Podcasts about forgiving the fourfold path

Many of the most prominent social activists in the last half century or so have also been contemplatives: Howard Thurman, the Dalai Lama, and Thomas Merton among others. Does the sort of spirituality we talk about here have things to offer in a world like ours where people feel daily outrages flowing through their media feeds? Might our practices actually be negative--in that moving past constant reactivity might make us too passive? But surely constant outrage mostly leads to hopelessness (and unpleasant days). Dave Schmelzer is joined by Grace Schmelzer and Steve Joh (a former pastor who currently leads a network of small, spacious, spiritual, Christian communities in the Bay Area) for a lively conversation about all of this, including a look at the most commonly discussed spiritual approach to addressing such times.Mentioned on this podcast:Register your interest in the next Faith Part 2 course here.Arbor communities in the Bay AreaThe Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World, by Desmond Tutu and Mpho Tutu

Given our political situation in the United States, you may be hearing a lot of people–myself included–talk about living your values. Not just professing them, but really living them, even when it's uncomfortable. It's hard work that requires a lot of internal fortitude.But we so often default to acting against our values in order to protect ourselves and those we love from real or perceived danger–to our jobs, our reputations, dignity, physical safety, and more. We try to protect ourselves with compliance, while our silence does real harm to others.Those who have a history of relational trauma are especially likely to fear speaking up, even as they know their values and moral expectations are being violated. This collision of relational trauma with moral injury reinforces beliefs that the world is unsafe and that people in power cannot be trusted.My guest today is a survivor of abuse and cultish communities. She leans on her experiences of relational trauma and moral injury in her writing, teaching, and advocacy. The ongoing healing of her relational and betrayal wounds allows her to lead with courage and clarity, especially when it is not easy or convenient.Jamie Marich, Ph.D. (she/they) speaks internationally on EMDR therapy, trauma, addiction, dissociation, expressive arts, yoga, and mindfulness. They also run a private practice and online training network in their home base of Akron, OH. Marich has written numerous books, notably Trauma and the 12 Steps: An Inclusive Guide to Recovery and Dissociation Made Simple: A Stigma-Free Guide to Embracing Your Dissociative Mind and Navigating Life. She has won numerous awards for LGBT+ and mental health advocacy, specifically in reducing stigma around dissociative disorders through the sharing of her own lived experience.Listen to the full episode to hear:How Jamie learned to have more compassion for her mother as the bystander in the course of writing her memoirHow asking can I make a change here? can aid in deciding when and how to speak upHow binary judgments of healthy or unhealthy, healed or unhealed devalue the lifelong journey and process of healingHow to deflate your own judgments about where others are in their own journeysWhy leaders in health and wellness spaces need to be wary of one true way thinkingHow Jamie unpacked the concept of forgiveness from her religious childhood and made space for compassion and letting goHow growing up pretending everything was fine made Jamie value authenticity more fiercely as an adultLearn more about Dr. Jamie Marich:WebsiteRedefine TherapyThe Institute for Creative MindfulnessInstagram: @drjamiem, @traumatherapistrants TikTok: @traumatherapistrantsYouTube: @DrJamieMMYou Lied to Me About GodLearn more about Rebecca:rebeccaching.comWork With RebeccaThe Unburdened Leader on SubstackSign up for the weekly Unburdened Leader EmailResources:Hidden Brain | Marching to Your Own Drummer with Sunita SahJonathan Shay, MD, PhDFrancine ShapiroNo Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model, Richard Schwartz Ph.D.The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World, Desmond Tutu and Mpho TutuEMDR Made Simple: 4 Approaches to Using EMDR with Every Client, Jamie MarichHarvey MilkParable of the Sower, Octavia E ButlerI'm Not That GirlWickedRainbow BriteCats

In Part 3 of this series, Sage Robbins and her dear friend, podcast host turned surrogate, Mary B, delve deeply into the essence of forgiveness, exploring its profound impact on mental health and personal well-being. Sage shares how forgiveness has unlocked her inner freedom and helped her align with her true nature, while Mary offers a fresh perspective on transforming everyday frustrations into opportunities for growth. Their conversation encourages listeners to look beyond actions and recognize the inherent innocence in each person. Together, they explore "The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World" by Desmond Tutu and Mpho Tutu, illustrating the complexity of human nature and the transformative power of forgiveness.  They also answer audience questions on the topic of forgiveness and reflect on our shared human experience. Sage and Mary emphasize the vital roles of compassion, acceptance, and the ongoing journey of forgiving oneself, others, and our loved ones.  We hope you enjoy the final episode of this series! Episode Notes:  00:00:25 – Why we forgive 00:03:10 – “Units of energy” and who holds the power? 00:06:30 – The Book of Forgiving by Desmond Tutu and Mpho Tutu 00:07:55 – Mental architecture 00:09:15 – Question from Lauren: Does forgiveness count if you forgive someone in your heart versus if you forgive someone face to face? 00:12:09 – Question from Niraj: How does one get the real feeling of forgiveness in the heart, rather than the mental talk of forgiveness? 00:15:27 – Question from Demetra: As children, do we have to forgive our parents for the way they treated us, or do we have to accept them as they are? 00:17:10 – Question from Paola: How do you know if forgiving means stay or leave? 00:21:49 – Sign off You can watch the video version of this episode at: Youtube.com/Tonyrobbinslive Join to submit questions for future podcasts! https://tr.tonyrobbins.com/tric-now The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World by Desmond Tutu and Mpho Tutu https://www.amazon.com/Book-Forgiving...

In Part 2 of this heartfelt series, Sage Robbins and her dear friend, podcast host turned surrogate, Mary B., dive intimately into the essence of forgiveness, exploring its profound impact on mental health and personal well-being. Sage shares how forgiveness has unlocked her inner freedom and helped her align with her true nature, while Mary offers a fresh perspective on transforming even everyday frustrations into opportunities for growth. This conversation addresses modern phenomena like cancel culture, encouraging listeners to look beyond actions and recognize the inherent innocence in each person. As Tony Robbins often teaches, forgiveness is about freeing oneself from the chains of past hurts to step into a more beautiful state and impactful destiny. Sage and Mary also introduce the ancient Hawaiian practice of Ho'oponopono, a transformational ritual of reconciliation. They delve into the four healing phrases: “I am sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you,” explaining how this process of honesty and love can clear the emotional noise of the mind and cultivate compassion, regardless of the conflict or personal trauma.  The episode goes deeper with practical tools and practices for clearing emotional blocks, including insights from Dr. Hew Len and a special song that Sage sings with her family each night. Mary B. also discusses the darker aspects of human experience, such as depression, guilt, and shame, providing listeners with a pathway to healing. Throughout this episode, Sage and Mary invite listeners on a reflective journey, offering practical advice and heartfelt encouragement. They emphasize the vital role of compassion, acceptance, and the ongoing journey of forgiving oneself, others, and our loved ones.  We hope you enjoy Part 2 of this conversation! Episode Notes:  00:00:00 – Ho'oponopono: A traditional Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness 00:02:11 – Clearing tools and practices 00:04:35 – Dr. Hew Len 00:07:35– The song we sing at bedtime every night 00:09:40 – Mary B. on depression, guilt, shame, and human darkness 00:12:45 – The six steps of Ho'oponopono treatment 00:13:55 – Healing the body 00:15:30– Sage on the gift of pain and evolution 00:16:40 – Sage on why we don't forgive 00:19:20– Forgiving and clearing when someone has passed on 00:21:00 – Florence Scovel Shinn: “I RELEASE YOU TO YOUR GREATEST GOOD”   Watch the video version of this episode on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyRobbinsLive   Links Mentioned: Inner Circle — Join to submit questions for future podcasts! https://tr.tonyrobbins.com/tric-now Ho'oponopono: The Hawaiian Ritual of Forgiveness by Ulrich E. Duprée https://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/AS... Baby Reindeer dominates this year's TCA Awards nominations https://www.avclub.com/2024-televisio... The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World by Desmond Tutu and Mpho Tutu https://www.amazon.com/Book-Forgiving...

