The Divorce Chapter

Send us a textDivorce didn't just break your heart…. it f*cked with your body too. In this raw episode, we explore how trauma impacts your nervous system, your gut, your energy, and how to start healing from the inside out.Ever felt like divorce didn't just break your heart…. but also wrecked your body?Same. Same.In this powerful and honest episode, I'm talking about the side of healing no one ever warns you about… when trauma shows up in your nervous system, your gut, your energy, your immune system, and your ability to function like a normal bloody human.After being diagnosed with Crohn's disease following the stress of my divorce, I realised what so many of us are living through…. ⚠️ Constant fight/flight/freeze/fawn ⚠️ Anxiety in the body ⚠️ Fatigue, flare-ups, inflammation ⚠️ Shame about not “bouncing back” fast enoughThis episode talks you through… 

Send us a textThinking about divorce or already knee-deep in it? Family lawyer Rebecca Baker joins me to break down what you really need to know about the legal side…. no jargon, just truth.In this episode, I'm joined by the brilliant Rebecca Baker from Rucklidge Law Limited to break down what you actually need to know when it comes to the legal side of divorce.We chat about the emotional chaos that comes with the paperwork, how to protect your peace during the process, and what to do if you're feeling totally overwhelmed by the idea of solicitors, forms, or facing court.Rebecca shares LOADS of insight… on no-fault divorce, how to handle the “amicable” stage without getting screwed over, and when to get legal advice before things go sideways. Whether you're just thinking about separating or already knee-deep in the process, this one is packed with practical tips and grounded support.

Send us a textEver catch yourself thinking, “Why the f*ck am I STILL not over this damn divorce?” Yeah. I was the same. In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on secondary gains ... .those sneaky little perks your brain weirdly gets from staying stuck in the pain. Attention, avoidance, drama, validation... It's like emotional junk food, and unfortunately, your brain LOVES it.In this episode I walk you through:

Send us a textWhat do you get when you mix:an unexpected pregnancy at 22a sh*tstorm of a breakupa house she refused to loseand some serious don't-mess-with-me energy?You get Hayley bloody Keeber…. business simplification strategist, ex-single mum, multi-business boss, and walking proof that your plot twist can be your power move.In this juicy episode, Hayley joins me to talk about how she went from overachieving young mum with the weight of the world (and nursery fees bigger than her mortgage) to running not one, but two successful businesses…. all while managing three kids, a marriage, and a serious case of "I will not settle for basic."We talk:

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Send us a text“You're not a cautionary tale. You're the fucking heroine.”In this episode of The Divorce Chapter, we're flipping the script on one of the biggest unspoken struggles of post-divorce life: judgement..... from others, from society, and most heartbreakingly, from ourselves.I go all in on the shame-soaked double standards that women face after divorce and tear them apart with equal parts rage, humour, and raw truth.From pitying glances to school-gate micro-judgements, to the social media algorithm demoting you to “unpartnered and problematic,” this is the episode that says out loud what so many of us have been quietly carrying.We're talking:

Send us a textYou think you're through it. You've done the therapy, the crying in Sainsbury's car park, the awkward first dates, and the bad hair phase. You've moved on. And then….. BAM…. years later, you bump into the ex-husband at a family do, and it hits you: the long echo of divorce is still reverberating a tiny bit in your chest.In this episode, we're talking about that sudden rush of sadness/weirdness/nostalgia that can show up long after divorce…. often triggered by a totally innocent moment (like your grandson pointing out that “Daddy's Mummy and Daddy's Daddy are both here!”). It's bittersweet, sometimes funny, always human …. and you're not alone in feeling it.In this episode, we look at……

Send us a textIn this week's episode, we're cracking open the metaphorical novel of your life post-divorce….. and spoiler alert: it's time to stop re-reading the old chapters (yes, even the dramatic ones where your ex turned into a plot twist nobody asked for).I look at the real reason you might feel stuck after your split: you're clinging to a story that no longer serves you. And while it's totally human to go full FBI agent on your past (“Was it the weird work trip?” “That sketchy ‘friend'?”), the truth is….. those pages are toast. Burnt. Gone. No amount of literary detective work is going to rewrite the ending.But here's the plot twist YOU do get to write: the one where you become the main character again.✨ We're ditching the sad reruns and tackling:✍️ Why your brain keeps rereading the bad chapters of your old life✍️ How terrifying (and freeing) a blank page really is✍️ Why rewriting your story doesn't mean erasing the past… but owning the pen now✍️ And how to create a badass next chapter with you as the heroine (main character activated ⭐)So if you've ever found yourself staring at the blinking cursor of your future thinking, “Well, fuck. Now what?”......this one's for you.

