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 Good morning, Miracle Commuters. Today, I want to talk a little bit about head games. Head games are what we do to fuel negative emotions in our heads. As a result, we get more of what we don't want, distort things, exaggerate things, or amplify things that we don't necessarily need in our lives. We could focus on being more positive or mindful with how we analyze or even think about situations in our heads. A lot of time as we are. Catastrophizing things in our head that have even happened. So I think it's essential to. Sit down and think about some of the thoughts that we may have, whether they're positive or negative and use them to identify and weed out some of the awful thoughts that we might have. So you can move away from it. The bad ideas and focus on more of the good things or the ideas and thoughts that can bring you joy. And your situation. This is a little bit of a long list. So, bear with me here, but amplifiers are first things first. A lot of times, we have. Emotions that magnify unpleasant situations. And that looks at extreme words, like always or never, or no one or every time. Virtually. Nothing in life falls to an extreme, and nothing is almost always that black and white. So when we start to think about. Amplifiers mean to start a stop and say, I bet you, no matter what it was, or some type of other scenario that could happen, that could be positive. And. Delay or fix the situation at hand. So be careful with amplifiers and especially extreme words. Like always, never, no one, and every time. Another bad head game is feelers or the attempt to accept a negative feeling as accurate or without questioning it. Sometimes, our negative emotions reveal a sort of deficiency in ourselves or someone else. And sometimes, they don't. So often, you may feel a simple distortion. Sometimes, an objective reflects the quality of your thinking more than the quality of your actual life experience. Dark feelings are important, but they are no substitute for the truth. So just remember, when you have a thought, it's not always the truth, and it's good to make sure that you stop yourself and say, Hey, is this reality, or am I exaggerating this? Or am I? I am getting a feeling out of this, and that's not the case. Guessers guesser thought, pretending what other people are thinking and then assume that they are thinking the worst. This is the one that I sometimes have to correct myself on, and quite often, This is like a trigger or an emotional response that we get from thinking about what other people are thinking, covering ourselves. This sometimes puts us on the defensive, which can kick off a cycle that is not very helpful or joyful and maybe even puts you mentally. It's a state of hate for someone who doesn't even deserve it. The definitely avoid guessers are trying to guess what someone else is thinking of you at any given time. And I think this leads to the next one, which is exaggerators. You're exaggerating your thoughts, transforming molehills in the mountains and triggering words like horrible or worse, ruin, shock, devastating, stunned, and outraged. These are all exaggerators that we put in our minds. And sometimes we do not need to use them. When we're thinking about scenarios or situations that have happened in the past or, unfortunately, things that haven't even happened yet. And I think it's essential to think of them as awful or like drama queen syndrome. Don't exaggerate something that hasn't happened or a situation that maybe wasn't as bad as it would be. The next one's identifiers inject harmless events with personal meetings. They have overestimated how the event is related to them. They take things too personally and interpret adverse events as personal attacks. So, for example, you get cut off in traffic and spill your coffee in your lap. Perfect for this, right? I might respond with the other driver who is out in front of me momentarily. I actively think that the other driver had carefully plotted to be in just a spot to do this on the interstate. But the truth is, they didn't. A lot of times, we all make mistakes when we're driving and commuting. And I think that you, if you give people grace, knowing that easily could have been you. You can realize that no one is really out to get you. And that we all have been irritated in situations like this. And we just have to number is a small moment sent something to derail you. For the rest of the day, change how you think or create more negative habits in your mind. Forecasting. It's another one. So, particularly predicting a worst-case scenario—sometimes even allowed before it even happens—and participating in an activity, solving a problem, or engaging in an important conversation. Forecasting is not necessarily a good thing to do. I think it's good to plan. It's good to have foresight into whatever you're going into or whatever you're going to say, but you don't want to doom forecast and come up with things that are not necessarily true or haven't happened yet. Cynical thinking, right? Cynics, have you had the knack for finding something wrong, even if there's only one thing wrong or nothing wrong at all? Despite all the good that they have, your mental radar always sees the bad. And I think this is one thing that I've struggled with over the years because, I know, in journalism school, they teach you to be cynical in some ways, which is not necessarily a good thing. Like always looking for the bad and the good and never trusting anything for face value, I think that one thing about being cynical is that it is a purpose in life. That's why we have this ability to be cynical and critical. But at the same time, I don't think it's good to live in that mindset because it never really comes to any good. Sometimes, you just have to find the positive and the negative, even if it is negative, too. So always. And mostly, avoid being cynical unless you have to, as a career, unfortunately. Blaming pointing fingers at someone else for their own problems, even if it's a rare problem caused entirely by someone else. Blaming. It is the opposite of responsibility, meaning that it was your responsibility. Still, you're apt to blame someone else and say it's so popular because it temporarily liberates you and gives you a short-term emotional fix. So if he feels better for the time being, it's you feel like it's good to blame someone else when you should take full responsibility. However, blaming others ultimately mobilizes you, holds you back, and cuts your legs right out from underneath your full potential for joy. So the blame is. Is like a dirty bomb. You don't want to blame unless you have to write unless it's just, but ultimately, even justified blaming is not appropriate in work in life. In my opinion. Finally, justifiers are mining for some reason why they are entitled or to have this negative emotion or harmful pursuit, losing sight of their vision, or justifiers are advocates for their own negativity. It manifests in language. If you only knew what they did, and I deserve to be upset. It's not exactly what Joy is made of, but now. Where are these all of these different emotions coming from? Hopefully, they're not coming from an area of justification. So, just to recap real quick, there are plenty of mind games that we play with ourselves, and sometimes our emotions and thoughts turn into these sort of head games that put us on the right or wrong path to success. And it could be anything from amplifiers to feelers, guessers, exaggerators, identifiers, forecasters, and cynics. Blamers and justifiers, try to remember which one you are or are not. If any of these resonate with you, then maybe it's time to rethink and reframe some of your situations and try to get some of that negativity out of your mindset, especially when it comes to work and play. Try to use it as an opportunity to remove the negativity. You can bring more joy into your life if you have more joy than the tough times in the low times. Sometimes aren't so bad. I hope this was helpful. I think it's helpful to re-read this stuff or revisit it every now and then because even when you are on top of your game, you can easily be at the bottom. We just had a few wrong turns. But hopefully. On your way in your commute, it's easy, safe, and successful. I hope you have a great day. And remember when you, win your commute. You can 100%. When the rest of your day Get full access to Scott Winterroth's Substack at themiraclecommute.substack.com/subscribe

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More Listener Questions!In this episode, Megan and Bill answer your questions on high-conflict topics that matter to you, including: How do you stop a high conflict person from calling state authorities on you? No prosecutor will charge my ex with filing a false police report. I'm already suing in civil court for damages, but this outcome will take years to conclude and she's still making threats to call the police. Is minimizing contact with an HCP ever acceptable? Are there any circumstances where it might actually be what you would recommend? What is your take on long term abuse of power, and whether or not it's ever ok to draw a line and say, “I'm just going to go minimal contact so I can maximize the energy I can spend with our kids”? Can you discuss how high conflict people may present and not normally yell and scream or argue? Links & Other Notes BOOKS Don't Alienate the Kids High Conflict People in Legal Disputes ARTICLEQuick Tips for Controlling Communications with a Hostile Ex COURSE New Ways for Families: Parenting Without Conflict (for court-ordered mandatory parent education requirement) New Ways for Families + coaching Our website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/ Submit a Question for Bill and Megan All of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books. You can also find these show notes at our site as well. Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (02:35) - Minimizing Conflict with HCPs (09:51) - More Than Just Yelling and Arguing (14:00) - When They Blame You (19:12) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: More Listener Questions Learn more about our exclusive Family Law Consultation Group right here and sign up to be part of the 2024 session today!