If you're taking over as team leader, you need to have open and honest conversations about the change in dynamics. If you've previously enjoyed a friendly relationship and you're transitioning from buddy to boss, or you're filling someone else's shoes, it's time to show humility, honour the past, embrace an uncertain future, and accept feedback from your team.This week, adaptive organisations consultant Jon Barnes rejoins the podcast. Jon helps organisations shift from rigid hierarchies or bureaucracies towards teams that manage themselves, promoting more autonomy. He's a fan of working styles where individuals have more freedom but are also more accountable, and he focuses on helping groups collectively nurture the culture they want, together.Three reasons to listenUnderstand how to handle the "buddy to boss" transition by establishing a new social contract with your teamExplore ways to maintain mutual respect and equality in relationships, even when hierarchical structures are in placeLearn specific techniques for scheduling, giving and receiving feedback, in order to shape a constructive leadership styleEpisode highlights[00:07:42] The budy-to-boss problem[00:18:38] The perils of bringing in an outside team whisperer[00:30:29] Big shoes to fill[00:37:43] Jon's recommendation[00:39:42] Takeaways from Pia and DanLinksLeave us a voice noteConnect with Jon via LinkedInThe Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World, by Mpho Tutu and Desmond Tutu

HOW TO DEAL WITH GRIEF AND TRAUMA is completely self-funded, produced, and edited by me, Nathalie Himmelrich. Consider making a small donation to support the Podcast: bit.ly/SupportGTPodcast. Thank you! For more information, please visit Nathalie's website, join the podcast's Instagram page, and subscribe to the newsletter to receive updates on future episodes here.About this week's episodeI have been personally impressed by Dr. Frank Anderson's work for quite some time due to our shared interest in trauma. I've seen him speak with many other specialists, such as David Kessler or Matthias Barker, and feel like I already know him – or at least from those details that he shared openly so I'm very excited to bring you this week's episode and a conversation I have been looking forward to having for months. Frank speaks about Developmental Trauma from both his personal experience as well as through the eyes of a professional trauma expert. I hope you enjoy today's episode as much as I do. About this week's guest Dr. Frank Anderson is a Harvard-educated psychiatrist, trauma specialist, and author of the upcoming memoir To Be Loved: A Story of Truth, Trauma, and Transformation. He is the go-to “Trauma Expert” and knows firsthand what it's like to endure the pain. Dr. Anderson has spent the past three decades studying neuroscience and trauma treatment, working to heal trauma and bring more love, compassion, and unity to the world.Website: frankandersonmd.com/IG: @frank_andersonmd Resources mentioned in this episode:Dr. Frank Anderson's first book: Transcending Trauma: Healing Complex PTSD with Internal Family SystemsRick Hanson: Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength, and HappinessAngela Duckworth: Grit: The Power of Passion and PerseveranceDesmond Tutu: The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our WorldThank you for listening!HOW TO DEAL WITH GRIEF AND TRAUMA is produced and edited by me, Nathalie Himmelrich. Support the showSupport the show: Become a supporter of the show! Starting at $3/month Join Facebook Group - Grief and Trauma Support Network Download the FREE grief resource eBook Book a Discovery Call Leave a review Follow on socials: Instagram Facebook Website

Chapter 1 What's The Book of Forgiving Book by Desmond M. TutuThe Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World is a book written by Archbishop Desmond Tutu and his daughter, Reverend Mpho Tutu. Published in 2014, the book explores the concept of forgiveness and provides a practical guide for individuals seeking healing and reconciliation.In the book, Desmond Tutu draws upon his experiences as the chairman of the Truth and Reconciliation Commission in South Africa, which aimed to address the atrocities committed during the apartheid era. He shares stories and insights from his work, emphasizing the transformative power of forgiveness in overcoming pain and fostering healing.The Book of Forgiving outlines a four-step process towards forgiveness, including telling the story, naming the hurt, granting forgiveness, and renewing or releasing the relationship. Through personal anecdotes, reflections, and practical exercises, Tutu offers a compassionate and meaningful approach to forgiveness that can be applied in various contexts, from personal relationships to global conflicts.Overall, The Book of Forgiving serves as a guide for individuals seeking to heal themselves and their communities through the power of forgiveness, empathy, and reconciliation.Chapter 2 Is The Book of Forgiving Book A Good Book"The Book of Forgiving" by Desmond M. Tutu is widely regarded as a powerful and insightful book on the topic of forgiveness. It offers a transformative framework to help individuals understand and navigate the process of forgiving others, as well as oneself. Tutu, a respected human rights activist and Nobel Peace Prize laureate, draws on his personal experiences and the wisdom of his African heritage to guide readers on a path towards healing and reconciliation. The book is highly recommended for anyone seeking to cultivate forgiveness in their own lives, both for personal growth and for contributing to a more compassionate and forgiving world.Chapter 3 The Book of Forgiving Book by Desmond M. Tutu Summary"The Book of Forgiving" by Desmond M. Tutu is a powerful and practical guide to understanding and practicing forgiveness. Tutu, a Nobel Peace Prize-winning Archbishop, draws on his experiences in South Africa's Truth and Reconciliation Commission to offer insights on the transformative power of forgiveness.The book begins by exploring the nature of forgiveness and its importance in healing personal and collective wounds. Tutu emphasizes that forgiveness is not about condoning or forgetting the harm done, but rather about letting go of the anger and resentment that can consume and poison our lives. He argues that forgiveness is a necessary step towards healing and reconciliation, both for individuals and societies torn apart by violence and injustice.Tutu presents a fourfold path to forgiveness, which he calls "Telling the Story, Naming the Hurt, Granting Forgiveness, and Renewing or Releasing the Relationship." He explains each of these steps in detail and provides practical exercises and meditations to help readers navigate their own forgiveness journeys.Throughout the book, Tutu shares personal stories and anecdotes, as well as stories of forgiveness from around the world. He highlights the courage and strength of individuals who have chosen forgiveness in the face of unspeakable pain and oppression, and how their acts of forgiveness have had far-reaching effects."The Book of Forgiving" also addresses the difficult question of forgiving oneself. Tutu acknowledges that self-forgiveness can be challenging, but emphasizes the importance of extending the same compassion and understanding to oneself as we would to others.Ultimately, Tutu argues...

Dave Schmelzer's new favorite book on forgiveness (and maybe one of his favorite books period) is by Desmond Tutu and his daughter Mpho Tutu van Furth. Mpho joins Dave from Amsterdam to talk about what she's taken from the book in years since, her reflections on it being forged out of South Africa's Truth and Reconciliation Commission and much more.Mentioned on this podcast:The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World, by Desmond and Mpho Tutu.

