rate. So how do we become better at understanding if someone is lying? This system takes patience (so it isn't useful for little lies but can be powerful for bigger issues). “The science overwhelming recommended a nuanced and sophisticated method humans have never tried in the past 5,000 years when attempting to detect lies: being nice. Never be a bad cop, be a friendly journalist. You have to get them to like you. To open up. To talk a lot. And to make a mistake that reveals deception. Don't accuse. Be curious. Optimism – Shawn Achor's Ted Talk (so funny and fast). MET Life saw such great results among happy salespeople that they tried an experiment: they started hiring people based on optimism. It turns out that the optimistic group outsold their more pessimistic counterparts by 19% in year one and 57% in year two. "Writing a book is like telling a joke and having to wait two years to know whether or not it was funny." —ALAIN DE BOTTON Eric writes to start his new book... Henry Thomas Buckle once said: “Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.” I'm here to discuss people. Leveraging the best evidence available—free of platitudes or magical thinking—Eric analyzes multiple sides of an issue before rendering his verdict. What he's uncovered is surprising, counterintuitive, and timely—and will change the way you interact in the world and with those around you just when you need it most. Life/Career advice: Set your personal definition of success "You need to be able to say this is enough."

Eric Barker is the author of The Wall Street Journal bestseller “Barking Up the Wrong Tree,” and his new book, “Plays Well with Others,”.  On this episode we dive into our increasing emotional distance and loneliness the world is feeling and Eric acts as a guide to help build better friendships, reignite love, and get closer to others, whether you're an extrovert or introvert, socially adept or socially anxious. This episode is loaded with fascinating science and practical takeaways to build your friendships, relationships and sense of community!  You can also checkout my summary of his new book Plays Well with Others HERE  Watch on YouTube  You Unleashed Course  50% off You Unleashed is an online personal development course created by Sean DeLaney after spending years working with an interviewing high achievers.The online course that helps you ‘Unleash your potential'! You Unleashed teaches you the MINDSETS, ROUTINES and BEHAVIORS you need to unleash your potential and discover what you're capable of. You know you're capable of more and want to bring out that untapped potential inside of you. We teach you how. Enroll Today & Receive 50% off by using code “WGYT”- Click Here Subscribe to my Momentum Monday Newsletter Connect with us! Whatgotyouthere TikTok YouTube Twitter Instagram 

We will learn: Surprising facts about lonely people.  How we can get better at reading people.  How to catch a liar.  Every über successful person I know is still most proud of their relationships. Relationships increase our life spans and even our health. Connection gives us meaning and purpose. So how do we master first impressions? How can we get a feel for someone faster? How can we figure out if someone is being truthful? How can we diffuse arguments faster or resolve conflicts better? That's what we're talking about today. Our guest is Eric Barker. Eric Barker is the author of The Wall Street Journal bestseller “Barking Up the Wrong Tree”, which has sold over half a million copies. It was even the subject of a question on “Jeopardy!” His newest book “Plays Well with Others” was just released. Links from the episode: Show Notes: https://mindlove.com/236 Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes from your highest self.  Get Mind Love Premium for exclusive ad-free episodes and monthly meditations.  Support Mind Love Sponsors See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If I asked you to list all of the relationships in your life, we'd be here a while, wouldn't we?! From friendships to romances and everything in between. We're human, and God designed us to engage with others! That's why I'm so excited to share this insightful conversation with Eric Barker, the Internet's resident relationship expert. Of course, you know, I just had to ask him what made him decide to dive into the science of relationships in the first place, and his answer did not disappoint my friends!  Listen in as Eric talks to us about how he challenged some of the age-old relationship advice we've all received with science and skepticism. And how that experience led him to more fulfilling friendships, love, and community. This is so, so good. Eric Barker is the author of The Wall Street Journal bestseller “Barking Up the Wrong Tree,” which has sold over half a million copies and been translated into 19 languages. It was even the subject of a question on “Jeopardy!” His new book, “Plays Well with Others,” was released earlier this month. Listen in to learn more about: What surprised Eric the most in his research for this book on relationships, [Hint: It has absolutely everything to do with friendships!] How to navigate negative and positive sentiment override and how they impact our relationships Productive ways to begin an argument or hard discussion that preserves both parties' humanity in the conversation Favorite quotes: ~Friendships make us happier than any other relationship yet friendships don't get the kind of respect or attention because friendship is completely voluntary.   ~ We are just not that good at reading others. Human beings in general default to trust and cooperation. We do want information but not all the information. In some ways it is our brain trying to protect us.  ~ Screaming matches only lead to divorce 40% of the time. The issue is that you scream when you care and when you stop screaming you stop caring. What precedes divorce is  living parallel lives where you don't interact and don't yell and scream, because you don't even care anymore. ~ The four things that are more predictive in divorce are all to do with how you talk, how you communicate. They are - Criticism, Defensiveness, Stonewalling and Contempt. ~ Friendship Is fantastic, makes us happier than anything else but there's a whole new level of synergy when friends become a group, a community.  Links to great things we discussed:  Memento Theme song - David Julyan Severance - TV Series  Ozark - TV series Amazon Kindle - App Bose Noise canceling headphones - Amazon Plays well with others - Book Barking up the wrong tree- Eric Barker's previous  book Eric Barker's website Doctor Strange - Movie Ray LaMontagne ft. Sierra Ferrell - I Was Born to Love You Bare Minerals - Well rested eye brightener Confident Motherhood Community Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli 

