Podcasts about extramarital affairs

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 16, 2023 41:22

This is a Living to 100 Club conversation about the "the passion for more" -- the increasing incidence of affairs of older women. Our guest, Susan Shapiro Barash, has spent 30+ years researching the types of affairs that women have, and is finding an exponential rise in female infidelity. We discuss some of the reasons why these affairs are on the rise. These reasons include greater longevity, increased autonomy, and feelings of entitlement and empowerment (once the sole territory of men). Also discussed are the latest statistics on female infidelity. What percentage of women will engage in an affair, how many say their lover is the opposite of their husband, how many leave their marriages vs. how many end up with their lover. And, importantly, what has our guest learned about the different types of affairs among women? Mini Bio Susan Shapiro Barash is an American author of thirteen nonfiction women's issues books. Titles include Tripping the Prom Queen, Toxic Fiends, and You're Grounded Forever, but First Let's Go Shopping. She writes fiction under her pen name, Susan Marren. Her novels are Between the Tides, A Palm Beach Wife, and A Palm Beach Scandal. Susan's books focus on the gender divide, how women are positioned in society and their innermost feelings about themselves as daughters, mothers, sisters, friends, wives, mothers-in-law, daughters-in-law, rivals, colleagues, and lovers. For Our Listeners Susan's website: Susan Shapiro Barash Susan's latest book: A passion for more: affairs that make or break us

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A Passion for More: Why the Rise in Extramarital Affairs among Women?

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 16, 2023 41:22

This is a Living to 100 Club conversation about the "the passion for more" -- the increasing incidence of affairs of older women. Our guest, Susan Shapiro Barash, has spent 30+ years researching the types of affairs that women have, and is finding an exponential rise in female infidelity. We discuss some of the reasons why these affairs are on the rise. These reasons include greater longevity, increased autonomy, and feelings of entitlement and empowerment (once the sole territory of men). Also discussed are the latest statistics on female infidelity. What percentage of women will engage in an affair, how many say their lover is the opposite of their husband, how many leave their marriages vs. how many end up with their lover. And, importantly, what has our guest learned about the different types of affairs among women? Mini Bio Susan Shapiro Barash is an American author of thirteen nonfiction women's issues books. Titles include Tripping the Prom Queen, Toxic Fiends, and You're Grounded Forever, but First Let's Go Shopping. She writes fiction under her pen name, Susan Marren. Her novels are Between the Tides, A Palm Beach Wife, and A Palm Beach Scandal. Susan's books focus on the gender divide, how women are positioned in society and their innermost feelings about themselves as daughters, mothers, sisters, friends, wives, mothers-in-law, daughters-in-law, rivals, colleagues, and lovers. For Our Listeners Susan's website: Susan Shapiro Barash Susan's latest book: A passion for more: affairs that make or break us See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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A Passion for More: Why the Rise in Extramarital Affairs among Women?

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 16, 2023 33:16

This is a Living to 100 Club conversation about the "the passion for more" -- the increasing incidence of affairs of older women. Our guest, Susan Shapiro Barash, has spent 30+ years researching the types of affairs that women have, and is finding an exponential rise in female infidelity. We discuss some of the reasons why these affairs are on the rise. These reasons include greater longevity, increased autonomy, and feelings of entitlement and empowerment (once the sole territory of men). Also discussed are the latest statistics on female infidelity. What percentage of women will engage in an affair, how many say their lover is the opposite of their husband, how many leave their marriages vs. how many end up with their lover. And, importantly, what has our guest learned about the different types of affairs among women? Mini Bio Susan Shapiro Barash is an American author of thirteen nonfiction women's issues books. Titles include Tripping the Prom Queen, Toxic Fiends, and You're Grounded Forever, but First Let's Go Shopping. She writes fiction under her pen name, Susan Marren. Her novels are Between the Tides, A Palm Beach Wife, and A Palm Beach Scandal. Susan's books focus on the gender divide, how women are positioned in society and their innermost feelings about themselves as daughters, mothers, sisters, friends, wives, mothers-in-law, daughters-in-law, rivals, colleagues, and lovers. For Our Listeners Susan's website: Susan Shapiro Barash Susan's latest book: A passion for more: affairs that make or break us See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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A Passion for More: Why the Rise in Extramarital Affairs among Women?

Poppin' Off (About Pop Culture)

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 16, 2023 41:22

This is a Living to 100 Club conversation about the "the passion for more" -- the increasing incidence of affairs of older women. Our guest, Susan Shapiro Barash, has spent 30+ years researching the types of affairs that women have, and is finding an exponential rise in female infidelity. We discuss some of the reasons why these affairs are on the rise. These reasons include greater longevity, increased autonomy, and feelings of entitlement and empowerment (once the sole territory of men). Also discussed are the latest statistics on female infidelity. What percentage of women will engage in an affair, how many say their lover is the opposite of their husband, how many leave their marriages vs. how many end up with their lover. And, importantly, what has our guest learned about the different types of affairs among women? Mini Bio Susan Shapiro Barash is an American author of thirteen nonfiction women's issues books. Titles include Tripping the Prom Queen, Toxic Fiends, and You're Grounded Forever, but First Let's Go Shopping. She writes fiction under her pen name, Susan Marren. Her novels are Between the Tides, A Palm Beach Wife, and A Palm Beach Scandal. Susan's books focus on the gender divide, how women are positioned in society and their innermost feelings about themselves as daughters, mothers, sisters, friends, wives, mothers-in-law, daughters-in-law, rivals, colleagues, and lovers. For Our Listeners Susan's website: Susan Shapiro Barash Susan's latest book: A passion for more: affairs that make or break us

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64. Celebrity Extramarital Affairs Are Becoming Fun Again!

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 3, 2022 40:48

Welcome back to another episode of Poppin' Off (About Pop Culture)! This week we're sharing our Apple Music Replays (yes, we're Apple Music girlies over here leave us alone), GMA news anchors giving us gold, old fashioned extramarital affair gossip, Kim Petras and the #FreeKesha movement and Balenciaga's controversial campaign. Don't forget our toasts and roasts! It's all going down, so get ready to pop off with us!

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Anchors T.J. Holmes And Amy Robach Will Not Face Discipline From ABC For Extramarital Affair!

The Bert Show

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 2, 2022 7:10

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Too Woke Boys 115: The Try Guys Try Extramarital Affairs (or Polyamory)

Too Woke Boys

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 11, 2022 68:05

The boys get together to discuss weddings after Col brings up that he is going to a wedding. The boys talk about how marriage is bad for women and thats why they don't support it. Its not because they are trying to be perpetually single and never settle down. Speaking of marriage, the boys talk about the Try Guys controversy because it is a very woke boy thing that happened with the guy who very publicly is obsessed with his wife and won't shut up about how much he loves her while he is out cheating on her, with a producer of the show (who was also in a very serious relationship) Two dorks from The Big Bang Theory reflect on their relationship situation. The boys talk about an article that says James Bond will be more in touch with his feelings in the next Bond movies. Which is exactly what an exciting action movie franchise needs, a man being a wiener and crying. They already tried incorporating a female 007 into the movie with the last one. Tom Brady and Gisele Bündchen hire divorce lawyers because their relationship is on the rocks because "Mr. Football Sporty Guy" has to chuck the pigskin and be the greatest football player of all time, like a jerk. Gisele needs a man like the boys to take care of her, and take care meaning that the boys will live off of Gisele 100% and will probably be equally absent because they are going to put all their time (and Gisele's money) into the growth of the pod. But this is different because the podcast is a good cause. The boys are absolutely stoked about the poetry you guys are sending, along with the emails, we definitely want to bring some of these out on the show. Send your Haikus (or other poems) to toowokeboys@gmail.com Follow the IG/TikTok page: @TooWokeBoys New vids coming to the tiktok page! Email the show: TooWokeBoys@gmail.com Like, Comment, Subscribe on the YouTube Channel We are doing our best to roll out new video content! - If you are interested in editing video content for the boys hit them up Donate to the show on Venmo/ Cashapp: TheSlutFund Give a FIVE STAR REVIEW for the show on iTunes Make sure to give five star reviews on Spotify also! (fun ones will be read on the show) Share a screenshot of the show on your IG stories and let everyone know YOU ARE AN ALLY @JeffZenisek https://beacons.ai/jeffzenisek @MalcolmKelner https://beacons.ai/malc --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/toowokeboys/support

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Extramarital affairs is not the solution || Life Coach Archie

Health, Happiness & Positivity

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 1, 2022 5:17

This episode is about cause & cure of extramarital affairs. It's a quick fix not the solution.