The Book Leads - Episode 69: & The Gift 12 Lessons to Save Your Life by Dr. Edith Eger In this episode, Corinne, shares both insights from Dr. Eger's book and how those insights have benefitted her in her own life -- one of traumatic experience, forgiveness, and growth. Having experienced that journey herself, she brings her energy for life and wisdom through experience and learning to her coaching clients and retreat guests to help them heal from their own adversity. Like Dr. Eger conveyed to her patients and implored in her book, Corinne also wants those she's helping to recognize the light that exists beyond hopelessness. We all need to heal in some way, shape, or form. It may not be apparent, obvious, and evident on the surface, so it may take some reflection to explore and understand the deep-rooted reasons why we feel -- or react to the world -- in a certain way. The takeaway from this conversation that resonates with me most is that of intentional evolution through victimhood -- and the ability and need to get beyond that vulnerable state. Don't get us wrong. As we state in the episode, it's important we feel those sensations. So, after we have fully experienced and felt what that source of pain has left behind, we must do the work to step beyond it and build from that remaining rubble and ash. CONVERSATION HIGHLIGHTS Healing is body-based. It has to be. Victimhood is a mental prison. Dr. Dan Siegel's Hand odel of the Brain No one at the end of their life has the regret that they laughed or loved too much. What the acronym R.A.I.N. stands for when it comes to self-compassion. MENTIONED OR APPLICABLE BOOKS The Body Keeps The Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk, M.D. The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World by Desmond Tutu The Happiness Advantage: How a Positive Brain Fuels Success in Work and Life by Shawn Achor The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward by Daniel H. Pink Man's Search for Meaning by Victor E. Frankl The MAIN QUESTION underlying my conversation with Corinne is, When you feel like a victim and you feel hopeless, what do (can) you see BEYOND those sensations? ABOUT CORINNE Corinne is a transformation expert serving women who experience challenging transitions – divorce, career change, empty nest, family estrangement, addiction and loss of a loved one. Through her uplifting energy, soothing demeanor, and extensive training in a mosaic of modalities – Internal Family Systems, Respectful Confrontation and Compassion-based therapies – Corinne guides women on a path of joy, connection and love, overcoming the pain of invisible loss. Because Corinne has experienced firsthand invisible loss and the power of healing in community, she leads intimate, small group retreat experiences in beautiful places all over the world as a foundation in creating the Healing the Heart Sisterhood. These intentional communities are comprised of women who are willing to do the deep soul work of Healing the Heart with vulnerability, compassion, and love. In addition to her coaching and retreats, Corinne has launched a weekly Mindfulness Class called Wisdom Wednesdays: Cultivating Calm for the Hurried Human, and that class began on September 20th. I was introduced to Corinne by Erin Harrigan, who I had as a guest in Episode 55 of the series in which we covered her book, Pursuing Success God's Way: A Practical Guide to Hustle With Heart. LEARN MORE ABOUT CORINNE LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/corinne-coppola/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/corinnecoppola16/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/corinnecoppola16/ Website: www.corinnecoppola.com Watch the episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtNpTQTFjuN6Tjs52JB7zUQ Learn more about The Book Leads: ⁠ https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/got-lead-great-book-thats-impacted-your-work-life-me-john/

You'd think that apart from affirming that, of course, forgiving people who've hurt us is crucial to our happiness, there wouldn't be much more to say. But Desmond and Mpho Tutu wrote what seems like the final word on the subject in their wonderful The Book of Forgiving, which includes many stories from Desmond's leading of South Africa's Truth and Reconciliation Commission which was central to preventing bloody civil war after apartheid fell. Dave Schmelzer talks with Grace Schmelzer about how the Tutus's insights have impacted their experience of forgiving.Mentioned on this podcast:The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World, by Desmond and Mpho Tutu.

Being a religious leader doesn't mean you're an expert at practicing forgiveness. Lutheran minister Nadia Bolz-Weber says being in quarantine gave her the ego check she needed to get real about forgiveness and compassion — for herself and others. This episode's practice is about apologies and circling back to the relationships in your life that could use some mending.    Want to connect? Join the New Day Facebook Group!  https://www.facebook.com/groups/newdaypod   Resources from the show Listen to Nadia's podcast, The Confessional.  Read “The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World” by Desmond Tutu Check out Dr. Kristin Neff's self-compassion meditations and exercises here.  Nadia references Jean Valjean, one of the main characters in Victor Hugo's Les Miserables.    Click this link for a list of current sponsors and discount codes for this show and all Lemonada shows go to lemonadamedia.com/sponsors.   Did you try one of these weekly practices? We want to hear about it! Call 833-4-LEMONADA (833-453-6662) or email us newday@lemonadamedia.com.    To follow along with a transcript and/or take notes for friends and family, go to lemonadamedia.com/show/newday/ shortly after the air date.   Follow Claire on IG and FB @clairebidwellsmith or Twitter @clairebidwell and visit her website: www.clairebidwellsmith.com.   Stay up to date with us on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram at @LemonadaMedia.    Joining Lemonada Premium is a great way to support our show and get bonus content. Subscribe today at bit.ly/lemonadapremium.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this wide-ranging interview, Rayne and Mika talk with Dr Chris Marshall. Chris was the first holder of the Diana Unwin Chair in Restorative Justice in the School of Government at Victoria University / Te Herenga Waka, and has taught theology and New Testament studies there and at Laidlaw College. They discuss restorative justice in the criminal justice system and its Christian and indigenous roots; what justice is in the Biblical portrayal; how to make sense of guilt, shame, punishment and forgiveness; why St Paul deserves reconsideration as a radical thinker; and where Chris finds hope in all of this. Show notes Chris Marshall profile, Te Herenga Waka The birthplace of restorative justice, US Mennonite Central Committee Changing Lenses: A New Focus for Crime and Justice (1990) Howard Zehr Compassionate Justice (2012) Chris Marshall Parables of The Prodigal Son and The Good Samaritan Does restorative justice affect reconviction?, Shapland et al, 2008 (including cost:benefit analysis of restorative justice) Restorative communities & Student Interest and Conflict Resolution team – restorative practice at Victoria University / Te Herenga Waka The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World (2013) Desmond Tutu Sin, Shame and Salvation: Confronting and Healing Pathological Shame (video lecture, 2022) Chris Marshall From the Holy Mountain: A Journey Among the Christians of the Middle East (1997) William Dalrymple The Experience of God: Being, Consciousness, Bliss (2013) David Bentley Hart

Chris had the chance to sit down at CCDA with two first-time podcast guests Donna Barber and Michelle Warren for a conversation themed about their new books, as well as the work they both do to mobilize people for justice and social change and what sustains them on the journey.Special thanks to IVP for granting the space to record this conversation at the conference!Books & Writing Mentioned in this Episode:If you'd like to order any of the following books, we encourage you to do so from Hearts and Minds Books(An independent bookstore in Dallastown, PA, run by Byron and Beth Borger) Bread for the Resistance: Forty Devotions for Justice People by Donna BarberJoin the Resistance: Step Into the Good Work of Kingdom Justice by Michelle Ferrigno WarrenThe Power of Proximity: Moving Beyond Awareness to Action by Michelle Ferrigno WarrenGod's Long Summer: Stories of Faith and Civil Rights by Charles MarshThe Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World by Desmond Tutu and Mph TutuAn Afro-Indigenous History of the United States by Kyle T. MaysTruth's Table: Black Women's Musings on Life, Love and Liberation by Ekemini Uwan, Christina Edmonson & Michelle HigginsState of Terror by Hillary Clinton and Louise PenneyVoices of Lament: Reflections on Brokenness and Hope in a World Longing for Justice edited by Natasha Sistrunk RobinsonThe Feminist Mystique by Betty FriedanA War on My Body: A War on My Rights by Paxton Smith et al.

On episode 28 of the She is Kindred podcast, Britt holds space for Julie Klein's deeply personal story of being a cycle breaker.  Britt and Julie come together as mothers who deeply desire for the next generation to witness the power and redemption in true forgiveness so that we don't walk in the old ways of being. And the way to true forgiveness involves making the choice to engage in our grief, to move through the grief, and to accept that grief does not have a timeline. Julie Klein is a social worker/mental health counselor. Though she is not currently in the social work field, her heart remains hopeful for social justice in this fractured world. She currently stays home constantly herding and unschooling her intensely spirited children. A pour-over cup (or two or three) of coffee is her lifeline and keeps her in the game. She is a fierce advocate for showing up with vulnerability and authenticity, believes everyone has a powerful story to share, and is convinced words hold the unique power to connect with others. She writes at the intersection of her evolving faith and the joys of life, the inevitable grief of life, and the gray that is in-between. Though she has called various cities across the United States home, she now resides near Seattle, Washington with her husband and three children. Connect with Julie on Instagram: @julielynnkleinIn this episode, Britt talks with Julie Klein about: Generational trauma presents in different ways from generation to generation.The importance of understanding our old narratives in order to move forward to create new narratives. Forgiveness is necessary so that we can experience true freedom within our new narrativesTherapy including EMDR and medications are incredibly helpful tools to help us heal our trauma wounds. Engaging in our grief is a choice, and it can be overwhelming. Once we move through the grief, we are no longer bound to it and are freed up to move into our new story. Resources mentioned in this episode: The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World EMDR TherapyThe Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma The Soul of Shame: Retelling the Stories We Believe About OurselvesQuotable:“When we have understanding and acceptance about our narrative, it empowers us to move on and create a new narrative. To give ourselves the gift of freedom to live in the new narrative is ultimately how we walk in forgiveness because we aren't held to the old way of being.” - Julie Klein“Without forgiveness, we remain tethered to the person who harmed us. We are bound with chains of bitterness, tied together, trapped. Until we can forgive the person who harmed us, that person will hold the keys to our happiness; that person will be our jailor. When we forgive, we take back control of our own fate and our feelings. We become our own liberators. We don't forgive to help the other person. We don't forgive for others. We forgive for ourselves. Forgiveness, in other words, is the best form of self-interest. This is true both spiritually and scientifically.” - Desmond Tutu“In some ways, the most forgiveness I've needed to give is to myself.” - Julie Klein“And in doing so, you are opening the door to release the tether from that trauma in your past, and to give them (our children) this wide berth to develop fully and freely as the next gSupport the show

