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Reconciliation isn't the same thing as forgiveness. We've probably been confusing the two for too long, and it's had real consequences for real people. In this episode, let's look honestly at what genuine repair actually requires, who's responsible for what, and why it's worth the hard work of getting it right.    LINKS: Book of Forgiving  |  Connect  |  YouTube  |  Coming Up TRANSCRIPT: Ian calls kids up and shares puppets (all the animal characters from Wally and Freya) Setup: We've been talking about Wally and Freya for a few weeks now. But there were other animals in this story— a whole community. And when something happens between two people, the whole community has to figure out how to respond. I need some helpers. Each of you gets a character. Facilitate a short, lively role play — you narrate, kids voice their characters: Wally did something that hurt Freya. Now everybody has to decide what to do.Name each option clearly as kids play them out: Get even — someone decides to do something mean back to Wally. Throw a tantrum — someone just explodes with feelings. Ask for help — someone goes to a trusted adult. Forgive — someone decides to let it go and move forward. Choose the relationship — someone decides whether they even want to keep being Wally's friend. Wally & Freya book Here's what I want you to notice: in any situation where someone gets hurt, everybody has choices. Not just one choice, but a whole menu of them. Some of those choices help. Some of them make things worse. And some of them are really, really hard. The hardest one (and the most interesting one) is what we're talking about today. The word you are going to hear me use is called “reconciliation,” and it means making a relationship better. It's not the same thing as forgiveness. They're related, but they're different. Here's the difference: Forgiveness is something YOU do, inside yourself. Reconciliation is something that happens BETWEEN PEOPLE. It takes both people showing up. Painting rocks… what are words we could use? The Distinction We Were Not Taught We have spent this whole series untangling forgiveness from the myths we inherited about it. Today we untangle one more, and it might be the most practically important one. Forgiveness and reconciliation are not the same thing. We use them interchangeably. We shouldn't. Collapsing them into one action creates real damage: It pressures the wounded person to restore a relationship before they feel safe. It lets the person who caused harm off the hook for the actual work of repair. It produces what we might call false reconciliation, a surface-level "we're fine" that buries the wound rather than healing it. The Tutus: "The preference is always to renew unless there is a question of safety." But — and this is important — reconciliation is the fourth step of the Fourfold Path, not the first. You cannot skip to it. And sometimes, honestly, you never get there. To be clear: not reaching reconciliation is not s sign of failure either. That's reality. Lessons from the TRC In 1995, Nelson Mandela appointed Archbishop Desmond Tutu to chair South Africa's Truth and Reconciliation Commission… a body tasked with the nearly impossible: helping a nation begin to heal from decades of apartheid-era atrocity. The TRC was empowered to grant amnesty to perpetrators who confessed their crimes truthfully and completely to the commission. Not automatically. Not cheaply. Truth first. Tutu's final remarks after submitting the report were: "We have looked the beast in the eye. Our past will no longer keep us hostage." Notice what the commission was called. Not the Reconciliation Commission. The Truth and Reconciliation Commission. Truth comes first. Always. What Archbishop Desmond Tutu and the TRC understood, and what we so often get backwards, is that healing actually does have an order. You cannot reconcile what you have not first actually named. You cannot repair what no one has acknowledged was broken. Skipping truth in the name of peace doesn't produce peace. It produces a ceasefire. Those are different things. The TRC also knew its limits. The commission's final report recommended prosecution in cases where amnesty was not sought or was denied. Reconciliation and accountability were held together, not traded against each other. That's the model. The Asymmetry of Reconciliation Here's something the Tutus make explicit that almost nobody else does: the person who was hurt and the person who caused harm have fundamentally different work to do in reconciliation. The path is not the same for both. For the person who was hurt: Your work is the Fourfold Path: telling the story, naming the hurt, granting forgiveness, and then deciding whether to renew or release the relationship. You do not owe anyone reconciliation. Forgiveness is yours to give on your own timeline. Reconciliation requires the other person to show up. The Tutus: "Ask for what you need from the perpetrator in order to renew or release the relationship." That's your right. An apology. An explanation. A changed behavior. To never see them again. All of these are legitimate. For the person who caused harm— the Tutus' framework from Chapter 8 is equally clear: ADMIT the wrong. Witness the ANGUISH Don't argue, don't cross-examine, don't justify. Just listen to what your actions cost the other person… APOLOGIZE genuinely… When you apologize, you are restoring the dignity that you have violated, and acknowledging that the offense has happened. ASK for forgiveness… and honor whatever answer you receive. Make AMENDS or restitution wherever possible. This asymmetry matters because we almost never name it. We treat reconciliation as if both parties are equally responsible for making it happen. But if someone caused harm and hasn't done their work— hasn't admitted it, hasn't witnessed the anguish, hasn't asked for forgiveness— placing the burden of reconciliation equally on the wounded person is just another form of harm. What Gets in teh Way Why is our culture so bad at this? A few honest reasons: Cheap accountability. "I said sorry, what more do you want?" An apology that doesn't include witnessing the other person's pain, or making any effort toward repair, isn't accountability. It's a bid to end the discomfort of being the one who caused harm. Forced and premature reconciliation. Especially in families, churches, and workplaces (read: systems with power dynamics!) pressure to reconcile before the wounded person is ready, or before the person who caused harm has done their work, is coercion masked as grace. No shared vocabulary or ritual. This is a distinctly American problem. We have almost no cultural practices around genuine repair. We have legal settlements. We have awkward apologies. We don't have a process. The Tutus give us one. Most of us were never taught it. The fear that accountability and restoration can't coexist. They can. The TRC proved it — imperfectly, controversially, but really. Truth and healing are not enemies. They need each other. Sometimes, Reconciliation isn't Possible or Appropriate. Some people may be carrying experiences of abuse, violence, or sustained harm Some relationships should not be restored. The Tutus themselves say the preference is always to renew… unless there is a question of safety. Safety is not a small caveat. It is the first question. Releasing a relationship— choosing not to restore it— is not a failure of forgiveness. It is sometimes the most brave thing a person can do. You can forgive someone and never speak to them again… it's totally not a contradiction. Reconciliation requires two willing, honest, accountable people. If only one person is doing the work, what you have is not reconciliation. It's one person carrying everything alone… again. The Reconciliation Map Here's a practice to take into this week... Think of a relationship in your life where there has been harm… either harm done to you, or harm you caused. Ask yourself honestly: Where are we actually in this process? Has the story been told — honestly, out loud, to someone? Has the hurt been named — the feelings underneath the facts? Has forgiveness been granted — or is it still in process? Has there been any movement toward renewing or releasing the relationship? You don't have to be further along than you are. This isn't a checklist for shame. It's just a snapshot, and an honest look at where you actually stand, so you can take the next step that's actually yours to take. Wrap-up Next week is our last week together in this series. We're going to flip the question one final time and ask: what does it mean to be forgivable? What's my role in the harm I've caused — and what does it look like to become someone who can be forgiven? This is hard, slow, important work. You're doing it!

