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Should you get back together with the person who ghosted you? How can you build a secure relationship after being ghosted? Whether you're dating or single, Julie Menanno, MA, LMFT, LCPC, has answers. Julie is a therapist, author, and creator of The Secure Relationship, a community dedicated to helping people build secure, loving relationships. In this show, she offers powerful insights on building secure relationships after experiencing the pain of ghosting. Discover:• The four attachment styles: anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure• Essential inner work for preparing for healthy relationships after being ghosted• Managing triggers after being ghosted, conflict resolution skills and de-escalating arguments• How to rebuild a relationship with the person who ghosted you...and so much more!Ready to break free from painful relationship patterns? Secure, loving relationships are possible even after being ghosted. Connect With GrettaCoping With Ghosting 101 | Free & Private Facebook Support Group | Instagram | YouTube | copingwithghosting.comHost Gretta Perlmutter, MA, and Certified Post Betrayal Transformation® Coach delivers evidence-based strategies to transform personal betrayal into a powerful catalyst for growth and healing.Connect With JulieJulie's Website | InstagramSpecial offer: Join Julies's Individual and Couples Group and use code: COLLAB10 on any order for 10% off! Music: "Ghosted" by Gustavo RamosDisclaimer: This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools. Coping With Ghosting does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.Ready to heal, improve your confidence, and regain your power after being ghosted or betrayed? You don't have to heal alone. Book a coaching session with Gretta here. Want to feel better after being ghosted? Coping With Ghosting 101 downloadable workshop will help you take your power back today. Support the showNote to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

Joined by special guest, Julie Menanno, our hosts sit down to discuss how to heal insecure attachment by focusing on self-awareness, emotional regulation, and developing a secure relationship with oneself. She emphasizes that attachment wounds manifest through self-abandonment, which leads to unhealthy relational patterns. Healing involves learning to sit with and process difficult emotions rather than seeking external reassurance, shifting from self-protection to self-support. In relationships, individuals must take turns being caregivers for one another, creating an attachment-friendly environment that fosters trust and security. Listen to learn more about topics like:  Self-Abandonment as the Root Issue Emotional Processing Over Quick Regulation Building Secure Attachment with Self Discerning Between Attachment Triggers and Relationship Red Flags and more! Julies Bio & Links: Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC, is a therapist, author, and creator of The Secure Relationship, a community dedicated to helping people build secure, loving relationships. With over 1.3 million Instagram followers, Julie's relatable advice and real-time couples therapy sessions have made her a trusted voice in relational health. Her book Secure Love, published by Simon & Schuster in 2024, dives deep into attachment theory and is available worldwide.  Secure Love, written by Julie Menanno The Secure Love Podcast Give Me Discounts! Amazfit - Visit www.amazfit.com/IDO to get 10% off Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, I'm sharing my top 10 takeaways from Secure Love by Julie Menanno—a powerful book on attachment and breaking negative relationship cycles. We've talked about attachment theory before, but this book made it feel so clear, applicable, and even relieving. Think of this episode as us having coffee while I excitedly overshare my favorite insights, from the "goodness of fit" concept to the 80/20 rule for secure relationships. Plus, I explore how attachment connects to the Enneagram and personal growth. Let me know what you think—text the podcast line at 828-338-9127! Call/Text Your Enneagram Questions into (828) 338 - 9127 Grab a copy of my books at www.thehonestenneagram.com & www.theenneagramletters.com Check out my youtube channel for more behind-the-scenes content www.youtube.com/sarajanecase Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join us for this powerful conversation with Dr. Julie Menanno (@TheSecureRelationship), whose work has helped millions transform their attachment patterns. From her national bestseller "Secure Love" to her viral Instagram insights, Julie brings practical wisdom about creating lasting security in relationships. Whether you're navigating anxious or avoidant patterns, or seeking to build deeper trust, this episode offers hope and concrete steps toward secure connection. Get ready to transform how you love!

How can EFT and attachment theory help couples develop secure, rewarding, lasting relationships? Our guest in this episode is Julie Menanno, a therapist, author, and Instagram creator with over 1.3 million followers. We talk about how she works with couples, and how Bruce's seven words (“Be kind, don't panic, and have faith”) map onto the concepts that guide her work. Julie's website is https://www.thesecurerelationship.com/. She can be found on Instagram at @thesecurerelationship. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Bruce's latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again is now available! More information at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/. And here's the link to leave a review: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review?&asin=B0D4B6KL79 For the audio-only version of this podcast, visit https://ctin7.com.

Our most highly anticipated guest from last year finally accepted our DM request to come on the pod and de-mystify the most common (and stressful) relational dynamic: ANXIOUS + AVOIDANT.Watch this episode on YouTube:https://youtu.be/CRxBxInFDfUIf you have ever been in a relationship, or supported someone in one, then you KNOW how distressing it is to deal with feeling like your partner doesn't care about your feelings OR as if their feelings are TOO MUCH. Unfortunately, these two types of people often attract each other...and without proper awareness or the development of regulation skills, these two people will harm each other over and over until there is no longer a sense of closeness or intimacy anymore.What's sad about this dynamic is that both people DO care, and ultimately desire closeness, but what actions make each of them feel emotionally safe in the relationship are different. Learning the difference between these needs, their origins, and how to appreciate them without self-abandoning is the key to creating a healthier dynamic that can repair fully after typical ruptures, which even secure attached couples experience!Whether you're familiar with attachment theory already or not, this conversation reveals the secret ingredient for creating secure attachment and is going to help you identify which attachment style you may have AND how to heal it instead of projecting your needs and insecurities onto your partner. No matter if you identify as anxious, avoidant, disorganized...there are tools for you to become a safer, secure person for yourself AND as a partner in a relationship.Join our FREE community: (We host free calls every month!):https://tinyurl.com/SpiralinghighercommunityJoin our retreat waitlist for JUNE 2025 by signing up here:https://shorturl.at/fojjy--Find Julie:https://www.instagram.com/thesecurerelationship/Get her best-selling book "Secure Love" here:https://amzn.to/4jtlhPK--WE FINALLY MADE MERCH! Find your new Spiraling Higher apparel here:http://xmj6wr-xy.myshopify.com/Apply for 1:1 coaching with Sam:https://www.simplifyingsam.com/1on1coachingApply for 1:1 coaching with Gina:https://tinyurl.com/1on1coachingbteFollow Spiraling Higher:Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/spiralinghigherFollow Simplifying Sam:Tiktok - https://www.tiktok.com/@simplifying.samInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/simplifying.samFollow Gina:Tiktok - https://www.tiktok.com/@ginabourneInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/ginabourneFor all inquiries, email us at:Spiralinghigher@gmail.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

On this episode of From Mrs. to Ms., I'm joined by the incredible Julie Menanno—licensed marriage and family therapist, founder of The Secure Relationship Coaching, and Instagram powerhouse with over a million followers on @TheSecureRelationship. Julie has dedicated her career to helping couples strengthen their bonds through Emotionally Focused Therapy and secure attachment.We dive deep into what inspired Julie to specialize in Attachment Theory and why secure attachment is the foundation for healthy relationships. She breaks down the key traits of secure attachment styles, how to identify them early in a relationship, and why they're more beneficial than anxious or avoidant dynamics.Julie also shares actionable advice for anyone feeling stuck in conflict or disconnection, offering hope for singles navigating modern dating challenges like hookup culture and dating apps. Whether you're in a relationship or searching for love, Julie's insights will help you reframe your approach to connection and create a stronger foundation for love.Join us for this empowering and eye-opening conversation!INSTAGRAM: @thesecurerelationshipWEBSITE: https://www.thesecurerelationship.comTIKTOK: @thesecurerelationshipSupport the showInstagram: @from.mrs.2.msTikTok:@from.mrs.2.msWebsite: www.frommrstoms.netEmail: info@frommrstoms.netYouTube: @FromMrs2Ms

In this episode of The Secure Love Podcast, host Julie Menanno focuses on Melissa's anxious attachment style, exploring her emotional regulation challenges and the roots of her people-pleasing tendencies. Julie addresses Melissa's need to create ideal family experiences, illustrated by her high expectations for a recent Halloween outing. Drew's contrasting laid-back parenting style sparked conflict, revealing Melissa's struggle when he doesn't match her enthusiasm. Julie encourages Melissa to reflect on how her anxiety may contribute to Drew's disengagement, pushing her to recognize and take ownership of her role in their relationship dynamics. Julie challenges Melissa to develop self-soothing skills, instead of relying solely on Drew for emotional validation, and to create space for Drew's parenting differences. By encouraging Melissa to manage her expectations and anxieties, Julie aims to help her break negative patterns and foster greater self-confidence and emotional independence.

In this revealing episode of the Secure Love Podcast, host Julie Menanno explores the intricate balance of emotional engagement and self-regulation in relationships through the lens of real-life couple Melissa and Drew. This session represents a significant breakthrough for the couple, as the conflict surrounding their differing emotional responses has been at the center of their negative cycle. The episode revolves around a recent incident involving their son, who exhibited a behavioral tic during dinner. This situation prompted contrasting reactions: Melissa sought immediate emotional validation and support from Drew, while Drew took a more measured approach, suggesting they observe the situation before reacting. Julie points out many anxious partners, like Melissa's deep need for emotional reassurance sometimes leads to a hyper focus on their own feelings—making the situation feel all about "me, me, me." In doing so, she struggles to recognize Drew's emotional needs and the potential benefits of temporarily leaning out from emotional reactions. Through this dialogue, Melissa and Drew learn that navigating their differences requires compromise and empathy. By acknowledging and valuing each other's approaches to handling emotional situations, they take meaningful steps toward a more balanced relationship dynamic. This breakthrough reinforces the idea that both emotional engagement and the ability to lean out are essential for fostering understanding and connection in their partnership. Follow Julie Menanno on social media @thesecurerelationship. For weekly homework assignments visit Julie's website: The Secure Relationship Purchase Julie's book Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime  

Co-parenting…how do we navigate it? We mention a number of books that were recommended to us by Julie Menanno. Here is the list: Good Inside by Dr. Becky Kennedy https://a.co/d/788OIc5 Raising Securely Attached Kids by Eli Harwood https://a.co/d/1DXw5Ic Scattered Minds by Gabor Mate MD https://a.co/d/1TiEjWr