“You are not obligated to forgive someone who has offered neither apology nor repair.” This opinion is one both April and Tracie have received at different points in their lives, and which is surfacing now as we approach the high holy days. And though we both needed to hear that message when it was delivered, we're also realizing that it is not the end of the story. The longing for healing and wholeness after hurt has us looking for a third way–a path toward teshuvah, or return, and wholeness, shalem/sh'lemut–even in the absence of apology. Share your insights or ask us a question at https://joyousjustice.com/jews-talk-racial-justice-questions.Join our mailing list at https://joyousjustice.com.  Check out our offerings and join one of our programs! https://joyousjustice.com/coursesFind April's TikTok videos here: https://www.tiktok.com/@aprilavivabaskin Follow us on Instagram (@joyous.justice), Twitter, (@JoyousJustice), or Facebook (www.facebook.com/joyousjustice365)Find April and Tracie's full bios and submit topic suggestions for the show at www.JewsTalkRacialJustice.comLearn more about Joyous Justice and join our mailing list: https://joyousjustice.com/Support the work our Jewish Black & Cherokee woman-led vision for collective liberation here: https://joyousjustice.com/support-our-workLearn more about Desmond Tutu and Mpho Tutu's work, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World: https://www.harpercollins.com/products/the-book-of-forgiving-desmond-tutumpho-tutu?variant=32122225983522Read about the Japanese art of kintsugi, “golden joinery”: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/KintsugiTara Brach relays the story of the Golden Buddha in her work Radical Compassion: Learning to Love Yourself and Your World with the Practice of RAIN: https://www.tarabrach.com/books/radical-compassion/April and Tracie talked about the Golden Buddha in our first-ever Rosh Hashanah episode, Ep 2: Rosh Hashanah, Prince, and Visions, Both Big and Small: https://jewstalkracialjustice.buzzsprout.com/1146023/5430970-ep-2-rosh-hashanah-prince-and-visions-both-big-small

Meet Kalpa GuptaSurvivor extraordinaire, she used to be a financial services director working with public traded companies, she is currently the CEO of Knekxt, which helps people form better relationships with themselves. She has confronted her abusers, and believes that forgiveness and service to others are fundamental in the healing journey.   Follow Kalpa (Kalpashree Gupta) on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kalpashreegupta/Knekxt Group, LLC Website (coming soon): https://knekxt.comEmail: kgupta@knekxt.comAdditional Resources (Recommended books), please feel to include  The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World, By Desmond TutuThe Drama of The Gifted Child (The Search for the True Self) , by Alice Miller

Sarah Salter Kelly is the author of the book, Trauma as Medicine, in which she shares her experience of her mother's brutal kidnapping and homicide as a template to support others in moving into the underworld territory of trauma.She offers foundational teachings to guide individuals in trusting that not only do they have the right life experiences, they also have the resources within themselves to address them and transform them.Years of training in spiritual healing and personal growth, as well as a focus on earth based traditions, enable Sarah to present a guide to freedom, compassion and authentic forgiveness. She provides a path in the very life lessons which lie before us: those found at the heart of our trauma.In This EpisodeSarah's websiteSarah's book trailerThe Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World, by Desmond TutuThis show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5739761/advertisement

On this Love Stories episode, Dr. Solomon welcomes on a couple with a stunning story of rebuilding their marriage in the aftermath of infidelity: Kristi Born & Rainier Wylde. Together, they explore the story of their relationship, starting from the day they first met, to the early years of their marriage, to the moment of rupture, and the incredible journey of repair that they continue today. Their story gives us the opportunity to empathize with the pain of infidelity, as well as providing insights about what rebuilding trust can look when both partners are committed to walking forward together.Subscribe to Dr. Solomon's Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Books on infidelity and related topics:What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal (John Gottman)New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity (Tammy Nelson)The State of Affairs (Esther Perel)The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World (Desmond Tutu & Mpho Tutu)The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma (Bessel Van Der Kolk)Kristi's website:https://www.kristiborn.com/Rainier's website:https://www.rainierwylde.com/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Being a religious leader doesn't mean you're an expert at practicing forgiveness. Lutheran minister Nadia Bolz-Weber says being in quarantine gave her the ego check she needed to get real about forgiveness and compassion -- for herself and others. This episode's practice is about apologies and circling back to the relationships in your life that could use some mending.    Want to connect? Join the New Day Facebook Group!  https://www.facebook.com/groups/newdaypod   Resources from the show Listen to Nadia's podcast, The Confessional.  Read “The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World” by Desmond Tutu Check out Dr. Kristin Neff's self-compassion meditations and exercises here.  Nadia references Jean Valjean, one of the main characters in Victor Hugo's Les Miserables.    Click this link for a list of current sponsors and discount codes for this show and all Lemonada shows go to lemonadamedia.com/sponsors.   Did you try one of these weekly practices? We want to hear about it! Call 833-4-LEMONADA (833-453-6662) or email us newday@lemonadamedia.com.    To follow along with a transcript and/or take notes for friends and family, go to lemonadamedia.com/show/newday/ shortly after the air date.   Follow Claire on IG and FB @clairebidwellsmith or Twitter @clairebidwell and visit her website: www.clairebidwellsmith.com.   Stay up to date with us on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram at @LemonadaMedia.  Joining Lemonada Premium is a great way to support our show and get bonus content. Subscribe today at bit.ly/lemonadapremium. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

As followers of Jesus, we talk a lot about loving others, but do we actually know how to do it? How do we love others when they think or believe differently than we do? How do love the person who just drives us nuts? How do we really love like Jesus did? Listen in as Jen and Sara talk about a few practical ways we can love like Jesus. Suggested resources: Invitation to a Journey: A Road Map for Spiritual Formation by Robert Mulholland The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World by Desmond Tutu Join our Simple Soul Care Facebook Group! We'll discuss our podcast episodes, do occasional book studies, build community and keep you updated on our podcasts and any upcoming live events!

LinksGreg O'Connor | The Authentic Spiritual Journey 164https://www.experienceofthesoul.com/feed/asj164-greg-oconnorReplay Amusement Museumhttps://www.replaymuseum.org/Corrie ten Boomhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Corrie_ten_BoomMatthew 18:21-22 (KJV)https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew+18%3A21-22&version=KJVThe Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our Worldby Desmond Tutu & Mpho Tutuhttps://www.amazon.com/Book-Forgiving-Fourfold-Healing-Ourselves/dp/0062203568Help us reach $9000 in 30 Days!Go to http://cynthiaaliceanderson.com and click on “Donate” today!Orlando Minority Youth Golf Associationhttp://omyga.org/Subscribe to Cynthia Alice on YouTube!https://www.youtube.com/cynthiaaliceanderson More from Cynthia Alice Andersonhttps://www.cynthiaaliceanderson.com•This channel is made possible because of listeners just like you. If you would like to support the channel with your tax-deductible contribution on an ongoing basis or through a one-time gift, head over to ExperienceOfTheSoul.com/support.The Authentic Spiritual Journey is copyright 2021, Cynthia Alice Anderson. All Rights Reserved. Our theme music is composed by Dave Kropf and used with permission by RRHOT Publishing.The Experience of the Soul Podcast Channel is a production of 818 Studios.Disclaimer: as an Amazon Associate, Cynthia Alice Anderson may earn a small commission from qualifying purchases made through these links.