Here's the uncomfortable truth: forgiveness isn't primarily for the other person… it's for you. (Ugh, we know.) This week we explore what it might mean to stop letting a past wound have the final word over your present life.   LINKS: Book of Forgiving  |  Connect  |  YouTube  |  Coming Up TRANSCRIPT:   Retell from Freya's perspective — what was she feeling as Wally spoke? Name those feelings out loud and mark a stone with washable marker for each one as you name them: Angry. (mark) Sad. (mark) Embarrassed. (mark) Lonely. (mark) "Look at this stone now. Pretty marked up. That's what it looks like when we've been carrying a lot." Watch the video — Freya bringing Wally back, returning him to their community. Unpack: What did Freya choose? She didn't pretend it didn't happen. She didn't say it was okay. But she chose something — and whatever she chose, it changed things. We're going to do something with these stones in a little while. Hold onto yours. Hand out stones and washable markers to kids. Send them back to seats to mark up their stones and work on kids Sunday Papers. Adults — I want to talk to you now. But kids, you're welcome to listen in! Where We've Been Brief catch-up for anyone new or returning: We're in The Book of Forgiving — drawing from Desmond and Mpho Tutu's framework for how forgiveness actually works. The Fourfold Path: Tell the Story → Name the Hurt → Grant Forgiveness → Renew or Release the Relationship. In the first week: We told our stories. Last week: We named the hurt: the feelings underneath the facts. Today: we take the hardest step. We talk about what it actually means to grant forgiveness. The Uncomfortable Truth Here's where we have to say something that cuts against almost everything our culture tells us about forgiveness: Forgiveness is not primarily for the other person. It's FOR YOU. (ugh, I know.) That feels wrong at first. It can even feel like a betrayal of the seriousness of what was done. If I forgive, doesn't that let them off the hook? No. And we'll come back to that. But first… someone wise once put it this way: "Forgiveness is the act of giving up all hope of a better past." Sit with that for a second. Forgiveness isn't giving up on justice. Or saying that what happened was okay. Its not pretending it didn't happen. But instead, forgiveness is releasing the white-knuckled grip on the belief (conscious or not) that somehow, if we hold on tight enough, stay angry enough, rehearse it enough, the past will change. It won't. And the holding on costs us. What the Holding Costs Us This isn't just spiritual intuition. There's reliable research proving it. When we hold onto unresolved hurt— ruminating, replaying, rehearsing— our bodies respond as if the threat is still happening. Cortisol stays elevated. The nervous system stays on alert. Over time this contributes to measurable increases in anxiety, depression, cardiovascular stress, and immune suppression, among other truly serious health issues. We are not built to carry this indefinitely. The body keeps the score, and it charges interest. If we want to “make America healthy again,” it turns out denial just isn't actually gonna do it. Developing cultural practices around forgiving and healing, though? That's the ticket. The Tutus frame the alternative this way: in the Revenge Cycle, we reject our pain and try to make it go away by hurting the person who hurt us. In the Forgiveness Cycle, we face our pain. We don't deny it or minimize it. And we choose to move toward healing instead. The Tutus: "In the Revenge Cycle, we reject our pain and suffering and believe that by hurting the person who hurt us our pain will go away." It doesn't. It never has. It simply multiplies…  There's all sorts of bumper sticker opportunities here: “hurt people hurt people” The trap: waiting to forgive until the other person apologizes. They may never. They might not even know or appreciate what they did. They may never. But if your freedom is contingent on their remorse, they hold a lot of unearned power over you. It lives rent-free in your head. What Forgiveness is Not… Clearing the Ground Again Because this step gets misused more than any other, it's worth naming clearly what granting forgiveness does NOT mean (this is a real “sorry not sorry” moment for repeating this pretty much every week, but we're untangling a real knot here): It does not mean what was done to you was okay. It does not mean you forget. It does not mean you reconcile. (Forgiveness and reconciliation are separate acts — we'll talk about that next week.) It does not mean the other person deserves it or has earned it. It does not mean you have to tell them. The Tutus: "Forgiveness is a choice. Forgiving is how we move from victim to hero in our own story."  And honestly, I love being the hero of my own story, but when it comes to pain, I don't need to be a hero, I just want agency… And this is key: you can pursue justice and forgiveness at the same time. One does not cancel the other. You can hold someone accountable AND release the stranglehold their actions have on your inner life. These are not in competition. It's not one or the other. GRANTING FORGIVENESS… WHAT IT ACTUALLY IS So what IS it then? At its core, the Tutus describe granting forgiveness as an act of RECLAIMING YOUR HUMANITY— and in doing so, recognizing the humanity of the person who hurt you. Not excusing them. Not elevating them. But refusing to reduce either of you to the worst moment between you. This is where the Tutu framework gets genuinely hard. Because recognizing the humanity of someone who hurt you; someone who may have done something terrible… it can feel like a betrayal. But here's what Desmond Tutu learned in the shadow of apartheid, sitting across from perpetrators of atrocity: to call someone a monster is actually to let them OFF THE HOOK. Monsters can't help what they do. Humans can. Naming someone's humanity–  their capacity to choose, and to have chosen badly— is what makes them accountable. And it's what releases you from defining yourself by what they did. The Tutus write: "We know we are healing when we are able to tell a new story." Not a story in which the wound never happened. A story in which the wound is no longer the main character. This is what it looks like in practice: You stop organizing your life around the person who hurt you. You stop letting their actions have veto power over your contentment or joy, your relationships, or your sense of self. You begin— slowly, imperfectly— to live forward instead of backward. It starts feeling less like a feeling and more like a direction. You turn your face toward something other than the wound. Again. And again. That's the practice. Kids Back Up to Close Invite kids back up… talk about those marks on stones. Forgiveness is the process of remembering that “I am not the things that happened to me.” I am not this mark… or that mark…” Those things hurt, and I have feelings about the person that did that thing to me… but I'm going to choose to be confident in who I am, how I treat others, and I get to make choices about my own self… that person doesn't get to make decisions about me for me.” Dip stones in water.  We'll talk more about what happens in our relationships next week, and we'll learn about how Wally & Freya figured that out for themselves and their community of friends. Closing Invitation Now we do something together. "If you've been marking up your stone — kids, adults, anyone — I want to invite you to come forward in a moment and dip it in the water." Brief explanation of what this means and doesn't mean: "This isn't a magic trick. Dipping your stone doesn't mean you're over it. It doesn't mean what happened was okay. It doesn't mean you've completed something." "It's a gesture. A small act of intention. You're saying: I don't want to be defined by this forever. I want to begin to get free." "The Tutus write that we wash the stone — and it's a cleansing, not an erasing. The stone is still the stone. You are still you. But something has been released." Invite people forward — quietly, no pressure, in their own time — to dip their stones in water. Let the room breathe. Music underneath if possible. Closing Next week: reconciliation. What does it actually look like to renew or release a relationship? What's required? What's possible? Come back. A simple benediction: You are more than what was done to you. Go live like it.  