A recent MSN article outlines “Types of Toxic People to Cut Out of Your Life.”Toxic relationships drain your energy and bring you down. Listen to this episode of Disrupting the Drift and find out how to recognize and root out Manipulators, Criticizers, Perpetual Victims, Blamers, and Energy Vampires.Baron Baptiste and David Masters reveal how to develop the ability to recognize the “beast” behind the “best,” the pleasant but false façade people show you.In a world full of manipulators and the manipulated, step out and be a neutralizer who tells the truth in love and refuses to join the conspiracy for mediocrity!Start or continue your daily meditation practice with this Meditation on Vision led by Baron Baptiste. CLICK HERE.  (www.baronbaptiste.com or www.baptisteyoga.com)Live your full potential in all areas of your life! Join me on Momentum Nation  (https://www.momentumbaronbaptiste.com)Is there a question or topic you'd like me to address on the podcast? Send me an email at disruptingthedrift@baronbaptiste.com. I'll take your suggestions and questions into consideration when planning upcoming episodes! Listen to the episode on your favorite podcast platform. Subscribe to Disrupting The Drift with Baron Baptiste on YouTube HERE.

REBROADCASTIn today's episode, we look at what makes up a high conflict person and talk about EAR Statements.Blamers. Narcissists. Accusers. Ragers. These are all people who may fall into the category of High Conflict Personality. Most of us don't act this way, but these people don't often realize they're acting this way and can't control themselves. So should you engage? Or should you learn how to deal with them? If you guessed the latter, you'd be right.Many people say these people are unpredictable, but Megan and Bill talk about how these people actually are very predictable... if you know what to look for. Several things can lead to people becoming HCPs. It could be genetic or could come from how they were raised. And because of this, HCPs can exist anywhere in the world. So how do you deal with them?Well, the first step is learning to identify them. They will usually blame anyone but themselves, and they'll never be able to connect the dots back to themselves. They rarely take responsibility for their own actions. But the feelings are so strongly in them that they can't have their mind changed. Once you realize you're dealing with an HCP, definitely don't tell them they're an HCP. It's likely going to trigger them further.If you're in a situation with an HCP, try an EAR Statement.Empathy. Attention Respect. These tools may seem opposite to how you'd normally deal with a person who is confronting you, but remember, you're not an HCP. The HCP needs this so you can get out of the situation you're in. It's hard, but give it a try.We'd love to hear your stories so we can talk through them on the show! Please visit our site and click the Submit a Question button at the top of the page. You can also send us an email at podcast@highconflictinstitute.com or send us a note on any of our socials.Please rate, review and share this show!Links & Other NotesSubmit a Question for Bill and MeganArticle – ‘What is a High Conflict Individual'Article – ‘Calming Upset People Fast with an EAR Statement™'Online course for attorneys/judges – Understanding & Managing High Conflict People in Legal DisputesOnline course for anyone – Calming Upset People with an EAR StatementOnline Course: Who Are High Conflict People?Book: 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your LifeBook: Calming Upset People with EARAll of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.

Relationships can be hard. They can be hard on a good day, let alone a bad one. I doubt there's a person on earth who hasn't put their foot in their mouth, said something they regret, or did something they wish they could undo. Yup, relationships are hard. So let's not make them harder than … Continue reading Born blamers

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In today's episode, we look at what makes up a high conflict person and talk about EAR Statements. Blamers. Narcissists. Accusers. Ragers. These are all people who may fall into the category of High Conflict Personality. Most of us don't act this way, but these people don't often realize they're acting this way and can't control themselves. So should you engage? Or should you learn how to deal with them? If you guessed the latter, you'd be right. Many people say these people are unpredictable, but Megan and Bill talk about how these people actually are very predictable... if you know what to look for. Several things can lead to people becoming HCPs. It could be genetic or could come from how they were raised. And because of this, HCPs can exist anywhere in the world. So how do you deal with them? Well, the first step is learning to identify them. They will usually blame anyone but themselves, and they'll never be able to connect the dots back to themselves. They rarely take responsibility for their own actions. But the feelings are so strongly in them that they can't have their mind changed. Once you realize you're dealing with an HCP, definitely don't tell them they're an HCP. It's likely going to trigger them further. If you're in a situation with an HCP, try an EAR Statement. Empathy. Attention Respect. These tools may seem opposite to how you'd normally deal with a person who is confronting you, but remember, you're not an HCP. The HCP needs this so you can get out of the situation you're in. It's hard, but give it a try. We'd love to hear your stories so we can talk through them on the show! Please visit our site and click the Submit a Question button at the top of the page. You can also send us an email at podcast@highconflictinstitute.com or send us a note on any of our socials. Please rate, review and share this show! Links & Other Notes Submit a Question for Bill and Megan Article – ‘What is a High Conflict Individual' Article – ‘Calming Upset People Fast with an EAR Statement™' Online course for attorneys/judges – Understanding & Managing High Conflict People in Legal Disputes Online course for anyone – Calming Upset People with an EAR Statement Online Course: Who Are High Conflict People? Book: 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life Book: Calming Upset People with EAR All of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books. Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.

In today's episode, we look at what makes up a high conflict person and talk about EAR Statements.Blamers. Narcissists. Accusers. Ragers. These are all people who may fall into the category of High Conflict Personality. Most of us don't act this way, but these people don't often realize they're acting this way and can't control themselves. So should you engage? Or should you learn how to deal with them? If you guessed the latter, you'd be right.Many people say these people are unpredictable, but Megan and Bill talk about how these people actually are very predictable... if you know what to look for. Several things can lead to people becoming HCPs. It could be genetic or could come from how they were raised. And because of this, HCPs can exist anywhere in the world. So how do you deal with them?Well, the first step is learning to identify them. They will usually blame anyone but themselves, and they'll never be able to connect the dots back to themselves. They rarely take responsibility for their own actions. But the feelings are so strongly in them that they can't have their mind changed. Once you realize you're dealing with an HCP, definitely don't tell them they're an HCP. It's likely going to trigger them further.If you're in a situation with an HCP, try an EAR Statement.Empathy. Attention Respect. These tools may seem opposite to how you'd normally deal with a person who is confronting you, but remember, you're not an HCP. The HCP needs this so you can get out of the situation you're in. It's hard, but give it a try.We'd love to hear your stories so we can talk through them on the show! Please visit our site and click the Submit a Question button at the top of the page. You can also send us an email at podcast@highconflictinstitute.com or send us a note on any of our socials.Please rate, review and share this show!Links & Other NotesSubmit a Question for Bill and MeganArticle – ‘What is a High Conflict Individual'Article – ‘Calming Upset People Fast with an EAR Statement™'Online course for attorneys/judges – Understanding & Managing High Conflict People in Legal DisputesOnline course for anyone – Calming Upset People with an EAR StatementOnline Course: Who Are High Conflict People?Book: 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your LifeBook: Calming Upset People with EARAll of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.You can also find these show notes at highconflictinstitute.com/podcast as well.

