Bad At Love Podcast

There's an expectation here in Minnesota and I'm sure in other states, that when you are leaving a social gathering, that the first "goodbye" is not the last. Usually, it takes about 20 additional minutes to get out of the door. This phenomenon is called "The Minnesota Goodbye". It's akin to, "no, you hang up".  It is with that notion in mind that Tamu & Mallory have decided to say "goodbye" to Bad at Love Podcast.  In this final episode, they talk about the cost of being single with the help of Anne Helen Petersen's Vox article, “The Escalating Cost of Being Single in America”. Tamu gets verklempt talking about the Sex and the City reboot, And Just Like That. Finally, they determine if they are still Bad at Love. The answer? Probably. Moral to the Story: TTFN! (Ta Ta For Now) We are so very grateful for the friends we have made along the way and thankful to all of those who have listened to our snorts and rants these past three years. If you need a Mallory and/or Tamu Fix: Follow Mallory on Twitch. Play a game and say, “hey!”. Listen to When the Bill Comes Due podcast. Tamu and her friend Aaron come to terms with midlife during a pandemic and social reckoning. Rewind Bad at Love Podcast from the beginning for a bit of nostalgia.   Stay safe. Stay healthy.

We're baaaaaaccccccckkk! If anything could bring us out of the grimness that is 2021 and back to the mics, it has to be Netflix's new “dating show”, “Sexy Beasts.” We watch all six episodes so you NEVER have to. Moral to the Story: This is a Sophie's Choice of dating for thin, fit, hot people. You may have chosen the hot Beaver, but what if the hot Manatee was even hotter?! Besides trying to survive this hell scape, what have we been up to since September? Mallory is becoming a gaming diva on Twitch. Help grow her community! Like, subscribe, watch, and share with your friends. Tamu has a new podcast called, "When the Bill Comes Due" with her friend Aaron. Give it a listen! After you've listened to this episode!

Let's face it, it has been a pretty crap week for women. Mallory and Tamu talk about the travesty that was the indictment of the police officer who shot through Breonna Taylor's walls, but not for shooting her. They also touch on a little tiny news story about women on the verge of losing all of their reproductive rights with the new conservative Supreme Court. No biggie, right?! Moral to the Story: *sigh* History is repeating itself people, we have to come together and fight as one.  

Mallory and Tamu were joined by Hannah and SooJin of the Antiracist Parenting Podcast in the first of what we can hope are many conversations about what Antiracism is, how to related to individuals who might not be "there" and how it is possible for us all to move about the world as Antiracist humans. Moral to the Story: The meaning of Sankofa - "You must reach back to reclaim that which is lost in order to move forward." So Tired of Having this be a Moral to the Story: Arrest the police officers who murdered Breonna Taylor! Other Fun Topics Discussed History is important. If you do nothing, you are being passively racist. What about white folks? Racism dehumanizes white folks, once they realizing they are losing their humanity, they will stop dehumanizing BIPOC. On cancel culture: some things need to be cancelled. Itis a step forward towards accountability. How to deal with loved ones who might see things differently: live life where your values align. To be in relation with people whose values don't align can be done up to a point. Being intentional and deliberate in what you are doing is the key to managing through complex relationships. Learn More... LISTEN: Antiracist Parenting Podcast. READ: Soojin's book - From Orphan to Adoptee: U.S. Empires and Genealogies of Korean Adoption WRITE: Ode to George - This anthology seeks to collect the individual experiences that people have had at George Perry Floyd’s Memorial Site in order to memorialize the collective grieving and mourning experienced by this space. This book of collected essays, poems, and visual art seeks to preserve not only our collective grief but also our collective healing together as a community. 

This week, well, really two weeks ago, Tamu and Mallory discussed Black America's unrequited love affair with the rest of America. Mallory was also having a tough time dealing with the world that week; Jacob Blake's shooting left her feeling hopeless. While Tamu was dismayed and truly disgusted by the naturalization stunt the RNC decided to portray on TV, hope was on the horizon because Doc Rivers made her dad decide register to vote for the first time in his life. Moral to the Story: If Tamu's dad is pissed off enough to vote, we all should be pissed off enough to vote! So Tired of Having this be a Moral to the Story: Arrest the police officers who murdered Breonna Taylor! Other Fun Topics Discussed: Katy Perry & Orlando Bloom's new baby, Daisy Dove. The shooting of Jacob Blake. White Supremacy's newest teen murderer. Mistaken suicide rioting in Minneapolis. All Hail Sports: WNBA, NBA, MLB, NHL and Naomi Osaka boycotting for Black Lives Matter. Tone deaf Jared. Blacks and their unrequited love of America: As Doc Rivers eloquently stated, " It's amazing why we keep loving this country and this country does not love us back." The unmitigated gall of Daniel Cameron, Kentucky's Attorney General, preening for the cameras at the RNC and using Breonna's name as a talking point instead of bringing justice to Breonna.

This week Tamu and Mallory discuss the aftermath of Mallory's Saturday night "The Postman" live Tweet event and her bringing this terrible, yet timely film back to life. Tamu wrestles with work microaggressions and coming to terms with not making excuses for feeling how she feels about racism. In Kentucky, the cops who murdered Breonna Taylor probably had a BBQ instead of prison food--AGAIN! Moral to the Story: Believe Black women. Support Black women. Protect Black Women. Never-ending Very Special Moral to the Story: Arrest the police officers who murdered Breonna Taylor! Other Fun Topics Discussed: Megan Thee Stallion protecting the man who shot her while he throws her under the bus. Iowa's land hurricane, a.k.a., derecho and the time Tamu and Mallory think they were caught in one. Bidets: get one for COVID Wave 2 Bad at Love has a theory: Racism would still exist if your wiped everyone's memory like Men in Black. Special Shout-outs: New Podcast - Antiracist Parenting Podcast: Our dear friend and social justice book club creator, Hannah, who was our guest on Episode 32: Justice Flowers with a Side of Ranch now has her very own podcast. Please listen to Antiracist Parenting Podcast. Hannah and her co-host SooJin are parents who are deeply committed to raising antiracist children and want to build a community that will help parents gain confidence in raising a generation of antiracist kids by talking with kids about race, racism, white supremacy, and what it means to be an antiracist. Want more information? Check out their website. Congratulations to Tiffany from Abroad In Education: Tiffany, creator and host of the podcast, (A)broad in Education and special guest on our series of travel episodes (Episodes 30 & 31) is doing big things with her doctoral thesis and just won a game-changing fellowship! Glad you are still with us, Kelli!: Fan of the show Kelli, survived a near-death experience on Lake Michigan. So glad you and your daughter are okay.    