In this episode of The Secure Love Podcast, Julie Menanno explores the complex communication patterns between Melissa, the anxious partner, and her husband Drew. Melissa's deep-rooted anxieties about Drew's desire to be social resurface, causing her to feel as though he's choosing connections outside of their family over her and the kids. Julie guides Melissa through understanding how past moments, such as when Drew was emotionally unavailable during difficult times, have shaped her current fears and triggered a recurring negative cycle whenever Drew appears distant or seeks social time apart. As Melissa unpacks her need for Drew's reassurance, Julie helps her identify what she truly wants to hear from him to feel secure. Through this process, Melissa realizes that in these moments, she craves Drew's affirmation that he's present and committed to their relationship, even when things are hard. Julie emphasizes the importance of clearly communicating these needs, allowing Drew to offer the reassurance that Melissa seeks, rather than sending mixed messages that lead to misunderstanding. Follow Julie Menanno on social media @thesecurerelationship. For weekly homework assignments visit Julie's website: The Secure Relationship Purchase Julie's book Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime

In this episode of The Secure Love Podcast, couples therapist Julie Menanno focuses on Drew, the avoidant partner in his relationship with Melissa, as they continue working through disconnection issues in their marriage. The episode highlights a recurring tension between Drew's desire to spend time with friends and Melissa's longing for him to connect with her and their children first. As the primary caretaker, Melissa finds it difficult to step away from her responsibilities and struggles with accepting different parenting styles within the relationship. This tension often leads to frustration and resentment on her part. Drew, on the other hand, feels guilty for wanting to be social, as he sees no harm in spending time with friends. In this session, Julie shifts the focus to Drew's experience, helping him tap into the frustration and unexpressed anger he feels in these moments of disconnection. While Melissa often voices her resentment, Drew has rarely named his own anger, struggling to express it because he associates anger with being out of control and saying things he doesn't mean. Julie guides Drew to see that his anger in this situation is valid and that there is room for his own healthy anger their marriage. By acknowledging and expressing it constructively, Drew can better address the disconnect between himself and Melissa. Follow Julie Menanno on social media @thesecurerelationship. For weekly homework assignments visit Julie's website: The Secure Relationship Purchase Julie's book Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime

  In this episode of The Secure Love Podcast, host Julie Menanno continues working with Melissa and Drew, building on their previous session. The couple reflects on a recent incident during their vacation where Melissa's bid for connection at dinner went unanswered, triggering a familiar negative cycle and leading to her protest behavior. This episode focuses on Drew's perspective. He shares how the disconnect at dinner, combined with Melissa's protest, led him into his own negative cycle of frustration and fear of prolonged disconnection. Drew describes the emotional and physical toll of the situation, referring to a "knot in his stomach" and the overall feeling of "agony" from not being able to articulate himself well in the moment. Julie helps them navigate these feelings, encouraging Drew to lean into vulnerability and sit with the discomfort. She explains that the knot in his stomach holds wisdom, guiding him on how to move through difficult moments and reconnect with Melissa. Follow Julie Menanno on social media @thesecurerelationship. For weekly homework assignments visit Julie's website: The Secure Relationship Purchase Julie's book Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime

The food fight….dun dun dun…AKA the butternut squash incident. Link to the author of Secure Love, Julie Menanno's website: https://www.thesecurerelationship.com/

In this episode, host Julie Menanno delves into the evolving dynamics of Melissa and Drew's marriage as they navigate the life-altering effects of parenthood. After 12 therapy sessions, the couple has made strides in breaking free from negative communication patterns, but challenges still arise around their differing needs for social time. Melissa, a stay-at-home mom, opens up about the insecurities and frustrations that come with her role, feeling like her personal sacrifices go unnoticed as she devotes herself to their family. When Drew mentions his desire to hang out with friends and potentially take trips—like one to Vegas—Melissa feels overwhelmed and unappreciated, her insecurities amplified by the freedom Drew seems to have. Julie helps the couple explore how the unspoken pressures of motherhood can shift relationship dynamics and create emotional disconnects. Through constructive dialogue, both partners learn to validate each other's needs while addressing the vulnerabilities that have shaped their current struggles. The episode encourages listeners to reflect on how societal expectations around motherhood can influence marital dynamics—and why open, empathetic communication is key to bridging those gaps. Follow Julie Menanno on social media @thesecurerelationship. For weekly homework assignments visit Julie's website: The Secure Relationship Purchase Julie's book Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime

Forrest sits down with marriage and family therapist Julie Menanno to explore one of the most crucial aspects of healthy relationships: secure attachment. They discuss the impact of anxious, avoidant, and secure attachment patterns, and provide practical advice on identifying and communicating attachment needs, fostering emotional safety, and addressing the common anxious-avoidant partner dynamic. Julie highlights the importance of emotional validation and recommends strategies for communicating from the heart. Forrest and Julie then talk about what we can learn from how securely attached couples navigate conflict and repair.  This episode is perfect for anyone looking to strengthen their relationships! You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 1:20: Attachment styles and emotional safety 4:30: Identifying and meeting attachment needs 12:45: How attachment styles shape our relationships 19:30: The “anxious-avoidant” partner dynamic 26:55: Communicating from the heart 32:40: Emotional validation 35:55: Conflict and repair in a securely attached relationship 44:55: How a therapist manages escalation and overwhelm 50:35: The power of choice in relationships 56:35: Recap I am now writing on Substack, check out my work there.  Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/beingwell.  Transform your health with the ZOE Science & Nutrition podcast. Find it wherever you listen to podcasts. Trust your gut with Seed's DS-01 Daily Synbiotic. Go to Seed.com/BEINGWELL and use code 25BEINGWELL to get 25% off your first month.  OneSkin focuses on delivering more than superficial results for your skin. Get started today with 15% off using code BEINGWELL at oneskin.co.  Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world's largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of The Secure Love Podcast, host and couples therapist Julie Menanno focuses on Melissa, the anxious partner in her relationship with Drew. Melissa feels an overwhelming sense of "getting it wrong" in her interactions with him. As Melissa navigates these vulnerable feelings, Julie guides her out of intellectualizing emotions and into truly experiencing them. Through the session, Julie points out how Melissa's tendency to process feelings in her head can act as a defense mechanism against deeper pain, stemming from a fear of rejection and loneliness.   As Melissa opens up, Julie reassures Drew's presence, ensuring he is a co-regulating force for Melissa's emotions. She emphasizes how Drew, though supportive, needs to work on acknowledging Melissa's feelings without jumping into his own discomfort or trying to fix them immediately. For those listening, Julie encourages self-validation by staying with difficult emotions, rather than rushing to intellectualize or dismiss them. The key takeaway: in relationships, partners should make space for each other's feelings before attempting to address or resolve them. This process not only deepens emotional intimacy but also helps build secure attachment over time. Follow Julie Menanno on social media @thesecurerelationship. For weekly homework assignments visit Julie's website: The Secure Relationship Purchase Julie's book Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime

Let's talk about the secrets to creating more secure, empathetic, and resilient relationships. On this week's electrifying episode of The CLS Experience, we're diving deep with the extraordinary Julie Menanno, THE licensed marriage and family therapist, who's about to drop some serious wisdom on how attachment theory can revolutionize your relationships. From understanding anxious and avoidant attachments to practical strategies that deepen emotional connections, this conversation is packed with game-changing insights. Let's get into it!On today's episode of The CLS Experience we have a very romantic treat. She's not just a licensed marriage and family therapist; she's a groundbreaking force redefining the landscape of relationship counseling, and she helps people all over the globe, No big deal. With a master's degree in psychology from Phillips Graduate Institute, She stands out as a true visionary, bringing unparalleled depth and insight to understanding love and attachment, BIG facts. Her influence extends far beyond her impressive Instagram following of over a million; she's a guiding light, compassionately navigating thousands through the layers and dynamics of relationships. She doesn't just stop there – she runs a thriving clinical therapy practice in Montana, and leads a global relationship coaching practice impacting people across the world. We also get real about emotional triggers, using a seemingly small disagreement over where to place the keys as a powerful example of how to recognize and address underlying emotional needs. By mastering the art of heartfelt communication and empathy, you'll learn how to prevent minor conflicts from escalating and instead strengthen the bond between you and your partner. She's just a juggernaut in all facets of life and a terrific wife and mother. Please welcome the transformative, beautiful and brilliant, the authentic and abundant Julie Menanno.    6:48 - Negative Cycles in Relationships 22:20 - Effective Conflict Management 30:48 - Prioritizing Communication and Intimacy 38:20 - Imperfect Relationships Lead to Growth 43:38 - Navigating Communication in Relationships 47:06 - Relationship ExpectationsConnect with Julie - https://www.thesecurerelationship.com/To join our community click here.➤ To connect with Julie Menanno follow Julie on Instagram➤ Order a copy of my new book The Reinvention Formula today! ➤ Join our CLS texting community for free daily inspiration and business strategies to elevate your day, text (917) 634-3796To follow The CLS Experience and connect with Craig on Social Media:➤ INSTAGRAM➤ FACEBOOK➤ TIKTOK➤ YOUTUBE➤ WEBSITE➤ LINKEDIN➤ TWITTER

Julie Menanno is on the show today, sitting down with Sabrina to talk about the interplay of attachment and relationships. Julie emphasizes that healthy relationships aren't about accommodating each other's insecurities or avoiding triggers but about engaging in mutual growth and healing. She and Sabrina challenge the narrative that one must lower their expectations or avoid partners who trigger them. Instead, they advocate for using those triggers as opportunities for personal and relational growth. A crucial part of building a secure relationship involves self-work—being emotionally balanced, recognizing and regulating your own emotions, and being able to reach out for support when it's needed. Julie highlights the importance of feeling seen and heard in a relationship, as well as the need for both partners to be committed to growth and co-regulation during conflicts. Drawing from her own experience, she shares how communication, expressing needs, and working through challenges together have been key to maintaining a strong relationship. Today's conversation underscores that a secure relationship, while more comfortable, requires ongoing effort, self-awareness, and the ability to repair and grow together, especially in the face of life's inevitable stresses and traumas. Get Julie's Book 'Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime' Struggling with a breakup? Join the Make It Make Sense: Getting Through a Breakup course from Sabrina and Britt Frank HERE! Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Get Ad free and 2 Bonus episodes a month HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with Lume Deodorant and get 15% off with promo code SABRINA HERE! Get 15% off your first order and FREE rush shipping on Field of Greens HERE and use promo code SABRINA Head to Squarespace for a free trial, and when you're ready to launch, to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain HERE! Schedule a free 15 minute consultation with NOCD to take the first step to addressing your relationship OCD through virtual therapy HERE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formally known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