Human resource, Current scenario, Blamers about HR professional... Please be supportive to HR and try to achieve your goals.

"Blamers ask questions like: Why do umpires/coaches keep messing up my sports life? I just wish the umpires would quit making bad calls on me. Why can't people see it's not my fault? I didn't do anything wrong! Those who choose to learn from upsetting situations initially look at themselves and ask quality questions like: What part of this situation is my responsibility? What is one thing I can learn from this? What's another thing I can learn from this? What is one first step I can take to fix this trouble spot?" Greg Warburton is a mental conditioning training coach and had a 39 year career in counseling. We also co-wrote the book Ask More Tell Less for Coaches: The practical guide to mastering coach-athlete communication.

In a society of blamers, God shows how to be freed from the Blame Game and live in relationship with Him.

Owners are accountable and take responsibility. Blamers are victims and always look to blame someone else. Which one are you? In this podcast I reflect of the different personas. Which persona do you think is more likely to be the value creator?

Today, Charlie sits down with Nir Eyal. Nir is a lecturer, investor, and author of the bestselling book, Hooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Products. Getting distracted has been a 2500-year-old problem that even Plato had mentioned it. In this episode, they point out important aspects and ideas on why people are easily distracted in this day and age. Nil also gives away different strategies and pacts that are beneficial to avoid getting distracted. Tune in to learn more about how you can control your attention and your life. “We haven’t taken the steps today to prevent getting distracted tomorrow." - Nir Eyal In this episode: - The Blamers, the Shamers, and the Claimers - How do you consume things with intent? - Four strategies on how you can manage your time properly - The antidote to impulsiveness Resources: Men’s Program Shreddin8 - www.shreddin8.com Sculpting8 - https://sculptin8.com/welcome CJ Shredding Squad FB Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/cjoaching FREE Abs Training Course - https://cj8weekshred.com/freeabguide Book Your FREE Six Pack Strategy Call Here - https://cjtransformations.com/application Connect with Nir Eyal: Website - https://www.nirandfar.com/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/nireyal Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/neyal99/ Twitter - https://twitter.com/nireyal Connect with Charlie Johnson: Website - https://www.charliejohnsonfitness.com/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/CharlieJohnsonFitness/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/charliejohnsonfitness YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh_TVSETtwjxuAvn-AOqifQ

