The Hilary Silver Podcast

Ever wonder why some women seem to have a magnetic pull for love, success, and good fortune? It's not luck, it's energy. In this episode, Hilary Silver breaks down the prosperity codes high-vibe women live by… and the 7 low-vibe habits you need to drop like yesterday's leftovers if you want to get everything you say you want.   Episode Highlights: Why complaining without action drags you down The ego trap of blame and excuses What victim energy really sounds like—and how to rise from it How to stop chasing approval and own your worth The entitlement trap vs. empowered action What happens when you keep avoiding hard conversations The quiet control of unsolicited advice (and how to drop it)   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Introduction [01:17] Importance of High Vibe Behaviors [01:48] Prosperity Code #1: Don't Complain Without Action [03:03] Prosperity Code #2: Avoid Blame, Excuses, and Defensiveness [04:07] Prosperity Code #3: Don't Live in Victim Energy [06:02] Prosperity Code #4: Don't Seek External Validation [07:06] Prosperity Code #5: Avoid Entitlement [09:14] Prosperity Code #6: Don't Avoid Conflict [11:13] Prosperity Code #7: Don't Offer Unsolicited Advice [13:40] Embrace High Vibe Behaviors Without Judgment [14:01] Conclusion If you recognize yourself in any of these behaviors, good. Awareness is the first step. Now let's shift into the energy of your next-level self. ✨ Want a free energetic reset? Grab Hilary's mini video training, This Changes Everything, and start rewiring your vibe to match the life you actually want: https://hilarysilver.com/subscribe/ 3 High Vibe Habits That Upgraded My Life: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TU-_3lZEqcg

You don't need a new serum, a new diet, or a new man to glow up this summer—you just need you. In this episode, Hilary  is handing out the keys to radiance, and spoiler alert: they're all about your energy, not your eye cream. Because glowing up has almost nothing to do with how you look and everything to do with how you feel. From slowing down your pace to indulging in what actually lights you up, Hilary walks you through the internal shifts that make you magnetic. We're talking presence over appearance. Being rather than doing. Feminine flow instead of frazzled hustle.   Episode Highlights: Trade burnout for slow, sensual mornings Choose desire over duty (yes, you can buy the sundress just because you want to) Fill your calendar with you before it fills up with everyone else Eat and drink like a woman who loves herself   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Rediscover Your Spark [01:24] How to Have a Summer Glow Up [01:35] Slow Down and Embrace Feminine Energy [03:10] Let Yourself Receive and Indulge in Desire [05:07] Prioritize Yourself and Fill Your Days with Intention [07:07] Eat and Drink Like You Love Yourself [08:49] Create a Powerful Morning Mindset Ritual [11:06] Glow From Within: Presence Over Appearance Because turning heads isn't about getting attention—it's about owning your presence so fully that people feel you walk in the room. ✨ Want to lock in the mindset that makes all this magic possible? Grab Hilary's Daily Journal—it's the exact method that's helped thousands of women (herself included) rewire their brains and live from that grounded, glowing place every day: hilarysilver.com/journal

We talk a lot about the regrets people have when they're dying, but what about the regrets we carry every single day? In this episode, Hilary Silver, former therapist and master coach of 25 years, shares the four most common regrets she hears in her work with high-functioning women. These are micro-regrets that quietly erode your confidence, peace, and sense of self. From staying silent when you should've spoken up, to ignoring your intuition, to being too critical of your appearance, Hilary unpacks the everyday ways we abandon ourselves, and how to stop.   Episode Highlights: What self-abandonment really looks like (and how it shows up) Why burnout keeps you from showing up as your best self How to stop dismissing your inner voice The sneaky regret most women have about their bodies—and how to stop repeating the cycle   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Why We Regret What We Do (and Don't Do)   [01:47] Regret #1: Self-Abandonment in Relationships & Life   [04:36] Regret #2: Not Being Your Best Self   [06:33] Regret #3: Ignoring Your Intuition   [07:46] Regret #4: Being Too Hard on Yourself   [09:33] How to Learn from Regret Without Shame     Regret can either weigh you down or wake you up. This episode is your reminder to choose differently, starting now. ✨ Want more? Sign up for Hilary's free weekly newsletter, Self-Centered, where she shares mindset shifts and lifestyle favorites: https://hilarysilver.com/newsletter/

Still following the fitness rules from your 30's and wondering why they aren't working anymore? Hilary is here to tell you: It's time to break up with the punishing workouts, the rigid food rules, and the guilt-tripping voice in your head. At 52, Hilary is in the best shape of her life. She's leaner, stronger, and more energized than ever, and she's doing it without tracking macros, counting calories, or wrecking her body with HIIT workouts. In this refreshingly real episode, Hilary breaks down the five shifts that helped her finally get the results she wanted, not just physically, but mentally and emotionally too. From unlearning outdated fitness “rules” to adopting a mindset rooted in self-devotion (not self-discipline), she shares how tuning out the noise and tuning into her own body changed everything. You'll hear about her exact lifestyle habits, how she makes working out something she actually enjoys, and why flexibility matters just as much as strength. No shame, no extremes, no performative BS, just smart, doable shifts that honor where you are now.   Episode Highlights: The real reason your old routines aren't working anymore Why pushing harder might be hurting more than helping The mindset shift that changed Hilary's entire approach to fitness Her go-to workouts, food philosophy, and everyday habits How to prioritize yourself unapologetically—at the gym and everywhere else Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Fitness Wake-Up Call [01:44] Listening to Your Body [03:10] From Punishment to Self-Devotion [06:10] Defining Strength + Health on Your Terms [07:12] Habits That Actually Support You [10:11] Prioritizing Yourself [11:14] Making Fitness Enjoyable [15:26] Self-Devotion > Self-Discipline   Ready to break the rules and feel amazing in your body again? Let this episode be your permission slip. Want to go deeper? Check out Hilary's Self Devotion program to turn this mindset into your everyday way of being. [https://hilarysilver.com/self-devoted/]

If you're tired of second-guessing yourself, overthinking everything, and dragging around a perfectionist inner critic, this episode is the wake-up call you didn't know you needed. Hilary Silver breaks down exactly how to rewire your brain—yes, literally—so you can stop the mental spiral and start thinking thoughts that actually serve you. The truth? That nagging voice in your head? You learned it. And now it's time to unlearn it.   Episode Highlights: Why 95% of your thinking is subconscious (and why it matters) How your inner critic formed, and how to shut it down The 3-step neuroscience-based process to create better thoughts Why flimsy affirmations don't work, but powerful declarations do The role of repetition in changing your brain (hint: neuroplasticity is your superpower)   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] How To Rewire Your Brain To Think Thoughts That Serve You [01:08] How the Subconscious Shapes Your Beliefs [03:15] How to Stop Your Self-Sabotage [04:18] Interrupting Negative Thought Patterns [05:23] Replace Affirmations with Declarations [06:27] Train Your Brain with Neuroplasticity [07:53] Your Daily Journal Practice [08:15] 3 Steps to Rewire Your Brain Whether you're battling self-doubt, perfectionism, or just sick of feeling like your own worst enemy, this is your permission slip to think better, feel better, and be better. No fluff. Just straight-up science-backed self-worth. ✨ Want the daily tool Hilary used to rewire her own brain? The Daily Journal is the how-to for everything she shares here: https://hilarysilver.com/journal/

The world feels like a mess—politics, the economy, your dog's surprise barf during Zoom meetings. And while you can't control any of it, you can control you. In this powerful episode, Hilary breaks down the five mindset shifts that keep you grounded, centered, and sane, no matter how wild life gets. This isn't about toxic positivity or pretending everything's fine. It's about taking radical responsibility for your thoughts, choices, and energy so you can stop spinning out and start leading your life with confidence and clarity.   Episode Highlights: Why you're both the problem and the solution (yes, really) How to stop being the last person you consider in your own damn life The truth about identity (spoiler: it's not what your high school yearbook said) Why self-leadership isn't selfish, it's the whole point How to create unshakable inner peace, no matter what the headlines scream   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Why the World Feels Unstable Right Now   [01:14] Meet Hilary Silver    [03:21] Truth #1: You're the Problem *and* the Solution   [06:00] Truth #2: Yes, the World *Does* Revolve Around You   [07:14] Truth #3: Prioritize Yourself, Always   [09:00] Truth #4: Identity Is a Daily Choice   [11:19] Truth #5: The Outcome You Seek Is Internal   [14:08] The Paradox of Letting Go [15:01] Be the Constant in an Uncertain World   If you've ever said, “I just need things to settle down so I can breathe,” this episode is your wake-up call. You're the calm. You're the guarantee. You're the damn center of your own universe.

Ever wonder how some women just always get what they want? It's not luck, it's not hustle, and it's definitely not because they're better than you. It's because they're moving through the world differently. Hilary breaks down the 8 micro habits of women who seem to have it all: love, money, success, and opportunities. In this episode, she gives you the cheat codes you can adopt for yourself!  From keeping your word (especially to yourself) to protecting your energy like it's your job, this is your no-BS guide to becoming magnetic to what you want. We're talking about unapologetic boundaries, unshakable self-trust, high-vibe thinking, and what it actually means to take radical responsibility for your life. And the final habit? It's the secret sauce. The one most people miss—but once you get it, everything changes.   Episode Highlights: Saying no without an apology Keeping promises (especially the ones you make to yourself) Radical responsibility (no more waiting to be saved) Embodying abundance like it's a lifestyle, not a mantra And the real magic: acting like you already have it all   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why Some Women Always Get What They Want 01:59 Habit 1: Protect Your Energy 05:34 Habit 2: Speak with Clear Boundaries 07:09 Habit 3: Own Your Worth 10:20 Habit 4: Focus on What You Do Want 13:19 Habit 5: Keep Promises to Yourself 15:38 Habit 6: Radical Self-Responsibility 19:08 Habit 7: Embody Abundance 24:34 Habit 8: Be Her Now 29:09 Practicing Receiving What You Want 30:02 How to Start Getting What You Want Today Ready to stop spinning in self-doubt and start showing up like the woman who already has what she wants? Then hit play.