In a week of taking the good with the bad, the bad sort of won out for Tamu & Mallory. With the Congress taking a vacation in the middle of the pandemic and leaving millions questioning whether they can keep a roof over their heads and feed themselves and families, the crushing battle for the vote landing in the lap of the US Postal Service and the rebirth of birtherism; it is a wonder they made it to Friday with some semblance of sanity. At least they share a theme song with Kamala Harris and QVC. Moral to the Story: Your vote means something! Let's do what needs to be done and get to voting early. Never-ending Very Special Moral to the Story: Arrest the police officers who murdered Breonna Taylor! Other Fun Topics Discussed: Good Humor stops having racism bring the kids to the trucks. They teamed up with Rza of Wu Tang Clan for a reboot of the Good Humor ice cream truck jingle. Mallory is becoming the Bob Ross of watercolors. Mallory goes down a rabbit hole with the 1997 Kevin Costner film, The Postman.  Tamu reads a poem.

This week, Tamu & Mallory are joined by special guest, Aaron (gusband of Tamu) to discuss WTF is going on in the world and how we are coping with it. Moral to the Story: You know what is not ok? Traumatizing children! Never-ending Very Special Moral to the Story: Arrest the police officers who murdered Breonna Taylor! Other Fun Topics Discussed: The soundtrack to Tamu's 20s, Mary J. Blige's My Life is 25 WAP Forever First Lady is sad just like us: Michelle Obama's depression confession Party like it's your last, cause it might be: Underground Covid parties  

This week, Tamu and Mallory continue to be confounded by life as we know it. Tamu learns that it is okay to allow herself space and permission to grieve, be angry, be joyful, be sad during this time of dramatic shifts in culture. Mallory, who is reeling from making her leg 13mm longer, really wants to be Scottish. Also, enjoy the 5 minutes of laughter that hearkens back to a simpler time in 2019. Moral to the Story: Sometimes, take a moment and turn your underwear around. Never-ending Very Special Moral to the Story: Arrest the police officers who murdered Breonna Taylor! Other fun Topics Discussed: Red-headed gene Black-fisted gene The doctor who hasn't used soap in five years. Jim Crow of the North: Yes, folks, Minnesota is racist as hell. Ambergris: the scent of a woman Bidets Mallory's "cheeky" underwear that really wasn't a reverse thong.

This week, the healing continues! Tamu and Mallory discuss the insanity that is the world we live in and try to figure out what's wrong with kids (and grown-ass adults) these days. Mallory also explains what HIPAA is so folks can stop using it incorrectly when defending their "right" not to wear a mask. Moral to the Story: In less than 100 days, you have a choice to make, go out and make the right one. VOTE! Second Moral to the Story: Wear a G-damn mask! Very Special Moral to the Story: Arrest the police officers who murdered Breonna Taylor! Other Fun Topics Discussed: The younger set (and older set) and their desire for pleasure over health and empathy for others. Autocratic police states are the new norm. Person. Woman. Man. Camera. TV. Yes, Kanye is problematic, but let's be mindful about mental health. The new Netflix show: Indian Matchmaking AOC is not here for the bullshit.

This week in current events discussions, Tamu and Mallory talk Covid-19 and insanity of not wearing masks. Moral to the Story: The fabric of America is so worn, it is see-through! Second Moral to the Story: Wear a G-damn mask! Very Special Moral tot he Story: Arrest the police officer who murdered Breonna Taylor! One Fun Thing During This Abysmal Time: Mallory details the SECOND time she was hit on in her building. DONATE! DONATE! DONATE! Minneapolis is getting its ONLY Black-owned bookstore (ain't that some sh!t?). Please Check out Black Garnet Books and donate to their Go Fund Me they are soooo close to their goal.

 The ladies admit they are not okay and just getting by these days. They continue their conversation about how they have been impacted by the exposure of America's dirty not-so-secret history of white supremacy and systemic racism. Also Mallory got asked on a date in these Covid times! Moral to the Story: BLACK TRANS LIVES MATTER! Bonus Moral to the Story: ARREST THE COPS WHO KILLED BREONNA TAYLOR!   One Fun Thing: Back when we were just trying to survive Covid isolation, Tamu and Mallory were invited to record a quarantine YouTube episode with The Meme-ing of it All podcast. It was a lot of fun. The ladies introduced the Meme-ing crew to all sorts of interesting dildos from Bad Dragon. Check it out if you need a 25 minute break from the heaviness of the world. Don't Forget: DONATE, DONATE, DONATE! Reclaim the Block has a Google doc listing Minneapolis/St.Paul organizations you can donate to. The Strategist has a comprehensive list of organizations that you can support based on your interests. Donate locally to ensure funds get where they are most needed.

Tamu and Mallory have a conversation about the devastating and change-making events that have rocked their Twin Cities of Minneapolis & St. Paul, the nation, and the world in the past three weeks. Moral to the Story: BLACK LIVES MATTER! DONATE, DONATE, DONATE! Reclaim the Block has a Google doc listing Minneapolis/St.Paul organizations you can donate to. The Strategist has a comprehensive list of organizations that you can support based on your interests. Donate locally to ensure funds get where they are most needed. Be an ALLY: Check out Justice in June. It offers three learning plans for anyone hoping to spend the month taking a step to “becoming an active ally to the black community.” Choose how much time you have per day — 10, 25 or 45 minutes — and the learning plan tells you what media to consume. Watch Ibram X. Kendi discuss How to Be an Antiracist. Watch Dr. Robin DiAngelo discuss White Fragility. Watch Franchesca Ramsey's 5 Tips for Being an Ally.  

In our final episode of the season, we recap Tamu's European trip which was chocked full of cobblestone, hills and steps! Moral to the Story: We only go around this Earth once. Treat yo'self. Don't cheap out on your vacations. Other Fun Topics Discussed: Get to Know Us: Justin Timberlake's recent "poor lack of judgement" sparked this week's question - Would you let your man hold another woman's hand? The consensus was, "I guess". Tamu got Prik in Amsterdam. Sometimes being a tourist can be fun. Tamu's Tourist Suggestions: London - London Eye with drinks package; if you are lucky, you will see a proposal! Edinburgh - Scotch Whisky Experience; ride in a whisky barrel and learn from a ghost how whisky is made and then drink some! Paris: L'Atelier des Lumieres; immerse yourself in the art of Vincent Van Gogh (until Jan 5, 2020). No one gives you the topical terrain information about cities when you are reading a travel blog. Tamu's Travel Pro Tip: Scotland has inclines and steps. So does London. Racism Abroad: In Amsterdam, people dress in full blackface as a Santa's helper friend, Black Pete. Shout out to Tiffany from Abroad in Education: Wigs did make a difference. Shout out to my new Scottish friends Liam and James! Tamu's Foodie Suggestions: London: Cotton's Restaurant(Caribbean), Jamaican Patty Co.(Jamaican Style Patties), Ping Pong (Chinese Dim Sum). Paris: Frenchie Bar a Vins (French Wine Bar and Food). Edinburgh: Maison Bleue (French, North African, Scottish). That time we left a bar in Paris without paying. Tamu's Travel Pro Tip: Wear comfortable shoes and clothes. Our bizarre Outlander discussion. The benefits of living minimally. In praise of WhatsApp: keeps family close and friendships fresh. #WePodcastLikeThis: Hannah's (Check out Ep. 32 to learn more about Hannah and her Social Justice Book Club) talented kids made the earrings we are wearing for a fundraiser. Thank you: To all of our old and new listener friends, we are so very grateful for your support. We wish you all a very safe and happy holiday season! See you next year for Season 3!  

