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What happens when a seasoned editor turns the lens inward and pens her own deeply personal narrative?In this episode of Bookbound, Bethany Saltman and Fran Hauser sit down with Samhita Mukhopadhyay, former executive editor of Teen Vogue and current editorial director at The Meteor, to discuss her powerful new book The Myth of Making It.Drawing from her extensive career in media, Samhita offers a compelling critique of workplace culture, addressing women's ambition and the societal pressures intensified by hustle culture. She shares the emotional rollercoaster of writing the book, from maintaining a 1,000-word-per-day writing routine to her fears about exposing her vulnerabilities.Resources:Connect with Samhita here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/samhita-mukhopadhyay/ Check out Samhita's work here: https://www.samhitamukhopadhyay.com/Join Bethany & Fran for their Read Like a Writer Book Club here: https://www.bookboundpodcast.com/club Produced by Share Your Genius https://shareyourgenius.com/
What does it take to turn an idea into a published book?In this episode of Bookbound, Fran Hauser and Bethany Saltman sit down with Lisa Marchiano, Jungian analyst and co-host of This Jungian Life podcast, to explore the journey of writing, publishing, and building an author platform.Lisa shares how her simple yet powerful daily practice of writing 300 words a day helped her complete two books, including her upcoming book Dream Wise: Unlocking the Meaning of Your Dreams, which she co-authored with her podcast co-hosts. She also explains the importance of crafting a focused book proposal and how she built an author platform that caught the attention of publishers.Resources:Check out Lisa's work here: https://lisamarchiano.com/Check out Lisa's podcast here: https://thisjungianlife.com/Sign up here to be notified when the e-book is released: https://www.bookboundpodcast.com/e-bookProduced by Share Your Genius https://shareyourgenius.com/
Was ist eigentlich eine gute Beziehung? Können erwachsene Menschen mehr als eine ganz feste Bindung haben und was ist, wenn eine geliebte Person den Kontakt komplett beendet? In dieser Folge sprechen Leon und Atze über das Zwischenmenschliche und ergründen, ob wir in Mustern aus der Kindheit feststecken oder aus ihnen ausbrechen können. Fühlt euch gut betreut Leon & Atze Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/leonwindscheid/ https://www.instagram.com/atzeschroeder_offiziell/ Der Instagram Account für Betreutes Fühlen: https://www.instagram.com/betreutesfuehlen/ Mehr zu unseren Werbepartnern findet ihr hier: https://linktr.ee/betreutesfuehlen Hier Tickets für die Show in Münster sichern: https://betreutesfuehlen.online-ticket.de/muenster-2024 Masterclass von Leon ab Herbst https://wemynd.de Review zum Thema Bindung: https://www.annualreviews.org/content/journals/10.1146/annurev-psych-010418-102813 Der Artikel von Bethany Saltman: https://www.thecut.com/2016/06/attachment-theory-motherhood-c-v-r.html Spannender Artikel beim Spektrum der Wissenschaft über den Einfluss kindlicher Bindungen auf das Erwachsenenleben https://www.spektrum.de/news/beziehungen-bindung-ist-kein-schicksal/2136681 Informationstext zur Bindungstheorie: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/attachment Redaktion: Stefanie Uhrig Produktion: Murmel Productions
You listen to parenting podcasts. You read books. You are a student of how to be the best mom for your kids. You work your tushie off for your kids…maybe even to be the parent you would've wanted. I see you. And I know you beat yourself up about the hard moments when you just can't hold it together anymore. And wouldn't it be amazing to have a partner that sees all of you? All that you do. All that you are as a mom. Would it help you to not be so hard on yourself for those “oops” moments with your kids, if your partner was there to remind you:Remind you that you are beautiful inside and out.Remind you that a few unproud moments don't make you a bad mom.Remind you that so many things are working!Remind you that your kids are lucky to have a mom like you.Enjoy this little back and forth convo between a dad and me about exactly this. And if you want to start Masterminding your house, come and join us!In this episode, you'll learn:How to recognize and ride the cycle of times where you feel like you're winning, and times when you feel like you can't do anything right.What to do when you're in the Messy Middle and feeling guilt over parenting mistakes you've made in the past.To give yourself grace when you feel like things suck, so you don't make yourself feel bad for feeling bad.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-299About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/Resources Discussed/LinksStrange Situation: A Mother's Journey into the Science of Attachment, by Bethany Saltman https://www.bethanysaltman.com/strange-situation Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
What happens when a personal crisis transforms into a groundbreaking practice that spans a decade?For Bonnie Wan, the answer was a book. How lucky for us!Bonnie is a renowned and awarded Brand Strategist and Partner at Goodby Silverstein & Partners. And despite her accolades, she battled imposter syndrome and doubted whether she was married to the right man as she struggled to meet the demands of her busy life. In our conversation with Bonnie, we invite you to listen in on her very relatable story of going from feeling stuck in the throes of life's challenges to knowing who she is and what she wants.In just ten minutes a day, Bonnie was able to distill what she was learning into a very accessible book that gets the essence of what it means to live a life of true “self-centerdness,” as in living in service to ourselves.And now this book—her first—is a bestseller.Talk about inspiring.Dive into Bonnie's bookbound journey as she learned how to transform crisis into clarity and mine self-doubt, strategically.You won't want to miss this one.For more insights and stories like Bonnie's, subscribe to Bookbound and connect with our hosts, Fran Hauser and Bethany Saltman at bookboundpodcast.com.Resources: Connect with Bonnie The Life Brief by Bonnie WanApply for Fran & Bethany's Spring 2024 BOOKBOUND Accelerator here.Produced by Share Your Genius
How many rejections is too many?At what number of “passes” would you give up when it comes to getting an agent or landing a book deal?Just how persistent do you really have to be to bring your book to life?Meet Mita Mallick, a visionary in workplace diversity and a best-selling author. Mita shared her inspiring journey from countless rejections to achieving her dream of impacting future generations through her writing. Her story is a testament to perseverance, the power of personal loss as motivation, and the crucial role of marketing in the world of books. Her experience emphasizes the importance of knowing your audience, embracing every opportunity, and the resilience needed to overcome setbacks and transform them into triumphs. Every aspiring author and entrepreneur out there, remember: your next rejection could be exactly the redirection you need.For more insights and stories like Mita's, subscribe to Bookbound and connect with our hosts, Fran Hauser and Bethany Saltman at bookboundpodcast.com.Resources: Connect with Mita Reimagine Inclusion: Debunking 13 Myths to Transform Your Workplace by Mita MallickApply for Fran & Bethany's 2024 Mastermind here.Produced by Share Your Genius
Welcome to Bookbound: The Podcast! In this short episode, your hosts, Fran Hauser and Bethany Saltman, share their personal experiences and insights from their own publishing journeys. They give the inside scoop on how they published their first books and how it taught them to embrace their own author-ity. And they give you a glimpse into the exciting lineup of woman authors they'll be interviewing.From transforming personal stories into published books to the importance of becoming an authority on your subject, this episode sets the stage for the insider conversations to come. Get ready to be both inspired and empowered to turn the story you can't stop telling into a book the world needs to read.To connect with the hosts and more, go to www.bookboundpodcast.com/
What's the story you can't stop telling? Fran and Bethany are here to help you write, sell, and launch it.Critically acclaimed authors and bestselling book coaches Fran Hauser and Bethany Saltman are your hosts of Bookbound, the podcast for aspiring nonfiction authors who want to learn how to transform their ideas, expertise, and obsessions into successful books and publishing deals. Fran and Bethany interview accomplished authors who share the strategies and surprises behind their bookbound journeys. These behind-the-scenes conversations will inspire you to claim your own “author-ity” mindset and turn the story you can't stop telling into a book the world needs to read.To connect with the hosts and more, go to www.bookboundpodcast.com/
Bonjour ! Le podcast Nouveau Départ est le quatrième épisode de notre série de podcasts intitulée Places à prendre. Céline Alix, Sandra Fillaudeau et moi discutons à trois voix de la question de l'ambivalence autour de la maternité, en nous demandant si elle avait plus de place, si elle était plus audible, aujourd'hui. Nos dernières lectures, visites d'expos et écoutes de podcasts ont nourri ces échanges… Au fil de notre conversation, nous discutons avec Céline et Sandra :* De la représentation plus réaliste de la maternité (en particulier l'accouchement dans la peinture ) ;* Du livre Screaming on the Inside de Jessica Grose, qui évoque l'insoutenabilité du rôle des mères aux Etats-Unis (analyse très transposable dans d'autres cultures, malgré les spécificités du contexte américain) ;* Du lien d'attachement et des recherches d'une mère pour comprendre comment l'amour qu'elle porte à sa fille peut coexister avec des émotions plus inconfortables comme l'agacement, l'impatience, la colère, à travers le livre Strange Situation de Bethany Saltman ;* De l'idéalisation du lien mère-enfant et la pression induite par la famille nucléaire moderne occidentale telle que nous la connaissons…Bonne écoute !Les autres ressources mentionnées dans l'épisode :* Les artistes évoquées par Céline : au Palais de Tokyo et au Centre Pompidou* Le livre Chasseur, Cueilleur, Parent évoqué par Sandra Cet épisode de “Places à prendre” revient sur des thèmes que j'ai abordés avec plusieurs de mes invités Nouveau Départ. Pour aller plus loin, je vous invite à (re)découvrir les podcasts suivants :* La naissance sous toutes les coutures (avec Dr Agnès Gepner)* La pénalité maternelle (avec Mathilde Ramadier)* La grossesse, nouvelle frontière du féminisme (avec Judith Aquien)Le média de la transition* “À deux voix”, nos conversations à bâtons rompus sur l'actualité* Une vision engagée, des clefs pour aller au fond des choses* Nos abonnés : des entrepreneurs, professionnels, citoyens engagés* Des nouvelles de nos travaux et de nos projetsQui nous sommes* Laetitia | Fondatrice de CNVC Research, collabore avec Welcome to the Jungle, autrice de Du Labeur à l'ouvrage (Calmann-Lévy, 2019) et En finir avec la productivité : critique féministe d'une notion phare de l'économie et du travail (Payot, 2022).* Nicolas | Cofondateur de la société The Family, ancien chroniqueur à L'Obs, auteur de L'Âge de la multitude (avec Henri Verdier, Armand Colin, 2015) et Un contrat social pour l'âge entrepreneurial (Odile Jacob, 2020).Nous sommes mariés depuis 16 ans et vivons à Munich, en Allemagne, avec nos deux enfants. Nouveau Départ est le média que nous avons conçu ensemble au printemps 2020 pour mieux nous orienter dans la crise et la transition.Nos podcasts sont également accessibles sur Apple Podcasts et Spotify. Nouveau Départ a sa page LinkedIn et son compte Twitter : @_NouveauDepart_. Suivez-nous aussi individuellement sur LinkedIn (Laetitia & Nicolas) et sur Twitter (Nicolas & Laetitia). This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nouveaudepart.substack.com
