The Positive Mind

Home: It's a Feeling

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 30, 2022 57:55

The feeling of home is as universal as it is personal. Home can be a place of safety and refuge, or chaos and instability. No matter which, home is the place you identify with in some way, it carries meaning, memories and shapes your identity.Homesickness is a powerful feeling that something just isn't right, coupled with a longing for things to be stable, predictable, familiar and safe. But, it is a fact of life that everybody has to leave home; how a person manages that stress can say a lot about their relationship with themselves and their ability to take a sense of "home" with them wherever they go.Kevin and Niseema talk about how homesickness can lead to depression, a sense of being lost, rootless and adrift. It's the mysterious and universal feeling of home that seems to root us in our very being, providing a shelter for those days and times when all seems lost.------------------------------------For more information or support contact Kevin or Niseema at: info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. You can sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.tffpp.org.These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orghttps://www.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxBreak Music: Original Composition by Geoff BradyEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyResearch and Production Associate: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com

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Hygge: The Danish Art of Feeling Good

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 23, 2022 57:59

This week Kevin and Niseema talk about the Danish word "Hygge," which is a way of creating comfort and ease in your life. It is amazing how many ways we can create more comfort and ease in our daily rituals, from how we wake up in the morning, to how we live our day, to how we go to sleep.In the fall/winter season, there are so many ways to add pleasure to our lives, like wearing cozy wool socks, to making a cup of hot apple cider or hot chocolate. For the Danish, Hygge is a way of life, which explains why they are one of the happiest countries in the world.______________________________For more information or support contact hosts Kevin O'Donoghue LMHC or Niseema Dyan Diemer SEP at: info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. You can sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.tffpp.org.These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orghttps://www.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : "Another Country", Performed by: Shadowfax, Written and Produced by: Chuck Greenberg, Source:Windham Hill/LegacyBreak Music: "Come Away With Me." Performed and Written by: Nora Jones, Produced by: Arif Mardin, Nora Jones, Jay Newland, Craig Street, Source: Blue Note RecordsEnd Music : "You Still Believe in Me." Performed by M.Ward, Written by: Brian Wilson and T Asher, Produced by: --, Source:Merge Records.The Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyProducer: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com

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The Vagus Nerve Connection

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 16, 2022 58:00

This week, Kevin and Niseema talk about the Vagus Nerve, a major nerve in the body that begins at the brain-stem and travels all the way through the vital organs to the sacrum. The Vagus Nerve helps control several muscles of the throat and voice, plays a major role in regulating the heart rate and keeps the gastrointestinal tract in working order. The Vagus Nerve has also been shown to have a very strong connection to how you manage stress. A weak Vagus Nerve is a major indicator that you have been suffering from prolonged and chronic stress. Niseema introduces a powerful tool for healing and balancing the Vagus Nerve called The Safe and Sound Protocol (SSP). The SSP delivers a passive stimulation of the Vagus Nerve to help increase its capacity to regulate the "fight or flight'' part of our nervous system which contributes to symptoms of anxiety and PTSD, and access feelings of safety and connection.----------------------------------------For more information or support contact Kevin or Niseema at: info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. You can sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.tffpp.org.These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orghttps://www.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxBreak Music: Original Composition by Geoff BradyEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyResearch and Production Associate: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com

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The "Good Child" Syndrome and Resilience, Part 4

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 9, 2022 57:59

In our final show on Resilience, Kevin and Niseema talk about how "programming" in childhood can lead to inflexibility and a low level of resilience as an adult.Most often, children are programmed through negativity: "Don't do that. Don't touch that. Don't complain." This can force a child to create a "good child" persona that causes them to detach from a feeling self. They will carry this "good child" persona into adulthood, losing the capacity to be real to themselves, their friends or any future partner. Kevin and Niseema talk about ways to undo this terrible and destructive syndrome.----------------------------------------------For more information or support contact hosts Kevin O'Donoghue LMHC or Niseema Dyan Diemer SEP at: info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. You can sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.tffpp.org.These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orghttps://www.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : "Another Country", Performed by: Shadowfax, Written and Produced by: Chuck Greenberg, Source:Windham Hill/LegacyBreak Music: "Trouble Man." Performed and Written and Produced by: Marvin Gaye, Source: MotownEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyProducer: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com

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Resilience: Strain and Stress, Part 3

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 2, 2022 57:59

In Part 3 of our series on Resilience, Kevin and Niseema talk about the difference between "strain" and "stress." Notice what happens when we change a familiar word like "stress" into a more accurate description like "strain." Are you "strained out?" One of the most universal sources of stress is strain. It can be a physical or psychological strain, and it can be caused by many different factors. For example, if you work long hours and don't have time to spend with your family, that's likely to cause some level of mental strain. Most of us have been dealing with a lot of strain since COVID began in addition to its aftermath, feeling our inner resources "strained" leading to "stress." Join Kevin and Niseema as they discuss strain, stress and how we can use those as tools to build resilience.

