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Jatketaan Antti Leinosen kanssa, joka siirtyi ammattiupseerin uralta yrittäjäksi ja kehitti Road To Vostok -pelin. Miten paljon rahaa Road to Vostok on netonnut Antille, miten Antti rahoitti kehitysprosessin ja miten erilaisia pelimoottoreita voi käyttää tukemaan maanpuolustusta?  Meitä maanpuolustuksen etulinjassa tukee yhteistyökumppanit:Varusteleka - Reserviläisen karkkikauppa ja meidän luotettu huoltopiste jo vuosien ajan - Varusteleka.fiSavox - Kriittisen kommunikaation kärkiosaaja - savox.comSavotta - Huikeita kantojärjestelmiä ja muita varusteita maanpuolustukseen ja ulkonaliikkumiseen - Savotta.fiHaluatko mainostaa podcästissä? Lähettää palautetta? Jopa kehua? Aiheideoita? Laita yhteyskokeilu osoitteeseen Info@mightyfinland.fi Mighty Finland vaatteet: https://www.photonresearchgroup.fi/pages/mightyfinlandToivo M/25 Olutta K-kauppaasi: https://www.k-ruoka.fi/artikkelit/k-kaupassa/ehdotuksestasi-k-kaupan-hyllylleTaistelijan Lehtiö: https://varusteleka.com/products/mighty-finland-modestone-taistelijanlehtio-fiInstagram: @mighty_finland_

Road to Vostok on kansainväliseen maineeseen noussut selviytymispeli, joka sijoittuu Kaakonkulmalle. Antti Leinonen taas on pelin kehittänyt entinen ammattiupseeri ja nykyinen pelikehittäjä. Miten ajatus pelin kehittämiseen lähti liikkeelle ja millaista on enemmän tai vähemmän itsekseen kehittää peli? Mitä kaikkea kommervenkkejä on matkan varrelle mahtunut ja mistä pelissä on varsinaisesti kyse? Ja taas vaihteeksi oppia yrittäjyydestä ja tyhjän päälle hyppäämisestä! Meitä maanpuolustuksen etulinjassa tukee yhteistyökumppanit:Varusteleka - Reserviläisen karkkikauppa ja meidän luotettu huoltopiste jo vuosien ajan - Varusteleka.fiSavox - Kriittisen kommunikaation kärkiosaaja - savox.comSavotta - Huikeita kantojärjestelmiä ja muita varusteita maanpuolustukseen ja ulkonaliikkumiseen - Savotta.fiHaluatko mainostaa podcästissä? Lähettää palautetta? Jopa kehua? Aiheideoita? Laita yhteyskokeilu osoitteeseen Info@mightyfinland.fi Mighty Finland vaatteet: https://www.photonresearchgroup.fi/pages/mightyfinlandToivo M/25 Olutta K-kauppaasi: https://www.k-ruoka.fi/artikkelit/k-kaupassa/ehdotuksestasi-k-kaupan-hyllylleTaistelijan Lehtiö: https://varusteleka.com/products/mighty-finland-modestone-taistelijanlehtio-fiInstagram: @mighty_finland_

Ihmisellä on voimakas tarve kuulua ryhmään – olla me. Sulaudumme huonoonkin ryhmään huomaamatta ja omaksumme sen normit. Pidämme “meitä” helposti muita parempia. Pahimmillaan se johtaa vihaan toisia kohtaan. Ihmiskunnan iso kysymys on, miten opimme elämään maapallolla toisia tuhoamatta. Miten yhteistyötä rakennetaan? Asiantuntijoina on sosiaalipsykologian apulaisprofessori Katarina Pettersson Helsingin yliopistosta, filosofi, apulaisprofessori Frank Martela Aalto-yliopiston Tuotantotalouden laitokselta ja väitöskirjatutkija Emil Salovuori Kuopion ja Turun yliopistosta. Toimittajana on Pirjo Koskinen.

Mistä on kyse mediankin värittämässä kohussa liittyen Puolustusvoimissa tapahtuvaan ryyppäämiseen? Ja miltä näyttää miehen mielenmaisema, kun työuupumus painaa päälle ja vaikea masennus vie väritkin elämästä? Millaista on elämä vaikeasti masentuneena ja mikä siihen auttaa?Nico Lingman on evp-kapteeni, joka koulutti muun muassa panssarivaunuilla käytävää taistelua panssariprikaatissa ja johtamista maanpuolustuskorkeakoulussa. Nico kirjoitti raakarehellisen kirjan, joka käsittelee mielenterveysongelmia, Nicolla vastaantulleita työpaikkakiusaamisia ja ampumaharjoituksissa ryyppäämistä, ja paljon muuta. Puhutaan myös edestä johtamisesta, maastopaloista ja siivilityön ja upseerityön eroista. Niihin sukelletaan nyt! Meitä maanpuolustuksen etulinjassa tukee yhteistyökumppanit:Varusteleka - Reserviläisen karkkikauppa ja meidän luotettu huoltopiste jo vuosien ajan - Varusteleka.fiSavox - Kriittisen kommunikaation kärkiosaaja - savox.comSavotta - Huikeita kantojärjestelmiä ja muita varusteita maanpuolustukseen ja ulkonaliikkumiseen - Savotta.fiHaluatko mainostaa podcästissä? Lähettää palautetta? Jopa kehua? Aiheideoita? Laita yhteyskokeilu osoitteeseen Info@mightyfinland.fi Mighty Finland vaatteet: https://www.photonresearchgroup.fi/pages/mightyfinlandToivo M/25 Olutta K-kauppaasi: https://www.k-ruoka.fi/artikkelit/k-kaupassa/ehdotuksestasi-k-kaupan-hyllylleTaistelijan Lehtiö: https://varusteleka.com/products/mighty-finland-modestone-taistelijanlehtio-fiInstagram: @mighty_finland_

Hyvää lippujuhlan päivää, Suomi! Tässä juhlapäivän erikoisessa me istutaan alas puolustusministeri Antti Häkkäsen kanssa.Nopea tilannekatsaus maanpuolustuksen tilaan. Miten meidät nähdään USA:ssa, missä mennään droonien torjunnan kanssa ja missä mennään reserviläisten verovähennysasian kanssa? Meitä maanpuolustuksen etulinjassa tukee yhteistyökumppanit:Varusteleka - Reserviläisen karkkikauppa ja meidän luotettu huoltopiste jo vuosien ajan - Varusteleka.fiSavox - Kriittisen kommunikaation kärkiosaaja - savox.comSavotta - Huikeita kantojärjestelmiä ja muita varusteita maanpuolustukseen ja ulkonaliikkumiseen - Savotta.fiHaluatko mainostaa podcästissä? Lähettää palautetta? Jopa kehua? Aiheideoita? Laita yhteyskokeilu osoitteeseen Info@mightyfinland.fi Mighty Finland vaatteet: https://www.photonresearchgroup.fi/pages/mightyfinlandToivo M/25 Olutta K-kauppaasi: https://www.k-ruoka.fi/artikkelit/k-kaupassa/ehdotuksestasi-k-kaupan-hyllylleTaistelijan Lehtiö: https://varusteleka.com/products/mighty-finland-modestone-taistelijanlehtio-fiInstagram: @mighty_finland_

Sometimes, when kids have big feelings, they come out in the form of negative self-talk, especially if they're feeling like they don't belong, no one cares about them, or they just can't get it right. Today, I'm talking about coaching kids through negative self-talk, so that you know exactly what to do when your kid says things like “I'm stupid”, “No one likes me”, or “It's all my fault”.You'll Learn:What to do when your kid is having negative thoughts about themselfWhen and how to have a coaching conversation, with a full real-life exampleHow to shift to a more positive way of thinking using the 3 Cs of thoughtsWhy your child might be resistant to coaching or teaching (and what to do about it)It's a big lesson: We can't necessarily change our circumstances, but we do get to change how we respond to them. ----------------------------------------We've all done it, and you've probably heard your kid talk negatively about themself, too. Things like: I'm stupidI'll never be good at thisNobody likes meEveryone hates meYou love him/her moreYou're always mad at meI'm a bad kid No one cares about meIt's all my faultI can't do itAs they get a little older, you might even see these negative statements come up around their appearance: I'm fat, I'm ugly, I don't like my freckles, I don't like my red hair, I don't like my dark skin, etc. Especially between the ages of 0-11, kids are building a set of beliefs about themselves. And as a parent, you want to guide them toward positive core beliefs. That's what you'll learn how to do today.When Your Kid Expresses Negative ThoughtsIt can be really hard as a parent to hear your child say these things about themself. At first, you might freak out a little bit and worry that your kid has anxiety, or they're going to grow up to be depressed and have bad self-esteem. But here's the upside - saying these thoughts out loud, narrating them, is much healthier than keeping them secret and holding them all inside their head. When you know what they're thinking and struggling with, you can help them through it. Here are a couple of other things to keep in mind.This is one specific moment in time. I often talk about parenting the kid in front of you. This is a great example of that. These thoughts and feelings are not who your child is. This is a moment in time. And it's an opportunity for you to talk to them, coach them, and help them with their big feelings and their negative thoughts.These statements are often general and/or exaggerated. When you hear things like, “I always,” or “I never”, it's a sign that they are generalizing. This is a sort of extreme language. You can still validate that your child is feeling that way right now, while also holding the perspective that they won't feel this way forever. Be careful about dismissing or minimizing. Often, when parents hear their child say something negative about themself, they laugh it off or say, “that's not true”, or “don't think like that”. It's a bit of a tricky balance.You don't have to get into a full coaching conversation every time your kid says something negative, but you also don't want to consistently dismiss your child's negative self-talk. You're looking for some middle-of-the-road parenting here, where you're not freaking out, but you're still staying attuned to where your child is.If you're not sure whether something needs to be addressed, look for patterns. If there is a certain statement or insecurity that keeps coming up, that's when you want to dig a little deeper and do some coaching.Coaching Kids Through Negative Self-TalkWhen I use the term “coaching”, I simply mean that you're offering your kid a different way to think. You're teaching them how to think better thoughts. The first step (as usual) is to be sure that you and your child are both regulated and calm before you have a conversation about a thought. It is impossible to learn something new when you are in a Big Feeling Cycle. If your kid is mid-meltdown, they won't be able to connect the dots or think logically. Connection always comes before coaching.When your kid expresses negative thoughts about themself to you, they are looking to you for reassurance. This is one of those times when you being calm is super important. Your worry doesn't help your kid. They're going to borrow your state of mind, no matter what. So let's make it a positive one that helps build their confidence and trust in themself. In these moments, your child needs to borrow your confidence in them. They need to borrow your belief that they are going to learn to love themselves and they're going to grow into a strong adult who can handle lots and lots of things.The goal with a coaching conversation is to fill a skill gap. You're trying to move them from one set of behaviors or thoughts to another. Toward more self-love, accountability, and maturity.I think of coaching conversations as having 3 parts:Reflect on what's been happening. What did they say or do? What pattern have you noticed?Teach. First, you teach why their behavior isn't working. Then, give them a new skill that they can use instead.Practice the new skill. Let's walk through each step in a little more detail.ReflectThere is no “right” time to start a coaching conversation. Maybe the thing you're talking about happened a few minutes ago. Maybe it was yesterday or last week. The more important factor is that you wait until everyone is calm. Give yourself space to think about it a bit.Some kids will want to talk about their thoughts and feelings with you. Some kids won't. What's important is that you give them the opportunity to reflect. And then you validate and normalize what's going on for them. Here are some steps to guide you.Remind them of what they said.Ask them about why they think they said that. Give them time to reflect.Validate. Let them know that it's normal to have those kinds of thoughts.Ask them how that thought makes them feel. Ask them how they want to feel.This last step is a big one, because kids have no idea that they actually have power over how they think and feel. What we're trying to do over the course of their childhood is to teach them that they have the power to change how they think about things. That they get to decide to think positively and feel better. It's a big lesson: We can't necessarily change our circumstances, but we do get to change how we respond to them. Here's an example of starting a coaching conversation and going through reflection:Earlier, I heard you say, “I'm stupid.” Do you remember saying that? What happened that made you say that? It's normal for people to have thoughts like that, especially when you're feeling overwhelmed or you're feeling sad or you're feeling a little disappointed. It makes sense that you would think that because you made a mistake. But guess what? When you think that way, does it make you feel happy or does it make you feel sad? Does that thought help you feel good about yourself? Or does that thought help you feel bad about yourself? How do you want to feel? Okay, well you can keep your sad thoughts, but what about if you tried to think of a different thought?TeachHere, you'll continue teaching that your child has power over their own thoughts (and remember: you can't force them to think positive thoughts). To do this, you'll teach them the 3 C's of thoughts. You catch your thought >> check your thought >> change your thoughtsCatch. Identify the thought. What was I just thinking? “I'm stupid” feels like a fact, but it's really just a thought. Check. Take a closer look at the thought. Is it helpful? Does the thought help you feel better or make you feel sad? Change. If you decide you don't like the thought, and it is making you feel bad, replace it with a more positive thought. The new thought you choose doesn't have to be the exact opposite of the one you are replacing. The positive thought has to be something that your brain will believe. Something that is useful and also true. Going from “I'm stupid” to “I'm smart” might be too big of a jump. You can use what I call a bridge thought as an in-between to get to a more positive way of thinking. For example:Did you know that thoughts and feelings are like clouds? They come and they go. Negative thoughts are like rainy days. Positive thoughts are like sunny days. Sometimes it's raining, sometimes it's sunny. But sometimes a negative thought can get stuck in your head. And instead of just being a temporary cloudy day, it might become part of your everyday weather. Like a rainy day every day in your mind.I don't think you want to have a rainy day in your mind every day, right? Do you want to have a sunny day or a rainy day?Did you know that you get to choose if you want to have a lot of sunshine in your mind or a lot of rain? You get to pick thoughts that make you feel happy and more calm. I'm going to teach you a little thing called the 3 C's of thoughts. You catch your thought; You check your thought; You change your...

Miten sotakoira koulutetaan? Millaisia tehtäviä koirat suorittavat erikoisjoukoissa? Millaista arki on sotakoiraohjaajalle?Miltä tuntuu laittaa koira vaarallisille tehtäville, joissa voi käydä oikeasti huonosti?Tommy Lepaus on entinen erikoisjoukkojen sotilas, joka on aiemminkin ollu podissa vieraana! Mitä Tommy ajattelee koirien kouluttamisesta muutoin? Mitä koirien kouluttamisesta pitää ymmärtää? Meitä maanpuolustuksen etulinjassa tukee yhteistyökumppanit:Varusteleka - Reserviläisen karkkikauppa ja meidän luotettu huoltopiste jo vuosien ajan - Varusteleka.fiSavox - Kriittisen kommunikaation kärkiosaaja - savox.comSavotta - Huikeita kantojärjestelmiä ja muita varusteita maanpuolustukseen ja ulkonaliikkumiseen - Savotta.fiHaluatko mainostaa podcästissä? Lähettää palautetta? Jopa kehua? Aiheideoita? Laita yhteyskokeilu osoitteeseen Info@mightyfinland.fi Mighty Finland vaatteet: https://www.photonresearchgroup.fi/pages/mightyfinlandToivo M/25 Olutta K-kauppaasi: https://www.k-ruoka.fi/artikkelit/k-kaupassa/ehdotuksestasi-k-kaupan-hyllylleTaistelijan Lehtiö: https://varusteleka.com/products/mighty-finland-modestone-taistelijanlehtio-fiInstagram: @mighty_finland_

Dit is een herhaling van de aflevering met Gover Meit die eerder verscheen op 14 juni 2022.Toen deze aflevering uitkwam trad Gover op onder de naam Stefano Keizers. Inmiddels maakte hij ook voorstellingen onder de naam Donny Ronny en tegenwoordig speelt hij ook onder zijn eigen naam.Gover Meit over zijn slechtste shows. Bijvoorbeeld over hoe een optreden in een huiskamer in Amsterdam-Noord met slechts zes bezoekers waarvan twee zijn ouders leidde tot het ontstaan van Stefano Keizers, spijt van een optreden bij DWDD en waarom hij nog in het krijt staat bij een programmeur in Vlaanderen.Meer over Gover vind je hierStefano's bit tijdens de Roast van Hans Klok kijk je hierSteun de Cameretten crowdfunding https://cameretten.creativefunding.nl/project/kroonjaar

Reipasta ja kansainvälistä reserviläistoimintaa! Millanen oli Tanskassa järjestetty vuoden 2026 Blå Negel? Mikä on homman nimi, miten kisa toimii metsästäjän ja metsästettävän perspektivistä ja miten tänkaltaseen kisaan kannattaa valmistautua? Tai millaista varustetta pakata matkaan tällaisiin reserviläishommiin? Selvittikö suomalainen osasto tällä kertaa tiensä maaliin vai jäätiinkö jälleen nuolemaan näppejä? Meitä maanpuolustuksen etulinjassa tukee yhteistyökumppanit:Varusteleka - Reserviläisen karkkikauppa ja meidän luotettu huoltopiste jo vuosien ajan - Varusteleka.fiSavox - Kriittisen kommunikaation kärkiosaaja - savox.comSavotta - Huikeita kantojärjestelmiä ja muita varusteita maanpuolustukseen ja ulkonaliikkumiseen - Savotta.fiHaluatko mainostaa podcästissä? Lähettää palautetta? Jopa kehua? Aiheideoita? Laita yhteyskokeilu osoitteeseen Info@mightyfinland.fi Mighty Finland vaatteet: https://www.photonresearchgroup.fi/pages/mightyfinlandToivo M/25 Olutta K-kauppaasi: https://www.k-ruoka.fi/artikkelit/k-kaupassa/ehdotuksestasi-k-kaupan-hyllylleTaistelijan Lehtiö: https://varusteleka.com/products/mighty-finland-modestone-taistelijanlehtio-fiInstagram: @mighty_finland_

Miksi dronejen torjunta on niin vaikeaa? Miten niitä nyt ja tulevaisuudessa torjutaan? Minne ase/vasta-asekamppailu on menossa ja millaista on työskennellä tuolla alalla?Mikko Hyppönen teki käytännössä koko aiemman uransa kyberturvallisuuden parissa, mutta siirtyi taannoin droonien torjunnan pariin. Aloissa on paljon samaa, mutta paljon eroavaisuuksia!Alussa tietysti myös muutama kysymys tietoturvaan liittyen, eli mitä me kaikki voidaan tehdä paremmin niiden suhteen? Meitä maanpuolustuksen etulinjassa tukee yhteistyökumppanit:Varusteleka - Reserviläisen karkkikauppa ja meidän luotettu huoltopiste jo vuosien ajan - Varusteleka.fiSavox - Kriittisen kommunikaation kärkiosaaja - savox.comSavotta - Huikeita kantojärjestelmiä ja muita varusteita maanpuolustukseen ja ulkonaliikkumiseen - Savotta.fiHaluatko mainostaa podcästissä? Lähettää palautetta? Jopa kehua? Aiheideoita? Laita yhteyskokeilu osoitteeseen Info@mightyfinland.fi Mighty Finland vaatteet: https://www.photonresearchgroup.fi/pages/mightyfinlandToivo M/25 Olutta K-kauppaasi: https://www.k-ruoka.fi/artikkelit/k-kaupassa/ehdotuksestasi-k-kaupan-hyllylleTaistelijan Lehtiö: https://varusteleka.com/products/mighty-finland-modestone-taistelijanlehtio-fiInstagram: @mighty_finland_

Suuri turvallisuusjakso! Miltä voisi näyttää tulevaisuuden uudistettu asepalvelus? Miksi Euroopassa on niin iso puolustusvaje juuri? Millaisia uhkia ovat sääntöpohjaisen maailman mureneminen, teknologinen riippuvuus ja ilmasto sotilaallisten ja poliittisten uhkien ristitulessa? Miksi inttiä pitäisi uudistaa?Panu Moilanen tutkii ja opettaa turvallisuutta Jyväskylän yliopistolla. Edellisessä jaksossa puhuttiin kognitiivisesta turvallisuudesta ja jatketaan nyt laajemmin erilaisiin turvallisuuden käsitteisiin. Mikä kaikki uhkaa meitä ja miten voimme yhteiskuntana ja yksilöinä valmistautua? Meitä maanpuolustuksen etulinjassa tukee yhteistyökumppanit:Varusteleka - Reserviläisen karkkikauppa ja meidän luotettu huoltopiste jo vuosien ajan - Varusteleka.fiSavox - Kriittisen kommunikaation kärkiosaaja - savox.comSavotta - Huikeita kantojärjestelmiä ja muita varusteita maanpuolustukseen ja ulkonaliikkumiseen - Savotta.fiHaluatko mainostaa podcästissä? Lähettää palautetta? Jopa kehua? Aiheideoita? Laita yhteyskokeilu osoitteeseen Info@mightyfinland.fi Mighty Finland vaatteet: https://www.photonresearchgroup.fi/pages/mightyfinlandToivo M/25 Olutta K-kauppaasi: https://www.k-ruoka.fi/artikkelit/k-kaupassa/ehdotuksestasi-k-kaupan-hyllylleTaistelijan Lehtiö: https://varusteleka.com/products/mighty-finland-modestone-taistelijanlehtio-fiInstagram: @mighty_finland_