Mahina Nani was born into a bloodline of Ancient Hawaiian Healers that is centuries old and carries the wisdom teachings of Ho’o’pono’pono.  In this episode of the Psychedelic Leadership Podcast, Mahani shares the meaning of H’o’pono’pono. By learning to take full responsibility for our actions and opening to the power of forgiveness, we can step into “right relationship” with ourselves and those around us. When we have the courage to do this, we can then put an end to intergenerational trauma and experience greater harmonious alignment in our lives.  This was also a special episode in honor of Mothers Day. My own mother, Lucy joined us for this conversation and after Mahina opens up a ceremonial container and channels a powerful prayer, my mother and I shed many tears of forgiveness as we share a real-time practice of Ho’o’pono’pono. In a tender and vulnerable moment, my mother asks for my forgiveness around a pre-natal birth trauma that was revealed to me in an ayahuasca journey.   Resources Mentioned  https://amzn.to/2PRe42U (Zero Limits: The Secret Hawaiian System for Wealth, Health, Peace, and More) https://amzn.to/3unKi4W (The Book of Forgiving: The FourFold Path for Healing Ourselves & The World) https://maryisis.bandcamp.com/track/hooponopono (Download Ho’o’pono’pono by Mary Isis for Free on Bandcamp) http://www.livefreelaurad.com/microdosing-mastermind (3-Month Microdosing Mastermind ) https://www.livefreelaurad.com/free-microdosing-course (Free 8-Day Microdosing Course) https://livefreelaurad.com/music-playlists (4 Music Playlists for Psychedelic Journey’s & Beyond)

In today’s episode of the Live Your Dreams awake podcast, I am with a very amazing woman that does a lot of stuff. A double board-certified licensed acupuncturist, an ordained spiritual minister, a Reiki Master, a feng shui consultant, and a shamanic priestess, we have Rev. Dr. Natalie Vail. We share the same interests and are very passionate about the things that we do. We will be talking about important things about transformation, therapy, healing, and the importance of following your calling. I enjoyed this conversation with Natalie, I hope you’ll like it too. Enjoy! REMEMBER - We're all in some sort of cosmic initiation process, every single soul that's here at this time, on some level, unconscious level, spiritual level, has a contract to be here. So that's why we're here. This week's tip is to clear and unblock your drains. Do you have blocked drains, this can represent blocked emotions in your life, but also feeling very stuck. So it's time to go around and make sure that all of your drains are very clear to release and let go of anything that's feeling stuck in your life, but also to allow you to move forward with ease and flow. HIGHLIGHTS OF WHAT WE COVER DURING THIS EPISODE: A very interesting introduction of Natalie The unfolding of Natalie’s journey to her achievements Getting to know more about Natalie and Astrology How to acknowledge and handle the pains that we cannot avoid The importance of what you don’t want and what you want And many more!   LINKS & RESOURCES:  Chinese New Year Prediction in 2021 Free meditation guide to step into success from Patricia Lohan Feng Shui Checklist Feng Shui Tips to Activate a Home for Success and Joy Feng Shui for the Office   Books recommended by Natalie: Rising Strong: How the Ability to Reset Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brene Brown The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World by Desmond Tutu   CONNECT WITH NATALIE: Website   CONNECT WITH PATRICIA: Pop-Up Powerhouse Party Instagram YouTube Website Twitter QUOTES: “It's such a strong part of our human nature to want belonging and to feel included.” “So to be alive at this time, it means that you're a badass, it means that you're here for a reason.”  “Whatever pain, I think that is coming up for people is a teacher and it's teaching us to no longer settle. It's teaching us to get out of our own way. It's teaching us what's really important, what are our priorities, how to take better care of ourselves, and what our actual needs are.”  “That disappointment is what helps us to understand what we actually want. So that disappointment that we're feeling is so vitally important and necessary for the process of actually manifesting our dreams. Because if you don't know what you don't want, how do you know what you actually do want?” “The stars really are our map for what's happening in the world.” “With astrology, what it really does is it speaks to the rational mind because humans are meaning-making creatures. So we need to make meaning from our suffering from our pain, and even from the good stuff that happens to us.”  

“The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, nor to worry about the future, but to live the present moment wisely and earnestly.” ― Buddha Hola Muchachxs! Welcome to our THOTful Moment this week! We are covering a subject that J & Lesly are EXTREMELY PASSIONATE about... MEDITATION! We talk about how we both got into meditating, how Jon Kabat-Zinn's book Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life inspired Lesly and how Thich Nhat Hanh's work impacted J's life, talk about different styles of meditation and what meditation style works for us, how meditation has improved our lives and how it's made us better people! A special thank you to Buddhism for showing us how to stop stressing over the small stuff and laying down the foundation for our spiritual journey. This was a really fun episode because meditation is our SH*T and we hope we inspired you to give it a shot. It doesn't have to be difficult, you just have to give it a try. BTW - We started a new thing on the podcast where we share something with our audience that is relevant to the episode. It can be a podcast, tv show, music, book or anything! It was inspired by the lovely ladies of the podcast "Thanks 4 Your Concern." We call it our DOUBLE FEATURE because there's two of us and we wanna featur some sh*t. ☺ Our Double Feature for this episode is: The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World by Desmond Tutu & Mpho Tutu and the Black ZEN Podcast hosted by Stacey & Jasmine! So check them out ASAP!! Chào nhé !! —————————————————— FOLLOW US on INSTAGRAM @HomoInTraining SHOW US some LOVE on Facebook! LIKE & FOLLOW our page! Email us know your thots and feelings on meditation: HomoInTrainingPodcast@gmail.com —————————————————— Mediation Youtube Links: Eckhart Tolle - A Special Meditation - Deepening Into the Dimension of Stillness, Global Well Being - Calming a Disturbed Mind ♡ The Dalai Lama Teaching Yoga, Meditation, Mindfulness & Calm Abiding, Plum Village - Sitting and Walking in the Here and Now | Dharma Talk by Thich Nhat Hanh, and Cafe Music BGM Channel - #GhibliJazz #CafeMusic - Relaxing Jazz & Bossa Nova Music - Studio Ghibli Cover —————————————————— Audio Credit: Kanye West - Sway In The Morning Neil deGrasse Tyson reading Carl Sagan's "Pale Blue Dot" Music Credit: Purple Planet - Time to Dream —————————————————— --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/homointraining/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/homointraining/support