Join Tamu and Mallory as they recount their very first times. Moral to the Story: Have that sex test results convo before diving into the festivities. Other Fun Topics Discussed: Tamu and Mallory were both late bloomers. We are conditioned via pop culture to believe you should be between ages 15 - 18 when you loose your virginity. Old men are gross and disgusting. Mallory planned her first time and went for it with gusto and actually enjoyed herself. Tamu's planned first time was with Phil and was supposed to be in Atlantic City. Tamu's REAL first time was still with Phil on Mother's Day on the floor of his parents' house. B@L Concept: The Reluctant Virgin There is a lot of planning and prep involved in anal sex.  

  This week Tamu & Mallory discuss 36 Questions to Love and how their answering these questions over wine in 2015 laid the foundation for their friendship. Moral to the Story: You can use these questions to develop a foundation regardless of relationship. Other Fun Topics Discussed: Get to Know Us: Have you used scents to try an attract people? Perfumes are bad for you. Tamu loved original Dolce & Gabanna Scent trails - that time on the jetway when someone farted. Chemical smells gives Mallory a migraine. #WePodcastLikeThis The Key to 36 Questions: Be open-minded. 4 minutes of looking into someone's eyes in silence it too much for Tamu. For our true crime friends: you may be able to detect sociopathy and psychopathy with these questions. These questions can be a good way to gauge someone's open-mindedness. There is a potential for us to to make compromises even with these questions because we see what we want to see. Tamu wonders if these questions would have worked with Wights 1 and 2 and determines, probably not. Follow your intuition. It is OK to be alone. Make good climatic choices. Try these 36 questions on a speed date. Idris Elba

New York Magazine's, The Cut article, "8 TV Shows to Watch After a Breakup" sparked a lovely conversation about TV shows watched by Tamu and Mallory during the dark times of relationships end. Moral to the Story: Breakup shows are good for a time, but, when you end up hating them, it means you have moved on. Other Fun Topics Discussed: Planet Earth makes Tamu grateful to be a human and not an animal. Noah's Arc was an AMAZING show and should still be on TV. Mallory's Feel Good Shows: Parks and Rec, Steven Universe. Mallory's Feel Good Video Games: Skyrim, Dragon Age. Mallory's Feel Good Animal: Indigo Mallory's heart is encased in dry ice. Tamu's Breakup Shows - Wight 1: Something's Gotta Give, Sex and the City, Charmed, Angel. Tamu's Breakup Shows - Wight 2: Degrassi: The Next Generation, (yes the one with baby Drake) it was on while studying during her Bachelors degree quest. FYI, Degrassi Junior High was live on PBS when she was in junior high! During her breakup with Wight 1, they watched a lot of movies together; Napoleon Dynamite, Garden State. HBO's Togetherness episode featuring James Blake's, The Wilhelm Scream triggered Tamu into wanting to do harm to herself. Tamu's Breakup TV Recommendation: any of the 90 Day Fiance franchise; These cautionary tales will make you feel better about yourself because there are way stupider people in the world than you. Mallory wants to be hopeful.    

As a part of Tamu's personal growth journey, she chose to read Brene Brown's, Braving the Wilderness then thought it would be good idea to read for the podcast at some point. The timing was astounding, as it was read during a week of mass shootings at the end of July into August and the book served as basis to try and understand why these tragedies continue to occur and how we can work in our own small ways to make change. Moral to the Story: Listen to try to understand in the same way we want to be understood. Other Fun Topics Discussed: Get to Know Us: Being in a relationship with a person of color. Awareness of the whites to issues of others. Respect when your partner draws attention to situations. Mallory hates slap bracelets. Drink of the Day: Tinto de Verano What is the wilderness? Standing in your truth and not wavering from it. It is important to set up boundaries for yourself. We are living in a giant feedback loop. Loneliness stems from fear & anger. We are where we are today out of fear. Global and Domestic Terrorism: A Discussion Dehumanization Mallory is losing her empathy for gunmen. We are all able to recognize and stop it. Conflict transformation: Help me understand. Mallory is always on a rampage for justice, to hell with small victories. Tamu is working on being joy-filled but she is busy foreboding joy. Be courageous and vulnerable. Express your joy, it will make others happy.

Tamu and Mallory discussed the lesser known, but all to commonplace concept of kittenfishing thanks to the Huffington Post article, "If You're Dating, You've Almost Undoubtedly Been Kittenfished." Moral to the Story: You don't have to lie about who you are--we will find out. Other Fun Topics Discussed: Kittenfishing was created by Hinge. It means, someone who presents themselves unrealistically using Photoshop, older, albeit younger pictures, etc. Calling it "kittenfishing" makes it sound less insidious. Mallory finds herself entertaining.

Hannah joins us to talk about her Social Justice Book Club. Moral to the Story: It is important to keep lines of communication open to strengthen relationships. Other Fun Topics Discussed: Local Business Shout-Out: Sociable Cider Werks. Get to Know Us: Weird Food Combos - Hannah loves ranch on everything! Mallory eats Fritos with cottage cheese. Tamu eats most things out of a bowl with a spoon. #WePodcastLikeThis - baby shark edition How do you maintain relationships when you have divergent opinions on politics & justice? One method: Meet for coffee to talk about politics/social identity. Have ground rules. Look for connections and points to open up.