Send us a textIn this episode, we're going all in on a topic so many of us struggle with…. control. After divorce, it's SO tempting to try and manage everything….. the ex, the narrative, the emotions, even the future. But the truth is control is actually an illusion.So we're unpacking…. ✔️ What controlling behaviour looks like after divorce (Hint: You might not even realise you're doing it!) ✔️ Why we try to control…. is it love, ego, or just fear of the unknown? ✔️ How control actually hurts you…. mentally, emotionally, and physically. ✔️ How to let go and reclaim your peace…. because you deserve to focus on YOU, not him. ✔️ The transformation that happens when you stop trying to control the uncontrollable.From social media stalking (we've all been there!) to emotional bargaining, I break it down just how control sneaks into your post-divorce life and why loosening your grip might just be the most freeing thing you do.We go in on:✨ Why controlling your ex or the situation is actually draining your energy.✨ The difference between ego-driven control vs. genuine desire to reconnect.✨ The truth about why fear of the unknown keeps you stuck.✨ A mindset shift that will help you release control and find peace.So, grab your coffee (or wine…. no judgment here), and let's talk about why letting go is your superpower.Hope you enjoy (and if you do, PLEASE rate and review ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐)Loads of Love,Sarah x

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Send us a textIn this powerful episode, I chat with Liz Clark, a divorce coach and founder of Heal Your Heart Too, about her intense healing journey post-divorce. Liz opens up about her toxic 18-year marriage, the impact of religion on her relationship, as well as how divorce became the catalyst for her personal growth. She shares how grief, trauma, and self-doubt shaped her experience….. and how she transformed pain into empowerment. Through self-love, therapy, boundaries, and creative healing like art and music, Liz has built a new, fulfilling life.This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating post-divorce healing, struggling with self-worth, or looking for inspiration to rebuild a life they love.Key Topics Discussed:✔️ Liz's journey through an 18-year toxic marriage and painful divorce.✔️ The impact of religion, grief, trauma, and feeling unseen in a relationship.✔️ Breaking free from conditional love and rediscovering self-worth.✔️ The importance of boundaries and emotional healing.✔️ Art, music and creative expression as tools for healing.✔️ The power of self-love and trusting yourself through divorce.✔️ Forgiveness, closure, and learning to let go for inner peace.Powerful Quotes from Liz:

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Send us a text"Who knew AI could be your divorce recovery bestie?"In this episode of The Divorce Chapter, we're going all in on a topic you probably never expected…. how AI can actually help you survive and THRIVE after divorce. Yep, AI isn't just for tech nerds and sci-fi fans….it's got tools that can help with everything from emotional healing and co-parenting to dating and rebuilding your future.

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Send us a textIt's January, it's grey and cold, and if you're anything like me, you're on your third cup of tea before noon and wondering if it's socially acceptable to hibernate until April. Post-Christmas blues, crap weather, and the lingering chaos of divorce…. it's not exactly the vibe, is it?BUT… (and there's always a but)… there's a way out of this dreary rut, and it starts with a choice.You can wallow like a whale in a pity party for one (been there, babes). Or you can choose something better. Something that lights you up. Something that takes that gorgeous vision for your life and turns it into actual, real-life magic ✨That's what this week's episode is all about: how to stop dreaming and start doing. I'm giving you a foolproof roadmap to turn your post-divorce vision into reality with the help of something fabulous: SMARTER goals and tiny, unsexy-but-powerful steps.Here's what's inside: 