Bethany Saltman has written a compelling book about the science of attachment. It is a memoir of her journey into the science of attachment, a summary of what is known about attachment and the process of how this important theory was established. In this interview we talk about some of the basic features of attachment. The relationship an infant forms with their caregiver puts down a psychological foundation that biases development in certain directions. For the purpose of this podcast, we note that an insecure attachment increased the probablility of developing an anxiety disorder. However, developmental trajectories are complex and nothing is fixed in stone. Bethany Saltman has many facets to her work, including being a writing coach and she can be found at https://www.bethanysaltman.com/strange-situationn.com
It's the 400th episode of the Mindful Mama Podcast!!! To celebrate, Hunter hosted a party/roundtable with a few of her favorite guests. She talks to Zaiba Hasan, Bethany Saltman, and Dr. Lynyetta Willis about how parenting has changed in the last 20 years; What should parents be focusing on? What do you wish you knew as a young mother? And so much more. If you enjoyed this episode, and it inspired you in some way, I'd love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram stories, and tag me @mindfulmamamentor. Have you left a review yet? All you have to do is go to Apple Podcasts or Stitcher (or wherever you listen), and thanks for your support of the show! When Zaiba isn't serving as a coaching catalyst for her clients she can be found on the baseball fields and basketball courts of the DMV area with her four children and husband of 23 plus years. Psychologist and family empowerment coach, Dr. Lynyetta Willis, helps frustrated families break free from Stable Misery and create more joy in their parenting or partnerships. Bethany Saltman is a researcher, editor, and author of the book, Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey into the Science of Attachment. Get Hunter's book, Raising Good Humans now! Click here to order and get book bonuses! ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindful mama mentor. She coaches smart, thoughtful parents on how to create calm and cooperation in their daily lives. Hunter has over 20 years of experience in mindfulness practices. She has taught thousands worldwide. Be a part of the tribe—we're over 25 thousand strong! Join the Mindful Parenting membership. Take your learning further! Get my Top 2 Best Tools to Stop Yelling AND the Mindful Parenting Roadmap for FREE at: mindfulmamamentor.com/stopyelling/ Find more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at MindfulMamaMentor.com. We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: https://mindfulmamamentor.com/mindful-mama-podcast-sponsors/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today we welcome best-selling book coach Bethany Saltman to The Inside Job to explore what attachment theory can teach us about confidence and our authority in our own careers. Listen in and join the discussion on LinkedIn (Eric | Nayla). Inside Job is brought to you by Nayla Bahri and Eric Johnson. To learn more about the ideas and resources discussed in this episode, us and our work, and to join our mailing list, visit the show notes at insidejobthepodcast.com. You can also continue the conversation with us through your favorite social channels: LinkedIn Eric | Nayla Instagram Facebook Email We'd love to hear from you.
Many of us worry that our child may not be securely attached. How can we understand the science behind attachment to better understand our kids and their needs? And how do we promote a secure attachment? Joining me for this conversation is Bethany Saltman, author of Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey Into the Science of Attachment. It's inspired by the birth of her daughter in 2006, who she loved dearly, but feared she was failing. Why? Because she was not the kind of mother she hoped to become. Bethany spent ten years teaching herself the science of attachment, traveling to labs, trainings, and archives, in an effort to try to discover what kind of mother she really was, and if she was good enough for her daughter. What she learned changed everything about how she thought of herself, her childhood, and the nature of love. We go into: [2:25] Different attachment styles and why they're important [6:00] Where secure attachment comes from [13:35] The power of attachment and repair [14:20] Why people make such a big deal about attachment styles [24:10] What Bethany learned through healing her insecure attachment style [27:40] Advice Bethany would give to her younger parent self Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey Into the Science of Attachment, published in April, 2020 by Random House, is her first book. Bethany is a bestselling book coach, helping writers envision and execute their books—from pitch, to platform, to proposal, to publication, to PR. , She is also an editor and researcher. Her work can be seen in magazines like the New Yorker, New York Magazine, Atlantic Monthly, Parents, and many others. Resources mentioned in this episode Find Your Unicorn Space by Eve Rodsky Episode 63: Self-Compassion is the Key to Being Your Best Parent Self with Dr. Kristin Neff Connect with Bethany https://www.instagram.com/bethany_saltman/ www.twitter.com/BethanySaltman https://www.linkedin.com/in/bethany-saltman-968207b7/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100026627657984 https://www.bethanysaltman.com/ Connect with Sarah Rosensweet On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com Book a short consult or coaching session call
Renowned speaker and bestselling author, Dr. Gabor Maté on trauma and healing in a toxic culture. He is highly sought after for his expertise on a range of topics including addiction, stress, and childhood development. SOME KEY POINTS Children's irreducible needs Attachment and authenticity How early childhood trauma can show up in our parenting The impact of parental stress on kids, including stress in utero How you can deal with your own discomfort with our child's big feelings Pathways to healing and so much more MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness and Healing in a Toxic Culture In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction When the Body Says No: Exploring the Stress-Disease Connection Scattered: How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About It Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers The Wisdom of Trauma documentary Hello Again workshop at Omega OTHER EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE Ep. 289: Developing Mind-Body Tools for Resilience with Rebekkah LaDayne Ep.292: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with Dick Schwartz, PhD Ep. 260: Parenting with Presence with Dr. Dan Siegel Ep. 203: Discovering Wholeness and Healing After Trauma with James Gordon, MD Ep. 326: Befriending Your Nervous System with Deb Dana Ep. 306: The Invisible Epidemic of Trauma with Paul Conti, MD Ep.332: The Science of Stuck and Trauma Healing with Britt Frank Ep. 314: The 6 Critical Needs of Children with Anna Seewald Ep. 313: Reconnecting to Your Authentic Self with Dr. Thema Bryant Ep. 311: The Healing Power of Storytelling BEST BOOKS I READ IN 2022 The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness and Healing in a Toxic Culture A Place Called Home by David Ambroz Stolen Focus by Johann Hari The AfterGrief by Hope Edeleman The Anatomy of Anxiety by Ellen Vora Strange Situation bt Bethany Saltman Brain-Body Parenting by Mona Delahooke Parent Nation by Dana Suskind SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com and join 21 exisiting memebers who contribute $121 towards our monthly goal of $500. Make a one-time donation in any amount to say “Thank you!” Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast HOW TO WORK WITH ANNA I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: info@authenticparenting.com STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com
A really thought-provoking and important conversation with world-class pediatric surgeon, social scientist, and best-selling author of Thirty Million Words Dr. Dana Suskind about why early childhood years matter, and how society can and should help families meet the developmental needs of their children by providing more robust support for parents during the most critical years for building a bright future. HER BOOKS Thirty Million Words: Building a Child's Brain Parent Nation: Unlocking Every Child's Potential, Fulfilling Society's Promise This year, so far I have read 24 books. If you are curious, here are my top 6 for now. Stolen Focus by Johann Hari The AfterGrief by Hope Edeleman The Anatomy of Anxiety by Ellen Vora Strange Situation bt Bethany Saltman Brain-Body Parenting by Mona Delahooke Parent Nation by Dana Suskind LAST YEAR'S SELECTION 10 Best Self-Help Books of 2022 MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Ep. 317: The Anatomy of Anxiety with Ellen Vora, MD Ep. 318: What Comes After Grief with Hope Edelman Ep. 319: Understanding Attachment with Bethany Saltman Ep. 315: How to Help Kids with Emotional Self-Regulation with Mona Delahooke Ep. 310: Why You Can't Pay Attention and How to Think Deeply Again with Johann Hari SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com and join 22 exisiting memebers who contribute $140 towards our monthly goal of $500. Make a one-time donation in any amount to say “Thank you!” Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast HOW TO WORK WITH ANNA I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: info@authenticparenting.com STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com
