School of Self-Image

Decisions That Empower: Creating Clarity in Your Life

The Change Cycle: How to Bounce Back Better Than Ever Setbacks are an inevitable part of life. While they can feel overwhelming, they also present unique opportunities for growth and transformation. Embracing the emotions that accompany these challenges is crucial for moving forward effectively.  Host Tonya Leigh shares insights from her recent quarterly retreat with her leadership team. She emphasizes the importance of regular check-ins to maintain momentum and accountability in both personal and professional growth. Tonya discusses the inevitable setbacks we face in life and how they are essential for appreciating the highs and teaching us valuable lessons. Whether you're currently thriving or facing challenges, this episode serves as a reminder that lows can help us shed what no longer serves us and pave the way for renewal and growth. Tune in for an uplifting conversation that encourages self-reflection and resilience. Talking Points: 01:08 - Importance of Regular Touch Points 03:05 - Feeling Hopeless and Needing Tools 07:03 - Allowing Yourself to Break Open 10:14 - Identity Crisis and Letting Go 18:19 - Creating a Desire List 22:14 - Choosing One Focus 25:08 - Dealing with Imposter Syndrome 28:04 - Falling in Love with the Process 32:08 - Internalizing a New Self-Image 34:42 - No Timeline for Your Comeback 00:35:58 - Comeback Challenge Quotes: "You can't appreciate the highs without the lows." "Surrender is just letting go of the illusion of control." "When you begin to speak on purpose and hold those images in your mind, you are shaping your reality."  "I am a woman in motion. I am going forward. I'm not staying stagnant. I'm not staying stuck." "It just means you need to create more evidence for the new self." "Your setback is not the end of your story. It's the beginning of your next era." Useful  Resources: Click HERE for The Calm Ritual Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel   

Mid-Year Reset: Strategies to Transform Your Life in Six Months To create your best six months ever, it is essential to start by defining what "best" means for you personally. This involves taking the time to reflect on your desires, aspirations, and what success looks like in your life. Tonya Leigh emphasizes that many people fail to define success clearly, which can lead to feelings of dissatisfaction and confusion. By asking yourself, "If I woke up six months from now and said this was my best season yet, what would have made it so?" you can gain clarity on the specific outcomes and experiences you want to achieve. Tonya reflects on the halfway point of 2025 and encourages listeners to evaluate their feelings about the year so far. She shares her personal experience of needing a reset after feeling off track and discusses the importance of shifting one's perspective to create the best next six months.   Tune in for insights on becoming more of your authentic self and setting the stage for an empowered second half of the year. Talking Points: 00:34 - Mid-Year Reflection: How Are You Feeling? 03:21 - The Importance of Becoming an Energetic Match 06:10 - General Tips for the Next Six Months 08:07 - Tonya's Social Media Breakthrough 13:05 - Stepping into a New Role 17:27 - Stop Giving CPR to Your Past 20:31 - Rehearsing Your Future 24:47 - Deciding to Have Your Best Six Months Ever Quotes: "The real secret is you being an energetic match for what it is you want, to be aligned with what you want." "It is going to be a complete energetic expansion. It's going to be you deciding to step into a whole new role." "Stop giving CPR to your past." "When you expand your self-image, you immediately expand what's possible for you." "Rehearse your future until she feels so familiar." "Let's all decide right now that we are about to create our best six months ever." Useful  Resources: Click HERE for The Calm Ritual Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel   

Little Details, Big Impact: How Small Changes Can Transform Your Life Establishing a morning routine that incorporates intentional practices, such as breath work and connecting with nature, can significantly enhance your day and help you break free from habitual patterns. In a recent podcast episode, the host shares her personal journey of transforming her mornings to create a more intentional and fulfilling start to the day. Host, Tonya Leigh, shares her experience of breaking free from habitual comfort by replacing a reactive coffee routine with a rejuvenating "sunrise ceremony." This practice involves sitting outside, soaking in the morning sun, and engaging in breath work for five minutes. Tonya emphasizes how this simple yet powerful ritual helps reset their nervous system and sets a positive tone for the day.  Tune in to discover how you can enhance your mornings and cultivate a deeper connection with yourself and the world around you. Talking Points: 00:18 - Breaking Morning Habits 00:31 - Sunrise Ceremony 03:09 - Introducing the Glowtini 05:58 - Strut and Sculpt Routine 09:01 - Benefits of Pilates 12:11 - Collagen in Coffee 13:05 - Effects of Protein and Healthy Fats 15:04 - Importance of Intentional Thoughts 20:22 - Assessing Life Details 23:43 - The Calm Ritual Quotes: "What really happens is we're having to break out of habits that we're so accustomed to." "Don't take your health for granted just because you feel okay." "It's not a struggle when you take the drama out of it and you just ask yourself, okay, what do I need to do to hit this goal?" "The reality is your thoughts are shaping your entire experience." "I attribute the majority of my success from me literally brainwashing myself into believing that I was going to have success." "Real self-image work doesn't start in the mirror. It starts in the stillness." Useful  Resources: Click HERE for The Calm Ritual Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel   

Emotional Regulation: The New Discipline for a Chaotic World Emotional regulation has become an essential skill for personal growth and success, especially in today's fast-paced and often chaotic world. The ability to manage one's emotional responses, rather than attempting to control external circumstances, is crucial for effectively navigating life's challenges. Tonya Leigh explores the crucial concept of emotional regulation in today's fast-paced and divisive world. Tonya emphasizes that instead of trying to control external circumstances, our true power lies in managing our emotional responses. She begins with a personal check-in, encouraging listeners to assess their feelings on a scale from zero to ten. Despite facing significant challenges, including her father's illness and business setbacks, Tonya shares how her commitment to self-work has helped her maintain a positive outlook, rating her emotional state as a nine. The episode highlights the importance of nurturing our nervous systems and offers insights into overcoming fear of the future. Tune in for valuable strategies on how to cultivate emotional resilience and thrive in turbulent times. Talking Points: 00:44 - Self-Check: How Are You Feeling? 02:09 - Fear of the Future and Self-Image 04:45 - Understanding Self-Image and State of Being 08:42 - Subconscious Blocks and Self-Image 11:51 - External Control vs. Internal Regulation 15:01 - Self-Soothing and Mothering Yourself 18:44 - Regulation in Entrepreneurship 22:42 - New You, New Nervous System 23:14 - Join the School of Self-Image Quotes: "Regulation is the new discipline because we are living in some wild times." "If you don't decide on purpose, if you don't take ownership of that, you are going to have a very dysregulated nervous system." "A lot of us are just walking around as children in adult bodies." "When you start becoming this person for yourself, you will be amazed at what you're capable of."  "I'm going to be the one that changes. That's when miracles happen." "When you can regulate your nervous system and you don't freak out, when you have that ability to just take a pause, go in, take some breaths, calm yourself down, remind yourself, I'm safe in this moment." Useful  Resources: Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel   

The Power of Believing: How to Cultivate Unshakable Faith in Yourself

Unshakeable: Redefining Success on Your Own Terms In the pursuit of success, many individuals find themselves chasing external markers—such as wealth, recognition, or status—believing that these achievements will bring them happiness and fulfillment. However, as discussed in the podcast episode, true success, or "elegant success," is fundamentally about creating a life that aligns with your personal values and brings genuine satisfaction. Host Tonya Leigh explores the concept of elegant success—success that is rooted in personal values, alignment, and ease, rather than societal pressures to do more and be more. Tonya shares her reflections on the importance of creating a fulfilling life that feels good on the inside, as well as the challenges many are facing in today's uncertain world. Drawing from her personal experiences, including navigating her own emotional landscape during difficult times, she emphasizes the significance of managing one's nervous system and internal world to cultivate resilience and peace.  Tune in for insights that challenge traditional definitions of success and encourage listeners to redefine what it means to thrive. Talking Points: 00:33 - Rethinking Success 01:15 - Uncertainty and the Nervous System 03:02 - Leading Through Uncertainty 05:44 - Elegant Success: What No One Tells You 07:08 - The Messiness of Success 10:07 - Life and Business Changes 13:10 - Trusting Your Gut 16:21 - Releasing with Grace 18:05 - Feeling Lost Before Clarity 20:15 - Shedding Old Identities 23:04 - The Emptiness of Misaligned Success 25:01 - Reconnecting with Your Essence 26:05 - Navigating Back to Your North Star Quotes: "What if the real flex is creating a life that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside?" "Elegant success is creating the life you desire without abandoning yourself in the process." "I've encountered so much peace by just accepting that it's going to feel elegant and then it's going to feel messy again." "You cannot evolve and expect everyone to come with you." "The doubt that you may be feeling, well, it's not failure, it's just feedback." "I started to trade my truth for someone else's checklist, and I was shaping my life around approval instead of alignment." Useful  Resources: Click HERE for the Unshakable Workshop  Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel   

Three Moments That Almost Broke Me—and Made Me Stronger Life is a journey filled with ups and downs, and it is often during our most challenging moments that we discover our true strength. In the latest episode of the School of Self-Image, Tonya Leigh shares her personal experiences of facing adversity and how these moments ultimately shaped her into a stronger, more resilient version of herself. Tonya opens up about her own transformative life moments that felt overwhelmingly challenging. She shares her vulnerability in recording this episode, revealing the resistance she faced and the importance of showing the raw, real version of ourselves. Tonya discusses the concept of wabi-sabi, an ancient Japanese philosophy that appreciates beauty in imperfection and incompleteness, contrasting it with our perfection-obsessed culture. Join her as she explores how the toughest experiences can ultimately shape and strengthen our character. Tune in for an inspiring conversation on embracing our flaws and the growth that comes from life's challenges. Talking Points: 00:33 - The Challenge of Vulnerability 01:38 - Embracing Imperfection: The Wabi-Sabi Philosophy 02:31 - Life's Breaking Points 04:06 - Moment 1: Divorce and Single Motherhood 07:04 - Moment 2: Battling an Eating Disorder 13:17 - Moment 3: Daughter's Illness and Personal Sacrifice 22:42 - Reflections and Lessons Learned 25:19 - Encouragement for Those Struggling 26:03 - Embracing the Journey Quotes: "It wasn't breaking me. It was making me unbreakable." "It's okay to ask for help. It's okay to be supported. It's okay to not know how to do this on your own." "No matter how down you think you are, don't give up on yourself because remember, those moments, they're what's making you stronger." "I think the biggest gift that came out of this was... she appreciates and takes care of herself in such a way that I don't think she would have had this not happened." "You don't give up on the dream, but you may have to adjust your goals." "You are not falling apart. You're actually falling into yourself." "It doesn't mean that you're weak. It means that you're human." Useful  Resources: Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel 