Eric Barker is the creator of a blog called Barking Up the Wrong Tree which presents scientific answers about how to "be awesome at life." He's also the author of two best-selling books. Barking Up the Wrong Tree addressed the science of success. His new book, Plays Well With Others, discusses the science behind relationships. Some of the things Eric talks about are why friends might be more important than family when it comes to our health and well-being, how to combat loneliness, and the science behind developing more meaningful friendships.

Eric Barker is the author of The Wall Street Journal bestseller “Barking Up the Wrong Tree,” which has sold over half a million copies and been translated into 19 languages. It was even the subject of a question on “Jeopardy!” Over 500,000 people have subscribed to his weekly newsletter. His work has been covered by The New York Times, The Atlantic, The Financial Times, and others. Eric is also a sought-after speaker, having given talks at MIT, Yale, Google, the United States Military Central Command (CENTCOM), and the Olympic Training Center. His new book, “Plays Well with Others,” will be released by HarperCollins in May of 2022. Show Highlights Lose the “Poker Face” and be more readable to your community. The Friendly Journalist Method strategy for detecting lies. Framework and advice on building belonging  Plays Well With Others  for the meaning of life and what we get wrong in relationships.  Power of negotiators in inaccurate perceptions Get the skeleton key to human relationships  The double edge sword of first impressions  “A mistake we consistently make is we're over confident we can read other people. By the same token we're usually overconfident that people know we're thinking.” -Eric Barker   Eric Barker's Resources & Contact Info: Barking Up the Wrong Tree Email: eric@bakadesuyo.com Instagram Twitter Buy Eric's new book Plays Well With Others   Looking for more? Read The Better Leaders Better Schools Roadmap Join “The Mastermind” Read the latest on the blog   SHOW SPONSORS: HARVARD GRADUATE SCHOOL OF EDUCATION Transform how you lead to become a resilient and empowered change agent with Harvard's online Certificate in School Management and Leadership. Grow your professional network with a global cohort of fellow school leaders as you collaborate in case studies bridging the fields of education and business. Apply today at http://hgse.me/leader. TEACHFX School leaders know that productive student talk drives student learning, but the average teacher talks 75% of class time! TeachFX is changing that with a “Fitbit for teachers” that automatically measures student engagement and gives teachers feedback about what they could do differently.  Learn more about the TeachFX app and get a special 20% discount for your school or district by visiting teachfx.com/blbs. ORGANIZED BINDER Organized Binder is the missing piece in many classrooms. Many teachers are great with the main content of the lesson. Organized Binder helps with powerful introductions, savvy transitions, and memorable lesson closings. Your students will grow their executive functioning skills (and as a bonus), your teachers will become more organized too. Help your students and staff level up with Organized Binder.   Copyright © 2022 Twelve Practices LLC

Eric Barker shares an excerpt from his book Plays Well With Others Episode 2342: An Excerpt from the Book "Plays Well With Others" by Eric Barker From the author of the Wall Street Journal bestseller Barking Up the Wrong Tree comes a cure-all for our increasing emotional distance and loneliness—a smart, surprising, and thoroughly entertaining guide to help build better friendships, reignite love, and get closer to others, whether you're an extrovert or introvert, socially adept or socially anxious. More about the book can be found here: https://www.amazon.com/Plays-Well-Others-Surprising-Relationships/dp/0063050943   Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalLivingDaily Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's episode features Eric Barker, author of "Barking Up the Wrong Tree" and "Plays Well with Others" In Eric's first book, he scientifically stress-tests the maxims we've all been told about success to uncover the surprising answers we need to live a meaningful life. Now in the follow-up to this bestseller, he's doing it again but this time for relationships. That's right, he is again scientifically challenging the advice we've been given are whole lives about relationships. In doing so, Eric found a path that can lead us all to more fulfilling friendships, love, and community. There's a reason Eric has sold over a half-million books and has a staggering email list -- he breaks down such important topics in ways you never considered. Now sit back and take a listen for yourself. As always, If you enjoyed Eric's episode as much as we did,  please share! Links From the Episode Barking Up the Wrong Tree Plays Well with Others Eric's Blog Join the Community We'd love to hear your comments and questions about this week's episode. Here are some of the best ways to stay in touch and get involved in The FI Show community! Grab the Ultimate FI Spreadsheet Join our Facebook Group Leave us a voicemail Send an email to contact [at] TheFiShow [dot] com If you like what you hear, please subscribe and leave a rating/review! >> You can do that by clicking here