Forgiveness has a pace of its own, and sometimes the most honest thing we can do is admit we're not there yet. This episode explores what it means to give ourselves (and each other) permission to be in process, without the pressure to be further along than we actually are.    LINKS: Book of Forgiving  |  Connect  |  YouTube  |  Coming Up   TRANSCRIPT: Brief framing before reading: We're talking about forgiveness in this series. About what happens when someone hurts us — or when we hurt someone else. And about the choices we have when that happens. I'm going to read you the first half of a book today. We're going to stop in the middle on purpose because the most important part of the story for TODAY is actually what happens right... here. And we're going to finish it next week. Read first half of Wally and Freya. Brief unpack after reading: What's happening in the story: someone got hurt. Both of them, actually. And now they have a choice. Two roads: get even, stay hurt… OR something harder, and maybe even braver. Forgiveness doesn't always happen right away. It takes practice. And the very first steps are: tell somebody you trust what happened, and then tell about what it felt like. When somebody does something that hurts me, I feel sad, and kind of mad. Sometimes it feels like I don't matter much to them. Just saying that out loud is an important thing to do! In the story, Wally and Freya are both sad. Both hurt. And now they have a choice to make. So do we. We'll find out what they choose next week. The Stone — Kids Practice Give each child a stone. This stone is like the hurt we carry when someone has hurt our feelings, or our bodies, or our hearts. It has some weight to it, just like the hurt does. You can return to your seats and work in their special kids Sunday Paper: Trace the stone on the paper. Inside the tracing, write or draw what the hurt is. Hold onto your stone. We're going to do something with it in a few minutes, everybody together. You can also listen in to what I'm saying, if you want to hear more about forgiving! Catching Everybody Up//Recap Welcome anyone who is new or wasn't here Week 1. I want to do a brief recap: We're in a series called The Book of Forgiving, drawing from Archbishop Desmond Tutu and his daughter Mpho's important work on what forgiveness actually is, and how to do it. The Tutus aren't theorists. Desmond Tutu chaired South Africa's Truth and Reconciliation Commission. Mpho lost her husband to violent crime. These are people who have earned the right to talk about this. Their framework is called the Fourfold Path: Telling the Story → Naming the Hurt → Granting Forgiveness → Renewing or Releasing the Relationship. In wk 1 we looked at the first step: Telling the Story. Today: Naming the Hurt. The big idea underneath all of it: We desperately need an imagination bigger than the revenge cycle we live inside culturally. That cycle is everywhere— in our politics, our entertainment, our instincts. The Tutus show us a different road. The Problem with How We Do Forgiveness Let's be honest about why forgiveness is so hard to practice, even for people who believe in it. We've collapsed forgiveness into remorse. Someone says "sorry!"— maybe genuinely, maybe not— and suddenly the pressure shifts entirely to the person who was hurt: Now you have to forgive. We skip the whole middle. That's not forgiveness. That's cruel urgency dressed up as something kind. We've made forgetting the goal. But the Tutus are clear: forgetting is not only impossible, it's actually counterproductive. Memory is part of how we protect ourselves. Part of how we stay honest. Forgiveness is not amnesia. We've weaponized it. In religious spaces especially, "forgive" has been used to protect people who caused harm and to silence people who were hurt. When forgiveness gets wielded as a command that bypasses accountability — when it becomes "Jesus says you have to forgive, so stop talking about what happened" — that is not sacred or faithful. That is abusive. And yet — Jesus does make forgiveness an ultimate, limitless command. Seventy times seven. God forgives without limit; our response is gratitude and extending that same grace. So how do we hold both? How do we take forgiveness seriously without letting it become a weapon? The answer is: we stop skipping the important steps. Forgiveness Cannot Be Rushed The Fourfold Path is a path…  it has an order for a reason. You cannot get to granting forgiveness without first telling the story and naming the hurt. Trying to skip there is what creates the toxic, pressured, performative version of forgiveness we've all experienced. And we'll get into this later in the series, but granting forgiveness has nothing to do with the decision to either renegotiate or release that relationship.  Forgiveness needs to be as slow as it needs to be. It has a pace of its own. That pace deserves to be honored. (Callback to the stone practice from Week 1): Did anybody actually hold that stone in their non-dominant hand for six hours this week? What was that like? [[funny?]] That's the point. Six hours felt like a lot. Some of us have been carrying something for six years. Or sixty. It deserves time. The Second Step: Naming the Hurt  So what does it actually mean to name the hurt? It starts with telling your story… to yourself? To God? To people you trust. Not to everyone. Not on social media. Not to the first person who will listen. To the right people, in a safe space. The Tutus: Tell your story first to a friend, loved one, or trusted person. That's a good place to start. There is a reason confession exists across almost every spiritual tradition. Not as a transaction, but as the practice of being heard without being fixed. What naming the hurt does: It begins to move what happened from something that is happening to you — constantly, on loop — into something that happened, that you can now begin to look at. Bessel van der Kolk: the body keeps what the mind won't name. When we give language to an experience, we move it from the body's alarm system into the part of the brain that can begin to process it. The Tutus frame it this way: Identify the feelings within the facts. The facts are WHAT HAPPENED. The feelings are what it COST you. What naming the hurt does NOT do: It does not mean what was done to you was okay. It does not mean you've forgiven anything yet. It does not mean you owe anyone resolution. But there is something that begins to shift. There is relief– which to be clear, is not the same as justice, and not the same as healing, but real relief— when the hurt stops being the main character in your story because you finally named it out loud. The Tutus again: No feeling is wrong, bad, or invalid. Move forward when you are ready. We Are Only Human With Other Humans This is why we do this together. Not because community is always safe — sometimes it isn't. But because we cannot become fully human alone. The Tutus: We do not heal in isolation. Connecting with others is how we develop compassion for others and for ourselves. What makes a good witness to someone naming their hurt? The Tutus give us a short, countercultural list: Listen. Do not try to fix the pain. Do not minimize the loss. Do not offer advice. Offer your love and your caring. That's it. Stay in the room. Don't flinch. Don't fix. That is one of the most profound gifts one human can offer another. Invitation: The Stone Practice Now we're all going to do something together— kids and adults. Invite everyone to pick up or find their stone. Walk them through the Tutus' "Clenching the Stone" practice (Book of Forgiving, Chapter 5): Take your stone in your dominant hand. Think of a hurt you are carrying right now. Name it… silently, or under your breath. As you name it, clench the stone in your fist. Now open your hand. As you release your fist, release the hurt — not forever, not resolved, just... set down for a moment. You can clench and release again for each thing you're carrying. Breathe… We're not asking you to be over it. We're not asking you to forgive it yet. We're just asking you to name it, and take the permission you can give yourself to walk the path of forgiving, at a pace that is right for you. That's enough for today. That's the work.