The Lightning Strike: A Wake-Up Call to Live Fully In our fast-paced lives, it's easy to let moments slip by unnoticed, overshadowed by distractions and the constant hum of to-do lists. However, as Tonya Leigh emphasizes in this episode, life doesn't need to be grand to feel fulfilling; it simply needs to be fully lived. The key to unlocking joy, clarity, and confidence lies in maximizing our moments. Tonya shares a deeply personal story inspired by a frightening experience during a flight from Charlotte to Boston. While 15,000 to 20,000 feet in the air, an unexpected flash of light shook the plane, sending passengers into a panic. Tonya recounts her reaction of stillness amidst chaos, highlighting the importance of maximizing moments in life. She emphasizes that life doesn't need to be bigger to feel better; rather, it requires a fuller experience. Join Tonya as she explores how to unlock more joy, clarity, and confidence in your everyday moments. Grab your tea or coffee and prepare for an enlightening discussion on living fully. Talking Points: 00:43 - Tonya's Scary Flight Experience 03:23 - Realization of Life's Value 05:09 - What Really Matters 07:16 - How We Minimize Moments 09:53 - Deep Presence and Awareness 13:23 - Focusing on Lack vs. Appreciation 18:10 - Wealth and Maximizing Resources 22:28 - Investing in Inspiration 24:46 - Living in Gratitude Quotes: "It woke me up to what really, really matters." "As long as I have my life, I have possibility." "When you are present, you'll realize you're okay in this moment without all of the mental drama."  "The practice of appreciation will change your life."  "Focusing on what you already have and maximizing it will lead to discoveries and results that will expand your life." "The best way to do that is to make here so full that you outgrow it." "You don't need more time. You just need more aliveness in the time you already have." Useful  Resources: Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel   

The Art of Joyfully Hustling: Balancing Ambition and Ease

The Drama Triangle Explained: How to Reclaim Your Power The Drama Triangle, a concept developed by psychologist Stephen Karpman, illustrates how individuals can become entangled in a cycle of emotional exhaustion and conflict through three distinct roles: the victim, the rescuer, and the villain. Each role plays a significant part in perpetuating drama in our lives, often without our conscious awareness. Host Tonya Leigh explores the concept of the Drama Triangle, a framework that reveals the subconscious patterns we create in our lives. The discussion highlights how many people gravitate towards drama, whether for a sense of identity, adrenaline, or connection, often without realizing it. Tonya emphasizes that while some drama may serve a purpose, much of it keeps us trapped in familiar, chaotic states, preventing us from experiencing peace and ease in our lives.  Tune in as we break down the three roles in the Drama Triangle—victim, villain, and hero—and how to recognize and escape these patterns to achieve a more elegant and fulfilling life. 00:47 - The Allure of Drama: Why We Create It 01:03 - Craving Peace and Elegance 02:09 - Role 1: The Victim 04:16 - The Victim's Self-Image 07:10 - Role 2: The Rescuer 09:50 - Examples of the Rescuer Role 11:07 - The Rescuer's Self-Image 16:00 - Role 3: The Villain 19:30 - Examples of the Villain Role 22:26 - The Villain's Self-Image 23:32 - Stepping Out of the Drama Triangle 24:03 - Becoming the Main Character Quotes: "What we crave is a sense of ease, a sense of peace, a sense of elegance in our lives, which means that we're going to have to give up some of the drama." "You're not the problem, but you are the solution." "If you want to grow your impact, if you want to have more ease in your life, you must be willing to let other people fail." "I'm only valuable when I'm needed." "The control, the criticism, and the blame comes from a fear of losing control, of not being enough, of being exposed." "You're the main character, but more importantly, you're also the writer and the director." Useful  Resources: Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel   

Clearing the Clutter: Transforming Your Self-Image for a New Season Spring is often associated with renewal and fresh beginnings, and this concept can be applied to our self-image as well. Just as we clean out our closets or declutter our homes, we can also take the time to refresh how we see ourselves and how we show up in the world.  Host Tonya Leigh explores the concept of spring cleaning your self-image, much like we do with our homes. As nature begins to awaken from winter, it's the perfect time to reflect on how we perceive ourselves and make necessary changes for personal growth. The host invites listeners to embrace this season of renewal by clearing out old beliefs and habits that no longer serve them and to welcome in new, positive energy that aligns with the woman they're becoming. Join us as we discuss practical steps to refresh your self-image, create an environment that supports your evolution, and ignite your journey toward self-reinvention. Get ready to dive deep and transform your perspective this spring! Talking Points: 00:47 - A Time for Reinvention 02:02 - Identify the Area to Spring Clean 04:00 - Paint the Vision for Your After Story 07:10 - Clear the Clutter of Limiting Beliefs 12:21 - Bring in Fresh Energy and New Beliefs 20:02 - Protect the Space with Boundaries and Systems 27:52 - Elevate and Upgrade Your Environment Quotes: "Within each of us, we always have a new after story that's just waiting to be revealed, waiting to be experienced, waiting to be created, but you have to paint it first." "Identity is built in tiny decisions." "If you continue to do what you're doing for the next 10 years, are you going to like the result?" "My workouts go in my calendar like a meeting with my most important client because honestly, I am." "If you love this podcast, if it brings a spark of joy to your life, if it's helped you to navigate some challenging times." Useful  Resources: Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel   

Cultivating Quiet Confidence as a Woman In today's fast-paced world, power is often associated with loudness, dominance, and aggressive behavior. However, Tonya Leigh highlights a different perspective: quiet power, which is rooted in presence, certainty, and self-trust. This form of power is not about making noise or asserting oneself over others; rather, it embodies a calm and confident energy that naturally commands respect. The concept of "quiet power" and what it truly means to be a strong, influential woman without conforming to traditional expectations of dominance. Tonya reflects on her personal journey and how her quietness and feminine energy have often been misinterpreted as weaknesses. She shares insights on the importance of authenticity and self-trust, emphasizing that true power lies in being aligned with one's true self rather than succumbing to external pressures. Join Tonya as she uncovers how to embrace your presence, influence without force, and become undeniably powerful in your own unique way. Talking Points: 01:42 - Misalignment and Loss of Power 04:25 - True Power and Insecurity 06:33 - Knowing Your Worth 11:04 - Acting Out of Character 14:49 - Rosa Parks' Quiet Defiance 18:24 - Unshakable Boundaries 22:07 - Importance of Emotional Management 26:04 - Dressing and Moving with Intentionality 28:29 - Embodying Quiet Power 30:22 - Taking Action Without Announcing Quotes: "If you are trying to be something that your soul is not in alignment with, if you are trying to be powerful in a way that doesn't feel true to you, there is going to be misalignment." "I am that quiet power. I have no interest in dominating you. I want us all to win together." "Her strength lay in her unshakable presence, her certainty, and her quiet refusal to be moved, literally and figuratively." "There's something magnetic about a woman who's in that energy that's just so in who she is, who's so present, who has nothing to prove and everything to give." "How would you dress, walk, and speak if you fully believed in your power?" "A woman with quiet power doesn't waste time talking about what she's going to do. She just does it." Useful  Resources: Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel   

How to Stop Feeling Stuck in Self-Help

Transforming Your Self-Image: The Key to Attracting Effortless Love Your love story begins with self-love and an understanding of your own worth before seeking love from others. This foundational concept is beautifully illustrated in Tonya Leigh's podcast episode, where she shares her personal journey of transformation and the shifts in self-image that led her to a fulfilling relationship. Tonya Leigh shares her personal love story and the pivotal self-image shifts that led to her engagement. She explores the connection between self-worth and the quality of relationships, emphasizing that our experiences in love often reflect how we see ourselves. Tonya invites listeners to consider the lessons learned from past relationships and how they can apply these insights to foster more fulfilling connections. With a light-hearted tone, she encourages self-reflection and growth, reminding us that relationships are powerful mirrors of our inner world. Tune in for an inspiring discussion on attracting the love you deserve! Talking Points: 01:02 - Tonya's Love Story: Self-Image Shifts 03:08 - Part One: The Attraction Stage 05:07 - Embracing Alone Time: Self-Discovery 07:47 - Dating Mindset: Enjoying the Process 10:24 - Online Dating: Authentic Profiles 14:44 - Authenticity: Sharing Fears 17:34 - Part Two: The Partnership Stage 20:04 - Redefining Love: Beyond Hollywood Rom-Coms 23:10 - Enjoying the Journey: No Rush to Marry 25:07 - The Beginning of Love: Self-Love First 26:02 - Embodying Love Quotes: "I just allowed myself to cry and to grieve and to feel all of the feelings because I knew that if I didn't deal with that, I was just going to keep attracting more of the same." "I was open, but not attached. There was no rush, no timeline, no pressure." "I'm not going to abandon me to get someone else's approval." "I wasn't out there searching for love; I was fully immersed in a life that felt joyful and fulfilling." "His love is steady, strong, and unwavering. His love is a beautiful, masculine love. Strong yet soft." "Your love story doesn't begin when someone else enters into your life. It begins the moment you decide to love yourself deeply, unapologetically, and completely." Useful  Resources: Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel

The Power of Setting Boundaries and Trusting Yourself Managing other people's emotions is a common behavior that many individuals engage in, often with the intention of maintaining harmony and avoiding conflict. However, this habit can lead to significant negative consequences, including emotional exhaustion, resentment, and stifled personal growth for both yourself and those around you. Tonya Leigh explores the detrimental habit of managing other people's emotions and how it impacts our own happiness and growth. She discusses the importance of breaking free from the need to control how others feel, emphasizing that this behavior stifles both personal and collective development. Tonya shares her recent experience with guided visualization walks, which she refers to as immersion walks, and how they have positively shifted her energy and focus on vibrant well-being. By incorporating practices like Pilates, meditation, and self-care, she reveals how she is reclaiming her health and happiness. Join Tonya as she dives into strategies for cultivating emotional independence and nurturing your own well-being. Talking Points: 00:49 - Tonya's Self-Care Routine 02:15 - The Cost of Controlling Emotions 06:10 - Fear of Being the Bad Guy 09:02 - Loss of Self-Trust 12:27 - Self-Image and Managing Emotions 14:54 - Creating Your Own Safety 17:55 - Types of Emotional Management 23:28 - How to Stop Managing Emotions 25:17 - Setting Boundaries Without Guilt 25:50 - Building Emotional Resilience Quotes: "I want to challenge you to stop managing other people's emotions." "True belonging doesn't come from keeping everyone happy. It comes from being unapologetically yourself and trusting that the right people will love and accept you." "Recognizing it and having the courage to be true to yourself is where you begin to turn your life around." "I speak my truth with confidence and I let other people have their emotions and their opinions about it." "So you might as well be the version of you that you love." "Managing other people's emotions is not your job. Being the fullest, most authentic version of you, that is your job." Useful  Resources: Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for the FREE Identity Code class Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel  