Hello Fabulous!Jen here, and do I have a treat for you today! I just had an absolutely enlightening chat with the fabulous Julie Menanno. If you don't already know her, she's a relationship guru specializing in emotionally focused therapy (EFT), attachment theory, and the fine art of turning relationship chaos into secure love.Discover more at jenhardy.net Julie broke it down for us: Most of her couples—about 90%—fall into this “anxious-avoidant” tango. One partner's basically a golden retriever, desperate for constant affection, while the other is a turtle, retreating into their shell to avoid all that emotional messiness. Sound familiar?Julie also tackled the big, scary jungle that is finding a good therapist. Spoiler alert: It's like hunting for a unicorn. Emotionally focused therapy is where it's at, but mastering it is no small feat. Luckily, Julie's team operates as coaches and tackles issues across state lines (no magic carpet needed).(more "Anxious to Secure Relationship with Julie Menanno continued on JenHardy.net)You can find Julie Menanno and her secure relationship advice in the following places:Julie's Podcast- The Secure Love Podcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-secure-love-podcast-with-julie-menanno/id1753342452Julie's Nationally Bestselling Book- Secure Love: (US Version) https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Secure-Love/Julie-Menanno/9781668012864(UK Version) https://www.amazon.co.uk/Secure-Love-Create-Relationship-Lifetime/dp/1529902967/?maas=maas_adg_8DB247C73AC7406FC4472B1FB42F4B47_afap_abs&ref_=aa_maas&tag=maasWebsite:https://www.thesecurerelationship.com/Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thesecurerelationship/

Julie Manano, a licensed marriage and family therapist, specializes in working with couples using emotionally focused therapy for couples. She focuses on attachment styles, particularly the anxious-avoidant dynamic. A healthy relationship is defined by compatibility, shared values, and effective conflict management. Conflict is an opportunity for growth and bonding but must be managed with emotional safety. Change in attachment style can happen within a relationship, but it requires awareness, understanding, and time. The deeper questions to ask in a relationship involve exploring fears, views of self, and shame. Love languages are not enough to replace emotional bonding. In this conversation, Eli Weinstein discusses his book and the importance of understanding relationships' underlying emotions and behaviors. He emphasizes the need for self-reflection and self-awareness to create positive behavior change. Weinstein also highlights the negative cycles that couples often get caught in and provides examples of how to break free from them. He discusses the importance of recognizing that partners are on the same team and need to support each other emotionally. Additionally, he addresses the challenges of adjusting to changes in a relationship and the importance of patience and growth. Chapter: 00:00 Introduction to Julie Manano and Attachment Styles 01:28 Defining Healthy Relationships and Conflict Management 05:09 Breaking the Ideal of No Conflict in Relationships 08:56 The Role of Repair in Relationships 10:22 Understanding Change in Attachment Styles 13:13 Fear of Vulnerability and Change in Relationships 14:40 The Importance of Attachment Styles in Relationships 16:30 Changing Attachment Styles Within a Relationship 18:24 Balancing Repair and Attachment Style Work in Therapy 21:09 Exploring Deeper Questions in Relationships 23:02 The Limitations of Love Languages in Relationships 24:26 A Different Approach to Love and Relationships 24:54 Understanding the Underlying Emotions and Behaviors 27:18 Recognizing the Complexity of Relationship Problems 33:56 Partners on the Same Team: Emotional Support 37:20 Sympathy over Empathy: Connecting to Feelings 48:28 Breaking Free from Negative Cycles Julie Menanno (MA, LMFT, LCPC) is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. She also provides insight and advice for couples at @TheSecureRelationship on Instagram, with over one million followers. She founded and runs the Bozeman Therapy & Counseling clinic, and The Secure Relationship Coaching. She lives in Bozeman, Montana, with her husband and six children. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

TOPIC & GUESTThis week we're discussing Creating Safe and Secure Connections with Relationship Expert Julie Menanno PAIN POINTWe are all born with a need to connect and form bonds. We want secure relationships that are full of deep trust, safety, comfort, and confidence. But often, our relationships are not what we imagined they would be. Enter: Attachment theory. It refers to the emotional bond between people—and how we give and receive love, beginning at infancy. Our attachment style informs the formation of all our relationships. So how can we use attachment theory in our favor, to deepen our bonds with those we love most? GUEST BIOJulie Menanno is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. She also provides insight and advice for couples at @TheSecureRelationship on Instagram, with over one million followers. She founded and runs the Bozeman Therapy & Counseling clinic, and The Secure Relationship Coaching. She lives in Bozeman, Montana, with her husband and six children. Today, we cover three main points:1)Can you explain attachment theory to our listeners?2)What are the different attachment styles?3)How do we discover our own attachment style? LINK TO SHOW NOTESFor all the detailed show notes, tips and links click - https://soloparent.org/show-notes-blog ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! To receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book click - https://soloparent.org/welcome-toolkit Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054

TOPIC & GUESTThis week we're discussing Creating Safe and Secure Connections with Relationship Expert Julie Menanno PAIN POINTWe are all born with a need to connect and form bonds. We want secure relationships that are full of deep trust, safety, comfort, and confidence. But often, our relationships are not what we imagined they would be. Enter: Attachment theory. It refers to the emotional bond between people—and how we give and receive love, beginning at infancy. Our attachment style informs the formation of all our relationships. So how can we use attachment theory in our favor, to deepen our bonds with those we love most? GUEST BIOJulie Menanno is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. She also provides insight and advice for couples at @TheSecureRelationship on Instagram, with over one million followers. She founded and runs the Bozeman Therapy & Counseling clinic, and The Secure Relationship Coaching. She lives in Bozeman, Montana, with her husband and six children. Today, we cover three main points:1)Can you explain attachment theory to our listeners?2)What are the different attachment styles?3)How do we discover our own attachment style? LINK TO SHOW NOTESFor all the detailed show notes, tips and links click - https://soloparent.org/show-notes-blog ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! To receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book click - https://soloparent.org/welcome-toolkit Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054

Julie Menanno is one of the top marriage therapists in the country, and she brings so much wisdom and actionable relationship advice to this episode. Julie shares profound insights into attachment styles, explaining how understanding our emotional needs can revolutionize our relationships. Trust me, whether you're married, dating, or single, there's so much value in understanding how unmet needs and emotional connections shape our interactions. But that's not all! Julie shares her nuanced perspectives on social media's impact on mental health, especially for our kids. She doesn't just talk the talk; she walks the walk by giving practical tips for creating a safe and emotionally healthy environment both online and offline. Julie's expertise on creating emotional safety and better communication in marriages is one everyone should hear. If you want to form a closer connection with your partner, this is a can't miss episode.   You can find Julie's book here: https://a.co/d/ff6q69V Here is my favorite quote from this week's episode: "You want to create a safe relationship through communication where couples trust that the process can work and that they will be heard." - Julie Menanno Do you want to hear your voice on the show? Call me and leave me a voicemail at 404-913-6460 and let me know why you love who you are!   There is BONUS CONTENT in our free newsletter so make sure to subscribe at https://www.kimgravelshow.com Collecting Confidence, my best-selling book is now available in paperback with a brand new discussion guide! Click this link to buy it now Join my Love Who You Are movement at https://lwya.com Connect with Me: YouTube Facebook Instagram TikTok                                          Website Connect with Julie Menanno: Website Instagram Secure Love Book The Secure Love Podcast New episodes of The Kim Gravel Show drop every Wednesday at 6pm EST. Support our show by supporting our Sponsors: Midi Health Midi is a virtual care clinic on a mission to bring compassionate, high-quality medical care to women.  Head to https://www.joinmidi.com/ FACTOR is America's #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit. You'll save time, eat well, and tackle everything on your to-do list this summer. Head to https://www.factormeals.com/kim50 and use code kim50 to get 50% off your first box! Plus get 20% off your next month while your subscription is active! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on the Secure Love Podcast, Melissa and Drew share their breakthroughs and real-life applications of their therapy work with Julie Menanno. They've been learning to identify and break their negative cycles, but as always, the journey is full of ups and downs. Imagine this: one of their twin boys slams his brother's hand in the door, leading to a frantic trip to the hospital. While Drew is at a work event, Melissa is left to handle the chaos alone. When she reaches out to Drew for help, they find themselves in a classic anxious-avoidant clash. Melissa, feeling the urgency of the moment, needs immediate emotional validation. For her, addressing the issue right away is crucial, as waiting can make her feel like her emotions are being dismissed. On the other hand, Drew prefers to process things and discuss them later when emotions have cooled down. Can you see how this disconnect creates tension? In these situations, Melissa often feels like a failure as a mom and wife. She battles dark thoughts, wondering if Drew and the kids might be better off without her. It's a heartbreaking struggle many can relate to. Join us as we explore how Melissa and Drew navigate these intense moments, using the tools they've learned in therapy. How do they manage to connect despite their differing styles? And what can we learn from their journey to help in our own relationships? This episode is a powerful reminder that progress is possible, even when the road is tough. Follow Julie Menanno on social media @thesecurerelationship. Visit Julie's website The Secure Relationship for all information on upcoming workshops and access to resources. Purchase Julie's book Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime

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On this week's episode WHOOP Global Head of Human Performance, Principal Scientist Kristen Holmes is joined by Julie Menanno. The licensed marriage and family therapist specializes in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. She's the author of the book, Secure Love, which helps couples create lasting relationships. Additionally, she founded and runs the Bozeman Therapy & Counseling clinic, and The Secure Relationship Coaching. Kristen and Julie discuss how Julie started working with couples (2:15), couples therapy vs individual therapy (5:45), finding optimism in couples therapy (8:04), characteristics of a healthy relationship (11:11), emotionally focused therapy (14:15), the four attachment styles (18:06), practicing secure love (38:27), red flags in a relationship (43:47), and the organization of Julie's book (48:42).Resources:Julie Menanno's WebsiteJulie Menanno's InstagramThe Secure Love PodcastJulie's Articles on Disorganized Attachment TheoryFollow WHOOPwww.whoop.comTrial WHOOP for FreeInstagramXFacebookLinkedInFollow Will AhmedInstagramXLinkedInFollow Kristen HolmesInstagramLinkedInSupport the Show.