I submitted my book on June 30, 2022 after 18 months of actively writing THIS book.The story of this book actually starts with me writing another book in 2020. A book that isn't done but I do hope I'll finish and publish one day!Writing a book was a lot and I really wanted to just process the whole experience with you. And maybe you want to write a book and this episode will demystify the process for you a bit.I hope you enjoy the episode :) Send me an email and tell me what you think!In this episode, I mention Bethany Saltman who was on my podcast last year. Check it out here: https://robyngobbel.com/strangesituation/*******The Club is a virtual community for the families of kids with big, baffling behaviors and the professionals who support them. https://robyngobbel.com/theclubApplications for the 2023 cohort of Being With ~ a year-long immersive and holistic program for parenting professionals ~ will open summer 2022. https://robyngobbel.com/beingwith
This week Kevin and Niseema continue thier conversation about Attachment Theory with Bethany Saltman mother and author of Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey Through the Science of Attachment.We continue talking about the Strange Situation Procedure developed by Mary Ainsworth, in the 1970s as a way to observe the attachment styles of children between the ages of 9-18 months. In one stage of the procedure, the mother/ primary caregiver and a stranger sit in a room with the child, and then the mother leaves the room. The way the child reacts to the mother's leaving and her return is carefully observed and information about the attachment bond is categorized into an attachment style. After documenting tens of thousands of separations and reunions three distinct patterns emerged: securely attached, insecure anxious, and insecure-avoidant, with 65% being securely attached.As Bethany elaborates: "You don't have to be anything special to be securely attached or to raise a securely attached child. All you have to do is to have some experience and some comfort with your own emotions, your own difficult feelings."In our adult life, these attachment patterns can become more apparent when our relationships are under stress like economic strife, pandemic quarantine, illness, or conflict. If your attachment pattern is insecure when stress arises you can feel like a loss is imminent, and a return to connection is impossible. If you both have a basis of secure attachment you can probably weather any of these storms. Knowing your attachment style can help you understand how you are in relationships.----------------------------For more information and to contact Bethany Saltman go to:www.bethanysaltman.comFor more information or support contact Kevin or Niseema at info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orgwww.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxBreak Music: Geoff BradyEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyProducer/ Research: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com
Bethany Saltman, author of, "Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey into the Science of Attachment," introduces us to the Strange Situation Procedure developed in the 1970s as a way to observe the attachment styles of children between the ages of 9-18months. In one stage of the procedure the mother/ primary caregiver and a stranger sit in a room with the child, and then the mother leaves the room. The way the child reacts to the mother's leaving and her return is carefully observed and information about the attachment bond is categorized into an attachment style. This procedure revolutionized the understanding of child and adult psychology specifically in relationships and bonding. Join us as we discover how knowing about your attachment style provides a clue as to how you manage the stresses of relationships and parenting as an adult. Knowing this, you can start healing relationship wounds and foster secure relationships with your children and loved ones. Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey Into The Science of Attachment was named one of the best science books of 2020 by The New Scientist.------------------------For more information and to contact Bethany Saltman go to:www.bethanysaltman.comFor more information or support contact Kevin or Niseema at info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orgwww.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxBreak Music: Geoff BradyEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyProducer/ Research: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com
How much do our childhoods, and especially the quality of our first loving bonds, determine who we become and how we love. A truly fascinating and delightful conversation about the science of attachment with a longtime Zen student, author of a phenomenal book Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey into the Science of Attachment Bethany Saltman. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE The Lost Daughter Strange Situation Becoming Attached by Robert Karen, Ph.D Bethany Saltman's wesbite Follow her on Instagram Ep. 315: How to Help Kids with Emotional Self-Regulation with Mona Delahooke, PhD Ep. 267: The Power of Discord Dr. Ed Tronick and Claudia Gold, MD Ep. 260: Parenting with Presence with Dr. Dan Siegel Ep. 189: What's Your Attachment Style? with Jenny Rosier, Ph.D Adult Attachment Interivew Protocol SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com and join 18 exisiting memebers who contribute $92 towards our monthly goal of $500. Make a one-time donation in any amount to say “Thank you!” Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast HOW WORK WITH ANNA I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: info@authenticparenting.com STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com
"We heal the past by embodying the present. Now, now, now, now, now. That's all we have. When we change the present, history changes." ~ Bethany SaltmanBethany Saltman is a phenomenon. She's also the author of a brilliant and poignant book called Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey into the Science of Attachment (Ballantine Books, 2020). This book absolutely floored me. “A fascinating mix of memoir and the history of a major revolution in the scientific theory of the relationships we form in our first year of life…” —BOOKLIST (Starred Review)It was her pursuit of the answer to a daunting question - what kind of mother am I? - that captivated me. This question led her to search for, find, and follow clues that offered no map, no timeline, and no guarantees...and also eventually led to unforeseen discoveries about herself, her family, the science of attachment, the guiding figures she would meet along the way, and of course the scientist she would only know through archives, records, recordings, and notes - Mary Ainsworth, the attachment researcher who captured Bethany's imagination and heart.From her Zazen meditation years seated on her cushion “being with what is” to the years of searching to discover what is, what was, and what might be, Bethany teaches us what it means to see ourselves and our children more clearly. We talk about the practice of awareness, the power of sensitivity, the reality of presence, the process of seeing and trusting in ourselves, self-care as child-care, and the predictive power of delight. This conversation is just a wonder. LISTEN, SUBSCRIBE, SHARE and FOLLOW us on social @theforeseeablenowpodcast. LINKS:Strange Situation is now out in paperback.Bethany's website https://www.bethanysaltman.com/Strange Situation ~ video https://www.bethanysaltman.com/related-videosA couple of Bethany's acclaimed articles:https://www.thecut.com/2016/06/attachment-theory-motherhood-c-v-r.htmlhttps://www.thecut.com/2014/10/we-fought-for-affirmative-consent-in-the-90s.htmlBethany's "Secret Teachings Study Group" ~ https://www.bethanysaltman.com/mary-ainsworth-attachment-study-group
June is allllll about attachment! We kicked off this special series on attachment last week with my interview with author Bethany Saltman and her memoir "Strange Situation."Today- we are going back to basics.Attachment is something that gets a lot of airtime but also, a lot of confusion. In today's episode we'll talk about John Bolwby and how he brilliantly noticed that attachment is about physical (and emotional) survival.We explore the difference between safe haven and secure base, and about how attachment is both about connection and autonomy.We look at the three attachment behaviors Bowlby identified:Seek, monitor, and maintain proximity Use the attachment figure as the secure baseFlee to their attachment figure when afraidGoing Back to Basics certainly means highlighting the work of Mary Ainsworth, which ultimately led to The Strange Situation and the attachment classifications we now know as secure and insecure. I'm a big fan of scaffolding (which you know if you're a member of The Club or you've taken Parenting after Trauma: Minding the Heart and Brain online digital course) so consider this episode an important part of the scaffolding of attachment. We've got to get clear on the basics before moving on!Hit subscribe to Parenting after Trauma in your podcast player so you don't miss anything in this monthly focus on attachment!There's a lot in this one episode and the whole six-part series! I made the series into a beautiful eBook so you don't have to take notes and you can review it as often as you want. To download the F R E E ebook, click here: https://robyngobbel.com/ebookOver on my website you can find:Masterclass on What Behavior Really Is (FREE)eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)In depth parent course: Parenting after Trauma: Minding the Heart and BrainOngoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club************If you're loving this replay of the attachment series, head over to my website to download the F R E E ebook, The Brilliance of Attachment.Folks are saying that not only does it reframe attachment in a hopeful and inspiring way, but it's also beautiful!https://robyngobbel.com/ebook
Today on the Fresh Start Family Show, Wendy shares a different perspective on attachment parenting from author, editor, poet and researcher, Bethany Saltman. Today's conversation with Bethany helps families to understand attachment and what that really means, and see ourselves—and our relationships with those we love—in an entirely new way. For more information go to: www.freshstartfamilyonline.com/120