Evolving Your Success: How to Let Go of Outdated Strategies In the journey of personal and professional development, individuals often rely on success strategies that have previously yielded positive results. However, as we evolve and our goals change, these strategies can become outdated and may even hinder our growth. Recognizing and letting go of these outdated success strategies is crucial for achieving new results and stepping into the next version of ourselves. Tonya Leigh explores the concept of breaking up with outdated success strategies that may have once propelled you to achievement but are now holding you back. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing what no longer serves you in order to evolve into your next best self. Tonya shares insights on how to identify these limiting beliefs and practices, and encourages listeners to embrace change for greater ease, confidence, and alignment in their lives. Tune in to discover how letting go of past strategies can lead to a more fulfilling and authentic path to success. Talking Points: 01:12 - Breaking Up with Your Success Strategy 03:32 - People Pleasing as a Success Strategy 06:14 - Inner Conflict with People Pleasing 08:02 - Building Walls for Protection 10:08 - Hitting a Ceiling with Current Strategies 11:04 - Breaking Down the 14 Success Strategies We Adopt 23:46 - Other Success Strategies 24:07 - Worry as a Success Strategy 25:32 - Breaking Up with Your Strategy 27:21 - Practical Experiments for Change 29:18 - Visualization and Growth 31:06 - Willingness to Burn Down Old Strategies Quotes: "What if the very thing that has made you successful is now the very thing keeping you stuck?"  "I'm going to have to burn down my success strategy in order to create what it is that I see in my mind in order for me to have the impact that I know I am here to make."  "I have been willing to break up with my success strategy of people pleasing." "You've got to break up with your risk aversion." "I want to invite all of us to consider success strategies that are fun, expansive, and full of ease." "Are you willing to burn down your current success strategy to see what's possible for you?" "To create something you've never had, you're going to have to become someone you've never been." Useful  Resources: Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for the FREE Identity Code class Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel  

Unlocking Joy: How to Cultivate Excitement in Your Everyday Life Tune in to discover how to become the person who naturally attracts and creates the life you desire. Quotes: "The secret isn't in doing more, it's in becoming the woman who naturally creates and attracts what it is that she wants." "So many people are just living lives on default." "You don't get what you want, you get what you tolerate." "Excitement and complaining don't coexist together." "What surrounds you seeps into you." "Wake up. This is our one life. Don't be stagnant." "I want to see myself as a woman who really loved life, who loved all of it, even the hard parts, because she knew that that grew her." "I realized I get to be the excitement." Useful  Resources: Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for the FREE Identity Code class Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel    

Unmasking Your True Self: Discovering Freedom Beyond the Faux Self   When we operate from our faux self, we may find ourselves making choices based on what we think we should want or what will garner approval from others. This can manifest in various ways, such as pursuing a career that looks good on paper but does not fulfill us, or acquiring material possessions to impress others rather than to satisfy our own desires. Tanya shares the story of a client who felt trapped in a high-paying job that brought her no joy, illustrating how the faux self can lead to a life that feels suffocating and unfulfilling. Tonya explores the profound question, "Who are you really?" She shares her morning routine and the productivity that comes with starting the day early. She introduces a life-changing concept she learned from Martha Beck during her coach training: the distinction between the social self and the essential self. This episode delves into how understanding this concept can empower listeners to shift from feeling like victims of their circumstances to becoming creators of their own lives, our own true identities and explores the origins of their self-perceptions, prompting a deeper exploration of personal authenticity. Tune in for insights that could transform your understanding of yourself and your potential. Talking Points: 00:52 -Social Self vs. Essential Self 04:06 - Defining the Worldly Woman 08:47 - The Role of the Faux Self in Success 10:20 - True Desires vs. Faux Desires 14:05 - True Desires and Money 18:04 - Childhood Memories and True Self 22:02 - True Self and the Win-Win Approach 25:03 - The Challenge of Sudden Change 27:00 - The Work of Getting Back to Your Authentic Self Quotes: "I felt like I was at the effect of my life versus being the creator of my life." "There is no freedom when the faux self is in control." "To find someone who is fully in their true self is such a rarity because it takes so much courage and a lot of people won't like you." "You will know your truth because it will taste like freedom." "Would you rather be judged for being real or praised for being fake?" 00:28:49 - "Who am I really at my core? Who am I beyond my roles as a mother, as a daughter, as a wife, as a business owner?" Useful  Resources: Click HERE for the Live Like an Editor Workshop Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel  

From Burnout to Empowerment: How One Woman Took Control of Her Story In the journey of personal growth, particularly when grappling with feelings of isolation and burnout, the significance of surrounding oneself with supportive individuals cannot be overstated. Caroline Lacaille-Gaudy's experience, as shared in the podcast episode, underscores the importance of having a network that fosters growth and provides a sense of belonging. In this episode of the School of Self-Image, host Tonya Leigh welcomes Caroline, who shares her transformative journey after leaving a successful corporate career in late 2021. Caroline discusses how she learned to become the editor in chief of her own life, empowering herself to create meaningful changes. Since embracing this mindset, she has launched two purpose-driven businesses, published a book on Amazon, and enhanced her relationships as a mother and wife. Caroline's inspiring story highlights the importance of living intentionally and provides insights on how to stop reacting to life's twists and instead, start creating your own narrative. Join Tonya andd Caroline as they explore the tools and mindset shifts that can help you stop living life by default and start creating it intentionally. Plus, learn more about the upcoming Live Like an Editor workshop. Talking Points: 00:22 - Caroline's Achievements Post-Corporate Career 01:21 -  Corporatte Burnout 02:57 - Feeling Unfulfilled Despite Success 04:06 - Realization of Misalignment with Motherhood 06:22 - Living Life by Default 08:45 - Shifting Perspectives and Addressing Objections 11:44 - Becoming a Coach and Finding Purpose 15:02 - Being the Editor-in-Chief of Your Life 18:15 - Caroline's Word for the Year: Expansive 21:07 - Learning Through Stories 24:06 - Unpacking Past Experiences 27:43 - Realization of Isolation 30:07 - Managing Spousal Stress 34:00 - Impact of Learning Tools on Parenting 37:56 - Belief in Possibility and Daily Habits 43:30 - Teaching Gratitude to Daughter 46:11 - Advice for Burnt Out Women Quotes: "I had been following this path of success, ticking the boxes, having the wonderful office with the view and the title and the car... and yet it felt like there was always something missing." "Knowing that I'm in control of my emotional state of being is the most liberating news ever." "How would bold me, how would worthy me, how would discipline me... behave right now?" "It's OK to have certain standards. It's OK to ask for certain things. It's OK to behave such a way." "It's the books on your bookshelf. It's the music you listen to. It's the clutter or not clutter, depending on how you keep your home, all of it is sending a message to you about who you think you are." "I switched from fixing to, I get to create, I get to create myself. It's a very different energy." "A well-lived life is nothing more than a collection of well-lived days." "There is no hurry. My favorite mantra." Useful  Resources: Click HERE for the Live Like an Editor Workshop Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel Connect with Caroline: Click HERE for Caroline's Website Click HERE for Bliss by Caroline    

Live Like an Editor: Transforming Your Life with Vision and Creativity In the journey of personal development, one of the most transformative shifts you can make is to curate your life by focusing on potential rather than flaws. This perspective not only empowers you but also allows you to see the beauty and possibilities in your current circumstances. Here's how you can implement this mindset in your life. Tonya Leigh invites listeners to reimagine their lives through a designer's lens. Inspired by the idea of viewing life as a fixer-upper, she encourages embracing one's potential rather than focusing on flaws. Tonya shares her recent experiences, including a snowy morning and a revitalizing Pilates class, setting a positive tone for the discussion. She also announces her beloved annual workshop, "Live Like an Editor," a transformative five-day experience designed to help participants gain a fresh perspective on their lives. This workshop emphasizes creativity, possibility, and joy, rather than fixing perceived flaws, empowering women to curate their lives with intention. Tune in to discover how to approach personal development with style and creativity! Talking Points: 00:39 - Morning Routine and Excitement 01:22 - Live Like an Editor Workshop 02:05 - Possibility, Creativity, and Joy 04:24 - Curate Your Life Like a Designer 05:05 - Perspective Shift: See Potential, Not Flaws 07:10 - Thoughtfully Select and Organize 07:54 - Transform Possibilities into Reality 11:09 - Create a Vision and Anchor It 14:00 -Work with What You Have 17:48 - Focus Room by Room 21:10 - Cultivate a Figure-Outable Mindset 26:11 - Perspectives to Curate Your Life Quotes: "When you curate your life like a designer, you look at possibility." "Being a designer means seeing potential where others see limitations." "You're afraid of choosing the wrong thing to work towards, and so therefore it's just easier to pretend that you don't know and you're confused about it because then you don't have to take action." "You've got to start with where you are and with what you have." "If you could choose one area of your life to focus on this year that would have the biggest impact on the rest of your life, where would you focus?" "When you think like a designer, you know that every challenge has a solution." "The quality of your life really does depend on the quality of your questions." Useful  Resources: Click HERE for the Live Like an Editor Workshop Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel  

Transforming 'Should' into 'Desire': A Journey to Self-Discovery The word "should" carries significant weight in our lives, often representing obligation and criticism. In this podcast episode, Tonya Leigh explores the profound impact that this single word can have on our mental and emotional well-being. When we use "should," it typically conveys a sense of duty or correctness, suggesting that there is a right way to do things. This inherent judgment can lead to feelings of shame and guilt, ultimately hindering our personal growth and fulfillment. She shares a relatable story about a listener named Jeanette, who eagerly anticipates Tonya's annual Live Like an Editor workshop as a tool for success. Tonya emphasizes the importance of breaking free from the cycle of "shoulds" that keep us playing small and reflects on her decision to take January for deep reflection before diving into the new year. Tune in to discover strategies for overcoming the pressure of expectations and embracing your true desires. Talking Points:  00:32 - Breaking Free from "Shoulds" 01:56 - Reflecting on the New Year 03:31 - The Concept of "Should Season" 05:09 - Definition of "Should" and Its Implications 08:00 - The Harm of "Should" in Personal Growth 10:24 - Internal "Shoulds" and Self-Criticism 13:31 - The Pressure of Societal Expectations 16:14 - The Paradox of Self-Acceptance 19:25 - The Body Test for True Desires 23:32 - Building a Life Based on True Desires 24:56 - Conclusion: Embracing True Desires Quotes: "It's when shame and guilt becomes your compass instead of desire being your guide." "To argue with reality is to argue with God and you only lose 100% of the time." "The curious paradox is when I accept myself as I am, then I can change." "It's only when I've gotten in touch with my true desires and made those the goals that I have had years where I felt excited, where I felt aligned, where I felt like I was moving towards my own North Star." "If you are building a life off of fear and shame shoulds, you are going to be building a prison for yourself." "Your desires are never wrong. They're simply showing you the way home to yourself." Useful  Resources: Click HERE for Five Essential Quesions Click HERE for the FREE Shake-Up List Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel      

