Engaging Voices Podcast

Effective follow up starts in the conversation that you have when you meet that person. When we have these very surface level, superficial conversations, it's hard to follow up. - Julie Brown Meet Julie Brown, Networking Expert & Author Julie is a motivating, high energy speaker, teaching the importance of networking, and why you are your best business development tool. Julie has been invited to speak on the power of networking and relationship building by numerous conference organizations and private companies across the country. She is the Author of This Shit Works: A No-Nonsense Guide to Networking Your Way to More Friends, More Adventures, and More Success, a book dedicated to making networking easy, accessible and fun, as well as the host of This Sh!t Works a podcast dedicated to all things business development. Julie's advice strikes the perfect balance of humor and expertise gained from more than 20 years of networking experience. Julie shows you everyone at any stage of their career that you can unapologetically be who you are authentically and still be WILDLY successful.   Connect with Julie This Sh!t Works Podcast Julie's Website Julie on Instagram Connect with Stacey Shed The Formality Podcast Stacey's Website Stacey's Newsletter Show Notes What Julie wanted to be when she grew up and how that plays out today (1:48) How Julie became a networking expert (5:30) The importance of tapping into the network of others (9:36) The ideal size of your network and how to maintain it (11:30) What happens when people don't appreciate your energy (21:30) Insights on creating content in your true voice (25:30) How Julie defines networking (31:07) On putting a swear word in the title of her book/podcast (34:11) Tips on effective follow up (39:49) "It's not my job to be for everyone. My job is to be exactly who I am for the people who think I'm the kind of person they need." - Julie Brown

I don't think we should comment, ever, on what someone else is wearing. - Ginger Burr Meet Ginger Burr, Owner Total Image Consultants Creating a wardrobe and personal style you love begins with a longing for ease and beauty (your definition of beauty) every time you get dressed. Ginger Burr started Total Image Consultants with the heartfelt belief that whether you are 25 or 85, you deserve to feel radiant and pulled-together every time you get dressed. Her work has reached women from all walks of life who long to connect with their inner essence to create a wardrobe they love. She is the author of the book, That's So You! Create a look you love with beauty, style and grace and has been interviewed by Allure Magazine, Worth Magazine, Forbes Magazine and Bloomberg Business Week. Style is all about what makes you feel the most empowered. If people say things, you're either gonna think it's kind of funny, or it's just gonna roll off of you. And if it doesn't, then maybe you're not fully expressing who you are in a way that is right for you. - Ginger Burr Connect with Ginger Burr Free offer: "How to Stop Wasting Money on Things You Never Wear" - https://totalimageconsultants.com/subscribe Facebook Free Facebook group LinkedIn YouTube Instagram Connect with Stacey Shipman LinkedIn Instagram Website Show Notes What Ginger wanted to be when she grew up and how that plays out today (:30) How Ginger became an image consultant (3:32) Ginger's personal image story and how she found her style (7:07) Finding clothes that work for YOU (16:32) "Formalities" Ginger sees in clients that keep them from expressing who they are through style (21:13) What Ginger loves about her work (34:00)

When we hide parts of ourselves, whether it's our age, disability, race, gender, or orientation, it takes a lot of work and effort. And now it just feels like that weight is mostly lifted off my shoulders. - Sarah Scala Meet Sarah Scala, Leadership Coach & Consultant Sarah Scala is a sought after speaker and coach supporting the unique needs within the LGBTQ+ community. She is a high-energy senior talent management leader focused on increasing client revenue, reducing turnover, and creating business value through executive coaching, organization development, public speaking, and change management. Sarah lives with her partner, Holly, in Boston, MA.   Check out Sarah's first podcast appearance here. Connect with Sarah Sarah Scala Consulting LinkedIn Connect with Stacey Shipman Engage The Room – A formality-free approach to speaking & interpersonal communication LinkedIn Show Notes Coming out as an LGBTQ+ business (:59) Challenges, pushback and personal benefits of coming out as an LGBTQ+ business (5:58) The importance of creating safety - psychological, online, at work - in order to come out (12:04) The opportunities that have opened up for Sarah as a result of coming out as an LGBTQ business (30:00) How can other leaders or organizations create safe and inclusive spaces for folks to come out as LGBTQ+? (34:39) The importance of growth and taking risks (36:53) Resources mentioned https://hbr.org/2021/09/how-to-talk-about-pronouns-at-work-a-visual-guide What makes LGBTQ+ Executive / Leadership Coaching different?

People think that something's different in email, and I'm like ‘no it's a communication between you, a human, and another human. And all of the same good relationship things apply. - Shelly Davies Meet Shelly Davies, Writing Trainer, New Zealand Shelly does words!!! If you need to use words to transmit information and you want to do it quickly and effectively, she's your girl. But boy, those engineers and government departments don't realise what they're going to get once Shelly's in the room. What they get is a lot of UNTRAINING – undoing all of the bad habits they picked up at university and through their careers. With hashtags like #writelikeahuman and #authenticitywins, Shelly encourages research-based approaches to writing in more authentic ways, with a natural voice that increases confidence and trust. Shelly is also the founder and creator of The School of Unprofessional Writing, online writing courses for individuals who want to write better. Shelly is living a dream she didn't know she had – helping people live more fully, more authentically, and more in their truth. She does this with a lot of laughs, her traditional Māori chin tattoo, and a fair amount of curse words sprinkled liberally through everything she does, even her website. One of her goals in life is to support women. Women in business, women in life, women in their own skins. Because we are enough. Connect with Shelly LinkedIn Shelly Davies Website School of Unprofessional Writing Connect with Stacey Shipman Engage The Room - A formality-free approach to speaking & interpersonal communication LinkedIn Show Notes   “If you want to eat steak you don't ask a vegan for permission…who's permission do I need? Just mine.” What Shelly wanted to be when she grew up and how it plays out today (1:30) How she became a plain language writer (3:50) Biggest formality Shelly had to shed to create her brand (6:10) Shelly's catalyst for creating a stand out “rock star” brand and overcoming people pleasing (13:00) Shelly's chin tattoo as an expression of her full identity (20:00) Swearing and shedding formalities and being true to who you are at work because we're human to human (26:20) Let's talk about the importance of Plain language writing - it's still about relationships! (35:00) Why we're robotic in our writing (45:00) Shelly's Quick Tips: How to get into your natural writing voice Speak out loud Turn your writer switch off and start reading Empathy Now I get to show up with what I've always known to be true on the inside visible on the outside and that feels powerful to me. - Shelly Davies