This one's for every woman who didn't get the guidance she needed growing up—and every mother who's trying to do better. In this bold and deeply personal episode, Hilary Silver pulls back the curtain on the five lessons she's deliberately teaching her kids, especially her daughter. These aren't fluffy Pinterest quotes—these are the things that took Hilary decades to learn the hard way. Now she's handing them down with intention, clarity, and zero apology. She's teaching her daughter to know who she is. To trust herself without second-guessing. To stop asking for permission and start asking for what she needs. To see herself clearly, speak up boldly, and never—ever—abandon herself to make others comfortable.   Episode Highlights: The truth about self-trust (and why it matters more than approval) What it looks like to be your own best advocate How to stop outsourcing your happiness Why being self-centered is the most responsible thing you can do How to model the kind of woman you hope your daughter becomes   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Introduction [00:33] Meet Hilary Silver [01:05] Parenting Imperfections [01:26] Teaching Self-Identity [04:05] Trusting Inner Wisdom [05:30] Developing Self-Trust [07:04] Self-Advocacy [08:40] Personal Responsibility for Happiness [10:03] Be the Woman You Want Her to Become Raising kids or not, these lessons are for every woman who's done bending, shrinking, and shape-shifting just to keep the peace. You don't need to ask for permission. You just need to show up for yourself.

Hot flashes aren't the problem—gaslighting is. Hilary takes aim at the menopause conversation and asks the question no one else is asking: What if this isn't your downfall, but your awakening? In this episode, she breaks down the cultural scripts, conditioning, and quiet misogyny wrapped in every “crazy menopausal woman” meme, and replaces it with truth, clarity, and power. This is not a hormonal crisis. This is your moment.   Episode Highlights: Why blaming hormones keeps women stuck The myth of the “crazy menopausal woman” What really causes women to question their marriage at midlife Why losing your cool isn't the issue—losing yourself is The gift of finally putting yourself first (and meaning it)   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Challenging the Menopause Narrative [01:05] The Gaslighting of Women's Health [02:10] Menopause and Divorce: What's Really Going On [05:05] Midlife Awakening vs. Hormonal Blame [07:04] Cultural Conditioning and Losing Ourselves [08:06] Why the “Crazy Menopausal Woman” Trope is So Dangerous [11:11] Menopause Isn't a Crisis—It's a Revolution [12:32] Reclaiming Your Power in Midlife  

For too long, women have been told that power belongs to men. In this unapologetic episode, Hilary Silver flips that script and names the truth out loud: women already hold the power—society just taught them to forget. Centered around a bold, taboo-breaking metaphor, Hilary dives deep into how patriarchy was built to control what it couldn't fully possess: female power, autonomy, and sexuality. Drawing from over 6,000 interviews with women over 40, she exposes how even the most outwardly successful women are still battling invisible chains of unworthiness and self-sacrifice.   Episode Highlights: What men really want more than money or power How patriarchy is built on controlling what it can't possess Why high-achieving women often secretly struggle with self-worth The emotional labor and silence women have been conditioned to accept The first steps to reclaim your worth—without asking for permission Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Introduction [01:57] The Power Women Forget They Have [04:15]  How Girls Are Taught to Shrink [06:12] When Success Masks Low Self-Worth [09:24] Women's Sacred, Untapped Power [10:06] Stop Seeking Approval and Start Owning It [10:27] How to Reclaim Your Power, Starting Now [12:03] Join the Self-Centered Movement This isn't about blame—it's about reclaiming. Hilary calls on women to stop asking, stop apologizing, and stop shrinking. Instead, she challenges listeners to rise, lead, and live unapologetically, with power and presence. Because pussy power? It's real. And it's time women stopped pretending it isn't.

If you've ever been told you're too loud, too confident, too opinionated, or too ambitious—this episode is for you. Hilary's not here to help you soften your edges. She's here to remind you why you grew them in the first place. In this unapologetic episode, she calls out the centuries-old conditioning that taught women to shrink, stay agreeable, and prioritize everyone else's comfort over their own truth. Spoiler: you're not “too much.” You're just too powerful for the people who benefit from you being less. Hilary shares the signs that you've internalized the myth of “too much” and breaks down the shift that happens when you stop minimizing yourself and start standing fully in your power. This episode isn't about being polite. It's about being self-centered—and no, that's not selfish. It's revolutionary.   Episode Highlights: How "too much" is just rebranded control Why being self-centered is your power move—not a personality flaw What happens when you stop dimming your light for someone else's comfort 3 shifts you can make today to stop apologizing and start expanding   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] The Myth of Being “Too Much” [00:54] Why Women Shrink Themselves to Fit [02:06] The Real Cost of Playing Small [03:42] You're Not Too Much—They're Just Uncomfortable [04:24] What It Really Means to Be Self-Centered [05:28] How to Break Free from People-Pleasing [06:31] Stop Apologizing. Start Leading. [07:35] Who Would You Be If You Weren't Shrinking?  

You've spent your whole life making sure everyone else is okay—but what about you? This episode is for the women who are exhausted, overextended, and quietly wondering when it'll finally be their turn. Hilary is breaking down the deep conditioning that taught us to believe being selfless equals being worthy, and why that's total BS. If you've ever felt guilty for wanting more, for needing space, or simply saying no… this one's going to hit. Because the truth is, no one is going to magically give you permission to rest, breathe, or be a priority. You have to choose it. And when you do? Everything changes.   Episode Highlights: Why self-sacrifice won't earn you the love or respect you deserve The hard truth about how you're teaching people to treat you The 3 steps to stop people-pleasing and start living for you How to be self-centered (in the best possible way) And why this shift is your ticket to freedom   Episode Breakdown: [00:00]  How You Were Conditioned to Be Selfless [01:32] Why You Feel Undervalued and Exhausted [02:03] The Guilt of Prioritizing Yourself [03:06] The Truth About Self-Sacrifice [04:00]  Setting Boundaries: Teaching Others How to Treat You [05:04] What It Means to Be Self-Centered [05:57] 3 Steps to Start Prioritizing Yourself [07:01] What to Expect When You Start Saying No [07:22] Why You Need to Choose Yourself Now [07:54] Start Living for You Nobody's coming to save you. It's your turn—right now. Tune in, then grab Hilary's free video training This Changes Everything to start making yourself a daily priority without apology. You'll never look back.

She's successful, impressive, accomplished… and secretly miserable. If that hits a little too close to home, this episode is for you. Hilary is calling out the high-achieving hamster wheel that so many women are stuck on—working their asses off, racking up accolades, and still feeling like something's missing. Sound familiar? That's because you've been chasing a version of success that was never meant to satisfy you, just the people clapping from the sidelines. In this episode, Hilary breaks down the real reason success isn't scratching the itch—and why being self-centered (yes, self-centered) is the antidote. Not the selfish kind. The sane, grounded, peaceful, fulfilled kind.   Episode Highlights: The lie high-achieving women are sold (and why it keeps you stuck) How to recognize when you're chasing validation instead of real joy The myth of “I'll be happy when...” and how to break it 3 real steps to start living life on your terms—today   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Why High-Achieving Women Still Feel Empty [02:06] How to Break the Burnout Cycle  [03:54] Two Choices: Keep Performing or Prioritize Yourself [04:15] What Self-Centered Really Means [05:30] Step 1: Audit Your Life [06:24] Step 2: Redefine Success for You [06:55] Step 3: Start Making Self-Centered Decisions [07:37] Why People Might Not Like the New You (and That's Fine) [08:09] Choose to be happy, NOW. If you're tired of being exhausted, overextended, and secretly questioning if this is all there is—Hilary's here to say: hell no, it's not. It's time to stop chasing and start choosing you. Because you're not too much. You've just been aiming at the wrong finish line. Hit play. It's time for a self-centered glow-up.

Let's get one thing straight: aging isn't something to fear—it's when the real magic begins. In this unapologetically honest episode, Hilary drops the five signs that you're officially stepping into your Wise Woman Era—where your confidence is unshakable, your boundaries are bulletproof, and your “no” comes with zero explanation. After 25 years working inside the minds of ambitious, accomplished, but still unfulfilled women, Hilary's here to tell you: the glow-up you're craving doesn't come from the outside. It comes when you stop shrinking, apologizing, and people-pleasing—and start trusting, honoring, and liking yourself. Wild concept, right?   Episode Highlights: Why confidence that depends on applause is fake confidence The quiet power of making your time, peace, and energy non-negotiable How to stop apologizing for existing (seriously, stop it) What happens when you finally stop waging war with your reflection The surprising key to becoming unshakably magnetic   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] The Wise Woman Era [00:44] Sign 1: Shifting Confidence from External to Internal [02:10] Sign 2: No Longer Negotiating Your Time, Peace, or Power [05:09] Sign 3: Stopping Apologies for Taking Up Space [06:02] Sign 4: Embracing Your Appearance and Energy [08:00] Sign 5: Developing a Loving Relationship with Yourself [09:46] The Power of Being Self-Centered [10:28] What Will You Do Differently? This isn't about becoming someone new—it's about returning to who you were before the world told you to be polite, quiet, small, and nice. So let's burn the rulebook, reclaim your place at the center of your life, and make “wise” the new sexy.