Send us a textDivorce is tough… there's no sugar-coating it. But here's the truth no one tells you: it's also a chance to start over, to wipe the slate clean, and to create a life that feels unapologetically YOU.This week on The Divorce Chapter podcast, we're diving into exactly that: how to create your next chapter after divorce….. a chapter filled with joy, purpose, and a vision that lights you up inside.I know how hard it can be to figure out what you want when life feels like it's been turned upside down. That's why I'm sharing practical tools to help you dream big and start turning those dreams into reality.✨ Here's a sneak peek of what's inside:How to use the “Perfect Day” exercise to map out your dream life.Why jealousy might actually be your best compass for discovering what you really want.How to stop giving a flying f*** about what other people think…. this is YOUR story, not theirs.The tools and tricks that helped me go from survival mode to living a life that feels right for ME.Remember, you hold the pen in your hand. You get to write this next chapter exactly the way you want. And trust me, it's going to be amazing.Sending you so much love and big dreams,Sarah x

Send us a textAh, Twixtmas. That magical time of year when no one knows what day it is, we're all living off leftovers, and PJs become acceptable all-day attire. It's my absolute favourite week…. but it's also the time I left the ex-husband.December 28th. A day etched in my memory. For me, it was a whirlwind of grief, anger, relief, and uncertainty. For him? I imagine it was completely different. And here's the thing: that one day, that same event, was experienced completely differently by everyone involved…..me, the ex, and my kids.That's the thing about divorce…. it's never one story. It's a million stories told through different lenses. Your version, your ex's version, your kids' version, your family's version... and none of them will ever be the same.This week on The Divorce Chapter podcast, I'm diving into why we all process divorce differently, how our unique lenses shape our experiences, and why it's time to stop caring what others think.In this episode, we're exploring: ✨ Why your version of divorce is different from anyone else's (and why that's okay). ✨ How our experiences are shaped by the unique lenses we see life through…. our upbringing, beliefs, and relationships. ✨ Why you don't need validation from anyone else for how you feel or the choices you've made. ✨ How to embrace YOUR story, YOUR way, as you start writing your next chapter.This isn't about replaying the past…. it's about owning your narrative and stepping into your power. As we approach 2025, it's time to give yourself permission to stop caring what anyone else thinks and create a future that's true to YOU.As we head into a new year, give yourself permission to let go of the pressure to explain, justify, or validate your choices. Your story, your journey, your truth. That's all that matters.Sending you strength, love, and leftover cheese this Twixtmas,Sarah x

Send us a textIt's Santa Season again…. the season of tinsel, turkey, and to-do lists longer than a John Lewis queue on Christmas Eve. And if you're anything like me, you're probably feeling the energy drain kicking in already.Because let's face it… Christmas post-divorce is a lot. There's the emotional rollercoaster, the endless logistics, the awkward family gatherings, and let's not forget dodging those mood hoovers who suck the life out of you faster than a hoover plugged into a turbocharger.But here's the thing, Christmas doesn't have to leave you feeling like a wrung-out dishcloth. This week on the podcast, I'm diving into how to manage your energy at Christmas… because protecting your peace isn't just a nice idea, it's absolutely essential this time of year.

Send us a textAh, Christmas. A time for joy, tinsel, turkey… and a little extra emotional chaos if you're navigating the post-divorce version of Santa Season

Send us a textYep, it's that time of year…. The smell of cinnamon everywhere, matching PJs (even on the dog) and Mariah on f*cking repeat…. but if you're navigating Christmas post-divorce, it can feel more f*ck f*ck f*ck than ho ho ho. I get it. Whether it's the thought of solo family get togethers, lonely nights, or new traditions, this season hits different. But here's the thing…. different doesn't have to mean bad. In fact, it could be the start of something better.In this episode, I'm spilling all the tea on how to survive…. and even thrive….. This Christmas. We're talking: 

Send us a textIn the spirit of “Santa Season,” this episode looks at one of the most frustrating, nerve-shredding parts of divorce: trying to communicate with the ex. Yep, the person you once shared years of conversations and traditions with now feels like a complete stranger….or worse, someone who couldn't give a sh*t about you.And then Christmas comes along, with its extra sprinkling of chaos: holiday schedules, kids' presents, money issues, and endless logistics. It's a minefield wrapped in tinsel, isn't it? But don't worry….I've got you covered.This week, I'm sharing real, practical strategies to help you manage the “new normal” of ex-communication, especially when emotions are running high. We'll talk about:The car screamFinding healthy outlets for your emotionsWritten communication tipsHandling narcissistic exesUsing tone and humourIf you've ever wondered how to get through this holiday season without throwing tinsel (or a tin of Quality Street) at their head, this episode is for you. I'd love to hear what you think….. If you find the episode helpful, it would mean the world to me if you left a review or shared it with someone who might need it