Our Emotional Intelligence consultant, Hannah (see Episode 25: My Life is the Mmmbop Song) launched a Social Justice Book Club at the Golden Valley Public Library in Minneapolis. We talk how Hannah selects books for her book club and get insights on her motivation for starting it. Moral to the Story: Change can effect not just family, but those around you. Other Fun Topics Discussed: Twin Cities Pilgrimage Dakota Sacred Sites Tour Yes Virginia, there was slavery in Minnesota. Future Books for the Club: My Grandmother's Hands by, Resmaa Menakem- January 20, 2020 American Prison by, Shane Bauer - February 20, 2020 Past Book Club Selections: White Fragility by, Robin Diangelo A Good Time for the Truth: Race in Minnesota by, Sun Yung Shin Get the Upcoming Book Club List: Email Hannah: hcarney@umn.edu    

Tiffany from (A)broad in Education and super special guest Thuan (check out his foodie Instagram @travel2f00d) join us to discuss being American while traveling solo. Moral to the Story: Travel makes you different. Other Fun Topics Discuss: Tamu is traveling to Europe. Tiffany has two volumes of photos from her trips. Tamu's flight anxiety. Group consensus: there is plenty to do to keep you distracted on flights. Geography. Tiffany's Collage: Smoking in Amsterdam Food tastes better in their origin countries. Thuan Recommends: Churchill War Museum Feeling Triggered: Tamu passes on the Heineken Museum because Wight 1 used to drink it. Tiffany suggests going to exorcise the legacy of Wight 1. Tamu is taking a wig to change her persona in Amsterdam. Hair changes your personality. Tiffany suggests wearing a wig throughout the trip. Le Paris Noir Tour.       Travel & Race & Safety: Don't read the comments when you Google about being black and travelling. Being American carries more weight than blackness. Travel in Paris. Tales from the Camino de Santiago. Being American can also make you feel like an outsider aside from race/ethnicity. Passports: Concept of US passport as reparations. Head Scratcher Question: Are all Americans colonizers? Americans have a privilege abroad just by being American. Is it radical to travel?

Once again, it started as an innocent Get To Know Us question and turned into a full-blown episode. We are joined by Tiffany from (A)broad in Education and super special guest Thuan (check out his foodie Instagram @travel2f00d) for a robust discussion about the ridiculous expense of bras, underwear cleanliness/rotation, and going commando. Moral to the Story: Buy new underwear every six months, don't be like us and have them for years. Other Fun Topics Discussed: The most money spent on a bra. Victoria's Secret was a bra/panty training ground for most of us. Tiffany was wearing the wrong sized bra because they were her mom's. Tiffany also didn't want boobs. Training bras. Tamu is going to London to see Jim. The consensus is that she will get laid. Local Business Shout-out: Allure Intimate Apparel. Nips are not a thing Tamu wants. Poor Thuan is mortified. No one will let Tamu finish her story. Third Love bras are hella expensive. Dudes just have to buy a 4-pack of Jockey underwear and are good to go. Tamu realizes her boobs are sagging because she is old and not because of mammograms. Thuan suggests going commando. A study from Tommy John shows Americans wear the same underwear multiple times in a row. Bad@Love PSA: Wash your clothes. Bad@Love PSA that we shouldn't need to remind you about: WASH YOUR PAN AFTER YOUR COOK/SEASON CHICKEN!! Mallory wore someone else's panties as a teen. Bad@Love Pro-Tip: Wear underwear inside out when borrowing. Bad@Love Saves the Planet: Go commando to save the landfills. H&M textile bins. Mallory's sports bra is at the end of the world. Correction: We meant Abercrombie & Fitch, not American Apparel. Mindblown: What if we are meant to be funky? Do hipsters wash their legs? Americans have a different immune system. Asia According to Thuan: In Asia, you have different types of ice. Drink the ice that has holes in it. Don't drink the ice that is chipped off from a block. Ask for ice on the side. Drink bottled or canned.

Tamu is off to Europe for two whole months! Tiffany from (A)broad in Education joins Mallory as they talk about the difficulties of maintaining relationships while traveling, after traveling, and how a lot of it can be in your head when you simply realize that life happens. Moral to the Story: Keeping in touch can be difficult. But when you stay connected, life flourishes.

Tamu is off to Europe for two whole months! Tiffany from (A)broad in Education and super special guest Thuan (check out his foodie Instagram @travel2f00d) join Mallory in giving her advice for her travels. Moral to the Story: Say yes and don't be afraid to go off your plan. Other Fun Topics Discussed: Find the Blue Light District in Amsterdam. Get tickets for attractions in advanced. Visit the Anne Frank house. Watching Van Gogh come to life at Atelier des Lumieres in France. Try the bacon! Anywhere Travel Guide Cards Looking for black travel information? Check out Travel Noire. Create a time capsule: send postcards to yourself as well as friends and family. Blood sausage in the UK and blood cubes in Vietnam.

We read Blythe Roberson's How to Date Men When You Hate Men basically because Mallory hates dudes and we want to get to the bottom of it. Moral to the Story: Times are a changin'! You can write your own story when it comes to relationships. Other Fun Topics Discussed: Get to Know Us: Relationship flashbacks. What do you do when you are triggered into a relationship memory? Wish them well even if they are assholes. #WePodcastLikeThis Hair Colorist Shout Out -  to Shelly Rae of Paper Hair Salon. Everyone wanted Mallory to read this book. Mallory can't get past the hate because of her trust issues. Blythe might need Talkspace. You can chart your own path when it comes to love. Is the fairy tale real? Maybe, but it will end because love is a false construct. Pop culture dictates the rules. What does dating mean? The group hang. Is it so wrong to have phone conversations in 2019? Hold fast to your deal breakers. Have multiple crushes. The 2 question rule.

This week we talk with our friend and author of Reclaiming Choice: Awakening Peace and Power from Within, Gretchen about not compromising on your deal-breakers in relationships. BTW, she is also the lovely woman who let us record season one at her house. Moral to the Story: You don't have to jump into dating immediately after a breakup. Other Fun Topics Discussed: Get to Know Us: What should the legal smoking age be? 18 or 21? Our consensus was 19. Tamu is going to try a hash brownie when she goes to Amsterdam. #WePodcastLikeThis We create our own relationships. Get clear on your deal-breakers. Communicating with the Opposite Sex, by Alison Armstrong. Follow your gut. Don't compromise on your happiness. It is more sensible to look for what you desire and deserve, rather than waste someone's time. It is not easy to sit within yourself. Take time to process the end of relationships or else you'll bring that baggage into your next one. At the end of the day, be honest with what you want.   Book Recommendation: Check out Gretchen's book, Reclaiming Choice: Awakening Peace and Power from Within: Is the world going mad? Have you wondered if the violence and suffering will ever end? With gentle words, Gretchen speaks through the fog of pain and confusion to a culture that has lost its center. Conveyed in a personal narrative that is at once familiar and profound, she guides the reader through the layers of separation obscuring access to peace and wholeness. The journey is as healing as it is empowering; awakening the reader to the importance of reclaiming their right of conscious choice. In the process, Gretchen builds a bridge between where we are now and where we can go as individuals, communities and as a human race. It is a refreshing perspective, worthy of consideration, discussion and application.  

This week we are talkin' 'bout the songs that maybe shouldn't be played when the mood strikes thanks to the Huff Post article, 20 Songs You Should Never Pay During Sex.  Moral to the Story: Red flags can also be found in playlists. Other Fun Topics Discussed: The Toy Story toys probably have jizz on them. Mallory has her own version of Baby Shark. Tamu doesn't know anything by Tom Waits. The Star Spangled Banner is racist. Mallory knows someone who would bang to the song, Tears in Heaven. Shout out to C-Dot from the Meme-ing of it All and her love for Old Town Road.  Would you include Old Town Road to your playlist? Mallory's mom wanted her and her brother to be in a Hanson-esque band. Wight 2 played Closer, by Nine Inch Nails after sex with Tamu. She was unsure as to whether or not it was a compliment.  