Are you the fixer? The one who always steps up, saves the day, and keeps everything running smoothly? Yeah, that might sound noble, but here's the truth—you're not helping. You're enabling. Hilary is here to break down why over-functioning is actually a trap—for you and everyone around you. You think you're keeping things together, but what you're really doing is creating dependence, burning yourself out, and blocking others from stepping up. And let's be real—you kind of love being the one everyone relies on, don't you?

Starting over? Again?! If the thought of making a major life change sends you spiraling, it's time for a reality check—starting fresh isn't scary, staying stuck is. Hilary shares the six biggest lessons she's learned from reinventing herself—multiple times. She's built and walked away from thriving businesses, started fresh, failed fast, and bet on herself—again and again. And now? She's giving you the real talk on what it actually takes to start over (and make sure it pays off).   Episode Highlights: Get clear on what you actually want (spoiler: most people aren't). Why being half in, half out is a guaranteed way to stay stuck Failure isn't a thing. Not trying? That's the real failure. Why betting on yourself is the safest investment you'll ever make   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Why Starting Over Feels So Hard [03:52] The #1 Mistake People Make When Reinventing Themselves [05:06] How to Fully Commit to Your Next Move [07:04] The Power of Mindset [09:55] Burnout, Fear & the Power of Letting Go [12:13] Redefining Failure: What You've Been Getting Wrong [14:08] Betting on Yourself is the Secret to Lasting Success [16:14] Starting Over (Again) & Why It's Worth It [19:25] You Have Nothing to Lose

Being your best self sounds great, but what does that actually mean? In this episode, Hilary calls out the vague, feel-good self-help fluff and lays out five daily habits that actually move the needle. If you've been winging personal growth and hoping for the best, it's time to get intentional. Hilary breaks down how to define your ideal self, bridge the gap between who you are now and who you want to be, and make small shifts that add up to massive transformation. Plus, she's sharing the one magic question that will help you make better decisions, stay aligned, and step into your power every day.   Episode Highlights: Why your ideal self isn't a finish line—it's a way of being The power of sacred morning time (no chaos, no distractions—just you) How movement, music, and self-check-ins shape your energy and mindset The one magic question that will keep you aligned and making better choices   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Being Your Best Self [05:04] Habit 1 [06:00] Habit 2 [08:08] Habit 3 [10:08] Habit 4 [11:55] Habit 5 [13:20] The Magic Question  

Everything you've been told about managing anxiety? It's probably making it worse. In this episode, Hilary is tearing up the mainstream advice playbook—because counting backwards, meditating through a full-blown panic spiral, or just “getting more sleep” isn't going to cut it. Anxiety isn't the real problem—it's a symptom. A flashing red warning light. And until you fix what's actually going on underneath, you'll be stuck dealing with it forever. The good news? You are both the problem and the solution. Which means you don't have to keep living with this.   Episode Highlights: Why symptom-focused anxiety hacks don't work (and what does) The real root cause of anxiety that no one talks about How self-betrayal, avoidance, and ignoring your gut are fueling your anxiety The mindset shift that will actually eliminate anxiety for good A simple but powerful way to turn anxiety into self-trust and inner peace   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Why Everything You've Heard About Anxiety Is Wrong [04:48] The Real Cause of Anxiety (Hint: It's Not What You Think) [09:02] Game-Changing Questions to Calm Anxiety Instantly [09:55] How to Build Unshakable Self-Trust & End Anxiety for Good   This isn't about managing anxiety—it's about eliminating it at the source. No fluff, no gimmicks, just the truth that no one else is telling you.  

You want love, success, confidence, the dream body—because obviously. But what if I told you that the way you're going after it is exactly why it keeps slipping through your fingers? Yeah, it's not the goal that's the problem. It's how you're wired to chase it.   In this episode, Hilary drops the truth bomb you didn't know you needed: The constant grind for external validation—whether it's from a relationship, your bank account, or the number on the scale—only reinforces the idea that you're not enough without it. And that? That's keeping you stuck.   Episode Highlights: Why your biggest desires might be rooted in old insecurities (Hint: Your childhood is probably involved.) The exhausting cycle of proving your worth (and how to break it) Why desperate energy pushes away exactly what you want How shifting your mindset flips the script on love, success, and happiness The magic of deciding you're already worthy—before you have the “proof”   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Introduction [01:16] The Belief-Proof Paradox [03:03] The Powerlessness of External Validation [06:04] The Addiction to External Proof [07:07] High Achievers and the Need for Approval [09:03] The Inherent Nature of Self-Worth [10:06] Choosing to Believe in Yourself [11:19] Worthiness Precedes Achievement [12:00] The Importance of Self-Relationship [12:32] Conclusion   This isn't about sitting back and manifesting your dream life with good vibes alone. It's about rewiring your beliefs so that you stop blocking yourself from everything you're meant to have.  

They told us aging meant fading into the background—HA, not a chance. In this unapologetic episode, Hilary is flipping the script on what it really means to be a powerful woman over 50. After her viral episode “How I Turn Heads Over 50”, the internet had a lot to say—some women embraced the message, others questioned the need for attention, and plenty misunderstood the real point. But she's here to set the record straight: this isn't about validation, and it's definitely NOT about seeking male attention.   Episode Highlights: The straight-up LIES you were fed about aging, beauty, and self-worth Why your value has NOTHING to do with male attention (seriously, let's retire that nonsense) The myth of the “invisible woman” and why YOU get to decide if you fade into the background How to walk into any room like the queen you are—without seeking validation from anyone The three mindset shifts every badass woman over 50 needs to make yesterday   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Introduction [03:19] External Validation and Self-Worth [04:01] Aging and Societal Perception [05:57] Claiming Personal Power [07:01] Becoming Rejection-Proof [09:09] Turning Heads with Energy Referenced Episode: “Forget Invisible Woman Syndrome - How I Turn Heads Over 50” : https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-hilary-silver-podcast/id1739660144?i=1000676193898   Hilary is dropping truth bombs, dismantling outdated beliefs, and handing you the permission slip to become the most magnetic, self-assured version of yourself—on your terms.   Ready to ditch the old narratives and claim your space? Listen in, take notes, and start showing up like the powerhouse you were born to be.  

People are shocked when they find out Hilary is 52. They see the abs, the energy, and the glow, and immediately want to know the secret. Well, in this episode, she's spilling it all—the workouts, the mindset, the aesthetics, and yes, the cosmetic procedures she's done (and proud of). Because here's the deal: taking care of yourself isn't vain, it's self-respect.   This is not about fighting aging—Hilary loves getting older. But embracing aging doesn't mean just rolling over and accepting every wrinkle and change if it doesn't feel good to you. It's about choice. Confidence. Owning what makes you feel powerful. And not giving a damn about what anyone else thinks.   Episode Highlights:  Why loving yourself and getting cosmetic work aren't opposites The truth about Botox, fillers, and why she stays very picky The brutal reality of post-baby body changes—and the surgeries that changed everything Why cruelty-free skincare is a must (no excuses) The real key to looking and feeling amazing at any age—spoiler: it's not just lasers and serums   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Introduction [02:09] Loving Aging and Self-Confidence [03:02] Pro Being Your Best, Not Anti-Aging [05:09] Making Choices for Yourself [06:02] Self-Love and Cosmetic Procedures [07:39] Personal Transformation Journey [08:00] Pregnancy and Body Changes [12:02] Physical and Emotional Impact [14:08] Non-Surgical Maintenance [14:28] Botox and Fillers [15:10] Invisalign and Dental Care [16:14] Skincare and Animal Cruelty-Free Products [17:17] Lasers and Microneedling [17:39] The Real Secret to Looking and Feeling Your Best [18:00] Conclusion   So whether you're Botox-curious, all-natural, or somewhere in between—this episode is a reminder that it's your face, your body, your rules. Do what makes you feel amazing and own it unapologetically.  

Hilary is diving into your questions, and as always, she's keeping it real. In this Q&A episode, she tackles some of the biggest struggles high-achieving women face—from owning your confidence to battling that nagging loneliness even when your life looks great on paper. If you've ever felt unseen, stuck, or just plain over it, this episode is your wake-up call.   Episode Highlights: Confidence isn't about approval, it's about presence. When you feel valuable, you become magnetic—no validation required. Overwhelmed by personal growth? Forget the mile-long to-do list. Master your thoughts first, and everything else will follow. Loneliness isn't always about being alone. It's about whether you're truly seen in your relationships. Here's how to deepen the connections you already have.   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Introduction and Listener Questions [00:47] Turning Heads Over 50 [01:41] Addressing Male Attention Assumptions [05:56] The Importance of Being Self-Centered [07:09] Managing Your Mind and Thought Patterns [08:24] Feeling Lonely Despite Having It All [10:00] Situational vs. Existential Loneliness [12:21] Authenticity and Deepening Connections   Ready for real transformation? Start reprogramming your thoughts with Hilary's Daily Journal: https://hilarysilver.com/journal/ —a simple but powerful tool designed to shift your mindset and attract the life you actually want.  

So, you've hit a new phase in life—kids don't need you as much, work feels like a never-ending rerun, and suddenly, you're left with space. But instead of feeling free, you're stuck wondering, "What the hell do I actually want?" Don't worry, Hilary is here to drag you out of the “what now?” spiral and help you find your spark again.   In this episode, Hilary tackles that “I don't even know what I want” dilemma with practical tools and a hefty dose of real talk. If you've been so busy playing all the roles—mom, career badass, caretaker—that you've forgotten who you are outside of them, this one's for you.   Episode Highlights: Jealousy isn't a vibe killer; it's a clue. Start paying attention to what makes you envious—it's pointing you toward your desires. You don't have to overhaul your life in one go. Experiment, try stuff, and ditch what doesn't fit (looking at you, Airstream). Forget practicality for a second—what would you do if you had no limits?   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Finding What You Truly Want [03:11] Exercise 1: Become a Master Observer of Yourself [05:17] Exercise 2: Use Jealousy and Envy as Clues [06:00] Exercise 3: The Magic Wand Question [07:14] Exercise 4: Experiment Without Commitment [08:27] Exercise 5: The Life Zone Exercise [09:31] Exercise 6: Focus on Your Feelings [10:55] Honoring Your Feelings in Daily Life [12:10] Self-Satisfied Program and Conclusion   Ready to put yourself back at the top of your priority list? Check out Hilary's Self-Satisfied Program: https://hilarysilver.com/shop/ for guided exercises (like the life zone!) and actionable steps to reclaim your time and energy.  

