Is Our Love ____? with Lola Jean & The Reluctant Sexpert

Black men in particular are one of the most objectified groups in porn. Black men are a porn genre, which begs the question of why race is a genre….BBC is more than just a porn SEO tag, it is a colloquialism, signaling on dating apps and even a proclaimed sexual lifestyle. Though we may think we are idolizing the black male body, where does this notion come from, how is it perpetuated and how do those on the receiving end experience it? King Noir is no stranger to speaking out politically and sexually. Experiencing this objectification first hand in both the music industry and the sex industry, King has navigated these mirroring communities for decades. King helps us decode how the industry dehumanizes porn performers and the ripple effect to marginalized folx outside of the industry. Find all of King's content on kingnoire.com If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice Email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert The end of episode song this week is King Noire "Hu$tle Matrimony" Our official theme songs were lovingly composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

An Educator for Sex Educators? A more and more common question these days as more sexuality professionals emerge is: “How can I do that too?” The road to becoming a sexuality professional is murky. Even murkier is how to make that career or side-hustle a viable one. Enter Cameron Glover, whose goal is to make your sex ed business as successful as it can be with the Sex Ed Business Academy. Certifications, training programs, mentorship...there isn’t one go-to path for all individuals. What makes a Sex Educator good at their job? What makes them “official” and who are we waiting for to grant us those titles? Cameron has us question who content is made for and why so many people have imposter syndrome. Whether you’re interested in the sex-ed field or not, Cameron lays down some business advice that’s applicable for everyone. For more of Cameron's work & info on the Sex Ed Business Academy: cameronglover.com If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice Email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert The end of episode song this week is Fuck Buttons, "Red Wing" Our official theme songs were lovingly composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

This week we continue our venture into the world of literotica with someone who can not only call themselves an erotica writer but a sex toy inventor as well. Tabitha Rayne is a decorated writer who draws more on fiction than reality. Penning her dirty words as a way to finesse typing and molding her own rideable toy as a means to get off while her fingers flowed, Tabitha quite literally continues to fall into success. Tabitha brings the fun back into saying, writing and reading certain words. We grill Tabitha on where the bridge between written and spoken dirty words--if at all, how you can get into writing your own smut, and how to use erotica in your own life. PLUS, we continue to ask the age old question: Why were people always hiding porn magazines in bushes? You can find all of Tabitha's work on tabitharayne.com and purchase a ruby glow at therubyglow.com If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice (or just want to share a story) Email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert The end of episode song this week is LAPS "Mojo" Our official theme songs were lovingly composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

For all of the visual stimuli we are bombarded with and lack of sexual communication it’s no wonder we are ill equipped to whisper sweet nothings into our persons ear. Enter: Peekaboo Collins. Whether it’s poetry or short stories, Peekaboo weaves a web of syllables and phrases of the lead up, and the in-betweens of every scintillating moment. We learn that not all erotica has to depict fantasy, and how we can rewrite our own stories in the best possible light….if we want. From the bathroom blowjob that never happened to a built up childhood crush that ultimately leads to being disappointed, everyone has one of those stories that we’ve romanticized or dreamt better than reality. Peekaboo chose to write about it. What are you waiting for, time to finish your own story or create a new one. You can find Peekaboo's work at peekaboocollins.com and @peekaboocollins If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice (or just want to share a story) Email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert The end of episode song this week is Peaches "Talk To Me" Our official theme songs were lovingly composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

What is a norm and how do you know if you’re willingly or unwillingly abiding by it? By now we know our formative years at least have some influence in our worldview. Does that mean norms are good? Bad? or do they not even matter at all? Porn performer and activist Lync Johnson (@lyncjohnson3x) takes us through his formative years and how his lack of societal influence helped him form norms of his own. From a unique first time experience to rejecting labels, Lync’s journey down memory lane has us all questioning our societal influences and how norms can be particularly gendered. PLUS a listener gets some words of advice from Julia Koewer (@JuliaKoerwer) LMSW on finding affordable therapy for a new lover. Follow Lync everywhere: allmylinks.com/lyncjohnson If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice Email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert The end of episode song this week is Suicide "Dream Baby Dream" Our official theme songs were lovingly composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

By now we all know what consent means…..or do we? How much do you really know and what can an intimacy coordinator teach you about your current understanding? Alot, it turns out. If you thought consent = permission, this week is for you. Intimacy coordinator Mia Schachter (@miaschachter) graces our presence to boost our understanding of consent and what most people get wrong within their understanding. We can all use a better understanding of consent and how boundaries relate to it both sexually and non-sexually. Mia lets us in on the burgeoning Intimacy Coordinator role, how she came about it, and why she is surprisingly not always well received. Plus we learn what the fuck procity is, what we can learn from it and why we should all be critical consumers. You can find more information on Mia's work, upcoming workshops, and her podcast at sharetheloadinc.com. If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice Email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert The end of episode song this week is Rival Schools "Hooligans For Life" Our official theme songs were lovingly composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