In this inspiring episode, we sit down with Kati Theurer, Director of HVAC Programs at Jefferson College, educator, industry leader and founder of the From Tutus to Tool Belts initiative. Fresh off being recognized as the first female Certified Master HVAC Educator and a Top 25 HVAC Instructor, Kati shares her passion for expanding opportunities and awareness for young women in the skilled trades.We explore:• How From Tutus to Tool Belts introduces fifth- through eighth-grade girls to hands-on trade experiences• The importance of exposing students to career pathways before they've already made up their minds• Building successful partnerships with contractors, distributors, schools and community organizations• Why early engagement is critical to addressing the skilled trades workforce shortage• Kati's personal journey from dancer to HVAC educator and industry advocate• The challenges and rewards of creating a grassroots program that is changing lives and perspectivesKati shares practical insights for educators, contractors and industry leaders looking to create meaningful outreach programs in their own communities. Whether you're passionate about workforce development, education or expanding opportunities in the trades, this conversation highlights the impact one person can make when they challenge the status quo and open doors for the next generation.Learn more about the From Tutus to Tool Belts initiative: https://www.jeffco.edu/about-jefferson-college/reference-information/tutus-to-tool-belts/.#HVAC #SkilledTrades #WomenInTrades #WorkforceDevelopment #HVACEducation #ESCOInstitute #TutusToToolBelts #CareerEducation-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Before we can forgive anything, we have to be honest about what actually happened without minimizing, over-spiritualizing, or skipping to a resolution. This week we slow down to affirm this first step in the process: naming the hurt with precision. As it turns out, telling the truth about your wound is the first act of healing.   LINKS:  Current Conversations | Connect | YouTube |  Coming Up TRANSCRIPT: The Word We've Been Mishandling Forgiveness might be the most talked-about and least practiced idea in all of spiritual life. Not because some people are hypocrites (I mean aren't we all a little bit?) but because if we're honest, we've been given almost no real tools for it. Tension point: most of us are carrying something. And most of us have been told– by religion, culture, entertainment, even well-meaning people– to just... let it go. But letting go of something you haven't fully held yet isn't forgiveness. It's just suppression with fancy vocabulary. Brief series preview: over the next six weeks, we're going to do this differently. We're drawing from Archbishop Desmond Tutu and his daughter Mpho's book The Book of Forgiving– one of the most honest, rigorous, and compassionate treatments of this subject that I'm aware of. We'll talk about what forgiveness actually is, what it isn't, why it gets weaponized, and what it might mean to actually get free. The Tutus give us a four-step framework for genuine forgiveness. If you're curious about each one of the steps in more detail and want to take the time it takes to really wrestle with that, I'd love to invite you into the Tuesday night book club and Discord server… talk to me after the gathering if you're interested! There's an underlying premise that when hurt happens, there's a cycle of revenge we often get stuck in (marked by the hurt/harm/loss, experiencing pain, choosing to harm, rejecting shared humanity, getting revenge/retaliation/payback, that ultimately leads to some form of violence that creates new or additional harm. What they've provided for us– based on their own experiences of injustice and violence (apartheid, violent deaths, etc.) is what they call The Fourfold Path, that similarly starts with hurt/harm/loss, followed by an intentional choice to heal. And if healing is the choice, then the fourfold path can be traveled:  Telling the Story (today) Naming the Hurt Granting Forgiveness (Recognizing Shared Humanity) Renewing or Releasing the Relationship. You don't have to be at every week to get something meaningful from this. But if you can, come back. This is worth doing slowly. The task we're in today– telling the story– is both simple and challenging: before we can forgive anything, we have to give ourselves space to be honest about what actually happened. Because there are a lot of real, identifiable reasons why we rush past pain and jump straight to resolution. Why We Skip the Hard Part Some of our work today, as we launch this series, is to be honest about why we skip the hard part, and end up missing out on actual forgiveness… For many: religious pressure |  "Jesus said forgive, so I should feel forgiving." The command becomes a performance. We say the words because we're supposed to, not because anything has actually shifted. (Note: forgiveness as a practice you choose vs. a feeling you perform — that distinction matters and we'll return to it.) Toxic positivity/"move on" culture |  American culture is deeply allergic to sitting with pain. We pathologize grief. We celebrate resilience in ways that quietly shame people for still hurting. "Good vibes only" is a spiritual bypass wearing a bumper sticker. Protecting ourselves from further abuse / Not wanting to further upset the person or system that hurt us |  This one deserves weight. Often the pressure to "just forgive" comes from the person or institution that caused harm. The church tells the abuse survivor to forgive the abuser. The family tells the wounded child not to make a scene. This is forgiveness weaponized — and we'll name that plainly throughout this series. The cultural myth of "forgive and forget" |  The Tutus address this directly. You cannot actually forget. And you shouldn't have to. Mpho Tutu writes that the idea of forgetting is not only impossible, it's actually counterproductive — memory is part of how we protect ourselves and stay honest. What happens when we skip to the “end”?? We don't actually move past the hurt. We move it underground. Resentment. Shame. Something that sits in us and ferments. The Tutus describe this as the "fourfold path" — and the first step is not resolution. It's telling the story. You cannot skip to the end. Telling the Story: The First Act of Healing The Tutus write: "The first and most important step in the Fourfold Path is to tell your story." Notice: they didn't say to resolve it… but to tell it. Why does this matter psychologically? There's substantial research behind this. Narrative therapy and trauma-informed psychology both support the idea that giving language to an experience is not just cathartic — it's neurologically significant. When we name something, we move it from the body's alarm system into the part of the brain that can actually process it. (Reference: Bessel van der Kolk, "The Body Keeps the Score" — the body holds what the mind won't name.) But there's a crucial distinction the Tutus make — and it's worth sitting with: RUMINATING on a story and TELLING it are not the same thing. Rumination is the loop. It's replaying the scene, re-feeling the wound, rehearsing what you should have said. It keeps us stuck in a cycle that actually reinforces the pain rather than processing it. Ruminating is like the broken record “That's an old tape, time to take it out of the VCR” Telling the story is different. It has a shape. A beginning, middle, and at least a provisional end. It has a witness. It moves outward rather than circling inward. Research on expressive writing (James Pennebaker, University of Texas) shows that people who write about difficult experiences in a structured way— not just venting, but actually narrating— show measurable improvements in psychological and even physical health. The Tutus frame this in deeply human terms: "When we tell our stories, we reclaim our humanity." The act of speaking what was done to us — rather than simply absorbing it — is how we refuse to let the wound become our whole identity. What Kind of Story Are We Telling? As we think perhaps about our own experiences of hurt, harm, or loss, it's worth asking: what kind of story are we telling? There's a spectrum of harm that's worth naming honestly: Some of what we carry is hurt — disappointment, unmet expectations, misunderstanding, relational friction. Real, worth naming, but perhaps not requiring the full weight of the forgiveness process. Some of what we carry is a genuine wrong — a betrayal, an act of violence, a sustained pattern of harm, an abuse of power. This is different. And treating it the same as ordinary hurt can minimize something that deserves to be named for what it is. The Tutus do not minimize harm. Mpho Tutu lost her husband to violent crime. Desmond Tutu spent his life in proximity to atrocity. This framework was forged in the context of apartheid, genocide, and profound injustice. It is not a self-help framework for minor inconveniences. It takes the weight of real wrong seriously. Part of telling your story is being honest about what actually happened — not inflating it, not minimizing it. Precision in our storytelling is an ACT OF DIGNITY. The Role of a Witness Here's something important: the Tutus don't imagine this as a solo process. Telling the story almost always requires someone to tell it to. What makes a good witness? Not someone who fixes it. Not someone who jumps to advice, or silver linings, or "well, have you thought about their perspective?" A witness is someone who receives your story with enough steadiness that you feel safe to tell it fully. In men's group: THREE people. The witness to receive the story, and also somebody with permission to ask questions about what they noticed in body language, follow up with questions about what's happening in the story teller's body, etc.  This is actually one of the most underrated spiritual gifts a person can offer another: the ministry of staying in the room without flinching. There's a reason confession has existed across almost every spiritual tradition in human history— not as a transaction for the pardon of wrongs, but as the practice of being heard by someone who doesn't run from the truth of what you've lived. Community implication: this is part of why we do this together. Not because church is a place to perform having it together, but because church can be— when we let it— a community of witnesses. People who are trained and willing to hold each other's real stories. (CARE IQ) What Forgiveness is NOT Before we wrap for today, let's clear some ground. The Tutus are direct about this: Forgiveness is not condoning what happened. Forgiveness is not forgetting. Forgiveness is not the same as reconciliation. (You can forgive someone and never have a relationship with them again. These are separate acts.) Forgiveness is not necessarily something you do for the other person. And forgiveness is not something you have to feel before you can choose it. Forgiveness is a practice you choose. Not an internal feeling you perform outwardly. We'll build on all of this in the weeks ahead. But naming what it isn't is part of how we clear space for what it actually is. Invitation/PAW Guided prompts: I want to invite you into a few minutes of quiet with a series of prompts. Optional: write it, draw it, sit with it. Hold a stone to represent it…  Think of something you're carrying. You don't have to name it out loud. Just let it come to mind. What actually happened? Try to name it with some precision — not to relive it, but to see it clearly. What did it cost you? Not what it "taught you," not what good came from it — what did it actually cost? Is there a word for what was done? Betrayal. Abandonment. Injustice. Violence. Neglect. Name it if you can. When and if you're ready in the coming days or weeks, think about if you're ready to tell it… to invite a witness in. Today I'm not asking you to forgive anything. I'm just asking you to be honest about what you're carrying. That's it. That's enough for today. Wrapping it Up Desmond Tutu said, "There is no future without forgiveness”... and I tend to agree with him. But we're not there yet. That's where we're going. Today we're just naming the yuck of it all, and naming that telling our story is in itself a critical first step in healing. That takes good courage! Next week, we'll be at Venn Coffee and Brewing to spend some slow, social time in conversation as community…   