Don't get discouraged because you are different and don't get discouraged because your idea doesn't fit the mold that your industry has set out for you.” - Girija Patel Meet Girija Patel, GBP Law Girija is a lawyer, a mom, a wife, podcaster, educator, and a business owner in Houston, Texas. Her law practice, GBP Law, specifically focuses on helping creative entrepreneurs and on-line business owners build their business' legal fundamentals so they can move forward confidently and do what they love! Her goal is to help make legal a line item and not a panic attack. In 2020, Girija launched Your Contract Buddy (www.yourcontractbuddy.com), an online contract template shop, and also founded her podcast, Law Chat with Girija. From her days of being a prosecutor to now managing her own law practice, Girija's core value to serve her community remains at the center of all her endeavors. Connect with Girija Her podcast: Law Chat with Girija Her website: GBP Law Girija on Instagram Connect with Stacey On LinkedIn On Instagram Website Show Notes The importance of reaching out to people to get what you want (:45) What Girija wanted to be when she grew up and how that plays out today (4:00) Moving from formal litigation to more creative law (7:25) Starting City Tattler and Girija' first taste of creativity (21:00) Heart AND mind; pausing is a formality most of us need to shed (25:00) The importance of standing out to get people to pay attention (32:00) What holds creatives back from a legal perspective? (36:30) Final thoughts: shift your perspective about law to protect your business and ideas (43:00)

“There will always be people who want to tell you how to run your business.” - Katie Corbett Meet Katie Corbett - Writer Specializing in Case Studies Katie Corbett is a writer specializing in customer case studies. She is blind, and has used her disability as a jumping off point to shed many formalities to get to where she is today. Please include a longer bio (2 to 3 paragraphs) for use in the podcast post (can be fun and show your personality) Katie Corbett is a writer specializing in customer case studies. She has written for technology companies, coaches of all types, and educational companies. In her free time, Katie enjoys baking, reading fantasy novels, and going on road trips with her husband. She lives in Wisconsin and thinks that cheese should be its own food group. Connect with Katie on LinkedIn.   Show Notes: What Katie wanted to be when she grew up and how that plays out today (1:10) Making the leap from employee to business owner (2:50) Challenges/formalities Katie had to overcome in starting her business including people pleasing, boundary setting, experimentation and perfectionism (6:30) What keeps people from asking for client/customer testimonials (12:45) Questions to ask for a testimonial or case study (14:44) Career Change and how Katie created her business writing case studies (18:00) Why and how customer case studies work for the long term and Katies advice for people who think they can write the case study on their own. (28:30) It's a constant battle to make sure boundaries are set so that I'm not trying to please people who aren't paying me.” - Katie Corbett Connect with Stacey LinkedIn Instagram Newsletter

Every single I've done worth doing in life is because I said yes and figured it out after the fact. - Kim Miles Meet Kim Miles, Event Strategist What do you call a successful businesswoman with a vibrant financial advisory practice, 25+ years of sales experience, a performance background, and serious shoe habit? Kim Miles! A highly sought-after emcee, panel moderator, creative collaborator and event strategist, Kim partners with her clients to deliver critical messaging to their key audiences in fresh, entertaining ways through her company, Miles in Heels Productions. Kim is widely known as a powerhouse problem solver, kick-a** content creator, and hilarious humorist. When not working, Kim's been known to take off her signature heels only to hit the links…that is when she's not singing with her band!   Be sure to check out all things Miles in Heels at: www.milesinheels.com And get social with Kim at: Email: info@milesinheels.com Facebook: Miles in Heels Productions LinkedIn: Miles in Heels Productions Instagram: @kimmilesinheels “There is a difference between bragging and proudly promoting yourself.” - Kim Miles Show Notes: What Kim Wanted to be when she grew up and how that plays out today.  (2:44) From wanting to be on stages and perform to a career as a financial planner (7:45) Creative vs analytical minded and the struggles that come with one vs the other (14:00) Virtual vs in person - it's not the tool, it's you (20:00) Getting past hello, what keeps people from talking to each other and how to know the connection is worth cementing. - (24:00) Networking is 90% listening and 10% talking. 10% of talking better be the best damn weaving in of your ideas and why they should help you and talk to you. Promoting yourself in a male dominated industry and how to stand out and be genuinely you in business (like financial services) (31:00) How Kim takes care of herself and her energy and her commitment to her work (38:00) 