What role does film and media play in our love and in our lives? Does culture reflect film or vice versa? This week we are joined by the charismatic Nia Ashley who takes us on her film journey and the media that impacted her life. We reflect on what happened to the era of UPN series and why TV has taken one step forward and three steps back. Nia helps us navigate if we can still love art and artists that we now see through problematic glasses. Nia represents a burgeoning generation eager to create the narratives they so sorely missed. Find Nia's work at niaashley.com If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice Email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert The end of episode song this week is Thao & The Get Down Stay Down "Pure Cinema" Our official theme songs were lovingly composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

This week we're joined by southern sexuality superhuman Marla Stewart, whose impressive body of work speaks for itself. Co-founder of the Sex Down South conference, Marla is already making history and a forging new educated era in sex and sexuality. Plus... she loves an uncomfortable conversation as much as we do. From strip club culture to pop culture we discuss how history and geographical location influences cultural upbringing. Oh, and we take a highly academic lens to the impact and significance of WAP. Follow Marla at: @1marlastewart Coaching, Workshops & Education: velvetlipssexed.com And sign up for the upcoming virtual and IRL Sex Down South Conference: sexdownsouth.com If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice Email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert Our official theme songs were lovingly composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

Based on the number of pro dommes we've had on this podcast the past few weeks, we need a little reminder that good, old fashioned, fuck yes, traditional sex is still fucking fantastic and fun for all! We are joined this week by Sex Educator and Youtuber Hannah Witton who's advocating for the conventional. Marriage, kids, monogamy. What does it mean to be sexually progressive when you tic so many privileged boxes? How do you handle secret fantasies or masturbating to an ex in a committed relationship? Find out how Hannah sometimes treats her relationship like a job performance review, and why you should too. Follow Hanna on instagram, youtube, her podcast DOING IT! and check out all her books, content, etc. on Hannawitton.com If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice Email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is The Clean "Tally Ho" Our official theme songs were lovingly composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

Oh I’m sorry... did you think we were an good-vibes-all-the-time podcast? Stephens inner goth gets to let loose as we welcome this week's fascinating guest Audrey Fatale. We learn all about the death industry and how Audrey navigated her way through it. Find out what secondary trauma response is, what one learns working at a morgue and in traumatic bereavement, and how she’s brought alllllll of that into BDSM. From necrophiles to the funeral business, whether you avoid the topic of death, run right towards it, or you happen to eroticize it - we cover the gamut in this episode of Is Our Love. You can find Audrey Fatale at: mistressfatale.com If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice Email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is the timelessly brilliant but *so* painfully sad Scott Walker "My Death" Our official theme songs were lovingly composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

Is Our Love Particular? Does our love even know what it wants? Whether you’re ideal pairing is in pay-for-play, a long term partner, or your career we could all take a few notes from Mistress Eva Oh (@youwillplease_me) in patience and consistency. Enter this week’s episode bursting with logic. Mistress Eva Oh has a particular list of her small life's pleasures and knows exactly how to go about getting them... or punish shortcomings. We could all learn a thing or two from Eva Oh when it comes to being patient and getting satisfaction. You can find Eva Oh and all her work on eva-oh.com If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice Email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is Tiny Deaths "If I'm Dreaming" Our official theme songs were lovingly composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

Why are femme Dominatrizes more prevalent and heralded than masc Doms? Is there a stigma against masc Doms, particularly cis-male Doms? We discuss why that is and what you can do about it on our latest episode with Master Peter. From swing dancing to switch hitting, Master Peter got into the business sideways and now he is firing from all cylinders. From his time as dungeon monitor, personal relationships, and his clients both couples and singles alike, you’re going to want to learn what puts Master Peter as the creme de la creme and why he is so often sought out in the London scene. Speaking of scenes, Master Peter’s signature teaching tool is gentle dominance. Learn how partnered dance and partnered play have more in common thank you’d think and how YOU can be a better dominant and a better partner. You can find Master Peter at: masterpeter.co.uk If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice Email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is Miss Kittin "Life Is My Teacher" Our official theme songs were lovingly composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

What is a dungeon and are they all created similarly? We speak with all around sex worker Adreena Angela on how she doesn’t follow all the rules from curating her studio space, how she interacts with clients, and the controversial stance on if Dommes take their tits out. Dungeons and sex work isn’t as scary as you would think and Adreena pulls back the veil to let you know some of the best -- and worst messages and experiences she has in her decorated career. PLUS Adreena, Lola and Stephen answer a listener q from a couple interested in approaching a sex worker for a session. Find out all the etiquette and ways to go about making your fantasies a reality, yes….even in Florida. You can find more about Mistress Adreena and Inanna Studio at mistressadreena.co.uk If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice : Email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is Moses Sumney "Cut Me" Our official theme songs were lovingly composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