Send us a textAre you ready to ditch the numbing traps and face the emotional rollercoaster of divorce like an absolute boss? In this episode of The Divorce Chapter, we're going into the concept of emotional sobriety….aka your new divorce superpower.  ✨ We start with a sprinkle of inspiration from Wicked in honour of the movie coming out in the UK, because, yes, even Elphaba has lessons to teach us about resilience, truth, and rising above the BS (hello, narcissistic wizards

Send us a textDivorce can feel like a battlefield, but nothing cuts deeper than when an ex manipulates your own children to turn them against you.In this follow-up episode of The Divorce Chapter, we're tackling one of the most painful and complex issues in high-conflict divorces—when your ex uses your own children as weapons. Last week, we talked about exes who manipulate family and friends. This week, we're diving deep into the heartbreaking reality of parental alienation.Parental alienation is when one parent manipulates the children into rejecting, distrusting, or emotionally distancing themselves from the other parent. This episode breaks down what parental alienation looks like, the emotional damage it causes, and how to navigate the devastating toll it takes on you and your relationship with your kids—whether they're young children or adults.I share insights on:

Send us a textWelcome back to The Divorce Chapter where we rewrite the divorce plot twist ✍️ In this episode, we're tackling something that can make divorce feel like a never-ending battle….when your ex tries to turn family, friends, and mutual acquaintances against you. Divorce is hard enough, but dealing with an ex who manipulates those around you takes it to a whole new level. This episode is all about understanding these toxic tactics and finding ways to protect yourself.We'll cover:- Flying Monkeys: Just like in The Wizard of Oz, these are people your ex recruits to spread misinformation, manipulate, or guilt-trip you, often without knowing the full picture.- Triangulation: How your ex might play people off each other, creating sides to keep you isolated and confused.- How to Spot the Tactics: Recognising when family or friends suddenly become distant, share personal details they shouldn't know, or start relaying your ex's narrative.- Steps to Protect Yourself: From setting boundaries and documenting everything to emotionally detaching from the drama, I share practical strategies to regain your peace and strength.If you're facing an ex who's manipulating the people around you, this episode will help you recognise these tactics, protect your mental health, and take back your power.And next week, we're diving into Part 2 on managing things when your ex turns the kids against you. Don't miss it!I hope the episode is useful for you.And whilst we're talking empowerment we're a couple of chapters in to November's book over in the Divorce Book Club.How to Heal a Broken Heart: From Rock Bottom to Reinvention *via ugly crying on the bathroom floor, by Rosie Green

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Send us a textHello and welcome to this week's episode where I'm super delighted to introduce you to Amanda Bell. Amanda is a divorce lawyer by background, and with her co-founder Victoria, has created an AMAZING, affordable platform designed to help you navigate the entire divorce process with confidence and clarity. Whether you're facing legal challenges, co-parenting with a high-conflict ex, or trying to get a handle on your finances, Separate Space offers expert guidance every step of the way.You can check out Separate Space website here: https://www.separatespace.co.uk/And their Instagram here:https://www.instagram.com/separatespace/In the episode we go into:- The concept behind Separate Space: an accessible tool designed to empower individuals with the information and resources they need to navigate divorce.- Why divorce impacts every part of your life, not just the legal side, and how the Separate Space platform helps manage both the emotional and practical aspects of the process.- How Separate Space offers a personalised pathway for your unique divorce journey, helping you handle everything from financial planning to co-parenting dynamics, even if you can't afford one-to-one legal advice right now.- The importance of understanding your financial situation, why pensions matter, and how to protect yourself legally during a separation.- Amanda's advice for anyone facing a sudden or complex divorce: get informed, take control, and don't rush into decisions without understanding the long-term impact.I honestly can't recommend this platform enough - I WISH I'd had something like this…. It really is a torch in the divorce shitstorm