Think manifesting is just for the hippie crowd? Think again. In this episode, Hillary  breaks down the science behind manifesting and shows you why it's not magic—it's mindset. From neuroscience to universal laws, Hillary reveals how to stop blocking your blessings and start becoming an unstoppable magnet for everything you want. No crystals or vision boards required (unless you're into that).   Episode Highlights: Why manifesting works (and why you've been doing it wrong). The two universal laws that govern manifesting—and how to hack them. How your thoughts, beliefs, and energy shape your reality. The sneaky ways you're subconsciously sabotaging your desires. Five simple, practical steps to become a manifesting powerhouse.   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Introduction [01:35] Universal Laws of Manifestation [02:07] The Law of Vibration [06:00] The Law of Attraction [08:28] Conscious and Subconscious Thoughts [10:26] Neuroscience and Universal Laws [15:01] Visualization Techniques [15:56] The Daily Journal Tool   Ready to Manifest Like a Boss? If you're tired of wishing and ready to start receiving, grab The Daily Journal, Hillary's signature tool that combines neuroscience and manifesting practices to rewire your brain for success.   Hit play, vibe high, and start creating the life you actually want. Let's do this.

Resentment is toxic AF. It's the sneaky little emotion that quietly poisons your mood, relationships, and maybe even your skin. In this episode, Hillary peels back the layers of resentment, exposing it as the blend of hurt, anger, and judgment that keeps you stuck in victim mode. Feeling overlooked or undervalued? It's time to face the real truth: resentment is a YOU problem. It's time to stop blaming others, own your role, and set yourself free from the soul-sucking cycle of stewing and simmering.   Episode Highlights: The toxic cocktail of emotions that make up resentment—and why it's a joy killer. The uncomfortable but liberating truth: you're responsible for your resentment. How passive-aggressive behavior is resentment's messy, toxic cousin. Hillary's no-BS three-step process to let it go, for good. Why being unapologetically self-centered is your ultimate superpower against future resentment.   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Resentment [00:30] Meet Hillary! [01:05] Understanding Resentment [02:09] The Insidious Nature of Resentment [04:05] Why We Hold On to Resentment [05:55] The Harsh Truth About Resentment [07:07] Taking Responsibility for Resentment [09:03] The Power of Authenticity [10:48] Three-Step Process to Release Resentment [13:15] Moving Forward and Letting Go [14:07] Conclusion  

Tired of your own BS thought loops? Let's fix that. In this episode, Hilary reveals the game-changing power of thought habits—the deeply ingrained patterns of thinking that shape your actions, your mindset, and ultimately your success.  Drawing from her personal journey of reprogramming her mind, Hilary spills the tea on how she rewired her own mindset to become a more positive, unstoppable, self-led powerhouse—and how you can too. Trust us, adopting even ONE of these high-vibe thought habits will level up your life faster than your morning coffee.   Episode Highlights: Discover why thought habits are the secret sauce to shaping your life. Learn how the "rule of the golden nugget" transforms disappointments into growth moments. Celebrating small wins daily is a game-changer for staying motivated. Unlock the magic of believing "everything always works out in my favor" and how it can quiet your anxiety.   Episode Breakdown: [00:00]  Introduction to Thought Habits [01:55]  Personal Transformation Journey [03:09]  Self-Leadership and Empowerment [03:31]  Forming New Habits [05:07]  The Rule of the Golden Nugget [09:13]  Celebrate Every Day [12:01]  Everything Always Works Out in My Favor   Hillary's not just teaching theory here—she's sharing the exact thought habits that turned her life around, from rewiring her brain to becoming a fearless leader in every area of her life. Ready to try them for yourself? Pick one habit and make it yours.  

Setting big goals is easy. Staying on track when life inevitably throws you a curveball? That's the real challenge. In this episode, Hillary Silver shares seven game-changing tools to help you stay committed to your goals—even when you mess up (because you will, and that's okay). Forget perfectionism; it's about showing up for yourself, learning from setbacks, and making progress every day. Hillary dives into the practical and mindset shifts needed to turn your resolutions into realities, without the self-sabotage or endless restarts. From getting crystal clear on your goals to forgiving yourself when things go sideways, this episode is packed with no-BS advice to keep you moving forward—even if you fall off the wagon a time or two.   Episode Highlights: Get Clear AF on your goals—it's non-negotiable. Break it down into bite-sized objectives and baby steps. Celebrate mess-ups—they're not failures, they're feedback! Reframe Success: Focus on effort and self-pride over external results. Step into the identity of the future you who's already achieved it. Check Yourself! Are these goals really yours, or someone else's expectations? Forgive the mess-ups, recommit, and love yourself through it all.   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Overcoming Goal Setbacks [01:44] The Reality of Messing Up [02:05] Tool 1: Clarify Your Big Goal [03:18] Tool 2: Differentiate Goals and Objectives [05:00] Tool 3: Celebrate Daily Progress [07:00] Tool 4: Accept Imperfections and Mess-Ups [08:24] Tool 5: Celebrate the Mess-Ups [10:09] Tool 6: Talk to Yourself as Your Future Self [12:27] Tool 7: Check Your True Motivation [15:14] Tool 8: Forgive Yourself and Reconnect to Your Why [16:27] Stay Committed to Your Goals   If you're tired of restarting the same goals and ready to finally show up for yourself with love and clarity, Hillary's got you covered. Check out her free mini training, This Changes Everything, and her programs designed to help you crush your goals with confidence. Grab them (and free resources!) at hilarysilver.com/guides. Let's make this your year!

Control freaks, brace yourselves! In the final episode of her five-part series, Hilary serves up a truth bomb with the fifth core concept of her self-centered model: The outcome is internal. Translation? Stop obsessing over things you can't control and start owning what's already yours—your inner power.   Hilary breaks down why we tie our worth to things we can't control—whether it's nailing the job interview, getting the client deal, or making someone like us. Really, It's a losing game. She shares how letting go of external outcomes doesn't just free you from stress and anxiety—it gives you the ultimate power to thrive, no matter what.   Episode Highlights: Why control is an illusion (and why your frantic grasping isn't working). How to measure success by how YOU show up, not how others respond. The paradox of letting go: Stop chasing, start attracting. Why the real win is inside you—and how to claim it. Hilary's soap analogy: Let go, or watch it slip through your fingers.   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Seeking Certainty [02:33] Anxiety and the Need for Certainty [03:57] The Illusion of Control [06:04] Claim YOUR Personal Power [08:01] Releasing the Need for External Validation [12:05] The Ultimate Paradox   Ready to make this mindset shift for real? Check out Hillary's free mini video training, This Changes Everything, at https://hilarysilver.com/guides/. Stop chasing. Start thriving. It's time to lean back and live big.

Your past doesn't define you—unless you let it. In this episode, Hilary Silver serves up a reality check with core concept number four of her self-centered model: identity is a choice. That's right—who you are isn't carved in stone, no matter what your childhood, parents, or society told you.   For too long, you've been letting outdated beliefs and hand-me-down narratives dictate your life. It's time to rip up that old script and write a new one where YOU call the shots. Whether you're 40, 50, or 60, it's never too late to hop off the train of old beliefs and step into a new self-concept. And she's living proof, sharing how she went from therapist to boss, business owner and beyond by redefining who she was—and who she wanted to be.   If you're ready to get off that tired train of self-doubt and step into the CEO role of your life, this episode is for you. And trust us, it's about to get personal, empowering, and a little uncomfortable—in the best way possible.   Episode Highlights: Your identity isn't fixed—why it's time to stop believing your own BS. How subconscious programming keeps you playing small (and how to smash it). The four truths about identity that will change how you see yourself forever. Hilary's mic-drop moments: from small-town therapist to global powerhouse. A challenge to rewrite your identity starting TODAY.   Episode Breakdown:  [00:00]  Introduction to Identity Formation [01:03]  Subconscious Programming [01:34]  Core Concept #4: Identity is a Choice [03:01]  Focus on Identity [03:22]  Four Key Points on Identity [03:32]  Point 1: Expectations Shape Reality [03:43]  Point 2: Identity Beyond Labels [04:04]  Point 3: Beliefs are Not Facts [04:37]  Point 4: Identity Work as a Gateway [06:11]  Expanding Identity for Growth [07:04]  Challenge: Questioning Beliefs   Stop letting old stories run your life. Ready to level up? Grab her free mini video training, “This Changes Everything,” at hilarysilver.com/subscribe. I   It's time to own your story.