"Tact and empathy are your best friends when delivering negative feedback." - Laura Foley Meet Laura Foley Laura Foley is a communication strategist who works with business owners, speakers, and sales professionals who want their marketing communications to drive business results and close sales. She works with them on presentation development and design, conducts detailed audits of marketing communications, and provides focused skills training to make them more confident communicators. A graduate of the Massachusetts College of Art and Design with a BFA in printmaking and graphic design, Laura has over 25 years' experience in presentation design, marketing, and copywriting. She lives in Central Massachusetts with her husband and two sons. And while she presents as a confident grown-up, Laura has a playful side that she's only too eager to unleash once you get to know her. Connect with Laura Her website On LinkedIn Show notes: What Laura wanted to be when she grew up and how it plays out today. (2:40) The problem STEM folks have with giving presentations (5:30) Laura's biggest communication struggles and how she shed them (7:30) How labels that stifle us and keep us from sharing ourselves and our personality and being more personable  (14:30) The importance of practice to improve presentation skills and drop what's holding you back.  How to be more tactful - personally and professionally. (20:00) So many elements that go into making a presentation work. What is a formality to drop to make your presentations better? (32:55)

“It's impossible to be an expert on everything.  You only have to be one step ahead of people to add value.” - Stacey Shipman Meet Katlynn Pyatt, Host Startup Marketing Podcast Katlynn Pyatt, owner of Authentic Branding & Marketing, is professionally certified in Marketing Management by the American Marketing Association and holds two certifications from Cornell University; one in business strategy, the other in marketing analytics. After twelve years of corporate marketing, she began her own business as a marketing coach for small business and corporate marketing teams to help them be strategic and organized in their marketing efforts. She believes in being brave, not perfect and in community over competition. Katlynn is also the host of the Startup Marketing Podcast.   Follow Katlynn on Instagram!     At the very least you have to be genuine. - Katynn Pyatt Shownotes: What Katlynn wanted to be when she grew up and how it plays out today (2:50) Making the move from corporate to business owner (6:00) On getting out of your own way and feeling comfortable not knowing. (20:15) What is an authentic brand and what keeps people from creating an authentic brand? (24:50) Maintain the core of who you are even when you switch careers or job roles and having an easier time talking about your work. (32:00) Katlynn's best tip for authentic branding (40:00)

You want to get people to think and react. You want to say things that are provocative so you can open people's minds. - Beth Knaus Meet Beth Knaus - Copywriter Beth Knaus is a content writer, workshop leader and owner of That's A Spade Copywriting Services (www.thatsaspade.com). Her initial background is in business and the beauty industry, giving her the ability to get things done and look good doing it. She has been writing since before the millennium was a thing, from teenage angsty poetry to published stories and essays. As a writer she's passionate about writing content that nails her client's voice to the page with candor and confidence so they can stand out from the masses and attract the audience they want to make money serving. Beth is also a Pepperlane networking leader, and an active member at the WeBreathe Wellness Center in Walpole, where she holds creative writing classes. Now partial empty nesters, she lives in Norwood, Ma. with her awesome husband and their chubby spoiled cat. In her free time she likes to read, cook and laugh. A lot. Her personal short stories have been published online and in print. Stacey & Beth talk about... Playing it safe in your writing, sounding the same or standing out (3:10) Writing formalities that keep people stuck in a sea of sameness (8:30) How to deal with the fear of standing out (11:50) Difference between writing an elevator speech (that is spoken) vs written post (may never get spoken) (14:30) Importance of hiring an outside writer to hear what we say over and over again. (18:18) Free writing as a practice (25:50) Honoring our originality vs conforming to what others think (30:00) You think I'm too much for you. But maybe you're not enough for me. - Beth Knaus

It's easy to avoid the hard things by doing the routine things. - Amy Goober About Amy Goober Amy Goober's newest program Drive Your Life ™ helps women put themselves back on the To Do List and get into action. Drive Your Life ™ is a signature talk, small group coaching program, vibrant Facebook group and soon to be published book. Amy's program supports women to get into the driver's seat of their own lives using a unique 5 step process to start moving forward. Women are finding success in so many areas: career, health and wellness, love relationships, parenting, friends and activities. Amy received her B.S. in psychology from Cornell University. She opened The Icing on the Cake, a Boston cake bakery, at 26 in 1986. She has since sold it, but it continues to be one of the top bakeries in the Boston area. As a C.O.P.E. Certified Health Coach, through the Villanova School of Nursing, Amy has helped over 600 clients in her 7 years of health and wellness coaching. She has reached the level of Global Director at Optavia, being one of only 2% of all 35,000 Health Coaches at the company. She leads, supervises and mentors a team of 70 coaches. Amy has moved from bakery founder to stay at home Mom, seasoned health coach, and now founder of her newest program Drive Your Life ™. She speaks on leadership, health and wellness and personal motivation topics. Connect with Amy Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/driveyourlife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amygoober.driveyourlife Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amy-goober-21a36253/ FREE OFFER: Hit The Reset Button 5 Day Dare: https://www.driveyourlife.me/reset.html Stacey & Amy talk about... What Amy wanted to be when she grew up and how it plays out in her work today (2:30) Career transitions: From Secretary to Advertising to Baker to stay at home mom to coach for women  (4:40) Making the shift from promoting a product to a service based on your own ideas & thoughts/Amy Goober. (18:30) Create to create and enjoy a hobby not to always produce. (27:00) Dealing with low motivation, avoiding burn out, and the importance of having the right support system (33:00) Biggest formality Amy had to shed to get to where she is today (43:00) Watch your own behavior. And when you're not doing what you should be doing [for your life or business] try to figure out why. - Amy Goober