Welcome to The Secure Love Podcast: Real Time Couples Therapy with Julie Menanno. Join licensed therapist Julie Menanno as she uses Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to help Melissa and Drew, a couple in their 30s, navigate life's challenges and improve their relationship. Discover the impact of attachment theory, identify negative cycles, and learn practical skills for creating lasting positive change. Tune in for relatable insights and actionable steps to build a secure, fulfilling connection with your partner. Your journey to a more secure love begins now. Tune in to the first episode on June 24th.  Stay connected with us: Follow Julie Menanno on social media @thesecurerelationship. Visit Julie's website The Secure Relationship for all information on upcoming workshops and access to resources. Purchase Julie's book Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime

Loss impacts relationships—some grow stronger, some strain, and some fracture entirely. So, how can we cultivate relationships that feel secure and safe as we navigate life's challenges?Our guest today helps us explore just that. Julie Menanno is the author of Secure Love and a Family Therapist, which specialises in emotionally focused therapy for couples. She shares how we can create healthier relationships, how different attachment styles behave and react to others, how to break codependency cycles, and how to work towards a secure relationship.A big thanks to this season's sponsor Picaluna Beautiful Funerals.Connect with Julie at: thesecurerelationship.com.Connect with usJoin our grief support membership waitlist here.Buy our book Good Mourning: Honest Conversations About Grief and Loss, here: linktr.ee/goodmourningpodcastFollow us on Instagram at @goodmourningpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Julie Menanno (MA, LMFT, LCPC) is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. She also provides insight and advice for couples at @TheSecureRelationship on Instagram, with over one million followers. She founded and runs the Bozeman Therapy & Counseling clinic, and The Secure Relationship Coaching. She lives in Bozeman, Montana, with her husband and six children. Jason and Julie kick off the conversation by discussing the beauty of Bozeman, Montana, and the unique experiences that come with living there. They delve into Julie's professional journey, her passion for helping couples build secure attachments, and the inspiration behind her book, "Secure Love." The discussion covers a range of topics, including the impact of childhood attachment on adult relationships, the challenges posed by technology in maintaining healthy attachments, and the different attachment styles: secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized. Julie provides insights into how these styles manifest in relationships and offers practical advice for individuals struggling with attachment issues. Julie also addresses the common tendency for people to label themselves with attachment styles and the potential pitfalls of using these labels as permanent identifiers. She emphasizes the importance of understanding one's behaviors and feelings in relationships and working towards healthier patterns through self-awareness and communication. Throughout the episode, Julie shares personal anecdotes and professional experiences that highlight the complexities of human emotions and relationships. She underscores the importance of vulnerability and resilience in building and maintaining healthy connections with others. Listeners will gain a deeper understanding of attachment theory, practical tools for improving their relationships, and the reassurance that perfection is not the goal. As Julie poignantly concludes, "Go be imperfect," reminding us all to give ourselves grace in the journey of self-discovery and relationship-building. Tune in to this insightful episode for valuable relationship advice and a candid conversation about the power of secure attachment. Secure Love: (US Version) https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Secure-Love/Julie-Menanno/9781668012864(UK Version) https://www.amazon.co.uk/Secure-Love-Create-Relationship-Lifetime/dp/1529902967/?maas=maas_adg_8DB247C73AC7406FC4472B1FB42F4B47_afap_abs&ref_=aa_maas&tag=maasWebsite:https://www.thesecurerelationship.com/Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thesecurerelationship/ Sign up for 6 Weeks of Group Coaching Starting in June! Learn more here! Use Discount Code: "Attached" at checkout! Disclaimer: The training is intended for informational and educational purposes, it is not intended to substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, and/or treatment. Please consult your medical professional before making changes to your diet, exercise routine, medical regimen, lifestyle, and/or mental health care. Your background, education, experience, and work ethic may differ. There is no guarantee of success. Individuals do not track the typicality of its student's experiences. Your results may vary.

This week Dr. Drew talks to Relationship Expert Julie Menanno. As a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples, Julie offers invaluable insights into the roots of insecurity within relationships and breaks down the four different attachment types. Additionally, she provides a comprehensive exploration of the principles and benefits of EFT, along with practical tips for finding a qualified EFT therapist. Julie's Instagram: www.instagram.com/thesecurerelationship Please support the show by checking out our sponsors! Shopify: Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/drew

In this episode of The Feeling Lighter podcast, hosts Katie and Dr. Lisa speak with Julie Menanno, a licensed marriage and family therapist and author of the book "Secure Love." We discuss attachment theory and how the different attachment styles of avoidant, anxious, and secure play out in romantic relationships. Menanno shares insights from her work helping couples develop more secure attachments with themselves and each other through increasing emotional awareness, self-regulation, and vulnerable communication. The conversation also covers applying these principles to parenting and making space for children's emotions. Menanno offers a valuable framework for creating healthy, secure bonds and approaching life's challenges from a grounded, emotionally intelligent place.Mentioned in this episode:Try WeShape Freeweshape.com/free Take the QuizClick link to try WeShape free!weshape.com/free Take the Quiz

 Megan and Julie talk about the importance of ongoing conversations to process and heal from past wounds in their relationship. They also discuss the importance of emotionally safe conversations in repairing ruptures in a relationship, with Speaker 3 emphasizing the need for regulated communication and emotionally validating each other.   Connect with us:   Follow us on IG: @becomingzesty Find us on FB: https://www.facebook.com/BecomingZesty Visit us at https://becomingzesty.com/  Transcript: https://becomingzesty.com/podcast/

In this episode, Julie ( @thesecurerelationship) discusses the importance of creating healthy and secure attachment styles in relationships. She explains how the modern world has led to an increase in insecure attachment and offers insights into how we can shift towards a more secure and fulfilling relationship dynamic. Julie emphasizes the importance of validation, emotional support, and empathy in creating secure attachment. She also addresses the misconception of hyper-independence and the need for validation from others. Throughout the conversation, Julie provides practical tips and skills for developing a secure attachment with oneself and one's partner.

In this illuminating episode, join us as we delve into the intricate world of relationships with renowned attachment theory expert, Julie Menanno. Unraveling the complexities of human connection, we explore various attachment styles and unveil actionable steps towards fostering a more secure relationship.Discover the fundamental principles of attachment theory and gain invaluable insights into the different attachment styles that shape our interactions. From anxious to avoidant, we navigate through the spectrum, shedding light on how each style influences our approach to intimacy and connection.Julie Menanno provides expert guidance on overcoming barriers to secure attachment, offering practical strategies to cultivate healthier relationships. Whether you're seeking to enhance your current partnership or embark on a new romantic journey, this episode equips you with the tools to navigate the path towards a more fulfilling and secure bond.Tune in to unlock the secrets of building secure relationships and embark on a transformative journey towards deeper connection and intimacy. Julie Menanno MA is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and Relationship Coach. She earned her Master's degree in Psychology from Phillips Graduate Institute in Los Angeles, CA. She currently has a clinical therapy practice treating couples in Bozeman, Montana, as well as a relationship coaching practice with a staff of coaches who serve clients all over the globe. Julie is trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples and specializes in working with attachment issues within relationships.Connect with Julie Menanno: https://www.thesecurerelationship.com/Check out more episodes: https://www.thebrightsideoflifepodcast.com/Support the show

What does it feel like to be in a securely attached relationship? Renowned relationship expert and therapist Julie Menanno joins Reimagining Love to illuminate what we can learn from examining secure attachments. Together with Dr. Alexandra, Julie help anxious and avoidant partners understand each other by guiding us through how different attachment styles show up in tender moments. Ultimately, Julie reminds us that the purpose of attachment work is to help us heal from our past unmet needs so that we can form secure attachments today.Relevant links:Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime by Julie MenannoConnect with Julie online and on InstagramOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Get tickets for "Creating Your Best Relationship Ever" with Dr. Alexandra on March 21st in Washington D.C.

Julie Menanno is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specialising in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples. She also provides insight and advice for couples at @TheSecureRelationship on Instagram, with over one million followers. In her new book Secure Love Julie wants you to focus on a different, deeper question than the commonly asked 'What does a healthy relationship look like?' Julie invites us all to consider, what does a securely attached relationship feel like?Moving from the way things look to others to the way they feel, this is a ground-breaking guide to secure attachment in adult relationships. Full of expert advice, Secure Love helps you explore how to increase your capacity for true intimacy. Designed to help you find and sustain love, this book will teach you how to dig into your childhood attachments, label your needs, stay connected during conflict and communicate from a place of vulnerability to build a relationship that lasts a lifetime. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In today's episode, I'm delighted to be joined by Julie Menanno. Julie is a couples therapist, best known for her hugely popular instagram account @thesecurerelationship where she offers nuanced and insightful takes on attachment dynamics and how couples can overcome negative cycles to build secure relationships. She has just released her first book, Secure Love, which offers couples a roadmap for building thriving relationships that last. Our conversation covers a lot of ground, including:a deeper look at the fear of abandonment in anxious attachmentkey challenges of avoidant attachmentnegative cycles in anxious-avoidant relationshipswhat to do when one partner doesn't want to go to therapythe importance of validating your partner's emotions (even if you disagree with their position)Julie's tips (as a mum of 6!) for raising secure kidsBuy Julie's book Secure Love on AmazonFollow Julie on Instagram @thesecurerelationshipVisit Julie's websiteFurther Links & Resources Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE) Save $150 on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg & @onattachment Visit my website