The Shake Up List: 99 Daring Ways to Live Life Differently To break free from monotony and stagnation, it is essential to engage in new experiences, meet new people, and expose ourselves to different ideas and activities. This concept is central to the discussion in the podcast episode, where Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of shaking things up in our lives to foster personal growth and transformation. Tonya explores the theme of breaking free from the monotony of everyday life. She acknowledges the feelings of being in a rut that many women experience, even when life seems perfectly fine on the surface. She emphasizes the importance of shaking things up to step into new possibilities and change and discusses how repetitive routines can solidify a self-image that keeps us stuck. Join Tonya as she invites you to embrace change and discover new ways to invigorate your life. Talking Points: 00:42 - Embracing Change and Possibilities 03:01 - Balancing Routine with New Challenges 04:15 -The Shake Up List 08:00 - The Benefits of Unplugged Time 11:03 - Experimenting with New Approaches 14:08 - Following Curiosity  20:26 - Creative Momentum  22:45 - Empowering Yourself to Shake Things Up Quotes: "Shaking up your life is doing things differently." "I've realized that my best ideas and biggest breakthroughs often come when I'm not actively pursuing them." "Follow your curiosity. Follow what lights you up. Follow those little glimmers." "Something within me, my intuition spoke to me and said, yes, this is the next step for you." "There's nothing like a party to shake up your life." "The truth is we all have the power to shake up our lives at any moment."   Useful  Resources: Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Click HERE for the FREE Shake Up List   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel  

Transform Your Year with Intentional Living Choosing a "Word of the Year" is a powerful practice that can significantly enhance personal development and focus intentions throughout the year. This concept, as discussed in the podcast episode, revolves around selecting a single word that embodies the qualities and aspirations one wishes to cultivate in their life.  Host Tonya Leigh reflects on the transformative power of simplifying life to create more meaningful experiences. After feeling overwhelmed by a packed schedule and material possessions, she poses a pivotal question: "What if I could do less but better?" This introspection leads her to select a guiding word for the year that embodies elegance, intentionality, and refined living. Tonya shares her journey of unplugging from work during the holidays, highlighting the importance of renewal and self-care. Join her as she explores the art of pursuing a beautiful life through intentional choices and a focus on quality over quantity. Talking Points: 00:31 - The Transformative Question 02:09 - Reflecting on Last Year 03:03 - Choosing the Word of the Year 04:08 - Importance of Deep Reflection 07:07 - Turning Frustrations into Opportunities 08:02 - The Concept of Essentialism 10:10 - Greg McCowan's Book on Essentialism 12:08 - The Impact of Too Many Choices 15:00 - Behind the Scenes of a Successful Business 17:01 - Applying Essentialism to All Areas of Life 17:55 - Questions for Exploring Essentialism Quotes: "What if I could do less but better?" "I made all of those decisions that led to me being in this moment with a lot of things to get done today." "Last year's frustrations are this year's opportunities." "It isn't about deprivation. It's about elevation. It's the art of elegant elimination." "Luxury is different for all of us. It does not mean designer handbags. It's a feeling." "There's something about this word that has convicted me at the deepest, deepest level." Useful  Resources: Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Click HERE for 2025 Essential Questions   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel      

Looking Back, Living Now, and Celebrating the Future: A New Year's Practice The "champagne mindset" is a transformative approach to life that encourages individuals to celebrate not only their successes but also the challenges they face. This mindset is rooted in the understanding that both victories and obstacles are essential components of personal growth and resilience. As we welcome the year 2025, Tonya shares her personal New Year's tradition of celebrating intentionally, emphasizing the importance of rewiring our brains to focus on positivity and possibility. She explains how our thoughts shape our focus and, ultimately, our lives. By embracing the champagne mindset, which combines celebration with resilience, listeners are encouraged to seek out extraordinary moments in everyday life and to celebrate both challenges and victories. Tune in to discover how this mindset can shift your perspective and enhance your journey towards your biggest goals. Talking Points: 00:41 - Reflecting on the Past Year 02:06 - Defining the Champagne Mindset 04:14 - Growth Through Challenges 06:00 - Authentic Goals and Self-Image 07:04 - Celebrating the Past 08:09 - Celebrating the Present 09:40 - The Science of Focus and Abundance 12:23 - The Be-Do-Have Model 14:09 - Taking Control of Your Story 15:03 - Celebrating the Future 19:00 - Aligning Actions with Future Success 20:06 - The Champagne Mindset in Practice 21:40 - Writing and Editing Your Life Story Quotes: "I call this the champagne mindset. It is an approach to life that combines celebration with resilience." "To create something you've never had, you have to become someone you've never been." "The more you celebrate life, the more life celebrates you." "You have to take control of your story. You have to take control of your narrative." "The brain has a difficulty distinguishing between vivid imagination and reality." Useful  Resources: Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel  

Embracing Enoughness: Transforming Your Mindset This Holiday Season An abundant self-image is fundamentally rooted in the belief that one's worth is expansive, regenerative, and independent of external validation or accomplishments. This perspective shifts the focus from a scarcity mindset—where individuals often feel inadequate or insufficient—to an empowering understanding of self-worth that is inherent and limitless. In this special Christmas Day episode of the School of Self-Image, host Tonya Leigh shares her heartfelt reflections on abundance and gratitude. After a morning of journaling, Tonya expresses her desire for every woman to experience the overwhelming joy she felt while making her morning coffee. Instead of a tangible gift, she emphasizes the importance of a mindset shift, proposing that the greatest gift she can offer is an abundant self-image. Join Tonya as she dives into the transformative power of self-perception and how it can lead to a more fulfilling life. Happy holidays! Talking Points: 00:32 - Christmas Day Reflections 01:26 - The Gift of an Abundant Self-Image 02:08 - Understanding Scarcity Mindset 03:01 - Shifting Focus to Abundance 05:57 - Physical Presence and Self-Image 07:02 - Relationships and Boundaries 09:29 - Expressing Needs  11:21 - Holding Multiple Truths 13:27 - Trusting Intuition  14:12 - Taking Risks Without Guarantees 16:09 - Aligning Opportunities with Values 18:38 - Spending with an Abundant Mindset 19:09 - Generosity Without Depletion 20:04 - New Year Wishes Quotes: "If I could walk up to your door, knock on it and give you a box and you open it, this year I would want that gift to be an abundant self image." "To me, they are proving the enoughness that I am wanting, that I am looking for." "An abundant self-image is you having the understanding of what you need and articulating that in a way that others then understand it." "Choosing based on what lights you up. That's such an abundant energy." "To me, it's also about investing in your personal growth without needing to justify every penny." "An abundant self-image is a woman who sees herself as enough, who sees the world as having enough, and who shows up in that state of enoughness."   Useful  Resources: Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel

From Postpartum Struggles to Unstoppable Confidence: A Conversation with Ellison Ward The significance of setting small, achievable goals emerges as a vital strategy for fostering confidence and momentum in personal development in this candid coversation with Ellison Ward. Ellison shares her transformative journey from feeling overwhelmed and trapped in a cycle of inactivity to embracing incremental changes that reshaped her life. Tonya Leigh welcomes Ellison Ward to discuss the transformative power of reinvention. Ellison shares her personal journey of overcoming postpartum depression and the struggles she faced in rediscovering herself. Tonya and Ellison explore the importance of community and support during times of change, highlighting how the School of Self-Image has played a pivotal role in Ellison's transformation. This episode offers inspiration and practical insights for women looking to embrace their own journeys of self-reinvention. Tune in to hear Ellison's remarkable story and learn how you too can embark on the path to rediscovery and empowerment. Talking Points: 00:31 - Ellison Ward's After Story 01:02 - Meeting Ellison in London 01:22 - Ellison's Background and Struggles 04:09 - The Challenge of Taking the First Step 04:47 - Overwhelmed and Anxious Feelings 07:48 - Advice for Women Feeling Stuck 10:12 - Building Confidence Through Small Wins 11:06 - The Importance of Community 13:08 - Identifying Limiting Beliefs 14:02 - Overcoming People-Pleasing 16:19 - Influence of Ellison's Grandmother 17:01 - Shifting Focus from Past to Future 19:34 - Echo Effect of Achieving One Goal 23:07 - Focusing on Energy and Health 24:58 - Enjoying Life's Pleasures 25:47 - Mastering Your Day 26:33 - Gratitude and Future Plans Quotes: "I thought, sink or swim, I gotta do this. There's no excuse." "I set small goals... those small goals get you to the big, and then you don't feel overwhelmed." "You just need one person in your life that offers you a possibility that you never thought would be possible." "Sometimes they want to fight with me on it. And I'm like, listen, you're going to thank me later." "If you want to master your life, master your day."   Useful  Resources: Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel  

Never Say Never: Rediscovering Joy in Everyday Moments Visualization is a powerful tool that can shape our reality by guiding us toward opportunities and success. By holding positive visions in our minds and allowing our brains to filter relevant information, we can create a pathway to achieving our dreams. Tonya Leigh's insights remind us that the journey is just as important as the destination, and by embracing the process with patience and excitement, we can manifest the life we desire. She shares her five biggest lessons from 2024 and emphasizes the importance of taking time to assess the past year and intentionally plan for the future, highlighting the significance of visualization as a tool for shaping reality. Tonya discusses her recent experiences while working on her upcoming membership and the annual workshop, The Curated Year, where members come together to plan and learn from their past. Join her for insightful reflections and practical takeaways to carry into the next year! Talking Points: 00:35 - Tonya's Five Biggest Lessons of 2024 01:08 - Annual Workshop: The Curated Year 01:29 - Reflecting on Last Year's Lessons 01:51 - The Power of Visualization 05:05 - Never Say Never 09:02 - Patience and Playing the Long Game 14:21 - Knowing Your Core Values 16:30 - It's Never as Hard as You Think 21:08 - It's Okay for People to Be Upset 24:34 - Looking Forward to New Lessons Quotes: "Dreaming and visualizing aren't just wishful thinking. They're powerful tools for shaping your reality." "There is power to visualizing what it is that you want and then letting go of how or if it's going to happen." "Life isn't linear. It's more cyclical. You may find yourself coming back to parts of yourself that you thought were long gone, but you've missed." "If you find yourself out of alignment, I want you to think about, do you know what your core values are?" "I want to see myself as capable of doing hard things and being a woman who is true to herself, who's authentic." Useful  Resources: Click HERE for my FREE Calm Meditation  Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel  