Have you ever had a stereotype projected onto you? Have you ever felt guilty about embodying or identifying with a stereotype of your ethnicity or otherwise? These conversations may not be easy but they’re absolutely necessary. This week we welcome Rebecca Carvalho to discuss her relationship with her ethnicity as it relates to her sexuality and how this comes into play throughout her dating life and interaction with porn. Latinx people covers a WIDE range of persons. Rebecca uses her personal journey as well as learning about her roots and past, including reconciling with a shame of embodying some of the common stereotypes. PLUS Stephen and Lola answer an advice question about squirting that isn’t really about squirting at all! Follow Rebecca on Insta @rebeccaecarvalho or find her at rebeccaecarvalho.com If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice : Email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is Ricky Martin, "Shake Your Bon-Bon" because holy shit that really happened once upon a time. Our official theme songs were lovingly composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

Do you remember getting the talk? Who gave it to you? How would you give “the talk?” Easier said than done. This week’s guest Jet Setting Jasmine is not only walking the walk but talking THE 'talk'. Jasmine is a mother of three and can add therapist, pornographer and domme to her extensive resume. Jasmine schools us on the sex positive parenting playbook that doesn’t exist, answering questions like: When do you start introducing topics of sex to your children and how you go about doing it? Do you have to be comfortable with your own sexuality to be able to provide them with a quality ‘talk?’ Does it have to be awkward? Above all, how do we keep our children safe while enabling them to explore sexuality in a healthy manner? PLUS we talk to Jasmine about how to educate your kids on looooove. Find everything Jet Setting Jasmine on: jsjlinks.com (or, like she says, just google her) If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice : Email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is Madison McFerrin "TRY" Our official theme songs were lovingly composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

Does it seem like everyone is talking about open relationships and polyamory lately? Is non-monogamy actually better? Who is it for? Does non-monogamy mean you have more sex? And why does it have so many syllables? Ruby Rare joins us this week to spell out the shades of non-monogamy from A-Z. Whether you’re already considering non-monogamy or you want some applicable learnings for your future relationships, this episode has relatable bits of wisdom for everyone - monogamous or not. PLUS, Stephen, Lola and Ruby give some advice to a pleasure seeking individual struggling to achieve orgasm with a partner. Follow Ruby on Instagram: @rubyrare If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice : Email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is a throwback: The Rapture "Open Up Your Heart" Our official theme songs were lovingly composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

Did you know you have a pelvic floor? Yes, all of you. Do you know what is does? Spoiler Alert: EVERYTHING. Rachel Gelman a San Francisco based Pelvic Floor Therapist joins us this week to tell us everything from the 411 on kegals to why a good bowel movement can make your week. Whether you had no idea that the hammock in your pelvis was responsible for your orgasms AND your urination or you’ve been trying to kegel your way to the heavy weights - there’s always something new to learn. Trust us: you’re going to want to get a notebook for this ep. PLUS Stephen, Lola, and Rachel give some advice to a vortex of vaginal odor & erectile difficulty shame. You can find the extensive list of resources Rachel mentioned here: www.painperceptionproject.com/patients & you can find Rachel's practice on instagram: @pelvichealthsf As always, if you're finding yourself in need sex, love or relationship advice : Email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com ... if we can't help we'll be happy to search for a trained professional. ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is the Soulwax remix of Hot Chip's "Ready For The Floor" Our official theme songs were lovingly composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

Rebelling against your Pagan family by joining a church... this isn’t your average darling come porn performer coming of age tale. From the industry trying to pigeon hole a multi-racial gal as “latina,” to diversifying her porn profile Liv Revamped drops some wisdom for any aspiring porn performers about how she’s stayed fresh with over a decade of performing sex on camera. We learn pros vs. cons, working indie vs. contract, and discuss porns' rampant streaming evolution PLUS Stephen, Lola and Liv give virginal advice for first time sex! Follow Liv at livrevamped.com and @bish.izbak on Instagram ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert End of Episode music feature this week is Blossom Dearie "Between the Devil and the Deep Blue Sea" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

Everyone and their step-sibling seems to be making their own bootleg smut these days. Is there room for a new era of porn graduated form the yesteryears of gonzo? Is there a difference between porn and erotica? And above all - how does one transition from growing up in a sex cult to creating responsible porn? Frustrated by a lack of quality heterosexual porn that spoke to her, one-woman-show Inka Winter set out to make her own with For Play Films. We find out about the process that goes into each scene and how Inka selects her talent. As if Inka wasn’t already productively putting us all to shame, this director is adding “sex therapist” to her list of accomplishments truly ushering in a new era of porn. Find all of Inka's films at forplayfilms.com, which is currently running free memberships. You can also follow @forplayfilms on socials, and subscribe to her educational series "Sexucation" on YouTube. ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert End of Episode music feature this week is Pom Pom Squad "Red With Love" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