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The Art of Resilience, Part 2

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 25, 2022 57:59

In Part 2 of our series on Resilience, Kevin and Niseema talk about defense mechanisms and an internal mechanism called "The Engineer" which wants to keep us from changing. "The Engineer" will work to sabotage any kind of alterations you want to make, even positive ones.This week's show is centered around learning how to have a dialogue with, and make friends with, "The Engineer" so you can make the changes you want to make.---------------------------

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The Art of Resilience, Part 1

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 18, 2022 57:06

We are kicking off a four-show series on resilience. In this time of COVID/post COVID stress and all that it entails, people's sense of resilience is very low. How are you doing with your resilience? Do you feel tapped out, that you cannot handle one more demand? Tune in as Kevin and Niseema talk about ways to refill your resilience tank to move forward with knowledge and purpose.-----------------------------For more information or support contact hosts Kevin O'Donoghue LMHC or Niseema Dyan Diemer SEP at: info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. You can sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.tffpp.org.These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orghttps://www.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : "Another Country", Performed by: Shadowfax, Written and Produced by: Chuck Greenberg, Source:Windham Hill/LegacyBreak Music: "Traction in the Rain." Performed, Written and Produced by: David Crosby, Source: Rhino AtlanticEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyProducer: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com

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Love and Zen, Interview with Dr. Brenda Shoshanna Ph.D, Part 1

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 11, 2022 58:00

This week Kevin and Niseema welcome Dr. Brenda Shoshanna, Ph.D, psychotherapist, Zen practitioner, speaker and author of the book, “Zen and the Art of Falling in Love.” Brenda shares with us her journey and understanding of how every person we meet can teach us how to love. In sharing this, she shows us ways that we can love without judgment, shame, or blame._________________________________________________For more information or support contact hosts Kevin O'Donoghue LMHC or Niseema Dyan Diemer SEP at: info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. You can sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.tffpp.org.These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orghttps://www.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : "Another Country", Performed by: Shadowfax, Written and Produced by: Chuck Greenberg, Source:Windham Hill/LegacyBreak Music: "All You Need is Love." Performed by: The Beatles, Written by: John Lennon and Paul McCartney, Produced by: Giles Martin and George Martin, Source: UMC (Universal Music Catalog)End Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyProducer: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com

What happens when "that" feeling goes?

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 4, 2022 58:00

Falling out of love is a heartbreaking feeling. The expansiveness. warmth, and joy of being with your beloved is just gone. It may have happened suddenly or overtime, but there is no doubt that 'the loving feeling" is gone. This week Kevin and Niseema explore some of the reasons why what used be a "tuning in" to our partner, suddenly turns into a "tuning out." Expectations, lack of relationship skills, stress, personal history, our own body, etc., can turn that loving feeling into irritability and loneliness. If love is the antidote to loneliness, then what may be the antidote to the "loss" of love?--------------------For more information or support contact hosts Kevin O'Donoghue LMHC or Niseema Dyan Diemer SEP at: info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. You can sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.tffpp.org.These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orghttps://www.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxBreak Music: "Mean to Me", Performed by: Sarah Vaughan, Written by: Fred Ahert, Roy Turk,Produced by: J Isaacs, J. MCEWEN Source: Columbia/LegacyEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyProducer: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com

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Love and Trust: Why We Fear Closeness

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 28, 2022 57:59

This week Kevin and Niseema talk about the fear of letting people get close to you. How many people really know you? How many people do you feel close to? Closeness is often a trigger for most people. What happens to your body when people get too close?Kevin and Niseema explore the common fears that consciously or unconsciously keep relationships at an arm's length. The fear of being controlled, the fear of losing independence, the fear of vulnerability, all work to sabotage the desire for real closeness. This week's show talks about THE REWARD of letting go of those fears. For more information or support contact hosts Kevin O'Donoghue LMHC or Niseema Dyan Diemer SEP at: info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. You can sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.tffpp.org.These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orghttps://www.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : "Another Country", Performed by: Shadowfax, Written and Produced by: Chuck Greenberg, Source:Windham Hill/LegacyBreak Music: "Nature Boy." Performed by: Nat King Cole, Written by: Eden Ahbez, Produced by: Lee Gillette, Source: Capitol RecordsEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyProducer: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com