"I don't speak at people. I try to speak with people." - Stefano McGhee Meet Stefano McGhee - Community, IT, & Military Leader Stefano McGhee has worked in the Information Technology field for more than 25 years. In addition, he retired from a leadership role in the Military after 21 years of service. In each of these roles, people became the foundation of solving problems. He learned that by getting to know decision-makers on a human level, he was more successful at influencing them. Stefano is committed to boosting the confidence of his teams through constructive feedback while aligning personal & organizational goals. As a result, individuals see how their unique contributions make the organization better. More recently, Stefano received his Private Pilot and Remote Pilot certificates, and is currently working towards his Instrument rating. He imagines becoming an evangelist on aviation, encouraging young adults and mid-career adults to take on the wonder of flight. Connect with Stefano on LinkedIn On this episode Stacey & Stefano talk about: What Stefano wanted to be when he grew up and how that plays out today (5:20) Bringing energy to leadership and getting people on board (12:25) Struggles & challenges with leading with personality (18:25) Doing things your way and putting yourself out there in different settings (25:25) Curiosity and getting others invested in your vision or ideas (35:15) Biggest formality Stefano had to drop to get to where he is today (40:00) Links Mentioned Toastmasters International

A Note From Stacey Shipman Today we have a special episode. In addition to hosting Shed The Formality, I’ve been putting myself out there as a guest on other marketing, entrepreneurship & personal development podcasts. I’m a believer in practicing what I preach and had a recent realization that I’m not putting MY ideas out there as much as I’d like. One way for me to do that more is to guest on other people’s podcasts. It's been a blast. So, today’s episode is a replay of a recent podcast where I sat in the guest seat. The podcast is called The Energy Within and it is hosted by Kerri Jokala, a Reiki Master, Fitness Trainer, singer and overall cool person. Kerri and I connected via a podcast FB group. Kerri is a generous and likable host. So tune in to her podcast, too! I’m sharing this episode here, with Kerri’s permission, because we talk about formalities that hold people back. And in this episode specifically we talk about about the formality of “waiting for permission”.  Permission is a concept that has been coming up a lot in conversations I’m having with colleagues and in my client workshops and networking events. I’ve heard more than once: You gave me permission to… (insert action here - speak up, be more myself, leave a networking conversation, etc.) I even wrote a blog post about permission, you can find that at engagetheroom.com/permission. Connect with Me Connect on Linkedin: https://linkedin.com/in/staceyshipman Follow on Instagram: https://instagram.com/engagetheroom Get her email newsletter: https://mailchi.mp/engagetheroom/newsletter A Note From Kerri Jokala Have you ever felt uncomfortable in a networking situation, or at a party with people you don't know, or even just meeting new people in general? We tend to behave and believe that we need to put on our "professional" persona when we're at work, running our business, etc., and that we can't be the same person we usually are in our daily lives. Stacey Shipman is here to blast all of that thinking away for you. Her mission is to help you shed the formality, and feel more comfortable being yourself in ALL situations. Of course, you can still be professional, especially in situations where you should be, but that doesn't mean pretending to be someone different than who you really are. I LOVE this episode, and my FAVORITE part is our chat about realizing you already have permission to be and do what you want to do with your life. Share this one, tag us, and let us know what YOUR favorite part was! Connect with Kerri Follow on Instagram: https://instagram.com/kerri_jokala Follow on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KerriKER Kerris website: https://kerrijokala.com Remember, the world needs you and your ideas. Keep shining!

I had to shed the belief that in 1 darn hour, if my client wants A, B, C, or D, I had to give it to her. - Laurie Schloff Meet Laurie Schloff, Speech & Communication Coach As a lifelong communication coach, Laurie Schloff helps people achieve outstanding relationships and results through communication. After earning her undergraduate degree in Speech Pathology from Rutgers University, and her graduate degree in the same field from Columbia University, she worked as a clinical instructor at Northeastern University, training graduate students in speech and language pathology before going out on her own. Laurie has a particular interest in adding to human well-being and justice and works with the Anti-Defamation League, Oxfam America, and Room to Grow. Laurie’s expertise, along with her intelligence, warmth, humor and creativity add to communication excellence and outstanding business results. You haven’t earned the right to cut yourself some slack if you haven’t put 2 ounces of thinking into the event, situation or meeting where people NEED your expertise and planning. - Laurie Schloff Connect with Laurie Partners in Communication Laurie's Public Speaking Course On this episode Stacey and Laurie talk about... What Laurie wanted to be when she grew up and how it plays out today (2:15) Her from speech pathology to speech coach/communication (4:45)) Formalities Laurie had to shed to get to where she is today (7:15)) How to adapt to your clients’ needs without losing who you are. (9:40) Importance of setting boundaries, people pleasing, and enough is enough (15:30) Practical communication perspective - what people need to shed to communicate ideas with impact (19:15) Being human, making mistakes, drop perfection, acting vs natural (24:15) Oral image (vocal image), the sound of your voice and why it matters (28:30)