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Restoration and Forgiveness in Marriage with Jenna Walker

Going There in Conversations with Christian Women

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 31, 2022 58:00

We've all heard that marriage is hard, but what does reality look like when your worse fear becomes just that. We sat down with Jenna Walker, who so vulnerably and humbling shared her and her husband's story of a heartbreaking affair that was then followed by a lot of hard work, restoration and forgiveness. If you are happily married, single, or dating, we can all learn valuable lessons from their story on loving and forgiving. Craving more from Going There the Podcast? Come be our friend! Make sure you're following along on Instagram @goingtherethepodcast and subscribe to our podcast so that you never miss a new episode! If you love what you heard, we'd be so happy if you left us a rating and review on your podcast app. This way, more people can find us and join our fun convo! Resources Torn Asunder: Recovering from an Extramarital Affair by Dave Carder What Did you Expect? by Paul David Tripp Beyond Boundaries: Learning to Trust Again in Relationships by Dr John Townsend Please Don't Say You Need Me: Biblical Answers for Codependency by Jan Silvious Scripture 2 Timothy 2:25 - 26 Jeremiah 29:10-14 Philippians 4:4-7 Romans 8:26-27 Psalm 55 Psalm 46:1 Psalm 14:3

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You Had Extramarital Affairs In Our Bed!

Overcoming Betrayal & Addiction

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 20, 2022 27:02

Dr. Rob and Tami open today's conversation about what psychological abuse really is. Many people in recovery do not realize that their form of persuasion can be incredibly abusive until they've been educated on it. Unfortunately, the spouses can receive the blunt of that abuse if they're not actively working on it and setting boundaries. Dr. Rob and Tami also talk about the deep betrayal a spouse can feel when they find out their addict brought sexual partners into their home. TAKEAWAYS: [:30] Can you help me understand more about what psychological abuse is? [5:20] Dr. Rob has seen many sex addicts not understand that they're abusive. [6:10] My husband has relapsed with drugs, but I also just found out he's also a sex addict. Why is he doing this? [10:00] True recovery means you've stopped all forms of acting out. [13:00] I found evidence that affair partners have been brought into our home. How do I manage this? [18:20] As a betrayed spouse, you need support. Reach out to Tami for more info. [19:00] My husband is in recovery, but I don't think he's taking it seriously. [22:55] Talk to his therapist directly. Is he lying to you or is the therapist really saying those things? [26:25] Addicts lie to their therapists all the time just to ‘check off the box'. RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss

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New survey finds younger Canadians are less forgiving when it comes to extramarital affairs

Alan Carter

Play Episode Listen Later May 18, 2022 7:08

Alan chats with Shannon Tebb, Boutique Matchmaker and Dating Expert, Founder of Shanny in the City. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Denver City Council considering charging residents for their trash; Colorado senator has extramarital affair

The Daily Sun-Up

Play Episode Listen Later May 3, 2022 10:18

Denver City Council is considering an overhaul of its recycling and waste programs. Residents would be charged for their trash, but they would get recycling and compost picked up every week. Supporters heard concerns about the changes for the first time in a session in front of the City Council. Many residents are worried about loading on new fees when it's already getting more and more expensive to live in Denver. Journalism Resident Margaret Fleming talks to reporter Michael Booth, who covers health, health policy and the environment, about some of the opposition to the proposed program and where it goes from here. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Why Extramarital Affairs Happen and How to Prevent Them with Dr. Joe Beam

The SavvyCast

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 25, 2022 46:37

To many people, marital stress and even extramarital affairs seem to be a fact of life. This week, Dr. Joe Beam explains why extramarital affairs are so prevalent, as well as how couples can prevent them. Episode At A Glance: This week, Dr. Joe Beam returns to The SavvyCast to discuss why affairs happen and how to prevent them. Dr. Beam's work has helped thousands of couples. He believes that by reaching beyond the mind and into the heart and soul of men and women, love finds new ways to allow couples to communicate. Additionally, this creates a relationship that is aware but not conducive to divorce. Who Is Dr. Joe Beam? Dr. Beam is an internationally known and respected sexologist and authority on love, marriage, and sex. After he received his Ph.D. from the University of Sydney, he went on to Marriage Helper. He has now designed and developed courses, workshops, and seminars to help troubled marriages for over two decades. For Dr. Beam, saving marriages is not just a job, it's an all-consuming passion. In addition, every marriage saved is a testimony that the mission can be accomplished. Questions Answered In This Episode: Have you noticed that COVID has changed marriages? What are the different types of affairs? How does an affair happen? What do you do if you have no desire to have sex with your spouse? How do you know when someone has crossed a line? What can people expect from Dr. Beam's workshops? Resources Mentioned In This Episode: Marriage Helper I hope you enjoyed this episode! In addition, if you have time to rate, review, and subscribe to The SavvyCast on Apple Podcasts, it would be SO appreciated!!! Blessings to you!!! If you like this podcast, be sure to check these out: Let's Talk Limerence with Dr. Joe Beam What Every Woman Should Do To Protect Herself Financially if Divorce Ever Happens

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Zelenskyy accepts 'no open door' on NATO, Cross Question & are extramarital affairs “dangerous red flags” for police recruits?

Iain Dale - The Whole Show

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 16, 2022 146:20

Zelenskyy accepts 'no open door' on NATO, Cross Question & are extramarital affairs “dangerous red flags” for police recruits? Joining Iain Dale on Cross Question are Green Party politician Shahrar Ali, PoliticsJOE's Ava Evans, the Spectator's Kate Andrews & Conservative MP Tobias Ellwood.

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Can A Side Chick Or Side Dick Save Your Marriage?

Mental Dialogue

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 13, 2022 116:54

BLACK SOCRATES once posted on social media "Many people are ok with polygamy, but they just don't know it yet!" On this show we discuss MARRIAGES that remain intact due to the unknown EXTRAMARITAL AFFAIRS of one spouse. Are we honest about why so many MARRIAGES survive INFIDELITY? Is INFIDELITY always disrespectful? Why are some men and women content with being a SIDE PIECE? How often does it lead to a person leaving their HUSBAND or WIFE, and if so, do they believe that person won't cheating on them? What do children learn if they witness their mother or father is having an EXTRAMARITAL AFFAIR or learn if their parent is in the role of the SIDE PIECE? MENTAL DIALOGUE asking the questions America's afraid to ask. ALL I ASK IS THAT YOU THINK --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/montoya-smith/message

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Ep. 9 Pt. 2: Extramarital Affairs: You had one? You're in one now? Or may balak to have one in the future?

Adult Content: For Adults, By Adults

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 19, 2022 47:07

Noon, pantakip lang ng butas ang having affairs. May kulang sa marriage, hanapin sa iba! Ngayon, bakit having affairs can actually be a situation that others intentionally want to have, can see themselves thriving in, and can actually save an unsatisfying marriage. Guests namin sina Popoy and Basha, kaya ang sarap ng usapan!***DISCLAIMER: The views and opinions expressed by the podcast creators, hosts, and guests do not necessarily reflect the official policy and position of Podcast Network Asia. Any content provided by the people on the podcast are of their own opinion, and are not intended to malign any religion, ethnic group, club, organization, company, individual, or anyone or anything. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Ep. 9 Pt. 1: Extramarital Affairs: You had one? You're in one now? Or may balak to have one in the future?

Adult Content: For Adults, By Adults

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 18, 2022 51:51

Noon, pantakip lang ng butas ang having affairs. May kulang sa marriage, hanapin sa iba! Ngayon, bakit having affairs can actually be a situation that others intentionally want to have, can see themselves thriving in, and can actually save an unsatisfying marriage. Guests namin sina Popoy and Basha, kaya ang sarap ng usapan!***DISCLAIMER: The views and opinions expressed by the podcast creators, hosts, and guests do not necessarily reflect the official policy and position of Podcast Network Asia. Any content provided by the people on the podcast are of their own opinion, and are not intended to malign any religion, ethnic group, club, organization, company, individual, or anyone or anything. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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News Minute: Sex and Extramarital Affairs at Lawrenceville PD

Gwinnett Daily Post Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 14, 2022 1:10

Lawrenceville's new acting chief held a press conference to admit that he had an affair seven years ago #GwinnettDailyPost #Georgia #LocalNews - - - - The Gwinnett Daily Post Podcast is local news for Lawrenceville, Norcross, Duluth, and all of Gwinnett County. Register Here for your essential digital news. This podcast was produced and published for the Gwinnett Daily Post and GwinnettDailyPost.com by BG Ad Group For advertising inquiries, please email j.southerland@bgadgroup.com For more information be sure to visit www.bgpodcastnetwork.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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S2 E3: Sex After Kids with Dr. Jessica McCleese