From Overwhelm to Calm: Redefining Your Holiday Season The holiday season often brings a whirlwind of activities, expectations, and societal pressures that can lead to feelings of overwhelm and stress. However, by embracing the concept of holiday essentialism, you can transform your experience into one that is joyful and fulfilling. This approach encourages you to focus on what truly brings you joy while letting go of obligations that do not serve you. Inspired by Greg McCowan's book "Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less," which encourages focusing on fewer but more meaningful activities, Tonya challenges listeners to ask themselves three key questions: What truly brings them joy during the holidays? What activities they do out of obligation? What memories they want to create? She discusses the societal expectations that can turn what should be a joyful time into a marathon of obligations. Tune in to discover how to shift your mindset and focus on what truly matters this holiday season, embracing the simple joys and calm instead of the chaos. Talking Points: 01:09 - Holiday Overwhelm and Societal Pressures 02:13 - Fear of Disappointing Others  04:36 - What is Essentialism? 05:39 - Question 1: What Truly Brings Me Joy? 06:34 - Question 2: What Am I Doing Just Because I Think I Have To? 07:50 - Question 3: What Memories Do I Want to Create? 08:33 - Shifting from Excess to Intention 09:55 - Editing Ruthlessly 14:06 - Mindfulness and Being Present 17:02 - Secret Santa and Charitable Giving 18:04 - Simplifying the Holidays 23:10 - Setting Boundaries for Social Commitments 24:03 - Prioritizing Connection Over Perfection 24:13 - Setting Intentions for the Holiday Season Quotes: "If holidays are not your thing, especially around this time of year, I challenge you to skip it altogether." "The shift in mindset with holiday essentialism is to move from access to intention and from pleasing others to cherishing moments." "Just because you've done something for years doesn't mean you have to continue doing it." "The holidays are not a performance and you don't have to be performative." "Shed the souffle. Seriously, let her go. You don't need to do it." "What people remember is how you made them feel." Useful  Resources: Click HERE for my FREE Calm Meditation  Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel  

Finding Joy in Life's Challenges: The Uncommon Gratitude Practice In our daily lives, we often encounter individuals who trigger strong emotional responses in us—whether it's frustration, anger, or discomfort. The common reaction is to distance ourselves from these people, believing that cutting them out will provide relief. However, as discussed in the podcast episode, this approach may lead to missed opportunities for profound personal growth. In this episode of the School of Self-Image, host Tonya Leigh explores the profound lessons that can be learned from the things we often take for granted, complain about, or try to avoid in our daily lives. As Thanksgiving approaches, Tonya emphasizes the importance of gratitude and celebration, arguing that these practices should extend beyond just one day a year. She reflects on how embracing gratitude has been a transformative principle in her life, helping her navigate challenges and create a life she loves. Drawing from a recent workshop, she shares insights on staying connected to our celebrations, highlighting how they can foster personal growth and joy. Join Tonya as she invites listeners to recognize and appreciate the unexpected sources of wisdom in their lives. Talking Points: 00:40 - Thanksgiving and Gratitude 02:06 - The Power of Celebration 03:11 - Practicing Gratitude in Hard Times 03:43 - People Who Trigger Us 07:04 - Learning from Triggers 10:06 - Embracing Failures 12:35 -Daily Annoyances 16:00 - Future Gratitude 22:34 - Showing Up for Your Dreams Quotes: "Gratitude has become a practice that I especially use during my hardest times." "I have come to view these people as my biggest teachers. I like to call them my pets. They're my personal emotional trainers." "I think the answer is to lean into it so we can learn from it and grow from it." "A lot of the lessons that we need to learn are going to be learned in the mistakes, not in the successes." "The next time you're annoyed, just ask yourself, is there anything in this that I could be grateful for?" "I have found that the anticipation is even better than the arrival." "If you come across just one podcast and you learn something that changes your life, I will feel like I have served my mission in life." "Be a woman who shows up for her dreams." Useful  Resources: Click HERE to join the Curated Year Workshop Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel  

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Calm, Cool, and Connected: Embracing a New State of Being One of the most crucial decisions we make daily is what she refers to as the "B decision." This decision centers on consciously choosing who we want to be in any given moment, regardless of the external circumstances we face. Host Tonya Leigh dives into the concept of the "B decision," which focuses on the essential question we should ask ourselves: "Who do I want to be right now?" Tonya highlights the importance of this decision in shaping our experiences and handling life's challenges. She reflects on the anxiety and frustration many people feel when they rely on external circumstances to dictate their state of being. Using a personal story from her recent trip to New York City, she illustrates how life's unpredictability can impact our emotions but emphasizes that we have the power to choose our responses. Tune in to explore how embracing the B decision can transform your mindset and lead to a more fulfilling life. Talking Points: 01:09 - The Importance of the B Decision 02:02 - Life's Unpredictability 03:06 - Conscious Choice of Emotions 04:10 - Balancing Professional and Personal Life 05:02 - Energy and Thoughts 05:45 - Trapped by External Changes 06:37 - Default Settings and Triggers 08:44 - Responding to Crisis 10:09 - Energy Shifts and Influence 11:56 - The Self-Image Pause 13:48 - Purposeful Emotional Choices 16:29 - Ripple Effect of Being 20:05 - Curiosity vs. Judgment 24:00 - Life Improvements Through Being 25:04 - Benefits of Calmness 25:36 - Calm, Cool, and Connected Quotes: "I asked myself, who do I want to be in this moment with nothing outside of me changing?" "Your beingness is the energy, the predominant energy that you are embodying in any given moment." "But you tell your brain, here's what we're doing. This is who we're being."  "I am becoming someone who takes immediate action." "Every thought you think and every action that you take is a vote for who you want to be." "I don't need the world to be different in order for me to be different. But when I be different, the world does change." Useful  Resources: Click HERE for the Week of Calm Workshop Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel

Transforming Your Life with Intentional Language Words have more power than we give them credit for, not only in copywritting but in our everyday lives.  This discussion revolves around the profound impact that words have on our mindset and actions. One of the key takeaways is the transformative power of shifting our language from "I want" to "I am." This simple change can significantly alter how we perceive our aspirations and ultimately influence our behaviors. Host Tonya Leigh welcomes special guest Jamie Palko, the behind-the-scenes copywriter for the School of Self-Image. Jamie shares her journey back to copywriting, highlighting the power of setting clear goals and the excitement of reconnecting with her passion. The conversation reflects on the serendipitous moments that brought Jamie to the podcast, where she first learned about the School of Self-Image. Join them as they explore the magic of wordsmithing and how it has brought them together in this full circle moment. Talking Points: 00:10 - Jamie's Full Circle Moment 01:32 - Jamie's Journey Back to Copywriting 02:23 - The Power of Words 04:55 - Transitioning Between Projects 05:16 - The Role of a Copywriter in Content Creation 05:47 - The Impact of Words on Personal Life 08:35 - The Shift from "I Want" to "I Am" 10:35 - The Energy of Words 12:17 - Words Carry Energy and Meaning 13:00 - The Pygmalion Effect and Setting Expectations 14:47 - Reframing Nervousness as Excitement 16:47 - Teaching Mindset to Children 19:05 - Speaking from Your Future Self 20:02 - Overused Words: Should and Overwhelmed 23:19 - Shifitng "Have to" to "Get to" 28:38 - Practicing New Ways of Speaking 32:47 - The Power of Words in Creating Your Life Quotes: "I really do feel like those words that I spoke to myself and wrote that down and really sort of lived and breathed those for those couple of months made this happen."  "Two little words, so much just deleting them gave me so much relief."  "You've planted her in this small pot. And you need to plant her in the forest and let her grow with the words you use." "Stop "should-ing" all over yourself." "Your words are creating your life and they're very, very powerful." "It was lovely to have this time talking to you and introducing myself to the world." Useful  Resources: Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel  

Vote for Yourself: Five Ways to Champion Your Dreams To truly champion yourself, it is essential to have a clear vision of what you want in life, much like political candidates who articulate their visions during campaigns. A well-defined vision serves as a guiding light, helping you navigate the complexities of your personal and professional journey. Host Tonya Leigh poses a thought-provoking question: What if you applied the same passion and conviction seen in political campaigns to your own dreams and aspirations? Tonya explores five powerful ways to become your own champion, encouraging listeners to "vote for yourself" with enthusiasm. She shares her recent experiences from the SOSI tour in Europe and expresses excitement for the final stop in New York, emphasizing the importance of community and setting intentions for the upcoming year. Tune in to discover how to champion your own goals and dreams! Talking Points: 01:29 - The Elephant in the Room: U.S. Election  02:24 - Cognitive Bias and Personal Growth 03:19 - Campaigning for Yourself 05:07 - Championing Your Own Vision 07:04 - Vision Questions and Exercises 10:07 - Avoiding Vision Shame 13:10 - Strong Beliefs and Convictions 18:09 - Finding Belief in Yourself 19:12 - Being Your Loudest Supporter 22:04 - Overcoming External Doubts 24:00 - The Power of Environment 25:47 - Writing Your Victory Speech Quotes:  "What if you brought the same passion, conviction, and unwavering belief that you often see in political campaigns to your own dreams and aspirations?" "Just allow yourself to dream." "Coaching is one of the best investments you will ever make in yourself. And I stand by that 1000%." "If you have to get up and look in that mirror every morning and be like, listen girl, here we go. Today's gonna be an amazing day. You know why? Because you are amazing." "What I've noticed is that when I just go within and I bet on myself, I evolve to the next level." "You have a vision for your life, you build your campaign promises, you become your own rally, you invest in your victory, and you build your dream team." Useful  Resources: Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel  

Finding Peace: Techniques to Release Attachments and Anxiety In the journey of personal growth and freedom, awareness serves as the foundational step. Becoming aware of our thoughts, emotions, and attachments is crucial for breaking free from the cycles of worry and anxiety that often trap us. Host Tonya Leigh dives into the transformative art of letting go, a topic she has passionately coached and personally navigated. Drawing from her own experiences and insights, Tonya emphasizes the importance of releasing attachments to ideas, people, and things, which can often lead to suffering and anxiety. She shares a pivotal moment during a vacation in Paris, where a friend's advice and the book "Awareness" by Anthony de Mello sparked a profound realization about the roots of unhappiness. Tune in to discover powerful techniques and wisdom from spiritual teachers and psychologists that can help you cultivate calm and break free from the cycle of worry. Talking Points: 01:19 - The Concept of Letting Go 01:39 - Awareness by Anthony DeMello 02:02 - Attachment Causes Suffering 03:29 - Happiness and External Factors 05:37 - Embrace Reality as It Is 06:19 - Importance of Self-Observation 07:34 - Love Without Attachment 09:10 - Letting Go of the Ego 10:19 - Letting Go of the Need for Approval 14:15 - Embracing Uncertainty 18:16 - Dedication vs. Attachment 20:55 - Fall in Love with the Practice 21:59 - Let Go of the Rope Quotes: "All of my suffering was because of attachment." "Happiness doesn't come from things outside of you." "I want everything for you. I need nothing from you." "All I need to do is let go. Just let go. And yet it's so hard." "The ability to just show up in the world as you truly are, sharing the things that you truly love, expressing yourself in a way that feels true to you, is the most freeing thing in the world." "The reason why you're suffering right now is most likely because you are attached to something or you fear losing something, which is also an attachment." Useful  Resources: Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel  