 Originally, this was supposed to be a Flutter, but there was so much to say, it became its own episode. We are joined by friend and benefactress (we recorded season one at her house), Gretchen to discuss compassion, forgiveness, and moving on from people in our families who have hurt us in the past that are now facing their own mortality. Moral to the Story: Forgiveness doesn't require face-to-face interactions, it can be done individually and energetically. Other Fun Topics Discussed: Jim's drunk text almost wrecked Tamu's upcoming London visit. You don't have to explain your truth to anyone. Live as clean of a life as possible. Mallory bought 2 pairs of shoes! It is the family we create that matters, not always the family we are given.

This week we are joined by friend and special guest, Gretchen to discuss a woman who lost her shit at Disney waiting on line for a pretzel with her 3-year-old and took to Facebook to vent her frustrations on single, childless people...and their short shorts. Moral to the Story: PACK FUCKING SNACKS! Other Fun Topics Discussed: Mallory equates dogs to toddlers and toddlers to drunk adults. Gretchen went to Niagara Falls in utero and shockingly doesn't remember it. We would love to hear what A Non Mom Happy Hour thinks. New travel document: Trip disclosures for kids. Mallory's dad had to go to the Hall of Presidents while his parents enjoyed the Disney parade. Gretchen bitch slaps the mic.

We attempt to put on our film critics caps and watch the 1949 classic, "The Heiress" with actual film buff, Nick from St. Paul Filmcast. Movie Moral to the Story: Based on this movie and countless other movies, it is easier to love a pretty person than and ugly person. Our Moral to the Story: Awkward can be beautiful. Other Fun Topics Discussed: Get to Know Us: What moving setting would we live in? Nick would definitely not live in the DC Universe. He might choose living in Middle Earth but we are all unclear as to whether they have indoor plumbing. Aragorn is like 150! More on Lord of the Rings: Mallory lost most her Elvish language skills. I guess it is true if you don't use it, you lose it. Tamu said she would live in a Nora Ephron movie, but really she meant Nancy Meyers. Who wouldn't want to live in Meryl Streep's "It's Complicated" house? Mallory would live in a musical. None of us opted for living in a period piece or the Marvel Universe. Well, maybe Wakanda. Tamu notices Montgomery Clift's bumper curls. Catherine's dad was a really good doctor and gave himself a spot on diagnosis and prognosis with just a stethoscope! Olivia de Havilland and her sister Joan Fontaine had a wicked sibling rivalry. Move over Spinster, there's a new word in town: Thornback - an unmarried woman over age 26. Nick actually READ Game of Thrones. Nick explains the tricks of back and white movies. Turns out Mallory has an ally in the Love Actually debate. Too bad Nick missed that episode. Morris' unromantic song, "Plaisir d'amour. Lyrics are: The joy of love lasts but a moment. The pain of love lasts all the life long. SWOON! Copyright Infringement: Elvis probs stole the melody of "Can't Help Falling in Love with You" from that awesome French "love" song. #WePodcastLikeThis: It was late, but we remembered. Podcast Shout Out: Nick Palodichuk is not just a knowledgeable film dude, lover of comics, and podcast host. He is also a talent artist! Check out his graphic novel, The Green Way - Vol. 1. Volumes 2 and 3 will be out in the fall.

Former love of Mallory's life, Orlando Bloom is now betrothed to Katy Perry. Those two crazy kids have decided to the take the slow road to marriage by having a long engagement. We discuss whether this is just Hottie Bloom's ploy to wait for Mallory to run into him at a "Con" and steal his heart or if he and Katy are just doing a super healthy thing by taking their time. Moral to the Story: Getting married to fix an issue in a relationship won't work. Other Fun Topics Discussed: Mallory learns about the movie, Black Rain with Michael Douglas. Tamu might be confusing the plot with the Law & Order episode with Laura Linney. Tamu's life with Mallory is like being with Encino Man. Taking a long engagement is pretty healthy. Katy Perry & T-Swift are friends again. Tamu explains Celine Dion's romance with her husband Renee. Marriage being a legal contract takes the romance out of the construct. 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way. Mallory devises a test for relationship longevity; if you can travel together, get married. Welcome to our new superfan Jen! Sorry, Jim.

This week we dig into the results of our emotional intelligence tests! Moral to the Story: Not everyone thinks like you. Other Fun Topics Discussed: Get To Know Us: we talk about childhood songs. Tamu blows Mallory away with the disco version of "C is for Cookie" off of Sesame Street Disco Fever. Mallory remembers the racist version of "This Land is Your Land" from junior high school. We can't help but feel we broke our lovely EQ coach, Hannah. #WePodcastLikeThis with Dave Matthews' Dreaming Tree Wine with the hard to read poem. Mallory's amazingly high EQ scores would be even higher were it not for her life challenges last year, but things are on the up! Tamu's optimism score is 45, because this world is a piece of shit. Mallory realizes she has mental health privilege. Getting the results was nerve wrecking. Mallory's version of flexibility is not being a doormat. Tamu is optimistic for everyone except herself. Question of the Day: How do you become optimistic in a shitty world? You cannot have a perspective in reality & be optimistic, you are lying to yourself. Scores reflected the environments that Mallory & Tamu grew up in. Mallory talks about her mom's insane optimism that leeched into her psyche which is positive -- even if she doesn't see it that way. Mallory saved a jumper's life. MMMBop has lyrics! Note to Dave Matthews: We don't understand you! Mallory's family issues have gotten better but, when it comes to dating relationships, she has to work on trust.  

This week we talk about the pending results of our emotional intelligence tests. Moral to the Story: EQ tests are an indicator of where you are today, your traits can change over time, that is called "growth". Other Fun Topics Discussed: Tamu thinks her results will be the worst. Jim has to edit our last podcast episode if Tamu and Mallory find out they are not compatible and kill each other. Mallory feels personality tests are used as excuses by people who never choose to grow. Tamu wants to retake Myers-Briggs now that she is on Prozac. NEW EQ TEST by Tamu & Mallory! Tamu & Mallory don't want to be helper/supportive people all the time.  