The Parent Club

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 5, 2022 69:38

*Warning: Parents, you may not want your kids in the room as we're talking about sex in this episode* Did you know there are less than 200 Certified Christian Sex Therapists in the world? Dr. Jessica McCleese, a Licensed Clinical Psychologist at Lighthouse Counseling, is one and is talking to us about sex and sex after kids today. Taking a broader perspective on sex, she talks about the unspoken struggles Christians face in their sex life with their spouse. If you've ever wondered if different sex drives are normal, how to overcome sexual shame based on your upbringing, or how to speak to your partner about lack of satisfaction in your sex life, this episode for is FOR you! She also addresses when to use anatomically correct terms for sexual organs with your kids and how to talk to your kids about sex in age-appropriate ways. You do not want to miss out as Dr. McCleese discusses the value of keeping both a Christ-focused view of your marriage and your sex life. You may contact her at Drjessica@befullywell.com or by going to her website http://www.befullywell.com/. If you are looking for a Certified Christian Sex Therapist near you, you may find one at https://www.sexualwholeness.com/abcst-find-a-therapist. Enjoy and checkout our free resources! https://gracebible.church/nextgenresources Dr. McCleese's Recommendations: Torn Asunder: Recovering From an Extramarital Affair by David Carder On the Threshold of Hope Dr Diane Langberg A Celebration of Sex Dr Douglas E Rosenau The Married Guy's Guide to Great Sex by Clifford Penner Enjoy! The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women by Dr Joyce Penner The Story of Me by Dr Stan and Brenna Jones (Ages 3-5) Before I Was Born by Carolyn Nystrom (Ages 5-8) What's the Big Deal? by Dr Stan and Brenna Jones (Ages 8-12) Facing the Facts by Dr Stan and Brenna Jones (Ages 11-16)

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E9 - Monogamy - Liars and Cheaters and Fears - OH MY!

Boardroom to Bedroom

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 1, 2022 70:54

E9 - Monogamy - Liars and Cheaters and Fears - OH MY! Opening - PB Volume UP!! Monday, MONday, MONDAY!! Brad Finally watched the last Matrix! Good Show! Totally setup for 1-2 more! TikTok Experience! Corrie Why do People listen to Podcasts?[i] 74% - Learn new things Entertainment, to keep up to date, to relax, and for inspiration. People in the 74% - There you go! Announcements Show Announcements: Thursday - Feb 3rd - Playing with Ladies, the Early Years - Las Vegas Upcoming Guests: Preacher - Conservative Group Couple - Cultist Background, Strict Religion - To LS Our Friends! All Girl Show - Coming Soon! CONFIRMED!! Ladies discussing ladies point of view. Politics and News SCOTUS retirement - UPDATE Recall Mr. BC (aka Brad)'s reaction... 76% of Americans say Biden should consider all nominees for SCOTUS[ii] Joe Rogan Controversory His Response https://www.instagram.com/p/CZYQ_nDJi6G/ The View [iii] https://babylonbee.com/news/cast-of-the-view-threatens-to-quit-if-rogan-isnt-removed-from-spotify And we REALLY like Whoopi on Star Trek! The View has 2.39m watchers. / Joe Rogan has 11m downloads per episode! Listener Questions/Comments Read and Show Chat Message. SQ-32 - I have listened twice on YouTube and if I am allowed a remark: I find the format interesting but the podcasts/video-casts are too long.There is a lot of interesting insight and some cheeky humor but also a lot of repetition and idling. I personally would appreciate a "condensed" format in the 15 to 20 minute range. And I am fully aware that criticizing is WAY easier than making ;o) The Show Boardroom Segment IRS agrees to ease automated penalty notices[iv] Lobbyist (Bad word) Works! - Tax and Accounting prof. associations Millions of unprocessed returns and correspondence from 2021 Nasty grams - Penalties if you don't pay!! Will suspend some, not enough Bedroom Segment What is Cheating?[v] There is no set definition, making reporting quite difficult I've found little agreement on what counts as cheating among today's youth. “If you're just in some chat room [masturbating], and you are watching other people you're chatting with, that's not really cheating, is it?” one of my participants said. “You're not actually doing anything with them. It's just fantasy.” Others disagreed. One said, “It doesn't matter whether it's just chat or camming, you're cheating.” Unsure about what form of cybersex might upset a partner, the strategy of almost all of the men I interviewed, gay or straight, was don't ask, don't tell. Dr Erick Anderson - Sociologist at University of Winchester: "For most people, monogamy does not necessarily provide a lifetime of sexual contentment" Our Story Affair Brad's Side Corrie's Side Let's talk about Marriage - some interesting data about monogamy and cheating[vi] Men and women cheat at about the same rate - 15-20% oddly enough, over 40% of divorces site infidelity as the reason for the divorce Most marriage studies are self reported, thus the researchers believe the reported rates are lower than actual (hence more mentioned in divorces than self admitted to the study) The Statistics: The rate of cheating increases with age for both married men and married women. In a study titled America's Generation Gap in Extramarital Affairs, 20% of older couples noted that they had cheated during their marriage. About 14% of couples under the age of 55 reported adultery in their marriage. Most people who cheat have been married for 20 to 30 years and are between the age of 50 and 60. More than 50% of cheating spouses, both men and women, on a Truth About Deception (TAD) survey say they confessed to their spouse about their affair. Men who cheat: Men in all age groups from 30 to over 80 are more likely than women to be guilty of infidelity in a marriage. Married men report their highest rate of infidelity in their 70s. Black men report cheating on their wives more than Hispanic or White men. An ongoing online survey about cheating at TAD shows that men are more likely to report cheating on their spouse multiple times. Married men are about 25% more likely to report having one-night stands than women. Women who Cheat Women ages 18-29 appear slightly more likely than men of the same age to be guilty of infidelity in a marriage. Married women report their highest rate of infidelity in their 60s. Married women are about 15% more likely to report having emotional affairs than men. Friend's Story - Everyone knows someone, if not themselves Caleb and Christina story Don't get caught Don't leverage into LS Marriages that survive cheating? According to the American Psychological Association (APA), infidelity in the United States accounted for 20-40 percent of divorces. According to a study published by the National Institutes of Health (NIH), one partner in 88% of couples studied cited infidelity as a major contributing factor. The vast majority of couples from the NIH study who divorced only had one partner share infidelity as a major issue. People who are under 30 and over 70 were the least likely to divorce after an affair compared to those in their 50s and 60s. Empty Nest Syndrome The APA also cited that 42% of divorced individuals reported more than one affair. In a Gallup poll, researchers noted that more than half of partners say they would leave their spouse and get a divorce if they found out their spouse was having an affair. Reason to Hide theory About 31% of married partners would stick it out and not divorce a cheating partner. Women are more likely to initiate divorce (for any reason) 2nd Marriages and Marrying the Mistress Jan Halper, in her book on successful men, noted that only three percent of men who engaged in extramarital affairs actually married their mistresses. According to noted marriage counselor Frank Pittman, men who do marry their paramours, have a divorce rate as high as 75%. In an overview of infidelity research from the Zur Institute, it was found that most affairs don't go beyond the "falling-in-love" phase and are short-term. Unmarried Couples #'s? - Studies say double the #'s of married Biological anthropologist Helen Fisher shares that 60% of single men admit to trying to woo an individual away from another relationship to be with them. About 53% of single women admit they've tried to get another person to leave a committed relationship for them. A 2018 study of unmarried men and women found that 44% of people (men and women) engaged in infidelity. Cheating Statics - GREAT DATA![vii] Many, many more! These were the most telling to me: 7 percent of cheating women and 22.2 percent of cheating men have cheated on their spouse with someone they both know. 1 percent of cheated males cheated in a one-night stand, while only 53.1 percent of cheating women cheated by having a one-night stand. Why Men and Women Cheat Obviously every woman is different. That said, women tend to cheat for very different reasons than men. In general, women cheat when they feel a lack of intimacy and feel ignored by their partner, whereas men are more visual and tend to cheat due to immediate temptation. Does the LS Save Marriages? NO! Breaks them all the way Added Spice, not a fix Show Wrap More and More content coming! Citations EndNotes [i] https://riverside.fm/blog/podcast-statistics#:~:text=Why%20Do%20People%20Listen%20To,to%20relax%2C%20and%20for%20inspiration. [ii] https://www.foxnews.com/politics/poll-huge-majority-americans-biden-consider-all-nominees-supreme-court-pick [iii] https://babylonbee.com/news/cast-of-the-view-threatens-to-quit-if-rogan-isnt-removed-from-spotify [iv] IRS agrees to ease automated penalty notices [v] https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/five-myths-about-cheating/2012/02/08/gIQANGdaBR_story.html [vi] https://divorce.lovetoknow.com/Rates_of_Divorce_for_Adultery_and_Infidelity [vii] https://hackspirit.com/infidelity-statistics/

The Long Distance Extramarital Affair - An Erotic Quickie

Erotica with Vivia Volupta

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 15, 2021 8:06

Women always want more!