3+3'ün 199. bölümünde konuğum ressam Şerivan Tutuş.

On today's episode of "Conversations On Dance", we are joined by choreographers Christopher Bruce and Jacquelyn Long, whose works will be featured on the upcoming Houston Ballet program "Rock, Roll & Tutus". They take us through their creative processes, how they select and interpret music through dance and each of their long artistic relationships with Houston Ballet, with Christopher honing his work with the company for decades and Jacquelyn rising to the rank of soloist before being singled out for her choreographic talents. To purchase tickets to "Rock, Roll & Tutus", premiering September 18th and running through the 28th, visit houstonballet.org. SPONSOR: Chicago's Wrightwood 659 presents Joffrey + Ballet in the U.S., a large-scale exhibition celebrating the rich history of The Joffrey Ballet and the life of Robert Joffrey. Drawing from the Joffrey archive, acquired by the Jerome Robbins Dance Division in 2017 as the Library's largest acquisition in a decade, the exhibition offers an in-depth look at the Joffrey's contributions to ballet in the U.S. Highlights include rare film from the original performance of the groundbreaking ballet Astarte and Anna Sokolow's Opus 65, as well as costumes, props, pointe shoes, posters, correspondence, and other ephemera from the company and Robert Joffrey's life. On view October 3rd through Dec 20th. For more information, visit wrightwood659.orgLINKS:Website: conversationsondancepod.comInstagram: @conversationsondanceCOD MerchListen to COD on YouTubeJoin our email listSponsorship information Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Bestselling author Tracy Goodwin joins us for a delightful chat about Imperfectly Perfect, her latest rom-com featuring a runaway bride, a mischievous beagle, and a hilarious journey to love. Tracy shares the inspiration behind her stories, her whirlwind career writing across multiple romance genres, and the real-life beagle who stole her heart (and maybe a few scenes in her book). We also dive into her New York roots, her love of Billy Joel, and her writing rituals—plus, she reveals what's next on her publishing horizon! If you love heartfelt romance, laugh-out-loud moments, and stories that make you swoon, this is an episode you won't want to miss! LINKS: Tracy Goodwin: https://freshfiction.com/author.php?id=43545 IMPERECTLY PERFECT: https://freshfiction.com/book.php?id=132620

BTTY BitesNo.1 - “It's the commotion the mind makes about life that really causes problems.” - Michael SingerNo. 2 - “If you can't decide, the answer is no.” - Naval RavikantNo. 3 - “Process saves us from the poverty of our intentions.” - Elizabeth KingMaybe process saves us from the poverty of our actions? A ThoughtWhat Do You Call the Space Between Raindrops? A book I was reading the other day asked that question. Let's come back to that.I love rain. Well, that's not the truth. Sometimes I don't love it. But I do love it under a covered porch with a cup of coffee and a good friend as we sit quietly and enjoy. Or during an afternoon nap or when it falls on old brown, crunchy leaves. I love it in the distance - a squall heading our way or some other way. I love it because it turns things green, gives the city a bath, and makes those mud puddles I used to play in as a kid. I even loved warm rain on patrol when everything gets quiet. And that post-rain smell. That's special. It turns out we have a name for that.Petrichor (PE-tri-kor) is that distinctive earthy smell. It's a relatively new term coined by two Australian researchers. It combines the words "petra" (stone) and "ichor" (the fluid that was supposed to flow in the veins of the Greek gods).Rhinos and Other Rh WordsAnother word I like is rhinoceros. I like the animal more than the word but mostly because I struggle to spell it. Rhinos are big, tough, and nimble (they can run up to 35 MPH). Southern white rhinos are social and form "crashes." How perfect is that? It's a group of 4-5 females and their calves. The calves play and "crash," which helps develop social skills and strength. The females back each other up against aggressive males. They will show genuine distress when a crash member is injured or ill and stand guard until they recover. It's thought that the crash is one of the reasons that the southern white rhino has been able to make a comeback. It's basically like having a handful of tank-sized bodyguard friends.Rhyme is another word I struggle to spell. Rhythm, no vowel. Wild. I guess the Y counts—Rhubarb, oh rhubarb. Gramma used to have a rhubarb bush. We'd break off a piece and take it inside, and she would slide a small dish with white sugar across her plastic tablecloth. I'd spend the next 15 minutes crunching and puckering away. My mouth waters just thinking about that.Rhetoric has a negative connotation in modern language. Maybe it shouldn't. It's a solid word. Rhombus - You probably remember what this is. I didn't. It's a special shape where all four sides are equal in length, opposite angles are equal, opposite sides are parallel, and diagonals bisect each other at right angles. Think playing card diamond. A square is a special rhombus.Why all the Rh words?No reason. I like Rhinos and realized there might not be many other Rh words. So I wrote this for myself. Because usually, when I write here, I hedge. I think about who will read it, what they might think, and what that will all mean. A part of that is my ego. How will this impact what they think of me?I like collecting ahas. They give me energy. Those lessons, I think, give me a better view of the world—maybe a little more truth or reality. I believe that if we learn something, we should share it. I try translating an 'aha' I've had into something you find helpful. Teaching it also helps us understand it more deeply.Also, the process is energizing. There is something finished at the end—I did something. It's like going for a run. It doesn't matter what happens that day—you did that run. The energy also comes from knowing that while most people don't say anything, I know something resonates occasionally. I'll get a message or a text from someone I didn't know was here, and they ask a question, say thank you, or sometimes say something much deeper. Something I said mattered to them at the right time. Those keep me writing publicly.Finally, and this is a new understanding thanks to Princess Buttercup, maybe my kids will read some of this one day and find it helpful.Dancing Between RaindropsFor a long time, Princess Buttercup and I have urged the kids to be rhinos—dancing rhinos. A big, nimble dinosaur-looking “joy mud” splattered thing standing on tip-toes in a pink tutu dancing between raindrops. When things get hard, sometimes you have to dance between the raindrops. Find your crash and dance. We always feel better after dancing (another PB lesson).I'm going to work to write more authentically in the future. I know I won't always, but I'll try. It might mean that some of you don't stay, think less of me, or some other BS story I'm telling myself. That's okay. I'll be over here in my pink tutu and, with my crash, working on what we work on.Be good.KellyPS - did you know rhinos have three toes on each foot? Fascinating. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kellyvohs.substack.com