"I have caffeine, nicotine… and the conversation’s all over the place just like I like it.” - Stoya This week is the conclusion of our 2 part conversation with Stoya. We dive right in. If you haven’t listened to pt.1 … well, you’re doing it wrong. We talk balancing love, a career in adult film, and how the modern world forced her to become an expert in costuming & disaster-preparedness. We discuss Stoya's tween years spent researching sexuality, bdsm, & evolutionary biology at her local library. Plus Stephen and Stoya get a bit of closure rehashing their relationship. Stories abound. We hope you enjoy it. Hear Stoya & Stephens’ conversation about Unicorning (and other groupsex experiences) on the upcoming issue of Zerospaces.com and follow Stoya on Twitter & Instagram @stoya If you'd like advice on sex, love, or relationships you can always email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com ... (PS you can also email Stoya & her advice column 'How To Do It' at howtodoit@slate.com) ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert Exit music for this episode is Tom Waits "You Can Never Hold Back Spring" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

Stoya. A person who needs no introduction but we’re going to attempt it anyway. An internationally celebrated author, activist, actress & advocate for sex worker’s rights. An introverted cat lover, a next level book nerd, and a fearless caller of bullshit. An endless seeker of the authentic & creator of sexually explicit media in all forms. Stoya’s famously photogenic asshole could be identified in a line-up by millions of porn viewers… and that’s made her life simultaneously fascinating and fucking traumatizing. Stephen and Stoya met and fell in love in their 20s. That relationship would come to have strange rippling effects on both of their lives. The next two episodes of Is Our Love ____? is a uniquely intimate conversation between ex’s about mutual shared history, sex, love, life, and how we can all keep trying to improve. If you'd like advice on sex, love, or relationships you can always email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com ... (PS it's worth reminding that you can also email Stoya & her advice column 'How To Do It' at howtodoit@slate.com) You can find Stoya's explicit media and first 2 issues at Zerospaces.com. Our crossover Podcast episode on Unicorns will be part of the upcoming issue #3. You can also follow her @stoya on twitter and instagram. ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert The recurring musical theme this episode is Innerpartysystem "This Empty Love," (The video mentioned still exists on youtube) Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

In a world that isn’t wildly accepting of sexuality, kink, or anything that falls out of heteronormativity can be a scary thing to reveal to folx. Will they accept you? Shame you? Fire you? And if it goes long enough does keeping the secret become the bigger deal? Fetish Fellow is as public a private person can be. As an adored and go-to photo shoot submissive, Fetish Fellow has been in his share of masked displays. The modern day superhero removes his mask to join us to talk about his time in front of the camera as an introvert and rule-follower and what he’s learned along the way. Follow Fetish Fellow on instagram: @fellowfetish If you're finding yourself in need sex, love or relationship advice... or just some old fashioned digital human contact in quarantined times: Email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is "You Are My Sexual Connection" by Sexual Harassment Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

This week we ironically tackle threesomes as a twosome. Threesomes are often one of the first boxes on people’s sexual bucket lists, but are they all they’re cracked up to be? Stephen and Lola weigh the pro’s and con’s on adding a third, and trade some of their best (and worst) threesome tales. What makes a good threesome? What does a 'unicorn' mean? And what you need to know before you decide to have a threesome. Consider this your no-holds-bared, non-romanticized straight shooting guide to threesomes. ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is Against All Logic: "Fantasy" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

This week we take a break from our social distancing to talk about something other than coronavirus. To bring up spirits we decided it would be a great time to discuss personal finances! Totally kidding... we just recorded this episode pre-virus outbreak. In all seriousness, finances are a tricky topic regardless of global pandemic, and what a better time to reassess our relationship with sex, love and money than now. Lindsay Goldwert, author of Bow Down: Lessons from Dominatrixes on How to Get Everything You Want joins us to talk about cash, workplace power dynamics, and if pro dommes hold the answers to getting what you want in business. Follow Lindsay Goldwert on insta: @lindsay_goldwert, Her podcast SPENT on all platforms & her book BOW DOWN now in stores & digital platforms everywhere If you're finding yourself with unexpected quarantine time and need sex, love or relationship advice... or just some old fashioned digital human contact: Email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is "Unsatisfied" by The Replacements because I've got a case of the pandemic *fuckits* and have been listening to the Replacements. Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