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The Long Distance Extramarital Affair - An Erotic Quickie

Erotica with Vivia Volupta

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 15, 2021 8:06

Women always want more!

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Extramarital affairs and who will be a bust in 5 years

Super Hoopers: An NBA podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2021 69:41

The Hoopers discuss the Rosas situation in Minny and reveal if any of the Hoopers have dabbled outside the confines of matrimony, then they go to Zion in Nola and Simmons in Philly. Find out who will be the biggest bust 5 years from now: MPJ, Zion or Simmons. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Top Ten from 2020: #10 Anatomy of an Affair with Dave Carder

The Savvy Sauce

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 7, 2021 49:28

Top Ten from 2020: #10 Anatomy of an Affair with Dave Carder Hebrews 10:23 (NIV) “Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful.” DAVE CARDER serves as Pastor of Counseling Ministries at First Evangelical Free Church of Fullerton, CA. His specialty is Adultery Recovery and Prevention for which he has appeared on numerous media outlets including The Oprah Winfrey Network, Discovery Health, and The Learning Channel, The Tony Robbins Passion Project, Ladies Home Journal, USA Today, The Counseling Connection, and various other magazines and journals. He has taught at various universities and seminaries world wide, and has done training for both the US Navy and Army. He is the author or co-author of Torn Asunder: Recovering from an Extramarital Affair, Close Calls: What Adulterers Want You to Know About Protecting Your Marriage, and Unlocking Your Family Patterns: Finding Freedom from a Hurtful Past. He holds the Michigan Limited License for Psychology and the California Marital and Family Therapy license, and has graduate degrees in Biblical Literature and Counseling Psychology. Dave and his wife, Ronnie, have been married for 49 years, and have four adult children and eight grandchildren. More info is available at www.DaveCarder.com At The Savvy Sauce, we will only recommend resources we believe in! We also want you to be aware: We are a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for us to earn fees by linking to Amazon.com and affiliated sites. Anatomy of an Affair by Dave Carder Torn Asunder by Dave Carder Torn Asunder Workbook by Dave Carder Close Calls by Dave Carder Schedule an appointment with Dave Carder HERE Dave Carder's Website, Including FREE video series on recovering from extramarital affair Thank You to Our Sponsor: Wire Talk Podcast Connect with The Savvy Sauce on Facebook or Instagram or Our Website Please help us out by sharing this episode with a friend, leaving a 5-star rating and review, and subscribing to this podcast! Also, check out our Patreon Page to find out how to gain access to additional podcasts and freebies! Gospel Scripture: (all NIV) Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,” Romans 3:24 “and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.” Romans 3:25 (a) “God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood.” Hebrews 9:22 (b) “without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.” Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:11 “Not only is this so, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.” John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” Romans 10:9 “That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.” Luke 15:10 says “In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.” Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus” Ephesians 1:13–14 “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession- to the praise of his glory.” Ephesians 1:15–23 “For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.” Ephesians 2:8–10 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God‘s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.“ Ephesians 2:13 “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near through the blood of Christ.“ Philippians 1:6 “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”

Deciding to Divorce with Dr. Elizabeth Cohen

One Broken Mom

Play Episode Listen Later May 16, 2021 37:41

Elizabeth Cohen, therapist, repeat guest and author of a new book “Light on the Other Side of Divorce: Discovering the New You” talks with Ameé about deciding that divorce is the best option for a person or couple. In this episode, you will hear:How to know if divorce is the right optionHow to overcome the shame and guilt that comes from choosing to divorceWhat to do when other people try to shame us for our choiceHow codependency can impact how long we try to “save the relationship” Links to Elizabeth & Her Book:Give Away – Until May 20 – Click here for more infoAfterglow – Online Healing program with group support, private coaching, and online videos for people considering or going through divorceBuy Light on the Other Side of Divorce on Amazon Ameé’s Linkswww.ameequiriconi.com Trauma Informed Leadership – www.activitygirl-llc.com The Fearless Woman’s Guide to Starting a Business: What Every Woman Needs to Know to Be a Courageous, Authentic, and Unstoppable EntrepreneurBarnes and Noble- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomansGuideBookshop- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomanBookshopAmazon- http://bit.ly/FearlessWomanAmazon

EP68: The Cheating Ninja

The Commercial Break

Play Episode Listen Later May 14, 2021 71:14

Bryan and Krissy made it!! The Pandemic in the U.S. is turning the corner and the team is ready to shed their masks. But is the world ready for their faces? Also, TCB TV (Minus) is coming to a screen near you, Bryan responds to a Youtube comment and...Frankie B is back baby! This time he is passing down his ancient cheating ninja wisdom to the world. It's another can't miss episode of The Commercial Break!LINKS:Watch this episode on YoutubeSponsorsHello Fresh Use Code: TCB12Subscribe to The Commercial Break Podcast Youtube ChannelJoin The Comedy Podcasts Club on ClubHouseNew Episodes on Tuesdays and now Fridays everywhere!Text or leave us a message: +1 (470) 584.8449FOLLOW US:Instagram: @thecommercialbreak @bryangcomedy @tcbkrissyClubHouse: @bryangreen @tcbkrissyClubHouse: The Commercial Break Club on Clubhouse! (home of live recordings)Twitter: tcbbryanFacebook: The Commercial Break PodcastYouTube: Youtube.com/TheCommercialBreakEmail: info@tcbpodcast.comA Chartable Top 100 Comedy Podcast#1 Trending Comedy Podcast Worldwide! (Chartable)#1 Trending Comedy Podcast U.S.(Chartable)An Apple Top 100 Comedy Podcast Top 1% Downloaded Podcasts, Worldwide (ListenNotes)A Hot 50 Podcast (Podcast Magazine)

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"Tom Jones, if you can't tell me the truth about this, don't say anything." Tom talks about his extramarital affairs and his love for his wife Linda.

The Joe Jackson Interviews

Play Episode Listen Later May 7, 2021 13:32

This is the final part of a trilogy of podcasts I uploaded to mark the release of Tom's latest and greatest album, Surrounded by time, on which he looks back over his lifetime of eighty years. In 1992, when rumours were rife that his wife Linda had finally had enough of his extramarital affairs, I pushed him on this issue, which we had discussed during a previous interview. Tom, to his credit, didn't flinch or draw back from any question and he was honourable enough to fall silent in the end rather than tell me lies. I have interviewed 1,400 celebs, he was more honest than most and totally free from bull....t!

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Helping Couples When There Has Been an Affair

TwoGether

Play Episode Listen Later May 5, 2021 51:20

Today we interviewed the counselor Diane Schroeder, MA, LPC who has a private practice in Grand Rapids, Michigan. Diane works with individuals and couples, and has a specialty in neurofeedback. Our focus of the talk was that we talked about working with couples where there has been an affair. Some key aspects we discussed were:Statistics regarding infidelityKey ways to work with couplesAdvice for those mentoring couplesHow to affair proof your marriageRESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE PODCAST-After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust, Abrahams-Spring-Recovering From The Affair: Your Guide To Saving Your Marriage After Emotional of Physical Infidelity, Lee Baucom-Worthy of Her Trust: What You Need to Do to Rebuild Sexual Integrity and Win Her Back, Steve Arterburn-Torn Asunder: Recovering From an Extramarital Affair, Carder & Townsend-The Forgiveness Factor, Gary ThomasWANT TO TALK TO SOMEONE?If you would like to talk to a pastor or person on staff about your marriage, please reach out to care@adabible.org. We would also love to hear from you as well as any future topics you would like us to talk about. RATE AND REVIEW If you enjoyed the podcast, please rate and review it on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. This will help by making it more accessible to those who may want to listen.SOCIAL MEDIA CONTACTSSamuel Jones - search for @wisdomcentercounseling on Instagram and FacebookDr. Kelly Bonewell - you can find him on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter

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BREAKING! Audio Recordings of Secretary of State Engaging in Extramarital Affair(s), Sexting, Anal Play and Alleged Abuse

The Patriotically Correct Radio Show with Stew Peters | #PCRadio

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 7, 2021 55:50

Alabama Secretary of State, John Merrill is under fire. Also, Alex Jones (INFOWARS) gets in front of a vehicle filled with smuggled illegal alien children, Congressman Paul Gosar provides exclusive account of visit to border, and Nancy Pelosi is leasing a building to those directly connected to child pedophilia. www.AmericaFirstPodcast.com

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9 steps to end an extramarital affair.