durée : 00:58:23 - Le Cours de l'histoire - par : Xavier Mauduit, Maïwenn Guiziou - De la Préhistoire au 21e siècle, l'histoire de la danse s'écrit en mouvements et en soubresauts dans des contextes politiques, sociaux et économiques différents. Comment raconter l'histoire de la danse sur le temps long, au rythme des avancées de la recherche ? - réalisation : Thomas Beau, Anna Holveck - invités : Laura Cappelle Sociologue et chercheuse en danse, professeure associée à l'université Sorbonne-Nouvelle et chercheuse au Centre de la recherche sur les liens sociaux (CERLIS); Hélène Marquié Professeure au département d'études sur le genre de Paris 8; Chloé D'Arcy Doctorante à l'École pratique des Hautes Études au sein du laboratoire "Savoirs et pratiques du Moyen Âge à l'époque contemporaine" (SAPRAT)

Wait, Wait...Don't Tell Me! producers Mike and Ian are back with their podcast How To Do Everything. On their first episode: how to cut your hair in space, how to clean your tutu, and how to tell if you smell.You can email your burning questions to howto@npr.org. How To Do Everything is available without sponsor messages for supporters of Wait Wait Don't Tell Me+, who also get bonus episodes of Wait Wait Don't Tell Me featuring exclusive games, behind-the-scenes content, and more. Sign up and support NPR at plus.npr.org.How To Do Everything is produced by Heena Srivastava. Engineering by Patrick Murray.Learn more about sponsor message choices: podcastchoices.com/adchoicesNPR Privacy Policy

John 1:12-14 & Tutus 2:11-12

This week, we meet one of the hundreds of ballerinas who balanced on their toes in New York to set a new world record. Also: how a generous stranger gave a kidney to a five-year-old girl. And we hear from Europe's best seagull impersonator.

Hey Small Business School, in today's episode I chat with Genevieve Weeks! Genevieve is an incredibly experienced dancer and a graduate of the School of Ballet Chicago and the San Francisco Ballet School. During school became a founding member of the Ballet Chicago Studio Company. As she began performing as a freelance artist throughout North America after school, she started to dream about opening her own ballet school for kids. So the Tutu School was born! Since its first studio, the Tutu School has grown into a collection of boutique ballet schools all over the US and Canada, and Genevieve helps other entrepreneurs launch and nurture their own Tutu Schools. Genevieve is so passionate about the importance of creativity and joy in the lives of children and she's so knowledgeable about franchising! This is one of my favorite conversations I've had, so let's get into it!Topics Covered:Genevieve's background in ballet and her journey from dancer to entrepreneurship.The beginnings of Tutu School and its mission to foster creativity and joy in young children.The decision to franchise and the challenges and rewards of scaling your business.How to nurture a network of franchisees and maintaining brand consistency while allowing for entrepreneurial independence.Financial considerations for franchising, from setting franchise fees to providing value to franchisees, and the importance of aligning financial models with the support and resources offered.Staying connected to the mission of the business, especially during challenging times, and how it guides decision-making and fosters loyalty among stakeholders.Franchising your business is not a passive income strategy, it requires lots of nurturing. Stay connected to your ‘why' and find people who love your business as much as you do! Interested in Franchising? Genevieve is an expert, reach out to her on instagram!Genevieve's Links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tutugenevieve/Website: https://www.tutuschool.com/Staci's Links:Instagram. Website.The School for Small Business Podcast is a proud member of the Female Alliance Media. To learn more about Female Alliance Media and how they are elevating female voices or how they can support your show, visit femalealliancemedia.ca.Head over to my website https://www.stacimillard.com/ to grab your FREE copy of my Profit Playbook and receive 30 innovative ways you can add more profit to your business AND the first step towards implementing these ideas in your business!

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Desmond and the Tutus are in town and Lead Singer Shane Durrant joins Miketo invite listeners to tonight's performance at the iconic District nightclub inCape Town.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week on the podcast, Ben and Grace interview their friend Dallas about XTADV, a new adv training program with Traction eRag that will begin this August. This will be the world's FIRST enduro to ADV cross training program, and both Ben AND Grace will be there to launch this incredible week of riding in the Canadian wilderness. ALSO: apologies again for the chop in the episode this week. It will not be a regular thing, it was unfortunately just a hazard of weather and wifi not cooperating. To sign up, check out XTADV HERE! To follow Ben: Dork in the Road To follow Grace: the graceful renegade

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11-17-23 Protege tu dinero de este gran riesgo. Entrevista con Jenny de Seguros Tutus by Andres Gutierrez

Talk Show hosted on Kohala Radio by Holly Algood

Talk Show hosted on Kohala Radio by Holly Algood

Host Charles The Athlete™️ finishes the 2023 Pool Season strong through a three hour musical workout at Charlie's Beach Club and Poolside Lounge in Santa Monica, California. This sonic marathon run features lots of sunny tunes, and swims through pool influenced tracks by a wide variety of artists crossing genres - Holger Czukay, Desmond and The Tutus, Brioski, Holy Ghost!, Rudy Willingham and Parliament. The second hour carries a mix of some of tech house banger versions of hits by today's rap and pop stars including Cardi B, Missy Elliot, and Doja Cat.Third hour burners are coming hot from multiple artists at the Delusions of Grandeur record label, as well as some new jams by artists that FSQ repeatedly digs on including ASHRR, Cosmonection, Dan Only, and Zopelar. Tune into new broadcasts of FSQ, Thursday from 3 - 6 PM EST / 8 - 11 PM GMT.For more info visit: https://thefaceradio.com/fsq///Dig this show? Please consider supporting The Face Radio: http://support.thefaceradio.com Support The Face Radio with PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/thefaceradio. Join the family at https://plus.acast.com/s/thefaceradio. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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You'd think that apart from affirming that, of course, forgiving people who've hurt us is crucial to our happiness, there wouldn't be much more to say. But Desmond and Mpho Tutu wrote what seems like the final word on the subject in their wonderful The Book of Forgiving, which includes many stories from Desmond's leading of South Africa's Truth and Reconciliation Commission which was central to preventing bloody civil war after apartheid fell. Dave Schmelzer talks with Grace Schmelzer about how the Tutus's insights have impacted their experience of forgiving.Mentioned on this podcast:The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World, by Desmond and Mpho Tutu.