Bethany Saltman is the author of part memoir part biography Strange Situation- A Mother's Journey into the Science of Attachment. Bethany is a professional researcher, writer, and longtime Zen student who went searching for what she felt was missing when she was a new mom. Like myself, Bethany discovered Dr. Sears' The Baby Book on attachment parenting when she was pregnant with her now 15-year-old daughter (my son is 15 and almost the exact same age!) and had expectations about what motherhood and parenting was going to look like: a blissful time where she enjoyed the natural awakenings of maternal instinct.Which did not happen. Bethany remembers that she wasn't patient with her daughter. She didn't feel very loving toward her. And ultimately she felt broken because Dr. Sears had promised in his book that attachment parenting was easy because it ‘feeds on a mother's natural intuition.' Bethany stated she was doing her best but also doing a lot of things wrong as a mom- and couldn't figure out why. So she went on a deep-dive journey into exploring the science of attachment, in particular Mary Ainsworth and The Strange Situation. Bethany's exploration into the science of attachment led her to the conclusion that behaviors have actually very little to do with attachment. There isn't a checklist. Raising a child with secure attachment isn't about breastfeeding or co-sleeping. It has to do with how you think and feel about your attachments and how this is transmitted from mind to mind, generation to generation. I can't wait to hear what you think about this interview with Bethany!!!You can find Bethany on instagram @Bethany_Saltman or on her website at www.BethanySaltman.com. Grab her book Strange Situation wherever books are sold but try to get it from your local bookstore ;)Don't forget to subscribe to Parenting after Trauma with Robyn Gobbel!Then head over to my website and get the free, 45 minute masterclass What Behavior Really Is and How to Change It at www.RobynGobbel.com/masterclassOver on my website you can find:Masterclass on What Behavior Really Is (FREE)eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)In depth parent course: Parenting after Trauma: Minding the Heart and BrainOngoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club************If you're loving this replay of the attachment series, head over to my website to download the F R E E ebook, The Brilliance of Attachment.Folks are saying that not only does it reframe attachment in a hopeful and inspiring way, but it's also beautiful!https://robyngobbel.com/ebook
Today, I am going to be sitting down with Bethany Saltman, researcher, editor, and author of the newly released book, Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey Into the Science of Attachment. What does it mean to have a secure attachment? What are the key ways to develop a healthy attachment? In our conversation, we really dive into the science of attachment as Bethany breaks it all down for us. *New!* Watch video clips from this episode on the Mindful Mama Youtube channel! If you enjoyed this episode, and it inspired you in some way, I'd love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram stories, and tag me @mindfulmamamentor. Have you left a review yet? All you have to do is go to Apple Podcasts or Stitcher (or wherever you listen), and thanks for your support of the show! 3 Takeaways: What is good for the mom is good for the baby. Secure attachment allows us to trust that someone will be there for us. To create a secure attachment with your child, start by paying attention to yourself in a deep way. Biography Get Hunter's book, Raising Good Humans now! Click here to order and get book bonuses! ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindful mama mentor. She coaches smart, thoughtful parents on how to create calm and cooperation in their daily lives. Hunter has over 20 years of experience in mindfulness practices. She has taught thousands worldwide. Be a part of the tribe—we're over 25 thousand strong! Join the Mindful Parenting membership. Take your learning further! Get my Top 2 Best Tools to Stop Yelling AND the Mindful Parenting Roadmap for FREE at: mindfulmamamentor.com/stopyelling/ Find more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at MindfulMamaMentor.com. Be sure to check out these deals from this week's sponsors: Try today at StitchFix.com/HUNTER and you'll get 25% off when you keep everything in your Kids Fix. Get started with 20% OFF your first purchase at WeAreRasa.com and use promo code: HUNTER20
Wisdom for Wellbeing with Dr. Kaitlin Harkess (PhD Psychology)
This episode is particularly fitting Valentine's Day week as Bethany Saltman talks about how the science of attachment can bring us closer to ourselves and those we love. Bethany is an author, editor and researcher, and her work can be seen in magazines like the New Yorker, New York Magazine, Atlantic Monthly, Parents, and many others. Bethany's first book, Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey Into the Science of Attachment. It's inspired by the birth of her daughter in 2006, who she loved dearly, but feared she was failing. Why? Because she was still her, and not the kind of mother she'd hoped to become. She spent ten years teaching herself the science of attachment, travelling to labs, trainings, and archives, trying to discover what kind of mother she really was, and if she was good enough for her. What she learned changed everything about how she thought of herself, her childhood, and the nature of love. She is incredibly proud that, among other incredible reviews and accolades, New Scientist called Strange Situation One of the Best Science Books of 2020. She is also a bestselling book coach, helping writers envision and execute their books—from pitch, to platform, to proposal, to publication, to PR. Bethany received a B.A. from Antioch College, where she was one of the architects of the nation's first Affirmative Consent Policy. She went on to receive her M.F.A in poetry from Brooklyn College, where she studied with Allen Ginsberg and published her work in many national journals. She is honored that Antioch awarded her their 2020 Rebecca Rice Award for Achievement in Profession. Shownotes: www.drkaitlin.com
MagaMama with Kimberly Ann Johnson: Sex, Birth and Motherhood
Summary In this episode, Kimberly and Bethany discuss “The Lost Daughter” (2021) which follows Leda (Olivia Colman), a middle-aged woman on holiday in Greece as she recalls her experiences as a wife, professor, and mother. The film has received much critical and popular attention, but particularly caught the attention of Bethany Saltman, researcher of attachment, for its complex and nuanced perspective into Leda's experience as a mother. Together, Kimberly and Bethany analyze the film from their backgrounds in attachment, somatic experiencing, and nervous system perspectives. Bethany and Kimberly discuss the film on a live Zoom call. Bio Bethany Saltman is a longtime researcher, writer, Zen student, and author of “Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey into the Science of Attachment,” a book that explains the research and theories behind attachment in addition to describing Bethany's own complex relationship with parenting. Additionally, “The Lost Daughter,” directed by Maggie Gyllenhall, is the visual adaptation of the novel written by Elena Ferrante, premiered on Netflix on December 31, 2021 with Olivia Colman, Dakota Johnson, Ed Harris, and more. What She Shares: –Why Bethany and Kimberly wanted to discuss the film –How the film portrays motherhood and humanness in its complexity –Conflict, messiness, and resisting binaries in womanhood and motherhood –Symbolism of various aspects of the film What You'll Hear: –Bethany's background and interest in the film –Split between staying connected to self and child –Desire and motherhood –How film relates to human experience –Physicalness of motherhood portrayed in the film –Leda and young mother's fascination with each other –Physical differences between younger Leda and older Leda –Who is the lost daughter? –Differences between fathers and mothers leaving children –What makes us feel found versus lost? –Why Leda takes the doll –All characters searching to be found –Containment of feeling found –Pendulum between lost and found/attached and contained –Doll as a compulsion, wish fulfillment, trying to go deep into meanness –Crippled by shame causing a dorsal reflex –Layering of sexuality between Leda and Nina –Symbolism of the snake, doll, and worm –Generational attachment is unbreakable (despite pain, trauma, etc) –Ending of Leda being dead or alive –What makes Leda “alive, actually” –Daughter calling Leda after bad haircut demonstrates attachment –Resisting cultural urge to label Leda as good/bad –Village-mindedness versus isolated parenting –Trauma within the film, flashbacks within films as constricting –Trauma as a catch-all for stress, meaningful experiences, etc. –Puritanical demand for everything to be good and if not it is traumatic/wrong –Leaving space for messiness, complexity, contradictions, and ambivalence in human experience –Leda not as a traumatized human, just as a human –Trauma narrative has become another cliche or attempt to understand difficulty and complexity –Assumptions of lack of resilience in cultural understandings Resources Website: bethanysaltman.com IG: @bethany_saltman
Welcome to Season 5 episode 1 - What Is Attachment Parenting REALLY? In this episode we explore the origins & value of a soul lead motherhood.Our guest today is Bethany Saltman - an author, editor and researcher whose work has been published in the New Yorker, Parents, and many more.Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey Into the Science of Attachment, is her first book inspired by the birth of her daughter who although she loved dearly, she feared she was failing. And was not the kind of mother she'd hoped to be.Bethany spent ten years learning about the science of attachment, traveling to labs, doing training, reading archives - trying to discover what the essence of healthy attachment and good mothering really was.To me her book is the thinking woman's guide to attachment - a helpful and healing non self help book! It is extremely well written and a pleasure to read.Among many other incredible reviews and accolades, New Scientist called Strange Situation One of the Best Science Books of 2020.Bethany is also a bestselling book coach, and was one of the architects of America's first Affirmative Consent Policy. She has a MFA and studied with Allen Ginsberg and is a longtime Zen student - devoted to the fine art and game-changing effects of paying attention.She lives in the Catskills with her husband, daughter, and two dogs and I was so honoured to have her on our show.You have to excuse my tears in a few moments throughout the interview - remembering the beauty and delight of parenting sometimes brings up grief for me.I really hope you enjoy our talk. Bethany's book is available at all good bookstores and is also on Audible.In this episode we chat about:The 3 keys to healthy attachment parentingHow attachment parenting has nothing to do with what you are doing!Healing our family patternsHow to prepare for parenthoodThe Truth About Attachment ParentingThe Power Of Delight In MotherhoodEpisode Resources:Bethany Saltman WebsiteBethany Saltman Instagram Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey Into the Science of AttachmentShe Births® Full Online Antenatal Course where we support mums to form attachment while pregnant, during birth and immediately after birthSoul Mama Circles where we explore soul led motherhood and matrescence together. Pre-book your postnatal support.