We've been told that putting others first is the hallmark of a good person, but what if that's a big, fat lie? In this episode, Hilary Silver tackles the myth of selflessness head-on, revealing how this deeply ingrained belief isn't just harmful—it's downright toxic. Drawing on her decades of experience as a psychotherapist and lifestyle mentor, Hilary introduces the third core concept of her self-centered model: "In your life, you come first and you go first."   Hilary explains how the pressure to be selfless erodes self-worth, breeds resentment, and creates hollow, transactional relationships. She challenges the narrative that sacrificing yourself for others is noble, exposing how it leads to emotional burnout and a lifetime of feeling undervalued. Instead, Hilary offers a liberating alternative: prioritize yourself unapologetically. Because when you treat yourself with the respect and care you deserve, you teach others to do the same.   Episode Highlights: Why “selflessness” is a toxic myth keeping you stuck and resentful. How putting yourself first is the most selfless thing you can do. The real reason self-sacrifice leaves you exhausted and undervalued. Healthy giving vs. soul-sucking selflessness—know the difference. Why modeling self-respect is the ultimate relationship game-changer. The mindset shift that puts you back in control of your life.   Episode Breakdown: [00:00]  Introduction [00:53]  Meet Hillary Silver [01:57]  The Myth of Selflessness [02:28]  The Big Lie [04:15]  Consequences of Selflessness [05:57]  The Void and Compulsion to Give [06:33]  Resentment and Transactional Relationships [07:05]  Self-Serving Giving [08:40]  Healthy Giving vs. Selflessness [09:12] Core Concept #3: You Come First [12:54] Conclusion   Stop putting yourself last—it's time to take the lead.

Ever been told, “The world doesn't revolve around you”? Yeah, same. Hillary is here to call BS on that tired cliché. In this episode, she's rewriting the narrative and proving why your world absolutely should and DOES revolve around you   For too long, we've been guilted into thinking that putting ourselves first is wrong, especially women. Hillary is showing you why being the sun in your own universe is the only way to thrive. When you focus on your energy, your mindset, and your desires, every part of your life—relationships, career, health—levels up.   If you're sick of playing small, living on autopilot, or settling for whatever life throws your way, this is your permission slip to flip the script. Hillary's breaking down how to stop people-pleasing, start thinking about yourself (a lot), and live a life that's unapologetically yours.   Episode Highlights: Why “the world doesn't revolve around you” is the real selfish statement. How to reclaim your title as the star of your personal universe. Why self-reflection is the ultimate power move. Living on autopilot? Here's why it's killing your vibe. The ripple effect: How leveling up one part of your life elevates everything. Hillary's personal mic-drop moment that changed her life.   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Introduction [01:57] Core Concept: Your World Revolves Around You [02:29] The Impact of Your Energy on Your Life Areas [04:37] Spend More Time Thinking About Yourself [05:30] Knowing Yourself to Make Aligned Choices [07:06]  Elevating One Area Elevates All Areas [08:08] The Power of Self-Realization [08:29] The Ripple Effect of Personal Growth [09:22] Conclusion   Ready to Make Yourself the Priority?   

If you've ever wished you could cut through the noise of self-help fluff and get straight to the good stuff, buckle up. Hilary is about to deliver 25 years' worth of raw, unfiltered, no-BS therapy advice—distilled into just 12 minutes. Best believe she's not here to hand you more surface-level band-aids for your problems.   Hilary's seen it all. After tens of thousands of hours spent in one-on-one sessions with clients, she's got the receipts on what works and what doesn't. In this episode, she calls out the big lie of self-help: most advice out there is just symptom management. Meditate your anxiety away? Sure, that's cute—for a minute. But unless you tackle the root cause, it's like playing whack-a-mole with your problems.   The truth is, you are both the problem and the solution. And while that truth might sting, it's also your golden ticket to real change. Hilary's “self-centered” model shows you how to stop blaming the world and start owning your life. She'll guide you through identifying the limiting beliefs and patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free once and for all.   Episode Highlights: Why most advice is just symptom management and how it keeps you stuck. The real problem: Hint—it's you (and that's great news). Hilary's “self-centered” model and why it changes everything. How to spot and break free from limiting beliefs and recurring patterns that keep you stuck. Why taking ownership of your life is the ultimate game-changer. Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Welcome and Introduction [02:30] The Five Self-Centered Core Concepts [03:01] The Real Problem vs. Temporary Solutions [03:56] Root Cause and Recurring Patterns [04:27] YOU Are the Problem [05:20] Self-betrayal and Trusting Yourself [07:17] Stop Blaming Others! [07:28] Ownership, Responsibility, and Mindset Shift [08:10] Ultimate Power [09:35] Empowerment, Liberation, and the Magic Pill   Ready to Transform Your Life? Don't just listen—take action. Watch this episode to start making powerful changes today. And if you're ready to go deeper, sign up for Hilary's free video training, This Changes Everything: http://hilarysilver.com/guides.    Your best life starts here. Don't wait.

Think self-discipline is the key to success? Think again. Drawing from her own transformation, Hilary explains why self-discipline is the anti-hero of personal growth—restrictive, harsh, and downright unsustainable. Instead of relying on rigid rules and unrealistic expectations, Hillary introduces the concept of self-devotion—a compassionate, loving, and sustainable approach to achieving your goals. Think of self-devotion as the unwavering commitment you'd expect from a devoted partner but turned inward. When you show up for yourself out of love, not obligation, everything shifts. Whether you're looking to crush your resolutions, build a thriving business, or create a healthier lifestyle and body, Hillary's approach to self-devotion is the game-changer you've been waiting for.   Episode Highlights: Why self-discipline is more harmful than helpful. The life-changing shift from self-discipline to self-devotion. How self-devotion turns goals into meaningful, joyful experiences. Practical examples of embracing self-devotion in everyday life. Real talk on why loving yourself is the most effective strategy you'll ever use.   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] The Myth of Self-Discipline [01:40] The Downside of Self-Discipline [02:12] The Cycle of Self-Criticism [03:38] The High Cost of Self-Discipline [04:09] The Dysfunctional Relationship with Ourselves [05:03] The Most Important Relationship: With Yourself [05:44] The Shift from Self-Discipline to Self-Devotion [06:15]  What is Self-Devotion? [06:47] Applying Devotion to Yourself [07:39] Discipline vs. Devotion [08:54] The Logic of Self-Importance [09:25] The Ease of Following Through with Devotion [09:47] New Year, New Me: A Devoted Approach   Take Action!   Break up with self-discipline and step into the new year with a mindset that truly supports your growth and happiness. Love yourself enough to follow through—not because you have to, but because you want to.  

In this final episode of 2024, Hilary sets the stage for your most transformative year yet. January 1st isn't just another day—it's game day, and you're stepping into it armed with the mindset and tools to crush your goals. Hilary breaks down her self-centered approach to success, showing how internal growth unlocks the external life you've always dreamed of.   Episode Highlights: Ready to ditch the doubt? Hilary's hourglass method shows you how to turn internal growth into external wins Stop wishing, start desiring—why tapping into a bigger, more powerful vibration changes everything Learn how self-inquiry can help you overcome limiting beliefs and expand your identity Think your brain's stuck in its ways? Nope. Hilary breaks down neuroplasticity like a boss Join the Daily Journal Challenge and start manifesting your biggest dreams—because 2025 isn't waiting for anyone!   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Introduction [00:52] Meet Hillary Silver [01:35] The Self-Centered Approach [01:56] Visual Representation: The Hourglass [02:28] Understanding Your Deepest Desires and Internal Focus [04:06] Growth-Oriented Questions To Ask Yourself [04:49] How Inner Beliefs Create External Results [06:02] The Bitter and Magic Pill [06:44] Your Past Does Not Define You [09:01] Changing Your Mind and Neuroplasticity [10:09] The Daily Journal Challenge   What could change in your life in just 7 days? Spoiler Alert: Everything! Start the year strong with Hilary's 7 Days to Self-Centered: The Daily Journal Challenge and enter the new year with unstoppable momentum. Find it at hilarysilver.com/journal. Here's to making 2025 your best year yet!

Who do you think you are? No, seriously. Because the truth is, you are exactly who you think you are. The way you see yourself? That's the reality you're living. Your thoughts shape everything—what you do, what you achieve, and what you believe is possible (or not)!   In this episode, Hilary explains how your self-perception and thought patterns are the biggest factors holding you back or propelling you forward. If you're stuck in the same old patterns, here's the good news: you're just running an outdated script—and you've got the power to rewrite it.   Episode Highlights: Why your thoughts about yourself determine what you allow yourself to achieve The “narrative identity” trap: how the stories you tell yourself keep you small Breaking free from predictability: why comfort is the enemy of growth How to become a master observer of your thoughts and rewrite your internal script The simple mindset shifts that unlock your infinite potential   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Who Do You Think You Are?  [02:14] How Your Thoughts Shape Your Reality  [03:06] How to Master Your Mindset [05:01] Break the Self-Fulfilling Loop! [07:19] Your Thoughts Are a Choice [09:49] Go Beyond Your Current Identity  [11:02] Unlock Your Full Potential  [12:26] Amanda's Transformation: A Testimonial  [14:44] Train your brain [15:15] Challenge Yourself: The 2025 Seven-Day Daily Journal Challenge    Ready to stop living life on autopilot and finally realize your full potential? Let's go!   2025 will wait for no one.   If you're geared up to embrace your best self, you can't afford to miss out on Hilary's transformative free video training, “This Changes Everything.” Or get started with The Daily Journal—a 90-day mindset reset with videos and guided visualizations to help you think bigger, dream bolder, and actually make it happen. Grab yours (plus more free tools!) at hilarysilver.com/guides.