It's a big question (especially when your kids are little) - What would I be doing to set my child up for success in adulthood? We all want our kids to thrive and be well. Today, I'm sharing the 3 essential beliefs kids need for emotional health.You'll Learn:The 3 essential beliefs that help ensure your child grows up to have good self esteem, take risks, think for themselves, be responsible, and have good relationshipsWhat you can do to support these beliefs in your kidPractical examples of how to reinforce these beliefs, even when your child is misbehavingHow to coach your kid through negative thoughtsThis episode breaks down the key ingredients to helping your kid become emotionally healthy and resilient - now and as an adult.----------------------------------------The three essential beliefs are:I am safe.I'm lovable.I am capable.These are the beliefs that help ensure your child grows up to have good self esteem, take risks, think for themselves, be responsible, and have good relationships with others and with their own body.Each person comes into the world preset to believe these things. They want them to be proven true. The problem happens when they start to get different messages or they have experiences in childhood happen to them and that are never explained.Your child's earliest years (between 0-5) set the groundwork for their subconscious beliefs about themselves and the world. And those beliefs are reinforced up until around age 12. They are absorbing messages all the time about themselves and the world based on their environment and their interactions with you.You have a lot of influence over your child's beliefs about themselves. When you can reinforce these essential beliefs in them - showing them that they're safe, lovable, and capable - they get the message and carry those beliefs with them into adulthood.Belief #1: I am safe.This is the belief that I am safe, and the world is safe. I don't need to worry so much about my needs. I can relax in my environment, and from that relaxed state I can go and try and do hard things and take big swings in the world and live my life.Why it mattersBabies cannot meet any of their own physical needs, so they trust and rely on us to care for them. This is the beginning of building safety. “The grownups in my world are safe.”As they get a little older, safety becomes not only physical but also emotional. They want to know that you can handle their big feelings. You are the person who will protect, not harm, them. They don't need to be scared of you.The idea of safety also shifts as we see more behaviors. They might start to see safety as conditional. That they are safe and cared for as long as they act a certain way. It can also be based on the adult's emotional capacity, patience, etc. When their safety is in question, the child becomes hypervigilant and aware. They're always looking around trying to figure out, “Am I safe?”.Without a core belief that the world is safe, we start to see things like anxiety, dissociating, seeking safety in relationships (or rejecting relationships), and other unhealthy behaviors.What to doThe goal, then, is to be a physically and emotionally reliable caregiver for your child. This means regulating your nervous system, so that you can be calm and reinforce these core beliefs.Boundaries and rules are also important to creating a sense of safety. We don't want to be too harsh or rigid, but predictable routines and limits help kids know what to expect and show them that their adult is going to do what they say they will do. I like to think of these rhythms as a metronome in the background of life.Belief #2: I am lovable.You can also think of this belief as “I'm good enough”. We want our kids to walk through the world believing that they're good enough exactly as they are. That they're worthy of love, and you accept them unconditionally.Why it mattersKids have a really hard time separating themselves from their behavior. So when you communicate that you don't like how they're acting, it can be confusing. They can take it to mean that you don't like them. Or that you only love them when they're behaving a certain way.This means that you have to actively communicate to them that they're lovable no matter how they act, that they are good enough, and that you accept them exactly as they are. They don't have to do anything or be anything different in order to receive your unconditional acceptance. They can't earn your love, and it can't be taken away.When a child goes through life thinking that they're not good enough or they're not lovable, they show up with a lot of people pleasing behavior. They may be perfectionistic. They may deny their own needs or their own ideas. They might squash down their creativity or intuition because they think they need to show up in a certain way in order to be accepted by the adults in their life.What to doOne of the really difficult thoughts for us to work through as parents is, “I love my kid, but I don't like them right now.” We have to actively work on shifting that to, “I like my child no matter how they act.”Let's be honest, this is more challenging with some kids than others.One of my favorite tools is called a Delight List. You write out a list of things that you like about your kid. Then, you can communicate to them, “I like you”, “I find you delightful”, “You're my kid and I enjoy having you in particular as my kid”.I want to clarify one thing: Unconditional acceptance does not mean that we're letting misbehavior slide. The difference is in the way that we communicate boundaries and consequences. It's the frustration, blaming, anger, and shame that we're getting rid of. You can have compassion for why your child might not want to follow a particular rule, while also being firm.Remind yourself that they are still learning how to follow directions, delay gratification, and control their impulses. They're little, and they're figuring it out.Belief #3: I'm capable.This is the belief that I can handle things, I can figure stuff out, and I know how to take care of myself.Why it mattersIn order for your child to believe that they are capable of learning, growing, doing new things, and mastering new skills…they have to make mistakes.And this isn't just about learning to clean up their messes or tie their shoes. There's so much growth going on beneath the surface. Kids are also learning how to manage their nervous system, regulate their emotions, delay gratification, and understand cause and effect.They're going to make a lot of mistakes.If you get frustrated and angry when they make those mistakes, you end up communicating to your child, “You're not good enough, and it doesn't seem like you're capable.”What to doNormalize misbehavior and mistakes. Make sure your child understands that they're not “bad” when they mess up. They're still learning. This means that you want to create an environment where it's normal to not know how to do everything.When you start to feel frustrated, try looking at your child's behavior through a different lens. Where is that behavior coming from? Is it emotional immaturity? Physical immaturity? An immature nervous system? Lack of skill? If you can see your child's behavior from a neutral lens (or even a compassionate lens), then you can be compassionate towards them.Adopt a growth mindset that your kid gets to be a beginner. They get to work towards higher and higher levels of skill. They won't be good at everything (including behaving), and that's okay.Coaching Your Kid Through Negative ThoughtsSometimes kids will share with you the negative thoughts that they have in their heads. They might think things like:You don't love meYou hate meI'm stupidNo one likes meI'm a bad boy/girlEveryone is mad at meIt can be difficult to hear that your child is thinking these things. But it is beautiful that they feel comfortable sharing those thoughts with you. And it gives you the opportunity to coach them through it.Here's how:Validate their feeling. Narrate back what they said to you. Name to emotion(s) you think they might be feeling. Ask them, “Are you thinking…?” “I wonder if you're feeling…?” Let them know that the way they're feeling makes sense.Don't get defensive or minimize or dismiss what they're telling you. Instead, you can mirror back to them, saying something like:“I know that you're safe. I would never let anybody hurt you.”“I know how I think. I know that I don't hate you. I love you no matter how you act.”“I know for sure that you're capable of doing your math homework. Mistakes happen. You're still learning, and that's okay.”Allow time for them to regulate. Maybe they need a little hug from you or to move their body a bit.Coach the mind. Explain that those negative thoughts come and go, like clouds in the sky. They don't have to stay.Here's the underlying message:Hey, you know what? You're safe in this world and in this family and in this environment. No matter how you act, you're lovable. I'm going to know you're capable even when you make mistakes. I'm here to support you no matter how you act.And just in case no one has ever told you, I want you to know that I know that you are safe, you are...

Psykologinen sodankäynti, informaatiovaikuttaminen ja kognitiivinen sodankäynti. Kuinka meidän mielistämme käydään jo nyt taistelua kognitiivisen sodankäynnin rintamalinjoilla?Mitä on kognitiivinen sodankäynti? Miten sitä toteutetaan ja miten siltä suojaudutaan? Miten suomalaisten hyvinvointi, sosiaaliset suhteet, talous ja koulutustaso liittyvät siihen? Kenen tehtävä on pitää siitä huolta?Panu Moilanen on Jyväskylän yliopiston lehtori ja Turvallisuus ja Strateginen analyysi tutkintoohjelman tutkintovastaava. Hän siis opettaa tiedustelun ja turvallisuuden opiskelijoille turvallisuuden erilaisia käsitteitä! Meitä maanpuolustuksen etulinjassa tukee yhteistyökumppanit:Varusteleka - Reserviläisen karkkikauppa ja meidän luotettu huoltopiste jo vuosien ajan - Varusteleka.fiSavox - Kriittisen kommunikaation kärkiosaaja - savox.comSavotta - Huikeita kantojärjestelmiä ja muita varusteita maanpuolustukseen ja ulkonaliikkumiseen - Savotta.fiHaluatko mainostaa podcästissä? Lähettää palautetta? Jopa kehua? Aiheideoita? Laita yhteyskokeilu osoitteeseen Info@mightyfinland.fi Mighty Finland vaatteet: https://www.photonresearchgroup.fi/pages/mightyfinlandToivo M/25 Olutta K-kauppaasi: https://www.k-ruoka.fi/artikkelit/k-kaupassa/ehdotuksestasi-k-kaupan-hyllylleTaistelijan Lehtiö: https://varusteleka.com/products/mighty-finland-modestone-taistelijanlehtio-fiInstagram: @mighty_finland_

There's a moment at the end of a long day in a Disney park. The lights are low. The crowd gathers. The music starts to swell. And for a few minutes, everything feels bigger than it should like you're part of something shared, something emotional, something lasting. A Day in the Counter Kingdom was built to capture that feeling… and flip it on its head. The Full Experience This isn't just an album. It's a full playthrough experience a start-to-finish journey through a reimagined version of the Disney Parks, where nostalgia meets distortion, optimism meets aggression, and familiar melodies are pushed into entirely new territory. In this episode of The Leal Legacy Podcast, you can listen to the entire album in one sitting the way it was intended. No breaks. No interruptions. Just the ride. Reimagining the Parks Through Sound Each track on A Day in the Counter Kingdom takes a familiar piece of Disney Parks music and rebuilds it through a different genre: Pop punk Hardcore Metalcore Screamo Deathrock Ska punk Not as parody but as reinterpretation. Because at their core, these songs were always built on strong melodies, emotional hooks, and shared experience the same foundation that drives punk and hardcore music. The Journey Through The Counter Kingdom The album flows like a full day in the park: You start on Main Street U.S.A., stepping into something familiar. You move into imagination and creativity with One Little Spark. You feel the emotional rise and intensity of Zip-A-Dee-Doo-Dah and There's a Great Big Beautiful Tomorrow. Then things shift. The world darkens. Grim Grinning Ghosts pulls you into the shadows.Yo Ho unleashes chaos.It's a Small World becomes something surreal and unsettling. By the time you reach Blood on the Saddle, you've hit the heaviest, most intense point of the journey. And then… You come back. Happily Ever After closes it out not as a return to innocence, but as something earned. More Than Covers A Day in the Counter Kingdom isn't about recreating what already exists. It's about exploring what these songs become when they're viewed through a completely different lens. What happens when nostalgia meets rebellion? What happens when Disney magic is filtered through distortion, breakdowns, and raw emotion? This album is the answer to that question. Experience The Counter Kingdom This full album playthrough is the definitive way to experience A Day in the Counter Kingdom. Whether you're here for the nostalgia, the music, or the reinterpretation this is where it all comes together. Tracklist: Walking Right Down the Middle of Main Street U.S.A. One Little Spark Zip-A-Dee-Doo-Dah There's a Great Big Beautiful Tomorrow Grim Grinning Ghosts Yo Ho (A Pirate's Life for Me) It's a Small World The Tiki, Tiki, Tiki Room Blood on the Saddle Happily Ever After Press play. Let it run. Take the full ride. Stay Connected The Counter Kingdom is just getting started. Listen to the podcast Follow the visual rollout on YouTube Stay locked to LealLegacy.com Join The Legacy Club for exclusive drops and merch Because this isn't just an album. It's a world. Don’t forget to Shop our Legacy By Leal store! For the Disney Park fans, checkout our Legacy Of Leal Vlogs! Bandcamp Facebook Instagram LinkedIn SoundCloud Spotify Threads TikTok X YouTubeThe post A Day in the Counter Kingdom: The Full Album Experience first appeared on Leal Legacy.

Rajavartiolaitoksen 1. ja 5. valmiusjoukkueet on vähemmän tunnettuja suomalaisia erikoisjoukkoja. Eikä niistä ole aiemmin tällä tavoin juteltu!Jakson vieras Otto palveli pitkän pätkän rajan valmareissa breacherinä. Millainen reitti joukkueisiin on, millaisiin tehtäviin siinä valmistaudutaan, mitä varusteita siellä käytetään ja millaista on operaattorin arki? Mitä paikkaa rajan erikoisjoukot täyttää poliisin karhun ja PV:n erkkarien välissä?Seuraavassa jaksossa jutellaan Oton tehtävistä ulkomailla Frontexin mukana, rajavartijan perustöistä ja nykyisestä työstä palomiehenä.  Meitä maanpuolustuksen etulinjassa tukee yhteistyökumppanit:Varusteleka - Reserviläisen karkkikauppa ja meidän luotettu huoltopiste jo vuosien ajan - Varusteleka.fiSavox - Kriittisen kommunikaation kärkiosaaja - savox.comSavotta - Huikeita kantojärjestelmiä ja muita varusteita maanpuolustukseen ja ulkonaliikkumiseen - Savotta.fiHaluatko mainostaa podcästissä? Lähettää palautetta? Jopa kehua? Aiheideoita? Laita yhteyskokeilu osoitteeseen Info@mightyfinland.fi Mighty Finland vaatteet: https://www.photonresearchgroup.fi/pages/mightyfinlandToivo M/25 Olutta K-kauppaasi: https://www.k-ruoka.fi/artikkelit/k-kaupassa/ehdotuksestasi-k-kaupan-hyllylleTaistelijan Lehtiö: https://varusteleka.com/products/mighty-finland-modestone-taistelijanlehtio-fiInstagram: @mighty_finland_

Hätäkeskukset on tärkeitä arjen turvallisuuden kannalta niin rauhan kuin poikkeusolojenkin aikana. Millaista on hätäkeskusten työ siis arjessa, millaista siellä on olla töissä ja mikä toisaalta muuttuu kun mennään poikkeusoloihin?Marko Nieminen vastaa hätäkeskuslaitosten varautumisesta, ja poikkeusoloissa tai hybridivaikuttamisen aikakaudella uhkavektoreita noihin tärkeään toimijaan on paljon. Muista ladata 112-sovellus äläkä kuvaa onnettomuuspaikkoja! Henkilötiedustelijaksi Suojelupoliisiin! Haku kirjeellä postitse 27.3. mennessä.https://supo.fi/henkilotiedustelijaksi61N Rekrytoi osaajia tekoälyn ja tietojärjestelmien pariin. Kehitä kriittisten tietojärjestelmien infraa hyvällä meiningillä uudessa IT-yrityksessä!https://careers.61n.fi/Meitä maanpuolustuksen etulinjassa tukee yhteistyökumppanit:Varusteleka - Reserviläisen karkkikauppa ja meidän luotettu huoltopiste jo vuosien ajan - Varusteleka.fiSavox - Kriittisen kommunikaation kärkiosaaja - savox.comSavotta - Huikeita kantojärjestelmiä ja muita varusteita maanpuolustukseen ja ulkonaliikkumiseen - Savotta.fiHaluatko mainostaa podcästissä? Lähettää palautetta? Jopa kehua? Aiheideoita? Laita yhteyskokeilu osoitteeseen Info@mightyfinland.fi Mighty Finland vaatteet: https://www.photonresearchgroup.fi/pages/mightyfinlandToivo M/25 Olutta K-kauppaasi: https://www.k-ruoka.fi/artikkelit/k-kaupassa/ehdotuksestasi-k-kaupan-hyllylleTaistelijan Lehtiö: https://varusteleka.com/products/mighty-finland-modestone-taistelijanlehtio-fiInstagram: @mighty_finland_

Griffin Tech Days järjestettiin Rovajärvellä Helmikuun alussa. Kyseessä oli messut ja demotapahtuma, jossa tuotiin erikoisjoukkoja ja arktista toimintaympäristöä esille. Paikalla oli siis firmoja ja erikoisjoukkoja ympäri maailman ja meininki oli sen mukainen!Mitä me siellä nähtiin ja tehtiin? Millaisia hahmoja ja teknologioita siellä tuli vastaan? Mikä jäi erityisesti mieleen? Studiossa mukana Eetu!Erityiskiitos XD Solutions, Millog, Saab, KNL, Viima ja BattleBoxes yhteistyöstä tapahtuman ympärillä! Ja tietysti meidän perinteiset kumppanit! Mighty Finland vaatteet: https://www.photonresearchgroup.fi/pages/mightyfinlandToivo M/25 Olutta K-kauppaasi: https://www.k-ruoka.fi/artikkelit/k-kaupassa/ehdotuksestasi-k-kaupan-hyllylleTaistelijan Lehtiö: https://varusteleka.com/products/mighty-finland-modestone-taistelijanlehtio-fiSuojelupoliisi rekrytoi! Hommia löytyy kautta linjan, ja Suomen turvallisuus tarvitsee hyviä tekijöitä:https://valtiolle.fi/fi/tyopaikat/?&desc=suojelupoliisiEtsitkö sijoitusasuntoa, kiinnostaako asuntoihin sijoittaminen tai tarvitsetko uutta tilannekeskusta? Tsekkaa sijoitusasuntovahti!https://sijoitusasuntovahti.fi/Meitä maanpuolustuksen etulinjassa tukee yhteistyökumppanit:Varusteleka - Reserviläisen karkkikauppa ja meidän luotettu huoltopiste jo vuosien ajan - Varusteleka.fiSavox - Kriittisen kommunikaation kärkiosaaja - savox.comSavotta - Huikeita kantojärjestelmiä ja muita varusteita maanpuolustukseen ja ulkonaliikkumiseen - Savotta.fiHaluatko mainostaa podcästissä? Lähettää palautetta? Jopa kehua? Aiheideoita? Laita yhteyskokeilu osoitteeseen Info@mightyfinland.fi Instagram: @mighty_finland_

Me IT-tiedekunnan opiskelijalähettiläät puhumme meidän 2026 kevätkauden ensimmäisessä podcastjaksossa fiiliksistä ja kokemuksista IT-alan opiskeluun liittyen. Kerrotaan muun muassa siitä miten me ollaan päädytty tänne alalle, millaista opiskelua on ollut käytännössä sekä mistä me ollaan tykätty meidän opinnoissa ja yleisesti opiskelijaelämässä. Tervetuloa mukaan kuuntelemaan!

Tuomo Kasanen, eli somesta tutumpi Velikoo vaikuttaa paitsi uusimmalla Erikoisjoukot tuotantokaudella, myös Puolustusvoimien riveissä ja on aktiivinen reserviläinen!Millainen on erikoisjoukkojen uusi kausi? Mikä miestä jännitti eniten ja millaista meno oli kulisseissa?Entä mikä vei kaverin kouluttajaksi PV:lle ns. aikuisella iällä? Millaista on yli kolmekymppisenä siirtyä yrittäjyydestä sopimussotilaaksi perusyksikön kouluttajaksi? Entä miten maanpuolustukseen harrastuksena voi päästä mukaan? Onko se tehty helpoksi? Mighty Finland vaatteet: https://www.photonresearchgroup.fi/pages/mightyfinlandToivo M/25 Olutta K-kauppaasi: https://www.k-ruoka.fi/artikkelit/k-kaupassa/ehdotuksestasi-k-kaupan-hyllylleTaistelijan Lehtiö: https://varusteleka.com/products/mighty-finland-modestone-taistelijanlehtio-fiSuojelupoliisi rekrytoi! Hommia löytyy kautta linjan, ja Suomen turvallisuus tarvitsee hyviä tekijöitä:https://valtiolle.fi/fi/tyopaikat/?&desc=suojelupoliisiEtsitkö sijoitusasuntoa, kiinnostaako asuntoihin sijoittaminen tai tarvitsetko uutta tilannekeskusta? Tsekkaa sijoitusasuntovahti!https://sijoitusasuntovahti.fi/Meitä maanpuolustuksen etulinjassa tukee yhteistyökumppanit:Varusteleka - Reserviläisen karkkikauppa ja meidän luotettu huoltopiste jo vuosien ajan - Varusteleka.fiSavox - Kriittisen kommunikaation kärkiosaaja - savox.comSavotta - Huikeita kantojärjestelmiä ja muita varusteita maanpuolustukseen ja ulkonaliikkumiseen - Savotta.fiHaluatko mainostaa podcästissä? Lähettää palautetta? Jopa kehua? Aiheideoita? Laita yhteyskokeilu osoitteeseen Info@mightyfinland.fi Instagram: @mighty_finland_

Jatketaan elektronisen sodankäynnin parissa! Millaista ELSO-kalustoa ja taistelutapaa Venäjä käyttää? Miten ELSO näkyy Ukrainassa? Voiko varusmiehenä tehdä ELSO-temppuja? Ja miten ELSOa käytetään osana konventionaalisten joukkojen taistelua, ja miksi se on niin vaikeaa?Kannattaa aloittaa ensimmäisestä osasta!Pitäiskö tästä aiheesta tehdä joskus Q&A? Mighty Finland vaatteet: https://www.photonresearchgroup.fi/pages/mightyfinlandToivo M/25 Olutta K-kauppaasi: https://www.k-ruoka.fi/artikkelit/k-kaupassa/ehdotuksestasi-k-kaupan-hyllylleTaistelijan Lehtiö: https://varusteleka.com/products/mighty-finland-modestone-taistelijanlehtio-fiSuojelupoliisi rekrytoi! Hommia löytyy kautta linjan, ja Suomen turvallisuus tarvitsee hyviä tekijöitä:https://valtiolle.fi/fi/tyopaikat/?&desc=suojelupoliisiEtsitkö sijoitusasuntoa, kiinnostaako asuntoihin sijoittaminen tai tarvitsetko uutta tilannekeskusta? Tsekkaa sijoitusasuntovahti!https://sijoitusasuntovahti.fi/Meitä maanpuolustuksen etulinjassa tukee yhteistyökumppanit:Varusteleka - Reserviläisen karkkikauppa ja meidän luotettu huoltopiste jo vuosien ajan - Varusteleka.fiSavox - Kriittisen kommunikaation kärkiosaaja - savox.comSavotta - Huikeita kantojärjestelmiä ja muita varusteita maanpuolustukseen ja ulkonaliikkumiseen - Savotta.fiHaluatko mainostaa podcästissä? Lähettää palautetta? Jopa kehua? Aiheideoita? Laita yhteyskokeilu osoitteeseen Info@mightyfinland.fi Instagram: @mighty_finland_

Puhutaanpa ELSOsta! Siitä meillä ei meinaan ollu aavistusta, ja voi pojat jokaisen reserviläisen pitäis tietää siitä jotakin! Mitä on elektroninen sodankäynti ja miksi sen ymmärtäminen on tärkeää? Miten siltä suojaudutaan? Miten sitä toteutetaan?Matti Ruotsalainen opettaa Elektronista sodankäyntiä ja johtamisjärjestelmiä MPKK:lla, ja tuli nyt meidän podiin kertomaan tästä! Mighty Finland vaatteet: https://www.photonresearchgroup.fi/pages/mightyfinlandToivo M/25 Olutta K-kauppaasi: https://www.k-ruoka.fi/artikkelit/k-kaupassa/ehdotuksestasi-k-kaupan-hyllylleTaistelijan Lehtiö: https://varusteleka.com/products/mighty-finland-modestone-taistelijanlehtio-fiSuojelupoliisi rekrytoi! Hommia löytyy kautta linjan, ja Suomen turvallisuus tarvitsee hyviä tekijöitä:https://valtiolle.fi/fi/tyopaikat/?&desc=suojelupoliisiEtsitkö sijoitusasuntoa, kiinnostaako asuntoihin sijoittaminen tai tarvitsetko uutta tilannekeskusta? Tsekkaa sijoitusasuntovahti!https://sijoitusasuntovahti.fi/Meitä maanpuolustuksen etulinjassa tukee yhteistyökumppanit:Varusteleka - Reserviläisen karkkikauppa ja meidän luotettu huoltopiste jo vuosien ajan - Varusteleka.fiSavox - Kriittisen kommunikaation kärkiosaaja - savox.comSavotta - Huikeita kantojärjestelmiä ja muita varusteita maanpuolustukseen ja ulkonaliikkumiseen - Savotta.fiHaluatko mainostaa podcästissä? Lähettää palautetta? Jopa kehua? Aiheideoita? Laita yhteyskokeilu osoitteeseen Info@mightyfinland.fi Instagram: @mighty_finland_