You have to know your workplace, the environment you’re operating in and you need to know yourself. You may not be funny. So if you’re not funny, find someone who is. - Cyn Epler Meet Cyn Epler Raised in suburban Ohio, Cynthia Epler grew up interested in foreign adventures and at 18 years old, boldly crossed the northern border to attend the University of Michigan without a passport. After completing her highly marketable degree in German and French, she purchased a one-way ticket to Austria where she taught English, American history, and US pop culture as part of the Fulbright program until landing a Euro-dot-com job in London. After sufficiently mildewing, she finally traveled to Washington DC where she found the lowest paying job possible working on international democracy development at the International Foundation for Election Systems (IFES). Since joining the Defense Department, Cyn completed six tours in Afghanistan, advised four-star generals, and otherwise found life with the military rewarding work. The hardship tour in Hawaii, where she learned how to surf, didn’t suck either. Based out of Florida since 2011, Cyn enjoys writing humor, torturing her Midwestern friends with how awesome the Sunshine State is, and beaching it with her beloved, fuzzy sidekick Fiona. Fiona and Cyn are available for Bar/Bat Mitzahs, family reunions, and other events, which might result in a Jerry Springer-like mayhem. Connect with Cyn: LinkedIn Instagram On this episode, Stacey & Cyn talk about... What Cyn wanted to be when she grew up and how it plays out today (3:00) Working for the government and department of defense/defense intelligence after 9/11 (6:01) Bringing comedy and humor into her life and work (11:08) The struggle of bringing humor to her job and dealing with serious people (20:08) What to know and look for as an emerging or established leader when using humor at work (24:58) Cyn's current side gig teaching people how to use levity in the work place and how she unlocks the humor muscle in other people (29:00) Biggest formality Cyn had to shed to get to where she is today (35:15)

"I had to integrate who I am with the work I put into the world. - Larissa Haynes Meet Larissa Haynes In 2020 Digital Influence Media named Larissa Haynes the #6 Executive Coach in Boston. A coach and consultant, Larissa understands the landscape of business and what it takes to lead people through growth. She brings the theory and foundation of her MBA, the experience of over 20 years in business, and the practice of 10 years in coaching and consulting to her work. She's worked with over 200 companies and their leaders to help create efficiency and growth at all organizational levels. If you are ready to grow, Larissa is ready for you. Connect with Larissa Quivet Consulting Larissa on LinkedIn Stacey & Larissa talk about... What Larissa wanted to be when she grew up and how that plays out today (1:30) Formalities that kept her from being who she is (5:28) Making a shift from finance to coach (9:00) Separating personal from professional or integrating who you are with the work you do (13:18) Taking up space and allowing others to do the same (16:20) Going back into the corporate as a coach and the sales conversation (25:20) Using LinkedIn to grow your business and make connections. It’s a conversation! (36:30)

It’s the common experiences that link us. Not the stories about climbing Everest. - Michael Davis Meet Michael Davis When you hire a coach, trainer or speaker, do you want someone who has experience and expertise? Michael Davis’s work is focused on helping you attract more clients, create more efficient teams and increase your influence through more effective speaking, business storytelling and online presentations. He helps experienced speakers, entrepreneurs, and sales professionals deliver memorable and meaningful talks of any length, even on short notice. He currently lives in Blue Ash, Ohio with his family, and the overlords of their house, Sky the Super Chihuahua and her underling, Riley the Mini-Chihuahua. Connect with Michael & Speaking CPR Free resources: Free Report: Avoid ZOOM Burnout 52 Storytelling Tips sign up Website and social media links: Michael on LinkedIn YouTube: http://bit.ly/SpeakingCPRYouTube Speaking CPR on Facebook Speaking CPR website On this episode, Stacey and Michael talk about... What Michael wanted to be when he grew up and how that plays out today in his work as a presentation skills coach (1:20) Using Intrinsic Motivation to build speaking skills and becoming a public speaking coach ( 6:45) It is natural for human beings to be afraid of speaking (8:50) Beliefs and behaviors Mike had to drop to feel more comfortable speaking. (12:00) “Don’t fall into the trap of familiarity with your own topic that you forget that most people have no clue what you’re talking about and they need that information.” (14:58) Recording yourself and watch it (If you’re not willing to watch/listen to yourself, why would anyone else watch you (15:44) How to ask for feedback on a speech or presentation (17:50) Importance of putting presentations together (22:14) Public speaking formalities that keep us stiff and stuffy (i.e., gestures, lack of emotion, etc) (26:15) Speaking for free or speaking for fee? (36:00) Importance of having mentors/coaches (40:00) What if people own’t like my style (42:00)

Give yourself permission to experiment, fail and learn. - Scott Stolze Meet Scott Stolze In today's connection economy, nothing matters more than the ability to communicate well and build healthy relationships with those you work with. This is what Scott helps people do. Scott spent 18 years in corporate roles, including several middle management positions, in 2017 he pivoted into coaching and consulting, inspired by the mission to help people in their personal development and in becoming Great Communicators not just once in awhile, but every single day. Download his new Guide: 13 Laws of Communication: How to Communicate Effectively in Today's World Need help communicating better? Reach out to Scott: Scott on LinkedIn By Email: scott (at) teaching2lead (dot) com Stacey & Scott talk about... What Scott wanted to be when he grew up and how it plays out today (2:05) Making the move from asking people about themselves to getting people interested in him (5:25) Transitioning from telling someone else’s story to telling your own (8:25) Is passion overrated? (11:50) Overcoming a fear of public speaking turning the fear into fuel and purpose (17:00) The more you verbalize your thoughts and ideas, the more clear your truth becomes (21:45) Permission to experiment, fail, learn and digging into permission (23:30) Instead of focusing on you, focus on the problem you solve for others (31:10) You can only serve others when you have your own clarity on who you are (34:25) How Scott maintains his wellbeing as a business owner (37:10) The biggest formality Scott had to shed to get to where he is now (42:45)