 Thanks to The Cut's article, "How Many Bones Would You Break to Get Laid?" Tamu learns all about Incels and the lengths they will go to reach the impossible dream of being a "Chad". Moral to the Story: You are beautiful as you are unless you are a terrible person. Other Fun Topics Discussed: Getting to know us: What is your silly aspiration? For Tamu, it would be to marry Idris Elba. For Mallory it would be wine and cheese with Jeff Goldblum. Since that seemed realistic, she switched it to having Neil Patrick Harris's baby. #WePodcastLikeThis: It was butt-ass hot while recording,  but we managed to pull it off! What is an Incel? Dudes who self categorize as involuntarily celibate. Plastic surgery for men is frowned upon. These dudes have terrible self-esteem. They feel women don't pick them because they are ugly. "Chads" are the male beauty standard in the Incel community; they are either a lumberjack, a vampire or a pretty boy. There are Incel forums where they Photoshop one another's photos to look more "Chad-like". Basically they have body dysmorphia. Therapy is SO very important. Most Incels are not white men. The glass ceiling for Incels is the friend zone. There are no true 8-10s. Listen to episode 17 where we explain the science of sex appeal. We are all basically 3-5s These dudes probably don't wash their legs. It's all a power grab. Incels could overthrow the Chads and change/break the patriarchy. Maybe the strategy is like the Irish who assimilated in America by wearing blackface and making fun of black people...it is easier to go with the status quo and be accepted rather than a breaker of chains. Mallory loves Ringo Starr. Why do men want giant balls? Dr. Eppley - providing judgement-free surgery since 1993. Podcast Promo Shout Outs: Pickup Jules Hannaford's new book, "Fool Me Twice" and check out her podcast, Hong Kong Confidential. Women should be heard and not just read about, listen to NRI Woman Podcast.    

Have you even pulled a Sandra Dee from Grease to attract a boy/girl? We talk about the times we tried to put our freakum dresses to bag dudes and the amazing fails that occurred as a result. Moral to the Story: It never goes well when you try to change yourself for others. Other Fun Topics Discussed: Check your shoes for cardboard. Tamu's Hulu Show not in development: The Handslut's Tale. We did not meet the band members from Justin Timberlake's 20/20 Experience Tour. Mallory's Terrible Awful Fancy Night Out. Mini Moral: Always eat while you drink. The first time...Mallory shaved her legs: her mom forced her to stay in the shower until she did it. Microblading and henna. Tamu trims and plucks to go to the OB/GYN. Extreme weight loss doesn't always work...you still gotta fix what is within.

 This week we talk sex, relationships and what cheating means thanks to the help of Dax Shepard's Armchair Expert episode with psychotherapist Esther Perel. Moral to the Story: Strive to the the best human you can be; it is ok to be vulnerable and communicate. Other Fun Topics Discussed: Get to know Tamu and Mallory: Tamu flips the script and asks Mallory the hard hitting question that dominated the internet for maybe 3 whole days; do you wash your legs when you take a shower? Some key takeaway's: Not washing your body is gross. Whore's baths are perfectly fine. Loofahs and scrubbies are good. Bar soap washing. Washcloths are gross. Tamu only does a bar soap wash in cases of emergency. T. Swift shaves and therefore doesn't wash her legs. Friction is needed to get clean...among other things. You should not have to Google how to take a shower! #WePodcastLikeThis - we are getting better at this Esther Perel's TED Talk on infidelity . Cheating has a ripple effect. It impacts not just the two people cheating; it also impacts your community, future prospects. Cheating is what men did. Finding "the one" has more meaning today than it did in the past. Mallory has staunch opinions things. Today we live isolated lives but create a curated life on social media. Relationships are work. To grow together, you have to communicate. Question of the Day: Did our view of cheating change after listening to Esther Perel? Sex is just an act. We add the flair with our imagination. 100% Facts: We can't expect people to live up to the standards that we set up in our minds. In the U.S., there is not a thoughtful approach to sexuality. Sex Ed in the U.S. is about plumbing, not the emotional aspect. Sex is considered dirty in the U.S.. It is not open for discussion. Education is key! Abortion Discussion Bottom Line: Abortion is a fucking choice! Mallory's Dick Tangent: Don't put a USB charger up your penis! It is not easy to be vulnerable without the tools and education to understand. Life Goals from Holocaust Survivors: Take all the sadness of your family's historical trauma and live your best life. Podcast Promo Shout Outs: Stemulate yourself with STEM Fatale Podcast. Mysteries bound with Fabled.  

This week we talk about cheating and what is means to each of us, respectively. Moral to the Story: It is imperative to have open communication in a relationship. Other Fun Topics Discussed: Is the old adage, "Once a cheater, always a cheater" true? Tamu questions her experience of cheating on White 1 (still getting the damn names confused!) A chair falls in the middle of the episode!

Right before they popped off to the land of tea & crumpets, Jim and Ben stopped by for one last in-person recording session to talk about their wedding. Apologies in advance to the Brits for our terrible English accents. Moral to the Story: Marriage has to be based on fake news otherwise no one would do it. Other Fun Topics Discussed: Ben explains the arduous emigration process. Tamu & Mallory cried at the courthouse wedding video. San Diego Shout Outs: To the wedding venue, Bahia Resort Hotel and the runner-up, Top of the Bay. Deep Sadness Moment: Mallory learns Orlando Bloom is engaged to Katy Perry. WTF Moment: Ben learns Orlando Bloom is English! Ben loves Katy Perry so much she is the only artist he listens to offline. Mallory's elvish journals. Ben is taking his Tolkien collection to England. Ben feels that Elijah Wood should be English and/or gay. Question of the Day: Do the English speak proper English? Speaking of Weddings: Joelle of Mouse and Weens had close to 200 people at her wedding. Ben's dream wedding came to fruition, the feeling was not mutual for Jim. Friends/guests forget a wedding is not about them. Jim & Ben spent 10 hours putting together their seating chart to avoid "landmines". For Jim, the bigness of the wedding (84 guests) was overwhelming . Jim's 80-line excel spreadsheet. Jim, the Consummate Wedding Planner: Jim broke all of the wedding activities into 15 minute increments. Toast strategies for when you have four (4) of them. Would they do a big wedding again? No, however, for each of them watching one another walk down the aisle with their respective families made it worth it. Lessons Learned: Jim will now be a horrible wedding guest. All about the music: Jim's OCD came out creating the reception playlist and Tamu felt a way about being excluded from the music selection. Shifting Perspectives: Ben's parents' progression from him burning in hell to full acceptance of his being gay. You get 1 min: Jim's explanation for the champagne toast. A moment of Zen: Jim's mani/pedi relaxation moment. Tamu won't be allowed into Britain with her bad cockney accent. Jim & Ben's Guide to Wedding Survival: Clearly communicate your needs and wants. Decide the size of wedding up front and do not deviate. Agree together on how scripted you want things to be. Don't sweat the small stuff. Don't freak out about your friends being idiots, they are just excited. Don't settle on venues. Take time and look around. Podcast Shout Outs from Across the Pond: Check out The Thirst Podcast for pop culture, news, reviews, and discussion. Listen to Her Moment in History where hosts Grace and Michelle give famous, infamous and not-so-well know women a time to shine.  