The myth of Distractions               We all know how important it is to take care of your body. Take care of your health. And I think this is the big myth or lie around self-help these days that, in order to sell more self-help books, authors need to make you think that there's some secret that you don't know. That if you're going to buy a diet book, it can't just tell you eat right and exercise. That's a very short book. Does anybody not know that if you want to do better at your job, guess what? You have to do? The work, especially the hard stuff that other people don't want to do. Does anybody not know that to have better relationships, you have to be fully present with the people you love? Does anybody not know this? We know this, the question is not. How do we know some magical secret that we already know?The question is why despite knowing what we need to do, why do we keep getting in our own way? The problem these days is that we keep getting distracted. And so that's why I wanted to gain this superpower. That if you asked me what super power I would most want? It would be the power to do, as I say, to follow through, to choose my attention, to control my life by deciding in advance, how I want to spend my time. That is the power to become indestructible.If you want to be productive, if you want to spend time in the office, if you want to build your business, I'm not averse to any of that. I'm not saying that people should spend more time with their kids than at work that's up to you and your values. And that's why it's really important for me to help people understand. I don't want to tell you what to do. If you want to play video games all day. Great. That's no problem. The difference is I want you to do whatever it is you want to do with intent, because if you don't plan your day, somebody is going to plan it for you. The social media companies, your boss, your kids, somebody is going to decide for you how you want to spend your time and how you are going to spend your life. If you don't decide for yourself upfront. So I want to help you live according to your values, no matter what your values are. So I'm not one of these chicken, little tech critics that says, Oh, social media is bad. It's melting. Your brain is hijacking your brain rubbish that's ridiculous. Anything you want to do, even the fun stuff online is great. You can do those things, but do them according to your schedule and according to your values, not the social media companies, not somebody else's values and calendar.The first step was really understanding what distraction is. And I thought this was one of these terms that everybody thinks they know, we all know what distraction is, but I found I didn't and words really matter and so I think defining what is distraction is super important. So the best way to understand what distraction is to understand what distraction is not. So if you ask most people, what's the opposite of distraction? Think for yourself here for a minute, what is the opposite of distraction? Most people will say it's focused. Obviously, but that's wrong. The opposite of distraction is not focused. The opposite of distraction. If you look at the origin of the word, the origin of the word shares the same route. With its opposite, which is traction. The opposite of distraction is traction. Both words come from the same Latin root, which means to pull. And you'll notice that both words end in the same six letters, ACTE IO, and that spells action. So traction by definition is any action that pulls you towards what you say you're going to do. Things that you do with intent things that help you live according to your values and help you become the kind of person you want to become.Things that you do with intent things that help you live according to your values and help you become the kind of person you want to become. Those are of traction. The opposite of traction is this traction. Distraction is that right? Action that pulls you away from what you plan to do. Anything that pulls you further away from your values, further away from becoming the kind of person you want to become. So this is really important because what this means is that any action can be traction or distraction. And the reason this is so pernicious is that it distracts us by tricking us into doing the easy and urgent stuff. Rather the important than the important. Tasks. And so that's why that's so dangerous. The other side of the coin is that anything can be traction.So when you ask for me, how did I start this? I started by turning my values into time. And this is incredibly important because values are another one of these words that people think they know what that word means, but they really don't. I certainly didn't to me, the definition of values are attributes of the person you want to become attributes of the person you want to become. So if you want to see what someone's real values are, don't listen to what they say. Look at two things, look at how they spend their time and how they spend their money. And if you think about it, the language we use around these two things are very similar. We pay attention, just like we pay with money. We spend time just like we spend money. These are two things that reflect our values. And so just as we wouldn't just give people a hundred dollar bills on the corner, if they asked for it, why is it that with our time and attention. We give it to anyone. The only way to call something a distraction is to know what it distracted you from.So if you can picture a number line with traction to the right distraction to the left. So let's go back to what we talked about earlier around traction and distraction, right? So if you can picture a number line with traction to the right distraction to the left. And now we have to ask ourselves what prompts us to take these actions, right? So we have two types of triggers. So imagine an error 0.2 arrows pointing in one from the top one to the bottom, bisecting this line. And so we have what we call external triggers, which can lead us towards traction or district. So we've got our traction. We've got distraction. Now we've got the things that prompt us to take these actions. We have what we call external triggers and internal triggers. External triggers are these usual suspects. These are the pings, the dings, the rings. Everything in our outside environment that can lead us towards distraction. And this is what people tend to blame. We tend to be blame our phones, our computers, our kids, our boss, our coworkers, and all this stuff outside. But in fact that is not the leading cause of distraction.It turns out the reason that we check our phones, the reason we tend to get distracted, 90% of the time is about what's going on inside of us, not the external triggers, but the internal triggers. What are internal triggers? Internal triggers are uncomfortable. Emotional States that we seek to escape from. uncomfortable emotional States that we seek to escape from boredom, loneliness, fatigue, stress, anxiety, uncertainty, these uncomfortable sensations that we will turn to something to try and escape. So when you're lonely, Check Facebook when you're uncertain before you scan your brain to see if you know the answer, just Google it when you're bored. Tons of solutions for boredom. We can go to check sports scores, stock prices, and the news. All kinds of different things can help us satiate this uncomfortable emotional itch. And so once we understand that once we understand that all human behavior is prompted by a desire to escape, discomfort, that distraction and procrastination. It's not a character flaw. There's nothing wrong with you. It's simply that we don't have the skills to deal with this kind of emotional discomfort in a healthy fashion that leads us to traction rather than distraction. So what that means, therefore is that time management. Requires pain management. Time management requires pain managementThe self-help industry really gives people a warped understanding of this goal that they put in people's brains that we should somehow always be happy. That somehow, if you're not happy, if you're not contented, if you're not hunky Dory in Nirvana land all the time, something's wrong with you. Nothing could be further from the truth. And if you think about it from an evolutionary standpoint, it makes no sense for us to be happy all the time. Think about how every self-help book is about finding your happiness. Every self-help book says we're supposed to be happy all the time. That is rubbish. Think about it from an evolutionary perspective. If there was ever a group of homosapiens. Our ancestors we're sitting around happy all the time and things were awesome and they were contented. Another group of homosapiens would have killed an eaten. Then that would not be an evolutionarily benefit trait. We need this perpetual disquietude this discomfort to drive us forward. That discomfort is not necessarily a bad thing. An internal trigger, remember an internal trigger, bisects, traction, and distraction.We want that disquiet too, because that's what makes us and the world better. The problem is. Is when it leads us, not towards traction, which is healthy, which is what we intend to do, but when it leads us towards distraction.Blamers or the shamersSo the blamers they say it's something outside of me. It's Facebook. It's Netflix. It's the boss. It's my kids. It's all this stuff outside of me. And of course, There's nothing really you can do about that. And then the other extreme is what we call the shame or the shamer right. Doesn't blame things outside themselves. They shame themselves, right. It's a strong internal trigger and the more we feel this uncomfortable emotional state, the more likely we become, guess what to seek distraction to escape that uncomfortable internal trigger. So we don't want to be blamers. We don't want to be shamers. What's the alternative? The third path is to be what we call a claimer, not a blamer, not a shamer, but a claimer claims responsibility, not for how they feel. This is a really important point. Many people don't realize this. You do not control your feelings. Is that again, you do not control your feelings. You do not control your urges. Think about the urge to sneeze, right? If you have the urge to sneeze. You would already have it. You can't control the urge to sneeze. All you can control is how you respond. The same goes with our emotions. You're not. Responsible for feeling that urge to check social media for feeling the urge, to eat that chocolate cake for feeling the urge to smoke the cigarette, whatever the case might be, you are not responsible for that. The only thing you are responsible for is how you will respond to that urge, how you will respond to that feeling. And the good news is that we can train ourselvesSo the first thing we want to do is to note the sensation. So psychologists tell us that if we can simply write down what it is, we're feeling that precedes the distraction. The next thing we want to do is to get curious. Rather than contemptuous, right? And then finally, what we want to do is to surf the urge now, by the way, all of this comes from acceptance and commitment therapy. This isn't some pet theory that I came up with. This has been around for a decade surfing the urge acknowledges that our internal triggers these uncomfortable emotions. They crest and then they subside just like a wave, A wave comes and then goes, but we the we don't think about emotions that way.10Minutes RuleSo here's a technique that anyone can use. It's called the 10 minute rule. The 10 minute rule says that you can give in to any distraction, but not right now. In 10 minutes. So whether it's, I really want to check email, not right now in 10 minutes. I really want a piece of that chocolate cake, even though I'm trying to cut back on sugar. Nope, not right now in 10 minutes. I really want to smoke that cigarette. Okay. Fine. But not right now in 10 minutes. Why is this so important? Why is it so powerful? Because we know that abstinence can backfire. That strict abstinence telling yourself no, rather than what I propose, which is not yet, is like pulling on a rubber band. If you pull on a rubber band, you pull. Eventually, if you keep pulling far enough, eventually you can't pull anymore. And when you let go of that rubber band, it doesn't just go back to where it started. No, it's going to ricochet across the room. And so that's what abstinence does to us. So the idea here is to not tell ourselves no, but to tell ourselves not yet. And so many times I'll just take out my phone. I'll tell the phone, set a timer for 10 minutes. I'll put my phone down and my job is to take one of two paths. So instead of, giving into that distraction, what I want to do instead is to say, okay, I can either get back to the task at hand, let's say it's writing or whatever it is. I said I was going to do with my time. Let me get back to that. Or I just need to sit with that sensation. I need to surf the urge. I need to explore it with curiosity rather than contempt and what you will find. It's amazing. That those 10 minutes, first of all, they pass by so slowly. It's amazing when you actually, the time it passes by very slowly and what you will find that nine times out of 10, when the alarm goes off. When the 10 minutes are up, you will have already been back to the thing that you said you were going to do. Yeah. That distraction just Crested and then went away. So the 10 minute rule is a wonderful technique that anybody can adopt right now. It's just one of dozens of other techniques that we can use to help us master those internal triggers.guilt is about, I did something that I don't like, shame is about. I don't like myself, Shame is about, I am bad versus what I did is bad. So releasing ourselves from this guilt that I am somehow a bad person. I think that's a big part of, I think, what might've helped you is releasing that shame and just focusing on, okay, how can I get better? How can I improve this behavior without this needless shame? People who are more self-compassionate are much more likely to reach their long-term goals that it's the people who talk to themselves the way they would talk to a good friend. and this is something that I think I really struggled with in the past is that I will be the worst bully to myself. What we need to remember is that whenever we talk to ourselves, remember to talk to yourself the way you would talk to a good friendTime BlocksI must be bad at time management. No, it's just that you've reinforced the self image that you are then of course, if you believe you are well, then, the war is over, you lost because you will act in accordance to those beliefs, which is why. We need to stop measuring ourselves based on output and rather measure ourself based on input that the kind of people who actually get way more done than the to-do list methodology is the people who measure themselves, not by how many, little boxes did I tick off because we know what people tend to do. Is the easy stuff. That's why, because they love that feeling of ticking off boxes. They never get to the actually important stuff. They just tick off the easy stuff, but more so the people who plan the input.We only have two ingredients time and attention. But how many of us plan for the input? We want all the output, right? So we want the output, but we don't plan the input then should we be surprised when we don't get it and putting it on a, to do list? Isn't going to cut it. So you have to plan the input. You have to have that time on your calendar in advance, or you're not going to get that out. There's no constraint right there. There's no constraint for, to do this. The beauty of using this methodology to become in distractible is that it doesn't matter how much money you have.The antidote to impulsiveness is forethought that when we get distracted, when we go off track and we've already established that this is the real problem. Today is not that we don't know what to do with that. We don't know how to stop getting in our own way. This is fundamentally an impulse control issue. So what's the antidote to impulsiveness it's forethought because there is a gift that we as human beings have that no other animal on the face of the earth has, which is the ability to see the future with higher fidelity. We can predict what is going to happen better than any other animal on the face of the earth. And so what that means is that there is no distraction