I NEED THEE by SELAHWhen I think I'm going underPart the waters, LordWhen I feel the waves around meCalm the seaWhen I cry for help, oh, hear me LordAnd hold out Your handTouch my lifeStill the raging storm in meI need Thee every hour, most gracious LordNo tender voice like Thine can peace affordI need Thee, oh I need TheeEvery hour I need TheeO bless me now, my SaviorI come to TheeI need Thee every hour, in joy or painCome quickly and abide, or life is vainI need Thee, oh I need TheeEvery hour I need TheeO bless me now, my SaviorI come to Thee, yeahO bless me now, my SaviorI come to TheeWhen I think I'm going underHOLINESS by WE THE KINGDOM and CHRIS TOMLINThe train of Your robe flows from Your throneYou wear the crown of majestyI fall on my kneesWhat could I bring to lay before the King of kings?High and exalted, You are set apartThere's no one like You, You alone are GodIt's Your holinessIt's Your holinessLeads me to reverenceI stand in awe and wonderFatherHere in Your presence isHolinessYou're perfect and goodOnly You could make a way for one like meOh, sacred fire, my heart's desireOh, come and fan the flame in meCome and fan the flame in meIt's Your holinessIt's Your holinessLeads me to reverenceI stand in awe and wonderFatherHere in Your presence isHolinessLord, You areHigh and exalted, You are set apartLord, You areThere's no one like You, You alone are GodLord, You areHigh and exalted, You are set apartLord, You areThere's no one like You, GodLord, it's Your holinessIt's Your holinessLeads me to reverence, I stand inI stand in awe and wonderFatherHere in Your presence isFatherHere in Your presence isHolinessFatherHere in Your presence isHolinessPure holiness

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Maailmalla myllertää ja tapahtuu. Onko maailma muuttunut? Elämmekö jotain uutta normaalia? Tätä meille avaa ulko- ja turvallisuuspolitiikan asiantuntija Henri Vanhanen.Viimeiset vuodet on ollut melkoisen vaihderikkaita, ja koko podinkin ajalle sattuu kaikkea koronasta suursotaan. Mitä Grönlannista, Ukrainasta ja Iranista pitäisi ajatella? Mighty Finland vaatteet: https://www.photonresearchgroup.fi/pages/mightyfinlandToivo M/25 Olutta K-kauppaasi: https://www.k-ruoka.fi/artikkelit/k-kaupassa/ehdotuksestasi-k-kaupan-hyllylleTaistelijan Lehtiö: https://varusteleka.com/products/mighty-finland-modestone-taistelijanlehtio-fiSuojelupoliisi rekrytoi! Hommia löytyy kautta linjan, ja Suomen turvallisuus tarvitsee hyviä tekijöitä:https://valtiolle.fi/fi/tyopaikat/?&desc=suojelupoliisiEtsitkö sijoitusasuntoa, kiinnostaako asuntoihin sijoittaminen tai tarvitsetko uutta tilannekeskusta? Tsekkaa sijoitusasuntovahti!https://sijoitusasuntovahti.fi/Meitä maanpuolustuksen etulinjassa tukee yhteistyökumppanit:Varusteleka - Reserviläisen karkkikauppa ja meidän luotettu huoltopiste jo vuosien ajan - Varusteleka.fiSavox - Kriittisen kommunikaation kärkiosaaja - savox.comSavotta - Huikeita kantojärjestelmiä ja muita varusteita maanpuolustukseen ja ulkonaliikkumiseen - Savotta.fiHaluatko mainostaa podcästissä? Lähettää palautetta? Jopa kehua? Aiheideoita? Laita yhteyskokeilu osoitteeseen Info@mightyfinland.fi Instagram: @mighty_finland_

Minnan ja Kimmon viimeinen viikko kahdestaan saapuu päätökseensä. Ensi viikosta alkaen Novan Aamun studioon saapuu kolme juontajaa, kun Suvi hyppää hommaan mukaan. Minna on innoissaan saadessaan Suvista juttukaverin kukka-asioihin.

Tähän jaksoon sain vieraaksi tuoreen yltiöyksilöllisyyden ongelmia käsittelevän kirjan kirjoittajan. Jaksossa käydään läpi mm. noudatteleeko yksilöllisyyden määrä käänteistä u-käyrää, jossa tietyn pisteen jälkeen se synnyttää enemmän ongelmia kuin hyötyjä? Millainen on yhteiskunnallinen kehityskulku yksilöllisyyden muutoksessa? Miten lasten kasvatus on muuttunut vuosien saatossa ja mitä siitä on seurannut? Jos yksilöllisyyden muutos aiheuttaa ongelmia, onko syy yksilöissä, kulttuurissa vai jossain muussa? Onko nykyihminen heikompi kuin ihmiset ennen vanhaan? Miten uhriutuminen, armollisuus ja narsismi näyttäytyvät nyky-yhteiskunnassa, keskustelukulttuurissa ja ihmisten käyttäytymisessä? Onko tunteiden ympärille muodostunut jo vaihtoehtoispsykologia? Miten yksilöä palvova kulttuuri on haitallinen sekä yhteiskunnalle että yksilölle itselleen? Miten me voimme kehittää omia sosiaalisia taitojamme ja oppia tekemään parempia kompromisseja? Miten minäkuva, identiteetti ja ihmisen keinot määritellä itsensä vaikuttavat meihin? Näitä ja muita aihepiirin kysymyksiä kanssani pohtii Psykologian emeritaprofessori ja kokeellisen persoonallisuustutkimuksen uranuurtaja Liisa Keltikangas-Järvinen.LinkitOptimal Performance- Hyvinvointiluennot ja verkkovalmennukset: https://www.optimalperformance.fi- Kuntosali ja valmennuskeskus, Helsinki: https://www.opcenter.fiLiisa Keltikangas-Järvinen- Edellinen vierailu: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4Hw8Nx99HpKuiKwLg8me2Q?si=92a7d177914d40b7- Kirja: https://www.wsoy.fi/kirjat/itsekkyyden-aika/

Tänään puhutaan erikoisjoukkokurssista, FINSOF-reservistä, laskuvarjojääkärikoulutuksesta sekä yrittäjyydestä! Vieraana meillä on Aarne Urvas, LJK ja erikoisjoukkokurssin käynyt FINSOF-reserviläinen ja yrittäjä. Puolustusvoimien erikoisjoukot koulutetaan vuoden mittaisella erikoisjoukkokurssilla. Millaista koulutus on ja millainen henkinen paine siellä on päällä? Ja mitä tehdään erikoisjoukkoreservissä, jos ei paikkaa tiimeistä avaudu? Miten intti ja laskuvarjojääkäriys valmisti siihen?Jakson aikana käydään ensin laskuvarjojääkärikoulussa intissä ja jatketaan sieltä erikoisjoukkokurssin kautta reserviin! Puhutaan myös yrittäjyydestä! Miten erikoisjoukkokoulutus on tukenut yrittäjyyden polussa ja miksi on tärkeää huolehtia omasta jaksamisesta? Ja miksi on makeeta, kun löytyy erikoisjoukkotaustainen kupla ympäriltä?Lisätietoa erikoisjoukkokurssista: https://puolustusvoimat.fi/erikoisjoukkokurssi Mighty Finland vaatteet: https://www.photonresearchgroup.fi/pages/mightyfinlandToivo M/25 Olutta K-kauppaasi: https://www.k-ruoka.fi/artikkelit/k-kaupassa/ehdotuksestasi-k-kaupan-hyllylleTaistelijan Lehtiö: https://varusteleka.com/products/mighty-finland-modestone-taistelijanlehtio-fiSuojelupoliisi rekrytoi! Hommia löytyy kautta linjan, ja Suomen turvallisuus tarvitsee hyviä tekijöitä:https://valtiolle.fi/fi/tyopaikat/?&desc=suojelupoliisiEtsitkö sijoitusasuntoa, kiinnostaako asuntoihin sijoittaminen tai tarvitsetko uutta tilannekeskusta? Tsekkaa sijoitusasuntovahti!https://sijoitusasuntovahti.fi/Meitä maanpuolustuksen etulinjassa tukee yhteistyökumppanit:Varusteleka - Reserviläisen karkkikauppa ja meidän luotettu huoltopiste jo vuosien ajan - Varusteleka.fiSavox - Kriittisen kommunikaation kärkiosaaja - savox.comSavotta - Huikeita kantojärjestelmiä ja muita varusteita maanpuolustukseen ja ulkonaliikkumiseen - Savotta.fiHaluatko mainostaa podcästissä? Lähettää palautetta? Jopa kehua? Aiheideoita? Laita yhteyskokeilu osoitteeseen Info@mightyfinland.fi Instagram: @mighty_finland_

Reserviläiskouluttajat on entistä tärkeämpi voimavara Puolustusvoimille. Reserviläiskouluttajia käytetään kokoajan ammattisotilaiden tukena kertausharjoituksissa varusmiesten ja reserviläisten kouluttajina ja jopa joukkojen arvioijina.Henri kouluttautui reservissä uuteen aselajiin ja eteni tiedustelun parissa kouluttajaksi asti. Nykyään hän kouluttaa tiedustelukursseja ja arvioi sa-yksiköiden osaamistasoa. Mitä kaikkea uralle on kuulunut? Millainen on hyvä koulutus ja mitä on tämä arviointityö?Tästä esimerkkiä, kuinka olla aktiivinen reservissä! Mighty Finland vaatteet: https://www.photonresearchgroup.fi/pages/mightyfinlandToivo M/25 Olutta K-kauppaasi: https://www.k-ruoka.fi/artikkelit/k-kaupassa/ehdotuksestasi-k-kaupan-hyllylleTaistelijan Lehtiö: https://varusteleka.com/products/mighty-finland-modestone-taistelijanlehtio-fiSuojelupoliisi rekrytoi! Hommia löytyy kautta linjan, ja Suomen turvallisuus tarvitsee hyviä tekijöitä:https://valtiolle.fi/fi/tyopaikat/?&desc=suojelupoliisiEtsitkö sijoitusasuntoa, kiinnostaako asuntoihin sijoittaminen tai tarvitsetko uutta tilannekeskusta? Tsekkaa sijoitusasuntovahti!https://sijoitusasuntovahti.fi/Meitä maanpuolustuksen etulinjassa tukee yhteistyökumppanit:Varusteleka - Reserviläisen karkkikauppa ja meidän luotettu huoltopiste jo vuosien ajan - Varusteleka.fiSavox - Kriittisen kommunikaation kärkiosaaja - savox.comSavotta - Huikeita kantojärjestelmiä ja muita varusteita maanpuolustukseen ja ulkonaliikkumiseen - Savotta.fiHaluatko mainostaa podcästissä? Lähettää palautetta? Jopa kehua? Aiheideoita? Laita yhteyskokeilu osoitteeseen Info@mightyfinland.fi Instagram: @mighty_finland_

We share how to move from striving for approval to living from secure love, using the Prodigal Son to show why identity as God's children frees us to rest and grow. We end with a simple challenge and prayer—Hineni, here I am—to practice trust over control.• three pillars of growth: physical, mental, spiritual• identity as children, not hired workers• the Prodigal Son read and applied to life• the father's compassion versus the older brother's resentment• God restores imperfect people across Scripture• striver mindset contrasted with daughterhood• practical signs of striving in daily routines• loved in your becoming, not just arrival• weekly challenge to name striving and trust God• Hineni as a simple, daily prayer of availabilityNext week we're gonna talk about obedience before understandingIf you have any comments, questions, please send those to meIt is really our kind of our our targeted audience is men, but it's great information that we take scriptures from the Bible and we dive into those every other week, every other Tuesday. We have about 11 episodes out, and it's called The Road Travelhttps://aarondegler.com/

Puhutaanpa kenttälääkinnästä, taisteluensiavusta ja erityisesti pitkittyneestä kenttähoidosta ja kiristyssiteen konvertoimisesta. Mitä kaikkea Ukraina meille tästä opettaa?Onko kiristyssiteen käyttö ja kultainen tunti (Golden Hour) tuttuja juttuja? Mitä niistä pitäis ymmärtää? Miten moderni sodan kuva droneineen haastaa ja muuttaa taisteluensiapua, evakuointeja ja kenttähoitoa. Miten toimitaan, kun evakuointoi ei tulekaan Afganistanin tapaan alle tunnissa? Mitä edes on kenttähoito?Osaatko konvertoida kiristyssiteen? Entä mitä suomalainen terveydenhoito voi oppia kaikesta tästä? Ollaanko siellä valmiita?Lion Defence Team on reserviläisistä koostuva järjestö, jotka kouluttaa Ukrainassa sotilaan perustaitoja, pioneeritoimintaa ja taisteluensiapua. Veera ja Miika on terveydenhuollon ammattilaisia, jotka kouluttaa Lion Defence Teamin kanssa Ukrainalaisia kenttähoidossa Ukrainassa.Tutustu Lion Defence Teamiin täällä: https://liondefenceteam.com/LDT:llä on Poliisihallituksen myöntämä rahankeräyslupa numerolla: RA/2023/1562, lahjoita vaikka kymppi mobilepayllä numeroon 97102! Mighty Finland vaatteet: https://www.photonresearchgroup.fi/pages/mightyfinlandToivo M/25 Olutta K-kauppaasi: https://www.k-ruoka.fi/artikkelit/k-kaupassa/ehdotuksestasi-k-kaupan-hyllylleTaistelijan Lehtiö: https://varusteleka.com/products/mighty-finland-modestone-taistelijanlehtio-fiSuojelupoliisi rekrytoi! Hommia löytyy kautta linjan, ja Suomen turvallisuus tarvitsee hyviä tekijöitä:https://valtiolle.fi/fi/tyopaikat/?&desc=suojelupoliisiEtsitkö sijoitusasuntoa, kiinnostaako asuntoihin sijoittaminen tai tarvitsetko uutta tilannekeskusta? Tsekkaa sijoitusasuntovahti!https://sijoitusasuntovahti.fi/Meitä maanpuolustuksen etulinjassa tukee yhteistyökumppanit:Varusteleka - Reserviläisen karkkikauppa ja meidän luotettu huoltopiste jo vuosien ajan - Varusteleka.fiSavox - Kriittisen kommunikaation kärkiosaaja - savox.comSavotta - Huikeita kantojärjestelmiä ja muita varusteita maanpuolustukseen ja ulkonaliikkumiseen - Savotta.fiHaluatko mainostaa podcästissä? Lähettää palautetta? Jopa kehua? Aiheideoita? Laita yhteyskokeilu osoitteeseen Info@mightyfinland.fi Instagram: @mighty_finland_

Why won't my partner communicate with meIt's one of the most common questions I hear in the therapy room and it's usually coming from someone who feels shut out, unheard or like they're carrying the emotional load on their own.In this episode of This Complex Life, I'll share what's often really going on when communication feels blocked, when you keep fighting or arguing. Because most of the time, it's not about a lack of words. It's about emotional safety, overwhelm and patterns that quietly shut conversations down.I talk about emotional flooding, the communication patterns that make things worse instead of better, and how the way conversations start can set them up to fail before they even begin. I also explore how what we learned about conflict growing up still shapes how we show up in our relationships today.You'll also hear practical questions you can ask that invite reflection instead of defensiveness, and small shifts that can help you feel more connected without escalating into another fight.In this episode, we exploreWhy communication problems are rarely just about talkingEmotional flooding and shutdown and why it feels impossible to stay presentThe Gottman Four Horsemen and how they show up in everyday conversationsHow criticism, defensiveness and stonewalling block connectionWhy timing and tone matter more than being rightHow family of origin shapes your comfort with conflictQuestions that help you understand each other instead of escalatingIf you've ever thought we just don't communicate anymore, this episode is for you.ENROL NOW Relationship New Year RESET 2026https://marievakakis.com.au/relationship-new-year-reset-2026/Connect with Mariehttps://thetherapyhub.com.au/https://marievakakis.com.au/https://www.instagram.com/marievakakis/Submit a question to the Podcasthttps://forms.gle/nvNQyw9gJXMNnveY6 Mentioned in this episode:Join me live Jan 28th for the Relationship New Year Reset https://marievakakis.com.au/relationship-new-year-reset-2026/

Wondering how to grow your defence company in terms of innovation, testing or other support? How to accelerate growth? Rasmus has the answers!Rasmus Basilier works for Millog, the company we usually know from logistics, but that also helps smaller companies grow. We talk to Rasmus about defence innovation, Ukraine, the innovation cycle, what actions can small companies take to grow and what it's like to work in defence tech.We need more defence innovation in Finland!Do you need help, consulting or ideas for your defence innovation? Contact Rasmus!Rasmus.Basilier@millog.fi linkedin.com/in/rasmusbasilierhttps://millog.fi/Ja sama suomeksi! Jos sulla on pienempi puolustusalan firma ja tarvitset tukea sen kasvattamiseen, ole yhteydessä Rasmukseen ja sparraile! Mighty Finland vaatteet: https://www.photonresearchgroup.fi/pages/mightyfinlandToivo M/25 Olutta K-kauppaasi: https://www.k-ruoka.fi/artikkelit/k-kaupassa/ehdotuksestasi-k-kaupan-hyllylleTaistelijan Lehtiö: https://varusteleka.com/products/mighty-finland-modestone-taistelijanlehtio-fiSuojelupoliisi rekrytoi! Hommia löytyy kautta linjan, ja Suomen turvallisuus tarvitsee hyviä tekijöitä:https://valtiolle.fi/fi/tyopaikat/?&desc=suojelupoliisiEtsitkö sijoitusasuntoa, kiinnostaako asuntoihin sijoittaminen tai tarvitsetko uutta tilannekeskusta? Tsekkaa sijoitusasuntovahti!https://sijoitusasuntovahti.fi/Meitä maanpuolustuksen etulinjassa tukee yhteistyökumppanit:Varusteleka - Reserviläisen karkkikauppa ja meidän luotettu huoltopiste jo vuosien ajan - Varusteleka.fiSavox - Kriittisen kommunikaation kärkiosaaja - savox.comSavotta - Huikeita kantojärjestelmiä ja muita varusteita maanpuolustukseen ja ulkonaliikkumiseen - Savotta.fiHaluatko mainostaa podcästissä? Lähettää palautetta? Jopa kehua? Aiheideoita? Laita yhteyskokeilu osoitteeseen Info@mightyfinland.fi Instagram: @mighty_finland_

Samuel otti kiven ja asetti sen Mispan ja Senin välille. Hän antoi kivelle nimen Eben-Eser, Avunkivi, sanoen: ”Tähän asti Herra on auttanut meitä.”1. Sam. 7: 12Seurassasi on Kirsi Jokela

Isaiah 11:2-9The spirit of the Lord shall rest on him,the spirit of wisdom and understanding,the spirit of counsel and might,the spirit of knowledge and the fear of the Lord.His delight shall be in the fear of the Lord. He shall not judge by what his eyes see,or decide by what his ears hear;but with righteousness he shall judge the poor,and decide with equity for the meek of the earth;he shall strike the earth with the rod of his mouth,and with the breath of his lips he shall kill the wicked.Righteousness shall be the belt around his waist,and faithfulness the belt around his loins. The wolf shall live with the lamb,the leopard shall lie down with the kid,the calf and the lion and the fatling together,and a little child shall lead them.The cow and the bear shall graze,their young shall lie down together;and the lion shall eat straw like the ox.The nursing child shall play over the hole of the asp,and the weaned child shall put its hand on the adder's den.They will not hurt or destroy on all my holy mountain;for the earth will be full of the knowledge of the Lordas the waters cover the sea. A friend suggested a repriseof a sermon I gave years agoShe called it a rap, but I'm not that cool.It was a poem, at best, it read like a slam.I thought I'd give it another go.But history never repeats itselfIt often rhymes, they say.So I won't do a re-run, that would be lame,But I'll try something new– in the same vein –about this baby who's on the way.I'm no Andrea Gibson or Maya AngelouNo Shel Silverstein or Doctor SeussI'm a preacher whose preached Christmas, 24 years plus oneSo something a bit different seemed like something more fun.I could preach and pontificate, I've done that beforeI could rant, rail, and scare – you can get that next door.Maybe this will inspire both your heart and your headAnd keep you from dreaming of sugar plums and bed.The last time I did this –rhymed my way through Christmas Eve –My youngest – Max – had just been bornMy oldest – Jack – wasn't yet 3.So much has changed, since then, for sure18 years back, where'd you do Christmas Eve?Think of what's different in your life and our worldDid you celebrate something? Or have something to grieve?And how have things been in just the last year?More joys than sorrows, I pray.As we gather again, with our candles and carols,Are you counting your blessings? Or just surviving the day?Whatever it is, this time around,I hope God meets you in this placeThat's the message of Christmas: Immanuel – God with usAnd among us, come what may.And again, history doesn't repeat itselfBut they say it often rhymesThat seems to be true where faith is concernedAnd how God shows up in real timeSo let's see what rhymes this Christmas EveLet's turn back the clock to hearSomething old that could be new againIf we let God's love come near.The history of faith's peoplebegan in a garden long agoWhere God breathed life into dust and bonesBut God's children just couldn't say “no.”They refused to keep their hands offof a tree that promised liesThey heard God in the sound of the evening breezeAnd hid from angry eyesBut God's eyes of righteous judgementEnvisioned hope in equal portionThe Creator could see, beyond their Sin,A future of salvation.Soon there was that awful floodbut God saved the family of Noahand made a promise to love without endAnd sealed it with a bow.Then there was that Babel tower – Humanity tried to reach the divineTheir sins of Greed and Pride and PowerGot them scattered far and wideGenerations laterGod's Chosen Ones were slaves set freeLost and afraid, but guided,By clouds and fire their eyes could seeThey were passed over and sparedAnd they crossed through the Red SeaThey wandered the wilderness,And they followed God's leadAnd there were tablets and tabernaclesSerpents, wonders and signsAll proof of God's presenceThe same, but different, each timeBecause history doesn't repeat itself,But like God's grace, it rhymes.And across generations this history rhymedAs God's people mastered losing their wayThey counted their sins and hid from their GodLetting judgement and shame win the dayBut God was never into just counting our SinFor the sake of proving us wrongGod was all about leading with mercy and loveSo we'd make a world that sounds like a songA song of hope for those with noneA song of faith when fear has wonA song of peace when wars still rageA song of love that might turn the pageA song that rhymes, not repeats, in beautiful waysthat started anew with a SonWho was born so we'd see just what grace could dowhen we walk in the way of God's love Because it's not about you and it's not about meIt's all about “us” and about “them”It's about how – together – we're part of this planTo love one and all to the endBecause God may still show up in rainbows and cloudsIn signs, in miracles, in dreamsBut Jesus showed up to show God revealedin people like you and like meWe're alike and we're different in beautiful waysWe live and we move and we breatheWe walk common ground, we fear, long, and needBut still forget who are neighbors can beLike Jesus they don't have a safe place to landLike his was, their world isn't safeLike Jesus they rely on the kindness of strangersLike him they're dependent on graceHe's the gay kid that's bulliedHe knows about poor, single momsHe's the Dad with no papersHe hides underground from bombsHe shelters-in-place in the classroomHe takes cover beneath pewsHe's on both sides of our borderAnd he's exhausted by our newsHis nights aren't as silent As we pretend they should beHis future's not certainAnd he looks to you and to meIn Jesus God shows up, draws close, comes nearIn Christ, God comes down from on highIn Jesus we're called to do more of the same:To get off our cloud and no longer denyThat grace isn't just ours,it's ours to share at all costsThis Gospel's only good newsWhen it's shared with the lostAnd God knows what it is to be utterly lostThis boy showed up and got lost on the CrossHe died there for our sake, so that we could seeWhat “once and for all” actually means.If you need it today, then take it, for sureIf you're hungry then, please, have your fillBut let this grace find, free, and change youuntil your life overflows with goodwillGoodwill not just for men, but for women, tooAnd for everyone else in-between.Goodwill for the ones who are broken and hurtingFor the hopeless, the loveless, the mean.So, what might make Christmas rhyme once again?We can't repeat the coming of this ChildBut if God stepped into skin once way back thenGod can surely take root in our lives Because we've seen it time after time beforehistory rhymes it doesn't repeatSo let God show up this Christmas, once moreMaking us Love's voice, hands, and feet.Amen. Merry Christmas.