Parents often worry, will my child attach to me? And the answer is almost always - yes! Attachment is less about whether or not a child will form a bond with their primary caregiver, and is more focused on the quality of that relationship and how secure it is. Today, I am joined by the author of Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey into the Science of Attachment, Bethany Saltman. Bethany will break down what attachment is and more importantly what it isn't, discuss the importance of cultivating delight, breaking cycles and offer suggestions for allowing attachment theory to help inform the choices parents make in raising their children. I want to hear from you! Send me a topic you want me to cover or a question you want answered on the show! ✨ DM me on Instagram at @securelyattachedpodcast or @drsarahbren ✨ Send an email to info@drsarahbren.com ✨ And check out drsarahbren.com for more parenting resources
Writer and poet Bethany Saltman didn't set out to write a memoir but when her research into the life and studies of Mary Ainsworth overlapped with her own childhood, she knew she had to delve into her past. Bethany tells Zibby about how Ainsworth's attachment theories apply to the often complicated relationship she had with her older brothers, in which ways her familial past has affected her connection to her own daughter, and what the dynamic with her mother is like today.Purchase on Amazon or Bookshop.Amazon: https://amzn.to/3EQZ49XBookshop: https://bit.ly/3zK2eIQ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
This week we visit the idea of connection as important to our sense of well being and mental health. Take a moment, and ask yourself: Where do I feel connected in my life? Am I connected? Do I feel disconnected? We recap the key concepts of three authors we have had on, and all who have a unique take on "connection." We revisit Charley Wininger's, "Listening to Ecstasy: The Transformative Power of MDMA", Dr. Warren Farrell's, "The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It,” and Bethany Saltman's, "Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey Through the Science of Attachment." We think you'll appreciate the idea of connection so much more after you listen to the show.______________________________________For more information or support contact Kevin or Niseema at: info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. You can sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.tffpp.org.These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orghttps://www.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxBreak Music: Original Composition by Geoff BradyEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyResearch and Production Associate: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com
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June is allllll about attachment! We kicked off this special series on attachment last week with my interview with author Bethany Saltman and her memoir "Strange Situation."Today- we are going back to basics.Attachment is something that gets a lot of airtime but also, a lot of confusion. In today's episode we'll talk about John Bolwby and how he brilliantly noticed that attachment is about physical (and emotional) survival.We explore the difference between safe haven and secure base, and about how attachment is both about connection and autonomy.We look at the three attachment behaviors Bowlby identified:Seek, monitor, and maintain proximity Use the attachment figure as the secure baseFlee to their attachment figure when afraidGoing Back to Basics certainly means highlighting the work of Mary Ainsworth, which ultimately led to The Strange Situation and the attachment classifications we now know as secure and insecure. I'm a big fan of scaffolding (which you know if you're a member of The Club or you've taken Parenting after Trauma: Minding the Heart and Brain online digital course) so consider this episode an important part of the scaffolding of attachment. We've got to get clear on the basics before moving on!Hit subscribe to Parenting after Trauma in your podcast player so you don't miss anything in this monthly focus on attachment!There's a lot in this one episode and the whole six-part series! I made the series into a beautiful eBook so you don't have to take notes and you can review it as often as you want. To download the F R E E ebook, click here: https://robyngobbel.com/ebookAnd while you're on my website! Be sure to check out The Club and add yourself to the waiting list! Doors open again at the end of June! https://robyngobbel.com/theclub**********There are so many benefits (and no drawbacks!) to teaching kids and teens about the brain. I'll give you simple, fun ways to Teach Kids about their Awesome Brain. This 1.5 hour webinar airs live on Wed Oct 20. Everyone who registers will receive the recording so you don't have to attend live! CLICK HERE.
Bethany Saltman is the author of part memoir part biography Strange Situation- A Mother's Journey into the Science of Attachment. Bethany is a professional researcher, writer, and longtime Zen student who went searching for what she felt was missing when she was a new mom. Like myself, Bethany discovered Dr. Sears' The Baby Book on attachment parenting when she was pregnant with her now 15-year-old daughter (my son is 15 and almost the exact same age!) and had expectations about what motherhood and parenting was going to look like: a blissful time where she enjoyed the natural awakenings of maternal instinct.Which did not happen. Bethany remembers that she wasn't patient with her daughter. She didn't feel very loving toward her. And ultimately she felt broken because Dr. Sears had promised in his book that attachment parenting was easy because it ‘feeds on a mother's natural intuition.' Bethany stated she was doing her best but also doing a lot of things wrong as a mom- and couldn't figure out why. So she went on a deep-dive journey into exploring the science of attachment, in particular Mary Ainsworth and The Strange Situation. Bethany's exploration into the science of attachment led her to the conclusion that behaviors have actually very little to do with attachment. There isn't a checklist. Raising a child with secure attachment isn't about breastfeeding or co-sleeping. It has to do with how you think and feel about your attachments and how this is transmitted from mind to mind, generation to generation. I can't wait to hear what you think about this interview with Bethany!!!You can find Bethany on instagram @Bethany_Saltman or on her website at www.BethanySaltman.com. Grab her book Strange Situation wherever books are sold but try to get it from your local bookstore ;) Don't forget to subscribe to Parenting after Trauma with Robyn Gobbel!Then head over to my website and get the free, 45 minute masterclass What Behavior Really Is and How to Change It at www.RobynGobbel.com/masterclassWhile you're there, be sure to put your name on the waiting list for The Club- a virtual community of connection and co-regulation for parents of kids impacted by trauma (and the professionals who support them). We welcome new members approximately every three months!**********There are so many benefits (and no drawbacks!) to teaching kids and teens about the brain. I'll give you simple, fun ways to Teach Kids about their Awesome Brain. This 1.5 hour webinar airs live on Wed Oct 20. Everyone who registers will receive the recording so you don't have to attend live! CLICK HERE.
Karen continues her eight part series of four interviews exploring the roots and history attachment theory. In today's episode, she begins her second interview by welcoming author Bethany Saltman back to the show for an in-depth conversation on Mary Ainsworth's contributions to attachment theory, particularly her strange situation procedure.
Karen continues her eight part series of four interviews exploring the roots and history attachment theory. In today's episode, she begins her second interview by welcoming author Bethany Saltman back to the show for an in-depth conversation on Mary Ainsworth's contributions to attachment theory, particularly her strange situation procedure. Part two will be released on Tuesday, May 25th.