It is Wedding Season!!! Tamu and Mallory talk about going to and being in weddings as a single person. Moral to the Story: Go. Do it. You will be fine. Also, be nice to the other solo fliers at the wedding. Other Fun Topics Discussed: Tamu goes to Jim & Ben's wedding. Mallory got a sword as best man. Mallory's new side hustle: Geek Chic Wedding Planner Mallory and the groomsman, a first dance tale. Ambiverts unite! The More You Know: Want to feel fabulous? Go to a gay wedding. New Podcast Idea: The Sad Expert - could work for sadness and seasonal affective disorder.

After watching the Bravo mini series Dirty John, and listening to the Wondery podcast that inspired it, Tamu had to have Mallory at least listen to the podcast. Moral to the Story: It is easy to ignore red flags when you really want something or someone. Other Fun Topics Discussed: Learn about us: Mallory asked a morbid question about what you want done with your body after you die. It's either fireworks, trees, space travel, or diamonds for us. The More You Know About Mallory's Friends: Beware of the pepper shakers at Denny's because there could be ashes in it! Seriously, Mallory, Your Friends are Strange: Beware of engagement rings because they could be the ashes of a dead woman trying to posses you. #WePodcastLikeThis - Tamu figured out the Bluetooth remote for the tripod. Umm, are we still #WePodcastLikeThis? - Mallory notices the camera is still taking snaps...whoops! Wait, there is a Minnesota Dirty John? - Yes! And he has an Oxygen Seduced By Evil episode. Tamu explains what OurTime is to Mallory. Tamu concludes that there is no good time to date. Red Flag Limits: The Game - Mallory got to the third red flag of the list of red flags from the Dirty John podcast, Tamu ended at the first one. We take issue with the extreme forgiveness of Debra's mom. Hard to wrap our brains around the fact the Debra forgave John of his sins but never could forgive her brother-in-law for killing her sister. Victim blaming lesson: It is easy to judge when it is not your experience. So stop it. The Sad Truth for the Ladies of Bad@Love Podcast: We will always be suspicious and cynical in order to never be "taken" by love. TV DOES Help You Learn: The Walking Dead provided Terra with the zombie training she needed to survive her attack from John. #doubletap Mallory is a magnet for questionable dudes. Tamu talks about a red flag laden date. Podcast Shout Outs: Looking for a new book to read or want to learn about up and coming authors? Check out Shelf Addiction Podcast. Ever wonder what happens to the characters of your favorite romantic movie after the credits stop rolling? Listen to Happily Ever Aftermath for an exploration of love and relationships in movies.      

This week, Tamu and Mallory tackle the truth behind being a porn star in an article from Huffpost Life called All The Ways Porn Lied to You, According to Actual Porn Stars, and watch Red Table Talk's episode about relationships with porn. Moral to the Story: Let's not stigmatize it, and realize that porn is meant to be a fantasy, which is how people get addicted. You need to communicate to have that bombin', intimate sex life. Other Fun Topics Discussed: Pretty much everything in porn isn't average/comfortable/realistic?? WHAT?! (insert DUH) Anal has far too much prep work and nasty results otherwise Gay porn needs more gay people Feminist porn! Mallory reads her porn, and tells a story from a porn documentary she saw while at college, and why it changed her view on porn Three things will always be in business: Alcohol/Drugs, Sex, and Death.

It all started with Offset trying to get Cardi B. back in December with his literal showstopping display of affections. We attempt to get down to the root cause of why Offset felt it was OK to do this by analyzing some of the most romantic gestury movies in pop culture. Moral to the Story: To be a successful grand gesturer, you know your audience. Take some time to get to know people first. Other Fun Topics Discussed: Get to know us: We have never been romantic gestured or jestered. Mallory has only ever received flowers on her 16th birthday...from her dad. #WePodcastLikeThis: still a work in progress Mallory meets a Lone Wolf. Upside down world: What if Cardi B. interrupted Offset's concert? Enjoy Tamu's movie reviews! Mallory doesn't know who Katherine Heigl is. Tamu hates Ione Skye's character in "Say Anything." She did not deserve Lloyd. What about the backfire? Is there a grand gesture in every relationship? Tamu's Bridget Jones's Diary and college grand gesture stories. The best romantic gesture: a dildo Mallory's casino stalker who put gifts on her desk because pop culture made him think it was ok. HIMYM would be a very different show to watch now. Mallory feels Rachel & Joey could have been real if not for pop culture outrage. Podcast Shout Outs: Enjoy conversations with members of the queer community from across the globe. Tune in to Lez Represent Podcast. Check out Lady Sh!t with Lily & Brit for talk about all sorts of topics to being women these days.

SPOILERS AHEAD FOR GAME OF THRONES AND AVENGERS: ENDGAME...Sorry Jim. We read a Huffington Post article, "I Can't Believe This Stupid Reason Almost Kept Me From Watching 'Game of Thrones'" in which the author bravely explained that she felt she couldn't watch Game of Thrones because she didn't have a boyfriend. To which we said, "Oh hell no!" Moral to the Story: Watch whatever you want. Don't let society make you feel like you can't. Other Fun Topics Discussed:  Tamu is very upset about Avengers: Endgame and Game of Thrones. Endgame is problematic because Black Widow is dead and shouldn't be. Tamu had big issues with Endgame as a single women with no kids. Why is Black Widow's life worthless because she doesn't have a family?! Women saved the world in both Endgame and GoT episode 3! Mallory stopped watching GoT after episode one because she was watching with her brother and the incest love scene weirded her out. Instead, Mallory watched Outlander...she is still looking for a good time travel show. The more you know: Feeling alone about your fandom? You can find online friends or Tweet the hash tag. Do it after the show, be present and enjoy the moment first.

This week we read Lane Moore's book, How To Be Alone If You Want To, And Even If You Don't and realized that while we may agreed with some of the concepts,  we might just be too cynical for this book. Moral to the Story: Be the person you want to be/see, but with boundaries because people can still be dicks. Other Fun Topics Discussed: Get to know Tamu and Mallory: Mallory has 4 pairs of shoes and refuses to buy a pesky 5th pair because she would have the burden of packing it when she moves. Special Thanks: To CDot from The Meme-ing of it All Podcast for sharing her idea of using a UBS adapter so that we can use multiple microphones instead of one. We are forever grateful. #WePodcastLikeThis: We can't take selfies for shit. Recognize your gifts. Sometimes the universe provides you with what you need. Look past the fear of connecting. Stranger Luck aided in Mallory's trip to Europe. You can say "no" to emotional and energy vampires. Sometimes people are unable to give you want you need because they simply cannot relate. If someone can't understand you and your sadness...run. Regardless of how strong you think you are, you still need people. Mallory and Tamu agree to be each other's emergency contacts. Online friends are wonderful, however, it is still nice to have people close by. We fundamentally disagree with Lane on fairy tale love. Mallory LOVES Leslie Knope. Stop setting high expectations: Tamu tells a Sven story. Save Money and Energy: Only buy lingerie for yourself so you don't associate it with past partners. Tamu's landing strip story--her lady was never the same. You don't always have to be "on" to be "normal". Mallory LOVES Indigo. People love animals way more than they love humans. Podcast Shout Outs: Uncork the complexities of the human mind with Wine Mind Podcast. Join Ashley and Kelsey as they make history modern. Check out Make it Modern Podcast.