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Love's Memory

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 21, 2022 57:45

This week Kevin and Niseema talk about research into "memory" and how our adult brains impose a memory on to our childhood brain. Statistics consistently show that the adult brain often creates a faulty "memory" of incidents that happened in the past. It's as if the brain takes a photograph of a past event and then distorts or enhances the photograph. The brain will often create a faulty memory of what love looked like in our childhood, and then project this onto future loe relationships. It can be the cause of immense, and unnecessary, suffering. It is this faulty memory that we project onto our future love relationships.--------------------------For more information or support contact hosts Kevin O'Donoghue LMHC or Niseema Dyan Diemer SEP at: info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. You can sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.tffpp.org.These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orghttps://www.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : "Another Country", Performed by: Shadowfax, Written and Produced by: Chuck Greenberg, Source:Windham Hill/LegacyBreak Music: "Kodachrome." Performed, Written and Produced by: Paul Simon, Source: Legacy RecordingsEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyProducer: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com

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Love's Essence

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 14, 2022 56:08

Everything and everyone changes. What is revealed when the green leaves of summer turn so many varied colors? Each tree, each leaf, has specific traits to it. What if love's essence is an ability to see through the personality of our partner, to what is a completely unique constellation of traits that make them who they are. Kevin and Niseema explore the concept that it is this essence that delights us and makes us fall in love. Join us this week as we help you identify the traits of your partner that hint at their essence, and to also reflect on what they might see in you.______________________________________For more information or support contact hosts Kevin O'Donoghue LMHC or Niseema Dyan Diemer SEP at: info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. You can sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.tffpp.org.These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orghttps://www.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : "Another Country", Performed by: Shadowfax, Written and Produced by: Chuck Greenberg, Source:Windham Hill/LegacyBreak Music: "This Nearly was Mine." Performed by: Frank Sinatra. Written by: Oscar Hammerstien II, Richard Rodgers. Source: FRANK SINATRA DIGITAL REPRISEEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyProducer: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com

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What Love is Not

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 7, 2022 57:59

Love is a feeling, not a Hallmark card or a box of chocolates. It is deeper and harder than that. Love is not unconditional, it needs the right conditions to be present, to be felt.This week Kevin and Niseema talk about love and how it is the antidote to loneliness. In looking at the questions of the UCLA Loneliness Scale it becomes clear that a lack of love, or the feeling of love, is at the core of why loneliness is so ubiquitous. In looking at love and the ways it shapes our experience of living, we hope to inspire a thoughtful process about the meaning and feeling of love for you.--------------------------------For more information or support contact hosts Kevin O'Donoghue LMHC or Niseema Dyan Diemer SEP at: info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. You can sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.tffpp.org.These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orghttps://www.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxBreak Music: "As Time Goes By", Performed by: Dooley Wilson, Written by: Max Steiner, Source: WaterTower MusicEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyProducer: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com

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Loneliness and Your Personality Style

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 31, 2022 58:00

In this final show on loneliness, Kevin and Niseema discuss the personality system called The Enneagram, and the nine different ways people hide their loneliness from themselves. What if all human beings could be understood as having one of nine personality styles? Knowing your own personality style might help you solve many problems in your life, including any loneliness you might have.In this show, Kevin and Niseema talk about six of the nine styles and how they lead to a sense of isolation and loneliness. They also talk about ways to end your style of loneliness.________________________________For more information or support contact hosts Kevin O'Donoghue LMHC or Niseema Dyan Diemer SEP at: info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. You can sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.tffpp.org.These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orghttps://www.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxBreak Music: "Just the Way You Are" performed by, Billy Joel, written by Billy Joel, Produced by: Phil Ramone, Source: ColumbiaEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyProducer: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com

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Loneliness: The Other Pandemic, Part 3

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 24, 2022 57:59

This week, Kevin and Niseema talk about ways to recognize and cultivate “Companionship” and “Belonging,” the two themes of the Loneliness Scale questions, (see button below.) Did your parents have companions or feel a sense of belonging in their community or social circle? If not, you may have a high tolerance for isolation and loneliness yourself. Birth order is also a factor: first-born children are often the parent/caregiver's companions while last-born children are often the loneliest, especially in a large family. Hoarding and addictions can be seen as "companions" too: though in reality, both are very isolating, cutting us off from the sense of belonging we crave. It is a paradox!In the second half of the show Kevin and Niseema go through four steps that can help EASE your loneliness: Extend your boundaries, have Action plan, Select an activity, and Expect the best. By practicing these four simple steps anyone can move from a sense of isolation and loneliness to a place of companionship and a feeling of belonging.-----------------------For more information or support contact hosts Kevin O'Donoghue LMHC or Niseema Dyan Diemer SEP at: info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. You can sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.tffpp.org.These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orghttps://www.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxBreak Music:" Lonely Too Long." Performed by: The Young Rascals, Written By: Eddie Brigante, Felix Cavaliere, Source: Rhino Atlantic.End Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyProducer: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com