In this conversation, Julie Menanno, a licensed therapist and author of the book Secure Love, discusses the importance of secure attachment in relationships. She explains the mission of teaching people how to be emotionally supportive to each other and the need for specific skills to achieve emotional support. The conversation explores common issues in couples, the different attachment styles, and the impact of attachment styles on the sex life of individuals. Julie provides insights on how to overcome conflicts and change patterns in relationships, emphasizing the importance of communication and education on sex. In this conversation, Keresse Thompson, LCSW, interviews Julie Menanno about her book 'Secure Love' and discusses how to express needs in a relationship and the importance of communication. Julie shares insights on how to approach difficult conversations with a partner, emphasizing the need to ground oneself and understand the fears and concerns of both individuals. She suggests leading with empathy and understanding, acknowledging that there may be valid reasons for a partner's resistance or withdrawal. Julie also highlights the importance of ongoing communication and seeking professional help if needed. Overall, the conversation emphasizes the significance of open and honest communication in building a secure and fulfilling relationship.TakeawaysSecure attachment is essential for healthy relationships and involves being emotionally supportive to each other.Common issues in couples include negative communication cycles and a lack of emotional safety.Understanding attachment styles, including anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment, can help individuals navigate their relationships.Creating secure attachment requires self-regulation, self-connection, and learning to give and receive emotional support.Attachment styles can significantly impact the sex life of individuals, and open communication and education on sex are crucial for a fulfilling sexual relationship. Ground yourself before approaching difficult conversations with your partner.Lead with empathy and understanding, acknowledging your partner's perspective.Initiate ongoing communication and create a safe space for discussing relationship issues.Seek professional help if needed to address persistent challenges.Chapters00:00Introduction and Background03:18Mission and Focus of Secure Attachment05:13Common Issues in Couples08:12Understanding Attachment Styles11:35Disorganized Attachment18:54Creating Secure Attachment25:28Impact of Attachment Styles on Sex Life28:29Overcoming Conflicts and Changing Patterns34:05Importance of Communication and Education on Sex34:37Using Scripts to Improve Communication34:50Expressing Needs in a Relationship40:33The Importance of Communication42:12Writing 'Secure Love' and Helping CouplesTo Purchase “Secure Love”https://www.amazon.com/Secure-Love-Create-Relationship-Lifetime/dp/1668012863To get in touch with Julie or inquire about 1:1 Services:https://www.thesecurerelationship.com/To follow Julie: https://www.instagram.com/thesecurerelationshipIf you like this podcast please leave me a review and rate!For more info on my services such as Tarot readings please visit my website at www.therapeutichealingbyreese.comFollow me on Instagram!https://instagram.com/_keresse_?utm_medium=copy_linkFollow me on Facebook!https://www.facebook.com/TherapeuticHealingByReese/TikTok: DiaryofanEmpathPodcast

Do you feel anxious in your relationship? Do you sometimes avoid the difficult situations that inevitably arise in relationships? Would you rather feel secure and know how to avoid negative cycles and easily navigate difficult situations? In this episode, Kevin Anthony talks with licensed marriage and family therapist Julie Menanno about Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples and attachment styles. They cover what attachment styles are, how they show up in your relationships, what is the negative cycle and how to avoid it, and how you can meet each other's attachment needs. This is a deep dive into EFT and attachment styles! To Find Out More About Julie Menanno and her Book, click the links below: Secure Love Book:  (US Version) https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Secure-Love/Julie-Menanno/9781668012864 (UK Version) https://www.amazon.co.uk/Secure-Love-Create-Relationship-Lifetime/dp/1529902967/?maas=maas_adg_8DB247C73AC7406FC4472B1FB42F4B47_afap_abs&ref_=aa_maas&tag=maas Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thesecurerelationship/ Website: https://www.thesecurerelationship.com/  

Julie Menanno MA is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and Relationship Coach. Julie's Journey into Couples Therapy: Julie shares her motivation for entering couples therapy, rooted in her desire to be a better parent. Growing up in a home with emotional challenges, she aimed to create a happy family to heal her own wounds. Initially overwhelmed as a parent, Julie read parenting books but found contradictory information. Decided to return to grad school to understand psychology and inadvertently discovered attachment theory. Despite initial reluctance, Julie fell in love with couples therapy, finding it intellectually stimulating and emotionally fulfilling. Attachment Theory and Styles: Julie discusses the four attachment styles: anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure. Anxious attachment individuals seek emotional predictability due to inconsistent responses in childhood. Avoidant attachment individuals, from emotionally impoverished environments, suppress emotions and struggle with emotional intimacy. Disorganized attachment is a blend of anxious, avoidant, trauma, and unpredictability. Secure attachment is the ideal, balancing head and heart, enabling emotional fulfillment and healthy relationship dynamics. Passion for Couples Therapy: Julie emphasizes the authenticity in close relationships, allowing therapists to connect with clients at a deep level. Couples therapy provides an opportunity to build a strong alliance and transfer emotional support skills to partners. The intellectual stimulation and emotional engagement in couples therapy make it fulfilling work for Julie. Discussing Julie's Book - "Secure Love": Host acknowledges Julie's passion for her career and introduces her book, "Secure Love." Julie shares her realization during the COVID period that the world needed access to the information she provides in therapy. The book delves into attachment theory, childhood influences, negative communication cycles, and ways to interrupt, prevent, and repair these cycles. Julie also addresses extenuating circumstances like trauma, sex, mental illness, and provides practical scripts for effective communication. Learn more about Julie Menanno MA https://www.thesecurerelationship.com/ Julies book-https://amzn.to/49txbTH ----------- Dr. Sharon McLaughlin, a physician and virtual speaker, specializes in addressing topics such as confidence, communication, and career development. As the visionary behind the Female Physician Entrepreneurs Network and Business Program, she dedicates herself to empowering women. Her mission involves assisting female physicians in transforming their innovative ideas into lucrative businesses, providing them with the freedom to lead fulfilling lives on their terms. Her latest book, Thriving After Burnout, is a compilation of stories from women physicians who share tips and strategies on what helped them during burnout. Thriving After Burnout ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Thriving After Burnout: A Compilation of Real Stories and Strategies to Reduce Female Physician Burnout⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Our Business program ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://businessmindsetmd.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ For women physicians ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://fpestrong.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Her website ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://sharonmclaughlinmd.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ You can reach her at sharon@sharonmclaughlinmd.com

Julie Menanno MA is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and Relationship Coach. Julie's Journey into Couples Therapy: Julie shares her motivation for entering couples therapy, rooted in her desire to be a better parent. Growing up in a home with emotional challenges, she aimed to create a happy family to heal her own wounds. Initially overwhelmed as a parent, Julie read parenting books but found contradictory information. Decided to return to grad school to understand psychology and inadvertently discovered attachment theory. Despite initial reluctance, Julie fell in love with couples therapy, finding it intellectually stimulating and emotionally fulfilling. Attachment Theory and Styles: Julie discusses the four attachment styles: anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure. Anxious attachment individuals seek emotional predictability due to inconsistent responses in childhood. Avoidant attachment individuals, from emotionally impoverished environments, suppress emotions and struggle with emotional intimacy. Disorganized attachment is a blend of anxious, avoidant, trauma, and unpredictability. Secure attachment is the ideal, balancing head and heart, enabling emotional fulfillment and healthy relationship dynamics. Passion for Couples Therapy: Julie emphasizes the authenticity in close relationships, allowing therapists to connect with clients at a deep level. Couples therapy provides an opportunity to build a strong alliance and transfer emotional support skills to partners. The intellectual stimulation and emotional engagement in couples therapy make it fulfilling work for Julie. Discussing Julie's Book - "Secure Love": Host acknowledges Julie's passion for her career and introduces her book, "Secure Love." Julie shares her realization during the COVID period that the world needed access to the information she provides in therapy. The book delves into attachment theory, childhood influences, negative communication cycles, and ways to interrupt, prevent, and repair these cycles. Julie also addresses extenuating circumstances like trauma, sex, mental illness, and provides practical scripts for effective communication. Learn more about Julie Menanno MA https://www.thesecurerelationship.com/ Julies book-https://amzn.to/49txbTH ----------- Dr. Sharon McLaughlin, a physician and virtual speaker, specializes in addressing topics such as confidence, communication, and career development. As the visionary behind the Female Physician Entrepreneurs Network and Business Program, she dedicates herself to empowering women. Her mission involves assisting female physicians in transforming their innovative ideas into lucrative businesses, providing them with the freedom to lead fulfilling lives on their terms. Her latest book, Thriving After Burnout, is a compilation of stories from women physicians who share tips and strategies on what helped them during burnout. Thriving After Burnout ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Thriving After Burnout: A Compilation of Real Stories and Strategies to Reduce Female Physician Burnout⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Our Business program ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://businessmindsetmd.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ For women physicians ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://fpestrong.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Her website ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://sharonmclaughlinmd.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ You can reach her at sharon@sharonmclaughlinmd.com

Julie Menanno MA is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and Relationship Coach.She earned her Master's degree in Psychology from Phillips Graduate Institute in Los Angeles, CA. She currently has a clinical therapy practice treating couples in Bozeman, Montana, as well as a relationship coaching practice with a staff of coaches who serve clients all over the globe. Julie is trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples and specializes in working with attachment issues within relationships.While Julie's first passion is treating couples, she also provides invaluable relationship insights and advice to nearly 1 million followers on Instagram. She is currently working with Simon and Schuster on a book, Secure Love. Secure Love is scheduled for a January 2024 release date and will be translated into multiple languages.In addition to her work as an author and social media creator, Julie hosts a bi-weekly Patreon discussion group on a variety of relationship and self-help topics. She is a public speaker and a regular guest on podcasts.In this episode, we explore the different attachment styles, conflict and repair, vulnerability in relationships, breaking cycles in relationship dynamics, boundaries and open communication, and more.FOLLOW JULIE:WEBSITE: https://www.thesecurerelationship.com/INSTAGRAM: @thesecurerelationshipBOOK: Secure Love: Create a Relationship That LastsSTAY CONNECTED: INSTA: @trustandthrive TIKOK:@trustandthrive TWITTER: @trustandthrive FACEBOOK: bit.ly/FBtaramont WEBSITE: www.tara-mont.com EMAIL: trustandthrive@gmail.com  

Yes, you can work on healing your attachment wounds even if you're not in a relationship. I got to talk to Julie Menanno about her new book, Secure Love, and how to apply its insights even if you're single. Julie and I cover steps to healing attachment if you don't work with a therapist and how to tune into your body to figure out what you need when you feel anxious, and what's at the root of your emotions. We also talk about spotting the negative cycle in early dating, the healthy way to navigate attachment in dating (no, it's not just avoiding avoidantly attached folks) and how to build a secure bond from the start.  Check out "Secure Love" Connect with Julie on Instagram @thesecurerelationship Connect with me on Instagram @dating.intentionally Get my free date-tracking template! 