When it comes to longevity, the goal isn’t just to live as long as possible. The true objective is to live as vibrantly and energetically as possible, for as long as possible. So how exactly do we do this?On today’s Broken Brain Podcast, our host Dhru talks to Dr. Frank Lipman, a vocal pioneer of integrative and Functional Medicine, or what he calls “good medicine.” Dr. Lipman is the founder of Eleven Eleven Wellness Center and the Chief Medical Officer at The Well. He is a sought-after international speaker and the bestselling author of six books—How to Be Well, The New Health Rules, Young & Slim for Life, Revive and Total Renewal—and his newest book, The New Rules of Aging Well: A Simple Program for Immune Resilience, Strength, and Vitality. In this episode, Dhru and Dr. Lipman talk about the cross-cultural differences in aging, and why we are so afraid of aging in the Western world. They discuss how we can optimize the function of our genes with simple tweaks to have a profound impact on how we age, and why fasting is so powerful when it comes to longevity and healthy aging. Dr. Lipman also shares supplements he recommends for longevity, and some promising anti-aging treatments.In this episode, we dive into: -Common myths when it comes to aging (5:28)-Why we don’t celebrate aging in the Western world (6:54) -The changes Dr. Lipman made in his own life to age well (12:26)-Genetic factors and aging (20:10) -Why fasting is so important when it comes to longevity and aging well (25:26)-What we can learn from Eastern traditions when it comes to physical activity (37:18)-How Dr. Lipman’s exercise routine has changed over the years (40:27) -Hormesis and its relevance to healthy aging (45:43)-Supplements for longevity (48:20) -Why finding your tribe is so important to the aging process (51:53) -The power of forgiveness and letting go of grudges (1:00:16) -Where listeners can learn more about Dr. Frank Lipman (1:10:03)For more on Dr. Frank Lipman you can follow him on Instagram @FrankLipmanMD, on Facebook @DrFrankLipman, on Twitter @DrFrankLipman, and through his website https://drfranklipman.com/. Get Dr. Lipman’s book, The New Rules of Aging Well at https://drfranklipman.com/new-rules/.Also mentioned in this episode:-3X4 Genetics test - https://www.3x4genetics.com/ -Rhonda Patrick - https://www.foundmyfitness.com/-I Need Your Love - Is That True?: How to Stop Seeking Love, Approval, and Appreciation and Start Find Them Instead by Byron Katie - https://amzn.to/3qCRCYM-The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World by Archbishop Desmond Tutu - https://amzn.to/37RqLjkFor more on Dhru Purohit, be sure to follow him on Instagram @dhrupurohit, on Facebook @dhruxpurohit, on Twitter @dhrupurohit, and on YouTube @dhrupurohit. You can also text Dhru at (302) 200-5643 or click here https://my.community.com/dhrupurohit.Interested in joining Dhru’s Broken Brain Podcast Facebook Community? Submit your request to join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2819627591487473/.This episode of Broken Brain is brought to you by Bioptimizers.My new favorite magnesium is from a company called Bioptimizers—their Magnesium Breakthrough formula contains 7 different forms which all have different functions in the body. There is truly nothing like it on the market. Right now you can try Bioptimizers Magnesium Breakthrough for 10% off, just go to www.bioptimizers.com/brain and use the code BRAIN10 at checkout. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World was another life-changing, healing work by Nobel Peace Prize winner Desmond Tutu, following his book No Future Without Forgiveness. It was also highly recommended by Nelson Mandela. In the face of the harm and grief caused by apartheid and the pain of losing family members, how can we begin to heal our inner wounds? Revenge and grudges won't help us, but will only trap us in our suffering. Only forgiveness will lead to the emancipation of our soul. This book is brilliant as a practical guide to healing ourselves and the world.

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NotesHow am I blocking my good?1. Do I feel worthy to receive?2. Am I too concerned with the how?3. What do I need to release?But strive first for the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. - Matthew 6:33 (NRSV)Do not be afraid, little flock, for it is your Father’s good pleasure to give you the kingdom. - Luke 12:32 (NRSV)LinksRCA’s Site - http://cynthiaaliceanderson.comThe Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our Worldby Desmond Tutu, Mpho Tutuhttps://www.amazon.com/Book-Forgiving-Fourfold-Healing-Ourselves/dp/0062203568The Four Spiritual Laws of Prosperity: A Simple Guide to Unlimited Abundanceby Edwene Gaineshttps://www.amazon.com/Four-Spiritual-Laws-Prosperity-Unlimited/dp/1594861951•This week's episode is made possible with the help of our podcast partners: Natural Awakenings Magazine, and Zen Living Realty•Natural Awakenings Magazine of Central Florida/Greater OrlandoEach month Natural Awakenings magazines across the country take a practical look at the latest natural approaches to nutrition, fitness, creative expression, personal growth and sustainable living. Natural Awakenings Magazine is a free publication and is available in selected stores, health and education centers, healing centers, public libraries and wherever free publications are located. You can learn more, including advertising opportunities for your business by calling 407-628-0705.•Zen Living Realty’s mission is to mindfully serve, connect, and positively impact their customers, partners and community through their Zen approach to real estate.Their vision is to be the most trusted real estate brokerage in the Central Florida area.You can reach Zen Living Realty at: ZenLivingRealty.com or call at 407-800-2717.•This channel is also made possible through the continued support of our Angel patrons: Dove Borland, Peter Gibson, Paul Caswell, Arlene Myer, Kathy & Terry, Marcia Mott, Nora Miles, Diana Cox, Lesley Williams, Susanna Garcia, Shayla Mount, Dorothy Moore, and Agnes Payton.If you would like to help be a part of bringing shows like this and other programs to the channel, please consider becoming a supporting patron. For patron information, episode show notes details about our other shows on the channel, head over to ExperienceOfTheSoul.com.And if you enjoyed this program, you can help spread the word by leaving a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, Google Play, Stitcher, or the podcast platform of your choice.The Authentic Spiritual Journey is copyright 2020, Cynthia Alice Anderson. All Rights Reserved. Our theme music is composed by Dave Kropf and used with permission by RRHOT Publishing.The Experience of the Soul Podcast Channel is a production of 818 Studios.Disclaimer: as an Amazon Associate, Cynthia Alice Anderson may earn a small commission from qualifying purchases made through these links.

Breaking up is hard to do, and time-stamped events (like, say, Valentine’s Day) can make the pain of a broken heart stand out even more than usual. As painful as it may feel, you’re not alone in what you’re experiencing. Join Yael and Debbie for a conversation about common responses to break-ups and how you can take steps towards healing. Join us as we draw from psychological science, clinical examples, and personal experiences to discuss practices that can help you to mend your heart. Listen and Learn: Why you might have such extreme emotional responses (or not) in response to breaking up.How to turn towards your pain with openness and acceptance Strategies to manage the pain and prevent persistent sufferingThe role of self-compassion, forgiveness, and seeking kindnessHow to translate pain into wisdom and growthAnd, most importantly, that whatever you are experiencing, you are not alone Resources: How to Fix a Broken Heart by Guy WinchThe Wisdom of a Broken Heart by Susan PiversThe Divorce Recovery Workbook by Mark Rye and Crystal Dea MooreThe Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path of Healing Ourselves and Our World, by Desmond TutuPodcast Episodes on Grief (Bearing Unbearable Loss with Dr. Joanne Cacciatore) and Self-Compassion (Mindful Self-Compassion with Dr. Christopher Germer)Guided Self-Compassion Meditations from Dr. Kristen Neff

Real forgiveness is liberating, and sometimes people have misconceptions about what it means. A great resource that has helped me is the book by Desmond Tutu called The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World. Are there things that you've held on to that could be let go through forgiveness?

Isaac Anderson Resolved to Bless: Week 3, Against the Rage Machine 1 Peter 3:8-9, Matthew 18:21-22 Selected Resources Miroslav Volf, Free of Charge: Giving and Forgiving in a Culture Stripped of Grace (book) Desmond Tutu & Mpho Tutu, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World (book) Dr. Dan Allender and Dr. Tremper Longman III, Bold Love (book) N.T. Wright, Matthew for Everyone Pt. 2 (commentary) Klyne Snodgrass, Stories with Intent: A Comprehensive Guide to the Parables of Jesus (commentary) Beyond Right & Wrong: Stories of Justice and Forgiveness (documentary) Rob Bell, "The Forgiving Flow" (5-part podcast) TED Radio Hour, "Forgiveness" (podcast)  Nadia Bolz-Weber on forgiveness via The Nantucket Project (talk) Dr. Everett Worthington, "If You Want to Forgive" (article) Worthington, et al., "Decisional and Emotional Forgiveness" (academic study) Kirsten Weir, "Forgiveness can improve mental and physical health" (article)   website: jacobswell.church facebook: jacobswellkc twitter: @jacobswell

On the surface, forgiveness seems like such a simple concept but it can be one of the most difficult things we ever do. Maybe someone in your life has hurt you and you've never been able to forgive them. Maybe you've hurt someone else and they haven't forgiven you. Maybe it's time to see if that can change. Mpho Tutu van Furth joins us to talk about a book she co-wrote with her father Desmond Tutu. It's called The Book of Forgiving. It's an invitation and a step-by-step guide to walk what the Tutu's call the four-fold path of forgiveness. Mpho recently visited Brigham Young University to speak at the Maxwell Institute's symposium, “Forgiveness & Reconciliation.” The Institute's own Dr. Deidre Green was the visionary of this truly remarkable gathering. If you missed it, you can watch several of the presentations on the Institute's YouTube channel. About the Guest Mpho Tutu van Furth served as executive director at The Desmond & Leah Tutu Legacy Foundation from 2011 to 2016. With her father, Desmond Tutu (former archbishop of South Africa, chairman of the Truth and Reconciliation Committee, and Nobel Peace Prize Recipient), she co-authored The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World (HarperCollins, 2015). In 2014, the father and daughter pair started the Tutu Global Forgiveness Challenge, an internet resource that guides people through the steps of forgiveness. The post Forgiveness, with Mpho Tutu van Furth [MIPodcast #81] appeared first on Neal A. Maxwell Institute | BYU.