Continuing on the Tinder theme from last week's episode, we break down Lane Moore's Guardian article, "What I've learned about men from from countless hours of Tinder". Moral to the Story: Think of dating as the cute, yet uncomfortable shoes you have to wear to find love. Other Fun Topics Discussed: Dudes will never reach out to you quickly...EVER. Different strokes for different folks. Mallory admits to hating dudes right now.

This week we pick up where episode 17 left off and dive into the current dating culture by watching the HBO documentary, "Swiped: Hooking up in the Digital Age." Let's just say, dating is hard out in these streets. Moral to the Story: Don't hate the player, change the game. Other Fun Topics Discussed: The drunken adventures of Mallory and Tamu. Epic side bar: Mallory learns the book she read as a child called, "Little Black Sambo" is indeed racist. Dicktures and Pusstures are for YOUR EYES ONLY, no sharing. New word alert: Tinderoni - dude whores Just because a dick is flaccid, it doesn't mean it is not riddle with disease. Protect yourself from STDs and STIs. Kids need to be educated in schools about sex. Porn is not reality. Change the culture by teaching men not to rape. No one knows how to talk to one another these days, in the 90s talking on the phone wasn't considered sociopathy. Be OK with your everyday. Check tagged photos to know what is really going on in a person's life or what they are hiding.   Podcast Shout Outs: Nerdzilla Kelly, aka, Kelly J. Mendenhall of A Non Mom Happy Hour wrote a book! Check out, Skin in the Game: The Stories my Tattoos Tell Grab a beer and check out the rocking ladies of Rocky Candy Podcast.

It has been a year since the ladies of Bad at Love Podcast started their quest to bust down the myth of the fairytale and perhaps become better people in the process. So, where are they now? Moral to the Story: We deserve respect and to have people in our lives who make us better. Other Fun Topics Discussed: Mallory is less angry than she was a year ago and has learned she can walk away from an ignorant comment or stupid conversation. Tamu is working on being fine with being alone. Crime shows and documentaries makes her feel more OK about being single cause "bitches be crazy". Mallory is content with her situation and doesn't feel the need to go online dating. Tamu feels dating is a lot of work. The Oxygen show "Snapped" should be re-titled, "Snapped: Love Can Go So Awry." Both ladies feel like finding a special someone with useful skill sets in home and auto repair would be amazing. Next steps: slather on some copulance and head to Home Depot for a handy man or O'Reilly's Auto Parts for a mechanic.

This week we watched Discovery Channel's 2009, "The Science of Sex Appeal" documentary and learned all sorts of sexy science things. Genetics and hormones are a bitch, y'all. Moral to the Story: Science experiments lack diversity and inclusion. Other Fun Topics Discussed:  It all starts with the face. Golden Ratio is the equation of perfection We all start out symmetrical in the womb, but factors like not eating enough kale or coughing can cause asymmetry. Curves = health and fertility but for some stupid reason humans judge extremes as most attractive. In nature, males are the fancy ones. Human males use objects like cars and grillz to attract women. Men like physical attractiveness. Ladies prefer status. Kissing is important. Men's saliva contains testosterone. Copulance makes men go stupid. Ladies secrete this mind numbing hormone. It also smells like "butter gone off." Science is racist. Check out Sasheer Zamata's look at Afrofuturism on Full Frontal with Samantha Bee. Mallory equates humans to dolphins and regales us with an amazing Drunk History segment about a scientific study that drugged dolphins with LSD and jerked them off to teach them to speak English. We want to know what sex appeal looks like in the age of Tinder.   Podcast Shout Outs: Check out A Non Mom Happy Hour and Best Forevers Podcast.

New season. New Flutters. This week, we are shouting out our expanding podcast community! Please show these amazing podcasts love by liking, rating, reviewing and sharing them. Moral to the Story: We would be nowhere without the support of our podcast family! Other Fun Topics Discussed: These lovely Twitter groups have restored Mallory's faith in social media...at least in Twitter. Listen to our Pod Friends: Mouse and Weens Explain to Me St. Paul Filmcast The "Meme"ing of it All (A) Broad in Education N.R.I. Woman Boobies and Noobies Our True Crime Podcast Nerdy Bitches Podcast Deconstructing Damsels Best Forevers Podcast My Worst Date Podcast A Non Mom Happy Hour Matriarch Digital Media

We are back for Season 2! And, it is our 1 year Podiversary! Thank you to all of you for listening and supporting us. We are so excited to start this new year with more romance-related shenanigans! To kick it off, we decided to watch a movie that is beloved by many--just not us, James Cameron's 1997 epic, "Titanic". Take your Dramamine and get your floaties on and enjoy this amazing discussion of this watery love story. Did we mention, we only watched the last half of the movie? Moral to the Story: White, heterosexual love survives. Other Fun Topics Discussed: Catching up on life after three months on break. Basically, winter sucks, work sucks. Mallory was 10 years-old when she first saw Titanic and Kate Winslet was the first movie nudity she ever saw. We both really hate this movie. Mallory wanted to make sure we watched exactly half of this movie. We started at 1:36:01 Jack and Rose's love caused the Titanic to hit the iceberg. The reason for lack of diversity on the Titanic was slavery. Mallory agrees with Roxane Gay: "It's fucking bullshit that Jack dies. There is plenty of room on that door. I am going to bed." Mallory thought it would be a better use of time to build your own raft out of doors instead of running around. Tamu's Lesson Learned: Drink & be on the top deck. Knowledge Check: learn about the systems that have led to financial inequality, and the current concentration of wealth and power. Watch or read Requiem for the American Dream Every Rose and Jack scenario would end in Jack being dead EXCEPT for the one with the door. How many life jackets did Rose get then leave? Our favorite part of the movie is the quartet playing "Nearer my God to Thee." Love creates catastrophe. They both really could have shared that door. Jack's thoughts as he freezes to death, "Me winning that ticket was the best thing that ever happened to me...not...glug...glug...glug." Remember "The Phantom"? Class distinction hasn't changed. Bad at Love Theory: Jack would have lived if not for trying to save Rose. Podcast Shout Outs: Check out our "Captain Marvel" review that we did with St. Paul Filmcast Give a listen to Nerdy Bitches Podcast