Loneliness: The Other Pandemic, Part 2

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 17, 2022 58:00

In Part 2 of our series on loneliness, Kevin and Niseema talk about the idea of having a "high" or "low" tolerance for loneliness based on your family heritage or genetic makeup. When you look at your own background can you see whether or not you have a high or low tolerance for loneliness? Does this make it easier for you to talk about loneliness in a non-judgemental, less shameful way?In the second part of the show, we talk about the physical effects of loneliness, and the wear and tear that it can take on both the heart and the immune system. John Caciopo in his book, "Loneliness: Human Nature and the Need for Social Connection," unveils his pioneering research on the startling effects of loneliness: a sense of isolation or social rejection disrupts not only your thinking abilities and willpower but also your immune system, and can be as damaging as obesity or smoking. His book demonstrates that, as individuals and as a society, we have everything to gain, and everything to lose, in how well or how poorly we manage our need for social bonds.Tune in next week when we talk about ways of minimizing and "easing" a sense of loneliness.Follow this link to take the UCLA Loneliness Scale-----------------------------------------For more information or support contact hosts Kevin O'Donoghue LMHC or Niseema Dyan Diemer SEP at: info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. You can sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.tffpp.org.These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orghttps://www.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxBreak Music: "In Dreams." Performed by Roy Orbison. Written By Roy Orbison,.Produced by Fred Foster. Source: Legacy RecordsEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyProducer: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com

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Loneliness: The Other Pandemic

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 10, 2022 57:59

This week Kevin and Niseema talk about that other pandemic, Loneliness. In the 1970's only 11% of Americans reported feeling lonely. That number has more than tripled to 36% of all Americans, including 61% of young adults and 51% of mothers with young children. More and more people are expressing their feelings about loneliness yet we still can't seem to find the language to talk about it.How do you react when you hear someone say the words, "I am lonely?" Do you feel overwhelmed, burdened, that you must do something for the person? If you can learn to bear and sit with your own loneliness, you learn that you don't have to solve someone else's. In the second half of the show, Kevin and Niseema do an exercise that makes talking about loneliness as routine as talking about the weather. Ending your loneliness can be as easy as telling somebody about it.---------------------------------------For more information or support contact hosts Kevin O'Donoghue LMHC or Niseema Dyan Diemer SEP at: info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. You can sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.tffpp.org.These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orghttps://www.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxBreak Music: "Are You Lonesome Tonight?" performed by, Elvis Presley, written by Lou Handman, Roy Turk, Source: RCA LegacyEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyProducer: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com

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Declaring Your Independence

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 5, 2022 57:39

Children learn to navigate their surroundings with little guidance except for the voices and actions of the adults who are responsible for them. These words, feelings, and behaviors shape who they become for better or worse.This Independence Day, join Kevin and Niseema as they explore steps outlined by Alice Miller, author of, "The Drama of the Gifted Child.” These steps help you discover your true nature, starting with your core "self" and working outwards. By identifying and learning to utilize these innermost traits, we give ourselves permission to be free!--------------------------------------------For more information or support contact Kevin or Niseema at info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orghttps://www.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxBreak Music: Original Composition by Geoff BradyEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyProducer/ Research: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com

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Listening to Ecstasy, An Interview with Charley Wininger LP LMHC

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 27, 2022 57:59

This week Kevin and Niseema invite Charley Wininger LP, LMHC, author of Listening to Ecstasy: The Transformative Power of MDMA, back for his third appearance on the show to discuss why he calls MDMA, "The Chemical of Connection." Charley reads pivotal passages that describe the physical and emotional responses that MDMA creates, as well as its bonding effects in both his relationship with his spouse and some courageous couples who are exploring MDMA as an option.Charley talks about a recent New York Times article that discusses FDA approval for the use of medical MDMA for treatments of PTSD, substance abuse, obsessive-compulsive disorder, phobias, eating disorders, depression, end-of-life anxiety and social anxiety in autistic adults. The FDA is currently in Phase 3 clinical trials that are expected to clear the way for legal use by 2023.----------------------------------Charley has compiled valuable resources for clinicians and explorers alike on his website http://www.charleywininger.com and through his You Tube channel Listening to Ecstasy. Here are a couple of videos that support and expand on what we talk about in the interview. MDMA IS a Gateway Drug: but to what? https://www.charleywininger.com/youtube-videos/2019/3/21/is-mdma-a-gateway-drug-and-could-that-be-a-good-thingCouples Sharing Good Chemistry: https://www.charleywininger.com/youtube-videos/2019/3/21/for-couples-sharing-good-chemistryRead The New York Times article on Phase 3 clinical Trials Charley cites: http://https://www.nytimes.com/2021/05/03/health/mdma-approval.html-------------------------