How many times have you said, “I'll start after the holidays,” or “I'll get to it when things slow down?” Waiting for the “perfect time” is just a sneaky way of staying stuck… and Hilary is here to call you out on it!    In this episode, Hilary tackles the excuses we tell ourselves and shows us how to stop sitting on the sidelines of life. With her signature no-BS style, she's serving up the truth about why now is always the right time to go after what you want, and how investing in yourself is the best gift you'll ever give.   Episode Highlights: Why the “perfect time” is just a myth, and how it's costing you more than you think.  How to ditch the half-hearted resolutions and actually get what you want.  Four simple (but powerful) questions to help you figure out what's next for you. Why investing in yourself pays off now and for years to come.  Get inspired to invest in your growth and become the version of yourself who gets what they want.     Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Stop procrastinating. (Seriously!) [02:10] The cost of sitting on the sidelines and how to get in the game. [05:10] What's really holding you back? (Hint: It's not your schedule.) [07:05] Breaking the cycle of half-assed goals and wasted time. [09:00] Why investing in YOU is the smartest move you'll ever make. [12:20] Big dreams? Let's make them happen. [13:34] Becoming the person who gets things done.   Listen now and let Hilary push you off the bench and into the game. Your future self is waiting. Go get it.   P.S. If you're ready to take yourself to the next level, don't miss Hilary's free video training, This Changes Everything, or The Daily Journal—a 90-day guided mindset reset with videos and visualizations. Grab them (and free resources!) at hilarysilver.com/guides

Episode 33: Mental Load: Feel More Joy & Drop The Invisible Weight   Ladies, it's time to ditch the Superwoman cape! Who says you have to be the holiday magic-maker while juggling life like a circus act? In this episode, Hilary Silver pulls back the curtain on the mental load—the invisible, never-ending to-do list that's got you running the household 24/7. And let's be real, the holidays just crank up the chaos. Hilary reveals the truth about why we end up stuck in this exhausting role and how to step back without the guilt trip. With her no-nonsense advice and a wink of tough love, she's here to help you share the load, kick perfectionism to the curb, and finally enjoy that spiked eggnog this season.   Episode Highlights: Hilary dishes on how the planning, remembering, and constant "Wait, did I forget something?" is stealing your peace. Enough is enough! It's time to stop being the default manager of everything. Hilary will guide you on how to resign as household CEO without the drama or side-eye. Hilary's four-step freedom plan: from rallying the troops at a family meeting to letting others take over (even if it's not done your way), she's making shared responsibilities a reality. Perfect is so last season! Hilary reveals why embracing "good enough" is the secret to a joyful, stress-free holiday season. Prioritize your own joy and accept that done is better than perfect.   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Holiday Stress [00:52] Meet Hilary Silver [02:03] What is Mental Load? [05:05] Step 1: Decision to Change [06:08] Step 2: Internal Boundary [07:02] Step 3: Communicating Change [08:04] Step 4: Listing and Delegating Tasks [12:29] Embracing Good Enough [14:24] Prioritizing Your Own Joy   Ready to reclaim your holidays and actually enjoy them? It's time to spread the responsibilities—and the cheer. Just because you've been the go-to gal doesn't mean you have to keep carrying it all. Snag Hilary's free video training, This Changes Everything, at hilarysilver.com/subscribe and make this holiday season truly about YOU.

Episode 32: Awaken Your Feminine Energy for Beauty, Productivity, and Love   Ladies, let's get real: juggling work, family, and everything in between is no small feat. But does it have to come at the expense of your well-being (and let's face it, your glow)? In this episode, Hilary gets candid about why living in constant overdrive isn't the flex we think it is, and how reconnecting with your feminine energy could just be the ultimate life hack!    Episode Highlights: The secret to looking, feeling, and doing better isn't another productivity hack. It's all about embracing your feminine energy to create balance, joy, and a life you actually love. Why are women exhausted? Hilary talks about the hidden toll of always being in “go mode” and why it's time to rethink how you show up in life. Masculine vs. Feminine Energy 101: push vs. flow, doing vs. being—Hilary breaks it all down and explains why both energies have their place. Hilary outlines six game-changing ways to reconnect with your feminine energy. She shares practical, relatable tips like slowing down, softening your approach, and learning to actually accept help (without the guilt trip). How does energy affect your relationships? When you lean into your feminine energy, the people around you step up in ways that'll surprise you.   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] The Overwhelmed Modern Woman [00:33] Why “Doing It All” Isn't Sustainable [01:55] How Feminine Energy Makes Life Easier [03:45] Understanding Masculine and Feminine Traits [05:20] The Emotional and Physical Costs of Burnout [06:00] Hilary's Journey to Reclaiming Her Feminine Energy [07:15] Tip #1: Soften Your Approach to Life [09:10] Tip #2: Slow Down and Savor the Process [11:30] Tip #3: Get Real About Your Emotions [13:50] Tip #4: Be Present in Your Body [15:25] Tip #5: Build Others Up Without Tearing Yourself Down [17:05] Tip #6: Learn to Receive Without Feeling Weak [19:30] The Beautiful Balance of Masculine and Feminine Energy   Stop being the “do-it-all queen” and start thriving! Now, grab your favorite drink, hit play, and let Hilary show you how to make feminine energy your new superpower.   Want More? Get exclusive tools and resources from Hilary to help you lead, love, and live with confidence at hilarysilver.com/subscribe.

Episode 31: Five Rules I Break for Fitness   Who says you have to follow the rules to get fit? Hilary Silver unapologetically shreds the fitness handbook and proves you don't need rigid routines to look amazing at 52. Forget arm day, endless cardio, and those boring sit-ups! In this episode, Hilary shares the five fitness rules she proudly ignores (plus the one rule that she never breaks).   Episode Highlights: Break the rules! Fitness isn't one-size-fits-all. Hilary's approach to fitness is proof you can break the rules and still get good results. Start trusting yourself to do what works for you. Cardio? Only if she feels like it. Hilary skips the treadmill grind and only walks or runs when it feels good. Fun fact? Many of Hilary's podcast episode topics come to her on these walks and runs when she's moving her body! Scheduled workouts? Hard pass! Forget those “arm days” and “leg days.” Hilary calls the shots when she hits the gym. She makes sure that she chooses moves that feel right for her body that day. For abs that turn heads, Hilary swears by twisting core-focused movements that sculpt without the six-pack bulk.  Heavy weights? Only sometimes. Lifting heavy isn't a lifestyle for Hilary. She balances strength training with light weights and Tracy Anderson-inspired routines for a toned, feminine look. Rest days are overrated. Moving every day doesn't mean burnout; it means listening to your body and switching it up to keep things interesting. Learn how daily movement—on your terms—can keep your mind sharp, your body strong, and your soul happy.   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Fitness Confusion [00:42] Why Break the Fitness Rules? [01:35] Blending Brain Science with the Laws of the Universe [01:46] Breaking Rule #1: No Cardio Workouts [03:01] Breaking Rule #2: No Scheduled Workouts [03:43] Breaking Rule #3: No Sit-Ups [04:26] Breaking Rule #4: No Heavy Weights Regularly [06:10] Breaking Rule #5: No Rest Days [08:05] Hilary's Self-Centered Approach to Fitness and Life   Hilary's self-centered philosophy is the foundation of her life; not just her fitness. If you want to unlock that mindset for yourself, grab her free mini video training, “This Changes Everything,” at hilarysilver.com/subscribe.    Rewrite your own rules now—hit play and start putting yourself first!

Episode 30: Life on Your Own Terms   Being self-centered isn't selfish. It's the ultimate power move! It's time to put yourself first in a way that's empowering, not egotistical. In this episode, Hilary redefines what it means to be self-centered and why it's the key to living life on your own terms. At 52, she's thriving in her health, relationships, business—literally every area of her life—and she's here to show you how you can do it too.   Episode Highlights: Forget the lie that “the world doesn't revolve around you.” Hilary explains why embracing your role as the center of your world changes everything. Self-prioritization is survival. Hilary talks about how putting yourself first creates the safety and stability to truly thrive. Own your stuff! Hilary challenges listeners to take radical responsibility for their lives because when you're the problem, you're also the solution. Enough with the self-sacrifice. Hilary debunks the myth that putting others first makes you “virtuous” and reveals why boundaries and self-respect are non-negotiable. Success is about how you feel showing up as your most authentic self.   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Redefining “Self-Centered”   [00:41] The Five Core Concepts Overview   [01:47] Prioritizing Your Relationship with Yourself   [02:08] Authenticity and Living in Alignment   [02:41] Core Concept 1: You Are the Center of Your Universe   [03:45] Core Concept 2: You Come First and You Go First   [05:20] Core Concept 3: You Are Both the Problem and the Solution   [07:17] Core Concept 4: It's Not Noble to Be Selfless   [09:56] Core Concept 5: The Outcome Is Internal   [12:04] Final Thoughts   Don't wait—hit play, and start living unapologetically self-centered today!   Unlock lasting confidence with Hilary's free, game-changing resources https://hilarysilver.com/guides/ 

Episode 29: Don't Be Invisible Over 50   Ladies, forget “fading” with age. Hilary Silver is here to bust that myth wide open and show you how aging can crank up your confidence and magnetism. In this episode, she shuts down “Invisible Woman Syndrome”—a tired idea that women lose their spark over time. At 52, Hilary is thriving! She's strutting into every room with a presence that demands attention, not for validation, but because she knows exactly who she is.   Episode Highlights: Confidence isn't about them. It's all about you! Forget the validation and focus on what you bring to the table. It's confidence that sticks. Beauty beyond skin deep, always. True allure? It's all about knowing your worth from the inside out and embracing every quirk and flaw unapologetically. Forget the outdated belief that life's peak is behind you. Hilary's here to tell you that 50+ is when the fun actually begins—wisdom, realness, and all! Age isn't a limit; it's leverage! Taking care of yourself is self-respect. Hilary shares why treating yourself right isn't optional if you want to radiate confidence. Prioritize self-care because it's a reflection of how much you value yourself. To truly turn heads, you have to be fully there. Hilary breaks down how presence is more than just posture—it's the energy you bring and the intention behind it.   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Busting the "Invisible Woman" Myth [01:25] Redefining Confidence and Aging [02:28] Turning Heads Starts with Self-Perception [04:14] Owning Your Worth [05:50] Authenticity is Your Best Accessory [06:43] Why Self-Care is Self-Respect [08:30] Making Your Presence Known [10:07] Final Thoughts on Confidence at Every Age   Start living unapologetically to turn heads wherever you go!   Catch Hilary's free, paradigm-flipping resources for more insights into confidence that lasts: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/ 