When you know your values it’s a lot easier to make choices you are happy with. - Julien Fortuit Meet Julien Fortuit, Business & Career Developer When Julien was younger, he knew he wanted to work in luxury goods. So as a student in business school, he found his way into Chanel with a friendly conversation and a pack of Dunhill Light cigarettes. Over the years, Julien transitioned from operational marketing to finance control to high-end distribution to customer experience and business development. His resume is pumped with industrious concepts like “exports,” as well as the delicate work of forming partnerships, throwing events with artists, and building the invisible web of his international network. He's worked all over the UK, Europe, North & Latin America, Japan, and most of Asia. His work as a developer of organizations and careers involves taking stock of what is, so his clients can reach for what could be. All the while pointing to the opportunities right in front of them, so they have no choice but to leap. Connect with Julien Julien Fortuit Agency Find Julien on LinkedIn Follow Julien on Instagram To fill your cup with new stuff, you have to empty your cup [of the old] - Julien Fortuit On this episode Stacey & Julien talk about... What Julien wanted to be when he grew up and how that plays out today (1:25) The formality & creativity of working for a luxury brand (5:45) How having a son and turning 40 shifted his work beliefs (10:20) On starting a coaching business and the formalities he had to shed (15:00) What he kept and what he let go of when moving from Chanel to Coach (23:10) Importance of values in decision-making (26:40) The difference between promoting someone else’s brand vs promoting your own business or ideas (30:00) Biggest formalities Julien needed to shed to start his coaching business and finding a support network (36:14) If you want people to invest in you, you must make an investment in yourself. - Julien Fortuit

You can have a career you love and still get burnout. - Beth Kennedy Meet Beth Kennedy Beth Kennedy brings more than twenty years of experience to her role as a leadership coach, resiliency-training expert, and speaker. With an extensive background in career development, she coaches high-potential individuals on how to use their influence strategically, collaborate effectively, and focus on innovation. Beth has provided coaching and training to Millennium and Takeda since 2006. She is the author of Career ReCharge: Five Strategies to Boost Resilience and Beat Burnout, which continues her mission of recharging individuals in their careers and lives so they have the energy needed for today’s world. Get in touch with Beth Kennedy Website LinkedIn Beth's Book: Career Recharge: Five Strategies to Boost Resilience and Beat Burnout On this episode, Stacey & Beth talk about... What Beth wanted to be when she grew up and how it plays out today (3:05) Beth's journey from teacher to burnout to career coach  (5:45) Being curious about our own energy and attitude, the ripple effect and how she knew it was time to leave teaching (9:40) How she chose career recharge and what she learned from her Dad (13:50) Making the transition from teacher to business owner and finding the right support network (15:10) Formalities Beth had to shed to become the business person she is today (18:35) Owning the fact that you’re in charge and not conforming to clients/others (20:32) People pleasing as a formality that leads to burnout and learning to say no (27:10) Using self-awareness to disrupt status quo Setting boundaries (32:10) Additional signs and symptoms of burnout (33:10) Biggest formality Beth had to shed to get to where she is today (39:20) “Don’t have to be pollyanna positive. But we do have to ask ourselves daily How am I showing up?”

The more I’ve tried to fit in and the less I’ve tried to be myself, the less successful I’ve been. - Julie Beckham Meet Julie Beckham Not everyone thinks personal finance is a topic to sing and dance about but today’s guest, Julie Beckham, has made a career out of it!  Julie is the Financial Education Officer at Rockland Trust Bank where she creates and implements engaging and entertaining financial education programming for the whole family; from students to seniors.  Her flagship program, Ms. Money & the Coins, is a musical about saving, sharing and spending money and has been performed more than 450 times to over 70,000 elementary school students since 2011.  Her latest project, the No Shame in this Money Game podcast, breaks down personal finance topics in an easy to listen to and learn format for adults. Don’t back down from who you are. Every unique person brings their value through their passion. - Julie Beckham On this episode, Stacey & Julie talk about... What Julie wanted to be when she grew up and how it plays out today (3:40) From acting to banking and how acting plays a big part in her work today (6:44) How acting helped Julie stand up straight and speak up for herself (11:45) How stifling your creativity doesn’t serve anyone & dealing with rejection when “you are the product” (22:16) On overcoming feeling like a fish out of water in corporate setting (27:10) Biggest formality Julie had to shed - concept of fitting in (37:10) Being OK saying, “I’m lucky and love my work (40:10) Get in touch with Julie No Shame in the Money Game Podcast LinkedIn  

In a leadership role, you need to get people to open up to you. Dig in. - Jen Paxton Meet Jen Paxton With a master’s degree in Opera, Jen Paxton didn't think she would have a career in Talent Acquisition, however, she fell in love with helping candidates find the right role. She started her career at a recruiting firm placing technical professionals, then after a few years moved in-house. She has grown teams at later stage startups like Fiksu and LevelUp and built Recruiting and PeopleOps strategies from scratch at small startups like Logentries and TrueMotion. Jen is currently at Privy, an eCommerce Marketing platform that helps small and growing brands get from $0 to $1 million in online sales, as their VP of People+Talent. She focuses on building a company that employees and candidates love. On this episode Stacey & Jen talk about... What Jen wanted to be when she grew up (2:30) Jen's move from opera singer to people & talent (6:30) Formalities Jen had to shed when making her career change (11:34) Perfection as a disservice to self (14:34) Making the shift from leading self to leading others and maintaining good company culture (19:13) The clash of data and people ( 22:30) Psychological safety, emotional well-being and building trust in a “get down to business” workplace (24:30) How do you measure trust and maintain it in a pandemic/virtual world? (31:37) Dealing with employee loneliness, burnout, boundaries, Zoom exhaustion and other struggles in a pandemic world. (35:30) How Jen is managing her own well-being (40:50) The biggest formality Jen had to shed to get to where she is now (43:10) Connect with Jen Paxton On LinkedIn