Mastering Productivity: Signature Work Habits with My Executive Assistant Beginning and concluding your day effectively are essential practices that can significantly influence your productivity and overall mindset throughout the workday. Tonya Leigh and her executive assistant, Abigail Schroeder, explore the importance of these two bookends of the day and how they contribute to a more effective and fulfilling work experience. Tonya opens the conversation by addressing a common question she receives: how she manages to get so much done. Tonya shares the story of how she found Abigail amidst over 500 applicants and highlights the importance of having a supportive team. Together, they explore effective work strategies, insights on collaboration, and the value of intuition in hiring.  Tune in to discover how to enhance your productivity and learn from Abigail's expertise in managing tasks and supporting a busy, thriving  executive by creating a positive, effective work environment. Talking Points: 01:53 - Role of an Executive Assistant 02:27 - Abigail's Responsibilities 07:04 - The Four Ds Framework 09:16 - Abigail's Signature Work Habits  10:51 - Starting Your Day Well 13:26 - Self-Awareness and Acceptance 16:01 - Knowing Your Strengths and Weaknesses 20:10 - Writing Everything Down 25:08 - Prioritize with Focus and Rest 31:14 - Diffuse Mode of Thinking 37:58 - Most Impactful Work Habit 39:33 - Company Culture  Quotes:  "My two main goals in my role is to optimize your time and to support the overall vision you have for the company." "If you're going to do it, don't do something and then be struggling and arguing with it."  "At any moment, you can do a U-turn and recommit, do whatever you need to do to get yourself back on track."  "It's just part of the human experience. We're not supposed to be great at everything." "You wouldn't expect yourself to be able to run a marathon without training for it, you know? And so we have to treat our brain the same way." "Ending your day well can look like, I don't know, cooking, hanging out with friends, going on a walk, playing a game." Useful  Resources: Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel    

Transform Your Workspace: Tools and Techniques for Enhanced Focus and Creativity Creating a productive environment involves establishing "micro-environments" tailored to different types of work, such as deep creative tasks or administrative duties. This concept is based on the understanding that our surroundings can significantly impact our ability to focus and produce high-quality work. Tonya Leigh shares her personal journey of navigating a busy season filled with travel, program launches, and the joy of productivity. After a summer of significant changes and commitments, including the SOSI tour and the launch of the style experience, Tonya reflects on the importance of creating a productive environment to enhance focus and effectiveness. She introduces the concept of "productive surroundings" and discusses strategies that have helped her manage her workload and achieve her goals. Tune in to discover how you can set yourself up for success and engage in deep, quality work amidst the distractions of the digital age. Talking Points: 00:39 - Life Update: Busy Season and Achievements 02:04 - Concept of Productive Surroundings 04:00 - Personalizing Productivity Strategies 04:43 - World of Constant Distractions 05:57 - Deep Work and Distractions 07:02 - Specific Goals for Deep Work Sessions 09:11 - Micro-Environments for Different Tasks 11:01 - Office as CEO Time 13:09 - Creative Brainstorming at Breakfast Table 16:00 - Asana for Project Management 18:29 - Power of Routine and Music 19:24 - Getting Dressed for Productivity 22:04 - Collaborative Work for Productivity 24:46 - Importance of Downtime Quotes: "There are seasons where you may work more, there may be seasons where you work less, but there is a harmony that I feel like we're all seeking." "I used to jump from task to task, always busy, but never really accomplishing anything substantial." "I went from being completely unproductive to being the most productive I've ever been and creating the most results I've ever created from the process that you teach." "Put your downtime on the calendar first, because if you don't, you will continuously push it to the back burner." Useful  Resources: Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel  

Finding Your Place: The True Meaning of Belonging True belonging begins with the acceptance and love of oneself, enabling you to show up authentically in any situation. This concept is central to the podcast episode, where Tonya Leigh emphasizes that belonging is not merely about fitting in or conforming to the expectations of others. Instead, it is about embracing your true self and cultivating a profound sense of acceptance from within. Tonya shares her recent experiences at the SOSI tour stop in L.A., highlighting the joy of connecting with a supportive community. She reflects on the common feelings of insecurity and social anxiety many of us face, especially when entering new environments. The episode is inspired by her journey to cultivate a sense of belonging and acceptance, starting from within.  Tune in to discover valuable insights on overcoming feelings of isolation and building genuine connections with yourself and others. Talking Points:   00:01:48 - The Essence of Belonging 00:03:25 - Need for Confidence and Connection 00:05:13 - Misconceptions About Belonging 00:05:45 - Authenticity and Confidence 00:08:47 - Vulnerability and Connection 00:10:04 - Embracing All Parts of Yourself 00:13:00 - Rejection is God's Protection 00:16:26 - Thoughts That Nurture Belonging 00:17:32 - Developing a Belonging Mindset 00:19:08 - Belonging in Luxurious Environments 00:20:26 - Taking Responsibility for Your Own Belonging 00:23:35 - Cultivating Belonging in Daily Life 00:25:09 - Celebrating Differences 00:26:13 - Challenge for the Week Quotes:  "It's like this is the essence of what we are all about. Women celebrating each other, sharing and supporting." "You will never belong in a group of people if you don't first belong to yourself."  "When you show up in that fullness of who you are, that's what really creates connection and true belonging." "You belong because you exist." "True belonging starts with you accepting yourself exactly as you are." Useful  Resources: Click HERE to join the 5-Day Style Challenge  Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel

From Ruts to Renaissance: How Style Can Change Your Life A style renaissance is not merely about updating your wardrobe or following the latest fashion trends; it is a profound journey of self-discovery and personal growth. In her podcast episode, Tonya Leigh emphasizes that true style comes from within and reflects who you are at your core. A style renaissance can help you rediscover your true self and use style as a powerful tool for self-expression. Tonya invites listeners to embark on a transformative journey through their style. She introduces the Style Experience, an annual program designed to help women redefine their approach to fashion and personal expression. Tonya shares her own struggles with understanding style, highlighting a common experience of trying to mimic trends without a true sense of self. The episode emphasizes the importance of an inside-out approach to style, encouraging listeners to explore how their wardrobe can empower and elevate their lives. Tune in to discover how this unique experience can facilitate personal growth and unlock your authentic style. Talking Points: 01:08 - Style Experience Transformation Journey 02:24 - The Deeper Questions of Style 04:10 - The Importance of Style in Personal Development 05:33 - Defining a Style Renaissance 06:16 - Rediscovering Your True Self Through Style 06:49 - Sign 1: Major Life Transition 08:14 - Sign 2: Being in a Rut 11:16 - Sign 3: Getting Dressed is a Chore 13:00 - Finding Joy in Getting Dressed 14:14 - Sign 4: Envy of Other Women's Style 15:30 - Sign 5: Hitting an Upper Limit 24:00 - No More Waiting for the Perfect Time 29:20 - Speeding Up Your Style Journey   Quotes:   "It never answered the deeper questions that come with a style journey, which is, who are you really?" "A style renaissance is a personal awakening, a rejuvenation, a rebirth of who you are in relationship to style." "Getting dressed is a form of self-care and self-expression. It shouldn't be a burden."  "I literally crawled out of my hole. I overcame an upper limit with style as one of the major tools in doing so." "I can look back and see how style has been responsible for so many of the opportunities that I have been blessed with."  "A style journey really is a journey back home to yourself." Useful  Resources: Click HERE to join the 5-Day Style Challenge  Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel

Dressing for You: How to Break Free from Style Myths and Embrace Authenticity Many individuals find themselves standing in front of a closet full of clothes, yet feeling as though they have nothing to wear. This common frustration often arises from a mindset that prioritizes an ideal body weight or shape over the current self. The belief that one must wait until they achieve a certain physical state before investing in their style is not only limiting but also counterproductive. Tonya Leigh discusses her own experience with what she describbes as the "waiting game." She recalls how she spent years convincing herself that she would invest in her style once she lost a certain amount of weight or reached a specific body shape. This mindset creates a cycle of negativity, where individuals continuously reinforce a narrative rooted in self-doubt and dissatisfaction.  As she explores her past and the lessons learned, Tonya encourages listeners to consider their own style choices and what they may have outgrown.  Join her for an inspiring discussion on embracing your unique style and stepping into your authentic self.   Talking Points: 00:00:37 - Tonya's Morning Motivation and Style Journey 00:01:43 - The Deep Connection Between Style and Self-Image 00:02:59 - The Style Experience: A Unique Approach 00:04:05 - Enrollment for The Style Experience 00:05:08 - Style Mistake #1: The Waiting Game 00:09:23 - Style Mistake #2: The Numbers Game 00:13:25 - Style Mistake #3: The Label Trap 00:18:25 - Style Mistake #4: Trapped by a Self-Image 00:22:40 - Style Mistake #5: The Knowledge Gap 00:28:18 - Conclusion: Embrace Your Style Journey Quotes: "Style may seem superficial on the surface, but in reality, it's so deep." "Everything you choose is confirming a story about yourself." "Waiting for the perfect body is like waiting for a train that never arrives." "The moment you stand up and you say, I'm no longer waiting to feel beautiful, to live the life that I want to live, that's when you get all of your power back." "Your style isn't defined by the quantity of your clothes, but how well they reflect and serve you." "Style is a skill. Like any skill, it can be learned, practiced, and improved upon." "True style is about being comfortable in your own skin and your life, not in someone else's expectations."   Useful  Resources: Join the 5 Day Style Challenge: https://schoolofselfimage.com/stylechallenge/  Join the Membership: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the Weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Instagram: @schoolofselfimage Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial  