Join resident sleep expert Amanda Jewson as she talks with Bethany Saltman, an author, editor and researcher, whose work can be seen in magazines like the New Yorker, New York Magazine, Atlantic Monthly, Parents, and many others. Her first book, Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey Into the Science of Attachment, published in April, 2020 by Random House, was inspired by the birth of her daughter in 2006, who although she loved dearly, she (like so many of us) feared she was failing. So she spent ten years teaching herself the science of attachment, traveling to labs, trainings, and archives, trying to discover what kind of mother she really was. https://www.bethanysaltman.com/Strange Situation — Bethany Saltman
Join resident sleep expert Amanda Jewson as she talks with Bethany Saltman, an author, editor and researcher, whose work can be seen in magazines like the New Yorker, New York Magazine, Atlantic Monthly, Parents, and many others. Her first book, Strange Situation: A Mother’s Journey Into the Science of Attachment, published in April, 2020 by Random House, was inspired by the birth of her daughter in 2006, who although she loved dearly, she (like so many of us) feared she was failing. So she spent ten years teaching herself the science of attachment, traveling to labs, trainings, and archives, trying to discover what kind of mother she really was. https://www.bethanysaltman.com/Strange Situation — Bethany Saltman
Revisiting The Science of Attachment with Bethany Saltman Bethany Saltman, author of, "Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey into the Science of Attachment," introduces us to the Strange Situation Procedure developed in the 1970's as a way to observe the attachment styles of children between the ages of 9-18months. In one stage of the procedure the mother, or primary caregiver, and a stranger sit in a room with the child, and then mother leaves the room. The way the child reacts to the mother's leaving and her return is carefully observed and information about the attachment bond is categorized into an attachment style. This procedure revolutionized the understanding of child and adult psychology specifically in relationships and bonding. Join us as we discover how knowing about your attachment style provides a clue as to how you manage the stresses of relationships and parenting as an adult. Knowing this, you can start healing relationship wounds and foster secure relationships with your children and loved ones. ------------------------For more information and to contact Bethany Saltman go to:www.bethanysaltman.comFor more information or support contact Kevin or Niseema at info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orgwww.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxBreak Music: Geoff BradyEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyProducer/ Research: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com
Bethany Saltman’s fascinating new book “Strange Situation: A Mother’s Journey into the Science of Attachment” recounts her personal, 10-year journey investigating the scientific theory of attachment. As a new mother, Bethany was afraid she simply “wasn’t enough” for her baby. Eventually, through intensive research and self-examination, she realized that everything she had read and thought she knew about secure attachment was wrong. Her message to parents is: “Get connected to your own heart, and bring your kid along for the ride.” Thanks again to Helix Sleep for sponsoring this episode. Go to www.HelixSleep.com/respect and receive up to $200 off your custom mattress order. For more advice on common parenting issues, please check out Janet's best-selling books on Audible, FREE with a 30-day trial membership if you use this link: adbl.co/2OBVztZ. Paperbacks and e-books are also available at Amazon, Google Play, Barnes & Noble and Apple Books. Janet's exclusive audio series "Sessions" is available for download. This is a collection of recorded one-on-one consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (www.SessionsAudio.com)
Join Rachael and Bethany Saltman, researcher and author of The Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey into the Science of Attachment, as they discuss how to find "delight" in your motherhood journey (even if that means chicken nuggets and Real Housewives) and what really matters when forming secure attachments with our babies (hint: you don't have to breastfeed or cosleep). Bethany's Website and BlogRegister for the Secret Teachings GroupFollow on IG @bethany_saltmanFollow on Twitter @BethanySaltmanBuy the Book! Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey into the Science of Attachment
When her baby daughter Azalea arrived, writer Bethany Saltman loved her dearly but was blindsided by accompanying feelings of resentment. She became concerned that her own childhood had left her unable to bond properly with her baby. So began her deep dive into the science of attachment.
Connection is key to good mental health. The ability to connect in relationships of all kinds is what will support us getting through this time of social isolation and distance. Kevin and Niseema review some of the key concepts that lead to feeling greater connection shared with us by our most recents guests, Bethany Saltman, Author of "Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey Through the Science of Attachment", Charley Wininger LMHC, author of "Listening to Ecstasy: The Transformative Power of MDMA" and Dr. Warren Farrell author of "The Boy Crisis". We also share listener questions and responses to the guests on our show the past few weeks. ________________For more information or support contact Kevin or Niseema at info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orgwww.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyProducer/ Research: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com
Bethany Saltman returns to our show to go a little deeper into the science of Attachment Theory and how it impacts adults navigating relationships. She also introduces some simple techniques to start to heal the attachment wounds that often keeps people from having the relationships they want and need. Our discussion about her book, Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey into the Science of Attachment, also covers how the understandings gained from the Strange Situation Protocol are being introduced to caregivers in typically underserved communities to help build relational resilience from the beginning of life. ______________________________For more information and to contact Bethany Saltman go to:www.bethanysaltman.comFor more information or support contact Kevin or Niseema at info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orgwww.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyProducer/ Research: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com
In part one of their conversation with Bethany Saltman mother, author and journalist, Kevin and Niseema get into the details about attachment theory and how to understand the implications revealed in the Strange Situation Procedure created by Mary Ainsworth in the 1950's. Bethany Salzman's most recent book Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey Into The Science of Attachment was named one of the best science books of 2020 by The New Scientist and seeks to normalize the parenting experience by sharing her own experiences and understandings thought the lens of the Strange Situation. For more information and to contact Bethany Saltman go to:www.bethanysaltman.comFor more information or support contact Kevin or Niseema at info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orgwww.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyProducer/ Research: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com
We continue our discussion from last week’s podcast with my wife Ellen on attachment dynamics. This week, writer Bethany Saltman, author of a "Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey into the Science of Attachment” breaks down her own experience with attachment after diving head first in the research. If you are unsure if you are “secure” or “insecure” and how that might impact your adult partnership or future family, you’ll want to check this out. Shownotes: 3:25 Introduction Bethany Saltman 9:45 Bowlby & Ainsworth’s Attachment Theory 21:30 Bethany’s relationship with her daughter 27:00 Understanding attachment theory to improve parenting 32:40 Teenagers' bad behavior 35:50 Thoughtful and deeper relationships through attachment theory 47:35 Action step
If you've ever wondered what kind of a parent you are, and whether your kids are going to wind up spending the equivalent of a college degree in therapy (or maybe they already have), I think you'll be grateful for my conversation with Bethany Saltman. Her journey as a mom and her book Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey into the Science of Attachment is a gift to every parent, who like me, has been bombarded by well-intended advice about how to be the best parent in the world. In some ways Bethany is just an average mom. But she's also a mom that—for much of her life—questioned if her mom ever loved her and in turn, questioned a lot about her own parenting. Bethany's a writer, and she became obsessed with a woman named Mary Ainsworth. Really obsessed. Mary Ainsworth was a pioneer in the psychology of child development—she died in 1999. And she came up with a procedure to systematically study how attached a child is to his or her caregiver. This is in the 1960s. Now terms like “secure attached,” "anxious attached," "avoidant attached," are tossed around pretty commonly if you eavesdrop into consultations with child psychologists and counselors. And the key to this diagnostic label is that attachment is, bar-none, the most researched area of psychology. It is bedrock. And it predicts mental illness and stability in adulthood. According to Saltman, “Attachment is if you can receive your child when the child asks you, in a time of stress. And the way that we are able to do that is that we need to be able to receive ourselves.” It's so refreshing to hear Bethany tell us we don't have to be perfect parents to the best parents for our children and I hope you'll share it with moms and dads and grandparents and anyone that might ever consider being a parent. Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SoulOfLifeShow or Twitter: https://twitter.com/SoulofLifeShow Want to book Keith as a guest on your podcast? Contact him at keith@souloflifeshow.com. ***7-Week Stress Reduction & Relationship Growth Course*** If you and your significant other are looking for ways to improve communication and strengthen your partnership, there is still time to enroll in my upcoming live 7-Week Mindfulness and IFS course, called Mindful Marriage. Partners of any kind are welcome. It's a one-of-a-kind offering that can truly transform how you show up in intimacy. For more information visit: https://community.souloflifeshow.com/
Bethany Saltman is an author, zen-practitioner, writing coach, and a mother. In this episode, I had the pleasure of talking to her about her new book: Strange Situation - A Mother's Journey into the Science of Attachment. In this wonderful tale of becoming a parent, Bethany tells her own story, as well as that of Mary Ainsworth, who is responsible for the vast research of the Attachment Theory as we know it. Together, we discuss her own story of becoming a mom and moving from feeling ashamed and guilty into a more present and accepting place, the difference between "attachment parenting" and the real attachment theory, and more.*** WIN A FREE COPY OF THE BOOK ***Join my free Facebook group today to be eligible to win a free copy of "Strange Situation". The winner will be chosen on October 10th, 2020, so be sure to be a member before that time. Invite your friends for an even better chance of winning the book. All the details are in the group.Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/my/profile)