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Matt 9:11-13, Tutus 3:4-5, Heb 4:14-16, 1 Pet 1:1-5, Ps 136:1-26, Ps 23:1-6

Matt 9:11-13, Tutus 3:4-5, Heb 4:14-16, 1 Pet 1:1-5, Ps 136:1-26, Ps 23:1-6

Matt 9:11-13, Tutus 3:4-5, Heb 4:14-16, 1 Pet 1:1-5, Ps 136:1-26, Ps 23:1-6

Matt 9:11-13, Tutus 3:4-5, Heb 4:14-16, 1 Pet 1:1-5, Ps 136:1-26, Ps 23:1-6

Matt 9:11-13, Tutus 3:4-5, Heb 4:14-16, 1 Pet 1:1-5, Ps 136:1-26, Ps 23:1-6

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The Fellowship is pleased to present our discussion of the 1973 Spider-man story entitled The Night Gwen Stacy Died. Marvel took some big chances with this story (and spent a lot of breath backpedaling about it), but it was a bit of a milestone. Plus our usual random talk, geek news, and tangents

This week, the guys revel in the their abundance of two's! As two guys who have been podcasting for 222 episodes, it's a good time TWO take a second look back at some fun podcast titles. Will Josh and Evan know what the heck they talked about based solely on whatever obscure podcast title they came up with weeks ago? Play along with them TWO see if you can tell what the heck their past selves were on about. The guys also answer some 'would you rather' questions, and it turns out their friendship might be available for a certain price. There is also plenty of chat about Evan's weenie weekend, the onset of summer, and more. As always, listen in for some Fact of the Week, "sticking it TWO the man," and Life is Punny tidbits TWO!

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People have been running marathons and other races while wearing tutus for years. But where the tradition started is up for debate.

S6 Ep44 TOOTS VINTAGE: Michael Phillips moved from Ohio to NYC  with his fashion design degree,  eventually falling in love with vintage - on the styles that raised him, curating a unique brand perspective, and – from slip dresses to tutus – reimagining everyone as a princess. JOIN OUR PATREON COMMUNITY: https://www.patreon.com/prelovedpod  Listen and subscribe on: iTunes | Spotify | Stitcher | Google Play | or wherever you get your podcasts! Please rate & review the show so more vintage lovers find this community. Pre-Loved Podcast is a weekly interview show about rad vintage style with guests you'll want to go thrifting with. Find the show at @emilymstochl on Instagram and @PreLovedPod on Twitter. Pre-Loved Podcast: Toots Vintage Today's episode is with Michael Phillips of Toots Vintage! Originally from Youngstown, Ohio, Michael graduated with a fashion design degree from Kent State University and then moved to New York City to pursue a career in the fashion industry. Today, we'll hear the story of how Toots Vintage went from being just a twinkle in his eye to a beautiful online vintage shop specializing in 20th century womenswear, and some of Michael's own special designs.  The name Toots Vintage, taken from his grandmother's nickname, represents more than an admiration for vintage and antiques - it reimagines everyone as a princess. Michael is an ABSOLUTE delight and I can't wait for you to hear all his stories – so let's dive right in!  *This episode is sponsored by GoodwillFinds.com BIG thanks to GoodwillFinds for supporting Pre-Loved Podcast. Listeners can go to GoodwillFinds.com to check out new, pre-loved pieces that are added daily. Can't wait to hear what your next best “find” will be! All the Episode Links: Toots Vintage @tootsvintage on Instagram @tootsvintage on TikTok WGSN Trend Reports @jamesveloria Beacon's Closet Rentrayage https://brimfieldantiquefleamarket.com/ A Current Affair Antique Vintage Manhattan Vintage @sweetdahliavintage Unzipped - Isaac Mizrahi documentary @horizonsvintage Medina Antique Mall I-76 Antique Mall Strange Desires * JOIN THE PATREON COMMUNITY and get the Pre-Loved Podcast News Flash: https://www.patreon.com/prelovedpod  A special thanks goes out to my Patron Insiders: Patty Weber Beverley Docherty of Wolfe Pack Vintage Danny of Galaxy Live Kathy Brand Lucero Buendia Steven Vogel Mary-Elizabeth Land Tricia Zelazny Leslie V. Lisa of Queenie & Pearl Trudy Pre-Loved Podcast is created by Emily Stochl. Follow me on Instagram, Twitter, and my blog. 

Guest: Desmond and the Tutus are in Cape Town for their first town show of the year!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In the THIRD episode of the second season of Medium of the Month, we are joined by my personal friend and one of my favorite artists, Conor Fathe-Aazam, who I forced to talk about the medium of music with me. The two following two albums are highlighted one after the other: Hawk House's "A Handshake To the Brain" and Desmond and the Tutus' "Tuckshop". Please give Conor's art a look at Typebycone.com. The new cover art was done by artist Alan Cortes aka @flancortes --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/howtowasteyourtime/support

Today on Boston Public Radio: Sen. Ed Markey discusses the future of climate legislation in Congress, and calls for reforming the Supreme Court and abolishing the filibuster. Then, we open the phone lines, asking listeners if it's time to expand the Supreme Court. Prof. Julia Hopkins explains the focus of her “Emerald Tutu” project, which would create a skirt of floating greenery along the most vulnerable parts of Boston's shore. Hopkins is an assistant professor of Civil and Environmental Engineering at Northeastern University, and on a team of researchers hoping to install an “Emerald Tutu” along the city's coast.  Ryan Landry shares his current projects, from recent paintings to upcoming performances. Landry is a playwright, actor, songwriter, painter and canned tomato influencer. Adam Conover joins us ahead of his upcoming performances at Laugh Boston to talk about his new Netflix show “The G Word with Adam Conover” and reflect on the end of “Adam Ruins Everything.” Conover is  a self-described investigative comedian. Sue O'Connell talks about obstacles to gender equity in the workplace. O'Connell is the co-publisher of Bay Windows and South End News, and contributor to Current, on NBC L-X and NECN. We end the show by asking listeners if they've ever napped at work.

This week in the big sky: A sextile between Mars and Saturn favors bold, direct action, because tiptoeing around won't always get you where you need to go! The Cancer New Moon is on the Sabian symbol, Rabbits dressed in clothes and on parade.  Indulge your imagination! But with the New Moon square Jupiter, be careful not to take on more than you can handle. Mars squares Pluto on the Sabian Symbol A large, disappointed audience, and nothing good ever came of that. And listener Angela wonders why the Sun in her birth chart keeps winding up in different houses. Plus: pink tutus, hypnosis, and birds of a feather! Want to show some love for The Big Sky Astrology Podcast?  You can follow or subscribe in your app of choice, and recommend it to your best astrology-loving friend!   Read a full transcript of this episode. Have a question you'd like answered on the show?  Email April or leave it here! Subscribe to April's mailing list and get a free lunar workbook at each New Moon! Love the show? Donate here! Big Sky Astrology on Facebook | Instagram |  Twitter |  YouTube Timestamps [1:05] A sextile aspect between Mars and Saturn (June 27) encourages taking a direct approach to overcoming obstacles. [2:46] Neptune enters a long retrograde cycle on June 28th, which may bring to light some issues from last spring that need clarification. [4:56] It's time for the Moooon Report!! The Cancer New Moon on June 28 is on the Sabian symbol, Rabbits wearing clothes and on parade. Let your imagination run wild! But with the Sun and Moon square Jupiter, beware of biting off more than you can chew. It may be a better time to finish existing projects than to start new ones. [9:50] This New Moon initiates a new Lunar Phase Family cycle! (See this article for more on this fascinating, 2.5 year cycle.) Watch the full symbolism of this New Moon unfold over the next two and a half years, with critical points on March 28, 2023 (First Quarter Moon at 8° Cancer); Dec. 26, 2023 (Full Moon at 5° Cancer); and Sep. 24, 2024 (Last Quarter Moon at 2° of Cancer). [12:02] The Void-of-Course Moon periods for the week of June 27th. [17:56] A tricky square aspect between Mars and Pluto on July 1st: Can you turn it around to use Mars' strength for good? [19:40] In this week's listener question, Angela wonders why the Sun in her birth chart keeps winding up in different houses?  You might find April's answer a little easier to follow in video form! [28:35] If you'd like your astrology question considered for a future episode of the podcast, contact April with an audio message or email! [29:50] A Big Sky Astrology Podcast shoutout to the lovely listeners who have donated to the show over the past year, particularly Nicole Ervin, Jane Cullen-Smith and Sarah Jane Williamson!    