Send us a textIn this episode, I'm unpacking what a trauma bond is, how they form, and—most importantly—how you can break free from one. If you've ever felt trapped in a toxic relationship where you know it's bad for you but you just can't seem to let go, this episode is for you. Trauma bonds are emotional ties that form in abusive relationships, keeping you hooked even when you know it's hurting you.We're going to talk about:- What a trauma bond actually is (think emotional addiction).- How they develop through a cycle of abuse and reconciliation.- Why breaking free is SO hard, but also absolutely necessary.I'll walk you through seven steps to start untangling yourself from a trauma bond, from creating physical and emotional distance, to rebuilding your self-worth, and even rewiring your brain to break the addictive cycle. We'll also touch on how to grieve the loss of the relationship, and why sometimes we need professional help to get through it.If you've been struggling to let go of a toxic ex, this is your episode. I promise, you're not alone, and with the right tools and mindset, you can move on and reclaim your life.I'd love to hear what you think….. If you find the episode helpful, it would mean the world to me if you left a review or shared it with someone who might need it.

Send us a textIn honour of World Mental Health Day on 10 October 2024 and the theme of: “It is time to prioritise mental health in the workplace”In this week's episode, we're looking at a topic that doesn't get nearly enough attention: how divorce can impact your work and career.If you've ever felt like you're expected to just "keep going" at work while dealing with the emotional shitshow of a breakup, you're not alone.In this episode, I talk about:

Send us a textIf you've ever felt lost, wondering “Who am I now?” after your marriage ended, trust me…you're not alone. Let's be real: divorce can shake us to our core, leaving us feeling like we've lost sight of who we truly are. We spend years filling roles like ‘wife,' ‘mother,' or even ‘perfect partner,' and often forget the badass woman we once were.But here's the good news: divorce is your chance to reinvent yourself, and in this episode, I'm diving deep into exactly how to do that.We explore how to shed the labels that no longer serve you and embrace the most empowered, authentic version of yourself. I'm talking about stepping into your new identity with confidence and fierceness, like Beyoncé stepping into Sasha Fierce

Send us a textIn this week's episode of the Divorce Chapter, I dive deep into the topic of emotional affairs and the ‘silent' betrayal. While physical affairs often steal the spotlight, 'invisible' emotional betrayal can be just as devastating, if not more so. I explore how these affairs often start as innocent friendships, slowly evolving into something more significant, ultimately crossing boundaries of trust and intimacy. We'll discuss the signs of an emotional affair, the betrayal it represents, and the lasting impact it can have.But most importantly, I focus on how we can heal after discovering an emotional affair. If you've walked away from a cheating partner, I share tools for validating your emotions, rebuilding trust in yourself, and creating a new future. Whether it's self-compassion, setting boundaries, or finding closure within yourself, healing is possible—and I'm here to guide you through the process. Let's talk about reclaiming your power, because you deserve better

Send us a textHave you ever felt like you're stuck in a loop after your divorce? Replaying the past over and over again? Wondering why it's so hard to let go and move forward?In this episode, I get real about the emotional and psychological blocks we face post-divorce—fear of loneliness, guilt, shame, and that never-ending “what if” thinking.I've been there, too. I know how hard it can be to stop reliving the past and start embracing the future. That's why I'm diving deep into why these blocks happen and, more importantly, how to kick them to the curb so you can truly move on.Here's what you can expect from this episode:- The fear of being alone and why it keeps us clinging to the past- How guilt and shame show up and block our growth- The “what if” trap and why it makes moving on feel impossible- Practical tools like cord cutting and mindset shifts to help you reclaim your lifeI'd love to hear your thoughts after you listen! Do let me know which block resonates with you the most, and what you're doing to overcome it. We're all in this together, and I'm here to support you every step of the way.I hope you take something away from the episode, and please, if you do enjoy it, please please please help a gal out and rate and review the episode! Thank you

Send us a textOK so this week is a bit of a hopefully powerful, but definitely no-holds-barred conversation about reclaiming your strength and exposing male privilege in relationships. I may go ever so slightly off-piste on my soapbox (!) but I genuinely feel that it is important that we talk about this stuff.We talk in the episode about how male privilege impacts not just relationships, but society as a whole. What are the ‘modern' views on gender norms? And what does this mean for power and control of women? We touch on issues like the rise of the "trad wife" trend and how societal shifts still struggle to break free from patriarchal values.Using the Power and Control Wheel, we look at the influence of male privilege in abusive dynamics and how this can fuel this control over women - but also how this is almost facilitated by our societal culture. As a bit of an intro to all of this, we also touch on why Friday the 13th is secretly a day of female power (and how to reclaim it!)