Welcome one, welcome all to season 10 of I'd Rather Be Reading! As ever, I'm so happy to have you here and a part of this community—don't forget to reach out if you ever want to chat books at helloidratherbereading@gmail.com. For our season opener today, we have the fantastic Julie Menanno, who is a licensed marriage and family therapist, an expert couple's therapist, and the person behind the popular Instagram account @TheSecureRelationship, which has over 1 million followers. I have long been interested in attachment theory and attachment styles, and there is secure attachment (the ideal which we should all strive for) and three different insecure attachments—anxious, avoidant, and disorganized. Julie will explain what all of that means in the episode, and how we can work towards bringing a secure attachment to our relationships. Beyond just attachment styles, Julie brings so much wisdom and insight into how we navigate romantic relationships, and how we can create a healthy relationship that will, as the subtitle suggests, last a lifetime.   Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime by Julie Menanno

In this episode we talk to one of our favorite counselors Julie Menanno about how to navigate conflict and create closeness and connection in our relationships. Grab her new book titled Secure Love, available wherever you buy books! =) https://www.amazon.com/Secure-Love-Create-Relationship-Lifetime/dp/B0C94WMTPS/ref=sr_1_1?crid=7J51LQDFCMJB&keywords=secure+love+julie+menanno&qid=1706671966&sprefix=secure+love%2Caps%2C374&sr=8-1 https://www.instagram.com/thesecurerelationship/?hl=en https://www.thesecurerelationship.com/

In this episode, we welcome Julie Menanno, a renowned Marriage and Family Therapist and the voice behind the successful Instagram account, The Secure Relationship. With over a million followers and a groundbreaking book titled "Secure Love," Julie brings her extensive expertise in attachment theory and couples therapy to our listeners.Discover the transformative power of secure attachment in your marriage as Julie delves deep into the heart of relationship dynamics. We explore critical topics such as:Understanding Secure Love: Learn what it means to have a secure, loving relationship and why it's essential for marital harmony.Attachment Styles Unveiled: Julie sheds light on different attachment styles and their impact on your marriage. From the anxious-avoidant dynamic to the path towards secure attachment, gain insights into the patterns shaping your relationship.Communication as the Key: Uncover the core issue in most relationship problems – communication. Julie discusses how verbal and non-verbal communication can build or erode emotional safety, and how to transform this critical aspect of your relationship.The Journey to Secure Attachment: Julie provides practical advice for moving from anxious or avoidant attachment styles to a secure, mutually fulfilling relationship. Learn how to make essential internal changes and foster a nurturing environment for both partners.Healing and Growth: For couples affected by affairs, trust issues, or other challenges, Julie offers hope and strategies for healing. Learn how to rebuild trust and intimacy through understanding, empathy, and secure attachment practices.This episode is not just an exploration of theories; it's a guide to revolutionizing your marriage. Whether you're looking to heal from past hurts or enhance the emotional bond with your spouse, Julie's insights offer a pathway to a deeper, more secure love.Join us for an episode that could change the course of your marriage. Embrace the power of secure attachment and start your journey towards a more fulfilling, loving partnership.Today's Guest: Julie MenannoJulie Menanno (MA, LMFT, LCPC) is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. She also provides insight and advice for couples at @TheSecureRelationship on Instagram, with over one million followers. She founded and runs the Bozeman Therapy & Counseling clinic, and The Secure Relationship Coaching. She lives in Bozeman, Montana, with her husband and six children.Get her new book here!Visit her websiteYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

A negative cycle starts when one partner in a relationship feels hurt and then says something critical. Then, the other partner feels hurt and responds in kind. This repeats over and over, and the hurt feelings escalate. In the last episode, we talked about why these cycles happen and how to identify them in your relationship. In today's episode, we're going to talk about how to break the negative cycle, including things you should and shouldn't say in these situations. I am joined once again by Julie Menanno, a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. She also provides insight and advice for couples at @TheSecureRelationship on Instagram, with over one million followers. She founded and runs the Bozeman Therapy & Counseling Clinic, and Secure Relationship Coaching. Her latest book is titled Secure Love. Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include: Why is telling your partner to "calm down" a bad idea in a negative cycle? Although being vulnerable during a fight might sound scary, how can this be helpful in resolving it? What is co-regulation, and how can understanding this concept help to combat negative cycles? How can you avoid the traps that lead us into negative cycles in the first place? How do you repair a relationship after a negative cycle? Make sure to check out Julie's website to learn more. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology *** Thank you to our sponsors!  Whether you're just a few dates in or have been together a long time, it's time to lighten the mood and have fun with your partner by using Paired. Head over to paired.com/justin to get a 7-day free trial and 25% off if you sign up for a subscription. Connect with your partner every day using Paired. A happier relationship starts here! Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you'll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

In long-term relationships, partners often find that they're having the same fights over and over again. The fights are often triggered by something seemingly small, but then they have this way of escalating and turning into bigger conflicts that are wildly unproductive. This relationship pattern is known as a negative cycle. In today's show, we're going to delve into why negative cycles happen, how we create these patterns, and how you can start to recognize them. In the next episode, we'll talk about how to break negative cycles. My guest is Julie Menanno, a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. She also provides insight and advice for couples at @TheSecureRelationship on Instagram, with over one million followers. She founded and runs the Bozeman Therapy & Counseling Clinic, and Secure Relationship Coaching. Her latest book is titled Secure Love. Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include: What is it that triggers negative cycles in relationships? What do negative cycles look like or feel like as they're happening? Which attachment style pairings are most likely to lead to negative cycles? How can you tell the difference between negative cycles and abuse? Make sure to check out Julie's website to learn more. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology *** Thank you to our sponsors!  The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

Julie Menanno joins The Decoding Success Podcast to help us develop healthy, secure relationships while building everlasting love.  In this episode, you will learn: how the relationship we have with ourselves is impacting our relationships with others a fresh perspective on attachment styles and attachment states developing the necessary skills to navigate the differences of our partner the top 3 challenges modern-day relationships are faced with  and more Watch this episode (and others!) on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MattLeBris Grab a copy of Julie's new book: https://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1668012863?tag=simonsayscom Connect with Julie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thesecurerelationship/ Check out Julie's website: https://juliemenanno.com/

Every heart carries a story that can reshape the world around us. Julie Menanno's narrative is a testament to that—a journey of transformation from an emotionally void childhood to her current triumph as a therapist and Instagram influencer. Embark with us as Julie opens up about the power of emotional education in parenting, her battle with anxious attachment, and her quest to cultivate a world nurtured by secure, loving relationships. Her dedication to breaking generational cycles and her insights into attachment theory aren't just academic musings; they're lived experiences that resonate with anyone striving to create a haven of support and understanding for their loved ones.When we peel back the layers of our successes, are we nourished by the emotional support that sustains us, or is there a hollowness echoing beneath the surface? This episode doesn't just muse over such questions—it gives you tools to build meaningful relationships, set boundaries with compassion, and heal the emotional scars that often go unnoticed. Julie Monano champions the cause through her upcoming book, "Secure Love," providing couples and individuals with the knowledge required to forge stronger, healthier bonds. She introduces strategies on effective communication, response, and repair, crucial for those looking to foster a safe and secure partnership, particularly resonating with men and entrepreneurs within our community.Join me as we not only discuss the theory behind emotional attachment but, more importantly, focus on actionable steps towards self-regulation and emotional engagement. Julie's insights cater to those grappling with the challenges of anxious or avoidant attachment styles, offering a guide to recognizing one's emotional triggers and finding a path to connection and growth. And as we wrap up this enlightening session, remember to mark your calendars for January 30th—the day Julie Monano's "Secure Love" hits the shelves, a resource I believe will change the relational landscape for many. Share your listening moments with us; by tagging Julie and me, you become part of a community dedicated to nurturing the heart of what makes us human—our relationships. If you enjoyed this episode, please share it on social media and tag Ken Joslin.

EFT therapist, author and Instagram star Julie Menanno joins us to talk about her new book, Secure Love. In this fun conversation, she helps us understand how to transform our anger, pain or resentment into validating boundaried conversations that are likely to both get us what we want and protect our relationship bonds.

The core idea of attachment theory is that humans, as social beings, have an innate need to form close emotional bonds and attachments with others. It has profound implications for understanding human relationships, including romantic partnerships, friendships, and parent-child relationships.  Valeria welcomes licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Julie Menanno for an eye-opening conversation about our individual attachment needs. We kick things off by exploring the foundations of attachment theory and what it means to parent with an attachment-focused mindset. The different attachment styles take center stage, shedding light on how they shape our emotional bonds and behaviors. They touch on the typical environment for avoidant attachment and why being dismissive with your partner can be a red flag and the pitfalls of relationship advice found online and why it's often based on conflict. Plus, we'll reveal the intriguing fact that only half of our attachment needs are met in our relationships. Pre-order Secure Love:  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Secure-Love/Julie-Menanno/9781668012864  You can find Julie on:  https://www.thesecurerelationship.com/  https://www.instagram.com/thesecurerelationship  https://www.tiktok.com/@thesecurerelationship  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQxvG_HhlW-IOp0WJgRBcCg  Valeria is on: https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWkDFq1pO7YNzifE3A4UsMA  https://www.tiktok.com/@valeria.lipovetsky  Not Alone Podcast What We Talked About: 00:00 Intro 00:30 The attachment theory 04:45 Parenting with an attachment mind 07:14 The different attachment styles 11:24 Disorganized attachment 14:02 Attachment style starts in childhood 15:44 Couples with different attachment style 19:09 Bridging the gap between the different attachment styles 23:23 Practice self check-in before reacting 25:51 The typical environment for avoidant attachment 29:43 Being dismissive with your partner 34:59 Triggers can be the small things 37:32 Do the work during bond building 38:27 The guide to create an attachment friendly environment 40:38 Attachment style with your children 42:57 Are you an anxious parent? 45:39 Men are avoidant, women are anxious type 47:43 Can't masculine and feminine energy co-exist within us? 49:21 Does our attachment style affect our feminine/masculine energy 51:02 Relationship advice online are enemy-based  53:54 Only half of our attachment needs are met 56:43 Ways understand you and your partner's attachment needs

Our conversation with Julie Menanno, therapist and mom of six, centers around secure and insecure relationships based on attachment styles. She educates us on what attachment theory is and what the different types of attachment styles are. Julie breaks down what happens when a couple has an argument and how to help get you back to the ultimate goal in any relationship: feeling safe.Do you wonder what attachment style you and your partner are? Julie walks us through how we can tell and what it means if you don't identify with one attachment style over the other. She talks about why avoidant and anxious partners are often attracted to each other. Julie also explains why different attachment styles react differently when their partner is disappointed in them. To conclude our talk with Julie, she gives us an example of what we can start doing today to create a home that has an attachment friendly environment. Doing this type of work is hard but it's fulfilling. Remember, it's not linear but it will be worthwhile. If you want to be in your partnership for life, you must figure out how to sustain it and nurture it. When you get to go through something like this with someone you love, you come out the other side feeling like a rockstar!Sponsor: LMNT; drinkLMNT.com/HERSELFSponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herselfLinks & Resources:Enroll in the HERself Self-Care CourseFollow Julie on InstagramJulie's PatreonPre-Order Julie's Book; Secure LoveLet's connect!HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.comHERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