This week, Is Our Love welcomes the gals of the “Welcome To My Vagina” podcast into *our* podcast vagina which is probably... anal? From hashtag#wellness-ing everything, to the reasons why we faked or continue to fake orgasms, Jessy & Rebekah trade genital war stories. We are overcoming our genital shame in this rainbow bright choose-your-own-genital-experience buffet. Listen to Jessy & Rebekah on Welcome To My Vagina (on all pod platforms) and find their other writing, videos, etc on welcometomyvagina.com Questions? Advice? Rainbows? Email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is Jan & Dean "Pocket Full of Rainbows" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

This week we live in the taboo, the messy, and the sometimes woo woo. That’s right: We’re on the rag, riding the crimson wave….we’re BLEEDING love. Valarie Merced (aka The Blood Queen) schools us on why it’s important for her to bleed on her lovers. From seeing her mother’s menstruation to the safeties and physiological response during menstruation, this episode is for people with vulvas AND those who enjoy them. Hell, how often do we get to talk about period and period sex? Strap on your Thinx and your Diva cups, it’s gonna get red. PLUS we challenge you to post a selfie with a “Simba” blood mark on your forehead & use #isourlovebleeding. Will this be the next ice bucket challenge? ...probably not. But... why not? Follow Val's magazine PRECIPICE on instagram: @precipicemagazine We love hearing from you for questions, blood stories, or advice: Email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is "Risk It" by Austra Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

This week on Is Our Love we explore the positive side of being positive. Advocate Philipp Speigel shares his personal stories from reliving his HIV diagnosis, depression, and processing to ultimately becoming a speaker and advocate through owning his positive status. Where it was once thought of as a death sentence, treatment and management for HIV has come leaps and bounds. Do you know what undetectable means? How educated are you on HIV transmission? How often are you getting tested snd how often should you? Take it from Lola and probably Schoolhouse Rock: knowledge is power and getting tested is easy and affordable (and often free.) For testing resources in your area just google your local government funded sexual health clinic or Planned Parenthood. You can find more information about Philipp's art & advocacy at philipp-spiegel.com and on Instagram: @ongoingviral We love hearing from you for questions, resources, or advice: Email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is "Sacred Scales" by Light Beams Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

Between breakups, makeups and all that unfolds in between we’ve all had our uglier moments. Lorrae of Slutty Girl Probs fame walks us through the best of times and the worst of times and how learning from those moments has helped her grow and learn more about herself and the types of relationships she needs. Lorrae and Stephen bond over seeing themselves as the problem child in the aftermath of a breakup, while Lola questions why most people tend to always make a villain out of their ex. PLUS Lorrae discusses how understanding her mental health takes part in how she processes breakups and look for future partners. Do you have questions or wanna share all your fucked up breakup feels? Email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com Follow Lorrae and hire her for coaching at sluttygirlproblems.com and on Instagram: @sluttygrlprobs and @lorraejo ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is "Door" by Nice As Fuck. Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

Move over stoner comedies and Bob Marley posters, cannabis has a new sheriff in town…. Sophie St Thomas! This week on Is Our Love we have the most responsible conversation about drugs with the famed author of Finding Your Higher Self and upcoming books Sex Witch and The Little Book of CBD for Self Care. Sophie takes us through her journey from her decision to become sober to her battle with PTSD, flashbacks and her journey to healing through Cannabis and other substances. PLUS we get into some witchy shit and Stephen adds 50 black candles to his amazon shopping cart. Are you stoned and want to email us with your sex questions? Email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com Follow Sophie St. Thomas on instagram and twitter: @thebowiecat ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert Music this week is Pure Magic 'I Get High' and Bongripper 'Satan' Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com    

We’re back from a *brief* hiatus to bring you the first episode of 2020. We’re getting all kinds of heady dissecting the phrasing, attire and spaces we frequent and what makes then “queer” “kinky” “sexy” etc…. How do we react to each of these individually and how do they influence or affect our behavior. Kinky queer architect Vanilla Honey shares her kink journey from her first experience with latex to her fantasy of designing the minimalist dungeon of your dreams. We question what is normal and why are we so concerned with it? Do you have questions or feelings--ALL THE FEELINGS--that need attention? Email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com Follow Vanilla Honey on Instagram: @vanilla.honey ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is "Meticulous Bird" by Thao & The Get Down Stay Down. Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

On our last episode of 2019, we take a look back on our favorite episodes of the year and also discuss our take on “Resolutions.” What’s the deal with benchmarks and why do we put so much weight into the changing of the years? Find out what Stephen and Lola are looking forward to in 2020 and what they’re leaving behind in 2019. Most of all, thank you for listening and we look forward to bringing you even more in 2020. If you have any episode requests or are seeking advice of your own this coming year, reach out to us at isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert The end of episode song is Daniel Johnston "True Love Will Find You In The End," Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