Send us a textEver wish you could rewrite the past? Sadly, we can't turn back time, but we can definitely rewrite our future—and that's exactly what we're diving into today. In this episode, I break down Dr. Ramani Durvasula's game-changing book, “It's Not You”. This book is an absolute MUST-read if you've ever found yourself tangled up with a narcissist, whether it's an ex, a parent, or even a boss. In this overview of the book, we pull out the different types of narcissism, and look at  how to identify these toxic traits; as well as the devastating impact they can have, and most importantly, how to reclaim your life. If you're ready to stop playing the narcissist's game and start writing your own story, this episode is for you. I hope you take something away from the episode, and please, if you do enjoy it, please please please help a gal out and rate and review the episode! Thank you

Send us a textAfter a divorce, many of us expect the worst of our emotional struggles to be over. But, as I've come to understand through my own journey and conversations with others, the first relationship after a divorce can bring a heartbreak that's unexpected and uniquely f*cking painful.In this episode, I dive into why this post-divorce heartbreak can feel even more intense than the divorce itself. I explore the emotional layers involved, from unresolved trauma to the pressures we put on ourselves to find happiness again. Most importantly, I discuss ways to navigate this pain and use it as a catalyst for healing and growth.I hope you take something away from the episode, and please, if you do enjoy it, please please please help a gal out and rate and review the episode! Thank you

Send us a Text Message.In this episode of "The Divorce Chapter" podcast, I reflect on the challenges of coping with anniversaries after a divorce. As someone who's been through the utter shitshow of a marriage ending, I know first-hand how difficult these days can be, especially in that first year. Anniversaries, such as your wedding date or other significant milestones shared with your ex, can bring a FLOOD of emotions—sadness, anger, or even a sense of loss for the future you once planned.I delve into why these dates are so emotionally charged, and how they can trigger feelings of grief and nostalgia. I also share my own experiences with significant anniversaries, like how I dealt with my first wedding anniversary post-divorce by escaping to Cyprus and then making a decision to change my goddamn life.Hopefully you'll be able to get a few ideas too about how to plan ahead to reclaim the date and reclaim gorgeous YOU ❤️In the episode, I also celebrate a new anniversary - the first one of this podcast. I never ever thought I'd be saying that but here we are and it's all thanks to you as a wonderful listener.Thank you thank you thank you

Send us a Text Message.In this episode, I look into the often-overlooked signs of abuse in relationships (after touching on Betrayal Blindness too). Abuse isn't always obvious; it can be subtle, manipulative, and deeply damaging. That's why I've highlighted 15 key indicators that you or someone you know might be in an abusive relationship.1. Physical Violence2. Verbal Abuse3. Emotional Manipulation (plus DARVO explained)4. Isolation5. Control6. Jealousy7. Blame Shifting8. Intimidation.9. Financial Abuse10. Sexual Abuse11. Gaslighting12. Threats13. Punishing Behaviour14. Digital/Technology Abuse15. Unpredictable BehaviourEach of these signs is a red flag in a relationship and can lead to a destructive cycle of abuse. My aim in this episode is to help recognise the signs and the patterns, whether that's in your own relationships or in those around you. I really want to empower listeners to identify and break free from these harmful dynamics.But I do know it's not easy to get out and I also know that post separation abuse is another added worry…. So please please please do seek the proper support: Women's Aid: Offers support services and a directory of local domestic abuse services.https://www.womensaid.org.uk/Refuge: Provides emergency housing, support, and advocacy for women and children escaping domestic violence.https://refuge.org.uk/National Domestic Abuse Helpline: A 24-hour helpline offering confidential support and advice.https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/contact-us/These are all UK based ones but please do look out for support services in the country/State you are in. And also, this month in the Divorce Book Club we are reading It's Not You: How to Identify and Heal from Narcissistic People by Dr Ramani Durvasula. Dr Ramani is an expert in narcissistic abuse (including non-intimate relationships like a parent or your boss) and this book is also amazing for highlighting abuse in relationships. You can check out the book here: http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1785045024/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21I'd love to see you over there