Deze aflevering bevat publiciteit voor Telenet. Welke bekende actrice heeft Felix Heremans ooit besprongen tijdens een receptie? Is Viktor werkelijk verantwoordelijk voor een nooit opgehelderd gaslek in het chemielokaal? Waarom is Rik Verheye eigenlijk nooit pastoor geworden? En klopt het gerucht dat Gover Meit zowel de hoofdrol speelde in een Sinterklaasfilm met Andy Peelman als in een videoclip van Marco Borsato? In deze honderdste aflevering voor een live publiek in entertainmenttempel Play Zuid kom je ook te weten welke bijzondere nieuwjaarsbrieven kleine Viktor en jong RIkje zoal schreven. En ook de enige echte Kerstman van Plopsaland speelt een zeer bijzondere rol. Ja, het was weer wa!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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A physical version of EIDOLON is available now through Indie Press Revolution!Kierra Tight hosts a Thanksgiving dinner, hoping to impress Sarah Grape, the woman who raised her. Sarah brings a surprise that will change everything for Kierra's best friend D.G., while their mooching neighbor Oxley might have finally bit off more than he can chew.

Who is Katie?Katie Hahn is no stranger to the entrepreneurial hustle. Early in her journey, Katie was the one burning the midnight oil—she was everywhere, trying every strategy in the book. From updating her CRM to jumping onto the latest social media trend, Katie left no stone unturned. But beneath the surface, she was pulled in countless directions, chasing quick fixes and scrambling for solutions to meet her coaching clients' needs. Over time, Katie realized that true success came not from the frantic chase, but from focus and clarity. Now, she empowers other women to step off the hamster wheel and build purposeful, sustainable businesses.Key Takeaways00:00 Brilliant Women Lacking Growth Systems05:19 Lack of Business System Integration08:00 Empowering Women Coaches' Growth12:44 Sales as Helping, Not Forcing15:39 Guidance and Accountability in Business17:01 Weekly Advice_________________________________________________________________________________________________Subscribe to our newsletter and get details of when we are doing these interviews live at www.systemise.me/subscribeFind out more about being a guest at : link.thecompleteapproach.co.uk/beaguestSubscribe to the podcast at https://link.thecompleteapproach.co.uk/podcastHelp us get this podcast in front of as many people as possible. Leave a nice five-star review at apple podcasts : https://link.thecompleteapproach.co.uk/apple-podcasts and on YouTube : https://link.thecompleteapproach.co.uk/Itsnotrocketscienceatyt!Here's how you can bring your business to THE next level:If you are a business owner currently turning over £/$10K - £/$50K per month and want to grow to £/$100K - £/$500k per month download check out https://systemise.meIt's a detailed breakdown of how you can grow your business to 7-figures in a smart and sustainable way.————————————————————————————————————————————-TranscriptNote, this was transcribed using a transcription software and may not reflect the exact words used in the podcast)SUMMARY KEYWORDSwomen coaches, coaching business, business systems, overwhelm, time freedom, financial freedom, CLIMB Framework, scalability, sales checklist, business growth, online business, client onboarding, lead generation, business processes, virtual assistants, high ticket sales, business optimization, chaos to stability, female entrepreneurs, productivity, systemization, strategy call, Facebook group, sales strategies, business model, business mentoring, accountability, client experience, business automation, business supportSPEAKERSKatie Hahn, Stuart WebbStuart Webb [00:00:00]:hi and welcome back to It's Not Rocket Science. Five questions over coffee. I'm here with Katie Hahn. Katie is the founder of the Climb Framework. The Climb Framework, and I'm sure we're going to get into this is a way that helps particularly women coaches, consultants get out of the overwhelm of a non systemized business and helps them too elevate themselves to growth by using a framework which introduces systems processes to help their business grow. So, Katie, thank you very much for spending a few minutes with us. I'm really looking forward to this conversation. And welcome to It's Not Rocket Science.Stuart Webb [00:01:11]:Five questions over coffee. Thank you.Katie Hahn [00:01:14]:I'm very excited to be here.Stuart Webb [00:01:16]:Thank you, Kate. So, Katie, let's start by trying to understand those people that I just sort of talked about, those people that you're trying to help. What, what are, who are these people? What's the business they've got? What's the problem that they really find themselves in?Katie Hahn [00:01:32]:I'll give you an example. And we've seen a lot of these people and this men and women, but I just specialize in women. But we see those people who hustle, you know, the ones who are working all hours, they're doing everything, you know, they're really putting this stuff in place. They're saying, oh, I got a new CRM, I'm on social media, I'm doing these things. But really when you talk to them and you dig down, they're all over the place. They're, they're after every shiny object. They are really just trying to solve that problem that they have today. And it may be trying to find people to, you know, for their coaching clients.Katie Hahn [00:02:09]:And so they're like, okay, what am I going to do today I'm going to go after this and tomorrow it's like, oh, I need a CRM. Now I have this. Well, now I have a client, what do I do next? And it's just constant chaos. And really what they face is this their bit. They don't have a business, they have chaos. And really what that means is they don't have a system to support their businesses. And what I found coming from the traditional business setting, brick and mortar professional services, is when you set up a business, you generally set up with very specific systems in place. However, in this new world of having everything online, you know, anybody can get started with anything.Katie Hahn [00:02:53]:And these women that I work with are brilliant, absolutely brilliant and passionate. Problem comes in is they got the hustle, but they don't have the know how that gives Them those systems in place to actually predictably grow and, and feel that they're meeting what they want to do, which is generally, you know, support the people they want to and whatever that coaching is, or in their business aspect, but also provide themselves that time and financial freedom that they got into this for. You know, most of them are moms and had a life crisis of change because now I can go back to work, I'm going to do my thing I love. And now with that, they got hustle, but they don't have time or financial freedom at all.Stuart Webb [00:03:38]:Yeah, I know the sort of thing you're talking about. This is the sort of person that goes from feast to famine. Suddenly they've got too much work, they've got no time to deliver properly. And then the next week they're looking around going, what, where's the next meal check coming from? I have no idea where everything is. And, and it's that need to have that continuous flow of leads that, that conversion of the, of the lead to the customer in order to sort of just give them the space and the time to actually develop a real business, isn't it? Yeah.Katie Hahn [00:04:08]:And they, they make these, you know, rash decisions because they need something today to solve a problem and they don't have the systems in place that's going to help them long term.Stuart Webb [00:04:20]:So let's, let's talk a little bit and sort of, you know, if there's somebody out there sort of immediately saying, hey, this might be me, and they might recognize themselves, but give us some specifics about the sort of things that they found themselves doing. You know, you come across somebody and you go, you know, I know what you're trying to do. These are the sort of people that have tried all sorts of things. Give us an example of the sort of things they've tried before. They seek advice on how to put the sort of systems you're talking in about Katie.Katie Hahn [00:04:47]:So it's really how they. Women generally, it's a feeling. They are just sick of the feeling of being out of control. When they were a mom or in the traditional business setting, their life was pretty easy. And now they're starting to feel chaotic and they're feeling overwhelmed. And what they start doing is the shiny object. You know, they may be on Instagram and they see, you know, some somebody puts out there. You're gonna get a million, you know, views if you do this.Katie Hahn [00:05:19]:And so they start going down rabbit holes. But it's really never a system in place that's going to get them to the Actual end goal. And so, you know, they're not figuring out that everything in a business has a relationship to each other. You know, so they may go down, oh, I got a CRM. But they don't use it, which means they don't now have the data, the information, the cohesion that's going to take the processes from sales to onboarding to client experience, to have those, you know, clients that are really going to be the evangelist for them. And because of the experience wasn't there. And it means that they are acting in a way where everything in their business is a bottleneck because it relies on that. There's no growth strategy because they've put everything on themselves and not using the right system so that they can say, okay, I need to work on my business, not in my business.Katie Hahn [00:06:19]:And then they can start delegating, bringing on a va. Because ultimately, what you typically see are they'll bring people on, they'll bring salespeople. Vas problem is everything goes through them and it ends. I work with tons of them like that.Stuart Webb [00:06:33]:Yeah, yeah, yeah. We've all seen those poor people that turn around. You know, I've got 15 people working for me, and absolutely none of them make a decision. And the question you always ask is, have you ever asked them to make a decision without talking to you first? And they look at you as if to say, why would we do that? That would be a very silly thing to do. So we know what you're talking about, Katie. I know you've got some really valuable, free. And I'm going to just point people now towards our. Our vault.Stuart Webb [00:06:59]:Katie has given me three brilliant, brilliant pieces of valuable content that I think you're going to just describe it to us, Katie, because, I mean, I'm going to really encourage people. There are some really, really interesting pieces of really valuable advice that you've got that you've given to us to give away this evening.Katie Hahn [00:07:20]:So the first one is my coaches weekly sales checklist. It just starts small. You got to start somewhere and realizing that at the front end, you need to have some processes in place and a checklist. So that one's an easy read. It gives you some activities to do, how to start implementing one thing at a time into your business and have a repeatable process every week just for sales, just small things. But I couldn't stop there because I know we'll have lots of problems. And I don't want to make this sound like these people are horrible or they're doing things wrong. They just don't have the right support and I feel like I don't.Katie Hahn [00:08:00]:I'm not doing them justice if I can't help provide more and the guidance they need to get to the next steps. So what I did was I just created a Facebook group and it's called High Ticket Women Coaches and it's all about sales and systems for scalable growth. I'm going to be dropping lots of nuggets of information in there, going live, talking about actual tangible pieces that they can implement in their business to get there. And the last thing is I don't normally do this, but I want to make sure that what people and women are doing is impactful and they're really going to have some strategies that they feel apply to them because everybody feels like they're in a different spot. My business is different. But really there's three stages and these three stages are chaos, stabilization and optimization. And what I want to do is help them identify where they are and provide real strategies on a strategy call to get out of where they are so they can get to that growth. So I, I got a busy summer, but I am willing to give 10 people a free strategy call and really start working with them on.Katie Hahn [00:09:09]:Here's what the steps you need to take to get to where you want to go.Stuart Webb [00:09:13]:So if you go to www.systemize.me forward/free hyphen stuff, you can see there those three links. There's the link to book a strategy call. That's quite a long link, so I'm not even going to try and read it out. You can go to free hyphen stuff and you will get immediate access to that strategy call link. You will get the Facebook group where Katie, I, I really, I really wouldn't mind dropping in on that myself. I'm the wrong, on the wrong. I've got the wrong hair lengths and things like that. But so there's some really great stuff that you're going to put in there as well as exercise.Stuart Webb [00:09:54]:Go to www.systemize.me. free hyphen stuff. Grab those free things from Casey because they are hugely valuable. Casey, I just wanted to understand a little bit more about it. You obviously have got this system. You've worked out the climb system and the climb is a great system system. What, what was it was a book, a life event. What, what helped you to form the climb system and get it really focused in the way that you've got it now?Katie Hahn [00:10:22]:Well, it, it started off with experience. I, I was drinking from a fire hose. I was put in charge As a CEO of an IT company and the owners that I was working with, my other owners, they left to go off on another venture. And so it was a disaster. I was changing a business model, growing clients in charge of sales. Everything was happening at once and I felt that I didn't have a method to figure out what I needed to do. And so somebody had given me a book and it was the business model Generation by Strategizer. And it really helps to visually organize what your business model is and who are your clients, kind of all those basic things that you really need to know.Katie Hahn [00:11:07]:And I absolutely love the book. I still use it and to this day I talk to my clients, have them fill it out and I just share the link. There's some great videos, but once you understand your business model, then you can move on to say what systems are important to your business model and really where to start focusing. So it's a very easy starting point. The other one I just, I believe you can use in life, but specifically for sales, is how to win friends and influence people. By oldie but a goodie. It's got core ideas. And what I really like about it is I don't want to manipulate people.Katie Hahn [00:11:49]:It talks about how to be genuinely interested in people, how to be there to support their needs and hear them. Because I don't want to be this used car salesman. I am a high ticket closer. I love sales, but I want to do it for the right reasons. And I want my, the coaching clients that I work with to understand why that's so important. Because I want those evangelists on the outside, you know, I want them talking about it. And once you learn those and can align them, your businesses can scale because people aren't talking this negative talk about their experience, but also how they made you feel. And so I really want to combine those two.Katie Hahn [00:12:26]:And the life instance that really kind of put these all together is that I work on the back end for high ticket coaches and I see in their business and I'm like, all right, I already have a process. Doesn't matter if it's a coach or a traditional business. Let's put it in place.Stuart Webb [00:12:44]:Yeah. Do you know, I'm very aware that one of the things you were talking there about was the how to win friends and influence people and how. And I'm very aware that a lot of people, particularly who are struggling or perhaps just beginning to scale their business, they get very worried about sales because they feel dirty. They feel somehow it's forcing somebody to have something they shouldn't have. And I was talking to somebody not so very long ago, and they were saying, well, how do you feel about sales? Because my background is very different to most, and I was not trained in sales or anything like that. And I said, I eventually realized sales is about helping somebody, and I just wanted to be the most helpful person in the world. So when I was reaching out and I was talking to somebody about helping them, I would say something like, you have this problem, and I have this solution to your problem. If you'd like the solution, let's find a way of working together.Stuart Webb [00:13:39]:And they go, yes. And I go, well, there needs to be some money for that. And they go, of course there has to be some money. And immediately you'd go, this sales thing isn't so difficult. It's just reaching out and helping somebody. And it's not about trying to force somebody to have something they don't want. It's basically being the most helpful person in the world. But just remembering in the end to say, I need to pay my mortgage.Stuart Webb [00:14:01]:So do you mind if you help me do that?Katie Hahn [00:14:03]:I completely agree. I'm not traditionally in sales. That's not where I came from. I have an education and a science background. I'm a scientist by trade. So this is not my background. And it's just like you. What I find is, if I can be helpful and they align, let's do it.Katie Hahn [00:14:20]:And it's not slimy or anything like that.Stuart Webb [00:14:24]:So let's move on to the. To the real question that you've probably got for me, Katie, at the moment, which is, you know, you're probably sitting there thinking, he still hasn't asked the killer proper question. He's got these questions he's asked me, but he hasn't asked the real one that. That I'm. That I'm waiting for. So I'm just gonna have to admit that I don't know what that question is and ask you to tell me what is the real killer question that you want me to ask you? And then obviously, you have to answer it, because I don't know the question either.Katie Hahn [00:14:52]:Well, it's not difficult. I mean, if I was talking, like, thinking about this, it's like all this information is out there. You know, all these processes are out there. There's tons of templates. The question is, why do business owners, specifically coaches, women coaches, still need a coach or mentor? And that, for me, is it takes some realization that as a business owner, you still need to have that support. Because basic transformation in a Business is driven by just implementing. It's not about just the information you have. And I don't think that all this information that we can Google is making everybody money, because if it was, we'd all be on autopilot.Katie Hahn [00:15:39]:We need somebody to say, here's where you start. Here are the things you're blind to because you're in the business and really aligning and saying, okay, here are the things we need to do to get you to X, putting plans in place and holding somebody accountable. I was an athlete, and we have coaches for a reason. We need to have a team behind us. We have doctors. We don't just go to one. You know, there's always this team and this support, and we think that's okay in other areas of our life. But as a business professional, you know, we got to get our set, set our egos aside and say, you know what, there's somebody here who can help guide me.Katie Hahn [00:16:18]:And the point is that it's going to happen quicker and faster and easier when I have the right support. And that's why I do this back to your sales thing. I want to help people.Stuart Webb [00:16:30]:Brilliant. And we've gone full circle, which is exactly where we need to end. Listen, I thank you so much for coming out and spending a few minutes with us today. Katie, I think the advice you've given is brilliant. I'm going to just once again, Pete, go to Systemize Me free. Grab that stuff from Katie. There are not many people that give away as much free value as Katie does, so please grab that stuff as soon as you can. And one little request from me, please subscribe to the newsletter.Stuart Webb [00:17:01]:What I do is I send an email once a week, and all I do is I let you know who's coming up so that you can join in and grab the sort of free advice that people like Kate give. So go to Systemize Me forward slash subscribe. That's Systemize Me Forward slash subscribe. Get onto the newsletter list. You'll just get an email once a week, which basically there's a joke in there as well. So it's not all. It's not all stuff. There's a joke, there's a joke, there's a.Stuart Webb [00:17:26]:There's news about the people that are coming up on the podcast and also some really great ways of getting advice from these people. Katie, thank you so much for spending a few minutes with us. I really, really love what you're trying to do to help people, and thank you for being as generous as you have been with so much of your advice.Katie Hahn [00:17:44]:Thank you very much.Stuart Webb [00:17:46]:Listen, I'm looking forward to following Katie. I really do think you should do the same. Thank you, Katie.Katie Hahn [00:17:53]:Thank you. Get full access to It's Not Rocket Science! at thecompleteapproach.substack.com/subscribe