Abby is a mom, wife, yogi, former professional cook, certified massage therapist and believer in empowered self-healing. She’s in the process of healing herself from a lifetime of chronic health problems through the power of nutritional therapy, militant self-care, spiritual discovery . . . and sometimes gritting it out. She lives in Vermont with her annoyingly fit husband, her two wild children, her ill-behaved dog and a handful of ridiculously robust houseplants. Message Statement: Massage and bodywork have so much potential to bring about meaningful changes in mental, physical and spiritual health and I am honored to be a part of that process. By providing my clients space, undivided attention and nurturing touch, I hope to provide the catalyst for real renovation of body, mind and spirit. Because I believe everyone can benefit from massage, I am committed to serving marginalized communities who may otherwise not have access to safe and affordable bodywork. I offer a limited number of free and reduced-cost sessions each month to those in need. Define happiness for you: Happiness is absolute happiness with the inevitable. Morning Routine: My alarm goes off at 5:30am I hit snooze and do my breathing exercises I then absorb the warmth in the down comforter At 6am I get up and meditate Then I do movements/exercise Then all hands on deck with the family And then I sometimes clean Evening Routine: Feed everybody Put them to bed Tidy up Make tea Sit and do gratitude journal and list of the top 3 things tomorrow Sit with my legs up the wall for a bit Say a prayer (may I be fill with love and kindness, may I be happy, May I know a deep and constant peace, may I be healthy, may I be free.) And then sleep 3 self care practices you just can’t live without: Some variation of my morning routine Bulletproof coffee Community Book Recommendations: A Mind of Your Own: The Truth About Depression and How Women Can Heal Their Bodies to Reclaim Their Lives by Kelly Brogan M.D. The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World by Desmond Tutu and Mpho Tutu Best decision of your life so far: Leaving a job that wasn’t a right fit for me and learning a whole new profession. When do you feel most empowered: When I’m in session. Also when I listen to SIA. 3 things you are currently grateful for: For my physical health My parents My husband and children

Brad Sullivan 4 Lent, Year C March 6, 2016 Saint Mark’s Episcopal Church, Bay City, TX 2 Corinthians 5:16-21 Luke 15:1-3, 11b-32 The Parable of the Extravagantly Forgiving Father Everyone needs forgiveness. We need to give forgiveness, we need to receive forgiveness. We need the grace and healing that comes with forgiveness. That’s because we all have scars and wounds inflicted upon us over the course of our lives, and we are also all the cause of other peoples’ scars and wounds. As much as we need food, water, and air, we are starving and suffocating without forgiveness. Without forgiveness, our past wounds keep on hurting us over and over, and they keep us from living the life of God’s kingdom. Everyone needs forgiveness. That’s why God gives forgiveness so extravagantly. We call the parable which we heard today, “The Prodigal Son,” or the wasteful son. He spent his inheritance wastefully and extravagantly and then came back to his father, penniless and starving, begging for his father to let him work as one of his servants. The father ran out to him, having already forgiven him, and restored him, not as a servant, but as a son, and he threw a huge party in celebration that his son was back, essentially back from the dead. So, the title “the prodigal son” makes some sense, although, “the extravagantly forgiving father” might be a better title. Calling the story “the prodigal son,” however, ignores the other brother, the one who stayed with his dad, helped around the house, and then was indignant when his brother came home and was given a party. That, and the anger he had? Totally understandable. It wasn’t fair, he was basically saying, and he was right. It wasn’t fair. Of course he was angry, and forgiveness isn’t about being fair. Forgiveness is about what we need. Archbishop Desmond Tutu wrote a book on forgiveness which came out of the process of healing and the choice of forgiveness after apartheid in South Africa. He begins the book with a story of a woman and her daughter whose husband and father had been tortured, beaten, stabbed, dismembered, and killed. They were speaking to the Truth and Reconciliation Commission about the murder of their husband and father during apartheid in South Africa. They ended by saying, “I would love to know who killed my father. We want to forgive them. We want to forgive, but we don’t know who to forgive.” The perpetrators of this crime didn’t deserve forgiveness, but they needed it, wherever they were. The mother and daughter, also needed forgiveness. They had a need to give forgiveness. That was their desire. Archbishop Tutu wrote about them in his book, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World. He wrote about the need we have to be forgiven and the need we have to forgive. He writes: To forgive is not just to be altruistic. It is the best form of self-interest. It is also a process that does not exclude hatred and anger. These emotions are all part of being human. You should never hate yourself for hating others who do terrible things: The depth of your love is shown by the extent of your anger. However, when I talk of forgiveness, I mean the belief that you can come out the other side a better person. A better person than the one being consumed by anger and hatred. Remaining in that state locks you in a state of victimhood, making you almost dependent on the perpetrator. If you can find it in yourself to forgive, then you are no longer chained to the perpetrator. You can move on, and you can even help the perpetrator to become a better person, too. The brother in Jesus’ parable had a need to forgive. After rumbling with his anger and resentment for a while, he needed to release those emotions and forgive his brother so that he was no longer consumed by the anger and resentment, so that he was no longer hurting himself. Forgiveness is the key to the parable Jesus told: Our need for forgiveness, our need both to give and to receive forgiveness. The parable really should be called the parable of the extravagantly forgiving father. Then the focus is not on how we mess up, but the focus is on who God is, our extravagantly forgiving Father. How beloved are we of God that he forgives us so extravagantly? All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ, and has given us the ministry of reconciliation; that is, in Christ God was reconciling the world to himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and entrusting the message of reconciliation to us. So we are ambassadors for Christ, (1 Corinthians 5:18-20) God knows that we only hurt because we have been hurt. We only break others only because we have been broken. As Archbishop Tutu writes: People are not born hating each other and wishing to cause harm. It is a learned condition. Children do not dream of growing up to be rapists or murderers, and yet ever rapist and ever murderer was once a child…Forgiveness is truly the grace by which we enable another person to get up, and get up with dignity, to begin anew. So, God has given us forgiveness and reconciliation to him, and then he has granted us to be his ambassadors that we might give forgiveness and reconciliation as extravagantly as he. Our ambassadorship is not easy, of course, because forgiveness is not easy. It was not easy for God to forgive and to reconcile the world to him. We hear time and again about God’s vengeance and his wrath. You can bet our sins anger God. Just as with our rumbling with our anger and resentment, God was angry at humanity for the harm we cause each other. Rather than exact vengeance on humanity, however, God took that anger and vengeance upon himself, becoming human, becoming Jesus, and suffering himself, suffering his own anger and vengeance on the cross. God’s forgiveness of us was not easy, but it was and is extravagantly given. The anger and resentment we feel when we have been hurt is, like God’s anger and resentment, understandable and justified. We need, however, to rumble with it and eventually to release it so that it no longer poisons us. Such is our need for forgiveness, both to give and receive forgiveness. And so we are ambassadors for Christ, constantly working to give and receive forgiveness, and constantly telling others of the extravagant forgiveness God has given us through Jesus, and of the healing that comes through forgiveness and reconciliation. Such healing is not easy, because forgiveness is not easy. We see in the cross of Jesus the difficulty of forgiveness, and whenever we forgive something in us has to die in order for that forgiveness and new life to happen. Forgiveness is not easy, but it is needed, for restoration, for resurrection, for healing and new life. And we are ambassadors of Christ in his extravagant gift of healing through forgiveness. So I leave us with this prayer from Archbishop Tutu, called “The Prayer Before the Prayer.” I want to be willing to forgive But I dare not ask for the will to forgive In case you give it to me And I am not yet ready I am not yet ready for my heart to soften I am not yet ready to be vulnerable again Not yet ready to see that there is humanity in my tormentor’s eyes Or that the one who hurt me may also have cried I am not yet ready for the journey I am not yet interested in the path I am at the prayer before the prayer of forgiveness Grant me the will to want to forgive Grant it to me not yet but soon. Can I even form the words Forgive me? Dare I even look? Do I dare to see the hurt I have caused? I can glimpse all the shattered pieces of that fragile thing That soul trying to rise on the broken wings of hope But only out of the corner of my eye I am afraid of it And if I am afraid to see How can I not be afraid to say Forgive me? Is there a place where we can meet? You and me The place in the middle The no man’s land Where we straddle the lines Where you are right And I am right too And both of us are wrong and wronged Can we meet there? And look for the place where the path begins The path that ends when we forgive. Amen.