Send us a Text Message.In this episode of "The Divorce Chapter" podcast, we welcome the brilliant Chantelle Dyson, a certified life coach, educator, speaker, and podcast host. Chantelle, who divorced in her 20s after only a year of marriage, shares her journey of self-discovery and personal growth. She discusses the societal pressures that often dictate life choices, such as marriage and children, and emphasises the importance of understanding and defining happiness on our own terms. Chantelle explains how her divorce prompted a deep dive into personal development, leading her to slow down and embrace a more intentional and fulfilling life. She also touches on the challenges of loneliness, particularly the kind that stems from not sharing meaningful experiences with others, and offers insights into how she has navigated these feelings. Throughout the episode, Chantelle's story is one of resilience and empowerment, encouraging us to take control of our lives and make conscious, fulfilling choices.The books that Chantelle recommends in the episode:Lost Connections by Johann Harihttp://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1408878720/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21You were not born to suffer Blake D Bauerhttp://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1525246119/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21And you can find Chantelle here:www.chantellethecoach.comAnd on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/chantellethecoach/I hope you love hearing Chantelle talk as much as I loved chatting with her

Send us a Text Message.In this episode of The Divorce Chapter podcast, I've been a bit inspired by my 52nd birthday tomorrow, and so giving you "52 Things to Do on Your Own."Following my divorce, I had to really relearn being on my own, and this escalated even more in the Panny-D. Now, I want to inspire you to find your own joy in alone time, whether you're navigating life after a breakup or simply looking to embrace your independence.In this episode, you'll discover:- Practical suggestions for enriching your solo time- Self-care practices that rejuvenate your spirit- Creative ideas to ignite your passions- Adventurous activities to push your boundariesSome ideas are as simple as taking a peaceful walk or reading a book, while others are more adventurous like planning a solo holiday or exploring an art gallery. This list is all about finding what makes you happy and reclaiming your independence.I used a previous social media post on this so have linked this here for ease (and as I referenced it):https://www.instagram.com/p/CeT5pyeDEJJ/?img_index=1So have a listen to get inspired and perhaps add a few new activities to your own list. Whether you're newly single or just looking for ways to enjoy your own company, this episode hopefully offers plenty of ideas to keep you entertained and fulfilled.Oh, and in the episode I mention a Nutella Cheesecake so sharing this here

Send us a Text Message.In this episode of The Divorce Chapter, I look at finding "happily ever after" after divorce, particularly focusing on the potential for new relationships and maybe even saying ‘I do' again. Inspired by my goddaughter's wedding today, I reflect on the value of love and commitment, even after the heartbreak of a failed marriage. My marriage broke down because my ex-husband didn't value marriage as I did, not because marriage itself is screwed as a concept.In this episode, I share some personal anecdotes, practical advice, and uplifting insights to help you think about navigating the world of new relationships post-divorce.Here's a sneak peek of what we cover:- The importance of taking time to heal- Rediscovering and loving yourself first- Setting boundaries and knowing your worth- The necessity of vulnerability in building new relationships- Practical steps to move forward with an open heart“Every relationship is unique, and just because one marriage didn't work out doesn't mean the concept of marriage is flawed.”     I honestly believe that our past doesn't define our future, and there's always hope for a beautiful new chapter in our lives. Whether you're resolutely single like me or if you do want to venture into marriage 2.0, this episode has something for everyone.I hope you enjoy it

Send us a Text Message.In this episode, we take a look at hyper-independence, a common but often overlooked issue that many of us face after going through a divorce. It maybe starts as a new found independence and autonomy after breaking free from a co-dependent toxic relationship…. But soon ends up going to the other extreme where we refuse to ask for help, and become SO self-reliant…. To the point it can just get too overwhelming.If you've ever found yourself feeling like you need to handle EVERYTHING on your own, this episode is for you.What to Expect in This Episode:Understanding Hyper-Independence: What is hyper-independence and how does it differ from healthy self-reliance?I share my own journey from codependency to hyper-independence and some of the lessons I've learned along the way in getting back to healthy independence.Learn actionable strategies to strike a balance of healthy independence.Divorce can be a challenging journey, but you really don't have to navigate it alone. This episode is packed with insights and advice to help you find your path to healthy independence and emotional well-being.I hope you enjoy it