I remember my first meeting with Terri Thal. She was preparing for the publication of her new book. She had titled it, MY GREENWICH VILLAGE, Dave, Bob and Me It's release coincided roughly with the movie about Bob Dylan's Life, A Complete Unknown. The movie was three hours long and ,yes, Timothée Chalamet did all the playing and singing himself. I asked. But if you've got three hours to spend, I'd just buy Terri's book. If you go to a movie that's 3 hours long, chances are you won't be able to stand up afterwards and people look at you funny if you keep sitting in your chair. Terri and I had not met previously but were both very interested in the prime days of folk music. Terri Thal was very much a part of the folk music world in 1960s Greenwich Village, New York. Few people know that she was 21-year-old Bob Dylan's first manager prior to his contract with Albert Grossman and Columbia Records. She also managed musician Dave Van Ronk (who later became her husband), and others to include the Roche sisters, Paul Geremia and The Holy Modal Rounders. The book is a personal story of the world of folk music in 1960s New York written by a Jewish woman from Brooklyn who, although not a musician, was an intrinsic part of this scene. Terri describes Greenwich Village as a community that was supportive, musically exciting and one in which people had fun. When i met Terri last week to prepare for the interview, she was in that new, questioning mood. She wanted, she said, to decide what there was for a woman past 50 to look forward to, in a world skewed away from women. Writer Robert Tompkins joined our group revealed that he has begun to learn to play the mouth organ because he has found that when he has a tough to solve problem. doing something different often helps, and sure enough, in no time at all, ideas were flying - and so we decided that we'd meet again in two months with some brand new ideas. Be sure to join us, and if you have some ideas you'd let us to cast a bit of light on. She didn't want to do another book that required the research Dave, Bob, and Me had required. And she wanted to make a difference in the world. So we invite you to join in the ideas and be sure to listen to our December podcast and let us know if you have any ideas. We'll see that Terri gets them. Let us know if you need ideas too. We'll keep you posted. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Who is Stever?Stever Robbins is a strategic advisor dedicated to empowering individuals at pivotal moments in their professional journey. With a focus on reputation building, he guides business leaders and entrepreneurs who aspire to become recognized authorities in their fields. Stever's expertise lies in helping clients establish themselves as the go-to person around their key constituents, whether it's within their industry or among high-value employees. His approach is tailored to those eager to cultivate a magnetic reputation that naturally attracts attention and opportunities, positioning them as influential figures in their respective domains.Key Takeaways00:00 Understanding Business Relationships05:54 "Public Speaking Overcomes Age Bias"09:41 Networking Maintenance System14:06 "The Myth of Hard Work"14:45 Rethinking "Work Hard" Advice18:16 "Maximizing Productivity and Networking"22:45 Effectuation in Startup Success24:28 "Networking: Meeting the Right People"29:32 Reflecting on AI's Impact31:12 AI's Impact on Critical Thinking34:31 Networking for Personal Fulfillment_________________________________________________________________________________________________Subscribe to our newsletter and get details of when we are doing these interviews live at www.systemise.me/subscribeFind out more about being a guest at : link.thecompleteapproach.co.uk/beaguestSubscribe to the podcast at https://link.thecompleteapproach.co.uk/podcastHelp us get this podcast in front of as many people as possible. Leave a nice five-star review at apple podcasts : https://link.thecompleteapproach.co.uk/apple-podcasts and on YouTube : https://link.thecompleteapproach.co.uk/Itsnotrocketscienceatyt!Here's how you can bring your business to THE next level:If you are a business owner currently turning over £/$10K - £/$50K per month and want to grow to £/$100K - £/$500k per month download my free resource on everything you need to grow your business on a single page : https://systemise.meIt's a detailed breakdown of how you can grow your business to 7-figures in a smart and sustainable way————————————————————————————————————————————-TranscriptNote, this was transcribed using transcription software and may not reflect the exact words used in the podcast.SUMMARY KEYWORDSexecutive coaching, personal branding, business networking, building relationships, reputation management, career advancement, professional development, strategic outreach, public speaking, podcasting, productivity tips, maintaining connections, follow-up systems, industry recognition, business leadership, career success myths, high impact coaching, business startups, entrepreneurship, effectuation, business ecosystems, corporate politics, introverts in business, systematic networking, reconnecting contacts, business strategy, work-life balance, leadership skills, personal productivity, AI and productivitySPEAKERSStever Robbins, Stuart WebbStuart Webb [00:00:31]:Hi, and welcome back to It's Not Rocket Science five questions over coffee. I have my coffee here in front of me. I think Steve is ready to go as well. So I have my coffee. Up. We are caffeine up and ready to go. Looks, I'm really, really grateful that Steve has meant, spent some time with us. He's gonna spend a bit of time with us today.Stuart Webb [00:00:50]:Steve is well, he's, one of the most interesting and thought provoking and, innovative, speakers I've come across. So, Steba, I'm really grateful you're gonna come here and spend a few minutes talking to us about, well, five ideas we're gonna have over coffee.Stever Robbins [00:01:08]:Absolutely. Thank you for having me.Stuart Webb [00:01:11]:So, Steven, let's start with, I know you're you're sort of talking today a little bit about some of the some of the work you've been doing, and we're gonna get into it. So so tell us, who is it you're trying to help? What what what's the what's the the the ideal candidate for the sort of work you're trying to do with them at the moment?Stever Robbins [00:01:26]:Sure. I help people who are at an inflection point. People who need to get more widely known and who wanna become the go to person around their key constituents. At some point, I'll probably get a little bit more focused than that. But for example, a business person who wants to get known in their industry, a business person who wants to get known around the, high value employees. So So they wanna have a reputation as a, as a hire as a hire as an employer. Basically, anyone who wants to have a reputation that draws people to them and they want to establish a high profile as go to person.Stuart Webb [00:02:02]:And so this isn't just, just business owners. This could be anybody from a business owner to somebody who's already in in an employment and and just wants to get better known around their industry or bet better known around around the company.Stever Robbins [00:02:15]:Yeah. What I've discovered isStuart Webb [00:02:16]:that this actually has been oneStever Robbins [00:02:17]:of the keys to many of the coaching engagements that I've done. I've I've spent the last twenty years as an executive coach. And I finally realized, wait a minute. Helping this person with their marketing was just like helping this person who, I I work with a lot of high potential leaders, so people who are being groomed for the c suite. And part of being groomed for the c suite is you have to establish connections. You have to be known within the company. You need to be able to to, you know, go to the right places, know the right people, call in the right favors, and get people working together. And I realized this is actually the exact same skill set.Stever Robbins [00:02:49]:What it takes to become known in your industry is the same thing that it takes to come to become known within your company, you know, with a few minor tweaks. Instead of speaking at a conference, for example, you might be speaking at a brown bag lunch, but, you know, largely the sameStuart Webb [00:03:02]:thing. Absolutely right. A lot of these people will have spent time trying to do this just just by, you know, maybe making making mistakes or maybe sort of trying to sort of get out there and do things, but but I haven't got anyway so far. So what are the what are the frustrations? What are the some of the things you've seen people do? I wouldn't say wrong, but are not necessarily focused in the right way in order to really get that that high impact that you're talking about.Stever Robbins [00:03:29]:Sure. Well, you know, one of the big ones is that people treat their business like a business. So if I were to ask people, do you do you know where you make money? Most people would say yes. They might be wrong, but but but at least the point is they have some idea. Like, they're they're paying attention. But when I ask people, do you know do you know who you're connecting with and why you're connecting with them and what their major motivational drivers are and how you can deepen a relationship with them and connect with them, they just kind of look at me and go, well, yeah. I mean, I called someone up to have a lunch date. And I'm like, so you're preparing a proposal and you spend six weeks doing research and write a 25 page proposal.Stever Robbins [00:04:17]:But when you're thinking about who do you need to know, who needs to know you, and how are you gonna create that connection, you give that no thought. You just sort of treat it the way that you did back in kindergarten, which by the way, don't knock kindergarten. Really good time, recess, awesome idea. I love the thing where you play with the blocks. But as adults, we get more sophisticated about things. I would say one of the biggest, problems that people have is they're not systematic about it. They don't decide who they're gonna contact. They don't actually have a system for making contact and then a system for maintaining relationships, which, you know, people think, oh my gosh.Stever Robbins [00:04:59]:This is gonna take me a hundred hours a day. It is gonna take time. Building and maintaining relationships takes time. However, it doesn't take as much time as one might think if you're systematic about it. And even in the best of worlds, you're only gonna have a small inner circle, and a lot of what you do is gonna be about getting yourself out there more widely.Stuart Webb [00:05:20]:Are you suggesting that some people don't think deeply enough about their networking and they just wander into a networking meeting with a bunch of business cards and hope for the best?Stever Robbins [00:05:28]:Oh god. Yes. Yes. So okay. I know that it doesn't come across in this in this format. I am a high introvert. You put me in a networking event, and I will find the cheese table, and I will nibble 200 of those little cheese cubes while desperately trying not to make eye contact with anyone. And I realized this about myself.Stever Robbins [00:05:54]:And what I found what and and the other thing too is I look, this is actually getting less true. I started getting gray hair, like, all of a sudden last week. I'm like, where did these come from? But prior to getting some gray hairs, I looked much younger than I actually am. And I would go to business networking events, and people would just look right past me. They would just assume, oh, who's this high school kid? He has nothing to offer. And what I discovered was that if I did public speaking and if I was on stage, people would pay attention long enough to me just by virtue of my being on stage that I could say something intelligent. And then they would go, hey, that guy on stage said something intelligent and then they would approach me. So I never had to leave the cheese table.Stever Robbins [00:06:37]:I got to be lauded as like, oh, this great public speaker. And of course, for introverts, public speaking is amazing because you have complete control over the room. You don't have to pay attention to anyone you don't want to. They raise their hand to ask a question. You ignore them. Public speaking is a fabulous introvert activity. And and what I found was that was people would start coming to me. So that that was, like, my first big in, you know, in you don't have to network the way that that people say where you go and you show up with business cards.Stever Robbins [00:07:10]:You can network by putting yourself on a stage and having people want to come to you. I started a podcast in 02/2007, and, it was called the Get It Done, guys. Quick and dirty tips to work less and do more. It was a personal productivity podcast. It made it to number five on I or number three on iTunes, which I was totally psyched about. Unfortunately, I was never able to monetize it. But one of the interesting things about that is that I started having people come up to me on the street and just saying, you know, hey. You're you're Steve Robins.Stever Robbins [00:07:42]:You're that get it done guy person. And I'm like, how do you know what I look like? This podcast is audio only. But, apparently, people found somehow found out what I look like. And, again, that was putting myself out there with my ideas in such a way that I actually built an audience and built people who wanted to, to come speak to me to connect.Stuart Webb [00:08:04]:And the problem with all of that, Steven, I think you've just sort of alluded to it, is you've gotta have a system. You've gotta have you've got to have a you've got to have a strategy, you've got to know what it is you're trying to do to connect with them. But but networks can go cold very quickly, can't they? I mean, you just mentioned a podcast in 02/2007 now. In Internet terms, that was that was pre pre dinosaur. You you you can't just assume that the the the people you've connected with three years ago even remembered that your name or whether or not you've got gray hair. You you have to have a system for being available and being with them all of the time.Stever Robbins [00:08:41]:You do. And that's one of the wonderful things. So first is so the podcast went through 2020, by the way. So there are some still some people who who remember who I am. But but part of it is in fact being in front of them in some fashion. And you don't have to you don't have to be in front of them all the time. You need to be in front of them enough to reactivate their memory of you. And one of the things that I I mean, one of the wonderful things about the Internet world is you can do that through many different media.Stever Robbins [00:09:09]:You can do it through video. You can do it through audio. You can do it through email, newsletters. You can also do it with the telephone if you're keeping in touch. I mean, I I'm if you're doing marketing, you might be trying to keep in touch with hundreds and hundreds and thousands of people. But you might if you're within a company and you're networking within the company, you're not necessarily trying to keep in touch with 10,000 people. You're trying to keep in touch with a hundred people who are your most critical people. Or if you're in a career and entering a new industry, you'd be and and you're and it's not just customers you're going after.Stever Robbins [00:09:41]:You may only only wanna be keeping contact with, you know, 20 industry leaders, five or six key suppliers, etcetera. And part of, part of, like, the systems that I have, which I hate, let me be very, very clear, there's nothing pleasant about this, is I have a whole follow-up system. And every it's pleasant to actually connect with people. What's not pleasant is actually sitting down there. And every day, I have a spreadsheet that I can sit down and go through. It'll tell me how long it's it's been since I contacted which people, which ones are currently high priority. And I'll just run through it and drop them all an email. Drop them an email, send them a text, make a phone call, and just do something to remind them that I exist.Stever Robbins [00:10:23]:Doesn't have to be a long conversation, but they need to see my name and and remember who I am. And, you know, I'll offer to reconnect at depth. Some people take me up on it. Some people don't. But it's about keeping your name front and center. It's not necessarily about having having tons of in-depth conversation or tons of in-depth content with them at every touch.Stuart Webb [00:10:45]:And I remember when I was a very young professional, I I I know, I know I only look back 12, but, but I was I was a a professional at one stage. And I remember one of my mentors saying to me, use the opportunity for the two minutes at the beginning of every meeting to sit next to somebody different. That way you'll find out somebody else who you haven't spoken to yet. So you don't have to you just have to be systematic in the way that you think. You don't have to necessarily sort of think to yourself. I must reach out to them. If you see them, you you you make contact, you make a note, you move on. Yeah.Stever Robbins [00:11:15]:I one of the things I was doing recently was cleaning up my address book because I have about 7,000 contacts, and I just decided that, you know, that's a lot of contacts. And many of these people I haven't talked to for quite a while. So I literally had been going through about, you know, 50 to a hundred names a week. It's slow going. And as I've been going through every single one, I'm like, oh, wow. Here's someone I really care about. And for whatever reason, we haven't connected in, you know, ten years. And I've just been dropping people an email or sending them a text and just saying, what are you up to? And it's amazing.Stever Robbins [00:11:47]:This is something that a lot of people are afraid to do. They're afraid that if they've lost contact with somebody, oh, it'll be so embarrassing for me to try to reestablish contact because it's been so long. No. Remember, it's been long for them too. They haven't reached out to you. You haven't reached out to them. Without fail, when I reach out to people after ten years, their reaction is primarily, oh my gosh. It's great to hear you, except for the person who says, wait a minute.Stever Robbins [00:12:13]:Does the restraining order expire? You know? You know? Like, why? You're the one I was supposed to delete from theStuart Webb [00:12:18]:address book.Stever Robbins [00:12:20]:But but generally speaking, I've had a great response. I've reconnected with some people that I I I reconnected with a friend of mine I haven't seen in thirty years. And, you know, we had a great conversation, and it was all because I just picked up the phone. I picked up the phone, and I said, hey. Is this still your phone number? Because if not, I really wanna delete it out of my out of my phone. And she was like, don't delete it. Don't delete it. Call me today.Stever Robbins [00:12:43]:We had a great conversation.Stuart Webb [00:12:44]:That's brilliant. That's brilliant. Steve, I it it brings me to to what is technically question three, but I think we've sort of veered off track a little bit. And that, I know you've got some really valuable free advice, valuable free offers that you wanna sort of, leave the audience with. Do you wanna just describe those to us and and and tell us about, you know, how you are trying to help people with these, with exactly these problems?Stever Robbins [00:13:06]:Sure. Absolutely. So, as I mentioned to you, I don't remember if we were on air when I did. I've recently done a business pivot, and I previously dealt mainly with strategic business issues and am now shifting to this new model, which I call connected and respected, which is helping individuals do this kind of outreach. The the giveaway that I have today is a handout from a presentation that I did called 10 cultural and success lies. And,Stuart Webb [00:13:36]:Only 10? Wow.Stever Robbins [00:13:38]:Well, the the top 10. Well, let's make it a top 10 list. I gave this first at Harvard Business School, this presentation. I and I ended up being asked and came back and did this several times. The basic idea is as I got older, I looked around at people who were successful. I looked around. I I I did go personally to Harvard Business School, so I know a lot of people who are very successful in material sense. And I started noticing that the way they actually got there was not the way everyone says.Stever Robbins [00:14:06]:Right? Success lie I think this is number one. If it isn't, it should be. Is work hard and you'll get ahead. And I'm like, in what universe? I I mean, I know a couple people who are worth who are worth hundreds of millions of dollars when I compare their life to mine. They don't work harder than I do. Meanwhile, my cleaning lady I know how hard she works because I know how messy I am. My cleaning lady works her butt off, and she's never gonna have a hundred million dollars, at least not from not from cleaning. And that was the first cultural career lie that really got me wondering what other things do people say that have become conventional wisdom that if you really stop and think about them.Stever Robbins [00:14:45]:You know, we even tell kids to work hard. And I'm like, why would you tell a kid to work hard and they'll get ahead if that's not actually how getting ahead works? I mean, I wanna give my kids or my nieces and nephews because I don't have kids. I wanna give them advice that works. So I will say, work hard under the following circumstances for the following reasons, but don't expect these to be the thing that distinguishes you from other people. This may just be the price of admission or it may actually and this this was the weird thing about having a personal productivity podcast is I took a really hard look at what makes people productive. And one of the interesting things about being productive, if you're an employee, this is not true if you're self employed, but if you're an employee, the more productive you are, the more free time you have. The more free time you have, the less you appear to be working. The less you appear to be working, the more the people around you say that person is lazy.Stever Robbins [00:15:36]:And they give you more work to do because they think you have all of this free time, but they don't raise your salary because clearly, you were you didn't have enough to do previously. So when you are employed by someone else, the paradox is the more productive you get, the more work and the more responsibility you get without necessarily getting the rewards. When you're self employed, the more productive you get, you also get the rewards because you get to keep them, to keep the rewards yourself. So hard work, depending on the form, may or may not be having social and reputational consequences and maybe having career consequences that have nothing to do with your output and your productivity, but that have everything to do with the way that the hard work that you're doing is or isn't being perceived by other people. Should I tell you a secret I've never told anyone?Stuart Webb [00:16:24]:Please go ahead.Stever Robbins [00:16:25]:Okay, everyone. You're hearing this for the first time. I hope my first manager is not listening to this. I figured this out at my very first job out of undergrad. I was a computer programmer, and I Figured it outStuart Webb [00:16:39]:a lot earlier than most of us at Stevie. You know that. Don't you?Stever Robbins [00:16:42]:Well, so I was much I was much more productive than any anyone else on the programming team, like, really more productive. And I realized that I wasn't get I wasn't getting paid more for this. In fact, they even told me at my review that I was that productive, and they said, but you're too young to be making any more money than you're making now. So, I had to finish the system that I was working on. I finished the entire system in two days, and I then spent the next six weeks releasing one new module at a time so that it appeared that I was doing six weeks worth of work even though I had only spent two days on it. I spent the rest of the time reading comic books. And what was interesting is because I was so much more productive, the amount of work I was releasing per day was comparable to what everyone else was releasing per day. Whereas if I had released it all in two days, they would have given me six more weeks worth of work to do.Stever Robbins [00:17:41]:And, anyway, I've never told anyone that before. If my ex manager is listening, Sheldon, now you know. And the statute of limitations has passed.Stuart Webb [00:17:53]:Steve, I hate to I hate to sort of, just summarize that in a in a phrase that that was said to me when I was a much, much younger person. It's not what you know, it's who you know. And so you come back to the fact that you can be brilliant. I mean you can really know some stuff, but if you don't know the right people or you don't know the right person to tell that to, you might as well know nothing.Stever Robbins [00:18:15]:And IStuart Webb [00:18:16]:think you're illustrating that brilliantly with the fact that if you are, if you do have that free time, and I do know somebody in one company that I worked with who had a lot of free time because they were very productive. They just spent their time networking. They just spent their time going around making sure the senior managers knew who they were so that when they had an hour free and they had an idea, they knew to go and talk to about it. So they use their productivity extremely well. But, I'm really looking forward now to getting my hands on that and that that freebie that you just mentioned. And what I'm gonna tell people, look, if you go to this this link, I'm gonna put a lot of this stuff from Steve, you know, where you can find him, who you can talk to about him, and and some of his previous talks and things. I mean, we'll even refer to the podcast because I think the the productivity podcast, I do remember listening to it, was a brilliant brilliant insight into productivity. But if you go to systemize.me/free- stuff, we'll have links about Steve, what he does, how he works.Stuart Webb [00:19:11]:You can pick up all of that stuff there, and I really do think you should go and find out more about Steve. If you don't know who he is, you really should. So go to systemize.me, free stuff. Steve. I'm I'm gonna I'm gonna I'm gonna I'm gonna potentially take you back a little bit. You you've talked about productivity. You've talked about being a high impact coach. How did you get to be a high impact coach from being somebody who was a programmer? What what path was it were you on? Was there a program, a a course, a book, something that changed how you started to think about yourself? And I I appreciate we could now we could open a Pandora's box, and we could be here for a while.Stuart Webb [00:19:48]:So you take your time.Stever Robbins [00:19:50]:Sure. Let me let let me let me let me try to summarize as best I can. When I discovered that the hard work I I mean, this is this was my own lived journey. When I discovered that the hard work wasn't getting me the results that I wanted, I was gonna have to wait another ten years for my age to catch up with my work ethic. I started doing things like trying different companies, and I went back to business school, got an MBA, and I was with a series of startups. And after my I think it was my ninth startup, this was over the course of about of about fifteen years. After my ninth startup, I I was seeing patterns. Like, we we we myth mythological, myth logic.Stever Robbins [00:20:32]:We turn start ups into myths, at least here in America, and we have kinda corporatized to the whole start up process. So so there's all of this stuff, which just like the career wise, it is just complete b******t that people spew about startups. And part of it is things like how hard you have to work. And after you've been with nine startups, you start to notice the reason people are working hard is they don't know good project management. They don't know project scoping. They don't know how to identify what's important and what isn't. And if you know these things, then you simply, you know, you scope your work so that you can do it and you choose the work that's most important that's gonna get you the next step, etcetera. So I was at a start up.Stever Robbins [00:21:12]:It was driving me absolutely nuts to watch a bunch of very earnest, well meaning young people make all of the same mistakes. And I went to my lifelong mentor, and I said, you know, I I'm getting really tired of going through the same learning curve over and over and over and over. And they won't listen to me, of course, because they're young and adventurous and visionaries and all that stuff. And he said, why don't you try helping people from the outside instead of necessarily being part of the company? Because when you're the outside expert, people take you more seriously. And long story short, that's what led me into coaching, and I discovered I loved it. It's,Stuart Webb [00:21:50]:I'm gonna have to I I was laughing. I was trying not to laugh too much because this is a very serious subject. But I'm afraid I recognize so much of what you were saying because, you know, I I spent some time myself being a a start up mentor to some start up companies. And then nearly always ask the first question, which is, well, we're we're in the process of developing this or we're doing this. And I'll go, okay. Is that is that how is that gonna help your customer solve their problem? And they nearly always have no answer to that question. I think that's the basic question that you ask of any business. You know? Am I producing a solution to a problem, or am I doing this because it feels like it's the right thing to do? And, you know, I'm a scientist by background.Stuart Webb [00:22:25]:So I often use sort of the soul sort of, like, let's run an experiment and find out. And people would look at me as if to say, no. No. That's not how you do it. And I'm thinking, yeah. It is because that is actually the basis upon which most successful businesses have been built. But but it takes time to learn that sort of thing, doesn't it? And I think you've encapsulated that journey brilliantly.Stever Robbins [00:22:45]:There there is a there's a set of research in entrepreneurship and business formation that actually supports that. It's, done by a woman named Sarris Sarris Vathid at the Duke Fuqua School of Business, and she has published it under the title under the term effectuation, e f f e c t u a t I o n. It is she somehow has taken an extremely easy set of concepts and made them almost impenetrable using scholarly language. However, at the bottom line or at the at the end of the day, the bottom line is that most successful startups go through a period of extreme experimentation. And the ones that tend to be most successful and have the longest runways in terms of they're able to try the most experiments Mhmm. Are the ones who manage their investment very carefully. They make commitments in a very particular kind of way. And one of the big things that they do is they form alliances.Stever Robbins [00:23:43]:They become connected and respected, but they allow their network and their connections to help shape the business. And it becomes an iterative process where the business becomes shaped by the people around the business who put skin in the game. And skin in the game is the big differentiator. Anyone who's only put skin in the game, they get a say. And what happens is you have ecosystems developed, business ecosystems, in which everyone is an interested and committed player because everyone has skin in the game. And it may not look like the ecosystem that any of those players would have imagined in the beginning, but it's successful because everyone involved has had a hand in shaping it so that it meets their needs as well as the needs of anyone else. So it's called effectuation.Stuart Webb [00:24:28]:That's a brilliant I've not heard of that book, and I really am grateful for that. You've mentioned it. It's another one to add to my reading pile, which is getting longer, and I need to find some time to do it. But, you know, that is, that once again takes us back to this question about how do you know the right people and how do you keep the right people in your orbit so that they can actually be the partners that help you to form your ideas. I mean, we all have to we all have to have these networks. So it brings us right back to to your basic core tenant of this this discussion, which is you've gotta know the right people, and you don't know them by sitting in the corner with the cheese and waiting for them to come and approach you. You have to have a system for getting out there and finding them out and talking to them about these things.Stever Robbins [00:25:10]:Correct. And it it and it's the side of business that pretty much every successful business business owner either has because they work at it or because they have it naturally. Because let's be clear. If I look I was raised in a in a polyam a a traveling new age polyamorous hippie commune. And, you know, driving around in a in a 12 foot trailer with with our little commune members. And I went to Harvard Business School. So I was an extreme outsider to that entire echelon of society and and way of working. And it's been really interesting seeing that from both the inside and the outside because a lot of, you know, a lot of hundred million dollar deals do not get done the way you would imagine with tons and tons of due diligence and whatever.Stever Robbins [00:25:59]:It's, you know, my college roommate is running a fund, and he needs to invest in a gas pipeline for a tax deduction this year. Do you know anyone who's selling a gas pipeline? Oh, sure. My friend Bill is. I'll tell you what. I'll introduce you to Bill. You give me a 10% cut. Fine. And I'm sitting here watching these deals get made, and I'm like, really? Really? That that's how this happens? You know? Now there's plenty, I'm sure, that happened with a lot more due diligence and and a lot more care, etcetera.Stever Robbins [00:26:27]:But it's astonishing that that at the higher levels of business and presumably of it probably presumably, it's not just business. An awful lot of what goes on ends up being through personal connections, not through formal requests for, you know oh, can I tell you can I tell you something that will blow your mind?Stuart Webb [00:26:50]:Please.Stever Robbins [00:26:51]:I I realized this a couple weeks ago, and I realized I have never heard anyone else say this. I was thinking about, gee, isn't it a shame that there are no entrance criteria or entrance qualifications to be the leader of a country? And I thought about it. I thought, you know, I I honestly can't think of any country for whom there's their process of selecting a leader includes something like like they have to have passed economics one zero one with at least a passing grade or or a CEO. I've never heard of a CEO being given a balance sheet and saying, can you read this? What does this what does this balance sheet tell you about the business? Our leadership positions, none of them are based on actual competency measurements. They're all based on personal connections, who knows who and who has what reputation. And I would love a counterexample. Please send me counterexamples, but I haven't been able to think of them.Stuart Webb [00:27:52]:I hate to, I hate to to support what you've just said. I had a meeting with a CEO of a reasonably sized company, and I sat down with the CEO. And my immediate response was, I'm not sure how this guy got his job, but it wasn't by some sort of competence based interview. And I just asked him a simple question about his finances. Now I'm not an accountant. I'm not a great finance expert, but I knew a couple of questions to ask. And he looked at me and said, well, I don't really understand the numbers. I leave that to my finance guy.Stuart Webb [00:28:28]:I said, so how are you driving your strategy? And he said, strategy. What do you mean by strategy? And I said, well, do you know who your main customer is and how you're gonna make them happy? And he went, I'll leave that to my sales and marketing team. And I was wondering how this guy ran his team. And then I realized, he played a lot of golf, and he met a lot of potential customers on the golf course. And he invited those potential customers and potential partners to come back to the golf club and have a drink with him. And that's how he did his deals, and it was nothing more than that because he was playing quite a bit of golf. And and I just thought, hey. I wish I had your life, but on the same token,Stever Robbins [00:29:06]:I don't thinkStuart Webb [00:29:07]:I'd be as successful somehow. And I'm I'm afraid you're absolutely right. We do not have enough people who have been taken through those those lessons unless, of course, they've failed miserably and learned from them. And I think as a species, we're not that good at reflecting and learning upon what we've done in the past and maybe sort of sitting quietly and thinking about it and perhaps correcting it in the future?Stever Robbins [00:29:32]:Oh, don't even get me started on humans as a as a species and how we learn. I've been playing a lot with AI recently, which is probably gonna be our next successor species. And and I've been playing with AI, but I've been doing it in a very particular way, which I have been observing my own reactions to the AI. And so I'll solve a problem, and then I will solve a problem with AI. And and what I'm paying attention to, I mean, obviously, is whether the solution is correct, but I'm also paying attention to what is that experience like for me. How is it different for me to use AI as a tool or not? Because I wanna find out. Is this a tool that I wanna use? And what I have found is the piece that you just mentioned, the reflective piece, is virtually a % missing when I use AI. So when I use AI to solve a problem, I'm kind of pounding at the keystrokes and hoping the AI figures it out.Stever Robbins [00:30:25]:But when I solve a problem on my own, I kind of stop and think deeply about it. So with AI, it's more like I'm an editor. Oh, okay. Here's the five page essay that chat GPT or Claude just did for me. I'm gonna scan it over to see if there are any obvious errors. But what I'm not doing is really reading it sentence by sentence and going, wait. Do I really believe this sentence? And if I don't, is Claude right or am I right? And if Claude is right, how can I learn this? And how can I incorporate it into my thinking? None of that is happening when I use AI, and it should be because that's how humans learn, and that's how we get better at things. So I am now very afraid of AI.Stever Robbins [00:31:04]:I am afraid that it is going to deskill us very, very rapidly. Yeah. And I use it anyway. Go figure it out.Stuart Webb [00:31:12]:Articulate you have articulated a number of problems that I think we've got with AI at the moment. And it's nothing to do with the fact that well, it is to do partly with the fact that it's stealing stuff off the Internet and the the business models are highly flawed. But I think it is it's, for me, too often we're lazy and we just use it because it's quick and it's easy and we don't have to do the thinking. And I think sometimes we find thinking to be too much effort and I think that's partly and we go back to how are we teaching children. We're teaching them we're teaching them some of the some of the things which are not necessary to pass exams as opposed to do thinking. It's we're teaching them about we're teaching about the fact that they should know this stuff, but they don't have to think they don't have to learn it by doing any thinking. They learn it because it goes up on the blackboard and they copy it down or they write to a blackboard. Whatever screen they use now in teaching, I'm sure they don't use blackboards anymore, but it goes up and they just copy it down.Stuart Webb [00:32:03]:So We could spend many hours on that, but I'm gonna take us away because otherwise, we'll be here for the rest of the afternoon. And I don't wanna keep you that long because I know you've got things to do. Steve, you must be thinking we've had some really interesting questions, but when is he gonna be asking that really key question, the one that really makes me say, well, no. This is the key one that you should have asked. So I'm gonna ask you now to to pose that question and answer it for us.Stever Robbins [00:32:27]:I think the question you should have asked me, is why do we bother with any of this? Why why are we striving for, quote, unquote, success or to build our business or to have our hundred million dollar exit? And, you know, there's tons and reams of research that says that on people's death beds, they do not say, oh my god. I wish that I had acquired one more company. Right? It's the relationships that matter. As I as we're sitting here talking, the day care center across the street is taking the little tots out for their walk. There's, like, 20 of them. They're holding this little rope, and they're they're climbing up on the curve, and they're jumping, and they're making these little babbling tock noises. And even though I'm here with you, oh my god, it's coming in the window and I can't can barely stop myself from running over and going, oh gosh, they're so adorable. They're the future.Stever Robbins [00:33:23]:So I wanna be really, really clear. Right? All of the success stuff and the business stuff, none of this means anything. The only reason we do it is so that we can have a meaningful, happy life with relationships and people we love. And if that's the whole reason we're engaged in this set of endeavors and pretending that this is important, then why not start with the connection with the connections and the respect and the relationships and and build your business around that. Build your business around who do I wanna hang out with because I do business eight to ten hours a day. I'm gonna hang out with the people I'm doing business with. Instead of choosing the business and then hoping that you can find people to buy, choose the people and then find a business to serve them. And forget the hundred million dollar thing.Stever Robbins [00:34:16]:Trust me. You know, a couch made out of platinum thread is not more comfortable than a couch that's you know, that old stuff one that you got in the junkyard. It actually probably is more comfortable. But you you get the basic broad idea.Stuart Webb [00:34:31]:I'd love I'd love to have a an old couch, just to sit and talk about this while I've done it. You're absolutely right, Steve. But I I absolutely believe that too many people are spending time in companies and building businesses that make them unhappy. And, you know, you need to you need to know people to reach out to and have a coffee. You need to reach out to and speak to people who can just feed your soul. And I just kind of feel like you've done that for me this afternoon. There there's a big I've got a I've got a large contact list as well. I'm gonna go through that today.Stuart Webb [00:35:03]:I'm gonna make a note of some of the people that I have connected with in twenty years. No. I'm not that old. In in five years. And, just, just send them a message and find out. You know, there are people that I was I I spent some very happy years, when I was doing research at universities. I probably haven't spoken to them In a few years, I really should reach out and just say hello to them, and I'll be doing that. And then I'll put a system in place to keep in touch with them because that's the key thing, isn't it?Stever Robbins [00:35:28]:That is the key thing. Just remind them you exist, and eventually, you'll both be in the same city. You'll get together for lunch. You know, you'll plan a diamond heist together. You'll succeed. You'll wait long enough for the statute of limitations to wear off, and then you'll write a screenplay about it, and you obviously will be played by George Clooney.Stuart Webb [00:35:47]:I I can think of nothing better that I wanna do with my afternoon. Steve, thank you so much for spending some time with me. Listen. I'm I'm gonna say once again, look. Go to systemize.me/free-stuff to find out about Steve. Find out about that valuable, 10, 10, tops tips that he's gonna give me. I was gonna say the 10 tips, but it's not. It's only the top 10.Stuart Webb [00:36:08]:It's nothing more than the top 10.Stever Robbins [00:36:09]:I need to go put the word top in the title of that really quickly.Stuart Webb [00:36:14]:And now I'm just gonna beg you. Look. If you'd like to hear more about some of the people that are coming up, that are as joyful, they're as useful, they're as informative as Steva. Go go join, my my newsletter subscription list. Systemize.me/subscribe. Get on the list. Just get an email. It it doesn't come out very often.Stuart Webb [00:36:34]:I do not bombard you with 15 a day. It's I haven't got time for that, but I'll send you an email just letting you know who's coming up on the podcast, who you should join to listen to because some of these are absolutely brilliant. Stevie, you have been one of those people. Thank you so muchStever Robbins [00:36:48]:for beingStuart Webb [00:36:48]:here today, and thank you for bringing to our attention those tiny tots that are outside right at the moment enjoying themselves. Go join them. Go have fun. Go wherever they're going. I'm sure it's better than wherever you were planning to be some boring meeting that you were gonna go to.Stever Robbins [00:37:04]:Quite probably. Thank you very much, Stuart. I've really enjoyed it.Stuart Webb [00:37:08]:Thank you, Stever. Get full access to It's Not Rocket Science! at thecompleteapproach.substack.com/subscribe