Brad Sullivan 4 Lent, Year C March 6, 2016 Saint Mark’s Episcopal Church, Bay City, TX 2 Corinthians 5:16-21 Luke 15:1-3, 11b-32 The Parable of the Extravagantly Forgiving Father Everyone needs forgiveness. We need to give forgiveness, we need to receive forgiveness. We need the grace and healing that comes with forgiveness. That’s because we all have scars and wounds inflicted upon us over the course of our lives, and we are also all the cause of other peoples’ scars and wounds. As much as we need food, water, and air, we are starving and suffocating without forgiveness. Without forgiveness, our past wounds keep on hurting us over and over, and they keep us from living the life of God’s kingdom. Everyone needs forgiveness. That’s why God gives forgiveness so extravagantly. We call the parable which we heard today, “The Prodigal Son,” or the wasteful son. He spent his inheritance wastefully and extravagantly and then came back to his father, penniless and starving, begging for his father to let him work as one of his servants. The father ran out to him, having already forgiven him, and restored him, not as a servant, but as a son, and he threw a huge party in celebration that his son was back, essentially back from the dead. So, the title “the prodigal son” makes some sense, although, “the extravagantly forgiving father” might be a better title. Calling the story “the prodigal son,” however, ignores the other brother, the one who stayed with his dad, helped around the house, and then was indignant when his brother came home and was given a party. That, and the anger he had? Totally understandable. It wasn’t fair, he was basically saying, and he was right. It wasn’t fair. Of course he was angry, and forgiveness isn’t about being fair. Forgiveness is about what we need. Archbishop Desmond Tutu wrote a book on forgiveness which came out of the process of healing and the choice of forgiveness after apartheid in South Africa. He begins the book with a story of a woman and her daughter whose husband and father had been tortured, beaten, stabbed, dismembered, and killed. They were speaking to the Truth and Reconciliation Commission about the murder of their husband and father during apartheid in South Africa. They ended by saying, “I would love to know who killed my father. We want to forgive them. We want to forgive, but we don’t know who to forgive.” The perpetrators of this crime didn’t deserve forgiveness, but they needed it, wherever they were. The mother and daughter, also needed forgiveness. They had a need to give forgiveness. That was their desire. Archbishop Tutu wrote about them in his book, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World. He wrote about the need we have to be forgiven and the need we have to forgive. He writes: To forgive is not just to be altruistic. It is the best form of self-interest. It is also a process that does not exclude hatred and anger. These emotions are all part of being human. You should never hate yourself for hating others who do terrible things: The depth of your love is shown by the extent of your anger. However, when I talk of forgiveness, I mean the belief that you can come out the other side a better person. A better person than the one being consumed by anger and hatred. Remaining in that state locks you in a state of victimhood, making you almost dependent on the perpetrator. If you can find it in yourself to forgive, then you are no longer chained to the perpetrator. You can move on, and you can even help the perpetrator to become a better person, too. The brother in Jesus’ parable had a need to forgive. After rumbling with his anger and resentment for a while, he needed to release those emotions and forgive his brother so that he was no longer consumed by the anger and resentment, so that he was no longer hurting himself. Forgiveness is the key to the parable Jesus told: Our need for forgiveness, our need both to give and to receive forgiveness. The parable really should be called the parable of the extravagantly forgiving father. Then the focus is not on how we mess up, but the focus is on who God is, our extravagantly forgiving Father. How beloved are we of God that he forgives us so extravagantly? All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ, and has given us the ministry of reconciliation; that is, in Christ God was reconciling the world to himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and entrusting the message of reconciliation to us. So we are ambassadors for Christ, (1 Corinthians 5:18-20) God knows that we only hurt because we have been hurt. We only break others only because we have been broken. As Archbishop Tutu writes: People are not born hating each other and wishing to cause harm. It is a learned condition. Children do not dream of growing up to be rapists or murderers, and yet ever rapist and ever murderer was once a child…Forgiveness is truly the grace by which we enable another person to get up, and get up with dignity, to begin anew. So, God has given us forgiveness and reconciliation to him, and then he has granted us to be his ambassadors that we might give forgiveness and reconciliation as extravagantly as he. Our ambassadorship is not easy, of course, because forgiveness is not easy. It was not easy for God to forgive and to reconcile the world to him. We hear time and again about God’s vengeance and his wrath. You can bet our sins anger God. Just as with our rumbling with our anger and resentment, God was angry at humanity for the harm we cause each other. Rather than exact vengeance on humanity, however, God took that anger and vengeance upon himself, becoming human, becoming Jesus, and suffering himself, suffering his own anger and vengeance on the cross. God’s forgiveness of us was not easy, but it was and is extravagantly given. The anger and resentment we feel when we have been hurt is, like God’s anger and resentment, understandable and justified. We need, however, to rumble with it and eventually to release it so that it no longer poisons us. Such is our need for forgiveness, both to give and receive forgiveness. And so we are ambassadors for Christ, constantly working to give and receive forgiveness, and constantly telling others of the extravagant forgiveness God has given us through Jesus, and of the healing that comes through forgiveness and reconciliation. Such healing is not easy, because forgiveness is not easy. We see in the cross of Jesus the difficulty of forgiveness, and whenever we forgive something in us has to die in order for that forgiveness and new life to happen. Forgiveness is not easy, but it is needed, for restoration, for resurrection, for healing and new life. And we are ambassadors of Christ in his extravagant gift of healing through forgiveness. So I leave us with this prayer from Archbishop Tutu, called “The Prayer Before the Prayer.” I want to be willing to forgive But I dare not ask for the will to forgive In case you give it to me And I am not yet ready I am not yet ready for my heart to soften I am not yet ready to be vulnerable again Not yet ready to see that there is humanity in my tormentor’s eyes Or that the one who hurt me may also have cried I am not yet ready for the journey I am not yet interested in the path I am at the prayer before the prayer of forgiveness Grant me the will to want to forgive Grant it to me not yet but soon. Can I even form the words Forgive me? Dare I even look? Do I dare to see the hurt I have caused? I can glimpse all the shattered pieces of that fragile thing That soul trying to rise on the broken wings of hope But only out of the corner of my eye I am afraid of it And if I am afraid to see How can I not be afraid to say Forgive me? Is there a place where we can meet? You and me The place in the middle The no man’s land Where we straddle the lines Where you are right And I am right too And both of us are wrong and wronged Can we meet there? And look for the place where the path begins The path that ends when we forgive. Amen.