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What Bethany Shares: Bethany discusses her new book, “Strange Situation”, and why understanding attachment is so helpful Her personal journey as a mother and the re-evaluation and renegotiation of her own narrative Bethany gives her thoughts on modern attachment parenting What You’ll Hear: Bethany tells us about her book, “Strange Situation: A Mother’s Journey into the Science of Attachment” The difference between research and me-search Classical Attachment and Modern Attachment Styles Bethany’s journey of renegotiating her past and her narrative through the lens of Mary Ainsworth’s research and writings The power of leaving your kids alone Attachment parenting Dr. Sears is public enemy #1 Reflective functioning/ mentalization The struggle to understand the world as a third being when raising your child How being your best and worst self can ultimately benefit your child The secret window of time Being comfortable is key to comforting your child Why attachment is nothing to be afraid of, because we can always move ourselves into more security Summary: Bethany Saltman joins the Magamama podcast once again, this time to discuss her new book “Strange Situation: A Mother’s Journey into the Science of Attachment. We talk about how insecurities can devastate your ability to function as an independent adult, and Bethany shares her own story of how she’s overcome these difficulties. Bio: Bethany Saltman humbly describes herself as a long-time Zen student who lives in a small town in the Catskills with her husband, daughter, and two dogs. Moreover, she is a renowned author, researcher, and editor whose work can be found in publications such as New Yorker, New York Magazine, Atlantic Monthly, Parents. Bethany has spent years studying the many emotions we feel that make us human. Amongst those emotions, attachment is one that stuck with Bethany, leading her to write her first book “Strange Situation: A Mother’s Journey into the Science of Attachment”. Resources: https://www.bethanysaltman.com/strange-situation Twitter - @BethanySaltman
Betheny Saltman, author of “Strange Situation: A Mother’s Journey Into The Science of Attachement”.joins this episode for a conversation about the science of attachment, and the personal journey we go through as we come to understand our own attachment patterns and experiences with motherhood. www.oseamalibu.com/raisinggoodhumans for $10 off your first purchase of $50 or more! www.buffy.co with code HUMANS for $20 off your Buffy comforter. www.rocketsofawesome.com/HUMANS for 20% off your first box https://www.amazon.com/Strange-Situation-Mothers-Journey-Attachment/dp/039918144X Produced by Dear Media
SHOW NOTES Join the Sunshine Parenting PATREON squad for bonus perks, including bonus podcast episodes and exclusive posts and resources! Join Audrey's email subscriber community for resources and ideas for happier, more connected families. Bethany Saltman, this week's guest, is the author of Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey into the Science of Attachment. Bethany is an author, award-winning editor, and researcher. Her work has been in The New Yorker, New York Magazine, Atlantic Monthly, Parents, and many other publications. Bethany also works as a best-selling book coach, a communications director, and an in-demand mindfulness mentor, consulting writers and entrepreneurs at all stages of their creative process. She helps her clients envision and execute projects, from book proposals to content development and messaging to Big Ideas, and more. A longtime student of Zen, Bethany is devoted to the fine art and game-changing effects of paying attention. She lives in a small town in the Catskills with her family. BIG IDEAS • Being a Zen (or Buddhist) parent • How to come to terms with who we are as a person and as a parent. • Steps for being in the moment with our kids and returning to ourselves. • How meditation (noticing the thought, let it go, return to your breath/body, return to your intention to be a kind and attuned parent) LINKS & RESOURCES • Where to connect with and find out more about Bethany and her work: Website Instagram Twitter LinkedIn • Bethany's Flowers Fall: Field Notes from a Buddhist Mom’s Experimental Life column (Chronogram Magazine) • Dr. Dan Siegel • Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D. • The AAI (Adult Attachment Interview) QUOTES • Bethany: "I learned that secure attachment is not what I thought it was, and it's much bigger, it's much more forgiving, it's really much more empowering than Dr. Sears would ever have you think." • Bethany: "That's the beautiful thing about this work is that it really directs us so much deeper than those superficial feelings." • Bethany: "It's a very primitive orientation towards security and towards safety." • Bethany: "Just let anything happen and stop talking. In time, your senses will return and you'll come back to yourself." IF YOU ENJOYED THIS EPISODE, YOU MIGHT ALSO LIKE... Ep. 121: The Power of Showing Up with Dr. Tina Payne Bryson Ep: 136: Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D. on Showing Up for our Kids During COVID-19 Ep. 103: How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t with Your Kids Good Things Come to Those Who Breathe Ep. 97: Parenting the Challenging Child Ep. 151: Dealing with Uncertainty & Building Resilience with Dr. Nicole Beurkens ONE SIMPLE THING This week's One Simple Thing is one of the "Sticky Note Solutions" from Happy Campers: 9 Summer Camp Secrets for Raising Kids Who Become Thriving Adults. MY FAVORITE Half Time: Moving from Success to Significance by Bob Buford SUBSCRIBE TO SUNSHINE PARENTING THANKS FOR LISTENING! If you enjoyed this episode and know of others who would be encouraged by the ideas, please share! Leave a review for the Sunshine Parenting Podcast on iTunes! Reviews are very important for helping podcasts find their audiences, and I would love your support in helping people find Sunshine Parenting! Would you like to have access to bonus posts and podcast episodes and be part of my next book? Join me as a supporter on Patreon! Audrey
People are profoundly bad at predicting their own attachment status, and if you are trying to do that you are headed in the right direction. :) That sort of mindful inquiry is part of attachment security - learn more in today's episode. Bethany Saltman and Sue Marriott discuss the Strange Situation, the original attachment research by Mary Ainsworth. They bring to life what it means and how to see it in everyday life.
People are profoundly bad at predicting their own attachment status, and if you are trying to do that you are headed in the right direction. :) That sort of mindful inquiry is part of attachment security - learn more in today's episode. Bethany Saltman and Sue Marriott discuss the Strange Situation, the original attachment research by Mary Ainsworth. They bring to life what it means and how to see it in everyday life.
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Karen welcomes author Bethany Saltman to the show as they wrap up their discussion of how Bethany, a mother with no formal training or education in the attachment arena, began down the path of researching attachment theory. Bethany Saltman is an author, award-winning editor, and researcher. Her work can be seen in magazines like the New Yorker, New York Magazine, Atlantic Monthly, Parents, Town & Country, and many others. Strange Situation: A Mother’s Journey Into the Science of Attachment (Ballantine, April 21, 2020) is her first book. Bethany also serves as a bestselling book partner and in-demand mindfulness mentor, helping writers and entrepreneurs at all stages of the creative process envision and execute their projects, including book proposals, books, content development, big ideas, messaging, and more. In 1992, Bethany graduated from Antioch College where she was one of the architects of the nation’s first Affirmative Consent Policy. She went on to receive her M.F.A in poetry from Brooklyn College in 1994, where she studied with Allen Ginsberg. A longtime Zen student, Bethany is devoted to the fine art and game-changing effects of paying attention. She lives in a small town in the Catskills with her family.
Karen welcomes author Bethany Saltman to the show for part one of their discussion of how Bethany, a mother with no formal training or education in the attachment arena, began down the path of researching attachment theory. Part 2 will be released on Tuesday, August 18th. Bethany Saltman is an author, award-winning editor, and researcher. Her work can be seen in magazines like the New Yorker, New York Magazine, Atlantic Monthly, Parents, Town & Country, and many others. Strange Situation: A Mother’s Journey Into the Science of Attachment (Ballantine, April 21, 2020) is her first book. Bethany also serves as a bestselling book partner and in-demand mindfulness mentor, helping writers and entrepreneurs at all stages of the creative process envision and execute their projects, including book proposals, books, content development, big ideas, messaging, and more. In 1992, Bethany graduated from Antioch College where she was one of the architects of the nation’s first Affirmative Consent Policy. She went on to receive her M.F.A in poetry from Brooklyn College in 1994, where she studied with Allen Ginsberg. A longtime Zen student, Bethany is devoted to the fine art and game-changing effects of paying attention. She lives in a small town in the Catskills with her family.
For episode 127 of the Metta Hour, Sharon chats with Bethany Saltman about her new book, Strange Situation.Bethany is an author, award-winning editor, and researcher. Her work can be seen in magazines like the New Yorker, New York Magazine, Atlantic Monthly, Parents, Town & Country, and many others. Her first book, “Strange Situation: A Mother’s Journey Into the Science of Attachment” was just released in April of 2020. In this conversation, Bethany and Sharon discuss attachment theory in the Buddhist perspective, and how it can serve as the ground for tuning into life in a softer and fuller way. To close the conversation, Bethany leads a short Zazen meditation practice.
Bethany Saltman is the author of Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey into the Science of Attachment. She's also an award-winning editor and researcher. Her work can be seen in publications like The New Yorker, New York magazine, Atlantic Monthly, Parents and many others. Strange Situation is a beautiful memoir of Bethany's 10-year journey researching and exploring the science of attachment. The science is fascinating but I really loved that this was a coming-of-age story about motherhood that explored her own upbringing to who she became as a parent. We talked about expectations about what motherhood "should" feel like, Bethany's Buddhist practice, growing up in a 1970's household of "benign parental neglect," and unpacking the heavy things she was carrying from her childhood in order to be the parent she envisioned for her daughter.