This week’s Is Our Love ___? hits us right in the babymaker. Cartoonist and budding comedian Morganna Nickoff (@morganna.jokes) joins us to question our fertility and our own opinions on why is it that we do or do not want offspring. What does it say about you if you do want kids and when should you start worrying about that biological clock a’ticking? Fresh from freezing her own eggs mere weeks before recording this episode, Morganna spills all the tea on what the entire process was like from the hormonal shots down to how much pocket change is required to pluck those golden eggs from her ovaries. Follow Morgana at: @morganna.jokes If you have a sex or relationship question for us or have a topic you want to hear covered on the show? Email us!!! (we really love hearing from you): isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is Yo La Tengo "You Can Have It All" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

Sometimes love feels like a struggle, but sometimes… maybe we want it too? Wrestling fetish is the biggest craze you’ve never heard about and it’s a lot more common than you think. Before we throw down, we sit with professional fetish wrestler Ursa Fierce to talk about the primal-ness, competitive, and smothering nature of this sport. From pro-style antics to the Butt-Fights you won't want to miss. Ursa explains how wrestling gave her a new perspective on her body and what the sport, the fetish, and the community has taught her. Oh yeah, and then she wipes the fucking floor with Stephen's face, LIVE! Follow Ursa Fierce on twitter: @UrsaFierce If you have a sex or relationship question for us or have a topic you want to hear covered on the show? Email us!!! (we really love hearing from you): isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is "Doggg" by SebastiAn Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

This week’s guest knows a thing or two about talking sex stuff in public. Remy Kassimir is the comedian cum role model who still worries if people think she’s cool. Remy joins us to talk about the funny thing that happens when you share your sex life on a global scale. From her first orgasm to managing social responsibility while cracking jokes to going way too hypothetical on how to manage a breakup on a podcast. PLUS, why Hitler would have benefitted from air pulsation technology. You can find links to How Cum and see Remy's live dates on: remykassimir.com If you have a sex or relationship question for us or have a topic you want to hear covered on the show? Email us!!! (we really love hearing from you): isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is... Just listen. You know what it is ;) Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

This week we are joined by Pro Domme and sometimes sociologist Lady Euphoria to pick apart why it is that we are so drawn to rules and why the lack of rules makes us so uncomfortable. We are a culture taught to thrive on efficiency and not thoroughness. This conversation uses BDSM as a framework, but make no mistake: this is a human conversation that EVERYONE needs to hear. We find ourselves questioning What are our rules and where do they come from? Does this come from a fear of rejection or fear of failure? If this makes you uncomfortable... or just curious, give this episode a listen. You can find all of Lady Euphoria's links and upcoming classes on her Instagram: @ladyeuphorianyc ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is a throwback, Moderat "Therapy" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

Sometimes our love feels like a game, but just how much are we toying with it? What are the roles of toys in our sex life and how should we be using them? Are we using toys too much? Too little? ARE WE EVEN USING THEM CORRECTLY!? Nadia Deen of AM.appointment teaches us how to chill the fuck out and stop pressuring ourselves (and our partners) to achieve the sexual equivalent of keeping-up-with-the-Jones’. Whether you vibrate, buzz, or just plain suck, come share your toys, your questions and curiosities with us on this weeks ep. You can find Nadia on: amappointment.com and Instagram: @am.appointment Tickets for the next PASS THE PORN event on Tues Nov 12th are available at: houseofyes.org ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is Sasami "Turned Out I Was Everyone" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

What witch, wizard or sorcerer would you want to fuck? It’s Halloween and we’re still not sure if we want to channel our sexual energy for good or for evil. This week we’re not question what our love is or isn’t. Instead, we’re taking you on a journey through space and time to our Pass the Porn event. Nope, no recordings of the porn sounds here, you’ll need to head to our next event for that! What happens when we get a Witch, a Wizard, a Shamanatrix and a Porn Performer on a panel? Tune in to find out! Featuring: Sophie Saint Thomas (@thebowiecat) Sabina Magic (@sabbyshow) Dia Dynasty (@dia_dynasty) Devin Person (@personisawake) Valerie Merced (@precipicemagazine) Moderated by: The Violet. (@theviolet_bk) ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is Twin Temple "I Am A Witch." Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

This week we're hitting where it hurts…...in the vagina? Sometimes our love involves vaginas, but what happens when that love is...painful? Whose responsibility is it? Do we push through it? Avoid it at all costs? Denial? This week we talk about the often experienced but lesser validated ambiguity that is vaginal pain. Emily from OhNut joins us to share how she stumbled upon her calling and how a pink frosted donut changed her life. Find out why doctors are saying “Fuck Yes” to a solution created by a patient. For info and to purchase an OhNut: ohnut.co ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is Sarah Vaughan "Make Yourself Comfortable" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