Send us a Text Message.In this week's episode of The Divorce Chapter podcast, I had a fantastic conversation with Elisa Lindstrom, a decluttering expert and founder of "Dear Loves Just Breathe."In our discussion, Elisa shares her personal journey, where she began her own decluttering journey amidst a challenging divorce. Elisa's insights into the emotional and practical aspects of decluttering are invaluable, especially for those navigating a difficult divorce.Key Highlights:- The emotional challenges of decluttering during a divorce.- Practical tips on what to declutter (and what not to).- Handling emotionally charged items like wedding photos and gifts.- Creating a peaceful and intentional home environment post-divorce.- Information on Elisa's decluttering programs.Elisa emphasizes the importance of intentionally creating a home that feels safe and full of love, which is essential during and after a divorce. Her advice is not just about organising your space but also about finding peace and reconnecting with yourself.Don't forget to check out her website too for more information on her decluttering programmes.www.dearlovesjustbreathe.comThe book Elisa mentions in the episode too is:http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0809225379/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21I hope you enjoy the episode - and if you do, please share it with someone who might benefit from it ❤️Loads of LoveSarah x

Send us a Text Message.In this empowering episode, we go deep into the concepts of self-care, self-love, and self-worth, and explore how they are crucial in overcoming codependency, especially in the aftermath of divorce.We cover:

Send us a Text Message.In this episode of the Divorce Chapter podcast, I dive deep into the often overlooked and insidious issue of financial abuse. I share my own experience of being financially controlled and manipulated by my ex-husband and discuss how financial abuse can happen to anyone, regardless of age, gender, or economic status. You'll hear about the various forms it can take, from controlling access to money and sabotaging employment to accumulating debt in someone else's name.I delve into the warning signs to watch for, the profound impact it can have on victims, and the steps you can take to protect yourself or someone you know. Whether you're currently experiencing financial abuse, suspect it might be happening, or simply want to be informed, this episode is packed with valuable insights and resources.Women's Aid: Offers support services and a directory of local domestic abuse services.https://www.womensaid.org.uk/Refuge: Provides emergency housing, support, and advocacy for women and children escaping domestic violence.https://refuge.org.uk/National Domestic Abuse Helpline: A 24-hour helpline offering confidential support and advice.https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/contact-us/Turn2us is a national charity offering information and practical support to people facing financial insecurity. https://www.turn2us.org.uk/Tune in to understand how financial abuse works, how to recognise it, and most importantly, how to protect yourself and seek help. This episode is a must-listen for anyone wanting to learn more about this critical issue and how to safeguard against it.PLEASE reach out if you need support

Send us a Text Message.On this week's episode we have the amazing Legally Nik as our wonderful first ever guest on the Divorce Chapter pod.Nik is a trained family lawyer specialising in child protection and she also is a co-parenting, counter- parenting mentor. Bridging the gap between the law and real life, Nik provides not only legal guidance to your personal matters, but equips you with strategies and coping mechanisms to get through what can only be described as, one of the most painful points of your life. Nik is a mum herself and is just an utterly fabulous human doing fantastic work and I utterly LOVED recording this episode with her.There are so many takeaways in the episode:Explaining co-parenting, counter-parenting and parallel parenting.Managing the parenting relationship with a difficult ex.Different family dynamics.Dealing with litigation abuse.Putting children first.The importance of compartmentalising our pain.And so much more.I hope you enjoy listening to the episode as much as I enjoyed recording it.(And if you do, I'd love it if you could rate and review the episode

Send us a Text Message.This week's episode looks at the controversy and scandal of infidelity through the lens of the Ashley Madison documentary now streaming on Netflix (*spoiler alert for those who haven't yet watched it*) (There is also a trigger warning for suicide)As someone who has navigated the painful path of betrayal and divorce, I watched this documentary with both caution and curiosity.In the episode I delve into the murky waters of the dating site designed specifically for married individuals seeking affairs; from the alarming marketing strategies to the fallout of the infamous 2015 hack.I discuss stories of individuals shown in the documentary who were affected by the hack, including the superficial portrayal of forgiveness and reconciliation (not to mention some religious hypocrisy). I also talk about the heart-breaking consequences faced by the real victims—the betrayed spouses, which in my view was the part the documentary failed to meaningfully cover. There was a lot of focus in the documentary on the impact of the hack as opposed to the impact of the betrayal, and I cover this and more in this episode… ...as well as the discovery of a potential link with my own ex-husband.Do let me know what you thought of the documentary (and the episode) Until next time, sending you loads of loveSarah x