“If we accept where we are, then we can actually manage our neurosis and we can be kinder, we can be more attuned, we can be better parents, and we can be better parents to ourselves.” ~Bethany Saltman Our host Sarah Buino welcomes author Bethany Saltman to share the lessons she learned while writing Strange Situation: A Mother’s Journey Into The Science Of Attachment. Bethany and Sarah explore the different roles that curiosity, delight, anxiety, shame, and acceptance play when looking at parent-child attachment, and ultimately one’s connection to themselves. Bethany’s journey of researching and ultimately writing about attachment theory began when she became a mother. Motherhood can unleash a wide-range of emotions for many new mothers. For Bethany, she was surprised by the duality of feeling an unwavering maternal love for her new baby, while also experiencing strong resentment, anger, and pain in motherhood. After jumping at the opportunity to write a column for a local magazine about being a Buddhist mother, she embarked on a 10-year quest to understand her struggles. This led Bethany to delve into the world of attachment theory - one of the cornerstones of the NeuroAffective Relational Model (NARM) in addressing Complex Trauma. Her research on attachment led her to the works of the late Mary Ainsworth, a developmental psychologist and attachment researcher. In the 1970s, Ainsworth devised a study to observe attachment between children and their caregivers. Dubbed the ‘Strange Situation’, the study is, as Bethany describes it, an elegant formulation of how attachment systems work. Sarah and Bethany discuss the connection between Ainsworth’s Strange Situation narrative and NARM’s core teachings about attachment, relational, and developmental trauma. NARM therapy supports the connection within a person to themselves, which in turn allows for deeper connection to others. Bethany, who shares openly that she is a client of NARM Therapy, reports her embodied learning that “the other side of shame is radical acceptance.” This honest and moving conversation weaves together exploration of self-inquiry, self-love, and how to take a second look at shame in order to heal from developmental trauma. Bethany Saltman is an author, award-winning editor, and researcher. Her work can be seen in magazines like the New Yorker, New York Magazine, Atlantic Monthly, Parents, and many others. Strange Situation: A Mother’s Journey Into the Science of Attachment, published in April 2020 by Random House, is her first book. CONNECT WITH BETHANY Bethany Saltman LinkedIn Twitter Instagram Strange Situation Book RESOURCES MENTIONED NeuroAffective Relational Model (NARM) Peter Levine, PhD William Sears, MD Mary Ainsworth, PhD Mary Main, PhD Howard Steele, PhD & Miriam Steele, PhD Dan Siegel, PhD *** Secure your spot today. NARM Online Basics Training begins on June 26, 2020 REGISTER NOW Online NARM Basics Training: http://www.narmtraining.com/onlinebasics *** NARM Training Institute http://www.NARMtraining.com *** The NARM Training Institute provides tools for transforming complex trauma through: in-person and online trainings for mental health care professionals; in-person and online workshops on complex trauma and how it interplays with areas like addiction, parenting, and cultural trauma; an online self-paced learning program, the NARM Inner Circle; and other trauma-informed learning resources. For the full show notes including references, podcast episodes mentioned, and a quick glossary of terms, visit us at http://www.narmtraining.com/transformingtrauma *** We want to connect with you! Facebook @NARMtraining Twitter @NARMtraining YouTube Instagram @thenarmtraininginstitute
Today Dr. Dan welcomes author Bethany Saltman to discuss her new book STRANGE SITUATION: A Mother’s Journey into the Science of Attachment. Her fascinating discussion with Dr. Dan about parenting, attachment, love, and the current pandemic is riveting and revealing. In her 2016 New York Magazine feature that went viral, writer Bethany Saltman asked: “Can Attachment Theory Explain All Our Relationships?”. She wrote about how surprised she was by her anger and frustration as a new mother, and her desire to find out what attachment (or a lack of secure attachment) might have to do with it all, ultimately discovering that attachment isn’t a checklist of behaviors developed by physical closeness but the product of secure relationships from one’s own past. While attachment science describes how we relate to others, it also shows us how truly entwined the success of our relationships is with our deepest sense of who we are. Bethany’s book STRANGE SITUATION grew out of this article; the book is a memoir hinging on science, biography, psychology and spiritual practice, and an indirect look at parenting, and how we are all interconnected by the feelings of attachment, but not by what experts and others typically suggest, or by co-sleeping or baby slings but instead. Dr. Dan and Bethany unravel what attachment is and how it happens. The good news: the actual science of attachment makes it clear: every single one of us is attached, though some more securely than others. Dr. Dan and Bethany agree that who we are -- and our own self-awareness -- is enough for attachment. “At the heart of the attachment system is a primitive kind of call and response that keeps the species alive.” And that’s what we all do—keep our kids alive, even those of us who work outside the home and supplement with formula. Bethany’s book shifts paradigms by demonstrating that from an attachment point of view, self-awareness is other-awareness. Self-care is childcare and therefore we’re all attachment parents. There’s no other kind. Dr. Dan and Bethany also explain and explore: Being “Attachment Aware” Shame and Guilt Self-Care Adult Attachment Experts (Mary Aisnworth) Myths (Dr. Sears) Delight as the “North Star” Bethany’s Parent Footprint Moment In addition to being an author, Bethany Saltman is also an award-winning editor, mindfulness mentor, and researcher. Her work has appeared in magazines including the New Yorker, New York Magazine, Atlantic Monthly, Parents, and many others. Bethany graduated from Antioch College where she was one of the architects of the nation’s first Affirmative Consent Policy. She went on to receive her M.F.A in poetry from Brooklyn College, where she studied with Allen Ginsberg. A longtime Zen student, Bethany is devoted to the fine art and game-changing effects of paying attention. She lives in a small town in the Catskills with her family. For more information: visit https://www.bethanysaltman.com/ Watch this free video to learn more about Dr. Dan and Parent Footprint Awareness Training®.
When her baby daughter Azalea arrived, writer Bethany Saltman loved her dearly but was blindsided by accompanying feelings of resentment. She became concerned that her own childhood had left her unable to bond properly with her baby. So began her deep dive into the science of attachment.
S5 E27: In this episode, meet Bethany Saltman, Sarah Menkedick, and Kelsey Patel. In each of these authors’ audiobooks, they guide listeners through tricky life moments, whether it’s the anxiety of new motherhood or struggling with personal burnout. Discover what each woman learned about herself in their respective recording sessions -- and hear which author listens to audiobooks to help her get through 10 mile runs. Strange Situation by Bethany Saltman: https://www.penguinrandomhouseaudio.com/book/553712/strange-situation/ Ordinary Insanity by Sarah Menkedick: https://www.penguinrandomhouseaudio.com/book/589989/ordinary-insanity/ Burning Bright by Kelsey J. Patel: https://www.penguinrandomhouseaudio.com/book/622572/burning-bright/
What’s your attachment history and pattern? And how can your first relationship with your mother or father impact how you feel about yourself, your romantic and sexual partner/s, and Strange and stressful situations. Bethany Saltman, author of Strange Situation, talks to us about intimacy, fear, connection, and the female scientist who changed everything. Connect with Bethany:Website - https://www.bethanysaltman.com/Twitter - https://bit.ly/3eOBgXk Buy Bethany's new book Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey into the Science of Attachmenthttps://www.amazon.com/Strange-Situation-Mothers-Journey-Attachment/dp/039918144X Connect with Wednesday Martin:Website | http://wednesdaymartin.com/Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/wednesdaymartinphd/Twitter | https://twitter.com/WednesdayMartinFacebook | https://www.facebook.com/wednesdaymartinphd/YouTube | https://bit.ly/2zfvv1H Check out Wednesday Martin’s new book Untrue |http://wednesdaymartin.com/books/untrue/ Connect with Whitney Miller:Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/whitnlove/?hl=enFacebook | https://www.facebook.com/Miss2Jits/Twitter | https://twitter.com/whitnlove Subscribe on iTunes https://apple.co/2XKfS0bSpotify | https://spoti.fi/2JPxuhnStitcher | https://bit.ly/2xYNQz0 Google Play Music | bit.ly/30nJwWAIHeartRadio | https://ihr.fm/2NooEuw
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Bethany Saltman drafted the nation's first "affirmative consent" policy at Antioch College in the 90s. That means she's been having the #metoo conversion and talking about the politics of pleasure for a good long time. She is now at work on a book about attachment- rejecting or revising the work that has been popularized and categorized as "attachment styles." Recorded right before the Kavanagh confirmation, we talk about the behavior during the hearings- body language and attachment style.
In a case that highlights the economic consequences of sexual harassment and retaliation, Ashley Judd is suing Harvey Weinstein for the damage he did to her career after she rebuffed his advances. And in the second part of the episode, three women who pioneered the language of consent reflect on being far ahead of their time on the politics of sex. Guests: Jodi Kantor, an investigative reporter at The New York Times; Juliet Brown, Christelle Evans and Bethany Saltman, who helped to establish an affirmative consent policy for sex at Antioch College in 1990. For more information on today’s episode, visit nytimes.com/thedaily.
On this week's MD for Moms, Dr Carly Snyder and writer Bethany Saltman discuss Attachment Theory, the topic of her forthcoming book: what it is, how it develops in infants and children, and why the theory suggests parents should lighten up rather than strive for perfection.
On this week's MD for Moms, Dr Carly Snyder and writer Bethany Saltman discuss Attachment Theory, the topic of her forthcoming book: what it is, how it develops in infants and children, and why the theory suggests parents should lighten up rather than strive for perfection.
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