It's scary to step out of the status quo. Choose your hard. - Kiana Estevez Meet Kiana Estevez Kiana is an Afro-Latina entrepreneur who is determined to create inclusive and empathetic solutions through food experiences. She created Aisle Mine, a social food movement, empowering people to step outside of their comfort zones, and equalizing cultural differences through community experience. It's more than a cooking class, it's a life skills class which offers the kind of education a human being needs. We help guests reclaim mindfulness into their day, so they can lean towards culture in an accessible way with even more people and perspective at the table. Kiana is building a new standard as an equitable profit sharing ecosystem for foodie and eaters.     On this episode Stacey & Kiana talk about... What she wanted to be when she grew up (3:00) Making a career shift due to the pandemic (5:48) Stepping away from the status quo and the beliefs holding her back (8:28) Dropping old beliefs, learning new ones and calling yourself out on your own stuff (18:10) You can only lead as far as you’ve gone (24:00) What lead her to start aisle nine/business in a pandemic (27:39) Vision & offerings for Aisle Mine (33:00) Will she continue to offer programs online when it's safe to gather again? (35:02) The shift from working on the inside promoting someone else’s brand to promoting her own brand (36:45) The biggest formality Kiana had to shed in order to get to where she is today (39:30) How she takes care of herself and avoids burnout (41:30) Connect with Kiana Estevez & Aisle Mine Aisle Mine Website Aisle Mine on Instagram

Surrounding yourself with the right people as a business owner and how to stand out. That's what this week's guest, Kate Stallings, talks about on this episode of Shed The Formality. Meet Kate Stallings, Kate Creative Media Kate started behind the scenes on small web hosting projects for local businesses in Massachusetts and Rhode Island and quickly became a go-to professional for website solutions. Her company specializes in tailored web design and marketing solutions for businesses across the country, specifically in the trades and manufacturing industries. In 2019, Kate was named among the “Most Influential Entrepreneurs of 2019 as Compared to Amazon’s Jeff Bezos” on Yahoo Finance and Nasdaq and she appeared as a featured guest on Radio Entrepreneurs in Natick, MA. Connect with Kate Kate's Web Design Website Connect with Kate on LinkedIn Follow Kate on Instagram On this episode Stacey and Kate talk about... What Kate wanted to be when she grew up and how it plays out in her work today (2:00) Biggest struggles as a business owner (not sharing ideas with clients) and how she moved through it (11:40) Standing out in a highly competitive web design industry - focus matters (17:56) On niching yourself and saying no to business that doesn't fit (22:00) Let’s talk about self care for the entrepreneur (27:14) The importance of relationships & collaboration (30:00) Biggest formality she had to shed to step into who she is now (32:00)

Self leadership and leading a kick ass life are the theme's of today's podcast with guest Elaine Blais. Meet Elaine Blais, Life Coach & Author Elaine believes you have the power to change your life.  After 25 years in corporate, years of co-dependency, people pleasing, and perfectionism Elaine found her way back to herself. It wasn’t easy and a lot of the ‘picture perfect’ life she had fell apart. It was dark, painful, and the most extraordinary gift. Elaine's life is unrecognizable today…from graduating college, to traveling abroad, leaving her corporate career to following her passion, and starting a new relationship with a man that is truly a partner in life. You too can change your life. One, small step at a time. In addition to coaching women, Elaine is the author of 3 Secrets to a Kick Ass Life. She holds a B.A. in Communication Studies from the University of Rhode Island where she also minored in gender and women’s studies. Elaine completed her life coach training through Martha Beck Institute, is a Certified Meditation Facilitator with Centers for Spiritual Living and a spiritual leader and practitioner, and lives in Rhode Island with her Labradoodle, Gracie. Connect with Elaine Elaine's Coaching Website Or email her Elaine (at) elaineblais (dot) com On this episode Stacey and Elaine talk about... A leader is someone willing to let others shine.  - Elaine Blais What she wanted to be (2:35) How Elaine defines “leader” (4:30) How Elaine got to where she is today & outgrowing a corporate settings & rules (6:20) Going back to school in her 50s (11:50) Self leadership(15:30) Feeling her emotions and seeing her real value (19:30) How Elaine found coaching and formalities she shed to do that (26:20) Expertise and imposter syndrome (28:30) Continuous Evolution and self-care (34:30) Self worth & how much we do (Be willing to suck and fail) (37:18)

Climbing the right [career] mountain and finding your inspired purpose are the themes of this episode of Shed The Formality with guest Tony Martignetti. Meet Tony Martignetti, Leadership Coach Tony Martignetti is a leadership coach, entrepreneur, idea generator, and a people connector. He brings together practical experience, formal training, and extreme curiosity, to elevate leaders and equip them with the tools to navigate through change and unlock their true potential. He loves guiding people to find clarity in their lives, so they are energized, fully present, and unstoppable. When leaders unlock their potential and lead from a place of inspired purpose, they impact and inspire everyone around them. He has dedicated himself to helping people live an inspired life. Before he became a coach, He was a finance and strategy professional with experience working with some of the world's leading life sciences companies. Along his journey, he also managed small businesses and ran a financial consulting company. Tony is the host of The Virtual Campfire podcast and is currently writing his first book, "Climbing the Right Mountain: Navigating the Journey to An Inspired Life." Connect with Tony Tony's Coaching Website https://linktr.ee/inspiredcoach Connect with Tony on LinkedIn Say hi on Facebook Follow Tony on Instagram On this episode Stacey and Tony talk about... It's selfish for you not to sell. - Tony Martignetti Tony's big dreams and how they play out in his work today (3:53) Money, fulfillment and a corporate career (6:10) Marrying his love of science with the discipline of business (12:42) Beliefs and behaviors that held Tony back and how he dropped them (16:30) Losing himself, finding himself, using the past to become a powerful coach (21:16) Can you be a badass if you feel a range of emotions? (30:00) Getting comfortable with sales (33:30) The biggest formality Tony had to shed and how (40:10)