Episode 28: 6 Reasons Why You're Stuck   If you've mastered the “know better” game but somehow can't crack the code to “do better“, this episode is for you! Hilary digs into the hidden mental blocks that keep you looping back to old habits. Tired of self-help that doesn't stick?  Get ready to uncover the six secret saboteurs standing between you and real, lasting change.   Episode Highlights: Hilary breaks down three levels of self-awareness that expose why we keep circling back to old patterns. Blaming external forces? Check. Realizing you're the common thread? Check. Knowing what to change but still stuck? Triple check. Hilary dives into six reasons why you're not seeing results—whether it's not really wanting change, focusing on behavior instead of mindset, leaning on the wrong support, using the wrong methods, finding comfort in the struggle, or holding on to your past identity. Hilary's challenge: Ask yourself the tough questions about what you're gaining from staying stuck and whether you're ready to tell a new story.   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] What Makes Change So Hard?  [00:21] Three Levels of Awareness: Where Do You Stand?  [02:27] The Six Sticking Points to Real Change [11:15]  Letting Go of the Old Stories   Ditch the excuses, and start rewriting your story today.  Want more of Hilary's game-changing tools? Grab her free, paradigm-flipping resources right here: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/ 

Episode 27: Uplevel in 2025   Ready to stop messing around and finally start making big moves in your life? In this episode, Hilary breaks down five power plays that are going to help you get exactly what you want—faster. She's pulling back the curtain on the mindsets and strategies that have taken her from stuck to unstoppable. Hilary's got the blueprint to get you where you want to go and in this episode she delivers with no fluff, just real results. Episode Highlights: Get clear or get stuck. If you don't know what you want, how are you going to get it? Hilary explains why clarity is non-negotiable when it comes to manifesting your dreams. Remember, vagueness is the enemy of progress. Commit to growth or stay stagnant. Growth happens outside your comfort zone—period. Hilary shares a gutsy story about a client who overcame the fear of raising her prices and saw massive success. Get ready to feel inspired to stretch yourself. Upgrade your identity! If you want to level up, then you've got to become the kind of person who lives at that next level. Hilary breaks down why shifting your identity is the secret sauce to success.   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Leveling up in 2025 [01:07] How to Compress Time and Achieve Goals Faster [02:21] Personal Story: Big Risks, Big Wins [02:55] Step 1: Get Clear on What You Want [03:26] Step 2: Commit to Growth, No Matter What [04:09] Overcome Fear, Invest in Yourself [05:24] Step 3: Transform Your Identity [06:06] Step 4: Find a Growth-Oriented Community [07:10] Step 5: Get Yourself a Mentor [08:54] Recap and What's Coming Next   Takeaways: Your circle matters. No more lone wolf mentality. Surround yourself with people who are going places, because the right community will help you hit your goals faster. Hilary talks about how to find your people. Get a mentor, skip the struggle! Stop guessing and start growing. Hilary is all about mentorship and why investing in someone who's been where you want to go is the fastest way to get there.   Hilary is about to bring you next-level transformation, and if you're ready to stop talking about it and actually build the life of your dreams—whether it's crushing it in your business, getting the body you want, or having the relationships you deserve—you need to get in on this. Hilary's live programs and workshops kick off in January, and they're designed to take you deep into the self-centered way of being that creates real, lasting change. She's not just talking about it, she's living proof of it—and she's teaching it live. Want in? Head to www.hilarysilver.com/waitlist to be the first to know all the details. Get on the waitlist now for early access and lock in your spot to learn directly from Hilary. If you're serious about leveling up in all areas of your life, don't wait—this is where the shift happens.

Episode 26: Hard Work Won't Make You Rich   Think working yourself to the bone is the only way to get rich? Hilary flips that tired narrative on its head. Forget grinding yourself into the ground! Hilary built a $12 million business and hit millionaire status by 47, not by hustling harder, but by shifting her mindset. She's here to tell you that wealth isn't all about effort but also about energy. And in this episode, she's sharing the three principles that took her from endless hustle to serious wealth.   Episode Highlights: Hilary recounts how years of backbreaking work got her nowhere—until she shifted from “doing more” to “being more.” She explains how changing who you are can transform your energy and can bring success straight to your doorstep. You've heard “seeing is believing,” but Hilary's here to tell you it's the other way around. You've got to believe in your success first. Hilary introduces a daily journaling habit that rewires your brain and promises to shake things up in just 90 days. Whether it's the universe, God, or some cosmic force, it's always eavesdropping on your thoughts. If you're doubting yourself, guess what? The universe knows. Hilary explains how to get your mindset in sync with your goals, so the universe knows you're ready for that millionaire status.   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Hard Work Won't Make You Rich   [01:22] Success Principle #1: Being Over Doing   [02:04] The Struggle: Four Years of Hustling Without Results   [02:57] The Epiphany: How Shifting Your State Leads to Success   [04:01] Practical Application: Becoming the Future You   [05:25] Success Principle #2: The Belief Paradox   [06:08] Flipping the Script: Why You Have to Believe First   [07:12] Daily Journal Method: Rewriting Your Mental Script   [08:15] Success Principle #3: Universal Connection   [09:19] Mixed Messages: What Are You Really Telling the Universe?   [11:05] Self-Reflection: Time to Assess Your Beliefs   [11:46] Break Free from the Grind and Align with Success     Listener Takeaways: Shift your energy. Spoiler alert—burnout won't get you there. Learn how focusing on your emotional state can work wonders in aligning you with your biggest goals. Believe before you achieve. Get on board with Hilary's journaling method and start believing in your potential today. You'll see results faster than you think! Talk to the universe because your thoughts send out powerful vibes. Time to clean up those mixed signals and start manifesting success like the millionaire you're about to become.   Get more incredible resources from Hilary! Click here to access all of her free paradigm-flipping tools: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/ 

Episode 25: Life Advice That Actually Sucks   Social media's got advice flying at you from every angle—some of it sounds like a hug, but a lot of it just keeps you stuck. Hilary serves up the truth about why taking radical responsibility is the only way to break free and grow. With her no-nonsense approach, Hilary dives into the harmful narratives that TikTok, Instagram, and influencers everywhere are selling—and why they're keeping you trapped in toxic cycles instead of helping you level up.   Episode Highlights: Hilary isn't afraid to call out the ‘poor me' posts that paint overwhelmed moms as victims. She argues that staying in this mindset is harmful and urges mothers to reclaim their power by owning their choices and emotions. Tired of hearing that the workplace needs to change while you do nothing? Hilary is too. She lays out why real empowerment means knowing your worth, setting boundaries, and taking control—no waiting around for systemic changes needed. Sick of every toxic relationship getting blamed on the narcissist? Hilary flips the script, saying personal growth is about looking in the mirror, not pointing fingers. It's about breaking the cycle by owning your role in these dynamics.   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Why Social Media is Full of Bad Advice [02:00] The Pitfall of ‘Dramatic Mom' Content [05:01] Why Victim Mentality is Toxic for Moms [08:01] Owning Your Power in the Workplace [09:14] The Myth of ‘It's Not You, It's Society' [09:36] Narcissists and the Need for Self-Reflection [12:04] Healing Beyond Narcissistic Abuse [13:20] How Radical Responsibility Changes Everything   Key Takeaways: Don't get sucked in by social media life hacks. They may feel validating, but that doesn't mean they're helping. Learn to spot advice that keeps you stuck. Radical responsibility is the real game-changer. Taking ownership of your actions, emotions, and life choices is how you'll grow and thrive. Stop waiting for the world to change. Whether it's motherhood, your job, or your relationships, your power lies in what you do, not in what you're waiting for others to do.   Want more incredible resources from Hilary? Click here to access all of her free paradigm-flipping tools: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/

Episode 24: 9 Things WINNERS Don't Do   What makes high achievers stand out? Hilary Silver is here to break down 9 things winners don't do—trust us, it's not what you think. Ready to up your game in life, love, or business? This episode is your VIP ticket!   Episode Highlights: Winners don't sit around complaining. They handle it, find solutions, and move on.  Blame games are for losers. Winners own their stuff and get to work fixing the problem, not shifting the blame. Making excuses? Not a chance. Winners know excuses get you nowhere—own up, learn, and do better next time. Life's not happening to you—it's happening because of you. Winners take the reins and steer their own ship. Who cares if people don't validate you? Winners know they're already enough, no outside approval required. Entitlement? Please. Winners create their own opportunities by showing up, grinding hard, and staying focused. Winners aren't worried about someone else's success; they're too busy creating their own and cheering on others. People-pleasing? Not today. Winners know who they are, stay true to themselves, and don't bend to fit someone else's mold. Fear is natural, but winners choose faith. They push through uncertainty, trust the process, and keep growing.   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] The Unwritten Rules of Winners [01:08] Complaining? Not Here [01:47] Blame is a Loser's Game [02:20] Excuses Don't Fly [03:29] Victim Mentality? No Thanks [04:27] Validation is Overrated [05:39] Nobody Owes You Anything [06:22] Celebrate, Don't Hate [07:10] Stay Authentic or Bust [07:51] Faith Over Fear, Always   Listener Takeaways: Take a hard look at these 9 traits—are you embodying them, or falling into the trap of what winners don't do? Discover how tweaking your mindset can kick those bad habits to the curb—like making excuses or waiting for validation. Get fired up to face fear head-on, trust the process, and step into your next level of success.   This episode is your wake-up call—because winners are made by what they don't do. Tune in, take notes, and get ready to crush it in every part of your life!   Get more incredible resources from Hilary! Click here to access all of her free paradigm-flipping tools: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/ 