Wellness With Sahila

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 30, 2021 8:26

9 steps to end an extramarital affair. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/wellnesswithsahila/message

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How Will A Spouse's Extramarital Affair Impact An Iowa Divorce Case

The Business Lounge Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 25, 2021 5:03

There are a variety of factors that affect a divorce in Iowa. Spouses going through a divorce may wonder whether an affair by either spouse impact the proceeding or outcome of their divorce case. This video covers how extramarital affairs are taken into accounted when going through a divorce. Read the full article here: https://www.oflaherty-law.com/learn-about-law/how-affairs-impact-iowa-divorce O'Flaherty Law now serves over 105 counties across Illinois, Iowa, and Indiana. If you have any questions regarding a case or would like to speak to one of our attorneys after watching a #LearnAboutLaw video, give us a call at (630) 324-6666 or send us an email at info@oflaherty-law.com to get in contact with someone from our team. Subscribe to our channel for daily videos dedicated to all things law and leave a comment with any questions about this topic. Find us online for more legal content and to stay connected with our team - Website: https://www.oflaherty-law.com/ - LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/oflahertylaw - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/oflahertylaw - Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/oflahertylawGroup/ Spouses going through a divorce may wonder whether an affair by either spouse will affect the divorce. This video will discuss: Is a spouse's affair grounds for divorce in Iowa?, Will a spouse's affair affect distribution of property?, Will a spouse's affair affect the amount of support they are required to pay?, and Will a spouse's affair affect the custody order? **None of the content in this series is intended as paid legal advice.

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Today In History - Tiger Woods apologizes for extramarital affairs

Today In History

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 19, 2021

https://www.history.com/this-day-in-history/tiger-woods-apologizes-for-extramarital-affairsSupport the show on Patreon

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But...,extramarital affairs

MAD talks with SREE

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 6, 2021 25:02

Here is two episodes in a row --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

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Episode 53: First Political Trick | John Edwards and Roger Stone

The Muck Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 30, 2020 88:46

Hillary and Tina cover former US Senator from North Carolina, John Edwards and political operative, Roger Stone. For show notes and links to our sources, please click here (https://themuckpodcast.fireside.fm/articles/ep53notes).

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Ep 060 -- A Rich Sub-Plot of Extramarital Affairs

Any Ideas?

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 14, 2020 37:19

Welcome to the 60th ever episode! We watched the pilot of Goof Troop for An Extremely Goofy Podcast, finding it to be full of not only classic goofy bits, but tense family drama centered around Pete that we never saw coming. JOIN US! Please rate, review, subscribe and tell your friends! Twitter: @anyideaspodcast Facebook: Any Ideas? Email: theanyideaspod@gmail.com

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My Partner Left Me for Someone He Met On a Gaming App - Keisha Brooks

Mom After Hours

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 24, 2020 40:10

Cheating is one of the top marriage killers. Upwards of 40% of married couples are impacted by infidelity. And for unmarried peoples, research indicates cheating almost doubles the rate of married couples. It's obscene. Nothing can ever prepare you for the heartache, feelings of betrayal, and confidence shattering effects an extramarital affair brings. However, according to today's guest, Keisha Brooks, it is still possible to become whole again.In this episode, Keisha Brooks, a self-proclaimed "open-book" and twin mom, speaks candidly with Brandi about her non-traditional relationship with her ex-partner of 23 years, the trials and tribulations experienced, and her journey of healing after infidelity. Connect with Keisha at:Website: https://www.keishambrooks.com/Facebook: www.facebook.com/keisha5150Instagram: www.instagram/kbrooks1974Bio: Keisha Brooks is a funny, real, and truthful mother of twins, who will "tell it like it is while everyone else lies to you." When she's not navigating life's traumas and dramas as a 911 Operator and dabbles in acting and is the host of Keeping It Real TV on Facebook. She also starred on Nickelodeon's first season of, Are You Smarter Than a 5th Grader, alongside John Cena! ***Connect with Mom After Hours on Instagram! We post a lot of funny, encouraging, and weird stuff. ***Craving some mom to mom chats? Mom After Hours is starting a virtual video support group to help mamas just like you! If you're interested in growing your village and connecting with other mamas, please complete the Mom After Hours Support Group survey. ***Ask questions or share episode ideas by emailing hello@momafterhours.com. We love audio feedback, too, so record your voice via voice memo in your smartphone and send it on over!

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How the Twin Soul Mirror Works Once You Are in Union

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Play Episode Listen Later Aug 28, 2020 36:48

In union, the twin soul mirror can be a little... confusing. I break it down here. Get the books: http://cardreadingqueen.com/books

Why You Have to Heal to Get Your Twin Flame (Are Twin Flames Real?! Part 4 of 4)

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Play Episode Listen Later Aug 26, 2020 20:36

Why healing brings your twin flame closer and how both religion and science have had the right idea around this for centuries. Get the books: http://cardreadingqueen.com/books

108 Anatomy of an Affair with Dave Carder

The Savvy Sauce

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 24, 2020 49:38

*This message includes adult themes and is not intended for little ears* Anatomy of an Affair with Dave Carder Hebrews 10:23 (NIV) “Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful.” Dave Carder serves as Pastor of Counseling Ministries at First Evangelical Free Church of Fullerton, CA. His specialty is Adultery Recovery and Prevention for which he has appeared on numerous media outlets including The Oprah Winfrey Network, Discovery Health, and The Learning Channel, The Tony Robbins Passion Project,Ladies Home Journal, USA Today, The Counseling Connection, and various other magazines and journals. He has taught at various universities and seminaries world wide, and has done training for both the US Navy and Army. He is the author or co-author of Torn Asunder: Recovering from an Extramarital Affair,Close Calls: What Adulterers Want You to Know About Protecting Your Marriage,and Unlocking Your Family Patterns: Finding Freedom from a Hurtful Past. He holds the Michigan Limited License for Psychology and the California Marital and Family Therapy license, and has graduate degrees in Biblical Literature and Counseling Psychology. Dave and his wife, Ronnie, have been married for 49 years, and have four adult children and eight grandchildren. More info is available at www.DaveCarder.com At The Savvy Sauce, we will only recommend resources we believe in! We also want you to be aware: We are a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for us to earn fees by linking to Amazon.com and affiliated sites. Anatomy of an Affair by Dave Carder Torn Asunder by Dave Carder Torn Asunder Workbook by Dave Carder Close Calls by Dave Carder Schedule an appointment with Dave Carder HERE Dave Carder's Website, Including FREE video series on recovering from extramarital affair Thank You to Our Sponsor: Sam Leman Eureka Connect with The Savvy Sauce on Facebook or Instagram or Our Website Please help us out by sharing this episode with a friend, leaving a 5-star rating and review, and subscribing to this podcast! Also, check out our Patreon Page to find out how to gain access to additional podcasts and freebies! Gospel Scripture: (all NIV) Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,” Romans 3:24 “and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.” Romans 3:25 (a) “God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood.” Hebrews 9:22 (b) “without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.” Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:11 “Not only is this so, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.” John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” Romans 10:9 “That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.” Luke 15:10 says “In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.” Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus” Ephesians 1:13–14 “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession- to the praise of his glory.” Ephesians 1:15–23 “For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.” Ephesians 2:8–10 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God‘s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.“ Ephesians 2:13 “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near through the blood of Christ.“ Philippians 1:6 “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”

5 Threats to Oneness - Extramarital Affairs

God's Blueprint for Marriage

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 20, 2020 2:13

Extramarital affairs threaten Oneness An extramarital affair is an escape from reality or a search for fulfilment outside the marriage. We are seduced by our culture into believing that we deserve complete fulfilment and perfect happiness. Is this not what we see in the movies? The result of this is that we are led to having an improper perception of reality. We start comparing our expectations and fantasies with real life, and then rather question the reality and not our fantasies. This can lead to extramarital affairs. Extramarital affairs can take on many different forms: A Love affair is certainly the most destructive of the different affairs, followed closely by a fantasy affair which includes pornography or an obsession with love stories.. We can have an affair with our Career – we become so busy building a career that our partners and children must take the back seat. A Materialism affair is closely related to the Career affair – we start chasing money instead of relationships. When we spend too much time on hobbies or community projects, even good things like Church meetings and Bible studies, but our partners and children are neglected we have an Activities affair. There is even a Family affair – that is when our extended family place undue pressure on us to spend time with them. The escape to extramarital affairs, no matter which one we escape into, is doomed to lead to isolation.