Gentle Persistence: A Journey of Sauntering Towards Success Sauntering beyond your limits is a powerful approach that involves combining ambition with ease, playfulness with purpose, and approaching obstacles with curiosity rather than frustration. In the podcast episode, Tonya Leigh discusses how sauntering involves walking with purpose yet unhurried, being playful yet focused, and curious yet determined. This approach allows individuals to maintain a sense of calm and gratitude while pursuing their goals, even in the face of challenges. By sauntering beyond your limits, you are encouraged to adopt a mindset that values the journey as much as the destination. Instead of constantly pushing yourself to go faster and do more, sauntering allows you to explore your limits with a sense of curiosity and openness. When faced with obstacles, the sauntering approach encourages individuals to stop, assess the situation, and consider alternative paths or solutions. This contrasts with the typical hustle culture that promotes pushing through obstacles without taking the time to reflect or adjust course. Join Tonya as she discusses the power of taking a more relaxed and enjoyable approach to personal development and life. Talking Points: 01:41 - The Concept of Sauntering 02:24 - Visualization Exercise 03:17 - Sprinting vs. Sauntering 05:02 - Curiosity Over Frustration 06:28 - Expanding Limits 07:43 - Playful Exploration 08:46 - Creative Problem Solving 11:02 - Detaching from the Outcome 16:02 - Lessons from Nature 20:36 - Micro-Adventures 22:02 - Style Challenge  Quotes: "You know, we live in a world that's always telling us to push harder, go faster, do more. It's all hustle culture and no pain, no gain." "What can I learn from this obstacle? How can I work with it rather than against it?" "But a lot of successful people in the world have become successful because of their playful approaches to overcoming their limitations." "To truly saunter beyond your limits, you must practice detaching from the outcome." "You have the power to saunter beyond your limits. You can be ambitious and enjoy your life. You can make progress without burning out. You're capable of so much more than you know." Useful  Resources: Soul Style Quiz:  http://schoolofselfimage.com/stylequiz Join Now:  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the Weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Follow School of Self-Image on IG: @schoolofselfimage   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial  

Interior Design for the Soul: 5 Life Lessons to Elevate Your Self-Image One crucial aspect of embracing contrast in life is recognizing and integrating all facets of oneself, including the shadow side. Tonya Leigh explores the significance of embracing contrast in interior design and how it can be applied to life. Just as in design, where contrasting elements can add depth and richness, embracing the diverse aspects of our personalities enables us to explore neglected or denied facets of ourselves, fostering personal growth and self-acceptance. Tonya stresses the concept of the shadow side, a term introduced by psychologist Carl Jung, which refers to the darker, less desirable aspects of our personalities that we often try to conceal or suppress. She underscores the importance of not only showcasing our positive traits but also acknowledging and accepting the parts of ourselves that may not always be bright and cheerful. Tune in to explore the parallels between interior design choices and self-image transformation. Talking Points: 00:52 - Chaotic House and Podcast Recording 01:45 - Interior Design Lessons for Life 02:06 - First Impressions and Self-Image 03:09 - Designing Your Environment for Self-Image 04:40 - Creative Brief and Future Vision 06:10 - Curating Elements of Life 07:04 - Intentional Curation Beyond Physical Spaces 08:19 - Five Key Interior Design Principles 09:12 - Lesson 1: Embrace Contrast 13:20 - Lesson 2: Create Focal Points 19:15 - Lesson 3: Functionality is Essential 25:00 - Lesson 4: Embrace White Space 31:07 - Lesson 5: Don't Be Afraid of Making Mistakes 37:02 - Ongoing Process of Life Design 38:40 - Conclusion and Application 38:50 - Invitation to Soul Style Quiz Quotes:  "Just as we thoughtfully curate our living spaces, we can intentionally design our lives to reflect our truest selves and support our personal growth." "The key is to recognize that these contrasts aren't contradictions. They are complementary aspects of your whole self."  "We try to be good at so many different things versus really focusing and harnessing on the things that we're naturally good at." "Remember, just as white space and design allows important elements to stand out, creating space in your life allows priorities to shine through very clearly." Useful  Resources: Soul Style Quiz:  http://schoolofselfimage.com/stylequiz Join Now:  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join  FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/  Sign up for the Weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit  Follow School of Self-Image on IG: @schoolofselfimage   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

Quality Over Quantity: The Key to an Elegant Closet An elegant closet transcends mere clothing and accessories; it is about curating a selection that truly embodies your authentic style, meets your lifestyle needs, and brings you joy every time you open its doors. Tonya Leigh stresses the significance of crafting a closet that effortlessly reflects who you are. This involves meticulously choosing pieces that resonate with your personal style and values. When curating an elegant closet, it is crucial to consider not only the visual appeal of the items but also their practicality in meeting your daily lifestyle demands. The clothes and accessories in your closet should serve a purpose and align with the activities and occasions you typically engage in. By ensuring that your wardrobe is tailored to your lifestyle, you can feel confident and comfortable in your outfits, knowing that they cater to your needs. Get inspired to turn your closet into a personal sanctuary that truly reflects who you are. Talking Points: 00:44 - Tonya's New Home and Office 01:37 - Designing an Elegant Closet 03:03 - Four Essentials of an Elegant Closet 04:19 - Emotional Benefits of an Elegant Closet 04:30 - Inspiration from a French Friend 05:33 - Misconceptions About Elegance 05:55 - Soul Style Quiz 07:00 - Solving the "Nothing to Wear" Problem 07:21 - Easier Packing for Trips 08:25 - Investing in Timeless Pieces 10:22 - Challenge: Choosing Quality Pieces 16:02 - Personal Story: High Heels vs. Sneakers 20:09 - Organizational Tools and Tips 26:52 - Final Thoughts on Closet Curation   Quotes:  "When I was designing my closet, what I wanted was an elegant closet. And it turns out elegance isn't big. It's not massive. It's not over the top. It's about curating a closet that allows the beautiful expression of you."  "An elegant closet eliminates decision fatigue, it boosts your self-esteem, and it sets this positive tone for your day." "Because let me tell you, no amount of cheap thrills can fill the space that's meant for true quality pieces that resonate with your soul." "It is an intimate journey designed for the discerning woman who knows she's capable of more, but needs that extra guidance and inspiration." Useful  Resources:   Soul Style Quiz:  http://schoolofselfimage.com/stylequiz Join Now:  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join  FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/  Sign up for the Weekly Edit:  http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit  Follow School of Self-Image on IG:  @schoolofselfimage   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

Creating Harmony: The Art of Morning Rituals Creating a beautiful morning routine is not about overwhelming yourself with a long list of tasks but rather about being intentional with small parts of your day. Tonya Leigh believes a healthy morning ritual sets the tone for a successful day and starts with focusing on specific rituals that support your well-being and drive positive energy first thing in the morning. Tonya emphasizes the importance of starting the day with a capsule collection of non-negotiable activities that contribute to your overall well-being. These activities can vary from person to person but should be chosen based on what makes you feel better emotionally and sets you up for a successful day.  Join Tonya as she explores crafting your own beautiful beginnings for a more purposeful day. Talking Points: 01:24 - The Power of Morning Routines 02:08 - Intentional Small Changes 02:40 - Soft vs. Hard Mornings 05:01 - Capsule Collection Concept 05:33 - No Tech in the Morning 06:26 - Waking Up Naturally 07:09 - Better Sleep App 07:41 - Hydration and Music 08:46 - Sunshine and Stretching 09:18 - Honoring Life and Gratitude 11:51 - Family Time and Journaling 13:18 - Skincare Routine 15:05 - Meditation and Breath Work 17:04 - Soul Style Quiz - http://schoolofselfimage.com/stylequiz 19:44 - Decadent Breakfasts 22:04 - Structuring Beautiful Beginnings 23:11 - Creating Intentional Days Quotes: "I love how it feels when I'm not plugging into the world first thing in the morning because it's coming." "I love to honor my life. This is so important." "There's something to be said for asking yourself what you can give to your life versus always thinking, what can life give to me?"  "I really find that my soul is like an old world kind of soul."  "A beautiful life is nothing more than a collection of beautiful days." Useful  Resources:     Soul Style Quiz - http://schoolofselfimage.com/stylequiz   Join Now!  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join    FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/    Sign up for the  Weekly  Edit!  http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit     Follow School of Self-Image on IG:  @schoolofselfimage   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:     Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com     Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh       Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial     TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh        YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

The Art of Becoming: Navigating Life's Transformations Embracing the process of becoming involves shedding old identities, beliefs, and habits to align with one's true self. As discussed in the podcast episode, the journey of becoming is likened to a metamorphosis, much like a caterpillar transforming into a butterfly. This transformation requires individuals to let go of who they have been to become who they truly are or aspire to be. Host, Tonya Leigh, shares her personal experiences of going through various stages of becoming, including facing challenges, reevaluating her identity, and making intentional changes to align with her true nature. She emphasizes the importance of letting go of comfortable ways of being, confronting difficult truths about oneself, and being willing to evolve into a new version. Join Tonya as she delves into the process of shedding old identities and embracing new versions of ourselves. Talking Points: 02:32 The Art of Becoming 05:13 Letting Go of Identities and Beliefs 10:31 The Butterfly Metamorphosis Analogy 11:26 - Martha Beck's Change Cycle 16:17 Cocooning Yourself with Self-Care 19:30 Square One Mantra 23:34 Reimagining and Nourishing Your Soul 28:20 Embracing Failure and Obstacles 32:05 The Promised Land 36:45 Embracing Constant Change Quotes: "We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us." "This is the part of the butterflies metamorphosis where it's literally dissolving into what she calls a person soup." "Coming from the truest part of you, that takes a lot of courage and a lot of people will never do that." "I don't know what the hell is going on and that's okay." "I don't regret any of this, not a single part of it. I don't believe in regret." "You need to give yourself permission to daydream. Let it run wild." "That obstacle is there to grow me, not to back away from, not to run from, but to run towards." Useful Resources:     Join Now!  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join     FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/     Sign up for the  Weekly  Edit!  http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:     Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com     Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh       Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial     TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh        YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial  

Creating a Lasting Impression with Your Soul Style Understanding your soul style involves aligning your values, personality, passions, and dreams with your outward appearance. Host Tonya Leigh stresses the importance of knowing and embracing your soul style, which transcends mere clothing choices. She breaks down the components of soul style into four key elements: values, personality, passions, and dreams. By paying attention to how you feel in different outfits and embracing the evolution of your style, you can create a wardrobe that truly reflects your inner essence and makes you feel confident, comfortable, and authentic. Join Tonya as she delves into the journey of self-discovery and the significance of expressing your inner self through your personal style. Talking Points: 00:00:51 - Personal Update from Tonya  00:01:45 - Reflecting on Life and Belongings 00:03:00 - Understanding Soul Style 00:05:45 - Components of Soul Style 00:06:32 - Values and Their Impact on Style 00:10:05 - Personality and Style Expression 00:12:54 - Dreams and Future Self in Style 00:16:16 - Creating Your Style Cocktail 00:17:09 - Primary Style Archetypes 00:21:03 - Reflecting and Experimenting with Style Quotes:  "It's more about shedding layers to reveal the truth of who you are, the truth of your essence, the truth of your soul." "I love taking care of my beauty, and I have been ridiculed for that, and that's okay."  "What I want for you all is that you are showing up in a way that truly represents who you are at your deepest level, at your core." "Your soul style should make you feel confident, comfortable, and like you. It should feel like freedom." Useful Resources: 12-Week Private Podcast Series: https://schoolofselfimage.com/why/ FREE Training: https://schoolofselfimage.com/after/ FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: https://schoolofselfimage.com/edit/ Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