In-Flight Entertainment welcomes you to Marauder Radio starring Bob Zima, Frequent Flyer to Hell and Back. This podcast features Bob’s quirky insights and lessons learned from having to reinvent, reboot and rebuild his life at least TWICE now…all due to the “Bullsh!t of Life.” On today’s show, Bob discusses how to manage a relationship that you want when the one with whom you are connected blames you for everything and never knows what to do. Bob Zima is a middle-aged, over-educated, under-employed, overweight, white-guy who believes that when he tries less his life has more success. He’s is healing each and every day from addiction, bankruptcy, plenty of bad relationship, dumb-ass career decisions and the death of two of his children. He has also backpacked through Europe, talked with the Pope, played basketball with Michael Jordan, was selected as the clinical site supervisor of the year in Illinois and has had his picture taken with the Stanley Cup Bob is a licensed clinical professional counselor and improvisational comedy graduate of Chicago’s famed Player’s Workshop of the Second City.  He makes healing and counseling fun, entertaining and educational. Marauder Radio is a roller-coaster ride of mental health and healing ideas, a treasure trove of inspirational rants and witty lampooning of the psychological and religious industries in ‘Merica. Bob’s HOOYA (Head Out Of Your Ass) humor therapy encourages all to engage in a cranium-rectum extraction then get busying having fun and enjoying all that life has to offer.

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A new MP3 sermon from Bible Believers Baptist Church is now available on SermonAudio with the following details: Title: Boasters and Blamers Speaker: Dr. David Peacock, Pastor Broadcaster: Bible Believers Baptist Church Event: Sunday School Date: 6/14/2020 Bible: 2 Timothy 3:1-2, Mark 3:28-30 Length: 39 min.

A new MP3 sermon from Bible Believers Baptist Church is now available on SermonAudio with the following details: Title: Boasters and Blamers Speaker: Dr. David Peacock, Pastor Broadcaster: Bible Believers Baptist Church Event: Sunday School Date: 6/14/2020 Bible: 2 Timothy 3:1-2, Mark 3:28-30 Length: 39 min.

Quarantine Week 10 - This week Black Creators on TikTok fight against censorship and win and white folks heap blame on black people for the impact of Coronavirus.  WTF?!?! Prepare yourself for Crazy and the King! Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CrazyAndTheKing More on Torin and Julie: Julie: https://www.linkedin.com/in/juliesowashdisabilitysolutions Torin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/torinellis  Show Links: Cred:  Production and Music by: Marcel "DjCellz" Boykin  

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David aka D-Brew checks in with all the Blamers to give an update on the podcast and the Coronavirus Disease (COVID-19) in general.  It's a madhouse out there people, so be safe, and keep your germs to yourself.  

Getting distracted is a huge time stealer. You plan to accomplish one task, but along the way, you see something interesting while scrolling the Internet. By the time you look at the clock, you'll realize you've been scrolling mindlessly for hours. How can we remove these distractions that take us away from our plans and goals? In today's episode, Nir Eyal, the author of the book "Indistractable," joins us to talk about the motivation and strategies that can help us minimize and manage distractions from our lives. Nir is an active angel investor and is an expert in behavioural engineering, where he incorporates elements of behavioural science in software design to develop habit-forming products for businesses.  You'll surely be a changed person after this episode. So sit back and indulge in all the tips and tricks while tuning in to the show, and become inDISTRACTable! How To Control Your Attention And Choose Your Life (02:36) The world is going to become more distracting as technology becomes more pervasive and more persuasive. The bifurcation between people: Those who control their time, attention, and their lives, and those who allow their time and attention to be controlled by other people Focusing on our relationships is a critical macro skill in all facets of life. Even if we go on a digital detox, we'll still find ways to get distracted. We can only get the best out of tools and technology if we know how to use them correctly. What Is Distraction? (06:18) Etymology: Traction and distraction came from the same Latin root "trahere" which means to pull. They end in the same six letters, which is "action." A traction is any action that you take that pulls you towards things that you do with intent. The opposite of traction is distraction. It is anything that pulls you away from what you plan to do with intent. Anything can be a distraction or traction, whether we plan it or whether it's something we do impulsively. Something is going to eat up your time and attention unless you decide in advance how you want to spend your time. The Root Cause (08:27) The question is not "What do we do?" The question is "Why don't we do the things we know we should?" Homeostatic response: Everything we do is about the desire to escape discomfort. The root cause of all distractions is uncomfortable emotional states or "internal triggers." Motivation And Satisfaction (11:48) Hedonic adaptation: Even when something good or bad happens to us, we gravitate towards our baseline level of happiness. In some way, Nir says the self-help industry perpetuates this myth to our detriment by feeding the message that we're supposed to be happy all the time. Feeling bad is part of the human condition.  "If satisfaction and pleasure were permanent, there might be little incentive to continue seeking benefits or advancement." Four Strategies To Become Indistractable (15:33) The first step is to master the internal triggers, to understand what is driving us towards distraction. Second, make time for traction. Timeboxing or making an implementation intention is planning in advance what you're going to do and when you're going to do it. Third, hack back the external triggers. Lastly, prevent distractions with pacts or precommitments that we can make with ourselves or with other people to avoid temptation. Three Types Of Pact (20:40) Effort pact: A friction that prevents us from doing something we later regret Prize pact: Monetary disincentive to getting distracted Identity pact: Self-image can help us stay true to what we say we're going to do The Pattern Of Distraction: Liminal Moments (25:42) The three potential causes of distraction: planning problem, external trigger, or internal trigger. Distraction tricks you into thinking that what you're doing is what you intend to do. If you accomplish something, but it's not what you were initially planning to do for that given time, that is still a distraction. Managing Self-Talk (29:06) Utilize self-compassion. More self-compassionate people are much more likely to achieve long-term goals. Don't be a shamer. Negative self-talk stirs up more internal triggers. Don't be a blamer. Blamers blame something outside themselves. Be a claimer. Claim responsibility for all of your actions. You can't affect how you feel; you can only change how you respond to those situations. Resources Get a copy of Nir Eyal's book, "Indistractable: How To Control Your Attention And Choose Your Life." Indistractable Tools Nir's Free Schedule Maker Indistractable Supplementary Workbook Connect with Nir through his website—NirAndFar, and get all the tools and resources that can help you manage your time and attention. You can download a copy of my ebook 10 Key Traits of Top Business Leaders here. For more podcast episodes and other resources, visit my website at John Murphy International. Thanks for tuning in!