What a week to have our first guest on to talk STI’s and we’re kicking things off with the black sheep of the STI fam: Herpes. We get honest with our personal HSV stories: both contracting, spreading, and having in all it’s various formats. This weeks guest explains why people are so socially wired to freak out about Herpes and how discerning between HSV 1 and HSV 2 can add weight to that stigma. Busting myths and forging research, sexologist Emily Depasse is changing the way we talk about and frame a herpes diagnosis. Come one, come all, and give us your cold sore (stories.) Spoiler alert: it’s herpes… it’s always herpes. PLUS, Lola has Gonorrhea this week and she’s blabbing all about her first STI. You can find Emily at: emilydepasse.com Or on instagram: @sexelducation ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is Blossom Dearie "Boum" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com   

Our BDSM trilogy continues on Is Our Love?! After a few weeks of Dommes, we head to the other side of the spectrum and dive deep into sub space with this week’s guest: Indygo Ann. Indygo is a PRO SUB. Yeah, we’re capitalizing it, ‘cause they’re the unsung heroes of dungeons far and wide. But just because she’s a sub, does she actually enjoy her sessions with clients the same as with a partner? How does one keep themselves safe as a masochist? Whether you’re a Daddy or a Dad, a Mister or a Master, how do you get down with what your partner is into? PLUS, we get to the bottom of: what’s the deal with the hate on male Doms? Follow Indygo Ann on Instagram: @indygo_ann ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is LAKEHOUSE "Fare Thee Well" (which... super loving this new EP) Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

If our love is full of shit, how much confidence does it take to throatfuck that shit in someone’s mouth? Wait….what? You never asked… we answered, and the answer is this weeks’ guest: Mistress Shayla. A charismatic Texas sadist with a heart of gold. Shayla is seasoned in many areas of FemDom but where her heart shines brightest is when someone is covered in her sweet, sweet excrement. How does one get into pooping on people and why? What do her submissives get out of it and what does she enjoy most. Shayla answers the timeless question: after you’ve used someone’s mouth as a toilet, is there anything in life you can’t do? PLUS, we answer listener questions about how to find someone who is into the thing that you’re into! Follow Mistress Shayla @YesMissShayla on Twitter & Instagram ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is the fucking Carpenters: "Top of The World" ... because it really is the perfect ending to this perfect episode. Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

If being kinky is a spectrum from a simple roleplay all the way to chastity and eternal servitude, where does a new Pro Domme (Dominatrix) fall into it? Kicking off a string of BDSM focused guests is someone on the newer side of Pro Domming, but who is no stranger to smut. Mistress Nikita Reign is a true performance artist. From peep shows to titty bars to her latest medium: Domination. We talk to Nikita about the difference between Pro Domming in Australia versus the U.S., the role of community within sex work, and why strippers should thinking about having QR codes on their G-Strings. PLUS we answers a listener Q about what to do when you think your partner is depressed. For everything Mistress Nikita Reign: nikitareign.com And follow her on instagram: @mistress_nikitareign Tickets for the Oct 1st Pass the Porn event at House of Yes are available at houseofyes.org ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is our favorite BDSM themed Bowie tune: "I Would Be Your Slave" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

With all of the positive strides modern media is making with showcasing different types of bodies and faces, it can feel like body positivity is a simple compliment away, right? It’s not always as easy as telling yourself “I Love You” specifically if that negativity is rooted in insecurity and esteeming through others. *cough* Stephen *cough* This weeks guest Devon Moretti is a body image coach, but she didn’t get there overnight. Devon tells us the steps she took to getting to more accepting place with her body and where she still needs work. Because recovery is a process and not a destination. PLUS announcements for our event: Pass the Porn. You can find Devon & all of her programs at devondaymoretti.com And follow her on instagram: @devondaymoretti Tickets for the Oct 1st Pass the Porn event at House of Yes are available at houseofyes.org ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is Julia Jacklin "Head Alone" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

In our continued pursuit of all conversations sex & kink, this weeks' guest Cyndi Darnell, a leading sex therapist and educator, brings us back to our human core: INTIMACY. We have an in depth convo about fostering intimacy within our various types of relationships. Cyndi also illuminates how her clientele has changed over time, and addresses some of the most common issues that bring clients into her office (we're looking at you sexual dysfunction stress!). PLUS Lola and Stephen cover some butt stuff with a listener email. With so many great nuggets from this weeks episode perhaps the most poignant is: Ask not only what do you want, but what can you offer. You can find Cyndi's work, digital courses, or contact her for sessions at: https://cyndidarnell.com/ And follow her instagram: @cyndi_darnell ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is Qveen Herby "Sade In The 90s" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