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I'm delighted, well, one, to have my, coffee in front of me, which is the most important part of all of this. There's not very much left in there at the moment, so I'm gonna need to refill that soon. But, I'm also delighted to to to welcome Ryan who tells me he has decaf coffee in front of him. So, don't, don't don't fall asleep on us, Ryan. You gotta be you gotta be entertaining us for the next twenty minutes or so. Ryan is a, keynote speaker, a coach, a fractional chief operating officer, and he really helps teams within the construction, architectural design space to navigate change, to think about the way in which they have to approach the changes that are, that are that they're approaching in their business. But it's a it's a it's a common problem that all business owners have to, think about, which is how do you navigate the changes in the business landscape around you.Stuart Webb [00:01:28]:So, Ryan, welcome to It's Not Rocket Science, five questions over coffee. Thoroughly looking forward to this. So, please, take your time to tell us a little bit more about how you help these teams to navigate change.Ryan Ware [00:01:41]:Yeah. Well, thank you for having me, Stuart. I appreciate the opportunity. I'm looking forward, to the questions and the conversation, even though it's decaf, try to run off natural energy.Stuart Webb [00:01:52]:That seems entirely reasonable. So let's start with the first question, which is Right. Let you I've already said that you work with sort of teams in the sort of architectural construction space. But, you know, the the common problem, who what are the sort of the the sort of give me the the the sort of common, ideal client, the person that sort of really is seeking sort of help from somebody like you at the moment.Ryan Ware [00:02:12]:Yeah. I I think there's a couple categories, but, generally, they they find themselves pretty much all in an area where they're recognizing that current state isn't exactly what they want. And they can envision this future state that they wanna get to. But they all, in some way, form, undervalue that middle that middle area. And that middle area is where things are uncertain, things are confusing, things, are unknown, and we've never seen them. We don't recognize them. It's what we call change. They undervalue that that time.Ryan Ware [00:02:52]:And by undervaluing it, they each have one group will overvalue current state and stay in it, and the other group will tend to rush through, that center area and and lack, the connection of human complexity into the change that's occurring whether in their individual life within a team or an organization.Stuart Webb [00:03:17]:And and tell me, Brian, I mean, you you you've been doing this for a while. You you you have some experience in it. What what are the sort of things that you've seen these business owners, these people within these sort of situations try before they reach you? I know when I've come across people that are doing this, they've they've they've normally done a bunch of things that try to help, but but rarely sort of, you know, seek out an expert such as yourself, and and I don't always succeed.Ryan Ware [00:03:44]:Yeah. It's you know, they say 70% of all change management and companies fail to meet the objective. And so a lot of times, what I mentioned in this middle area and undervaluing it, it's they'll they'll make an attempt on a new strategy, a new process, try a new solution within a project per se. And it doesn't go exactly as planned because they've never seen it before, and then they halt. And a lot of people will give up on that that center, change, area, which which is it takes a lot of time for us to learn something new, to develop, you know, new skills. We we already have habits. If we think about just a daily routine habit of getting up in the morning when who hasn't said, like, oh, I'm sorry. I'm sort of all out of sorts.Ryan Ware [00:04:34]:I got out of my routine in the morning.Stuart Webb [00:04:36]:Yeah. Yeah.Ryan Ware [00:04:38]:Yeah. When you get into that center area, what I see a lot of companies doing is, again, disconnecting the human side of change. And it's the objectives there. We wanna get this software put into place or there's a merger and acquisition done or or whatever. You know, it could be large or small sort of change that's occurring, but they don't go go to the humans and have the real conversation. So they'll they'll only bring up results and sort of go there. They won't drill any deeper, into the conversation to find out the root cause. They'll, they'll overvalue that current state as being something like, hey.Ryan Ware [00:05:21]:I've already been doing this a long time. I know how to do it, versus sort of a beginner's mindset of how do I test this? You know? How how do I work through through this change in order to learn? And I think you come from the world of science, and I try to tell everybody's like, we treated every project sort of as a laboratory or a change internally as this free testing zone to to regain knowledge on something that we've never seen before, it doesn't mean that we aren't taking what we've already known and just eliminating it. We're actually able to sort of stack on and and and grow. And I just find people rush through this. They see the goal, and they wanna rush through it. It's like, hey. You know, as simple as, hey. I wanna lose some weight.Ryan Ware [00:06:11]:Well, you can't just rush through that process, but you can start to recognize each day the little wins, and, you know, you don't rush through university. You know, the beauty of that the beauty of university is you go in and you're developing your learning. And even though you wanna be on the other side of it, even though you know at the end of the clarity is to graduate, you don't know what's happening on a daily basis. You can see the courses, but you don't know for sure. But where you're really in growth is that that middle confusion, you know, unknown territory that allows you to develop, and to begin to build a stronger relationship with change because you're now recognizing it as as an opportunity and a positive, not as a disruption or a cost or or a burden, to yourself.Stuart Webb [00:07:04]:Yeah. And I think you've mentioned two things. And and and and, what comes across to me most resonantly is change is tough, change is hard, people's habits. I mean I often remember the sort of the exercise I was taught when I was doing some of this which is you know this is the way you like, naturally lock your fingers. But if you do it the other way, it feels wrong, and it feels unnatural, and you desperately want to get back to the way it feels right. And just that action of sort of holding it there can make you feel uncomfortable, can make you feel very, very exposed if you like. And and just having to do that behavior change or or introduce something new takes people time to sort of understand that things won't be as threatening as perhaps they feel it is when they first come across it. And and the other thing is you say is is that sometimes when you when you are in that state, when you're when you're uncomfortable and when it's when it's you you have to start to think to yourself, okay.Stuart Webb [00:08:02]:This might not might not be as threatening as I first thought it was, but I have to want to learn to go through this. And getting to that mindset of wanting is kind of tough for a lot of people. You know, the business owner just wants to get them through it, and they're going, I was comfortable. Why why why are you making me do stuff which you don't? I I've got enough discomfort when I go home. You know? I've got a a family that I've gotta deal with. Why make me go through this discomfort now? I just wanna come here and be comfortable and and enjoy myself. You know? This is tough.Ryan Ware [00:08:32]:Yeah. It it's what I call willing participants first forced compliance. Right? So this is where leaders sort of begin to get it a little off track. A lot of times, they'll they're they're up the hill, and they believe they've said it, so therefore, the change is happening. And you have a middle layer who is trying to initiate the change, and everyone has their own their own agenda and their own goals towards the bigger goal. And this is where the human the human side, having that empathy of how difficult it is as a human to change. Like, just, you know, go do something simple. Get a new haircut, which I don't have the privilege to do anymore.Ryan Ware [00:09:13]:But, like, go change a style. Get a new shirt. Get a new get something small. How long does it take to adjust? And and when you start to recognize that within yourself and give yourself that time, that grace of adjustment period towards something new, you you can extend that same empathy towards others on your team, whether you're all coworkers or you are the manager or you're the leader. But when you when you connect the change to to humans and our and the way our brains want to function without getting into a lot of the science, because I know a lot of your shows have been able to already start to explain that, you described habits. They're great. They're perfect. We want them because that's where we're we can speed up and and be what we consider it our most efficient.Ryan Ware [00:10:03]:But we really hold on to that as, again, that overvalued state versus achieving what we want to. Like, taking seeing this middle area of it's always, you know, going to be a little unclear. The goal is there, but how you get there is going to still be unclear. You you overvalue that pain of going through it or the work to go through it or the the some people look at it as like, well, what if I fail? I'll be embarrassed. And what if I'm wrong? Mhmm.Stuart Webb [00:10:38]:First,Ryan Ware [00:10:38]:you know, believing in yourself and saying, like, I value that I have the ability to get through this. And even when it's not exactly what I thought, I can reframe my thought process in that moment of I've been here somewhere near here before. I've been through these things. I have the ability and think through with the team. But if we think embarrassment is, like, the end, or or we've thought something our whole life, and now it's wrong, and and we're afraid to say it and hold on to something, there's actually more cost to that and more pain to that. But we but we've it's familiar, so we keep it.Stuart Webb [00:11:24]:Yeah. And learning is hard, isn't it? I mean, well, I mean, we could we could do an entire an entire twenty, thirty hours on just learning. But I mean, learning is is is hard but is often undervalued in these situations. And I and I think you're absolutely right. People too often go back to when a a learning situation was difficult for them and go, well, I just don't wanna be there. You know, we we have to find these easy ramps, these easy paths, don't we? Yeah. And I'm I'm I'm gonna sort of bring in now because I think you've got some great, some some great some great offers and things that people, which we've put into our our our free stuff vault, where Ryan just took us through. I know there are a couple of offers in there, but, people, if you you go and go and look at these immediately.Stuart Webb [00:12:09]:In my opinion, immediately is is is is is possibly too too strong to work. But you need to get a hold of these and have a look at what Ryan is is is is giving giving away in terms of his valuable advice. Ryan, just talk us through, sort of some of the stuff that you've been able to sort of, offer to the listeners here.Ryan Ware [00:12:27]:Yeah. So we've got a couple ebooks that are out there really around mindset and and, you know, also just being able to navigate change by being more curious. Like, curiosity is, like, the key to me of change, and also this this idea that it's okay to be wrong once in a while. And what I mean by that, it's not, it's not that we always wanna just stand, you know, and fight against something that that we don't truly believe in, but that you could attempt to do something, and it's it may not go exactly as you thought. But now you know. And this is that world of science, and I'm trying you know, these these areas are about reframing our our thought about our relationship with change. And there's some steps and some things that you can go into, especially in chapter three of the the change mindset that some activities that you can begin to put yourself through that will help you sort of, like, assess your own relationship. Because I don't you know, you can't drive change as an individual in the company if you're not usually a willing participant or you aren't quite sure how how you react.Ryan Ware [00:13:44]:How do your emotions come up when something happens, until you recognize that your relationship with change tends to be one-sided. And no relationship is strong when when it's one-sided. Right. And I would say the other thing that we're we're you know, we typically will do is a strategy session or a discovery call because there's there's no one problem. As a coach or consultant, every company is different. While there's some similarities, it's just getting to know. I've gotta get closer to the team. I've gotta get closer to the problem to to be able to assess and work with them and build a relationship because, you know, consulting is is advice.Ryan Ware [00:14:28]:Coaching is questions. Like, I'm trying to get to your curiosity level to help you explore. And, you know, it's, to me, like, even with the speaking, I am just trying to spark enough curiosity that makes people start to question, like, I don't know. How did I learn this? Where did I get it from? Things like that to to be willing to say, hey. I'm curious enough to to go through this, like you said, and and begin to makeStuart Webb [00:14:58]:I think that's a brilliant way of putting it because to to make that sort of change for you to to start that journey. I mean, it doesn't matter where you are within an organization. You have to be curious about your own beliefs, your own your own behaviors, in order to get to the stage where you go, I now need to move beyond this this behavioral pattern, which which which has which has caused me to stay where I am. Because, you know, I I said this to one organization very recently who said, well, you we're talking specifically about the fact that, you know, their their growth had stalled. And I said, well, it hasn't stalled. It's going backwards because the world is advancing. Whether you like it or not, everybody around you is moving on. And so if you're sort of staying static, it means you're losing relative to everybody else two, three, four, five percent a year.Stuart Webb [00:15:51]:So you have to be changing constantly. Otherwise, you are behind. You're you're losing just by the fact that you're saying, well, I'm comfortable where I am. You you you're in actual fact losing. And so having that cautious sort of, belief that you need to question is absolutely critical to that whole process. I love what you were saying.Ryan Ware [00:16:11]:Yeah. I think it's we we forget that we're changing from the moment we're born.Stuart Webb [00:16:16]:Yeah. Yeah.Ryan Ware [00:16:17]:Life is constantly changing, but we're all you know, I I think it is. It's important that we have we create habits because we're taught that. Like, there's there's a reason that that you have to go through routines, and you gotta get them in sort of ingrained and embedded. But where I started questioning things, you know, little things is, like, as I learned math, my parents were teaching me. Those teachers were teaching me. Everyone had learned math the same way. But when I started teaching my son, I had never seen some of the new math that was coming through. And while I could be frustrated and I and I probably did get frustrated, like, why can't I figure this out? Why can't I learn it? I started realizing that the challenges that that generation is gonna have are different than than ours, but we we've learned math the same way, or we've done things the same way as all the other generations prior.Ryan Ware [00:17:09]:And without questioning, like, where where did we figure this? Where did we learn this? Or, you know, why do I believe this? Without doing that exploration, like, we're we're sort of allowing like, we love choice and we love control, but we're allowing other things to control us by not questioning it. And even though it may not be different, without knowing, we're letting someone else make a choice for us.Stuart Webb [00:17:35]:Brian, there must have been a, book, of course, a life experience that brought you to where you are with this knowledge, with this understanding, with this with this expertise in how to help construction companies go through the sort of changes you're talking about. Where did that come from? What was the what was the origination of of that? What was the book, of course, that you you think you'd recommend others sort of think about?Ryan Ware [00:18:01]:Yeah. I think that I think the book that really hit home was Carol Dweck's mindset. Courtney, you know, which is a couple decades old. But the just the things that I was seeing on a daily basis of how I was practicing architecture and then and left architecture and got into construction and was really trying to get people to reevaluate how they were building. You know, I watched, like, why isn't this taken off? I started just questioning, like, you know, this has been around a hundred years. Why isn't this taken off? Like, you know, we know there's other problems, like, all of it, labor shortage, all of these things occurring. It just I needed to know, like, what was the resistance? And it Yeah. You know, we could say it's risk.Ryan Ware [00:18:47]:We can say all of these things, but I just needed to start to understand the human mind. So reading mindset by Carol Dweck kicked off this this area for me to start thinking about, you know, how I train people in architecture, how I learn, how I wanted to take more of a coaching approach to it, and stretching people's minds as I was going through a change and implementing, you know, process and, you know, into those conversations because I couldn't force I couldn't force them to do it. If I've forced groups to to take on what I was trying to put in front of them as as, hey. Here's a new method to construction. Try it. They that's when they go into defense. Right? And and it it didn't work, or I don't have a choice. Someone is making me do this, opposed to using more curiosity, you know, kinda driven questions while having conversations with them.Ryan Ware [00:19:51]:Mhmm. You're trying to get trying to get them into not just their idea, but becoming those willing participants. So, you know, whether it's, you know, the Carol Dweck's and then reading a lot of the Dan Heath books. But one of my most favorite recent books is Amy Edmondson from Harvard, which wrote The Right Kind of Wrong. And you beingStuart Webb [00:20:15]:Great book.Ryan Ware [00:20:16]:From science. Right? Like, it's a it's a beautiful area where you you go back to that curiosity and exploration where just because you didn't get the answer today with all of the work that you did, it wasn't lost because you're using that experience as, like, we just know this didn't wasn't the right answer. It doesn't mean it's a wrong end. It just means it's one step closer to the right answer Yeah. Than being able to bounce back quicker. And I think that's one of the you know, that book has allowed me to be like, we have to think differently in this industry to address our problems. We we've got to kind of stretch our mind into into more curiosity sort of building experiences that create the project like a lab that we get the freedom to be wrong once in a while to make a mistake that some would say is too costly, which we're not talking about, like, you know, the buildings collapsing. We're we're talking about just selecting a new method, selecting a new delivery model, selecting a new material finish that that addresses other areas.Ryan Ware [00:21:26]:So, anyway, those are probably some of the books, but I would say the the one right now is Amy Edmondson's.Stuart Webb [00:21:32]:And I think Amy Edmondson has a a wonderful way of looking at it from all the way over from the malicious intent to destroy you through to the, hey. I was experimenting and that's a good thing, which we all have to bear in mind. You know, the the the the occasions in in which you know, you're talking about buildings collapse. There was one that I know she's talked about a little bit, which is a hotel that that unfortunately collapsed because somebody just didn't do the calculation, but that was because they were in the wrong mindset. So you you have to put yourself in the right mindset, Damien. That's the change is all about the mindset as you've been talking about and getting the right mindset. You know? Am I here? Should I be here in the I need to question everything because this is a safety critical issue, or, hey. This is a time for experimentation to learn and develop and grow.Ryan Ware [00:22:25]:Yeah. Yeah. I mean, I I'm a child of, you know, the eighties and the challengers. A perfect example for me of one where information's sort of there, and sometimes we're afraid to talk about it. Sometimes we're whatever the reason. Right? And I just think that creating that safe zone is you everyone can say we're creating a safe zone of kind of that learning environment. But by by really as leaders, if you're going through a change, getting just going through questions, getting to everybody's curiosity gets them to become more willing participants. But you don't have to start it with a change per se.Ryan Ware [00:23:06]:You don't have to be going through a massive change to begin building a stronger relationships with change. You just have to sort of start with yourself and something you've been thinking about, something you wanted to learn, something you wanted to try, you know, anything to go into that that exploration. SoStuart Webb [00:23:27]:Ryan, I I I'm very aware that I've been sort of asking you questions that have sparked my curiosity, but possibly are the wrong questions for, people, who have sort of, understanding of this. And and and there must be one question that you really think at the moment I should have by now asked, and it's very, it's very foolish of me not to have asked it. So I'm just gonna ask you to tell me what that question is. What is the question that I should have asked you? And and, obviously, once you've you've posed the question, you're the expert. You're gonna have to answer it for me, which is, which is the only way that, I can I can get through doing this? So what's the question, Ryan, that I should have asked you by this stage?Ryan Ware [00:24:05]:Yeah. I think I'll I'll stay, I'll stay in a little bit of just kinda giving, an opportunity for the for the listeners to to test something. So it would probably be is, like, what is one thing that they could do starting right now in order to, kind of reframe their thought on relationship with change? And I would say this goes back to that change mindset ebook, which has some strategies in there. But I would just I I typically like people to just start with something in their their life that it could be small like, pick a small thing that you could just win on or something that you've known your whole life, and you haven't really questioned it. And the reason I say something like that is, as a kid, you know, for a long time, we thought, you know, something happened to a child actor, in a life commercial. Because we were told that, and we believed it, and we never validated. And your whole life, you go through these things like, hey. Something something might be true.Ryan Ware [00:25:15]:So my question my question for them would be is pick something in your life that you were taught and you believed pretty much your whole life, but you've always felt like, there's no way this is valid. There's no way it's exactly like this. And maybe it sounds a huge impact, but just start asking the question. Where did I learn it? Who taught it to me? Who taught it to them? Is it still valid? What situations were different? What would have to be true today in order for this to be false or even further in the truth? Just to start to stretch your mind into it's okay to ask questions. It's okay to start to wonder, like, I don't know. I don't know if this is real. I don't know if this is true. And I would pick on the construction industry and say, like, because we're taught, that's exactly how we do it, or how we design or how we set up a sheet or whatever, in a set of documents, that doesn't mean it's true.Ryan Ware [00:26:19]:It could be something that someone set into motion years ago and just happens to become part of the process, but it's not real. And I think you just have to be willing to start asking questions and see where you get and just just to test it. You know? Just stretch yourself a little bit into this new way of thinking opposed to sitting in this current state of, like, well, I just I think it's too hard to go through the change. I don't wanna ask the question. What if somebody thinks I'm not intelligent enough because I didn't know the answer? Or, you know, because I've been here for five years, I've been doing it. Will I look, you know, silly or embarrassed? Because, you know, you read the book Traction or anything in kinda operation systems and think through it. They'll say, like, hey. If you're not embarrassed, you haven't gone deep enough.Ryan Ware [00:27:11]:But I I would just say, like, it's you don't have to be embarrassed by it. It actually is this moment of, like, like, an moment. It's actually this beautiful like, I keep talking about this beautiful thing that has changed, which is that's where you're growing. That's where you're learning. It's not where you're actually being downgraded or suppressed. You're in you're in an area of this freedom to to, yeah, you know, sort of explore your, kind of a beginner's mindset again ofStuart Webb [00:27:47]:I love that. I love that. And I think that's a really important message as we come to the end of this because, you know, change doesn't have to be embarrassing. Change doesn't have to be, I can only do it if I'm really hanging out there. Sometimes the incremental, sometimes the small steps to help you get there can be just as effective, and it's about taking yourself from the the mindset of I just wanna be comfortable through to the curious, which actually is probably the biggest shift that you can go through. Mhmm. Ryan, what a, a lot to think about, and I'm really grateful for the fact that you you spent sort of twenty, twenty five minutes with us just sort of talking us through some of that. Thank you so much.Stuart Webb [00:28:34]:Listen, I I'm just gonna do a little tiny bit of self promotion at the end of this. If you would like to get onto the mailing list so that you get an email, once a week, which sort of tells you who's coming up and so that you can join the the the the the LinkedIn live to to listen to some of the real experts in this, in this sort of stuff like Ryan talking to you, go to, www.systemize.me/subscribe. It's as simple as systemize.me/subscribe. And there's a simple form. It asks you for your first name and your email address, and that's it. And you'll get an email from me that just basically sort of, sets out who's coming up, what they're gonna be talking about, and you can come on and ask questions and and talk to people like us as the knowledge that people like Ryan have got. Ryan, thank you so much for spending a few minutes with us. Really appreciate you spending that time, and and I look forward to, to spending a bit more time with looking at what you're talking about and and learning more because I think, change is gonna be, the one constant that we can all agree is never going away.Ryan Ware [00:29:40]:Yep. Thank you, Stuart. Appreciate it.Stuart Webb [00:29:42]:No problem at all. Thank you. Get full access to It's Not Rocket Science! at thecompleteapproach.substack.com/subscribe