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Healing Through Going Within Versus Healing Through Contrast

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Play Episode Listen Later Aug 7, 2020 22:05

Why these two different ways of healing can seem at odds, and why they never are. Get the books: http://cardreadingqueen.com/books

3 Ways to Understand Your Twin Soul Journey at the Energetic Level (Plus an Atlantean Healing Update)

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Play Episode Listen Later Jul 13, 2020 47:51

Are You on the Twin Soul Journey or Are You Just Bored? How to Tell the Difference

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Play Episode Listen Later Jul 10, 2020 22:34

Should You Work With Energy Healers on the Twin Soul Journey? The Good and the Bad

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Play Episode Listen Later Jun 24, 2020 30:43

In this edition of Lying On The Beach On Camera, Steve and Lois talk with “Mr.X” –he’s a married man who is having an affair. “Mr X” is trying to juggle a wife, kids, job and a girlfriend all while … Continue reading →

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What To Do If You're Married When You Learn About Twin Souls

The Healed Heart Podcast: Empowering Women To Heal From Infidelity

Play Episode Listen Later May 13, 2020 17:28

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015. Here's a Safe Way to Confront the Affair Partner

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 30, 2020 37:37

Confronting the affair partner can be REALLY tempting. And it may seem like once you've done it, you'll feel so much better. Or maybe you think you can convince them how wrong they are or the hurt they've caused. If you've been thinking about doing it or you've tried it before and it was an epic fail, listen to today's podcast episode for a foolproof way to confront the affair partner (minus the drama).What You'll Learn: If you should confront the affair partnerWhat industry experts, statistics, and betrayed partners have to say about confronting the affair partnerA foolproof safe way to confront the affair partner TODAYPlease Note: This is not intended as a replacement for psychotherapy.Go here for full show notes: http://healedheartpodcast.com/015

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How Generational Healing Works on the Twin Soul Journey

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Play Episode Listen Later Apr 13, 2020 34:46

Are Extramarital Affairs Caused by Anxiety?

The Brain Warrior's Way Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 17, 2020 16:29

In this episode of The Brain Warrior’s Way, Dr. Daniel and Tana Amen turn once again to some “Brain in the News” topics to weigh in from a neuroscience perspective. This episode features such newsworthy topics as Bill Clinton’s affair and anxiety, Bebe Rexha opening up on being bipolar, problems with the safety claims of BPA-free products, the mental health of a potential mass shooter, and a study on the positive effects of saffron.

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Why You Can't Manifest Anything or Anyone (Six Misconceptions About the Law of Attraction)

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Play Episode Listen Later Mar 9, 2020 27:31

Lets Talk – Communication Series – Extramarital Affairs

Let’s Talk: Jesse and Melva on Love and Marriage

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 13, 2020 30:08

Lets Talk - Communication Series Episode 9 - Extramarital Affairs In the book, Mining for Gold in Your Relationships, Jesse and Melva discuss 10 common relationship problems shared by couples and listed them in the order of complaint. In this series, they address them, one-by-one. In this episode, they cover "extramarital affairs," the number nine complaint they hear.

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Romantic Gifts For Your Twin Soul

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Play Episode Listen Later Feb 10, 2020 14:43

Why Your Twin Soul Doesn’t Mirror Back Your Interest Level in the 3D

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Play Episode Listen Later Feb 5, 2020 12:27

Why Your Twin Soul is Married and How To Deal

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Play Episode Listen Later Jan 8, 2020 24:49

Trouble in Paradise

Sip This Tea: Girlfriend Chat

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 24, 2019 48:40

This episode discusses top issues that lead to divorce and how to work through some of the top causes. Email advice questions to: sipthisteagirlfriendchat@gmail.comFB and IG pages for self care giveaway: @sipthisteapodcastArticles Referenced/Statistics:https://www.insider.com/why-people-get-divorced-2019-1https://www.mckinleyirvin.com/family-law-blog/2012/october/32-shocking-divorce-statistics/https://divorce.lovetoknow.com/Rates_of_Divorce_for_Adultery_and_Infidelity

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198: Extramarital Affair Recovery