This week on Is Our Love we talk to a *fucking* Wizard. Find out how one becomes a fucking wizard and what a real life wizard even does. Devin Person dispels the mystique behind erotic hypnosis and what happens when a hypnosis goes dark. So much of pleasure based sex ed focuses on physical touch, but how can one manipulate the mind as a part of the mind-body experience? Whether you subscribe or not, hypnotism has many interesting parallels to BDSM and sex. PLUS, Stephen and Lola get hypnotized and have (you guessed it)*very* different reactions. You can find all things Wizard or book sessions with Devin at personisawake.com and hear him on his podcast: THIS PODCAST IS A RITUAL. If you have a sex or relationship question for us or have a topic you want to hear covered on the show? MANIFEST! isourlovepod@gmail.com Books mentioned this episode: Mindplay: A Guide to Erotic Hypnosis by Mark Wiseman ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is a throwback, Aphex Twin "Film."  Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

No conversation about sex is complete without talking about the one night stand. So commonplace its earned its own abbreviation: ONS. One-night standspert MOMO (@momosinmieda) joins Stephen and Lola as we break down what constitutes a one night stand. Are one night stands inherently bad & what can be done to improve them? With vivid stories from one night stands past, present, and maybe even the future, Momo and Lola bond over shared ghosts and Stephen gets to the bottom of why cis-dudes are so susceptible to becoming ghosts. PLUS: We tackle fantasy habits in our listener questions. If you have a sex or relationship question for us or have a topic you want to hear covered on the show, Email us! isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is THE DETROIT COBRAS "Bad Girl"  Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

This week we boldly go where two white podcasters dare not tread... for good reason. Inspired by a listener question regarding the fetishization of her race within her dating pursuits, Stephen and Lola try their best not to “white savior” by bringing in roommates and friends Yuko and Rachel. Both Yuko and Rachel grew up in wildly different parts of the US and have had wildly different experiences as asian women. Get ready to tighten your butthole as we discuss wildly uncomfortable, yet necessary conversations from the stereotypical roles of Asian women in porn, to the difference between having a ‘type’ and fetishizing a race. Uncomfortable yet? If you have a sex or relationship question for us or have a topic you want to hear covered on the show, who knows, YOU MAY INSPIRE AN ENTIRE EPISODE! Email us: isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is FLUME "Voices (feat. Sophie & Kucka)"  Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

It's summer and we've been on vacation! Lola and Stephen reconvene after a little break and recount what happened with their summer flings and things. While Lola fucked (and educated) her way through Europe, the Reluctant Sexpert spent his days sex nerding at Sex Camp. There's some romance, revelations... at least a few good stories. Whether you realize you’re more of a Dad than a Daddy or that you need to keep your European submissive in check, capture the fleeting flag of that summer fling and get ready to head back to introspection school. If you have a sex or relationship question for us or have a topic you want to hear covered on the show? Email us! isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is THE REPLACEMENTS "Unsatisfied"  Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

If codependency is a spectrum, where is a healthy place to sit? How can you tell if your relationship is in equilibrium or codependent AF? Are you in-love or enmeshed? This week we sit down with Rachel Khints, who specializes in treating codependency with a focus on group therapy. We learn the correlation between codependency treatment and Al-anon as well as where codependent tendencies typically come from. Starting with esteeming ourselves. Rachel walks us through the five compartments of codependency and the process of slowly chipping away in order to move mountains. PLUS opening up relationships in the listener Q's! You can find Rachel's practice at: http://www.rachelkhints.com/ If you have a sex or relationship question for us or have a topic you want to hear covered on the show? Email us! Esteem Us! : isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is SWAIN "But Then What?" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

No greater sex goal has plagued man more than the non-ejaculatory orgasm. Ok... well maybe not, but unless you’ve been living under a 'fuck' rock, chances are you’ve heard of The Multi-Orgasmic Man. Sometimes thought only to only be achieved by tantric yogi’s meditating in mountains (and livestreaming to youtube), Dominus Eros is here to clear the air. Whether you're a full on guru seeking that sweet 8 hour Sting-esque fucksesh, or a skeptical realist hoping to practically up your game, Dominus breaks down his two paths to achieving internal orgasms so you can find your own toe curling sexual experience. You can find Dominus' classes and workshops: pagansparadise.co daddyretreat.com/ Instagram: @dominuserosprodom Books Mentioned this Episode: 'The Multi-Orgasmic Man' by Mantak Chia & Douglas Abrams 'Jewel In The Lotus' by Sunyata Saraswati ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is White Reaper "Real Long Time" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

Exploring sex and love is all fine and dandy but where are we doing all this uber progressive sexploration? Safe(r) spaces are crucial to creating sex positive communities (and sex positive humans)... and Robin Scott is creating some of the most fun, progressive events around. This week, Robin shares how a Roman fertility fest of slapping goat flesh on nubile virgins inspired the gamified orgy that became Eutopia Rising. Even if getting filthy with sticky buns at "THE GREAT BROOKLYN BOINK OFF" isn't your scene, we know you're going to take some of Robin's sexual gameducation back to your bedroom.  EUTOPIA-RISING.ORG - for more info & Robin's upcoming events ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is a throwback, ESG "My Love For You." Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com