Who is Kimberly?Kimberly Gawne is a dedicated professional in the field of alternative education, known for her insightful critiques of the traditional public school system. With a focus on Canada and the United States, Kimberley frequently addresses a common concern shared by parents, educators, and observers: the outdated nature of public school curricula, many of which have remained unchanged since the 1990s. Her work highlights the urgent need for educational reform and innovation, as she humorously notes that some educational materials are older than she is. 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Rockefeller education, educational history, digital education, parent educator communication, modern curriculum, real-world preparationSPEAKERSKimberly Gawne, Stuart WebbStuart Webb [00:00:32]:Hi there, and welcome back to five questions over coffee. I have my coffee here in front of me. I need it at the moment because a man has just stopped it started chopping down a tree outside. So if there's a noise, that's what it is. I'm delighted, however, to be here with Kimberly Gorn. Kimberly, is gonna be talking to us about providing alternative education solutions for parents who are dissatisfied with the public schooling system. So, Kimberly, I love I love the attitude you brought with you as well. You've promised me you won't have skate stage fright.Stuart Webb [00:01:06]:You're just gonna do it. So I love the attitude. Let's do it together. How are you doing?Kimberly Gawne [00:01:12]:I'm doing well. It's really nice to be able to chat with you. Thank you for having me on. I appreciate it.Stuart Webb [00:01:17]:No problem at all. So, look, Kimberly, let's start with the the obvious first question. For anybody who is, who is at the moment sort of maybe themselves, struggling with the public schooling system, what are the sort of sort of thoughts that they have? Who who are they? Who is it you're trying to reach, and what is it you're trying to tell them?Kimberly Gawne [00:01:38]:I would say that the I mean, that's a good question. I get that I get asked that a lot is what are the complaints. Right? Because, I work in the alternative education space, and so a lot of people say that, well, you know, what what complaints are there with the public school system? They asked me to specify. And I kind of make a joke of it, and I say, well, a shorter list is what's not wrong with the public school system. The most common ones that I hear from people in terms of complaints, whether they're parents, whether they're educators, or whether they're just kind of on the sidelines of looking at how public education works is the curriculum. The fact that the curriculum itself is so outdated, so outdated, especially in I I can't speak for European education as much, but in Canada and The US, public school education, some of those curriculums have not been updated since nineteen nineties. Like, they're older than me. Not to you know, like, people aging is a different thing.Kimberly Gawne [00:02:36]:Curriculums aging is quite another. I think it's really important to make sure that we have accurate and updated information that we're teaching to children, let alone, you know, with the framework that we're teaching as well, or that from which we're teaching. Mhmm. So curriculum is definitely the biggest one. That's the biggest complaint that I hear. The other complaint is, the classroom sizes. And there's no getting around that no matter how you look at it. Public school or private school, you are typically in a class of anywhere from 15 to 30 plus children.Kimberly Gawne [00:03:10]:And and that's not that you're not able to really talk to the kids. You're not able to really teach them, in the way that they learn best. Right? That's one of the biggest frustrations I see from parents. I also see that from educators, but on the different side of the perspective because they're expected to teach all 30 children to the best of those kids' understanding, and they just can't. It's not possible.Stuart Webb [00:03:33]:Great. So, you know, I think we we can all we can all identify with with people who have you know, if you're you're a business owner, you don't wanna be trying to sort of reach out to 30 customers at a time. So, you know, parents are in the same situation. So tell me, what are these people I often say this about sort of, you know, when somebody sort of sees a a business person that's tried to solve a problem, parents are trying to solve this problem as well. What what are the sort of things you've seen that they've tried to do and maybe made mistakes trying to solve as part of their, desire to get their children better educated as part of their frustrations with with watching this situation at their school?Kimberly Gawne [00:04:20]:I see I see some commonalities when it comes to parents, trying their best. And this is not to say that, you know, parents don't have good, good intentions. Of course, they do. We all have good intentions when it comes to our children, especially when it comes to their education. One of the common mistakes that I see parents making when it comes to their child's education is outsourcing it without any sense of responsibility, without any sense of responsibility. One of my favorite things to say is that the public school system is glorified babysitting. I get a lot of hate for that, but it's true if you think about it. What else are are parents doing other than sending their children to a public school that's going to just babysit their kids all day while the parents are at work.Kimberly Gawne [00:05:11]:If the parent themselves does not have any responsibility, any communication, any sort of, initiative to go and talk to the teachers, to go and get involved with the school activities, to go you know, if there's a PTA, go get involved with the PTA. If there's no responsibility on the part of the parent in terms of getting involved with their kids' education, the children are the ones that suffer because those are the kids that will fall through the cracks. Because the teachers, quite simply, don't have the brain space and or the time, to be quite honest with you, to give all 30 children the the best of what they are able to give them because they have Of course. They have, what, forty five minutes or fifty minutes or, you know, maybe seventy five if you're talking about high school. If you have a child whose parents are not involved and whose parents are not, as active in their school life, that child is going to suffer because nobody's looking out for that kid's best interest in terms of educationally speaking. Right? In in my in that specific context for me, no no one's looking out for their educational interests. So that's a really common mistake that I see parents making is outsourcing without any sense of responsibility. There's nothing wrong with outsourcing, but you still have to be involved because you're you as the parent are your child's first, you're you're the child's first barrier to or the first first guardian to, getting that good education, to be able to to speak for your child if they're, you know, in elementary school, they're in grades one through eight.Kimberly Gawne [00:06:43]:They're not really able to speak for themselves in terms of what's best for their best educational interest. You as the parent, that's your job. And if you're not saying anything because you're not involved, there that no one else is going to do that for you.Stuart Webb [00:06:59]:And I think that's a really good message that you've given with the fact that too much outsourcing is done without thought of the responsibilities you own as the sort of parent or, the the the, you know, if we we think of, you know, too many times people outsource things without really thinking about their responsibilities within the process, which is exactly what you've described. A parent just sort of, you know, says, well, I I don't know what else to do. I'm just gonna I'm just gonna leave it and hope for the best. And that's where things go wrong, isn't it? When you hope for the best, we often we often fail to realize that actually there, you know, there are things we can do. There are things we can the actions we can take in order to improve, if not if not, drastically change the situation.Kimberly Gawne [00:07:50]:Absolutely. Absolutely. And like I said, it's not there's nothing wrong with outsourcing because you can't do it all yourself. That's another mistake I see parents making is that they they can they're like, okay. Well, I'm gonna homeschool my children. I'm gonna do all of it myself. You will burn out so fast. Absolutely.Kimberly Gawne [00:08:07]:Yeah.Stuart Webb [00:08:07]:Yeah. You know, if you if you're if you're busy working or if you don't have the the necessary income in order to be able to afford to sort of have one parent take the time off, then then it becomes very difficult, doesn't it?Kimberly Gawne [00:08:19]:Mhmm. Yeah. Absolutely. Even if you have a parent, we have I have quite a few clients actually who that's a sort of, that's the sort of category that they fall into where there's one parent who is actively working and away from home, and then there's the other parent, usually the mom, because that's just how the dynamic works, who's homeschooling kids, who's chosen to make the time to homeschool the children. But when you have multiple children, I and I'm speaking from experience here, when you have multiple children that you're trying to homeschool in the same household at once, it is a lot. It is a lot. So there's nothing wrong with outsourcing, but you still have to be involved. Right? You can't just outsource with that and say, okay.Kimberly Gawne [00:08:57]:Now it's this person's job. I'm they you know, I'm I'm paying them the money. They'll just they'll just take care of everything. You as the parent still have to be an active participant in your child's journey, whatever that looksStuart Webb [00:09:09]:like. So is there a a piece of advice, an offer you can you can provide people who are currently watching this and going, this is me. This is me. I'm I'm kind of intrigued to know more. What what what is the valuable piece of advice that you would you would offer them?Kimberly Gawne [00:09:24]:I would say that the most valuable piece of advice I could offer parents at whatever stage they might be at in their child's journey, This is perhaps more of a reassurance than advice. It is never too late to start over. It's never too late to say, hey. Something needs to change because this isn't working anymore. Right? Yeah. And in order to say that, it requires a sense of accountability as to, like, hey. This isn't working for me. This isn't working for my child, more importantly.Kimberly Gawne [00:09:57]:What can we do to change it? Instead of sitting there and saying, oh, well, you know, it's already ruined. They're already in public school. You know, they're already in private school. It's it's not working, but whatever. What else do you do? I would encourage people to look outside the box. There's so many different solutions for alternative education these days, and public school is just not it's just not where it's at anymore in terms of preparing children for the real world, in terms of fitting a family's flexible lifestyle. It it is just not there. So my piece of advice, look around you, take stock of what the world is like, ask yourself, is this public school system preparing my child for what this world is going to be like in ten years or even in five years.Stuart Webb [00:10:44]:And I'd encourage everybody to go to the link that I'm just showing at the bottom of the screen at the moment, which is www.systemize.me/free-stuff. We'll have links to Kimberly's website, her LinkedIn profile, and and everything there so that you can you can find out more about what Kimberly's talking about here and and and understand the sort of actions that you can take in order to solve these problems if, you are, who, if you're one of the people that, that that you you feel it's Kimberly is talking to you at the moment. Kimberly, can I just sort of find out a little bit more about how you got to be well who you are today? What was it? Was there a book? Was there a was there a a course, a program, a life situation that eventually brought you to the realization that you need to take this sort of responsibility for stepping into the outsourcing breach, if I can put it like that.Kimberly Gawne [00:11:47]:Mhmm. I I just laugh. I'm just chuckling as you're saying that because it was definitely not a book. It's simply not a book or a course, or program. It was, as we mentioned, a life situation, that brought me to starting like, to to starting star students and to being able to, provide that for families. I graduated teachers college in March or rather in April, of twenty twenty. So ifStuart Webb [00:12:15]:people were to graduate.Kimberly Gawne [00:12:17]:I'm telling you. We went home, and it I I remember it to the day. It was Friday, 03/13/2020, because that was the Friday before March break. To make a long story short, we we decided we were taking two weeks, and I never saw my kids again that I was teaching. That was a that that was the five let me call that the the cherry on the icing on the cake of a long line of complaints that I had, with my with the public school system in my six years of post secondary education. So I really had to take a hard look once I graduated. I did that year. I had to take a hard look at, is this something I really want to do? And the answer was no, quite frankly, because it was not something that I was willing to sign myself up for.Kimberly Gawne [00:13:05]:It was not something that I wanted to have be my fulfillment. I could not I I could not see myself doing the a public school teaching job and coming home every day, Monday to Friday, for the next forty years, looking in the mirror and genuinely saying to myself, I did a good job today with those kids.Stuart Webb [00:13:26]:Yeah. Yeah.Kimberly Gawne [00:13:27]:That was what it came down to. That was what it came down to. I realized I could not do that. I could not look myself in the mirror and say I did a good job with those kids. I said if I can't do it after, you know, two years of being in school, in a school, how am I gonna do that for forty? For the next forty, right, or thirty or whatever my code would be in the public school system. So that I mean, that was where it started because I I was kind of I I said, okay. Well, that's not I I can't I can't do that. What am I going to do instead? And star students was born to make a long story short, star students was born from that.Kimberly Gawne [00:14:04]:It was born from the desire to do something different and the desire to see something different for the kids of this generation and for future generations because they don't deserve what they're getting in the public school system. They don't.Stuart Webb [00:14:17]:And and I think that's a that's a a brave action to take at a very tough time for the world anyway. But, I mean, that is a that was a that was a driving force clearly, and and I guess that's what led you to this, which is kind of what I'm expecting you to be thinking at the moment. Do you know he still hasn't asked me that killer question, which I just don't understand why he hasn't got this? So, you know, I'm obviously unable to think what that killer question is because otherwise, I wouldn't now be asking you to say, what's the question that you think I should be asking you so that you can really sort of get me to understand exactly the next actions I should take. So what's that question that you think you would like to answer? And then, obviously, once you've asked it, you need to answer it, Kimberly, because that's the way this works.Kimberly Gawne [00:15:05]:Right. The I would say the killer question that I always that is always the number one thing that people ask me when it comes to homeschooling. They find out that, you know, we provide homeschooling services and and tutoring services. Tutoring services is something that people can, understand because it's in our cultural schema. Right? When people find out that Star Students is very much about homeschooling and we provide a variety of homeschooling supports, the first question that people always ask without fail, when they when they talk about homeschooling is, oh my goodness. How are you gonna homeschool children? They need to be socialized. What do you mean you're taking it from public school or some sort of variety of that? Right? That is the killer question I get asked. I get asked that on podcast.Kimberly Gawne [00:15:51]:I get asked that by parents. I get asked that by, teachers, public school educators. Right? What do you mean? Are you gonna homeschool your children? You can't you can't do that. They won't be socialized. That's my killer question, I would say. Because the answer, I think, really shakes a lot of people. It really makes a lot of people think about how our world is set up. I very simply respond to that question, and I say, is public school actually educating your children, or is it indoctrinating them into the nine to five factory style workforce? Not one person.Kimberly Gawne [00:16:34]:Every single person has that look on their face. They just oh, you're right. If you look into the public school education, history, if you look into the history of how public school education got started, it was John d Rockefeller that started our public school education. Not to get on a history tip. I am a history fan. I'm a history major, actually. Not to get on a history tip, but John d Rockefeller started the public school education system with the intent with the publicized intent of making sure that he had factory workers and not thinkers. So if that doesn't say to you about the intentions of what the public school system intends to do to your children, if that doesn't say something to you, I I don't know what will.Kimberly Gawne [00:17:25]:That that's my killer that's my question. Gives people a lot to think about.Stuart Webb [00:17:32]:And I was about to say and I think that is an interesting point at which to say, this is where people let's go back once again. Have a look at what Kimberly's, Kimberly says in in her profile and and and the, the the website get and where where you talk about getting getting started with with homeschooling. So, Kimberly, I'm just gonna, I'm gonna leave people with that thought, and ask them to check you out further. And at this point, I'm just gonna say, look. If you would like to get onto the main list so that you get access to that free stuff or if you would like to, to to hear about the people that are coming up on the podcast coming up, go to this form, which is www.systemize, that's with an s, not a a zed or z,systemize.mesubscribed, s y s t e m I s e, Me forward / subscribe. And, you'll just get a it's just simple form, email, first name, and then you get an email once a week, which basically tells you about who's coming up on the podcast. Now outside my window, the tree is being heavily chopped down, so I don't know if you can hear that. So I'm just gonna thank I'm gonna thank Kimberly.Stuart Webb [00:18:48]:Okay.Kimberly Gawne [00:18:49]:So you're good.Stuart Webb [00:18:51]:Thank Kimberly for her time now. Kimberly, thank you so much for coming on to talk about this. I really hope that people do get on and, listen to some of this stuff that you're saying because I think it's important. Kimberly, thank you so much for being with us. I trust, that the kids continue to behave. I I know, I know in the background, you've got quite a lot of activity, so enjoy the time with them. They grow up very fast, and, eventually, they become less educated and less trouble, but an awful lot, a lot of my distant to you. So enjoy the time you got with them now, and thanks for coming on and talking to us.Kimberly Gawne [00:19:29]:Thank you so much for having me. It was a pleasure. Get full access to It's Not Rocket Science! at thecompleteapproach.substack.com/subscribe