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At age 23, author, coach and entrepreneur Brad Blazar quit college and became the J. R. Ewing of the family. This was brought to an abrupt stop in the late '80s due to The Reform Act and collapsing oil prices, but it was not about to slow him down.  Brad went on to find his true passion in life, raising money and helping people. He has raised billions of dollars in recent years for investment sponsors and those in real estate, in addition to closing the largest sales for multiple companies. Now Brad consults with companies needing access to capital and speaks on entrepreneurship after the success of his book. “I tell entrepreneurs you don’t need to have all the answers and understand everything when you open the doors to your business, but you need to commit and take action and keep moving forward.” Brad Blazar Listen today as Roland and Brad talk through his story and the lessons he has learned along the way. This is a fascinating episode and it will certainly help you to close more sales, raise capital and UP your game! To dig in further with Brad, check out his coaching website. “It's not enough to identify limiting beliefs… Let's replace that with a positive one, and ask yourself, what do successful people do that I’m not doing? Beliefs are reinforced by habit.” Brad Blazar Listen Today For The hard questions that most salespeople don’t ask, that would help them close. Why he decided to consolidate and dissolve his oil business, and if he would do it again. His thoughts on getting a degree and how to get the most out of college. How writing down your goals will 5X your earning. What he would tell people who see market changes coming to their successful businesses. His theory on Blamers, Dreamers, and Game-changers. Which one are you? Why you need to lead with your value and not with what you do. What to look out for if you want to hire someone else to raise money for you. A strategy and script for calling prospectives over the phone. The mindset that makes you more resilient to rejection, makes cold calling easier. Five Steps To Raising Capital Step 1 Buy a list of high net worth accredited investors (google it online). Target affluent zip codes, households with an income of 3-400 k, a home valued at 1.2 million and aged between 55 and 72 years old. Step 2 Do a mail merge and invite them to a (free) nice dinner or event (listen for a sample script). Step 3 At the event, be sure to dress professional but not over the top. When everyone is seated, introduce yourself and give a solid powerpoint presentation with an accompanying folder. In that folder, Brad recommends having third party articles surrounding what you’re doing, and a one-page fact sheet that highlights the opportunity. During the evening provide a time for networking and Q&A, and let them know that you’ll be following up in the next few days. Step 4 For those that are interested, schedule one-on-one time, if possible at their office, otherwise at a country club or at their home. Make it as easy for them as possible. • Bring a PPM, any financial projections, and extra copies for their friends and contacts. • Let them know with absolute confidence that you are going to treat their money as if it’s your own (listen for more details). • Tell them about your team and how you’re going to report. • Offer to go WITH THEM to talk it over with their CPA or Attorney (and they may even end up wanting to invest too!) “People of wealth have a sixth sense. They can tell when you’re not talking to them eyeball to eyeball. You have to walk in strong. People like to do business with people they perceive are just like them. If you don’t have the confidence there’s no chance in hell of closing that sale.” Brad Blazar Click to find us on Apple Podcasts and other podcast players

"There are three types of people. Blamers, who blame everyone around them for their lack of success; the Dreamers, who got great goals but never take action; the Game Changers, those are the people that figure things out, they make it happen, they take action." Brad Blazar went from junior broker to millionaire founder of an oil company at the young age of 23.  He then lost it all and went broke.  After discovering some major mindset shifts, he was able to reinvent himself and raised over $2 Billion dollars for other companies. Additionally, he has set records for multiple companies closing the largest transactions in their history - including one that was worth $11 Million dollars.  Today he's the founder of 'The Art of Beliefology'  a concept and program that helps individuals overcome limiting beliefs that are holding them back from  greater success in life.     Some highlights of the Episode: - The most common limiting beliefs and how to overcome them. - How to raise capital for your business - What the Play Drive is and how to leverage it - How to set goals and achieve them - 5 things every goal needs to have - The Build a Beast method - ...and a lot more!!    Connect with me on Instagram: @carolinamillan and Twitter: @carolinamillan   FREE branding report: https://personalbrandingsecrets.me/ebook    Enjoyed the episode? Leave a 5-Star review on iTunes!    To learn more about Brad Blazar visit http://bradblazar.com and http://myurls.co/bradblazar  

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Brad Blazar Brad is an effective sales leader, coach, speaker and author who over a decade ago set out on a mission to compile stories from his prior business career as founder and CEO of a small oil company, in addition to the encounters he had from meetings and speaking events with some of the most world’s best leaders in sports, business and politics. His encounters include 43rd President of the United States George W. Bush, former Commander in Chief of the Armed Forces Oliver North, NFL Hall of Fame recipients Joe Namath and Fran Tarkenton, NBA legend and former LA Laker Magic Johnson, accomplished business leader and Shark Tank personality Kevin O’Leary, and Rudy Ruettiger who was made famous thru the movie about his life at Notre Dame. Brad is the founder of The Art Of Beliefology – believing that you have the power to change your limiting beliefs and providing a path to the millions of men and women around the world raising their hands for help. In https://amzn.to/347nXLg (On the Wings of Eagles – Learning to Soar in Life) Brad has assembled his copious notes into this book. Taking the message from each encounter, while sharing stories from his past, Brad has put together a book on success, what it means to be committed, and changing one’s limiting beliefs. Key Points How to raise capital Dreamers, Blamers, and Game Changers How a coach can be an asset What to look for in a coach – SEC (support, encourage, & challenge) Resources https://www.bradblazar.com/ (BradBlazar.com) https://www.realnewscn.com/learn-to-soar/ (Learn to Soar Network) Connect with Brad https://myurls.co/bradblazar (here) Visit http://m/gp/product/B00NB86OYE/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=jacob0ee-20&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=as2&creativeASIN=B00NB86OYE&linkId=100a9d2905599266aa7088bba0a33d55 (Audible) for a free trial and free audiobook download!  

Подоспела танцевальная фантанзия! В этот раз немного пожестили с танцами). Микс содержит такие стили как: Future House | Club House | Electro House | Tech House. Подробности внутри. Приятного прослушивания! 1. Joy Baller - Forever (Ехtеndеd Мiх) 2. Haipa feat. Tesz Millan - Flash Fire (Original Mix) 3. Global Deejays - Stars On 45 (Dmitriy Rs feat Glarion & Cheeful Remix) 4. ATB - 9PM (Till I Come) (Anton Liss & Andrew Rai VIP Club Mix) 5. Mad Villains - Pleasure (Original Mix) 6. Edgar Orn - Stories (Radio Edit) 7. No Hopes & Pushkarev - Body Shaker (Original Mix) 8. Blamers & Cyborgs - Color In The Night (Extended Mix) 9. Moksi & Chocolate Puma - You Lose Nothing 10. Cheat Codes & Daniel Blume - Whos Got Your Love (Mike Williams Extended Remix) 11. Tommie Sunshine Haus Of Panda Snap - The Power( Extended Mix) 12. Oliver Heldens, Devin & Nile Rodgers - Summer Lover (Chocolate Puma Extended Remix) 13. Artoour & Etheria, Emy Smith - Not Again (Original Mix) 14. The Giver, Luca Debonaire - Okay! (Original Club Mix) 15. Tom & Jame - Get Get Down (Extended Mix) 16. Dave Turner - Music Healed Me (Original Mix) 17. Steff Da Campo & Karsten - Wasted Time (Extended Mix) 18. Tommy Vee, Tr-Meet feat. D-Lo - I Want It (Original Mix) 19. Dillon Francis & Alison Wonderland - Lost My Mind (Yomi Twice Remix) 20. Jordan Jay - Spinning Lights (Extended Mix) 21. Klingande & Stevie Appleton - Sinner (Mr. Belt & Wezol Extended Remix)