Foreplay Radio â€“ Couples and Sex Therapy

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 3, 2019 26:49

Acting out in an affair are often signs of problems with the person's life. A push / pull dynamic can fuel the infidelity. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about the causes and how to recover from the pain of infidelity. Join us for Love and Sex 360 in beautiful Asheville, NC. November 15-17. Find out more! Take a moment and fill out our 8-question demographic survey. ------------------------------------------------------------------ Transcript: Laurie Watson: Adam, we're going to talk about extramarital affairs today, a difficult subject and something that certainly brings up a lot of pain for couples, but we want to offer some hope and some new ways to think about it. Hello again, and welcome to Foreplay – Radio Sex Therapy. I'm your host, certified sex therapist, Laurie Watson, author of Wanting Sex Again, and blogger at Psychology Today and WebMD , and I have with me Dr. Adam Mathews, my co-host, who's a couples therapist, psychotherapist, and President of NCAMFT. Foreplay is dedicated to helping couples keep it hot. Thanks for listening. Now, onto today's topic. Adam Mathews: A tricky subject today on the podcast, affairs, extramarital affairs. It's tricky for a lot of different reasons, right? Laurie Watson: It is. Adam Mathews: People classify affairs in a lot of different ways, in how you label affairs whether, because then, a lot of people, it's not just a sexual affair, it can be an emotional affair. Some people are going to define kissing somebody else as an affair. Somebody might even just describe not telling their partner about a relationship that's forming with somebody that they're attracted to as an affair, and so it's wide-ranging and it's one of the more devastating things to a relationship, right? I think it's devastating in part because of how much it breaks the trust, the core trust in the relationship. It's for most people, especially people in committed monogamous relationships, they believe that their sexual relationship is like the primary boundary that distinguishes their relationship from every other relationship that they have in life, and so that primary boundary gets violated and it gets broken, and so it's very difficult to recover from something like that, but it is recoverable. Laurie Watson: It is. Adam Mathews: There are ways that you can begin to move through a healing process in an affair. Laurie Watson: And rebuild trust. Adam Mathews: And rebuild that trust. Laurie Watson: Yeah. Adam Mathews: Right? Laurie Watson: Yeah. I think that affairs happen for two reasons. One, an affair is a refuge from a relationship problem in the marriage, or in the committed partnership, but it also comes from a pain in a person's life. There's two forces often, or one or the other force that's happening. The classic midlife crises is the person who, maybe there are marital stressors, but they're facing aging, they're facing disappointments in their career. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Laurie Watson: There are many internal issues that they're going through that caused them to act out and have an affair. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Yeah. I would call this the push-pull effect, right? If there's relationship problems going on that can often be pushing them out of the relationship, where they turn to other things, or the internal that's pulling them towards something that they're wanting, that they feel like is lacking either in them internally or in the relationship, and so like recognizing that, those things, you then begin to just turn to something that you feel like is going to give you what you're lacking in that, either that safety in the relationship that you're not experiencing, the excitement, the attention, or it's going to satisfy that kind of pain. Laurie Watson: Right. That's the push. Adam Mathews: That's the push. Laurie Watson: That's the push out of the relationship, and the pull toward is what? Adam Mathews: Yeah. It is something that you're missing internally in yourself, confidence, loneliness, meaning in life, feeling like there's something that you're missing out on. Laurie Watson: And they're trying to find that in a third-party. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Right. It's difficult because those things, those things feel very real to the person that's seeking them out, right? Laurie Watson: Yeah, and I'm aware as we're talking about this in a very methodical therapist-like way, we understand that if you've been betrayed, this is very painful. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Oh, yeah. Laurie Watson: Very, very painful, and so we don't want to minimize the person who was in the relationship that did not step out their pain, but we also want you to think about this from two parts. I mean, this recruitment of a third-party actually allows stability to happen without real change, so the person maybe splits off and says, "Okay. I'm going to get my sex needs met over here. I'm going to keep my family intact, and that way, I can have what I need. I can feel stable without actually growing, developing, changing, or making the marriage better, or confronting the issues between myself and my partner, or in myself. Adam Mathews: Oh, yeah. Yeah. Yeah, I think it provides a sense of it's safer, right? It's safer than doing the hard work of addressing those things in the relationship or in the self, and I would say- Laurie Watson: Temporarily say. Adam Mathews: Temporarily, yeah, and I think that oftentimes, when people, say the person that has been cheated on says that, "I was blindsided by this. I didn't see this coming," a lot of times, I think it's an effect of that because for a while, it makes the marriage or the committed relationship more stable than it was, and so it feels like things are good, and it's hard to see that, right? As a person that's been cheated on, you're feeling blindsided, you're feeling run over, you're feeling like it's extremely personal, like it's a reaction to you, and to a flaw that you have, or something that's wrong with you, which is not true, but it's hard to see that you didn't really miss something. It just, that introduction of that third person into the relationship made it feel more stable, but that doesn't last, right? Laurie Watson: It doesn't. Right, and it's also false because the fantasy of who that person is includes you're always dressed up, you always have time for each other, you're not talking about the bills, you're not talking about the stressors of your kids. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Laurie Watson: I mean, it's a fantasy, and there's very little that competes with that gilded fantasy. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Yeah. I mean, there's lots of research that's just, might be helpful to mention too about the fact that affair relationships, people that leave their spouse for affair relationships, those relationships rarely last. Like the longest that they last, the top end is something like three years, so- Laurie Watson: Wow, I didn't know that. I believe that. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Laurie Watson: I mean, I think the problem with an affair in terms of the person who's acting out is they're not developing and growing. They're not changing. Adam Mathews: Right. Yeah. Laurie Watson: Whatever dynamic was not working in the marriage, they haven't fixed that. Adam Mathews: Right. Laurie Watson: They haven't confronted it, and so how can they kind of expect that they're going to turn to another person? It's a fantasy to believe that, "I'm just with the wrong person." Adam Mathews: Yeah. Laurie Watson: As it turns out, we bring ourselves to every relationship, and so we're going to recreate similar problems. Adam Mathews: Yeah, your problems are going to follow you in those cases, because you're not actually dealing with anything that's significant, either in the relationship or within yourself, that's going to change it, so you end up having those same problems in the relationship if you fully lean into the affair relationship, right? Laurie Watson: Yeah. Right. Adam Mathews: That when, to be able to do that, most people ... I am fully convinced that the vast majority of people do not go into their marriage or enter their long-term relationship feeling like they are going to have affairs, right? Laurie Watson: Absolutely not. Adam Mathews: They're not planning on having an affair, and so to get into it, you have to begin to demonize the person that you're with to some extent, right? Laurie Watson: Yeah. Adam Mathews: It's either at the very minimum, it's a belief, like you were saying, that they're the wrong person for me, that I'm just not supposed to be with them, and so you have to be able to do that to be able to then be with the affair partner, and so then with the affair partner, you begin to build them up higher than they actually are, right? Laurie Watson: Yeah. I was treating a couple who had an incredibly sustainable marriage. They had been good friends for quite some time, and I mean, really had a good relationship, and somehow or another, an affair had entered in. I think what had happened was they went from this good relationship, and the partner who was having an affair began to tell themselves, "Well, this person is not really going to be with me in the way that I really want them to be with me sexually." The reason they denigrated their partner was because in their heart, the affair partner was truly monogamous, so the only way they could sort of justify what was happening was by saying, "But my partner isn't going to meet my needs, therefore, I need a new partner," because they were violating their own ethic. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Laurie Watson: Their own ethic was one of being with one person, and so they couldn't do that without suddenly, kind of putting on the sunglasses and seeing all the flaws of their partner, and also putting on the rose-colored glasses and seeing all the blessings and the excitement of the new partner. Adam Mathews: Right. Laurie Watson: I mean, in order to resolve this cognitive dissonance, we have to do something on the inside, and this is what the partner who was having the affair was doing, was just making their partner bad. Affairs do happen in good marriages. Adam Mathews: Absolutely, but that cognitive dissonance thing is important because it's very real, and it's helpful for the injured partner, the spouse that's been cheated on to understand that that is happening in the mind of the person that cheated, because it's not ... They almost have to ... A lot of times in, when an affair is happening, the partner will go, "Well, it's ..." They become a different person, right? They become a person, "I don't know who that person is," and that is the resolution of that cognitive dissonance. Adam Mathews: They're trying to resolve that, and in doing so, you have to almost become somebody that you're not to be able to have that affair. You have to look at the other person differently, build up the affair partner, and then choose between the, justify these behaviors that for most people, are behaviors that they say they would never engage in. Laurie Watson: Right. I mean, I think the difficulty is people say it's, "The line in the sand," which is a very weird metaphor to me. Like a line in the sand is very shiftable, but anyway, the line in the sand is, "I was going to leave my partner if they cheated," and then they have their real partner cheat, and they realize, "But there's all this good in the marriage," and of course there's huge injury, and if they don't get help quickly, they can't resolve that. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Laurie Watson: An affair is basically a solution that doesn't require the couple to face their inadequacies, in their relationship, and their sexual problems, the emotional distance or fusion, as we talked about last week, that result in a lack of eroticism. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Laurie, why don't we come back after the break, and we want to be sure to tell you how we would deal with it in treatment, and keeping in mind that it is not an easy solution, but there is a solution and a way forward in relationship. Laurie Watson: Okay. Yes, and there's hope, we believe. We want to remind all of you that we are thankful for the way you've shared the podcast. We continue to grow. It is our greatest honor when you share with a friend the work that we're doing and trying to help people so that they can make positive changes and strengthen their marriages and their partnerships. Laurie Watson: We would like to invite you to our retreat in November. Loveandsex360.com is where you find us, and I think the last thing we'd like to say is both of us are doing intensives, so if you would like to work with us, let us know and call our centers. You can find us at foreplay-radio-sex-therapy .com. Adam Mathews: If you like what we're doing and want to help support us, we'd love for you to rate and review us on iTunes, so thanks for listening. All right. We are talking about affairs and how to move forward, believing that there's hope even when an affair happens in a relationship for there to be recovery, even without the injured partner having to compromise or to lay down their values, or to lay down their hurt, right? That doesn't have to happen. The affair partner doesn't have to live in the dog house forever in the relationship. Adam Mathews: There's ways to begin to move forward to have what I believe is actually a healthier relationship and a better relationship after an affair, if you're able to put into the work and kind of sustain through the really grueling process of recovering from one. Laurie Watson: Yeah. I see couples who, the affair does signify essentially a cry for help in the marriage, and they go forward after treatment in a stronger, more intimate, more trusting place than they could have really gotten to without this crises, and nobody wants to go through that or think, "Isn't there a better way?" Adam Mathews: Yeah. Laurie Watson: There probably is a better way, but we also think that, like sometimes, a bone that breaks and is stronger when it heals after an affair, your marriage can be stronger. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Yeah. What's the first step for you when you say, "How do we begin to deal with it?" Laurie Watson: Yeah. First, we want to deal with the impact of it. Adam Mathews: Right. Laurie Watson: The problem is, is that in the initial stage, it looks like the marriage is going to reorganize around the aftermath of the affair, instead of around the original problems that were kind of the push out of the relationship. We eventually, as a therapist and as a couple, you want to eventually get to the real problems. The difficulty with this is that the betrayed partner says, "You are saying it's my fault. You are making me responsible for this terrible, hurtful thing that has happened to me," and we're not. We know that it is terrible and hurtful what has happened. Laurie Watson: You are not responsible for the pin that your partner pulled out of the grenade in the marriage. You are not responsible for that. You are responsible for the marriage in general and the problems that the two of you have co-created up until this point. Adam Mathews: Yeah, and Laurie, I mean, I think there's difficulty for me in that because I believe on some level, the partner that stepped out of the marriage has to take responsibility for their actions, right? Laurie Watson: Yes. Adam Mathews: Nobody forced them to have an affair. Laurie Watson: Right. Adam Mathews: Nobody forced them to cheat, or to step out, or to not talk about the problems, or whatever it was that they did. Nobody forced them to do that, right? There may be circumstances that were pressuring, that felt inevitable to them, that they didn't fully understand at the time, but nobody forced them to kiss somebody else, so nobody forced them to have sex with somebody else, to share intimate things with somebody else, and so talk to me about that because I just, I feel like they have to, that one of the first steps that has to happen is that they have to express some remorse, right? Laurie Watson: Absolutely. Absolutely. Adam Mathews: If there's no remorse for the affair, then I don't know how to go forward in it. Laurie Watson: Right, and they have to stop the affair if the marriage is going to go forward. Adam Mathews: Yes. Laurie Watson: I mean, you can't be with somebody who is with somebody else, at least if that's what you want in terms of monogamy and a sole commitment. You can't do it, so yes, they have to stop the affair. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Laurie Watson: They have to express remorse. I think for real healing, which doesn't happen right away, but for real healing, that person has to deeply understand the hurt that they have caused. Adam Mathews: Right. Yes, absolutely. Laurie Watson: I think it's very painful in the beginning, because often, the affair partner is entitled. This is how they rationalize part of it, is they talk about, "Well, I have been hurt in this marriage, and this was my only path that I saw." Adam Mathews: Oh, sure. Laurie Watson: That may be true for them. It is their only path that they saw, and they don't want to be labeled as a bad person. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Absolutely, yeah. Yeah. Laurie Watson: The person who is betrayed says, "I didn't deserve this," and the person who stepped out says, "I'm not not a bad person." Adam Mathews: Yeah, and I think maybe that's the place that ... Maybe that's what you were saying before, is that to me, the person that's been injured, that's been cheated on has to eventually get to a place where they can separate what happened from the character of the person, that they're not a bad person. They've made really bad choices for the relationship, they made very injurous choices for the relationship, things that were, don't condone the affair or say the affair was okay. it was extremely hurtful, and we can sit with that while also saying the person that cheated is not a bad person. That in and of itself, I think takes some time, but I think it has to come as the person that cheated expresses remorse, and that remorse is heard and believed and genuine, followed by their actions of cutting off all contact with the affair partner, and then the person that's been cheating on, being able to express very specifically how they've been hurt. Adam Mathews: I hear a lot of people come in, and somebody is cheated and all that and they say, "Well, they should know how I feel. They should know how hurtful this is." Yes, like obviously, they should see that an affair is hurtful, but everybody's gets hurt by it in different ways and specific ways, and so being able to express that hurt and for that hurt to be heard and validated, I think is very important. Laurie Watson: I think pursuers and distancers have affairs for different reasons. Adam Mathews: Yeah, absolutely. Laurie Watson: Often, a pursuer will have an affair as a way to get the attention for their partner, like, "I am starving, and this other person has met my need either sexually or emotionally, and now it has become sexual," but it's oftentimes rooted in a point in time in the marriage where the pursuer has given up. "On the marriage, I've tried. I've tried to get through to you. I've screamed and hollered. I haven't been able to," and now they're in a distancing phase, and that's oftentimes when they will have the affair. Laurie Watson: You would think that withdrawers wouldn't have affairs because they don't have that much pull to do it, but ironically, I see lots and lots of withdrawers having affairs, because I think its conflict is scary, intimacy is very difficult for them, and so they hide from that conflict in the primary relationship, but that reduces sexual feelings and eroticisms between them and their partner, and so they split that off into the affair partner. Adam Mathews: Absolutely. Laurie Watson: "I'm going to have sex over here because I can't risk the intimacy that real sexuality in partnership demands of me." Adam Mathews: Yeah, it's too much. Laurie Watson: "It's too much. It's too intense, and so I split these two things apart." You would think that withdrawers wouldn't do that, but they do, oftentimes have affairs, so- Adam Mathews: Yeah. Well, it's just a move outside of the relationship, so for withdrawers, it's a- Laurie Watson: It's an absolute step away. Adam Mathews: Yeah. For withdrawers, it's the ultimate withdraw from the relationship. For pursuers, it's the ultimate pursue, because you're looking at- Laurie Watson: You're finally caught. Adam Mathews: Yeah, absolutely. Laurie Watson: Somebody catches you. You chase, and they catch you, and that's so exciting. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Well, and the hope of pursuers is that the distancing partner is going to see their affair and go, "Oh my gosh, I had neglected you. I should come towards you and move towards you in that." Laurie Watson: Right. You are valuablae, because the pursuer often feels like they're not valuable to their partner, and so they're trying to get some of that with their outside partner. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Yeah. Laurie Watson: Yeah. Adam Mathews: I think after, as you- Laurie Watson: I think the withdrawer is trying to avoid. Adam Mathews: Yeah, but you're dealing with that impact. You're dealing in that first step. You're dealing with the hurt. You're dealing with the remorse, but then, moving on to try to ... You call it finding meaning, right? I call it dealing with the decline of the [inaudible 00:20:39], whatever was the decline in the beginning, identifying that push-pull of what was happening before that both people are then responsible for, right? Laurie Watson: Right. Adam Mathews: There's hard on both sides on the things that happened before the affair. Laurie Watson: Yeah, and as we're learning sort of EFT, the languages, they're identifying their toxic cycle, right? Adam Mathews: Right. Laurie Watson: How did they push and pull with each other? How did the pursuer chase, perhaps criticize, and that pushed the withdrawing partner away? The pursuer wasn't in some way soft enough or safe enough for the withdrawer to really talk about what was going on inside them, or how did the withdrawing partner make their pursuing partner so frantic by their withdrawal that they couldn't get it together, and that this pattern is repeated over and over in many aspects of their lives, certainly sexually? Adam Mathews: Yeah. Yeah. Laurie Watson: I mean, people don't necessarily have affairs simply over sex. I mean, there is a sexual component, but often, the toxic cycle, and then healing that in the secondary phase of recovery is really important to understand what was going on at the time, where it is the affair fit into that cycle, and can they begin to see that this pattern may not work for them? Adam Mathews: Yeah. Yeah. This is often- Laurie Watson: It doesn't work for them. Adam Mathews: Yeah. This is often ... That part is often the hardest for the person that's been cheated on, right? The first phase of treatment for somebody in an affair, it's the partner that's done the cheating. It's hardest for them during that first phase, and it's harder for the partner that's been injured because talking about the cycle that happened before the affair often feels like condoning the affair, and it can feel like to them- Laurie Watson: Or blaming them. Adam Mathews: Or blaming them for the affair, and so, and both things are not true, right? You're not blaming them or condoning the affair, but you're saying, "This is what was happening." Right? This was what was going on in your relationship. Your relationship was not the best before this. Adam Mathews: Right? I think a lot of times, you look back when something like an affair happens, and you romanticize, or you look back through rose-colored glasses on history, and you rewrite history a bit and go, "Our relationship was great. Our relationship was fine. Why would they ever do this?" Sometimes you can recognize the difficulty of it, but oftentimes, you look back and go, "The affair should never ... It doesn't fit in that cycle," which is not entirely true, and so you have to understand what was happening and finding that meaning, understanding that cycle so that you can begin to move forward and break that, right? Laurie Watson: Exactly. In that recovery, we want the couple to basically find safety with each other so that vulnerability becomes possible again, sexual vulnerability, but also emotional vulnerability. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Laurie Watson: The person who stepped out has to see how painful it was to their partner, and the partner has to see the binds and the difficulties that their partner who betrayed them was feeling, which is really hard work. Adam Mathews: It's such hard ... Yeah. Hard work. Laurie Watson: It's such hard work. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Laurie Watson: I know that one growth pattern for a man that I was seeing who'd had an affair, he said, "Well, my wife just isn't very creative sexually," and I said, "Do you share with her your sexual fantasies?" He's like, "Nope." I already knew that their sex life was pretty boring. The married couple's sex life was pretty boring, but his complaint was also without his vulnerability and sharing what he wanted and what he thought about, and all that kind of stuff, and so he just split that off, had the affair. Adam Mathews: Yeah. We believe that it is possible. We kind of given you just a start. I mean obviously, this work needs an outside party. You need a therapist to help work you through this, preferably one that deals with affairs a lot. Laurie Watson: I think you do. Adam Mathews: I mean, I think most couple therapists do, but finding one who kind of has a good framework for how to kind of help you move through it, and doing that work, it's difficult, it's hard, but there is hope for rebuilding your relationship. It takes a lot of time. I wish that this is not a quick process. Affair recovery is not ... It's slow, and oftentimes it feels like you're going backward. Adam Mathews: Part of the moving forward is really dealing with the flare-ups that come from what I classified as grief. Like it's, you're grieving the relationship that you had, and you're really building a new one, so a lot of times, those emotions flare up, especially for the injured partner, like it comes up randomly through very strange things, things that seemingly may not become- Laurie Watson: Right. They get triggered. Adam Mathews: Yeah. They get triggered- Laurie Watson: A politician in your city has an affair, or there's an affair on the movie that you go to see together. Adam Mathews: Oh, yeah, or you've somehow find yourself listening to the country station on Pandora, and every song is about an affair. Laurie Watson: Right. Right, exactly. It's easy to get triggered. Adam Mathews: But you have to kind of be, learn how to deal with those triggers in your relationship and move forward, so really, just encourage you, if this is something that's happened in your relationship, don't ignore it. Please don't ignore it. Laurie Watson: Yeah. Don't sweep it under the rug. Adam Mathews: Don't sweet it under the rug. It's a big deal. Laurie Watson: And don't believe that your only choice is bitterness, that you just have to swallow that this is what happened. Adam Mathews: Absolutely. Yes. Laurie Watson: We believe in forgiveness that there's a way, and it doesn't mean that you forget or that you look the other way. It's a way that you truly work through. Adam Mathews: Absolutely. Laurie Watson: Thanks for listening. Adam Mathews: You can now call in your questions to the Foreplay question voicemail. Dial 833-MY4-PLAY. That's 833, the number four, play, and we'll use the questions for our mailbag episodes. 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How can the guilty party speed up the recovery process? What advice do you have for the faithful partner? What is the role of forgiveness and how do you grant it? What advice do you have for pastors who are counseling couples who have had an affair? What is the Biblical approach to resolving conflict? How do you breathe life back into a dead marriage? These are just some of the questions that Pastor Dr. David Murphy answers in this practical episode.

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Play Episode Listen Later Jun 12, 2019 89:27

What makes a marriage susceptible to an affair? Why is it important to view love as a choice and not as a feeling? What are warning signs you might be drifting toward an affair? Are there different types of affairs? What role does friendship and emotion have in the development of an affair? All of these are questions that Pastor Murphy, an experienced pastor and counselor, answers in this episode.

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