Applying small town leadership principles to big companies and reclaiming who you've always been are the themes of this episode with guest, Natalie Siston. Meet Natalie Siston, Founder Small Town Leadership Natalie’s career has taken her from Silicon Valley to the Fortune 100 and into entrepreneurship, but being raised in Republic, OH (population 600) is where she learned her greatest leadership lessons. She uses these lessons learned from small town living to help leaders and organizations create big success in the world. In addition to being a 10-year 4H member and repeat State Fair champion in public speaking, Natalie is a two-time graduate of The Ohio State University and Professional Coach accredited through the International Coach Federation. She has 20+ years of experience coaching, developing leaders, and strengthening teams in the non-profit, higher education, and corporate sectors. She works with both 1:1 and small group coaching clients to help them be more connected – to themselves, their work, families and communities. Natalie is a frequent speaker at leadership, university and corporate events. Let Her Out: Reclaim Who You Have Always Been is Natalie's first book. It's where life story meets life coaching. Natalie resides in Dublin, Ohio with her husband, Rob, and two young daughters. Get in touch with Natalie Book website: https://letherout.com Coaching website: https://smalltownleadership.com Connect on LinkedIn Say hi on Facebook Follow her on Instagram On this episode, Stacey and Natalie talk about... You have to do your own [inner] work before you can show up and help other people do their work. - Natalie Siston Natalie's big dreams as a young girl and how they play out in her work today (3:00) Developing Small Town Leadership (7:30) Making the shift from employee to business owner (11:50) Biting your tongue and stifling yourself (16:17) Guilt of resting, being still and formalities Natalie had to shed (20:00) First time author and "reclaiming who you've always been" (25:00) Lessons learned from writing the book (31:00) Putting herself out there and fear of promoting the book (38:39) Final thoughts - the most important beliefs/behaviors Natalie had to drop to get to where she is today (44:00)

Breaking the mold and doing what no one else is willing to do. That's what Philip Toussaint, founder of Ecopreneur Media talks about on this episode of Shed The Formality. Meet Philip Toussaint Combining the power, reach, and influence of the media industry, meet Philip Toussaint, the founder of Ecopreneur Media. He is an experienced brand strategist and marketer that has generated over $500K+ combined for his clients by the age of 23. He runs Ecopreneur, an environmental media platform that utilizes the power of video content to cause mobilization. With 4+ years in the digital marketing and environmental space, he brings a variety of experience and knowledge ready to effectively lead his team. Reach out to Philip https://ecopreneurmedia.com/ https://linktr.ee/ecopreneurphil https://linktr.ee/ecopreneurmedia On this episode, Stacey and Philip talk about... Philip's big dreams as a young boy and how that plays out today (3:55) Becoming an entrepreneur, creating a "brand" and self-funding your business (5:55) Brand vs Business and promoting a non-traditional business model (10:30) Imposter Syndrome (22:00) Putting yourself out there, finding mentors and community (29:00) How Philip keeps himself healthy and energized for his work (37:00) Biggest formality Philip had to shed to get to where he is today (43:00)  

2020 brought change to lots of businesses and this week's guest is no exception. In this episode host Stacey Shipman talks to Steve Lichtman owner of two Fitness Together personal training studios in Massachusetts about adapting to change and using joint partnerships to promote your business. Meet Steve Lichtman Steve Lichtman is a seasoned business professional and strategist, with over 35 years of sales, marketing and management experience in company start-ups. He enjoys using his personal communication skills to develop mutually beneficial business and partner relationships. While working in corporate America, Steve traveled extensively and was challenged to maintain a consistent exercise program. He found the support he needed and dramatically improved his health through the help of Fitness Together. After 2 years as a client, fitness became a lifestyle for Steve. He left corporate training for personal training, to help people become fit, active and lead a more healthy lifestyle. Steve has over 15 years experience operating Fitness Together personal training studios. His certified team of fitness professionals takes a holistic approach, combining strength training and cardiovascular exercise with proper nutrition, to help people achieve measurable results. Steve's newest joint venture is a partnership with Helios Health products. After experiencing and falling in love with Helios' all natural hand-crafted products, Steve contacted the founder with his idea to add CBD (cannabidiol) to their topicals. R&S Ventures is a natural extension of Steve's holistic approach to wellness. They are seeking holistic health and wellness professionals to help take their products to market. Reach out to Steve Fitness Together Norwell (Massachusetts) www.ftnorwell.com CBD Wellness Shop - www.norwellness.com Steve on LinkedIn On this episode Stacey and Steve talk about... Steve's big dreams as a young boy and how they play out in his work today (3:54) Sales and bartering as a business strategy (11:00) How stress lead him to owning a personal training studio (16:00) How the pandemic brought him back to a role he loves - sales & networking (21:15) Using joint partnerships to cut through the noise when marketing (25:00) The difference between promoting a service (personal training) vs product (CBD oils) (35:30) Knowing your best skills to run a business & Steve's biggest insight to date (39:30)

On this episode of Shed The Formality, Stacey talks to Carolines Mays of Switchblade Lemonade about uncaging your epic credential to stand out in a crowded business industry. On this episode Caroline talks about how she started her business, the antithesis of the traditional bio, how stories aren't stories unless there is wisdom and the power of feeling seen and heard. So much goodness! Learn more about Caroline and download her ebook Bio Like Beyonce at www.switchbladelemonade.com