On this episode of The Wednesday Call, your host Andy Albright wanted to talk about why some people make it and others don't. Growing up, Andy Albright wanted to find a way to be free to do what he wanted to do, when he wanted to do it. He was willing to do whatever it took to find that kind of freedom. When people ask him now if it was worth the hard work it took, he explains that it was worth it. We all have friendships with people and we seem to be more connected to those people than just our acquaintances. Friends, relationships and trust are critical to success. We all make mistakes, but we all make different mistakes. We all view other people's mistakes differently than our own. Perspective is so important. Judging people is very dangerous. We all do it from time to time, but we have to be very careful when we do this. The goal is to get better at relationships and to form more friendships. The more friends you have, the more selective you can be about who you spend your time with. A lot of people get a feeling and then they take action. That leads to being more confident and then they keep doing more. Too many people are waiting on a feeling to take action. They want to have belief or trust before they move. This takes too long. More people need to act their way into a feeling rather than waiting for a feeling to move. People that do are more likely to succeed. Forget the excuses and focus on the part where you do stuff. If you can accept a person early then they are more likely to do something sooner. Some people are “dumb enough” to do something without needing evidence like “smart people” expect before they act. Waiting creates weight that prevents progress. The Alliance needs people to fail faster and then keep going. Eventually, with adjustments, success will come. The best time to start something is now. People who blame anything besides themselves are less likely to get better than people who accept blame for their shortcomings. Blamers tend to get bitter. People that accept blame tend to get better. Do you care about anybody outside of yourself? Do you care enough to reach out to people to try to help them? This takes work, and it takes practice to get really good at it. You have to get better at figuring things out and stop being bitter about it. The most successful people are those who don't get too high and don't get too low. They don't believe their press clippings or personal headlines. You want to stay in the middle and not go off the rails. One component of that is your coping skills and how you handle adversity. How do you respond under pressure? How a person behaves in that moment is normally a good indicator of the kind of person you are dealing with. More people need to believe without proof. The more you can do this, the more successful you can be. It takes practice to become really good at this. If you can master coping with stressful situations, you will be built for success. The ability to pivot can make all the difference in being a success versus being a failure. It's OK to fail, but it's not OK to repeat it or not learn from the setback. If you can roll with the punches it will annoy people to no end. However, you will be better off, and you will set the example of how to cope with drama moving forward. The ability to take a bad situation and make the best of it is a skill that few can master. If you can do this, you will win more than you ever thought possible. Don't get paralyzed in the moment and suffer because of it. Accept the situation and figure out what to do next. Having the right mindset will determine where you go when you face a struggle or difficulty. Don't sweat it and don't stir it too soon. Let it sit for a little bit and then clean up the mess. Operate with an adult mindset instead of using a toddler mindset. Shape your mind and thinking around the thinking that gets you on the good side of life. Having the right balance will help swim or sink. It is a choice. It can be learned. It is about establishing patterns in all that you do. If you keep practicing, you will find the way to win. People that “do the do” get to enjoy the stuff. Now, that doesn't mean life is all about possessions, but it does allow you more choices than most people get to enjoy. If you sit idle, then you will be limited in about everything you can think of. When you get stuff done, you get to make more choices and you have more options. The prize is typically reserved for those that take action quickly. The faster you move, the more you can accomplish. When you keep going and doing, things happen more for you than others who choose to sit and stew. Things will not change until things change. We all have to make a decision to make changes if we want to get different results. Who you hang around will determine who your friends are. What you do determines where you go. What you do helps others decide if they want to spend time around you too. What you read, watch and listen to is the fuel you allow in your head. It will impact your behaviors and actions. Work to get around the right information so you can grow. If you work hard, focus on the basics and don't quit, you will win. The key is to be fanatical about doing the basics it takes to win. It's the best way to set yourself up for success and winning.  www.AndyAlbright.com @AndySAlbright www.NAALeads.com @NationalAgentsAlliance @NAALeadsTheWay #TheAlliance #DoTheDo #N247RU

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Get all the inside secrets and tools you need to help you develop your leadership skills so you can build the best team to drive productivity and profitability.  We often point the finger to others as the complainers, blamers and whiners. However, we might need to look at ourselves first. In this episode you will learn: STOP! Dig deep Choose to take control Listen in as Jennifer Takagi, founder of Takagi Consulting, 3X time Amazon.Com Best Selling-Author, Certified Jack Canfield Success Principle Trainer, Certified Professional Behavioral Analyst and Facilitator of the DISC Behavioral Profiles, Certified Change Style Indicator Facilitator, and Certified Coaching Specialist - leadership entrepreneur, speaker and trainer, shares the lessons she’s learned along the way.   Each episode is designed to give you the tools, ideas, and inspiration to lead with integrity. Humour is a big part of Jennifer’s life, so expect a few puns and possibly some sarcasm. Tune in for a motivational guest, a story or tips to take you even closer to that C-Suite Office you’ve been coveting. You know you are already a leader, you just need to gather a few more tips and trick to master your craft. Please share the episodes that inspired you the most and be sure to leave a comment.   Official Website: http://www.takagiconsulting.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jennifertakagi/ Facebook: https://facebook.com/takagiconsulting   Wishing you the best, Jennifer Takagi Speaker, Trainer, Author   Connect with me on the New Manager Media Podcast Connect with me on Facebook: https://facebook.com/takagiconsulting Connect with me on Instagram: http://instagram.com/jennifertakagi Connect with me on Youtube: http://youtube.com/jennifertakagi   PS: We would love to hear from you! For questions, coaching, or to book interviews, please email my team at assist@jtokc.com

In this episode, we're going to talk about blame and I will give you my 3 tips on how to deal with false accusations and handle the situation gracefully.