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Who is Howard?Howard Polansky is a pragmatic individual who navigates life's financial intricacies with a focus on strategic decision-making. Recognizing common defaults in financial practices, he often critiques the conventional 30-year mortgage system prevalent in the United States. Polansky understands that while many opt to pay extra on their monthly mortgage to reduce the term, the fixed nature of the monthly payment remains unchanged, a topic he frequently discusses. His insights reflect a deep understanding of financial commitments, emphasizing the impact of additional payments and highlighting the etymology of "mortgage" as a lasting "death pledge." Through his observations, Polansky shares his wisdom on making informed financial choices.Key Takeaways00:00 "Cash Flow Chat with Howard"06:03 Pay Yourself First, Always08:01 "Ebook Insights on Home Equity"12:40 "Prepare Financially During Success"16:21 "Key Unasked Question"19:32 "Motivating Business Financial Freedom"_________________________________________________________________________________________________Subscribe to our newsletter and get details of when we are doing these interviews live at https://systemise.me/newsletterFind out more about being a guest at : link.thecompleteapproach.co.uk/beaguestSubscribe to the podcast at https://link.thecompleteapproach.co.uk/podcastHelp us get this podcast in front of as many people as possible. Leave a nice five-star review at apple podcasts : https://link.thecompleteapproach.co.uk/apple-podcasts and on YouTube : https://link.thecompleteapproach.co.uk/Itsnotrocketscienceatyt!Here's how you can bring your business to THE next level:If you are a business owner currently turning over £/$10K - £/$50K per month and want to grow to £/$100K - £/$500k per month download my free resource on everything you need to grow your business on a single page :systemise.meIt's a detailed breakdown of how you can grow your business to 7-figures in a smart and sustainable way————————————————————————————————————————————-TranscriptNote, this was transcribed using a transcription software and may not reflect the exact words used in the podcast)SUMMARY KEYWORDSCash flow, cash flow coach, financially led, debt management, high debt professions, medical debt, student loan debt, mortgage payments, fixed debt payments, paying off debt, interest reduction, offset mortgage, home equity line of credit, business owners, business cash flow, paying yourself first, tax payments, IRS, emergency fund, financial planning, risk management, business continuity, business loans, personal finance education, burnout, work-life balance, entrepreneur finances, insurance planning, financial ebook, income preservationSPEAKERSHoward Polansky, Stuart WebbStuart Webb [00:00:33]:Hi, and welcome back to It's Not Rocket Science, five questions over coffee. I haven't actually got a coffee in front of you at the moment. This is actually fruit tea, because if I drink too much coffee, after lunchtime, I start to go to sleep. And I don't wanna go to sleep right at the moment because I'm really interested in speaking with Howard Polanski. Howard is a he's a cash flow coach, who doesn't need to speak to one of those nowadays. Howard is the cash flow coach at Financially Led, and we're we're gonna get into what that means at the moment. But who doesn't wanna spend some time thinking about cash flow and how to preserve it in these days? So, Howard, welcome to It's Not Rocket Science, five questions over coffee, and I trust you're ready to take us through cash flow and financially led.Howard Polansky [00:01:26]:Thank you, Stuart. Thank you for the opportunity.Stuart Webb [00:01:30]:It's It's terrific. So let's start with, let's just start. You're you're you're a former dentist, so we'll get into how you ended up in this situation. But who is it you're trying to help with your advice on on cash flow and and financial matters overall?Howard Polansky [00:01:47]:Those that don't like being in debt. And if we're talking about people let me just use The US since that's where I'm based. Those professions that are high debt type of professions, medical doctors, dentists, chiropractors, optometrists, lawyers, where they just have these massive fixed payments that they're trying to navigate around. And sometimes it feels like all I'm doing is going to work to literally pay off these debts. When do I get to enjoy my life?Stuart Webb [00:02:25]:Yeah.Howard Polansky [00:02:25]:And and I'm not saying that there's not other industries that face that challenge, but those are the obvious ones that if there is a way for us to minimize the impact of those fixed debt payments, get them out of our lives sooner, pay less interest. Now all of a sudden, you have more money freed up at the end of each month.Stuart Webb [00:02:47]:And and and, Howard, I'm I'm sure you can you can sort of, you can help us to understand this, but was that a situation that you were in as a dentist? Did you find yourself wondering every day, why am I doing this? There must be an easier way to make a loss, and that's what you led you to where you are?Howard Polansky [00:03:05]:Well, I didn't know if that was gonna be the question now or it was gonna be question number five in terms of how I got into this. If you wanna wait until then, we can, or you want me to go through the story now, I will.Stuart Webb [00:03:16]:Yeah. I'll put it I'll put it to you as question five. Let's just talk a little bit more about how you, what you the the sort of things that the the people you've helped have got into the sort of trouble they have, and what are they trying to do to get out of it? What is it what is it you see when you sort of they they eventually engage an expert like you and you start dealing with them? So they they recognize eventually they they have a problem and they need to do something about it.Howard Polansky [00:03:42]:Yeah. So, I mean, one of the I hate to call it a mistake, but one of the ways that people are doing it just because it's either it's by default or by design. And so by default, they're like, I've got this mortgage. Let's just say that. And in The US it's a thirty, traditionally a thirty year mortgage. Well, I don't wanna pay on this for thirty years, so let me throw a little bit of additional money against this. So if I've got a $2,000 mortgage, let me put 2,200 and I know that's going to save me some time. The problem is, what's your payment the next month? It's still the $2,000 It does not change when you put extra money against the mortgage because the more mortgage is two French words put together, which literally means death pledge.Howard Polansky [00:04:39]:So the system is set up for you to make payments until the day you die or you're gonna die trying. This allows you and, again, you're we're over on different sides of the pond, so I'm not gonna keep this a secret. Over in The UK and Australia, they're known as offset mortgages. So the open ended mortgages where all of the money can go in to lower the overall balance of the debt. When you lower the overall balance of the debt, you're lowering the amount of interest you pay on a daily basis. And then when the expenses come due, you just take that much out, but you've got the excess now attacking the entirety of the debt versus the way that it's set up in The US. They have a one way street known as your house in front of you. You only make the minimum payment because you're like, if I put more money in, I can't get the money back out.Howard Polansky [00:05:42]:And when we don't have access to money, that's when people don't sleep very well. So that's the common mistake is how I'm just putting more money into this loan, but then if something happens, I get disabled, I get fired, I still have this fixed payment in front of me, and now I have no wiggle room.Stuart Webb [00:06:03]:Yeah. I I'm always very aware that a lot of business owners, disobey, for want of a better word, one of the golden rules which which I think is is something I hope you'll you'll agree with, which is they forget that they need to pay themselves first out of the income into their business. They're putting it against all sorts of other things, and then eventually they realize that there isn't anything left for them. And they they're left in a situation like you've just said where suddenly they are unable to pay the bills that have come in for their family, and they then have to get back on the treadmill and work even harder because they've now forgotten that they've got a life. And and I just think it's it's it's often this the the the the the golden rules of, you know, thinking about your cash flow and how you allocate it are so difficult for many business owners for for reasons because often we are not taught. We are not given the instruction early enough in our lives about how to manage money.Howard Polansky [00:07:04]:What's even worse than not paying yourself first is not only do you pay yourself, you take the money from the IRS that you have to pay them and use that on your expenses too. I've seen that situation happen also. That's never a good situation that I wanna be involved in.Stuart Webb [00:07:23]:Now if there's one thing you should definitely be very aware of is the tax man will find you and will hunt you down if you are if you are diligent in, not diligent in playing that that money off. Howard, look. The the the these must be times at the moment. People are are listening to you and thinking, I think I hear myself in this. This might be me. What valuable piece of advice or or or free free offer can you sort of help people with? And, and how would you sort of, you know, give them that that allow them to sort of access you?Howard Polansky [00:08:01]:Yeah. The probably the easiest way to understand a little bit more of the concept behind this is my ebook. So financiallyled.com, so that's just LEDfinanciallyled.com/ebook. It'll take you maybe about twenty minutes to go through and start to understand the three lessons on how and why this works. The second, if I'm okay if it's okay for me to get a second piece of advice, Stuart, is if you have lived in let's just keep it on the personal side for now. If you've lived in your residence for a number of years now, whether it's in overseas or in The US, it doesn't matter, Your house is probably appreciated substantially, and there is equity. There is cash literally trapped in the bricks. While you're employed, while business looks good, go get a home equity line of credit.Howard Polansky [00:09:08]:Have access to the cash because you just never know what's gonna happen in life. I mean, here's a perfect example. One of my clients is a dentist. She texts me back in November saying, guess what happened to me two months ago? I'm like, this is just out of the blue. I'm like, I don't know. COVID? It's like, no. Two ruptured aneurysms and a mini stroke. Mhmm.Howard Polansky [00:09:34]:Mhmm. She's 40 she's 46 years old, Stuart. I don't think this was in her life plan in terms of, oh, I'm gonna go I wanna be in the ICU and have brain surgery for three weeks sitting in a hospital. If it wasn't for having the business line of credit set up twelve to eighteen months ago, her business would be toast. That buffer of cash is what allowed her to keep paying the bills. Even though there was no money coming in, it was the access to cash that allowed her to pay her team, pay the bills so that she could get back to still having a a functioning business.Stuart Webb [00:10:19]:I've just put a link, on the the screen in front of you, Howard. I'm gonna put that story and the link to your ebook into our vault. Our vault, if you if it listen, guys, it if you're listening to this and you go, I need to do that. If you didn't capture what Howard just said, go to, Systemize, and that's the word systemize, but it's spelled with an s, not a zed, systemize slash free hyphen stuff. There's a vault there with with and and we'll put Howard's link, and we'll put that story in order for you to be able to sort of capture that and come back to it again and again and again because that is really valuable advice. I think that's a truth that everybody should be trying to do, Howard. It's not just dentists that have aneurysms. Anybody can have one of those.Stuart Webb [00:11:03]:You know, I I have a a a a friend who went on a very nice holiday, fell over, skiing, and they were in a similar situation. They were suddenly unable to work. And if they hadn't set up the right systems in place in in his case, it was the fact that his business carried on because he had set up teams that were working. But he had to you have to think ahead, don't you? You have to you do have to do exactly what you said. This might not be in the plan, but there is a risk that this could happen. So, therefore, I need to sort of deal with the risk before it happens, not as it happens because it takes time. These things take time to set up. They don't happen overnight.Stuart Webb [00:11:46]:You have to plan it. You have to think about it. You have to put that into your thinking, don't you?Howard Polansky [00:11:51]:Absolutely. And and look, you know as well as I do, when are banks gonna gonna be most, when are they gonna be most appreciative of giving you money? When you don't need it.Stuart Webb [00:12:06]:When you've got it.Howard Polansky [00:12:08]:That's exactly as soon as you're in distress, they're the last people that wanna help you. So get this set up while things are going goodStuart Webb [00:12:18]:Yeah.Howard Polansky [00:12:19]:And just have it there just in case because stuff happens. I mean, we're live, so I definitely don't wanna say what I normally say, but stuff happens. And it's just far easier to have this all in place before any of this stuff happens because we know it's happened to everyone. It's a it's part of life.Stuart Webb [00:12:40]:It is. And, you know, there's an old there's an old story about a man walking down the road, it's pouring with rain, and he sees a farmer digging a well. And he turned around and said, why are you digging the well when it's raining? And he said, because now the ground is soft and the digging is easy. The last thing you wanna be doing is digging a well when there is no water and the ground is hard. So if you're in a situation at the moment where your business is still doing well, I know we're going into some, economically interesting times at the moment, but if you've got a business that's doing well, now's the time to be digging that well ready for when, perhaps the the ground hardens and it's not quite as easy digging. Howard, I'm I'm I'm gonna gonna, gonna get on with this because otherwise, I think we'll be here for many, many hours talking about this. So was there a sort of we we sort of talked about the the the origin of your sort of, a realization that financially led was the way that you wanted to go. Was there a a books, a course, something that led you from from where you are as a dentist now to being, the guy that tries to advise other people that, they need to think about their cash flow?Howard Polansky [00:13:50]:Yeah. The the one book which really helped in terms of solidifying this whole concept, the author's name is Harsh Gill, h a r j is the first name, g I l l. And it's the book is something like pay off your debt sooner. That was the first time I ever heard in terms of this offset mortgage, they call it the Australian mortgage or whatever. And I was like, oh my god. This is the most logical way I've ever seen in terms of being able to pay off debt. It doesn't have to be a house. It can be student loans.Howard Polansky [00:14:29]:It can be cars. It can be business loans, whatever it is. I just realized that once I was able to utilize this for myself and I got my I got down to a $24 house payment, which might be about £20 for you. I shared that with another dentist and he could not believe what he was seeing and is like, can you help me? And I'm like, I think so. And he ended up paying off his house in eight months instead of thirty years. Wow. Wow. And and that and that's when it really the light bulb went off.Howard Polansky [00:15:07]:And then later on, I was like, wait. I think I can help apply this idea to businesses because if the business has more cash flow, where's it gonna spill over? It's gonna spill over to that owner's personal life, which is where I was trying to make the impact anyway. And the answer is, yeah, it works beautifully, for the average business owner, the cash flow improvements been over $65,000 in year one. SoStuart Webb [00:15:39]:But again, notHoward Polansky [00:15:41]:doing anything crazy.Stuart Webb [00:15:43]:For those that want a personal testimony, I had an offset mortgage. We became mortgage free quite a while ago, and, I'm very grateful for the fact that I found it. So, Howard, perhaps perhaps if I'd got this advice from you many years ago, I'd I'd have to but but I found it myself. So they're a great thing. They're a great thing.Howard Polansky [00:16:03]:For the right person, if you're gonna go and just, you know, spend on Louis Vuitton and Lamborghinis and and trips around the world and you don't have the cash flow to back that up, please don't do this. You are going to get yourself in trouble.Stuart Webb [00:16:21]:I will I will not I will not immediately go out and buy a Lamborghini then. I will I will keep that. I'll keep what I've got at the moment because, clearly, that would be the wrong wrong thing for me. So, Howard, let let me let me let me sort of, help you get back out to helping people do this rather than talking about it. Is there a question that you think I should have asked you in these questions? Is there one thing that you're thinking? I wish you'd hurry up and get to the really important question. And, obviously, once you've posed the question, you need to answer it because I don't know what the question is at the moment.Howard Polansky [00:16:55]:We've kinda hinted at it before. How the heck does someone go from being a dentist to doing this?Stuart Webb [00:17:02]:Let's talk about it.Howard Polansky [00:17:04]:Yeah. So I tell people now sometimes life leaves you little clues and other times life hits you with a two by four. My two by four moment was Sunday morning, Memorial Day weekend twenty eighteen. Jaden, my older son, is 12 years old. I'm sitting next to his bed. He realizes I'm there and he says, Dad. His voice is barely above a whisper. Yeah, buddy.Howard Polansky [00:17:30]:I lean over the bed, I put my ear over his mouth to make sure I can hear him, and he says three words I'll never forget. Am I dying? Oh. Twelve days earlier, Jaden came home with a stomachache. Three days after the stomachache were in the ICU at the Children's Hospital having emergency surgery. Woah. It was a it was appendicitis that turned septic, twenty nine days in the hospital, 19 of them in the ICU, eight straight days of sedation because he went to the Operating Room 5 times. After they take the tube out of his throat, they give him methadone and morphine to bring him down from the drugs he was on. So my 12 year old son looks like a heroin addict coming down from a high, and the very first question he will only ask me are those three little words, am I dying? My first breath was, did I hear him correctly? My second breath was, do not lose it right now.Howard Polansky [00:18:34]:I look him in the eyes, and I tell him, no. You're not dying. You've had prayers from thousands of people all around the world, and you're gonna be just fine. He looks at me, he knows I'm telling him the truth. He closes his eyes to get more rest. I walk outside the room and then I broke. I was already miserable. I was burnt out from sixteen years of dentistry.Howard Polansky [00:18:57]:And one thought seared into my mind, if life is this fragile and I'm unhappy with the path that I'm on, burn the ships, it's over. That's what I did. I sold my practice September 2018, just walked away. And if I didn't make the bold move of walking away from dentistry, I would have never had this $24 house payment and never took the shot to open open a new business and do this. So that's that's the one question, Stuart.Stuart Webb [00:19:32]:Howard, if if if that is the story that motivates people to get and think about their cash flow situation, to manage their business in such a way that they turn it from being a millstone around their neck to something which is actually an asset and something which brings them the financial freedom that you got from making that decision. I trust and pray nobody has to go through what you went through to make that decision, But we can all learn from the fact that you cannot regulate, cannot plan for life to continue being the joy that it is. So if it is currently raining in your business and the ground is soft and you are not currently digging the well and taking advice from people like Howard, I would encourage you, please go and find that stuff in the in what we've said with that, Howard. Get that ebook and get on and listen to some of the brilliant advice. Howard, listen. That is a hugely, humbling story for me to have listened to, and I'm grateful for the fact that you spent just a few minutes with us giving us that story. Let me just let me just be slightly flippant now and just say please come subscribe to our newsletter list because I would love you listening to us now to to be able to get and hear people like Howard talk about these stories and really motivate you to make your business better. If you go to www.systemize.me/subscribe, there's a simple form.Stuart Webb [00:21:06]:It just asks for your first name, your email address, and that's all I want from you. Just so I can send you an email once a week saying we've got this really great guest coming up tomorrow. Come listen to some of the stuff they do, and you can listen to some real truth bombs, like Howard's given us today. Howard, that is a powerful way to end. I'm not really wanting to say very much more other than thank you very, very much for coming on and motivating us to get control of our finances and our cash flow. And and and thank you for taking the steps that you've taken in order to be that, that cash flow coach.Howard Polansky [00:21:41]:Stuart, thank you for the opportunity.Stuart Webb [00:21:44]:It's been brilliant. Thank you. Get full access to It's Not Rocket Science! at thecompleteapproach.substack.com/subscribe

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Jesus is our passion is birthed out of a relationship. “He who loves Me” It's in relationship that He begins to manifest Himself to each of us. In a Live Like… “Jesus is our Passion” life, we have to realize that it is a life-long process of surrender that keeps us open to transformation, by getting to know Jesus.

SCRIPTURE2 Timothy 1:5-6“To Timothy, my dear son, I long to see you so that I may be filled with joy.  I am reminded of your sincere faith, which first lived in your Grandmother, Lois and in your mother, Eunice.  And I know and am persuaded that that faith now lives in you also.”REFLECTIONFather RonMUSIC“Gentle Reflections” (Instrumental)“Go Into the World” by Tom Booth, performed by Sunday 7pm ChoirBONUS CONCERT FRIDAY"Good Morning" by Mandisa, featuring Toby MacOh, oh, oh, ohOh, oh, oh, oh, ohOh, oh, oh, ohOh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, ohWave away my yesterday'Cause I'm leaving it behind meHello sunshine, come what mayI feel something new inside meI hear the birds singingNow my alarm's ringingGet up, get up, hey!It's a good morning!Wake up to a brand new dayThis morningI'm stepping, I'm stepping, stepping on my wayGood morningYou give me strengthYou give me just what I needAnd I can feel the hope that's rising in meIt's a good morningOh, oh, oh, ohOh, oh, oh, ohOh, oh, oh, ohSlow down, breathe inDon't move aheadI'm just living in this momentI've got my arms raised, un-phasedJump out of bedGotta get this party goingI went to bed dreamingYou woke me up singingGet up, get up, hey!It's a good morning!Wake up to a brand new dayThis morningI'm stepping, I'm stepping, stepping on my wayGood morningYou give me strengthYou give me just what I needAnd I can feel the hope that's rising up in meIt's a good morningOh, oh, oh, ohOh, oh, oh, ohOh, oh, oh, ohNow I'm smiling, and I'm kissing all my worries goodbyeGot the feeling, if I spread my wings I might even flyYou are my truth, my wayGive me the strength to sayGet up, get up, get up'Cause it's a good morning, heyMr Mac to the micHey, top of the morning to you 'disaYou smoothie, me ice cold pizzaCafe au lait, latte dahYou do the zumba, but I do notGive me like half a marathonI'll give you the gospel of St JohnHits me like a wake-up bomb'Cause we both know that His mercy flowsIn the morningWake up to a brand new dayThis morningI'm stepping, I'm stepping, stepping on my wayGood morningYou give me strengthYou give me just what I needI can feel the hope that's rising up in meIt's a good morningWake up to a brand new dayThis morningI'm stepping, I'm stepping, stepping on my wayGood morningYou give me strength, you give me just what I needI can feel the hope that's rising up in meIt's a good morningTop of the morning to you 'disaHey, top of the morning to you girlTo-to-top of the morning to you 'disaMorning little Miss SunshineMan, you morning peopleHa, ha, ha, no, I'm serious

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