Kum Saati | Erdoğan Neden Tutuştu [Abdülhamit Bilici, Mehmet Efe Çaman] by Tr724

In this message, Matt models how to be a faithful reader as he engages the book of Titus. This is a book filled with theological topics that we could spend time exploring and debating about. Matt stays zoomed out and demonstrates beautifully how the humanity of the book, the historical context of its author and recipient, and the literary genre all point to a deep vision of discipleship that can be easily missed. He argues that while the inspiration of the Holy Spirit's guidance only took a few hours, the inspiration of the Spirit shaping Paul and Tutus' relationship took 20 years.

Today, commercials always have a target audience in mind. They're thinking about who they have the best chance of selling their product to. Which is a common marketing tactic, but it's rooted in gender ideologies. Tutus are for little girls, monster trucks are for boys, makeup is for women, you get the idea. Today, we've made a lot of gender progress. LEGOs has released lines of toys using only primary colors to prove that anyone can buy their products. Nerf even makes their own line of toy guns advertised just for girls. But it's a bit lopsided. Why are so few products deemed as feminine being marketed for men? Today, we're joined by Dr. Megan Mass who breaks down how commercials came to be driven by societal norms and heteronormativity. We're also joined by Boy Smells co-founder Matthew Herman, who's candle business celebrates those who challenge the gender binary. Be sure to check out Boy Smells' holiday collection of candles as well as their brand new fine fragrances line and their recently restocked collaboration with Kacey Musgraves. And follow them on IG! Your host is Levi Chambers, co-founder of Gayety. Follow the show and keep up with the conversation @Pride. Want more great shows from Straw Hut Media? Check out or website at strawhutmedia.com. Your producers are Levi Chambers, Maggie Boles, Ryan Tillotson and Edited by Silvana Alcala Have an interesting LGBTQ+ story to share? We might feature U! Email us at lgbtq@strawhutmedia.com. *This podcast is not affiliated with Pride Media. Sponsored by: Let's Get Checked Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s Monday in America, time for The World’s Greatest Political Podcast: THE LEFT SHOW! This week, JM Bell and JC Carter play the new game that is taking the world by storm! Reparations, Alex Jones, Rainbows and Tutus, and the Louis Gohmert Gohmert of the week! #526 The World’s Greatest Political Podcast – The LEFT […]

This week's episode is a real treat! I get to talk with the beautifully talented and inspirational Kanisha Tillman! Kanisha is the Founder of Tutus & Tennis Shoes. Her business works with transracial adoptee families and people of all kinds on Black hair care. When Kanisha got into cosmetology she didn't expect it to lead her here. She tells me about the tough conversations she's had with white parents and the importance of hair in the Black community - focusing on little Black girls and boys. We even talk about her own trials from being a single mom, experiencing homelessness, losing her salon, and rising to build the business she has today. Honestly - I'm not doing her justice so this is definitely an episode you don't wanna miss! MENTIONED IN THE SHOW: Kanisha but on Instagram! (@tutus_tennis_shoes) Tutus & Tennis Shoes but on Facebook! (@tutustennisshoes) Tutus & Tennis Shoes but on Youtube! Tutus & Tennis Shoes Website **Kanisha is also looking for a Mentor so shoot her an email at Heykanisha@tutustennisshoes.com CONNECT WITH THE SHOW! Instagram: @prettyfacelady3 Twitter: @prettyfacelady3 Facebook: More Than a Pretty Face Email: prettyfacewomen@mtapfpodcast.com My new podcast: The Lede Graf

Fashion designer Coco Fennell creates stunning, hyper-femme, vintage-inspired pieces that have been worn by the likes of Kylie, Rihanna and Liz Hurley (what an iconic dinner party that would be!), so it's no surprise that her own wardrobe is also a veritable treasure trove. Coco and Kiri stroll down memory lane via low-waist Britney jeans, corsets and tutus, diamante thongs, and the Minnie Mouse t-shirt dress that baby Coco never wanted to take off. Also up for discussion: smudged beauty spots, despicable hoarding, and 60s tailoring. Who Are You Wearing is a Little Wander production.The producer is Jo Southerd.Artwork by Mari Phillips @mythsntitsMusic by Ani Glass.Follow Who Are You Wearing on instagram: @whoyouwearingpodSend us an email: whoyouwearingpod@gmail.com

The Main Thing: For Episode 023 of the podcast we got to sit down with Kanisha Tillman from Tutus and Tennis shoes --- yes you heard us correctly --- Tutus and Tennis shoes, how fun is that?!Kenisha is in the business of partnering with transracial adoptive families to equip and empower parents and children to feel confident in all things hair care. Her passion and heart for adoptive families and her mission to be a resource to so many is exciting and inspiring!Episode Resources:Want to know how you can find Kanisha? Check her out on Instagram (@tutus_tennis_shoes) or click HERE to visit her website!2.A.M. Connect: Want to stay connected with our 2 Adoptive Mamas community? Visit our website and share your e-mail. We don't like to over-fill inboxes, so you'll receive our weekly newsletter and the occasional special announcement - super simple - we hope you'll join us!

Let's face it…being a mom is really, really hard.   If you can relate, then you're going to enjoy today's episode where Tanya Pershin, the bestselling author of “MOM”ing: It's Not All Sparkles and Tutus, shares lessons she's learned as she's traveled along her “Mom”ing journey.   Tanya has a mission to let every mom out there know that she is not alone. In this conversation, she shares her belief that as moms, it might not all be sparkles and tutus, but we are all in this together. And in the end, our faith, our purpose and our love make every step of the journey something to celebrate.   Listen in as Tanya Pershin shares her story.   ---------------   Tanya Pershin is full of life, unending energy and curiosity. You can't help but laugh, feel joy, and love when you're around her. She currently works at Player's Fitness and Performance. If you were to ask her title, she would tell you she is a professional hugger and talker.   Her first 12 years of life were spent growing up in Saudi Arabia. She moved to Maryland and currently resides in Frederick with her husband, Billy, and two very active teenage boys, Kyle and Branden.   Website:  tanyapershin.com FB:  @tanyapershin IG:  @tpershin

Back with another episode, we think we recorded to early,  Reagan talks parents and time, we chat controversial topics, we discuss religion a bit, we chat snapchat stories and past adventures. We tell our wild cow catching adventure and angels. We figure out who is the villain of last weekend's adventure.  --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/mnjs/support