Julie Menanno (MA, LMFT, LCPC) is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. She also provides insight and advice for couples at @TheSecureRelationship on Instagram, with over one million followers. She founded and runs the Bozeman Therapy & Counseling clinic, and The Secure Relationship Coaching. She lives in Bozeman, Montana, with her husband and six children. You can get her book HERE Ashlynn Allen kicks divorce & betrayal in the teeth. With her real world example of what's possible after betrayal & how to live boldly with compassion & forgiveness while being boundaried & free from the past. She is an advocate for women who want to live a life full of adventure & freedom. Come listen to her perspectives while she has conversations with those she loves & respects who share their #bethebuffalo moments that may just help you shift your own journey in a beautiful way. Follow her on social media at HERE Retreats with her at HERE Mentor with her at HERE Move "Beyond Betrayal" with her at HERE --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashlynn-mitchell/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashlynn-mitchell/support

In this episode, Julie shares tips and skills to keep your relationship strong by understanding your attachment style. She explains what attachment theory is, the different types of attachment, and how it relates and makes a remarkable difference in our emotional and personal relationships.  When we know what our style is and when we can work towards a secure attachment style, our relationship with ourselves and others can thrive.  Julie Menanno MA is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, and Relationship Coach. She earned her Master's degree in Psychology from Phillips Graduate Institute in Los Angeles, CA. She currently has a clinical therapy practice treating couples in Bozeman, Montana, as well as a relationship coaching practice with a staff of coaches who serve clients all over the globe. Julie is trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples and specializes in working with attachment issues within relationships. While Julie's first passion is treating couples, she also provides invaluable relationship insights and advice to nearly 1 million followers on Instagram. She is currently working with Simon and Schuster on a book, Secure Love. Secure Love is scheduled for a December 2023 release date and will be translated into multiple languages. In addition to her work as an author and social media creator, Julie hosts a bi-weekly Patreon discussion group on a variety of relationship and self-help topics. She is a public speaker and a regular guest on podcasts. As a wife of 22 years and a mother of six children and one dog, Julie has a plethora of personal experience with attachment in relationships to augment her professional expertise. This shines throughout this episode. Enjoy :)   Connect with Julie: https://www.instagram.com/thesecurerelationship/ www.Iceeft.com The book Julie referenced: Good Inside by Dr Becky Kennedy: https://www.amazon.com/Good-Inside-Guide-Becoming-Parent/dp/0063159481/ref=sr_1_1?crid=19AXSNUHQOV91&keywords=good+inside&qid=1675368296&s=books&sprefix=good%2Cstripbooks%2C214&sr=1-1 Download our FREE guide "The Ultimate Guide To Help Your Kids Understand And Regulate Their Emotions" here: www.zamio.live/theultimateguide  

We've got a medical professional in the studio today! Julie Menanno is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, as well as a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and author of The Secure Relationship: Quick Tips - A Guide to Getting Unstuck from a Negative Cycle and Finding Attachment Security with Your Partner. Her mission is to make the insights and practical skills she uses to treat couples in her private practice more accessible to a wider population. In the episode you will learn about:Attachment styles in relationships How avoidant attachment style impacts relationshipsHow anxious attachment style impacts relationshipsHow to develop healthy emotional intimacyWhat a secure relationship feels like Watch this episode on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWKiYWq779CgHZcI07320Sg Stay Connected with Julie MenannoInstagram | https://instagram.com/thesecurerelationship?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=Website | https://www.thesecurerelationship.com/ Download our free audio training: The Ultimate NO BS Guide to Self Pleasure & Sexual Intimacy

Julie Menanno aka The Secure Relationship is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Clinical Professional Counsellor and author.    Listen in to hear us talk about:  - When is the right time to sleep with someone for the first time. - When is the right time to ask about exes and former flames. - How to know if you're an anxious or avoidant attachment.  - When is the right time to open about your baggage.  - What the perfect relationship looks like. - How to figure out your relationship needs. - Some questions to emotionally connect with someone.  And so much more.   Grab Our Bestselling Book  Listen to the Podcast  Join the Community

Christina welcomes Julie Menanno, Marriage and Family Therapist and content creator of Instagram's The Secure Relationship. Our success in stepmotherhood begins with the relationships with our partners. In this episode, Julie discusses attachment styles and how we can notice and overcome our negative cycles. How can we communicate better with our partners? How can advocate for ourselves and hold space for others? Can a stepmom stop being a "fixer"? Listen in!  About My Guest:  Julie Menanno MA is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and Relationship Coach. Julie is trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples and specializes in working with attachment issues within relationships. While Julie's first passion is treating couples, she also provides invaluable relationship insights and advice to nearly 1 million followers on Instagram. She is currently working with Simon and Schuster on a book, Secure Love. Secure Love is scheduled for a December 2023 release date and will be translated into multiple languages. In addition to her work as an author and social media creator, Julie hosts a bi-weekly Patreon discussion group on a variety of relationship and self-help topics. In her spare time Julie enjoys hiking, skiing, Pilates, reading about psychology, and studying Italian.  @thesecurerelationship So much more than a podcast!!!  Find me on the Gram @radicalstepmomspodcast  Want a little more support? Schedule a 1:1 session or become a Radical Member! Head to my website!  **This episode is sponsored by StepMom Magazine. Use discount code: Radical20 to save 20%  on your subscription!** --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/radicalstepmoms/message

Are outbursts, a chronic lack of trust, and an unpredictable fluctuation between avoidant and anxious behavior a sign of disorganized attachment? What is disorganized attachment? How does it affect relationships? Why don't we hear more about this attachment style? Can we move from disorganized attachment to secure attachment?In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline sit down with Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist - and self proclaimed attachment nerd - Julie Menanno, to explore the least mentioned and most elusive attachment style: disorganized AKA fearful avoidant. Drawing from personal experience, they unpack developmental traumas that result in disorganized attachment and discuss strategies for healing and moving towards a more secure connection. More about JulieJulie Menanno MA is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and Relationship Coach. She currently has a clinical therapy practice treating couples in Bozeman, Montana, as well as a relationship coaching practice with a staff of coaches who serve clients all over the globe. Julie is trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples and specializes in working with attachment issues within relationships.While Julie's first passion is treating couples, she also provides invaluable relationship insights and advice to nearly 1 million followers on Instagram. She is currently working with Simon and Schuster on a book, Secure Love. In addition to her work as an author and social media creator, Julie hosts a bi-weekly Patreon discussion group on a variety of relationship and self-help topics. She is a public speaker and a regular guest on podcasts. In her spare time Julie enjoys hiking, skiing, Pilates, reading about psychology, and studying Italian.IG: @thesecurerelationshipthesecurerelationship.comResources: traumahealing.orgEmotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT)“The book you wish your parent had read” - Philippa Perry“I Hate You, Don't Leave Me” - Hal Straus and Jerold Jay KreismanTo find more about Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla, follow them at @wearecuriousfoxes, @coacheffyblue, and @jacquelinemislaon Instagram.If you have a question that you would like to explore on the show, reach out to us and we may answer your question on one of our upcoming episodes. Leave us a voicemail at 646-450-9079 or email us at listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comFollow us on social media for further resources on this topic:fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxesinstagram.com/wearecuriousfoxesyoutube/wearecuriousfoxesJoin the conversation: fb.com/groups/CuriousFoxSupport the show

Meeting my friend Rachel Brumberger has been one of the standout joys of this podcasting adventure for me. Rachel is a master acupuncturist, herbalist, wellness consultant and overall warm, wise, insightful soul who is super easy to talk to. In this episode Rachel and I talk about everything from childhood experiences & feelings of unworthiness, our deeply ingrained perfectionistic tendencies, the steps we take to manage overwhelm and much, much more. We cover A LOT of good stuff! In our conversation I mention an episode of Living in the Sandwhich Zone in which I captured my experience moving through a moment of caregiving overwhelm in real-time. You can listen to that episode here Pain: The Portal to Transformation. If you're interested in learning more about attachment theory in relationships check out @thesecurerelationship. I love the accessible way Julie Menanno shares this super helpful relationship information. And also check out Rachel's IG suggestion @the.holistic.psychologist Rachel is the host a UnscRXipted, a fabulous podcast all about health and wellbeing. Be sure to check out and follow her on Instagram at @reallyrachelb and check out her website RachelBrumberger.com. You can follow me on Instagram at: @karen.e.osborne Click on this link to join Club Sandwich (the LITSZ Private Facebook Group): LITSZ_Club_Sandwich --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/karen-osborne9/message

1 in 2 humans have a 'secure attachment style'. The remaining 1 in 2 humans are either 'anxious', 'avoidant' or 'disorganised'... Fumbling through life, attracting the equal and opposite trait to potentially feed those differing levels of dysfunction and chaos.Fascinating, I know... So there's a 50% chance your date or potential partner (or hubby/wife) has some 'issues' to address. AND here's the fun part.. that leaves a 50% chance that YOU have some 'issues' to work through yourself! (Don't worry, I myself fall very much into that undesirable second category) So here's a conversation around all things understanding your attachment style and creating healthy relationships with one of the world's top relationship therapists who specialises in just that... With just shy of a million Instagram followers it's fair to say she's one of the best in the business and we talk about some brilliant stuff. JULIE MENANNO Website:  www.thesecurerelationship.com  TIFFANEE COOK Linktree:  https://linktr.ee/rollwiththepunches/ Website: www.rollwiththepunches.com.au LinkedIn:  www.linkedin.com/in/tiffaneecook/ Facebook:  www.facebook.com/rollwiththepunchespodcast/ Instagram:  www.instagram.com/rollwiththepunches_podcast/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/tiffaneeandco    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever had relationship issues? If so, this episode is for you! Julie Menanno MA has got some great tips you can use today to make all of your relationships better. Julie's tips: 3 easy things you can do today to build toward 'The Secure Relationship you desire: (find much more on HardyMom.com) Give and receive healthy physical touch Say "thank you" (the message is I see you, I appreciate you, and I want you to feel good) Ask, "what is it you're needing from me today?" Learn where you are at the "Window of Tolerance" and much, much more in the episode and in the rest of the show notes HERE   Want to hear more from Julie? Check out her Instagram page with nearly 1 million followers & in these places: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thesecurerelationship/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thesecurerelationship/ Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thesecurerelationship?fan_landing=true Website: https://www.thesecurerelationship.com/   and find me, Jen Hardy, at HardyMom.com and on instagram https://www.instagram.com/thejenhardy   Sharing is caring! Please share with someone who'd enjoy it, thanks! Jen  

Julie Menanno is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, as well as a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor. Julie's mission is to make the insights and practical skills she uses to treat couples in in her private practice more accessible to a wider population. Julie runs Bozeman Therapy and Counseling where she and a staff of therapists treat couples and individuals. Secure Love is Julie's first book and is a guide to getting unstuck from a negative cycle and finding attachment security with your partner. In this episode, Julie and I talk all about anxious, avoidant and disorganized attachment styles. Julie gives advice and tips on how to: identify your attachment style recognize what's happening in a negative cycle overcome a negative cycle know what to do in the middle of a conflict create secure attachments in your romantic relationships parent your children so you create secure attachments in them so they have more successful relationships later in life This episode is a must listen to if you're in a relationship romantically, a parent, a grandparent or plan on being in any kind of relationship in the future. Important links: Julie's IG: instagram.com/thesecurerelationship Julie's Patreon account: https://www.patreon.com/thesecurerelationship Kameran's IG: instagram.com/divorce.proof.marriage Kameran's Facebook group: facebook.com/groups/recognizingpotential Link to monthly membership mentioned in ad: recognizingpotential.teachable.com/p/connected $10 off Amare mental wellness products: https://amare.com/g10/145624

Author and EFT therapist Julie Menanno shares the communication skills that made her an Instagram phenom. With her clear and unassuming style, she shows us how to navigate the tricky places that block connection.