Episode 23: This Virtue May Make You RICH   What if impatience wasn't a flaw but your secret success weapon? Hilary Silver flips the script on the idea that patience is always a virtue. She shows how tapping into her impatience fueled her transition from local therapist to global coaching powerhouse. In this episode, Hilary reveals how urgency, action, and a fearless attitude have been the keys to her unstoppable success.   Episode Highlights: Hilary doesn't just embrace impatience—she owns it. Learn how her desire for fast results has helped her cut through the noise, skip the unnecessary waiting, and get straight to the good stuff in both life and business. Forget endless prep. Hilary's strategy is all about diving in and figuring things out along the way. Think paying to skip traffic, but for your entire career. She shares how this bold approach keeps her momentum strong and minimizes time spent feeling stuck. Urgency is about moving past fear. Hilary talks about how her impatience has led to invaluable lessons, from real-world experience to building rock-solid self-trust. It's not all smooth sailing. Hilary warns against jumping too fast, explaining the fine line between acting on impatience and letting things unfold naturally.   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Embracing Impatience: The Unexpected Game-Changer [01:00] Why Goals Love a Little Urgency [02:05] Fast Action, Big Results: Hilary's Go-To Mindset [04:01] Fear Who? How Impatience Conquers Doubt [05:05] Progress Over Perfection: Learn as You Go [07:13] How Impatience Builds Self-Trust [09:30] The Dark Side: When Impatience Backfires    Listener Takeaways: Time to throw out what you've been told. Hilary shows how to reframe impatience as the fuel you need to make bold moves and avoid overthinking. Why waiting around isn't your best strategy and how embracing urgency can propel you to your goals quicker than playing it safe. Learn how taking action builds confidence, grows your skills, and helps you trust your own decisions in real time.   If you're tired of feeling stuck or spinning your wheels, this episode is for you. Hilary Silver proves that impatience can be your biggest asset—and she's sharing exactly how to use it to crush your goals!   Want more incredible resources from Hilary? Click here to access all of her free paradigm-flipping tools: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/ 

Episode 22: The Sneaky Ways We Self Sabotage   Ambivalence might seem harmless, but it's that sneaky little voice that keeps you stuck, second-guessing, and ultimately self-sabotaging your goals. In this episode, Hilary pulls no punches, diving into how those “meh” feelings are secretly holding you back from what you really want. She shares personal stories, client confessions, and straight-up truths about why we keep driving with one foot on the gas and the other on the brake.   Episode Highlights: Ever feel like you want something, but not quite enough to actually go after it? Hilary breaks down the sneaky ways this inner conflict pops up—from dragging your feet on that dream job to half-heartedly pursuing a relationship—and how it leads to low-key self-sabotage. Hilary keeps it real with a story from her high school days. She auditioned for the dance team, knowing deep down she didn't actually care about making it. Sound familiar? This story drives home how we sometimes aim for things we don't even want—just to say we tried. Hilary calls out the real culprits: society's pressures, fear of both failing and succeeding, and dodging responsibility. When we only give a half-effort, we get to blame everything but ourselves for not hitting our goals.    Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Self-Sabotage: How it Sneaks Up [03:10] Real Talk: Client Example [03:41] #1 External Expectations [04:24] #2 Fear of Everything [06:31] #3 Dodging Responsibility [07:24] The Costs of Playing Small [08:17] Living Intentionally [08:49] Dealing with Fears Head-On   Listener Takeaways: Time to ask yourself: are you living for you, or for what others expect? Get real, and get clear on what you actually want. Whether you're terrified of crashing and burning or secretly scared of being too successful, face those fears head-on. You can't move forward if you're stuck in the shadows. Ambivalence keeps you in a constant stall-out. Hilary's advice? Commit fully and own your choices, so you can finally move forward.   This episode is your wake-up call to ditch the inner tug-of-war and start showing up with intention and clarity. Ready to stop holding yourself back? Tune in and get the tools you need to start living with purpose.   Want more incredible resources from Hilary? Click here to access all of her free paradigm-flipping tools: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/

EP21 - 9 Habits to Look 10 Years Younger    It's more than genetics—looking and feeling youthful is largely about the choices you make every day. As Hilary celebrates her 52nd birthday, she's spilling her best-kept secrets to staying energized and radiant.   Episode Highlights: Mindset Magic: Hilary's dishing out four game-changing mindset habits that help her stay youthful—like focusing on solutions (not problems) and living a self-centered life that puts her needs first.  Daily Rituals for Radiance: From her 85-15 lifestyle rule to early morning journaling and workouts, Hilary's got her daily habits on lock. Oh, and she's not eating after 7 PM—because staying organized and fit requires discipline (and no midnight snacks). What She *Doesn't* Do: No alcohol, no fast food, no sugar, no dairy, no sun damage. Hilary's list of “no's” might sound tough, but these choices are the reason she's looking absolutely fabulous at 52.    Episode Breakdown: [00:00] What's Age Got to Do With It?   [02:18] Youthful Mindset Habits: Positivity First, Always   [08:06] Action-Packed Mornings: Wake Up & Work It   [14:14] Don't Just Dream It—Do It: Achieving Those Goals     Listener Takeaways: Want to look younger? Start by changing your attitude—positivity and prioritizing YOU are the ultimate glow-up secrets. Hilary's morning routine is her not-so-secret sauce—journaling, visualizations, and workouts. (And maybe a little self-love in there, too.) Avoid the aging traps: sugar, alcohol, and too much sun. If you're ready to live it up at any age, it's time to cut these out.   Ready to stop blaming genetics and start embracing habits that actually work? Hit play to learn Hilary's real-life, no-nonsense tips for staying vibrant at every age. Want a little more? Grab her 5-minute pre-meal ritual at https://hilarysilver.com/guides/ and keep leveling up! 

EP20 - You're Not Broken, Stop Fixing Yourself   The key to true personal growth isn't fixing your flaws, but embracing them as part of your wholeness. Hilary dives into this idea, challenging the widespread obsession with constant self-improvement. Do we really need to fix every perceived flaw, or is there a better path? In this episode, she advocates for a radical shift—moving away from the relentless pursuit of perfection and embracing unconditional self-love and acceptance.   Episode Highlights: Hilary explores the exhausting cycle of self-improvement, where individuals continuously question “What is wrong with me?” and seek ways to fix themselves. Hear the powerful story of a client who found freedom by letting go of the need for self-fixing, allowing herself to enjoy life without the burden of constant self-criticism. Delve into the concept of shame and how it can prevent true self-expression and authentic connections with others. Hilary emphasizes embracing both the light and dark parts of oneself as essential to forming a complete and authentic identity. Discover how viewing imperfections as opportunities for growth, rather than flaws to be fixed, leads to a more fulfilling journey towards wholeness.   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] The Concept of Constantly Working on Oneself and Seeking Self-Improvement [02:06] Client Story [03:09] Desire for Acceptance [06:28] The Light and Dark Parts of Ourselves [07:10] Truths to Accept [14:40] Integration and Self-Love    Listener Takeaways: Learn why self-acceptance and unconditional love are the foundations for true personal growth and fulfillment. Understand the importance of stepping away from the never-ending quest for self-improvement to embrace who you are, as you are. Find out how embracing all aspects of yourself, including perceived imperfections, can lead to deeper, more genuine connections with others. Shift your mindset from fixing flaws to integrating and accepting every part of yourself, paving the way for personal fulfillment and achieving your true purpose.   Helpful links: Loneliness - The Other “L” Word Nobody Wants To Talk About:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-hilary-silver-podcast/id1739660144?i=1000657906255 If you've ever felt trapped in the endless cycle of trying to “fix” yourself, Hilary's insights will be a breath of fresh air. Tune in to start your journey toward true wholeness and fulfillment.   

EP19 - Seeing Good is Bad   Is seeing only the good in others truly noble and a characteristic to aspire to? Hilary debunks the myth that focusing solely on the positive aspects of people is virtuous. In fact, she suggests that this one-sided, limited viewpoint is not only not good for you, but it's actually a harmful set-up for everyone involved.   Episode Highlights: Hilary explains how idealizing others by only seeing their good traits is a distorted view of reality. Explore how this behavior manifests in various relationships, from parents ignoring their child's struggles to overlooking red flags in romantic relationships. Delve into the risks of ignoring the full picture, including emotional, mental, and even physical harm. True loving and appreciation comes from seeing and accepting a person's whole self, flaws and all.   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Challenging Conventional Wisdom About Seeing the Good in People [01:03] The Problem with Seeing the Good and Examples [03:09] Self-Interest in Seeing the Good [05:15] Consequences of Ignoring Reality [06:08] True Acceptance [08:13] Personal Story    Listener Takeaways: Learn why it's essential to be grateful for every experience, good or bad, and how this mindset can lead to extraordinary personal growth. Discover how embracing gratitude for challenges makes you resilient and capable of seeing the lessons in every situation. Understand how to view past traumas as integral parts of your personal development and turn them into sources of strength. Gain actionable steps on how to actively express gratitude for difficulties, transforming them into opportunities for growth.   Hilary offers new insights into how we connect with others. If you're looking to build deeper, more authentic relationships, this episode is a must-listen. Learn why embracing the full reality—not just the good—might be the key to avoiding denial and enjoying more honest and fulfilling relationships in your life.   Want more incredible resources from Hilary?  Click here to access all of her free paradigm-flipping tools: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/