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Ambivalence: It's Not What You Think

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 19, 2022 57:59

Do you find yourself being pulled in two directions at once? Do you have many feelings about one aspect or one situation in your life? Sometimes, when we have a number of feelings running through us at one time, it becomes hard to find our ground and difficult to make decisions. What you might be feeling is called ambivalence, feeling two things at once (Ambi meaning two, and valence meaning feeling), which is not necessarily a bad thing. Culturally, we tend to admire the decisive, single-minded person who seems to know what they want and goes towards it. However, ambivalence awakens us to the complexity of being human, and the possibility for greater freedom and choice in our lives. Life is more than just pursuing goals; it is also about expanding ourselves by opening our senses to all the things we can feel. When feeling too much becomes too much!, a person can feel paralyzed and the single-minded goal pursuer can seem like a very attractive alternative. It does NOT have to be one or the other. Join Kevin O'Donoghue and Niseema Dyan Diemer as they explore how feelings of ambivalence play out in the context of relationships and current events.--------------------------------For more information or support contact Kevin or Niseema at info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orghttps://www.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxBreak Music: At Seventeen, Performed and Written by: Janis Ian, Source: Columbia/LegacyEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyProducer/ Research: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com

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The Boy Crisis: An Interview with Dr. Warren Farrell

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 12, 2022 58:03

In honor of Father's Day, Kevin and Niseema welcome Dr. Warren Farrell PhD, author of The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys are Struggling and What We Can Do About It. The crisis? More and more boys are growing up without fathers. This leads them to not only miss out on the father/son bond, but also to a higher likelihood of high school dropout, use of drugs, and a whole host of mental health vulnerabilities. Respecting the roles fathers can have with their sons gives us insight into how nurturing the "father instinct" leads to a more stable home, life, and society.Dr. Warren Farrell's books include: The Myth of Male Power, Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say, Does Feminism Discriminate Against Men? and Why Men Are The Way They Are.---------------------------------------------For more information and to contact Dr. Warren Farrell please go to:www.boycrisis.orgFor more information or support contact Kevin or Niseema at info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orghttps://www.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyProducer/ Research: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com

The Fears of the Nine Types of the Enneagram

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 5, 2022 57:59

Fears can be great motivators. This week Kevin and Niseema discuss 9 ways people use fear to protect themselves. When individuals spend time understanding what they are afraid of and how they adjust to it, they can liberate themselves from moments when the fear might be unnecessary.-----------------------------For more information or support contact Kevin or Niseema at info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orghttps://www.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyProducer/ Research: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com

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Code Red Fallujah: A Doctor's Memoir at War

Play Episode Listen Later May 29, 2022 58:01

The promise of having medical school paid for in return for seven years service in the Navy was an easy choice for Donnelly Wilkes when he started medical school in 1998. That all changed on September 11th, 2001. After just one year of residency in Family Medicine at Camp Pendleton, Dr. Wilkes was called to active duty in the Iraq War. Choosing to be stationed with the Marines, he knew he'd be close to the front lines, but not as close as 200 yards away.In his memoir, Code Red Fallujah: A Doctor's Memoir at War, Dr. Wilkes gives his first-hand account of one of the bloodiest battles in the Iraq War. His unique perspective gives us a window into the mental and physical toll it took on the men around him, including himself. "Sharing the harrowing entries from his field diary, Lieutenant Commander Donnelly Wilkes becomes the first-ever U.S. military physician to recount the sights and sounds of one of the most violent events of the entire Iraq War." (www.coderedfallujah.com)This Memorial Day, join Kevin and Niseema for this poignant discussion about combat stress and mental health with Dr. Donnelly Wilkes MD, who is passionate about sharing his story and letting other servicemen, women, and veterans know that there are resources and help available for anyone who needs and wants it.-------------------------To learn more about Dr. Wilkes and Veterans support go to:www.coderedfallujah.comFor more information or support contact Kevin or Niseema at: info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. You can sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.tffpp.org.These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orghttps://www.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxBreak Music: Original Composition by Geoff BradyEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyResearch and Production Associate: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com

HELP is a Four Letter Word

Play Episode Listen Later May 22, 2022 57:59

Shame, rejection, helplessness, fear of failure, surrender. No wonder it seems so hard to ask for help.The inner dilemma that prevents you from making that call, sending that text, or leaning on that shoulder has all the hallmarks of a culture that prides itself on self-sufficiency. The real shock is that when help is received it can feel like, "Why didn't I ask for help sooner?" This week Kevin and Niseema look at how the simple act of asking for help has layers of complexity and feeling that go back to the first time you tried to utter that word. ----------------------------------For more information or support contact Kevin or Niseema at: info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. You can sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.tffpp.org.These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orghttps://www.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxBreak Music: Original Composition by Geoff BradyEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyResearch and Production Associate: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com