Julie Menanno also known as the “The Secure Relationship” on instagram discusses:   What is emotionally focused therapy? How do we understand attachment types from an evolutionary perspective? How are our attachments formed in our early development? Anxious, Avoidant, Disorganized   Why an overbearing parent can lead to an anxious or avoidant attachment style What is happening to us individually within each of these attachment styles? Strengths and weaknesses we experience as adults within these styles of attachment? How anxious and avoidant attachment styles can work through the online dating environment and how to pay more attention to our felt experiences? How do couples work through relational issues when attachment styles are conflicting? Why  almost 100% couples fall into an anxious and avoidant match  What are attachment wounds and how do we work through them? How do we get stuck in a shame spiral? How does emotional validation play a part in all of this?  How our projections are related to our attachment styles? Intra-psychic blocks vs. Inter-psychic blocks What you can expect from her book “The Secure Relationship”   Her website: https://www.thesecurerelationship.com   Produced by Dear Media

This week The Chicks welcome Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Julie Menanno to take a deep dive into how to feel more secure in your relationship...especially if you tend to have an anxious attachment style or struggle with codependency. Julie also helps clarify the difference between an anxious attachment and anxiety disorder. Alison shares her personal struggles with her own body image and insecurity within her current relationship & how she's learned recently how to self-regulate. The 7-Days of Anxiety Healing: A Mental Health Masterclass (Summer Session Begins June 13th) Looking for therapy? Try Betterhelp and get 10% OFF your first month! Click HERE for more info. Buy your copy of The Anxiety Healers Guide HERE Follow The Chicks on IG: @theanxietychicks @theanxietyhealer @health_anxiety Follow Alison on Tiktok HERE --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/the-anxiety-chicks/support

Let's chat about secure relationships with Julie Menanno from @thesecurerelationship! ⁠ Julie Menanno is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, as well as a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor. Her mission is to take insights and practical skills she uses to treat couples in her private practice more accessible to a wider population. Julie's book, Secure Love, is a guide to getting unstuck from a negative cycle and finding attachment security with your partner. ⁠In this episode, you'll learn about: ⭐️ Why a sense of self is important and how to develop it ⁠⭐️ What a secure relationship is, and how it differs from codependency ⭐️ What it means to be emotionally available, and how to foster emotional availability in your relationships ⭐️ How to find regulation in a difficult conversation ⭐️ Top relationship tips ⭐️ A different approach to journaling ⁠...and more. Connect with Julie on Instagram (@thesecurerelationship) Connect with Life and Style Podcast on Instagram! (@thelifeandstylepodcast) Connect with Caylie on Instagram! (@caylie.lane) Be sure you are following this podcast to automatically receive new episodes! This podcast is produced by Painted Tree Boutiques. To find a location near you, visit paintedtree.com or follow them on Instagram and Facebook (@paintedtreeboutiques)! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thelifeandstylepodcast/message

Let's chat about secure relationships with Julie Menanno from @thesecurerelationship! ⁠ Julie Menanno is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, as well as a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor. Her mission is to take insights and practical skills she uses to treat couples in her private practice more accessible to a wider population. Julie's book, Secure Love, is a guide to getting unstuck from a negative cycle and finding attachment security with your partner. ⁠In this episode, you'll learn about: ⭐️ Why a sense of self is important and how to develop it ⁠⭐️ What a secure relationship is, and how it differs from codependency ⭐️ What it means to be emotionally available, and how to foster emotional availability in your relationships ⭐️ How to find regulation in a difficult conversation ⭐️ Top relationship tips ⭐️ A different approach to journaling ⁠...and more. Connect with Julie on Instagram (@thesecurerelationship) Connect with Life and Style Podcast on Instagram! (@thelifeandstylepodcast) Connect with Caylie on Instagram! (@caylie.lane) Be sure you are following this podcast to automatically receive new episodes! This podcast is produced by Painted Tree Boutiques. To find a location near you, visit paintedtree.com or follow them on Instagram and Facebook (@paintedtreeboutiques)! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thelifeandstylepodcast/message

Track 1: Introductions to show and to Lori and Julie   Start Track 2: 22:23 Track 2: What happens when we are in distress It's hard to change behavior and build new neuropathways About 200 therapists in EFT in MT  ICEEFT website tells you therapists in the area Stillface Video   Start Track 3: 45:34   Start Track 4: 1:04:58   Start Track 5: 1:26:10 Track 5: Text about nutrition in relationship therapy Emotional baggage in relationships Working individually on our inner child Lori's couples retreats   Start Track 6: 1:44:23

So what is attachment theory? On this episode of Twisted Plot Podcast, Marriage and Family therapist Julie Menanno, also know as the creator behind the Instagram account @thesecurerelationship gives everyone a rundown of the four attachment styles(anxious, avoidant, secure and disorganized) the pros of Somatic Experiencing Therapy and how the future of attachment theory might be the biggest plot twist of them all. Julie breaks down attachment theory so well on her instagram account, and has drawn a community of over half a million followers. Julie is such an active participant in her community and her daily posts that help inform her followers continues to prove that we all want to learn more about ourselves, our relationships and how we show up. In this episode she gives great examples of techniques to help those with an insecure attachment style that are trying to gain more regulation to help themselves through those hard times. If you walk away with anything from this episode, I hope it is the understanding that you are not alone, and that there are resources out there to help you in your everyday life. Find Julie Menanno: Instagram: @thesecurerelationship https://www.thesecurerelationship.com/ Find Evelyn Marley: Instagram: @evelynmarley Books Mentioned: The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel A. Van Der Kolk

This was a favorite conversation as it really hits home with me personally. Understanding both our own and our partners attachment styles can go a long way in helping you resolve conflict and improve your relationships. Listen to today's show to learn some life changing insights! In this episode with Julie Menanno, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to emotionally support your partner based on attachment theory The anxious avoidant dynamic and the importance of understanding it How our attachment styles are developed during childhood and how they show up in relationships as adults The value of responding to your partner with curiosity How to create emotional safety in your relationship How to communicate outside of a negative cycle And much more! For more information on our guest, and for the episode links visit: https://idopodcast.com/328 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Bonafide offers naturally derived products to treat menopause, PMS and intimacy issues. It's easy to use, safe, hormone-free & recommended by thousands of doctors. Get 20% off your first purchase when you subscribe to any product. Go to HelloBonafide.com and use promo code IDO. Faherty: Sweater weather is here! Stock up on all your fall and winter clothes now! Head to FahertyBrand.com and enter the promo code IDo at checkout to snag 20% off ALL your gear. Quip: Good health starts with good habits. Quip makes it easy, by delivering all the oral care essentials you need to care for your mouth. Go to GETQUIP.com/IDO, and you'll get your first refill FREE. Native: Aluminum-Free & Paraben-Free Deodorant. Vegan & Cruelty Free. save 20% on your first purchase by visiting NativeDeo.com/ido20 or use promo code ido20 at checkout. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah

How many times have you looked at your relationship partner and wondered, “Why do they do that?” Have we got an episode for you! Julie Menanno's “The Secure Relationship” (@thesecurerelationship) Instagram account is a touchstone for many folks in the TMST community. In a sea of glib, pop psychology, and low nutrition, feel-good content, she's taken her work as a couple's therapist and scholar and turned it into a feed that's operating at a much higher level. In recent years, the concept of attachment styles - anxious types, avoidant types - has crept into our consciousness. Julie brings these concepts, and other ideas like attachment needs, emotional safety, and healthy vulnerability, to life in a smart, accessible way for almost half a million followers. Her first book, The Secure Relationship, and her latest, Secure Love, are shining a light on ways we can be more centered in our relationships - and how we can enjoy them more. Julie Menanno: https://www.thesecurerelationship.com/ The Secure Relationship IG account: https://www.instagram.com/thesecurerelationship/ Tell Me Something True is a 100% independent podcast. There are no corporations or advertisers backing this community. We are 100% funded by the TMST community. Support TMST today so you can hear the uncut interviews, attend private events with Laura and help keep TMST ad-free: https://tmst.supercast.com/

Welcome back to the YogaLion podcast! In this week's episode, my friend Kara joins me once again to discuss the book Attached by Dr. Amir Levine, M.D. & Rachel S.F. Heller, M.A.. We explain what attachment theory is, the three different attachment styles, and share our own attachment styles, including how they have been influenced and shaped our relationships over the years. The 3 Attachment Styles: Anxious Secure Avoidant Take the quiz (& help research!) to find your own attachment style! http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl Caroline's book rating - ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ & attachment style: Avoidant + Anxious Kara's book rating - ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ & attachment style: Anxious   Kara's favorite instagram resources for relationship/dating/mental health advice: ▪️@thesecurerelationship - Julie Menanno ▪️@youloveandyoulearn - Sarah ▪️@the.holistic.psychologist - Dr. Nicole LePera ▪️@thebehaviourtherapist - Nabill Zafir ▪️@millennial.therapist - Sara Kuburic   Join me each week to explore a different aspect of yoga, from guided breathwork, meditations, and physical practices to book talks, teacher interviews, and more! Support me on Patreon to vote on the topics for future episodes!