Nate, Mike & Jon discuss the Buffalo Bills losing to the New York Jersey Jets, 27-23 at New Era Field in another game that goes down to the final drive! We discuss the play of Josh Allen (did he make any progress today?), the lack of late hit penalties called by the referees on Allen and Stephen Hauschka, the ineptitude of the special teams as a unit (led by coach Danny Crossman), Zay Jones becoming the Zay Jones of 2017 and rediscovering the “Yips,” and more creative play-calling by Brian Daboll. As always, we give our Stats of the Game, name our Wall of Famers, and discuss our Wall of Blamers. The future is bright, even with a loss! Go Bills! Subscribe to our podcast: Apple Podcasts | Stitcher | Google Play | Spotify | Podbean | iHeartRadio | TuneIn | Art 19 Email us questions, comments, or Bills stories: ctwpod@gmail.com Follow us on Twitter: @CTWpod Like us on Facebook: Circling the Wagons: A Buffalo Bills Podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nate, Mike & Jon discuss the Buffalo Bills losing to the New York Jersey Jets, 27-23 at New Era Field in another game that goes down to the final drive! We discuss the play of Josh Allen (did he make any progress today?), the lack of late hit penalties called by the referees on Allen and Stephen Hauschka, the ineptitude of the special teams as a unit (led by coach Danny Crossman), Zay Jones becoming the Zay Jones of 2017 and rediscovering the “Yips,” and more creative play-calling by Brian Daboll. As always, we give our Stats of the Game, name our Wall of Famers, and discuss our Wall of Blamers. The future is bright, even with a loss! Go Bills! Subscribe to our podcast: Apple Podcasts | Stitcher | Google Play | Spotify | Podbean | iHeartRadio | TuneIn | Art 19 Email us questions, comments, or Bills stories: ctwpod@gmail.com Follow us on Twitter: @CTWpod Like us on Facebook: Circling the Wagons: A Buffalo Bills Podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm seeing a lot of white people starting to act "black" — but not in the way you think. I made a show how blacks who fall for the phony idea of "racism" are conspiracy theorists. When Obama won, people who hate him became conspiratorial. When Trump won, people who hate him turned insane. Now that whites are losing they're becoming crazy, even turning on people who are on their side like Jesse Lee Peterson. They mischaracterize and straw man his arguments, and just turn shallow, making up false accusations that Jesse's motivated by money. They're projecting their fear on Jesse. Then they think they believe in Jesus.

Two years ago we fumbled and ran out of topics. We didn't want to miss an episode release week so we recorded an episode asking each other random questions.Questions AskedHello Giggle - 40 important questions you should totally ask your BFFWhat is one thing you regret having done or not done in your life?If you could change your first name what would it be?Where is the most beautiful place on earth and why?What's under your bed?Are you proud of what you're doing with your heart and time right now?If you could buy one material thing, and money was not an issue, what would it be?Has anything/anyone ever saved your life before?If you were a cake which cake would you be?Is there anything I can do that will make your heart rest easier? Your life run smoother?Random Twitter ThreadsWho was more dedicated to their job, Spongebob / Krusty Krab or Kenan & Kel / Good Burger?If you were handed the aux, what's the first song you'd play?your life is on the line once again and you get to call one person from your contact list. if they answer you die. who would you call?There are 5 Anger Styles, which one are you? Stuffer (avoid conflict/bury anger) Withdrawer (don't talk about it/ expresses it indirectly) Trianglers (manipulative) Blamers (blame others/name calling) Exploders (expresses anger through violence)Does your partner's ""body count" matter to you?Whats the first thing you do in the morning?What do you normally eat when you get hungry in the middle of the night?Which one of these cancelled celebrities is the most cancelled? Bill Cosby R Kelly Chris Brown Kanye WestIf you had to listen to one music album for the rest of your life, which one would it be?What's one thing people get wrong about you?They say that everyone has a book in them. What would your book be about?Among your friends or family, what are you famous for?Via Teen Vogue - 55 Important Questions To Ask Your Best Friend, With GIFsWhat's your all-time favorite memory?What's your favorite thing you own and why?Who was the last person who made you cry and why?When have you felt the most challenged?Out of all your family members, who are you closest to?What do you do when no one else is around?What's your go-to dish when you have to make dinner?What's your earliest childhood memory?If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?Questions from InstagramWhere the hoes at?What do y'all consider giving "girlfriend treatment" when just having "fun" with someone?What are 3 traits (not physical) your future husband's have to have?When am i gonna meet y'all?What's more important in a taking the next step in a relationship, getting engaged or buying a home?How do you balance working together and cultivating/ maintaining your friendship?Would y'all date someone long distance? ( Like someone that is two states away?)If you could live anywhere in the US other than New York, where would it be?AnnouncementsShare The Officially Street first Live show, Saturday Sept 29th @ Firelight Studio in BK hosted by Funny JuliusPurchase Tickets on Eventbrite https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-officially-street-podcast-live-tickets-48815652932?aff=ebdssbdestsearchThe He Man Women Haters Club will be having a 3 year anniversary live show Thursday Sept 27th @ SOBsPurchase Tickets on Eventbrite https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-he-man-women-haters-club-friends-live-show-tickets-49366335037?aff=ebdssbdestsearchYou can connect with us on our website wecomefromqueens.com as well as our social media platforms: instagram, twitter and Facebook @wecomefromqns #WCFQYou can send us questions you would like us to answer during an episode.You can listen to us on soundcloud, stitcher, itunes (rate & review on itunes). Please don't forget to stop by our store on the site as we finally have new merchandise.

Holy tangent Batman! The Knights tried to talk about their experience seeing their Flick Pick Raiders of the Lost Ark at Irvine Meadows with Pacific Symphony playing the score live, but instead they launched off into a massive tangent that started with Kitteh being pissed at not being able to find out information about Jaws on the beach. Ceebs enjoyed the bad parenting a bit too much while Kat had a very unmotivated day, but then there’s the tubes, oh the tubes. The Knights were joined in the Mixlr chat by Revelstoke Jim (@RevelstokeJim), CaperGirlMel (@CaperGirlMel), Dianae (@Dianae173), Marc Thorner (@markoshark), and Marianne (@mv_ughn).

Blamers, complainers, and bullies, oh my! The Savvy Psychologist offers 4 tips for dealing with difficult people, and 5 more for taking care of yourself after a close encounter with the difficult kind. Plus, does bedwetting predict psychopathy? Find out in our new Savvy Listener Mail segment! Read the full transcript: http://bit.ly/1octx6S

8 AM - 1 - Trump was up late tweeting about Megyn Kelly and Jeb. 2 - Ouster of 'Disruptive' Book Club From Napa Train Prompts Racial Bias Charge. 3 - The News with Marshall Phillips. 4 - Ex-NFL star told rookies they need a "fall guy" in case they run into trouble.

What can we do with other people’s criticism, judgement, or blame? What is the energy exchange that goes on between two or more people engaged in this kind of emotional showdown? And what’s the point of it, anyway?! Summer takes you on a tour through why we judge, why we criticize others, and how we we can drop or remove that energy from ourselves and our lives. Get more with the at Flowdreaming.com.

Naysayers. Complainers. Blamers. We all fave them. To be successful, we can't let them affect us. The title of this podcast is an actual statement from a parent of one of my band students. Does it hurt? Yes! Is it true? No!

HateGate Series: exposing the villainous vipers of vile.. fringe alternative streaming radio at its' worst. Blamers and defamers.. purveyors of hate.. with the sole goal of trafficking in hate. They suffer from a seething addictive fixation to hatred. Targeting all Jews for the worlds' ails. Confusing hate speech with free speech. Orion Talk Radio has stepped up and banned this flagrant brand of hate speech, recently implementing and enforcing their zero tolerance policy. Negate the hate.. shun and shame the haters. Be a hate slayer.. simply refute, rebuke and repudiate the repugnant.