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A Mother's Journey Into The Science of Attachment, with Bethany Saltman, Part 2

Play Episode Listen Later May 15, 2022 57:59

This week Kevin and Niseema continue thier conversation about Attachment Theory with Bethany Saltman mother and author of Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey Through the Science of Attachment.We continue talking about the Strange Situation Procedure developed by Mary Ainsworth, in the 1970s as a way to observe the attachment styles of children between the ages of 9-18 months. In one stage of the procedure, the mother/ primary caregiver and a stranger sit in a room with the child, and then the mother leaves the room. The way the child reacts to the mother's leaving and her return is carefully observed and information about the attachment bond is categorized into an attachment style. After documenting tens of thousands of separations and reunions three distinct patterns emerged: securely attached, insecure anxious, and insecure-avoidant, with 65% being securely attached.As Bethany elaborates: "You don't have to be anything special to be securely attached or to raise a securely attached child. All you have to do is to have some experience and some comfort with your own emotions, your own difficult feelings."In our adult life, these attachment patterns can become more apparent when our relationships are under stress like economic strife, pandemic quarantine, illness, or conflict. If your attachment pattern is insecure when stress arises you can feel like a loss is imminent, and a return to connection is impossible. If you both have a basis of secure attachment you can probably weather any of these storms. Knowing your attachment style can help you understand how you are in relationships.----------------------------For more information and to contact Bethany Saltman go to:www.bethanysaltman.comFor more information or support contact Kevin or Niseema at info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orgwww.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxBreak Music: Geoff BradyEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyProducer/ Research: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com

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A Mother's Journey Into The Science of Attachment, with Bethany Saltman, Part 1

Play Episode Listen Later May 8, 2022 57:59

Bethany Saltman, author of, "Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey into the Science of Attachment," introduces us to the Strange Situation Procedure developed in the 1970s as a way to observe the attachment styles of children between the ages of 9-18months. In one stage of the procedure the mother/ primary caregiver and a stranger sit in a room with the child, and then the mother leaves the room. The way the child reacts to the mother's leaving and her return is carefully observed and information about the attachment bond is categorized into an attachment style. This procedure revolutionized the understanding of child and adult psychology specifically in relationships and bonding. Join us as we discover how knowing about your attachment style provides a clue as to how you manage the stresses of relationships and parenting as an adult. Knowing this, you can start healing relationship wounds and foster secure relationships with your children and loved ones. Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey Into The Science of Attachment was named one of the best science books of 2020 by The New Scientist.------------------------For more information and to contact Bethany Saltman go to:www.bethanysaltman.comFor more information or support contact Kevin or Niseema at info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orgwww.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxBreak Music: Geoff BradyEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyProducer/ Research: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com

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Trauma to Transformation, Richard D. Smith Interview, Part 2

Play Episode Listen Later May 2, 2022 57:41

In this second hour of our interview with Richard D. Smith, we dive into how the systemic trauma of oppressed communities is reflected in feelings of powerlessness followed by rage. Lack of education, job opportunities, limited access to healthcare, and mental health programs has reinforced the idea that somehow Black, Indigenous, People of Color, (BIPOC) people are inherently, "less than". Richard sees self-love as a"revolutionary act," starting with understanding "What happened to me is not my fault or even about me." When you are able to see that external events and influences are not about you and you can choose to take care of yourself in simple yet profound ways you start to co-create your life.One of the first steps in healing trauma, says Richard, is to activate, "healthy aggression." The kind of aggression that supports the individual to stand up for themselves, honoring their self-worth and creatIng safety in their world. Standing up and saying "my life matters" leads to standing up for my community and all the people in my life.Kevin and Niseema also talk with Richard about his outreach efforts for healing individuals and communities. His work emphasizes educating all communities about the effects of individual, systemic and generational trauma, and where to go from here. _______________________Follow Richard D. Smith on Instagram @rsspeaks, www.richardsmithspeaks.comPR contact: Kashanna Evans pr@kissinglions.comFor more information or support contact Kevin or Niseema at info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orghttps://www.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Producer/ Research: Connie Shannon Engineering: Geoff BradyWebsite Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com

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Post Traumatic Growth, Interview with Richard D. Smith, MA:Part 1

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 24, 2022 57:00

This week Kevin and Niseema welcome guest Richard D. Smith, MA. He is a nationally recognized expert on trauma and healing for survivors of interpersonal and systemic violence. His father was murdered, his mother struggled as a single parent, and he experienced a childhood that was often chaotic, unstable, and frightening. By age 16, Richard was incarcerated in an adult jail and was eventually sentenced to spend all of his twenties in prison.In part one of this two-part interview, we talk with Richard about how the behaviors that put him in jail were directly linked to "what happened" to him as a young person. Richard makes a distinction between "what happened to me" and who I am as an individual self. When he made the distinction, he was able to be free of the cycle of violence that shaped his young adult life. Richard is now a leader in community-based programs, with over 20 years of experience. He is currently a doctoral candidate at SUNY Albany's School of Social Welfare. His research focus is on male survivors of childhood sexual abuse. Richard is a Robert Wood Johnson Forward Promise Leadership Fellow.----------------------Follow Richard D. Smith on Instagram @rsspeaks, www.richardsmithspeaks.comPR contact: Kashanna Evans pr@kissinglions.comFor more information or support contact Kevin or Niseema at info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orghttps://www.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Producer/ Research: Connie Shannon Engineering: Geoff BradyWebsite Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com

Learned Optimism

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 17, 2022 57:58

"The main ingredient of success isn't positive thinking it's non-negative thinking," says Kevin following up on last week's show on Learned Helplessness. Do you have a sense of your explanatory style? Do difficult things ALWAYS happen to you? It turns out that shifting a helpless explanatory style to an optimistic or deserving explanatory style is not as hard as it seems.When something difficult happens, take the time to notice how you are thinking about it. Are there resources available to you that you can reach out to for help? What do you have control over? De-personalize the event by not generalizing against yourself. You may not resolve the situation today but there is always another chance, another way, another outlook that supports an optimistic, realistic mindset and an experience of success.Kevin and Niseema talk about the three ways to shift from a helpless explanatory style to optimistic thinking:View the situation as temporary rather than permanent.Don't personalize. Externalize by seeing what the outside factors are that you had no control over.Notice when you say "always" and "never" and get specific about this one time.--------------------------For more information or support contact Kevin or Niseema at info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orghttps://www.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxMid Break Music: Original Composition by Geoff BradyEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Producer/ Research: Connie Shannon Engineering: Geoff BradyWebsite Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com

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Learned Helplessness

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 10, 2022 58:00

When things happen, do you first think, "this always happens to me," or, "next time I'll try another way." Your reaction to the way things happen to you is called your "self explanatory style."In his books, Learned Helplessness, and Learned Optimism, Martin Seligman, breaks down your explanatory style as being either "deserving," or "hopeless." It is a style learned in childhood, most likely adolescence. If you felt you were not valued or felt your help was not needed, or you felt left out very often, you are most likely to have a "hopeless" explanatory style.In Part 1 of this two-part series, Kevin and Niseema take us through the A,B,C,D and E, sequence of "Learned Helplessness," or "Learned Optimism:"An Adverse situation happens.A Belief is formed based on that event.An expectation of the same Consequences arises.Dispute the negative consequences with statements that help you see what is really happening.Take agency with Energization to stop feeling ineffectual and move into a more optimistic frame of mind.-----------------------------For more information or support contact Kevin or Niseema at info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orghttps://www.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxMid Break Music: HELPLESSLY HOPING - il coro che non c'èEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Producer/ Research: Connie Shannon Engineering: Geoff BradyWebsite Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com

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The Art of Saying No

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 3, 2022 58:00

Ask yourself, "What am I saying "YES" to that I want to say "NO" to but don't?"Saying "NO" is an important tool in setting boundaries for yourself, and establishing your own identity. We invite you to look at where you can say "NO" in your life that might help increase your feeling of being free while maintaining your mental and emotional health in a positive way.------------------------------For more information or support contact Kevin or Niseema at: info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. You can sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.tffpp.org.These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orghttps://www.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxBreak Music: Original Composition by Geoff BradyEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyResearch and Production Associate: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com

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Hidden Wounds of the Enneagram, Part 3

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 27, 2022 58:00

What do Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., The Dalai Lama, and Michelle Obama have in common? It is possible that in their younger lives they were encouraged to attune to the feelings and needs of others to the detriment of themselves. When these personality types are unbalanced, they can prove to be difficult and challenging partners because they become seemingly impossible to get close to. Functioning always from a gut instinct perspective can often result in self-created conflict, chaos, and rigidity. However, because of these very wounds, their search for stability through equality, peace, and improving society on a structural level has brought their ideals to the forefront, creating universal change.Join Kevin and Niseema as they complete this 3 episode journey with a discussion of the "Gut" Triad. The Challenger 8, focuses on challenging the rules and the people in their environment; The Peacemaker 9, lives to bring peace and harmony to their environment; The Reformer 1, focuses on what is imperfect in their environment and seeks to set it right.------------------------------For more information or support contact Kevin or Niseema at: info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. You can sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.tffpp.org.These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orghttps://www.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxBreak Music: Original Composition by Geoff BradyEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyResearch and Production Associate: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com

The Hidden Wounds of the Enneagram, Part 2

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 20, 2022 57:57

Our personality, temperament, and relational style are complex and sometimes can feel like a trap. The search for safety is one that starts from a young age, especially if the home you grew up in was somehow dangerous, unstable, or unsafe. The hidden wounds of the Investigator 5, the Loyalist 6, and the Enthusiast 7, reflect a deep, relentless fear, based in insecurity. Kevin and Niseema continue the journey with the Mind Triad Types, and show how we adopt certain behaviors as children to manage the fear and insecurity of our environment. When you recognize the type of person you have become, or are the type of person you are in a relationship with, you have the opportunity to relate to yourself and others with compassion and empathy.Tune in next week to learn about the Challenger 8, the Peacemaker 9, and the Perfectionist 1.------------------------------For more information or support contact Kevin or Niseema at: info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. You can sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.tffpp.org.These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orghttps://www.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxBreak Music: Original Composition by Geoff BradyEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyResearch and Production Associate: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com

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Hidden Wounds of the Enneagram, Part 1

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 13, 2022 58:00

Are you someone who gives of themselves but never really feels like you can receive? Do you relish achieving goals and then feel a kind of emptiness?Kevin and Niseema explore the effects of childhood trauma on adult patterns of behavior and self defeating habits. Using the Enneagram personality typing system, they review the 9 Types and go into depth about the wounds of the 2 (The Helper), and Type 3 (The Performer/Achiever). Understanding the core essence that got lost under the pain is a way to transform your relationship to yourself and others. Tune in next week to learn about the Type 4 (the Artist), Type 5 (the Investigator/Observer), Type 6 (the Loyalist), and Type 7 (the Enthusiast).------------------------------For more information or support contact Kevin or Niseema at: info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. You can sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.tffpp.org.These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orghttps://www.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxBreak Music: Original Composition by Geoff BradyEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyResearch and Production Associate: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com

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The Awakened Brain with Dr. Lisa Miller Ph.D., Part 2

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 6, 2022 57:29

Our guest, Dr. Lisa Miller, Ph.D., author of, "The Awakened Brain: The New Science of Spirituality and Our Quest For An Inspired Life," returns this week to explain how depression can be the key to a spiritual awakening. Dr. Miller says that the hallmark experience of depression is marked by a loss of connection to self and others but it is also a sense of not being held by a force or presence greater than yourself. Depression can be treated as something we wrestle with, or it can be viewed as an invitation to a reigniting of our "awakened brain," by connecting with ourselves and those around us. Join Kevin, Niseema, and Dr. Miller as she leads us through two visualization exercises that help us experience our "awakened brain," providing an opportunity for spiritual growth.__________________________o find out more about Dr. Lisa Miller or events connected with The Awakened Brain go to www.drlismillerphd.comFor more information, to suggest show ideas, ask questions or get support, contact hosts Kevin O'Donoghue LMHC or Niseema Dyan Diemer SEP at: info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. You can sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.tffpp.org.Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orghttps://www.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxBreak Music: Original Composition by Geoff BradyEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyProducer: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com

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The Awakened Brain with Dr. Lisa Miller Ph.D Part 1

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 27, 2022 58:00

Following up on the last week's show on Hygge, the Danish art of feeling good, Kevin and Niseema welcome Dr. Lisa Miller to talk about how the brain responds to Hygge and other pleasurable experiences. In her book "The Awakened Brain: The New Science of Spirituality and Our Quest For An Inspired Life," Dr. Miller shows us that when a person talks about a spiritual experience or a feeling of connection, fMRI scans show an increase in blood flow and the brain takes on a reddish color. Conversely, when participants were asked to tell a sad or depressing story, blood flow in the brain was constricted. Dr. Miller explains that the reddish brain reflects a kind of awareness called "Awakened Awareness," and that the brain is capable of shifting states and feelings based on what you are thinking and experiencing.___________________________To find out more about Dr. Lisa Miller or events connected with The Awakened Brain go to www.drlismillerphd.comFor more information, to suggest show ideas, ask questions or get support, contact hosts Kevin O'Donoghue LMHC or Niseema Dyan Diemer SEP at: info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. You can sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.tffpp.org.Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orghttps://www.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxBreak Music: Original Composition by Geoff BradyEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyProducer: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com

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