From Overwhelmed to Empowered: Transforming Your Style with Five Key Habits Celebrating 400 episodes! In this special episode, Tonya reflects on her podcast journey, starting from her first nervous recording to reaching this significant milestone. She shares the importance of pushing past self-doubt and critical voices to keep going. A heartfelt thank you to listeners and her team for the support.  Then, Tonya dives into ‘The Five Style Habits That Transformed My Life'. Intentional style habits play a crucial role in enhancing personal style, saving time, money, and energy, while boosting confidence and authenticity. In a podcast episode, Tonya Leigh discusses five key style habits that have elevated her life, highlighting their positive impact on overall well-being. Intentional Shopping with a Style Vision: Developing a clear style vision helps individuals make intentional shopping decisions, reducing impulse purchases and ensuring every item aligns with their personal style.  Daily Outfit Photos: Taking daily outfit photos and analyzing them with curiosity rather than criticism helps individuals understand what works for them.  Quarterly Closet Edits: Regularly reviewing and organizing the closet allows individuals to assess their wardrobe, identify items that no longer serve them, and make room for new pieces that align with their style vision.  Keeping Everything in Sight: Organizing the closet for maximum visibility helps individuals see and appreciate all their clothing items, reducing the feeling of having nothing to wear.  Practicing Gratitude for the Wardrobe: Cultivating gratitude for the current wardrobe fosters a positive relationship with clothing, leading to contentment and authenticity.  Tune in for an inspiring episode filled with gratitude, motivation, and style inspiration.  Talking Points: 03:09 Style as form of self-care. 05:56 Relationship with clothing and style. 11:09 Style habits for elevated life. 13:15 Creating a style vision. 18:36 Elevating style with daily photos. 26:36 Quarterly Closet Edits 31:47 Creating a sense of abundance. 35:30 Gratitude in building a wardrobe. 42:17 Elevating personal style and confidence.   Quotes: "I want to encourage you, I want to challenge you to think about style as a form of self-care." "Style has this trickle effect. Because it's not even about the clothes, it's about you and how you feel." "Clothing has helped me create the life that I'm living today." "I love the mantra of I'm letting this go so that something else better can take its place." "Gratitude can help us enjoy the process of evolving our style." Useful Resources: 12-Week Private Podcast Series: https://schoolofselfimage.com/why/ FREE Training: https://schoolofselfimage.com/after/ FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: https://schoolofselfimage.com/edit/ Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

Challenging the Status Quo: The Power of Asking Why One of the key themes discussed in the podcast episode is the importance of challenging the status quo by asking why and questioning what we have accepted as normal. Tonya Leigh emphasizes the significance of questioning the beliefs and norms that have been ingrained in us without critical examination. Tonya shares a personal anecdote from her childhood where she questioned the teachings in Sunday school, demonstrating her early inclination to challenge the status quo. She highlights how questioning the norms around her led her to develop a mindset of curiosity and critical thinking, which ultimately shaped her ability to challenge societal norms and expectations. Join her at the School of Self-Image where personal development meets style, and learn how the audacity to ask can open unexpected doors in your life and career. Talking Points: 01:00 - Gratitude Amidst Chaos 02:31 - Childhood Memories and Aspirations 04:17 - The Power of Asking: Transforming Lives 06:00 - Questioning Societal Rules and Norms 09:53 - Questioning Religious Teachings 10:12 - Fighting for Possibilities: How Can I? 12:27 - The Importance of Quality Questions 14:45 - Shifting Focus: From Limitations to Possibilities 16:08 - Overcoming Self-Sufficiency and Asking for Help 18:29 - The Role of Rejection in Asking 20:36 - Observing Others: The Power of Asking 23:02 - The ATM Machine Analogy 24:11 - Expansive Energy: The Audacity to Ask and Receive 25:09 - Invitation to Join the Private Podcast Series Quotes:  "Learning to ask the right questions of yourself and others can open doors you never knew existed." "If you have the audacity to ask, your life will begin to change in the most beautiful of ways." "Energy is everything, my friends, everything. Where your attention goes is where your energy is flowing." "I ask for help. I ask for what I want."  "The more willing you are to ask for what you want, are you also more willing to give without any kind of resentment?" "I want you to see you as an ATM machine."  "A beautiful life requires you." Useful Resources: 12-Week Private Podcast Series: https://schoolofselfimage.com/why/ FREE Training: https://schoolofselfimage.com/after/ FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: https://schoolofselfimage.com/edit/ Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial  

Failing Forward: Lessons in Style and Business Failure is often viewed negatively, but in this episode, Carmin and Sherry Black share with host Tonya Leigh their stories of failure and how they turned it into a stepping stone to success. Carmin explained how her business, Half United, faced a setback due to a manufacturing defect that resulted in a lawsuit. She realized that the failure was not solely due to external factors but also stemmed from her own decisions and priorities.  Similarly, Sherry Black shared her experiences of encountering obstacles and setbacks in her career as an interior and furniture designer. From relocating from Hawaii to Alaska to launching restaurants in Raleigh, Sherry faced various challenges along the way. However, she emphasized the importance of embracing failure and using it as a learning experience.  Both Carmen and Sherry's narratives illustrate the significance of embracing failure as a stepping stone toward success. By acknowledging their mistakes, learning from them, and making necessary adjustments, they were able to evolve, grow, and ultimately achieve their goals. Their stories serve as a reminder that failure is not the end but a valuable opportunity for growth and improvement in future endeavors. Talking Points: 02:45 Stylish careers. 05:15 Childhood fascination with glamorous decor. 09:42 Fashion faux pas anecdote. 14:32 Individuality and self-expression. 18:34 Starting a business with $200. 24:05 Bullets turned into jewelry. 28:39 Overcoming failure and resilience. 30:40 Manufacturing challenges and growth decisions. 38:33 Embracing challenges for growth. 44:25 The impact of personal style. 52:13 Taking risks in business. 59:25 Experience stacking. 01:05: Entrepreneurial mindset and resiliency. 01:16: Signature style preferences. 01:22: Mr. Rogers obsession. 01:23: The value of simplicity. 01:27: Setting daily goals for success. 01:30:58 Imagine possibilities beyond limits. Quotes: "Yeah. Yeah, Christian, my brother and I, when we started our first brand, we had no money. I am talking no money. Big money buying mugs from Salvation Army." "You can still look chic in your workout Clothes, you know a cute little ponytail and put on some lip gloss and you've changed the whole vibe." "Style is timeless and it starts with you." Useful Resources: 12-Week Private Podcast Series: https://schoolofselfimage.com/why FREE Training: https://schoolofselfimage.com/after FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto Sign up for the weekly Edit: https://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial  

Unleashing Your Inner Style: My Summer of Self-Expression Style is not just about clothing and accessories; it is a powerful tool for self-expression that can transform how we experience the world. In the podcast episode, Tonya Leigh discusses how style goes beyond fashion choices and can impact various aspects of our lives. She emphasizes that style is a mindset that can influence how we express ourselves and interact with the world around us. Tonya Leigh shares her personal journey of how embracing style has changed her life and helped her become more confident and intentional in her self-expression. By paying attention to the details of her style choices, she has been able to rewrite her story and create a more joyful and fulfilling life. Join Tonya on this journey of self-discovery and learn how style can be a powerful tool for personal growth and transformation. Talking Points: 00:52 - Designing Your Dream Summer 01:46 - How Style Changed My Life 03:01 - A Decade of Study and Exploration 03:23 - Diana Vreeland: Inspiration and Creativity 04:18 - Why Don't You: New Private Podcast Series 06:05 - Joyful Self-Expression 07:20 - Attracting Like-Minded People 08:18 - Dressing with Intention 12:45 - Telling Your Story Through Style 16:26 - Style Evolution and Growth 18:03 - Daily Attention to Details Quotes: "What if the secret to a more joyful, confident life was hidden in the details you've been overlooking?" "I want to use style to help birth this next version of me." "You have to be willing to repel people." "Your style choices are telling a story about who you are and who you aspire to be. Style is your visual autobiography." "I used to think happiness was a fairy tale forever, just out of reach. I felt stuck a lot of the times helpless and like I was constantly failing." "Perhaps that last point is the most important because I've found that if we're not mindful, we can get so caught up in the big, the big goals."   Useful Resources: 12 Week Private Podcast Series:  https://schoolofselfimage.com/why FREE Training: https://schoolofselfimage.com/after FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto Sign up for the weekly Edit: https://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial  

Emotional Residency: Packing Up Your Life for Joyful Reinvention Assessing what parts of our lives we are ready to leave behind and what we want to bring along as we move forward is a crucial aspect of personal growth and transformation. In a podcast episode, Tonya Leigh discusses the process of packing up her belongings as she prepares to move to a new house. This physical act of packing serves as a metaphor for the emotional and mental process of evaluating what serves us and what no longer aligns with our current goals and values. She emphasizes the importance of being intentional about what we choose to bring along on our journey. This includes not only physical items but also emotional baggage, old beliefs, and outdated thought patterns. By taking the time to assess these aspects of our lives, we can make conscious decisions about what to let go of and what to hold onto as we move forward. Join Tanya as she shares her own emotional journey of packing up her current home and moving into a new chapter. Talking Points: 00:30 - Introduction to Packing Up and Moving On 05:30 - Emotional Baggage and Letting Go 10:33 - Sunken Cost Fallacy and Letting Go 15:19 - Packing Up for the Future 18:41 - Moving into a New Chapter 22:47 - Joyful Reinvention through Packing Up and Moving On Quotes: "This has been about me deciding what parts of myself I'm ready to leave behind, what things I'm ready to let go of, and equally, what I'm ready to move towards." "I had divorce papers, I had emails, I had things that when I read them, I was like, oh my goodness, like, who was I and who was my ex because we both had grown up." "Does this spark joy? Does this belong in my future? Does this excite me? Does this align with my values? Does it represent who I am today?" "Your brain doesn't know what it's like to walk through the world feeling like you are deserving." "I believe that packing up and moving on, whether it's metaphorically or it's reality, is one of the most powerful tools for joyful reinvention." "But then I discovered a simple shift. Or three, that changed everything."   Useful Resources: FREE Training: https://schoolofselfimage.com/after FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial